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| 114 | Glamour Mag: If He Wanted To, He Would Is "Horrible Advice"If only the lukewarm man would be that direct. Allow me to tell you a story. What usually happens is she says “would you like to maybe go out sometime, like a date?” “I guess so” 1 month later she says, “I really like you, I’d like to be exclusive” (note that he has made no movement in this direction) “Well let’s just see where things go/I guess so if that’s what you want” 3 months later, he’s annoyed when she tries to hug him or hold his hand in public. “I’m just not into PDA” he says. His frie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/22 03:30 AM |
| 46 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.It’s completely ridiculous. There’s a lot of martyr “one-upmanship” going on in mom’s groups and on social media and I’m not here for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 08:54 PM |
| 88 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.100% agree about the children. People, especially other women, will balk at this, but it is so so important to maintain your own separate identity as a mother and carve out time for yourself. I could never understand my fellow moms who’d martyr themselves so much that they claimed they couldn’t even take 10 minutes to shower that day. Or they felt compelled to schedule/manage every second of their kids days or felt guilty if they weren’t engaging with their kids every minute. My own mom used to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:33 PM |
| 30 | How can I know if someone is truly nice to me?I’ve found that the most obsequious, polite and “nice” people are often snakes in disguise. Sometimes they don’t mean to be, but when someone is that averse to conflict and obsessed with being liked by everyone, when the chips are down, they’ll throw you under the bus. Because they don’t stand for anything. They’ll often be flakey too, because they won’t be direct and say “no”, leaving you to guess wtf is going on. I’d much rather be friends with an “unsweetened” person who’s a bit rough around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 02:06 PM |
| 79 | "Why do FDS tell women to cut people off all the time, isn't that too cruel?"Absolutely. And even if a woman is strict with men, she may not be with friends or friend groups. I’ve shared this story before but another friend of mine and her bf at the time ended up getting held at gun point in a home invasion, simply because they were friends of weed dealers who had some kind of beef w the robbers. She and he were casual smokers, middle-class hippy types who never dreamed that the bad elements would target them. She had all her electronics stolen and was left with pretty b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 06:22 PM |
| 201 | "Why do FDS tell women to cut people off all the time, isn't that too cruel?"I’ve always been a very cautious type especially when it comes to crime and abusive people, even as a child. One time a man tried to talk to me in his car when I was a young teen walking home, I was very skittish and immediately distrustful, ducking into a store. If I got weird feelings anytime I’d make a beeline for home. If I believed in past lives, I’d be certain I ran into foul play before with how cautious of strangers I was. But conversely, because I grew up bullied as an “outsider”, in my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:17 PM |
| 289 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.Patrilineal lines never made sense to me, especially in the days before DNA. Theres no debating which babies came out of which mothers. The Jewish faith had the logic to make being Jewish matrilineal but it’s so rare to do that because men have to stake ownership in everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 12:42 PM |
| 47 | HVM prefer monogamous relationshipsTime to share the obligatory and hilarious song Polyamorous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:59 PM |
| 27 | "It's hard to make a woman come"... as ifTrue, I’m old enough to have actually heard men a generation above me argue over the “myth” of the female orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 12:03 AM |
| 363 | "It's hard to make a woman come"... as ifIME when a guy bangs on about how “hard” it is to make a woman come, he’s one of those guys who thinks she should come immediately from his dick, and only his dick. “Foreplay”, if she even gets it, is some half-hearted licks or pokes, or something extremely unsexy he learned from porn (like spitting on her vulva). The worst of these guys will actually get angry or mopey if she redirects him. We can absolutely thank porn for this massive delusion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 12:07 PM |
| 194 | Is there even a bar anymore?It’s exactly like flashers. It’s the thrill of having someone see it, and often the non consent is a big part. Him asking is a smokescreen because guaranteed if she said a flat NO he’d start pestering her to accept. And the fact that he asked puts her on the spot and she’s still thinking about his dick now too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:16 PM |
| 34 | I'm sick of media romanticizing male infidelity, this needs to stop NOWThere’s romanticism from the other end too, where the focus is on a female lead and her “love interest” is not single. She may or may not be single herself but a lot of times she is single. Their relationship is presented as this tragic or supreme destined love affair that they can’t help but resist. It creates pickmes because the trope of the faithful married man who just so happened to meet his real soulmate in the female lead, and the cheating is presented as something out of the ordinary, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 04:02 PM |
| 16 | Beware of the man with a female friend/female friendsYou’re right, when I was growing up if you were a girl into “guy things” you did often have to settle for male groups. We didn’t have internet, and every girl thought they were the only one because it was hard to connect to other girls into the same hobbies. But this day and age it’s just silly, when some young pickme says that I roll my eyes, you could find a women’s group or even a mixed group, not just all dudes. If you don’t find one it’s because you don’t WANT to find it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:57 PM |
| 7 | Recently posted to Will's Official FB. Thoughts on a man who does what he did then apologizes publicy about his actions?Plus they don’t want those Dirty Poors having affordable housing in converted offices! 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:51 AM |
| 13 | Recently posted to Will's Official FB. Thoughts on a man who does what he did then apologizes publicy about his actions?Seriously. 🙄 “While the little people fork over $1800 a month for a 375 square foot studio in a bad neighborhood. No utilities included, no parking. Oh you get a 3% raise maybe. What’s 3% of $15/hour? Anyway, we want to see you at the office now, or we’re gonna have to let you go. WFH is over.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:44 AM |
| 13 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)It definitely sucks, and I only make an effort at work for my own benefit. Otherwise I also rest in my introversion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 05:08 PM |
| 250 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)You expressed it very well and it’s very true. I’m ashamed to admit in my teen/early 20s pickme years I did this. I’d often be the only girl in a group of boys because of my interests/hobbies and I enjoyed the attention. Then inevitably a new girl would join and I’d be jealous and upset because all the guys flocked to her because guys love novelty. I was too shy to be outwardly mean to her but I’m sure my sulky attitude didn’t help. I’d slap my younger self if I could. There was nothing special … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:53 PM |
| 44 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)They could be pickmes who are threatened like others say. The comment about “there can be only one” is so true, especially if the group you’re going into has mostly men and she was the resident One Girl. They don’t want the attention on the “new girl” and men IME tend to fawn over the the novelty of a new woman in the group, triggering jealousy in the pickme. But it could also be that you need to work a bit on your social skills. As someone who was quiet and reserved when I was younger, I mostly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:36 PM |
| 54 | "Men are visual creatures"Don’t forget gray! But not like, a nice heather gray accented with complimentary decor and colors. A sad mid-90s plasticy gray. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:21 AM |
| 37 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.The scatterbrained, socially inappropriate genius is a stock male character for a reason because a female version is not tolerated, as you said, because depth, genius, quirks and weirdness isn’t seen as something women can have as full human beings. Regardless of if you think it’s a good movie, Ghostbusters 2016 had a good female version of this character in the Egon counterpart but we all know the uproar that movie caused. You never see like, a female House or Sherlock. The female Doctor Who go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 132 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.Ah liberal feminism, where declaring something makes it so. “We’ve reclaimed bitch, slut and queer”. Nope. It wasn’t true in the 90s with “bitch” everywhere, it wasn’t true in the 00s with slutwalks. And I’ve seen plenty of gay men my age or older online who still have a big problem with “queer” as it’s a slur they were bullied with, and now flung around by clueless young people who are only “spicy straights” at best. All you’ve got to do is look at the comments from men on libfem spectacles lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 03:20 PM |
| 57 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.She gives me Cher vibes, and Cher didn’t suffer bullshit either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 12:13 PM |
| 96 | S*xual assault, Patriarchal Religion, and the LawGreat post. My immediate family is non religious, but my extended family is catholic. My grandmother tried teaching me about it when I was about 11-12, citing many of the supposedly powerful female role models like Mary and the saints. But all I ever saw was female suffering and death, no power at all, just pure powerLESSNESS. Oh and that Eve was the cause of the fall of mankind so that’s why childbirth hurts so much. Even back then I was like, dafuq? Even back then, before I’d ever read any fem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 52 | Ma'am, you cannot buy a man's love.100%. I’m sure it’s why I was stuck in the pickme mindset so long. I loved him a lot (at least at first) but nothing I did inspired him to love me the same. As I’ve done work on myself and gotten older, I realized that I was repeating childhood scripts from my narc dad who I always had to beg attention and love from. I thought my ex was nothing like my dad because dad would have rages while my ex had no highs or lows whatsoever. But it was the same “prove myself worthy of love” dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 09:43 PM |
| 53 | How do you identify if your girlfriends are toxic/insecure about you?Agree with the others about letting go of toxic friends. Life is too short. However I had a lot of toxic friends as a teen/young person and I’ll share my signs: hangouts are on her terms only. If you want to do something, she’ll either flake, or always want to change the venue, finds something to complain about, or tries to invite someone along she knows you don’t like. Sabotages like that. with above, she’ll cancel plans with you if something or someone cooler is happening or wanting to hang. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 09:37 PM |
| 48 | Tips on how to protect yourself in every day life?It really doesn’t. When I was young I was pretty much a doormat who prides herself on not being “judgmental”, I was open-minded and gave benefit of the doubt. Too concerned about other peoples feelings and their “intentions” and perceptions of me. It’s a miracle I’m unscathed after some of the stuff I’ve seen and heard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 07:13 PM |
| 65 | Tips on how to protect yourself in every day life?Yup, assume all men approaching you apropos of nothing have an agenda. I don’t care what libfems and men on Reddit say. They do, and you lose nothing by saying no and keeping yourself guarded. Whether you’re open to him or not, vetting is still a thing for coworkers and classmates, so any invitation to “study” alone at his house or any secluded area should be rejected (though, I personally don’t advise shitting where you eat here). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 07:08 PM |
| 180 | Tips on how to protect yourself in every day life?A lot of safety is prevention. Not always; some violence is random and women are just in the wrong place at the wrong time, as in a lot of publicized incel murders where he’s just targeting random women. But for the vast majority of cases I’ve seen, you can take steps to minimize your risks in everyday life of running afoul of bad people and predatory men. situational awareness, of course. I think we all know about this. Keep an eye on who’s around you. This is paired with listening to your gut.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 06:26 PM |
| 134 | Ma'am, you cannot buy a man's love.My ex was largely indifferent to me, and yes, it’s a special hell for sure. I was hard in pickme mode in that marriage and I remember actually getting jealous of my friends’ toxic relationships where the man ran fire hot but also picked fights like “shit, at least he FEELS something for you though”. 🤡 I know better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 05:40 PM |
| 29 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatI actually don’t think guns are always the solution for current domestic violence situations because of this reason. When you point a gun at someone, you need to be absolutely sure you want to kill them. There’s no time for hesitation in a self defense scenario. Even trained professionals can experience the hesitation because the utter gravity of facing the reality of taking a life can hit you in the moment. When you’ve got complicated emotions often present in abusive relationships, it can be e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:06 AM |
| 77 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatDon’t even get me started on the libfem “teach men not to rape” bs. First off, it puts the onus on women (feminists), and particularly mothers, to teach their sons not to rape. As if mothers throughout the millennia haven’t tried to raise their sons to be good people and go against the naked entitlement that larger society seems intent on instilling in men. Secondly, men don’t listen to women. So the libfems paragraphing online think pieces about consent and how rape is bad fall on deaf ears. Me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 09:36 PM |
| 111 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatHere’s the thing. If I’m attacked and being raped, I have no earthly clue whether he’s going to murder me afterwards to keep me quiet, or to fulfill some sick fetish. I’d absolutely use lethal force against a rapist. It’s a situation of, I’d rather be tried by 12 than carried by 6. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 08:52 PM |
| 34 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatAlso mostly left, also pro-gun ownership for women especially, which leaves me at odds with a lot of online leftists. Training is very important of course. I knew a woman who got a gun when she had a stalker, but wasn’t very careful about where she kept it loaded and chambered, loose in a giant purse with a bunch of other crap. And I had a coworker who claimed an accidental discharge that went through the wall of his apartment to the neighbors and treated it like a big fucking joke, and I tore h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 08:47 PM |
| 255 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatAbsolutely. It’s just like how it came out that the cop who killed Sarah Everard had a long history of documented inappropriate and criminal behaviors towards women on the job even. They tried to say there was some kind of “oversight” but we know it wasn’t an oversight. It’s that these behaviors aren’t taken seriously and oftentimes are encouraged in the boys club cultures like the police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:24 PM |
| 288 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Ragging on “dependas” supposedly cheating on their deployed spouses annoys me because from what I saw, there are no bigger hoes than deployed male soldiers and, to lesser extent, female soldiers too. And the female soldiers didn’t use prostitutes. Cheating is so rampant on deployment that any soldier complaining about a cheating “dependa” at home is most likely projecting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 661 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯I heard so many of these stories in the military. One guy was talking up his buddy who was hanging out with us in the group, like “Jones here, he’s a great guy but has terrible luck with women, wish he could find a good woman, etc”. Stuff like that. And this buddy was sheepishly agreeing, yeah it’s so hard out there. Woe is Jonesy. So I was curious and talked to him more and it turned out he had a “crazy” (of course 🙄) ex that he was still sleeping with on and off. According to him, she was a st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:22 PM |
| 43 | PSA: Feeling like you have to “do it all” to prove men wrong is *still* internalized misogynyAs a flat chested woman I thought about getting implants in my teens/early 20s. You’re so right that no one talks about plastic surgery’s commitment, pain, complications etc. People I talked to were like, yeah you could do that, as though it’s easy, you just need the one-time money. I didn’t learn until way after I had abandoned the idea that not only is it expensive, but you need revision surgery every 10 years! Or that they sometimes burst, shift around, or cause chronic pain and/or numbness. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:07 PM |
| 13 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.I’m into true crime and by and large, the 70s were a joke as far as law enforcement. Sex crimes, including rape and child molestation, wasn’t taken very seriously. A lot of well known serial killers from those days killed many of their victims after being paroled or serving slap-on-the-wrist jail time for serious priors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:17 PM |
| 22 | He came back.🌭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 03:45 AM |
| 40 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!It’s not even about judgement at this point. There’s no information to make a judgment either positive or negative with a strange man you met on a dating app yesterday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 03:41 AM |
| 333 | This review for an odor removing laundry detergent….what the heck is wrong with your husbands health that led to this review????I can’t. 💀 I have oily hair/skin and combined with some products I use, and even though I never go to bed without showering, I too need to wash my sheets frequently. But STENCH? That’s a whole other level and not something I can relate to at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 06:27 PM |
| 42 | Poor woman terrified of her own husband. 💔As a wider concept, this is why appealing to negs or harsh criticism by trying to “improve yourself” is a failing strategy. Abusers do not see your attempts to improve yourself to please them as positive; they only get more contemptuous and move the goalposts. I also agree with the others that he’s probably cheating again. Cheaters often devalue their partners during affairs in an attempt to justify cheating to themselves, and to rewrite history so they can be the good guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 06:23 PM |
| 85 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?I know how my dad thinks, he has zero clue how I think. He’s not interested and doesn’t care This has been my biggest disappointment with intellectual/nerdy men aside from the latent misogyny. Like OP I was once drawn to these types of men because I’m fascinated how people think, especially my partner. I wanted an even exchange of concepts and ideas. We could disagree but I wanted him to dive into what makes me tick like I did with him. But no, instead they want to be the professor, and you are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 06:07 PM |
| 18 | Love Is Blind- What Did Shake Say Behind Deeptis Back?Cocaine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 47 | How can you tell if "My ex was controlling, abusive, crazy..." etc is the truth from a guy?Yeah, trauma dumping is also a blazing red flag to watch for when making friends as well. IME when I made friends like that, they always ended up either being mean and nasty themselves (which is why “everyone hated them for no reason”), or emotional vampires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:15 PM |
| 246 | How can you tell if "My ex was controlling, abusive, crazy..." etc is the truth from a guy?None of this matters in the context of dating. If a man you just met is trauma dumping on you, or giving you all the dirt on his “abusive ex”, this is a red flag full stop. And yes dating him for a few weeks or months counts as just met. No one ever said women can’t be abusive. It’s that, 9 times out of 10, a man you’re dating telling you these stories very soon is a sign of dysfunction and by giving him the benefit of the doubt based on your history, you make yourself a prime target for abusers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:04 PM |
| 53 | A simple trick to combat negging...Yes! Embrace being the villain. Or “the blunt one”. I have the reputation in my family as the one who’ll say anything, idgaf about decorum when someone is being an ass. People fuck with you way less because they know you’ll say whatever you want and don’t care; people prefer easier targets. Adding a little dash of humor in there helps too, if you can. IME a lot of people are very timid about saying anything and asserting themselves, especially women and especially out in public. I’ve been at lun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 01:12 PM |
| 57 | Fantasising about fictional menTotally agree, I used to fantasize about fictional men constantly as a shy young geeky girl and looking back, it was detrimental to my developing social skills with real people in real life. I found myself woefully unequipped to handle myself with social dynamics as a teen/young adult. As I got older, what I did instead is channel that drive into a hobby. I create stories and illustrations, and, rather than obsess over a fictional man someone else created, I make my own stories that I want to se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:40 PM |
| 30 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING?Yup, charm is not an innate quality for the most part. It’s a skill, it’s something you do, not something you are. Charm is different from charisma in that it’s a learned set of words, behaviors and mannerisms that greases social wheels. So when someone is extremely charming off the bat, I actually step back and consider that a yellow flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:11 PM |
| 56 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: What is he SAYING?I always say, actions matter more than positive words, but negative words should always be heeded. That is to say, all positive statements about himself should be treated like sales pitches (with skepticism) until actions back it up. But when they say negative things (“I’m an asshole” etc) or things you don’t want to hear (“let’s see where this goes/I’m not sure I want a relationship” etc) you should 100% believe him. Of course, too many positive statements too quickly are also suspect because a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 259 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidAbsolutely. Anyone who thinks posts like this are “too negative”: women need to see this, because our well-being and possibly our very lives depend on it. This is how a LOT of men out there think, and young women entering the dating world need to know. And it’s not just for ourselves. If you had a little sister, or naive friend, would you not want to be armed with all the knowledge you could be? Would you not want her to see this and be savvy so she can guard herself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:53 PM |
| 120 | Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.For anyone who doesn’t know, appendicitis will kill you if the appendix bursts. You need surgery! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:43 PM |
| 47 | Very yikes. They actually do think that not being a monster entitles them to everything.You see, while everyone else was partying, he studied the blade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:40 PM |
| 30 | Do y’all realize how many ways women are shamed for NOT DYING?Over 40, still always carded. They’re supposed to if you look younger than 40, but, I get a lot of comments from cashiers when they plug in my birthdate like “oh wow you do NOT look this age at all!” I also once got mistaken for a high school kid by a flower shop lady in my 30s (I was wearing a backpack which didn’t help). There was a high school a street over and she side-eyed me and asked if I was skipping school. I laughed and showed her my ID. People are mostly crap at guessing ages so these… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:49 PM |
| 77 | G.L Lambert is trash (@8plus9 on twitter)Never trust a male dating guru who aims his advice at women. At best, they just fancy themselves kings holding court over a harem of fawning courtesans. At worst, they actively participate in perpetuating gaslighting and abuse by giving advice designed to break down women’s intuition and sense of self-preservation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:59 PM |
| 50 | Subtle signs of misogynyThey are the fake ones and they project. Liars think everyone else lies, thieves think everyone steals, cheaters think everyone cheats. I’ve learned when a man says “women are all X” he’s telling me about himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 04:45 PM |
| 211 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Madonna/wh0re complex. It has nothing to do with him finding strange women more attractive than her. It’s that he views those women as expendable “wh0res” for his use, but wants his gf as a pristine Madonna just for him. Women are only ever in those 2 categories to these men. Her sending him sexy pictures (or indeed expressing her sexual desires to him outside his control) makes him angry at her for daring to be a “wh0re”. That being said, never ever send sexual pictures. Not to your boyfriend, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 09:31 PM |
| 17 | Fresh | The new Hulu thriller. How many red flags can we name? [Spoilers]This is exactly how one woman escaped a serial killer (forget which one). She was in his car and kept telling him she’d be his girlfriend, she’d take care of him etc. He ended up letting her go. Turns out, she was the only known survivor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 09:26 PM |
| 99 | Being a more private personFemale socialization is bad enough, but I feel like this day and age actively cheers exposing all your business as “authentic”, “raw and real” etc. Everyone is constantly online, sharing every personal detail. Influencers and other popular people with followings big and small; I always know that eventually I’ll be seeing a 20 minute video or something where they spill all their trauma or mental health struggles. It doesn’t matter what their content is, they can be gamers or artists or gossip cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 03:48 PM |
| 10 | Vet like your life depends on it, because it doesMe too, who knows what they plan to do with you in a secluded secondary location. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 08:51 PM |
| 30 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childPeople I’ve seen irl who had “spiritual marriage” (sadly it’s a thing) usually had a small ceremony with some type of religious figure (JPs require paperwork I’m pretty sure). Usually out in nature or something. But this guy specifically says he had a “wedding and honeymoon” so I guess they did the whole shebang and just never got the marriage license. I can’t imagine her (or even his) family were thrilled with that idea. Having a big wedding with no real marriage seems tasteless and gauche to m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 07:20 PM |
| 31 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childSame, did they get fake gifts for their fake, spiritual marriage too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 06:58 PM |
| 8 | Kind of mad I wasn't born 2-3 generations later so I can experience "enlightened" menRobots will only cause escalation because eventually, only the real McCoy will be satisfying. And indulging impulses only reinforces them. This is the case with any aggressive or sexual impulse. Back in the 90s it became en vogue for therapists to recommend that patients with anger issues take out their “repressed” feelings on inanimate objects, but very quickly, it was found that doing this increased, rather than alleviated, aggression. This 1999 Times article goes into detail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 03:12 PM |
| 100 | the mommy bangmaid continuum and why you shouldn't fall into the trap. nurse his wounded ego back to health? how about NO?Serious Main Character Syndrome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 01:24 PM |
| 152 | Vet like your life depends on it, because it doesI’ve heard “NEVER kick a man in his balls if he attacks you because it will turn him into a superhuman rage monster and then you’ll really be in trouble!” sort of like your teacher, with the ultimate advice of just submitting. While it’s highly situational, and adrenaline or him being high off his gourd on drugs can impact effectiveness, I never like this advice that men are somehow superhuman and you can never exploit any weaknesses. A woman’s chance isn’t great if she gets trapped in close-qua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 10:20 PM |
| 7 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡It’s a tale as old as time. Even if she’s not married to an abuser, it hurts her. I had an older married friend who had gotten a generic bachelors when young but then became a SAHM. Her husband was fine but once the kids got older (around high school) she wanted to work. By that time her degree was pretty dime a dozen so she had to go back to school for her masters. She struggled with the classroom because she’d been “out of commission” a long time. But she eventually succeeded, however, she fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 01:04 PM |
| 18 | What are the possibility that he’s going to settle down?So they broke up due to the very red flag you are concerned about. You already know the answer here, you’re not going to be the special exception where she wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:43 PM |
| 120 | You won't give your wife the assurance/insurance she needs to know that she will not financially suffer for having a child with you but you will still TaKe CaRe Of YoUr ChILd. The audacity. 🤡Not only just during pregnancy and postpartum, time a woman takes off has diminishing returns for the rest of her working life. Every month or year she takes off is that much less she’s putting into social security or her retirement fund. Every day or half day she takes off is that much more to struggle later for that promotion. Every gap in her resume makes it that much harder for her later. It adds up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 16 | Coming straight from one of the most deranged serial killers of all time. Here’s another reminder to stay the hell away from men who watch porn.Although I watch true crime I have to agree with not letting the sensational extreme cases overshadow the utter mundanity of male violence against women. I can’t open my news feed, which has both local and national news, without seeing some form of abuse or violence against women from men they mostly know. Every single day there’s at least one story. ETA and children. Just the other day there was a heartbreaking story of a little boy found murdered and hidden in a bin. The suspect is his father/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 05:01 PM |
| 47 | What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video)Absolutely. I remember when she was the darling in the 80s. She had movie roles even, and could have done more to ensure that she had her own wealth. It doesn’t make her ex less of a scrote but it’s a cautionary tale to successful women: don’t sit on your laurels and make no plans for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 100 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileMiddle aged, no muscle tone. I’m robotic and won’t tell you I love you, touch you affectionately or even use your name. I’ll be vaguely dissatisfied with everything you do, say and are, but, because my spine is a piece of overcooked spaghetti, I’ll never say anything. I have a terrible family and you better believe I won’t have your back there too. My kisses have all the passion of a geriatric priest with chapped lips. But hey, I make some money and that’s really all I care about anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:25 AM |
| 70 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.The thought of bringing an essay I wrote to a date. 🙄 Like what is he trying to be, her professor? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 02:41 PM |
| 139 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.They legit look like my brother. He’s a perfectly average dude. I’m average as well, and it’s always telling how advertisements are full of average guys like my brother but the women never look like me 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 138 | LVM are out there thinking men don't treat women like shit. Drew's response is on point as always 👑Reminds me of the 1971 feminist essay I Want a Wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:52 PM |
| 84 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...The word “kill” gets scooped up by automod. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:09 PM |
| 27 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?This was my ex husband. He wasn’t abusive, he just shut down and was extremely emotionally stunted and unaffectionate. He even acknowledged how his parents messed him up but never did anything about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 01:07 PM |
| 189 | Using your hobby to vetFunniest part is all the men I’ve known irl who are serious about weightlifting would never say that to a woman who lifts. They’re usually the ones trying to encourage their cardio-only GFs to give it a try. The only guys who say that are wannabe gym bros or the types that skip leg day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 87 | Even girl friends can be energy vampiresIn my youth I was an introverted, people pleasing doormat and if I had female friends, they were exactly like this. I was just so happy to have a friend but it was toxic. It’s like if you are very kind and avoid conflict, these types are attracted to you like a moth to flame. And honestly they could be fun sometimes, I’d go to social events, meet new people (but always THEIR people, not mine!) and if they were in a good mood things felt amazing. It’s not unlike an abusive relationship with a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:34 PM |
| 77 | So, who else is on a post-valentines dumping spree?PSA to women to beware of doctors telling you you’re infertile. I was told the same thing (“it’ll be almost impossible for you to get pregnant, you may need a lot of help”) because my periods were irregular and I had a couple wonky hormone ranges. So when my ex and I decided to have our kids, we anticipated a long road. I got pregnant right away. Never had any issues. Truth is the female body is woefully under-researched and Gyn doctors (even women doctors!) feel arrogantly confident to throw bi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:18 PM |
| 29 | How'd You Find FDS?It’s crazy because I used to love reading them, and the advice. Now I look back and can’t see what the draw was. They’re always so young too, like 18-21 year old girls putting up with absolute bullshit when they should just break up and go live their lives, but being pressured into bonkers things like couples counseling or amending their school/career plans for a relationshit. As an Old™️ it really irks me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:52 PM |
| 58 | How'd You Find FDS?I found this place when it was still small under my old account. I don’t remember exactly how though. This was before it had pinged on wider Reddit as “the most toxic sub on Reddit” 🙄 and before news coverage. But I liked it a lot right away. I’ve been in (albeit mostly libfem) feminist spaces since like 2007 so none of the core feminist ideals were shocking. I also read more “radical” blogs like Twisty Faster’s back in the day the so yucky stuff about patriarchy and the nature of men and the de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:08 PM |
| 196 | So I got left a day before VDay but I am not the sad victim -- thanks to FDS!Tactical too in that he won’t have to get her a V Day gift. These guys are so transparent, guarantee like you said he would magically resurface conveniently after the holidays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:03 PM |
| 98 | Meme?Based granny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 04:20 AM |
| 135 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .My wlw sisters need to be careful too, that there’s not an unhinged boyfriend waiting in the wings. There can be a false sense of security when you’re dating other women so I’d still urge the normal protocols of meeting in public and vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 06:48 PM |
| 23 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄This fucker is serving up some straight Donnie Pfaster energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:10 PM |
| 68 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄He didn’t get that surgery; it’s what he thinks he has to do to attract “deranged women”. It’s such a unattractive, teenagery mindset to think in such dramatic absurdities. “I guess I have to get BUTCHERED before women even LOOK at me! I have to be 8FT TALL and make a BAJILLION DOLLARS and have a METER LONG COCK too, wah wahhh!” It really reminds me of being 14 and a bitter NLOG who thought boys ONLY liked popular blonde girls with huge boobs. I’ll NEVER find anyone! 😭 But I grew out of it. Whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:04 PM |
| 23 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outShopping in the 90s was a special kind of hell for a girl. 5-7-9 was all the rage but I never fit into it, being 5’6” at the start of middle school and a junior size 11. I wasn’t fat in high school but thankfully the grunge era was in full swing so I wore boy’s/men’s baggy jeans because it was still a struggle because I was still taller and stockier than my peers. The 90s had a very specific, narrow range of “acceptable” for teen girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 08:18 PM |
| 36 | on beauty standards and wanting to opt out, way way outTotally agree, I’ve been both plus and straight size and the difference is huge. Things are arguably better nowadays compared to the 90s or 00s, with companies like Torrid, but those companies often push a particular style (for example a pinup or retro look, or very twee things) that, if you’re not into it, you don’t have many more options. Being tall and fat is a whole other can of worms, limiting you even further. This isn’t even getting into the assumptions clothes makers have about fat women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:44 PM |
| 31 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.Just a successful business man doing a business! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:50 PM |
| 172 | Andrea Dworkin's take on male trollsThe most important part of this quote is without further analysis. Women following mainstream advice forever try to analyze a man’s awful behavior (ie, CoMmUnIcAtE). Why did he text that, what does it mean, maybe if I engage him we can understand each other, why, why, why. Do not engage, the why is irrelevant. No amount of open minded, good-faith engagement is going to make a misogynist troll, or any other LVM, better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 12:50 PM |
| 50 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OK“Natural”…childbirth was the leading cause of death of women until the 20th century. My cousin nearly died from complications from preeclampsia, and it took everyone by surprise because she’d been managing well so far. She pulled through but it traumatized her during what should have been a joyful time for her. This still happens all the time, in modern times, even when she’s got support and a good team of medical professionals. She just might draw those unlucky cards- you just never know. Never… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 12:40 PM |
| 75 | Men being labor and emotional diggers is real problem not the so-called gold diggers who is only doing what is biologically naturalOn Reddit there’s the perennial relationship post about the upper-middle class man in tech or something, dating a struggling student or barista and making her go 50/50 on HIS lifestyle so she’s forever broke. You don’t see the opposite posts, hmmm, wonder why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 12:28 PM |
| 46 | "wait to have sex" labeled as "bad dating advice"...and all of the people in the comments applauding...I have this ex too, we dated for a bit and he was TERRIBLE. But at least we’d never had sex so there wasn’t that extra layer of painful vulnerability, and me feeling clowned, when it ended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:57 AM |
| 50 | There is hope!Also, spaces in which they deliberately excluded women because those spaces were the seats of money, power and influence. There’s a huge difference in a men-only old-world society that is extremely connected to choice jobs, educational opportunities and wealth that forbids women, and a men-only hobby or social club where men can connect with each other. Women can and do create their own groups to provide girls those opportunities and connections but they are fighting an uphill battle of entrench… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:43 PM |
| 56 | What are some signs someone's not over their ex?Agreed. I think is an anxiety post from the OP but 99% of the time he’s going to be obvious. I take relationships posts on Reddit with a grain of salt when they claim stuff came out of “nowhere”. IME, at least with situations I’ve seen in my actual life, if you do a little digging, there were always red flags (some glaring, others more subtle) that, had she been thoroughly vetting for, would have clued her in to what would happen down the line. For example I knew a woman who discovered her bf wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:24 PM |
| 137 | Thoughts on a particular sort of female-perpetuated misogynyMy ex-MIL is a narcissist and sounds startlingly similar to what the OP described. I have never met a more malevolent, miserable woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:16 PM |
| 556 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?100% she needs to be cussed out and threatened, who cares if it’ll be empty. Put the fear of god into her. The sheer audacity. OP this a a severe underreaction. The NERVE of her giving out your personal info to strangers and using your images without permission. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 02:56 PM |
| 5 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesYeesh your mom is a diabetic surgeon and he husband is clearly showing possible signs! I guess it’s true what they say, “the plumber’s pipes are always leaking”. But your mom can’t MAKE the man take care of himself, surgeon or no. Sad part is, if he’s pre-diabetic, a lot of it might be able to be reversed through lifestyle changes and weight loss so long as the disease hasn’t progressed beyond a certain point. But he’s gotta want it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 02:33 PM |
| 11 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesI just saw this and if your dad drinks full-sugar soda all the time and has a rock hard gut, that’s a pretty big indicator of diabetes or pre-diabetic syndrome. Does he complain about pain or tingling in his extremities and/or wear things like compression socks? Does he get bloating that a finger can make a dent in (pitting edema)? If he’s a moderate alcohol drinker, the extreme bloat can also indicate liver issues. He really should see a doctor because from what you describe he sounds very unhe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:23 PM |
| 325 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.“She’s horrible at coding” like how would he even know that? Because he had one class/project with her in school, when they were all still learning? Obviously she graduated and obtained her degree. He sounds like a typical neckbeard who assumes a hot woman can’t learn coding or other STEM and eventually be good at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:38 PM |
| 401 | "Are you a feminist?" How do you answer this?I say “not the fun kind”. You gotta get comfortable with offending people, and not having to explain yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:32 PM |
| 162 | Are most high value women “doomed”?Excellent comment. OP, if you want to see truly doomed, spend some time in the moms who are breaking sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:52 PM |
| – | I’m slowly losing my mind. I posted this and got made fun of for finding it inconsiderateRemoved because subreddit/names visible, which goes against site rules. Black them out and repost please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:36 PM |
| 138 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Exactly. Him being dirty and asking for butt play when he knew she hated it was the whole point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:55 PM |
| 45 | Remember this post everytime you feel guilty dropping the guy over seemingly "small" issue. Men won't tolerate even 0.000001% of the crap they put us through.I do this. I also say tācos like I’ve heard British people say it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 98 | I know somebody already posted about this but I just want to show how many people think that this kind of nastiness is okay! Sorry if it's not okay to post this again. 🤢🤢🤢I love how “choice” is always trotted out to terminate any sort of critical thinking whatsoever. Larger context and implications can be surgically excised because it’s “choice”. Don’t talk about why certain “choices” seem to pop up in our current culture and why they coincidentally always seem to put women in an inferior or animalistic light. Doesn’t matter, it’s choice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 05:52 PM |
| 54 | A very discouraging thread on Reddit about a woman's BF wanting her to starting wearing more slutty clothes because...I’d bet, in addition to being pornsick, he’s got a “hot for teacher” fetish. I’ve got a lot of teacher and nurse friends and relatives, they deal with this shit all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:37 PM |
| 83 | Testosterone does NOT cause aggression-men have no excuseI worked in a bougie office where all the women were having their first kids in their late 30s-40s. There were a lot of autistic and Down kids among them and it was the mothers ages that were gossiped about. But these women also had older husbands and no one ever thought that could be contributing. Surprise surprise it was recently found that old sperm was just as much a factor as “geriatric” (medical term for any mother over 35) mothers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:59 PM |
| 15 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.I have this problem too, kind of the opposite as I have natural RBF and often look annoyed when I’m just in deep thought or going about tasks. My husband had to get used to it because he’d ask me what’s wrong, so it’s a running joke that my face has a mind of its own. I tried the mirror and it works while I’m doing it, but not in the moment, sadly. Just embrace it. 🤷🏼♀️ It’s your face, nothing you can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:54 PM |
| 76 | "I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire." - Robin Morgan, 1974The term “wifely duties” exists as a euphemism for a wife who better ensure her husband gets sex regularly. Also the whole “lie back and think of England”. There’s no “husbandly duties” equivalent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:12 AM |
| 21 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.Yeah he’d be looking like this if he were really doing that. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:10 PM |
| 89 | Beware of « stable » families who will judge you for your past trauma.My ex MIL had a huge chip on her shoulder because she and her husband were still (miserably) married while my parents were divorced. Straight up told me I came from a “broken home” and looked down on “working mothers” while bragging about herself. I’d rather have my lovely mom and asshole dad just as they are, separate, than her narcissistic, drunken ass any day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:09 PM |
| 70 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I dumped my ex husband TWICE in our teen years for being a stonewaller and completely emotionally constipated. I took him back because he promised to be better (🤡). And he ever-so-marginally did, in that he went from a guy who wouldn’t hold my hand in public to a guy that tolerated it. His stonewalling changed to making promises, being better for like a week, and then reverting. I never truly felt that he was in love with me. It all culminated in a slow, agonizing relationship death and divorce.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 08:50 PM |
| 64 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.“I’m over 30!” ✨💨 poof! ✨💨 Scrote: “Hey where’d she go?” 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:38 AM |
| 30 | Warning ⚠️ Some red-pill guys have started adopting FDS lingoIt benefits them if the losers they grift remain losers. It’s the same as mainstream dating apps and dating “gurus”, you remaining single after throwing your money at their bad advice or using their shitty apps is no skin off their nose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 01:17 PM |
| 86 | Porn ruins menThat’s the most damning thing to me. After I had my kids my mom helped only during those first couple hard months after the first was born. The fact that the baby is 9 months old and her mother still finds it necessary for her to help her daughter shows me how useless he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 06:14 PM |
| 74 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!They also love the drama that their “helpful suggestions” create, living vicariously (and laughing at you) as though your life was a tv show for their amusement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:48 AM |
| 32 | In my country, a father killed his 2 special needs sons, dumped their bodies in a canal, and caused the police to go on a manhunt. Yet, the top comments on Facebook are people sympathizing/rationalizing the father’s behavior. Even when men murder, society excuses their behavior.At the time of the trial, she had no good press, at least not around where I lived. Anecdotally my female family and coworkers thought she was an evil monster who killed her children for no reason other than she was evil, and I didn’t think much better at the time either because that was the narrative. The biggest question in the media was “why would a mother do this” but very few answers. Yes recently there has been more thoughtful coverage into the case where more things came to light, ex. it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:07 PM |
