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THIS. I see the lights fade behind their eyes when they hear I don't drink. And no, not even social drinking, I don't drink AT ALL. They always clarify, "Really? Not even a little? Really?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:01 AM
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Love this! I want to be a cool Auntie the kids can be proud of 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:22 PM
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Don't do it. Men looking for "romance" online do it because the internet disguises their faults. There's a reason women his age don't want to be around him or with him. He's preying on you, and that is HIS fault, not yours. I "lost" my virginity to a man 10 years older than me just to get it over with, but it gave me 10 years of bad sexual habits to break out of. Save that special moment for someone who TRULY LOVES you for you, not the things you can do for them. Find someone kind, gentle, and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 02:41 AM
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This. So proud she drove herself for reasons like this. I'm hugely against women getting into cars with strange men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:06 AM
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Tell him that you think his best friend is hot and that you classify all his friends in a Smash or Pass category. Tell him that you masturbate to their pictures. If he complains, tell him he's "insecure ", "needy", and that you're wired to look at other men. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 11:15 PM
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If they don't bring it up, dump them. And only agree if YOU'RE into it. If you're unsure about them still, trust your instincts and cut them loose. Definitely do not have sex with them before the conversation and don't have sex soon after (if you agree to the relationship). A lot of them lie in wait, lie about their intentions, and use those words ("Be my girlfriend ") as a magic password to get instantsex. I had a scrote wait 3 months and ask me to be his girlfriend. I agreed, he stayed over (h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 05:11 PM
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I'd tell him to go back in time and reverse his age to the age when I first met him (that age gap, though 🤮). If he couldn't do that, I'd tell him the marriage was over. Everyone knows bodies change after giving birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:49 AM
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I'm sure a lot of pickme moms feel attacked lol But it's true! That's how it looks when they do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 09:21 PM
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I thought we all just "picked the wrong guy", like all the scrotes/ male apologists say. Then in the same breath, they say, "Give him a chance! Fix him! Build with him!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:50 PM
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But "not all men!", right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:03 PM
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Scrotes have left the chat lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 06:40 AM
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Lots of Uber drivers are scrotes, too. We're not safe anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 06:11 AM
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That's what I was thinking. If she posted a pic of the husband's stuff after the kids ruined it, no one would laugh or find it wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:31 PM
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I wear sleeping hats and use hair towels. My hair is super sensitive, so I absolutely need to use them. If any man is weird about it, they're getting dropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:56 PM
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How scary and infuriatingly entitled of him!! I'm glad you're getting a paper trail and getting out of there. Your instincts about him were right. Please be safe! Can you put up cameras in the meantime?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:29 PM
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I'm glad the date went well, but that's all it was - a date. Keep living your life as if the date didn't happen. If he's serious about you, he should be the one contacting you and leading. Don't start daydreaming about him and pausing your life to accommodate him. And a safety note: don't let another man know where you live so early on. It sounds like he already knew your roommates/ friends beforehand, so that couldn't be avoided, but for other strange men, please keep your address secret. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:24 PM
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I screamed!! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 07:44 PM
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I lived with 2 other women once. One of them got a boyfriend, and he was over ALL THE TIME. It was so horrible having a man in our space 24/7.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:42 AM
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I got the same vibe from him, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:57 PM
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Yes, I remember that. And he was whining that she wasn't fun anymore and that he lost attraction to her and "didn't sign up for this" 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:52 PM
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Dump him. This post gave me a bad feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:18 AM
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I agree. I never liked cohabitating. I stayed a few weekends with my scrote ex (because he didn't want to come to me 🤡), and I learned a lot seeing him 24/7 for a few days at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:34 AM
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They hate us so fucking bad. They hate us when we do all the sick shit they want, and they hate us when we don't. Why? And then they say "not all men" while they coach and cover for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:04 AM
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All the comments are saying she's not the asshole and are telling her to dump him. Thank goodness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:09 AM
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She wouldn't do anal, probably 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:33 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you trusted your instincts about how horrible he was and aborted his rotten sperm. He doesn't deserve to part of your life anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:34 PM
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The scrotacity does not surprise me. I'm glad you were firm and used your head. Use a burner number or Google Voice for Craigslist transcations. And don't let them come into your apartment to get it. If possible, be waiting in public (maybe out front) with it shortly before they arrive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:49 AM
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Seriously. I teared up hearing that line. I'm so proud of myself. I'm so proud of us!! Thank you, OP, for sharing this Tiktok 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:17 PM
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This was me before FDS 🤡💗🙈🙊😿🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:21 AM
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And it's a safety issue, too. He could easily assault you in your home, and if things go south, he knows your address. From now on, make it a rule to never go anywhere private with a guy for at least 4 months (no car, no house, etc). I stuck to those rules of them not driving me anywhere or knowing my address even when I was a pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:03 PM
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But if a 12 year GIRL wrote about being molested, it's all her fault 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:39 AM
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Take it slow, clear your head, and hold keep your heart closed off. It has only been a few weeks, you're falling for him too fast, and he's 5 years older. He might be stringing you along as a pretty, young thing on his arm. Keep dating other men, don't tell him about it, and say, "I'm seeing what else is out there" if he asks. He wants you on his arm but doesn't want to give you a proper label. Not fair. And slow down the physical stuff. I've done that so many times early on with guys I was "tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:43 PM
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Same here.. Nunneries sound so calm, peaceful, quiet, clean, and comforting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:36 PM
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I'm glad you got out of that, but next time, do NOT get in cars with men you haven't vetted for several months and do NOT let them know where you live. Also, as others already mentioned, don't tell the guy you want a relationship. See what HE wants by his thoughts and actions and act accordingly when they don't match your wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 11:59 PM
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Call off the date, and read the handbook. If you want a preview of how miserable age gap relationships are, look at the amithebutthole and brackingmum subs. Think what's wrong with this guy that no woman his age wants him. Learn from your older sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:37 PM
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This is so sad. She didn't deserve any of this. I wrote a post about why I quit OLD, and this one of those reasons: they hold us responsible for WHATEVER is done to us. OLD is seen as written consent for depravity. But if a scrote goes on a date with a fat or ugly woman who catfished him or didn't get sex in the first minute, everyone coos and holds him while he cries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:28 PM
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Congratulations on your victory and scrote removal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 04:12 PM
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Welcome! This sub will open your eyes and change your life. Please read The Handbook 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:52 PM
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Same. This was my whole 20s experience 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:37 AM
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My extreme anger at my latest dating fail (at the time) led me to search for answers online, and it let me to FDS. I have no idea how I found it because I had never even used Reddit beforehand, but I'm soooo grateful I found this sub. It has changed and has saved my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:41 PM
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Same here. They are beautiful, but I would NEVER "expirement" with them or play with any hearts like a man would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:31 PM
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I was in a car accident, I went to Urgent Care, and I was given a pat on the back. I had to beg for medicine, for additional tests, and for any medical attention. The doctor said, "I'm not a waiter. I can't just order X rays for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:33 AM
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I see you're 50/50 on kids. Don't sleep with him, protect your birth control and, and dump him. If he feels you're on the way out, he'll try to get you pregnant so that you stay. Keep your thoughts about leaving him to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:28 AM
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Mom was late 20s, and Dad was early 40s 🤢 He's the guy who married and had a family to tick boxes of his list. She was nurse and a purse for him. He is the bumbling dad who doesn't know what his kids like, what to feed them, much less where items in the house are. After almost 30 years, he STILL doesn't care to know what my mom likes or even wants from McDonald's. He doesn't do dates or gifts or show my mom any appreciation. As a result, my mom is always stressed and screaming, and he gaslights …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:46 PM
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You can see it in his language: "older MEN" and "younger GIRLS" 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:30 PM
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This. The vacation strategy is so good. I actually broke up with a scrote (that I should have broken up with on the first date) DURING the vacation. He got to the Airbnb before me (I was working and came after), and he locked me out. I paid for the Airbnb, btw 🤡 I arrived at midnight, and his phone was off and I was stranded. I was so upset, but I thankfully found new lodging with the Airbnb host. Of course, my scrote ex came by the next morning, guilt tripping me and manipulating me into forgiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:24 PM
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I want to do this, too! Even as a pick me, I would have laughed in a guy's face if he asked me to move in. The thought was insulting. I never want to live with a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:34 AM
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Scrotes will go REEEEEEE!! and commit terrorist acts. The logical sex, amirite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:18 AM
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Same. When I did OLD or told dates that in person, they were all so weird about it, like, "Great. I can't get her drunk and r@pe her and gaslight her into thinking it was her fault/ that I didn't do anything wrong."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:28 AM
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That piece of advice is good, but most Matthew Hussey advice is trash. I read his books and articles when I was a pick me; he basically encourages you to be a lib fem cool girl. He says if a guy asks for sex early to not be offended because "all guys want sex" and to be open minded to his kinks. Trash advice overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:49 PM
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Nope. One guy I dated broke up with me and explained that it's "because he met someone new and wanted to pursue things with her" 🤡 Points for honesty, right?? /s Of course, it didn't work out, and he came back. I was pissed and gave him a bit of hell, but I took him back 🤡 Later, he dumped me again for another girl 🤡🤡🤡 This was OBVIOUSLY pre-FDS in my pick me, clown days lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:12 PM
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Yeah, I was taught how to play pool a few times like that, too 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:28 AM
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Yep. My LV brother complains about my LV dad but does the same things as him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:44 AM
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This happened to me so many times 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:28 PM
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I'm so glad you got out of that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 06:37 AM
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I smile instantly whenever I see these. Thanks so much for creating them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:39 PM
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Exactly. I keep commenting the same "DANGER! DANGER!" on each of those posts where they mentioned being picked up. Women can't be so trusting like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 07:53 AM
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I love this energy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:26 AM
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Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 07:59 AM
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❌ DON'T GET IN CARS WITH STRANGERS ❌ You're basically trapped, and they can kidnap you or assualt you. Shit, I gave some guys rides before, and I had to push them off me or remove my hand from their crotch (they grabbed it and put it there). It's not safe for women to be in cars with men, and it's not safe for them to know where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:01 AM
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Dump him. He knows how much it means for you to be with a provider and he STILL lied? My dad was supposed to be a provider when my mom married him. Guess what? He wasn't, and she has been footing the bill for everything in their marriage since. He benefited from it, but she's the one always worrying about money and making all the financial decisions. She even changed careers because of how cruel and stingy he is. In their newlywed days, he gave her hell for asking him to buy a $12 textbook she n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:16 PM
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I want girls to prioritize their own happiness and goals over making hypothetical boys in their life happy. They're taught to be merchandise on display in the off chance that they catch a boy's eye, but their own dreams and talents gather dust. I don't want girls to put their lives on hold for useless boys. They need to only entertain relationships that ADD to their lives and don't subtract from their health, self esteem, happiness, ambitions, safety, and other relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:35 PM
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Oh, that one! I tried watching it pre-FDS and couldn't get into it. I wonder why lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 08:29 PM
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Which drama?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:26 PM
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Find your own ride to and from dates. Now he knows where you live. And you cut the date short because he was a creep - what if he refused to take you home or drove you to his place against your will? Please be safe next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 02:26 AM
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I agree, and I stopped reading at the age gap. It was sweet for him to send her some home remedies, but that is basic stuff. If someone I love is in pain, I'm gonna take care of them. If I see a stranger fall down on the street, I'm going to check and see if they're okay. The reason these older guys like younger girls so much is because they're easier to impress and manipulate. I see she has high standards and is still vetting, but she still made a post praising him for the bare minimum. It's th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:06 PM
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He probably suggested it to seem friendly and more accessible, typical grooming shit. Let's not blame the OP for his behavior. He's still in the wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:31 AM
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Did he try communicating with her? Women aren't mind readers. They have needs. She could also be depressed, too. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 06:54 PM
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I'm totally against OLD. I wasted my 20s on all of the apps and sites, and it was useless, dangerous, and damaging. Check out my post for reasons why I'm against it. Get that Masters, build up your resume/ work network and savings, and focus on your health, hobbies, and girlfriends! I wish I could go back on time to do those things instead... 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 09:35 PM
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Yep, you did the right thing. Not to sound skeptical, but flaky men who date around use the "death in the family" excuse a lot. Truth or not, it's not your problem. Be ready for him to magically come back in a few weeks. Prevent that by blocking and deleting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:55 AM
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The book "Why Men Love Bitches" talks about this. She says that when a man you're vetting visits your place, you instruct him from the jump to clean up after himself ("Put dirty dishes in the sink ") and only ONCE. If he is messy, he shouldn't be allowed back. As for cooking, she says to only give him microwave popcorn or microwave hot dogs lol She says not to cook for him until he has earned it and is consistently vetted. When he has proven himself down the line (not within the first few dates,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:26 PM
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-Do not let him know where you live or other private information (last name, workplace, schedule). -Find your own way there to and fro. -Do not accept a ride from him. Don't get in cars with strange men. -Do not go to his place or your place. Stay in public always. -Let friends know where you're going, his name, and his picture. -Have enough money to get out of any situation. -HE PAYS for the date. If he makes a big scene or wants to sPlit, pay your half, and leave. -If he is sexual at all ("jok…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing. I love her accent, it's so cute! Can anyone identify it? I wanna say it's from the East Coast, but I don't want to offend anyone if I get it wrong lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:56 PM
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Exactly! I won't stand for a man who won't stand up for me. Women are hated and criticized for everything, and if he isn't standing up for her, it means that he's relieved to have her as a punching bag/ distraction instead of him. Also, why does his father know so much about his sex life anyway?? My family does the whole sex shaming thing, so I'd lie in order to not make my bf look bad in their eyes. Why is this "shamed about sex" bf broadcasting his sex life to his father? He was setting you up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:51 AM
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Right?? I was waiting for the GOOD part about him, but it never came.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:21 PM
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If he made you uncomfortable enough that you had to lie, that means your body knows what's up. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:20 PM
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I didn't have a gut feeling, but I did feel TENSE all over when I first met him. My face couldn't even relax, and I felt like my smiles were forced, but I told myself, "It's nothing. You're just nervous 🤡" Turns out he was a horrible guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:03 PM
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Ha ha. Same here!! All aboard the Clown Express. Of course I gaslit myself about that rudeness 🤡🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:07 AM
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Tell this to my mom. She wants me to marry someone, ANYONE just for grand kids and so she can brag that I have a husband. But then she complains about my LVM dad in the next breath 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:32 PM
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Not sure, but search the keywords "single mother by choice" or SMBC(?) or sperm banks. I wouldn't coparent with a man. They use children to control women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:13 PM
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Have the baby on your own. Some FDS users have posted links where women agree to do coparenting with men in advance but then the man decides to exert control of "his legacy!" and break the coparenting agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:07 PM
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Some won't even pay for your coffee, embarrassingly enough (ask me how I know 🤡). A few told me they "already had coffee" before we met up or that they "don't drink coffee". I had my cool girl smile and paid for my own coffee, so I paid to waste my time with total clown shit. I won't fall for that shit ever again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:00 PM
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Don't accept anymore coffee "dates". Block and delete any of them that suggest it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:57 PM
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I'm glad she recorded that and that it was in daylight. The comments were surprisingly supportive. They couldn't "not all men" when the evidence was clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:07 PM
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It IS a strategy here. Its like the "blood in the water" test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:49 AM
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Block him anyways. Why are you subjecting yourself to sexual harassment for the sake of his health?? He couldn't even offer polite condolences without making it about his dick. His sympathy and compassion is as small as his dick. HIS HEALTH IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Don't put yourself on an altar for his useless ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:30 PM
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I just looked her up, and she looks way younger than 25! I used to have a huge crush on Jake Gyllenhaal back in the day, but he looks old enough to be her dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:15 PM
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How horrible. I'm so sorry for your loss 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:00 PM
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Congrats! Reward yourself, rest, read the Handbook again, and strengthen yourself mentally and emotionally before dating again. I'm glad you're free of that dead weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:09 PM
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I once saw an Asian toddler with his White grandparents at the park, and the grandparents were so racist when they were talking about other Asians there. What values will his side of the family uphold when you're NOT there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:41 PM
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In my pre FDS days, a clown I met up with did the whole "No pictures cuz of my industry" excuse because the only pics he wanted to share were sexual 🙃 Also, he said we couldn't meet at his place (I was considering just doing cool girl sex with him) because he " had a female roommate [WIFE or GIRLFRIEND] and didn't want her to be uncomfortable". It's amazing how easily they lie. I didn't sleep with him , dumped him after I couldn't take the red flags anymore, and I used Reddit for the first time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:22 PM
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One of the FDS users has a great technique called the "blood in the water test", like how sharks come to feed when they smell water. Share a fake insecurity or fake traumatic event with a partner and see if they use it against you, bring it up, tease you, seem aroused or excited by it, etc. A lot of FDS members have done it and have seen the men they dated take the bait. It was an effective way of seeing if the men could be trusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:13 AM
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Remind yourself that you're worth having a noble, awesome, selfless, caring man and that the love you want is worth waiting for, not suffering for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:21 AM
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That's misandry!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:15 PM
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A-woman!! I'm working two jobs so I can afford my own place. I'd rather have 2 jobs than rely on the double income of a stingy, abusive, degenerate scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:04 PM
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If it's safe for you to do so, send this to his gf and block and delete. How insulting that he thinks you're as low as he is. Whenever men are inappropriately sexual, it's not an accident. They think you're too dumb to know their endgame, and they want to blame you for their actions in the future. That's why they hate FDS so much because we're slowing down and (hopefully) stopping their supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:56 PM
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Protect your children!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:51 PM
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Can you have him move out sooner than that? Take your kids and go somewhere else and tell him he has the weekend to leave. Men are dangerous when you're breaking up with them, so if you give him extra time, he will try to hurt you or ruin your property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:51 PM
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Yes, DO NOT look for part time jobs on Craigslist. It's a cess pool there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:46 PM
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I agree with the others. Trust your instincts. If he's a virgin and if you have bad vibes or an uncertain feeling in your stomach, trust it. He'll be either be a woman hater who wants to get his revenge on the first woman he sleeps with because he got rejected in high school, pornsick, or someone with weird and violent fetishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:00 PM
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I can rely on my vibrator. You can't rely on a man lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:25 PM
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Kudos to you! I spent ALL of my 20s focusing on attracting men and on dating, and it was a huge waste of time. I really wish I had made the same decision you're making now about focusing on you and your goals. My family's culture puts the emphasis on a husband and kids also, so you'll hear a lot of resistance and fear mongering from them, but stay strong! Useless men are a dime a dozen, but you only live your 20s once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 07:25 PM
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What a marvelous analogy. Maintaining happy, healthy lives and sincere, loving relationships is TRUE empowerment 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:45 AM
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Exactly. He "didn't know any better" because he can't be bothered to empathize with women and treat them as human beings. It's like excusing someone's racism. You can't teach men to respect others. They have to want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:35 AM
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No, don't give out your number. The scrotes and predators want you off the apps so you can't report them (not like reporting does anything, but that's another story). They'll say stuff like "It's hard for me to see messages on here", " I don't want to miss your messages", or " It'll be faster if we text", but don't fall for it. Keep chatting on the app until YOU feel ready. It's easier to block and delete through the app if things go south. And if you choose to give out your number, give a secon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:24 PM
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When I was 17 and an older guy was hollering at me from his car (I was waiting to cross the street), I said, "I'm 15!", and he said, "That's okay. We can be friends for a few years." 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 05:47 PM
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Dump him. Sucks that that you work with him, but he sounds useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:06 PM
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I agree. The way OP worded that makes me worried for her. OP, look into why you're so worried about his reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:20 AM
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Also, make sure to find your own way there and back home. DO NOT GET INTO CARS WITH STRANGERS OR LET HIM KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE. Even as a pick me, I never relented on that boundary. Those days of men giving rides on the first date are done. Never put your safety, privacy, and vulnerability in the hands of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:25 PM
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It'll still be a waste of time to go out with him at this point. Trust me. He's only telling you what you want to hear now so he gets what he wants from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:19 PM
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Block and delete. They know what they're doing when they suggest a coffee date. Don't even respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:19 AM
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Bring money. You can't trust men with your safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:59 AM
118

