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QUEEN SH*Toscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:28 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:15 PM
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LVM MYTHSoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:18 PM
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FDS HUMORoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:39 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:52 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:10 AM
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QUEEN SH*Toscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:06 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:00 PM
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DISCUSSIONoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:22 AM
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DISCUSSIONoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:58 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?oscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:40 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:13 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:40 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:13 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:50 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:40 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:21 AM
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QUEEN SH*Toscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:57 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:21 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:13 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 09:55 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:26 PM
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PICKME CULTUREoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:01 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:05 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:24 AM
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FDS HUMORoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:47 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:13 PM
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DISCUSSIONoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:14 PM
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#JustLVMThingsoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:43 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?oscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:57 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:31 AM
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LEVEL UPoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:19 PM
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DISCUSSIONoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:17 PM
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STRATEGYoscine23/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:23 AM
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I absolutely will not. He said if I ever agree to marry him, he’d be ok with living separately. Under those conditions I’d consider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:30 PM
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“No one is eating my treats” 😂 We are kindred souls. Lol So, I’ve been dating a wonderful man for almost two years and he wants to marry me. I love him but don’t necessarily want to be married bc the idea of living with another person again (I’m divorced) makes me cringe. Feeling obligated to take care of another person, of someone in my space allll the time, sleeping next to me every night, a penis poking me in my back every morning…turns me off. My friend is like, “”But you love him, don’t you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:12 PM
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High maintenance with health issues? Swipe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:04 PM
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Well, that explains it. Ignore her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:19 PM
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So when he’s eating p*ssy and licking ass he’s safe? And what man loves having their dick sucked with a condom on? Lol Come on, lady. What about HPV? And if she’s not in the room with him, she really has no idea. She’s playing Russian roulette with her health/life for money and trips? She admitted that she’d love to have a faithful marriage, so on some level she is NOT cool with this. And I bet if she tried the same thing, he wouldn’t allow it. But, whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:10 PM
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I could see him waiting and giving you the necklace later, but why wouldn’t he bring the flower inside, at least? That’s a bit odd. If he’s too bashful or self-conscious to do that, you may find he is emotionally immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 01:03 AM
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He lost interest because he realized he wouldn’t have the opportunity to get you drunk and take advantage of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 04:50 PM
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Well, some would say that his change in behavior is your answer and to be done with him. But if you want to have a conversation, simply ask him why he has become less generous and see what he says.
/r/askFDS18/04/22 11:14 AM
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When I was dating my ex-husband we split almost everything. We were young and unestablished in our careers, so it seemed logical. Never gave it a thought. Then we moved in together and we split bills. Never gave it a thought. Then the marriage and babies came and we both had good career jobs. Still splitting bills. But as he made more than me, we continued to do 50/50 and I was so used to it. I didn’t realize it was unfair until I mentioned it to my mom and she said, “What’s this 50/50 bullshit?…
/r/askFDS17/04/22 02:07 PM
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When I first started watching Handmaid’s Tale, I used to think ‘This is where we’re heading.’ It’s scary how quickly things have accelerated. I have passports for my entire family and money stashed for the eventuality. We may even leave the country in the next year or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:58 PM
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She looks like an idiot, smiling like this is okay. Green flag, my ass. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:38 PM
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You’re very strong. You said you’d rather suffer than be with him. You already get it. Brava! Carry this lesson into the future. And get checked for STDs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:21 PM
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Pretty fkn insulting that men get to decide this when it’s them, not us, who have the capability to impregnate a woman 365 days out of the year, them who will remove a condom mid-sex, and them who refuse to be inconvenienced by a vasectomy. Also them who, when polled, said they wouldn’t take male birth control pills. I hate it here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 09:13 PM
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I know. Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 07:34 PM
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No, but a scrote called me the N-word in my messages for a post that I made here shitting on fake ‘nice guys’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 05:17 PM
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Quiet confidence. They are not afraid of anything. They attract women; never thirsty. They know how to handle themselves in every situation. Healthy ego. Great in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:29 AM
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Imagine your husbands love and commitment to you being so flimsy that a msg from an ex could make him doubt your entire marriage. JC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:06 PM
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A picnic is so intimate anyway. Who wants to sit on a blanket with a total stranger? What a weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:14 PM
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Christ Almighty. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 09:29 PM
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So when the wife finally breaks down and has sex with him, she may catch a disease for her troubles. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 09:25 PM
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That guy comes off as a troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 02:26 PM
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I’m divorced and my ex makes twice as much as I do. He 50/50’d me to death when we were married and he still does. My sons therapy is 175 a week. Instead of giving me his half for the month, he gives it to me weekly l, the day before each session, and splits it down the middle to the CENT. Today he sent me $87.50. Mathematically it’s correct, but it annoys the fk outta me to see that fkn 50 cents. He’s so goddamn cheap. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 03:30 AM
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And Etsy fees, which are 12% of your profit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:59 PM
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Just live your best life, and strive to become the best version of yourself. And when you’re out smelling the roses, you just might spot a unicorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:25 PM
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He actually wants to “see how to allocate” $200? Put that change towards a do it yourself divorce kit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:38 AM
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‘Sorry to this man’ cmtfu every time. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 02:33 AM
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So many things wrong here. You’ve been dating seven months and you’ve exchanged keys. You’re bringing him AND HIS FRIEND lunch like a Stepford wife. Babysitting his dog? Talking marriage. Apologizing for expecting basic communication and chivalry. Have you read the handbook? Read it again. Again, it’s only been seven months. There shouldn’t be this many problems so soon. Of course break up with him. But it appears he’s broken up with you — or he is fkn with your head so that when he pops back up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:47 PM
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What’s the alternative, apologize privately? It’s time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:13 AM
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Wow. SMH Kudos to her for following through with the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:27 AM
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For real. Now they’re talking about taking his award. Tf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:14 AM
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When Will Smith wished his ex-wife happy birthday and called her ‘the best’, Chris Rock came under the post and said “man you have an understanding wife”. I think Will was just tired of his mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 10:05 PM
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Depends on how much you feed into those standards and your level of self-esteem. I look good for me, and bc I like how my body looks when I’m fit, not bc men are watching. If you’re chasing some ideal, then that’s unhealthy, of course, and too stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:59 PM
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What annoys me about this post is the assumptions about this man’s feelings and motivations. Hindsight is 20/20 and we were/are not in their shoes. Jada was the butt of CR’s jokes the previous time he hosted, and Regina Hall made fun of their marriage earlier in the broadcast. Of course that isn’t an excuse for violence. I honestly believe he just reached his limit and acted from emotion, not thinking. Why else would he do that in front of millions of people on the biggest night in Hollywood on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:01 PM
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He’s cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 11:19 AM
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What shocks me is how many people — women included — don’t believe her. I see comments upon comments about why did she wait until now, or the ‘what did she expect dating MM’, implying she deserved whatever she got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:35 PM
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💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:37 PM
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What got me over a narc years ago was when, after a lot of crying, I stopped looking for signs that he ever cared. His behavior was not a reflection of my worth, it was a reflection of his. I told myself that I had the best of intentions (over and over) and it wasn’t my fault that I got tricked. Then I wised up and vetting became my superpower. Once you really understand how these men are, you’re like Neo in the fkn matrix. You see all the 🚩🚩. Your ex is a POS who will likely die alone. A man wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:55 AM
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Imagine being married to a weakling like this. Good riddance? My vagina would be as dry as the Sahara.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:26 PM
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I dated a narc once for two years. He told me one time that he believed that people who break other people’s hearts deserved to die. He tried to act nonchalant when I questioned him. It was a lowkey threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:21 AM
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Wtf? And this is a person she lets get on top of her? He’s probably one of those men that don’t believe in drinking water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:33 PM
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I fear you’re not going to get it until he takes you to your lowest point. You are not understanding or accepting what you’re being told here. But some of us have to learn the hard way, heartbreak after heartbreak. We’re trying to save you some time and pain. This relationship is shit. This man is shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:11 PM
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“And so what if he’s dead?” The way I hollered. 🤣 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:07 PM
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Looking at her comments, he’s pornsick with a fetish for Asian women. No surprise there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:54 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:45 PM
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That she’s so brainwashed she ‘she doesn’t know why’ and thinks it’s ‘for no reason’. It’s all she’s ever known, beginning with her own mother. It’s heartbreaking. Kids don’t ask to be born; then they get treated like this, grow up, and think it’s normal. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:43 PM
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You’re so right, and so smart for rethinking this relationship. I ended up having to tell my ex-husband what to do and it fkn sucked. You don’t want that for yourself, I promise you. I know it hurts, but if you marry a man like this, it’ll hurt more when babies come and you find yourself doing every single thing and your husband becomes the second or third child you never wanted. It will hurt even more when you have to file for divorce. Be strong. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:21 PM
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Why would an LVM leave a marriage where he has a cook and a cleaner and a babysitter, built-in sex and a home he can go to rest his lazy head at night after cheating, where he only has to pay 50% of the bills? It’s a cushy arrangement, until the wife catches on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:14 PM
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She probably didn’t even need the hysterectomy either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 04:25 PM
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The drinking, and the not brushing his teeeeth. I’m gobsmacked. Don’t ever let him touch you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 04:14 PM
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I wouldn’t send them. Nor would I date someone who ‘happily’ follows/likes/loves IG models. Anything/anyone that fks with my peace is not allowed. Is this a Madonna-Wh0re thing, that he accepts it from strangers but not from you? Sounds like a weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:53 PM
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You can tell Man 2 is slightly uncomfortable. Men need to normalize checking each other instead of chortling at this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:06 PM
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I was joking. She had to have had it. No way she wrote a 16-page binder as soon as she hung up the phone with the sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:52 AM
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I think he loved the arrangement of having all of the perks of a marriage with the freedom to walk away anytime he wanted to. His bubble has burst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:50 PM
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He only balks when he thinks he stands to lose something in this arrangement. It’s ok for her quality of life to change, but not his. He was so proud of her and her smarts until she used them to protect herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:06 PM
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I wish I had that goddamn binder when I married my ex. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:40 PM
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So, they had a wedding and a honeymoon and bought a house, but he can’t marry her legally. And he wonders why she is approaching this as a business deal. She is smart, a badass, who refuses to be left holding the bag. Her sister put the bug in her ear like, “Sis, lemme tell you, this shit is HARD. Don’t get caught out here losing money and saddled with all the housework like I did. Keep your bag secureD.” She is not letting this man fk up her life’s trajectory. Lol I love this woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:19 PM
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They really do. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 06:36 PM
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I agree; it’s solely his fault. I was preyed on too once and manipulated. AND I was gullible/naive. I think both things can be true. She seems really sweet and trusting, which often makes you a target, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:50 PM
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Oh God. I’m so sorry. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:45 PM
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Yeah. That and “I really think he wanted to protect me”. She seems hella gullible. Not judging because we’ve all been had at least once. But sheesh, she’s still giving him the benefit of doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:39 PM
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Sounds like he has fetishes (porn, anal) that he’s downplaying and attributing to his exes desires. This is way TMI for him to be sharing with you. He’s a veritable expert on anal! Ew. You say there are no current red flags, but these are giant ones. And you’re feeling insecure, by your own admission, and you’ve told him so (bad idea). He’s kinda got you right where he [may] want you, primed for manipulation. You’re already trying to justify these things. When we’re in love it’s much harder to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 01:04 PM
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“Some parts of the anatomy of a woman can only be stimulated with anal” What does this even mean? It sounds very much like pimp talk. Mind fuck psychobabble. I think he may be downplaying how much he enjoys it, and that he’s setting the stage to ask you for anal later. That’s what I’m getting from this statement. You feel like you’re failing? Maybe you’re not ready for any relationship until you can stand firm in your boundaries without questioning yourself like this. Follow your gut. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:56 AM
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I absolutely agree. We are the strong ones. We need to normalize women leaving more often, and not a decade into a shitty relationship/marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 10:59 PM
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I’m so sorry. That must be so hard on you guys. How could anyone do that, especially to their children? The parents in the OP are actually the anomaly, I think. Most parents are in that ‘whatever makes u happy’ shit. Your ex has a boatload of karma coming his way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:15 PM
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You only what he tells you. Part of the vetting process is verifying the things he says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:21 AM
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So fkn disgusting. I’m speechless. So, seeing her bleed all over the place wasn’t a deterrent. He tries it again, this time without her consent. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:33 AM
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I bet side chick ain’t looking so new and shiny now. Done fumbled the bag. Bwahhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:12 AM
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I’m so turned off by men and their nasty sexual fantasies that that would bother me too. Who has time to sit around writing erotica? Sounds weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 08:50 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:23 AM
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And yet, he still planned to marry her, a woman who can’t fulfill his needs. Bullshit. He’s probably cheating already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:20 AM
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Good for her standing her ground like that. I hope she sticks to her guns. Cancel that fkn wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:19 AM
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What a crazy person. See, they don’t want you until they can’t have you. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:11 AM
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This is when a big scary brother comes in handy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:14 AM
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Obviously he shouldn’t have taken the card. I didn’t think that needed to be stated; we all agree on that. But the offense is compounded by his gaslighting and making it about his feelings. That was my point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:09 AM
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People forget that you don’t have to agree with someone’s point of view to respect it. All he had to do was apologize and respect the fact that it’s a boundary issue for her and vow not to do it again. Instead he flips it and makes it about his hurt feelings. Drama. I wonder how many other things she’s paid for since he’s been out of work to make him feel entitled to go into her wallet like that. They’ve only been dating eight months. Buying breakfast “for us” with her money, without asking. SMH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:36 PM
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men lying on their dicks. nothing new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:18 PM
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Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:01 PM
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After she told him she didn’t want to do that. Just decided ‘fk her body, it’s what I want.’ It’s liquid waste, and he puts it in her uterus and vagina. Holy shit. He could never touch me again. What a pervert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 04:09 PM
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My ex husband is like that. He’s emotionally reserved and he only has surface friendships. He’d play cards and go out for a drink after work but the friendships never grew bc he doesn’t let anybody in. It was a reflection of how he was with me too. When we divorced he didn’t have a relationship for five years, and no sex either. He told me he was not emotionally equipped to be in a relationship like most people. This guy sounds like him. I’d caution you to be wary, or just move on. You don’t wan…
/r/askFDS22/02/22 01:54 AM
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💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:21 PM
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The fkn time — and psychosis — it takes to capitalize every letter in a paragraph …tf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 03:59 PM
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Wow. How do you get over something like this? Unimaginable pain. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:03 PM
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Huh? Maybe for the same reason you didn’t want to give him yours. Or some other nefarious reason. He’s a stranger. Who cares? Don’t give it a second thought.
/r/askFDS17/02/22 11:58 PM
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My man doesn’t celebrate holidays. Never has; even before me. But he did go out and buy me AirPods he ordered from the Apple store a week before, and he put them in a cute little pink bag. He also drove 45 minutes to my favorite bakery two cities over and got my favorite treat. He gave it to me the day before Valentine’s Day, so technically he wasn’t celebrating it. Lol In my mind I’m thinking, whatever you need to tell yourself, dude lol (And this is a man who spoils me all year long, so VDay i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:18 AM
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I am! Been with a wonderful man for 18 months now. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:35 AM
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Laughs in where they do that at lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:33 AM
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A loser who lives to make women feel as miserable as he does. Nice try, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 12:31 AM
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He just sat there, visibly sad. He didn’t fight for me either, though. Said he couldn’t be what I wanted. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:40 PM
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Plenty of people have mental health issues and they do not abuse their partners. He’s a narcissistic abuser who happens to be bipolar. His diagnosis is not the cause of his behavior. He’s always been an abuser. Look how he did amber Rose when they broke up. It’s who he is at his core. And I’m Im so tired of the whole “he’s still grieving his mother” bit. Plenty of us have deceased parents. And??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:49 AM
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So, one year when me and my ex-husband were on the rocks we moved bk to my hometown to be near my family, hoping that having the familial support (babysitting and such) would allow us to go out more and have time to ourselves to rekindle the spark. So, a few days before Valentine’s Day he told me he’d asked my mom to watch the kids so we could go out. I was impressed he took the initiative, and excited for something romantic. Valentine’s Day comes and mom has the kids and we get in the car. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:47 AM
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She lost me at ‘plans to get married for seven years’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:23 PM
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I’m a New Yorker. We don’t stop or move for anyone. I will straight mow your ass DOWWWN. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:20 PM
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LOL. What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:54 PM
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My ex-husband gave me a blender as a gift when we were dating. Could the red flag have been any bigger? 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:55 AM
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In the 80s my mom’s best friend died of AIDS that she contracted from her cheating husband(he beat her too). She died very soon after her diagnosis, while he lasted another two decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:39 AM
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Thank you! I’m obsessed with my hands lol. I don’t even wash dishes or do any cleaning without gloves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:14 PM
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If we’re just orifices wrapped in skin, the problem should have been solved with the advent of fk dolls. But here we [still] are. It’s just what they tell themselves to avoid the painful reality that they want/need connection and are hurting from a lifetime of rejection. It’s sad, really. It’s a reaction to trauma. But we don’t have the luxury of feeling empathy for them bc they’re dangerous men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:56 PM
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Imagine your man buying you an air mattress to sleep in the living room like a pet, as he steps over you banging away in the kitchen turning lights on and off. I bet when she agreed she had no idea he’d be TOTALLY unwilling to take her into consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:28 PM
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Thanks. It’s all sorted. He wasn’t really into it, but watching bc a friend told him if he wanted to get girls he should follow this guy. He admitted that it didn’t sit right with him, and he was confused. He’s a very empathetic kind young man and he’s unlike many of his peers. He’s finally embracing that difference and I’m so proud of him. His dad is not misogynistic, but an LVM in that he doesn’t make a point to instill lessons in his son. He leaves all the heavy lifting to me and the emotiona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:51 PM
60

