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I've got one of those! Had mine over 10 years and it's still going strong. I do sterilise it with baby bottle steriliser fluid though, but still works out way cheaper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:14 AM
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Pisses me off that we have to pay tax on sanitary products as well, I'd happily bleed on my chair at work in protest in solidarity with other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:58 AM
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He be cleansing that gene pool, don't mess with the lord's good work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:07 AM
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"The more a woman is objectified, the more she is dehumanized." And traumatized, even long term objectification can lead to PTSD. Then there's being treated cruelly by both men and women. I thought I'm getting older now, soon I will be invisible and won't have to deal with all this. But currently have a new younger woman at work who is trying to show me up in front of male staff, but then when we are alone she reveals her insecurities and says things about how slim I am and how cool I apparently…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:21 AM
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It's an excellent way to remind us what they are, keeping it real, staying grounded and refraining from idealising them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:58 PM
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When I was going through divorce, I changed my husband's name in my phone to 'pornsickmilkybar', because he was always extremely pornsick and then I saw him after we separated on my street, he was so pale, I could only imagine it was because his addiction got so worse that he hardly saw the light of day. Whenever he text me about divorce matters, it would ping up with 'pornsickmilkybar'. As soon as the divorced I completely removed him form my phone and changed my number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:52 PM
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" far to many try to gaslight her for having boundaries in the first place instead of her husband for agreeing to a boundary and then secretly running roughshod over it until he couldn't hide it anymore" This is exactly why we walk away and don't ask them to change or ask for advice. Communicating with men about these things is pointless, we just get gaslighted and lied to. Walk away from these pathetic, deluded, pornsick men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:03 PM
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True, my ex who was a cop, admitted to me that on night shifts, him and his work colleague used to speak through the police car mega phone thing in 'rough' (poor) areas, to wake people up. He also claimed they, himself included, take reports from nice areas more seriously. He also claimed most rape is made up, with no evidence to support this. Edit This one makes me feel sick, but he also admitted with a smug grin, that he rubs his biro between his arse cheeks and gave it to people he disliked f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:52 PM
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Hahaha preditors hate it when they become the prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:47 PM
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Just look at Mark Zuckerberg, he created facemash, I don't care how much money he has now, he's still a misogynistic incel asshole. I remember being with my first husband abroad in a beautiful place and hotel and I was miserable because I didn't like the person he really was (after mask slipped), money and nice things mean nothing if your trapped with an awful person. Generosity is an attractive trait in men, but he doesn't have to be rich and it's not about money, just generous in general, not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:33 PM
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"living apart together and keeping finances separate is such a good vetting strategy. I'm not convenient." Wise words, see if they stick around without the benefits. If I considered dating again in the future, I even thought I'll hide the fact I can cook and never try to please or impress a man, including sexually. If it doesn't benefit me I'm not doing it. "Even if they don't say anything, that scrunched up, pissed off face says it all." I've learned to enjoy that reaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:28 PM
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This is sad, what's happening to the human race? Can it get any worse than this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:21 PM
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This shit makes me nauseous, excuse me while I throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:18 PM
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He loves me, I know it, he just doesn't know how to show his feelings, I can change him. I just remembered the most depressing film called Maudie, it's based on a true story of a female outsider artist who becomes famous for her naive paintings. Her husband is an abusive miserable bastard who treats the dog better than her (he treats the dog like crap). Anyway it's all okay because in the end when she's dying he confesses his love to her, I don't know if he only just realised it or he did all al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:08 PM
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They have pornhub pro and pay for onlyfans and 'forget' their wallet when you go out for £2 coffee together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:02 PM
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It's definitely not as precious as the purr of a cat, it's been proven that cats purrs are calming and therapeutic to humans, which is good for your well-being. Men's so called 'love' usually has the opposite effect. 'Crazy cat ladies' are not crazy, they are wise... https://medium.com/chilled-cat/the-healing-power-of-your-cats-purr-bbdb6b2642ca
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:48 PM
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Heterosexual love is a con designed to exploit women for unpaid labour, including sex, childbearing/rearing and housework. I don't believe men marry the woman they 'love', they marry the women who's most convenient and accomodating when they are ready to settle down. Most men seem to hate their wives, I think very very few men genuinely love them. If men genuinely loved women, they would be happy to just be our friends and be in our presence, they would be happy just simply enjoying our company …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:25 PM
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"I think they’ll just get more violent with time". I'd rather fight them and die in the process than submit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:40 PM
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Sadly I reckon some slip through the net, some pickmes will procreate with some of these men, bear in mind most won't share these views with women openly. This is why women who follow FDS advice are, and also should not be, shamed. We are doing humanity a favour, much to the descruntlement of these men. Edit I'm sure I've read an article accusing us of elitism or the word used may have even been supremacy. As a women of working class origin, low socioeconomic status and who has ADD, I can guaran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:48 PM
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'especially older women' I often wonder if this is because they expect older women to look after older men and nurse them in ill health to their death, women tend to outlive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:34 PM
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What starts as tit for tat, ends in all out war.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:42 AM
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I agree, women should not procreate with these sadistic closeted bastard's! I guarantee the offspring of these men will be traumatised well into adulthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:38 AM
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Oh my god! I think this too, the sleep deprivation prevents you from leaving because of how it effects you cognitively and depletes your energy. I sleep amazing since leaving my last husband and I feel great, I'm not saying my poor sleep when I was with him was something he did intentionally or maliciously though, I am a really light sleeper, so him doing heavy over the top rolling over would startle me awake. But I have read about men depriving women of sleep deliberately and a growing number a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:23 AM
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His priority should be his newborn baby and wives well-being, not his wives body, speaks volumes that men with a newborn sulk off to be alone with the laptop and write selfish crap like this. Edit Any money the device he was using as he wrote this comment, was also full of tabs with porn and photoshoped IG models (who wouldn't look twice at him) that he compares his wife to. He'd deny point blank that he compares his wife to them if asked though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:24 AM
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This is exactly what I think, I think they gaslight women on mass. They will say 'sex work is work' or 'sex work is empowering' if their partner questions their porn use, yet will secretly think along the same lines of the commenters. I think there are way more women who've been in the sex industry that feel like her too, but many aren't brave enough to speak out because this is the abuse and shaming they're faced with. Edit I just read an article about her speaking out about the industry, what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:16 AM
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True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:09 AM
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I'm not ashamed to admit, I talk to my cat and monstera plants. Friends and family have noticed how well the monstera are doing and how quick they grow. My first husband looked after plants and animals a couple of times (several years ago), whenever I went away with my daughter, the plants always died and my daughter's hamster and cat went missing while we were away. It was only a couple of times, but I realised he was doing it maliciously. Also had an ex admit he killed his exes rabbit because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:55 AM
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he went ballistic. He mentioned that he was a “nice guy”. The mask slipped quick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:39 AM
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Damn these idiots are really playing themselves by sucking up all this manosphere crap. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:34 AM
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If these men are so clearly desperate to impress each other with their fantasies online, why don't they just date each other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:28 AM
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How are men this deluded, seriously I want to know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:25 AM
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This would have been me, if I hadn't refused to have kids with and divorced, my last moocher husband. I'm so thankful I got away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:22 AM
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"PornHub logo into our $5,000 4k TV 🥴" I hope you posted a picture and explanation of this on Facebook and tagged all his friends and family in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:31 AM
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"demanded me to give him a top notch blowj*b". I'd tell him to f-off, oh no I'm terrible at blow jobs, didn't I tell you I have problem with my jaw, yeah it can just suddenly lock down really hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:30 AM
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A 60 year old lady I work with, told me and other women in the office, that her friend caught her husband jerking off to an exercise video in the 80s. We all erupted with laughter, to say men's biggest fear is being laughed at, they're not helping themselves really are they.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:26 AM
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Maybe turning their man off is the desired outcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:44 PM
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180 dollars a month! And I'm guessing men can screenshot their images and make copies of their videos and that will stay on the internet forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:38 PM
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'pissweasel' indeed 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:37 PM
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They know we're wising up to it and even an ounce of a taste of their own medicine or women walking away jolts them into coming up with gaslighting propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:36 PM
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It's easy to gaslight women into believing were the problem and guilt tripping us into pandering to these adult babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:35 PM
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Then long after they retire, the content they created will still be on the internet and maybe even continue helping places like pornhub still be popular and continue to profit from their content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:02 PM
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Thank you everyone for continuing to support and fund a platform that hosts child porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:58 PM
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We don't need men to say they are feminists, what we need is for them to show it in their actions, character and morals. A man saying he's a feminist is an instant red flag to me and I'll judge him based on how he treats me and other women and whether he jerks off to porn etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:57 PM
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Some of them aren't even good for their cocks, they've even ruined them, with pornisckness and the death grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 08:01 AM
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Luckily I only really fantasised about and had crushes, when I was with my last husband, it stopped soon after I left him. It must have been some weird coping mechanism and escapism from a miserable situation. Also didn't help that he had a cuckold fetish and wouldn't stop talking about me having a man on the side, looking back it felt like brainwashing and like it triggered some kind of OCD response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:13 AM
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"Good morning beautiful" even worse...shudder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:10 AM
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I was on a large sailing boat once with my first husband, his brother and pregnant wife and another couple. The boat almost capsized and we all instinctually ran to the other side of the boat, only my ex husband gave himself an advantage by using his pregnant sister in law to help propel himself forward, he grabbed and pushed her to the about to sink side and used the force from pushing on her to push him away from the water. We all ripped him to pieces after. I've always been dubious of this me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:02 AM
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Basically she'll be a bangmaid just for free rent, she'd earn more money being a full time cleaner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:52 AM
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I'm sure I've heard some men get dogs purely for this reason, some even join yoga to have an excuse to chat to the women there. Sad creepy losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:49 AM
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Yes! Free pass, free love, free ride, free living arrangement if they can get it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:44 AM
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Also they are stingy, but love buying things for themselves or other people buying them things, seems many of them are also hobosexuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:43 AM
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My last husband was one of these, he'd champion this kind of film and was a "fake feminist", but he was misogynistic as hell under the facade and pornsick. I don't know if these types are really cunning and calculated and it's a way for them to virtue signal or if they just genuinely believe liking these kinds of films makes them a feminist, a good guy and allows them to convince themselves they are noble?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:15 PM
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"His reaction was, that he got upset about how bad men were portrayed in this movie" I guarantee you, these are the same men who defend porn, misogyny and online promotion of violence against women, much of which is not even fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 01:11 PM
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'better safe than sorry' I'm same, I'd rather be ruthless, than allow toxic people in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:29 AM
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Well put, everything you said, especially the mentality of worse has happened in history and also is happening now in other countries, like Afghanistan. I do believe the violence against women is going to get worse because of online radicalisation, violent porn and rampant misogyny in society, but at least there is widespread awareness about it following the Plymouth shooting and we have laws which heavily reduce the amount of violence we would otherwise face as women. I refuse to live in fear, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:15 AM
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" find it difficult to suss out their true intentions." Do you find with this that you can fall prey to some cunning long game types, love bombers and bait & switch types, but are immune to the inconsistent ones who put on the playing hard to get act or play hot and cold to try and make you chase? I've realised I take people at face value too, but I also realise I can be very intuitive and get gut feelings and have ignored them in the past, so while I might believe what they're saying and take t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:47 AM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:23 AM
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My ex-husband wanted to watch something with Chris Rock in or his show, I refused and he asked why, I said I can't stand the guy and he has an arrogant look about him, bear in mind I hardly knew anything about him and not really been particularly exposed to him. Then I hear things about him on here and it reminds me my Spidey senses are spot on and should not be ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:19 AM
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Same here, I second this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:16 AM
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I can't watch things like that, people at work talk about love island and I've seen it advertised. It looks so vapid and shallow, I heard about several people from love island committing suicide. I just think these shows take advantage of lost, vulnerable people with poor self esteem and poor mental healh. These kinds of shows promote superficial attitudes and obsession with looks as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:00 PM
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Many men will still be attracted to them, it's often their innocence and vulnerability they're attracted to and the power they can exert over them. Men can also fetishize anything, some men are attracted to amputees, they get off on the suffering of others, especially women. Wouldn't the best option be poking out the eyes of the men who desire them or castrating them? Edit I was flat chested when I was young and it didn't stop sexual predators sexualising me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 11:31 AM
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Misandry! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:21 PM
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Sounds legit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:18 PM
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Followed by cupboard cretins gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:00 PM
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Bonus points if he fancies himself as his girlfriends manager (AKA pimp).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:58 PM
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I reckon a lot of bi/gay men hide their sexuality to get a larger pool of pickme women, they know a lot will refuse to date them and they want the benefits that come with a heterosexual relationship, including the fact women are more likely to put up with crap that other men won't, women not only can provide offspring, but also perform more emotional and housework.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:32 PM
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He's angry he didn't get the women like the ones he masturbates over and now she'll pay the price. Her self esteem must be so low it's in hell. I'd much rather be single forever than put up with that, being single is good, being with a shit partner is well shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:22 PM
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Women need to wake up from these lies, like you can change him, build the man and your standards are too high, give him a chance, blah blah blah. This is the reality, not princess and the frog or beauty and the beast, what you see is what you get and it'll get a whole lot worse if you settle for it. Edit I know some women are victim to bait and switch, but they need to learn to accept they have been duped and made a mug of and know when it's time to cut their losses, instead of pretending the si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:27 PM
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It's just like having an extra child, but more selfish, immature and expensive to feed/look after. I feel sorry for any kids who have this or similar as a father, what chance do these kids have with this pathetic cupboard cretin as a role model and she's as bad enabling it, as if it's cute and funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:18 PM
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This is my plan, no man is getting any benefits from me and I never want to live with or marry a man again that's for sure, it rarely benefits the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:14 PM
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Give it back to it's biological parents for some re-parenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:17 PM
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I know, they talk about this so called 'masculinity crisis', but they are choosing to behave like immature scum bags and make a fool of themselves. They are like toddlers having a tantrum because they can't have it all their own way. https://theconversation.com/the-bogus-crisis-of-masculinity-96558
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:19 PM
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"And let's not forget this classic: asking you out and then "forgetting" his wallet when it comes time to pay the restaurant bill." My second husband did this, I'd be embarrassed to pull this underhand calculated shit with anyone, It would make me feel like a pathetic excuse for a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:55 AM
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This is so true, it's usually a personality, attitude problem and laziness that stops them getting or keeping women. They are ugly on the inside and it radiates outward. I've been attracted to men who aren't considered particularly physically attractive by most women, because they've had a good personality, attitude, dress well/look after themselves and good sense of humour. Unfortunately this can be an act with some men and as their facade fades, so does my attraction to them. It works the othe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:36 AM
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Trying to snake his way to the young women who've set their desired age range lower, extra ego boost points for encouraging or coercing a young women to be more flexible with her age range limit. 🐍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:02 AM
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Woe is me! 🎻😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:38 AM
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Haha, you know if a man identifies with the protagonist of these types of films or likes the smiths (just like him in 500days of summer) he's a perpetual self victimiser who never got over a girl he didn't have the courage to talk to at high school and it's all wOmEnZ fault. 🎉pitty party🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:33 AM
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I can't remember what the conversations were that lead to him saying it, but he said it on numerous separate occasions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:02 AM
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My exes dad always used to bring this up, he'd often say 'men were for pleasure and women were for reproducing'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:46 AM
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Yes it started into the marriage, around the time I got a new job in a large busy workplace. (Not sure if that set him off). There's married TRP and some men start following it once they're already married. There's even a compilation of marriages ruined by redpill, showing stories of how it backfired and the wives or girlfriends left them. He started acting like a cold emotionless robot. He also used phrased like 'alpha' and 'beta'. Even when I was in hospital, it was like he didn't care, was in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:29 AM
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I'm sure I've read before, that ugly women see the truth, they see men exactly for what they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:25 AM
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The if you leave, you'll leave with nothing, was my first husband. He said because he was a cop, he could use his position to convince the court I'm mentally ill and an unfit mother and threatened to put nude photos of me online. (I was early 20s when I left him, he's 10yrs older). I just wanted to get away from him, I just said fine have what you want and left with my daughter and only a few personal possessions. Managed to start renting and friends gave me old furniture and kitchen utensils et…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:10 AM
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That's a lot of words for I have PIED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:00 AM
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Yes, a true stoic would accept their fate and wouldn't lie, coerce and manipulate women into being with them. https://modernstoicism.com/the-red-band-a-stoic-criticism-of-the-red-pill-by-vadim-korkhov/ https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/the-modern-man-is-getting-stoicism-all-wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:05 PM
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Walt Whitman may not be a stoic? I know he was getting into and reading books on stoicism around the same time he kept quoting Walt Whitman. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is definitely talked about among redpillers though. There are even articles by other men talking about how the mansophere has revived stoicism, but are getting it wrong or using it to game women. It would be red flag to me now, but not everyone who is into stoicism is redpilled or involved in the manosphere, but it would still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:47 PM
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Every cloud has a sliver lining though, we learn lessons from these things. I wouldn't have found out about the manosphere if I'd never been with him, I googled things about his behaviour once I'd left him and filled for divorce and found all the redpill stuff. This lead to me finding this sub, which helped me learn and share experiences with other women. I can never prove he was or how heavily involved in these misogynistic groups, but reading about them helped me connect all the dots and it se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:24 PM
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I feel the same, I'd rather stay celibate. Choosing to date these kinds of men is akin to self harm. They also seem so deluded by the sheer amount of porn they consume, like it tricked their brain into thinking they had or could have those women, despite on the other hand being extremely insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:00 PM
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I gave a quiet nerd a chance, beneath the surface and fake allay of women facade, he was probably the most misogynistic, parasitic, spineless man I've encountered. Most pornsick man I've ever met too. Given short and less attractive guys a chance too, in my experience, what you wrote has been true for me, 'nice guys' are actually worse than the men they call 'chads' or 'alphas', filled with insecurity, bitter simmering resentment or even rage and like to play power games, gaslight you and grind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:50 PM
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'666 Alpha male' Calls himself alpha and reference to the devil, well that just says it all really doesn't it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:03 PM
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The men who love tattooed women make me laugh, my friends husbands one of those, even though she doesn't have any. I said to her it's literally like, they just like these tattoos not the woman and fetishize them. Some men admit they like women who alter their bodies, especially if it's painful or evasive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:33 AM
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My ex-husband had this fetish, really pestered me for a few years to sleep with men off the internet, but I refused and divorced him. I think it's insecurity and pornsickness, these men who claim to be submissive, top from the bottom, they are misogynistic and see you as object just as much as dominant men. They claim it's all about your pleasure and wanting to make you happy, but it's a lie, it's all on their terms and fulfilling their pornsick fantasies, even if it involves putting you in dang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:24 AM
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There's no bottom sheet on the mattress or duvet cover on the duvet, I'd hate to see them under a UV lamp!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:28 PM
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Or make him put his cum filled socks in the wash basket, instead of on the floor next to it, evil bitch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:26 PM
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I noted the weights and thought the same, hahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:24 PM
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I didn't even realize it was a screenshot, I didn't try to play it, I meant I can't bring myself to play it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:10 PM
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Shudder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:24 PM
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Exactly, you think she'd know this since she's so serious about her 'career' and the platform she works on. "The announcement comes after BBC News had approached the company for a response to leaked documents concerning accounts which posted illegal content. OnlyFans said the change had come after pressure from banking partners" She really is a victim of the patriarchy and internalised misogyny, blaming women! She really has issues! I'll say an evangelical prayer for her troubled soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:58 PM
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I can't play the video, I don't want to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:19 PM
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Wow, this woman seems really desperate and eager to be loved by anyone, fawning over ugly old sex offenders. She needs to learn to love herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:59 PM
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Agreed, she is more than welcome to the trash, I'm glad these losers have to go to her and pay for it to be honest, because their wives can't stand to have sex with them, or their wives refuse to do weird or unappealing sex acts for free. It's awfully narrow minded to assume anyone opposed to sex work on onlyfans is some Evangelical, conservative, religious, anti-sex prude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:54 PM
223

I can already hear a chorus of shattering fragile egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:55 PM
3

Hope she has her cystitis relief sachets ready, she'll need them after being subjected to a frantic and aggressive finger banging with those dirty unkept nails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:10 PM
8

Don't forget to wear your rose tinted sunglasses if your lucky enough to go on a date with him, legend has it, his teeth have gotten so yellow since 2008, that they can blind you like yellow sunbeams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:29 AM
17

And extra financial cost, that's why they have to gaslight us into putting up with their bs, until/if they find a naive younger woman to jump ship for, who will also share living costs with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:20 AM
15

Trust is the most important component in any relationship, men are always first to chime this sentiment. So an affair is a breach of trust, marriage is a contract and if men decide they want to change the terms of that contract, they should discuss their wishes openly and the other party should have the choice to either agree to alter the contract to suit them, i.e negotiate the terms of the contract, in exchange for something they want in return or terminate the contract (marriage) all together…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:59 AM
100

This sounds like a man who says he can separate porn from real sex, despite his sex talk and sexual tastes clearly suggesting otherwise. Men who claim they are shit hot in bed are usually just the shit bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:47 AM
21

Does he really think we're all clambering over ourselves to marry or remain married to pornsick, ugly old delusional men like him? Oh he did? Phahahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:42 AM
8

That's some real skill right there! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:40 AM
34

His gaslighting 101 won't work on us, we are wise to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:37 AM
10

Okay, thanks for the insight Mr yellow teeth, good job I already never plan to get married and settle down with an aging scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:32 AM
9

Yes, Elon Musk, among others comes to mind, they love virtue signalling to help their public image.... https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/aug/14/elon-musk-tiny-home-taxes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:32 PM
6

Altruism just like charity, should begin at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:25 PM
8

I agree, I know the type and I just love it when their delusion and audacity backfires on them! Karma is a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:59 PM
55

So we are plates and also we now have to fix plates too? All this plate talk from them is getting confusing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:54 PM
4

Agreed, I'm sick of these manufactured 'stoics' and nihilists created by the manosphere and the media, they do not understand stoicism, they are just like creepy robots who can't show emotions and affection, me big strong man, must maintain frame. 😏 Do they not realise that their behaviour is really jarring and unnerving to us women when they do the fake stoic act? And don't get me started and the manosphere teaching that 'must be willing to nuke your nuclear family' mantra! If you feel that muc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:32 AM
54

"What is it? If you're such a fucking scientist I'm genuinely curious to know the gene that causes you sit in your mom's basement all day and jerk off to furry porn with your unwashed Cheeto fingers." 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:31 AM
5

Yeah because feminism is the excuse for their behaviour, when the truth is without it they would be treating us worse. Like the quote about the compass pointing north, they always point their finger at women and feminism, instead of taking accountability themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:19 AM
80

I found two articles that mention pornography with the Plymouth incel. People who knew him said he has an obsession with pornography, surprise surprise, I mean we all knew this before that was published. Were tired of men denying porn effects people, their attitude and behaviour, people at this point who are still denying and defending it are stupid. Even men on nofap and porn free admit their porn use lead to escalation and acting out in ways that violate women's rights and boundaries, some tal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:50 AM
81

sHe JuSt LaYs ThErE LiKe A sTaRfIsH bRo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:58 PM
251

Yes, it's all about power and control, stemming from insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:55 PM
189

They want a virgin who fucks like a porn star and has no boundaries, a unicorn basically. So they resolve to have a 'wholesome' woman and masturbate over 'sluts', denying the reality that a 'slut' can also be a 'wholesome' women and a 'wholesome' woman can also be a 'slut', because that's too painful a thought for them. Notice how a man can be both a 'slut' and 'wholesome' and respected. I've been categorised as both 'slut' and 'wholesome' by different men, it's all about perspective and based o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:04 PM
46

I was thinking exact same! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:40 PM
54

Came here to say, the more out of the man's league the woman is or the man perceives her to be, the more he treats her like shit. It's scrote gaslighting and victim blaming 101.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:38 PM
27

Praised fucking be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:07 AM
10

Hehe! "Try and get it as low down the shaft as possible ladies, don't forget to stamp on them so they can't be sewn back on."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:48 AM
79

Literally I was just thinking this, to me these men are all the same and all our enemy, no matter what religion or country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:34 AM
148

What your breaking up with me over something so little? Besides I wAs OnLy JoKiNg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:32 AM
71

She is an object...but she is alive with emotion...he is human...but she is inhuman. Bullshit by Paco RaMAN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:45 PM
17

Jordan Peterson should be 'given' to them all and passed around them, since he set them all off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:39 PM
432

'There are tons of men who would enjoy a life in The Handmaid’s Tale.' Blessed be the fruit loops
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:28 PM
204

Why does gay marriage bother them so much when they're so obsessed with impressing other men but utterly hate women with a passion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:11 PM
27

Other men who care so much about their lack of sex should buy them for the poor men, even better they could dress up as women and offer themselves as they are so passionate about this cause. 👗💄👠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:54 PM
53

He's been on some redpill forums that recommend lying about your career to attract 'plates'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:50 PM
82

If that happens, all the handmaid's could plot to offer a blowjob to the husband's and bite their dicks off completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:37 PM
177

If society gave women to these men, they'd either kill the men or themselves. They should know by now that their ideas always backfire on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:32 PM
148

They want you to fawn all over them and treat them as a prize and be seductive right of the bat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:41 AM
19

They invented the patriarchy, romance, porn, manosphere manipulation and abuse tactics, etc etc, they all end up backfiring on them. Maybe if they stopped trying to find ways to manipulate, control us and keep us down, they won't be so mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:39 AM
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Yeah and all the 'what about the poor autistic men who need porn and prostitution', did anyone ever stop to think that it's highly likely a large number of women in porn and prostitution have undiagnosed autism and have been failed by the system and can't hold down a job and have no support network? Did they ever stop and think many of these women have other undiagnosed conditions? I spoke to a female GP who said rates of bipolar and cptsd/PTSD are high among women caught up in the sex industry.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:47 AM
46