| 475 | In my country, a father killed his 2 special needs sons, dumped their bodies in a canal, and caused the police to go on a manhunt. Yet, the top comments on Facebook are people sympathizing/rationalizing the father’s behavior. Even when men murder, society excuses their behavior.Nobody extended this sympathy to Andrea Yates, even though she had a long, documented history of mental illness with psychosis, and she tried crying out for help so many times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:13 PM |
| 354 | Work is only okay when I (the man) benefit from seeing woman naked and abused. I’m sorry what???? Sex work is abusive towards women.I’m pro sex workER in that I want them to not live in a society that would encourage them to get raped for money, and so I support social safety nets and education. Johns belong in prison. 😇 ETA: a leftist can see the dystopian hell of the supposedly “heartwarming story” of a child running a lemonade stand because his mother is going bankrupt for having cancer. They can see how the lack of safety nets and capitalist health care leads to this. But add sex in the mix coupled with men’s entitlement… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:48 AM |
| 63 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?I don’t get this, the man is 37! A Peter Pan that age is a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:10 PM |
| 82 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?Diana spilled enough tea about that den of vipers that, when it’s ever a question who is the narcissist between the royal family or an individual, I’m going to go with the royal family every time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:08 PM |
| 6 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂Exactly. It’s one thing to have a general interest in psychology and motivations, I do too. But I’d argue that if you’re poring over the books or websites because of a particular encounter with a troll, or god forbid actually engaging with and questioning him, you’re inadvertently expending mental and emotional labor that could better be used elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:38 PM |
| 17 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂It is to me too; I’m the analytical type, but I’ve had to train myself to stop when it comes to men on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:42 PM |
| 28 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂Eh, it could be true that he does this, but it’s just as likely that this is a childish attempt to get our goat. What makes me think this is when he insists we will be mad. Reminds me of a little boy poking a little girl like “does this ANNOY you?! You getting mad?! Haha”. Just another day of dudes thinking they’re so important that women will wail and gnash their teeth over them. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:34 PM |
| 55 | Lol you thought this would make us mad? Dude, we already know that this is what 99% of male lurkers are doing. You want a HVW w/standards. That’s why you’re here. That’s why you send us hate. Any interaction with us turns you on. Y’all need to stop acting like we are undesirable 😂That’s why you NEVER respond. Nice or mean openers, doesn’t matter, gift them with your impenetrable silence. The “why” is irrelevant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:24 PM |
| 18 | Sigh. Ladies, tell me what you think.I have a near 100% rate with my husband. Hell, even my ex husband made sure I got mine. The only times I couldn’t was when it was an issue with me, like I was getting over a cold or super tired or something and it wasn’t going to happen. Mind willing, flesh weak situation. But it’s extremely rare, probably just a handful of times over the years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:12 PM |
| 58 | On “hard to get & hard to keep” what men value & respect & men courting prestigious organizations. Men’s effort for men’s love and respect / lack there of for women’sDudes will buy whole rounds of drinks for their buddies with no expectations but balk at paying for an Applebees 2 for $20 special for a woman they want to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 03:10 PM |
| 46 | Man pretends to be doctor, lawyer and council official to control his girlfriend. Story in the comments:100%. This level of psychopathy is an extremely dangerous indicator of violence. I hope she’s able to disappear after this so he can’t track her down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 03:04 PM |
| 95 | ✨How to piss off a guy with an inflated ego 101. Works like a charm every time✨It is soooo common though. When I was younger I’d have friends wistfully say I’d make such a cute couple with some dude, and he was always an asshole or some creepy socially inept perv. I’d be like, do you actually hate me, sis? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 03:01 PM |
| 257 | Basically just discovered a new fetish for myselfI do see it around Reddit. I also like things like “R slash ihavesex 🙄” for the particularly florid descriptions, which I’ve also seen. There is a vocal minority tired of the constant coomer-speak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:58 PM |
| 68 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherLying about height is so prevalent online. I know a lot of shorter guy irl and afaik no one lied about it. Hell none of the men in my immediate family are above 5’8/5’9 and they sometimes make jokes about being shorties but they’re all married/partnered with no issues. The biggest “ladykiller” uncle is the shortest one lol; he just had boatloads of charm and humor and a big personality. Accounting for gender I’m actually the tallest person in my family (most of the women are petite around 5’2 an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:24 PM |
| 61 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowIt was even worse: he was actually into BIG boobs and got off on the humiliation of the women insecure about their small boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:55 AM |
| 42 | “Women like you give feminism bad name” shut up - effective feminism always had a “bad name.”Was just gonna say, looks pretty dope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 138 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)It’s funny because the old boomer jokes of the horrible mother in law was always about the wife’s mother making things hard for the poor husband, like on Bewitched. The Flintstone’s had jokes about Wilma’s mom. IRL though, it’s much more pickme moms of golden sons. When I was a kid those old MIL jokes irked me because it didn’t line up with what I was seeing in my own family and neighborhood. My dads mom made things infinitely more difficult for my mother than her mother ever did for him, for ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:41 PM |
| 153 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”Exactly, this is the kind of stuff women say here every day. But when FDS says it, it’s evil man-hating. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:45 PM |
| 54 | Are they ridiculous, or do you have a husband that won’t do basic shit!And the most insidious of all, if she does say “fuck it, fine” and dives headfirst into the mother role, complete with management and nagging, eventually he’ll become resentful and start rebelling like a teenage boy, posting sob stories about what a controlling battleaxe b1tch of a wife he has, how she “emasculates” him, even though it was his stroppiness that drove her to take up the role. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:58 PM |
| 32 | Hearing about scrotes everywhere I goThat’s what jumped out at me. Why would this idiot openly admit to using Dawn while his artisan gf was literally trying to sell her homemade soap? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 01:03 PM |
| 93 | Just found this on tumblr. They call us ‘femcels’ for having high standards and help each other while incels hate and k*ll women.I thought this was satire clearly showing how incels were worse. If this person really posted this to bash FDS, they failed spectacularly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 01:02 AM |
| 74 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.Well thank you, you sound very lovely yourself! Audrey Hepburn is a QUEEN. I’m actually extremely comfortable with my body and grateful for my build. We are all beautiful in our own ways and our bodies really are marvels of nature. Not only will I never suffer the back pain of my larger breasted sisters, it’s just more convenient: I don’t need to spend mucho $$ on bras, and they don’t get in the way. And being tall is great because you get to intimidate dudes who have issues with tall women. 😈Pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:28 PM |
| 237 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.10000%. This is an abuse tactic, and the more conventionally attractive you are, the more likely it is to happen. I’m average looking overall, I’ve had periods of being more attractive but nothing approaching “hot” as defined by culture. I don’t really care about feminine conformity. Im tall with a small chest. I’ve also been both obese, and fit. But let me tell you, it was always my slim, gorgeous, modelesque friends that got this overt bodyshaming shit. Some of the things they’d tell me their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 22 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!YES. I grew up with a boomer mom always telling me to “sssh! Someone might hear you!” and me being like “so??” She was also an advocate of “kill ‘em with kindness” whereas I’m not going to be nice to assholes. We’re very close though, and recently, now that she’s 60+ and kind of bitter about some things she put up with, she told me that my way has been right the whole time. When I was a bullied child I tried my moms way of being meek and kind and it only ever made things worse, and me feel power… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:36 PM |
| 18 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?The stance on marriage here is to combat the typical losing scenario young women find themselves in: they want marriage and children but get trapped into forever girlfriend situations giving wife benefits to a man gaslighting them about how marriage is “just a piece of paper”. That’s not even getting into the cultural shaming of a woman daring want a nice ring or wedding. So we’re here to say, if you want to be married, that’s a perfectly valid life goal and here’s how to best maximize that outc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:53 PM |
| 28 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.Yup just like the scrotation report posted today. “He wasn’t over his ex” “He was reeling from his ex” “he just talked about his ex the whole time”. It’s THESE guys ☝️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 06:59 PM |
| 169 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyI better tell my retired dad, who spent last night good-naturedly regaling me with all his various ailments, that he has peaked. Won’t he be surprised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 08:02 PM |
| 15 | Typical emotional abuse- bodyshaming tactics & using feigned ignorance regarding his fiancée's health needsOh absolutely. They don’t all have a fetish. Some are just controlling abusers and to them, there’s no easier victims to control. Her own self-hatred will do a lot of the work for him. It’s not just EDs; any woman with an unmanaged mental illness needs to be wary and that’s the reason we advocate that a woman go to therapy/get it sorted before dipping her toes into dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:15 PM |
| 41 | Typical emotional abuse- bodyshaming tactics & using feigned ignorance regarding his fiancée's health needsWomen with EDs or in recovery need to be aware that there is a very specific type of abusive man who will target them. A lot of these men have a fetish for dangerously underweight women and will do whatever it takes to destroy her self esteem and make her backslide into ED for his sick gratification. EDs, especially anorexia, has a very high mortality rate so women need to be aware and stay away from these men at all costs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 03:23 PM |
| 69 | When men imply that sex is eXaCtLy tHe SaMe for men and womenI knew a sweet lady years ago that got hepatitis C from her loser druggie husband. She didn’t know he was using intravenously and didn’t know about the Hep C. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 03:03 PM |
| 199 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menDo they ever think anything they don’t say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:57 PM |
| 76 | A man who values you and wants you, will move mountains and go to the ends of the Earth for you... for NOTHING in return but your Divine Goddess presence. You are to be doted on. No matter what is invested, no matter what they do for you, you owe nothing.My husband too. I’ve had issues with impostor syndrome and feeling like I’m never doing enough/being enough. Family of origin and my ex husband only exacerbated this. But my husband told me, I don’t have to DO anything or BE anything else other than just me. And he shows me every day that it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:41 PM |
| 229 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateThese types of guys butter everyone up. They’ll refer to elderly women as “young lady” and and tell the middle aged office ladies their husbands are lucky men and generally schmooze up a storm. It doesn’t mean anything and it’s weird that a woman this old (ie, not a gullible teenager) would think so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:48 PM |
| 71 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?My brother as well, his last serious GF before his current fiancée. It was brutal because he loved her but they were not compatible. He broke up after two years with the last year being them trying to make it work. He paid for her rent for x months so she’d have time to figure things out; he didn’t just leave her high and dry. He too ended up being single a long while after, though he did date here and there. I’d also classify my brother as HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveComing back to this comment because I literally just listened to an unsolved true crime story where an older lady was murdered for her money. In the episode friends and family said that she couldn’t NOT run her mouth about all her personal business to anyone who listened and law enforcement suspects that’s what attracted her murderer to her. Then I remembered your comment, very pertinent advice. Sure getting murdered like that would be rare but I wouldn’t want to risk it. You can also attract co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 4 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)You have one. Throwaway account is a flair, usually for very new or sporadic users. Looking through your history it’s probably because you infrequently comment, which is fine. Upgrades happen when mods notice frequent, high quality contributions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 10:08 PM |
| 157 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVIf you are prone to fantasy, crushes and pining, I would urge you to adopt the mentality that a man can be LV for you. Even if he’s nice and looks good on paper, train your brain to see him as LV in order to squash painful and unproductive crushes on uninterested or unavailable men. This doesn’t mean treating him mean, which is where I think a lot of people get confused. For example if he’s a work colleague you’re pining for, obviously civility is still expected. But if you privately consider hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 03:53 PM |
| 112 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?Intentional sabotage of their sex life can also be a cover for a porn addiction, and sometimes, cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 03:14 AM |
| 30 | When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this memeSame here, most self-described “empaths” I know have been women and it’s not just that they’re doormats. They glorify the doormat lifestyle, behaving like toxic judgmental martyrs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:00 PM |
| 178 | When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this memeWell there’s a difference between people who have empathy, and an “empath”. No offense to anyone but irl people who have described themselves as “empaths” to me or others were always, uh, questionable. Men DO act like wanting them to use basic empathy is akin to wanting them to be an empath or “psychic” and that’s a bunch of bullshit for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:14 PM |
| 105 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveLong life experience has shown me that oversharers, male or female, are red flags. Whether you are dating, schmoozing at work or just trying to expand your friends circle, watch out. Keep oversharers at arms length. Everyone who has displayed this tendency has turned out toxic in some way, yes even myself in my youth. The malicious ones use it to force intimacy and teaming. They’ve been covert narcs IME. Not only do they want pity and emotional labor from you, they won’t hesitate to use your tra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:26 AM |
| 36 | Am I on a different planet? 🙃I had a period of time in my 20s where I tried to branch out and did the whole clubbing scene for a while. I made a big group of friends and we’d go out every weekend, sometimes twice. Pregame, then to the club, then after parties. Ive never been into weed because it doesn’t agree with me, but I definitely drank and tried to fit in. And it was fun for a while. But very quickly I realized the lifestyle is so overrated. Once the shine wears off, clubs are all the same and parties are the same. Spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:13 PM |
| 32 | Update on kicking out an abusive Ex (Narcissist). **Law & Order** episodeThis is a great victory, but just be careful. A narcissist with a bruised ego (especially publicly) is the most dangerous. I would continue with your surveillance/security measures and keep an eye out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 03:17 PM |
| 30 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.Peak Aughts misogyny! 😂 Cagney and Lacey was outdated even in 2003. Men can’t help but reveal themselves as fake as fuck; there’s always a glaring tell in their games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 08:39 PM |
| 157 | How the Big Business of Divorce Benefits Men.... Please read ladies and realize that many lies have been spread about how men are "divorce r*ped" and taken to the cleaners. However the data shows something completely different.Ageism is rife in the job market as well, especially for middle aged women. So a 50 year old former SAHM, even if she gets a degree, is still going into her interviews with bias against her. And if hired she’ll be low-balled way more than a similar aged man, struggling with entry level wages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:41 PM |
| 41 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.Please nooo don’t bring a tiramisu, I’m begging you 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:17 PM |
| 269 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?A lot of posters mentioned the classic charming narc fuckboi type, but the other side of the coin is just as bad. The biggest cheaters I’d ever known were the supposed shy, unassuming type. They looked like sweet hipster nerds, or adorkable nerds. They didn’t have any luck with girls when they were young and so they are deeply insecure and always chasing female validation. So look out for insecure former ugly ducklings with secret chips on their shoulders. Insecure about women, about their mascu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:35 AM |
| 6 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileYeah definitely, it’s a case of, let your actions speak for you. No need to type all that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:31 PM |
| 78 | Is anyone else sick of seeing YouTube recommend these types of videos to you?Terrible word choice. All I can think of is smegma. The Smegma Male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:31 PM |
| 84 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileI agree with this too. The spirit was good but she still explained too much and even apologized and hedged a few times. Like adding “I guess?” after explaining in detail why she was funny. Just own it! “I’m funny and I get paid for being funny” period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:29 PM |
| 100 | Is anyone else sick of seeing YouTube recommend these types of videos to you?“Women were mean to me just for being a nice guy!!” is always code for either: the man cold approached some woman minding her business and she didn’t fall for his creepy, lazy lines and hop onto his D or he tromped all over the boundaries of a female friend and she didn’t reciprocate because there was never anything romantic whatsoever, and now he’s mad that the sex vending machine ate his niceness coins. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 02:08 PM |
| 78 | The Lennie DefenseIt actually takes a long time to strangle someone to death. It’s not like one little neck squeeze and, oopsie! It’s also up-close and personal; you’re looking them in the eyes, seeing panic and life drain. It’s completely ridiculous that anyone in the justice system or who works in forensics buys this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 05:14 AM |
| 43 | He's Your Ex For A ReasonYou dodged a huge bullet. He wanted you to move in before marriage so you would have been in a vulnerable position for him to start coercing you into sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:54 PM |
| – | Why is this meant to be cutesy/funny. 🤡 found on another sub 🤦🏻♀️Removed. Repeat post, and this one has identifiable information visible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 01:44 AM |
| 36 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himDid someone call me? 📞👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:01 PM |
| 174 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesOmg it’s like the nerd version of “I’m a SoundCloud rapper”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 02:50 PM |
| 28 | A man you date can only be two things: a dating potential or a husband. In your mind, he should NEVER be considered your family.Tangentially, it reminds me of when jobs say they’re “like a family” to also brainwash you into loyalty and putting up with bullshit. Any job saying they’re like family is a huge red flag, run away! 🚨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:57 AM |
| 49 | help me heal the last of my pickme tendenciesSo I’ve had three distinct stages in my life. Teens-mid twenties: nerdy, lumpy, bad clothes, hiding behind my hair like Violet from the Incredibles. Terrible leftover teen acne that persisted into adulthood. Self esteem in the toilet. Personality was wallflower doormat. Still dealing with childhood trauma (not very well). I wore my wounds on my sleeve. Late 20s-late 30s: had a renaissance. Lost weight, got in shape, found style. Ive never been “hot” but I pulled off a nice classy librarian look.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:46 AM |
| 19 | If any of you have made an account on ThePinkPill.co I highly suggest you reconsider itYou forgot the “well AkShuLLy” neckbeard who loves to lord over a woman’s space with bullshit MRA fluff and devil’s advocate arguments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 04:09 AM |
| 24 | If any of you have made an account on ThePinkPill.co I highly suggest you reconsider itIt’s funny because back when pink pill was here, they used to be absolutely ruthless to FDSers, saying we were dick-panderers who yearned for the male gaze and promoted toxic beauty standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 02:59 AM |
| 47 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 4 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaHa, you and I are very similar, my laziness wins too. 😂 I only like observing drama, not participating, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:30 PM |
| 405 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..“These dang women and their - checks notes - being tired!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:00 PM |
| 50 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Yup and this is why if you read men’s DB posts where the relationship outside of sex is clearly full of anger, resentment and toxicity, these guys still expect her to be able to shut off her anger to have sex. Because men do that; they can hate her and still want it. So they refuse to understand that their wives can’t do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:19 PM |
| 107 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Or he’s sex-pestering them with gross porn demands/fetishes, rather than just wanting to make love to her as she is. He treats every touch as a floodgate to sex whooshing open, so it’s any wonder that after a while she becomes reluctant to even touch the guy, knowing it’ll devolve into him pressuring her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:06 PM |
| 35 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaI finally unlocked the secret after spending much of my youth as an unwilling sounding board for drama-llamas and kooks. I was a shy wallflower back then and man, did people ever flock to me with their bullshit. Especially those women you talk about (the men were more the creepy outsider type). The key is to become glib, light and superficial. Channel your inner trickster goddess. Tap into that supreme Gemini energy. I swear it works. I made a quasi-enemy at my current job with the resident Sobb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:52 PM |
| 24 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.Sometimes, yeah. It’s a spectrum. Some are high-octane codependents, but some are just smokin that hope-ium, hoping he’ll match her. This particular TikTok does seem closer to the codependent type to be sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:27 PM |
| 15 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.I used to buy my ex husband clothes occasionally because he wanted to be more stylish. And he claimed he wanted to wear things I liked (mainly because he was always pressuring me to dress sexier). But he never wore them. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:09 AM |
| 649 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.Women do this because they hope men will match their loving, generous energy. But they never do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:46 AM |
| 16 | Male friends are a myth.He did put a space, girl friend. A friend who is a girl, supposedly. But yeah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 07:03 PM |
| 138 | Normalise shaming men with sex and dating app addictions. There’s nothing cool or ‘alpha’ about a man who spends ALL his free time chasing tail like his life depends on itI’ve always been suspicious of “sex addiction”. Back in the day, it was just an excuse used by pervy cheaters in order to entrap their suffering wives into staying with them while they “work on” their “sex addiction”. It also gives them an easy lack of accountability: it’s not my fault! I have a problem! Modern day porn has just exacerbated the already entitled, narcissistic abusers into further pathologizing their behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 07:01 PM |
| 62 | Male friends are a myth.I’m very suspicious that this story is fake and that woman is actually his ex, and he’s advertising revenge porn of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:42 PM |
| 126 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Plus: how you get em is how you lose em. Nope, your “connection” is not so special that it’ll be different! Seen this one play out irl and the romanticizing woman is always shocked, SHOCKED, that the poached man ended up cheating on her. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:02 AM |
| 15 | FDS Fan Art! (by me)Your style reminds me of Kate Beaton mixed with a fairytale aesthetic. 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 03:52 AM |
| 78 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.The “woman from his past” may be his mother. My ex used his mother as an excuse as to why he was an emotional brick wall and couldn’t have my back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:22 AM |
| 192 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?I used to love stories where the heroine had to break down the walls of the dark, moody boy and then he realized he loved her. Ugh I was such a sucker for emotionally unavailable types, especially if they were smart, artsy “shy” or brooding. Growing up a geek girl with a narc emotionally distant dad primed me for this. I create stories as a hobby and I’ve had to completely work some older ones from the ground up because they were full of “sweet amazing girl chases aloof boy” bullshit I created b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 09:18 PM |
| 62 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.This is such a stupid take by incel apologists because a lot of these murderers will start their sprees by killing their mothers/sisters and wives/gfs (if they have them). It’s not going to stop shooters, those women will just be the first victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:55 PM |
| 27 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.I mean, being a wizened crone someday IS one of my life goals. 🧙♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 250 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.Any man who gets his boxers in a twist about LVM getting called out is just telling on himself. People know that if the shoe don’t fit, you don’t wear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 03:25 PM |
| 156 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.Ah yes. Like the galaxy brain position that calling out racism makes you just as bad as racists! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 03:23 PM |
| 368 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.I’ve seen it called the “Daily Male” and they’re not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 03:22 PM |
| 80 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.The DaAaArK world! Oooga-booga!! 👹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 03:16 PM |
| 113 | I have no wordsYup it’s part of a controller’s MO to pick “stupid” things as hills to die on. This has 2 benefits for the abuser: 1) he gets to crazy-make you by throwing you off kilter about something like a towel so eventually you start questioning yourself wondering if maybe you’re missing something and 2) if you eventually leave or stand up to him, he has the narrative ready to go about how you’re so CrAzY over silly things like towels! Look how mad she’s getting over something so silly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:27 AM |
| 133 | I don't think there can ever be too many reminders that: if he wanted to, he would.Men on Reddit say she’s not hot because she has a short thumb. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:19 AM |
| 109 | "women's value is looks, men's value is resources"They also conveniently take credit for all the men who built things generations ago. But talk about male violence and suddenly it’s “not all men”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 11:20 PM |
| 337 | I don't think there can ever be too many reminders that: if he wanted to, he would.Men in my own life have told me this, back when I was libfem insisting on 50/50. I remember thinking they were old fashioned when they confirmed that no man worth his salt, who actually really liked the woman, would pull that shit. The deep down truth was that I had low self esteem and didn’t think I was worth guys like that. Those wonderful doting guys were only for pretty women. It 100% came from a place of devaluating myself and thinking I should just be grateful I was even on a date at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 11:16 PM |
| 51 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!What in the Chris Farley as Matt Foley hell?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:48 PM |
| 146 | Don't date players even reformed ones (avoid, avoid, avoid)(potential TW)The fact that he could have been a “player” at all show that there’s something in his mind that can easily dehumanize women. Society likes to sanitize players as just popular guys that bed a lot of women. All just fun and games! But they also lie, manipulate, cheat, play games, intentionally whittle a woman’s self-esteem, employ coercive or downright rapey tactics. Women are just pawns on the chess board for these guys, not thinking, feeling human beings. So when a guy is like “oh I’m a reformed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 26 | Him meeting your (FDS-approved bare minimum + your own) high standards is NOT enough. If he’s not doing more than that, it’s time to move on.There’s that too, that he can’t be alone. That may be the why of it. I remember when I first watched the show I thought it was weird how bizarrely different all his exes were, like such a random assortment of women with no common thread. At first I thought it was just a joke, but like everything in that show, there’s a deeper meaning. Even Mr. PB himself says: "Is my problem with women any movie directed by Christopher Nolan? Because, yes, women are involved, but it's never really about the wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:28 PM |
| 196 | Him meeting your (FDS-approved bare minimum + your own) high standards is NOT enough. If he’s not doing more than that, it’s time to move on.I call this “girlfriend-shaped hole” syndrome. He’s not a bad guy per se, he is good on paper and does “good boyfriend” things. But as time goes by, you realize there’s not much depth to your relationship. Especially after 6 months-1 year+. Little comments or actions that show he doesn’t really know you. Conversation that never gets too deep. Him being surprised by things about you he should know by now. He gives gifts but they’re generic and never personalized, or they’re just all wrong, even a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:07 AM |
| 150 | Help me out of this spiralGreat idea. After my divorce, I wrote a list I called “FUCK YOU” which detailed every shitty thing he’d done in our long relationship and every way he made me feel small and worthless. If I started to feel the slightest bit nostalgic or sad, I’d read it. I even shared it with my mom (we’re very close) and she helped me validate some of my feelings. After that, I didn’t really need it much. I do still have it though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:09 AM |
| 9 | Psychology - Marcia's Identity Status Theory. Some idle musingsOr their whole identity is being a mom and they fall apart when the kids leave the nest. The more toxic ones will attempt to enmesh themselves with their near-adult or adult children, hindering the children’s growth. I urge all women to have a solid sense of yourself apart from anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 4 | My chats aren’t off (I know) so I got this message - he wants “advice” AKA free labour. Who cares about my time, energy & emotions right?!I got one too. Just ignore it. Posting these chat solicitations just gives them attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:52 AM |
| 17 | Self Defense Items / Tools!Definitely re: self defense classes, I hope my comment didn’t come across as discouraging women from taking them. Do take them! It will teach you about your own body, both your strengths and limitations. And it’s not to say every single woman is automatically hopeless when she has to fight. Just look up the case of Susan Kuhnhausen, who killed the hit man her ex husband hired to kill her. It’s just that if at all humanly possible, a woman should avoid being in a close-quarters fight with a man. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 11:27 PM |
| 70 | Self Defense Items / Tools!Agree. Former military here, and I’ve taken martial arts and self defense in the past, and I have to say that for women, the best fight is the fight avoided. Even a male dojo instructor once said this to both men and women at our class. It’s just that men are going to have the strength advantage against another man that a woman won’t. By all means have a backup Hail Mary in the form of the tools above. Weapons are the great equalizer. But the woman’s best defense is situational awareness and fin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 08:42 PM |
| 42 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."I had a bisexual female friend who once said that she firmly believed all women were naturally bi. I was like, no, I know some very straight women. It’s just not true. She insisted (much like you said) that it was about inhibition or because of society. I’ve heard straight men say the same thing, because they’re thinking about their own fantasies/what their dick likes. They don’t like me saying, no, a lot of women are truly straight. They’re not going to be convinced to perform a porn scenario f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:46 PM |
| 41 | Why do men manipulate even when they already get what they want?I remember back in my pickme days I’d get baffled as to why even men in poly relationships would cheat (ie, insist on engaging in sexual encounters that they had both agreed was a No, like “no mutual friends” or “my sister is off limits”). Like of all the sex you could legit have, of all the women they could choose, they would still want to break the rules. I understand now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:46 AM |
| 714 | Pick me gf and pornsick bf vibesJust the choice of words he uses while talking about her tells me he doesn’t give two shits about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:32 PM |
| 471 | Matching men's energyAnother commenter here a while back (I wish I could remember and credit) pointed out this insidious facet of female socialization: the pressure to be a constant delight. Not just with men they date, but everywhere. It’s that itch inside to manage everyone’s feelings, laugh at jokes even if they’re not that funny, to bridge gaps in conversation, to be a constant source of entertainment for all. We should delight with our appearance as well: be feminine, coy and beautiful. It’s very freeing to let… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:10 PM |
| 150 | Tropes I’m tired ofAs someone who grew up in the 80s this story was the bane of that era. Please note that the nerdy boy never has to change anything about himself. The narrative frames the popular girl as an idiot, who was blind to the amazing guy in front of her. So she changes to accept him and it’s a chastising towards the audience of women who choose “hot jocks”. To a young girl watching, it tells her she doesn’t really know what she wants or what’s good for her. And that handsome men are always assholes, so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:49 PM |
| 129 | ⚠️ Angry woman incoming.Try to think of it this way. Culture frames dating as a process of eventual acceptance. It needs to be a process of elimination, which is what FDS stresses. Abusive LVMs aside, 99.99% of people you date aren’t going to be compatible with you. It sucks having to look for flags but almost no one is going to be right for your particular needs. Basically you date to eliminate, and the right one will rise to the top eventually so long as you’re enforcing your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:21 PM |
| 329 | Tropes I’m tired ofMy least favorite are: The hysterical mother. Popular in disaster flicks, sci-fi and post-apocalyptic fiction. Dad is a stoic badass who gets shit done while mom puts her family in danger because she is emotional and is a blubbering mess. Cad reformation stories. Where the dangerous guy or playboy cad finally changes his ways for the lead woman. It’s just straight Barb the Builder propaganda. cheating stories where the affair is framed as the great love of their lives and things work out. More p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:15 PM |
| 96 | Lets talk about COWARD MenThis was a big reason for the demise of my last relationship. Back then, I wasn’t even expecting him to physically defend me. But he couldn’t even verbally defend me. He couldn’t even take my side when I told him a story from my day about someone being an ass to me, like he never believed I perceived the situation correctly. His favorite phrase was “well I’m not going to take sides”. He had a shitty family and I couldn’t count on him to say boo about it. Thankfully my current husband is the scra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:51 AM |
| – | Wife literally becomes an acrobat, pretending to enjoy sex with her AWFUL husband, and this is his response… 🤯Removed as the name is still visible. Please make sure all names are sufficiently blacked out to comply with Reddit’s anti-brigading policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 02:35 PM |
| 3 | This man's a stalker. He constantly copies and pastes our comments to try to infiltrate the sub. What's most terrifying is that, he once got access too, if you notice the last post.The user has been taken care of. Next time, please report it or you can DM me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 12:31 PM |
| 98 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupAs someone who’s been divorced from a long marriage, when you’re in such a long relationship, by the time it ends, you have said all that needs to be said to the person. Paradoxically, when I was finally leaving, I did not show him upset or have long conversations or tell him how hurt/angry I was. I was just DONE. I had already “paragraphed” him endlessly throughout the relationship. It felt strangely peaceful to just…let it go and gtfo. This isn’t to say I didn’t feel anger or sorrow. But I pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:17 PM |
| 61 | Words and ActionsA good rule of thumb is actions matter more UNLESS he’s saying something bad about himself or something you don’t want to hear. Ie, I’m an asshole, I’m not ready for a relationship, you could do so much better than me, etc. Then you should heed his words! And like others pointed out, incongruity between words and actions are always a 🚩. So if he’s saying “I want a relationship” but his actions scream fuckboi then it’s a no go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 5 | FDS when you're down on your looksI had similar feelings about foundation too, it just seemed to settle into, and then accentuate, my acne scars. 💀 However I have found that with foundation you do get what you pay for. It’s the only makeup I splurge on, a very lightweight formula that’s on the pricier side. But it lasts me forever since I rarely use it. And my scarring has gone way down with my skincare routine so I finally feel like foundation looks pretty good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 03:45 PM |
| 8 | FDS when you're down on your looksSo I barely wear makeup, could never really get the hang of the techniques. It always looked fake on me (but that was probably just my perception). But the game changer for me is skincare. I had severe acne as a teen and then adult acne (less severe, still a bummer). So I have some scarring and unevenness even into my 40s. It never bothered me to go barefaced but I used to wish my skin looked better. Then I discovered skin care and my skin looks so good now that I hardly ever wear makeup except … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 01:24 PM |
| 3 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)You’re not banned. You haven’t been banned in over a year. You have a flair too. I can’t speak for AskFDS. I’m not a mod there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:09 AM |
| 15 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”The classic stonewall technique. My ex husband did this all the time. If I pressed him he’d say something like “I don’t have anything to say” and then clam up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:17 PM |
| 34 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”Or they’ll “No True Scotsman”. Oh, he wasn’t a ~ real dom ~. 🙄 There’s no war in Ba Sing Se indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 9 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sSame. I usually pet other people’s dogs and do really like them in general. However I don’t want to own one (I’m a cat person through and through) and with the large ones I’m always just a bit wary. I’ve been bitten before. It just boils down to: a house cat cannot kill a human being by mauling. But a large dog CAN. And I respect that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 02:43 PM |
| 22 | UPDATE; Today is a turning point in my way to being and fully living as a HVW - I DUMPED HIMHe sounds like your typical terminally online weeaboo edge lord. Don’t waste any more of your precious time wondering what was wrong with him, though. On to better things! Word of advice from a geek for the future: male anime fanatics are a NO GO 🙅♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 15 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)We get those requests sometimes and while I don’t ban for that, please know that we can’t bend the rules unfortunately. We have literally no way of knowing what alts are really whose so all new accounts must go through the same process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 04:33 AM |
| 17 | Never Help Men With Their Woman-Seeking MotivesAbsolutely and they want it to just fall in their lap while doing nothing to make it happen. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:05 AM |
| 91 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.There’s nothing morally wrong about pursuing a man, it’s just that it’s not going to be to your benefit. There are scores of us on this sub that tried to follow that Girl Boss script when dating and got burned. A lot of libfem ideals are well-meaning but they live in the Land of Should, not how things actually ARE. And by assuming that men approach women with the same good faith and sincerity that women have when they date men. Men (and the greater patriarchal society) are what they are and the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:01 AM |
| 66 | Never Help Men With Their Woman-Seeking MotivesIME they don’t really listen. I used to have male friends and we were of the geeky variety. While I never did any specific emotional labor like talking to women for them or picking presents, I often had conversations with them about their general troubles with women. But they’d just stubbornly dig their heels in, clinging to their stereotypes and preconceptions about women no matter what I said. You know how it goes: “Maybe you should try xyz/improve yourself in xyz way/go to these places etc” “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:30 AM |
| 520 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costWhat bugs me the most, as an older person, is when some young girl posts about her boyfriend. These kids are like 18-21 and already having issues. Sometimes he’s a real asshole, but other times she’s not happy due to low-level scrotery. Inevitably, Reddit will advise nutty things like counseling and excessive communication for this young relationship that should be terminated. Or seriously advising her to consider him about school or career. This boy is not The One, you are not married, you don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 10:51 PM |
| 132 | I experienced a switcheroo by a soft boy who ended up extorting my emotional investmentWhat jumps out at me first is when he said you’re “worth it”. To my old pickme self that would have sounded promising and fluffed up my ego but in reality it’s off-putting. It sounds transactional and cold. Also, words are meaningless. His actions should have clearly demonstrated he thought you were “worth it”, it’s just odd to think you need to tell someone that. Like, you’re dating me, it should go without saying. The second you had to start negotiating and asking for more time, is when you ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:32 PM |
| 49 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!I think of it this way. I’m married. But if anything egregious happens, like he cheats on me or starts doing drugs or whatever, I’m out. It doesn’t matter that our marriage has been great until then. That’s how I view “never stop vetting”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 08:11 PM |
| 33 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashI think the younger generations/society has finally come to realize that unconditional loyalty to toxic jobs (or really, any jobs) is pointless. Unfortunately, female socialization is still going strong on women to be Barb the Builders, sunk-cost hopefuls and/or pickmes. I have hope the tides are slowly turning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 08:02 PM |
| 27 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashIndeed, the devil you know is less frightening than the devil you don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 49 | What HV behavior looks likeIt’s sad that this situation is even news-worthy, which tells me it’s a rare thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 03:31 PM |
| 56 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.He was either married or had a gf and you actually showing up would blow his cover. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:33 PM |
| 37 | Just recently found out that rock n’ roll LEGEND Tina Turner was cheated on and abused multiple times by her LV husband Ike. Can’t believe guys actually pull shit like this and then swear up and down they don’t abuse women 😑😡Yup, it was extremely well-known and I remember my mom and aunts talking about Tina. Even though it was back in the days where you really didn’t hear much about “battered women”, everyone supported Tina. She was so huge in the 80s. Although I’d never recommend this for the average woman, one thing I always loved was how she kept his name. Because now, everyone associates that name with Tina and Ike has been largely forgotten except as an abuser. Ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:20 PM |
| 131 | Hookup culture is a scamSame, I grew up kind of an odd kid so I always thought it was me and everyone else was invited to the party and knew some secret to having fun that I didn’t. Little did I know back then not only was there no party, but the “party” is actually detrimental and they trick you into wanting to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 239 | Hookup culture is a scamThis is exactly it, the larger culture will just tell you there’s something wrong with you then. I never had a casual sex phase but when I dated after my divorce it seemed like this was the only socially acceptable route to a possible relationship. At least sex by date 3. I resisted and dealt with a lot of bad dates, thinking to myself, how the HELL is anyone supposed to actually develop feelings or a relationship this way? All “advice” whether on Reddit or elsewhere will just say that’s how it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:37 PM |
| 33 | I have to wonder what kind of vibes I'm putting out these daysResting beautiful face, I like that. I have RBF but it’s a badge of pride for me. I was at event some years back and the keynote speaker was this amazing woman who was a doctor, philanthropist and owned her own vineyard in Europe. She was making the rounds after her speech and came up to me (I was standing off to the side sipping my wine and observing, introvert-style). She told me I was “striking” and beautiful with a very “regal” bearing and to this day it was the best compliment I’d ever rece… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 06:23 PM |
