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PICKME CULTUREHalf_Halt/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:32 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYHalf_Halt/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 06:31 PM
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Her reply is 🎤 💣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:09 AM
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Interesting. I''m a woman with ADHD. Yet somehow, I can make it through a day without oogling attractive men or blurting out hurtful things to my partner...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:55 PM
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Oh, for f-ck's sake! 🙄 Harry Winston sent the HOPE DIAMOND to the Smithsonian in an envelope through the USPS. (Seriously. There's a pic of the envelope on the Smithsonian's website.) This dude's precious Rollie will be fine. It's probably fake, anyway. Notice how he didn't seem to even notice it was gone until she brought it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:57 AM
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I don't know. I'm sure you could find similar online. Cookbooks up until the second half of the 20th century tended to be more holistc in their content -- what you'd call a domestic how--to manual -- rather than just recipes. Managing a household was a job. And a full-time one at that. Most of the women who wrote cookbooks did so because they were regarded as particularly standout subject matter experts. Re the food, families not eating together was more common then. Children ate an earlier, sep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:53 PM
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I inherited a cookbook from 1915 that belonged to my great-great-great aunt. She worked as a cook for wealthy families after emigrating to the US in the early 20th century. There are separate chapters for cooking for invalids (the diabetes diet is actually pretty spot on) , for children, and -- no joke -- for men. The cookbook advises that men need "simple, plain, and uncomplicated" foods reminiscent of the nursery meals of their childhood. The recipes are largely devoid of color --simple boiled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:34 AM
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[Assuming US law here] He can ask for whatever he wants. He's not going to get it. Especially with the child in question being an infant. Even in my state, which presumes unmarried parents having equal basis to ask for custody, I've met exactly two fathers with more than the traditional every-other-weekend custody schedule. Both were absolute top flight fathers who had pulled their fair share of the parenting load even while married -- never presumed mom was the one who would take off work to ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:32 PM
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The funny thing is that at work I often wait on customers where the male half of the couple is caucasian, the woman asian. Most of the older ones clearly met during the Vietnam war. Others (much younger) where the man still appears to have married a local woman he met while stationed in Okinawa or the like. None of these women are shrinking violets. Quite the opposite. They may speak English with a heavy accent. Yet they are always the one who asks questions, negotiates, etc, and makes the decis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:59 AM
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He's apparently military, too. There's an earlier video "last date night before deployment". He's gross. And useless. At least the comments sections on TickTok are full of people telling him he's trash & urging her to return him to the tornado.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 03:25 AM
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"Jaxn". The spelling alone makes my eye twitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:01 AM
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She was an amazing woman. Another fact about her that gets brushed aside in the popular false narratives of her life -- she was probably the best English horsewoman of her generation. She rode at the front of the pack alongside Henry, who was also an extremely skilled rider, during stag hunts. (Almost unheard of for a woman.) She was athletic and strong, extremely intelligent, and had incredible fashion sense thanks to her time living in France. Men were tripping over themselves for her. Natural…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 04:30 AM
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Ah, you bring up a good point: she's dead. According to Bill, this is the worst thing that ever happened to anyone in the history of the world, and permanant excuse for not getting his s--t together. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:46 PM
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Oh, F--k this bullshit. I'm so tired of women putting up with this behaviour. Sounds just like a good friend & her husband. They looked at a rental house in my town. She liked it. He did not, because "The commute is too far". Oh, where is Bill working now? "Ohhhh, he's not..." That's right. Bill doesn't have a commute & he's still complaining . 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:33 AM
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I've learned to weed out the "Wow! When do you have time to date?!? Hur hur" dudes over the years. Yes, I have a lot going on personally & professionally. No, I don't do it all every day, all day. Yes, I have free time. It's called time management skills. Go away, boring dude who can't even manage a 9-5 without the household (or world) revolving around him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:22 AM
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Preach! I said something similar on another non-Reddit board I frequent. "We need to educate boys & men!!" Da fuq?? There's no "educating" someone that strangling your gf is wrong". Toxic misogyny is so deeply in this society that it will not be fixed in my lifetime, nor that of my children. It ain't fair, but I will continue to teach my daughters how to protect themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:15 AM
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Holy shit. Just when I think we've plumbed the depths of clowndome, some dude comes along & mines down to a new, subterranean parking deck of cray cray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:23 AM
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A man I dated has Venmoed me probably $75 by now in $5 increments. Dude. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:11 AM
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Well, that killed some trees now didn't it? 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:06 AM
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Jesus f-ing Christ. Wtf is this fresh hell??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:03 AM
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Because it looks like she had her arm around his shoulder like they had been/were in the process of taking SnapChats or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:52 AM
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Exactly. He has a gambling addiction & she's trying to sugarcoat it to make herself feel better. If it weren't for the bit about having a 15 month old, I'd swear this was my best friend from childhood talking about her husband: Can't hold a job down, said he'd "homeschool" the kids (just ended up with a 2nd grader that couldn't read), and passive aggressively f-cks up any simple chores she asks him to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:51 PM
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I'm out of Tylenol. Think Aleve would work just as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:09 AM
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Not gonna lie. I want to date her now & I'm a heterosexual woman. 🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:22 PM
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I'll take "things that never happened" for $800, Alex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:42 AM
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Idk. It's the part about her sending bath products to the wife. That's...not normal behavior in my book. Plus, I got a message from some dude assuring me that no, no, they'll all cool and upstanding dudes. Which means, yes, something happened. Eta: And my original comment got down voted by male lurkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:20 AM
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$100 says he's f-cked the half brother's 21yo gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:55 PM
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No wonder they have trouble getting much else done in life. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:06 PM
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16th century pirate/Irish rebel Grace O'Malley actually had to get up a few hours after giving birth to her son to take command of her men after her fleet was attacked. Proving once again that men are incapable of getting anything done alone if there's a woman around to do it for them. No matter how freaking huge an inconvenience it might be for her. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:33 AM
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Love his voice. I frequently use him as an example for my voice students as he's about the only real tenor working in a commercial contemporary genre. He's beyond solid technique-wise, too. The way he shapes a phrase in some of his ballads? Wowza! Spine tingling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:27 PM
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Salsa singer Marc Anthony (the former Mr. J Lo) once said in an interview that his father frequently reminded him, "Son, we're ugly. Work on your personality."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:55 AM
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Nailed it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:20 PM
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Well, men are THE LOGICAL SEX, dontcha know??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:06 PM
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Oooooo, fancy word soup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:45 AM
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Oooooo, fancy word soup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:44 AM
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YAAAAAAASSSSSS! All of this was awesome. But I cheered reading the part where you hung onto the dessert. That was forking perfection!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:03 PM
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But, but! My 4th cousin 20 times removed had a chick drop by his house unannounced to check if he was alive after he ghosted her after 5 year together! He was very scared & had to take a leave of absence from his job at GameStop! Won't you THINK OF THE MEN???? -- 95% of the male population & (sadly) at least 50% of women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:58 PM
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And it was probably some nasty sh-t like Papa John's, too 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:24 AM
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Why is that bad? Of course she cares what they think. She has to work with them! I also think it is good boundaries to have a curated business persona. Granted, I've never been a fan of "I tell it like it is" people. Sometimes things are best unsaid. If I blurt out, "Bitch! That dress is ugly as a$$! Wtf do you think you're doing stepping out in that??" It is going to sting for a second no matter if I'm your bff or some rando on the street. YMMV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:21 AM
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One of the Yamas of yoga is Satya. Often translated as "right speech", which gets oversimplified into "don't lie". That's not what yogic philosopher Patangali meant when he set forth the Yamas 5000 years ago. He meant that what you say should not bring violence/harm to you or the other party involved. Example: Your outfit is objectively ugly. For me to say so is telling the truth. But because 1) he truth is hurtful to you 2) no harm will come to you or I in my NOT telling you your outfit is ugly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:23 AM
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Exactly. Is the dinner supposed to be a consolation prize for the abject disappointment of his dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:49 AM
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250 at 6'2"? Sounds like he hasn't missed many free dinners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:46 AM
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He juuuuuust couldn't quit while he was ahead, now could he? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:30 PM
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Yikes. I'm glad you kicked him to the curb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:36 PM
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Ugh. Yes! And even worse, I see women screaming, "but won't anyone think of the meeeeeennnnnn?!?!?" every single time a serious women's issue is raised on the social media boards for moms/parenting I read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:43 PM
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I'm seriously tempted to reply, "No, my multiple personalities always keep me company." Haven't done it yet. But tempted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:18 PM
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Wait. Isn't that my line? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:13 AM
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Appropos of nothing, that's a really ugly chair. There. I said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:10 AM
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There's a movie starring Steve Martin that came out in the early 1990's called LA Story. At one point, he wants to make a reservation at this hot new, ultra exclusive, ultra expensive restaurant. However, he's not famous enough & the chef & the maitre d' insist on a sit down his bank to go over his financials before they'll entertain the idea of him booking a table. Cut to them sitting at a conference table in the bank. The chef is angrily muttering in French as he aggressively rifles through th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:36 PM
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🤣 That was pretty much what I said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:23 PM
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I said the same in another thread about the riots! Dated a career detective who had commendations out the whazoo yet was shocked to learn that I wear makeup. After 6 years of knowing me. Spoiler alert: I wear natural-looking but fairly obvious makeup daily. If he didn't notice that, what does he notice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:51 AM
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Bumble's whole premise is a fatal flaw: women have to message first. Imagine the lazy a$$ men that must attract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:30 AM
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I'd have the other $14k that I didn't spend on a ring with a zillion $ markup in the bank. 😊 And I'd be getting the same value out of the gold from the Etsy ring as any other. Eta: That's my point. guess I'm trying to boil it down to this: Is the titular ring of this thread an appropriate engagement ring? No. Can you buy low quality jewelry online if you're careless? Yes. Is there a difference in value between a solid 14k gold ring & a 14k gold plate ring? Yes *The shit has hit the fan in my mar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:44 AM
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I think that you agree with me? Lol. But in a way I think what you're doing as a reseller is even more difficult: I do see many vintage pieces on Etsy, and a large portion of those are being offered by independant but reputable brick & mortar jewelers. You will, of course, be paying a premium on the secondhand pieces they're selling because you're buying their expertise in authentication. Those jewelers also make money by buying jewelry off private individuals hoping to sell. Thanks to their spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:19 AM
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Yup! I'm actually a big fan of lab created stones. No worrying about questionable mining processes, better quality due to the controlled conditions in lab, less expensive, and the whole process is crazy cool imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:12 PM
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It's a lab created sapphire. If I wanted natural sapphire not treated for color, I'd expect to pay $500 for the stone. I'd prefer the latter for metaphysical properties but the former could be You're taking a real knock at a good portion of Etsy sellers. I've purchased several pieces off Etsy from a seller who is an independant jeweler with a brick & mortar location. They're lovely, bench crafted pieces. And with far more customization options available than a big name. Sennin Esko also sells on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:08 PM
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Average quality 1 carat stone = maybe $100 + about $121 for the gold in an average sized women's 14kt ring. That would've paid for 20 minutes of my divorce lawyer's time. Asking for gold boullion would be much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:47 PM
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I get that. I think the ring in question is better without the CZ side stones. I also get that my opinion is unpopular on FDS. I rack up the downvotes every time I bring it up. But working in the industry, I see 99% of it as an incredible racket. Buy me the average $15k diamond ring sold in the US & I'll die inside thinking about the $14k the guy just set fire to. 99.9% of us can't come close to buying stones that are actually of value. The 1carat +/- , G-D, SI diamonds that the staple of the US…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:23 PM
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Lab created stones are chemically & optically identical to their natural created counterparts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:30 PM
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Yes, the Mohs is not linear. However, sapphires are an 8 on Mohs and havs long been the choice for engagement rings. Predating diamonds by centuries. And it is fine. CZ was more prone to clouding in the past; newer additive mixes make that less of a concern. The CZ we bought for cutting supposedly had a lifetime guarantee against clouding. Does it cloud? I suppose it could. Never saw any that did. At maybe $5 for the side stones, I'd consider 5 years out of them a decent ROI. Just pop them out &…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:29 PM
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Omg! Put my reading glasses on & zoomed in. I thought it was a bezel set stone at first. The kind that are commonly used for stacking sets. Spoiler alert: I used to manage the jewelry counter in a department store. The setting is the first thing I pay attention to. If I had to zoom in on it....girrrrrrrlll! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:02 PM
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$304 is not overpriced for 14k white gold. The value of jewelry is mostly in the metal. CZ is about an 8.5 on the Mohs scale. That's harder than most substances on earth. Unless you took a moissanite or diamond & aggressively tried to scratch it or something, it isn't going to just fall apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:38 PM
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Wtf is this shit? I've bought & flipped "project" horses that I felt would yield a good ROI. I'm not taking on some crusty man as a project, thank you very much. No resale value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:17 AM
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"I have healthy bounderies."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:04 PM
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Indeed. But as an American, I have to say that the Daily Mail is Pulitzer Prize winning journalism compared to its far right counterparts here. The DM is at least factually accurate, even if they are playing semantics with those facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:16 PM
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Yup! It is ridiculous. Listen to women, ffs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:17 PM
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On newrer android phones like my Samsung, blocked texts get put into a folder that takes a few clicks to navigate into. I love it because I can still monitor communications from people I've blocked. I actually use it as a tool to deescalate my responses to certain people, as weird as that sounds. Something about knowing their response is there but not having it ping im my inbox right away helps me relax & take my time to gather my thoughts to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:55 PM
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Dare I ask what the "with one of them" part meant? More than one ex wife?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:44 AM
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Preach! And honestly? Not once in the 8 years I've been divorced have I looked at a male/female couple out with their kids & thought "wow, I wish I had what they had!" Because they're always fighting & look miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:39 AM
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And yet they don't want common sense gun registration or vaccines. Because the "government uses those to track you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:30 AM
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Good for her! An acquaintence of mine hemmoraged in the shower like 2 weeks after giving birth to their second child. Thank God her husband is kick a$$ awesome & on the ball in general & of course went into the bathroom to see what she needed when she said in what they both recall as very normal tone "Hey, hon? Could you come here a minute?" Someone go bring this lady here so we can support her. She's made the best decision & needs to not let up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:25 AM
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For a split second, I wondered why tape it to a mop. Then I came to my senses & remembered that some things are best left a mystery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:55 AM
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I don't think the child is wrong for asking, bless her heart. Too many men rush into a new relationship in order to have someone to babysit the kids & pay no mind to the fact that kids will need extra one-on-one with each parent after a divorce. I went out on a 1st date with a guy whose kids apparently lived halfway across the country. The ONE WEEK he had them, he insisted that his new, non-live-in bang maid had to be around 24/7. Way to parent there, bucko! Make your kids compete against T & A …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:34 PM
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Covid deniers can only lie for 5 minutes, though, before their shithead opinions start oozing out like slime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:40 PM
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Oh, I don't doubt it. Any organization in the US with a culture heavy in ex-military is usually shit. All the more reason to get more women in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:29 PM
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I swear to God. The FBI needs to hire more women agents. Any hetero woman could tell you. The first place you look for loser men is in their momma's basement. Or crashing in their gf's/wife's house. Seriously, tbough. I wonder how many crimes go unsolved due to the vast majority of investigators being men. My retired detective with multiple commendations ex SO was shocked to learn I wear makeup. No shit, Sherlock. Did you really think I emerged from the womb with sparkly russet-gold eyelids? And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:10 AM
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Preach! I know a complete loser fake Libertarian "stimulus payments are redistribution of wealth, yada yada nut job married to a very sweet pediatric dentist. I can only imagine the amount of business she has lost due to his rantings on social media. Boggles the mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:00 AM
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The common denominator there is MEN with ADD. I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my 30's. ADD simply wasn't something girls & women had back when I was a kid. Somehow, I've managed to earn 2 undergrad & q graduate degree, hold down a steady job, retrain several times for new career opportunities, raise 2 children alone 99% of the time, own real estate, start small businesses, run a household. It is fucking hard. I'm always tired from my brain running a million miles an hour and/or meds wearing of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:55 AM
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Ha! My teenage daughter likes to order clothes from these companies in China. Everything arrives. It just takes forever. I bet he spent the $ on porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:40 AM
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As someone who has ADD, I'm here to laugh hysterically about his being "unable to go to school". Take your meds, loser. And buying jewelry online is easy. What do you want to bet he maxxed out his cards on OnlyFans?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:35 AM
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🤣 Yup! I mean, I'm sure there's multiple models out there with a STEM background. However, he specifically mentioned Victoria'a Secret & Stack. Afaik, she has never been married nor does she have children, as he alleges they did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:44 PM
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I refer to that sub as "Struggling to Adult Over 3 Decades".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:32 PM
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One of the mods once alluded to having been married to Lyndsey Scott. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:10 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 Spotted her problem in the first sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:04 PM
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Low life was probably raised by a single mom. Look. I'm a single mom. Have never had any trouble attracting men. And so-called "alpha men" that scare other men & supposedly want nothing to do with a single mom. Literally, the.only men who have had an issue with "another man's children" have been the dregs of the earth that are still single as 50yos. Real men don't act like animals towards children. (Killing the offspring of another male)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:08 AM
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My 26yo female coworker was stunned when I told her I'm 45. Tbf, I look like I've reverse aged 10 years since I dumped an energy vampire SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:52 AM
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The ring is amazing! But I'm really jealous of your nails!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:04 PM
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I've christianed those two the Low Rent Rasputins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 08:01 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:48 PM
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I've begun referring to the dudes on either side as the Low Rent Rasputins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:27 PM
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I read an article where they'd contacted his cousin for comment. The cousin said something like "I think he is currently between jobs." Of course he is. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:45 PM
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Those women won't learn shit until the pooch fucks them. They really won't. Walking down the street a while back I encountered Erik Prince coming the opposite direction. I quickly crossed the street so I wouldn't get singed if the good Lord chose that moment to smite him with a lightening bolt. But the number of 50-something, Botox faced women throwing themselves at that dude (I guess) because he's rich & not in totally shitty shape for a man his age? Meanwhile, he's already demonstrated that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:28 PM
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I'm not intending this as a snark at you but so what if she was an AF vet? My unpopular opinion? You can pretty much weed out LV/NV people based on their expecting/demanding special treatment because they're "veterans". The ones who bring up their veteran status constantly were the ones who chopped potatoes in the mess hall. The guys I know who were infantry & actually fought never bring up the fact they're veterans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:09 PM
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That's the absolute hypocracy. I live in yeehaw redneck land. All these losers complaining about "socialism" and blah de blah because they might have to pay an extra $5 in taxes to buy PPE for their county first responders? They're no different than men who complain about gold diggers. Neither has enough money to be worried about it getting taken. Hell. Click into the FB profile of any of the complainers here & you're see posts like "my baby/grandbaby's first day of school!" (Cough, cough, Head …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:55 AM
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I forgot & bought a PS5 instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:39 AM
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I do not think it is actually possible for any man to be a Libertarian. Why? Because truly upholding the Libertarian platform would mean giving up their control over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:36 AM
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Having trouble linking the article, but notice that it was all WOMEN staffers who had the presence of mind to grab the ballot boxes as they evacuated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:54 AM
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Oh, 100%. Look at the crowd at any Trump event. Only a handful appear to own washing machines. Back in March when barbers & cosmetologists were shut, I got in trouble on a community FB group for asking "Why start now?" to a loser pickmesha whining she wanted a haircut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:20 PM
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Yup. I had my kids in 06 & 07. Still. Know what all of this requires that many women don't have the luxury of? A supportive partner to go pick up the pump, run interference with health insurence companies, doctors' office front office staff, etc. My ex husband couldn't even be assed to come into the pediatrician's office with me. I remember looking at one of the pediatricians bleary eyed as she told me I ought to take "me time" by leaving the sleeping baby with her dad & going to wander the aisl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:18 AM
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May depend on where you are. In rural midwest GOP infested podunks, I bet it isn't. But my large east coast city, there are so called "baby centered" hospitals where they won't bring you formula even if you ask. I gave birth in a "normal" hospital & they were still trying to bully me: "you can't leave until you've been seen by the lactation consultant". Told them i'd need their credit card info to foot the bill for the extra night my insurance wouldn't pay, then. And I've read numerous stories o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:40 PM
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It is a recent thing, then? Assuming you have semi-decent insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:25 PM
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I have never in my 45 years met a man who encouraged a woman to pump. And why would they when the obsession with breastfeeding at all costs in the US is yet another sneaky way to keep women in their place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:13 PM
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We do? I have two kids & no free pump materialized with either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:52 PM
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Do you have children, Summerisle7? I don't say this to be snide. I figure either you don't, or were lucky enough to fall into the small percentage of women for whom breastfeeding is an easy process. Because lemme tell you...it forking isn't for a lot of us moms. I tried with both mine. Every 2 hours round the clock. First letting them nurse. Followed by a round of pumping because they weren't getting enough milk nursing. Change diaper. Oh, look. It's been an hour & 45 minutes. Time to start agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:51 PM
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Alexandrite is one of my favorite stones! Such a pretty ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:01 PM
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What does he claim he's addicted to? Acting like a douche canoe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:39 PM
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If I had escaped Elon Musk I would be playing Power Ball every week & throwing giant parties most weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:38 PM
3

Same. And the one time in like 20 years of driving I forgot mine, I'd driven 35 minutes to Home Depot to buy moving boxes & discovered my wallet was in the diaper bag at home. (My MIL was minding the kids so I didn't have to drag them with me.) As I was driving back home to retrieve said wallet, the sheriff's department in our podunk had a traffic check point going. So I got a ticket for driving without my license on my person. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:21 AM
3

The irony is that your average teenage boy could swing a genuine Pandora ring. And they're too cheap to bother sizing. Would cost more than the ring itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:10 AM
8

She's his sister wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:03 AM
11

Where is the late 20's meth-head whose eyes dart around like a cat following a laser pointer? The ones who you're pretty sure would bleed Mad Dog 20/20 & from whom you can smell the week old cigarette smoke just by looking at their mugshot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:59 AM
12

I point blank asked this on a certain dating sub for those struggling to adult over the age of three decades. It basically boils down to: men are hypocrites too wishy washy to put their money where their mouths are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:56 AM
6

🤣🤣🤣 We had a package arrive randomly at the store where I work seasonally. It turned out to be goods we'd purchased from an overseas vendor like 3 years ago. The package must have circled the globe numerous times before finally being kicked back to the vendor who then decided to overnight it. I was fascinated that neither the vendor nor the shop owner apparently ever once questioned the wherabouts of the package in all that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:03 PM
3

Omg, yes! At least cats' purr is supposed to vibrate at a healing Hertz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:54 PM
8

I have so many questions about the bath towel! Why a towel? And why just one? Did she shower at his place once & compliment him on the towel? I need to know. 🤣 Know what this reminds me of? I had a dog, who, when the doorbell rang, would pick up the nearest unsecured object & head to the door with me to greet the guest. Most random object I can recall was a magnifying glass. 🤣🤣 He was the biggest dog most people had ever encountered. So I never discouraged the habit because it made people relax …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:50 PM
2

There was a woman in an online yoga training I took who was big into recommending microdosing psilocybin for depression. She was in Europe. And I think unaware that it is not legal in the US for the most part. It could well help. But like you, I'm personally wary of it being used without careful medical supervision. Because I can see it going in much the same way that people randomly using marijuana for depression. I've never known anyone it actually helped, probably because they become dependan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:42 PM
4

Lord, I wish I could smack the person who came up with twin flames. We are all complete by ourselves. There is no one wandering around who is the "missing half" of our soul. Now, I do believe that the soul comes to earth more than once. And that we likely cross paths with the same people across multiple lives. BUUUTTTTT, it is unlikely that they will take on the same relationship to you as they did in a past life. (I.e. - your husband in 1750 may now be your grandmother in this life)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:15 PM
4

I don't know wtf the parents are thinking in these situations. There is no way in hell that a man in his early 20's is coming near my under 18 daughter. Full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:58 PM
7

100%. I had an eating problem in HS. Got down to 96 lbs iirc. Some adult family friends who hadn't seen me in a while came over at Xmas. Their faces fell & they were obviously struggling with how to react. I looked that bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:54 PM
6

On my one & only trip to traffic court in 24 years of driving, it was striking to me that the women present were mostly there for minor moving violations & the like. The men were there for stuff like 10 toll violations in a year, 50 mph in a 25 mph zone, driving with a license revoked, etc. One who looked to be in his early 20's had mommy & daddy there to pay the hefty fees to have his license reinstated. Another one's family appeared to be there with the expectation he would immediately be rema…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:46 PM
9

She states his car is "unregistered". I'm betting that's dude-ese for " license revoked .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:50 AM
17

That's where I'm at. I'm 45, divorced with kids. I don't want to remarry. I'm not even sure I want to have a man in the house ever again. Up until recently, I had what I guess qualifies as a FWB that actually benefitted me. I ended it when he did something that I would not tolerate from any other friend. If I wanted more kids, though? I'd be a lot more careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:16 AM
74

Yup. I'm 5'2", weigh about 120 (I don't even own a scale so only get weighed at the gym) and wear a US size 0 or 2 in most clothes. 98 is rail thin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:01 AM
3

Hmmmm. If that's the case, you tried ignoring him. Next step would be politely but firmly declining, yes? The only people I know that work for the state are law enforcement & they would be in a world of trouble if they used their government issued devices to ask someone (coworker or not) out. A couple of them are total horn dogs & they still manage to refrain from macking on women on their government issued phones because it is that big a deal. How one earth does your company not consider this a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:54 AM
20

