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My ex exemplified both of them. I am sick when I hear either of them talk. Please shoot me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 02:07 AM
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The fact they are so nonplussed is disturbing. I had one kid send me a three god damn page letter of him telling me how much he liked me. I was 31...he was 19. He didn't care I was that much older than him and felt that that was the only reason I was not interested in him. Even if he was my age, I would be disgusted as he had a habit of trying to monopolize my time when I was at work (we worked together) and tried to covertly get me to go on dates despite my explicit telling him of "No, not inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:32 AM
132

She has an allowance and also access to his CC. Why does she need “extra money”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:57 AM
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Yeah, then I wouldn’t take your aunt’s words to heart. Your guy sounds sweet by the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 01:16 AM
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That’s really an odd thing for the aunt to say during something you should be happy for and it seems to me auntie green with envy over your accomplishments. She’s quick to sow discontent at your expense over something that wasn’t and shouldn’t be an issue. If she was legitimately concerned, she would have waited a few days to let you have your moment in the sun but instead she rained on your parade. I’ve been to my fair share of school ceremonies both as a recipient and as friend/family attendin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 12:39 AM
76

Wait, so she left two young women alone in a store all day and she isn't worried about their safety?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 09:44 AM
109

Tell me about it. Got hit on by teens and early 20’s as well when I hit my 30’s. Pulled a part time job prior to nursing school and had a 19 year old bouncing to catch my eye. It was fucking weird. And when I went back to college, guys were all over the place trying to ask me out/hit on me. Part of it was flattering but it was mostly annoying. Most people thought I was in my early 20’s but just dressed “mature”. Whatever the fuck that means. Hell, even my current boyfriend thought I was around h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:53 PM
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I'm going to rearrange the list a bit and add somethings to provide more explanation. Follows women who post racy photos/nudity on Instagram/SM/reddit and/or has an Onlyfans subscription account. Extremely secretive of phone and computer. Gets angry if you use it innocently. Vanilla intimacy isn't stimulating enough for them. Sex conduct is continually escalating to obscure/violent/uncomfortable sex. This can include coercion or flat out trying without consent (rape) while having sex. Ignores an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:13 PM
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Many incels were coddled by their mother, who waited on them hand and foot. They expect a waifu slave that will worship the ground they walk on because they are a guy. Many shitty fakecels are men who experienced neglect and abuse as children whether it was from one or both parents. They harbour ill will towards the mothers because they didn’t “protect” them from abuse. They in turn push the ideology of women being less than and not only expect their women to be essentially sexual and physical p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:26 PM
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Yes. Just block. Also, give the gym a heads up that he might try to cause problems so they can have your back just in case. Gyms are pretty good about helping out those who are being harassed. So, if he does so, they will kick him out. Either he will do one of two things: Ignore you the next time around or ask you why you haven't responded. If he does this, tell him straight up you aren't interested in someone who doesn't respect your boundaries and you want no further contact with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:27 AM
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This is the absolute downside and women will suffer and die because of this legislation. This is why it is absolutely imperative to make sure you are on some form of protection and are taking strides to keep yourself safe. This is why FDS is so important in this instance, because men do not get any sort of backlash for causing a birth that wasn't wanted. What I expect will happen is women will start dying (again) from complications that could have been prevented if they weren't scared to go to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:44 PM
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Yes and no to our rights are being taken away. The thing is there are multiple medical circumstances in which abortion is needed. Pregnancy isn’t all sunshine and daisies. It causes and contributes to a load of health problems in addition to permanently altering your body. However, women are only seen as birthing casks for the LVM legacy in which politics is rife with. For the record, doctors are not onboard with this mentality. There are many ways to get an abortion with out calling it an abort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:17 PM
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This guy is trying his best to manipulate you into a relationship. Your previous experiences with a shitty ex is noticing similar traits with this guy. Red flag number one was using “Just friends” to get you to go with him alone. You caught on right away and told him no. The fact that he tried to deceive you to do is covert gaslighting. Because had the “non-date” date been bad, he would have been quick to about face and state “It wasn’t a date. Did you think it was a date???” Red flag number two…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:02 PM
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So, this is is going to be tricky. First, your friend needs to find out if the state considers them in a common law marriage because that will complicate things. Second, she needs to seek out legal help and start eviction process by giving notice (depending on location) in writing to the non-paying individual. If there is failure to leave after the notification (each area has their own how many days of notice to vacate), follow up with eviction and take it to civil court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:53 PM
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The discussion of sex, porn, and the like in early dates is a huge red flag. Guys who discuss that early aren't there for the long term and want a quick and only them gratifying hookup. I totally understand trying to be transparent from the get go, but realize that LVM ignore that information and placate in the short term to get into your pants. Treat dating as if it is a date by date scenario instead of trying to squeeze long term information in a short term stand point. Make them wait for that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:45 PM
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For the record, I don't care if you are rich or poor. You don't be rude to waitstaff who are trying their best to help. If a guy did this to a waiter, it would be a huge ass red flag to me. Her behavior wasn't remotely queenly behavior. A queen knows what she wants and will be able to tell it clearly with dignity and class. Same with HVM, I would expect him to be kind and courteous while being clear. No games. No seeking to one up. This women clearly is aware of her wine tastes and sought to hum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:05 PM
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Portlandia was right, it is where young people go to retire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:41 PM
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Lmao!! It’s funny you mentioned P-town. That’s where I encountered them as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:14 PM
72

Anecdotal evidence here. Know a few people who are poly. Before they just cheated in a shit ton of monogamous relationships and told their partner to “deal with it”. They also weren’t people who had stability in their lives and created drama/pain where ever they went. It’s one thing if there is openness and honesty but all I ever saw was lying, deceit, and one monogamous partner getting the short end of the stick while the other jumped into every bed possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:42 PM
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My HVM came at a time when I wasn't looking and 100% invested in getting myself to a place of emotional, mental, physical, and financial stability. We met at school during work and didn't speak to each other for a good month despite having the same schedules. At that time, I was a full-time nursing student, which meant I did not have time for much of a social life outside of going to class, to clinicals, and doing homework. I was also seeing a therapist once a week, as I was fresh out of an abus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 02:03 AM
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When women have standards. Honestly, I can barely make it out of a generic restaurant under $100 now a days for two people during happy hour. $50-$70 is often multicourse with salads, sides and sometimes dessert. Things are more expensive due to CoVid. Why wouldn’t you want to impress on the first date? Also, a picnic?? Does he not realize the alarm bells that sends off? Is he making the food and drink to bring because that would be worrysome to someone who doesn’t know you? And coffee??? I take…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:46 PM
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“It’s the little things” Learn from my mistake ladies. I was one of those constantly doing “little things” for my ex until he slowly shovelled all of the work on to me with little appreciation for all of the things I did. I deluded myself into thinking that this was what a good girlfriend was supposed to do. 11 years of being this person and my animosity grew to the point of where the last three years, I absolutely hated him (he was also very abusive, so that added to the mindfuckery). Funnily e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 08:21 PM
222

