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Please don't forget the part where one man realized the men who were getting all the likes put more effort into their profiles and he was slacking. Insert Nic Cage meme here ... You don't fucking say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/22 02:42 PM
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I don't disagree with your comments. However the post does say $50-$70, so not as wide a range. If he needed to stay in a smaller budget, he should have planned the date. Then she could have unmatched waayyyy earlier 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:32 PM
2

She says she just moved in and is cleaning for her "roommmate". WHY didn't she do a walk through and decide that living with someone this disgusting was a BAD IDEA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:12 PM
46

Fewer than you'd think (do the power cycling - every woman has tried to communicate). I came here to say the exact same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:51 PM
37

🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:46 AM
25

I'm torn. I've had to replace the wiring harness of a car, but I also empathize on a spiritual level with your desire to fuck it up. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 02:42 AM
7

Oh my god, this is perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:52 AM
3

More like "help me bypass her vetting by vouching for me indirectly". Nawwwww dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:27 AM
3

My best friend's husband did the surprise party this year and didn't ask any of her female friends for help, just asked us to show up. That man is stellar on all fronts, and I've liked him since we met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 12:26 AM
95

My takeaway from this is that the end goal for them is the same regardless of what the woman looks like. The only difference is how much time they're willing to put into fucking her. They're not interested in a relationship. They don't care about getting to know her. They do not see women as people, only self-delivering fleshlights. The trash is taking itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 04:08 PM
5

I'll be honest, this would have been so much more satisfying if it was two screenshots shorter. Angry rant about a piece of shit he is and how he isn't going to change. Block and delete Shocked Pikachu that you don't have to see because that MF is out of your life and peace has aggressively invaded your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:23 PM
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She fucking knows that he has no respect for her. The problem is you can't EARN the respect of a LVM, because they don't develop it; either they do or they don't, and the only people LVM respect are people whom they perceive as having more power. Perception, not reality, determines this. So she is clowning herself with this little power struggle. Ngl, I did start laughing at her game at first, but then I just got sad at how she's playing herself into staying with that disgusting manipulative ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 09:24 PM
22

Apparently the Google algorithm knows what even human beings deny. But, hey... remember, not all men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:17 AM
58

Truth. However, the one common element running through all those lines is that they are skeevy and make your lizard-primal brain sit up and tell you to gtfo. Listen to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:53 PM
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Note that the Boost for Reddit app doesn't support chat, so I've gone months without knowing I had a chat request. It also doesn't have ads, and I love that shit. No I don't get paid to say it, but I am down with an app that has removed 2 of the worst parts of this site. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:41 PM
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Narrator: It was not one of the healthiest relationships she had ever had. She just didnt know it yet. Edit: he lied to her for TWO FUCKING YEARS. He arranged his whole goddamn life so she wouldn't find out about his high school aged daughter for TWO FUCKING YEARS. But I'm sure he's a great guy and she should have noooo problems tying her life and future to his. 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 11:22 PM
9

Yes it was, and the video was really solid work too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 10:35 PM
110

Holy crap, the last time I saw her was when she did an Imagine Dragons cover with Pentatonix. It's been a hot minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:11 PM
93

They don't want to ask you out. They want you to ask them over for a booty call. 🙄 Or even worse. Invite them to stay at your place to save them the hotel bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:33 AM
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I'm a salty, sarcastic, (sometimes too) loud-mouthed person, and you wouldn't believe the shit people open up to me about, even before I went into nursing. I used to have a gay friend who would link BDSM gear sites in discord, and go on and on about bear daddies. Women tell me weird shit about their boyfriends, one friend I lived with briefly would use me as therapy to gripe about her awful bf who would only have sex if she was on top bc it was too much effort otherwise (and then she got mad whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:05 PM
93

Hell, I would expand this to any essential bills before marriage. Rent, utilities, phones, credit cards. Have your own shit, handle your own shit. My husband is an authorized user on some of my cards, but I have my own accounts, both checking and credit, and he has some of his own. We manage the bills together but the rest is pretty separated. I used to wonder why any married couple would want separate finances back in my pickme days (when I had no income of my own), but I've learned that it isn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 01:01 AM
10

Or "that's a relief because I won't overwork myself. This way or goals will never be at odds." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:38 AM
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I believe it. I would trust anything that man fed to me would taste good. He is a kitchen science-wizard. And really fun to watch too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:20 AM
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I dunno what kind of fruitcakes you've been eating, but I've found them to be overspiced lumps of crappy cake loaded with chunks of sugared fruit no sane person would want to ingest. If you have recommendations on an edible version, point the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:23 AM
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Lol as someone who transfuses people on a regular basis, that blood type tat is dumb as hell. It sure isn't useful when we're going to type and Crossmatch them anyway at any healthcare facility. So it comes off as a humble brag about being in combat situations where they "don't". Blech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:41 PM
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This is why I use Boost for reddit. There are no ads. There is no chat, though I can see replies and DMs, not that I get any thank god. The formatting is super customizable and it is a non-intrusive app for me. I also think that linking any identifiable info to reddit, to which the sole appeal is its anonymity, is the height of foolishness. There are no end of social media that are attached to your name and your life. This shouldn't be one of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:30 PM
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I'm just surprised she even turned her head. I certainly wouldn't if someone called out anything but my name. I would assume they were addressing literally anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:20 AM
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Hahaha, this is pretty much exactly what I commented on that post. I'm not into training adults. Been there done that, divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:30 AM
58

That is not subtle. Not only is he literally abandoning her in public places but he's saying it's her fucking fault and he feels disrespected by her being slower. Dude, if you're walking somewhere together and you don't think she can go fast enough, then maybe plan ahead (her walking speed is not a fucking surprise every time you go out!) and help her get the leaving chores done faster instead of waiting by the door acting like she's a burden when she's taking care of your joint animals/responsi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:00 AM
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Yeah, Timon and Pumbaa aren't nearly so cute when they're you're fiancé and his best pal. My best friend got me a job wayyy back and I still give her credit when chatting with mutuals. She is a bomb networker and I am still grateful to her for getting my foot in the Critical Care door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:55 AM
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It's in the top 5 posts on that sub right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:51 AM
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I also love how hard he downplays the fact that she nursed him back to health after a devastating car wreck, prevented his imminent homelessness since he was unable to work, paid for his physical therapy, and generally took care of his ass even when he was noncontributory. ALL OF THAT was just her helping him out a few years ago. Like she loaned him $100 to buy groceries. 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:50 AM
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I love being generous with my loved ones. However, the people with whom I continue to indulge this desire have shown that they will reciprocate. My husband invariably thinks of me when he is out and about and he did a deep dive on etsy to find a piece of custom jewelry for my birthday last year, and even when it isn't big ticket items he shows thoughtfulness. I don't know what the second half of this year's gift is yet because of shipping delays, but I'm excited about it; the first half was an i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:46 AM
120

Oh. My. God. I am dead rn. 💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:09 PM
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Ironic because people like that are sad and inadequate, or they wouldn't need to hurt their sex partners to get off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:48 PM
12

I listen on stitcher and don't seem to get that problem. But I hate Spotify so much because of the ads. I have music streaming with my prime account ad free, no reason to give free revenue to those fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:06 PM
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The flame hair explosions make me so giggly. I love that movie with all my heart. I may have to binge the soundtrack in the morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:35 AM
10

It wasn't sex keeping him going, it was sheer audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 07:52 PM
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Men do this with just about any caregiver/feminine profession: teachers, nurses, etc... You'll find sexy costumes for Halloween, porn, truckloads of innuendo. When was the last time you saw a slutty financial broker costume for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 02:32 AM
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I didn't think of that. I just assumed he was giving the laziest possible answer. Neither interpretation is a good look, so it doesn't change my opinion lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:36 PM
128

If so, he broke the damn sound barrier... what a weird answer to that question. Also, tacos? Lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:53 PM
36

Strange that they think this, when confidence is what enables me to call people out on their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:36 AM
18

Omg the little old guy that Kate Winslet meets in LA.... so cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:10 AM
7

Fucking. What. I've never seen it and that would have me throwing the remote at the wall lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:09 AM
88

"I hate you but want to fuck you. Dating will be in name only and I will only ever move in with you if you do all household chores without speaking to me about it." FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:52 AM
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Very possibly giving him too much credit. I just was pointing out which part of his little monologue takes a running leap off the cliff edge for me. The whole thing is super cringe from someone you don't even know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:08 AM
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Block the cousin? That guy and his family are #notyourproblem anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:45 PM
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"I'm A hErMiT... hur hur. The world at large holds no value for me and I'm not interested in bettering the society of which I am a part, nor am I interested in being a functional adult." It is fine to not want to pay for streaming services, but admitting that you have no interest in participating in the society in which you live is not a good sign, folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:03 PM
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FDS already does do the same, in that there is already a no penis policy in place and the mods already get harassed to no fucking end. But I agree that govt funding/grants will bring more trouble than it is worth to the people in charge here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:07 AM
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You are doubly lucky: once for the coworker who is honest with you (constructively, not destructively) and twice for the fact that you take that honesty and use it as a tool for reflection and improvement. So few people are capable of true insight. I have a coworker whose bf actively impedes her peace and happiness and she bitches about him literally every time she's at work. I'm just sitting there scratching my head asking why she's still dating him and she gets annoyed. Like it's my fault she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:28 PM
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You've verbalized some of my thoughts on the phrase. As far as I know, that was coined by behavioral analysts in attempting to understand rapists' motives, in order to catch them more effectively. I first read it in one of the John Douglas books about the FBI BSU. Their initial studies on the subject were done in the 70s with no focus on victims other than for potential patterns of behavior from the offender. I'm not sure it was ever intended to be a comfort to their victims, and if anyone is tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:42 PM
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I love how he thinks having done stranger's kid is the best we can hope for. Naww, sweetie. The best I can hope for is owning my own craftsman style bungalow and a fat retirement account. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:27 PM
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Also, they say that we're trying to bag a rich man with a baby, but: A) how many truly rich men do they think are wandering the streets just fucking anything that moves? B) this just tells me they've never had sole financial responsibility for a child because child support doesn't pay for all the costs of having one. And C) the physical toll childbearing takes on a body is something they would contemplate with utter horror if they had to do it. Lolllllllllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:24 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:58 PM
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The only issue with that response is that (as in her story above) he might already have cables attached to his car. Do not give out reasons they can argue with. Just "no, you need to ask someone else" and be on your way quickly. Or even better "let me get my car" and jump in and fucking leave. It doesn't give him an opportunity to argue or threaten your safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:46 PM
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The first thing that popped into my head was that flashback scene in AHS season 1 (I think) where a guy showed up at the door of the house (being used as a dorm for student nurses) with blood on his face. The girl lets him in and starts cleaning off the blood and she says "I can't find any injury" and he murders them all. This scenario is so likely that it has become a trope. Do not help strange men. Call emergency services if you think they need help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:40 PM
10

Haaaaahahahhaha yeah. It's because it's hard to find the end in the dark if it's dangling behind the roll (night shifter, my house is always dark).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 01:48 AM
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I feel quite strongly about the proper way to thread a tp roll, but I'm not arguing with strangers about it. Jesus that man is a loony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:48 AM
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I am here for this shit. I love Sandy. Bonus: she's from Texas and loves it, but got the fuck out to pursue her dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:30 AM
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If the sleeping situation is that bad, and you guys have a court ordered visitation, you may want to see about asking for a revision based on his lack of accomodation. I've seen custody arrangements that require the non custodial parent to have actual bedrooms for each child, depending on their age and sex. Not telling you what you should do, obviously I don't know your full situation, just pointing out that forcing him to get a larger place may be an option for your kids' comfort and well being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:24 AM
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Absolutely! I do forward quite a few of the level up and vetting posts to my daughter, who isn't dating yet but probably will start exploring herself and her needs soon. You ladies always verbalize things better than I can. I'm way too snarky and salty some days for my message to be effective. So I appreciate you all for the great content that benefits us. It's free therapy in addition to the stuff I pay for lol Also, I saw your username before I read the post and it almost derailed me, I laughe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:15 AM
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I love everything about this post. It is clear, concise and above all emotionally intelligent. If I didn't have a deep aversion to funding reddit as a company I would award the hell out of it. Just know that I am bookmarking it and passing it around to every woman and girl I think needs to hear it. Starting with my 17 year old. Thank you for writing and sharing this. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:52 AM
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At least she's probably not trying to recruit you for a fucking MLM lol 😉 Don't be too sure. The very first dinner invite I received when newly married in my 20s was from the lovely couple next door. They tried to sell us fucking Amway as soon as we stepped in the door. And people wonder why I'm antisocial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:42 PM
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Your gut knew. All of that bothered you. You just couldn't put your finger on it. Trust your gut. It knows more than your head, and hasn't been brainwashed by social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:50 PM
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You feel that way because it was all fake. He was never your friend, he was an orbiter waiting for you to let down your boundaries long enough to let him get back into your pants. You broke up for a reason and frankly I'm of the opinion that you should have cut him off and blocked after the first time he asked you back out and you said no. That was your sign he wasn't your friend. Letting that drag on for years was a drain on your energy. Learn the freedom of a swift end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:54 AM
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I never thought I'd be thankful for the amount of zen I've gained from ignoring travel nursing recruiters.... I am fully capable of ignoring that too! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:34 PM
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Joke would be on him: I don't answer any number I don't recognize. The fuck is this lame shit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:17 PM
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Not really, it would put pressure on the area. We usually address the problem at the source by diuresing them (making them pee out extra fluids) if we can. It can be a complicated problem when they're in ICU. The slings work really nicely as an interim solution, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:13 AM
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I'll be real, I was thinking scrotal edema. I get tons of fluid overloaded patients whose sacs look like water balloons. It is horribly painful looking, but they're usually intubated and sedated. We make a little sling from a folded pillowcase to support them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:22 AM
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I was gonna say, this is the dumbest neg ever. They are all trying to get access to your butthole and they damn know it! That makes this a feature, not a bug. They may now therefore shut their fucking cake holes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:00 AM
20

