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STAY WOKEEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:52 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:25 PM
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FDS HUMOREarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:46 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:05 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:23 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:10 PM
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STAY WOKEEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:08 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:00 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨EarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:17 PM
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BOOK REPORTEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:39 AM
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REMINDER 👑EarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:30 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTEarthKveik/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:03 PM
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They're no different from any other type of addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 02:52 PM
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Oh by then their career as an influencer/artist/author etc will have taken off and he'll be able to ditch the gf for his dream girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:53 PM
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Is this a trend amongst LV shitebags or something they've always done? I'd have just seen this as a symptom of stalking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 12:29 PM
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Sorry, I meant to call out an ingrained misogynistic attitude that some women have towards other women- making the boyfriends behaviour the woman's responsibility not his. I've noticed that this idea is more common in older people, at least where I live in northwestern Europe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 12:10 PM
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More likely either: The boyfriends were only there for a few minutes and caused no issue whatsoever, but boomer doesn't want to deal with the fact her employees have sex. or The girls are in relationships with LVM who are actively trying to wind up their manager to undermine their financial independence. Boomer happy to go along with this instead of setting boundaries with the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 09:39 AM
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Fuck their main character syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 02:00 PM
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This absolutely. Many spent their 20s and 30s being community dick, sometimes stringing their female peers along as forever GFs, all the while dreaming of the schoolgirls they'd one day scoop up to procreate with. Oh how glorious it was going to be when they matured into their sexual prime! Well here it is! They're in they're 40s, they should be fine wine by now. They should be watching doe eyed submissives wrangle their spawn while lining up a mistress or two and gaining the esteem of their pee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 08:29 AM
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When I played around with Tinder, I got matched with some men who would later admit they didn't live in my local area and only plan to move here lately. Same where I live, and I've never even been on Tinder. I live in a country that is a popular tourist destination. When I tried OLD it was crawling with arseholes who were not actually resident but were visiting soon/"hoped to visit soon" and wanted to find a free tour guide they could possibly fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:40 PM
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I'd extend it to protecting anyone vulnerable and preventing acts of violence. Beyond that, violence is LV behaviour. Will Smith is an arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 06:50 PM
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Stranger things have happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 10:47 AM
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Describes my mum with her ex, except she was forced to give up her career because she had to raise him as well as her kids and she had to do all the admin, financial and promotional work for his business. How did he reward her? Psychological abuse for her, psychological and physical abuse for her kids. And cheating. Sooooooo much cheating. Our country was going through tough economic times and he could present himself as a wealthy self-made man with marital difficulties who was going to leave hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:42 AM
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My experience has been that LVM congregate around these organisations like flies round shit. They are takers looking for givers, and what better place to find givers than in the voluntary sector?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:49 PM
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And to safeguard them. These will be the very first things he'll want to destroy when he finds out he's being chucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:17 AM
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Don't underestimate the power of peer pressure and porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:49 PM
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And one that wasn't clearly looking for a nanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:06 PM
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200K Dick pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:55 PM
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It's the same MO as any other "singles" event- venue uses the promise of unattached women to lure in men looking for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:29 AM
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As far as LVM are concerned, our presence outside the home mean there are even more people in the world who can outclass them and threatens to rob them of sex, offspring and wife work. We don't exist to serve them and they can't force us to. In the workplace and world in general, they have to interact and even compete with us instead of automatically being placed on top just because they are men. And they despise us for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:33 PM
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Plot twist: It's the only restaurant he takes women to. In fact it's the only "restaurant" he'll go to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:22 PM
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He thinks women are paid equally to men? What fucking planet is he on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:55 AM
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Yep, and I've had to listen to old scrotes bemoan the fact that women don't talk about sexual things when men are around or talking to them although they will laugh about and discuss these things when they are on their own. Why oh why would these evil feminist harpies not let him and his dick participate in their banter? Oh woe on woe, where is HIS sexual liberation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:48 AM
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a. is this cool now? I'd like to know too. It was an idea foisted on teenagers and young women of my generation via teenage/womens magazines. It was also prevalent, at least in the UK, amongst nerdy/techie types, although I don't know if it still is. If you ran in these circles in the 00s there were always loads of "bisexual polyamorous" people going about. b, Nope, they introduced it into every goddam space they could. The world was their fucking unicorn ranch as far as they were concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:26 PM
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"Nice"= No boundaries or standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:40 PM
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Well done getting him out of your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:53 PM
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FFS. How many married men are out there looking for a woman that they can string along as an affair partner by promising they'll leave their wife "one day"? And it's yet another example of "older married man thinks he can monkeybranch, leaves wife, is left on his arse when the woman he thought he could swing on over to either isn't interested or doesn't know he even exists" is . There are guys out there leaving their wives because the female service workers they regularly encounter have a contra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:29 AM
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Also "common" (i.e. not an aristo)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:11 PM
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I think the pandemic has been a shit-hits-the-fan scenario for a lot of people, plus I think the general stress of living through it has brought life into focus for a lot of people. They're no longer tolerating shit that they used to put up with, and that includes abusive partners and casual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:07 PM
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If the edges of those stones are really sticking out that far, it's going to catch on clothing, hair and other jewellery. It's only a matter of time before it gets damaged or destroyed... Still, the marriage is likely just for show so it's not like they *need* a durable ring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:49 AM
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That's a young girl who can't get with guys her own age for one reason or the other. And/or a a victim of grooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:39 AM
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And cowardly. The behaviour of these men towards women is easy to understand once you recognise it's driven by greed, entitlement, stupidity and cowardice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:24 AM
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So... men who want to rape their wives take themselves out the gene pool. Good work guys! Lets hope the idea catches on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:16 AM
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Ditto "baby". Just yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:29 PM
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"Girlfriend of 3 years" Yeah. Bit of a give away right there. He was never serious about her in the first place, and is now looking for a way to ditch her that doesn't make him look like the limp-dicked bad guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:28 PM
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They are being patronising. Get rid of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:39 AM
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I'd have blocked him at the "woe is me I'm liek a white crayon" comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:35 AM
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You could also add that there's no way he "doesn't know what he wants"- he knows exactly what he wants- some naïve young woman to fuck him for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:32 AM
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To attract a nestmate? Maybe a pickme to clean it up for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:30 AM
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Congratulations! I hope you're very happy together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:28 AM
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This needs to be underlined for women on the autistic spectrum or who are otherwise neurodiverse. Autistic men and Neurotypicals of both sexes expect us to give these guys a chance and in my experience will lay on the pressure because they want to see the loser taken care of. What they don't seem to grasp (or, lets be real here, give a flying fuck about) is that men on the autistic spectrum are usually socialised the same way as men who aren't. If they grew up diagnosed then they may well be eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:27 AM
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Agreed. A man definitely wrote this. No woman in the history of ever has been this interested in her man's sex dream unless it actually resulted in some really good sex. Otherwise it's just him asking for a blowjob without directly asking for a blowjob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:10 PM
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He sobers up to this... And takes a fucking trophy photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:04 PM
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Women are not static objects that wait for you to come back around and play with them, they live their life. Fckbois just don't get it. Seen this sooooo many times. We live lives, grow and develop just like everyone else, but the scrote ghosts of friendships/relationships past pop up and expect to pick up where they left off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:25 AM
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They lie without hesitation or conscience. We're not human to most of them. Once you realise that, it's easier to block and delete the shit you have to wade through on these sites. I see OLD as a backup strategy. Getting out and pursuing hobbies or other pleasurable interests with others is more likely to be fruitful, but since there are only so many opportunities to do this, dating apps could be a way to improve the odds, but it's still a game of shitebag roulette.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:03 AM
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Well this is the work you get when you don't vet your tenants properly. I'm astonished that she'd let an older man live in the same flat as a young girl. Predatory losers make shitty tenants. Their entitlement and shitty attitude will extend to how they treat the property. They're the kind that punch holes in walls, create vermin problems and attract complaints from neighbours and the authorities. And since they think women are stupid and subhuman, how long before extracting the rent from the pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:01 PM
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She's either very dim, irresponsible or both. Looking at this situation as someone who has been involved on the landlord side of things, she's been a fucking idiot. You don't get that many older people who want to share accommodation with people who are a lot younger than them. Not when they don't have the final say as to who lives there. Too much potential for bother. The properties I was involved with letting were in an area popular with both students and single working people of all ages. We'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:56 PM
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This goes beyond "OK I'll have a word with them" territory. He's a danger to you. You need to get yourself, along with any pets or valuables you may have, to another location he can't access while she evicts him or you find a new place to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:25 PM
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Has she kicked him out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 09:52 AM
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Get the fuck out of there now. This man will either rape you or drive you out your home when his attempts to sexually coerce you fail. He knows you aren't interested. Of course he knows. This piece of shit is trying to wear you down. Why is a single guy in a shared living arrangement with a young person of the opposite sex in the first place? Because he's a skeevy subhuman piece of shit leftover from his generation who thinks if he gets a woman young enough he can coerce her into being his bangm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 09:44 AM
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This. You're setting yourself up for zero effort on his part and emotional hard labour on yours. He will expect you to coddle him, run his social life, keep him in good standing with his and your families and give him endless free therapy when the more socially adept step on him. And while you raise him like a child, you will still be expected to somehow find him sexually attractive, and put up with his pornsickness which will be at least as bad as any other mans. Socially awkward men aren't usu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:13 AM
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This is it. The anxiety and depression that come from raising a scrote and their kids wears women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:52 AM
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So he's either married and looking for a mistress he can take on work trips; or he's too busy for a relationship but wants some pickme to play bangmaid and put up with his creepy obsessive behaviour until he's ready to settle down. And of course he looks like a racist thumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:35 AM
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Same here. And it's pretty common for them to end up badly burned by whoever they end up with. They are often users and abusers themselves or have immense psychological issues. A HVW wouldn't entertain a cheater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:42 PM
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He's fucked if they meet up and she challenges him to a game face to face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:04 PM
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Good. You never know what someone like that could be capable of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:55 PM
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Sicko, he really showed his true colours there. He could have broken the guinea pigs neck quite easily but no.... he wanted to torture his daughter as well as the animal. I hope he's out your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:43 AM
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Utterly sickening. Youtube won't even demonetise them. Anyone deriving pleasure from these things is automatically NV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:40 AM
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I'm a reptile keeper and if I had time I'd keep a small colony of feeder animals as well. Live feeding isn't a necessity unless you are keeping an insectivore or have an animal that refuses to eat frozen thawed. Animals that won't eat frozen thawed can usually be transitioned from live prey to freshly killed animals and then on to frozen thawed. Some species can be picky eaters even when bred in captivity, and some breeders will give live prey to hatchlings for the first two or three feeds. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:38 AM
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Also: Self absorption- if he talks incessantly about himself or sees your interests as services you could provide for him, red flag. Cruelty- does he pick on something he thinks is a vulnerability of yours (see: blood in the water test) N/LVM don't value or possibly don't even see you as a person, in their minds you exist to serve and amuse them. In a face to face situation their need to mask this puts them at a distinct disadvantage to you, because they have to try to figure out what you want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:45 PM
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This is behaviour is absolutely driven by porn- the porn-fried have been taught to conflate womens pain with sexual pleasure and think they have a right to inflict it. They'll do anything to hurt a woman so they can get off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:25 PM
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Heh, if it's wrong to be amused by his outcome then I don't want to be right! Nobody has the right to treat a partner like he treated you, he got what he deserved. The ex will probably have been the first woman mad enough to find this cheating, abusive arsehole of a man even vaguely attractive. It's incredible how little it takes for men to suddenly think they're their generation's answer to Casanova!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 03:19 PM
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Well done! Everybody should have basic DIY skills, and whatever skill you need to know someone will have uploaded a video somewhere to teach it. Fantastic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:42 PM
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So sorry this happened to you, this pattern is one I've seen in real life too. Late bloomer finally finds a woman who likes him. They have sex. Then he's got more confidence, women start to notice him and bam! He's off, often to then discover that those who will cheat with you are also likely to cheat on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:38 PM
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Screw that guy and screw youtube. I can understand why some of that crap ends up in my youtube feed when I'm watching videos about snakes and snake care, but why on earth show it to someone who is clearly not viewing videos involving snakes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:04 PM
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Ye gods. I do historical reenactment, mainly the 13th-16th centuries. So, essentially, we're talking acres and acres of linen and often floor length wool, paired with hair covering veils and accessories encrusted with Jesus stuff. It won't surprise you in the slightest that in the mind of scrotes, historical costuming = burlesque. In my experience, being up front about my interests but presenting them as interests and not services I provide is the best course of action. Since the scrote is fixat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 11:50 AM
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Yep, at the end of the day, it's his actions towards you and the other women in his life that really reveal who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:55 AM
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Typical narc- how dare another living creature have needs !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:04 PM
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"Creepy" in this instance seems to mean "They are different enough from us that it requires effort to understand their body language and behaviours". Many people only want super social creatures that will dote on them, but taking highly social creatures like rabbits or guinea pigs and forcing them to live alone or with just one other companion seems pretty cruel to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:02 PM
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Good for you looking after your girls! As a reptile keeper, I can confirm that narcs don't automatically hate emotionally unavailable animals. Plenty of narc reptile keepers out there. How they interact with their animals is a huge indicator. Keepers that expect their animals to be available for interaction at any time; who are amused by their anger or distress; or who are overly interested in watching the animal eat live prey are always bad news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 11:09 AM
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Great to see you back, thanks for all your hard work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:53 AM
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Definitely report him. If he's allowed to carry on like this he'll be saying things like these to sexual assault survivors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:27 AM
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"Mental health advocate" "Weird is a good thing" Looks like he's specifically looking for a neurodiverse woman to abuse. "Weird is a good thing" = "You'd BETTER be in to some extreme kinky shit if you think I'll be putting up with a non-neurotypical girlfriend experience. While I expect you to accommodate and participate in my special interests in sport and kink, yours are embarrassing, annoying and you'll be giving them up anyway once I've worn you down to a shell of your former self. You are t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 10:58 AM
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Neither is vidya.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:58 PM
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£150 fee and you don't sleep with your patients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:03 AM
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^^This. Or they genuinely don't give a damn about our perspective on anything because in their minds women are on the level of appliances. You don't go around wondering what your dishwasher thinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:01 AM
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Seriously. Also the boyfriends who want a few clothed pics "just to make you feel more comfortable/appreciate your own beauty" or some such shit, only to then try over time to push their way towards nudes or straight up pornography? Seriously, my brain has got any man who wants to take pics on dates flagged up as a potential wannabe pornographer. So many men do this, it's fucking pathetic. Do they really think there's anything about the well-you-let-me-take-a-pic-of-your-face-a-little-shoulder-w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:18 AM
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The relationship, dating and womens subs have always been awful. When I had my first reddit account in the early days of the site these subs were obviously crawling with creeps, losers and men roleplaying as women. Some things don't change lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:49 AM
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Man roleplaying as a woman hoping to bait insemination fetishists for free wank material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:52 PM
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Sooner we break the habit, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:14 AM
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They go after the vulnerable ones who aren't getting the support they need at home or ones who come from backgrounds where age gap relationships are acceptable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:19 PM
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An MLM that can ruin the rest of your life even after you leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:58 PM
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Robbing and murdering men who use prostitutes is work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:22 PM
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Thanks for the links.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 12:20 PM
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I don't know. On the one hand, yes you could end up as co-workers, on the other hand a lot of people end up in jobs that aren't the same as their degrees or PhDs and people might be less judgemental about something that happened years ago in college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:33 PM
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^This alllll the way. I can see a scenario where one or both of you are moving on, but there is still the risk that the two of you could still end up as colleagues again in the future if you're both in the same line of work. Best to build a life outside work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:39 AM
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"1PercentMan" Truth in advertising- he is 1% of a man... on a good day! And he wants to be chased SO BAD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:57 AM
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He's exactly the kind of guy who'll get to his 50s, find some young girl at work who sees him as a friendly mentor and then end up living alone, possibly un or under employed, after he makes a fool of himself ditching his wife and terrifying his young co-worker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:35 PM
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If he wasn't willing to discuss it with me we wouldn't be having sex. Deathgrip induced limp dick= LVM = no sex. If it's a genuine medical problem then he should be comfortable talking to an intimate partner about it and accept that it will be a dealbreaker for some women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:13 PM
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Yep. Mr "making up for lost time". "Ethically polyamorous" until the pickme dumps him and he realises he'll have to settle if he wants something serious. Marries the next woman he dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:11 AM
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There is one hell of an overlap between the scifi/fantasy fandom and other pursuits that bring geeky/autistic people together and the BDSM community. Autistic people often have sensory abnormalities which could explain some of them having an overlap between pleasure and pain. But that is far from the only thing driving this. People in these communities tend to be very accepting of others differences, sometimes to a fault. Predatory types can embed themselves in these communities easily and BDSMe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 09:09 AM
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Sexual compatibility? If two emotionally healthy people find each other attractive and want to get each other off, they'll be "sexually compatible". I've never wasted my time by not fucking someone I wasn't attracted to. Giving guys chances was a waste of time every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:31 AM
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"I want to treat women looking for partners as inexpensive, or ideally free, escorts and prostitutes. Accomplished women make my pee pee feel small and remind me that my mediocre self can't expect to get on as far as I could have in the days when half of the population were actively excluded from the workforce."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:33 PM
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This is common narc behaviour, no misunderstanding here. They'll change the past so they can run a victim narrative and then try to insist that anyone who witnessed the real events adhere to their version of events instead of trusting their own reality. It's also really telling that he waited to spring this on you until you were home on a visit (and therefore presumably busy) and made your visit about you and your sister running about to appease him and deal with the consequences of his behaviou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:21 PM
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It's the Sun. A shit tabloid amongst shit tabloids. Even they can see through this guys shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:34 PM
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And projection. So much projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:24 PM
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What they are angry about is women having choices. This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:04 PM
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I've started living like HVM don't exist. I'm focused on my close family and friends, improving my finances, quality of life, wardrobe and self care routines. Apart from my hobbies, that's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:10 AM
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They get worse as they get older. Any woman under 35 who they can force a conversation with must surely be infatuated because women just love older guys, right? Any woman over 35 must be desperate right? I gave her the time of day so she must now be in love with me! WHAAAAA GOLD DIGGGERRRRRRSSSSSS.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:03 AM
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Just be careful because when a woman has lowered her standards she sometimes resents women like us who refuse to lower ours. ^^THIS. And be very careful if you have these women in your social circles. Little Mrs "He proposed with a ringpop and I'm soooo happy" can "level up" in some exceedingly unplesant ways. There's Little Mrs Coerced Polyamorist (and her cousins, the Unicorn Hunter and Little Mrs "I know he cheats but all men do"), the Mummy Martyr, the Predator Protector and women who take t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:38 AM
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Success objects? How many of the men saying this actually have any. Sounds like another riff on the old "Wah wah wah I'm so sick of gold diggers" classic trotted out by men who would get with one in a heart beat, if only they could afford it. Success earns respect, being sexualised doesn't. People don't dehumanise successful men for being successful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:19 PM
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Totally stealing this one lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:04 PM
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An awful lot of the "CF" guys I've met were just LVM looking for someone they could park their penises in who didn't already have kids and who probably wouldn't baby trap them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:35 PM
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Now all the dating apps oare focused on keeping you swiping rather than actually matching you with someone you might like, I wouldn't blame anyone for giving up on OLD. My situation is probably a bit different from yours- I have autism and ADHD that weren't diagnosed until I was already ill thanks to the stress, and while ADHD medication has changed my life, I wasn't able to get on it until I was in my late 30s because I couldn't find a doctor willing to even listen to a woman who had been acade…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:29 PM
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In my experience of dealing with new agey types, they'll say it means something like "someone who is projecting a lot of negativity" but really it can mean: "Someone who isn't into this shit" "Someone who isn't into this shit as much as me", "Someone who is into different shit, who refuses to accept the supremacy of MY shit", "Someone who won't put up with this shit" "Someone I hope to use this shit on to emotionally manipulate into putting up with being treated like shit"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:17 PM
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Humans have the social intelligence to organise. I am supremely grateful to the generations of women who have fought against the notion that we are the heaven-ordained property of men so that at least in some parts of the world we have the legal right to lives and incomes of our own. We can "fly" from situations that do not suit us, we can chose when and if we have children. We may be a long way from full pairity in terms of income or social status, but we have made phenomenal progress and are s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:05 PM
2

