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I spent a lot of time in loveafterporn subreddit before i found FDS, trying to figure out a way to look past my ex’s raging porn addiction. Someone in there said the iconic “if he wanted to, he would”, which was my first realization than he didn’t actually give a shit about me or our relationship. The only thing he put more effort into after i confronted him about his addiction was hiding it better and lying to me face more. Pigs. I will never tolerate porn use again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 03:27 PM
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It’s eye opening when it hits you. We have all been there. Don’t let this guy leech off of you. He will only resent you for it and you will get hurt. I promise. Been there done that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:57 PM
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I’m going to posit that he already has. He’s using her water, electricity, wifi and sleeping there. He lives there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:55 PM
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If you find that someone is offering to do favors or offering you gifts or services for free try turning down some of their offers and gauge their reaction. If they get annoyed or offended they probably have an ulterior motive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:25 PM
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You are feeling attacked and lashing out at me, that’s cool. You came here asking for advice. So many smart, educated women here are advising you not to go for a man at work. You are grown and can do whatever you want, and we cannot make your decisions for you. Best of luck to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:14 PM
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The more i read thru the comments and OP’s responses it sounds like she’s doing the pickme routine with lots of mental gymnastics to justify it. Sounds like he will end up using her to sleep with and she will give in quick, and end up regretting it. OP if you read this please put zero effort towards this guy. He is aware of you and if he wants you, he will do the work from here out. Edit: literally never called you a whore, I haven’t used that word to describe other women in YEARS. Do not put wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:26 PM
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Women have sooooooooo much power over men, they can easily sway them into either respecting or disrespecting them based on how they present themselves. Obviously it's not a perfect science, but if a woman lays herself with easy access to her vagina for guys, they will not respect her, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 12:07 AM
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She’s actively helping men lose respect for all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 03:35 PM
87

Society really does hate women. This just reinforces my stance that women should make a man go to the end of the world before she lets him put his dick inside of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:23 PM
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It took me a few months, but you’re right… once you realize you tolerated way too much for someone who offered you next to nothing in return, it becomes so much easier!!! The most important lesson i ever learned was: don’t fall in love with someone’s potential… watch to what they actually do (not talk about doing) and judge them on what you see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:55 AM
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I’m so glad women are picking up on this and speaking out about it. When I’ve lived with men, it was the exact same way. I involuntarily became their mom and they had it so easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:56 AM
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People like him skate on by with you doing all the work, planning and coordinating then don’t appreciate a single ounce of the effort it took you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 06:34 PM
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I love this movie because my sister looked exactly like this actress around the same time and I think she is so pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:44 AM
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I say these things to other women and to be honest it’s usually just a bit more respectful. In many languages there is a weird thing where people manipulate words or sentences to become longer when they speak more formally. I do agree we shouldn’t be apologizing for asking fair or warranted questions but these are just ways of being polite in a formal setting whether it’s a woman I’m addressing or not. Also, when i speak to others respectfully and formally i tend to get more respect back because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:11 PM
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D I V O R C E H I M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:16 PM
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I think youre response was perfect tho, just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:05 PM
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These women started re-raising grown men for what their mothers should have taught them as children. How can they expect their husbands to be functioning partners, fathers or providers if they are not even one step above an actual child? It baffles me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:56 PM
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Your intuition. You will have a gut feeling. Don’t ignore it. Edit: also, if you catch him texting when he doesn’t know you’re looking and he’s either grinning or smirking. Then he quickly puts his phone away when you come in the room. You can bet your life he’s sneaking around your back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:48 AM
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Wow that girl sounds like a total narcissist. I’m so sorry you lost all the effort, time and money to such an energy vampire. But I’m so glad you realized the truth and your own self worth!!! You were too nice and she took advantage. Don’t let anyone do the same to you again, ever!! Sending love your way. Edit: just wanted to say also that people like her are everywhere. As you get older you will realize that she is just s drop in a large bucket of assholes that exist in this world. Weeding them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:11 AM
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Normalize minding being lived off of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 10:45 PM
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If they say this then my response will be, oh ok, I’m actually looking for someone who is good at planning. Bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:14 PM
72

I think it’s not only being lazy, but a lot of men these days have been smoking weed for years which leaves them extremely complacent and dull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:13 PM
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They have all convinced themselves it’s fine. They don’t actually care about women’s safety or health. They are lost causes. You will always lose this argument sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:15 AM
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Yay! I’m glad I’m not alone. I love you ladies lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:18 PM
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I’m lucky i guess because i actually hate facial hair on men. When they grow beards i am almost instantly completely unattracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:36 AM
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Men don’t give a shit about women’s safety or comfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:42 PM
45

What a freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:34 AM
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He will have ED and no clue how a real woman’s body looks or that women can have orgasms too by the time he is 18 but ok lol. Utter failure as parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:26 PM
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I rewatched the scene where jasmine chews him out and it actually made me cry. I feel like she was speakimg out for every woman who ever got taken advantage of or cheated on. She was so sure of herself. “Look at me. If i was gonna be with a sugar daddy (which I’m not interested in) i would get the sugar daddys of sugar daddys!” Lol 😂❤️❤️❤️ I love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:17 AM
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Three words: “I’m divorcing you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:32 PM
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Hahaha yep!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:57 PM
130