I saw my 15-year-old son watching it last year; that’s how I know who he is. The guy was saying stuff like “you have to F her really hard, break her back so she respects you”, “never imprint on a woman, that’s for betas”… all that blue pill, red pill bullshit. I told his dad to watch a few videos and then talk to my son about it. But he was too busy 🙄So I had to step in and talk to him myself, and then I recruited my brother, and another male friend. Boys need constant intervention not to turn o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:31 PM
18

I just watched this movie for the first time about a month ago. I love Audrey Gepburnand this is one I’d never seen. I was horrified. The whole movie I kept thinking “There’s no way she’s going to end up with this old misogynist.” And that’s exactly what happened! I was floored! I called my mother ranting lol Do u remember the song HE sings about women and how we’re good for nothing? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:32 PM
43

Can’t stand him. There’s this guy on YouTube called Steph Is Cold. Hate him too. He’s got all the young boys wrapped up in his bullshit. It’s so bad. So disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:26 PM
48

…And suck dick on command without any regard for my own pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:25 PM
207

I love this girl! Burrrn. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:42 AM
202

I bet his wife didn’t agree to the raw sex part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:40 PM
5

Haha. Never thought about it like that. So true! 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:51 PM
10

Same. He bought me a brand new MacBook and I felt so embarrassed inside. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:00 PM
8

I’m in a relationship with a HVM for almost two years now and I still fight with the idea of him giving me things. Of course, I don’t say it out loud (I’m not stupid! Lol), but I’m so used to doing things for myself and being proud of that, and having a cheap 50/50 ex-husband that I’m just not used to someone being so giving. And that’s a damn shame. But I lowkey love it 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:59 PM
32

Not married and already leaving him to go stay with parents. Do not put the cart before the horse ladies. Protect ur womb!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:21 PM
43

I did a browser check on my son’s computer monthly. He didn’t know how to clear it. The first time I saw something I didn’t like, we sat him down and had a talk about the hazards of learning about sex via the internet. Told him in no uncertain terms if I saw it again I was taking every device he owned. From that moment forward he was only allowed to use his computer in the kitchen at the table where we could see what he was doing. I certainly didn’t go looking for less offensive porn. Wtf? Fast …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:13 PM
61

“Dear Wife, Idk your husband. Why is your husband contacting me? Please ask him to stop.”
/r/askFDS10/02/22 02:08 PM
196

Sheesh. It’s really bad out here. I see why more and more women prefer to spend time with friends, and pets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:12 AM
122

Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:40 PM
20

Well, following someone and being obsessed with them are two very different things. Soft porn ‘models’ and fully clothed actors/singers are also very different. It’s all relative. Discernment is key.
/r/askFDS09/02/22 10:20 PM
54

I think the word ‘slave’ is used too freely these days to describe unfortunate, suboptimal conditions. We all know what slavery is/was. Women are not slaves. We have a long way to go, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:52 PM
72

Put it like this: if it bothers you, it’s a problem. You don’t need justification for it. Decide what you can/can’t handle and proceed accordingly. While your man shouldn’t be ogling other women, you also can’t be jealous of every pretty woman you see. Him following half naked IG models = he’s the problem. You feeling threatened by a Taylor Swift/Emma Watson = a YOU problem. Edit: for clarity
/r/askFDS09/02/22 02:41 PM
61

Lol French tips? The rest is asinine too, but that made me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:39 PM
18

Brava!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:43 PM
54

I found this sub right when I started dating him, so it helped me navigate the dating process and things to look out for. I wasn’t actively dating though. I really didn’t gaf about men at the time, which I found to be ironic — and probably the best mindset to have. I have to say though, that reading all these horror stories made me overly paranoid and I almost fumbled it looking for shit that might be wrong with him. Lol But better that than getting played. We’re 18 months in. Thanks FDS. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:45 AM
96

The first flag for me (there were several) was that he told her he generally looks for casual hookups. It would have been unbelievable to me that he was so enamored with me that he wanted to change that. Sounds like game. I would have made him wait a lot longer to prove that. If he’s only been hooking up and fkn randos from an app for three years, he doesn’t know about making love. That’s where my mind would have gone. But I’m alot more suspicious now than I was at 29, so I get it. The quickie a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 11:20 PM
4

I’ll DM you the info anyway. It’s a good dude hustle to keep in your back pocket. I’ll send this evening :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:46 PM
17

I saw this yesterday. I always feel so badly when I read this stuff and think, “Just leave.” But clearly that easier said than done. By the time something like this happens to a woman there’s usually a lot of manipulation and gaslighting that has happened and they can’t even think straight. I’m so sorry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:02 PM
4

I’m so sorry. This is horrible. Can you work online? He’d think you were studying maybe since you’d be at a computer and not physically going someplace. If you can type relatively fast, I have a lead, if so. Get a taser if it’s legal where you live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:00 PM
16

He may be the reason she doesn’t make it. It’s so important to have support and strength of spirit, and he’s killed hers. If this was me and my husband did this, my brother would hunt him down and beat him within an inch of his life, just on principal. I hope she survives and ruins him. Sadly, I’m getting pickme energy here. She’s not even angry. Maybe she’s just defeated 🥲 Hell, she may have a miraculous recovery now that the toxic energy has left the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:49 PM
13

Jesus. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:14 AM
52

I have a young daughter. I am so sad that she will have to navigate this crap, and I worry she’ll make some real mistakes before she truly understands what’s out there. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:11 AM
32

Oh. My. God. 😫🤮😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:46 AM
130

“Completely covered in saliva”? What does this even mean? Do I wanna know? Women are actually out here participating in their own degradation like it’s normal? End of days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:43 PM
149

So, she gets up with kids, works TWO jobs, walks the dogs, prepares the meals, gets the children ready for bed, and he does…NOTHING but sleep in work part-time and watch porn in the bathroom for hours. But she’s wondering if she’s the AH. She needs FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:19 PM
109

I bet is was something sexual that she wouldn’t do. She was very religious. He’s disgusting looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:52 PM
10

I read through some of her other posts. Low self-esteem, and he’s the only man she’s ever been with. And depression, most likely caused by him. I hope she got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:51 PM
398

So sad. He has the crazy eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 04:20 PM
8

Same, sis. Same. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:32 AM
30

OMG. Disgusting. Why would anyone put up with this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:30 PM
23

Idk if it’s rape. I think the definition can vary depending on the situation. When a man can see you’re uncomfortable and pushes the line, yeah, for sure. In this case, unfortunately, she gave no indication she didn’t want to. It was dark; he probably couldn’t see her disgust and he couldn’t feel it because he was too wrapped up in his fantasy. It’s probably perfectly normal to HIM. And he’ll likely do it again because when it was over and he asked her what was wrong, she didn’t speak up. There’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:11 PM
180

It’s so important to know who you’re tying yourself to, and everything about them. Women need to stop being in such a hurry to achieve ‘the dream’ and really pay attention. This is so sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:05 PM
193

That was my thought. Why did she feel obligated to do anything? Can’t wrap my head around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:57 PM
65

My friend sent this to me. Never even heard of this site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:12 PM
21

Monday. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:21 PM
1

Thanks so much. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:09 AM
6

Honestly, it was dumb luck. Lol When we first started dating my dad died and I was so distraught, he came and picked me up, took me to his house, and made me a full course meal, including dessert (homemade pie). Then he packed it all up and sent leftovers to my mom. That’s when I first knew he might be a keeper. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:23 AM
50

I can cook my ass off. But when I’m with my man he cooks for meeee. I don’t lift a finger. That being said, I think it can be cute if you are in a exclusive relationship, and only every now and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:00 AM
23

All of this. And someone actually let Shia ejaculate in them? What a world. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:57 AM
35

And won’t let her daughter stay with her. She’s jealous of her own child and wanted to hurt her for having the audacity to want to level up, something she was too weak to do in her own life. Fkd up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:54 AM
223

“He assured me he does like me” — how devastating. I can’t imagine what it felt like to hear that. My pride wouldn’t let me stay with this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 03:39 PM
1

That would have been the perfect opportunity for her to leave and level up…at minimum with someone way cuter. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:10 AM
6

OMG. I never saw this. That’s horrible. Wow. She had to know people would flay that poor girl. Unforgivable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:08 AM
1

He said that? Wow, I’m late to the party. How dare he? Pretty ironic coming from a dark-skinned man. So, he hates himself then. Was he the one that said he can’t relate to BLM? Cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:05 AM
107

At this point it’s safe to say 99.9% of men watch porn. It’s as American as apple pie now. He’ll just look at you like you have two heads and it will damage your relationship. Not to mention it’d be hella awkward. Don’t say anything. But do take cheap shots about men who watch porn and how they contribute to the subjugation and trafficking of women whenever the topic of sex comes up within his earshot. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:55 AM
24

Agree. Sounds like they may have thought they were special then iced you out when they realized they were not. You all were victims. You owe them nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:26 AM
33

😂😂 If you see his other videos he’s totally posing. The chicks appear to love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:19 PM
57

I saw that immediately. Women are actually thanking him. It’s so obvious he’s using his [subjective] good looks to get likes. He’s found his niche, I’ll give him that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:14 PM
6

And why are women hurt, sir? And where’s your shirt? And you can’t spell. Women eatin it up in the comment section. Here’s the link to this drivel: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdk1p66g/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:03 PM
0

Here’s the link to the video. Rolled my eyes so hard. 🙄 https://www.facebook.com/EazieDaGod/videos/639581990565289/?fs=e&s=cl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:58 PM
2

OMG. My ex is a penny pinching me but he always pays his support and whatever else they need. I can’t imagine dealing with this. I’d go fkn postallllll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:04 PM
15

So many red flags. He probably wanted to cancel plans so he wouldn’t have to do/buy anything for her birthday. Now it’s come and gone and he wants to resume no strings attached sex. And she was going to ask HIM about being exclusive. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:58 PM
28

Mariah must be embarrassed to have married and fathered kids with him. God: Be fruitful and multiply. Nick: Say less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:54 PM
5

I agree. There was probably personal trauma or mental health disorder. Also agree about antidepressants/SSRIs. My son has bad anxiety and the Dr offered those and we said no. Why would I give him something with a black box warning for suicidal thoughts when he is already anxious? Sadly, these drugs are commonly prescribed when they shouldn’t be. Like, by the time you realize it could be the meds, it’s usually too late. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:53 PM
1

This is beautiful. 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:06 PM
6

I’ve never tried OLD and never will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:00 PM
9

What is with this new trend (new to me, anyway) that we have to be accepting of any and everything on the sexual spectrum? These women are brainwashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:19 PM
53

That’s so scary. That shows you he’s actively stalking you. 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:15 PM
170

The fact that they work so hard to mask it all tells you they know what they’re doing is wrong/creepy/amoral. They love to call women hoes and ‘for the streets’, when fact is most men are porn sick damaged goods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:11 PM
32