Hoping to get picked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:17 AM
397

Testing the water to see what he can get away with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:21 PM
189

Classic financial abuse. He could easily ensure she wanted for nothing, but instead he'll expect her to keep up with him and easily keep her poor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:50 PM
4

Possibly, although the 1860s was a very different world- arranged marriage was very normal and a lot of men had just been killed in the US civil war. Unless he was in the back of beyond there were likely to be plenty of women looking for a wife. From what other people in this thread have managed to uncover, he posted the ad in response to another ad that was a joke, and got roasted for it. He was probably just an awkward laddie whose teenage years contained a lot of hard work and few social oppo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:29 AM
7

Exactly. It's a red flag behaviour, an indicator of porn sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:48 PM
230

Hobbies, mastrubation and working on levelling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:39 PM
38

Your great, great grandmas knew that there was likely a damn good reason he was still single and that being marooned in a remote, male dominated frontier community far from your friends and family would be a hellish life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:15 PM
3

Sounds like he's into beastiality and telling on himself. Well done giving him the drop kick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:34 AM
26

Addicts only change when they hit rock bottom, which he'll never do if she keeps putting up with his crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:37 AM
8

🤮🤮🤮 Of course. I forgot how rampantly paedophilic they've become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:29 AM
42

Imagine growing up to discover that the only reason you exist is because your absent father hoped he could baby trap and abuse your mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:24 PM
196

I'll believe prostitution is a choice when destitute, indebted or otherwise vulnerable women are fully supported by society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:17 PM
1

People tell women whatever will give the most value to men, especially if they happen to be LVM. Reddit is the ultimate LVM and pickme playground. By pushing back and challenging this rubbish we can support the younger women they want to socialise to accept abuse as a part of sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:10 PM
624

Of course he's still trying to fuck her. Him and his missus has members of her family harassing her, and he still thinks he's entitled to his dick appointment 🙄. These men are truly scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:06 PM
32

Classic narc. This almost deserves to be its own shit test- have something coming up that you act excited about and see if he does anything to ruin it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:49 AM
19

+1 to informing her parents and reporting his grooming incident to insta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:54 AM
37

Same thing happens in Scotland when games are played by two teams whose rivalries have a sectarian bent. Incidents of domestic abuse are about a third higher when the two main teams face each other in a championship than they are when the teams are playing each other outside tournaments or when Scotland's national team is playing nationally or internationally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:42 AM
116

The only female creatures that get excited about walk dates have four legs, fur and a tail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:16 AM
141

A break from reality perhaps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:17 PM
69

Yuck. You can guarantee he'd be hoping to covertly wear her down over time. Indeed that would likely be the draw for a guy who described himself like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:57 PM
1

This. It will only escalate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:18 PM
34

Most people into witchy things are used to being the outsiders so sometimes when they hear that most members want someone else to not be allowed participate, they assume the creep is being bullied and close ranks to protect him, especially if he pretends he didn’t do anything. Not just witchy things. I've seen this dynamic play out both in pagan circles and in student nerd/tabletop roleplay focused groups. They'll let absolute sociopaths in and do fuck all about getting rid of them because they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 06:59 AM
5

Yep. And if they ever get the hottie don't expect them to be grateful. They'll just be like "This is my level now" and start looking for opportunities to "trade up", or they'll do all they can to keep the woman miserable because they know she's settling and fear she'll leave if she's mentally well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:58 AM
24

That's a lot of words for "I want women to chase ME!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:11 PM
21

They know we're too good for them. Gotta keep us at their level!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:10 PM
16

Cut him off. If the situation were reversed he wouldn't give a fuck. He has shown you that by his actions after your accident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:52 PM
96

Definitely. Even if he meant it as a joke, that's not how his LV friends will take it. They won't be happy until they are passing her around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:17 AM
28

Same where I live. My ex practically made a sport of it. Now I consider it a red line behaviour- try it and you're struck out my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:11 AM
165

He just can't resist the opportunity to knock her down and slutshame her in public. TrUe lOvE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:40 AM
58

He is the tapeworm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:40 AM
2

I don't know. It seems like a lie that would be easy for these fuckers to pull off. Manipulation is practically a reflex response for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:29 PM
14

they may get good clothes from homeless shelters to put on a fake persona Homeless charities will usually find people decent clothes if they say they have a job interivew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:11 AM
45

Infanticide was also pretty big way back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:51 AM
21

Oh no. I took up homebrewing shortly before the pandemic started. The online forum I'm part of seems really nice- there are both men and women there. I was hoping to maybe go to an event or two when things open up a bit more. If they turn out to be like this I won't bother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:42 PM
23

^^^This. Flasher are a thing where I live, but they don't tend to go back to the same place repeatedly because people beat the crap out of them for it. If videoing pervs becomes normalised, just upping and moving to a new location won't be enough to protect them. Social media is a powerful tool for dealing with these arseholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:45 AM
62

Men Getting Triggered Over Women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:24 PM
9

Nobody is advocating for death to the disabled, people are begging for proper care and resources and denied again and again by a capitalist government and ableist society that leaves behind the most vulnerable Absolutely. As someone with ADHD and well masked autism I'd support the screening and termination of embryos likely to develop these disorders if that was possible. Imagine knowingly inflicting a life on a someone where just existing in the world is uncomfortable if not downright painful a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:17 PM
2

EX boyfriend surely! He sounds like a right piece of work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:36 PM
3

I hope she savaged his ankles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:25 PM
3

The rescue shelters where I live are full of them too. You'd think people would realise that owning a sled dog, you know, a creature selectively bred for its energy and endurance, might take a bit more work than your average mutt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:50 AM
3

Lolwut? Terriers can be vicious. Even the little ones were bred to be fierce little killers that could keep your home free of rats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:44 AM
15

And also fake as fuck. But then I doubt that's really a surprise to anyone on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:06 PM
8

Absolutely. I knew quite a few "poly" types when I was at uni. They're either now married to one partner or they're single. I learned to avoid them and their drama after I tried a "FWB" type arrangement with a poly guy for a couple of weeks. We weren't friends and there were no benefits in it for me. Instead I got a look into an inherently predatory and abusive subculture that's really quite cultish. There are never enough "poly" women to go round, so the pickmes involved will always be pressuri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:51 PM
56

Men will try to turn any online platform into a dating site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:36 PM
55

Yes! It won't heal the trauma, and you're giving him ammunition against the next woman he targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:31 AM
1

Better at expressing themselves to each other. They rarely just say what they mean or tell you what they actually want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:48 AM
3

The governing party's whip is presently held by a man who found out that a young female intern was having mental health difficulties and responded by sexually propositioning her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:17 AM
197

FWB is F**K without Billing. 👆 This absolutely. It's "can I park my dick in you while I look for someone I consider good enough to invest in?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:22 AM
60

The thought of this is sickening. Kids don't need this kind of social pressure when they are young. It sounds like a paedos paradise and a bullys dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:19 AM
7

Ball pythons. They're only a few months old but they're growing well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:03 AM
57

The full text so you don't have to give traffic to the rag that is Vice. These Chinese Women Vow Never to Marry or Have Sex With Men. Then Censors Stepped In. In a country famous for censorship, they talked, freely, of fighting the patriarchy. They questioned everyday sexism at workplaces and in mass media. They promised never to marry men or sleep with them, let alone bearing their children. The group of women on the fringes of China’s nascent feminist movement had for years been able to have u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:00 PM
17

Looks good to me. My snakes would love to explore that during their play time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:56 PM
5

He sounds like a right piece of work. Even if it doesn't feel like it right now, things are definitely going to get better. Now that PoS is out your life for good, you'll find a weight is lifted from your life in ways you never thought possible. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:55 PM
11

So sHe CAn'T dO beTtEr...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:36 PM
26

The best case scenario with these guys is that they are socially awkward losers. Even if they are sweet, they are never going to be HV because they are at such a disadvantage socially. Do you want to spend your life listening to the endless woes of some workplaces' underpaid bitch? Do you want to live with the expectation that you'll stage manage his social life or otherwise make up for his social fuckups? Didn't think so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:46 AM
60

Manorexia nervosa. Sad to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:33 AM
8

Congratulations on getting into your grad programme! Fuck that scrote, he can rot in hell. I know it sucks right now, but your life is about to become so much fuller when you start your new course. Now block him on everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:28 AM
36

“uSe ThEm FoR mOnEy” = "I paid for her coffee or *gasp* her meal, and the date didn't end in sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:20 AM
274

Welcome! Most of us are here because we saw the sub getting slated somewhere else and wanted to see the bin fire for ourselves. Instead we found something transformative. Enjoy your dive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:21 PM
2

This is what we are here for! Well done! Bye bye groomer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:03 AM
3

Number 3 describes my ex to a T. See also 2, 7 and 8. The second someone tries to make you responsible for their emotional regulation, you go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:32 AM
4

Absolutely. The last scrote in my life used PTSD and bipolar disorder as an excuse for his shit, and point blank refused to seek medical treatment. I don't think he had either condition. He was just a selfish lazy bastard looking for an easy life off the backs of the women in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:30 AM
1