That's men for you. Being gas lighting hypocrites who wank with their left hand and point with their right. The nerve of him to blame HER for their account over drafting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:32 AM
32

A stranger doing this love-bombing stuff early on before a relationship has been established and highly vetted is a red flag. They're exerting minimal effort for massive results. It doesn't pull a muscle to send a text. They know women (cuz you're not the only one he's talking to) love compliments, so he's sending them to everyone and seeing who bites. They want to see who they can trick into bed the soonest, even the men who say "I want a relationship, too". Don't fall for it, and keep vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:19 PM
18

Excellent job cultivating peace and protecting yourself from immense disrespect! So proud of you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:26 PM
45

This is so cringe. It's easy to laugh, but I could have easily written this when I was back in college. I'm so glad for my growth! This Libfem "sleep with him first, ask questions later" shit is so harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:27 PM
20

Misandry! This is a man hating sub! Reeeee /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:44 AM
4

All I see are reasons to dump him. You don't need him to be a monster to leave, and you don't need our permission either. You're not happy with him. Plain and simple. Life is too short to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:57 AM
40

How horrible. Thanks for posting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:07 AM
263

Yep. The last scrote I fucked (unfortunately) used a small condom that kept "slipping off" randomly. When I was concerned with his limp dick and slipping condoms (they ALL were like that), he suggested doing anal instead - without condoms. I lit into him like, "You're over 30 years old. How do you NOT know how condoms work??", and he was surprised Pikachu that I called him out. I left and blocked him on the way out the door. I was furious that he was willing to endanger my health for shitty sex.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:40 AM
35

I've commented this a few times, but my ex DID say this to me. I "communicated " that I didn't like it, but lo and behold, he raped me anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 02:21 AM
9

Keep dressing for you! Men think everything is done for them. Vet against those scrotes who think you're desperate for a man (projection much, scrotes?), and keep living life beautifully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:36 AM
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Redditors have left the chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:29 AM
48

I see that shit there all the time. I wish there could be a female child free sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:44 PM
81

I also dated a guy with a serious micropeen and genuinely liked him, but his ego and insecurities got in the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:43 AM
130

Yeah, it's way too early to be dating someone else. Your living situation is very unstable. Get yourself to safety and have some money first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:08 AM
9

Same. I did OLD for 10 years, and it was a shitshow the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:51 PM
194

I disagree. I watched that recently and have to defend it. The bad boy, Landon, knew Jamie, the nice girl, since childhood, so he knew her for years. They didn't meet in some manic pixie dream girl way. She kept the bar high the ENTIRE movie; she didn't build him up. He changed because HE wanted to. In fact, he snubbed her in front of his friends ONLY ONCE, and she shunned him until he proved himself with his actions. She never chased him. He courted her properly, respected her boundaries, and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:15 AM
17

This is brief but handbook worthy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:16 AM
46

I third this. Keep your business and home life separate, personal phone numbers, social media, and other identifying info included. Even as a pick me, I never let men know where I lived. That's the one boundary I would keep 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:35 AM
117

In college, I dated a virgin. He was ready to have sex for the first time but was so nervous that he couldn't keep it up. I told him that there was no need to rush and that we could try another time. I didn't tell a soul about it. Well, he was so embarrassed he couldn't do the deed, so he told everyone in our circle that he couldn't get it up because he wasn't attracted to me 🤡 I confronted him about what he did, and he was more mad that someone had told me what he had said 🤡 Could these scrotes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:52 AM
10

DUMP HIM. Staying with a pornsick loser who you ALREADY caught red handed before is disrespectful to you AND to other women. What else will he lie to you about? Don't stick around to find out. You think you're being kind by giving him another chance, but he doesn't respect you for it. If anything, he thinks you're weak. If you were caught watching big dick porn or masturbating to pics of his hot male friend, he'd dump you ASAP, and you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:54 PM
11

Don't forget about "the budget engagement ring" when he splurged on himself ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:51 PM
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I made a post about this, but this is why dating apps are so dangerous. Women who use them get blamed for whatever happens to them, no matter how guilty the man is. He even said it himself, "What do these dumb sloots expect going to a random guy's room and thinking nothing will happen?", recorded the whole violent interaction, and was STILL found not guilty. And now he's back on the apps?? Fuck that and fuck him for what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:56 PM
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He sounds like a catch! You should help build him up for nothing in return /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:53 PM
5

One guy I dated in my Pickme days wore the same gray hoodie to EVERY date. Another wore the same white lounge pants, even on a hike "date" 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:40 PM
5

With all that he did, he'll tell other women that you're a "crazy ex" who broke his heart 😒 So glad you're free of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:55 PM
18

Why did that person give your number away without permission?? How rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:50 PM
35

In another sub, a scrote was asking for advice on how to convince his female friend to sleep with him. It was disgusting how he talked about his ideas for bringing it up. I ripped him a new one in my comment, and the other scrote commenters were like, "Wow, so harsh" and "It doesn't hurt to ask. She can just say no." The fuckers don't care that it DOES hurt to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:46 PM
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What? A male taking another male (who he has never met before)'s side over his friend?? What a surprise eye roll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:09 AM
27

Ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:27 AM
9

Just saved your comment, too. That was so well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:58 PM
6

I love this post. Back in my Pick Me days, I had a list of "date spots" to try that either didn't work out (due to the LVM I was with) or that I never went to. I need to find that list, dust it off, and try it again. Thanks for the encouragement, OP!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:44 AM
119

You explained this so well. I saw a video ad on Instagram for one of those thirst trap/ OnlyFans/ nude accounts. The libfem was bending over in her underwear to "tie her shoes" on camera while bouncing her ass. She was being a male fantasy, yet all the male comments were insulting her. They were like, "How embarrassing, this is awkward, her parents failed her." One male even said, "THIS is why I'm only having sons or abortions." It was so messed up since it was obvious that she was trying to imp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:23 PM
81

THE AUDACITY!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:11 AM
143

Sex pests are the worst. I'm dumping any at first glance. It doesn't get better - trust me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:10 AM
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"No decent guy would tell you he's horny for no reason. That means he likes you!" The lies they tell... 😦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:09 AM
51

Your whole comment was hilarious! I'd love to hear you tell a story. I was cracking up at each line! 😆😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:53 AM
50

Dump him. He doesn't deserve you. Now that you've told him how you feel, he'll keep hanging out with his ex and will DARE you to say anything about it. You don't want to get mixed in this. His ex will ALWAYS come first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:11 AM
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I learned about both movements here in FDS. Here are some posts that discussed it: 4B: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/oa3ugg/south_korean_feminists_are_joining_no_dating_no/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Remove the Corset: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/h9s66z/the_south_korean_womens_movement_we_are_not/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:50 PM
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Following the Korean feminist movement, 4B - no dating, no marriage, no sex, and no children. Some are also rejecting the harsh beauty standards with the Remove the Corset movement by not wearing make up, cutting their hair how they want, and dressing more androgynous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:53 PM
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Wow, I didn't think of it that way. I became opposed to hiking dates after FDS for the safety aspect, but the suffering sexualization part makes a lot of sense, too. It's like when women are scantily clad before they got murdered in horror films.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:19 PM
8

