Studies show that husbands stress wives out more than their children. Women say they feel like a husband is another child instead of a partner

Mcccy · 2021-03-04T11:42:30+00:00

The more I read about marriage, the more I wholeheartedly believe, that guys are shocked when a 30 year old woman looks young is cause their poor mom was married from 18 and had her whole life drained by the time she was 30.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-03-04T15:43:04+00:00

Wai what? Are they for fucking real? They suggest the fix is to "give your partner a good ribbing"? What the fuck? Not maybe evaluate how much you're actually helping? Or writing down the chores you do?

It's like they just completely say "well mothers FEEL this way, but men aren't getting appreciation, so the mothers are wrong".

Also the complain by women is that their husband is a CHILD. So you're telling him to act more childlike and tease his wife? What the flying fuck.

-captainhook · 2021-03-04T12:10:46+00:00

Men live longer, experience less depression and addiction, and are shown to be happier when they’re married vs. unmarried. The exact opposite of all the above is true of women.

Yet there are a dozen negative stereotypes about unmarried women (lonely/sad/crazy cat lady, cold and unlovable career woman, washed up single mom, etc.) while unmarried men are portrayed as cool bachelors. It’s all projection

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-04T16:37:59+00:00

3/4 of women in the study find their husbands just add more stress to their lives and say their husbands are like children, not real life partners. The husbands say they are doing better than previous generations and don’t get credit for that. Lmao omg. The answer says Mens Health, make fun of each other. Wow, marriage not even once.

whitefox00 · 2021-03-04T17:40:30+00:00

This is exactly how I felt about my ex-husband. He was 2x the burden that the kids were. The kids would clean up after themselves, they would assist with household chores, and my favorite, if I was sick they would be empathetic and help out more/order a pizza. My ex would throw a tantrum if I was sick and then pretend to be sicker than I was.

It’s funny, I’ve been saying for a long time that marriage is a scam for women. The women younger than me are aghast, the women my age are like “meh”, and the women older that me are like “YES 100%”. You can see the life experience in action.

real90slike · 2021-03-04T10:52:28+00:00

A Survey of 7000 mothers from US show found that, on average, their levels of stress could be rated at a whopping 8.5 out of 10. What's more interesting, however, is that almost half of the participants claimed that their husbands (shock) added more stress to their day than the children in their lives. Because of this, the mothers in the survey viewed their other half as 'big kids', rather than equal partners, leading to 46% of the participants being considerably more stressed than usual. Similarly, almost three-quarters of the survey's participants felt that the majority of household tasks and parenting duties fell on them — leading to more stress when it came to finding time for the rest of the day's tasks.

_mooness · 2021-03-04T16:24:48+00:00

Ok but what’s that last bit at the end of the article about? The solution to this is to make fun of your spouse bc apparently couples who routinely take jabs at one another stay together longer? So now on top of being a man child men who read this are going to think “ahh, I don’t have to change! I just have to laugh at her expense more!”

2340000 · 2021-03-04T11:21:14+00:00

Western religions ( ideologies adopted by colonized countries) says that a woman was made to keep a man company. The word 'wife' previously meant 'servant'.

And on another note, patriarchy has us all deluded into thinking men are big babies who can't pick what to wear, fix a tie, or clean up after themselves. It's cognitive dissonance.

Marriage does not benefit women. I've heard men say they need a wife cause their house requires "a woman's touch." And the women would swoon🙅No thank you.

dutchie19 · 2021-03-04T15:31:56+00:00

Don't need a study for that

eveloe · 2021-03-04T12:45:28+00:00

Shout out to Men’s Health for publishing this. GQ / Cosmo could never.

UrsulaVanTentacles · 2021-03-04T15:59:18+00:00

And in other news, the sky is blue. Sad but true 🤷‍♀️

TheDameWithoutASmile · 2021-03-04T17:30:14+00:00

Interesting that the article points out women's "perceptions" and men's "perceptions"... but fails to bring up the numerous studies that have shown that the reality is the chores/parenting disproportionately fall to women.

Convenient, huh?

hdost34 · 2021-03-04T17:30:47+00:00

All of my exes expected a party, a parade, luxury foreign cars, unlimited sex, gifts, and more just for bringing in the mail. Needless to say I stopped asking them for anything and got rid of all of them.

escapetodos · 2021-03-04T17:50:31+00:00

kickinghimoutaswespeak2020

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-03-04T20:10:56+00:00

I've been married twice and have a daughter from the first marriage, this is so true! Both husbands really stressed me out, they were both very different people but both stressed me out and made my life harder. Being in lockdown with my teenage daughter has been amazing and peaceful, were both chilled and on the same level! It's heaven not having a man ruining my peace with his moods, strategic incompetence and pornsickness.

yomommahouse · 2021-03-04T18:17:54+00:00

Can confirm and reason #3452 I am divorced and have no desire to marry again.

dak4f2 · 2021-03-04T18:17:55+00:00

Wtf is this article conclusion.

Perhaps, then, as a separate study revealed, the key to fixing your stress and improving inter-partner communication cold be roasting each other. That's because an Appalachian State University study found that a regular ribbing of your loved one is actually a stronger indicator of a healthy relationship.