“Men age like fine wine” What bottle of wine has a beer gut?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 11:58 PM
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Gas pumps can be gross but this also comes of controlling, as in "I doubt you know which quality of gas to get and pump it correctly". It's chivalrous if he was in the car with her or stopping at the same place for other reasons but if bro is following her ONLY TO PUMP HER GAS, he be creeping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 07:23 PM
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I handle a luke-warm man the same way I deal with a bath turning luke-warm, I get out of the tub and drain the water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:43 AM
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Jesus, this breaks my heart. She’s become hypersexual due to her past trauma and is using it to relive/hopefully control the situation. I seriously hope this is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 05:57 AM
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Nice =/= Kind Nice comes with expectation. Kind comes with none. A "nice guy" expects you to respond favorably if they do "nice" things for you. For instance, guy who helps you with a minimal task expects to be rewarded with a date or some other form of socialization at expense to you. A kind guy does things without the expectation of getting something in return. For instance, he helps you change your tire along side the road and leaves without wanting anything in return. Also, hygiene and self-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 08:44 PM
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I had to go back and look up her history to figure out her dating timeline. She's certainly dated quite a few high profile men and has created a tabloid's feast of drama to report on. She also seems to have short relationships and rushes things in them as well. I really feel for the Kennedy kid, as she decided to buy a house close to him to be near him (Not to mention he was 18 and she was 22). Really kind of creepy if you ask me considering they had only been dating 3 months with him still in h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 10:25 PM
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5 years, no ring. She turned into live-in-girlfriend. She wrote songs about finding her love and achieving her happily ever after with all the bells and whistles of marriage. And she's a live-in girlfriend now? Something isn't adding up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:29 PM
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I remember when this song initially came out. People were adamant that “John Mayer seemed to be the guy who would sleep with you and make you breakfast in the morning”. Taylor was YOUNG. Not just a little bit but a shit ton young. I don’t really like her but damn, I am not going to ignore the fact that Mayer took advantage of her. Girl was (and kinda still is) a diehard pickmesha who throws herself at any guy who gives her attention. I really hope she realizes she doesn’t need dick to feel fulfi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:45 AM
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Hello fellow sapiosexual! I echo your sentiments but will hopefully provide some insight. When dating for intelligence, realise that they may not be. In short, you aren’t dating spectrum dudes, your dating sexist guys who are expecting you to be on a lower level to control you and every conversation turns into a one up battle against you. They feel they are ALWAYS right and why they are purposefully trying to drop you a few pegs. If you do happen be right about specific thing or topic, they are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:13 PM
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I personally know two ex-porn stars. One went into porn hoping to transition to actual non-porn acting jobs, the other did it for money to help pay for further education. Both are embarrassed by their pasts and that they ONLY THING they will be remembered for is being in porn. Anyone who recognizes them brings it up without hesitation. They physically cringe when recognized. It’s really sad. Both are doing better now for the record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 03:46 PM
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When someone tells they support "sex workers", I look at them disgusted and ask "So, you support sex trafficking?" They will usually try to stammer and back pedal and "NOT ALL SEX WORKERS ARE TRAFFICKED" bs. So I ask them to differentiate between who is "doing it of their own free will" and those doing it because they are forced to because they have no other options. Then of those who "joined because they wanted to", how many of them ended up with mental health issues after the fact, how many of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:43 AM
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When his sister (who adores me) told me he got fired from his job as a substitute middle school teacher for having an “inappropriate relationship” with a middle schooler shortly after he and I broke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:22 PM
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Girl. You owe him nothing. You are a queen for slamming that door in his face. You have my greatest respect for picking yourself up and running for the horizon. I applaud your resilience!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:24 AM
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Hold up there, ladies. Staph is present on all skin. MRSA is an extremely antibiotic resistant form of Staph. If you go to the gym and touched equipment, chances are you have MRSA. If you work in healthcare, chances are you have it. Outside of washing yourself in bleach or hibiclens, there is very little you can do to prevent the spread as it (along with several other types of bacteria) are normal to have on your skin. Everyone is a carrier of Staph, so the notion that he “gave it to her” is rid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:21 PM
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Most likely fake story but even so. Fixations with feces in peculiar manners often scream of previous abuse. If this is a real situation, the guy was probably horrifically abused when a child. It would also explain his severe age gap marriage with a girl who is in her early 20's while he is in his 40's. In short, the dude is a psychological minefield and that girl best GTFO before he unleashes more of a shitstorm on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:12 AM
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Absolutely. He feels he is entitled to the money because hE sPeNt MoRe. Notice how he didn’t put in how much he actually spends or how much she spends a month on utilities, rent, food. If either party were breaking the bank each month in order to live while the other was claiming to not have money, that would be different but he is not struggling and she pays her way. He needs to grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 01:24 AM
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So, let me get this straight. She set a budget with him so she could save money for her self. Over the last 3 years she saved about 7k a year because she budgeted with expenses in mind. There is nothing wrong with budgeting with the thought of saving money. In fact, isn't that what you are supposed to do to keep yourself from living paycheck to paycheck???? He's not pissed that she "lied" which she did not. He's pissed that she managed to save money under his nose because he feels he is entitled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:43 PM
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Not really, PsyD’s will work on a sliding scale with low to no cost. A simple google search will pull up what’s available in your area and online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:58 PM
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Which is why you should find a therapist and therapy techniques to work with you, ideally one that specializes in spousal abuse/familial abuse (which will push you towards the more PsyD aspect instead of a base level licensed therapist). I would have given therapy a few months instead of waiting a year to figure out if the therapist was for me. Bad therapists, therapists you don't mesh with, and detrimental techniques are out there. Communication is key in order to progress yourself and a therap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:13 PM
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Therapy! Nothing helped me progress through so much hatred, anguish, and grief than having someone to help navigate those feelings. It gave me the strength to heal and repair the areas of myself that were attracting shit people. It helped me establish the best form of me. And I couldn’t have done it without having someone to help me reflect on the more scarred aspects of myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:39 AM
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He probably was interested in the mom before dating the daughter. And I highly doubt that they didn't have sex PRIOR to this whole "we had an argument, so I had sex with your mom." If he was church bound, he would have encountered her there and probably started dating the daughter at 15 to have a cover in order to keep seeing the mom without suspicion. It's TOO convenient that they only started having sex after he was 18. Considering she was the Children's Pastor, it raises so many more question…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:53 PM
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Guy realises he has one slight thing in common with someone he is slightly interested in, big brain moment is to start talking about sex or his dick. It’s almost so hilariously stupid, it’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:57 PM
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Any sort of gift giving holiday always gave me anxiety due to how my ex always had heavy expectations. He was an abusive, psychopathic asshole who grew up in a household with severely abusive, neglectful, and resentful parents. He was the child born to a teen mom coerced into sex by the town grease pole. Being it was the 80's, she was kicked out of her house and ended up marrying the shitty guy who knocked her up. He was routinely punished for being born and always received "less than" his other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:12 AM
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Don’t threaten me with a great time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:49 PM
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One: This story is fake af. Two: Assault is assault. Three: 12 is old enough to know right from wrong and what assault is. Four: Are we surprised about the shitty people lawding “Hurr durr, boys will be boys. I bet she enjoyed it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:47 AM
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Each has had their own benefits and detriments. The commonality being administration being sucky. I absolutely loved the Mental Health job but admin was not supportive and operated at dangerous levels of low staffing. High acuity patients and only one nurse for 60 was a disaster waiting to happen. I was terrified of what may happen each night due to not having enough support and exhausted from worry of the "what if's". I worked with 11-17 year olds as well, so them being kids added a different a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:52 AM
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The whole story disgusts me. Her being left to her own devices by both her sorority sisters (What the hell, girls!) and the shitty rejected frat boy who doesn’t understand he isn’t a gift from God. Everyone failed her that night. The fact that he was her only option for an escort home sickens me. I feel horrible for her. He can get bent for all I care. His self aggrandizing and comfort seeking scream narcissistic traits. I feel no sympathy for him and him seeking Reddit justification is ridiculo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:27 AM
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Where is the information about sex, sexual orientation, and age? About 1700 people interviewed is not what I would consider a meta-analysis. So much to be desired with study information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:06 AM
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I struggled with how I looked for years as well. My NEX was heavily into revealing, tight fitting clothes and parading me around as arm candy. I wasn’t so much into that. I struggled with “looking good” but often wondered who it was for. To top it off, being on the spectrum, I missed the fashion class that everyone else seemed to innately know. I stuck to jeans, T-shirt’s, and sweaters. Makeup was a complete mystery and clear through my 20’s, I bought my underwear in a six pack. Then when I ende…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 12:27 AM
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Nurse here! Don’t let the YouTube blast get you in the dirt. I’ve worked several areas of nursing, Inpatient Psych, Developemental Disabilities, LTC/MedSurg, and Hospice. There are always going to be assholes but the vast majority is are not. I’ve dealt with maybe two or three asshole doctors but the rest were awesome. The patients can be all over the place but most patients feel bad for taking up my time, like they aren’t worth the care. Jerk patients are often that way due to fear and not feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:32 PM
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Guys will tell you it’s healthy. It’s one thing to be curious, it’s a whole different ballgame when you are signing up for only fans, watching porn regularly, and commenting on Instagram-models. The fact that people are forced into doing some sex scenes doesn’t deter them. The fact that some girls are trafficked and/or underage doesn’t deter them. “WOMEN ARE EQUAL AND HAVE UNFAIR ADVANTAGES” They scream as they continue to consume media at the made expense of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:50 PM
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Uh yeah. This guy is a LVM. Drop his ass. You said you made the decision to “Give up on a lot of your dreams”. No HVM is ever going to interfere with what you want in life or force you to change your mind. You didn’t make this decision on your own accord, you did it to please him/keep him initially. Ditch his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:19 PM
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Saaaammmeee!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:46 PM
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Money may not buy happiness but it does provide stability. If you cannot afford a single date, then being romantically involved is out of the question. Whether it’s financially, physically, emotionally, or psychologically, nothing causes problems like insecurity and instability. If you are struggling in any of the above, it’s better to focus on making yourself more stable/ secure than dragging someone into the mix and bringing them down with you. There is an overbearing sense that people are ent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:03 AM
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You know what, I am glad he did this. This imbecile showed his entire personality in the span of a 15 second video. Takes the girl to what seems to be a chain restaurant (low effort), girl is clearly not digging him and showing body language that she wants to leave (probably did or said something that immediately turned her off. Probably didn’t listen to what she had to say), LVM realizes she isn’t interested but still pushes for sex (She obviously turns him down with an “Are you serious” look),…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:43 PM
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This reminds me of a wayward comment from 50+ year old than me co-worker when I was…wait for it.. 17. I, too, was/am an outspoken person and am quick witted. We had some pretty wayward banter towards each other, often yanking each other’s chain. He was a crochety old man, something I didn’t let him forget. After one of our more long winded back and forths, he told me that I was like a wild mustang and he pitted the guy that would try to break me. (For the record, breaking is essentially training…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:50 PM
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I’ve had a mixed political bag of friendships. The only difference is pro-porn liberals are open about watching porn, whereas pro-porn conservatives keep that aspect hush hush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:56 PM
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Which is why I wish they would get rid of political parties all together. Too many people jump on their political party’s bandwagon because wE cAnT hAvE tHe OtHeR pArTy WiN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:52 PM
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It’s a tactic to get you to try to win their approval by making you insecure. I would respond with his “job application” response with: Under further evaluation, it has been determined that your unique skill sets would not be a complimentary asset to the company. Have a nice day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 10:35 PM
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Abuse rears it's ugly head when the abuser feels comfortable enough to drop the charade and they know you aren't going anywhere. For me (we were never married, thank god) it was around year 5 that the abuse started to become much more overt. Abuse is more covert prior to that with snide comments, "accidental hurts" like shoulder checking, tripping, or "I don't know my own strength" shit. It's rare enough that you forget it happens but not completely uncommon. Boundary pushing is high on the list…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:06 PM
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I am so glad that this woman is sticking to her guns and that "Prudence" agrees. Her NEX ignored her one steadfast boundary about a wedding and not just a little bit (Like teehee, smudged a little bit of cake on the side of your face while feeding you), but grabbed her BY THE NECK AND SLAMMED HER FACE FIRST INTO A GOD DAMN WEDDING CAKE!!! That's not a red flag, that's a dictator's military parade telling you to leave asap. The fact that he grabbed her by the neck so nonchalantly in front of othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:56 PM
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You mean getting onto a website where everyone is going to pick the best looking people regardless of if they are in or out of their league doesn’t work?!!! Who’dathunk it!! Seriously dude, y’all want to be noticed. You need to do more than just swipe right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:12 PM
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“I had some unresolved issues” = “I thought all I had to bring was my dick to the table”. Let me guess, she handled pretty much everything householdwise and probably worked more/made more. He was emotionally unavailable and extremely selfish in bed. A dildo doesn’t whine when it doesn’t get fed, complain about not getting sex, argue with you over stupid shit, and won’t get mad at you for having a girls night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:05 PM
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It screams narcissism and enmeshment with how they blame “her” for him wising up and not wanting that life style. But what I see is the Royal family getting their panties in a bunch because he isn’t pulling the status quo of “how a royal should be”. They aren’t respecting his choices and aren’t respecting her. They pull the “She’s abusive” card because they believe they can’t possibly be the problem, it’s all her. The only thing she did is give him a taste of freedom outside of tightly controlle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:16 PM
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So here’s a few things to consider as to why this guy is TA. He never bothered to include her in the shopping or ask for her for ideas, he bought a 3.5 carat ring (which that is huge and for people working in medicine/their hands, not practical for work wear) because he wanted her to have a huge rock. This was all about him and his ego not about her wants and needs. He bought the ring under false pretences. He wanted her to show it off and everyone else be impressed and think “he is a good fianc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 05:19 AM
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I grieved for about a month after I ended an 11 year abusive relationship but I also did my best to keep pushing forward. The ZVEx went silent and his sisters later told me that he tried OLD/philandering around while sending texts about “how he was going to therapy” and “I’m making myself better for you”. I never responded to the texts but kept them for P.O evidence. I was terrified of me changing my mind and wanting to go back to him, therapy helped keep me away from him. It took about a year b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:48 AM