Under other red flag/trigger phrases: "Are you open minded?" I just told someone earlier today that no one who asks that question has good intentions, ever. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:49 AM
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I honestly couldn't tell you. I was too mesmerized by the weird bald spots in the scruff he probably calls a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:03 AM
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And she has to be 18-26, so 12 to 20 years his junior. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:40 AM
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I sincerely doubt this man understands any form of women's sizing. And making a shoe size request? I want to laugh but it's just depressing how stupid people are. Regardless, idiocy like this just makes them easier to weed out. Assuming anyone is still optimistic enough to use dating apps, bless their hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:39 AM
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My best friend's husband is a lawyer. He is unfailingly kind, which honestly surprised me at first. He went out of his way to lift up a mutual friend of ours, female lawyer, professionally when she was hating her job. More recently, this month he is taking the time to secretly invite all his wife's friends for a surprise birthday party, and he does all the cooking for these events (he actually preps the meat himself for the grill and he is good at it - none of this "hey I invited people so you g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:44 PM
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So ask the men realize this when they get old False. Most of them never realize it, or at least never acknowledge it. I agree with the other comment about him virtue signaling. Great buddy, you're now putting in a few weeks or months of effort compared to herthirty goddamn years. You'll be dead before you can make the effort she has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:21 PM
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Hahaha I taught all my kids how to do the fitted sheet fold. Its all about tucking the corners into each other first. My mother refused to cave to teenaged weaponized incompetence, so she had me learn it, and all our bed sets were folded and tucked together (pillow cases and fitted sheet tucked inside flat sheet) for easy finding. We still do it that way so I don't have to dig in the closet for the matching pillow cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:16 PM
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"Provide us with scholarly research that backs our position, but without the benefit of receiving a full salary for the time you'll be working. Here's a couple grand, now fuck off."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:51 PM
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I cannot for the life of me remember where I read it (but I'm leaning strongly toward Miss Manners). "There is a very good reason why guests in the receiving line at a wedding reception traditionally said 'Congratulations' to the groom, and 'Best wishes' to the bride." They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:10 PM
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I was gonna say, a light breeze can crush him. My ex-husband was 6'2" and 155 and he was skinny as fuck. I'm not sure how this guy is standing upright
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:00 PM
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I had a dearly beloved teacher in high school (religious boarding school, but chill) who had her "gentleman caller" and all of us (teenaged) girls at the school thought it was the most adorable thing ever. I vote we all adopt this (as well as "Lady caller" for women dating women) for general usage until engagement, at which time they may be called your "affianced" or if you wanna get fancy "affiancé" (or affiancée for those who date ladies). As an added bonus, it does not imply any sort of exclu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:57 PM
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Holy shit this is some kick ass research. Still obviously in developmental stages, but so, so cool. Thanks for giving me a fun science factoid today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:30 AM
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Noooòoooooo 😭 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:26 AM
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Fair enough. Maybe he was. He only made himself a laughingstock and an object of pity. Mad skills gone to waste, if so. <#notmyproblem>
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:15 AM
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His face during that whole ordeal has become a fucking meme, ffs. He looked so utterly defeated and crushed. How could anyone think that's okay or reasonable? If she looked like that, he would get ripped apart and rightfully so. But because he put up with it, they both get kudos? Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:36 AM
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Um, 12 hours later, she was still trying to slog through that unabomber bullshit. Give her some time! (to block and delete...) 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:32 AM
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They don't listen bc they know he's full of shit and doesn't believe his own shit. See the comments above about how he's a pos who assaulted his gf and supposedly pimped her out. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:28 AM
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Don't worry. I'm sure he put it on their joint credit card which she'll have to pay for when he quits his job to "find himself".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:07 AM
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Grannies are women who have lived long enough to verbalize what your gut is telling you every day. If something makes you feel apprehensive, uneasy, or offended, LISTEN. If someone does something that unsettles you, don't wait for your brain to catch up. You have millenia of evolved instincts screaming for you to survive. How's that for biology?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:48 PM
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Is that the one at the Harry Styles concert? Girl, I know you just moved in together but fucking dump him and run off to live your best life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:11 AM
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That sounds like such an exciting weekend! I'm glad you were able to occupy your time with such interesting outings, and fill your mind with something other than a loser who hurt you. We are all cheering you on from the sidelines! Keep the magic going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:01 PM
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Ladies. I am begging you. Stop accepting drink dates. They are solely to lower your inhibitions and get in your pants with a minimum of time and cash invested. If you plan to give that to them, what on earth are you doing in FDS? Insert Cher slapping Nic Cage and screaming "Snap out of it!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 07:46 AM
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My husband and I hold hands when we go places together. We both just enjoy the non-sexual comfort of feeling each other's presence in a physical way. When we sit on the couch, I'll usually have my feet in his lap while he works on something or watches a show, or while we have a conversation. On rare occasions he plays with my hair, which cracks me up because while I enjoy it, he almost always gets knots in it and it baffles him. Sex is not a love language. It is fun, and amazing, and enjoyable w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:57 AM
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Lol I suspect that's just because he's Evans. Even ridiculously overdone he's really good looking and talented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:13 PM
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I clicked on it because I was like "yes, yes we know.....oooh, are those peonies??" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:11 PM
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Orrr don't share your medical history until they've shown they can be trusted with your choices?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:03 PM
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Ehh, someone who has newly discovered this sub might fall into the pickme trap of teaching a man, but I doubt someone would both fall for that conversation bait and also hold firm to date payment boundary. Honestly, even if it's real, why take it to the internet? Just move on if they're not right for you. He just wants some shoulder slapping because she wouldn't fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:12 PM
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The notable one for me is Episcopalian, very chill sect overall. I was very loosely raised in it, and my grandparents literally built the church they attended many years ago before they both passed. My school was an Episcopalian school, which had two women chaplains and one man. My grandmother's pastor's son was openly gay and living at home with his parents in the late 90s. You get the idea. I still would avoid men who attended that church. They were pretty socially stunted, it was weird. And S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:15 AM
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I just had a bit of back and forth last weekend in the nursing sub with some uneducated dingleberry (clearly not a nurse - Don't get me started on the influx of non-professionals giving opinions in that sub. /sigh But I digress.). She asked why having an unvaxxed BF would be grounds for dumping. And got triggered when I asked why anyone would want to date, much less marry or reproduce with, someone who is socially irresponsible right off the bat. Told me I was judgmental and rude. Girl, you came…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:43 AM
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He went full Syndrome. Never go full Syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:33 AM
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Let's call it what it is. "View co-host admits her husband is such a lackluster shit-heel of a parent she has to bribe him with pussy to get him to do basic parenting chores." I'm not sure how she didn't spontaneously combust with shame, saying that shit out loud on TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:21 PM
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But not once have I ever heard a person say, “Guys, don’t expect women to respect you if you don’t respect yourselves.” This pisses me off to no fucking end. They could have left this phrase out for several reasons: 1) People DO say it, but it doesn't mean the same thing as the reverse. When women ask men to respect us, we mean basic human courtesy and respect for our autonomy and choices. Whereas men understand respect to mean bowing to their superiority and entitlement to women's bodies. This …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:03 PM
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It isn't worse than any other religion which prohibits women from leadership positions. They are simply placing a disclaimer that men who dress like that often subscribe to certain sets of values which do not benefit women. Just because one sect of Christianity allows women to hold leadership positions does not mean that we shouldn't remain wary of people who are very religious, and vet for misogynistic views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:49 PM
224

Rofl you have no idea. I used to sub to Just No MIL, and they call it Devil Vagina Magic. It ain't just men who think this, but pickme women of all ages too. "She seduced him with her pussy!" Welp, I'm sorry he's so weak willed, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:49 PM
18

Congratudolences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:11 AM
43

God, I hated the original SO MUCH because it was a total ear worm and the lyrics were awful and gross. This one is SO CUTE and her voice is just perfect. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 11:55 PM
9

I don't have much to contribute to the above comment (she put it perfectly, as far as I'm concerned), but I wanted to tell you I appreciate reading your comments too (and many others in the threads about WOC experiences). It gives me insight I wouldn't have otherwise, and gives me a chance to look for ways to be helpful when and where I can. Thank you so much. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 05:25 AM
2

You know that feeling when you see something that makes you so mad your head automatically goes backward on your neck? Yeah, that feeling right now. I wish I could have you over for a cup of tea so we could bitch about the world. It is all such bullshit. You are amazing, and I wish I could know you better. I envy your strength, but I am sad for how you got here. I hope some day FDS is able to have a meet up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:40 PM
5

It is really impressive that people can be this willfully ignorant when we literally have a news feed in our pockets. I actually had a grown man tell me he wasn't sure systemic racism was as bad as it was made out to be last year. After I finished picking my jaw up off the floor, I asked him how many times he had been pulled over for a traffic stop with his family in the car and feared for his life. He shut up real damn fast. I am so damn tired of people, and I cannot even fathom how you feel at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 06:38 PM
14

Yes, my diagnosis is you're undateable. BLOCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:40 PM
13

Whoever sent those DMs has some fucking nerve. It took me a solid 5 minutes reading your post to understand that they were insinuating if Gabbi had been POC, she'd have been arrested and 'safe' in jail? What the actual fuck. I'm white, and it took a large portion of my life to understand even a fraction of the difficulty that POC go through every single day, much less women of color. To even imagine that arrest and jail would improve that situation is ... boggling the mind. I am so sorry that yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:09 PM
32

They completely reworked her personality between the original movie and all the tinkerbell fairy movies. She turned into the sweetest little helpy helperton who loved all her fairy brethren and sistren. Don't ask how I know this, there's not a lot on TV at night. 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:55 AM
87

I was gonna say, I dated a really nice boy in high school. It didn't work out because I moved countries, and we're still Facebook-level friends. He genuinely seems like a high value person these days, but I'm okay with how my life worked out. I still think about him now and then and hope he's finally found someone good for him, but my life is too full to care beyond that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:01 PM
24

My polish church-going Babcia used to tell me stories of Dachau. I really don't look like I'd have had family in a camp. That shit is not funny, and they need to wake the fuck up. I honestly don't understand how someone can look at the horrors inflicted and think it a great opportunity for levity. Or even to deny it ever happened. It is heartbreaking how many people are raised with no empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:53 PM
10

Yeah, it did give that impression. Foolish, expensive mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:01 AM
195

Holy shit. I trust my husband implicitly, and he has no need to have access to my accounts. We have a joint account for bill paying, and we can transfer any amount we want instantly. What I want to know is how he accessed her account. Did he wire it to his brother? I'm so confused at how he managed it if his name wasn't on it. Also, that is some divorce material. I've said this before: it's not the size of the lie, it's the fact of the lie. He had zero problems stealing and lying. I would report…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:39 PM
82

I find it interesting that anyone would use "my body, my choice" as a rebuttal for rejection on the basis of not getting sterilized. Of course it's their choice, just as it is yours to weed them out on the basis of their behavior and lack of action. Clearly their goals do not align with yours and they should respect your choice to go separate ways. I'm not CF (anyone who skims my comments would know this) but I absolutely respect people's life choices. This argument still would baffle me, if I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:41 PM
35

They were still selling boot cut this whole time. I've never bought anything else. Skinny jeans on me are a disaster, but a solid boot cut with a nice blouse? Fuck yeah. Timeless, and I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:25 PM
78

What fancy parts do you live in? It's a dollar everywhere I've been 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 12:52 PM
14

Hmm. I was looking at them minutes before replying to you and they were definitely not positive lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:52 AM
22

If you scroll to the end of the article there is a sneaky link right above the "reactions".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:08 AM
3

There is also the perspective that a family associated with your birth name holds bad memories, or abuse. My father was an asshole and my maiden name was a pain in the ass for various reasons. I happily took my husband's name when I got married because it made my life easier and I didn't care about family history. Was my choice wrong simply because it was different from someone else's experience?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:53 PM
15

Protip: you can pull up her page in your browser and just watch from there. If you're on Android, long tap and select "open in external app", then edit the address to just her main page (@masononthemic) and you'll be able to watch them all without having the tiktok app. I refuse to have it either. But goddamn if FDS ladies don't post the funniest shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:31 AM
76

So my daughter is a teen, and old enough for me to share some of the content from FDS. I told her she should sub to FDS, and she pulled up reddit on her phone and gave me a funny look and showed me her screen. That sub had come up but not FDS, and I was a little horrified thinking something had happened until I realized it was September 1st and the sub was private for clean-up. PHEW. I told her to wait a couple days and then sub. And to avoid that troll sub like the plague. But even she knew off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:23 AM
15

I agree wholeheartedly with your explanation and reasoning. I just thought I'd throw another perspective on "partners". My understanding of that descriptor is that it was a throwback to a time not that long ago when same sex couples couldn't define themselves as a committed couple legally or socially in the same ways that hetero couples could. I wouldn't use the term to define my own relationship for the reasons you've laid out, but I feel a bit more tolerant toward others using it, given the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 10:42 PM
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I think you give the vast majority of them way too much credit. The ones who manage to put on a façade will let it drop after a while, which is why FDS advocates against casual sex. So it's probably moot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:54 AM
46

"Yes you can, but I'm not obliged to listen. Freedom! Bye, asshole."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:15 AM
246

If these hotels have had such a fucking issue with predatory men that they banned singles, maybe the problem is being appropriately addressed. Think of the bad actions that men get away with, now imagine how bad it would have to be to get this reaction from businesses trying to make money. 🧐 But no, it must be because men are unfairly punished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:17 PM
34

I wish I could be shocked by this behavior, but I've seen the men who just killed their whole families to perform the scrub, so yeah.... thank goodness it was just Instagram instead of John List-style purging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:57 AM
4

I love her for using it, and YOU for noticing. 💕 Also, I'd be happy to take you on a friends date, I suspect we would get along famously!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:49 PM
80

Literally just saw a post on the aged like milk sub of him tweeting a year and a half ago that his "greatest fear" was being without Anna.... I didn't even know who any of these people were last week. I don't even know what to do with this information, but I do know he's a jackass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:45 PM
14

I just saw an FDS post on what I thought was a sub run by gay folks, and I was surprised to see them calling this sub femcels. I was reading their comments wondering why the fuck they care, and if they care enough to read the posts, why not the handbook, and do they have basic reading comprehension? I am still a bit confused by that whole moment right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:50 AM
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you are filling our hearts with vicious hatred Oh, boo.... you can't fill something that's already full. Judging by the imagery he had ready to roll, he's been daydreaming about slaughtering women since looooooong before FDS existed. Mods, Send that one to the FBI, seriously. He has very precise, clearly defined fantasies that he will enact if he has half a chance (if he hasn't already).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:07 PM
163

Seconded on the "bitch" insults. Never. My husband would carve out his own tongue before he would say that about me or any other woman. My ex called me that once and I told him if I ever heard him call me that again he would be single so fast his head would spin. I should have just dumped him then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:27 AM
52

Did you go to college? Vocational school? The money you paid there was to get you ahead in your career. The money we sacrificed to the idiots we left behind is tuition that may save your life. And it is definitely saving time now that you can immediately cull the prospects instead of wasting your resources (time, energy, money, love) on them ever again. Also, I let it go. It is no longer on my balance sheets. Neither are those men. Buhbye. I've got bigger fish to fry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:27 AM
20

and also buy her a huge mansion Damn right! She sure as hell isn't living in the house where she was literally tortured in the salon. Draco always makes me a little sad like all children raised to bigotry who realize that it is evil as they grow up. I wish we could have gotten a real redemption arc for him, but there's only so much ground one can cover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:58 PM
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I think it's all relative. 3 years is normal as an adult. As children, when he is about to graduate the only formal schooling offered and literally is already a world famous athlete, the power imbalance is clear. I wouldn't necessarily object depending on the two individuals but yeah, that's a recipe for disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:12 AM
59

As much as I liked her turning everyone green with that date, Viktor was never compatible with her. Nice guy, but what would they talk about? Quidditch? She hated quidditch. But Ron... ugh. Lazy little git. If my daughter tried to date someone whose first interaction with her was to make her cry? And almost get killed by a troll? Fuck that kid. I'd bury him, wizard or no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:07 AM
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I also like the detail of her losing her background paint at the end, freeing herself from the pattern and leaving him locked in it. Byeeeeeee. I had never really listened to this song before today, just heard it on the radio in passing etc... The details are really well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 08:00 PM
5

A Purrito, if you will. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:12 AM
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"Secret poly relatuonship"??? The word he's looking for is cheating. He wants to cheat on his gf with her sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:49 PM
73

I agree with not dating unless you have the resources to exit a situation. A possible tip for young women who find themselves in a similar situation stuck in a car with a man refusing to let them out: call the police (assuming you are in a country where they will respond to a distress call). Tell him you are calling the cops, and then do it. Not letting you out of his car is kidnapping, and he should be embarrassed and scared of having the police called on him. Even if he is not, they can pull h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:53 PM
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And no one is mentioning the basement ceiling. Notice how he pointed up when talking about his mom? That's because she's upstairs in the actual house, while he's crashing on the (floral sheet-covered) couch in her finished basement. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:47 PM
3

at least I didn't end up wasting my time and money Girl. Let me stop you right there. 🤚🏻 This man wasted a whole fucking lot of your time. And THIS is why we give red flags to vet before meeting. This isn't even a "trust your gut" moment; this was you blowing through 5 red flags for him to tell you he is antivax and attempt to negotiate (fuck you autocorrect) you into fucking his ass. NOOOOOOOOOO. I was internally shrieking before you walked across the mall to pick his dumbfuck ass up. 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:16 PM
41

"How's this for a pick up line: get out." What a dickcheese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:38 AM
5

Ummm, what? Like an electric shock? Or is there some disgusting other meaning to this that I've missed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:36 AM
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That was my reaction too. Oh look, someone who geeeeettttssss.....iiiiiittttt.... nope. Fuck right off with that energy leeching bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:53 PM
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I saw this one last week, and someone in that thread had linked to a girl who puts creepy messages to music. It was fucking hilarious. This guy needs some damn help, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:48 PM
14

But sex work is empowering! Right, men? RIGHT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:56 PM
131

I agree with everything you said here. I do find the (probably subconscious) phrasing of "her kids" sadly ironic. They were never her kids to begin with, and he forced both a bond and an antagonism between her and his kids that messed with their heads for a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:42 AM
29

Not to mention that there are many careers that pay insanely well that do not actually involve a college degree. There are jobs that only require votech school, apprenticeship, certification (which admittedly are time commitments too, but much less costly) and that pay in the 6 figures annually, many with opportunities for self employment, or advancement. Not doing anything with your life is a conscious choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:07 AM
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I came to say this. They are right, for the wrong reasons. Any man who subscribes to dumb bullshit like this is not appropriate as a life partner anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:37 AM
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My husband and I play tabletop/board games with our kids and our social circle all the time, and enjoy them immensely. I would never do that while getting to know someone. It is distracting and conversation tends to focus on the game rather than people's personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:05 AM
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Forget outside people who have no boundaries of their own. What does your gut tell you? Even aside from the redpill tiktok, he follows accounts that are sketchy. Also, I highly recommend vetting your friend group too, because if your gut tells you to pull away from a man why are they shoving you back? They've got no skin in this game other than supporting you, but that isn't supportive. Bad behavior is bad behavior, and nothing you say or do is going to make other people change theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:14 AM
2