Here's the emoji list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:17 AM
2

🥇 🥇 🥇 Take my (non peddit enriching) gold 😂 😂 😂 . I'd watch that series in a heartbeat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:16 AM
125

Planned incompetence: polyamory edition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:27 AM
65

They don't respect or value women full stop. The only answer is to cut them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:35 PM
152

I think the really LVM want to be chased. Free vagina on tap + the ego trip of using someone who is clearly way more into them than they are into her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:12 PM
5

ADHD meds only work if you actually have ADHD. Otherwise you're just handing them something to get high on. These guys just need to sober up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:48 AM
48

Absolutely. Their mother needs to know too. For all we know he's already molesting them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:41 AM
28

"No drama"= he's a one man walking shitshow who'll manufacture as much drama as he possibly can for his own amusement or aggrandisation. Run don't walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:15 PM
7

Inform wife, then block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:07 AM
5

Shitcrumb, to shitcrumb, verb: shitcrumbing- when an LVMs mask starts to slip but he's still trying, so the shit trickles in slowly, one small shitcrumb at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:57 AM
34

More projection than an IMAX cinema. It's got to the point where if I see a man accusing women of something then I just automatically assume he's doing the thing or wants to do the thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:59 AM
14

STEM fields are full of guys like this. They are often on or near the autistic spectrum, hence the lack of friends. They get on at work but have a ton of mental health issues. Mum helped them cope when they were at home, wife/GF should take that role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:02 PM
14

"Sex workers of reddit, please amuse me for free and give me the material for my next wank"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:42 PM
1

Refusing to get the vaccine or wear masks properly is LV as fuck. It shows he doesn't care about the safety of others, and/or he's fallen for some stupid conspiracy theory. It's yet another way they tell on themselves. I feel sorry for the people they infect when some of them inevitably get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:38 PM
43

It's something many take to in desperation. The "happy hooker" propaganda makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:27 PM
2

There needs to be a remake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:15 PM
3

Well he can fuck right off. All the way, and when he gets there, he can keep going. That's a shameful way to treat a partner. You've done the right thing. Things will get better from here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:12 PM
40

An SO seeking to embarrass me in front of others would be dumped right then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:10 PM
46

The reporter's on another planet. Women are choosing a better life with fewer children, boo fucking hoo. The reality for many people though is that they can't afford kids, or can't afford as many as they'd otherwise want. How about reversing wage stagnation? A health service for the US on par with other developed nations? The US doesn't even have statutory parental leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:00 PM
2

They're not necessarily all that rich. I've known a few families like this, some well off others not. There's a bunch of stuck up conservative elders, possibly very religious, who everyone else has to kowtow to or drama and/or financial consequences will ensue. If an elder has money, or someone they can get money off, and the others don't, then there will be financial abuse going on. If an elder is violent and/or perverted, you can guarantee the family will cover for them because "respectable pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:49 PM
69

Well if you're running a circus you've got to recruit some clowns...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:26 PM
19

Their metric for desirability is the number of messages received in an online meat market. If that's how someone measures desirability then I'd be happy to be undesirable in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:53 PM
33

The actual study only looks at who is pursuing whom, not why. It can't distinguish between people looking for casual relationships and those looking for more, nor does it try to. It also isn't looking at how dating behaviour changes with age. The researchers measured the numbers of initial contacts, the number and length of messages and whether the messages contain positive or negative words (spoiler: women are nicer to people they find desirable, men are nastier). Of course the 18 year old is g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:39 PM
13

The first rule of misogyny: Whatever is wrong, it is always a woman's fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:29 AM
2

Your son is a lucky boy, I'm glad you got him the evaluation. Scrotes will use anything as an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:21 AM
5

It's OK, sorry if I came on a bit strong about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:12 AM
32

So I have to wonder... Is this guy truly autistic? Wouldn't surprise me. Autistic boys get diagnosed young, many are coddled as all fuck. Their diagnosis is their excuse for literally everything. GF= unpaid carer. No thanks. Also I'm here as an autistic woman to tell you that there is no "awareness and acceptance of autism". Most neurotypicals will engage in performative lip service when it is socially advantageous to do so, but overall we are still treated like shit. "Awareness" just enables th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:13 PM
6

MuH tEhnDIes!!!!1!!1!11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:55 PM
11

This...is your brain. This is your brain on male entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:35 PM
7

Any man insisting on using this app could automatically be considered LV. So it could be useful, just not in the way this scrote thinks it would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:57 AM
6

The type that thinks Myers-Briggs is on par with astrology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:43 AM
11

I worked for a politician that was actually pretty decent and trying to do right by his constituents. At least 80% of his time was spent meeting people. His office would then action whatever he'd agreed to. Essentially they're influencers with staff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:41 AM
41

Vet like your life depends on it It may well depend on it if/when you get sick or disabled, and when the next pandemic rolls round.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:27 PM
7

Thank you so much for the summary. There's no way I'd have had time to read through that drivel. This guy reminds me of the selfish fuckwits I came across when I was a postgrad. They were obsessed with wringing every penny they could out their 20s and 30s while having zero value as actual human beings. Hopefully this guy's second mark will wise up and leave him with the only true love of his life- his spreadsheet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:42 AM
13

AKA the "fuck me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:32 AM
12

Consent in this context is meaningless. Abusers will go to any lengths to manufacture it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:29 AM
12

Stop texting him, he's grooming you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:13 AM
31

The "talking stage" should be a few days at most. If he's not arranging a date by then he's a time waster. Being in the "talking stage" is not the same as being exclusive with someone. You can (and FDS states you should aim to) talk to multiple men at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:35 AM
6

Suppose it was "mean spirited", why should we give a fuck? If we're working our arses off to get on in life, surely it's also "mean spirited" to expect us to carry the dead weight of another adult who refuses to do the same. Sexual selection has never been a fair game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:27 AM
17

IDK about Canada or England, but in Scotland it's legal to defend yourself with anything you have to hand as long as your actions are proportional to the threat. If someone barges into your home putting you in fear of your life and you kill them with your kitchen knife, then the court is likely to find that they were lawfully killed. If they barged in, saw the knife and tried to run away and you ran after them and killed them then that would be murder. Possibly culpable homicide (manslaughter) i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:05 AM
11

Oh yeah? Tell a potential partner you have a disability and see how much "love" you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:38 AM
47

This. A paper trail is usually the best way to get action from management. He needs to be kept away from the female staff. Ideally a manager or his support worker if he has one should take him aside and explain to him he's being a creep. If he persists, well, he's a creep, and should be dealt with accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:11 PM
17

I refuse to describe myself using the terminology of the domestic abuse fandom. Vanilla is a spice I cook with. My sexual interests are normal and paraphilia free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:26 AM
25

There's no such thing as an irrefutable argument if the person you're making it to doesn't consider you worth listening to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:23 AM
5

Uhh, you're assuming he doesn't use the toothbrush for *other* purposes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:46 AM
27

More like Purplepeepee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:16 AM
2

It's a job that attracts arseholes like flies to shite. ACAB indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:31 AM
17

Mr Buttcrumbs. Holy fuck. "shitcrumbing", the act of dropping small shitty acts into a relationship and slowly ramping them up to full on scrotery, has entered my lexicon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:06 AM
8

Chimps are actually hygienic about it. They build a different nest every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:58 AM
37

I dunno, a good book can be really enjoyable to re-read. Scrotes on the other hand...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:20 PM
48

That is a brilliant idea! Definitely one to remember!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:29 AM
19

They're desperately trying to come up with ways to shame us for voluntarily picking celibacy over being their living wank rags. Bless them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:20 AM
416

Porn is a weapon to create and army of bitter, violent men who are susceptible to fascism He gets it. This quote could be framed and put on the wall of every classroom in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:09 AM
1

I have autism and ADHD. My struggles as a child were ignored completely because I wasn't as disruptive in class as my dyslexic younger brother. He got every accommodation and educational aid under the sun, I got verbally and physically beaten into behaving. He now has a good well paid job. Despite managing to achieve academically, I'm unable to work due to a stress related chronic condition and my mental health. Every step of the way to getting a diagnosis I was met with open hostility and mocke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:37 AM
12

All it teaches you is how to ingratiate yourself with people. It should be called "how to be a pickme"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:41 AM
8

Yikes on a fucking bike. There's no end to the entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:31 AM
6

Yet another example of "if he wanted to he would"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:58 AM
17

Or Severus Snape's ugly wee brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:24 PM
45

At least she found out before they married or had a kid together. Imagine if he'd managed to keep the good guy charade up until she was pregnant?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:29 PM
161

Just ask yourself, would he be allowed to be this incompetent at his work? If the answer is no... He's fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:22 PM
44

Is he using a filter? It looks like he's wearing makeup to disguise an advancing case of leatherface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:19 PM
34

Doesn't surprise me. According to a recent poll, almost all young women in the UK have been sexually harassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:02 AM
207

Are there any "finance bros" out there that aren't toxic as shit? I thought NPD was practically part of their job description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:59 AM
9

Absolutely. In addition to "patronus", animus, fetch, daemon, muse, angel, familiar spirit and other terms from real European traditions are available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:20 AM
35

I'd like to know too- A stag do/hen party used to be a bunch of friends and work colleagues celebrating in a local pub or other venue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:07 AM
2

I dunno, all that plastic burning- might take out the whole house! Safer just to bag it and let the ex take care of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:56 AM
5

Fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:45 PM
18

I don't know about Gerard Butler, but Cage also has a habit of spaffing large sums up the wall on shittily written movies where he casts himself as the star and acts out his neuroses on screen. See also Kevin "Waterworld" Costner and Mel Gibson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:02 AM
5

Not lately, but when I do... No read, just block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:55 AM
19

It'll have been revealed or built up gradually. Either that or he's predated on someone much younger or in some other way disadvantaged compared to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:51 AM
16

Who you just know is working her arse off physically and mentally to maintain a decent home with some semblence of normality. All so this scrote can have both the pleasure of his degeneracy and the social advantages that come from being perceived as "normal". And he'll resent her for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:49 AM
32

Men like these will sneak into your social circle and wait for *years* for a chance to badger their way into your bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:40 AM
25

Japanese poem Five syllables then seven Then another five
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:36 AM
24

So he can have fun violating them of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:27 AM
83

Should be titled "How to get used as a sentient fleshlight"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:06 AM
42

Where are the religions and ideologies enforcing the ideas that we need to breathe, drink water or eat? Nowhere, that's where, because these things are actually natural!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:41 PM
58

Possibly the same guy sockpuppeting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:05 PM
5

Who wants to bet he's single and creating a internet fantasy. I'd put money on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:40 AM
20

I was going to say the same thing. The realities for many families is they couldn't survive if one adult didn't spend a lot of time working away from home. That being said, it's a cheater's dream, and you're lumbered with all the responsibility of keeping the home going while he's away focusing on his work. It's a raw deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:31 PM
16

I don't think it's a coincidence that many of them also bought into the idea that they could spend their 20s and 30s utterly devoted to their careers and then catch up on the rest of their lives in their 40s and 50s. Now they're waking up to the fact that they don't have much in the way to show for their efforts, and the women they thought they'd have their pick of have better options and know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:58 PM
20

Well, she could be talking about a piece that's a gorgeous vintage example of classic elegance that has been sourced according to her tastes and reconditioned to sparkling perfection. Somehow I doubt it though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:35 PM
13

Agreed. Also many are projecting their own homophobia. The gay hating closet cases are still out there. You can usually spot them by the effort they put into working their hatred for the gays into conversations, like being be some kind of evangelist for homophobia is going to somehow draw attention away from the fact they're fucking gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:21 PM
10

Thanks for the links
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:59 PM
96

Same. They get picked... Then they wonder why they're not happy when they get used as an appliance and sex toy by someone who enjoys their misery. Their next step is usually to lash out at other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:48 PM
1

He sounds like a complete arsehole. A lot of the women who "find him attractive" will be humouring him so they don't end up a target of his bullying. I'm glad the other people in the group stood up for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:06 AM
3

The one I knew IRL also gave me the "opportunity" to see the intersection between classism and racism in middle class English society. Fuck these people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:48 AM
14

Pickme mum, low value son. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:10 AM
21

Ex members as in they're no longer breastfeeding and therefore left the group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:50 AM
76

The admins shut it down as soon as they were outed. Some people were saying it was fake, but it turns up in google caches and people are coming forward as ex members. It wouldn't surprise me if a bunch of fetishists set it up as a honeypot to lure in unsuspecting women. Fucking sick. There's fuck all that we do that they won't wank over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:25 AM
109

Quite a few justifiably enraged Queens have been asking for more information about the breastfeeding support group that got infiltrated. Since we can't link to reddit discussions without accusations of brigading, here's a link to a discussion on mumsnet which has the information that has come out so far. I really hope someone gets sued over this. Safe spaces where new mums can come together and support each other are precious, especially for women who don't otherwise have access to good antenata…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:05 AM
2

They were outed and closed the group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:37 AM
2

Done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:36 AM
9

Done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:52 PM
36

Absolutely. I'm not a mum myself, but I understand it's difficult. People seem to think "oh, the baby comes out, then mummy starts making milk, the baby magically latches on, and all is hunky dory". Er, no. Every step has challenges, it can be painful, mastitis is a thing and it's really really time consuming. Mums on low incomes face a triple whammy of poor antenatal care, uncaring employers and the expense of baby formula. Spaces where women can share their experiences and help each other thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:17 PM
134

Yep, she outed them and got banned for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:59 PM
34

It's sod all about comfort, they're there to perv and harass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:58 PM
283

According to the OP in the original thread, that's what's happened. In retaliation, the mods deleted the no men rule. With "friends" like these, who needs enemies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:36 PM
80

According to the OP in the original thread, that's exactly what they've done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:35 PM
18

When abusive people start to lose their grip on their victims, they become worse and this is demonstrated on a larger scale by the patriarchy. Seems like "if they can't control you, they'll try to control how people see you" writ large across society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:42 PM
6

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Stories like these re-enforce why FDS tells women to stay away from these depraved idiots. My last ex loved to give himself big pats on the back for how respectful and nice he was being to me because he was "restraining himself" from indulging in this kind if behaviour. In reality, he was trying to work it in anyway and continually having to assert boundaries with him was exhausting. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:30 PM
8

Faaaaaake. But it goes to show they know that what they want to to do to women in the name of "play" is abusive as all fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:55 AM
5

it makes me think that these people using these labels are so far removed from reality and living in their pornotopia-addled brain that if it rains outside they'll say you spat on them Quoted for truth Queen! That's a great way of putting it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:35 AM
11