How dare he... Kick him out. It's YOUR place. He'd do the same thing to you if the roles were reversed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:44 PM
6

That's the only "nest" that I would accept! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:29 PM
17

Welcome! This sub changed my life for the better. I can't wait to hear about your journey with us 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:24 PM
15

This happened to me! The look on my ex's face was priceless 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:22 PM
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I'm so glad you're here and safe!! That was a frightening experience, but you kept a clear head and were able to identify so many red flags. You followed your intuition and concerns so much that you Googled the red flags and found us! I'm so happy you didn't go anywhere with him. Unfortunately, men like him can sniff out trauma in women, so you need to close the gates to dangerous men like him. Continue researching and learning about FDS to further protect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:54 PM
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Same here. Did the chasing for 10 years. That "volunteers for casual sex" point was the biggest pill I had to swallow when I learned about FDS. I had NO IDEA men would be so sick and fucked up to sleep with women they don't even like. I was very naive, and I gave their morality too much credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:44 PM
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The woman is saying, "I've never seen men try and build women up the way they expect women to." She's pointing out the hypocrisy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:09 AM
39

Who will service his penis then?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:12 PM
30

I'm glad he did. The trash took itself out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:07 AM
33

Thanks! I had a bad feeling about the whole thing, especially since he pressured me into staying over, so I'm glad I listened to my instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:06 AM
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This happened to me a few years ago. A guy I had been dating for 3 months asked to be my boyfriend. I agreed. He stayed the night for the first time (I didn't want him to, but he insisted) and asked for a blowjob. I said no, and he pouted, "Why not? I'm your boyfriend now." I refused again. He stopped speaking to me the next day, and I never saw him again 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:31 PM
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I'm curious, why did you go out with him? Apart from his job (which is a yellow flag since a lot of engineers are trash), it doesn't sound like anything else about him was appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:24 PM
10

I love your art style!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:11 PM
114

Same here. When I get my own place, I'm not opening the door for anyone I wasn't expecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:22 PM
2

Hooray for starting your own business!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:50 PM
2

Who wrote it? Is it non fiction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:28 AM
2

I don't even need a walk! I'm fine going going a field he knows 😏 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:35 AM
49

Same! I don't use my distinctive last name casually online because it's so easy to find me that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:56 AM
50

That happened with my high school bf. I saved him from graduating girlfriend-less and did all the work, so he was thrilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:28 AM
2

This made me cry 😢 Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:46 PM
45

Whoa. Could you please explain? Why is it so bad to do in jail?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:21 PM
89

Then they'll say, "Not alll men are rape machines!!" and then, "Men NEEEEDD sex workers - or else!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:20 AM
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It was! But I still "communicated" with him the next day that trying to force me to have sex was wrong. What did he do? He never replied back 🤡 I'm sure he's reeing and screeching somewhere about how "Nice Guys finish last!! These b1tches only want Chads."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:32 PM
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Tell that to the ugly guy I dated who screamed at me for not fucking him on the 3rd date. Yes, he was such a gentleman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:56 PM
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Ha ha ha ha ha!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:37 AM
8

That's horrible! He sucks ass! I would dump him immediately if that were me. Apart from drugs being dangerous, he could have easily laced it with something else. Then if he attacked you, you would not be taken seriously and would be labeled as a druggie. You know what you need to do. He utterly betrayed you - you even said that you didn't want to do coke again, and he still made you do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:19 PM
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Don't feel guilty - he didn't feel guilty when his aim was to pull the wool over your eyes and have sex with you. Like others said, he was future faking and trying to see how desperate you were to meet with him. And like others said, don't let these scrotes know where you work and live. Be vague. Even in my Pick Me days, I was staunchly secretive about where I lived and worked. You don't want to have to worry about looking over your shoulder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:15 PM
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My ex "joked" that he could rpe me while play wrestling ("I'm so strong that I could rpe you if I wanted"). I was horrified and told him not to say something like that. Lo and behold, he r*ped me a few weeks later. It's never a joke to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:56 PM
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Wow, way to level up and make proper use of your time! Excellent work 👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:15 PM
42

The people messaging you aren't FDS supporters. They're male identified pick mes and men who hate women who want to shut down your truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:37 PM
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If you feel something off about this, trust your instincts. No need to entertain someone like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:35 PM
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I'm sorry sorry this happened to you. The only thing your bf (soon to be ex, I hope) is right about is you needing space. He's acting like poison right now and is halting your healing. You need to dump him. Other members have talked about trusted men using their traumas against him. You only had a few paragraphs, but I could feel all of his evil coming through. Next, he'll try to reenact the attack. For your mental and physical safety, you need to dump him. I know it'll hurt, but you have to pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:57 PM
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I'm sure some of the things on the list were: not submissive enough, didn't do mommy bangmaid things, didn't let me lead the relationship, talked back/asked too many questions, didn't laugh at my jokes, etc lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:00 PM
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My toes are so short that my sister used to call them "weiner sausage toes"! Lol 😆 I kinda wish I had long toes because they seem so graceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:57 PM
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Who cares what men like!! I was like this about certain parts of my body (it didn't help that one of my scrote exes liked pointing it out to me), and it made me miserable, but once I realized how deranged and bottomless male entitlement was, I stopped giving a fuck. Start appreciating parts of your body and being grateful that they serve their function. Those same parts of my body that I was insecure about now make me proud 😀 It'll take time, but you'll get there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:56 PM
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Your feet look fine to me! I'm being totally honest. Feet, in general, tend to look weird on everyone lol Are you a ballet dancer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:43 PM
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These same cockroaches think women being harassed, assaulted, and rped is an honor, but strangely don't think it's an honor for MEN to be rped in prison 🤔 That's why they all universally defend rape culture worldwide because they don't want to go to prison and have it to happen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:42 PM
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Of course it "took her time to get wet" - her whole body could sense what a psycho he was!! Gosh, I wish women listened to their bodies and intuition more. I, too, have failed to listen to mine in the past, and it cost me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:58 PM
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"As you shouldn't - you created him." HA HA HA! I would have loved to see his hurt and annoyed expression each time you said that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:47 PM
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Trust me - I tried soooooo many dating sites and apps for 10 YEARS. I really wanted them to work, and I went on hundreds of dates in numerous locations. The apps are like a drug: no matter how cozy the drug den is or how much you trust the friends you're taking the drugs with, the dangers are still there. They're not worth it at all. Please learn from my mistakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:12 PM
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Exactly. Back in my Pick Me days, I made it obvious that I wanted a relationship when dating this guy for a few months. He asked me to be his girlfriend, stayed over that night (he manipulated me into staying), and tried getting sex out of me. I had a bad feeling in my gut, so I turned him down for sex. No surprise, but he ghosted me, and I never saw him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:48 PM
10

Are you fucking kidding me?!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:43 PM
7

So glad you're safer and here with us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:40 PM
15

So glad you're safer and here with us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:40 PM
3

Congrats! You and your child deserve way better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:27 PM
2

Dump him!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:50 PM
2

My rapist ex would wake me up for sex even if we had had sex several times that day. If I said no, he would accuse me of cheating on him and of not loving him. So glad to free from him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:16 PM
2

Not the sticky glass!! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:12 PM
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I read a post in another sub many months ago where a woman purchased a house like this ON HER OWN. She was so excited and was talking to her bf about it. He assumed he was gonna move in with her and started TELLING her his plans for HER house. She wanted to have a vanity room, but he told her, "No, I need a gaming room so no vanity for you." She dumped him lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:10 PM
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I'm so glad you found out before you had a child with him! Your intuition saved you from being tied to him biologically. Change all of YOUR passwords and start legal proceedings. You need to protect yourself before he damages your reputation and finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:46 PM
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Thank you. I was in shock that I didn't realize how dangerous that situation was until later. Even then, he had ghosted me after the date and had barely told me anything about himself. There was no way to find him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:20 PM
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Same!! It came at the right time for me. I was so naive back then that I would have been one of those women who post "Is it normal to be upset that I was strangled during sex?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:19 PM
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Thanks to Libfem logic, his threats of sexual violence are seen as a kink and not a danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:18 PM
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Yep. I felt so free and relieved once I stopped using OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:17 PM
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Exactly. That's what makes it so dangerous to women who use OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:16 PM
5

Good, I'm glad more people are talking about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:16 PM
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The WGTOW (women going their own way) sub is for women and is about women not dating, living with a man, or having a child. It's not as active as FDS, but a lot of members like myself are part of both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:19 PM
2

I love me some Dickinson. Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:58 AM
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I know! It makes me happy 😊 P.S. Kai is my bias wrecker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:37 AM
12

Goes from ignoring the dog to yelling at it. Doesn't have a calm, neutral command voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:42 PM
9

Well done!! 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:39 PM
6

Glad you're dropping him. Like FDS says, if a guy is making you Google or make a post about his behavior, he's not the one for you. Trust yourself more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:32 PM
9

She is way too gorgeous for his bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:01 PM
22

Ready or Not is a good one with a strong female lead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:00 PM
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I'd be so disgusted if that were my me. I wouldn't choose some pornsick scrote over a sister that I have known my whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:59 PM
8

Oh my gosh, how exciting! Congratulations!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:44 PM
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Block and delete. If he offers a lame date proposal, it's a shit test and he's low balling you on purpose. Never teach a man how to treat you. They know the proper thing to do, but they don't want to do it. Simples. If you choose to do Option # 2 anyway, he might offer a better date, but it won't be sincere. That will just show him that he's got you hooked/ you're desperate for his attention and that you'll have to nudge him along for the duration of the relationship. Don't lower yourself and wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:50 AM
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FACTS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:32 AM
4

You'll be done before you know it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:49 PM
7

Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:49 PM
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Thank you! It was in the field of social sciences. Yes, get yours, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:49 PM
5

My bias!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:09 AM
2

I'm glad you're trusting your instincts and blocking him! You need to do that more often and take time to heal. Don't even date right now. Abusive men can smell out abuse survivors, so they'll be approaching you when you're still vulnerable. I dated a loser scrote who gave me a bad feeling no matter how hard I tried to ignore it. I looked him up, and I found out he was a sex offender 🤡 I confronted him, and he told me he was going to tell me after I fell in love with him so I wouldn't leave him.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:25 PM
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💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:15 AM
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I approve this message!! 🤗👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:39 AM
5

I said that in another sub, and I got downvoted to hell lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:13 AM
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Read it! I've read it 4 times because of how funny her writing is. It's dated, but it's so entertaining and still rings true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:06 AM
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Girl, he was trying to lovebomb you. When you were smart and didn't run into his arms like he expected, he had to flee the mission lol He'll just try it on someone else until he succeeds. A few years ago, some scrote asked to be my boyfriend, stayed the night, and tried to get sex out of me ("Why not? I'm your boyfriend now"). I rejected him. Lo and behold, I never saw him again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:33 PM
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My nvex did that, too. He'd even accuse me of cheating on him because I didn't want to have sex for the 3rd time that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:18 PM
1

Please keep your address a secret for at least a few months. 2 months seems soon for a potential date to know where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:09 AM
3

One guy dumped me a few days before I left for a vacation I was excited about. I replied, "Okay. Thanks for letting me know" in a calm tone, and he was so surprised that I wasn't crying or begging him to stay lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:04 AM
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You should feel excitement, happiness, desire, and longing with your partner. He should turn you on and want to please YOU. You should not feel dread, contempt, disgust, worry, fear, or anxiety, especially from turning them down. If your partner makes you feel dirty or like a fuck doll that he's masturbating into, DUMP HIM. No amount of talking will make him change. And if you're not careful, it could even escalate to r*pe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:01 AM
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Good for you!! I got a Happy Birthday text from a scrote I blocked, and my first reaction was anger and "Ewww!!" That was such a huge change from the person I was last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:47 AM
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NEVER MOVE FOR A GUY, NEVER QUIT YOUR JOB FOR A GUY, AND NEVER MOVE IN AND PLAY HOUSE WITH A GUY. Protect your womb, and don't have babies with LVMs. This is not including the NVMs who stealth or who use reproductive coercion. Always have a back up plan and a way to leave. Build up your fuck off fund.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:48 PM
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Same! Though there are ones that have LVM leads, they get me excited about romance. It can take 10 episodes before the leads even kiss lol I squeal when they finally hold hands lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:19 AM
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Yeah, that scene shocked me, and I have never watched the movie again because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:54 AM
3

They know what they're doing. If they called it a sex party, women wouldn't go to them. Just like this post says, they deceive and coerce women into sexual acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:29 AM
3

Congratulations!! What an accomplishment!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:09 AM
8

Another reason why scrotes should not know where you live for the few first months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:09 AM
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Don't get in cars with scrotes, especially in the first few months!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:59 PM
10

Yep. I knew on the first date something was off about him, but I gave him a chance anyway 🤡 After a few months of that hard feeling in my gut, I looked him up and found out he was a sex offender 🤡 I confronted him, and he told me he was "planning on telling me after I fell in love with him" so I wouldn't leave him 🤡🤡🤡 You can bet I 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️ out of there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:03 AM
32

Trust your gut. The age gap and him treating you like a therapist are red flags to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:52 AM
7

It's not good that he has your address already...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:49 AM
29

I'm glad you have a wonderful and loving husband, but thousands of women here have not had that, especially with child rearing. My own dad was like that to my mom. She was weak and close to death in the hospital after a traumatic birth with me. He was at home (the hospital beds were too uncomfortable), angry with her because he had nothing to eat. She had to beg an acquaintance to make food for him while she was stuck in the hospital. Thirty years later, and he still pouts and does the silent tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:29 PM
14