I thought witness tampering was a crime? Or does it not count if the trial is over? I would love to hear one of our lady lawyers weigh in on this, if someone has relevant experience or knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 01:09 AM
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Nah. This is how we weed them out, ladies. This guy should be featured on Self-aware Wolves. He's so close, but he will not be changing his ways without a serious fire under his ass, and that isn't it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:32 PM
16

Precisely this. I make dark jokes about shared (ICU) work experiences with my girlfriends. Not a single one of my jokes is racist or sexist because that shit isn't funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:15 PM
28

Brigading is a huge no no, both for reddit as a whole and specifically for FDS, since this sub must absolutely keep its nose clean in order to not get banned. If any of those dudes got a whiff that we might partake in bad behavior, they'd report so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:14 AM
57

No, he looks like rolled out of bed a week ago and hasn't groomed himself since. Christ everything about his head screams "Danger!" And is that a tattoo between his eyebrows or just a trick of the light??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:09 AM
95

If she didn't catch on in 25 years, I'm not sure what he had to be worried about....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:01 PM
19

You just reminded me of an old SyFy movie called The Librarian (with Noah Wyle... there's a name I haven't seen in 15 years) where they kicked him out of university because he had taken all the degrees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:33 PM
166

And if I am? It's still not your privilege to see it, or to try and fix me. Begone dudebro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:52 PM
97

Don't send nudes to dudes FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:50 PM
10

He had a voice inside him telling him to kill her... and he kept going until he came. If that doesn't tell her that he gets off to the thought of her death, I'm not sure she's not already brain dead. Some days I just don't know what to even think anymore. Society has brainwashed women so effectively to submit to male desire that she literally has no instincts for self preservation. What. The fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:55 PM
14

Jotting down the title for my reading list....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:30 PM
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The one variable he didn't check for result variation? OBESITYYYYYYY. Bet a dollar the OP is obese as hell and skewing the results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:43 AM
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I just want dude #2 to address the "missing missing reasons" in his reply: why is he single if he was utterly faithful for 10 years and his wife is the end all be all in his memory? What broke them up?? If he was such a loving husband who wasn't interested in actually banging all those women he ogled, why did she leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:47 PM
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What the fuck? I'm an RN and my husband has always busted ass working. He put me through school. Every time I see women posting about working all day and coming home just to do the entire household list of chores while the husband "babysits" or play COD all damn day, I want to throw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:45 AM
23

about a week in I was like, ‘uh oh, I feel something'," Sir, that is your penis. Tell it to sit TF down and leave girls young enough to be your daughter alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:16 AM
38

Funny old story: My ex was nice enough but a tiny bit spineless and hated confrontation of any sort, even a conversation about issues that needed to be addressed and corrected. I came home from work one day (he was in between jobs so I was supporting the household. Doable, but tight) and found some new clothes and shoes laid on our bed, with tags still attached. The receipt was on the bed with the clothes, dated that day. It wasn't that much money, and he wasn't a huge shopper so one new outfit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:32 AM
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lots of men hate "gold diggers" yet detest a career woman. Makes no sense to me. Here's a hint: they want their women helpless, not demanding (equality, respect, love, etc...). Once you know this, it all falls into place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:55 PM
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Not only did they not explain, but it was associated with The Rules, which ....hmm... not a lot of people respect anymore. Hence my wish for a better explanation on the author's part. Otherwise the article is pretty damn fair, so I'm trying not to quibble. It hurts because I'm lowering my standards due to all the shitty articles FDS has been featured in lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:10 AM
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It sounds a lot like you're putting words in my mouth. If you want to date people who cannot be effective and equal partners, I have to ask what you're doing on FDS. If that is going to be your choice, why would you seek advice on a sub that advocates for maximum female benefit? I never spoke of physical disability, because that was never the issue at hand. Feel free to make a post discussing it and I may or may not participate. You are bringing up things not in the original discussion and I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:07 AM
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I do wish they had elaborated on why those are good strategies for self preservation and the protection of women everywhere, despite being correlated to social conservatism. Just believing porn and casual sex are harmful does not make a woman conservative; in fact in today's western culture it seems to make us radical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:36 AM
14

He didn't have any issues telling his date that there was a problem. If communicating is such a difficult thing then he does need to work (further?) on that issue before tackling the dating world. This is not a harsh viewpoint. If he wants to be someone's partner, he needs to be functional to a minimal degree, which he clearly is not (or claiming to not be, I'm not here to diagnose). Whether it is real or feigned in this instance is irrelevant, since he did put the onus on her to perform a task …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:13 AM
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Oh? Does Walmart open its employees up to sexual and physical assault (up to and including murder) at a much higher rate than any other profession, risk of STDs, require regular GYN exams (where prostitution is legal and regulated)? Can you list your OF as experience in running a business or customer service when searching for a different job? When a retail employee is murdered, do law enforcement officers shrug it off as a risk of the job? Are people trafficked around the world to fill retail p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:13 AM
6

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:58 PM
13

Fucking OOF. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:22 PM
7

I would also be interested in the page, if you don't mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:20 PM
32

Haaaaahahaha I was feeling like a hermit because I don't really leave the house on my days off except for vital errands. This made me feel a tiny bit better. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:17 PM
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Having the social anxiety doesn't make him a bad person. Pushing the burden of his issues onto a virtual stranger without ever addressing his issues in order to fix them so he can functional an adult in society is, however, a dick move. It shows he is incapable of being an equal partner in any relationship in this condition. I just came from a post on weaponized incompetence, and this seems to be its ultimate form, where any woman in the vicinity has to do the most basic social task for him. I h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:14 PM
270

Forget the penis. I'm not sure how managed to walk into the restaurant without a spine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:06 PM
3

I read your comment and lol'd: I'm living in a shoet term apartment with rented furniture and everything I take with me has to fit in my car for traveling. Even I have throw pillows on the rented couch for pops of color. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:18 PM
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In my opinion, the above example crosses over into HV territory because A) he performs adult tasks without thinking it extraordinary, which is baseline adult behavior and B) teaches by example that such behavior should be expected. It is not the end-all be-all of HV, but it is one of many traits to look for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:59 AM
141

no way our member would us the same username for her Instagram and FDS accounts. Right? Even before I joined FDS, I knew better than to have the same username on anonymous social media and ones linked to my real life, and I don't say anything here I'm not prepared to say in public anyway. But people on reddit are fucked up in the head sometimes and I don't have to make it easier to doxx me. This platform is the ONLY one where I have this username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:41 PM
50

Does that man hold down a job? She should show this fucking tiktok to his boss. I guarantee he never needed a damn hungry hungry caterpillar picture book to shop when he was single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:32 PM
233

I saw that one yesterday and the top comment was gold: "She apologized and you said it wasn't enough She just returned the courtesy." Daaaaaaaamn, someone get the aloe for this chump 😂 They just set him on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:11 PM
31

I had to open the link just to see what caused this reaction. Utterly justified. What in the absolute dumbfuckery is wrong with that woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:23 PM
43

My only complaint here is how long she entertained his shit. First clue was snapchat. Her amusement would be great if she wasn't indulging him every step of the way. He's still garnering her attention. SIGH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:57 AM
47

AA, nothing... mine is usb rechargeable, the way of the future. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:13 AM
148

If he thinks posting the chores on the fridge is demeaning , wait til she shuts off his internet! 😂 She is dragging a dead weight around, who is refusing to get a productive job or contribute around the house. Fuck that guy and the PS4 he rode in on. But dumping him is out of line advice? GAH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:09 AM
97

Lol same. My husband occasionally catches me reading this sub and shaking my damn head and he just goes "more fucking field dates? Losers." 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:58 PM
61

Not would... they DO hate it. You know how men make homophobic comments about gay men hitting on them? That is men being upset at the possibility of being treated like women are treated every fucking day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:28 PM
12

Visions of the English Patient right now.... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:52 AM
8

Fucking. Wat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:36 AM
70

I fucking lost it at "nurse with perfect lips". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:49 PM
27

From a legal standpoint (my personal opinion notwithstanding) they cannot lay charges if it hasn't even been classified as foul play yet. I get the frustration, but there is a process. That said, we all know how this is going to end. They won't test for drugs like rohypnol, and if he just brute force intimidated her and stole her water while abandoning her on a strange mountain in 105 temps, they won't be able to prove it. I suspect the best possible outcome is her family suing him in civil cour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:24 PM
30

Hiking dates are infinitely worse than coffee dates. Coffee dates at least take place in a populated, well lit area. NOT that I am in favor of them, but you're slightly less likely to be murdered by some random asshole at a cafe. Slightly. Putting yourself in a situation where you are at the mercy of both a strange man and the weather is a hard fucking pass. I almost qualified that sentence "without preparation" and reconsidered because I do not advocate that situation under any circumstances, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:19 PM
105

Oooohhhh, new vetting strategy! ANYONE WHOSE MOTHER HAS THIS SIGN CAN IMMEDIATELY BE DUMPED. They will invariably be more trouble than any relationship is worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:50 PM
24

When I read the part about Jim wearing scrubs outside of work my whole face curled back involuntarily. I work in scrubs and I would NEVER. It's not that they get visibly soiled, and I work on a "clean" (read COVID negative) unit, but lord NO. Just fucking no. I had a coworker (so LVM it hurt to even talk to him) who would change out of his scrubs at work and disinfect his shoes. We all assumed he was taking them home in a bag to wash them every night (long before COVID). NOPE. One week I saw him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:58 AM
25

Half of those guys whining about disloyal women will go straight to their mama when they're having problems with their wives and girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:05 AM
31

...he said with a quiet desperate hope....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:48 AM
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Massage? If by this you mean "give instructions on how to act and plan dates for him", then no. FDS is not in favor of doing that, because it simply gives men ammunition on how to get in your pants before letting the mask slip. If they are functional adults looking for a committed relationship, let them show it. Do not tutor prospective suitors on how to achieve their goals, or you will wind up tutoring for the rest of your life, making pictogram grocery lists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:03 PM
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HO HO HO Motherfucker. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:56 AM
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I am dying.... DYING laughing on the toilet right now. Holy shit, I got secondhand exhilaration 20 years after the fact. Good for her, taking all her stuff but not an ounce of shit from that man! Her little smirk at the end!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:35 AM
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There was a post just yesterday or the day before by a man in some confession sub, talking about about how he had been in love with 'the one that got away', had been married to the runner up for fourteen years and was thinking of leaving her for the woman he still loved but who was also in a marriage of her own in another country. They will marry whomever is convenient when the time comes to do so. They don't have to be in love, or even in like with the woman they marry for convenience, she is j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:21 AM
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I read that yesterday, caught my eye because I have friends who still work at hospitals in Vegas. I saw fiancée and thought well his kids aren't her problem, where is mom? And then I read "our babies" like WHAT? Fucking sucker, stuck with his kids and he probably didn't even have life insurance. The husband and I have had coverage ever since we started having children. People baffle me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:24 PM
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In theory they're supposed to relieve you of the grunt work of dating: background checks, etc... In reality, you get shit like everything people are saying here. Nooooope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 07:13 PM
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You're missing two key ingredients: dick and the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:13 PM
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I'm not saying you shouldn't express boundaries (and I agree it should go without saying that once stated they are absolute, no repetition). I'm saying that there are certain baseline behaviors that we as women shouldn't have to set out for the people trying to court us. Sure, it saves you a potential awkward moment at the end of the date, but it also opens the door for them to pander to you and slide in with a pretense they wouldn't have bothered to put up, had you not stated what should be a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 03:46 AM
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I've seen some pretty interesting arguments against stating such a basic expectation as paying for a date. FDS is pretty clear about not teaching men how to act, instead just observing their innate behavior and deciding whether it is in line with how a grown up, functional adult acts. If we start telling men how we expect them to behave, A) they pretend to embody the values they think we want to see just long enough to reel women in, and B) it is a slippery slope to teaching them how we expect d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:44 AM
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Haha, I was about to come down to the comments just from reading the title, to say Red flags ARE deal breakers. This isn't even a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:04 PM
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Ah yes, empathy... that emotion that only women have access to. If only poor men were able to utilize such a tool. 🙄 Such an unfair advantage, to be able to put yourself in someone else's shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:32 AM
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I have a fairly long Facebook friends list, but I'm hardly ever on Facebook. I will add coworkers, travel contacts, people I might want to keep in touch with later via messenger. But I have pretty much zero social media presence. I have never made a Facebook or Instagram post about myself. I think I posted a meme 15 years ago or so, back when Cheeseburger was a relevant website. Facebook basically serves as the contacts list I'm too selective to put into my phone list. Instagram is for me to loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:36 PM
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Let me see if I understand this. he is giving clear indicators that he thinks you are a romantic prospect for himself He is planning to move closer to you he clearly puts zero effort into his appearance and/or making himself an attractive partner You need to tell him clearly that he is not attractive to you, and that you will not be dating or fucking him. Do this BEFORE he moves to you. This is screaming "Danger, Will Robinson!" This man is going to have a severe disappointment in his future and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:40 AM
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You 👏🏻 Already 👏🏻 Know 👏🏻 The Answer!! No, you're not too picky. Yes, he's disgusting. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:45 PM
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This may or may not be helpful for you, but if you don't eat out for whatever reason I'd probably just tell prospective matches that and say you would prefer something different as a first date. No need to indicate what you specifically what. Let them plan from there and decline any forthcoming walk dates from the guys who get all excited that they won't have to pay. Still a reasonably easy vetting strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:14 AM
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This exact situation is what alimony is for. She gave up her best, most productive years to provide him with children and a tidy home, organize his personal life, foregoing her own income. Now he can pay while she finds her own life, and continues to raise the kids without him. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:38 PM
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There are two kinds, in my experience. Those who are dying to get married and move out of the barracks, and those who think that is the worst possible fate. But I've never met one who would go for all the responsibilities of marriage and parenthood with none of the benefits. It's like his head is screwed on backward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:40 PM
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Then they are both dumber than a box of rocks. There is a tangible material benefit to marriage on his part and hers, especially if they have children. He could be getting paid dependent benefits and a housing allowance, but only if they have the marriage paperwork. He is so averse to marrying her he is foregoing potentially thousands of dollars per month on top of paying her bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:25 PM
20