The ones he was following were 20 and 21 mostly (their bios said so). Insult was added to the injury bc he made me believe he wasn’t that type of guy. I ended it bc what else is he pretending to be that he’s not, you know? SMH. These men are damaged goods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:06 PM
47

I checked one of my ex’s SM and found him following several half naked 20-somethings. His daughter is 24. When I confronted him he had 5 different excuses, tried to gaslight me, screamed at me, then hung up in my face. This from the guy who proclaimed to respect women, who doesn’t objectify women, or fetishize women. Performative indignation to avoid being seen as a pervert. I give up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:45 PM
69

OMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:37 PM
3

I’ve gone back and forth on this one. On the one hand, some men don’t have the skills, the intestinal fortitude because they’re weak. But then again, if a woman is telling you what she needs, and you acknowledge that you’re the problem, then why not get help, read a book and man up? So, idk actually if he “genuinely tried.” Some days I like to think that. Because the reality is, if he had, we’d be a family. He would have put his children’s feelings first and got his shit together. Some men can a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:47 PM
14

I believe he genuinely tried; he’s just a weak dude. Anything that’s hard, he folds. Even when they have the best intentions, their low value ways ruin everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:44 AM
3

Thank you. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:59 AM
95

I’m the same way about food. I’d be pissed too. He wasn’t listening. And that snarky reply. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:58 AM
75

I took my ex-husband back 7 years after divorcing him. He wasn’t a cheater or a liar or anything dramatic like that. He was emotionally unavailable during the marriage and I was the one in charge of everything. So, I assumed since we didn’t break up horribly and he seemed to mature some over the years, we could give it a go and work out the kinks because we’d had so much fun together when we first got married and had our babies. He moved back in and we started planning a wedding, this time inclu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 09:46 PM
13

I’m ctfu. This is so awesome (not for the kids, of course). What a train wreck of a person. He is a walking cautionary tale. Thought the grass was greener on the other side but it turned out to be fake grass. Insert Keke Palmer gif ‘Sorry to this man’ 😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:32 AM
1

I’m having trouble finding a therapist. I’m 40 and don’t feel comfortable going to someone who is super young, and the older ones have outdated ideas about things. Still looking tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:03 PM
2

The best years of your life are yet to come. Trust me when I say this as a 40 year old woman. We make mistakes and learn in our 20s, and for many of us, into our 30s. I don’t think you should hold urself to some timeline for a relationship. I personally don’t believe anyone should be married before 40 because you are ever-evolving as a woman and you don’t really know what you need, and DONT want until you have some years and experience behind you. Live for yourself. Curate your life around the t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:01 PM
109

LOO-OO-HOO-SERRRRR lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:47 PM
28

Thank you for this!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:45 PM
3

It’s her on the feed somewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:13 PM
32

She should marry the guy that is suing the woman bc she didn’t have sex with him. Match made in heaven. SMH lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 04:21 AM
27

Haha me too. Reminds me of my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:23 AM
36

One of my favorite movies of all time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:10 AM
25

It’s pathetic. Then she’s going bk and forth with men in the comments who say she’s average, and made a separate video to ‘address her haters’. 🤦🏽‍♀️ When she would call me with man troubles I’d try to give her advice, but she couldn’t handle it. One of the final straws is when she told me “Don’t be negative” in response to her telling me she was dating a guy who makes PORN for a living and how he LIVES with his ex-wife and two kids ‘as roommates’ bc he had cancer last year and needed help. I sw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:25 AM
2

My first thought was, I wonder if he said he was disgusted for your benefit because, of course, he knew you’d be disgusted. Maybe his strategy is if he can convince you he feels shame, then you’re more likely to forgive him. Just something to consider. I hope everything turned out okay.
/r/askFDS25/01/22 10:22 PM
94

A pickme is my ex-friend who never learns from her mistakes and who has now, at 40, lost weight and started a TikTok page — in addition to her FB and IG — where she does those stupid challenges and tries to be sexy allll the time. For example, she posted a pic of herself at the stove in a tight mini skirt and black fishnet stockings with a backless apron with the caption “I would wife me”. 😂 And she gets off in all the “you look hot”, “I would wife you” comments. That’s her version of leveling u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:03 PM
33

Companionship, support.
/r/askFDS25/01/22 04:43 PM
8

I didn’t answer your question. Yes, it’s the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 12:32 AM
9

Idk. I’ve seen her with Serena Williams a lot but honestly don’t follow her like that so I’m not sure. Yeah, I mean, she was willing to marry into a racist ass family. THEEE racist family. It would seem it has proven to be a lot harder than she thought it would be. I know I couldn’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:41 PM
54

Her mother is Black. And since race became a construct, that ‘one drop’ has always meant Black. That’s how the racists see her. I read the essay she wrote for Elle. In her own words, she identifies as a mixed race woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:37 PM
17

You care way too much about a stranger. Level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:24 PM
42

What lies, what manipulation? I need receipts because I’m tired of this narrative. You do not know either of them personally, yet you have all of this insight into their relationship. You know her better than her own husband who sleeps next to her every day? And someone gave you an award for this nonsense? Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:05 PM
59

Because she’s a Black woman. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:00 PM
14

Right. And I’m still hot, and still quite discerning. 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:18 PM
9

Theeee accuracyyy. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:17 PM
139

It doesn’t help that his dad does not push him to be independent bc he’s a whining low effort man himself. I am fighting an uphill battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:40 PM
242

Love that show. Pretty sure it’s every man’s wet dream, which is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:47 PM
2

I stopped at “15 years older than me.”. Nothing matters after that. Next!
/r/askFDS19/01/22 04:43 PM
3

Listen to your elders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:10 AM
48

Ugh. I am the living breathing example of how allowing this dynamic for even one second will be the worst mistake of your life. Thankfully, I’m divorced, but we have children, so to some degree, the misery continues. And my kids are teenagers now! 😫 I was JUST on the phone with a friend lamenting how this choice in [ex] partner continues to have such negative repercussions in my life. And I can’t go back and make a different choice. Would that I could. The 50/50 man is a LVM. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:53 AM
4

This is so sad. Three kids at 29? JC. Poor woman. Idk what to say. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:19 PM
21

What in the world could a 20-year-old MAN have in common with a 14-year-old? My daughter is almost 14. A 20-year-old would die a miserable death if came anywhere near here. On God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:55 AM
466

I’m torn on this one. She moved in with him knowing his situation. And he has a child. When you have children and money is tight, you don’t have the luxury of splurging on fancy cakes and dinners — though she’s not wrong for wanting to be treated special. Her pouting because she didn’t get the cake she wanted, and speaking on it, is asshole-ish to me. Especially hurting this child’s feelings. He’s a cornball for not anticipating her birthday and saving to do something nice. She shouldn’t have to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:24 PM
37

Ha. I dated a narc and he loved it when ppl blocked him bc it let him kno he got under their skin. That’s the logic behind NOT blocking..not giving them the satisfaction. I blocked his ass, tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:10 PM
11

40 here. I don’t think I’ve ever strived you be attractive for men, only for myself. I’m divorced with two children and I’ve also never had the mindset that no man would want me because I’m older and have children either. Like you, I feel I’m in my prime. I look better than I ever did, my body is in fantastic shape, I run my own business, and I’ve got my coins. I have ZERO qualms about being single, although I’ve been with a HVM for over a year now. One of the reasons he loves me, he says, is bc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:37 PM
23

My guy travels for work every now and then. He works with other men doing self-help retreats, sometimes spending entire weekends in the woods doing healing circles. This man will dip into the damn forest for privacy just to call me before I go to bed. Lol Last year during the pandemic he said he needed some sun, and he went to the Virgin Islands for a few days. He asked me to come, but I was too afraid to travel because of the pandemic so I stayed home and he took his young nephew. He still call…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:07 PM
8

This screening I went to was before GoT, and the ‘handsy’ pics came after. Fame changes people, often for the worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:01 PM
27

Why are you moving in with him? This is a preview of your life with him. Idc if you signed a lease and all your shit is packed. Don’t do it! He’s the ‘50/50’ guy. 🤮🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:51 AM
23

Of course not. Context is everything. This PARTICULAR article is about the far right, but, yes, misogyny is universal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:12 AM
60

So I use a dummy email address for my Reddit profile and I didn’t realize I had email notifications turned on. I check today and there’s a shit-ton of angry, nasty replies from men in my inbox going back months. Someone even called me the N word. (No surprise there and based on a pic that’s not even me lol). Gotta give props to the mods. They are on it, because those posts must have been deleted so fast bc I never saw them here. Needless to say, I’ve updated my settings. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:57 PM
29

OMG. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:31 PM
8

‘Hottie’ is so fkn corny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:59 PM
5

Stupid shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:55 PM
101

I went to a small private screening of one of his films a few years back. When he talked about her, he gushed and blushed. I thought it was sweet. But then I’d see him in pics all over other women. Them on his lap, hugging too tight, hands all over them. Very inappropriate for a married man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:53 PM
44

I’m seeing comments online about how he must have gotten tired of her because she’s old, looks boring, an energy zapper. Even women saying this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:49 PM
30

Break up with him. What an asshole. And what prompted her to tell you all this?
/r/askFDS12/01/22 01:31 AM
18

I saw that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:23 AM
40

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:59 PM
186

This makes me sad. I hate the idea that my daughter will one day feel pressure like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:57 PM
59

My God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:06 PM
158

He was found guilty in 2017, but the story has come up again because he has been deemed fit to practice medicine again as of June. Can you believe it?! https://nypost.com/2021/06/08/surgeon-who-autographed-patients-livers-deemed-fit-to-practice-again/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:02 PM
31

I’d be wondering why he’s measuring his words. That in itself may be a red flag.
/r/askFDS11/01/22 05:19 AM
109

I’m trapped in 50/50 hell. My ex-husband makes twice as much as me and we still split costs down the middle. I fkd myself doing my own divorce bc I was broke as hell at the time and was so used to ‘50/50’ within our marriage that I didn’t even think about changing that in the divorce. I don’t nickel and dime him either, but he does it to me. For instance, my daughters consult at the dentist was $200. I just paid it. Copays at $40 a pop. It doesn’t occur to me to add all this shit up and present …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:22 PM
18

Hahaa.. yesss Queen! No dusties allowed in 2022. Step your game up, bruh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:05 AM
312

In a few months it'll be, “My wife and I have decided to end our marriage; pls respect our privacy during this time” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:40 PM
33

My ex-husband is so reckless online. He posted pics of our kids with his profile set to public, take pics in front of the house with the apartment number showing. I used to flip out on him all the time. And he still does it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:44 PM
35

Thank you. Sometimes I forget how those experiences have shaped how safe/not safe I feel as I move about the world. The guy who attacked me ended up being committed to an institution as a result. Before this happened his family had tried to get him help but couldn’t because he hadn’t ‘done anything’. This happens often with mental health. Sadly by the time they ‘do something’, it’s really bad and people are unnecessarily hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:14 PM
7

Thank you! 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:55 PM
61

I was stalked by a 25 year old when I was 15 for a year before we found out who it was. Then a year later at 16 I was almost raped walking alone in my neighborhood by his brother, also an adult. Both had mental illness. I have fake names and numbers and emails, always trying to hide my identity online. I’m so paranoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:24 PM
13

Is there an app you use for this? First I’m hearing of it. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:21 PM
14

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I know that when sex becomes a source of contention or topic of conversation all the time, or a man talks about his NEeDs, I’m turned all the way off. There’s a reason you don’t want to do it, besides the obvious, that you are a new mother and it’s fkn exhausting. Examine that, pinpoint what it is. I think your spirit knows something is off with him and is responding accordingly. I’d be curious as to what he’s in therapy FOR. Clearly there are things you don’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:11 PM
40

Sounds like they both moved in with each other for the wrong reasons. She sounds self-centered. Being irresponsible and giving someone Covid is enough to get the boot, in my book. They both seem immature, and clearly have a communication problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:47 PM
140

He wants to go away for months to fk and drink and chill and convince himself ‘he’s still got it’. He need an ego boost. If it was really about decompressing and taking some me time, it could be anywhere and not for three whole months. He needs therapy, and probably divorce papers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:35 PM
9

I dated a narc two years before I realized what he was. At the end he also insisted on seeing me in person. Demanded it. I told him my brother would meet him at any location if his choosing. Shut that shit down QUICK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:44 PM
155

I’ll say, when you get so used to LVM ways, you start to forget what is normal, what is acceptable, and you forget who the fk you are. Because you’re married and you don’t just leave. You try and work within these fkd up parameters. Like, if he picks up his own underwear, she probably thinks it’s progress because maybe he didn’t do it before, not realizing you shouldn’t have to tell a grown ass man to clean up after himself. It’s a slippery slope. You make allowances and LV behavior becomes rout…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:37 PM
11

I’m so sorry. Did you sue the hospital/doctor? So egregious. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:49 PM
5

I remember this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:41 PM
128

I wouldn’t have left; I would have put HIM out! He doesn’t even care about himself. How does she expect him to care for her and a baby? Watching women go through this kills me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:25 PM
7

You don’t know him well enough to know if he’s a pathological narcissist liar or not, so how could you believe any excuse he gives you? It may seem like a small detail, but the fact that he is comfortable lying is a red flag. And that he’s so insecure about his height that he would lie is unattractive. You’d be second-guessing everything little thing he said from now on.
/r/askFDS05/01/22 04:18 AM
45

He’s a liar. Next.
/r/askFDS05/01/22 04:15 AM
3

And I would advise you to not pursue these men. You asked for his number, and you basically asked for a date.That’s a no in my book, and the handbook. YOU are the prize.
/r/askFDS04/01/22 11:49 AM
28

If he’s a catch now, he’ll still be one once he’s legally single. As a person who’s been married and divorced, there are so many emotions to work through — even if the divorce is amicable, even if you wanted it (and that doesn’t seem to be the case here) - that you are really emotionally unavailable for a while. Sometimes you don’t even realize how not ready you are until you’re breaking up with someone you thought you were ready for. No matter the nuances, he’s still someone else’s husband. Don…
/r/askFDS04/01/22 12:14 AM
11

You had dinner with a racist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 05:00 PM
14

I didn’t even understand the first part, and he did the dreaded ‘your’ instead of you’re. He’s dumb, and at minimum, a working knowledge of contractions is required. FOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:00 PM
47

I pray I don't kick the bucket before my daughter is old enough to get allll of mama's lessons. I am afraid to send her out into the world with these animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:43 AM
21