So he shames her for dragging down the company’s image, but not himself for looking at her OF? Upside-down minded scrotes headed into a corporation near you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:25 PM
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It was the preview for the next episode! I hope she doesn’t go back to him but i really like how she made the statement “thank god i was taking birth control.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:44 PM
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She did and she ended him with the statement “There’s your nudes” Right after. I love her so much. Edit: thanks for the silver, queen! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:37 AM
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How to communicate: “I’m divorcing you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:13 AM
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I don’t eat pizza puffs or most frozen food lol. No hate to you, i just feel like men would rather live off terrible, frozen premade food than learn to cook the simplest dishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:28 PM
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This assumes a man would attempt to cook something besides pizza puffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:08 PM
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Looks like a troglodyte.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:39 PM
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She literally is dating a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:21 PM
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He loved seeing you beg so he could hurt you by leaving. Just remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:12 PM
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I would advise any woman to never announce that they are a bitch. Men see it as a challenge and immediately lose a ton of respect for you. Even if you don’t want their attention, they will treat you even more like a piece of meat for them to play games with. It’s better to just be cold and grey rock them to get rid of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:41 PM
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This makes me never want to have sex with a man ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:15 PM
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Perfection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:35 PM
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Doesn’t sound like either one of you are really feeling a spark. I would just end it now so you don’t waste anymore time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:08 AM
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The toupee is just so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 03:35 AM
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You must be my ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:07 PM
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LOLLLLLLLL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:52 PM
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I busted out laughing. Thank you for sharing this experience. You’re amazing and I’m proud of you for digging this bullet 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:13 PM
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Super encouraging and validating watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:51 AM
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I mean i think the kardashians are a joke. They are reality show celebrities and they don’t represent me as a woman or make me feel empowered with their plastic surgery or fake bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:32 PM
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My sister is a doctor. She had to RSVP to an event and the website gave a list of options for titles for how to list her and her husband’s names. There was an option for “Dr. and Mrs.” but no “Dr. and Mr.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:09 PM
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Really glad he made this self realization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:05 PM
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At this point i am asking more than that tho and you should be too. Men want you to make them feel good, treat them well, do their dishes after you cooked them dinner, ruin your body with their offspring AND give them a blowjob at the end of the day. The least they can do is not enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:05 AM
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Men don’t want women to realize they should expect more than the bare fucking minimum cuz that would mean they’d have to stop being lazy, cheating, pathetic slobs to get laid. God forbid we have standards!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:44 PM
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Ok this is fake af but the idea is nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:29 PM
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Dang, he single? Seriously tho, adorable lil baby and so fresh and clean too :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:36 PM
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I haven't, because I've never actually been in a situation like this. I just have the same general knowledge that everyone probably has. I was thinking of texting him to tell him to stop contacting me one last time but I am actually thinking now that I should not contact him at all anymore. I told him I got a new number today when he asked if I got his text, and then he asked if I still had his and I said yes. God I'm so creeped out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:59 PM
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Thank you so so much, this is very helpful. If I see him again at my job I am definitely going to go back inside and get a supervisor to walk with me out. I know there have been situations in the past where they have contacted customers directly because they were stalking employees (bank tellers.... thankfully I work in the back office but I'm on the ground floor where he could be watching me from a window). Edit: Also, this is terrifying to hear about pulling away can cause them to get worse. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:12 PM
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I’m extra freaked out because i know he knows where i live, and now he knows where i work too. I haven’t blocked him for that exact reason. I am actually so creeped out by this guy i want to know if he is sending me threats. But i haven’t responded. Is this really a trigger time for stalkers?? How and why is that? I haven’t heard that statement before. I feel so unequipped to deal with this right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:52 PM
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If you don’t fake it you’ll find out real quick which guys actually care if you orgasm or not. Cuz the ones who don’t give a shit will get impatient and annoyed with you. Easy way to weed them out lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:15 PM
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He apologized after getting called out but if there was a group of other guys around they would have all fed off each other’s energy and straight up hate-crimed you and it possibly would have turned violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:55 AM
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Always follow your intuition. 9/10 if you’re feeling the need to snoop its because something is actually wrong and your instincts are picking up on it. Society has been training women for hundreds of years to ignore their intuition and instincts. This is to keep us questioning our sanity and makes us easier to manipulate and gaslight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:17 PM
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This could be the discard phase of narcissistic abuse. It’s when they’re done lovebombing you, they know they got you hooked and so they start pulling back, making you feel unsettled and like you have to keep working harder and harder to keep their attention and affection. It’s complete bs and incredibly toxic for your mental and emotional health. Drop him and leave before he wastes more of your precious time 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 10:51 AM
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🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:00 PM
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Porn use becomes an actual addiction similar to using heroin or any other narcotic drug. I’m very grateful to the sub LoveAfterPorn for helping me move on from my ex who had a raging porn addiction and kept getting better and better at hiding it. Ladies: TRUST YOUR INTUITION. if you have a feeling he’s hiding something, he most likely is and it’s probably much worse than you can imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:13 PM
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He’s a snake and probably a narcissist. He knows you’re attracted to him so he’s hoovering to try and break you down. Do not give in. As soon as he gets your clothes off he will move on to the next target.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:03 PM
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This is why i will never feel bad about my appearance again. These gorgeous women being cheated on by losers prove it’s the men’s problem, not the women’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:01 PM
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The brilliance listening to these educated women dissecting everything backwards and wrong about the porn/sex industry is so inspiring and TRULY empowering. What an amazing discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:59 PM
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The image of sexually frustrated men furiously jerking off is so funny to me. They broke their brain-to-peepee connections and blame every woman who crosses their path. What a joke 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:25 PM
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This was horrifying to read. I’m so so sorry you were violated like that. Your body is your own, and any person who would drug you to use it for their own perverted desires is a rapist and should be in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:42 PM
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Yep, i dumped my lv porn addict ex last year after his addiction led him to start cheating on me with men online. He was a pervert and also in the closet, and he was perfectly happy using me for the benefits of having a girlfriend while indulging in his disgusting masturbation habits in my bathroom when i wasn’t home. Literally no more porn addicts ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:28 PM
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Men take advantage of women and have someone convinced them that the woman is being benefited by this process. Its so evil and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:35 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:13 PM
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He will literally never change a diaper lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:58 PM
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One of my best friends told me a few years ago that the concept of "your best self" is actually very burdoning and demotivating. I definitely see what she means. If you're constantly striving to attain some ideal vision you see of yourself, you're setting yourself up for massive failure and disappointment. I think it's far more important to try and learn to love yourself for who you are. It's ok to have imperfections and flaws. It's ok to be late every now and then or sleep in on the weekends. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:53 AM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:42 PM
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We have to be like this. When there is something as vile and disgusting as the redpill mindset, we need to protect ourselves from that kind of evil. This is us waking up and no longer tolerating being manipulated, gaslit or abused (which we have realized you had no intention of stopping.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:32 PM
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These broke ass scrotes put more effort into finding a woman to pay their bills than anything else. I’ve only dated one guy who didn’t suddenly realize he didn’t have his wallet when we were out getting food. They’re such leeches and then they accuse women of being gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 11:04 AM
