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I dont do casual dating or apps, never have and my husband earns 5 figures so youre targeting someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:20 AM
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If that's the case then why aren't all the hot chix in movies teenagers? Have you not noticed that teen "it girls" are pretty much only in teen target movies? And most other leading ladies who play the hot chick role are late 20s plus? I don't get this reddit thing where people say women are most attractive as teenagers. Most teenagers look like chubby baby faces and they have the childish personality to match. That's like saying people are the same when they are 13 to 35 and don't grow or chang…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 03:08 AM
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15 min foreplay (or as long as it takes) and 20 penetration is my preference I would say, or maybe a bit less for penetration 🤔 it depends but I should be turned on to the point where it happens pretty quick otherwise my minds probably not in it so much. If I need 40 mins foreplay then it's probably not the right day for me and I'd rather wait til I'm more naturally in the mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:57 AM
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Yeah I prefer mind blown in say 40 mins from start to finish otherwise my mind would wander haha, but some people take longer to orgasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:55 AM
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I havent experienced that because I never used apps or put myself in a casual dating scene. From my experience, weight is irrelevant when it comes to that. I know more slim women who are a bit younger than me who use apps and get used and ghosted, or hang around guys who aren't interested in a relationship. Women my age, including the overweight ones are more likely to be having run of the mill relationship/marital issues, because a lot of relationships are just mediocre. Most people I know are …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:51 AM
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No, society wont tolerate dumb behaviour from a 50 year old like theyd be more likely to in another 20 year old. Young people are immature no matter what they think of themselves, you look back and realise you were immature and more naive. A lot of older men don't desire women in their 20s because of wanting to be with a peer. Tastes change for many people. People gravitate towards people with things in common. When I was 18, I liked 18 year old boys. Now they are like children in the face and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 02:47 AM
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This is why I personally don't have sex with a man for a looong time after knowing him. I want to really enjoy sex and feel a strong connection and this seems like something people might do if they didn't know the man that well. I do see the value in knowing he will be ok with not orgasming, there have been times where my husband (then boyfriend) didn't because I had to stop for various reasons. I'm the type to just stop if I'm not feeling right. Not very often but he gets it. But I want sex in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:43 PM
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My sex drive became way higher at about 30. It was so dead at 25
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:55 PM
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It's very normal for men in their 30s to date/marry women in their 30s. I dunno why people act like all men are seeking large age gaps. Majority of couples don't have significant age gaps. They meet at school, uni/college etc. The wall only exists if a man or woman wants to keep dating 20 year olds forever. They typically want to date people in their own age range so if that's your target then you will struggle at 35+ to gain their interest. I know everyone's different but I'm only 34 and a 20 y…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:54 PM
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People can do whatever they want and people with certain values will seek each other out. I'm traditional and haven't had an issue with it in my marriage. The only weirdness I've had about it is on reddit because men here insist that all humans are clones and we're just repressing ourselves if we don't want casual sex, or we have libido problems if we dont fantasize about banging other people, etc. Like they are adamant that all men and women are the same. It's as weird as if I went around claim…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:46 PM
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If you want casual sex with young drunk people then yes it could decrease prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:43 PM
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A man asking that on a date is comparable to Dale and Brennan from stepbrothers doing their reverse job interview with the lady Pan It's just not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:42 PM
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I don't think gender matters when it comes to entitled narcissists, and there are a surprising amount of them around. As for body positivity stuff being aimed more at women, I still don't think most significantly overweight women are feeling awesome and too good for any men. Cause I'm overweight and know plenty of overweight women and none of them like their bodies a whole lot. In reality, what's pushed more on social media is that being plus size is cool if you still have a snatched waist, a fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:36 PM
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Large house is optional, renovated or new house is optional, new car is optional, certain furniture etc. Traditional family life was always more commonly blue collar. Around the world, living rural or in outer suburbia was moreso associated with more traditional lifestyles or family focused life. Inner suburbia and inner city more business focused. So, if people want it all and can't compromise then they won't have that truly traditional life and trying to have it would compromise a high flying …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:28 PM
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I think I need to suggest this as a new pet name for ny husband to call me... frumper.. or maybe frumperoo
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:21 PM
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Well, I don't know about ideal situations but we met at work. Work is a risky one but this was a blue collar role. No climbing corporate ladders or feeling invested, just an income. My husband liked the job more than me and there are plenty of opportunities for transfer, flexible hours to a degree. So not a dream job, just something I fell into and am happy to leave. But anyway, we developed a friendship over years. I was always attracted to him so it wasn't like "we're buddies, you may as well …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:13 PM
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Also maybe depends on the amount of people someone's dating or the frequency of going out, but it's all optional
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:47 PM
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They'd probably have sex with you 80% of the time 😂 but no I dont think anyone should expect it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:46 PM
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I wouldn't date a stranger or use apps though and I wouldn't want to date a man who had a history of that either. I'm in a slightly older age bracket in my 30s so that's just not appealing to me. I have no real opinion on either gender paying for strangers because the whole app thing is weird to me and not a scene I'd like to be in. For me it's a man who I already am acquainted with and we're dating for the purpose of hopefully being in a LTR if we're right for each other so there's investment o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:41 PM
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Ok so I'm married and my husband earns about the median income in this country and is blue collar. I earned less than him before I got pregnant and both of us paid plenty per week in food with groceries, take out and going to restaurants. I mean food is a huge part of life, I don't think going out to eat once a week and paying is difficult for anyone on an average income, even at more upscale restaurants. Not unless you are a single parent, have lots of kids, massive medical bills in usa, big de…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:37 PM
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Well its AUD.. but it's not uncommon for my husband and I to spend $150 on dinner if we were both having alcoholic drinks as well, and we have really mediocre jobs but it's fine once a week or fortnight. We spend loadsss on ubereats per year though. But we don't travel or buy new cars etc. We focus on our home and food really. I dunno why itd have to be someone you dont know either. I wouldnt want to date randoms
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:31 PM
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I never had and never would use dating apps or eat with strangers so its a personal choice if people are into that. To me that's awkward and unsafe as a woman and just not something that's necessary to me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:28 PM
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Mmmm the thing is that age is the only factor that involves having lived more years and being on this planet longer... someone could be rich or whatever and still be as young and dumb as their partner. You kind of have no excuse to be a dumbass when youre older, and people expect more of you so you can't be a manipulative asshole to a younger partner and have it be fine. I'm 34 and don't feel in competition with women in their 20s at all. My husband is in 40 and isn't interested in 20s women bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:48 AM
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For McDonald's it is (ubereats is a rip off) but not for a couple of meals and couple of drinks at a restaurant. $80 would be pretty cheap for a couple at a restaurant here, unless you go to like.... la porchetta and dont drink alcohol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:45 AM
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How is a dinner a large expense though?? I just spent freakin $80 on mcdonalds on ubereats lol unless you're taking someone to one of those $2000 degustation events then I dont view 1 meal as expensive, I spend $100 on ubereats easily and I know food is way cheaper than that in usa
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:38 AM
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It doesn't warrant sex. Some men think it does unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:36 AM
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He will want fast sex and she wont, she may want to wait months or until marriage to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 06:16 AM
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Lipo isn't referred to as WLS.. Your hormone regulation and stomach size changes with the surgery if it's banding/bypass so the person won't struggle as much with the intense urges they previously had to eat that normal people don't experience. So their cues to eat and stop eating, insulin sensitivity, leptin and ghrelin etc change in response to the fat loss. That makes regaining all the weight less likely because it's like a reset. But you still have to exercise and eat smaller portions/avoid …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 05:08 AM
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Red pill are the male versions of the women they simultaneously resent, and want to have sex with. They resent women who just try to bang the hottest guys and have a bunch of issues, yet they are highly attracted to them, base all their dating strategy on them, and are just like them. A huge chunk of their strategies put self respecting good women off, but it's ok for them because they really only want the minority of women who aren't really relationship material 🤷🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:12 AM
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Weight loss surgery is usually reserved for very morbidly obese people whose hormones are so dysregulated that they have zero cues to stop eating like no fullness sensation at all, usually not someone that could just lose 40 lbs with lifestyle changes. Plus you can usually still overeat with WLS especially over time, still takes effort and discipline but the point of surgery is to help them have more normal hunger and fullness signals that they dont have
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 03:05 AM
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I'll try
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 02:28 AM
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Yeah they dont like to acknowledge when women dont want what they want cause the gist is that all women want chads and to bang the hottest guys (they wanna become those guys) and such, but women arent young men so its different
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:33 AM
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She would have needed surgery for loose skin which exercise can't address
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:32 AM
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Mmm I'd debate whether a guy who stays with a stripper is a good boyfriend. I mean, npt implying he can't be a good PERSON but there's something very lacking in a man to me if he's cool with his woman stripping. To me, a man should have more fire towards being with a woman than that, and he should have better self esteem so hes not really a candidate to be a truly good partner. If I was a stripper and my bf was like ok whatever you need honey. I'd think well he's not actually that into me, he ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:30 AM
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People seem to be overlooking that a woman usually has to be unhappy in a relationship to want to leave it. It's usually not like "oh I look a bit better now so I think I'll just go chase sexy bois becaise I'm a little bored of my great husband", it's usually that they gain enough self esteem to leave bad marriages/relationships. Cause lets face it, a LOT of relationships arent good. What red pill calls hypergamy is usually a woman leaving a toxic or abusive relationship, dead bedrooms, a husban…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:23 AM
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I agree but as women, for us it's more of relationship marketplace (well unless a woman only wants casual sex but majority want relationships)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:21 AM
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It'd obviously be because they didnt want to settle for a bad relationship and got a bit more self esteem, like the weight loss wouldn't be the causation
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:20 AM
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Dude I'm heavily pregnant and thatd put me at 80 lbs... I think thats a DETH THREAT!!!! halp
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:18 AM
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They only rave on about how men never get full custody (of course some do, some mothers are totally unfit to parent anyway), but they don't say they personally fought for full custody or know anyone who did. Also this place is full of men who are angry at women/exes and they might view their ex as unsuitable because she left them or other reasons he dislikes her which dont affect parenting. My abusive ex had a child with a woman after we got divorced, she got in contact with me about 5 years int…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:11 AM
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Oh I saw it a lot with women who were on dating apps. They want the guys to be their bf so they just bang them all and then fret over him calling them back or being interested. Act like porn stars or help him move house while still questioning if he's really into them, if they'll end up together etc. People on here would call these women "sluts" but they just wanted a LTR and brainwashed into thinking you have to have sex for that to be on the table. And no, the men weren't hot or wealthy or any…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:39 PM
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The fact that women think they need to bang someone to be polite or for there to be a chance of something "a little more serious" would lead me to agree. For men who just want sex, I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:35 PM
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When I think of any woman I know, I wouldn't describe any of them as being with or attempting to be with the top 20% of men. I mean that'd stereotypically be men who look like models, are under 30, rich, also really decent people, like a full stereotypical package. My friends/family are not rich models and they tend to be with men on a similar level to them. I don't know any wonen who are like, oh hell no I won't date this guy because he's not earning 400k a year and isn't a calvin Klein model. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:16 PM
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Umm yes? It's easy to understand redpill and redpill misunderstands women as a whole. They only recognise one type of problematic woman and focus their dating strategy on them, though they resent that type of woman. They deny the existence of all other women so they fail to attract them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:09 PM
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It'd most likely be 1 because someone is young, religious, reserved, low libido, or was in a relationship for a very long time. For me it was because I was in a relationship/marriage from 16 to 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 05:06 PM
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I'm very attracted to my husband after many years. I just dont think about sex 24/7 like a drug like I did when we first got intimate. That doesn't mean my attraction decreased at all. You can't maintain zero tolerance to something that you have all the time. If we never got used to a partner in any way, we'd never be able to function. A new relationship is a type of stress even though it's also enjoyable. A long term relationship gets more confortable. But that doesn't equate to being numb, pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:55 PM
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Goodness I've never contacted an ex other than to hassle them about signing divorce papers
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:23 PM
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It's hypocritical if either of them demand that in a partner when they can't provide it themselves, yes. They're ultimately free to want that though and it doesn't make them evil for having a preference. I guess it depends on whether it's a hidden preference vs a demand. But I don't know why a high count man would want a low count woman in particular. It wpupd be a lot more work for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:13 PM
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I'm low count and was only interested in dating/marrying similar count men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:08 PM
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Its kinda like when men on reddit say men hardly ever get custody but like men don't commonly try to get full time custody
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 04:05 PM
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It's fine to only want a partner who has slept with minimal (or zero) people if you're in that same position too. The only issue I see is calling women who have slept with 5 or 6 people promiscuous. I'm mid 30s and slept with less than that and still would not view that as promiscuous. Might seem that way to an 18 year old or something but not when you are above 30. So that's quite a judgemental term to use. My husband is mid 40s, slept with 5 and he is not promiscuous lol Other issue is saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:54 PM
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These questions are so weird. We don't live in a romcom. Women can be attracted to average looking men with average incomes and have the best sex of their lives with them. I would only be with someone who I found very attractive. I find my husband extremely attractive but since he's gained body fat and become older with wrinkles, society isn't going to view him as a male model or some drop dead hottie. He's also a good person and good father which are obviously vital qualities. Why pressure wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 02:04 AM
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Men don't have to pay for anything, it's not like FDS women are going to threaten them and force them to 😂 I just wouldn't stay involved with a man if he wasn't showing certain characteristics that I need for marriage. I don't know why they act like it's so complicated or like it's some kind of abuse. No one should keep seeing anyone if they turn them off! I would only want a husband who's chivalrous and who will provide for us when the time comes to have kids (I'm pregnant now). I would only wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:31 AM
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Being married to him or having sex at the time that he violently assaults you or tries to kill you doesn't make any difference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:14 AM
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"Breath play"... bleurgh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:13 AM
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Men typically don't care about it as women are the majority of people getting cancer from it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:01 AM
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Its a means to an end... like being hungry and eating out of a garbage can.. why not??
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:58 AM
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Having the other party be attracted to you in return.. since a lot of men would not want to be banging a woman who thinks he's gross and ugly but has sex with him for money Also plenty of men can find an overweight woman or a woman with a child/children attractive If a guy doesn't care about connection or authenticity then let him hire escorts. He's better off not being in the dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:57 AM
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She said it's still semi casual soooooo yeah, everything they do is separate and she doesn't need to factor his needs into her life since they're not really together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:47 AM
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Women get tested for hpv and 2 of mine were virgins.. 3rd hadn't had sex for like 8 years haha
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:42 AM
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If it's no big deal then why are most men avoiding it like the plague
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:30 PM
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3 and mid 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:22 PM
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It'd likely attract creepy sugardaddy types or men who see a lot of escorts tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:20 PM
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Why would you treat this as fds.. its some guy spouting stuff. Paying for a date is nothing like cash payments or being a sugar baby
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:19 PM
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I'm fds and it sounds nuts. Just trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:18 PM
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Classy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:13 PM
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Spreading hpv
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:09 PM
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I said if youre unsure they're interested, not if they are successfully fooling you.. if youre unsure then theyre giving you reasons to think theyre not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:05 PM
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They could pay if they wished
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:02 AM
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Dont date women if you cant tell if they're interested i assume
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:01 AM
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You do it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:00 AM
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You could... til they lock the page
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:19 AM
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Do men want traditional relationships anymore? Yeah, some do. Spaces like this will push that men only want casual sex, but majority of men want long term relationships and monogamy. As for traditional roles in a relationship, a lot of men find that appealing but they aren't too often willing to be a provider or live out a traditional male role within the relationship/marriage. Traditional roles may be desired or expected of women in some cases, but it's more of a sexual desire and theoretical a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:18 AM
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I view porn as an overall negative thing as the industry is toxic, it encourages warped ideas of sex and how to "please" (or not bother pleasing) women, encourages sexual violence and normalises BDSM to the point where young guys are choking women they just met without consent because it's just what they see non stop in porn so it must be standard sex, right? Plus it makes some people unable to sexually function properly due to the addiction, affects relationships negatively etc I'm morally agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:43 AM
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Trp only acknowledges one type of woman.. ones with low self esteem who sleep with a lot of guys and respond favourably to tactics like pushpull. Usually suffered lack of parental guidance growing up and are looking for love in the wrong places. Trp targets those people for sex/resources and views that as successful. So if a lot of the specific tactics are aimed at one type of person then that's who they'd keep attracting (if they attract anyone, depends on looks probably) I haven't been involve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:32 AM
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Because if a woman wants to get married, have children etc, there isnt the luxury of unlimited tine and just "having fun" with guys will pretty much always result in a string of short term relationships, high n count and subsequent STIs (esp herpes and hpv), maybe a couple of long term time waster type relationships etc. Some people just want something serious, a life partner, and casual relationships would feel very empty and stressful
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:25 AM
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It was used on redpill, mensrights and purplepilldebate
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:23 AM
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My husband does the exact same job as me but he's older with a lot more assets and he was able to work more hours than me (more physical strength) and also had his own side business. He paid for the dates most of the time and has old fashioned type of courting style which I liked. We already worked together for a long time so we went into the first date already being exclusive and serious about a future together. Obviously the romantic aspect to the relationship was new so we couldn't feel commi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:20 AM
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I said scr0te is not a word I use Prolapsed? It was used to describe normal labia that's visible at all and many people focused on it being brown as well. It was used alongside racist remarks directly too.. even here in purge week. It's not only used by inc3ls, was used in redpill and by people claiming to be purple here as well
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:17 AM
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Wanting him to invite you and pay for the dates has nothing to do with the marriage dynamics in the future, it's the dating strategy. Guys who don't want to pay for dates are more likely to want something casual or have financial issues
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:13 AM
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You can't gain artificial youth no matter how hard you try but having an actual healthy lifestyle and putting effirt in long term would be the best bet.. using meds will just deteriorate long term from side effects
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:07 AM
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Yeah they're both bad. Because it was focused on labia being darker brown and targeting black womens colouring moreso than paler women, and it was used when there was a lot more specifically racist attacks at black women on fds at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:07 AM
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I speak against dating apps, having a rotation of men, and the use of certain words or certain attitudes there. You'd usually only get banned if you were pushing certain things heavily like "what about men" type of narrative (and appearing like a man), or being really pro bdsm or against the strategies like "I pay half on a date, whats wrong with that?" then it's like well why hang out on fds? Some of us who are married talk about how financial contributions change when youre life partners. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:02 AM
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I only dated men who don't date many women, and who only date 1 woman at a time, so they put basic effort into a date with anyone. I wouldnt date modern revolving door style men who are dating lots of people. I vet men as acquaintances before I dated them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:00 AM
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How is it high effort or even moderate? Not sure what counts as fine dining, I don't live inner city so we don't have celebrity degustation restaurants close by or anything.. people just go to regular restaurants. Plus if someone's struggling financially then not a good prospect, I'm 34 and spend a stupid amount on ubereats so yeah its not unusual to be able to go out to eat. I have a really average paying job with zero status (far lesser than even a receptionist) and live in a lower socioeconom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:55 AM
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Fast results ahead of health is a lazy and immature quality
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:53 AM
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Ummm I've never been available for casual sex but I'd say my desirability in that arena wouldn't be very high. I'm not fit, I have health issues, I'm in my 30s. I'm married and pregnant so I don't really think about it. I've never wanted casual sex and find most men unappealing whether I'm unattractive or not. Relationship value.. I'm very loyal and loving but I'm hard work. Looks... as I stand right now in pyjama pants and my husbands band t-shirt and no shower and my hair as a bird nest, I'd b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:11 AM
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You said it yourself... low effort. Fds women don't want low key low effort, people can get that off any tinder guy wanting to hook up Also women have to consider their safety at all times in dating so absolutely no going to homes during those early stages, and clubbing can be dangerous and is just not an environment men looking for a wife would hang out or want to take someone. Also if anyone is over 28 they are probably not going to be into clubbing You described a typical tinder guy wanting a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:57 AM
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Roast a scr0te comes from the manosphere calling women the derogatory and racist term r0asti3
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:56 AM
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Just because they do it doesnt mean theyre happy in it. A bunch of them will be hoping for a relationship. Younger women today think you have to give sex in order to have a CHANCE of a relationship. Tgen guys say theyre just promiscuous and happy to be used
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:54 AM
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Maybe redpill are refusing to acknowledge their deeper issues though. Interestingly we were discussing how a lot of redpill men test as INTP, and INTP is known for struggling to relate emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:52 AM
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Why would datingover30 etc be a sign of no self improvement though? And a guy using steroids without a medical need is a sign of poor psychological and spiritual development to me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:50 AM
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They dont think theyre piling up, they think theyre rare and thats why they have to vet so hard bevause there will be so many users and people offering nothing that you have to spend so much time weeding them out to get a glimpse of a hvm
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:47 AM
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Like women havent heard all of that.. you be agreeable and a Cool Chick and you will get abused and cheated on in a majority of cases. Vetting is for safety and your future, it's not about difficulty in finding some boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:45 AM
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Everyone's forgotten that scr0tes is a response to redpill/mensrights calling women r0ast1es. You can't even use that word anywhere without getting banned and people have forgotten. I wouldn't call anyone a scr0te as it's below me and I don't use much slang especially sexually related ones, but people do need to remember that it was actually a response. People still say chad etc but they've forgotten that it became soooo commonplace to call women r0assti here and elsewhere, and it was very derog…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:41 AM
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No he can cater to you without sacrificing his life. If he has to sacrifice his life goals to be a great partner then he's spread too thin and doesn't have space for a relationship and the woman should move on
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:35 AM
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The difference would be that he's working on hinself for authentic and personal reasons, not to try and get in a womans pants. Everyone has to work to be HV. He should be wanting to be HV for his own reasons and not need any input from his girlfriend/wife to do that. That's what it means, it's not contradictory. It's about motives. People only level up in a valid way if they're doing it for their own deeper reasons. If it's being pushed on them then it's not authentic. FDS don't want to push any…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:33 AM
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Some just let the pendulum swing too far. Women there are used to being affected by sexism, racism and judged on their looks so they don't feel remorse about giving some back, in some cases. It's venting at the end of the day and that's why it's women only, because they don't feel the need to say that TO men or to attack men themselves, they want to vent to other women. Plus if men were allowed, it'd just be another sub where all their expectations are called unreasonable or sick, blah blah. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:23 AM
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I think its best to date in your age range, but you cant control who you fall for either. If both parties are over 30 then it's personal choice. But if anyone's a teenager or early 20s, age gaps are usually far more problematic. My husband is 10 years older but we're early 30s and early 40s. We feel no sense of generational differences or anything like that. But I had an age gap of just 6 years when I was a teenager and I now realise that was predatory. The younger a person is, the more signific…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:13 AM
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No I never think about random people, that would put me off. I rarely masturbate because I'm married to someone who has an equally healthy desire so we have sex when we're in the mood. My sex drive is good and I think about sex every day. Sex equals my husband in my mind. I can see mens bodies and think they have a nice feature, but I'm never attracted to their faces and would have to put a bag over their head and imagine its my husband hahah. I just find other people, their faces and their pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:01 AM
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Oh ok haha I was thinking I'm pretty sure people carry on about wife/husband material a fair bit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:28 AM
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Ive not known it to be an issue or anything my friends ever discussed in our 20s. My ex went thin at 25
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:02 PM
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If you keep ordering pizza from a place where the pizza got so bad that it's inedible, you'd stop ordering from there right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:01 PM
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I don't think red pill men would be into dark triad type women because the women would just be non responsive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:00 PM
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Yeah they could have both. I have cptsd and don't have most of the bpd stereotypes. Do not abuse others in any way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:57 PM
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Wow it should not be considetednormal to view 16-21 as a prize...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:49 PM
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It should be equal. I couldn't develop proper interest in a guy or maintain it if he wasnt pursuing me and initiating but so long as he is doing that and I'm really into him then I'll be active too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:47 PM
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Forget dating.. maybe women will find it easier to get some hobo into bed compared to a man.. but that wont help the fact that shes more prone to mental and physical illness, abuse, lower pay etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:45 PM
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I wouldn't do it. It's too casual, too excessive and too much like fast food culture to me. Apps and drinks/meals 1 on 1 with strangers is too weird for me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:41 PM
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Everyone values beauty and attractiveness. Plenty of people just don't restrict that to being 25 or under with 1 body type. It's shallow when view of attractiveness is unnaturally narrow. You mention fertility but men have all different tastes and all different types of women are fertile. Plus there are many women who are viewed as especially sexy after the age of menopause and if it was all fertility then no one would be into them. And there are hot model women who are 25 and infertile
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:33 PM
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Red pill only focuses on a subset of society so Im sure their tactics do work for that smaller population they are trying to attract
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:31 PM
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Yeah but wanting a bang buddy that fits some aesthetic isnt wanting high value. They didnt coin HV. They just talk about sexual market value. In terms of actually being a high value person, itd be equal difficulty
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:29 PM
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Why would you think women dont think about what being a husband means? Plenty want husbands so they will think about what that means to them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:27 PM
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He wouldn't be considered HVM by the people that use the term HVM. HVM is all about chivalry and taking the woman on dates lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:20 PM
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Unfortunately not because porn doesnt focus on accurate female anatomy or orgasm so they dont learn sometimes. Reading cues is a good thing but not everyone is easy to read and some people may not feel comfortable with certain types of communication at certain times.. I really think it comes down to natural compatibility and fate of meeting at the right time, being together at the right time and for the right length of time, and having compatible personalities and desires
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:19 PM
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I never went for a narcissist, they targeted me. Once I had one big run in with one (ex husband) I made sure to increase my vetting to the point where its not very likely to date me or be involved with me. Not because I thought men would want to jump through hoops for me and not as any kind of "game" but just because its the logical thing to do after someone messes up your life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:13 PM
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People I've been with have been from different countries.. these days I feel its best to be with someone with very similar background to me and also a similar personality type to me, for compatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:10 PM
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This post just seems like a confessional like "reasons why a relationship sounds bad to me", I mean you're talking about a caricature of 1 type of woman.. if a woman who appears to be some kind of user whos not that into you then dont date her
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:08 PM
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Yeah it was kind of like going from a robot to being with a human being haha but its only a personality test and there are other traits and history and mental illness that come into play. Buttt I can't deny, they've all had the same issues in my life. You can be like a "bad" intp/infj and I'm a bad infj and ex was a bad intp. But intp are known to be emotionally cold as a whole so I can't ever see that as a good thing haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:03 PM
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They both suck but I'd choose the boring man because he has less wrong with him and I'm going to break up with both of them either way, once this terrible alternate reality stops forcing me to date people I dont like. Maybe the boring guy is just stuck in a rut and needs someone to light his fire? The other james franco russel brand coke sniffer guy can't be salvaged
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:56 PM
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You need some kind of experience to not be clueless or terrified. If hes asking what a clit is then theres a huge problem. But experience only goes so far, not that much is needed to know the basics, and the rest should be left open and unassumed because everyone is different and an egotistical confident man trying to tell you what you should like based on all of his experience, is horrendous. I had that issue a lot in the past. I've had better sex with a low n count man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:52 PM
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Its just how some people are and how anyone else is, is irrelevant. That may be the case for you but not for me and some others. For some people monogamy is completely effortless and the only option that has any appeal. We are not clones
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:48 PM
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I've had a lot of intps in my life from ex husband to ex friends to room mates to family members and we are flat out never on the same page and never compatible so far. The strongest themes were me finding them emotionally incompetent and them finding me too emotional, me putting in a lot more effort/labour, them being very selfish, them wanting to live in mess and me being very clean, them having hoarding tendencies and me being minimalist, and men having bad attitudes towards women and being a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:46 PM
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34 female infj. Intp is the personality type least compatible with me. Blue pill and now I'd say no pill/not involved/reject all pills/not my circus
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:38 PM
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I wouldn't call it only lack of restraint. Some people just dont have the urge to have sex with random people and theres not much restraint involved. I'm like that and could only be with a similar person. I care about the sexual personality type. If a man would love to have casual sex but just restrains himself, he's not right for me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:34 PM
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Yeah still being married doesn't mean it's stable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:31 PM
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Wiki is full of people pushing their agendas, a veteran is likely worse
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:25 PM
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I wouldnt continue being with a man if I was having feelings or urges for other men. I want a partner who is my match and who I feel intense feelings for. If I am thinking about other people then Im not into my partner. If im not into my partner then I'm unhappy. I'm not a hobosexual, I dont want to date men for financial assistance and that would disgust me and make me miserable to live with or have sex with a man I'm not in love with
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:23 PM
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No, if its the right person then the attraction doesnt wear off. Ive been married twice and lost attraction very quickly in one and not the other. You have to be very compatible people and be each others taste physically and intellectually
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:18 PM
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Can't talk for anyone else but my sex drive was very low in my 20s and my periods were also irregular despite me being in better shape. In my 30s my periods became regular and I also have had a much higher sex drive. I only experienced that truly physically raging horny feeling 30+. I never felt that in my 20s, it was like the volume was turned way down low
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:15 PM
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If a man wants marriage, of course he views personality/intelligence/lifestyle/values etc as vitally important. Some guys are so thirsty they honestly think men want to attempt to spend their lives with mediocre people who they don't have much connection with? Just so long as they're reely reely good looking? So dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 09:24 AM
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You're not a woman soooo... no. Most guys on apps are primarily looking for sex. They might take a relationship if it fell into their lap after the sex, but the primary goal is sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 08:48 AM
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Read post. I listed 6 other reasons why paying for dates is a strategy separate to that. You were asking why men would need to be vulnerable in any way, implying it's unfair and I explained why it's not particularly unfair in terms of risk comparison. As I said, FDS women aren't interested in majority of men and I don't mind if 90% men disagree with ny standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:04 PM
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You keep randomly changing the argument. I explained everything. FDS women are financially stable so don't need free bits and bobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:39 PM
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Dating is a scenario where women are at risk of sexual assault or rape by people they do and don't know well. I am not just talking about a first date, they could have been dating for months. FDS don't expect their date to lower their risk of having a car accident on the way to work, decrease chance of heart disease, or various other things that could kill you. We're talking about issues specifically related to dating and intimate relationships. We can't be the ones to give more vulnerability wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:56 PM
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FDS doesn't advocate being financially supported by a man in relationship/marriage so it can't be spoken about like that's the aim or that it's a risk FDS poses to men. The only rule is he pays for dates while courting as a vetting strategy. Men could view this as higher risk for them on the date, but women are unfortunately at higher risk of sexual assault, violence in a relationship resulting in serious bodily harm or death, long term health consequences of STIs, pregnancy etc so FDS views him…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:36 PM
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Everyone's at some risk in a relationship but the point of what some people call "excessive" vetting is to know the person well before you jump into big commitments. My husband never paid for everything in terms of living together, but he's paying for a lot because I physically can't work right now for medical/pregnancy reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:28 PM
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I'm pregnant and on leave from work for months, he's currently paying for most things. Before that, we both contributed financially but he paid more as he earned more and was his mortgage
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:05 PM
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You'll have to re-read it all. I said the dating strategy isn't the same as marriage dynamics. Marriage is separate to courting. People have different dynamics in marriage. I have traditional gender roles in mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 08:46 AM
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You didn't read it then. I wrote in it that we have zero interest in trying to change men. We don't want a project. We don't want to force anything. The entire point is to just avoid men who don't want what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 07:53 AM
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There were some small red flags but not things you worry about much as a teenager. The sex was never good, I was learning and not really aware so I assumed I had a mediocre libido. The way he tried to seduce was not appealing, I didnt like his style of foreplay or sex. He was too rough and I explained that but it was his natural desire so it still came through even if he tried not to. Plus I dont think I was attracted to him on a highly biological level. Also by chance I found that certain anato…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:20 AM
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Yeah. I'm low count and I would never view it like my low count (or past no count) was a valuable prize to give to someone. I expect a man to be low count as well, but I don't view that as something he is saving for me. It's more like... that's just who I am, and that's just who he is, so the underlying reason of why we are low count is the important thing, because it indicates personality compatibility I wanted to do the whole "one person for the rest of my life" thing but it didn't work out be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:04 AM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:54 AM
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OBSERVE PEOPLE'S ACTIONS. He doesn't text? It's been a week? He seems lukewarm? He says some non committal things? He's distracted? He doesn't bring up being exclusive or future plans? Move on. He just doesn't care and isn't into you. We have no interest in turning LVM (low value men) into HVM (high value men). We don't want a project and we don't want to force anyone into anything. That goes for his lack of effort in any situation, whether it's dates or the housework or quality of sex. If he's …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:53 AM
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I've been on FDS a long time and these are my personal views, based on many of the strategies. I am 34 and married to a HVM, after my first marriage with an abusive NVM. Be highly attuned to red flags and do not ignore them. Be very educated in detecting red flags in order to avoid being used, abused or simply wasting your time. Do not lower your standards or bend your boundaries. No matter how much society pushes that women expect too much. The world will tell you that you're over the top, dram…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 02:53 AM
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Wtf does trains ran on her mean Edit - Ok googled it. If it was rape then not applicable. If they mean cheating then wtf.. staying with a cheater is not bluepill. That's no pill. That's.. deadpill. Thats messeduppill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:43 AM
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Majority of people are fat so if someone chooses to eliminate that many people then they are choosing not to have a sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:39 AM
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It's a minority of rape cases where someone is convicted and serves prison time, with evidence. Let alone no evidence and only accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:37 AM
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So youre on fds every day for years?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:35 AM
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Nah I'm fds and I'd tell women not to do that. It's their life but at fds, we are very aware of STIs that condoms can't prevent, and a fckbuddy isn't worth your time and will prevent you from finding the right relationship. We say don't commit to a man who's not committed to you. She doesn't have to be exclusive if her date isn't expressing he needs to be. But if a woman has vetted a man for months and finds he's only desirable for sex, that means he wasn't good enough. The goal is marriage, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:28 AM
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It'd be more like they were suspicious of everyone but let their walls down for a wrong person who used manipulation tactics to achieve that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:23 AM
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People's definitions of this are all over the place, I mean some say betabux is only betabux if she's not really attracted to him or treats him poorly, others say he's betabux if he gives ANYTHING or is even in a relationship, some say betabux could earn 40k a year and others say it's 6+ figures. Some mens website says "Beta males are fun, confident, and charismatic. They're also driven, and tend to be highly motivated. This makes them desirable as dating partners, and many women seek out betas …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:06 AM
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Depends on age as well. If someone's 18 and low count, that's likely not a reflection of strong relationship values. I apply that to men or women. Lack of opportunity or life experience doesn't demonstrate a person's character well. This is why I had better luck with dating when I was over 30. By this age, you have a better chance of seeing someone's true character.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 01:03 AM
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Well, my 2nd husband never did hookups. Neither did I. You just have to hone in on people with what some call "demisexual" qualities. Besides, he's not "waiting" if he just isn't into casual sex. Even if he never found you, he'd still not be into casual sex, and would either be single or in a relationship with someone else. It's about finding compatible personality types. As FDS woman, I don't want a man to "change", "wait", give up or lose anything. That's the whole point of fitting together...…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:57 AM
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Yeah I thought hey, why don't I participate in something other than purplepill debate or womens health/mental health... I mean, I don't wanna spend too much time debating or focusing on certain things that have a toxic side. God is important to me. But then I was just like... what... tf is going on here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:55 AM
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Would I be attracted to morbidly obese with 45% body fat and no muscle mass? No. But "fat" can mean chubby or stocky, and I am "fat", so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:31 AM
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Argh some advocate open marriages?? I've never been on it til just recently because I don't really umm focus on my spiritual life within reddit so much lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:06 PM
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That's even beyond misogynistic. That's like disordered social skills no matter what the topic was and really aggressive
/r/askFDS18/06/21 04:33 AM
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Oh ok haha. Well if someone has a condition that affects their memory, fair enough if they inform their date FIRST that they have to take notes and ASK if it's ok. Not sure of the context though, and understandable for someone to decline the date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:21 AM
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All my comments to him have 1 downvote... I wonder who that was lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:19 AM
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It's normal to be turned off by people who are totally incompatible. I've had less than 1 hand count of sexual partners at 34 and I wouldn't be with a man who had more than that, or who desired casual sex. I need someone who views sex as a pretty sacred thing you do with a life partner. Not everyone is like that, they don't have to be, but it's fine to say that's all you're compatible with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:03 AM
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Prayers for Caroline, her baby and her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:48 AM
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Yeah, it happens. I know someone whose parent died of that while doing it alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:45 AM
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I think men read FDS and freak out about paying for dates, but forget that we don't VIEW women as identical or completely equal to men. Intellectually equal? Yes. But we have so many differences physically, emotionally, spiritually and in society. Feminism is about believing in equal RIGHTS, not that men and women are IDENTICAL. The fact that anyone, men or some feminist women, imply that we need to BE men to get the same RIGHTS is sexist in itself. If a man and woman do the same job at the same…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:12 AM
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Sooo relate in my ex marriage. The quick towel wash with complaining. Ughhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:45 PM
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No one ever surveyed me on my sex life at any point... how many people here have been surveyed?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:23 PM
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Men often complain that they get hardly any matches..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:21 PM
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Yea except the person said she was... yelling. And the man was brutally violent. The guy used a chair. Women can use weapons too, but the comment said she was just yelling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:18 PM
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Yeah, he doesn't desire casual sex, never did. Only had sex in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:08 PM
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I really hope the post wasn't "my bf forgot he had 2 other dates last week" or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:59 PM
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He needs to be in the freakin emergency department and not dating if he's had a serious brain injury recently... ........ ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:58 PM
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A bad grape lol MaYbe it was Just BDsM and not DormesTic Vilence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:55 PM
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Dude I'm FDS and rarely see that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:53 PM
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I'm "they" Yeah wait 3 months minimum, so you're committed. There's no good vetting process for finding some person to bang. Some newbies might want it that way but they're shooting themselves in the foot if they want marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:42 PM
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I know, I just wanted to complain
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:37 PM
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I feel like it's just endless posts about women all being young hot babes who hate good guys and I just can't relate to it as a mid 30s woman who is married and never had casual sex in my life. On this sub, I'm constantly told I don't exist or I'm some kind of anomaly. Reddit is just like a different universe of people compared to my life and the people in it. I've mentioned topics from reddit subs like this to my husband and occasionally his friends or people I know well at work, and everyone's…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:36 PM
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Ehhhh.. some would envy my marriage, for sure. But to be me as a whole.. people would be in my mind and body for a day and be like, wow what a horrible dream
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:31 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:29 PM
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Yep and the bible says to love your wife as yourself. So where's the choking of oneself? (Not that I think anyone should be choking others or themselves lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:26 PM
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Well I'm married and things I wanted and got include same values, same approach to marriage, similar spiritual beliefs, work well as a team, compatible lifestyles, connection, deep companionship, genuine person, loving, emotionally intelligent, very attractive, sexually compatible, fireworks at the start, compatible sense of humour, romance, chivalry, traditional gender roles, sense of trust and security, respect, enjoy our time together, have good discussions, financial stability/similar spendi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:25 PM
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So you are ok with hentai and masturbation, but your beliefs are that people should only have sex for procreation? Is this based on spiritual beliefs or what? Because that's the reason a lot of religious people are anti masturbation. It's not my mental gymnastics, it's a pretty oldschool belief by those types, as is sex being only for procreation. It goes hand in hand. So what is it about 2 people actually being in the same room that changes anything? I mean there are voice actors in hentai, ani…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:17 PM
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Problem is many guys aren't interested in relationships or marriage. So not being available for anything casual cuts you out of a lot of mens radar. Which is ok because they have nothing to offer, but ultimately if you're a woman who wants marriage and a really out of the ordinary relationship with a great man who has atypical traits these days (does not want casual sex etc), pickings are slim.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:09 PM
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This is becoming more concerning It can't be animation because that would still be using your desires for purposes other than procreation. Watching basically anything, or masturbating would go against that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:59 PM
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Gotta get that verified hentai right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:59 PM
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Dude I think creampie and pregnancy/insemination stuff can be considered typical stuff. And you watching it is NOT causing procreation
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:57 PM
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Don't prude shame
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:55 PM
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Newbies can type anything but if you pay attention to mods, they will say FDS doesn't endorse sleeping around because it's not worth the huge risk (pretty much guaranteed risk if you're talking HPV), and doesn't endorse dating apps. Doesn't stop people talking about it though. I'm sure a load of redpillers don't approve of sexual assault either but you read some very messed up comments, and that's far more problematic than saying wooo I want a side dude when nobody's exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:48 PM
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I can't relate to it. if I had sex with loads of men, it likely wouldn't give me better odds of finding a real relationship/marriage. Plus I don't believe in casual sex for myself, and don't view any men who are "f*ckboys" as out of my league. As I wouldn't be with a man who had that kind of attitude, I'd view him as not on my level.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:30 PM
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I'm 34!!! Just in
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:19 PM
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Some women are into casual sex but overwhelming majority don't want it and it's not safe, so bad idea. Usually some say date multiple people. That typically doesn't mean sex. Recommendations are wait to have sex. Some say use dating apps too, but that's against FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:16 PM
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I couldn't live with a messy person cause I can't stand the sight of mess. It makes me really stressed, so cleaning ut would have nothing to do with how they feel, but would be me trying to fix our living space so that ut stops making me feel overwhelmed and upset.. but I wouldn't live with a messy person again so I won't clean stuff like that again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:11 PM
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It was peculiar to have that discussion there, that's for sure. But it was also a whole bunch of other comments I didn't reply to that were super permissive of choking, "just not with a cross necklace" uhhh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:03 PM
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Well TENDING to be young doesn't mean it's like 80%.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:02 PM
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And rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:01 PM
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Yeah it's mind blowing..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:00 PM
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^
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:00 PM
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What qualifies as "riding the cc"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:59 PM
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I wouldn't date men off apps or go for a walk at night, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:58 PM
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Men on PPP posted about this article and were basically criticising the women for it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:07 PM
200