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The only reason I wouldn’t block would be if I was building a criminal case and wanted continued evidence of their harassment. Nothing quite like written text evidence or frequent phone calls from someone who you don’t want contacting you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:14 PM
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yOu JuSt NeEd To FiNd SoMeOnE wHo MaTcHeS yOuR sExUaL nEeDs?!? I’m sorry, but consent is not fucking politics. You don’t get to hold an embargo on basic affection because she won’t do what you want sexually. Part of the thrill of abuse is forcing the other person to submit to their will. It’s not about sexual compatibility, it’s about control. There are who would be more than happy to do various extremes that most won’t, so don’t think for a moment that if it was all about sex. If it were, he’d …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:43 AM
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In an age gap relationship, I am the older person. We met when we were both adults and developed a relationship out of friendship several years later. If I had known my bf when he was a child, I would not have any sort of attraction to him what so ever as I would see him more in the sense of a younger child to take care of. I babysat a lot in my high school/college days and I babysat kids that were born around the time he was who developed hardcore crushes. They are sweet kids but I have viscera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:47 PM
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On the spectrum female here! The way the Dr explained the concept of physical affection quite poorly. The pushing away and shirking from physical parental affection can be quite apparent during infancy in autistic children. Neurotypical infants will crave and cry for affection/attention from the parents. Mind you, this is at the stage when infants are trying to bond with parents in order to form that secure emotional/physical connection not a child being told to hug a stranger they don’t want to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:16 AM
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I hope it takes down the god damn trafficking ring with it. But, I am jaded enough to know that it won’t happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:43 AM
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What a very one sided and miserable sounding relationship. His needs only. What about hers? What about relationship balance? Cheating isn’t necessarily about not receiving these things. Some people get off on the power trip/thrill of leading a double/triple/etc life. It’s why genetic testing for family trees has brought so many grandpa/dad having other families into the light or them slutting around and knocking up multiple women. It takes more than an empty ball sack, a full stomach, and “peace…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:18 PM
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After I left my negvex, I focused on myself. Long and behold, I flourished like a plant that finally hit water and nutrient rich soils. I was living for me and me alone. It was dauntingly liberating. I lost weight, did things I had wanted to do, and above all else, put my messed up ass into therapy. It’s strange to have financial security. It’s strange to have a backup plan. It strange to feel that my life will not end if my romance does. But, god damn does it feel good to know I am taking care …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:34 AM
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I adore the coloration of Selkie dresses but not the fit. Baby doll dresses aren’t for someone who wants to look like an adult. Fireflypath did a revamp of a selkie dress, adding a waist to it. It looked adorable and flattering to the figure. If they added more torso to the picture, I might be more interested in the dresses. Having a dress that basically hangs off your boobs (I am fairly large) makes it look like a fancy moomoo with extra poof. It’s great if you can pull it off, but I certainly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:25 AM
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My first time was not entirely consensual either and I wasn’t in a position to say “No” either. I was 20 by that point and feeling as though I was more an oddity for being a virgin at my age. For once, I felt shame for not being sexually active because it meant that I had not found someone to connect with meaningfully on a physical level. But afterwards, I realized how much bullshit virginity was. I was still me but with more experience (and not necessarily good). I also reflected on the virgini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:55 PM
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My dad was…eh? He was shit in some ways and awesome in others. But he pretty much checked out after I hit puberty. Read into that what you want to. That being said, I stopped trusting/allowing him in my life after I hit about 10. I struggled with math and understanding it, when I asked him for help, he would scream at me when I didn’t understand. I stopped respecting or involving him in my life after that. I wanted nothing to do with him. I became a tutor to help others who struggled because of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 09:46 AM
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"You are too hard to buy for" = I am too lazy to get to know you better to think of anything independently and I don't listen when you talk about your interests. My NVEx was like this. He never tried to get me things that I would like, only things that he wanted me to have. One year, he bought tons of revealing clothes for Christmas because he wanted to be able to parade me around. I did not like the clothes because they were showing far more skin than I was used to and wasn't confident in my bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:37 AM
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I have very good guy friends that have zero attraction to me, but they also have grown up with me so are essentially family. I do have guy friends from my college/board game days in which it is the same situation, we view each other as family and offer support/advice when needed. The dynamic feels familial and while we are friends, their priorities are else where unless there is an absolute emergency. Much like I wouldn’t expect my sisters to drop everything to hang out with me but would be ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:42 PM
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Ironically, it was my grandpa who told me to treat marriage like I was entering a business agreement and to make sure to protect what assets I have because chances are my partner would take advantage of them if I didn’t prioritize them. He was right in away, however my middle school, Disney manipulated mind thought “someday my prince will come”, chose to see him as maligned for looking at romance like that, and I eventually became a pickme to a guy who’d eventually use and horrifically abuse me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:58 AM
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If he is career oriented and specifically was in a more male oriented STEM field, often your dating world dries up quickly. My HVM is in a STEM degree like this, not a lot of women entering it and a high homework/study load leaves little time for socializing. If we hadn’t been friends prior to him setting on his career path, he would still have been single and a virgin at 24 as well. It’s not that rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:09 AM
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It's not just a glow up. You can see how much she is glowing from happiness to do what SHE wants for once instead of slaving to someone who is controlling, neglectful, and a NVM. My ex hated having any sort of animal (which was important to me), hated that I like to read (he destroyed many of my books with out my knowledge), hated that people often liked being around me more than him to the point that he would sabotage relationships because of it, and then feeling like I had to handle everything…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:44 PM
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With parents who have hurt their kids in different ways, some respond by doing their best to minimize contact. I read further down in your posts that your mom put you and your brother through quite a bit of emotional trauma. I don’t blame you for your response or for his either. Having a dying family member who has made relationships complicated is going to bring out the worst behavior in anyone. At any rate, it is worth checking out a therapist to also help guide you through this period, the pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 07:01 PM
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Men give other men slaps on the back for dating younger women. But then men also think women’s virginity is like a seal package that they get to break open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:16 PM
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Ah yes, science funny bone is certainly tickled with lab created gems!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:39 PM
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To provide some perspective, I was initially interested in moissanite due how it seemed comparable to diamond in hardness (m:9.25 and d: 10 on mohs scale). I work with my hands quite a bit and wanted something that if it got damaged or the stone fell out, I wouldn’t feel shitty because of the money lost on it. I also did not want to contribute to the De Beers diamond monopoly as they have pretty unethical practices and even “conflict free” diamonds can receive that certification without actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 09:13 PM
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This is not surprising. Abusive people sprout from either abusive situations or a combination of abuse and an undiagnosed personality disorder like sociopathy/psychopathy. In the case of abuse that spanned childhood, teenage, and partial adulthood, the turning point is when the abusee realizes they also can abuse others to feel in control. Often times this is to a partner who has similar characteristics to someone who abused them or in some cases will encourage the partner to change their appear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:13 PM
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I am the older woman in the relationship. Mind you, there is a decade between us. The two of us started out as friends and co-workers (we met in college). We found out we had similar interests and morals. I was (and am still in) therapy at the time due to my abusive ex and all of the baggage that came from that. He was one of the first guy friends I made after I ended that relationship. My Ex decided stalking me was a good idea and I was extremely terrified as his own mother advised me he had ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:37 PM
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Ah, so straight up humiliation of the partner by extreme derogatory and violent means. And then to have guys straight up telling him to LIE about it. Fuck these kinds of dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:02 AM
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Anytime any woman has slight interest in anything, we apparently have to be as hyperfixated on it as any guy. You see it in everything that guys consider remotely masculine because their ego rides on the fact that they have to know more than any woman, otherwise they aren't a REEEAAAALLL FAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:08 AM
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He’s got a couple of golds at this point. Lowkey makes me wish there was a website to leave reviews on Ex’s. He’d have zero stars and a health warning sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:17 AM
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*Generalization warning* Everyone wants romance and a partner but it's not a realistic need. If you can't afford to pay for a meal out for yourself, with tip included, then you can't afford to be with someone else either let alone date. Sadly, I ran into an old girl friend of mine from high school. She was from a family that perpetually ran at the poverty level. My friend got pregnant shortly after high school, dad's out of the picture now. She married another classmate. Neither of them pushed o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:52 AM
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Yep, but his behavior was well before all of that happened. The girl clarified the air that he had told everyone "they were getting a divorce". It seems he did find someone else attractive, the girl probably doesn't know who or it may be her. It's sad but it is not a statistic I find surprising. Any time anything that alters what men have to do in a day on a short term or long term basis, there are immediate complaints. Women are so used to having to pick up any and all slack that when the shoe …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:03 PM
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I have plenty of HVM guy friends that legitimately only friends. They are amazing in their own right and I am glad to have them in my life. I would also hardcore wingwoman for them if they did find someone they were interested in. The friendships are strictly platonic and were pivotal in my own recovery from being in an 11 year DV relationship. There are also guys who have "presented" as a friend but started pushing boundaries of what was acceptable in a friendship. The main boundary being conse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 07:07 AM
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This is typical of celebs. They do this to create a safety and credibility barrier. It’s harder to prove you’ve been propositioned by a celebrity if someone else came and asked you. The general public just rolls their eyes and says “Sure, Jenny. That totally happened.” Know a few who work in fields that deal with a fair amount of celebs, it’s pretty common for the guys to do this especially with those who are in music. The bigger the ego, the more likely they will do this. Also, Leo’s a fucking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:36 AM
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You’d find out why he does it, whether or not it is legitimate (cultural etc) or whether it’s not. If he doesn’t tell you or tries to brush it off, it’s not worth getting involved. Part of first dates is asking the right questions to get to know the person in addition to watching behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:01 PM
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My first thought is Autism as well. Depending on cultural background, looking in the eyes can be seen as disrespectful. It’s not disrespectful to ask “I noticed you don’t seem to want to meet my gaze. Is there a reason for this?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:59 AM
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It was one of many nails in the coffin. I literally wanted one night of happiness where we could dress up and have fun. I didn’t ask much of him, for him to dress up, be in a good mood, and attend a fancy dinner with good food and company. That night brought to light how much he did not care about my feelings or about me being happy. I was looking forward to having fun with him after a grueling term in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 01:33 PM
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Yep. My ex would pull this all the time and also try to get me to give an answer when I wasn't ready for it. It was essentially a trap to get me to admit to something I didn't believe or felt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 07:40 AM
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This made me sick. Having a previous partner that would pull these kinds of things. He's being the asshole and tries to make you out to be the bad guy. Doing his best to ruin special occasions with his put-downs and snide comments, and then abruptly leaving dramatically, humiliating you at what ever function you are at. This reminds me at one of the last "fancy dates" my ex and I went on. It was a local gala at the school I was attending. A black tie function (although everyone was to wear masks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 07:34 AM
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Exactly. I want others to learn from my experiences and triumph over their own complications because of it. To be better and more thoughtful in their approach and aware of where the deficits lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:12 AM
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To be honest, I see the "Hoe Phase" as a form of self-harm. It often comes while the woman is going through a depressive phase either due to shitty guy problems, family problems (with overbearing parents) and/or any other depressive episode in which the self-esteem has been effected. No String Attached Sex is used to medicate the feelings of depression aka chasing that dopamine/oxytocin high you can get from having sex/orgasm. I've witnessed it with women who have recently left abusive relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:13 PM
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"I don't think I'm obligated to by an expensive ring because she helped me out a few years ago" Oh, honey. She didn't just "help" you. Help is when someone stops to fix a flat on your car when you are stranded. She made a whole assed life adjustment to make sure your ass was cared for. Him calling it help belittles all she did for him. Fuck, if this girl did this for me, I'd buy her the biggest ass diamond ring, all expenses paid 2 weeks vacation of her choosing, take her on a shopping spree and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:19 AM
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This is why it should be a help text number and also have a “Go to the bar and ask for Insert Name Here if their phone is unavailable. The number/name is directly to the bouncer/manager who is supposed to handle these situations. I’ve seen the Angel Shot thing posted so many times in various forms of media, everyone knows what it is which means the LVM/NVM you are with also knows. It ruins the purpose having it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:27 AM
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Wow, that jackass is nothing but a troll. I’m sorry you had to deal with a shitstain like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:52 PM
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I recommend talking to your gf to see what she is interested. Each woman is different in what they want. I personally don’t want to spend a ton on a ring and prefer something to the tune of making it ourselves. However, other ladies may want something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 10:30 AM
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Woo, boy! I was told to follow up with jobs when I applied. Apparently, I’m a pickmesha for jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:24 AM
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Do I get to give complementary smacks on the butt while he cleans?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:16 AM
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From experience, no one likes a whistleblower bEcAuSe ThEy DiSrUpT tHe StAtuS qUo AnD mAkE tHiNgS wOrSe. I've worked for various businesses and people throughout my life and I have witnessed many moral, ethical, and legal violations perpetrated by my co-workers and/or bosses. When I was in nursing school, I reported the hospital I did clinicals at for several violations due to lack of care, unethical treatment, and pure endangerment/neglect of the patients. I've had to turn bosses in to BOLI for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:03 AM
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I’m distracted by the 38 YEAR OLD GUY ASKING FOR 18-26 YEAR OLDS. Let me guess, this guy wants a “virgin” girl too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:48 PM
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That's why I see lent money straight up as a gift. I am comfortable financial-wise enough that I can donate a fair amount to someone without feeling the hit, so to speak. I have my own rules. I will help with food, car problems, medical help, gas, utilites, but I will try not to give out straight cash. A decent amount of friends of mine are essentially living the minimum slave wage hell, so shit happens and I don't mind helping cover an expense when they are short. I also don't mind being the on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:21 AM
10