| 52 | 🤣🤣🤣There’s this boomer dude I work with and back when I was new, we were talking about Aerosmith or something and he smirked and said “you probably don’t know who they are, probably before your time”. And I said that I was born in the 70s and of course I knew freakin AEROSMITH. And I don’t look THAT young, Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:52 PM |
| 144 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstThat so heinous. Somebody THAT rich could conceivably own a dog but never spend a second with it if that’s what they want. They could just hire caretakers and the dog could still be well cared for. I can’t imagine having millions of dollars but you just can’t be arsed so the dog starves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:47 PM |
| 21 | TRUTH! My music tastes have really changed and I can't listen to a lot of rap music now.Same. So many songs about wanting to boink teenagers. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:34 PM |
| 12 | My family and friends push me to be a pickme & tell me I’m being too picky if I don’t want to date men I don’t find attractive.So everyone gave really good advice but I want to share some things that can help you decouple their opinions from your emotions. from your post history, your age indicates you are well and firmly an adult. Your life is YOUR business. Your standards are your business. Get out of the child mindset where you need approval from your mom or family. You really don’t and any feeling that you need it is merely an illusion. That feeling will keep you second guessing yourself as you think you need their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Peep some of the other comments here, I replied to a couple stating the subs I know of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 02:42 PM |
| 8 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)I only just got this comment notification you made 9 hours ago! But earlier I noticed you made a post too. I DO have advice I wanted to comment but I’m busy with work atm so I’ll be there later. The other ladies gave you some pretty good advice too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 02:41 PM |
| 91 | I’ve been blocked by male friends on social media for getting a boyfriend 😂This is why I’m never nice or accommodating to strange men who approach me in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 12:28 PM |
| 36 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating History“It’s like an orange on a toothpick!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:09 PM |
| 84 | FDS IS OFFICIALLY 200K STRONG!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳This is exactly how you know it’s not male lurkers or fake accounts. Everything would be downvoted to hell. Just look what happens when an FDSer posts FDS-type advice and she has FDS in her history. 💣👎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 345 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.So fake and cringe. “Look at how she’s looking at me!” Yeah no shit, the photographer directed you both to look that way. 🙄 It reminds me of those insufferable friends on Facebook. “Look at this totally unstaged, candid moment you guys!! Truly we are so blessed! 🥺”You’re not fooling anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:40 AM |
| 42 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.I loved this! 😂😂 Ok stopped laughing long enough to add: it’s actually a good writing tip to switch genders if you fear your dialogue is shitty. “Men writing women” is so common and bad because they have the female characters spew insipid shit that sounds ridiculous coming out anyone’s mouth and it’s very obvious by switching genders. But because they think girls are a different species than boys, they’re never self aware enough to catch it. Not even Zoolander would say “I’ll have the apple juic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 03:42 AM |
| 86 | Potential strategy: answering the question "what's the worst that could happen?"It can even be applied in broader terms. What’s the worst that can happen applying FDS standards? Well maybe you get lonely sometimes because you’re blocking and deleting all the noise. But you call up your friends or family and go have a nice time with them. Or maybe the worst is you want to be a mother but just can’t find a suitable father. So you end up exploring other options in your 30s-40s, perhaps adopting, fostering or pursuing a child via artificial insemination. Or maybe you decide, yk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 08:30 PM |
| 5 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Good question! I’ll have to ask the other mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 05:19 PM |
| 101 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’Yep back in my retail days of yore, I would say that while there were more bad women customers (because more women shop in general), the men were SCARY. Straight up abusive dad/husband energy. Like a grouchy lady might chew me out, but they rarely swore a blue streak at me. I wasn’t worried about them flipping shit and wrecking displays because even though they’d get angry, their body language wasn’t aggressive. I was never worried that a lady would be waiting for me in the parking lot. The lady… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 05:05 PM |
| 48 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.Oh definitely, I remember in school girls who got big boobs earlier were called “sl&ts” even though they didn’t do anything except grow boobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 01:12 AM |
| 74 | This is how a HVM should reactMy ex husband was just like this. Later I realized this is a matter of respect. He didn’t really respect me, and so my perception and judgment was always to be questioned. Even though he had known me practically all our lives. He was also a coward; he didn’t want to stand for anything, and so he’d play at being the reasonable guy always in the center. Which meant if I needed him to have my back on something, I was the one being “immature” and “taking sides”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:52 PM |
| 186 | Men will date/marry women they aren’t even attracted to/like, if their appearance brings them status.When I was coming of age (the 90s), big booty was definitely NOT in in the white suburban town I grew up in. Thin was in, small butt, sometimes sporty/fit would be in too (like when Linda Hamilton and sporty VS models were briefly popular). I’m pear-shaped and have always had a booty and boys used to say it was gross. Girls would be like “ewww your butt sticks out!” Sure, we all laughed at “Baby Got Back” but nobody was out here thinking big butts were hot. So yup, it’s all very cultural. Just l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:04 PM |
| 424 | This is how a HVM should reactGood for him. That poor woman. I smell a narc parents and Golden Child/Scapegoat situation here and that he picked up on it? A+. So many guys would reinforce her family’s gaslighting and agree that she’s being dramatic over nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 06:17 PM |
| 16 | Rapist redemption on TVThat scene with the woman also feeds into this lie we talk about here that men who rape or abuse don’t know what they’re doing and they can’t comprehend that they’re inflicting trauma until it happens to them. “Look, now that Deep was violated by that woman, he knows the gravity of what he did! Begin the Redemption Arc!” No. Rapists and abusers KNOW what they’re doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 01:02 AM |
| 12 | Rapist redemption on TVIt was so dumb. He imagines her stupid ghost at the bar encouraging him to bang Starlight and that’s it. Trauma over. She barely even gets mentioned after that. There was so little chemistry between him and Starlight too that I couldn’t see why she was slumming it with him. He had no charisma and wasn’t even handsome. I’m tired of “oooo let’s do superheroes! But make it dark and depressing! They’re all eeeevil! Yeeeah!” And I like dark stuff in general but Jesus Christ it’s like we are back in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 12:57 AM |
| 19 | Rapist redemption on TVThis is why Bojack Horseman is my favorite show. There’s no “grand redemption arc” for a shitty person and this is a major theme of the whole show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:59 PM |
| 33 | Rapist redemption on TVThe Boys really wore me out with its bullshit. They literally fridged his girlfriend in the first episode, the most tropey thing ever, but since it was billed as a dark satire of superheroes I was willing to ignore that and hoped they’d have something meaningful to say about that. But no. Guy almost immediately gets with Starlight (like seriously six months tops has passed in universe. And his gf died extremely gruesomely right in front of him). They try to hamfist an “emotional connection” betw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:56 PM |
| 115 | You should have a “hoe phase!”I’ve seen some men say they’ll actively prevent her pleasure, because they have contempt for the women they sleep with. They’re the ones that say “I only go down on a woman if she’s my girlfriend/wife” and just want to use your body as a fleshlight. Madonna/wh0re complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:36 PM |
| 10 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?Narcs are very weird about food. My ex MIL was a narc and she took personal offense if you didn’t like what she liked, or if you didn’t serve what she liked. All her kids had to be carbon copies of her with food or they’d catch hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:24 PM |
| 9 | Rant, discussion about sexual abuse/assault and disturbing stuff.Oh that’s right! That was the one. And now I remember I also saw the Keepers too a while back. That poor nun. 🙁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:52 PM |
| 78 | I just called the caretaker of my building to do some maintenance in my apartmentSo you’re his secretary now? Lol. I agree with the others; report this to the owners or management company for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:40 PM |
| 112 | Don't Pretend That Rats Don't ExistThis is an excellent analogy and a good response to pickmes who insist bad men don’t exist because they’ve never been assaulted or harassed, so therefore, there’s no problem. They are pretending rats don’t exist! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:38 PM |
| 13 | Rant, discussion about sexual abuse/assault and disturbing stuff.Is this the same documentary where the dumbass parents kept exposing the girl to an obvious rapist? That angers me more than anything; the man couldn’t be more obvious to those idiots if he drove a white van and wore a sign saying “I’m a predator”. They were so blinded by his religious status, if he were any other unrelated male taking an untoward interest in their daughter, perhaps it would have rung the alarm but idk these people are dangerously naive. Religion is not only affirmative action f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:01 PM |
| 143 | The self-aware LVMThe pity play is a good old fashioned narcissistic tactic. The book The Sociopath Next Door points out that one of the first major red flags of narcs and sociopaths is the pity play. Mentally healthy people are usually uncomfortable with near-strangers pitying them; it violates social norms to force that level of intimacy that quickly. When dating, or even making new friends, beware the trauma-dump or pity play! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:07 AM |
| 156 | Weight neggingThere’s two very common types of LVM weight negging. The first is the man who dates a fat woman, that was fat when he met her, and then harps on her weight non stop. The most insidious of this type will specifically choose a fat woman because they think she has low self esteem and so will be “down for anything” and just grateful for male scraps. The second is the man that dates a straight-sized or even underweight woman, and tries to manipulate her into thinking she’s overweight to destroy her s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 12:53 AM |
| 338 | "If you aren't attracted to 17-18 year olds, your either abnormal or a liar". This makes me feel so afraid for young women. As this becomes even more normalized, the number will just keep dropping.It’s ridiculous as well as sick. One of my kids is that age. None of their school chums is “attractive” like that. At most, you can tell they’ll be fine looking young men in 10 years. But at that age? Hell no. They’re so very obviously pubescent, both boys and girls; they’re like little undercooked loaves of bread at that age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 12:46 AM |
| 16 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Yeah from what I notice, it’s about his attitude about the dry spells. LVM will just complain about women, gripe that women don’t like nice guys or some shit, they’ll live for trolling for easy tail on OLD. They’ll talk out both sides of their mouth about how lonely they are and want a nice gf but then go dog out every woman they date. HVM might have periodic slumps but it never goes beyond “man, dating sucks sometimes”. They’re not out there calling all women b1tches. They’ll date but they don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:08 PM |
| 133 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."All the HVM I know never had years-long forever girlfriends. Sure they dated and had relationships but if it wasn’t working, they’d break up after 2 years tops. They had long “dry spells” because they didn’t just settle for a gf so they weren’t alone, or because they were lazy and wanted a mom figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:57 AM |
| 3 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Nope those are fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:36 AM |
| 25 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)I don’t have access either but I told someone else here: I can say for sure all porn subs, cringetopia, nice girls, entitled b1tch, all MRA/red pill/incel subs (but not blue or purple pill or red pill women ifaik even though they do have big incel presence), p&ssy pass denied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 06:48 PM |
| 5 | Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In TherapyI’m former military and at least in the states, the pay is really good. Especially if they’re in training or deployed. The pay and benefits are pretty much the only good thing about the army. If a soldier is broke, it’s his own fault. So often these young guys would blow their money every weekend on tattoos, expensive shoes and watches, booze, buy fancy sports cars when they lived on base, and god knows what else. Never saving for the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 05:34 PM |
| 17 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)That alone isn’t going to prevent approval. There’s reformed pickmes, libfems/sex-posi, BDSM survivors and former sex workers here. All kinds of women from all walks of life. I’m an ex-pickme and former obnoxious teenage NLOG. It’s whether this apologia is brought into this sub and is currently peppered all over your profile that we take notice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:49 AM |
| 7 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Unfortunately they don’t get retroactively approved but this sub moves fast so there’s always plenty to comment on going forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:20 AM |
| 5 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)The latter, for step 3. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:19 AM |
| 6 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Hello, clicking “join” on the subreddit front page just means you subscribe here. Anyone can subscribe. Joining as I meant it is being flaired and able to post without being culled for moderation. Unless you are banned, you will be able to comment but your comments don’t show up except to mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:17 AM |
| 9 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Moving up is decided upon by the mods when they notice consistent excellent participation. However we do have a fuckton of members so this can take a while. The vast majority of users are Newbies. I don’t have access to the banned sub list but I can tell you cringetopia is on it. Nice girls, entitled b1tch, all porn subs, all MRA or red pill subs or adjacent ones like p&ssy pass denied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:58 AM |
| 11 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Making an alt is mainly for safety, and for those that comment in places that could trigger the ban bot. If you don’t post personal info and don’t comment in those places, you may choose not to make an alt. Or, you could use your current name for FDS then make an alt for hobby and interest subs as many women find themselves harassed on non-related subs simply for posting here. It’s really up to you. Either way, alt or main, participating here well and consistently is what gets flair approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:44 AM |
| 6 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Nope, not at all. Up or downvote away! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 01:32 AM |
| 26 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Thank you for your perspective. The flair is not intended as just being mean. Like you said, the truth can hurt, but true change is rarely a comfortable process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 10:06 PM |
| 30 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)I’m on the app as well. Go under your profile name, there should be a down arrow. Click it and it will say to add an account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:10 PM |
| 54 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)You don’t have to make posts, comments will also work. I don’t have a ton of posts myself, but I commented a ton. Just be an active, contributing presence and it will happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:00 PM |
| 63 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Purple pill doesn’t get you auto banned as far as I know, no. I don’t personally have access to the ban list, but a good rule of thumb is if it’s on All, or we’ll known as a troll or MRA hive, it’s probably on the list. This is why I suggested using an alt. This issue is moot with an alt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:46 PM |
| 15 | The Guide to Being Approved (ie, Getting a Flair)Flair changes are implemented by mods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:32 PM |
| 182 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeAh, good ol OPP. One Penis Policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 04:37 AM |
| 27 | Message for side plate pick me’s. You’ll never win by disrespecting yourself & other women.Absolutely. It’s very common for wife murderers and family annihilators to be serial cheaters. I can almost guarantee when watching these true crime cases that the investigation will uncover a double life or rampant cheating/mistresses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 37 | I can’t help but feel there’s some propaganda going on to influence women away from education/ financial success… in favour of being a dedicated wife to a less intelligent, low earning partner. Here’s the evidence & my response:I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Medusa is the GOAT! Reading her posts feels like being at church (in a good way). Our Sisters of the Reformed Pickme | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:07 PM |
| 276 | "Dating for women is like shopping, dating for men is like a job interview"Like shopping. But sometimes the product you buy beats or murders you. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 09:43 PM |
| 296 | we hold SO Much power over men. even if you are partnered up already or not interested in a relationship at all, you can still empower women (and yourself) by spreading the fds messages.That is why I’m here. I’m old and married, so have no use for dating strategies, but it’s so important to bolster younger women and impress upon them that they do not need to put up with any bullshit from men, ever. Also, a lot of boundaries discussed around dating men can also be used in other areas, like with family, friends and on the job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:16 PM |
| 75 | 10 Vetting Questions for Your First DateKeep in mind that a lot of the smarter ones will tell you what they think you want to hear. Make sure their actions match their words. For example, if he gushes about how much he loves kids, but at the restaurant seems contemptuous of kids just being there. Or if he answers about the religious holidays he observes and how devout he is, but soon he’s telling you about all the porn he loves or drops hints his morals are skewed (like maybe he brags about stealing things from work). Watch for incons… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:00 PM |
| – | So many layers 😂Removed per Rule 6. Going forward, all screenshots will need to be accompanied by a comment from OP demonstrating analysis or observations through a strategic FDS lens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 02:29 PM |
| – | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Removed per Rule 6. Screenshots need to be accompanied by a comment from the OP with analysis pertaining to FDS observations and/or dating strategies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Hi there, this post was removed per Rule 14. We encourage anyone with personal questions related to dating to head over to r/AskFDS for advice. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:19 PM |
| 25 | Calling women derogatory slurs is so normalized that most people don't even recognize those slurs as such. A man can follow a woman, harass her, and call her several slurs but if she retaliates and calls him one she is the evil person and worse than than him. Clown world and clown redditLibfem logic. “No no, b1tch, slt and wh0re aren’t synonymous with woman! How silly! We’ve reclaimed it! Sexism is over!” (Ahem, never mind that those slurs are still predominantly used on women, patriarchal religions where women’s sexuality is strictly controlled are still dominant all over the world, and women get murdered at merely the perception of being a “wh0re”.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:29 PM |
| 105 | The first step in dating is realizing what you want, even if it differs from the masses.Your boundaries are YOURS. It doesn’t matter if the peanut gallery thinks they’re valid or not. They can be as strict as you want. One of the most radical things a woman can do is let go of the need for validation for what she wants in her life. From friends, family, and even from online spaces like this. While we certainly encourage women to have high standards and firm boundaries, at the end of the day, it’s your life and your call to make. You’ll know you’ve made great strides in self-confide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:03 PM |
| 273 | Concepts that need to be retiredIt’s only recently been found that old sperm is also responsible for birth defects/complications as well. I wonder how many so-called “geriatric” mothers were treated like they were to blame if their pregnancies went south, when all along, the older fathers had just as much a part to play. Sometimes, with how woefully under researched women’s bodies are in medicine, I feel like we haven’t really moved much past the medieval times when women were beheaded for not bearing sons, when it’s the sperm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:04 AM |
| 142 | blocked and deleted a scrote for switching up on me after 2nd dateDeb Cooper told a story of a guy who had a whole other apartment, rented with other guys, to use as a front to bed women. I don’t put anything past these guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:31 PM |
| 75 | Finally left my fiance thanks to this subIt really is true what they say: birds of a feather flock together. Even if he seems like he’s not like his friends. If I ever happen to be single again, one of the first things I would keep an eye out for is his friends. Past pickme self would not “judge” but now, no way. If he hangs out with misogynistic losers, even if he doesn’t actively engage in the behaviors, it doesn’t bother him enough to stop him being around it. And that’s a no from me, dawg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:55 PM |
| 27 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 32 - Jezebel.com Goes Inside UsThis episode was 🔥 from start to finish. I was sad it was over because it felt too short, that’s how good it was. Last time I felt like that was the Gail Dines episode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:47 PM |
| 75 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 32 - Jezebel.com Goes Inside UsThere’s this weird belief that white women don’t have dark or thick body hair, even amongst ourselves. When I was young and insecure about body hair, friends would tell me to just grow it out because “no one will see it, I barely shave myself!” Well yeah Stephanie, you’re a natural blonde. My hirsute ass is very noticeable, thank you very much. Of course, now I don’t really give a shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:44 PM |
| 10 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.It’s funny because it’s true! Yeah those newly “rich” guys. 🙄 “WTF, I should be able to BUY YOU now, you $&!@!” Isn’t Big Ed from 90 Day Fiancé quite wealthy? Proof that money won’t fix you if you’re completely repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:13 PM |
| 26 | having and defining your own standards is a great first step, but keep going!!! don't stop there.We’re not shallow at all. We are just hammered at since barely out of diapers to give benefit of the doubt to shitty boys that hate us, “give him a chaaaance, he liiiikes you” and any preference, even the most mild, is questioned, shouted down and people act like we’re just the most egregious beings on earth who dared say such a horrible thing like “maybe I’d like my boyfriend to be idk, handsome, if that’s not too much trouble”. It’s only been made worse with the manosphere and their constant a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 04:07 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Yay, I got a shout out (I think)! 🥳 Please consider adding WOLF to your list of orgs to donate to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 02:49 AM |
| 146 | This post will probably be removed.I completely agree about linking directly to RP YouTubes or TikToks or other bad faith actors. You’re literally putting money in these men’s pockets. The algorithm doesn’t care; a hate-watch is still a watch. The most controversial YouTubers understand this. I don’t mind if it’s a woman reacting to it though, like those funny TikToks where women (and sometimes other men) tear apart these guys. As far as the women on other relationships subs, I find it’s a mixed bag IME. There’s always a lot of s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:43 PM |
| 359 | Found one in the wild!“Mental health advocate…’cause if you date me, you’re gonna need it!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:48 AM |
| 74 | The nerve to be jealous that he didn't get the 'peak hot' version of her, what a shame for the poor woman.They don’t actually want girlfriends, that’s my conspiracy theory. These men live entirely in their heads and online, obsessing over porn and anime. Their ideal woman will never exist and they are terrified of actual relationships, so they’ll pull the ol George Costanza move of chasing women but then rejecting them for petty reasons. And that’s just the more harmless variety. The majority are narcissistic abusers who feel entitled to easy victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:23 AM |
| -19 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI cannot even with the lack of nuance. The ad absurdum fallacy that having ONE silly conservative woman on an introductory pod that was announced well in advance, now means we will be hosting Serena Joys and voting right. “Cancel culture doesn’t exist”. Easy to say when you’ve never lost your job for stating that women have cervices or some other benign shit that pisses off the wrong pundit, or your scientific research paper or articles aren’t being suppressed by the censorship machine that is o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:58 AM |
| -3 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeTell that to radfems and other women who have lost their jobs due to “wrongthink”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:29 PM |
| 228 | Yeeeeeesh I'm over male therapistsShe PAID to get the Reddit Scrote Experience™️ basically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:21 PM |
| 9 | Men are hypocrites who seethe when a woman is honest and says she wants to marry a rich man but then they will go out and long to date (and sleep with) the most beautiful women out there.They’re in deep shit?? 👀 Ooh excuse me while I read your links and indulge in some delicious schadenfreude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 10:04 PM |
| 42 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeAnd the fake vasectomy bill gets more outrage than real abortion bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:54 PM |
| 85 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeTotally agree with this. There would have been far less heat if she had not proclaimed being a “gold star republican”. The conservatives in my life who are not religious vote libertarian or independent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 09:52 PM |
| 6 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeI know we all had a problem with how contradictory and vague Elle was, but I actually think this is a good thing. It’s women like her that are open to hearing and maybe reconsidering. Women who don’t really think too deeply and live in that cognitive dissonance. You’re going to be more successful in “peaking” (for lack of a better word) these types. Someone more hardline would probably not be engaging in good faith and could not be swayed. I’m eager to meet the woman of the left side and how she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:28 PM |
| -2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)Ha I know, oof my karma. 😂 Whatever though, I stand by what I’ve said. Having one vague conservative woman on an introductory pod (which we haven’t even met the left side woman yet!) with poorly-thought-out ideas is being touted as the slippery slope to FDS recruiting for the alt-right or something. I get that women are in a fight for their rights the likes of which we haven’t seen in decades. I’m old; I’ve seen the decline very clearly. All the feminists I follow are #cancelled. But merely havi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:17 PM |
| 39 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeYes exactly, men love it when we squabble and our purpose weakens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:00 PM |
| 93 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeIf there’s one thing about men, it’s that they know how to unite as a CLASS, in their own interests, against women. No one on MRA forums gives a shit about who each man voted for and what their particular views are and whether they all agree. They are there to UNITE against women and that’s all that matters. Also, being willing to listen doesn’t mean you endorse what they’re saying at all. The guests positions were weak and contradictory IMO. She reminded me of a lot of conservatives I know irl.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:31 PM |
| 23 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyCask of Amontillado style. 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 05:13 PM |
| 168 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyDon’t forget the little hamster water bottle! Gotta keep that man hydrated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 05:11 PM |
| 40 | Men are hypocrites who seethe when a woman is honest and says she wants to marry a rich man but then they will go out and long to date (and sleep with) the most beautiful women out there.Exactly. Wealth perpetuates itself; once you have some wealth, it’s easier to acquire more. Conversely, poverty also perpetuates itself; if you start poor, it’s that much harder to dig yourself out. Despite the lie of the American Dream, upward mobility is extremely difficult. If you’re born poor, the odds are that you’ll stay poor. The poor person could want to start a business but will have a much harder time even accessing the capital to start it. And it’s why most of the current rich people … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:59 PM |
| 75 | Get a female therapist, not a male oneRight?! They get comfortable with you and that mask just comes flying off. Like dude, we aren’t shooting the shit at a bar over beers here; you’re supposed to be a paid professional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:42 PM |
| 291 | Get a female therapist, not a male one“You just didn’t want to fuck him” Yeah. AND? Men always lob this as an accusation. But 1) why would you be in a relationship with someone you did not desire and 2) as if men would pity-fuck women they don’t find attractive if they had the option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:18 PM |
| 157 | Men’s Childhood Never EndsI always used to roll my eyes when MRAs would get their shorts in a bunch about the whole “bumbling dad” trope. “Look, the wife is smart and capable and the dad is an idiot! That’s sexist against men! Grr!” Uh no, the wife is depicted a no-fun nag who always trying to spoil his fun. He’s not only the protagonist of the show, he’s also the fun-loving free spirit who the narrative sympathizes with. Because men are allowed to be fun and free. You hardly ever see the reverse with fun-loving irrespon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 141 | Two recent "dating" experiences.It was his choice to “Nice Guy” you by bombarding you with boyfriend shit. It’s not your fault, you’ve made your feelings clear numerous times. ETA if it were a woman, we’d call her a pickme and tell her to stop doing gf/wife shit for a guy she’s not even dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:19 PM |
| 22 | «Men will sexualize us anyway so why cant we earn money off it?»I had a conversation with a friend once, about stripping. She said if you’re going to be a stripper, you’ve gotta understand that it’s temporary and bank that money/have a plan, and then once you earn enough, gtfo. And stay away from booze and drugs. I don’t agree with sex work of any kind but I have to say, IF you’re going to do it, this is the smarter way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 12:28 PM |
| 69 | Straight from the horse's mouth and a reminder why you shouldn't date men you are not attracted to in some way shape or form. Because chances are he's just settling for you, if he could do better he would replace you in a heartbeatInteresting that he also said “talk with and play with”. He could easily find a woman who might not fit his porn-fried ideal, but who he could connect with on every other level. But no, he chooses women he hates every part of, just because he doesn’t want to “be alone”. And being “alone” to these men is just about sex, not companionship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 12:22 PM |
| -19 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)YESS you’ve articulated exactly my feelings! This is how I view things too. Yes the personal is political but, if I don’t have some kind of defining line between me and the world, I get miserable. Like you said, I can’t control the world, only what I do, conservatives exist, okay cool. I pick my battles and this pod? Not a battle for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 12:03 PM |
| 3 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:“You’ll get categorized” Nice threat. 🙄 I already told you I don’t vote republican nor agree with conservatives but you only hear what you want to hear and have already decided I’m your enemy. It’s like talking to a wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:09 AM |
| 17 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:☝️ certain sections of the left turn on each other in exactly these ways, so I’m so weary now of this hardline, “no 👏 platform! No 👏 questions 👏 no 👏discussion!” attitude. Give me the discussion, even if I disagree. Absurd to think this means someday we’ll be featuring men. Elle is a woman. All women experience misogyny. Left women, right women. Religious women, atheist women. Black brown or white, it doesn’t matter. It’s like Dworkin said. Liberation is for ALL women. Even women you hate and wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 01:57 AM |
| 50 | Poor PickMe did a dang photoshoot 🤦♀️😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:41 PM |
| 27 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:The hosts didn’t challenge her on it, the OP believes they should have. Fair enough but I think the purpose here was an introduction and I’m hoping the actual political pod will have more meat on its bones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:40 PM |
| 21 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:This was an introductory pod, the hosts can correct me on this, but their goal was not to challenge her here comin out guns blazing. I’m hoping the actual political pod will. I’ll be listening and hoping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:35 PM |
| 30 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:I agree with you! It’s an obvious bit of cognitive dissonance on her part like I mentioned to OP. I just don’t see the harm in having the discussion. Their goal was a political podcast with both sides, and that’s what they’re doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:27 PM |
| 33 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:You’re preaching to the choir, I agree with you. I would never vote republican either because I’m with you. I think the sticking point between us is, I don’t mind the discussion. They’re going to have a left-leaning woman on too, and I hope that she will challenge some of the obvious cognitive dissonance with being pro-abortion and pro-woman, but never voting anything other than republican. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:26 PM |
| 39 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:I didn’t get the impression the hosts necessarily agreed with her voting practices though. As hosts, they were letting her speak. They wanted a guest that was conservative. Not a guest they agree with 100%. They’ve had guests they don’t agree with before, like that educator (and a lot of us commented on it). I don’t see the issue having her on and frankly, regardless of political affiliation, we all share the female experience dealing with men. I don’t think it’s productive to kick “undesirables… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:01 PM |
| 46 | 120k of us marched across the USA in support of women's rights:Is this because of the conservative guest Elle? She specifically said she was pro abortion. To be fair she wasn’t very specific about how she is conservative. From listening to her, I got more libertarian vibes than anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 41 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?That was the worst part. It’s a real drag. A lot of recruits are fresh from their mamas house so they’re used to being cramped, but I was firmly an adult. I remember one particular moment during training where I saw an ATM like, 50 feet away and realized I could not just go use it to get some cash, because it was not in our designated area. I would have to go into the barracks, grab a battle buddy, ask the sergeant on duty for permission and then sign out. Just to go use an ATM 50 feet away. 🤦🏼… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:17 PM |
| 370 | A form of negging new to meHe sounds like a fedora-tipper. “M’lady”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 79 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.And even if for arguments sake you’re rejecting a black person because you’re racist. It’s still your prerogative. You have the right to be a racist piece of shit in your personal sphere so long as you aren’t violating laws or being violent or threatening. This line of thinking isn’t very woke but you can’t MAKE people think what you want. Educating people about prejudices =|= “sleep with xyz or you’re bigoted trash”. Like men with an Asian fetish, or who are racist towards black women. You can’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 07:06 PM |
| 15 | I'm done with men shorter than meHe would have just accused her of lying and hurled more abuse. You can’t reason with crazy. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:14 PM |
| 148 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.This line of thinking is common on the left where they try to weaponize women’s empathy for causes like equality and social justice and twist it into making them feel guilty for “discrimination”. “You need to examine your preferences” = “you need to open that p#ssy to all comers, ma’am”. This also happens when women on the left try to talk about male violence, toxic wokies will accuse them of being racist or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:11 PM |
| 152 | How does FDS feel about women in the military?I’m former military and we have a mod here who is too I believe. Personally, I never experienced any assault, harassment or bad behavior to me from my fellow male soldiers. Yeah they could be rude and crude with their humor but overall my experience was benign in that regard. It was probably due to my age; I was older than the other soldiers, which wasn’t hard considering the average age is like 19-21. HOWEVER I had some female battle buddies who were not so lucky. One was assaulted and no one d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:59 PM |
| 19 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)Ugh don’t even get me started on weapons! While I haven’t always been the biggest fan of guns (especially when the kids were little; I’m more positive toward them now), I’m actually pro-2nd amendment. In some lefty circles you might as well admit you’re a Trump-loving redneck if you’re pro 2A. Like you, I believe it’s paramount that women be allowed self-defense. And outlawing things like pepper spray and those keychain things I forget the name of, I see that as clearly anti victim, anti self de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 26 | Who remembers the little dancing gremlins from the 80’s movie Labyrinth? It’s them that I see every time scrotes get in groups and delight in clowning and trolling for ego boosts, reactions out of women, and cool points from other dudes . Pay attention to how they dance!There is SO MUCH to dissect. Look at the words of Jareth’s song As The World Falls Down. It’s about him taking her virginity. But because Sarah is afraid (and drugged) during that scene and it is being sung by the villain, it’s quite a dark song despite it sounding like a love ballad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:02 PM |
| 84 | Who remembers the little dancing gremlins from the 80’s movie Labyrinth? It’s them that I see every time scrotes get in groups and delight in clowning and trolling for ego boosts, reactions out of women, and cool points from other dudes . Pay attention to how they dance!Labyrinth in general is a brilliant female coming of age story. It’s subtle, but it tackles the uncomfortable reality of a young girl figuring out that she’s suddenly being perved on by men. It’s that feeling we all had at some point during adolescence when men’s attention changed gears and became gross, and we didn’t understand why. Sarah’s horror and bafflement are familiar. You’ve got this scene of course. You’ve got having to learn how to deal with the Nice Guy (Hoggle). You’ve got the decad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:56 PM |
| -12 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 31 - Female Political Strategy: We're Coming For You (feat. Elle)I really liked this pod! Welcome Elle! I’m currently politically homeless, I’d say my values align mostly left but I’ve been rethinking a lot of things. I’m definitely not religious and had no love for Trumpian rhetoric but the left has taken a strong-arm, censorious approach lately that I can’t get behind (dare I say…..fascistic? 🤭). And, as the pod said, either side screws over women but at least the right will be honest that they see you as Adam’s rib, born to serve. The left does the “wolf i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 38 | Having standards is not a hate crimeI had a gay coworker once who enlightened me that gay men can be just as unhygienic and entitled as straight men. He told me some horror stories. They just don’t usually deal with the same element of danger women face (and of course, pregnancy). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:16 PM |
| 41 | FDS is featured on JezebelYeah I began to bow out of the old feminist blogosphere when everything started becoming about BDSM and endless articles about why submitting to men was actually empowering, really. And sex positivity (female sexuality is valid and not a performance for men, don’t be ashamed of your body or desires, religious shaming is wrong) mutated into SeX PoSi! that we have today where exploitation is freedom, prostitution is aspirational and the will of peenfeels rule the day. ETA as for what’s going on, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:21 AM |
| 28 | FDS is featured on JezebelSigh I remember those days. REAL feminism (not the fun kind) and loads of witty, brilliant women taking the piss. The glory days. 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 03:16 AM |
| 67 | FDS is featured on JezebelI don’t even see the problem with this phrase, if they’re trying to paint it as some sort of gotcha. It’s crude yes but it’s exactly what libfems and hookup culture try to sell to women. That it’s empowering, let’s “have sex like men” and “reclaim” misogyny! It’s pickme recruiting. It’s misandrist to call any man a “fuckboi” how dare you, have you tried CoMmUnICaTiNg to him to not lie to you and use you? So yeah, FDS is all about reforming the pickme so she stops “slanging her p$ssy at fuckbois”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:57 AM |
| 25 | I saw this and couldn't stop laughing and had to share it with you all.Scrotal elephantiasis 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:20 AM |
| 221 | FDS is featured on JezebelJezebel is a primo libfem site. They’re as disingenuous as Vox because they have a vested interest in keeping our message down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 11:37 PM |
| 78 | If a man ever says something along the lines of "I am a terrible person" or "I am an asshole", take him at word, thank the Gods that he showed himself early on and GHOST/BLOCK AND DELETE. Men who say such things have nothing good to offer you. I promise you.YES. And calling back to a post earlier today, if they admit to Machiavellian beliefs or behaviors: “I like to manipulate people” “I’m a sociopath” “Empathy is foreign to me/is useless” Basically admitting to, and being proud of, these things. Also with any pity plays, beware. Seeking pity especially early on in dating, is a sure sign of a person with narcissistic tendencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 08:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm not sure what to think of this guy I've been on 4 dates withOP just letting you know, a guy walking ahead of you is a red flag in itself: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/lsp0ft/if_he_walks_faster_than_you_in_public_dump_him/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:33 PM |
| 58 | I'm not sure what to think of this guy I've been on 4 dates withThis man is telling you exactly who he is. Anyone who says they have issues with empathy and that it’s “pointless”? The most crimson flag that ever flew. Everything else is irrelevant. ETA I profile stalked you. You’re 33, 34 tops? This divorced old man with 5 kids is too old for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:25 PM |
| 32 | Block and deleteYou worked hard to be qualified to teach, and you get paid for that. Some grown ass man doesn’t get the privilege of using your labor like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:43 PM |
| 135 | Never go camping alone with a man. This woman could have died. (Reposted because pictures are broken)I hate to bring up poor Gabby but I have to wonder if this kind of scenario played out many times before he eventually murdered her. Scary shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:41 PM |
| 199 | Never go camping alone with a man. This woman could have died. (Reposted because pictures are broken)“His eco home was in the backyard of his parents house” I’m sorry this sent me though. Yikes! 😂💀 Also, yuck to him fetishizing your indigenous heritage. I cannot even imagine how tiresome that gets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:39 PM |
| 252 | Racist scrote had it comingMen are always saying disgusting things like this. “Well she WaNtEd me to abuse her, what choice did I have?” 🤡 Even IF this poor woman had self esteem so low she wanted “race play”, it says a lot about a man if he’s just like, hot damn, ok! It’s sick. If I suddenly wanted my husband to abuse me in bed he’d be extremely concerned, not eager to get his dick wet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:32 PM |
| 46 | Block and deleteAgree and that’s why spaces like this sub are invaluable. However, being here has taught me the mystery is never that deep. The reason they do these things is because they want to. They feel entitled to do it and that’s all there is to it. My overly-analytical ass used to get mad when someone would tell me “he’s just an asshole, don’t bother” and I’d be like, there HAS to be more to it. But sadly, nope. There never was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:27 PM |
| 247 | Never go camping alone with a man. This woman could have died. (Reposted because pictures are broken)Good god that is terrifying. I also have a fear of bears because, unlike some other predators, they will not bother killing you before eating you. I would caution her not to use the fact that he owes her money to continue engaging with him. Take him to small claims court if you wish but don’t get drawn into back and forth drama about money/items. This man is dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:22 PM |
| 73 | Block and deleteMen will always tell you that block and delete is terrible! The height of rudeness! They’ll call you immature and press you to keep engaging. But one thing I have learned is, that if men don’t like something, it’s because it doesn’t serve their purpose but it serves yours. This goes for lots of things; it’s why they love liberal feminism too. It’s a good cheat sheet for what we should be doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Never go camping alone with a man. This woman could have died.Pictures are broken. 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:06 PM |
| 74 | Block and deleteYes. You’re not a “quitter” by refusing to waste your time and energy. You’re not a coward either. It’s that you are SO secure, SO confident in your own judgment, that explanation is unnecessary. THAT is real power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:05 PM |
| 76 | Racist scrote had it comingYup no sympathy. These are the types of hypocrites that would have no problem getting someone fired for “wrongthink” at work. Oh, how the turntables… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:52 PM |
| 690 | Racist scrote had it comingIf you were so loud that a neighbor was able to record you through the walls, and obtain a recording clear enough so that your employer could hear every word you say, then it is not a matter of “privacy”. You made your disgusting racism eeeeveryone’s business. I’m extra salty because I live in a crowded apartment and the inconsiderate behaviors of neighbors really chaps my ass. If I can hear every word you say, you’re too fucking loud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:06 PM |