They don't necessarily come from money. The worst I've known were all women who'd come from less affluent backgrounds, got themselves an education and some good career opportunities, and now felt the need to shit on other women trying to do the same. Like the senior professor who'd had four kids, but who told me she'd never hire a female postdoc unless she was sure she'd not get pregnant. Or the office crow who'd go around picking on the temp staff while crawling up the arseholes of the male sen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:31 AM
11

OLD = rejects and shaggers. Hard pass from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:37 AM
17

My steelies are all about equal opportunties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:35 AM
44

They can't even be arsed coming up with a short, sweet bit of copypasta they could tailor a bit for each girl and send over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:19 AM
68

Sexual assault is a shameful act after all...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:45 AM
16

"PICK ME! PICK ME! I'LL GO HALFSIES! NoT lIKe OtHeR gIrlS! PICK MEEEEEEEEEE! What business of hers are another woman's standards? What has she got to gain from entertaining cheap men? She's a brainwashed idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:13 PM
8

Why even go to their subreddits? All you're going to find is a bunch of rejects telling each other shit like this to cope with being rejects. There's nothing of interest to be found there, leave them to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:05 PM
17

Realistically, the kid will be lucky if it's born without a serious disability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:35 AM
31

Which she'll be blamed for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:33 AM
6

Absolutely. They will actively facilitate their LVM's behaviour. If they're "poly" she'll be out unicorn hunting, if he's a pedo, she'll be grooming kids for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:19 AM
7

Accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:13 AM
18

Women calling out age gap relationships triggers scrotes no end. Of the content I've posted to FDS, it's the age gap stuff that draws the most butthurt DMs. They can die mad. And alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:11 AM
14

Even if he promises he can live without it, he'll try to find a way to work it in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:40 PM
14

If he has to say so, he's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:38 PM
106

Well if their height isn't a deal breaker for a woman their victim complexes sure will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:25 PM
52

Imagine falling in love with a guy, marrying him, having kids with him, and then watching him turn into... *that*. The red flags were there from the beginning. This is why the world needs FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:17 PM
6

Not to mention the old man stench...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:31 AM
10

Plenty of other gorgeous gems out there. How about a fine ruby or a padparadscha sapphire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:09 AM
1

Thank you, I'm sorry you have to fight attitudes like that. Your efforts inspire us too! #Globalresistance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:45 PM
17

In my experience the scrote is often the one pulling the pickme's strings. The pickme thinks she is doing you a favour since she thinks you should be settling for scraps like she has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:55 AM
21

Here's the deal... HVM exist. And women are going to look for them. If you can't handle that, don't date women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:37 AM
115

Her mum sounds like a pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:33 AM
161

The more they cry the larger we grow. Streisand effect FTW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:31 AM
45

Absolutely. Never date down. They're not grateful, they just think "this is my level now" and expect to be able to score the same or better if you happen to split up with them over their numerous faults and flaws that they have no intention of ever working on. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:36 PM
24

He wants an easy life and thinks this is the way to get one. He probably doesn't even realise he's damaged goods, and expects some poor young woman to fix all his shit and make his daddy dreams come true now he's in his 50s. Come on, have you ever seen neck wrinkles like that on an early 40 something? Me neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:31 PM
16

I've seen "youth digger" suggested here before but it doesn't really have a great ring to it. Golden mouldies? School cruisers? Girlie grubbers? Youth suckers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:27 PM
7

Oh my god that's hilarious. I'm picturing the "oh fuck" look on his face when he gets to the house and sees the husband. Then relief- the guy seems to be OK with this... Scrote thinks he's going to have a threesome or fulfil his "bull" fantasies... And then the realisation slowly dawning on him as the projector's flicked on and the Amway spiel starts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:17 PM
14

"It is very, very rare I reach out to people like this" = You're the seventeenth woman I've bothered today. "You are someone I can see myself with for a long time." = Great, now I have to future fake to try to fuck you "It's rare I find people I feel that way towards"= I'll fuck anything female that moves. Wanna see my STD collection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:14 PM
48

A child might be willing to learn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:01 PM
44

I know. They're so scared! The projection is unreal. They know who hits "the wall" at 30, and it's not the gender that uses moisturiser! They use "cat lady" as an insult because they're scared they can't even compete with a creature that shits in a box. Levelling up and treating women as equals is just so scary! I mean, the effort! And they might not be able to get what they want all the time! Oh my god! Dying alone while wanking in a basement somewhere is clearly the preferable option!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:09 AM
29

Glad to hear that! I hope the 21-23 year olds know better than to give these creeps the time of day. Once you get to your late 30s/ early 40s onwards you get the pleasure of watching the former 21-23 year olds that were unfortunate enough to get snagged divorcing them while they squeal about "divorce rape" 🍿 🍿 🍿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:55 AM
34

I shared the screenshots in the group for everyone to see. I was told unsolicited dickpics are ok. So please can someone explain to me why the same dudes telling me that had a fucking meltdown? "It wasn't meant for everyone, it was sent to you" ?? "We don't want to see that" ??? "He said he's going to make himself dead now 😱" ??! This is fucking brilliant. This is how it should be. All dick pics are community dic pics. What's that? You don't like it? You feel violated? Tough shit fucko, maybe ke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:38 AM
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Exactly. They think that making content like this will scare women into lowering their standards. Instead, they provide an easy to spot red flag for the women they're trying to scam. Which is the closest they'll get to providing for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:33 AM
58

You need to find a better friend group. These guys sound LV as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:21 AM
8

You can tell a lot about someone from the way they select and treat their pets. He could have picked a breed that doesn't need a lot of exercise. He could have picked a small breed. But no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:58 AM
18

Also: Leave at the first sign he wants to isolate you from your friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:15 AM
146

And this is why we make our time scarce and expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:40 AM
155

If they can't control you, they'll try to control how others see you. It's typical narc behaviour and so funny. They must realise, in the day and age of the internet, that they are Streisanding the shit out this place. But they can't help screaming about it. Welcome Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:34 AM
59

LOL this gives me flash backs to my first year at Uni. There was a girl in a couple of the student groups I was in who was the epitome of pickme. When she wasn't picking up after the men she was spouting anti-feminist drivel to try to impress the president of the student conservative club. Who was gay. Not out and proud gay, he was an obvious closet case. He managed to work how much he hated the gays into every social conversation he had. This is no exaggeration. It was a running joke on campus.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:31 AM
1

Our "cavemen ancestors" lived in small, tight knit family groups clinging to survival. I doubt they would have tolerated the kind of lazy, self centred behaviour you see in todays L/NVM. Husbands cheating isn't anything to do with the wife not taking care of herself- if she's not taking care of herself it's usually because all her energy is focused on raising her children and manchild, keeping the home and working. Husbands cheat because they want to. FDS advocates screening for disloyal behavio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:15 AM
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But worst of all, he tried to use my friends death as a pick-up strategy after I repeatedly turned him down. No surprises there. Any chance you're vulnerable and in they try to jump. Glad you're rid of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:32 PM
51

WTF? It's one thing to live in a crab bucket, but to pay someone to put you there? That's a whole extra level of pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:27 PM
11

I tried OLD once when I was at University. It felt dehumanising and disrespectful towards everyone involved and was a crap experience even although most of the guys I chatted with seemed OK. In the end I went on exactly one date. Hobby groups and friends will always be a better way to meet people IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:19 PM
20

LiTerALy HiTleR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:15 PM
12

NoT LiKE oTHer GiRlssss.... Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:53 PM
23

Try to out some of them? LVM/NVM often have poor self control. Coupled with their entitlement and huge egos it makes them perfect candidates for catfishing. "To catch a predator", a TV programme in the US, did this to great effect with pedophiles. I doubt they reduced the number of pedophiles by much, but it drew attention to the problem of online grooming very effectively. You don't have to go as far as setting up a meeting. Collect chat logs and screenshots of conversations between them and th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:47 PM
45

Hypergamy FTW. Every creature on this earth wants the best genes for its offspring, we're no different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:24 PM
56

The growth of OLD is definitely a factor in creating a false sense of abundance- the idea that whatever you have, something better could be out there, a mouse click or two away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:24 PM
104

Addicts usually need to hit rock bottom before they get the motivation to start getting their shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:40 AM
8

Your point about aspies getting a pass, just like men, is valid This only applies to autistic men. Society punishes autistic women as harshly as neurotypical women if they don't conform to its expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:42 AM
52

Domestic abusers will typically blame their partners for picking fights with them. Whoever he assaulted, it must have been serious or have involved a weapon. Either way he's a violent idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:05 AM
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I think the lesson we can take from this is that male family friends are not to be involved unsupervised in the lives of our children. You literally never know. Good to hear you and your daughter are able to talk about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:45 AM
44

The daughter is legally an adult and isn't living at home. The mum knows she can cut her out of her life at a moments notice, as the pervert is likely to pressure her to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:41 AM
7

Thanks for posting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:19 AM
10

Same. The gene pool's been needing a good dose of chlorine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:17 AM
24

A nurse and a purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:59 AM
50

People like you are like precious gems. You're using your success to improve the lot of your entire family! You've given your mum the means to get out an abusive relationship, and your siblings can save their money for their own places instead of lining some landlord's pocket. A HVM would love this. LVM of course: Want all your resources for themselves. You have a big house and a good income, he'll have already mentally moved in and will be fantasising about sponging off you. Hate the fact you h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:37 AM
56

Wish I could upvote this a million times. If your "empowerment" means other women have to remain in servitude, then it's just another example of "divide and rule".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:05 AM
35

Is this a US thing? In my Atheist Scottish family we've still got the cultural remnants of hardcore Scottish protestant Christianity kicking about. The "godliness" might have gone, but the cleanliness remains strong. The men don't have a problem washing themselves. I remember my dad banging on the bathroom door when my brother was in the shower and loudly reminding him about proper intimate male hygiene on a pretty regular basis when he was a kid. Just don't you dare have an unopened packet of p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:51 AM
58

From one of the other relationship subs. At least the top comments were supportive of the parents views on the matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:08 AM
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From one of the other relatonship subs. At least the top comments were supportive of the parents views on the matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:24 PM
5

I used to think things like foot fetishes were harmless, but that was based on the assumption that men who have them are mostly able to keep them to themselves and enjoy them privately or as a healthy part of partnered sex. But that's not how these men are. Their lives revolve around their dicks and it's so obvious it's painful. If they notice they're making women uncomfortable they're more likely to get off on the fact than see it as a sign they should stop. And if (god forbid) they end up in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:45 AM
6

Same to yourself and welcome to the group!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:30 AM
43

Would he expect someone wearing a superhero costume to have real superpowers because people dressed like that in movies have them? What a fucking clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:27 AM
5

"a Rorschach test for misogyny" This is brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:25 AM
4

I think she just showed him what life outside the crazy Windsor circus could be like, gave him an out and he went for it. It's telling that he wants to raise his son as a private citizen (and good on him!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:31 PM
3

Utterly disgusting. I'm sorry this happened to you, it's beyond creepy, it's terrifying. I'm glad you managed to get away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:26 PM
6

That's fucking insane, you must both have been terrified! Where were the shop security guards? Holy hell. That bastard was probably watching the place for a while, you'd think they'd be keeping an eye on the merchandise at least! I'm sorry you and your mum have had to face that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:19 PM
11

Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:22 PM
47

Mass produced pieces usually combine sky high mark ups with piss poor quality. Buying direct from a reputable crafter usually gets you a much better deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:01 PM
5

Meghan managed to deprogram Harry and save him from his family's cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:52 PM
15

Unfortunately this is the default these days. Nobody wants to shame people for something intimate and harmless that they can't help, which is how "kinks" have come to be seen. Consent is meaningless in the context of a relationship where one party is getting off on the thought of abusing the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:35 AM
17

It's an insidious form of online grooming. Perverts messaging women with seemingly innocuous questions, often from accounts that look like they belong to children or young teens. They try to get pictures, video or even try to meet the people they are targetting. Basically if you are female and online, and someone asks a question about part of your body or starts asking for pics, assume it's a perv because it probably is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:27 AM
26

Amazing how a foot fetish is always brought up as an example of a "harmless" fetish, yet here we are unable even to sell second hand shoes without getting pestered by fetishists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:22 AM
11

Absolutely. "Consent" is something the fetishisers want to enjoy manufacturing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:19 AM
8

Wish we had this when I was a teenager. Bullshit teen magazines like "Mizz" or "Sugar" wouldn't have stood a chance. They've got their work cut out, but they're ready for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:18 AM
9

Chlorine for the gene pool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:10 AM
12

This is soooo common! The men are so blind and brainwashed that when a woman comes along who appears to be head over heels for him and is apparently enthusiastic about the same sick things as he is, he doesn't think "hang on a minute here, this might be too good to be true". He dives in dick first, only to resurface missing whatever assets the woman wanted from him. Then they complain about "gold digging whores".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:09 AM
49

Fuck using that word at all to describe normal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:48 AM
31

Plot twist! They're all lines from rapists, some of whom write for "lads mags"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:32 AM
28

Is he really going to go on instagram and post all the ways he's mistreating or is going to mistreat his new girl? No. Everything's carefully curated and looks like it's going brilliantly... just like it will have been when he was with you. You've seen what lurks beneath the mask, and so will the poor soul he's presently love bombing. He hasn't changed. Block and ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:12 AM
20

I'm kinda in two minds about this tradition. On the one hand, it can be a nice way to welcome you into their family, on the other, it can be an excuse to be cheap. I think if he's thinking about doing this he should ask first, and spend what he's saved on something else to celebrate the engagement. It's not just the thought that counts, it's the investment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:00 AM
48

That's the energy! They prioritise what they care about. When they show you it's not you, you walk. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:52 AM
23

That's how emotional abusers work. Everything revolves around preventing a blow up and/or soothing his fee fees. I think the best way to start forgiving yourself is realising what kind of filth you were dealing with and cutting it out your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:40 AM
23

No. His eyes are still firmly sealed. He's merely using the experience he's gained with you and his other ex to better fool the next while he love bombs her. He'll be back to his abusive ways in next to no time. You made the best decision you could have made. Also meeting the family means absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:38 AM
44

The ones you find in the work place can be the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:11 PM
179

If they're amused by hurting people then they're automatically LV. Cut them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:51 PM
205

No surprises here. France is still in the dark ages in regards treatment of the mentally disabled, and there's a reason French feminists have to be so vocal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:13 PM
13

Run away from someone who you know is into BDSM or whatever sounds degrading. Even if they say they don't need it or want to do it with you. This is a blatant lie. They'll find a way to work it in. If they get off on female pain there is something wrong with them and they belong on the discard heap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:54 AM
10

Abusing people is shameful. If you want to abuse people you should be ashamed, whether it's a "kink" or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:49 AM
10