Goddamnit. I sprained my eyebrows at "stay at home dog mom."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:15 PM
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Imagine, if you will, the smell of unwashed ass and ballsack overlaid with a heavy dousing of Axe. Oh, you meant soap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:09 PM
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Exactly. It makes me pretty ragey that there are so many people out there acting like this is a single mom's fault when their sons have guys like this for role models. She needs to let him go his own way. Who wants this guy influencing a boy's behavior? Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:32 AM
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"Single mothers can't or won't offer their sons good male role models!" I cannot side eye this behavior enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:36 AM
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Gosh, doesn't every woman love a man who performs basic tasks and then expects a cookie for it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:00 PM
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And I have to add that babysitting is not representative of full time care. I babysat plenty as a teenager, and still wanted children. It did not prepare me for all the sleepless nights, the expenses of having a child, the deep seated worries that you might actually not be good enough of a parent. And the colic with my daughter.... let's just say I seriously contemplated infanticide for about 5 seconds somewhere in the third week of it. Babysitting is not parenthood (as we can attest every time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:43 AM
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Lord that wasn't me! I saw this on another popular dating sub, and found it to be an.... interesting case study. He calls himself out by saying he went on a "real date" later (spoiler: no he fucking didn't. His hungover ass probably passed on a park bench after she left 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:07 AM
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Okay, for those who have not been around the "Ask__" subreddits, this gets asked weekly if not fucking daily. The answers are always the same. The gaslighting replies to those answers are all the same! The game doesn't change. They know goddamn well why women ghost. They know that women are perpetually in danger when going to meet a stranger, even in a public place. There are fucking internet memes about it. There are hundreds of Ask threads both in Ask Men and Ask Reddit, and hell probably in A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:20 AM
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Amen. I'm so happy you're in a better mental space now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:05 AM
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What in the crackerjack hell? He demanded to see your paychecks? And you weren't even married? Lord give me patience. I'd have laughed in his face. I'm so glad you've outgrown that skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:40 PM
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Or they're looking for someone to fill the bangmaid slot that just opened up. The horror of having to do their own laundry and dishes is overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:51 AM
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It's also a heck of a lot easier to vet before entering a relationship than to realize after the fact that your "partner" sucks and now you have to uproot your life to effect a change. It was hard for me after 7 years of marriage to talk myself into filing. When you're living your best life alone, you look at potentials and vet harder so they don't fuck it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:03 AM
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Mine was much the same way, except I did have to pay the lawyer for the paperwork to speed shit up. I didn't want to have to show up to court. My ex is a nice enough guy, just a useless parent and spouse from my perspective, and a lot of LV traits that he wasn't interested in working on. Byyeeee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:04 PM
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Ah, that's somewhat less irritating then. When I read "left it all to me to handle" I thought that included the payment too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:52 PM
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Then I hate to say it but he didn't initiate anything. He said some words, and you dragged him like a recalcitrant puppy through all the steps. If he didn't even print the paperwork, then the initiation was all you, boo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:31 PM
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I'm not trying to be a downer here, but is he really a great friend? My friends don't dump all the responsibility on my shoulders of planning and carrying out our outings, much less a whole damn divorce. My divorce didn't cost my ex a penny, all he had to do was sign and forget, because I paid for the lawyer fee, the filing, and the notary. If my friend said, let's go to a waterpark! And then left me to pay for the reservation, the meals, the transportation.... I don't consider that a good frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:29 PM
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They're afraid of confrontation with other men. They don't seem to have much issue with imposing themselves all over women and our spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:24 PM
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Hol up. As I see your post, the one directly above it is a link to the Twitter thread. Why can't journalists write their own shit? There's 9 pages of copy paste up in this, and they don't even credit the Twitter authors outside the first tweet. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:40 PM
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The one that stopped me in my tracks was the one where the bf is bragging about giving her double black eyes and his friends made fun of her while she was cooking them dinner. I'm sorry, that was the tip off? Not the fact that he gave you double black eyes??? Honey. Sweetheart. Come to my house, there is a place for you to heal. Jesus fucking christ on a pogo. When I get old I'm buying a fucking boarding house. This settles it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:37 PM
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I was gonna say my ring cost significantly more than that, and my husband made quite a bit less when he bought it. He planned and surprised me, and didn't even bring up the cost until we had to list it on insurance so I got an estimate on it. It's bonkers what these men balk at for the supposed love of their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:43 PM
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I'm envisioning some Harry Potter shit right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:40 PM
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Holy Jesus, those comments. I think those men have comprehension issues when they don't get that "going their own way" means they actually are supposed to leave women alone, not crawl up their asses like a dog begging for attention. If you do not crave the presence of women, you do not spend so much time thinking about them. Get a pocket pussy and vibe out by yourself, if women are so unimportant to your life. Please, actually go your own way. It shouldn't overlap with my path this damn much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:38 PM
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Looks like he was making a squirrel nest out of that mattress. Damn thing was half shredded....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:28 PM
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Nice! Best of luck to you in pursuing your dreams!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:29 AM
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Haha, yes I meant as a travel nurse. This is what I do, and I take 2-3 weeks between assignments and 2-3 months once a year. I say 2 years because no reputable agency will take you as a new grad, but qualified that with the fact that hospital scheduling mitigates it a lot. I feel like the doctor example isn't quite on par, because that is not a job you can get right out of college, it takes 3-8 more years after med school to settle into your chosen field. I was aiming for an example that is easi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:18 PM
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Ah. All the articles I skimmed only had him talking, like the owner was just a prop. And I wouldn't be surprised either, it just seems like such a weird threat from people supposedly outraged over him insulting a woman. I was mostly pondering out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 09:16 PM
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I hate to break it to this guy, but a nursing degree offers all those things PLUS the travel opportunity with only 2 years of experience. And she could still take plenty of vacations those first 2 years due to the way we schedule our floor staff. She could work 6 on, 8 off every 2 weeks and be able to fly anywhere. Also he says he is willing to make sacrifices, but WHAT sacrifices is he willing to make when ever option he lists is a no go? All he says is "I can't". Then don't, motherfucker. Let …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 09:09 PM
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That was the Victorian romance novel lead: they're all dukes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:59 PM
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Is there anything in articles about that, other than what he is claiming? I only see one sentence from him on that, and I am dubious about anything out of his mouth. They quoted a bunch of other replies but not the threats? You'd think that would make for hot news, if they could get any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:57 PM
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Google will absolutely remove bad reviews. They've done it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:50 PM
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More importantly, no matter on the internet is relevant to your life. If they call you a hideous cow, who cares? These are not the men you're looking for. Whether they are ugly, bald and fat, or handsome and cut, their attitude is ugly and that is more than enough to tell you he isn't worth having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:29 PM
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Send help. I rolled my eyes and they finally got stuck like that. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:37 AM
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Dingdingding. My ex did this when he remarried, made noises about filing for primary custody. I'm sure he thought he could get child support from me too., since I had just started my nursing career and was making twice what he did. I reminded him exactly how many times he bothered calling his own children in the years we'd been divorced and that ended his noises rather abruptly. No judge would award custody to an absentee parent without the availability to even show up for court dates. Eta - onc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:55 AM
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Iirc you can also set it to be during certain hours of the day, too. My husband used to program our router to deny the kids devices on school days (they weren't old enough to need internet for research, but had tablets for fun) and then open it up on weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:38 AM
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As a woman, I'd wonder what the fucking catch was. 😂 It's you. You're the catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:34 AM
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And the battery is not changeable, lasting about 1.5-2 years after which you have a to buy a whole new bracelet for 2/3 of the $130 price tag. That may be a bargain (I don't know, I don't have one bc I'm on android), but I'm a little annoyed by what seems like predatory pricing for a safety device. Why can't it just be sent in for a battery change? Who has permanent batteries anymore? I kind of want to buy one just to take it apart and see how it ticks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:02 AM
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We all know that the guy in the picture isn't riding that bike. But what the fuck is this sockless trend in the last few years? That's just begging for sweaty, fungus feet. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:18 PM
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I asked a pt how tall he was as I was walking him down the hall the first day post op. He goes 5'8"..... as my 5'8" ass is staring at the top of his head. I died internally. He wasn't even trying to impress me, and he couldn't help himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:15 PM
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I honestly believe that for some men, it isn't actually intrusive thoughts. Scaring us is the fantasy. Especially the men in the OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:04 PM
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Right? Cheap pretentious asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:34 PM
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The screenshot in the text was from his credit card, he got airline miles for it. So he's not lying about the cost, just skeevy for picking an expensive place and then asking her for half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:14 PM
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But y'all want men to delete nudes after you break up. Pay that man. This is why you don't send fucking nudes, ladies. They will use that shit to blackmail you or jerk off or get revenge every damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:13 PM
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Haaahahahaha, the fact that you said that is the reason there is no next time. Blooooooock. Manipulation tactics make for shitty partners, and women aren't in this game for sex with disgusting randos who play head games and can't clean a toilet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:07 PM
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And he had the balls to ask this woman, whom he had no intention of tying himself to, to cosign a major fucking loan?? Holy shit what a prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:00 PM
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😂😂😂 A-goddamn-men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:04 AM
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I would recommend working on recognizing boundaries set down by others (often worded as requests or even offhand comments) and respecting them, no matter how small (and sincerely apologizing and correcting when you mess up). Why? Because they're all big deals when accumulated. Because your friends and colleagues deserve better. And because you would be fucking annoyed if people did it repeatedly to you. I've had to work pretty hard on respecting other people's stated boundaries, not least becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:03 AM
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Honestly I wasn't even thinking in terms of a snappy comeback. I was just thinking of a reply that is dignified but shames his behavior, like "what a horrific thing to say. Do you always have filter issues like this?" And then leave, block and delete without waiting for an answer. But like I said, I understand that isn't always safe or possible, so I'm happy she got out quickly at the very least. I wish she had more insight from therapy to know that he is a bigger problem than her BDD, but I'll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:03 AM
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OP escaped something horrific that night. Exactly right. And I really believe that her reply was key, too. She undermined his confidence in his ability to overpower her, even if her comment was sheer bravado. The fact that she came back with that made him wonder and back off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:59 AM
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Oh, as a rider?? I don't know if this confuses me more or less, that he thinks women should care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:57 AM
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I know! I'm a bit saddened by the whole thing. Unsurprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:55 AM
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If he's well educated, why is he supplementing his income with Uber? It's a bit sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:16 AM
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I feel like that's the least of the flags there lol This man has a list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:15 AM
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I am not a biblical person, I haven't actually read it through. I cannot recall a single story from church or Sunday school of a man laying himself down to protect a woman (as a person vs his property). Not one. Admittedly, I stopped going before I hit 20 so I may have missed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:07 AM
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This verbalized something that has bugged me for a while. I've seen some people claim that these are spontaneous intrusive thoughts that just pop out. These are not intrusive thoughts, if they are saying them out loud to scare you. I have intrusive thoughts of bad things happening to my family, my children, my husband. Never once have I had an intrusive thought about personally harming another living being, killing someone, disposing of their body. And I also have never verbalized my thoughts ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:01 AM
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Yeah, Zeus was the OG LVM.... Talk about a shitty role model, fucking everything with tits. And his wife.... do not get me started lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:50 AM
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I really wish that poor woman had had the strength to deliver a scathing set-down to that walking bucket of smegma, but failing that I'm glad she had the presence of mind to just walk away, preserve her safety, and then ghost the shit out of him. What an utterly abominable tactic, and it mystifies me that men think insulting women will endear them to us. I am so happy that women are starting to see through the desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:45 AM
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Pygmalion (the reference they made) was a misogynist who carved his ideal woman out of ivory and then prayed to Aphrodite for a bride just like his statue. She made the statue come alive and Pygmalion married her and they lived happily ever after. I thought that I recalled more to the story, with Galatea (the bride/statue) revolting under his control, but that may be a later reimagining of the story because I cannot find any reference to such in the wiki of the original myth. I can kind of see w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:38 AM
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Wait has he actually proposed? And she accepted after the 13 year dangle?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:17 AM
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Good luck finding another man like me The thing is, you see, good luck would involve.... not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:51 AM
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I'm shocked the deal breakers are in section 3; that should be the title of the whole document.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:15 AM
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😂 Fuckin dead. Hot Gorton Fisherman.... 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:41 PM
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Mmhmm. My first bf was a rugby player. That boy was stacked, and sweet as could be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:41 PM
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Bonus, I didn't see the text at the bottom until after I posted that. "Become super attractive to 10/10 men." Are they implying that these men are 10s on a scale? Or is that meant to be a fraction? Because there are literal holes in bathroom stall walls that are attractive to like 9/10 men. That is a very low bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 09:33 PM
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I was gonna say, those pictures aren't remotely realistic: they're well dressed, well groomed and no one is holding a fucking fish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:55 PM
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I guaranfuckingtee you that Dante had no reference point for that level of hell. And she's locked herself in, too. I cannot even with some people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:58 AM
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I don't know. I unfollowed him. I have no intention of giving him ad revenue, and just looking at his face gives me the heebies now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:43 PM
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And this also raises the question: why are they friends with such awful people?? They know. They just don't think they have to care. The privilege oozes from every pore, that they can be friends with the same shitbags with whom women can't even make eye contact for fear of assault, sexual or otherwise. [Edited bc I hit the button too fast]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:02 AM
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It is always interesting to me when men have this kind of insight. Do they use it to be better, or to pretend to be better? He's not wrong, but neither was Derek Jaxon (among others) and he is a steaming pile of narcissistic shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:02 PM
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Nothing spectacular, just your usual raised without any personal boundaries and socialized to believe any man in my life was the priority. I thankfully learned better and I feel bad for these poor women who still bend over backward for dudes who will never respect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:14 AM
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I may or may not have some experience from both sides of the pickme fence. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:14 AM
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I love how suspiciously specific she got at the end there lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:52 AM
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I think it is! I saw a reference to it in one of the other threads 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:13 AM
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The one behavior that is hitting my radar lately is when they know they're doing something that isn't conducive to a good relationship, tell their woman they don't understand what the problem is and watch her go TF off and then say she's the drama queen. The limit pushing would drive me insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:26 AM
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Lol no, no. They're both valid interpretations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:43 AM
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Or "I'm not in a relationship and have no standards for getting one."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:57 AM
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I saw this post earlier today and all I could think was , just wait til he's shopping for a teenaged second wife. He won't be carefully vetting for someone to be a companion for you; he'll he'll shopping for new meat/an exciting fuck toy to keep at home with his wife's loving compliance. Bless her sweet optimistic heart. I have yet to see a single example of this relationship that has worked out for all parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:55 AM
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I love accounts like this. It has taken me so long to assert my boundaries in a healthy way, I know the internal struggle when you're expecting a fight about it, and the relief when there is just acceptance on the other side. I'm very happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:52 AM
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"You have a two year old? Why aren't you with their mama?" "Drama" Aaaaand I'm stopping the video. There is nothing good about to happen in the next 30 minutes. Incidentally, why does that supercilious rocking back and forth remind me of Bill Cosby? Do a lot of men do that when trying act superior, or is that nervous fidgeting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:33 PM
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Right? I'm not the one trying to get into your pants sir. I don't need to prove anything. Go try that on with someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:25 PM
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Is this not the bird that recently got voted as the national bird of Australia New Zealand? I thought I saw a front page post about it. That may be the saddest bird ever, bonking rocks. Edit - a quick search shows it was bird of the year, not national, and that the elections for this honor are fraught with voter fraud. Why? 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:43 AM
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I mean, FDS doesn't advocate engaging with these idiots. Block and delete. That said, between you me and the lamppost, millions of people voted for Trump.... So thousands of them laughing at me is somewhat less than distressing. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:57 AM
37

To be fair, I'll probably enjoy this woman more than R Kelly 😁 Keep it rolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:17 AM
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And left out about a hundred... but who has time for a 3-day rap song? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:08 AM
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That first one is so well presented! There is something so fine about a well groomed man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:53 PM
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Imagine using a sleeping bag and then having to roll the flaccid empty bag back up to repack it in the sleeve it came in (no pun intended...😂). It's always a fight and never works the way you want it to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:19 PM
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I am so happy to see this! Congratulations on a massive achievement. This is just the beginning of a great life.🎉🎊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 08:09 PM
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She does mention none of his prior investments have shown returns or gains (as evidenced by losses on tax returns). I'm going with a stock market gambling addiction. Thank god for the prenup and she needs to dump his ass before he gets her in a world of debt just by virtue of being married to him when he fell into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:37 PM
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Protip, you can also use a Google voice number for whatsapp. You just follow all the instructions to install Google voice and get a random number assigned, then use that when logging into whatsapp. We do this for our son who has an old cell phone but no sim card. He can still get messages on wifi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:33 PM
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This. I was going to suggest a dead-eye stare until they become uncomfortable and shuffle off to harass someone else, but that does put a damper on the family BBQ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:26 PM
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That makes me so happy that she was fortunate enough to find a man who met her standards at such a young age. I know that most of us aren't so fortunate in the way of knowing our worth. I spent over half my life without any standards to speak of, and it did me no favors. I meant that I wish we were all so blessed with confidence and a sense of self worth at such a young age. It would make such a difference in our world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:31 PM
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I don't want a man feeling like he owes me a damn thing. Don't worry, sweetie. They don't. Ever. What a waste of money, trying to ensure that something that never happens.... never happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:14 PM
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Good for her. With the social conditioning that girls receive, it can be so hard to realize that male attention is just a scam to get laid, especially at 17. We should all have standards that high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:18 PM
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I would really like more info on how the friend behaved all the other times it has happened. If this is repeat behavior on her part when attractive men are rude to her friends, it bears further scrutiny. The first time, I can understand being surprised and initially flattered. The third time, she needs to cut them off at the knees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:04 AM
10

Thank you. That picture gives me the heebies. They all do. All those men with millions of dollars and they walk the carpet looking like reanimated corpses. Was Michael Douglas wearing lipstick and blush over his death mask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:22 PM
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Flush the whole damn server down the toilet, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:11 PM
4

I absolutely loved her in Doctor Who. That whole series was delightful and refreshing on the heels of Martha tragically-in-love-with-emotionally-unavailable-doctor Jones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:29 PM
13

Hmm, I missed that, but didn't watch all the way through. I'm not a fan of the post-pregnancy wedding, since that kinda nailed me with my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:30 PM
18

Oh my goodness, that first split second where she's holding her gown.... I thought she was 8 months pregnant on her wedding day and I was like "HOLD UP". But no. So sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:57 PM
44

Not me, but you got me wheezing at the thought of it. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:55 PM
35

Right? I've had times where I wasn't sure what or when my next meal was gonna be, and I've lived in the suburbs. I can tell ya our little cookie cutter house was paradise for a while. The whole thread is self delusion at its worst. Yak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:50 PM
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She says at the bottom that the script is in the works. This would be blowing my skeptical meter out of the water, if it weren't such a common and gross theme running through people's lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:46 PM
2