Cinema Therapy is wonderful. I loved everything they put out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:19 AM
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Can I buy you flowers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:55 AM
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I say this from a more skewed perspective because my last relationship was 11 years with heavy abuse. Even though I was the one who ultimately ended it, I still ended up grieving for several months and struggling to not text funny photos or memes when I saw something that reminded me of him. It is going to be like that for a few months, depending on the length of the relationship. Mine took about 3 months to go from grieving to pissed at his shitty behavior and angry that he felt he could treat …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:59 AM
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This is why women’s birth control is more focused on, scientifically. It is easier to prevent one egg from getting implanted than trying to prevent millions of sperm, generated daily, from reaching the egg. While there are current studies on male birth control, including pills which effect the sperms motility by deforming the tails, gel injections that shred sperm, and various other in process trials.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 01:00 PM
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Dad cheats on mom, she has an aneurysm and died before divorce. His daughter was an 18 year old child when this all happened. His daughter decides to make amends after she sees how happy he is and he decides to take the opportunity to shit all over his dead ex-wife???? Mind you, she passed away TWO YEARS AGO!!! My dad passed about the same time, with similar circumstances and I still am grieving. I wouldn’t have blamed OP if she decked both her shitty father and the shitty home-wrecker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:06 PM
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Sweets, y’all don’t need to be run in the ground miserable before you end a relationship. All Fear of Missing Out is going to get you is even more resentment,sadness, and abuse. Yeah, it’s going to hurt initially but you already know this guy isn’t the guy for you. If he isn’t the first person you want to talk to when things are good or bad, he isn’t the guy for you. If you are already having doubts, he isn’t the guy for you. If he’s disrespectful, he isn’t the guy for you. If you are fantasisin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:11 AM
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Nope, because you only need one person permission. Since you are the caller, you give permission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:51 PM
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Oregon is screwy. You cannot record someone without their permission unless it’s a phone call in which one person can give permission. That being said, if you ever need to covertly record someone in Oregon, call someone you trust and have them record what happens in the call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:41 AM
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The dude terrorized and murdered his fiancé. I’m going to make all the god damn derogatory comments I want about that shitty, balding, insecure, small penis, has more hair on his ass cheeks, psychopath I want. I hope Brian Laundrie walks into a swamp and leeches swim in all orifices and drain him of blood from inside out. I hope a Snapping Turtle latches into his calf muscle and rips it clean from the bone. I hope an Alligator latches on to his neck, goes into a death roll, and paralyzes him fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:00 AM
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"He would never get violent" Or so I thought. My XNVM tried to suffocate me, threw me down a flight of stairs, threw me into furniture, and many, many other horrid things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:18 AM
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Which is why a DV task force is required. Quite honestly, it can be utilized in accordance with mental health task force. It’s also why it’s important to get someone actual psychological help, get them away from their abuser for more than a few hours, and to a battered person’s advocacy center where they can have support from people who understand being at the end of a fist. I have very little faith in cops due to the absolute lack of training in handling anything overly more complicated than ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:43 PM
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She says she’s a nurse. She may not be. She could easily get donations from a sperm bank and she should be able to afford the cost. Screened donor sperm plus implantation is sub $2000. The fact that this is the route she is taking raises more questions and concerns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:03 AM
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The more I find out about it, the more we should treat abusive situations more like a mental health crisis in which the victims are not mentally capable of decisions that are beneficial for their health. Actual removal of both parties is necessary in addition with examination by a PsyD. So many women each year are harmed and killed by their male partners. I'm so heartbroken over everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:02 AM
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Just a heads up, it will take some time for the birth control’s effect to wear off. Some as soon as a week, others may take 2-3 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:13 AM
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This is for the ladies out there still stuck in an abusive relationship. There is something to be said about escalating abuse. If he is willing to physically abuse you in public, quite literally your time is running out. It's not a matter of if, it's when. The degree of comfortability of an abuser to reach that level means that he knows that regardless of what happens, the victim will not do anything to defend themselves or, in Gabby's case, even take blame for what happened. Get out, now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:55 AM
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While I am not disagreeing with you, yes all personnel in any sort of human support is going to get fatigued. They did not do a proper DV assessment and quickly took sides before finding out what was going on. DV assessment requires more than pulling the person to the cop car still within earshot of the person. Both should have been interviewed at the same time with one cop on one person, and the other on the other. Then both reconvene and move from there. It is much less intimidating to have on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:08 AM
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This is why I wish they had Battered Persons Advocates on the scene as well or even trained mental health personnel to respond to domestic situations between obviously an abusive couple's situation. The biggest factor is getting both parties significantly away from each other to talk to them. Having him in the background with her in ear shot of him, knowing if she said anything contrary he would be after her, on top of being in a remote area where she had no clue what would be the best way to ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:59 AM
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Reading what was going on hit some pretty big triggers for myself. The whole bit about her supposedly interfering with his driving and causing him to swerve sounds like something similar that happened to me. My NVex would get very verbally abusive, impulsive, and have extreme dual suicidal/ homicidal ideation when either of us was driving. Several times during a heated argument that he started, he attempted to crash into various cars, objects, and guardrails. I would have to fight with him to ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:25 AM
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He played the cops too. Told them he would "go to jail" while fully knowing that Gabby wouldn't allow that because she knew what would happen later if she did let that happen. No person at the height of being abused is going to turn on their abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:46 AM
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Looking through the information, one thing that stands out to me is how much she had panicked that he was going to leave her somewhere during the altercation with police intervention. This guy has 100% left her places before and I bet that is what he did this time, left her somewhere remote where she couldn't come back. Any guy, even if it is a joke, who tries to leave in a car without you is a LVM/NVM. Ditch his ass immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:25 AM
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I would look online then for low cost/no cost sources. Many therapists have migrated to online sessions due to Covid. What country do you currently reside in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:13 AM
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Right? All women have to do to be fetishized is exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:48 AM
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I'm glad to see you've noticed that you are attracted to people who are detrimental and have taken steps for yourself to avoid them. However, I am saddened that while you are avoiding these people, nothing been done to figure out why you seem to be attracted to people like that. This is where therapy comes in. Often, having an unbiased person who can provide perspective for you, as they will see habits you don't and provide support, coping mechanisms, and a safe place for you to figure it out. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:20 AM
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Constantly getting into relationships with men who seem to have the same personality type and treat you terribly? Sounds like it's time to hit up a therapist to break the cycle. Humans are creatures of habit and will unknowingly seek that which they are familiar with. Therapy helps us recognize detrimental habits and take steps to heal. I don't think that our intuition is wrong, we often know these NVM/LVM are what we assumed they would be. We are taught from a young age to give people a chance,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 09:53 AM
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I had some dude hit on me when I was wearing an XL 80's winter wool jacket (It was hideous but warm.) I looked homeless as I was in baggy, heavy clothes. I had guys hitting on me in my teens when I worked and I dressed very conservatively. Blaming women for attracting NVM/LVM because of what they are wearing is victim blaming. If y'all have a vagina and look slightly female, they will come crawling regardless of what you are wearing, they just want to get their dicks wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:08 AM
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It depends on how much he made compared to me. If he was making minimum when I'm making six figures, that's not really going to fly well in the long run. You need to take into consideration what your wants/needs are in a relationship and how that factors in to money and whether or not it is possible. You also need to take into consideration the "what if's", would he be able to support you during illness or severe injury where you couldn't work and you were married? I personally wouldn't want to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:22 AM
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It's a transition I understand too well. I'm so proud of you for taking the steps to get out of a shitty situation like that. I'm so happy for you living for your benefit now! Keep kicking butt queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 02:43 AM
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Young me wanted her to end up with Harry. Young me was a hopeless romantic obsessed with shipping wars (Lol, I cringe at that). I found Victor’s crush on Hermione somewhat gross because of the school age gap. Had he been younger or she older..it would have less “holy shit this guy is a borderline pedo” vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:12 AM
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This is a more streamlined version of narcissism and narcissistic personality traits. If anyone, regardless of if they are a romantic partner, a family member, or a friend displays these traits towards you, it’s time to rethink whether or not you want them in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:59 AM
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Pee after sex and wipe front to back are hammered into my nursing brain. Sadly, lots of elderly women weren’t educated on wiping front to back and cause UTI’s 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:33 PM
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Most likely, but even if you prefer your poof with a perm, make sure to pee after sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:31 PM
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I bought shorts for bottoms, like actual bathing suit material shorts. Less anxiety about random curly-q's poking out and I don't have to worry about razor rash or anything like that. I do trim it down when it gets a bit much but otherwise I let it do it's thing. Pubic hair helps maintain a healthy bacteria biome down there and helps prevent UTI's. I bough a men's groomer to keep my underarm area smoother as well. Legs are the only thing that get a razor, because I love the feeling of smooth leg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:00 PM
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*Cough cough* Has Pedo tendencies *Cough cough* Edit: For the record ladies,if you want your sanitary regions to be smooth and clear of hair, I totally understand why. If a guy won’t date you because you aren’t smooth down there, I would question why big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:54 PM
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It honestly depends on the medical professional. There are ways around the ban, as the "abortion pill" is effectively a mifepristone (a steroid) and misoprostol (which causes uterine contractions when inserted vaginally). Both medications have other uses, with Mifepristone being used in Cushings Syndrome and Misoprostol being used to prevent stomach ulcers. I think we will be seeing more initial diagnoses of ulcers and hypercortisolism in women with medication being given prior to the results of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:21 AM
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I hated the romance of Ron and Hermione even back then but then I shipped Pumpkin Pie from clear back to when the books started. I still don't understand how Hermione could have even had the remotest crush on the jerk of the guy. He reeked of insecurity, got jealous over every guy she interacted with including Harry, and felt the need to belittle her over her intelligence. But tbh, while Harry was better about being somewhat kinder and more respectful to Hermione, he could be a right ass when Ro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:31 AM
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Them trying to make themselves seem like a more grandiose person than they are (e.g. smarter because of weird iq tests, miracle births where they should have been dead, claiming to know famous people without having legit proof). Some of the thing my NVX did was claim he had some “government official” come and do IQ tests that he supposedly excelled at when he was like 5 and proved he was a genius. He also claimed that he felt he was invincible because he had survived so many horrific things that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:55 PM
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Girls, please make sure to have a bank account with money that only you can access should shit hit the fan. You guys can have a shared expenses account "food, utilies etc" but keep an account just for you. I say this for all relationships regardless of how much you or your S.O. makes. Especially so in the case of huge income disparity, where the power dynamic can be thrown off. I was caught in a situation where I did not have that flexibility and if I had, I would have been able to leave so much…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:11 AM
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*My boyfriend proposed to me when we were poor college students and couldn't afford a basic ring to do so. I love him, so we are getting married regardless if there is a ring* Her boyfriend sounds impulsive and she's interpreting his impulsiveness as a romantic gesture. These are not attributes you want to see in a partner, as he is making promises without follow through. It would be different if they were working on a ring or he ordered something and it got delayed before the big proposal date …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:58 PM
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Granted, this was years ago, I read an article on Cracked that interviewed the girls that worked at the Bunny Ranch in Nevada. For the most part, the “work seemed okay”, girls picked their hours, got STD tests, and were in a decent, well-cleaned environment all things considered. The girls talked up everything and made it seem like a good place to work. But the thing that stuck out tome the most was how the girls talked about other, non-staff getting “Free Passes” to use the girls for holidays/b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:37 PM
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The absolute “I told him straight up that was not okay.” is key here. Shitlord redditor quick to blame the victim in the “Maybe you didn’t communicate correctly” category despite her clearly stating to the husband she did not want a threesome and him trying to find ways to get around clear cut boundaries to get his way. The fact that he is willing to do that says he cares more about his dick than the actual emotional well-being of his wife. No means No. “I don’t want to” means no. “I’m uncomfort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:29 PM
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Feel free to HMU if you have other questions. I can help direct you to information you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:29 AM