Yeah on the Christian marriage sub, I had a guy arguing that severe BDSM is a way to follow the bibles instruction on marriage. Other Christians accuse me of kink shaming lol Nothing in the cartoon is related to sex 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:58 AM
1

Yeah what if the jerk is fat and ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:54 AM
1

That could be a sign there's a lot of jerks Srsly you gonna act like a woman with one bad ex (who may have seemed great for months or years) is a hoe, if she has been with like 3 humans? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:52 AM
0

Ah yes, all women are hot 20 year oldz who bang anything that moves.. I'm one in a billion
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:47 AM
2

Okie well i was once hit for 4 years and no one cared and laughed when I told them about it and said "dont be weird" sooo different experiences huh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:44 AM
1

Rape is often boyfriends/friends/family friends
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:42 AM
1

So cause even the guys they thought were nice turned out to be rapists and woman bashers so that means their sense of threat is imagined? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:40 AM
1

Yep definitely not a redpill belief that women are more at risk of rape/mugging/murder, they tend to deny it and say it's in our heads haha
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:39 AM
1

How rood
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:37 AM
2

Again, assuming all women are young babes, either easy or Christian
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 10:32 AM
1

The World is so safe for women - a reddit man
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 09:10 AM
1

I notice men's body parts only. I don't find many people attractive as a whole so it's more like seeing a good body part, that reminding me of what I find hot in my husband, then fantasizing about sex with him. Faces do nothing for me at all, I'm way too picky and find lots of things unattractive about most mens faces. I only notice body parts like they're mannequins or photos. I could also get very aroused by porn that focuses on the male body, but I am against porn. They'd have to be faceless …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:30 AM
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Again, these discussions are all based on viewing the female population as one sea of 22 year old instagram babes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:26 AM
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Well if it's a lot it's probably why we won't be tolerant of their opinions there. If a woman comes to fds (or man claiming to be a woman) and starts saying oh I think onlyfans is so empowering, and I actually like men who are 20 years older, there's nothing wrong with your man following a bunch of chicks on instagram and just scrolling it all the time, blahblah, they are shown the exit if they keep persisting
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:24 AM
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I'd say using altered images that look highly distorted and unnaturally shaped (largest lips look square) and having people pick the one that looks more realistic is not good "science" for most attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:20 AM
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Not a fan. Chris hemsworth like a puppy baby face. Margot.. not a big fan of poppy out type eyes or something about nostrils not sure but she's pretty, Tom Cruise def not, he's way past the age of what society considers really hot, not tall, has a busy face and very asymmetrical. They're all good looking people but yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:17 AM
1

To me? Women: https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQZJnT3jdLrnjsFn2LgvuTT0LbbjjLSXT22uw&usqp=CAU Men: https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRQ-mJ57l2HlTuTaoZZjKORR1APq-zxU0Bewg&usqp=CAU but way darker hair, skin, bit older and less plain white
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:12 AM
1

No he doesn't look modelesque. Also button noses are considered feminine to a lot of people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:51 AM
0

That doesn't define beauty to me, just agreeable plainness in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:50 AM
5

Untrue. HVM don't want pickmes because they might be the perfect coolgirl for LVM, but she usually can't handle a healthy relationship with a HVM. Her insecurities and issues behind the pickme behaviour can come out in a relationship with a good man as things like extreme jealousy, drama with her friends, unhinged behaviour, compromising herself for other people, wanting unhealthy validation, continuously needing highs and lows, arguments, possibly even cheating, substance abuse and things HVM d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:41 AM
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Unfortunately life is fear for most women when it comes to dating. They are scanning the room for exits and looking behind them on their way to their car when men typically are not. This is what sone men can't understand, and view it as optional or abnormal rather than necessary. They don't know what it is to be a woman. Men moreso feel that kind of fear being outside or around people, only when they are in overtly threatening situations like the prison yard or a ghetto area at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:35 AM
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FDS aren't interested in men who do hookups/casual stuff anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:31 AM
2

The main goal is typically marriage. I don't hate sex workers or pickmes. I see why they do what they do, but I'm fine with pointing out my beliefs and the issues I see with it. It's a safe space to discuss the negatives and why we don't believe in sex work being healthy or good for women, because the rest of the world will chastise you for saying anything anti sex work or anti pickme. Even Christian subs will come down on you for being anti hardcore BDSM (serious choking, spitting in the face, …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:26 AM
0

I imagine combining 2 households of children would be A LOT more difficult than introducing 1 adult into the home. For a start, what if they each have 2 or more kids and they'd never be able to afford a property with 5-6+ bedrooms? Most houses aren't built with that many even in the wealthy areas here. Then there's all the personalities and needs, their safety etc. What if they are teenagers and develop sexual interest in each other? Then there's the ex, and potential custody drama. So many comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:48 AM
1

Yeah he really showed me.. being a domestic violence survivor, having 2 partners in my life and divorcing one, means I have no clue about men. Wow I feel really enlightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:30 AM
1

Getting divorced once due to severe domestic violence by a person who became mentally ill a) doesn't have anything to do with not understanding, b) is not my fault as the victim
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:29 AM
1

Mayne if youre 90-100 lbs but not really very noticeable for people like 130/140 lbs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:44 AM
1

Mayne if youre 90-100 lbs but not really very noticeable for people like 130/140 lbs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:44 AM
1

Mayne if youre 90-100 lbs but not really very noticeable for people like 130/140 lbs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:44 AM
11

Cradle snatchers is what they said in my day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:12 PM
1

Married to multiple
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:11 PM
2

That sucks. I was in 30k debt but his living expenses over 5 years would add up to A LOT. But I was left with 30k actual debt I had to pay off. Including what I lost/wasted it'd be like 180k. Not including missed opportunities but more importantly physical and emotional damages. If it's about reduction of quality of life, reduction in ability to work, and necessary psychological and physical treatment then it would be millions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:05 PM
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Oh really so opening with how men would rather be homeless than not fuck women isn't implying they just want to fuck? Yeah the post was really well thought out and emphasized mens selectiveness with personality, it wasn't about being desperate to fuck at all!! All they stressed was men don't care about things. Not being selective about who you fuck does not make a person less superficial, it makes them more superficial. So superficial that they barely mind who the person is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:59 PM
2

Redpill means seeing "reality". The belief is that women are worshipped in society (I guess we are all white 19 year old bikini babes that come from money) and that men need to stop worshipping them. They are not forthcoming like the rules list FDS has. They will say it's mainly about leveling up in your life, and with dating, it's about realizing womens "true" nature and "giving them what they want", which is NOT what they say. From seeing years of posts on redpill of what they actually discuss…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:38 PM
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Earning double what he does but a gold digger 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:19 PM
12

Lol don't you think being easily satisfied (not caring who you're fcking so long as female/hole... is the epitome of superficial? Superficial means not prioritizing personality, typically. If someone's not selective and views it as success so long as they're getting laid, that is very superficial..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:13 PM
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I think it's likely that they couldn't handle the stress and their violent tendencies erupt at that time. I've been in a violent ex marriage and I'm now married to a very caring man. I'm pregnant and it has been one of the hardest times of my life. I've been extremely ill and unable to work or do much housework so my hisband has more pressure on him because he's a "doer" and feels obligated to pick up the slack. It's been a lifesaver for me and I show my appreciation, but obviously it's been har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:49 PM
1

Even guys that think they're cold bachelors who just wanna bang, saying persobality comes last 😂 imagine if they go get drinks with the woman and she's slamming the drinks down, spitting up goobers, arguing with people, arguing with him.. then they go home and she says "DAYUM I THOUGHT YOUR DICK WOULD BE WAY BIGGER HAHAHA NEVERMIND!! STICK IT IN..GO ON THEN!! WHAT ARE YOU A PUSSY?? I CANT FEEL ANYTHING???? IS IT IN??? Or the woman is super polite and barely says much, then lies there during sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:26 AM
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10 lbs? Take a couple of big poops and have light dinners for 3 days and I'd lose 10 lbs 😂 10 lbs is nothing and would be comparable to a man being 0.5cm shorter or taller max
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:23 AM
1

Looks, personality, location, money, game, status Not that half of those would be in my top 6 important things anyway. Don't care about status at all, money is about financial stability and having basic assets, not being rich. Not attracted to a lot of redpill mens idea of game. Game to me is just basic confidence but being considerate, flirting, good conversation, connection, effort etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:16 AM
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Yeah but doesn't mean people are gonna go for the hottest person they can get when the personality isn't there
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:15 AM
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She's a teenager. I remember reading something where she only just became willing to wear fitted shirts because she's not used to having breasts or showing them or something. People were sexualising her for just HAVING boobs. She's... a teenager. Big age gaps if the woman is below 30 are usually wrong. If she's teenager or 20 and the man's 30 and 35+? Totally messed up, wrong under any circumstance. My husband is 10 years older but I was 30 and he was 40. However if I was 20 and he was 30? If we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:59 AM
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Yeah abd then men say WOMEN HAVE IT SO EASY WITH DATING CAUSE THEY GET SO MANY MATCHES!
/r/askFDS15/06/21 01:43 AM
1

Most wealthy men I've met are really tight with money in their every day lives. They make a big purchase occasionally (real estate, car) and then avoid spending otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 01:42 AM
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I don't agree. Women know we have different standards to men and society's view of perfect looking women. We see things like great skin, amazing eyebrows, nice hair, a nice makeup look, a nice outfit, a photo where the woman is looking her best and we compliment those things. "Stunning xx" is not communicating "I think you could be a model in a very superficial industry that doesn't value diversity!" or "You are stunning in a way that makes you top 10% of women and all men will lust for you!", a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 01:35 AM
1

They didnt specify
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 12:52 AM
1

FDS want marriage so not mgtow. I don't obsess over other men. Everyone on here is like a concept to me. I was in a very abusive ex marriage and I help other women understand red flags and point out issues with modern dating culture that's forced on people
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:47 PM
1

My husband is rare
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:43 PM
1

I'm 34 and married, most women on FDS are younger than me. It's more popular with 20s women actually
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:40 PM
1

Maybe I am a young white man
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:36 PM
2

Physically sick and try to distract myself, and anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:31 PM
2

Of course. Men in healthy relationships and no issues with women dont know this exists
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:24 PM
1

When it's printing 3d toys....yes, it's childlike. It's not even an insult bros "childlike /ˈtʃʌɪl(d)lʌɪk/ adjective (of an adult) having the good qualities, such as innocence, associated with a child. "she speaks with a childlike directness""
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:23 PM
2

We're talking about guys on ppd not just "men"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:21 PM
2

It's white males under a certain age. And yeah they're frustrated af here and say that themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:16 PM
2

It's statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:12 PM
3

HOW DARE YOU
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:56 PM
2

Kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:33 PM
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He's not OBLIVIOUS, he's fully aware and DOESN'T CARE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:29 PM
1

How DAre You!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:26 PM
24

Bleh. Saying I was married for 8 years used to get the same reaction (by men and women) but I was 28 when saying it. They thought I was like 22. I think it's died off since being over 30 because now I look at least 27-31
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:25 PM
1

I aint doing it.. ew
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:19 PM
26

That's so creepy. I've only been asked when buying alcohol or by people I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:18 PM
60

I've cried because my dinner sucked. Multiple times. I hate being disappointed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:14 PM
29

Yeah.. she does look like a bot if I'm honest. A pretty bot, but a bot. And the message... it's a bit contradictory with trying to appear perfect. It feels a bit like "I'm going to appear as stunning as ppssible because I know men are more receptive to beautiful women". Like when a 45+ year old overweight woman says similar things, the manosphere will tear her down about her appearance first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:05 PM
3