I'm glad you avoided that toxicity in the end. Sharing can only help others do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:26 AM
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"It's an easy Google search."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:42 PM
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I suspected as much, especially given the phrase " a quick Google search..." but I do like handing people rope. Also, the one reference about male rats suffering memory loss under physical stresses makes me question why the fuck some research needs to be done. Why is some researcher slapping around rats??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:32 PM
8

ER nurses. I side eye some of the things my coworkers in ER say, and I'm not even on the market. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:07 PM
39

I have literally never even heard that word spoken aloud. What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:04 PM
20

he almost didn't talk to me because I was part of FDS. Block right then and there. The conversation is over if that is truly his thought process. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:44 AM
8

I have noticed that men who tend to write essays or create YouTube videos about how much they hate FDS tend to genuinely believe that they are the kind of men we want to attract in the first place. They do not believe this, and that is the problem as they see it. This is a whole pool of women who are leveling up their lives, and their standards, who will not settle for these men and that makes them hulk levels of angry. When those men claim that we are ugly, or lovers, or undateable, that is wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:43 AM
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I just want to clarify: did you just Google the article title or read it entirely? I haven't had time to do more than skim at this point, but none of the linked tables refer to the specific character traits involved in leadership or confidence, more like sexual/copulation behaviors and sex-linked differences in neuroanatomy and disease progression such as alzheimers and Parkinson diseases. I'll have to give it more of an in depth read later, but I'm not seeing anything specifically relevant to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:38 AM
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I would be very interested in seeing your source for this, from a peer reviewed research article, stating that men are genetically more prone toward overconfidence. I will always welcome new evidence when forming opinions. Key word being "evidence."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:51 PM
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the only advantage that men have over women is the fact that manifestations of hubris — often masked as charisma or charm — are commonly mistaken for leadership potential, and that these occur much more frequently in men than in women. Don't they mean these traits are fostered more in growing boys than in girls, leading to generations of grown men who are less competent than they think they are due to being praised for tying their shoelaces while young girls are criticized from every corner abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:16 PM
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I was going to say, they're all delusional if they think their unwashed, laundry all over the floor, dishes in the sink asses are "out of your league." Aiming for ugly wouldn't help in the slightest. As has been said many times before, that just encourages them to think they can Aimee higher and they will dump you faster than you can say 10/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 06:08 PM
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I wish you the best of luck going forward and finding a way to free yourself with a minimum of fuss. You've got this. We are all here to support you when you need it. 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:56 PM
84

Blinks twice slowly.... Current?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:07 AM
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I love when someone gives a colloquial translation, because I can make the connection in my head. Les hommes ne servent a rien would be the French variant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:54 PM
3

As a night shifter, these are my favorite reminders of what day it is! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:05 PM
24

Cut it off like appendicitis Yes! I like to think of it like necrotic bowel or gangrene. Yes that piece of colon, or your leg, were very an integral part of you but they are poisoning you now. Let it goooooo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 05:43 PM
50

Lollll he was off that plane before me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:53 AM
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I actually sat next to a guy like this on my last flight and I was slightly appalled. The only reason I found out is because he asked the flight attendant to send her a drink in her lowly coach seat 10 rows back. If I were her, I'd have walked up to throw it at his smug fucking face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:53 AM
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If you saw his face (and I have because this same photo has made the rounds for years) you'd know he isn't in his 20s in the pic. He easily looks 40+, so if he was actually 20, he hit the wall at full speed with no helmet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:52 AM
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She has a lot of flaws, and a lot of poor behaviors, but that one piece of advice was fucking gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:28 AM
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One of the best things my mother ever taught me is "it's none of their business". "Who hurt you?" None-ya "Why don't you have time for me, what are you up to?" None-ya "Why can't we just be friends?" Nooooooone-ya No is a full sentence, and we do not owe virtual (or literal) strangers any explanations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:51 AM
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I wouldn't, depending on the number. There are a looooot of men and angry women who trawl through this sub downvoting everything in sight. Posts from FDS are frequently screenshotted with all identifying information and post to several angry subs, leading their members right back to the posts in question for brigading. Almost every week I see a front page post in another sub crapping on fds, but I'm okay with that because it's just more exposure for women who need this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:45 AM
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I liked this post for several reasons: you know your boundaries and assert them you have multiple ways in which you are occupying your time, and in which you are clearly invested last but not least, TIL how much prep is involved in a proper in depth tarot reading! I'm so glad to see you showed him the virtual door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:20 AM
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I'm sure he can't Some of these guys have reached out via snail mail so don't be so sure.... just be undisturbed knowing that he isn't worth your aggravation. Read any communication, print it, save it in a file, and then forget about it. I only say to read it for the sake of making sure there are no overt or covert threats to your safety before saving a record in case you need to provide proof of his crazy later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:34 PM
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Stahhhhhp. Block. And delete. Do not engage in that Low Energy clown show. Your attention is their goal and you are giving it to them for freeeee. Stop it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:54 PM
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Last year I listened more to the Lore podcast; that man has the most soothing voice and the stories are interesting. I also read a few books geared for improving my insight into my own mind and for relaxation The Liberated Mind by Steven Hayes, Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl (fair warning, that one is heartbreaking from the first chapter: he was a concentration camp survivor), Wordsworth's poems, which are so beautiful. Lately, I've been listening to the FDS podcast since it debuted (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:38 AM
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I have actually put my True Crime obsession on an indefinite hiatus because of this issue. I start watching, and 10 minutes in, I'm talking to the TV like my Nana used to: "Girl! WHY? Why are you dating that skeezeball, he's just gonna fuck you and BEST CASE dump you, worst case, knock you up and drain your soul out through your vagina and murder you. STAHHHHP." Last year I realized I was only jacking up my own blood pressure, because those poor women can't be saved, and I already know red flags…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:29 PM
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Girl, I heard a legit record scratch in my head at "I've been on FDS 5 days and I haven't read the handbook..." I had to skim the rest to avert the heart attack 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:01 PM
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This woman brings me so... much... JOY. All of her videos are so sassy and sweet and adorable on every level. The crowns and the tiny blinged mic are just icing on that cake. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:51 PM
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The wall punching was a hard stop. The rest of your interactions were you being wayyyyyy too gracious for words. Any man who shows violence is an automatic block. I'm glad you had the boundaries and confidence to let that relationship go, even if you felt bad afterward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:01 PM
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Every damn week, I see someone (usually guys) posting about how ghosting is rude. It's like they just landed on reddit yesterday, with bright eyes and a bushy tail, full of hope and naiveté, like they've never seen niceguys or redpill or any of the million+ stories of women being raped and stabbed by a rejected tinder date. It's like they haven't seen the previous million posts about how ghosting is rude, which are always full of comments about how ghosting is self preservation for women, and be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:25 PM
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Tell me you told your friend how unprofessional he is, and to not recommend him anymore. The only response I'd have for him would be to ask how that question is relevant to his professional assessment of the home you linked him. And when he has no adequate reply (because there is none) you block and delete his number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:09 PM
50

I have a crippling fear of being gifted a new SUV every 5 years. It brings me to my knees, I tell ya....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:24 PM
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I want to like it so much, but one of my criteria is that I like singing along and I have a hard time with all the songs I've found so far, even though the melodies are catchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:43 PM
17

Fucking truth. I meant that not all fast food is satisfying. Sometimes it's just delayed self-flagellation. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:11 AM
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But at least the food is satisfying. Debatable. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:28 PM
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"he's never gonna be able to empathize with your lived experiences as a woman so just accept it" Goddamn, that sentence went in a totally different direction than I expected it to. I thought she was going to tell you to leave him. Buuuuut no. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:26 PM
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This is heart-rending. I don't understand how nothing is effectively done about this problem. My daughter is turning 17 this summer and I cannot even imagine her sweet little self having a toddler on her hip. ☹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:28 PM
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Snowmen! Jk, stay warm and take care of yourself 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:19 PM
4

Is there a "none of the above" option? Edit - I missed the vanilla one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:48 AM
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I still have moments where I think about things I did 20 years ago and my face puckers a bit and then a wave of relief hits. The nice thing is that we've pretty much all been there as a result of social conditioning, and the fact that you're here (and cringing form self reflection) means you've gotten past the worst part. Now it's just learning from the mistakes, and climbing the self improvement staircase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:42 AM
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This is why I still wear a mask. After a year and a half, I don't trust my facial control in that situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:39 AM
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You may want to separate those with commas for easier searching. If you had them in list form, reddit doesn't recognize single line separations on mobile, it has to be double line spaced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:52 PM
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What possible reason could he have for guessing your age, unless he was trying to neg you or initiate conversation around age and relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:00 PM
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In reality sex is more like sushi: when it's good it's amazing, but when it's bad it's horrifying. Apologies to all you ladies who don't eat fish. Sushi is my holy grail food 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:57 PM
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"There's no equality without respect" Haven't we seen time and time again that men don't respect women who make the first move, no matter how many times they claim it gives them warm fuzziness? Bumble was doomed from the start by male mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:52 AM
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Why does she make me snort-laugh every fucking time?! 😂😂 I love her. I love her (multiple!) crowns. I love her attitude, and she is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:11 PM
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I was 13 the first time a stranger grabbed my ass on my way to school. This phenomenon is not new, that was almost 30 years ago. Men have felt entitled to women's and children's bodies since the dawn of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:05 PM
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"Where do we go from here?" SEPARATE WAYS, WOMAN. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:45 PM
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"DoNt MaKe Me..." 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:33 AM
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Good lord, I can't even name 5 people from my graduating class and I made out with at least that many. I know it is heartbreaking to be treated that way by people who are supposed to have your back. I promise you, this is low-key beneficial to you: imagine staying friends with these people based only on shared history and never realizing that they're juvenile assholes until the stakes are 100 times higher. Be picky as all hell with the people you allow close to you. Make sure they deserve the tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:16 AM
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You can actually watch tiktok on a webbrowser (I do on my phone since I refuse to have that app). Just put the tiktok url with backslash and her handle. It will pull up her channel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:40 PM
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Taking the battery out is a good first step, but I'd have smashed that thing with a hammer and tossed it. As far as I understand they are meant to use nearby phones to allow the owner to triangulate their lost object (honestly, if the owner was stalking her using his tile, he likely already knew where she lived by the time the battery came out - iirc they ping the last known location: her house). I looked into those once upon a time, and the tech was vaguely reminiscent of what Amazon was trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:03 AM
65

The man vaccine is still under development, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:42 AM
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I personally favor the "dead eye smile", when it doesn't even try to come near your eyes. Somewhat like the Wednesday Addams smile, but with less life above the nose. It has an excellent track record of unnerving people, and I love being able to bust it out so it's an all around win. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:52 AM
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Honestly I kind of do too. I'm not in a position to do it now, with young kids still at home. But I'd love to do this some day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:25 PM
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I think this world needs shelters for women like this. I know there are shelters for domestic violence victims, but I want there to be a gentle sanctuary where they can take time to get on their feet. Bring the kids, we'll help you find a job, resources, a new home. Does anyone provide this for women escaping emotional and financial abuse too? I am so sad for this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:47 PM
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I know where you're coming from on this one. We watch the story play out so many times, and even the best case scenario is heartbreaking. Sometimes, I just want to take the tiny victories though. (This may be a run of goddamn tragic stories on my unit coloring my brain today. I am beyond heartbroken about some of the cases I've seen this past few weeks.) I sincerely hope her husband and family continue to be so supportive after deciding to make her this way instead of letting her go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:22 PM
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Based on the thumbnail, if guess they're trying to cash in on the tiny market Share of thirsty women? Reel in some hot dudes with 8 packs, get women to pay for it. But most men with time and money to maintain that level of fitness would consider OF beneath them. As they (and we all!) should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:11 AM
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“Some of you are working to pay bills, I’m just working to enjoy the job and the journey. Whatever happens, happens“ vacant smile Thus speaks a woman who has never been taken to the cleaners, divested of her last dime only to turn to her partner and hear "not my problem, you should have looked out for yourself." Any forever girlfriend who doesn't have her own place and finances is setting herself up to get royally screwed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:15 PM
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I swear, the other women's subs sound more and more like FDS every day, despite how much Reddit as a whole likes to say we're toxic. Hell, they might even become women's subs in truth some day! I have to wonder what the male mods over there are thinking, and if they take down any of these posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:20 PM
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There seems to be a filter for words that imply cyberbullying or violence toward others. I've made comments with the word k*ll (for example) and they get automodded and sent to review by a person. My comments were approved, since the context was not advocating violence, but maybe that's what the above person was talking about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:11 PM
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snort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:07 PM
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I appreciate this post! I had of course read the handbook and side bar myself, but seemed to have missed the 'at risk' and 'pickmeisha' flairs at the time. I had wondered vaguely but never took the time to look harder for the exact descriptions, so I dig the explanations. You ladies do such great work filtering the mess that must come through, and I cannot express how grateful I am not to have to see trash or troll posts here. I have confidence that everyone is posting in good faith, even if I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:06 PM
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Holy shit I CANNOT stop bursting into giggles now. His goofy face and twerking booty.... fucking dead. 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:53 PM
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I think they misread your excitement (like a 12 year old) as your actual age. I shouldn't have giggled but their concern is really sweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:51 PM
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I love how he says "she typically pulls the line [about how it's her personal fucking dream to have a fabulous ring]" and then he shits all over her dream because he doesn't want to fork out the money. Even though he considers their finances will be joint (and he would have jetted already if she didn't make as much 🙄), and he will probably find a way to weasel her into paying for it after the marriage. He squatted right on top of her dream and dropped a steaming heap on it. I guarantee if he had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:19 AM
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If she's lucky.... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:08 AM
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I saw one of the posts from that sub screenshotted and posted to /entitledbitch and some comments at the top were pointing out that it's not affiliated with FDS, but (predictably) the whole rest of the comments devolved into talking about how insane FDS is. Wut? 7 They literally say in one breath that those posts are clearly too nuts even for us (lol) and in the next talk about how nuts we are. And every thread I've seen is like that. They can NOT stop talking about FDS, even when the post is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:05 AM
5

Stop! Seriously? He is living up to the Friday theme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:51 PM
5

I'm so sorry he was such a shit-heel. That is so gross. At home (and honestly even for quick errands) I'll wear loose yoga pants or crops and a tshirt depending on the season. My husband will generally compliment me if he sees something new and cute pop up in my wardrobe, but otherwise has nothing to say about my clothes. He has other ways of letting me know he thinks I'm attractive, without making me feel skeevy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:50 PM
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I'm so glad you didn't.... the pic had me rolling, but the comments! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:42 PM
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There was a post yesterday about tinder offering to keep your chat at the top for a fee. Soooo, if you pay them 3.99 they'll harass people for you too. The whole concept of dating apps seems like such a dumpster fire, to be avoided at all cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:05 AM
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Oh my fucking God, it took me more than a minute, but that is wonderful 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:08 PM
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I was gonna say, the advice isn't untrue simply because he hasn't found a woman who is interested. Of course he made the first move, planned the dates. He should. But did they all really show up in sweatpants, no makeup, hair a mess, letting him hold the entire convo? All of them? Not a single on texted him back? Not a single one showed effort in her preparation for their rendez-voux? Really? Why do I suspect they all got dolled up and disappointed? Someone this whiny isn't pinging my wow-meter …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:53 PM
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No kidding! She is absolutely lovely, and I'm so envious of that hair and matching eye color. Stunning combination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:07 PM
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They said it was a 16 hour course. All I'm thinking is if they're so pissed about it and weren't even drinking, why not just escalate the matter as high as needed to clear their name? But naw, let's start drinking booze we don't even enjoy to stick it to the man. Cool, cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:21 AM
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Their fathers never has to cope with a world where a single income often doesn't support a family with a home, nor a world where women have more attractive choices than the baby/marriage trap. People cannot teach skills they never learned, and the mistake is in turning a blind eye to the changes in the world around them in hopes that will make them disappear. Ignoring societal changes will not make them go away. Acting like a 50s man today, expecting to obtain a career without training, a wife w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:31 PM
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Who doesn't want to take care of a quadriplegic for the rest of their life? 🙄 God, women are so selfish and needy, asking for a dude who doesn't perform activities that might crush his spinal column. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:22 PM
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it's a waste of my effing energy. I'm glad you see this. The "why" has nothing to do with us as women and everything to do with who they are as men. It has been clearly shown that most men do not see women as people deserving of empathy and respect, regardless of how deserving women may be (because humans deserve empathy and respect).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:13 AM
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Your brother? I am so, so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:18 AM
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I'm sure he has a lovely, well maintained tarp and shovel in his car trunk! Women love men who take care of the tools of their trade, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:00 PM
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She should have bailed when "the place" happened to NOT be a restaurant, or even a coffee shop, but the fucking forest. WHY do these women keep going on goddamn murder dates? Do they not read the fucking news? Or see the gazillion and one podcasts about women who get murdered by strange men in the fucking woods??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:59 PM
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"If you want to leave, go ahead." How cute nauseating that he thinks she needs his permission, ever, much less under those circumstances. The propaganda is fucking real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:51 PM
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No problem. Generally, I don't favor giving bad reviews, but this would fall under a public service announcement for potential victims. And also, fuck any business that thinks women getting violated is funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:31 PM
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I wasn't aware that RP goals were inducing projectile vomiting. Thank god I had a trash can (other than his bio) handy to use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:20 PM
31

