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She raises him up above her so he can take shits on her head while he fucks women he actually finds attractive but she won’t bother him or disrespect him about it. That’s his peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:01 PM
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Her bills are his bills. They are married. That is not a motherfucking present. WTF is wrong with people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:54 AM
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And they're so confused why so many young women don't want to get married. Well shit, they hate women over 35 and call them completely useless and unloveable so right off the bat, if a 20 year old girl marries one of them she knows that she only has 15 years to build her family and after that 15 year investment, she's thrown out like total dogshit with her minor children she still has to support because they now see her as worthless. Who the fuck would sign up for that?! And women crying about n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:45 AM
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He wants a girl to rape his ass and then murder him? That’s what it sounds like he’s saying. Because that’s what we get by going with any and every guy available. We get raped and murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:34 PM
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He probably just doesn’t want to spend the money but if it is trauma from growing up so poor, he needs to work on that before he ever starts dating. So either he’s not interested in you enough to spend the money or he needs therapy and isn’t available for a healthy relationship. This is not worth wading into, you aren’t his therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:31 PM
65

That’s why their penises are all so small and limp now, they used them up. Gross, worn out sluts, and they expect us to accept that? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:27 PM
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Nope, no safe cannabilism fetish. Anyone who wants that done to them is mentally ill. The fetish is abuse of mentally ill people. You fight it by calling them out with disgust whenever you hear it. If you are at work you go directly to HR. You don’t feel safe. A friend has a gross, violent fetish? Cut them off completely. Full no contact. Same with family members. A relative’s husband informed people of his violent fetish or kink? Sorry Cheryl, I can’t attend thanksgiving as your perverted, dege…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:23 PM
259

He buys himself expensive stuff and then cheaps out on the engagement ring. He doesn’t love her, her worries are accurate, she needs to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:08 PM
30

Perhaps she took the kids and left because he’s a whiny little wimpy baby who cries over pictures of innocuous things like Chinese finger traps and she just couldn’t take it anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:53 AM
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I’m one of those people who struggles not to do things for other people. I had crappy parents and raised my sister from a young age and I just naturally do things for people. I guess I’m a mom type. But because I’m like that I have to be choosy about who I do things for or I’ll get used. So I think there’s nothing wrong with how you’ve said you are. You shouldn’t do things for people if they wouldn’t reciprocate, or at the absolute least, appreciate it. I cut people off if they’re takers and not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:21 AM
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I wish I had a picture of it but my ex husband glued a block of wood into our shower to “make” a double shower head. Random weird shaped block of unfinished wood and a few command hooks to hold up a second shower head. He considers himself handy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:09 PM
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This is what bugs me about my ex husband. He whines to mutual friends about how hard it was to be married and I’m like why? Because he had to work one single full time job? Does he think if he was single he wouldn’t have to work? How will his life be so much easier single? Because to me it looks like his work load has more than doubled. He now still has to work his single full time job while also doing everything else I used to do. While I’m over here going holy shit life is so easy now! If I’d …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:03 PM
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This is my life. I’m extremely curvy but also short and petite plus I have been lifting for over 30 years so I have a good amount of muscle. I’m either disgustingly obese and too fat for anyone to ever be attracted to or way too skinny and probably have an eating disorder and gross implants all over my body. I’d say maybe it’s about my outfit but I’ve heard those two statements on the same day within 15 minutes of each other. So many people suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:54 PM
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Yep, she’s teaching her children that if a man hits a woman the woman should kiss and hug him and apologize to him. I wonder if she’ll figure out her mistake when she visits her daughter in the ICU or her son in prison?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:39 PM
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It really doesn’t even have to cost a couple grand. I had a sapphire engagement ring I really loved that got me plenty of compliments and when I found the receipt after the divorce, it was $700. Beautiful rings can be bought for under $1000. There’s just no excuse for these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:34 PM
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We didn't know this at the time but her father was abusive to her mother, mental and emotional abuse. He definitely has some issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:11 PM
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Yes, shortly after this physical abuse began. And this was a guy who passed FDS standards. Seemed like a great guy. It didn’t change until he locked her down with children and then she started getting nasty surprises. That’s why I warn women, he can seem perfect but you still don’t know. You always need an emergency exit in case you discover he’s an intelligent psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:12 PM
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Oh yeah, she divorced his ass long, long ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:10 PM
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No, she did not know he was a total piece of shit before they got married or she wouldn’t have married him. That came out slowly AFTER they had children. I hate how women always, always get blamed no matter what men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:59 PM
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Thank you for this. I shot some coffee through my nose but it was still totally worth it. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:13 PM
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I have a funny, sad story. My best friend recently told me about something that happened almost 20 years ago. She owned a business with her husband, they're now divorced. Back then she worked in the business every day with their young son. So one day I stop in to see her because I'm in the area. I walk in and her husband and her father are there. I ask if she's in, they tell me no she stayed home. I ask if she's feeling ok, thinking she might be sick, they tell me she's fine she just wanted to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:57 PM
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That's because they are idiot assholes. And if it's anal, there's a huge increase in disease transmission risk. As much as naive people might think people who have been married for 10 years don't have to worry about disease, they're very wrong. I know two women who have AIDS from cheating husbands. I cried in the clinic and the person taking my blood held my hand when I found out my now ex husband was getting railed in the ass by randoms. If you look at the CDC info for HIV transmission, you are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:11 PM
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Yes, but they don't care about facts. They dedicate their lives to blaming other people (women) for absolutely everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:05 PM
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Ditto. And my only advice would be to run screaming from the relationship the second you realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:03 PM
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But "romance" to them means we need to fuck them immediately upon meeting them? Jesus, men are fucking disgusting. Why don't they just all go suck each other off and leave us alone. They can get plenty of "romance" that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:51 PM
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Oh how cute, he doesn't want his daughter! He pretended he wanted a baby and knocked her up but he actually doesn't want his own child because it's female. What a funny, heartwarming skit! Fucking barf. Back when I had my son we were military and we knew this other couple in the military who had a daughter the same age as our son. They were both about a year old at this time. The husband told my husband that when their child was born and the doctor said it was a girl, he wanted to punch his wife…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:49 PM
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When I was in sixth grade a friend came to school crying because a man pulled over and tried to get her to blow him for $20 while she was waiting for the bus to go to school. He has decided she must be a prostitute. She was afraid to leave the bus stop because she thought she’d get in trouble for not going to school. She was 11 years old, wearing jeans and a kitty cat sweatshirt. And they can’t figure out why we’re afraid of men. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:03 PM
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I was taught when I was 18 and drugged and raped. My best friend was taught when she was out with her sisters in a bar and a man tried to forcibly take her out of the bar and security had to help her. And what does ugly/unattractive men have to with it? These were normal looking men. He’s trying to say we’d enjoy being raped, kidnapped, and brutalized by attractive men and that’s bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:59 PM
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But vegans don’t come into your house when you’re at work and destroy all your meat. Cross fitters don’t come over and force you out of bed and make you exercise. But poly people will sneak over to your house when you go to work and orgy fuck your husband behind your back and then tell you they’re allowed to because they’re more enlightened because they’re poly and you’re just a prude so you deserve it anyways. Ask me how I know this. 99% of that community is degenerate scum obsessed with their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:37 PM
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I don’t see how it’s wonderful in theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:33 PM
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I'm wondering if this will happen with my ex husband's and my best friends. They were a family we vacationed with, we've known their daughter since she was tiny, and they will not believe me that my ex is dating women only one year older than their 15 year old daughter and he's a danger to her. (16 is legal here) It's so disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:54 PM
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Towards the end of our marriage my ex husband had a little crying fit because he felt like his birthday was overshadowed by a three year old. We traveled to see family and went to a 3 year old relative's birthday party. His birthday was the same weekend. I bought him a cake and a gift and didn't think there would be any issue since he was a man in his late 30s. Nope. He was hurt and felt ignored and didn't think it was fair that a TODDLER got more birthday attention than him. Like, what do you e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:48 PM
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The boyfriend is garbage but honestly so is the ex. The whole “I’m allowed to sleep with your boyfriend behind your back cuz I’m poly!” shit can go d*e in a fire. I’m really getting to the point where I hate poly people and wish a plague on them. I’ve heard this kind of crap from them too many times. They’re bad people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:12 PM
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Imagine... we don’t have to imagine it, it’s reality for so many women. We have to do fucking everything. Do you know how many women I know who got divorced and found being a single mom easier? A lot easier! And these aren’t millionaires, these are working moms, some not even getting child support. Still easier than having your typical American man baby in their homes. God knows my day to day is so much easier, even with much less income I live so much better. It’s unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:47 AM
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Honestly no, but I spent 20 years as a wife and mom taking care of everyone else. I do nice things for people naturally and if people won't do nice things for me, they're out of my life. I only have so much time and energy, I'm not wasting it on the selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:05 PM
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I don't want to be worshipped, I want a partner. I don't have a high opinion of submissive people, that just means weak to me. No, I do not want a weak man, I'm not a weak woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:02 PM
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I think you're deluding yourself. I had one of those equal partnership marriages where we built together too. I'm divorced now. Why didn't he care enough to get you a ring? Especially if you don't even like diamonds, frankly that makes it cheaper. He discussed getting engaged with you, told your mom, but never bothered to buy a ring? Oh, he's a poor student. Right, so he never spends money on anything? He wears donated clothes and eats at food banks and sleeps in a tent on the corner? No way for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:43 PM
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He'll use that against her when he leaves her. He'll throw it in her face and make her feel like the dumbest person on Earth and tell her how he never wanted her or loved her at all. I wish I didn't know that but with what I've seen, that's how that typically plays out. He knows he always has that out and can devastate her with it, he even joked about it at their wedding. I feel bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:34 PM
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Because even when a woman is talking about her own rape, men think she should prioritize the fragile feelings of random men above her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:30 PM
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Yeah, that grossed me out. Seems pretty insulting towards women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:27 PM
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Well yeah, watching or not watching porn doesn't guarantee if they'll cheat with other people or not. I'd bet they are more likely to do it if they watch porn but it doesn't mean those who don't won't cheat. That's the problem with lists like this, people think if they follow it they're safe. No. It just doesn't work like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:26 PM
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I found that one weird too. I've worked nights, my boyfriend works at night. These are actual jobs. I also stopped at "if he says he doesn't watch porn." There actually are men who don't watch porn, they aren't going to lie and say they do. I'm all for trusting one's gut but I think this list just inspires paranoia. Like I would absolutely never give a boyfriend access to my safety deposit box, that is insane. And they would not know where my safe is. I don't expect access to the safety deposit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:20 PM
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A common tactic is for them to do all the things you wanted to do with the next girl to hook her and love bomb her. They’re using the info you gave them to manipulate a new woman. And the bonus for them is they know if you find out it will hurt you. My ex husband is currently doing this. So the things I wanted to do throughout our marriage he’s doing with other women. It’s a win/win for them. They get to hurt us a bit and use our date ideas and wants and needs to trick another woman. They have n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:19 AM
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No. Most “submissive” men are just passive aggressive weirdos who still expect you to cater to their gross kinks while they whine and snivel about it. Any man involved in BDSM in any way is garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:39 AM
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Spending every free hour in the gym is also completely unnecessary. They're there to bullshit with each other. I've been a gym rat most my life, my boyfriend is a gym rat who looks like a bodybuilder. An hour a day is a lot and way more than most people need. The guys who claim to need to spend four hours a day in the gym are lying, they are there to socialize and stroke each other's egos. It does not take that long to work out. Many of them are only there to stand around and stare at themselves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:58 AM
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Because they're pathetic little princess baby men. They want to twirl around in a burst of color and come out wearing a sailor skirt and have a supermodel peg them in the asses. Oh, but they're alpha. They're like so alpha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:54 AM
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Oh, he's so goddamn stupid. He thinks HVM is about income. Guaranteed he's a no value dirtbag no matter how much money he makes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:53 AM
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Oh yeah, really good at hiding it though. Even with him point blank saying he fantasizes about k*lling me, people we know are still all, No, he can't mean that, he's a good guy. He has nearly everyone completely snowed. It's unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:50 AM
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It probably wasn't even a joint attorney. My idiot ex husband was too lazy to do anything during our divorce so he just figured my attorney was our attorney. My attorney said let the moron think that then and let's get this thing done quickly uncontested. But he was definitely only my lawyer. My ex simply did not have one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:01 PM
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I slept in this morning and woke up to my boyfriend scrubbing my microwave. Something my ex husband never did in 20 years of marriage. My boyfriend is not a cat person but he's cleaned their box and will get up earlier in the morning and feed them if they cry for food while I sleep. He's cleaned my kitchen more in the past three months than my ex husband ever did in 20 years of marriage. And this is my kitchen and my cats, not his. And he's a gorgeous man with a fantastic build that other women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:51 PM
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Yep, you should have seen my husband’s face after he smugly told me he never loved me after 20 years of marriage and I showed him how I could get alimony for life. I think his gulp was heard in China. I wish I had a picture of it. I’d blow that shit up and frame it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:38 PM
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This is how my ex husband feels. He's talked about wanting to k*ll me because now that he's finally made it and is making good money, he has to give some of it to me. I mean, nevermind all the years I worked and paid bills while he built his career. Never mind all the trips he took while I cared for our son, including two full years spent away from home. One overseas and one 10 hours away from us. Nevermind that I did everything for the home and our son and made him three meals a day when he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:32 PM
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You should kink shame. Everyone with morals should be kink shaming abusive "kinks." Because it's abuse. I don't care if a woman thinks she wants to be spit on and beat and choked. That just means she's mentally ill and makes it even worse for a disgusting predatory man to do that to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:25 PM
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Yep, I see it too. I've had people tell me I need to support the women who screwed my now ex husband because all women need to support each other. Those women were not supporting me when they were slurping on his fucking dick and spending what was supposed to be some of my retirement money. But I have to be nice to them?! They're my allies?! Fuck no, they are not. I'd bet my car there's a good chunk of women on here screwing married men because they're getting off on thinking they're better than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:59 AM
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The mistress fucking another woman's husband already made it extremely clear she wants to be against other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:23 PM
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I would like to sue for the money they knowingly took from him out of my marriage. I'm not going to lie. He was claiming money was going into his 401K and it was going to women who knew about me, some who knew me and pretended to be friends with me, and they gleefully took money from me and my son. I basically worked to hand money to horrible, nasty women who screechingly laughed about hurting me and my child behind my back while they smiled to my face. I don't blame women who sue. This shit is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:18 PM
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Exactly. I did work but I couldn’t do what my ex husband did with his career because I didn’t have a wife like he did. That’s why I’m getting alimony. Not because I don’t work and need to depend on his checks, but because I own some of his success. He did not do that alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:03 AM
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Exactly. That’s why after 20 years of marriage I’m getting 10 years of alimony. Even the courts recognize there’s no way he would have achieved what he has without my support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:35 PM
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I’ve never seen it either. My boyfriend is 5’6”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:31 PM
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Exactly. If they would just give us the money we wouldn't have to attack them and rob them to get it. They bring it on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:18 PM
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I grew up in a culture I had very serious problems with. I was fortunate enough that I didn't have to leave my country to escape it so I can't give advice about that. But my advice would be to start making plans and goals to escape it. It may take years. It took me years. You may be able to have a nice life while still there. I know people like me who still live where we grew up and they have nice lives there even with all the existing issues. But I couldn't do it. I needed to get away from it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:04 PM
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So he refuses to marry her but he becomes enraged when she tells people they aren't married. I wonder when he's going to start hitting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:57 PM
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It's not that he didn't care for her, he was just willing to murder her to have an orgasm. And he does not need her alive to have an orgasm. Jesus fucking Christ, I'm so glad she's his ex. I hope she's safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:31 PM
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FetLife is where my ex husband has all his horrifying shit. He's one of those guys with his dick all over his profile, and his face, and the city he lives in, and what he does for a living, and that he's a dad. (Because perverts need to know he may have children available to them? Does he use maybe I have kids you can rape as a selling point? I threw up a lot thinking about that one.) He's super easy to find on facebook if you go through his fetlife profile which made me super easy to find and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:50 PM
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I honestly don't find this even slightly surprising. Think about how our society pushes forced forgiveness (even for severe abuse), the importance of giving second chances (and third, and fourth, and fifth, and forever), and giving all men a "chance" to date them. Is it really surprising that young women have put murderers in the acceptable category for dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:25 PM
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It’s not my fault I find money in men’s wallets when I crack them over the head with a tire iron and go through their pockets. Maybe they shouldn’t have kept so much money in there for so many years and ignored all the nice banks. Don’t hate the player, hate the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:53 PM
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My ex husband was super proud of never using moisturizer and only washing with Irish Spring soap. He would brag that people think he's 20 (at 39) and he has to grow a beard so people will take him seriously. Otherwise everyone will think he's a kid barely out of high school! Super fucking eye roll. I told my now boyfriend this and he was shocked. He said, "The first time I saw him, I thought he was older than me (44) He thinks he looks 20?!" They are completely delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:32 AM
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Yeah, the whole even with a HVM you have to play mind games and be guarded or they’ll abuse you is depressing as hell. I almost died while back and was sick for several years. We can’t all be guarded and on point and ready to defend ourselves at all times in our lives. It’s not possible and I got a crash course in that lesson. If that’s the best I can hope for I’m better off without men. My best girlfriend will help me and not take advantage of me when I’m vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:58 AM
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You describe yourself as a super farter and you expect people to take you seriously? Good luck with that. I had medical problems that caused extreme gas and still wouldn't call myself a super farter or schedule time to fart up my bed to gross out my partner. This is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:39 AM
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Oh no, men who call themselves strong and masculine but actually need me to pretend to be weak so they can feel strong and masculine don’t want me?! Whatever shall I do?! It’s ok super princess baby men who need women to be weak, we don’t want you either. The difference is we don’t bother you about it while you seem obsessed with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:34 AM
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My boyfriend is not a cat person but he got me the most adorable kitten and calls him his little furry son. He’s definitely a keeper. We’ll see how the boyfriend works out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:42 AM
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I have not seen that. Do you have a link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:37 PM
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I'm all for living your best life and not worrying about having a relationship. But at the same time, if one wants a relationship, you do have to do things. I deal with this with my sister. She wants a relationship and marriage and kids but she won't leave her home. And I'm like that's great, that's your choice, but the perfect man is not going to break down in front of your house and come knock on your door. One actually does have to go outside and meet people if they want to meet people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:23 PM
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Yep, everybody just ignores all the pedophiles raping and impregnating little girls. Because somehow the little girls are the problem. It makes me fucking sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:09 PM
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I know he’s hated on here but if men followed his advice, what he actually says, not what they read into it to justify their garbage, they’d be decent people. He’s very anti Peter Pan syndrome and talks about how it ruins men’s and women’s lives. I’ve seen him speak out against porn and video games and he talks about the value of marriage and how late life divorce can ruin lives. And he’s right about those things. He doesn’t know shit about what women actually want and what makes them happy thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:50 PM
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It is wrong. He’s a pedophile. I will not associate with these disgusting men, even if they are family. When you’re 35 you’ll look at an 18 year old and see a child and realize why you feel weirded out now. Because it’s disgusting and wrong even if the law allows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:40 PM
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He's a pedophile. Her family isn't cute, her children are at risk of being harmed by their pedophile father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:21 PM
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I'm sorry it's got you down but you are much better off alone than with a porn addict. There's no future with them and the progression of their self inflicted "disease" is devastating to their partners. They destroy women with this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:43 PM
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My ex husband was a real piece of work but at least he never had shitty undies. Jesus ducking Christ, I can’t believe adult men leaving shit streaks in their underwear like potty training toddlers is considered normal. How disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:26 AM
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He has a new girlfriend. Stop bring his second sort of girlfriend and dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:57 AM
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No. They’re just quietly abusing the “right” one. Bad people do not become good people. Abusers don’t magically become fixed because they met someone special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:49 AM
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I was married 20 years. These young women thinking they have successful relationships mean nothing to me. I thought I did for multiple decades. What is she? Five years into her romance? What a joke. There’s lots of men picking women and keeping them until the kids are grown and then dropping them. She might find herself dumped too. At least I don’t have the guilt of being smug and mocking other women before it happened to me. She will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:17 AM
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Alcohol has been legal for a a long time but I’ve never gotten shit faced in preparation to watch young children. And I wouldn’t let anyone watch my kids while drunk either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:07 PM
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Oh, that's the same guy! No wonder he's laughing. He's a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:37 PM
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So that's her loser husband laughing at her for being so pathetic that she takes this shit from him? How "funny."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:35 PM
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And if the baby dies, he'll probably get away with it and move on to breed with another woman, shrugging off his shattered ex as collateral damage on his journey to enlightenment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:31 PM
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I wish I had left my husband the first time I got a weird feeling about the porn. But I got treated like an idiot by every person I talked to about it for even being concerned. Even by a fucking therapist. Welp, 19 years later and he's a hardcore porn addict who watches it at work, now is a pedophile, and his dick doesn't work. Could've saved myself a lot of heartache if I had just walked out when he ordered pay per view porn while I was in the hospital and lied about it. But gosh, what a terrib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:21 PM
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I agree with you. I have a lot of addicts in my family. I do not romanticize it. She shit all over her own life and threw it away like garbage. It’s sad but it’s the choice she made and she’s responsible for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:44 AM
7

I don't see anything wrong with being friends first but I also never have sex with my friends. Ever. I think it's disgusting. For a friendship to turn into a romantic relationship, actual dating needs to start happening and it's going to take more effort on his part than a romantic relationship that simply started with dating. Because I don't fuck my friends. I find that gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:08 PM
9

How the hell is that supposed to make anyone feel better. So you want the daughters of shitty men punished? They already are punished by having shitty fathers, they don’t deserve any abuse for that. This is fucked up. Screw you for thinking this is deep. It’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:10 AM
11

I’ve known at least a dozen couples who do that. It’s always become weird at some point so now I won’t add people with couples accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:43 AM
14

The husband messaging me pretending to be the wife, me sending a message intended for the wife about things like a school event for our kids and being accused of hitting on the husband. Having their account leave a comment on one of my photos and not knowing which one of them did it and thinking it would probably be ok if it was her but it would be creepy if it was him. I just won’t deal with it anymore. There’s something wrong with couples who do that and I don’t want to deal with their issues.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:42 AM
20

Holy shit, that would make more sense why it’s so valuable to him because he can’t just replace it. That’s also terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:45 PM
62

Yeah, it happened to me too. Years of dealing with his ED, trying to figure out what was happening, visiting doctors, feeling like it was my fault and getting asked to do things I wasn't comfortable with and it was all because of porn. And I didn't even know until the divorce. He was even watching the shit at work. Makes me so angry now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:30 PM
17

Oh, I'm so glad you got out of that. He was ramping up to start abusing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:24 PM
22

My ex husband bitched about damn near every restaurant. It got so old. And he pretended not to understand when I'd ask him to stop because he wasn't saying anything about me, but this restaurant shouldn't... blah blah blah. It ruined so many dates. My boyfriend and I went out to breakfast the other day at a brunch place we love. I had gone there with my ex husband and he bitched that the dish he ordered had mint in it. It said it had mint in it, I even pointed it out to him when he ordered it be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:20 PM
49

I think it's weird when it's two people in the profile picture if that's what you're talking about. And I won't be friends with any part of a couple who has a joint facebook account, way too many bad experiences with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:09 PM
4

So basically she doesn’t need the money at all. She just really wants to promote fucking children because she’s so passionate about pedophilia. Wow. I hated her when I thought it was just about the money but you’ve made it very clear she’s an incredibly evil pedophile. I hope she dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:05 PM
27

Any woman should end a relationship over this. It’s a huge red flag that something is very, very wrong with him. If he’s perfect otherwise that’s even more disturbing. Then he’s a very smart very disturbed person who can act better than normal. Those men are extremely dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:44 PM
4

My ex husband would always say this about horseback riding. I grew up with horses, competed, spent a lot of time on it. He sat on a pony once at the fair when he was 6. I didn’t realize it was a douchebag negging thing. I just thought he was competitive to the point of stupidity. Looking back there were many times I wondered “Is he stupid? Did he have a stroke? Is this early onset dementia?” But no, he was doing it on purpose to try to make me feel bad about myself. That’s a kick in the teeth re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:26 PM
22

I’m so sorry you’re going through that with the family. I completely get it. People tell me I should be happy I’m rid of my husband because I definitely needed a divorce but they don’t realize I don’t miss him at all. It’s losing the family that rips my guts out. It’s so hard. Hopefully it gets better with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:16 PM
39

That’s why I like it. I watch it the same way I watch it’s always Sunny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:09 PM
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He realized it right away too. That’s so disturbing. What does he do? Talk to it? Come home from work and hug it? Does he fuck it? This is too weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:08 PM
22

I rolled my eyes at the bit about alcoholism or drug addiction. I absolutely will tell an alcoholic or drug addict to get the fuck out of my life and never contact me again until they "cut it out." Even if they're a close family member they need to go get help and fix their own shit before they ever come near me again. And that's if they didn't sexually assault me by masturbating in front of me, which is what he did. If they did that, they're fucking dead to me. I give zero fucks about their add…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:15 PM
12

The guy and his wife were both deeply disturbed psychos. He was a gross rapist and she was an anything for science monster with no emotions who would experiment on her own offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:10 PM
5

He paid her $40. He's treating her like a very cheap hooker. Literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:57 PM
20

She's happy to keep the "child" because she can't wait to experiment on it. She was a psycho scientist the entire movie, that's why she used her own DNA. I actually think it was the first female mad scientist I've really seen in a movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:43 PM
20

I'm going to be really honest. I don't understand how you can compare your experience with cheating to this woman's. You found out before you were married. She found out after 16 years. I found out after 20 years of marriage. I was also cheated on by a man I was engaged to and ended the engagement. It is not comparable. Not even close. You genuinely have no idea what it's like to have a long term marriage imploded like this. You just don't. I do not believe most women on here have experience wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:57 PM
40

That's exactly what happened. She's making a few hundred thousand a month every month so she had to ramp it up and start doing porn? No. Her income tanked so she got desperate and had to ramp it up to porn. That's the natural progression of sex work. No one is so special they earn the big bucks forever and ever. Perverts get bored and tired. I remember when I met Chasey Lain working at a shitty, dirty brothel in Nevada. Super famous porn star with a damn song about her. That's what she had to do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:35 PM
38

People are ridiculous. I got it from dog sitting for a friend whose daughter had to have a kidney transplant. Her entire family got it and her son ended up hospitalized. They think maybe one of them got it from the hospital but thankfully her daughter did not. It meant she had to recover alone though which is awful but for the best. I don't know why it's such a joke to so many people. They act like if you're healthy, it's nothing. NO. It's nasty as fuck. If you're healthy it just means you proba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:11 PM
105

I'm older and have seen so many relationships, I was married myself for 20 years and I thought he was a good one. I thought I also knew at least one other man who was a good husband but since my divorce his wife has been venting to me and he's kind of meh. Which maybe meh is as good as it gets. Having your marriage explode spectacularly is enlightening. I thought my grandparents had good marriages. Nope. I thought multiple aunts and uncles had good marriages. Nope. Every friend I've ever known? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:59 PM
70

He makes up packages for his hook ups? So he treats them like hookers. That's sad. It's just really sad. If she ever wants a relationship with him he's going to look at her like she's crazy and remind her he literally paid her to go away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:53 PM
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I think it's absolutely ridiculous to be dating strangers right now. I have covid, it's not fun. I've been sick for weeks. Why would you risk catching it to hang out with some random stranger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:50 PM
7