I personally never found the 'roided up beefers attractive. I like men with lean, natural muscle, who work out to stay fit, but who spend the rest of the time learning, exploring, doing things which are productive. Same. They're destroying their health for a short term gain. Steroid abuse is a big problem in my country even though the drugs are illegal off prescription. It's sad, especially when the users are young. The promise of big gains for less work draws LVM to them like moths to a flame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:24 AM
15

Ever notice how the ones fixated on "advancing the aryan race" tend to look like they have the genetic fitness of a one legged mule?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:19 AM
20

The wee tuft on top? Makes him look like a turnip. In the Scots language he'd be referred to as "neep heidit", which means both "he has a head like a turnip" and "he's stupid".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:15 AM
6

*Jurassic park theme tune*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:10 AM
12

So, he's in his 50s and his elderly mum wants him to move out. Wants kids "some day" but has fuck all to offer except racism, entitlement and mouldy old sperm. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:06 AM
14

He wants to be chased so bad! Fucking hell, he's not even got the income yet and he's out there loudly worrying about the hordes of "gold diggers" who will surely be after him and his comfortable middle class income! That's assuming he can actually manage his money, he could be earning 6 figures and still be getting himself into debt, especially if he's trying to pretend he's rich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:03 AM
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If it was written by a man it's probably shite. He either won't realise or will refuse to recognise that if the woman in the relationship is reading books to try to decode her man's behaviour, he's likely either an abuser or psychologically incapable of having a grown up relationship. Therapy, self help books etc just become part of his toolbox of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:58 AM
9

Thanks for the blog link, that's a great article. Lots of good articles about other manipulation tactics too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:49 AM
162

They can step up or fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:46 AM
6

Volunteering once a month at a soup kitchen, say, and taking the low-status position of dish pig never occurs to these dudes as a way to experience and explore power relations. Wonder why noooot... 🧐🤔 So, so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:30 AM
20

That's not "submissive", that's a healthy relationship with someone who respects you! Someone who respects you and loves you will want you as an equal partner, not a door mat. The whole "dominant" vs "submissive" thing belongs in the same bin as calling normal sex "vanilla". Adopting the language of BDSM means to some extent adopting its mindset. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:29 AM
61

Fossil jizz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:37 AM
31

Of course! Why, all his hard work is paying off, he deserves an upgrade! And if (when) the startup fails, well, he's got his emotional tampon and possible scapegoat all lined up ready for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:41 PM
7

Always. Without fail. Whether you're talking about social tropes or accusations within relationships, they'll be doing whatever we're accused of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:52 PM
12

Oh yes! And the louder the LVM cry, the larger our ranks grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:42 PM
129

Society is built on the backs of brainwashed women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:40 PM
55

Streisand effect FTW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:33 PM
2

The one from 2009 that has its entire methodology and all its data hidden behind a paywall?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:15 PM
28

You are not too angry. These guidelines for healthy communication only apply when both parties are acting in good faith and actually want to solve the problem. HVM want their partners to feel loved, not angry. If there's a problem they'll want to talk about it respectfully and fix it. If talking to him is like walking through an anger minefield, or the conversation always somehow ends up with you consoling him, he's not HV. He's NV and needs to be out your life like yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:08 PM
12

Mine too, I'm an apprentice! Woohoo! Thanks Mods!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:48 PM
3

Same. If he's taken, no thanks. It's highly unattractive. Those that will cheat with you will cheat on you and all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:48 PM
33

Indeed. If it matters to him, he'll spend money on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:25 PM
33

Classical scrote behaviour. Sorry you and your mum and your sibling had to live through that shite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:26 PM
10

Never underestimate the amount of money someone with their head up their arse will spaff up the wall making shitty "investments" or partaking in other forms of gambling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:24 PM
24

Or boxes on a checklist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:39 PM
136

What the pickme fuck did I just read? An engagement ring literally the human equivalent of a nuptial gift, or at least their particular cultures' take on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:32 PM
35

I never figured out what he spent all his money on while living at home until age 25 and working full time since he was 18, and didn’t go to college Going out on a limb here and guessing he prioritised games, toys, porn, gambling/"investing", boys nights out and looking like a fuckboy over building security for himself. Why bother delaying his gratification when there are women to sponge off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:27 PM
405

This forever. You can literally sacrifice everything for one, spend every one of your waking hours servicing its needs, and still end up rearing your kids and facing sickness and death alone. Relationships with men tend to be shitty investments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:21 PM
8

I know, it's shite. In my experience, getting the hang of the "ignore" bit made the blocking bit much less energetically demanding! There is nothing of any interest or substance in anything these creatures have to type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:02 PM
16

Well the coin could be solid gold, "coke bottle" could be a euphemism for the uncut form of some kind of precious gemstone and he could be a master lapidary and goldsmith... But most likely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:58 PM
30

Don't let them censor you, your post was great. Block and ignore these oxygen thieves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:54 PM
107

You can bet he's got all the latest kit for his own interests and comforts. No expenses spared there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:45 PM
27

"Maslows hierarchy" can die in a ditch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:59 AM
60

So. Much. Fucking. Projection. Literally all the behaviours we're accused of, from social tropes to what we're accused of in our actual relationships, are more often performed by men. Gossiping? Gold digging? Baby trapping? "Monkey branching", you name it. They're the ones that are most likely to be doing these things. He knows what he's doing. There's no such thing as a bumbling male. Same goes for neurotypical men whose executive function in the home crumbles to fuck all as soon as a woman's i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:55 AM
23

That's probably the best he's looked all month. He's put on a suit and everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:43 AM
21

Yep, it's like Mr Potato head: Wanker edition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:42 AM
18

Tell them fuck all. They're not worth your time or effort, just block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:41 AM
12

OK, either: This is fake. Please oh please be fake. Surely to fuck she'd smell this coming!. But she's in her early 20s so her judgement might not be 100% and there's every possibility he's started doing this since they tied the knot. He is a genuine knuckle-dragging cretin. Maybe his care giver(s) had serious mental illnesses or neurodevelopmental challenges and he grew up in a shit stained cave somewhere. In which case how in the name of fuck did he manage to find a woman willing to marry him?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:15 AM
26

Good on both of them! Something similar happened in my community a few years ago that still has my friends and I laughing. Older LVM decides the local women have been ruined by feminism, goes to score a perfect submissive bride in the far east. Brings home a young woman, and on top of having her play mommy bangmaid, he sends her to work in a local factory. Where she starts making friends. When Christmas rolls around, he gifts her a cheap watch which she excitedly takes in to work to show her fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:57 AM
2

Thanks, glad I could help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:33 PM
4

I hate this shit so fucking much. I have issues with executive function which mean that without medication I literally can't see the filth, and pulling myself away from something that interests me is really, really hard. But guess what? I live in a clean home and am trying my hardest to function as a human being. Even if it's harder for me personally, I wouldn't expect another human being to run after my arse, nor would I want them to. He is a neurotypical man. He can see the dirt. He knows what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:32 PM
6

Here comes the municipal STD Machine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:07 PM
2

Clueless pinko here. I can't really see how feeling bad for someone is the same as defending them. You made it abundantly clear he's in the wrong. Someone being so LV they'd actually be willing to reinforce racist tropes to try to get laid is pretty fucking sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:05 PM
9

HELLO, YES THIS IS COCK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:52 PM
8

Also the rise of deep fake porn makes denying it's you easier and easier. As far as anyone knows you had an abusive ex or a stalker with a photoshop fixation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:49 PM
6

Or hung around for the lifestyle while doing the bare minimum to pass his exams. Then he wonders why career and social opportunities don't just fall in his lap when the party ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:39 PM
8

How they treat you > anything they tell you. The only "games" I think we should be playing are strategies like the dumb fox credo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:04 PM
5

If you're going to play games, at least be a pro!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:59 PM
3

Not quite true, they're got a thing for projection too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:57 PM
5

My first thought too. He needs her to be committed. He wants the full girlfriend/wife experience, or at least sex on tap for a while, and/or gets off on the thought of discarding her. God forbid two adults just have fun for a bit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:56 PM
2

Thanks, he's out my life now and it's much better for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:08 AM
3

No bloody way. He wants you to put your life on hold for 6 years? Would he do the same for you? I don't think so. His "worries" about not meeting your standards are very telling. He has no intention of meeting anyones standards but his own. It won't get better with time. If this is how he's treating you before you're even married, what do you think he'd be like if you were actually dependent on him? Would he have the kindness generosity of spirit to look after you? I doubt it. How do you think h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:10 PM
24

I've come to realize it's not always quite the cases and there are men who become vegan because they male a logical connection between consumption and animal exploitation, yet they still hold many misogynistic idea. You bet. The one I was with could get upset and work himself into a rage at the drop of a hat when it came to animal abuse or meat. Shopping with him was embarrassing since he'd be loudly commenting on the contents of the shelves and what people were buying. Of course if the animal i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:35 AM
86

Ditto if he says "maybe we should break up". The answer is always yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:28 AM
47

You can't. You need to focus on building a secure, fulfilling life for yourself. Pursue your interests and hobbies, date (and vet hard) along the way. It's all any of us can do, anywhere at any age. HVM are rare, and you can't tell whether a man is HV just by looking at him or being friends with him for a while. Read the handbook- vetting never really stops. 6-12 months into a relationship you should have some idea, but some men manage to hide their true natures for years. They wait until they t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:13 AM
86

More like they got hooked on what you were giving them. He's not treating the new woman the right way, he's using his experience with you to orchestrate a campaign of love-bombing to re-establish his supply. Once that's done and he thinks the new appliance is installed, he'll be back to his old habits in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:00 AM
12

Monkeys with small testicles scream the loudest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:52 AM
2

That's a shame, those people sound really ignorant. You can so pet and play with fish! Some species are surprisingly interactive. Even goldfish, if they're kept at the right temperature and you make the effort to enrich their environment and interact with them. Google "goldfish soccer" or check out the "pet the damn fish" subreddit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:09 AM
3

Absolutely. Just because they're not like us. They have the capacity to experience pain and happiness, it's not hard to understand!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:19 AM
149

Many if not most of the posters and readers of this sub are only here because they saw the sub being fussed over on another sub and they wanted to see what the fuss was about for themselves. After all, everyone loves a good gawp. It's beautiful. The scrotes have so much hatred for FDS they can't help but talk about it all over reddit, and in doing so provide it with a fortune in free advertising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:47 PM
5

He sounds like a great kid, I'm glad he's got a diagnosis. Early intervention and support at school is absolutely key, and it must be a huge relief to finally know what's going on. Good luck to both of you, I hope the scrote rots in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:28 PM
6

We’re kind, empathetic, and often willing to accept shitty behavior because we understand what it’s like to struggle for acceptance of who you are, or because in the moment we can’t recognize that the behavior is objectively wrong and not linked to something we did. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:26 PM
18

Ooooh yes. Queen bee managed to get a clutch of loonies around her, they all moved into a flat so scabby you'd have thought it was a squat, got themselves into a shitload of debt and dropped out. She and the BF were friendly towards me until I refused to even consider living with them. Despite having (then undiagnosed) autism, I could see the pair of them were selfish drama addicts. Looking back, the other two people living there probably had undiagnosed psychiatric and/or neurodevelopmental iss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:59 PM
7

MIL didn't see fit to mention that shit until I was already struggling with my insane little man bouncing off the walls and needing my undivided attention every minute of every day in a much more intense way that most toddlers. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your son. This is why, in the unlikely event I find a life partner while I'm still of childbearing age, I'll be insisting on thorough and comprehensive genetic counselling. It's far from fool proof but it does mean that if something l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:37 PM
5

I'm rather alone than with someone who treats me like a novelty. Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:20 PM
37

Fish and reptiles are also excellent empathy tests. Their abuse is still borderline socially acceptable since so many people see them as "lower" animals. Any keeper worth a damn will make the effort to find out what their actual needs are and will meet them. LV individuals often find their abuse funny and/or will neg or ridicule you for your concern for their needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:56 PM
24

I think the more likely scenario is people who look down on other people’s choices in companion animals are LV, and abuse or neglect is straight up NV. Also if the way they describe the animal or their relationship with the animal is totally focused on what they want from the animal, red flag. Like if the animal(s) are well enough kept but he's only focused on how well they're going to do on the show circuit, or what he'll be able to do breeding them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:44 PM
4

Thank you. I wasn't aware that linking to other subs in was in itself seen as brigading. I'll avoid posting links in future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:10 AM
12

Mine waited two whole years as a "friend" until I was completely isolated going through a really traumatic and difficult time both with my family and trying to get/keep work. This was partly down to untreated ADHD. I desperately needed an assessment, medication and psychological help, but that doesn't exist where I live if you have autism and no money. So of course he stepped in... because he was so concerned and wanted to "support" me... and badger me into bed with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:08 AM
5

Even the scientist whose 1970s book on wolf ecology popularised the whole "alpha male" thing has rejected the idea as bollocks. And it was an idea first used to describe dominant female chickens. There's no thing as an "alpha" male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:58 AM
8

Same. If sexuality was a choice, I think I'd be lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:51 AM
10

Soo... they've no good at socially interacting with other men and will happily take it out on women who they perceive as "disrespecting" them by not being door mats or "trespassing" in spaces or intellectual areas they think should belong to them or them and other men only. Yeah, I've worked in STEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:49 AM
25

wE'Re aT A LevEL aBOvE aLphA...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:44 AM
3

Sounds like my mum. My family ran a small building company that sometimes bought properties to renovate them. She was great at freshening places up, often on tight budgets. You want viewers to "mentally move in" and she was good at facilitating that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:20 AM
6

It's the scrote version of joining an MLM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:05 AM
13

"But only I know where it's buried and I'll never forget" *dies of plague six months later because he refused to believe the "anti-rat paranoia"*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:03 AM
7

Any failure on your part will be evidence of your incompetence. Failure on his part will be down to bad luck or the fault of someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:00 AM
6

"success has many fathers, but failure is a bastard Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:59 AM
3

Speculation is a great way to lose money, the stock market is essentially a casino.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:57 AM
3

In some cases possibly, I think most are just broke as fuck men fantasising about making it and becoming more broke in the process. They don't know shit but they don't know (or won't acknowledge) that they don't know shit. They'd happily drag us down with them then blame us for their failure as well as our own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:54 AM
5

i'M a BiTcoIN EntREprEneUR...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:49 AM
108

STD machine with an impregnation fetish seeks naive idiot. Saw this for real once when I was an undergrad. Didn't work out too well for him. He found a queen bee type, a "lapsed" Catholic girl with a taste for drama and fucking in public. The inevitable happened and they both immediately dropped out. The self-described "shaman" had to marry her, convert to Catholicism, and move to another country to live with her massive trad Catholic clan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:23 AM
14