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Yeah it’s called future faking. They will say all the right things to make it sound like they want this wonderful future with you, but you will be the only one who does the work to achieve It and they will ride your coattails the whole way there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 10:58 AM
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You’re amazing. So proud. Yeah men have convinced themselves that their porn addictions are normal and fine. They choose to not see or care how it affects women or their girlfriends/wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 09:34 PM
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More like volcels lol. Men don’t even realize how easily women could have sex cuz there’s literally a horny creep we could call up any second of the day who come could bang us on command. We have the luxury of picking who we want, that’s the point of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:04 PM
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They can call me whatever they want to. I will never let a man pressure me into doing something I’m uncomfortable with every again. My body, my rules, dipshits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:04 PM
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Wow is this loser actually a doctor? Please revoke all of his titles immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:49 AM
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I’m not cool then lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:58 PM
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Also if they try to “jokingly” do something violent. Like kicking you, hitting or punching your arm and laughing it off. Major major major red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:35 PM
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Seems fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:37 PM
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That was my first thought as well. Imagine all these men gathering together to fight against being called out for saying it’s totally fine to be attracted to underage girls lol. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:53 PM
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Wow. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:23 PM
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Same girl same. My eyes have been opened and I have 20/20 vision now because of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:39 PM
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True and I’m also glad it doesn’t allow men to come in and “voice their opinion” and then get upvoted by pickmes. I don’t want to hear what any man has to say about issues being a woman. All other subs seem to allow men to come in and be like AKCHUALEEEEEE with their porn-ruined thoughts and then all the pickmes clap and thank them for their two cents. No. Fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:37 PM
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If they zone out with a smirk on their face. I can’t really describe it but every guy I’ve known who turned out to be a porn addict would do this and have the same creepy smirk on their face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 01:31 AM
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She should report him to the police because he is probably killing animals. Sounds like a legit serial killer in the making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:00 PM
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God I love this girl so much. So inspiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:43 PM
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💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:43 AM
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What's with the crazed smile like she's happy? I feel totally grossed out by all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:46 PM
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The last two relationships I had involved me working more than full time to pay all the bills while the guy worked part time or not at all and laid around smoking weed and playing video games all day. So yeah no, I’d rather die than allow another deadbeat scrote to live an easy life while I work myself to the bone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:54 PM
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You don’t need to prove anything to him. You knew and he knew. That’s enough. You can just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:03 PM
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I wish I could go off bc but unfortunately every time I’ve tried I end up with cervical and ovarian cysts and My mom had cervical cancer so I’m not going to risk it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:27 PM
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The fact she said she is ok with being slapped hard is really bothering me. Like she had to let everyone know that she wasn’t a prude or something. And women these days get shamed for saying they don’t like having painful things happening to them in bed. The whole thing is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:49 PM
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I’m glad she is learning this now while she’s young so she can avoid it in the future 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:53 AM
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Once you realize that a trauma bond is literally just a serious dopamine addiction it becomes a lot easier to manage, at least it did for me. I didn’t miss my ex.. I was having essentially drug withdrawals and was jonesing for a fix. Please treat this as a drug addiction. Get off the dating apps and go cold Turkey. You may be codependent as well so please watch some videos about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:02 PM
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The worst ones I’ve ever encountered claimed to be Christian, or hop around between religions trying to figure out what they’re doing in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:14 PM
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My ex literally lived off of fast food. Ate it three meals per day. Then he complained he had no money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:08 PM
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I’m toasting to that woman tonight for being free from this landcreature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:23 PM
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The example text cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:19 PM
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He went home and cried himself to sleep cuz the pretty girl didn't like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:18 AM
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They should not be allowed to graduate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:08 AM
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Ew this made me so grossed out to even look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:55 PM
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I just feel like they’re all taken already snd it makes me so sad. The chances of me actually meeting and snagging someone like this is astronomically low. Sigh. At least I know I won’t settle for less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:00 AM
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Yeah pretty much. It’s more empowering for a woman to go back to her job after giving birth than to raise and nurture her new born baby I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:58 PM
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No idea. They are both amazing women but very liberal feminist and they think women giving birth and then going back to work 90 days later is fine 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:57 PM
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I said in front of my best friend and her mom once that I wouldn't have a kid with someone and go back to work right away. They both gasped and shunned me. They were like "You can't think like that anymore, times have changed." I was just like um.. thanks for your opinion but I stand by my decision lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:14 PM
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Lmaooo omg this made me laugh so hard. I’ve sadly experienced this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:06 AM
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Ug yes exactly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:38 PM
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What is with this song that makes it so attractive to scrotes and losers?!?! I guess the lyrics must make them feel better for only scraping by life doing the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:54 AM
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My ex was 38!!!! I took a risk bothering to even see him but I was still a Pickme at the time. And he seemed to be ever pining after his own idealistic memories of his younger self. He literally was in awe of how cool he believed he was at 17-18. So pathetic and embarassing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:15 AM
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Lmao that's honestly hilarious. Seriously, when they talk about the one semi-productive thing they did when they were a teenager all it means is they haven't done anything else noteworthy since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:13 AM
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Proud of you. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story, it legit inspires me <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:11 AM
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Omg yes exactly lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:07 AM
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Yes.. ug I know exactly what you mean. I've always had large breasts for my size so ever since I was even like 12 years old I had to deal with creeps gawking at me with that sick, horny smirk on their face that makes me want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:06 AM
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Yes this so much. I’ve met so many people who love to tell everyone about how they smoke so much weed. They are generally lazy and just trying to laugh off the fact they are unproductive and leeching off of other people. This is a huge red flag for me now. Obviously not everyone who smokes weed is like this but if a guy keeps bringing it up to obviously try and impress other people, I’m walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:40 PM
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Ug exactly. So embarrassing. But they think they are legends. Like, telling me you slept with more girls when you were a teen than I have slept with men in my entire life does not make me admire you. Also, I’m not impressed by what a badass you were for doing lots of drugs for like two summers and then getting scared straight after you had a bad trip. These things literally defined what my ex thought of himself. He thought he was the hottest badass alpha male who walked the planet. What a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:23 PM
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Lol omg this made me laugh so hard ty 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:09 PM
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American sitcoms try to normalize the idiot, slob husband/father figure and the overbearing/nagging wife. Makes me sick. I can’t even think of a family sitcom that doesn’t fall back on these stereotypes. Maybe there are some but I don’t watch any sitcoms anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:07 PM
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Right?? Also Fight Club.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:05 PM
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So true. I feel like when a guy talks about their weird fetish it’s because they are so addicted to porn it’s just overflowing from their brain and mouth. They can’t even keep it inside them anymore cuz they can’t think about anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:49 PM
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I realized that any guy who tells me more about themselves when they were teenagers than who they are right now generally have emotional issues I am just not willing to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:41 PM
35