Oh, I’m sure now that he’s a narc. I cried through the Chris watts documentary because there were times his wife was texting friends that she felt like something was wrong and they were all what are you talking about? He’s a great guy! That was my life, any time something felt off, that’s what I heard. From everyone. I’m just so glad to be alive at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:42 PM
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Well, I was the wife. It seems they literally get off on thinking they’re better than the wife. So the smirks and nasty comments have conveyed that to me very well. Some might just be ignorant girls who really fall for the lies but even then, how stupid can one be to think it’s a good thing to break a family with cheating rather than divorce?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:39 PM
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Women with high standards do cry when things go to shit. Women are not robots, we’re allowed to cry. Men can pretend to be great well into marriage and children and then show their true colors. Women are allowed to cry when that happens. We could try having each other’s backs instead of shitting on other women and deluding yourself that you’re too special and smart to ever be a victim like them. That would be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:36 PM
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Some of you are really cold when you insult a woman like this. You have no idea how devastating it is to find out a long term marriage was a joke. People eat bullets over shit like this. The pain was more than I ever could have imagined. This woman is dealing with this devastation and her husband and entire community is abusing her into accepting it. She clearly has no one on her side. I’m tired of seeing abused women insulted on here. It’s not cute. The other day on here I saw waitresses called…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:18 PM
9

If you check out chump lady you’ll see a lot of cheaters refuse to leave. And as much as insensitive and ignorant people will tell you to just kick them out as if you’re stupid, that is not how the laws work in most places. You can’t just kick people out. I went through hell getting mine out too and I was not legally entitled to kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:58 AM
11

That’s exactly what it is. As if he would value her if she was only harder to get or did less for him. No the fuck he would not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:54 AM
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Yeah, it’s such a “shame” she doesn’t enjoy being lied to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:52 AM
6

I was gaslit by literally doctors and therapists when I noticed things that didn’t line up. And that was just me thinking he was lying to me (maybe an affair? Is what I thought, not uncommon when a spouse gets really sick) nothing about him being a monster. But I’m still supposed to have known. It would be funny if it wasn’t so life destroyingly sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:16 AM
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We always get blamed for everything. It is very problematic. To this day only 2 people believe me, everybody else who knows him still thinks he’s a great guy but somehow I should’ve known. I’m more special and magically psychic than everyone else who’s ever met him. I’ll hear it the rest of my life. Victim blaming isn’t going away in my lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:14 AM
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Yes, we’re divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:38 AM
27

I didn’t realize how low the bar has become for me until I started dating a man who washes his hands every time he eats. If he goes into the kitchen, he washes his hands. It’s so nice. I remember having to yell at my husband to wash his hands after he would take a shit and then get back into bed and try to touch me. And he’d act like I was a nag because I didn’t want an infection from his dirty hands. And he was a guy who looked clean and showered every day and no one would have thought he was d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:05 AM
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Well yeah, most will never make anywhere near that. I said that. Most live in poverty or just above the poverty line. A few will get a couple good years but it will never last. And they’ll be held up as success stories long after the money is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:32 AM
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Well yeah, most sex workers live in poverty or just above poverty. And that's once you remove all the sex slaves being raped and women forced into it. I'm even removing streetwalkers from what I'm saying because they are not the sex workers I've dealt with. Women who live in first world countries who "choose" to do sex work and aren't forced into it usually qualify for food stamps with their income. This is reality. I was a sex worker years ago when I was younger and I have met hundreds of women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:12 PM
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I hate how everyone assumes the wife always knows. I threw up for weeks when I found my now ex husband's shit. I lost 30 pounds I really shouldn't have lost. But for the rest of my life I'll have to hear how I already knew and it's even worse that the accusation always seems to come from other women. It fucking sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:01 PM
39

Oh, but we LIKE doing dishes! Yeah, it's gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:46 PM
45

Men are scared of the dark? I’m not scared of the dark. And I’m also more afraid of being raped and murdered than mugged. If they think a man getting mugged is equal to a woman being raped and murdered then they’re just evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 08:33 PM
17

I don’t think shorter men are worse people in general at all. I don’t think height tells you anything. My ex treated me like I was supposed to be his mommy and he was almost a full foot taller than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:52 AM
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That’s exactly what she saying but she’ll never recognize her own hypocrisy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:52 AM
51

A few years back I had serious health problems. I was in a bunch of medication and gained 50 pounds. I’ve always been fit and that’s the first time in my life I’ve ever been fat. The entitlement men feel towards fat women is nearly unbelievable. I was approached constantly and insulted for refusing to entertain men’s gross advances. I had men walk up to me in the gym and grocery store to yank my ear buds out of my ears to talk to me. And then they were offended that I yelled at them not to fucki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:17 AM
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Nope. I’m an adult woman and this is the type of little trinket ring I might buy a teenage girl in my family for her birthday or Christmas. I don’t watch MTV. I’m an adult woman with my own money. Why would I want to marry a teenage boy or an adult man who thinks a little trinket for teenagers is an acceptable gift for an adult to propose combining my life with his? No, that’s stupid. If I was 15 I’d think this was a cute promise ring from a boyfriend but that’s the extent of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:09 AM
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When she has health problems or is taking care of their kids or dealing with a crisis in her family, she’ll be so happy that her boyfriend or husband is off fucking strangers instead of being there for her. That’s the reality of poly. The men are only focused on fucking. That’s it. I’ve known dozens and dozens of these couples. The women are alone no matter what they claim. Then men spend all their time looking for more women. She will always be dead last since he already has her. She’s more alo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:02 AM
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I've heard a great deal about unconditional love from men over the years, probably because it's a huge pet peeve of mine so when someone starts talking about it, I notice. What I've noticed is a man will say unconditional love for your partner is so important and I'll say that's stupid. It's stupid to love your partner unconditionally. And they'll get angry and ask me how. And I'll say, "So, you come home from work and your wife is on her knees sucking off your father and jerking off one of your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:41 PM
54

Nothing changed for me at 30. Nothing. I was bothered by men just as much at 30 as at 20. Now I'm 40 and I cut all my hair off, don't wear makeup and live in sweat pants. I still get bothered all the fucking time. I was hoping it would stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:25 PM
20

Kate is a moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:23 PM
39

Constantly hear about my big ass because I’m white and pretty petite. They think it’s cute to tell me they know I have butt implants. I do not and I’m offended by anyone making any comments about my butt in public. It’s crude and disgusting and I don’t accept people speaking to me that way. Before I knew what negging was I used to think a lot of men were unbelievably stupid, rude, and socially inept. I would scream at them over this and draw a lot of attention so everyone knew they were being a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:15 PM
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She’s fine with him hurting her pets. I genuinely wonder if she’s fine with him hurting her children. I’m serious too, she’d probably be one of those women who makes excuses for him abusing their kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:06 PM
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Nope, I’m not taking the blame for their shit. None of it. Their behavior is their own goddamn fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:11 PM
5

It is. I just had it done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:57 AM
9

You can literally get online and order the tests at a a local lab in every state in the country. You don’t have to test for it but you absolutely can. If one doctor tells you no, go somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:57 AM
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I don’t think they have to swab an outbreak. There has to be another way to test for it. Because I was tested for it when I found out what my husband was doing and it’s hard for me to believe my doctor and the lab made up a fake test, just made up some fake results and lied to me. They did a blood test for me. People can and should get tested even without an outbreak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:43 AM
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Yeah, I wouldn’t share it. My ex husband is way too open on these sites. I’ve already had a prowler/peeping Tom at my home and I wonder if it’s because of my ex husbands perverted online presence. I’m too easy to find through him already and I’ve been working on making that more difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:37 AM
2

Ha! I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:37 PM
7

Hearing that was why I read their books. I was so disgusted by that comment and couldn’t figure out why people thought it was ok. It just sounded repulsive and predatory to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:31 PM
7

Yep, Michelle is an intelligent, highly educated woman who clearly cares about her family and she still met the same fate as millions of American women, married to a jerk who belittles her, plays stupid when it comes to being a father and doesn’t pull his own weight in their marriage. I found it depressing as hell. I always heard they were such a great couple and then I’m reading it and thinking this is horrible. He’s horrible. Just sounds like an arrogant, entitled narcissist to me with no abil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:29 PM
19

That’s so sad. My son got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:21 PM
27

It’s because hpv usually only hurts women so they don’t care. If it was hurting men it would be a whole different story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:19 PM
42

Escape... from women. And they wonder why they’re Incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:03 PM
22

She is not a victim if she knew. I left the cheater, that does not erase the betrayal of the friends who slept with him behind my back. They are not victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:00 AM
17

The logic is that they get off on helping a man abuse his wife and they don’t like being called out for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:59 AM
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Michelle Obama had said flat out she was raising their children by herself and Barack had the attitude of “what’s her problem?! I just want some tenderness!” And then she finally accepted she would do it alone and he’d see her career as inferior to his and then their marriage “improved.” Because she accepted he was a shit father and husband. I’m tired of him being called HVM. Read his memoirs and hers. He is garbage by both accounts. She just submitted to it and deluded herself that it was fine …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:55 AM
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That's exactly what he's doing and sadly, it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:35 PM
14

Counseling to make him give a shit if she and his child die? Counseling will not do that, it's not magic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:32 PM
26

Mace. Mace them. Get yourself some bear mace. Anyone who forces you to stop or blocks your path is attacking you and you should defend yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:23 PM
17

I'm so sorry you went through that. I could have written this. I also became ill during my marriage and still had to work full time and manage the house while he acted too stupid to remember where the towels were kept or how to pay a single bill. You're right that it's just them choosing to torture us. They aren't really stupid, they're just abusive and get off on making us sicker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:16 PM
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My ex husband got super into BDSM. I never let him do any of it to me but he does it to dozens of other women. When we were divorcing I went through a bunch of his shit and he would post pictures of women being strangled with captions like "You think it's kink b*tch but I actually fucking hate you and want to k*ll you" He uses something similar to that as a hashtag type thing on one of his sites. So you can click on it and see all the thousands of men who agree with that sentiment. It's only a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:41 PM
18

My God, they keep buying them for you? That's insane. What a terrible gift anyways, even if you did drink beer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:36 PM
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Hooters t-shirt for Valentine's day from a boyfriend back before I got married. He was stunned I didn't like it. I guess he thought because I had big boobs I should love a restaurant focused on big boobs that I'd never even been to. I never wore it. I did not wear it for him. It drove home very clearly I was just a sex toy to him. The relationship ended. With my ex husband, he once got me this big, ridiculous gothic style dress/coat with fur trim. I was an adult woman with a child and I have nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:34 PM
12

Probably many women are less educated and less experienced with guns but that can be easily remedied by going to the range and taking a few classes. Men are not inherently better with guns in any way. In fact every instructor I’ve ever worked with has told me women learn faster and are more open to criticism to improve their shooting than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:52 PM
10

Where I live she would be arrested for that because firing a warning shot means you weren’t really afraid for your life. Just like if I show my gun to someone I will be arrested for brandishment. I’ve never even been to New York so I’m not familiar with their laws. In Nevada if you want to claim self defense you need to immediately shoot them. No warning shots, no waving the gun and telling them to get back. You need to shoot them. A lot of people don’t know these things which is why if you’re g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:41 PM
10

I’ll take my chances and choose the risk of being arrested over the risk of being raped or murdered. I know the laws where I live very well though and it’s unlikely to happen to me. There are reasons why homeowners are charged in these cases, knowing the laws helps avoid that. CCW is carrying a concealed weapon. I have my permit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:07 PM
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Good thing I have my CCW so I can shoot a man who attempts to “arrest” me for not fucking him. The laws allowing me to do that are already on the books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:11 PM
66

This shit blows my mind. I spent 20 years married and completely dedicated to my family and because my husband decided he wants to screw teenagers I deserve to be treated as sub human? I guess I’m supposed to be fuck meat for dirty incels now? No thank you. I don’t deserve to be treated like garbage because my ex husband decided to become a pedophile and abandon his family. Thanks anyways Kevin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:08 AM
33

He gets offended by normal questions that people usually ask when getting to know someone. What a psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:34 AM
25

Give and take means give him everything and shut the fuck up and expect nothing. It’s interesting how that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:51 AM
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Nooooooooo! I'm AlpHa! *cries* You make the money and feed me like an infant but then let me strangle you during sex so I can feel superior to you! MOMMMY! She won't let me fuck her butt! *cries*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:23 PM
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Don't attempt to make any male friends. You don't need them. Join groups for women and women only. It's harder right now with Covid, I'm struggling with it too. But there are women only groups for all kinds of things. I belong to a women's only hiking group and outdoor recreational group I found on facebook in my city. REI does women only vacations and camping trips. Most cities have women's groups and some are still meeting on zoom right now. I really think social skills just take practice. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:56 PM
15

All of his exes miss him is a huge screaming red flag to me and I was married to a very charming intelligent psychopath for 20 years who fantasized about k*lling me and turned out to be a pedophile and violent pervert who beats the shit out of other women to get off. Does he also have a lot of female friends? Does he call himself a feminist? Does he cry in front of people because he’s just so in touch with his emotions and secure in his masculinity? Normal people don’t need their exes to all mis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:26 PM
15

Three months. She was permitted three months to fully recover after birthing his child and now he’s leaving her because she isn’t perfect. But I bet you anything he’ll go out and fuck women who look worse than her and outweigh her by a couple hundred pounds if he gets the opportunity. Because their standards are bullshit lies. They will fuck anything. He just doesn’t want to have to grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:14 PM
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No, he doesn’t know. He may think it but no one knows that fast. He could change his mind at any point. Nobody knows shit about another person in a day or week or month. Anybody who says they do is either stupid or a liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:08 AM
3

How does anyone have sex with a 3 year old like this? He’s mentally 3 years old and throwing a tantrum. It’s repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:15 PM
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Vetting won’t always save you. You have to go in knowing it could go horrifically wrong and always be prepared to leave. The scariest psychos will pass your vetting flawlessly and everyone you know will love them. That’s where I’m at, it’s a super fun place to be. I’m just thankful I’m ok financially through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:10 PM
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If he was really such a masculine manly man he wouldn’t piss himself in fear of a strong woman. It amazes me that they think it’s impressive to admit they need women to act weak so they don’t feel like little wimps. Well sir, maybe you’re just a little wimp then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:04 PM
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I like muscles and I don’t care at all about a six pack. Most of the women I know into muscular men don’t need them super lean with a six pack. We’re not a small minority, we just don’t go for the super muscled and also super lean look because yeah, that’s kind of a gay thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:48 PM
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That needs to be a divorce whether he goes or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:58 AM
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Yeah, I can’t laugh at this. I was married 20 years, gave him a child, stayed in shape, still hear how young I look, did all the housewife stuff, worked, wanted more sex than he could give me with his porn induced erectile dysfunction and... Still thrown away for turning 40 because he wants to date teens now. It’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:11 AM
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Then so should her son. A woman not knowing how to cook shouldn’t mean her son will be forced to eat takeaway instead of cooking which is what she’s saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:39 AM
71

So in order to be "nice" we're supposed to be dirt cheap prostitutes. Perhaps their own mothers should start fucking them. They made these monsters, they should have to be "nice" and fuck them instead of expecting us to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 10:57 PM
48

I understand not getting married completely if you also don't live together and don't have children together. That's where I'm at. I'll never cohabitate again. But it makes no sense to me if they're going to live together and have children. That's just putting the woman in a very vulnerable position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:50 PM
122

He used her money to buy her a cake and couldn't even get the flavor she wanted and then he gave her garbage he found in his apartment as gifts... Jesus, yes, nothing would have been better. She's crazy for even considering continuing this "relationship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:27 PM
5

I've heard women say this shit in person. I think you might lose your life savings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:11 PM
7

She's having better sex than ever... and still not having orgasms. So her best sex ever of her whole life that is so great she's giving advice about it is still garbage compared to what I can do for myself with a finger and a few minutes laying comfortably in my bed. Yeah, no thanks. I do not need advice from this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:08 PM
32

I agree with you and I played it with my now ex husband and kids for awhile. And I quit because it started to take up too much time. It was fun for a bit but then it starts to be, "Oh, we have to be on Thursday at 6 for a raid or we're out of the guild." and I was like no, this is not my job. I do not ever "have to" play a game. My husband was pissed when I wanted us to quit. But it was supposed to be a fun family thing we could do together and instead it was teaching my kids they should devote …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:58 PM
66

The stay at home dad type is a homeless man with no job? Umm, stay at home moms provide stability for their children and if they were homeless, their asses would go get jobs to provide for those children. Not surf dating apps and look for hookups to have a place to crash. This is repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:43 PM
13

I refused to shop there at all it felt so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:29 AM
21

If you're going to date someone with kids you have to accept they should put their children before you. If it's not ok, don't date a man with children. There's nothing wrong with that. At this point in my life I would only date a man with no children or adult children. I'm not dealing with things like childcare anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:55 AM
43

Whiny, high pitched voice man baby screaming obscenities at children. So attractive. We're all so jealous of her that she has to have sex with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:03 AM
5

She's 94 years old?! OMG, goals! I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:39 PM
7

I'm in real estate. I've received messages like this to my business page on facebook. They are not appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:35 PM
17

Yep, my ex husband is on there. It's horrifying. I threw up for days from some of the stuff I found on there. My ex who was the "greatest guy ever" and "so wonderful with kids" thinks little girls were born to be raped. And it's all tolerated on there, it's all fine. Being a rapist pedophile is cool on there and if you have a problem with it, you're an evil kink shamer. It's horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:31 PM
45

I was so excited when my CCW finally came in the mail. I have no desire to ever pull it on anyone but it definitely gives me more confidence to tell men to leave me the fuck alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:16 PM
1

Yeah, I'm solitary right now. It'd be nice to find others but it isn't urgent at the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:14 PM
82

You won't have any idea what it will do to you until you experience it. That's the horrifying reality. There are all kinds of smug women who will smirk and say if you're just healthy it will all be fine but that's a pipe dream and the reality is they were just lucky. For me I have an autoimmune disease and had no idea I had it before my son. It caused complications the entire pregnancy and labor, we both almost died, it was an incredibly traumatic birth and it sped up the timeline of my disease …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:11 PM
104

I mean I understand some women may be afraid of getting punched for saying that. Because that can happen. But I carry a gun so I don't worry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:59 PM
162

Shit like this has killed my sex drive. I was a woman who loved sex but it's just not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:58 PM
3

Exactly. That's exactly what it is. Gross degenerate perverts who think they can invade women's spaces to get their nasty little sausage played with. Can't even become a witch to get away from men anymore apparently. I'm going to have to start my own coven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:54 PM
295

That's when you say, "Oh, so you approached me because you thought I was a child and you are a pedophile." Which could cause trouble so I understand a lot of women won't want to go there but it's where I'm at in my life now. I'm calling them all out, zero fucks given.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:52 PM
12

Ha! Yes, that's it exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:41 PM
43

You know what's fucked up? I just came out of a horrible marriage and will never marry or live with a man again. I'm dating a close friend who has similar feelings. He will never marry or live with a woman again. We're both damaged significantly in some ways. It's non traditional but it's working great for us. And guess what, he does all this stuff for me. That's what's mind blowing. My damaged boyfriend who was sexually abused as a child and can't handle a normal relationship or living with any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:40 PM
151

I mean, I looked like a child and had no makeup on and baggy clothes when I was raped. So I don't know what the hell he's talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:29 PM
67

You raped your girlfriend? No worries bro, just take a shower and make a sandwich! Jesus Fucking Christ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:27 PM
2

I would love to join a coven but I found a couple around here and they fucking let men in. Such a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:23 PM
2

I don't get it either. I don't understand how they function in society. Do they walk into restaurants and scream that the waitress needs to suck their dicks? If they see a female doctor do they scream at her that her only value is sucking their dicks? Are they forcing their mothers to suck their dicks? It's not possible to function in our society as a man who thinks women only exist to sexually pleasure him. He'd be locked up because he'd be attacking women in public. So they don't really believ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:21 PM
15

How can people be so evil? It shouldn't surprise me because I'm going through a nightmare of my own firsthand right now but it does. How do people do this kind of shit to other human beings? Especially people they claim to love. I don't understand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:00 AM
10

I thought the comments were so cruel I watched his episodes. And then I didn't care that people were cruel to him anymore. He deserves more than some mean words. The guy was total garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:22 AM
15

I usually won't insult a person's looks... until I know they're a total piece of shit person, then it's all fair game to me. Remember Big Ed? People went insane insulting him and everybody felt good about it because he is such a dirtbag. I don't know anything about Laura but if she's an awful person, I think she deserves it just as much as Ed did. I don't care about the feelings of bad people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:06 AM
36

This should be a breakup. There's no point telling him anything or communicating, he doesn't care. You can't talk someone into caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:45 AM
168

Oh yeah, it does. You can make them puke and pass out from the pain by attacking the balls. If you're ever in a bad position being attacked by a man, crush them like grapes. You can literally pop them. He'll throw up, shit himself, piss himself and pass out and you can get away. Back in the 80s and 90s my mom made me do self defense courses. This was like rape defense 101. If you can reach his balls at all while he's raping you, crush them into paste. It will incapacitate him enough that you can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:01 PM
10

Mine was an extremely intelligent psychopath. The really scary kind. All the red flags were pretty small until after 10 years in and even then they were deniable. He loves the concept of plausible deniability. He's currently sending me clues about how he's going to try to fuck our closest friends' 15 year old daughter. And nobody believes me because he's already painted me as crazy and he feels so bad for me because I'm just handling the divorce so badly. I have 3 people who believe me, fortunat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:17 PM
282

Of course not. They'll send us disgusting videos of them fucking their sex toy robots unprompted thinking it will get us hot and make us want a threesome with their rubber wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:07 PM
427

Women work in every industry there is. Every one of these men has coworkers who are female who do the same job they do and yet somehow our only value is sucking their gross little dicks... It's not even willful ignorance at this point, it's so far beyond that. It's like they are choosing to be severely mentally ill and mentally handicapped and devoting their energy to maintaining their delusions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:59 PM
44

Yes. The entire conversation took place right in front of her and the rest of the family. I didn't cover for him at all. I will never cover for any of them, I'm not that kind of mom. Even as shitty as my ex husband turned out to be, at the time he even said she should not have to work all day and then come home and cook for him. He called out his brother too and said if he wanted to be a house husband he actually needed to be a house husband and do things a housewife would do. I'm sure he later …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:55 PM
74

What am I going to say? She knows what her life is like, she lives it. I asked why he doesn’t cook right in front of her. I can’t do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:21 PM
268

Oh yeah, it's a big flag. I raised my ex husband's youngest brother through his teen years. Apparently he knew my marriage was fake and my ex was just using me for domestic labor and my income. Big betrayal there, but anyways, it explains why he sees women as less than human servants though. His brother taught him that. He is a "house husband" and he sits on his fat lazy ass all day and plays video games. His wife works all day and then has to come home and cook dinner. When I found this out I a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:39 PM
66

Oh, but it's so adorable that he's too stupid and dirty to use a hamper!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:12 PM
814

Of course they're mad. We already do all the childcare, all the housework, all the management of the family, and most of us work outside the home too, and now they don't want to even have jobs. They're supposed to sit on a stinky couch and play video games and piss into bottles while we do literally everything. Gee, I wonder why a lot of young women don't want to get married. It's like adopting a gigantic toddler you're expected to have sex with who also might kill you. What the hell is the poin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:54 PM
212

He's trying really hard to sound intelligent but not quite getting there. LOL It's like someone learning English and trying to sound like a native speaker. They may sound pretty good but there's going to be little mistakes. They won't quite pass to people who actually are what they are pretending to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:31 PM
12

My best friend is the same way and she has given up on dating because of it. She's 100% upfront about it and men will agree and say they're fine with it but then they do things like trick her into meeting their children before she's ready or start talking about her moving in with him or him moving in with her. And then they're shocked and angry when she ends it immediately. They all think they're so special she'll change her mind for them. But no, she's not going to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:28 PM
32

My ex husband would subtly neg my body. He would do it from a place of "concern" like telling me something I wanted to wear wasn't flattering or just didn't fit me right. Really tore me down over time but he was "nice" enough about it he could deny any wrongdoing if I told him he hurt my feelings and he would apologize. We were married 20 years. He started in on me how I was getting older and couldn't expect him to be as attracted to me because I had aged and I lost my shit. I asked him if he th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:19 PM
22

Yeah, the whole "I'm not the kind of person who would do the thing I literally just did and admitted to! How could you think I'm the kind of person who would do what I just did?!" screams personality disorder to me. He's a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:07 PM
23

I'm loyal. I'm very loyal because I cheat. My cheating means I'm loyal. Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain, I am very loyal. Yes, I know you saw me cheat and I just flat out admitted it but I am LOYAL! It's who I am as a person no matter what I do! So sick of that kind of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:04 PM
97

A 23 year old man who is friends with 15 year old girls and talks about their breasts? He’s not just fat, he’s also a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:54 PM
23

Yeah... don't let them in your home until you know they're potty trained. Don't deal with drunk or stoned men. It's never worth it. Notice how he was "so drunk and stoned" he couldn't stop himself from shitting everywhere and he was too "fucked up" to clean his mess but he could clean himself up just fine and leave to get home? What a garbage person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:20 AM
125

Who would want to eat a man? They probably taste like dogshit and frozen burritos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:14 AM
16

Yep, she has to be enjoying it. I'm trying to put myself in her situation and all I can imagine is being outraged for the girlfriend. And we've had men in our friend group date women I have absolutely hated. I've had male family members date women I've hated, sometimes because they had done something nasty to me in the past. I still wouldn't be ok with this on any level. Even with a woman I hated I'd ask her boyfriend what the f*** was wrong with him. I'd feel humiliated, upset, and wouldn't app…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:09 AM
59

Most men are garbage, you have to accept that right off the bat. If a man repulses you, do not date him in the first place. Do not give anyone a "chance." That's a mistake and one you're going to feel even shittier about if the gross ugly man you gave a chance to ends up hurting you. Looks are subjective. What you find attractive, someone else might not. Don't worry about what others or society think, worry about what you think and what you like. You're looking for a partner for yourself, not fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:45 AM
136

I spent 20 years of my life raising a family and my husband threw me away to screw teenagers. What am I supposed to do now? Harass my son every day? He is an adult and has his own life. Oh my gosh, fuck that and this guy can eat shit. He is so clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:35 AM
101

I just rolled my eyes. I know so many beautiful women who have been cheated on and dumped by ugly ass fat men who have less muscle than I do. I was raised being told that an ugly man would appreciate you more and be a better husband but it's a lie. It's always been a lie. My mom was drop dead gorgeous and my father was a horrifying troll and he beat the shit out of her and made her life hell. There's no advantage in dating ugly ass men. My experience has been that they're nastier to women. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:23 AM
40

That's sweet? To fake her out with a ring and then give it to another woman? Oh honey, they are fucking. If they weren't fucking, the "friend" would have been upset on the girlfriend's behalf. But she wasn't. She loved it. Because they're fucking every time this poor woman's back is turned. They probably fucked while she was in the shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:10 AM
58

I get it from the perspective of a woman who divorced after a 20 year marriage and will absolutely never marry or live with anyone again. I'm very honest about that, if it's a problem the answer is go the fuck away. I'm not changing anything for any man. I'm dating a man who feels the same way. No marriage, no living together. We get along and have our own space, it's good. Anyone who tried to build a traditional relationship with either of us would be an absolute moron who refuses to listen and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:23 AM
182

Exactly. They need to start saying, "No Bill, you can't come out with us for boys' night because you're a goddamn fucking pedophile and also stay away from my family and friends before you try to fuck one of our kids you goddamn fucking pedophile." These men need to be completely ostracized by society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:14 AM
18

What a gross disgusting fuck. If he had been hitting on women his own age he would've been wrong to tell them they need to take it when they told him to buzz off but teenagers? What a pedophile piece of shit. They're not interested. Any decent man would go away instead of standing there and arguing with them that they need to accept him hitting on them. His friend needs to drop him. Men who don't think this is ok need to stop tolerating friends like this. His buddy said they are babies so he sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:10 AM
128