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They've discontinued making many of them due to lack of use in the mainstream market and continued misinformation on the efficacy of it. Spermicide is also going to the wayward side. However, there are still options out there if you can find them! https://cervicalbarriers.org/diaphrams/ has a list of current diaphragms. You should be able to find a provider who can prescribe them or get them directly from the manufacturer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:27 AM
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​ There are non-FDA approved IVDs (Intra Vas Deferens Devices) and Vasalgel, a polymer injected into the Vas that shreds sperm and is completely reversable. It's also would be an outpatient procedure with very minimal recovery. But you know, FDA is taking their time to approve these procedures but have approved a new birth control during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:43 PM
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I mean, how none of the birth control they use is detrimental to their health. Not to mention, if their birth control fails they aren’t stuck for 9 months carrying a fetus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 10:46 PM
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This is the kind of ring I’d expect as a promise ring in like..idk..high school? Looks like a gold plated, CZ ring from Walmart in the teen section. There are so many affordable and adorable options out there. You can have a stunning ring without having to throw a house payment down and have something that will last. And honestly, you and your partner should be talking about engagement rings, likes/dislikes in style, and what your budget is. The ring itself should not be a surprise, but when the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:39 AM
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I am scared for this woman. Once abuse has crossed the suffocation stage, it is only a matter of time before he kills her. In fact, ladies if you have gotten out of a relationship with a shithole guy like this that suffocated you until you passed out, you should go get checked out by your Dr as there are many lasting effects and brain damage/memory loss that can take place with minimal oxygen cut off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:46 AM
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Yeah, this article lost me at "I'm a mid thirties woman who wants a family and hasn't dated since my dead boyfriend 10 years prior and focused only on my career instead of my mental health" as the figurehead on the FDS way. Especially since the whole reason for this sub is *build up yourself so you are confident and comfortable being single* so you aren't throwing yourself at any Tom, Dick, and Larry who shows minimal interest. Like, I'm not going to knock a sister for being career oriented. Goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 11:55 AM
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Please explain to me how a middle school friend of mine was supposed to avoid being raped by her older brother? Especially after she told her parents and they did not believe her. How about we blame the assholes who take advantage and the people who enable them instead of blaming the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:30 AM
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One of the things that drives me nuts is John Mayer is/was notorious for being a shitty womanizer, "pump and dump her" guy. It was well known even back then but people ignored it because of the fact he has an okay voice. Taylor was a rising star at the time and ignored everyone telling her he was bad news. I just makes me sad that she went all through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:35 AM
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Intensity/preferred location of orgasm is different from person to person. Some women like clitoral stimulation others prefer PIV. I'm so sensitive that clitoral is painful so PIV is what I go for and I need a decent size for that to happen. I abhor pain during sex or intimacy, so too big is too painful (which is even worse because my bc leaves me pretty dry). Everyone has their own specifications but I think it's dishonest to say that size doesn't matter. Nothing wrong with having preferences o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:27 PM
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If it were animal abuse photos, everyone would be disgusted and think the dude was a serial killer/psychopath in the making. But if it is a sexual fetish with women involved, wE cAn'T kInK sHaMe!!!! Fuck that shit, and fuck people that think that kind of shit is okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:53 AM
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We all mourn our past selves, the sweet, naive, doe-eyed girls who believed that men who truely loved us wouldn’t do the things they did. We wanted to believe they were good people that had our best interests at heart and we trusted them to act accordingly. They proved us wrong over and over while gaslighting us and telling us we were the problem. My dear, you did nothing wrong. Your kindness was used against you, your trusting behavior manipulated. He took your weaknesses and exploited them for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:57 AM
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Oh yeah, you are an asshole if you, say shove your napkins/garbage into a full glass of fluids or stack a plate on something with a ton of food on it still. I worked as a server, it made it easier of all dishes were on the easy access side of the table for bussing. Some things can make it worse, but again basic understanding of how to clean will help anyone navigate how'd they like the dishes done. You wouldn't want someone to stack a bunch of dirty dishes with food still on them on top of each …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:31 AM
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Date number one: Does he help clean up his mess at the table after he's finished with his meal? Does he move all dirty dishes, garbage, etc in to one easy to clean spot for the waiter or does he leave it as is? If you clean your area, does he take your lead and clean his space or does he give to a weird look or ask "Why are you doing that, they are paid to clean"? Someone who cleans without prompting is HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:45 PM
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Hello fellow Oregonian Queen! Y'all are better than this *imma gonna get you alone and/or drunk* trashmen. Keep Portland weird, amiright?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:40 AM
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My ex complained to me, after he had cleaned the kitchen and done his dishes, that I didn’t praise him for doing so. I told him “I shouldn’t have to praise you for doing shit you are expected to do as an adult.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:35 AM
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No one should settle. It costs nothing to treat people with kindness and respect. If settling means you'll end up with someone who treats you as less than, then it is better to be single and wait for the right person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:17 AM
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On the spectrum FDSer here! This is a common trait from women who are autistic. It stems from struggling to understand behaviors/social situations and gravitate towards men because they appear to be less bothered by our lack of social prowess (and apparent vulnerability). This was especially true of myself and my severe nerd phase during high school. Neurodivergent ladies, please be aware that being on the spectrum makes you vulnerable to NVM/LVM and they will capitalize on that vulnerability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:34 AM
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This is absolutely calculated. It's what I would call Covert Abuse because men can still claim plausible deniability. Essentially it is putting you in the position where you get severely hurt by using the environment to do so. Things like crowding you out on a trail so you end up slipping and falling, placing objects in certain areas so that when you do move you automatically injure yourself, and/or pushing you to your mental/physical limits like going on an extreme hike in hot temperatures when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:35 AM
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Same here. Finally have a wonderful relationship with a HVM who I actually look forward to coming home to after work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:21 AM
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Jesus Christ. I feel that and have been in that situation with an ex-guy friend. It's called trying to take advantage of the situation during a time when you are feeling slightly vunerable. Had an ex-guyfriend (Whom I'll call Al) do that. We became friends shortly before my ex-NVM boyfriend revealed he had been thoroughly stalking me. I was dealing with the constant threat of my ex finding me on top of a whole bunch of other issues. I had told my group of friends which included Al about what was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:20 AM
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FDS: We just want women to be able to be in safe and healthy relationships where they are treated with respect and equality! We teach them warning signs of abusive/neglectful men and how not to become a statistic! We help women become confident and self-assured. Men of the internet: fDs HaTeS mEn!! But I mean, look at the overall climate of when it comes to women. We gain one iota of autonomy and everyone loses their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:53 AM
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This is the equivalent of the fathers who take pictures with their teenage daughters holding a shot gun. YUCK!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:34 AM
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I agree that dates should not happen in places where you two will be the only ones. However, when someone is already in married to a guy who is abusive, the abused is not going to have much of a choice to not do something their abuser wants them to do. This is why it is necessary to properly vet guys while dating. I don’t want anyone going through what I went through nor do I want to find them on the next episode of Forensic Files. I want women to know how to gain the confidence to tell NVM/LVM …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:29 AM
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Words to live by in all aspects of your life. Narcissists exist in many forms and will do what they can to make sure they are at the top of your mind at all times. They will use both good and bad tactics to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:16 PM
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A HVM isn’t going to “test” you like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:03 AM
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Because it plays into ego and they get a sense of power from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:05 PM
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1 in 4? Yeah, I believe that stat if you take inconsideration homosexual relationships and child abuse. Working with mentally ill teens who have severe child abuse histories, the father figure in the family often perpetuated the physical abuse towards the mother figure and the child. The child would often harbor anger not at the father figure but at the mother who had not protected them from abuse. This lead to violence against female staff by default with a dump of sexual frustration/inappropri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:17 PM
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Insecurities become another weapon of control with LVM/NVM. For example, I love swimming but my ex had so many bodily insecurities that it interfered with everything. You want to go swimming? No,you couldn’t because he was too ashamed to swim with a shirt or without one. You want to go to a nice dinner? No, because he doesn’t have anything that fits him nicely and we would look like a fat ass. You try to be kind and buy him clothes that fit/look good. Suddenly, you are the bad guy for trying bri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:28 PM
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I mean, we are damned if we do, damned if we don't. We tell them that "No, only people with access to proper healthcare and money to get work done age like fine wines. Everyone else just ages." They rage out and take it out on us. We ignore it and they get their manties in a twist, pissed that women in their 20's aren't lining up down the block for some fat 40 y/o who douses himself in bathroom cologne at every bar and...you guessed it...it's our fault again. Can we just flush these fuckers down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:05 AM
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I think what gets me the most is the gym one where he WATCHES THE GIRL LEAVE AND SIT ON HER PHONE TILL HE LEAVES!!! Like…dude, you are a creep! I would not be surprised if he “tested” this hypothesis of his several times with the same person. Following them around and approaching various equipment. People like this are why women try to travel in groups because men are fucking ass hole predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:45 PM
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I'm so glad you are aware and out of that relationship! This is a form of boundary pushing. They pull these stunts to gain control and increase abuse. If you make no moves to stop them, they slowly escalate. First it's "Just playing", then after an "accidental pop in the nose", it's sorry I didn't realize I was that close, then after that its "I didn't know my own strength.", then it;s "Well, if you hadn't pissed me off I wouldn't have done it." Ugh, the amount of shit I am going to have to teac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:44 PM
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The guy on the right gave me the same vibes, no effort "I know I'm hot and you want me" full of themselves vibes. The guy on the left gave me "I might be in for a long term but not sure. Will give love bombs in the beginning stage then taper off after everything is official. My insecurities will become your problems."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:31 PM
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How it reads to me: Hey reddit, these ladies that I make uncomfortable keep moving away from me and giving me a wide birth. I go to eat out and take the table next to a woman that is eating (despite there being plenty of other tables open away from her) and she moves shortly after I sit down. I go to the gym and HAVE to us the equipment next to a woman who is working out next to it and she moves as well (there was other equipment to use, I just decided that to use the one next to her ;) ). One t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:25 PM
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Mine did as well. He also attacked me one night because he started to get to verbally abusive and I wanted to take a break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:19 PM
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LMAO And every body clapped right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:03 PM
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Let it all out, girl but be sure to be kind to yourself. You've neglected your own self-kindness for so long, you deserve to by loved by you. Do the things you wanted to do, eat the foods you wanted to try, go have fun with friends, and give yourself room and time to grow emotionally. Personally, I took a hiatus from dating while I was recovering, with therapist in tow. It really helped build my self-confidence up and help myself realize that I can be happy without having a partner. It's a stran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:43 AM
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What a typical scrote. Point out that "No, that is not the case." and they get mad because they know they are wrong, are too stubborn to admit they are wrong, and resort to name calling to try to gain any leverage they can. Guys get swamp ass, my ex got swamp ass so bad (he had a huge ass too) during the summer that everything smelled like shit if he sat on it. He would shower daily or even twice and still stink within 30 minutes. He was a big ass sweaty fat guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:59 PM
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30’s are 1000 times better than 20’s. Loving it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:49 AM
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Travelling is a good way to decifer the NVM from the HVM. I hated hated hated travelling with my ex anywhere whether it was for a short drive to see family or a trip for the both of us. He’s always pick fights and be an ass the entire drive which he often got violent during car rides. It alway made me stressed and I would be a wreck to and from the trip. My current is so chill. He’s sweet, patient, and is excited to go. We pack, rock out to music and have fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:48 AM
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TRAVELLLLL. Traveling is something I never got to do. Now I get to do it all the time because I am only supporting myself and not have to pay for some overweight jackass of a NVex Spend time with Friends/Family Swim all the time. Pamper my pets. I have my dream dog that is literally a dream dog to have and I have my sweet kitty as well. They are spoiled rotten. Do shit when I want to do shit. Have a loving relationship with my HVM boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:18 PM
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It is okay to not forgive. For all the people who have told you to do so lack understanding of what you went through. To say "You must forgive." is to revictimize and traumatize yourself. Forgiveness is for accidents. Abuse doesn't happen by accident. People like that do not deserve forgiveness nor should it be given so freely. My past is my past and I will always grieve for that person but I am not that person any more. I have found a sense of happiness in my life that I didn't think I would ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:15 PM