Sisters, if a 29yo man is broke ass enough to be "excited to eat nice cake".... I, I don't even know what to tell you anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:54 AM
9

Totally off the point, but I thought the term "giving head" was only used to describe a blow job & not a man going down on a woman? Am I just just old & out of touch?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:51 AM
10

Oh, I remember reading about that woman! I've gone to Florida on short notice to look at a horse. Would never do it for some OLD rando.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:51 PM
3

The sum of badonkidonk = in your dreams + the good Lord really hit you with the ugly stick on the way down now, didn't he, son?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:33 AM
2

My 6' somewhat SO-like male (I'm not sure what to call him anymore) was bewildered when he discovered I just don't use the top shelves of my kitchen cupboards. I can't reach them without the hassle of pulling out a step ladder. What's the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:30 AM
4

Iirc, a large portion of medical studies are still done assuming men as the baseline. Charming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:20 AM
3

I've never quite gotten this panic men have about height. A lot of tall men seem to think it is enough to be tall & are overweight & unkempt. I've only met maybe 3 men over 6' that I was actually attracted to because of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:12 AM
6

It's funny, isn't it? No man has ever had anything negative to say about my looks but my ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:07 AM
3

Beautifully put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:00 AM
3

I don't think it would work for the real Brad Pitt circa 1998. I thought he was nice enough looking until I saw him in Legends of the Fall. And then it was like, whoa, that is one of the most gorgeous men to ever walk the face of the earth. But it was the character's personality that pushed him into that category for me. Doubt that Brad Pitt with our King's personality would do it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:48 AM
3

I had a guy on Tinder write me a treatise on how the election was stolen from Trump, [insert multiple conspiracy theories here]. Was really tempted to respond, "Sir, this is Tinder. We're all just here hoping to get laid. Take that shit on 4Chan." (I wasn't on Tinder to get laid, and I just blocked & deleted. But I was reeeeeeaaaaly tempted 🤣)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:38 AM
3

Even Henry VIII was allegedly normal & pretty good looking until a jousting accident almost killed him. (They now think he sustained a personality-altering TBI that also left him too crippled to exercise anymore.) Something tells me this guy didn't start out at normal & pretty good looking 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:30 AM
2

But, but! I love dudes with tattoo sleeves wearing old tank tops! Stop kink-shaming me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:23 AM
2

What am I going to do, Stephen? Get a nice tan from the reflection of the sun off your bald pate, then dance around a bonfire naked with the rest of my coven like the ending of The Witch. That's what I'm going to do, Stephen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:16 AM
2

No, I agree with you. And I was raised in what was basically a culturally mainstream American family. Nothing about this father's actions come off HV to me. I don't see it as an issue of the boy not having earned the trust of the family, though. Instead, I see the issue as the father encouraging the daughter to chase (really, shoving this poor girl into the face of) a boy who is clearly disinterested in her. The moron dropped them off alone in the dark at a trailhead, for God's sake! What the ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:06 AM
2

Did you somehow marry my ex without me realizing he got remarried? Omg, does this ever sound like something he'd say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:43 AM
3

Oh, for F-cks Sake! When are we all going to stop putting up with this crap from men? I mean, sheesh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:41 PM
5

Is this post real? It doesn't seem possible to be a 31yo neurosurgeon, assuming they're in the US. Undergrad, 4 years of med school, 5-7 year residency...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:34 AM
5

Just when I thought I'd heard everything...the internets deliver!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:05 AM
3

I'm not sure. I'd never heard of "fixing a plate" until I met this poor, sweet, young West Virginia redneck-ish Pickmesha in a class I took. She got a new bf & her FB feed was nothing but posts about cooking & fixing him a plate first. I asked my bff, a native Southerner who grew up in a conservative Christian family, about it. She reported that all the men in her family would think it was weird & kind of pushy not letting them pick what & how much of things they wanted to eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:27 AM
21

This reminded me of an episode of Botched featuring a woman who was a self-described "Sugar Queen". (Supposedly highly paid & coached other women trying to break into the biz.) She claimed that actual sex was rarely part of the arrangements she made. And I mostly believe her. This guys sounds like an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:42 PM
31

I would've lit the sage and started waving it in his general direction: " Wow!! I'm being PULLED towards this corner of the room where you're sitting! It is like there's this bad energy VORTEX swirling around you!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:28 PM
6

What on earth did I just read?? 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:59 PM
11

They engage with their "fans" . Answer comments from men, ask them about their lives, etc. Some probably even text from burner phones. Anecdotally, I know enough successful former dancers who are now very successful real estate agents & small business owners that it can't be coincidental. Good marketing & sales closing skills are the same no matter what you're selling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 12:52 PM
5

I have a very similar list & have also never met a single dad who checks off all the boxes. My most successful relationships post divorce have been with woke, childless men & not other single parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:27 PM
3

Holy shit!!! I'm so glad you got out of there safely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:39 PM
3

As bad as his suit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:27 PM
3

I feel this comment is insensitive to wildlife. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:26 PM
4

At the gym a while back, I overheard a (older, white, out of shape, natch) male ask his female personal trainer if she "needed help" lifting a 45 lbs plate. After my eyes rolled back into place from traveling so far back I could see my own brain, I picked up a 45 in each hand & casually did a few sets of farmer carries the length of the gym & back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:07 AM
5

I'm honestly not sure. In the eyes of these dudes, I suppose so. Yet in all the relationships I know of with what society would deem a gold digger/gold mine dynamic, there's close to an even balance of power. Or actually tips over into the woman holding more power. I guess because it is a business relationship in a way. And these are usually women who are successful in conventional business; own thriving independant stores, real estate brokers, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:56 AM
16

My 24th birthday is now legally old enough to drink (i.e., I'm 45) 🤣 Two men bumped their carts into each other looking at me in the produce section last week. Obviously past my peak. It is so tragic. 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:41 AM
13

I can just hear it: "yOu MaDE Me brEak my HanD!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:30 AM
5

He's a weirdo. Like the 50-something version of the hipster ex in a Taylor Swift song. 🤣 Everything he likes is waaaay cooler than what you like. The Birkin has been around since the 80's & holds it's resale value. Now, I did get a Birkin in the end. Sort of. Had the sweetest, most crazy talented little 10yo voice student. He made duct tape wallets & handbags. After we chatted about handbags in a lesson, he researched it & proudly presented me with a duct tape version a couple weeks later. It wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:50 AM
2

Sort of an extended post-partum doula? I like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:37 AM
9

Lordie. My ex was the king of this stupidity. Bought all this crap in Hermes. I'd made it clear that I would want a Birkin if I wanted anything from there. He had some weird aversion to the Birkin: "Too generic". Instead bought all this bizarre stuff I'd describe as Hermes consolation prizes. A daytime handbag that was an inch wide, open at the top, & had big holes as part of the design of the leatherwork. $800 gloves. A $1000 scarf that wasn't even one of the iconic silk designs & looked like a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:56 PM
15

Bumble is inherently flawed because it requires women to do the chasing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:39 PM
11

Typical meth head. They're a dime a dozen in these parts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:37 PM
1

Ironically, actual MMA fighters don't talk much about being MMA fighters. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:03 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 He obviously isn't familiar with my redneck part of the Southern US where it is common for young married women to sell their dresses immediately after marriage. Gotta get top dollar for your special dress in order to buy the hubby that rifle scope, truck lift kit, or Playstation for Xmas. (Or meth. Meth is a biggie.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:48 PM
1

I think it is another means by which to women. Especially educated, middle class women. Because if these women devote enough energy to trying to breastfeed, pump, etc, they have nothing left to deal with real issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:41 AM
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I see that you've met my ex husband. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:22 AM
7

I say this as someone who worked in the jewelry industry: Yes, the point was to be able to pawn it. But that was back when women had no other resources & jewelry was a somewhat rare thing. Nowadays? Most jewelry is a terrible investment. 8 carat, colorless, internally flawless diamond? Yes, that will hold it's value. But the pieces that are within the budget of the average upper middle class American? You'd be lucky to get 1/8th of what you paid for it. I agree with getting something nice. Just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:25 PM
6

Won't anyone think of my PEE PEE??!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:37 PM
1

I wouldn't have beem able to resist a GoT "Winter is COMING!" meme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:19 AM
8

This always pains me to hear :( It sucks that good LE service is so reliant on race/socioeconomic/geographical factors. Over the years, I've called the non-emergency line maybe 3 times to report an incident of stranger harrasment. Every time, the PD has actually sent officers out. The responding officers have always been male & always taken the situation more seriously than I did, tbh. Always encouraged me to make a report, to escalate, etc. I hate, hate, hate that this kind of LE response is so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:17 AM
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Yup! And it has been this way for lord knows how long, too. I remember someone posting an excerpt from a 10th century eye-witness account of an Anglo-Saxon raid on a Viking settlement in what is now England. Apparently, the Anglo-Saxon men were angry because their wives found the Viking men more attractive. How dare those Viking men be up in there bathing & changing their clothes weekly & brushing their hair & teeth??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:29 AM
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Years ago I owned a gentle giant of a Shire gelding for pulling. To help out the non-horsey landlord, I took over caring for these two off the track thoroughbreds he'd gotten. One of them constantly tried to steal the other horses' food. Then one day he attempted to muscle in on the Shire (who was easily twice his weight). The Shire responded by casually stepping back & pinning the wispy little thoroughbred against the wall. He held him there for a few beats, then just as casually shifted forwar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:29 PM
10

Yesssssss!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:28 PM
1

I've choked a man out in the context of a jiu jitsu roll. Newbie white belt that didn't want to tap to a girl 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:25 PM
2

A friend in HS introduced me to Penis Malfunction Syndrome - aka male PMS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:14 PM
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What on earth?? If he were a horse we'd be working with him to overcome his food aggression & poor ground manners!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:10 PM
2

Lord, yes. A couple days ago an older couple came in looking for tree toppers. The male half told my 25yo coworker that the Nuremburg angels' faces looked like sex dolls. 🙄 This was in front of his wife, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:03 PM
5

Boom. This needs to go on a T shirt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:58 PM
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My ex is a shitty, road-rage prone driver who likes to scare his passengers by doing stupid tricks if he gets angry at them while driving. He's done it to his older kids & he's done it to ours. Black Friday 2019 he got shaking with rage pissed off at our eldest over some stupid little thing when he came to pick them up. He stormed out screaming to his car where our youngest was waiting. I got so angry that it literally felt like a conscious entity taking control of my body, sweeping me out the d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:30 AM
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It's kind of sad that it has come to this but I still inwardly marvel at the fact my SO/FWB proactively makes & keeps medical appointments & escalates to a specialist where appropriate. And only mentions it to me after the fact. You know. Kind of like 99.999% of women would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 12:08 AM
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Yaaaassss!! Thank you!!! I had this PSA or whatever you want to call it come up on my FB feed a while back. And I sent a screenshot of it captioned with this precise point to my ICU nurse friend who has seen shit & would therefore agree with me. Every other woman I'm FB friends with was cooing "awwwww, moms' intuition!" 🙄 No. This is exactly why being a mother is so fucking exhausting. The mental labor for every goddam thing is 100% on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:59 PM
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I worked in a strip club for a stint. Liked it 1000 times better than any customer service or restaurant industry job I've had. Why? Because I didn't have to be nice to men acting like idiots to get paid. Guy negged me? I got up & walked away. Said something really insulting or stupid? Oops! I slipped & accidentally caught his instep with my dagger sharp platform heels. Tried to touch me? Meet my coworker the 6'6" bouncer. And I made more $ in 3 hours than I do in a 40 hour week in retail manage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:24 PM
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It is amazing. You see it on the 3 decades + dating sub all 👏 the 👏 time: "Ahhhhhhhhhh, I've fallen into a deep depression because I've come to the realization that I'll never have children! I'm only 30 but I must date my future spouse for 6 years, have a 10 year engagement, & take another 15 to settle in as a married couple before thinking about kids!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:56 PM
3

I saw. Sadly, still adds up to a better track record overall than a Fundie church 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:08 PM
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I'm dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Eta: Given his strong record of putting his money where his mouth is, I could totally get behind a Ronaldo religion. His charitable work puts to shame any Fundie Christian church I know of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:44 PM
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A divorced Christian who can't even spell the word "Christian" correctly. Can confirm from living in the southern US that this is basically par for the course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:43 PM
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I think it is unlikely Shakespeare was a woman. But there is the theory that he was bi or gay. That, I do buy. Or that it could've been a nome de plume of more than one person. Re The Taming of the Shrew: I dunno. Plays were regarded much the same as tv shows are now. They were meant to be performed just a few times. Due to the prohibative cost of printing the actors only got their own lines. The Folios were assembled after Shakespeare's death basically by someone going around like, "James, you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:55 AM
11

I like my men ripped but this dude's 6 pack is skeeving me out for some reason. And "barley"? Did he graduate from elementary school? Must've skipped Hooked on Phonics day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:26 AM
2

I logged on last night to see a pop up indicating I had 133 direct messages. Was curious so I turned my DM back on. Still didn't load. Oh well. Probably not missing much. Bet it was a bunch of guys having a reeeee spree over my comments about biology yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:43 PM
15

To quote Judge Judy: "KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS, SIR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:34 PM
14

Not the OP but also a BJJ fighter. Kickboxing is great but adding in BJJ or another form of grappling is invaluable to round out your tool box, imo. It takes a long time to become a BJJ black belt (often 10+ years). No one outside Brazil had seen much of it until Royce Gracie made his UFC debut in the early 1990's. He was winning most fights in under a minute with great ease. Everyone went, "whoa, wth is THAT??" The developers of modern BJJ were smaller framed men. So BJJ capitalizes on leverage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:19 PM
12

I'm a BJJ player, too. Glad to hear more women are getting into the "gentle art"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:37 PM
15

I love how men push for MFF 3somes but are totally skeeved by a woman having a MFM one where her pleasure might have actually been the focus. And how did he mysteriously "find out"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:33 PM
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I have kids of my own slightly younger than this lady. And substitute teach middle & high school. Preteens & teens can be real turkeys no matter what you do. And I'm sure it isn't the first time he's complained, too. Nor do we know what extenuating circumstances might exist. Example: my oldest has major depression atm. They're home 24/7 doing online school. And I'm tearing my hair out trying to work, maintain a household, & make sure the kids don't flunk out. When she pops off at me, intellectua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:26 AM
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Good strong reliable WOMEN are needed to protect themselves & their children from MEN. There's no shame in desiring a protective partner. However, the odds are easily 1 in 100,000 that any woman will find such a partner. And that's probably overly optimistic. Imo, the structure of western society has made impossible to have it all in a man. And here is why: Several ladies have made a good point on past threads: in the natural world most male animals will not win the chance to reproduce. Humans w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 02:26 PM
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Bumble is woman messages first, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:43 PM
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EHarmony wouldn't take me. 🤣 I guess I'm that bad. Eta: okCupid was lovely up to about 5 years ago. At least in my area it is now a dumpster fire. I had an active profile on okCupid for about a week & promptly forgot about it until 3 years later & my email inbox was frozen by an avalanche of emails from okCupid users. Apparently, some chick stole my profile & was using it to catfish. 🙄 EHarmony has the "Christian" dudes . My poor, sheltered bff from childhood has some hair-raising stories to tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:48 PM
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Which one would that be? They're all the same. Tinder is a Match product. I've used Match in the past & the overall quality of men is no better than Tinder. Just more expectations of sex because they paid for Match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:49 AM
21

Whap him across the nose with a rolled up newspaper when he misbehaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:53 AM
12

M & Ms work well for potty training toddlers. Maybe they work for grown ass men, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 12:52 AM
1

I'm not advocating taking on a man in physical combat. I'm advocating training into muscle memory ways to find your escape route. Many women live where firearms are not legal or cannot carry for whatever reason. It is also very possible to find oneself in situation where you lose control of the gun or cannot get to it. Nor do most CC holders train to handle an adrenaline dump & the loss of fine motor coordination that comes with. So many women punch frantically when like one thai clinch is all i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:00 PM
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I agree on the CC. However, I know a woman tactical techniques trainer & she also sells the whole once in a blue moon, one off, self-defense for women class schtick. And it drives me nuts. It is not anywhere near enough & probably does more harm than good by giving her students a false sense of complacency. Not to mention that I have wiped the mat with her several times sparring no gi despite my being 25 lbs lighter & 10 years older. So I'm not sure what she's actually teaching in these courses.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:46 PM
4

I read a really interesting article a few years back about the filming of porn. It is apparently not uncommon for them to break as often as every minute or two depending on the scene. Because a lot of what they're doing is unenjoyable & unsustainable for both partners. The men are pressured to maintain their erection during all these stops & starts & technical breaks. And much of the "cum" is actually a wet powdered sugar paste -- the men literally run dry after a couple hours of filming. So the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:06 PM
5

I've joked to my bff that once I sufficiently hone my reiki skills, I'm going to convince a mountain lion to come live with me. I'll protect it rom trophy hunters & feed it extra treats & it can scare off creepers who want to invite themselves to meet my cats. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:15 AM
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Same here. I've only got so much time on my hands & OLD is fairly efficient. Though, I did hop on Tinder last Saturday. Got annoyed quickly & logged out on Friday. Haven't logged back in yet. The sheer amount of bull shite. 😂 "Are you shy?". Nope. Too old & tired for that line to work. Goodbye, Earl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:00 AM
12

And this is exactly why I breath fire when I see the stupid men that own stupid concealed carry/tactical training schools here (there's a lot in the area thanks to a DoD facility nearby) exhorting women to come in for their once-a-month "women's self defense class". 1) no manuever works in a life & death situation unless it is commited to muscle memory. It takes 1000s of reps to integrate a defensive drill into muscle memory. Not a 60 minute class once a month. 2) Men have f*ck all to contibute …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:53 AM
20

My parents are from New York City. If the door is not within my direct sight line, it is locked. My roomates in my 1st off-campus apartment expressed shock upon finding out I locked the door while taking the trash down to the dumpster. I thought they were crazy leaving the door unlocked when they were across the parking lot from our 3rd floor apartment door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:39 AM
45

I close every single yoga class I teach with, "The light within me recognizes & honors the light within you." And according to Dictionary.com, one definition of beautiful is 'of a very high standard, excellent'. So, yes. I do believe all women can be beautiful. And it has nothing to do with our bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:28 AM
2

That doesn't seem right. ☹ You might talk to a PT or a yoga instructor with advanced certifications in post natal rehab. It could probably get a lot better with the correct therapies. I might get downvoted for the suggestion. But as a yoga instructor who specializes in somatic issues in a specialized population, I hate hearing about someone in pain that might be fixable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:22 PM
23

Was just coming here to say this! Lmao. We had a kid at our gym who was not only a D1 wrestler, but also among the top 10 ranked D1 wrestlers. Occasions he ever mentioned being a top 10 D1 wrestler = 0. Occasions men who never wreatled at a collegiate level came in claiming to have been D1 = 1,000,000. Same with the NFL players I've met. None mention what they do unless you point blank ask. ETA: It isn't just sports, either. It is anything they do. There's a guy on the 3+ decades & still struggl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:47 PM
57

Yeah. HE has time to work out daily because SOMEONE ELSE is taking care of his 7 muh LeGAcies. Somebody go get this poor woman & bring her here. Please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:52 AM
2

Forty hours a week??? The humanity! Won't anyone think of the men??? Somebody needs to read him some Little House on the Praerie to catch up on what was really expected of a man back in the good old days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:04 AM
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And odds are you'll screen out propective partners that want kids, too. That's why I've never understood that whole argument of "what if heeeeee wants kids?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 11:40 PM
4

Heck yeah! When my eldest was in like the 3rd or 4th grade, a classmate was on Master Chef Junior. It ain't cute when an 8yo can blow a grown man out of the water in the kitchen. In fact, it's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:12 AM
8

Is it even legally doable to just change your last name to that of some random scrote's?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:27 PM
3

Wut. Da. Fuq? It makes me sad, uncomfortable, and frankly scares the crap out of me that a woman would actually have to ask about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 02:15 PM
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Ok. Slightly off topic: I had no clue who he is & had to Google. Why is that man 6 years younger than me but looks old enough to be my father??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:57 PM
10

I was married to one of those guys who would decide 15 minutes before we were due to leave for a dinner party was the perfect time to reorganize the basement after 2 years of avoiding that chore. You were wise to block & delete this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:52 PM
5

There's a creepy ass movie with Joeseph Fiennes & Heather Graham where that's the plot. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:44 PM
73

Before they were courting, before she thought of him "that way" Laura Ingalls Wilder's husband drove a sleigh 24 miles round trip through subfreeezing temperatures every weekend to pick her up from the remote settlement where she was teaching. Even on one occasion where the weather was so cold that he had to keep stopping to get out & hold his hands over the horse's nose so it's nostrils wouldn't become blocked by ice. Now, I reckon he asked Laura's father for his blessing before doing so. But t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:20 PM
21

I know, right? "Did you try ComMunICating in Old Church Slavonic?? No?? Then how do you expect him to KNoW?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 08:38 PM
16

Funny story: I owned a decent-sized farm which I worked using heritage methods prior to getting very sick from Lyme. We still live on a farm & I do my thing on a much smaller scale. Men can't handle this for some reason. Seriously. I've only met one that could deal. So they just can't handle women, it seems, and shift the narrative to suit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:56 PM
21

Well, in theory isn't he also benefitting from capitalism in that case?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:42 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:40 PM
14

Perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:43 PM
2

Ok. So why did I hear this in Roger Daltry's voice? 🤣🤣🤣 "No one knows what it's like, to be the bad man. To be the sad man..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:47 AM
7

Yes!! Nailed it. I went through this a few times in my 20's. Now that I'm older & wiser, I get the heck out of Dodge so fast that there's a dust cloud a la the Roadrunner in those old cartoons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:23 AM
12

God, yes. There are certain things that there's no coming back from once they're said. It is just, yup! That's all she wrote. Been a (dis)pleasure knowing ya. The passion comment would be one of those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:15 AM
2

If you want to get married, never ever move in with a man until you are legally married, have had your Big White Wedding if that's what your little heart desires, etc. It is really that simple. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 05:08 AM
7

And the thing is, this is just conjecture. Humans projecting human logic (or ill logic) onto another species. A highly intelligent species with social patterns that can seem remarkably similar to those of humans. But whose logic & reasoning processes are molded by enviromental factors specific to life as an elephant. For all we know, this big guy saw someone who had been a jerk to him 20 years ago in one of the cars. Or decided it would cheer him up to put on a show for what were some absolutely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:51 AM
3

A) Elon Musk is about as LV as humans come. B) All the HVM men I know cherish their daughters. LVM are terrified at the prospect of having girls because it means they have to clean up their act. Kind of schlocky example: the musical Carousel. Billy Bigalow is an awful, abusive man. He panics when he realizes a boy isn't guarenteed, & what a girl would mean. (My Boy Bill) In the end he dies while attempting to level up in his own twisted way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:27 PM
1

I can't figure out what is going on here. It looks like a woman's hand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:18 PM
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Something that strikes me every time I read stuff like this is that back in the not-so-good old days, older men exerted a certain power to keep younger men in check that is basically lost in modern Western society. A couple generations ago, young men knew if they played, they paid - i. e., a shotgun wedding or worse - the woman's older male relatives coming after him. I say this while fully acknowledging that the balance of power between men & women was a zillion times worse even the recent past…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:57 PM
20

Are they paying her?? I'm just... I don't know what to say anymore about most things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:38 PM
13

Oooooooooowwwww! 3rd degree BURN!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:56 PM
7

Yup! I'm getting close to 10 years. When I asked the incredible plastic surgeon I went to for my varicose veins (not the same doctor who did the implants) about a revision, he seemed mildly surprised. If you are still healthy and happy with them, leave them be, was his response. I compare it to the intestinal malformation I have. It is considered a serious condition, yet I never had any symptoms & it was only discovered during a scan for an unrelated issue. The gastric surgeon I consulted said I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:59 AM
7

I have implants. Yes, you do need to keep an eye on them. Regular mammograms are encouraged from the get-go to check for leakage, etc. The 10 year timespan is a slightly dated guideline, though. Newer guidance factors in individual condition as well as age of the implants. On the show Botched, almost 100% of the problem breast implant cases have two things in common: 1) using the cheapest surgeon possible; and 2) pushing to ridiculous extremes on size. Most reputable surgeons balk at going over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:59 AM
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Total tangent alert: I love that the biggest, most spectacular great white sharks are females over 40.🦈 ETA: One of the team leads on OCEARCH's shark tracker project said in an interview that tagging 15', 3000 lbs Mary Lee, a great white believed to be 50 years old was probably the most incredible moment of his life: "just to be in the presence of this apex predator in her absolute prime..." Eata: OCEARCH's tracking project proved a stunning point. Great white sharks have been cruising up & down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:10 AM
38

Pretty much anything by Avril Lavigne, really. She was the OG I'm not like other girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:05 AM
1

Wait. Is this the gf of the guy from the twitter in the other thread?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:36 PM
4

Can someone please enlighten me on the why the use of delicious here? I see it used in a similiar manner all the time in Reddit posts & it drives me batsh*t. Most people don't actively seek out food that tastes awful. Why are we qualifying all our food choices as delicious all the sudden? Is it a Gen Z thing? A reddit thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:25 AM
5

