Funny how they never punch themselves; it's always someone or something that has to be on the receiving end. Psychopaths.

MisandryFTW · 2020-12-19T16:33:20+00:00

I dated a guy who would regularly fly into a rage and destroy my things but never his own things, even though he was mad because he stubbed his toe or something random that was 100% his fault. The first time he did it I told him if he ever hit me I would immediately leave him. He said he was 100% in control but just chose to let his anger out on objects. I realized later when he never destroyed his own stuff that it was probably true. He also always chose things I had spent a lot of time on or had sentimentality and were expensive. Like I had saved up to get a pair of huge canvas custom made and was in the middle of painting them, he threw a statue I had made into the canvases destroying both because he got frustrated doing homework or something. I can't believe I stayed even when he hurt my pets. I'm glad I eventually left but it was scary to. Things are 200% better now.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2020-12-19T16:27:21+00:00

That brought back flashbacks to my childhood (they're not anxiety-inducing ones anymore thanks to therapy). My nvm dad did shit like this all the time. It went from holes in walls and doors kicked off hinges to him hitting my mother and I. Thanks to FDS, though, I'm healing. I have a few years of therapy under my belt, and this subreddit is helping my recovery.

chatrebelle · 2020-12-19T16:40:18+00:00

They still claim women are the emotional one and men are rational. Riiiiiiiiight

IdealMiserable6522 · 2020-12-19T14:13:43+00:00

I wish I wish I could have known what a red flag this is!

I will NEVER live in a house with holes in the wall again!!

Edit to add: I think I just realized even seeing a hole in the wall still triggers anxiety. 10 years later. Fucking assholes. :(

cutsforluck · 2020-12-19T16:53:21+00:00

Ah, this work of art transports me back to memories of toxic personality-disordered ex...

He just had to get drunk, so I had to drive his car back, 3 hour drive back on icy two-lane, two way rural highways.

He was in the passenger seat, playing stupid music really loud, bouncing off the walls, doing whatever on his phone.

Argument ensued because I asked him to please stop distracting me, as I was focusing on keeping the car on the road, and not dying if the car spun on a patch of ice.

He started berating me about not liking his music (?), took his CD out of the player and smashed it in front of me.

I looked at him disgustedly. 'What the hell was that? Was that supposed to intimidate me?'

He said he didn't care about the CD [ie deflected responsibility, that it was an attempt at intimidation]

So we listened to the radio. Until he smashed his fist into it so hard, that it stopped working altogether.

He expected me to cower into submission, not that he would ever admit this. Because he was 'such a nice guy' to everyone [else]. Who would believe me?

Not only he never apologized. He actually blamed me for his smashing of both his personal items.

_rainbowsprinkles_ · 2020-12-19T19:02:48+00:00

Abusive men only destroy things that they don’t own. They’re always in control when they say they “lose it” or “black out”

mouthyhousewife · 2020-12-19T14:56:26+00:00

Psychopaths have much more self control than this.

lessadessa · 2020-12-19T15:31:37+00:00

My ex husband’s default reaction to something he didn’t like was punching a hole in whatever wall was nearest to him. So pathetic.

SpaceC4se · 2020-12-19T16:31:19+00:00

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Pinklepurr1 · 2020-12-19T17:56:07+00:00

Mine twisted his ironing board into an abstract sculpture- after I caught him swiping on tinder. He went into his bedroom. Brought the ironing board out to the living room and twisted it into pieces. Then left it there for days before throwing it away. Crazy.

Descendant_of_Innana · 2020-12-19T19:07:36+00:00

Lol, angry scrotes flagged this post as "suicidal" LOL LET ME LAUGH OUT LOUD AT YOUR PATHETIC ATTEMPT TO HURT ME

BlackWidow960 · 2020-12-19T19:24:58+00:00

I had a thing with a guy once when I was new to dating and naive who would always punch things and fly into really violent fits of rage, although he always swore he would never hit me. Then one night he flew into a random fit of rage and threaten to hit me with an object actually his exact words were (“if you touch me again I’m going to beat you with this”) and I was just trying to joke and calm him down!

and although He apologized a ton of times and swore he never would actually do it since I was furious and refused to talk with him for days, I knew right then and there I would never be safe with him. Never looked at him the same after and then (thankfully!) broke things off months after. No regrets except I wish I did sooner! Beware of a man with anger issues ladies!!