Disgusting. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:42 AM
29

I'm over here smiling from ear to ear. Bravo. These LVM have no idea they're losers. Taking a parenting class. He must suck as a dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:41 AM
23

It is really painful. In my case I was friends with this man for 20 years. I knew from the beginning that he wanted a relationship, but he made peace, I thought, years ago, with the fact that that wasn't in the cards for us. I considered him one of my best friends and really admired him. When I sent him a wedding invitation, he just stopped talking to me. Mind you, he's had a child and a partner for the last seven years or so. I'm friends with her on FB even. So, it made no sense to me that he'd…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:36 AM
2

All of my male ‘friends’ wanted more and just accept Ed friendship as a consolation, or they thought they were slow-walking me to the bedroom. The one guy I really loved (as a friend) ghosted me after 20 yrs of friendship when I told him I was getting married. (I’m not anymore but he doesn’t know that because he stopped talking to me). Guess he got tired of pretending to be my friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:23 PM
6

I remember asking my ex husband to spring for a cleaning service ONCE A MONTH, because in addition to my daytime job and my sole proprietorship, and my two children, one of which has ASD - and that’s a shitload of never-ending stress - I didn’t have time or desire to fkn clean. He said no. Because he hates to spend money. So he showed me my well-being was not important to him. I remembered who the fk I was and divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:54 PM
2

My ex would be short with me and the kids and act put out when I asked him to do something. Then he’d hop on a work call moments later and be jolly asf, cracking jokes with his co-workers. Even problem solving with an angry client for 30 mins, but would get upset with me immediately and start raising his voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:44 PM
1

I don’t hate it, but also don’t love it. I’m in a long term relationship with a wonderful man who will do anything for me, in and out of the bedroom, whenever I ask. He loves bjs (no surprise there), but I only enjoy giving one every now and then, and only when I feel like it or when I initiate it. But if he asks me for one, for some reason, it turns me off. Idk why I hate being asked. And I haven’t found a way to tell him that that doesn’t make me sound selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:36 AM
8

I did this after four months. But I’d known him for 20 years prior and felt safe enough to do so and it was winter 2020 and we’d run out of outdoor date spots (because of Covid). I would not have done it otherwise. The thing to remember too, is that YOU may have a hard time talking YOURSELF out of sex once you get over there and you get all comfy and turned on. It’s better to avoid the scenario altogether until you’re ready to go there. The handbook also talks about letting him get you off befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:16 PM
7

My current guy pays every single time, and it’s been over a year. I love it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:09 PM
28

He’s not fkn homeless. She got HALF of the whole, which means there’s half left. Lol 38 years is a long time. I mean, if she doesn’t deserve half then, damn, who does?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:08 AM
31

Jesus. The fact that she can’t see how absurd this is and is questioning if SHE’S wrong….he’s done a number on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:42 PM
13

“I just saw a tornado.” “No, you did not.” WTF. Grrrrrrrrrr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:44 PM
1

Yeah, I meant shocking in comparison to how things are now. Jokes about slanted eyes and ‘Indians’. I love/loved. some of those shows too, but the misogyny and racist jokes are cringeyyy now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:58 AM
2

I was young L, out of state, and it was an emergency, and had no reason to think he would do THAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:55 AM
28

If you go back and watch most of the TV shows from the 80s and 90s you’ll be horrified by all of the politically incorrect dialogue. It’s shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:42 PM
15

You’re not even safe at the Dr. Kinda sounds like he was trying to pick u up! When I was 23 I was out of state and had a gynecological issue. I ended up with a male gyno. He inserted his finger in my anus without forwarning and told me he had to do that because my uterus was tilted. Yes, it’s very tilted. But no doctor before or since has EVER needed to do that to check my cervix. I didn’t even realize I was violated until right now. I’d forgotten all about it. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:39 PM
3

🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ lol I see that now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:01 AM
26

How long you guys have been together? I don’t see anything wrong with him wanting to know what you do for a living. That’s info that most people share. I gather though that sharing that information will give him a clue as to how much you make? Repeatedly asking you how much you make may be a red flag, unless you guys are talking about marriage in the near future. I’ve been with my guy about a year and he’s never asked me what I earn. I think you need to be honest at some point, though. If you te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:46 AM
11

I’ve been married. No desire to do it again. If you find the rare man who believes in cooking and cleaning and actively participating in the raising of his children, who knows what he’s doing in bed, possesses emotional intelligence, who you trust, and treats you like he’s the luckiest man on Earth, you may feel differently. And you still don’t have to marry his ass. The man I’ve been seeing for a year has intimated that he would like to marry me at some point in the future. I told him that the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:25 AM
13

Do you have a taser? Are they allowed there? If so, get one. But really, why wait around to be attacked? One of you has got to go. And since he’s the asshole here, make a scene, make a fuss, file the requisite papers. Put it in writing because management could turn this around in you if something happens to avoid liability. Even if you speak with someone, always follow up with an email “per our conversation “ and document everything that you said, what they said to you, and the next course of ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:13 PM
4

But we had no choice in the naming of ourselves. We do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:04 PM
3

I didn’t do it. I’m me and have been me since my mama busted her ass to bring me into this world. I refused to change my name. For me, it felt like changing my identity and I was not okay with it. My now ex did not care at the time, and it would certainly have been a dealbreaker because it would have signaled to me what type of man he was. I’ve worked hard to be THIS woman, and I’m proud of it and will never take any man’s name over mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:57 PM
9

I remember my first ever surgery for ovarian cyst removal. When I was wheeled into the OR there was a male nurse who looked me up and down like I was something to eat, and he looked so sinister, excited that he was about to see me naked. I wanted to run out of there, but there was nothing I could do because I was now at their mercy. That was 20 years ago and I still remember it. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:54 PM
12

This screenshot is comments FROM MEN, not the author’s words/advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 10:39 PM
8

This is how I’ve lived my life. I’ve never really dated. Maybe twice I’ve met a stranger and planned a date. All of my relationships were borne from a spontaneous introduction.
/r/askFDS05/12/21 12:15 AM
63

OMG. A porn-addicted, gaslighting, limp dick, NV narcissist. He will never marry her, and she should be so lucky! Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:15 PM
3

I also wanted to add that once you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist they legitimately feel like they own you. Doesn’t matter how long you’ve been apart, they will always believe that you are theirs and they’re always checking up on you. He wants access to you so he can see how miserable you are without him. They feed off of your emotions, negative or positive. If you befriend him again he will woo you long enough to satisfy his ego that you’re still into him. If he has access to your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:05 PM
13

If he was really happy would he be searching for you all over social media and pouncing on you as soon as you resurfaced? No. He sounds like a narc, and all they do is create imagery that gives the illusion of happiness and contentment. It’s all bullshit. And while you may be in a bad place now, you have the time and ability to level up, whereas he will always be exactly as he is now, overcompensating, insecure, and weird. I bet he low key hates himself. All narcs do. Feel sorry for his new girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:52 PM
32

Amazing. LVM literally block your blessings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:46 PM
2

So, he’s just a control freak and he doesn’t like that her hair requires anything ‘special’, which in his mind brings attention to her being different, ie non-white. He can fk off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:33 PM
5

Definitely strange. You’ll find out soon either way!
/r/askFDS30/11/21 06:31 PM
2

It is very odd. Is it possible he sees you as a friend, and these are not actual dates in his mind?
/r/askFDS30/11/21 05:35 PM
13

Nine dates and you’ve been to his house a few times, all in a month’s time? Don’t give him too much access too early. I hope you’re dating other people to maintain a balance of your time and emotions. Has he even tried to kiss you? Don’t initiate, and do keep ur antennae up.
/r/askFDS30/11/21 03:39 PM
4

He’s a liar. There’s more; you just haven’t found it yet. Dump him. And never move in with a boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 03:10 AM
7

The one time I tried casual dating, the guy said l, after sex when I’m standing there in July underwear, “You look good. If you had five more pounds in you”…that was my first and last attempt at casual dating. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:58 AM
2

If she’s still with him after seeing this, she’s the ultimate pickme. And he’s so dum; she’s beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:50 AM
17

My guy patiently waited six months, and asked me for exclusivity first. Don’t shift your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:54 AM
6

My ex husband rarely cleaned. He’d load the dishwasher and sweep, leaving clumps of dog hair under the couch, and think he was ‘helping me’. 🙄 The guy I’m currently dating is a clean freak. So refreshing. He gets up on Saturday mornings and dusts and cleans everything with music playing in the background. He’s even offered to come clean for me when I didn’t feel like it (haven’t accepted the offer yet). He cooks for me too. Welcome change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:27 PM
40

So many things wrong with this letter/guy. But the mushroom part is mentioned three times, and he practically makes it a requirement. He sounds like a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:09 PM
11

Also, who leaves a total stranger in their house to run out and get milk to serve them coffee??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 01:06 AM
31

I hate when the landlord or any maintenance person comes here. I’m always uncomfortable. Two weeks ago I bought a taser, and yesterday when the plumber was here I had it out and sitting next to me on the couch the entire time. Last year my landlord had given my number to a maintenance guy to coordinate the repair schedule. He was respectful while he was here, but when he left he texted me to tell me how pretty I was. The time before that another plumber gave me his phone number on the way out an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:04 PM
10

First off, never let a man take you home. You open the door to harassment and sexual pressure. Never mind the fact that this crazy now knows where you live. Tip number two. If you’re not interested, do not go for walks, drinks and be very clear that you’re not interested. Even if you are interested, don’t go for solo walks and drinking dates of any kind with a virtual stranger. It’s not about looking for signs that a man is interested in you, because they’re always interested in some shape or fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:50 PM
10

As a mom, I literally make some decisions based on if I die and their dad has to be in charge. My ex is so immature and I make all major moves and decisions. For example, I’m choosing to send my daughter to a prestigious Votech high school next year where she’ll earn credits toward a liberal arts degree and earn a certification that will allow her to make good money while in college bc I know if I die before she graduates (God forbid!) my ex will be clueless about how to shape her future. SMH 🤦🏽…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:36 PM
12

This is how my current relationship is. He gladly forgoes orgasm for my pleasure. I keep asking myself, what’s wrong with him? Lol But he’s a really good dude. After a 18 months he’s as solid as ever, if not more so. My pleasure is always his focus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:51 PM
7

There’s nothing attractive about him as a person. So, I’m guessing maybe she thought being with him was a come-up of some sort. Having babies with a rapper is NOT securing the bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:58 PM
16

Total narc. You dodged a bullet. The best gift you could ever give yourself is discernment. Cultivate it. Your gut is always right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:53 PM
3

Thank you for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:49 PM
-1

Would you mind citing your source on this percentage, including the percentage of these marriages that are 'colorist marriages'? I've never seen that bit broken down anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:26 PM
60

To be frank, I’m uncomfortable reading comments from white women giving warnings about Black men. LVM men are equal opportunity abusers/users across the board. The men who hate themselves and then visit that self-loathing upon women come in all colors. Like white men who target and fetishiz WoC. Scumbags are scumbags. Most MEN aren’t shit, period. And please remember that, statistically, most Black men are married to Black women. And the Black men I know are not ‘aggressively pursuing’ white wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:16 AM
3

Divorrrrrce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:06 PM
82

When my ex was sleeping soundly like a baby lamb on a cloud while I was up til 3am researching education laws and preparing an outline for an important IEP meeting for our son at 9am. This was after working a full day at my regular job and working on my business, and a thousand other tasks. I wanted to stab him with a rusty knife. And of course he sits there at the meeting like a bump on a log with no idea what’s going on because he was too ‘busy’ (couldn’t be bothered) to research anything and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:20 PM
5

And I’m currently having this conversation with my current partner, who I’ve been dating for over a year. At this point in my life, I don’t require a lot of time and he seems to. And he feels some kind of way, even though he tries not to, when I take too much space. Right now, I see him 1-2x per week, sometimes more depending on circumstances. It waxes and wants, and I’m fine with that. So right now we’re trying to decide if we are going to continue because I don’t want to feel like I’m doing so…
/r/askFDS01/11/21 07:00 PM
1

I know moving is hard and expensive, but is that an option for you anytime soon? You don't need to seem him or his stupid apartment every time you leave your house. Even if you weren't heartsick, it's an untenable situation.
/r/askFDS26/10/21 07:12 PM
62

I hate when ANY man utters the words, “I know you”. No, the fk you don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:23 AM
115

He tells the baby to shut up and “I don’t know why, but it hurts me.” This tells me there were probably red flags that she overlooked or didn’t know how to interpret. You don’t know why a grown man telling a newborn to shut up hurts you? There’s a big disconnect here. Really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:53 PM
6

That’s a lot of words for “I’m a porn addict”. “Magnanimous grandeur.” Jeez. I bet he gaslights you into oblivion. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 02:03 PM
7

Damn. I used to love that movie too. I bet there are the Ms that would make my puke now. You ever see Virgin River on Netflix? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 01:59 PM
12

And I wouldn’t waste time with screenshots. He knows what he did. Just ghost his ass and deal with the rental office directly. There a thousand ways to never speak to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:22 AM
4

Do you really have to wait and save up the rent money to leave? You can do that from anywhere —a family or friend’s couch. You need to go now. Or at the very least not be there when he gets back. When you’re away from the bullshit, you’ll be able to see him for what he is and you won’t question yourself. Don’t sleep with him again. Who knows what he’s got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:20 AM
10

Voluntary hardship? What kinda shit is he into? Lol gtfoh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:07 AM
11

This is a case of fk around and find out. He fkd around and ignored your boundary, and found out that you will not be swept off your feet like a little girl. I get that he’s hurt, but he did it to himself. Don’t let him gaslight you into feeling guilty. Even if his intentions were coming from a loving place, his response is hella childish and shows he’s not marriage material yet.
/r/askFDS19/10/21 12:39 AM
27

I keep drilling it into my daughter’s head that she doesn’t have to be anyone’s wife, anyone’s mother. I tell her I want her to learn languages and earn her own money and travel and eat good food. She’s only 13 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:34 AM
9

Disgusting! I’m so sorry. I once had a guy grab me like that in the middle of the dance floor of a club, with ppl watching, and try to carry me away. I was with my acting class and thank God the guys stepped in. Get weapons. A poker knife, anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 12:30 AM
11

I hate guns, but I now have one. Now I need one of those retractable night sticks with the voltage on the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:54 PM
2