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I feel that fight! It's funny once a low value male loses a HVW they disappear from the lime light they were stealing. Let yourself shine in that light you fought for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:48 AM
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Absolutely! Food was one of the few things that I would not relent on with my ex. You want to order the Pineapple Salmon Curry? Go for it. I came here for the Pad Thai because that's what I was craving. If I wanted something new I would order it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:42 AM
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Or my absolute not favorite, wanting you to order a new dish so he can try it. Then if he doesn’t like it, he still gets his plate of food he knows he likes and your stuck with the food. My ex used to do this all the time. We’d hit up a Thai restaurant for example and I’d want to order Pad Thai. He’d want to try some new dish and would try to manipulate me into getting the new dish so he could try it even though I stated I wanted Pad Thai. Then he would get pissed at me for not wanting the new d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 05:34 AM
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I use dinner dates as a way to see a potential when they are around other people. Are they kind to waitstaff? Are they polite to me? Do they have basic table manners? Do they seem like a trustworthy person? The last thing I would want to do is go somewhere remote with someone without knowing what they are like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:46 AM
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I find it really disgusting that this is a trope because abuse psychologically mindfucks you and trauma bonding causes people to stay into those relationships. Therapy and awesome support is usually the only way to break that cycle. It really shows how heartless men can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:15 AM
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I think the main issue isn't hating animals, it's hating YOUR animals. Some people don't want pets because of the time, energy, money, etc sink they can be. I can understand that. I can also understand having bad experiences with cats/dogs etc or having allergies. I get it. But that doesn't excuse a nvm coming in and demanding you get rid of your pets or him making explicit comments about your pets being bad, annoying, mean, etc when they are doing nothing to him. A NVM will see your pets as com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:37 AM
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Because men see it as work and if they have to give more than bottom of the barrel, they feel it’s not worth it. Also, any guy knowingly to attempts to feed/give you your allergen (especially one that causes anaphylaxis) without your knowledge/consent can be convicted of attempted manslaughter and/or assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:53 PM
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My current does not watch porn. Finds it just as disgusting and demeaning as I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:08 AM
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My ex would do the “shake it to get the last drops off...and then complain that he got pee drops on his underwear’s. Toilet paper, it’s not hard to use!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:46 AM
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Hey lovely. You have gone through so much and continue to punish yourself for them crossing the lines you have set. Your current boyfriend is setting you back and pushing you away from your needed recovery. You have not failed in anyway, he has failed to be the partner you needed. Do take this time away from him to pamper yourself and rebuild your self-esteem. Quite honestly, it may be best to stay away from him as you are still very much struggling with the past and haven’t given yourself a cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:28 PM
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I can braid my hair and that’s it. If I need more hair styling tips, I just use YouTube and practice. If it’s something I’ll do once, I’ll pay to have it done instead of wasting time on it. You can’t tell me that this guy doesn’t have any women (A grandma, sister, female friend, mother of daughter’s friend) that he knows in IRL that he could ask for something like this. His lack of humility and attention seeking (and hoping for women volunteers) severely disgusts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:04 AM
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Well said! And I bet you look 10 times better than I do when I hike. TBH, my first thought was "People wear makeup hiking??? Shit, I'm behind on the times!" I'm usually in my stained yardwork jeans with boots and a random baggy tee-shirt. In addition, a gallons worth of sunscreen that makes me greasefully glistening. Not exactly attractive but if someone tries to capture me, I can slip from their grasp!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:21 PM
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Women who are of sound mind rarely go into any sort of sex work. Women who are desperate and lack stability that they need in their lives do. What they need is help. Help with feeling confident, guidance to find a job that will provide stability and fulfillment without sacrificing their dignity in the process, and compassion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:31 PM
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So here is one of the “Women are doing it because they want to” factors against that rationalization. If all of these ladies had enough money for to achieve the level of stability and financial security they desire, would they still publish on Only Fans? Honestly, no. They are doing so because they have no other avenues or opportunities to make money to the standard they would like. Mind you, this is not counting women who are being sex trafficked into doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:27 PM
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What I see in this post: "UwU, I'm a dwaddy wiff dwaughtwers and I want thwem to hawve pwetty haiw. Awre dere any wadies who's haiw I can pwactice on? Dolls wiff fake haiw awre two scawwy." Give me a fucking break. This guy is fishing for women using his daughters as a reason to get his single ass foot in the door. All this post needs is "I am a nice guy just trying to good things for his daughters." Yet, ages, hair length or anything else isn't identified in the post. Step 1: Learn how to braid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:45 PM
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Just tell them "No, you are a creepy pedophile preying on naive girls."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:25 AM
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If they solicit a strip club, they are most likely supporting sex trafficking in addition to exploiting the women for their bodies for their entertainment. Any guy who has gone to one is trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:34 AM
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A HVM will do what he can to make sure you feel comfortable and safe. A HVM will understand that he needs to prove he is not only not shitty guy but someone worthwhile. A LVM/NVM gets pissed that he has to actually prove what he says and gets defensive, dismisses your concerns or experiences (Well, that was just ONE bad guy, I'm not like him). They are just pissed that they actually have to prove they are decent people instead of us taking it ad hock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:40 AM
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Fun fact, men who are on spectrum tend to veer towards jobs like Engineering/Architecture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:47 AM
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8/10 rapes are by someone known to the victim with about 39% being by an acquaintance and 33% being by an ex or current partner. Vet the shit out of those guys ladies. https://www.rainn.org/statistics/perpetrators-sexual-violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:56 PM
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I feel this. I was top of my class, graduated with honors. Very few guys met my standard of what I wanted. Very few guys tried to get decent grades (which made them look bad to me) and those that did have good grades were either players or so far in left field personality wise that we didn't mesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:29 PM
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I just say “Omg, so sorry to hear about the attack! How have you been holding up since then?” And when they are taken aback and confused, they as you what are taking about. Then I say “Oh, my bad. I forgot your face always looks like that.” And walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:42 AM
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Omfg. Your dad is a misogynist shit head. Continue to support your sister and brag about her to spite your dad. Be absolutely pragmatic about it. Your sister is going to need more support because of his “She’s just going to get pregnant” attitude. Make sure to rub it in his face when she graduates how he thought she was going to end up knocked up and not amount to anything to make sure he doesn’t try to claim her glory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:00 AM
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My go to response is "Don't be sorry. Fix the issue or I'm out."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:48 PM
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You are right. Regardless of whether Prostitution is fully legalized, trafficking is going to exist and men are going to take advantage of the women/children in it. I don't think there is a one-size fits all solution only a "we can try to make it better for most people". Does that mean we should give up on trying to prevent it? Absolutely not! But the mental change needs to occur on the male side of the coin and them outwardly rejecting the "Women as a commodity" stance that a fair amount seem t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:43 PM
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Prostitutes are targeted for murders because of how sex work puts them into vulnerable positions. There is a huge problem with truck drivers murdering “Lot lizards” aka truck stop prostitutes and tossing the bodies in other states. While some have been caught, we still have many serial killer truck drivers out there. I say this from a forensics perspective as I used to work in the field. What needs to happen is to decriminalize sex work itself for the worker (so the sex workers themselves can se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:02 PM
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Dear god, I can smell the stench of diabetes and unwashed asscrack from here 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:43 AM
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“There is no such thing as leagues” Honey, if she’s managing to live life without your ass, she is out of your league. If you can’t add benefit to her life, then y’all need to take your Velcro shoes, tighten the straps, and keep walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:50 AM
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“I’m just a big teddy bear” is the big dude equivalent of “I’m a nice guy”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:27 PM
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My bf and I are going to make each others rings (with the help of a professional).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:38 AM
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WOO BOY TRIGGER WARNING!!! Things he said -Called me a stupid bitch in every argument, regardless of the subject. Would call me a cunt every now and then. Would compare me to his ex to insight insecurity and say how so and so "Would do this like you do or She did this to look good". Constantly made female friends at work but would get mad and say I was being jealous when I told him those relationships made me uncomfortable. Would gaslight me to the extreme after abusive episodes and tell me it d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:18 AM
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You will find someone. That being said, I didn't find someone until I learned to respect myself. I was initially scared like you. I had been in an 11 year abusive relationship and entered the dating market again after spending all of my 20's with that asshole. The icing on the cake is that he was my first boyfriend. Dating in your 30's is worse because I jumped in with the only experience I had was what I didn't want in a relationship and dealing with all of the trauma from my previous one. Henc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:50 AM
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No spanking. If you have to use force to make your position known or to get people/dogs to comply, that is using fear to their advantage. That is not something you want to seek out in a relationship. What you want to see is a guy who uses positive re-enforcement and neutral/sterile/patience to correct dog behavior. You want someone who looks at the root of the problem not the symptom of it. Case and point: Dog chews up your favorite pair of shoes. The question is why did they chew on them. Did t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:57 PM
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Dogs will automatically veer towards someone who loves and respects them but also gives them a sense of place and direction (not in a bad way). The whole "Pack Mentality" when you look at it in the wolf sense, is more Mom and Dad who breed and then the rest of the family who are siblings. Males and Females will bud off here and there to start their own packs or to find mates. It's much more of a family unit with Mom and Dad making the big decisions. Guys who own dogs and do not properly socializ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:49 PM
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I mean, we'll just forget that you are essentially severely traumatizing your abdomen in the process, putting yourself in danger of bleeding out and/or developing a clot, which causes an emboli. And then people expect you to rebound immediately after birth and take care of the child? This is not including if the birth causes emotional trauma to the mother while being the one who has to wake up in the middle of the night to feed the child, furthering exhaustion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:59 PM
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Lol, he’s an ex now. Last I heard he was scumming it as a bouncer in a strip club.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:05 PM
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Hmm, this doesn’t include weekly hours because this would be higher due to all of the OT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:34 PM
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My ex told me something like this when I had gained 25lbs when I was severely depressed...pushing me into the 150’s. Meanwhile, his fat ass had gone from 225lbs to 325. While I had gained weight, I was still within healthy parameters. He was obese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:17 PM
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Marriage Therapists will do one of two things, get the spouse to realise their behaviours are hurting their partner and get them to work on them for a positive outcome. or Get the spouse to realise that their partner is not worthy of continuing to be in a relationship with them and the relationship ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:13 PM
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Choking is especially dangerous because placing the hands wrong can cause a significant decrease/stop in blood flow to the brain and result in death or severe brain damage. And we all know what can and will happen if someone is choked to passing out. Side note, ladies of you have had a partner do this to you and you passed out PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get checked out by a doctor, sooner than later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:02 PM
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I think it's that and a "conquering every aspect of the woman" domination kick. I run a bit more neurodivergent on things like this and all I can focus on is how unhygienic and traumatizing it is to the rectal tissue/muscles. I'd like to feign ignorance as to why anyone would want to run the risk of severely injuring or infecting their partner for a few minutes of pleasure...but then their entire sex is based of those few minutes of pleasure, regardless of the result and at the expense of their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:09 AM
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Contrary to popular belief, the mouth and the anus are not part of the sexual reproductive system. As such, severe damage can be done to both if those avenues are explored. Why the fuck guys are so fascinated to butt fucking, I will never understand. Any asshole, straight or gay, who goes in dry like that into the rectum can cause prolapse, anal fissures/tears, and even loss of anal muscle mass. This is not including the increased risk of bacterial infection and STDs. Even with lube, everyone sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:31 AM
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Coming from a psychology perspective, the reason love languages are brought up to begin with is to open the door for communication by starting with one instance of need and building from there. The problem is it has been over bastardised and turned into a “one and done” concept. The “Love Languages” are all pillars needed to uphold a healthy relationship. No one has one specific LL, they are all necessary and change on a case by case situation. Had a bad day at work because I made a mistake and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:49 AM
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wE hAvE a WoMaN v.P. tHeRe IsN’T sEx BaSeD iNeQuAlItY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:42 PM
11

