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4

Men are so pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:20 AM
4

It's so fucking ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:16 AM
6

No, this is actually deliberate. It's not unbridled rage or being out of control. It's intentionally done to intimidate and to demonstrate violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:14 AM
4

Punching walls is a sign of danger a red flag. It shows that he's comfortable with a violent response. It's also an intimidation tactic. Even though people often interpret it as "he couldn't control himself" that's not true, a man who reacts in this way is choosing to manifest his anger in this way. Edit: crossing out "red flag" because this is more than a red flag, this is a sign you have a huge problem on your hands and need to leave before it escalates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:10 AM
19

That's just the book I thought about when I saw this thread. I remember that book being very clear that punching walls was a red flag even when no other violence is present.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:06 AM
75

It's also not the guy who calls you fat even when he does so jokingly, or the guy who tries to persuade you to have sex when you've already said no, or the guy who negs you, or the guy who ridicules you when you're upset about something, or the guy who keeps telling you that you're overexagerrating. I think most people are able to recognize the huge signs of abuse but fail to recognize the small transgression of boundaries that indicate lack of mutual respect in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:36 AM
22

That would seem like very American propaganda, then, from people who do not actually understand those countries' cultures. Nobody wants their daughter to be a prostitute and very few women would embrace prostitution as a career choice. It's very much looked down on everywhere. The legalized prostutition in Amsterdam or Germany doesn't constitute white middle- or upper class women/girls who grew up with life options in a stable and secure family, they're very frequently girls from poor easter eur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:23 AM
16

doing sex work is considered no big deal there It absolutely is. There's no part of the world where sex work is viewed as just another job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:20 AM
14

If we have kids we will share childcare. Be careful. Many people think this, still mom ends up being the family project manager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:48 AM
7

That's the problem then. He should be buying the gifts and signing the card, she should not have to do any of it. It's weird that she's signing the gifts and she should not be buying them- he's an adult man, he can buy his own gifts for his coworkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:38 AM
11

If he doesn't do his part what's even the point. Then he's just more work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:46 PM
18

Don't propose in public if you cannot handle rejection in public. You chose where to do it, knowing the risk. Manipulative assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:56 PM
12

And that's even before we include taking care of any potential kids in the family...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:45 AM
50

Giving up things for a boy is usually a bad idea no matter what those things are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 03:54 PM
12

desperation and fear of being “old and single” is real Of course it is when women are constantly being told that they have an expiration date after which they have no value. Women are being treated as if we loose our looks after 30, go infertile after 40 despite the fact that the female body is made to get pregnant all the way up to menopause which usually takes place in your 50s, and are essentially viewed as only worth something if we're wives and mothers. Women are constantly being defined by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:57 AM
13

Yeah, if you have a kid with them you're pretty much stuck with them for the rest of your life. That can turn into a real nightmare. Also I can't imagine the disaster it would have been if I had gotten married at 19 or even 24. I was absolutely not ready to make any long-term life choices at that age. Probably not at 27 either considering how much I've learnt since then. Still not sure I can be fully trusted to make choices like that at 39.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:05 AM
6

Did not know that. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:58 AM
17

being known as "Mom" and not my own name. Oof, this actually just made me panic a little inside when I read it. Losing your identity to become nothing but 'mom'...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:53 AM
12

When does it go from being a late marriage to an early morning marriage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:51 AM
9

I like my marriages to be done by breakfast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:50 AM
5

I'm far more worried about ending up in an abusive relationship than late marriage. Or even just getting stuck feeling lonely in the marriage/relationship. Late marriage doesn't scare me at all. What's late marriage anyway, 80? 90? If they're suggesting it's like 35-40 then they're most likely just kids who think anything over 30 is ancient and who don't yet have any concept about what life is like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:47 AM
5

Yeah, I'm only seeing this being trashy on his part. If she faked it was probably to get his worthless fumbling over with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:21 PM
15

The food is low value and requires zero effort, and I don't really think this was his idea considering he's completely anonymous and her face is the only one showing. There's no effort here except putting bland things on a tray, leaving a note and sitting on the balcony. It would have been more high value to prepare her a really nice meal and leave some candy, flowers and things to keep her busy in isolation on the tray. Frankly, preparing food for your partner who's isolating in their bedroom i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:25 PM
8