One positive thing to come out of covid & masks is no stupid men telling me to " SMILE!" It doesn't happen to me too often anyway because I radiate condesending vibes, but the masks have cut it down to nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:38 PM
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Years ago, I would occasionally lurk on the site of an early r-d p-ll theorist that focused on married couples & had an almost even # of male and female members. He actually made this precise point to the men who came looking for help. YOU are killing your wife's attraction with this sophmoric stupidity. This is YOUR fault. YOU don't deserve a relationship with your wife or any woman until you man up & start acting like something worthy of her attraction. This is what depresses me most about the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:03 PM
2

I'm not clear why my comment was downvoted. When I read the article a month ago her blog was linked to it, so it's hardly a secret. And she's quite clear that the blog is an exploration of her thought process as a self-proclaimed sociopath. But, sure, I'll share. I found it interesting because she is strikingly similar to my ex husband in certain behavior patterns. Including what seems to be an irrepresible need to censure others juxtiposed with one of the following: 1) the realization they lack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:58 AM
3

Try not to listen to anyone's advice but your lawyer's. Too many people know nothing about family law & spout terrible advice deapite having good intentions. Nah. He just doesn't want to deal with the child alone is all. Too much like actual work & all. Many people pack a bag of clothes & toiletries for the child. Food, no. If you have reason to think he won't feed the child while he's at his house, that would be something to bring up in court. Bottom line, if he wants you to do the lion's share…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:02 AM
4

Damn! I'm sorry. Your dad sucked rooster balls on that one. I'm not huge on the idea of 529 but at least a parent can't steal out of them. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:33 AM
1

Did you read her blog? It's interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:55 AM
2

Securing childcare has remained tricky even after covid related lockdowns eased up. A lot of in home daycares have remained closed & centers have tight restrictions on class sizes that didn't exist prior to covid. Nannies have been affected, too; forced to quit or cut back because their own kids are home, or lost their position due to the safety implications of having a person outside the household bubble coming in. Any conscientious nanny is going to call out if she has the sniffles now, so eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:51 AM
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I think you're correct. I read this when it first came out, after a friend who is an ER nurse & deals with lots of patients experiencing a mental break due to drugs of chemical imbalance sent it to me. Combined with the author's blog, she found the article an eye-opening look into the mind of someone devoid of emotion. However, I had basically the same reaction you did. The author has emotions & quite strong ones at that. She seems to tend towards grandiosity (i'm not using that in the clinical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:23 AM
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I don't believe the clinical explaination that sociopaths are devoid of emotion. I think they have them. They just don't always experience the appropriate emotion in a given situation. Granted, I'm not a mental health professional, so this is just my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:38 PM
2

Accidentally bop friend in the back of the head. To NVM ex, "That sounds important. Why don't you shoot me an email with the details to look over at a quieter time when I can give it my full attention?" Eta: And that quiet time may be never and odds are he won't email. But the advantage to doing it this way is that you have a paper trail, you look reasonable if it ever goes in front of a judge, & you cut off the supply of drama that he so craves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:42 PM
2

Gorgeous! I used to manage a jewelry department & it made me so happy to see more & more women treating themselves. And diamonds are high frequency, healing stones that are closely aligned with the 7th chakra. So all the better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:11 PM
10

Yup. Or MLM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 03:52 AM
15

Me too! Regular glasses tend to get this film on them from the dishwasher that squicks me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:05 AM
7

SHE'S 59???? Whhhhhaaaaa?! I had no clue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:03 AM
2

And I'm reasonably sure the one in the middle is a rooster. Possibly the white one, too. Roosters of some breeds don't have prominant combs. But I fon't know which country they live in so I'm not sure of the breeds - maybe Astralorps & a white leghorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:59 PM
2

I've never found them to be particularly destructive animals besides the poop. The poop is insidious! Lol. My daughter's bunny is 1000x worse than any chicken for destructive power. But, yes, do they ever smell & salmonella is a very real possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:53 PM
1

Holy crap! I missed seeing that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:47 PM
1

Some people use chicken diapers. I swear to God I am not making that up. You can buy them on Etsy. We've raised chickens for years. Before I sold the farm we usually had at least a few 100 at a time. It has occasionally been necessesary to bring a few into the house. Let me tell ya, it is not a smell that you soon forget. My daughter had been wanting chicks from extremely $$$$$ breeding lines & I finally sprung for them this year. They arrived 2 months later than anticipated & I ended up broodin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:42 PM
3

How old are these people?? He looks 50+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:06 PM
15

I got news for him about child support. It's there and coming to get you whether or not you were married. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:03 PM
1

Yup. Once saw an ad for a "thuro bread" horse on my local Craigslist. Judging from the overall spelling & grammer in the ad, it was not a joke. Supposedly, the average adult in the US has an 8th grade literacy level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:00 PM
5

I need it on a full length puffer coat. I'm always cold. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 01:04 AM
10

Every once in while, I think fast enough to get off a good one! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:36 AM
11

Probabaly. There was a kid like this at my girls' old school. Father was a ne'er do well manchild. Mother was MIA, probably dead or in jail from meth. Father & son lived with pickmesha enabler Grandma, who took care of the kid & catered to her manchild son's every whim. He'd been showing the kid porn. Letting the kid stay home from school (2nd & 3rd grade) to watch porn. CPS was involved at one point as showing kids porn is considered sexual abuse. Unfortunately, grandma (whose FB is full of bib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:19 PM
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Years ago, my parting shot to a guy who trotted out the tired old chestnut "she was a crazy b-tch & you are, too" was "yeah, you apparently drive everyone who comes into contact with you crazy. Exactly how is that MY problem?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:06 PM
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I seriously wonder about these girls' parents when I see this stuff. If one of my daughters ever posted something like this or even hinted to me that this was going on...oooooohh sisters, you'd better believe I'd be at their school with a U-Haul van and some motherly wisdom. Note the title is "Dating" a D1 player. Not "In a Relationship with". (Not that the latter is what it needs to be before doing this kind of crap for him.) He's probably just the second string kicker, too. He doesn't look fit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:00 PM
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No, you're correct as far as I know. When I make nuggets, etc, I either make more than one meals worth & refridgerate the leftovers or I pull out my little air fryer & cook them in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:33 PM
15

What woman allowed this man to stay in the gene pool? I mean, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:27 PM
1

I joked that it did its job as a form of BC. Had no desire to have sex for 2 weeks out of each month!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 08:02 PM
2

I suspect it depends on several factors, including whether or not you're sensitive to copper in general. Essure, which was billed as a less invasive alternative to a tubal ligation, relied on the body reacting to nickel coils. As a jeweler, I thought it seemed sketchy -- so many people have nickel allergies. And sure enough, Essure hurt enough women to get called off the market after a class action suit. Yet, a friend who is a medical professional got Essure and loved it. Fewer people are sensit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:55 PM
5

I'm glad! It definitely works well for some women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:53 PM
7

I didn't have heavy periods until I got the Paraguard. And the crazy thing? I removed it about halfway thru my period. It stopped later that night. Period now lasts about 36 hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:28 AM
5

And it does seem to work ok for some women. I just caution people considering them that none of this is as la de da side effect free as they'd have you believe. I had a friend who is a medical professional who got Essure & loved it. A previous OB/GYN talked it up, too. I looked at the liturature & thought, err, I don't know about this. Nickel allergies are so common. It seemed like a recipe for disaster. And sure enough...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:23 AM
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Just be careful. The copper IUD can be terrible. I had one. It was evil. The last few years I had it were non-stop UTIs, BV, & finally PID. It is possible that it is what led to me developing lichen schlerosis. But doctors kept telling me, oh, no hormones, it's perfectly safe. And I believed them. And my periods lasted a week & were often so heavy they required tampons AND pads. Ultimately, I yanked it out myself. That thing looked like something raised from the wreck of the Titantic. I have pic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:09 AM
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I had a copper IUD. Terrible experience with the insertion. I pulled it out myself. Easy peasy. Was no worse than a tampon. Was having constant BV, PID type infections due to the copper. Insurance wanted like $200 out of pocket for the doctor to remove it. Both doctor & nurse went, "yeah, you're absolutely not supposed to remove it yourself. But IF you were a terrible patient & did it anyway AMA, here's what you'd want to do..." 🤣 Basically, timed it to my period so my cervix was open. Also did …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:51 AM
2

No, this is malicious compliance. Doesn't Lundy Bancroft dissect this in Why Does He Do That? Unless you're producing cuisine on par with The Inn at Little Washington or French Laundry, cooking is simply a matter of reading & following directions. Men can cook. 2000 years ago Roman soldiers carried corn meal with them to make polenta, ffs. There were no women with Christopher Columbus, yet somehow they ate. Inability to cook is a totally manufactured helplessness of the modern man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:57 AM
3

Having been married, I think the issue is that these men will not change just because of an article on NPR. Sadly, any change is going to ave to come from their wives changing & getting mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:46 AM
5

Whaaaaa? This happens?? Seriously? Eta: this guy needs to eat with my old Shire gelding. The young, newly off the track thoroughbred tried to shoehorn his way into Big Billy's meal one too many times. BB calmly & firmly stepped back & bodychecked the 900 lbs thoroughbred into the wall & casually pinned him with his 2200 lbs. Thoroughbred learned his lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:22 AM
15

Every time I get ungrounded & a little lonely & think it might be nice to have a man around again, well, I come to FDS for a dose of cold hard facts to slap me back to reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:17 AM
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You would think that. However when I suggest to my bff who makes 2x what her hubby does ( working graveyard shifts at a job that aggravates her serious chronic illness) while taking care of 2 kids & basically all the housework while said hubby comes home from work & naps to go on forking strike & stop doing everything... she tells me, "I'd feel guilty about the kids if I did that." It's frustrating, to be sure. Unfortunately, it is likely that NPR is simply reporting what they were told by the w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:13 AM
16

Omg, why is that first couple having another baby? Why? WHY???? And I say this as a mom myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:02 AM
17

Boudica!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:30 AM
5

And the historian quoted towards the end stating that Wollstonecraft's works were "weird" and "surreal". Uh, no. No, they're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:27 AM
3

Midwest or Ozarks, maybe? I'm rural east coast & would be lucky to find field board for a horse at $250-300 here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:12 AM
12

"Am I really such an asshole here?" (Samuel L Jackson voice) "Why, yes. Yes he was such an asshole. Here, and always."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:01 AM
1

Yup. 100% possible and pretty common in the US, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:33 AM
2

You need to get one of those secured cards with like a $500 limit & use it a few times a month & establish a payment history. Often, the more credit you already have, the more companies will extend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:31 AM
3

Do you receive a regular salary? One of the most common scenarios where people got rejected for a store CC where I worked was people with a high bank balance but low regular income. Usually retirees, but it applied to some younger folks as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:18 AM
3

If you follow Dave Ramsey's plan to the letter, you will end up with no credit. Which is one of the things that has always given me pause about Dave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:13 AM
8

No great loss, imo. Chiropractics rarely helps long term without some manual myofascial release/soft tissue release therapy like Graston used in conjuction. And ime, most chiros aren't well-versed in those therapies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:25 PM
11

What? You mean my white male perspective is not universal? That I'm not the center of the universe? (:/s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:35 PM
13

This will sound very unsympathetic, but why do people do this? By this, I mean front huge sums of money without ensuring they're getting their legal claim on the asset? Male, female, anyone. It's the same from a risk perspective as cosigning on a loan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:33 PM
1

Mid-to-late 40's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:29 AM
6

Yup. Size matters, ime. I liked it with my exH, who was small enough/bad enough at sex I couldn't get any sensation at all during PIV. Tried it one time with a subsequent lover who was of average-to-better endowment. About 45 seconds and it was a mutual nope. Maybe it has to do with my age & the age of the men I date, but I've not had a single one who has been into anal. The 2nd guy had never tried it before. He summed it up as " interesting, but interesting isn't the feeling you're looking for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:33 PM
12

Better yet, I'm a farmer, can shoot, fight, build & fix shit. It is me & my kids. I don't worry about my bf's postapocalypse warlord potential. I got this just fine on my own. And never have to pick up some dude's dirty socks from the floor 2' from the hamper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:28 PM
2

Ohhhhhh. How could I be so dumb as not to recognize their "trew wuv 💘" ? (Sarcasm. That was sarcasm.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:49 PM
1

I remember once when my ER/ICU nurse friend's husband got "sick" & demanded to be taken to the ER because he was sure he was dying. (She had also been sick for days but pushing through because there's basically no sick leave for medical personnel unless you're dead.) So, she sat in the staff lounge drinking a ginger ale & watching tv while he moped all over triage. After a few hours, he was Dxed with WWMS (wimpy white man syndrom) & sent home with instructions to take an OTC decongestant & up hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:05 PM
3

Consider finding a somatic therapist. Or at least reading Anodea Judith's book Eastern Body Western Mind & incorporate some of the grounding exercises she offers. I'm by no means against tradtional therapy modalities. However, I believe that with this style of abuser the primary issue is that the abuse forces you to withdraw up into your mind, losing your ground & connection with your body. Why does that benefit this type of abuser? Well, look at how much information our reptilian cortex intuite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:38 PM
14

Yes! And in regards to GoT, apparently the producers handled all those scenes like shit. Numerous actors have complained that the producers didn't know what the f-ck they were doing & it was tremendous pressure & very tramatizing for all involved. Frankly, I'm not surprised. George Martin looks like the head of the gamer loser bois. Like, you have to fight & defeat all the other gamer loser bois to get to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:10 PM
14

I just choked on my coffee 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:51 PM
23

It's ok, Kevin. I can tell just by looking at your avatar that you can only play Am, C & G & your hand has never ventured past the 4th fret. I only listen to music from big boys who can find their way around the entire fingerboard. Sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:49 PM
30

"Oh how.funny. I almost called you a porn-sick, limp pee peed douche canoe. What? I was joking. Where's your sense of humor?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:37 PM
56

Never fall for the no pic thing. "Oh, the nature of my work makes it too sensitive to put pics up." Dude. Please. Martha Stewart had a dating profile & posted pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:23 AM
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I sort of stopped reading at "engaged for 11 years". And why do the guys in this type of post always call her their wife at least once in their story? Which is she? Your wife or your fiance, dude?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:05 AM
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On a tangent: I'm 45 and can remember the pre-integration philosophy days of so-called "LD" classrooms. What I don't remember is any kids that were autistic, or who even showed any of the behaviors now commonly associated with male autistic children & teens. Did it just not exist as a Dx back then? Or is there something about current treatments for it that bring out different behaviors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:58 PM
1

Agreed. And he has cushions, gorgeous peonies (my fav), and there's a book next to him. Clearly he's going to get his sonnets on at some point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:02 PM
1

They're stake stem glasses designed for picnics or tailgating. (And I mean tailgating in the way it is done in my neck of the woods, where people are hauling cases of Tattinger & Veuve out of the grocery store on a Sunday afternoon right before the polo starts.) He's pouring a little wine flight. That's why he has more than one in his hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:58 PM
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I'm not seeing why this misses the mark. 1) It requires far more planning than picking up the phone & making a restaurant reservation 2) in my area the food & wine alone would run in the neighborhood of $300 3) he's dressed to impress her & not wearing a budweiser t & cargo shorts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:50 PM
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It's not a cheap date. At least not as pictured with a wine flight & high end charcuterie. Personally, I don't find it a good first date. For subsequent dates I like it, though. It requires forethought & planning to pull this off. As a 40 something with a few relationships with lazy a$$ men under my belt, demonstrated ability to plan & follow through are important criteria by which I evaluate men now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:41 PM
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A friend from the mom's group I belonged to when my kids were little probably fits this definition. She and her husband owned a real estate company & both adored children. I've lost count how many they have now. 5 or 6. After the birth of their first, she decided to get her real estate license & started taking the certification classes in the evening. Breastfeeding was important to her, and he cheerfully drove the baby back & forth for her to nurse during breaks. He also used to come fill in if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 06:09 PM
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I thought the same. Was trying to zoom in on the screens to see what they say but too small. There's a lot missing for an active labor, at least based on my two deliveries. They usually start an IV line so they're not scrambling for a vein in the event shit goes south, for example. That IV line would absolutely be there if she'd had an epidural. They would also insert a bladder catheter. I remember the one thing that really annoyed me during labor was the contraction monitor that wrapped around …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:01 AM
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I really wasn't hungry during either of my 2 labors. Now afterwards, yes. With my first I baby I didn't realize & ordered a normal sized meal from the hospital food service. I ended up going down to the vending machine an hour later. Second time around I was like, bring me all the foods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:44 AM
10

Hopefully this is an EX boyfriend now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:15 AM
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Very true. Viking men bathed every Saturday & combed their hair & cleaned their teeth. Eta: And unlike modern men, Vikings were also really good at finding things without maps or detailed directions...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:52 PM
9

It's like the postlogue the English used at the end of the Lord's Prayer: " From the fury, uh, cleanliness, of the Norsemen, oh Lord deliver us."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:31 PM
4

God, I hope so. It is ridiculous & frankly scary. Years ago, our MALE neighbor had a noisy, violent nervous breakdown that sent his terrified wife & children running out into the street at 2:30am, screaming & pounding on neighbor's doors for help. He followed, brandishing a handgun & apparently had more holstered on his person. I can still hear my ex on the phone with 911, trying his best to describe the type of weapons he saw as the operator relayed the info to the responding officers so they d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:09 AM
3

What does 40 "look like". That's what has changed & continues to change. The average life expectancy in the US has almost doubled since 1900. When most people were dead at 45, 40 was old & 20 middle aged. With the current average life expectancy around 79, most 40 year olds aren't hobbling around joints riddled with osteo-arthritis & heart dangerously weakened by infected gums & rotten teeth. Instead, the average 40 year old might pull a muscle playing basketball more easily than they did at 20.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:48 AM
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She was very mature/grown up looking as a teenager. I think that's part of it. Some people just look like adults once they hit puberty. I went to school with a guy that is an anchor on one of the big metro area evening news shows. I distinctly remember my mother commenting when we were in middle school that he looked like a miniature adult. 30+ years later, he's got some salt & pepper hair going on. But otherwise looks exactly the same as he did at 13. It is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:40 AM
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The last tech company I worked for was stunningly balanced, save for the hardware team on one particular sub project. ( And the C office. Of course 🤬 ) Never seen a tech company demographic like it before or since. One overarching issue is that not enough women who make it turn around & hold their hand out to help others climb. I worked for a large chain of stores with a woman CEO. She's done NOTHING to improve the company culture & work conditions. She's objectively a pretty shitty CEO irrespec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:50 PM
5

I got lots of doozies when I managed a music store. It never failed. Any time a man came in needing a guitar string replaced, he would very helpfully tell me the letter name of the string it was. Or, they avoided me & looked for a man. Any man. One chased the cello instructor around until he finally snapped, "I don't play guitar & I don't know! Why don't you ask her? She does most of the guitar repairs." They never tried to tell my male coworkers which string it was. Then I had the guy who insis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:15 PM
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This is really good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 04:54 PM
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Yes, it would be different if they were divorced & had a specific stipulation in their custody agreement re pics Except they're not divorced yet. Not near as I could tell from a brief Google. They would likely have some custody arrangements thru their separation agreement. And it's not common for custody agreements to contain a no social media pics stipulation unless there's a really good reason because they are so stinking hard to enforce. Of course I don't know what their agreement says, but i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 04:21 PM
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It was your second paragraph I was disputing. I apologize for not being clearer, it was late here when I made that comment. No, judges typically do not expect you to be keeping up with what the other parent might be spewing on social media to defend your status as an involved parent. No more than they'd expect you to be aware of what the other parent might have said about you at a Thanksgiving dinner when you were not in attendence. For that reason, most attorneys advise simply staying off socia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:12 PM
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Hang on, let's check the dicktionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:54 AM
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According to the Great Unsocialized Masses on the unable to figure out adult social interaction over 3 decades dating sub, he's on fire with his 6 matches in 24 hours. They're over there complaining they get 1 a year at most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:53 AM
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They just can't forking shut. Up. Anywhere! On Reddit, on social media, at work, everywhere. Last night a friend posted a pic of their cat perched next to their garden gate, joking it was the bouncer. I commented that two of them guarded the gates to the underworld according to Greek mythology. Along comes some guy with no avatar pic, but who I'm sure is a doofy looking white dude, "ak-shully, Half_halt, according to Greek mythology a 3-headed hound named Cerberus guarded the gates to Hades..." …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:48 AM
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Maybe once in my 45 years on this planet have I seen a woman grab a strange man in a sexually aggressive manner. Idk where these dudes get this crap from. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:36 AM
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She should perhaps screenshot his posts but shouldn't engage unless she was advised otherwise by her attorney. Judges don't take kindly to either parent attempting to paint the other in a negative light. Especially in a mode of communication accessible to their children. Most good lawyers will advise you to get the fork off social media & stay off it until the divorce is final. Same with text & email. Until fairly recently, texts were considered "utterances" and were not admissible in most cases…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:33 AM
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Yup. Imagine if it were a movie: 'Interview with the Narcissistic Energy Vampire'. No one would go see that. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:07 PM
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Or worse yet: like Kirby vacuum cleaner door-to-door sales where you have to pay to work. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:43 PM
5

I successfully shamed a guy I know into wearing a mask with this precise sentiment. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:37 AM
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I've always thought the same based on having raised so many farm animals over the years. Humans are really not designed for easy birthing compared to most animals. I could watch all day & the longhorns always waited until I wasn't looking to have their calves. It was fast, too. Like 30-60 minutes & the calf was delivered & cleaned up. Mom & baby on their feet & eating. The one time a calf came out with a problem - not breathing & it's neck bent at a funny angle - mom reached down, hooked it with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:42 PM
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Would anyone else like to break it to him that female emus lay eggs in the nests of as many male emu as possible & then just leave? Or should I tell him? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:47 PM
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And what do you need to make cuckold porn?........................... ..................ANOTHER MAN! . .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:44 PM
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Falling faster than the ruble in early post-Soviet Russia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:43 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! 💜 Fortunately, it was "just" a biopsy I was waiting on & it came back benign. T However, it did find I have an autoimmune issue that can sometimes be precancerous, requiring rechecks every 6 months. So, stressful nevertheless. I was seriously floored, tnough. How f-cking tonedeaf (in his case, porn addicted) do you have to be to suggest sex as stress relief to someone who may have cancer in a reproductive organ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:36 PM
20

He's really Jake from Statefarm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 03:12 PM
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Yes! I had a cervical cancer scare several years ago. Right after my divorce & wasn't thinking clearly vetting men. Texting with the NVM I was seeing on and off & he asked why I seemed out of sorts. I explained. He responded with, "You need to get laid. It'll help you relax." Blocked. He STILL tries to contact me sometimes! I have an android & blocked messages go to a separate folder. He's also tried to sign up for my live stream classes despite having no interest in taking them while we were da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:36 PM
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I once made a guy explain what he meant by saying "You look like you know how to have fun." While I normally ignore that kind of message, I was in a mood that day. 😂 It's like playing along with a Nigerian scammer on Craigslist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:16 PM
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Better yet, start making them Venmo first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:51 PM
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Alas, poor Paultrick. I knew him, Horatio... 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:50 PM
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What? You mean making $10 an hour woRkiNg at GaMEstOP doEsN't MakE mE tHe HeAD of ThE HouSeHoLD??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:34 AM
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Ok. Why did I know that this guy would be a bald as a cue ball & trying to compensate with a beard ectomorph without even looking at the picture?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:32 AM
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Preach it! I'm a yoga industry person & I had to go look up twin flames because I'd never heard of it. 🤣 (The fact that Goop.com has an article on how to recognize your twin flame should be enough to discredit the theory for any sane person, but I digress.) An awesome FDS queen energy factoid: in Sanskrit words ending in an "i" are feminine. "Kundalini" is the feminine form of the adjective meaning coiled or circular, which refers to the life force that lies coiled at the base of the spine. It c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:29 AM
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I don't believe in soulmates. There's, what, like 7 billion people in the world? Surely there's more than 1 that each of us could get along with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:12 AM
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I have ADD & I'm the opposite. Can't stand my nipples brushing against stuff 😂 I also can't wear turtlenecks or mock necks or funnel necks. And certain crossed strap bras and shirts with a high neck & shoulder cut outs feel like I'm being strangled. I get short of breath & my head starts pounding. Eta: It would be nice if more doctors realized this is why ADD and many other Dx like it are so hard to manage and treat. Because they affect different people so forking differently!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:10 AM
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That's true. A properly fitted corset lifts from the bottom & distributes the weight across a much wider area than a brw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:05 AM
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It doesn't rub, though? I was relatively small pre-kids & even then I got rubbed raw if I didn’t wear a bra. Especially working out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:03 AM
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Tea at the Ritz is amazing. He would've hogged all the good sandwiches, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:12 AM
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What has been interesting to me: a number of local yoga industry folks I know that bill themselves as "light workers/healers/spiritualists" have outted themselves as rabidly pro-Trump. Even one who is a POC & emigrated here from the Caribbean. It took me a bit to work out that it is anti-science thing that Trump is selling that is the attraction. Some of them teach decent enough yoga asana but the rest of their schick is not yoga. I'm not sure what the hell it is, but that's another question for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:12 PM
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Yet again I am reminded of the sad refrain of so many men on bullocksing up basic human interaction over 30: "No one will message me back! I even message women with no pics on their profile, the fat chicks, the ugly chicks, the chicks wearing parol monitoring anklets! I have literally no standards!" And ya really don't get THAT is the problem, dude? You really don't?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:49 PM
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Exactly. And they are so piss poor at taking a compliment, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:44 PM
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And buy me a Playstation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:40 PM
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"We're not picky," 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:16 PM
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Could've been! I also saw an interview like 5 years ago with twin sisters that lived in NYC. Neither had married. They'd outlived most of their neices/nephews & even grandneices & nephews.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:10 PM
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This is true. When my SIL's father died, it was a complete mess. He was at least verbally/emotionally abusive (i suspect physical as well) to her mother. The end result was that her mother was & still is very childlike. She was in her late 60's & had never held a job of any kind and had so little financial knowledge that she couldn't even write a check. It was A LOT for my SIL & her sister to sort out. The mother doesn't have a mean bone in her body & tries to do what she thinks is best; but my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:48 PM
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Yes! 🤣 for some reason this made the car rental reservation episode of Seinfeld pop into my head. The one where the rental car company takes his reservation but doesn't keep it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:59 AM
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I think it's less not knowing your partner's stance than having agreed to disagree until now. And discovering at this point there is no agree to disagree because it is past that and has risen to the level of basic morality. In the comments on one of ScaryMommy's pieces on FB the other day some lady got huffy & proclaimed, "What?! So now you're saying it makes me a bad person because I support Trump??" And nearly 1000 people replied: Yes. Why, yes, it does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:32 PM
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I've seen more than one 100+ year old woman say, when asked the secret to her longevity: "I never married."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:11 PM
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Sure. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen that way far too often. Common decency, like common sense, is in short supply. And most women end up not complaining for fear of retaliation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:11 PM
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I once joked that I was going to start asking them to send pics of them in the doorway of a 7-11 so I could use the height chart on the doorjamb to verify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:43 PM
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That's what I'm wondering, too. Never seen Ed Sheeran in the wild here before. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 05:38 PM
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There's probably a website where they buy canned responses. Kind of like a Legal Docs for sad dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:44 AM
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Can you actually make money by having zillions of followers on IG? Or are these women using it more to drive traffic to their websites, etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:20 AM
10