I've heard this so many times. From so many people I would not have expected to say something like that. My emergency c-section was horrible but I'm supposed to feel lucky because my vagina isn't "ruined" for my husband. It's so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:39 PM
3

She already has 5 kids by 5 different men and she goes to family dinners and snipes insults at her elders for no reason. I don’t believe her husband would give a single shit that she did porn. He’s fine with all the rest he’d just be excited to find out about the porn. This is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:01 PM
10

Wives are useful. We’re basically appliances to them, like a dishwasher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:01 AM
12

Hell no, my mom is a piece of shit for screwing my ex husband. Her vagina does not make that ok. She should go die in a fire with him. Women who betray you horrifically do not deserve your kindness, they should be cut out of your life completely like the cancers they are. Block them just like you block men who betray you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:53 AM
70

You should appreciate me! A lot of men would just rape you right now! Jesus girl, run. That is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:01 PM
11

He was amazing in the beginning. I had no complaints. When we had our son he got up with him in the night too. Good husband, good father, everyone loved him. But it was when our son was born I noticed the porn issue. Back then he had to buy it like pay per view through cable tv. I was really bothered the first time he did that so he “quit” but he just started hiding it better. He spent a year overseas and I think it ramped up. When he came home he’d stay up late on the computer after I went to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:16 PM
45

Well, I agree with her on at least one thing. I don’t see her as a victim either. She chose all this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:39 PM
8

Yes, this kind of stuff pisses me off. I’m not codependent. I don’t say any of that crap. It doesn’t mean narcissists are nice to me or won’t abuse me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:21 PM
6

This will not save you from abuse in a relationship with a narcissist. Not at all. You’ll still need to get out of the relationship with the narcissist to escape their abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:20 PM
13

I’m so confused. Why would women do this? They do it knowingly? I don’t understand the appeal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:13 PM
8

Yes, I think that’s what happened with my ex husband. I don’t think he was a pedophile when I married him. I think he started up on Internet porn and it eventually led him there. And we’re older. There were no smartphones when we married. We didn’t have the Internet in our home when we first married. This stuff was not so easily accessible back then. It’s so fucked up now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:58 PM
15

TIL men become able to give birth when they hit 80. How amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:52 PM
14

Drawn to marry a porn sick pedophile... And you don’t see how you’re kicking me. You assume he was watching porn and screwing children and I was just standing there cheering him on... ok... That’s why a lot of women in my position end up offing themselves. But you keep calling yourself supportive. Thanks again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:29 PM
27

Once again, thanks. Does it make you feel better to tell yourself I just ignored it all and he didn’t pass all the requirements in the handbook? Because he did. He did for years. My getting tricked doesn’t mean I haven’t read the handbook. I’ve been through absolute hell and you’re kicking me. But you’re also a woman who thinks another women trapped your male friendswith a pregnancy and you know he cheated on her but didn’t tell her. So I don’t expect any empathy or compassion from you. Good luc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:18 PM
19

Thanks. I was using it as an example for how people can change and we have to be observant and ready to leave but thanks for the kick. I super appreciate it. Good luck to you, I’m sure no one will ever be able to trick you or hide anything from you. You’re special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:13 PM
27

Lots of issues with this. I wish you had told her. Also she didn’t get “accidentally” pregnant on purpose or not. She got pregnant because he was fucking her without protection. That’s not a trap. He’s an adult who knows how babies are made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:06 PM
84

He molested her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:57 PM
42

Of course, real heterosexual men take it in the ass from a really manly dude rather than have all that gay sissy sex with a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:35 AM
170

Yep, my husband was HVM when we married. He really was, he was a great father in the beginning too. But he kept watching more and more porn. Now he’s a pedophile with ED who beats women. People will say no way but yes, that’s what happened. Over 20 years the addiction completely destroyed him. He’s not even a human being anymore, he’s just a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:33 AM
13

I liked atomic blonde. Grace Jones in the second Conan movie is amazing if you’ve never seen it. She was my hero as a little girl. Hannah was good. Girl with the dragon tattoo movies, I never saw the American one but the original was excellent. The second alien movie has a female space marine which I thought was cool as hell as a kid. That’s all I can think of off the top of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:15 AM
89

I’m saying they can marry you and still be faking the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:09 AM
16

I’d press charges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:46 AM
189

My ex husband married me and stayed for 20 years and always planned to leave. I was just used. Yeah, it sucks and men who do this don’t have any empathy. They’re monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:42 AM
87

All he had to do was order it online. It takes a few minutes. He doesn't care. I'm surprised he didn't pad his little list with how he needed to take a shit and a shower each day. Oh, but who am I kidding, he probably doesn't shower every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:16 PM
5

He refuses to work and then doesn't want her to work either. And they have children. What a dogshit person he is. No wonder his parents like his wife more, they must be so ashamed of him. He won't even work to support his own children and then he tries to stop his wife from working to support their children. Total dogshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:55 PM
1

These are men who have no other accomplishments so they want their girlfriend to watch them game so she can be impressed that they beat the big boss or that they shot all their friends. Because that's all they have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:50 PM
47

Ooh, you're right. I missed that. Yeah, that's crazy. They're talking about engagement photos and there is no engagement. There's another huge red flag. And it is super weird to get the parents involved when it hasn't even happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:44 PM
8

He's a manager in the military and he's opening a shoe store? I snorted coffee through my nose when I read that. Lemme guess, he used to be in the military years ago, nothing impressive and now he's a manager at a Walmart but sometimes he thinks about opening a shoe store with the imaginary start up capital he doesn't have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:35 PM
40

He's actually pushing her. She has to hold on to the railing so she doesn't fall. So if she doesn't grab the railing in time one day, she's going down those stairs. She needs a divorce. He's going to k*ll her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:31 PM
13

The comment he made "If you see a mess, don't clean it up!" makes me think she's going to pay for this. I had an ex husband like this. I've lived this. My bet would be he starts up with passive aggressive BS to punish her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:27 PM
25

Holy shit! These are horrible! I hope she's in therapy. I'm not saying that as an insult at all, I really hope she is to get help. These are beyond red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:19 PM
232

Oh, he's ramping all up to start seriously abusing her. As soon as she accepted the engagement he put it all into motion. Make her dislike her looks and start being afraid to smile when she's happy. I was engaged long ago to a man who did this. Told me I had a bad smile and shouldn't smile so much. It affected me every time I felt happy. Any time I was enjoying myself I'd think of that and it would ruin the moment. That's what this asshole wants for the woman he claims to love. I dumped that m*t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:13 PM
56

$600 buys a lot of food. You know what this is? This is middle class assholes crying and playing poor. I hate this shit. I grew up actually poor. When we were financially fucked it meant we didn't have food to eat and went hungry or we couldn't fill our propane tank and had to freeze. This piece of shit has no idea what that is like. His hardship is not being able to buy an xbox because his fat, privileged, entitled ass has always had plenty of food and electricity and heat and everything else. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:56 AM
51

My boyfriend was just making fun of people who do this. He has a friend who owns a business renting luxury cars and people will rent them just to take a bunch of pictures with them and pretend they're rich. Some people even do wardrobe changes to make it look more like it's their car. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:57 AM
117

Yeah, this was my life. Christmas was always a hugely stressful, horrible time for me. Huge buildup of work for a few minutes of seeing my son enjoy his gifts, which frankly was the only part I cared about but I felt obligated to do the rest. This year is the first Christmas I'm divorced and I did a little Christmas shopping for fun one day and realized I was done and fucking cried in the car. It was so easy. This is the least stressful Christmas I've had in 20 damn years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:55 AM
28

Usually they aren't. I get where it comes from though. One of my uncles lost his wife tragically pretty young and raised their three children alone. He was a good dad. Unfortunately, good dads can be rare and it was nice to see. It should just be of course a dad takes his kids to the doctor and has no issue buying his daughters feminine products when they start their periods and things like that but it often doesn't happen. It's not normal. That's why some women find it attractive when they see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:47 AM
39

Yep, walk away. Let them be together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:28 AM
32

I love that they're following it. I hope they catch tons and tons of people. I have $15,000 worth of bitcoin but I don't do anything shady with it. I'm just holding it and watching. I think it's going to continue to go up because so many people are evil. Let them feel safe and get their asses caught, I'm all for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:06 AM
46

She torched her marriage and her career to kiss him once in a jail room that smelled like chicken wings and then he dumped her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:48 AM
20

Yeah, I'm wondering what he did. Probably deserves it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:49 AM
61

Yeah, that was a hard but great read. I would have sworn up and down that my ex husband was never physically abusive but then I got to the part where it was asking, Does he tower over you and intimidate you? Does he hit walls? Throw things? Grab you or stop you from leaving a room? Then you don't have to ask yourself if he'll become physically abusive, he already is. I had to sit it down and just stare at a wall for awhile after reading that. Yes, he did all those things. I never realized it was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:48 AM
240

Wow. So the first "gift" he got here was some trash he decided he didn't want anymore and the second "gift" she isn't allowed to have or take home with her because it's his... So he's never actually given her any gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:42 AM
130

No, this isn't ok. She raised 5 POS men if we include her pathetic husband as one of her children like she does. They all get seconds before she gets to eat? I've had it a different way. I did not raise my son like this. I don't want him to go on to terrorize and abuse a wife someday. She's creating shit husbands. I hate women who act like this is an acceptable way to raise children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:26 AM
60

He's not better than what he did. He is his actions, not whatever words he comes up with later. No, you should not trust him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:16 AM
18

The favors you don't want hits me hard. That was my ex husband. Doing things I didn't need or didn't want but ignoring when I asked for help with things that I did need. And then I was so ungrateful for not appreciating the crap he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:16 AM
140

I had a friend like this. If she did something that was a problem for me and I brought it up she would turn it into, "Do you really think I'm the type of person who would do the thing I just did to you?! That hurts my feelings! Waaahhhh!" Eventually I was just sitting there and was like, so no matter what you ever do to me, if I try to talk about it, it's always going to circle back to your feelings and never get fixed or get better. This friendship is not sustainable. And she was so shocked but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:14 AM
299

Parting words from my now ex husband: All the nasty things I've done to you over the years have turned you into someone I hate! Well gee, let me schedule in some time to feel bad about that buddy. How about the fourth of Never?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:57 PM
72

Yeah, he has no idea. I grew up in a very rural area. When I was a teen we would have city people move out there because they were going to "live off the land" and these people had no idea what they were doing. First they had zero concept of how much land one actually needed to do that. They'd buy a quarter or half acre and think that was going to sustain them. My parents had two acres, we could not sustain ourselves on that. We had gardens and it helped but no, we would have starved. And we hun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:47 PM
53

"Hello, electric company? Will you accept fish as payment? No?!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:53 PM
143

"She's pretty sold on the whole living indoors and being able to feed our kids thing. How do I convince her that living in poverty on the street is really the way to go?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:52 PM
7

Yep, I believe it. I had to have an emergency c-section and almost died. I have a friend who went through several miscarriages, including one where her son lived for several minutes and then died before she finally had her daughter. Her body went through hell. Her cervix would also give out because it couldn't hold the weight. She found out when her daughter was a few years old that she had rheumatory arthritis. That's what caused it all. But she had no idea she had it. Now she has so many sympt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:47 PM
22

So many marriages are pathetic like this. He can't pick up his own pants in the house he lives in? The man I'm dating walked into my home the other day and saw that the garbage was full so he took it out. No questions, no whining, I certainly didn't ask, he just did it. And he doesn't even live here. A few weeks ago he stayed over and I had to get up early to do some work in my office. I came down on a break and smelled bleach. He was cleaning my kitchen. And this is a big, scary looking dude co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:36 PM
40

He definitely will. He faced no consequences, he got a nice little vacation where he could screw anyone he wanted in their home while she lived with her mom and took care of their child and now he has his family back. Zero consequences for him. Next time he wants a vacation from his family, he'll just let her find out he cheated again and the cycle repeats since now he knows for a fact it will work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:18 PM
8

It's going to be even harder the next time he does it. And even harder the time after that. And even harder the time after that. Until there's nothing left of her. She's made a terrible mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:16 PM
10

I'm so sorry. I know it hurts. I was married to one of these guys for a long time and people would tell me it was a silly thing to bitch about and who cared if I could just plan it myself. But it bothered the hell out of me. And he indeed did not care about me at all, I learned that the hard way. It's definitely a huge red flag and I'm glad you're seeing it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:11 PM
11

There's overlap in the relationships. They didn't break up and then he happened to find the woman he wants to marry really quickly. They broke up because he found the new woman. I was the placeholder wife for 20 years. He married me. Then he finally found a woman who was into children (sexually) and dumped me out of the blue. I had to go detective to piece together what happened. They will do this. They don't want to be alone or without easy access to sex so they'll use women for decades if they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:07 PM
29

I fully agree. I'm reading a book right now called All the Rage and it's about all these couples who had nice, "equal" relationships until they had kids. Then the women were shocked that their wonderful husbands were suddenly, "Can't you do it? You got this, I'm going to go play video games." If you aren't fully willing and ready to do it alone, don't do it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:01 PM
9

That's not being a gentleman though, that guy's an abuser. I can't imagine a man smacking my hand away from a door or shutting a door I opened. That's a man who will beat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:55 PM
62

I'm not sorry for anything. I was a wife for 20 years. A good one too. None of that matters to a pedophile. I got dumped for aging. I suppose I'm supposed to apologize for that too, right? How dare I not stay 19 forever! Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:49 PM
11

I wouldn't do it again. I know women on here say don't say having kids ruins your body but it really, really hurt me. I don't mean lookswise, I mean my health. It did a lot of damage to me. I have a disease I didn't know about and while it would have caused me problems anyways eventually, having a child speed up the timeline significantly. We aren't taught about all the risks associated with childbirth. Stretch marks are nothing compared to what can happen. I was married 20 years, got dumped, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:43 PM
42

It can definitely fuck it up. I was married to a porn and sex addict for 20 years. I used to take him to the doctor over the awful things that would happen to his penis and I was so stupid I didn't understand why it was happening but I digress. With my husband, the skin of his penis would start looking dry and cracked and would bleed at times. He would not be able to get a full erection until it was healed because it would tear the healing skin. So his penis didn't get smaller (and it was a larg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:31 PM
14

That's the dumbest thing I've ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:23 AM
42

I've just never heard of it and I can't imagine being asked. If a man asked me for a "car date" I'd think he was calling me a prostitute and he'd be blocked on everything immediately and I'd never speak to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:42 AM
85

But all that will get you is a man who wants a submissive woman to be his servant. Most women who have any kind of ambition or talent would be better off single than with a man like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:39 AM
63

Ugh, that's horrifying. They just expect women to get in their car with them and screw them and call it a date? I can't even imagine that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:37 AM
43

The person on the couch with breasts is a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:07 AM
15

He cares so little about his wife and child that he’s still stalking the ex he’s obsessed with. I feel so sorry for his family, one day they’re going to realize it was all fake and that’s so painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:38 AM
166

I thought a “car date” was when a man picks up a prostitute on the street and she blows him in his car. What the hell is a car date besides that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:32 AM
33

She should pile it all up in the yard and set it on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:37 PM
52

I've actually had two weird comments from cashiers about this in my lifetime. My ex husband and I had a joint bank account. It didn't matter who ran their card, there was only one account. One woman made a rude comment about how I shouldn't have to pay. He was the breadwinner at that time, once again, just one account. Another one told me how I needed to be so grateful for this man because he used his card. I was actually the breadwinner at that time, still the same account. I'm not a fan of ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:31 PM
262

She's probably excited because taking care of her man baby husband is so difficult and exhausting and now she's hoping she'll get some help with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:11 PM
13

I found that show crushingly sad. The end of season 2 made me want to throw up. Definitely inspired me to go full no contact though and cut off nearly all mutual friends. I hated the OW in it so much that I almost didn't watch Killing Eve but I'm glad I did because she really is an amazing actress. I liked how she handled it when she finally realized he was garbage but she should've figured it out with what he was doing to his wife. It was all fun for her until it was aimed at her. But that is u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:14 PM
213

Could someone send this to the poor girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:56 PM
6

She’ll do the same thing she did with her extreme raw vegan diet years ago. She’ll make tons of videos about it and about how great her life is then when she runs out of topics she’ll come out and admit she was wrong and she was actually sick and had s horrible life while she lied to everyone to make money and omg, isn’t she so brave to finally admit the truth?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:55 PM
41

He’sa child and he wants her to be his mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:28 PM
9

Are you joking? My five year old decorated a cake better than that for his grandmother. This guy didn’t try at all, he couldn’t even spread the frosting over the entire top of the cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:36 AM
5

They aren't because the idiot little chicken shits who write this crap would piss their pants at the thought of servng.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:37 AM
11

Yes, trafficked women should be forced to touch his penis because soldiers go to war. Of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:36 AM
37

Does she think people are jealous of her? I just feel sorry for her. I’m 40 and grossed out by the thought of having sex with a man in his 60s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:11 AM
20

Even if they're being flaky, then you just don't see them. You don't explain to them that you are going to punish them for it. This is insane. And I've lived in California so I get where you're coming from with that. But the punishment angle is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:00 PM
14

What woman would ever agree to go on a punishment date? I don't believe this works for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:57 PM
32

Oh, that's scary. And for it to start so early too. I'm glad you got out of that safely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:47 PM
209

I just told someone else in a situation like this that she needs a divorce. These marriages need to end immediately. it's an entire family that treats the mom as less than human and the rest of the family doesn't give a flying fuck about her. Mom needs to divorce her POS husband and then tell the kids, "Hey, turns out I'm a person not an appliance to be used by your father so now the marriage is over. When you treat people as less than human they should leave you." Send those teenagers a strong,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:21 PM
465

What is it they think is over for us? What plans did we have that are now foiled by our age? 24 was a long time ago for me. My life hasn't ended at all. I have no idea what this guy is on about. Am I supposed to feel sad that gross men I would never let touch me don't want to rape me anymore? Because that sounds like a win to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:10 PM
8

I'm 40 and just the thought of dealing with a man with no sexual experience makes me want to throw up. So he wants a mommy teacher that he won't get attached to? Ugh, barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:07 PM
3

I saw this before. I still feel so bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:02 PM
2

Oh my gosh, I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:00 PM
62

Then they can insult her and beat her down for being a gold digger too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:56 PM
105

Mine thought about k*lling me. He even told me he fantasized about it. I got the divorce completely done in six weeks from that admission and he couldn't figure out why I was rushing it so fast. Um, you want to murd*r me? I kind of like being alive. I found out so much since that day. There is another woman. I found out he likes teenage girls (16 is legal here, gross but I can't do anything about it) and just the other day I got some new information that suggests he would go much younger than 16…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:52 PM
44

I'm a total b*tch to any man who brings sex up in a conversation with me. I am known as a prude for it and I don't care at all. I was married for 20 years up until very recently, there was absolutely no reason for any man to make any sort of sexual comment to me and I would scream them down and draw lots of attention to it and completely humiliate them when it happened. And there's still no reason, I'm not screwing any of them. And now it's all, "No wonder her husband left her." Yes, I was a ter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:44 PM
3

I do not have access to his things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:32 PM
59

Yeah, that's what got me. I've heard the whole "new mom drama" thing so many times. Had it used against myself a few times. The fact that the entire family is just like "Well, you're going to have to go along with it, she's the mom." just screams at me that none of them trust him as far as they can throw him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:21 AM
15

It’s a line froma song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:29 AM
18

This is what shocked me about the women my ex husband has been dating. I’m not saying it to be rude but I’m in better shape than them, I’m prettier than them but they’re younger than me and that’s all he cares about. He’ll call me fat and old but date a 20 year old who weighs 200 pounds more than me and looks like she’s my age. It really shocked me when I started seeing some of their pictures but like you said they only care about the age. Nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:43 AM
94

The entire family is convinced this man might harm the little girl? There’s something else going on here that she’s not sharing. This isn’t new mom anxiety, the whole family thinks he’s some sort of pedophile. There has to be a reason for it. Also why would Jake even want to be alone with the baby or need to be? And now he’s upset that he can’t be? No wonder the family thinks he’s a pedo. That’s really weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:19 AM
176

He’s also directly telling her exactly how he would kill her and the details of how he would dispose of the body. But she doesn’t believe she’s in any danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:17 AM
62

I bet I know why he’s divorced!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:11 AM
63

Because he's not going to actually do it. He's just going to scream about how he's doing it and how he's such a good dad for it so he can get lots of validation. And then he'll never actually go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:38 AM
68

Are they really so goddamn stupid they think it's women saying shit like "therapy is for women"? It's men. They're doing this crap to themselves. They should leave us out of the conversation, we aren't doing this to them. They are doing it to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:37 AM
19

Oh, I didn't even see that. What a trashbag. Yeah, I already thought she needed a divorce but with that info, she definitely needs a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:33 AM
76

They're either monsters to begin with or become monsters or they end up all screwed up and become alcoholics and drug addicts. One of the guys she used to work with who was always really nice to her after the scene and seemed to feel bad about it shot himself. Everybody involved gets destroyed one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:13 AM
51

I don't know but he's still hiding it from people who have known him even longer than I have. He's good at it. I'm quickly becoming the bitter, crazy ex wife who can't handle the divorce. He's a pedophile too but nobody believes me about that either and I don't have enough evidence to get him arrested. But that's a whole nother story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:12 PM
34

Yeah, where the fuck is OSHA if it's just a regular job?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:37 PM
70

He was one of those, "sensitive, feminist" types of misogynists too. Somehow I find that even worse, at least the obvious ones are easier to identify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:25 PM
7

That's the problem. They need to stop trying to influence the situation and let him fail on his own, for the girl's sake. And also, that is not what I said. I said they need to dump HIM if his morals don't line up with theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:31 PM
12

A man dragged into marriage is a bad husband. If dating with the intent of marriage is important in their circle, the proper response would be to drop this man from their friend group when he's shown it is not important to him. Not to tease him into marriage and certainly not buy a ring for him. He has had four years to save for a ring. He can do a payment plan. If it was important to him, he would do it, on his own. These are basic FDS principles, I should not have to defend them so hard on her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:23 PM
15

Your SO and his friends are not being helpful or kind. They're setting that girlfriend up for a terrible, terrible situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:00 PM
170

So she's considering stealing her daughter's college money to enable an adult man who has already flunked out of rehab multiple times? That's a bad mother. There's no excuse for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:56 PM
31

If he needs to have women raped in order to function he needs to be dragged out into the street and shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:49 PM
27

If he marries her due to peer pressure that will be a bad marriage and the woman will pay the price for it. No one should be doing this. If he doesn't care enough to marry her, let his behavior stand on it's own so she knows he doesn't give a shit. Don't teach him how to manipulate her to keep her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:44 PM
9

I really don't know how you can do this. If he had asked you out that would be incredibly unprofessional and grounds for him being fired. Just him flirting with you is a huge red flag to me. Men who are doing work like this in women's homes should not be flirting with them. And calling someone who was doing work for you for a date is an issue. I'd be enraged if someone used my number I gave them professionally to hit on me. I don't know how this can be approached. All around it's a no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:29 PM
52

Manipulative and horrible to suggest marriage to a partner of five years whom she lives with and has discussed marriage with... Boy, I sure hope she gets picked for shitting all over another woman. Maybe she can move in when the OP moves out of that mess and become the new forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:24 PM
15

Oh, it's ok. It usually is done because something happened and a last ditch attempt to fix it. I was just naive and didn't know that at the time. And I thought because we hadn't had a wedding, people in my life would understand why we were doing it. But it turns out a lot of them knew he was garbage and just assumed I knew and was "cool" with it. LOL, nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:14 PM
140

Yep, I heard it too. I stupidly thought it wouldn't happen to me because I had been in too. I was only a military wife for 4 years of our 20 year marriage. When it ended I found out he was active in a group about "dependas". The fucking rage. Nothing I did saved me from that. I became a dependapotamus to him just because I married him and that was all he ever thought of me from that point on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:56 PM
56

How humiliating. I hope she ends it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:52 PM
28

I can't speak for the handbook but I would think the ages of the people come into play too. I remember one women on here said she had a great boyfriend but they'd been dating two years and she wasn't ready for marriage yet and she asked if she was screwing up. But she was very young and still pursuing her degree. I know myself and several other people told her not to get married until she had that degree. I think that's good advice. If it's established adults though, I think it should happen in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:49 PM
285

I feel this hard. My ex husband and I were both military. We were equals. Once I left the military and had our son, it changed. I started to become a secondary character in HIS life. The change was a mindfuck and probably why I stuck it out for as long as I did, I remembered what it was like in the beginning and thought we could get that back. It was never going to happen, not even after he left the military. He demoted me to inferior supporting character and there was no coming back from that n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:37 PM
38

Sometimes I wonder if they get married after being together for a long time in an attempt to fix something. Like she found out he was cheating and thinks the commitment of marriage will fix it. And of course it won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:28 PM
32

Yes, I did not know this when we did our vow renewal. We were both military and between deployments and being stationed apart and far away from family who couldn't afford to travel for a wedding, the first several years were a mess. We got married in the courthouse. Five years later we had stabilized and were living near his family. We did a vow renewal because I wanted to wear a dress and have wedding pictures. One of his friends was all smirking at me about it and asking what he did. I had no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:27 PM
14

Those are the ones that bothered me. I had awful parents but I didn't wish for their deaths so I could get money. I was grossed out by those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:10 PM
69

So she's marrying an idiot child who grins about destroying their home. And she'll be so surprised when he can't care for their children and she lives in fear of leaving them alone with him because he may accidentally k*ll them with his negligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:08 PM
106

Am I weird? Everyone I've known who was together for a long time before getting married has divorced. Often within the first year of marriage. I thought it was super weird the first time I saw it, a couple who was together over 10 years and then divorced within 6 months. But I keep seeing it happen. Anybody else notice this or is my experience unusual?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:03 PM
5

I can't understand this. He cheated six months in, six months is nothing. End it. Instead she sank another 3 years into it? Why? I feel bad for people who find out about cheating in long relationships, I know how brutal that is but six months? She needs to grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:00 PM
51

They're addicts. They've made porn their entire lives. They have nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:54 PM
89

Look at that, they know they're destroying themselves and turning themselves into monsters and they're cool with it. How lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:53 PM
222

Yeah, it's all real. You're absolutely right and pointing out that they're bad actors is a really good point. The pain is all real. I've known several porn stars, was close friends with one who had well over 100 movies years ago and was big in the barely legal category because she looked like a child. When they ended the scene she wouldn't jump up grinning and high five everybody. She'd be sobbing, collapsed on the ground, and they'd come cover her with a blanket and somebody would hold her unti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:51 PM
4

Yes, this is what I'm seeing too. My ex would work 40 hours a week but whine about it and basically have a tantrum if he had to work any overtime, did nothing around the house, and ignored his family to play video games. And because of his porn induced ED he couldn't even provide sex. What was the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:37 PM
61

They're fucking. I don't believe for a second that a coworker he isn't screwing would appreciate a vibrator. If they aren't I hope she runs screaming to HR and gets his ass fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:34 PM
68

Oh, he might marry her. But it probably won't end well for her. My ex husband married me and never loved me apparently, news to me. And we were married within a year, not a long courtship and I never nagged him to marry me. But if they need a bangmaid/mommy they'll go for a woman they like to screw and they'll pretend they love her. Of course, they'll leave her if they don't need her anymore or find someone they like more. I wish women would stop humiliating themselves like this. It does not ben…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:33 PM
20

I’ve only heard of that happening if the information is false. But it wouldn’t surprise me if there are special slander and libel laws modified to protect pedophiles. Our society is that screwed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:09 AM
24

In most places it has to be false still. It’s not slander or libel if it’s true. Is that different in California?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:05 AM
17

Thank you, much love to you too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:52 AM
27

Thank you so much! It means a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:49 AM
133