He was just unnecessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:55 PM
70

Honestly I remember being so bored by the love story in this movie. I was fascinated by the idea of going off on adventures, finding treasure and being a mermaid. Even Ursula was so much cooler than Eric lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:04 AM
41

Right?? I was so fascinated by her. She opened up a whole new realm of possibilities to me as a kid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:02 AM
8

🤣🤣💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:47 AM
17

This is so amazing and hilarious. Also they do a lot of complaining about going bald.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:53 AM
2

Makes me sick but it’s not even surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:10 PM
9

This is so beautiful, thanks for sharing 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:19 PM
101

As someone with zero maternal instinct, this is easy for me. And knowing how many men start cheating and jumping ship after the baby is born basically means I have no incentive at all to ever even consider having a baby. The thought seems so foreign to me, and I feel horrible for all the women who are abandoned by their LVM after going thru childbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:18 PM
1

One of my old neighbors worked at a bank. They found out another employee was doing OF and fired her. Employers DO base their roster on these kinds of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:18 AM
2

a deliberate scheme to get women out of the workforce Holy shit... I never thought of it this way but I honestly think you might be right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:17 AM
15

So happy you are here <3 <3 <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:44 PM
10

They use women to feel better about themselves but it’s all because they want to look good in front of their bros. So all they really want is to feel accepted by other men. They don’t actually care about deep, long term commitment to women. They want to impress and feel validated by other men. It’s gross and weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:00 PM
51

Mainstream music, tv and movies work very hard to remind women of their subservient status and do everything in their power to make us feel like we need to be validated by men to have any worth. I do my best to never watch Hollywood movies, listen to the radio or watch tv. I don’t have cable and pretty much all the music I listen to is underground and instrumental. That may sound extreme to some people but I don’t really like watching tv in the first place. It’s all crap and predictable anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:49 PM
101

God I’m so glad I’m single. Men make me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:12 PM
4