Haha, mine used to be every 4 weeks like a fucking clock, in addition to sore tits and periods shits. Blessed be the hysterectomy (though I still have my ovaries, so the tits still give it away, but I get a lot less of the referred gut cramps thank god).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:07 PM
44

And you don't have to clean up their house or do their laundry when you're done, unless I'm greatly mistaken....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:48 PM
15

A man told me once, that he liked inviting women for coffee dates for this same reason, and because if they didn't hit it off they'd be stuck together over a meal for 30-60 minutes. I said "well, at least you admit you're a shitty conversationalist right off the bat, if you can't hold one for a half hour in between bites of food. All the women who decline are dodging a serious bullet." If a man is so socially inept that he needs an escape plan before the half hour mark, I'm not sure how he plans…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:35 PM
44

Time to hit up their social media and tell women not to go there, as they will be easy prey due to maliciously negligent security. Watch them flounder when their main product won't walk in the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:30 PM
66

Right? Who wants to fuck men who have been encouraged to be failures since birth? They're literally breeding for stupidity in the male line. UGGGHHHHHHH, gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:01 PM
72

How are these women not just leaving the country in droves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:20 PM
14

My god, I love this so much. That is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:53 AM
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My father projected his mistreatment at the hands of his (very damaged) mother onto every single woman he met, romantically or otherwise. When they became angry at his treatment and judgements he took it as confirmation that all women are terrible. He had zero insight into his own emotional issues, and thus never made any changes. He asked me pretty much monthly from the time I was 15 if I was knocked up yet. I was outwardly very meek at that age, and boiling with anger internally. I just wanted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:36 AM
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It's funny because it's true! The bar is so fucking low, all we want is for men to be decent human beings with empathy and caring for their partners. Who fucking knew? It's not like women have been asking for this since the dawn of history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:29 AM
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Ehhhhh, I'm a 100/100 for myself. I guess I'd have to pass on his... generous assessment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:37 PM
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I could have told you he was a sociopath just from the fact that he capitalizes every fucking word. But damn, that Shyamalan twist.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:52 AM
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The instant a sexual partner uses any form of violence during intimacy, I feel you have the right to defend yourself accordingly. I personally would have gone for the most delicate parts and twisted gradually until he manages to control himself. Escalation of force would depend entirely on his actions. And there is no such thing as gambling away your bodily autonomy: that's called slavery/indentured servitude and is illegal in all states. Fuck that guy AND his dirtbag friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:13 PM
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I feel like you covered all the high points; I just have commentary (because let's be honest, I always have commentary 😂). asking OP what she was doing after Twice, no less. Boundary pushing before even sharing names. asking where OP lives...after only having known her 2 hours tops, and then AGAIN after they meet up a second time See point 1 offering to walk OP to her car again after she said no the first time...kinda reminds me of Kelly’s story on The Gift of Fear where the rapist tests her bou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:56 PM
189

Factor in "pink hair miss" and he's pushing geriatric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:10 PM
31

Oh my god, yes. This is what a real women-centered dating app needs. Multiple report tabs, with categories and a button that sends the report straight to a "call the cops, this motherfucker is crazy" inbox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:30 PM
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Thaaaaanks, Bumble, for trying to turn women into unpaid therapists. It is not women's job to teach grown men appropriate behavior. If grown men are saying or doing things that make women uncomfortable, they should not be dating anyone. They should engage the services of a therapist who can assist them in figuring out where their behavior took a wrong turn, and then work on themselves until they become date-able.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:32 PM
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Or he's just a hobosexual who really did just use her for a place to be while he was in school, aka "a shit human being". As always, the people asking this online know the answer already, they just want someone to soothe their hurt. People on reddit cannot give her what she wants. Sometimes the soothing can only be achieved by boxing up all his shit and dumping it on the curb, finding a good therapist and instituting boundaries so assholes don't take advantage of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:17 PM
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Haha, you're welcome! Also don't let the complete and utter cringe from Mrs Bennet put you off (it makes me physically want to turn off the TV every time 😂). It is purposeful and I don't know to this day how she did any of it with a straight face. Pure gold. See also Mister Collins. Watching Lizzie interact with both of them is A-fucking-mazing. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:01 AM
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It is so excellent and the actors are cast utterly on point across the board. It is well worth the watch at least once, and I own the DVD version and rewatch it once a year or so for kicks. There was an excellent YouTube video from a clothing historian (Not Bernadette Banner but someone similar to her) debating the costume accuracy/merits of the 1995 miniseries and the 2005 movie with Kiera Knightley. She made a point that the costumes in the earlier version looked like they were pulled from a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:57 PM
42

Okay, I was on the fence about the hair, but that one with the puppy! 😍🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:51 PM
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“I am . . . resolved,” she says, “to act in that manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you, or to any person so wholly unconnected with me.” -Elizabeth Bennet, Pride and Prejudice When I first saw this dialogue acted out in the 1995 A&E Miniseries, I was 16 years old and I wanted to stand up and pump my fists at her daring. Jennifer Ehle put every ounce of rage she had into it, and damn did it pack a punch. She was so fucking done with people trying…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:42 AM
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That whispered "sorry, not sorry...." had me fucking rolling 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:31 AM
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If you get farther in (I haven't finished it either - saved for later), they do mention that women are better at organizational tasks simply because we are expected to perform them starting at an early age and men are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:22 AM
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The link works now, 9 hours later, so I don't need to. I have a fun feeling that some men put there tried a DDOS or something similar to shut down their site. Either that or so many of us clicked it that it triggered their security protocols lol....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:02 AM
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Welp, I got denied access to their site. This website is using a security service to protect itself from online attacks. LVM are super mad? 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:45 AM
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Of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:46 PM
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In addition to the points you make, there is also some really great advice I've seen here that I've never come across anywhere else. For example, the post last week about bookkeeping? Genius, and I want to implement that for possible side gigs, even though I make plenty of income on my own (never too much money!). The women here are also a new lens through which to evaluate if my marriage gives me what I need, and how to improve myself in ways I hadn't considered before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:31 AM
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"don't need to rush" Lol if he were rushing any less, he'd be a corpse. She doesn't seem to understand the difference between an ultimatum and a boundary: you must be unwavering in your commitment to enforce the boundary. The reason ultimatums are never taken seriously is because they are toothless until you make them a firm boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:23 AM
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Both sets of my upstairs neighbors are in fucked up relationships. I've legit had to call the cops on one set, and the other had a ridiculous verbal exchange with the man and the woman and the toddlers sobbing at each other for hours with the windows wide open. I have never lived in an apartment before in my life, am doing so temporarily for work, and I am counting down the fucking days until I can leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:35 PM
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If you told me, in conversation, that you wanted a big house just for yourself I'd be curious but not judgmental. I personally wouldn't want more than 2 bedrooms if I lived alone, but my desires should have no bearing on other people's. My desire for a smaller living space is colored by raising a large family and cleaning up after them for much of their childhoods. I dream of an uncluttered life; that isn't everyone else's dream. I hope you get your big house and all the rooms you dream of. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 12:25 PM
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Oh yeah, I don't understand what's up with the downers today, but I could have predicted it. Maybe LARPing men being triggered? Either way I'm a huge fan of ripped abs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:23 PM
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It's kinda hot, honestly. I know that kind of amazing shape is hard to maintain, but it is lovely to look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:23 PM
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I'm dying. I could drop a 16g IV in those ab veins. 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:59 PM
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Omg that Summer gif... 😂 Also, how is that jawline even real? Oof. I logged on for the first time in days to this deluge of delicious men.... not fair!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:23 PM
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Excuse me, is there a flair for "all the red flags"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:53 PM
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Do not give romantic prospects money, ever! Do not give money to people you've never met. Just don't give people money. I was watching a YouTube channel completely unrelated to dating, and she was chatting in her voice over about all the men she had been seeing in her attempts to date recently. She had mentioned to one of them how she raised X amount for her business, and all of a sudden he's "offering her the opportunity to invest in his film for Netlfix distribution", with her name in the cred…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:51 PM
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I don't know any Indian women closely (I went to school with a few who were way classier and with even higher standards than mine), but I cannot imagine even my passing acquaintances entertaining this bullshit list for a second. They'd throw that shit in his face and dance away laughing. Would most Indian women put up with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:58 PM
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The more I think about this, the more I wonder if he didn't 'discover his sexuality' thinking to get away from the family he had before, and found himself saddled with the kids anyway. Now he's had to develop a new plan to foist the poor boys on someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:56 PM
22

Can anyone say "Ron Jeremy"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:27 PM
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Correct. I'd take any productive activity over this risky business BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:53 AM
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"This just in! Women are happy with the penis they picked out of a multitude of penises!!" 🧐 Of course they're happy with their man's dick. They picked him. What kind of confirmation bias bullshit is this article?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:59 AM
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I was done at "sometimes we remember the condom just to be safe." FUCKING. WHAT. Girl, you flew past safe about 10 miles back. This motherfuxker could be giving you STDs, babies, CANCER (HPV).... Back up off his lazy ass dick, and go to college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:49 AM
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As an adult, I look at him and wonder who the fuck would think that guy with the glazed eyeballs, drooling on his chin, was someone to impress. And then I remember how impressionable I was as a teen, how desperate I was for anyone to love me, and how many bad choices I made before figuring out that THIS isn't love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:01 AM
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Or even "I'm not qualified to give medical advice, dude" Leave him confused as to what you saw that made you say that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:26 AM
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Girl, you want horror? I got horror. When I was in the middle of nursing school, during clinical rotation in a combined ICU/step-down unit, I followed a pt who had issues with his penile implant. Said implant was inserted, and the pt could pump it up (I can't remember if it filled with saline or air, it's been a while) to achieve erection. He was in his 70s. 😒 The issue, you ask? The insertion site had become infected, and when I came back the next week for my clinical hours, he was on a vent, s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:40 AM
21

