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| 5 | Ban help?Same here! Please tell us why. I have even contacted through Facebook and the website and everything. | /r/askFDS | 02/03/22 01:07 AM |
| 9 | An anthem. Can we add this song to the playlist?Lol! She haaaates young guys! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:35 AM |
| 2 | I’m doing horribly bad and I see myself backsliding I need help, encouragement and reassurance, please.At least I know I’ll have an orgasm every time LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 02:04 PM |
| 3 | I’m doing horribly bad and I see myself backsliding I need help, encouragement and reassurance, please.I absolutely realize the trauma bond and addiction factors. My problem is trying to find something to replace it with something healthy that gives me that fives me that same kick. I don’t know what else to do besides a romantic (read: toxic) relationships. I exercise, play roller derby, craft, write, read, spend time with my kids, throw myself into work when I’m not sinking into a deep abysmal depression and all kinds of things.. I guess. I’m just an attention whore with severe Daddy issues and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐So what if he starts to do the things that you told him bothers you to a hellish degree? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 09:06 PM |
| 6 | So sorry her period is annoying to you! 😡 And how proud he seems of his complete ignorance of female bodies. Notice she's already used her amazing body to create his children.One week once a month sounds like a dream come true.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 08:21 PM |
| 14 | As much as I hate war, I agree with her response. And "a period"? 🤔. Yeah it's not like I pick and choose when menstruation begins each month.Yeah, just because you don’t have one, doesn’t mean you have to act like one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:06 PM |
| -22 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?What if you want to give pleasure, or more accurately, have them at your mercy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:46 PM |
| 22 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?I need help as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:44 PM |
| 12 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?Omg, I am in the same exact position (or not, lol). I need to know as well because it’s like I’m in pain or something. I can only orgasm with myself but I am severely sexually frustrated as I have ever been (have never gone this long since I started at 14). I think it’s more about giving pleasure and people pleasing for me, maybe even a bit of ego boosting. I do other things for healthy ego feedings but I’m just preoccupied with the sex. I also can’t stop thinking, at all, about how the LVX fuck… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:43 PM |
| 54 | On ditching online dating and improving social skills.Lol, same here! Last breakup made these walls of mine go up higher than I think they’ve ever been in my life but it’s a good thing because I’m killing my pickme and raising my standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:23 PM |
| 67 | This is how you savagely troll an insecure egoMmmm..that sweet negging..how does it feel, scrote? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 12:46 AM |
| 76 | Women don't have it better at any ageWell into their 50’s, too! 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 12:45 AM |
| 3 | Whenever men put “I’m an honest/good/loyal guy” in their bios, or say that irl, it’s an automatic red flag for me. This guy confirms that only conmen say that 😂Ha! One of the first things the LVX said to me when we first started talking was “I’m rich and I can pay your salary so you don’t have to work”. Lmaooo! I have been working since I was 16 and I love having a job to go to and making my own money even if it’s not a whole lot I still manage. He resented that I was always happy at work and didn’t want him impregnating me at 41 years of age when I already have 3 kids (not his, thank god!). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 13 | I don’t know why women don’t give men a taste of their own medicineIt’s what I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:16 PM |
| 14 | When he says "You're so insecure"...PREACH IT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:57 PM |
| 65 | When he says "You're so insecure"...Wow..this makes a bunch of sense, I remember the LVX once had said to me that he was acting the way he was towards me (a righteous asshole to the 10th power) was so I “don’t take the relationship for granted”. Spare me! There was barely a relationship at that point as I was doing all of the work by the time he said that and I was on my best behavior so there was no real reason to “punish” me the way he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:31 PM |
| 29 | When he says "You're so insecure"...I need a good comeback for accusations of insecurity besides “call you IMAX because you’re projecting”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:16 PM |
| 12 | "How come you are still single?"“I don’t take anyone’s shit.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:47 PM |
| 30 | "How come you are still single?"I like when the guys that come in my job ask me if I’m married and I incredulously ask them “do I look stupid?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:44 PM |
| 13 | Are You The “Clingy” Type?Please, what are some good comebacks for when they want to say that we’re needy and things like that? What were some reasons/benefits a guy would want a clingy/needy woman? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 10:33 AM |
| 117 | Never open up about your traumas until you know he's a HVM. Even then, be careful.I did it because I have no real female friends and tbh, I just blabbed to anyone that listened because of my trauma response. Never again! I’m finally going to go see about therapy in the next couple of weeks after a lifetime of my Mom discouraging it. Wish me luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:15 PM |
| 89 | Never open up about your traumas until you know he's a HVM. Even then, be careful.Taking notes with one hand and their tiny penis in the other…🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:13 PM |
| 22 | Got out quickYes, thank you! Same here, immediately I go to the self blame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:29 AM |
| 24 | Got out quickThese types of men (and there are many, many of them) will cast their line out to any one, just don’t bite! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:27 AM |
| 16 | Got out quickUgh! I went through pretty much the same exact thing, I just wish I had gotten out sooner! Good job, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:26 AM |
| 5 | The lies of the 90s - the "romantic" red flagsI was a teen in the 90’s and subjected to the same. I considered “Bram Stoker’s Dracula”, “Natural Born Killers” and movies of that nature to be romantic and whatnot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 26 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...Omgggg, is his name Erik? Lmao! I mean it’s cool and different and all but I have been doing it a certain way for 27 years so like watch me, learn and listen when I tell you what works for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 22 | Signs you have been benched or 'kept warm' and how to avoid it happening to youHow not to internalize this and endlessly self-blame when I did the very best I could continues to gnaw at me even a year and a half later.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:52 AM |
| 73 | Someone said something about a Wall at 30? (63 y/o Sharon Stone)Even the dog is in awe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 13 | Its ok to feel bitterWow! I could have written this word for word, Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:32 PM |
| 5 | Rejection is a ScamThis post is exactly what I needed to reinforce what I was just thinking not even 10 minutes ago. I was having a hard day (last 2 weeks, actually) about my last breakup with a LVX add to the fact that I am soooooo not used to being single, not even dating and I was telling myself that it is good to be single because that means that I’m too good/awesome for the majority of these scrotes. Pretty much every single word that was typed on this glorious post so thank you once again, FDS! 🤗🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:25 PM |
| 41 | Don't be with a man you cannot trustSometimes just having a very strong “feeling* of underlying shadiness with no proof is reason enough to not trust someone. Especially if you can’t bring yourself to believe anything he says with no concrete evidence of fuckery….just a very deep knowing that he’s untrustworthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:41 AM |
| 44 | A guy I met on Hinge sexually assaulted me, so I get him banned on dating apps whenever I see him 💅This would be one of the only reasons to ever be on a dating app, imo.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:57 PM |
| 34 | I just did it.Really. Also, if it’s a work thing with the 11 p.m. scheduling, why doesn’t he communicate on his days off instead? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 176 | Ladies, what are your current level ups?Advancements at work. Not giving my body, time and/or energy to any scrote just because he gave me a little extra attention. Standards are very high right now. Not backtracking to toxic exes because of “bordem” or “lonliness” as I am also not used to being this single (not even dating) at all. Went back to roller derby. Opened up a bank account, signed up for 401k and stock options through work. Good job on your leveling up, keep up the awesome job and thanks for asking! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 02:53 PM |
| 71 | “So okay, I don’t want to be a traitor to my generation and all but…”They designed it like that just so they could punch holes in walls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:11 PM |
| 22 | Cry me a river.😂😂😂😂 If this isn’t almost exactly word for word pretty much everything the LVX said to me…even the Viking part!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:31 PM |
| 73 | FDS to the rescue!Yeah, and buying you a bunch of things and basically throwing money at you or whatever “problem” arises along with telling you what you want to hear and not how he really feels is not proving himself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:19 PM |
| 28 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.First off, congrats on your girlfriend, I can’t wait until I meet mine and I had recently come to the same conclusion that if I were to be flaked out on even once or if I even think I feel it coming..blocked and deleted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 05:43 PM |
| 131 | "there's a darkness inside me"“My relationships don’t last” I will never forget that one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 48 | "there's a darkness inside me"Yeah, this reminded me of when the LVX said to me “you don’t even KNOW what (the things) I do” when we were arguing about his supposed “ex” was posting on FB like they were still together. BRB adding that to the list of shit he did/said to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 49 | "there's a darkness inside me"Same here! We internalize our pain for the most part and they externalizations their shit onto the innocents! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:50 PM |
| 34 | "there's a darkness inside me"This was gold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:49 PM |
| 124 | "there's a darkness inside me"“I have a dark mind.” “I’m a monster.” “I’m mentally unraveling.” Often out of nowhere and unprovoked, he would say this to me and I wondered why. When he said he was a “monster” first thing I thought was that it had to do with pedo thoughts/actions or cheating. My pickme self didn’t see any actions or anything that would warrant him to call himself that at that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:44 PM |
| 22 | Subtle signs of manipulation and psychological abuseThank you for taking the time to help me with this. This is very good advice and I always make sure the listening party knows that I can be a listening ear too and not just a blabbering mouth. They always do seem entertained, though..lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:18 PM |
| 56 | Subtle signs of manipulation and psychological abuseI’m an oversharer, how do I fix this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:35 PM |
| 55 | Subtle signs of manipulation and psychological abuseThis is exactly what I felt with the LVX, my Mom even said to me it was like he had a grade book in his lap or something. He once even said to me when we were first talking “you don’t wanna get Daddy mad, do you?” some other shot about how “good” girls get rewarded..I’m 42.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:29 PM |
| 38 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyI’m sorry but the picking of the fights with the homeless made me laugh. It sounds like something the LVX would do. Do you have a story behind it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 02:21 PM |
| 20 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guy😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 02:16 PM |
| 74 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyOmfgggg! My ex said number 1 word. for. word! It’s like, I didn’t even ask him and he just busts out with that. Then I wondered in hindsight if he really did or just said it to make me jealous because no one in their right mind would spend time and energy with him unless they were getting paid or something out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Facts!!! 🔥This is IT, exactly, It’s not easy for me but at least it’s easier! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:49 AM |
| 21 | How men act when they find out I'm on FDSI’m still shedding my pickmeisha ways so please explain the thing to me about telling us we have daddy issues. In my case the LVX said that I had daddy issues but he said it in a way like… when I was about to protest he insisted on it, like trying to convince himself. The thing is that I do/did have daddy issues. I also did call him “Daddy” in and out of the bedroom, though. But I really enjoyed it at that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:44 PM |
| 26 | My cat being more supportive of me recovering after surgery, then my ex of 4 years whom I have 2 kids with during our whole relationship and me raising our children. I love this kitty.So adorable! 🤗🤗 cats always know when you aren’t feeling well and comfort you. ETA: hope you feel better soon! 😽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:17 PM |
| 37 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.Same here, it was relieving to me especially since this last week I haven’t appreciated being single and scrote-free. It’s very comforting to know that not only am I not alone but how others are going through the SAME. EXACT things as me (minus a couple of details, of course). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:12 PM |
| 25 | Was watching Good On Paper (Netflix), and THE RESONATION OF THIS BIT!The resonation with the whole damn movie!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 09:29 PM |
| 82 | Why Do They Insist They Are OK?And toxic environments growing up.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:17 PM |
| 21 | Found an old coloring book from my childhood in the 90s. Even then I had my priorities straight.This is sheer poetry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:38 AM |
| 31 | Film: Good On PaperFully agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:55 PM |
| 78 | Film: Good On PaperThis movie was basically my life! I found it very funny that two of the characters had two of my very uncommon names and one of them also practiced the craft. That dude, though..and at the end where they’re talking through the bathroom vent and his incelness shining through…I can’t even begin to explain how relatable this movie was! I got goosebumps when she was crying that she didn’t even like him and how she gave him a chance. Same here..same. here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:53 PM |
| 10 | When They’ve BEEN Ghosted Before 👻Really. He has a high conflict personality and always fighting with someone. I thought I was the exception..🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:04 PM |
| 18 | When They’ve BEEN Ghosted Before 👻What are your thoughts on when he says his relationships don’t last? I was told this word for word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 01:22 PM |
| 6 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.The LVX had to not only pretend to be a half-way decent human (at least to me) but he had to throw money around to even keep me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:27 PM |
| 24 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.I always wondered why the LVX would say things like “if you don’t kick me to the curb, first” and things of that nature seemingly out of nowhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:21 PM |
| 13 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.A very good amount of her content is FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:23 PM |
| 76 | How to stick to practicing celibacyFor me I just remind myself of all the pain, turmoil, risk of STD’s and orgasmlessness that comes with it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:37 AM |
| 10 | Celibacy > LVMs, by farManifesting up in this bitch! I love the idea of fantasizing about a HVM during self live times to train your brain. I wish to be like this but I’m having a hard time letting go of porn rn…😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:44 AM |
| 7 | Celibacy > LVMs, by farThis warmed my heart and gave me hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:39 AM |
| 10 | Don’t ever let scrotes’ cheating make you question your value, they know what they’re doing. Don’t fall into their trap!Same here, girl. Fricking same! I thought I was safe with ugly dudes. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:37 AM |
| 171 | Love the message this lady added into her post“If they’re treating you like crap, there’s something wrong with them and not you.” My people pleasing doesn’t want to believe this and needs scientific proof. It’s still very hard for me to accept this. The self blame is extremely strong in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:24 AM |
| 117 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Even as a pickme in my ore-FDS days he would have lost me at #2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:18 AM |
| 122 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.The only reason the LVX insisted that he be so entirely involved with his “ex” was because she had access to their accounts and would move money for him, her family has money, they were involved in many lawsuits and they had real estate together. He told me, the woman he claimed to wanted to marry and was his other half, that he had to be involved with her “not out of love, lust or romance but out of necessity. 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 12:57 PM |
| 43 | “But ugly guys will treat you better and they won’t cheat on you!” No. Countering scrote propaganda:Can confirm, LVX was/is a short, ugly-as-hell, mean ass pig that treated me like garbage and solved everything with money instead of genuine care and empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 07:14 PM |
| 7 | Gold flags over green. Put your phone away and have a peaceful night.Thank you very much for this and I loved your analogy. It’s just extremely and devastatingly disheartening when it just keeps happening over and over and over and over♾ again. Like, does any one want to pass the test? Can any one even be original? It’s the same. Exact. Crap. constantly! Then I gaslight myself thinking it’s all my fault but I’m not out here trying to hurt people or use them (even as a pickme). All I’m about is leveling up and doing better as much as I possibly can. I’m having a s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 59 | FDS isn't about giving the benefit of the doubt. It's about being smart women who don't get played.🤣🤣🤣🤣 This is a perfect rebuttal when they wanna pull that “I don’t trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and doesn’t die”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:08 PM |
| 25 | Gold flags over green. Put your phone away and have a peaceful night.This is exactly what happened to me with the LVX and I tried so very hard to be the best I could for him even though he didn’t deserve it and even said so. The second I tell him “I have boundaries now”, how part of my level-up journey was to not be treated like garbage, held him accountable for his actions/inactions, wouldn’t tolerate disrespect and mistreatment is when he decided to really show out. I still don’t know how not to blame myself for him pulling away/being a MAJOR ass or not take it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 09:45 AM |
| 12 | “Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” -@sheenie_weenie_, 2021 ADSame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:21 AM |
| 75 | If He Wanted To, He Would: A Short StoryAnd if he did was it out of good intentions or the need to manipulate and control you? The LVX always “did” in the beginning but only so he could get me attached to him to only later on in the relationshit stop “doing” and proceeded to make me feel like the absolute worst shit in the process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:11 PM |
| 13 | What It Takes for a Man to Get Called Crazy - Whitney Cummings (lol she called out man on how bad he was dressed)I loved her in the movie The Female Brain! The whole movie is pretty good even if it was a very cliché ending. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:05 AM |
| 6 | I feel like I saw my Past Pickme self standing in front of me in line today... Thank God for FDSBut would we have listened? I probably wouldn’t have.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:35 AM |
| 117 | If he did not ask you to be his girlfriend YOU’RE SINGLELet’s not forget about when he asks you to basically marry him and the does a complete 180 the minute you start demanding respect and to not be treated like one of his caged dogs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:26 AM |
| 3 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.Lmaoo! “Edith”, I love it and I also feel that way about feeling suffocated, I don’t even wear underwear on my period, I hold the Kotex in there just fine. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:21 AM |
| 60 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.I know one way to fix this, just don’t wear underwear, that’s what I do, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 08:13 PM |
| 20 | Anyone who can relate?Lol, I just said up there about we should not have to pay a price for love and affection. Awesome, great minds think alike! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 12:37 PM |
| 63 | Anyone who can relate?I feel this very strongly at times as well but it passes especially when I remember what came with it. You should not have to pay a price just to get some affection, recognition and appreciation. I also had read from a couple of different resources that the reason we think the sex was so good with a toxic person (and you didn’t even orgasm, did you? I know I didn’t) was because it was the only rime you felt seen, validated and loved by them and that makes a lot of sense! Anyway, I feel ya, big t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 11:56 AM |
| 10 | Predicting abuse: How can I tell if a man I am seeing will become abusive?Very well said! I used to think when my pit sweat got activated to a great degree it was because I was excited to see him. Now I’m contemplating if it was my body warning me because it only really happens around certain people or when I get over-excited. Still tryna figure it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:45 PM |
| 12 | Be wary of guys who brag about being rich“Deep pockets, empty heart”…I LOVE that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:14 PM |
| 11 | Be wary of guys who brag about being richI remember a convo I overheard with the LVX to his Son saying that even though he never really spent quality time with him that he bought him all this cool stuff. Another time he was on the phone with his brother, fighting as usual, telling him “be nice to me, I’m gonna be a millionaire”. I’m guessing he was referring to yet another lawsuit him and his “ex” were involved in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:12 PM |
| 20 | Be wary of guys who brag about being richI was just telling the story about the “rich” LVX on another comment thread. When I barely knew him he tells me he could pay may salary so I don’t ever have to work again. I side-eye him saying I have been working since I was 16 and I love it and had re-iterated this throughout our time together. He even once told me “you have what’s considered a shitty job” knowing I go in to work every day so grateful and with a smile. He had used to say to me that “you know how I love you? Because I give you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:09 PM |
| 14 | Gillian Anderson in "The Fall"What are some reasons a would LVM say we’re “too emotional” if we’re supposedly “stronger” in that area? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:01 PM |
| 52 | Men need to stop complaining 😂😂This is exactly the same thing I said! The LVX told me when we first met and he barely knew me that he was rich and could pay me so I don’t have to work. I just looked at him like…😂😂. Sir, you don’t know me, I have been working since I was 16 and I love it..I need it! He didn’t like that shit and as I said above was resentful of how much I liked working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 02:57 PM |
| 36 | Men need to stop complaining 😂😂But..but.. I love working and not having to depend on LVM or any man because you never know. The LVX really seemed resentful that I was happy when I was at work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 02:53 PM |
| 56 | Please take the time to figure out what your inner 'romantic narrative' is.Good point and very enlightening as I just now realized throughout my entire childhood/teenage hood and even now that I desire to be “rescued”, from what? Well, I thought it was my Mom but upon further reflection it’s looking more like I want to be rescued from myself and I’m still working on the “why”. It’s funny because no one can “rescue” you but yourself and now I have to do that. “Rescue” myself from myself..oh, fun times! ETA: that the “romantic” movies that resonated with me in teen years… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 02:42 PM |
| 13 | «If you think the current conversations about women’s safety don’t affect you...» I thought a lot about this, and its trueSame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 09:00 PM |
| 88 | Don't give a single fuck about men attempting to fuck up your mind so they can fuck you. Konmari the cheap Scrotties. Make them pay up and work hard for the priviledge of being with you 💅Huh. The way I was the one who pushed for sex in the beginning, initiated most of the time, felt as though I was begging at times, how he told me our relationship was more than just sex and how I was “more than a hole” to him (pickme self said “3 holes”…) extremely convincingly. All these things for over a year that really, really made it seem like I was the one who wanted it more. He said I used him for sex even though I never had an orgasm so I guess it was out of bordem and my being affection… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 05:45 PM |
| 156 | I made the move: broke up with him first.Ugh! Whenever they say “too much” or “too” this or that I like to think they’re not enough with their boring, lazy, unmotivated, set-in-their-abusive-and-toxic ways self!! Congrats, by the way and yes you do deserve a HVM that will match your energy throughout! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 09:23 AM |
| 25 | The FDS answer to everything. Kick him out, sis. Block and delete. Go live your best life.Not only dump him but change your mindset and value yourself enough not to entertain/be starved for approval and validation from these scrotes to begin with! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:42 AM |
| 9 | If they try to change youThe LVX would throw around words like “psychopath”, tell me I was “too emotional”, accuse me of driving by his house when I don’t even have a car (does he think I’d waste Uber money? Shit’s expensive!) and tell me I had a fatal attraction to him completely unwarranted I mean he couldn’t even make me cum no matter how hard he”tried” (for his own ego). So what happens towards the end of the relationshit? He tells me he is “mentally unraveling” and stalks me at my job! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:40 AM |
| 62 | If they try to change youI am sorry for the pickme that stayed when he said he wanted to “fix” me and “mold” me.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:30 AM |
| 33 | So true. 😍 👑ALL of this, I commented something similar above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 110 | So true. 😍 👑Whenever I break my neck to make them feel special, not only do they take it for granted and not appreciate it but I always, always end up heartbroken and abandoned. Guess who has 2 thumbs and never, ever doing that shit again not matter how much they say/show they “love” me? This Queen right here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:34 PM |
| 15 | "I'm gonna make your dreams come true, as long as they don't interfere with mine" 💃Yes, I believe so and the blonde one was in a comedy series called “Another Period” and it is WONDERFUL!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:20 PM |
| 169 | So few words, so much accuracy“You started to become negative.” (Lol, I typed that before I saw it up there. They really all do read out of the same playbook, huh?) Yeah, that’s because you started to treat me like garbage out of nowhere, my dude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:54 PM |
| 2 | NEVER AGAIN will I...I second this to the fullest! This was the LVX to a T and I still held out hope! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:27 PM |
| 24 | NEVER AGAIN will I...Yeah, it’s not “manly” to experience/share in joy that isn’t rooted in some kind of predatory depravity or celebrate/participate in special occasions or achievements. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:24 PM |
| 12 | NEVER AGAIN will I...Really! The LVX told me I had what was considered a “shitty job” but I’m happy there. I get good hours, a good, set schedule, benefits, opportunities for advancement that I plan to take full advantage of and the people there look out for me. I used to say to him about how much I loved going to work and he would say to me “you loooove going to work” and “you’re happy when you’re at work” all resentful and jealous-sounding. I couldn’t really understand because he was the co-owner of a commercial l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:22 PM |
| 13 | NEVER AGAIN will I...Lives with an “ex” and very, very much involved in her life. Abuses animals. Very mean-spirited in general even if you seem like you would be immune to it, he will not spare you. He hates himself too much. Doesn’t seem to care or spend anytime with you/ruin it on special occasions and holidays. Execute wifely duties when he is just a (an undeserving) boyfriend if even that. Has major control issues. Does not get along with any family (he’s got a very large one) or anyone for that matter, always … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:16 PM |
| 5 | This is for all the ladies going through a breakup with a LVM/NVMWell I’m not exactly regular but he did oral sex on me while I was on my period so maybe we synced up, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 12:55 AM |
| 4 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!Sounds more like a blessing than a problem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:55 PM |
| 11 | This is for all the ladies going through a breakup with a LVM/NVMI am so very happy for you and this brings me so much hope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 03:21 PM |
| 28 | This is for all the ladies going through a breakup with a LVM/NVMThank you so much for this! I’m currently in the process of breaking a trauma bond to the LVX and staying single for now, not even dating because my picker needs to be reset. I try so very hard to not blame myself for what happened even though I tried the best I could with him but I am very, very different now. He continues to drive by my work to watch me and sometimes sits out in the parking lot making it that much harder for me to move on without moving on. I ignore him and not even glance his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 03:19 PM |
| 16 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!I have a plethora of experience with men (still waiting to meet a nice lady) but was only ever able to cum with one guy but I had to be on top and in control and I was fantasizing about women soooooo, there’s that…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:42 AM |
| 15 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!Yes! I would say I was a squirrel collecting nuts by skipping days, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:36 AM |
| 4 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!Do you get these from vape shops or am I not going to the right places? PM me, plz. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:34 AM |
| 35 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!Maaan, those edibles (I use them sometimes,too) just intensify my orgasms!! ETA: the LVX was absolutely hellbent on making me orgasm and he tried so, so, so very hard which I’m sure was for his own ego. He was getting a little frustrated after we had been at it for a couple months and he still failed to make me cum and I refuse to fake and he’s like “you should have cum by now”. Well, I almost did a couple times in the beginning when the attention and love bombing was at its peak. However, his “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:29 AM |