True true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:25 PM
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Yeah she looks beautiful but somethings off so it's distracting. Our brains are sensitive to faces (and anything that seems not right). I don't know if it's cosmetic work or the filters or what but it's confusing my brain. I guess no one will know what she looks like if its just tiktok videos with filters. I kinda feel like it's like watching someone with a silicon mask on. But yeah she's pretty and very... symmetrical! But I've never used a filter so I don't know how much they actually do. Vari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:22 PM
11

He was quite... thin. To be fair, I couldn't feel it. I didn't say that at the time though. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:38 PM
5

I've seen my husband look up at those ads for online clothes stores for teeny boppers. You know, ones with pounding music with loads of bass and a meangirl voice saying/singing some crap like ... Ya. Betch. So hot. Betch. Lol and it's always some excessively young looking woman looking like a kardashian. Anyway.. he looks up at the music and gets this face like 🤔😣 and says "what the hell is this??" I'm like that's what's hot now. He said she looks like a kid in a halloween costume. I said yep, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:35 PM
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Yeah she looks like a filter or a sculpted doll!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:15 PM
4

Id hate casual sex. Id need therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 12:45 PM
1

Let me level with you. I never prioritized that. I also never had vaginal orgasms. Got with a guy with thicker uncut penis, now I have vaginal orgasms.. easily. My vag cant really be... shallow
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 10:58 AM
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Is her face... real...??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:52 AM
1

You can improve it but cant learn or force raw compatibility unfortunately, or change your anatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 10:51 AM
2

Yeah the only thing I havent cut out is nightshades. I've eliminated everything else for over a month, and I've been vegetarian and vegan, and I still felt like crap (chronic fatigue, vertigo etc) so nightshades and low histamine are next on my list... one day..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:44 AM
1

Yeah but youve banged to find out. So now you cant be with anyone else, to fit the n=1 dream Most people feel something is missing and DON'T understand what they're feeling. They may just assume they have a low libido
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 10:42 AM
1

You talk like people are either broke and have 4 kids to 3 guys or are upper class lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 10:41 AM
2

Eww. Yeah there's so much he could have done and reading labels isnt impossible for them. If he ate like crap then salmon and salad and simple stuff would be out of the question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:58 AM
2

Have you made Greek food? That's honestly better than typical bolognese and lasagnas etc sonetimes and isn't tomatoey.. like moussaka (well not the eggplant type but there's a pasta based one), mixed vegetables (there are non nightshade dishes), it's so good if done right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:56 AM
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Yes am only a sweet young bebe, a tender age of eighteen, I have no life experience, my papa says am the most beautiful lady in the land, I am waiting for my prince. 1999
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:18 AM
3

Ugh that sucks. I can't even eat take out because you're supposed to wash all salads to avoid listeria and so many other things to avoid..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:16 AM
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Hahah what is he, a potato addict?? There are so many dishes that don't even typically contain potato! Pasta Pizza Many curries from all different cuisines Sushi/Japanese dishes Chinese food A lot of Thai dishes (and easy to omit potato from a massaman curry if it's in it) Mexican dishes Modern/bistro style meals Salads Seafood/vegetarian/vegan/chicken/beef/ANYTHING Gluten free is way more limiting than that, and you can still eat plenty of variety with that. Eliminating the tomato would be hard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:11 AM
3

They're saying I don't need to have sex so are you saying false "offers"? Sex isn't an offer for commitment, sex happens within the realm of commitment. You wouldn't say someone is exchanging commitment for moving in or getting married or having kids, they're things that go together
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:38 AM
13

How dare she have standards! Why does it hurt people so much? She doesn't want to date any of these offended men and women. She's not gonna have trouble finding a date lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:36 AM
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Deeeeeep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:31 AM
3

Divorced once
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:30 AM
33

Dude my husband is 45 and can go for at least 10 minutes after he finishes. If we haven't done it in a while then probably 20+. He's just kept going until it literally fell out a few times and just switches immediately to something else, so there's no excuse lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:28 AM
8

Mine only had 3 I think. More showed up but only years later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:24 AM
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Yeah, sex was harmful and unpleasant for me until I was 29. And I first had sex at 14. And that sucked. He called me loose and dumped me. At 14. Uhhhh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:19 AM
2

Read my original comment again lol. I said things arent childish in and of themselves but if NO JOB OR INDEPENDENCE, CHILDISH LIFESTYLE. And yes some hobbies are naturally more childlike than others. Childlike hobby isn't equivalent to not working and living like a kid which I already discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:13 AM
7

Sexually assaulted (genital area touched under clothing) by some guy at 10, I resisted and was pulling my pants back up. Told my mum. Hit on endlessly by 25-40+ men at age 12-16 30 year old man touched my boobs and said I'd be gorgeous when I turn 18, knowing I was 15. Stalked me and turned up to my house to do/say that. 16 year old guy used me for sex at 14, we were together a year and agreed to have sex then he dumped a couple of days later even though he said he loved me that day? Also tried …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:08 AM
10

Cut out the love trust affection stuff and just leave it as nothing. Cause that's what she's gonna get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:03 AM
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Yep. I've stopped sex a couple of times with my husband because I was just feeling super weird or thinking about something. He totally understood, and I'd certainly stop it a lot more if the sex itself was crap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:01 AM
2

...because they didn't have jobs. One I lived with NEVER had a single job. So yeah, incredibly childish lifestyles living off other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:57 AM
2

I'll go ask men on tinder if they will give me validation and resources but I'll never have sex brb
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:53 AM
3

I don't have wrinkles yet at 34 but the area between my eyebrows is just a bit more like... shadowed? But there's no wrinkle yet but the skin is like more shadowed from frowning like seeing muscle tension under the skin. I have a couple of super fine lines on my forehead but I had them at 25. The only real difference I see is the frown muscle a bit more prominent (was there early 20s though) and my skin just isn't as shiny, it needs more glowy foundation but I have a bit of acne so don't like to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:44 AM
5

Women often feel used by casual sex not fulfilled by it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:42 AM
4

Um he knows she has an issue with it, then complains she's ALWAYS sick? But says she's fine since he's been sneaking it in?? Disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:38 AM
1

Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:35 AM
1

Some of them played a lot of video games but not all. Crafts, collecting toys, trading toys, fantasy type stuff, anime, cartoons, playing music which isn't childlike in itself but when you do it all day and won't get a job or do anything around the house then its a very teenage lifestyle I've lived long term with 2 people like this and also know a few friends husbands/brothers/sons to do this plus 1 relative
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:24 AM
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B. So long as I'm really attracted to him and in love. Obviously I won't view him as "average" looking. If I personally felt a man was meh then I wouldn't be with him. A has nothing to offer
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:09 AM
1

I find him ummm.. not attractive in the face
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:08 AM
1

30k is notttt an average income here. 80k is median. That'd be way below minimum wage here like ridiculously illegal unless he's just working 15 hrs a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:04 AM
1

Cause you feel something is missing and lose desire. Some people just don't go well together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:01 AM
1

Yeah but if you've only experienced 1 person, you won't know any different other than comparing to porn
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:01 AM
2

Men say that but then stereotype is feeling like they missed out and wanting hall pass at 40
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:00 AM
2

Lies I bet you live in surrey hills!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:57 AM
2

lol saying working class man over and over got this stuck in my head https://youtu.be/erSJGrpfnOI Americans may enjoy Australia's version of Born In The USA Come onnnn, working class men and women have their own appeal you yuppie
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:41 AM
2

I've had a lot of experience with these men and some didn't play video games or do drugs at all, but they all had childlike hobbies of some kind. Basically the reasons were lacking discipline growing up, not being urged or forced to do anything, zero consequences for anything and providing a cushy environment where they have all their needs met and so there's no reason to leave. Parents being too controlling or bossy are what make younger people wanna move out. Also there aren't enough luxuries …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:35 AM
6

Ugh I'm so sorry, that's so traumatic. Yeah these women seem to think pregnancy and birth are these simple predictable things. It still kills people. Men and women are different. Expecting us to be pregnant or physically wounded and contribute 50/50 is NOT 50/50! It's saying a woman's 100% is equal to a man's 50%. Screw that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:17 AM
1

The bible permits divorce for infidelity which would be things like affairs or beating up your spouse. I divorced my ex because he was regularly hitting me, didn't do anything around the house, no job for 5 years and called me names every day. So yes, love is conditional on the other person keeping you safe. If a person treats me that way then they are an unbeliever. If it's your preference to never divorce, even if your spouse was literally gone and living with someone else, or trying to kill y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:05 AM
1

Quick sex that these guys want means there hasn't been time to develop a relationship. They want a woman who only has sex in a relationship to suddenly abandon her values and have sex within a week but only with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:01 AM
2

I can't relate to it, as a woman. Not personally and not with what I've seen in my friends. We're attracted to men who have good personalities - considerate, caring, safe, reliable, mature, honest, romantic etc. I like muscular masculine looking men. I've always liked large strong looking men but I don't associate that whatsoever with being volatile, dangerous, unpredictable, risk taking etc. Those personality traits are a huge turn off for me because it seems like teenage behaviour and I'm attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:42 AM
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Yes, it's pickme behaviour because she wants a long term relationship but is settling for casual sex as all she can get. If she 100% only wanted sex, was anti relationship and was just going off the rails, then that'd be something different. It's probably a mix of pickme behaviour and just rebounding from what was probably a restrictive, broken, depressing and passion-less marriage. Wanting a relationship but just sleeping with whoever is the pickme part. Piercings and condoms aren't a safe comb…
/r/askFDS13/06/21 02:39 AM
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I just don't buy anything, not often. If I do then I focus on objective functional features and research beforehand etc. I'm sure some advertising affects trying new groceries sometimes but I am a creature of habit and safety
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:54 PM
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I'd prob be a loveDNA denier and view as a conspiracy and live in the mountains with other rejects who continue their abominable nonDNA directed relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:52 PM
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No science has anything to do with destiny ir soulmates though. It'd just have to be reproductive/psychological/personality compatibility like a really advanced personality test combined with biology
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:40 PM
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If it's legitimate science then no. I'm trained in analysing scientific literature and studied health science so there are certain things that uneducated people may tout that I often disagree with, or that medical professionals might state that I occasionally disagree with. But that's based on actually reviewing literature and practising science, when others are failing to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:32 PM
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Well I think even soulmates have to have conditional love in a romantic relationship. It'd be broken if my husband cheated or hit me etc. FDS is about being a high value woman but the other FDS subs focus more on that th as n the main dating one. Dating strategy sub is all about vetting and recognising danger as the first priority. Marriage is quite separate to the initial dating approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:29 PM
1

I trust my own instincts and belief in God over DNA compatibility so dont think I'd believe in it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:26 PM
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Oh we gals can be pregnant and work and do everything! Excuse me while my pregnant hyperemesis ass gags for the 50th time today, sorry I can't see through my eyes watering I'm flat out way too sick to work. It'd be a serious danger to my job and myself. My husband is now the sole income earner while I'm pregnant and he's seriously been doing 80%-90% of the housework. I don't expect him to do that much or ask him to but he just does it. He can see how unbelievably sick I am. My gagging and barfin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:09 PM
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I'd just view it as a joke. It'd still be algorithm. Soulmate isn't about dna, they'd be making some calculations based on procreation compatibility or something else based on dna samples included which would also be limited. I assume it'd be like a 99.9% chance the result wouldn't be my husband lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:04 PM
1

As someone with chronic illness and pregnant, I don't have any reserves to offer to the community at this point. I did my best in my career and had a good work ethic, treated people well. I focus mainly on my marriage and family at this stage. Adopt animals, take care of the home, basic things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:57 PM
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I'm only interested in a man who wants to wait himself. So we both wait. It's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:53 PM
1

It'd just change my life a bit if I didn't use Facebook (family/friends) and I'd miss YouTube videos. Everything else.. no change.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:50 PM
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Well I don't believe any kind of algorithm would be valid, so if they paid us well to be on the show, yeah I might consider doing it. I wouldn't date the person, I'm married lol. I'd probably only consider it if the person who I get matched with isn't seriously looking for a partner and gonna be disappointed. I'm sure there'd be numerous moral issues that'd make me decline tbh. I'm Christian and believe in something along the lines of soulmate (destined), and I already found them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:45 PM
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You still have plenty of time. Her standards may have been very fair but she just might not be attracted to you romantically. You coupd tick all the boxes on paper but we just have chemistry with certain people that's based on biology, life stage, environment at the time and so many unpredictable factors that contribute to falling in love. It's more difficult if you don't want casual dating because a lot of people want that these days. But staying off dating apps can spare you some confusion eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:42 PM
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There are risks in everything and marriage doesn't guarantee anything. People shoyld do what comes naturally to them. For me, that's waiting until we're in a relationship. Just like I'd wait until I was in a relationship for a certain amount of time to move in together and any other form of commitment. Some people just have no interest in intimacy or acts of commitment with practical strangers. I don't want to share a drink with a stranger. I don't want to kiss a stranger. I certainly don't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:36 PM
1

Yeah it works on some people
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:32 PM
1

You're not really rising above everything yourself, either. FDS does not advocate posting any images of yourself or your home/car etc. Being doxxed, stalked or harmed is likely considering it's a safe space for women and the type of content that's going to anger men. Not safe. I'm always stunned when people do it, and others ask them not to. I'm FDS and have a great husband, we have a house that needs a lot of work, it's old so it'd always look old. It's worth 600k but that's average here. Small…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:23 PM
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End goal - soulmate and marriage Strategy - only date men I already know well, friends first, willing to wait long periods for a genuine connection, no dating apps, no casual dating (we go on the date with the knowledge that we're pursuing a relationship), no sex before commitment, lots of vetting and strict standards Married twice, 34, woman. Been with husband for 6 years. I've never had sex with anyone unless I knew them years prior. I only did friends first relationships and have had 3 relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:06 PM
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I assume it goes into their bank account so that would be difficult to keep precise account of. Someone would have to agree to use a dedicated card that the money is loaded onto. Could be restrictive and problematic if you can only use it in stores or not pay bills online with it. It'd have to work everywhere like a credit card. It could also cause major privacy issues such as being able to track the person's movements, and constant criticism over legitimate costs, like "why are you paying the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:58 PM
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Yeah it certainly can be. If they're legitimate
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:20 PM
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I can see them now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:56 PM
1

Ohhh is that what it means? Went over my head. I can only see the first pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:36 AM
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Yeah, there's no lack of insecure people
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:30 AM
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Some people are off the rails, but the difference even with extremists is that they're up front, whereas redpill is about stealth manipulation. Incels don't want any involvement so most of FDS isn't similar to them, but there will be a few in there who do fit that description.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:28 AM
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I think it was way harder for men, but people's porn consumption meant that it was considered sexy and cool for a woman to be bi and some said it for attention. The thing is that, yeah it can be anti LGBTQI or even homophobic to assume ALL or most people are just bi or whatever else for attention. But that doesn't change the fact that there are so many freaking social media attention addicts, especially really young people and some of them are absolutely full of it. A bunch if them have only fan…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:13 AM
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I think people's perception of a woman's arousal, and "average" guy are kinda skewed. I mean average guys don't typically try to be dark triad to score. If a woman's arousal and desire isn't based purely on looks and needs a connection/commitment as well, that's not a trade, it's a requirement like you must be male. A woman having sex with a man easily or quickly is more about her personality type, more than the man being irresistible to her. Someone like me wouldn't have sex with the hottest sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:11 AM
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I'm sure it's a fair chunk especially if their target is 18 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:33 AM
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Dark triad doesn't work on anyone other than insecure needy people. That literally makes someone a shit person and indicates personality disorders. Anyone who can't comprehend why "become an asshole, improve my looks so I can score with insecure women" is problematic can't be saved. And is certainly worthless for a relationship. There's zero spirituality in it, it's just worthlessness and living like an animal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:28 AM
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It's only a small part. Manipulation, lying, dread, and the rules of tomassi are foundations and its all just about getting weak minded women to have sex, and gaining some kind of sense of power from that when the women just want a father figure and arent even horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:23 AM
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I'm totally fine with having separate bank accounts. My husband and I don't feel the need to open a joint one abd have more fees. But this woman goes on to list major red flags like them having incompatible views on finances, her starting out much wealthier than him etc! They are really problematic reasons! Separate bank accounts work for us because my husband is paying the whole mortgage. And bills. I just pay groceries (we eat super well and I go a bit over the top lol) and my phone etc. So, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:26 AM
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She's averse to receiving gifts even when she's giving many to someone. That's not healthy. She's trying to create a scenario where boyfriend is encouraged to work/provide as little as possible. She must want to feel needed or something. Probably doesn't believe she can be needed based on who she is, but only what she can provide. It's pretty creepy if you look at it that way. Shes trying to ensure he needs her. Kinda reminds me of misery. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:07 AM
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So they both work and she's doing all the cooking and housework as well, while he cheats with other women. And she's asking if she should work it out. I was in a super abusive ex marriage like that and I used to post about it on a forum. I'd say he was horrible and I wanted a divorce but discuss the issues preventing that (moving, life disruption at a very difficult time, feeling depressed and numb and lacking motivation to uproot my life, struggles in legally kicking him out etc). I can't even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:51 AM
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Yeah. Your post implied you think it works (and is beneficial), but will fail to work in the future. The main point being it implies you believe redpill is effective in getting what men want, which I said is an illusionnn
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:47 AM
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For me, that would just be a spark or having some interest in them, not a deeper emotional connection. Emotional connection for me means that I know the man well enough to fall for him and we're feeling like we see a future together, we're exclusive and in a relationship. I won't feel tempted to have sex otherwise. I mean I can feel flirtatious and feel some sexual feelings when I'm close to him etc, but it won't go into that "I NEED YOU NOW" state until I've fallen for him and feel safe in a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:42 AM
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Yeah the thing is that red pill advice doesn't work if its the norm. You discuss it working in any capacity, or failing to work, as if redpill "working" is beneficial. I pointed out why redpill isn't beneficial for most men due to the reasons I listed. They are not getting what they fantasize they're getting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:33 AM
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Thank goodness. I've always been so concerned about not having enough one night stands. They seem really hard to come by! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:30 AM
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Yeah, "I'm not too fussy about who I sleep with, kinda open to anything depending" is all that means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:29 AM
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Downvote me hurry
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:27 AM
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This whole post is all about redpill. Theres no rule saying must only discuss softer aspects of redpill and ignore foundations and issues
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:26 AM
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I'm having first (only?) child at 34. I never liked the idea of kids. I just wanted marriage. I was in an abusive marriage during my 20s so there was no option in my mind even if I wanted them. I would never have risked having children with that person. I was not fertile through my 20s, I struggled with PCOS and got my period every few months. I was the same weight as now, less actually, but my hormones just weren't interested in my 20s. I developed what became a chronic illness in my late 20s, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:10 AM
1

Voldemort?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:51 AM
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I only became fertile after 30 and so I got pregnant. Wasn't even expecting it. I had months between periods in my 20s, my hormones only started working properly in my 30s, so. I never felt ok with the idea of having kids for many valid reasons. I didn't change my mind. But once it happened, well I just had an instinct to protect my baby and didn't consider other options. I didn't become all loveydovey towards kids or start feeling like this will be wonderful. I still feel like it's mainly hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:43 AM
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Not to mention side effects. Women aren't going to stay on the pill causing severe mental health issues and no libido, for sex lol. Plus it's contraindicated in other health issues. Plus there's the doctors appointments, and they typically do not give a years supply. Supply is typically 1-3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:40 AM
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Yeah I know cause it's myyy point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:35 AM
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Yeah, screw dating apps, I could never go there. I've had friends use the apps and it was just a conveyer belt of guys wanting easy sex. I wouldn't even feel comfortable with dating a man who had a strong history of using dating apps. You know what apps did? Say there's a sleazy pickup joint in the 90s. A real shithole where people go when they want to pick up. Hardly any women would dream of giving these guys their number, or going out with them. They know what the guys are there for, so the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:29 AM
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Ew!! Who wants to be as close as possible in a pandemic anyway? I've put the window down in the back because I don't want to breathe their carbon dioxide and because I get motion sick esp in the back. I hardly ever use it but was on the way home from hospital. The guy kept asking me to put the window up as it's cold. I kept saying no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:20 AM
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Ugh. They should have something you can click when you're booking the ride, that says "Not wanting conversation" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:17 AM
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I'm so madd But Im not sure what post I'm on at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:15 AM
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He's gonna end up with substance abuse issues if he doesn't have them already. Needing your mind blown by a relationship indefinitely means a person is numb as hell and needs constant external stimulation to remain focused or feel okay. It's a symptom of sone mental health conditions and developmental disorders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:00 AM
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Men always have a story about "a friend's cousin" or "a guy from the same college" or "a guy in my state" who was falsely accused. Whereas for women, our true stories are "I was raped" or "3 of my closest friends were raped" or "my sister was raped, my mother was raped". That's another huge difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:55 AM
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I said this to a guy who was angry about pornhub deleting all non verified videos, he was struggling to understand why it was necessary. I listed reasons and he said something like, yeah but it's ALL unverified videos, how are people meant to upload GOOD porn?? Everything I like is gone". And it's like.... um you can't.. see the irony and the issue in what you're saying? Ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:52 AM
2

I know you are but what am I
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:41 AM
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Yep. I'm not looking to adopt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:39 AM
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🤦🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:36 AM
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We're all talking about redpill advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:35 AM
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I'm very familiar with redpill and the iron rules of tomassi. And yeah, it does. And you're literally calling people simps
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:34 AM
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I think it's great you're working on yourself. But personally I feel wary of these posts, particularly if they try to excessively kiss ass or use words like scrotes. What men need to remember is that FDS is a safe space, for women. So language used when people are disgusted or frustrated, amongst the safety and non judgement of other women, doesn't need to be adopted by men and it actually sets off a red flag for me in a way. So look, you don't need to bow down to people and say what a piece of …
/r/askFDS12/06/21 02:23 AM
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Quick, we have to be quiet. You can't say the Non B word. It's worse than racism. If someone wants to be dreamgender or Xir Your Highness, it's ALWAYS VALID because that topic is OFF LIMITS because you CANT ASSUME GENDER. So you know, if I now say you have to call me alternating she/he/them every 1st/2nd/3rd time you address me, nobody can judge that because NOBODY FAKES BEING NONBINARY EVER and it's NEVER used as power tripping or control or for attention!!!! It's just so annoying because there…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:01 AM
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Redpill only targets insecure women with low self esteem though. That's the whole concept of unavailability and dread etc. It's designed to target low self esteem, people who experienced neglect as children etc. It's a huge turn off and wont create sexual desire or push pull in women with decent self esteem. In fact it doesn't often create sexual desire in the insecure girls. See women don't need to be very aroused, or aroused at all to have sex. And a lot of insecure girls will have sex as a me…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:51 AM
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Nah bisexuality and identifying as nonbinary has become a fashion trend with the kids. I'm not trying to invalidate those 2 things or say teenagers can't genuinely be bi or nonbinary. But.. come on. It's teenagers. They use anything for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:49 AM
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Kids are using the word simp a lot, it's scary. It's teaching boys from a young age some highly concerning things, such as: Sex is a right and if you're not having it, even at 15, it's girls' fault and they are disrespecting you Boys/men are victims to women as a whole, they have wronged us before we even got involved with any Porn is normal sex, including slapping, spitting, choking, pain, dehumanising and no depiction of female orgasm or how to more realistically achieve it, so if a girl/woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:40 AM
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Well considering the reddit men were calling us roasties and saying we hit the wall at 30 and are nothing if we're overweight, I don't think they feel much obligation to rise above and protect mens feelings. Some of the women have never even dated a decent man so all they know is men being shallow and nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:28 AM
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My car is tinted as well but it's darkest legal so you can see through enough in the daylight but not at night. My husband has made himself known in my car by.. communicating.. with people through the windscreen lol. They still just assume it's a woman driving until proven otherwise. People just like to try and dominate smaller cars on the road, I've even had women in SUVs do it, but way more men. I don't know if it's being less threatened by the concept of a woman, or being so dumb that they th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:25 AM
1

Well not paying for a date isn't really comparable to not supporting freedom or employment. I mean one is a more minor courtship thing and the other 2 things are essential for life, especially because FDS aren't sugarbabies and don't advocate being financially dependent on a man at all. If they said I want to be 100% financially supported, but I want freedom and support in my career in a marriage and to do no housework.. obviously that won't work for most people. It's possible the man earns so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:15 AM
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My ex did that and he also kept his voice really monotone because of it. He hated my 2nd husband due to jealousy and teased his voice. My 2nd husband has a pretty deep voice, as deep as my ex, he just has more vocal range. Has more emotion in his voice, and can sing. Men who think other men have to laugh in monotone... so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:06 PM
2

I think bluepill is anti misogyny. I can relate to pink for sure but also identify as blue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:01 PM
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Ugh that's awful. Not too long ago a guy kept cutting me off as I was merging onto the freeway. I was going the speed limit and a little ahead of him so he should give way, not that he even had to because I was in front and merging into a space. But he sped up above the limit for no reason, blocking me. I then put on my brakes to go behind him and he put on his brakes to continue blocking me. So freaking weird. I then sped up and quickly merged in front of him, not with as safe space as I'd like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:46 PM
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Oh yeah I have no idea why he'd want a nude off a real woman he's talking to, it wouldn't be for a sense of power or control or viewing you as an object or anything It's gotta be like a satire pickme thing surely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:30 PM
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Yeah I wouldn't. I wont use "scrotes", too much like "roasties". I get it but I wont be a part of it just for my own development
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:21 PM
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I personally wouldn't date a stranger because I expect a certain level of things that a stranger couldn't provide. So, I dated men I already knew so we had history, I was quite aware of their intentions and that they were the type to want to pay. Because we each knew we were not dating other people and were dating in hopes of a relationship. Benefits of vetting people as friends and not using apps. They were aware I wouldn't have sex before being in a committed relationship, before we decided to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:13 PM
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Depends if you were abused or raped etc by said women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:10 PM
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Yeah but age and body type blahblah mocked on here too. Oh and labia colours and sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:09 PM
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I don't think he has to? I don't date strangers, never have
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:08 PM
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Yeah that's stupid. Being HVM isn't dependent on height etc. That's a preference
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:08 PM
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No I'm commenting on how you said a man shouldn't spend money on a wonan if they havent had sex. Makes it seem like you believe in paying for it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:07 PM
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Yeah reddit isn't a normal sample. It's a lot of frustrated young white guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:06 PM
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That's weird like sex is a transaction and to be bought. My husband paid for dates and did things to romance me way before we had sex. No regrets for us
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:04 PM
2