Just dump then. The guys I dated who "casually" brought it up all the time were sex pests. You shouldn't have to flirt about your boundaries ("When the time is right, tee hee!"), and they shouldn't pressure you into something so intimate. If you don't feel comfortable or ready to sleep with them, then something is wrong with THEM, and they are too dumb to figure out what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:21 PM
91

Because they're pathetic and want to conquer and manipulate. They all want to be remembered by virgins since they can't get over Susie not sharing her chocolate milk with them in the 1st grade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:18 PM
51

Why the hell did that even come up 2 days into matching?? He clearly is nothing of substance and has nothing to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:14 PM
182

Calls it "one man's story" about your quote, which is about how men lack empathy and instill fear of rape and murder in women, and then ends it with this gem: "At the end of the day, men are stronger than you and will follow you. Nothing you can do about it!! LOLZ" So, he proved your point with mansplaining his drivel and wasted all of our fuxking time 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 Edit: I received an "invite to chat" shortly after I commented. Probably from a daft cxnnt like him or a daft cxnnt supporter 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:39 AM
3

Shit like this is why I'm childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:33 PM
30

Yet no one bullies Indiana Jones for his fear. Hmm, I wonder why... 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:20 PM
144

"If you don't let any snake bite your face, then you're kink shaming. Everyone knows that snakes bite. It's biology!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:19 PM
17

Ha ha. I did that before FDS!!! 🤡 He invited me out for a coffee "date". I meet him, and he's in gym clothes of course. He tells me, "Go ahead. I had coffee this morning", and I thought, "Weird..." while I bought my own Starbucks 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:12 AM
4

They both work in specialized industries. When my dad was let go, the jobs in his industry were sparse (which is why he was let go). He spent 2 years having fun, "looking for a job", not finding any that suited him ("Why should I work at a grocery store?"), and then retired without a plan. My mom was let go (this was around when COVID started), she rested for 2 months, applied to jobs with significantly less pay (those were the only jobs available) , and is working a job that she is underpaid at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:05 PM
11

I've made the first move ever since I started dating. It doesn't work. It's shocking, but men will date and even marry women they don't want or even like for the convenience. The guys I dated had a devoted Cool Girl who gave them sex on a platter. I had a few guys even dump me because "they found someone they really wanted to date"; others talked about how clingy and desperate I was while hitting me up for low effort dates. Don't ask them out first. It's not worth it. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:21 PM
29

I would be way too embarrassed to post this if I were her. At least the guys I went after as a pick me were clean lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:12 PM
45

That age gap is similar to my parents' own, and my dad is retired while my mom is still working. He didn't plan his retirement well, so my mom is working to support the family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:05 PM
21

You can't drink from a poisoned well because you're thirsty. Leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:02 AM
28

Ugh, my rapist ex used to do this. He NEVER gave me space and never took my boundaries seriously. He made me seem like a bitxh for not liking when he would grab me and kiss me when I was mad at him. Now I know that's a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:51 AM
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If some loser invites you to his house or to a walk or to get coffee, block and unmatch him. He knows what he's doing, and his mind won't be changed. You can't teach these losers to be decent to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:30 AM
130

Don't start blaming yourself; that's what they want. I spent 10 years dating losers and trying to ComUniCaTE and prove to them I was worthy. It's not your fault!! If it wasn't you, they'd be doing this to someone else. They're talking to everyone that they can until they can get someone with low enough self esteem and self worth to sleep with them. They're parasites looking for hosts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:13 AM
6

It's one of FDS's best inside jokes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:03 AM
15

I want to be taken to "a field he knows" for my next birthday, too! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:14 PM
32

Ladies, he's a softie. See? He's holding a cat in his picture /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:37 PM
41

James can royally fuck himself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:06 AM
4

Pre-FDS, I was already against living together and splitting 50/50. I thought it was so stupid. I'm glad to see that I'm not missing out. 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:50 AM
2

Be kind to yourself, sweetie pie. You exist in this world, and the world is better for it. You do not need to offer yourself on an altar to appease men. It'll take time to fully believe it (I was in the same boat as you in my 20s), but it'll happen. Have faith in yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:44 AM
4

Thrusting dildos have been game changers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:42 PM
19

Wow... You just reminded me that I did that a few times in college. That's fucked up 😶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:38 PM
15

Oh, dear. I'm so sorry that happened to you! 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:34 PM
209

This entitlement is actually WHY I started paying for myself on dates (pre-FDS); I didn't want to owe them anything. Even when I paid for myself, they still expected sex after an hour long conversation 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:19 PM
10

Same. 10 years of exclusively dating them and none of it went anywhere. They treated me as secret sex projects and were never serious. They served breadcrumbs and "Not like other girls" cookies to me, which I eagerly ate up (pre-FDS). Men are already deranged, so I don't want to worry about racism and anti-Blackness, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:05 AM
5

Yep. Asking if you're going to leave him rather than what he will do for you in the relationship is a red flag. He wants to keep you in the wings and know that you're devoted to him. They really can't be alone, so he's keeping you like how one would keep a pet fish - with the bare minimum. Dump him. Actions mean more than pretty promises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:47 PM
7

I think it's a red flag. Just like there's a "shut up" engagement ring, there are shut up gifts. He didn't reference last year or talk about your future together/ his feelings for you. In the end, you wanted something special, and he just tossed you a "shut up" gift. You're disappointed because he's not showing you how much he cares; men stay in relationships they're not engaged in because it's easier for them than being alone. Dump him. The same guys who dump you on holidays or birthdays will l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:09 PM
3

Got mine at 7:38! Blocked and deleted ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 05:18 AM
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Dump him. Men like this keep track of their "kindness", which are really strings-attached favors, so you need to leave. That shit is toxic. Edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:53 AM
5

How lovely!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:52 AM
7

Ha ha. I had to block and delete a scrote who reached out to wish me Valentine's Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:51 AM
1

Dump him. Block and delete, too. Cheap men like him will gladly pay on a date with their dream girl. Splitting the bill won't make him value you and will only make him think less of you. And please NEVER SHARE A RIDE OR GET IN A CAR WITH A STRANGE MAN that you haven't vetted carefully for months!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:38 PM
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Mad facts. Either they're "joking" because they've done it before and want to see what they can get away it (they rely on women's politeness) or because they want to do it. My ex literally said, "Ha ha. I could easily rape you if I wanted" and then did it later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:11 PM
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Oh my God, I'm so sorry he did that to you. You are so brave for reporting this. I'm so sorry the Justice (For Him) System failed you, but you're right: you're not alone. Loads of us have experienced similar things. I am grateful you have rebuilt yourself, and I'm grateful we can all heal together 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:48 PM
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On the first date?? Were you born in the Dark Ages? These females need to have sex with him BEFORE the first date, you know, to test for sexual compatibility. Girls, if you don't have sex with him when he texts "wyd" , then you're a prude. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:28 PM
7

Yes. Please keep being a virgin a secret. These men froth at the mouths and will see you as territory to claim. I've heard men lust about being "devirginizers" and "wanting to be remembered forever" by virgins. Plus because you're a virgin, they'll coerce you into sick, depraved sex acts. Keep yourself safe!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:19 AM
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So sorry you're hurting, but I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and your right to be loved by someone who actually cares for you. I recommend this amazing heartbreak album called "Use Me" by Pvris. It's not whiny, cringey, "Baby come back!" kind of music. It's more about realizing how toxic the relationship was, knowing your worth, leaving, but being sad 😥 I prescribe the following songs for you from that album: Loveless, January Rain, Old Wounds, and Wish You Well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:44 PM
5

My mom would never! Can your mom give us a Ted Talk? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:10 PM
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Ladies, do NOT go on car dates with random scrotes!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:01 AM
5

Same here, OP. This is why I deleted all of my dating apps. It wasn't worth it to wade through toxic shit in the hopes of maybe not finding someone who wouldn't objectify me. Our inner peace is way more important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:36 PM
4

How disgusting!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:21 PM
10

I was such a Cool Girl in my early 20s. NEVER AGAIN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:34 PM
34

He gets ghosted?? Why? He's such a confident gentleman who wouldn't dream of exchanging a $40 meal for sex! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:44 AM
7

Don't let these men pick you up!! Always have your own transportation. You can be held hostage in cars and placed in other dangerous situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:38 AM
3

I teared up reading this. I'm so happy for you! All women deserve someone as gentle as your husband 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:48 AM
17

What the flying fuck??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:48 AM
5

Ladies, this album is so great!! I listen to it on repeat, and I even commented a line from one of her songs here. The artist is Pvris, and the album is called "Use Me". It's a heartbreak album mostly but with realization on how toxic the relationship was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:58 AM
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So glad she left! Thanks for sharing something with a happy ending. And ladies, this is why having a Fuck Off Fund is important!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:28 AM
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Probably cuz she's a cool girl, non-gold digger fiancée/ s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:27 AM
9

Yep. A scrote expected blowjobs but never went down on me because "it's embarrassing" and he would "only do it for his wife". I'm glad I dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:16 AM
46

Same. I joined this sub in April so I could learn how to date smart, but now, I'm not looking for a man actively. There's too much at stake, too much to be on the look out for, and it's not worth it - you could be as careful as heck, and he could STILL deceive you or have hidden deal breakers. I don't want to sleep with one eye open, so I'd rather put all that energy into myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:12 AM
1

YES. It helped me block and delete a pornsick loser with ED who kept pressuring me to do anal so that he could "keep it up" even though I coMmuNicAted many times that I would never do anal with him. Old me would have given him another chance, but FDS Me was furious as fuck and stood up for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:51 AM
9

Same shit happened to me after I dumped my ex. Ex: Is there someone else?? Me: No, I'm dumping you cuz you're a liar and a sex offender (I dumped him immediately after finding out) Ex: ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:40 AM
8

Some guy I dated said I was "crazy" and "messed up in the head" because I didn't want to sleep with him in his car. Tired of the argument, I sarcastically agreed and said with a smile, "Wow, you're right. I AM crazy! I need to stop seeing you since I'm crazy and all." Then he got mad at me for not crying and not begging to stay with him lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:31 PM
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I deleted all of my dating apps because of the amount of deranged people on there. I even saw a man on there who was currently in prison!! All of his selfies were in his jail cell and in his jail clothes. Dating apps DO NOT PROTECT WOMEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:10 PM
4

Yep. My ex told me he was molested as a child, too. ON THE FIRST DATE. There were a bunch of red flags and lying from him as I continued to date him 🤡 I felt so uneasy about him for months, that I finally looked him up, and I found out he was a sex offender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:20 PM
2

Hooray!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:04 AM
29

Welcome to your new life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:44 AM
2

Any updates? I have some stories that I want to write lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:31 PM
14

Same here. Pre-FDS and in March this year, this guy I "saw" twice (virtually) was a no show to the virtual date I organized 🤡 I didn't respond or mesaage him. Next day, he apologizes with some ridiculous reason why he missed it and asks for another chance. I tell him to organize the next one. He does. It comes up, and he cancels on me the day of 🤡 Such a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:15 PM
3

Exactly why I'm childfree. The depravity is too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:19 PM
3

Bruh, this guy is unreasonable as fuck. I have to budget every year for Christmas and for the multiple birthdays that are in February in my family, so I know the struggle. I'm sure he hasn't even spent 1/30 of that amount on her and always "forgets" her birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:09 PM
10

And unlike THEM, WE don't get turned on at the thought of sex with little kids 🤮🤮🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:54 PM
9

Agreed. My ex was sex pest, and he totally turned me off home "dates" and sex itself because HE always wanted it on HIS terms and on HIS time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 09:53 PM
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Block and delete, sis. Men aren't funny and don't tell good jokes. Their "jokes" are true windows into their minds. Besides, if he's trying to make you jealous by bringing his exes into the conversation, then that's another reason to drop him. Cut your losses early, and go. P.S. Just because he's handsome, that doesn't make him a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:56 AM
10

Same!! Never, ever again. I will be clutching my pearls and throwing deuces up at the first WHIFF of disrespect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:55 AM
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Married Men: gah, MARRIAGE is Stifling! The old ball and chain won't let muh Penis breathe! Only Fan girls who compliment me and slutty barely legals who want my wrinkled ball sack, set me free!! Also Men: stifle their wives with selfish depravities like BDSM, anal, not wiping their asses, strangling, mommy bangmaid duties, Ethical Non Monogamy when she's trapped with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:51 AM
9

All of their noses are so pretty, dafuq?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:00 AM
12

Do it!! Playing ASMR videos on Youtube ( natural background sounds like rain or the sound of a pen on paper) have really helped me with my studying or work tasks. There are so many creative themes, too (like "Rainy Day at a Cafe"). Try listening to them as you work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:43 AM
17

Good for you!! Congrats on leveling up 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:30 AM
13

Please be careful!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:32 PM
48

I have avoided male attention for the past 8 months, and I have never felt this free and hopeful for the future. I feel so much happier!! edit: grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:22 PM
60

Wow, these men are really threatened by their wives. See how many different ways they are urging wives to be quiet and to not be challenging. It's pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:13 PM
29

What's wrong with a ring pop? I find it sooo romantic! You females are too picky; it's why no one wants to date you /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:00 AM
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I was wondering when he'd propose. I thought she'd be a forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:45 PM
8

That would be so fun!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:27 AM
6

"I'm not a princess, I'm priceless! A prince ain't even on my list"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:32 AM
19

Blocked and deleted a LVM I went on a few coffee dates with (pre-FDS, of course). He didn't even buy me the coffee. He arrived saying he had already had coffee, so I basically bought mine and listened to him talk about us having sex one day 🤡 Thanks to him, I found FDS. Thanks, Mr. Ethnically Monogamous CEO of His Own Company!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:28 AM
1

Where did you watch it??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:09 PM
31