| 5 | Message to ladies and lurkers: All orgasms are not created equal!So do you think a “huge” dildo would be good for me even though I’m all about the clit and not much for penetration? Maybe I’m doing something wrong… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:28 AM |
| 35 | Struggling with the reality this isn’t temporaryGiiirl, I am feeling all of this totally and completely and I needed to hear it. I haven’t been intimate with anyone in a little over 13 months and I am not used to this at. all! This may be my period talking but I was seriously considering having a one-time thing with the next worthy rando the universe sends me and just pump and dump as I am SO SICK of thinking the LVX that continues to stalk me (showed up to watch me at my job 2 days ago 🙄) was the last one I was with! I wanted to feel like I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:33 PM |
| 9 | But you came like 3 times right?!??Same!! If I ever did fake it would only be for social experimental reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 10:09 PM |
| 20 | Thank God for FDSYeah, she would have had a horrible, miserable, anxiety-riddled summer with him for sure! The ex scrote that thought he could break me was a racist, lying, scummy POS as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 09:13 AM |
| 17 | So, you’ve exchanged social media handles with a man in your (sc)rotation (inspired by the FDS podcast episode on online dating).This another good reason to use an app that gives you a phone number like “talk-a-tone”. I know that if you guys are in each other’s contact list through your phones that FB can detect it and suggest your guys’ page. I know there’s a setting to fix that but like with men, I don’t trust it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 08:56 PM |
| 9 | I ignored FDS principles and it cost me 6 weeks of my lifeOr to have you as regular sex/ego boosting/therapy because the LVX asked for exclusivity (from me anyway, I don’t know about him) after we were intimate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:35 PM |
| 12 | The importance of not sharing your trauma with the men you’re dating“It’S NoT FaAAaaaiiIiR” sounds like a whiny child. life isn’t fair and that’s why some of us are still attracted to and dealing with scrotes like these! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:14 PM |
| 28 | The importance of not sharing your trauma with the men you’re datingYeah, they only want to do the things that hurt and disappoint us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:13 PM |
| 13 | The importance of not sharing your trauma with the men you’re datingTotally all of this! I recently discovered FDS and even though my Mom stressed the importance of not sharing your trauma with near strangers I did anyway. I think it was a combo of feeling comfortable with the most recent LVX and a burning desire to be seen and heard but I told him everything. He knew what hurt me the most and he did it better than all the others so never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:12 PM |
| 19 | FDS perk #358961 - Seeing through their BS and manipulationThis is what I envisioned as well! 😈😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 25 | Another example of how men will only be decent to women they find attractiveI was thinking before the women showed up to help that I would have helped her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 12:50 PM |
| 4 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsWe were watching it on Hulu. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 12:40 PM |
| 64 | Sailor Moon has so many high value women and friendshipsWooow, FDS all up on my life yet again. Of course I watched this as a teen and my eldest Daughter and I decided to watch it just 3 days ago! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:35 PM |
| 12 | This is THE energy 👸Or how “comfortable” I make myself, as I like to say. “Happy” just don’t sit right with me for some reason..I prefer “mildly content”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:31 AM |
| 18 | This is why we don’t date broke and/or ugly men. It’s not for shallow reasons, it’s because he’s more likely to feel threatened by your success/attractiveness and will try to break your spiritVery, very familiar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:29 AM |
| 27 | FDS Success in the wild.Tell me you play roller derby… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Performative love (what men want) vs the real thing (what women want).Shiiit, his mask slipped after 4 months, I was just holding out hope and being a major pickmeisha. Plus, like he told me once, “I got you when you were vulnerable”..🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:22 PM |
| 9 | This reminds me of the slug storyCan you elaborate on this a little? These past few scrotes I had dealt with had me saying that too much and I always blame myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:05 PM |
| 30 | Stay away from the “Good Luck Chuck” type of scrote. All of his exes leveled up after they dumped him? That's because they couldn't do worse.Ohhhh, wow...yet again FDS has opened my eyes. This reminds me of the last LVX telling me that when I level up to not leave him like all the others did after he “helped” them get better (I’m so sure) Oh. Wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Performative love (what men want) vs the real thing (what women want).Same here! All of it! Except the 4+ years, I got out after 18 months, thank god! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:38 PM |
| 44 | Red pilled men break their own rules for attractive HV women. Don’t be fooled by their bullshit claims online- most are doing the MOST in a bid to tie one down- which proves nothing.👏👏👏👏👏 YES!! Standing ovation!! This perfectly describes the last couple of scrotes I had the ultimate misfortune of sharing my energy with. I relate so very, very hard to all of this except for the having options part, at least any HV ones. And that “minimum 3 months” of playing FDS rules thing? The last LVX made it to all of 4. Whole. Months (can’t remember the others because this one really laid it on THICK with lovebombing and future faking) but I held on another 18 months hoping it would go … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 03:57 PM |
| 10 | So true.A-men!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 03:15 PM |
| 14 | Leveling Up With FDSThis is the main thing I struggle with to an astounding degree! I still don’t believe it and think it’s always my fault especially since the last couple of scrotes ended the same way, even the one that really didn’t seem like he would do to me what he did! Do I think I’m that special to be immune to their fuckery or was it really me? I know I’m not perfect and have my flaws but I tried to be the best gf I could be for them (my pickmeness started to dwindle way down after the last one and I work … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 10:40 AM |
| 20 | Cruella has to be the most FDS thing Disney has ever madeI got goosebumps when I saw the trailer, even my Mom wants to see it and she only likes super old movies. Very exciting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:09 AM |
| 21 | If I see one more beautiful woman with an ugly man, I'm going to screamThis makes a ton of sense!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:44 AM |
| 21 | If I see one more beautiful woman with an ugly man, I'm going to screamYup! Same here and with their wedding ring glistening in the light! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 85 | If I see one more beautiful woman with an ugly man, I'm going to screamI had a some customers (a couple) in my line at work and I swear I really didn’t think the guy was with her and I didn’t know they were together. After I realized what happened I apologized and joked to her she was too pretty for him and she laughed real loud and said “I love you!”. I think we made both our days and the ugly, fat scrote got to cry in his ugly pillow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 18 | Don't be a weekday chick!The best thing about grocery shopping with the LVX was that he paid for them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 58 | Stop fucking lyingggAnd he doesn’t even have to use the word “crazy” but complain about her personality as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 05:55 PM |
| 39 | The bigger a dude, the nicer he tends to be. I don't even care about height from an aesthetics standpoint, but I don't date short men because they usually have a Napoleon complex and terrible personality.Can confirm..all the short guys I gave chances to were all the things you stated above. Tall guys..not so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 11:58 AM |
| 7 | Establishing boundariesThat’s exactly what I thought too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:13 PM |
| 38 | ONE YEAR WITHOUT SEX!!!!! Here's what I've learned!!!!Hi, I’m part of the one year (and 2 weeks) no sex club and I never thought I would go this long and be ok with it. I was a serial monogamist pickmeisha and decided after the last LVM that I am just done with it all as well. Awesome job on all your accomplishments and you are faaaaar from alone. It seems a great number of us, even the older generations, are hopping on the bandwagon of scrote-less self love and improvement! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:41 PM |
| 31 | (kinda) Red flags for dog ownersSee my above comment about the LVX with his dog. He got the dog (for reasons I stated above) knowing he would never be home to take care of it. He told me he prefers dogs over people for that reason but he the words he used were crude. He also told me his “relationships don’t last” and he is constantly in fights/quarrels with just about everyone that he crosses paths with! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 17 | (kinda) Red flags for dog owners“Trained” his dog to attack POC, gets a dog (knowing his work hours) to triangulate you and “ex” he lives/lived with just to leave the dog tied up and neglected all day long (4am-7pm), does that ear/tail cutting thingy for “aesthetics”, kicks and mistreats tf out of his dog because “they’ll never leave you or cheat on you”.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 39 | Establishing boundariesHa! I will never forget the day I told LVX “I have boundaries, now” after our first significant fight and he whispered back to me “boundariesssss...” in a contemplative way as if he didn’t even know the meaning of the word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 05:04 PM |
| 8 | Is Internet Misogyny Seeping Over IRL?This is exactly what I pictured! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 66 | Pickmes after giving the “nice guy” a chance 🤡Not only do they look like that but one is a liar and the other is a liar AND a major controlling asshole! 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 09:11 AM |
| 8 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesI agree with this wholeheartedly and am very glad for this post myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:45 AM |
| 18 | Stop letting men triangulate you against other women - they are trying to deliberately belittle you because they are threatened by your confidence. You are a Queen. A bad bitch. You laugh in the face of men who try to make you jealous- you see them as insecure and attention-seeking. They are LVM.Wow! He was a short, ugly, old white REPUBLICAN man that I gave a chance to because I was in a bad mental place and “lonely”. That was just some of the crap he pulled. He even told me once, in not so many words, that he was keeping me in my place so I didn’t take the relationship for granted as if there was even hardly a relationship left at that point! Take advantage of what? I was the one giving everything by the end. And the leering? My god, the leering!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 07:16 PM |
| 11 | When the roles are reversed 😋💅🏽Love it! First off, that dude’s shoe is super small and I am watching “The Glorias” (absolutely amazing!! 😍😍) it showed the tiger skin rug ad, too cool! ✨Synchronicities ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 25 | Stop letting men triangulate you against other women - they are trying to deliberately belittle you because they are threatened by your confidence. You are a Queen. A bad bitch. You laugh in the face of men who try to make you jealous- you see them as insecure and attention-seeking. They are LVM.I was just going to comment that I should have noped out of there when the LVX winked at a waitress in front of me one time and when he “had” to be involved with his ex out of “necessity”..god bless FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 6 | "If he wanted to, he would." Stops hurting so much in time when you see it for what it is.Thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:41 AM |
| 19 | Vetting for rapistsWhat are your thoughts if he confesses that he used to have sex with prostitutes but was trying to humble himself only to turn around and say that he’ll never change? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:13 PM |
| 251 | And this is why it's important to date a man who is trustworthy.Or how they treat you afterward including claiming that the relationship “isn’t just about sex” and that they want to marry you and all that good stuff. Then proceed to turn around and shit all over you in every possible way when you begin to establish standards and boundaries! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 07:04 PM |
| 11 | FDS AffirmationsI just heard this song for the first time the other day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 81 | When he does the bare minimumHe can do all this and still cheat on you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 09:47 AM |
| 21 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.She’s both of us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:44 AM |
| 30 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.I’m 42, a year and a half in of doing the same and even having my “well, maybe this one time” moments as well. I’m right there with ya and I gotta say that I am proud of you and thank you so much for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:43 AM |
| 11 | "bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they saidI’ve been better, trying to arrange doctor appointment but going at it holistically for the time being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:53 AM |
| 25 | "bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they saidWell, the body keeps the score and fibroids and toxic scrotes and whatnot..I’m working on it tough, thanks for your concern. 🤗🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:07 PM |
| 45 | "bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they saidI bled all of April but thank god it was just blood and not cramps or major clotting.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:50 PM |
| 19 | Yup. Especially how creepy most of the men giving out compliments areI don’t know if my bisexuality is showing but I been getting a lot of compliments from the older customers at work and I am here for it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:35 PM |
| 132 | "bUt imAgINe bEiNg KiCKeD in tHe BallS" they saidRaise your hand if you sometimes get two periods a month. ✋ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | I saw this going around on Facebook with women swooning, I need a break from it 🤢This won’t work if she has a very high libido and he gets off on non-consent, trust me I’ve been through it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 07:17 PM |
| 6 | Since some people seem to think we mean “very wealthy” when we say High ValueI agree with all this! The LVX was generous with his money and always tried to make sure my family and I were good. Yes, he was rich but he got it by doing shady shit and you think I’m gonna put up with someone who I thought I loved mistreating and disrespecting me? I don’t care how much money he threw at me and god knows I needed it. I will never in my life allow myself to consort with his kind again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:52 PM |
| 23 | When a man says “If you don’t lower your standards you’ll die alone” he is admitting he is not good enough for you.So what does it mean when the LVX told me that I need to have higher standards after I “kick him to the curb” as he would tell me out of nowhere before the shit hit the fan? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:41 AM |
| 39 | I just wanted to share this hillarious scene from the movie The Other Guys parodying the UglyGuy/HotWife trope widespread in movies and television.I most certainly would, it’s hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:28 PM |
| 73 | I just wanted to share this hillarious scene from the movie The Other Guys parodying the UglyGuy/HotWife trope widespread in movies and television.This movie sends me! I love how Mark Whalberg’s character learned ballet just so he could show the kids he bullied how “gay” it was! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 03:47 PM |
| 23 | Men and ageYou know, I don’t even have orgasms with guys, I did with one a loooong time ago and I was thinking about women and I’m the only one that can make me cum real hard anyway. I have a toy that I use very rarely to trick my brain into thinking I’m not lonely for a man, I guess. I prefer to use my hand for clitoral stimulation and it works just fine. 🤗 I know how men are and I’m slowly losing attraction to them so I guess I just really am “bored”. I would like to be taken on adventures and it’s very … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 12:28 PM |
| 19 | Men and ageI have pets and kids but you know the kind of “love” I mean..I know, I sicken myself sometimes, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:24 AM |
| 55 | Men and ageSoooo, as someone over 40 and “looking for love” (but not actively) how do I fix this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:40 AM |
| 32 | Why you shouldn’t date down or give out sympathy chances - the manipulative strategies of low status men.Can confirm. LVX was short, ugly as hell and had a pregnant-looking belly and as he had once told me “I got you when you were vulnerable”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 08:58 PM |
| 14 | The loneliness of leveling up.Me! I relate entirely and fully! You are not alone at all, I’m right there with you. Keep on leveling up and you can pm me if you ever need to talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 02:12 PM |
| 52 | Stop centering your life around menHow does one acquire friends? I don’t know how to cultivate a friendship with women who don’t want to put in the same effort and I can’t seem to find any on the same wavelength as me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 09:20 AM |
| 70 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouThe LVX knew how much I loved going to work and even said one time in a tone that indicated a hint of jealousy “you’re happy when you go to work”. I couldn’t understand why he would be jealous because I work retail and he is co-owner of a land scaping business. Then again I work in a revolving door of sausage and I was constantly getting hit on and like I said, I love to go to work and his job seemed very stressful except when he got to yell at his workers. One time he even told me “you know you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:03 AM |
| 11 | Always had pickmeishas in his circle, lots of distractions & bad habits to kill time, friends who shared his habits/tendencies, no plans for his future career... my LVM ex. I could add more to this collage, but I didn’t wanna spend more time on it :)“Sweater god”... I’m living for this!! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:34 PM |
| 19 | Always listen to your gut & let’s count the red flagsWhen he said he was into you and was going to think about you going to sleep and waking up I slowly shook my head and thought “lovebombing” just before I read that you wrote it. It reeked of the LVX and this sub is helping me so much I can’t even describe it and I’m glad you listened to your gut and recognized red flags! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:55 PM |
| 4 | To All The Scrotes and LVMs Who Make it a Priority to Manipulative Women With Their Shitty Personality, Problems, Views, and Inability to ChangeHa! I’m using this one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:46 PM |
| 49 | Don't take romantic relationships so seriouslyMaybe a woman wrote those songs.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:42 PM |
| 31 | Don't take romantic relationships so seriouslyI agree with this but my issue is idealizing and attaching very fiercely. What are some mental tricks I can do to avoid this? What are some good resources I can utilize as far as information to help me with this? I mean besides therapy? I guess this is why we keep a scrotation, huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:39 PM |
| 69 | Do not message men first! Like complimenting them, it just inflates their ego so they try more girls.Don’t compliment them on their looks, either! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:38 PM |
| 78 | SEX POZZY MYTHS BUSTED : Why women struggle to emotionally detach from casual sex despite their best efforts. Male semen contains a concoction of chemicals designed to enslave her to the man she had sex with.Or swallow..I apologize for the vulgarity but my former pickme self was all about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Reminder: never reduce yourself to the kind of woman that has to go through their partner's phoneEven as a pickme I never went through phones, I hated with a passion when my babies’ father did it (for good reason) but it just was so unattractive. Another reason is I didn’t want to come across something I didn’t want to see but from now on if I even get a feeling that something in there is not kosher and/or he projects on to me “I know you have numbers on your phone that shouldn’t be there” (I didn’t) I am out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:53 PM |
| 31 | No Man I’ve been with has ever made me orgasm. EVER.Performing and trying some how, some way to get off with a whole other person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:48 PM |
| 88 | No Man I’ve been with has ever made me orgasm. EVER.Same here and I have been with a good amount. I was only able to achieve orgasm with one guy but I had to be on top and in complete control and grinding like you. I’m not gonna lie that I was fantasizing about being with a woman while I was on him. I’m still waiting for the universe to send me a nice lady. ETA: I never have faked an orgasm and never will! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:45 PM |
| 51 | A question?Yeah, it was working for awhile but thanks to having a brain and past experiences I knew better than to put up with any of their bs. I didn’t like the way I was feeling when they flipped the script and I figured out what they were doing. I get to take care of my parents and children pretty much by myself and work a full time job with no car. I have enough to deal with without some scrote coming around trying to break me. Either they add to my life or subtract themselves from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 12:07 PM |
| 123 | A question?I don’t get this myself because even though the last couple of toxic, abusive scrotes I had the misfortune of being with wanted cuddles and to talk after sex. They were the ones that insisted on it so I really don’t know why, did they fake that? We’re the old and lonely? Did they think it would bond me more to them so I wouldn’t leave? Well, it didn’t work because I left anyway due to their disrespect and mistreatment of me. Would be nice not to expend so much brain energy on trying to figure ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:41 AM |
| 50 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.The LVX was ugly as all hell and he knew this but I thought he was handsome because I had on the love goggles I even told him he was handsome! 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 07:19 PM |
| 7 | "If he wanted to, he would" is NOT A REFLECTION OF YOU CHARACTER.I absolutely LOVE this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:10 PM |
| 50 | "If he wanted to, he would" is NOT A REFLECTION OF YOU CHARACTER.The LVX actually said to me that he had to be involved with his ex that he was living with “not out of love, lust or romance but necessity”. So you’re telling me you use women (not to mention when he admitted to “using call girls” in the past) and I still held out hope! The cognitive dissonance for all of that fuckery was astounding, never date when you’re heartbroken, lonely or bored! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:09 PM |
| 25 | "If he wanted to, he would" is NOT A REFLECTION OF YOU CHARACTER.Thank so very much for this! “Internalizing” is exactly what I have been doing my whole entire life about everything and I didn’t even realize it or know the word for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:05 PM |
| 37 | Why FDS ExistsI am 42 and far from invisible and that’s after gaining 50 pounds..🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:58 PM |
| 83 | Why women oppose prostitution.This is why I appreciate this sub so very much! Yes, anyone with basic empathy and half a brain knows that prostitution is wrong in so on many levels but this post reminded me of a caretaker I had growing up. She normalized having sex with her sister’s husband for money and even suggested marrying me off to his brother for citizenship. No wonder when the most recent LVX stated that he “used to use call girls” I didn’t bat an eye! I am grateful in a way that a very close cousin of mine’s marriage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 03:17 PM |
| 25 | FDS saved me and my daughter from abuse. These are the things you should watch out for:Thank you so much for this post! All of these things happened to me to a T (never had any evidence of him cheating but had a feeling) and I still have times throughout the day that I don’t want to believe it and maybe I was wrong. It’s been over a year for me since I blocked him and he still comes to stalk me at work once in awhile to make sure I don’t heal so it’s very hard for me and I am not dating and not used to being single so reading your post helped me very much. I just wish I knew why a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:19 AM |
| 11 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:Same! Same! Same! One year scrote-free club! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:32 PM |
| 20 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:The 3 times I have had to block narcs I got nothing but blessings. Yes, it hurts and I still have times throughout the day where i can literally feel my heart breaking but I get over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:30 PM |
| 6 | Today marks one year since I blocked my narcissistic, emotionally abusive, alcoholic ex. Here are all the ways my life has improved since:Awesome job, very proud of you! I’m going on a year after blocking the ex narc and have leveled up greatly as well. It’s like a reward from the universe for implementing self-love by exiling the abusive scrotes from our lives! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:28 PM |
| 130 | Found on Instagram... I am really liking the algorithm 💁♀️Came here to say this and beware the financial abuse. They think just because they throw money around they could treat you like the shittiest of shits as one user on here was posting about earlier and my personal experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:47 AM |
| 42 | Buying you things doesn’t make a man an HVMI remember one of the first things the LVX said to me when we first met was “I’m rich and I can pay your salary so you don’t have to work”. He did not know how very strong my work ethic is and that it is something I’ve been doing since I was 17 (working multiple jobs) and that I took great joy in going to work and I reiterated this throughout our relationshit. He also said to me that he shows love by giving me money and I disagreed with that. Money was not “love” to me, everything he was doing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:36 AM |
| 16 | MoodMake “crocodile” tears! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 09:37 AM |
| 37 | Ready to commit and then they bail (AKA THE REASON TO DATE MULTIPLE MEN AT ONCE AND PROPERLY VET)Well, count me in, too. The LVX wasn’t even my type and I made an exception for him. He was the one pushing for commitment in the beginning and then he busts out with the same line after he thought he had me. Guess who don’t have me now and still stalks me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:14 AM |
| 40 | If you’re a pedophile, just say thatLoved when I call him “daddy” even on a regular basis as if it were his name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 19 | "My ex is crazy" is still a red flag, even if he's telling the truthThe 52 year old ex scrote: “I block what bothers me”. Big surprise his “relationships don’t last” (his words) and that he has very bad stomach problems! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:08 PM |
| 4 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?Awwww, this brought me joy! Thank you! 🤗🤗🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:24 AM |
| 11 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?Awesome! That’s some Elle Woods energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 39 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?I try to do this too and just when I’ve convinced myself he’s dead dead here he comes dragging his oversized head around my job to stare at me from his shitty little truck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 05:13 PM |
| 75 | Bullet Dodging Chronicles: Where Are They Now?I have the LVX actively blocked atm and he doesn’t have FB because he said “it’s a recipe for disaster” (funny how when his “ex” he lived with found out about me she made him one and started posting in her social media like crazy) and surprise, I never met his circle so we have no mutual friends. However, last we spoke about a year ago he: Was being investigated for insurance fraud (old case or new one, who knows?). Had a fire in the house he lived in with his “ex” (I may or may not have been th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 05:07 PM |
| 120 | How to tell if your partner is becoming red pilledWow, my “problem” was that I was the one always initiating/asking for sex because I thought it was how love was expressed. It was as if he had withheld it from me on purpose and sometimes I think he’d prefer to take it from me instead. What are some other ways to tell if they’ve been red pilled that doesn’t involve sex? Is withholding sex from a partner that is always ready and wants it in the red pill handbook? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:40 AM |
| 9 | Share your standards!Yeah, because that’s not a waste of time! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:55 AM |
| 11 | Found FDS principles out in the wild (Instagram).. DUMP HIM!“Your dog deserves better” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 08:13 PM |
| 79 | Label Bad Behavior and Put That Shit on Them, Rather Than Internalizing and Blaming SelfWow.. you don’t even know just how bad I needed this right now! I was thinking about how why I always have to self-blame and not put it where it belongs riiiiight before I came to check up on here. FDS hears my thoughts, for real! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 11:11 AM |
| 3 | LVM Traits you miss are actually yoursYes, please elaborate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:24 AM |
| 43 | What is the Bare Minimum? (A Reminder)•buys you a bicycle from Walmart when he could have gotten a much nicer one from the professional bike shop down the street knowing full well you use it for transportation. • buys you jewelry you actually like and had a very lengthy and detailed discussion on what kind instead of surprising you with something that’s the complete opposite that you hate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:13 PM |
| 79 | Be cautious with your lifeLike a frog in a boiling pot... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:06 PM |
| 19 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.I bicycle to work and am on my feet 8 hours a day. No lie when I asked him to rub my feet it was like a toddler trying to drive a car. Of course he had no problem sucking on them even when they were dirty, though. His face when I told him my mom and son rubbed my feet better than him! 🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 9 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.I can’t believe I took him telling me about “putting me to work on the farm” was a good thing! I love working hard but it’s not gonna be for a LV man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:29 PM |
| 8 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.This still doesn’t make sense to me as the LVX who was 50 with a slight ED would be the one to make me wait both in the beginning and throughout the relationshit. He did tell me very sternly “if you think this relationship is just about sex, YOU’RE WRONG!” One time he said to me that he didn’t want to do sexual stuff every time we saw each other because he didn’t want us to be just about that. I was the one with what seemed to me to be a waaaay higher libido. Looking back though and after typing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Feeling some type of way about the woman I used to be…Following because SAME! SAME! SAME! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 04:02 PM |
| 5 | Signs he just doesn’t give a fuck about you: part 1‼️I’m right there with ya! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 20 | What your scrote ex thinks will happen when he wants you back v. what really happensYeah, I agree and I liked when he took off the glasses and just drug it across his eyes!! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:04 PM |