| 188 | Block and deleteAside from the “who pays for dates” thing, this seems to be a big final sticking point for a lot of women here. They are just so darned determined to engage. My theory is it’s because so many women are type A and very driven, especially nowadays. They like answers, to have things settled; ambiguity makes them uneasy. They like to problem-solve and are good at it, so think, surely, I can figure out the right words to unlock the meaning behind what this man is saying. They have this mistaken idea … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:00 PM |
| 53 | Weekly FDS Check-InMen have a very low bar to meet in order to be hailed as smokin hot kings, especially online. Just look at the “rate me” subs here. It’s just painfully average dudes hyping each other up, while insulting genuinely beautiful women because they’re getting some kind of imaginary revenge on the pretty girl who rejected them in high school. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 01:12 PM |
| 57 | Weekly FDS Check-InThe change of the seasons is hitting me hard this year. I love autumn but I have no energy, ugh. I just want to hibernate under a blanket forever. 😫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:54 PM |
| 91 | What in the FUCK did I just readExactly, he’s the kind of piece of shit who will willingly date a fat woman, but then harp on about how fat she is. Asshole, I was fat when you met me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:48 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Check-InI read some Susan Forward in the 90s too and I remember her being good. I’d have to reread that one. Her book Toxic Parents was also good but warning: it is extremely frank and graphic at points so could be triggering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 12:43 PM |
| 153 | What are your thoughts?Yeah I hate these posts and they are very “Reddit relationship”. Look how qUiRkY we are! Aren’t I a cute boyfriend? My gf is a bonafide manic pixie dream girl! Yuck. He’s humiliating her for karma points. Just tell HER you like her cute songs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 144 | Weaponized incompetence is a form of mental abuse.The difference is, when a woman is alone and her life is a mess, people are like “what’s wrong with her?” But if she’s living with a guy and her life is still a mess they also say “what’s wrong with her?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:51 PM |
| 44 | Ghosting is the only way of dumping. Saying goodbye always opens you to being gaslighted, manipulated and places the burden of explaining what went wrong on you. Just disappear. Or slowly fade. Or run.Lol yup there was one just last month or two where even a couple dudes in the comments were like “uh bro you sound a little incely no offense”. At least OPs comments were downvoted that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 08:05 PM |
| 132 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.Did you know 👀 that beards have been tested and half contain fecal matter? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:40 PM |
| 39 | This is what happens when sex workers demand respect. It’s almost like selling your body teaches men you are an object to be used! Who woulda thought!?From another comment I learned she’s a cosplayer. Her biggest mistake is entertaining this guy and responding. Block and delete at the first message. Rest assured, getting a chance to hurl paragraphs of abuse at these women makes their tiny wieners hard too. Don’t ever give them the satisfaction of speaking with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:26 PM |
| 71 | Ghosting is the only way of dumping. Saying goodbye always opens you to being gaslighted, manipulated and places the burden of explaining what went wrong on you. Just disappear. Or slowly fade. Or run.There was this really brilliant post a long time ago by a woman here, about why there’s so much outrage about < 3 date ghosting (or even outrage from men that women don’t respond to their online opening message, like they actually said they want a “thank but no thanks” rather than nothing, yikes). I wish I could remember her post more but the gist was: socially attuned people who are not terminally online understand that NO answer IS an answer. They are aware enough not to push boundaries most o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:58 PM |
| 52 | HVM Traits You've Noticed in the WildI hesitate to say it’s HV because it’s kind of bare minimum, but it’s a good sign: a man who can agree to disagree, accept differences and doesn’t have to compete in every goddamn thing. It’s an LV trait to be an automatic contrarian, or to inject competition into things that are just supposed to be fun (especially with women). All the HV men in my life have this fundamental trait of not being a contrarian/competitive douche. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:51 PM |
| 206 | Ghosting is the only way of dumping. Saying goodbye always opens you to being gaslighted, manipulated and places the burden of explaining what went wrong on you. Just disappear. Or slowly fade. Or run.Hard agree, I’m pro-ghosting. I shake my head at other dating subs because inevitably you’ll get the monthly “why do people ghost, it’s so immature, so ruuuude” post with all these awards. These people are invariably talking about dating in the early stages. You don’t owe online strangers shit. Gone out a couple times maybe? You’re still strangers! Think about how friends are made. No one past school age makes insta-friends; if you hang with someone a couple times but don’t feel a vibe and just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:25 PM |
| 225 | Scrote father goes to dinner with his daughter, enjoys insinuation that he’s dating her 🤮Not surprised this soulless cheater and predator of young women would stoop so low. This is the kind of man that sees all women as sex objects, even his own family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:19 PM |
| 66 | After all these years he realizes at 57. So all those men realize this when they get old snd deserves appreciation for it? Instead they should have realized at their youth and keep his partner comfortable and loved?! Such a wasteI’m cynical too, I hate shit like this. Supposedly “heartwarming” stories that are actually depressing and dystopian the more you think about it. Like how shitty and one-sided was this poor woman’s marriage? How self-aggrandizing is her husband if he’s posting this online for cookies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 01:05 PM |
| 259 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:Statistically, some women will be inviting their future abusers or even murderers into their lives, by prioritizing men. Dark but true. The least they could do is not be fucking shitty to women but alas, that’s too much to ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 04:37 AM |
| 309 | She asked her partner of 6 years out on their first date. He confessed to her that he was unattracted to her for 2 yearsHe thought it was a good topic and honestly I would eat my hat if he’s not toxic in the relationship. Like I’d bet you he puts her down and treated her poorly. Things like that don’t come out of the blue. However he’s gone too far now and I really hope she stays away. ETA re: that Twitter thread, I think men tend to do that because society gasses them up that they have all the time in the world while simultaneously telling women they expire at 30-35, and because they feel entitled like “well, wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 03:24 AM |
| 8 | This is the worst I have seen 🤢I always have to wonder if women like this are running a grift. It seems bizarre to me to be so against your own equal rights and to be so willing to cast aside humanity, especially when she’s not coming from a religious angle. However, there’s a huge right-wing/MRA audience that eats this stuff up. It came out a while back how some of the popular alt-right content creators didn’t even believe the shit they said, there was just a ton of money in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 07:30 PM |
| 43 | Mutual friend asked me to ask him out!What? No. If he wanted to, he would. There’s no such thing as a “shy” or “oblivious” man when he really wants a woman. He might SAY he’s oblivious to maintain plausible deniability and avoid effort. Also if it’s really true that he thinks you’re too good for him, watch out. That’s often a trap to flatter women into thinking he will value her but he won’t. Insecure men make shitty prospects. Nice neg from your friend btw. I tHoUgHt YoU WeRe PrOgReSsiVe. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:48 PM |
| 5 | It’s easy to be generous with people you love.The iconic “laundromat date” post… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:10 PM |
| 74 | It’s easy to be generous with people you love.I mean, I’ve gladly paid for my friend just for her company, when money was tight for her. It wasn’t transactional at all; I was glad to do it. So I figure a man supposedly into a woman and trying to impress her could do that too. Men themselves admit this: when they’re really into a woman they want to treat her. The only reason they cheap out is because they’re trying to spin plates so they can fuck off with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:20 AM |
| 21 | Just because you are both HV doesn't mean you will be compatible.May be controversial, but I’d urge any women who are prone to crushes or pining to consider these men LV…for THEM. It doesn’t mean they are LV in general but thinking this way can help squelch unrealistic feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:35 PM |
| 209 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?I’m American, I don’t know any Ukrainians, I have no idea about their dating culture and yet! This was extremely entertaining. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 11:20 PM |
| 15 | I’d show you the comment I was responding to, but he deleted it. Called out a misogynist and he wrote an essay in response.I’d be willing to bet money, given Reddit demographics, this guy was at most in diapers in the 90s. Doesn’t have a clue what it was like. Just like every asshole online waxing about the “good old days”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 10:23 PM |
| 10 | My coworkerMaybe it’s just my non-religious bias, but I’m MORE suspicious of outwardly religious men, not less. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:49 PM |
| 188 | What is so hard about respecting people’s time?I don’t have any advice but flakes are the absolute WORST. I have no patience for them. I get being a little flexible on time but come on, 50+ minutes late is egregious. And your friend making you wait over an hour? Disrespectful. You were right to leave when you did and they SUCK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:45 PM |
| 275 | I’d show you the comment I was responding to, but he deleted it. Called out a misogynist and he wrote an essay in response.He sounds like the literal personification of those “SJW FEMINIST gets WRECKED with FACTS and LOGIC” YouTube videos. What a loser, micro-dick energy. 🤏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:17 PM |
| 21 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?I’m so sorry for your loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 12:30 PM |
| 99 | Oh how the turntables...I love stuff like this! For us comics nerds/visual media fans, I present the Hawkeye Initiative! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:56 AM |
| 32 | Men will have sex and date “younger women” who act like literal children. How can anyone be turned on by that? 🤮Because they think with their dicks only. I’ve known so many guys (family, friends, coworkers!) who married women they don’t like, have nothing in common with, butt heads all the time. Just complaining endlessly about their women but, she was hot and they think with their dick. If you suggest that maybe they should also look for compatibility or good temperament as well, they hem and haw and then admit the sex is great and she’s hot. Then STOP COMPLAINING, Jesus Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:39 AM |
| 89 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.That does sound nice as a leisurely, solo activity. But as a date, yeah you’re right, absolutely not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:25 AM |
| 108 | What’s something that you thought you had to do but realized it’s misogyny and actually doesn’t benefit you?A few WEEKS after the man died?! Geez that is a psychopathic question, just think of the chutzpah one would need to ask a widow that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:10 AM |
| 267 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.Coffee…hopping? Is that like bar hopping but to cafes instead, to drink multiple coffees over an afternoon? All I’m thinking about are the many bathroom breaks I’d need and the bubble-guts I’d have while walking. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:02 AM |
| 140 | Sis needs helpShe might even end up here in a few years, “yeah when I was 22 I dated this old scrote who treated me like shit, he paraded me around like a trophy around his gross leering friends, I still made more money than he did even though I was a fresh graduate …it was embarrassing and infuriating”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:43 PM |
| 126 | The most dangerous thing about narcissism is that people think it’s excessive self-love, when it’s actually chronic self-loathing.It’s also self-loathing that will NOT respond to your love or empathy, nor do they have empathy for others. They also HATE weakness so you trying to engage their self-loathing with understanding will be seen as an attack. The best thing is to disengage and get away. I think people (not you OP, just in general) hear “narcissists are self-loathing” and mistakenly think they should try to reach them, as one might with a non-narcissist just having a hard time or low self esteem. But this is a bad id… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:23 PM |
| 227 | Sis needs helpThey do often start affectionate then drop it, but sadly, sometimes these guys are cold from jump but women still chase them. I blame a lot of media for pushing this idea that the cold guy who acts like he hates you actually secretly loves you, or he will come to love you if you just love him hard enough. Anime and manga/manhwa is particularly bad with this and it’s extremely popular with the young crowd. This guy does not exist in real life. Women will save themselves worlds of hurt the second … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:58 PM |
| 946 | Sis needs helpThis is very sad and she needs to stop torturing herself. It seems like she chased him and poured all her love and effort into him and he was lukewarm at best. I want to emphasize to any young women reading this: please know that if a guy tries to excuse his lack of love and affection for you with “that’s just my personality”, he is LYING and dump him ASAP. There is no such thing as a man who is madly in love with a woman, but his “personality” makes him cold and expressionless. This is a big ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:39 PM |
| 8 | Queens, we have angered reddit again...😂 The comments are really nice.They love twisting things around and playing the victim. By all means, my body my choice, but don’t expect women to have raw sex with your gross community penis. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:04 PM |
| 10 | Queens, we have angered reddit again...😂 The comments are really nice.Oh I meant I remember OUR thread. Probably the one he was cherry-picking from to get all offended. Iirc it was us saying why men weren’t expected to control where they indiscriminately spray their sperm, why laws never target that issue and always women’s wombs, and there was talk about vasectomies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Everyone in the comments was congratulating him. I'm so confusedSaaame it was my dad, and his mom (grandma). This crap is very familiar to those of us with experiences with narcs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:59 PM |
| 27 | Queens, we have angered reddit again...😂 The comments are really nice.Yup I remember that thread, it was in response to the Texas shit. It’s not said in seriousness; it is said to highlight the injustice of what’s happening to women. If something being done to men sounds utterly horrific, but if a similar thing done to women is just whatever, then you’re a misogynist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:57 PM |
| 48 | "unapologetically advocate for life"Honestly I would have a lot more respect for pro-birthers if they did not so often vote against anything that helps mothers, babies, the poor etc. I’ve known some Christian leftists and even though I very much disagree with them and am pro choice, they at least followed their own religious teachings about helping the poor and supported social programs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:15 PM |
| 4 | It's no wonder that men are as dysfunctional as they are... this is from a men's therapist's site...I do agree and I too have seen men, fat and otherwise, drag normal BMI or even underweight (!!) women for their weight. I’m convinced this is nothing but plain abuse because what’s the go-to insult men throw at women to hurt them? FAT. Regardless of whether you’re actually fat they’ll say it (not that it’s ok if you are fat, like if I’m so gross, there’s the door). I also have no sympathy for fat men. It’s SO EASY for them to gain muscle and drop weight especially young ones, like <35! I have to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:03 PM |
| 28 | It's no wonder that men are as dysfunctional as they are... this is from a men's therapist's site...Ive seen men whine about their wives being fat, actually neg her to her face or to their friends and family about her cellulite and stretch marks. But they’ll sabotage her diet if she’s trying to eat healthy. They’ll b1tch about the cost of gym memberships. They’ll insinuate she’s a ho because “who are you trying to look good for, huh!?” They’ll begrudge her every second they watch the kids to give her time to work out. Their emotional terrorism saps her motivation. Meanwhile they are still call… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:23 PM |
| 38 | LVM: I build. I’m a pRotEctOr 🤣 FDS….And then we need to be game for porn-star sex with them later where we ignore our discomfort, cater to only their needs and know all the tricks (but we can’t have previous partners before them or we’d be sloots). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:13 PM |
| 60 | Let me guess, Wayne Couzens was involved with the manosphere and the rampant bro culture and misogyny amongst male police officers is why his ‘ties to indecent exposure’ went ‘missed’The vetting check was “not done correctly” and an indecent exposure incident was “missed”. I don’t believe for one second this was some kind of accidental oversight. They probably, like millions of other ignorant people, think flashing is no big deal or just a bit of cheeky “boys will be boys” fun, and CHOSE to let it go. Flashing, groping and peeping are serious criminal indicators that often escalate. Absolutely shameful that law enforcement, who should know this, just let it slide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 136 | Everyone in the comments was congratulating him. I'm so confusedI find that response VERY telling because IME, only the shitty, narcissistic people in my life responded with ad absurdum or ridiculous worst-case scenarios, to shut down dissent. “Well maybe I should just GIVE HIM TO CHILD SERVICES then. Or better yet KILL MYSELF and make him an ORPHAN, would that make you HAPPY?!” Y’know, shit like that. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:35 PM |
| 14 | Deb Cooper spitting facts. "LEFTOVER MEN: Uneducated, Unemployed, Undesirable"You were a paying client of hers? That’s interesting. I’m a big Deb fan but I also disagree with her a lot on some things. Well for one thing, she loves coffee dates! But more importantly, she doesn’t understand the concept of “digital disrespect” ie, a man following tons of online thirst traps and acting the fool online. She tells female LWs that they’re immature and need to get over it/get a hobby because social media is stupid/doesn’t mean anything. She’s often saying “it’s not necessarily th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 12:27 PM |
| 102 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESHoly mentionitis! You know he’s into her because he can’t stop mentioning her. This was a major peeve when I dated after my divorce. Supposedly “single” guys but they were MESSY as fuck: “friends” but they were really exes or unrequited crushes he liked, multiple FWBs, incestuous friend groups where everyone has slept with everyone. Ugh. I even remember venting to a Cool Girl friend of mine about it and she was like, well that’s how things are, you can’t get hung up on that stuff. Like hell! How… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:39 AM |
| 58 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESPlease do, I am hooked and would totally buy your book. 🍿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 01:35 AM |
| 17 | Scrote: I have $7.5 M in assets, my wife has cancer, we have three little kids, if I quit my job I might resent the fact that I never got to my arbitrary $10 M target, I'm thinking of leaving her because the stress is too much for me😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:50 PM |
| 27 | Benevolent sexism - opinions on men protecting women? (Or for example doing the heavy lifting etc.)Let him take the heavy things! Men are stronger and they need to make themselves useful. It does not mean we are incapable or are not strong. Now if he tries to hit you with BS like “well you should clean the coffee room because women are just better at that/men don’t see dirt/it’s in your nature, then growl at him (also, throw a sponge at his head). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:02 PM |
| 106 | Benevolent sexism - opinions on men protecting women? (Or for example doing the heavy lifting etc.)That too. Somewhere along the way, feminism decided that acknowledging physical differences = sexism. Probably because sexist assholes used to use those differences as “proof” of female inferiority, so early libfems countered with “strong female characters” and downplaying the strength difference. But we were silly for even accepting those male-centered parameters, as there’s plenty of things women can do physically that men cannot as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 01:50 PM |
| 205 | Benevolent sexism - opinions on men protecting women? (Or for example doing the heavy lifting etc.)See, nowadays I see it as very libfem to lump “heavy lifting” in with benevolent sexism. Libfem loves this idea that men and women are completely physically equal, that Buffy and other “waif-fu” examples is attainable for an average woman. It gives woke young women very skewed ideas about abuse and violence, that it is somehow an equal-opportunity evil, when all stats show it is not. It also lies to them about their vulnerability, making them over confident and putting them in potential danger. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 01:33 PM |
| 4 | An NYU professor says fewer men going to college will lead to a 'mating crisis' with the US producing too many 'broke and alone' menThey’re all about social Darwinism until women start exercising their freedoms. “No, not like that” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 11:14 PM |
| 44 | An NYU professor says fewer men going to college will lead to a 'mating crisis' with the US producing too many 'broke and alone' menI’m in my way out right now so I might elaborate later, but the article points out that costs are driving students out. Ok, but this should also effect women. Then it says that other high paying, non college options are open to men and not much to women. But THEN it says that college is the “domain of women” and not of men. And that this is creating a “dangerous cohort”. So what is the implied solution here? More men in college? Well they are dropping out, nothing is forcing them too, and the ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 74 | An NYU professor says fewer men going to college will lead to a 'mating crisis' with the US producing too many 'broke and alone' menIf I could go the rest of my life without hearing some gross, professorial scrote pontificate about “mating” and “feeeeemales” and hiding his hatred of women’s rights and free choices under layers of big-word salad, I could die a happy woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 11 | This is what happens if you keep your DMs open. 🤢 Time to close.Yeah if you can’t resist responding (no shade, it’s hard), closing them is best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:59 PM |
| 34 | This is what happens if you keep your DMs open. 🤢 Time to close.The problem is, if you’re going to keep DMs, you cannot under any circumstances, respond in any way to men messaging you. So I keep mine open because fuck it. Also I like being able to talk to women here. But you’ve got to be utterly ruthless. Block and delete. Never respond. He got attention from you, he got to neg you like a piece of shit. I would never tell a woman not to close her DMs, but if you’re going to keep them open you can’t give a single centimeter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 27 | Saw this on the Book of Faces. Hard. Pass.Nah you’re totally right, it’s not just boomers, I see it plenty everywhere. I will say that boomer men bringing home the bacon didn’t make them any less entitled man babies, though. In fact, they acted more like spoiled princes as their wives “didn’t do anything all day anyway” so they expected to be catered to. They never cleaned or touched a diaper either. Men who started to make a big show of “helping” their wives were called “New Men” and most boomer men didn’t want to be seen as those “pan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:33 PM |
| 46 | AnnaLynne McCord says BDSM with Dominic Purcell ‘changed everything’Of course he’s a gross, abusive old man. Once again, here’s the media, trotting out and glorifying an extremely toxic, fucked-up relationship. The underlying implication being: if your relationship isn’t as hot and cold, abusive, tumultuous and sexually deviant, pft, do you even have love? Is that really your person, your ~Forever Person~, ladies? Also being wary of men because of actual trauma = hating men for no reason and you NEED to accept that “masculine energy”, ideally through your vagina… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:26 PM |
| 56 | Channeling this energy today.Not even just male validation! All the bullshit female socialization that gives women unnecessary GUILT over every goddamn thing or over asserting the tiniest of their boundaries. I’ve had friends beat themselves up over an encounter with a stranger where they feared they were “rude” (they weren’t). Who cares?! Or they’ll let family members run roughshod over them; grown ass women in their 30s and 40s who can’t stand up to them. They’ll be taken advantage of in the workplace but it’s like they d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:03 PM |
| 73 | This is horrifying, despicable and incredibly frightening.As Savannah said: cops are not your friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:30 PM |
| 115 | Channeling this energy today.40+ and it’s awesome but I also feel a disconnect with my younger sisters. I’ve gone so far into the not-giving-a-fuck territory that my advice when asked is always “just don’t, stop. who cares”. Easier said than done, I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:19 PM |
| 28 | Sick of short males crying "discrimination"I’m 5’8” and my husband is my height. He’s not a whiner either, but I had dated men before him who were! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:16 PM |
| 111 | Saw this on the Book of Faces. Hard. Pass.Ugh Facebook is so awful for that suffering wife, manchild husband boomer shit. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:53 PM |
| 2 | The entire pole is a red flagI personally haven’t seen members here slagging off mentally ill women with offensive language but definitely report them for sure. I’d be suspicious they were infiltrators trying to vilify the sub (which had happened before). Or they could just be assholes, and reporting should hopefully give them the boot. 🥾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:00 PM |
| 52 | Feminism and it's real life applications. Supporting the growth and emancipation of other women!Pisses me off. Human rights are human rights. Women are human. If you would protest a sweatshop using child labor, or governments rounding up citizens as “political prisoners” (but really that’s just an excuse for imprisonments and murders), as human rights violations to be rightly opposed, why does it never extend to women and girls, 50% of the human population? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:56 PM |
| 317 | A case study on why we don’t ask men on dates! Found on a thread about a woman asking for a man’s number.Yeah this is why, despite all the rage and frothing about how dare we expect men to ask us out, or pay for the date, well….if you wait long enough, men themselves admit that they don’t value women who chase them and when they are really into a woman, they are never too “shy” to pursue and paying for her is a pleasure. Men in my actual life told me this as well, but my libfem 🤡ass didn’t want to listen. The way I see it, I’m finally listening to these men. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:50 PM |
| 28 | The entire pole is a red flagWomen actually get help for their mental illnesses, generally speaking. The self-help industry is almost entirely funded by women. Even when untreated, women are far less likely to lash out in violence (unfortunately they more turn the violence in on themselves). Men OTOH largely reject therapy or doing things to help their mental illnesses. Typically they will use their GFs or wives as unpaid, thankless therapists. If they do avail themselves of therapy and self-help, they will often take the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:12 AM |
| 207 | After hearing about savanna talking about long ass paragraph copy paste messages on the podcast“Anything to say at all?” Uh…are your pinky and pointer fingers tired from that epic Ctrl+V? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:26 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Check-inSounds like heaven! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:52 PM |
| 37 | Weekly FDS Check-inCongratulations! I want a house SO BAD so I’m going to live vicariously through you right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:05 PM |
| 27 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?I’ve had men argue with me too. “You can’t be an NT, there are no women NTs, you must type NF and are lying.” Pft, idiots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:45 AM |
| 15 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?This, I used to hang out in the INTP sub but it’s full of teenage boy edgelords. The very few women who posted were Cool Girls or extremely depressed and it was depressing to spend time in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:43 AM |
| 39 | 16 mins of Nikki Glasser saying Pickme.That cool-girl sex talk is all that gets women comedians really popular these days. But then men will turn around and say that women comedians aren’t funny because all they joke about is their vaginas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:56 PM |
| 68 | More and more of us are catching on!I don’t think this is meant to indicate a guy she’s actually dating. Rather it’s that random guy hitting you up out of nowhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 01:59 PM |
| 50 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Men are not shy when it comes to women they really want, and there’s nothing so awful as seeing a “shy” guy you made excuses for, suddenly spring to life and chase a woman that is not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:02 AM |
| 62 | Don’t make it about what they didn’t do.Still too much explaining though. One date and you’re saying all that? Nah, just drop him with the good ol block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 11:48 PM |
| 154 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.I used to think like this too and yes, in a certain light, it can be considered “old fashioned” and arguably sexist. BUT. The issue w libfem is that it operates in the Land of Should. It should work in a perfect world, but it does not work in practice. There are many reasons why, but my own (failure) experiences and the stories of other women failing are enough to go by at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:44 PM |
| 51 | How are we meant to know?Did he get drunk and fall asleep on the couch? Well too bad, if he didn’t want me to go through and rob his house while he was passed out drunk he shouldn’t have been drinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 1 | I just remembered something my Nex said at the beginningHaha thanks 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 06:07 PM |
| 105 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.Or they just end up doubling down and defending, then staying. Most people just want to vent, but after the venting is done and they feel better, they start reading the critical comments as too harsh. “It’s not like that, he’s not that bad, you don’t know him” etc. I have found that when people are well and truly done, they don’t bother venting anymore. They just pull that trigger and end it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 04:10 PM |
| 82 | Online dating as a childfree woman can be an abusive and traumatic experienceThe most aggravating part is, they’re shitty to childfree women, but if she wants kids, they’ll hem and haw and string her along, wasting her years. It’s almost as if scrotes change up what they want based on NOT giving a woman what she wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:41 AM |
| 36 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowAh yes, everybody make way for the Super Genius! Pitiful mortals, for you can’t even BEGIN to grasp his MIGHTY intellectual prowess. Pft, you can’t GRASP PROWESS, you BUFFOON, it’s a concept. Hahaha, what a mental midget you are. Just give up, for it is hopeless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 161 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.They’re 100 years old and he’s holding her hand on her deathbed, after a blissful decades-long union. She bids him, come closer, so that she may whisper her final words to him. He bends down, gently, tears in his eyes. Her sweet lips brush his ear as she gasps: “Psyche.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:18 PM |
| 116 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"This merry-go-round is forever spinning. Back when the “schrodinger’s rapist” post was popular over 10 years ago men had an aneurysm crying about men’s “intentions” and how dare we be wary of men on the street because maybe they are not “intending” to scare you so you don’t need to protect yourself. Assuming bad intentions is misandry! Intentions don’t mean shit EVER. When it comes to your safety and peace of mind, better to be safe than DEAD. None of us can see into anyone’s soul so all we have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:38 PM |
| 2 | The level of mental gymnastics hereOh sorry I wasn’t targeting that comment at you. Just in general. And yeah you’ll probably see it if you hang out there long enough, a lot of it is just an excuse to hate on fat wives of soldiers. The husbands of female soldiers don’t get a degrading name, even though I knew a ton of female soldiers married to (and forever GFs with) absolute losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:18 PM |
| 533 | Scrote defends abuse scrote who physically assaulted his bride with a 5+ layer wedding cake, claims "it wouldn't be traumatic"This is a perfect example of how Reddit (outside this sub) will gaslight women to ignore blatant and egregious abuse and disrespect. Who gives a fuck what his “intentions” were?! Why do we have to play Miss Cleo and try to divine a man’s secret, hidden intentions buried in his heart. His ACTIONS spoke and said everything a woman needs to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:05 PM |
| 151 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksIt’s projection. For THEM, looks are paramount. Only the youngest, hottest women will do for these guys. So they assume that women have the same mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:47 PM |
| 24 | Guy makes funny musical remixes with misogynists and racists. Hey everyone! It's my first time posting here and I wanted to share this guy, he made me laugh!Men will say “I’m not turned on by a female CEO” but then those same men on dates be like “soooo uhh where you live? Whatchu drive? What kind of salary you making?? Need a roommate??” 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 17 | Look at how normalized it is to make ""jokes"" like this...1k upvotes 🤢They say “not all men” when it comes to male violence but then want to say “all men” when they claim men built civilization and do everything and women are nothing but ungrateful holes, even if they personally are loser NEETs who couldn’t pick a wrench out of a toolbox. It’s all just horseshit. Deflecting and lies and you should never take it seriously either way. ETA: would they laugh if someone made this joke about a white man killing a black man? In certain subs they would have, but those hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:51 PM |
| 13 | Look at how normalized it is to make ""jokes"" like this...1k upvotes 🤢Same, fuck em. And if they start crying on their phony high horses, just clown them tenfold. (They only cry these crocodile tears or play at umbrage because they hope Female Socialization™️ will kick in once the man displays hurt feelings. HAHA NOPE.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:44 PM |
| 4 | The level of mental gymnastics hereOh believe me I know it’s a weird cult. I was in the military. Not only was I a soldier, my ex husband is still in as an officer. So I got all the spouse stuff too. It doesn’t mean I won’t call this woman out for being silly. Like I said in my other comment, wanting him to be an adult and pick up after himself wouldn’t mean you don’t appreciate him if he dies in combat. Like the system tries to guilt trip women to never have any issues or problems of their own because he might die! How dare you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:33 PM |
| 3 | The level of mental gymnastics hereI don’t like “dependa” stuff because it’s just men making fun of women (plus it’s mostly fat jokes). I’ll point out her pickmeism but I’ll never call her a “dependa”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:02 PM |
| 136 | Look at how normalized it is to make ""jokes"" like this...1k upvotes 🤢Seriously. Plus it chaps my ass how being “woke” is in but this shit is always and forever allowed, endorsed and applauded. It makes me miss the Reagan era where at least no one was pretending to be all woke while still openly hating women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:56 AM |
| 58 | A review I saw. The fact the other adults at the table didn’t say anything is disheartening.Ew, I love hibachi and it makes me sad that a gross perv pedo ruined it. All my experiences (and chefs) have been great. Definitely complain to management. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:43 AM |
| 65 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.Oof it’s so bad on the east coast. Basic male uniform here: ball cap, ratty cargo shorts, and a sports jersey. Dressing up? Swap that sports jersey for an ill-fitting polo shirt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:39 AM |
| 454 | Look at how normalized it is to make ""jokes"" like this...1k upvotes 🤢There used to be this concept of “too soon”. Not that this is ever fucking funny, but everyone’s gotta be a lame edgelord, especially about women. I never thought I’d see a more blatantly sexist modern era than the early 00s but here we are. Back then, we were only relentlessly sexualized and treated like stupid children, in the name of jokes. Now, the jokes are about our tortures and deaths. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.Right?! Like everything that could possibly go wrong, and every way he could show his ass, it did and he did. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:21 AM |
| 340 | The level of mental gymnastics hereYou can wish your husband to not die, and still expect him to pick up after himself like a fucking adult. These two things are not mutually exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:06 AM |
| 494 | The level of mental gymnastics hereIs this a military wife? I swear, I’m former military and military wives are the biggest pickmes. They also have that gross “religious worship” undertone to how they view their soldier husband. Calm down, Brittany, he’s an 88H, he ain’t storming the beaches of Normandy or some shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:57 AM |
| 39 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.I have to admit I laughed. A sitcom couldn’t write an episode this funny. Just imagining some drunk, shirtless asshole twerking on the dance floor for 45 sustained minutes? Comedy gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:16 PM |
| 112 | What happens when a forever girlfriend finally gets married.Angelina was also the Other Woman so it was just a whole bowl full of Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 09:13 PM |
| 127 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.At best, they’ll regard you as a sweet pet or an annoying child. Think about the extremely common dynamic of a woman bringing an issue to his attention, only for him to ignore her. Or “yes” her, but change nothing. Or get defensive/hostile. If you really respect someone as an equal, you’re not going to treat their feelings like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:37 PM |
| 328 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮Every time I see something like this it reminds me of that savage tweet: “suck HIS titties”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 03:01 AM |
| 49 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???Can you imagine being such a shitty waste of skin as these narcissistic abusers and creeps? Even the worst woman here won’t show this level of psychopathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:33 AM |
| 141 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢This isn’t the first post like this I’ve seen where the guy claims his gf doesn’t masturbate whatsoever. Which rings false to me and like he’s trying to frame her as some kind of prude. Women do masturbate and for various reasons we are less vocal about it, but we do. Or is it that he’s paired porn and masturbation so thoroughly in his mind that when she says she doesn’t like or watch porn, he ASSUMES she doesn’t masturbate at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:54 PM |
| 75 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???If he can’t even keep his mask on in an internet post, I shudder to think what kind of vibe he gives off irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:50 PM |
| 164 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Right?! I do it too and I don’t have to exploit my fellow women to get off. It’s frankly pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 590 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢Only ONE comment with sanity pointing out that masturbation =/= porn. Reddit always conflates the two. You can masturbate without porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:12 PM |
| 15 | Newly-separated Scrote creeps on female FB friends, throws mantrum when they don't respondExactly and because they don’t actually respect women, they keep kicking the can (problems) down the road and then get shocked pikachu face when women finally have enough and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:03 PM |
| 66 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightYes!! Guys do this because after you’ve pushed it aside, most people would think “well, it would be weird to bring it up now. Things are smooth now so it would be awkward” and that’s just what these guys are banking on. Think of it this way: I BET he’s never, like a week later after his project, come to you saying “ok hon, remember that thing you wanted to discuss last week but I was busy? Well good news, it’s all done now, so I just wanted to check in w you to talk about it and make sure things… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.I agree that she pioneered expressing boundaries specifically in geek circles where typically, people ignored talking about that stuff. Her stuff is great for friends especially. Totally with you on the performative wokeness, that’s actually what started to make me stop reading her (and I was still deeply libfem). It just got too much with “sit them down and communicate but also nitpick over every word and careful not to offend or shame” and I realized that people who ignore or trample your boun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:10 PM |
| 217 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???Yep, predators use the unspoken rules of politeness and civility against people they target. Women are given female socialization on top of this: don’t be rude, don’t make waves, never raise your voice or yell, always give people the benefit of the doubt, what people think of you is more important than your safety (ie, “I wanted to say something but I didn’t want people to think I was crazy”), etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:03 PM |
| 830 | Some scrotes actually think like this--can you even imagine the privilege to complain about this???See how the mask slips in that edit? This is why I never believe these shitty posts. I’ve never heard a good guy in my life complain about this. Not my husband, not my brother, not extended family or friends, hell, not even my ex husband and sexist boomer dad. The ONLY guys who actually complain about this are the creeps, weirdos and misogynists pushing an agenda. And you can just tell they are waiting for someone to say “uh only creeps say this” so they can get on their fake high horse like “ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:49 PM |
| 22 | What's everyone's MBTI type?I mean pseudo science irks me too but like…MBTI really isn’t that deep. It’s just a fun ice breaker and you get to learn more about others (or at least, how they see themselves, depending on how accurately you think they answered, but that’s interesting to me too). ENTP women are always great! I always jive with them. The men I’ve known though, yeesh, always come off like sleazy salesmen to me. One of my exes, Mr. “I-like-to-manipulate-people-it’s-easy” said he was ENTP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:09 PM |
| 44 | What's everyone's MBTI type?Wow the upvote/downvote on this post, people really don’t like MBTI. I don’t take it seriously, it’s just a bit of fun, even though it’s “astrology for people who think they’re too smart for astrology”. But astrology is also fun, and this is because I’m a Gemini with Scorpio rising, so of course I’d think that. 😛 I test INTP-A, which doesn’t surprise me because I’m also a turbo-nerd. 🤓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 16 | I don’t believe it when men say they can’t understand women.“I’m A dOMiNaNt AlPhA mALe!” posts that cringey meme of the full grown man lying in a woman’s lap sucking on a binky | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:51 PM |
| 75 | There’s no way these ladies are serious…🙃It’s totally gross, to me it reads exactly the same as losers online shouting “make me a sammich”. Just because he says it differently with some flirting doesn’t mean the sentiment isn’t the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.Good god Captain Awkward! I used to read that back in the day. But truly she was the queen of “JuSt CoMmUnIcAtE”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:16 PM |
| 17 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 29 - 50/50 is a Scam: Why Men Should Always Pay More +Patchy Beard McWhiskeyD*ckI know right, me too, get your popcorn ready! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:10 PM |
| 110 | Newly-separated Scrote creeps on female FB friends, throws mantrum when they don't respondUgh god it happens on Reddit too, I’m getting flashbacks to when I used to waste time engaging with men on other dating subs. “Halp! I’m so lonely! I just want women to go out with me, why am I rejected??” looks at horrible comment history and current, rude responses on thread “Why not be less of an entitled incel who openly hates women? Why not stop lying and playing weird games?” “But then I’d get no maaaaatches! You women don’t understand that women love abuse! Shut up, hole! You’re all again… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:59 AM |
| 28 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.It’s origin is unfortunately from a 2012 libfem kinkmeisha blog, but it was a brilliant post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:20 AM |
| 175 | Newly-separated Scrote creeps on female FB friends, throws mantrum when they don't respondThose women are wasting their time on this idiot. The best thing would be if all these women just mass-unfriended him without a single word. Hear the lonely wind howl; watch the tumbleweed slowly roll over his empty comment section and dwindling Friends list. A girl can dream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:19 AM |
| 18 | Scrote messages to teach me a philosophical lesson excited to mention Gabbie Petito “but hey, at least my sex isn’t being murdered” 🤡This is literally a piece of shit ghoul trying to “trigger” you. Never, ever give them any kind of acknowledgment. Posting it here is giving them what they want as the other comments said. Let them wither away in the void of your silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:14 AM |
| 215 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.I’m glad he’s OUT of your life! Yknow more and more I find myself agreeing with Deb Cooper about having no unsupervised males around young girls, not ever, not even in the periphery of the family. Especially unrelated males, in her words, “I don’t trust any of those motherfuckers.” She had her own experience when a friend of her dad’s, a trusted friend for many years, perved on her as a girl resulting in her dad going apeshit and ending the friendship. Heard way too many stories of guys that had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 486 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.This is refreshing to hear; usually friend groups circle the wagons around the abuser or missing stair in the group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:27 AM |
| 223 | *questions my entire childhood*She was though. Even before I knew what pickmes were I never understood Tinkerbell. Peter was a little asshole and she’d always get mad at other girls rather than at Peter as she should. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:24 AM |
| 38 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesPlease stick around and gain support from the amazing women here. You are welcome here. 🧡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:20 AM |
| 222 | If someone does not meet your standards, it is better to just not date them at all, rather than date them and try to change them into the person you actually want to date.It’s amazing that this advice is considered “radical” or “mean”. That’s really all this sub is about. 99.99% of people you meet aren’t going to be romantically compatible with you. You’re looking for the one that is. It’s better to cut people off as early as possible so as not to waste their time and yours. How is this controversial? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 01:49 AM |