Simple. You are expected to take on responsibility for all the mental load related to life support (basic household management/adulting) in the relationship, and you are expected to take responsibility for your appearance and behaviour and his. Of course you don't have any power of enforcement, you can only ask him to do chores or do them yourself, and if you ask him to do them and hE doEsENT WanT TO well, you're a nagging bitch. Same if you remind him of behavioural expectations. Be a good litt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:11 AM
12

Not just bar work. I've never had a bar job but I did a few service type jobs when I was younger (cashier, tourist info, clearing tables etc). This was a problem at every single one of them. You could have a queue going out the door, and some old scrote would still be trying to give you a portion of his life story. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:56 AM
5

Any excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:15 PM
204

It wouldn't surprise me if most of us are here because we saw some post slating the place and wanted to see the shit show ourselves. This sub could spend a fortune in online advertising and not get a fraction of the traffic these losers direct its way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:13 PM
19

Never go to his place or have him back at yours alone. Even if you're just "friends".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:43 AM
40

Make it six! Three to six months isn't a long time to vet someone you could be with for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:40 AM
56

Community minded people with strong support networks and useful skills would be the ones with the best survival chances. Also, having a fuck off fund, as advocated by FDS, can save you from more than an abusive relationship. Read the accounts of ordinary people who survived things like the Balkans war in the 90s. See how people actually survived.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:58 AM
3

It's probably insecurity. A shop vac is a "manly" vacuum cleaner so of course it's going to be far superior to a puny household vacuum cleaner! Never mind they weigh a ton, are loud as fuck and HEPA filters are quite expensive and need to be replaced periodically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:37 AM
12

Yep, he gets to pursue his dreams and goals with a servant/fuck toy in tow. And once he's "made it"? Well, he thinks he deserves an upgrade!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:50 AM
24

Actions are the only "love language" that matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:42 AM
25

Unfortunately yes. There are plenty guys going about in their 30s or 40s "not sure what they want", "thinking about maybe getting married/having kids some time". Uh, Kevin, nobody is impressed with your "dad bod", you're not even a dad. Your sperm expired when you were 35. Fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:39 AM
973

"let's not put a label on things"- Tough, they're already labelled. As over. "we're just talking,"- Not any more we're not. "Lets see where things go"- They're not going at all. "I don't know what I want"- Well away and figure it out then. "Can't we just go with the flow?"- Have fun circling the drain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:11 PM
9

Do they fuck up like that at work? No. They'd be fired. If they feel entitled to do this at home they need to face the same consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:57 AM
38

Influencer = unpaid freelance advertising agent. Aka sad pricks who think turning themselves into human billboards for billionaires will bring them money or social standing when the opposite is the case. They might get a few trinkets but payday aint coming. Any guy dumb enough to fall for that shit is too LV for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:12 AM
11

Prostitution? Sexual exploitation? Call it what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:45 AM
7

Fuck, POS? this man is a monster. Early diagnosis and intervention can be the difference between an independent life for his son and life in an institution, or life as a forever alone incel and life as a functional member of society if his son is "high functioning". But no, everything has to focus on him, his feelings how this makes him look. Any adverse clinical outcome for his son is 100% his fault. Also if his son is high functioning then he's prime incel material. I did my PhD in a very STEM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:59 AM
5

You are not responsible for the maintenance of another adults mental health. That's their shit to deal with. The only male you can "change" is a baby with a shitty nappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:08 AM
5

And god forbid she talk to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:06 AM
6

It's "I need a girlfreind" when really, it should be "I need a therapist" or "I need to get my shit in order". No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:04 AM
23

The "forever girl" was probably quite relieved he married someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:54 AM
20

^^This a hundred thousand a million times over. This is why "girls mature faster" is a social trope. We have too, especially now the grooming and exploitation of girls and women is encouraged if not outright enabled by multiple online platforms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:52 AM
8

*They're* still holding a candle for "what you both (they) had" so YOU MUST BE TOO! His penis says so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:31 AM
9

So much projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:28 AM
9

If he was over 35 when his kid was conceived then there's a good chance his sperm carried whatever defect was responsible for the kid's difficulties. I wonder if the doctor had the "advanced paternal age" chat with him? Of course he'll be taking it out on the wife and any other woman within earshot. One of the great truths I've learned here is that most men are constantly projecting their own insecurities on everyone and anything around them, especially women. I can't treat the offensive things …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:07 AM
8

Every branch of STEM is jam packed full of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:51 AM
26

Most men are full of shit. If you were short they'd be desperate for tall women, if you're thin they want women who are thicc, if you're fat then they lust after skinny women et cetera ad infinitum. They want you to show them that you can make up for your "terrible shortcomings" by doing whatever they want. The correct course of action is to give zero fucks and look for better men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:53 PM
3

More like the one to keep your self esteem in the toilet so you won't think you can do better. They don't want to go up against a vetting strategy because they know it tanks their chances of getting picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:44 PM
12

Noncommittal men usually don’t jump straight from randy bachelor life into a marriage. They usually discover that they want to settle down when a woman they don’t love gives them that taste of the good life. This. And don't think for a second that the woman they settle for is the "one they truly want". She's the best he was able to make settle for him with his display of good behaviour. Once he's got the wife benefits back and thinks he's secure, he'll be back to his old ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 12:21 PM
7

+1 for the expedition of sex robot R+D. Bleach for the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:47 AM
7

Because telling people not to visit a place has ever made them not want to visit a place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:40 AM
3

The dog is a better person than the owner. No surprises there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:28 AM
2

Couldn't agree more. It's too easy to curate someone's impressions of you via text. This time is better spent preparing for the world post pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:24 AM
2

Run for the fucking hills. Trauma is something an HVM might reveal when you're a year or more in to a relationship that's becoming committed, along with how he overcame the trauma. Revealing it during the get to know you phase is the mark of a manipulator. He's going to make it your job to soothe him and tiptoe round his problems. He'll use your sympathy to get his own way and make sure that whenever you bring something up that's bothering you the conversation can always be turned back to him, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:34 PM
62

Pornsickness, entitlement and tantruming oh my... Time to do the dumb fuck chuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:44 PM
8

Porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:40 PM
97

Choose your own scroteventure? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:21 PM
13

The desperation of scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:25 PM
98

Champagne tastes, lemonade pockets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:15 PM
208

"How long do I have to court this bitch before I can start to sponge off her"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:33 PM
116

What next? Bestest girlfriends pick the scabs off their boyfriend's std sores?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:30 PM
25

Don't forget the affairs. There will be a string of them, you can guarantee it. You think he's going to wait years and years to have something he wants to fuck? Even if he's butt ugly and poor as shit, he'll be on the prowl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:03 PM
75

That's assuming he'd stick around that long. She's only 4 years away from 30 and he's already reminiscing about fucking a 23 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:19 PM
14

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:10 PM
69

Exactly. Ask them what power they expect the women doing it to get. The power to be trafficked? The power to be humiliated and excluded from respectable work? The power to be beaten or murdered? Nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:53 PM
134

A pedophile who'll use her as a placeholder/starter wife until he finds a better option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:49 PM
2

^^This. The evidence stacking up suggests that personality disorders are heritable about a third of the time. Also donors will lie about things like autism and other heritable problems in their families. Another issue is that some countries still let men over 30 donate. For example my country donors can't be paid, and their children have the right to find out who they are. There has been such a shortage of young men willing to donate that the health service will let guys as old as 41 donate! A m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:57 AM
38

Seriously. If he has any interests in "kink", ditch him. He'll try to work it in to your sex life one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:06 AM
19

Never. They're STD machines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:03 AM
22

This is the only thing we needed to know. You're a placeholder, always have been. Get rid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:00 AM
34

I had one 20 years older than me lurk in my friend group for nearly two years waiting for an opportunity to badger his way into my bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:14 PM
6

Because it is an act of pure projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:23 PM
5

It's projection. They tell on themselves so badly. Each and every one of that subs most active users will have a folder of cp for the purposes of spamming sites and subs they want taken down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:12 PM
6

I had a teacher whose siamese would come running through the house meowing her head off and run up his body for a hug every time he came home. Fantastic cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:52 PM
3

Wow, two of the most gorgeous breeds combined. He's lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:56 AM
41

If the date feels like a job interview, run don't walk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:53 AM
40

The kids would be better off without him as a role model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:36 AM
11

Gross 30-year-old predators. I don't think I've ever seen someone who was put together and mentally well go out with a 30+ year old in their early 20s. Every social group I've been in that has included young women has had one or two of these arseholes hanging around it, and it's not the socially successful mentally well women they're after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:08 PM
34

As far as I'm concerned BDSM stands for Bye Don't See Me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:27 PM
63

Fuck everything about this. He crossed the boundary between "fun loving young traveller" and "filthy old sex tourist" at least five years ago. Who wants to bet he looks like shit and is socially awkward as all hell too (hence the friend described as "very outgoing")? What was he doing for the first 32.5 years of his life? My guess is either wanking under a rock or buying into the lie that he could sell his youth and then just sail into the ownership of a wife appliance a decade or two younger th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:25 PM
12

^^This is exactly it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:04 PM
68

I haven't had this from my family but have experienced this from elsewhere. Men especially see single women as commodities they can give to their friends or people they are trying to build relationships with. A former colleague found out I'm autistic and tried to get me to approach the son of one of his business contacts. I asked him what the guy was like and his literal words were "he's never had a date in his life" despite being in his 20s or 30s at least. My response to him was a filthy look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:08 PM
7

^^This. If you can't do it yourself get someone with decent e-security related skills to give your machine a really good look over. Also if you write your passwords down anywhere make sure they are in a safe place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:45 PM
51

It's telling how he makes the pandemic about him- "it's like when I was punished as a kid". Uh, not to those of us who aren't raging narcissists! The rest of us have been trying to collectively fight a deadly disease! And then we're into a bit of virtue signalling and... couch shot. Block 'n' delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:34 PM
41

Sending nudes is never OK. They can and *will* be used against you. Men trade them and upload them to pornsubs/sites all the time. They'll even pretend to be you while doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:28 PM
75

"Sometime"? nah, settle it now. Block + delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:09 PM
1

Good for your church getting rid of the paedo! I don't have experience of a lot of different Christian churches, the one I attended that had the perv problem was pretty mainstream. The other was quite niche but very small. There weren't many men there, and he only one that stood out as LV was the priest. He was a lazy, greedy, joyless arse. In Pagan circles, the bigger groups run by our country's Pagan Federation were good at excluding the worst of the predators- for instance there was a grubby …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:54 AM
4

A lifetimes pain for what? So he can bore all and sundry forevermore whinging about how he, the great up-and-coming hockey star, had his glowing career forever cut short... Oh the tragedy! Idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:04 AM
24

Spiritual groups attract LVM and NVM like shit attracts flies. I was a once quite a spiritual person and spent time interested in both Paganism and Christianity. Both groups attracted LVM who thought they could use their take on the ideologies to control partners. Both attracted leeches looking for kind women to take advantage of. The only differences were that the men in the Pagan groups were more open about pressuring for sex, and the Christian men, who were a lot older, were more into trying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:16 PM
148

Or who think they are going to be sports, rap or rock stars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:57 PM
16

Mother in law from hell. SHE has had to eat shit all her days so you're going to too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:37 PM
7

Lovely wee dazzler!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:45 AM
4

Happy New Year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:43 AM
23

To HR get thee! This is unprofessional as all fuck. Peanut brain needs to learn there are consequences for this shit. You're right, he is *way* too old for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:15 PM
12

Happy New Year! Thanks to you queens I'm happily scrote free, long may that continue. Here's to 2021. Whatever it may bring, keep on trucking and keep those standards high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:10 PM
10

Or rather when they can't beat them down. In my experience most of them don't give two shits what your standards actually are. You're supposed to be bowled over by the fact they find you attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:07 PM
19

More like 2. And one's his mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:22 PM
72

They say when the wind blows right you can still hear her pleading him to forgive her for making him treat her bad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:19 PM
19

^^^This. Don't engage with men like this, period. Block and delete. Are they in a relationship? Screenshot and send the conversation to their spouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:14 PM
19

Thing is, if he's functional enough to live by himself, he's smart enough to learn. Like most autistic women have to just to survive. Or at least learn the basics of showing someone he gives a shit. It doesn't matter if his actions are malicious or intentional, its the outcomes that count. If your wellbeing was it was a priority for him he'd have done it. He didn't because he doesn't give a fuck. He deserves to die alone. Birds with broken wings need their necks wrung.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:30 PM
38

In my experience (as an autistic woman) there's usually a big difference between autistic men and women. Most of the men you'll find were diagnosed as kids, have had some kind of help and have support if they need it. Many have been coddled to hell and back. The women, if they receive a diagnosis at all, get nothing. The support services are always focused on the men and their needs and wants. The people running these services would never admit the fact, but autistic women are basically excluded…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:25 PM
17

Indeed. A man pressing you for information about your past traumas only wants to know if they can leverage it against you or add it to their wank bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:55 PM
3

She needs to see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:54 PM
35

^^^ This. The fact my dad didn't have to go "down the pit" was a source of pride for my paternal grandparents. I could write paragraphs about the horrors of the industry's history in my country, and there are plenty of places where the same things happen today. Don't get me started about gemstone mining. In terms of raw risk vs reward it's still a better option than prostitution. Being a miner has always been a legal socially respectable job. The miners were able to unionise and improve their co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:10 PM
1

Mine went no contact in March when I wouldn't break quarantine to sit in his home listening to whatever emotionally draining tirade he'd be spouting that day. We actually split up in 2018, but stayed friends. The friendship mostly consisted of me listening to him rant, providing him with endless free therapy and occasionally helping him with anything requiring a vehicle. I couldn't talk to him about most of the stuff I'm interested in because it involves science, and he's never come across a con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:46 PM
28

His "love language" is not giving a fuck. Also who wants to bet that *he* fancied the Sonos Move?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:51 PM
48

I'd be surprised if doxing these girls wasn't one of their "fans" most treasured sexual obsessions. Too many of them get off on humiliating women for this not to be a huge thing for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:46 PM
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More likely he just wanted a woman to abuse so he could wank about it. Any young woman would have done. They don't see us as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:34 PM
19

If he wants to "go with the flow" he can go down the drain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:51 PM
9

^^^This. Don't even engage with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:49 PM
9

Hopefully she found somebody more worthwhile while he was "finding himself". Also I believe "search for himself in the mountains" can mean "prostitute odyssey in a poor country that has mountains or is at least vaguely hilly" in some dialects of scrotanese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:47 PM
4

I've also encountered the related nuisance: the friend who knows you are single and wants to introduce you to their male friend/family member who "doesn't know what he wants". Thanks to FDS I was able to shut that shit down before they tried to make the actual introduction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:43 PM
4