| 14 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By NarcissistsCouldn’t have said it better myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 12 | Patterns Of Thinking And Behavior Often Displayed By NarcissistsI am a recovering pickmeisha who grew up in an abusive and toxic household as well as living with two of the many perpetrators at this time. I have to say that even at age 42 with kids of my own that it is very, very hard to discern or even know what healthy and thriving “love” and respect even looks like. What I thought was “normal” most certainly was not! Up until I found FDS about a year ago I honest-to-god thought that if a man hit me (or I hit him) it meant he really loved me (and vice vers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 34 | I avoided being in a LTR with a manipulative LVM thanks to FDS for reminding me to know my worth👑I got two, this one guy gave me his number and told me to text him, not to call and another gave me his number saying he will be in town until the next couple of days. I did not entertain these 🤡s as maybe a bit over a year ago my pickme self would have! I’m sorry but I am very proud of myself especially because they keep pushing and I stand by my refusal to engage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 09:32 AM |
| 21 | FDSers who observed Mother's Day today, how was it? What did you notice through the FDS lense?Well I’m a mom of three and my sister (also a mom) came over with her daughters. There was lots of food, gifts and some nice decorating and we had a nice time with our mom as well. I noted how it was women who made everything nice and memorable (noticed it way more for all the holidays post FDS) and not a man in sight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:44 PM |
| 46 | “He has Bi Wife Energy”Yeah, he used my bisexuality against me like it was ok to leer at other women in front of me as long as I was included? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 07:46 PM |
| 9 | Things men don’t want you to know...I know, I need to hear this as it’s feeling like I’m the one that’s below him. I know it’s a self-esteem issue with a combo of allowing him to make me feel like I was his subordinate. As a recovering pickmeisha I am really just doing everything I can to love myself more and not let his sense of grandiosity lower my vibe. I’m having a day, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:55 PM |
| -7 | Things men don’t want you to know...Just curious but what makes her “above” him? What if he has a better job and more money however he has: A criminal record a mile long. Racist af Always in a fight with somebody somewhere, especially family. Is being investigated for insurance fraud. Abuses animals. Does things he knows intentionally hurt me and tells me to “tighten up” and that’s he’s trying to make me mad. I try to do and be the best I can even if I don’t have a car and work retail but I’m not a hateful person and try to see th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:57 PM |
| 143 | “He has Bi Wife Energy”Just because I’m bi does not IN ANY WAY mean I am going to share her with my man! Especially if I have any feelings for him (and her)! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 31 | Watching women gaslight themselves is so painfulI should have dipped the second the LVX told me that he doesn’t even talk to his Mom anymore for whatever reason. I heard him on the phone with his brother once saying “your Mom this and your Mom that”. Really, dude? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:21 PM |
| 9 | Remove yourself from the concept of menSame here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 01:56 AM |
| 42 | Remove yourself from the concept of menHa! I just made the decision today that the next time my stalker showed up that I wouldn’t even look in his direction! I told myself if I did this I would make him cease to exist!! Lmaoo!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:57 PM |
| 8 | It’s 2021- no more getting scammed for straight women.🌺 Reject casual sex and normalize sex as an extension of a loving relationship for our youth.A-men!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:27 PM |
| 10 | One day you wake up and realize that you really did just concoct a man out of thin air. A complete fabrication and fantasy, wholly removed from the person that was before you. Rather than this loving, trustworthy, supportive partner, I had someone who would deliberately ignore me as"punishment"This is absolutely wonderful!! I honestly felt like my future self wrote this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:26 PM |
| 1 | De-female socialization tipsThese are all really good but how do I find the asmr for daddy issues, please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:09 PM |
| 124 | That last conversation won't give you closureI have always done this, even drew a little tombstone in my notebook and everything. But it makes it very hard when they pop up at your work to watch you from the parking lot from time to time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 11:29 AM |
| 44 | New term, as a verb: “Scrote yapping” Definition: circular talking of making excuses and/or trying to exhaust you with word saladWhen there way too many red flags I call it a “red tarp”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 04:58 PM |
| 27 | Can we talk about how LVMs have a love/hate attitude toward lesbians?I just love how when my LVX found out I was bi he gave me “permission” to have a girlfriend like it was any of his damn business anyway. I had said to him that I wasn’t down for threesomes in any way if the opportunity presented itself. It would be my first time with a woman (still waiting) and it’s just gonna be us and us only! He has the audacity of “joking” about watching from a closet and I said to him at the time I’d let him if he could make me cum..LMAO! Good luck, Trumpster! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:29 PM |
| 50 | True closure comes from within!What’s funny to me is when my LVX broke his balls to force me to break up with him that he began to stalk me and claimed he needed closure. I have had to go to the hospital three different times because of the health problems I have endured due to the stress I allowed him to cause. I need closure, sir! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Found the image version of one of my favorite quotes 🙌Same here, my LVX was the last straw! Despite all the red tarp and gut feelings, I really held out hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:32 PM |
| 8 | Found the image version of one of my favorite quotes 🙌I let the feeling of loneliness get to me at work today and was on the way to the bathroom to cry. I just looked up at the ceiling and saw a very random heart-shaped balloon that said “love you”. I took it as to love myself more and stop torturing myself with thoughts of the ex and loneliness, went into the bathroom to cry and felt better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:30 PM |
| 8 | I wish I would have understood this earlier in life!This can also stem from insecurities and lack of self-esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:24 PM |
| 21 | I wish I would have understood this earlier in life!Even in the very beginning when we were just talking I felt like something was off. This was before he showcased his red tarp (yes, “flags” doesn’t cover it). Always go with your gut even if you think you’re just being paranoid because of past hurts and trauma. Listen to your body, I thought my nervous sweat (read:”butterflies”) were because I thought I liked him so much but no, I was being warned. I don’t need to tell you it only got worse the more I held out hope and became a performative monk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 10:23 PM |
| 36 | The single demographics in the US and why young men are angryYeah, left in the Cheeto dust LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:44 PM |
| 36 | Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going!Next time I am going to say that I have a more evolved limbic system when presented with the “too emotional” garbage. Oh, like having an outrageous temper and teeming with inner rage isn’t an emotion, Erik!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:16 PM |
| 64 | Words men use to insult us that are actually compliments? Let's get a list going!“You’re complicated” after our first big fight and I took it as a compliment. That’s right, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 36 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?“Go with the flow” my absolute fav.! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:30 AM |
| 51 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?“YOu’rE toO eMoTIonAL” like his unbridled anger isn’t an emotion! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:29 AM |
| 7 | Educating my daughter on what men will say when she is confident and strong in her opinions, what are we missing?I have been told that I was complicated by my LVX and I took it as a compliment. Am I doing it right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:28 AM |
| 64 | 20% of women in China regret getting married. Only 7% of men regret getting married. 73% of divorced are initiated by women. Marriage has always been an institution meant to benefit men. More and more women are realizing this.Does FDS hear me when I show other women the way? I literally just said the same thing about men living longer than women in marriage and how it benefits them to like 3 different people today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:22 AM |
| 5 | Let’s normalize calling scrote behavior for what it is! Manipulation, abuse, and liesIt’s a sign! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:45 AM |
| 12 | Do you do vetting for attachment style and conflict style??Same here! I recently came across attachment styles when I was trying to figure out why my LVX was starting to show his ass. I tested as anxious preoccupied and I’m doing the best I can to lean more secure and I, too, will never be involved with an avoidant if I can help it for the same reasons. I’m also going to vet based on how they handle their unhealed traumas and if they’re actively (and obviously) working on them. ETA: sometimes in the beginning of the relationship, usually 4-6 months, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:32 AM |
| 63 | My wallet doubles as a scrote detectorVery nice! I remember one time my LVX had said to me “you don’t tell me what to do I tell you what to do!” Like out of nowhere during a fairly decent conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:28 AM |
| 4 | I DIED With This! HILARIOUS!!Thanks, I guess I was projecting, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:05 PM |
| 17 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!I hear that too! Too ugly, not my type and please tell me when he told me his very basic name and that he wasn’t the ethnicity I’m usually attracted to I was just..ugh..I felt let down for some unknown reason. Probably a sign of times to come. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:27 AM |
| 11 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Or the sunglasses the refuse to take off even indoors and at night (while driving) claiming they’re prescription. You’re so “rich” why don’t you get regular glasses so I can see your ugly, lying bug-eyes, sir?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:20 AM |
| 22 | Stop dating men that you aren't attracted to! Stop giving ugly a chance!Yes! Why is this? I thought I was safe with ugly guys and as the last two LVX’s have shown me that is just simply the absolute complete opposite! Why do they do this? Someone please ELI5. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:14 AM |
| 3 | I DIED With This! HILARIOUS!!@sydandolivia | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:26 AM |
| 2 | The process of getting over a man who was no good for you is hard yet refreshingSame here in every way, I could have written this too! I am so sure if he’d just stop driving by my work that I’d be free of the mental prison of him by now. It’s been exactly a year in two weeks that he basically forced me to block and delete but he still feels the need to torment me. That’s fine, I’m going to go file a restraining order this week and hope he adheres to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:21 AM |
| 235 | I DIED With This! HILARIOUS!!“Does my job think I’m hot?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:13 PM |
| 84 | Never leave your home without a big bill tucked in somewhere that has the sole purpose of getting you back home safely.I don’t have a car yet so I always make sure I have extra Uber money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 03:52 PM |
| 32 | As a single woman, at any given time you should be either dating multiple people at once, or not dating at all.Yes, THIS!! ALL of this! I work at a revolving door of sausage and some lesbians (hardware store) and I still have yet to meet anyone worth a damn almost a whole year (an eternity for me as a former serial monogamist/pickme) after I had to get rid of my LVX who continues to stalk me...UGH!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:29 AM |
| 11 | Wise WordsI totally agree that’s why I’m gonna start writing lines repetitively to hypnotize myself to be a better person and to not fall for the shit anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Please un-ban MeWhat the hell, man? No lie, I have been listening to this song on repeat in the morning for the last month!!! Weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:52 AM |
| 34 | High Value Dates OnlyMy LVX did this to an older waitress who was serving us and it wasn’t even something within her control. He even came to my job and really tore into one of the lot guys (I work in a retail hardware store). I don’t know what I was thinking that I’d be immune. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:22 AM |
| 18 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingPsychological and emotional abuse can also lead to some very real physical health problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:38 AM |
| 17 | Strategy: 40+ FDS women - the long-game.I was thinking this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 03:57 PM |
| 11 | Would this be considered a pick me mindset? I used to think this way when I was a pick me. When I stopped caring about or catering to the male gaze, I stopped wanting male attention all together. Especially while minding my business.I really love this idea and was even recently looking into how I could dress more for the female gaze that wasn’t rooted in internalized misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:15 PM |
| 11 | Would this be considered a pick me mindset? I used to think this way when I was a pick me. When I stopped caring about or catering to the male gaze, I stopped wanting male attention all together. Especially while minding my business.I have caught myself doing this at work the other day. My schedule changed and there was a lot of very good looking guys coming in (I work in a hardware store). The second, the very second, I caught myself fantasizing about them or noticing certain features I told myself “we do not value or crave make attention or validation anymore” or “we aren’t attracted to men anymore, remember”. Then I have memories of all the times I have been hurt, mistreated, unwillingly sexualized and disrespected by da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:12 PM |
| 33 | Say it LOUDERI don’t think she made a TikTok about that yet because I searched as I wanted to hear her thoughts on it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 11:49 AM |
| 2 | I Am In Extreme Need Of Assistance Of How To Get Rid Of A StalkerThanks to everyone for all the good advice! I like the idea of unblocking him to keep line of communication open only to gather evidence. I really appreciate the time and effort you all have put into answering my question. Wish me luck! | /r/askFDS | 26/04/21 01:16 AM |
| 140 | Getting turned off by menI am very happy to say that I am very much losing my attraction to men to a great degree. Also not succumbing to my “loneliness” and “bordem” by energetically engaging with LVM In any way as I would have in the recent past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:02 AM |
| 57 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!CONSISTENT AND GENUINE ACTIONS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 72 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exMy ex was so concerned as to why I have yet to orgasm with him no matter how hard he tried, albeit in his own way and for his own ego, but it doesn’t help when it felt like his “ex” was in the bed with us as far up her ass as he was. I mean why don’t you just go ahead and get a degree in proctology, dude? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 01:19 PM |
| 33 | Men who say oddly specific things about their exUgh! Why do they all do this!? ALWAYS!? It is good to know I am most definitely not alone. This further solidifies my decision to keep my options open for women in the foreseeable future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 01:17 PM |
| 46 | Your job is not a point of conversation. He will ask you where you work, don’t tell him. *TW: violence*Another thing to be wary of when they want to know your line of work and/or how much you make is sometimes if you are struggling like I was they use your financial status to control you with money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 21 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialI took “my sidekick” as a compliment. KICK, not “chick” even if it reeee-hehehe-aaalllly felt like it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 70 | Being the "dream girl" isn't specialSometimes when you ask for something you still get nothing and sometimes they’ll throw in some contempt as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:12 PM |
| 16 | Period 👏🏻I have so much anxious energy to burn I can do both, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:29 AM |
| 11 | Period 👏🏻This! I just said this up above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:28 AM |
| 18 | Period 👏🏻I wish someone better came along when I was with my ex.. I wish someone better would come along period. Excuse me, someoneS as in more than one person. I will never in my life ever put all my eggs in one basket ever again no matter how much money they have or how much shit they talk! They say we have options but no one around here is worth a damn. Not at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 46 | Period 👏🏻Same thing here! I pretended I had others (or at least the possibility of it). Don’t get me wrong, I get propositioned a great deal but ever since FDS and my last shitstorm of a breakup no one has sparked any kind of interest whatsoever! I have even lied about going out with friends, to company Christmas parties and even outings with my derby peeps just to make it seem like I had a social life. But I have no friends, my derby peeps don’t ever do anything with me and I never went to that party or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:24 AM |
| 17 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.What in the pickme hell? 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | This is my year!Great job! Keep it up!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:25 PM |
| 16 | As it should be.Ya goddamned RIGHT!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:19 PM |
| 39 | As it should be.“I want to fix you, I want to mold you.” Were the words that came out of my LVX’s mouth to me. I’m a 42 year old Mom of three, why the hell did I stay? Oh yeah, because he got me “when I was vulnerable” according to him. I see now there’s a reason to stay single and to yourself inbetwixt toxic shit fuckery relationshits! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:18 PM |
| 87 | Billie speaking facts!My short and ugly af LVX’s only redeeming quality was, once the mask slipped, that he had money to throw around. That’s not always necessarily a good thing if you think about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 12:55 PM |
| 68 | Billie speaking facts!This is both true and hilarious! I just posted this on my FB yesterday, great minds think alike. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:56 AM |
| 141 | FWB Because You’ll Be Fucked Either Way And Not The Way You Like!I’d like to think he meant for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 08:03 PM |
| 5 | FWB Because You’ll Be Fucked Either Way And Not The Way You Like!I LOVE his “getting back with the ex” one, too! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 07:38 PM |
| 5 | I have officially quit datingI had decided to stop dating for awhile just before I joined this sub and am focusing on friends (trying to find some), family, health, work and eventually starting a small business and I am 42 but I’m a very late bloomer and I hadn’t really been all that motivated until now as I was being selfish in an unhealthy way. I think it is absolutely wonderful what that you are seeing the light at such a young age and I commend you! Great job and keep it up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 06:07 PM |
| 15 | The Eternal Girlfriend 😳😬Or how much his shirt is straining across his gut or the baseball cap he uses to hide his gray hair/receding hairline, or..or..or... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 4 | It's okay to be sad that you're singleWell I must be easily malleable or they got me damn early because I remember being boy crazy in kindergarten. 😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:17 PM |
| 6 | It's okay to be sad that you're singleI am and was in the same situation and I love how you said that at least now you have hope. I need to remember this when I’m feeling utterly useless and downtrodden over my last ex and what he pretended himself to be in the beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:14 PM |
| 6 | “How can I be a pick me when I’ve already been picked?”Well don’t feel bad, my LVX bamboozled me as well. I thought I was an exception when he told me outright “my relationships don’t last” and although I didn’t really believe I marriage I was ready to run away to somewhere where I knew no one and marry him! I was with my babies’ father for 16 years (what made me realize ppl who love each other shouldn’t live together or at least one of them be a trucker, lol) who worshipped me and I never wanted to marry him so why would I marry an ugly, dusty ass … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 11:16 AM |
| 13 | I lied lol, here’s one more I just thought of! The Man - Taylor SwiftI loved this when I saw it a couple months ago and tried posting it here. Good stuff! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:57 PM |
| 10 | The myth of the "cock carousel": male projectionAll of this is exactly true for me. Very well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 05:33 PM |
| 7 | My break up continuedI don’t have much to offer as far as advice but to just the say that I am feeling ALL of this exactly except for the orgasm part which I’m glad for, tbh. You are most definitely not alone and I could have written this myself. As far as the withdrawals I have to say it’s not as bad as I’m almost a year out. It would help immensely if he’d stop stalking me at work, though and I have been keeping to myself, not even dating. Just doing my exercises, concentrating on work, taking my vitamins, doing s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 33 | “How can I be a pick me when I’ve already been picked?”Again, as I have said in here before (also my motto), if you really like someone you shouldn’t live with them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:51 PM |
| 11 | Last one for now! Once again TRAMP STAMPS is calling out LVM sexual behavior in their single Sex With Me! Can’t wait for their EP to drop!!“Cum first”..I don’t ever even cum at all, lol! These girls are so awesome!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 18 | I have no words. Don’t incentivise unwanted behaviour! You shouldn’t need to give more of yourself to get the bare minimum back? I AM SO ANGRY.This would never work with my LVX as I had a way higher libido and in hindsight I see he’d much rather just take it from me. It was like I was asking for it all the time which I didn’t like at all and big surprise he couldn’t even make me cum! Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:34 PM |
| 140 | F*ckboi Summer Is Approaching!Isn’t every season f*ckboi season? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:03 PM |
| 53 | My fellow Bisexual ladies, how many of you are strongly considering starting to only date and pursue relationships with women?I just said this the other day how I realized pretty much every man in my life has hurt, mistreated and abused me in some way. The only good one was my babies’ father but that ended in a train wreck due to my out of control pickmeness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 22 | My fellow Bisexual ladies, how many of you are strongly considering starting to only date and pursue relationships with women?I am 42 and have always been bicurious. I don’t know why I have not yet had the privilege of making love with a woman, It may be that I was with my babies’ father for 16 years and that maybe I didn’t try hard enough? I mean I’m part of a roller derby team for goodness sakes and I have been flirting with ladies that come through my job that are obviously lesbians but I don’t know how it works. I mean do I ask for their number? What then? Someone had posted on here some guidelines about pursuing a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:00 PM |
| 15 | Cringefest of alpha malesMy LVX had that in his legal name while calling himself an “alpha” at the same time! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨Ain’t that the truth!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨Same. Same. SAME!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:51 PM |
| 14 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨Omg, I can’t wait to meet my first girlfriend after I’ve healed more. ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:33 PM |
| 12 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨This sub and TikTok have been a saving grace for me, I can’t wait until I make my first TikTok video. I like to do my research and development but not participate in romantic relationships as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:30 PM |
| 20 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨Yup! I totally agree and I have been the woman being glared at and the woman doing the glaring both at the same time, it fucking sucks especially since I was way out of their league. Now I’m just being the woman being glared at, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨This. ALL THIS!! I agree with this so very much and I am a recovering pickmeisha. You pretty much just said everything I am thinking and feeling right now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:25 PM |
| 44 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)I told my LVX and the one before him that if you really like some one you should never live together. They didn’t like that b/c the were overgrown children that wanted mommybangmaids whilst still procuring side action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:01 PM |
| 12 | Don't let the past disappointment and bad memories make you lose your faith in yourselfThe disappointment and self-blaming I still have times struggling with almost a year later. My brain, gut and observations of him tell me that he wanted me broken and damaged so he’d have a project to work on and distract him from himself. Once he saw I was serious about leveling up and getting my shit together is when he started to really show his ass. I told him in the first few months of us being together that part of my evolution was not putting up with being treated like crap (he was lettin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:47 PM |
| 43 | Woman's abusive ex boyfriend showed up to her house to harass her. She stood up to him like a queen!Mine would but that’s because he lives for confrontation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:37 PM |
| 111 | Woman's abusive ex boyfriend showed up to her house to harass her. She stood up to him like a queen!They were probably for somebody else who didn’t want them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:35 PM |
| 27 | Woman's abusive ex boyfriend showed up to her house to harass her. She stood up to him like a queen!God, I loved watching this so that I can live vicariously. I wonder what his girlfriend that he’s with now would think of all this because you know he has one, poor thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 08:35 PM |
| 9 | Its Scrote-Blocking Season AgainI do cat’s eye eyeliner every day I can show you how to do it plus all you have to do really is practice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:49 PM |
| 29 | Its Scrote-Blocking Season AgainWhere can I get girlfriends and how do I get them please? My Roller derby team forgets about me like a common scrote. Also can I talk to my ex if he just pays me and is not allowed to touch me and only speak to me once a month on my terms? Lol, he wishes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 08:35 PM |
| 36 | Men just can't be single for a minuteI just love how the minute I started to have boundaries and standards my LVX wanted to start pulling away big time and how funny it is that when I finally blocked and deleted him that now he’s stalking me. So effing hilarious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Women rate themselves as less confident than men until their mid-40s -- but women realize they become more effective leaders later in their careers, surpassing men by late 50s!I’m trying the best I can but 42 years of brain rewiring is gonna take awhile, I have come a long way from even a year ago, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:38 PM |
| 34 | Women rate themselves as less confident than men until their mid-40s -- but women realize they become more effective leaders later in their careers, surpassing men by late 50s!The only thing that I have hope for and am looking forward to lately is when I am an older and successful lady not giving one fuck about any of these scrotes or any gender displaying scrote-like behavior towards me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 25 | Some of y’all are still pick-me’s, you just hide it betterIm right there with ya. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 06:22 PM |
| 15 | Read this quote and thought of the truthful, sensitive, and intelligent women hereMy LVX once said to me after our first big fight that I was “complicated”..I took it as a compliment and this was pre-FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 11:30 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI wouldn’t waste my time or stress over it, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:40 PM |
| 34 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InStill in the process of breaking a trauma bond to the LVX that still stalks me when he feels like it. It probably would have helped me to be over all this if he’d just stay tf away. Good news is I was finally able to get my chalazion removed after a year (the stress and crying over him I’m sure caused it as it showed up the very day I cursed him out and blocked him) and best part is I have an appointment to reinstate my drivers license at the end of the month and I didn’t have to ask no crusty a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 01:36 PM |
| 8 | Everything looks different under the FDS lenseSame here. I am just not feeling any romantic movies at all lately, even “Deadpool” almost made me cry from frustration and disappointment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 12:43 PM |
| 8 | Anyone else?Sounds good to me I’m right there with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 03:57 PM |
| 64 | Anyone else?Same here!!! ETA: he’s already dead on the inside so he’s halfway there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 01:46 PM |
| 20 | Thought You All Would Enjoy This, I Know I Sure Did!This is true but I’d like to think they mean like “white” in spirit like some old racist, conservative republican like my LVX. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Took myself out on a date today!I wrote a whole thing about it, it’s a longish story. He told me it would be $100,000 to fix my driver’s license and that I would have to claim bankruptcy (his ex has bankruptcy on her background check and some other shady shit as well as another ex). Well, when I went to go look into it myself they said it was like $10,000 instead and I made a payment plan and took care of it my damn self! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:51 PM |
| 6 | A man who wants you to orgasm is not always HVMy LVX insisted I orgasm but in his way and nothing even close to the way I do it. He wanted to facilitate an orgasm for his own ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:39 PM |
| 7 | Took myself out on a date today!Preach! I just posted about getting my license fixed that my LVX told me it would be $100,000 and he insisted he’d fix it (before he knew the price). I was so, so happy and thought I needed him to fix my license, my life..everything. Well, guess who got their license fixed by themselves? Me! I also got my gold chain I wanted (long story of his manipulations behind that one too), as well as skates for roller derby and many, many other things he made me believe I needed him for! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:37 PM |
| 5 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.She should have gotten someone to put slugs in his PlayStation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:25 PM |
| 23 | How a guy speaks about/treats his mother is super important and tellingMy LVX doesn’t even associate with his Mom and I once heard him refer to her as “your Mother” to his Brother. Needless to say he was already starting to mistreat and disrespect me at this point. Wish I would have left much sooner, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 10:27 PM |