The best part of this divorce is realizing that the morals I tried to teach my son stuck. He's watching the things his dad is doing and just disgusted by them. I struggled with social interactions with him because he is autistic but all that hard work paid off. He sees women as people, not inferior in any way, and he will openly condemn anyone treating them like they're inferior. And now he has a man who he listens to encouraging him to work hard and giving him advice on how he needs to pay if h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:43 AM
225

In my marriage it got to the point where I had to buy my own gifts for Christmas to have something to open. Before that I had to make him a specific list. Such bullshit. My son only found out this year it's been like that and he was horrified. He rode his bike to the store and bought me gifts and wrapped them and put them under the tree. The man I'm seeing who has been a close friend for years mentioned he needs to do Christmas shopping and I started giving some ideas (because I'm so used to hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:24 AM
8

He's absolutely disgusting. He looks like something that crawled out from under a bridge in a horror movie. And he cheats on her. And she's still there. If she was one of my friends or family members I'd be packing his shit and burning it on the lawn for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:49 AM
236

He needed to ruin the moment for her, hurt her, and make it about himself. Typical LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:08 AM
8

Perhaps they should start prosecuting every person who downloaded the rape of women and children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:28 PM
132

I guess she’s just going to have to learn how to masturbate without watching other women get raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:34 AM
12

I got cheated on in a 20 year marriage and he cheated with friends and at least one of my relatives. I still don’t understand hating the woman but being ok with the man. I know it hurts very badly but I don’t understand that and I experienced it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:14 AM
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My ex husband is sleeping with everything but his current favorite is a girl 15 years younger than him. She's 25. I still sometimes get notifications from what used to be our amazon account and is now his. I got one saying my package arrived and I was like what the hell is this, I didn't order anything? He had a book on How to be Polyamorous sent to her. I just shuddered. He's preparing her to accept that he's going to cheat on her constantly and sent her a book explaining why it's a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:03 PM
24

You also don't know what the man is going to be like as he gets older. If you're 30 and dating a 30 year old who dates women his own age, that's a good sign. A 20 year old who dates 20 year olds tells you absolutely nothing. My ex husband and I met young and we're the same age. 20 years later, he still wants women the same age we were back then. Women our child's age. If you had asked me back then if I ever thought he'd become one of those disgusting old men I would have said no, no way. But he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:32 PM
60

Yep, that sounds about right. I grew up really poor in a poor community. So many people who get every sort of financial assistance that exists will scream about how they don't want their tax money going to lazy people. They all think they're some sort of special exception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:26 PM
174

This is not a success story, nor is it cute. My God, this is the dumbest how we got married story I've ever heard. Just stupid. And she'll probably still be shocked when he leaves her for a woman he actually likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:23 PM
37

Oh, I'm glad instagram is cracking down on it. I've seen some gross stuff on there and there are plenty of kids on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:02 PM
120

Everyone I've known in real life who says stuff like this is either on welfare or was on it for years. I'm just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:58 PM
22

For all ages? Does that mean children?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:57 PM
77

Well, he drove all the way out there! What was he supposed to do?! Not get laid?! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:55 PM
113

I don't understand it. I get being mad at both of them, especially when the girl was a friend. That hurts like hell. But the amount of women who will forgive the man and go after the woman... I'm in a group for people who are getting divorced after being cheated on. A woman there posted that she was trying to reconcile with her husband because the other woman had seduced him and made him cheat. The other woman is a homeless heroin addict. Her disgusting, dirtbag rapist husband found a desperate …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:43 PM
3

Yep, this is my life right now. It's awful. He's turned out to be a psychopath who likes children but I can't prove it because everyone thinks he's such a great guy. Almost no one believes me. Doing things he should have been doing to be nice was a terrible, terrible mistake. One mutual friend even started listing off all the nice things my ex husband had done over the years to prove he wasn't a bad person. And each time I was like "Nope, that was me." They think I'm just bitter because he's sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:34 PM
15

They do post it. They send us horrible direct messages about how much they hate us. It happens all the time. I even get them on my linkedin profile and my business page on facebook sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:26 PM
4

So he cooked dinner for you and the kids and he makes all the money?! I'm not seeing the problem here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:25 PM
90

He's all, "She mentioned my wife to me... I have sex with my wife... That must mean she wants to have sex with me!" I need that meme of the woman with the math equations here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:10 PM
23

Yeah, I will not compliment random men nor will I smile at them or talk to them. The most conversation I'll have is if one asks me something like "Do you know where the bathroom is in here?" and I'll say "yeah, back corner." And then he better walk away or I'm going to ask him if he has a fucking problem. I used to be the friendliest person. I was standing in Starbucks once and a man in line struck up a conversation with me. We were talking about children, our children, he had three teenage daug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:03 PM
98

Wow. I feel like "He stabbed me in the asshole with a knife." should get the message across to her friends and family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:51 PM
26

Yeah, this sounded like it was from a really bad romance novel written by a man to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:50 PM
198

So real men don't care about women as people or their accomplishments, they just want a dishwasher they can fuck. Got it. Wife skills are just basic human cleanliness for the most part. I'm sure this woman making 95,000 a year can already clean her home and make herself food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:40 PM
119

And if those five hadn't been in French, she'd have written those ones too. I feel bad for her, she's going to have to do absolutely everything in that marriage and with their child. You're completely right, this is a great sign of a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:25 PM
28

He makes a bucket of spaghetti once a month and lives off it. He can't figure out why he has so many issues with indigestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:36 AM
22

I'm opening up the Bucket Gourmet. I'm gonna make a killing off these scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:35 AM
15

Yeah, they're pretty useless here too. I guess they did interviews because there were some angry facebook posts about "nosy people" but nothing happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:32 AM
157

I was married 20 years. I divorced in September. My ex still whines about the high school girlfriend before me who cheated on him and destroyed him. But he had no problem cheating on me. They don't ever actually deal with anything so they never get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:30 AM
130

I not a bad person! I just leave my wife after I failed to protect her when she needs me most!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:28 AM
36

I would feel sorry for her but she has her pedophile rapist father babysit her children now. She married a guy in our high school friend group and we all went through the whole, "you drop your children off with a known pedophile and you're both ok with that?!" A few of us called CPS on them. Still didn't help. Even if it was caused by abuse, she's a bad person now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:24 AM
45

Exactly. Every woman has had something messed up happen to her, even if she escaped the situation physically unharmed. It's that common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:57 AM
46

Yep, I remember the Pee Wee Herman scandal, it ruined him. That wasn't even that long ago and it was so, so different. I'm floored every time I talk to young women. The things they think they have to accept. No. Like, "He sent me a dick pic and asked me for nudes, what should I do?" Um, he's a disgusting degenerate pervert who just did the tech equivalent of flashing strangers in a park and then screaming at them to get naked for him. He should be arrested for it. You don't ever talk to him agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:40 AM
16

I saw this one. I'm glad she'll be getting rid of him rather than wasting decades or her entire life with him. That's the silver lining here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:19 AM
231

So the affair partner who helped him abuse this woman during their relationship by cheating and the affair partner's family are now harassing the ex wife or ex girlfriend who he was cheating on 30 years ago... WTF? The audacity of harassing the cheated on ex 30 years later. My God, that's a whole gaggle of horrible toxic people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:55 AM
127

I'm going to say something really messed up but it's true. The only woman I know who claims she has never been groped or molested or had anything inappropriate happen to her was literally raped by her own father. Along with her 3 sisters. I know this because she was best friends with my best friend's little sister. Dad raped all of them and mom knew. But she's on facebook all the time spouting off about how women are liars because nothing bad has ever happened to her. I think of that every time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:51 AM
175

On our first date he fished me a hot dog out of a gutter and it was delicious! Women should really lower their standards and stop rejecting all these good men! Oh, by the way, he keeps making sexual comments about my 12 year old sister. How should I communicate to him that this bothers me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:48 AM
119

It's really not classist. I grew up bone crushingly poor in a rural area with no public services. We had plates. Thrift stores sell them for almost nothing. There's no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:44 AM
59

Oh, that's so shitty. Your poor mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:42 AM
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There's no communication that will make them care. That's what it boils down to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:37 AM
2

Oh my gosh, I love that. I wish I still knew him. He would have loved that. Such a sweet kid. I once wore a fake hair extension and he came up to tell me he loved my new haircut and I said thank you but honestly it's fake. And he was all "Queen! You can't tell and if anybody gets close enough to tell you need to tell them to get out of your glorious space!" and he finger snapped and walked back to his desk. I hope he's doing well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:32 AM
32

It does seem to happen like that a lot. I'm of the mind where if a man tells me he's a dom or about any kink he has I'm outraged. I'm "Why the FUCK would you tell me about your sex life?! What the fuck made you think that was acceptable?! Do you know where the fuck you are right now?!" And then it's all backpedaling and uwu, don't kink shame me! Why are you a prude. Like I'm expected to want to know about every man's disgusting dick and how he nuts. This would even happen to me when I was marrie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:25 AM
22

I feel like I'm missing something here. Is there more than one picture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:20 AM
39

They are crabs in buckets. When I would notice issues with my ex husband my "friends" would act like I was being crazy and make me doubt myself because that's what marriage is. Now I'm hearing how I'm so much better off and I'm like wait, then why did you gaslight me when I was sick and confused about things and looking for help? Crabs. In. Buckets. They know their relationships suck and they want others to suffer too. If another woman escapes it makes them feel bad about not escaping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:14 AM
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Yes, exactly. If it makes feel terrible they should stop. My ex kept trying to get me to read this book and I started it a few times but I was like why do I need to read this? And he would say, "It will make you stop feeling guilty about sex and the sex you've had." WTF? I don't feel guilty. Why would I feel guilty? Oh, he was cheating on me and watching really fucked up porn. That's why he felt guilty. When it all came out that damn book issue suddenly made so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:01 AM
52

OMFG, I can't even imagine. You just know there were some nurses who were like seriously? Did he bring in a damn pot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:56 AM
56

It's almost never actually ethical though. My ex was "ethically nonmonogamous". Very ethical to hide it all from me and introduce me to his swinger friends he was screwing as if they were just actual friends while they all laughed behind my back. That experience has taught me most swingers and polyamorous people support cheating. They'll say they don't but when it happens, their community supports it. There's no ethics in those groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:54 AM
28

LOL I want to say something witty but I just can't get over the bucket. A bucket... Like the Monty Python skit. "Would you like the dishes served separately or all mashed together in a bucket?" Buck-it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:50 AM
87

What? Your dream date isn't eating spaghetti out of a bucket? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:47 AM
35

Well, I don't personally eat shit so that right there would be a problem for me right off the bat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:45 AM
98

I feel like it used to be shameful. Not that men didn't do it but they didn't talk about it and if they did they were ostracized as disgusting degenerates. I don't know when exactly it became socially acceptable but I'm constantly horrified by things men say and admit to now. And when I'm shocked and disgusted and offended, then I'm a bitter old prude. But that's the same reaction I had 20 years ago, and 20 years ago people would agree with me instead of insulting me for "kink shaming." It's so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:44 AM
106

I feel that. I'm 40 and my best friend is 42. So many men our age look horrible. They can't even be bothered to wash themselves and wear clothes that fit. And don't even get me started on the gigantic beer bellies that make them look 9 months pregnant. But they want a "hot babe." They're delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:40 AM
52

My God, these are awful. Why would anyone talk to any of them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:37 AM
211

The only way over it is through it. I hope I don't sound trite but I just ended a 20 year marriage, I know it sucks. I'm not saying that to one up, I just want to offer you some info on things that helped me. You let yourself have your feelings. Drink water. You're dehydrated. If you cry in a warm shower, it hurts your face less. Eye drops and even some vaseline on your face may be your friend right now. When my face would get super red and puffy and hurt, I'd put vaseline on it and stand in a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:33 AM
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Facebook is really common in my industry (IG to a lesser extent but it's used) so those don't bother me. But things like tiktok and snapchat, yeah, that's a no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:17 AM
74

They think their pathetic need for external validation from women who are random strangers is more important than us literally not wanting to be raped. That's exactly what it is. They do not see us as human beings. If they did, they wouldn't think their precious feefees were more important than our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:16 AM
126

I think any friend who would flirt with your boyfriend needs to be dropped from your life because she's toxic. A boyfriend who tries to separate you from your friends has just exposed himself as an abuser. Run from those men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:43 AM
164

They are such hypocrites. My ex husband used to pick at my body, my clothing and my makeup and then finally I was like "Do you think your gut is attractive? Do you think I find it attractive that your gut hangs out the bottom of your shirts like you're a toddler growing out of your clothes?" We only lasted a couple months after that. Then I'm shallow, mean, and don't appreciate him. For giving him back the same energy he gave me. His new girlfriend appreciates his toddler tummy. She can have it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:41 AM
265

Yes, not dyeing my gray hair is exactly the same thing as never washing my ass again. Of course! Thank you for explaining it to us Mr. Cappadocia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:57 AM
26

Yep, I’m conventionally attractive. That doesn’t save us. Plenty of the women getting abused and raped in porn videos all over the Internet are stunningly gorgeous. It didn’t save them either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:45 AM
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So he doesn’t like screwing her but he wants her to stick around and waste her time so he can screw her until he finds someone he actually wants to be with. And we’re supposed to feel bad for him because using a living person as a sex doll is tearing him apart. God, I hope she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:38 AM
130

He just told you he’s a degenerate pervert and probably a pedophile. Listen to him. Get rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:32 AM
3

They are insane. I had one guy screaming at me who used his girlfiend's membership account to purchase it and then a different woman's credit card to pay for it. They system cancelled the order. This is costco, it's a member only item, you have to be a member to buy it and when the credit card name doesn't match the membership name, the system cancels the order as possible fraud. He was screaming at me to place him a new order. 1. You are not a member, you cannot purchase this item. 2. We don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:33 PM
3

She doesn't have to throw it all away. He already threw it away to screw a woman who is a child to them. It's gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:10 PM
11

Good for you for getting out of that. I think the food thing is huge. A few years back I worked with a young gay man who was thinking of ending things with his boyfriend. He was saying that his boyfriend would do things like stop at taco bell after work and come home with taco bell but never call him or text him and say, "Hey, do you want anything from taco bell?" And people were giving him shit for it. You're going to end a relationship over taco bell, seriously? He was like it's not about the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:05 PM
9

Yep, it's a mistake. And then when your "best friend" torpedos your life and betrays you, where do you go? To your mutual other friends? LOL Oh no, I've been there, it's not a good place to be. Thank God I still had my best friend from school to get me through this. We're long distance but I'm pretty sure being able to talk to her saved my life. Women need friends. They need their own friends and they need friends who are women. I know pickmes will roll their eyes and say no you don't but yes yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:54 PM
9

It's very, very hard to start doing it. I fully understand that and agree. It seems like you have to get rid of almost everyone when you start. But it's worth it. I have a best friend of 20 years, she has never hurt me. I've never hurt her. We've never insulted each other and we've never betrayed each other. Those people are out there. But you won't ever find them if you're preoccupied with crappy people you kept giving more chances to hurt you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:41 PM
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They shouldn't be dating married men at all. Cheating is abuse. A woman who knowingly dates a married man is helping that man abuse his wife. It's beyond pickme shit. Nobody here should be doing that. It's destroying another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:21 PM
9

There are women on here who condone dating married men. I've been in arguments about it on here and told I need to empower those other women who choose to be affair partners. Big no from me. They're helping a man abuse his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:19 PM
56

They genuinely don't care. That's what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:17 PM
15

So dad groomed his daughter's friend from the time she was 15. This is horrible but not unusual. Pedophiles don't care about their own children either. People need to start fully understanding that. They don't care about anything but their disgusting genitals, if they did, they wouldn't be able to do things like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:16 PM
62

Yeah, that's not quality time. I'll sometimes read or write while my boyfriend watches a movie and while we may be in the same room or even sitting in the same bed, that is not quality time. It sure as hell is not any kind of date night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:10 PM
66

She's asking her boyfriend to ignore her while he plays video games? Good God, that's a whole new level of pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:04 PM
82

I laughed so hard I choked on my coffee. Thank you. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:03 PM
36

I wasted so many years of my life like this with my ex husband. I feel stupid about it now. It's not ok. What a waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:03 PM
6

They can also be very public about it. Mine was insanely public to everyone he interacted with about how much he loved me and how I was the best thing that ever happened to him. To the point where when he said he hated me and wanted to k*ll me, multiple people actually said, "No, that's not possible. He loves you so much, he must have something going on in his life." But I felt unusually close to my ex husband. It was like we were on the same wavelength about everything. He was mirroring me whil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:57 PM
2

Yep, this is exactly how it is. I 100% thought I was the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:52 PM
38

Why are we expected to constantly communicate while they grunt and fart? If it’s so important to them perhaps THEY should learn how to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:31 PM
4

That's so gross. I'm so glad I divorced my gamer husband and don't have to have this shit in my home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:09 AM
49

Nope. That's not an acceptable request. Right there you know he has entitlement issues and is bad news. How socially inept is this guy that he thinks he can make this kind of request?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:59 AM
33

Yeah, I think that's a big part of it. I'm not attracted to 20 year olds and I'm grossed out by women my age who are. I don't think it's empowering or cool when an older woman does it, it's just as disgusting to me as when an old man goes for young girls and I see them as predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:07 AM
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It's super fucked up. I still feel sorry for her but she wants nothing to do with me. I was the daughter who worked to keep food on the table and the lights on as a kid. She desperately wants my sister back though even though my sister has always hated them and did nothing but take from them. I don't blame her but it's been very obvious our entire lives I was the one who cared and she wasn't. But she's the one they want in the family and I was thrown away. I'm almost a full decade older than my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:01 AM
12

I was working a part time job doing customer service on the phone at home to make some extra money for Christmas. I literally quit because of the PS5 losers. Not worth being screamed at by man children about something so unimportant, especially when most of them were calling about a system ordered on a woman's account, with a woman's credit card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:28 AM
28

She's right. There's no point arguing with men about it. Sometimes if a woman says something fucked up, I'll try because I think there may be hope for her. But a man who is spouting fucked up stuff about women? He needs to just go to prison or get hit by a bus. There's no changing them or saving them, they just need to be written off and avoided as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:26 AM
24

Yes, they compared working in fast food to financially supporting the rape of children. They really did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:19 AM
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My mom is a broken alcoholic who lives a sad life where she thinks the squirrels in her yard are her children and she alternates between spoiling them and screaming at them. But she had a "successful" marriage that lasted until my father died! His abuse completely destroyed her as a human being and we can't have any relationship with her and I'm actually afraid she might snap and shoot somebody but that's supposed to be a good thing because she didn't get a divorce. If she had divorced, we might…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:17 AM
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So a 15 year old girl's parents invite an adult drug addict to come into their home and rape their daughter. I'd like to say that's unrealistic but the shit I'm seeing with my ex husband whom I'm sure is a pedophile but I can't prove it is teaching me that many parents out there are indeed cool with their children being raped and/or manipulated by older men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:13 AM
2

Oh, I'm sure there's mental illness in play here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:48 PM
67

He's delusional. If he's alive in 20 years it will be just as disgusting if not more. He'll be shitting his diapers and she'll be a healthy active 40 year old who has to change her husband and wipe his ass. And he'll still want her to suck his dick afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:26 PM
18

He just openly says he's a pedophile. People should go to prison for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:24 PM
13

Oh, I believe it. When I dress up they look but nobody dares approach me. But women will compliment my outfits. It’s great. I bet you look amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:25 AM
2

Two years is nothing, she needs to get the hell out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:52 PM
21

Yeah, that just confirms what I thought, he does not care about her at all. She's just a thing to be used for his dick. He's going to try to force her to have a threesome to save her marriage. He's a rapist. She has to submit to unwanted sex and be raped to keep her family together. He's evil. I hope like hell she divorces him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:47 PM
8

She needs a divorce. He doesn't see her as a human being. She's his wife appliance that he owns. Because when you think of someone as an actual person, you don't think shit like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:44 PM
7

They act insulted because they don't actually like it or want to do it either and they're angry that other women can just not do it because they don't feel like they have that choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:29 PM
4

You recognize that people who would say those things to you are disgusting degenerates and you don't associate with them. If someone outs themselves as a grotesque pervert who wants to talk about being a sexual freak and call you a prude, you get away from them just like you would get away from a man openly masturbating in a public park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:26 PM
16

Oh, I think they're in for a big surprise. I feel like more and more women are just fucking done competing. This pandemic is teaching so many women that men are useless garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:22 PM
8

My heart breaks for her. I don't care how much she says it's ok, this hurt her. She's doing the "good wife" thing and being a "good sport" but this is screwed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:19 PM
27

Oh, the math tutor one.... You come into my home as my paid employee and you try to fuck my teenager? I'd beat him to death with a fucking hammer, consequences be damned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:15 PM
11

What a stupid fucking shitbag. Whining that women dare to do the shit he does himself online. Look at you calling yourself unacceptable Jack. I'd like to think the ugly idiot would learn something from this but he will not. They never do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:00 PM
39

Yep, it's super frustrating. Like when I was married and cooked all the food and he'd make a pot of spaghetti one night with boxed noodles and canned sauce and people would be all, "Ooooooooh, he boiled water?! OMG, you are so lucky! He's smart enough to open a can?! What a catch, how amazing! You should be so grateful a man cooked you one meal after you cooked him thousands because those thousands of meals are meaningless in comparison to his boxed noodles and canned sauce magnificence!" If the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:52 PM
28

Why would anyone want to follow a wimpy little pathetic man who is threatened by a woman having a career or going to the gym? Yeah Randy, I am more masculine than you, damn near every woman is and that's a YOU problem not an us problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:44 PM
138

Yeah, they're disgusting predators. They don't want sex, they want to take advantage of a woman going through a hard time and hurt her. The damage is more important to them than the sex. I just went through a divorce. I have days where I roll out of bed, hair sticking up everywhere, no makeup, wearing the sweats I slept in, probably smell off because i didn't shower and I go to the grocery store to pick something up and I don't care. It's been a hard time. But I look terrible and I know it. I ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:42 PM
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LMAO. You know, I don't get it but I'd much rather men do this than hurt women. If he's happy and it isn't hurting anybody, more power to them. And I really did have to laugh because he probably is nicer to his doll than a lot of men are to their wives and girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:36 PM
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Wow, what a disgusting old fuck. That's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:33 PM
26

I get sick of all the height bullcrap. I just do not see it in real life. My boyfriend is short, he's never had an issue. I know couples in long term relationships with big height differences and some where the woman is taller. The only thing I can think of is I know a woman well over 6 feet tall who has said she would like to date a man taller than her but it's difficult. But she still dates and that was just a casual comment, it's not ruining her life or anything. It seems like height is only …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:28 PM
2

Good for her, that's so shitty her family wasn't supportive. I feel like so many people are just ready to tell us anything we do is wrong, no matter what it is. We may as well do what we want. I've cut so many people off now and if the ones i still allow in my life criticize they get a "If this is a problem for you, it's a YOU problem and I don't want to hear it." and they shut up. I should've started doing that two decades ago though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:21 PM
22

Yes, exactly. This is something I did not know. I grew up with a father who hit my mother and I didn't realize my now ex husband punching the walls or towering over me or even grabbing me was domestic violence until I read "Why does he do that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:15 PM
18

If he asks why and you feel like you must say something just roll your eyes and say "It's science..." If he presses say, "Look, I don't believe it like personally but it's scienceeeeeeeee......" and really draw out the last syllable of science and walk away while giving him a crazy look over your shoulder. Then never, ever acknowledge his presence in any way ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:53 PM
30

He's trying to make you feel crazy and doubt yourself. He's fucking with your head. He's preparing you to be manipulated and abused further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:25 PM
8

Yes, it's a form of abuse used to break you down and make you easier to manipulate. Mine would also stay up late playing video games or watching TV in our bedroom when I was already exhausted and then I wouldn't get enough sleep and have to get up with our son. It breaks you down physically and mentally. Mine would even take naps during the day after work so he could do it. I had no idea it was abuse back then but it makes perfect sense now when I look back and see how things unfolded from that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:44 PM
67

Yes, they often are a poor investment. At the very least, a boyfriend or husband should be a friend. That's like bare minimum, they should at least be as valuable as a good friend but many of them are not. And we're trained to tolerate it. It's insane and it has to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:35 PM
10

I think we need to start yelling at therapists when they do messsed up shit like this. WHY THE FUCK DO I NEED TO FUCK THIS MAN?! WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO CONVINCE ME TO FUCK A MAN WHO LIED TO ME?! And then leave the office and go file a complaint against them. This shit is disgusting. Why are they so invested in trying to force us to give men chances and screw them when we don't want to? They need to lose their goddamn jobs over this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:28 PM
23

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:24 PM
46

Yeah, I think you're onto something with this. My ex husband during our divorce before I could go NC would tell me his stupid stories and unfunny jokes and I would just blankly stare at him like he was insane and he'd get pissed. This was a divorce where he told me he wanted to k*ll me and had always hated me and just used me for maid/childcare service and free sex. But I'm still supposed to laugh at his jokes and stories... One of my friends saw it and after he left the room in a huff because I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:09 PM
8

I was married to mine 20 years. First 5 years were great, then small issues. then I started having health issues and by year 20 when it ended, he was a monster. But it built very slowly. My red flags were subtle. He never acted jealous or overprotective or anything like that. But he did isolate me by telling me people said things about me. Things that would hurt my feelings and then I wouldn't want to be around that person. Now I wonder if any of that was real. But he's very convincing and alway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:43 PM
21

Yep, this was how I was raised too. Women who didn't do it for their husbands were seen as garbage. It's easy for people to mock it and insult it but when you're raised like that and surrounded by it, it's something that needs to be addressed and broken. And when everyone around you is saying you're a piece of sh*t if you don't do it, you aren't going to break it until you get away from all those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:10 PM
14

Agreed. That's a huge problem. There's also a huge problem of doctors dismissing women and their symptoms though, when they would address those symptoms in a man. Fainting, vomiting, losing my vision, a seizure, a resting heart rate of 140 daily for a year, body aches, fatigue, numbness in my extremities, my teeth dying from the root out, serious memory issues, and I was written off as a neurotic woman who was exaggerating by both male and female doctors. I don't get why that happens. I had to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:46 PM
1

You don't think any of us are doing anything to help children? It's not crickets to call out pedophilia as wrong. You're the one trying to excuse it. I hope you get help some day and realize how destructive it is to you to hate older women and shrug at child rape and call it normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:22 PM
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But not in your life, right? Because you're a super special girl. I'm sure you get lots of pickme points calling older women junky old cars. You have fun being part of the child rape problem. I'm going to go ahead and keep calling it out as wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:17 PM
0

Well, you keep fucking them and telling them it's ok and natural. I'm sure that will help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:14 PM
1

Yes, it's a fantasy to want men to stop abusing children. Maybe if you stopped screwing mentally ill psychopaths you'd stop thinking it was normal and ok to rape children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:11 PM
1

Why does it bother me that a woman makes comments about women being shitty cars and excuses pedophilia as boys will be boys? Because I'm a decent human being. Sorry you aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:09 PM
2

Of course, because that's their nature, right? They can't help anything they do. We'll just let them rape us all and call us junky old cars because hey, shrug, that's men, that's their nature and who they are and they can't help it. You're fucking revolting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:06 PM
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You don't have to join in and make disgusting comments about how older women are junky cars and younger women are sexy new cars. Are you a man? You need to come here and insult us like a man because you think we don't get enough of that crap elsewhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:03 PM
3

True nature is meaningless. We are animals but we are also civilized. If men could not help it, they'd all be shitting in the streets constantly. Our streets would be overflowing with piss and shit because hey, it's natural! This is a choice. Stop excusing them. It is not their nature, it is a conscious decision they make every time they touch a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:01 PM
93

Yeah, it's the rape. They're rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:58 PM
76