Even if she's got no sense of taste you'd think he could have prepared something with a little more flavor than white rice, avocado and broth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:24 PM
8

I think that in this case it's more "Look at me! I have such a good boyfriend!" considering that the dude is completely anonymized to just hands and a hoodie but she's completely identifyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:22 PM
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Considering that hers is the only face that's clearly visible and he's just hands and a hoodie...yes, this is 100% her idea that she convinced him to do. Might not even be her boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:19 PM
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It is very performative. It's like all the videos of people helping some homeless person or doing other good deeds. Just do it. You don't need to world to see your good deed for it to count. I really don't feel comfortable with videos like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:16 PM
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Tbh I kind of needed this right now. Just because life in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:13 PM
23

I feel bad for her. This is the result of being told an entire life how you should be and behave, sexist ideas being pushed upon you, sexist narratives being told and sexist treatment. It breaks my heart that there are so many girls out there who have been taught that they don't deserve better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:57 PM
1

Oooooh, nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 11:23 AM
20

Well, I think there is responsibility on the man to not take somebody for granted just because they can, too. Just because your partner will do everything for you doesn't mean you should just sit back and watch them do everything without doing your fair share. A good person helps out, they don't let the other person work themselves half to death to maintain something that both should have interest in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:33 AM
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Seriously. Self-objectification isn't empowerment. Subjugation isn't empowerment. Sucking up to men isn't empowerment. Even if there's some dude applauding you when you do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:38 PM
17

Single father households out perform single mother households because only fathers who can be arsed to be fathers will become single fathers. The men who are shit fathers will not become single fathers, they'll just leave and give all the responsibility to the mother, or it'll be some shared custody situation. "50% custody is the best outcome", that bloody well depends on who the parents are, doesn't it? There are plenty of children out there who would be better off if their abusive or violent f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:09 PM
31

That trashcan looks too small for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:05 PM
45

Don't do online dating. And vet, vet, vet. You can run into nutjobs like this with somebody you've met in real life too but at least if it's somebody you know from work or through friends you at least have some reference point to start with. Online dating is scary af tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:28 AM
2

Calling women crazy and irrational is an attempt by men to invalidate a perfectly rational reaction to a behavior he is too self-centered to acknowledge (or doesn't have anything to gain from acknowledging). If anybody calls you crazy and irrational, that's a red flag that persson doesn't take your emotions seriously and that you are not a priority to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:58 AM
2

Yeah...maybe this time next year I'll get one. Getting one right now is not a great decision- price is hyped up and there are very few games. Give them some time to sort out the bugs and release a few more games. The PS4 will work just fine for a long time still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:13 AM
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Why would you want to be with someone who talks about women in those terms? Using those terms means he's misogynic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:45 PM
18

Ah yes, the long sought-after fame and attention of being a rape victim...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:25 PM
6

I love this so much. It's so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 07:24 PM
11

Ew, gross. Good that you found out sooner than later though. "Not all men are like that"- no but a shitton are and they're defending them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:34 AM
4

Good on you for standing up for yourself. He had no right to question you or your psychiatrist, nor had he the background knowledge to medically make the judgement whether it would have been appropriate to lower your dose. He's a family doctor, your psychiatrist is a specialist in psychiatry. That specialist is way more qualified on the subject of psychiatry than he is. If you can, get a familly doctor that will do their job. Preferably a woman. Men don't understand women's experiences, there ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:57 PM
16

Why would you accept that somebody who's supposed to love you, protect you, cherish you and respect you uses violence against you and calls you nasty words, in any setting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:19 PM
31

Ugh, men are such a fucking mental mess. Why the fuck do we even give them space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:11 AM
14

Was he confusing tattoos with cattle branding? Didn't realize tattoos made you belong to the tattoo artist. What a nutjob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:09 AM
23

As soon as children encounter other children they get told that girls are different. Run like a girl, throw like a girl, girl toys, girls like this, girls like that, girls are bad at this, girls are bad at that, girls are pretty, boys are strong and tough, the girls should be nice and quiet the boys are rowdy boys who will be boys. Your children have already encountered misogyny and to some extent internalized it. You cannot keep that from them in a society where sexism is the norm. Identify the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:33 AM
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Thing is, society is so pervaded with misogyny that they'll already have internalized misogynic beliefs that they'll pick up from a very young age. You're not saving them from sexism by not speaking with them. They already have notions of what girls do and what boys do and what things are girl things or boy things and beliefs about how boys are better than girls. You have to point out misogynic behavior and name it so that they can recognize it for what it is rather than internalize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:30 AM
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It took me a long time to learn but people will respect you more if you establish boundaries and stand up for yourself. If you allow everything, people will take you for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:51 AM
8