| 22 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.He did say to me “I got you when you were vulnerable.” He also had massive amounts of self-loathing and referred to himself as trash saying that I deserved better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 31 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.So what does it mean when he says that you should have higher standards? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 04:59 PM |
| 21 | Imagine being in a Long Term Relationship...I’m bisexual and have yet to ever be with a woman..plz help!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:51 PM |
| 6 | Imagine being in a Long Term Relationship...Lmaoooo “probably be accident”...Not. Even. Once! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:50 PM |
| 49 | The secret strategy they don't want you to know about - aka do as I say not as I do. Ever wonder why women are so encouraged to find their 'one true love' and 'soulmate' while men are constantly watching porn and looking for the next branch to swing to? But we're supposed to put our blinders on.I was seriously considering after this last one (LVX), being on FDS and just men in general that I may adopt a scrotation lifestyle from now on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:26 AM |
| 9 | If a man is not going down on you for AS LONG AS IT TAKES then he ain’t worth shitHuh. My LVX went down on me while I was on my period and still couldn’t make me cum, see above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:10 PM |
| 20 | If a man is not going down on you for AS LONG AS IT TAKES then he ain’t worth shitMy LVX almost always insisted on performing cunninglingus but he did it his way and executed this weird motorboating move on my clit, basically using his mouth as a vibrator. It sounded funny and I’m not much for vibrators and I had shown him multiple times (when he’d take the time to pay attention which was rarely) how I like it done. I mean, I’ve been doing it for 27 years but no, I had to cum the way he does it. He tells me I should have “cum by now” (length of time we were together). I don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youDon’t even get me started on the multitude of health problems that suddenly occurred within the relationshit. Some how I doubt his “ex” girlfriend was a hypochondriac like he told me she was. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was the cause of all her health issues as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 11:21 PM |
| 24 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate you“You have a fatal attraction to me” with no evidence whatsoever to support his delusional assessment. Fatal attraction to you? You can’t even make me cum and who’s the one stalking me at work? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 01:23 AM |
| 20 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartSame here!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:38 PM |
| 44 | How to not catch feelings for men and protect your heartUgh! I can’t wait for the day a scrote calls me an ice Queen! I would be so happy b/c it means I have fully stopped thinking I need their worthless attention and/or validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:38 PM |
| 27 | This Is How It Went Down For Me TOO Many Times!Same here! If they ever ask about my past relationships I’ll just lie and say I was always treated like a Queen. Always. Forget about any childhood BS stuff, either. I learned what blabbing too much leads to the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 01:17 PM |
| 103 | Who’s going to tell them?Where was this when I was a boy-crazy child and why wasn’t it drilled into my head?!? 😡😡😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 12:38 PM |
| 13 | George Carlin On WomenThis made me smile! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:41 PM |
| 5 | This aligns with my experienceMine too, I always pontificated if there was something in the water.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:26 PM |
| 21 | Just because he makes 10x more doesn't mean he's HVHa! My LVX once asked me during the love bomb stage what kind of jewelry I liked. I was very specific and even offered various options to a solid gold name plate necklace I had been wanting for the longest but thought I couldn’t get myself. 1-2 weeks later he sends me a picture of a Pandora bag that he was bringing to me and I get all excited. So when he brings it to me and opens it up it is the complete opposite of what I had asked for setting the stage of a plethora of disappointments to come.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:39 PM |
| 23 | Don't romanticize the idea of someone who you're unsure about.Also to add that it doesn’t matter if they seem HV by throwing around a bunch of money (more than you were ever used to in your life but still not enough in hindsight), the sweet talk, how long you have been “together” read: he wants you all to himself while he goes and does God knows what) the attention in bed, the future faking (again, hindsight). If they cause you any doubts, anxieties, googling their behavior and/or their “situation with the ex” or you have a feeling about the content of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:23 PM |
| 101 | Yes, women can be pornsick too.Porn is the one I’m having the most trouble quitting right now. I was first exposed to it (that I can recall) catching my drunk stepfather watching it and then became curious myself (about the porn). I’m not addicted to it in that I do it every day just every time I want a quick release it seems to be the only thing that does it and I wish I knew how to do it without porn and in less than 20 minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 01:16 PM |
| 3 | I'm sick of pop music!Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:16 PM |
| 24 | I'm sick of pop music!I was just thinking about this today and was seriously considering just sticking to mainly instrumentals at this time like classical, dubstep, drum and bass, EDM and the like, was even going to post about it here this morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:15 PM |
| 59 | MEN ARE DISGUSTINGSometimes they choose that profession because they have a God complex, trying to prove something or was pressured into it by family or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 11 | Struggling to see value in myself because although I'm fairly attractive (or so I'm told) literally every guy I come across just wants to sleep with me and it's emotionally exhausting.Same here. I, too, would enjoy the love of a nice Woman (haven’t experienced yet but am really looking forward to it) or just anyone that could return the love and respect that I give them and I am attracted to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 06:19 PM |
| 41 | Struggling to see value in myself because although I'm fairly attractive (or so I'm told) literally every guy I come across just wants to sleep with me and it's emotionally exhausting.You are most definitely not alone at all I feel the exact same way. It’s one thing when you try your best to be a beautiful, loving, thoughtful partner in any way you can think of and you still get shit all over and disrespected by some scrote just for trying to lovethem and see the good in them but it’s extremely disheartening when it just keeps on happening, especially with one you seriously had hope for. It fucking sucks and I know for me personally, as a former-pick me-in-the-process-of-leve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:10 PM |
| 3 | They always come back...You think that’s something I saw him on my way to work today when I was riding my bicycle and he was even following me for a bit. I’m going to see about getting a restraining order and have my Mom curse him out, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:47 PM |
| 159 | For the love of God be careful about things we've been conditioned to feel good about.He could also be posting you to make someone else jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 01:45 PM |
| 13 | They always come back...Thanks but tbh I am not scared at all and I think he’s more scared of me than anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:26 AM |
| 14 | Share your Red Flags on men who view women as disposable objectsMy LVX performed cunninglingus on me while I was on my period and he’s the biggest piece of shit I ever had this misfortune to ever encounter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:16 PM |
| 37 | They always come back...Exactly what I thought! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:11 PM |
| 61 | They always come back...My LVX doesn’t have the balls nor decency to talk to me face to face. He just drives by my job looking for me and sits out in the parking lot whilst I try my best to ignore him. It’s very safe to say I would have been waaaay over him and his fuckery if he just stayed away when I blocked and deleted him almost a year ago! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:11 PM |
| 60 | How do men just stop talking to someone to end a relationship?For real, I match energy and they hate that shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 18 | Allure Magazine Posts The Most Toxic, poorly thought out, male pandering, Sex Advice. Women’s magazines are pick me garbage.I love how my most recent LVX would say how he would read this trash when he was trying to figure out how to make me cum (for his own ego). No, it had nothing to do with the fact that you would try and do it your own way instead of the way I like and have been doing for 28 years. Let’s also not forget about the “ex” girlfriend who may as well have been in the bed with us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 03:40 PM |
| 12 | How predators hide in plain sight.Hmph. Wonder why she had a stroke.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 01:42 PM |
| 54 | Dating Conservatives and Trump Supporters.I, too, was a victim of trying to make something work with a Trump supporter and not to mention racist as well. I’ll never forget how he looked at me when he asked if I was voting for Trump in the beginning of our whole mess and I said I didn’t know and he says to me “you better”. Ugh! I still see the Trump stickers on the back of his truck when he passes by to come stalk me at my job. 🤢🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:31 PM |
| 20 | I feel so incredibly lucky...I’m totally jealous, I am a 42 year old single mother of three and I can’t seem to find any ladies to do “lady” things with! How am I this old and part of a roller derby team and still have never had a girlfriend!?! Someone please help me and no, I do not do OLD for no body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Break-Up Survival Guide 🧘♀️Well, same here. I am constantly thinking of him but I read somewhere that it’s like our brain just trying to figure out the absurdity of it all or something. You can PM me if you ever want to talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:09 PM |
| 39 | Don't sleep with him right away, science confirms it.Lucky for me they can never make me orgasm..I’d have to do it myself and then let them get a couple more pumps in and cuddle with them after. Soooo, I’m In love with myself? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 01:36 AM |
| 10 | Human penises are shrinking because of pollution, warns scientist. Dr Swan believes that the rapidly decreasing fertility rate means that most men will be unable to produce viable sperm by 2045. These chemicals have long been known to cause infertility in women (PCOS), but men affected makes news.I was recently joking that something must be in the water due to the increasing amount of small peni, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Break-Up Survival Guide 🧘♀️Why don’t they just come out and tell us that they’re gay already I mean it’s 2021! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Break-Up Survival Guide 🧘♀️Same here in every single aspect as in us not having mutual friends, he doesn’t have social media and I workout and have hobbies as well. He basically forced me to curse him out, block and delete him on May 2020, too. He still comes to my job to sit out in the parking and watch me and I try to ignore him. Best I can tell you is to do research on trauma bonding. I like to read this site and this site among extensive google research and my self-help books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 02:47 PM |
| 29 | Recognizing a predator’s behavior: how older men will initially try to trick into age gaps relationships/hook ups.This can happen at any age at anytime. I was 41 when I met my 51 year old LVX that pretty much did all these things to me and continues to stalk me at work after I blocked him and he saw I wasn’t falling for his shit anymore. You have to be careful even when you’re older and vulnerable from having recently left a toxic relationship, being a single mother and low-income. I mean, call the animal clinic b/c there will be vets every which way from now on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 6 | Never settle for less than what you deserveI hope that rose quartz crystal necklace has something to do with it b/c I wear almost the same one every day, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:18 AM |
| 10 | I'm finally realizing how lost I was and I wish I had sooner.This is a very, very awesome thing you’re doing and be glad you figured this all out and went through with it at your age and not at 42 like me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:29 PM |
| 3 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itHe said to me that he likes dogs because he can abuse and mistreat them and they will never leave and never cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:26 PM |
| 124 | Friendly reminder sis 💕✨You have no worth to him because he had none for himself. Remember that and don’t ever take his shit personality, disrespect and mistreatment personal no matter how good you were to him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:43 PM |
| 4 | Reminder: they won't miss a beat in replacing you. His dying wife said go back to ex "he often talked about" Nah sisI agree with this and have been reading up on Louise Hay myself and I remember when I first started with my ex all the weird health problems I started experiencing out of nowhere except for the stress of just dealing with his audacity. I take as good care of myself as I can, plenty of exercise, no drinking or smoking or drugs and I try to eat as healthy as possible. But those stomach aches and headaches dealing with him and not to mention the irregular bleeding which turned into fibroids was no … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:41 PM |
| 8 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itMy ex had said something along these lines as well and even told me a story of how he bought flowers one time and she didn’t like them and there was this huge fight where he kicked the dog. 🙄 He threw money around left and right and bought me appliances and stuff but never flowers, God forbid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:26 PM |
| 8 | The FDS podcast is now LIVE!!! Weekly Discussion Thread: Episode 1HELL YEAH!!! 😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:55 PM |
| 45 | How do you avoid casual sex, especially when you are horny, single and wants to remain single?Same here, I can’t drink for these very same reasons and it takes me to the dark place. I, thankfully, no longer have the desire for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:34 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, don't forget to heal your own wounds before entering into relationships. Sometimes, Pickmesha behavior is a symptom of unhealed trauma. Take care. 💙All this for me too and this is the longest I have ever been single in my whole life and I am 42 with kids! I feel you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:39 AM |
| 16 | If I could do so with no health issues, I'd stay morbidly obese foreverI knew this is why I felt so hungry after having spent time/being with my ex. Of course I didn’t realize it as it was happening but after some distance, reflecting and research this is the conclusion I came up with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:29 PM |
| 14 | If I could do so with no health issues, I'd stay morbidly obese foreverWell, I can’t wait for menopause just so maybe my pickmeness will calm down b/c I’m trying and it’s very hard. Sometimes I absolutely hate how much I love men and think I need their approval and validation. Maybe when I hit menopause my hormones will calm down and I won’t care so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:25 PM |
| 5 | I finally stopped blaming myself when relationships don't work.It was kindness by doing you the favor of ridding himself from your field of space and energy. Let him be someone else’s problem now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:14 AM |
| 18 | Seeing how some men treat their aging wives sickens meYup! So much this and what about when he’s on the phone on the way to come pick you up and tells you not to have an attitude out of nowhere when clearly he’s the one with the attitude! He’s lucky I even shared my air with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:09 AM |
| 18 | Seeing how some men treat their aging wives sickens meI have worked retail almost all my life and have observed the same thing with couples. Isn’t it just wonderful how they flirt with you and try to get your number when their wives’/girlfriends’ backs are turned? Sometimes they have the audacity to blatantly flirt with you with their wife/girlfriend right there and trying to use you to triangulate. I also just love how they talk so much game with a wedding ring on their finger and when you point it out they take it off and act like they’re gonna c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:07 AM |
| 26 | This is why having an identity outside of your relationship status (and relationships) is so important.Are you in my room right now? Because I just read this very same article about an hour ago after research-googling. Weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Why didn't we ever learn about warrior women in school? Our history books were exclusively about men. I would have loved to play 'warrior women' with my friends instead of playing house :(Well, I was always the boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Why didn't we ever learn about warrior women in school? Our history books were exclusively about men. I would have loved to play 'warrior women' with my friends instead of playing house :(Same here, I never fantasized about weddings or none of that. I was climbing tres, tearing ass on a bike (still do) and all kinds of “tomboy” things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Feeling gross and disgustedOh, they know what they’re doing. This is all just a game to see how much of their shitty abuse you’ll tolerate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 4 | Feeling gross and disgustedOmg! All this! I went through something almost exactly the same,?I ignored the red flags and intuition as well. I feel ya except for the eating part, that I use to comfort myself and I wish I could go back to the days where I was too sad to eat but at least I exercise everyday. But yeah, this shit sucks and I hope and pray that we learn our lessons, not take it personal and never have to ever go through anything like this ever again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:39 PM |
| 10 | Designing WomenIt’s on amazon prime, too. Just added it, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:27 PM |
| 4 | How should we raise our sons?I very recently asked this question myself in r/askFDS about my teenaged son and how to better bond with him. I am concerned of him ending up a LVM and/or a miserable incel and he does not have any positive male role models in his life at this time. He has an Uncle but he’s not the best example as my alcoholic stepdad isn’t either but I’m doing the best I can. At least he’s seen the LVX’s in my life and how much they hurt me and I plead with him not to be like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:22 PM |
| 63 | Why so many women dont have orgasms or sexual satisfaction in relationshipsMen love sex so much (or it’s just so easy for them to enjoy it and have orgasms) that they have it with each other! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: Don't be available for things that make you feel like shit. Delete, unfollow, unfriend, mute, block, erase, disconnect, and walk away from anyone and anything that robs you of your peace, love, and happiness.Anytime, Queen! 🥰🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:22 PM |
| 174 | Why so many women dont have orgasms or sexual satisfaction in relationshipsHa! No wonder I can only orgasm by myself b/c I am the one doing these things for me, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 12:09 PM |
| 2 | If we don’t give space for the scrotes being what they are, they will be obligate to change!Ugh! Couldn’t have said it any better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:52 AM |
| 86 | Block and Delete Him, Sis. Otherwise he will suck you back in or try to gaslight you.Some of them don’t even care if you’re single, you could be engaged and they’d still try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 12:50 AM |
| 24 | Reminder: Don't be available for things that make you feel like shit. Delete, unfollow, unfriend, mute, block, erase, disconnect, and walk away from anyone and anything that robs you of your peace, love, and happiness.Another one of my toxic exes came into my work the other day (not the last one he just drives by to stare and watch me sometimes) telling me to unblock him. It had been long enough there were no feelings at all for him and I had him as a “friend” so I could hear about how bad his life was and feel some kind of justice. After FDS about a year ago I figured to just block him b/c all he did was complain about his girlfriend he “left” me for (i.e. did me a favor) and ask me for sex which I stopped d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 11:48 PM |
| 16 | Comment says cOmMunIcAte. Sure that’ll fix it!This is what I thought. I see now non-consent is a turn on from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:43 PM |
| 93 | Radfems In The Wild 💯Hidden camera show captures a HVW protecting a young girl from a creepy old scroteFor real, just watching it made me tear up! Ugh! I wasn’t gonna cry today!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:34 PM |
| 17 | Before You Want to be “An Elegant Lady”, Think Twice (Be yourself and keep raising your voice ladies!)How can one be elegant when their primary mode of transportation is a bicycle and works in a hardware store? Oh! And I play roller derby, too. Is there any hope for me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 11:39 PM |
| 10 | “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”And whatever “gold” he had he probably frauded off insurance companies or has to play nice with his “ex” so she’ll move money into his account! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:05 PM |
| 8 | “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”What house? The one you live in with your “ex” girlfriend until you burnt it down or the house where you sleep on your brother’s couch? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:03 PM |
| 19 | Just when I gave myself time to cry about my narc ex, my phone popped with this notification. A sign from the universe 💫 and a gentle reminder for all of us ladies.Thanks, really really needed this today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:41 PM |
| 6 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”My LVX told me I looked better after our first “break up”. Ugh! We’ve been separated for almost a year now so I must look like a damn goddess to him now not that I would ever know or should even care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:44 PM |
| 27 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I’m sure dealing with a scrote like him helped accelerate the “aging” process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:37 PM |
| 32 | I’m on woke tiktok again and the comments section are full of women who all admit their man left/cheated when they got cancer or any illness.So I guess me being the more high -libidoed one, him making me wait a little longer for sex (I was deep in pickmeishaness), telling me “if you think this relationship is just about sex, you’re wrong”, me almost always being the one to initiate sex, him being older, flaccid and out of shape was all just one big act then, huh? Old fucker really he’d me going for awhile there and now that I think about it, I think he would rather take sex from me, anyway and that’s why he withheld so much. He could… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:40 PM |
| 6 | A reminder to drop the LVM and focus on love and leveling up for yourself.Present! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 02:42 PM |
| 7 | Put your energy into the type of love that rewards youAwwww, the “team love” looks like when we go hands-in at roller derby and practice will be back on again, soon! ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:17 AM |
| 26 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.I am bisexual and am attracted to women, I have yet to find a girlfriend for the first time ever in my life. Also, my Father with whom I was very close was homosexual and I fully accepted him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 12:19 AM |
| 34 | Old letters from LVM? Photos? Clothes? Burn themI chucked that ugly ass Pandora bracelet I never even wanted and actively loathed into the damn canal! Chunky ugly ass thing got in the way of my push ups and every day life. Ugh! What I wanted (because he asked) was a gold name plate necklace and I just got it my damn self! I’m a low-income Mother of three and he’s supposedly “rich”, what was his excuse? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 12:19 PM |
| 4 | Tell it to me straight QueensWell add me to the list b/c this is the way I am and feel as well..all of it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:07 AM |
| 11 | LV guys don’t get girlfriends because they like them, they get them to serve a purpose. That purpose is usually purely out of a desire to manipulate, whether it be abuse, cheating, or turning somebody into their bangmaid. Don’t fall for it.So how do you know you’re the girlfriend or the one he really wants? What are some of the things he would do and say? How would you know genuine feelings and authenticity and how do you decipher it from manipulation, being used and mind games? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:15 AM |
| 7 | Write a list of all the reasons why your ex is awfulI wish we could share our lists (no matter how long) to see the similarities. I keep adding to my list when I remember very random instances as well but I also make a separate accountability list on what I did wrong. You know, things like loving the wrong person and having hope and putting up with the crap in the first place! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:52 PM |
| 53 | The bar is several meters below hellHe probably got it from somewhere else but I hope he didn’t. 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:03 PM |
| 11 | saw this in a book and thought it was fitting. not sure what flair but i thought it’d be a good little reminder not to fuck with the goblins ✨LMAOOOO! I just very recently started to my LVX as a “goblin”! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:58 PM |
| 6 | This musician used the power of neuroscience to help her fall out of love. Takeaway lesson: Stop indulging in thinking and feeling for the ex, and eventually the love will die out. Aim for a sense of calm indifference.Yes, please! Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:17 PM |
| 14 | The tea is piping hot. Video by @hellysangel on Tiktok.Omg!! Thanks, I didn’t even realize! A year already, wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 4 | The audacity. You have absolutely nothing to offer any woman. You are not genuine. Your partner would be better off without you and probably your daughter as well.Yeah, I was deep in pickmeisha mode when he told me that plus like he told me, he got me when I was vulnerable. Never again!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:39 PM |
| 26 | The audacity. You have absolutely nothing to offer any woman. You are not genuine. Your partner would be better off without you and probably your daughter as well.This happened to me with the most recent scrote. If you guys are broken up, why does she care so much? If her FB and insta posts are tailored to “make me mad”, please explain why. What are you saying to her, huh? Why doesn’t she want you to be happy? What did you do to her? HMMMMMM!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:53 PM |
| 116 | The tea is piping hot. Video by @hellysangel on Tiktok.Amen! The last two scrotes I had the misfortune giving my energy to had made me really think that they wanted boyfriends! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 02:49 PM |
| 114 | Let's talk about how the "We need to talk" is portrayed as a bad thing.“We need to talk” can also mean that I have wised up to the BS of future-faking, false promises, disrespect and mistreatment and I’m not putting up with any of it anymore! Why, when I said that part of my self-improvement journey was not being mistreated, did he ask me if I wanted to take a break and then the next time (yes, there was a next time 🙄) he tells me “tighten up”? What the fuck is that shit and how dare he use “City Girls” on me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:10 PM |
| 31 | Do women have bad taste in men, or are men just terrible people?I hear this! All of it and I just said to myself today that every man I’ve ever been involved with and grew up around has hurt me except for one but we grew apart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 01:26 AM |
| 15 | Potential Red Flag Questions“If you can change anything about your self what would it be?” I only answered that I wish I had more patience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:01 PM |
| 37 | Almost half a million likes - this ain’t cute 🤢Then the baby grows up to have attachment issues and perpetuates the cycle! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 20 | Just a thought on what you "attract"I was just ruminating in my journal how I didn’t take my last break-up so personally and put soooo much blame on myself when I tried so hard and I realized he was obviously very damaged and abusive after the rose-colored glasses came off. I mused that the last 5-6 fuckers I had to deal with on some type of romantic level turned out to pretty much all be the same and that I was the common denominator. I thought just how much of a complete overhaul I have to do on myself in pretty much all aspects… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 02:17 PM |
| 9 | Breakup movie suggestions (comedies preferred)Idiocracy, Mean Girls, This Is The End, Throw Momma From The Train and Bachelor Party just to name a few. ETA: these aren’t really “break-up” movies but they’re good for a nice laugh b/c the last thing I want to do is watch movies about break-ups when I’m going through one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:14 PM |
| 34 | New concept- womb disciplineI’m past the age of having any more kids but I do have to say that there was a huge chance I could have had kids with a big time LVM in the past but had miscarried. I thank the universe profusely and someone up there must be looking out because the man I did have kids with met that criteria. We’re not together anymore as we grew apart but he does the best he can with child support and keeping in touch, thank GOD because out of all the guys I have wasted my time and energy with, he was the best o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:16 PM |
| 12 | Your misery ain't funnyAwwww, I read this with my cat lying on me with his head snuggled up against my cheek! Cats really are the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:10 PM |
| 43 | Too true 😁Don’t forget the miles-long criminal record and possible jail time at 50+ years of age! What a winner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Don’t ever accept being treated as less than a Queen!I love baggage reclaim! It makes me feel better reading/listening to it as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:48 PM |
| 22 | Don’t ever accept being treated as less than a Queen!If they know how to hurt you they can use you like a puppet to do their bidding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:35 AM |
| 18 | Don’t ever accept being treated as less than a Queen!I need scientific proof of this as I cannot seem to stop blaming myself no matter how hard I tried to make it work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:29 AM |
| 12 | "Women can have a man who is either attractive or a good person, but not both. If you want to date a hot guy, expect him to treat you like shit. If you don't want to be abused, you have to put up with having sex with someone you're not attracted to"Negative, my LVX was short, mean, ugly and abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:27 AM |
| 6 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!I would like to know this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:05 AM |
| 4 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!I sure did, I posted it on here plus I got a special something coming from amazon! 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Do you want to get to know the nuances of his culture? Look at meme pages targeted to their ethnic groupHe’d been let go of a long time ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:23 PM |
| 11 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!For real. I am a low-income single mother of 3 that takes care of the household working full-time and taking care of two elderly parent. I still managed to get my mom, sis, nieces, my kids and I kids some nice, thoughtful treats and presents, decorated the house and made a cute poster board with envelopes to put love messages into. I mean come on! Thank God I got rid of my LVX back in May so he didn’t have the opportunity to fully neglect and disappoint me this year. The crying was very minimal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:32 PM |