What the fuck is wrong with the OP?! I teach students who are only 1-2 years younger than that girl. There is NO REASON why an almost 30 year old man should be talking to her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:28 PM
30

Trust yourself. Whenever I ignored those weird feelings or pushed them to the side, I ALWAYS regretted it and was so angry at myself for not listening to them sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:12 AM
29

Beautiful nails and a beautiful ring. Congratulations to you and your fiance! Best of luck to you both 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:47 PM
44

Disgusting how he wants to confirm when he will have sex with you, as if consent can't be revoked at any time. He's saying, "I don't mind talking to you AS LONG AS we have sex FOR SURE soon." That's what stood out to me. He'll keep a running tab of the dates and throw it in your face when the sex doesn't happen as expected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:29 PM
7

Good for you! You're worth wayyyy more, and breadcrumbs won't cut it. I'm so glad you see your worth right before your eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:53 AM
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You don't need a man for human touch! Focus on building beautiful female friendships or relationships with loving family members. Having a cuddly pet helps, too! Trust me, in January this year, I was TERRIFIED of being alone and was desperately trying to find a man to be with. I found FDS in April, and I'm now looking forward to the glamrous, positive lifestyle I'm building for myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:14 PM
32

My ex was like this. He was so sexual all the time, and it made me DREAD spending time with him in private because it would ALWAYS lead to sex. If I stayed the day at his place, we would have sex 3 times that day. One morning, he coerced me into sex that I didn't want (we had had sex that night!). Now, I'm not dating any guy who is like this. It's such a red 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:02 PM
10

OMG, how horrible!!! Men offer Bottomless Depravity, don't they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:54 AM
32

How long have you been together? Is he someone you can trust in the event of an emergency or even to pull his weight? When you travel, you'll be isolated and will be relying on him a lot, even more so if you don't speak the country's language. My scrote ex and I travelled separately a few hours away one weekend (in his native country), and he arrived before I did because I went straight after work. What did he do knowing I was on my way? He locked me out of the place (that I paid for) all night …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:00 AM
14

When he was future faking, my scrotey ex bf (who I had been with for 4 months) TOLD ME I would be getting rid of my dog that I had had for 5 years. Of course I lost the scrote and kept my lovable dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:40 AM
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I loved that female alien world that they had! It was advanced, peaceful, beautifully decorated, and so well organized. Hmm, I wonder why... The greeting there amongst the women was, "I'm here if you want to talk" lol 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:07 PM
50

Yep. My NV ex "joked" that it'd be easy to r*pe me. I nervously laughed it off. And guess what he did...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:07 AM
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Recently, I saw a scene in an TV show where this group of 40 year old men (most with wives and kids!) were drinking together at a bar. They all cheered themselves on from getting a break from their wives at home. They saw a table full of female college students in their early 20s and tried flirting with them. I rolled my eyes and expected the students to flirt back. Nope - the students called out the 40 year old men for being creeps and told them that they were old enough to be their dads! They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:25 AM
4

"Did you do something to provoke it?" LOGICAL sex, my ass!! So men need to be brutes and be violent instead of being mature?? No one ever asks men if they provoked women. So sorry you had to deal with that hurtful exchange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:24 PM
2

We have a new meme now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:42 AM
24

Even if he had church this morning, why couldn't he text you AFTER? Like, "Morning. Just finished church. How are you?" Especially after you two had sex. It's not too much to ask. Dump him. He'll try to get more sex out of you and will dump you for his pure, virginal church dream girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:01 PM
10

I have no idea. I think he meant that "yeah, we want sex!" but got mad at the idea of it being seen as manipulative or evil because they wanted it. Either way, he just proves why the OP was right to block that guy who invited her to his house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:42 PM
7

Situation with the cop was weird, but for goodness sake, DO NOT LET MEN YOU HAVEN'T THOROUGHLY VETTED FOR SEVERAL MONTHS INTO YOUR CAR. And DO NOT TAKE THEM TO YOUR HOME. I've done that to be kind, and I was put in dangerous situations that I had to nervously giggle to get out of. Please don't do that to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:35 PM
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Closed mouth smiles - that means he has bad teeth. I dated a guy with a profile like that. When we met up, his teeth were ROTTEN. I was so shocked, but I still continued the date 🤡 He could tell I was upset and explained, "No one ever gives me a chance when they see my teeth!" and shared a bunch of his past traumas with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:28 PM
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One comment said, "They think WE want to seduce THEM [when we invite dates to our house]. What, so asking for sex means we want to SEDUCE THEM??" I fell out of my chair lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:51 PM
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"If this is what love is, then I guess I'm loveless." - Pvris, a musician
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:09 AM
2

Yep. I felt anxious and unsettled when I dated this one guy. The bad feeling wouldn't go away after a few weeks, so I looked him up properly and found out he was in the Sex Offenders list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:42 PM
21

It reminds me of that funny Mark Twain quote, "Quitting smoking is easy. I've done it hundreds of times." The audacity to not change and be butthurt when called out is astounding to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:13 PM
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When she said "homemade gifts", I was picturing something, oh I don't know, 3-D!! Like a necklace or jewelry box. Not a fucking drawing!! I would not have accepted some shitty scribble with a straight face. He doesn't need weeks to prepare his "gifts" like he says!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:06 PM
39

There wasn't even a fucking table involved in their "date" 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:01 AM
6