| 49 | What the fuck is wrong with me? I either attract people who are self destructive or destructive to others. I don’t get attached I continuously keep finding out and I feel cursed.Girl I’m just like you. Only it’s not just men. It’s hard to be friends with women too because (and I’m not trying to sound like an asshole here) it seems very in vogue to overshare about all your very serious mental health issues (and physical too, after a certain age!). And sadly the ones I “click” with mentally seem to have this issue. The last good female friend I had was always going on about her extremely toxic relationship, her children’s various physical and mental disorders, her own dis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 09:34 PM |
| 114 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Yes this is another important thing to know! He treated you that way because HE sucks. It’s not and never has been you. Men will dog out ALL women. Gorgeous and ugly, rich and poor, skinny and fat. All races and all creeds. From Beyoncé down to a humble barista working her way through school, it doesn’t matter. Because it is male bad behavior and they own it, not their victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Gabby Petito case is what I believe would’ve happened to me if I stayed with me ex.Exactly it’s not a matter of training. They know. No full-grown man, trained in combat and tactical maneuvers, would see tiny Gabby as a threat to a man at all. They are simply misogynistic abusers who love bro-ing it up with other abusers while punishing women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:50 PM |
| 34 | LVM admits he often doesn’t like particular woman but seeks her as ego boost to feel good enough to pursue more women...Oh most definitely, which is why I called the men coldly utilitarian. Women’s reasons have far more to do with filling emotional voids or replaying trauma. ETA I have a lot of sympathy for “sl%tty” women because every single one I’ve ever known, with the exception of ONE commitment-phobic party girl, was just looking for love but following the script modern dating tells them to follow, ie, hookup culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:11 PM |
| 133 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Men don’t randomly talk to stranger women period, without a reason. It could be as benign as him thinking you’re a bit cute and wanting some chitchat while you wait in line, or as disturbing as a man targeting you as prey. So many creepy “let’s not meet” type stories begin with men approaching naive girls apropos of nothing and she says something like “I thought nothing of it” or “he was probably just being nice”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 418 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Deconstructing typical libfem advice like “don’t be afraid to chase him! He’s just shy! It’s 202x and things are equal now!” Before this sub, I knew this advice always blew up in my face and didn’t work for my friends either. But I couldn’t really articulate it and when women on other subs gently suggested it didn’t work, they’d get shouted down and blamed. The underlying implication being that if it didn’t work you were probably just ugly and undesirable so try harder and be better. Which obvio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:36 PM |
| 54 | LVM admits he often doesn’t like particular woman but seeks her as ego boost to feel good enough to pursue more women...Sad thing is, pickmes will also have sex they don’t like for much the same reasons (less coldly utilitarian and more emotional validation). Yet these same promiscuous men ☝️will call those women sl*ts and never point the finger back at themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 155 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesExactly, like those ridiculous “trad” men demanding trad wives straight out of the early 20th century. Meanwhile they want to remain terminally online gamer coomers. Get bent, your pappy was farming the land and building shit, not tugging on his sad weenus all day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:11 PM |
| 242 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesI’m convinced these men are abusive fucks who purposely date poor students/low or minimum wage earners so that they can financially abuse and trap her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:08 PM |
| 20 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢Haha thanks! 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:53 PM |
| 40 | A BIG indicator of abuseThey don’t want to and, horrifyingly, they make the conscious decision to terrorize their wives/kids just to get what they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 79 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢I honestly don’t even know, when I imagine a bunch of dudes talking about exes, romantic pining is the last thing I imagine. They probably just talk about her tits or something. So deep! Much lost love! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:35 PM |
| 107 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢Haha “they didn’t even like” that is so true, holy shit. I will never forget this one dude I worked with. He had this fiancée who dumped him and now he put on this bitter, jaded act and openly admitted he’d never get over her. He had a current gf he treated like shit and gave her STDs because he hit on, and slept with, anything that moved. Claimed he was “a piece of shit” because of losing his fiancée Lost Lenore. But then it comes out: how did he lose her? He was an unrepentant, serial cheat! S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:32 PM |
| 202 | I feel like women might be waking up to what this sub preachesShe is ~ R E A D Y ~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:22 PM |
| 199 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢I have seen it, usually a nice college bf who it didn’t work out with due to growing up/distance/other circumstances. But I hesitate to call it “one who got away” for them because none of these women romanticize or pine for these men and let them ruin current relationships, the way men obsess over “the one who got away” (and usually she “got away” because he cheated on or mistreated her). For women it’s just a nice memory and they get on with their lives generally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:19 PM |
| 17 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”Exactly. First, they’re salty because their Wife Appliance is being noisy. Then, they are sad because the Wife Appliance leaves, now he’s got to do stuff. Boo hoo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:15 PM |
| 106 | A BIG indicator of abuseThis is what Bancroft goes over in his book Why Does He Do That to dispel the myth that domestic abusers just “lose control”. Yes there exist generally destructive hotheads, whose poor emotional control gets them a nice criminal record and a hard life. These types IME are pretty easy to spot and the ones I’ve known in my life don’t really hide it. But classic domestic abusers are far more calculated. He’s not destroying HIS things in a fit of rage. He doesn’t haul off and punch his boss in the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:12 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts?Or a man with a jizz fetish impersonating a woman. This being the internet, any time something doesn’t quite make sense, it’s probably fetish related. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:11 PM |
| 142 | Jewish Women- Please Be Careful Out ThereEspecially joking about their 🤏dicks, that’s a hate crime! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:43 PM |
| 10 | Pickme dates. He brought to the gym and for a walk? How romantic… Thoughts? 😂Plus his smile looks forced like 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:31 AM |
| 675 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”I remember reading that article way before finding FDS and it still made me feel ugh reading it. I know it’s revelatory for him and he’s supposedly contrite (plus I saw a lot of my own ex in there) but my overarching itching thought was, like….it was so simple to give a shit, dude. Men get left and then go “woe is me, if only I had done the little things and listened to her, instead of acting like a stubborn asshole and slowly whittling down her will to live until she was forced to give up on me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 12:51 AM |
| 14 | If you want a revolution, don't appeal to men in the hopes of getting them to see our POV. Instead, open other women's eyes to the stark reality of dating and gender relations.Don’t be sad! We former female geeks and freaks can stick together! 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:07 PM |
| 11 | If you want a revolution, don't appeal to men in the hopes of getting them to see our POV. Instead, open other women's eyes to the stark reality of dating and gender relations.🤗 thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:28 PM |
| 16 | Why double your risk of STIs, when you can triple it? Tik Tok Pick Me logic at its finest :S🤯 yes that’s so true, kind of like only the people in the worst relationships gush online constantly about their relationship. Like I can predict who will break up or divorce just by that! Male validation and sexual attention is literally garbage. I think back to all the validation/attention I ever got in my life and what did it really get me? Nothing. Worse than nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:05 PM |
| 31 | Why double your risk of STIs, when you can triple it? Tik Tok Pick Me logic at its finest :SOh it’s not a flex at all, it’s Pathetic with a capital P! It’s totally for male validation you’re right, look how male-gazey she’s filmed herself. As if to say “I’m revenge cheating on my bf and maybe I’ll cheat with YOU big boy”. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:23 PM |
| 18 | Avoid the YT comment sections on the Gabby Petito dashcam footageSeriously. I’m big enough to hike with a Gabby-sized backpack and even I’ve been shocked at how much more raw brute force men have over me. Men smaller and lighter than me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:09 PM |
| 65 | Why double your risk of STIs, when you can triple it? Tik Tok Pick Me logic at its finest :SSome of the jealous abusive cheaters DO care if she cheats. So she’s just embroiling herself in drama and possible danger instead of getting the hell out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:04 PM |
| 42 | If you want a revolution, don't appeal to men in the hopes of getting them to see our POV. Instead, open other women's eyes to the stark reality of dating and gender relations.Saaame ugh. Maybe I should start believing in guardian angels or some shit because I came away unscathed from some VERY sketchy situations I put myself in being a bleeding-heart. See, I grew up bullied, nerdy and outcast so I thought those boys/men were my “people”. It took way too long to realize that men who grow up that way don’t develop the same empathy towards the downtrodden, especially not women. They just get even more entitled and feel like they missed out on getting over on others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:35 PM |
| 26 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.They did the same with boy bands half a generation ago too, Backstreet Boys, NSync, and later, Justin Bieber. Just endless gay jokes and slagging off on teenage girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:09 PM |
| 24 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.“White knight” is such an empty term. A man will post a bare-minimum humane response to outright misogyny with “idk guys maybe this isn’t cool, saying that about women.” And legions of incels with cry “white knight!” and jeer “she’s not gonna fuck you bro!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:05 PM |
| 84 | so.. I let my feelings get ahead of my logic and did something idioticThis is why the only way to deal with a narc is NO CONTACT. The fact that you each keep the lines open and go back and forth just keeps the trauma bond going. It has to be you to sever it because he won’t, he’s the narcissistic abuser. Sure he’s icing you out now but trust, he will be back when he needs some supply and drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:58 PM |
| 24 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSHoly shit 😨 seems like you escaped in the nick of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:47 PM |
| 94 | If you want a revolution, don't appeal to men in the hopes of getting them to see our POV. Instead, open other women's eyes to the stark reality of dating and gender relations.It’s just like Wednesday Addams says about homicidal maniacs: “they look just like everyone else!” Manosphere twits too. Twenty years ago I would have looked at that shy, nerdy outcast boy like 😍 “let me break down your walls and love you!” Now, my eyes are so open, I think “you probably frequent…certain forums, wouldn’t be surprised if you wrote a manifesto my dude”. No attraction whatsoever. Repulsed. I can also pick out which of my teen kids’ friends sound like incels or proto-abusers and I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 92 | If you want a revolution, don't appeal to men in the hopes of getting them to see our POV. Instead, open other women's eyes to the stark reality of dating and gender relations.Yep. This was a bit of the pushback on my recent post. Here’s the other thing too: men EXPECT women to “take the high road” and try patiently teaching and explaining. To, in the words of Marge Simpson, “take his abuse with gentle good humor.” Men feel entitled to all the chances and all the explanations. When you ice them out, or confront them with mocking dismissal, I tell you they are SHOCKED! That’s not a part of female socialization! You should be JADEing him at all times! How DARE she just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 03:24 PM |
| 60 | Avoid the YT comment sections on the Gabby Petito dashcam footageSadly there are also libfem handmaidens duped into this thinking too. They’re not educated about reactive abuse and they believe that a woman of Gabby’s stature could totally waste a man, because “equality”. If you point out that a woman that size can’t possibly hurt a man, you’ll get “so you’re saying women can’t be strong?!” I know because I too used to bristle at the suggestion that a woman couldn’t always fight back. 🤡 Males obviously know the truth but they play dumb and weaponize liberal f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Don't trust men's words, trust their actions.Yeah that’s true too, if words and actions don’t match, it’s time to leave, regardless of which is true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:06 PM |
| 11 | Don't trust men's words, trust their actions.Yeah I’d amend it like: believe a man’s actions over words. Unless those words are negative (I’m an asshole, you deserve better, I still love my ex etc). Then, he’s telling you who he is and you better listen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:23 AM |
| 43 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menYes that’s exactly it, they think up some creep psycho rapist stalker and just slap “woman” on there. It reads as totally fake. The only believable ones IMO either involve drugs with no ott violence, or involve other guys (ex a woman lures a man into a mugging situation with other men). But these aren’t super popular stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 04:06 AM |
| 22 | I just remembered something my Nex said at the beginningYup, you really have to let go of control of the narrative. When I divorced my ex, his whole family, most of our mutual friends and his colleagues turned on me. I had known his family since high school. It hurt a lot. But I had to resist the urge to tell “my side”. It didn’t matter, these people had shown me who they were: people who supposedly “loved” me but were willing to cast me aside right away on his word? And believe the worst things about me with no proof despite knowing me for like 15-2… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 57 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menThanks for the rec, I always love a no-bullshit book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:38 AM |
| 88 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menKind of OT but your comment reminded me of why I when I listen to scary story compilations on YouTube, I skip the “dating horror stories” ones. Because more often than not, they’re over represented by creative writings about “sexy but psycho” yandere-types obviously formed from the furious fever fantasies of the male writers. Actual, real life dating horror stories are men abusing women (and sometimes killing them) but I guess that doesn’t make for entertaining stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:26 AM |
| 250 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menHot take but this is why I’m generally anti marriage counseling and anti-therapy (unless you find a REALLY GOOD therapist who is female and isn’t a handmaiden, which is so hard). There’s so much “both sides, it takes 2 to tango” bullshit. So much pickme mindset “hmm maybe you (the woman) should just compromise and bend yourself into a pretzel!” Isn’t it something that Lundy Bancroft’s book is literally the ONLY mainstream book about male abuse that cuts through all the bullshit and excuses and j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:20 AM |
| 68 | Remains believed to belong to missing woman in van mystery are found.This whole situation is so awful. Honestly I am glad they found her body (hopefully). I was afraid he had hidden her in the back woods somewhere and she’d not be found, possibly allowing him to get off. But now there’s possibly forensic evidence that can put him away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:04 AM |
| 3 | Just scrotey thingsIt’s ok, I’m the same. My body doesn’t really like vegan or low fat/high carb. I get migraines, my hair falls out and other stuff. Mediterranean style with high fats, veg and moderate egg/meat and limited starch works best for me. Also I lift weights so getting protein is very important (yes I know there’s vegan protein but it’s just harder to get enough and metabolize it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:23 AM |
| 21 | Just scrotey thingsUgh you’re making me hungry! 😅 Saag paneer is one of my favorite dishes of all time, yum! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:21 PM |
| 50 | Just scrotey thingsI mean have they ever had good Indian food? So many delicious meatless (albeit not vegan, with all the butter/cream) options! People who are that picky and hate meatless that much are closing themselves off to some amazing cuisine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:09 PM |
| 10 | Can we please stop posting the messages we get from FDS Super Fans?Agreed, we have the Superfans sub for this purpose. Posting it here just sends the message you’re bothered by their meaningless drivel they probably just copy paste to a bunch of women online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:03 PM |
| 7 | FDS approved fiction?The Tiffany Aching books have the same vibe as Ghibli movies, they’re great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:14 PM |
| 52 | Anyone notice guys get uncomfortable if you want to stay at home after kids?I’d also worry they’d cheat because of machismo culture, so many cultures seem to think he’s entitled to a mistress and the wife just needs to put up with it. American men cheat too, of course, but at least it’s still seen as wrong and grounds for divorce overall, with the exception of really religious communities (which I’m not part of). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:12 PM |
| 356 | This is a new low…The message this sends to me, even beyond the gamer manchild vibe, is that she’s in the relationship by herself and he doesn’t give a shit about her. Same as those “”cute”” toppers where she’s dragging him to the altar. Normalizing one-sided, emotionally void relationships where she does all the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 01:47 AM |
| 18 | I've decided to actively understand Zoomer's clothing styleLike how do you pronounce that? Cheggy? Sho-gy? Chee-oo-gy? Chægy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 82 | What age range do you belong to?Ditto, I’m the oldest category but I’m super jazzed there’s so many young women learning and not having to endure the bullshit we did at their ages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:49 PM |
| 77 | I've decided to actively understand Zoomer's clothing styleI’m definitely too old because even though I’m too online, the term “cheugy” is completely foreign to me. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 05:07 PM |
| 26 | LIMERENCE: How to Stay UnattachedYup, I had the most limerence with the emotionally unavailable covert narc who ran hot and cold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:00 AM |
| 24 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.Go ahead and waste your time meeting contempt with “intelligent conversation”, just like every other woman wasting her time online, then. Look up your sources, craft your careful arguments and deliver them with earnestness to a man that hates women and see how far that gets you. Or you can shake your bullshit female socialization and that tells you to be a nice, patient mommy-teacher and reclaim some of your dignity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:00 AM |
| 20 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.I’m not going to meet contempt with love or turning the other cheek. Contempt gets extinction and sometimes, MY contempt. I tried the whole “approach your enemies with love” thing when I was younger and it got me used and abused. But good luck. Beyond my own children, I’m not taking up the mantle of teaching anyone better. Oh and please don’t malign this whole group based on my post, we are all individuals with our own minds. Disagree with me all you want but I don’t represent “this group”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:50 AM |
| 13 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.Don’t get me wrong, 9 times out of 10, don’t waste your time. Block and delete is still best. For example, never waste my time talking to Reddit scrotes that DM me. Waste of my energy. This is more for those you can’t block and delete, like your stupid brother or cousin feeling free to spout bs and everyone just keeps their heads down laughing nervously. Class is overrated. Being nice and taking the high road all the time sucks. A well-worded response is going to fall on deaf ears; it’s better t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:31 AM |
| 6 | Some quotes that I feel are relevant in current times with liberal feminists and their ‘sex work is work’ propagandaI support liberation for all women, but that doesn’t mean I won’t tell her she’s an idiot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:08 AM |
| 26 | Some quotes that I feel are relevant in current times with liberal feminists and their ‘sex work is work’ propagandaFDS is not aggressive at all; it’s more of an avoidance and defensive positioning strategy. What’s the worst thing we do to men, really? Block and delete? Roasting men on here hardly counts as real harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 02:01 AM |
| 23 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?This was a big one for me too, as a chronic over thinker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:00 PM |
| 12 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.I’m glad the post was helpful! It really sucks when the family just lets some assclown gang up on a lone member like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:57 PM |
| 27 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.I love that! I’ve done that, the “you’re not even worth shit” and they get crestfallen because they’re used to a reaction, even if negative. It takes practice because your body language has to also be confident and signaling they don’t exist. I’ve seen women “ignore” creeps but their fidgety nervous bodies betray them and the creeps love that. It takes practice! Another thing I like doing for the still creepy, but less overtly egregious, is dash their hopes that I’m going to give them the Standa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:56 PM |
| 41 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Exactly! That’s why the common hippy-dippy advice of “don’t be judgmental! Be open-minded! Everyone has their issues and people change!” is so dangerous and why narcs seem to thrive in society. You think you’re being a good and cool person but what you’re really being is a giant sucker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:47 PM |
| 45 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.Safety is definitely paramount. Gray Rock is a good thing to learn in general, for dealing with all difficult people. Method 2 is just for fun and only for non-dangerous situations (online too). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:35 PM |
| 67 | Defending yourself against men who want you to be a pickmeExactly, just clown the fuck out of them. That’s why they say things like “make me a sandwich”, they’re not trying to entertain a discussion. So we need to throw that energy right back and stop being all earnest and sincere. ETA notice how butthurt they all get when we are savage and glib and say something like “die in any wars lately?” Suddenly they’re clutching all the pearls and crying MiSaNdRy when just seconds ago they were calling women useless holes. It’s hilarious honestly. Scrotes MAD! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 07:09 PM |
| 22 | Defending yourself against men who want you to be a pickmeEven that’s expending too much energy. Imagine the solipsism in thinking that just because you don’t like something or think it’s popular enough (like the WNBA), it should just not exist. This is why I like my “roast him” method, he’s just looking for an excuse to say “women suck hehe” and watch his sister get all offended. He’s not interested in actually discussing the merits of woman-focused sports and media, he’s just being a little asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:46 PM |
| 61 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Yeah my weird logic was, since he TOLD me, I couldn’t be manipulated! Because I know now. So if he was going to try it, surely he wouldn’t have told me! 🤡😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 35 | Defending yourself against men who want you to be a pickmeI should add that if he’s violent or somehow you are financially obligated to play nice (ie your parents favor him and support you), don’t do this yet. Take the other ladies advice and ignore. But once you are older and free and clear? ROAST HIS ASS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:27 PM |
| 116 | Defending yourself against men who want you to be a pickmeIdk the kind of relationship you have with your brother but for those people, I just make fun of them and turn the 🔥 up. Like, fuck you. I get fucking SAVAGE. Stop engaging them in good faith because they are just being dickholes and getting off on you getting all outraged (hehe h0es mad, whassa matter??) Why should I (or you) expend the effort to draft up some articulate, feminist deep-dive essay for some neckbeard who’s only brain cell just sits in his dusty skull screaming “WAHMEN BAAAAD”?! I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:20 PM |
| 12 | Ladies!! I have a question and in need of advice 💕Think about it this way: would YOU attack some sweet, naive person? Would you use them, insult them, laugh at them, steal from them, simply because you could? The fact that these guys can look at a trusting, open-hearted woman and their go-to is “use and abuse” means THEY are garbage. It is not YOUR fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:10 PM |
| 211 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Jesus mines mild compared to some here but he straight up said “I manipulate people. I like doing it, and it’s easy for me” and my 🤡 ass thought that since he told me that, I was exempt from him trying it with me. Luckily he became too creepy and his mask fell too much and I dumped him, we had only been dating a few weeks and it wasn’t that serious yet. Then he legit eloped like 2 WEEKS later with a whole other woman. I wasn’t even mad, I was just super relieved at the kind of crazy I dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:05 PM |
| 3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefSadly back in the pickme day, I would have seen green flags posts as “well that’s fine for HER, she’s probably pretty and better than me. I need to take what I get and stop complaining. He’s a good guy!” But with the male depravity/lies men tell stuff I saw that it wasn’t just ME, it had nothing to do with me, hot or not, all women suffer this shit. And the dating postmortems and red flag analysis helped me look back on my shitty dating years and get peace because I finally realized it was just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 12:20 PM |
| 85 | Men Telling on ThemselvesReddit smoothbrains will cry “but that’s hypocritical! What’s good for the goose is good for the gander!”🤡 In reality, most wives make everything easier. Husbands don’t even have to ask for the services; they are just done (and expected of her, she will get shamed if she’s subpar. Hell these days even forever GFs do them). He won’t ever have to keep track of the children’s shoe sizes, or whether there’s enough Tylenol in the cabinet, or if we need dog food, or when the kids recital is. OTOH “hou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:36 PM |
| 59 | “20/20 Report - Are Short Men at a Disadvantage in Romance?” Spoiler alert: yes, they are!Same here, I’m tall. I briefly dated one short dude who I thought was cool for weeks only for him to finally make a snide comment about the heels I wore to a holiday party. He just couldn’t resist after all. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 07:20 PM |
| 130 | Sisters, the vetting NEVER stops. Once you accept this, you will feel more confident and less insecure in your relationships with menI adore this post because it captures the zen energy I feel about my own marriage. It took me forever to leave my first husband (fear, sunk cost, he was a “good guy” etc). I always felt so insecure in my relationships and in the first part of my relationship with my second husband. But honestly if I need to end things and divorce him…ok. In fact we just had this conversation recently. I was telling him how I don’t ever have stress dreams about him anymore. You know, the dreams where your partner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 07:13 PM |
| 24 | "If He Wanted to, He Would" The B Side DiscussionYou could also say your ex knew very well the truth of “if he wanted to, he would” and used it as a weapon against you by not “wanting to.” Then he immediately does everything right away for the new one and if he’s a true narc and thinks you’ll see, it could just be another way for him to stick it to you by rubbing it in how he didn’t want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:58 PM |
| 10 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏I’m with you. The blasé response from police when faced with SERIOUS criminal indicators, as well as her family and friends not taking it seriously, can gaslight a woman into thinking the worst could never happen to her. I’ve heard women themselves not taking their situations seriously when what she describes are extremely chilling words and actions from her abuser. “He’d never go THAT far” is what I have heard. Yeah maybe he wouldn’t but what if he DOES? Upthread they were talking about going t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:44 PM |
| 11 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏We disagree then. Hypotheticals and personal experiences are good, but it’s easy for a woman in deep with a violent man to dismiss a hypothetical. And she can look at our experiences (where we obviously didn’t die) and think we went through some shit but ended up fine so it’s fine. But seeing a woman who paid with her life, and she’s getting a creepy feeling because her abuser is showing signs the dead women’s killer did? Like the exact same tricks and behaviors? And other women are banding toge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:55 PM |
| 86 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏Yeah Paglia clearly has contempt for these naive women, whereas I (and this sub) want to protect and educate all women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:39 PM |
| 12 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏Sadly, yes. There’s a comment above with information from the sub dedicated to finding her and there were many red flags, including domestic violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:33 PM |
| 19 | NEVER 👏 STOP 👏 VETTING 👏I get where you’re coming from and it’s definitely a thin line, but this is the problem with true crime I’ve mentioned before. That talking about red flags women might have missed that they paid the ultimate price for, is victim blaming. But if we can’t talk about it, we can’t educate women. Like how in a lot of these case (not Gabby’s, other ones) women go to see their exes alone. He convinces them to meet to “talk” and they wind up dead. To warn other women to never do what these women did, is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:26 PM |
| 19 | Two shy introverts go on a date…Conditioned to be a joy, ouch yes, hello my younger self. Always auditioning: to be your bestest friend, a good enough family member, your dream girlfriend, your very own manic pixie dream me! That’s one reason the question “WhAt Do YoU BrInG tO tHe TaBle?” is so insulting. Like we are already conditioned to bring everything to the goddamn table. Wtf do you want beyond that, blood? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:47 AM |
| 95 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.High-pressure sales tactics! These ladies are getting older and seeing their future as elderly women picking up their 57 year old son’s cumsocks instead of going to bingo like they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:33 AM |
| 45 | Two shy introverts go on a date…💯 Also introverted does not mean shy. I’m introverted because socializing drains me and I require a lot of alone time to recharge. However I am far from shy. I’m the first person to go up to a stranger in public (like if I’m at a store and need a salesperson and my friends are hemming and hawing I won’t hesitate to say “yo”). You can be shy/socially anxious but an extrovert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:30 AM |
| 456 | Does anyone else feel let down by the nofap movement?I’ve heard about some weird rabbit holes those guys go down, real conspiracy theory shit. Like how semen contains a masculine essence of sorts so you’re just making yourself a beta c#ck by jacking off. Conversely, you gain some kind of superpower by holding in your jizz. It’s all really weird. And has nothing to do with women, disappointingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:23 AM |
| 10 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefOmg the online narc alter ego. Have you heard of HG Tudor on YouTube? He’s supposedly a narc that gives advice to people about how to deal w narcs. I quickly got sick of him because he’s just so edgy and pathetic really. I’m like, the fuck am I doing listening to this dick-stroking jabroni?? Let me just go back to Dr. Ramani like a sane person. Greater culture does a real disservice presenting narcissists as Gilderoy Lockhart types. Just buffoons obsessed with their appearances. Or just having t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:17 AM |
| 49 | Boomer pickmeisha blames women and feminism for men being "pushed out" of academiaJust the scaremongering around that word is proof of misogyny. If misogyny wasn’t a thing, saying “feminization” like some kind of boogeyman would just get a shrug and a “…so? What’s so bad about that?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:55 AM |
| 122 | Boomer pickmeisha blames women and feminism for men being "pushed out" of academiaThere’s that scary conservative buzzword: feminization! Lordy! I’ve been hearing them talk about how everything is feminized since the 90s. They never quite say what that is though. Welcoming women into academia? Talking about our feelings? Hitting each other with pillows at sexy parties? Who knows! But men and their handmaidens quake in their boots at the thought of anything being ugh, feminized! The horror! Though things being masculinized? Or, in other words, the status fucking quo? Well that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:16 AM |
| 12 | She made a PowerPoint about strippingJesus I just looked that up, what a sad story. He didn’t even give a shit, either. Women should stay far away from crazy motherfuckers; never try and save them. If two grown, armed men could be murdered like that than a female partner won’t stand a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:56 AM |
| 131 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.I second this! Although I should say, I didn’t make it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:30 AM |
| 20 | 19th century FDSI saw a documentary about the lives of Victorian house maids (slaves, really) and their lives were so very bleak. Here it is, it’s called Servants: The True Story of Life Below Stairs, it’s multi part and worth a watch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:00 AM |
| 642 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.A lot of these women are just fucking tired of their failsons, a problem they created, and want to fob him off on a woman. Any woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 27 | She made a PowerPoint about strippingGod knows radfems have been trying 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:11 PM |
| 34 | She made a PowerPoint about strippingRight?! Like sis, you can opt out of that whole mess and get some fucking peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:07 PM |
| 66 | She made a PowerPoint about strippingIt’s more like advocating someone BE shot to recover from the trauma of being shot. Which is as batshit kookoo as reframing paid rape as “healing”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 174 | FDS in action at Whole FoodsYour name though 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 9 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefHis daughter? So I’m guessing a step or half sister? It’s not uncommon for a narc to have a golden child. It can be a girl even if he’s sexist, especially if she meets all his ideals. I definitely believe my dad would have treated me way better and did more things for me if I had been the kind of daughter he could parade around to make him look good. ❤️ this is why I love this sub. Top tier intellectual discussion, every single day! Who needs a man, who makes you feel like a stupid clown, for in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:42 PM |
| 10 | I don’t know if a political add is allowed but this just made my blood boil.My most charitable interpretation (and this is VERY charitable) is that they desperately need to maintain the delusion that their assault was a one-off, just bad luck. If they start acknowledging all their friends experiences, they’d have to confront the ubiquity of male violence and rape. They might have to cast a suspicious eye on all the men they trust. They’re not prepared to do that. It’s like Dworkin said, it’s agony to realize the depth of men’s hatred for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:22 PM |
| 15 | I don’t know if a political add is allowed but this just made my blood boil.The craziest part is the friends I had who would say not all men? They themselves had a history of assault! So it was extra gross, as though they were telling victims “MY assault was real, but you’re probably lying/not all men.” Idk if it’s this weird coping mechanism or what. It’s like when you discover the Bible thumping WASP women campaigning against abortion had one herself when she was in college. What! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:15 PM |
| 8 | Are these kind of posts actually empowering?I’m in agreement with the others that they are a necessary evil. But what I really hate are the posts that just link to like, an MRA YouTube channel or TikTok and provide very little analysis. Excuse you, I am not about to give these clowns my precious clicks and view. A hate-watch is still engagement and money in their pockets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:11 PM |
| 19 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini Thiefu/arnezuara ☝️THIS. What Medusa said here is now how I see these clowns too. They’re not deep amazing souls I’m not good enough for. They’re insecure narc cowards. her dad was likely a misogynist Ding ding ding! My dad was sexist as hell but he’d get Big Mad if you dared suggest he was because he thought he was above such petty bigotry. Even though he constantly harped on how my mom wasn’t on his level. Meanwhile he would financially bully her so it was impossible for her to go back to school. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:02 PM |
| 15 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefIt was good, but honestly I hope there’s a part 2 because this topic is so meaty that it felt like they barely got going only for it to end. But that’s no fault of the pod or guest. Good lord that old Pavlovian response of feeling unseen, dismissed, “too much” and then we just immediately jump through hoops to try to prove ourselves. The problem was that we thought those feelings were indicative of OUR failings. When it never was at all, it was only ever that they were garbage humans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:17 PM |
| 39 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefHonestly being here was like 90% of my rewiring and the remaining 10% was getting older and tired of failing. Reading u/modernmedusaa and her posts about these types of guys, she calls them the “otherworldly intellectuals” and breaks down how insecure and narcissistic they are…it just made the lightbulb go off about how calculating and downright evil these dudes act toward women that only ever loved them. She really pegged the dynamic between these men and the pickmes (me, once upon a time) they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:12 PM |
| 33 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefOften those of us with narcs in our pasts wonder if we too have the signs. What is more likely is that you may have narcissistic fleas. This is when we pick up some behaviors from our narcs, usually as a coping mechanism. It makes us worry that we’re narcs too but like the other person said, even you asking that question makes it pretty unlikely you really are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 04:03 PM |
| 63 | Avoid using OLD to meet menClassic “hatfishing”! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 02:45 PM |
| 57 | This woman I reached out to on a sub wants your thoughts and opinions on her situation.34 is like the “witching age” or something because this isn’t the first time I’ve seen a 34 year old woman consider putting up with absolute clownery because she’s 34 and feels like her life is over. 34 is insanely young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 02:33 PM |
| 95 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 28 - Spotting Narcissistic Abusers (w/ Dr. Annie Kaszina) + The Bikini ThiefDr. Kaszina’s comment about not wanting to marry your narc father, but then going on to marry a different iteration of him, is SPOT ON. Many of us with narc dads DO see him as an example “what not to love”. However because, as the doctor said, we aren’t as savvy as we think, other flags fly under the radar. My dad was an emotionally abusive narc whose abuse boiled down to the following traits: TEMPER. Though he never hit, he could literally rage at you, red-faced, for an HOUR over whatever dumb … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 01:29 PM |
| 97 | Why? Just why?Guaranteed if she were to go on graphically about her (male) exes he would not think it was hot at all. These men see women as interchangeable sex toys with no feelings (or at least, their feelings don’t matter). It’s the height of disrespect. ETA I also don’t think guys send unsolicited dick pics because they are trying to be sexy or enticing; it’s a form of flashing and meant to make women uncomfortable. Even if it’s not unsolicited and you’re currently flirting with or sexting a guy and bam! … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:32 PM |
| 102 | You Don't Always Have to Hold Yourself to the Same Standards as MenMental illness is a big one. Nearly every woman I know with mental illness is doing something to help it and make her life better. Whether that’s as big as therapy and/or taking meds to the little things like keeping a journal or practicing mindfulness. Men don’t seek help for mental illness, as a class. Then they turn around and blame women or society for that lack of help when it’s men who do not avail themselves of resources. Men with untreated mental illness are often a danger to their intim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:12 PM |
| 3 | Reality vs FantasyMedusa’s advice is really great though, she’s the GOAT. 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:23 AM |
| 40 | I can’t stand patriarchal menI hate the back-handed buttering-up misogynists do. It’s so clearly self-serving and contains no actual respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:10 AM |
| 56 | I can’t stand patriarchal menFucking ridiculous because “formal education” as we know it was designed by men, for men and boys. With the exception of some new-age learning methods (especially amongst little kids), the educational system of most public schools and colleges (at least in the US) are largely stagnant and old fashioned. The sitting still and shutting up, the lectures, the rote learning. All of this shit hails back to the good old days when women’s only reason to go to college at all was to get her MRS degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:08 AM |
| 15 | I can’t stand patriarchal menHello, I see you’ve met my dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 208 | Why? Just why?Any man that tries to get sexual with you over text is disrespectful and needs instant block and delete. Talking about the ex on top of that is just an extra heaping layer of disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 02:59 AM |
| 65 | courtesy of ‘feminists without religion’ on FB today. enjoy your game of chicken ladies.I mean, I do this. But I’m also tall and built like a brick shithouse. Idk if I’d advise a petite tiny woman to do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:44 AM |
| 39 | Reality vs FantasyExactly, this is why men can confidently use the scattershot method without fear when looking for a girlfriend. Almost all women, except the craziest or the drug-addicted, are going to only add to his life and make it easier/nicer. The odds are in his favor that he won’t be subjected to violence. Women have to be far more cautious; a wrong choice can end our lives and it happens every single day, countrywide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:25 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Check-inHey don’t feel bad, it tools YEARS after my divorce to fully process the rage and grief. I felt numb and relieved for so long after leaving him, then happy. It was a shock when those unresolved feelings surfaced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:12 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inThanks! 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:10 AM |
| 66 | Reality vs FantasyTHANK YOU. It feels like there’s been an uptick of women here doubting themselves after bad dating experience, wondering if they are broken and should give the “nice guy” they aren’t attracted to “a chance”. The answer is always NO. It’s far better to be alone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 75 | He locks her out of the house, because men are literally the worst.It’s abuser logic, which never makes any goddamn sense. There’s no cultural expectation that a wife skip out on work at a moment’s notice because of her husband. Notice how they didn’t say she should have taken PTO or something normal (which is still out of line, but would make SENSE). They just jump to insane troll logic and she’s too addled to even think straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:23 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Check-inYeah I wrote a note on my iPhone titled “FUCK YOU” detailing all the ways my ex husband was shit to me. Whenever I’d get sad, I’d bust it out and be like “oh yeah. HE SUCKED.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 83 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasure“Wait, you don’t have to unravel an entire roll of Charmin to plug up your cloaca filled with liters of semen?” - the guy who wrote this ad, probably | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 09:08 PM |
| 120 | Misogynyic ads from "awkward essentials" implying women are responsible for cleanup and only the man has pleasureDefinitely a weird, imaginary problem. Ok not to be too gross here but most sexually active women know to pee after sex to lessen the risk of UTI. And, well, during that pee IME most of the “seed” comes out too, especially if you just sit a minute. And if there’s some extra wetness, a quick shower or sponge bath, and maybe a panty liner, will take care of it. Nobody needs a whole-ass special device specifically for this. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:10 PM |
| 78 | Kicked out my LVM roommate. I feel like I can finally enjoy life again 😄Woof, change your locks, girl! And if he left anything behind I think you should burn it 🔥😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:04 PM |
| 575 | He locks her out of the house, because men are literally the worst.This guy is a controlling abuser. They looove to monkey with you at your job. Him having had surgery is neither here nor there, just a convenient excuse. It’s very telling that this all went down while she was WORKING and how neither she nor his useless family mentioned how utterly bizarre it is to expect someone on a job to just come home. Instead they are all getting lost in the weeds of whether his surgery incapacitated him or not. Probably because he pulls shit like this all the time and she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 08:02 PM |
| 261 | Kicked out my LVM roommate. I feel like I can finally enjoy life again 😄Holy SHITBALLS. This sounds like the absolute worst. Maggots 😱😱 Feeding someone drugs without their consent is hella illegal. He sounds like a degenerate criminal and I’m really fucking happy for you that he’s gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:57 PM |
| 43 | Weekly FDS Check-inYou haven’t gotten in touch with your rage yet. You might subconsciously feel like you can’t express rage because it’s often punished in abusive relationships. You will eventually, though. Once that happens you’re going to see him for the garbage he is, and his leaving as the blessing it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:36 PM |
| 29 | Weekly FDS Check-inWatch out, suggesting things like in-person meeting can get you permanently banned. It’s a security thing. Chillingly, the mods once discovered that a man was LARPing here, trying to get women to meet irl. I’m sure his intentions were anything but good. I agree that it would be really cool but sadly, safety first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:31 PM |
| 6 | Why does rejection still hurt?Straight FACTS. These guys are losers and cultivating this mindset is the fastest way to crush those pickme rose-colored glasses. You see them for what they really are and you know who YOU are. Learn it, live it, love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Have You Met Stupid People Who Are Praised as Brilliant in the Office? How to Harness This DynamicThanks, I realized after that it kind of went on a tangent. But it’s relevant to “stupid” people being better regarded because of things unrelated to their actual competency, like confidence and likability. I’m certainly not the smartest, most knowledgeable employee ever, but I’ve found far more success not trying to be. I think it’s especially important for young women coming into the workplace to realize that it can backfire trying to “Hermione Granger” yourself into an employers good graces, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 03:41 PM |