Oh, I feel this so hard! I regret not leaving my ex husband sooner. I already did everything and took care of his lazy ass too. I'm glad she got out. It is easier without them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:50 PM
56

This is sleep abuse! It's not ridiculous at all to end it over the chair. Sleep abuse is how the abuse in my marriage started. And it can screw you up so bad and make you vulnerable to other abuse. He's interrupted your sleep every night for a year. Think about how insane that is. We don't do that to criminals, it's considered torture. You're doing the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:43 PM
5

And he still looks! Because he's still going to cheat on her and his buddies may slap him for it but they'll keep their mouths shut so they can keep eating her food. What is the point? Work super hard and spend your money so you can feel like an even bigger ass when he cheats?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:37 PM
18

Agreed. That's why I said it didn't help us any. We were trying but we were no safer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:30 PM
45

I have no idea. Their sparkling personalities I guess? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:58 AM
31

For me it wasn't early stages of dating, it was more than 10 years into the marriage. Mine was one of the really scary psychopaths who hid it for a long time. But yes, I agree. Leave when it starts. I married a guy my age and had no idea he'd become an older man who went after high school girls. He started the devaluing when I was in my 30s because I became too old. It was a mind f*ck when my formerly nice husband started being a jerk. But that's why we always need to be prepared to leave becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:47 AM
32

I saw plenty of female doctors. The one who told me to try pilates was a woman. It didn't help me any. The entire system is broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:43 AM
6

I'm not buying it. A man who has a low libido but can get excited about fucking his wife with objects not intended for that is a porn addict and he's dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:40 AM
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This kind of shit is why back in the 90s many of us starting insisting on paying our own way on dates. For many of us, it wasn't a feminist thing or trying to be equal. We just didn't want to get accused of "using" the guy and get attacked or have him be angry that he bought us a meal and we didn't let him fuck us for it. I feel like thats been painted as an empowerment thing today but for myself and every woman I knew who dated back then it was a safety issue. I had a man scream in my face that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:33 AM
25

It's not genetics. It's a choice. They all have full control over it. They choose to be pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:04 AM
2

I'm torn on this one. I've had some terrible women doctors who hurt me and ignored my symptoms, and the one doctor who saved my son's life during his birth and was incredibly kind to me during my recovery was a male doctor. My female doctor was useless in the situation and he saved us, he really did. I'm so thankfully he happened to be there that day, he was an incredible doctor and so protective of his patients that all I had to do was say his name and everyone in the hospital would be, "Oh, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:55 AM
141

I hate this crap. I'm a woman with a serious disease that nearly killed me. My symptoms were ignored and dismissed for 30 years. I was eventually diagnosed mentally ill and medicated heavily to shut me up. I got sicker. The last doctor I saw before I figured it out and sought treatment told me I was just overreacting and didn't know how to handle stress and told me to try pilates. I have pernicious anemia. The treatment is simple b12 shots. All symptoms gone. Dozens of doctors dismissed me and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:44 AM
3

Yep, I was thinking a combo of Patrick Bateman from American Psycho and Buffalo Bill from Silence of the Lambs. It's a disturbing image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:02 AM
5

I feel like that's a scene in a movie about a serial killer. It's not normal at all, It would be a disturbing scene in a movie about a fictional murderer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:58 AM
16

Yeah, I'm saving up to get a sleeve done. I found a tattoo artist I like who seems very professional and like a good guy but if I can find a woman artist I like as much while I'm saving I would much prefer to go with her. I have a year to save up so I'm definitely looking because I'd rather support another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:49 AM
116

Pedophiles. They're just pedophiles. Decent 38 year old human beings see 17 year olds as children. That's reality. This is only ok to pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:45 AM
6

Same. She is the best, she's helped me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:55 AM
3

The scumbag friends who want her to give up her dead child's things can get together and throw him a baby shower then, since they care so much. I hope she cuts them all out of her life. This is horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:39 AM
1

Thank you! I really appreciate that. I've really tried and still do, it's been the blessing in this divorce, seeing that the morals I tried to teach him stuck and he doesn't think this is ok at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:29 AM
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When I divorced my husband, he told me he'd been trying so hard to save us and I couldn't figure out how. Then I found a list he made of things to fix us. Know what was on it? Things like: "Don't humiliate her in public. Don't ditch her places. Don't ignore her. Don't make her the butt of a joke. Don't pick at her looks. Don't tell her other women are prettier than her." And I was floored. He needed a list! A LIST! To treat me the way I naturally treat a random stranger at a bus stop. This was h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:55 AM
15

Ok, first of all, you are awesome. I'm so impressed by what you're doing with your life and I'm proud of you and if your mother had any sense, she would be insanely proud of you too. And she wouldn't be making life harder on you. My mom is a toxic pickme and I cut her out of my life in my 30s. We have to accept that we can't always save people. You sure tried and you're a good person for it but you have to always remember this and know that you can't do things like this for your mother. If you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:42 AM
3

We always try to find an offbeat Christmas movie to watch while we decorate gingerbread houses, either Christmas horror or action. And it was one I found a few years back. And we ended up just ignoring the houses and watching this one. It's horrifying but has so much suspense. And this poor little boy is talking to his toys and telling them, "We have to save Grandpa! It's what dad would do if he was here!" while Grandpa seems to be going into a diabetic coma and there's a storm going on and a ps…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:18 AM
5

Yep, my ex told me was unhappy with his career and where he was at in life and that it's my fault. While he wouldn't get promoted, left early every chance he got, wouldn't work overtime but whined that he didn't have a nice enough house or spending money. Like, how the eff is that my fault? I would've loved it if he had some ambition. I didn't hold him back, he's just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:58 AM
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Get out. I married a man with zero ambition. I was married to him for 20 years. It was 20 years of him doing the bare minimum and us struggling. He refused promotions even because he didn't want more responsibility. Which left me trying to pick up the slack. Even taking our son into account, I'd have been better off leaving with our child and pouring my energy into my self and my own career instead of trying to get him to care. The only reason his income has increased is because he's moved into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:52 AM
5

I am so glad I will never have one of these in my home since I divorced my loser gamer ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:44 AM
3

I love her. Did anybody see Antebellum? Loved her in that except I wish she hadn't given that guy her number. It ruined the scene for me a bit. But she was dead on right. You send a woman drinking champagne with her friends a random cranberry mixed drink? What are you doing? How do you even know she would want that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:35 AM
8

He's so proud of jerking himself off to the point of injury. This is our society. How is that something to be proud of?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:33 AM
5

Jesus, yes. This was my ex. Used nicknames, cried all the time, b*tched about my makeup getting on him or his shirt when he hugged me or kissed me. Griped about face creams at night when I was like, "You're always here! When am I supposed to take care of my skin?!" Big red flags I know now but at the time I was told I was being ridiculous. Should've trusted my own instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:31 AM
23

This was my ex husband. "Why do you have to wear all that makeup?!" "Why do you have to dress like that?!" "Why do you bother with lingerie?! It's a waste of money!" "Why do you need long nails?! I don't like them!" And when I give things up, I'm old and "let myself go" and now he's dating women our child's age who wear all the makeup and have their nails done and dress how I used to dress. He badgered me to stop doing those things and then when I stopped, it's the reason to dump me. It's a mind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:28 AM
4

Yeah, on today's episode of what inanimate object are women? we're cars!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:17 AM
4

No. Men who are not pedophiles do not want teenage girls. Don't try to normalize it. This is a conscious choice men make to be predators. It's not just reality, it's not natural. It's pedophilia that's been normalized by society. The men who do this shit need to be ostracized, not acknowledged as "just reality."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:15 AM
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I've just started calling out pedophiles. Boy, it gets people all upset. This woman's husband is a pedophile. She needs to face it. Her husband wants to screw young girls. The issue isn't how the young girl dresses, the issue is this adult woman is married to a pedophile and she's sheltering him from the consequences of his pedophilia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:11 AM
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My ex husband will still talk about the girl who cheated on him in high school more than 20 years ago and how much it hurt him. But he had no issue cheating on me repeatedly and couldn't understand why it would hurt me and I was overreacting. They have no empathy for us because they do not see us as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:09 AM
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They want to be the men who get to abuse women. That's what it is. That's why it creeps you out, your subconscious gets it but it's such a horrible reality your conscious mind doesn't want to accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:56 AM
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I've seen women ON HERE say there's no point in getting married because there's no additional legal protection in marriage where they live. And then I find out they live in my state. They are so unbelievably wrong. It's not even funny because it's so sad and it devastates women's lives. They'll say, "shrug, if you live together you have to split everything and you'll get child support anyways." Child support lasts until the kid is 18. I'm getting paid until my son is 30. And not paying alimony h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:52 AM
16

He's LL because he's a porn addict. This is what it looks like. He can't enjoy normal sex, he needs to do screwed up things he saw in gross porn to get an erection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:42 AM
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It's a little different but how about the Birdcage? The single, successful woman in that is supposed to be seen as awful when she's a woman who had an unwanted pregnancy and gave the child up for adoption to a gay couple who were great parents. And when he needs a "mom" she tries to come through. For a child she gave up for adoption and did not raise. She didn't have to attempt to do anything. And then there's Albert, the gay man who was that young man's mother, and a wonderful, loving, doting m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:22 AM
6

Did you ever see the French film that Home Alone was based on? Well, they don't admit it was based on it but it sure seems like an Americanized rip off of it. In the French one, it's a single mom who lives with her dad and her son. The dad is dead. It's been awhile since I saw it but I thought the family was heartwarming, they all really care about each other. Mom even has a nice boyfriend but it's early stages but he also seems to really care. The kid should be spoiled with all the crap he has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:02 AM
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As a kid I thought the wife was such a b*tch honestly, and now I’m like she didn’t have a partner, she had another child! I totally get it now. And he couldn’t grow up and act like an adult but he could dress in drag and sneak into her life like a creepy weirdo? That was easier for him? He was trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:48 AM
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Exactly, thank you. This is why I have to stay off a lot of support groups for cheating. Because some idiot will show up and be all wah! I’ve had a girlfriend for two weeks and I found out she went on a date with another guy between our first and second dates! I’m destroyed! None of you could ever imagine the pain and how I feel! And I’m over here dealing with the end of a 20 year marriage with the father of my child thinking grow the hell up! I can’t be nice about it, it’s stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:35 AM
48

They’re fucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:21 PM
7

They know they want to invest, that’s it. It’s not love. They can still throw the woman away and write it off as a bad investment at any time. Men will do that decades into a marriage even. That’s why you vet longer than six months even if he’s ready to go. You have to know he’s a decent person even to people he isn’t invested in, that’s how you know he won’t attempt to destroy you if he changes his mind about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:14 PM
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I don’t believe this is real. I don’t believe a rape victim who says it was only hard for the one single day it happened. At the very least you would think the days she had to be tested for disease or pregnancy or get the morning after pill would also be hard days. This was not written by a person who was raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:22 AM
4

Well, why would anyone listen to someone so stupid they think $1100 is hundreds of thousands of dollars?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:23 AM
9

He can just leave his own house to his children. But of course, he doesn’t have a fucking house. Why is that not a surprise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:20 AM
15

They’re fucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:33 PM
18

This is something I wonder about my ex husband. I did everything. All he had to do was work one full time job and come home and relax. I made him 3 meals a day and did all the cleaning, all his laundry, paid the bills, everything. He was so excited about getting his freedom but what freedom? The freedom to do a lot more work? LOL I told friends he'll be married again within two years. There's no way he's going to enjoy doing all that. He'll find some woman to use, he's not going to finally grow …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:32 PM
13

His mother defends him neglecting his children... WTF?! I'd be so disgusted with my son, I can't even imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:15 PM
33

I've got a 44 year old man who thinks like this. They're out there. He finds it repulsive if anyone our age dates anyone under 30 and he thinks 30 is pushing it too but that's the minimum age where he won't ask wtf is wrong with you?! That's a child! He doesn't watch porn either. They're out there, just hard to find because there's a lot of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:58 PM
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It's so nice to see younger men realizing this. I do have some hope for future generations. My son will turn 19 in January, he's in community college. He will not date a girl in high school. He finds it creepy and weird. He now sees his father going after women in their teens and 20s, oh but they're legal so it's ok! Nope, my son is like that seems predatory. What could they have in common? He's taking advantage of them. My ex is destroying his relationship with his son over this shit but appare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:54 PM
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Not on reddit but in real life, my now ex husband told me about a couple we know and were friends with. She would blow him while he was taking a shit on the toilet. It was one of his "special" treats she would do for him. I was horrified, could never look at them the same after that. Turns out my husband was screwing them. Maybe both, maybe just the wife while the husband watched, I'll never know. I have nothing to do with any of them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:46 PM
19

You're right. Every time I think it can't get worse, it does. I gotta stop being surprised by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:43 PM
10

Agreed. I'm fine with being called fatphobic at this point in my life. I've had so many very obese friends and I'm over hearing them talk about how healthy they are. No they are not. I occasionally smoke cigarettes. It is a terrible, disgusting habit. I don't go around trying to badger people into accepting it's healthy and I'm actually healthy. It's not. I cut a bunch of friends out of my life because I refuse to agree with them that grinding a brownie into their morning coffee when they're alr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:40 PM
7

Yeah, weird overdose and he's onto the next one. It wouldn't surprise me a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:18 PM
12

I hate him. He did a whole stand up about not judging but I judge him hard. When you have kids you don't get to immediately jump on the next person when your spouse and the other parent of your children dies. He's scum. He replaced her as fast as he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:16 PM
45

Are you fucking serious? This isn't a joke article? I would've thought this was from the onion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:10 PM
5

Yes, it's crazy and gross. And she's somehow very proud of taking him away from me. I can't figure it out. When I was a young woman we did not think it was difficult at all to have sex with old men. It was never considered an accomplishment. And she even knows that he is not loyal to her either. I can't wrap my mind around what she thinks she's won but I am glad to be rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:04 PM
13

Yep, my ex husband was extremely good at this. He'd do it in really subtle ways too which is how it built over time. Like he would do something that embarrassed me or he would say something mean but then he'd cry over it. And sometimes even if I was like oh fuck no, other people would get on me about it! Oh, he cried, can't you see how bad he feels, can't you see how much he cares? At the end when he said super fucked up things to me about hating me and wanting to kill me, I cried. And he actual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 07:55 PM
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Because they don't see us as human beings, or even animals. We're like blenders to them, it's perfectly fine to use us and throw us away because we're just things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:02 AM
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Ah, she doesn’t cook for him. Oh no, it’s not a kindness she does for him. He simply eats the food that she cooks out of kindness to her. Because her cooking him food is a favor he does for her. He sounds like my now ex husband. I hope she gets the hell out of that quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:32 AM
5

A lemon is a piece of fruit dumbass! Boom! Blocked for being too stupid to date! Give them the same energy they give us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:11 PM
32

I’m just going to say that when I was young it was common to use your graduation year in stuff like this and I’ve had millennials yell at me that I’m not allowed to do that because it’s supposed to be your birth year, because people born after me decided that after I was already doing it my way. Don’t mind me though, I’m just salty that my mean girl sister tried to tell me I couldn’t wear shorts with a 98 on them because those were only for people born that year, not people who graduated that ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:04 PM
47

Ex husband now, as of September 11. He has a 25 year old girlfriend and we were married 20 years. It’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:01 PM
17

Agreed. My ex husband will never get better than me. It’s not that I’m better than all women, it’s that he was already incredibly lucky to get me. It’s just not going to happen, especially now at 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:59 PM
2

Aww, he's all stomp stomp if I don't get to date women young enough to be my children, I just won't date at all! Poor old sad sausage. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:00 PM
56

That's a nice surprise. Nice to see some people realize how screwed up the age gap is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:55 PM
1

He's now my ex husband as of September 11. Yes, he has a 25 year old girlfriend, among many others, some in their teens. it's repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:48 PM
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LMAO, I don't even have any sympathy and I'm usually very anti cheating. But these ages are too close to my husband, his girlfriend, and our son's ages and I just find it hilarious. Stop screwing people your child's age. We get blamed for dating a man if he beats the crap out of us, why don't men get blamed for dating women so much younger than them when it doesn't end well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:38 PM
1

She really was. Grandma took no shit. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:11 PM
2

My periods were brutal throughout my marriage, they just got worse and worse every year. I was looking at a hysterectomy and doctor shopping for one who would do it (because I'm ONLY 40 and my husband may have decided he wants more babies and of course I would have to oblige, fucking misogynist doctors, but I digress.) Anyways, got him out of my house in September, divorce finalized September 11. Worked overtime through my periods in September, October, and November. Each one easier than the las…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:02 PM
2

Why in the world does she think that ends at age 28? Does she think these men die off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:46 PM
3

I'm financially ok, my boyfriend has been a close friend for over 3 years who has spent Christmases with my family, and I spent about $40. A sweatshirt I know he'll like that I found on sale and some stocking stuffers. I think a nice bottle of wine would be lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:45 PM
27

That's exactly what it is. It's negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:14 PM
2

Oh, who the fuck says this? I agree, these are men. They're probably pounding each other out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:16 PM
67

Yes, because we get murdered in those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:08 PM
538

You need a divorce. There's no fixing this. He hates you, he doesn't respect you, and he's very vocal about it. Physical abuse comes next if it hasn't already started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:07 PM
30

LOL, I wonder what his reasoning was for that. 27.. I can't think of any changes I had at that time in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:05 PM
35

You know, sometimes I really wonder about these women who say they are completely ignored and invisible to men because they're older. Some of them start saying it as young as 30! And I'm thinking wtf? that has not been my experience at all nor the experience of damn near anyone I know. But look at how she talks about herself. She "was" self-absorbed, and shallow, and inexperienced, and over-sensitive and dull. So she was ass and tits pickme supreme? She had no personality and just told men they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:03 PM
66

All human beings are capable of this. That's been me when I've been attacked. I can see how the realization of this is disturbing though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:51 PM
67

I never heard that when I was younger, it was always 40. It keeps dropping because the number of pedophiles keeps increasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:42 PM
61

They won't. I'm 40 and still getting bothered. My grandmother was basically getting harassed throughout her 80s, she eventually punched one of them in her assisted living home. It never stops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:40 PM
48

Yep. My husband's abuse was a lot more covert than this but he would do the same thing. If he did something shitty, he'd make himself the victim because of how bad he felt and I'd have to comfort him. I've learned it's very common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:37 PM
43

He's not an amazing man. He's a piece of shit rapist and abuser and he thoroughly enjoyed hurting his wife. He does not feel horrible. He's fantasizing about the next time he gets to hurt her. She needs to get out before he kills her. I'm dead serious. My ex husband was doing shit like this with other women while thinking about killing me. I got the fuck out. Some of his other women are all smug about how they "won" him. They're just fighting over being the one he actually murders, I want no par…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:32 PM
38

I find this really hard to believe. It just sounds fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:24 AM
11

OMG, I thought this was a bunch of gross 11 year olds who need more supervision on the Internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:05 AM
185

They can't understand it. They see us as so subhuman they think we only exist for fucking and they can't even imagine we have any interest or value besides getting fucked. Years ago my then husband met my grandmother at a family event. He pulled me aside and told me that somebody needed to tell my grandmother she had some chin whiskers. I told him it was on purpose. The woman has 11 children, she had plenty of sex in her life and when my grandfather died she wanted to be left the fuck alone but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:16 AM
8

The people of Walmart were all 20 at one time. Seeing the pictures of the young women my husband was dating really drove that home for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:54 AM
13

The fact that she just sat there like nothing was happening while he was red faced and screaming shows that she thinks this is normal. She does take shit from men. She eats gigantic handfuls of shit from them, clearly. He's not nice to her. She thinks red faced screaming is nice and normal. You have to stay away for your own safety. There's a very good chance he's beating the shit out of your sister and from the behavior you've seen already, she would probably sit there calmly if he attacked you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:50 AM
51

And he'll cheat on her through it all too. He'll pay for other women's dinners with the money he saves by not paying for hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:44 AM
25

She's gonna be so shocked when her husband throws her the fuck out to screw women her children's ages. That's what she's setting herself up for by being the cool girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:43 AM
37

My jaded old ass is like why are you baking for him? You don't even like cake or cookies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:57 PM
16

They need to teach the girls to hate themselves so they're easier to rape. That's what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:55 PM
9

Oh, he can hit "pause" and be there for his family when he's home? Men who don't game are already fucking there for their families when they're home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:49 PM
12

I'm starting to understand why my psychopath husband left me. He had to pretend with me. He had to pretend to be decent. But apparently, that's not required anymore. He can tell a younger woman she's a dumb, dirty b*tch and fuck her on some garbage in a field. Because that's apparently acceptable now. When the fuck did this happen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:27 PM
3

Exactly, it never ends. I literally went to the grocery store sad and depressed today to buy wine. I have very short hair that was unkempt because I don’t care and wearing baggy sweatpants and an oversized sweater, no makeup, and of course the mask. A man still walked up to me in the wine aisle and tried to strike up a conversation. I loud sighed, rolled my eyes and ignored him until he finally went away. My grandmother stopped plucking her chin hairs in her 70s after my grandfather died because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:55 PM
5

That’s exactly what it is. They’re trying to force her to say yes. They want her pressured to say yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:48 PM
11

I had one do that to me when I was a virgin. Had to tell him multiple times that I was a virgin and explain that as a virgin, I was sure I was not pregnant. It was humiliating. No sir, I'm not a pregnant virgin, three old dudes aren't going to show up on camels, just give me the fucking x-ray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:59 AM
45

I'm in the first relationship where I'm not and I'm 40. It's incredible to me, there's no nagging or whining or trying to push my boundaries or trying to just do things to me that I already said no to. It continually blows my mind and I know it shouldn't because it's just being a decent human being and how everyone should act but I've never been with a guy who doesn't push sexual boundaries constantly. I didn't realize how exhausting it was until I didn't have to deal with it anymore. And it's a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:24 AM
6

He's going to give her another piece of fucking paper. Why would she buy him a PS5? This is insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:59 AM
27

I gotta tell you, I think the whole hitting the wall and fading into oblivion thing is bullshit. I'm 40. I do not want male attention and I still get it. I cut all my hair off, don't wear makeup unless I'm out with my boyfriend on a date and mostly wear baggy clothes and sweatpants. I still get unwanted male attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:56 AM
19

Wow, that's super shitty. What a jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:40 AM
53

I did 100% of the housework, and worked a job, and it still wasn't enough. Golly gee whiz, us women are so lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:09 PM
6

He is. I thought he was working these insane hours for so long but he was just screwing people. I used to feel bad for how hard he worked, it's such a joke now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:06 PM
17

Yep, it's not enough to have sex with women, he needs to really hurt them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:31 PM
5

They don't even know yet. They live far away. Divorce was only a couple months ago. I'm sure they will be though. I don't have parents but aunts and uncles and cousins and they're good people. They're going to be shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:20 PM
53

Yep, it just requires paying attention. My new boyfriend had to buy me gifts when he didn't know me very well. He bought me a book (he noticed I like to read) and it was even in the genre that I like! He knew I worked nights and had a hard time sleeping so he also got me a sleep mask with blue led lights that's supposed to help you sleep better, and he knew I like mermaids (I'm one of those girls) so he bought me a new wallet with a mermaid theme. Put it in a gift bag with some candy that I like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:51 PM
60

I think she's setting herself up for failure. She's openly advertising she wants a drunk who chokes her. Oh boy... that is not going to end well for her. But of course the comments focus on height and age because men are outraged they don't get to be the drunk who chokes her out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:42 PM
6

Yes, it's the beginning of abuse in many cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:35 PM
32

Yep, my ex husband used to do this and I would get pissed. He'd sometimes stay up all night on his game system like a 12 year old sneaking out of bed when we had plans the next day. Then bitch and moan that he was so tired. Like a goddamn child. And people would be all, ugh, he's home, what's your problem? Can't he have a hobby? WTF? I don't stay up all night fucking around doing pointless bullshit and then ignore my child and adult responsibilities the next day. Why the fuck would it be ok for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:31 PM
29

Yep, my ex spends all free time playing video games or pretending he's at work and fucking people. He makes just under six figures, it's a decent living, cost of living is pretty low here. But the guys he went to school with are bosses now, they're in charge of things. One of our friends told me point blank, "He has not done well. I know lots of people with his job who are millionaires. He doesn't have any ambition, he's coasting." And that's exactly what it is, he's always basically entry level…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:26 PM
64

Oh, I believe this and grats on your successes. I was a housewife to my ex husband with a very part time job that always seemed to get in the way of his schedule so it got pushed back constantly. Since my divorce, I now work full time, I'm halfway done writing my novel, I'm back in shape, and I have refinished my bedroom furniture. My divorce was September 11! And I'm doing all this stuff while still grieving and being sad. But the amount of time I have now is unbelievable! I'm also picking up t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:20 PM
110

I was gunna propose, like eventually, like maybe after she crapped out four more kids for me but like only if she still looked like a model, a man's gots to have standards. It's going to be devastating for her but she's so much better off without him. I hope he does leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:09 PM
3

Probably. I'm so over the whole don't kink shame thing. Like whatever, they're dirty degenerate perverts and they should be ashamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:02 PM
3

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you made it out of there. It's a strange thing to see when they're not there anymore. I feel like people can't get how disturbing it is until they see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:59 PM
10

He's handsome, funny, and everybody I knew loved him, and he was wonderful in the early years. This isn't a creepy guy I chose to date. This is a high level psycho, my family loved him. My best friend was happy I found a great guy and the one time he creeped her out was about 15 years into our marriage. There's nothing to tell the cops, the beatings are consensual and horrifying pictures on tumblr are not illegal. He hides behind BDSM. As for other women... his other women have at times gone out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:56 PM
31

Yep, you’re right. I did this for a 20 year marriage but because it was a marriage I at least get 10 years of alimony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:36 PM
16

Probably banging a midget, or sisters or a mother and daughter, or a black chick. Something super fucked to to say. There are no normal sex goals, normal people have sex to enjoy it. Anybody with a list of goals for it is an automatic creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:35 AM
3

Anybody who even tells me they have sex goals is not welcome in my life in any capacity. Because I am an adult. That’s just a huge red flag that they’re about to say some fucked to shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:34 AM
5

So he’s mentally handicapped? That’s the only explanation here. He can’t understand how to dress appropriately even when it’s explained to him? He’s really that stupid? Does his mommy girlfriend have to stop him from trying to hug strangers at the grocery store too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:26 AM
7

Exactly. A gift card is a shitty no effort gift even if it’s for a high amount. I think most women would rather have a thoughtful gift that shows their boyfriend knows them than a gift card or cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:23 AM
88

Yep. One of my good friends told me her father was awful to her mother but he was so happy he got the opportunity to finally be a good husband to his THIRD wife! So we’re supposed to celebrate him finally growing up at the expense of TWO women? One of whom bore him 4 children?! That’s not a happy story, it’s disgusting. Women should not be thought of as non human acceptable collateral damage for a man growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:40 AM
144

If they’re so happy like this why the fuck do they want us to cook and clean for them? Sit in your sad fucking chair and watch TV and eat peanut butter out of the jar and leave us the fuck alone then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:35 AM
15

Wtf? Again, more than I spent on my child and I am employed. She is an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:53 AM
18

Don’t worry about a stupid gift, he just doesn’t want you. Shut up and stop overreacting about not being wanted! We’re seriously supposed to be cool with this kind of crap? Seriously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:30 AM
55

If I made a typo that said I fuck children, I'd delete the post and my entire account out of intense shame. I don't buy it. He didn't get the reaction he wanted to so he changed his story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:36 PM
43

Love this move and I'm not really a Roseanne fan. I especially love how he gets this perfect women, Meryl Streep, and proceeds to treat her like dogshit. Because he's garbage. Really good example of how LVM are just garbage to all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:51 PM
78