I can cook my ass off and I’ve been exclusive with the new guy for over a year now. I have cooked for him ONCE. I don’t plan to make it a habit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:43 PM
14

OMG. That already happened. They were five years in and he dumped her last year for a 20 year old stripper. He’s 41. She wasted five whole years on him. But I could’ve told her if she would’ve listened. He didn’t work and 9 to 5 for the entire time they were together, talking about he was a musician or had some reality show in the works. She paid for everything, including their vacation.Through her connections with the TV network that she works for, she got him a few jobs where he was able to st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:59 PM
253

My mom and dad broke up when I was a baby, before they had a chance to get married. When I was in high school I asked my mom why she never got married, ever. She said, “Marriage is for men. They get built-in sex, a housekeeper, and a babysitter. Women just get more work. It MIGHT be worth it, if the man is rich, and usually not even then.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:53 PM
14

My friend and her bf ‘decided’ marriage wasn’t for them. She’d make FB statuses about how she was tired of people asking her when she was going to get married, and how everyone’s goal in life wasn’t a wedding, tads yada.Thing is, I’ve known her 20 years and I know she wants to be married But she’s a pickme and she always conforms to whatever the men in her life want. She didn’t realize that that was his way I’m not fully committed to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 04:28 PM
34

This happened to me! I dried up, thinking I was going through early menopause or something. After we broke up, I got my mojo back. Didn’t know my body could have a physical response like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:40 PM
20

I dated a narc one and he did this. Intimating that my sign, and the fact that I was left handed, meant I was crazy. He’d do it jokingly, but I saw right through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:32 PM
9

It's amazing how so many people can be wrong about a thing. And women chiming in to admonish this poor guy. If the girl was just hooking up and enjoying a night away from her kid, she wouldn't have been on the phone crying to her mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 04:12 PM
4

OMG same. My daughter is HFA/Level 1 too. I've had to do everything from day 1. He goes to all of the appointments, school meetings, but I have to do the research, book the appointments, and prepare for meetings then TELL him what day, what time, etc. He takes no initiative, reads no research. Just waits for me to tell him what to do, what supplements to give and how much. SMH. My son just got braces and I bought a waterpik for him. I had to send it over to his house when my son went because he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:48 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:40 PM
8

Thank you so much. I am trying these days to be kinder to myself. I'm always ripping and running. I've never been one to rely on others, so I take a lot on. I'm in really great shape, and I eat well. And I just had a checkup and I'm super healthy too. I just need to get my stress levels down. And I haven't given up on my dreams just yet. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:36 PM
3

OMG. I'm so happy for you! It must make you feel really good to see what you've created without him. I am not doing what I love most right now, but I do have a good job and a side business that I also do from home, which is super convenient. Brava!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:29 PM
2

Thanks. And I take back what I said earlier. He is stingy! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:01 PM
3

I think it was one of my son’s ‘friends’. Scared the crap out of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:51 PM
6

No offense taken at all. He pays child support consistently. And, yes, his LV ways have rubbed off some on my son. It’s not as easy as you’d think to keep a man away who pays support and is not technically a ‘bad guy’. I have decided to report him to the courts regarding the sleeping arrangements. In this state separate bedrooms are not required by law (so dumb), but their own beds and room for their belongings are. I will give him a deadline today and if he doesn’t meet it, I’ll report it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:48 PM
6

Right! It’s so hard to explain him to people. He’s not mean or abusive, just a perpetual child. It was like having a third kid. Yes, the game changes if you have more than one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:41 PM
12

I’m thinking about it. I’m so used to his mediocrity that I’ve let alot slide. He’s been promising to upgrade the arrangements, but it hasn’t happened yet. It’s ultimatum time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:39 PM
14

The only obvious one, that I now recognize looking back, was that he was still living at home with his mom when we met. But we were young and I was at home too. But it’s different for men. Never settle down with a man who hasn’t lived on his own. His mom was also overbearing. I didn’t know how that could play into his personality. Other than that, no other red flags. You really get to see what men are made of when things get tough and when kids come. By then, you’re already in it. We also did LD…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:34 PM
5

The guy was catfished and sent to my apartment. I was genuinely afraid at first to get the police involved because it could have gone left, with a dead Black man on my lawn over a mistake. I called him while the guy was knocking, trying to figure out what to do next, hoping the guy would go away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:25 PM
10

Yeah. I knew how to lookout for cheaters and liars and abusers, but not low effort men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:19 PM
13

Well, you know when you’re first starting out with someone and you don’t have any responsibilities yet, everything is easy. Dinner, movies, sex. That’s it lol He’s never been rude or abusive in any way, always respectful. We did birthing classes together; he was such a great partner during labor and delivery of both kids. He waited on me hand and foot while I was pregnant. It wasn’t until the financial and parenting difficulties began that I saw a different side to him. He’s really just incredib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:14 PM
19

We had moments like that, but my children now see with their own eyes who their dad is. They love him fiercely, but they see his faults. I don’t talk bad about him to them; they’re very astute kids. I heard my son tell his dad, “You’re immature dad, and you’re a procrastinator.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:44 PM
5

I don’t know. I’ve been dealing with it so long, sometimes I forget what normal looks like. He operates from fear, not stinginess. Always afraid he won’t have enough money so he’s scared to spend it. It’s cultural, and the way he was raised. He never lived on his own (missed that red flag). He went from his mom’s house to our first apt together. When we divorced, he lived with roommates for several years, which made me very angry because I didn’t want my kids around strangers. He’s living on his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:28 PM
4

He’s paid child support faithfully for years, and even though he’s cheap as hell, he gives me what I ask for when needed. He loves them very much, and he’s kind to them. Other than the living arrangements, I don’t really have grounds to take him to court. He’s just a low effort kind of dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:08 AM
49

I’m sorry you experienced that, and so happy you aren’t tied to him for 18 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:12 AM
98

Right. I didn’t know what flags to look for at the time other than the obvious ones. Everything was peachy until the kids came. Anything that’s hard, he folds. I try not to dwell on it, because it is what it is, but days like today I just can’t believe how I chose this fool. He hangs out with the kids, takes my girl for daddy/daughter dates. All the fun stuff…content in the knowledge that I am the one who will hold it down, make a way. He irritates my soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:47 AM
126

I have to meditate daily to keep from losing my sh*t. Thanks 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:00 AM
46

One of my ex-friends used to do this. I’d come into town after not seeing her for a year or two and she’d bring her Neanderthal bf, who’d sit at the table and eat on her dime, and they’d talk about their latest vacation—also on her dime — and how they were not interested in being married, when I knew damn well that girl would kill for a ring. After 20 years of friendship, I dumped her for being a pickme, among other things. And after five years together, his 40 year old ass dumped her for a 20 y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:03 AM
5

You dodged a bullet. Don’t feel bad; be proud of your foresight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:07 PM
4

I was in a relationship with a narc for about two years before I realized what he actually was. After the initial heartbreak I went through a period of utter rage. The sight of any man walking down the street made me wanna throw up. I loathed them for many months. I decided I needed therapy lol I worked it all out, and I still think they’re crap for the most part, but I don’t want to stab them every time I see them, at least. And I’m dating a really nice one now. See, I can laugh about it now. L…
/r/askFDS09/10/21 06:55 AM
98

HVM introduce themselves and ask for permission to call you or take you on a date. Then they follow through, plan something, and pay for it. No sexual innuendo off the bat, no weird invitations to picnic in the woods or some sh*t like that, or go Dutch.
/r/askFDS09/10/21 06:47 AM
84

It’s a way for him to fk whomever he wants while ensuring that you don’t have the same options, because of course men like this believe your body is only for him while his d*ck is for the streets.
/r/askFDS08/10/21 10:04 PM
22

Ah, ok. Thanks!
/r/askFDS08/10/21 07:36 PM
2

14 months in and the guy I’m seeing still takes the lead, and I love it. I’ll throw in a suggestion here and there, but I just started doing that, and sparingly, only recently. I think you should let him do it. He’s the one courting YOU.
/r/askFDS08/10/21 07:31 PM
5

So he was going to pay for your ticket and put you up, and expect nothing in return? I guess anything’s possible, but that’s rare, and rather fantastical expectations of a stranger you met online. Dude could be a serial killer. I get being a student and not having the cash to pay for sky high tickets and hotels, so I won’t fault him for that. But it’s weird that he went to the dark side so quickly just because you set a boundary. Why not keep looking for a ticket, or making his way to you instea…
/r/askFDS08/10/21 07:28 PM
34

I don’t see the post. It’s gone.
/r/askFDS08/10/21 07:18 PM
6

A post of mine was deleted too when I shared a story about someone I had dated and wanted genuine advice. The kids deleted it and didn’t respond when I inquired as to why, if I did something wrong. It legit hurt my feelings and pissed me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:29 PM
24

He’s probably one of these guys who only wants top model types but looks like Jabba the Hut with a receding hairline. There’s someone for everyone, but the magical thinking has to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:49 PM
4

Whoops. That was supposed to say herpes! I didn’t date in high school either. There was one guy I liked since I was 12 and my mom said I could let him come over for supervised visits when I turned 16. Was so excited. Turned 16 and found out he was talking to my best friend behind my back. I was heartbroken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:02 AM
13

I watched my friends do randos all through my 20s and wondered what was wrong with me that I couldn’t be more ‘carefree and spontaneous’. I used to read Glamour and Cosmo back then and they were filled with hookup stories and dos and don’ts and I legit thought I was a prude. I was out of the country and met a hot guy that I was super attracted to and thought I’d go for it and be more like my friends, like a Cosmo girl 🙄. Invited him up to my room 🤦🏽‍♀️ and got naked. Dude was on top of me about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:59 PM
5

Thank you! Buying for my 13 year old, and me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:26 PM
23

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:56 AM
90

Some angry dude downvoted this already lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:00 PM
29

I ready an article that being a mom was the equivalent of working 2.5 jobs. Hell yeah, it's work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:32 AM
5

I marvel at how fkn dumb I was a chock it up to post-divorce brain, and I smile knowing he will probably die alone and miserable.
/r/askFDS30/05/21 03:54 PM
1

My narc ex once said that he believed people who break someone's heart deserved to die. I totally forgot about that until right now. WOW. He should have died many times over then. He was trying to plant a seed, make me afraid to leave him. He didn't know me very well. What a fkn nut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:00 AM
40

She won't even look in his direction. Future FDS mod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:36 AM
3

I just fell out! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:25 PM
8

Better question: why are you in an FWB situation? It's because he's a selfish fk who wants you under his terms only. Please don't romanticize it and think he's struggling with his feelings for you or any goofy shit like that. Ghost him.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 10:19 PM
10

Imagine how dumb he'll feel when he finally gets around to calling you 'after his friends leave(ie wants to fk) and he can't reach you. Now, ghost him.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 10:13 PM
1

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:58 PM
5

'Sometimes when I try to understand a person's motives, I play a little game. I assume the worst. What's the worst reason they could possibly have for saying what they say and doing what they do? Then I ask myself, 'How well does that reason explain what they say and what they do?' This is a quote from Peter Littlefinger Baelish of Game of Thrones. When I first heard it, it resonated with me so hard, and it's literally how I vet people. SN: a dude with that fkn hairline could NEVERRR. He wouldn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:56 PM
23

Your career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:46 PM
1

God, I hope I never stumble on one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:46 PM
4

I've been interrupted midset WITH HEADPHONES ON so many times by men trying to get a date. Fkn annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:45 PM
12

Haha, same. But it sounds radical to some people and they laugh like, "Gurl, you're so crazy." I'm thinking, "No you are for letting a mf treat you like that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:14 AM
3

Smart. I wrote the same below. Blocking isn't always the smartest thing to do.
/r/askFDS21/04/21 02:31 PM
8

I blocked my narc ex on all social media and email. I didn't block him on my phone because, honestly, I wanted to know just how crazy he was and if I needed to be concerned he'd come after me. People who wanna kill you generally make threats and desperate calls first. My logic was I wanted to be able to see him coming.
/r/askFDS21/04/21 02:30 PM
1

Love this. Yes. So easy to fall into a pattern of being together alot with this pandemic, because he's the only one I trust to be around. But definitely need to fall back some to quell his expectations a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:43 PM
1

Great idea. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:39 PM
15

I just dumped a friend of 20 years because all she ever does is talk about herself,does the same pickme shit over and over, and won't listen to sound advice. I told her she was a bad friend and ended it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:02 AM
8

Strong women intimidate BOYS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:57 AM
1

He seems down for that. I've already made it clear I have no plans to marry or co-habitate, and he's not chillin with my kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:48 AM
2

Haha, that's funny. Same! I read an article once about a married couple who built separate houses on the same patch of land. They'd just pop over whenever they felt like seeing each other. He spends a lot of time alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:44 AM
2

Thanks so much. 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:07 PM
3

On FB, when complaining about men, women have to spell it like 'm3n' or 'nem', or some variation thereof, because otherwise, the algorithm will detect it and they will get banned for 30 days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:23 PM
1

How can you not divorce him after this? SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:05 AM
1

My response would be, "Well, fk your house.". I'd drive over there and pack her stuff and be done with the lot of them. They sound like a bunch of crazies including the young son. I wonder where he learned to be a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:19 PM
93

OMG. I'm so sorry! Was it done without your permission? I read that hospitals used to do this without consent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:15 PM
211

I found the original post. The husband was dead serious. His family are also monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:14 PM
739

The moderators deleted her post. Probably because of all of the women telling her to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:11 PM
491

Fkn disgusting. The last line where she says the husband is still angry months later that she didn't get it. SMH. And us psycho family agreeing with him. Divorce!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:09 PM
4

My friend of 15 years is a pickme. She's 40 years ild and has been chasing a dude who lives with his ex and produces porn. 🤦🏾‍♀️ She only ever calls to brag or when she needs my advice, which never takes and gets testy when I say something contrary to what she wants to hear. Never asks what I'm doing or how muly children are. People alwaysbassume strong women dont need anything. When I told her why dating this guy was stupid asf she told me to "stop being negative". Lol For the last few years, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:59 PM
5

He only came forward bc his mistress outed him a few days before. Damage control. He's a total narc psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:51 PM
3

Nothing beats the OG. lol. I finally tried Lelo and hated it. Once you go Hitachi...lol
/r/askFDS15/03/21 05:40 AM
9