Dunno irrelevant to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:03 PM
1

It's really important to remember that dating strategy is NOT MARRIAGE ADVICE. Courtship is a separate beast to marriage. Marriage is a team of 2 people who run their lives as they see fit. I wrote this essay as I'm pregnant and off work, I can't sleep and need distraction from unrelenting nausea etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:03 PM
1

"All a woman needs to do while on a date is dress well, look good, be sociable, and act feminine"... in order to get laid. Which is not what FDS women are looking for. That is absolutely not "all you need" to be in a relationship and marry a high value man. Have you forgotten FDS is actually mainly about marriage and not "scoring"? I've been on FDS for ages and I'm married. Yes, the datingstrategy sub IS a support group 100% because women can't find that kind of support anywhere else. Yes it's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:59 PM
2

That's perfect use failure rate. Imperfect use is way higher. It's up to 3% with perfect use depending on method.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:49 PM
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I'm discussing my personal values and the values of other people who don't want to have sex outside of a relationship. How is it narrow minded to discuss these values and to tell people not to pressure people into sex? I'm not telling other people to stop having sex. It's narrow minded to imply everyone should have casual sex or should compromise their values and needs because other people want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:48 PM
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You show a complete lack of understanding of everything I said. Nobody owes anybody sex. Casual sex has not been the norm for 75 years and even if it was, it's irrelevant because there are still loads of people who don't want it. Other people's opinions are absolutely irrelevant if someone doesn't want casual sex. People have human rights and autonomy. Do not suggest they should follow the masses if they don't want to. What any other adults do is none of my business. What I do is none of their b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:41 PM
1

Imagine the numbers of 1-3% of all women using hormonal contraception. It's a lot of people that are affected by the failure rate. Or have you always made sure to use 3 methods at once?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 03:39 PM
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Yeah, I've just sat there uncomfortably when I was younger. Now I'd just get up and move. I have zero tolerance for people in my space anyway, legitimately could not handle a train these days. I cross the street whenever someone is coming towards me, I don't care if it looks weird. It's all risk and zero benefit to be near randoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:31 PM
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She's just not like the other girls. She's woke and liberal and what men want, and she doesn't want to lose her bf. So naturally, you'll always be in the wrong for raining on the pickme parade. I avoid discussing my dating beliefs in general, I'm married so there aren't many times that I feel an urge to bring it up. But if your friend is tolerating poor treatment (and complains about it in subtle ways even if they have that internalised misogyny), I'm going to gently share my opinions. If that's…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 03:21 PM
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It's kinda like saying you're withholding your home if you don't want to move in with someone until you've been together a certain amount of time. It's not withholding anything, because nobody owes people sex or other commitments. It's not a service that's owed. It's a person's human rights. People have it in their mind that waiting any amount of time for sex, means the person who doesn't want to yet, is denying their urges and making themselves miserable in order to play a game. That's not how …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:55 PM
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Yeah I would because I vet guys for literally years until I get involved or sleep with them. There hasn't been one time where it took less than multiple years, not 1 single time, so your porny fantasies are inaccurate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:21 PM
1

Dont know, haven't seen it. I was in an abusive marriage and wasnt attracted to him or his behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:27 AM
1

Nah, Christian trad marriages are rife with abuse, being Christian doesn't stop people from being messed up From a Christian
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:50 AM
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I could never use OLD either. It's harder for really young people though, because it's so normalized, plus COVID. But people are meeting up for dates now so COVID isn't affecting it as much as before. But for me, I wouldn't use something that's designed to create easier access to casual sex. Just like I wouldn't go hang out at a club that's known for being a pickup joint and give men my number. I wouldn't want to date a man who was using dating apps either. If I was single, maybe I'd be more ope…
/r/askFDS10/06/21 02:24 AM
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Because I rely on a connection to feel actually attracted to someone, dating apps would do nothing for me. Sure, I could tell if a man is completely not my type, or if he has characteristics I could be attracted to, but I'm not going to desire men just based on their looks and a description. It doesn't come naturally to me. I'm more likely to match with barely anyone, not because I'm better quality than the men but because I'd just lack the interest and desire. People have this weird idea that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:11 AM
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I've never asked because I'm average (and body needs major work lol), but my husband says "you're the most beautiful wonan in the world". I'm like uhhhh that's ridiculous but than you haha. He says "you are, to me". I feel the same way towards him. Like you know there are models who the world would find better looking, but to each other you're genuinely the best. It's pretty easy for "demisexual" (don't like the word) people to feel this way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:48 PM
4

Hvm dont do that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:22 PM
2

Yeah. Rings. There are many types of rings. You don't have to be engaged or married to buy or wear rings
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:22 PM
1

Plenty do since half of marriages end in divorce. You can be trad or whatever but wont stop abuse/cheating etc. 2nd marriage is common
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:21 PM
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I don't think this young woman exactly represents most women.. I mean I dunno if she's just chatting about her ideals or if she means a guy must have those traits for her to date him. He's clearly picking people who are kinda clueless
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:43 AM
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It's not about making him do anything, it's not something people entertain when not in a relationship. It's not about empowering yourself, it's just off limits and not cool for that person! Casual sex is having sex outside of relationships so sleeping with people you aren't with, whether youd want to be or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:12 AM
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A woman buying a nice ring does not equal an engagement ring. Women can wear rings without being engaged. They don't call it an engagement ring or pretend they are engaged
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:33 AM
2

Oh.. I just kinda call an asshole an asshole. Scrote was in response to reddit men saying roastie
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:31 AM
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Yep people learn from mistakes and relationships dont always end due to a man being an asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:30 AM
2

If she is attracted to him and wants to be in a relationship with him then rejecting his advances untill she gets a full exclusive commitment would be about control. That's as extreme as saying it's about control if a person only wants a monogamous relationship. It's basic requirements of a relationship. She wants a relationship. If they're not yet in a relationship then she isn't interested in doing relationship specific things with the guy. Just like people wouldn't want to move in together or…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:27 AM
0

Uh... no..?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:06 AM
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Waiting to have sex isn't about control. It's dictated by the same type of feelings people would have about moving in too quickly or other risky things. Someone can enjoy sex and have a healthy sex drive and still not want to have sex with people they barely know and who aren't even exclusive. STIs that condoms don't prevent give us cancer, sex is always a risk. It's not "making him wait", that implies sex is owed to him and you are delaying a service that's in arrears. That is toxic. People are…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:01 AM
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My comment had nothing to do with me, yours was all personal
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:40 AM
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Being virtuous doesn't mean letting every random person use you. I'm not sure why people think being virtuous or nice means having no assertiveness or self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:16 AM
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They're directing it at men who go on about being nice and not getting sex. They clearly said that. If that's not you then why act like it? Not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:15 AM
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True. Genuinely virtuous men are what they are. "Nice guys" are pretending to be something in order to get sex. Also, being an actual nice person, or virtuous, DOES NOT mean a person will have low self esteem, be extremely passive and excessively agreeable. Why do people act like a nice, virtuous, moral person would be a pushover? If someone is a really well rounded and developed person, they will be skilled in appropriate assertiveness. Being polite, kind, considerate and genuine in your day to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:14 AM
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Yeah this isn't even physiologically normal at all 😂 check his thyroid.. he should be obese by now even if he gyms an hour a day, if he's eating like 3 adult meals plus extra adult meal plus 2 kids serves plus loads of snacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:01 AM
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Yeah my orgasms are crap while pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:59 AM
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With men, most of the time, they can still have a good orgasm if stimulation stops completely, so long as they already started. But for us, any slight change like suddenly reducing stimulation or increasing it can make us basically have a missed orgasm, no climax other than just jerking afterwards. A truly ruined orgasm. And dull/blunted orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:53 AM
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Reddit guys are convinced FDS advocates being broke and having traits of being low value but still demanding high value men. This happens because they have such toxic ideas about women as a whole that we are all assumed to be broke, struggling and low value in various ways. They also have zero comprehension that the dating strategy and level up strategy are separate. We say we bring things to the table, or some say they are the table.. because they are. We're talking about educated women with go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:13 AM
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Not being a "virgin" doesn't mean someone's promiscuous or has ever had casual sex though. A virgin could also desire to be promiscuous but hasn't had the opportunity yet due to age/culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:57 AM
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I've never experienced a man who would prefer I was a virgin, never. I'm low count and that's the ideal for them, just like it's my ideal for a man to be. Most people in my age range want someone who has basic life experience. Zero relationships and zero sex would be too inexperienced and a red flag in my age range. Mainly only other young virgins want young virgins, and religious cultures
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:47 AM
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I think a huge difference is redpill advocates dishonest gameplay and fds advocates being really up front
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:44 AM
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That's a really specific preference and not just caring about it. Not caring at all means she should be fine with him being unemployed. Median income here is 80k or something like that. I mean it is more ideal to have more income than that if the persons going to be a stay at home parent. But a preference or an ideal isn't a demand or expectation
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:41 AM
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Thats pretty sad if someone cant take basic care of themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:40 AM
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Why? The basic traits of a partner are essential to know and financial position is a very basic lifestyle factor. It sounds like you're saying the mans job or income should be kept hidden and she should not factor it in at all lol. So weird to see that as a character issue. Better cover your face up too, and not discuss anything
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:38 AM
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Well too obese or too thin/low body fat, both will have increased fertility issues. I'm fat and got pregmant first try in mid 30s. I don't know what would happen if I was thin because I lost 20 lbs due to the nausea. Would be way more dangerous if I was slim
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:36 AM
1

So your house is dirty? Most cleaners don't do the dishes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:33 AM
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Adult women do not typucally have hymens, it is designed to atrophy in puberty. Menstruation needs free flow. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:31 AM
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Partners really doesnt matter with this pair bonding stuff. Closest bond I've ever had is 2nd husband. I never had casual sex but I have an ex husband, together since I was really young til nearly 30. You'd assume spending all that time with 1 person only would be strongest "pair bond" probably moreso than banging random people. But not at all, the marriage was unhealthy after a couple of years and 100% bonded to my 2nd husband as my ultimate true soulmate, didn't feel this way before. More love…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:26 AM
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Both parties should be virgins if you wanna go full trad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:25 AM
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I dont think having a couple of partners beforehand is hoeing lol. Why do people act like its virgin or 30 sex partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:23 AM
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Everyone has to care. It's basic compatibility. Even if a woman wants modern, she needs to know he can pull his weight
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:17 AM
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How are they gonna be trad if she can't stay home?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:16 AM
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Niceness doesn't purchase sex or relationships, nor should anyone expect it to. Nice is also a separate quality to being slimey, having a victim complex and just trying to "simp" for sex. A genuinely nice person lights up the world around them and it just happens naturally. Nice people don't actively try to seem nice in order to receive sex. Expect to be friendzoned by the majority of people if you're not really stereotypucally good looking. It is not normal or typical to have a large portion of…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:34 AM
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Dude its just super insecure teenage girls getting lovebombed by an asshole, staying with him a while hoping he'll go back to that, then moving on. We learn by making mistakes, all people do. People are more cautious after being burned, more selective. I don't see how anyone could use people getting abused as evidence of poor behaviour... its not hypergamy if the first guy was below her. Young people are easily manipulated due to their immaturity. Obviously if a man was fucked over by a wonan in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:24 AM
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Only if you posted it on fds
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:20 AM
1

Eww
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:19 AM
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Puhlease, reddit is predominantly manosphere and shits said like that all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:19 AM
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I have never, at any age, dated men who seemed unsuitable for relationships or marriage. I don't do casual sex and don't want to date any "boys" or commitment phobes... gross
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:18 AM
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Yeah there's nice person, then theres fake-nice
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:15 AM
1

Yeah well libfem says him paying for dates=bad. They're also cool with coffee dates and netflix n chill more often
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:13 AM
2

If theyre promiscuous they're low value to me anyway so
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:12 AM
2

There's an issue online with certain groups hating fds for pointing out why normalised bdsm culture is risky for women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:10 AM
3

Never heard of moid? Chad is used by men mainly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:09 AM
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Seems she's a professional fighter and was discussing her boyfriend being in a professional fight also. Fighters are naturally going to have weird views about violence. Men and women. The entire video has one simple flaw that invalidates it - nice men don't have to be submissive to the world around them and don't have to have low self esteem. Nice men can make decisions, be capable, stand up for themselves. There's a difference between being a nice person, and a person who has extremely low self…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:20 AM
2

That'd probably be known as "attractive and nice"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:35 AM
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So good women wouldn't want those qualities? Lol A chad can't be a doormat in redpill they'd be called beta
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:13 AM
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The levelup strategy is kept separate from the dating strategy and there's 2 different subs so, it could appear that way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:39 PM
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She should have put it on youtube. Then they'd say IT WAS JUST a REaCTioN viDeo, FAIR USE NO BULLYING INTENDED even if the video was someone calling people fat ugly whales ffs. They get away with that shit but she can't use a few clips and put commentary with it? What exactly ARE you allowed to respond to if she was successfully sued? Nothing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:31 PM
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I don't think a woman would have a good reception in reality for saying I want 6, 6, 6 rule 😂 people would tear her to bits calling her ugly/fat/bich/what have you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:28 PM
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A handful of traits could never imply perfection. He could be all that and crap in the sack. Or have a super high pitch voice. Or an excessive relationship with his mother, or have a room mate or wear dirty undies for 3 days
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:27 PM
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People fall in love with an individual person so it's unpredictable. Healthy people wouldn't prefer or seek out a damaged person but they could still fall for someone who happens to be. I'm not sure what "there's a reason" means though. I mean if someone suffers trauma or chronic illness or whatever, I don't get the point in saying "theres a reason they had a better life before", like... I just dont get that as a statement. If a kid got sexually abused would anyone be like "Well you know, there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:22 PM
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I don't know, I've only ever dated for marriage and when people are very young, it's quite natural tjat their good traits could be overlooked because people are focusing on study, learning who they are, finding themselves etc and aren't yet focused on narriage or finding the best relationship of their life. TRP tactics only work on problematic women with low self esteem - dread, unavailability etc. I'm not sure what you followed but redpill now is mostly about achieving casual sex with dark tria…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:17 PM
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Yeah some of the extreme feminists have ideas that are so wrong to me. You can't deny the reality of STIs and pregnancy for women, we're the ones getting cervical cancer from HPV. But doesn't stop them trying to deny the reality. I mean it's not fair that many STIs have far worse health impact for women but it's just reality because of our anatomy. The way a lot of them advocate for extreme BDSM is really excessive as well. I don't get how they can know there's a serious issue with men choking w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:10 PM
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What do you mean by better? Like whoever gets in first before trauma and life stress is going to see her when she could be more carefree or something but the assholes dont care or value that and deliberately drag her down and hurt her, so the asshole that was in a relationship with her got to see her at her worst being depressed and miserable IN that relationship. It's not like women laugh their way out of relationships with abusers, it breaks down and they becone unhappy and totally over the gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:02 PM
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Haha yeah my husband doesn't meet that, he's just under 6 ft and high 5 figures lol. But like there are always going to be people who want more... um... particular things from a partner. A man certainly does not have to have a certain dick size or height or income to be high value lol. Depends on people's individual circumstances and preferences. I don't make 6 figures but it'd make sense for someone who does, to avoid dating men who earn a lot less, for example. Just because of how it could aff…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:55 PM
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I noticed my husband in a sea of fuckers because he was so nice. He saved an animal from the road, and I'm used to men beeping me if I even stop for 10 seconds to try. And then we realised we were going to be working together at my new job, and he did sweet things like buy me a sandwich and making sure it fit my dietary requirements. Being nice like that is a huge part of what made me fall for him. I remember our first date and seeing each other outside of work. I knew he was nice to me and othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:48 PM
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Yeah I think some good looking boys just get an ego, but often there is shit going on at home that made them act like such little cnts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:36 PM
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Mhm nothing like an asshole creep to help you level up and be the perfect father to our kids.. makes total sense. I think the stereotype comes from teen girls being heavily pursued by assholes, more than decent guys, and they end up with them and it fucks up their self esteem. I've NEVER heard anyone say oh I miss my asshole ex, or the ways in which he was an asshole were thrilling to me lol. It's always like okay that fucker is gone, I wasted my life hoping it'd get better, never again, now my …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:33 PM
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If a man tried to be the FDS ideal, they'd attract most kinds of women. I've never heard a woman say they don't like kind, mature, intelligent, loyal, good looking, fit, financially stable men who would like to pay for dates he invites you on and is looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:27 PM
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It doesn't stop when you're pregnant either, men who have never had to take certain risks are fine with telling me I should, and that it's no big deal. Yeah no big deal if you never have to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:21 PM
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I didn't. I said it's fine if 2 people just mutually want to be together and don't care about the sexual history differences. A person ONLY wanting virgins when they've been with loads of people or a virgin ONLY being willing to be with people over a certain number.. both equally weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:17 PM
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I just showed you 2 pieces that discuss the long term benefits and that they're not minimal. There are hundreds more you could read. It's common knowledge that's why hospitals push breastfeeding. I'm not going to respond anymore, I provided evidence and you're just like "no" because it doesn't suit your lifestyle choice. You don't want the truth and you are literally anti science. Done
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:45 PM
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They're highly peer reviewed journal articles by very respected journals.. lol lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:07 PM
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It's still nowhere near that point at 25 unless you want 8 kids
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:29 AM
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If they bring up anything sexual like that? Lol no. I have one male friend, yeah. It's rare but it is possible when there's zero attraction on both sides. That man is like brother/cousin level for me. We never try to impress each other, I think that's a fairly strong sign it's so platonic. We frequently talk about things (and body functions, esp cause both in healthcare) that you would NOT say to a love interest haha. Also we're both married, and if either of our spouses call, it's always like "…
/r/askFDS08/06/21 03:24 AM
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I kept mine but I'd probably get 200 for it at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:17 AM
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If you've got 10 more years of fertility then who would be in a rush except for certain religious folk or people with unusual circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 03:13 AM
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Its kinda like saying eating nutritious food is uneccessary and a choice You just made huge claims in this sentence, such as formula being equal to breastfeeding. It's one thing if someone wasn't able to, not their fault at all. But breastfeeding is superior and should never be termed as an unnecessary choice. "Health outcomes in developed countries differ substantially for mothers and infants who formula feed compared with those who breastfeed. For infants, not being breastfed is associated wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:51 AM
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Every person has used height as a rebuttal and every time I've had to say physical traits don't have to be identical to expect moral compatibility. Otherwise we would have to be with the same sex even if we're straight. Moral and personality compatibility is different to physical. Someone said well wouldn't it be invalid if a woman with no money will only be with a rich man? Yes it would be because if she's broke and makes awful financial decisions, she's a huge risk to the wealthy man and she's…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:46 AM
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Yeah but breastfeeding has known benefits and this guy is saying it's uneccessary and there's no valid reasons for a woman to feel like she needs to be the stay at home parent to breastfeed. Like this is nothing against people who needed to use formula due to not being able to effectively breastfeed or for their mental health or any reason. It's about a man saying breastfeeding is simply unnecessary and that's no reason why a woman should be the one to stay home and that the man will often be th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:37 AM
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Yeah I mean guys on here have said any wonan who's overweight is automatically BELOW average. They said healthy weight and pretty-ish face and being in their 20s is average lol. So you'd assume "average man" will have to measure up to that and be fit, handsome-ish face, young etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:34 AM
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Yeah I forgot each chad has 200 average overweight janes devoted to him
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:32 AM
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Like I said to the other person, you can't compare moral compatibility to being wholly identical, including physically. By that train of thought, we'd have to be with the same sex even if we're heterosexual. It's completely fine if a "virgin" wants to be with someone who's had many partners and if they want to be with the "virgin". It's a problem when the person who's slept around a lot proclaims they will ONLY be with a virgin. If that's a man, he's likely got some very misogynistic beliefs. Ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:28 AM
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Physical attributes aren't about moral compatibility, whereas approach to sex and sexual history is for some people. By your argument and comparisons, we may as well only be allowed to be with the same sex even if we're straight, if advocating compatibility is the equivalent of everything having to match identically. Typically, opposites attract physically, for a majority of heterosexual people. Men often like petite women, women often like tall men, there are preferences we have based on mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:12 AM
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I mean I don't have sex with someone until we're in a committed relationship and talking about the future so there's a lot of waiting. If I felt platonic then I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with them. I get the butterflies and think about them all the time, get excited to see them, feel horny etc. You can feel sexual and be sharing values etc at the same time. I'm not gonna feel sexually attracted to everyone I like as a person and think society would find good looking, it's a rare t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:00 AM
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Casual sex, plates/using, dread, unavailability, pulling back for no reason other than to manipulate or make her chase, hiding feelings or stuffing down feelings, toxic masculinity, their views of alpha and beta, views on hypergamy and that most women are all banging a small subset of chads, like the whole thing basically. A man who did even one of those things just isnt for me I only agree with self improvement and the man ensuring contraception/STI prevention method is in use. That's about all…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:32 PM
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It's a totally different game when you only associate with men you know and don't go to bars clubs etc. I wouldn't respond well to someone cold approaching me at a supermarket etc. It'd be like hey thank you but I have to go. If they were polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:27 PM
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You've made huge claims and not backed anything up. I never implied anything along the lines of a martyr. I said it's understandable why women are more commonly the stay at home parent because they often breastfeed. Breastfeeding is still considered very important and you're acting like it's been phased out and there is no issue with the baby not having that if baby and mother are able
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:25 PM
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Human babies, thats who. Because breastfeeding isnt like using a scoop and putting into a bottle. Cluster feeding and small feeds are common for babies who are not bottle fed. Breastfeeding can be like a continuous job at times. But you have no familiarity Saying breast feeding is uneccessary for children is just... I'm done No ones "forced" here, you could put your baby up for adoption or have a 24 hour nanny if you wanted. Doesn't mean it's always going to be the best choice. Everything is a C…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:18 PM
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You've never had to be a stay at home breast feeding parent. It's different to bottle feeding, you could be feeding every 10 min. I'm not even sure what youre basing anything off or what people youre directing that at. Like are you implying women who are SAHMs and breastfeeding should work as well? It's not really some natural logical choice to be a breadwinner instead of breastfeeding your baby if you can. Sounds mire like a necessity financially which isnt ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:10 PM
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I'm married. And yes it is traditional to do all the cooking and most cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:55 PM
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Hey everyone it's lazy to breastfeed.. totally unnecessary because this guys wife wasn't fussed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:50 PM
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You obviously have zero knowledge or experience with it. If I was so inexperienced, I can't even imagine trying to say formula has no issues associated and is the same as breastmilk. Better tell all the blood donation services to stop receiving breastmilk donations because this reddit guy on a divisive gender sub said formula is a great replacement for breast milk and it's a woman's uneccessary choice to breastfeed cause pumping and fornula are the same... lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:46 PM
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Because breast pumps don't have the sane functions as breast feeding, switching to bottle may mean baby cannot/will not breastfeed anymore, bottles may give baby gastrointestinal distress and cause them to scream all day and night, formula is not comparable to breast milk and studies show many adverse health effects. Some people may choose these things or have no other option because they can't breastfeed, but these decisions that affect baby dramatically should never be made to accommodate a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:42 PM
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Only want marriage, like to be stay at home parent, cooking, cleaning etc
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:39 PM
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Yeah amd women but plenty are still looking
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:38 PM
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Newsflash average peeps of all genders are gettin it on, falling in love, getting married and having kids with each other... everywhere, at any time... it could even happen, to you! Don't fall prey to this abominable trend that has been happening for thousands of years!! Hide now or risk the twitterpation. It can happen to anyone, nobody is safe! The middle class people with other middle class people... mediocre looking people with mediocre looking people... fat people with other fat people... p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:30 PM
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Yeah but there's no real companionship in that and no love. Many men want love and an actual partner, not just sex/a date/someone who barks if they say so
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:25 PM
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Probably. My husband kinda tried to lead me to believe he had 5 sex partners. But he was including me before we had sex haha. I said I'd prefer you had less than more, why would you try to imply one extra? He said he was bullied as a teenager for not banging women who threw themselves at him because he was hot. Friends would pressure him to do stuff at parties and ask him if he was gay etc. That's actually what resulted in 2 of his sex partners and he didn't even want to do it, and faked an orga…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:09 PM
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I wouldn't approach or pursue a man. I want a traditional relationship and I'm not attracted to men who are passive in matters of love
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:04 PM
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Why are you even here then, surely you must have other important hobbies as you have no interest in women or romance etc
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:59 PM
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Ummm the goal is usually to exclusively breastfeed for 6mo and combined breastfeeding up to a year or more..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:55 PM
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Yeah me either. I don't go to bars/clubs where people would be on the prowl. Just end up having a conversation like at work or wherever. My husband didn't have to approach me in that way but he pursued me in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:52 PM
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No, this is not coming in any Westernized countries. But sure, if a man is a "virgin" and he has moral reasons for wanting a partner who also is, that's a preference anyone is free to have. But if he's not a virgin then there is no valid reason to expect a partner to be. Also, a hymen? Seriously? They'd better stick to 9 year olds because hymens atrophy in response to puberty and are often not noticeable or present by the time women start having sex. It's a barrier for pre pubescent girls. A wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:46 PM
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Everyone has different preferences. Some people genuinely find people their age more sexually attractive. Sone 50 year old men view 18yo as chubby faced kids
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:39 PM
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Ewwww creepy. Lol TAKE THIS MFCKIN CINNAMON BALL, TAKE IT!!! don't think his employer had forceful cinnamon pressure in mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:12 PM
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Not everyone stays attracted to super young people, some ppl view younger people as kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:10 PM
1