BRUHHHHH 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:00 AM
2

I have a 75 pound pitt mixx who is a cutie pie but has a fierce, booming bark. It's soooooo nice to see men cross the street to get away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:40 AM
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OP, going forward, don't exchange your address with acquaintances. If you want to exchange letters or gifts, use a P.O. box (or whatever the equivalent is if you live outside the U.S.). Keeping your private info private is another measure needed to enforce your boundaries. And I agree with the others about your therapist; I got a bad taste in my mouth about his advice. "What's the harm?" are famous last words for a lot of women when it comes to interacting with men. I'm glad this interaction rei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:31 PM
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I'm a huge KPop fan, so I knew about that song before FDS, but it fits so well here! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:21 PM
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Ugh, same! But he refused to go down on me. He said he'd do that for me if we got married 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:20 PM
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I hope so! Females are so picky and don't understand how romantic field dates are! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:07 AM
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Wow! He could have taken her to a field he knows with that money. He's in it for the long haul /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:20 AM
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Reading this made me soooo angry for you and your son. I had to put my phone down 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:32 PM
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I could have used this advice years ago lol It's still refreshing to hear it now. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:33 AM
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Oh, yeah! And her boss gave her shit for that when it didn't work out with Jason (surprise, surprise).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:34 PM
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You'll love it! It's pretty dated (it talks about answering machines and makes no mention of online dating), but it's still relevant and is hilarious!! Heck, I might reread it (I've read it twice already) because it's one of the few books that actually made me laugh out loud. Have fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:34 PM
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Well, at least she knows... ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:11 PM
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I dumped an ex when I found out he was a sex offender, too. I found out because of a bunch of red flags and because he had shady work history. When I confronted him, he told me that he was going to tell me "once I had fallen in love with him so that I wouldn't leave him." Be glad you found out!! BLOCK AND DELETE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:13 PM
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These scrotes want us to REPAY their fake "nice guy kindness™" with this shit? Fuck out of here. Welp, back to Single Town, I go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:27 PM
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Trust me, it's not true sexual attachment or attraction (I doubt he even made you cum). One of the members here posted about trauma bonding through sex. Sex is how you were able to get attention and tenderness (I hope) from him, but it's still ALL ABOUT HIM. I saw your earlier comment about the dog being on the bed as his excuse, and that makes it all the more ridiculous. Trust yourself, and run. There are other disgusting, painful sexual boundaries he will cross if you go back to him. He alread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:55 AM
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Block him ASAP. He doesn't care about what he did wrong, he only cares that you held your ground and left him. If you keep him unblocked, he'll spit poison in your ear and get ANGRY at you for the shit he did!! ("It was a mistake. I didn't mean it. I said sorry. Why are you making this a big deal?!!") You don't need to hear that; he was wrong, and he knows it, but he's selfishly trying to sink his claws back into you. Block him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:17 AM
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In my experience, as a Black woman in Korea, the men saw me as a sexual experiment and would cut corners to get with me. Back in my PRE-FDS days, the men would be lazy upfront, be sexual upfront, not pay or dress well, and would take me to cheap places (like snack shops and kimbap places). They would also bash Korean women (for having high standards) in front of me and pretty much celebrate getting easier access to sex. Now that I'm on the FDS track, my eyes are open to all of that bullshit now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:07 AM
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Welcome!! You're so strong. At 20, I allowed guys to do shit like that with me all the time. I'm just getting used to having boundaries at 29, so I'm proud of you! You're ahead of the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 06:23 PM
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Yeah, there was an episode where a 22 year old mom with 3 kids was being sued by her 40 YEAR OLD Boyfriend's uncle over unpaid rent money he had lent her. The 40 year old bf was unemployed, and his young gf was supporting him and their kids, so no wonder she had a hard time paying for rent. He was just sitting there in a chair next to the gf. Judge Judy asked him, "He's your uncle. Why aren't you named on the lawsuit?", and the scrote was like, "I'm here for support. Whatever is going on is betw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:23 AM
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Exactly! I hate when they cover up their boring personalities with pop culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:26 AM
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My mom is triggered, too. She has a shitty marriage to my dad and wants me to be miserable and "not picky" with a spouse so that she can have grandkids. She's a narc, so no surprises there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:19 AM
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Red flag. Never talk to him again. He likes that you're pure but will sexually abuse you and treat you how he views "whores" should be treated. He'll also cheat on you with sexually active women; this is all projection on his part. BLOCK AND DELETE. And read the Handbook. The fact you're asking this shows that you don't have strong boundaries and aren't ready to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:10 AM
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Don't worry - it won't even see us. We're not young enough 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:31 PM
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Good for you! His response to all of this is a red flag. If he could leave so easily here, what's to stop him from leaving if you have a child and things are too tough?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:16 AM
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This. I took a "boyfriend" home for the first time (pre-FDS) because he missed the last train (on purpose, I realize now). He expected sex from me that same night and stopped speaking to me when I refused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:02 PM
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Yep, it's a fetish. Men love the idea of being "remembered forever" by virgins and being able to manipulate her into pornsick shit. Definitely keep it to yourself and don't go anywhere private with a guy for several months (anyone's home, anyone's car, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:20 PM
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Before FDS, the thought of being alone and unmarried terrified me. Now, I'm looking forward to it!!! I'm planning what my home will look like without dirty dishes in the sink and gas lighting lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:11 AM
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🚫🚫Don't get in cars with men you haven't thoroughly vetted for months! 🚫🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:30 PM
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I saw a post there about a woman whose husband was mad at her for having her period unexpectedly because mUh penIs. He stopped talking to her for a few days out of anger, and she was asking what to do. Another mom was like, "Track your period on a period app, and share it with him!", and the OP was like, "Good idea!" Shoot me if I become brain dead like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:29 AM
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Yeah, I was thinking of the safety here. Especially since OP got into a little accident, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:00 AM
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"Mental recharge" for men means low efforts to get sex 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:57 PM
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Ha ha ha ha ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:26 AM
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Yeah, my heart sank when I read that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:01 AM
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Before FDS, I was nose diving into a dumpster fire. It saved me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:17 AM
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To the nunnery, spinsters! No scrotes allowed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:17 AM
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Where's the lie? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 10:42 PM
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The Handbook is against "dates" like that. Pay and then block and delete. Trust me, if he's not interested in impressing you on the first date, it won't get better. He's showing you how low he thinks of you and how much of a pushover he thinks you will be. Prove him wrong by blocking his ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:08 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha! I was hoping someone would say this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:25 PM
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That's not primal, that's MISANDRIST! This is a man hating, terrorist sub!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:22 PM
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Just the fact that women DOWNLOADED the app is grounds for women to be harmed, according to LVM/NVM scroteroaches. "She KNEW what she was getting into", "Why else would she download the app??" are the things they say whenever there are reports of Tinder violence. Please stay safe, ladies!! ANYONE can download it; there are no safety nets for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:45 AM
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Is the dependa thing about military men having forever gfs and their children that "leech off" of them and their benefits? I dated a Marine back when I was a Rodeo Clown Cool Girl, and he would TAKE THE CONDOMS HOME WITH HIM or would rinse them out in the sink! His buddies told him horror stories about women "using turkey basters" to impregnate themselves with military sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:32 AM
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Same. I asked out a senior I was friendly with to my Junior Prom. He said no because he couldn't go. I heard he was shit talking me to all the popular kids, and he ended up going to Junior Prom with one of my popular classmates 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:14 PM
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Yes, ladies, listen to that advice! Trust me - all the men that I cold approached, flirted with, treated or paid half on dates with, complimented, comforted, acted like a cheerleader and therapist for, and was a sexual cool girl for me treated me SOOOOOOOOOO well, right? Us ladies are REALLY missing out on not asking them out FIRST. /s Cue the male lurkers: "That doesn't count. We don't want easy sluts like you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:10 PM
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He said he was "too nervous" and suggested, "Maybe anal will help me get it up." FUCK NO!! I blocked him ever since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:58 PM
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Girl, you better apologize and beg for forgiveness! Don't let him be The One Who Got Away /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:46 AM
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I dumped a guy who was trying to go the sleazy FWB route with me (my anger at him led me to finding FDS lol), and he angrily messaged before I blocked him, "You're just jealous that I didn't choose you as my life partner! That's why they say 'don't fuck crazy'!" A) I dumped him, and we never fucked. B) HE'S the one who wanted to be casual. So now that I dumped him, he was pretending that it would have gotten serious lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:39 AM
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Good for you!! You deserve better, so continue to block and delete at the first sign of disrespect. Don't even give them the benefit of doubt. They KNOW what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:39 AM
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Save the walks for a positive, vetted boyfriend after a fun activity that he planned and paid for. Guys use walk "dates" to increase their likelihood for sex with the least amount of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:22 AM
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Keep in mind that he still sounds like a LVM. He invited you to HIS HOUSE for the first date (for SEX or to be raped and killed) and only changed when you called him out. Please read the handbook again. He's gonna keep testing your boundaries if you see him. I advise dumping him ASAP. Him paying for one dinner that you had to demand to get means you'll have to constantly stand up for yourself or push back against his toxicity. That's not worth it and will only lead to an abusive road down the li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:21 AM
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So sorry to you have to deal with this! Keep your door locked and don't worry about looking rude or whatever. He makes you feel uncomfortable, and that should be the end of the discussion. Not a debate on why you're wrong for thinking that! Is there somewhere else you can go if he's drinking at your place? I'd look into new female roommates ASAP. I moved out immediately once the shelter in place started because my male roommate had his loser stoner friends over for 12 hours at a time (no joke) w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:07 PM
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Yeah, remember a few years back, that beautiful, curvy woman the internet called Teacher Bae? She was showing off her chic teacher fashion but got slammed for "dressing that way" around her students and "duh fathers". Her body was naturally curvy and she was covered up, but people got mad at her for being curvy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:56 PM
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Shit like this makes me glad that I'm not married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:54 PM
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I once reported a guy on Hinge who was using the app WHILE IN PRISON. Shit is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:47 PM
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Good for you! And don't feel guilty. They'd do the same to you. The only reasons why they'd officially dump you is so you can be a sex back up or for emotional validation ("Please don't leave me! Wahhh").
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:05 PM
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I had to report a Hinge profile because the NVM scrote made a profile while he was INSIDE PRISON!! He was in his jumpsuit and posted selfies with the cell and bars in the background. I reported it ASAP!! They don't do background checks on these dating profiles, so no woman is safe on these apps. Women are their product for sale, so they only want to keep their male consumer base happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:57 PM
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Yeah, it's with Ellen Page and Patrick Wilson. He plays a pedo and meets up with Ellen Page's character, a teen, that he chatted with online. He takes her to his home, but she turns the tables on him. It's a great movie! A lot of negative reviews from the pedo apologists, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:35 PM
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Unfortunately, if you share that with men, they'll use that against you. You know how many guys turned sexual (back when I did OLD) after I told them I was a teacher?? Their audacity has no bounds. Cooking dates go against FDS principles because men use them for sex. Where else will you be cooking? Either at your place or his place, so he sees it as a green light. Men attack women in homes, so it's simply not safe for you. If you report the incident to a cop, he'll raise an eyebrow and say, "But…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:20 PM
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Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:14 PM
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You're asking for too much lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 08:51 AM
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As long as you keep your personal cell number safe! It's easy to track you with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 10:07 PM
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I've seen that tip on a TV show before. I'm doing that when I get my own place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:21 PM
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How brave of them. I hope those women are safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:14 AM
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Congratulations!! I'm still working on my goals, so it's inspiring to hear others make it. I, too, am aspiring to buy my own home. I have a long way to go, but I know I can do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:05 AM
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I actually went, "Ewwwww!!!!" in disgust when I read there. That's very troubling that she was coerced into a "kink" like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:09 AM
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Which idol are you talking about? I'm curious if we're thinking about the same person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:07 AM
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I'm glad you got out of there safe!! Thanks to FDS, I don't humor men with automatic politeness either, but if you're in a dangerous situation and need to be polite to stay safe, then do it! Your safety is so important ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:30 PM
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Gah, why is it always pasta?? The scrote that cooked for me didn't even put sauce on it! It was plain pasta with dried herbs on top!! No, same! I had never been cooked for before then, so I was flattered and thought it meant he was serious. These LVM are not serious at all. They know how women view dates like that, and they use home cooking "dates" to MANIPULATE women. "Heh, heh. Most guys can't cook, so she'll definitely fuck me if I cook for her," they say to themselves. Think of it as love bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:43 PM
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Congratulations! My only note is not to let a man cook for you at his place or at your place (not until you have properly vetted him for a few months). You need to keep yourself and your privacy safe, and men see home cooking dates as green lights for sex. I learned that the hard way and was screamed at for turning down sex after some scrote made shitty pasta for me. His mask fell immediately right then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:19 PM
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Yeah, I was wondering about the choking issue. If the bottle is taped to his arm, he won't feel if the baby is trying to remove their lips from the bottle or if the baby is trying to burp or cough. That's super dangerous and negligent!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:57 PM
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Wow, that is horrible. I'm sure lots of women struggling with EDs have heard that shit from useless men before 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:25 PM
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Christ on a bike, that is HORRIBLE!!!! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:34 PM
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Right? He won't mind paying for breadcrumbs because those are free lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:11 PM
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Yes!! And the "anime girl voice" that he LOVES hearing her do is a high pitched, squealing, whiny kinda voice. It's not a sultry deep jazz singer voice. It's definitely childish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:52 PM
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THIS!! I would not let anyone have a phone out and pointed at MY FUCKING FACE during sex. He easily has sex tapes ready to sell online. She needs to raise her standards for her own protection. He's behind the phone, so his identity is safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:49 PM
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She hasn't yet. TW: She said that when she was raped originally by a classmate, she went to the police right away, but they didn't believe her and told her not to ruin someone else's life over lies (with her strangulation marks from the attack on her neck).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:51 PM
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Wow, you're stronger than you know! I'm over 10 years older than you, and my life would have been sooo much better if I had found FDS at your age. Girls your age are under so much pressure and scrunity, and the scrotes have so much access to you all via social media. That's NOT YOUR FAULT; THAT'S THEIR DEPRAVITY. Stay strong, and welcome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:05 AM
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Exactly!! Why would I risk getting raped or stalked by a rejected LVM with shit social skills, ugly style, and poor hygiene for a $30 meal I can eat by myself at home?? They're delusional thinking that they're THAT special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:54 AM
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Yep. The movie is called "Teeth" lol It worked super well against scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:18 PM
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How lovely! I'm Nigerian (like the writer), and Ada means "first born daughter" in Igbo (which I actually am). I'm sure she has stuff about that whole trope of "Are you happy, or are you the first daughter?" Thanks for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:57 PM
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HOW, SWAY?!!! They think eating us out is disgusting, but they don't mind sitting their shit and piss all day??!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:46 PM
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Same here. Ughhhh!!! MISS ME WITH that "My husband won't let me" or "My husband said I couldn't do that" bullshit!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:09 AM
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My ex told me he was sexually abused as a child, and I later found out he was a sex offender. I dumped him because of that (I had asked him if he had ever been arrested, and he told me no). He said, "I was going to tell you after you fell in love with me" and "It's not my fault. I was abused as a child!" My ex was a huge liar, had other red flags, and I never felt physically comfortable around him (that feeling led me to look him up). If you have to ask us, you know something isn't right. TRUST …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:55 PM
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Exactly!! This necklace is just a "thinking of you" gift. I love lacrosse but would never accept a lacrosse necklace as an engagement ring!! He probably has never given her any of these gifts before for the entire 6 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:16 PM
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He's also showing that his word is law, which is a red flag for any marriage. "Could I have a ring, please?" "NO. END OF STORY." Next, if she actually wants to have a small wedding (COVID considered, of course), he'll say some shit like, "In Skyrim, they drink mead and roast meat over fire for their wedding, so no. We're not doing a real, expensive one. END OF STORY." Her whole marriage will be like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:23 PM
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Same!! I end up doing an exercises because I laugh at rib tickling comments from you ladies 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:44 PM
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Because they like being able to be choosy, but it hurts their fragile egos if we do the same lol Don't give them the benefit of doubt. Unless it's related to our likelihood to put out, men don't do the same to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:02 AM
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Right. Whenever I lowered my standards for scrotes, it was always a huge waste of time, and I always regretted it. There have been no exceptions to that in my 11 years of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:59 AM
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Ha ha. Most of the comments are from FDS minded women. There are the usual Pick Me comments and butthurt scrote comments lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 10:14 PM
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Congrats to following your dream!! Please DM me also 😊🎉🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:53 PM
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Welcome!! Please keep yourself safe while you're in the process of leaving. No matter how depraved they are and how much the men hurt you, they STILL always want to have a violent last word. Please find a safe place to go during this time, and do not meet your soon to be ex there alone. I'm so glad you're here! This sub changed my life and is growing more and more each day. Here's to a new peaceful and fruitful beginning for you! 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:15 AM
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But muH leGacY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:14 PM
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This is another example of how sharing your trauma with LVM is a waste of time. All it does is tell them how to treat you and what you will accept. Lo and behold, her mind is closed off to reason, and she'll accept breadcrumbs in a useless, low value marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 11:10 PM
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It's the general "Life Pro Tips" subreddit about life hacks and tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:17 AM
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Kudos for you leaving him on read at the first instance! At your age, I was easy prey and would have chirped, "Sure thing! I'm not like those other girls; I'm not a gOld diGGEr. I'm a cool girl!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:10 AM
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I just burst out laughing at your comment!! That's how it is, tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:08 AM
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A loser I went out with pre-FDS paid $20 for both of our tickets to a dance showcase. He had tried getting us to split it (like everything else on our past dates), but I pointed out that he needed to pay for both tickets so we could be seated together. He agreed reluctantly. I show up to the date and greet him. The first thing he says, "You brought the $10, right?" I never saw him again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:38 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:17 PM
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Ha ha. I love how you went business-like towards the end. And Sakura made it clear from Episode 1 that she was in love with Sasuke! So women are bitches for sticking to their beliefs and preferences? Makes sense /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:41 PM
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She needs to dump him!! He'll cry on his mistress' shoulder about how he's trapped in a loveless marriage and how his wife let herself go and doesn't care about impressing him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:05 AM
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Yeah, hearing all of these mentally decrepit men boast about their plans to just get a prostitute with their trucks full of red flags make me scared for them. SEx wOrk Is wORk, right? /s Then why do all the fucked up freaks go to them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:00 AM
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If I get married, I'm keeping my last name. I love how it sounds, and it's who I am. It's tied to my cultural identity and all of my work accomplishments, so I intend to keep it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:54 AM
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Yes, that's a good plan. For your sake, you need to sever yourself from him. I'm sorry you had to deal with his horrible reaction, but if you continue with the pregnancy, that's what the rest of your life will be like. Go through with your plan, and dump him. If he can't support you through an emergency (that he caused because of his dick, btw), then he won't be able to support you in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:51 AM
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Just don't go. Simples. Have your own ride to the date to and fro. If he's picking you up and dropping you off, you're letting him know where you live, and it'll put you in a bad position if he forces himself on you. Just don't go to their place or your place. Say good bye at the restaurant, and stop following THEIR bullshit "3 dates until sex" rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:48 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm so glad you're out and that you found us! Please stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:03 PM
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NO KIDDING. They can lose their dad bods, invest, save money, level up at work, learn bow to have proper hygiene, learn to dress well, move out of their momma's house, develop hobbies that aren't porn and video games, and get degrees with all this time and effort they put into their fucking scheming and plotting!! "But being a HVM is too much worrrrrkkk" 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:19 PM
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Good luck! NaNoWriMo starts in November, so get that word count in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:06 AM
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He's fucking lying about having so many replies! These scrotes don't get messaged half as much as women, so they say lies like "Message me first. I can't see all of my likes", "I don't check messages often on here", or some variation of "I'll try to get to all my messages. Be patient."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:20 AM
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Another reason why the Handbook says to keep your trauma secret - men will clearly exploit it. It sickens me to think of how I shared all my secrets back then in an attempt to feel closer to the guys I dated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:02 PM
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Or complaining that they settled for the pick me women that they're currently dating, that they feel trapped, and can do so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:36 AM
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Expecting to have sex with a "person he has never met before" is fine, but her asking for sushi is misandrist!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:28 AM
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Exactly!! They will never take a break to focus on fixing themselves. They want to come into the dating pool "wounded" so they can actually wound people who care about them. It's so selfish. I don't get how these men come into dating so entitled and looking for therapists. "Fix me, and MAYBE I'll think about calling you my bangm-, um, girlfriend."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:36 PM
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In my Dark Ages, I used to make EVERY excuse in the book for the guy not initiating dates: "He's busy, he forgot, he doesn't know what I like, he said he'll plan the next one." NO MORE FUCKING EXCUSES, LADIES!! So glad this sub opened up my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 06:12 PM
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She sounds Nigerian!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:15 AM
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Saved your post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 12:01 AM