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:37 PM
4

What did you say to him when he broke up with you? I would have laughed hard, in his face or via text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:35 PM
1

If he's a good guy generally I'd say he stupidly assumed you'd prefer help with the paint job. Tell him you were disappointed, try again for another night, and if he doesn't follow through, then you've got a dud on your hands. I can tell you from experience, that low effort men are theee worst.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 07:28 PM
25

That part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:21 PM
39

And if we're being real, it's more than a small percentage. With the advent of the internet, these LVMs and NVMs have entire platforms to spread their misogyny at an alarming rate. They're fkn everywhere, man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:21 PM
2

I started dating my guy around the same time and he does the same things. It feels amazing. I'm still vetting him, of course, but so far so good! Best of luck with your surgery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:19 AM
5

I'll take it one step further. My theory has always been that most men hate us because they resent that we hold the keys to the only thing that they really want in life -- vagina. They loathe that they have to pretend to have manners, to listen to us, to like us when they'd rather just rape us and be on their way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:04 AM
4

My 15 year old told me he doesn't plan to watch porn because it causes erectile dysfunction. I calmly said, "So proud of you, son." Then walked into my bedroom and danced a jig. Winning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:59 AM
2

Tell that to my guy who waited SIX months and is still chasing. Bloop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:54 AM
18

Good for you. I hung up on my narc ex mid sentence three years ago and never spoke to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:44 AM
13

I know, but I dated a narc. They're nuts!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:42 AM
4

Fk no. Just tell him he's allowed to cheat and go. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:40 AM
61

Not to mention how utterly powerless and desperate she looks down on one knee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:37 AM
10

I left my ex-husband for this very reason. I already have a child, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:31 AM
15

Tell him like I told my narc ex, "My brother said he'll meet you with the money." Never heard from his b*tch ass again. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:27 AM
15

Green bean casserole. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:20 AM
23

Next he'll be standing outside your door!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:12 AM
31

Yeah. He's 'dismayed' that he doesn't have access to you to mind fuck, hoover, and gaslight you. And he's run out of supply. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:11 AM
8

Then he'll find the woman who's more 'compatible', decide she's boring, and cheat on her with someone like his girlfriend. FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:56 AM
14

Narcs can smell certain types a mile away. I am very sensitive and a naturally open (not sexually), kind person and I was almost destroyed by a narc. (In the end I proved smarter than him and saved myself). I had no real defense, even in my 30s. So, you need to be very careful. The biggest take away from your experience with a narc should be DISCERNMENT. Can't stress it enough. I think FDS does a very good job of teaching women how to spot the bullshit early on. So, absolutely keep being you, bu…
/r/askFDS05/03/21 04:52 AM
2

Hahaaa...I swear I've watched it more than 10 times. "No, what did you do? What did you do?" ..."And that includes medical" 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:29 AM
5

OMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:23 AM
16

When I was a teen I was stalked by a 25 year old. Mom and I went to the police and they said they couldn't help me until he did something. Welp, a month later he attacked me on a dark street when I was walking home from the store in my neighborhood. Ripped my pants and had his hand in my underwear. A guy in the area heard me screaming and literally saved me. So, yeah, dont wait on the cops to help. Do you have any male friends that could have a little talk with him? Your apt looks gorgeous, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:10 PM
35

Right!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:08 PM
6

My favorite part 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:06 PM
53

The fake typing is taking me out! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:46 PM
2

So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:05 PM
55

One of my longtime friends is a pickme extraordinaire and I'm so tired of her. She picks the same dude over and over again and expects me to listen to her everytime things go badly. Like, you had no inkling that a man with two young children who lives with his baby mama and produces porn for a living might not be the ideal catch? 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:57 AM
12

Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:53 AM
100

He's so ugly and pasty, like a proper creep/pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:52 AM
37

As someone who has been married, I have nothing positive to say. lol I am now in my early 40s and I feel like, for the most part, relationships are a waste of time. You get sucked into this vortex for years, spending most of that time irritated because you're not getting what you want out of it, mothering a grown ass man along with the children you already have. Granted, all men aren't babies but you still end up with the short end of the stick. At least that was my experience. I don't want to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:51 AM
30

Ex 1 Inability you emote, didn't ever clean, lack of desire to be best version of himself, didn't workout, poor money management. Ex 2 (the narc) need for social media attention, the constant 'losing' his phone (don't have lie abt where u are if ur unreachable), gaslighting, negging, triangulation 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:20 AM
1

Yep. Pretty much ich..SMH. Hang in there ❣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:08 PM
8

So sorry for your loss..I also lost my dad in November, and I also learned who my friends are, and who are not. There's one girl I've decided to let go after she sent me a TEXT a week after the fact that said "Sorry for your loss" who couldn't be bothered to pick up the phone, yet she found time twice this month to call, presumably to tell me about her problems (or brag about her life). I've stopped taking her calls and I don't feel bad about it. I realized she's an awful, self-centered friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:19 AM
1

Grandma knows wassup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:44 AM
29

My ex had a string of ex girlfriends that were all significantly younger than he was. I didn't see it as a red flag at first, then I realized he needed them young so he could successfully manipulate them. I was older than he was and he was constantly trying to devalue me. It was slow and subtle, but I could detect it. He was a grade A narc, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:41 AM
16

Fkn facts. Most only enter a relationship so they can have a pseudo-mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:39 AM
2

Same...smh.
/r/askFDS22/01/21 05:02 PM
247

His laugh at the end took me out for some reason 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:43 AM
12

Like he's doing it for her best interest after he's wasted so many of her good years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:41 AM
6

OMG. I'm fairly new to Reddit. Didn't know this. 🤮😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:17 PM
1

I love her style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:33 PM
3

Yes. If he's the type to show up unannounced with gifts he he has no concept of boundaries. I hope you get it all sorted. 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 09:26 PM
8

Ugh. He never showed up or sent gifts. Probably bc he knows I have cousins and a brother who have would beat his ass. The calls stopped after a few weeks but he kept texting stupid poems and he would reach out every birthday and holiday for three years. He also stalked me via social media and created fake profiles to try and get me to add him .In retrospect I remember he always knew what his exes were up to. I think it's just something they do. They think you belong to them and they need proof t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:18 PM
4

You are not being too harsh. Yes, it would absolutely be like this if you were too marry him. I know this because I married a man like him. I carried the mental and emotional load, took the lead with the kids (school stuff, doctors), and I did 99% of the housework. And like you, I would complain and then he would make a weak attempt to pitch in but then go right back to doing nothing. We were married for 10 years and he never changed no matter how often I complained, how sweetly I asked, or how …
/r/askFDS10/01/21 05:20 AM
41

You're hoping if you tell him that it will scare him into changing? I hope not, bc it won't. He's POS. Just block and carry on with your life. He doesn't deserve one more second of your time or grace.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 03:32 AM
47

He's LV or NV. He verbally abused you and basically kicked you out of your own home. And I'm betting it's not the first time he's disrespected you. You're so used to being treated badly that you can't see how obviously unhealthy and abusive this relationship is. He's gotta go. Now.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 03:30 AM
105

Two years into my relationship with a narc and one day it all just clicked. He was spewing some condescending nonsense to me on the phone and I literally heard my inner voice say, "We're done." I hung up on him mid-sentence and never spoke to him again. That was four years ago. He called and texted for three years. I never responded. Revenge is best served cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:23 AM
1

He's an idiot. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:14 AM
11

Those cheesy biscuits tho 🤣😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:24 PM
10

One of my former exes was a covert narc of the highest order. He studied things about me so he could mirror me (I realized later). He was a 'feminist' and a 'spiritualist'...who was the worst human being I've ever known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:02 PM
10

I don't think the sexual orientation of the couple matters. (That's Lin Emanuel in the profile pic). You're right; most men are not like this, but they do exist (rare) and women need to know what HV/green flag behaviors look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:33 PM
6

Great point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:59 PM
15

Yiu have the right idea. I'd give him ONE chance (maybe). But not tomorrow. No one is that busy. Remember that. So, tell him when you didn't hear from him you made other plans, but you're available (insert whatever day/s next week). You must set a precedent on how you REQUIRE him to treat you, and last minute details and late replies ain't it. He'll come correct or disappear. You win either way.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 09:26 AM
3

No books in 2021, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:57 AM
80

"Also, I was expecting to see that she found tabs of porn opened. So you can imagine my relief upon seeing that it was academic papers instead. Lol" Haha me too. I'm like, Here we go with the bullshit." Then, "Oh, how refreshing." lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:55 AM
28

Labia grip?! 🙊🙉🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:53 AM
8

Wasting your good years on him. Please leave.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 08:51 AM
1

Poor thing. And she probably doesn't even realize she's too beautiful for him. SN: I dated a stupid narc who was also kind of a hotep (b4 I knew what hotep was) who didn't believe in celebrating birthdays because 'tImE Is a CoNsTrUCT' (jackass). So, I respected his position and didn't buy his ass anything but a cake. This fool had the nerve to be salty! Told me my presentation of the cake could have been better. Like, he literally wanted fanfare along with the cake. 🤣 IYDGTFOMYWTB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:50 AM
1

Haaaa...I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:43 AM
3

I'm dating someone new for 5 months now and every day I'm checking in with myself to make sure I'm not doing any fk shit, that I'm not slipping, or shifting my boundaries in any way. You gotta check in with yourself, ladies...just to be sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:37 AM
2

I stopped reading at "he cheated on me a couple times." A couple? Him seeing your post wasn't an accident; that was Jesus, your ancestors, guardian angels...the universe doing you a favor, because if you stayed after being cheated on A COUPLE times, you were nevrr going to leave him of your own volition. Block him, and go NC. Read the handbook. Your only mission right now is to love yourself...more.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 08:29 AM
100

She mentions academic papers from her lab work. Most lay people would be hard-pressed to understand that, I think. My bff does similar work and it's pretty complicated stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:58 AM
175

One of my very first boyfriends cried during our breakup and I was so moved. I told my mom about it, and she quickly disabused me of the notion that a man's tears are in any way a reflection of his love. She was right. She's always right. I love my mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:36 AM
5

Take photos of it, but leave everything where it is til it rots. So of he comes back to check he'll see you don't gaf or think you haven't been at home, and maybe he won't come back. I know this may sound drastic, but can you move? Looking over your shoulder waiting for him to pop out of the bushes would make me crazy. I'm so sorry.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 07:22 AM
6

My ex husband was the type she mentions, who would do things for about three days after I complained then fall right back into the bullshit. He was pretty shocked when I told him to get out. If I only accomplish one more thing in life, it will be to arm my daughter against the fuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:55 PM
95

When he makes 3x more than you. What a racket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:36 PM
13

So, he wouldn't know the sex of the baby until after 20 weeks. So he had her abort four five-month old fetuses? 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:42 PM
20

I'll never live with a man again. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:11 PM
3

I'd go spit on his grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:20 PM
10

Yes, leave. The cheating was a result of your unhappiness in the relationship. His depression has nothing to do with you You feel sorry for him; you can't build a life on that. My ex is a low ambition, minimal effort kinda guy. He was NICE, but that's about it. There's a reason nice guys finish last. Leave, date others, concentrate on yourself.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 05:21 PM
12

He could have had that epiphany many times, but it magically happens when you've finally had enough? Most likely, he gets you to stay, does nice things for a few weeks, then settles right back into being a lazy lover. His issues seem to be more about himself and his drive in life, which really has nothing to do with you. Lazy, low-drive men always do the bare minimum. If he's committed to changing, he'll be just as committed after you move out and will move mountains to show you he's changed whi…
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:57 PM
17

Jeez. Sorry, but nice doesn't equal HV. This is all you'll ever get from him...nice gestures, but nothing you actually want or have asked for. Time to go.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 04:47 PM
8

When I told him we needed a car and he said, "You're gonna have to get it with your credit cuz mine is shot." This was in October, after we'd agreed in January that we'd make sure our credit was on point by the end of the year. He hadn't even started working on it. smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:41 PM
8

Me ex narc used to do this, and for birthdays he'd wait until everyone posted on my FB page and comment last so his would stand out. Weird shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:30 PM
25

I posted there when I first joined. I was looking for answers, stressimg myself out..Then one day I said 'Fk this' and told him he had to go. Ain't nobody got time for that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:24 AM
14

My daughter is almost 13 and I worry too.
/r/askFDS03/01/21 06:51 PM
23

I didn't think he meant he knows 20 women that would wait on him hand and foot. I took it as him saying he knows many loving Black women who are contrary to this angry Black woman stereotype that ashies try and perpetuate. At least I hope that's what he meant. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:16 PM
6

The more time you spend here, the less you'll spend pining over him. Stay strong! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:28 PM
23

He deserves to be fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:27 PM
18

One of my exes was a narc of the highest order. If I wasn't a strong woman, he would have broken me. He almost did. What I learned from that situation is to NEVER shift my boundaries, not even a little. Next thing you know, you're putting up with shit you'd tell your friends to run from. (It's a slow and subtle shift.) They are life ruiners. You absolutely did the right thing. Brava! The best revenge is no contact everrr- not even to say 'fk off and die'. Treat him like he never existed. No snar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:37 PM
111

Then he doubles downnnn 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:19 PM
21

We LOOOVE to see it 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:57 PM
6

I'm 5'8 and my ex is 5'9ish. Not bad, but ny new guy is 6'2 and I love that he's so much taller than me. Makes me swooon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:20 AM
3

So true. The tub was clearly clogged and my ex came to me and said, "The water isn't going down, what's wrong with the tub?" Instead of going to the store and buying Draino, he asks me this question so I can TELL him what to do, or do it myself (which I did). This is type of shit I had to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:30 PM
3

This is right out of the narc playbook. Holidays, birthdays they pop up with a lame text that's supposed to make you swoon. Don't fall for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 05:06 PM
5

My ex. Then if he saw me doing something I asked him to do, he'd get angry and jump up and say "I was about to do it. You're impatient."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:17 PM
3

I've never had this experience and pray I never will. But I also am not doing his laundry. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:15 PM
18

Before I left my ex-husband I literally could not get wet down there. I thought, OMG I'm in early menopause! Dry as the Sahara, even on my own! Turns out, this mkfr had turned me off so much with his childish ways and five minute sex, that my entire body just shut down indefinitely. I legit thought something was wrong with me physiologically until I broke up with him and started focusing on me and what I love. Then I got my groove back! 😛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:44 AM
5