I've dated someone with a lower income and got subjected to manipulation and mind games because of their insecurity. I have never told a man to 'man up'. Women have the right to refuse to date men who they feel will only bring them down and put them in a situation of sacrificing and compromising for nothing. Some men will only date women with big boobs or are a certain size and other shallow reasons. Realistically I couldn't date down anyway at the moment because I earn so little myself, I could…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:39 AM
8

Brilliant! I've got to the point where I'm not even scared anymore, I'm that rilled up if any of these entitled nut jobs try it with me, I'll flip full on psycho myself and fight these fuckers to the death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:01 PM
6

Yes, all of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:28 PM
7

👆This too👆👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:26 PM
14

👆This👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:44 PM
56

Sex will not stop him being violent and full of hate, it will just make him more entitled to more of the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:08 PM
67

Yeah, they say prostitutes stop men going out and raping and murdering other women, why don't we have some kind of remembrance Day for all these women who've sacrificed their mental and physical health and sometimes even their lives, to stop men from raping and murdering women. Aren't these women then in fact not sluts, but heroes? Saving the general public from men's 'muh biology'. But we all know this is a lie and proves men hate and do horrible things to women regardless of whether we do what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:05 PM
101

"shouse boy" I just choked on my drink!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:29 AM
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Online radicalisation, delusional porn, misogyny and lad culture. There are other factors, but those factors effect many women too and women don't then go around killing people because they believe they can't get laid or can't f**k a porn star or life didn't turn out how they'd hoped. There are women with long-term illness who's partner left them when they became sick, these women don't go on revenge killing sprees. I know several women who want to settle down and have kids, but they're just up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:38 AM
13

Yes I've learned from it, to stay further away from men, because I don't know which ones secretly hold these kinds of beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:53 AM
82

This is not even 50/50, women are being exploited in these situations, no wonder the birth rates declining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:50 AM
137

I love this, we really don't need to prove ourselves to these bitter men, please just leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:46 AM
28

Better start practicing my eager to please men, but clearly not a genuinely happy woman smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:43 AM
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I do think they are worse than the traditional misogynists, they are bombarded with radicalisation material via the internet. For too long even the likes of Facebook have allowed hate speech about women, yet quickly removed anything they deemed offensive to men that was nowhere near as bad. There was a Facebook page dedicated to misogyny and rape fantasies, that was not removed, a woman posted 'i hate men' on it and it was removed and I think she was banned from Facebook. It seems like literally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:37 PM
83

I just think they're vile. I remember all the lads at school thinking it was funny to go around beating up prostitutes on grand theft auto. Also it's so immature, I'd prefer a man who's into being outdoors and doing adult things. I know not all computer games are violent, but I've just never been into them and it would totally turn me off if a grown man was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:31 PM
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This is contributing to/fuelling incels, manosphere types and just men in general hating their mothers, regardless of whether she stays with the dad or not. Also the way some dad's encourage porn use and objectification of women. The way my exes dad spoke about women was vile. No wonder him and his brother were misogynistic porn addicts. I also read the article on guardian recently, entitled 'the knock', basically saying how there's an increase of father's being arrested for possessing images of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:20 PM
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I read an article recently about a young lad who sexually assaulted and attacked women and children on their way to school in the UK, he actually told the police he was motivated by pornography and wanted to act out what he'd seen online. Literally none of the big mainstream news outlets reported this. I'll find the article and link below this comment shortly. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/teenager-thornton-heath-attacks-porn-london-stabbing-crime-b946198.html%3famp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:41 PM
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The reporter on channel 4 news was saying it is terrorism and should be classed as such. The two men being interviewed didn't seem to want to call it that, probably because it's a white man and muh penis and all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:07 PM
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I know, women are just expected to put up with all the hatred and not speak out about it. Men can say whatever they want about women, criticize us, express hatred, laugh about rape and encourage it and promote violence and abuse etc and we are expected to keep quiet while nothing is done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:03 PM
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It didn't surprise me, I knew this was coming and I just knew it was an incel last night when the details had not been released.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:49 PM
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I'm not, I just watched the report on this on channel 4 news and there was a lot of focus on the gun license. I hate guns and personally don't think there's any reason for the general public to be allowed them. But the fact is he would have used something else if a gun wasn't available, acid, a car, a knife, etc. They did talk about the online extremism and promoting hatred of women as well and Laura Bates was on. She spoke of how online manosphere misogyny and extremism isn't being taken seriou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:46 PM
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I agree and wish men would do the same, I wouldn't want anyone to stay around just because they are too afraid to leave. I hate the thought of stringing someone along and vise versa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:38 PM
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God forbid a woman is aroused! How dare you enjoy your sex you whores! Edit I just looked Ben Shapiro up and saw what he'd said about Cardi B, I'm not a fan of hers at all and I get sick of all the sexualisation in the media from and of both men and women, but it's clear men only hate sexualisation when it's a sexualised man or the sexualised woman has agency and is making a ton of money out of it. They can't stand the fact women are just as sexual as men too. They want women to be sexualised on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:23 PM
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And iF wOmEn DidN't Go FoR bAd BoYs, they love victim blaming. Yet they are actively part of or at least benefit from the culture of deceiving and lying to women, pretending to be a 'nice guy' to get the woman. Many men who do awful things to women are seen as kind respectable men amongst society. Another example of this defence and victim blaming, is the 'she asked for it', if a woman was wearing a skirt when she got raped, someone recently made a perfect point how a man in a kilt who was raped…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:18 PM
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I missed that bit, yes sounds like manipulation. I'm sure the vagina being permanently less tight after giving birth is a myth, but men look for anything to blame women for their insecurities or to manipulate and sexually coerce women to their advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:54 PM
19

True, maybe he couldn't even get women before and was hooking up with men, hence his obsession with anal because it's almost as tight as his death grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:39 PM
54

As if the man would stay celibate if the tables were turned! I hope she leaves him, he chose porn, let him live with his choice and go live your life how you please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:35 PM
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Quite easily , it's all about perspective, is my vagina not tight enough or is your penis not large enough and been subjected to the death grip? Edit As a woman who has given birth, I can also say my vagina retained its originally tightness soon after giving birth, so it also poses the question, is this man pestering her for sex too soon, whilst her body is still recovering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:27 PM
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I agree, whilst some may truly have poor mental health or even mental illness and this in some cases may come into play, it's not actually the cause, otherwise women would be responsible for as many of these types of crimes. Rampant unchecked misogyny and entitlement are the big defining factors between why men carry out these atrocities compared to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:04 PM
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Typical daily fail! Whilst mental health services could be improved vastly, there never used to be any support available and mental illness was not talked about and swept under the carpet, so how does the daily fail explain the increase of this violence despite more mental health awareness and services?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:09 PM
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Unchecked male entitlement + unchecked misogyny + hours spent on online manosphere groups + hours spent on access to unlimited free violent and sexist pornography + unrealistic beauty and lifestyle standards in the media + unchecked poor mental health and/or hidden disabilities + lack of (meaningful) purpose/direction in life. Many women also greatly suffer with the last three and in some cases porn addiction (although porn addiction in women is more likely to lead to them allowing harm to thems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:54 PM
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I wouldn't have apologised, I would have laughed my ass off at him. I would not be at all ashamed or embarrassed, he's the skank riffling through trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:42 PM
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I'm going to hazard a guess at the number of woman on this sub that 'cold approach' young men, especially barley legal teenage boys and approaching them online, negging, manipulating and gaslighting them for sex. Okay here goes, so I reckon it's 0? So remind me what are the similarities between us and pua?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:56 AM
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Respect, kindness, integrity, generosity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:42 AM
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They are also admitting that having a relationship or sex with a woman who's 'hit the wall', means they are using her as a placeholder or for sex or shared living costs and as a bangmaid and a free carer, while they search for or try to play around with younger women. This is why FDS is so important to filter these men out, if he wanted to he would. I'd much rather be single, than be with a man that doesn't want to so he won't, because it speaks volumes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:40 AM
52

And what's the cut off age for sperm donors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:38 AM
60

It's a joke, I just stay away from men, because I know once you get stuck in a relationship with someone abusive, there's little support, I feel like it's safer and healthier to avoid relationships with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:35 PM
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It's also full of pornsick gaslighters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:08 PM
152

Divorce him and wish him all the best on his pedo adventure and in finding a 17 year old who wants his crusty old ass. Put following reason in divorce petition: 'husband wishes I looked like a 17 year old'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:01 PM
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I think this is what my ex did and it backfired on him, I told him I wanted a divorce and that he doesn't care about me, he said people are selfish, I said well I'm going to be selfish from now on. He was reading stoicism books, which after leaving him I discovered were recommend by pua, redpill etc, so it's very likely he was doing it all deliberately. I had no idea about manosphere until I researched shit he'd been doing after I left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:42 PM
11

I'm imagining old men fighting with their Zimmer frames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:50 PM
39

and cRaZy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:48 PM
19

You've summed up the situation perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:47 PM
36

It's pure cringe 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:14 PM
78

That's true, I just thought of the expression 'i wouldn't kick her of bed for farting'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:38 AM
111

Yes, do as I say, not as I do! I recently read an article on the conversation website. It was by a man, he spoke about why objectification of men is bad, what about the objectification of women, which is way more prevalent. I thought about messaging him and asking what his thoughts were on pornography were, I actually agree with him about objectification of men, but I wonder if it extends to women. They hate it when the tables are turned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:02 AM
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Whenever I see 'nerdy shy guy', I shudder and think of my ex who turned out to secretly be a grubby sick 'troomer', he hated women so much, he thought he could be a better one, laughable! I could never give a shy nerdy guy a chance again, your never know what weird creepy shit they hide behind their 'nice guy' exterior. Edit I refer to the autogynephiliac men, who are purely motivated by arousal, their hatred for women and their hours of watching sissy Hypno porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:48 AM
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Next time this happens don't beg for him to change or tell him it bothers you, they won't change, they either hide it and/or gaslight the hell out of you. Just walk away, you don't even owe him an explanation. He sounds like an imbecilic douch canoe, congratulations on freeing yourself from this loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:26 AM
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If I had a secret account dedicated to a fetish of the torture and sexual abuse of men, I would totally understand why a male partner would be disgusted, not want to have sex with me or even touch me again and leave me and want nothing to do with me upon finding it. I always think if the shoe was on the other foot, would men be happy and tolerate it? And would I respect a man who did tolerate it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:35 AM
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'Thousands of guys were retweeting it.' When I hear this kind of thing, I always have a vision of Darwin laughing in his grave in disbelief, at how sad and pathetic these coomer devolutionary men have become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:19 AM
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I agree, I would run in the opposite direction too. I don't know if you or anyone else as noticed this as well, but over the years I've noticed in some places I've worked, there is a particular subtype of charismatic man. I've noticed often short and/or balled men can adopt the charismatic persona and use it to attract girls/women for attention and ego boost, but reject their advances, but still encourage them. I get the impression they never did well with girls at school or even women when they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:14 PM
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Good for you walking away, I'd have done the same. I wouldn't have told him why though, I would not have even mentioned the women he follows, as he may just hide it from the next girl now. Once I see that stuff I'm off the man, he has no integrity or respect for women as far as I'm concerned and wouldn't even want to waste my breath explaining the reason to him anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:23 PM
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"He was very good about making people become incredibly in love with him". This is the conclusion I've come to with charismatic men, I work in a college and notice some are drawn to teaching for this reason, it's the perfect scenario, all those doting young impressionable young women looking up to them and idolising them. Edit There as also been an incidence of a tutor sending an unsolicited dick pick to a female student, she was a mature student, but still. Nothing has been done about it, becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:17 PM
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I'm so wary of charismatic men, they are usually not what they seem and good at putting on a good front, so they can enjoy the power and popularity, in a subtle 'guy everyone looks up to' kind of way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:14 PM
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Urgh, it's a libfems wet dream!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:36 AM
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They are causing their own perceived problems, it's quite simple, all they need to do is stop using women for sex or as place holders and stop the lying, coercion and manipulation, stop sleeping with other men's wives and girlfriends and cheating on their own wives and girlfriends, there problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:36 PM
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The more they get, the more entitled they become. Men say porn and prostitution stop men raping and killing women, we know it's complete bs and the opposite is happening and so many rapes go unreported as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:35 AM
47

Would you say that's related to the hipster culture there? Apparently it's the hipster capital of the world, or so I read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:32 AM
185

Just another case of the lose/lose reality of being a woman, where were constantly set up with no win situations. It highlights how men blame us and hate us no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:22 AM
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And ironically the men who look up to these characters watch degrading porn, not knowing if the participants really wanted to take part. They just like to convince themselves they are noble, but really they are not, they just want the glory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:14 AM
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I came to say exact same thing! His head goes straight into his body, just like bungle from rainbow. He clearly has not been working hard. Bet he has a gaming chair shaped behind too, it's like his whole body is melting into that gaming chair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:37 PM
111

I love how they always have a selfish ulterior motive disguised by a honourable guise, they are good at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:55 PM
105

Are these the same ones who claim to be environmentalists, despite driving all over on their road trips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:53 PM
44

He looks like a complete douche canoe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:54 PM
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Ah yes we've all been there haven't we ladies, it was marrows for me though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:12 AM
9

‘When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:09 AM
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Yeah she's being so controling, the kindest thing she could do is let him be free, separate and let him go it alone so he can pursue his dream of playing video games and watching porn all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:07 AM
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"relationships are ruined by expectations". Wow your so right, it's so refreshing to finally meet a man who doesn't expect sex or anything else from me, I'm glad we can just be friends. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:03 AM
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I don't think I'd be a good health care professional, because I'd just laugh and think serves you right you sad sick little pornsick pervert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:51 AM
11

Just shows what sick twisted nasty little bitter bastards they are. People who want to harm animals are are scum, then they wonder why women don't want to date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 06:44 AM
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Patrick: Aaarggggghhhh....let me at that dry wall....argghh...I'm gonna punch a hole in it...arghhhhh! Us: Patrick calm down, your not thinking things through, who's going to repair the hole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:38 AM
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This is one of the things I love most about no longer living with a man, there's none of that crap in my house. I'm very selective about what TV shows, films I watch and books I read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:14 AM
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I think men's behaviour is influenced by the media too, whenever I hear 'ride or die', I just think someone's been watching too much fast and the furious and thinks they're Mr Vin potato head diesel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:10 AM
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They secretly want us to say, aw don't give up on women and chase them and prove not all 'women are bad', so they don't have to put any work in or give anything back. It reminds me of when I was a child and I used to imagine running away from home with one of those sticks over my shoulder, with the scarf tied to it, filled with just a few personal effects. I remember thinking, yeah I'll run away from home, then you'll be sorry and come after me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:05 AM
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The apron strings are still attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:17 PM
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"Many of us also "pick" which man we are attracted to, as in we don't naturally feel chemistry or attraction with them, we literally chose to like them. But deep down something always feels off or wrong. Our fantasies about the future often don't include men, or at least not a specific man." I feel like I could have written this! Also the picking who to like, I also feel like I have sometimes responded to some men who like me (within reason) and reciprocated, but I don't think I'm actually reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:10 PM
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They missed off 'I'm committing emotional incest'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:39 PM
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Their sons will be saying 'women have life on easy mode', before they've even left her womb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:14 PM
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She gets to continue to pretend they are in a happy relationship filled with mutual love and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:11 PM
179

That smile tells me she's dying inside, but she's deeply in the denial phase and using 'humor' and joking about the situation as a coping mechanism to mask her true feelings. That's the smile of a woman who will end up institutionalised under the mental health act, if she doesn't stop living a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:59 PM
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Seriously, these men who play devils advocate just for the fun of being insensitive, gaslighting and abusive, might as well be wearing a sign around their necks saying 'I'm an insecure loser filled with rage because of my PIED'. I know because my ex played DA and he was insecure and had PIED. He'd get really salty about his ex who worked in the same field as him, but was doing better at her career then. He got salty about this man on countdown, because his ex fancied him, he'd get salty about ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:46 PM
291

I don't hear 'sex work is empowering' from him, but it's there, I feel it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:19 PM
28

Men rate women on a scale of one to ten, if they can't take it, they shouldn't dish it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:11 AM
30

Pahaha sounds like his mum loved and praised him too much! Nawh special little handsome soldier breaking all those hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:08 AM
202

I'll never have it, if men don't like the way I look as I age, that's fine, not wasting my money pandering to pornsick pedo scrotes, I'd take more pleasure in being an aesthetic nuisance to them, rather than wasting my time, energy and money trying to be more visually appealing to them. I'm growing old gracefully, they can like it or not, I don't care what they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:59 AM
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Yeah, anything where they are in a position of power, authority or supposedly in a position to help vulnerable people. Case and point, just yesterday I read an article about mostly middle aged men working for samaritans, who are meeting/luring vulnerable, mentally ill and suicidal women for sex, who have contacted samaritans for help and support in desperation. Vile disgusting vultures.... 'A leaked memo is said to have warned a ‘specific demographic’ of ‘middle-aged men’ volunteering as call ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:47 AM
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Love this! My cat loves me the way i am, he's the most HV male I've ever met! No one's perfect though and he has been an asshole on a couple of rare occasions, but at least he was an honest asshole, no mask, no love bombing, no games, his love is real! 😍 Plus he doesn't watch porn, sports or gratuitous blokey films, that glamorise and trivialise violence, rape and the objectification of women. He's the only male I've been able share my bed with and still have an amazing night's sleep, he follows…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:12 AM
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This has happened to me very recently, my high sex drive gradually reduced the last year or so and this greatly accelerated the past couple of months to an almost non existent sex drive. I think it's a combination of working on my self and processing trauma and just thinking about the way men are now, in the over sexualised culture we live in and how porn for me has ruined sex. I feel good though, I feel more in control, stable and just content, I'd be happy for it to stay this way. I was never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:15 AM
26

My ex made me out to be evil when I 'kicked him out', although technically I didn't kick him out, I was leaving the place we rented, I'd rented it years before he moved in and I said fine stay, I can ask the landlord to put it in your name and you can take over all the utilities, he quickly changed his tune. His parents had a spacious house in a village they weren't living in, that he could go to at anytime. In fact he threatened me when I suggested him getting a job when self employment wasn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:03 AM
107

It's amazing how your anxiety disappears once you leave them and had time to process things. I had colleague compliment how well I look, she also said she's never seen me so happy in myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:46 AM
47

I discovered gransnet recently, all those women who kept a man all those years are not benefiting from it. Some are so lonely with grumpy porn addict old men, but feel too old and scared to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:56 PM
77

Sadly this does not surprise me and I suspect it's more common than people realise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:52 PM
19

Haha the legends that will never die! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:34 PM
92

Haha, this is precisely why I hate that dolly parton song 'jolene', ultimate pickme song! Personally I think she should have let Jolene have her man and walked away with her head held high, and we all know Jolene would chew him up, spit him out and then wash her hands of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:19 PM
117

I'm sick of this glorifying men doing irrationality risky and dangerous things, that are merely a vanity project.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:42 PM
68

I wonder, do they also not wash themselves until they visibly see dirt on themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:35 PM
130

I had a 'friend' tell me 'you could do a lot worse', when I left my first husband. Needless to say I'm no longer friends with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:19 PM
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I think you kind of are being stolen from if your relationship is unfulfilling and your needs aren't being met, your time is valuable and precious, it should not be wasted on people who don't treasure you or don't make you feel loved, it is like being robbed. Edit I'm tired of the person who leaves because their needs weren't being met, being blamed, when the person they were with had treated them as disposable and taken them for granted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:07 PM
12

So true, I'm glad I can now spot them a mile off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:26 PM
57

The fact he talked about the climate a lot and "He didn’t have a car—for environmental reasons, he vowed to never own one—so I drove us there after our shift". Typical woke environmental scrote, really he doesn't drive because he can't afford it and doesn't want to have any responsibility, but uses environmental concerns as a guise. If he really cared about the environment as much as he claims, he would have declined the lift in her polluting car and walked there to meet her. I bet he doesn't bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:13 PM
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Exactly, they really would! I think the alpha fucks beta bucks, is actually the male mentality and they are projecting it on us. And who wants to be pitty dated or pitty fucked, I'd rather be celibate for the rest of my life than sleep with a man who isn't really attracted to me, but can't pull anyone better, mutual attraction is my kink. The saddest part is, some of the men who are physically attracted to larger or older women, are too cowardly and brainwashed by society and the media, to dare …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:28 AM
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Oh god, I read a couple of articles yesterday, by men, why some men prefer to date bigger women and another, why some men prefer to date old women. None of the reasons were flattering to these women they referred to, they were all shallow and selfish reasons, it was shit like they are more grateful for the attention, they don't have the expectations of younger/slim women or expect the man to pay for dates and they are more eager to please. It was actually offensive to these women and shows how s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:47 AM
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I want to stick things in the women's toilets of the college I work at, I'm saving a collection of things and when I leave I plan to plaster the toilets, this was one of them, it's the urban dictionary definition of pornsick and it's my second husband to a tea... https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Porn+Sick&amp=true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:04 AM
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I remember saying I can't wait till society is boomer free to my ex, then I felt mean and bad for saying it, but it's just how I felt at that moment. The reason I said it, was on the news they showed an old man's reaction to Brexit and he said ecstatically and tearfully 'I got my country back', I just thought this is the generation that call us entitled, this man thinks the UK belongs to him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:01 AM
60

Yes, this is her instincts trying to warn her that this man is using her as place holder and gaslighting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:23 AM
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I think many of them want women to be needy and make women like that with gaslighting, to boost their ego, have control/power and make a point of complaining about it to other people, to make themselves look desired and strong. It's similar to people who need people to need them because really deep down they desperately need you and then they act the martyr. Edit Some men will say their girlfriend or wife is 'needy' to women to appear more desirable to them and if they are interested in that wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 08:50 AM
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I agree, I do believe it does happen. The men on Reddit however, I don't believe most of them, we know what pornsick, misogynistic manipulators most of the men on Reddit are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:53 AM
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When a man says 'all my exes cheated' I automatically think he's the cheater, when they say 'all my exes were crazy, I automatically think he's the crazy one and a gaslighting 'crazymaker'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:49 AM
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"Stonewalling. Sitting there with a blank or smug expression until she starts screaming for answers. Now she's the perp." Yep, this is what narcissists and redpillers (although redpillers are also narcs usually) do, they emotionally abuse in a subtle and manipulative way to get a reaction and then claim your the abusive one. I distinctly remember my ex husband once said 'why don't you react' and I realised he was deliberately and calculatedly pushing my buttons, in the hope I would flip out. Edi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:18 AM
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Yeah based on my own experience I'm really sceptical about most men who claim to be in abusive relationships, I believe some genuinely are, but I think very rare and I certainly don't believe these redditors especially, considering they are all porn addicts and will most likely be well aware of redpill and other abusive manipulation tactics. My ex husband said I got moody when he went out with his friends and said it was me being controlling. The reason I was annoyed was that he'd do very little…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:13 AM
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But why would I have my own baby, when there are lots of homeless cats waiting to be adopted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:05 PM
23

Isn't it amazing how men and the powers that be shoot themselves in the foot. It's good for the environment I guess, but bad for the aging population. Who will look after all the old men? Weren't many girls aborted or killed because of the one child policy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:03 PM
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You just reminded me, I'm sure I recently read something about a meme going round saying Vladimir Putin hired Boyz to men to perform, in a bid to encourage the population to reproduce, in an effort to tackle the falling birth rate. I'm not sure it's true, but it made me chuckle and then made feel cringe at the thought of people having sex to music. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:50 PM
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I was married to a compulsive masturbator/porn addict....shudder, it's like living with a purpetual teenager, in fact that's offensive to teenagers. And he was upset I ruled out having kids with him! I said but who will do all the hard work and looking after them, me! Then he just dejectedly and admittedly said yeah that's true. At least he was honest for once, credit it to him for that. Edit I'm convinced some of them only want kids to trap the woman into being his mummy too and hope they'll ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 12:06 PM
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I agree, I've heard this and about some men also, however most men seem compulsive porn viewers these days. Women also have a tendency to use sex work as a maladaptive coping mechanism and form of self harm. I think more often than not, porn addiction whether it's the man or woman in a relationship, often has bad consequences for the woman in the relationship, as most porn is male centered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:57 AM
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Haha! There's this awful avert on TV in the UK at the moment for yogurt on a stick, there's something disturbing about it, a) because it's gross food and b) It just makes me think of men's floppy pornsick limp dicks. Then I imagine they are subliminaly trying to indoctrinate us into believing floppy is good, because they know it's easier to change our mind set than men's depravity. I know I'm thinking about this advert way too deeply, but that's how my mind works now after being married to a por…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:11 AM
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I was just going to say, well at least perhaps incidences of rapes could go down because of their limp dicks, but then I thought no because they are more likely to get aroused by rape than consensual sex, if they are masturbating over rape and extreme and violent stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:07 AM
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Also I think the fact porn is from men's perspective and centers men's pleasure and fetishists men's anger at and hatred of women maybe comes into play. Men often use the argument, what about porn where the man is abused and humiliated, but that porn is also made by men for men, it's not what women want. I think most women are better at reading between the lines and recognising the awful aspects of the porn industry, the scenes and facial expressions in front of them, but also thinking more subj…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:52 AM
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I know women can get just as addicted as men, but it seems like less women watch porn and out of those that do, less become addicted to it. I've read that when women view porn, it's less likely to have a negative impact on her relationship, compared to men using porn. There are numerous articles about this study, but I've linked the first one that came up. So studies find that porn use has a negative impact on men's relationship satisfaction... https://www.bustle.com/p/watching-porn-has-no-effec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:39 AM
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That's the problem, he's got too much of a grip already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:05 AM
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If I was one of these pornsick men who couldn't get it up because of my depraved masturbation material, I wouldn't bother getting into a relationship, I'd be too embarrassed and wouldn't subject the woman to this crap. If they really want a relationship, why don't they give up porn and get it in working order first, save themselves the embarrassment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:04 AM
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Men often think women are shit testing them or playing games, when women just simply have boundaries and standards and many men become obsessed with power in the relationship. It also always baffles me that men say women are too picky and have unrealistic standards, what? as opposed to sympathy fucking any man or treating him as a place holder, like men do with women, because that's such a nicer way to be. Women's behaviour is often perceived by men as calculating, when it's not, but women are j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:52 AM
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I have no sympathy for these men, I was exposed to porn against my wishes by older lads and sexualised stuff in the media, but I didn't then chose to seek it out and get addicted to it. They've brought it on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:41 AM
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Then shame her, calling her 'crazy'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:27 AM
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Personally if I was experiencing mental health problems, I wouldn't be looking for a partner, I wouldn't want to put that burden or responsibility on someone else and also I would feel too vulnerable and want to work on myself. It's different If your already a couple and the mental health problems come later, as long as the person admits there is a problem and seeks help and uses coping mechanisms that aren't harmful to the other person, such as unhealthy addictions. I'm not writing people with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:03 PM
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I would hazard a guess at Sweden and maybe other Nordic countries?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:51 PM
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'They were raving about how it's not fair that girls only look at looks.' Meanwhile they liked her for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:12 PM
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I've always had that expect the relationship to end at some point perspective, it makes you keep analysing what your getting out of the relationship as well. I'm always willing to walk away and never look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:37 PM
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I'm like this, I have innattentive add, so out of sight, out of mind for me. I can't remember hardly anything about being with my last husband or the being with the first one (with the exception of some of the shity behaviour from both and signs of pornsickness in last one) I guess my brain thinks its useful to remember that to better protect myself in the future) I love that about my brain, nah nothing worth remembering, delete all files. It's brilliant! Also I'm sure I'm mildly aspie, so if so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:04 AM
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I think being the Madonna is just as degrading as being the whore to these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:33 PM
35