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What the flying fuck?!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:46 PM
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Seriously, thanks for the post, OP. I was getting tired of those squeamish about dinner dates comments. We're worth it, ladies! If you don't believe that, those LVM men will come swarming at the gates. If he gives you hell for paying $30 for your meal, laugh, toss the cash on the table, and gtfo!! Don't feel apologetic for valuing yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:47 PM
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I've been feeling the same way. Now that I've gotten over the fear of being unmarried at 30, my future looks brighter! It's still sad that good men are hard to find, but I'd rather cry about hypotheticals than to cry about abuse in a real, shitty relationship (shrugs).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:52 PM
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Read the Handbook, and you'll find the answer there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:50 PM
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I gasped at the sheer audacity of this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:48 PM
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I'm so glad you're out and safe!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:25 PM
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Seriously, it's so freeing to be CF! I dated so desperately when I was in my early 20s because I was worried about my biological clock and all that. Now I'm like, "What's the rush? Let me take my time and vet!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:59 AM
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Save those outdoorsy and potentially dangerous, isolating dates for people you have vetted. You're putting your safety in the hands of a stranger with those activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:26 PM
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Wowwwww. He's the one who brings up the whole hooking up question, and then he bullies her for her answer. He would have bullied her either way, even if she had said she didn't hook up with people. He would have called her "frigid" or a "prude " and then convinced her to give hooking up a try starting with him. I'm so glad she kicked him out, but she needs to yeet him out of her life. She's only known him for 6 months, so she can find another friend who actually respects her boundaries and isn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:00 PM
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Or the horrible posts we see on other subs where they say stuff like "He's the perfect boyfriend BUT he has a crippling porn addiction" or "He chokes me during sex and cheats on me, but he is so loving. He's like a teddy bear!" BARF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:50 PM
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Two lovely ladies from this sub recommended these self-defense tools in past posts: Knife rings, Pepper spray/ knife combo: www.goguarded.com Silent alarm jewelry that can also call the cops www.invisawear.com
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:34 PM
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I was so upset when she died. I just watched one of her movies recently, and I was thinking about what an absolute shame her death was. Thanks for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:26 PM
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Wow, that's dumb as fuck. A car date so he can force her to give him a blowjob or drive her somewhere against her will? Car dates are NOT safe and are low value!! Avoid at all costs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:22 PM
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This is why I can't live with roommates anymore. I was always SOOO considerate of who I brought over and notified them far in advance, but they would bring every rude, dirty rando off the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:45 PM
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TRIGGER WARNING: My ex and I were play wrestling one day, and he laughed at how much stronger he was than me. He said, "I could easily rape you." I was shocked and told him not to say stuff like that. Later on in our relationshit, he coerced me into having sex with him several times. WHEN MEN TELL ON THEMSELVES, LISTEN!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:36 PM
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Try wearing sunglasses during the day in addition to headphones. I have a weird super power where I make eye contact with crazy people, so wearing sunglasses helps. At least it's a way of putting up another guard, and it makes it easier to ignore the people. If it's legal where you live, carry a taser and pepper spray with you, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:37 PM
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Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:38 PM
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I was a Psych major, so in my PRE-FDS days, these scrotes would be like, "Cool! You can fix me then." I thought they were joking 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:32 PM
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I'm like you - I prefer fun, chill dates over dinner dates, but that's bitten me in the ass over the years. Men hear about that, and they instantly sigh and think, "Yay! I can do the bare minimum now!" I'd be the one planning and paying for these chill dates, and the guy got to coast by and enjoy my thoughtful activities while still expecting sex afterwards. Let him learn about your interests and preferences through thoughtful conversations at a date that HE planned and that HE payed for. Simple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:57 PM
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I just snorted out laughing!!! That was hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:08 AM
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Ha ha. In my case, I've never had alcohol before (I'm excluding the wine used in religious ceremonies, but I haven't even had that for years). But yeah, these guys treated it like some alcohol virgin situation. I wasn't swayed and would say, "No" and they would be offended that I wouldn't "bend the rules" for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:24 PM
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Given the LVM and NVM out here, of course we can't love them!! I'd give backwash a chance over them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:48 PM
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I don't drink, so you should see the looks on their faces when guys (before my FDS days) found out. Like, they'd have a cracked smile and be like, "Oh, I respect that!" but would try to offer me a drink later. Like, "I want to be the first person you ever drink with" or "Please? Take a sip for me!" when I had told them that I never ever plan on drinking earlier (no story, I just don't want to), but they still thought that was negotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:38 PM
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"We accept the love we think we deserve." - The Perks of Being a Wallflower
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:02 AM
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He's "joking" about jackhammering a woman during sex and then ditching her in the morning. What a gentleman! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:58 AM
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I worry about safety tho, cuz you're all alone with some stranger in an isolated location. Plus, it's just an opportunity for them to check you out in your tight exercise wear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:11 AM
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OMG, I gagged at the thought!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:40 AM
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Your English is fine, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:37 AM
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It's so disgusting that a safe word is even fucking needed. Safe words are basically saying that guys don't want to be traumatized when they rape someone because hearing "no" or "stop" ruins their fantasy and makes them the bad guy. It's a half assed way for the guy to follow consent cuz he could just say, "I didn't know what you meant" or "I couldn't hear you".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:06 AM
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LVW "raise their daughters and love their sons" 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:13 AM
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Yes, my ex claimed he thought I hated him all this time when I grabbed coffee with him before my FDS days. Of course, I reassured him I didn't hate him, complimented him, and reminisced about the old days. I reached out to him after saying I had a good time and what not. He never texted me back 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:05 AM
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I just let out a sigh of relief at the thought. Imagine all the shit we'd be able to do!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:40 AM
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Yep. Thankfully, I got out of that situation (by lying and making excuses to him about why I wasn't ready) and drove myself home, crying and kicking myself the whole way 😢 But you can bet I yeeted him out of my life after that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:48 AM
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Yep. It was literally just boiled spaghetti with like dried herbs on top. Dead ass!! But my pickme self ate it and complimented him on it. My stomach was still growling after I finished the plate lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:46 AM
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I would even add a topic about "what to do when your culture or religion accepts misogyny/ encourages Pick Me behavior". I had a lot of guilt from my religion and culture for rejecting a lot of the pick me expectations that were placed on me from a young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:53 PM
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Yep. I dated a tall, ugly guy with horrible acne and body acne because he seemed nice. We dated for a few weeks, but I still couldn't get into him. He cooked me a shitty "dinner" at his place, and we watched movies. Of course, he expected sex after his lazy unseasoned spaghetti dinner. When I refused politely, he started yelling at me about "all he had done for me" and demanded to know why I wouldn't get intimate with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:51 PM
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Your Red Flag meter was spot on. This loser feeds off of sympathy and being patronizing. You don't need this; you'll only waste time being his cheerleader and his therapist, cooing at him about how he's right to hate women and how misunderstood he is. He wouldn't pull this shit on a man but thinks it's okay to pull this on you. Let him sort out his own problems, and trust yourself more. You're all you've got! BLOCK AND DELETE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:22 PM
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I hear you. My twin sister and I are 29, and she really wants kids. She has been an FDS disciple since before FDS formed, so she's planning to adopt or use a sperm donor for her children. She would rather raise them 100% her way and know they'll be safe from neglect and all the risks of having a LVM/ NVM as the father. I think that's something you should consider, too, if you want kids. It's better to have it on your terms than to force yourself to be with a loser who will not only waste your ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:31 PM
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Seriously, same. I have tried to be attracted to women. I find them beautiful and lovely, but unlike men, I'm not going to string along a lovely women for free sex because I feel like experimenting. I admire from afar but am still sadly hetero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:26 PM
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네. 잘 했다!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:31 AM
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Same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:45 PM
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That just means his mates are fitter than him and that he is unfuckable lol And that he's salty about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:44 PM
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All of these comments made me dry lol This is why OLD is a fucking waste of time. - 2,000 out of 10! I don't recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:42 PM
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Same!! This sub changed my life. I'm so happy and am looking forward to my future. I have so many plans that I put aside when I was desperate for male attention. I feel liberated and excited at what is in store - with a man (HVM only, of course) or not!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:29 PM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:27 PM
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I did this and found out the guy I was dating was a sex offender. He had sketchy work history, so I had asked him if he had been arrested before. "No, never!" he said. After I confronted him with the truth: "I went to court and am on the sex offender list, but I technically wasn't arrested!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:01 AM
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Stay on the app. He's trying to make you leave a platform where you can keep your private info safe and where you can report him. Say no to him and that you only want to stay on the app. Some scrotes use your phone number to Facebook stalk you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:49 AM
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Post a link, please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:30 AM
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These guys need to realize that you can pay for school, but you can't buy class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:44 AM
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This is why I'm not getting married unless I get value like this. What's the fucking point otherwise??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:38 AM
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Yep. This guy is throwing in the word "relationship" like it's "Open Sesame!" for your vagina. Let his year long slump continue. NEXT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:00 AM
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Same. Every POC woman has some racist kink to worry about because our races are porn flavors for these scrotes: "Shall I get rough with some Black thot? Should I get with a feisty Latina? My options are endless!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:52 AM
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Scrotes use love to get sex, and women have been programmed to use sex to get love 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:38 AM
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When I didn't have a car (and before Uber), I took public transit and/or used a taxi. Because of that, I made sure to only have dates that were feasible to get to and made sure the dates weren't too late for me to get home. I have a car now, so that definitely makes it easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:33 AM
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I used to think like that when I was in college. Not anymore, thank goodness!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:47 AM
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Don't get into cars with these men! Not until at least 3 months has passed, if that. Cars can keep you trapped during an uncomfortable situation, and you need to keep your address private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:38 PM
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Remember not to get into a car with him once you're getting to know him! Especially if he drives this way. It could be dangerous for you in more than one way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:31 PM
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Exactly! Men should only be in relationships if they will value and appreciate the woman. Why are we labeled as terrorists for upholding that standard?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:22 PM
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Ha ha. Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:21 PM
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He probably isn't even a real PT. Men think they're experts on everything. Hell, he'd pretend to be a menstruation expert if he thought it'd help him get laid. Still, fuck that guy. The audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:21 PM
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Right? He'd be like, "I'M tired. I'VE had a long day. You always bother ME when I'm trying to relax" plays video games for 8 hours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:01 PM
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Yep. As a Black woman who has been dating for 11 years, nothing fruitful or positive has ever come of it. Men deem Black women as undesirable, so all I have dealt with are scrotes breadcrumbing and future faking. I'm tired of it and feel much more powerful keeping my destiny in my own hands. Edit: My first award on here! Thank you! And I hate to be negative, but my optimism about the reality of dating as a Black woman has brought me back into so many toxic situations. Ladies, please be safe and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:14 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha!! I did some whiny ass voice in my head when I read that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 03:55 AM
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High-school teacher: "Boys use love to get sex, and girls use sex to get love." ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:23 AM
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Don't go. You'll regret it, and he'll blame you for everything you complain about by saying, "You CHOSE to come here. Why are you mad at me?" You'll need to rely on him, you won't have any friends or family, and you won't be able to work or find a job. Then when you seek comfort, he'll push you away and say you're clingy and smothering him. Does he even call himself your boyfriend?? How dare he ask you to uproot yourself for no benefits!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:22 AM
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Yep. I rolled my eyes when I read the "only had 2 serious ex-gfs" line. It's always 2 serious ex-gfs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:33 PM
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Yep, same. One of my nightmares is being trapped by a NVM and linked to him because of a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:47 PM
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Wow, nice! Sucks that I had to hear about 2 safety measure recommendations today. I heard the other in a different sub after a female athlete noted a run in with a creeper. Here's what was recommended: www.goguarded.com. With how fucked men are, I'll get both 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:58 AM
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Even in my pick me/ pre-FDS days, I considered the thought of being asked to move in as an insult. If that topic comes up, I'll laugh in the guys face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:38 AM
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Great suggestion! I had never heard of this company before. I'll get this for me and my sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:10 AM
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I read a story online years ago about a "dad" being jealous of his son being breastfed because "no other guys should be able to touch his wife's boob but him". I'm already child free, but this shit makes me never want to get married. Men are disgusting. This is ANOTHER thing women have to be worried about now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:38 PM
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That's bad ass! I consider it a compliment when men say they're scared of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:54 AM
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Wowwwww. What were the comments saying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:04 PM
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Yes, I was looking for a comment like this. I say this on a lot of posts here: Ladies, DO NOT get into his car or his place!! It's not safe for a bunch of reasons including this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:05 PM
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Yes. A high school teacher once told me, "Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love." Super sad for us women, but these scrotes won't bat an eye as they lie to your face while crossing their fingers and laughing about it with their friends after. Take everything they say at face value; they say stuff they think women want to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:19 AM
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I really like Asian men, but they act like fuckboys because I'm Black and think they can treat me lazily since I'm not of the same race 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:45 AM
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Same!! I carry mini deodorants with me everywhere. I'm so afraid of smelling bad or looking dirty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:19 AM
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OMG, I BARFED IN MY MOUTH!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:18 AM
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Yep. I'm a teacher, and when I did OD, scrotes would be like, "Oooh, you're a teacher, huh?" 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:58 AM
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Christ on a bike... So glad you left him. Please be careful, tho. Keep your wits about you, block him from everything, and keep text evidence if you need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:47 AM
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Oh my gosh, that is NUTS!! Yes, same. My early 20s were like the Dark Ages lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:05 PM
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Same. I'm also 29, happily single, and without any kids. So glad I didn't settle and get trapped in a loveless, unhealthy marriage. I, too, struggled with the fear of not being married by 30 when I was younger, but I know things happen for a reason. I'm only looking forward to meeting the right guy for me who will tick off my boxes. If it happens, cool. If it doesn't, well, I'll be okay. So will you! No LOSER, NO CRY! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:11 AM
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Your post was so funny!! "Deep sea trawling" and "First mate on a pedo's boat"?!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:01 AM
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Yes!! I love this movie. It is very erotic and dark, but the female leads are soo good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:50 AM
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OMG, so true. I always brace myself for the large age gap 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:45 AM
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Wow, how generous of him! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:07 PM
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Yep, they're saying he's the asshole. He's so immature and selfish and is saying stuff like, "All my other gfs did that stuff for me", "I never asked her to do it, so why should I help?", and "I'm fine with takeout and dirty house. If she doesn't like it, she can leave."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:03 PM
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Such scum. I'm sure he whines and complains when his gf says no to mediocre sex with him after a long day at work and after her second shift at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:44 PM
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He already let you know how he sees you - as a cum dumpster. That's why he brought up not liking condoms (wtf?!) into the convo. He doesn't see who you are; he's just looking for an easy screw. You don't need him or that drama. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:31 AM
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Yep. A guy I dated asked me to be his girlfriend. That same night, he slept over and tried to get a blowjob. When I refused, he said, "Why? I'm your boyfriend now." I didn't give him the blowjob, and he ghosted me until I officially broke up with him 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:02 AM
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He should tell HIS friends not to look at her then. Like the Bible says, if your eye causes you to sin, then pluck it out! My boobs are only a B cup, but bras are so uncomfortable for me. I'd be pissed if a guy demanded me to wear one; I barely pull it together for work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:29 PM
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Love this. Every time I lowered my standards and made exceptions for these scrotes, it was a huge waste of time, and I really regretted it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:18 AM
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Pretty insightful! But again, ladies, none of us should get into the guy's car until we have vetted him for months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:13 AM
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Me, three. Like, what's the fucking point at this rate? 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:54 AM
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Their stories were so sad. Those girls were brave, and their communities failed them 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:52 AM
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All these useless, selfish men are on dating apps right now because they're bored and horny. Since you're an Asian woman, a lot of them (that are non Asian) will be creepy and wanting you for some Asian girl sex fantasy. If I were you, I wouldn't date right now. It'll just be a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:44 PM
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The OP said, "I don't know if I could cheat. I don't think that I'm that kind of guy." To me, that translates to "I would cheat if I could, but no one else is interested in me, so I'll pretend that I have a moral compass. Even though that moral compass didn't do shit when I married someone I'm not attracted to!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:23 PM
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If only I could just grow a HVM that way, sigh 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:50 PM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha!! How could you call her "barren"?? 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:49 PM
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I don't drink either and never have/ never will (no story behind it - I just don't want to), and I've had guys try and test it. They've said, "Wow, I respect that" and in the next breath said, "C'mon, won't you drink for me?". Him searching for a non-alcoholic beer is the same as dancing on your boundaries. He's trying to find a way to push you into doing what he wants. You even said that he tried finding a beer that "HE likes". If he's so alcohol dependent on dates, that's not a good sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:54 AM
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And they say WE'RE the emotional ones 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:45 AM
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Great post! This is in The Handbook, too, but it needs to be repeated: do NOT go to his house, do not let him drive you around in his car, and do NOT move in with him!! I've seen a few posts this week form ladies who went to the guy's place and the guy behaved aggressively. Same for moving in - it makes it hard to leave if he's mistreating you or is hurting you. Always have a way out, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:23 AM
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Just like his career matters to him, your career should matter, too. He may not be resentful now, but if you have a few kids and ask about money, he'll eventually pull the old "I make the money, so what I say goes!" point for everything. You don't want to be like a mouse in your home and be afraid to rock the boat. If you're having these doubts now, listen to them. Men use money to control their partners, whether he's handsome or not. You need to guarantee your future as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:19 PM
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Does he live in his head? "What are you scared of?"?? Um, being killed, for one. So he's trying to bully you and tease you into having sex with him?? Emotional manipulation. You should drop him. He's trying to make sex transactional ("The 3rd date? Hmm, how about the 4th date?"), and those kind of guys are selfish losers who view women as cum dumpsters. No good will come out of going with him. Hell, even if he waits until 3 months, he'll just scram after he gets it - probably hating you for maki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:10 PM
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I'm glad you rejected him, but please do not go to any guy's place for a "date". Any of these loser guys who offer his place for "movies" or to "cook you dinner" just want sex, plain and simple. The Handbook is against house dates for this reason. If it wasn't sex that he tried to get, it could have been something else - he could have hurt you and then blamed it on "sex gone wrong". I wouldn't go to a guy's place for at least 3 months. There are so many stats about dating violence, so us women c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:23 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha!! Not the sad eyes 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:29 PM
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Same! Before FDS, I was terrified at the thought of being unmarried at 30 (I turn 30 next year), but now that I've accepted it, I can stop running myself ragged for the sake of men and feel at peace with myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:08 PM
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Right? FDS disapproves of living with a man because of issues like this. He's content having a steady screw and a roof over his head. If it were YOU doing that to him, he'd call you a gold digger and wouldn't tolerate it at all. A true partner doesn't want to be a burden to their loved one. His lack of care for that fact and lack of consideration for you are huge red flags. If you married him, it would just be more dead weight, even more so if you got pregnant. You know what to do. Believe in yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:36 AM
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If he's not financially sound, getting married will only make things worse. As his wife, his debt will become his responsibility. Does he have a good job? Does he have expensive electronics at his place? How does he live? Does he have his own place? If you're asking whether you should be happy or mad, you must know that this ring didn't come from his heart. I personally would want to be proposed to by a Bob-the -Builder bf; he needs to be the whole package already. If being with him will be a bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:47 PM
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Good for you for sticking to your boundaries and protecting yourself. At your age, I didn't stand up for myself and had a lot of shit thrown at me. It hurts for you now because you liked his potential, but your intuition and strength saved you for a reason. He wanted to physically HURT you and violate you sexually. It's better to have tears of frustration than tears of regret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:53 PM
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THIS. No way is a simple dinner date gonna do it for this guy. I hate how transactional they are. I hope some buff, tattooed, dangerous guy hits him up for "the hot date" lol Let's see how fair the OP thinks it is then 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:04 PM
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Ha ha. Same. I lost it at that part! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:33 PM
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That's right, the looks factor. How has that affected your dating life, if you don't mind me asking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:48 PM
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"Proposal Shaming"? Why is that even a group? Those ladies have got to just leave!! That shit is so sad. Men who emotionally manipulate like that are selfish nut jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:42 PM
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Yeah, when I lived in Korea, a lot of the Korean guys would try cutting corners with me by being LV and being sexual way too fast. With Korean couples, it's expected for the guy to pay, be conservative, impressive and attractive, and to date with the purpose of being in a relationship, but of course, I got all the fuckboys who thought I would be an easy A.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:44 PM
31