Waste-Win · 2020-12-19T18:13:44+00:00

The staff are genius

prettyexcitingnews · 2020-12-19T15:03:14+00:00

Masterpiece.

anotherone1119 · 2020-12-19T20:31:22+00:00

Hmmm idk my psycho ex husband used to punch himself in the head repeatedly. He also hit walls sooooo...it happens. 🤢

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2020-12-19T17:44:45+00:00

To understand the frequency of DV, find out how many times the bathroom door or bathroom door lock in your rental has been repaired or replaced if the door seems newer than everything else or undamaged. But most bathroom doors in not-brand-new abodes show repairs. It's where women retreat when men start raging. Virtually every bathroom door of any place I've lived shows the scars.

mitzislippers · 2020-12-19T17:21:03+00:00

my brother used to put huge holes in the walls all over my grandmas house when he didn’t get his way smh they get away w this shit young cuz he ended up getting what he wanted from my folks

CrazyPaine · 2020-12-19T19:26:06+00:00

This triggers me because my ex did that constantly, throwing things on the ground near me, stomping around and slammed a door into my eyebrow. I still have a nasty scar to this day. I hate that I am experiencing anxiety because of that. Thankfully I'm out before he could cause more damage to me.

2020-12-19T16:34:52+00:00

That’s actually pretty profound

skyerippa · 2020-12-19T21:59:38+00:00

My ex actually would punch himself in the face in a fit lmao but he also ended up hitting me too so

Sashamorningmidnight · 2020-12-20T12:30:49+00:00

When i saw this last night, i felt yuk and moved on. This morning during meditation i realised it had brought a memory back

25 years ago, my boyfriend punched a wall right next to my face. What caused this rage? He burnt the chicken in the oven and was angry at himself. Then angry at me because i didnt remind him. I stayed another month before i left him.

Years later, a boyfriend broke my fave tea mug. It had 'witches brew' written across it and made me smile every morning. He broke it because i didnt make his coffee strong enough. I waited until he left for work, got my stuff and left. He harrassed me at work the next day, 'it was just a mug'. No it wasnt just a mug, it was something that brought me joy and he couldnt stand it. He broke it to hurt me.

These two are examples from years ago. Both of them helped me understand how dangerous men like this are.

Any sign of violence, as soon as its safe for you, get the fuck out. Stay out.

Reporter_Complex · 2020-12-20T00:53:10+00:00

I dunno, my violent ex used to beat himself black, blue and bleeding all the time.

Used to throw himself into walls, throw himself at brick walls, even set himself on fire. I watched him beat himself unconscious with a hammer.

You have crazy, then you have crazy.

Im lucky to be alive, and to have my best friend who orchid me in my face and said "*what the fuck are you doing?!" when I almost went back after leaving.

I would have been dead.

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vietnamese-bitch · 2020-12-20T01:12:39+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/antifeminists/comments/kgcogb/so_when_a_man_is_hurting_he_takes_it_out_on_an/

And the fragile masculinity continues. The comments lmfao. This is actually so pathetic it's hilarious. Waaaaaa how dare you make fun of me for being a fucking violent idiot and breaking things!! Waaaaaa!!

romantickitty · 2020-12-19T21:52:52+00:00

Obviously this is awful and completely unacceptable behavior on the part of the guy who punched the wall. But I also think it's a hilarious move for this business to not have to repair the damage.

7Cuervos · 2020-12-20T11:42:01+00:00

They start with objects, walls, etc. But it very quickly switches up and they punch YOU.

I dont think any woman should stay if you see half a red flag that could point to violence.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-19T19:00:50+00:00

Oh my gosh, I love this!

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2020-12-19T23:37:34+00:00

Oh god please one day can men who display such open issues with anger and poor emotional control please be sent on a compulsory anger management retreat? Women in workplaces should have a red flag system for men.

abstractsadgurl · 2020-12-19T21:58:57+00:00

This is a masterpiece

spicyspa · 2020-12-20T03:13:51+00:00

I want that!

Descendant_of_Innana · 2020-12-19T16:12:23+00:00

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Title	Funny how they never punch themselves; it's always someone or something that has to be on the receiving end. Psychopaths.
Author	Descendant_of_Innana
Upvotes	2770
Comments	137
Date	December 19, 2020 1:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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