They might like being financially dominated, if they don't try they'll never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:18 PM
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Probably, same with men who fetishize petite women and Asian women and men who are obsessed with neat tiny vaginas with 0 pubic hair and grossed out by any pubic hair. Edit Also at the other end of spectrum (men who fetishize the curvy/busty look can influence women), I don't know if this is true, but I read something that said breast implants originated from prosthetics for men injured in war, which were tested on prostitutes (can't remember which country), so they tested the materials in their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:41 PM
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There is no way of determining or proving if any porn is ethical. Even if you had a conversation with the porn stars staring in it, what they say and what is actually going on in their head could be totally different things and trauma works in strange ways. I worked as a lap dancer, all the women I spoke to said they'd rather not do it, they did it for various reasons, financial difficulty, mental health problems that meant they couldn't hold down a regular job, etc etc. Sex workers aren't going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:56 PM
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And I guess it stays hard, unlike his actual penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:48 PM
31

This kind of thing is putting women of all ages off sex and men completely, it's awful and disgusting, men who do stuff like that are vile pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:45 PM
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I know, my ex wanted me to do degrading things to him, they think it's okay to ask us to do painful or degrading things to them because it's not harming us, but it does harm us. No healthy person desires to inflict pain or humiliation on others or coerce others to do it to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:46 PM
61

Lack of empathy is a big one and not just in the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:00 PM
34

My last husband used incognito mode all the time on his laptop and phone. He'd be forever in the bathroom but not had a poo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:57 PM
21

If a man tried choking me, I'd nut him or punch him or knee him his balls hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:55 PM
62

Lack of kissing yes, I forgot to say that. My last husband never kissed me, certainly not leading up to or during sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:52 PM
125

I hate 'dirty talk' and 'sexting', the only dirty talk a man will hear form me is the pots need washing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:48 PM
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That's exactly what it's like, yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:46 PM
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Oh god I'd never let a man cum on my face, I agree it's just vile and disrespectful. I just thought of rimming as well, god I'd never ever lick a man's bum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:45 PM
63

My second husband had a creepy smirky grin, it's so obvious now. Makes me shudder thinking about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:38 PM
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Yes dead eyes, I swear I'm getting better and better at detecting pornsick men. I guessed my neighbour was pornsick just by his face and eyes, after thinking that, a female neighbour I talk to who's friends with his wife, told me his wife told her she'd found animal porn on his laptop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:22 PM
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Squirting is all visual and ego stroking for the pornsick male, they think the woman is in ecstacy if she squirts. I squirted once, the guy was determined to try it and I gave in, it wasn't pleasurable for me. I told him it was a rubbish experience. Pretty sure it's been proven it's mostly pee that comes out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:16 PM
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They always use that tactic, 'i'll teach you', as if your lacking a valuable skill that's beneficial to you and you'll be grateful. 😂 I squirted once, it was rubbish and gave me cystitis. Ladies your not missing anything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:12 PM
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Oh god I hate that finger in the mouth shit! I'd say no eye contact, looking away, closing eyes a lot and obsession with positions where they can't see your face feeling of disconnect. This can be because porn has taught them to objectify you, but also because they are totally in their own head replaying porn to stay aroused. Fear of intimacy/avoidance of intimacy Jackhammering (personally I think hard sex can be nice with someone I trust, but not porn style jackhammering and definitely not wher…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:58 PM
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If he's one of those that enjoys receiving pain, then bad idea, forget it, abort mission! I assumed he was one of those who enjoyed dishing out the pain and was using this event to prey on women to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:46 PM
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Is this the same episode where he describes himself as, "Musky fox. Musky, sly, old foxy stoat. Minky, musky, sly, old stoaty, stoaty, stoat."?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:35 PM
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We should all turn up in black PVC suits and be waiting in two long rows at the entrance all holding a whip each, he will have to walk between the two long rows and face the wrath of our whips if he wants to make it into the building for his seminar. It's for his own good, it will heal his trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:24 PM
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As tempting an option that is, I wouldn't want to buy anything from Benzos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:58 AM
119

Another white guy who was just having a bad day, show him some sympathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:34 AM
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Welcome to pornsick society, we hope your enjoying your stay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:03 AM
10

When this happens, sometimes I want to grab both boobs and move them together and apart again repeatedly as if they are lips talking when I speak, just to see their reaction knowing they've been busted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:30 AM
57

I was just going to say, that's a face that's seen hours and hours of violent porn, if I ever did see one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:25 AM
88

When will women realise, men don't respect their partners for forgiving them and putting up with this behaviour, they lose respect for them more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:22 AM
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Another male who's spent too long masturbating to porn and thinks everyone else is having constant porn style sex with an array of different people, then he gets sad and bitter because the real world isn't like porn for him and it's all women's fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:20 AM
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Also the other big problematic issue that I would say makes porn worse than smoking, is that it's free and that free material is accessable constantly at the click of your finger, in the comfort of your home. Can you imagine if we constantly gave cigarettes or alcohol away for free and you didn't even need to leave you house and put any effort into getting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:12 AM
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My ex was like this, the only way he could be motivated to do housework, was to turn it into a kink and some kind of porn scenario, like being a sissy maid and imagine I'm the dominant mistress making him do it and then he'd do a shit anyway. Using phrases like "chore play" = pornsick to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:54 PM
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When they must do everything in their power to avoid intimacy because they fear it, then yes, it's asking them to move heaven and earth. Don't forget many have also been conditioned from a young age to be aroused by violent and degrading acts they masturbate over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:47 PM
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Yeah, I noticed that, they don't mention the vast majority of women who make very little money for such big risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:26 PM
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I read a quote yesterday on an article about porn, it was... "porn tells lies about women, but it tells the truth about men". I'm sick of people denying porn is a problem for everyone, especially women... https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/teenager-thornton-heath-attacks-porn-london-stabbing-crime-b946198.html%3famp Edit article where I came across the quote.... https://www.prospectmagazine.co.uk/magazine/the-philosophy-of-porn-amia-srinivasan-interview
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:08 PM
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Whilst I agree no one is responsible for caring for a chronically ill person, I for one will never care for a man, which is one of the reasons I would never marry again. I feel it serves as a reminder to women, that while men will love you at your best, many will check out or even leave at your worst. To be fair this man knew she had a chronic illness when he married her, it's incredibly selfish. If people don't want any responsibility that's fine, but why marry someone. I told one of my friends…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:45 AM
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"I know I sound like a dick". No you ARE a dick. Welcome to the 'life on easy mode', that women deal with constantly. I'm never giving a man anything again, time, attention, money, sex, nothing, absolutely nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:34 AM
1

Did anyone else think they look like brother and sister in that photo sat together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:46 AM
26

He does have a smirky smug face, irritating as hell to look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:41 AM
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Yeah they know they can use the twin flame obsession and the women's sentimentality to their advantage and mess with their heads. Same with some men who pretend to be feminists or allies of feminists as a way of getting laid, they are always looking for a way in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:37 AM
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Desperate I think they call it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:30 AM
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Haha Moobs! one of my favourite words! It used to make me chuckle when my ex's dad would rant and get angry that his moobs were apparently caused by estrogen in the water. Everything's women's fault isn't it, even their bloody moobs, nothing like taking responsibility for yourself. 😂 Edit And I'll just leave this here for any scrotes who still believe women and the pill are responsible for their moobs.... "Very little of that estrogen actually makes its way into our taps, since most water-treatm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:27 AM
2

Haha brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:17 AM
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Yeah and just to add, if anyone who wants to remain celibate for a while feels the urge to have sex with men , just remember all the vile stuff they get aroused by and masturbate over and will possibly be replaying in their head during sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:21 PM
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This is how I feel, it's funny this has been posted now, because the past couple of days I've been thinking my sex drive has disappeared lately. This has never happened to me before, I've always had a high sex drive, I actually find this loss of sex drive incredibly liberating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:52 PM
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I was just going to say same thing! 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:49 PM
22

Yeah true, that's what I thought. What's scary are many of these men are considered good or 'nice guys' in society and their families, who you would never suspect of these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:20 PM
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I don't know about the legal system being better, but I just thought I'd add, I'm sure I read that the UK is one of the biggest consumers of child porn out of all the countries. Don't know if anyone else has heard this also? Edit I can't find the article, but I found one that said UK is third biggest consumer after US and Canada. And another that said Europe has overtaken US in consumption of CP and then another that contradicted, saying India, Indonesia and Thailand were biggest consumers of CP…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:41 AM
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I had a tear but they said it wasn't bad enough to stitch, that's why it was so sore everytime I had a wee. Also I had hand tremors for a few days after, I'm not sure if that was trauma or from gripping the hospital bed frame so hard for such a long time. It can be painful for some women more than others and in various ways. https://flo.health/being-a-mom/recovering-from-birth/postpartum-problems/postpartum-pains
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:23 AM
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No I just had gas and air.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:21 AM
5

He looks like a sultana with legs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:54 AM
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I bet he's one of those woe is me victim types who says women have it easy and bangs on about male suicide, (which is mostlycaused by the patriarchy and unhealthy things they do themselves).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:56 AM
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It's not uncommon for women to get PTSD from child birth. Childbirth puts women at mental and physical risk. Women are more vulnerable to mental health problems after childbirth, doesn't matter what kind of woman she is or what background she's from, it can happen to any women and women can be treated badly by a spouse and others, when the women is not at all at fault. This situation is exasperated by lvm and nvm, this is why women are right to have high standards and should never apologise, thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:06 AM
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I tell everyone who asks me the truth, it's the most horrendously painful thing that words can't explain, it's even painful after, I cried when I needed a wee, because after the first wee following the birth, I found out how painful it was. For at least a week after, I had to poor a jug of cold water down there as I need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:00 AM
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Books by women and TV by women, yes! This is what I love about not living with a man, I watch what I want, I don't watch any misogynistic or sexualised media catering to men and made by men, including films and definitely would never consume vapid tripe like love island that I hear people at work talk about! Or GOT is another one they talk about. All my friends are female, I have little contact with male relatives, I'm having time alone leveling up, so the only interaction I really have with men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:44 PM
25

There's just no helping some men, better leaving those ones to their porn, their too far gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:34 PM
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Same with Instagram female influences, a lot of the popular looks, such as the big bum, originated from porn. Men say 'instagram is just as bad as porn and the content women post', but these are influenced by porn and the women are trying to copy what appeals to men to make money. Makes me laugh when men complain about attractive women being shallow and sexualising themselves, who's creating the demand for it?...men! There's no incentive for women to be 'good women' anymore, because the men are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:15 AM
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Yes! My last husband never used his hands or touched my body, he admitted he'd consumed tons of porn from a young age and it showed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:38 AM
76

How can they work it out if he doesn't have the balls to communicate how he truly feels, typical scrote projection, now who really has the communication problem in this relationship?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:38 PM
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Pahaha! I wouldn't be at all surprised, either that or they are really depraved and perverted men using their girlfriends or some random woman's photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:34 PM
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Like he thinks he's doing her a favour! I think some scrotes do actually believe they are virtuous in these situations, he really believes financially mining her, decieving her and cheating on her, yet staying with her, is somehow doing her a favour. Keep telling yourself that scrote, who is dead and rotting on the inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:28 PM
24

If I found out a grown man I was dating had one of those 'set ups', I'd physically throw up on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:20 PM
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Men are the real gold-diggers, just read the post above this one, about the man who's no longer attracted to his girlfriend but is too much of a coward to tell her and he's also conveniently financially dependant on her. Men are the biggest fraudsters and moochers going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:13 PM
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You just know he's also being delusional about all these online 'connections' and 'relationships', even if anything materialised from them, they would soon realise he's an entitled, selfish waste of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:08 PM
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"I don't love her anymore, but I do care for her alot and want all the best for her." Lying to her about how he really feels so he can continue using her for financial security and cheating online behind her back. Yes you can really tell he cares deeply for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:01 PM
17

I watched Futurama but don't remember that episode, for some reason I only remember the episode where they send all the trash to space, but it comes back as a trash asteroid. And the scene in one episode at some kind of science convention, where the scientist has a fish called cinnamon and say's 'come along cinnamon', it aways stuck in my head. I'm going to find this wedding episode and watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:31 PM
24

Men who do this are weak cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:41 AM
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Imagine being such a lousy undesirable person, that you have to pretend to be a completely different person to be in a relationship. It's really pathetic, I'm embarrassed for these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:35 AM
74

I just tried to find it, but instead came across a video showing England football fans at a UK stadium just after a match, grown men just being hooligans, they are kicking an Asian man on the ground and one grown man punches a kid! I know there are good people here in the UK, but sometimes it feels like I live in a trash heep, filled with trash. Also I believe the football clubs and the visitors who watch the game should fully foot the bill for the police presence and public damage and littering…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:15 AM
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I used to do this with men who were unavailable, usually older, married and an authority figure. I'm convinced it's a coping mechanism, because deep down I know the reality of relationships with men is shit or disappointing at least, so I preferred the fantasy as a way of appeasing my conditioning of being made to believe I wanted/needed a man. It was an internal battle between reality and the fantasy the patriarchy promotes to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:57 AM
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I think with many of them it's just strategic incompetence and as for the ones who are genuinely that inable, god help them. These are the same men who act dumbfounded when women leave them and say things like 'good luck finding another man like me' or 'good luck surviving alone', I already am surviving alone, with dead weight to carry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:47 AM
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I always wish for England to get kicked out as soon as possible, so I don't have to keep hearing about it. My first husband lied when we met and said he didn't like football, because he knew I hated it. My revenge was to cheer on the other team whenever England were playing, to piss him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:43 AM
31

I know, who wants that kind of drama in their life, so illogical, irrational, dramatic and attention seeking, the way they roll around crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:40 AM
35

"If we were in the Stone Age, Beckham would be too vain and slow and we’d get eaten alive by a mammoth." I pissed myself laughing! Ha ha ha! If they would rather watch football than be at their child's birth, then they don't deserve a wife/gf or kids. Women should let them be free to alone with their football and beer forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:37 AM
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Some men's obsession with formula 1 makes me laugh the most, it strikes me as an elitist "sport", that only rich kids have the privilege of being involved in. Then you get all these men sat watching it and listening to the awful annoying noise and wishing they were that spoiled bratty rich kid, whizzing around the track and getting all the hot girls. It's pathetic, like the way some men wish they were James Bond. They could be actively trying to do something with their lives and win things thems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 07:34 AM
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Someone needs to make a meme that says men are stoic and a collage of pictures of men's reactions to England losing, men punching holes in the wall, men having road rage....etc...etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:49 AM
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It's such basic behaviour, I hate the way British people behave in regards to football, it's embarrassing and makes me ashamed to be British. Same with how some of them behave abroad as well, like disgusting larger lout hooligans, makes me cringe. The way they react when their team loses is so pathetic, dramatic and laughable, like did you just suddenly lose your job, home, wife and life savings or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:46 AM
6

Or a nest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:29 AM
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Omg mine would start helping me for 5 mins and then either casually sneak off or say he was tired and leave me to do it alone. The experience was good though, when we separated and I bought my own place, I put together a 3 door wardrobe and moved it into position by myself. Oh yes and he was the "sensitive" and "artistic" type pft useless! Claims to be a feminist, but as the meme says all the misogyny of previous generations, minus any practical skills and motivation. First husband would get ang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:23 AM
6

You can't write a manifesto about what a loser you are and then end with a contradictory statement like 'good luck finding another man like me'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:20 AM
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But the porn consumers are biased towards the fake information and articles that defend porn. It's like the tobacco industry, when the science was coming out about the harms of tobacco, those with an hidden agenda were paying people to produce propaganda to defend the tobacco industry. People love living in denial and lap it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:12 AM
17

My ex was the whole graph, minus the gym bro part. Performative woke sensitive nerd, narcissistic, emotionally distant manipulator and porn addict. But he was skinny and hated the gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:07 AM
31

Wanking and crying hahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:18 AM
182

It's like incels and nerds, they moan that no woman will give them a chance, but if they get a girl they soon moan she's not as hot as the women they fap over and one woman is not enough, because they want to be like a 'Chad' with multiple women. The entitlement of some of these virgin and quasi virgin incel types is off the charts, giving them what they want only makes them more entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:21 PM
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My girlfriend performed sex acts she didn't really feel comfortable with, with other men, now she has developed self esteem and boundaries and knowing I can't degrade her the way other men have is destroying my fragile ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:05 PM
23

"Name one thing on this planet that requires no work or effort but has results?" Fapping to porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:17 PM
126

Him admitting there was a honeymoon phase is the same as him admitting he conned you with the old bait and switch tactic, the only difference is he knows you'll leave sooner if he explains it the second way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:21 PM
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Intermittent reinforcement made her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:03 PM
53

Perhaps she was exposed to some kind of patriarchal Hollywood propaganda at a young and impressionable age, such as the film Curly Sue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:48 PM
23

Ah the buttcrumb post, lest we forget! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:42 PM
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I'm afraid it's too late, it's already melted down in the earth's outer core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:30 PM
43

Exactly, I bet he calls his mates who were on the European trip with him and they all laugh about it and the woman behind her back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:51 PM
115

Stoic men don't hug, must maintain frame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:56 PM
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He actually looked proud about the chicken, that was the only time his eyes lit up, I don't even think he's a genuine homeless person, I think he just gets a kick out of being a freeloader who refuses to conform to society and seeing what he can get away with, and happens to have mummy issues, so he gets an added bonus kick out of freeloading and juping naive women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:53 PM
25

Ditto, and the presenters and daytime TV in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:47 PM
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Because they would rather just pay the homeless woman £10 to jizz on her face and tell themselves they did a good deed. Why buy the homeless cow, when you can exploit and degrade her and have a power trip for next to nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:44 PM
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Interesting that his European trip ended abruptly due to running out of money, in Amsterdam of all places, I wonder what it was in Amsterdam that he wasted all his money on? She's clearly smitten with him too, I can't see any warmth from him towards her, his eyes look a bit dead to me. I wonder if he even has any respect for her? Out of interest, does anyone have any stories of men who've built women in this way? I'm sure there are some examples, but the internet and media are filled with exampl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:38 PM
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"immature coward huffing, puffing and stonewalling"...I'm glad I never to deal with this again! I'm the same, I'll never do the cooking, cleaning, buying things for them and other wifey benefits again. I know they say you should never give to receive (I still have this attitude with family and female friends up to a point, within reason and dependant on my situation), but with men I've done so much giving in the past, financially, physically, emotionally and mentally. I feel ready to be the rece…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:19 AM
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Exactly, I turned cold in the end and kind of became shallow, I started thinking well if this is the way men are, mean, heartless cold and witholding, I may as well have a transactional approach to relationships, my attitude of this was the opposite to this when I met him, I was the giver with very little recipriocracy. If men are swallowing this redpill bs and turning themselves into 'anti-social disrespectful empty sociopath' (as you said), then women are going to respond to this in a rightful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:57 AM
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Yes redpillers use it for power games, manipulation, emotional abuse, deception and coercion, nothing virtuous about them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 09:28 AM
5

Perfectly put, I couldn't agree more! My second husband got into stoicism, started buying books such as the one mentioned in the post, after leaving him I worked out he was probably red pilled. Exactly as you described, he totally misconstrued the concept of stoicism and became a uncaring abusive asshole. Even when I was in hospital he was actually horrible and acting put out for having to come, looking back I wonder if he was putting on an act to appear stoic. Anyway if he genuinely did care bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:58 AM
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Hopefully women will evolve to have retractable vagina fangs, they will only come out when we need them and they will be sharp and strong enough to bite off a peepee with just one bite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:27 AM
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My ex husbands friend told him he paid for a sex worker to lose his virginity, but you wouldn't suspect him the type at all. As a woman who's worked as a stripper and as an escort, there are all types of men, varying degrees of ages, personalities and looks, you would be surprised at some and never suspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:59 AM
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I was in my 20s when I did it and one guy literally said during a dance 'mmmm you've got a body like a 13 year old'. I felt sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:56 AM
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The other thing that I've noticed is many people these days seem to build their entire identity around their sexuality and everything has to revolve around it. These poly lifestyles seem very much this way to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:03 PM
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Haha, always learning new things here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:48 PM
20

It seems this fear of female gold diggers has turned men onto gold diggers. Various forums are rife with posts from women asking, 'is this financial abuse', and they tell the story of the situation with their husbands and finances and it is financial abuse and they aren't even aware and feel guilty for suggesting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:29 PM
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"ethical slut", this phrase annoys me, If a man used that I'd just asume it's a neg and he still doesn't respect women, same with men who say friends with benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:06 PM
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I agree, I feel the same about BDSM and other fetish obsessed types. To me they seem immature, emotionally, sexually, mentally, in many ways. I felt this with my last husband and some grow as an individual and leave it behind, others seem permenantly stuck like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:02 PM
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"cuddle puddles" is the puddle jizz? Barf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:52 PM
41

"enormous egos"....preceicely how I imagined poly men to be. I think of all the negatives of just one man and think why tf would I want to multiply it???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:51 PM
22

He sounds like a vile, spoiled, entitled and mollycoddled shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:16 PM
41

This is true, towards the end of both my marriages, I felt like I was having a mental breakdown, I'm sure I was on the verge. I was having panic attacks and night sweats, I'd wake up drenched, doesn't happen anymore, also had somatic physical symptoms which have gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:50 PM
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The wealthy or ones from well off families, can not only be tight but surprisingly have no problem financially mining women, even women of lower financial and economic status than themselves, they can be just as selfish and literally don't give a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:40 PM
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I walked out of house I owned with first husband (father of my child), took my daughter with me to new rented house (he was still involved with her though) signed house over to him. He got me into loads of debt (both had debt, but luckily separate bank accounts). I was 19 and he was 10 years older, one time he bullied me to book a lavish holiday and pay on my credit card, he was swimming in debt when we met, but I had no idea and after my daughter was born I had to resort to paying for food on m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:05 PM
25