Ya, that will fix things.

jp2117515 · 2021-03-04T22:32:07+00:00

Totally agreed! My ex husband was jealous of the attention the kids got so there’s that - plus he had to step up and that was something I always had to “direct” instead of just being an intuitive partner and parent. We divorced a decade ago and it’s night and day. Soooo much easier and much more pleasant. Maybe praying mantises have it all figured out after all? 🧐

circescircus · 2021-03-04T20:35:46+00:00

This all stems from the fact that most men, probably a large majority, don't fully recognize what sacrifice women make when they have a man's child. They don't recognize that women risk their lives, risk their livelihoods, mental health and futures by having their children. They also don't care to understand how time-consuming and expensive children are, how much they require not just from their parents, but from their extended families and communities at large. At best, a lot of men just see kids as a bucket list item to check off, as a trophy item, they are NOT prepared for the costs-- emotional, mental, financial, that children require. Which is why so many of them are mediocre/doing the bare minimum, and why they shaft their wives/baby mamas with 95% of parenting. They hope that being a kodak dad will be enough for their kids to love them and not abandon them when they're old. They certainly want/expect their kids to give a fuck about them when they're older, while they try to get away with investing the bare minimum into their kids when their children are young. These are men who shouldn't pass on their genes, but patriarchy has brainwashed women into believing that their slob husbands/boyfriends will magically change once they become fathers. That they'll suddenly have this desire to be masculine, responsible and hardworking. Some women are so wretched, they already have kids with a bum, they find a new bum, and have this sad twisted fantasy that this guy will magically man up if she provides him with his own genetic children. It's so heartbreaking and so infuriating. A lot of men are just using their wives AND their kids for their life insurance policy/retirement plan... they do the BARE MINIMUM for both and expect the MAXIMUM from both.

I've never had a maternal instinct... my friends/family told me that your body goes crazy and wants to have babies after 30, but that never happened to me. I know not every woman is like me, and some have a strong maternal instinct/want kids, and there is nothing wrong with that. But please don't let society's misogynistic, woman and mother hating, male-pandering narratives influence you to make horrible choices. Having a child with a genetically inferior, low IQ, low EQ scrote is probably the worst choice anyone has the power to make. Either have kids with a HVM or just go to a sperm bank and actually have a child with strong genetics. I think scrotes passing on their defective genes is a huge reason why society is the way it is.

oscine23 · 2021-03-05T05:31:49+00:00

I left my ex-husband for this very reason. I already have a child, sir.

Sewud · 2021-03-05T05:24:55+00:00

They do sound stressful. Imagine having a grown adult who is impulsive and thinks all his ideas are better and does whatever he wants and it might not align with that is best. You're kind of at his mercy and that's why it's so important that he be a good one. We can't just blindly "trust the man" as if most men could be trusted to make good decisions and be kind. You have to make sure to pick one who will always be kind and stable and working for the greater good.

Arcaii · 2021-03-05T06:34:42+00:00

The sky is blue lol.

The fact that men feel they aren't "appreciated" for doing small things just makes them sound even more like babies. Do you want a cookie for making the bed? A smiley sticker for taking your kids to band practice? Women do all this completely unnoticed. And we don't complain because the shit had to get done anyway. We still do most of the childcare, housework, and pay the bills. Sometimes we even pay most of the bills. But it's thankless. The kids don't appreciate it, the husband just takes it for granted. So we should pat them on the back for doing WAY less than us?

It's also incredible that when men do what we do, everyone wants to give them a thumbs up for effort, but when we do it's typically seen as trivial and unimportant, easy tasks. People only think it's real effort when a man does it. Which goes to show women are expected to do more, but without anyone acknowledging the fact that women are doing more. I guess it just seems like less when we're doing it.

2021-03-04T21:01:15+00:00

Except an actual child won't manipulate, torment or physically abuse you as much as a grown ass manchild do.

FDSfollower1 · 2021-03-05T03:55:07+00:00

That article links to an even more offensive article in Today, which bends over backwards for men's feelings.

From the article I'm quoting two examples, but it was actually kind of hard to choose just two examples:

"It’s not necessarily a guy thing. Anecdotally, lesbian couples with kids report feeling the same frustration with their partner. Raising kids is just stressful; adult relationships are even more so."

"Perhaps part of the solution for stressed-out married moms is to emulate their relatively laid-back partners rather than resenting them."

https://www.today.com/parents/moms-confess-husband-versus-kids-who-stresses-them-out-more-1C9884930

4BigData · 2021-03-04T17:59:19+00:00

I went through this! My son is a pleasure to have around.

Cannot say the same about his father, unfortunately.

Happily divorced, I've never had so much time for myself and slept so well.

Hmtnsw · 2021-03-05T13:37:53+00:00

You hear this all the time. It's cool to have a study to back up the jokes but it's sad when you hear a woman say she has 3 kids with one being the husband.

Kuanzhaixiangzi · 2021-03-04T13:56:04+00:00

Tbh the solution at the end had me rolling my eyes. The solution is roasting each other?? Tf? The solution is not settling for a LVM

Title	Studies show that husbands stress wives out more than their children. Women say they feel like a husband is another child instead of a partner
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Date	March 4, 2021 10:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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