There's an episode of Amish Out of Order where Mose, the ex-Amish guy who owns a construction company basically does a barn raising with a bunch of new Amish fugitives that are staying with him. Can't remember the exact premise -- think it was young couple with a newborn whose roof blew off in a storm & couldn't afford the fix. Mose tells them he'll patch it the best he can as he sends them off then reveals to the camera that he's really planning to fix the roof. He's got his Amish fugitive guys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:16 PM
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They are indeed! Friend is a really interesting person. He left the Amish in his early 20's & somehow is more progressive than most men I know. His speech patterns & mannerisms are different from those of your average mainstream American at times but most people don't pick up on it or they just assume he wasn't born in the US if they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:54 PM
5

Arrogant chipmonk is going to be my new go to insult! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:28 PM
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I was just coming here to say the same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:18 PM
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🤣🤣 Yes! We had "Wagon Wheel Guy" at my high school. Never without his guitar. Only knew that one song. The ones that drive me crazy are the "first 4 bars of the Moonlight Sonata or Fur Elise" people. I've had grown a$$ adult students who insisted on working on nothing but Fur Elise & still mysteriously never made it past that intial da-dah-da-dah-da-dah-duh-da- daaaaahhh. They must just sit there at home playing it on an endless loop .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:16 PM
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I just point blank asked a guy on another sub wtf he eats because he "can't cook". That's just one thing I can't wrap my head around. Unless you're royalty, how do you make it into your 30's without knowing how to make pasta? My SO actually meal preps a few days worth of lunches/dinners at a time because he doesn't get a break at work to go out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:04 PM
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I learned from a friend who was born & raised Old Order Amish that mowing the lawn is considered women's work since it is part of the household "bubble" , if you will. But Amish men also don't sit around on their asses all day like these guys do so I suppose it evens out. Eta: The 50's housewife guys would be disappointed to hear that as non gender progressive as the Amish may be, a decent number of Amish women run cottage businesses. And not just making food or handcrafts. When I owned the farm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 02:55 PM
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Why do I get the impression this is an Indian guy? Something about the syntax & general attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:20 PM
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Aw hell no! This is why you never bandy about trying to be nice when a man moves out to find himself b-lls deep in another woman or whatever. If she's US-based, she's already given up so much legal leverage trying to take the high road. Him moving out without a custody schedule laid out in a formal separation agreement could've been considered abandonment and put him at a massive disadvantage. And that's only one example. For any US ladies looking at a possible divorce, get to a lawyer. Yesterda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:11 PM
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Poor Maslow. Wonder if anyone owns the intellectual property on his Hierarchy. Because whatever idiot made this is trying to pass their own drivel off as Maslow's Hierarchy. Eta: For anyone unfamiliar with Maslow's Hierarchy, this ain't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:27 PM
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Reminds me of the Zac Brown Band song 'Colorado'. Melodically a gorgeous song. But about an unreliable man child with severe wanderlust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:20 PM
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I dated a professional bike racer in college. They all shave their legs. It was kind of cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:52 PM
3

My SO (for on & off 6 years) made the stunning revelation this past weekend: "I've never seen you wearing makeup." I laughed so hard it was about 5 minutes before I could catch my breath to speak. We don't live together so about the only time he HASN'T seen me wearing makeup is when I've stayed over & my makeup wore off sleeping. Yes, y'all. I emerged from the womb with sparkly russet eyelids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:48 PM
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Ikr? My ex mouthed off about the laundry & I never, ever did his laundry again. I don't play that game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:37 PM
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Here's a scary thought: maybe they don't commit DV acts at higher rates than other populations. Maybe they just get caught & exposed for DV at a higher rate than other populations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:34 PM
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My youngest daughter will have nothing of it. At our old house there was a guy that was often out for a run on the road at the same time we were arriving home. He wasn't exactly Rich Froening but he wasn't bad. "Omg! That's disgusting! Why do guys run topless??" Every time. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:56 AM
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It's common in the US. I used to be the jewelry manager at a department store. People did it all the time. Especially around Xmas or V Day. I sold my rings when I got divorced 10 years ago. I would not like those rings now. My style & tastes have changed. Most large jewelry stores offer trade ins (heavily stacked in their favor, naturally). Standing in Tiffany's once waiting for a necklace to be cleaned I overheard the sales guy telling another dude shopping (not cheap) engagement rings, "yeah, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:37 AM
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As a tangent, most people who've been married a while do end up replacing their rings no matter how expensive they were. Personal style changes, general trends change.( I cannot begin to describe how dated a marquise cut solitaire set in plain yellow gold looks: Hello, the 1980's called... ) People's ring size changes beyond the range in which a jeweler can do a quality resizing. Or their ring falls off in the ocean or something. Long story short, if you love that $150 ring & aren't getting enga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:33 PM
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Yup! Diamonds are a 10 on the Mohs scale; Moissanite a 9.5; rubies & sapphires a 9; emeralds 7.5-8. Opals are 5.5-6.5. 😱 Which doesn't sound terrible until you take into account the Mohs Scale is logarithmic. So even +/- 1 is a substantial difference. And there are other factors like cleaving tendencies, whether or not the stone can be submerged in water without damage, etc, to take into account. The stones that are traditionally used in bridal jewelry (and regular jewelry) did come to be the st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:00 PM
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To be fair, I could've found you a decent ring at that price point at the department store where I was jewelry manager. Discontinued design + a coupon. The markup at jewelry stores is insane. The same few manufacturers make the house brands for several large chains of jewelry stores. I once perfectly matched a wedding band to an engagement ring from Jared, for example. (And these loons came in at 11am & the wedding was at 1pm. No pressure there. 🙄) We had the same stuff as actual jewelry stores …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:30 PM
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Exactly! He needs to take a cue from his woman colleague & wear a baseball cap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:28 PM
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That's it. Whenever I think I''ve seen the stupidest thing on the internet, the AITA subreddit never fails to step up with a cocky "Here. Hold my beer and watch THIS!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:16 PM
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Typical dude. "I MUST ATONE!" Rational humans: "OK. Well, she asked you to leave her da fuq alone. So that seems like your best bet for atonement." Dude: "NO! I MUST ATONE! Because I'm still hoping to get it in there & leaving her da fuq alone doesn't involve muh penis staying all up in her face!!!" I once got: I'm terribly sorry! My account got hacked!" Sure, buddy. Sure... When I have time I must go back into my FB messenger & find that thread. It was so bizarre. I own a business so will often…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:17 AM
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"But, but, I got the age wrong in there somehow & can't figure out how to change it!" The sad plight of these men with jobs involving complex executive functions like piloting a 747 or building an enterprise network from scratch but for whom changing a mistake in their Tinder profile is just toooooooo haaaaaaarrrrrddddd. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:01 AM
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Look at how that bulletproof vest barely fits over that male police officer's pecs. He should be ashamed of himself. Building his pecs up to titilate women, limiting his range of motion in a hand-to-hand fight, and flaunting it at work. 🙄 Eta: It is very distracting to me as a woman just trying to drive when these males directing traffic wear their bulletproof vests stretched so ridiculously tight over their big strong shoulders & chests. These males can't even work a serious job without flaunti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:57 PM
1

He's a bartender. Not a mixologist. Mixologists actually make good money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:07 PM
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For me too. A man miiiight get a little undeserved grace from me depending on my overall mood that day. But only once. I may look all delicate & dainty but my spirit animal is a rabid honey badger, ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:04 PM
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I'm sure he looks like a troll, too. (Apologies to any actual trolls for the comparison.) And she's so gorgeous & cheerful looking. She could do waaaaaay better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:01 PM
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This is a good point. I used to work in a large store. A guy I dated used to try to come "visit" while I was at work. It was very uncomfortable & ultimately one of the reasons I broke it off. 1) I'm not huge on PDA & he once grabbed my ass while we were having coffee on my break. (!!!) 2) I'm at work. I'm busy. Yeah, it's a public store & all but there are certain things I'm supposed to be doing at certain times. I don't have 15 minutes to chat on the floor while the GM gives me the stinkeye. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:54 PM
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I thought the same & was debating whether or not to bring it up! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:40 PM
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M'Lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:39 PM
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But, but! He's a (lowers voice) nice guy. (Sarcasm)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:35 PM
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Well, yeah! I mean, I said that I had a 50 carat blue diamond necklace so many times that I woke up one morning and the Heart of the Ocean from the Titanic was on my nightstand! Oh, wait... 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:34 PM
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Just a note from the FDS resident farmer to remind/reassure you that female animals are aggressive af & are really the ones in charge of the group. The males mainly function as the bouncer. The females will sometimes decide to vote him off the island if he annoys them. My longhorn cows once got sick of our bull & shoved him through an electric fence. 🤣 There's also a saying in the horse world: "You tell a gelding. You ask a stallion. You pray with a mare." Mares are awesome. But they don't just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:27 PM
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Ours still has the OG 1950's speakers. Or you can dial in on your car radio. And they've slashed capacity so you can still sit in lawn chairs in front of your car/back of truck/SUV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:03 PM
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I'm wondering if you live near me because our drive in is showing Hocus Pocus. They're probably all showing it, though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:57 PM
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It's 100% her fault. She could've at least tried being aTtraCtIve first! ** sarcasm**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 06:42 PM
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I like where you're going with this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:06 PM
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I Googled it because I'm procrastinating that hard this morning. 🤣 Her office is in a strip mall with several stores & eateries immediately adjacent. She occupies half a unit & there's a soccer store in the other half. So, no. She doesn't own the spaces unless she owns the strip mall. Which I suppose she could. A couple I'm friends with own several. Still, any PR rep worth their fee would've told her to just move the car over 12 inches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:05 PM
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I've always wondered how the citric acid in a grapefruit wouldn't burn off their junk. But this is a question I doubt I really want answered. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:34 PM
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On ComMuniCation: I just read an article on Parenting where a woman who is probably here on FDS advocated just throwing the whole man out if he plays dumb & refuses to help with the house & kids. The # of gaslit women in the comments, "oh, but you have to cOmmUniCate! Tell him what you need him to do!" No. That's exactly what the author was railing against. If you just brought home your premie and are juggling two toddlers on top of it all & your man can't look around & see the overflowing trash…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:15 AM
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That's a lot of words for "I couldn't find a clitoris with a map, compass, and team of sled dogs to help me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:59 AM
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I'm sure that's the case. It was a little jarring none the less. Just my gut reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:53 AM
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If you can get them to agree to plans at all. 🤣 At least in my ex's family that was the case. His parents were great about it. The rest of the fam, not so much. Actual conversation with one of the aunts/uncles regarding my MIL's bday party: Me: Are you coming to mom's party on the 12th? The caterer needs the final head count tomorrow. Them: Oh, Inshallah, Inshallah. (We go around in circles a few times & end at an impass. I call 2 days later with the caterer breathing down my neck.) Me: Will you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 01:39 AM
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That's wild! I'm American. I speak semi-decent conversational German and have visited but not for an extensive period of time as I have in the country associated with my primary foreign language. So I don't have a real sense of what is the norm. There's an American perception of precision associated with German culture. I think that's the best way to describe it.? We hold German engineering in high esteem. Cars, surgical instruments & cutlery, etc. Always thought it crossed over to punctuality i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:23 PM
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Are they? Americans always think of Germans as being very punctual. Yet my boss is German & seems to exist in his own space/time continuum, he runs so late. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:41 PM
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I just wanted her to stop running her hands through her hair. My hair would look like an oil slick if I touched it that much. Especially while cooking. But, yes. There better have been blood or fire involved for a man to be 3 hours late. My door would be locked & the lights turned out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:37 PM
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I took our 250 lbs dog for a 2 mile walk on what ended up being the night I went into labor with my first born. I was lucky & had an uneventful pregnancy so I was able to stay active up until the end. They had me walk the hospital halls to try to get the labor to progress. The nurses cracked up every time I lapped past their station because I was irritated with my then husband (now ex) & basically speed walking the L & D floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:46 PM
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Sadly, he probably smells better than some of these guys with their pee bottles, "nests", and underwear older than my car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:10 PM
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YES! Thank you for this. You said what I always want to say but have never managed to figure out how to word correctly. My mom used to tell me as a tween/teenager, "I trust you. It's the rest of the world I don't trust." Some of these stories are like watching a slasher film . You're screaming, "Why are you running into the cellar where all the saws are?! Run out the front door into the waiting car with the engine running! Nooooooo! Arggh!" I'm 44. It's basically a maternal thing for me towards …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:03 PM
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And this kind of stuff right there is why I don't take the Libertarian party seriously. Despite my personal political beliefs aligning almost 100% with their official platform. Or probably almost anyone taking them seriously. It's a shame. They actually fronted a viable candidate who happens to be a woman this year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:18 PM
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They appear to be an established couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:15 PM
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How does one haul things in your country? Like horses, cattle, hay, feed, large pieces of furniture, gardening supplies, etc. I'm aware pickup trucks are regarded as a redneck US thing in other countries & that's certainly partially true. Where Iive though, it's common for people to own trucks that cost high 5 figures-low 6 figures. And it is women who own & drive them. Eta: it is an SUV & not a pickup truck, anyway. You can see a shoulder belt for one of the rear seats off to the side over her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:06 PM
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How many drive ins are there where you live? There is one in a 200 mile radius of me & until I moved here I had never seen one. And it is on the National Register of Historic Places & sure as heck isn't associated with any fast food place. And as an aside, why would you further enrich crazy NVM ELoN mUsk by buying one of his cars??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:48 AM
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I kept a space heater under my desk the entire time I worked in IT. Supposedly, men run hotter than us & factor in long sleeved shirts & suit jackets. Not that any of them wore suits; not even the C office guys. So who knows what the deal is. Lol. One April day the AC in the server room conked out. In an attempt to prevent the entire NOC from melting down, the hardware guys threw open every door into the room & raided the conference rooms on 5 floors for every desk fan they could find. The heat …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:39 PM
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It is a red pill thing, if I'm not mistaken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:48 PM
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The truly sad part is that in no way shape or form would I ever, EVER, trust a man to take birth control. I'm still going to cover that department myself. I care about my body. They don't care about my body. Not happening if it isn't something like a condom that I can see it with my own eyes. The whole thing double irritates me. They won't take it because "muh penis & side effects". But even if they did, I'd still have to take my own. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:47 PM
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Yup! It's a basic componant of commission-based sales, in the US at least. I used to have a job selling a big ticket item that was a niche market. (Not saying what because it's unusual enough to dox myself) The female manager actually said, "Call them until they instruct you not to call them again. And then call them one more time."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:37 PM
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I just assumed male. Because sadly, it's not like most men would actually listen to a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:32 PM
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Yup! I was told by a friend who is a business coach that jewelry stores are doing a booming business since Covid. People finally getting around to dragging out family heirlooms to fix, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:11 PM
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HaVe YoU TrIEd beIng mORe ATTRatIVe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:09 PM
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Question from an American: is the whole "Smile, you'll look prettier" idiocy men do here a thing in other countries? We seem to be the only ones who expect strangers to smile. Go into a store in Europe & the staff hardly looks up. A lot of Americans would have an anurysm & be tweeting corporate if they were not "greeted in a sincere way" entering a store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:35 PM
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Lordie. My roomate in grad school was the same way. The scrapes I used to have to go extracate her drunk ass from... And it was always like 1am & I would just be home from work & falling asleep. But I wasn't going to not answer the phone because I was sure she'd end up dead if I didn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:26 PM
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But, but! They said I was being paranoid & alarmist on s certain dating sub when I suggested to a guy that he might be getting turned down because he insisted on asking women to go out on his boat. 🙄 Honestly? I wouldn't get on anything less crowded than the Staten Island Ferry with someone I didn't know really well ever since I read about a case where some people stole a boat by pretending to be interested in buying it & then pushing the owner & his pregnant wife overboard at gunpoint in open s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:14 PM
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Even mobile numbers fequently associate to your address, full name, etc. Google your number & see what pops up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:18 PM
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A lot of states now have a statewide digital database for civil & criminal court cases. My state was way late to the party on this but finally went live with it this summer. One tip: find out their birth year & run a few searches entering as little info as will still return results. Search on several possible spellings; with middle initial & without; etc. People here are forever hiring horse farm help without any sort of background check & someone posted on our community board warning about one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:15 PM
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Exactly. And something else I've pointed out numerous times on dating subs when this whole dead horse gets dragged out & beaten again: Parent or not, no one can make their partner their top priority 100% of the time. Parents & siblings get sick, friends need support, pets, work, etc. It's a continuum for all reasonably healthy functioning adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:15 PM
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I agree, it's highly unlikely. But customs did seem to catch people occasionally. That makes sense re the artisans. Jewelry value is bizarre in the US. Any resale value tends to be in the price of the metal as a commodity alone. Stones are worth next to nothing unless they're of sufficient size & quality to be considered "important" diamonds or gemstones. Little to no value in the artistry of the design & execution unless the piece is antique and/or by a maker like Tiffany or Cartier. For myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:53 PM
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Yup. I read that comment & audibly grimaced. Eta: in the sad little "prenup" he drafted, my ex was supposed to have me put on the title to the house. He didn't. I never pushed it because I knew that he'd give me a bunch of bs about going halfsies on the mortgage despite him making like 20x what I did. It turned out great for me as the house was 5 figures underwater when we divorced. So, he got to take that hit all by himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:27 PM
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It seems that this is a pic from the San Diego Zoo. The duck was taking too long to walk across the shoebill's path & the latter picked up the former & moved it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:23 PM
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That's wild! I was unaware of the existence of shoebills. Our mallard drake once got into a tussle with one of our young Alpine goats does at breakfast when she bum rushed the ducks to try to steal their food. I managed to snap a pic of his expression immediately after. It was like, "Do you SEE what she did?? Why are you laughing at me, human?!? This is no laughing matter, ok??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:21 PM
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IRL, I use the terms alpha & beta instead of HV & LV. I''m aware of TRP connotations & think they're idiotic. To my mind an alpha man is one that: 1) is respectful to & respected by individuals of both genders 2) has a positive leadership personality (As a supervisor in a work setting others will look to him as the decision maker, yet he isn't compelled to control everything & hog the glory. He's adept at recognizing the strengths of others & getting them into a position where their talents can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:12 PM
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I worked in the international arrivals area for an airline in the summer years ago. Wracking my brain here; I'm thinking you would have to declare the ring if you were a US citizen reentering the US. Not sure about Europe, of course. No doubt people try their luck & lie about it & probably get away with it most of the time. Used to see customs pull people into secondary frequently enough I personally wouldn't want to test my luck 😱 That's interesting, though. Do people just not buy much jewelry …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:06 PM
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And the sorry excuse, "We use it in the military!" Usually from some guy who flunked out of basic training 2 decades ago...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:01 PM
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I've got nothing to add. Just wanted to tell you that you rock!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:07 PM
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The AT is sketchy af. Even men worry about their safety hiking it. Because...other men. We live near a stretch that is a relatively easy climb to a spot with a picturesque view. It's always crowded. I feel ok there. But that's it. An acquaintance traversed part of the AT as a sort of spiritual endurance test (didn't bring much water or food or any medical supplies). She was disoriented from dehydration, got badly bit by some insect, & it showed in her FB posts. I was worried about her the whole …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:00 AM
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Check pawn shops. We have one here that's famous for their firearm selection. I've sold one to them. It was great. They do all the transfer paperwork, etc so you don't have to worry you accidentally sold the gun to a mass shooter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:45 AM
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One of the county shelters near us is located next to a park with walking trails. They'll let you " borrow " a shelter dog to walk. Win for the dogs & people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:37 AM
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Ironically, never once have I encountered a man who could take a compliment well. Despite all the posts I see on Reddit from men complaining that women don't compliment them enough, yada yada.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:50 AM
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Does pumpkin spice work against basic bros like garlic against vampires? Like, if you wave a PSL at them do they scream & run? Eta: I don't care much for the Starbucks PSL but I might get one from Dunkin & test this out. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:38 PM
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Ah, I'll back up. My brain makes weird leaps & assumes everyone makes the same connections! Lol Back when I OLDed, it seemed to be a thing for overweight men to try to claim they had a "wrestlers body". I'm disputing that claim based on the fact that the actual wrestlers I know aren't overweight. They're huge. But not fat. It's all muscle. In the US, college sports are divided into 3 Divisions based roughly on the size of the school. D1 being the top tier with the biggest budgets & arguably the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:11 PM
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I'm referring to your reply to her. Are you sure you're not a man? Your first paragraph is peak mansplaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:12 PM
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No, that is subjectively what happened here because it appears your reaction to her post was the outlier. Though, as a dumb, arrogant, rude Uh-Murrr-can who worked as a technical translator of one of the 3 languages I speak besides English, I do read a number of non-American news sources. And my seasonal job at a retailer specializing in European wares has me speaking with non-Americans frequently. Based on the what I read & the number of folks engaging me in conversations about Trump et al as s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 11:38 AM
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How so? Again, could there really be any doubt who she's referring ro? Any at all? I mean, you were able to instantaneously deduce who it was in order to bring it up in the first place...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:28 AM
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Sure. Could there be any f--kibg doubt which president she's referring to, though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:49 AM
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I don't even see it as being exactly about the particular job a man has, although I know some could reasonably disagree. To me, it's a money management & long range plan thing. SO "retired" from his job with the state when his pension was fully vested. (I use quotations because he's in his mid-40's & didn't retire in the AARP sense.) He worked for the state for 20 years. It was stable but pays on the low end of the scale for his profession. It was still a good financial plan; he's in his late 40…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:57 AM
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If you pull this with me in a Wegman's imma be waltzing out the door with a cheese quartet & a bottle of Veuve Cliquot. Leaving you standing there with your jaw flapping in the breeze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:12 PM
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I've seen "Husky" and "wrestler's body". No, Jake. Knowing both an Olympic gold medalist who came here from Iran when the Shah fell and a young man who is an honest to God D 1 champion out of Arkansas State; I'm qualified to inform you that you do not, in fact, have a wrestlers body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:47 PM
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Eh. I firmly believe it happens based on the number of posts on FDS about it. It's just not been a common occurrence in my own experience but for the occasional dude at a big box gym. And they slink off when I make eye contact. The tone set by management & the individual instructor is key. I go to an independent gym that specializes in movement analysis & conditioning for athletes. It attracts people from all walks of life from grandmas recovering from hip replacements up to NFL players. I've be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:57 PM
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If you need me I'll be over here running my hands from my man's big strong shoulders down to that sweet little divot that his muscles make at the top of his hips...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:27 PM
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In the Yamas of yoga there's the concept of Satya, which unfortunately (imo) all too often is translated as "don't lie". I much prefer Desikachar's take: he terms it "right speech" instead. Meaning, think before you open your mouth. It may be factually true, but is it right? Does it need to be said? Is it hurtful to others or hurtful to you by compromising your character & the way others see you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:21 PM
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It's important for women to model to their daughters, neices, etc healthy relationships & discuss healthy boundaries. My daughters have only met one of the men I've dated in the 8 years since their dad & I divorced. They're aware that I've dated others & I've occasionally discussed with them in age appropriate terms why I chose not to take things further with those men. We also talk about portrayals of relationships on tv & social media & what we see around us. When my oldest was 12 we dropped h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:09 PM
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I'm glad someone else noticed the kid, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 10:31 AM
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Exactly! This will sound a little crunchy granola New Age-y, but I firmly believe that it is the other person's energy that our brains perceive on a primal level. Reiki and similar energetic healing arts espouse the idea that illness, injury, etc interrupt the body's electrical impulses & causes energy "leaks". While seeing that level of subtlety requires training & practice, I think most women can pick up on general weirdness or ill intent. It's a body language thing. Something just looks off w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:15 AM
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I've considered it. A few issues i've identified: 1) I don't have any licenses (although half these men don't either!) 2) I don't want to be alone in a house with a male client 3) A surprising number of women have a mental block around hiring another woman to do this type of work. Number 3 is infuriating. Case in point: I am extremely knowledgeable at building & troubleshooting electric agricultural fencing. Unless it's high-tensile wire fencing, it doesn't require an actual fencing company to i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:44 PM
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I've bought 4 brand new houses. The only one where the punch sheet wasn't a mile long was the one where the construction supervisor was a woman. This is why I gave up & taught myself how to do all sorts of crazy, dirty jobs. Building, fencing, turf maintenance, etc. It's like pulling teeth to get them to come give you an estimate. Then 75% chance they won't show up if you hire them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:41 PM
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Have you tried confining him to a room with hard surface flooring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:17 PM
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And even worse is that it is a Reddit thing near as I can tell. Few men in the wild are like that. At least in my anecdotal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:06 PM
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Yes & no. It's true that most national currencies are no longer backed by precious metals. However, fiat currencies are backed by the stability of the government that issues them. At least in theory. Who issues bitcoin? That's what makes me nervous about it. Granted, the Coinstar machine at my grocery store now lets you redeem your coins for Bitcoin. So, I could be totally off in left field in my worry. Tangent: I studied in Russia in the mid-90's right after the fall of the Soviet government & …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:11 PM
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I've mentioned this before: any man who complains/worries about women gold digging is simply angry that he's unsuccessful. And he's not in a mindset to become successful. Full stop. I live in a wealthy area. Have never heard a man here complain about gold diggers. Quite the contrary. They advertise their status, "Hey, ladies! Platinum mine here! I'm giving away free samples Saturday from 1-4. Hope to see you there!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:02 PM
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I suspect it relates to the whole "single moms are damaged goods" narrative that the LVM/NVM on reddit love to push. These losers then use it as a weapon against women with low self esteem. Like "Well, you're not going to get anything better. You're lucky I'm willing to date you, a single mom, at all!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:49 PM
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100%. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:18 PM
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She doesn't have a boyfriend. She has an ill-tempered squatter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:14 PM
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3600 is about right or maybe even a little low. My freak of nature fit SO is in his late 40s & when he did a heavy workout cycle at his previous job he'd eat so much high protein/high fat food that he worried about the saturated fat/cholesterol. Probably 5000-6000 calories a day. But they were nuts there. When they were bored & didn't have anything else to do they would work out to close to the point of Rhabdo. 🤔 He still does what most people would consider to be a nasty workout at home. But mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:43 PM
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I was unaware of the existence of such a group up until you mentioned it. Lol. And yes indeed. It would take considerable practice. Unless there's something I don't understand about the way draw weight is calculated pn modern bows (which is quite possible!) modern longbow draws seem to be in the 35-45 lbs range. Medieval English bows are thought to have started at 80 lbs & may have ranged up to 200 lbs. Which is absolutely insane. Modern bow hunters need all sorts of mechanical draw assists to u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:41 AM
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It does seem fast! They were supposedly crazy about each other in an era of marriages of convenience. Must have worked somehow. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:24 AM
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Or a bonfire in my neck of the woods. But you don't do that alone with a guy. It's a group activity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:02 AM
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"If you can't handle my friends at their worst, you don't deserve me at my worst. Uh, i mean best. " As an aside, there's a patriotic song from early Soviet Russia that gets translated as "The Meadowlands", though the lyrics make reference to the "pol" which would usually translate to field. Every time The Field is mentioned on here that song starts running through my head on an endless loop. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:00 AM
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I'd kinda like a longbow. Watched Henry V again a few months ago & randomly decided it would be fun to become a longbowswoman. Couldn't find a longbow with close to authentic Midieval draw weight, unfortunately. Mostly rinky dink LARP toys. Very disappointing. ☹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:52 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣. This is seriously the best thing I've seen all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:39 AM
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Exactly! During a winter break from the Continental Army, a 26yo young man by the name of George Washington travelled 35 miles from Williamsburg to pay a visit to a young widow named Martha Custis. Historians aren't certain if they'd ever met prior. She was young, attractive, & ridiculously wealthy. He was basically lower upper class with nowhere near her social standing. She must've liked something about him because she married him after his 2nd visit. She regrettably owned a huge contingent of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:34 AM
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Anecdotally, yes. And not just younger men, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:58 AM
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Single mom here who built a successful farm business by herself, can do heavy carpentry, was the lead instrument repair tech for a music store etc. My advice: 1) let go of the notion that any of this requires a man to teach it. Most men don't know this stuff. My father was & is the most fantastic, HVM you could imagine.He's a scientist & is a whiz at computers & good at basic home repairs. He doesn't know how to farm, build sheds/electric fences/replace the fallen sound peg & bridge on a cello, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:44 AM
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American here, living in an area with horrible traffic, so it is the exact opposite. I haven't seen a stick shift that wasn't on an exotic like a Lamborghini or a CDL-endorsement sized truck in a long time. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:06 AM
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Not for a first date. But I must say that the pattern of the goldfish is very ASMR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:15 PM
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Kind of a tangent, but what is it with men wanting us to give them massages? Sorry, dude. I ain't a massage therapist. You can learn fascia release & get Graston done like I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:14 PM
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I hope so too. Still, it's distressingly common to see women posting that they got engaged but he doesn't want to say anything to anybody quite yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:26 PM
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"It's been hard for him to remember things since... (lowers voice) the accident..." This is what I'm imaging him saying. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:23 PM
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Yeah. I'll never get that. Or the whole "my parents got divorced 30 years ago & I'm scared of commitment as a result." It's like saying, "the transmission on my last car blew so I'm never getting a car again."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:51 PM
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I'm sure there are many "exhausting" male captains & bridge officers. Probably all of them, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:54 PM
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I've mentioned this before on here: back when I farmed, older old men (80+) always came through as the real MVPs. Never condescending, never dishonest, always excited to give advice but never mansplained. Don't know if it was just reflective of the manners with which they were raised or if they were just stoked to see youngish blood getting into farming or what. But it was so nice. Men my age (40's) all seemed to be shysters that would've murdered their Aunt Tilly to make a fast buck. Older midd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:50 AM
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Every once in a while I feel just the tinest, grudging glimmer of admiration for the sheer chutzpah these guys possess. The rock solid certainty that their comfort is their birthright & ability (audacity?) to throw the craziest sh-t at the wall with such conviction that they can get an otherwise sane woman to believe in their tales. Then I catch myself & throw up in my mouth a little. 🤢 But to have the confidence of a mediocre white man...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:30 AM
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There was a Judge Judy where the guy had 10 kids with nearly as many different mothers. She yelled at him to "Keep it in your pants from now on, Sir!" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:06 AM
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I had a shockingly positive experience with an older Pakistani male doctor at an urgent care clinic a few years ago. A yet to be diagnosed AI disease in combination with my Paraguard IUD had me in & out of doctors' offices with horrible UTI-like symptoms & BV. The rapid UTI tests kept coming back negative & I kept getting sent away with no meds & in very real pain. Usually, something would turn up when the sample was sent to the lab to be cultured Anyway, I got off work late & felt so bad I coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:50 AM
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Ikr? Meanwhile, on a certain dating sub men had a mass heart attack when a woman asked if it was unreasonable for her to have an office with locking door buillt for her in a remodel SHE was paying for because the bf & his kids couldn't refrain from entering her office & taking sh-t without asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:56 PM
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But, but... he's mentally exhausted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:52 PM
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Why on earth is his dad retiring early this mentally overwhelming/exhausting for him? Did i miss something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:50 PM
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Ahhhh. Thanks for explaining this. I don't startle easily unless someone jumps out at me. I have some of that hyper-sensory stuff that sometimes accompanies ADD. This guy's lucky he's not married to me because he would've walked into a knife the 1st time he tried this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:45 PM
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I had husband & wife acquaintances where the husband would grab the asses of the female half of other couples in the group when he got drunk. No one ever reacted. Not his wife, the women he was grabbing, or their husbands. It made no flipping sense to me. My SO isn't the type to punch some guy grabbing me as a "hands off my woman" kind of reaction but he'd sure the heck back me up in my reaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:35 PM
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🤣🤣 Omg! I'd just busted out singing this! Great minds think alike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:24 PM
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Exactly. I took it once in college. I have never been that nauseous before or since. Resorted to smelling nail polish because it calmed my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:20 PM
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Yes! The worst imo are the e-commerce sites that offer a coupon for your first purchase & the window keeps popping up every subsequent visit to their site & you try to close it because you know it won't work on this next purchase. And instead of, "No, thank you" or "i'm a return customer" the button says "No thanks, I don't like saving $" or some BS like that. Ok, nimwits. First you won't give me, a return customer, a discount. And now you want to insult me about it instead of hiring a software …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:16 PM
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Or maybe having sex with his actual car? 😂 That's what popped into my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:04 PM
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Did they really? 🤣🤣🤣 Fellas, it's simple. 1) Don't flash anybody, and 2) especially don't flash anybody armed with a racing bat. And mounted on 1000 lbs of thoroughbred that you spooked jumping out in its path & will think nothing of double-barrelling you in the chest with two steel shod hooves before it runs you over. I mean, if this is your best plan for talking to women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:50 AM
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The best clap back I've ever heard of in response to a flasher: A steeple chase trainer I know had a young woman exercise rider helping them bring their horses back into work after winter. They used a route that took them down a length of public bridle path. A guy started jumping out & flashing the trainer & a few other women. A few days later, young exercise rider is galloping along when flasher leaps out into the path of her horse. She yelled at him to put it away. He sneered, "what are you go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:45 PM
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Not to mention that while you can't change the size of your penis, you can change your abs & income with a little effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:43 PM
5