I wouldn't. What a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:36 AM
4

When you're too much of a child to do your own dishes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:34 AM
28

That's just fucking tragic. Don't have sex if you don't know the fundamentals of how bodies work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:21 AM
30

Yup. Do your fucking job, you're not going in until you've performed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:20 AM
53

Somebody buying you all your books on your first date is somebody who's trying to make you indebted to them. This can be a good gift from a partner in a committed relationship, but on a first date I would think it very concerning and a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:42 PM
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Kamala ❤️ Once again, it falls on a woman has to clean up the mess of incompetent men having been given positions higher up than they can handle, but I'm happy to see her win. We need more women in leadership positions everywhere, and I'm looking forward to seeing her run for POTUS 2024. Maybe there can finally be some progress in the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:37 PM
3

I recognize this. Quarantine is rough because you lose all the outside stimuli- can't go shopping, can't go to the movies, can't go to plays, can't keep up hobbies that you practice in group. I'm also single and generally like it, but it does get lonely to not have any contact with people outside colleagues. For me personally I feel lucky that I DON'T have to work from home because then I'd have no social contacts at all. I also suspect that I may never meet somebody. Sometimes I'm ok with it, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:26 PM
2

Seconding this. Online dating is uncomfortable. I've never felt more objectified than when I signed up to an online dating site. Dudes would go into my profile, view my picture, pick whether they liked it or not, and then I was supposed to what- feel happy they approved of my looks? Respond to their generic messages that they send out en masse or fake flattery? Make a date with somebody who might be anything from a criminal to somebody looking for a mastubatory aid to potentially a decent guy? G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:17 PM
5

I keep seeing my flaws and what needs to be fixed. Nobody is flawless, you don't have to be either. You're associating a lot of your values with being pretty, but that's a male-gaze-centric way of viewing yourself. You're a person, not just your appearance. You have skills, emotions, knowledge, quirks, dreams, aspirations, a personality, humor- you're absolutely a loveable person regardless of what you look like (and I'm pretty sure you're not hideous because most people who do the absolute basi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:08 PM
5

It was gross. Rape and abuse of women being used as entertainment for absolutely no reason at all. Such as shitty show altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:36 AM
6

Neat! I'm so sick of seeing abuse, violation or murder of women be used as entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:33 AM
8

Men like women as long as those women don't outshine them. Men assume women are inferior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:26 PM
3

Of course women enforce the patrarchy as well, the problem is still the patriarchy, ie male-instituted attempted control of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:25 PM
17

This picture is libfem. Ie the "it's MY CHOICE to be degraded so therefore it must be feminist" of "feminism", which isn't really feminism, just sucking up to men. I'll support people who are radfem any day though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:13 PM
9

Teenage boys are walking sacks of hormones, they're so emotional it's ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:59 PM
8

Nobody wants to be with a doormat. Treating a woman like a queen doesn't mean being subservient or agreeing with her about everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:33 AM
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Patriarchy and misogyny. So many men abuse women and suffer no consequences for it at all, not even social stigma. We need to get better at loudly naming and shaming instead of protecting men (by assuming the woman is a liar) and giving men the benefit of a doubt just because they're men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:29 AM
3

Never date somebody who's mean to animals. Ever, ever ever ever ever. It's one thing to be silly with your dog but it should come from a place of love, if he allows the dog to be obviously distressed to the extent that it tries to bite them he's crossed the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:12 AM
21

If he brings up his exes during sex he's out anyway so might as well end the sex right then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:04 AM
8

Faking is absolutely Pickmeisha behavior. If he's not doing the job properly, don't pretend like he is. There's no need to inflate his ego about bad work and tou don't want to give him the impression that what he's doing is correct because he'll keep doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:56 AM
1

Holy fuck what a red flag. Time to go no communication at all with that dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:42 AM
8