Occasionally when we would argue he would scare me. He would get this far away stare and I'd feel like I didn't know him at all in those moments. It was the mask coming off. He once punched my car because he was angry. I wasn't there when it happened and only knew because he left a dent and had to admit it. My best friend said she had a moment where she felt like he was trying to hit on her and it made her uncomfortable but it was nothing she could put her finger on and she thought if she said s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:31 PM
155

Yes. Plus when he announced he was done with me he told me he'd wanted to k*ll me for years, he had fantasized about it. The thing I found that bothered me the most was an old tumblr he had with brutal pictures of women being beaten, bloody, and most of them looked extremely young. There were captions like, "She was born to be r*ped." He meets women on BDSM sites and beats the shit out of them and takes pictures of them naked and beaten and posts them on the internet. Some of them look like me. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:57 PM
16

Right?! That's the part that still blows my mind. When we were negotiating the divorce at one point I lost it and said, "Do you expect me to high five you and say nice prank bro! for faking a 20 year marriage?!" And he got all indignant and said, "Well, I was really pranking myself, wasn't I?" OMG, he wants pity for it. I just... I just can't. They are unbelievable in their self induced misery and entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:47 PM
36

Exactly. He doesn't see her as a person, she's just a thing he owns that does what he tells it. That's why he can casually talk about betraying her and causing her pain and destroying their relationship as if it's nothing. Because she's nothing to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:20 PM
23

Yep, happened to me the first time when I was 10 years old. And I did not look older, I looked younger than I was. I dealt with men saying sexual things to me and coming onto me from that point on and I did not even begin to develop breasts until I was 16 years old. So many men are pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:17 PM
79

So she's a billionaire? Because that's the only thing that would make the financial aspect of this ok, why is she spending that kind of money? Her pathetic man child gets more presents from his bang mommy than my actual son gets from me on Christmas. This is pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:07 PM
57

That is fucking insane. I do not understand why women do shit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:03 PM
32

The thing is, I wasn't like that at all when we dated and married. Not even close to a pickme. He still hated me. My best friend thinks he just wanted to destroy me because I was awesome and gorgeous and I used to hear how I need to be "brought down a peg or two." (Not from my ex husband, I never would have dated him if he'd said that but I heard it plenty from other men and some pickmes.) I didn't start doing that stuff until after marriage, a baby, and serious health issues. They just hate all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:54 PM
29

20 year marriage. We had one kid and raised my husband's youngest brother as well. Dating was awesome. Looking back maybe it was love bombing. It's hard to remember if it was too much. He was great, everybody I knew loved him. I loved him. He was a great father and husband in the beginning and it slowly declined. And because I knew he could be great, I worked hard during any and all declines because this was my family. Now it seems like a joke but at the time, my family was more important to me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:41 PM
274

Totally agree. I snooped 20 years into what I thought was a successful marriage. I'm divorced now. But I'm alive! Every woman should snoop. They should know everything and hire a private detective to follow the fucker before they even consider living with him. People play like it's a game but we're getting murdered out here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:30 PM
15

Yes! I was a first born who raised my sister and I thought it was great that my husband was also a first born with younger siblings. No. Nope. No. Not at all. You are exactly right. He was a narcissist and was spoiled rotten. It was absolutely a mommy/prince dynamic. It used to confuse the shit out of me. I also got to raise one of his younger siblings which was frankly a responsibility I did not need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:58 AM
11

The problem is you might not know. I was married for 20 years, knew women who I knew their husbands and watched their children grow up, they knew my child. Thought they were good people and friends. Fucking.my.husband. There's a lot of shitty people out there. People you wouldn't suspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:50 AM
57

Yep, cognitive dissonance is a total nightmare. Much, much better to be alone. And of course better to be alone than me murdered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:43 AM
74

It's true but I think it's reversed. Ending up alone after doing all that is better. That's the best case scenario for that. I got dumped after 20 years of marriage. It sucks and it hurts but if he had kept lying and kept me in the dark, I'd still be stuck in that. That's a horrifying thought. I'm 40 and basically having to start over but it's better than being a servant for longer or having to go through this at 60, god forbid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:42 AM
44

Seconded. It's a mistake. If the marriage doesn't survive the woman pursuing her career, good. It need to end anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:39 AM
259

I did almost all that shit.LMAO Dumped after 20 years and told he hated me the whole time. What a horrifying waste of energy. Even people who think I'm amazing and he's insane are like well, he probably didn't know what to do, he felt trapped. Well gee, not lying about it and gaslighting me whenever I did have concerns would have been a great way to get out of my "trap." Ladies, do not make my mistake. Build and spoil yourselves, if someone fits into your life, awesome. If they do not, move on. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:28 AM
22

I'd be completely fucking humiliated. That's stealing meals from the poor. No way in fucking hell would I ever do that and I volunteer too. I don't think that makes me entitled to eat their food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:26 PM
1

The logic is idiotic. If someone is mentally ill, they need actual treatment. Telling this woman she should be the one to treat him is like telling her she should lay him down on her kitchen table and cut him open herself if he has appendicitis. NO! The intelligent, logical thing to do is go to a goddamn doctor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:48 PM
20

I ventured over there briefly once and ended up reading a long back and forth about how boy moms aren't welcome because if you've had a son you're simply breeding rapists. And multiple people were sick of mothers of sons thinking they would be permitted there. And I just thought, this is definitely not for me and backed out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:35 PM
187

I love how he put in the bit about how real 10s look like shit in photographs. So if someone does ask him to prove how amazingly attractive he is, he already has an excuse for why he can't. What a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:34 PM
5

This is probably going to get me downvoted but this is my sister. Just replace the cats with a dog who destroys everything. And she has plenty of friends like this too. I'm not even going to pretend I understand them but they would laugh about this and call it relatable. They aren't pickmes but they're something and it's sad. Alcoholism definitely plays a part in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:06 PM
18

No, I'm done with equality. It is not equal. The things I sacrificed for my ex husband are not comparable to the shit he did and they never can be. If he had put the same amount of energy into our family that I did, that would have been wonderful and I would have been ecstatic but it still wouldn't be fucking equal. The health issues from bearing children, the physical damage to my body, the blow to my career for moving repeatedly for his and for being the primary caregiver for the children? Fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:58 PM
30

It makes me want to throw up when I see it. My ex was amazing. It was fake. He faked a 20 year marriage. I didn't know him at all. Our closest friends didn't know him at all. I've had women telling me that if my marriage was a crock of shit they no longer have any hope for marriage at all because apparently we were a goals couple. And there are women on here who think they know a man two months in. It scares the hell out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:52 PM
11

They’re bad people who lack morals and empathy for other human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:30 PM
29

Refusing to have sex when you don’t want to is not using it as a weapon. Get out of here with that pick me shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:29 PM
93

One mistake? He screamed so loud and so often he got them evicted. You know how much it takes to get someone evicted for noise complaints? It sure as fuck is not one loud night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:59 PM
48

Oh, there are plenty of intelligent LVM. That's a mistake a lot of us make. Intelligence and education do not make one a good person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:33 PM
73

Yeah, his friends can tell her they want to rape her but her calling him a name crosses a line. Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:25 PM
30

Good for you! I'm proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:24 PM
4

Good for her. She needs a divorce before he actually does let his friends rape her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:23 PM
35

Exactly! My sister was griping about online dating during a visit awhile back and we were talking about guys paying for dates. My TEENAGE son said, "Well, if the guy doesn't care enough to pay for the date, he doesn't care about the girl. There's plenty of scumbags who will pay for the date and then expect sex so it doesn't prove anything but if he doesn't like you or respect you enough to even buy you a meal, why would you waste your time? He's just looking for free sex." It's base values. If t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:21 PM
137

Yeah, I think the same when I hear those stories. My ex used to bitch about our sex life. I didn't put out enough, I didn't want it enough, I wasn't enthusiastic enough. Want to know the truth? He started struggling with ED before he was 30. I was supportive, I said maybe it's stress, maybe eat a little better, maybe go to the doctor and see if something's wrong but don't beat yourself up about it, it happens. He would even lose his erection in the middle of sex. Now I know it's because he was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:12 PM
3

He’s total garbage, that’s already established though. It just blows my mind she’d be Ok with this. He’s publicly insulting her. I don’t understand how pick mes get this far gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:21 PM
4

I'm going to let them react to it. i told her a lot of what I found and I think she didn't want to believe it yet. But she will. Mine had too many female friends. That stands out to me. Always so many female friends. Over time they became my friends too and they married and we became friends with their husbands so it seemed less weird. But always tons of women, and as we got older, the female friends didn't. He kept getting younger ones and it got weird. I get what you mean about it being embarr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:07 AM
15

He called her a fucking downgrade. How is she ok with that? What is wrong with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:42 PM
7

Yep. Every time I heard a story about a woman being murdered by her husband I felt so bad for her and grateful I didn't have to worry about that. And the whole time he was getting off on fantasizing about killing me and beating women from BDSM websites as an outlet. I had no idea. He would smile at me and tell me he loved me while thinking about murdering me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:19 PM
8

It wasn't that he couldn't say he wanted a divorce. He did not want a divorce. He wanted to avoid child support and shared custody and he wanted the benefit of my cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, and my income. He wasn't staying for the kid, he stayed for himself. He doesn't even have anything to do with the kid now. He made a conscious decision to use me for 20 years. And then he even tried to get half of my inheritance. He's a psychopath. But you are right, life can only get better and I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:17 PM
8

They're being sent from Amazon to the mother's name with his return address on them. He's being that brazen about it. That's why I'm relieved, he's outing himself so fast I don't have to worry about people not believing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:11 PM
7

He was brazen enough that he sent them to the mother's name. There's no way she won't know. That's how stupid he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:09 PM
6

She has no control over him. She is one of dozens and she knows it, she just likes being number one of his harem. She loves that he chose her over me when in reality if I had known this crap, I'd have run like hell. Plus she's a BDSM sub who lets him beat and strangle her. If he told her to fuck a child, I believe she'd do it. She may be young but there's no excuse for the degeneracy she's engaging in. He's preying on her because she's young and inexperienced but she's also a bad person to begin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:06 PM
9

It's really not about the ring, it's about determining if he cares or not. He bought her a $20 ring. I bet he was blowing more than $20 any time he went out to the bar with his boys. That's a very important thing to consider. The proposal was nothing to him, you don't have to be established in a career to purchase a gift more than $20. I spent more than $20 on gifts for my friends when I was a teenager. He bought her the cheapest garbage he could out of obligation, that's not love. It's a very l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:57 PM
4

I don't think you're wrong. She wants to associate with abusive people and that brings them into your circle. I wouldn't tolerate it. I just got divorced and one of my friends told me that if I go back to him after what he's done, she can't be my friend anymore. It didn't hurt my feelings. I get it. I would do the same at this point in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:47 PM
11

You're still in college. I wouldn't advise anyone get married while they're still in school. This makes complete sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:30 PM
37

To me, the engagement should just be wedding planning time. If it's stretching out further than that, it's a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:28 PM
13

She needs to get the fuck out of there and go back to her family. This will not end well for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:12 PM
91

What a piece of shit he is. I had one sent to my fucking business facebook page. I work in real estate. I was a fucking married woman and I was not courting that piece of shit man who sent me disgusting pictures of himself. I didn't even know him. But that's my fault? Because I dare have a job and put a picture of my smiling face on my profile, right? Michael can go eat a bag of dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:10 PM
162

I got my ring when we had been married for 13 years. I thought it was ok because we were both poor soldiers when we met but we were in love. At year 20 he told me how he'd always hated me and wanted me dead and he'd been cheating and lying the entire time. If they do not care enough to get you a proper ring, THEY DO NOT CARE! The ring isn't the issue, it's the fact that they don't give a shit and will ruin your life. It's a sign. I should have heeded it. This woman's husband cheats on her. How m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:04 PM
279

Watching porn to have better sex is like watching fast food commercials to be a better cook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:51 PM
15

That’s exactly what I thought of when I heard this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:37 AM
87

She wasn’t wrong. I understand exactly where she was coming from, I got dumped after 20 years of marriage. I completely got it. But it was such a waste too. He wasn’t worth it. She still could’ve had a life. It was so sad to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:26 AM
281

Notice how all he does is work and sleep? That’s it. And “then, my wife will come home” means his wife works too. And then does everything else with the home and kids and she can’t even ask him to do anything because he’ll stare at her with a seething hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:11 AM
10

Thank you! I really do appreciate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:47 AM
34

Maybe he has a hard time getting women to date him because they see him scream fuck off! to any woman who does speak to him. Just a thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:51 PM
66

Our society is packed full of pedophiles. This is a good example of what that looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:48 PM
66

He told me he was only with me all this time because of our son, he hates me and has fantasized about killing me for years, our 20 year marriage was fake and he never loved me and now our son is an adult so he’s done. We’re 40, we met in the military, I thought we had a good marriage. And it was such a shock to me and everyone who actually is my friend so I went digging. He’s locked down pretty tight but I found his tumbler and an old email address with his Craigslist encounters and that some of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:13 PM
100

He made some inappropriate jokes about big dicks in front of her. It was weird and unsettling. Then she got hurt and while she was crying she was saying why isn’t he here? He should be here! And I felt real off because why would he be? Then another female friend who my ex is sleeping with stayed up late to play video games with the girl several times and just really went out of her way to bond with the girl. I felt like I was being crazy because she’s a woman but it felt like grooming. It was ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:51 PM
80

I’m not up for reaching out to the other woman in all honesty. My life blew apart July 27 of this year. I really don’t give a dam what happens to the woman who thought it was fun to help him do this to me and our family. She’s on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:54 PM
94

Fortunately they do check it. They check everything and I’m so glad about that. They’ll see the boxes too. Her mom got pregnant very young and the dad was a deadbeat. She’s married to a great guy now. She’s extremely vigilant when it comes to her daughter. Her stepdad is an IT guy too, he knows when something gets erased even. She’s been grounded for deleting texts with her friends. They’ve been called overprotective but I don’t blame them and I’m so grateful for it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:09 PM
152

Yep, exactly. We went on a multi family vacation with them in June before it all blew up and a couple things happened that bothered me. Little things but they bothered me. And they bothered another friend of ours too. And now that we know what we know we’re horrified. Thankfully our friends live in another state so there isn’t easy access and I know they’ll see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:49 PM
287

They haven't arrived yet but I'm just waiting to hear what happens. They have a toddler as well and no gifts for the toddler or the family, just for the 15 year old girl. I know he's going to try to pass it off as just Christmas presents but who sends gifts to only one child in a family with two children? Our friends are very intelligent people. They've been stunned by what he's done to me and this sudden divorce. It all just happened very recently and I think they're still shocked but I know my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:17 PM
602

That's exactly why they do it. My ex is dating a girl who is 25, six years older than our son. And he just sent a bunch of gifts to our closest friends' 15 year old daughter. The notification happened to come to my email for it. I want to vomit. Thankfully her mom is protective and with everything I told her about our divorce, I think she's going to see right through it and he's going to lose some of his closest friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:04 PM
67

They meet those homies and fuck them. These women who think their men can’t cheat are fucking morons. “Oh, he has no time, he can’t cheat on me, he’s home playing games!” It takes 10 minutes to stop at a glory hole on the way home from work. Pretty easy to set up a Craigslist encounter on your lunch break or just fuck a coworker in the back room or your car. Run to the store for a few things and fuck your gamer friend you found out lives nearby. It happens all the time. Gamers are tech savvy, it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:03 PM
28

That's not a joke, it's just an insult. Why do they think this shit is funny?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:55 AM
12

I really can’t cut hair. I would not cut anyone’s hair and I wouldn’t let most people cut my hair if they don’t do it for a living. I don’t think it’s comparable to washing dishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:54 AM
207

Ah, so the boyfriend gets a house and gets ahead and she gets fucking nothing. Great relationship. Yeah, she deserves no flowers or dates so her boyfriend can have more stuff. Good plan girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:25 AM
231

This is the guy she destroyed her body for with seven pregnancies. That is so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:53 PM
19

Bullshit. Potential is only impressive in children. An adult who does not have their shit together should not be dating at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:25 PM
157

That attitude is so common and so gross. I just got divorced, I have an adult child. I also almost died having my son and never had any more children because of my health issues and we both almost died and how traumatic it was. People who know this about me have asked what I would do if I date a guy who wants kids! Fucking dump him! I cannot have children but now that I'm divorced I'm supposed to risk my life at 40 to crank out another one for some random hypothetical man?! It's disgusting. Good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:19 PM
167

They don't see us as people. That's the root of the issue. We're just things that exist for them. On a very deep level, they do not see us as human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:16 PM
7

That was my life. And then he left me for a girl six years older than our child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:31 PM
52

Yep, same. I’m 40 and was married for 20 years. Every time I had a valid complaint I was treated like I was stupid and didn’t understand what marriage was. Now I’m out and I realize how fucked up it all is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:11 PM
52

You should call it what it really is. They don't have sex with underage girls. They rape children. We all need to start calling it what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:25 PM
7

This kind of shit also pits women against each other. It's saying there was something wrong with every other women he victimized. Oh, if they'd been better, he wouldn't have abused them and been evil, they just weren't good enough to fix him. It's a fucked up way society thinks and it needs to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:22 PM
165

For me, the shit needed to get done. My husband was actually good in the beginning, that's how he got me. I didn't see the first red flag until we were married and I had our son. And even then, he got up in the night with the baby, he was helpful, he did things around the house. It was a very slow descent. And it was things like, missing his mom's birthday. And then his mom was hurt and I felt bad so I started making sure "we" remembered it. And it just built from there. They can do it themselve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:14 PM
47

So much to unpack here. How old is this guy who had unprotected sex with her 16 year old daughter and impregnated her? Why the fuck is cooking a turkey more important than taking care of her child daughter while she goes through an abortion?! Why the fuck do you let the irresponsible man who knocked up your child come into your home and crawl into bed with her? If he ever came near her bed again I'd drag his stupid, horny ass outside and beat the ever loving shit out of him in my front yard. We'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 03:57 PM
19

No, I'm not going to trick other women into fucking men. And any male friend of mine who thought this was ok would no longer be my friend when I found out about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:13 AM
8

Exactly. I had a rough childhood and was on my own at 18. I thought I was such a grown up. I was a kid. I worked full time and supported myself and I was still a kid to any decent older person. I work with some young adults who really have their shit together and are self sufficient and they are still kids to me. I'm proud of them, I think they're great but I think of them as kids. And really, so do these disgusting perverted older men who prey on them. He doesn't see her as an adult he loves, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:33 AM
139

This is what I have now. A forever boyfriend who is also one of my best friends who has his own place. We spend 3 nights a week together, the rest of my time is my own. And I do not have to cook for him or wait on him or clean up after him. It's perfect for me because I will never marry or live with another man ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:18 AM
241

Yep, even if we do it, they hate us. My ex and I met in the army. I was a soldier too. I spent less than four years as an army wife of our 20 year marriage after we married and had a son, got moved to fucking. Barstow for two years of it, spent one year alone with our son while he was overseas. Worked through most of our marriage, handled everything with the house, nearly everything with our son and my husband’s brother whom I raised through his teens, made that man 3 meals a day (even packed hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:02 AM
144

I made a full family Sunday type dinner nearly every night for 20 years. Even when I was working overtime. I get so mad thinking about that now. I was burnt out and he would bitch if there weren’t enough sides. But he wouldn’t even give ideas to help with meal planning and would be annoyed if I asked. The food issue is one of the best parts about being divorced. I don’t stress about cooking at all anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:55 AM
14

I’m older and I’ve known a lot of women who entered into relationships with older men, myself included wheni was a teen but still legal adult. Either they get older and realize it’s disgusting or they get totally brainwashed into it and decide it’s a good thing. I’ve seen some of these women push their young daughters into gross relationships with men closer to the mom’s age. It’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:42 AM
17

He’sa gross perv and she’ll either understand that when she’s his age or she’ll become a gross perv herself and go after little boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:53 PM
24

Good for her. I hope she leaves him next. I should've lost my shit so many times. I'd be better off now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:16 PM
19

There are a ton of pathetic baby Princess men out there. It’s gross. How can any woman want to have sex with a man who acts like a child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:27 AM
40

I've been teaching old people to use the Internet over the phone at work. That's part of my job right now. Old women trying to learn to use the internet can get pretty frustrated but I give them step by step directions and we almost always get it done and they feel accomplished. I helped a 97 year old woman place her first online order. She was so proud, it was heartwarming. Every once in awhile one of them is nasty but it's rare. Old men refuse to follow my directions. I have never, NEVER been …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:46 PM
24

Can dish it out but can’t take it at all. Typical pathetic princess baby man. Probably crying and shaking while he texted you that murder threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:44 AM
33

I’m glad she’s thinking divorce. I hope she does it. This will only get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:43 AM
121

He spends every weekend plus 2 to 3 additional days a week ignoring his child and pretending to be a partying single guy while his wife handles all the responsibility of their family alone. Gee, I wonder why she’s upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:37 AM
7

I don’t know you. Leave me alone. Then a disgusted look. Works for me. I know some women worry about a man getting violent with them if they do that but I carry a gun so if they want to attack me for turning them down, they’re going home dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:31 PM
22

If anyone on here ever thinks maybe it’s ok to send nudes, remember this. They will laugh about you dying and beat off to it. That’s how little they think of us. Our deaths are funny and something for them to bust a nut to. Don’t give these men anything, they’re scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:24 PM
13

I’m sorry. I just divorced after 20 years. He has a 25 year old girlfriend who looks like me. It’s not a fun thing to experience. It gets better though, when she’s rid of him she can start healing. Let her know it gets better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:46 PM
10

I kind of feel like a lot of men will bring lousy women into their kids lives though because having some pussy is more important to them than their children. I’m thinking of my uncle who had three kids and his wife died. He brought a perfect Disney evil stepmother into their lives. She hated children and wouldn’t let them into her home or her car. I always thought the evil stepmother trope said more about how so many fathers are dogshit that they’d let a woman abuse their kids. Stepfathers are d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:44 PM
38

It’s not cryptic, it’s just a basic lie and manipulation. They just want to sound more interesting than they are by using a sexy word like cryptic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:31 PM
18

It’s a red flag to them because it either means she’s independent or she has close female friends. Both of those things are bad news for an abuser. And that’s what those men are, they’re looking for women to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:26 PM
25

Yes! The miraculously recalling what I just said! My ex husband would constantly claim he had hearing damage and I would have to repeat myself over and over again. I started refusing because I felt he was playing it up and if I just started at him for a as minute and refused to repeat myself he’d suddenly know what I’d said. He even claimed a doctor said he had delayed hearing so it could take a minute for him to hear and understand words. That BS popped up when I demanded he go to a doctor and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:23 PM
29

They do it to me too. It’s obnoxious. I think it’sa form of negging, they want you to feel like you aren’t important enough to listen to so they’ll do it even if they hear you. I’ve started doing one off two things, either I start speaking really loudly and slowly like we did with my grandpa when he was hard of hearing or I speak really slowly and use smaller words and hand motions to help them understand so everyone around knows they’re stupid and e we have to stick to little words. They’re try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:18 PM
16

I think my boyfriend's is quality time. He wouldn't say physical touch. But he's also a guy who doesn't watch porn and thinks it's disgusting and doesn't understand why so many men are obsessed with sex and so gross about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:55 AM
31

Because super baby Princess men are soooo important everything needs to be about them ALLLLLLLLLL the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:52 AM
12

That’s exactly what I was thinking. That’s a red flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:23 AM
26

I fucking hate video games at this point. I had to be the supervisor to comfort a grown ass man crying about a video game today. Then I got yelled at over it while Princess baby man had his little tantrum. How they call us the more emotional gender I will never understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:25 PM
2

He’s just getting off on hurting her at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:27 PM
85

Yeah, she cares about his wife so much but she’s totally cool with helping him abuse her and preventing her from her right to make an informed choice about her life. This is someone who knows they’re being a total dog shit human being and is trying to convince herself she’s still a good person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:25 PM
4

I don’t believe you’re stating facts. I think you’re repeating lies your friends told you. I don’t know why you’re taking it so personally. It’s not judgmental, I was in the sex industry for a decade. Damn near everyone constantly lies about their income, especially to friends and family who don’t work in it so they don’t know any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:16 PM
10

I think you know girls who prostitute themselves and lie and say they make it all in only fans. That sort of lie is extremely common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:55 PM
13

It’s still not. I was a builder married for 20 years. I did ok in the divorce. I still would’ve done better building myself for 20 years and not wasting so much time and energy on someone who actually didn’t care about me and left me for a girl barely older than our son. If you have to build a husband, he’s a loser. Move on. People who aren’t losers build themselves. You don’t see successful women with mommy maids as spouses keeping their shit together for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:52 PM
67

Yep, less than 30,000 a year to ruin her future and expose herself to dangerous predators. She could work in a warehouse and make more money and not have these risks. It doesn’t make any sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:22 PM
12

I feel so bad for your mom. That was my life. I have health issues, I'd be working overtime and I worked nights while he worked 40 hours and was home early. And I still did everything. My husband was responsible in the beginning which is how he tricked me and then he slowly loaded more and more on my back. I said it was ok to other people when I was living it but it was killing me. Your ex knew exactly what he was doing. He's looking for a woman he can use and abuse. It's not that he doesn't und…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:23 PM
44

And that's the best she's got. That he sits on his ass and watches her clean and he can't cook. That's the shit she brags about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:12 PM
17

I thought I was happily married for 20 years on July 26 of this year. On July 27 my husband texted me he missed me and couldn't wait to get home to see me, by 9:00 pm he had told me that he had always hated me, everyone hated me, he was only ever with me out of obligation, he'd been waiting the entire time to leave me, and he had been fantasizing about killing me for years. By September 11 our divorce was final, thanks to me. As much as he hated me he would do nothing to make the divorce happen …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 08:05 PM
11

I was just thinking this because my thought was I would never ask and I would never offer that information. I just can't really imagine how one would even bring it up without sounding weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:56 PM
111

Aw, poor baby princess man didn't get a special party or prezzie. How sad for him. His bangmommy wasn't careful enough when the birth control that he's decided is 100% her responsibility and he refuses to be any part of. But he'll sure cum inside her, won't he? Piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:50 PM
29

Holy shit, the candle guy is an absolute monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:47 PM
39

Oh God, get out. It will not get better. It does not get better with these men. The porn addictions only escalate and it sounds like he's a sex addict too. That's when he started contacting people on craigslist, that's when it escalated to that level and it hasn't deescalated. It never will. He just got better at hiding it. I spent 20 years married to one of these guys. I knew he watched too much porn but I had no idea what level it was really at, especially since it escalated to a completely di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:34 PM
16

The wife is doing everything. That’s how they do it. He puts everything on his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:06 AM
25

My ex husband uses that in all his dating profiles. Very ethical to tell me was at work while he was visiting glory holes and having Craigslist hookups. Much ethics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:05 AM
23

She said she’d be gone if she find out it was a kink or fetish so I’m hoping she follows through on that when she discovers the women or men changing her husbands diapers when hims makes a poopie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:00 AM
32

Maybe he’s counting on them going for some of that money he made in the hills have eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:56 AM
5

Exactly. If it was a a medical issue he’d have no control over when it happens but he very obviously can control it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:58 AM
2

That’s amazing. I never knew that and I already loved the movie because of how bad ass Ripley was, this makes it even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 02:45 AM
79

3 kids and a wife, the shitbag doesn’t have time to date. Ethical my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:34 PM
12

He’s facing the consequences of his own actions. You didn’t do anything wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 10:29 PM
19

God, that hits me hard. It’s been so true for me. Thankfully I’m not divorced and can focus on myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:19 PM
46

My parents abused the shit out of me, including my mother. So I went to therapy and dealt with it instead of raping and killing women who look like my mom. They have the same choice, they choose to be evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:12 PM
148

Yep, that’s what actually happens, happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 08:10 PM
2