| -1 | Do you want to get to know the nuances of his culture? Look at meme pages targeted to their ethnic groupHe was born in America and begrudgingly says his Father is Spaniard and then he proceeds to pull out an ID card to show my Son he’s a member of the KKK. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 02:16 PM |
| 20 | Do you want to get to know the nuances of his culture? Look at meme pages targeted to their ethnic groupYeah but he’s racist af and swears he all American and calls Latin people “Joseitos” and things like that. But I do appreciate you reminding me of the Spain/Europe thing. Feel kinda dumb now, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:28 AM |
| 26 | Do you want to get to know the nuances of his culture? Look at meme pages targeted to their ethnic groupWould this work for a white guy who denies his Spanish side and insists that he is full-blooded American? What hashtags would I use for that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:35 AM |
| 6 | HAPPY VALENTINES DAY QUEENS!! I got my first vday gift ever! I would give each of you a flower 💞Oh heellll no! Reese’s is my absolute favorite!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 11:07 PM |
| 10 | Probably posted before, but it's trueNot👏in👏any👏way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 01:39 AM |
| 25 | TW: DV. And these are just the things they are willing to post publicly.Soooo, if he kills his son’s mom and her whole family, wouldn’t that include his son as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 07:20 PM |
| 18 | Never again, thank FDSOmg, I needed this! Thank you!! 😂😂😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:32 PM |
| 12 | Ah yes, my mission in life.Soooo, what if I already do all these things naturally? Is my pickmeisha that ingrained? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:26 PM |
| 25 | Ah yes, my mission in life...or pit bulls... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:25 PM |
| 7 | They’ll Just Have Sex With Anything Won’t They?Full Story | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 07:46 PM |
| 23 | Women’s Health Mag publishes “8 Booty Calls Every Girl Can Relate To”. Notice how literally NONE of these “relatable” things are good experiences - Just disrespect and terrible sex. Can someone name 8 GOOD things women can relate to about booty calls or nah?When you finally walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:43 PM |
| 55 | If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't.This is what I remember to console myself after the last horrid LVM I was forced to cut off. Sure, our first VD was halfway decent because we just started but a year later it was an effing nightmare! He should have been kissing my ass after all the emotional turmoil and horrid future faking he put me through. I tell myself that at least this year it won’t be ruined and I’ll be doing what I love which is working and I got myself some nice jewelry and treats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:21 AM |
| 164 | If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't.Or that birthdays aren’t that big of a deal just because that’s how he grew up. That ain’t got shit to do with me, buddy boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 12:56 AM |
| 4 | What is LVM?I almost ran away (with my kids) and married him and it wasn’t even 4 months in! Needless to say I have a ton of self-reflecting and improvement I need to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:41 PM |
| 24 | What is LVM?Racist Always in conflict with someone over small things, including not talking to his own Daughter for months on end. Refers to his grown children as “bad investments”. Has had sex with prostitutes in the past. Criminal record a mile long including battery, aggravated assault and tampering with evidence for criminal investigations for fraud. Still doing this at 50 years of age. Is extremely involved with “ex” because it’s out of “necessity”, showing you he has absolutely no problem using people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:35 PM |
| 22 | RED FLAGS DONT LIE. Also: Research your suitors!My LVX (52m) never had Facebook citing that it was “a recipe for disaster”, what do you make of this? Or how about when his “ex” found out about me she made him one (no profile pic) where she’s his only friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 03:53 PM |
| 36 | Just say you’re a broke lvm and go.If I was the waitress and there’s a way that I could have done it, I would have comped her meal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:04 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?Doing what I love...working! Plus I got myself some jewelry and a big, fat dildo. I will try to have a good day by not engaging in negative self-talk or ruminate about my LVX and just count my lucky stars he’s not around to ruin it and disappoint me. I’ll be getting lots of compliments anyway. But the most important ones are the ones I’ll be giving myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Do LVM’s treat the next girl well?I am currently struggling with this as well and I’d like to think that I see the best in people, give them the benefit of the doubt and am very understanding, to a fault sometimes. It also had a lot to do with me being in a very vulnerable position emotionally, mentally and financially and I really was just hoping for the best to a very great degree. He threw around a bunch of money and said all the right things and I didn’t know better than to not blab all my life to him upon first meeting him.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 2 | This Resonated With Me DeeplySame here, currently in the process of accepting that being single isn’t a bad thing and working on myself for the first time ever in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:00 PM |
| 26 | This Resonated With Me DeeplyWhy, oh why didn’t I question when he told me “my relationships don’t last”? I should have left way before then, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:08 PM |
| 7 | If he wanted to, HE WOULDConsistently and genuinely!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:11 AM |
| 26 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"This is exactly what I thought as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:04 PM |
| 8 | Always RememberYeah, and what you thought was good really wasn’t because of the rose-colored glasses and if you were like me, just coming out of yet another shituationship and in a vulnerable/desperate spot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 05:39 PM |
| 6 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I am anxious myself and found a group on FB that helps me out in at least trying to figure out and navigate the dating swamp, I mean “pool”. I could give you the info through PM if you want since I don’t know if I am suggest it on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:58 AM |
| 35 | Another reminderThis is true in my case I had also held out hope that maybe I was wrong and just being overly-cautious due to my history with toxic assholes. No, I was right and I am very reluctant to give these fucksticks that much credit for my evolution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 05:34 PM |
| 37 | Why is mainstream dating advice like this?? 🤢🤢🤢To keep us brainwashed, distracted compliant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:28 AM |
| 9 | I recently saw my now 25 year old ex who lied to me, used me as a human fleshlight then dumped me (as in, asked me to leave immediately AFTER!) 4 years ago. He now needs to wear glasses and his hairline has receded 3 inches back. Isn't karma beautiful?Don’t even get me started on the weird witchy shit I go through, especially with my lovers, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:17 PM |
| 19 | I recently saw my now 25 year old ex who lied to me, used me as a human fleshlight then dumped me (as in, asked me to leave immediately AFTER!) 4 years ago. He now needs to wear glasses and his hairline has receded 3 inches back. Isn't karma beautiful?Don’t forget the mile-long criminal record! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:46 PM |
| 33 | "I didn't mean to" doesn't cut it the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time...Or when they know how much it hurts you and still do it anyway to punish and/or push you away. This is even more appalling when you didn’t even like them in the first damn place and made an exception for them and they’re not even your type! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:27 PM |
| 24 | "I didn't mean to" doesn't cut it the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time...When my LVX hoovered me last time about 2 weeks ago he said “I didn’t mean to do to you what I did, trust me” but then I think back to the 2-3 times he told me in the beginning that everything he does with me is for a reason. So there’s that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:24 PM |
| 23 | Slow FadeHuh! My LVX was 51 when he was pulling this juvenile bullshit! At least he warned me he’d never change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 42 | Slow FadeSame here but it was 4 months in when the daily visits stopped and a year when the communication started to severely dwindle down because I dared held him accountable and started to expect decency, respect and standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 38 | Slow FadeI wish I would have read this a year and a half ago but somehow I doubt I would have listened. I was in deep and in a very vulnerable place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Really Needed This Tonight, Maybe Some Of You Will, Too.Does this work? it’s all out of order, tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 02:37 AM |
| 25 | Really Needed This Tonight, Maybe Some Of You Will, Too.I’ll admit at first my dying pickmeisha part found this very soothing to read and I was quick to post. As another user commented that it’s like they are placing “blame” on us no matter how sugar coated it is I also realize they refuse to take any kind of accountability or responsibility for leveling up in any way. Oh well, no regrets in posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 02:34 AM |
| 29 | Do I look like a b*tch to you?Or when they “pss,pss” the fuck? I had a guy refer to me as “Ma’am” today and then he says almost right away that he shouldn’t call me that as I’m too young (I’m a 42 y.o. Mom of three). I told him right away kind of playfully but also serious “You better call me ‘Ma’am”. He messin with a whole different breed of woman here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 11:01 PM |
| 20 | You’re Top Shelf, Queen, and well-worth the effort.Really! I made an exception for him, he should be so lucky! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 05:17 PM |
| 3 | So-called "petty" deal breakersSame. My LVX didn’t go to the doctor for anything! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:15 PM |
| 20 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡To be fair, he went for a very, very long time and was adamant about giving me oral (probably b/c he’s old and can’t keep it up) but I truly believe it’s because it was to boost his ego and he never made me cum, anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:40 PM |
| 21 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡I did exactly this with my LVX as well to fight the crowds and make it our day. It’s extremely cringey what I thought was a beautiful and amazing VD our first one together (we just started talking so there’s that) in my pickme days. The next year, however when we were supposedly more established and over a year together was a massive let down (much like my birthday and Christmas) and a true heartbreak bullshit of all life! Very relieved to know that nobody will ruin my VD this year! I bristled w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:37 PM |
| 8 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡Well, damn, I wanna live where you live! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:27 PM |
| 41 | To all the LVMs who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day” 🤡🤡🤡Yeah, case in point, I had a waaay higher libido than my LVX did and it seemed to me like he would withhold sex just to punish me. Why, I have no idea. Hindsight and rose-tinted glasses off shows me that he would have much rather taken it from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:26 PM |
| 120 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftHow he always seemed to be in some sort of conflict with somebody all the time and for very petty things. The way he held ultimate grudges and didn’t talk to people for no good reason, even his own Daughter. His grandiose superiority complex that he used to prop up his false self. Basically the way he treated loved ones and those close to him/had a history with like they weren’t anything to him just b/c the wind blew differently that day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 117 | So-called "petty" deal breakersNot only that but his physical health can affect his mental health as well. Not only will he not be able to keep up with you sexually or if you wanted to do something active with him but he will always be “too sick”, “not feeling well” (physically and/or mentally), or his stomach or back or whatever body part is bothering him too much to come spend time with you. Don’t even get me started on the mental part and his excuse for treating you like a de-prioritized piece of garbage is because he’s “m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:02 PM |
| 3 | So men apparently need a PSA that it's not okay to rape their daughtersIs this in Alabama? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:09 AM |
| 53 | A Buddhist take on how to deal with abusive NVM: it’s better to be alone.“A racist full of anger and always in some kind of conflict, even with loved ones, is a fool”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:22 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on my new theory on why many men prefer dogs to cats?Lmao! For real! I wouldn’t put it past him that he’d have sexual relations with dogs. Omg, I just remembered him “joking” about something like that when he was younger..yech. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Going Through A REAL BAD Trauma Bonded Separation And This Article Helped TONS, I Hope It Helps Whomever Needs It As WellWe talked for the first time in 9 months when he came by to watch me at work again. We had our exchanges, civil enough. At first he was testing me to see if I would continue with his BS but he saw I wouldn’t play his games anymore. Then he tried to flip it like he was just trying to get closure. I think he understands that I cannot be in any kind of relationship with him anymore but if he stays away from me is a whole different thing. I’m still pretty janked up about it all and trying my damndes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Y’all be safeSame here with my candles and comfy blanket all to myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 01:22 AM |
| 7 | Thoughts on my new theory on why many men prefer dogs to cats?Well, I know my LVX told me the reason he liked dogs so much, besides being able to train them, was that he could “kick them and treat them like total shit and they’d never leave and never cheat”. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:55 AM |
| 1 | When they live in your head rent freeWhere can I find her, please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:50 PM |
| 7 | My LV SO didn’t care I was hospitalized last nightYou deserve better, Queen, NO EXCUSES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 01:38 PM |
| 5 | My LV SO didn’t care I was hospitalized last nightI’ve when they try and pull this “closure” crap. I had talked to my LVX after 9 months and he stated to was b/c of this reason that he wanted to communicate with me. I told him he needs to give himself closure and not to be involving other people in the circus going on in his head, lmao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Flex your support system while datingSame here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:54 AM |
| 46 | Neurodivergents & the Manic Pixie Dream Girl TrapWoooow, this just blew my entire brain away and describes my last 2 relationships almost perfectly! Brb, going to google “neurodivergent” now. Thanks again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 12:35 AM |
| 30 | How did women get the label of being a nag?Pretend you speak a whole other language if possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:02 PM |
| 33 | How did women get the label of being a nag?Ugh, tell me about it! My LVX would talk complete strangers’ ear off when we were out and about, he would just drone on and on and yes, he was an old man, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Being a HVM on the surface tends to hide sleazy, narcisstic behaviourLVM are so damn scummy that the children of the single mothers don’t even have to be female for them to want to prey upon as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 11:32 PM |
| 7 | Being a HVM on the surface tends to hide sleazy, narcisstic behaviourThe women don’t necessarily have to be younger for LVM to target. They can be well into their 40’s and coming out of a very bad relationship, a single mother, low-income, low self-esteem and a variety of other circumstances to be targeted by predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 07:49 PM |
| 73 | Why do men refuse to break up with you when they are not into you?Spoiler alert: dream girl doesn’t exist! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:28 PM |
| 33 | Don't hand out second chances because of apologies.I really needed this as LVX pulled that stalking me shit at work again today and this time I was like “what?” and he was saying he was sorry and that he’d make it up to me and that he just needed time. Time!?!? For what?! To see if his new victim doesn’t work out or something? I just ignored him after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 07:27 PM |
| 7 | Saw This On FB and Loved It, Thought You Queens Would Enjoy It.She could have just been saying it to cover ass.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 23 | Just realized something about why men hate usI would just looove when my LVX would tell me to not have an attitude out of absolutely nowhere and I was perfectly fine. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 02:50 PM |
| 2 | My ex was right in all of the wrong ways. When I begin to miss him, I remember that sure, we share nice memories and he isn’t an evil person but he didn’t treat me the way I deserved to be treated. No settling, ladies!Same here, 5 subject notebooks are my best friend! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 02:07 PM |
| 49 | Word.What are some examples of lowering your frequency? Would becoming agitated, annoyed and disappointed in someone and their mistreatment and disrespect count as lowering your frequency? ‘Cuz I was all happy and fine until he started his BS out of nowhere... I think I just answered my own question, lol. I would still like to hear other scenarios and examples, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 11:12 PM |
| 63 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freeOmg!!! LOVE IT! I had always thought with the last couple of toxic scrotes that it seemed to me, from what they said to me, that what they wanted was a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 15 | A man's body count does not matter, it's the mindset that he has with sex that matters.Eve if they did care about our pleasure it’s only to feed their ego! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:34 PM |
| 83 | Literally libfem logicIt’s free on amazon prime and I am watching it right now, not even a minute in and I’m feeling it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:01 PM |
| 25 | Literally libfem logicFor. REAL! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:43 PM |
| 28 | I think my dad is cheating? I’m a mess...I thought something along the lines of this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:17 PM |
| 4 | What do you think about this?Yeah, and he said it out of nowhere whilst barely knowing me. Needless to say that the blessings flowed after I removed him from my life, thank Odin! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:15 PM |
| 101 | LVM are crapping themselves todayI cried when I saw the way he looked at her after she was sworn in. ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:56 AM |
| 16 | What do you think about this?Even if they say everything you want to hear, throw money all around the place, take your sexual pleasure seriously (but still didn’t cum) and even say, on their own accord, that they will “slay all your demons”... They end up being just like all the other fuckeads but way worse because you had so much hope for them despite the red flags and gut feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 28 | Mirror his energy. If he's not satisfied with the energy you're giving him, he's not doing enough for you and you need to leave.I have started to do this more recently and boy do they hate getting a taste of their own poison! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:17 PM |
| 406 | Yes. We don't owe men anything.Scrotes are unreliable and riddled with disease. Plus they can never seem to keep up with me. I don’t like sharing and don’t think I should have to. They lie, cheat, manipulate your emotions and break your heart. I CAN HAVE A GUARANTEED ORGASM! Now I’m not much for dildos and never really have been but I did have one a very long time ago for awhile and was thinking back to the good times that I had with it. Guess what’s in my amazon shopping cart right now for Friday.. I am very excited! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 16 | A little reminder from @lainey.molnarAwwww, he used to call me sunshine...Lol, well at least I got a laugh out of it and thanks, Queens! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 109 | A little reminder from @lainey.molnarThanks, needed the reminder. Was crying about it again today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:09 PM |
| 5 | We all have those moments, but onwards and upwards ladies!LOVE IT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:46 PM |
| 7 | New FDS Spotify Page! Now with SIX Playlists! Please post any songs you would like to nominate for the playlist under "FDS Anthems" on the Subreddit or the Website! Thanks!City Girls - “How To Pimp A Ni**a” City Girls - “Sweet Tooth” Trina - “Still Da Baddest” Trina - “Single Again” Trina - “Fuck Boy” Megan Thee Stallion - “Girls In The Hood” Megan Thee Stallion - “Work That” L7 - “Shitlist” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:42 PM |
| 7 | Moonstruck (10/11) Movie CLIP - Have I Been a Good Wife? (1987) HD .. i know its movie. if your not careful this if the type of man you build life with. i hate this movie for this scene alone. its so sad.Well, I mean he is Italian... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 31 | Moonstruck (10/11) Movie CLIP - Have I Been a Good Wife? (1987) HD .. i know its movie. if your not careful this if the type of man you build life with. i hate this movie for this scene alone. its so sad.Ya know, I fucking adore this movie, always have but now I’m going to make a point to watch it again with fresh FDS eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 27 | Studies find that dangerous sexual behaviors are more likely to be performed by girls with a history of abuseHuh. Well maybe I’m repressing waaaayyy more than I actually remember. Things making a whole lot more sense to me now. 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 6 | Study: Do women really like anal sex or do they do it for other reasons?Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Study: Do women really like anal sex or do they do it for other reasons?Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 02:47 PM |
| 17 | Don’t let men shame you for having high physical or emotional standardsI hear that, I feel like I’m raising mine with age. I’ll be dammed if I’m 80 years old going through the same hot garbage over and over again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 02:04 PM |
| 8 | Where's the bar?Lmao!!! I just heard this on pandora yesterday and thought of FDS and how this would absolutely not fly at all and rolled my eyes at the scroacity! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 02:01 PM |
| 8 | Social Media and including your partner in your display picture: Pickmes usually have this habit... are your thoughts on this?Don’t forget trying to make someone jealous like an ex that “wronged” them or whatever. I know b/c I’ve done it. But never in a display picture, even former pickme cringed at that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 09:06 PM |
| 6 | "He's leaving her anyway, I don't mind. Should I give it a try and ignore that I'm an active participant in cheating?"“I’m TrYiNg To HUmBLe MySeEellFfff.” Ugh. Plus, I would love to hear your stories! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:32 PM |
| 18 | Men say that we are the hysterical, needy ones...My ex with an extensive criminal record about a mile long told me I was “too emotional”. At the same time he tells me that I have yet to see the extreme degree of rage and anger that he is capable of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:27 PM |
| 16 | Damn. Please leave him!!!If he ever did get one he probably wouldn’t be able to get it up and if he did get it up it wouldn’t last very long, imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:23 PM |
| 183 | For the ladies who are dating... remember the sooner you cut him off, the less it will hurt. At the first red flag, block and delete.Right, even if he’s not really doing anything “wrong” but you are always iffy and something feels off and you don’t know why you are feeling so upset with him and it’s still the honeymoon phase just cut it and run. No amount of money or sweet talk in the whole entire freaking universe is worth the emotional turmoil, disappointment and disrespect you more likely than not be subjected to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 10:31 PM |
| 6 | Straight, white, often fat, male woes 😆Ugh! Good riddance! Mine was like that as well and what does it say about me that I almost took off with this racist, short, ugly, misogynistic, trump-supporting, abusive mother fucker where I don’t even know anyone? See what being “bored” and “lonely” can potentially do to you? Or he likes to say he got me when I was “vulnerable”. The thing about the stomach is that it would come around the corner before he did and I didn’t mind but he did and never did a thing about it. It only bothered me bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 39 | Straight, white, often fat, male woes 😆Lmaooo! My ex (all his fat was on his stomach so he looked pregnant)! This just made my whole damn morning!! 😂🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:27 PM |
| 10 | I still feel humiliated as if I was a joke from LVM behaviorHooooly hell If you didn’t just describe the past year and a half of my life! It’s funny b/c after I cursed out, blocked and then deleted he wants to show up at my job every so often to sit in the parking lot and just watch me. Not come talk to me, not to apologize and certainly not to obtain any kind of closure (I know we have to do that for ourselves). I, too, find myself floating back to the beautiful beginning love-bomb days but if you look verrrry closely you’ll see the shit stirring just u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:55 PM |
| 28 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.Can’t wait to hear your hit song! 🤗🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:56 AM |
| 59 | ENOUGH SAID!It’s funny because my ex would tell me not to take any shit then proceed to give me massive amounts of it and I pondered upon this very briefly. Then I realized he didn’t want me taking shit from anyone else, just him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 08:17 PM |
| 26 | One of the best advices out there tbh 👌Oh, HELL yeah! And consistently and genuinely, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:43 PM |
| 15 | Reminder: A person is not HV just because they're physically, economically, or socially advantaged.Same here, constantly on my mind as I try my very best to break the trauma bonds. The other thing about this post that rally got me is the definition of HV in general as I’m always questioning if I’m good enough or not but at least I’m not some self-proclaimed mean, hateful, racist ass POS! Now I’m not saying I’m perfect, I got my faults and all but come on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:38 AM |
| 48 | Reminder: A person is not HV just because they're physically, economically, or socially advantaged.Bless you, sweet angel! You have no idea how bad I needed to hear this, I fight it every damn day. Every. Day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:43 AM |
| 19 | And he decided to post this because...?He had told me on more than one occasion how much he liked dogs because “you can kick them and treat them like shit and they’ll never leave and they’ll never cheat.” I’m sorry but don’t dogs sometimes run away? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:53 PM |
| 9 | And he decided to post this because...?I remember my ex scrote once blurted to me out of nowhere during a nice convo: “you don’t tell me what to do, I tell you what to do!” Okaaayyyy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:51 PM |
| 30 | We aren't therapists for men.Even though my ex scrote never really got deep into his mental issues and actual feelings I would take it as a compliment and an honor when he said I was his therapy. Even my kind-of-not-really pickme Mom said I shouldn’t want to have to take on such a burden. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:21 PM |
| 9 | BEWARE: Beard/ Hat FishingThat’s just it, he doesn’t drink or smoke or do drugs he’s just addicted to fucking with people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 19 | And he decided to post this because...?Ugh! I know and that it looks like he’s in a truck and at Walmart brought back a flood of flashbacks! At least he gave me money, though. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:38 PM |
| 30 | And he decided to post this because...?He’ll probably feel emasculated and like whatever he does isn’t ever going to be good enough for her according to him. If he’s anything like my ex and the bare minimum is asked of him feel like he’s being pressured and he will do the complete opposite just out of spite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:36 PM |
| 17 | And he decided to post this because...?I thought the same thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:21 PM |
| 60 | And he decided to post this because...?Thank you! This reminded me of something to add to the now 53rd item on the list of scrotation behavior and treatment. I remember him telling me a story way in the beginning about bringing home the wrong flowers to somebody and it resulted in this huge, apocalyptic fight and he kicked the dog. He never, ever, everrrr got me any flowers despite all the money he threw around and I specifically told him which kind I liked. He could have even had someone order some and delivered to my work but no, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:50 PM |
| 26 | BEWARE: Beard/ Hat FishingWhat about constantly wearing sunglasses and even indoors and driving at night claiming for them to be “prescription” but if he’s so “rich” why doesn’t he just get regular glasses? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:35 PM |
| 15 | BEWARE: Beard/ Hat FishingYou’re right about that and my ex had all three (dog was a different breed don’t even get me started on the dog)! But I like cowboy hats so I just got myself like two of them and I look much better in anyway lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 04:45 PM |
| 10 | BEWARE: Beard/ Hat FishingYeah I mean if you got to be in the sun and wear a hat at least make it a cowboy hat that shit is sexy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:22 PM |
| 12 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!Came here to say this, my ex had taken it upon himself to tell me he would save me without any real reason to do so, he barely knew me at the time. Yeah, I got some help here and there but he did quite the opposite of “saving” me unless you count him pushing me to break up with him as saving me. “I got you when you were vulnerable” “I want to fix you.” “I want to mold you.” Were some of the things he’d say to me and when he saw that I was doing/trying to be better in every way I could is when th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:47 AM |
| 5 | If I’m happy and I know it, start dating? No thanks!May 2020 here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:40 AM |
| 20 | Listen to FDS's advice: you'll save time & energyActions do’speak loud but consistency and authenticity of those actions speak even louder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Is it fair of working class poor women (like myself) to be with a HVM? I think I deserve one, but society beginning to act like only high earning women deserve high value men and its not fair.I thought this as well but I still agree with the question except for the not wanting to work and be saved part. My ex took it upon himself to state that he would save me, guess what? He never did and he threw around a bunch of money, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Is it fair of working class poor women (like myself) to be with a HVM? I think I deserve one, but society beginning to act like only high earning women deserve high value men and its not fair.I said the same thing! I had asked pretty much the same question here and was happy with the answer I got from the user that had answered. My thing is, though is like I needto work, I thrive off of it. It but I don’t make stacks yet at the same time all needs are taken care of. I know I’ve had shitty ass boyfriends but something was looking out for me to give me the babies’ father I have to be helping me out so we aren’t lacking. But yeah, I feel you big time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 05:12 PM |
| 16 | If you have to publicly brand him, he’s not the one sisFor. REAL! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:08 AM |