Odds are the fathers would behave the same way as the sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:27 AM
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I hate the concept of "dad bod". Women who gain a few pounds as they get older or don't look perfect get labelled ugly or as having hit the wall, men get praised for having "dad bods" when they're actually just fat slobs who can't be arsed to even do the minimum effort. No, you don't have an attractive "dad bod", you're an overweight, balding nobody with moobs who's too lazy to take care of yourself. You look like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:35 AM
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Yup. Everybody makes time for things they really want. If they can't be bothered to show, they're not that interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:33 AM
6

These look delicious! What a luxury to get these every day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:20 AM
28

I'm very hard-pressed to ascribe the murder of rapists and people who traffick women as "heinous". If any of the men she murdered were innocent then of course it was a terrible thing to do to that man, but as far as sex buyers and rapists go...meh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:27 AM
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Same. And I also think that close relationships with men is always a risk for women. There is simply no way to know a person fully. We take a risk when we enter a relationship with a man and when we invite him into our lives, in a way men never have to take a risk. And our choices are to either respect that risk and stay away from close relationships with men, or to accept that risk and be on the lookout for red flags and hope that we're good enough judges of character. It's scary and it's wrong…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:15 AM
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At least alone you won't have somebody holding you back. The problem with LV people is not just that they're LV, it's that they act like crabs in a bucket to keep you in place. I think that most western culture adults don't have a lot of friends, we have acquaintances that come in and out of our lives to fulfill specific needs at specific time points, and that that's pretty much how adult friendship works. Or maybe that's just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 07:07 AM
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a lot of women don’t appreciate their men and are gold diggers. Ah, misogyny. Turns out that most of those "gold diggers" are just women daring to claim the share they're owed, talked about by the men who owe them. if a man speaks badly about women or says anything pertaining to his generalizations about “ female nature” run. Yes, yes, yes, this. If a man badmouths women, he will badmouth you the moment you do something he disagrees with. Same goes for men talking about his "crazy ex".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:51 PM
9

So true! Live your life for you! Nobody actually needs a man to live a full life. Do what makes you happy, and build your life around things that make you feel at peace. Cultivate your hobbies, your autonomy and your sense of self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:58 PM
3

Same. If the picture is them and their kid it always comes across as a little too "PLEASETELLMEI'MAGREATFATHER", if it's them and somebody else's kid it's just weird, like why are you posting pictures of other people's kids on a dating site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:20 AM
23

I think this works in a scientific or medical environment as well. I've done it in scientific environments. Just keep talking. They expect you to go quiet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:29 PM
5

When they interrupt you, stop talking. Don’t try to raise your voice or battle them. Be completely quiet and wait. My experience is the opposite. Keep talking, regardless if they try to interrupt or talk over you. They'll shut up when you keep going. They expect you to go quiet when they speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:26 PM
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Anybody who dislikes animals (at least pets) is a big no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:48 PM
14

Thank you. Polyamory in straight relationships isn't liberating, it's another patriarchal institution that keeps women under restriction while granting men complete freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:26 AM
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She's only 27. Why stay tied down to this worthless piece of shit when she's got the rest of her life ahead of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 10:03 AM
3

Not unable to love at all. Unable to love narcissistic dudes who think they're the center of the universe- absolutely. There are tons of other people out there that I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:35 AM
6

Having your own income and your own savings is so important. Don't pool your income with his until you're married and maybe not even then. It's really not until you have children that it's worth considering joint economies (and again, maybe not even then..)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:30 AM
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Same. Why even? One bad break up and your nekkid butt (and more) is all over the internet. If he's worth having he'll get to enjoy the real thing, if he's not he shouldn't get to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 06:56 PM
8

A four year old child only echoes what he's learnt from others. There's a misogynic- probably even abusive if that's the language the boy has picked up- father figure in his life. I don't even want to think about what goes on in that boy's home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:23 PM
5

Damn, that's rude. Good thing you didn't waste time on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:11 PM
56

I'm not going to invest my energy to talk to her Please fucking don't, lol. I don't know any women who actually want to be bothered by men while they're busy during the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:18 PM
37

Male self-centeredness, thinking they're so important that they have the right to interrupt and demand attention from somebody else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:17 PM
2

Plus, people usually manage to do just fine without your help. The constant rescuing and helping people is a pattern of codependency. You're rescuing everybody because of your own reasons, they don't actually need your help. They'll figure out how to make it on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:19 PM
7