| 4 | Have You Met Stupid People Who Are Praised as Brilliant in the Office? How to Harness This DynamicYUP! Isn’t it something? Back in my brunette w glasses days, wearing a tight bun plus conservative office casual = valedictorian, hyper-organized, brilliant. If I let my hair down, kept the glasses and wore casual hoodies = smart “cool girl” down for whatever. My real personality is neither of these things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 9 | Have You Met Stupid People Who Are Praised as Brilliant in the Office? How to Harness This DynamicUnfortunately, a certain “look” can also go a long way. I worked in a sexist male-dominated para-military place once, and they’d always treat pretty girls like they were amazingly smart and competent (obviously they just wanted in them panties lol). Also I used to be brunette and wear thick glasses and people perceived me as “smart” or “deep” without even really knowing me. Now I am blonde and no longer wear glasses and it’s amusing that I’m no longer just assumed this amazing genius, purely on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 03:02 PM |
| 14 | Have You Met Stupid People Who Are Praised as Brilliant in the Office? How to Harness This DynamicEdit: I commented this whole thing on the deleted one! Well here it is again 😅 Yes absolutely!! This is something I know a lot about. So I’m former military and it taught me 2 very important things about life. First: perception is everything. It doesn’t matter what the TRUTH is. It’s how you, or a situation, is perceived. For example if you constantly hang around a married man alone, or you are married but hang with single people, it doesn’t matter if you never touch each other. Impropriety is p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Have You Met Stupid People Who Are Praised as Brilliant in the Office? How to Harness This DynamicYes absolutely!! This is something I know a lot about. So I’m former military and it taught me 2 very important things about life. First: perception is everything. It doesn’t matter what the TRUTH is. It’s how you, or a situation, is perceived. For example if you constantly hang around a married man alone, or you are married but hang with single people, it doesn’t matter if you never touch each other. Impropriety is perceived. Second requires some backstory: In training, I was up for a certain a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 49 | Why does rejection still hurt?Yeah please don’t feel alone or like you shouldn’t still feel bad. We are human. It can seem like everyone else is super badass with hearts made of steel but that’s not true. It matters way more what we DO with feelings. By all means, feel bad for a bit, but don’t let the feelings make you act in ways that will be detrimental to you. Reframing things also helps: any guy who rejects you and is a known LVM is a loser, regardless of any fuzzy feelings you have about him. No man is “out of your leag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:34 PM |
| 43 | What I am attracted to and what turns me on has COMPLETELY changed and I am HERE. FOR. IT.Isn’t it great? I used to be attracted to aloof, emotionally unavailable intellectual men with cold personalities. I thought if I was “good enough” they’d let down their walls with only me and it would be amazing. Of course that only lead to terrible relationships and me feeling like I was never enough. Now? I’m not just not into it. Those types actively turn me OFF. They’re just assholes with a fake-deep veneer. My aversion is so bad that it’s hard to even watch media anymore with those types o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 19 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?Unpopular, no way! I love this whole comment. Hehe chicken tenders. 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:51 AM |
| 216 | How do you deal with rejection?I’m with electroloop, what a LOSER. You are only 34 and one measly year older than him. Don’t you dare think you’re all old and dried up; that’s ridiculous. He’s a loser who values his women being young, dumb and nice arm candy for other men to be jealous. He doesn’t enjoy amazing connections with women his age because he’s a huge, weak-minded loser. Note: I don’t think the 25 year old is necessarily young and dumb but that’s clearly what HE values. A woman 8 years his junior easy to impress and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:40 AM |
| 22 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?Exactly, I’ve said this before too: if they really believe women are just as deadly, they wouldn’t be so cavalier about wanting to be harassed by women (when they dismiss women’s sexual harassment complaints with “pft I’d LOVE to be ‘harassed’ by women, you women just don’t know how to take compliments.”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:15 AM |
| 66 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?I kept my name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:34 AM |
| 2 | What does the community think of age flairs?In addition to being risky, it separates us. A while back there was some minor friction between younger and older members which has thankfully not been an issue recently. Basically, we had some young members really have a bone to pick with older women because of dealing with pickme family and coworkers who were older millennial/Gen X. Then the older members would be (IMO) a bit condescending toward younger members especially regarding topics like second wave feminism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:32 AM |
| 77 | "It's ok if he cheats on me, my bills are getting paid." And other pick-me mom comments.Another thing to think about is, serial cheats like this who keep wives comfortably at home can be dangerous. It takes a psychopathic level of compartmentalization to carry on this way. They are often malignant narcissists. Look through case files of vicious abusers, wife murderers and family annihilators and you see a pattern not unlike what’s described in the OP. You can be the best, most devoted and tolerant wife in the world, but if the narc cheat decides he’s just had enough of you, or if h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:26 PM |
| 38 | What should you do when you can't trust your own intuition?Three things: First, and most importantly, your intuition is never wrong. If you aren’t attracted to someone, you aren’t attracted. The moment you try to talk yourself into or out of your intuition is when things go to hell. Don’t go for a hot guy throwing up red flags (which from your post I gather you’re doing well at now), but don’t also go for the “nice guy” that makes you cringe a little when you think about kissing him. If this means you don’t date anyone for now, so be it. You may have th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:14 PM |
| 63 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?The real pieces of work predicate that if women want “equal rights” they need to concede to being pummeled by men, as though we can both physically fight the same. And if we don’t, or if we actually acknowledge that females are physically weaker, well then we are admitting we are inferior and don’t deserve rights. “EqUaL RiGhTs EqUaL FiGhTs”. Yet a heavyweight man beating on a welterweight man is unsportsmanlike. A well-muscled 35 year old man beating up a scrawny 18 year old boy is rightfully s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 06:07 PM |
| 22 | Men and therapy“I’m thinking about possibly becoming interested in maybe getting into it.” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:27 PM |
| 128 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?Even if a man and women are equally violent in nature, the man can always do more damage due to his biology and physicality. Even a small man is very much stronger than almost all women. It’s just facts. So she can try to be as violent but he’s able to put her in the hospital with his bare hands. It’s not just MRA lies about how females are “just as violent and dangerous” (FBI/Dept. of Justice stats would beg to differ). It’s also liberal feminism lying to women that if they are strong and scrap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 03:30 PM |
| 53 | “One third of hookups ends up in marriage.”It’s just a BS excuse that really means: I don’t want to marry YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:00 PM |
| 18 | What are some of the reddest red flags you’ve ever seen on a date or during a relationship?Yup, really unstable controlling jealous guys are all convinced their exes cheated. And more often than not, HE was the cheater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:54 PM |
| 77 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYyyep. “I still want to be an abusive fuckboy, but I’d like to gaslight you that it’s for your own good.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:49 PM |
| 113 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areSee I remember encountering “types”. I saw the type you described for sure. But there definitely were the nerdy guys too. And the “country boys” with the muddin and dead fish and conservative, god-fearin values. The nerds were also someone you’d never want to date. They had: profiles full of nerdy references nerdy jokes like maybe from Monty python tended to also portray themselves as extroverted too, with pictures of big friend groups at game nights liberal values, sometimes claiming to be femi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:00 PM |
| 47 | Where is the lie, tho?I find myself singing it now and then in the shower or puttering around the house. 🎶“It’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s polyamorouuus”🎶 Getting in my car or at the store. 🎶“You’re never like OH SWEET”🎶 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:23 AM |
| 60 | Be careful: Libfem girls will sabotage your safety tactics against LVMAny friends who know that a man is abusive and still invites him to all the things, are not your friends. They knew he was abusive and still invited him? And then had to tell him he wasn’t invited by being all tough after you had to remind them? But then you smoothed it over and so he’s coming and everyone is ok with this then? The dynamics are really fucked up here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 03:02 AM |
| 36 | Can we make '#YouToo' a flair? As in, "Wow, I thought you were a good guy, but you're actually horrible just like the others?"Exactly my thinking. I get puzzled when women are sincerely disappointed at the antics of rich, famous men in particular. Like you’re actually surprised? Being rich and powerful already comes with a heap of general entitlement. Then add standard male entitlement on top of that. As far as I’m concerned, all celebrities are suspect and the male ones exponentially so. The “good ones” like Keanu, I hope he really is that way and stays that way. But I’m won’t be over here worshiping him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:49 PM |
| 270 | What was your moment of clarity?😟 why do they have to be so sociopathic about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:44 PM |
| 59 | Oh woe is men!I 100% think it’s because most girls/young women know that NO ONE is going to make excuses for them or coddle their decisions. On the contrary, young moms get the message that they’re losers and better work hard. That’s why there’s the old “welfare queen” stereotype but no male equivalent (even though leeching males cause more crime where they gather). She better not dare be lazy or she’s a “welfare queen”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:21 PM |
| 32 | Can we talk about Leonardo DiCaprio?Yup, it’s a feature, not a bug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:22 PM |
| 131 | Oh woe is men!This article sucks. Didn’t finish it. It’s just the same old MRA “boy crisis” bs you see everywhere, where there is no boy crisis, it’s just that they neither apply nor stick with it. There’s no outside forces telling them they’re “just men” so they’re “naturally” not as smart or capable. There’s no systemic “misandry” affecting them with stereotype threat. Also, so all the responsibility is on moms for sons not filling out or turning in their applications? She’s supposed to hold his hand in a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:06 PM |
| 4 | Following hot girls on instagram - red flag?I definitely hear you. Wolves in sheep’s clothing…That’s pretty much all I met too back when I was dating. If I’d had this sub back then I’d have been saved so much grief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 12:29 PM |
| 112 | Following hot girls on instagram - red flag?He’s too old and he’s behaving like a teenage boy following thirst traps. And I say he’s too old as an old lady myself. Please read the handbook; once you adopt a hopeless scarcity mindset, you start accepting LV behaviors and sliding into pickme thinking. The handbook addresses all this. I’m rereading and you’ve only been on a few dates with this guy. He’s nowhere near “seemingly HV” because it’s way too soon. The whole point of vetting is to eliminate for these kinds of things early so you don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:07 AM |
| 108 | Following hot girls on instagram - red flag?Seriously. Plus he’s “over 40”? I’m willing to bet given Reddit demographics that OP is nowhere near 40 herself. Get rid of this old, disrespectful fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 444 | "All ages considered!"He’s saying: “these are my requirements. Look like this.” As though he can just order up a free, live-in, build-a-prostitute to his specifications. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 03:51 PM |
| 94 | Powertools aren't hard to use. Full on Elle Woods-ed a person today.I knew women in my own family who were DIScouraged as girls from learning about tools and cars. They expressed interest but were shamed or ignored. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 02:56 AM |
| 81 | Men who have no talking gameUgh this is exactly the kind of assholish behavior that gets coddled with “he’s probably just shyyyyy!” It’s especially bad in nerdy groups as they watch too much anime and think they’ve found the Sasuke to their Sakura. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:32 PM |
| 396 | Men who have no talking gameAs someone who has spent her fair share of time around nerds, geeks, “shy guys”, weirdos and misfits, I can confidently say this, and I would implore young women running in offbeat circles to please understand: If a guy is behaving like a silent, petulant asshole on your date; if he’s sitting there across the table giving you one word answers, scowls and no eye contact, he is NOT SHY. He doesn’t like you. Trust it. He’s just seeing if he can score some possible easy tail like any guy, albeit bad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:37 PM |
| 13 | The “pleasures” of male “friends”…Unbelievable, he was so obviously trying to soothe his ego stat. “It’S aLwAyS bEeN YoU.” 🤡 yeah, right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 10:04 PM |
| 60 | I don't give a shit about what men think or what men care for in a womanYeah this was my experience too. “Men love sweet, docile women who make good wives and mothers.” 😇 “Ugh you’re so boring! What are you doing, you should really learn some new techniques. Men like a wild sexy lady!” 😈 You literally cannot win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:50 PM |
| 92 | Why did Disney and society at large lie to us about the true nature of most men?Me too which made me prime love bomb target because a boy would talk sweet to me and I’d think “omg am I pretty after all? Is this happening for me??” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 08:27 PM |
| 58 | How Twilight’s Purity Culture and 50 Shades’s Kink Culture Play Well TogetherFor me it’s completely logical that BDSM is compatible with religion. Think about the guilt and shame inherent in the beliefs, especially as a woman; that you’re basically a worm before god and must beg forgiveness, and if you do so you are promised the highest love and ecstasy. Add the obsession with sex, where it’s this tantalizing evil thing except in very specific circumstances and if you’re a woman you better not actually want it…and it’s a BDSM powder keg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:37 PM |
| 37 | Anyone else thinks advices from tradwives are terribleDo keep in mind that there are a LOT of male LARPers on rpw. Not all, but a lot, trying to spread this propaganda to lower women’s bars straight through the floor of hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Check-inThanks! ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 42 | Weekly FDS Check-inThe calling men HV prematurely is a perennial problem. I saw that post and those “maybe you need therapy because you’re trauma bonded” sounded very….wider Reddit. Like maybe, but only she can know that. The immediate issue at hand is she’s NOT attracted to THIS guy NOW. End of story. Next. Not every man, no matter how good a guy he is, is going to do it for ya. Now if she wants to see a therapist and try to tease out her issues for the future that’s her prerogative but it doesn’t mean she needs … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:58 PM |
| 53 | Weekly FDS Check-inI’m married too. I’m here for the community and supporting the younger generation of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:52 PM |
| 63 | Men will waste your time and then waste it again.Is this one of those fake stories to make this sub look bad? We don’t advocate just not working after marriage for no reason. Raising kids, debatable, there’s disagreement on whether SAHM is too risky for women (IMO it is). If you’re actually serious , way to trap yourself into financial abuse. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:58 PM |
| 73 | Why are some men’s egos so damn fragile?This is my theory too. It’s not a real come-on; it’s just an expression of their hatred. Of course, if she actually bites, they’re gonna roll with it. But I don’t think that’s the goal. They’re just lashing out at women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 05:34 AM |
| 15 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Yeah and there are a few kooky fat acceptance ladies (like on TikTok or tumblr) that might say things that sound like “if you don’t like fat people, you’re a bigot!” and then men point to that to justify them constantly slagging off fat women, accusing all fat women of being hypocritical and retaining their victim complex about how “unfair” women are. Uh, those people are not mainstream and society is way more mean to fat women than fat men despite the body pos movement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 04:36 AM |
| 96 | I must eat my words, he is not a HVM now that I see clearlyYeah I agree, any man who gets viciously angry at a woman for thing he himself also does (ie HE can cheat/date, but god forbid another male even LOOK at her), shows an entitlement and double standard that can be dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 01:13 AM |
| 303 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Besides, most reasonable fat women, when they complain about fat shaming from men, are not saying men should pity-date them or force themselves to find fat attractive. They just want men to stop harassing them with unprovoked messages like “you fat c&nt!” on dating sites. When men dislike certain women, they aren’t classy enough to just leave it be, like women do with men they aren’t into. They go out of their way to attack these women, it’s like this compulsive NEED to make the women aware that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:55 PM |
| 129 | John Mulaney knocks up Olivia Munn just months after his divorce is finalized.I rolled my eyes at “met at church” because it’s such an obvious PR line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:51 PM |
| 517 | Cry me a riverThis is actually scary. To have this level of obsession for a girl who barely knew you existed ten years ago. Yikes. Either he’s really scary and has obsession that could escalate to dark places, or….he’s full of shit and just using it as an excuse for his glaring lack of empathy and his intimacy issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:27 AM |
| 25 | Just wonderingOmg I died. 😂💀 I imagined a woman walking up to a guy and handing him a poop. “You dropped this, king.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:12 AM |
| 56 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴So much anime, manga and even webcomics are like this. So the female main character has two love interests! The first is sweet, bright, boisterous. He’s most likely fair and athletic, romantic and treats her very nicely. The second is dark and brooding, usually dark in hair/clothing. He’s walled-off to her and downright mean to her. He rejects any attempt at romance with contempt towards her. Guess what’s end-game? If you guessed the shitty cold one who hates her, you’re correct! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:04 AM |
| 56 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Yeah this is definitely a cautionary tale about the dangers (and allure) of older men from the POV of teen girls. While naturally fascinated with and curious about Jareth, she at no point reciprocates, and she recognizes and rejects his manipulation. I think it’s a great movie actually about female coming-of-age, which is so rare. Coming-of-age overwhelmingly features boys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:58 AM |
| 54 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴When I read GoF I actually really liked Victor Krum even though I knew by how it was written that JK didn’t intend it to last. He was handsome, athletic and he liked her AND freely showed that. But noooo, gotta save her to be a prize to be given to the worst of the two male protagonists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:44 AM |
| 25 | Male Scrote TrollsI guess I’m weird because it doesn’t bother me. I’m not going to close my DMs because I like that women here can message me and pathetic dudes can keep screaming into the wall of silence forever. It’s no skin off my nose. It’s amusing/fascinating to me too because they all seem to lift their unoriginal insults from the same playbook. I just ignore the chat and block if they’re gross. Remember: 1) most of them just want any attention. Bad or good, it doesn’t matter. They love exhausting women and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:40 AM |
| 351 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Jim only seemed good because he was up against Roy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:21 PM |
| 122 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Enemies to lovers is really tough to pull off. A ton of media seems to do this by having a beautiful, hyper competent woman and a man being a total ass to her. Or sometimes he’s a straight up villain and the violence potential towards her turns me off personally. And that’s supposed to be “sexy”. It basically just mirrors society thinking women should just put up with asshole men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:36 PM |
| 334 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Oof even before I found this sub I hated it. And no it wasn’t “so much better” in the books. I guess better than the movies but that’s a low bar. They still bickered and he negged the shit out of her. He acted petulant and jealous a lot, while also never having the balls to tell her how he felt (til the end I guess). There was no chemistry either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:28 PM |
| 104 | FDS, why is it that men are such psychos about women having standards and boundaries? Our super fans in particular are just nuts.Any woman is wasting her time engaging with these men. They literally make fun of the fact that we “think” we are human and “deserve” rights. Like the other comment said, they are abusive narcissists. There’s nothing in their heads or souls to understand. A small sliver of them are actual children who just like to say shocking things to troll and rile women up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:21 PM |
| 100 | Scrote tried justifying sex work to me on Reddit.All I really ever needed to hear to shatter any libfem illusion about empowerment was what the men actually thought about these oh so empowered women. Women are not THINGS. We are not slaves. We’re not fucking RECEPTACLES that can be purchased. We are not convenient outlets for whatever “pressure” men feel. We are not vehicles for power and control fantasies. We are human beings. It boggles my mind that slavery is recognized as the travesty it is now (in law in most countries at least) but prost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:53 PM |
| 53 | Scrote tried justifying sex work to me on Reddit.Didn’t Germany literally have this issue where they legalized it and sex trafficking increased dramatically? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:36 PM |
| 72 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.I mean serial killers and shooters are mostly white so you’re not wrong. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:20 PM |
| 54 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.Those anime-loving turbo nerds! Behold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 05:18 PM |
| 271 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.Are people really saying here that white dudes are HV by default? Because damn there’s so many flavors of awful white dude (typically, all men could be the following, but they tend to be white). The racist conservatives chasing “exotic” women. The filthy-nest gamers and weeaboos. The emotionally unavailable tech/software bro in his 30s who dates college girls. The toxic positivity “entrepreneur”. The faux-gressive woke bro who thinks liberation for you means sex for him. The coddled covert narc … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:57 PM |
| 15 | True Crime DiscussionAbsolutely, like Andrea Yates, known for years to be off her rocker, she flew up so many warnings and cries for help, but her evangeli-scrote husband insisted on keeping her knocked up and birthing. It’s very sad and didn’t have to happen if women weren’t ignored by doctors and if we didn’t have entire religions oppressing women into being baby factories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:31 PM |
| 21 | I love you FDS!!Thanks 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:16 PM |
| 42 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youThey do it because they…can. I think why so many women agonizing over analyzing and asking why is they can’t grok the astonishing simplicity of simply feeling entitled to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:15 PM |
| 71 | I love you FDS!!I love these stories! Congratulations and welcome! 🍾🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:05 PM |
| 12 | True Crime DiscussionI live in an apartment where you have to buzz in. Sometimes I get random buzzes and I always peek and check (you can see through the doors window to who is waiting on the porch). I’ve had to yell at 2 separate men I didn’t recognize. I told them WRONG HOUSE and when they gestured for me to just let them in I was like I don’t know you, NO. Then I went back inside. Opportunity is huge. It’s also why this sub in so important to me. By teaching women red flags, block and delete, being ruthless etc, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:00 PM |
| 170 | My HV dad uses an FDS like approach at workIt’s a really great lesson and thanks for sharing! The people who think FDS is “too harsh” are also the types who think nothing of affording men the privilege of having strong boundaries, but holler and cry when women do. He’s strong-minded! He’s a go-getter! He knows what he wants and won’t accept any less, he will not be trampled upon, what a role model. It’s just business; don’t take his firmness personally. She’s too mean! What a b1tch!! I can’t believe her audacity at making demands, how da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 02:48 PM |
| 862 | listening to Gotye song “Somebody that I used to know” after discovering FDS made me laugh at the whiney scrote lyrics ..I’ve always liked that song because I appreciate how it sets us up to view him as the wronged party, but then her verse starts: Now and then, I think of all the times you screwed me over But had me believing it was always something that I'd done But I don't wanna live that way Reading into every word you say You said that you could let it go And I wouldn't catch, you hung up on Somebody that you used to know So then the listener is now aware that she’s not just cutting him off for nothing becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 02:42 PM |
| 42 | True Crime DiscussionIt’s fucking bizarre. These hosts treat every case like an isolated, horrible incident but will not connect the thread of the whole tapestry. I bet it’s because they don’t want their channels swamped with MRA trolls bleating about how women are “just as bad”. So hey let’s make sure we cover the few female serial killers and reserve special ire for them! I can’t be the only one to notice that oftentimes, they keep the tone neutral when discussing the standard male killers (and sometimes are even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 01:38 PM |
| 103 | Why Jeffrey Epstein loved evolutionary psychology (aka astrology for men)Evo-psych gained a ton of ground on the internet back in the day thanks to the neckbeard, edgelord new atheist movement. See, they rejected the Bible and made fun of believers and all the silly irrational things they preached. BUT, they still wanted to hate women and find a way to categorize females as dumb animals who are slaves to our hormones and need to be led by men. But the story of Eve was a no-go, so what could they do? Ah yes, “science”! Haha dumb females, here’s all the bullshit, just-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:47 PM |
| 70 | True Crime DiscussionI am a huge true crime uh, watcher/reader. I hesitate to say “fan” because I don’t love crime and violence. But it’s been great tool to learn about red flags in men (and UNlearn dangerous female socialization). I watch it with my husband and I’m always way faster to point out the moment the red flags start popping. To be fair he’s pretty good, he’s not a dimwit “not all men” guy and he realizes that, even though sometimes the show is about a female murderer, that males make up the vast majority … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are some of the worst examples and common trends of LVM and pickme’s giving advice on the dating subs?The propaganda that men who don’t ask you out, make their intentions clear or hem and haw, are “just shy” but they actually secretly do like you, and that women should definitely pursue them and nothing bad will happen. Bonus points if they mention equality and “it’s 2021”. Bonus bonus if it’s a dumb story either from a male or female POV where OP is like “she asked me out/I asked him out and I feel amazing!” But then in the story it’s clear, if it’s a man writing, that it just fluffed his ego b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:14 PM |
| 175 | What to do when you see a Pickmeisha receiving terrible advice on other dating subsI have that annoying app bug where it’s not letting me respond to OP’s comments. On the subject of dudes LARPing, I love sussing these guys out. Men are so laughably bad at pretending to be women, with very few exceptions. I kind of want to have a thread about the common signs of male infiltrators. One of the biggest signs is when the “woman” is telling this story and there’s a marked lack of detail or insight into “her” behaviors or thoughts. It’s like she parrots common incel or MRA beliefs ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/21 09:48 PM |
| 21 | What did I just read? Glad she kind of wised up, sad she did it way too late. A forever girlfriend with his baby, self admitted mommy #2, he's an "entrepreneur". Basically a walking pickme & NVM stereotype all in one post.Hey I had one too, c section club! It’s definitely no picnic. Dickfeels should never be considered in any way when it comes to obstetrics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 03:02 AM |
| 13 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?My dad said the same thing about his coworkers, and these were men in mid to high level office work, not a place like a garage where one might expect some grunge. The fact that these men could look my dad in the eye after they dropped a deuce and left without washing their hands, ugh. I bet company potlucks were awkward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:32 AM |
| 27 | What did I just read? Glad she kind of wised up, sad she did it way too late. A forever girlfriend with his baby, self admitted mommy #2, he's an "entrepreneur". Basically a walking pickme & NVM stereotype all in one post.I’m really hoping they were having a hypothetical conversation about c sections and that she’s not actually pregnant. I couldn’t figure it out either way from what’s written. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:27 AM |
| 35 | Comments say a man standing on his toes is fair because the women he is talking to is wearing heels 🤡 Thoughts?Haha idk what kind of weird shit this is. I wouldn’t even be mad. Like this ruse is just bad. What do you hope to accomplish? It’s like he wanted to do something more effective, like wear hidden heels himself, but got lazy and said “eh, fuck it”, did a tentative calf-raise until he perched on his toes and was all “ok, ok, this could work!” Like another comment said, as soon as he walks away from the bar, it’s over. I’m just picturing some dude with his butt sticking out, walking all tip toed. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 08:52 PM |
| 64 | Why are Jordan Peterson’s views problematic to FDS?I often snark against good ol JP here, that incel lobster daddy. I thought this article was really good. The author is pretty sympathetic/neutral towards Peterson and the woman he interviews makes great points. There’s also a sub here called “enough Peterson spam”. They have a ton of resources as to why people dislike him. I don’t agree with everything they say and the sub isn’t specifically about his misogyny (MY major beef with him). But it’s a big, one-stop shop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:04 PM |
| 35 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Thanks! Not really, it’s a reference to my past pickme self and how this sub made it feel like the ol pickme spirit had been exorcised for good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 68 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Strangely enough I wasn’t even that upset at dumping him because I had been so thoroughly turned off. Thankfully in this instance I had just gotten recently divorced from a total emotional wasteland so even though I was pickme, I was hyper-aware not to end up with yet another man who doesn’t give a fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 59 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...I’m also a migraine sufferer and you’re so right. I’m pretty sure I saw the future in that moment and was like, nope. My current husband babies me like a sweet mother hen whenever I don’t feel well, it’s really nice. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:44 PM |
| 224 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?Chatting with a man? Is this OLD? Is this someone you’ve known prior? Any stranger who starts hitting you with inappropriate sob stories is an immediate red flag. Especially some guy online you’re just talking to. Block and delete this fool. Whether he’s red pill or not who knows, but a stranger immediately trying to illicit your sympathy/pity is a classic sign of a narc/abuser. Even a known male friend doing this is suspect, because male friends often feel entitled to free therapy from their fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:38 PM |
| 371 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...It’s a really good vet. I had been dating this one guy for a few weeks when I got REALLY sick (years ago, so not COVID). I lived alone in my apartment and this was the kind of sick where you could barely crawl out of bed to use the bathroom. I managed to text him and he basically was like “that sucks” and then proceeded to ignore me. He had been nice, seemingly a good guy, up until that point. I ended up calling my mom so she could bring me a couple things and comfort me for a bit. That’s how ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:22 PM |
| 33 | Letting men off the hookOprah has been pretty untouched but I’d also class her as having “fuck you money”. Oprah seems like she doesn’t get into trouble (that could be amazing PR though, but you’d think something would have leaked after all this time). She’s smart either way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:18 PM |
| 70 | Letting men off the hookOh yeah yup, another unlucky lady. Plus no one ever pointed out, back then, the disgusting exploitative power dynamics between Monica, who was what, all of 22? and Bill, the fucking PRESIDENT OF THE US. She was cast as the s1utty, but perfectly equal and knowing, homewrecker, who was trying to fame-chase. While he was portrayed as this cool sax-playing party guy who just wanted a nice hummer. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:16 PM |
| 95 | Letting men off the hookAnd women get the book thrown at them. Roseanne can’t work again. Paula Poundstone ruined her career. The Dixie Chicks. Vanessa Williams and Janet Jackson both suffered huge losses because of nudity and remained the butts of jokes for years. Lol I’m showing my age. Women banned from Twitter, Reddit and other platforms while incels/RP flourishes. Amber Heard gets twice the hate that Johnny Depp gets even though they are both abusive, (and sorry, he’s worse because of the male power differential; … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 10:50 PM |
| 16 | Uighur women are being mass raped, forced sterilized, forced abortions and more in CCP concentration camps. They are being assigned Han Chinese men to each physical bed (government sanctioned rape) while their husbands are being killed in concentration camps. The CCP is committing atrocities.Thank you. I’m a leftist I guess, for the most part my ideals line up that way, but I have NO tolerance for this woke, moral relativism crap. Especially, oh-so-conveniently, when it comes to gross human rights violations, mostly against women. No, fuck you, you’re not gonna call me “racist” or bleat about “white feminism” when other women are being raped and murdered and women speak out. It’s all just bullshit silencing tactics. It’s shit like this that makes me not identify with the left. Also,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 29 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.Thank you, I am remarried now so it’s all good. And in case there are any doubters out there, guess how many times I’ve had to have the monthly/yearly recurring round-robin discussion with current husband about issues that never get listened to or solved? ZERO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:54 PM |
| 6 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 05:51 PM |
| 204 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.Woof, this would have seemed super deep and amazing to me as a young pickme. I was love and depth-starved, longing for a connection with a man who “gets” me. Now I look at it for the narc-y love bombing it is. For the Gift of Fear-style red flags like forced teaming and typecasting. It makes my skin completely crawl. Progress! 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 03:53 PM |
| 55 | INCEL KILLERS: At least eight mass murders, resulting in a total of 61 deaths, have been committed by men who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private or Internet postings. Some of them are listed here (swipe to see more)I believe they fixate on weird shit on purpose, it’s an avoidance mechanism. That way they can always have some absurd reason out of their control why they’re that way, or some external reason they can’t change. It’s also all projection. They are narcs and are obsessed with beauty, power and fame fantasies etc. while claiming women are the ones obsessed with this stuff. They want nothing less than a woman (or girl) that projects that specific image. They are not and never were looking for a real… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:55 PM |
| 67 | Harrowing thoughts from a Reddit - women aren't afraid of consequences when challenging men (context in comments)And then it’s presented as WOMEN’S failing that we don’t go punch-crazy. Ffs. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:52 PM |
| 25 | I’m glad that pick me’s are getting called out on just how crazy they soundRight?! For real! I nice homemade baked Mac n cheese with real cheeses and bread crumbs. Tomatoes optional! 🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 69 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.My ex husband used all the tricks in the books during our 15+ year relationship and marriage. In the beginning years, he’d stonewall me. It didn’t matter if I was in tears, or if I presented my case calmly and logically. He’d sit there, staring straight ahead, not moving or saying anything. If I pressed him for response, it was “I have nothing to say/I don’t know what to say/I don’t know.” The middle years were the “yes” years. We had both grown up (we were high school sweethearts) so he started… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:44 PM |
| 55 | I’m glad that pick me’s are getting called out on just how crazy they soundTHANK YOU yes it’s “fancy adult” Mac n cheese. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:58 PM |
| 79 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.Right! Same, the rare times it happened (mostly when I was young and careless) I would feel aghast that I had caused this beloved person to feel like that. Or ashamed that that was how they saw me due to my behavior. The fact that these guys can just ignore it, or “yes” you for like a week and then revert back, just shows they don’t give aaaany fucks at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:27 PM |
| 22 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.I’m also politically homeless! I think you and I would probably agree on a lot. 🍷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:22 PM |
| 88 | INCEL KILLERS: At least eight mass murders, resulting in a total of 61 deaths, have been committed by men who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private or Internet postings. Some of them are listed here (swipe to see more)I had a young beautiful “ray of light” coworker a few years ago who was a creep magnet supreme. I tried telling her to stop being so sweet, open and nice to specifically men but she (from her responses) thought I was being unnecessarily harsh. She was also raised really religious and believed in treating everyone with love and kindness but it would always bite her in the ass with guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:19 PM |
| 134 | INCEL KILLERS: At least eight mass murders, resulting in a total of 61 deaths, have been committed by men who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private or Internet postings. Some of them are listed here (swipe to see more)None of these guys are bad looking. They are average to above average regular guys. This narrative that incels are poor lonely boys too ugly to get women is false. These men are entitled, abusive narcissists and that’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:15 PM |
| 196 | Harrowing thoughts from a Reddit - women aren't afraid of consequences when challenging men (context in comments)Fucking Jordan Peterson shit. Remember how he said something like how women aren’t effective in public life because two men can always punch each other, but men can’t punch women so women have an unfair advantage? I’m not sure what his point was other than he really wants dudes to be able to punch women too. Wtf, how about we don’t punch people in verbal debates? I swear, men have no emotional control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:12 PM |
| 53 | Your experiences with Liberal vs. Conservative men.The problem I’ve encountered with self-described centrist men is so many of them use it an excuse to wuss out and “not take sides” on any issue. I’d rather a man stand for something even if I disagree with him. Hence the whole “enlightened centrist” meme. Real non-wussy centrists IME are libertarians. They’re fine w pot, abortion, gay rights etc. but they want small government and despise wokeness. They are usually very pro-porn, pro-prostitution unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:03 PM |
| 483 | To those completely new to FDS. You cannot "communicate" your way out of this patriarchal system. Level up and never settle.One thing that helped me to stop CoMmUnIcAtInG is realizing that no one ever has to explain or beg ME to treat them with the barest of respect and consideration. Think to yourself: when was the last time someone had to sit you down over and over again about something you continue to do that hurts them? Where someone had to beg you for your help, time and affection, and you were in a supposed intimate relationship with this person? Does the idea sound absurd to you? It should! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:54 AM |
| 44 | I thought this belongs here...Ugh I’ve had more than one first date where it turns out he has some One True Lost Love he mentions eventually. The first date! More than once! I didn’t understand it then and I still don’t now. Why are you dating?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:15 AM |
| 97 | This is probably exactly how some scrotes process mundane, everyday transactionsNow now, he’s of a different pedigree, remember. 🧐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 04:01 AM |
| 758 | This is probably exactly how some scrotes process mundane, everyday transactions“She said, breathlessly, ‘Please! Come back! I want to show you my boobies!’ ‘MA’AM, please contain yourself!’ I took a huge step back from her wanton gaze. ‘I am a man of DIGNITY and SELF-RESPECT!’” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 01:50 AM |
| 94 | Women have been shamed and bullied into staying silenct and tolerating shitty, dangerous behavior so they don't look like a "Karen". Why is there no word for men who misbehave in public, much less men who creep out women?YES. I had a seedy guy try to get chummy with me at the gym. I’m not even young or particularly hot (yet, that’s why I’m working out lol). He had a neck tattoo and wasn’t wearing gym clothes. Looked like a reedy druggie. He camped out on a machine. He watched me do the leg press. He asked me if I needed his machine. I took one ear bud out and said no. Then he told me his name and held out his hand for me to shake. Now I choose to shake hands because I like to surprise guys with VERY firm handsha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:54 PM |
| 224 | Women have been shamed and bullied into staying silenct and tolerating shitty, dangerous behavior so they don't look like a "Karen". Why is there no word for men who misbehave in public, much less men who creep out women?He’s wrong, “douchebag” is way more general. “Karen” describes a specific look, age, sex and behavior. It’s even got its own haircut ffs. Say “Karen” and everyone immediately gets nearly the same mental image. Douchebag? Eh, could be that shitty bro in high school. Could be a typical frat guy. Could be your asshole coworker or the neighbor who always parks on your lawn. Could be any shitty dude. And as you said, it’s not a specific name (and therefore cannot attain that infamous iconic status). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:44 PM |
| 91 | Just got told off by a woman for being mean to a guy who idolises/sees himself in Joaquin Phoenix's JokerSo appropriate how this comes after this week’s earlier posts about how neurodivergent men are given all the breaks and coddled no matter how assholish or antisocial they act. This is a perfect example; I’ve seen it happen over and over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 16 | Why do men love using this excuse when they f*** up?Ugh disgusting. I’m sorry he was such a festering asshole. Men think “sex” HAS to be PIV and lots of women don’t like that. I’ve had guys get salty with me because I don’t come right away just from dick. Never gonna happen and if you “need” that, there’s the door. 👉🚪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:29 PM |
| 30 | BruhI’ve learned that when a man does something inexplicable, often there’s a fetish involved. It could be what goldustiger said, but I’m thinking he got off, in some way, doing on something disgusting to her secretly. Maybe a humiliation thing, or vore-based. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:55 PM |
| 8 | What age range should I be dating in?It’s so dumb! I mean maybe if you’re talking 22 year olds but it shouldn’t be hard to find a nice responsible 27-29 year old man as a 27 year old woman. And if you can’t it’s better not to settle. Wouldn’t you rather have a young man with the same zest for life, in the same place in his career or just a smidge ahead, never been married and looking for his wife, hasn’t hit the big 3-0 yet…the list goes on. Rather than like, a doughy 36 year old middle manager or tech dude…possibly divorced and ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:11 PM |
| 123 | Texas has an anonymous tip line for reporting abortions.We should report that guy in the other thread jerking it with an entire roll of TP. Think of how many potential children he’s wadded up into tissue! 😫 Seriously though, isn’t men “spilling their seed” also a grave sin to these religious zealots? Funny how only women are held to high biblical standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 127 | BruhAn infamous Reddit relationship post where a woman kept getting sick and her bf would play dumb. Turns out he was putting slugs in her food unbeknownst to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:33 PM |
| 110 | Study suggests that I don't give afreward you with contempt Ha I’m not the only 🤡 who once upon a time tried to “spice things up” only to be judged and asked stupid questions “where did you learn THAT?” And this was for non-kinky, bog-standard, mildest-salsa spice here. I don’t do spice anymore. Nothing performative or porn-flavored whatsoever. It’s vanilla where my orgasm is prioritized, he has fun too and we both feel satisfied and close after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:32 PM |
| 3 | In order to avoid being someone’s “forever girl friend”…YES definitely good point, the goalposts are forever changing. 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:22 PM |
| 619 | Pick me-ism is a hell of a drug🤷🏼♀️ honestly I’d just dust my hands off like, ok sis. You did your part, your good deed. It’s not your fault she’s stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 293 | Study suggests that I don't give afIME when men say they want to “feel sexually desired” by a woman, what they mean is: she acts like my own personal porn star, looks/dresses how I want her to, does all the dirty things I want with no regard to her own desires/pleasures, is up for it whenever I want. The real mindfuck is (as some of us know) when you get with a guy who whines that you don’t “desire” him, yet he still gets turned off or salty if you initiate. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:08 PM |
| 619 | BruhHe’s probably jerking it 24/7. Hence the defensive anger. That’s the best case scenario. The worst is he’s disposing of the tp and actively gaslighting her. Based on some of the shit I’ve seen on Reddit (slug guy, anyone?) sadly I can’t put it past him. The slug guy for the curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:04 PM |