Sorry, I hope you don't mind me asking, but I'm curious, is this top surgery breast implants or removal of breasts tissue, did they go from MtoF or FtM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:51 PM
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So basically, if it isn't intended to be about penis size, all the men who've been triggered by it and kicked off, have self identified themselves as having a small penis for no reason whatsoever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:50 AM
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I know, If Matt's theory is correct, surely men are overdue a mass violent backlash from women, after decades of being body shamed to hell and back their entire lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:41 AM
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It really is insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:35 AM
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Women's bodies have always been insulted, way more than men's. Not only are men allowed to have and not judged for having preference of women's body types, but it's also pushed in our faces from the day we are born, in the media and on the front of magazines in shops, men's ideal has been shoved in our face. Mainstream porn usually featured an ideal body type, largely the same idealised female body type, but the male pornstars in hetro porn are often ugly, because God forbid an ideal male body t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:22 AM
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I want this printed on a T-shirt, I'd love to walk into work with this printed on! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:43 AM
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It's same in UK with liberal men, lazy, pornsick and use the "equality" card to avoid accountability and responsibility of or even within an adult relationship and to reap the benefits with as little effort and input as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:37 AM
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I know and the entitlement in these pornsick scrotes is off the charts! Afraid and UNWILLING to break his addiction and then moans that women aren't queuing up to facilitate his kinks and limp dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:26 AM
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Sounds just like my second husband, word for word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:23 AM
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Goals! She's a true inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:33 AM
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I read an account of a man's porn addiction, think he was British, written by the porn addict himself. He told how he couldn't get aroused by his girlfriend, because she didn't have an American accent, he masturbated over porn featuring women with American accents so much, it had conditioned him to only be aroused by women with American accents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:54 AM
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This is true, my ex didn't like it when I asked for help with chores, but if his brother, dad or friends asked him to do anything, he would. When he moved out when we separated, he was mowing the lawn for his brother, wouldn't do it when we were living together. My next door neighbours husbands the same, he sits on his arse drinking and won't lift a finger, but will do anything for his mates. It all comes down to one thing....LACK OF OR NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN. As a woman we are trapped in a no win…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:48 AM
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That's so true, I posted a quote a long time ago about a vile male porn star, who said the whole reason for men getting into the industry, is to get even with women they couldn't have growing up, by brutalising them sexually. It's all about hate, men are getting off to hatred and abuse of women and we are meant to be okay with that. I also never got the argument, when men say 'what about porn where the woman degrades or humiliates the man?' For me this argument is a non-starter, it's men who are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:05 AM
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Absolutely, they need to take their own advice and communicate. They try to do everything underhand though, they know we won't entertain them if they're honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:19 AM
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Women can't win, this is why I'm pro no sex, no dating, no marriage and no babies. I refuse to play a game with no chance to win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:17 AM
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Another reason I believe women are less likely to be into porn (I know there are women who get addicted too), is that generally, women are socialised to be more empathetic, caring, considerate and less selfish then men. There have been studies that prove men are usually more selfish/self-serving. It's hard to get into it, when you clearly see all the bad aspects of porn that men fail to see or chose to ignore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:14 AM
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Poetic justice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:07 PM
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Bait and switch, this also often happens after events such as, relationship becomes physical, moving in together, marriage or having a baby or if someone else is on their radar. Once they've think they've got you hooked or trapped or got what they wanted, they get comfortable and the mask slips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:38 AM
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My second husband was broke, he talked a lot about things like greed, living off the grid, having a simple and environmentally friendly way off life and not buying into this consumerist way off life. Whilst I agree with some of the beliefs and wish I could live that kind of life as well, he never did anything to practice what he preached, he was happy to move into the nice house I rented, before that he was happy to live rent free in his parents house, that his parents capitalist/consumerist way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:56 AM
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"all men are secretly gay and we need to force them to be heterosexual" haha wtf? They always call us homophobic, I think all of us here agree there's absolutely nothing wrong with being homosexual or bisexual etc and we don't wish to attempt to change peoples sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:51 AM
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I've read there are high rates of paraphilia among autistic people as well and I did often wonder if he had aspergers, although not because of his his fetishes. Porn addiction is also apparently more common in autistic males and 'pornsexuality' (Don't know about women). I have diagnosed inattentive add and suspect I have mild autism, but would never be diagnosed (it's very difficult in the UK, especially if your a woman and an adult), I've personally never had any fetishes and never been into po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:47 PM
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My ex husband was into cross dressing and foot fetish, he seemed to have several, I was terrified there was way more than I was aware of, I dread to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:34 PM
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And also think about how many are not reported, because women have also been brainwashed by porn and sexual violence to think it's acceptable or just normal. We've seen so many examples of women posting for advice regarding a sexual encounter where a partner violated their boundaries or carried on when they said stop or forced anal when the woman has not permitted it, they describe rape, but don't acknowledge it as rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:28 PM
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I've read many similar stories, it's so common, it's one of the main reasons I decided to never have another child after my first. It's so difficult to vet some guys with regards to porn use and no guarantees they won't develop an addiction later, if they don't already have one, or whether it will escalate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:11 PM
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This is exactly why I support pro-snooping for any women who are still not completely put off men (not that it will always reveal things, if they are tech savvy), this is what women and children are up against now, it's fucking abissmal. I argued with my ex so many times about how his paraphilias (which he hid till after marriage conveniently) were influenced by porn and why porn is bad and destroying him and his sexuality, he would try and make out like I was irrational and overreacting. I feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:54 PM
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tehehehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:53 PM
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They would surely be like a possessed Derek Acorah calling Daniella Westbrook a slut on Ghost towns. I can't believe a gif hasn't been made of it, I could have just left the gif here without explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:55 PM
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"Do some of the daring things that porn stars do"......Mmm..now you mention it, I have always fancied trying that ball torture and that financial domination seems like it would be a turn on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:09 PM
15

I'm trying not to wee my pants right now! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:41 PM
17

Girls need to back off and let him indulge in his very serious, grown up, mature and manly pastime. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:19 PM
23

He just needs a trophy wife to create the facade of normal non-porn addicted respectable man and to impress his male friends and family. Oh and someone to pick up his shit, massage his ego and be his therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:17 PM
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Exactly, men make it transactional. I find it funny how they want a woman who doesn't view sex or a relationship as transactional, but yet they pay for porn, only fans or prostitutes behind their partners backs. Even if they aren't paying for porn, it's still transactional in both the sense that the often people staring in it were paid to be in it and do those scripted acts and also in the sense platform it's on, such as rapehub make masses of money, even from free content. I feel the vast major…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:01 PM
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Yes it is, it's not something I'm into personally, but it's interesting how much it bothers men who consume porn and IG models photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:26 PM
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Exactly, all these comments they make, pornified expectations, triangulation with porn or other women, to make you think you'll keep them happy, loyal and commited if you appease them, it's BS to get their own way until they get bored of you or find someone else, it's a grift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:21 PM
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True, I used to lapdance (I'm anti sex work now), and although I never took drugs and/or drank alcohol, I was the minority. I once walked into the toilet at one club I worked at and every other dancer was in there all snorting coke before the shift started and they offered me some, I said no. This job didn't even involve actually having sex, so it's bad enough for women doing that, let alone porn. Edit sorry I just wanted to correct, I said I'm anti-sex work now, but in actual fact, I've always …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:08 AM
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The feeling I get from absteining from men and sex with them, is similar to the feeling I get passing through town in a car at night and seeing all the drunk idiots laid on the floor trashed and thinking I can't believe I used to find going out getting drunk enjoyable and then realising I didn't actually ever find it enjoyable. CLARITY, it's a beautiful thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:22 AM
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Probably the same men who feel butt hurt and insecure over Fine AF Fridays on FDS. My ex porn addict husband was insecure as hell, I've found that the more porn they watch and more porn inspired sex they expect, the more insecure they are in my experience. My porn addict ex would get annoyed over this man on countdown, because his ex had a crush on him, it bothered him so much, it was hilarious and these are the same men who say wOmEn ArE iNsEcUrE aNd JeAlOuS, because we refuse to chose between …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:36 AM
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Same, I mean what are most men offering us these days anyway? Having a man is like having a teenager, they are a burden, often addicted to porn, it's like living with a room mate at best in these 50/50 scenarios, then they have the audacity to expect us to perform pornified sex for free and of no benefit to us, they're having a laugh. And here's the catch, even if you fulfil their porn inspired fantasies, they will respect you less and they'll still watch just as much porn as they would if you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:06 AM
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Mmm no thanks. I think they forget women get paid to do the stuff they see in porn, unless they have been trafficked or coerced into doing it for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:00 AM
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I'm pro snooping, women need to think of their safety and the safety of their children or future children. But be aware if you don't find anything, they still could be hiding stuff, with things like a second email address they only use purely for porn, OF and hookup site accounts. Beware men with deleted browsing history, they are hiding something. I don't agree when people get angry at women for doing or suggesting this, when they say women should trust men, I disagree, we don't automatically o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:01 AM
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He looks like a sad pornsick shell of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:09 PM
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Men these days, with their porn and sexting compulsion, are the equivalent of an animal on a nature programme trying to mate with the fake bot animal with hidden camera.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:12 PM
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My ex husband used to ask why I fell asleep on the sofa when I got home from work, while he'd been at home on fetlife and looking at porn, like he was annoyed at me for being exhausted, being married to a porn addict is exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:54 PM
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https://amp.scmp.com/week-asia/lifestyle-culture/article/3135870/indian-bride-collapses-and-dies-wedding-groom-marries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:44 PM
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Now I'm thinking of the family guy episode where Peter has an affair with a cardboard cutout, so bloody darn accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:43 PM
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It's funny reading your comment and thinking about how Romeo kills himself when he thinks Juliet is dead, after I literally just read a factual news story about a bride who died during the wedding ceremony and the groom married the sister instead, while the body of the bride was moved to another room. I've been mentally transported from one extreme to the other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:25 PM
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Amazing post, so accurate. I was going to say that I wish I realised this at your age, but then I think I did, I always knew, but I wasn't ready to fully except the truth back then, there was still a tiny bit of hope in me and a part of me that enjoyed the thrill of the fantasy, even if I knew it wasn't real love deep down, I still clung to it. Now I except the truth and I don't feel sad or bitter about it, I actually feel stronger, wiser and independent, I haven't lost anything, there was nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:49 AM
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They must convince us that the Male lizard is secretly not a good guy really, despite appearances, because they know it reflects poorly on their own behaviour otherwise. They don't want us to have any expectations and must dampen our expectations at any opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:14 AM
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Exactly says more about them and how their mind works, they are giving themselves away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:11 AM
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Yeah, my last husband when I ended it and asked for a divorce, came to try and talk me around, he said 'my dad said your very attractive', it's like he was admitting he was blind and didn't realise because of his porn addiction, it was the strangest thing ever and the way it was said, I just thought WTF??? I'm laughing about it as I write this now, but at the time I wasn't. Another give away, is the man doesn't seem to enjoy your body, they might say the right things, but the sex is very robotic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:51 AM
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There's no such thing as ethical porn. The argument that ameture is more ethical is laughable as well, how do they know the person in it A) consented to being filmed, B) consented to it being shared and C) wasn't the victim of coercion, manipulation or suffering with mental health problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:43 AM
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My ex husband got into transsexual porn and cuckolding, he even wanted me to shit on him, so I can only imagine he was watching that kind of content as well. If men want to destroy themselves with porn and turn themselves into undesirable and unlovable empty shells, devoid of feeling and motivation, they can't blame women for their problems and expect anything from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:37 AM
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I prefer girth too, I like feeling the pressure of a girthy one also. And same, length isn't important, infact, I don't like the sensation of a long penis, long can be uncomfortable for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:52 PM
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I've always had a bad feeling about the freemasons and suspected they were corrupt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:38 AM
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Same, it's just a degrading and dehumanising meat market.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:51 AM
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Excellent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:50 AM
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And the man wonders why is this not playing out like my favourite porn scene?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:06 PM
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Already having a woman, validates men to other women and makes them more desirable. The woman or women in a poly relationship, serve to help the man gain more access to women than they would as a lone man trawling tinder. You are basically bait and reassurance to other woman. Edit This article makes an excellent point... https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/voices/straight-men-dating-women-polyamory-bumble-a8294796.html%3famp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:52 PM
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Exactly, I thought why has this come to my mind? But then I thought, because I know there are probably men out there who would get off on doing or thinking of doing things like that, it's like anxiety of knowing what some men are capable of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:23 AM
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Absolutely, same with men who are closeted and married to women, I've read accounts of men who said they knew they were gay 100%, but married and were still able to have sex with a woman, until they came out of the closet. I initially thought surely these men must be a least a little bit bi-sexual and then It made sense to me when I thought of it this way, men and women get sexual pleasure from sex toys, they don't have any sexual attraction or romantic feelings toward the sex toy, it just provi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:16 AM
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They sound like they all come from the same factory and the more I hear so many parrot the same phrases, the more I believe they discuss their system, techniques and phrases to bull shit and control women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:11 AM
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A death by a thousand cuts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:05 AM
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I thought exactly the same thing, when i saw the artists name. It's almost like he's virtue signalling with his art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:57 AM
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This reminded me of a meme I found a few years ago, it was a dominatrix woman, she had a leather bra and the cups were large metal cone spikes, that went to a very fine and sharp point, the text over the image read, 'free hugs'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:13 AM
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I have imagined not having genitals before and then the disturbing image of a group of men laughing while using a knife to carve out a vagina where it should be, so they could rape me flooded my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:37 AM
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There's still teeth she can use to bite his thing off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:30 AM
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I was reading recently about women and children, who pick tea, on tea plantations and the horrible conditions, treatment and not only that, they are subjected to rape and beatings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:14 PM
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I bet a large proportion of the men that make comments like this, don't even have a job, let alone ever worked on an oil rig or down a mine, they probably live in their mum's basement, rent free. Edit Also when MRAs say women can't have equality and want a man to pay for dates, does that mean they also believe men who are kept by women shouldn't be entitled to equality as well then? There are after all men who have sugar mummies or women who support their husband if he loses his job, does that m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:46 PM
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I love reading the compilation of posts about relationships ruined by redpill. In all seriousness, it's outright abuse, but at least it backfires on them, sooner or later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:54 PM
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I don't have social media either, I have been on Facebook for a few years in the past. I joined much later then friends and people my own age, I've never been enthusiastic about modern technology, apps and social media. Anyway my last husband suggested we both delete Facebook and we discussed why social media is bad, I wasn't bothered about it anyway, I just said yep and deleted it on the spot. His face was a picture, I think he was shocked and didn't expect me to so flippantly delete it, withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:06 PM
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I feel like lockdown has been a blessing in disguise for many woman, a time of awakening and realisation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:49 AM
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They are cowards with zero integrity. I can't find cowardly men with no integrity attractive, let alone have sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:21 AM
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That's true, I recently watched an episode of family guy, where Peter is at a strip club and says it's okay because the strippers are dead inside anyway. It's not that they are dead inside, it's more that they have to dissociate to protect themselves mentally from the situation and the vile men, yes sex work leads to dissociation, depression, anxiety and numbing, but the person is not dead inside, they are suffering the effects of trauma. I would argue the ones that are really dead inside are th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:37 AM
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My ex couldn't jackhammer even if he wanted too (not that I want to be jackhammered), he was so awkward and preferred to lay with his eyes closed, he was all awkward and rigid. He was so ruined by porn, the sex was abissmal and he knew it, I think he was deeply insecure and his digging comments were projection. He obviously tried to make up for his short comings, with offering lots of oral, I think it that was all an effort to restore his damaged ego. It's true what people have said on here abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:33 AM
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I was mocked by my ex-husband, for wanting passionate sex, he said we're not in some Hollywood film. It seems intimacy and passion is corny and a joke to the onslaught of pornsick men. Passion and intimacy in my mind, is nothing like a Hollywood film. Too many men these days fear intimacy and passion, they mistakenly believe intimacy and passion equates to corny and cheesy fake love in a film, they have some how put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:40 AM
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Please will you do me the honour of allowing me to pick up your shit and wash your cum rags?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:21 AM
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As a woman who's always had a high sex drive, I never realised celibacy could be so empowering, I have no plans to break it and it's not something I've found difficult, nor do I feel I'm missing out. I feel great and have no intention or desire to have sex with another person right now. It would take a very special person for me to want to have sex with them and I'm not even sure if that person exists or if they do, if I'll ever meet them and I'm okay with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:59 AM
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There's no wonder more women are opting out of having children, with the prevalence of pornsick scrotes, it's getting more and more risky and difficult to know which men can be trusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:47 PM
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It has the opposite effect on me, it makes me have higher standards and makes me want to avoid the vast majority of men more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:18 PM
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And they will stay with you for the benefits, even if they grow to hate and resent you, then gaslight you when you question the change in their behaviour and attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:43 PM
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Make it stop... please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:37 PM
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I know many men who are more attracted to older women, my second husband admitted he was. I've known a few women who's boyfriends left them for older women and there is a lad in his 20s dating a woman in her 50s where I work, they walk around holding hands in town. The men who are obsessed with young women are often either pornsick, pedophilic, insecure or controlling and dominant types, or mix of some/all. Women their own age aren't naive enough to bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:29 PM
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There was a story on BBC news website, today or yesterday, saying there are accounts of underage girls doing porn on it and OF aren't preventing it. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-57255983 Let's cancel men as long as porn culture is normalised. Edit Any man who uses OF or rapehub, are supporting child porn, coercion and exploitation, even if the they don't view child porn clips, they are still supporting and funding a website that profits from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:04 PM
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Congratulations! I work with a lady a few years younger than me, both in our 30s, she bought a house on her own and so did I almost 2 years ago. It seems women buying homes alone is becoming more common. I love the freedom, solitude and independence. I would never entertain living with a man again, I have no desire to date, but wouldn't rule it out in the future. But he would have to meet my high standards, a man is not a necessity to me and having my own place and financial independence allows …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:56 PM
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Perspective 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:30 AM
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Yes, women should never give them the blueprint to themselves and their inner workings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:54 PM
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Trying to bring you down to his level and make the oppressed the oppressor, funny how they are the ones who cum while acting as the oppressed in these scenarios and the one acting as the oppressor has been coerced into and don't enjoy it. See what they do there, they masquerade as the victim but are still controlling the situation, they are still the oppressor and trying to make you look like one too. Men who suggest being submissive and dominated by the woman, are giving women the illusion of c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:22 PM
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My experience has been the less attractive or the more nerdy/introverted they are the more misogynistic they are, but they are very covert and some even pose as feminist types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:38 PM
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20 cat poo sodden litter trays are better than 20 cum sodden rags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:18 PM
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Gaming rooms, gaming chairs, VR headsets and TV's built into beds, all things that make me shudder. If I was to meet a man with any of these items, my vagina would become so dry that it would erode from my body as fine grains of sand blowing away, to never return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:09 PM
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I reckon nearly all divorces initiated by women are caused by the husband's porn habits/addiction, even if it's indirectly and not the cited reason, whether they realise it or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:58 PM
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Haha I prefer the dumb ones, it's the ones that are good with technology, sneaky snakes in the grass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:55 PM
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I communicated with my ex, but it fell on deaf ears, they just lie and gaslight, they know exactly what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:49 PM
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Studies and research have found it causes the porn user to have dissatisfaction in the relationship, sex life with partner and their partners looks. There are all other problems such as anxiety, anger, secretiveness. My ex husband got angry often if I was at home or if we were on holiday (vacation), because he couldn't access material as much if at all and indulge. Either go off sex with partner completely or try to pressure partner into pornified acts. Energy channelled to addiction, little/no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:44 PM
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My advice to women, if you find he's following and consuming any of this stuff or anything you don't like, he won't change, he'll just get better at hiding it, from you and other women in the future. Just walk away and don't even say it's the porn, bikini models or OF women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:42 AM
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I don't even find them attractive anymore, I just look at them and think vile porn addict and I wonder what shit this one's been beating his dick over. They ruin everything, even for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:39 AM
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Yes and using porn to triangulate and coerce women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:34 AM
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Agreed, been married to a pathetic porn addict, it was abismal, nothing worth staying for, give me 20 cats and solitude over that any day. Apparently porn also ruins marriages where the other partner accepts the porn use, i believe this is absolutely true, even if one or both people of the couple are unable to connect the dots and see that was the cause. It causes so many problems in the relationship, that some people don't even realise are directly or indirectly linked to porn viewing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:26 AM
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I had those, had them put in around 16 years ago, the NHS removed them for me, I'm in UK. The NHS will take them out here in the UK, if the original surgeon or cosmetic company/hospital refuse it help. If it was paid for via credit card, she is protected by section 75 (consumer credit act) and can try claiming the money back, she originally paid for the procedure, even if it was years ago. Failing all those options, it was recently in the news that many of the women won a lawsuit regarding PIP a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:31 PM
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They also literally get off on wasting women's time at no cost to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:31 AM
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Just the thought of using my time, setting up a profile on a dating site and exchanging messages with men, is extreamly exhausting to me. It's a meat market, I wish women would not sell themselves short and waste their time expending their free time and labour on these dating apps, for little return if any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:10 AM
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I'm never changing for a man, ever, and I sure as hell will never pay to alter my appearance cosmetically. Even if I suddenly looked or was considered really ugly for whatever reason in the future, I still wouldn't change. I'd rather men find me hideous than waste money paying misogynistic narcissist surgeons to alter my appearance to appeal to shallow scrotes who would still treat me like shit if I was the hottest woman on the planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:52 AM
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Xhamster is quite a fitting name really, men who are into porn are just like caged hamsters going round and round on a wheel, but not actually getting anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 10:28 PM
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I agree, I remember when I was a kid and shared a bedroom with my sister, she had the walls covered with photos of topless men, I always hated it. I always just had posters of cute animals and nature. I was very aware of page 3 from a young age and sexualisation of women in the media, I never liked it because I find it dehumanising and objectifying and I feel the same when it's men who are presented in that way. I'm not prudish or against nudity or sexualitity, I'm very pro sex and I do life mod…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:19 PM
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I don't feel any degree of attraction or desire whatsoever, towards any of these pictures of men that are being posted. I get some are attractive, but I don't feel attraction. I don't know if I'm or deeply closeted lesbian or looks alone do nothing for me. I wish I could be shallow and objectifying too, then it wouldn't bother me when men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:15 PM
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It makes me laugh when people say sex work is work, yet women's careers are ruined by it, they wouldn't be sacked or excluded from certain types of employment if that were true. Personally I believe what society is doing to young people, especially vulnerable, naive and disadvantaged women, is abuse, coercion and gaslighting on an industrial scale, they are actively encouraged into a line of work that ruins their reputation and future career prospects. On one hand they are being lured into this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:20 PM
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Exactly, this is why I lose all attraction and respect for a grown man when I discover he watches porn, even if I don't actually catch them in the act, that pathetic image of them is still imprinted in my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:54 PM
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My ex husband was pair bonded to his laptop, I felt like I was in a love triangle, but he would always pick the laptop over me, I'm pretty sure he would have rescued the laptop over me, had we been in a house fire. When I last saw him, over a year ago, he looked so unbelievably pale, clearly been alone with his laptop even more than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:52 PM
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I was saying this to a friend a few days ago, I told her how I've gone to a nice restaurant on my own before and I'd do it again. I'd go for a super fancy 3 course meal alone, I really enjoy eating out alone, I enjoy it with friends just as much, I'd say both equally, both just different. I remember my sister taking the piss out of me for going to cafes on my own when we were teenagers and calling me a 'saddo', haha I just laugh about it, it's not that I don't have friends, I do, I just enjoy my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:31 PM
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Same, military and police, instant NO for me, same with any profession where they are glued to their laptop, such as IT/games design/etc (they always seem to be more pornsick recluses and know how to use technology against you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:51 AM
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My first husband was a police officer, It was a horrible experience, he was very controlling, I found his attitude towards women and most (not all) of his colleagues attitudes towards women, to be repugnant. I wouldn't trust a police officer as far as I could throw them, many are mysoginistic, authoritarian, controlling and narcissistic. I was basically groomed by him when I was 19 and he was 10 years older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:32 AM
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If they are pornsick scrote with PIED, they can't even offer that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:34 PM
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I think these men want to ride the cock carousel really, I think a lot of these men who hate women have repressed homosexuality and mummy issues, they probably fantasise about riding the cock carousel themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:33 AM
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"The red pill is a snake that will eat its own tail and will fuel the popularity of FDS/hypergamy. They’re fucking deluded. They’re fuelling the same very issue they complain about." When I discovered the redpill, it made me realise how naive I'd been, wearing my heart on my sleeve, being kind, generous, loving, too trusting, giving the benefit of the doubt, not expecting a man to pay for a date or anything. It was a slap in the face and big wake up call that the vast majority of men are not lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:07 AM
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She's exploiting her baby for financial gain, imagine how this child will feel in several years, discovering it's birth was live streamed as masturbatory material by it's own mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:24 PM
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If we cry we're labelled manipulative and anger has always been discouraged and more frowned upon in women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:03 AM
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Divorced twice, life is generally far easier single or not cohabiting with men at least. I can also confirm living with a teenager is easier than living with a grown man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:56 AM
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They think he should have gaslighted her by saying he preferred her to the doll, even though his actions and behaviour clearly suggested otherwise, just like most scrotes would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:45 AM
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Haha I bet they wanked over the Barbie dolls when their wives were out, I can't help but laugh at how ridiculously pathetic and defected these men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:42 AM
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Haha, there's that 1984 doublethink again, okay sure having 5 kids with a loser who doesn't pull his weight and leaves you to raise the kids and in financial insecurity, is great for your stability and mental health. But staying scrote free and at peace will turn you into an unstable psycho. I better drop my pants for the next men and get knocked up, wouldn't want scrotes to think I'm mentally unstable and avoidable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:41 PM
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That lovely pink beak 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:32 PM
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Same goes with calling women 'crazy', if men were manipulated and gaslighted from birth, the way women are, to put up with the things women do, they too would be 'crazy'. Even men who don't put up with everything women do, can still be 'crazy', we don't call them 'crazy', it seems words like chaotic, crazy and irrational are reserved for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:27 AM
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As a women who previously had a cosmetic procedure and then had it undone (breast implants which I later had removed), It's always annoyed me when other women who have cosmetic surgery proclaim "I'm doing it for myself, not anyone else". Really!!! It's always for anyone else, if it's purely cosmetic and no benefit to your health, it's conforming to societal pressure, media standards and catering to the male gaze. It's also putting your health at risk for vanity. I didn't have my breast implants …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:02 PM
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It's cruel, they literally punish, abuse and neglect their own children as revenge. It's sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:47 PM
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No, I just tried to find the one, but there are so many he's done! I remember him saying that if/when the wife leaves this particular type of narcissist, he may no longer get excitement from the affair or extramarital casual sex, it's all only exciting to him, if he has the wife to deceive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:42 PM
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Same when their dick stops working because of PIED, they hate women even more then, blame them and direct their rage at them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:06 PM
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Yes, there was an article in the guardian, about an older lady who had written for advice about having recently discovered her husband of many many years was watching porn a lot. They were in their 70s and retired. All those years she devoted to him and having children with him, giving up her freedom and looking forward to enjoying a happy retirement together. Well no, after many years and sacrifices, the reality was, she was left with an ungrateful geriatric porn addict, which she probably has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:02 PM
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"I bet if men where not so incredibly selfish there wouldn't be so many custody battles." This is so true, an overwhelming amount of the men who get divorced by women, are usually selfish porn addicts or disinterested in their kids, they are usually lazy at best and abusive and even dangerous at worst. If they truly were good father's and husband's and put in the effort, the mother of their children would not divorce them. Men who are good husbands and dad's are unlikely to be presented with div…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:48 PM
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I can't upvote this enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:25 PM
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Having been married to a porn addict, I can say I undoubtedly, would rather be single, poor and celibate for the rest of my life, than date a man who consumes porn at all. Porn addicts are miserable, self loathing and selfish, they are like an empty shell of a person and inside are just a black bottomless void that nothing can fill. In a world where porn is normalised and women are expected to just except it, I get far more pleasure and peace from denying men sex and attention under those circum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:44 AM
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"In an MRA utopia where men get given primary custody of children at the same rate that women do, will these men actually be satisfied with doing most of the work, while women get to be the 'fun weekend parent'?" Hypothetically speaking, once they have full custody. (which all too often the true motivation for such a goal, is to A) punish the mother of the children and B) avoid responsibility of paying maintenance. They will then defer much of the responsibility of having full custody of their c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:23 AM
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My thoughts exactly, he's a desperate pathetic attention whore, who needs his ego stroking. Any response good or bad, is a win for him, that's why we should completely ignore such foolery and not give them a reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:44 AM
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I agree and some get worse, after we got married, my ex would say he'd forgotten his wallet, so I'd have to pay for us both and it gradually became more and more frequent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:01 AM
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For me it's not about money, it's about generosity. All the men I've been with that have been stingy and wouldn't pay for dates, ended up being the ones who really didn't care about me, this includes my second husband. They end up being the men who use you and are takers and not givers. The most generous man I dated, was a tradesman, he didn't have much money, but he was still generous in many ways, not just offering to pay for meals and buy food, but he would fix things in my house and make me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:59 AM
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All women should join online dating, purely to arrange dates with men, arrange to meet them at a very specific place and plant a plate with a smiley face drawn on glued to a garden cane or stand and with a name tag on it, with the fake name given to them when the date was arrange. Let them have plates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:54 AM
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My daughter recently said, that she believes she would have been accused of being a witch back in the day, she said it like she was proud of it and I said it's funny because I've often thought the same thing about myself and then we both let out a wry little chuckle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:48 AM
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Be aware that photos metadata can store info about your location as well, or so I read, it can reveal GPS coordinates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:32 PM
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And men say the exact same thing in the relationship, if you do bag a man. If they have behaved badly and then lied or withheld it, it's our fault for being intimidating. It's gaslighting again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:18 PM
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Haha! I noticed that poor furless beauty doesn't want to belong to that couple. I'm sorry you have to live with that dysfunctional set up my precious. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:47 PM
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I agree with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:52 PM
5