Something else I didn'r see mentioned is that in my area of the US most houses & even apartments have a washer/dryer. Going to a laundromat in the first place implies lower socio-economic status. (Or that you are washing something like a king sized comforter than requires an industrial sized machine. Which would bode even worse in the poor girl's case because the guy would've been blowing her off with the excuse of a twice annual chore!) And laundromats here tend to be sketchy af & not places yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:37 PM
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Of course, the guy arguing with you is named Josh. Of course he would be. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:21 PM
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Not only is it not a good first date, there is also a well-known p-rno movie that takes place in a Laundromat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:22 PM
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He's a HVSK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:15 PM
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Guys: "eewee, period blood!" [Crash] Faints. Also guys: "Hey! Check out my pee bottle & dip cup!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 03:16 PM
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She also used her children as cannon fodder. Look, I'm not without sympathy for women in these kinds of situations. However, women can do a lot to keep themselves out of that kind of situation by: 1) Recognizing that the US legal system is much like the US healthcare system. It is up to you to educate yourself and manage your legal team. They work for you. Divorces are unlike most areas of law where only 2 or 3 clear cut outcomes are possible. You will not get anything you do not ask for. Theref…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:35 PM
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Yup. My bff complains all the time about her husband doing nothing. I keep telling her to just. Stop. Doing. Everything. Do her stuff & the kids' stuff. He can fend for himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:01 AM
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You're entitled to your opinion. I'm entitled to disagree & point out that this is exactly the attitude I'm referring to. I divorced a BPD millionaire law partner who attempted every trick in the book. I prevailed because I researched my rights, got a lawyer that made rabid wolves look like chihuahuas & hit back. I refuse to be a victim in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:02 PM
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So much this. I wish more women would really read up on US divorce laws. I stopped reading The Happy Hausfrau's blog because I got tired of every post whining about her situation & making no effort to research, see a lawyer (most offer free consults). Or really do much of anything besides take what her ex husband said as the Gospel truth. And she's far from the only one. I mean, geez. Think about it. In what other area of law do people listen to the advice of their legal advisary?? Eta: He's not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:39 PM
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Imagine for just a moment the reaction if a man had posted that he came home to find his wife cuddling with his bff. The chorus of "REEEEEEEE" would rend the heavens asunder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:01 PM
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It isn't exactly sociopathic. It's that their sense of themselves being distinct & separate from other people isn't fully there because the brain doesn't begin to solidify those neuropathways until around 8 or so. It's why lot of toddlers don't get it about biting until a parent or caretaker bites them back & it registers "oh, biting hurts". Naturally, there are gradients & outliers. My 11yo has classmates that are boy/girl twins. Both are lovely, sweet kids. But the boy is one of my all time fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:13 AM
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What is this twin flame thing. I'm a yoga teacher & it isn't part of any philosophy I'm familiar with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:33 AM
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Ever since the old moderators left, imo. The new ones don't have as good a handle on steering discussions & setting the general tone of the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:29 PM
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As often as a McDonald's ice cream machine is out of order? He likes to live on the edge! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:18 PM
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It's always the guys that know nothing, too. The ones that are experts at a sport don't say crap like that. I once had an MMA instructor & former Marine Corps boxer invite me to come to his gym & BJJ spar with him for a first date. He could've easily wiped the floor with me but; 1) he refrained from doing so, and 2) had nothing to say but effusive compliments. We actually went out to dinner afterwards, too. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:04 PM
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Just looked it up, it's even better than I thought. She takes on 5 men at once & hits the same one with the ball twice. 🤣 Eta: some men really don't get it. A friend in HS had played tennis since she was 4 or 5 & was one of the top ranked Women in the district. She was 16, tiny, & didn't have the 8 hour a day 6 days a week kind of conditioning that a pro player would. She could still play two men by herself & win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:52 PM
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No, they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:41 PM
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🤣 it's hysterical, isn't it? I know a couple guys that were once in a class that Mackenzie Dern dropped into. Said she mopped the floor with even the guys that were wrestlers as well as BJJ players. And she''s around 125 lbs & 5'2". So 20-30 lbs lighter & maybe 5" shorter than Rhonda. Rhonda would annihilate them. Eta: didn't some cocky British sports analyst try to play a game against Serena Williams & get hit by the ball & fall down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:36 PM
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From what I've read, it is developmentally appropriate for kids to display what would be considered sociopathic behavior in adults up until about 8 years old. They just don't have the necessary wiring in their brains for empathy until that age. Of course, that doesn't mean we parents shouldn't at least try to set the framework for empathy prior to then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:54 PM
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Baking soda, I think. At least that's what looks like is on her hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:05 AM
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The nice thing was that for a woman, as long as she survived child birth, odds were she'd live into her 60's & beyond. Weird factoid: New England is said to have "Invented Grandparents". Thanks to low population density & superior sanitation compared to Europe & the cold weather inhibiting disease, life expectancy in 17th & 18th century New England was much longer than that of most of the rest of the world. For the first time, people were living long enough to not only see their children's child…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:23 AM
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Good catch. My ex looooved to do this. No, bruh. This sounds like a YOU problem. I've got 99 problems but this problem of yours ain't one of em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:06 AM
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There's a live version of Miley Cyrus (who is hands down one of the best cover artists of Jolene imho) where in the final cadence she yells, "Eh, never mind, you can have him!" It's classic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:56 PM
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That's a smoking gun in my book. He wouldn't have said that if he hadn't done it. I'm willing to bet on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:45 PM
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Yaaaaasssss. I'm petite. And I could still probably pick up the entire weight rack at a Curves & walk out the door with it. Eta: And I'm not trying to be a jerk. The whole point of weight lifting is to place healthy stress on the muscles & bones, strengthening the muscles & building bone density. The squeezing of the soft tissues also flushes out old fluid & brings fresh, healthy fluid into the muscles, joints, fascia, etc. & helps prevent the tissues from becoming dry & brittle as we age. Most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:22 PM
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Ironically, the only gym I know of that is de facto men's only is this serious power lifting place that doesn't allow most men in either. 🤣 IIRC they aren't officially men's only. (The owner's wife is former military & a beast of a power lifter herself.) They're just super-selective about membership. You have to be introduced by one of the current members, sort of audition, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:23 PM
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That's a tad uncharitable. I go to mixed-gender gyms because the womens-only gyms currently available in my area are woefully unequal to mixed-gender gyms. Programming that is non-scalable as participants progress; insufficient equipment; very limited hours; staff with little-to-no training. I'm 44yo & have zero f-cks left to give. I am not driving 80 miles to work out at Curves when it does not meet my needs. Not when a 50 mile round trip gets me to my awesome little indie gym where the owners …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:12 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:59 PM
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Agree 100%. The owner of the Jazzercise franchise in town actually works out at my gym -- a small private gym with an emphasis on functional fitness/Olympic lifting/sports movement analysis & conditioning. Very inclusive, members of all different ages & a lot of married couples and families, tons of diversity among the coaches -- a male in a hetero relationship who identifies as non-binanary; a gender transitioning female-male child of a semi-conservative Christian pastor & his traditional churc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:59 PM
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This poor woman. She's still at it? I remember seeing a post about her a few weeks ago. Who knows. Maybe she doesn't want to eat with them. They probably have terrible table manners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:29 PM
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Even better are the guys that get the TAPOUT logo tattooed on them. Yes. Tap out, please. Tap out early & often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:10 PM
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T minus 5 and counting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:23 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 Is there a wait list you can get on for ones that might move down there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:20 PM
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I frequently carry a razor knife. It's a farm tool. Sometimes I forget I still have it on me when I go out. Cough, cough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:51 PM
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Who knows. I once had 2 guys yell at me from a car while I was walking one store over from work in a strip mall for coffee. It being a relatively safe environment with low risk of them escalating, I turned & said in a sweet voice, "oh hey baaaaby! What's up??" They immediately rolled up their windows & pealed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:49 PM
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Me too. Although, in my state you can open carry so you technically don't have to have a CCW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:40 PM
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It's probably not the first time this guy has done this. And won't be the last. He'll get caught eventually. And your police report will be helpful in showing that he's got a pattern of sh-ty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:35 PM
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I carry a gun. And have stopped a loon trespassing on my farm in his tracks just by reaching into my coat for it. File a police report if you have not already. Praying there isn't a next time , but if there is, call them immediately. Don't rely on your family. They unfortunately do not understand your personal safety and clearly demonstrated that. And what could your father have realistically done even if you had spotted the guy driving around? Let the police look for him. It's their job. The on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:31 PM
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I swear it is the same guy that had an aneurysm & went on a REEEEE spree when I commented on a dating sub about 2 incidents of men following me around a grocery store on the same shopping trip. "Haaaarrr! If you're that scared of social interaction, seek therapy! Haaaaarr!" Some other sweet women posters argued with him but I just blocked him. I don"t care. I have no obligation to the comfort of anybody but myself (and my kids while they're kids). I don't care if you're socially awkward & not a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:48 PM
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This post title is everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:08 PM
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FLORIDA MAN!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:36 AM
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The one time a guy hassled me about what he'd spent on dinner, I took the advice of my older, worldly gay co-worker & sent a check for my 1/2 with "To close account" written in the memo line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:19 PM
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I've never received bees, but I imagine the package isn't air tight. Bees breath via vents on their bodies as they don't have lungs. Shipping of live animals is carefully regulated. Worker bees cannot go air mail. The queen can. But she has to have no more than 8 attendants. I buy a lot of baby chicks. They can only ship via USPS Priority Express. FedEx & UPS do not take them. It works because they're still drawing nourishment from their yolk for the 1st three days of life. Breeders & hatcheries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:15 PM
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Yoga professional here scratching my head at where everyone is meeting all these astrology obsessed folks. I honestly don't know anyone who excuses their bad behavior by informing me they're a Capricorn or something! That said, I'm a relaxed Ayurvedist & do find certain broader concepts of astrology, especially lunar cycles, tie in well as I design practices. Really, though. What's the harm in someone deriving comfort from a belief as long as they aren't trying to impose that belief on others?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:46 PM
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I think that the name change tradition will decline sharply with ID verification processes becoming increasingly rigorous. The amount of paperwork needed to document name changes when obtaining a Real ID is apparently ridiculous.a bunch of older, conservative women I know who have gone through the process say that in retrospect, they wish they'd never charged their name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:59 PM
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I think you're on to something regarding rank. Personally have never dated an active duty military man, my experience is with LEO. I know scads of LVM who are sheriff's deputies at small departments. However, the 2 best men I've dated are career law enforcement with high ranks with the state or huge urban departments. (Current SO is one of those two men). It's hard to put my finger on exactly what it is. Maybe the structure & discipline required of them at that level in big departments. They bot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:29 PM
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I've worked as a retail manager. My anecdotal observation is that 90% of mens underwear & socks are purchased by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:36 PM
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A guy on a certain sub Reddit aimed at singles over a certain age asking if it was really necessary to replace his 10 yo underwear & socks. "They're in good shape!" Sadly, the only male posters who disagreed were the ones who are gay or bi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:33 PM
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You know those so-called Bog Bodies? Most of them are wearing clothing in better shape despite having died during the Iron Age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:26 PM
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Worth a shot. Sort of along the same lines as Mariah Carrey's "I don't know her."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:03 PM
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My ex husband & his first ex wife had a couple in their circle of kids' sports league parents that had done just this. I can't remember if they'd adopted the child or if they had shared custody with the mother/affair partner. I think the former. The husband was no treat to look at. Because, of course not. These men never are. The wife probably tried to dump him & his stuff with the other woman & she wrote Return to Sender on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:01 PM
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I just snorted my coffee reading this 🤭 "He's never been a b--stard. He's the heir to the Iron Throne!" As an aside, I hate that word. But there's another old-fashioned word I'd like to see brought back: Blackguard -- def. -- a person, particularly a man, who behaves in a contemptable or dishonorable way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:52 AM
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Absolutely! A women can lose everything - her identity, her home, possessions, life savings - get kicked in the teeth & stand up & dust herself off & find a way forward. Even if it's 1 step forward & 3 steps back. Few men seem to have the same resiliency. I love both of my ex in laws. They have a similar story to your old boyfriend's family. Somehow, my MIL thrived & is living her best life & my FIL just stagnated. She told me once, "I just made up my mind to be happy no matter where I was."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:19 AM
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Did you read the article in the Washington Post profiling the family where mom had an IT contracting business that was going gangbusters & dad had quit his job & was "taking care of the kids" (aka yeeting the kids off at full time daycare) while he pondered his next career option? Dad was soooooo overwhelmed by having to keep his progeny alive all by himself for 12 hours a day that mom ended up shutting down her company - the family's sole source of income - to take care of the kids. Sheesh. Min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:47 AM
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It's interesting that breastfeeding is mentioned. As an educated, upper-middle class, white mother of two, the level of emphasis placed on breastfeeding to women in my socio-economic station felt suspect to me. Baby not latching on? Pump! Even though the whole thing will take so long you'll net less than 30 minutes between cycles. Baby screaming like a possessed banshee 24/7? Eliminate dairy, eggs, alcohol caffeine, cacao, nuts, seeds, grains, & so on from your diet. Exhausted? Have your husband…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:24 AM
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Not necessarily. At least in the US you typically cannot avoid child support by signing away your parental rights. And the state will usually go after the other parent first if you apply for benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:43 PM
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Oh, it's Manic Pixie Dream Girl! She does exist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:08 PM
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Imo, the most underrated lyric in all of contemporary music: "...why spend mine, when I can spend yours?" -Lady Marmalade Women need to learn; never ever get involved in a man's finances unless you're married. And while we're at it, don't marry a man without carefully vetting to make sure his financial habits & priorities align with yours. Allow him spend on you. Do not attempt to save him from himself or nonesense like that. You're infantilizing him when you do so. It never turns out well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:07 PM
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I'm 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 who does he think created all these single moms? I can't remember exactly which Trump/Pence lunatic talking point caused me to come up with this idea: want single moms relying less on government programs? Enact a National Jizz Registry. Sort of like the NCIC. But a clearinghouse of jizz & not fingerprints. All men of child producing age would be required to submit a sample of their product. Then, every time a baby is born to a single mom they can simply run the baby's DNA through the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:50 PM
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Omg! How I wish I'd had this queen energy at her age!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:30 PM
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Hello! What kind of riding do you do? I'm mostly a dressage person now. Occasionally ride my daughter's little hunter pony when she's too busy with school to get to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:08 PM
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Oh, sounds like she was amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:39 PM
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The filler/face lift puff. I'm glad i'm not the only one who sees it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:50 AM
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I agree. Physical fitness, eating mindfully, and a reasonably positive disposition are a huge part of the battle. My MIL is 82 & her hair just started going grey in the last year. While some luck was involved, a lot of it is what she does & does not. She's from a SE Asian country & has always led a more active lifestyle. Her attitude is amazing. She still works PT, is super social, and is just the kindest, most upbeat person. She's had her fair share of hardships in life, but as she once explain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:46 AM
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That's terrible. Sounds like your boss needs career counseling to help him a new line of work that is lower pressure. Clearly, he's unable to hack it in a busy clinical setting .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:06 PM
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Why, yes Bill. As a matter of fact, I would rather have sex with my dildo than you. Thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:33 AM
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Preach! Single mom as well. My best relationships have all been with woke childless men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:01 PM
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Wow. I'm dumb. I've been with SO on & off for 5+ years & never once cooked for him. He loves to make elaborate cocktails for us when I come over, though. Like smoking the rims of the glasses with mesquite chips & a kitchen torch kind of elaborate. And I have sex with him because I think he's hot & it turns me on. All this time & I had no clue I was supposed to be managing him like a farm animal or something. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:03 PM
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Oh, the poor baby had to REEEEEEE? 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:48 PM
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The older I get the more I see this as being vital to a healthy relationship. I'm good at a lot of traditionally "male" things like carpentry. Dated a guy who was a master carpenter. He loved to do little fixes around my house. I'm perfectly capable of performing those fixes myself. But so what. I wasn't going to stop him. It's part of how a quality man shows that a woman is important to him. I hate driving. So, I always let me men drive. I think I've been the driver once in the entire time I've…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:45 PM
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That was my immediate thought, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:48 PM
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I'm very sorry you went through that. You absolutely did the right thing. I so hope that no one ever dares to guilt or shames you for it. But if they do, you can send em my way & I'll happily kick their ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:45 PM
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Was just coming here to say that. My kids took a rescue swimming class as toddlers that used the pool at a gym with a reputation for being a safe place for men to meet up if you know what I mean... The family restrooms, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:34 PM
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His writing style reminds me of a menu from one of those restaurants trying so hard to be edgy & relevant: Cast iron-seared Bream. Iowa micro-potatoes. Parsnips, upstate New York Crispin, Laughing Goat crumbles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:59 PM
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I love that! I'm going to have to remember that wording to use in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:06 PM
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Aw, hell no! Lol. I bet he looked that up on the fly after numerous folks took him to task about the damn field. Eta: American farm woman that I am, I carry a cattle stick, a razor knife, and frequently a 9mm handgun when I go out into a field. Someone double-dog dare this dude to ask me on a field date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:12 PM
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A lot of people don't realize that female cows & horses especially rule the roost. Years ago I came home around 10pm one bitterly cold polar vortex night with dire warnings from the National Weather Service about exposed skin sustaining frostbite within 10 minutes. Trudged out with a 5 gallon bucket of boiling hot water in each hand to de ice the trough for our longhorns & discovered our cows had gotten pissed with the little bull & shoved him through the electric fence. He'd been waiting patien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:08 PM
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I'm starting to wonder if errand dates are yet another porn thing? There's so many "situational porn" videos. Ironically, in the laundromat one I remember, she gets mad at her lazy ass boyfriend for not getting up & helping & stomps off to do her laundry & meets the man of her dreams (the laundromat owner).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:46 PM
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The sad thing? You know he is 💯 confident that his degree trumps all her experience & education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:26 AM
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They never do on that sub. Always "Well, in 2005, I went on a date with a woman who said [the opposite]." About everything. My favorite was the "I met a woman who said she thought men who obtained consent before choking her during foreplay were simps." Rolled my eyes so hard at that one I saw my own brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 11:43 PM
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I don't get it. My SO somehow manages to dress himself & look nice. Irons, bleaches his undershirts, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:05 PM
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"If you build it, they will come..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:37 PM
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I think some do it as an out for being awful: "You think you could do better? You're lucky I even stoop to date a single mom!" Think about how much red pill & now even garden variety LVM loooove to spew the narrative of single mothers being untouchable/undatable. If a woman believed the men on Reddit to be an accurate sample of men at large, she could be forgiven for thinking that she was lucky this dude is giving her the time of day. As for parents dating non-parents, I'll say this as a divorce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:20 PM
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PeoPle TElL me I aCt muCh YouNGer THan I Am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:35 PM
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Yup. FBI territory because it is an interstate crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:33 PM
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Oh, we got divorced years ago. He's nuts but his parents are actually lovely. I think they like me better than their own son. I came home from work one day between Xmas & NYE to a giant basket from Harry & David. Asked my 13yo what it was. "Oh, grandma & grandpa brought that for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:35 PM
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They really don't f--king get it. It's amazing. I remember some guy posting on a certain dating sub for people over a certain age complaining that he could never get a date off OLD despite getting responses to his messages & actually asking women out. He was apparently suggesting hikes for a 1st date. I suggested this was the issue, briefly explained the safety concerns women would have, & that he should perhaps consider another venue. Nope. Couldn't be THAT, he and the legions of dateless but c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:18 PM
7