I've seen some pretty questionable threads lately. I hope you guys are keeping your eyes open for false flag posts, ie incel/mra dudes making racist/sexist/bigoted posts under the pretense of being FDSers in order to make this place look extreme and get it shut down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:34 PM
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Yeah, I don't think this is an accurate thread at all. It even borderlines trolling to me. Asia is huge. There are billions of asian men. "Asian men" doesn't equal some kpop dudes. This is some weird orientalism fetishizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:27 PM
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Meh, being HV or not doesn't have anything to do with whether you're western or asian. I'm not quite sure I see the difference between "lusting for asian men" and "lusting for foreign women". I don't hate western men in general, I dislike the LVM but you'll find them in other populations as well. Asian culture can be tradfem and misogynic as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:23 PM
4

Techbros are the fucking worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:33 AM
13

Doctors (as in physicians) are a no-no. It's been too much of a status profession for too long, I know so many full-of-themselves doctors and doctors who've cheated on their wives. On top of that their hours are crap and they're frequently detached and burnt out. Some are just outright power-tripping. They're good at faking being HVM though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:29 AM
33

A little disturbing how she equals wife with maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:40 PM
2

For me being on birth control is prioritizing myself and my own health. It gives me essentially full control over my reproductive function and my periods. It means that I do not have to trust men's fumbling with condoms, nor am I at risk of an accidental pregnancy, AND I get many health benefits from it. But if you feel better off it and don't need it for birth control there's absolutely no reason to be taking it. Do what's right for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:47 AM
2

I do this once or twice a month. It's so nice to have a vase with fresh flowers around the house. Smells good and looks pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:57 AM
3

He's cute, does he have a brother (or sister or any other pupper will do too)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:52 AM
5

Men are so fucking fragile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:49 AM
14

? There's nothing wrong or unusual about liking sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:41 AM
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That's not what the OP is saying though. "Wait until you've dated for a while" is a whole lot different than "No sex before marriage".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:41 AM
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I get what you're saying but it's a very bad idea to marry somebody you haven't tried in bed. That could go very wrong. There are nuances between sleeping with random dudes and "no sex before marriage". If you don't have sex before marriage, how do you know he can please you? How do you know he'll listen to and respect what you want during sex? How do you know if your libido is compatible to his? How do you know you'll enjoy being intimate with him? How do you know he's not got some weird kink o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:31 AM
6

I think there's a difference between "provide" and to be generous. I do want a generous man. I do not want him to provide for me because I am an independent adult, not his dependent child. I want to have and manage my own finances, not to have them only at the mercy of another person with the assumption that I'd be shit out of luck if he for some reason couldn't provide (which can happen to everybody due to for example illness).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:45 AM
13

Why would they go shopping like this? Seems like a strange assumption to me. I would think they're heading home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:30 PM
9

Why would this gets laughed at? Any dude whose friends laugh at this needs to befriend fucking grown-ups. And any dude who's too afraid of getting laughed at to be nice to his partner is a fucking waste of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 06:29 PM
8

I remember that from being around 30. For a while there EVERYBODY was having kids and getting pregnant. 39 now, glad to be out of that bubble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:23 AM
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I know several as well. Women's bodies are made to have babies up until menopause. The chances go down as we age but it's not super drastic, there's no magical limit at 40 and the vast, vast majority of babies born to "older" mothers are perfectly healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:19 AM
7

Wow, 32 is extremely early for menopause. Do you know why that is? If she had cancer treatment or similar that could contribute to her hitting menopause early while you could still stay fertile until "normal" menopause age. But maybe something genetic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:16 AM
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I read somewhere that a lot of the fertility data was based on studies from medieval France. We really have been sold the idea that after 35 chances are over, despite the fact that many, many women can still get pregnant well past their 40s and give rise to perfectly healthy babies. Women are constructed to be able to get pregnant all the way up until menopause. And both women's eggs and men's sperm age, an "old" mother is no worse than an "old" father for the baby. Still, if you know you want b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:13 AM
6