MOST women are considered good looking enough? I'm over 30 and don't want a 30 year old let aline under!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:08 PM
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Lol so you think everyone who's into their older spouse is just blind or desperate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:07 PM
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Well for some people, they're completely separate, or optionally combined. For people like me, yes they're 2 different factors but they can't be separated. So it's not like looks are irrelevant, you'd have to be pansexual with zero preferences or something, even I wouldn't say looks don't matter. But personality will make a man look a lot better, and a stereotypically gorgeous man is nothing to me without personality/connection/everything
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:55 AM
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I know, I just couldn't even think of anything along those lines. Because the thing is, if a man hasn't basically lit my fire and I'm not super into almost everything about him then I'm not dating him anymore and I certainly never had sex with him. I only dated men I already knew, so I knew a majority of these things beforehand. I had to tell my husband once to not do his cutesy voice to me during foreplay or within any short period of time leading up to any intention to have sex with me, if tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:49 AM
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Yeah I mean my husband's personality could be a woman and I'd like her but I wouldn't be sexually into her. I'm straight so I still require a man to fit my idea of what's sexually attractive. Looks are a key, they open the possibility of sexual attraction developing but that door doesn't lead anywhere for me if there's no connection. So I could choose between 2 mens photos presented to me and say 1 is better looking than the other, but I won't feel attraction no matter how they look. Just like I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:37 AM
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He'd be called a beta by redpill but we don't have a mediocre/settling type of relationship. Like I said he's the only guy I've been truly into and I still get super turned on by him and most sex we have doesn't even involve any roleplaying 90% of the time because we're turned on without it. He courted and attracted me with the same stuff, by being kind and sweet and nurturing. He's also got some confidence like he certainly was the pursuer, but very respectfully. He was exclusive with me from t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:28 AM
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That would make sense if I then got with men who had mediocre personalities because their immense hotness was casting a spell on me lol. But my husband is 45, he's got a super wonky nose, he's got a dad bod now. Like yeah he's a very attractive man but he's not some young symmetrical hottie. He's the softest man I've ever met, in terms of his loving personality. I'm not gonna imagine that based on being attracted to him physically as well. He's the type to stop traffic to help ducks cross the ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 09:22 AM
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No I said I don't know many women who are into hot assholes, or who are into casual sex. But women will talk honestly and crudely among friends and wouldn't be ashamed to say they had sex with sone guy. I'm "demisexual" so none of your stuff can apply to me. A guy may as well be my brother if we have no connection. Looks only become relevant if I like who a man is as a person. For example, there are 2 equally hot men and one unattractive man. One hot man is a lovely person and we have a connecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 09:00 AM
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For me it would be that we have a history already, I appreciate who they are as a person, I relate to the way they discuss the world, life, emotions, relationships, spirituality etc, I feel like we're on the same wavelength, I really enjoy their sense of humour and genuinely laugh, I feel like we just get each other and there's no effort with the communication, it just flows and I'm always looking forward to seeing them, I enjoyed their company even before anything romantic/sexual was on the tab…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:49 AM
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Omgosh lol and his face is like "I don't understand???", but it's like that's how threatening your behaviour was dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:37 AM
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I don't think I would have great results approaching attractive men in supermarkets or at the post office. They'd think I was nuts and most would be in relationships. Also reddit guys forget that plenty of women aren't considered hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:35 AM
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Someone will still find them attractive at any age even if they're not like some golden ratio face
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:34 AM
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....I dont get what your deal is with this. My history is ultra traditional and I'd be termed as religious or boring. People aren't gonna view me as a better person for having mininal partners or liking men who are good people and sexually appealing lol. Most people like a good personality and looks. It's totally normal these days to have like 30 sex partners so I don't know why people would feel so ashamed that they hooked up with guys for their looks and have to lie about it. Women chat, and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:31 AM
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Well I'm with a man who's extremely nurturing and loving, romantic etc and people here (redpill) would say he's a simp. I'm extremely attracted to him and he's the only man who's ever seriously turned me on. He's just a great person and great in bed, the compatibility is really high. I can't think of anything in my sex life or history that could support this theory. I dunno why it'd be so shameful to be like well I like hot dudes even if they have shit personalities. Some people can disconnect l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:25 AM
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Some people cant separate emotional/intellectual connection from sexual, like it's not an option or a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:24 AM
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Now you're trying to tell me what I find a turn on or turn off as well? You could be some kind of town lothario with all this secret knowledge you have about wonen as individuals and a whole lol I find promiscuous men an extreme turn off. I find empty shallow good looking assholes to be repulsive. I've never felt turned on or romantically interested, or any attraction to anyone like that. If a guy is good looking and an asshole or a sl*t or an empty individual then his looks can only serve to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:19 AM
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I don't see how agreeing to go home and have sex with someone is proof they couldn't be raped. It's not a binding contract. If the person said they showed no interest and didn't want them to go home with them, then footage that showed otherwise would obviously mean they're not considered credible. But someone could agree to go home, be totally planning on having sex, then sober up or change their mind and be raped. Or agree to foreplay but not sex and get raped. Or dislike the way a person did s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:17 AM
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Often if a person was that intoxicated to black out, they'd be showing signs of passing out. Not always but often
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:12 AM
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Yeah or someone's not fully conscious or they were forced, threatened into it by a date/partner/anyone. Rape didn't have to involve other acts of violence as it is the act of violence
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:10 AM
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I know more women that have been raped that havent, unfortunately it's prevalent
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:08 AM
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Describing it as "coming out ahead" doesn't sit well..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:08 AM
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Uh huh I'm a freakish anomaly in a sea of yung hawt babez who want to bang all chadz. Sounds like porn hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:01 AM
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Cant relate
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:55 AM
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I've never known many women to be into casual sex, most were hoping for relationships out of having sex with a guy they had a date with. If it's a subset of young people who are super into no strings sex then the guys will have to be more appealing to people that just want to hump
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:50 AM
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Can't say I've ever known women who chased after hot pieces of crap and put up with cheating. Only known people to put up with other kinds of abuse but cheating tends to be a hard line for most people
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:40 AM
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Are there more men at college? Contrary to reddit beliefs, women aren't cool with sharing men. The amount of guys managing to cheat with 20 other women is low
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:18 AM
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Well they're young and focusing on studies. A lot of countries don't have campus culture or view college as a f*ckfest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:33 AM
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11-18 years old are not a woman's peak fertile years at all. Teenage women are at a higher risk of birth defects and other complications. Not to mention 11 and 12 are not teenage years. Most girls are not getting their period at 11 and even if they do it does not mean they are ovulating or could have a viable pregnancy. Also I find it disturbing that someone is this concerned with defending it when there probably a man. By your arguments, 16 year olds should be able to date anyone as well. It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 02:37 AM
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Really? B0tch sl0t wh0re karen bimbo dumbblonde crone princess golddigger cougar meangirl roastie catty daddysgirl daddyissues badmom becky stacey butterface butch diyke hag cocktease wench mole trophywife catlady hooker/prostitute townbike icequeen diva welfarequeen whale "hit the wall" "past her prime" "mutton dressed as lamb" floozy hoochy tart tramp youngermodel barren dried up babykiller feminazi bushpig beast ho plate broad frumpy hussy witch shrew bridezilla highmaintenance cow Saying mus…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 02:16 AM
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Marriiiied. I was with someone more than 10 years and now been with husband for 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 02:07 AM
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I wouldn't date a guy who was still on any dating apps, though I wouldn't date someone who used them at all. BUT if I was younger and viewed it as normal, I still wouldn't be interested if he still had the apps. Either he's into me and wants a relationship and leaves that behind, or he is undecided and I'm uninterested! I mean you're both single, he's known you for a year, he sounds half hearted at best.
/r/askFDS05/06/21 02:05 AM
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It could go either way. I wouldn't date a man with kids when I was dating. I didn't have any so I didn't want to be involved with someone else's, plus I just wanted someone who's free to see me whenever we have spare time, no hold ups on relationship progression etc. A HVM will be proud to be with you, but it will be balanced. I would find it weird if he couldn't stop talking about me to people and became really obsessed. I'd be wary of men who love bomb, who just never stop saying how wonderful…
/r/askFDS05/06/21 02:01 AM
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40 mins away is a big red flag. Most people don't travel that far to eat dinner if they both live near each other and it's not for an event or special occasion. It'd make me think he was hiding something, trying not to be seen. Some Thai places here are take away and some are proper restaurants. It's one thing if google confused 2 establishments or showed the wrong photos and it was a total accident, but he seems to have picked out TWO cheap take away joints.. and why start with one 40 mins away…
/r/askFDS05/06/21 01:49 AM
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Yeah that sends big big red flags to me. The "sex first" approach shows that he's in the habit of hitting on a lot of women. Sounds like he's using his platform to get into people pants and that boosts his self esteem and sense of power. If he was genuinely interested in you and not just a sleaze, he definitely wouldn't start up with the "fall into my lap" shit that soon. That should come after months of getting to know you (regularly, not a message once every 2 months), and when you're building…
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:32 AM
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I know how you feel, not wanting to uproot my life kept me in an abusive relationship. When you feel worn down by the abuse and by such a hard life, the last thing you feel ready for is moving, especially moving really far away. But if you stay, you'll be with this no value person for another 5-10+ years. All that time will be gone and you'll miss out on everything, including love. This NVM is sucking you dry and contributing zero. The amount that you're sacrificing for him, you won't even reali…
/r/askFDS04/06/21 01:21 AM
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Well i was with my ex since 16 years old so there was no option anyway unless I was disloyal even as a child
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:09 AM
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Hahaha I'm gonna have jowls by 50, a really taught jawline is a super youthful thing, its like one of the first things youll start losing to gravity plus depends on face structure. Ppl that dont have jowls tend to have deep deep smile lines instead cause of the musculature. Ppl with jowls have more smooth cheeks and chin without deep smile lines. Ive got a bit of double chin so the skins prob stretched so that ship has saaaailed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:03 PM
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I didnt meet anyone like that, I didn't go out clubbing etc. Just work and home plus was in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:01 PM
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Kinda unavoidable past a certain age
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:54 PM
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Hard to view them as victims when they are harassing women on OFs and sending threats
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:34 AM
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Some people's reasons would include: Beliefs/morals/values Not wanting to be a part of the sex industry or perpetuate that type of culture Already have a partner, don't want to disrespect the partner Shame and not being willing to be caught doing it Money not worth the effort/sacrifice/risk Not enough demand (most will not make significant money from nudes, feet pics etc, majority of women are not gorgeous and mens fantasy) Their employment or future aspirations could be affected Would never wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:31 AM
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Disgusting!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:23 AM
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I'm pragnont
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:22 AM
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Well yeah cause I'm fat and I do that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:58 AM
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Do you ever feel old or look at yourself in a reflection while banging ppl young enough to be your kids, or do you fantasize you're younger/hotter or do you just avoid thinking about it? Do ugly guys in porn help normalise it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:20 AM
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It'd be weird being an old guy and banging 20 year olds lol like... itd make him look so much older in comparison and like enhance the oldness. I feel like some of the guys must imagine theyre younger/hotter
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:10 AM
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Yeah men in their 30s and 40s hit on me ESPECIALLY if they KNEW I was 14. Though I think a 5-10 year age gap is less relevant when you're middle aged. However a 10 year age gap is HUGE at 20-25.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:07 AM
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.......
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:05 AM
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Prob cause older men marry younger women a lot more often than the opposite so it's relevant to choose that scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:04 AM
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Goodluck they're gonna need it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:59 AM
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That's a deep example lol. I thank God for my husband every day, he is a beautiful man, one in a billion. To generalise, a lot of men I know are better at physical tasks than me, and they're better at moving past things and saying it'll all work out, compared to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:13 AM
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I mean there are some similarities but how common is it to be begging an engaged person to marry you instead? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 05:53 AM
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I've certainly had bullshit sex in an abusive ex marriage (and that understandably turned into dead bedroom and then divorce), but sex with my (2nd) husband is definitely all on the right and healthy sex. It is possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:51 AM
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Yeah maybe it could be "sex is an individual choice"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:49 AM
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Aww cute. I always wanted remote control cars but always got barbies haha. For my ex's big birthday, I spent about 4k. Limos, penthouse hotel suite etc. I have no clue why, he was a horrible person. I guess it's what I would have wanted, and he expressed he felt sad about turning that age and wanted to do something eventful. I said hey make sure you do something like this when I turn this age because I'm scared too, and I haven't done anything for my birthday for years. He promised he would. Aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:20 AM
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I don't know man, I was so ugly in school that people I'd never met would walk past and just point and laugh saying "look at her faceee!!, I mean I was treated as disfigured because I had huge buck teeth and yeah it messed me up and left me feeling like an outcast for the rest of my life. I started growing into my face but still considered a total dork by my teens. I dated a boy who was also considered ugly and went to a boys school so had no other options. We had crappy sex once. So, success? T…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:49 AM
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Well yeah she said she's only just hung out with guys at hone doing nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:30 AM
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Yeah. She's cute, I guess I just have a certain idea of stunning beauty and it's more focused on facial features. I mean I'm fat and pregnant so my bodys never gonna be svelte. I could only be blobby skinny at this point. But I find men in my age range couldn't care less about my fatness and seem to focus on my face/hair to determine my attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:28 AM
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Yeah, guys doing nothing and not even asking her out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:26 AM
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Well she explained that she wants a guy to think up dates and take her out as a description of being spoiled (which is just normal)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:43 PM
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I'm quite surprised by the comments on her beauty. She is young and cute but it seems men don't prioritize face and more just see an outline of a woman like slim/hair and add young and tanned. Seems that's all it takes? It makes me realise even at 35 I could lose weight and just use fake tan and certain makeup and be considered hot as heck. Men are so judgy on here I thought they'd think she's not good enough for them lol. I was honestly expecting "you better be a model to want to be spoiled". I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:07 PM
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Yeah if you're banging random guys you're probably not gonna say you haveny put yourself out there. This guy is just fantasizing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:03 PM
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Men have interesting ideas of great looks. She just looks young n cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:02 PM
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...how? I actually didn't desire to have sex with him, we weren't very sexually compatible and he was obese with bad teeth, hygiene etc. I was just young and thought his personality was nice, which that changed as well. My parents gave me bad direction. He was not hot or a bad boy or anything like that. I was only 16 then we got married. I'm not sure how falling into a bad situation with someone below you when you are immature has anything to do with hypergamy, when that is about marrying someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:27 PM
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Then why would me being with a guy below me be hypergamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 12:45 PM
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Hypergamy on his part
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 12:33 PM
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I don't kiss until we're exclusive, as I only date men I'm "friends" with first. But my techniques are unusual these days. I just don't need any viruses, and I've felt that way since I was way younger. Plus it's just too intimate to do with strangers. But mostly.. I know that I don't have HSV-1 or HSV-2 via blood test and it's really contagious and I don't want it. Related to my abusive ex who had outbreaks every month or 2. He was always pressuring me to kiss or receive oral, and one time I agr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:46 AM
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We'd been together since I was 16 but its too young
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 11:43 AM
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Haha yeah no matter how mature a 20 year old thinks they are...good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:38 AM
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Not really, I didn't even know what I liked at 17. He just didn't do it for me, I wasn't biologically attracted in person and his sexual style just didn't make me feel much. Plus the relationship was too rushed in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:37 AM
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Yeah you can't really understand these things or know yourself sexually and completely at 20
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:35 AM
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Did you enjoy sex with him prior to your marriage? What changed? Not really. I didn't know any different. I told him quite early that I wasn't feeling how I expected to when we were long distance. I felt super horny over the anticipation but not so much in reality. We agreed that's just how I am in real life (it's not). First off, interesting that another woman doesn't like oral as foreplay, my gf doesn't either and every time i try she says just put it in me basically. She prefers the natural d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:13 AM
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True but wanting a better marriage doesn't mean it's possible. Sex and passion arent really things you can negotiate or force compatibility with communication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:05 AM
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Again this whole stacey thing is a myth and FDS women warn against casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 07:39 AM
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For me, I wouldn't call it purity (even if someone had never had sex), but I view a man as worthy or suitable of a sexual relationship if we are in love and both have only ever had sex with people we were committed to, and a small ampunt of people
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:42 AM
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The thing is that addiction tends to go with mental illness, dual diagnosis is very common. People need to seek help obviously, but places like USA don't have public healthcare to give every willing person that help. Where I live, you can get inpatient and outpatient rehab, psychology, group sessions, doctor appts for no cost. Not everyone has that luxury and the mental illness that goes hand in hand with the addiction isn't always very treatable and can affect the marriage. Some of these issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:40 AM
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I doubt it would be all of a sudden, but yes people break up over it, and that can be just as beneficial for the person who doesn't want sex with that person
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:23 AM
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Humans are all riddled with viruses from childhood. We catch viruses from children, partners, strangers, at work. Nobody is pure. Majority of virgins have oral herpes. Goodluck with pure
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:20 AM
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Well HVM/LVM is typically used in FDS. People can think whatever they want about SMV, FDS doesn't use that term. But a guy that has a bunch of casual sex is LVM to FDS standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:34 AM
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You will have more options with red pill. Most of those options will be very low quality. You will have less overall options with FDS but a more direct path to finding a man who is actually going to enhance your life and make a great husband. Basically, FDS is a narrow path for a specific goal. Redpill is a very wide path that will attract many men, and that is not beneficial for the woman because men who are most into that are selfish and they view promiscuity and manipulative behaviours in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:58 AM
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I think another issue is that these men automatically rule the woman as being lower status than what she is. They have a negative view of women, so they automatically rule her male partner as being higher status. I have been accused of being hypergamous because I left an abusive unemployed ex husband and married a 100% better man. That's not hypergamy. I left a man who was being hypergamous by being with me and I married a man on my level. People are quick to assume you are lower class when you …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:49 AM
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Of course pity sex is bad, but that's what you're recommending people to do. There's a reason they weren't having sex - they don't desire to have sex with that person (or perhaps anyone). If it was a simple lack of time and needing to put more effort into creating space, that's one thing. But if it's a persistent issue of one or both not wanting it, the only option is to simply make yourself do it. That's not healthy in a marriage. I didn't advise anyone to be an addict. Saying "don't be an addi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:40 AM
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Married at 21. Too young. It took him 10 years to start hitting me. People change. No there were no warning signs that he was violent when I married him. I'd been with him since I was 16. People just go downhill, it's not necessarily predictable. I don't take responsibility in him being violent. Abuse is common in marriages. Cheating and abuse are common reasons to get divorced so I'm not sure why they weren't listed as options since they're more significant than "getting bored". It's kind of li…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:29 AM
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It's not intimacy if one person doesn't want to do it and is forcing themselves to in order to be a good partner, unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:24 AM
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Give obligation or pity sex even if you hate having sex with them.. and just.. don't be an addict. I can't say I agree with those 2. Like, just don't get mental illness. Don't have trauma. Just don't do it! Bit simplistic. If someone doesn't want sex, it could be their partner isn't sexually compatible no matter how much they communicate about it. It could also be physiological or low libido. If people in those situations force themselves to have sex out of duty, that is not going to rekindle an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:23 AM
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True. HVM have plenty of options but their focus is on finding actual companionship so they don't settle for cheap thrills, that's part of what would make him HV. It can't be BASED on n counts because there could be a man who's got a horrible attitude towards women, has hang ups and so doesn't have success with "pulling" women, but he'd gladly have had 50 sex partners by now if they'd have taken him. That's obviously LV/NV. So you certainly can't say a low count equals a better person. But at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:10 AM
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I mean, if you include photography/lighting and filters (the bottom one is ridiculously shopped lol), then men and women can take a photo that looks drastically different to reality. But standing face to face with a person, makeup isnt going to dramatically change a man or woman for me. And if it's enough makeup and prosthetics to look different, they're going to look bizarre and even if it's done as subtly as possible, our brains are so sensitive to the human face that warnings will go off beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:53 AM
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It's just different once you get to 35 and look back. I don't think they're children, but they're not far past adolescence either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:46 AM
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Yeah he was into redpill and said women had "female privilege" and all of that crap.. despite being supported by his wife, and never having any experience with the things he's go off about, things that never affected him (typical redpill / mens rights type). You have to be very delusional to be financially supported by your wife, be hitting her, but act like you're the victim and she has female privilege. All the womens movements are designed to be against behaviour like his. Deep down they know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:44 AM
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Very true. They stay because they like the toxicity, that's why they keep creating it, but they deny it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:34 AM
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Thanks.. yeah it was... a waste of my youth, that's for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:33 AM
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Yeah and thinking you're not going to become "old" looking or wrinkly is just... wow. Maybe she's like 20 years old and thinks it can't happen to her, I have no idea. There are plenty of men who don't see their wives as "wrinkly/old/ugly" because you don't notice the person's changed until you look at old photos. Even if they ARE now wrinkly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:30 AM
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😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:29 AM
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Yeah it's messed up. I'm in a more traditional type marriage and I'm Christian, but I still disagree with redpill. I mean what on earth is traditional about using women as "plates" and sleeping with as many women as he can? Where in the bible does it say to instill dread or fear into your wife? The women kind of act like "oh well marriage in redpill is different to the single dating guys", ummm what he does when he dates shows whether he's marriage material or not. How he dated OTHER WOMEN shows…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:16 AM
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I'm saying we don't see makeup as changing a person (unless it's prosthetics) and still care if a man is attractive or not
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 02:46 PM
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Men will say any man who's had a lot of sex partners is HV. To women who vet men properly, a "chad" is LVM. In FDS, chad is a LVM/NVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 01:52 PM
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I was interested what these women think of "the wall" because it will affect them all. These are their red pill men that speak of the wall so often. So one woman asked a question relating to fears of men trading her in for a younger model after she hits "the wall", and another woman responded with: "Just because we age doesn't mean we will become wrinkly/fat/ugly. Take pride in and take care of your appearance. Have you been in a wealthy neighborhood? Men trading in their wives for a new model i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:34 PM
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🤦🏼 It's so hard seeing the posts on redpill women... I have no idea why young women choose to go there, asking about their relationships, when they could go to the general subs because they don't identify as red pill (yet). The posts seem to be parodies. Some of them are laughable as if it's an FDS member trying to demonstrate how messed up the posts are. It'll be things like "i have been a very bad wife because i prioritized my children after work and now my husband shouts at me even though I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:17 PM
2

You talk like all men are sex starved and the only way out is marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:52 AM
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The ones I don't think are attractive don't look any more attractive with make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 11:04 AM
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They just look like them.. without make up lol. No one is born with dark lines around the edge of their eyes etc so it just looks like those people but with make up on. The woman they used as main pic looks no different to me, her features don't look changed, she's just got makeup on and her hair curled a bit, and before pic she's making a sulking face and lighting is dull. I mean I dont think the make up makes her look more attractive, just more dressed up
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 10:52 AM
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I'd say a bunch of mods and users of redpillwomen are male
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:11 AM
7

I think it's a bad idea either way, brain isn't fully developed and just too young
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:00 AM
5

Yeah.. if you never have any symptoms and then all of a sudden, you have 3 incredibly sore lesions and swelling all over your vulva that turns out to be herpes simplex, or new warts, or a pap that detects HPV when she didn't have it at the start of the relationship... he gave it to her. Reactivation my ass. Reactivation symptoms are usually way milder and people would remember their first outbreak of genital herpes. Plus it's not common for HPV to go dormant, not be eliminated and then reactivat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:22 AM
11

Yeah and more from unprotected oral.. chlamydia/gonorrhea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:11 AM
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Yeah, this is why I won't sleep with a guy unless I've known him for years, I know he's been single a long time and he has STI testing. Harder to find but they're out there. There are no guarantees, especially not for herpes or HPV, but it can certainly lower the chances. I still get STI testing even though I trust my husband, it's just the responsible thing to do. Plus I'm pregnant so they advise it during your pregnancy too. I've always tested negative for everything including HPV, in that way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:09 AM
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He's got a wife and 3 kids.... hpv had no impact on his fertility or dating options
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:06 AM
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Yeah and they're women! Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:56 AM
11

Haha yeah.. getting cancer, possibly not being able to have children and potentially dying.. NO BIGGIE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:56 AM
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USA healthcare is infuriating wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:54 AM
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Yeah a 23 year old with a 32 year old.. that's a big age gap. Once you get over 30, a 10 year age gap isn't as significant. But a 23 year old? No way, they need to date within a 3 year age range imo. The younger people are, the more risky an age gap is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:53 AM
8

Yeah he simply just did not care if anyone got it off him. Terrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:50 AM
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They always know they're lying. They just get wrapped up in the act, like connecting to their own character they're playing, AS IF it's real. But they know. I'll tell you how I know.. I spent almost a decade wondering if my ex husband believed his own delusion. Was he a sociopath... or was he just so messed up that he believed what he was saying/doing as the truth?? Over time, I picked up on the manipulative techniques he used. The bamboozling, the confuzzling (just talking fast, talking gibberi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:44 AM
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Sooo true!! My ex was into redpill and his narrative of our relationship went something like this: I have severe depression and my childhood involved abuse which contributes to that. I have tried my absolute best to be a good husband and I was the breadwinner for years in the marriage because my wife wouldn't work. I got burned out and she just wanted more and more. I lost my job and struggled to find another one and she's emasculated me and treated me like dirt because of it. I try to do things…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:14 AM
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Yikes. If he just said "I need someone who regularly wants to show affection towards me", totally fine (if he's treating her great). But saying someone needs to do it even if they have no urge shows that he doesn't seem to be seeking connection out of affection. Like it's just something done to his body... completed Yes/No. That type of mindset will not attract affectionate people. Affection is genuine communication and love, not a chore like washing the dishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:19 PM
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Yeah he's some kind of fringe/alternate version of whatever he is. Never heard any Christians say Elohim, it'd be frowned upon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:15 PM
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Lame. There's conflict free diamonds, and they probably wear sweatshop brands and eat dairy, so don't know why they're on moral high ground when it comes to marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:29 PM
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Ugh makes me hope it's fake... I mean how would these people not be in prison for sharing confidential crime scene photos that could affect a case?? I think USA has different laws when it comes to these things though. But releasing things like this on social media could really negatively impact a case. You'd be surprised what lawyers can use to their advantage against the victim. It's sick. If this is real and the woman got murdered, this man needs to be locked up for life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:27 PM
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Weirdly enough, my abusive ex had kind of feminine and childish writing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:25 PM
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As a Christian, I've never heard anyone use that term. It's a word from the old testament which would likely be viewed as rejecting Jesus. It's used more often by people who practice Judaism as far as I know, instead of Yahweh. I've also never heard of "writing a palil". To me it seems he was part of some unusual or fringe religion, or a religion that only uses the old testament (Judaism and Islam)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:22 PM
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Not sure about all denominations, but I've only heard of people who practice Judaism using that word for God, because it's from the old testament
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:20 PM
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Creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:34 PM
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Agree. My tall huge ex was a violent sociopath and anyone else that knew him said he was a gentle giant - wrong. 2nd husband is 5'10 (certainly not short) and a stocky guy but not that big, more normal sized man, and he's my teddy bear It's all individual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:08 PM
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I had more options in my 30s, personally. Guys in my circle (or at work/college) in my 20s were typically immature, crappy jobs/no jobs and not much to offer. "Older" guys at 30-35 weren't that much better, or were often in relationships/married and I wouldn't have dated over that age. There are more men in their 40s who tend to be mature, established, not into partying/dating apps etc. There are a lot of 40 year old jerks too, but more likely to have a level of maturity than 20 year olds. At mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 07:44 AM
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People are still like that, and for me it's not whether he lacked opportunity but whether he's the type that doesnt want to sleep with random people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:11 AM
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Yeah its unethical, I mean we lose mm from age/use over time anyway, and teeth grinding isnt uncommon. My front ones arent ground but my molars are
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:08 AM
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Oh ok
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:06 AM
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I'd care about that cause I wouldn't marry a guy who was ever into that lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:43 PM
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Not sure. All I know is that she looks like she had a few rounds of shaving and now it's really noticeable. It's a shame she didn't like her teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:37 PM
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😭 poor Judy.. and imagine how much that would affect the baby who was only like 3 months old and attached to her mother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:28 PM
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Ew sounds like what we call a bogan here. Thank goodness it's the law to desex your dog here. People show a lot about their personality by how they interact with animals. Some people are just scared of them, but any weird egotistical or aggressive crap is not ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:05 PM
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Yeah that's a hard one. My ex dropped off all social media after I split up with him and came out about the abuse. But then my now husband, he's a very genuine man but simply dislikes social media and didn't even text before we got together. Different because I'm mid 30s and he's 40s, probably very unlikely in younger men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:01 PM
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I'd say average woman is overweight in usa
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:40 PM
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Isn't she like 15 in that? Certainly looks like a kid It's sad she got her teeth shaved down, it changes her appearance a lot. People perceive longer front teeth as youthful but so many 'fans' teased her teeth as she grew up that she hated the characteristics that added to her beauty and distinguished her face (longer front teeth and canines). Shaving front teeth down ages a person because it reduces facial height Whyyyyyyyyyyy https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRpcUih5OuNiFzS…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:39 PM
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I guess they mean like bombshell, curvy, long thick hair big lips etc. Thing is everyone has different preferences, some men legitimately don't find typical models to be their preference. Plenty of men like shorter curvy women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:36 PM
1