| 8 | In order to avoid being someone’s “forever girl friend”…Exactly. Those sociopaths who pull the marriage-to-forever-gf bait and switch exist, but they are rare. 9 times out of 10, it’s gonna be like this ☝️, and a woman is gonna know in her bones whether this situation is happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 47 | In order to avoid being someone’s “forever girl friend”…Honestly I think a lot of forever girlfriend situations are pretty broadcasted in advance; it’s just that a lot of women will ignore the signs or bank on potential. Following guidelines on this sub will weed them out naturally. Does he: seem lukewarm in the beginning? Like you’re ok, you don’t knock his socks off or anything, but you suspect you’re just something to do? seem hesitant to plan things without you doing a lot of the legwork? seem hesitant about “claiming” you in any way or expressin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:57 PM |
| 169 | Why do men love using this excuse when they f*** up?Well I think in the context of cheating it’s obvious bullshit and everyone knows it. Cheaters will often do or say anything, even something completely nonsensical, to justify their behavior. “I cheated for your benefit” is really what this means and it’s ridiculous. They’re trying to make their evil, self serving behavior altruistic. I watched a Forensic Files last night where a guy killed his wife and tried the defense in court that he didn’t want her “to suffer the pain of a divorce”. So like,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 29 | What age range should I be dating in?What the heck is this desperate scarcity mindset where women in their 20s are convinced that there’s no men their age and they absolutely MUST go for older men? Like?? There’s plenty of dudes your age! You don’t need some fuddy duddy on the downstroke to 40, and I say this as a woman in my 40s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 39 | Congrats scrotes! Your screeching into the void and constant harrassment of FDS and its members has continued to propel us to the front page!Some subs will ban you preemptively for even posting here. Even if your posts never mention FDS. You have committed Wrong-Think and shall be punished! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:53 PM |
| 109 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itYUP made a comment a few days back about my probable ADD (inattentive type) and I’m not keen on trying to get it diagnosed in my 40s. I’ve reached the point where I’ve masked so long I get by. I tried in my 30s but docs shot me down. Because I’m female, they thought “you have depression and anxiety” and prescribed me Zoloft which did nothing. Oh and birth control pills because all women get those thrown at em. 🙄 I insisted I’m not depressed, I mean a little but it more stems from the fact that i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 04:45 PM |
| 15 | What with FDS women watching Fboy Island, it's time for a reminder from Lundy Bancroft about The Player: an abuser, not a sex addictWhoa I had no idea about the Love Island suicides, that’s sad and scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 61 | Pick me mother said to me that she wished she had forced me into marriage in my teens so she could have grandchildrenWow that’s even worse. What kind of mom doesn’t want as good or better for her own kids? At least if it had happened to her she might have the excuse that it’s all she had known (still awful though). But I can’t even imagine the mentality she’d have to have as an educated woman to justify selling you into rape and servitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:41 AM |
| 306 | Currently getting some downvotes on a FEMINIST subreddit for saying her "friend" probably objectifies women, so that's why he got defensive and is trying to shame her. 🤗The inherent misogyny in posts like this is the absolute assurance that this guy, even though he wasn’t there, knows that these men were just “expressing attraction” in a perfectly normal way. Women know the difference between quiet, polite appreciation and men being pigs. I’ve never met a woman in my life, including myself, that takes issue with a guy simply appreciating attractiveness and there is a big difference WE NOTICE. There’s this mentality that women are always looking to convict a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:41 PM |
| 48 | Tiktok "challenges" that could get you killedA lot of these are actually staged, which makes them more dangerous. Some young kid sees a staged TikTok where things go as scripted (even if it’s dramatic and ott, she’s never in real danger), then she tries it in real life and gets a black eye or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 76 | OLD in one picI love it BUT the thought of some stranger’s mouth on me is 🤢. Reducing it down to some disembodied act is also unsettling. Anyway I never trust a guy when he insists it’s all he will do and doesn’t expect reciprocation. You know how it’ll go. He’ll do his thing and then beg to get inside like “I don’t normally but you’re sooooo sexy I just wanna please baby”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 02:13 PM |
| 20 | A fascinating deep dive of pickup culture - I love Illuminaughtii!So it’s good then? I’m subbed to her and enjoy her MLM callouts, but skipped this. There’s a lot of liberal/left-ish criticism of this kind of thing I find shallow and frustrating, so I tend to skip them. Like they’ll make fun of them and obviously be against it, but they’ll skirt around the Big Bad M Word (misogyny) nor will they get into the kind of entitlement that drives these manosphere “philosophies”. Maybe to avoid a lot of strife in the comments and to keep the tone light, but I’m just n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 32 | Truth 💯 @che_guefarhanIt’s not hard, I think most of them do understand. They are just trying to shut down female solidarity and weaken feminism. The few that don’t understand, they can’t imagine actually distinguishing between women because they hate all women as one, amorphous blob. Y’know, “AWALT”. It’s projection; because they can’t imagine it, they assume we hate all men with no distinction too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 5 | Had to share this 😩😉🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 118 | Men have no ability to emotionally regulate because society has been coddling their feelings from the moment they were bornCrimes against boys are treated like the sick travesties they are. “Sick fuck, I hope he’s murdered in prison for what he did.” Girls? “Girls today are fast, what was she wearing, are we sure she didn’t seduce him?” I have seen comments under articles about rape of young girls sexualizing the victim or reveling in her suffering. I have never seen a comment under anything sexualizing a boy victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:30 PM |
| 137 | Friendly reminders 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼She is absolutely STUNNING. 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 02:50 AM |
| 365 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problems“Durrr hurrrr bad sex is like pizza when it’s bad it’s still good hehe” Yeah maybe for YOU. For us it’s like your furiously rubbing an elbow, only it’s my vagina. At worst, of course, it’s painful and traumatic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 42 | He knows his worth y’all. I can’t even with this 😩Lol seriously it’s like that Skinner meme where he thinks for a second like “hmm maybe me and other men are the problem…” then straight to “no, it’s the women who are wrong!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:46 PM |
| 326 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveWhat bothers me most about both conservatives and libfems is this idea that women are wh0res anyway. Conservatives think women should be wh0res for one man, that’s a woman’s lot. Whereas libfems think being a wh0re for all men (under the guise of being a wh0re for herself) is what’s empowering. What if we were to tell you that your initial premise is flawed and women are actually people? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 56 | Absolutely 👏👏There’s definitely something to be said about using men as the yardstick with which everyone is measured. It’s a big reason why “strong female characters” in media hit wrong; they are mapping a female character over the framework of a typical male character and slapping boobs abs a catsuit on it, calling it feminist. Making feminism into libfem girl-boss feminism also helps distract from much needed class solidarity (in the US especially). This is why feminism was acquired and repackaged by corp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:52 PM |
| 70 | guys quizzing you on datesPft LOSER. Seriously. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:33 PM |
| 457 | guys quizzing you on datesIt’s shitty behavior. I’d walk out on smug assholes like that, as a former geek girl I’ve lost all tolerance for this “fake female fan” bullshit men pull. But failing that, just act like he’s the most embarrassing fucking nerd you’ve ever met. “Lol what is this, English class? I’m enjoying my dirty martini here, not thinking about lit.” Or I might just come out and say “you one of those neckbeards who think lack of encyclopedic knowledge makes you fake?” Give him a look like he’s trés lame, beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:29 PM |
| 307 | A Pickme's LifeI nearly reflexively downvoted this. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:15 PM |
| 95 | Where there is smoke, there is fire.I really love this energy. Damn right it’s not your fault. It’s a lesson but nothing you need to endlessly punish yourself for. We have a lot of posts from former pickmes and women that were in awful relationships, beating themselves up. This ☝️is what you need to keep in mind friends! You deserve to be happily partnered and treated with respect and nothing less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:14 PM |
| 745 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problemsThey never care what kind. They never care that it’s themselves and their fellow men fucking them over, too. They blame women. They act willfully obtuse if you point out that the “attention” is harassment and not pleasant. They just say “b-but sex. SEX. Women get sex.” It’s like a toddler screaming that his sister got cake, but it’s a cake made of SHIT. But he still hollers because SHE GOT CAKE, it’s not FAIR! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:51 PM |
| 3 | So really? I've supported this sub from day 1 and my posts are still not showing up?I don’t see any posts here in your history. Pretty sure I remember your name/avatar but not 100% sure. It’s possible your removed posts are only visible to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:16 PM |
| 302 | He knows his worth y’all. I can’t even with this 😩He blames men but you can just see him wanting to be resentful of women more. Calling the digital dick-wagging-in-women’s-faces “all the love and attention”. No analysis of what KIND of attention it was. He’s just so jealous and butthurt over his own delusions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 235 | Had to share this 😩Wishy-washy weak sauce bullshit. First, if it’s not a date, why can’t you speak up? Is it because it IS a date, in the secret sneaky Nice Guy style, and you don’t want to torpedo your chances? If he’d had the balls to just ask her on a date and actually plan it, he wouldn’t be dealing with this. Also gotta love the typical Redditors ascribing evil gold digger motives to some girl they’ve never met who just picked a nice restaurant. Like, calm the fuck down. Maybe she picked it off Yelp. Maybe sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:40 PM |
| 15 | Man 36m lies about divorce to 29f gf. Input girls?Nope. I’d be done. I’ve read several accounts of women who overlooked typical lies men tell like this. Like their age or whether they are divorced. And in those stories, the guy eventually turned out to be a psycho who made their lives a living hell. Idk what the correlation is between guys who lie about this stuff and being a psycho. Maybe it’s that they don’t care much for integrity. Maybe it’s that they they are willing to say/do whatever it takes to get what they want (ends justify the means… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:27 PM |
| 47 | The dating subreddits have become a cesspool for incels, and a bullying ground directed at women and it's sad.Just the fact that they’re able to shout down their married male elders and grown women with their bizarre worldview and few people challenge them proves that we’re letting dumbass teens, who don’t know shit, run the show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 126 | Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decoratorOk, Kirk Van Houten. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 05:31 PM |
| 68 | The meaning of "boundaries"Also your boundaries are YOURS. They can be as silly as you want. You’re not obligated to present a case to the peanut gallery so they approve of whether your boundaries are correct or not. People are free to respect the boundaries or walk away but trying to browbeat someone into weakening them or trying to gaslight you that they’re wrong or too much? Run! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:44 PM |
| 120 | The dating subreddits have become a cesspool for incels, and a bullying ground directed at women and it's sad.We shouldn’t have to cloister ourselves here but unfortunately it’s necessary. Reddit is pro-incel, pro-porn, pro-p3do and anti-female. They choose to soft-pedal on moderation and think “representation of both sides” is women saying things like “I’m tired of being treated like a free prostitute by disrespectful men” and men saying “women should be happy to be harassed, they are hypergamous wh0res who discriminate against short kings”. Like they think these are the same things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:40 PM |
| 26 | Low Value Men are like Low Value FoodHey I eat well and go to the gym regularly but you can pry my occasional shitty pizza, ice cream and spicy Korean ramen from my cold, dead hands. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:26 PM |
| 109 | Why didn't we get banned yet?Yup a woman gets the same misogynistic vitriol whether she says “I want no less than 6’4”!” or she says “I just want him to be taller than me.” so you might as well just confidently own high standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 72 | Why didn't we get banned yet?It’s just a baseless smear campaign. They literally have to fabricate posts on call-out subs, trying to dupe gullible Redditors into thinking it’s what we said. Soooo stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:21 PM |
| 157 | I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮The more I read ultra religious trad stuff like this, the more I’m convinced it’s a masked form of repressed BDSM. There’s always this salacious sexual tone with this stuff. It’s yucky. ☹️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:25 PM |
| 62 | Low Value Men are like Low Value FoodHey idk, I like nice artisan pizza, but sometimes you just want the shitty, greasy stuff. Maybe it’s just me. Unlike men though, bad pizza won’t ruin your life by abusing you or cheating on you (or the countless other ways LVM ruin women’s lives). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 54 | Psychologist ScroteLest we forget, men in my dad’s generation were debating whether the “female orgasm” was a “myth”. I’ve seen some smoothbrains online parroting the Eternal Virgin belief that for women, “cumming” and “orgasming” are two different things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:16 AM |
| 17 | Hot Take: The new rules at OF will push more women into hardcore pornography and physical prostitution.Only a fraction of the women made any real money. What did that source say, the average monthly income was like $160? I do think that it could push some women into dangerous porn or prostitution but I think it’s more likely they get funneled into low-wage drudgery. We have a huge lack of shit-pay workers (because no one wants to work those awful jobs and businesses refuse to give workers adequate pay and dignity), but because of the stigma of their history, it may be the only avenue available to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:41 AM |
| 249 | Psychologist ScroteNobody is FORCING men to have these oh-so-frigid wives. Just stay single and chase strange forever, no one cares. Oh what’s that? You still want all of the handy unpaid labor a wife provides? Interesting. And if your wife doesn’t want to fuck you, it means you can’t fuck. Sorry to break it to ya. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Men have their own fairytales in their scrotsational dreams 🤡🤌🏻Oh also, analysis: this is a deliberate RP troll, the kind that likes to bait women and play gotcha-games and insult/reject women online. You can tell because he uses the manosphere term “success object” unironically and offers to “fly her out”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Men have their own fairytales in their scrotsational dreams 🤡🤌🏻Feeding off his kbowledge is a bad idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:31 PM |
| 3 | I Feel Like It's Going To End Bad And I Need An Advice ASAPFirstly, it’s a bad idea to date guys at work, full stop. Where that sis with the newspaper that was in the other thread about dating guys you work with? 🗞 Secondly, all this staring and flirting and clandestine happenings but not actually taking the initiative to ask you out and be direct is a no-go. IME the dudes who did this w me ended up being the most emotionally unavailable weirdos ever. They like the flirt and banter but if they aren’t actually making a real move they’re probably a fuckbo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:46 PM |
| 5 | Is anyone else disturbed by these comments? It was on the OnlyFans post on the front page.Yeah it’s a goddamn travesty and America should be ashamed. It’s like when they try to spin a “feel-good” story out of when that kid was forced to sell lemonade because a parent had cancer and the family was going broke. 😡 ETA further rage-inducing as so many of these Redditors will happily post in commie/anti-work/anti-capitalism subs but have this giant blind spot when it comes to women selling their bodies because it pleases their dicks. Absolutely zero critical analysis or examination. Lame-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 26 | Is anyone else disturbed by these comments? It was on the OnlyFans post on the front page.But they’re still allowing nudes. It’s only outright porn they are banning. Also it’s a sad fucking state of affairs where they’re basically saying “women had to turn to prostitution during COVID” like that’s an awesome, totally normal thing. Fuck you, maybe this country should actually work on real living wages and an adequate safety net so selling your body to creeps online doesn’t become necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:09 PM |
| 39 | 🙄She doesn’t seem to say what he said/did during these many conversations. She says she “thought we were on the same page” but what kind of things did he say? Did he hem and haw? Did he enthusiastically agree? Did he make vague statements about “someday” while throwing up all these roadblocks (ex I want to make more money first/we need a house first/not until my SoundCloud career takes off etc)? I’m thinking this is a classic case of a woman getting clear signs that he is Not The One but she is s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:52 PM |
| 98 | I don’t even know where to start.I do agree, I’m not without compassion. Her husband sounds like a classic malignant narcissist and I’m sure this is just one of his many outrageous abuses in a long line of abuse. However she’s so self-deluded and unready for advice (and unwilling to cast blame on the real guilty party: HIM) that it’s like she needs to be dragged, kicking and screaming, out of the cave to realize she’s been looking at shadows the whole time. I hope some of the advice resonates and at least plants the seed where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:57 PM |
| 77 | I don’t even know where to start.That too, once the divorce is final and the pit bull lawyer takes him to the cleaners for his fucking audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 6 | Be careful who you have children with…Yep. He was also rich and good looking. His family was well-connected. He was like a spoiled prince. I recently read an account by a former (male) friend of his who tried to help him and get through to him but he said it was basically like talking to a brick wall so he gave up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:54 PM |
| 787 | I don’t even know where to start.She doesn’t sound like she’s done with him at all. The tone of her post is like he picked up an annoying hobby or something and not that he has committed an unforgivable act of disrespect. She blames the other woman for everything even though he’s likely to be working with her to slander OP. Casting her as the villain mentally prepares her to take him back. She’s far too concerned about all his shit like his health and whether he abstains (?!) like that’s her responsibility to care about?? I rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 05:10 PM |
| 13 | Be careful who you have children with…Everyone seems to think these men are all downtrodden in some way, news outlets ponder about “mental illness” and wonder what awful thing could have driven them to such violence. But I 100% believe, and we have seen time and time again, these men are enabled and coddled into narcissism. Modern parenting is too permissive in general IMO where parents bend backwards to cater to kids’ wants and think money + suffering through blatant disrespect so as not to “stifle” = loving parent (a whole other t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 16 | Be careful who you have children with…GOOD. I’m really glad to hear that you and those other women are practicing smart self preservation. “Blood” only matters to these violent men insofar as your blood will be the first they spill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:26 PM |
| 123 | Study finds that altruism is a determining factor in which men women choose for longterm relationships.It’s not even as deep as scrotes say. It’s not that “women want bad boys until they’re ready to settle” (like women do this with malicious premeditation). It’s that young people are often stupid and not serious, until they mature. Men AND women. But because women aren’t actually real humans to these guys, being “young and dumb” and then learning what you want as you gain experience, is a luxury afforded only to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 43 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.Totally true 💯. And these women can be like catnip to us former wallflowers who just want to be invited to the party. And, truthfully, narcs can be magnetic and a barrel of fun so long as you’re on their good side. But as we both found out, it’s sooooo not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:48 PM |
| 59 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.Thank you 😊. This sub makes us all stronger for sure, there’s so much shit we all went through in life where you’re sure it’s just you, so seeing it’s actually a really common experience can be validating. I have a pretty jaded eye now about those big, enmeshed friend groups full of “fun” and drama I used to be so envious of. Now they just (for the most part) look like a few narcissists getting the benefits and status and supply, and a bunch of pickmes flittering about, auditioning for higher po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:26 PM |
| 118 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.Honestly I no longer care about what people think about me. I used to be so worried how I was seen but now, it’s entirely how I see THEM. It used to be “why doesn’t anyone like me 🥺” and now it’s “I don’t even like this clown”. “What other people think about me is none of my business.” As long as I know I’m being my authentic self and being honest (and shedding pickme self was a big part because pickme = NOT HONEST, either with yourself or others), if other people decide not to like me or drop o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:08 PM |
| 280 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.I learned long ago that having a big friend group with a ton of friends can be overrated. I’m introverted by nature but I used to think I needed to “branch out” and be more “open-minded”. And yes this was during my pickme years so, true to form, I was a pickme for friends too. “Oh you need a ride? A coupla bucks? I’m here for you! I’ll listen to all your troubles too. I have friends, yay! “What’s that, you’re too busy right now to listen to me? Oh ok I guess, sorry to bother you. We still on for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:43 PM |
| 81 | Be careful who you have children with…His family “begged” the NHS to get him help for his “mental health issues”. Honest question: how do you “help” violent and entitled misogyny where women are subhuman and the cause of all the world’s problems, through therapy? Am I the only one who thinks this is pointless? What would they have done, show him some libfem empowerment videos and have a mild-mannered therapist tell him that women are people? I’m sure his mom tried to tell him she was a person and not a monster btw. If it were a male… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleWhaaaa that’s insane! That’s not their fucking call to make, if they’re so concerned they should call the doc. I think it was just an excuse to harass you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:07 AM |
| 6 | “FBoy Island” on HBO Max - has anyone else watched?Ok you’re reeeeally making my nerdy ass want to stop my X-Files binge and watch this. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 101 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("That’s the Blood in the Water test and it’s valid, just don’t use real stuff that’ll emotionally affect you. 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:59 PM |
| 174 | Can I just leave this here? 🤣The Loose Vag brigade twist themselves into so many irrational pretzels to justify their weird mystical beliefs about the V. Like how one dick 5000 times won’t stretch you out, but 5000 separate dicks will leave your vag like a deflated inner tube. Then once the bad logic of this was pointed out, they retconned it to be that the vag has magical dick-remembering properties, so if it takes more than one dick, it gets all confused and something something pair bonding something memory foam coochie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:52 PM |
| 16 | The "I have a boyfriend" lie and my personal issue with itI was bothered by it too but couldn’t put my finger on it. I’m thinking it was the first point about the repair man. It’s just so egregious that if I heard that, I wouldn’t be mumbling about having a man. I’d get the fuck out of there and call the management company ASAP. Like who is this creepy fucker in my house and get him out NOW. Basically I think the info graphic was still erring on “too nice”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:46 PM |
| 42 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoyTotally, like we can all relate to kinda regretting some experiences like they said on the pod. But when I see men describe “post nut clarity” as feelings of extreme rage, disgust and even impulses to commit violence (!!) against the poor woman sleeping in bed next to them, misogyny is the only explanation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:57 PM |
| 62 | He didn’t want a fat wifeSour 🍋 grapes 🍇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:35 PM |
| 234 | Woman tells her Scrote boyfriend about a bad sexual experience she had; he is upset because that means "He had a big enough dick to hurt you, and I don't. :("Women, don’t tell these sociopathic assholes this shit. They’ll just make it about their sad PPs and use it to hurt you. Our recent posts about over sharing includes☝️this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:17 PM |
| 35 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possible“Just have a baby!” Oh ok then! Yes! Just create an entire human being! Just create, birth, raise and change the trajectory of your whole life!! OK!! Lol seriously I’ve been told this too by obgyns, for the following issues: Irregular periods Heavy bleeding Bad cramps PCOS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:50 PM |
| 14 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleUgh I’m sorry. Maybe you can relate but I remember saying to myself like, ok do I have to dumb myself down or act a huge hot mess to get any help then? Maybe I should get evicted and develop an alcohol problem? Dark humor but seriously 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 37 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleExactly and something I learned much later is that one big reason why women and girls tend to get missed for things like ADD or autism is 1) we present symptoms differently and 2) we are forced to cope and conform. Between adults’ expectations on girls to be practical, polite and responsible, and other girls’ brutal social enforcement, you either learn to mask early or suffer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 117 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possible“Woman problems” you say? Have you tried throwing birth control pills at it? Well shit, I’m all out of ideas. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 28 | FDS are female incels 🙄They know. I’ve said before, most Reddit men, especially incels, don’t even believe women can be incels. Back in the day femcels would try to talk to incels only to get hatred and scorn because per incels, no woman can be truly femcel because woman can get sex at all times and HOW DARE THEY appropriate the struggle of (REAL) incels. Incels fucking despised femcels because to them they were pretenders mocking them. Also, they just hate women. However, “incel” the term is quickly entering the popu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:49 PM |
| 98 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoy“Post nut clarity” doesn’t exist for the most part. It’s only a thing because men insist on bedding women they actually hate because the quest for sex trumps all. Professional athletes don’t want wives because they crave some kind of special emotional and sexual connection with a woman despite being community dick. They do it because they want the labor, child rearing, family management and social status that wives provide. And yes, sex on tap when they can’t secure strange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:40 PM |
| 12 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleNo clue because I just dropped it at the time and now it’s been like 15 years. The thought of trying again is just ugh. If anyone has tips I’m all ears 👂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 171 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleOr if you suspect you might have AD(H)D as an adult woman, ha. Me in my 30s: I really suspect I might have inattentive type ADD. Doc: Hmmm idk, you’re still paying bills, showering and seem put together enough. So because I’m not like filthy and homeless squatting in the grass somewhere, with zero executive function whatsoever, it’s fine. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:26 AM |
| 199 | Again. Single dads will use younger women for childcare.Tamara sounds like a right flying monkey for her Narc dad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 02:10 AM |
| 74 | Ladies: Don't be afraid to LIE. Nobody is entitled to any information about you, EVER.Please take my word for it, your inner life is sacred and private and you don’t have to spill it all. In fact, never do this! There’s nothing wrong with self preservation and caution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:00 PM |
| 58 | Believing your gut feeling the first time is crucialThis is so interesting. I read something probably on Reddit a while back (not here though, probably an old ask Reddit about weird red flags) that a woman would always have really scary, bad dreams about the men she dated that proved no good. Sometimes our dreams are anxiety that isn’t based in reality, but for her, she noticed it was actually on the nose. Edit nose not ball, different meaning 😛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 216 | Ladies: Don't be afraid to LIE. Nobody is entitled to any information about you, EVER.Hot take: this isn’t LYING. I know Reddit and the kids nowadays try to say that by not sharing everything bit of minutiae with everyone you are “lying” but this is NOT TRUE. Maybe it’s because as an Old™️ I was not raised with this internet culture of sharing literally everything at all times. You are allowed your own privacy. Your business. Your personal stuff between you and god, should you believe. You do not have to vomit out all your “sins” to be “worthy” or “honest”. Unless it’s going to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:47 PM |
| 253 | I’m so tired of hearing that women are “lucky” because we get free drinks at bars or get into nightclubs for free.Pft as if nightclubs would do this, they know it would be bad business. The women are the product, to entice men. Also this whole “women never get charged” is bs. When I clubbed, sometimes I’d have to pay cover and sometimes I wouldn’t. It all depended on the asshole bouncers and honestly it was gross because they’d rate you like meat. If they thought you were “hot”, no cover. Otherwise, pay up. One I recall blatantly favored blondes and I was brunette at the time so I got charged while my blond… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:22 PM |
| 148 | Vet🙌🏻themExactly. My dad, who financially abused my mom when they were together, will still be generous to other friends and family. He’s offered to pay my way many times. But then he gets the “good guy” or “good dad” image doing this too. And, iirc, he was never outwardly stingy to mom in public if it made him look bad. It’s only the women they are intimate with, for whom they seem to have this stingy resentment; this angry chip on their shoulder. They see the women they supposedly love as a power strug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:40 PM |
| 434 | Vet🙌🏻themThis is a clear example of how men don’t mind splurging if it’s something they care about. They’ll treat their bros to dinner or a round of beers without a thought. Maybe they’ll take their mom or dad out on mother’s/father’s day. They’ll definitely drop mad money in hobbies. We all know the ones that are cheapskates across the board (avoid of course), but I’d argue that this ☝️is worse! If a guy is generous with everyone except you, his gf, it’s a big sign he doesn’t give a shit about you. As D… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:37 PM |
| 10 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....Exactly the only places I see incel/MRA stuff removed is “lefty” type subs however those subs also remove non-libfem and FDS posters because they do that cowardly “both sides” shit. Popular subs though? Pfft they don’t give a shit about these guys, maybe another dude will snarkily comment about him needing to touch some grass but it’s not challenged for the death cult that it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 24 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....They’ll even do it in a space that’s not specifically for women but has lax moderation. Years back I briefly participated in a psychology forum but there were MRA trolls who’d, every single day, monopolize the forum with long screeds about how women are scientifically inferior with evo-psych garbage and a bunch of RP/incel rhetoric about Chads and c0ck carousels. Their obsessive fervor never ceased. The mods just let it happen and any complaints were ignored. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:14 PM |
| 7 | Watch out for men who read this guys book and listen to his podcast. Massive red flag. He's a racist misogynist neo fascist.....popular growing figure in the Alt-Right. As always...don't be afraid.....BE VIGILANT.I love how they say that feminism over the past 100 years has “destroyed civilization”. I’ve got my gripes about modern America and capitalism, but society is far from destroyed. He just states it like we obviously live in some Walking Dead style hellhole. Hmmm, technology makes leaps and bounds. Medical technology especially; procedures that would have been dangerous for my mom are relatively safer for me. At least where I live it’s mostly peaceful. It’s cleaner than even when I was a kid in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:24 PM |
| 89 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.The reason they’re winning is because the majority of the men there want this. Look at that other link here, where they are laughing at the women and gleefully waiting for their rights to be stripped. The US was holding them at bay but if the native civilian men really wanted to stop the taliban, they would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:53 PM |
| 166 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.I made a comment like this on another pro woman website and still got downvoted because I pointed out that the US was only talking about giving asylum to those who helped in the war (all men, at least the news report I watched had all men). I said that the women are in more dire need so if the US takes any man they need to also take their families and for every 1 man we give asylum to we should strive to help at least 2-3 women and/or children. The US is getting blamed for this but regardless of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:08 PM |
| 35 | I feel like more of our message is getting out there!!Right?! I wouldn’t do this to a friend or even an acquaintance. It’s so awful and I’m actually floored that this kind of thing is common among men who claim to love their GFs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:56 PM |
| 178 | OP upset that a Tinder match cut it off after a “public place” date following chatting and a virtual date. FDS working in the wild. 👑Also, is it just me, or is “photography” a sexually suggestive thing to monopolize the date with? I know it’s his hobby but how many women have met the pervy “I’m a ~ photographer ~😏” guy? And the date was like, 85% photography. Idk, it would put me off and she barely knows the guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 33 | The "Rising Threat" of Incels - Daily MailExactly and this was in 1989! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 01:03 AM |
| 149 | The "Rising Threat" of Incels - Daily Mail“Rising threat” my ass, though. This ideology goes way back. Sure they didn’t have the internet lingo yet, but the misogyny, violence and entitlement is the same. We need to stop dithering and do something about these psychos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:32 PM |
| 39 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.Ugh, nice ad copy, dude. I swear they write the lamest copy-paste shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 42 | Men who "hate" influencersExactly they say the same thing about female gaming streamers. All female streamers are judged “titty streamers”, sight unseen, no matter what kind of content they have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:11 PM |
| 29 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?THEY don’t even believe women can be incels. Incels used to make fun of femcels as if the very idea was absurd. They know we aren’t incels; it’s just a handy naughty buzzword they use to discredit us in this day and age where no one fact-checks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 20 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Incels are bullies, they are not the bullied. They are abusive narcissists. The Columbine killers were misrepresented as poor bullied boys who rose up against their tormentors, even though many who knew them came forward to say, no, they actually bullied others and were all around entitled shitbags. Yet this false narrative persists because society gives boys and men endless benefit of the doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:14 PM |
| 50 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?It’s an absolutely vile, disgusting idea to treat women as commodities to be issued to men. But, this doesn’t even work. We would just be condemning certain women to be violence sponges for the worst femicidal men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:08 PM |
| 72 | Men On Reddit Do This As Well 😂😂Alimony isn’t even a thing much anymore. It’s awarded in a minority of divorces, and men can get it too. It’s dependent on who was the stay-at-home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:23 PM |
| 192 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaMaybe it’s a bit harsh but any western guy who says he’s reading the Quran, and he is not a student nor does he/his family seem part of that culture, immediate red flag. Let’s just say I wasn’t surprised about what kind of media he made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 156 | Your diminished ability to “pair bond” is actually protective.I don’t believe in “pair-bonding” bullshit, at least not as the manosphere tells it. They take a normal thing found in all primates, male and female,and, of course, use it to prove the inferiority of women. It’s very common for those men to liken women to mindless animals, slaves to hormones and drives in a way that fully human men aren’t. Men have complex, human relationships with many facets. Women “pair-bond” against their wills to the first dick they ride like some kind of creature. Men thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:37 AM |
| 20 | oop 👀Why don’t you go back to the sex work sub to complain about how we are all big meanies, Serena Joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:57 PM |
| 85 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”“Sex dig” Yup the terror of gold diggers is because these guys see interacting with women as a transaction, they are terrified they won’t get the “product” (sex) that they “paid for” (maybe dropping a few bucks and showing up, and deigning to speak to a female while clothed). They feel like they are being swindled. The “sex vending machine” analogy is old at this point but that is really how they view us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:50 PM |
| 236 | oop 👀Thanks! Think about other things that were thought to be “women’s work” but wasn’t inherently degrading and harmful like selling your body. Men saw the potential for money and prestige. That’s why “women belong in the kitchen”, but the world-famous, prestigious chefs are men. It’s why computer programming used to be low-paid women’s work until men saw the potential and pushed women out. It’s also why when men DON’T want to infiltrate it, like caregivers, low-level nursing and teaching (too thank… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:56 PM |
| 82 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.Lol yup or these “communist” dudes who will rail against the injustice of capitalism, but once it’s women’s bodies for sale, well that’s just her choice. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 592 | oop 👀Men would also be doing it, infiltrating the highest level and making the whole thing “prestigious”. (I am aware they are currently pimps who control the money, I mean they’d do the actual sex work. But they know it is degrading and soul-destroying so they don’t.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:24 PM |
| 292 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)Notice how he never says exactly what he wanted her to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:10 PM |
| 58 | Female pick up artists? Pfffft don’t flatter yourself men. Women have been vetting, weeding out men and voicing their concerns since forever! Don’t act brand new.Exactly right, FDS is nothing like PUA and we’ve articulated that over and over beautifully. However, men’s PUA has been existing, unfettered, for 2 decades now. Who criticized them? Feminist blogs? That were easily dismissed as “triggered SJWs”. Mainstream media was largely sympathetic, framing these guys as just “unlucky in love” or “shy guys learning confidence”. And now that there’s even a whiff of a defensive response from women, it’s out of pocket? Don’t make me fucking laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 09:23 PM |
| 12 | The accuracy !Love this! This is my type of humor: totally straight faced at first. Then little subtle signs thrown in and slowly it just gets worse and worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:49 PM |
| 38 | Tired of being abused by men I don’t even know. Simply existing on a dating app, you are at risk for verbal abuse and harassment. THIS IS NORMAL. And has happened to me so many times. I only texted this guy for a few weeks, months ago and this comes out of nowhere. Men abuse women FOR FUN sometimes.He should be blocked! Ideally even before the very first message. No need for his dumb ass to even be given the privilege of your name and a polite message. If he was some loser you knew and you already know his game, the preemptive block ❌is all you need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:11 PM |
| 36 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleSAAAAME. I really wish I could talk to my poor geeky ugly-duckling self to stop her from trying to bow and scrape for male approval while lamenting it’s because I’m not “hot”. My family didn’t help matters either; the general attitude was, I’m no looker, yes I’m smart and nice (but boys don’t care about that) so I should just accept what comes to me. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 27 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleDefinitely! Normalize being the rule! 📏🗣 Hoping you’re the exception also indicates a real lack of understanding (and acceptance of) male psychology. They do not approach dating like we do and boy is it verboten to say in this libfem, sex-posi culture. That’s why so many well-meaning libfems are also pickmes. Everyone lies to them, and they lie to each other, and then they keep doing the same thing over and over claiming everything is totally cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:58 PM |
| 21 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the rule✝️🙅♀️👻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 39 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleThe malignant internalized misogyny pickmes aren’t necessarily the “exceptional dreamer” pickmes but there is overlap! I too don’t really blame the dreamers; that used to be my brand of pickmeism too. We are basically inundated with these stories of Exceptional Women and the Men Who Adore Them. Then the real world just slaps us over and over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:47 PM |
| 11 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?Oh geez I knew so many of these guys during my brief bar-scene phase in my late 20s. They were all coke addicts. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:43 PM |
| 123 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleAgree, I’ve been thinking about the tent poles of pickmeism and thinking you are the exception is a big one. She becomes FWB because deep down she hopes that she is the exception that inspires him to commit. She gives a chance to the gross guy that negs her because she hopes she’s the exception that inspires him to change his ways and be giving and romantic. She dates the walking red flag who says “all my exes were b1tch wh0res” because she hopes she the exceptional woman who finally shows him t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:39 PM |
| 119 | guys who try for sex at the end of an obviously bad dateThis happened to me! I went on a painfully awkward date where everything was just 😨 and he hardly spoke nor mustered up any courtesy or social graces. Then at the end when I was doing that slowly-backing-up-while-laughing-nervously-to-make-exit, he said “so should we go back to my place?” What?! Do you even remember my first name? I bet you don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 34 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!I’ve known women who have been absolutely cavalier about potential mortal danger. More than once I’ve warned a woman NOT to “meet up” to “talk” to an abusive ex. Not to let him inside if he comes knocking. Not to get in the CAR with him! “You worry too much, it’s fine, he wouldn’t do anything THAT crazy!” Oh really?? I believe this is because our society constantly downplays the real danger that men pose to women. Even talking about it gets you labeled “misandrist”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:49 PM |
| 90 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!Really hate things like this because of course she wasn’t listened to. Of course he got a slap on the wrist. Of course there’s some hand-wringing about how the system failed and how we need to do better yadda yadda. But nothing ever really changes and she’s still dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:53 PM |
| 48 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…Totally, but the more I think about it, the more I think AnniaT and Catlady4u is on the money that this guy is cheating, or thinking about it. If this kind of thing is nothing new for him, I’d lean towards abusive control. But if this really is sudden, it’s a huge cheating flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:03 PM |
| 62 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…Yup and then because it’s Reddit, a woman is damned if she does and damned if she doesn’t. So if she didn’t put the disclaimer that she’s active and her body is fine, there would be sooo many comments like “BuT aRe YoU FaT?!” as though that would even give her husband the right to tear her down. But notice that she DID put the disclaimer, so of course the Reddit Smoothbrains now accuse her of fishing for “validation”. A woman truly cannot win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:00 PM |
| 110 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…Exactly, I can hear it now: “she let herself gooo”. None of us, man or woman, can be like we were at 17, when we were children. It’s a ridiculous standard. He knows this and wants her to jump through hoops while her self esteem gets lower and lower. They do this so their narcissistic supply doesn’t leave them. And AnniaT hit the nail on the head. I’d bet this guy, if he’s not cheating, at least has some crush he’s idealizing. Suddenly nitpicking your wife of 17 years if you never had issues befo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:18 PM |
| 411 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…He is insecure and controlling AF. Men who say things like “durrr stop wearing makeup! WhO ArE yOu DreSsInG uP FoR?!” just want to stop other men from noticing her. God forbid she meet other men and realize how shit her husband actually is. And for me, the 17 thing could be a pedo thing (I don’t put anything past these guys), but here it reads like an impossible goal post for her. Controllers love impossible goal posts; they destabilize the woman and keep her jumping for his attention and approv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 261 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?Lmao this is so true, it’s always been tabletop-game playing, turbo nerds with questionable hygiene. Reminds me of this gem someone posted here recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:19 PM |