I see so many men spewing out nonsense and talking as if being single and childfree is bad. Like it’s all from men. They're threatened by it. If women decide that being single and childfree is the norm to follow, what use will men be? They're scared by women not being dependent on men because it would threaten their place in society and give women the power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:09 AM
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Overall, marriage is beneficial to men but detrimental to women. So many men out there view women as a status symbol that you "should have" and somebody who'll manage the family part of life for them. Those men have a vested interest in making women feel like choosing something other than married life is a failure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:03 AM
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We all die alone anyway. Doesn't matter who you have in your life, when you're dying you're the one who's dying, not them. Somebody who's not dying will never be able to understand or relate to what dying is like until it's them. I really think romantic relationships are being overhyped and sold to young women. I've heard so many women say that if they lost their husbands, they wouldn't bother getting into a romantic relationship with a man again. Social companionship with other people is a nece…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:58 AM
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I mean, finding HVM interested in you is hard. That's hard for everybody. The men who are interested in me are always weirdos I wouldn't date in a million years. Pretty sure there are LVM who would date you but you obviously wouldn't want to be with them to begin with. Plus men tend to avoid women who are likely to see though the shit they're up to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:31 AM
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Yes, and the reason is that society is so unfamiliar with what women past their 40s actually look like that people mistake somebody in their 40s with somebody in their 70s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:48 AM
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He doesn't really. The woman on the right is a 75 year old, she is not his partner. People only think the woman who's his partner looks old because they're not used to seeing women in their 40s sporting their naturally grey hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:46 AM
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I can't believe this is downvoted. This thread has a super low bar. 1. He hasn't aged very well at all. He looks completely worn out. And look at him in Bill and Ted 3 and you've got just another pudgy-faced 50+ man. 2. He's still with a significantly younger woman. 3. Helen Mirren, who is on the right picture, is 75. Alexandra Grant is 47. Mistaking a 47 yo for a 75 yo woman shows a complete lack of insight into what women past their 40s look like. This coddling of men and going along with the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:42 AM
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That's absolute bullshit. You can't tell by somebody's looks if they're a good person or not. Some things can age people a lot, shouldn't be interpreted as them carrying around bitterness or hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:39 AM
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Many white women age perfectly fine. Sweeping generalizations like that aren't helpful to anybody. So many beautiful older women out there no matter their race, no need to shame them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:34 AM
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Also check out the pictures from Bill and Ted 3. He hasn't aged that well. I don't know why the internet has such a crush on Keanu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:33 AM
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He hasn't really aged like fine wine, though. Let's not propagate the myth that men age better than women. This fetishization of Keanu Reeves from all directions is weird as f.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 03:27 AM
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The bar for people considering somebody to be a good father is so fucking low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:42 AM
10

Because it's easier to love a fantasy that behaves exactly how you want in every situation than a real human being that occassionally disappoints you, disapproves, sets boundaries, disagrees with you and is less than perfect. Imaginary daddy who you've got not contact with won't tell you not to fight with your sister, to go to bed, that you can't hang out with friends, won't accidentally treat you unfairly etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:38 AM
5

AMEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:15 PM
2

This is funny as fuck tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:16 PM
2

The problem isn't usually the height, it's that they're trying hard as fuck to compensate for being short by obnoxious behavior. Be HV and nobody will give a shit if you're short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:15 PM
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Plus at least 90% of the good sex is because of the work you put in yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 04:19 PM
20

Yeah, I already know I and most other women are better than them. The problem is that they're too dumb to get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:31 AM
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Nah, I'm going to need a bit more than that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:28 AM
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Not to mention the creepy white western dudes who specifically seek out women in some less well off Asian countries because they believe those women are submissive and because those women may be preyed upon because of their financial situation. They view Asian women as submissive housekeeper sex objects that will never be able to leave them because of being financially dependent on them. So the dudes get to feel like some big manly family man hero while the women are essentially without choice. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:04 AM
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Just beware of any man who puts women down, tbh. Does he shittalk his ex? Does he call women bitches? Does he tell you you're not like other girls, which means he's putting down all other girls? Does he comment how certain women are whores or thots or sluts? That's how he'll view you too the moment you do something he doesn't approve of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:49 AM
2

I never watched King of the Hill. I may give it a try now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:45 AM
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Seriously. Marge is only 36 years old and stuck stressed out of her mind with three kids, all the housework and a pretty dumb (not to mention other problems...) husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:28 AM
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Oh, I thought so too. I was like "these look good I should read them".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:19 AM
4