Ohhhhh, wait. You know what? I wonder if he's cheating on someone & that's why he wants to be in a field. Where no one will see them. Years ago, I was talking to a guy from OLD who already had one shady strike against him; forgetting what his apparently made up hobbies were. I had no intentions of going anywhere with this yahoo but decided to mess with him out of morbid curiosity. He wanted to go hiking in Harper's Ferry, WV. Which is nowhere near any halfway point between my house & where he al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:08 PM
65

I love cows. Ran a tiny herd of longhorn back when I had my own farm. These are some sort of lowline angus with what looks to me to be a beefmaster bull. He's gigantic. Close to 2000 lbs. He is absolutely not in charge, though. There's a boss cow. And the bull goes along with whatever she decides. Somewhere, I have a video of their most recent jailbreak: a dozen cows following the boss cow & the bull scurrying along behind like, "uh, honey, are sure this is a good idea?" And her looking all, "Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:08 AM
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Thank God. I thought i was the only one who had noticed that. 🤣 Eta: my house is surrounded by fields. Every now and again the landlord's cattle break through the fence & come into my yard. Maybe yard dates are the cow version of field dates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:19 AM
4

Functionally fit & muscular. In other words, ripped, but not a bodybuilder. They're weak af. And power lifters are usually too fat for my tastes. Rugged. Knows how to properly load an outdoor woodstove, build things, and tear apart a diesel engine (and put it back together again.) The majority of men here are fat, rude rednecks. But every once in a while you come across a glorious specimen who is like the love child of Bear Grysalis & James Bond with a touch of Indian Shaman mixed in and these b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:07 AM
11

Lowkey?? No. Flat out terrible in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:19 AM
3

🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg. I would've whipped out my vibrator & gotten busy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:17 AM
3

The chain restaurant Perkins?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:50 PM
8

I'm a plain old Caucasian American who married into an Indian family & this made me snort my coffee 🤣 Yeeeesss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:30 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 . I'm dead. And baffled, wondering how a bunch of male software engineers actually hit the deadlines for product development for this while spending 8 hours a day cracking entendre jokes a la Bevis & Butthead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:45 PM
1

What on earth does that mean? "Get aesthetic"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:40 PM
3

Lmao. Used to work with a guy that was ex-Amish. I teased him to go make me a table all the time. 😂 Furniture making wasn't his trade -- he was a blacksmith/farrier -- but he apparently could manage a basic table & chair set if needed. Ironically, he's one of the most genuinely progressive-minded men I've ever met despite coming from a very strict Ordnung.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:35 PM
3

Helping my daughter with her history schoolwork I fell down a rabbit hole on Mount Vernon's website. George Washington supposedly had a hot temper; though it was rarely on display because he had done a tremendous amount of what we'd nowadays call self-discovery & self-work. One of the rare occasions he lost it was in an encampment when some enlisted men started a drunk brawl late one night in the middle of camp. He's said to have burst out of his tent & knocked several of the men out cold. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:25 PM
4

Omg! 🤣🤣🤣 yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:34 PM
1

I thought the same. Sometimes also wonder if I'm the only woman out there that doesn't have the urge to go on a junk food bender every time I get my period. Don't get me wrong -- I'll crave & eat a chocolate bar or something. But have never gone out & bought pints of Ben & Jerry's & Halloween-sized bags of candy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:29 PM
6

I remember reading an interview in Vogue with India Hicks. At one point she mentions how puzzled & horrified she was when she moved to the US & discovered that people commented on the food at dinner parties. I ended up consulting my Amy Vanderbilt etiquette book because I couldn't figure out what she meant. Up until the recent past, it was considered gauche to say anything about the food served beyond a vague, "everything is lovely." The reasoning was that the host was presumably serving the bes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:28 PM
1

It reminded me of this meme poster a history teacher i subbed for had on their classroom wall. It's a painting of George & Martha Washington in their later years sitting at a drawing room table surrounded by children. And he's saying to her, "Martha, you let the ghost children in again, didn't you." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:04 PM
6

Oh, it's all a total sham with most of them. Look at the whole Jerry Falwell Jr scandal. My bff grew up near Liberty. Don't even get her started on the Fundie men that stand around at parties drinking "lemonade" out of red Solo cups & smoking behind the barn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:36 PM
1

I'm confused. Does this guy have a wife AND a fiancee? Hoping that part of the text got cut off & they got married somewhere in the middle. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:32 PM
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More like 6 years. If the posts on dating over 30 are any indication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:08 PM
3

My best friend is an ER/ICU nurse of 15+ years. She texted me in a rage one night to vent about a patient situation. Poor woman had gone into a small, regional ER with some very real, very significant symptoms & had been sent home with "it's all in your head." 12 hours later, she lost consciousness & a friend called 911. She was airlifted to the Level 1 TC where my friend works. Aneurysm. She never woke up. My bestie felt that the patient would've had a decent chance of survival if the first ER …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:47 PM
2

It could be. But then again, you should see how people spell out here in bumf--k Virginia. Sue-of-cidal is downright mild compared to what I see on community FB pages every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:03 AM
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You'd hope so. Unfortunately, I remember a similar situation on a mom's community board I belonged to when my kids were little. Married woman with 3 or 4 kids she was homeschooling & found out the husband had been paying for sex from prostitutes. She didn't want to leave or to even stop having sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:59 AM
8

Run, Forest! Run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:07 PM
2

My first (and only) reply would've been the Leo DiCaprio uncontrollable laughter meme. Then, block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:06 PM
13

This reminded me of when my girls were little & came back from their dad's excited about their 16yo half brother's new job at Chick-Fil-A. "Wow! That's exciting," I said, "what does he do there?" "He takes out the fat," my then 5yo youngest informed me. After further clarification, I worked out that his job was hand cutting the chicken & potatoes they used. (And apparently, literally taking the excess fat trimmed out to the biowaste dumpster at the end of the shift.) I love that kid. He's smart,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:25 PM
9

"That's my last Duchess there, hanging on the wall..." My goodness! I'd forgotten all about that poem until now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:07 PM
5

Know what would really blow this guy's mind?? My SO has a big boy job that's classified, so I have no idea what he's working on. Ever!😂 And he can't take personal electronics into the building. No texting or calling him with words of affirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:06 PM
6

But, but...muh penis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:56 PM
91

"Jimmy got a gold star on his behavior chart & I didn't!!!! Whaaaaaaaaa!" Omg. This dude needs to be in daycare, not the work force.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:42 AM
4

I have questions. Primarily who stole his neck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:56 PM
9

In traditional yogic philosophy Karma is something that follows your soul across lifetimes. It often isn't any grand, cosmic gesture; instead taking the form of patterns of thought or behaviors that are self-destructive. My ex husband cheated right after our 2nd child was born. I don't care. Haven't thought about it in years. I'm 1000x happier without him & literally replaced him with bigger & better. Meanwhile, he's an extremely unhappy person who hasn't managed any personal growth since & flit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:54 PM
44

Who stands around in their own home wearing a heavy canvas jacket to do the dishes? Eta: And where the f--k is the sponge/dish rag/brush? Is the water even on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:42 PM
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Ohh! I have a sad, depressing story to add that will make your face look like this 😑 Background for non horse people: most male horses are geldings. Stallions can be aggressive & unpredictable & are generally considered to require specialized handling protocols. In the US, they're often excluded from participation from small, local schooling shows for the same. You really only see them at so-called rated shows where there are FEI-level classes. Anyway, a few years ago I was looking around for so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:39 PM
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Plus, only female lions hunt. The males just lay around & attack each other every now & then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:05 PM
10

Interesting & 🤢. Anyone else find it fascinating that the 10/10 are sort of, i don't know how to phrase this...anatomically blurry? All of those photos appear to be from catwalk shows where they try to make all of the models appear as a monolith by toning down any unique or exceptional features. The only one I've actually heard of in that group is Adrinna Lima. And that's far from the nicest pic I've seen of her. I'm assuming that's also true of the other women in that group. These guys want rob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:50 PM
11

Meh. How many times has my "lunch" consisted of the 10 minute drive from Taco Bell back to work? Or not had a chance to eat at all? Because I'm the one who has been responsible for getting my kids up & out the door every single school day of their Iives with a lunch & two snacks packed. And sometimes shit happens & that takes longer than anticipated & I don't have time to grab anything for myself before heading to my job that can either be dead or nonstop Grand Central Station of people for 8-10…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 12:09 PM
8

Next, on AITA: "Dear Reddit, my boyfriend stiffed his drug dealer for $1000. I was stabbed 30 times & left for dead after the dealer broke into my apartment in which my boyfriend lives in rent free looking for him. I was in the hospital in a coma for a month. When I arrived home from the hospital yesterday, I saw that no one had tried to clean the huge bloodstain on the living room carpet. AITA for asking my boyfriend to go to Wal-Mart for cleaning supplies after he finishes his Call of Duty Dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:30 PM
1

I would not hesitate a nanosecond before pouring it over his head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:35 PM
12

Not to mention dude needs to take a cooking class if he thinks cheese on tacos is a real Mexican thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:01 PM
3

Please be a 14yo boy trolling from his mom's basement. Please...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:35 PM
27

My ex was fond of waving his hands around while telling me "don't rely on me" and "just pretend i'm not here" in regards to the kids. Because his big important job was sooooo impressive he couldn't be expected to focus on anything else but. (He eventually got fired from a law firm partnership, which is about damn near impossible, for not actually doing any work.) One day I looked at him and thought, "yeah, you're right. What's the point of you actually being here?" Lol. And then I filed for a di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:03 AM
1

Chain of outdoor sporting goods stores similar to Bass Fishing. Ours closed. Unsure if the whole chain is gone or not. I'm mad about it closing. They carried really nice clothing & boots for women. Quality along the lines of LL Bean but actually fashionable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:43 AM
2

Not really. But no surprise there. Definitely reasons he is an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:54 PM
3

Oh, they'll look at you no matter what you're wearing. Scroll down the FDS page & you'll see a pic in which two men are staring all thirsty at a woman in a burqua.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:05 PM
2

Lol. One of my guy friends from jiu jitsu & I once got into a debate whether it would be better to lock ourselves in a Gander Mountain or a Wal-Mart in the event of a zombie apocalypse. Gander Mountain offered better survival gear but little food. Wal-Mart better selection of food but less gear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:00 PM
6

The extra funny thing about it is that knitting & other textile manufacturer used to be MENS Guild trades in the Middle Ages. We used to have a knitting store locally. It was owned by a heterosexual man who was an amazing knitter & made a great living of it. He used to have people come in with their unfinished projects asking him to complete them & they would be willing to pay him almost anything to do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:56 PM
3

Lmao. My ex complained more than once that I "needed to step it up in the economic department". (I did 100% of the child rearing, household management, & actually had an outside job.) I told him he needed to step it up in the parenting department, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:50 PM
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The airport story, though! Whut da fuq?? 🤣 I have so many questions. Why was this their first trip together despite being married 5 years? Actually, scratch that. I think we can all figure out why from this story. 🤣 idk. If my man disappeared from the waiting area while I was in the restroom, I'd be asking other passengers if he'd been arrested or abducted by aliens. Not worried that I had been abandoned in the airport. 🤣🤣 I've made it through major international airports in Russia and Finland a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:45 PM
6

In the US at least it's perfectly possible. But as I mentioned upthread, Real ID seems to be rapidly driving name changes the way of the dodo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:24 PM
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He went about this ass backwards. I used to have couples come in to the jewelry counter together to pick out a ring. Can't recall a single one actually getting engaged first. They picked a ring, guy came in alone on a separate trip to buy it, and then proposed. This guy never intended to buy a ring IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:21 PM
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It's a complete & utter pain in the ass nowadays. You should see the number of posts on our community FB group from women needing to get a Real ID & trying to double & triple check the documentation they need to bring with them because DMV appointments are scarce & no one wants to have to wait another 3 months because they didn't know they needed to bring their marriage license them. Apparently, you need marriage licenses, divorce decrees, etc. A whole bunch of older women that I believe to be p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:17 PM
3

I'd bet $20 he wasn't golfing. Where would he go golfing if so much stuff is still closed in your area that there's nowhere to go on an in-person date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:11 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 I know, right?? I seriously died when I saw that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:58 AM
2

Do these people not have jobs? Who has this much time in the morning??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:51 AM
2

I once had to give my ex directions to the elementary school that our kids attended. IN MAY. So they had been attending this school for, what, like 9 months at that point? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:32 PM
6

I should clarify all of those are in the context of addressing someone whose name you don't know -- like in a store. At work everyone would just be on a first name basis. Miss First Name might also be used regardless of marital status or age by those with old-fashioned manners. Men are just First Name, though. Lol. It definitely takes a certain presence to pull off sweetheart/dear/honey. I can't, because I wasn't born here. My best friend can. Plus the classic sometimes insult, sometimes sincere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:36 PM
10

It seems like most US companies have dropped the honorific when addressing mail. In spoken language, I've always introduced myself as Ms when I'm teaching kids. At every place I've worked with just adults in the last 20 years we simply addressed each other by our first names. I'm in a conservative area of the southern US & even here it isn't common to make a distinction. Few people even use honorifics when speaking. The unwritten protocol is: person addressing you is younger or equal in age, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:04 PM
9

Howdie, neighbor! I'm glad other women get it. It took me 7-10 years to see the pattern. "Wait, all these guys are bald!.And blink like sleepy bushbabies or turtles. And they have no muscles. But they cycle!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:42 AM
13

It has always struck me how uniform a physical type these guys are: tall & very skinny; balding or a Friar's fringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:35 AM
4

Gah! My ex, who is southeast asian himself, suddenly has an asian thing. (Weird as that sounds. He used to date a relatively balanced mix of ethnicities. ) It's culminated in a woman who lives in China & came here with her daughter to visit him & got stuck here for 6 months due to Covid. She speaks very little English, nor he Chinese, & they communicate via a translation device. Gotta hand it to her, though. He's a very disorderes eater & imposes his neurosis on the girls. She apparently insiste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:49 AM
16

I'm of the age I'd be just dandy with a foot/shoe fetish so long as he was paying for pedicures & expensive shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:35 AM
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He's the uber-translucent techie. 🤣 I swear it's true, though. If you're ever bored plug Reston or Ashburn, VA into a dating app like Match, where meatier bios are encouraged. You'll see. There's a distinctive type that's common here & in Silicon Valley. I worked in the technology sector for several years in a position that was technical but non-specific to hardware or software & thus interacted with both. I once had two birthday lunches because both teams wanted to take me out but refused to in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:29 AM
5

There's a lot to unpack right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:23 AM
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It's so depressingly true of dating near Washington DC, though. They all claim they're outdoorsy & yet probably call their HOA to complain about a tree branch on the concrete walking path in their neighborhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:20 AM
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Oooo! Ooo! One you see a lot here in the Silicon Valley of the East Coast: " I have my act together & you should, too." Translation: "I'm a 37yo "senior level" programmer /project manager at a technology company. I realize this is very vague & could mean almost anything from being 1 of 2 employees to the CIO of a Fortune 500. This is intentional as I want to keep you off balance for the entirety of our relationship. I am white. Very white. Translucent. I wear a hat at all times to keep my bald p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:48 AM
7

Were you married to my ex? Sounds like something he'd say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:33 PM
3

It incenses me to known there are parents who think nothing of their 16yo daughter dating a 22yo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:43 PM
2

Ugh. That's disturbing. I was hoping my theory was wrong. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:29 PM
2

That's it. It's over. I'm laughing too hard at the guy's bio pic to actually read the article. 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:09 PM
1

That raises some meaty points! I do grappling & a little MMA. My observation is that while there are certainly women who love to fight & are quite good at it, women's drive to fight typically comes from a very different place than men's drive to fight. And most truly great male fighters are so good at what they do because they've have tempered their aggression through tremendous amounts of mental & physical work. And that tempered aggression has a lot of similarities to...female aggression. You …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:15 PM
9

That's really interesting. Slight tangent -- I've noticed a huge increase in the amount of violent lesbian porn. Now, I doubt many of the performers in those videos are actually lesbians offscreen. So that raises the disturbing theory that the male powers-that-be are attempting to rewrite the narrative of lesbian relationships on a broad scale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:22 PM
6

A guy that I know from the gym is like this now re the election, BLM, etc. I troll him relentlessly just for the satisfaction of knowing it pisses him off & it wastes his time. Called him a fake Libertarian so many times that he now admits he's a "Conservative with Libertarian leanings". Idkwtf is going on with him anymore. His second wife is this really sweet pediatric dentist & it appears she's having to disassociate from him on social media so as to not lose patients. Another idiot was rantin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:13 PM
3

Zach Myers had the sickest burn for one of the All Lives Matter crowd: "What about pedophiles? Do Pedo Lives Matter?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:50 PM
1

Thank you for reading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:30 PM
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My 3 most memorable clients were 1) her 2) the sweet Mennonite lady who spotted a modest little moon & star pendant while browsing the Clearance case & got it because she had a daughter who died of Downs Syndrome complications & it had been their nightly ritual to tell each other "Love you to the moon & back!" 3) the woman whose brother had died in hospice the day before & wanted to buy 25 mother-of-pearl butterfly necklaces. One for each of the staff that had cared for him. 😭😭😭 The morning the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:06 AM
7

Aw! Of course! Thank you so much. ❤❤ People likw her made up for the dozen crappy customers we might've had beforehand. I got super creative about stacking every coupon & discount I could find, dragging every piece of the same design we had in stock out of the vaults to compare, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:27 AM
23

From my retail days can sadly confirm -- about 90% of mens underwear & socks are purchased by women. Their wives or their moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:22 PM
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Oh, for f--ks sake! 🙄 A little story from when I managed the jewelry department of a well-known US suburban specialty store. A woman asked to look at diamond studs. She went back & forth between several pairs & seemed to be agonizing over making a selection. She apologized for taking so much of my time. I assured her that I was cheerfully there for as long as she needed. She pulled a dog earred envelope from her handbag & made a sad revelation. Her husband had died of cancer 2 years ago. He'd le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:16 PM
2

I've never understood the concept of an alpha = violent brute. As far as I can tell, that wasn't how early red pill theorists saw it, either. I'd consider my SO an alpha. It has absolutely nothing to do with how he treats me & everything to do with how other men perceive & interact with him. And the fact that he can fully adult & handle his own business. He makes & keeps doctors appointments, owns a house full of real furniture, cooks & cleans, & takes initiative when we go out. I might be the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:07 AM
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I said in another thread how striking the contrast between the older & younger generation men is in my area. We have a big meth problem. 80-85% of young men here look like they're dead or dying. Yet, there's an astounding # of men in their late 70's on up still working physically demanding FT jobs like rock stars. They do the work of men 30-40 years younger with apparent ease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:28 AM
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It is much, much easier for men to get into & stay in shape than it is for women. They generally have more lean muscle mass. They're bigger & can eat more. And muscle burns calories. Plus, testosterone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:22 AM
10

This. I'm an eco-conscious, beyond organic farm woman. Don't personally hunt but I'm generally for intelligent, judicious hunting of certain species. We humans have screwed up the ecosystem. Here in the Mid-Atlantic we need our mountain lions back to ease the overpopulation of deer & to scare away the coyote & foxes. Our game wardens are by & large awesome at ensuring hunters follow the rule. And everyone I know who hunts takes only what they can use or donate to the needy & uses every part of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:19 AM
1

Thank you!! 🙂💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:32 PM
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When I was fresh out of grad school & young & stupid, i went out with a guy who was a temporary contractor at work. He took me to The Palm (a fancy steakhouse). He was nice but no sparks om my end & I declined a 2nd date. He wrote a pissy email complaining bitterly about how he expected more after a $70 dinner. At the time, I moonlighted as a bartender & one of my coworkers was a gay guy in his 50's who was what is known as "a lifer" in the restaurant industry. (He had family money & worked ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 09:15 PM
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Last week I posted this stupid lion meme from the FB page of this poor pickmesha I know. There's a male lion hiding behind a female lion. Poor pickmesha saw it as a behind every strong woman is a stronger man type thing. Barf. Male lions do jack all. They don't even hunt. They just fight each other, kill cubs, & sometimes female lions fighting to defend her cubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:48 PM
11

I remember watching an episode of Judge Alex years ago where, in the course of testifying about whatever the case was, the plantiff revealed that her live in boyfriend had bludgeoned her 13yo daughter to death while she was at work, showered the girl's body & put it back in bed for the woman to find. The whole courtroom froze. Judge Alex went ashenfaced & choked out his condolences. The worst part about it was how unemotional & matter-of-fact the woman seemed versus these complete strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:36 PM
3

100%. If it isn't a troll post I hope to God that the child has a halfway competant, concerned father that is prepared to step into the fray & get this child to safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:48 PM
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Exactly! There's always a bunch of qualifiers added to the "nice" description in these stories: "He sometimes crouches in the corner naked & muttering in strange tongues & tries to bite if you approach but he's always been so nice & gentle & kind up to this point!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:39 PM
14

I...yeah. I got nothing. Really hoping this is a troll. It's the whole "has anyone had anything similar happen" thing that really makes me want to retreat to a desert island & refuse rescue. HOW THE ACTUAL FUCK IS THIS EVEN A QUESTION?!? No. No, I have not. And I dated some doozeys in my younger years. Not a one attempted to maim me with a box cutter for any reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:30 PM
1

Too much, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:53 PM
7

This needs to be on a T-shirt or coffee mug!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:07 PM
27

Her flair: "Keen observer of relationships" . Apparently not: "Active participant in relationships"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 11:40 AM
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But, but! I'm sure people tell him he seems younger than 35 allllll the tiiiiime! Eta: women in their late 20's are generally the ones looking to settle down. I wish they wouldn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 11:28 AM
7

Not uniformly. I'm a single mom. Have dated men who have kids & those who don't. Things have always worked better with the childless men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:36 AM
1

Looking at their post history I'm not sure if it's a man or woman. But there's definitely something off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:48 PM
2