| 103 | If you have to publicly brand him, he’s not the one sisI literally just saw this in FB and cringed right before I switched over to here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 03:58 AM |
| 35 | So I saw the other lady with her groot mug. I raise y'all this for the worst gift I gotI’d post mine but I threw it in the canal months ago! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 09:32 PM |
| 7 | Megan Thee Stallion, Don’t Know How You Guys Feel About Her But This Song Absolutely SLAPS!Obviously, those parts were 👎 but I liked the other parts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:08 PM |
| 33 | Megan Thee Stallion, Don’t Know How You Guys Feel About Her But This Song Absolutely SLAPS!“Ever since I was 16 I been havin a job.” (Girl, SAME!) Or she wouldn’t call someone “Daddy” (used to call ex that). The more I listened to it the more gems I found that touched me deep to my core and my core has not been touched in a looooong time, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:40 PM |
| 28 | Can't shake your ex off? Make an ex-boyfriend list!It’s surprising as you start to compile the list the things that you start remembering that you didn’t journal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:49 PM |
| 32 | I wanna laugh, but it's just too sad...I think she’s super cool and loved her movie The Female Brain but it was pre-FDS days so the ending I don’t quite remember well but the rest of it is awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 7 | From 'Women Who Love Too Much'All day, every day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:45 PM |
| 6 | The Qanon ‘shaman’ with horns and bearskin recently arrested for storming the Capitol is a stay at home dad who is addicted to drugs and judging by the telltale bald head, a porn addict as well. The jokes write themselves ladiesI re-he-he-eally wish I hadn’t let this one slide with the last one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:50 PM |
| 12 | First Valentine’s Day as a single woman. What can I do to have a fun ass time?I want to know this as well but for a low-income single mom of three that pays all the bills in the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:44 PM |
| 9 | Rereading my old journal and seeing how male identified I was 😅That is an absolutely WONDERFUL idea! I just read over mine page by page and cried and after awhile I just burned them and when I ran out of lighter fluid I threw them away. You are a creative Queen and congrats on leveling up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 67 | Smh!!!!! Stuff like this is why I will probably never date until my kids grow up.It’s probably LV scrotes answering this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 5 | The gospel truthHe co-owns landscaping company and a little fraud on the side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:45 AM |
| 3 | The gospel truthWell, I have the dates and times written down and the place has cameras. I was thinking about taking pictures but didn’t want him knowing I knew he was there. What are the chances that he does this with other women, you think? As far as the kidnapping thing..well aren’t I just a lucky duck that my main form of transportation is a bicycle! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 12:59 AM |
| 10 | The gospel truthRight after I typed that he showed up and parked in the parking lot at my job. This time he sat there for 20 minutes instead of the usual 8-10 and in a different truck! What is he thinking? That I wave him down all happy or unblock him to contact him? He should have thought of that when he was disrespecting me, probably thought because he threw a bunch of money around and said the right words that I’d never leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:35 PM |
| 11 | Her boyfriend complained that she’s only spending $200 for his birthday after she already spent $300 on him for Christmas.As well she should it didn’t seem Like he was spending any onher! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:50 PM |
| 21 | The gospel truthPlease explain why, if after he says this and then he pushes me to block and delete he still drives by my job just to stare at me? Even after I threaten with a restraining order? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 6 | Let's talk about angerReading this made me angry! Hugs to you, darling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:46 PM |
| 8 | It's a wonder I still date..This. This exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:56 AM |
| 17 | 5 months ago I left a LVM. When I catch myself romanticizing the relationship, I read my list:I labeled mine as “dodged a missle” and man is it looooong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:13 AM |
| 41 | It's a wonder I still date..Basically it’s anxiety and it serves as a warning to stay away from this person. I’ll try to link sources later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 49 | It's a wonder I still date..From my research I read that having butterflies is not a good thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 03:39 AM |
| 11 | Super helpful! Stay safe queens! 👏🏽✨🌸Well they just came in the mail today I haven’t started reading them but I got: Coercive Control Breaking after From Psychological Abuse and Secret Manipulation Techniques | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:07 AM |
| 7 | Who has ever experienced the DENNIS method?🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:56 AM |
| 37 | Super helpful! Stay safe queens! 👏🏽✨🌸I had seen this earlier and commented on the impeccable timing of the post as I had 2 books on the subject come in the mail to-day. That’s not to say I haven’t been reading up already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:00 PM |
| 1 | My ex was arrested marching on Washington today. Looks like the trash took itself out 🤦♀️I did better than that..found his phone number in one of my old journals (had already blocked and deleted) texted him I’d get a restraining order and blocked him again. What does he do 2 days after that? Sits outside my work for 10 minutes staring at me but too scared to say anything to the woman he was gonna marry that I had no interest in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 52 | Circle the LieOh, this is gold!! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 67 | Women gaslit SO hard on this issue that they no longer know what is up or down. Amidst all that shit she has to stop and profusely apologize that she had no right to look at his phone, no justifiable reason, when I’m reality she had every reason to stick the phone up his shit stained bum kink styleHe’s in his 30’s cheating with an 18 year old that calls him “Daddy” and was told by him that he was single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 01:21 PM |
| 8 | WTF does this kinda text mean? Seeing this guy about a month. He’s all in to me, then this?Boy, bye! blocked and deleted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 12:08 PM |
| 27 | Women gaslit SO hard on this issue that they no longer know what is up or down. Amidst all that shit she has to stop and profusely apologize that she had no right to look at his phone, no justifiable reason, when I’m reality she had every reason to stick the phone up his shit stained bum kink styleGirl, same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 12:07 PM |
| 10 | Thought You Queens Would Enjoy ThisAaaamen!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 02:26 AM |
| 40 | My ex was arrested marching on Washington today. Looks like the trash took itself out 🤦♀️I fucking love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 02:19 AM |
| 171 | My ex was arrested marching on Washington today. Looks like the trash took itself out 🤦♀️My ex scrote told me when we first started talking (Feb. 2019) that I better vote for Trump in a very demanding manner. He also told me around that same time “I’ve met Trump, he’s a solid guy” 🙄. In late September this past year, the first time I saw him drive my job after I cursed him out and blocked him he had two very giant Trump flags flying on either side of his truck. He even had a full-on banner on the back of the truck as if he was personally hand picked to be part of the clown parade. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 02:17 AM |
| 23 | The sole reason why any woman stays with a man who doesn’t respect/value her, KNOW YOUR WORTH!GOD, I love this show! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:38 PM |
| 32 | I deserve more.I agree with all of this and then some! What’s even worse is them texting/talking to another woman right in front of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:37 PM |
| 48 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentI was just going to say this exact same thing as reading this pulled up a memory of exscrote calling me insecure out of nowhere. Yes, I have insecurities everyone has some but I’m not as much of an insecure person as he is. He’s gotta throw money around and say what you want to hear just to keep you around..no interesting hobbies or personality, just bland..even his name is bland! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 37 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentLeers at other women in front of you and uses your bisexuality to objectify them, super-super close relationship with ex, intentionally does things that feel like abandonment/rejection just to piss you off, says “I have female friends” when you didn’t even ask like it’s a threat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 8 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe LeftSocks with any open toed footwear or just any open toed footwear in general unless fishing or near water, imo. Tight pants. Tan line on ring finger/ring on finger. “Married but lookin for fun” (or a third). I’m mostly talking about irl since I refuse to do OLD anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:20 PM |
| 25 | Dump that trash!How about if you have to commute to and from work through busy streets and past warehouses at night when you leave work? Maybe in the beginning he cared enough to ask but not after I started to “misbehave” by not putting up with the absolute bullshit disrespect he started to present to me out of almost nowhere! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:18 PM |
| 49 | Dump that trash!Or doesn’t come to the door when he picks you up and fuck all if he can’t be bothered to pull in the driveway and just sits out in the street! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:16 PM |
| 15 | I don’t understand the obsession with wanting to live with menI told my ex scrote when we first started talking “if you really like someone you should never love with them” kinda joking, kinda not and he responds with “I’m not gonna live with my wife!?” Excuse me, Sir, I barely know you, why would I want to marry you? Plus I knew from the beginning something was off but I was holding out for hope and he presented himself to be a rescuer. I thank Odin things that I thought I needed rescuing from at that time (not him) are getting better now thinks to me and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 08:08 PM |
| 3 | I was pleasantly surprised at the amount of likes and comments in agreement that this got. Hopefully more people, especially of the younger generations, are realizing this!Thank you so much for all of this, it really resonated with me and helped open up my mind to alternatives. I don’t like toys much myself, especially motorized ones and I love what you said about forcing an orgasm, I never thought of it that way although that is what I was doing. I commented on here about my pornsickness as I had posted about it in r/askfds but never got an answer and I genuinely need help. I don’t think that I need to tell you that no matter how hard I or any partner I was with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 07:59 PM |
| 11 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?For real! He told me I was wife material when he barely even knew me, talking about wanting to marry me and all that. If I didn’t want to marry the Father of my children whom I was with for 16 years and he worshipped me and had asked me several times..why would my ex think I would want to marry someone I barely knew, wasn’t my type and I made an exception for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:46 AM |
| 6 | What's the most misleading thing a man has said to you before he told you he wasn't interested?😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:41 AM |
| 113 | I was pleasantly surprised at the amount of likes and comments in agreement that this got. Hopefully more people, especially of the younger generations, are realizing this!As a former pickmeisha a seriously need help in achieving a self-induced orgasm without the use of porn or any demented fantasies of me being taken advantage of at a young age as of this writing. I don’t know what to do besides going to therapy. :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 5 | Beware of men that ask too many questionsMine said he had wished he had met me 5 years prior when I was really a huge, hot ass mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:38 PM |
| 5 | Beware of men that ask too many questionsI love how after about 4-5 months into the relationshit I decided to make up that I had friends and a social life so he didn’t think I was some loser that only lived for him and then he subsequently starts to pull away and really showed just how much of an un-loving POS he could be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:36 PM |
| 9 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.Also to add that the put downs could be so subtle that you don’t even recognize it until it’s too late and you’re attached to him like the most needy barnacle on the most toxic of all ships. Always be guarded and aware and go with gut feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 9 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.He can do this while telling you that you deserve better than him because he is “trash” and “a monster” out of some underlying subconscious guilt or to throw you off or who knows, maybe a bit of both since he claims he’s “mentally unraveling”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:53 PM |
| 5 | Why men investing mattersHe didn’t forget mine it was a week after his and he intentionally shit all over it ( I gave him a whole week in my mind) and he yelled at me called me a narcissist the day we were supposed to have a good day together. He should have given me waaaayyyy more than 150 dollars that day AND I never got my butthole licked! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:39 PM |
| 2 | If you ever think about going back, draw him and write what you hate about him.I like to envision him in full on clown gear like I saw in that movie with Kristy Swanson and Charlie Sheen, sadly she becomes a victim of Stockholm syndrome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 12 | FDS Movie Throwback: Legally BlondeHoly hell! You read my mind! I was just thinking of watching this movie yesterday for the reasons stated above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:40 PM |
| 11 | Couldn’t Have Said It Better Myself!Same here, exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 275 | BoundariesShe’s going with the flow, of course! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 10:19 PM |
| 18 | 🎊 This is my New Year's Resolution. What's yours??? 🎊I am trying this out too only I say to myself “I have a big dick!” Lol ETA: Hoping that by citing this I can law of attract someone packing some meat into my life for a change. I think there’s something in the water around these parts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 10:15 PM |
| 22 | When men call you overly emotionalI like to say that they’re just jealous because I have an evolved limbic system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:06 PM |
| 19 | No more falling in love blindly, follow your intuition blindly. To an awesome and healthy 2021 🥂Or if it’s really intuition or not paranoid insecurities from past fuckery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 01:53 PM |
| 9 | Now is not the time to be dating. Men are way more desperate and dependent than ever. Use this time to better yourself rather than attaching yourself to someone through desperation.They’re probably a bunch of pickmeisha’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 03:08 AM |
| 171 | LET GO OF MALE VALIDATION IN 2021🎉Being a girlfriend or wife, WILL NOT keep you safe. It mostly definitely does not the many, many times I have been seriously hit on and asked for my number by taken men is astounding and leaves me virtually no hope for a nice, healthy and reciprocal relationship with one of the male gender. I just love when I point out their wedding ring and they pretend to take it off and chuck it across the room. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:43 AM |
| 11 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!Same here, sis! Same here only I never really had any evidence of any cheating, just gut feelings I was hoping was just paranoid insecurities and trauma from past relationshits. Either way I wasn’t liking the way I was feeling and being treated after he let the mask slip. Good riddance and Gods be with whomever has the unfortunate luck of having to endure his abuse and neglect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 35 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!They suuure love masquerading, don’t they? But I do hold myself accountable for daring to have hope and being blind to it because I never had anything like him before and like he told me “I got you when you were vulnerable”. Ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:11 AM |
| 12 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!I #kickhimout2020 but he basically forced me to and although I am super pissed about it I am also very grateful and relieved. A lot of people tell me that I look so much better now because they don’t see the worry and pain of being in a “relationship” with my ex NVM on my face anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 12:10 AM |
| 13 | “No Scrote” 2021!I was forced to leave my NVM ex just a month before you and I feel all the things you posted here! You are most definitely not alone in this! I thank the Gods for this sub as well and the support of family and friends throughout this absolute fuckery that I refuse to ever ever ever ever put up with again! I have eliminated the words “lonely” and “bored” from my vocabulary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:51 PM |
| 4 | Men know very quickly whether or not you’re the oneAgain, vet ruthlessly with time and consistency because my ex had told me he wanted to marry me pretty early on. I’m not even looking to get married as I’ve been through that so I can’t think why he would tell me this so soon but just be careful because it had me hooked, anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 34 | It's time to wake the fuck upSome sugar Daddy..can he feed her better than ramen noodles? But seriously, you can be a fully grown woman and still be traumatized by a sugar Daddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:27 PM |
| 15 | Ryan Phillippe's Scrote momentHis voice annoys the shit outta me, always has! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:11 PM |
| 5 | Reasons why your exes shouldn't feel like losses to you: (for pickmeisha survivors going on thriving)This is like my LVM ex except it’s the other way around with his Mother, he straight up disowned her and vice verse from what I was told. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:10 PM |
| 19 | Stop asking "Why" and start asking "Now what!"Thank you so much for this! I especially loved when they linked to wasting time trying to understand people that are out of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:12 AM |
| 10 | Song I wanted to share, "Our musical ode to the Clitoris"This just made my whole damn day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:41 PM |
| 26 | Match energyI am soooo doing this next time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 66 | Match energyThis is why they get so mad when they start to slack and they can’t keep up the circus act anymore then you start to match that energy. They sure don’t like the taste of their own medicine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:24 PM |
| 20 | Self-loveThis is why it’s very important to vet to hell and back ruthlessly because even a LVM will be everything that you want and say all the right things and treat you the way you deserve in the beginning/ the first couple of months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:19 PM |
| 44 | Some advice I didn't appreciate until nowReally, I’m not crying b/c I’m sad, I’m crying b/c I’m angry and frustrated and I internalize it rather than externalize it like a majority of these scrotes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:39 PM |
| 35 | What to say when men tell you you’re so pretty 😍😍😍“I know” flips hair and turns back.. I actually do this, btw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:36 PM |
| 83 | NoBoDy ReALLy uNdErStAnDs Me“My relationships don’t last” he says..I wish I would have asked him to elaborate. Better yet I should have just dipped on him ..way before that, even when he said he still lived with his ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:58 AM |
| 37 | Leave the FIRST time someone shows you low effortSame here! Every word, never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 04:52 PM |
| 4 | As if we didn’t all see it coming but OOOF are these pandemic relationships are gonna end badly 🤡😬Don’t forget the dog! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 04:05 PM |
| 10 | I did a bit of googling on attractive men vs unattractive men as romantic partners and lol at the search resultsYeah, I made an exception for my NVEX, isn’t even my type and he put my ass through the ringer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 04:01 PM |
| 22 | I did a bit of googling on attractive men vs unattractive men as romantic partners and lol at the search resultsI just watched the Beauty and The Beast Christmas special..you thought the original movie was a trip into psychological hell, you should see the Freudian nightmare that one is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 03:36 PM |
| 19 | I did a bit of googling on attractive men vs unattractive men as romantic partners and lol at the search resultsI used to be like this until very recently because I thought ugly guys were safer, would treat me better and not “abandon” me..lets all laugh together, shall we? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 03:34 PM |
| 10 | Hey I just want to say I've stopped letting people intimidate me over having high standards. Sometimes their comments that I expect too much would make me question myself... but now I realized I either stay genuine to my needs, or get in a relationship that will not last.Non-driver here, hear that loud and clear! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:37 PM |
| 10 | Don’t give away your love too easily.Wow! I could have written this, I am right there with you! The part you say “more often than not, they’re not going to be that permanent person in your life” is true even when they are the ones bringing up marriage on their own knowing full well you don’t subscribe to that ideology. I mean, I was with the Father of my children for 16 years who worshipped me and asked me to marry him multiple times and I never did, why would I marry a near-stranger? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:56 PM |
| 21 | He just asked for nudes from another girl... but it's okay, he's VeRy LoYaL and he's a ReScUeR! Scrotes starting young these daysSounds like intuition and gut instincts at play here, wish I would have listened to mine better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Going Through A REAL BAD Trauma Bonded Separation And This Article Helped TONS, I Hope It Helps Whomever Needs It As WellThanks, yeah, he drove by my work just to stare at me again but doesn’t have the balls to get out and talk to me. I’m struggling real bad with it, I am seriously considering filing a restraining order against him so I can entertain the fantasy of him being dead. I can’t tell if him pulling this shit is because he really misses me and is just too scared/ashamed to get out and talk to me or if he really is just fucking with me even more! It’s a mind fuck that I don’t have the time or energy for. E… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Going Through A REAL BAD Trauma Bonded Separation And This Article Helped TONS, I Hope It Helps Whomever Needs It As WellNp! I was so happy when I found it myself today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:13 AM |
| 30 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.They absolutely love the drama when it’s convenient and beneficial for them and it’s on their terms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:21 PM |
| 10 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.I’m sorry but if you’re so “alpha” then I don’t think you need to be so scared of your”ex” girlfriend to be kissing her ass just so she keeps giving you money and doesn’t rat you out to the police. I don’t care if it is your last name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 7 | Holiday checklist if you're datingWell, I’m already starting to plan a very nice Valentine’s Day for a very special person..myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:03 PM |
| 12 | Holiday checklist if you're datingI really wish I would have read this last year but I did know better, just benefitted-of-the-doubt to the moon and back, holding out hope. Ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:03 PM |
| 2 | What are your dealbreakers?Living with an ex for any reason at all especially when she posts them on social media to “make you angry” or what-the-fuck-ever! I’m sure there are many others but I can’t think of any right now as just typing that gave me a damn aneurysm! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 79 | Y’all... 😂 💁🏻♀️ Merry Christmas Eve!Ugly with mental problems, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:45 AM |
| 9 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.I love this! Your comment really resonated with me so much that I re-read it several times. I wonder if this is scientifically factual and the psychology behind it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 12:23 AM |
| 21 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationMy personal favorite: “Be a warrior, not a worrier”. I like to label my water bottles at work with “Queen” or “Goddess” and use it as manifestation water. It’s also how I labeled my Yule presents I bought myself this year, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:58 PM |
| 40 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationWe all dated the same multiple guys, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:49 AM |
| 32 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationAlso because I guess there’s something in the water around here that I’ve mostly encountered little dicks that it hits the spot better in that position. Ugh! Why do these short, small-packing guys come at me thinking they can handle me? Are they blind? Do they not see an Amazonian Warrior Goddess before them? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:48 AM |
| 68 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationIn an effort to get my LVM ex to spend more time with me like he had used to do in the beginning magical times I had said to him that I need to be with him sexually more than he was giving me so my body could get used to him. Sometimes I think if I’d have just faked that none of this shit would have crumbled apart so badly the way it did but I ain’t about that life, I fake for nobody! Never have. Never will! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:42 AM |
| 55 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationAt least you got to cut, last time I came with anyone else besides myself was over 20 years ago and I had to be on top of him fantasizing about engaging in lesbian sex acts...do you know how many guys I’ve been with? One of them for 16 years, for Odin’s sake! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:38 AM |
| 18 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationThis! Aaallll this RIGHT HERE! Fuck my life too, sis..fuck my life, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:36 AM |
| 9 | The overwhelming majority of men in a woman's life are a risk factor.Sometimes they use us a beard and we realize it before they even do sometimes. You know what they say about homophobes.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 14 | It’s true 💕That’s why these fucktard LVM’s always try to triangulate. That and for an ego boost. How sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 07:23 PM |
| 38 | Hot take: men with terrible handwriting are always shitTerrible drivers, too. The many times I have saved my ex from his own driving and he was going slow af! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:42 PM |
| 29 | What women want...Or they want to try and do their own weird way even though you’re used to the way you’ve done it for 27 freaking years and they refuse to learn how to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Love bombing is a red flag 🚩In my experience it’s learned behavior from their family/primary caregivers and toxic environment growing up and either not having the knowledge or caring enough to change it or fix it or themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:41 PM |
| 6 | Single dads are not more attractivePreach it! I am a single mom to 3 kids and a single Dad to me is just a repellent, imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:04 PM |
| 95 | Men don't have any sort of taste or preference.It’s because they think they’re easier to control and manipulate and don’t know any better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:42 PM |
| 11 | Men don't have any sort of taste or preference.How he can start saying in the beginning when the mask is firmly in place that he’s very particular about partners to saying “I’ll take whatever comes my way” to a complete stranger (a woman of course even if she was African-American and he’s racist) after he’s got you hooked and severely emotionally invested is just..no words.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:41 PM |
| 68 | Don’t worry about a man who doesn’t appreciate your value.Absolutely wonderful!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:59 AM |
| 91 | it's easy to think the bare minimum is something special when you're so used to people just taking everything from youWe need a detailed and numbered list for those of us who don’t know what bare minimum is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:05 PM |
| 58 | Don’t give men your time when they have nothing to offerThe three months!! Lmao..always! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:48 PM |
| 161 | 😂😂I was very openly sexual with my short, ugly, mean, abusive and racist ex and he didn’t like it. He told me I should tell him “no” more. I think he was mad that he couldn’t make me cum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 01:39 PM |
| 28 | I finally left!I have a sex addiction and never been single before as well so I feel ya on that! I have had boyfriends since I was 10 and substance abuse issues since I was 14. Sooo, yeeeaahhh, first time being single and sober for many, many years, you are not alone. But good job on getting rid of him, you deserve better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:39 PM |
| 50 | It feels impossible to find a genuine sisterhood in a world filled with pickmeishas“Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 02:03 PM |
| 11 | If you keep explaining and nothing changes, it's not going to get better. He's dedicated to not putting effort in.Huh. He did refer to himself as a monster and garbage and told me that I deserved better than him...then why even fuck with me in the first place? Oh well at least I was compensated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:18 PM |
| 16 | If you keep explaining and nothing changes, it's not going to get better. He's dedicated to not putting effort in.Can someone explain to me the feeling you get after you have been with him all day and there was hugging, kissing (sometimes intimacy you had to almost always initiate) and talking also interspersed with periods of waiting for him in the truck while he checked job sites and you still feel like you haven’t seen or been with him like at all? What is that? Or when you’re riding with him and cuddled up but still feel a longing and think to yourself “where is he?” and you don’t know who he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 02:38 PM |
| 24 | Using the Principles of War in DatingI concur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 02:25 PM |
| 7 | The Power of ‘block and delete’If I had to guess, I’d say “porn sick little dick”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 49 | I haven't had sex in over half a year and thinking about it, I feel great.I couldn’t agree more with all of this word for freaking word! Still learning how to be single since I’m not used to it but damn if I don’t feel the same and I don’t have to worry about being disappointed and holidays/special occasions and events being ruined by my having even the slightest of expectations of human decency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:23 PM |
| 29 | 'Us men, we are hunters. The harder the challenge, the grater the reward'. 'Thats why we see her as a prize'. Someone really stamped on this scrotes 👌tiny peepee by simply being desirable and sought after🤣Maybe she sent them to herself to fuck with the guy’s head or just because... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:18 PM |
| 4 | Mood for lifeThe original cat woman from Batman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:55 AM |
| 103 | "johns" = Lowest life formPlease explain to me what in GOD’S GREEN EARTH I was thinking when my most recent EXLVM straight up told me (when we first started talking) that he used to use call girls. Why would he tell me that and why did I continue to entertain him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:30 PM |