You will get there. I can’t believe I made it to where I am. Save posts that ring a bell with you and look at them before you go to sleep every night. Never chase boys. I’ve come to realize they’re not even worth putting any effort into trying to impress lol. I can give myself everything I need and want anyway so unless a man can match what I do for myself and BETTER, they aren’t worth my time. I’m here for you, sis!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:56 PM
23

You don't know how honored I am that you responded with this. I can't tell you how much this sub has helped me heal and learn to love myself. I will never disgrace myself ever again by settling with anyone I feel doesn't meet my standards. I pay my own bills, own my own house and car, I take care of myself physically and I KNOW I have everything to offer in a relationship. I will never never NEVER tolerate a man's disrespect of me ever again, and I owe that almost entirely to finding this sub. O…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:42 AM
46

This is now on my list of dealbreakers. I'm to the point where I feel like my expectations are so high no one can meet them, but I don't care. I'm literally not willing to budge anymore. Every time I even allow the slightest thing I'm unhappy with into a relationship, that is the immediate start of it crumbling. No exes, no kids, no dogs, no porn, no flirting with other women, and they have to be clean. I'm at ZERO tolerance for any stray of these things at all anymore, and I'm so very much fine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:59 PM
13

He probably would expect you to thank him for only requiring you to pay half of his tax too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:54 PM
29

I am starting to think BE is an industry plant used to undo all of the work women are doing to free themselves from the paradigm of patriarchy. BE is so popular with young girls and will massively influence them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:44 PM
32

You don’t get divorced? I sure as hell did lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:35 PM
4

Never having a baby, ever. Men are vile and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:41 AM
2

Narcs do not feeling empathy. Don't wait for an apology. If you get one it will only be so he can use it to manipulate you back into bed with him. They are similar to psychopaths... they literally are incapable of feeling love for you. He never loved you and doesn't care that he hurt you. And yes, he knows. You MUST NEVER UNBLOCK HIM. You're going to be ok. You're going to have dopamine withdrawals for a while like a drug addict but you will get over the addiction after a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:23 AM
2

4 years free from Facebook. Don't know why anyone bothers with that mess anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:07 AM
175

She walks away and he's like "you're just a whore anyway." lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:37 PM
2

Thanks love 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:42 PM
60

It was literally the best decision I ever made and I applaud and praise my 28 year old self for seeing a way out and protecting herself from any more years of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:26 AM
2

He told me my head was shaped weird. No one has ever said that before. It immediately struck down my self confidence and I developed a new complex. I blocked him but I'm still trying to undo what he did in the 1 second it took him to say that to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:57 PM
175

I don’t think I will ever get married again. All it did was trap me with a manbaby who expected and terrorized me into being his replacement mother, cooking and cleaning up after him while he laid around smoking weed and playing video games. I also worked more than full time to pay all the bills cuz he was such a lazy sack of shit. I will never punish myself for some loser’s disrespect of me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:33 PM
79

This is basically a list of what NOT to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:24 AM
23

Congrats!!! Getting divorced was the best decision I ever made. Enjoy your freedom 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:38 PM
12

Nope, never having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:05 AM
28

They are only in it for themselves and not-so-secretly hate women. They are just reaping the benefits of libfeminism because a lot of it caters to their wishes anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:17 AM
33

Ew I hate beards. And this is all the more reason why I don’t trust them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:53 PM
9

Thank you so much. I really hope what I said at least made some of the other women in there think. It’s a good bunch of women but a lot of libfem talk gets thrown around in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:36 PM
21

Blocking and deleting was the most powerful and important step it was for me to create closure from my last very traumatic relationship. They don’t even deserve to be able to contact me, and I am setting that boundary to love and protect myself every time I take away that power from a scrote. Block on, ladies!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:37 PM
9

It needs to include the word scrotism too 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:14 AM
9

The entire last 6 months of my last relationship involved me slowly sinking into madness due to my ex boyfriend’s gaslighting about his porn addiction. I am still trying to work out that trauma but it will literally drive you insane when you start being suspicious over a guys porn usage. I got sick of being shamed for not being ok with my boyfriend gratifying his lust with other women. I no longer tolerate any porn use. None. It’s a hard dealbreaker for me now and I’d rather die alone than ever …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:13 AM
328

Well I just got downvoted to hell in the bigboobproblems sub because I said I thought it was not empowering and this was just another example of misogeny trying to deceive women into thinking posing in lingerie on a magazine cover is somehow "empowering". Everyone else in there was praising her so much for being brave. And here I am thinking... ladies... do you really think it's a new thing to pay an 18 year old girl lots of money to pose in lingerie on a magazine cover to sell lots of copies? N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:21 AM
24

Wow. I think this girl is dating my exhusband. I literally lived in fear of him. What an utter piece of shit. She will probably end up apologizing to him too. Girl PLEASE LEAVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:50 PM
26

I should probably see it this way from now on too. Thanks for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:33 PM
14

Good!! The more women who refuse to get knocked up by deadbeats, the better. It means their standards and expectations are increasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:30 PM
193

Omg. I’m using this as a response to every guy who tries to give me a guilt trip about being friend zoned. They really don’t know or care how creepy they are. My neighbor introduced to me his friend who was visiting from out of town, who then helped himself to come bother me when he saw me in my yard a few weeks ago. After trying to get rid of him for a while I finally told him I had to go and gave him an awkward side hug. Right after he was like “theeeeere it is. I was waiting for that.” With a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:14 PM
33

Yes always make sure they go to the Recently Deleted too cuz they can easily be recovered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:05 AM
71