I have to say that the Rules would've saved me from meeting/dating/marrying my ex husband. (No separated men) FDS is better, of course. But nothing remotely like FDS existed 20 years ago & the rules did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:12 PM
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Bummed I missed seeing it before it was deleted. We did some inquiry into language syntax & gender in one of my courses for my master's. I can usually if it's a man pretending to be a woman or vice versa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:07 PM
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Not bad at all! Subbing a 6th grade language arts class once, I had a boy do something to annoy several classmates (it wasn't entirely clear to me what exactly he was doing as dumb as that sounds. I think subtlely touching/moving things on their desks) One of the girls got angry at him & told me she wanted him sent to the dean for xyz. It had been one of those classes that made me wonder if I'd done something terrible in a past life & they had been sent to make me atone 😂 I was about to get anno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:52 PM
3

Oh, let's see: multiple credit cards, a line of credit he would draw down, a personal loan from the bank to cover his part of his daughter's tuition, multiple expensive vehicles, a motorcycle he literally never rode, subscription services he forgot to cancel, random shit like buying a $6k tv without warning. I'm sure i'm forgetting something, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:20 AM
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Honestly? I'm just used to it. In my family of origin it was never a question. Men paid. My grandparents & parents are New York Irish & it was culturally common to wait a while before getting married & starting families. My paternal grandfather was born in 1907, my father in 1945. My grandparents were pretty traditional in their gender roles. My grandmother worked later in life to help pay for my father & uncle's college but that was extra. She didn't pay household bills. It was my grandfather w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:05 AM
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Very true. Men don't apologize to each other, if that makes sense. It occurred to me when I was sitting on the side watching a jiu jitsu class roll. The women bumped each other & it was "Oh, I'm sorry! Are you ok?" The men bumped each other & just cracked on without saying anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:22 AM
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There's an undercurrent of toxic masculinity/misogyny to it most of the time. Look at the GoT finale, for example. A bunch of men lost their shit about Arya Stark being the one to kill the Night King: "Jon Snow should've been the one! He was robbed!!" Really? Why? I've never watched an entire episode of GoT. From what I've seen & read about the series it appears perfectly plausible that Arya could be the one to kill the Night King. The whole series is an illustration of the luxury of being a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:10 AM
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Yup. I was in charge of bill paying in my marriage. At the point where I left, my ex was spending $30k A MONTH servicing unsecured consumer debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:49 PM
3

And the mother took him to task for it, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:09 PM
1

That's what i thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:05 PM
2

Yaaasssss! Thank you! Soft belly, even in combo with muscles = man who gets winded fast. If you're fundamentally in shape it doesn't take 2 hours 7 days a week in a gym to maintain. Not even for women. Because diet is the other key component in the equation. Going to my funky little functional movement-based gym 2-3x a week for an hour class is enough for me to maintain the level of functional strength in my shoulders & upper arms that I need for teaching yoga & I the visual definition I like. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:01 PM
2

It's usually the opposite, though. People gain the freshman 20 (or 40) and lose it when they graduate & are no longer mainlining a 12 pack of Natty Lite & a pepperoni pizza every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:29 PM
3

That is one of my favorite SNL skits of all time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:22 PM
2

My teenager owns a few. I was highly offended 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:20 PM
3

You mean a powerlifter versus a bodybuilder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:15 PM
1

What sorts of fruits & vegetables, specifically? What sort of milks do you use? Do you buy organic? And you live in Australia, I gather?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:22 PM
3

Agreed. I used to manage the fine jewelry section in a department store. The resale on diamond rings is next to nothing as internally flawless, colorless diamonds under about 2 carats are quite common. Small colored diamonds you practically have to pay a jeweler to take. Usually isn't until you get up into very large carat weights with price tags in 6 figures that a diamond maintains resale value. I helped a number of young men that didn't have a lot to spend but absolutely agonized over the sel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:12 AM
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Does it even need a return address?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:02 AM
4

I've had to start pointing the Photoshopping out to my 13yp daughter. Thank God for those pages that do the before & after side-by-side comparisons!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:57 AM
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This is so true. Another point that earns me angry downvotes on dating subs when I make it. I suppose it's one of those things you can't fully understand until you've done it. Several couples I know stay together because neither one wants to be alone with the kids. Which I also understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:29 AM
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Yes! I always get downvoted on dating subs whenever I point that out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:18 PM
1

That article is 10 years old. What do you generally eat in a day? What foods are kitchen staples for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:15 PM
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I respect & support people choosing to be vegan because it works best for their individual body or because they feel it best aligns with their moral code. As a small scale, beyond organic farmer, I disagree that veganism is better for the environment than vegetarianism or ethical omnivorism. In some ways it is even harder on the environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:21 PM
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Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:31 PM
4

An acquaintance who was adopted recently found her biological father's family. He's dead, but her half siblings appear to have welcomed her warmly. Interesting thing is that she is an extremely accomplished professional musician & her bio father turns out to have been somewhat a somewhat famous musician himself. Albeit in a different style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:42 PM
2

This. Most people with high functioning autism or Aspergers are very routine-oriented & methodical. That's why so many Aspies go into software engineering & tend to be extraordinarily good at it. They excel at seeing patterns & pay meticulous attention to detail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:50 PM
2

Something I heard as part of a small business seminar that stuck with me: any time you offer to discount your service right out the gate in an effort to be "nice" because you prejudge the customer as being unable to afford it, you are taking away their power. Humans cannot grow into a healthy, emotionally balanced, self-confident place without the knowledge gained from trying & failing & picking up & tryjng again. It's why we parents have to bite our tongues & let our kids make developmentally a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:16 AM
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Yaaaassss! Wtf kind of man asks a single mom of 3 for money??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:28 AM
3

One of my roomates in college had a full time job off campus & therefore almost never left town for more than a couple days. Guys were forever asking her to watch their pets during break. And never coming back. I ended up adopting the poor goldfish & schlepping it with me through my last year of grad school & then the big move back home.That fish lived 5 years! Then there was the cockatoo that didn't talk but could wolf whistle. 😑 I ended up buying bird food for it a bunch of times because she d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:26 AM
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🤣🤣 Dat picture, tbough! " I got a BA in philosophy on the 8 year plan. Even the frat brothers thought I was shady af creeping their parties as a 28yo. Now I'm "pursing a masters in film" (aka, I work PT at the movie theater & get in trouble a lot for stalking the 16yo girls who work the concessions stand."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:50 AM
1

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:37 AM
5

My SO is a retired detective/tactical officer. After Stephen Paddock gunned down 58 people in Las Vegas, we somehow got to debating motive, etc. I pointed out that mass murderers are basically 100% white men. No they're not, he chuckled. I challenged him to name a male, African American mass murderer. John Allen Muhammad & John Lee Malvo. Nope. They don't meet the definition of a mass murderer, or even a mass shooter. They were serial killers. He couldn't think of any others off the top of his h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:36 AM
5

Hopefully, he stays gone & she doesn't take him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:03 AM
1

What. The. Actual. F--K????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:53 AM
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100%. I agree with the sentiment. The ring should reflect that the man is serious in his intentions. Having managed a jewelry store, I have serious misgivings due to the insane markups on jewelry & especially diamonds. Nearly flawless, colorless diamonds in the 1-2 carat range are a dime a dozen. They have virtually no resale value; why would the jeweler buy yours back when they can buy 20 of the same ring from their wholesaler on terms & the ease of sending any damaged rings back for exhange? Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:30 PM
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Years ago, my mom worked with a lady that had a ring that was so big it almost looked fake. Someone asked about it. Lady said that her MIL told her husband, "When you age, your eyes go. Get her something she'll still be able tp see when you're 70."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:46 PM
1

He's 48. I'm 44. Ex in question was about 11 years younger than me. This was a while ago, so he was about 30 at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:39 PM
3

I had an ex like that. I'm sure he watched some porn and it didn't help. Some of it was antidepressants & self-medicating with marijuana. The latter especially causes ED according to newer research. It usually took an hour for him to climax. And often, he would suddenly go soft even after all that time sunk. The slightest shift in angle seemed to cause him immense pain. That was the weirdest part for me. Whatever bent it/pinched it had never seemed to bother any other partner I've had before or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:36 PM
7

In this case, she's getting the short end of the dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:11 PM
5

I live in a rural area that has seen a huge surge in meth use over the last decade. A lot of the younger men are basically worn out by 30. It's striking how many men in their late 70's & beyond are still working FT at very physical jobs & are in great shape. Like, downright spry. The guy that manages the county trash compactor pad site started chatting with me once & mentioned he's 82. When I needed someone to till up a fairly substantial patch for a market garden, the manager at my feed store r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:42 AM
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It is pretty awful. There's some inconsistencies to the story & my former boss who knew her better than me had some doubts things happened as described. But it's clear something happened & the kids didn't want to visit her anymore. I just feel bad for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:13 AM
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Oh, definitely! didn't mean to imply that all younger men have bad hygiene. It just seems more prevalent in that population. I think your dad is on to something with his theory about the dot.com workers, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:03 AM
1

I think it was a two lion meme kind of day for the FB friend who posted it, too! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:57 AM
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Right?! He willingly posed for pictures to go along with the story, too. You'd think he would've been embarrassed & hid his face!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:55 AM
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This woman's sister is the MVP of the month. Thank God someone is in her corner. Eta: Ladies who are married, never accept a man telling you he wants you out. He can move out if that's what he wants. Bye, Filippe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:22 PM
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There was an article in the Washington Post about a family where the wife had a tech consulting business that was going gangbusters & the husband had left his job a while back & was "staying at home with the kids while considering his next options". Covid comes along & it's toooooo haaaaaaard for precious to care for his own kids 12 hours a day (i think they had a nanny or used daycare, too). So -- get this -- the wife ends up having to close her business (remember, the family's only source of i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:06 PM
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Exactly! I can remember my mom taking us to visit a farm owned by a couple in their 80s when I was a kid. They were "retired" and had opened their place for agrotourism & school groups. The wife's father had built the farmhouse, even digging the cellar out by hand! The old part of our house started as a hunting cabin elsewhere on the property & was moved to it's current spot in the late 19th century. I believe they rolled it up here on logs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:56 PM
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The sad part is you nailed it. The woman who posted it on her story has this obsession with military culture & dating/marrying veterans. Only veterans. Never active duty. At least two with severe drug & alcohol addictions; one of whom apparently beat the crap out of her causing TBI. She moved cross country & haven't seen her in years, though her kids used to come into the store I managed a lot. Appears to lost custody, seems unsure of what year it is, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:22 PM
2

They like Fight Club because you're not supposed to talk about the fight club. What could be better than a movie that supports not communicating? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:38 PM
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Exactly. The lionesses do 100% of the hunting. And the males will sometimes kill a female fighting to defend her cubs from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:55 PM
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It does seem to be more of a younger guy thing. Men my age & older tend to be more on top of things. Doesn't have to be fancy, either. SO uses like Axe or Old Spice bodywash. But he showers! Multiple times a day! He buys & wears high-quality cologne, too & actually asks my opinion on what I like best. I know this sub isn't big on men who are police & military. And I get the reasons behind that. I will say that I've found some lovely men by carefully vetting from the group who are a little older …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:21 PM
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Oh, I wish it were a joke. It's very conservative, redneck here by me & I see antisemitism all the time. A Jewish (and gay, iirc) store owner reported on my town's FB community page last winter that someone made a swastika in the snow in the loading area behind his store. There were many comments to the effect of, "oh, they must've been from out of town. We're too bougie for a local to do that." And, "Oh, it was probably just kids and they don't know what it means." 🙄 I'm FB friends with a Jewis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:57 PM
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Wait. That screenshot is from 4chan? Dying. 😂 When your a$$ is too stinky for 4chan to back you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:34 PM
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You don't think the girl wondered htf this breakfast just dropped out of the sky while they were asleep, though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:24 PM
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He probably got it double whammy from the ex he was sleeping with when they walked into the kitchen & there was the game, breakfast, & key on the counter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:21 PM
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Hard to explain. It's something about the voicing. I'll have to pull up my big girl undies & go back & read an excerpt to organize my thoughts. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:14 PM
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There was a thread recently on a dating sub where the guy stated he had underwear & socks that were 10+yo. He didn't see a need to replace them because they were in "good shape". And a bunch of other men jumped in to agree. Idgaf. There's no way Hanes boxers older than my preteen are going to be in "great shape". Replace your damn clothes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:07 PM
5

Absolutely. Nothing wrong with doing whatever best sets you up for emotional balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:09 PM
2

Aw, reminds me of a friend in college who was like a door opening ninja. We'd be walking through a building & he'd somehow open every door we encountered without me really noticing he was doing it. He even opened doors he wasn't going through for me. He was one of 3 boys & apparently his mom trained them. If they failed to open the door, she would stop, cross her arms, and glare at them until they fixed their mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:05 PM
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I majored in Russian in college & studied in Russia. I'm probably biased in a way because I've read so much of the work of her peers that did not escape the Soviet Union. What I dislike: 1) There are authors whose work I disliked but still thought about for a long time after. Rand is a talentless hack of a writer unable to climb out of the level of propagandist. There were so many others that did what she was trying to do 1000x better. She became famous because she suited the West's narrative of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:56 PM
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Ugh. I can speak basic conversational German & I also substitute teach. I refuse to accept any sub assignments for HS German anymore. There's always a big handful of obnoxious teenage boys in the level 2+ classes who think they're being cute & edgy lowkey playing the Nazi card. The last time, I sent an entire table full down to the dean's office to explain to him why it was so cute. No actual German I know thinks it's funny or would ever go there. I worked for a German man in his late 70's who w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:29 PM
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Funny thing is I actually appreciate Kerouac without necessarily liking him as a person. ( If that makes any sense.) He himself seems aware he's flawed & unlikable in certain ways yet has the self-awareness to convey that without editorializing or making excuses. It's simply, " here I am, and this is my journey." He's in touch with his authentic self in a way that no other male author of semi-fictionalized autobiography is. Do I like his authentic self? Not really. Do I respect him for not gloss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:19 PM
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Omg! Yaaasssss! I've mentioned my dislike for Catcher in the Rye on a certain dating sub that shall remain nameless & had so many dudes downvote. "You don't understood Holden's paaaaaaiiinnn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:54 PM
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Oh, they do. Trouble with so many of the ones that do is that they want to argue with you about how much more intellectual & woke their reading choices are than yours. Once had a guy from OLD try to do the "I'm a woke, born again Christian" thing to me. "Oh, I've never read the Bhagavad Gita. No time. I'm too busy trying to learn everything about my faith to read that kind of thing." 1) Why on earth would you message me seeing as I make it clear that I don't align with any Christian church in my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:51 PM
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Can we add Nietzsche to the list?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:25 PM
1

Absolutely. I'm a parent & that's very much my outlook. I touched on this in a roundabout way further down in my intial post but might have been unclear in my wording.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:34 PM
8

I remember visiting SO's house for the first time & being amazed that it was completely furnished despite being enormous for one person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:54 AM
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We live on a farm. The family whose land borders ours consists of 4 generations, each occupying their own house on the property. The grandparents bought the place when they got married in 1950 & are now in their late 80's. Once, their cattle got loose while the children/grandchildren were at work. I went over to help Petey round them up & fix the fence. Sue came out just in time to see me growl & wave a sorting stick at a large bull calf giving me an attitude. Her assessment? "Good, good! Never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 12:03 AM
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There's currently a thread on a dating sub where the guy is perplexed by women being put off by his elaborate gaming set up in the living room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:14 PM
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I'll add this: I've noticed both on Reddit subs devoted to dating and on actual OLD profiles that a large portion of the men who are childfree & intend to remain so are very worried about dating a woman with children because "you'll never be her first priority." (See it in the reverse but less frequently.) Once saw a man who wrote in his profile that he expected that his partner make him the only priority. Now, I have nothing against being childfree. I think it's a perfectly valid choice, especi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:09 PM
3

I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry about this. Assuming it's satire, yet it's so f--king true. And sad that it would literally take spelling it out like this & yet it still wouldn't help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:43 PM
2

I'm all about the Cadbury Flake, myself. Which is very hard to find in the US. Chocolate = good. Stupid OLD guy = bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:36 PM
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Gotcha. I've never understood the whole point of Reddit Gold. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:19 PM
5

How.much does Reddit Gold cost?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:56 PM
2

That's awesome! Hope they listen to you. I hate to drone on & on about jiu jitsu & Capoeira because there are certainly other effective systems out there. 😶 But the Brazilians were definitely on to something -- techniques where being smaller offers speed advantages & full body mass is used. Jiu jitsu is especially advantageous for women because a man trying to sexually assault you is going to want to get you down on the ground & between your legs. And virtually every jiu jitsu technique can star…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:53 PM
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I mentioned this downthread but will say it again here for visibility. Ms Nail's post was made in 2018 & was intended to address the latest proliferation of "YOU GUYS! A DARK COLORED OLD MAN SPEAKING A FOREIGN LANGUAGE SMILED AT ME AND MY 5 CHILDREN IN TJ MAXX! I JUST KNOW HE WAS TRYING TO SEX TRAFFIC US!!" posts that were circulating on social media at the time. Posts that more than one prominent figure involved in combating sex trafficking pointed out were actually harmful to their efforts bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:08 PM
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I remember reading this when it first came out. She's not talking about a real situation. She's responding to the rash of chain mail posts that started a while back & seem to cycle in popularity on Facebook every couple years. These posts she's referring to follow the same formula with minor details changed to vaguely localize; feature the same linguistic syntax, and everyone involved from the alleged victim to store employees taking a baffling series of irrational actions seemingly designed to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:20 PM
2

Karate is virtually useless iin modern self-defense situations. ☹ Granted, I believe that anything that gets women used to punching & kicking is beneficial. And if you enjoy it as a form of exercise, even better. It's just not terribly effective iin a fight because the elrments don't recruit whole body leverage. And the whole yelling thing, as you've noted. In MMA a yell is typically considered a veral tap out. In jiu jitsu rolls, I usually cover all my bases by saying "TAP!" and slapping my han…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:41 AM
3

TBH, having had two kids with a LVM, I'll never understand why some women act like staying in the hospital for 5 seconds longer than it takes for them to clean you up is this horrible thing. And insist on leaving the hospital right after delivering, even AMA. The nurses might be in a bad mood and busy. At least they'll bring you what you need in a somewhat timely fashion. And they serve 3 meals. Why on earth would I want to go home to a whiny man child that can't even be assed to follow a #>&$( …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:31 AM
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Yup. Arm crossing especially is something we do unconsciously to put distance between us & another person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:33 PM
6

Lmao. That is the best thing I've read all week!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:29 PM
1

Ohhhhh. Thanks! I get it now. Can't always see the entire image on my phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:43 PM
6

Who is she talking to & what is that person going to do now? Put a hit down on either the bf or the kid? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:57 PM
6

My employers have always insisted I keep track of my time while working. Weird. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:53 PM
2

Awww. Hims got a boo boo on his wittle feelings, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:57 PM
4

I am so tired of this nonsense. It doesn't take 2 hours a day, 7 days a week to be fit. My SO is in his late 40's, has thyroid disease & chronic pain issues from old work injuries. He's still fitter than 99.999% of men out there. And does as little as 20 minutes a day 3-4 days a week. The trick is he hits it hard in that time & isn't a whiny wimp. On a business trip he came back to the room after meetings & wanted to work out before dinner. 20 minutes later, he was back. "Oh, I just did man-make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:11 AM
12

My SO is just about the only man I've met in all my 44 years on this earth that has ass & leg muscle tone proportionate to the rest of him. Love him for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:38 AM
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Exactly. You don't like my tv? You're free to buy one for when you come ovet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:39 AM
8

I just ask to stop at a 7-11 & push them thru the door ahead of me. 7-11 has those height charts on the door frames so the clerk can get an accurate height on the perp when they're robbed. Comes in handy. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:29 AM
2

I'm visualizing a cross stitch hanging on the wall with those Holly Hobby figures encircling this quote. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:17 AM
5

There's a lot to unpack in that picture 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:15 AM
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Ironically, the Libertarian candidate is a woman & fairly appealing, imo. I'm not voting for her because she can't win. I'm no Biden fan but he's not a psychopath actively attempting to subvert democracy like the Tangerine Nightmare. And per standard operating procedure, the Libertarian party has put no effort into actually campaigning their candidate. It's ridiculous & frustrating. They're really no better than the Republicans & Democrats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:53 AM
3

"Everyone says I look like I'm in my early 20's!" So goeth the protestations of the basic bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:28 AM
2

I think it often boils down to the same reasons a lot of men hate cats & love dogs. A horse is a partner, not a servant. Warning - some very broad generalizations ahead. There are always exceptions & none of this is meant to offend any of my beautiful Queens, no matter what style they ride. Recently, I was trying to explain to my SO (who actually likes cats, btw) why Yellowstone is so ridiculously unrealistic & had an interesting thought: Male riders are way more common in western riding than en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:34 PM
3

Someone posted a PSA from New Zealand a while back. The one where the mom in a bathrobe answers the door to find a naked couple on the doorstep looking for her middle school aged son. What I loved about it was that they explained they were not there because of the whole nudity & sex is bad!!! attitude that pervades US culture. Instead, they wanted to impress upon him that what he sees in these videos is not how real relationships actually work. And that what they were doing in the video is nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:10 PM
2

Oh, absolutely. My SO has other traits I'm attracted to, of course. The fact that he could step onto the cover of Mens Health despite being 48 & dealing with hypothyroidism & old work injuries sure doesn't hurt...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:59 PM
5

Lmao. Whattttt? Where on earth did he come up with that one? I got breast implants 10 years ago, going from a 32C to a 32DD. It's made no difference in the education level of the men I date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:34 PM
4

Or worse, he was poking around to see if she'd screw him. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:27 PM
5

"Infidelity, now boarding at Platform C."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:15 PM
15

Oh, don't you know that women are 100% ruled by emotion & not their vison? (:/s)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:46 PM
5

Yes!! I was also thinking, daaaaaamn, someone needs to line up a pro MMA bout for this woman! She essentially judo-ef him into oblivion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:20 PM
1