I think my second husband was an autogynophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:18 PM
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It's pathetic, they are sexually and emotionally immature and it seems like mental illness to me. I just think porn has screwed up so many people's sexuality. There have always been fetishes, but it's clear porn is causing them in more people now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:14 PM
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I wish I had, I can't remember, I just remember finding them. I destroyed his hard drive when I found porn, so hopefully I destroyed them all anyway, can't remember if they were on that or the laptop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:40 PM
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Denying men sex and attention is way more satisfying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:24 PM
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My ex husband did this and I have thought should I contact her and let her know he still has nudes? It was two exes of his. Would you want someone to let you know if it was you? I would, but I don't want to cause any trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:15 PM
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Slug man, butt crumb man and nest man, three men I will never forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:27 PM
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This title reminds me when I got home from work to my porn sick second husband, who'd most likely been waking to porn all day and as soon as I got in the door, he said 'did you miss me?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:11 PM
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I don't even like romantic comedies or 50 shades of grey (never read it and don't wish to), so it makes me laugh when men bring it up and your right, it's not an equivalent anyway and it's men gaslighting again. Also by using this argument, they are basically admitting they believe that media consumption can brainwash and alter perceptions and expectations, but yet they continue to watch porn, it's just gaslighting. And how many women are masturbating to romcoms? If romcoms had never existed but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:10 AM
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I don't always believe them, when they boast about things like that, I often think they are confusing porn scenes with real life or just lying to save face, because they feel insecure. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:45 AM
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I don't wear jewelry at all, not even earrings. I find it uncomfortable and unnecessary. I agree about the diamond trade and how unethical it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:42 AM
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I love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:12 PM
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They wank over videos where women are categorised into terms like huge tits and petit Asians and slut gets anal cream pie etc etc, they have preferences. I refuse to tiptoe around men's fragile egos anymore, as long as they defend and normalise porn, I'll state my preferences and be just as selfish and shallow as men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:45 PM
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Yeah my ex was pretending to be me online, using photos of me in tights. They'll use you and your photos to increase interest from others online, from men and women. And they may send a video as you say and that person may share it. I've also had two exes who still had nude photos of their exes on their computer, I don't know if they shared them, but I could have shared them, obviously I would never do that! But my point is if an ex has photos or videos of you, even if he doesn't share them, som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:25 PM
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Dickdar 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:15 PM
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Haha this made me laugh! I imagined you commanding they de-robe and then inspecting the penis, do you tell them that's what your doing? Do you dismiss them if it's not big enough? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:13 PM
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This doesn't surprise me, I've often suspected smaller men or men with ED or PE would be drawn to violent BDSM. I think others go the other way and fetishize and own it, with cuck fetishes and submissive fetishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:09 PM
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I love that saying 'it takes a village to raise a child', I believe nuclear families are more often than not dysfunctional. Two parent families are great when they work, but sadly too often they don't and do more harm than good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:01 PM
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My mum became mentally ill, my dad didn't support my mum and was going to leave us for a woman much younger, but his plan fell through. He used to leave us in the house with her alone when she was having psychotic episodes. We didn't get taken into care, because he'd lie and say he'd look after my mum, if they knew he was leaving us with her, we'd have probably gone into care, especially these days. They eventually split up and divorced when I was 13, my mum had become an alcoholic and kicked me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:38 PM
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I seriously believe if my mum left my dad years sooner, she wouldn't have ended up being sectioned under the mental health act and my childhood would not have been so traumatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:25 PM
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Yeah, there are women who don't care about a micropeen, but he'd have to step up with oral. I like a wide one, but I've had men with average and I wouldn't actually rule out a small guy if he was good and generous with oral and wasn't an insecure asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:21 PM
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My second husband wasn't small, it was just above average. But he was convinced it was small, I can only imagine as he was so porn sick, he believed it was small because of all the porn. Porn had completely destroyed him and his sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:18 PM
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And there's the risk of men secretly filming us and sharing the footage or putting it on rapehub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:09 PM
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I think you might be right, he might have taken his micropeen woes out on his female patients and put them at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:03 PM
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I've just looked up the history of breast implants, it's horrifying! And despite advancements, it's still dangerous and unnecessary in most cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:53 PM
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Same here, I will never lie or be deliberately cruel, but I will be ruthless and honest, no pandering!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:52 PM
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They also get to hide their marital status with a neutral title 'Mr', society is set up in their favour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:43 PM
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I'm staying single FOREVER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:26 PM
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Praying mantis is my spirit animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:24 PM
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YES! You have nothing to gain from it, when you break up with a man you never know if he'll delete it, or share it, or save it and someone else gets access to it. Even a husband can't be trusted, my advice to all women, is NEVER send anyone nudes to a male or female. Even if it's a photo you wouldn't mind sharing publicly, how does that benefit you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:21 PM
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"There was never a time in early modern Europe when an actual breast wasn’t judged against some platonic tit ideal. Smaller breasts have been considered sexually attractive more frequently and for longer periods of time in the West." https://www.racked.com/2017/12/21/16738658/cleavage-history Following on from my recent response to a comment on this thread, the tit ideal can change, it's just trends, one man who men admire, makes a comment or a painting with his tit ideal and lots of other men f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:08 PM
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The thing that makes me laugh is when they say it's natural and MuH bIoLoGy for men to like big boobs, or that it's related to fertility and breastfeeding. They try to explain it with science, when in actual fact if you look back through history there were times when small breasts were popular and desirable. Also women with small boobs can produce just as much milk. If they want to like big boobs, that's fine, it just makes me laugh when they deny it's a trend from porn and the media and make up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:51 PM
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They want unicorn breasts. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:46 PM
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The willing or eager to wait, can also apply to pornsick men with PIED. My second husband never instigated, he said he'd rather wait. He was the most pornsick man I've ever encountered, but his penis wasn't small, he just had PIED. In the begining he admitted he had been addicted to porn, but had quit, turned out to be a big lie, I wouldn't fall for that again, I've read so much about porn addiction in men and the signs. I've never had a man with a really small penis in my personal dating life, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:00 PM
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Good for you, when I had breast implants, I only attracted pornsick shallow scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:17 PM
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Plus women don't go around killing people if nobody finds them attractive or if they've been picked on all their lives for having small boobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:33 PM
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I didn't click on the article for that reason, but I laughed when I saw "I heart intelligence". Photo with family, next to sexualised photo of the mother promoting sex work, reminds me of those people who put photos of their kids on their dating app photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:47 PM
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Why is that song was banned from the radio, but awful lyrics about women are allowed? Also that song was written by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:30 AM
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This is so true, we can never win and always get criticized. Then men cry like babies if we state a preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:04 AM
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Even if men don't say they prefer bigger boobs, women only have to stumble across the porn they've been consuming, to find they only like big boobs. They are such hypocrites. The only men who seem to like small boobs are small boob fetishists and pedo types. I was picked on by boys for having small boobs, even at the swimming baths and big tits were everywhere in the media, I even wanted implants when I was 10! I eventually had implants in my 20s after I stopped breastfeeding, I loved them for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:54 AM
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Haha when my ex husband kept suggestion I set up an onlyans, I kept saying back to him, why don't you become an escort for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:02 AM
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I read as he basically hated and didn't respect me. He once said I'm too nice and once when he was trying to push my buttons, he complained saying, 'why don't you react or get angry', he obviously wanted to incite an emotional response in me, for his entertainment or as some sick way to prove to him he mattered to me, that's what I think anyway. After leaving him, I found redpill and I read on redpill something about, if your wife gets angry you know she cares about you. I have a strong suspicio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:35 AM
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My mum has a serious mental illness and was involuntarily sectioned when I was a kid. My dad used to lie to professionals and say he'd look after her, but when they discharged her, he would bugger off to the pub and resume his affairs, leaving me and my siblings with my mum who would be having psychotic episodes, doing things like making us get on the bed and not letting us off to because the devil would get us. A lot of men don't support a long time partner once they become mentally ill, many w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:22 AM
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May they all rot in their squalor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:12 AM
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Child: Why don't you go to work daddy? Dad: Because I pimped mummy out, so I don't have to. You could be just like mummy one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:09 AM
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What's with the influx of these hobopimp husband's and boyfriends, where did they all come from, do they have no shame? Husband MAKES wife start OF. I hope she leaves him, she should have left him the minute he tried to pimp her out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:05 AM
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Yes I believe women that men consider to be 'hot' are often beards to act as a cover, when really the man is into another type of woman (or man) that they believe won't 'impress' their friends and family. The 'hot' wife serves as a status symbol and/or broodmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:11 PM
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And they don't respect the women they'd stick it in, in fact I'd say that often they hate those women the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:05 PM
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My second husband actually looked at me in the face and said 'familiarity breeds contempt'. I fixed the problem by divorcing him, interestingly he really didn't want to separate and divorce because we had a cOnNeCtIoN and according to him at the time 'things aren't really that bad'. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:56 PM
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I have found in my life, that men have been by enlarge, interested in my looks and I believe my ex husband's saw me as a trophy to impress their mates. Being considered attractive by media and/or porn standards, is in my opinion worse, you get all the fakeness from men. Yes they are super nice at first, but they treat all women like shit once they think they have you or the novelty wears off. I think it takes longer for us to see men for what they are, because we are used to the the efforts to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:45 PM
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That's so true. I also hate how the term open minded has been hijacked by perverts and misogynists, to coerce and manipulate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:11 PM
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Maybe I should, I'm thinking of name's now for my short but girthy dildo company, cock can dildos? Dumpy dildos? Chonky boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:35 PM
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And unfortunately many women also believe competing with porn and facilitating a man's specific pornsick fantasies, will keep him happy, fulfilled and stop him from straying. Not true at all, the men respect women less for this and the fantasies and porn still snowball. The man sooner or later cheats and or leaves, or even if stays, he treats her like shit and has his cake and eats it. The woman is left as an empty traumatised shell, feeling defeated and devoid of any self respect, once she real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:58 PM
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Hahaha! I've been thinking for a while now, someone should make a tragicomedy drama about the effects of porn on society, people and their sex lives, your James Bond villain incel could definitely feature in the plot. 😂 For some reason I always imagine the end scene being all the men with VR headsets and walking around like zombies with erections, bumping into one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:43 PM
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Women who are married to these men, should also put obsessive porn use or porn addiction as the reason in the divorce petition as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:17 PM
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We're not allowed to have boundaries, because that would make us KiNk sHaMeRs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:15 PM
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I know my ex husband said the same, then nagged me to do things he got from porn. Also porn isn't even their fantasy, it's the porn producer/directors fantasy, men are so far removed from what is natural to them now, after years of exposure to porn. They have destroyed their sexuality and ruined sex for themselves and for us. The men behind the porn that's produced are usually ugly bitter incel types who hate women who couldn't get sex before making money from an industry that exploits women. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:43 PM
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This is why I don't have Instagram or Facebook etc, I hate Reddit, but only begrudgingly have it because of FDS, I don't download the app though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:20 AM
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Introvert + male = spends too much time alone masturbating to porn, which tricks his brain into believing he is entitled to a living walking sex doll, who looks like a porn star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:17 AM
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Wishful thinking, I often told my ex how it annoyed me that dildos are always too long and thin, I described a dildo I would manufacture if I could. It would be shorter and fat, also with big balls. I always feel like balls are wasted on most dildos, because the phallus is too long to get the benefit of the balls. For any ladies who may be interested the best dildo I've had, is called 'the foreskin flapper'...yes it's really called that! 😂 Although like most, it's too long for me, what I like ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:09 AM
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Oh yes, for me, long and thin is like having my insides poked with a pencil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:01 AM
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I'm a girth kinda girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:39 PM
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It only hurts men when their behaviour backfires on them or when women wise up to it and when they can't get their dick wet anymore because women are done dealing with misogynistic assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:55 AM
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Women may feel they put themselves at risk of a man's anger and potentially violence, if she tells him he is unable to please her sexually. Or lead to him being emotionally abusive in the relationship, because it makes him feel insecure. It could even put other women at risk, if the man takes his anger out on other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:31 AM
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Because we don't need to pay for it and even if we did we still wouldn't waste our money. Dick is abundant and free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:36 AM
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Onlyfans girls and insta 'thots' are the new sirens. Men just can't help themselves, it's all their fault, casting their spell on the poor defenceless men. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:33 AM
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Seriously who wants to date men that insecure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:28 AM
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Yep, it will push many women away. The women it attracts are women with low self esteem and low self worth, or women going through a low point in her life. The women in these situations who it works on, many realise and at some point leave, learn from the experience and avoid these men in future. Many of the ones who stay or keep going back to these men are the ones who are just as toxic, reinforcing the men's hatred of women, it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:26 AM
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Creepy Voldemort 😂😂😂 What you said about not reacting to upsetting and infuriating situations, really resonated with me. I was in hospital and my second husband, who I recently divorced, came to see me, but begrudgingly and was acting indifferent, actually to the point of it being cruel. I needed something after the operation and politely asked him after coming round from surgery to pop into town (the hospital was in the city centre), to get it. He acted all put out. After leaving him I've read …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:20 AM
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I agree, many men, if not most men, will be aware of pua, redpill and mgtow. Even if they don't identify as one, many will still use the some of the same techniques, whether they read it directly from these communities or from other men passing them on. My second husband always 'forgot' his wallet, that's something pua teaches, I found out about pua and redpoll etc, after I left him. I have no idea if he identifies as either, but after reading about them I wouldn't be surprised if he's at least …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:06 PM
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They are sick! Where has it been passed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:51 PM
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I totally agree with this and was thinking the same thing earlier, this is also why many men go for younger women or older women with low self esteem and/or into BDSM. I feel like men benefit form a patriarchal grooming system, that porn plays a big part of and acts as a tool of grooming and coercion, prepping girls to not only allow men to take advantage of them and sexually abuse them, but also conditions some of the girls themselves to desire it, talking the blame of men and blurring the line…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:30 PM
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As someone previously said on FDS...men are "everything diggers".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:21 PM
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"Oh, I see you came across gfd? 😂 Where "gentle" means "fetishized mommy issues". Most male 'submissives' I've encountered in my life were just lazy, entitled, spineless, whiny, manipulative, verbally coercive, auto-gynophiles with a sissy fetish. Interestingly they are just as misogynistic as their dommly dom counterparts. Everything is about them and their pleasure, how they get off on the fantasy of getting you off while still making everything about themselves." You just described my 'submis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:08 AM
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This doesn't warrant being called a rant, it's an insightful observation. Of course those active participants in the BDSM community are going to defend it, just like a porn addict, gambler or alcoholic defends their pathological behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:31 PM
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Absolutely, and then much of society fail to see how this plays a part in the explosion of mental health problems many people suffer now, especially the young, the impressionable and the vulnerable. Sex is something we should not shy away from, we are all here because of sex, I'm no prude, but what's happening in society is all wrong, it's an unhealthy and often damaging attitude towards sex, that people are being coerced into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:23 PM
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Exactly, my ex defended his kinks and fetishes and the BDSM community, but he was a very unhappy and troubled person, his fantasies and fetishes consumed him and took over his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:17 PM
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Yes, I think it's actually driven by misogyny and contempt for women as well, it's covert sexual misogyny for submissive men, who can't get away with being outwardly misogynistic. I think they get off on dominating from the bottom and actually being demanding and hard work for their mother figure wife or gf. They try to consume your time, attention and energy for their amusement and selfish desire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:06 PM
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Haha it's real, a lot of things about him and our sex life anger me, but Hollywood bum hole photo, is one of the few things I can look back at and laugh about. I wouldn't be surprised if he still has it and masturbates over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:16 PM
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"he acts weak and imitates childish attitudes from anime. Most of them want this weird mommy dynamic even if they say they don't" This sounds a lot like my ex, I only found out about anime after leaving him, but I'm convinced he was or had been heavily into anime. (He liked manga, studio Ghibli and super hero comics) He also had mummy issues big time, he was his mum's golden boy, he spent lots of time with her going shopping when he was a kid, but he said she was never affectionate and he couldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:10 PM
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Oh yes mine adored my bum hole, i think if I'd asked him what my best feature was and he was able to be honest, he would have said my bum hole. He had a photo of my bum hole, arty black and white, with that dreamy cheesy blur effect around the edges. He referred to the photo as Hollywood bum hole. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:03 PM
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This is exactly how I described my 'submissive' ex, in the past, as a wolf in sheep's clothing. They are very cunning, devious and manipulative. The one I was with, I'm convinced was a narcissist too, when I read about cerebral and also covert narcissists, it sounds exactly like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:46 PM
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My 'submissive' ex husband was a porn addict, I also think the giving oral was to try to satisfy me and saving himself for his porn sessions. When he gave me oral it was technically good and pleasurable, but there was always a disconnect, like he was absent and he couldn't deal with intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:06 PM
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Yes, I was married to one of these entitled pathetic losers! Recently had divorce finalised and just changed my phone number and not on any social media, so the disgusting freak can't ever contact me again. All the stuff he was into conveniently surfaced after the marriage, he sounds just like the men you described, only worse. He didn't give me money, he was not only tight but would complain about paying 50% of living costs and would often 'forget' his wallet, If we went out. He wanted to be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:56 PM
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tHeY aRe JuSt wOrThLeSs WhOrEs WhO mEaN nOtHiNg To mE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:56 PM
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And 'Its just a fantasy', if it's just a fantasy, why are so many men nagging women to let them do anal or choking etc etc and too pornsick to have non-pornified sex or even have sex with an actual woman at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:32 PM
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Good for you for being strong and sticking by your principles, this is an example of what all women should do who discover their partner watches porn and aren't comfortable with it. They will never learn or change if we stay with them, it will only get worse, walking away is the only option. At least he was honest he wouldn't give it up, it would have been worse if he'd lied and pretend he'd give it up, when really he has no intention of stopping, I've been there it's awful and deceitful when th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:19 AM
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I agree completely, my ex husband's parents are still together and he was a porn addict and so are his dad and brother, he got access to porn from a young age from them and it sounds like they encourage and normalise watching it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:54 AM
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Haha, why can't they just handle rejection gracefully? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:22 PM
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A certain type of men, want us to work for just enough so they don't have to pay for anything and so we can contribute 50/50, but don't want us to have any money left over because that will give us freedom to leave and more autonomy, they also don't like us having any leisure money, because they feel insecure when we are happy and enjoying life. It's all about control and keeping us down and trapped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:16 PM
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Really he ghosts hot women because they are likely to reject him and he can't handle rejection. Haha it's pathetic, trying to desperately have power over the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:28 AM
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Haha such propaganda, reminds me of doublethink from 1984. Dad bods are stud bods. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:08 PM
10

My ex tried to blame me, but he was already addicted to porn when I met him! I wanted sex but he always preferred porn, so that's bullshit about access to sex.😂 This is just a strategy men use to shift the blame onto women to excuse their shit behaviour and avoid accountability. But it's actually a really abusive and cruel tactic, it's gaslighting. The one that makes me laugh is when say it's because women 'nag', but usually 'nagging', is a woman asking a lazy man to wash the pots for once. It's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:23 AM
21

I've been divorced twice, what stigma? I honestly don't care if anyone has a problem with it and don't pay any attention, that says more about them than me. Divorce is never easy for anyone, I always think the fact I've petitioned for and divorced twice shows I'm not willing to be taken advantage of and taken for granted, I'm actually kind of proud of myself for recognising a shitty situation and having the strength to get out of it, because I respect myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:02 AM
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If you think that's disturbing, what do you think of 'work wankers', yes men who actually wank at work, not wankers you encounter at work. I came across the term 'work wankers' the other day when reading an article about the struggle for Demi sexuals in hook up culture. Googling is believing, surveys have found around 30% of men are 'work wankers'. I wish I could find one of those original Tracey Emin and Sarah Lucas coffee mugs, they made in their make shift London shop in the 90s, the mugs sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:34 PM
28

This explains why I like a neanderthal man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:12 PM
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My second husband's dad often used to hark on about days gone by when, and I quote, 'men were for pleasure and women were for breeding'. He was still married to his mum, who would be sat there when he said it, they both met through swinging apparently. So many red flags! Why didn't I run sooner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:49 PM
1

Sometimes I think I'd actually enjoy being in a prison with all women, perhaps I've watched too much orange is the new black, maybe glamourised it somewhat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:44 PM
28

Don't forget the latest one, beta males make better father's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:31 PM
36

We should all go round glueing big massive phalluses to all the statues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:29 PM
80

"NO, I AM SCROTACUS!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:22 PM
1

Could carry a stilletto in your bag? I'm thinking single white female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:17 PM
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Women can do all those things and still won't be loved, some are even hated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:12 PM
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Yes, this was my ex, nerdy 'feminist', into BDSM and fetishes, he was submissive though. I think he was trying to turn the relationship poly in a underhand way, he didn't get his way, I ended it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:46 PM
24

A lot of words for I have ED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:28 PM
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Society grooms women to feel like they deserve to be treated like shit by men and that it's normal, we are made to feel like shit from the moment we are born the wrong sex and taught to lower our boundaries and standards for men's benefit. Never feel bad, you've realised now and you probably appreciate what you have more now you've been through all the crap first. Some women never come to the realisation women here do, maybe the truth hurts as and they can't face it, you have faced it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:26 PM
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Scrotes gaslighting women since 850bc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:10 PM
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Depending on the guy they'd feel anything ranging between feeling butt hurt, to intense violent rage. Edit I think the ones who act like they don't care are also butt hurt, they're just saving face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:03 PM
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Also this idea that mum's and daughters drift apart in teenage years and clash? me and my daughter have always been close and had a lovely mutually respectful relationship. I feel it's the same as this idea that women are bitchy and hate each other and the patriarchy pitting women against each other, even mother's and daughters, which makes sense because if successful, men have a better chance of manipulating and coercing our daughter's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:20 PM
45

Urgh! I remember a guy I had been dating saying 'you have an amazing body and I can't wait to explore it'. It was so cheesy and cringe, I felt my vagina shrivel up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:21 AM
54

My first husband asking the nurses to put an extra stitch in after I'd torn giving birth to his daughter. Another one was an ex boyfriend singing along to the song 'girls on film' but singing 'girls on girls', I thought he was joking but he actually genuinely thought it was girls on girls, I said yes I'm sure it is in your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:02 AM
36

It screams desperation, they are so desperate for a warm fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:01 AM
22

Even when I was 16, my brother who was 4 years older than me, still thought it was funny to pin me down and fart on me! My sister 2 years older wasn't any better, she didn't do stuff like farting on me though, but she was mean and we used to fight a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:58 AM
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I love it!!! we could have so much fun with them. I don't actually want to date but then I do when I think of all the fun I could have now I've wised up and the thought of saying things like this. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:01 PM
21

I used to feel guilty, not anymore, now i'd have no qualms about telling them to fuck of and not giving a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:58 PM
23

I told my second husband from the outset I had no desire to have more kids, he still moaned a couple of years later after we we were married, that I'd ruled out having kids with him. I think they must think they can change your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:55 PM
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A lady I work with had a baby over a year ago, her partner wanted kids and she wasn't bothered, but he persuaded her and promised he would do is fair share, that turned out to be a lie. There are men out there that truly do the fair share but they are rare and it's a gamble. It's like the response to notallmen....but which men? There's no way of knowing for sure until you've had the baby, even if you've vetted the hell out of him and he seems amazing. I believe woman should ask themselves, would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:47 PM
30

I remember being very aware from a young age that men liked women to look a certain way with all the sexualised and glamorous woman forced at you through the media, it was extremely traumatic and damaging. I've mentioned on here before that I wanted breast implants at age 10! I'd seen page 3 and Baywatch etc. I did go on to have breast implants and went into lap dancing. This stuff has been grooming women for years, self harm in women and girls has skyrocketed. I consider having unnecessary plas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:34 PM
21

I remember mentioning to a friend that beauty and the beast was my favourite Disney film as a kid, she said yes that's definitely you I'm not surprised, she was implying that I always date down. It just shows how this stuff does brainwash you! If a Disney film can manipulate girls then porn is definitely manipulating boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:30 PM
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I sometimes wonder if the sexually liberal feminism was aimed more to the poorer economically disadvantaged women to make them feel they were getting something or distract them form real empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:24 PM
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The only one I can think of where the nerdy girl gets the popular guy is 'she's all that', but it doesn't count because she has to transform into what men expect. The ones where men are the nerd of not that attractive by media or conventional standards, those men don't change and are excepted as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:19 PM
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They don't even value us or see us as human beings, they don't value simply spending time with us or a friendship with us, they just want something from us, usually sex. This is why we should never feel guilty for having standards, boundaries and being ruthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:54 PM
10