Women are viewed as the prizes at Chuck E. Cheese. Men are viewed as the tickets you win to get those prizes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:27 AM
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No, it’s not. There is a huge difference but no one really seems to give a shit about women dying from medication and pregnancy/birth increasing their odds from dying from clots/suffering effects from clots. I was just pointing out that the moment men enter the equation in medical care, suddenly everyone actually cares. The inherent misogyny in medical care is quite prevalent from something as simple as being in pain (and especially abdominal pain getting dismissed as cramps) to what is okay for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:18 AM
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I think what pisses me off is that people were throwing a fit over the J&J shot causing blood clots in 28 people of the 8.7 MILLION that got it. That's 0.0000003% chance. Meanwhile Birth Control: Women are 10x's more likely to develop a clot and 3% of those will die from it. Roughly about 1-5 women in 10,000 develop a clot naturally which with birth control increases it to 3-9 in 10,000. This percentage is 0.0003-0.0009% will develop a clot with birth control. (It's a little bit south of 1/1000 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:46 PM
11

And cougars. One decided to prowl around our elementary school for a few days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:14 AM
9

Wait where is the “Oh no, I forgot my wallet” pat down? Can’t forget these LVM’s are too cheap to pay for a mcchicken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:34 AM
16

LMFAO!! I hadn’t touched my DS in years and had to go back through an purge all of those photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:32 AM
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Even better is if you tell your partner, hey this hurts let’s stop. They keep going because “they got to finish” and don’t care if it hurts you or worse, get even more turned on by your pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:27 PM
14