I saw an article somewhere that said “one night stands are fun and exciting! Don’t be afraid to do them!” What a disaster. Women need to identify and protect themselves from this kind of fake advice that only benefits loser men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:58 AM
23

And when they come to repo your car you’ll be crying for help from all the people who kept a job and sleep in their own home all night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:56 AM
4

Thank you so much for sharing. This just reinforces even more that I don’t think I will ever have kids. I honestly feel like I have a higher chance of getting struck by lightning than meeting a man who meets my current expectations so I just don’t even think I would find someone who would pull his weight with a kid involved, on top of making me happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:59 PM
3

You’re just like your father. I guess you’re just perfect and I’m not. I don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:51 PM
26

Literally enraged me to read this. What a fucking loser. He doesn’t deserve his girlfriends second glance and she’s putting him up?? Girl leave him in a DITCH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:06 PM
50

Yep 100%. I feel actually safe here. Any time men are allowed an inch they want a mile. I don’t care about their opinions about women’s lives, and I’m sure even the ones who claim to want to be included are just sitting there jerking off to us anyway. Keep them ALL out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:48 PM
41

I’ve said for years, it seems like most men seek out responsible women to marry because what they really want is someone to replace their mother. They don’t care about having a wife... they want to be babies forever and have someone clean up after them and hand them everything they need on a platter so they don’t have to get off their ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:30 PM
3

Wow, I gagged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:23 PM
6

Wow, he really won the lottery didn’t he. He’s getting laid, being cooked for and getting paid for it too. Don’t do wifey shit for a fuckboy!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:44 PM
48

Someone said on here once that in every species, the male is the one chasing after and working to impress the females. That stuck with me so hard. Here’s to putting the absolute minimum energy into trying to impress men and doing everything in my power to live my best life for myself ONLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:28 PM
19

He called me Little One omg I can’t Edit nm I think he said little honey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 01:37 AM
44

I’m so happy and giddy thinking about you sitting there sipping coffee and laughing maniacally at the angry scrote tantrums 🤩🤩🤩🥰 live it up girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:28 PM
5

Oh I wish so bad I could post a picture of the last entry I wrote in my journal last year. It was so full of negativity and depression during the worst year of my life. I literally wrote “never again “ about 100 times as sort of a mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:26 AM
1

Amen 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:49 PM
1

Oh yeah I’m sure it’s very high. I just don’t bother thinking about it anymore because I know the second it gets brought up I’m done anyway :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:43 AM
44

Me too, but I’m noticing that when they keep themselves busy with productive things, they don’t have their mind in the gutter and they are probably not watching it or are at least watching far less. Men with hobbies that keep them occupied and excited is a green flag for me. But we can’t really know for sure. I just hope people keep talking about the detrimental effects porn has on the entire world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:10 PM
151

And the gf who will get cheated on the minute their lvm catches a glimpse of another woman lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:04 PM
8

I got rid of Facebook about five years ago and have been much happier ever since. Weeds out a lot of toxicity from all directions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:02 PM
78

I don’t know, I have low hopes. But I make it clear with every guy I talk to now I have zero tolerance for it. It feels so much better to stand my ground than to be shamed into keeping silent when I know my boyfriend is sneaking into the next room, intentionally lusting after other women and gratifying his sexual urges to them. Fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:00 PM
32

Yep. 100%. Nothing else to say. She said it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:03 PM
46

Sprinkled??! More like it’s drowning in those things! Hollywood is one of the worst offenders of encouraging women to have a Pick-me persona.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:18 PM
71

Fuck Hollywood tho...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:01 PM
30

Saving this post. I have a very hard time with affection = love, and I need to protect my heart with my mind better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:01 PM
25

I love this so so much. Yes, FDS has helped me respect and forgive other women in my life who have done me wrong. At the end of the day probably 90% of our trauma and insecurities come from men who have spent years manipulating and belittling us. They’re the enemy, not other women. That’s how I see it now anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:17 PM
8

Wow, I've never heard anyone say "underage women" before but if I ever do my response will be "Your pedophilia is showing". Creepy ass fuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:55 PM
70

Agreed. Please do not let any men in here. They are still men at the end of the day and will one way or another put their own interests first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:48 AM
7

It’s so impressive how self aware you’ve become. You’re going to thank yourself a year from now. I wish I had that kind of wisdom to realize I needed to leave my ex last year. You’re doing the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:21 PM
13

In your opinion, maybe. I thought he was very plain looking and I hate his stupid chin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:36 AM
28

I never found him attractive. Ever. I hate that all women are expected to swoon after the same men. I can have my own preferences and "types".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:20 AM
6

Yep 100%. Goes against basic logic but they’ll try and shame you for pointing out what doesn’t make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:59 PM
33

What annoys me more is that when men pop up in these subs to throw in their (unwanted) opinions on female matters, most women praise them and act all grateful for trying to participate in the conversation. It’s really obnoxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:43 PM
25

Ridiculous that one of the few truly “feminist” subs gets so much hate from a demographic that claims to have feminist interests in mind. Idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:06 PM
4

Ew so creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:12 PM
16

Fucking. Dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:08 AM
31

LOLLLLL “walk up behind her and smell her.” Holy shit. This is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:33 AM
410

Even he was like “omg it escaped my mouth” lmaoooo. Adorable and so freaking true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:25 PM
51