Dude if she's freakin homeless then yeah a woman would more likely sleep with him. I dont see trump pursuing homeless women on the street
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:39 AM
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I'm average af and trump would not be good enough for me and I dont know any women who would date him for potential cash
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:35 AM
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Its LVM to me. Promiscuity, unethical behaviour, sexist is LVM no matter how much status, money and sugar baby lemmings. He's hv only to men who see all that as a good thing, and prostitutes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:28 AM
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Yeah theyre just sugar babies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:18 AM
1

And if they have the hots for trump then yeah there's something wrong with them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:15 AM
1

You think hes banged millions?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:14 AM
0

Yep HV to men, not decent women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:02 AM
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Nnnnnnnnope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:16 AM
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I'd go as far to say that FDS should have dating apps you shouldn't use, and a couple that are use at own risk. Tinder should surely be a no go zone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:12 AM
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A lot of men will lie, but you can skip a chunk of that total uncertainty by not dating randoms. Dating apps have become the norm but I honestly couldn't trust a man who used them. Dating strangers would be terrifying for me. But we need to find positive ways of protecting ourselves. Spying on a guy you don't even know is a bit much, I mean you shouldnt be giving him anything at that stage, and stay in public areas. We shouldn't really stoop to LV mens level if we can avoid it. Don't think I'd v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:05 AM
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I think if you're in a LTR and there are some new big red flags, well I have certainly checked his history because he was having mental health issues and I was worried about him, and what I did find was worrying and immediately told him I checked. He didn't change his password or anything but he said he'd discuss it with me sooner next time and asked me not to look again (I'm not sure if he's aware of deleting history, he's old fashioned and more outdoorsy 😂) and I said that's fine and I havent …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:00 AM
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I just flat out wouldn't date guys who are on dating apps. Most of them are into casual sex and that's a nope for me. People go THAT'S RIDICULOUS, but they're easier to find if you're not on apps either.. often older phones, haven't been dating recently, are into a lot of outdoor activities and hobbies. I was on the lookout for men who are just, how do I put it... atypical, in a good way. With my husband, when we were just acquaintances, I saw that he was more active when other men were sitting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:51 AM
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The reason is simply that women have characteristics they like, but men's perception of what that means puts women in a restrictive box. So closer to number one. People aren't attracted to people based on checking off boxes or someone meeting requirements on paper. We're not robots. A man could say he has a type, but then fall for someone who doesn't quite fit that usual type, because he just happened to fall for the specific combination of personality and physical traits that person has. Women …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 06:50 AM
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My love languages are all of the above and so are my husband's... this idea that love is predominantly shown or desired in one way is silly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:30 AM
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Well if you get married, you're agreeing to some division of assets. If you have a high income and significant assets then better to put protection in place. My ex husband bled me dry so I had already given up the house. I had savings though, by the end, but he wasn't aware and didn't really have the resources or ambition to try and take me to court to get 20 grand or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:04 AM
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If you're broke (empty pockets), no one can chase you for anything except child support and if you are unemployed they can't get the child support. Unless you choose to hold onto the family home, then you may have to pay the partner out their share esp when you sell. Whoever has the most money is more at risk in divorce, whether man or woman. However the party with less money/assets has to demonstrate they provided non financial contributions to the marriage in order to pursue anything (superann…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:34 AM
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It was just pasted from the government website, not something I typed. You don't have Medicare like we do. Here Medicare covers every person of every age on every income or with no income. It covers most if not all of your medical needs, from visiting a GP up to getting surgery, cancer treatment, etc etc. It's not for certain populations. Public healthcare is universal healthcare for all residents/citizens, private healthcare here is available to anyone who pays the premiums. Private isn't restr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:23 AM
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People who earn a low income wouldn't be approved for a mortgage that large and wouldn't be able to save a deposit large enough. I mean we pay close to half that on a house that was 400k at the time and a 200k mortgage, and houses are cheaper than that in the US unless you live in more inner suburb
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:17 AM
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Australia’s health system is one of the best in the world. It provides quality, safe and affordable health care for you and your family. It’s a key reason why we enjoy one of the longest life expectancies in the world. There are many providers of health care in Australia, including: primary care services delivered by general practitioners (GPs)medical specialistsallied health workersnurses. Medicare and the public hospital system provide free or low-cost access for all Australians to most of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:09 AM
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If it costs the individual then it's not public healthcare
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:03 AM
1

I guess girls night and boys night seem to be the exception because some women would say girls night but never refer to themselves as a girl any other time. But I think it's important for men to call women, women, and women to call men, men. Just because a man said he's having a boys night wouldn't mean it would be normal to say "oh is that boy over there going with you?" for example. Plus it's just waaaay more common for men to call women girls, even if they're 25+, than it is for women to say …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:00 AM
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Thanks. I was in an abusive marriage with someone that was involved in redpill forums. He would use strange phrases and so I googled them and realised he was active on redpill sites. He tried to live like an angry MGTOW even while he was married and being financially supported by me, it was bizarre. He started off perfectly fine.. romantic, sweet, blahblah but he just crumbled into some kind of ulterior dimension madness in his late 20s/early 30s. The FDS type of vetting techniques (that I emplo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:53 AM
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Well I don't do a whole lot right now because I'm pregnant and really sick. My day focuses on trying to force food down and trying not to puke and I get around to tidying up every 2 days. We work in healthcare and he was exposed to an infectious person so I havent even been able to hug him But usually, it would be things like affection, loving words, cleaning/cooking, conversation, intimacy, connection/companionship and some financial contribution for joint thinfs like groceries, house updates, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:39 AM
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I don't see how it would benefit me to say I'm not into something if I was. I've had 3 boyfriends/husbands and I'm mid 30s. First boyfriend was a mommas boy, we broke up due to being super young (underaged) and going different directions. Just experimenting with your first gf/bf Second seemed nice and kind and emotionally deep but I was 16 so pretty dumb. He moved across the world to be together so I thought it was looovvvee. He got abusive years later, years into the marriage, so I divorced him…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:32 AM
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Yeah true. Over here, a lot of people choose public over private even if they have private. Most people would go to a public ED in an ambulance over private, because you might end up having to get transferred to the larger public hospital anyway. A lot of people with full private cover choose to be a private patient in the public hospital (like in pregnancy), just to be more likely to get a certain room type or other benefits. There are certain amount of times where public won't cover a treatmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:17 AM
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Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:07 AM
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ARGH!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:06 AM
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I'm attracted to masculine looking healthy muscular men with naturally stocky build (not slim men who work out 5 hrs a day to have a bit of muscle). And I like their personality to be warm, gentle, loving, sweet, considerate and for them to have a stable mature life. My hisband is muscular build and I would never think of him as aggressive or dangerous and if I did, I'd leave. There are plenty of muscly teddy bears. Men still have emotions and want affection and love. Even teenage boys raging wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:57 AM
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Yeah, they don't want to believe reality just because a few rich old men date younger women.. it's for their money usually. Testosterone declines significantly after 30, and fertility becones compromised over time just like women. A 50 year old may be able to get someone pregnant but the risk of birth defects and miscarriage can be much higher so it's not like all fertility and pregnancies are created equal.. they may get by on her younger egg quality but it's a higher risk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:55 AM
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Just going through the motions of therapy with zero investment because it's the respectable thing to do or to say "I tried". Or sometimes it can be a legal requirement for divorce, for example if a couple has been married less than 2 years here, they have to prove they did the sessions before they can apply. My ex husband booked an appt (talked my family into paying for it as he had no money) and chose a religious counsellor because he was hoping the man would discipline me for him, because we w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:45 AM
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Its just money. I wouldn't say donald trump is HV lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:38 AM
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Luckily my lifelong actions support what I say and feel lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:36 AM
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Was deliberate because he's implying its fine to call us girls
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:35 AM
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I've heard young adult women say "this girl" sometimes but it gets weirder after 25
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:34 AM
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Places that have full public have private too. There is motivation here as staff are on higher wages than usa and the healthcare has proper gov funding
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:49 PM
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Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:31 PM
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That was my first thought.. and not showing your door. Internet's fecked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:31 PM
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I think I'd be less likely to trust some super hot model looking guy. But then, really unattractive guys can be total creeps as well. I think my motto is basically trust almost nobody. If a super hot guy started heavily pursuing me in the physical state I'm in now and the way I dress and act, I'd think he was... not right, or had some ulterior motive. Probably moreso than if a super stereotypically unattractive guy pursued me, because I'd assume he thinks I'm pretty bleh looking so he's got a ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:27 PM
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I'm pretty traditional but can't see how any of it could work for everyone. It'd be like fascism to dictate people do what I do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:21 PM
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Fair bit of pervy attention when I was skinny and younger. But I was a teenager so I didn't get treated as anything other than a teenager. Plus I was ultimately average looking. It's just back then guys would look at me and sometimes approach me when I didn't want to be approached. Been fat since early 20s and basically it just made men leave me alone, and I quite like being invisible. It means I attracted a guy based mostly on my personality, which is comforting because ageing won't have much i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:10 PM
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Muscular build in a man suggests youth, fertility, good testosterone levels etc. It doesn't suggest an aggressive or dangerous personality. I'm married to a stable man and have never been attracted to an aggressive, unstable, dangerous or rebellious guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:57 PM
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I definitely get to know every man before sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:06 PM
1

Must be tough for gay men who only want to have sex with a committed partner
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:05 PM
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Not true, mens taste can certainly change as they age. I know older men who view teens as children and no sexual appeal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:04 PM
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Theres levelupstrategy sub which is fds and focuses on self improvement and has no hate
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:58 PM
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Plus some people can have intense desire but hold off for reasons like only having sex in relationships, not having proof of STI status, all kinds of reasons. Not all people live like, I have desire so therefore I must have what I desire this moment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:56 PM
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I'd have never drank again if alcohol made me have sex with people I normally wouldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:49 PM
1

Why do they say that? Ahe of consent is only 16 in most states
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:46 PM
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Gah. Yeah public healthcare shoupd always be available. Hope your surgery went well
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:42 PM
1

Not if youre low count yourself and its for personality compatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:41 PM
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Obviously if someone was saying "I'm a better person for having less partners" then that's shaming. Even if I believe God views casual sex as wrong, I'm not gonna go around judging harshly and looking down on people but it's okay to say "that's not compatible with me for a relationship". Totally excluding a victim of repeated rape or gang rape etc, only talking consensual sex. Rape is never a "body count" or sex ever
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:39 PM
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Oh man a few weeks ago I was picking something up from a restaurant and there was a man and woman on a date. They were finishing up and he asked her "so how do you want to pay?" .... she was like "umm I don't mind I guess. We can split". You could tell the question just made her roll her eyes inside a bit because he's urging her to offer first. I mean if he wants to split, at least just say "should we split it?" lol... THEN HE SAID "hey why don't we just pay for what we each had" and she was vis…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:31 PM
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It'd be similar to shaming soneone for not wanting to have sex before marriage.. I mean people have their individual beliefs. I think the issue is a lot of men on these parts of reddit are pretty anti women and there are red pill types who want virginal 18 year olds even though they're 30 and slept with 20 people.. those types are gross and give a bad name to people who are just sexually conservative and want a partner who's similar
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:22 PM
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If a man is low count by choice, for personal/moral reasons because he views sex as sacred or something he only wants with a partner, it's totally fine if he wants someone similar because it's essential compatibility. However if he has a past of lots of hookups and wants a low count woman because it just sounds better, safer or more beneficial to him in some way, and he can't offer the same history and benefit then that's crap. I mean if he's specifically seeking a low count woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:03 PM
1

Another site says "always use protection" after "Never let a woman be in control of the birth" 😂 such a bizarre way to put it.. the birth. Why not say "Never let a woman be the sole person to take responsibility for contraception and BTW if she IS on the pill you can still get STIs so glove up" lol.. but yeah I totally agree men should always be wearing a condom if they are trying to have casual sex. Sad that they have to bring it up. Even in a relationship, if you really don't want kids then be…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:59 PM
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Haha that's a strange take to me. I had one ex who was more "experienced" and all it resulted in him was having this standardized broad idea of what the larger majority of women liked, and he would use those techniques on me and get shitty when I didn't like it. He even said "but other girls like this" ewww. My husband is far less "experienced" and everything is 100% better. Minimal preconceived ideas so easy to teach him what I like. But even before any instruction, he was still good because hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:54 PM
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They want money and opportunities man... they're like prostitutes. It's like a worker kissing their bosses butt even though they don't like them. They want whatever outcome they're seeking. A woman sleeping with a guy doesn't make him high value.. except to other men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:51 PM
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I found this, which is not redpill's content but from a book they advocate: Iron Rule of Tomassi #1 Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are. This seems kind of vague but seems like a power struggle thing? I prefer when I feel in control of the courtship, like he is kind of waiting for my decisions. Not as any kind of power play, but so that I feel safer. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:41 PM
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Well I'm only talking about stuff I read on the red pill sub, not people's perception of it on this sub. High value (celebrity or not) can't go in the same sentence as sleeping with wonen on the side or poly for me. A man like that would be termed high value by other men, not women. Some of these guys are practically paying for sex, if not actually paying for it. There may be some women who put up with that because they're probably not in love with him anymore and may be getting their needs met …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:11 PM
1

I don't think people should invest effort into a relationship that has been royally destroyed by things like infidelity, violence, betrayal, long term destructive behaviours etc. But it's normal in a long term relationship to have issues that you need to work through. If you had none, ever, it's likely that the relationship is coasting with no passion, minimal communication and ultimately minimal desire for much of anything and barely sharing your opinions with each other. You wouldn't expect co…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:04 PM
1

Yeah, it's a conversation lol. It's only potentially using someone if they talk about their issues non stop and never ask how the other friend is doing and don't listen to them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:01 PM
5

Yeah it doesn't work on women who are set on having a healthy beneficial relationship. "Treat em mean keep em keen" has been around since the 50s, but again.. it only works on codependent women with really low self esteem who are likely used to an abusive upbringing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:59 PM
2

Yeah, I read your comment after I added more on the end and basically said the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:57 PM
4

I'm not just "saying" anything, I'm married to him and know exactly what I'm attracted to. I'm very selective
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:56 PM
7

Even on the red pill sub, I haven't seen a straight up list like what's on FDS. But from reading the gibberish (there's so much yakkity yak and lack of availability of bullet point overarching list on the sub or website), but here are some things that red pill tends to advocate which would completely disqualify a man from my mind: Casual sex/spinning plates - I will not marry a man that does casual sex, and I'm not interested in casual dating. I will not be interested if he had a past history of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:41 PM
3

I'm married to a man that plays zero mind games and puts in effort to make me happy and treat me well, so.. that is what I do. I could never be attracted to a pick up artist, cockiness, unavailability etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:33 PM
5

...why would you consider someone close to their peak fertility "old"? 30 is considered to be a fairly young person. A person who can have children and is not middle aged
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:31 PM
1

Dude the brand is forever 21 because the clothes are childish. Both men and womens sexual value (to a broader society, not to individuals who are into them) declines after late 20s. It's when looks begin to change a bit and fertility starts to decline. Most women have no issue getting pregnant 30-35. I just got pregnant from 1 instance of sex and the first time of "trying" but we weren't trying, and I'm 34. I also look about 28. But the fact is both men and women change internally in their 30s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:25 PM
3

Always has been to broad society. 30 is a typical age to be getting married and having kids
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:17 PM
7

Very important that he be as intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:11 PM
31

Americans need their careers so they don't get $200,000 bill for their cancer treatments
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:10 PM
1

As a woman, most red pill tactics would make me completely uninterested in the man
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 11:53 AM
15

Sorry but sperm banks want men in their 20s and 35 is often the cut off. Both sexes physically and biologically peak mid to late 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:25 AM
1

There's a difference between fitness and ultra low body fat though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 10:32 AM
1

I don't care as long as he's financially stable, and the job is respectable and acceptable to me. As in, he's not a stripper or a porn star.. or a slaughter house worker or kills people for a living or something
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 09:21 AM
3

Another male, saying what women should be called?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 09:20 AM
4

Take a chill pill, wean!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 09:19 AM
0

Maybe. I'm not American or under 30
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 09:00 AM
1

That's interesting about the salary thing. I'm in my 30s and have a way different view because I'm in healthcare. People all the way from nurses to some specialist doctors are on hourly rates in this industry. I know people who are on salaries who don't het that much and their work bleeds into their personal time. I always said I'd never be on a salary again. I mean we get $50-60 per hour and my salary job probably ended up being under $30.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:59 AM
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It's never common vernacular for women to call men boys. Guy is common, but girl is the equivalent of boy, not guy. Boy/girl is child and guy/dude tends to be teenagers/men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:54 AM
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I wouldn't consider that normal from women in their 30s. It sounds crass and immature. One thing to point out red flags in private, that's totally fine. But I'd up and leave if some bimbo was like "EWWWWUH HE'S A LOSER, he's a male NURSE and he's got WRINKLES EW" about my husband. I guess it'd be the difference between a man saying in private "Hey I don't wanna offend but I wanted to tell you that my friend dated your girlfriend for a year and he said she was really unstable and threw things at …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:50 AM
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You must be a man. Women are called women. Just like you don't call men boys in your post because it would be belittling, don't call women "girls". I have never heard a woman mention a man's height as the first notable thing about him. Very young women might view musicians as exciting, but women over a certain age view a guy without a stable job as problematic. 19 year old women are not the only people out dating. Status can also ne about being a really great guy, with personality/morals/social …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:40 AM
5

It's stuff people say when they have no personal experience with being used, raped, abused. It's also something people who are pissed off they can't get laid are more likely to say. If you can't get a girlfriend then the problem is women, right? Obviously people need to take responsibility in their lives, but it's a common theme on this sub where men blame women for ending up in an abusive relationship. They make incorrect judgements like she is attracted to abusive men. It's the typical "It's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:34 AM
12

Decent men are not comfortable with being asked to hit, choke, spit on or be violent to a woman, nor would they suggest it themselves. Sure, men might like to feel strong in the bedroom, like it when you feel his muscles and they like the play on femininity and masculinity. But that has NOTHING to do with pain, suffering or humiliation. A man likes to feel like "the big man" when he's hugging his woman, not just with sex. That natural way that men like to feel is about love, affection, being a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:25 AM
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Yeah should probably have one with blonde/red hair and blue/green eyes if it's including everyone.. and an older person with grey hair maybe. But depends if the art is meant to be communicating something specific or meant to be a representation of FDS members. The other women could have different hair colours too. Maybe it's meant to be communicating that women of certain races are more vulnerable to this in USA. I'm not in USA so our cultural views are different, population background/ethniciti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:13 AM
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It's like.. war camp but had access to weights Wait I re looked and was thinking of another pic lol. It's just like... too low body fat. Be like going to bed with a chopping board
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 03:05 AM
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https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTaZ6zVbSR4vvnjgAn2RzIoOpMkypG6H5g-nA&usqp=CAU
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:16 PM
3

Too skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:07 PM
7

I think most people's taste just develops with them. When I was 20, Id think my 45 year old husband was grandpa level
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:55 AM
12

........😕
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:31 AM
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33 still usually looks young though. Maybe she (he) means like post menopausal. I dunno
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 09:29 AM
2

You haven't said what you're implying it's proving or how it's relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 06:21 AM
1

Do you think its bullshit that some really wealthy people prefer modest homes and cars? It's a bit weird to not be able to accept that everyone's different. Plus I'm not like a 20yo in a 1 year marriage. I'm 35, I have chronic illness, I'm pregnant and feel like I'm dying so do not feel loved up or happy, I... Had to puke.. known my husband for 10 years so its not puppy love
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:20 AM
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😂 I'm not naive about relationships, Ive been married twice but didn't feel this way about 1st husband (for valid reasons). There are typical relationships and then there are just special ones. Can't be predicted or based on ticking off boxes. Some stereotypically attractive guy with more money isn't gonna mean jack to me. No offence hot rich guy. Besides I'm 35 and fat so never gonna be most 25 year olds dream girl lol, not that I would want to be. But reality is all these guys wouldn't be inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 04:56 AM
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Yeah. I mean there are more stereotypically attractive and way younger guys out there which from some creepy breeding or keeping-up-with-the-jones mentality would say are "better" but I'm personally not gonna prefer them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 04:52 AM
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It's so difficult to find pics. They're either too fat, too fit, abdomen is hard with visceral fat even if it's big, arms too small, or totally different body shape https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRWybY1dbIr-W3Ydns5mla0HwkMwVH9lvgrYQ&usqp=CAU my husband looked like that when he was fitter but due to covid/stress etc he's like that underneath but with a more hangy gut and arms have got flabbier. https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcR9p6Jt2KrJ7IVTW-1BoIwMykun…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 04:12 AM
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😂 stocky doesn't mean the same thing as power lifter. That would be like extremely muscular and large. I'm fat. I have muscle and exercise, I can also grab chunks off fat off me, have a spare tyre but I am not a 100% blob. What you're talking about sounds morbidly obese and extremely unfit. I have some fitness and am also fat. So I am fine with a man who is fat and also has some fitness and muscle mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:53 AM
1

Yeah it'd be horrible
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:22 AM
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Yeah my dog is so "ugly" with all these disabilities but it just makes him cuter.. of course love of children or pets is different to romantic, but real love should have that strong attachment It's not about perfection but also not about settling. It's about feeling like that person is the one and your soulmate and that's very rare to find. It's extremely lucky and you could put every rich model in front of me and it's not going to result in a higher chance of finding a soulmate because it's abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:18 AM
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...and?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:16 AM
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Are you a bot? You can see what I typed said I'd date an overweight man which is "fat" like myself
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:15 AM
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Uhhhhh... what? Are they pushing that as romantic? Since when is being "real" being a total sucker? Being real would be having self respect and not staying with a cheater
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:04 PM
2

Maybe they're gonna get cloned. But it'd be like that movie where they keep getting more stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:00 PM
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The mgtow/red pill types will say it's the "all women are wonderful" effect, that life just hands everything to us and we have continuous sympathy for no reason. Thing is that a big chunk of reddit are white males from USA who lean more towards mens rights/mgtow/red pill/incel beliefs soooooo... they're the ones voting on assholes or not assholes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:46 PM
5

Good advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:40 PM
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This has gotta be NVM starter pack... I feel like LVM would be more like... coffee cups, a kinda nice restaurant but he says "should we go dutch?" lol All this one needs is "You won't believe this but I left my wallet at home 😣"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:37 PM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:41 PM
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😂 I've never cheated, had 3 sex partners and I'm 35.. think I know myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 02:40 PM
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What if he does that for his nesting partner and 3 other poly lovers too? He might have a lot of spare time for romance, cause he's unemployed atm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:01 PM
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I already said that wouldn't happen. That's like saying if you were presented with every cute intelligent wonderful kid then you'd trade your child for them. I don't love my husband because he was just available or the best out of a mediocre bunch or something
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:55 AM
2

The relationship would have had to have already broken down to develop any feelings for anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:54 AM
2

I'm what they call "demisexual" so I'm not attracted to men I see in the way that other people might lust over randoms. The only thing I can imagine thinking is "damn this guy's a billionaire, imagine the quality of therapy and medical treatments I could get". But that wouldn't be worth faking being into someone haha. My feelings of love don't come and go with my husband. He'd have to treat me badly but he's not the type. A marriage had to be dead and full of abuse for me to leave, in my past.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:39 AM
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Also they associate young women with being naive, having lower expectations, not knowing any better and putting up with bad behaviour and manipulation. They won't have expectations of him like his ex wife who's got the 3 kids full time. A lot of men want to recapture their youth, and you fibd that even the creepers who want girls younger than their own kids.. they still lust over their high school sweetheart even if she's 50+ and I've known quite a few people to end up in a relationship with tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:12 AM
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It'd be mostly due to poor or unethical behaviour like cheating, abuse, failure to take care of responsibilities, not pulling their weight, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:07 AM
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Yeah my ex was too lazy to wash dishes (unemployed) let alone manage a joint application. I did it like everything else. He was with another woman by the time I could apply and I feel like maybe he didn't respond to the written communication because a) lazy and b) wanted to be able to tell everyone I divorced him, which then frees him of religious persecution
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:01 AM
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True. Men are certainly not always the higher earner (or employed at all). Whoever has the most money is the one who loses out, which was me (woman). Most modern countries don't have alimony though, or at fault divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:57 AM
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Divorce can be really bad for women too. If your husband is unemployed or earns a lot less than you, you lose a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:55 AM
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In some cases it can be that the man is abusive or unfaithful but doesn't want to get divorced. He might say he wants to divorce then change his mind and refuse a joint application. That's what happened to me. It certainly shouldn't be taken as evidence that women don't value marriage as much, or "got bored" or any of that junk. In abusive relationships where the man is the abuser, the woman feels unsafe and is trying to end the situation, and the man is trying to hold onto the marriage. Does no…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:49 AM
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I could have every man on the planet throwing themselves at me and I'd want to stay with my husband and only him 🤷🏼 some people are in love
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:46 AM
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I've never seen a woman say she likes those men or chase after them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:55 PM
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Reddit dudes live in an alternate universe. Where all women are 21, hott, and they like deadbeat dudes with no jobs, money, who do drugs and rob houses etc. But wait they also only want tall rich guys with status who dress well 🤔 maybe tall rich hot businessmen who um, moonlight as crack head car jackers for fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:13 PM
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Theres like no women here saying anything like that, I'm a woman and have never been attracted to deadbeats and don't know a single other woman who ever indicated they like men with antisocial, criminal or problematic behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:12 PM
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Yeah. I like a guy to have a muscular shape (just as men like my boobs and butt), but I don't like a muscular low body fat look, or skinny. I just like a stocky guy. Some muscle, some fat. I like a soft belly but not like hanging 10 inches over his pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:52 PM
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I dunno where this reddit thing comes from where guys are convinced and even bitter about this idea that wonen want horrible criminal no hoper men. I mean sure, the occasional young dumb woman will lust after some unavailable guy who cant offer much. But ladies are not gettin in line to date no hopers. Womens ideals are stereotypically good looking, strong jawline, tall, wealthy or financially stable, groomed, clean, respectful, dresses well, status etc. That's womens fantasies typically. Unless…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:14 PM
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Fat woman here. I'm like 40 lbs overweight. I don't settle for men. My fat appearance keeps me invisible to any player types, for the most part. It does not seem to dramatically impact some men who are looking for a life partner. I think if someone was large enough to struggle to fit into a car seat and things like that, it would be different. But run of the mill fat? There are men who have great personalities and who are attractive who will still be interested in dating and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 01:09 PM
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He looks 16 and 120 lbs, so I guess that's why he couldn't handle a fat woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:51 PM
3