Dang, those look great! I'm going to have to get some.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:50 PM
77

I bet she just started classes to become a paralegal. I bet that's what the law degree is. Anybody who works in law knows for a fact that the standard response to being hit isn't for the woman to run out of the house. It doesn't happen like that in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:44 PM
25

Alimony isn't just about seeing women as helpless though. In my case, I got moved around due to my husband's military career. He got to build a career and learn skills while I had to constantly start over and then there were all the times he was gone completely and I had to be a single parent. Back when I was a pickme I thought alimony was pathetic and what woman would even want it? But the thing is, even though I worked during our marriage and pursued education, there's no way I could have buil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:42 PM
11

You called it dead on. My ex was a sensitive type of man who described himself as a feminist when we got married. All these changes were super gradual until it got to the point where I thought why the hell am I doing everything?! That's exactly what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:11 PM
31

My advice is call a lawyer. When I was looking at divorce I had no idea what to do and I was devastated and not thinking well. I called a lawyer’s office because my best friend badgered my relentless to do it and then I hung up. I wasn’t handling it all well. That lawyer called me back immediately. Listened to my sob story, gave me excellent advice, and I was divorced in 5 weeks. He even gave me tips on how to negotiate with my husband so I could get a cheaper, uncontested divorce. Call lawyers!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:20 AM
52

That’s so sad on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:12 AM
3

You really just have to raise them right. The problem is so many people don’t. My husband dumped me after 20 years very cruelly for a younger woman. We have a 19 year son, he is disgusted by his father. Tonight he helped me make dinner and he’s washing dishes right now. Tomorrow he’s helping me strip paint off some furniture. He’sa good kid. My sister has always been single and has no children. The other day she was over and bitching about men on dating sites. My son was saying women should not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:02 AM
49

When my ex husband was doing his apprenticeship and working and going to school for it, he would have had to hire three fucking people full time to do everything I did for him. Handling everything with the house, all finances, childcare of our son and his minor brother, all the cooking, all the cleaning, every single errand that ever needed to be done. And I managed to bring in an income from home through all that. While all he had to do was work and school. I made all his meals even, I guess he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:04 AM
117

I know what happened here. He got into BDSM and wants to be an adult baby. He's either currently cheating on her with grossouts who encourage this or he's looking for a grossout to cheat on her with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:50 PM
20

You know what else is concerning? He still refers to the drinks as "delicious." Really think about that. I have eaten food before that tasted good at the time but made me sick later. If I told somebody about that I didn't say something like, "Oh, I ate this super yummy food and then shit like crazy all night." Normal people would not describe something that made them shit into a bush as delicious, even if it was. Because it made you shit out in public which should have been mortifying and negate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:18 PM
28

That's an assumption though, he's only said he bought two drinks for himself. And is this normal? I find it bizarre. "Let's go out for coffee and each get two drinks and walk around in the park with both hands full of our two drinks each." Maybe I am just old and out of touch, that sounds ridiculous to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:07 PM
1

I think the only way he isn't cheating is if these women are refusing to have sex with him while he's trying to bed them. But regardless, you aren't happy so get out. It's not a criminal trial, you don't have to prove anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:06 PM
2

How does she not have a good reason? He's cheating on her and parades the women through their home in front of her to humiliate her. He's been angry and violent. He gaslights her. She has tons of reasons to get the hell out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:39 PM
38

That's exactly what it is. They want us to do it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:37 PM
110

It's not equal because men don't give a flying fuck about it. They expect women to care about it for them. We're supposed to handle and celebrate all their shit because they're lazy, entitled little toddlers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:31 PM
16

LOL, probably. The guy flat out says he drank both drinks and someone will still run in and scream about not assuming he drank both drinks. LOL, that's men and their defenders for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:22 PM
11

Yeah, this was my life. I remember when his awful mother decided to tell me what a terrible wife and mother I was. I was like fine, you don't have to speak to me anymore. And I stopped talking to her. Her birthday rolls around and she calls up demanding to know why her son did not send her a gift. Did I stop him from buying one for her because I'm so petty? It felt really good to say, "Your son have never bought you a Christmas or birthday gift throughout our entire marriage, that was all me bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:43 PM
42

Exactly. My ex husband was big on fart jokes and then I had serious health problems and went on a medication that gave me horrible gas. It was mortifying. I would be in line at the grocery store and my butt would trumpet. No warning, no control and it was always loud. I would go out to my car and cry. I stopped leaving the house. And he'd bitch that that was disgusting when it was a medical issue and I couldn't control it and already felt terrible about it. But his farts were somehow funny and n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:16 PM
17

They do this kind of stuff and then they bitch and cry that their wives don't want to have sex with them. And it's not even a revenge or punishment thing, the wife often doesn't know it's happening, just that her sex drive dies and she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore. When my sex drive started dying, I blamed myself. I took supplements, even went on a prescription medication that was supposed to help at one point, still had sex with him 3 times a week, scheduled it in and made myself d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:11 PM
275

You know what stood out to me? He bought two drinks and I was wondering oh, which one of those did he drink that caused diarrhea? Both of them. He bought two drinks for himself. On a date. Double fisting drinks and I bet he didn't buy her one. then he shits in the bushes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:57 PM
6

It’s true, delivery is huge in telling jokes. This guy has awful delivery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:44 AM
13

I often think of the girl from Claire’s who pierced my ears and the torrid love affair we had in the few minutes it took her to pierce my lobes and leave these permanent holes in my body as proof of our love. I never knew her name but I think of her every time I see plastic jewelry or sparkly scrunchies. I’m ruined for all other relationships forever because of her and our love. I only wish I had said more than “ouch” and “thanks” but I was very young and didn’t understand the significance of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 05:31 AM
34

I was just talking about this with my best friend. A middle aged guy she works with (who is an obnoxious scrote based on the many stories I’ve heard about him) keeps telling jokes and he’s not funny. Things like “where does someone with COVID 19 get ice cream? Maskin’ robins!” She was finally like, “Jeff, you aren’t funny. Stop.” And everybody laughed. He got so butthurt and kept trying more lame mask jokes. Then someone told told him maybe he should go to the bathroom and maskurbate and everybo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:57 AM
30

It should be suspect because sociopath is not a diagnosis. So when she says she had it confirmed by a diagnosis, I'm wondering what that was. Antisocial personality disorder? My father had that and he sure as hell did not love his wife or his children and he definitely did not feel guilt for the things he did. I don't buy her story at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:45 PM
53

The higher earning spouse hates the lesser earning spouse and wants them punished and unhappy. That's really all this is. In any loving relationship the higher earning spouse wouldn't want to work their partner like a slave while dismissing their career and business. It doesn't even matter what the genders are, this is a hateful abusive relationship and it needs to end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:40 PM
26

Oh, I was married to a porn and sex addict so I can add some. Losing an erection in the middle of sex. Irritation on his dick from "having sensitive skin" it's actually from masturbating to the point of injury, which they do. They'll also blame lotions, laundry detergent, and even your vagina in order to hide it. Super long bathroom sessions on the toilet taking a shit, I thought my husband went through a nightmare taking a shit every day for 20 years because he suffered from horrible constipati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:29 PM
3

I totally get it. I've had to work on being really blunt lately. I'm getting good results though which is nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:15 PM
28

She's considering becoming dirty? Is that what I'm reading here? Her husband is dirty and gross so she's thinking she should become dirty and gross too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:59 PM
108

Exactly. You'll tell them and they'll say, "Oh sure, of course, I'll do that." and then they won't. And you ask over and over again and they say they will over and over again but they never do it and then they explode on you. "All you fucking do is nag! Why do you keep bothering me about this?!" Because. you. still. haven't. fucking. done. it. They act like four year olds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:57 PM
20

I wonder if she's dating my ex husband. I used to get up and cook him breakfast every morning, pack his lunch, and make dinner every night. And he would actually bitch like this. I'm so glad to be rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:40 PM
15

So he openly abuses her. Yeah, she needs to leave. He knows what he's doing and he's enjoying abusing her. It's never going to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:23 PM
42

That kid is being sexually abused. Maybe dad is the one doing it. And even giving a young child access to pornography is sexual abuse. It damages them. This is what that does. This child thinks he exists to be fucked by adults. That's why he's looking at an adult like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:20 PM
26

"I am not opening a joint account with you for any reason." Then hang up the phone, walk away, conversation over. Get in your car and drive away if you have to. Never discuss it again. As for your friend, if she's a close friend tell her to shut her fucking mouth about your finances and if she ever decides to insert herself like that again she can escort herself right the fuck out of your life. If she's not a close friend, drop her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:12 PM
44

Aww, poor sad sausage just realized he isn't going to be able to fuck 18-20 year olds forever. Looks like he hit the wall. He might as well just throw himself in the garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:09 PM
21

Yeah, I'll agree with that. I found WAP gross and demeaning but I can just not listen to it. I don't know why everybody needed to freak out over it, there's actual problems in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:07 PM
0

We’re going to have to disagree. The only people I’ve ever met who would love a proposal from a man or woman they’ve texted with for 10 days are seriously mentally ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:48 AM
47

Yep, my ex husband claimed he’s just always hated me and wanted to leave but he stayed out of obligation (for 20 years) and he finally decided to do the right thing. There was nobody else. Nope. There’s a 25 year old who lives with her parents and is like really super hoping she can get a job at Starbucks because like, that would be like, such a super great, like, opportunity for her. I overheard that conversation before I got him to move out. So physically 25 and maybe 16 mentally. We have a 19…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:33 PM
7

That is wildly inappropriate. I hope she gets the help she clearly needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:19 PM
12

Exactly. It’s terrifying. This type of behavior screams literal mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:16 PM
9

I don’t know anyone who would think this was romantic if a man did it. She’s known him 10 days. A man who proposes after knowing a woman 10 days is seen as insane and dangerous by most people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:15 PM
31

I divorced my gamer husband. This is the first Christmas I don’t have to deal with this gamer crap. It’s such a relief. The craziest part to me is I have a 19 year old son who still lives with me and games and he thinks his father is a loser for always whining for the new systems and games. Even as a younger child he tells me now he would think “who can’t you just play what you have?” When his dad would freak out over a new system. The teenager is more mature about gaming than his father. It blo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:08 PM
144

Guys have sex with women non stop every day and then get rejected by them? That’s what this douchebag is trying to claim his life is like? I’m not buying that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:59 AM
37

Only a woman who is a pedophile would be happy to fuck a five year old who makes her macaroni necklaces. So now they want us to be pedophiles too? Is that the new progress?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:18 PM
68

Yep, my ex husband was answering Craigslist ads and screwing people when he said he was at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:16 PM
75

So if a girl blows him he insults her by saying she’s too stupid to understand he has a penis when he’s taking a shit... Yeah, why do anything for assholes like this. What is the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:15 PM
20

Yeah, that's a fucked up friendship. I mean, their bros suck their dicks and tongue their assholes while they listen to their problems. That's what friendship is supposed to be, right dudes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:04 PM
93

Why did this become so normal and common? Why do people act like it's just normal human behavior to take naked pictures of yourself and give them to everyone? If you gave nude pictures of yourself to a man you were dating in the 90s and you told your girlfriends about it they would literally scream in horror and ask you if you were the dumbest person on the face of the earth. I had a friend in the 90s considering doing this for her fiance and every woman she talked to said, Are you insane?! You …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:59 PM
28

Almost everyone where I’m from hunts. My godfather is huge into duck hunting, he trains duck hunting dogs. I know dozens and dozens of duck hunters. I have never in my life heard of two month hunting trips. Never. I think he’s hiding another family. This is completely bizarre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:28 AM
119

A chance to what? He doesn’t want anything serious. If you think he’s lying about that, you should ditch him for being a liar. If you think he’s telling the truth then he doesn’t want a relationship, just to screw. Either way, not an option for a a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 01:23 AM
28

He’ll be awful to the girl he actually wants too though. Decent men don’t use women like this, he’s garbage so he’ll be garbage to every woman, even if he loves her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:52 PM
59

He never really cared about her but she was hot so he guessed he would fuck her for awhile. That's how men think, that's how they build families. On a *shrug* I guess I could fuck her for awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:38 PM
60

I know I'm going to probably make some people mad with this but it's insanely moronic to me that people will have kids before getting married. As if children are a smaller commitment than marriage. I have a cousin who no longer speaks to me because he and his girlfriend had two kids before they were married, they were engaged for at least five years. I didn't really care but his girlfriend was going on and on one day about how nothing in life was more serious than marriage and she had to be tota…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:36 PM
11

What a useless fucking moron. I bet he didn't clean the melted plastic either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:30 PM
39

The kid is probably being sexually abused at home. He thinks adults want to have sex with him, that doesn't just happen. This really should have been reported, the teacher needs to call CPS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:24 PM
54

That’s a man who desperately wants to fuck children, if he hasn’t already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 01:15 PM
10

I’m 40 and it hasn’t slowed down any. My grandmother stopped plucking her whiskers in her 80s trying to get men to leave her alone. I think the whole thing about it stopping as we age is just a myth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:16 PM
1

Why? So he can rape me and get away with it because I clearly wanted it, why else would I compliment him?! Fuck that, they can go die. I’m not taking that kind of risk to make some random asshole feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:40 PM
146

You know part of the reason why women initiate 80% of divorces? My husband told me he hated me, fantasized about murdering me, never loved me, cheated on me, gave me disease... but he was fine with staying legally married. I had to file. He hated my fucking guts and wanted me dead but I had to file and do all the paperwork. And I’ve met so many women in similar situations. He’s out screwing teenagers and hates me but he’s too lazy to go through the process. So I had to get dumped, devastated, an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:26 PM
36

I can't jog anymore. I live in a nice neighborhood and every time I try to jog, some car will pass me really slow, then pull over to the side of the road a little bit ahead of me and wait for me to pass. And every time I turn around and go home. The first time it happened I wondered why the fuck anybody would do that. It was weird and creepy and I was pissed. But then it kept happening. With different cars every time! Like they're trying to grab me on my quiet street. I can't even get a half mil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:47 PM
33

That's exactly what it is. I legally carry a gun. I've been attacked by men damn near every time I mention it on reddit. The last time a couple men decided I deserve to be raped for daring to have a CCW and since I'm a woman I won't be able to use the gun and would probably shoot myself while being raped. I mean, I'm a veteran but perhaps male veterans often shoot themselves and get raped when they touch guns and I'm just not aware of that statistic. I've been out of the Army for a long time, ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:36 PM
61

From another girl who's BEEN THERE, this man will leave you as soon as he can get something he sees as better. Like how mine ditched me right before my 40th birthday for a 25 year old. After decades of professing his love and also apologizing for his shitty proposal. It was all bullshit to keep me in line so he could use me until he saw me as old and traded me in for a younger woman to use. She'll either figure it out when he devastates her (which is best case scenario in this type of marriage b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:28 PM
70

It is so completely false to him because he knows that men will happily screw and use a woman they don’t care about at all and they want the opportunity to do that. That’s what he means by interested, he’s willing to screw her until something better comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:20 AM
82

We’re literally expected to prostitute ourselves so they can have fun money to buy bs they don’t need. That’s the world we live in. Jesus fucking Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:17 PM
123

That’s an adult man sexualizing a little boy. That’s what this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:16 PM
49

I don’t think there’s anything you can do. She’s going to have to learn the hard way. At some point she’s going to get older but probably still younger than he was when he started screwing her and she’s going to look at an 18 year old and feel sick because they look like children to her. I dated older men as a teen, I remember when it hit me. I threw up, literally. My best friend married one, she had to go through a divorce after realizing it. The alternative scenario is she gets so brainwashed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:40 PM
61

He’s a disgusting ugly little pedophile with zero social skills. I will never understand why anyone likes him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:24 PM
1

Agreed. Plus he lives with his daughter and “the mother”, sounds like a loser who uses women while claiming to be an even bigger feminist than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 09:44 PM
40

Disgusting. Wtf is wrong with his parents that they let him have a sex slave in their home? Disgusting people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:02 PM
40

Then they should call their fucking mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:21 AM
30

Yeah, I don't know either and I'm wondering too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:20 AM
24

He’s disgusting but she doesn’t appreciate him being called disgusting... What the hell does she want here? Someone to tell her that being stinky and nasty is a good thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:05 PM
51

He hates her guts. She needs to get out of that fake relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 09:50 PM
6

It’s something I’m concerned about. There are pedophiles in beach towns. They are everywhere. If it’s common to have nude children on that beach then there are men who go there just to look at them. That’s reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:37 PM
33

Yep, a “community” of degenerate rapists and abusers. People don’t need to educate themselves to become members of it, they need to educate themselves to stay the fuck away from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:34 PM
32

Exactly. She’s only perfect because she’s dead. Now he can use her to abuse every other woman he ever dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:36 PM
9

Oh, I just love the part where he invited his sister and her college friends over to mock her social media and her body to punish her for feeling insecure after having his child. This is awful. I hope she gets the hell out and away from that horrifying family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:37 AM
2

My doctor has told me it will help with the pain. I don’t just have pms, I already said there’s a lot of pain involved as well. And I don’t give a fuck about going into menopause. I’d like it to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:17 PM
11

No, I will not be compassionate to a piece of shit abusive man who screamed obscenities at his wife and made her cry while she tried to get him his preferred brand of diapers. And he was racing around the house while berating her and screaming at her just fine from the sound of his voice moving all around. He did at least two dozen laps around the room while I was on the phone so he can get to the goddamn toilet. I doubt it's down the street. Perhaps you should try to be compassionate to abused …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:55 PM
18

They might have still come for the gang bang afterwards but I doubt they would have paid for anything. This is gross. What the fuck is the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:48 PM
8

Ah, so first he insults the shit out of her and tears her apart because her boobs are not what he wants and now he tears her apart because she dares to change them. I think he just gets off on abusing her and he's found this is an easy way for him to do it. He's just trying to destroy her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:35 PM
125

Divorce him. I just divorced after 20 years of marriage. Do you want to be an elderly woman caring for this man while he gets off on abusing you during it? The rest of your life is worth even more than your past, don't throw it away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:25 PM
21

I've been doing customer service on the phone at home due to covid and I had a call the other day that made me so glad I'm divorced. Some older lady calling me nearly in a panic about her husband's diapers. She got the wrong brand. It took me at least five minutes to figure out she was talking about diapers and get her info she was so upset. And this man who needs to shit himself and be changed by her? Well, he's able enough to pace around and scream and walk up on her and get her in face and ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:21 PM
40

I do. I find myself crying in the shower usually right before it starts and I usually think why am I crying?! And then I’m like goddamnit. And when the pain gets real bad I get cranky but no worse or different than if I have a toothache or any other kind of pain. And that’s from someone who has PMS, who also has an autoimmune disease that probably makes it worse and has been given narcotics by doctors to function through the pain at times and is looking at a hysterectomy to stop it all. And that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:43 PM
182

Raise your own kids dipshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:32 AM
10

Thank you! I really appreciate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 11:03 PM
779

This is my now ex husband. Not literally but very similar. He’s so grossed out that I’m 6 months older than him. I’ve always been more attractive than him but ew, I’m so old now he can do better. Ok, red headed 40 year old out of shape man with ED, I set you free! The world will be your oyster!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:09 PM
60

This is why I don't understand why so many women want to be friends with gay men. They're often mean as shit and just tear women down for fun. I don't get why it's cute when they do it. It's just as damaging to subject yourself to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:27 PM
42

How are people supposed to react to someone telling them the sight of them is disgusting and they shouldn't go out in public because OP is too special to have to endure looking at them? It's a shitty thing to say so OP got shit. Welcome to experiencing consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:25 PM
4

This may not be popular but I've had just as many women doctors dismiss me and I almost died of an autoimmune disease that I suffered from for 30 years. There's a doctor problem, absolutely. Going to women doctors did not solve it for me, in my case I actually found them even more dismissive. The last one told me to just do pilates and learn how to relax.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:19 PM
13

For me it was age 18. At age 17 adult women mocked me for going as a zombie instead of something sexy. Adult. Women. If I could find those women now I’d punch them in their disgusting pick me faces. I can’t even imagine mocking a teenager for not looking slutty on Halloween. It makes me sick. That’s the shit I had to deal with as a child though. Adult women calling me immature and trying to force me to sexualize and objectify myself because... I still don’t know why. They wanted me to get their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:20 AM
238

My ex husband said Jordan Peterson is the reason he decided to dump me after 20 years of marriage. Which is totally bizarre to me because everything I’ve seen him say is that divorces at our age are devastating but oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:32 PM
4

She needs to get the fuck out of that. My ex ended up being a total psychopath who gets off on beating women and he didn't even do this. This is scary as shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 12:23 PM
31

It's because they don't see us as actual people. We're just penis receptacles so why would we have preferences? As soon as anyone sees a woman as a human being, they completely understand why we have physical preferences. Those who don't get it literally do not see us as human beings. That's why they struggle with the concept of us wanting or not wanting things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:08 AM
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He could never date someone he isn't attracted to because that would set himself up for failure. But women should definitely do so because we aren't people so it's fine with him if we fail and if we won't fuck people we aren't attracted to he will insult us by calling us shallow. Right, makes perfect sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:19 PM
28

So much about this saddens me. Why the rush?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:24 PM
39

Right... So this woman constantly reassures her boyfriend that she will never, ever have any expectations of him and his ex was awful for thinking he should support his wife and children. New girlfriend constantly tells him that she and her children are total dogshit and he can dump them anytime he wants and they will never have a single expectation of him because he is such a super special prince and they're all honored to just occasionally be in the presence of his dick. Yeah... well, good luc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:20 PM
59

I think you're right. I was married for 20 years, I told my husband about my rape early on in the marriage. I was drugged and raped by a group of men as a teenager. I moved away from my hometown because I didn't know who did that to me and any time a man smiled at me in a store I would wonder if he was one of my rapists. I couldn't live like that. They actually showered me and redressed me after the attack so there wouldn't be any evidence. Thankfully I was out for most of it but still a horrify…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:02 PM
20

I would switch gyms over this. It's not just a random guy at the gym, it's the lead trainer who has decided he has an issue with you and wants to publicly insult and attempt to humiliate you. I'd cancel my membership and tell them exactly why I was cancelling and go to a new gym. I wouldn't discuss it with them either or be open to discussing it. Just, this is what is happening, it's not acceptable, cancel my membership now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:40 AM
2

Oh, I meant Mother!, the 2017 Darren Aronofsky movie. That one messed me up for days. I know the one you're talking about though. I didn't watch it because I avoid movies like that, I've never understood how the awful personality disordered mother who ruins her son for life was supposed to be entertaining. It gets used way too much in movies and tv and I don't find it funny either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:37 AM
5

I hated the comedy remake of it. The original film horrified me and made me physically ill though. Granted, I was pregnant when I watched it but it still hit me hard and I cried and threw up when I finished it. I think the only movie that ever affected me more than that one was Mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:11 AM
8

Yep, that's why the stepford wives was such a terrifying movie. Most men would jump at the opportunity to do that to their wives. That's the horrifying reality we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:29 AM
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Why would I want to go beg for attention from a man who doesn't even notice me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:23 AM
1

I agree, especially if you're in a relationship where you live together and have shared finances and/or have children. There are going to be difficulties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:20 AM
29

Nope. Bullshit. He wants to hurt her. He told her he wants to hurt her because it will get him off. This shouldn't be seen as very common and no, nice people do not fucking do this to people they love. This is what sick fucking degenerates do. I hope she runs like hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:13 AM
5

I married one of these guys. Was diagnosed with schizophrenia during our marriage because of it. I had multiple doctors and therapists tell me I was being paranoid because of my illness and that my husband was not out to get me whenever I would raise concerns. I started keeping journals and notes everywhere to try to prove reality. It just made me look crazier. With me it was an autoimmune disease that was causing neurological issues that really let him get his foot in the door and drive me insa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:32 AM
23

It's the correct term. When their "preference" is a 13 year old, they'll fuck a six year old too as soon as they have an opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:15 AM
6

Why would this be a gift? Is he going to "gift" her with a dead hooker in his trunk on their honeymoon?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:34 PM
145

I'm going to be mean and say it. When a woman has a child with a man who is already a shitty father and has already dumped other mothers of his children, she's being a pickme and a misogynist. She's decided she's going to prove she's so much better than "those lowly women" who came before her and make this deadbeat love HER and HER CHILD because she sees herself as superior, not superior to the garbage man she's dating, but superior to his other baby mamas and children. Women with this attitude …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:32 PM
87

Right, we're supposed to enjoy being lied to because somebody on social media who isn't us preaches polyamory. Right, makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:27 PM
21

You know what's better than a man who "lets" you nag at him to follow proper hygiene? A man who isn't a disgusting piece of shit and keeps himself clean no matter who he's dating. A man who washes himself even when it's just him alone because he's a decent human being who isn't a grotesque bag of wet cat shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:55 AM
54

He wants his wife to quit taking her class, that's the real issue here. She's taking a single course one evening a week and that's too threatening to him. He's trying to come up with a "legitimate" reason to make her quit so he's going to use her love for her child against her like a weapon. How can she leave her baby?! The baby is so upset and misses her mother! This is an abusive man. This is the shit they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:46 AM
1

It must be a cultural thing. I was married 20 years I don't know anyone who traded in rings. I would not accept a $150 ring. I don't see myself getting married again but if a man showed up with something that cheap he'd get told to fuck off. No way would I accept that. At this point in my life that would be an insulting joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:24 PM
35

Exactly, it will continue to escalate. If he's this bad this young, he'll be a complete and utter monster by 40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:40 PM
59

Nope. Just go look at breaking mom, they are miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:04 PM
137

He's a psychopath, that's why he did it. I was married to one of these. He fooled everybody except for one person for 20 years. The smart ones can be incredibly good at it and incredibly evil. They have no empathy so they can do anything and feel completely justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:02 PM
15

It's a fetish. He probably has porn induced ED. He's going to bring gross guys over to fuck her while he watches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:44 AM
14

Those rings won't last. You will be replacing them. That's why cheap rings are a bad idea, for most people the ring is something they wear daily for the entire marriage. I don't see how it would have been a fuck you to you if he was intelligent enough to understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:40 AM
22

What the fuck is it made of that she can't get it wet? Cardboard? Oh fuck that, that's just stupid. He hates her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:36 AM
3

I agree. But they consent and claim to love it so it isn't going to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:24 AM
6

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:58 AM
22

My ex husband. He's such a feminist and cares so much about women that he beats the living shit out of them and then takes pictures of their naked, bruised bodies with dildos and buttplugs sticking out of their holes and posts them on the Internet. Clearly he cares so much about empowering women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:56 AM
9

Yep. I'm extremely curvy, either I look really fat or I look like I'm "asking for it" when I go out. It gets really old. I've had rude comments while fully covered in a business suit just because they can see my body shape therefore I must be a prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:51 AM
17

She has to fuck him until shit starts coming out? Is that what she's saying? And then she has to clean up all the shit? Jesus fucking Christ, I hope this is fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:43 AM
17

The piece of shit I was married to watched lots of porn AND cheated. How incredibly stupid she is to think that men watching porn stops them from cheating. That's like saying someone who constantly watches burger king commercials for fun would never dare eat any burger king. That's fucking moronic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:33 AM
25

Right? When my now ex husband would very rarely do one of the things I do every damn day people would gush praise for him. And I'd just be like, are you fucking kidding me? Is he five years old? What the fuck is happening here? But I'm a bitter bitch for noticing that. Well, now I'm a bitter bitch who doesn't have to take care of a man baby and life is a lot damn easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:48 PM
63

Cute but not cute with a decent job is my now ex-husband. Wome line up to fight each other to the death for him. I don't fucking get it. I never fucking got it. I loved who I thought he was (I was wrong but he's a hell of an actor) but I have never understood the way other women react to him. They act like he's some sort of God. (Women literally let him beat the shit out of them and thank him for it, he's a "dom".) It's gross and weird. I'm glad I never have to deal with seeing random women fawn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:27 PM
96