Lmao 😂🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:48 AM
35

He wants her to settle and have no other options while not doing his part in providing her a decent life. Gross. She can do better and I hope she realizes that ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:33 PM
7

They just don’t want to have to put any effort into anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:01 PM
46

Dear Me from 6 years ago, Please read this post and leave your ex now before you waste 5 years with him. Love, Me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:44 PM
53

I feel the same way 100%. This whole "10 layers of makeup" culture really puts me off. How about you just do this whole video loving your own face and not hiding it under something fake?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:28 AM
5

This is why I’ll never have children. I’ll just take care of myself and not have to spend time worrying about a child and a man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:30 PM
13

“Go to therapy and become normal, PLEASE” omg. This is my new motto lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:22 PM
16

So cute. Yes, thank you so much, mods!! I feel safe in this sub because of you and the other amazing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:28 AM
474

It’ll just hit you throughout the day. This was my entire November and December of last year. Cringing and being disgusted at myself for all the effort I put in while he reciprocated absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:11 PM
1

My ex husband once "took me out to dinner" (I drove), then complained about everything the entire time, yelled at me, didn't give me a gift, made me pay, then cried on the way home because he felt sorry he ruined my birthday. Then I somehow ended up apologizing to him to make him stop crying...? He is long-gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:47 AM
6

I have never been goth in my life and he got me like a goth prom dress for a teenager living in a cold climate I am laughing out loud at this. Oh god that is freaking hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:40 AM
3

What kind of question is this? Is she for real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:04 PM
30

It’s usually other women too!! They get all mad and give me the same face. “I LOVE beards!! They’re soooo sexy. I want a manly man.” Ug just shut up please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:42 PM
46

I really hate facial hair on men but every single time I say it I get verbally attacked. People are so insecure they can’t handle women who state they have a preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:31 PM
37

The first girl is Sooyoung. She is from Girl's Generation (SNSD). She's an absolute queen lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:08 AM
9

Omg I busted out laughing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:46 PM
3

You’re probably the first woman who ever stood up to him which is why he threw a tantrum. You did your part to let men know we won’t tolerate red flag behavior. Good for you!! I’m inspired by you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:00 PM
3

Please pm me as well when you have a moment!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:53 AM
26

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:41 AM
2

You have no idea how badly I needed to read this today. I started to catch feelings for some guy who was putting very minimal effort in over the past few weeks (ala he knew I was home alone on Christmas and even tho he lives 5 mins from me, couldn’t even stop by to give me a hug) so I broke it off very early. Too many red flags in less than a month. I’ve been a sad bitch this week so I really appreciate this post right now. I know I did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:14 PM
10

Made me want to gag reading this. But it’s probably true. I put up with bad hygiene from the last two men in my life. My ex husband got to the point he never brushed his teeth. After being married for 4.5 years his teeth were literally crumbling and falling out. Every time I told him to brush his teeth he would get furiously angry and say “I don’t want to! I don’t like to!” And act violently threatening towards me. I hated being near him. Also, my ex boyfriend lives in the filthiest house I coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:12 AM
5

Congrats to you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:26 PM
32

“It was just a joke, lighten up!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:32 AM
407

This sub literally taught me everything she is saying. I had no self respect or love before I came here. My life was being controlled in one way or another by low-quality, loser men who leeched off of my hard work. I literally have come to this same realization just in the past two months. I can already do all of the things I need, I deal with all my maintenance. I miss affection sometimes but I sure as hell don't NEED it, and if I only can get it from assholes who use me, then I'd rather just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:35 PM
45

This is why I am childfree and intend to remain that way. Men bounce as soon as their women get pregnant and even the ones who stick around become porn addicts and don’t respect the mother. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:21 PM
1

Lol that creep thinks I’d even give him the time of day? Wow, keep dreaming buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:44 PM
2

I honestly feel like this post is more of a male fantasy than anything. I’ve never encountered a male who wasn’t greedy and stingy af with their money, if they had any to begin with. They are mostly broke and unwilling to pay for a goddamn thing. They want to believe if they pay for things women will jump on their dick even if they are assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:41 PM
18

Like a 3 year old smashing a toy because they were told No to something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:30 PM
101

My ex husband’s default reaction to something he didn’t like was punching a hole in whatever wall was nearest to him. So pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:31 PM
5

Looks like you can unsub from here! I’m so happy for you, you found your soulmate 🤣🤣👍🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:27 PM
9

God bless this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:32 PM
36

Lmaooooo. This sub makes me laugh harder than any of the designated “funny” ones. Probably cuz we’re all talking from our real life experiences and it’s so much more relatable. I want to protect the lil cat/my clit lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:14 PM
71

That is such a major red flag I wish I would have paid more attention to with my ex husband. All my family members are very polite but they still asked me why I decided to marry him with these concerned looks on their faces. Then I kept making excuses for his bad behavior throughout the entire marriage until I was sick of my own self. Finally I was like, no, there isn't an excuse for his bad attitude and rude statements to my parents. He's an asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:35 PM
1

Omg there are few things I hate more than men grabbing or pulling on me. My ex husband did that shit all the time and it would make me instantly rage. RAGE. Like they can’t get their way so it’s the first step for them to turn to physically overpowering you. Definitely leads to violence eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 03:17 AM
1