TBH even hedge porn was horrifying even although you didn't tend to find "hardcore" stuff showing actual sex acts. It was mostly just topless shots, nudes or lingerie. Even womens underwear catalogues counted. The women either looked like barbie dolls or were hideously dressed and posed in poorly reproduced polaroids. The odd time you saw a man it was some disgusting middle aged guy. If asexuality had been a thing back then that's probably how I'd have identified well into my late teens/early 20…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:35 PM
4

It's common as fuck. They are too selfish to face a life that's not all about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:09 PM
7

Another 100 says this won't be the last time. In fact it's probably just the first she's found out about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:04 PM
37

Consider the screenshot already sent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:30 PM
14

Or that they could become sick or disabled themselves? Nah. People punch down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:15 PM
9

They're also utterly delusional about what their options actually are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:10 PM
20

I was interested in some pagan stuff as a teen and young adult. Met a fair few nice female pagans. A fair percentage of the men are complete bin fires. Every meet up group, klatch, coven or whatever had groomers and fuck boys hanging around, usually playing "polyamory" or trying to interest us in "sex magic".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:06 PM
10

He's kind, fair minded and trustworthy. Looking for someone who will be a partner to him. Porn addiction. Get that to fuck. If he's not disgusted by an industry that's openly trafficking and abusing women and children then there is something wrong with him. He's monogamous, and isn't waiting to surprise me with a laundry list of "kinks". He's aged 25-35. I might consider someone aged 35-38, but he'll not be older than me. He has an income and a home he keeps clean. Decent self care skills. Capab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:56 PM
8

They don't seem to understand how natural selection works. If women refuse to procreate with incels, genes that predispose people to becoming incels will become rarer in the population. So there will be fewer incels, AND we don't have to put up with abuse from them in the meantime. It's a win-win for humanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:16 PM
61

She'd hate to be an expensive prostitute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:30 PM
7

You know they would. Any excuse. See also "but the age of consent is x in that country". It's not just the baby faces for me. Below 25 they are just too immature and at a totally different point in life. I'd be a friend or cultivate a mutually beneficial work related relationship, but I couldn't imagine fancying them. I think there are some that are mature for their age between 25 and 30, usually due to life experience. I've very little experience on OLD but I'm considering going on it in the Ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:34 PM
6

Your mother sounds like an amazing woman. I'm glad you got away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:25 PM
5

Definitely. We want relationships that are mutually beneficial, LVM and NVM want to make sure you can't leave so they can keep getting benefits off you, sexual, emotional or material. It doesn't matter what age you are, women are pursued relentlessly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:23 PM
9

Studio Ghibli is amazing. Loved Nausicaa: valley of the wind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:26 PM
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They specifically go after the ones with mental health, familial and/or social issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:24 PM
23

Fanfic then. Should really be on r/menwritingwomen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:02 AM
91

Amen. And have you noticed that as you've got older, teenage boys and early 20 something men start to look... childlike? And that this is a turn off? Probably because we're not rotting our brains with paedo porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:50 AM
10

They are. The older guys targeting them look for girls with social difficulties or problems at home who will be vulnerable to this kind of nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:48 AM
12

There are probably a few of them sniffing about on the edge of your social circle, but they'll be careful as to who they target. They'll be looking for ones without self esteem, who are socially awkward, who are isolated from their families somehow. That's the reality. They are predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:46 AM
18

Came here to say this. I'm 38 and wouldn't touch a guy over 35. Had the "older boyfriend experience". Never ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:42 AM
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You haven't heard of them? They go beautifully with Twolips and cuntanthemums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:34 AM
9

Said sweetly with a smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:39 PM
8

If there are students being taught at the medical centre see if you can find a female student who is late in her degree or doing postgrad stuff. She will have no time for partying. Also older students from other countries or far away parts of your country may have significant others back home, so in theory no danger of having to put up with boyfriends. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:34 PM
8

A lot higher. Shit, seeds and feather fluff everywhere. And they can live a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:54 PM
6

I'd put tropical fish a bit further up the fun scale. Also if they take 2/3 the effort of a baby then your setup's shite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:51 PM
5

And if they spend any stretch of time on their own, you bet their health will suffer. There's a reason so many LVM look like a shitshow so young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:48 PM
18

You imposing boundaries on the scrote and his pals by refusing to see them could help her see her lack of them. You don't let men speak to you like that and neither should she.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:14 AM
24

Exactly. The world and its auntie wants you to be miserable so it can sell you shit. It also wants you to be a helpmeet for some pathetic waste of scrotal skin. Because it would be convenient to see the single friend/relative/loser clinging to the edge of their social circle "taken care of". Because they think you "need someone" and any man will do. Because they think it's a shame you're "going to waste". Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:11 AM
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Anyone who would give them an inch sexually isn't someone they'd ever want to fuck. They don't see how they are the problem in this picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:59 AM
22

You managed it though! Well done, I'm really glad you managed. I spent the first 10 years of my life in a household with a similar dynamic. My mum sacrificed her career for her husband, and as soon as they had a bit of success he was off shagging. When she eventually left he ended up bankrupt within 3 years. She'd already moved on and found herself an HVM by then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:57 AM
16

You do get guys like this though. If the world says left he has to say right. I know a few virus deniers like this. Covid's been a reckoner for them. People might put up with somebody spouting flat earth shite, but now we're in a situation where people actually need to understand and do things because lives are on the line, that shits is no longer acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:44 AM
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Great relationship- take on a 25 yo virgin reject, work hard to help him improve, then have him throw it all in your face because he says he's had a few days "mental exhaustion" over the fact you had partners before him. Odds are he'll come crashing down to a cold hard reality when he no longer has the support he's been taking for granted. I hope she cuts him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:37 AM
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3) never off their computers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:55 PM
3

I eat a plant based diet, mainly for health and environmental reasons. This started when I was in a relationship with a vegan man who was the embodiment of number 2. OH THE POOR ANIMALS! He's vocal as fuck about animal rights, and will, for example, have loud (one way) conversations in the supermarket about how disgusting he finds meat. Don't even think about getting him started about animal testing. Won't take drugs developed using animal testing, despises big pharma, vaccines are mind control …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:38 AM
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Good point. Me too. I've had pets all my life, known lots of people with pets, even did voluntary work in a vets practice as a teen. There are tons of animals, even the less cuddly ones, who prefer certain people or people of a certain sex. I've met ball pythons who were daddies girls and guineapigs who always wanted to sit on women. But when an animal is shit scared of a specific sex, it's never women that they're scared of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:07 PM
56

This is brilliant. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:01 PM
86

You thought you were looking for a soulmate. In actual fact you were doing a masters in psychology specialising in narcissistic personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:00 PM
34

Fewer friends, easier to isolate, already conditioned to second guess their social judgement...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:33 PM
12

That. Was. Beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:18 PM
28

"There are women fighting over me" seems to be a pretty common scrote fantasy. Had this once with an ex fwb, back in the days when I thought that sort of shit was "empowering". He went nc when I refused to skip university to lie in bed with him. Whatever. Then some time later I hear back from him and we hang out again with friends. Then nothing. Then I'm getting screaming phonecalls from his girlfriend. Who then ditched him when a mutual friend let her in on his ruse. Play stupid games, win stup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:16 PM
34

Am I the only one who saw "CNC" and whose mind immediately went to "computer numerical controlled"? Like, What? They want to perform sex acts involving an automated router? Literally nothing would surprise me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:52 PM
7

Dumplings for Christmas dinner sounds amazing, your ex sounds like a twat and a total embarrassment. You and your loved ones bent over backwards to accommodate him, yet it was too much to expect him to be a decent guest?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:45 PM
8

Long term, a really restricted diet can lead to serious health implications too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:39 PM
17

Cut him off. He IS cancer. Even if you weren't on the best of terms with each other that's fucking vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:14 PM
2

Oh yes. And wanted to "stay friends" while hinting he still wanted to fuck. Because surely I must have "needs" by now... You know, thanks to all that great sex he'd given me /s. It's been about 9 months since I stopped watching his posts, but yesterday curiosity got the better of me thanks to this conversation... And it's still a river of the same shit. I laughed so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:01 AM
2

Totally. I know so many women in my mums generation who have ended up in relationships with abusers and morons. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:52 AM
27

Well count I knew a girl who knew a girl who knew a girl that did FWB and is now married. To a cheater who's resentful that he couldn't "do better" most likely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:31 AM
2

Thanks. He is fucked, that's a certainty. Turns out a global pandemic's not the best time to come out spouting anti mask and antivax conspiracy theory shite on social media. I don't know if he's still doing it (unfollowed his posts etc during quarantine), or if it was entirely aimed at me. My academic background is in the biosciences, which he hates. Both the bio (the poor animals!) and the sciences. When the pandemic hit I was relaying the best info I could find (WHO mostly) and trying to help …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:37 PM
3

You and me both. I'm never entering another relationship because the guy is keen and I don't think I can do any better. I can do better- by being by myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:10 PM
2

Thanks. They're sneakier than that. They'll work their way into your social circle by way of whatever interests you share, and wait for you to run into difficulty. Then they pounce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:09 PM
1

Wow. He couldn't even bring himself to celebrate your poetry win? WTF? Thanks for sharing your story and for the support. Life isn't easy and I'm glad you've found someone who I hope is really HV. I know what you mean about being single, it really is better to be alone than with someone who drains you. I was friends with my ex until he cut contact with me because I wouldn't break the restrictions at the start of quarantine. He then started spamming his facebook with a load of conspiracy nonsense…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:07 PM
2

Who is sexting with a "young woman" who is clearly a fellow scrote but he's too desperate to care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:54 PM
1

This is literally the only thing that gets better- your ability to smell their shite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:33 PM
49

It doesn't stop in your 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:14 PM
119

Absolutely. And never give them the benefit of the doubt. I ended up in a 2 year situationship with a man 2 decades older than me. He approached me at an event and hung around in my online friend group until I was at a very low point in my life. I didn't even fancy him. I was struggling with the effects of untreated ADHD, an ASD, anxiety and depression and essentially I'd had the door slammed in my face by my local mental health services. Again. Things were bad between me and my parents because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:26 PM
11

Send it! She deserves to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:42 PM
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Female is the biological default for mammals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:56 PM
10

Chumplady looks like a good read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:33 PM
9

That's gorgeous. I'm loving the different tones of gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:29 PM
3

Great idea, well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:48 PM
2

Yep. See also: Fake spiritual, fake intellectual, fake artiste... Every social circle I've ever been in it has had at least one chronic shagger hanging onto its coat tails trying to maintain whatever disguise they hope will score them some low effort sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:47 AM
3

Pakistani humour sounds amazing! I'm wondering whether this is a US thing too. Here in Scotland, having "good patter" is highly valued and we seem to have plenty of funny men and women. Having a bit of humour is an essential social skill, I thought that was the same everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:08 AM
13

Also chickens are birds, birds are technically dinosaurs, so pet dinosaurs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:54 AM
13

^^^THIS. I really don't get why women blame other women for the behaviour of a man. At the end of the day, he's the one who made the CHOICE to do wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 10:27 AM
31

You wouldn't put up with this from a room mate! Holy fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:17 PM
10

Yes! And this a great time of year to drink them. Look for aVanilla Porter, they're fantastic. Once I've got Christmas out the way I'm planning to start doing stouts and porters. Vanilla's high on the list, along with chocolate and coffee!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:14 PM
90

Yep. Seeing LV behaviour left, right and centre really takes the shine off the idea of a partner. I've never been more OK with the idea of being on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:10 PM
12

What the pickme fuck did I Just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:48 PM
10

Tinder etc are essentially there to provide inexpensive escorting services. Or at least that's how most men use them. There might be one or two HVM genuinely looking for relationships on there but most of the men on there are just looking to fuck or get female attention. TBH I'd prefer to put the time into my hobbies and maybe meet someone via them IRL when the pandemic restrictions start to lift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:49 AM
54

As a keen baker and brewster it amuses me no end that they've picked vanilla as their shorthand for "boring". Like, have you actually tried cooking or brewing with it? At all? It's a delicious, complex spice with lots of culinary uses and there's a world of difference between beans from different places. Have you seen how much the stuff costs? I paid £16 for 10 Madagascan beans and considered it a bargain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:44 AM
7

Literally laughed out loud. What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:37 AM
7

Nah. Show me some creativity. Show me that you're interested in me. We've been chatting already, I'm not in the business of providing a free escort service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:36 AM
15

I used to be in the "oh I don't see the problem with going out for a walk or quick drink to see if I want to get to know him" camp. Not now. If I've met someone face to face or online, we'll do enough talking virtually for him to get all the information he needs to plan an date. I have a variety of interests and there are many locations relevant to them within easy reach of my home. All he has to do is pick one that we share, pick a place and an activity we'll both enjoy. It's not exactly a huge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:32 AM
16

Wow, that's so sweet. Nice to know there are a few good ones out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:08 AM
20

Taking the drink at all tells him he can get round your boundaries. You're better cutting him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:29 AM
1

I'm liking the whole "white day" idea where Valentines day gifts are reciprocated. "Steak and BJ day" just screams LV as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:30 PM
6

Not only that, even if you don't care about changing perceptions, if it's something that's likely to cause issues in the relationship, you want the other person to know and know what to expect. But you can't even allude to it when you're looking because men are actively looking for women like you to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:32 PM
8

Good for her, hope this is the start of a bright new chapter for her xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:11 PM
28

Hes a sadistic bastard who chose a traumatised disabled woman and then took her 500 miles from her support network. If she were my friend or neighbour I'd help her hide his body. He's scum, I hope she can get away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:05 PM
54

Quite possibly a large part of why he chose her in the first place. And why they moved 500 miles away. I wonder if the friend of hers who invited them over there was really a friend, and if she was then is she still in the picture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:00 PM
53

Oh ye gods those were awful. I was a painfully socially awkward teenager in the mid-late 90s when those were coming out. The "advice" they gave was ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:56 PM
50

What the actual fuck? You could lick vomit off the pavement to "say you've done it" but why the fuck would you? Either do it or say that you've done it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 01:54 PM
12

If you're cold they're cold. Remember to check your home and dating roster for signs of vermin and LVM trying to find a den for the winter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:57 AM
54

Essentially it's the digital equivalent of the girls pimps use to recruit new girls. It's presented as easy money for young women when it's anything but. As well as the toll of actually performing the sex work, there is the certainty that the digital legacy it's created will haunt her attempts to get on later in life. Then there is the pressure to take step from performing sex work on camera to performing it in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 07:36 PM
370

No. You *ARE* hard to get, and that's a very good thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:11 PM
7