| 158 | Why do so many guys and girls say size doesn't matter? Do they genuinely believe this? Because it does matter for me....Exactly. Don’t get me wrong, men should feel free to state their preferences, because it’s a great free red flag for women when a guy is classless and piggish, braying about boobs and asses. But miss me with that fake outrage bullshit they do when women state what they like (in a far kinder way that any man might I add). They just don’t want women to talk. They just want to keep that bar in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 470 | Why do so many guys and girls say size doesn't matter? Do they genuinely believe this? Because it does matter for me....For me it’s even irrelevant whether a woman is a size queen. Why is the cock so goddamn sacred? I had to grow up listening to men sing their “preferences” out loud with a full chest, and if women objected, we were told to “lighten up” or get breast implants or something then. They are always just like “sucks to suck I guess” and they aren’t fussed about any woman’s feelings. It does not EVER phase them to say heinous shit. Too fat (landwhale), too skinny (real men want dat ass), flat chested (pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 94 | A supportive motherI wondered that too but that meme was too obscure for a Not-Online mom (she doesn’t know what “this gay thing” is and is yet internet-culture-savvy enough to make a meme) and also too detailed (rainbow clothes drawn on the cat). I mean I definitely could be wrong. I just like flexing my detective side. 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 354 | A supportive motherIdk call me cynical but this feels fake. It’s written in a very “young” way that doesn’t authentically feel like a mom. The “y’all” speech is very lefty tumblr. The meme and the surprise ending with her being bi was a bridge too far for my suspension of disbelief. It may be a gay youth writing supportive-parent fiction which is fine, it just doesn’t ring true for me. Though, if it is true, good for her for picking her son over an abusive man. Too many women wouldn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:18 PM |
| 382 | This girl gets it. Dinner dates ensure a man thinks you’re worth the effort no matter how you look or feel about yourself.And this is EXACTLY the retort for women who lament how FDS is only for hot chicks. It’s not. And she’s right, plain janes need to be even more strict so we aren’t stuck with some loser who later writes on Reddit about how he “loves” his “nice, great” gf of 2 years but he’s not really “sexually attracted” to her and he wants to dump her to have a chance with a hotter woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 123 | Men's selfishness really knows no boundsHe’s an ass, but you explained entirely too much to him and wasted your time. Block this fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:03 PM |
| 16 | Wow ! New here, pretty certain this sub saved my lifeHi there! 👋Always excited to meet another Gen Xer. We really did start all this “cool girl” shit for sure. That guy sounds absolutely terrifying and your friend sadly sounds like old friends of mine I used to have. I’m glad you’re safe and reading with us here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:52 PM |
| 73 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?“Have you heard of this guy on YouTube? Maybe not, he’s pretty niche.” Me: I don’t like where this is going “Anyway, his name is Jordan Peterson and he’s got really great ideas!” Me: oh shit oh fuck “He’s like the modern day philosopher, a true intellectual juggernaut! I just sent you a link to one of his lectures! It’ll change your life!” Me: nooooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:33 PM |
| 421 | “Oh the breadcrumbs Look Gretel, there are a lot of sweets down this path but it will end in a fiery oven for you or you have to shove his ass in to save yourself.” 😭Notice how he came back to “reconnect” after she left him, for the sole purpose of rejecting her to soothe his ego over being dumped. It’s amazing she can’t see that’s what that was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:25 PM |
| 37 | Can you even spell my name?It’s possible, but he was also unwilling to explore any options or even examine why he did that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:40 AM |
| 27 | Scrote pulled out of mens bathroom so me and my friend could pee at the barProbably just gonna squat in there til you gave up, just to be petty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:31 AM |
| 101 | Can you even spell my name?I think so (even though he wouldn’t really know what simping is as we are old and he’s very not-online). But yeah I think it was definitely a control thing for sure. Like he wanted me to know he’d not do me that courtesy lest I have an upper hand over him. He also never, ever apologized. I used to joke about it 🤡 in the marriage like it was a quirk of his. But it was a huge factor in our split, ultimately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:29 AM |
| 138 | Can you even spell my name?Nothing. Like he pointedly avoided using anything like a name. He’d say “she”. Like “she’s over there” but never “Laurie is over there” (my name is not Laurie). And if someone were like “who’s over there?” He’d hem and haw and indicate to me but avoid the name. He even didn’t like saying “my wife”, he’d mumble that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:35 AM |
| 285 | Can you even spell my name?One sticking point with my ex was he never USED my name. He’d mumble it if he absolutely had to say it, like he was embarrassed, but otherwise avoided it. And no we didn’t use pet names. I feel like this is a LV flag I don’t see talked about much. My current husband can spell my very long complicated name no problem. 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:20 PM |
| 46 | Scrotes madUgh or even worse, a friend of mine had an FWB (🤡) and she said it would take him OVER an hour of thrusting to come. She laughed it off but was also complaining. His dick was so broken and death-gripped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:40 PM |
| 115 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about usAlso if she were really this much of an FDS gal, she’d never being seeing some dude “casual” for 2 months, and the only way he can describe her is “very sweet”. Sounds like pickme shit. That right there tells me FAKE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Ugh, expect?Yikes on bikes, I’d just assumed he was some gay dude into weird shit. But of course he was married (and into weird shit). 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:50 PM |
| 1 | And they say women are sensitive, sometimes you have to be glad you asked ladies. “Account disabled” 🤣See at first I was thinking, I’d be salty too if I told a guy 7 and he was late. Because I’m a stickler for timeliness and doing what you say you’ll do. However, his response was way over the top. Hnnng, I’m just going to QUIT! this APP! And then I noticed that he didn’t even confirm, he just left it. If it were me, I’d have responded with “ok call you at 7, until later!” or something. So yeah I don’t have sympathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:55 AM |
| 35 | Ugh, expect?Ah the good old days of shock internet. I’d heard that that guy continued to put glass up his ass and film it, even after that horror of what happened to him. Granted that could be a rumor but I wouldn’t put it past your average coomer to destroy themselves in pursuit of their fetishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:00 PM |
| 150 | Men on Reddit hate FDS because they know they’re LVMI don’t really share much from here with my husband (this is female only and I cherish keeping that energy just for us), but occasionally I’ll tell him some of the LVM Reddit bullshit that gets posted here. The only reaction I get from him is incredulity and “is that guy for real?! That’s fucked up!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:38 PM |
| 82 | Ugh, expect?This assurance sleazy dudes have that most women are constantly and forever inserting foreign objects into our vaginas is informed from porn and ignorance. I’ve seen so many guys that say shit like this and are 100% convinced, Dunning-Kruger style, that they know everything about female sexuality. They are also usually convinced that lesbians are obsessed with dildos to the exclusion of all other sex acts, and say dumbfuck things like “you use strap-ons, so why can’t you fuck a guy?!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:29 PM |
| 71 | Scrote blamed his 8 year old sister for downloaded porn 🤡“Pfft, it’s not because I like women and don’t get a raging stiffie at the thought of them degraded and crying!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 83 | A woman is told to lower her standards.🚨⚠️ ☣️WARNING: DANGEROUS SCROTIUM LEVELS. PLEASE USE CAUTION.⚠️🚨☣️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:22 PM |
| 37 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.When it comes to male “gurus” or anyone who seems to be giving good, empathetic advice to women, the old saying applies: It takes one to know one! I’ve listened to a lot of male advice I agreed with, but I never fool myself into thinking they aren’t probably opportunistic creeps themselves. Men often can’t handle any modicum fame or money, they wild tf out and think they’re king of the universe. Though it’s clear this guy was always just a garden variety fuckboi that YouTube fame just exacerbate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:09 PM |
| 48 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.She is what my boomer parents would call a “Jesus freak”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:05 PM |
| 108 | LVMs be likePft, love language. 🙄 one lady here put it very succinctly when she said something like, I don’t want my relationship a la carte. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:03 PM |
| 124 | Why do the manosphere and pickmes hate men so much?I used to ask the same questions back when I knocked around the old feminist subs. There’s none so misandrist as an MRA, truly. ETA: it’s all just smoke and mirrors really. We know they love to change the narrative as it suits their purpose. Men are dumb, horny animals when they excuse rape and harassment, yet brilliant rational masterminds when they say men should naturally be in charge of everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:24 AM |
| 10 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡That they do, that horrible tweet by an evil handmaiden about how some women just need to be prostitutes so the incels won’t be violent. Jesus. And by coddling men by trying to be their life coaches/cheerleaders or some shit. Or those misguided young libfems that try to talk to incels. No, Jessica, the problem isn’t that he just doesn’t know how to improve or never had support. It’s that he doesn’t think women are worth improving anything for because we are just sex objects to him, and in HIS mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:49 PM |
| 2 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityHey we’re like wannabe butterfly twins because I too went through this phase. And yup, I too felt empty and stretched thin about all these people I didn’t really know and who didn’t really care about me. It was kind of depressing tbh. My friendship with her ☝️ was during this time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:09 PM |
| 3 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityI block & deleted 😂 savage! The friend I mentioned, I haven’t spoken to her in years because I finally laid down a boundary about how she always disrespected my time (another big issue we had, she always flaked or was late every. single. time.) After I laid it down, we never spoke again. 🤭While I don’t wish her ill will, I’m happy if we never talk. Byeeee 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:07 PM |
| 14 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityMaybe it’s just my introverted ass, but I hate hate HATE when I’m supposed to have a nice 1 on 1 with a friend and she wants to invite some rando last minute. No. I wanted to spend some nice time just us. I used to have a friend that constantly did this. She was the “social butterfly” type so at first I excused it but eventually it just made me think she didn’t want to spend time w just me, like I wasn’t cool enough and she needed someone else there too. Sometimes she’d even try to change the ve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:23 PM |
| 110 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsExactly, I always comment on these “heightism” threads because I’m a tall woman that actually used to have a thing for shorter dudes. A smartly dressed, well-muscled short dude? Especially if he wore glasses and had a little swagger? Nnff cute as hell, I used to think. Geez I had a crush on Marty McFly (Michael J. Fox) as a kid and he’s short. But after getting negged for my height over the years, with sulky comments about me wearing heels or “being the man” in the relationship (wtf??), and bein… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 20 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡People don’t put effort into something they don’t value This is especially true for men. If you watch their actions and where they put their time and money, it’s into things they care about. They’ll drop mad money with nary a complaint if they really want something. Men are not often guilted into spending time and money into things they don’t want to like women are, they have no trouble saying “fuck no, I’m not doing that. Peace”. Even after they have families, how many men really give up their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:08 PM |
| 24 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.Ugh yes, “you are like my sister”. I still remember her saying this while I was hanging out at her condo. We had only known each other for like a few months tops. I felt so uncomfortable. She turned out to be very messy and not at all what she projected herself and her life to be. Mentally healthy people know that trampling all over someone’s boundaries can spook them away, so even if they feel really excited about someone, they’ll make an effort to reel themselves in so as not to appear unstabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:40 PM |
| 30 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.Ah! But you see, narcs love validation and to the narc pickme, getting that sweet sweet male validation and ego-stroking trumps all. They also really care about image, so the narc pickme can still get supply from her family and friends if she’s touting herself as the ever-doting gf, look how amazing she is! Would that we could all be as loving and self-sacrificing! ETA: omg I just remembered that the pickme narc I knew referred a lot to Jesus and his love. The underlying implication being that s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 193 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.One red flag with female friends I have found is, if they seem too amazing, so caring and giving, too soon, like “omg you’re like my BFF! 🥺” but it’s been a month - it’s always been a shitshow. At least IME. These were the most dramatic, messy, and yes, man-pandering women I’d ever known. Energy vampires and even (I suspect, in one case) a narc. If you think about it, a non-pickme will be guarded with men and let intimacy unfold naturally, and it should be the same for female friends too. Someti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 66 | I hate it when LVM approach me in publicI was walking to the store last night (I’m over 40), and passed by this schlubby dude who looked about 30 to me. I dyed my hair blonde this year and it’s weird, it sort of acts like a beacon. I’ve seen guys whip their heads around when they see it, and then you can see them kind of calm down/relax when they realize I’m not what they’re looking for when they see the rest of me (a lot of times I’d guess I’m probably the same age as their moms lol). So anyway this dude caught my hair, eyes sliding … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:49 PM |
| 73 | Dude from my workplace uploaded a post regarding “fake feminism” & I’m fuming. It’s like they don’t even try to hide how misogynistic they are.These men are delusional and have an agenda, usually to muddy the waters around male violence and rape of women worldwide to give the impression that “both sides” do it the same amount, or even that women do more, but it’s covered up by evil, powerful feminist cabals. It’s the stuff of conspiracy theory. I was looking up a true crime case the other day with a female killer and one of the first Google results was the blog that claimed female killers were rampant but because of “misandry” it’s cov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 4 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Thanks 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:56 AM |
| 103 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡“Hello fellow kweeeens, as a SLAMMIN’ D CUP, don’t you just wish you could break men’s spines by walking on their backs with your fabulous 6 inch stilettos?! Males should service my 🐱 or die, amirite? Petition to make a SKROWT pay for a meal and then you THROW IT ON THE GROUND and watch him cry, HAHAHA! Let’s go, my sisters!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:02 AM |
| 46 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡To be fair, there’s plenty that do t want to work and complain about how things are. But it’s the sheer level of vitriol and spite towards women specifically that makes me think there’s more to it. Namely, misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:51 AM |
| 9 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansAbsolutely, and then they coined that insulting term “walk-away wife syndrome” which basically played into the lie that women just up and leave “good men” for “no reason”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:43 AM |
| 341 | Mere MINUTES after a particular toxic male subreddit was banned, scrotes in another male subreddit are planning to infiltrate and brigade FDS 🤡I should make a post about this, because IMO there’s a very specific reason that misogynists rage and froth at being told to improve themselves for women. Notice how lots of men have no issues improving themselves for jobs and for other men, or for themselves/their hobbies. They’re told they are subpar in a job and (if they want more money/status), they’ll be smart and say “ok fair enough, I’ll work on that and we can meet again next quarter”. Even in gaming communities, whining is dismissed wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 608 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.This is just what my husband would do, it’s sweet. I can’t believe someone reported this of all things. Enjoy your shriveled, Grinchy heart! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:32 AM |
| 63 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.It would probably look much like my first marriage. Mostly benign, and we got along. But there was no romance, affection (that I didn’t ask/beg for), there was a lot of ignoring of any issues. Back then I would have said my marriage was good but little did I know, all of that added up and chipped away slowly at my self esteem. I was constantly trying to find what to say or the specific way to be to “inspire” him to really be in love with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:47 PM |
| 13 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansDid he know you while fat, or was it just that he knew you used to be fat? I heard something disturbing a while back from women who had lost significant weight, that they stopped telling men they were dating that they used to be fat, because the man would immediately treat them worse/start to disrespect them. Even if they had never seen her fat or it had been years that she kept the weight off. It’s like these assholes see it as a permanent “taint” that they then use as carte blanche to start th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:59 PM |
| 46 | “I liKe HaNgiNg OuT WiTh GuYs, ThEy’Re LeSs DrAmA!!” And other lies people tell themselves.Haha yup, being a former bro-type friend in a group of guys, they kind of treated me as invisible in a way. I got to be the fly on the wall sometimes. I saw so many dudes shit-talk another dude after he leaves. And then they like to say bullshit like “women aren’t real friends to other women, they gossip behind her back!” Or worse, they’d say degrading sexual things about a woman after she left, even though to her face, they acted like polite, innocent church boys. Yuck. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:54 PM |
| 88 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansGreat analysis! One thing I hated about the movie at first was how it automatically sided with Daniel. He’s the protagonist after all, and who we are meant to sympathize with. Media often features the stuffy, humorless wife who only exists to harsh her husband’s mellow. However, the movie does a clever subversion, at least for its time. It becomes increasingly clear that Miranda has her own valid reasons that the movie takes care to show and not just dismiss. And Daniel, as Mrs. Doubtfire, is fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:06 PM |
| 71 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.Plus they’re hoping to coerce naive young women into indulging all their icky fetishes that no woman their age would tolerate. Or try to get the young woman to put on his own personal porn performance while gaslighting her that her pleasure is, at best, secondary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:10 PM |
| 159 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…It’s funny that they think those messages are such an epic roast. Ok? Thanks for the well-wishes, I guess. 🤷🏼♀️ delete | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 144 | “I liKe HaNgiNg OuT WiTh GuYs, ThEy’Re LeSs DrAmA!!” And other lies people tell themselves.So ridiculous. I have a son too but these boy moms skeeve me out, the worship seems almost…incestuous. They behave like doting girlfriends, it’s gross. Women are pushed to succeed and then men have the audacity to claim the system is biased in favor of women. And fuck yes, men gossip. In fact, I regularly ask my husband what the tea is with the boys at work, and he’s just as eager to share as I am to listen lol. They gossip but they try to claim it’s not gossip when THEY do it. Kind of like how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:54 PM |
| 21 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inMe too! I’ve become entirely too comfortable in my COVID chonk. We got this! 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:37 PM |
| 288 | “I liKe HaNgiNg OuT WiTh GuYs, ThEy’Re LeSs DrAmA!!” And other lies people tell themselves.Word, men aren’t less drama. Oh and they gossip and are as b1tchy as anyone else. AND they are also just as two-faced (an insult they love lobbing at women). For us older queens, these women grow up to say shit like “oh I’m soooo glad I had sons and not daughters, girls are sooooo difficult!” No, Brenda, your son seems easier because you put up with way more bullshit from him, and then humor him or write it off as “boys will be boys”. ETA: I had an insufferable coworker always ranting about her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:33 PM |
| 26 | Public Displays of DisrespectBRB gotta go find that post of the shopper ripping him a new one 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 174 | Public Displays of DisrespectTotally. I even notice lower level disrespect constantly. Like men who roll their eyes at their bubbly, sociable wives. Who make a point to correct something minor she said, that doesn’t even matter, in an exasperated tone of voice in front of the group. Minor digs that betray contempt. Something we’ve mentioned here: walking way ahead of his wife and/or refusing to help her with groceries/children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 15 | Scrote makes up an obviously fake story to make fds look bad, convenient army of comments referencing FDS and "toxic femininity"Lest we forget, Reddit is full of the same dudes who saw Megan Fox and said “ehhh, thumb too weird. NEXT!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:50 PM |
| 171 | Expensive rent/housing is the biggest proponent for monogamy and cohabitationAgreed, plus consider that many women trapped in abusive living situations don’t have the luxury of family or a network whose places they can crash at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:36 PM |
| 45 | Share your badass breakup stories!Honestly I do worry about her. I tried checking on her social media within the six month window after, but she had deleted and/or locked it down. Oh yeah, this narc also tried to get me to delete my sm because he thought it was evil. 🤡 Maybe she ended up listening to him though. It’s been so long now, I hope they are divorced now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 35 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsYou’re welcome! This post makes me think of my poor mom, I should call her and thank her for all that venting I did years ago that she listened to like a champ, yikes. 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:27 PM |
| 124 | 🚩 Don't get suckered into "protecting/respecting" the guy you're dating by keeping his dirty deeds a secret from your longtime trusted family/friendsGood post, on the flip side, if you’re with a HVM, you’re not going to feel the need to hash over your relationship all the time with friends and family, needing all this advice/validation/reassurance. A stark difference I’ve observed between my current marriage and my unhappy previous one is, I never feel the need to talk about current husband! Aside from just everyday news and happenings, of course. With my ex I’d constantly be venting to my mom and others. But I’m actually content and happy n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:23 PM |
| 153 | Share your badass breakup stories!Ok so this was a very brief situation, but it was sooo crazy. Flashback to years ago, I was a pickme freshly separated, soon to be divorced, from my intelligent yet emotionally neglectful ex. Needless To say, I was in a bad spot mentally. Along comes this nerdy softboi at work who was everything my ex was intellectually, yet was also sweet and romantic, which I’d never had and yearned for. At least over text and verbally, he and I clicked so well it was unreal. And in person he made me feel like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:54 PM |
| 93 | Share your badass breakup stories!This boggles the mind. What did he think was going to happen?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 18 | Markers of AbuseExactly, lists are helpful, but if you’re the type of woman to go down a list and think things like “hmm, I mean, he asks who I was talking to all the time, but I wouldn’t say it’s control. He’s just curious about my life maybe?” just because it doesn’t sound as bad as the listed criteria, or what you’ve constructed in your own head (for example “control” can only be a Lifetime Movie level of abusive control. It’s like people who say “I can’t be a drunk! Drunks are hobos who drink under a bridge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:49 PM |
| 188 | The level of pick me that is expected of you of you if you're a black womanI’m not a religious woman at all, but this level of worship is downright religious. No mortal man should be given this amount of naked adoration I’ve only ever seen in religious contexts. It’s sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:42 PM |
| 103 | Markers of AbuseSo one thing is that oftentimes, the guy won’t do the worst version of the red flag, but it still makes the woman feel uneasy or bad. But because it’s not extreme, she dismisses it as her overreacting. For example, she’ll look at this list and think, “well, he doesn’t name-call me per se” because she’s thinking “name-calling” is men screaming “b1tch” at her or something equally disgusting. But, she remembers that he’s always pointing out everything wrong she does by jokingly calling her a “dummy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:43 PM |
| 55 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.Redpill says men are wired to cheat, it’s biological, yadda yadda. But they’ll also say all men are the only faithful ones, women are hoes, only men know real loyalty. Surprise surprise, their beliefs change and contradict based on what will allow them to blame women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:50 AM |
| 19 | How to deal with a pickme mother and her conditioning?My former MIL was just like this, minus the abusive relationship. I very much think this general personality type is a blatant sign of narcissism. The martyrdom, the viewing her child as competition/extension of herself and purposefully sabotaging her (especially trying to make her “ugly”), the put-downs. Taking your likes/dislikes personally because, as HER extension, YOUR job is to be a carbon copy of her. Ex-MIL treated her daughter like a rival, like utter trash. Also dressed her in ugly gra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:37 AM |
| 2 | This poor pregnant woman’s LV BF broke it off with her because she wanted a NURSERY for their baby instead of his RAP STUDIO!!! She then asks if SHE was selfish! At least people are saying she’s better off without him.In the closet? Lol this kid gonna live the Harry Potter life or something? That line alone makes me suspicious this is fake. Honestly, while horrific LV relationships abound, I’m always skeptical of AITA because it’s like a creative writing free-for-all, since the mods have that rule where you’re no longer allowed to call bullshit on anything. It’s like a “no sleep” for “what-if” scenarios, where everyone has to pretend every story is very sincere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 03:27 AM |
| 39 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.It’s interesting to hear the other side, even when I was a geeky NLOG, I could never be bitter at conventional beautiful women. It helped that I was friends with a few and I saw the absolute fucking GARBAGE way they were abused and treated. Like as bad as my pickme days were, I was never popped in the mouth or told I was a fat disgusting pig at a size 2. Unpopular opinion? But I think super-pretty women can be targeted worse than other women. It’s funny how you describe not fitting into a box be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:52 AM |
| 81 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.I AGREE omg as a former “geek girl” I am so ready for the pod to talk about these wolves in sheep’s clothing. They used to be my type, aloof nerdy shy boys who you just had to coax out of their shells and they’d be amazing (HA NOPE). I figured I was one of “their people” as I’m also introverted and nerdy but little did I know, those boys never considered women as Their People no matter what. I think this lie, that these guys are sweet diamonds in the rough, is still very pervasive and introverte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:59 PM |
| 144 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.Ah yes I remember encountering this one on dating apps years ago. Back then it wasn’t so much the focus of women lowering their standards, but more the trickery that these were true-blue, aw-shucks fellas that just wanted a nice lady to love, but darn it, this hookup culture just doesn’t value true love 😢. They’d often be nerdy, yep. Soft-spoken, seemingly traditional. At least back then, they’d be employed and seem like a normal good guy. They’d be on good behavior for maybe the first date, to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 11:50 PM |
| 29 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differencesOh believe me I know, I’ve encountered the “no foreplay, just jackhammer, I get salty if you try to pleasure yourself in any way that doesn’t worship my dick” too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:53 PM |
| 55 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differencesMaybe tmi but this is how my husband and I do it. I always get mine first. Through oral (the occasional manual is ok too). Also I’m tired of chasing the elusive PIV orgasm. I know we’ve got some ladies here that say it’s 100% possible for every woman, it’s just that men don’t know what they’re doing. But I’m 40+ now and I just want to get off without fuss. If he goes down until I come, I’m happy. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 156 | God the pickmes are REALLY TRYING to hand out p*ssy to their LVM friendsEven if he were the hottest dude around, people who flake on established plans with no call/no show are garbage. This goes for friends and dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:48 PM |
| 7 | This book I read illustrates perfectly the way men only care about their stupid egos and can't handle women standing up for themselves!Yup, Flowers in the Attic I think. Awful books but they were like a train wreck you couldn’t look away from for young, impressionable minds. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:36 AM |
| 11 | This book I read illustrates perfectly the way men only care about their stupid egos and can't handle women standing up for themselves!It sounds like those awful VC Andrews-type books we were all obsessed with in middle school. They were chock full of abuse, incest, and ridiculous trauma conga lines for their heroines with no end. The heroines didn’t usually die at the end iirc, so it might not be one of those books. The one who died was always the one man who ever treated her with but a shred of kindness. I remember in one book, that man was mauled to death by tigers. Ah, good times, good times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 228 | Ladies, it is NOT "rude" to call men out when your boundaries are being violatedSo, this story gave me big heebie jeebies. Please, please don’t even open the door to engage someone like this. You state you have not one, but “several” signs. This male clearly trespassed, gets you to open the door to him, lies to you, tries to shame you into compliance with the “rude” comment. I am really doubting whether he was a salesman at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:09 PM |
| 274 | Dating double standards exposed in a radio showI believe it. I really hate the lie that the men women date are just wacky rascals, oh haha, how funny. Dating the wrong guy can end a woman’s life. That first man should be in prison. Why anyone thinks this call-in show is a good idea, I’ll never know. It’s just a siren song for abusive men. They know what they did; the whole point is getting access to her again to continue his abuse. And then they get further validation and attention through the radio show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 07:36 PM |
| 9 | My thoughts on guy friendsIf this were possible on a grand scale, there wouldn’t be so many pickmes and women whose self-esteem is utterly decimated by energy-sapping LVM. Men are also a Russian roulette of violence. Why would I keep all these guys, with loose ill-defined boundaries, in my periphery? Actual dating is dangerous enough. This just sounds like the typical “sex posi” libfem, glorfied situationship stuff we hear everywhere else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:24 PM |
| 19 | Pick me vs. treat others how you want to be treated?I like Deb Cooper’s advice for women: mirror his energy. It’s not playing games, it prevents you from embarrassing yourself by initiating all the time, being overly complimentary and effusive, and texting huge paragraphs while he negs you, ignores your efforts and mumbles out one-word grunts. I used to believe in “treat others as you want to be treated” but this is actually bad advice (not just in dating, but at work and in public too). Doing this opens you up to being treated like a doormat. St… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 03:06 PM |
| 10 | What are your standards for Facebook friends?Gross! Also, the thought of actually confronting someone irl about a FB unfriending is embarrassing ugh. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 09:31 PM |
| 130 | Making excuses for men not approaching me (if he wanted to, he would).They really really do. I wish I could go back and shake my younger self who chased introverted “shy” guys and was convinced it was their core personality that they couldn’t help. Because nothing stings more than to chase, get lukewarm mixed signals from him that you make excuses for, only to see him suddenly sparkle and come to life when he’s really into another woman. I guess it wasn’t “just your personality”. 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:25 PM |
| 35 | What are your standards for Facebook friends?I barely go on Facebook anymore and hardly ever post, but I used to. I have a fairly lax policy to a point as long as they don’t piss me off/put me off somehow. Friend requests: if I don’t know you at all, no mutuals, deny. I’ve gotten some weird-ass random requests from people in like, Quebec. If there’s mutuals but I don’t know you and you look like some creepy dude, deny. If you’re constantly spamming stupid shit on my home page and we aren’t related, unfriend. If you are family but annoying,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:00 PM |
| 41 | Being in a good relationship has made me realize how women are being gaslit on a mass scale to ask for lessThe weird mindfuck about this trope is, irl, it’s actually the opposite. Men chase and adore the high maintenance women, even if he can’t have her (actually, especially if). And any woman who has spent time being the low maintenance cool chick pickme will tell you that men do not love them. They’ll take the sex, validation and the emotional labor, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:05 PM |
| 38 | Coming to terms with my pick-me pastMost of those girls in high school who are bragging about having a ton of sex are 1) lying or 2) having trauma-bonding sex with terrible high school boyfriends and/or abusive older creeps, where they’re not getting any pleasure or real love. A small minority have normal, age-appropriate, steady boyfriends. This was my high school experience anyway, so please don’t feel like you’re less-than. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:19 PM |
| 481 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡“This is not Kat’s fault at all, there’s a lot of things I need to work on…” Translation: I cheated on her and continuously dogged her out, relentlessly, humiliating her in front of millions! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 01:00 AM |
| 5 | I learned quickly that if I have to chase you, I don’t want you anymore.This was my experience dating after my divorce. Scratch the surface of that avoidant guy, and he’s not over his ex-wife/divorce. Or there’s “that girl” at his work or in his friend group he’s pining over. Or he’s got a FWB with weird nonexistent boundaries. Bro, why the fuck are you dating?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:55 AM |
| 193 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.These guys know exactly what they’re doing, they use the threats as a terror tactic and a sick justification of their murderous abuse. And they tell outsiders “she cheated on me” to garner sympathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Gift back?Yeah this was my first thought too, IME people use gifts and items as an excuse to keep contact and the drama flowing. They’d never admit it, and say it was about the money, or the principle, but after a while I’d be thinking come on, is this shit really that important that you keep this asshole in your life and constantly texting/calling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:59 PM |
| 15 | Man creates Chatbot AI of dead girlfriend (link in post) - What do y'all think of tis? Is it high-value to be so in love with your girlfriend you'd immortalize her after death? Or is it more on the creepy side? I'd love to get an FDS perspective on this 🤔Wow, “healthy coping mechanism” I disagree. It’s enabling delusion. And yeah you hit the nail on the head, manic pixie dream girl AI. Here’s the dead girlfriend creepypasta, it’s pretty creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:36 PM |
| 12 | Man creates Chatbot AI of dead girlfriend (link in post) - What do y'all think of tis? Is it high-value to be so in love with your girlfriend you'd immortalize her after death? Or is it more on the creepy side? I'd love to get an FDS perspective on this 🤔Wait a sec, wasn’t this that viral creepypasta story? Where the chats started benign but would slowly get creepier and creepier saying things like FREEZING and pleading with him? Edit: ok nope not the same, sorry it was long and I’d only just seen the first part. Honestly I don’t know how I feel about this. Grieving people will sometimes do anything for a chance to speak to their dead loved ones. This is no different to me that seeking out psychics and mediums and such. But it’s still a bit cree… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:26 PM |
| 528 | This is why women must be selective in what men we allow in our lives. Most men are jealous and possessive if women. They'd rather kill us than see us be happy without them or with another man.The scariest thing is, you don’t have to have actually cheated. These crazy, possessive mofos can just THINK you did and that enough for them to be judge, jury and executioner. I don’t believe jealous, unstable men when they claim exes cheated on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:54 PM |
| 68 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"A “career woman” lol. The 80s called, they want their sexist insult back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:41 PM |
| 72 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"“ThEy NeEd a SiBlInG!” These are whole-ass human beings, not a bonded pair of cats, ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:38 PM |
| 30 | Team Edward or Team Jacob: How Love Triangles Primed a Generation of Women for LVM (intro)Can I just say I really hated Peeta though? I mean, as a love interest. He was nice yeah, but there was no page chemistry as the first book was just him being injured and her playing nursemaid and fake gf. Katniss and Gale had way more chemistry and if Collins intended them to ultimately have a sibling-like closeness, she failed. IMO Gale was compatible, hot, had been through the trenches of survival with her. But like all love triangle hacks, Collins had a clear winner (Peeta), so later she dec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:06 PM |
| 45 | Tonya Harding- Talented and Ambitious Skater Shot Down by Beauty Standards and MenI remember this whole scandal as it happened. The media reported it in such a way that, for the longest time, I actually thought Tonya herself whacked Nancy’s leg in a jealous rage. I’m sure I wasn’t the only one. That’s how blamed, mocked and vilified she was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:36 PM |
| 25 | Enjoy 😂Very cute! What a sweet boy, too! There are no animal LVMs, they’re all innocent. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:13 PM |
| 14 | Setting Mental Boundaries - Part 1Yes! Embrace that sweet 🌵life! See my banner. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:09 PM |
| 6 | The extreme danger of not having boundaries. TW/AssaultI totally agree with you, she’s a danger to herself first and foremost and needs intensive therapy. As she is now, she could get one of her friends roofied, raped or killed and still dither about “low-key” possibly feeling weird about the situation. Rarely have I seen such a shocking lack of survival instincts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:01 PM |
| 35 | Men pushing women to marry and give them kids angers me. What's a reasonable amount of time? I need a couple years even if you only need 6 months. Plus maybe I'm just not ready to plan a wedding that I know you won't help with.This seems like a huge red flag and a bullet dodged for sure, yikes. It’s not that he asked too soon, it’s his reaction. If a man asks too early because he’s over-eager, love struck and kind of dumb, but decent, he’d probably be embarrassed and a bit disappointed but agree to wait. But becoming super pissed and dramatic? Nah, it’s like he was trying to bully and intimidate you into complying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:08 AM |
| 67 | 😕I bet you when he’s backed into a corner, he’ll suddenly, magically find money. It’s like all freeloaders who cry poor mouth; once you grow a spine and kick them out, oop, they magically have money and some rent for at least a room, wow! It’s a game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 59 | Male friends are a scamThere are definitely men who will “befriend” women they don’t find attractive but beware! They are using you for something else. I was always the “bro” or “like a sister” in mostly male friend groups. While I was never the one they thirsted after (thank god), they’d use me for rides, money, endless text conversations about their girl problems, or they’d try to get in with me to get my pretty friends. Then they’d disappear off the face of the earth eventually. It’s been years since I’ve kept any … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 76 | Men on Reddit are Porn SickThey always say this shit on Reddit. “Start a conversation” about what? About what a fucking knob you are, man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:51 AM |
| 21 | Men on Reddit are Porn Sick“Let that 🥭” Haha, brilliant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:48 AM |
| 5 | "I don't want a regular girl. I need a super hot one"😒These are the dudes that use their dick as a divining rod, but then complain about the wives/GFs they chose with only their dicks. “Boo hoo, she’s boring, she’s mean, she doesn’t ‘get’ me, she’s this, she’s that”. Well, sir, what you expect when your ONLY LTR criteria is “Is she smokin hot, will she totally make my bros seethe with jealousy?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 67 | "I don't want a regular girl. I need a super hot one"😒It’s not just porn, but all media. Fat ugly (or non-fat, but douchey man-child) Seth Rogan type dude with beautiful , accomplished, poised Katherine Heigl type woman. The teen media where the popular pretty girl just had to realize what a great guy the nerd is, and how shallow and stupid she’d been. He doesn’t have to make himself over. But the nerdy girl movies, where the hot guy finally noticed her? Oh you better believe she’s getting a full makeover. Also, we need to iron out any unique perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 02:26 PM |
| 20 | Boundaries – This is mine, that is yoursControl issues. It’s actually also a branch of pickmeism. You believe you can “make people see” or just convince them to do xyz. But, as we always say, if they wanted to, they would. I think some women, in their zeal for finally abandoning those pickme ways with men, sort of transfer the control issues to their girlfriends. Trying to “make her see”, imploring she do things the right way, playing teacher and therapist when it wasn’t asked for. Awesome post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 27 | Well, bye!Well, this is extremely disturbing. I love it! 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:27 AM |
| 27 | I don’t need to have children to be a real woman and I’m tired of my conservative family telling me im not a real woman and most men telling me I’m not a real womanPlease know this: anyone pressuring women to live as they think she should (whether that’s by having kids, settling for any awful guy, putting up with shit, whatever) - these people only want company for their misery. Especially if it’s other women insisting you have kids and make your life subject to their approval. These people are cowards and to see anyone living differently feels like an attack on them because they are secretly ashamed at how miserable they’ve made themselves through their c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:11 PM |
| 12 | Repeat after me: Statistically casual sex for straight women does NOT include orgasms!Plus the simple logic that since a lesbian doesn’t have to deal w men re: dating, it’s easy for her to not take red flags in men as seriously. She is applying her dynamics with other women into her het friend, but wlw does not map well to wlm. This was my experience with my lesbian friend anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 05:06 PM |
| 37 | “Lonely angry sad wanna-be masters of control” Starter PackNT women are always cool. (I test INTP). Male counterparts? Trash, mostly. I think it’s because even though certain social/emotional things are harder for us NT females, we still recognize the value in learning how to relate to others. Whereas NT males seem proud of their antisocial, no empathy, edgy personalities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 04:58 PM |
| 106 | Repeat after me: Statistically casual sex for straight women does NOT include orgasms!I mean, the girl friend I had years back that was the most encouraging about hookups and “sex-positive” with all the libfem fixins outright admitted to me that she’d never come with a man. She framed it as HER shortcoming, not realizing it was all the 🤡 she slept with. The second most encouraging “go get it, girl, yeah!” …was a lesbian! Aside from one short-lived high school boyfriend, she never touched guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 01:03 AM |
| 85 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.You see this every day on loseit when couples post about dual weight loss. He drops 50 lbs super fast just from cutting back a bit on beer. His wife struggles and deprived herself and lives on the treadmill, angry that weight loss is so slow for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 09:16 PM |
| 158 | His good qualities firstIt’s such a meme that whenever I see one, the more flowery and glowing her language, the more dread I feel waiting for the other shoe to drop. Like oh god, she wrote that he has an amazing beautiful soul, is sweet and as handsome as Jason Momoa, and gets her so much it’s like they were made for each other. What’s actually wrong with him?! 😰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:27 AM |
| 16 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 20 - The Queens Respond to Listener Feedback + Future Plans for FDS!Exactly. It grinds my gears. While she was a violent and arguably a bad person, Aileen Wuornos is not in the same ballpark as the Toybox Killer. One killed Johns because she lashed out at being exploited and abused her whole life, the other snuffed out women’s entire lives for his sadistic sexual pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 09:21 PM |
| 14 | You are allowed to eat.Omg this happened to me! I wasn’t waiting tables, it was at work though. He said some shit like “you’re looking healthier, I like thicc women” so I put some bass in my voice, stood tall and channeled my inner butch aunt and said “thanks! I’ve been lifting weights!” He half smiled like “cool cool”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:41 PM |
| 100 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyShe was aghast! They were making out and doing other stuff but she got super grossed out and made like she had to pee, then gtfo of there. She said he “tasted salty” on his neck and stuff but it was summer so she didn’t think much of it. But as the exploration continued it became clear this man had not showered in possibly 24-48 hours. He knew she was coming over! Yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:23 PM |
| 99 | A message to my bigger sisters“Boo hoo, women never look past my 300lbs to the sweet soul within, how can women be so shallow, woe is me.” “Hey I heard Betty likes you, maybe you should go out w her sometime.” (Betty is a size 14) “Ewwww, Betty is a fat land whale, woof, no thank you, hehehe as if I’d touch her ugly ass lmao!” Edit: I don’t give a shit if guys are shallow, people can be shallow as they want. But the hypocrisy of wanting concessions to be made for yourself, that you’d never deign to give someone else (on the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 49 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyLuckily she didn’t sleep with him! She made up an excuse and left (I think she said her period came or something). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:13 PM |
| 126 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyI’ll never forget when a girl friend told me the story of her fateful hookup. This girl was gorgeous, silky skin, makeup flawless and the most perfect red hair. She primped herself all up for this guy, only to discover linty balls that smelled like old unwashed ass. Oh and he wanted anal. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:07 PM |
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