I love your console table, btw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:11 PM
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All of the above. It's in the same ilk as those "my hands look like this so her's can look like this" memes. Those annoy me. Because, dude. Unless you're implying you do your blue collarjob AND all the childcare, I got news for you . I had two kids in diapers & an ex who didn't do jack to help out. Corn Huskers lotion could've used me as a hand model. There's also an unspoken subtext that women can't do "dirty work" and be good at it & enjoy it. I farm. It's always irritated me that no one makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:55 PM
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Exactly! If it were me i'd tell him "this is a you problem. Not a we problem."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:49 AM
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Dead! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:39 AM
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Maybe he's looking for a sugar momma? Lol. Seriously, though. I lease an upper level dressage horse who is retired from big competition yet fine to school all the fancy maneuvers. He & I cOmMUniCaTe better than me & my SO do despite not sharing a common language. The horse has more concern for my personal safety than most human men, too.. He once freaked out & bolted when the hunt came towards us. Somehow,** despite being a prey animal in flight mode**, he realized I was becoming unseated and so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:36 AM
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To be fair, there is a certain subset of horse people who are nuts. But that group includes males & females. And skews heavily male, ime. Usually "natural horsemanahip" idiots like Pat Parelli who refuse to wear helmets & have been concussed a time or two or a thousand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:47 AM
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Ohhhhh. He used the wrong your, too. 🤣🤣 geez, dude. If you're going to be a putz & insult someone, at least get your grammar right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:28 AM
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Lmao. I worked with a flat racing jockey. He is officially verified as 5'6". I'm 5'2". When both of us have normal shoes on I have to tip my head up slightly to make eye contact. Then number of guys that I've gone out with who swore they were 5'8" but were eye to eye or even shorter...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:19 AM
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Help me, please. For I am old & not up to date on my slang. Wtf does you're busted af mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:11 AM
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The beauty of it is at a good gym they're not going to be macho. Seriously. Most of my favorite men are from the gym. You don't get good at BJJ without having your ass handed to you 1000s of times. Even the biggest men. You get the occasional ass, but for the most part, those with impossible egos don't last long. Even the men don't want to put up with men who are egotistical asses because those are the idiots who injure others. We have a guy in his mid-20's who is an absolute prodegy. Won PanAms…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:27 PM
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Realistically, no. It's a form of grappling similar to wrestling. You could drill with a grappling dummy but at some point you're going to need a partner offering input & reasonable resistance. Plus, you really need someone knowledgeable to talk you through drilling new techniques in real time. BJJ has a core group of staple techniques that you will see everyone from newbies up to the top ranking players in the world use. The devil is in the details. If I triangle someone bigger than me, i might…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:33 PM
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Oh, I'm your size too! It is scary & always use your judgment. I thought you made an appropriate choice of action in the supermarket incident, fwiw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:08 PM
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That makes me extremely suspicious of that gym. A 13yo shouldn't BE a purple belt. There's a separate belt system for youth & at 16yo they graduate to the adult belt system as a blue. Youth belts are grey, yellow, orange, and green. You must be at least 19 to earn a black belt. You will occasionally run into a gym that doesn't follow that system. Avoid them. It's shady. Eta: Gracie Combatives may have their own weird system that they use. They're legit although imo a bit precious trying to asser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:31 PM
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Bye, boi! I live in a conservative state. Judge is giving me $$ for having had to put up with you. The thing that gets me - I used to lurk on Athol Kay's site back,when he had a forum. It had a substantial number of women participating. He insisted that the wives' input & feelings & husbands' accountability were a vital part of repairing a broken marriage. I didn't agree with everything he said but he was bang on about "lazy bears" and alpha & beta men. His definitions differed substantially fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:22 AM
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He's attractive in large part because he's a kind man, by most accounts. I feel like that's what gets them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:06 AM
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Absolutely look for a different gym. There are some bad, toxic masculinity ones out there (Lloyd Ivring, anyone?) but fortunately a lot of good ones, too. The attitude comes from the top down. Good gym owners screen prospective students & aren't afraid to reject someone if they feel that person would be a detriment to the safety of their other studentas. It often takes 10 years to attain a black belt in jiu jitsu & there's not a whole lot of them so it's not weird for the gym owner to be a brown…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:04 AM
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Great job!!! Keep taking pictures every time it happens so if you end up having to involve an HOA or the cops you have everything ready to go. Eta: My mental litmus test is "would this guy behave this way towards another man in the same situation?" If the answer is "NO" (and let's be honest, it is a no 99% of the time) I'm taking a hardline stance in negotiations. I once took care of horses for a woman that had to go to her parents' out of state when her father was abruptly diagnosed with Stage …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:54 AM
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Emu dads, too. Except emu moms will start nests with a handful of males over the course of mating season. And they don't stay to help any of them. Emu moms are really smart, in this human mom's opinion. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:50 AM
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Go, Jenna! Go Jenna! I ❤ her. Idiot probably wanked off to her videos for years & now he's pissed to find out she isn't a robot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:36 AM
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Goodbye, Eaaaarrrll!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:06 PM
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The dad bod annoyes me. It is so much easier for men to lose weight & build muscle than it is for women. There's no excuse for a man to not at least have decent arms and shoulders. Do some military presses with that keg of beer instead of drinking it. Just bone idle laziness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:46 PM
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On Android, blocked messages are still received & go into a separate folder not visable from the main messages page. I like this because I can have someone blocked & out of sight/out of mind but still have the ability to monitor their messages for escalation. Unsure if IPhones have the same functionality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:34 PM
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WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. F--K??? Remember the song 'Goodbye Earl'? "Wanda looked all around this town & all she could find was Earl." This is the best this woman can find?? A man who can't be assed to get up & walk to the toilet??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:04 PM
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I found I had much better results with carefully selected male therapists than other women. It's definitely not for everyone, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:32 PM
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Isn't it? And most of it isn't that difficult, either. Not like men make it out to be! I started building stuff because I owned a farm & got so tired of men trying to rip me off fixing things in the barn or building new stuff. The irony is that it turns out I have a decent natural aptitude for carpentry/woodworking & can do things a lot of those same dudes can't. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:30 PM
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Oh, definitely. It was far from the only crappy thing he did. Not sure why I stayed. I suppose because I was young & didn't trust my own judgement . Sort of, eh, I'm not sure it's really that bad. Now I see it. And my daughters who are 12 & 14 already see it, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:18 PM
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Precisely. If I could teach myself carpentry from a book with YouTube to fill in the blanks, dudes can learn to run a vacuum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:14 PM
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Preach! My ex refused to change the cat litter while I was pregnant. I ended up hiring someone to do it. Wish I had wised up & left then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:10 PM
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The weird thing is that men get pissed when you so much as mention another dude. Let alone glance at a pic of Jason Momoa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:02 PM
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I once got downvoted to subterranean depths when I pointed out the reality of kids is far different than the dream. Guy was going on about how he'd never going to find a woman to pop out kids to share his hobbies with. Especially astronomy. Back yard astronomy with a 3 & 5yo is not gonna look like you lovingly holding one child on your lap while you gaze thru your $$$$ telescope together. But the childless dudes got butthurt when I pointed this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:38 PM
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Can we find out who she is and send her flowers or one of those weird chocolate-dipped fruit kabob thingies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:42 AM
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Precisely. I bought this up on a FB post recently: the one time I've personally witnessed a pedophile in action, his target was a group of children from a day care, dressed in rash guards/t-shirts & shorts/swim trunks while enjoying a new splash pad on a walking mall. Again, louder for the scrotes and naysayers in the back, children dressed in normal summer attire & maybe covered more than average so their caregivers didn't have to worry about reapplying sunscreen to 25 kids 10 times over the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:16 PM
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I think it depends on the breed & who owns the dog. A few years after we divorced, my ex husband's brother was arrested, tried, & convicted of a disgusting crime. Not murder, but pretty damn close. Now, most adults found the guy pretty charming. He had two of those goofy designer-breed fake hypoallergenic dogs that seemed to love him. I suppose they could've beem scared of him but I never saw him mistreat them & I notice s--t that most people miss. We had an english mastiff. Giant dog. Over 250 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:11 AM
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I'm sorry. Even if his real last name is Grande, he needs a stage name. He looks like a Taco Bell grande burrito or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:11 PM
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Bailing out the nearest window. That's what I'm going to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:05 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I hereby crown you Queen of the Internets. That is seriously the best thing I've read all week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:03 PM
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I was married & have 2 kids. I have the occasional FWB/casual type relationship with men that actually provide benefits to me beyond sex. I'm happy alone & don't want to get into something with a man where I'd be doing his emotional labor & have no desire to ever share a house with a man again. In my case, I suppose it is partly because I* have* been there done that got the T-shirt with a LVM. I'm also a yoga & wellness professional & that may have something to do with it. I've had to do so much…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 08:53 PM
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Lord, yes. I've often said that the most freeing thing in my life was when i realized this exact thing in my early 20's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:18 PM
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Can someone with better eyes or better zoom function than the one on my phone explain to me the room she's standing in? It looks so much like the commons area of a university or the fellowship hall in a church. You know how they tend to have offices with reception windows opening into the large common space? Maybe it is just weirdly arranged art work on the walls??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:49 PM
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Yes! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:24 PM
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We all need a little early U2 in our lives once in a while. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:23 PM
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I like the doctors on Botched for that reason. They always pick up on the cases where the patient is being pressured by a boyfriend/husband or has a body dismorphia issuee. They're playing to the camera, cracking jokes, & you think they're not noticing things. Then, bam! They hone in on it & strike like a pit viper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:07 PM
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Was he trying to come out of the closet or something? I'm as confused as you must have been!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:59 PM
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Ouch! Call the man an ambulance! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:41 PM
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When I was a music major in college, one of the gay guys in Chorale told me the highlight of his MWF mornings was seeing my outfit. I honestly had no idea anyone noticed what I was wearing. To this day it's one of the nicest compliments I've ever gotten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:39 PM
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Of course. Everyone knows that you can just say, "yeah, I want this donut to go to my left butt cheek, better eat a couple Big Macs for my boobs this week..." Honestly, this is one of the reasons why I can count on the fingers of one hand the men whose opinions on fitness & nutrition I give any credibility. Most of them have no freaking clue how the human body works; as evidenced by these kinds of comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:35 PM
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My inner monologue reaction to "what are you looking for" now boils down to: 1) It's like the Supreme Court's definition of obscenity. I'll know it when I see it. 2) Hearing Bono's voice circa 1988 on Rattle & Hum singing, "but I still haven't found what I'm looking for".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:21 PM
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Of course the guy is one of those useless looking mid-30's white douche canoes. He just has that "I earmed a Philosophy degree on the 7 year plan" look about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:15 AM
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I believe a substantial number of people cheat, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:11 AM
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Absolutely not. Those are young girls and that's a huge dude & people are crazy. And here in the US you never know what loon is packing. Safety comes first. I'm angry he got away but I would not want my teenage daughter confronting some douche canoe literally 3x her size.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 03:08 AM
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The candles are making me nervous after seeing a news story about a guy burning down the apartment doing something similar. But I like it otherwise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:05 PM
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I don't like fries in general but am all about the Mickey D's. I can get behind the fries before guys movement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:37 PM
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Oh, I absolutely agree on the once in a while thing. And for sure, Russian couples do things together as well. Russian men attend live theatre performances, too. I've seen em with my own eyes! Lol. It would be more common in the evening & not at a matinee like in the video. I just personally find their long-standing cultural acceptance of doing your own thing & the importance of maintaining friendships outside your romantic relationships refreshing. They don't loose their individual identies wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:30 PM
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I studied Russian in college back in the 90's when most of the study materials were pre-Fall of Communism. Understand as a generalized, oversimplified background: Russian men are sexist by supposed US standards. But they tend to make romantic gestures like give flowers & follow thru on tasks that are considered in the male sphere so you at least get something in return. Women also tend to go out together in groups a lot more than they do here & seem to have more close friendships with other wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:44 PM
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I'm a mid-level jiu jitsu fighter & did a couple ammy mma bouts when I was younger. Much to the chagrin of the (male) gym owners I'm openly, vocally critical of "self-defense for women" classes. Especially when taught by men. (I'm still critical of them when taught by women. But that's too much to unpack in this post & I've only seen ONE taught by women, anyway.) Why? Because they just don't fucking get it & therefore them teaching women's self defense flat out dangerous. Don't run with headphon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:53 PM
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Lordie! This reminded me of something my (male) therapist said when I was in the process of getting divorced. Can't remember the exact context but it was something to do with the loss of the parenting efforts of the 2nd person & having to be "on" all the time with the kids making people feel overwhelmed after divorcing. Then he said, "Of course, in your case [the ex] literally does nothing anyway. So maybe it will feel easier without him."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:57 PM
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As I stated on another sub recently: These same men have jobs involving complex tasks like flying airplanes, performing surgery, and building enterprise-scale computer systems. Am I really supposed to believe he can't figure out how to go into his Tinder settings & edit the birth date? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:48 PM
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🤣 lmao. It's worse than that. I'm a rider & so is one of my kids. Our saddles get cleaned daily and oiled weekly & are stored in climate controlled tack rooms with covers on them between uses. They're expensive. Gotta take care of them. Guys don't treat their faces with the same attention!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:44 PM
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Once upon a time I was a legal secretary for a family law firm & still lurk sometimes on a forum for fathers going thru a divorce. One thing I respected the mods of that forum for immensely was how they 100% turned away women posting on behalf of their husbands, bfs, etc and even other men ostensibly posting on behalf of a friends or relative. (Altnough, I highly doubt the latter are truly men posting for other men. What man do you know would turn out that much effort for a buddy?) The head mod …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:34 PM
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I'm neat as a pin when left to my own devices. Finally gave up & hired a cleaning lady to come biweekly. She gets the house clean to a point where I can at least maintain it in between. Both kids are home 24/7 due to the pandemic & both of them are dealing with depression/anxiety related to stuff going on at their dad's & have that depression clutter thing going on in their rooms. I can't keep up & my time is better spent going towards income generating activities for the business & doing stuff …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:00 PM
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I have mixed feelings about Only Fans, strip clubs, etc. For a mature, self-possessed woman with good business skills & the discipline to approach it as just that? Remember that line from Lady Marmalade; "why spend mine if I can spend yours?" Of course, it's the younger women that we need to lift up & keep an eye on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:23 AM
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Girl, no. Just no. Leave his ass & sue him for child support once the baby arrives. The court will make sure you get more than half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:39 AM
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Well, to be fair, he doesn't say what substance to bring. So, can I bring a can of whoop a$$?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:30 AM
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Yaaaass! I see this all.the.damn.time! Drives me crazy. Why should I hire him if he can't use thd internet like a big boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:27 AM
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From one single mom to another: You are amazing. You are strong beyond what mere words can describe. Your kids may never be able to articulate what a hero you are to them, but they know. You are enough, just the way you are. In fact, you are beyond enough. And, someday, if and when you want it, a man who is the top 1% of the best will come stepping to you. Keep it up, ok? Don't know where you are but sending much love & healing vibes from the east coast of the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 01:36 AM
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Exactly! Lundy Bancroft even discusses this in length in Why Does He Do That? Guy asked to do something: 1) pitches a fit 2) others just give up & do the task because he's being so unpleasant & abusive 3) people stop asking him to do that task or much of anything, really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 02:41 PM
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"Male Code" 🤣🤣🤣 Damn, that made me snort coffee up my nose laughing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:39 PM
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You, you elaborate vitamin life queen, you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:34 PM
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I was poking around Mount Vernon's website recently while helping my daughter with her history. (I'm loving how middle school/high school history curriculums actually present a holistic version of historical figures & talk about them as actual people & not just statues.) Anyway, George Washington was a beast - 6'2"-6'3" and a muscular 220 lbs. Other men deferred to him as the dominate alpha male. Contemporary accounts paint him as being brave & rugged yet reasonably even-tempered. Basically, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:28 PM
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I love it! I sent a guy asking for a sexy pic shirtless Jason Momoa as Aquaman. I mean, I think it's sexy. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:32 AM
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That needs to be on a T-shirt or something: "Your dick. Not life-changing as advertised."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:23 AM
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Me too. The nice side benefit of this is that back in the day when some chump man used to suggest a threesome I'd tell him that's a great idea & which other guy are we bringing in? It was funny to watch them get all butthurt & freak out about it: No, no I meant another woman! They're so insecure about other dudes being bigger & better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:21 AM
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Considering the astounding # of men who think that women can control menses blood like it's urine? Color me not surprised. But of course, nothing exists until verifed by male researchers. /s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:08 AM
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Yes! It always cracks me up. I was never much for messaging men first to begin with. Then I noticed on the rare occasion that I did, it never, ever remotely worked out. I consider myself a social progressive but I am a staunch traditionalist in this regard. If he's interested, he'll message first. You can't circumvent this. Men need to do the work or they will do absolutely nothing in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 11:00 AM
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I don't understand: a) specifying "delicious" chicken. Wtf? Nobody wants their food to taste bad, do they? b) hating on WaWa. We're too far south to be in WaWa territory but everyone I know who has lived in the WaWa zone speaks of them with cult-like reverence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:38 AM
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Oh, I think I know who that is, too. That sub used to be OK. Now it's just a wasteland of the same predictable archetypes. Eta: Ah ha! I was right about who the poster in question was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:11 AM
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There was just a thread on a dating sub where a man this women had been dating over a month (slept with him, too, iirc) dead pan asked the server to bring SEPARATE CHECKS. Wth? And the number of posters, male & female, who thought she was being unreasonable for being upset was ridiculous. And the number of men deeply triggered by a woman at least expecting a heads up prior to the date was gross. I mean, I can see occasionally splitting the bill. But separate checks? That's what you do with cowor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:40 PM
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Yup. I've mentioned it before but I'll say it again. This area is ultra-wealthy. Rich men don't worry about gold diggers. They welcome the prospect. And at least here, these men tend to be independently wealthy & barely work or be retired. They're out doing fun stuff & not sitting on their mom's basement licking Cheeto dust off their fingers. I imagine that aspect is as big or bigger a draw to women than their money. Fwiw, I've known exactly one irl miner/mine couple with an icky age difference.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:29 PM
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The fortunate thing is that the basic premise is so flawed that I can't imagine it working more than 1 in a 1000. Women's attraction is 100% emotionally based? Rflmao. I know I'm picky about men's bodies. I take care of myself & expect them to do the same. Especially given the fact it's far easier for men to loose weight & build lean muscle mass. No excuse but sheer laziness for the dad bod 99 times out of 100. His premise doesn't even hold up in the animal kingdom. Female animals absolutely eva…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 10:00 PM
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Does she realize that the Libertarian party candidate is a woman & actually on point with most things? I don't agree with her entire platform but she's definitely too rational to have garnered the support of either major party. I just wish the Libertarians had actually gotten their act together & fielded a real campaign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:53 PM
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It always strikes me reading post on relationship subs that a majority of men don't understand anything that isn't direct, tit for tat reciprocity. The man I sort of date long term just doesn't like it when I pick up the check in a restaurant. I did it a couple times when we were traveling together & he was mildly horrified. Fine. I don't try it anymore. What I do instead: he loves all those small batch whiskeys. We live in different states & my state's ABC is stricter but doesn't allow anything…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:27 PM
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There was a guy on Dating over 30 that whined about his height so much it was like a trope. Lol. Don't know what ever happened to him. He doesn't seem to participate there anymore. It was to the point that even the more woke men would call him on it every single time. He wasn't even short by US standards. Like 5'9" or 5'10". And he once posted his online dating profile for review & wasn't hideous looking. It was 100% his disposition that was the issue, apparently. I don't get the height thing. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:02 PM
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Basically, this guy cons men into paying him a lot of $ to give them a Cluster B Personality Disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:30 PM
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I've seriously dated 2 men who were younger than me. So long as they have their act together in general, they're quite refreshing. They're involved with their kids in a meaningful way, pull their weight around the house, and actually say what they mean. Men of my generation are the last of the dinosaurs. So cranky, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:13 AM
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My "day job" is professional singer/voice teacher. I had enough credits to qualify for a 2nd major in Russian if I'd wanted to & sing a lot of Russian repertoire. Driving home from one evening after teaching The Queen of Spades & listening to Dmitri Hvorostovsky sing Yletsky's aria, I made the mistake of flippiny to the country station for 5 minutes. It's seriously depressing how far we've sunk. From Yletsky pouring his heart out to his paramour: "I love you. My love for you knows no bounds & go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:29 AM
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Why he no use good grammer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:43 AM
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I'm surprised and sadly not surprised that they didn't show you how to step off a bench or box jump box to get up on the bar. :( You're paying the same as they are, take up space! I step up on benches to reach the bar even in "normal" gyms (I wipe it off after), drag plates over for under my feet when I bench press, inform dudes hogging the Olympic platform to do one deadlift every 30 minutes that I'm working in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:42 AM
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Good lord. I've had a man that never talked about exclusivity ghost & come back A YEAR later and have the nerve to be butthurt I was seeing other men. He was "never going to recover from that" he said. W. T. F.?? You thought there weren't 10 other guys lined up to take your place? I'm 44, divorced, have children, & have no desire to actually have a relationship & have to compromise on stupid shit like paint colors for the living room or do the emotional labor for a man. Don't really want one liv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:21 AM
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Zombies aren't drawn to attack men. No brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:09 AM
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Yaaaassss! Slightly off topic but all the guys on the relationship subs whining about paying for shit! Dude. Do you really think there are that many women out there willing to suffer thru 3 hours of your bs just to get a free burrito? WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:14 PM
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Yeah. Imma put this book back on the shelf unread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:10 PM
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The thing that always gets me on that one is that I'm a yoga professional. It's ok to have bad vibes sometimes. We're supposed to. It's my job to help people manage & work thru them, not supress them! I think they think it's a more subtle way of stating the whole No drama thing now that most people know what no drama really means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:07 PM
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Work hard, and play hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:03 PM
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Annnnd YOU get an STD! And YOU get one, too! You ALL get STDS!! That meme of Oprah just popped into my head 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:02 PM
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Lord, yes! Lol. I'll preface by stating I have a larger than average sample size due to the jiu jitsu gym. And of all of the childless men I know over the age of 35, NOT A DAMN ONE of them has gone on to have a child. Regardless of if they wanted to or not. I get downvoted to the lowest circles of Dante's Inferno every time I share this fact on Dating Over 30 by all the 40 something dudes who only want to date women <23 because "they want kids and women's fertility craps out at 25".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:00 PM
4

I personally use "Do you like pina coladas? Or do you prefer getting caught in the rain?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:48 PM
13

By the same reasoning that they watch porn & OnlyFans but would never, ever date or marry a woman who has done sex work. Another day, another lame attempt to control women by controlling sexual norms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:43 PM
6

It's such a male-only concept, too, this "passing on of genes" thing. I wanted kids because I wanted to love & nurture something. Wanting to pass on my genes was never a thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:52 AM
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I swear I read an interview with Dolly Parton where she stated this was a major reason she never wanted kids of her own. She was the oldest & pretty much raised her siblings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:09 AM
6

To me, it's in the same vein as people joking that dad better have the shotgun ready to scare the boys off during his 2yo daughter's teen years because she is "so pretty". It just smacks of male ownership over a woman's body. Because we can't raise girls to make their own decisions & protect their body autonomy themselves? Or raise our boys not to be such jackasses? Ironically, the most misogynistic man I know towards adult women is also the only one I know who never makes that kind of comments …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:50 PM
2

Multidating has always been the norm.( Multidating, not sleeping with multiple people.) At least in my culture it is. My parents meet in the '60's. My mom was dating a couple other men at the time. My grandmother was doing the same in the '30's. It was also the norm for the middle & upper classes pre-20th century based on what I've read. Women had suitors who competed with each other for her favor. Time was of the essence back then. No self-respecting woman took herself off the market for some d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:35 AM
14

A relative works for an airline. They're allowed to use alias on their nametags every since an incident 20 years ago where some perv passenger looked up the address of a female gate agent, broke into her house, and sexually assaulted her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:14 AM
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Know who this reminds me of? Erik Prince of Blackwater fame. Being gay is a sin but fucking your nanny while you wife is dying then showing up at the funeral with now-pregnant nanny as your date is A-OK. Douche canoe lives near me and I've seen him before. Crossed to the opposite side of the street so I wouldn't get singed in case that was the day God sent the lightening bolt to smite him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:08 AM
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We're at "ants could limbo under the bar" low. Someone seriously needs to start a service where they send someone to hit these guys over the head with a clue x 4. Kind of like a hit man. But not lethal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:56 AM
3

Well, sure. There are some. They're more the exception than the rule, ime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:22 PM
1

Someone please take me out to the back 40 & shoot me. I don't want to live in this world anymore. W. T. F. IS WRONG WITH THESE DUDES??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:28 AM
2

If the bar was any lower here, ants could limbo. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:26 AM
3

I saw a thing last year where some absolutely brilliant woman Venmoed herself $2000 from some guy after he gave her his phone insisting she add her # to his contacts. I say babysit Jose's stuff at the bar & offer to do the same for all his drunk friends. This could be a very lucrative sideline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:38 PM
5

Part of me wonders if slow walker is a euphemism for something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:32 PM
10

I'd consider it if he was gay. Tasteful interior decorators, neat as a pin, usually love to entertain and are great hosts..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:44 PM
6

DO IT!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:40 PM
4

I'm fairly sure the food in that pic was stolen from some poor hotel's complementary breakfast buffet... Also, are we supposed to be impressed by him using maple-colored sugar water instead of real maple syrup? Hit up a TJ Maxx/Homegoods & get a bottle of maple syrup, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:39 PM
1

Yay!! I ❤ jiu jitsu but there's lots of good stuff out there. I'm dying to get into Capoeira, too. It's hard to find in my area, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:22 AM
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Yaaaassss! That reminds me of a story my daughter's riding coach told me once. About 30 years ago, she & another young woman who worked for them used to gallop racehorses along a public path. A guy flashed the coach a couple times. A week later, the other young woman was riding on the path when the guy jumped out in front of her horse & dropped trou. She told him to stop it. "What are you gonna do about it?" he sneered. She took her heavy racing whip & cracked him as hard as she could across the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:15 AM
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Believe me, though. It took a long time to get there. One thing I'd add is that while I think women's self-defense classes.are great, I'd encourage every woman to pick a martial art that appeals to you & train in it regularly. Two reasons: 1) Grappling came naturally to me. But when a coach asked me to train a little Muay Thai & so I could come partner with a woman similar in size inthe MMA class, it took a long time for me to get over that "women don't hit" conditioning. 2) jiu jitsu is still a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:05 AM
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Not the person you asked but I must be intimidating too because no man ever pulls this kind of crap with me. Although, men fo approach me in a respectful manner from time to time. I'm an advanced level jiu jitsu athlete & can manage decent enough stand up to fight MMA style practice bouts. I don't look like Rhonda Rousey, though. So it's probaby more a self-assuredness than physically intimidating. Basically, I take up space in public, don't shirk from eye contact if someone looks at me (i want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:43 PM
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My freak of nature fit SO orders steak salads as often as I do. I cook a lot for me and my kids but I don't make big restaurant salads at home. Not with all the blue cheese crumbles, caramelized pears, etc. And since when are ricotta dumplings American food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 02:16 PM
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I'd be "accidentally" elbowing them in the gut, stepping on their feet while wearing stilettos, and uchi mata their ass to the ground if the 1st two didn't get the message across. "What? No, i didn't throw him. He tripped over my feet. What do you expect? He was giving me no room."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:45 PM
7

That's my thought, too. I've ridden for 35 years, own a business tangentially related to the equine industry, & board a horse with a CCI**** level eventer. I have witnessed falls so bad that I was sure the rider was killed. None of that mess on that girl is consistent with any equestrian sport accident i've ever seen. Two years ago, I saw an internationally ranked show jumper & his young horse full out crash in the 1.4m. I'm talking 1200 lbs horse half somersault & slam to the ground on her side…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:26 AM
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God, yes. I said as much on a relationship sub a while back. Any man who worries about attracting "gold diggers" doesn't have any gold to dig. I live in an ultra-wealthy area. Rich men aren't worried about gold diggers. They have neon signs out marking the path to the mine & are cheerfully offering free samples. It boils down to jealousy on the part of the men screaming about it. The gold mine men are usually at a point where they just want someone to share in the fun activities they're doing & …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:06 PM
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I finally told a man that he was the only one for whom my communication style seemed to be an issue so obviously he was bad at listening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:37 PM
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Good for you! You don't question the motives of people approaching to give you unsolicited advice, though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 06:27 PM
1

IIRC, Match got sued over it a few years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 03:20 PM
0

Just don't count on them being right about any of it. I'm a fitness professional. Any time I make even a passing comment on another sub about working out or nutrition, a bunch of shlubby butthurt dudes come out of the woodwork to downvote & argue with me. Every. Single. Time. Interestingly, on the rare occasion I work out at a large chain gym, it's the pro football players that seem most inclined to offer help from a genuinely altruistic place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:30 PM
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Match at least used to use zombie profiles as teasers: like for the " 20 women in your area Like your profile! Sign up for our $20 a month deal that we make near impossible to cancel to unlock their messages!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:56 PM
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Maybe she's born with it. Maybe it's meth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:45 AM
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