So we all know the advice not to send paragraphs about how to treat us or what upset us to men on OLD and who we date. But this advice needs to apply irl platonically.

If you have a brother, father, family friend or whatever, who relishes antagonizing you with sexist, incel shit, or REEEing about WAHMEN BAD…please do not waste your precious brain power trying to “school” these men or try to appeal to their logic.

They know exactly what they are saying and doing. They aren’t interested in your thoughtful, good faith attempts to explain feminism to them. Their whole goal is to just see you get all mad. It’s entertainment to them. They think women getting offended is the height of hilarity.

They are doing the equivalent of trolling or shitposting and meanwhile you’re over here getting your sources out and crafting intelligent arguments.

You’re taking it seriously and they’re just over in the corner, doing a Beavis and Butthead impression at your increasing frustration.

The FDS saying applies here too: if he wanted to, he would. It’s not that hard to learn some basic feminism 101, even libfem 101, or to simply respect women as people. Or at LEAST not want to make your sister or daughter, your blood, upset by constantly throwing sexist shit at her. But they do not care to do any of this. They LIKE upsetting her.

There’s only 2 ways to deal with these assholes.

1: Ignore. Extinction. Go Gray Rock (Google it, it’s a good way to ice out narcs too). Recognize they are trying to get a rise out of you and don’t play.

This is good for fathers and other older relatives. It’s good for situations where you might be financially dependent or in fear he might get violent (even if just a bit). Or perhaps work situations with insufferable clients (you should probably start updating that resume though).

2: Get savage (my personal method). Great for brothers and other obnoxious peers. This can be as big as making fun of them out or as simple as rolling your eyes. This works especially well for imperious neckbeard types who WANT you to start googling sources and lining up your arguments. Just shut it down by mocking them mercilessly. Become totally impervious to being drawn into pedantry. Make fun of their crusty dicks.

There’s no blow too low because know this: just the fact that they are continually harassing you with sexist horseshit to make you angry tells you they do not respect you one bit.

So stop giving them the respect of your time and good faith discussion.