...I have never heard a woman say she likes that. Do we like broke, meth addicted animal abusers too? But seriously I think if any women told you they like pothead thugs with 6 kids... uh... maybe it's cultural? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 12:44 PM
-1

That's worrying if like 21 year olds are feeling victimized and angry at women.. yikes!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 10:55 AM
-1

That's worrying if like 21 year olds are feeling victimized and angry at women.. yikes!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 10:55 AM
-2

Women usually want men who are decent people and are physically atrractive. That's also what most men want
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 10:37 AM
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Yeah and how come even in the handmaids tale, they have no body hair? Even their legs are shaved, eyebrows plucked and hair dyed auburn or blonde highlights staring at the scalp..even though that stuff is banned in their world or they've been on the run with no supplies for months at a time??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:00 AM
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A man being stable and safe is a part of my attraction to him. I'm not attracted to dangerous, non committal, unpredictable or unreliable men. Ither women I know also prioritize a man having a good character. A "dangerous" man sounds unstable, immature and completely useless for a relationship. Women are usually attracted to men who LOOK masculine. They might be attracted to beards and biceps and tattoos but they usually want him to be a sweet teddy bear in that package. Dangerous behaviour isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:55 AM
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If a woman stays with an abuser, it's not because she doesn't recognise the risk or because she is attracted to any kind of danger. That's because of desensitization from the manipulation and the abuse. You end up feeling beaten down and depressed even more than you could feel scared. Like this dead inside feeling, and you feel like you don't have the energy or time to pack up the whole house and change your entire life. Sometimes it can be that you simply don't have the strength or resources to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:48 AM
2

I've snooped. I trust my husband as much as I could trust someone, but there are times where you just need cold hard evidence too. I looked at his history, not because I thought he was cheating but because I was concerned about what was going through his mind. He has anxiety and he sometimes goes through phases of severe distress and obsessive thinking, as do I. We already had each other's pins because it's just easier when you want to search something or call a restaurant and your phone's on ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:38 AM
1

Yeah like I said, I reported things to upper management but they are buddies with slack lower management. Reported to union, government bodies and even crime stoppers. Organised work place inspectors anonymously. Nothing changed at all, they were never even under threat of investigation or anything. So I just left, and now the place will be a total rubbish dump, it'll be unbelievably unhygienic and not covid safe in any way. Like they dont wear masks or clean anything. But its mandatory. And the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:54 PM
1

They're combined, so they're kind of equal. My husband's looks would not keep me interested if he had a personality I wasn't into, no one's looks wpuld be. He's really attractive but he would become unattractive or kind of invisible if he wasn't nice, or was just a totally different person
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:50 PM
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I'm not saying they had to, but some people can't stand by and let people rot. It's not an assumption that they were less productive. I'm talking extreme issues like arriving hours late or leaving hours early (fraud), not showing up to shifts at all and having a friend cover for them and still getting paid as though they were there (one person cannot complete anywhere near all the work, so it is left for the next shift and patients neglected), spending 80% of shift watching TV and using phone. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:36 PM
1

Some of them do want a man to support them but most will advise against it because you are losing your freedom and independence
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:14 PM
1

No. FDS is about courtship so paying for dates when he is courting you. It's a gesture and weeds out a lot of slutty guys looking for a quick bang. If people are living together/married then they both contribute to their lives. FDS is not sugarbaby lifestyle and anyone with any level of maturity will state that becoming financially dependent on a man increases your risk of being controlled by him. FDS is about leveling up in your life, including career. Obviously it's different if someone become…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:16 PM
1

Because it's a pendulum swing. Women were pressured to tolerate abuse, poor behaviour etc. They're now pressured to put up with a guy sleeping with other women because he didn't mention he's not exclusive, or polyamory, or sex on the first or 3rd date, and she must pay 50/50 minimum, and not demand anything or have expectations, and put up with negging and "netflix and chill" type low effort dates where they just want to get you into bed etc. Or expecting to go on a no effort coffee date, each p…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:07 PM
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I said if she feels that way (into him). It could be spending time with him, showing affection, compliments, flirting, nice gestures, showing interest like asking him about himself and showing she really wants to know him, typical things to show you like someone. If they were exclusive, committed and she felt comfortable then it could be sex. But I don't show I like someone with sex, I do that only if I've fallen in live with them (and we're official etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:48 PM
1

Yeah you just have to give up on corrupt unethical jobs. I tried to change it for 10 years. Lead by example, teach others, report serious issues to management, go above them, report to unions, report to doctors, report to government bodies, report on crimestoppers anonymously, enter incident report after incident report detailing near misses, injuries, safety issues.. then I looked back and thought my goodness, it's been 4 years of me fighting this particular site to just bring it up to a level …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:53 AM
4

No salary negotiation - government regulated grading for wages. I don't see how they could not value it when it was the bare bones essential things to keep people alive and the entire system running lol.. it wasn't anything optional. It's just colleagues and boss were using me as the do-everything-fix-everything person because the place was corrupt, as are most places like that. I just left. Now they will just extinguish spot fires for as long as possible until something goes really wrong. But i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:45 AM
1

It's still derogatory towards them though. I'm just getting a pretty clear picture from reddit that USA generally finds racism towards people with African background as completely unacceptable (excluding some weird KKK types), but people of Asian decent aren't considered oppressed so they kind of act like racism isn't a thing for them. It's just strange for me because I'm in a country where people of African decent (or who are African and have immigrated from Africa) are not viewed in the way th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:05 AM
1

Ok news just in, calling Asian people yellow is NOT racist towards them, only towards people that like them! Disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:59 AM
5

Thanks 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:56 AM
11

Yeah. I mean some people get lucky, but it's usually a bad idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:56 AM
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I've been married twice... first one proposed a few months in. Complete LVM, abusive in the end. Second one, he proposed at 4 years. Looking back though, I think 3 years sits best with me. 2 seems too short for me to trust a man, but 4 was a bit much too. COVID affected it at the time, I mean here you couldn't leave your house and he didn't want to propose at home. Our lockdown went 8 months though so he eventually had to. Fcking COVID. He had a ring for ages but was waiting for the right propos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:47 AM
6

True. My ex didn't help with anything. My husband helps with everything to the point I feel guilty. I'm pregnant and feel really sick, he went out to get food at 10pm even though he'd been working 12 hour shifts. If he sees me doing the dishes he says "sorry I didn't do that yet, just so tired". I said that's fine, it's not your job anyway, I'm the one at home all day and he said "yeah but you're sick"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:53 AM
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I compared unpaid labour to unpaid labour I'm a very solitary and drama free person in my social life and at work. I was not in the friend group hence why I was picking up all the slack.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:23 AM
3

It's not hospital. It's small aged care facilities. We are responsible for everything including cooking all the meals and cleaning. No janitors, no cooks, no admin. That's how small facilities run.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:17 AM
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Falling in love and being completely smitten is a pretty rare thing for me, and it is not more likely to happen because a man is taller or more stereotypically good looking. It happens because I persobally find the man very attractive and fall for his personality. You can't judge just based of looks. You could have 2 identical twins who are as attractive as each other, and a woman could fall madly in love with one and won't view the twin in the same way. Sure, they look ok, but the personality o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:16 AM
6

I've only had them be furious at me. I think I prefer that to trying to chat me up. Mine have been things like: You don't deserve to have orgasms, how dare you (...?) You are disgusting for advocating circumcision (..I'm anti circumcision unless it was for an unavoidable medical reason so I don't know what that was about but they went off for DAYS and refused to believe I'm not pro circumcision lol) I deserve to be abused and raped because my husband paid for dates when we were dating.. And a co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:03 AM
2

Some of it was the psychological burden of having to keep lists in my mind and do so much mental multitasking, when other people had a free mind. They say it can take an average of 20 mins to refocus when distracted by multitasking, it burns more glucose and causes fatigue. But the issue is that all of that wasn't my job - plenty of it was management's job. Also everyone was supposed to have equal responsibility, all at the same level and same job description and same pay grade. So other people …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:55 AM
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Well he just didn't connect much with women before me. He had girlfriends but relationships fizzled out due to going to different colleges, one of them had big issues that negatively affected the relationship. He was very desired by women, still is, but they never tried to truly connect with him and he didn't fall in love with them, and their behaviour showed they weren't really in love with him. He'd have a lot of options but wasn't interested and kept to himself, politely brushed them off, lau…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:44 AM
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True, but this industry is not salary based and salaries are not negotiable. It's purely your qualification and level of years experience that strictly define your hourly wage. Everyone is expected to have the same skills, but it's unsupervised work so it attracts people that don't take it seriously and just sit on their phones, or are always hungover, etc. A lot of international students too. So I just left. Then my boss delegated my responsibilities between 7 people, which had already been don…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:24 AM
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I work in healthcare and was on my feet all the time while others (mostly men and 1 woman) were avoiding patients, sitting on their phones, leaving 3 hours early, things like that. You have it really wrong. Nothing about my unpaid responsibilities was social and I'm a very solitary type of person. The people who were part of a friend group were the ones getting away with very poor work ethic. My unpaid responsibilities were vital OHS tasks, dealing with medication errors when others wanted to sw…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:20 AM
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I'm 40 lbs overweight, so chubby, but at a size where people are like "you are NOT obese, just curvy". But reality is I'm fat, and I can say that in relationships, it has worked out for me. It instantly weeds out a lot of shallow guys when you look chubby and it's clear you're not putting effort in. It was kind of my invisibility cloak and I rarely had guys bugging me in the street. I'm not someone who could ever do casual sex and I was only interested in marriage, so it was good to look a way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 04:11 PM
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I guess I'd be bluepill? But obviously people need to be cautious and discerning. You can't assume all women/men are good people.. at all. I don't think bluepill emphasizes being a pushover though. Red pill.. I can't say I agree with anything they say, not for myself. None of the tactics wpuld work on me, I'd be absolutely repulsed. I have no interest in men who play games or seem unavailable, or who are into casual sex. I always just wanted a traditional love story and marriage, I never had cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:44 PM
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What counts as a chad anyway? Can a 40 year old man be a chad? Cause a lot of women in their 30s tend to date a little older. I left an abusive ex husband many years ago. He um, he fit a certain derogatory and unattractive term and meme... then I got together with my 2nd husband who is a 100% better person, better looking, financially stable etc. Is he considered a "chad" even if he's like 45?? Or is he just a "simp"? Can a simp be hot and desirable to a lot of women? Or would being desirable ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:34 PM
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Me in 20s: anxious but hopeful, pushover, passive, low libido, abused, let partners choose me, did not prioritize spirituality, stuck in a rut at work, life based solely on delayed gratification and sacrifice, drank heavily, better health, in debt, very concerned with appearance especially in early/mid 20s, thought one day I will be so pretty if I try hard enough, spent a long time each day poking/inspecting myself and applying makeup and being very unhappy about how I looked Me in 30s: anxious …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:15 PM
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I haven't met a single woman who lived her life along those lines lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:08 PM
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You know what my boss said to me when I brought up having many extra unpaid responsibilities at work, even though my male colleagues have zero? "It's not UNPAID, you're doing it within work hours so you can't call it unpaid". So then why do men earn the same amount of money to do less? Besides, I DID have to complete some of it at home, completely unpaid. Boss said there should be tine to do it during work hours as there's "not that much to do". Oh... so because other people sit around with noth…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:02 PM
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I didn't want the abusive room mate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:51 PM
1

Thats gross too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 10:01 AM
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I'm not even going to give a demonstration of how racist and horrendous that could be. If he was talking about racial issues, ok, in some cases it could be understandable. Most people would censor things though, if they couldn't discuss the topic without bringing up certain slurs. He only used it in a way that is offensive. There is no need to call interracial dating any kind of coloured fever. It's just clear that Americans are not even acknowledging racism towards people of Asian background. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:38 AM
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Yeah would it be sweet if I quoted black slurs and decided to use them myself? And would people tolerate that my racism and ignorance means I'm not "trying " to hurt anyone so it's fine?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:33 AM
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That's so frustrating. When they say you can't get everything you need out of 1 person.. that's so annoying too. For a start, a partner isn't supposed to fix all your issues and keep you so 24/7 thrilled and on edge that you can't think about your problems. And sone love addicts expect a relationship to do that and so they're always seeking the next new thrill. The people always have to be new to them so they can project their fantasies onto them. The more you get to know someone, the less gaps …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:28 AM
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It's controlling to tell me that my expectation for monogamy is some kind of problem, and it's controlling to pressure me into getting STIs that condoms don't protect against and that are more common in people with many sexual partners. Won't feel so free spirited when they get a cervical cancer diagnosis or something like that. There are just so many reasons for women to not share their bodies around. It's not fair but it's reality. People can do whatever they want, but not with me. They act li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:14 AM
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Why are people still ok with using racial slurs for people with Asian backgrounds? As someone from a country where a big chunk of population is Asian (and a hige percentage where I actually live), and all the shops in the street have menus written in Asian languages etc, It's so weird to see people talking about Asian people like they are some kind of unusual thing, or that it's weird that they'd be married to people of other races?? USA has such weird cultural views sometimes. Of course a large…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 06:03 AM
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In terms of an individual having conflicting feelings about women's sexual activity, such as a man who wants a virgin but is not willing to wait until commitment or marriage to have sex - they have this weird idea that no/low count women will suddenly adopt all the benefits of a promiscuous woman (give him sex very quickly, be confident, adventurous etc) but ONLY for him. So actually, they prefer the stereotypical sexual personality of a woman who's sexually experienced but they want it wrapped …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:37 AM
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He's talking about sexual market value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:42 PM
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Yeah my husband is clean, but he let a relative temporarily stay with us and he would leave beard hairs in bathroom and food crumbs all over kitchen, it caused a lot of tension in our marriage. My husband would clean up his relative's mess when he was home, but if he was at work then I felt stuck with it. My ex husband did no housework and made a lot of mess, and he had a similar personality type in some ways to the guest, and that was too triggering. I don't believe in "not seeing mess" or any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:38 PM
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Yikes, they all need some serious STI testing, and therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:32 PM
5

Neither are true
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:58 AM
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She should be going to the police station and reporting domestic violence and rape. No normal man would find whipping someone until they pass out in pain, a turn on. Ever. That would make a normal man sick. There was nothing sexual about it, he's just using sex as an excuse to disguise domestic violence for BDSM. And he called her swear words, yelled at her and expressed no regret - verbal abuse is also domestic violence. Adults can't learn empathy if they just don't have it. It's something you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:55 AM
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Yes kind of but also my morning sickness is brutal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:37 AM
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I think they're just looking at it as a food+sex opportunity to be honest. Like they just want to be invited back to her place for pizza and sex. Truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:36 AM
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😂 the silent pic in the middle of her making sandwiches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:31 AM
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JERRY?? "miss" is creepy... and what kinda person heavily pursues someone who's just "kinda cute"? I struggled to read the 4th line. Dida't?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:10 AM
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I'm only here for entertainment, I'll talk about myself if it feels enjoyable or distracting at the time.. what are you saving lives on reddit? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 10:01 AM
3

Ohh ok. Kool aid...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:06 AM
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The similarities are getting eerie.. do you drink water?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:01 AM
3

Oh wow I like bread sometimes. A fair bit actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:00 AM
1

Not sure. For empty sex and STIs probably
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:10 AM
1

😲
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:09 AM
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I have minimal "sexual market value". 3/10 looks and personality is anxious, pessimistic and... I don't know... just crap. I only have like, soulmate market value, to 1 person
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:29 AM
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Well he's not putting effort into his appearance, he's just hotter than me no matter what he wears. I'm not putting effort into my appearance and our relationship (and baby) are the most important things to me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:24 AM
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I just don't care. I'm attracted to my partner but I don't think about his attractiveness to other people. If he was viewed as ugly by society, I don't see why I'd care if I felt this way towards him. I don't dress up because I'm sick and pregnant. I don't think of us as having "sexual value" or lack of value to other people. It's just irrelevant. People thinking I was hot wouldn't improve my life in any way that was significant for me. We are 30s and 40s so I assume it's something people care m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:18 AM
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I got married at 20. Divorced at 30
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 03:16 AM
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I'd say in that case, she either did those things due to experimentation or possibly pressure, and found it didn't bring her joy so she stopped. Or she might still like that but the husband's style doesn't bring it out in her. I remember I tried to act KiNKy with my first serious boyfriend as teenagers because I was basically trying to impress myself and feel cool. I actually didn't feel turned on during those times. I was just excited to be exploring what it means to be with a guy and to be gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:53 AM
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I think men refuse to believe women who dont present as "hot" don't get that kind of attention. Perhaps he assumes all women are hot because the non hot ones are invisible lol. My husband got more attention than me in the same workplace. I dressed down and didn't want any attention. I'm sure if I lost weight and did my hair and makeup, I would have got a bit more attention, but I still wouldn't have been some woman men fall over in the street lol. My looks are like... I qualify as being not ugly…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:15 AM
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Disagree, a long term relationship can either becone stagnant (which sounds like what you're referring to), or the passion of love is still very strong but it doesn't rely on mystery. I still feel the same way when I have sex with my husband as when we'd been together a few months. I think the key is communication, staying close, affection, bits of romance often, having your own space when you need it, being respectful and loving, showing interest and having regular sex but not TOO often otherwi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:11 AM
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I understand it all, but someone's sexuality can be something you're not attracted to. They could be asexual, or too overtly sexual/need sex too often, the way they talk during sex or the type of foreplay they like, the way they have sex, it can all be off putting or attractive, and if you know a man is attracted to other men and has had sex with them, it can create an impression of the person based on all these facets that doesn't psychologically turn you on. And it's not necessarily about bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:59 AM
2

U watching to much cuckold stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:53 AM
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You typed the opposite of what I said before and it made no sense, the part I quoted. It is wrong to say people that have those morals have issues. It'd be like if I said everyone who has casual sex is completely unstable or insane lol. It's simply wrong to make such outlandish statements just because it's not YOUR lifestyle. Yes we did have sex 6x a day when we first got together. I don't classify that as a week. We've known each other for 10 years so we had sex after a few months after we were…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:41 AM
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Wiki is not credible 4 anything!!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 01:36 AM
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I wouldn't categorize parties with night clubs. Most parties I've gone to are dinner parties, and I don't know any 30+ people who go to night clubs. I met my husband at work. My parents met at work. My grandparents met at a cinema. My friends met at high school, university, work, while back packing or on holidays, through friends, family. We are all 30s and 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:02 PM
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I don't think anyone's saving anything, either they're in a long term relationship with a person that turns them on and makes them feel passionate or they're not. But after you've been with someone for years, you tend to find what works for you and don't tend to need props or "kinky" stuff though people think the opposite and that you'll want/need more of that but I've found it to be the opposite. I mean I get really turned on by just normal sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:01 PM
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I tried decaf and it makes me as sick as regular coffee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:34 PM
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Some guy who I have no connection to will definitely not be getting passionate sex, or any sex from me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:29 PM
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I'll take that as agreement
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:28 PM
4

Most men my age have had more than 3 partners
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:17 PM
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It's worked for me. All you have to do is stay off apps and avoid places where people tend to congregate when they're wanting casual sex. It was no effort for me to avoid dating apps or night clubs. The other 2/3 of people are out meeting people in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:15 PM
1

I bet you dont love vegetables and have a really standard american diet
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:53 PM
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Salt and pepper is not seasoning 😷
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:52 PM
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Steamed chicken breast, sweet potato "fries" and broccoli. You CANT HAVE RICE ITS A GRAIN grains are ToxiC!! Egg white scramble. Just egg whites nothing else. And if you are feeling naughty? Really naughty? 5 blueberries
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:49 PM
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I think it's very important to have a similar view on food. I was pescetarian most of my life and cooked a big variety of foods. My ex husband often complained about the vegetables and he basically just wanted a diet of meat, cheese, bread, hot sauce and alcohol. He would put down my cooking and whine a lot, even if I loaded it with cheese and less healthy things that he liked. Now with my 2nd husband, I eat some other meat but I still cook a lot of vegetarian and fish stuff like before and my h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:44 PM
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Sone people are aiming for a relationship and not just sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:33 PM
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I don't think it's bigoted to want a strictly straight man. Just like it's not bigoted to not want to date trans men or someone who identifies as non binary, or to not want to date another woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:32 PM
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By most accounts, high value... but promiscuous, having sex with multiple women at once, assume having unprotected casual sex, and wanting to see if you could get into relationship with them both. Yeeeeeaaaah, I dunno who told you what high value is but that's not it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:29 PM
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For a start, I would never date a guy who had casual sex and was in the habit of "pump and dump". But if I think of a more reasonable scenario in my circle, like if a man dated a woman for a while but it didn't progress to marriage and they broke up, then he marries someone else - that is usually because he had a stronger connection with the person he married. He felt understood, he could be himself, he felt loved by her, he felt more wanted, he could see more of a future. I mean, my husband nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:24 PM
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I prefer a man to have a role where he is physically active, but not overly active or hard on the body like many trades. A role where he walks regularly, socialises with people and demonstrates his skills. I've never been into men with office/corporate jobs. I like a more active practical man usually. Medical, nurse, physio, stuff like that is appealing to me but my husband fits into a category like that so it's what I'm familiar with liking. I find the concept of firefighter or paramedic attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:08 PM
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One for each decade of life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:03 PM
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Yeah are these guys actually wanting to 100% financially support a woman? Most American guys expect a woman to contribute financially, if not make the same amount or more...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:03 PM
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That swinger guy said his wife was getting too fat for his taste when she looked like 130 lbs and a flat stomach, and said he finds other women more attractive 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 12:01 PM
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How come you refer to yourself as a man, call everyone else women, but then refer to your partner as a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:58 AM
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Yeah 90 day fiance shows that works a treat lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:57 AM
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Oh is that what you call rape now... debasing yourself for trinkets
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:53 AM
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Me, woman: to earn a living in a job I could tolerate My husband: to earn a living in a job I hated the least
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:51 AM
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I've..worked since I was 18
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:47 AM
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So you're saying all women who won't or can't marry the father should have abortions? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:47 AM
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I think you're forgetting not all women are considered hot by a bunch of guys lol. All my school bullies were guys, I've never had guys falling over me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:39 AM
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It's just freaking beyond sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 11:33 AM
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Eurgh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:20 AM
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😂 I like to exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:19 AM
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It's like a kindergarten project where the kids list a favourite thing and what they wanna be when they grow up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 10:19 AM
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😂 um yeah he used to last 5 minutes like I said, and he extends it to 25 minutes lol. I ASSUME he could go for hours if we were desperate enough. I mean we had sex 6x in a day when we first got together and his dick was fine. I was more sore than him. Don't worry, his dick is fine. We've never had sex continuously for hours, I couldn't. My ex husband needed that and it was the worst and i got very injured from it, and didnt want it. I'm not having trouble reading, you just word things really wei…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 10:13 AM
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You talk such gibberish lol. I wouldn't want sex to last for hours, why do you think all women would need that long to have an orgasm? Also it still remains that it's extremely wrong to say people who wait to have sex until they're in a committed relationship OR married have "issues".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:56 AM
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My spiritual beliefs now aren't related to my feelings about sex, otherwise I'd have been sleeping around before I developed any spiritual beliefs. What do you mean, I left out wanting commitment? Why the hell else would I wait to have sex if it wasn't a matter of commitment? I don't have some random amount of time that I conjured up in my head that I stick to for no reason...? Casual sex is sex without being in a relationship. Why would you assume sexual compatibility isn't important to me beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:35 AM
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On what freaking grounds did they refuse to pursue a charge when she said he STRANGLED her repeatedly???? Disgusting. It's 2021. Everyone understands by now that you can consent to sex and then revoke your consent when someone starts physically and violently assaulting you, or introduces sex acts you are not okay with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:27 AM
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I don't need to read again, I'm fluent in English and it only means one thing. It's really extreme to view people as having "issues" if they only have sex with people they're committed to. Sex is great (with the right person), vitally important to me in a relationship, I don't think it is sinful and I was not interested in sleeping with people unless in a committed relationship even when I didn't believe in God, and I was raised atheist and never encouraged to avoid casual sex. It is not compati…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:20 AM
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Yeah... I mean it's understandable to want someone who's sexually reserved like you are. Like attracts like. But it depends whether the desire for a partner with a low count is for moral/individual compatibility reasons, or toxic reasons (like having a horrible view of people who've had many partners instead of just viewing them as different and not compatible with you, or fetishizing virginity, or feeling inadequate)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:18 AM
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It's so frustrating. I've had some... not good people... as partners in the past and I have to admit that none of them even showed interest in other women online or otherwise. I think my nature drives cheaty flirty types far far away from me. I've attracted the wrong men for sure, but never any kind of playboy types. I couldn't stay with a man who did that. It's not jealousy or insecurity. I'm only jealous of real things like people's health or how much they can do in their life. I don't focus o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:10 AM
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And if it takes you months and that commitment for sex then I can only say you have issues. I didn't misunderstand anything. Thats you directly saying people that wait have issues. Issues are problems you need to work on, defective attitudes etc
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:55 AM
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I'm married and pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:42 AM
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Oh wow, so it's having "issues" to wait until you have sex? It's crazy how you think your opinions and your loose dating style should be forced on others. You're looking down on people's boundaries and calling them issues. So unhealthy. I'm not telling other people they have to wait until anything to have sex but you are telling people they have "issues" if they do not believe in casual sex. Can you not see a problem with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:13 AM
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"I don't drink coffee" "I don't drink any milky drinks" "Not into cake for lunch" "I don't go out to get water or tea" Lol that's how the conservation would go if anyone asked me that. They never have luckily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:09 AM
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If a man asks me out on a date, he should pay. You don't invite people and then request a payment. If a man wants to split the bill after he asked me there, it's obvious that he is either going on a lot of dates, or has money troubles, or a completely different idea of romance and relationships to me. Not having sex for months isn't dictating boundaries, that's such an extreme term for someone not feeling ready to have sex until the relationship is fully committed. That's very normal to me and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 07:49 AM
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I don't do casual dating or OLD. I date men I already know and who expressed interest in a relationship. So no it is not ridiculous, yes I expect exclusivity that he is not dating anyone else, and I am in 2021 and married. People trying to force people to subscribe to that kind of dating like you must do OLD is weird. I don't care what anyone else does or how common anything is, I don't go out with randoms, I wpuld never use online dating because it's totally incompatible with the type of person…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:47 AM
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Ngl I did think he was a woman from the first pic. He's pretty I'll give you that..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:01 AM
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That really sucks. I have not had a vaginal orgasm other than with an uncircumcised man who is thicker than average (my husband). Circumcised just cannot do it for me, nor can thin/average girth to be honest. Since you can't really control that.. especially in USA where a huge percentage are chopped.. my advice is just stop faking. Never fake it. If you don't feel into it and it's not feeling good, then stop and say you're done. If you can feel something is slowly building up then tell him that,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:54 AM
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How gross. Report it since it's sexual assault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:50 AM
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Fancy PAYING for someone's onlyfans so you can bully them.. wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:48 AM
1