I just need to clarify despite my incipient nausea: they're selling male smegma on OnlyFans????? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:25 AM
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If they react poorly, you can just acknowledge that things may be moving too fast and say you understand if they aren't ready for sex yet. This entire post is perfection, but this particular nugget made me cackle in the middle of the unit at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:42 AM
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Strangely, there was a time when it was considered a man's job, because women were expected to be unable to hold down a profession once they achieved wife- and motherhood. From my limited understanding of the history, I believe women entering the teaching profession were expected to be single, or leave the job upon marriage so they could take up wifely duties. I have no idea why or when it changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:29 AM
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Right? My husband and I have always been hand-holders, as well as random skin contact throughout the day when we're at home together. However, this doesn't mean he ignores other parts of daily life in favor of that one thing: he buys gifts when appropriate, he does all the household cooking, he monitors the kids' homeschooling (we started long before COVID, so it wasn't a sudden transition for us), in addition to working partly from home. The video makes a great point that one of those alone is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:36 AM
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Oh honey, I wish I could send you wine and flowers. You are a wonderful mom, and deserve everything. When they're that little, the cards are everything. You should enjoy the hell out of your massage and relaxing day. It may be a stupid random day, but one day your daughter will be able to express her appreciation for all you do for her. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:06 PM
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😦 I'm slightly nauseated right now....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:23 AM
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I changed my name because at the time I honestly didn't consider the possibility of keeping my maiden name. It was not a deliberate, thought out decision. However, I can honestly say looking back I would probably do it again, simply for the fact that I went from a distinctive, rare surname to a very common, anonymous one. I am virtually impossible to look up online unless you know my specific location, because there are so many of me. Before the internet I may not have cared so much but it affor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:53 AM
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"Well, none of the women I spoke to on the internet had this problem when they had PCOS/Endometriosis/insert feminine problem men know nothing the fuck about here..." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:14 AM
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I love how the assumption here is that a "strong woman" has nothing better to do than sit around waiting for him to be available (which apparently is never, if the picture is a clue). The reality is that their mythical "strong woman" also works a full time job, on top of doing domestic labor which these men don't appreciate. Screw that. If a man can't meet you as an equal, shoulder the domestic load as such, and value your work equal to his own, then he has no business demanding your presence mu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:24 PM
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I'm glad that you were finally able to get what you need, although I'm so sorry it took so long and you had to go through so much bullshit first. It is unjust. Adult women should be able to make decisions as adults, and if necessary, live with the consequences. If we want a damn sterilization and change our minds later, that is a consequence we should be allowed to incur. We don't need an extra parent making our decisions after we are self sufficient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:54 PM
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Thank you for the insight into that aspect. I genuinely would not have thought of that being a factor, as they have several orders of magnitude more money than I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:17 PM
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I wish I could be surprised. All I want to know is how the hell people learn about this stuff. I feel like I live under a rock some days, when I hear about this stuff months later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:26 AM
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I love the commentary from the Nanny, Lise: people think that because you don't want kids you must hate them. What must you think of mothers? I don't think of them at all. Precisely. Women should be able to make decisions about their own procreation independently of the opinions of others. What does it fucking matter what parents or non-parents think? I have kids and I love them dearly, but if my friends say they don't want any I say good for you, live your life. I certainly didn't consult anyon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:45 AM
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Firstly, this is a solid example of mediocre men benefitting from the behavior of terrible men. Secondly, it doesn't matter if "everybody does it" because your standards do not change based on other people's shitty behavior. As my mother (and probably most mothers) said: if everybody decided to jump off a bridge, would you follow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:22 AM
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You'll like Merida. She bucks convention by kicking all her suitors' asses at the competition for her hand, accidentally gets her mom caught up in a curse turning her into a bear, and saves her all on her own. It's so much fun to watch despite the patriarchal standards in the background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:53 AM
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The worst part is poor Pam didn't even look like her later self. She was initially scouted as this fresh-faced girl next door type. Then someone decided she needed bigger boobs.... ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:07 AM
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Haha, my ex started about asking for full custody after he remarried. After my head exploded in private, I sent him an email with a list of all the times he had been involved in our kids' lives since the divorce: it was three lines over 5 years, and one of them was an Easter card from a man who hadn't been to church once in our 7 year marriage. Sure, the court is gonna give you custody... 🙄 he never brought it up again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:02 AM
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DUDE, I've been doing this for 9 years now and all you will see is women saddled with slobs. Unless they are married to other nurses and/or doctors, which is NOT to say they are HVM, just that they work hard too. I cannot fucking even with all the stories I've been witness to, especially early in my career working with Filipinas whose husbands sat on the couch all day while my coworkers worked 2 full time jobs to put the kids in private schools, took half the wife's retirement in the divorce bc …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:22 AM
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They're all on, wide open. I had selected for accounts older than 30 days, but that may have glitched, so it's unrestricted now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:44 AM
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I absolutely love your response to him. It was measured, professional and scathing, and perfect. The whole team was left with zero doubts as to why he skipped you, no matter his prevarication, and they were made aware in no uncertain terms that that shit would never fly. Brava.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:09 AM
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Did you know that you can NOT find someone attractive and not treat them like trash? Did you know that you can approach a woman and not treat her less conventionally attractive friend like trash? Did y’all know that? THIS is why women can't be polite to men, even in public or work settings! RIGHT HERE. Because they absolutely equate civility with attraction. Every. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:59 AM
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Done! I'll leave them open for a day or so. Thank you for the offer! I'm out of the country so I won't be active in chat much for the next 3 weeks or so (I participate mainly on my phone bc wifi is shit where I'm at), but I'm excited to have another aspect of our community to interact with 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:53 AM
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I don't think it really is relevant to the initiation phase whether women will or won't have babies. This is purely a vetting technique because men do not respect women who chase them. Period. A HVM will put the effort into a woman he sees as an appropriate partner, and anyone else can pound sand. "Women should put more effort into men!" <-- the people saying that are telling on themselves that they are low effort and do not value the company or time of women. Every single story they tell of tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:15 AM
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I had to double check to remind myself who Jared Padalecki was, and in my head he was still the fresh faced baby from season one of Supernatural... I was like yikes, I don't feel attraction to infants 😂 But all joking aside he's attractive, but I don't consider him to be outstanding in looks. He just happens to groom himself and be reasonably fit. Crazy that that seems to be a pinnacle of male hotness.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:50 AM
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By which her therapists meant that her husband is clearly communicating that he is an asshole with anger issues, but she simply can't or won't understand that. That's her communication issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:51 PM
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I didn't even have to go read it. People like this are utterly predictable in their shittiness. He is clearly entitled and self absorbed. I hope he divorces her and she takes everything she is entitled to under the law. In 20 years he'll be sitting alone in his assisted living apartment, wondering why his kids hate his guts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:28 PM
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too tired to fuck him It's okay, he won't notice bc he's too resentful of her to want to fuck his gorgeous wife who literally takes care of his hearth, home, and children. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:57 AM
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"If the roles were reversed....." BLABLABLA can you bear and birth a child from your mangina??? Then I don't want to hear shit about role reversal because your wife has performed an act of sacrifice that you literally cannot duplicate. Oh, and pouring all your income into the family that you wanted is not a sacrifice. It is an adult responsibility, so don't whine when you were perfectly fine with her role in said family before, forcing her to give up any hope of a lifelong career. You're welcome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:53 AM
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Right? They hardly wash and feed themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:39 AM
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Precisely. It is not the content of the lie that matters, but the fact of the lie. If he lies about the tiniest, most irrelevant item, it is still disrespect for a person he claims to love. That is not how a relationship survives, with one person manipulating and the other submitting. That is bondage of the worst sort, and leaving such a situation can only be good for your well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:36 AM
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I was about to say it but y'all saved me the trouble. How much money does he think they need to save? What does dinner there cost? 20 bucks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:54 AM
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Yeah honesty is nice, but when it clearly demonstrates that your goals and values are wildly divergent you must use that information toward your own best interest. We are not obligated to take strangers' needs into account when guiding our own lives. For what? So he can get his dick wet (don't get me started about vibing 🙄)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:41 AM
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This stuff blows my mind. Every. Time. If someone is asking strangers for life advice, they know the answer and don't want to face it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:31 PM
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How did she get that first Venmo request for 4 fucking dollars and think to herself "this is okay..."???? I would text him to go fuck himself, it's free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:18 AM
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Guaranteed, if you put an object (like a bar) on the floor, with food on the other side, maggots will find a way over the bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:15 AM
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Yes! I was gonna say to just remove all the money or your half from the bank accounts, and then close them down or remove yourself. Stop chasing after him for details you can just take care of and be done. I KNOW how annoying it feels to try herding a man like that into doing what you need, but you don't need him for any of this. Take yourself off the accounts and open new ones at a different bank. I've read so many horror stories of exes being given access even after being removed from the acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:37 PM
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Yeah, but he says he pulled it back, no indication of trouble in his post or message to you that I can see. 🤨 My skepticism is through the roof on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:01 PM
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How has he had multiple erections and never once in all that time did his foreskin retract from his glans??? I'm calling bullshit on the whole post, both the accumulated smegma AND the sex-having. Some 13 year old discovered a new vocabulary word and decided to karma farm with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:19 PM
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I found him after, and just binged his videos. He is hysterical!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:43 AM
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There are two possible answers to this: 1) They don't actually believe this. Of course, statistics dictate that at least some of us are drop dead gorgeous, even if we do collect cats instead of dicks. 2) Regardless of our aesthetics, they still want to fuck ugly and/or fat women because they themselves have no standards. They want us to lower our standards to match theirs: zero. Personally, I think it's probably a combo of both, depending on the angry man speaking at the time. I just don't under…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:21 AM
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I know! That's why I said it was the healthiest thing you could have done! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:03 AM
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Rofl it just rolled off the keyboard. Glad to be helpful 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:03 AM
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Ah! My brain does that sometimes too. Word association betrays us all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:02 AM
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Do you mean "sunken ship" or "sunk cost" fallacy? I've not heard of that one before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:27 PM
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I was sitting here thinking that's amazing! Is that even healthy? But nope, it was the healthiest thing you could possibly have done and I am here for it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:25 PM
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You say /s but I literally just saw a post on badwomensanatomy where a kid said he would penetrate some poor girl in the clit. I... I just....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:02 AM
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I'm sorry, hwat? Does she leave a murder trail on their couches every month too? Is he just that stupid, or is she literally bleeding on every horizontal surface of their home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 11:00 AM
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Orrrr, men could keep their legs shut? Tuck that puppy right up his taint and cross em real tight. Guaranteed no babies if you follow this foolproof method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:19 AM
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Sometimes we overcome our conditioning through suffering. There is no shame on us in having to learn hard lessons; the key is learning them. I'm glad you were able to come out stronger on the other side. We take the victories as they come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:44 AM
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Thank you for the link. I had no idea the sound was stolen and the creator is unhappy about it. I highly recommend visiting the original, because it's funny as hell and maybe she can get income from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:41 AM
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That sucks! Of course the sound is stolen. This is why I don't have an account on tiktok, it feels like so often things are ripped off. Thankfully someone linked the original video above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:40 AM
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always ending up without reasons to not have sex This is for all the women and girls who need to hear this today, or any time: "I don't want to." This is a final, non-negotiable response. Any man or boy who does not instantly accept such a response with good grace should be immediately ejected from your life without recourse, and I don't care if it is the middle of the night and he has no place to stay. If someone does not respect your bodily autonomy enough to NOT FUCK YOU WHEN YOU DON'T WANT T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:36 AM
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You know there's truth to that, even if it is a joke impulse. Women do smell nicer and different from men. Even if he truly needed the directions, he probably subconsciously knew a woman was more likely to help him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:24 AM
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didn't let me leave without giving him my number This is where I'd pull out my phone and tell him I'm dialing the cops.... what the actual Kentucky fried fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:21 AM
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I was trying to find the #DUMPHISASS guy and this popped up on the front page. I had to share because I had no idea we could hide like this.... 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:12 AM
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Yes! It's so lovely to see dead weight voluntarily hopping off your shoulders 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:38 AM
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Don't forget fucking "plates".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:22 PM
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I was reading that shit, shaking my head at him just making shit up and then I got to the part where he was like yeah, I've been called out on my bullshit but my opinion should still carry weight... Aaaaaand we're done here. Fucking nofap's insane theories and porn have wrecked this dudes brain to an absolute pulp. I want to like the principles behind that sub, but the things I've read there are mindblowingly stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:01 PM
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Lol this is what did it for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:58 AM
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And Viagra was an accident anyway. It is a drug meant to treat pulmonary hypertension. One of the few drugs that works better for its intended purpose in women, and the market is still predominantly men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:57 AM
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Sorry. I was vaguely confused myself when I posted it, and am just now realizing I never actually asked a question you could answer. Somehow, you did answer the unasked anyway. Thank you! I was wondering why I had never been asked to verify in that way in all the time I've been using YouTube, even though I have clicked through to "mature content" on rare occasions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:09 AM
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Thank you again for your kind words and information. I appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:19 PM
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What? Did I just age out of that process? I've had my Google account for nearly 18 years...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:22 PM
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I saw that post when it was first put up, remembered the horrible spelling. I clicked just now to refresh the giggles and the second time he spelled it right... How angry do you have to be to hit post before even reading what you wrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:12 PM
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Right? Every time I see her username I smirk a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:30 PM
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Lord knows they get bored easily.... like toddlers 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:16 PM
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Maybe at 200 days he'll recover the ability to speak in distinct sentences. That babble gave me a headache. Talk about porn damaging brain function....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:30 PM
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Is he seriously blaming men's dysfunction and women's disinterest on economic constraints rather than poor performance and lack of connection between loving people??? What an ignorant pompous asshole. I've been having vanilla sex for my whole life and the worst occasions with a long term partner were still better than his pathetic sex life of floggers and rock fucking....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:20 AM
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I've told her to stay off reddit entirely for the time being (she's underage and I don't need the stress lol). I enjoy the interactions I have, but I also curate what I look at and have 40+ years of not backing down on my side. She has Instagram but only for follows, no posting yet, and I link her stuff from FDS on occasion. She's Ace and has been exploring witchcraft in the last few years, so I mostly send her motivational things and witchy inspiration that I come across (I am not myself practi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:13 AM
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In many ways, the pattern with vaccines reflects longstanding gender differences when it comes to preventive health care. Women are on average more likely to get annual physicals than men, even when adjusted for pre-existing health conditions and other factors, and are more likely than men to get preventive care. Men are more likely than women to engage in behaviors that hurt their health — like heavy drinking, smoking and illicit drug use — and are more overweight compared to women. Men are les…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:50 AM
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I put in a follow request, and I will recommend you to my daughter as well: she is a budding witch, trying to figure out her path these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:19 AM
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I remember once upon a time, the ex was in charge of all the bills and on multiple occasions just forgot to pay electric or gas or water. He had the bare minimum brainpower required not to get angry about it, since he was supposed to have done it. I wound up in charge of all the utility payments because I wasn't inclined to have a household with 2 kids and no water all day until they could get out to turn it back on. Just because we may not manage family and social shit doesn't mean we don't sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:16 AM
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Did he seriously put in his tinder bio that he wants either a Madonna or a whore? What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:55 AM
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Or he'll expect her to accept him as he is, since that is how he was when they met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:11 AM
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My pleasure! I'm so happy to see you doing well and thriving. You deserve all the good things coming to you. All the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:10 AM
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Maglite style torches are large and heavy. I highly recommend blackout curtains, because they eliminate any possibility of someone peeking through any gaps in the blinds. I use them for day sleeping, and love the extra privacy. No one can see if my lights are on, or shadows moving in my place. Love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:35 AM
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I can't listen right now bc I'm at work, but I will fucking die if the whole podcast is just Reaux, Savanah, and Lillith taking turns saying "YES. THAT IS ALL. DIE MAD." 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:49 AM
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My mother gave me a talk with very nearly every detail there is to be had, with back of the envelope diagrams, while she was sitting on the toilet one day when I was 12 (mine had not started yet). I remember that master bathroom vividly. It had a giant inset soak tub and plush gray carpet. I may have been low-key scarred by that talk for a little while, but by god I knew how my organs functioned. ETA on a side note, I had the same talk with my daughter, albeit not while I was on the shitter. She…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:27 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing! I love this so much 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:12 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:36 PM
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Not the above commenter, but I've been deep diving into Niven again lately and finding it very soothing. Crashlander, Flatlander, The Ringworld series, and The Tales From the Draco Tavern collection. He has so much more, but those are my current favs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:58 AM
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I really want to try strawberry milk with fresh strawberries. The bottled stuff is disgusting, but I've heard good things about fresh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:52 AM
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Politely, and firmly! No one should have to socialize with such people, and I use the term loosely...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:51 AM
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Same with Central America. It is convenient if you have a lot of friends abroad, since it just uses data and doesn't charge you per text message like some cell carriers do. That said, there is no reason you should have to use it for local dating. The dating app should be enough for text messages and video chatting, if I've read right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:40 AM
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On the flip side, there are men who do this because they are unable to show emotions in a healthy way (he can empathize, he's just never been taught how to express that properly). It shows a lack of coping mechanisms that I would not have the energy or training to fix. #notmyproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:35 AM
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It is essentially the same thing with different names. The method and effect are identical. Traumatized the victim, then love bomb/provide sympathy and understanding and their brain chemicals make the abuser out to be an ally/protector.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:34 AM
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I love my adjustable seat belts. The shoulder portion slides up and down to accommodate a shorter height, so I'm not choked out. I'm not even short by female standards, but yeah...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:30 AM
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☹🤢 That is horrifying...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:28 AM
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I had never heard this song before (talk about age, my kids watched Victorious 😂) but I am her for it, and the Marvel ladies video is giving me life rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:06 AM
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It was a guy who literally slept in s nest of his own dirty clothes. No bed in sight. He told his gf that if they moved in together she would have to join him in the nest to sleep. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:51 AM
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I love the comprehensive list, but why are we giving points for this? No. This is a bare minimum to maintain one's body. It is baffling to me that we need to grade it or reward it. If they skip any of the basics, it's a pass. Women do this without any expectation of a reward other than good health and looking/smelling nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:15 PM
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Yes! And that PSA also applies to tattoos: if you make sure to apply it to all tattoos before going out in the sun, they will look so much better year after year and not fade as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:27 AM
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Nurse... I burned through alllll my fucks about pts not listening to me years ago. Sure they ask the doctor the same shit when he walks in, but they don't actually listen to him either lol They go home, do the same dumb shit and I'll see them next month again when they're fluid overloaded. 👋🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:24 AM
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Wowwwwwww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:16 AM
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Seriously. Wtf. Like, if you're unhappy with the state of my supplies, go home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:56 AM
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Yeah, it was a first for me. He was definitely trying to pick at me for some unknown reason. He's usually inoffensive but he must have been bored that night. I wasn't having it, obviously lol I've never had anyone criticize my food at work before or since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:54 AM
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This is almost exactly what I wanted to say. Another thing to be mindful of is whether he accepts your boundaries around time spent alone. If you tell him you want to have a night to yourself, is he pleasant or does he make you feel slightly guilty? Does he respect your space and boundaries? It may be smart to take some time to reflect on exactly what you want out of this relationship, and then discuss it frankly with him. He may expect a completely different course for it than you do. One thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:38 AM
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I had a coworker sit down next to me one day and start making comments about my snack (grapes and cheese cubes, seriously) and how it was gross. He was being stupid on purpose to get a rise, so I just sat there and said "okay", "mmhmm", etc... So eventually he says "I'm not gonna win this argument, am I?" I just dead eyed him and said, "I wasn't aware we were having an argument. You expressed an opinion and I didn't care. If you don't like my snack you are free to go somewhere else, I'm not stop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:10 PM
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Fucking TimanthaSmith... 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:50 PM
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Yes, he never felt so good before, and yet somehow didn't care enough about that poor woman to even keep in touch, much less commit to a relationship or marry her. If the best feelings you can engender in a man still don't spur him to commitment, you may as well keep your resources and your dignity. Vet potential partners for this attitude that you need to be their provider and caregiver because it speaks to a deep selfishness that bodes ill for your sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:37 AM
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Precisely. Socializing is fine. Partnering and expecting her to pick up all the mommy duties you left at home, as well as paying for half the dates, when she's probably just as broke as you? Prime sign of a loser who will act that way forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:34 AM
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I can't help myself, I watch this video every time it's posted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:28 AM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:38 AM
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I just came from a post on one of my other subs and there was a post it note with a design for what looked like a vacuum toy that had big wheels on it "for boys" and in parentheses it had (girl chores). And it took every ounce of self control not to say anything to them about it. I cannot unsee this shit everywhere I look now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:11 AM
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I also love seeing her username, because it's reliably great/entertaining/witty content. I can usually tell without looking who the poster is and I am here for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:23 AM
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I can see it now... all the men scratching their heads wondering where this mystical town of "euphoria" is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:42 PM
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When I say not at the expense of others, I mean I don't care to infringe on the basic rights of other human beings. Privilege can go fuck itself. I say this as a person who recognizes fully that I have led a fairly privileged life, and I wish I could trade that for the safety and health of other people who did not. I want actual equality, which I am unlikely to see in my lifetime. In the meantime, I do believe we should use any advantages we have to level the playing field within the bounds of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:53 AM
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angry self hating black women who are white supremacists and promote white feminism I.... what...? Aside from the lunacy of feminism pandering to male benefit/gaze, in what universe is feminism NOT supposed to benefit WOMEN? Certainly not at the expense of other people, but definitely to the point of equality (which is still not in reach for the vast majority of women, including white women, so that speaks to the depth of inequality presented to women of color). UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:08 AM
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Not to mention, this isn't even their first song about men abusing women in relationships. They have another song titled "Sex With Me" about how guys will have sex with women and then triangulate and shit talk them to all their friends. Clearly this isn't just a one time, latch-onto-a-fad song for them. I fucking hate it when someone says a piece of art is trash with zero explanation of WHY, and proceeds to recommend other art with no explanation of why it is GOOD. And saying the other band is c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:19 AM
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I fixed my ex's credit while we were married, paid off his old debt every time we had extra income from deployments. Left him debt free with a paid off car after the divorce. He immediately traded that car for a new one, and bought a Harley. Guess who got both repo'd within 6 months and wrecked the credit he used to buy them? You can't lift up a mole king. They just head back underground as soon as you let go. Extra clownery: when I spoke to him (shortly before deciding to divorce) about how his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:13 AM
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The baby is just a perfect engine of free energy, recycling his own poop into nutrients. This is also why he never needs to eat. Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:40 AM
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Me side-eyeing my O-chem for a crime scene analyst degree that I never finished.... All kidding aside, I am dying at him calling her "the Prophet". 😂 His videos are so adorably funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:38 AM
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Yessss, today is my Friday. I can't wait to listen. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:22 AM
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Oh honey.... women who look fabulous without any makeup or hair work? They're wayyyyyyyy beyond your pay grade. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:49 AM
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Right? I am happy that my husband cooks, but only because it means I never have to do it. It simply shifts how we divide and conquer our household chores. It isn't some mind blowing feat. Do I tell him how much I enjoy his cooking? Yep, much in the same way he expresses appreciation (not adulation) for the things I do around the house, simply because those things make our respective home lives easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:32 AM
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The only advice worth taking in that whole lot is the part that's cut off on page 2 - make them pay for their fuck ups with hard cash, and hire someone who can and will do the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:59 PM
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And may I please get instructions on UNSEEING it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:23 PM
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I don't know how to talk to him about all this without him yelling at me.... This is why you pack your shit, the kids' shit, everything of essential and sentimental value like birth certs and social security cards and stuffies, load up the car and head to the nearest support you have. If you're tied to a job, take the time to find an apartment of your own, a lawyer, and get shit squared away before walking. Give NO hint of what's to come, and do what you need to do to salvage your sanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:40 PM
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Smart girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:26 PM
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She is my mother's age. My mother also didn't finish college (with a double master's!) until her late 40s. Before that, she was always in the workforce, just underpaid and without a formal education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:15 AM
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I could give a full assessment of that guys character the second I read "n@%#!e". This douchebag probably considers himself the cream of the male crop and hasn't the first clue what research or vital statistics mean. He literally took the comments from a college website as statistical facts. I have zero interest in what this guy has to say, because I can turn to published authors for my fantasy needs. (Deleted and resubmitted for offensive word censoring per automod. 🧐)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:12 AM
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For what? The shitty outfit, or the store? Because I don't want to shop anywhere he's shopping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:42 AM
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Precisely. My response is always "if you're turning to the internet, you know the answer and you're in denial. If you're unhappy enough to ask strangers, you know." And the posts always range from basic disrespect to full on slug-grinding horror. I've never seen one that was just a mild quirk. Because most women will completely gloss over quirks. We don't even notice among the proliferation of disgusting behaviors. Mediocre men absolutely benefit from awful men's behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:31 AM
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I agree so much with this. I have been married for 14 years. I have known my husband for 24 (no, we weren't dating all that time. Lol). We have 5 children total, 2 from my first marriage. NEVER, not once, in all the time we've known each other has he been anything but fully complimentary toward me, my intellect, my humor, my body. He is intimately familiar with all my bodily (and character) flaws, and embraces what he loves and says not one fucking word about flaws I cannot change: stretch marks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:28 AM
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The worst part is there are 3 in 1 products (as an example. I do not endorse this!) that are cheaper by volume, so it really isn't about saving money. He's just that stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:52 AM
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Had me in the first half, not gonna lie... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:50 AM
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Because she likely realized after organizing and paying for his entertainment that he wasn't worth the effort. I suspect he spends every first date whinging about the adversity in his life just by virtue of being a man. Color me shocked that she never went for a round two.... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:48 AM
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Right? I've known so many hard working women (mostly my RN coworkers) who work 6 days a week with husband's who sit at home doing fuck-all and when they get divorced the men take half their retirement. Fucking what? These women make 6+ figures every year busting ass, working 2 jobs, putting their kids through private school, etc... just to be taken to the cleaners, but women are the gold diggers? These men had zero reason to not work except that they didn't want to. They didn't take any time off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:41 AM
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I took it to mean OP looks Asian but I'm just guessing based on their shitty "humor". Somehow they think misogyny and racism make their point for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:33 AM
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In between comments that "they're already broken up". Does this mean the girl dumped him 2 days after the prank video? Because if so, brava.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:31 AM
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I'm gonna say this as someone who has taken friends for meals when I knew they were broke. You didn't use him. He fully and freely offered in advance, knowing your situation. That was an act of kindness when he had the opportunity to say "understood, hit me up when you're able".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:27 AM
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Lord have mercy. He also suspiciously doesn't mention who paid for the date. I have a feeling this poor girl paid for her own dinner and movie ticket and then he wouldn't spend a buck to get her home safely. He was delusional enough to contact her repeatedly after blocking, making himself one of the threats in her life, and has the unmitigated gall to ask if he's the asshole. Fucking yes, he's the asshole. AND THEN he's like "I apologized but there's still no second date." BRUH. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:24 AM
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Hang onto these messages. Screencap them just in case the app deletes messaging for any reason. If he does slander you, he has much more face to lose than you, especially since you don't even work in the same circles. It would be beyond strange for him to start shit talking someone he barely knows. You can say you felt threatened and were completely justified. He looks like an overbearing douche just in that snippet, so I can imagine the other things he said to make you get up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:09 AM
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Fuck, even Claire and Jamie being chased by the British got that shit done right in a kirk. 😂 Their relationship has its flaws, but damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:59 AM
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It's not different, they just think their feelings matter more than yours. And that is an instant qualifier for a permanent invitation to the world. There is no more discussion to be had. Don't let it hit ya on your way out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:54 AM
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I am so sorry that that has been your experience. I really hope he continues to be the man he has been so far, if he makes you this happy. I wish you all the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:28 AM
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Clearly not a functioning garbage disposal, which is what that opening is FOR.... next, she'll be under there with an Allen wrench fixing that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:23 AM
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Of course they do. Dogs don't offer to take that dick and then clean a dirty house. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:22 AM
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Love is work and part of that work is providing a stable home for each other. If you really love the person, you will do everything in your power to provide for them. If your values are so misaligned that you cannot agree on what to spend on the wedding, then you should consider whether you love them at all. A person's values are a huge part of who they are. Ignoring them falls under lust, not love. It's no damn wonder those marriages fall apart, being based on bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:07 AM
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It's not even a night out, it's her work too as far as I can tell. So he's allowed to fuck up her work plans but can't be arsed to go pick up his kid before kid's bedtime? He could be there before 8pm if he went straight from work. He literally just wants to screw with her life and plans, because he is incapable of keeping to the agreement. It makes me wonder why they don't have shared custody if they're so close; why don't they alternate weeks? Why did a judge only give him 6 days a month? 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:37 AM
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The sheer idiocy of people on social media had me basically abandoning all of it years ago. I still have accounts but I literally only open the apps if I'm following a link, or to message a friend. They're not on my home screen, and I don't give a rat's ass what people post. I am a much happier human since doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:30 AM
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I suspect at least part of that reaction is you feeling safe with him. I'm so glad he makes you happy. It warms my heart that you have that kind of support in your life. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:27 AM
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I'm glad to hear it. I was debating so hard whether to offer, simply because you had a creep doing the same, but I hope my daughter never has to be scared and alone in her fear. So if you ever need anything, be it info or advice or whatever, just toss me a DM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:59 PM
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Lilith, why would you do this to me? I knew what was coming and I clicked it anyway and now I have to walk out my front door to run errands bawling and hiccuping like an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:32 PM
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Ugh. I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I tried my best to prep my little girl for bodily changes, I hope she would turn to me before the internet for questions but we never know really. She seems pretty chill about it all at 16, but I remember being outwardly chill with an internal raging storm of wtf at her age. Adding disgusting men perving on teenagers is a recipe for disaster. If I can help in any way, please let me know. If you have questions, I will do my best to answer them withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:22 PM
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The first couple episodes of the murder squad broke me. I haven't really been able to listen to it since, even though I really love Paul Holes' work and personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:11 PM
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I've read that post several times since it went up, and I could just read every single comment both on the LA thread and the best of thread. They're both glorious in their utter curb-stomping of this entitled asshole. The schadenfreude is so potent it's intoxicating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:15 PM
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"Wouldn't that be equality?" Can we please show this to men who moan about male rape statistics to derail female conversations? THIS is what they're fighting against, not female lack of concern over their well being. Other men don't care, think it would be a dream for them to be harassed and violated, and it is MEN who make policy by and large. They need to take it up with their compadres, instead of derailing the conversations women are trying to have. Eta- I love how his equality demands we al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:24 AM
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He's on testicles. So many of them think this way. I also love that he says if he can't get away with the pump and dump routine, he'll just peace out of dating entirely. OH no...... Anyway Like any woman with a sense of self worth would even notice or care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:16 AM
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They have a couple songs on Amazon Prime too, but not this one. It may be an impending drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:09 AM
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The best part of this is that you KNOW he expected you to come crawling back to apologize for having an opinion. If he didn't, he wouldn't have brought it up to your mutual friend and they never would have asked. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:59 PM
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Ughhhhhhh. Once upon a time a friend of my husband needed a place to stay while he saved up for a deposit on a new apt because his ex, the mother of his children whom he called 'sis' (BARF), was starting a new relationship and had told him to move out of the place she paid for. So my husband asked if he could stay for a couple months and I foolishly said yes. A YEAR LATER, THIS FOOL IS STILL IN MY SPARE BEDROOM, CALLING ME 'MA'. I looked at my husband and said if he wasn't gone in a month then I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:03 PM
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Or self interest. They will go to the ends of the earth when their own interests are at stake, but if its someone else's? "It's too hard, I didn't know, I'm introverted, if you had just told me!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:59 PM
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I'd be a lot happier about women living rent free in men's heads if it came with a little more closet space and a bit less harassment and violence. But beggars can't be choosers, I guess....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:37 AM
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Holy fucking mother of god....I skimmed that train wreck of a letter and I am bereft of words. That poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:31 AM
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"You know not EVERYONE feels that way" Okay, and? We're not asking for everyone to feel that way. WE feel that way and if you don't like it, your options are to walk away or shut up. My brain is not public domain or a democracy. It is a ME-ocracy, so suck it because you don't get a vote. (Yes, I'm using a royal 'we'... lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:38 PM
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Do you know who she is? The advice isn't bad per se, and I wouldn't mind hearing more of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:45 PM
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He also says that men don't learn like women do, but in the next paragraph he says when you love someone you go out of your way to make them happy (I'm paraphrasing). All this says to me is that he never loved his wife at all, since he knew she hated that he did that and he kept doing it anyway because he needed to be "right". What the fuck good is all his advice if he knows damn well people who exhibit this behavior do not love their partners?? Why try to salvage a relationship where you don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:30 PM
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All I see is stoned, naked Matthew McConaughey and it is not an attractive thought because that happened right after his gross role in Dazed and Confused.. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:51 AM
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Lol yeah. She mentioned that, in the argument over her requesting equity in his house if she was going to pay that much toward his mortgage, he also wanted equity in her flat. This was shot down by the advisor because he wouldn't be contributing financially to her property in any way. But the sheer fucking audacity... he just wants to bleed her dry. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:08 AM
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He's a giver by nature? Giving what? STDs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:35 AM
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Okay, I'm not sure how many of you ladies went to the actual article, but I am fucking dead right now. SHE CANNOT RENT HER FLAT FOR THE SAME AMOUNT AS HER MORTGAGE. She says right off that rent in her area is lower than her mortgage payments (to which the advisor says she may not legally be allowed to rent it out if that's the case anyway without lender permission). THIS ASSHOLE KNOWS THIS FACT AND WANTS HER TO PAY HIM RENT WITH MONEY THAT SHE SHOULD BE PUTTING TOWARD HER MORTGAGE (he claims she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:28 AM
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Disappointed but not surprised. Of course he dragged her along for one last nanny gig before ditching her like a brown banana.... 🙄 "Do YoU kNoW hOw MuCh I tRuSt YoU?" Bro, you'd probably leave your 4 year old with a rabid dog if it meant you could play Xbox or get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:59 AM
52