Don't feel guilty! Sex should not be transactional, and those who think so are psychos. Men capitalize on pressuring women and intruding in our spaces because they KNOW we've been conditioned to be nice. And I cannot fathom how they can emotionally manipulate women into sex - and then laugh at the damage they caused. I'm horny af and haven't had sex for almost a year, but I would NEVER manipulate or guilt someone into having sex. The idea sickens me, and if it doesn't sicken your guy friends, re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:14 AM
9

Thank you! I'll let her know 😊 She's such a sweetheart, but she takes no shit from men. He absolutely adores her lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:27 AM
8

Ha ha. The guys I used to date would make me pay or split for an iced water at McDonald's 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:24 AM
11

Ha ha. Gosh, I might as well have not gotten anything. Back in my pick me days, I would fake a smile and be like, "Aww, thank you!" when they pulled out melted chocolate bars from their pocket and gave it to me ("It's Valentine's Day, right? Here, take this shit. I didn't want it anymore" 🤡)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:23 AM
17

Ha ha ha ha. Girl, same 😭 My birthday is on Valentine's Day, so my only "surprise" from these dusty LVMs would be candy or some dollar store teddy bear with a heart on it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:15 AM
29

THIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:06 AM
3

Are women responsible for his shit spelling skills, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:19 AM
13

Yep. These guys get obsessed and delusional and will start chasing other methods to reach that same high... BTW OP, the FDS Handbook is clearly against moving in with a man. See why? You're in a situation that is making it hard for you to leave. Just the way these guys like it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:32 AM
29

You already said it, and you know why à to do. Just block him and only chat with your friends in that apartment (only if they support your decision). I In the past, I have fallen for that fake act that men use with "being down in the dumps/ woe is me!" after you express boundaries with them because they KNOW women are conditioned to be caring and put others' needs above their own. This only shows me that he's manipulative, is preying on you, or expects you to "fix him" for free and on his terms.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:29 AM
6

Do you have to be friends with her? Just like the handbook says to block and delete NVMs and LVMs, I think we should do the same for LV friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:07 AM
19

I agree with her. I'm 29 and can verify that; guys in their 30s are so not hot anymore. I gave up 4 dating apps this year because there was no one impressive there. Kudos for you for building your wealth! And definitely protect it, like she said. All the hobosexuals will lust after you. And they say women are the only gold diggers 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:20 AM
7

Yeah, dafuq. She's gorgeous! I thought it was a model's selfie with her photographer at first lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:17 AM
8

Yep. As soon as I saw the OP's age, I knew it'd be a 10 plus year gap 🙄 I hate being right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 01:02 AM
3

Yeah, if possible, she should do it through the app so he doesn't get her real number!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:18 AM
10

A major mistake I learned was to force myself into liking someone. No, they won't appreciate and try harder; it'll still be wasted time and effort. Pull back and let him court you. If he piques your interest and displays effort, sure go out with him again - if YOU feel like it. Otherwise, nah. Don't force yourself to like him and don't let your friends pressure you either ("Why not?? He's cute and nice and blah blah. You're too picky! "). Sometimes your gut makes you disinterested to protect you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:14 AM
29

Yep. I hate how women do this. There's a quote that "Mothers raise their daughters and love their sons". It's so unfair 😑 My mom does this and is definitely turning my little bro into a LVM. I'm warning any woman he dates lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:54 AM
2

They still lie. I had a bad feeling about a LVM ex, and I asked him if he had ever been arrested before (he had no schooling or strong work experience). He said, "No"; turns out he's a sex offender. I confronted him, and he said, "I wasn't technically ARRESTED with handcuffs! I knew the cop, so he just escorted me to the police station!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:53 PM
2

Is there a way you can move ASAP? Please keep yourself safe and change your regular route. Maybe install cameras and get a big dog? Please be safe!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:50 PM
3

Yeah, I'll do that next time instead of getting banned and having stupid replies like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:14 PM
1

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:12 PM
5

I got banned from the Dating Advice subreddit for a week because the mods said I was "advertising a PUA subreddit" 😑.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:11 PM
22

Ha ha ha ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:22 AM
1

Exactly!!! Men are dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:20 AM
12

Just be glad YOU'RE setting the record straight and swimming upstream against the currents of socialized patriarchy. People have been brainwashing women for centuries to be okay with and accept this behavior; of course it'd be hard to dismantle it overnight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:31 PM
13

Just saved this post! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:25 PM
3

Gotta remember these New Rules 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:20 PM
20

Ugh, same here. That interaction with my last LVM guy is why I joined FDS lol I was fed up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:03 AM
11

YEEETTT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:24 PM
6

He's riding on the coattails of your success because it makes him look good and provides him with easy benefits; he's not trying to improve himself as actively as you did. You know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:21 AM
3

Yeah, don't go with this guy. It's the 3rd date, and being with him all day in unfamiliar territory puts you at a disadvantage. I would not want to rely on a stranger for my transportation and safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:16 PM
91

This is one of my fears. I've heard moms with useless husbands like this say that their husbands "completely changed after they got married". I don't really believe that; I feel like these men show you clues about who they are most of the time. What do you guys think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 09:05 PM
22

Good for you! I came to that same conclusion this weekend 😁 It was such a big step for me considering my pickmeshia ways from way back lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:13 AM
8

Ha ha. Right? He wouldn't even offer it. His pleasure matters more than ours 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:52 AM
6

Listen to "New Rules" by Dua Lipa on repeat. It's the same situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:28 PM
162

I think he's the guy I dumped recently!! He got pissed off at me for refusing to fuck in his car. He told me I was being "too emotional" and not open-minded enough lol 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:25 AM
1

I'm a Bay Area native, so you're spot on. I've given up dating here, too. And surprise, surprise, the tech guys think they're real catches for working in Silicon Valley when they're really awkward, lazy douches in unflattering clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:46 PM
25

Yep. Had to break it off recently (thanks to FDS) with a disrespectful, sex obsessed, educated guy with his own house and business because his accomplishments blinded me. Glad I learned that lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:08 AM
10

Maybe a bf could send food or presents, but I personally wouldn't want some stranger to have my address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:33 AM
8

I wish I had that wisdom at your age! 29 here, and I'm preparing for my badass single lady lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:19 AM
15

I dated a guy who was nice but had a lot of red flags (including a traumatic childhood that he had told about early on). My gut told me to probe deeper, and it turns out he's a sex offender. I ended things immediately and confronted him, and he was like, "I was going to tell you after you fell in love with me. It's not my fault! I was set up. You know how bad my childhood was!!" So glad I listened to my gut and left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:38 PM
82

Yeah, even though he did a 180, I worry about his manipulative tactic of saying what she wants to hear. He's scared to be lonely, so he's selfishly trying to keep her at arms length. Don't buy into it! Stick to your plan and continue to push him away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:16 PM
104

I'm glad he's getting dragged in the comments. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:58 PM
26

Eating while reading this was a mistake. My stomach just turned 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:10 AM
6

Yep, I deleted my last dating app (4 deleted in the last few months) a few days ago. Let me find someone who will put more effort into those face to face connections!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:00 AM
18

God, I cringe at my college dating lifestyle. I was a textbook pickmeshia. Never again! Seriously, having FDS at your age is such a blessing!! Date for experience, but definitely don't give up the goods for LVM or NVM. College is rampant with them. Apparently being a "college boy" is all they think they need to bring to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:34 AM
2

Thanks! Been meaning to check that show out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:21 AM
1

What show is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:11 AM
3

There are hundreds of stories about women being killed after rejecting a man. A guy I had a few dates with walked me to my car and got upset when I didn't want to kiss him. He was sweet before but totally changed then. He yelled, "Seriously?! How long is it going to take?" and pretty much shocked me into kissing him. I was shaking after (I have some trauma and he retriggered it), and he was all pleasant again and said, "I'll see you next time, right?" Even though I knew there was no way in hell …
/r/seduction25/05/20 09:58 PM
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