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:34 AM
37

But is eNtItLed to a threesome. smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:49 AM
3

I gotta use this in the future 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:47 PM
3

He sounds like my ex husband. Break up with him now, today. He'll never change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:39 AM
5

I was married to a man-child. You get so used to carrying the weight it becomes normal. Now that I'm divorced I look back and can't believe I made allowances for his bullsh*t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:56 PM
1

OMG. How horrible! I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:31 AM
14

With my ex (who was not abusive) I could never have a regular, mature conversation. I would try, but would end up having to navigate his minefield of deflections and excuses, and sometimes anger because he couldn't deal. The "Oh, everything is my fault" or "I can't help it I'm not an expert at communication like you." Childish shit that always kept us from solving anything. He saw any observation as a critique of his entire being and then he'd get defensive and ahut down. One day I was just like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:58 PM
17

Thank so much. 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:00 PM
108

Gems. I rarely if ever text first -- and he and I are four months in. Every now and again I switch it up and hit him first with a good morning to make him feel good, but I continue to let him lead. I don't ask him when we will see each other. He makes sure to try and carve out time at the top of the week (because I told him my calendar fills up quickly and if he waits too long I won't be available). No pointless banter, and I end text convos first. We haven't slept together yet. The chase contin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:56 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:47 PM
29

The accuracyyyy. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:34 PM
52

Same. So glad I'm divorced. My dad died two weeks ago and my ex was here with the kids so I wouldn't be burdened. But he sat there while I assembled the tree, decorated the outside, and did all the shopping while planning a memorial. For Christ's sake. 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:59 PM
41

She bought him a game then hit him with the budget and a move out date. I'm crine. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:22 PM
16

I love this girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:19 PM
77

So, my ex went shopping TODAY for Christmas presents for our kids. My daughter's phone is on his account and I wanted to upgrade and get her a new phone, but guess what? He owes a huge bill so they won't let him upgrade, so I can't give her what she really wants for Christmas bc this mfkr -- who makes twice as much as I do, mind you -- doesn't pay his bills on time AND he refuses to part with the lump sum to pay it off so she can get the phone. Because he's cheap. WTF? 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:17 PM
13

More importantly, why go over his place if you know that's how it's going to be? People will only do what you allow, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:15 PM
6

It's like AA. Once you break NC, you gotta start all over. Slap yourself and reset. Fk him.
/r/askFDS20/12/20 09:13 PM
7

Classic song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:47 PM
5

Everything you're feeling is natural You basically need to detox. Go no contact and keep busy. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you belong with them. Do not reach out.
/r/askFDS17/12/20 01:49 AM
2

Sure..But for someone who isn't used to getting/spotting these things, it's a good start.
/r/askFDS16/12/20 05:19 PM
8

Calling when he says he will, arriving on time for dates, remember things you say, being thoughtful, not pressuring you or even alluding to sex too soon....
/r/askFDS15/12/20 08:03 PM
7

What everyone else said. Next!
/r/askFDS15/12/20 01:58 AM
45

You continued to see him after you caught him in a lie. Totally avoidable situation. Keep leveling up 👊🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:10 PM
124

They're both ridiculous. Her, for giving up her career/money to be his slave, and him for thinking it's1950 ("I just want to come home to a clean place and a hot dinner") 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:33 PM
1

Swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:15 PM
18

A must: How to spot a narcissist.
/r/askFDS12/12/20 03:13 PM
18

Once he said the N word I knew he was certified trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:47 AM
5

Leveling up! 🤗👊🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:56 PM
5

Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:57 AM
5

The one and only time I ever saw a male gynecologist (I was out of town and it was an emergency) he stuck his finger up my butt - claiming my uterus was tilted so he had to -- without warning or permission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:54 AM
2

🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:49 AM
17

My grandmother was raped by the pastor in her church and bore his child. All the while the parishioners looked at her as a pariah..Then she got cervical cancer and died...in her 40s..This was back in the 60s, so I never got to meet her but my mom told me the story..Meanwhile, this man's name continues to be spoken with reverence because no one knows what he did to my grandma. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:28 PM
26

My ex was not chauvinistic at all; he just wasn't raised to be an HVM, so we both operated under these 'societal norms'..While I made it very clear that I wasn't the housewife type, still, many of the household responsibilities fell to me because he certainly wasn't volunteering. Like, he never mopped the floor, he never cleaned the bathroom, or washed clothes. He helped out in other ways (grocery shopping, ocassionally makimg dinner), but left the heavy lifting to me, including dealing with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:24 PM
5

Never text first. A grown ass man will ask you out. You already 'reciprocated the energy', so it's on him..Maybe he's used to being pursued, maybe he's LVM..Who knows, and who cares? Let him lead or let him be.
/r/askFDS10/12/20 07:01 PM
84

I told her as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:20 PM
3

OMG!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:42 PM
41

Since you know this about yourself, you have to actively work on not putting him first. Don't carry your phone to every room worried you'll miss a call. Let him initiate 95% of the communication, even if you've been dating for months. Throw yourself into activities you love. Stay busy! Love yourself HARD...because on some level you must be seeing these dudes as the prize. No, YOU'RE the prize.
/r/askFDS10/12/20 01:29 AM
7

I dated a narc who used to do this..Took me a while to notice cuz I'd never met a marc..Insidious shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:08 AM
1

I'm sorry that happened to you. Men are so gross. I am divorced and dating someone new and he's doing everything right (so far) but I realized today I have so little faith in men that I can't even relax and enjoy it. Why are they like this? And if you look at history, going back centuries, they've always been this way. 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:28 PM
4

I'm 40 years old and I can pull any man I choose, young and old. Most of the men I went to high school with look like deacons now. FOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:01 PM
2

Right! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:32 PM
5

Why would you allow a stranger into your home?Holy shit.
/r/askFDS07/12/20 04:13 PM
2

It's like he was getting angry because she wouldn't admit she was ugly or something. Poor girl. She still asked for advice at the end. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:10 PM
10

He read that part in the Bible that says women have to be isolated and away from their husbands during menstruation.Funny how these types cherry pick the info that supports their misogyny. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:48 PM
3

What? No, dump him post haste!!! Those cons significantly outweigh the pros.
/r/askFDS07/12/20 08:21 AM
240

And "sexual marketplace value"? We are literally things to these men, not actual human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:04 AM
66

Idk..And they state it so boldly like it's the norm..And all the men in the comments about how women were made to serve men. Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:02 AM
6

My friend was dating a guy who produces porn. He lives with the mother of his children but they're not a couple, apparently. When I tried to school her she said I was being negative. Guess who's gonna call me crying any day now? Ugh
/r/askFDS07/12/20 07:43 AM
33

Swipe left...🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:41 AM
2

My ex. Zero intestinal fortitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:40 PM
1

He can't spell you're. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:36 PM
40

Absolutely Queen. Glad for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:24 PM
25

Another reason why I left my ex. Trash sex. Told him what I wanted, bought him a book about it, and still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:22 PM
10

I'm so suspicious now. 🤣
/r/askFDS05/12/20 05:28 PM
3

What do you do during COVID tho? I'm not comfortable eating indoors, it's too cold now for eating outside or lunch in the park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:27 PM
11

This is some reverse psych, pimp shit. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:21 PM
45

Bullshit. Never expected my ex to read my mind. I used to flat out tell him what I needed, what I wanted from him, what bothered me, and he still couldn't//wouldnt listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:19 PM
35

Absolutely. His ass should have been on his way, not out running. So he never had any intention to come see you. Probably sent you an old pic from when he fell last year.. And he should have called to cancel, not text. Trash.
/r/askFDS05/12/20 05:15 PM
45

Haha...same! You get so used to the bullshit --and I think on a subconscious level we believe it IS our job as women -- that we don't even see we're doing wayyy too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:34 AM
78

In my case, he seemed to genuinely feel guilty and he'd ask me how he could help. I tried to explain to him that it was more about the MENTAL load of having to make sure everything was getting done that was the issue. We have two children and one has ASD, so I'm calling drs, looking for alternative treatments, reading literature about ways to help...all the time. Not to mention dealing with the schools, my own career, and generally trying to lead the family, which he wouldn't do. The stress. Now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 01:29 AM
73

The biggest benefit of being divorced is not having to feel bitter and resentful because there's an able-bodied grown ass man living with me but not helping. There's a lot on my plate, but I'm not so angry all the time anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:38 AM
94

OMG, yes. My ex would expect me to split stuff when he made three times more than I did. My mom used to say, "What is this splitting shit?" lol Even now, I hate to label him as LVM because he truly is a nice guy, but he really is. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:09 AM
46

Pathetic. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:07 AM
19

Took me long time to see that my narc bf was actually a narc. I'd never met anyone like that or knew the term in a clinical sense, so I didn't know what to look for. I wasn't a pickme, but so naive. God 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:23 PM
33

I never realized until I started dating the new guy just how vital it is to screen for this. I was so used to my ex-husband and his lackadaisacal approach to our relationship that it became normal. I'd tell him I didn't like something and he'd stop doing it for about a wk and then go right back to doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:11 PM
10

😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:48 PM
17

I'm NOT bi, but I'd marry you lol ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:12 PM
21

"How can she go to bed with that ugly thing" is pure GOLD,. I'm cryn! Ok. My mom and dad broke up when I was a toddler. They weren't married and my mom never did get married. She's in her 60s now. I once asked her why and she said: "Marriage is for men. They get regular sex, a cook, a cleaning lady, and a babysitter and women get more work. I like my life. Why would I willingly sign up for more work?" She said "If you're going to do it, at least marry rich, so you won't be broke AND tired." lol …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:08 PM
5

For some reason, reading this today, makes me really sad. '"Nobody cooks her meals"...we do theee most and are generally so neglected. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:47 PM
5

What an insensitive, disgusting comment. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:07 PM
-28

This made me laugh..Some men are so goofy. I could NOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:40 AM
12

Acknowledge that there were things about him that you really liked and to find in someone new, while also identifying all the fkd up things about him too..Then throw yourself into your work, school, self-care, a new hobby -- whatever. It will fade.
/r/askFDS29/11/20 01:56 AM
3

The guy I'm dating is funny asf, and so am I. We spend half our conversations cracking each other up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 07:00 AM
14

Years ago I dated a narc. Of course I didn't know it at the time. He was supposed to spend Thanksgiving with my family, and two days before I literally heard my inner voice tell me, "He's not coming." Brushed it off. Sure enough, the day before Thanksgiving he starts talking about a power outage in his apartment and how he was waiting on the electric company to send someone out. I thought, 'this is the setup for tomorrow when he will say he's still without power and can't come.' And guess what? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:49 AM
4

What a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:40 AM
11

If your therapist knowsl about how he treated you and still advised that there was no harm in reconnecting, you need a new therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:38 AM
2

When you read some of these stories, don't you wish you could just talk to these women? Five years from now she'll have finally had enough and will kick herself for not leaving him sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:10 AM
52

I consider myself a HVW. But I have to say in all my years, it never occurred to me to guard my heart, that I could control how I felt once I liked someone. I would just fall in love if everything 'appeared' to be on the up and up. So, when I read this in the manual I thought, "Well, that seems really hard to do? How do you stop yourself from feeling?" Especially someone like me who has always worn my heart on my sleeve. But I figured I'd try it in this new situation I'm in. We're at the three-m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:08 AM
69

All of this. My ex legit never mopped a floor or cleaned a toilet bowl. He thought doing a half ass sweep job every six weeks of ONLY the living room, leaving clumps of dog hair in the corners and loading the dishwasher was 'helping'. Of course when I asked him to hire a cleaning lady he looked at me like I had three titties and told me it was too expensive. So, when the new guy called and told me he was "doing chores today", I almost squealed. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:27 AM
3

Yes. It's quite common with covert narcissists.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 03:54 AM
16

And going through fertility treatments...with A BOYFRIEND. Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:40 PM
2

All Men Are Like That.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:17 PM
52

I thought this was satire. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:19 PM
5

AMALT..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:10 PM
1

I would reply, "No."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:56 AM
120

The two minute, no foreplay, never hear from him again after...shoulder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:53 AM
22

That mfkr remembers. Trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:51 AM
20

I'm not mad at this. He's telling you straight up what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:45 AM
28

Maybe they're teens or college students.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:42 AM
2

You have to remember that although he may have been a POS, your intentions were always good and YOUR heart was in the right place. So, you loved him authentically and that takes time to get over. Be gentle with yourself, but make sure you see things as they were and don't romanticize it. Keep busy and throw yourself into healing whatever it was that allowed him into ur life and why you let him stay. Beyond that, you just need time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:28 AM
2

I have a google voice number so that when dudes ask me for my number and I think it might be a situation..One time a guy literally tried calling it while I was standing there. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:11 AM
2

Tell her to keep that job cuz she will need it after the divorce. On the upside, she may get half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:08 AM
180

Or that nasty, ashy, cheap ass box of V-Day candy from CVS wrapped in red cellophane that tastes like you don't love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:16 PM
15

Came back here to say he's already cheating..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:08 PM
9

OMG..🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:21 PM
24

This dude was a narc who played the male feminist, woke, sensitive male, I love Jesus, you can count on me role. His entire persona was crafted.
/r/askFDS19/11/20 07:18 PM
17

Tell him to go find a dude. And file ASAP..These men are really fkn crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:12 PM
2

Move on. Too much unhealthy stuff here. Explore your relationship with boundaries and work on discernment. You deserve much better.
/r/askFDS19/11/20 06:49 PM
4

Don't subject your child to this, whatever you do. Plot and scheme and take your baby with you. Siphon some of the cash he has and stash it then gtf on WITH your baby.
/r/askFDS19/11/20 06:44 PM
66

I knew a guy who once let it slip that he got rejected alot in school, so as an adult, his revenge was getting hot girls to like him and then 'letting them know what it feels like'. So, who knows what demented shit motivated this dude to date you. Probably you being a virgin. Men will do just about anything to experience a virgin. Sick. I'm sorry you experienced that. What a rough lesson to learn just starting out. Really work on discernment. It's your best defense. Hugs ❤
/r/askFDS19/11/20 06:43 PM
5

Teddy can't afford to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:47 PM
3

My husband would put a whole pan in the fridge with one lone meatball in it rather than having to clean the pan. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:46 PM
5

My coworker used to wake up before sunrise to cook her husband breakfast and "see him off". He treated her like an old shoe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:40 PM
3