Found you some more: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/g7reaq/husband_destroyed_hermes_bags_to_prove_a_point/ https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hq25b7/my_35m_partner_34m_of_5_years_destroyed_a_half/ https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/j3o542/husband_had_landscapers_cut_down_all_privacy/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:15 AM
15

Looks like mass grooming to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:25 AM
10

Projection as per usual. Men express their emotions just fine when it comes to getting what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:00 AM
3

Nice one lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:10 PM
2

"Bobs nd vagne pls" pseudo-intellectual edition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:25 AM
9

"Age play" or "adult baby" kink reveal incoming...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:19 AM
10

^^^ THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:16 AM
6

Nah, he'll take you for granted until he finds a woman that he actually wants, who can be convinced that he's HV thanks to all your hard work. Then he'll be off to pastures new, at least until she discovers he's not all that she thought he was and that he expects her to pick up where you left off! Also, I'd never go with a guy who was trying to "monkeybranch" from an existing relationship. Staying in an unhappy relationship is LV behaviour. If he's willing to use that woman he'll be willing to u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:07 AM
10

That's a fantastic expression!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:02 AM
3

That was well worth the read, thanks for sharing your experiences. Athletic guys who train for non-aesthetic goals all the way. I don't have much experience with bodybuilders, where I live most of the guys doing steroids are youngsters looking for a shortcut to a perfect body. And some of them start very young. The drugs are illegal to sell but legal to take, and their use seems to be driven by a nasty combination of body dysmorphia, peer pressure and narcissism. It's quite frightening. I have a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:24 AM
3

Tell me about it. Some of them look like they've been skinned. Sorry, I've never fancied dating an anatomical model. Guys who have developed their physique as a byproduct of an active lifestyle or a sport like swimming that uses the whole body, on the other hand, can be very attractive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:56 AM
3

Absolutely! It's not their lack of hair that's holding these guys back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:51 AM
48

Since when was that a standard? Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:57 PM
44

So true! If they're always on the move due to "work" it often means their personality and/or social skills are so poor they can't hold down a job. Same if they can't maintain male friendships, huge red flag. Anyone who is socially able will have a few long term same sex friendships. Even if they only see the people on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:27 AM
5

Quite possibly cut out the picture by the scrote. Isolating their prey from their support network is one of their key strategies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:23 AM
19

38, voluntarily celibate, not looking for anything, don't know if that will change in future. Right now I'm using the pandemic to try to level up and live my best life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:13 AM
66

The thing is, all the difficult ones were just left to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:43 PM
23

They are. There's even someone who says their partner has been in the same situation and managed to force the sale of the house and get 50%. Hopefully the scrote has made a very expensive mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:37 PM
2

I've found they will peck and pick things apart and will destroy anything green they can get at. And yes, the ammonia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:15 PM
6

Also true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:15 PM
52

"My mum/parents would love you"= I'm looking for a replacement for her/them that I can fuck. "You're too good for me" = I'm going to treat you like shit and I know it. "You're so empathic!"= You put up with my shit. "You're so independent"= I want to make you put up with my shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:00 PM
10

The vegan I went out with could work himself up into a frothing tirade about the horrors of factory farming or any other form of animal abuse. Sadly his wish to prevent the suffering of his fellow sentient beings doesn't extend to the ones he wants to fuck. They only exist to serve his penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:55 AM
7

I can almost smell them from here! A parakeet is a messy pet. Shit, seeds and feather fluff everywhere. Hens? Are you serious? You've got the microbiological cornucopia that is chicken shit and feather dust. You've got several curious and highly destructive birds living in close proximity with you and your possessions. Once they're sexually mature you have the possibility of roosters, and the hens will be looking for nice, quiet places to lay their eggs. Human homes are not great places for chic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:41 AM
4

Smart people don't have to tell people they're smart. Laid back people don't typically go on about how laid back they are. Sounds very sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:42 PM
7

That's a lot of words for "I have a tiny penis"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:27 PM
37

Uh, yeah, the implied sexual violence and animal abuse really goes well with the crap dress sense, photography and... whatever the fuck's hanging over the top left hand side. I think it's the hair of a kid that's been cropped out. Deadbeat dad seeks woman to beat in bed. What a catch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:54 PM
10

He's practically telling her that he doesn't see her as worth the effort. It's not going to go "up" from here if he can't even be arsed to find out how she'd like to be proposed to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:49 PM
36

The one made entirely of smashed arseholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:31 PM
8

That sounds more promising. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:11 PM
11

Is the artist able to support himself? If he's unemployed, "between jobs" or working gig economy jobs to support his artistic career, huge red flag. It means that however good his art is, he can't figure out a way to get paid for it and he isn't able, or more likely, willing, to turn his hand to something that would pay. If this is the case and he's dating, then he's either looking for a fellow deadbeat or expects someone to settle for a lesser quality of life so he can pursue his art. Takes a h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:42 PM
5

Yes but you don't have to read them. Personally I just block chats and don't read DMs unless they're following on from a public conversation. Block, delete, ignore is the way to go with the creeps on this site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:41 PM
18

Good friends will warn you about shitebags. A friend to all is probably just an arsehole looking for gossip or targets for their fuckery. I'm always wary of "queen bee" types and their male equivalents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:54 AM
68

Remember ladies, if you're cold they're cold. It's the time of year that small animals, LVM and other vermin try to sneak in to find somewhere to nest for the winter. Be sure to check your home for rodent activity and keep your dating standards high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:43 AM
13

What the pickme fuck did I just read? Its sad there are women out there who think that a man who wants this is worth having. Another reason to vet, vet, vet and keep your eyes peeled for any form of porn sickness. Even if he says he doesn't need to do that shit with you, he'll still be looking for ways to work it in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:44 AM
2

Lol where I live its field mice and wood mice looking for somewhere to hibernate that try to sneak in to your home at this time of year. At least they're cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:02 PM
18

This is so, so true. Thinking back over my 20s, every friendship group I was part of had older men in it or sniffing about the peripheries trying to date the young girls. LV/NV to a man. Highlights included The "mid 20s" professional I went out with for a couple of weeks when I was 17. I put in the quotation marks because he was already aging badly, and when I ran into him about 10 years later, well, either the wall is real and he hit it hard, or he was in his 30s when I knew him. I say went out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:26 AM
108

So true. Something I think I heard in this subreddit that bears repeating: A man who wants you to disclose details of trauma early in the relationship does so because he want to use it Against you Against other women To masturbate Or all of the above. He'll also use you as an unlimited source of free therapy. His trauma and his reactions to it will be used to keep you walking on eggshells and second guessing yourself in your interactions with him. His feelings are your responsibility. Expect him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:46 AM
8

What the actual fuck did I just read? Essentially he wants a housekeeper who will split the bills and fuck him and who'll also be ok with him fucking other people. Talk about a user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:32 AM
2

Totally. The UK has been a great promoter of its own propaganda. This continues today with shows like Downton Abbey. The times they potrayed were rife with abuses, servants were treated as disposable objects, but you'll never see it, or see how endemic it was. There's a good series of documentaries covering the system and mentality behind it produced by a Professor of social history in England covering this and the brainwashing that went along with it in the 18th and 19th centuries. The repercus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:09 PM
3

Looks like something out of r/menwritingwomen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:21 PM
3

He'll use it against you, use it against some other woman, or use it to masturbate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:02 PM
113

Same. Probably an alcoholic too. Someone in that line of work at that age is either managing the bar or propping it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:18 PM
3

This. Even if the police aren't going to do anything, make sure there is an incident number or some kind of log made. Then the pattern to these "minor" incidents becomes evident even to the most casual observer. Most of these pricks are total cowards. A phone call or visit from an authority figure works wonders. Doesn't even have to be the police. The credible threat of a visit from a male relative can do the trick too, for example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:25 AM
25

"Are you looking for a life partner or a servant?" At least they're weeding themselves out on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:37 AM
23

He's not HV. If he was afraid of not being good at it he'd be looking for tutorials or asking for instruction. Your pleasure would be more important than this if he truly valued you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:35 AM
64

"Compromise and go along with this" = Sit at home on his arse while she works and essentially raises 2 kids because she said he could be a stay at home dad but he didn't really want the kid... The kid who faces an increased risk of birth defects, childhood cancers and neurodevelopmental defects, if they make it to term. She should ditch him and look for a younger man. Better sperm quality, more energy, look and smell better too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:23 AM
109

Seriously. If being in his presence leaves you emotionally drained, leave him. Support groups and therapists are a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:30 AM
75

Tale as old as time. Man wants "open" relationship... until his wife gets some.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:54 AM
1

Oh yea gods. So cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:00 PM
5

Environmental Scientist here. Did my postgrad at a university that specialises in STEM. Men vastly outnumbered women, and while the odds might have been good the goods were definitely odd. The running joke was Q. "Where to women at (university name) get men?" A. "Name of other university in the city". So many low quality men. Red flags I've encountered dealing with them Belief in some kind of subject hierarchy. Where I was it was maths > physics > engineering > other sciences and medicine > any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:50 PM
4

Where did I say it was the same? In my experience (as an actual Scot lol) the attitude all comes from the same place of perceived cultural/genetic superiority. It's pathetic whoever it's directed at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:41 AM
15

If they're lucky they'll get to be the starter wife who builds him up while he looks for the woman he really wants. Most of them probably just get used for sex and labour for months or years until the guy finds something he considers better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:47 AM
18

Or walking away because everyone else in the company is apparently a clueless arsehole and the company is doomed to fail without him. Plot twist: the company thrives without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:31 AM
15

My mum's ex to a T. Narcissist, socially clueless with men, yet adept at showing enough apparent vulnerability to attract some pickme or another who thought she saw an opportunity to poach a financially secure mate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:29 AM
3

No, it's a pathetic man thing. Most of us love our parents and dread the day they're no longer with us, but we show that by visiting them, talking to them etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:56 AM
9

Apparently Albania has knocked us off top spot this year, but users consume the most per session compared to other countries. Most of what's consumed is highly cut "council" coke, and its taken to enhance and extend drinking sessions, either at home or in pubs and clubs. We have the highest reported number of drug deaths per capita in Europe. Our drinking culture's fucked. Binge drinkings with the fighting etc that goes along with it has always been a big thing, add cocaine and you've got packs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:52 AM
10

You're giving me flashbacks to my student days. Start chatting to/meet guy who seems nice. Conversation quickly moves to "are you bi?" "no" "shame, my girlfriend and I are looking for a third..." end the convo as he tries to start negotiations regarding my sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:29 AM
2

Good for you, and good for her managing to get out. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:07 PM
14

"Modern"= wife raises the kids and works full time, and the family is still drowning in debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:03 PM
11

^^^This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:32 PM
33

Fantasy and propaganda. That's literally it. Like Scotsmen are all supposed to be fit rugged clean living outdoor types with great work ethics and excellent financial acumen. In reality you'll struggle to find one that's not carrying a beer belly by the time he's 30, the country has the highest per capita cocaine use in the world and most of them are willing to go into debt for the sake of stupid things like new cars and fancy holidays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:24 PM
57

Scot here who has dated in both Scotland and SE England. Fwb is a thing. Very, very much a thing. Younger women are pressured hard to accept these arrangements in some social circles. Guys feigning interest and then pulling back and offering friendship to "see where it goes" is common as fuck. As are pushy older guys wanting to be your "friend" or trying to hijack your hobbies or attempts to find work, network or build a social circle to force you to spend time with them. So many alcoholics. I o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:23 PM
44

It's simple. If they're behaving like this, they don't give a fuck about you. Listening to you is a chore, and the sooner its over the sooner he can get his dick wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:19 PM
23

Sick. She's a child. I know people in the "lifestyle" pretend everything's above board and consensual, but how can it be when we're living in a society where porn takes the place of decent sex education and girls like this think they need to be into this shit to get a boyfriend? When women are so heavily socialised to please men? When many of the men involved get off on the very idea of breaking down a woman's resistance? Just. Fucking. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:17 PM
20

Degrading someone who's in an intimate relationship with you is a shameful act. If it's your kink, then yes, you should be shamed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:10 PM
28

This. Fuck their terminology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:01 PM
3

I don't know about the NHS but I suspect private clinics will have height requirements. After all, they're trying to sell a service to women and most women prefer taller men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:32 PM
126

So I take it he'd be overjoyed if a fat, broke, unambitious and uneducated "kissless virgin" of the opposite sex showed interest in him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:23 PM
99

More studies than you can shake a stick at. Here's a good review from researchers at the University of Sydney, Australia: Association Between Pornography Use and Sexual Risk Behaviors in Adult Consumers: A Systematic Review Another from a state University in Ohio: The relationship of “passionate attachment” for pornography with sexual compulsivity, frequency of use, and craving for pornography Another from a state university in Germany Neuroscience of Internet Pornography Addiction: A Review and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:15 PM
243

Here's a thesis on the subject. "Results indicate higher reports of male pornography use are associated with higher reports of insecure attachment behaviors, relational aggression, and physical aggression." No. Shit. Sherlock. Nothing good comes from porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:16 PM
16

Yep. There's a reason sperm banks have an upper age limit. In my country men up to 45 can donate to our National Health Service provided services, but private clinics often set a limit at 35. And for damn good reasons63018-2/pdf). Evidence based policy isn't exactly a strong point of the UK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:15 AM
4

The thing about cosmetic surgery, which should be imprinted on every single one of us, is that it if you're going for a specific look then it won't last. And most of these procedures hurt like hell. As your body ages proportions change and you need to keep having it redone or whatever it achieved disappears or worse, starts to stand out as unnatural. Think the woman with a dozen facelifts and no expression left on her face, the older woman who looks like she's carrying oranges in her bra etc. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 08:26 AM
5

"He claims I targeted him" Uh, it's obvious who was doing the targeting here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:27 AM
5

Stomach churning. You'll also see the same attitude amongst men of the same ethnicity who consider you their social inferior. One of my friend groups at university had a much older man sniffing about its periphery who was white English, but who exclusively pursued women of other ethnicities and "provincial" (Welsh, Scots, Irish) women. He was planning to further his career in Asia and was looking for a white brood mare to take with him. I'm happy to report he had no luck whatsoever. No idea if h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:25 AM
2

It's not too late for your daughter! I was 10 years old and my brother was 7 when our mum split from her LV husband. She was in a situation very like yours. Things were "fine" (read not really fine, but she grew up in a poor and abusive household and her family wouldn't support her because he wasn't physically violent and made good money) until she got pregnant. Then it was one affair after another. Oh, he just couldn't help it! After all it wasn't *his* fault women found him attractive! They li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:10 AM
8

Purposefully over-reacting to the "mortal enemies" comment would be a red flag for me. Either he's got no social intelligence or he's manipulative as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 11:26 AM
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