Hmmm.. I must be hard to please 😂 not my type. I like them less cutesy, and bigger. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:45 AM
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Personally I wouldn't view a man as HV if he was into gossiping or insulting people. He has to understand what I go through as a woman, he has to understand what a lot of men are like, but spiritually and morally, I'm not a trash talker and don't want a man to be. That can be very negative. I don't agree with being nasty to strangers for no reason, but sometimes "mean" has ridiculous definitions for women, like not smiling at strangers as you pass them.. that's not "mean", but men will point it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:41 AM
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I personally wouldn't be mean to people because it goes against my spiritual journey and isn't helpful for me. BUT it's not "mean" to just show no interest in a man, or to point out disrespectful behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:39 AM
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Well I don't see any fundraising initiatives out here to make dating more fair for women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:25 AM
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Makes sense. Many men believe that women don't experience sexual arousal or climax like men do. They think we feel some kind of vague arousal that's not necessarily physical, and that our orgasms are more like a pleasant feeling all throughout the sex act, or mini orgasm (and that's why we can have multiples). And it's like.... no. They get a very bad education from porn. I don't know why porn hasn't at least become more realistic by now. It's obvious that men are increasingly seeking out connec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:19 AM
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It's not having your cake and eating it too if you want a traditional relationship without misogyny. For example, some people may associate traditional relationships with the man earning more money and the woman taking care of more around the house. If 2 people want that, it's fine. But there are also really negative associations like the woman having to be very submissive, put up with bad decisions made by the husband, or even put up with abuse. I think most FDS women want traditional COURTSHIP…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:13 AM
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Thank you, yes I do therapy 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:52 AM
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Umm I guess that may apply to some people, especially if they have certain sexual trauma or low sex drive but I like sex with my husband. Like I get horny and my vag aches and tingles and I feel like I could cry cause I want sex, when I am in the mood. My legs and feet tingle, get goosebumps all over my legs, I mean my husband always checks my legs to see if it's doing it for me. Its partly mental but very physical, that goes for everyone. I'm always like stop checking, you're cheating. He says …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:31 AM
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It sucks!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:34 AM
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They should come with warnings, age restrictions, and any content that incites assault/violence should be removed. Any content that encourages manipulative techniques to get someone to participate in sexual acts should be removed. Posts that say women like to be abused, or like mean men, or that it makes them sexually aroused should be removed. Gender is irrelevant. Same goes for womens "dark triad" type subs. Same even goes for FDS - I have always been against people posting any kind of content…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:06 AM
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Injuries, chronic pain, chronic deliberate sleep deprivation also caused chronic insomnia which can completely change you as a person physically
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:02 AM
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I'm not happy, I'm very unwell. My husband is great but that can't fix your health
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:01 AM
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I was independent but wouldn't call myself a career woman. I have a typical job that has no status associated with it at all, so obviously a man can be similar. I married a man who works in the sane industry. Our industry shows a lot about a person's character. My ex husband was chronically unemployed, so a man being financially independent and stable is essential. Plus my (2nd) husband is in his 40s, why on earth should he be financially unstable? But I don't desire a business man, never did. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:00 AM
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Well I was in a previous abusive marriage which left me with health issues that dramatically lower my quality of life. I have a wonderful husnand now but I can't live my life in a way that I'd want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:56 AM
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So you want a long term relationship to stay like you've only been together 2 months, forever? If people are right for each other, knowing everything about each other only builds connection and closeness, and closeness and safety is a turn on for a lot of people. Not everyone is seeking mystery, danger or a permanent honeymoon period
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:56 AM
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I only date men who are like me, so for me, men always care about emotional intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:53 AM
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Yes there's an overlap, but it's meant to be more about empowerment to the woman. Because the tradwife stuff, even though there's nothing inherently wrong with it, has been muddled up with some misogynistic concepts. I'm sure some women and men that are involved in those communities have healthy balanced marriages, but there is an issue with some of the men being very red pill, and saying problematic redpill type things. FDS is a rebound to the misogyny. So, yes people want a traditional relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:48 AM
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It's men telling other men they're not being aggressive enough, and women telling men they are too aggressive (at times)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:36 AM
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People that use people, aren't doing the morally ideal thing, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:34 AM
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A lot of people put emotional connection pretty high on the list of factors in sexual satisfaction
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:32 AM
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Yeah that's such weird mental gymnastics. They want women to be low count but then change their values, very early on before they even know the guy, just based on a physical attraction to him? That makes zero sense. If they honestly want a reserved low count woman then they themselves should be reserved low count men, and both will proceed cautiously and slowly, mutually demonstrating their values and compatibility. My husband is the love of my life and we waited to have sex just like I would wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:30 AM
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Go tell women who sleep with their underemployed and unpleasant husbands out of duty/guilt/manipulation that they're prostituting themselves... I mean do you really think most women are sleeping with a man when they don't feel like it, for money? I don't know any stay at home moms personally, but if they are unemployed and taking care of children then they're providing non financial contribution to the marriage and household, not living for "free". So it's obviously the mans role to pay the bill…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:17 AM
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I'd say it depends on the individuals. If the woman has a low sex drive or no sex drive, or she's not being treated well by the man, or his techniques aren't working for her and he's not adapting them to her, or she is contracting STIs off him then she's not benefiting. Women are at higher risk of STIs, STIs cause more severe health consequences for us in many cases (fertility etc) and we are the only ones that can get pregnant so sex is generally a bigger risk for women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:15 AM
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Um
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 01:12 AM
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Oh I didn't really read what they typed 😂 yeah they're lame reasons. But work ethic demonstration, keeping their life organised and their spaces clean, general adulting skills.. that's super important. It could tie into financial stability, but stability isn't the same thing as being wealthy Edit - lol downvotes. So financial stability is bad now and you're ready for marriage when you never have any clean undies and you're eating mouldy bread
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:10 AM
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Not my experience at all. I didn't have many partners at all, but I was married before. I'm now married again. I feel way more connected to my husband than I ever did to my ex. I would describe my first marriage as a far far far weaker bond than my 2nd marriage. It's not even comparable. First marriage, I was only 16 when we got together, I didn't know what life was about. Then all through my 20s, it was a really mediocre relationship at its very best and then deteriorated to worse. But even in …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:02 AM
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It's not about expecting that life will be better after 25 at all, it's that people usually don't understand themselves or what makes a genuinely suitable life partner if they are very young.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 06:59 AM
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Some people still have pretty traditional lives
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 06:57 AM
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I don't think people are "entitled" to sex. It's dependent on finding someone that has mutual interest in you. Also having less sex doesn't equal "sexlessness", maybe sone men just aren't into casual sex or are happy being single at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:15 AM
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My husband is better looking than me, but we are in a similar bracket because I'm younger and can polish up ok. If people looked at us like we were totally mismatched then I'd feel quite bad about it. But if he's a bit better looking then I'm not going to focus on it, what we have together is the important thing. Plus we all get old and die so looks are always going to be a heartbreaking thing to place high value on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 01:10 AM
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What's that got to do with what I typed? You mean you don't want a woman with oral herpes like my ex husband had or what? That's the vast majority of people, you most likely have it statistically. I'm the unusual one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/21 12:26 AM
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How so? Atheism is a strong belief and agnostic is unsure or undefined belief. Atheist belief is as strong as theistic belief
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 01:09 PM
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I don't eat with randoms or do that kind of dating. Only date a man who I already know and who expresses he has feelings for me and wants to be in a relationship. So spending money on dates is pretty minor by that point and not something I put much focus on
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 09:11 PM
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Nah I said women would only want to submit to a good leader Do you think a SAHM who is supported by her husband is a prostitute? 😂 How can I be a failed gold digger when I married a broke man and supported him for years? Lol that's zero attempt at gold digging
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:32 AM
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I didn't say anything about covid, we were talking about flu
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 04:23 AM
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He's permanently stuck in his high school years and has always been an immature brat. Probably feels like an eternal victim and takes it out on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:58 AM
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Oh so you haven't heard of LVM and NVM that drain womens resources? Yes men absolutely drain resources. Speak from experience as previous sole income earner
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 01:52 AM
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Yea, likely a better mindset tbh though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 01:49 AM
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Some working class men make good money but I don't think income is a precise marker of a man being high value. A man who earns 50k and is stable and made good financial decisions could be very much more high value than a man who earns 200k and has a very expensive car, toys, huge mortgage on a 2 million dollar property... It's more about a man's overall personality and finances are mostly about stability and balance. A man who has less high pressure job may also be happier and have more spare ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 01:48 AM
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Wtf. No. You don't get to say you're married or have perks of marriage if you're not married. He's against marriage but wants to be viewed as married? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:39 AM
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I'm sex positive in that I have sex with a man who's my husband in ways that I like. I would be traumatized by casual sex and do not want STIs so it would never be positive for me to engage in casual sex or certain sex acts and would have to be forced rape for me to do that. People act like I'm a freak for not doing casual sex and expecting a male partner who has never done it or wanted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:32 AM
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Well we can't control what we believe as in what our brain perceives as real or sensible. Some people struggle with dissociation their whole lives after trauma and nothing ever seems real. So I don't think having doubts or confusion or struggling to see things as real makes someone "wrong". It's more about what someone's actively seeking to me. If someone has doubts but is actively seeking God and spending time with God (that could be through a variety of things like prayer, quiet time, videos, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 11:23 PM
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Not true. Anyone who has a chronic illness (common) and anyone who is elderly or has a baby or is pregnant or has just had surgeries etc etc would be very concerned about influenza and we know that it can cause debilitating post viral syndromes and conditions for some people, and that it goes through aged care facilities and wipes residents out Women in general don't live in sone lala land of denial about STIs since they're the ones getting their pap and HVP tests while men aren't tested, and ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 11:00 PM
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Why would it be weird to assume someone's serious when there are loads of opinionated right wing people here who believe others are just plain wrong if they don't believe certain things
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:57 PM
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Lol I supported my ex husband for 5 years so definitely never had a gold digger mindset. You can't have that submissive/dominant dynamic and traditional gender roles if the man is earning less than the woman, equal or unemployed. A man is not going to seem "alpha" if he earns jack and couldn't take care of you if you became pregnant or needed him. Women aren't just randomly attracted to men who act dominant. They are attracted to capable leaders. Capable leaders are also financially stable and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:51 PM
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I'm Christian and that's utterly stupid. Atheist is never the same category as agnostic. Atheist completely believes there is no God, that they fully know there is no God of any kind or an afterlife or anything like that. It could be considered a type of religion in a way, since it has strict concept of belief in no God. Agnostic people are not atheists and are on a spectrum of being unsure, possibly believing but doubting, seeking, seeing no way to be able to tell either way, open to anything, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:44 PM
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Yeah, I had NO romantic or sexual feelings for my ex husband for YEARS before it ended. People assume you stay in an abusive relationship because it was thrilling and you were addicted to it. Wtf no. I viewed him as a problematic child who was my responsibility and nothing more. I felt pressured by the marriage vows, by religion and the fear of upheaval of my entire life when I was barely able to get through each day. Asshole men on reddit use women like me to prove that "women like bad boys" an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:25 AM
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Talking every day isn't constant contact. Constant is being on the phone every minute that you're apart
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:19 AM
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I don't get bored of my husband and we talk to each other every day. So you will never live with a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:18 AM
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No that was never normal. That's like an acquaintance that you catch up with sometimes. I never run out of things to talk about with my husband. And how will you ever live with someone? You've just never had real feelings or connection or been in love, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:15 AM
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Woman. Depends where I'm at in my cycle since that's biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:12 AM
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Yes just like being assertive and not submissive is now a necessity of modern life, since anyone with any sense will be cautious and make their own decisions with their hard earned money. There is no necessity or reason for a wonan to be submissive if she is an equal earner, or earns more than her partner, or is the sole bread winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:11 AM
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Being provided for doesn't mean you have an empty bank account or only a joint one. You can establish yourself financially (assets or savings) and then be provided for. So long as the provider wants to provide, is able to without harm to themselves and that it's fair and works. I don't think the aim should be to be a dependent, that's unsafe. Obviously it only happens if the provider is better off financially, or you become ill or have children etc. The provision should just come naturally and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:05 AM
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My husband and I are blue pill but he gets a traditional marriage. I do more cooking and cleaning, I respect his choices, we have traditional gender roles in many ways. Basically he gets what red pill men act like they want, well the ones who want a relationship. But the thing is that since we have traditional roles, he earns more money and pays more bills. It's common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 10:03 AM
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If any man brags about doing anything sexual for hours, I don't want a sample of it, that's for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:59 AM
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Yeah imagine if a woman rubbed your dick so that it hurt and you had no orgasm. You weren't turned on by it in any way but she loved it. And then women went around saying your life is blessed because you could get that experience more often. Oh and it will give you STIs. Men could fuck more sex workers if they wanted to and have just as much access to sex. There are waaaaay more sex workers that cater to men than women. But they don't want to because they wouldn't enjoy it in those circumstances…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:50 AM
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Um no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:49 AM
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They had little resources most likely and joined groups for that reason. Prob got raped a lot in said groups. Prob did not join groups for any personal sexual desire or reason. Probably preferred to avoid pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:47 AM
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Here have some poison so that I have a better chance of gettin in your pants Do you feel special now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:46 AM
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It's sexist but it also is created because not enough women are attending the venue or website or whatever it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:45 AM
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I agree with the first part but not the second. I get tested for HSV/HPV and I expect a partner to be tested for HSV too. I also only have sex with men who have been celibate for many years before being with me (that affects HPV clearance) and low count. It's not impossible to lie of course, but my vetting process is probably one of the most extremes in the world. But it's still always possible, just less likely. Plus my reasons for celibacy and low count extend way beyond STIs. My ex husband pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:37 AM
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HPV and herpes are the most common and are easily contracted if a condom is used so I don't know why you're assuming it's from unprotected sex. You can easily get herpes from a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:32 AM
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If you have it then you're infected with it, male or female. Men still get penile and anal cancer as well as throat cancers from HPV, it's just less incidence than cervical cancer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:30 AM
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You can't really decide what lube products to put in somebody else though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:28 AM
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Doesn't seem unusual to me to be fooling around or having sex with your same age bf/gf and get herpes/hpv
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:27 AM
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It's more an infection of nerves with a resulting lesion, not particularly a skin condition
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:25 AM
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There is no protection for herpes. Condoms don't protect against herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:21 AM
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Because a person has no right to decide for another person whether they get an infection. If they know they have it then they should tell a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:20 AM
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Oh so PID, infertility and cancer are just embarrassing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:17 AM
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Yeah but they don't test HSV1/2 or HPV in an STI panel. Or HSV in men at all. A clean test doesn't mean much for hpv or herpes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:16 AM
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How would you know that if only women are tested for HPV?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:14 AM
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Condoms won't stop you getting HSV1 or HSV2 or HPV
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:13 AM
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Children and virgins can and do often have HPV and HSV. Virgins can easily have HSV, HPV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis from oral sex or even get some STIs from touching or rubbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:11 AM
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Carcinogenic HPV is never visible and men are not tested at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:09 AM
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It'd be more than that since most people with HPV or herpes don't know. Men are not tested for HPV. Around the world, many men don't have bits of their genitals chopped off, so their penises are similar susceptibility to STIs. So this should not be used as a "women are nasty" shitpost. Even circumcised men are very vulnerable to STIs as they are highly contagious either way. Women have more burden with risk of cancer and pelvic inflammatory disease/infertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:05 AM
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Not going through it. Left me with PTSD and injuries that cause permanent issues and disability. I don't consider a 2 year relationship as very long term either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:04 AM
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Pfht no mention of HPV or herpes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:01 AM
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Tickling is really unappealing and unattractive to me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:00 AM
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No, they feel sorry for them. Either because they believe they're innocent or believe they're traumatized. They have sick fantasies of saving them or being the one to get through to them, to be the object of their affection etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:57 AM
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You can't be fantasizing about rape when you are wanting sex and willing to have sex so it's irrelevant. People are turned on by the man wanting them and being dominant. It isn't related to rape or a fantasy of rape since the feeling is mutual and the wonan wants to have sex with him
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:53 AM
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One that doesn't happen. I'm not into cheap fast food or people
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:52 AM
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I want to know about feeling refreshed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:48 AM
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Wait did they classify atheist and agnostic as one category??
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:46 AM
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I agree that it's luck, but if you use apps that are commonly used for hooking up or mainly meet men who are partying at bars on a saturday night, the chances go down even further. I'm not telling people they shouldn't use apps or that it's impossible to meet a good man on them but if someone was using tinder then they're just going to expose themself to douchebag after douchebag on a much larger scale. I only date men I'm already friends with and know quite well and there hasn't been many of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:31 AM
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I'm married and I agree that a big part of it is "luck" (also God's plan, destiny perhaps), but I also think that dating apps will have the lowest chance of success. A lot of HVM aren't attracted to dating apps, whereas most thirsty men wanting thrills/fun/"see where it goes"/sex/a forever girlfriend/a temporary girlfriend will be. It makes sense because if you want someone who's quite traditional, reserves sex for a relationship, wants marriage, has a full life... they're either going to view a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:41 PM
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Yeah, on other subs, they act like WOMEN date men based on how attractive they're considered by society and if their friends will think he's hot because we're "more social and have lower sex drives"... uhhh what?? I have NEVER heard a woman imply she wants to date a guy because everyone thinks he's so hot or because he looks like a model lol. Sure, attraction is important but most women set their own standards and have their own taste. It's the men who are going on about "model tier" women and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:54 AM
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True and a big red flag that men should notice in other men is how they talk about women. Do they make comments or jokes about rape, verbal abuse, cheating or anything like that? Do they complain that all women expect too much? Do they talk about "female privilege", "divorce rape", or "false accusations"? Do they believe women have it easy in life? Do they immediately side with men in high profile cases of alleged assault against a woman whether it's rape or domestic violence? These are big warn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:41 AM
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I think the clitoris is always involved, but if you have an orgasm from penetration only, and not due to the guy or anything else incidentally rubbing your clit, it's pretty different to a clitoral focused orgasm. I feel mote tingling in my vagina canal than my clit when I have a "vaginal" orgasm. But I have no idea if it would happen if I had my entire clitoris structure removed. But yeah if I just rub my clit and orgasm, it feels 95% clitoris and 5% vagina but if I have an orgasm from sex with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:51 PM
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Did the dogs make it or people that want to spin dogs?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 11:31 PM
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Yeah but you dont need it at all to get pregnant. Idiot men think that if a woman got pregnant from rape then she must have orgasmed or liked it or wanted it in some way 🤦🤦🤦🤦 when the sperm will go into the cervix either way and if she's ovulating now or soon then the cervix will be more open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:28 PM
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Umm no Flowers, if she's ovulating or going to in the next few days then sperm enter the cervix and into the uterus and reach the egg 🤦 she does not need to orgasm for that to happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:23 AM
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Like I always say.. nice is important but if it was ALL that mattered then I'd marry my 80 year old neighbour or my dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 06:00 AM
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So frustrating!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:34 AM
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Unfortunately it's not very rare or unique
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 12:33 AM
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Well when my ex husband was refusing to work and being abusive, I'm not going to gently approach things like a whimpy sad sack and say "oh honey I really think it'd be so good for you to get a job and would really help me out dear". I mean it might have been like that in the first month but after years, I would get home and he let the dogs shit and piss inside the house on carpet, well forced them to as he wouldn't get up to let them out when they cried at the door, and he'd a) not done one thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 12:23 AM
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Uh it's happening right now. I'm guessing me financially supporting my ex husband for 5 years who wouldn't work or do house work or yard work or cook also didn't happen? Man if we could magically make all this not happen and get our money and health back, that would be great! Said ex was on red pill btw. Oh and domestic violence never happened too? This is some cool lala land 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 12:12 AM
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I don't tell people how much savings I have. They suddenly act like youre luckier than them, that it's unfair and that you don't understand what life us like for others. And I'm nowhere near rich, I have like 80k savings and we have a house with low mortgage. And it's like... no. I am not lucky. I busted my ass since 18 doing really lowly gross jobs and working has given me health issues, burned me out. I never ever traveled or bought nice things, I buy basic clothes only once every couple of ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:18 PM
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Um nope we care about how he treats all people and animals, and his living space
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 03:09 PM
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So you think women want to date assholes and befriend assholes and they dont care if he's an asshole to other people? Ummmm a lot of women have sisterhood so they will not want to associate with a guy who treated other women like shit. And they wouldn't want to be around a guy who had issues with other men either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 03:00 PM
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I just find being overweight has stopped men staring at me weirdly in the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:58 PM
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I kicked by NVM ex husband out and celebrated literally that week by going out with someone I'd liked from afar for a really long time, haha. A bit unorthodox but hey, been together 6 years and married now 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:30 PM
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I don't categorize people based on their looks and decide whether I like them or whether I could date them based on that... weirdos
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:12 PM
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Yep. My ex says anything was either self defence, understandable, or didn't happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:15 AM
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They'd view any discussion of what you need to change as criticism though, because it is valid criticism if they have poor behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 09:13 AM
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I wouldn't say we have less hormones. We have less testosterone but estrogen plays a huge role in women's sex drives and pur sex drive peaks at certain parts of the cycle Mens testosterone is lower at night or the next day if they haven't slept enough, also if they're overweight with too much body fat or ageing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 09:10 AM
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Sex is really important to me, in a marriage. If they say that to me, it's like telling me that I can easily find a suitable life partner. That's not easy. Having casual sex would be traumatic for me, not satisfying or validating. I only have sex with a life partner, just like I'd only move in or have kids with a life partner. I've also only been approached by a guy 3 times in my life (I'm 33) and they were all way younger than me and 2 happened in a night club. So I'm not sure why guys think ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 06:41 AM
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That's like saying who the man develops into is his partner's responsibility like she's his mother raising him. Or that it's understandable if employees are extremely unethical and committing fraud that it's their bosses fault for not giving enough perks. Adults are still responsible to conduct themselves like adults. We should have self motivated behaviour, not need to be guided and supervised to be decent because we're not children. I didn't get praise, care or encouragement when I supported m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:06 AM
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Australia is similar. We have rural and desert areas, different major cities, completely detached island states etc. I was married to an American and would never ever live there due to lack of healthcare, poor minimum wages, poor workers rights, laughable annual/long service/sick/parental leave, lack of gun control/open carrying/shootings, food quality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 02:01 AM
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It depends where you are but young Australians are social media obsessed and I know a lot of women who have had breast augmentation, rhinoplasty, botox fillers etc. We have weird culture where people on kind of average incomes get all kinds of surgery and want the latest everything. We also have huge yuppie culture/tall poppy syndrome and large spans of inner suburbia and some outer suburbia where there is extreme wealth. It's nothing like crocodile dundee and most people live in metropolitan ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:27 AM
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Because when people marry quite young, they usually do so based on love and based on what they can see in the future together. They're usually basing their feelings on what it's like to be with that person and how they're currently spending their life. But a lot changes from your teens and early 20s to your 30s and beyond. Life changes, people change, and you can easily find yourself unhappy with what it's become despite plenty of communication. Because communication can't change people's person…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 01:21 AM
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Well it was only 2 people. One 12 year relationship that went bad over time and so I got divorced, then another relationship that's so far 6 years and we are married
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:51 AM
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I'm in Australia. Are you saying where you live that all stereotypically good looking people are confident? Some of them have the worst hang ups and low self esteem and being valued only for their looks is a part of it. Plus we all get older, and fast, so it's an odd thing for anyone to put that much focus on. People are all attracted to different things because we have different genetics so it would go against our survival instincts to all be attracted to one woman or one man. It's subjective. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:47 AM
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I guess the reason for marrying could indicate whether it might flop faster, like getting married because it's going nowhere. A wedding won't fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:43 AM
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30 something. Average height maybe 5'10 and balding. She's 5'8 and very thin. He has like this gerbil kinda face with no jawline and is quite overweight with pot belly. He expects her to pay half of all bills plus extras like all Christmas gifts for the kids and things that add up to thousands per year so she's actually paying more towards their life even though he earns more. I dont see them going the distance because he doesnt really offer much towards their life, shes pulling a lot of weight …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:23 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:21 AM
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I dont rate women or men by numbers or view them as more worthy or valuable based on age, looks etc. I said most people are average and are with average people. But yes I know women who are considered soooo hot by guys who are with men who don't earn much money. I know one whose husbands earns 50k a year, that is average in my country where a basic old house an hour from the nearest city starts at 500k minimum. Ive never heard any friends talking about how much a man makes as if it's a reason to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 10:00 AM
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If a man is verbally abusing a woman and hitting her, if she defends herself or argues with him about his behaviour that does not make them mutually abusive but every man that hits women will claim it was all mutual
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 09:57 AM
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Never been single tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 09:55 AM
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i track every time we have sex on my flo app for my cycle and contraception
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 09:49 AM
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