Pickmes like it when other women get insulted. It makes them feel superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:44 PM
26

Because it's stupid to buy a home with a friend. And if you aren't married, that's all you are legally. Not getting married is fine. Just don't do stupid things like mingle finances or buy homes together as if you are married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:11 PM
32

There's plenty of men who will pay for normal random girls because they they get off on her being an unwilling victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:01 PM
17

I don't see how she's defending him. She kicked him out. She said she thought he was "young at heart" before he moved in, not unbearably immature. She figured it out and threw him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 12:19 PM
16

I have never heard of chicken khow suey and thought your picture looked really nice so I googled it, and it sounds like something I would absolutely love. So thank you so much for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:27 AM
4

Yep, exactly. Ask the times I've been jogging and a car passes me slowly and then pulls to the side of the road sitting there waiting for me to pass and I have to turn around and change my route. I am so fucking sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:38 AM
12

Same. Road trips are the only time I've ever done this. It's bizarre to me otherwise. I'd drive to a park and sit at a table with a friend before I sit in the parking lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:30 PM
12

It worked on me after years of marriage and serious health problems. When dating I'd have thought he was an ass and left. But when I was sick and vulnerable and locked into a family? Yeah, it worked. The one where he says he can't deal with this anymore and then physically stops you from leaving really got me. My ex husband did that so many times. And it's not that I thought he was sweet, I found the whole thing extremely confusing and then I'd go the doctor and the doctor would say, "You're bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 12:30 PM
3

Yes, people are really this degenerate now and pedophilia is really this common. I sat at a bbq once where a woman bragged about being into BDSM since she was 14 and how good it was for her. Everyone there approved except for me. She was being beaten and fucked by adult men at 14 and an entire party full of adults thought that was great. And I was a narrow minded prude for thinking adult men who beat and fuck 14 year old children are pedophiles who need to be in prison. None of those people are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:43 AM
95

I'm stunned that men try to do this. I don't even know how I'd respond, I'd be shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:47 PM
162

I don't think she's too shy to ask. I think she's devastated that he doesn't give a fuck about her and he just wants to tie up her tits after surgery to get off. That's a lot to get dropped on you. I hope when she comes to terms with it, she gets rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:06 PM
53

I'm 40 and young women wore daisy dukes and bra like tops in the 90s so I'm wondering why you're saying nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:53 AM
74

It's supposed to be cute and heartwarming that he prioritizes a video game over his child needing to eat. People will say awww, what a good dad! No. A good dad would feed his child and not need to find a way to play a damn game through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:02 PM
10

Same here. Everyone I've ever known who was called themselves an empath has turned out to be a nightmare. It's now a huge red flag for me if someone uses that word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:30 PM
6

Exactly. He can do that. She can leave and have a happier, easier life without him anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:24 PM
3

So she would hit this guy, she'd beat him up for daring to touch her... but she'll also scream at her friends of 25 years in a bar to defend him for sexually assaulting a child. Yeah, you're better off without her in your life. I probably would've called her worse than stupid bitch. She's the type of friend who gets you raped and laughs about it and blames you. Those women are enemies and should be avoided at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:14 PM
9

If he isn't clipping his nose hairs then he can't clip them because he doesn't want to and he isn't going to. It sounds like you're saying go into the relationship thinking they'll change. No, that's bad advice. Poor grooming does not get better, it gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 04:06 PM
9

I think you had a sad childhood and I just feel bad for you. I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:40 PM
5

Just suck his cock every single day or put him in a cock cage! Can we send these guys all off to some island so they can suck each other off constantly and leave us alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:27 PM
22

She has to be a troll. If 16 is too old to start having sex in her mind, when does she think people should start? It's gross. Has to be a pedo troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:15 PM
3

Some could be fake. Enough of them are real that it's where my ex shops for girls who want "daddies" he meets them in person, they exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:09 PM
22

You're kidding right? You aren't seriously advocating for women to date children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:56 PM
47

She's fixing it all up for the next girlfriend. How sweet of her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:16 PM
3

Oh, that's fucked up. I didn't know they went through that. They were so huge they should have been rolling in money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:13 PM
5

He wants into her good family. They don't change. He's only pretending to be a good guy now because of what he thinks she can do for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:25 PM
12

Those women were literally millionaires and men were outraged that they wanted to date a man who had his own car. I had my own car as a teenager working at McDonald's. I never understood the hate that song got. Like, rich women are supposed to date homeless men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:23 PM
79

Oh, fetlife. Fetlife is horrifying. I've been downvoted on here for saying it but that's literally where my now ex husband is finding teenagers to screw. No grooming or time investment needed. Young women 18 - 25 put up profiles on there looking for "daddies" for their daddy-daughter kink. I found a couple who are 16 put said they were 18 to get on the site. 16 is legal where I live. Fucking cesspit. Young girls and women who have been abused post themselves up on there for more abuse and degene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:13 PM
20

Yes, we need to constantly nag and bitch at them to do what we told them to do. That way they get to play the victim yet again. If we don't nag, they're the victim because we don't communicate well enough. If we communicate constantly then we're nags. And somehow that makes us entitled. To hell with men like this, they aren't worth anybody's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:00 PM
26

That's some of the saddest shit I've ever read. It's hard for me to believe there are women who live like that. I know they exist and it happens but it's just so hard to understand why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:31 PM
23

What a piece of shit. Men are not the audience of a gym. They're supposed to be there to exercise, just like women. If they're gong there seeing women in the gym as performers to excite them, they're being total pieces of shit. That's another customer of the gym Mike, not a fucking stripper you hired to give you a boner in front of your bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:37 PM
282

Thank you. I'm real tired of seeing this hardcore pickme ass shit on here. If he used and abused other women, it's not because they are less special or less "right" than his current girlfriend. It's because he's a piece of shit who uses and abuses women, and his current girlfriend is an idiot pickme for thinking she's so special and right it won't happen to her too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:58 PM
112

It really just means he's a shitty LVM who was cool with using a woman for six years when he didn't really want her. Some of you need to stop with this narrative that these guys just need to find the right woman. Decent men do not use women they don't want as sex dolls until they find the "right" one. He's trash. That age gap proves it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:33 AM
115

They just want to hit us. Because it's not legal for another man to walk up to them and kick them in the stomach, body slam them and fart in their face. But they really, reeeeaaaaaallllllly want to do that to a woman so they're going to pretend that's something that happens to all men all the time and hope people fall for it so they can beat the shit out of a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:31 AM
32

Because he's looking for single, independent women to fuck behind his girlfriend's back and that's not working out for him because the women he's pursuing want actual dates in a restaurant where people could see them instead of settling for sucking his dick in a an alley behind a dumpster. That's why he's mad. I mean, the guy is outraged that other people go to restaurants for dates. He's unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:15 AM
35

The vast majority of those women are just desperately trying to survive. Most sex workers live in poverty. They're desperate women being taken advantage of by disgusting perverts. Even many of the ones who claim to love it because it's so much "fun" and they have such great lives are completely full of shit. I've literally known several "high end" escorts who need food stamps to feed their children and two who were homeless while posting about their "sexy and wealthy" lifestyle on line. It's bul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:12 AM
64

I bet the fancy restaurant in town is just an applebee's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:12 PM
3

Wow! That's crazy! I thought it was the weirdest damn thing a person could say. I shouldn't be surprised though, I'm learning shitty abusive men are very similar to each other, they say and do so much of the same crap. It's like they have a guidebook or they take classes on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:05 PM
54

I might get downvoted into oblivion for this but I think it's a really bad idea to stop using condoms at 18 with a boyfriend because he's been hinting at marrying you someday. It's your body but this could be one of the those things you look back on and regret for the rest of your life. I don't see how it's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:03 PM
123

They're very proud of how they keep fucking, lying to, and abusing women they don't care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:58 PM
21

LOL My ex husband literally said right to my face, "All the things I've done to you have turned you into someone I hate!" And it was like, seriously? That's supposed to make ME feel bad? It's such a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:59 PM
15

Exactly. Sometimes I see the whole "if you keep your standards, he'll treat you better." NO. If he's dogshit, he's dogshit. You can't make him high value by demanding it. If you know he already abused other women, move on. You know what he is. We can't make them better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:31 PM
46

That is really fucked up. Even if he's bad with languages he'd at least learn a little if he cared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:59 PM
0

I never said they all do. I said there are younger women who do want to have sex with older men. Just like you did. I'm saying it exists and it happens. And my ex husband is not older than me. We were in an age appropriate marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:48 PM
2

It's both. He is having sex with young women because he's a predator. The young women he's having sex with are posting ads of themselves on websites like fetlife with naked pictures of themselves and saying they're looking for "daddies" for their daddy daughter kink because they want to fuck old men. I'm aware these women are caught up in some sick crap. I'm sure most of them have been abused to do that. But they still count as young women. I don't think it's ok to discount their existence becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:46 PM
-9

You're using your own personal experience to say that no young women like older men. It's not true. I've just proved you wrong with a real life example. There are women doing it. I never said all young women like old men. You're the one speaking in absolutes. And there are men who are not pedophiles. I'm sorry you think all men would screw the youngest possible woman or child he could get. That's really sad. If that was true there'd be no point in this sub existing because it would mean there ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:07 AM
5

I can understand your argument but it doesn't change reality. I've read the texts and seen the horrifying pictures. They're fucking him for fun because they think he's "so hot." If they're repulsed then they're so screwed up that they're getting off on their own repulsion. They aren't looking for committment. And if they were looking for commitment, they were being pretty stupid by sleeping with someone who was already married and had a family. I don't like it either but it absolutely happens. P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:01 AM
30

You're also young though. A 20 year old man looks like a child to me. I could never have sex with one. The thought makes me want to vomit. Even 30 is too young to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:49 AM
21

You don't want them but plenty of young women do. My ex is about to turn 40 and dates teenagers and young 20 somethings. I don't understand it and find it disgusting but it's happening. And yes, he's a predator. He's using his life experience to manipulate them and they don't realize it because they're young. But old men think this because the horrible reality is they can find plenty of young women and girls who want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 10:47 AM
1

I'd just do it anonymously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:33 PM
5

Yeah, that ruined it for me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:19 PM
31

I'm 40. I have a sexy 43 year old man. A friend of mine was just asking how old he was and when I told her she said oh my gosh, I thought he was younger! He looks great! But it's definitely not the norm. And where you live makes a difference. I have a friend in a small town in the midwest and men seem to get gross by 30 there. I live in Las Vegas and I see more attractive older people here than I do when I go home to buttfuck Michigan, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:10 PM
63

He's a sick fuck, and yeah people dismiss men hurting women. I was in a 20 year marriage. When sex started to hurt after many years together, I thought something was wrong with me. My husband even said I was "burning" him. I went to so many doctors. One female gynecologist told me flat out I was being abused and there was nothing wrong with my vagina. I couldn't believe it. My husband who had never raised a hand to me and rarely raised his voice was abusing me? No way. It wasn't until the divorc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:57 PM
28

It's a sad hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:41 AM
3

It seems to mean something different to everybody. Just like six pack. I think of a six pack as a guy being super ripped and having big time abdominal definition like he's competing in a bodybuilding show. But I've heard other women use the term six pack for a guy who just has a flat stomach or not a gut. To me, that's a dad bod. But to those women the non beer gut guy with no definition has a six pack and the obese guy has a dad bod. so it's like you never really know what people are saying wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:10 PM
51

My bet is he's gay and he's using her to support him. The Christian sex is a sin angle is so he doesn't have to have sex with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:56 PM
50

As long as you're both independent, that's true. If there's combined finances and shared interest in a home, it's harder to split it up when you aren't married. Because then there's still all kinds of legal stuff involved, just with no protection of marriage laws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:54 PM
78

Well, I thought I had a happy marriage for 20 years and then he dropped my ass like I was garbage and I found out all kinds of horrible things about him. Turns out being actually married to him is really helping me legally and protecting me while I separate everything. Nobody's going to give a flying fuck about this woman if her boyfriend does the same to her. And by nobody, I mean the courts. She has ZERO protection. She will have to fight like hell for everything that was literally handed to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:51 PM
2

Yes, the man is 100% to blame for his actions. And the woman choosing to help him abuse his wife is also 100% to blame for her actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:44 PM
1

I don't really get the jobs they listed here. Men in those jobs can make a lot of money. I know a couple electricians who are millionaires. My ex is one and he makes six figures and he's lazy and has no ambition. Garbage collector is a good job here and has great benefits. And anyone who has ever had to hire a plumber in a emergency knows they can charge a shit ton. I don't believe any men are struggling to date because they have these professions. If they're struggling to get any woman to date …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:31 PM
2

Cheating is abuse. All the lies and gaslighting that go along with a man cheating on his wife is abuse. A woman who is knowingly a "side chick" and helps him with that abuse is helping him abuse his wife. It's not a cute little thing to be a side chick. It's being the knowing participant of the abuse of another woman. Only garbage women do that to other women. These are the dangerous pickmes who abuse other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:26 PM
2

He's 100% guilty to me and a horrifying murderer and I hope he dies in prison. And she is a 100% garbage person who enjoyed helping a psycho man abuse his wife. I don't understand why we need to choose on or the other. Both of those sentences above are reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:52 PM
29

It's the opposite for a lot of people. They start feeling like they have to accept anything. My best friend and I are both in our 40s and divorced, me just very recently in the past month. She hears all the time how she needs to "settle" and "give guys a chance" even if she's not interested. And it's like why? We're both fine on our own. We like ourselves and have hobbies. If a man fits into that and we like him, we'd each consider a relationship but otherwise why? But people our age are all abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:48 PM
12

My ex husband started this shit up after we had been married for years. I am 6 months older than him. I've had to hear from multiple people that I'm a cradle robber. but when I ask if I look older than him they suddenly get these confused faces like they just blindly accepted I'm 60 or something and never actually looked at me but then when they look at me they realize I look younger than him. It's annoying, to put it mildly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:41 PM
12

It's so sad because they're just going to be dropped once they age out of the pervert's preference. I'm pretty sure there are several women thinking they're winners right now because I divorced my husband. He's just going to abuse them and drop them for someone younger. They can't stop aging. You'd think watching him do it to me would give them a clue but they all think they are very special and that could never happen to them. It's sad. I'm sure one day one will "win" by getting to change his p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:34 PM
1

It makes her garbage. She gleefully participated in the abuse of another woman by helping her husband lie to her and cheat on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:45 PM
-1

Some women on here won't acknowledge that any woman could be wrong in any way. I had a woman on FDS harass me for weeks because I won't "empower" mistresses. I don't support them, don't allow them in my life, and see them as Co abusers of other women. I'm not going to empower them nor support them. But she called me all kinds of names and insulted me for weeks demanding I embrace the other women until I blocked her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:42 PM
62

My sister got all annoyed at me because I said his girlfriend put me off. I'm not saying it's her fault he killed his family but her little act of of "oh, goodness gracious me, i thought their marriage was over, i had no idea!" Followed by "yeah, he used prepaid cards to buy us dinner so his wife wouldn't find out." proves to me she has no issue lying through her teeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:42 PM
204

I wouldn't even take the money, I'd just leave and think he was weird as shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:37 PM
11

Height doesn't have anything to do with it. My now ex husband is tall and he's a degenerate pervert. Lots of his pervert friends are also tall. It doesn't stop them from being disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:46 PM
35

Right? I have a teenage son, explained laundry to him at around 12 as well, he does his own with no issue. Occasionally he'll ask me if he needs to do something special for a particular item. If I'm not here, he googles it. If a teenage boy can handle it just fine these grown ass men have no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:03 PM
16

Shit on a plate and serve it to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:01 PM
10

He's planning on abusing her and/or her daughter. That's why he's with her. He has a low opinion of her and he's marrying her, he's planning to use her for something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:44 PM
3

I was the one who filled for divorce and I got alimony. My being the one to file had no bearing on what I would get where I live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:58 PM
5

If by grooming you mean answering their ads on dating sites and Craigslist and bdsm websites, then sure. I've learned recently in horrifying ways this is way more common than I would have ever believed. 16 is legal where I am and women in their teens are out advertising for older men. I've divorced him, he's 40, but yes, young women are lining up to date him and they aren't women he's known and groomed for this. I find it repulsive but it's still happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:02 PM
11

I understand that you don't like it. I don't like it either. But yes, teenage girls and young adult women are out there having sex with older men. It doesn't matter that we don't like it. That doesn't change reality. It's horrible and it is happening, all over the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:34 PM
103

Except it happens all the time. Teenagers are fucking my now ex husband. I don't blame them for his cheating but there are absolutely girls and women in that age range who will fuck old men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:11 PM
11

Older men are not any better. I'm 40. They might pretend to be better to get into a 20 somethings pants but they aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:35 PM
99

I don't care if she's the most impressive monster who ever lived with the most amazing manipulative skills. That man drove for almost an hour thinking about how he had killed his wife and then he murdered his children. It wasn't a rage. The wife could have been a fit of rage, still no in any way ok, but could have been a rage he did it in. He murdered his kids in cold blood after having an hour to calm down and think about it. He's a monster no matter what anybody else did. No one could make me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:55 PM
3

It means he's unemployed and lives on a meager disability check. It could be a physical disability but the army is not known for paying disabled vets well. He's gonna need to get another job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:10 PM
108

Ooh, she's so edgy! That's just gross. I'm tired of women being super gross and thinking it's cute. It gets real old, real fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:30 PM
5

Nobody ever thought life ended for women at 25 until very recently and that's only because they're trying to normalize pedophiles. Even in my grandmother's day 25 was considered very young. Anyone who tells you that 25 is the wall for women is telling you that they are a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:28 PM
62

She just went through the pain of cancer and now she has to deal with finding out her husband doesn't love her. Goddamn that's brutal. I feel so bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:41 PM
52

Why would she have to live on the street because this guy won't date her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:41 AM
8

Got the now ex husband out of the house. 20 year marriage, formally divorced Sept 11, and he thought I was going to let him live here to save money. Jesus fucking christ... But he's out now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:46 PM
3

This is such a joke. They will cheat if they want to cheat no matter how much sex you give them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:12 PM
29

They're upset if a woman is in paint during labor because she's causing stress for someone else? Fuck that, she's the one going through it. And giving birth is a small thing. Right...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:53 PM
8

So he needs women to pursue him because he's too childish to date and he isn't worth anybody's time. That's really what he's saying here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:50 PM
27

Exactly. If he got her back, he'd just keep abusing her. And he'll abuse the next one too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:15 PM
3

Yeah, being raped is just a little play. How dare you not get off on it! Fucking degenerates. People used to be ashamed to be like this. Now they want random strangers to celebrate them for it while they jerk off. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:08 PM
13

Maybe this was really huge in some places but I'll be 40 tomorrow and I didn't know anyone like that. I mean, I remember seeing it on the silly news programs that also reported all the "rainbow parties" us teens were having back then where we put on different lipsticks and sucked dozens of dicks but I never knew anybody who did that either. I'm sure there were pockets, especially in small southern towns, where this was really big but this just doesn't accurately describe the bulk of my generatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:29 PM
41

Jesus, why would she wait for him to contact her again? She wants to take a drive to walk down a street and get ignored? That place is bad. They're worse than teenagers over there. I don't know how people get to that age and they're still all duh, is ok he ignore me on date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:58 PM
4

Yep, my best friend's ex husband was great when they were dating and once she was locked down and married, he raped her 1 week after the birth of their son. My now ex husband maintained his mask for 20 years then dropped it and I finally saw the real him. You have to look for little signs. When something feels off, investigate it and hard. People will tell you not to, people will tell you you're crazy but if I had left the first time I had a weird feeling and something felt wrong I could have sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:28 AM
41

See but they want the baby fat look because they're pedophiles. They don't want women, they want little girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:19 AM
30

I could use a bear right now. Not gonna lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:10 AM
19

Bark out 'SCUSE ME!" as loud and abruptly as possible right before they're about to smack into you because they won't move over. Most people will startle hard and stumble away from you. I made a guy fall down once doing this. It's also very effective on the bitchiest of the mom group mean girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:54 AM
42

Fucking seriously? He fucking destroyed her completely over two decades and didn't give a single fuck. Never cared a bit. Even when he finally gave her the money, he wasted her whole goddamn life and shrugged because he never gave a fuck about her, she could have been anybody to him. This is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:49 AM
36

Right?! It's super gross. Did he think children would be applying to be his girlfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:53 AM
79

Oh wow, a 37 year old man who demands they're at least 18. What a charmer. Barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:53 AM
3

There are so many shows where some fat guy has a hot wife so I think they feel entitled to it. I honestly think it's weird when any overweight person is cruel and nasty about how they'll never date anyone overweight. I had a friend like that. She wanted a really buff gym rat kind of guy and after years of hearing her bitch I finally said, "Look, how is that going to work? You hate working out or doing anything physical and you won't diet. Which is fine but how is your life going to line up with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:17 PM
8

Yeah, that was me, had to wear a big grandma bra all the time even to sleep in and my boobs just hung deflated and they just hurt. I tried to deal with it for 13 years after my son was born, did all kinds of weight training, even started wearing supportive corsets for all the back pain. Now I can go braless if I want, no pain. It was so worth it. Just find a really good surgeon who really listens to exactly what your issues are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:32 PM
2

You can here too but I'd rather do it concealed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:28 PM
22

They do choose pickmes, and then they cheat on them with anybody they can and then discard them and get another pickme. It's not like they're happy with a woman who settles for their low effort, even if that woman does everything for them and makes their life so much easier. But they aren't going to be happy with a woman who demands more either. No woman can make a man like that happy, they're going to hate every single one of them no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:44 AM
10

I went through the process of getting my CCW and I carry a gun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:36 AM
29

He's disgusting on so many levels. Stop talking to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:32 AM
101

This probably won't be popular but I really did want my breasts repaired for myself. The loose empty skin was extremely uncomfortable and I hated how it looked. I was married at the time and I didn't have any issue attracting my husband and I absolutely did not want more male attention. I am being honest by saying that. I looked fantastic in clothing but I was in pain and didn't like how I looked naked, and I wasn't letting any goddamn men see me naked except for my husband who already was very …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:14 AM
3

Oh yeah, that one and the adultery forum are illuminating as to how incredibly evil these people are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:10 AM
3

For me it was an easy way to change my name and I didn't have any issues with his name. I did not want my maiden name and was already planning to change it before I got married anyways. If I had liked my maiden name I probably wouldn't have changed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:38 PM
38

You're allowed to hate the other woman. You get to choose your boundaries and morals. If people (including women) who help others cheat don't meet your standards, you are more than entitled to exclude them from your life and say fuck them. I mean, what's the alternative? Let a bunch of morally bankrupt people you can't trust have access to hurt you like you know they hurt others for the sake of looking open minded? Nah, fuck that. Leave the trash with the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:30 PM
3

So he does nothing, just sits back and lets the woman decide everything and he thinks that somehow makes him the captain and her the first mate? How? Does this guy really think captains do nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:23 PM
12

Yeah, I'm right on the line between gen x and millennials and my best friend and I were just talking about how women our age got fucked. We were expected to do everything and somehow be super human and have extra hours in the day and that was supposed to feel empowering to us. It didn't. It was exhausting. Plus we both ended up with serious health problems which almost killed us and are exacerbated by stress. And we aren't alone in that. It's bullshit. It's like we were expected to be the perfec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:19 AM
83

He literally admits he's a pedophile and expects to not be shamed or judged for that. That blows my mind, people absolutely should be shamed for wanting to fuck children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:03 AM
22

Yes, that's the problem. And people keep telling me "Oh, but this one is so much better than that one!" No, they aren't. They both completely fucking suck and they're both absolutely disgusting men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:19 AM
11

I can throw stones at him. I would never do anything this vile to another human being. I never have and I never will. How evil and disgusting. And so, what? The women are going to fight over the baby? This is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:18 PM
24

No, it's not the majority but it's why everyone I know who hates astrology hates it, male and female. Sucks that they ruin it for people like you who aren't jerks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:16 AM
65

It gets used as an excuse for shitty behavior a lot. I used to think astrology was fun but I hate it now because of my sister. She uses it as an excuse every time she does something shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:57 AM
0

Cheating is abuse. You're neve going to change my mind on that. It's abuse no matter which gender does it. I don't need to hear her side. She chose to abuse another woman, that's tearing other women down much more than me calling an abuser an evil degenerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:54 AM
0

I'm going to need to use a much worse word than "Pickme" to describe a degenerate woman who gleefully assists in the abuse of another woman. Sorry, but a person that evil deserves very strong labels. I'm also not the person who used the word slut. I'm the person who pointed out to you that it's not just the cheating man who is a problem. A woman helping him abuse his wife is also a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:04 AM
21

Carry cash on dates. If they get weird like this, you can just drop it on the table and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:37 AM
11

Yeah, I learned some pretty disturbing stuff about degenerates and how many of them are out there when I was going through my divorce. I hear "come out with my friends" and I'm just like ugh, God no. At best it's a waste of time, at worst...yuck. Glad you deleted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:27 AM
1

The other woman is still a woman choosing to help a man abuse his wife just so he'll pick her. If she doesn't know then she doesn't know but if she knows she's a pickme making a conscious decision to help a man hurt a woman and denying her of informed consent in her marriage. It's not ok. Not at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:22 AM
4

Mine is public because I'm in real estate and that's the only reason I even have an instagram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:13 AM
17

I'm pretty jaded right now so I'm wondering if he's just trying to set up a gang bang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:12 AM
23

Oh wow, she needs to just get out. I think he's trying to isolate her. Where does this end? "Honey, your friend is really getting my dick hard, I'll try to keep it professional but you should probably stop talking to her." "Babe, I hate to do this to you but you need to quit your job because your boss is really turning me on. Is it worth the risk of me screwing her? Just quit your job." "snookie wookums, I know she's your mom but I really, REEEEAAAALLLLLLYYYYYY want to fuck her, can you just cut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:06 AM
180

Why does he pretend to be their friend when he clearly hates them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:11 PM
76

Part of me wonders if she's one of those people who shrieks about how much she loves chicken nuggets like it's a personality. I've encountered that a few times and it is the weirdest shit. Makes me think of idiocracy. OMG, you love money and eating food?! I love money and eating food too! We should hang out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:30 PM
24

I'll be 40 on Wednesday and I just got cornered in the grocery store by a man who felt the need to tell me I was beautiful and completely creep me out. I told him to fuck off and get the hell out of my way. I first heard about "the wall" when I was 36 at work. Some guy I worked with was talking about how older women were so jealous of young, beautiful women like me and I stared at him like he was insane and asked him how old he thought I was. He thought I was his age, 25. He looked like a bag of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:22 PM
32

Ugh, anybody who thinks the wall is at 20 is just a flat out pedophile. I saw some chart that incels were posting that said women peaked at 15. I didn't even have breasts or pubic hair at that age and that was supposed to be my peak? It's disgusting. They are just pedophiles, flat out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:16 PM
6

Thank you, me too! Yes, my divorce was final September 11 and my life is already so much easier. And I was one that was told I had a "good" marriage. I can't even imagine how hard it is for some of them with the insanely shitty marriages on breaking mom. Even with the drop in income, life is so much better. A man is going to have to bring a hell of a lot to the table to make me even consider giving up this peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:15 PM
15

Big deal, I got picked too. I've spent 20 years married, talking to other wives, going to mom groups. Damn near every fucking one of them is miserable. The bitching about the husbands is unreal. Women will brag about how great marriage is to single woman and publicly and then go their mom group and cry about how he won't help at all with the kids or he told her her stretch marks are disgusting or how some of them won't even shower and smell like shit. It's so common that even the women who seem …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:53 PM
59

Yeah, it's never been real. When I was young I heard it was 40. But then at some point they lowered it to 30 because of all the pedophiles on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:46 PM
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