Follow your instincts, and tell himegirl to mind her business. Jeez
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:38 PM
8

I'd decline. What a turnoff.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:20 PM
3

It's the little things that you remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:24 PM
18

My ex was like a teenage boy every time "OMG, OMG". Calm the fk down; it's only been three minutes lol. Wtf? Such a turnoff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:53 AM
129

Like men who get upset for being on child support. Dude, it's for your kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:52 AM
25

You wanna know one of the reasons I knew my ex-husband was not for me? He used to bump into me. Like going to get something out the cabinet and I'm standing there, h he'd say excuse me AS he opened the door right by my face, barely missing me. Sometimes he'd nudge and I'd get so pissed off..I literally said, "Um, I'm a woman. We don't like to be manhandled or pushed out the way. Be sweet, be gentle, respect my space." And then he'd do it again the next time. It may seem small but made me feel li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:51 AM
10

It would take my ex an entire week or more to simply take bags down to the basement for storage. Holes that required spackling that he didn't know how to do, and couldn't be bothered to look up on YouTube. He never cleaned the bathroom or mopped a floor the entire two years he lived here. Yet -- YET-- he would get bent outta shape over shoes not being lined up by the door. lol 🙄 And I can cook my ass off btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:45 AM
1

I was actually searching reddit for a topic and FDS was among the results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:38 AM
5

I have a friend who dates the same kind of man for the last 18 years. She thinks she's evolved, but she really hasn't. Anytime I try to hip her to the game she tells me to stop being negative.Yetnshe always calls me for adive when things fall apart. She's 40 now. I give up.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 05:14 AM
2

You may find through therapy that he did you a favor. My friend's husband left her when she was pregnant with their second child. He had been cheating and was feeling himself and 'wasn't ready' suddenly. He went and got an apt and was really feeling himself with his little side chick. Three years later she's single, doing great, is an awesome mom, and he's trying to get her back. SMH. This is probably one of the worst things that will ever happen to you but you will get through it. You know why?…
/r/askFDS15/11/20 05:11 AM
2

So much of how we relate to men and measure our worth is directly related to childhood trauma and/or our relationships (or lack thereof) with our fathers. That's what I think when I see this kimd of stuff. It really is gross. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:03 PM
1

Definitely not ignoring. I told him how I feel and unless he clarifies these relationships soon it's a wrap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 06:48 PM
3

LMAO. This is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:02 PM
2

There isn't a bc on the market that won't fk you up on some level. I took a low dose bc back in my 20s and my hair fell out for months after I stopped. I had bald spots. So many horror stories about IUD and implants. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:54 PM
1

Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:52 PM
2

I got approved to buy a gun this week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:43 PM
9

I've never had one. I almost did ONCE 20 years ago when I was first starting out. Just assumed I couldn't, and most magazines I used to read made it seem like a rare thing, so I never made any of my lovers try. But most men jackhammer away and don't focus on you like that. It's one if the reasons I left my ex--shitty sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:42 PM
3

She said hates the limelight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:31 AM
3

Good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:58 AM
8

Yes, it showed up on my feed and I was shocked how everyone was ganging up on her. I didn't comment bc I was too stuck on the "taking my boyfriend and our kids" part. SMH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:36 AM
19

Right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:32 AM
38

I agree. The boyfriend should be making sure his other child goes. Maybe she can't afford it since she's paying for everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:12 PM
61

I was thinking that..Since he isn't paying for anything else he could contribute so the other child can go. Messy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 11:08 PM
2

Oh God. You're right! I'll repost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:20 PM
42

Yesssss. You must be proud! My daughter is 12. The lessons have started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:19 PM
31

So basically he's been stalking you all this time or he wouldn't know that he'd been blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:18 PM
49

And why expect closure from someone who has devalued you? Duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 10:15 PM
17

I never understood how getting coffee is even a date. I guess if ur a serial dater getting coffee is a cheap, fast way to weed people out, but it's so boring and lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:18 PM
1

Yes, he has lifelong male friends he cherishes.They do community work in addition to their professional careers. Married, decent guys. Just last week he drove out of his way to bring his friend's son luggage for a trip. This week he drove his cousin over an hour away to the airport. He mentioned a while back how he's big on acts of service and random kindnesses, so maybe it's connected to that. On our first date my mom was in the ER and he offered to take me to see her, then offered to wait and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:12 PM
5

Man, this is sad asf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:41 AM
3

Timing not right as in I transfered schools, then we were both married, then he tried to date me a few years ago but I got back with my ex and ended things before we could really get started. He's not a bad guy. But yeah, this gives me pause. We talked about it today (he immediately sensed something was off) and he thanked me for sharing my point of view and he said he adores me and doesn't want to make me uncomfortable and that he'd like some time to think about what I said and how he can satis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:30 AM
1

This is par for the course in NY. I just keep walking. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:00 AM
2

I have one lone pickmeisha friend and for five years her bf lived with her rent free, free vacations, drove her car, cheated, and lied. As soon as he had some money in his savings and didn't need to rely on hers anymore he left for a weekend saying he needed a break. Once he was safely away, he called and broke up with her and moved in with a 20 year old stripper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:58 AM
2

Oh, best of luck, honey! I got back with my ex-husband's and after two years I ended it. Life is short and it must not be spent settling or equivocating. It's a very empowering thing to realize that you don't HAVE to do sh*t. Let him be mediocre his whole life if he wants. So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:15 PM
2

Of course he's not impressed that his gf has an awesome personality that she wants to make her students smile, that she's obviously a great teacher, that she MAKES HER OWN DRESSES, for God's sake, and even called to apologize to his mother when she did nothing wrong. These men don't deserve us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:23 PM
14

Him asking to come over is weird to me. And to play board games? He should wait to be invited. Too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:37 PM
10

I sat my 12 year old down and told her straight up that she doesn't have to be a wife and she doesn't have to be a mother. I told her there are so many wonderful things to do and be and see in the world ( and I gave her examples). I want her to male an informed decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:34 AM
116

I would have grabbed that shit and ran with it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:17 AM
8

Known him 20 years and we've almost dated a few times, but timing was never right. He's a great guy who I admire and things have been moving along nicely. He has two female besties, one of which just had a baby via insemination bc she got tired of waiting...and she has made him her child's godfather. He is also godfather to the other bff's 9 year old son. It definitely speaks to their respect for him. He's great. However...I had an ex who would try and triangulate, so I don't have much tolerance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:28 AM
2

ONG. This is awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:38 AM
8

You went allll the way left on this one...turned a corner, ran a stop sign, and hit a tree. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:36 AM
32

Sometimes when we're younger or inexperienced we may see a potential red flag but we're not sure how to assess it or see how it plays into the bigger picture of who a person is or the relationship. That comes with time and discernment. I have a 12 year old daughter and I have just started talking to her about how to do this. For example, I told her, if you have a friend who is nice to you but mean to almost everyone else, it means she's generally not a very nice person and you would rethink asso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 06:34 PM
1

Jesus. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:38 AM
32

the hookah 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 04:19 PM
1

Right! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:22 PM
13

He actually said Netflix. The jig been up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:14 AM
1

I've never had a kan ask me that. I'd cackle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:47 PM
3

True. Wait until he leaves for work and be out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:46 PM
6

She needs to call her mom (and a brother if she has one) and have them come get her. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:44 PM
1

Mozzarella sticks? Face palm! And why is she asking to be introduced to his family? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:42 PM
3

Really? lol my bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:32 PM
5

Right! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:31 PM
3

That's a read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:16 PM
2

I did that tonight and it just put me in a worse mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 04:56 AM
15

Good for you. I was married eight years and had the nerve to get back with him after being divorced six years. I learned quickly that my first instinct was correct. Wtf was I thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:35 AM
14

It was. But finally I realized he was not going to ever mature--and he had no desire to. Told him I deserved better and he had to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:34 AM
58

Or there's my ex-husband's type who is kind and nice with great manners and shy. You think that's endearing--because most of the guys you've met have been assholes--but his type is just as harmful. They don't know how to lead, they won't make any effort to become the best version of themselves, and as soon as things get hard, they fold like a cheap suit and play victim. This is after you make the mistake of marrying 'the sensitive, sweet guy' and have two babies with him and you realize YOU'RE t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:44 AM
86

I just watched the Red Table Talk episode about Vanessa Guillen. Fort Hood sounds like a monstrous place. I'm sorry those things happened to you. Men with power--or proximity to power--are the absolute worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:27 AM
6

My friend's ex broke up with her under the guise of needing a break and never came back. He's 40 living with a 21 year old stripper. She thinks she's leveled up. But a year later, she answers every time he calls. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:15 PM
2

Not overstepping at all. Much appreciated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:13 PM
3

Yes. And it's caused me to look at men who watch it in a different way as well..I even brought up the topic with the man I'm dating (who I haven't slept with yet), letting him know what I think about it just so he knows. Don't try any fkn porn moves on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:16 PM
7

Who's raising these men, wolves? Hobos? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 09:47 PM
8

My ex would use my ability to communicate against me: "I'm SORrY I'm noT An ExPerT COmMUnICAToR Like YoU"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:17 PM
1

OMG, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:04 PM
7

I've stopped accepting anything less than what I deserve. I got back with my ex-husband two years ago. Yes, he's a great guy, but he's got emotional issues and he's not interested in being the best version of himself, for me, for his children, or himself. I'm hot, kind, smart, talented asf, and a hustler. I deserve to be matched or I'm cool alone. I told him so and I made him move out. You are not going to drive me into an early grave with emotional neglect and bad sex. Feels awesome to choose m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:48 PM
20

1) I'd never fk him again, and 2) if I were bisexual, I'd find me a woman and divorce his ass w/ the quickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:17 PM
8

Guess he's never heard of the Amazons/Spartans. Besides that, how do we women keep an 'hourglass shape'? We fkn workout. What a moron lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:12 PM
27

This is awful. I am so sorry this happened to you. I once had to fight a guy off for about five hours. He didn't rape me, thank goodness, but I was so mentally traumatized. I was 21 and had only been with one person and was so naive to be alone with this guy. I didn't know how to handle myself, but I kept saying no. I was trapped at his house (this was before Ubers and he lived in the sticks) and he spent the entire night trying to get me to have sex with him. Finally, he agreed to stop harassin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 02:25 AM
1

I was in so many dumb situations as a 20 something that only by the grace of God didn't get me raped. I was so naive and trusting. No walks in the park unless it's a busy, heavily-trafficked area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:18 PM
17

That, and him trying to make it seem like alll his exes still want him. Get ready for some triangulation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:10 PM
13

If that phrase came from anyone else, I'd definitely be wary. I've known him.for so long and we've admired and respected each other forever. That being said, I'm still following FDS. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:01 PM
47

That would be the first and last time he talks to me like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:21 PM
25

How about men who dont know how to eat pussy? My ex- husband would go down on me for an obligatory one to two minutes and there was no rhythm at all. I never came from oral with him. Used to piss me off. Right before he'd come he'd say, "I can't hold it, we'll have to do it again later", knowing damn well he had no stamina/desire for a second round. And he wouldn't get me off after he came. So, not only did he not know how to eat, he was bad at sex. I finally told him and bought him the book 'Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 04:04 PM
20

In their mind we're always in thongs and a garter belt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:57 PM
5

What's "appearances"? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:46 AM
7

A herb. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:43 AM
78

The way we ride for them, and they continually disrespect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:07 PM
2

She's relatively new to LA. Single, cool job, making great money. I honestly think he and the ex are in it together to finesse her for money. I feel protective of her, but also annoyed she could be this naive. She's 40 and keeps meeting the same guys and she doesn't learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 09:03 PM
1

I should clarify. He produces the films, but doesn't star in them (as far as I know). But his business partner is his ex, who is the mother of his children, who he still lives with because, according to her, he was dying of cancer two years ago and she took care of him. Dude doesn't look like he's ever been sick a day in his life. I tried to tell her it'sa crock of sh*t. But she told me I was being negative. lol smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:47 PM
10

Same. Haven't dined out since February too. I'm not high risk, but I'm super paranoid and I have elderly family members and children who need me to be safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:49 PM
3

Good advice, thank you. I have never shot a gun so I need allll the classes. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:41 PM
19

I'm not mad at this. Unless this was one in a string of sh*tty dates, there aren't a lot of options during COVID. I'm one of those people who will not eat in any restaurant right now. All of my dates have been outdoors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:33 PM
7

My friend is dating a guy who makes porn for a living. In LA. I can't even talk to her. Like, in what universe will this guy be a good partner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:18 PM
12

Pure joy. lol No one radiates pure joy 24/7. foh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:16 PM
1

Absolutely. I'm dating a man for abt 8 weeks now. Last month he needed to cancel a date the night before (legitimate reason). He said he needed to reschedule but when he called to chat he didn't actually reschedule. We're talking and he notices a change in my mood (points for him) and asks me what's up. I told him that he did not in fact reschedule and it made him seem unreliable and I didn't like the way that made me feel. He immediately apologized and said, "It won't happen again. Let me get m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:51 AM
8

My background check was just cleared for my handgun permit. The HVM I'm dating said he'd take me to purchase one and to the range. That's so hot. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:25 AM
7

I've been dating someone I've known for over 10 years for the last seven weeks. Amazing guy; he's doing everything right so far. Still, I'm guarding my heart and would love to date other ppl so as not to focus so much on him. Because of covid, though, I don't feel comfortable bringing anyone else into my circle, and there's no one else I like. I need a distraction lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:16 AM
37

When we were in our 20s, my brother was at home, sick, and he got this girl who lived TWO TOWNS OVER to come out, in a rainstorm, to pick up food he'd ordered from a restaurant in OUR town and bring it to him, along with some Nyquil. And pay for it. She sat there for a few minutes watching him eat and then went back home. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I have a 12 year old daughter. Her tutelage has begun. Fk that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:44 AM
112

The moment he asked her to pick him up for a date she should have known. 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:42 AM
57

Doesn't scare away the narcs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:11 PM
2

I'm an actress and my ex used to ask me if I would ever give it up. He wanted me to love him more than my career. #dafuq
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:29 PM
1

I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:25 PM
1

When they immediately start jamming their fingers into you because practically every porn scene begins this way and the woman is just writhing in pleasure.🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:09 PM
1

I've had the same magic wand since 2000. It's finally starting to short circuit (but it's still working!), after 20 years LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:52 AM
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