My ex husband who was a cop, proudly boasted how he rubbed his biro pen in his arse crack and kept it in his pocket of his work shirt to give to people who he didn't like when they asked for a pen! I shit you not! He is of course my ex husband for that and other reasons. Same man also pissed in the bath when I was having a bath when I was pregnant with his daughter and laughed and said he was just joking and messing around. I can't believe it now when I look back, how disgustingly vile and misog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:23 AM
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Oh remember this I think, was he asked to go to the supermarket and strategic incompetence reared its ugly head?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:50 AM
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I think now it's a much bigger societal problem that effects most women form a variety of backgrounds, society and the media grooms women to except less from men and give more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:42 AM
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Hang on whenever we question the vile sexually violent porn, they defend it with freedom of speech and expression, but we state a preference for a clean ass and they have a meltdown, they are pathetic. To be honest I don't even think they are offended by it, but men are trying to manipulate what is in social media to their advantage, Facebook's actually been called out for this before, they quickly remove things women post that men don't like, but really horrible stuff men write about women is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:40 AM
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Men expect women to be completely shaven, squeaky clean, bleached anus, etc. In fact at work this week a man started moaning to me about this woman who'd posted photos of her armpit and facial hair and refuses to shave for men. Honestly this male collegue was infuriated that this women refused to shave, he said men don't want to see that, we want women shaven. Well maybe she doesn't give a fuck what men think and why the hell should we pay all this money and spend time making ourselves look like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:34 AM
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I agree, some people don't believe me when I say this, but my cat is an empath! My mum's house flooded and she temporarily moved in with me at one point, my cat was very protective of her, even though she doesn't really like cats. He sat next to her all the time and laid next to her bed every night. He can sense if me and my daughter are upset and will come and comfort us. When my other cat died and I was crying, he came up and rubbed his nose on my nose, even though he didn't like putting faces…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:21 AM
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I've been married to a cop and can confirm many are misogynists, they want it all swept under the carpet and forgotten about and many of them don't give a fuck about women really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:10 AM
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I just remembered, someone posted one which showed was an image of a tribe, where the man was having some kind of ball torture, while the woman was giving birth, so he could experience pain as well. It prompted some interesting comments as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:57 PM
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It still haunts me! 😂 I'm laid in bed laughing and crying at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:16 PM
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I want to print pamphlets with these kinds of messages from FDS and anonymously leave them around the college where I work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:14 PM
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Haha I loved that one! I told my daughter about it and she thought it was hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:11 PM
21

Someone one posted a meme of Slimer from ghost busters with the words 'What about muh legacy'. It pops into my head sometimes and I burst out laughing, it's happened at work, I can't contain myself when it comes to me again, sometimes I even have a day where I keep giggling to myself about it throughout the day. Edit I found it, it really tickled me and still does... https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/inq37v/48m_seeking_2834f/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:05 PM
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Then men have the audacity to blame us for the moobs they've developed because of the estrogen in the water. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:56 PM
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It's like the equivalent of BDSM in the world of fitness, another way for men to exercise their hatred and misogyny over women's suffering and making money from them at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:47 PM
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A man trying to sell 'hello fresh' tried this flirting and flattery technique with me, but I saw through his bullshit and told him I wasn't interested and he actually was really arsey and rude, he was a very good looking guy and it was like he'd taken it personal and was butt hurt. I was a bit taken back at the time, looking back I wish I'd told him to fuck off and slammed the door in his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:42 PM
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Is it nature's way of weeding out the trash and allowing cleansing of the gene pool?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:51 PM
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Yes, and a mugging isn't usually directed at someone based on their gender or motivated by misogyny, whilst they may pick more vulnerable targets, it doesn't matter who they are and may be opportunistic. Were talking about violence motivated by male entitlement and hatred of women, which society isn't taking seriously and doing enough to teach men to respect women and see them as equals and human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:46 PM
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They'd rather steel a sex doll, than make the effort to be a decent guy and put the time and effort into meeting real women, but it's all our fault for not jumping on their dicks like women in porn. wOmEn BaD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:36 PM
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The VR goggles and porn are all laid out at home ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:33 PM
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When I was a lap dancer, one young woman I worked with broke down crying at work before the club opened, she told all the other girls that she was upset because she couldn't perform anal sex how her boyfriend wanted it and it was painful. He wanted her to sit on him with back to him and him sat upright thrusting her really hard and deep anal, like in porn. She was crying because she couldn't live up to what he saw in porn because it was too painful, please remember this next time a man gaslights…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:32 PM
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I agree, same with men who have an obsession with Japan and Japanese schoolgirls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:24 PM
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Imagine being that desperate and pornsick! I much prefer them breaking into shops to steal sex dolls, rather than target women though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:36 AM
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She should have stuck the divorce petition papers to the doll she put on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:27 AM
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Gamers dry my vagina out instantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:25 AM
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There are women on this sub who are ex sex workers, I am one. I'm not against sex workers, I'm against the system that coerces and exploits women into sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:16 AM
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Can we also throw 'we have a connection' in there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:13 AM
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We need somewhere where we can be free from gaslighting and brainwashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:11 AM
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Because it's all going on downstairs 24/7 365 days of the year, party in his pants but his hand is the only guest that shows up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:10 AM
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This is exactly what I think, women have bent over backwards, been overly accommodating and given men a chance despite all the risks. As someone else said, yes 'not all men', but which men? That's the scariest thing, many of these men who are a threat to women can seem so nice at first or for years even, everyone around them may think they are an amazing kind guy. It scares me that I may never know a man I'm with is watching violent and degrading pornography. I feel like the balls in the men's c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:06 AM
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Exactly, I used to do photography and did some 'art nude', photos and had them on Tumblr and Twitter. Some were flattering and some deliberately not flattering at all. I would get messages from men saying they particular liked this or that model, pointing out the ones that were flattering or may be considered 'sexy', they failed to realise they were all me! So they really aren't that visual at all. There was only one man who was also a photographer who knew they were all me and when I asked how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:47 AM
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I love red hair, but I think red heads must attract all creepy red head obsessed fetishists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:48 PM
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That person should not be a therapist. That would be extremely traumatic, from someone you should be able to absolutely undoubtedly trust, that's not something people can just get over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:43 PM
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Exactly, the vast majority of them get sexual pleasure from masturbating over porn and porn is sexualised violence, objectification, exploitation and dehumanising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:37 PM
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My ex husband told me one of his friends sees escorts but only black women, apparently he just likes black women. I just thought: a) racists and fetishizing b) shallow and objectifying c) This is the kind of company my husband keeps and the conversations they have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:48 PM
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A man at work walked alongside me in the canteen as I was walking with my plate full of food and he said something about how much food I had, but then I'm still slim and that I have a good figure. I interpreted this as him valuing a woman for her looks and how 'hot' her body is to him, rather than me as a person. It was like he was trying to hit on me or he liked me and wanted me to know, he doesn't know me, he'd seen me around work and obviously just likes my body, not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:42 PM
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Women are free to chose to date or not date whoever they want, for whatever reason they want, just as men are. Vice is the desperate 'cool girl' pickme of media, pushing agendas that benefit liberal men who still benefit from the patriarchy and wrapping it in a libfem bow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:32 AM
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This happened to me with my second husband, he's a self professed "feminist" and liberal, turned out to be a pornsick creep. My experience with him made me a radical feminist and interestingly I'm not his first ex to turn into a radical feminist from experiencing him. He was into cross dressing, wearing tights and cuckolding, I do now wonder if he had gender dysphoria as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:21 PM
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Women are better off living with platonic friends than this disgusting situation. Especially within a patriarchal and capitalist society where our time is money and as a woman on low income, she should not settle for this bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:42 PM
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Thanks for this, glad someone wrote about this, 'nice guys' are wolves in sheep's clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:15 AM
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I got a mortgage on my own and spending money on my home that I share with my daughter and our cat. I've stopped wearing makeup and perfume and buying beauty products, because I'm not interested in men and feel it's a waste of money. Someone commented recently saying women have started following they're heads instead of they're hearts and men hate it. This is what I'm doing, just following my head and being practical from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:10 AM
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Barley even friends...then his pornsick dick bends... unexpectedly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:49 PM
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Oh my god you described my second husband the sulking "introvert", in the last paragraph!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:00 PM
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I've been married twice and have a daughter from the first marriage, this is so true! Both husbands really stressed me out, they were both very different people but both stressed me out and made my life harder. Being in lockdown with my teenage daughter has been amazing and peaceful, were both chilled and on the same level! It's heaven not having a man ruining my peace with his moods, strategic incompetence and pornsickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:10 PM
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He doesn't want to lose the benefits, he just wants to streamline what they have so he only gets the best bits and benefits, with less input to him, he doesn't care about her as a human being and her thoughts and feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:30 PM
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Yes, my second husband wasn't bothered about sex, he preferred porn. I was the hot girl from school, I think I was just a trophy for him and a convenience in other ways, mummy maid, therapy, place to stay etc etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:28 PM
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She seems very switched on anyway, I think that generation of girls are more wise to it, because they've grown up with the internet and phones, they are really clued up about these things. She says she wants to focus on uni and a career anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:18 PM
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My second husband said he was hurt and upset that I'd ruled out having kids with him, I laughed and said 'why would I have a baby with you? I'd end up doing all the work'. He couldn't deny it and just replied 'yeah that's true actually', I commend him for his honesty at least! 😂 He was also super pornsick. I'm so thankful I didn't have a baby with him and I'm sorry to my daughter from my previous marriage, for bringing her into this horrible narcissistic and shitty pornsick world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:09 PM
31

And they act ignorant to the fact their sperm goes off. The older men are the higher the risks of having a baby with autism and other problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:02 PM
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The ones that just make it look like they are raising them, by posting Kodak moments on Facebook annoy me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:36 AM
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My mum didn't teach me anything and encouraged me to be a libfem pickme, my dad wasn't interested and had no input. I'm teaching my daughter everything.... everything! I tell her everything I know and how men will lie to get in your pants, breadcrumbing, dread game, pornsickness, how men often change once they get what they want from you, whether it's sex, marriage or a baby. Intermittet reinforcement, STI's / STD's, men pressuring women to recreate porn. My daughter's 16 and her best friend is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:33 AM
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One of the main reasons I refused to have another baby with my second husband was how porn sick he was and society as a whole. Doesn't matter how good at parenting you are or how well you educate your kids, the pornsickness is too prevalent and normalised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:20 AM
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I love it when I read articles critising the violence in porn and you always get at least one guy saying 'but what about porn where men are sexually abused by dominatrix women?', what woman gets off to that? It's men who like that. My second husband turned out to be submissive and wanted me to degrade and humiliate him, but I have no desire to be a 'sub' or a 'dom', even as a 'submissive' he was trying to degrade me by trying to persuade me to do things I didn't want to and attempting to break d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:21 PM
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They'd still watch porn and complain we don't do what their favourite porn star does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:09 PM
58

This is not true, attractive women here who was refused sex from her porn addicted husband. Also why on earth would a women want sex with the kind of man who refers to women as bitches???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:05 PM
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That's what many of the married women I work with say, some say they wouldn't even date. I regret remarrying, I always swore that I'd never get married, I wouldn't do it again, I have absolutely no desire to marry ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:01 PM
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Whatever men excuse as being a result of them being visual creatures or more visual than women, is in fact caused by male entitlement, lack of empathy, misogyny and objectification of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 12:54 PM
9

We can see by the way the artist has frantically jizzed paint onto the canvas that he is a tosser. That's my description.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:12 PM
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I read an article yesterday about how there have been hate groups on Facebook for men who hate women and talk about raping them and murdering and Facebook refusing to close them down because it's just humour! What the fuck? So glad I'm not on Facebook, I'd never join or go on it. Only social media I use is Reddit but purely for fds, I don't even have WhatsApp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:20 AM
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I do this and cook nice food for myself, I'm generally self indulgent these days, especially with the quality of food and recipes. Even when my daughter goes to her dad's, I still make myself good food and I'm really good at cooking and baking. The great thing about spoiling yourself in various ways and taking care of yourself is that it highlights the way men treat you in comparison to how you treat yourself. I find because I'm a very accomplished cook, that I'm often disappointed by eating out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:15 AM
19

Girth definitely and big balls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:10 PM
48

She's just a masturbatory aid, how sad. My friend told me her husband bought one of those VR goggle sets and I just froze and went all funny and I said I'm sorry they just make me cringe, because I know men probably but them to watch porn and she said yes I think so to. They gross me out! I like men who are comfortable with reality, the good and the bad and the imperfections, I feel like people who need to escape reality with porn and virtual reality are weak and cowardly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:01 PM
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Women are vapid, unlike men who spend hours watching porn and playing video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:50 PM
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Who is he? I want to know all the lyrics 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:55 PM
9

Don't forget that quote, 'Nobodies nicer to you, than the guy who wants to fuck you for the first time'. The worst ones though, are the ones that play the long game, even if you've had sex with then and they want something from you long-term. They can fake whole relationships to get whatever it is they want from you, even marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:44 AM
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Is this an actual song? If not it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:40 AM
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I love the elaborate excuses they think of and lengths they go to, to continue to justify being being perverts under the guise of something more deep and noble. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:38 AM
16

Yes! I told my daughter this the other day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:31 AM
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He was probably wanking over them, he probably persuaded her to have sex with another man because of his pornsicknes and cuckold fetish and then was butt hurt when she was finally pressured to do it and then he called her a slut for doing what he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:28 AM
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I know, they moan about expectations to be the bread winner still, hello, women have babies and still work full time and pick up the slack for the partner and its more often than not 50/50 funances. They are pathetic and spin the victim narrative to get away with more. All this rubbish about women don't like men showing their feelings and crying, nonsense, it's from other men. Meanwhile men expect way to much from women for the bare minimum input. Women are brainwashed and abused from birth by s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:18 AM
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I've just looked this up and found this from a guy who admits he didn't stop his partner from starving herself because he has an anorexia fetish and she died from it. https://www.reddit.com/r/confession/comments/9cfxf4/my_girlfriend_died_due_to_anorexia_and_i_know/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body And this article about porn sites targeting anorexic women, this is just another example of how porn and men's fetishes are routed in misogyny, they enjoy and get off on women suffering…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:59 PM
3

I bet he's really proud of that, infact I bet it's his proudest achievement to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:24 PM
3

I think some men know and seek out traumatised women, they know they can easily coerce those women, they just don't care. Men pretend to be stupid when it comes to stuff like this, but she consented, they know exactly what they are doing, it's like the strategic incompetence with chores but they do it with consent and where lines of consent are blurred they play dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:04 PM
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My second husband tried to pull this shit on me, he wouldn't let it go, it became like abuse and he would send me texts about it while I was at work and try look for men online and I kept refusing, it was awful. He never wanted sex and preferred porn, would happily give me oral, but was more interested in porn or another man having sex with me otherwise. I think it's a sign of pornsickness, he denied it and said this is an old fetish that dates way back, perhaps so, but it was uncommon until int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:49 PM
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Same with men who fetishize "petite Asian" women or like that category of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:34 PM
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Both sex workers and people fighting in wars can get PTSD, I read various articles/info about this, one that was entitled A sex worker and a soldier walk into a therapists office, who's more likely to have PTSD? Now most men and some women have no sympathy for sex workers and some even say things like, it's their fault and call them sluts. What's also interesting is that soldiers chose to go into that career, many sex workers have little or no choice, some are even forced or coerced into it. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:58 AM
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I used to get paid £150 per hour as an escort, men were paying me for sex, I had many regulars who came back again and again, don't get me wrong most were unattractive middle aged men...shudder, but some younger than me and good looking. One in particular was really fit and I always wondered why on earth he needed to pay for sex, eventually he said he just wanted sex without the hassle of dating apps. I know this sub is against sex work and I'm not recommending it, I would never go back to it. B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:40 AM
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All women should buy a strap on and keep it hidden somewhere, as soon as your partner asks you for anal, enthusiastically say yes, oh yes I've always wanted to try it, wait there I'll get some lube and be right back, then walk in wearing the hidden strap on, walk in confidently, stroking the shaft and enjoy the expression on his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:33 AM
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'Even if they get a cut', 'a cut', are you kidding me? Women are the product, why is it becoming normal for men to sexually exploit their wives and girlfriends for their financial gain, they are vile pimp wannabes. It's possible if these men think this way, that some, maybe even many, go ahead and sell, trade or share the material anyway, without consent of the other party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:21 AM
12

I know! Unfortunately the quantity of his head hair has dropped in the same proportion his porn viewing has risen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:03 PM
4

Yes, I don't put the maternity gap in my employment on an application or CV anymore, so they won't know and I don't mention it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:48 PM
276

'The quality of women has dropped', said the porn addicted zombie, who brings nothing to the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:03 PM
68

I'm in the UK, they were definitely breaking the law and openly admitting it! I don't know why I didn't report it at the time! It was a man and a woman that interviewed me as well. I had a job before I became pregnant but I was pushed/bullied out of it once I became pregnant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:23 AM
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I just remembered I went for a job interview in 2005, when my daughter was 6months old. They called me after to say I did really well in the interview and they really liked me and that when they asked what's most important to me in life, I answered my daughter. They said however they decided not to give me the job because they were concerned a full time job would be too much for a new mum!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:22 AM
91

Me and my daughter were discussing the other day how men are by enlarge are responsible for women's problems and poor mental health, but also by enlarge, responsible for they're own problems and poor mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:45 AM
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This is so true, I have myself observed this phenomenon with greetings cards first hand. I have innatenntive ADHD and I'm terrible with dates and birthdays and generally absent minded, having said that I do a pretty good job of remembering to get cards and gifts, there has been a couple of occasions where It slipped my mind (I still gave a card and gift but a day or so late). I can tell some of my family members male and female act a bit as if I'm a bad selfish person for it and think I don't ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:35 AM
42

Marriage is a scam here in the UK as well, it's a scam in any country where women's survival doesn't depend on it and where or in cases women have literally no other option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:27 PM
7

I used to be an escort, the agencies I worked for had apartments and the clients know when booking they will have to have a shower on arrival, some jump straight in the shower, others have to prompted. Some would ask to shower together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:21 PM
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I've said before I think many of them were always bad but the internet and technology has both made them worse/corrupted more of them and made it easier for them to act out and also exposed the true nature of most men to us. Some things are definitely directly caused by porn though, like most men didn't ask for anal like many do now, I'd never had a guy ask me to rim him years ago and men didn't used to be as picky and easily bored by women sexually and their looks to the extent they are now. Do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:32 PM
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I look at them now and think urgh how could I have sex with any of them, even looking at them grosses me out, I just see hollow shells with empty eyes that have seen hours and hours of god knows what kind of violent and degrading sexual abuse and humiliation. I don't even get as far as being concerned if they are clean and wipe their arse properly anymore, they just repulse me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:59 AM
85

I find it laughable when men call women 'gold diggers', considering they spend hours masturbating over women as a commodity, the way I see it they are encouraging it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:55 AM
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Haha priceless, I wonder if she knew he was looking at other women's photos on Reddit and planned it knowing he'd likely stumble across them. I hope once he confronts her she's just blasé about it and then leaves him for a younger man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:52 AM
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This really makes me want to date him and compete with the woman in the video for his attention and give him a better lap dance than her and change him...pick me...chose me...let me lap dance for you......only joking! 😉 He's trying to triangulate you before you've even had your first date! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:14 PM
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My second husband was so selfish and would begrudge buying me a coffee, I spent more money on him because he would say he forgot his wallet. When i was an escort I got £150 per hour and men would also bring expensive bottle of wine and sometimes gifts. One guy offered to take me on holiday wherever I wanted, all expenses paid including for my time. I had to refuse and make up an excuse because I have a daughter. But yeah it felt like my husband had no respect for me, not just because his lack on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:23 AM
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I wish women would stop having casual sex with these narcissists, having casual sex sounds more degrading than being a sex worker these days. I myself have been an escort, I never want to do it again, but I do feel escorts get more respect than one night stands and Fwb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:51 AM
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A man at work said I'm like a vampire who sucks the youth out of other people because I look young. I detected a note of jealousy more than him being complimentrary, I think the hitting the wall is all projection from men. Anyway I put looking younger down to not drinking and avoiding men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:44 AM
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You should have said yes, but let me plan it all and treat you, then book a male strip club. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:38 AM
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Usually when someone's said that to me, it's when I've said I'd rather have nothing than the alternative, I don't know how they can equate that to wanting it all. So for example; I'd rather be single than settle for a man, because I prefer being single than putting up with a man. People assume you expect too much and your standards are too high, actually I'm not comparing men to some fantasy of what a man should be, I'm comparing being with a man to being single. I personally feel like some peop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:30 AM
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Many men say it just to get what they want from you or confuse lust with love. Any women who are still dating or in a relationship, he needs to show he loves you and you will feel it, talk is cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:22 AM
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I rarely drink because I'm sensitive to alcohol and prone to migraines. I only have one drink on special occasions. My daughter did ask for some bucks fizz for valentine's Day, so we just had one glass each. I don't miss the days when I used to go out drinking and I like having a clear head and feeling in control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:16 AM
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I wish women wouldn't breed with these porn rotted vile creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:20 PM
74

That withholding sex/relationships and my time from men is so satisfying, rewarding and fulfilling. The only way to win their game is by not playing. I like my own man free space, having my own way an putting myself first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:05 PM
69