| 7 | Men "In the middle of a divorce"Also please explain to me how they are broken up and he has no romantic feelings (only involved with her “not out of love, lust or romance but necessity”) for her but bought her a dog (that me and my kids bonded with) so it can protect her when he leaves since she’s so helpless, weak and incapable of survival on her own! 🤬🤬🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:27 PM |
| 11 | Men "In the middle of a divorce"I wish I would have noped TF outta there the second that goblin told me he lived with his ex of four years. But he had to be involved with her (and her Mother for Odin’s sake!) for litigational and financial reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:37 PM |
| 163 | Men "In the middle of a divorce"...or living with an “ex” for whatever reason! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 09:32 PM |
| 12 | You are worthy of love and so much more!💕Onfgggg, everything the last one did except I was the one pushing for intimacy. It’s like my gut knew and I always had a feeling something was off about him but I just didn’t listen because like he said I was vulnerable at the time. This is very heartbreaking even more so but at the same time it’s a little more freeing as well. He even said to me about “good girls” getting rewarded.. why didn’t I care before? Why was I so hopeful? Why did I delude myself into the fantasy of his potential?? I fee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 04:36 PM |
| 24 | It was her birthday and he forgot, so she broke up with him. Yes Queen!!Came here to say this. All I could think of is how many other times he disappointed her and pissed her off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:19 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else at a point where you just can't trust what they sayShiiiit, I’m saying this more often since finding FDS just watching kids movies/shows. FYI there’s a lot of it there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:13 PM |
| 6 | You are worthy of love and so much more!💕Thank you for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 02:10 PM |
| 2 | i felt this one deep within my soulYes, exactly this...all this and from the poster above, too. It’s even better when he visited my job and screamed at a co-worker how to do his job and embarrass the poor boy in front of everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 12:02 PM |
| 95 | i felt this one deep within my soulI would just oh-so love it when I was out in public with the last one and he would just talk up some random stranger about anything and for such a looooong time! Like, really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 39 | And I always am.Damn straight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:26 AM |
| 12 | Vetting: advice needed please. He is very devout orthodox Christian. Liturgy for him was at 0700 today. To make it clear, he seldom forgets I just don’t tolerate this behavior.Omg! Lmao @ 1630 in the afternoon, I love that!! Also can I just say how much I loathe being called “babe”? They do that so they don’t call you by the wrong name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 11:11 PM |
| 39 | The older man conFor real. Younger men have never ever ever given me problems it was always the older ones! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:34 AM |
| 37 | Why do these questions rub me the wrong way?My favorite of all time is when they ask “where are you from?” to determine my easiness based on my ethnicity. I just reply with “from heaven”, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:07 AM |
| 12 | So true, why do old creeps always have 3 out of 4 of theseOmgggg! I cant with the socks and sandals or any socks and open toed footwear.. even without the socks! It’s the second thing I look at besides a wedding ring or a tan line of one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:47 PM |
| 12 | "I like ✨natural✨ girls"Lol at the glasses! More like “prescription” sunglasses he wears everywhere and refuses to ever take off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:47 PM |
| 16 | YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. PERIOD.Same here with “the harder I loved him, the more cruel he became”. It’s because he didn’t love himself and knew he didn’t deserve it. He even said as much but not in so many words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Kissing microbiotaHow in the hell!?! You know what? fuck google I literally was just wondering about this same exact thing not even an hour ago and couldn’t find an answer. FDS delivers yet again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:58 PM |
| 146 | Most straight males see bi women as harem generatorsThat’s why we don’t tell them, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 02:29 PM |
| 23 | As a veteran (recovered) PickMeisha, I gotta say the first 🚩is the warm up to the whole fucking LVM red flag parade that the 🤡 be warming you up for. 🗣️ DISRESPECT IS NEVER A RESOLVABLE ISSUE 🗣️For real. I tell them “The very second this 😁 turns into this 😭 it’s done.” Just wish with the last one I listened to myself and didn’t hold out for hope for so long. Money don’t mean shit if it compromises your mental, emotional and spiritual health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:30 PM |
| 38 | I think we all knew a woman like that. Never disregard red flags, especially when they are mentioned by relatives or friends that may have an unbiased or more objective opinion about your partner.True. You can also love someone and never talk to them again. It hurts way less than being subjected to their escalating abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 13 | Throw him out if he gaslights you by saying he’s busyHe also told me “I’ll never change and neither will you”. How tf you gonna tell me about myself? At least I’m trying my best to be better than I have ever been, thankyouverymuch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 05:25 PM |
| 8 | Throw him out if he gaslights you by saying he’s busyNah, figure of speech...Wouldn’t mind seeing that though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 05:22 PM |
| 9 | 100% AGREED!! Older men dating 18 year olds SHOULD NOT be legal!You can also be fully grown with children and still be groomed if you don’t see the flags/manipulation tactics b/c you’re heartbroken and vulnerable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:56 PM |
| 13 | 100% AGREED!! Older men dating 18 year olds SHOULD NOT be legal!I just commented earlier that this had made my heart melt but then I thought if he was just saying this for the reasons you stated above. I trust no one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:54 PM |
| 96 | 100% AGREED!! Older men dating 18 year olds SHOULD NOT be legal!I thought the same thing, if he’s genuine. It made me smile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 40 | Throw him out if he gaslights you by saying he’s busyMy ex straight up said to me “I’m an asshole” and he referred to himself as a monster and trash as well. All this after he broke his neck to make sure to get me super-attached and emotionally invested! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:42 PM |
| 64 | Pay attention to men with abusive patterns of behaviour, they may just be intentionality trying to to induce a Stockholm Syndrome response in their target.Ugh! Do they know what they’re doing? I would like to think they don’t know any better and no one is really that evil..not so many of them anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:23 PM |
| 116 | 🚁🚁🚁Back to hoovering 👀🚁🚁🚁They didn’t fail, they just started to see through his shit! So IMO they succeeded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 01:03 PM |
| 16 | A little humour for your MondayOr when they do find the clit but can’t be bothered to learn the way you’re used to finessing yourself and just motorboat it. Don’t get me started on the man-handling and not sucking on it enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:17 AM |
| 10 | Key & Peele- video about how hip hop used to be about the stuggle and meaning but now most Hip hop is about objectifying women.I liked this one. Key and Peele Pirate Song | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 10:34 PM |
| 8 | In response to the post about whether or not LVM cause monthly cycle disturbances. Explanation in description 😖Wait...LVM and cycle disturbances? Where is this post?! Everything makes a whole lot more sense right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 04:55 PM |
| 58 | Birthdays before and after FDSShiiiit, even just a couple hours! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:32 PM |
| 27 | Birthdays before and after FDSAmen! I just realized this my past birthday about how Women are so much more thoughtful and making you feel special on birthdays/holidays. Don’t even get me started on the absolute Hell I went through last year with the one that said he wanted to marry me when I never even brought it up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 12 | A lot of TV completely unwatchable after FDSSame goes for old songs I used to looove! As far as you screaming at your laptop I feel that when I was watching “Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer” the other night. Rudolph is a boy but he was being way pickme, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 18 | Why is it that men that call themselves ''lucky'' to be with you, or that can't believe you gave them a chance, eventually treat you like trash?Genuinely and consistently!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:25 PM |
| 68 | As women, we need to start decentering men and refocusing on ourselves and the other incredible women in our lives.I agree with this.. as a former-pickmeisha-Queen-in-training I used to hate Women. I had a strained relationship with my Mom that I’m still working on, always felt in competition with other Women and often felt as though I was never chosen and cast to the side. Odin knows whatever childhood trauma surrounding this matter I’m forgetting with other female adult caretakers and school yard BS. I just recently thought to myself if maybe I keep attracting misogynists because I was internalizing it mys… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 07:22 PM |
| 14 | Why is it that men that call themselves ''lucky'' to be with you, or that can't believe you gave them a chance, eventually treat you like trash?Good luck with that, buddy boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:57 PM |
| 21 | TW// What are the reasons for why you stayed in an abusive relationship?I know for me it was always holding out hope that he would go back to the way he was in the beginning plus that I was waiting for the things he promised me that he never delivered. I also like that he would like to give me oral sex a lot and he tried really really hard when he did it and it didn’t hurt that he gave me money every month to help me out with things. Some other things that were a factor was that I didn’t want to have to go through this whole courtship thing again and I’ll have to en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:27 PM |
| 6 | What type of guy do you like?Why would someone ask this after you slept together a few times, though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:59 PM |
| 23 | What type of guy do you like?“I like the type of guy that treats me with respect and genuine consideration.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:58 PM |
| 10 | What type of guy do you like?My ex once asked me this after we had consummated and were like 2-3 months in and I had wondered why and I had to answer him honestly “Everything you do except live with their ex”. Keep in mind he was still kinda love-bombing me and I was putting up with what little crap he was showing me at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 74 | He mad as hell!!! LMFAOOOOYes! So much this! Couldn’t agree more and was actually coming here to say this. What an arrogant prick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:45 AM |
| 9 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....I ride a bicycle 35 mins to and from work five days a week. I go home when it’s dark past warehouses. Pray for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 12 | How to receive a compliment 👑My go to replies are: “Thank you” “I know” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:40 AM |
| 18 | Don't ever allow a man to make you question your self worth, beauty or sanity. NO man is worth that. Move on!..or when he winks at the waitress b/c “she winked at him first” or when he leers at other women right in front of you and uses your bi-sexuality as a way to objectify them even further to you or..or...or... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:36 PM |
| 14 | Have To Remind Myself On The DailyOh noooo! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 20 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.At the age of 42 I have yet to experience the love of a Woman. I don’t know why it’s so hard, I mean I’m part of a roller derby team for Odin’s sake! Lol But for real, baby, where are you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 19 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.This is exactly IT! When I see a plethora of Instagram photos on an OLD profile I just have no interest. I didn’t know why back then but it just never sat right with me. I was relieved when I found out my POS ex didn’t have Facebook but his “ex” did and BY GOD did she take full advantage of that and her insta when she found out about me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 88 | Always trust your gut instinct. It's not snooping, it's basically confirming your suspicions. Once again proved men ain't shit. A HVM will give you no reason to snoop. You'll always feel safe and secure.Especially if there’s children involved! I can’t believe I almost allowed myself to be legally binded to him and move me all the way to Georgia where I know absolutely nobody just to get away from my mom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:50 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I am coming to the terms my POS ex is most likely a sociopath and I’m trying to get a grip on everything having been a lie and I feel so damn stupid and disappointed in myself. I am seriously hating every single thing about my life right now (this isn’t every day, just a real hard day today) and wish so bad it was all over already! By “it” I mostly mean breaking this bitch of a trauma bond I have with this lowlife scum bag piece of garbage and that I don’t wanna have to ever deal with this kind … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 7 | You Thought He Was Your Soulmate—Turns Out He Was A SociopathThank you so much! 💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 13 | You Thought He Was Your Soulmate—Turns Out He Was A SociopathSame here. I nodded so much reading this, it was my ex to a tee and it fucking sucks because now it just reinforces that none of that nice love was ever real and I just hate myself even more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:03 AM |
| 52 | If a man tells you that you can do better - BELIEVE HIM.Same here. I strongly felt because he was so insecure and couldn’t take compliments and saw that I appreciated and loved myself to a great degree that it made him uncomfortable he had to knock me down a couple of notches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 07:37 PM |
| 80 | Strong women 💪 👑Amen! On that note, so what if I did have an attitude? It’s most likely some scrote’s fault anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:55 AM |
| 3 | Move on from him because you deserve to be happy.He did once ask me where we keep the safe... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 11:31 AM |
| 19 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.Especially when their in their fifties and not to mention having criminal investigations done on them! Like, grow up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:19 AM |
| 33 | It should be that simple. I’ve had a guy literally do all of these things, then proceed to say he doesn’t want us to be “official”.My ex supposedly didn’t get it from either of them and the way he describes his childhood sounded like a total shitshow! He once was on the phone with his Brother and said “your Mother” this and “your Mother” that. He has no relationship at all with either of them or so I was told. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:18 AM |
| 65 | 100 scrotes aint worth one “hoe” as they sayYeah, they want her to be loyal while they go around sticking their dick in every available wet hole..sometimes the dry ones too and let’s not forget about the emotional affairs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:12 AM |
| 16 | Move on from him because you deserve to be happy.Why is he driving by my work and staring at me but won’t come talk to me, though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:10 AM |
| 32 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.Yeah and it was totally out of context as well, it came out of no where and we were having a decent enough conversation. You say I escaped a narcissist and after awhile I had seen he presented the characteristics of one and the funny thing is he called me a narcissist on my birthday! It is a textbook move of a narcissist to ruin a holidays and special occasions and did he ruin my birthday for sure! The whole week of it and I guess it was my fault for daring to have expectations. I’m not saying I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 10 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.I’m still new to this all myself I mostly get my stuff off the Internet and try to find reputable sources. I would like book recommendations as well to be honest. What I’m also doing right now is positively and reassuringly talking to myself as if I were a child and picturing myself as a mother to myself as a child if that makes any sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 12:03 AM |
| 8 | This was the second time he had talked to me this way while drunk and angry. THIS is when you leave ladies. Like my last post said, leave the first time.Jorge? Is that you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:53 PM |
| 65 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.I know one of the things with the last one is when he purposely went days without contact knowing how much anxiety it produced in me. He was just fine and dandy with consistent communication with me before but then I dared not put up with his mistreatment and shady-like behavior (i.e. started to have standards and basic expectations he brought up at first but never delivered). He purposefully dwindled down the contact to almost nothing after he was the one talking about wanting to marry me which… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 74 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.Some of us growing up in toxic environments are conditioned a certain way to not recognize or maybe even tolerate the disrespect. This is why it’s so important to do your research, get therapy if possible and surround yourself with people that don’t adhere to the intermittent reinforcement agenda to keep you complacent and small. Self-talk is very important as well and re-parenting the inner child wouldn’t hurt, either. Understand, research and implement your findings to level up for yourself an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:44 PM |
| 13 | For any women out there that has been disrespected by their partner in a heartless way. Leave. Even if it’s the first time.It will just get worse and worse as time goes on and they can’t keep up the charade. Some do it veeeerrrryyyyy subtly so you barely even notice. Stay alert, stay aware, educate yourself and don’t isolate yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 5 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Sounds to me like those people are jealous and unevolved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:50 PM |
| 15 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.I love when men at my job would insinuate that I want to be younger or something. Ummm, no thanks, I didn’t know very much of anything back then, had no standards, am focusing more on my finances and didn’t care much about my health the way I do now. I’m in better shape than I have ever been and I see past the BS and I won’t tolerate it like I did in the past. So no, Sir, I do not wish in any way that I was younger, I’m having the time of my life and I’ll make sure to let you know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 14 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.As someone who has had boyfriends that weren’t the best looking I can say, as my Mom once told me, it’s not how they look but how they treat you (on a genuine and consistent basis) plus having standards helps which I am just now starting to implement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:45 PM |
| 8 | “Size doesn’t matter” only because the female orgasm doesn’t matterHey, I didn’t make them little! Just stating my preference to match my build. Sorry not sorry. I’m just baffled when they come at me when it’s pretty obvious I am a challenge to keep up with in all aspects especially physically when I could outrun and out-bench them most likely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 7 | “Size doesn’t matter” only because the female orgasm doesn’t matterDon’t forget the circus that he instigated inside your head with the emotional abuse and the whole living-with-the-ex-but-broken-up-and -there’s-no-romantic-feelings-but-has-to-be-involved -with-her-for-business-reasons among a slew of other disrespectful and sketchy ass behaviors! He did really try though but in his own way for his own ego! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:34 PM |
| 15 | “Size doesn’t matter” only because the female orgasm doesn’t matterFor real. I mean, I can only cum clitorally but it still feels very nice to be “filled up”. Also, what are these short, little guys thinking when they see me? I am Amazonian, I’m a big lady and I need a big penis and the height would be nice if it were accompanying that penis, ok? Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:29 PM |
| 22 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityYou forgot “fwb”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 13 | Watch for their actions not their words.I love this! Throw in “nervous” pit sweat, I always attributed to them making me nervous because I liked them so much but now I know better. Does anyone have any resources that I can further investigate on regarding this subject? It is just fascinating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:26 PM |
| 4 | BuT I’m A nIcE gUy!Whenever I start to complain about my POS ex again to her I just say “Madeline...Ashton...” and make like I’m wringing a napkin in between my fingers. We get a good laugh out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:43 AM |
| 13 | BuT I’m A nIcE gUy!Ha! My Daughter and I quote this all the time! “Flaaaaacid!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 2 | It doesn't have to be a substance to get you hooked (how pickmeshas are made)Well, how the eff do I stop this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:14 PM |
| 9 | Couldn’t Have Said It Better MyselfAwww, glad I could help, Queen. 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:10 PM |
| 8 | Guys with small dicks still have big egosThis is exactly one of the reasons why I don’t fake. It would benefit all of womankind if we didn’t cater to their over-blown egos undeservedly be it physically, mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:56 AM |
| 5 | A Pyrrhic Victory is Still A Victory Right?! A tale of woe from a reformed(?) Pickmeisha...As awful as I felt, it would suck a whole lot more for me to still be in that shitty mindset of "what's going on/when will I see him/is he ok/is it me?" THIS. Exactly. This! You don’t even know how bad I needed to hear this today as I was spiraling into depression myself over this dumb stupid fuck stick! To say he threw me for a loop would be a severe understatement there’s a special place in hell for people like him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 5 | A Pyrrhic Victory is Still A Victory Right?! A tale of woe from a reformed(?) Pickmeisha...Is his name Erik? Lmfao! This sounds very much Like my shituation only I was in it for a year and a half. I even tried to rationalize and blame myself the same way you did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 09:52 PM |
| 20 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.After a couple months together my POS ex had said to me “you’re very smart” like he couldn’t believe it. I could hear in his voice that he was very surprised. I guess he really thought I was just some dumb whore because he was taken aback by me just being a decent human being with a functioning brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 09:29 PM |
| 14 | The jig is up on older NVMI was just saying today the same exact thing today to a co-worker about older men being manipulative and wanting to control you. On that note, guys younger than me have neverrrrr given me any heartache or problems! My LVM ex had first said to me a few convos in that he was rich and could pay my salary so I would never have to work again. Ha! How stupid does he think I am? I have been working since I was 16 and it’s all I know. I had stopped working for awhile when my kids were young and I couldn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:05 AM |
| 1 | She seems so happy in this post but still I gotta say nah sis... have some higher standards for yourself please! Just sitting down watching someone play games for hours is lame.Yeah but it was my idea and I was happy just to be spending time with him because I had loved him so much and glad to be out of the house and seeing different things on the days that I had off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 12 | She seems so happy in this post but still I gotta say nah sis... have some higher standards for yourself please! Just sitting down watching someone play games for hours is lame.Would this be equivalent to riding around with him on your day off as he checks on properties and job sites (landscaping company) sometimes leaving you in the truck for a very, very long time? Sometimes he would take me to eat and/or help buy me groceries and sometimes I would be the one asking for sex that always resulted in him orgasming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:42 PM |
| 2 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?Not the way I went at it, I was like a damn crackhead. It took over everything! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:00 PM |
| 34 | Ain't that the truth!Same here! Lots of built up resentment due to his change of behavior and treatment towards me (i.e. he let his mask fall). I was starting to implement boundaries and standards as well and he wasn’t liking that too much. I said to him that I wasn’t gonna allow being disrespected or mistreated which he started to do to me after he was all I could have ever asked for (for the most part) in the beginning, of course and he tells me “tighten up”! How dare he use “City Girls” on me, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:34 PM |
| 16 | What would happen?For me personally when I’m finally alone in my own place I look forward to having a big, cuddly dog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 05:06 PM |
| 27 | Why does it throw me off and affect me so much when LVM from my past reach out to me even though I have a healthy relationship now?Can this happen when you’re still single and trying to do better? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 85 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!See this is what I’m afraid of no matter how much I insist I’m gonna be the one using *him• I know I’m just gonna end up feeling like somebody’s piece of garbage and more than likely won’t get to cum much less receive any cunnilingus. I also used to be all about pleasing the other party but where did that get me? Feeling like a former wrestler. HHH (heartbroken, hurt and hidden away) so that can screw itself right off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:33 PM |
| 39 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!Yeah and not the ones I have to give myself laying next to him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 31 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!This is what I need to hear and remind myself. Thank you, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:15 PM |
| 43 | If This Ain’t A MOOD!!Same here. I am so very close to turning a guy who is 20 years younger than me into an FWB but I don’t think I wanna go through all that again. I mean I’m the only one that is guaranteed to make me cum anyways. What would I be doing it for? What good would it do me if there’s no real meaning or affection behind it? But still... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:02 PM |
| 9 | NVM stands up forever girlfriend at their wedding and is elated when she says she will never bring up marriage again. Calls her "wife" in public to continue to rub salt into her wounds.I meant the one he proposed to before her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Bought myself a love ring as a promise and reminder to treat myself with all the love and care and never settle for less.Hell yeah, that’s what I’m talkin’ about!! Very, very nice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:12 PM |
| 4 | Reminder 💜👑I work in a high traffic retail job and I make sure to try and do this every day that I’m not feeling like crap myself. You should see the looks on these women’s faces it’s like they’re not used to it and it makes him so happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:07 PM |
| 39 | NVM stands up forever girlfriend at their wedding and is elated when she says she will never bring up marriage again. Calls her "wife" in public to continue to rub salt into her wounds.And what was the reason they didn’t get married, huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 06:33 PM |
| 18 | Why are men like this? This is why I avoid catching feelings at all costs.How does one who loves hard not catch feelings? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:57 AM |
| 66 | Situationships 101shituationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:00 PM |
| 8 | I read asktrp for almost a year to gather insight on how LVMs mind workI wish I would’ve read this and implemented it a year and a half ago. At least now I can read this and wholeheartedly agree so hard that I’m nodding until my head falls off my shoulders This post also reminds me and solidifies into my brain skull to not ever again in my whole entire life put up with any of this garbage no matter how “lonely” or “bored” I think I am. Edit: a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:47 PM |
| 10 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?I would say to take time and learn how to be single, learn to facilitate relationships of all kinds in a healthy and productive manner, work on emotional childhood trauma issues as well as my inner self. And for Odin’s sake, lay off the weed, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:15 PM |
| 2 | When you notice changes in your own behavior...I wish sooo hard that I would have just cut it with the last one the second he told me he still lived with his ex but they were broken up and there were no feelings. I put up with it at first and didn’t really care so much. Then she started posting all over social media to portray them as some kind of “happy” couple and he was waaayyy up her ass he might as well have gotten a degree in proctology because he “had” to be involved with her not out of love, lust or romance but “necessity”. Top that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:26 AM |
| 3 | I don't know who needs this but... If he wanted to he would. If you have to chase him for it, then he doesn't want you. If you have to excuse his actions, then he doesn't want you.If you feel unstable or insecure, then he doesn't want you. Someone who loves you will show you. Never settle.He’s 10 years older than me but I’m 42...I know, juvenile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:02 AM |
| 6 | I don't know who needs this but... If he wanted to he would. If you have to chase him for it, then he doesn't want you. If you have to excuse his actions, then he doesn't want you.If you feel unstable or insecure, then he doesn't want you. Someone who loves you will show you. Never settle.Its funny but it really seemed more like I was the one that was looking for sex way more than he was, I would go so far as to say I had a higher testosterone level than his old ass, lol. Must have just been using me for an ego-stroke, validation, maybe to make an ex mad/jealous or possibly even as a beard. Can’t figure out why he’s still driving by my work just to stare and not say anything if he figures I’m done with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:31 AM |
| 8 | I don't know who needs this but... If he wanted to he would. If you have to chase him for it, then he doesn't want you. If you have to excuse his actions, then he doesn't want you.If you feel unstable or insecure, then he doesn't want you. Someone who loves you will show you. Never settle.Yeah, and throwing around a whole bunch of money and trying to make you cum (but never did) doesn’t count because now that I think about it I believe he was doing it for his ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 03:30 PM |
| 23 | I don't know who needs this but... If he wanted to he would. If you have to chase him for it, then he doesn't want you. If you have to excuse his actions, then he doesn't want you.If you feel unstable or insecure, then he doesn't want you. Someone who loves you will show you. Never settle.It will never cease to amaze me and I just can’t understand why they could be so perfect and loving and everything that you could’ve ever wanted the first 3 to 4 months, even if you really truly believed (or at least hoped) that they were going to be different. Then they end up being exactly like the rest of them and that one hurt the most because you really had a lot of hope this time around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Remember ladies, if he wanted to, he would!!Exactly what I was thinking. That or she made him do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 03:05 PM |