Almost like it's not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:31 PM
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I'm bi, I pretty much just dunk on dudes. Straight women, lesbian women, bi women- I'll stand by women. And sexuality isn't a choice. "Jason" here is the asshole, not the woman who's been taught and gaslit into believing she has to put up with his shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:29 PM
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Because the world is so focused on never hurting a man's feelings. We're not allowed to make him feel uncomfortable, insecure, self-conscious, hurt, emasculated and we're taught that we need to be nice and sweet and polite and laugh at his jokes so that he doesn't get offended or angry or sad or starts to question whether he's as funny as he thinks he is. And other men will not teach him how to behave. Men's feelings are so insanely pampered and coddled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:15 PM
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For your own safety, never feel forced to drink something. If you don't want to turn down the drink, take it, hold it, maybe even pretend to sip it without drinking, and put it down as soon as you get the chance. Predators will use and abuse the desire to not come across as rude. These are grown men, they know what they're doing. They know that boundaries should be respected but they choose to ignore them. You turning down a drink isn't nearly as rude as him ignoring your no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:12 PM
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Thank you! I feel like this is way too oversimplified. You can cut people out of your life but you cannot 100% control other people's behavior towards you. You cannot always avoid people and while you can set boundaries you cannot always prevent the violation of those boundaries. Even if you have the best boundary-setting skills ever you will never ever be completely kept safe from situations where you can be used, abused, humiliated, assaulted or in some other way have your boundaries stepped o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:11 AM
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Lot of people tend to turn out like their parents as well. Not everybody, but many. Always a good idea to vet the entire family. Don't marry/partner into crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:06 AM
1

Derailment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:23 AM
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Literally every bad thing a man does is blamed on a woman. Just watch. Either his mother, or the mother of his children, or his partner, or just random women who might have hurt his fee-fees. It's such a pattern when you start to notice it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:38 AM
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There's way too much attention in society to what men think, like or feel. It's very tiresome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:50 AM
2

Gross. "I miss the feeling of wanting and being wanted" fucking go work on your marriage, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:35 AM
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They do, they're actually very fragile. You just have to know how to hit them with it. This, however, is obviously intentional and with the intention to make her angry. Answering "no" is too polite, this should just be downvoted and reported and with posts like these it's better to not engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:28 AM
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Hint: It's not actually for them. She skies all the way to the pole, worthless dudes on the internet can't even figure out how to make their own fucking sandwich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:23 AM
17

Comparing women with food, totally not misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:00 AM
26

I feel like that's all of Reddit. Everywhere, dudes whining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:55 AM
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Lol, when men behave like they're equals we can be equals. So far they've got a very long way to go with that considering how they constantly undervalue and underestimate women while they're acting like children themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:54 AM
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Lol, anybody hoping for a man to take care of them when they're old is in for a world of disappointment. That's even before taking into consideration the fact that men don't live as long as women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:48 AM
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They say they want a smart woman but as soon as it turns out you're smarter than them they feel emasculated. You're allowed to be good at things but don't be better than them, it makes their pp shrink. They assume women are worse than them at everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:12 PM
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Seriously. Single parenting must be preferable to single parenting with a manbaby. Why are so many men such fucking worthless children?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:09 PM
1

Who the fuck wants to take care of a grown-ass child? I'd say I wonder how many vacations he goes on where he takes both the children with her and lets her have alone time but I already know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:06 PM
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Women have convinced themselves that they're CHOOSING this role and that that makes them liberated. It's nonsense. It's still patriarchy even if the patriarchal oppression is delivered under the illusion of choice. They're still giving up their own desires for the sake of men. Sucking his dick to be nice isn't sex positivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:04 PM
5

Start with the housewife role and you'll never leave it, girl. It may seem cute in the beginning but it's a shit place to be later on when you're more of a housemaid than a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:59 PM
6

I hate how frequent the use of "Karen" has become. It's just a new way of calling a woman a bitch. New word, same old misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:48 PM
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I've been to visit a couple of times but it's been years since I was there last. Such a dump. I remember one dude who kept statistics on when his wife did and did not fuck him. He was collecting this data and planned to confront her with it, and was somehow of the belief that when he showed her this data she would have to have sex with him. I told him he was a fucking idiot, asked him what he hoped to accomplish, asked why that would convince anybody to have sex with him, told him he had absolut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:02 PM
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