Valentine's Day, that day of the year most men pretend to care about you for one day, so they can get away with not caring about you the rest of the year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:00 PM
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I only text/message people for practical reasons, to plan something etc and keep it brief, maybe message something funny that I found or thatt happened with a friend who I know would appreciate it. I rarely, if ever, have conversations through messaging with anyone. If I want to have a conversation with someone or vise versa, then it's in person or via call. I don't date or do OLD, but I couldn't be doing with constant back and forth via messages! It's a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:53 PM
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Oh hello strategic incompetence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:18 PM
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Seeing a penis pic just does nothing for me, it's just a photo, it's not sexy or arousing. I don't know any woman who gets turned on or excited by a photo of a penis, the only people who'd get excited by it is usually other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:01 AM
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I know, I had subconsciously forgot that to protect my psyche, triggered! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:15 AM
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This is a mixture of porn use from a young age and the harmful socialising men to be the predator and women the prey to use and discard. People need to understand this unlimited instant/consent access to porn and never ending easy supply of it, it's effectively the equivalent of all people from a young age having constant unlimited access to drugs or alcohol and expect them to grow up to be content, healthy and empathetic individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:36 PM
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This is a mixture of porn use from a young age and the harmful socialising of men to be the predator and women the prey to use and discard. People need to understand this unlimited instant/consent access to porn and never ending easy supply of it, it's effectively like all people from a young age having constant unlimited free access to drugs or alcohol and then expecting them to grow up to be content, healthy, empathetic and functioning individuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:36 PM
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I'm in the UK and was talking to a friend yesterday, who said in prisons now it's the young ones that are at the top of the pecking order and who are feared. Some of them are so nihilistic and dead inside, they just don't give a fuck about anything. I was reading a porn addicts account of his porn addiction and he said his porn use made him nihilistic and not care about anything or anyone. I think it varies from person to person and what they are watching and how often but I definitely believe p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:41 AM
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You don't even waste your breath mentioning it to him, you just leave and never look back, simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:34 AM
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I used to be on Facebook several years ago and a woman started a page like this to counteract the objectifying pictures men were posting of women. It just had topless model like men on. And guess what men reported it and it got took down! It was nothing compared to the images of women on Facebook. I came off Facebook for several reasons, I don't use social media now, but one of the reasons was because of how sexist Facebook is and the double standard. Edit just to add, Facebook thinks saying 'ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:27 PM
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I play a game with my friends, it's guess the genre of porn he wanks over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:53 AM
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That's disgusting, they are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:37 AM
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Haha cartoon ponies, I've never heard of this but I have no doubt this is an actual thing, none of it surprises me anymore. When I first heard about hentai, I assumed it was gaming addict teenagers who had a penchant for it, I didn't realise grown men were jerking to cartoons!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:23 PM
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My first husband was a police detective and told me most women make it up, this was the mindset and victim blaming of most of his colleagues at the time, which was around 2004, what hope do they have coming forward to misogynists like this in the police. I was 19 when I met him and he was a 29 year old police officer. He makes me feel sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:12 PM
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He's a man, he has no experience of being a woman and experiencing what women experience. I think they know really, they just want to guilt, manipulate and gaslight women into continuing to playing the dating game and giving men a chance, because they need the attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:57 PM
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Yeah they are literally simps to pornstars and the porn industry, they devote so much time, money and energy to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:48 PM
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I agree, the porn is a reflection of how they see women, how can they expect us to care about their mental health, when they get off to the degradation, abuse and dehumanisation of others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:08 PM
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Thanks for this, this is so interesting! It's interesting it's linked to autism and schizophrenia I read, my mum has schizoaffective disorder. I think your right. I've suspected for a long time me and my daughter have undiagnosed autism, I tried to get help when she was younger but I got fobbed off and her dad wouldn't have it. It would be so difficult now for either of us to get a diagnosis here in the UK, she is bright and we both perform well academically (well I didn't at school, but do as a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:25 PM
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I experienced migraines, digestive problems, psychogenic pain/symptoms and taking risks when I was depressed, I'm a woman. Everything was internalising and self destructive through, I wouldn't abuse or hurt others and never abused substances. I think me and my daughter are both highly sensitive people who experience psychogenic pain easily. She told me the other day she feels things she sees and I asked her what she meant and she said when she see's people hugging she can feel it, not as strong …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:32 PM
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I came here to say male entitlement, but someone's already said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:19 PM
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The shutting down and silent treatment/stonewalling is a massive red flag, it's a passive aggressive way to avoid accountability and compromise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:57 AM
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I feel another t-shirt design coming with that slogan, someone needs to start and FDS inspired t-shirt business!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:55 AM
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Women have psychology problems from their childhood too, but women more often than not end up being the ones to allow their partner to violate them sexually or internalise more, rather than act out. women are less likely to become porn addicts. I watched a documentary about detectives catching pedophiles last night and one was in the cell, saying how he had an awful childhood and his stepmother was cruel to him. Shut like this happens to women too, but it's rare for women to become pedophiles an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:49 AM
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This is why the men's mental health drive annoys me, mental health/illness is not gender specific and men are often/largely causing it themselves and often women's mental health problems as well. They don't care about the mental health of desperate or traumatized women or children or even men in porn and the mental health of their partner because of their porn addiction. I just want to add though, I want better mental health for everyone including men, but they need to start taking accountabilit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:40 AM
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No!!! Fuck that, she should get out now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:37 AM
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It's more women don't like fake guys, I married a nerdy, shy guy, he was lovely and the best at first but he turned out to be the most pornsick, misogynistic, entitled manchild I've been with. I would say women like good guys and not performative nice guys, nice guys are no different underneath their performative/fake niceness, sometimes they are worse, they have to put on a facade because they can't get women easily, some of these men really resent women as a result. Also the nice guy trope is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:31 AM
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Yes I'm so thankful I refused to have kids with my second husband, he said he was hurt and upset I'd ruled out having kids with him. I responded saying, you can't even look after yourself, why would I have a baby with you, I'd end up doing everything on my own. And then he agreed. It would have effected my ability to be the best parent with that dead weight as well. He pulled the bait and switch and he was pornsick. I reckon he just wanted to trap me because he had it too good with me until I re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:13 AM
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Stay single live forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:38 PM
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Oh your not moaning exactly like my favourite pornstar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:32 PM
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He probably has two computer monitors at home with two different lots of porn playing at the same time, now his eyes are stuck like that permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:42 AM
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Maybe she was his Madonna, they still have to take their hatred of women out on some women. I actually think the more attractive, smart and successful their partner, the more likely they are to feel inadequate and insecure and cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:43 PM
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I believe this also, just because a man treats you well doesn't mean he hasn't or wouldn't abuse other women. This is why it's so important that women enforce strong boundaries and standards and are always willing and have the resources to walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:39 PM
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This is nothing to be ashamed of, people should not be peer pressured into casual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:17 PM
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The pornsick will never understand or experience this. They can have all the sex they want, with as many women, in all the various degrading, humiliating and robotic ways they want, but they will always be missing out and it will never fill that gaping void within them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:11 PM
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I'm so sick of being overly polite and cautious about these topics, sometimes people need to hear the hard truth in a brutally honest way, like a wet fish slapping them a across the face to wake them up. Sick of all this 'kink shaming' baloney and being anti porn is anti sex nonsense and 'ooh your a puritan' gaslighting nonsense. No men are just too porn sick and misogynistic to have enjoyable sex with and it's not worth risking my health and safety over, that doesn't make me a puritan. Being an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:05 PM
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Don't degrade yourself, you shouldn't have to beg or even ask for respect and decency. Don't respond, walk away, block. They know what they're doing and want a reaction and to have power and control, do not degrade yourself by giving one or begging for scraps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:10 PM
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This is great advice! I always think about it this way when men try to shame women, a) They are hypocrites because they wank over porn, if they think these women should be ashamed, then don't you think the men waking over them should feel ashamed and disgusted in themselves? And b) I think men do feel disgusted with themselves and try to project their shame onto the very women they wank over or fantasise about, oppress or abuse. By shifting the blame or their shame onto women they are trying not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:08 PM
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Don't ever feel guilty, remember girls are surrounded by images of objectification and sexualisation from such a young age. I was talking to a friend about this yesterday, I was aware of page 3 and bay watch from a young age, at 10 I wanted breast implants, I knew if I didn't have boobs I'd have implants and I did in my early 20s. I have worked as a lap dancer and escort, all this stuff is normalised, we are both encouraged to sexualise ourselves and punished for it. Boys older than me put porn …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:56 AM
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I left my husband a year and half ago, I got my own place. I've been same essembling furniture myself, including a big 3 door wardrobe for my daughter. (My mum said how did you manage to do that yourself with no help?) 😂 I've been decorating, revamped my fireplaces to make them look completely different/new. Using the drill to put things like blinds up. Replasterd a bit of the wall. They may sound like little things to some people but for me it's very rewarding and the more I'm on my own the mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:38 AM
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Their brains and motivation haven't been rotted away by porn, misogyny and video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:16 AM
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Sounds exhausting, I wouldn't want to have to manage someone to get them to do their fair share. Even if they do it, it's still a job and a ball ache having to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:53 AM
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I haven't seen it, but my daughter has got into watching the Australian one. It is trashy but I think it's a good way to observe and learn red flags, behavioural patterns and even subtle low key abuse and tactics. Me and my daughter watch it but discuss their behaviour patterns and the psychology and laugh about how we wouldn't want to be married to any of them. I think trashy stuff can be useful if you watch it and pick their behaviour apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:50 AM
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I've had people tell me I'm a bit weird or quirky, a male colleague recently said to me 'your weird you'. I thought about this recently and I'm certain I suffer from androphobia and I think my weirdness is a subconscious mechanism to repel men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 08:38 AM
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True, it encourages infidelity, just go over to forums where men talk about porn addiction, they talk about this themselves, saying their porn use cause them to be unsatisfied with their partner and sex life and caused them to seek out the new and novelty. I've read some accounts where men admit their porn use destroyed their relationship or marriage but the women had no idea it was all because of his porn use, but the men admit they know for a fact it was their porn use they ruined things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:58 AM
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Sex is a natural thing, masturbatating is a natural thing but porn is not natural and it's dehumanising. Porn is not pro-sex it's anti-sex and more about hate and control of women, than sex. And I'm definitely not religious or conservative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:55 AM
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It's really interesting isn't it how men's behaviour is explained away and excused by mental health problems. Being aggressive or harassing? Maybe it's his PTSD. Not doing his fair share of chores and childcare? Maybe he's depressed. Not instigating sex and watching porn instead? Maybe it's because your nagging him. Okay so why don't the women with PTSD, depression or being 'nagged' at display the same abourant behaviours?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:46 AM
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It makes me think of a film I watched called Maudie, a true story i believe, about a hobby painter. She lives with and marries a nasty abusive price of shit and stays with him her whole life. She becomes a well known painter and in the end he changes but it's right at the end when they are old and she's dying and he treated her like shit her whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:57 PM
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I know I find it hard to sympathise with men, considering they are so keen to jerk over videos of women being sexually brutalised, dominated or humiliated. They don't care about the mental health of women they wank over being exploited and abused, they even get pleasure from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:31 PM
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I know I find it hard to sympathise with men, considering they are so keen to jerk over videos of women being sexually brutalised, dominated or humiliated. They don't care about the mental health of women they want over being exploited and abused, they even get pleasure from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:30 PM
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I know I find it hard to sympathise with men, considering they are so keen to jerk over videos of women being sexually brutalised, dominated or humiliated. They don't care about the mental health of women they want over being exploited and abused, they even get pleasure from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:29 PM
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I know I find it hard to sympathise with men, considering they are so keen to jerk over videos of women being sexually brutalised, dominated or humiliated. They don't care about the mental health of women they want over being exploited and abused, they even get pleasure from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:29 PM
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Yes! Porn, the media and many men dehumanise women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:15 AM
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I don't like all the n count talk, men who use it are misogynists with double standards. He made that clear by using the term n count and saying it's hot that your a virgin. I'd give him a taste of his own medicine and message him saying you can't see a future with him because of his high n count he is damaged goods and tainted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:06 AM
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I had 9+ comments showing under chat yesterday, this morning it's 5, I can't read them because I don't have the app, but I'm guessing their from sad butt hurt lurkers and have been removed. I want to read them for a laugh but I can't be that bothered to download the app. They are just shouting into a void basically, quite sad and pathetic, I almost feel a bit sorry for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:00 AM
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Sounds like love bombing followed by intermittent reinforcement, they are hooked. This is why the just communicate nonsense is nonsense, the men know exactly what they are doing and any attempt to communicate will be met by gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:49 PM
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Yes that's so true, just a concentrated version of femininity, the exciting parts of womanhood, fetishized parts and paraphernalia. It's really very misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:34 PM
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I caught the back end of a documentary about transvestism, the man was married to a woman and had confessed he liked dressing as a woman, the wife had accepted it and they remained married. I said to my daughter I think he loves himself way more than his wife and hates women so much he wants to become his ideal version of what a woman should be. My daughter said I was being a bit harsh and judgemental, but literally within a few minutes of me staying that, the documentary was showing him dressed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:16 PM
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Yes he was into pegging as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:29 PM
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Yes that's a good point! I think he did wish he was the woman. He was submissive, i also found out he liked dressing in tights and women's clothing, he wanted to be used and humiliated. I think they like the idea of being a woman. They seem to have a really warped and fetishized idea of what being a women is though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:14 PM
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This makes so much sense, my 'submissive' ex had a mother who he claimed was cold and she was career obsessed, she also had an affair when he was a teenager. I think the dominant woman fantasy was his way of fetishizing his pain and fear and turning it into pleasure. But outside the bedroom he hated me being dominant, I couldn't even get him to do his fair share of household chores and he'd gaslight me if I brought it up! I don't think he truly respected female power or strong women, just a feti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:01 PM
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It seems like men who are into BDSM, whether they are submissive or dominant, also think they are superior and regular sex and intimacy is beneath them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:55 PM
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He's a scared, fragile, weak little man inside, that's why he feels the need to make himself look like a scary demon. He has to prey on young naive and vulnerable women, so he's really not so tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:51 PM
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He was very shy and quiet as a child, typical incel type, victim mentality but really he hates and resents women and seeks to get even with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:35 PM
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Men think they get away with their porn use in a relationship and games like strategic incompetence, but the divorce stats suggest otherwise. 70% of divorces are initiated by women, men often say they are blindsided, devestated and didn't see it coming. The same men use tactics such as strategic incompetence and other manipulation tactics to 'get away' with the the bare minimum and get maximum input from the woman for minimum effort. But you see they are not getting away with it as they think th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:25 PM
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My second husband put this on and thought the hostage rape scene was funny, I made him turn it off. He was into being sexually submissive himself, which I don't like either, but it just goes to show these men still hate women. I said it's trivialising and making a joke of rape and he said it wasn't and I was overreacting. I saw him in a completely different light then. Edit I'm thinking of spun, different film! He liked fear and loathing as well, put it on but I made him turn it off early on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:16 PM
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Yes I meant men who like women just as they are, both the way they act and look. Rather than being obsessed with a particular stereotype/ideal which are usually extremes, like quiet submissive agreeable housewife type or the fiery dominant femfetale. And appreciate a woman in her natural state rather than looking like a porn star, IG model, we know they wear a lot of male up and don't look particularly natural. There's nothing wrong with wearing makeup, but men who aren't pornsick will still thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:22 PM
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It's a painting of a pipe by surrealist artist Rene Magritte, with 'this is not a pipe' written on the painting in French though. When you spoke about another woman's breast or leg on the screen, it just reminded me of this painting. They aren't even actual women, it's the image of an actual woman, it's a series of pixels on a screen. Edit It's also weird to think that men masturbate to images of women who no longer exist, they may be dead they may be homeless now or may have even commited suici…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:25 PM
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I just want to add the other extreme in regards to the first point you made, men who want a dominant woman in the bedroom, in my experience they are lazy, difficult and annoying, they want the a woman to do all the work and have mummy issues and porn addiction, in the same way men who want a submissive woman. A healthy, intelligent non-porn addicted man who respects women will want her to be niether dominant nor submissive, he will appreciate a woman's natural femininity (none of the fake/forced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:26 PM
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Yes I thought Ms was what women who are divorced used, but I read about earlier today and it is neutral and the equivalent of Mr. Once my divorce is finalized, I'm going to change to Ms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:36 PM
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I want the Mrs/miss thing done away with, just one title like men. This allows men to hide they are married but advertises whether women are married or not to men. It mirrors this lingering outdated idea that men think it's okay for men to have extra marital affairs but not women and that a woman's value is tied to whether she's married or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:42 AM
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And wanking over rape videos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:38 AM
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I bet he couldn't please one wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:35 AM
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They hate and resent women, so they'll never give her anything she wants, he could have everything in the world but still take pleasure in taking from her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:25 AM
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OLD is a cestpool, the pornsick men don't even see the women as human beings, just holes to use and dump their load in to feed their ego and so they can brag to their friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:22 AM
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Yes, It made me think of this is not a pipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:26 PM
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ce n'est pas une jambe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:56 PM
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Competing with pixels on a screen, it's actually quite absurd when you think about it, it's like a tragicomedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:50 PM
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Polite indifference is all I'll give them now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:41 PM
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I think I might be comphet, I've thought this for a while. I'm rarely attracted to men, I think in the past I liked the idea of men and a relationship with them, but not the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:38 PM
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The food really does look bland, not the kind of cooking you show off about and the giant TV disgusts me, I find the huge TVs and TVs that come out of the bed rather vulgar and distasteful. The thing that disgusted me the most was the fact she served it on the bed! Everything about it is just gross! Money can buy a big bland house and TV, but there are many things it can't buy such as taste and self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:33 PM
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Women are still expected to behave like pornstars who get paid but for free, women are still expected to be like maids who get paid but for free. Porn shows us what men truly think of women and it shows us that men don't see us as equals. Men want us to work but in demeanial low paid jobs, the patriarchy, misogyny and messages in the media do a good job of keeping many women in that position, even if it's indirectly by lowing women's confidence and self esteem. Men want women to work but still b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:19 PM
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The 'I'm not ready to settle down yet' one! 😂 I was saying to my mum yesterday I don't want to settle down again and one of the many reasons is, that I don't want to be the carer for an old man, especially when I know most men can't deal with women being ill and many leave women with a chronic or terminal illness. I've been married twice and she's obsessed with me meeting a man and asks if anyone fancies me at work, 'ooh I bet you have lots of admirers at work who are after you don't'yer luv?' M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:34 AM
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Yeah it's natural to find people attractive, it's not natural to dehumanise people. Porn, objectification and sexualisation of women, especially to sell things are all dehumanising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:16 PM
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In Wales there was an advert on the back of buses which was banned. It had a photo of a woman, I think it implied she was naked but never actually showed anything, with the caption 'ride me all day for £3'. This was on a buses advertising a value day ticket. They did also have a version with a man also. Here is a link to it... https://www.google.com/search?q=ride+me+all+day+bus+ad+banned&client=ms-android-lenovo&prmd=ivsn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwip9e6Bu8TuAhWHTcAKHYIVDucQ_AUoAXoECAI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:08 PM
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Lack of interest in sex and intimacy from the get go, said he was shy, he turned out to be pornsick, had loads of weird porn inspired fetishes and lying about his sexuality, probably bisexual, maybe gay or pornsexual and gender issues. Said on first date he didn't watch porn anymore, but was the most pornsick man I've ever met. Frugal with money and a self professed money didn't matter to him guy, turned out to be a complete lie, money does matter greatly to him, he just wants to keep it all to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:36 AM
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This is very telling how deeply insecure these men are. I only chase insecure girls with mental health issues because they're the only ones I may have a miniscule chance with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:05 PM
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Or onlyfans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:08 AM
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I even joke about the crazy cat lady trope and take the Mick out of myself a bit for being a cat lady, because I'm not bothered or offended by it. I ask my neighbor if she's seen my husband, she knows I'm referring to my 🐈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:50 PM
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I agree, look out for self initiated actions and not empty words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:20 PM
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Women are so complicated, like washing machines. Yeah I just think it's another example of strategic incompetence, they want us to think they think were complex, so we excuse their behaviour and they get off the hook with stuff. If were so complex why are men so good at gaslighting women? They know what we want and how we feel, they just pretend not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:17 PM
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Yes, this is why I don't get this hatred for FDS, were not harming anyone. FDS saves many women from toxic relationships. We aren't seeking to harm men, we just want to avoid the one ones that wish to harm us and are bad for our mental and emotional well-being, whether they do it intentionally or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:44 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:36 PM
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Apparently it was written by men. It's the guys with a short little dick who get offended by it. Play it before you have sex with a guy for the first time, see how he reacts, new dating/vetting strategy. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:32 PM
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3000+? This man has a lot of spare time on his cock filled hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:11 PM
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Yes it really annoyed me with 'The Great' a series that's on at the moment in the UK about Catherine the Great. She was known for being very charming and appealing to men, despite not being the most conventionally attractive. But in the series they have a very pretty actress playing her, I feel like they really threw the memory of Catherine the Great and women as whole, under the bus by doing this. They really undermined her by doing this and undermined all women, she was a strong woman who had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:23 AM
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Yes haha! Claiming to be a sigma male is such cope! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:15 AM
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Yes they often turn out to be worse and in my experience the most pornsick. They are more insidious and trick you into thinking they're nice and different, they are the most deceitful. He put on a good front about being a feminist as well, In the end I felt he had the most hatred and fear of women out of all the men I've been with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:11 AM
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The clarity you get after some distance from them! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:51 AM
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I don't know, but that sounds more high-key pick-me to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:50 AM
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I hate this song, so desperate, I'd be like here have him luv!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:47 AM
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My second husband loved him, it was obvious he wished he could be as successful as him and that would allow him to get away with being an asshole and use women. I thought he was a sweet, sensitive, kind sort of guy, but I guess he was actually just really insecure and not confident so had put on a nice guy act to get a women, in reality he aspired to be successful so he could be an asshole womaniser like Don Draper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:45 AM
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i LiVe OuTsIdE oF tHe HiErArChY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:41 AM
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I also feel like the media manipulates in some cases with the men who are a 'crazy genius', but do we have any examples of that with women? I think women are usually just presented as just crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:38 AM
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Deadpool annoys me so much and I haven't even watched it. I was on the train once and some guys were watching it and then this other middle aged guy started talking to them enthusiastically about it, as if they were congratulating each other on liking it and having such fine taste in films which elevated them to some level of superiority. Then they wonder why they can't get women, who wants to date a grown man who idolises a man-child in a lycra suit, thinking he's god's gift. I refused to watch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:34 AM
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Yeah I think there's a lot of problems in Amsterdam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:19 AM
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Now we have to take the blame and responsibility for the problems they caused themselves with the death grip and porn use! They put everything on us! My vagina doesn't want to compete with your tightly clenched fist, thanks, but no thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:41 PM
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My ex liked eternal sunshine of the spotless mind and I have inattentive ADHD, he also wanted to watch 500 days of summer and put that on for us to watch! When we split up briefly the first time, he said something along the lines of; I'll never meet someone like you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:26 AM
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Same, I'm done with dating, so not worth the effort. I left my second husband a year and half ago and had zero interest in dating and men. I have a high sex drive and I'm still not interested in them, dating or hookups. I feel everything I have to give would just be waisted on them and they are more hassle then they are worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:13 AM
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Why does this make me think of the phrase 'you can't polish a turd'. Not that I'm calling them turds, they're doing that themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:20 PM
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Ah the sigma male, the insecure butt hurt male who tries to fill the void by aspiring to make lots of money, in the hope he can monopolise women and treat them like trash to get even with them and those 'chads'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:51 PM
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https://fightthenewdrug.org/these-disturbing-quotes-from-real-porn-producers-are-hard-to-believe/ In it, he interviews Paul Hesky, the CEO of a porn production company, who says: “Essentially it comes from every man who is unhappily married, and he looks at his wife who just nagged at him about this or that or what not and he says, ‘I’d like to * you in the .’ He’s angry at her, right? And he can’t, so he would rather watch some girl taking it **** and fantasize at that point he’s doing whatever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:30 PM
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I always have the year 2008 in my head as the year that men's trashiness really began to eccellerate, but it's become a faster and more drastic decent as time progressed. This was around the time of iPhones and the financial crash, people started spending more time on their phones jerking to porn and on hook up sites to pass time and people were going out less, the town where I live used to be packed on a night out, most nights, that all changed with the financial crash. iPhones, porn and the in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:35 PM
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I'm not one to believe in conspiracy theories, however I often think it feels like porn is almost some elaborate plan to reduce the birth rate and thus the population over time, if it is it's working a treat. It's weird we have 18 cert at the cinema but everyone knows kids can easily access porn, even porn blockers and good parenting/education isn't enough anymore. Porn is definitely a new channel of patriarchy and misogyny and the libfems are their allies. I wonder about this mind geek, is it m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:01 PM
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Porn stars have accounts they post content to on twitter. I thought how do adult content blockers work with Twitter? Would blockers not exclude Twitter as this is not considered a porn site?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:48 PM
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My second husband understood my stance on porn, he agreed with my views on it and said he no longer watched it, that turned out to be a complete lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:45 PM
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I agree with this completely, I've been an escort but there's no way anyone could prove it in real life, even if there were rumours, there's no evidence I did it, it can't ruin my career and come back to haunt me in the same way porn can. Another reason why porn is worse than escorting is its impact on people and society, people staring in it and all involved are usually aware underage kids can easily access it and the impact it has on people, relationships and mental health and pressure on girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:41 PM
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Yep men have ruined it for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:29 PM
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Typical, aways trying to take credit for things we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:11 PM
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I love coming to this realisation, saves you so much time and money, which can be used more wisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:01 PM
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If I'm pushing a baby out of my vagina, he taking a melon up his butt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:00 PM
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Yes this is extremely common with men, they call it financially mining. All this gold digger talk is projection and men are much more underhand with this kind of thing and being a love fraud for financial gain. They will also use women to keep them to pursue their dreams and if successful will leave you to the dust with nothing if they can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 03:22 PM
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Whilst not all men are directly to blame for divorce, we know most men watch porn which erodes relationships (even if the wife never new about the husband's porn use or turned a blind eye) and I don't know many married women who's husband does his fair share of chores and childcare and if they do the woman has to 'nag' them to do it. So I'm very skeptical of any man who's been divorced, even if the ex wife did something shit, things aren't always clear cut and one person's continued frustration …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:31 AM
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So do I, we need more of this! I think women are waking up to how society and men pit women against each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:21 AM
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I would have done the same, I wouldn't have mentioned seeing him. If there were no belongings to collect from his, I wouldn't even bother texting anything, I'd just carry on and forget he exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:18 AM
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That guy represents one of those men you just know joins yoga for the sole purpose of making 'friends' with the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:31 PM
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Enjoy....https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r1t5LozB0Yg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:08 PM
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They decided it wasn't bad enough to stitch, I don't think they would have actually done it, I hope not anyway. It was just the fact he said it, it makes me feel sick to think I was married to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:04 PM
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I'm just reading about misogyny in medicine and came across 'The husband stitch', when I gave birth I had a small tear and they said we might have to stitch it up, my husband replied 'put an extra stitch in' and laughed jokingly, I didn't realise this was an actual thing and the term is The husband stitch! He disgusts me, both my ex husband's seriously disgust me and make my skin crawl, thank fuck I left them both! Never again...never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:54 PM
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Do we have conclusive evidence it was a woman that wrote this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:40 PM
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It's men in general, my own dad didn't believe me when I had appendicitis when I was a child, apparently I was making it up for attention, It nearly burst and luckily was caught just in time. Men can't stand women being ill, they need us to be well all the time, were not allowed to be ill or sick. I sometimes wonder if they don't believe us or if it's a misogyny thing where they enjoy making women suffer and don't want women to have access to treatment because they hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:36 PM
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Most of them are awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:31 PM
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He's messing with her head, he knows exactly what he's doing and he's enjoying every minute of it. How can she love this pornsick, abusive peace of shit?!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:29 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised if the amount he asked for was more than half of his mortgage, I wouldn't put it past them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:08 PM
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I'm so ashamed to admit this, but my first husband read the daily fail! It makes me feel sick inside, we are polar opposites, I wash but I will never be clean. 😷 It's the one thing in my life that I've never been able to come to terms with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:55 AM
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Perhaps it was the over praising, I'm sure I've read that can make kids grow up to be insecure? Also being the golden child can mess some kids up. I completely agree though, society is a big problem with mental health and the media and over sexualisation. Too many teenagers where I work have poor mental health, it's easier to blame the individual, rather than society, but it's got to the point where that doesn't wash with me anymore, too many people have poor mental health, it's clearly their so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:29 AM
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If the tide doesn't be turn we should start normalising ball torture and financial domination.... don't kink shame me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:12 AM
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🎶 Active wear...active wear....being hobosexual in my active wear. 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:10 AM
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I agree with this, they love it when we are vulnerable so they can control and exploit us. I was thinking about this situation hyperthetically recently, I thought if I ever lost my job and ended up homeless, the last thing I'd want to do is move in with a man, I just don't trust they have our best interest at heart. I'd rather join a women's commune or shelter till I'd sorted myself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:07 AM
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I was looking at them a few months back but I don't really need one at the moment, I don't rent and live with my daughter, I'm not dating either. But when lockdown ends, I would get one if I'm staying in hotels. I'd be too scared to go to a man's house if I did date for this reason and I wouldn't want to invite a man into my home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:17 PM
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'suckmypussy143' fabulous username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:11 PM
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Also women are more likely to work on themselves and change for the better, which means they may no longer have much in common with some friends and make new ones. I have one friend from high school who I still have lots in common with, the others from school we couldn't last the distance because I've changed so much over the years and their not people I enjoy being around anymore. Many men often stay much the same, football, women, brag to mates, beer, sleep, repeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:59 PM
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I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:49 PM
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This does not surprise me one bit, also ladies who rent or share accommodation with men or staying in hotels etc I recommend buying a camera detector.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:44 PM
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I agree with this, In the past I've been too nice and accomodating, even when people have been shitty and too polite and kind but it is wasted on these people and they don't learn and think they can treat other people like that then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:08 PM
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Yeah I do believe it's not always even trying to get back with you or into your pants, it's sometimes to alleviate guilt they feel having treated you bad, if you reply and are nice, they don't feel as much of a bad guy, they want to clear their conscience. Sometimes it's to gloat or get attention, or look what an amazing guy I've become, whatever the reason, it's always selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:29 AM
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Same, dating a porn user is lousy, even if there are no signs of porn use but then you suddenly find out, I won't be sticking around. Men can say I'm overreacting till their blue in the face, I don't give a shit what they think, it's my preference and I feel happier single than with a porn user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:11 AM
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Yeah knowing your partner is watching porn or only fans is such a turn off, I wouldn't cheat personally, but I would totally understand women who end up cheating on their partners because they watch porn and don't care how it makes the woman feel. Personally though it's over for me when I discover porn use and I have no qualms in walking away, it's a major turn off and a nail in the coffin for me. There's billions of people on this planet, why would i stay with one who I've just discovered watch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:06 AM
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Just tell your partner your thinking about doing porn really seriously and see how they react, this is what I did with my porn addict ex and he wasn't happy and I said but you said there's nothing wrong with porn. 😂 Edit And grab the popcorn and sit back and listen to all the reasons it's a bad idea, which contradict everything he said do defend his porn use, it's fun watching them tie themselves in knots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:02 AM
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It's bullshit, they don't need porn to masturbate and if they do it's only because they've conditioned themselves. If you have a high sex drive then why do you need porn to get you going? Porn didn't exist for the majority of human existence. I don't think, oh I have a high sex drive so I need to watch porn to get me going so I can masturbate, no, I feel aroused and so masturbate, I don't need porn. Edit I just wanted to add, I get turned on quite easily thinking about sex in my head and scenari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:59 AM
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No they're not the sneaky deceitful bottom feeding creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:37 PM
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You could be the hottest most wanted woman in the world and men would still cheat on you and watch porn, moral of the story don't waste your money on plastic surgery and expensive beautification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:34 PM
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Why would anyone want to be like Elon musk, he seems like a narcissistic asshole. I guess men just assume that because they wish they could be like Elon Musk, projection!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:30 PM
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I've said before I've worked in the sex industry and most women don't want to be there really, she's not overacting at all, porn is a reflection of what men really think about women, men who watch porn are my enemies as far as I'm concerned, they don't give a shit about women. No one batters an eyelid when men leave women over trivial and shallow things. Edit I just wanted to add as a women who's worked in the sex industry, being in a relationship or married to a man who watches porn or only fan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:25 PM
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Yes I meant the character! I don't know what the characters name is, but you knew what I meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:15 PM
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Yes I agree the obsession with anal is quite telling and BDSM to me is for people with fear of intimacy, it's a way to avoid intimacy during sex. It's so true about hypersexual men who are secretly closeted, I watched the series Crashing (from same woman as fleabag) and there is a guy exactly like it in that, he's a perfect example, trying to hit on all the attractive women and sleeping around but turns out to be closeted. Your so accurate about them being bullied as well, even by their own fami…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:02 PM
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These men seriously hate women, they really really detest women and have unresolved issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:36 AM
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He should just leave women alone the freak, him and Christian Bale should date each other, they'd make the perfect couple of abusive psychos, they could abuse each other and leave women out of it. Edit I do genuinely believe many men like him and ones into BDSM are gynophobic and struggling with latent homosexuality and internalised homophobia and direct all their anger and rage at women and take it out on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:28 AM
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Haha that's so funny, we call ours big boy as well! He must have such an over inflated ego by now, with all the praise and flattering nicknames! When I lived at my last house with my ex, our next door neighbours #notmycat used to come to our house to see me and I'd say oh my other man's here and it was a running joke that I was having an affair with him! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:39 AM
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My cats better looking than real-life men, me and my daughter call him a handsome boy. He's a very big masculine cat as well, when I take him to the vets, the men like him because he's a 'man's cat' if you know what I mean, me and my daughter laugh and say he's such a man's man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:37 AM
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And even then I bet often their personality and attitude ruins it and renders them no longer attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:33 AM
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I had my hair cut in a short bob with blunt short frindge and bought some practical casual lace up ankle boots and button up shirts, I don't want to appeal to men at all and don't care if I look like a lesbian, in fact I don't mind at all. I am very feminine looking, I just want to be comfy and smart casual, without looking like I'm trying to impress or attract men. I even bought a baggy flannel shirt, you can't get anymore stereotypically lesbianesque than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:26 AM
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I can't remember the last time I genuinely fancied a man, me and the ladies in my office at work discussed the fact there are just no attractive men. I live in a town in England and a lot of people don't look after themselves or their appearance, having said that there are some stunning women but very few attractive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:18 AM
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'can someone shed some light on this situation' yeah men ain't shit and women are wising up to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:29 PM
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I just saw an article on something saying that bloated alcoholic face Ben Affleck's seperated from a much younger girlfriend, I instantly thought as she discovered FDS? It was only a matter of time though, he's a sad permanent mid life crisis kind of guy punching well above is weight. Never liked him or any films with him in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:25 PM
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'Guys don't like short hair' I deliberately had my long lovely thick hair cut short for that reason. I just want to metaphorically stick my middle finger up to what men like in a woman and what their opinion is about us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:37 AM
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And they get both for free from us in a relationship, while paying sex workers on only fans behind our backs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:44 AM
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I agree completely with this! I'd even be tempted to say I rent if they ask, rather own my home. I'd also advise women to wait months and vet before inviting a man over to your house and make sure you have been to his house first. Too many hobosexuals out there, men hide stuff about their finances all the time and it's not really men's business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:38 AM
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A guy who worked where I work was into trap music and was showing students trap music videos, my colleague called him out and said do you really think it's appropriate to be showing these to students and he said 'oh yeah I didn't think'. I'm doubtful and think if they like genre of music full of misogyny, that's derogatory towards women, I think it's a reflection of what they think of women and I think he wants to spread the misogyny, personally I don't believe him when he said oh yeah I didn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:30 AM
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They say we're bad and toxic because women are waking up to how shit they are and are raising their standards. They don't like that this sub is helping women value themselves. The resistance from outsiders is actually a good sign, they are worried more and more women are waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:13 PM
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I'd love to know all the things everyone searched that lead to them finding this sub!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:09 PM
25