| 6 | NEVER beg for a man!...and you work at Home Depot, too..I wonder if it’s the same dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 02:02 PM |
| 28 | NEVER beg for a man!Or they just drive by your work and stare at you, too chicken shit to come talk to you ‘cuz they know they’re wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 03:40 AM |
| 7 | Too many of you are falling in love with the idea of what a man could be...Wow. Former pickmeisha would have been ecstatic to even have been invited over to the couch that he slept on it at his brothers house or so he said. ETA: oh, Holy hell I completely lost it when he said something about the guy not being able to control the dog! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 05:04 PM |
| 3 | LVM be likeThis just made my morning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:45 PM |
| 11 | Assess the tangibles, don't fall for future fakingWell, it’s like he once told me “I got you when you were vulnerable”....I honestly thought he was really trying to help me. Thanks for the kind words, I truly appreciate it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:30 PM |
| 49 | Assess the tangibles, don't fall for future fakingAmen, Queen! I thought for sure the last one meant all the future-faking and sweet words/gestures..why? Because he threw a bunch of money around and told me what I wanted to hear? Even though I said I thought for sure his intentions were true but did I feel them? Like genuinely? Ngl, was always kinda iffy about him deep down and on guard, should have listened to intuition. ETA: Some tangible things that I got were some beds for my kids some air-conditioners, a water heater, a washing machine and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:38 PM |
| 2 | It was my birthday yesterday. Treated myself by making a romantic red velvet cake from scratch😊 it was a quarantine birthday but being self-partnered was the best thing that could have happened.Very beautiful! Happy Birthday, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:42 PM |
| 26 | After seeing a guy I was dating on a date with another woman, this Tiffany ring symbolizes me dating myself, choosing myself, coming back to myself, and loving myself.Had many a shitty birthday but not this year, sent myself a beautiful bouquet of flowers with a balloon and a thoughtful card to my job. Also spoiled myself with some other things I have been wanting. No expectations from a shitty, lying scrote to ruin it this year! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:39 PM |
| 46 | After seeing a guy I was dating on a date with another woman, this Tiffany ring symbolizes me dating myself, choosing myself, coming back to myself, and loving myself.Someone on face book posted a meme saying something about buying a promise ring for themselves and promising not to be a dumb ass. I said that was a pretty good idea but instead to promise to love yourself first and always which inherently would lead to “promising not to be a dumb ass”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Emotions are messengers trying to tell us something about a situation, others and ourself.And it has pockets! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:12 PM |
| 29 | Emotions are messengers trying to tell us something about a situation, others and ourself.Rage: I am being disrespected and allowing it! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:12 PM |
| 89 | WHERE’S THE LIE?Well I know for me it was (and still kind of is) working on childhood trauma and daddy issues. The “need” for external male validation and approval that I thought I couldn’t live without. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:54 PM |
| 1 | How SONS are treated VS How DAUGHTERS are treated. "Ready" = well in their 30s probablyI know somebody very close to me that it’s the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 20 | Note to selfCall him IMAX ‘cuz he’s projecting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone thought they were an obsessive overthinker and extremely anxious (not to undermine those with anxiety) but it was just because you were in a relationship with a LVMYeah, He told me that they had been broken up and that he had no feelings for her that he had to be involved with her because of “necessity” (see above) crap. I still wasn’t over the last piece of shit that fucked me over so I had just went with it because he was so good to me in the beginning of course. Ugh! He even told me he got me when I was vulnerable but he said it in such a way I thought that he was trying to be helpful to me. I cursed him out and blocked him six months ago (have seen him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:00 PM |
| 6 | Has anyone thought they were an obsessive overthinker and extremely anxious (not to undermine those with anxiety) but it was just because you were in a relationship with a LVMWhat would be your thoughts on him “having” to be involved with his ex because he claims that she has incriminating evidence on him that can put him away for a long time and that they are invested in real estate together and she has access to bank accounts that he needs access to? Not to mention a plethora of lawsuits they have against other parties. Please also tell me why he claims that he bought her a dog so that it could protect her because she can’t survive on her own whenever it is he does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:24 PM |
| 21 | When you miss them, read this.Ugh! I would love for someone to make a thread for us to post pros and cons! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 10:00 PM |
| 6 | When you're first dating someone ladies, take photos and read his body language. I wish I had known about this article at the time.This is true and I do this a lot, it’s supposed to help with your mindset and hormones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:22 AM |
| 10 | When you're first dating someone ladies, take photos and read his body language. I wish I had known about this article at the time.Yes, yes he would while he was driving!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 10:03 PM |
| 49 | When you're first dating someone ladies, take photos and read his body language. I wish I had known about this article at the time.I keep going back to old pictures I have not yet deleted just to zoom in on the eyes to see what the heck I could’ve possibly missed. Feh! “Prescription” sunglasses he wears constantly So he could hide his lies or where his eyes are wandering. He’s so “rich” he could afford regular glasses or even the ones that transition for chrissakes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 5 | Legitimately good sexMy POS ex cared enough that he tried very hard in his own way to get me off but not in the way I was used to and believed after 27 years of knowing how to please myself I’m just supposed to suddenly get off from his technique alone. “You should have cum by now” he tells me even though we were never together enough for me to get used to/comfortable with him. Yeah, he tried, he tried very hard in his own way and like you said I think it was for his own ego. It didn’t really help that I couldn’t sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:55 PM |
| 4 | Oh to be the other woman to a Scrote and have no idea. 🤡Even if he claims that she has incriminating evidence on him that could put him away for a long time and share real estate and bank accounts as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:50 PM |
| 12 | Oh to be the other woman to a Scrote and have no idea. 🤡That or can fraud money out of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:48 PM |
| 6 | Confessions of a Former PickmeishaSame here! I grew up with a drunk stepfather and never really knew my real Dad. It seems to me from whatever childhood memories I could muster up and have not completely repressed that any positive male attention I got usually had some sort of sexual undertones associated with it. ETA: great job on being a doctor and way to show them! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:52 AM |
| 7 | Maybe someone needed this too.It just really flips my pancakes when it keeps happening over and over and over again! Well, not anymore and I’ll be damned if I EVER fall for the shit ever again!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:25 AM |
| 6 | What if I want to be alone forever ?Or maybe to have as a beard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:11 AM |
| 16 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”What does it usually mean when he says you’re “too nice” and that he’s not used to being treated so well and lovingly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 03:07 AM |
| 20 | This is SO creepy.Easier to manipulate as they usually don’t know any better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:58 AM |
| 21 | FDS for women who have or want large families?I have three kids and live with my parents as I’m taking care of them, I’d like info/advice/experiences on this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Is this romantic or cheap?Don’t mind me, just bitter af and venting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Is this romantic or cheap?Well that depends is he still living with his ex even though they’re not romantically involved and that he has to be (extremely) involved with her out of necessity? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:00 AM |
| 6 | Worth the wait!consistently! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!Thankfully mine isn’t that big and you can barely even see it but it’s still there and it’s still kind of bothers me sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 08:05 PM |
| 13 | Food For ThoughtThis is wonderful and I’m so happy for you! I feel ya on the skating skills, new bedding and starting to read books again as that is some of the things that I have been doing as well. I am looking forward to becoming a notary public myself as well as fix my license, update my resume for medical field, learn the forklift at my current job and kick ass here as much as possible, work on my family relationships and continue my training for roller derby. Staying single for the time being to concentra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 07:09 PM |
| 21 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!Yeah, it’s like once we stop fucking with them the blessings shower upon us abundantly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 03:26 AM |
| 12 | Reason no. 6394573 not to date LVM’s. Your hair will FALL OUT!Mine made me grow a chalazion on my eye out of nowhere! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 27 | Little Mermaid is a pick-meisha who needs FDS and needs to heal her self-esteem.It’s always another man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 11:18 PM |
| 3 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?Look at their relationships with family and friends, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 3 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?On a consistent basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:29 PM |
| 4 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Love it, made me smile! Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Just another post to drive it homeHow does one who doesn’t really know what it’s like to be single and was always in some type of relationship deal with being single? I mean, mentally? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Just another post to drive it homeWhat are some things you do to help with the brain chemicals? I’m trying everything I can, guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:20 PM |
| 14 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Huh! The birthday thing again! What is it with that? He didn’t forget mine, he just didn’t care! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 3 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Lol, already did and still kinda am although not as much. Wish he’d get tf outta my head already! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:07 PM |
| 12 | "All my exes were crazy" - A common tactic used by abusers when their victims get subjected to reactive abuse. Please don't ever think that you're crazy and have mood swings in the relationship. It's your body literally giving you signs to leave the relationship.More like a missle! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 17 | "All my exes were crazy" - A common tactic used by abusers when their victims get subjected to reactive abuse. Please don't ever think that you're crazy and have mood swings in the relationship. It's your body literally giving you signs to leave the relationship.How do you guys feel about if he says “my relationships don’t last”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 27 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Or when you feel like you need to google their behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:37 PM |
| 10 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.I wish I would have done this on my birthday that he gave zero fucks about after I rolled out the red carpet for his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 9 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Well, for me I cursed him out in like a few sentences, maaaybe half a paragraph and then blocked right after. It feels wonderful and like a weight lifted until I start going back into the beginning times and wondering about/missing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 9 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.What are some reasons they do this especially if they were damn near perfect the first few months? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 05:32 PM |
| 23 | “If he wanted to, he would”... what matters is he didn’t! Who cares! Keep doing you!!This is wonderful! I just wish I could atop caring that he pretty much gave up on us after he told me not to! I want to stop thinking about him constantly and wondering “why”. I keep busy but fuck the mental energy I expel upon him is horribly disgusting and yet it is a huge challenge for me to just. stop. it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:29 PM |
| 3 | We need to teach our children about the dangers of hookup culture1,000 amens to this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 8 | Don’t text firstJoke’s on them, they weren’t super hot, either. I only gave them my number because I was bored and wanted to use someone to get over someone else but I’m not doing that anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:34 AM |
| 31 | Don’t text firstExactly! If you ask for my number and you are lucky enough to get it and I don’t hear from you in 3 days, you’re out of my phone and I don’t know you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:14 AM |
| 30 | Not the pickmeshas getting excited over the bare minimumThis is what I say “I’m the Daddy of the house!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 02:19 PM |
| 7 | If they didn't do it for themselves, they're not going to do it for you.Ugh. Word for word sounds like my seemed-like-HVM-in-the -beginning-but-ultimately-isn’t ex! Exact same thing and now he’s driving by my job to stare at me but doesn’t have the balls to come say anything to me 5 whole fucking months after I told him about himself and blocked him! “Real man” my ass! edited to add that He’s 52. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:58 PM |
| 18 | Imagine finding out this is what your husband thinks of youWell at least somebody’s coming! It sure as hell ain’t me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 06:07 PM |
| 28 | Thankfully I’m doing splendid on my ownI was gonna say you forgot “racist” but I see “trumper” on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 02:37 AM |
| 11 | Always listen to your body.Is this why I couldn’t cum with him no matter how hard he tried? In his way of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:20 AM |
| 7 | Sometimes I read other women’s horrible dating experiences and I wonder if they’re dating the same guy I did. Does anyone else do this too?Came here to say this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:17 PM |
| 8 | I screamed lmaooLikewise, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:08 PM |
| 67 | I screamed lmaooSame thing here exactly! He had even told me “I got you when you were vulnerable”. I had poured my heart out to him whilst I barely knew him for some ungodly reason. I gave him the gun to shoot me with like I’m some kind of emotional masochist. Ugh. Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:47 PM |
| 162 | I screamed lmaooThis is it!! He was not my type in any way and did not really stand out and I made an exception for him and now look! Just look! “Hurt” is an understatement of the shit fuckery he not only put me through but I allow myself to be hurt by. I’m trying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:44 PM |
| 12 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Thank you so much for this! It’s funny because I am balls deep into spirituality and the one thing that I don’t do is meditate unless you count when I journal. But I will definitely try this, thanks again I really appreciate it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 36 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Not always. After I blocked and deleted my ex I had some peace of mind but that’s only because I told myself he wasn’t contacting me because I blocked him. For the most part it has been absolute heartbreak hell. So what I’m doing now besides coming on this sub which has helped me tremendously is reframe my thoughts around The whole shit show and breaking old thought patterns that do not serve me anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:03 PM |
| 39 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎I could stay busy until the cows come home. After 5 moths of NC he’s still there. In my head. All. The. Time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Just don't need any more BS from 2020Add “Myself May”, “Just me June”, “Just Me Again July” and “All About Me August” and I been on this jam going on 5 months now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:57 AM |
| 11 | Learning how to control your emotional response and attachment to men is POWER.Same here, 42 and I should know better! Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:07 AM |
| 30 | Reminder: not even animals are safe from male depravity and porn sickness. How a man treats vulnerable animals/ others is a signifier of how he’ll treat you.My POS ex told me on more than one occasion that he liked dogs because he can kick them and treat them like total shit and they’ll think it’s love and never leave and never cheat. What a catch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:00 AM |
| 24 | Wise words to keep in mind, queens ❤Same here only he forced me to leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 01:56 AM |
| 5 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.Yes! One of the reasons I told me POS ex that I couldn’t orgasm with him no matter how hard he tried and that I “should have cum by now” (length of time together) was b/c he was sooooo far up his “ex”’s ass that he should just be her proctologist and call it a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:05 PM |
| 8 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.Same here..it’s like, if you want me to orgasm so bad you’re gonna have to watch me play with myself the way I like to do it and please don’t touch me or stick your fingers inside, I’m trying to concentrate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:03 PM |
| 2 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.I don’t fake ever! I also don’t ever orgasm with any of them and I tell them as much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:00 PM |
| 8 | Zero percent surprised he's still singleVery nice, my first thought was a rat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:04 PM |
| 16 | Remember that you don't owe them shit. If he won't 100% accept who you are, he should be blocked, he isn't even owed an explanation.“I got you when you were vulnerable” “I’m trying to fix you, I want to mold you” What was wrong with me that I stuck around for almost a year after that? No amount of money in. the. WORLDS is worth the emotional, mental and spiritual torment he bestowed upon me. Oh, and what happens 5 months after blocking and deleting? He drives by my job flying his Trump banner through the parking lot and stares at me (through a tinted window in a different truck, nonetheless) but doesn’t have the balls to get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:02 PM |
| 17 | Quick reminder that N/LVM are always targeting women with unresolved trauma or insecurities. Don’t give them any ammunition or reason to prey upon you.I’m sorry, is “n-count” how many people we slept with or something else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:30 PM |
| 93 | Guy treats his GF like shit because he thought she’d never leave. She leaves him and is gone for good. THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!Really. This whole thing could have been written by my ex if he had the mental capacity to put together sentences or even admit he was wrong in any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:28 PM |
| 22 | Saw this on FB and thought of you QueensYou’re not a downer at all and never apologize for expressing your opinion. I had forgotten about his creep factor until you guys reminded me and now I feel about for posting his face on here, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 25 | Saw this on FB and thought of you QueensI agree with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:27 PM |
| 26 | Saw this on FB and thought of you QueensI was thinking that too but I still like the quote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:26 PM |
| 32 | Thoughts on dating younger men? Current thoughts: they always want someone younger and it puts you at risk of waiting for him to grow up/supporting him/always unsure if he is secretly pining for a younger woman...Change my mind.It’s like you’re speaking right to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:17 PM |
| 2 | I used to be one of these PickMes. And then I did the best thing I could’ve ever done for myself and subscribed to this subreddit 💕Same here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:32 AM |
| 17 | Learn to forgive yourselfI really needed to hear this even though I’m all of 42 years old and lived that life enough I should know better. I guess actively being clean, clear and sober and actually caring (i.e. be fed tf up) makes a huge difference as well. I see where the pickmeisha attitude gets me and I had a HVM for awhile there but we grew apart. Big time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:32 PM |
| 32 | Men have 100x fewer matches than women, yet act as if they are gods - demanding, petulant, and after one thing.Seriously, POS ex permeated such toxic masculinity due to his upbringing and he had no desire to improve upon it in any way, shape or form. His rants about gay people (his own Daughter is a lesbian), observations and “jokes” about “he/she’s” and homophobia led me to seriously consider if wasn’t on the down low himself, quite Honestly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:29 PM |
| 29 | Learning to ask "and what is he bringing to the table?"Sounds like we “dated” the same guy..🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | How much time do you guys give to see if he can make you orgasm?Welcome to my life, lol. I have a hard time letting go and being in the moment as well so I would always blame myself. I mean I was with someone for 16 years and even had children with him and still couldn’t cum with him. I can’t really offer any advice but now I’m thinking maybe I should do what you do. I don’t know the last one really tried but it was his own technique and style and not mine that I’m used to, not even close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 01:45 PM |
| 13 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”Mine was going to marry me and take me to Georgia. I was all too happy at first but if I didn’t even marry my Babies’ Father of 16 years who worshipped me..why would I marry him? I was deep in the love drug/pickme/rescue me cloud then! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:00 PM |
| 11 | PickMe no more - Cut off a guy who wanted to be “friends”I am going through all of this as well. My POS ex did all the things yours did but his excuse for pulling back was that he may go to jail (again) and a myriad of other stressors in his cluster fuck of a life! I love how you ended it with him in a classy way unlike me where I lost my shit, cursed him out over text and blocked him. I thought he would be different because of how he was with me at first like yours was but no.. he wasn’t. I feel you and this is a hard thing to deal with right now but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 09:58 PM |
| 18 | More “helpful” sex advice from mainstream media. Someone needs to explain to me why we bother with men then.See? That’s just it. I have been with a good amount of men (no women yet but I’m super open to it) and I was only able to actually orgasm with one of them. I had to be the one riding on top of him and I may or may not have been fantasizing about Women. I was with my baby’s father 16 years so he knew my body very well and was still wasn’t able to cum with him. The last one, POS ex really, really tried and even did things to my clit with his mouth I have never before experienced. I think it was mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Today I turn 24Happy Birthday!! Enjoy yourself! 🥰🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Took a leaf out of you ladies’ books and I feel amazing. Treat yourself right ❤️Absolutely beautiful just like you, I’m sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:55 PM |
| 1 | I deserve, at the very least, to feel at peace in my relationship.Or one that claims to be rich but still lives with his ex girlfriend even though he says “it’s not out of love, lust or romance but but out of necessity”. If that doesn’t scream “People User” then refer me to an optometrist because I am blind! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:51 PM |
| 1 | I deserve, at the very least, to feel at peace in my relationship.GOD! What is it with these absolute FUCKSTICKS and birthdays!?!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:35 PM |
| 7 | Just broke up with a LVM - support needed 🥺Also realize that what you’re going through is a chemical withdrawal from the dopamine serotonin that was triggered during your time with him. I am doing research into how I can make those chemical reactions happen for myself in a natural and healthy way. Maybe it’s worth looking into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Just broke up with a LVM - support needed 🥺I made a pros and cons list and needless to say the cons list is four times as long. I also made a 30 numbered item list of all the horrible things that he has ever done and said to me in less than a year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with a LVM - support needed 🥺Word. For. Word everything that I’m going through right now myself except for the rotten dick part and the more “successful” part ( if you consider having more money by committing fraud and haggling it out of your ex girlfriend successful in terms of having more money). Just know that you are not alone and you can PM me if you need to talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:33 PM |
| 5 | The Weird Power of Journalling. Really.I used to hold onto my journals for dear life for some reason. Lately I have been going through some of them and wasn’t liking what I was reading so I got rid of them all. I believe it held a lot of negative energy and I needed to get rid of it. Now when I journal I do it more mindfully and as someone had suggested I operate from a baseline of positivity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:19 PM |
| 30 | Do NOT let a LVM leech ruin your life“You’re my therapy” he would say then proceeded to shit all over me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:53 PM |
| 32 | If he negs other women...What if he talk shit about his mother and basically dismisses her from his life, He even tells his own brother (who he’s always in some kind of argument with as well as a myriad of other people) “your” mother this and “your” mother that. To add that he has no relationships with his sisters at all and sounds resentful about the way they were raised as opposed to how he was in the same household. What a winner, huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:45 PM |
| 4 | Classic “let’s go on a walk”I find everything I need just by a google search, if I really want to go in depth I had paid for truthfinder but I think it was only for 2 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 01:02 PM |
| 13 | Classic “let’s go on a walk”I always do background checks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 10 | It's confirmed. Some men are demons.Is this why that POS ex of mine would refer to himself as a monster? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:55 PM |
| 101 | Classic “let’s go on a walk”Huh. This scrote asked me out on a bike date and when I did a background check KIDNAPPING was on the long list of charges! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Happy Friday, ladies!!!Exactly this! I was going to add on my previous comment on here that thank Odin he (and the other scrotes) was the only thing derailing me from my evolution into Queen status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Happy Friday, ladies!!!I have to remember this and realize the beginning times with fuckstick was when he had his mask firmly in place! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 6 | I Saw the posts of the flowers you Queens are sending yourself so I thought I would share. I Had birthday flowers sent to me at my job because the ex would never do it plus I deserve it.Thanks, everyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:22 PM |
| 10 | Stay awareWell. Effing. Said!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 11:14 PM |
| 11 | They always come back. Always. They might be nasty to you, make you feel obsolete. But they come back, always.Without a doubt! I just have this addiction to making myself feel bad and it seems I could never be content being at peace or relaxed. I realize this is a core beliefs/belief system issue that I am diligently working on at this time to eliminate the problem. I refuse to keep attracting shitty people and shitty situations in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 11 | Is this just part of the culture now? What are you’re thought a women who use these kind of names? To each their own or do you think it’s wrong and degrading?I never had a father growing up so I never really got to call anyone “Daddy” per se. I was in a vulnerable state when I met my last ex as he reminded me “I got you when you were vulnerable”, he told me. So when he referred to himself as “Daddy” I got all giddy, excited and really liked it. Before he revealed his true self and his fuckery truly started to shine through he was a great protector and provider for me and mine so I had no problem referring him to as that. After a while I started to re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:03 PM |
| 49 | They always come back. Always. They might be nasty to you, make you feel obsolete. But they come back, always.I was literally having an off couple of minutes just before I saw this post wondering if I’d ever hear back from that toxic, misogynistic, homophobic racist piece of garbage asshole ex of mine. I actually got upset if I would ever hear from him again,. Why? Because I’m a slave to the chemical fix? Well, not if I can help it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:50 PM |
| 1 | What are some good responses to the question “Do you have a boyfriend?”Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:50 PM |
| 7 | Ex-LVM suddenly showing up to my jobOur success sharing checks, lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:30 PM |
| 17 | Ex-LVM suddenly showing up to my jobHey, what’s up? Home Depot cashier here, too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:13 PM |
| 3 | When he calls you a “good woman”I think it goes without saying that the ex did the same thing to me after I started to call him out on his bullshit and told him I was not going to put up with any more mistreatment and dared to raise my standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:10 PM |
| 3 | When he calls you a “good woman”At least he didn’t call you a good “girl” and withhold love, attention and affection when you didn’t adhere to his wishes. I’m 42. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:48 PM |
| 24 | Think about it from his perspectivePickmeisha in recovery here.. my 42nd birthday had recently passed plus I’m going through a very hard break up with an LVM. In my ignorance, the last couple birthdays I had I possessed the audacity to even expect anything from any of these scrotes. Needless to say those past birthdays have all but been ruined if it weren’t for the women in my life. This is the first year in all my life besides being a child (and pregnant) that I am actively staying sober, as healthy as I can and in the present. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:48 PM |
| 3 | This is the kind of attitude we need to have👏🏼👸🏻“Men” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 05:10 PM |
| 18 | We have a list of demands. 1. Clean sheets.You can be in your forties and still go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 02:06 AM |
| 8 | Terminal uniqueness and proud non-conformity are red flagsOr when he refers to himself as a bull but his stomach comes around the corner before he does and he can’t control his anger to save his life at 52 years old! Let’s not forget about the frequency of incarcerations and constant stream of fraud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:13 AM |
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