💯👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:31 PM
2

So glad I found this sub. My ex husband was exactly the same. I would cook wonderful dinners, then he would complain about something he wanted different, and would never clean anything. Absolutely put no effort into the relationship. I remember googling once “can I divorce my husband because he won’t do dishes?” And guess what. I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:09 PM
3

I forced my ex once to help me put the laundered sheets back on my bed because I was tired of doing it alone every week. He lazily thru the top sheet on sideways and when I told him to turn it rightside up he literally stopped and stared at me with his mouth hanging open. “Right side up? Are you serious? It’s just a fucking sheet.” I couldn’t tell if he was joking or not. I was like uhhh yeah, it’s longer than it is wide. There’s a top and a bottom. He very real reaction was that this thought ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:50 AM
1

Yep that happened to me too. Also I had a post removed in /r/loveafterporn as I said I didn’t think it was appropriate for men to post in there crying for sympathy from victims (partners) of porn addicts. I tried to argue and say that the mod was trying to silence me, a victim, in a sub meant to be there to vocalize our trauma. And the fucker had the audacity to tell me my post was “sexist” and that wouldn’t be tolerated. I was like wowww, clearly a man and was looking for a reason to quiet down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:39 AM
2

Saved this comment. This hit home way too hard. I need to reflect on this so much. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:23 AM
3

That’s /r/trashy material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:07 AM
45

Nothing has helped me straighten out my head like this sub has. I found it after I had spent months sobbing myself to sleep, hating myself, wondering why I couldn’t be what my ex wanted (even tho he was utter scum and didn’t deserve me even glancing in his direction). this sub has gotten me up on my feet and reminded me I am allowed to and SHOULD have very high standards. Never to look down or settle for anyone who doesn’t treat me right. I’ve already had several really decent guys working to im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:14 AM
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We do too but as with most animal experimentation, it’s useful and helps us learn about our world and how we can improve things. Hearing about this experiment from 65 years ago has helped me realize why I have a trauma bond with my ex who strung me along for 1.5 years. And now I, as well as many other vulnerable women, can understand better how to avoid getting manipulated this way again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:12 PM
4

This was sort of cringey tho lol. I’m not gonna cry when a guy tells me about a podcast, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:58 PM
29

Right?? She even seemed like she was trying to hold back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:40 PM
10

Wow, I need to invoke everything about this girl. She really meant what she said, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:39 PM
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I honestly think my ex smokes too much weed to even formulate any kind of thought like this. I imagine he forgot about he three days after the last time I saw him, because he literally smokes weed and watches porn 90% of his waking hours. Which is fine. I hate that I think about him every day and I hope I can forget him and move on from the trauma he left me with soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:41 AM
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Ug yes so true. I got sick of my ex doing this all the time so one day I put him on the spot and demanded me tell me what "number" I was. I saw a deer-in-headlights reaction, then his bullshit 'I know the right answer!' expression as he proudly stated 10! and tried to kiss me. I just pushed him away cuz I know he was looking at porn 90% of his waking hours and probably thought I was disgusting compared to all the other men and women he was jerking off to constantly. Fucking loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:27 AM
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I don't watch porn and I literally don't even know what "queening" is, and I'm deciding not to pervert my brain with whatever that is by not looking it up. This is such a good point though... being casual about perversions is really creepy and a huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:20 AM
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No interest or knowledge of how to be truly intimate in bed. My ex would just hump away with his eyes closed, wouldn't even touch me unless I asked. Then he would just put his hand on my leg for like 15 seconds and withdraw it again. As if touching me was distracting. He was spending the whole time visualizing the porn he was addicted to in his head because he had zero concept of intimacy with me at all. It was so violating and disgusting looking back and I hate myself for giving him my body whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:17 AM
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Covered in Cliff Bar crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:14 AM
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Lmao omg I actually laughed out loud at this. Thanks for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:14 AM
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claim to be visual creatures That is such a good point but I also think that's just their cop-out phrase they use as an excuse for their porn addiction. As soon as I hear a guy say "we're visual creatures", they've pegged themselves a porn addict and I'm no longer interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:12 AM
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At least it's clean. My ex's house was infested with every type of parasite and bug you can imagine. Flying, crawling, web weaving. Also RATS and mice. This looks like such an upgrade from the horrors I saw in that other place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:10 AM
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Wow, I literally did this before an app was necessary. Just in the past few weeks I am seeing how pathetic I was. I gave myself entirely to the biggest loser on the planet and I got absolutely nothing out of it except PTSD from being cheated on and emotional and mental scarring that will take years to get over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:08 AM
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Holy shit lmaooo thank you for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:24 PM
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Your story was so adorable! Made me smile. That was pretty well played. You deserved it. And I can definitely affirm this.. as a woman. If a girl finds something to do in your eyeline, or is purposely taking too long to do something where you can see or hear, she's hoping you'll be interested enough to start a conversation about it.
/r/seduction21/02/13 07:53 PM
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My first kiss with my now-husband was so dreamy. We had been giving hints that we liked each other for some time, and one night we were walking around the block sharing a joint (yes, we enjoy a little weed now and then, sue me.) We got back to the driveway, and he surprised me buy sharing his smoke with me.. like putting his lips to mine and exhaling the smoke.. it's hot. Anyway, after that we totally gave each other the look of inevitability.. my heart was pounding, and he kissed me with total …
/r/seduction21/02/13 07:45 PM
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