Yes so many men seem to talk bad about their wives as if they hate them. Being the wife is not all it's cracked up to be and a man wanting to marry a woman is not necessarily a compliment. Often men even marry women they don't feel strongly about, but who are motherly and/or compliant and convenient. Many men are insecure and opportunistic and so they would rather marry a woman who they are not in love with but who is a practical choice for them long term. And some men are too scared to lose, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:55 PM
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More reasons to stay single, these things come back to bite them. More and more women don't trust men anymore and there's little incentive to put our trust in them. Just more reasons for women to be ruthless and have high standards and boundaries or just not bother with men at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:40 PM
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They like to blame women for all their problems and their mental health crisis, they blame women and think we should suffer for it, instead of taking accountability themselves. The real culprits to their problems are usually things caused by men and the patriarchy. They should be looking at things like capitalism, neoliberalism, porn addiction and other addictions, lad culture, toxic ideologies pushed by the manosphere (many ex redpillers/PUAs admit the ideologies caused them to have depression)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:36 PM
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I'm still undecided if he's trying to provoke a reaction or if he's being genuinely sincere and honest and expects us to be flattered and turned on. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:08 AM
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I noticed a message in my inbox yesterday from a lurker who'd copied and pasted a comment I made about being grossed out by men and that I may have been living my life as compulsory heterosexual, he'd copied It into the message and underneath put he'd wanked over my comment and he wanks over FDS comments instead of porn now, okay whatever. 😂😂😂 I don't know what he expected me to feel upon reading his message, grossed out? annoyed? Harassed?...who knows? But I just chuckled and felt pitty for him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:27 AM
9

And they'd rather save their money to spend on onlyfans fantasy girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:28 PM
12

WoMeN ArE aLwAyS sHiT tEsTtInG mEn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:16 PM
6

Me and my daughter watched that, we loved it as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:07 PM
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I hope she kicks him out, I hope all women kick these men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:45 PM
293

The dildo stays hard too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:27 PM
96

They always twist the narrative and try to play the victim, who's he trying to convince? himself? And he's 60 fucking years old, some never grow up and learn to have some self awareness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:24 PM
98

He did it in anger? Why is it when men and women have a disagreement, men have to seek revenge by watching porn or cheating and then if we find out they blame us, because we made them angry. Seriously who wants to date someone with such poor coping mechanisms, If you can even call it that. And he's probably angry because she asked him to wash the pots because he never does his fair share. If their not mature enough to deal with a disagreement in a healthy mature way, then their not mature enough…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:15 PM
18

More propaganda, gaslighting and manipulation, they never stop and respect our boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:44 PM
13

What makes me laugh more is that grown men believe it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:42 PM
32

Why don't they just go and have sex with men and bum each other into oblivion and leave us and our little bum holes alone. What an prick, I'm glad you divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:38 PM
8

I agree with this, being the Madonna is no compliment. I don't want to date men at the moment and not sure I ever will want to again, but if I did, if a guy expressed a wish to do anal with me or any woman, or to have his ass rimmed, desire to cum on face or in mouth, anything BDSM or violent or degrading and threesomes etc etc, not only would I refuse, it would be an instant deal breaker for asking and I'd walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:34 PM
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I think they are much smarter and more informed than we were at their age, i get the feeling they are not as boy-centric as we were growing up. I feel like even though the internet and constant access to certain stuff is bad on the flip side many girls are way more aware of what many guys are like now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:24 PM
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Yeah I think these films fly under this guise of some deeper message or parody, but it's usually an excuse to be gratuitous and violent just for the sake of it and cater to men's hatred towards and desire to objectify women. It makes me laugh when men are fans of fight club because of its anti-consumerist and anti- capitalism message but then it's the same men who enjoy the luxuries in life, maybe lives at home with mum and dad In a nice big fancy house, enjoy nice holidays and flights abroad an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:04 PM
15

Yes some men don't get the point with these films and some do but still idolise the main characters and the latter is even more disconcerting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:55 PM
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I refused to watch it, I told my ex husband he's not watching it while I'm in the house. I'm so glad it's just me and my daughter now, no more blokey films as I call them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:53 PM
11

All films my second husband the self proclaimed 'feminist' liked. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:51 PM
62

Is that his car there as well? He really is an attention whore, it's more about him than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:09 PM
29

Money can't buy everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:07 PM
24

I agree, no girl can afford to be naive, my mum is still naive about men and so I was. I was drinking on the park from age 13, I was one of those girls people would call street wise. But I hate that term street wise, it's a load of rubbish. Girls who appear street wise are often vulnerable and naive. I also have a teenage daughter, she's 16, but nothing like what was like at her age and she's never been drunk. I'm brutally honest with about boys and men, I don't sugar coat anything or mince my w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:57 PM
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I looked it up at the time when I got home from work, I didn't look at videos or photos, I searched 'what is nugget porn?' and a description was at the top of the search, which explained it was participants with no arms and legs engaging in sex acts (which I already had gathered from what I saw in the students notes), but I wanted to know like you how this came about and if they are forced to do it against their will, the description went on to say other people put them into position. I think it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:32 PM
44

We've all been there, when I was 14 lads aged 16 and 17 me and my friends hung around with were putting porn on in our presence. That was our sex education, no one had told me anything about what is acceptable and to refuse to do things that make us uncomfortable. In hindsight lads putting porn on in front of us, that is coercion and abusive and it's extremely common. Porn itself is a tool to sexually coerce women to men's advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:56 PM
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Yes they are usually the opposite, although my pornsick ex wanted to be the one to be degraded and humiliated as opposed to me, but yeah either way. There are men who can hide it well and we may never know or it doesn't show. I personally don't date men anymore, but if I did I would never assume they are not watching porn, even if there's no indication. I personally wouldn't try to find out or ask him as there are no guarantees and the do lie. But I would always make sure he is adding to my life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:35 PM
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And they don't respect the women who agree to do it, they think they deserve to be treated badly and used if they agree to do anal and degrading stuff. This is why women should never attempt to compete with porn or things his exes did for him, women should never do things they don't enjoy or stuff they feel pressured to do, a) because you don't actually enjoy it or feel comfortable doing and b) because men who request it or pressure you, don't respect you and c) they will respect you even less i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:47 AM
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I just looked it up but it looks like we can't get it here in the UK. Afternoon tea here, usually is a 3 tiers chintzy plate stand with scones and cream on the top, cakes in the middle and sandwiches on the bottom plate and then a pot of tea comes with it 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:25 AM
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This is the beauty of growing 'old' as a woman, you don't attract pedos who can't keep women their own age and are unable live up to their standards and boundaries. When your young the same men will be nice and fake as fuck to you to lure you into their snare. I wouldn't even be offended by him saying this or react, I'd just be thankful I'm not one those unsuspecting young women he's going to chase and try to bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:04 AM
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Me to! They play dumb when it comes to things like this and not knowing how to work the washing machine. But in debates and their work life or careers they are suddenly act like geniuses who understand everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:04 AM
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So are men that like it and think it's a good idea yet still wank over videos on pornhub, sorry rapehub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:01 AM
24

Yes I think it's the way we are socialised to be empathetic. When I left my last husband his excuse for being a shity husband was 'people are selfish' and I said 'well I'm going to be selfish from now on' and I have been and it's so liberating. I don't feel as much empathy for men anymore and wouldn't give them the benefit of the doubt like I used to. And I don't respect men unless they earn my respect. If women are naturally like that then we wouldn't be able to undo it like I am. I feel strong…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:55 AM
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Classy! It's almost like they're proud of it and boasting about how sExUaLlY aDvEnTuRoUs they are, as if other people will think wow look how cOoL and eDgY their sex life is, just like fucked up porn, god they're just really pushing the boundaries man, respect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:51 AM
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I think it depends on the man, some are terrible liars and they will give themselves away with their answers, even if they're trying to tell you what you want to hear. Some are excellent liars, my second husband for one. He admitted he used to watch porn but said he no longer watched and he turned out to be the most pornsick man I've had the misfortune of encountering. Most men will just lie either about watching altogether or lie about the type of porn they watch and how often. Even the men who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:37 AM
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It's true they really do. I do love Bo Jack horseman though. I loved Todd's character, his rock opera! 😂 I loved the chicken 4 dayz episode with Becca, the bit where she is making buk buk noises and officer meow meow fuzzy face think she saying bic because he has a pen. 😂😂😂 I love the jazzy sax theme tune and opening sequence too. But yes it is so annoying men identified with these characters like Bo Jack but rather than learning from them, they completely miss the point and think oh he's a cool…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:27 PM
6

It's so true about this myth that they are party girls! Couldn't be further from the truth. People often think lap dancers and other sex worker enjoy casual sex, I'd say in my experience it's the opposite. When I was a lap dancer none of the women slept around but I've done office work and other regular jobs in the past where some women sleep around a lot. I'm not a party girl at all, I was a mum at 20 so I had to grow up quickly but to be honest I've never been a fan of partying and drinking. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:02 PM
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His face seems to get wider and wider the older he gets and his squinty, shifty cold eyes. The wider his face gets the smaller, more squinty and close together his eyes look. He has a harsh angry face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:44 PM
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This precisely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:14 PM
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He's just rancid, how does he sleep at night knowing those women wouldn't look twice at him if he wasn't famous? Edit And how does a young beautiful woman sleep at night with that hideous thing next to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:10 PM
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This is made up propaganda surely, I don't know any women who like dating older men, everyone I know that I can think of is in a relationship with someone their own age and in fact I know a few women with men who are a few years younger than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:09 PM
13

He looks like he has been but ended up drinking the place dry and ate all the food and the late finishes behind the bar took their toll on him. His face looks bloated, is that a sign of alcoholism? I'm guessing deep down he knows he looks like shit and increasingly aware of his mortality, that's why they seek out young women, because they can't face the truth, it's a pathetic and desperate attempt to deny his aging. Men's midlife crisis's are cringey to see. Edit He also has a look of Santa claw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:05 PM
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I think someone put in a post months ago they did an experiment changing their own age to different ages on a dating app to work out what different men were setting their age range of interest at. I don't use dating apps, but for example if your someone who does and you saw or matched with someone you like, you could change your age to really young to see if you still match with them or older and see if you still match with them, I think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:58 PM
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It makes me laugh how wound up some men get over Keanu Reeves dating someone closer to his age, their rage over this (which really shouldn't matter to them) points out they are pushing an hidden agenda, by perpetuating men's apparent obsession with young women and any man who doesn't follow suit and push that agenda is ridiculed. Logically they should be pleased some men prefer women their own age and older because that leaves more younger women for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:23 PM
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Yes I do agree with that actually, it's typical of some men, even though it's mocking that behaviour, men see it as endorsement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:59 PM
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No I'm not a tutor, I got a job in college with the idea of doing a pgce (teaching qualification in UK) at the same time with a view to becoming a tutor, but I decided teaching is really not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:57 PM
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I couldn't agree more, I started lap dancing because I had loads of debt and as a low income earner and mother at the time, a regular job was pointless after deducting childcare costs. I never met a woman who was there by choice and most of them felt nothing but contempt for men, infact when we did double dances (2 girls one customer), many women would jokingly make wanking gestures and pull faces behind the man's back. I never felt empowered, I hate when people say it's empowering, such nonsens…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:12 PM
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You would not believe some of the stuff these students search on the college internet as well, certain things they search flag up and a member of staff has to call them or pull them aside to discuss it. I came across one that had searched 'nugget porn' while in class, naively I thought this was some kind of food porn, like where your just appreciating pictures of food you like but specifically chicken nuggets, but no it's a genre of porn where participants have no arms and legs and engage in sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:48 PM
23

"come over and cuddle" = "I want your vagina to cuddle my penis".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:38 AM
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I actually like it because it points out LV and pickmeshia behaviour and pokes fun at it and the depravity. I feel like it really shines a spotlight on male depravity and modern society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:34 AM
19

And if they were always like that or if it's porn induced or a combination of both and what extend each contributed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:31 AM
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It makes me think of the family guy clip where quagmire puts the pet hamster down his pants and the hamster says, 'no you ruined something beautiful'. Sick fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:05 AM
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I don't want to be on this planet anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:02 AM
10

I worked with a lady who was an ex police detective and she said incest is rife, like you would not believe how common it is. She'd been called back to court for a case, even though she'd left the police some time ago. And the case was a dad who had been sexually abusing, and I think raping, his deaf daughter. I think both the mum and daughter had learning difficulties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:02 AM
75

Urgh watching porn togetger to 'improve' your sex life. 😕 Edit If people need to introduce porn into their sex life, then their sex life is already over and dead. I always thought introducing porn was code for 'im a porn addict and can't get hard without out it', or 'i'm bored of you and you don't arrouse me anymore.' If a man wants to introduce porn, don't hang around, it's insulting and degrading. I'd rather him flat out say he's not turned on by me or attracted to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:48 AM
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I hope she leaves him, leaving my pornsick husband was the best decision and I have no regrets. But now despite having a healthy sex drive, I don't think I could have sex with a man again. I can't look at men without thinking, what depraved stuff have you been wanking over and so they gross me out and I wouldn't want a man to touch me again. I keep having dreams about being with a woman and I have always suspected I'm bisexual, maybe I've just been living my life as a compulsory heterosexual, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:07 AM
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I work in a college and a student wrote a story in English that was sexually sick and violent. His story included his sister or step sister and was a bit incestuous. The story followed the main character which was a princess and in the story he said things about raping the princess and cuming on her face. I never knew about anime and hentai at the time, but when I did it made me think of this students story and I'm convinced he was watching this stuff and probably step sister porn. The English t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:00 AM
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I think some of them believe their own lies, they convince themselves so they don't feel guilty, men like blaming women to shift accountability. If a married person cheats it's their responsibility to remain faithful if that's what is agreed. Marriage is a contract and if they find they can't or don't want to adhere to parts of that contract anymore, they should be honest and upfront with the other party and either negotiate the terms of the contract to suit both parties or separate. If I had ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:44 AM
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I've read several times, claims that porn addiction is often worse in religious men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:36 AM
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Men have become so weird and regressed because of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:35 AM
7

He forced a kiss on Halle Berry, I find him creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:29 AM
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They are a complete drain, mentally, emotionally and physically. I mean fucking a man with a dildo is a lot of work with no pleasure for the woman. The whiny little lazy sissy should go and fuck other men and stop dragging innocent women into his unresolved sexual and psychological issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:07 PM
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She doesn't even get his dick, that's what cuckolding is, he may even wear a cock cage. She fucks him with the dildo and maybe gets oral or sits on his face forcefully. He probably finds her skanky men online for her to fuck and tell him about it. He's probably putting her at risk, my ex tried to pull this shit with me but I wasn't having it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:00 PM
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Sounds just like my second husband but I had no idea till some point after our wedding. She says they are sexually compatibility but then says she indulges him. I think she'll find he's a selfish little bratty bitch who wants it all his own way in the bedroom and that he's self obsessed with dressing as a sissy and admiring how pretty he is and she'll eventually realise he wishes he could marry himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:57 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:17 PM
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I just looked the film up and it looks like some pro interspecies, incestuous, pedo fantasy shit. And I can't stand Adrian Brody, awful gawky creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:15 PM
19

I've not seen it but based on your comment it sounds just like a film my ex would love. 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:00 PM
55

How old is he? Like grow the fuck up! They are such losers, it's actually pathetic, they are an embarrassment to themselves and humanity. I have 0 respect for these sado's and I think my vaginal opening is fusing shut because of the repulsive state of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:43 PM
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I think they do, I'm convinced they all discuss tactics and boast about the results. From low key abuse like gaslight their way out of chores (I reckon they laugh about that to their mates) to sexual coercion, men help each other on how to better control and abuse women, but they don't call it abuse and control, they call it locker room talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:38 PM
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It's true but society excuses men's behaviour in dating and hook up culture and low key abuse/gaslighting, it's accepted that men deceive women to get sex and a relationship. If a woman does anything similar she's made an example of, a crazy psycho or an evil bitch, it turns into a witch hunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:57 PM
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I'm attracted to other men but I don't need to stare at them in the street, slide into their DMs or wank over videos of them being sexually abused or objectified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:40 PM
8

Yes this is very much like up growing with an abusive parent and then repeating the trauma by having partners with the same abusive traits as that parent. It's hard to break that cycle for some but by continually seeking out these partners they are becoming more and more traumatized, even though the thought of life without them may seem impossible to them they will only heal by breaking the cycle and with therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:35 PM
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Yes my second husband spoke well of his exes but you will see signs they still hate or resent them. My ex was an illustrator and dated an illustrator who later became quite successful and well known, I could see it really bothered him and it made him angry and jealous. They learn all the tactics to say the right things and BS us, but their mask slips. He also told me his last ex liked using vegetables as dildos, like courgettes and based on what I know about him, I wouldn't be surprised if it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:26 PM
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My last husband was all of these except 6 (he proposed very early in relationship), 8 (but there was ambiguity about his sexuality and he gaslighted me about it) and 9, I don't know about 7 because I don't even know if he's in another relationship and don't know anything about what he's up to anymore and I don't have social media or look at his. But I know when he went public on Facebook about our relationship he received a DM from his ex calling him an 'insensitive bastard'. He never clarified …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:16 PM
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Have you saved all the texts? Report it to the police and get a restraining order if possible and them change your number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:25 PM
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Wolves in sheeps clothing is such an accurate description, you just explained my second husband, only he was sexually submissive or so he claimed, I don't think pressuring and manipulating your wife to sleep with other men and tell him about is submissive, it's abusive, beware the sexually submissive liberals as well, they are just as bad but even more covert. Any BDSM shit whether they are sub or Dom (hate those terms) Avoid them all like the plague. Liberal men are master manipulators, they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:27 PM
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To me liberal men are very much similar to sexually submissive men, in that they both pretend to be on our side but both actually dominate from the bottom under a guise of being a 'nice guy'. They look at you like a snake because they are snakes and sneaky venomous fuckers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:16 PM
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Well I didn't think so at the time but looking back and the state on my mental health I would say yes, whether he was doing it deliberately and consciously or not, well I didn't think so before, but on reflection there are some clues in some things he said that make me think he was aware of what he was doing and are threats. He once said 'why don't you react and get angry' once, when he was pushing my buttons, he was disappointed he couldn't provoke a reaction. He also said the first time we sep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:40 PM
21

Yeah my cat's love is genuine, men's love is fake. My cat is affectionate and intuitive. A life with a cat is peaceful and relaxing, no drama, no gaslighting, no crusty socks on the floor, no porn...etc...etc...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:25 AM
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Yeah they whine about women wearing loads of make-up and being obsessed with how they look but then they obsessively wank over pornstars and IG models caked in makeup and plastic surgery and fail to see how men and their porn habits activity support and encourage it. If men don't like it then maybe they should lead by example and stop following/watching glamorous dolled up IG models and porn stars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:20 AM
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I felt on the verge of breakdown with both my husbands but I left both before things got that bad. My mental health and other health problems improved vastly after leaving and gradually improved till they had gone completely like you. My skin was a mess, I was having IBS symptoms, night terrors where I was waking up soaking wet, dizziness, concentration problems, social anxiety and easily irritated and quick to anger out in public, etc etc. But it's all cleared up now, for a while I was still ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:15 AM
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Some would even enjoy that, it feeds their ego to get a reaction and for a woman to care so much she'll stay till he drives her crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:03 AM
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Empathy gained? but still jerking to misogynistic and objectifying porn no doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:21 PM
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Haha similar thing happened with my second husband's married brother, I looked at what other people were looking at in Instagram and his brother was not just liking, but also leaving conversation initiating comments on the photos of glamour model, plastic surgery type women behind his wife's back. I said does he not realize people can see what he's liking and commenting on from his business account as well! He told his brother and he was like oh shit I didn't know, his wife didn't know and I wis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:44 PM
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Yeah he's doing that 'kinky' abusive shit with some wOrThLeSs SlUt behind the wife's back and the wife serves to hold together the false image of him being a wholesome family man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:37 PM
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I don't know who he is and I don't want to, but I can tell he lacks good judgment and taste by that hideous white turtle neck he's wearing, which alone would be bad enough but to then team it with a black suit jacket, it's testement he is incapable of making sound decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:21 PM
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Yeah I agree, she's exploiting them and laughing all the way to the bank She probably laughs at the idiots who buy her bath water etc. But she has to live with the fact she is influencing and infecting the minds of girls, especially vulnerable ones and contributing to the hypersexualisation and mental health crisis of young people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:58 PM
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