The city we went to has a fairly cheap, large gun range. I want to say it was like 6 bucks to go there and practice. (I had friends who went and did that often). They had some pretty cool targets from what I understand. It was pretty well known and the place to go when it was raining or too cold. It had been raining all day so I expected to go there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:23 PM
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Oh yes. My ex was certainly an absolute asshole weirdo with asinine beliefs. Some of his less offensive but equally absurd things that happened with him are: Was against getting a Siamese Cat because he thought they were very mean felines. Initially, I thought it was because he had a bad experience as a kid and got scratched or something. Well, I wasn’t wrong. He was traumatised by the Siamese Cats from Lady and the Tramp Disney movie. Became obsessed about his hair line and that it was receding…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:41 PM
45

My Life, a tragic comedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:12 PM
150

On my first date with my ex, he wanted to take me shooting. (Mind you, ex was a friend from college) He picked me up and I thought we were hitting up the local shooting range. FUCKING NOPE. We drove out into the middle of fucking nowhere in the woods to which he mentioned that the last time he was out here, the cops were out there because they found a dead body. All I could think of was that I was going to be murdered by this guy and no one would know who did it or where my body was. (The date w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:33 PM
34

Eh, anime and video games I would consider more of a yellow flag. Anime wise, I would ask what kinds of shows they are into and how they are stylised. My guy is heavily into Miyazaki and more slice-of-life/wholesome shows/amazing storylines and can’t stand the shows where the females have unrealistic body proportions, one dimensional personalities, and excessive fan service. Guys who run more perverse are big fans of harem style animes and tend to have large collections of their favourite female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:22 PM
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Lol, just done with shit guys who brains reside in their dicks. I went on two other dates after this guy and only one of them would qualify as someone worth being exclusive with. And while that guy was awesome, I felt we didn’t have enough in common to continue but would have gladly recommended some of my female friends to date him. One of the more frustrating areas of dating when you are over thirty is that guys your age either expect you to be easy and/or expect you to try harder to win their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:21 PM
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I still don’t understand and it’s been going on three years since that happened. Up until the “wanting to get drinks part” he had been quite polite, respectful, and sweet. He bought me flowers while we were walking around the city. Like honestly, the fuck went through his head to ask that?? I was (and still am) fuming over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:44 PM
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One of the dates I went on was a combo date. The guy took me to a late lunch at a fancy sushi place, then we walked around the city and did some window shopping before stopping at a small cafe for drinks. He seemed very nice and sweet but kept pushing to get alcohol (red flag) so at the cafe, I bought the drinks and got myself a fancy fruit juice with no alcohol. Brought the drinks to the table and ended up downing mine very quickly because I was thirsty. Once my glass was empty, the guy smiles …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:50 PM
8

Humans, in general, are a very sexual species. Pornographic images, figures, and even sexual pleasuring devices have been found in countless ancient civilisations. That being said; rape, sex trafficking and forced prostitution is something that was also common to those same ancient cultures and is still found today. Except now, people have more ready access to all three of those in the form of video pornography and it’s explosion on the internet. Curiosity about sex is normal. What is not normal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:22 AM
21

"Strong women" that they get a thrill in breaking. Wants the duality of the slutty, subservient Madonna. Claims to want specific loyal traits but this scrote is still probably masturbating to BDSM porn while in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:21 PM
6

I love it when men get butt hurt over the fact that we don't need their compliments to feel good about ourselves or that simply complimenting/being "nice" doesn't get them something in return. Just look at r/niceguys and the train-wreck of guys that are there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:34 PM
16

The moment she starts to show age, she is going to be struggling to maintain that status quo. Any woman in the sex industry has a shelf life. If it were a true job, you'd be in higher demand with more experience not tossed the moment you age. I honestly cannot fathom why anyone would want to watch porn considering how much people are coerced and exploited in it nor can you determine who is being trafficked. Oh, sorry you have to suck dick for money because that's the only thing you have going fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:44 AM
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I think what makes me the most depressed is even puppies understand the “Ouch, you’ve hurt me!” behavior and will stop what they are doing because they don’t want to hurt you. It’s expected they should not want to hurt you. It’s expected that they should help when you are hurting. You know what’s above and beyond? Doing something like buying a new set of high quality tires for your car after you got a flat on they freeway that they came to help with and doing so before you got up in the morning.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:13 PM
13

LMFAO This is Korra and Mako. Guess what happens? Mako's a scrote who cheats on his gf (Asami) with Korra and vollies between Korra and Asami. Then the two girls wised up and started dating each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:29 AM
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My ex hard core stalked me irl and online. I ended up privating everything because it scared the shit out of me (and got an RO on top of it). It seems innocent when they stalk your online accounts but all they are doing is keeping tabs on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:48 PM
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What I see is that men are not willing to take responsibility for their actions. How typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:24 AM
10

There’s the little voice inside of me that imagines decking the jerk in the face. And when he screams “What the hell did you do that for?!” in pain. I answer “You were asking for it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:53 AM
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Psychopaths prey on empathy. Women are more prone to be empathetic to other people in need of help. A psychopath will do what ever they can to trap someone to control them and take advantage of them. So they absolutely will charm the crap out of anyone to get what they want. Every psychopath is a narcissist but not every narcissist is a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:10 AM
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It’s not just the “wanting to try what I see in porn” shit they pull, it’s also that they become desensitized to sex as a whole and have to keep escalating to get off. That’s what I find sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:25 AM
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