He was sitting at my dining table at the time. GIRL. He was in your home?? Noooooooooo ☠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:33 AM
16

he tried to talk about how he ruined.... Soft chuckle "Is that really how you saw that relationship?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:09 AM
10

I wonder if his current gf knows this about him lol Then again we're both travelers, and I give less than zero fucks about his personal life because he'll be gone in a week. 👋🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:33 AM
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Yeah, the tension between 10 and 11 and a couple of their companions was.... weird and looking back with an FDS lens reminds me a lot of the push/pull game men play, where they want a relationship but better not acknowledge it because all the lady fans might run screaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:24 AM
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Have you even watched what he does to his companions??? He places them in situations with zero regard for their mental or physical well being and half the time they only survive through their own fortitude, and the Stockholm syndrome is fucking real with the first few newer doctors. I say this as someone who loved that show and watched it religiously until Peter Capaldi came on board. It was easier to pretend the Doctor wasn't toxic when he pretended to give a flying rat's ass about his companio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:55 AM
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I feel like THIS is why it is called statutory rape: you may be physically capable of giving consent at 14 or 15 or 16, but your brain is not developed or prepared enough to be skeptical of a 20- or 30-something adult with manipulative tricks under his belt. That twinge of regret is your brain telling you something was fucked up about that after the fact, and that is normal. Your gut knew he was disgusting and creepy for chasing a little girl 5-10 years younger than himself, but your underdevelo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:42 AM
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Literally last night a guy (who already has a gf) at work was talking to some other women and he said something like "you can't just ask a girl her name, you've gotta walk up and make her think. Make her tell you her name. Asking is so beta." And my fucking head turned like it was on a goddamn swivel and I was like WHAT...? And I looked at the women he was talking to and said something told me he doesn't get a lot of names...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:17 AM
18

😟 Russell! 🤢 What did he do? Eat the entire menu of the Heart Attack Grill in one sitting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:45 PM
7

Fucking yikes. Then I hope for her sake that it does as well! We all deserve better than that shit. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:51 PM
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I have this silly urge to bookmark this comment and check back with you in a couple of years to see if it held true 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:19 AM
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Yeah, the first time it could have been a typo, but no..... listen lady, ON is the same as IN, and you better believe he was ON that chick and IN her. Repeatedly. Hiking.... right. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:29 AM
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(This got long AF, sorry.) I think it may be helpful to sit down and do a little bit of calming exercises (Hear me out, here. Don't laugh too hard yet!) like meditation or yoga or whatever works for you (hell, it could be knitting or journaling). Take some time to really listen to what your head is saying. Sometimes we get so tangled up in thinking about our relationships with others that we do ignore the small things that we're not okay with. Journaling may be helpful in this instance because y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:42 AM
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"Breaking news: Denial apparently not just a river in Egypt. More at 11, back to you, Jan."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:33 AM
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"A'ight, dust bucket?" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:12 AM
15

Get Boost for reddit. I'm on android and I haven't seen an ad in 4 years. It's glorious. Not even the promoted posts show up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:07 AM
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Holy fucking hell this comment section.... I have never wanted to buy reddit gold more than in this exact moment 😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:36 AM
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Hey! We have the privilege of getting free food from our prospective life mates, but don't take them to restaurants because all women are gold diggers! Take them for a walk around the park and complain that there was no spark. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:18 AM
2

Some days I have that scene from Moonstruck playing on a loop in my head.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:08 AM
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This aashole thought he would win over her longtime companion. He gave her his boundary and she respected it by dumping his ass and he hasn't even realized it yet. 😂 Ultimatums are bullshit if you're not willing to follow through on the consequences of your choice. She was and now he's crying to the internet. But hey, now he can move to one of his top ten countries! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:34 PM
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I have to disagree with both of you here. "At face value" means that you are just looking at the surface, without delving any deeper. Thus what she said is true: at face value, he seems like a catch, but scratch the surface and the rot shows through. The part of her comment I disagree with is giving him another chance. We are not in the business of teaching men to treat us right. They can go practice on someone else. Once he has offered low effort, where does the teaching stop? No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:34 PM
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No lie, her tactics are ones that I used on my children when they were little. Conning him into mowing by making it seem fun? Dragging him to every room in the house to show him every trash can that needs emptying? Does he seriously not use any of the cans? He has never watched a TV show where an adult had to mow their own lawn or vacuum their house? He's never looked at his wife busting her ass cleaning and thought gee maybe I could offer to help and ask how she wants it done? I know that some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:18 PM
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I have a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation and I use it both alone and with my husband. It indeed gets the job done much faster when I'm alone, but to me speed isn't the point of being with my husband. The skin to skin contact and bonding emotionally with another human being is worth almost as much to me as an orgasm (which I get anyway because he puts in the effort). I guess what I'm saying is that with my partner, the orgasms aren't the ultimate goal of sex, but when I'm alone they absol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:43 PM
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I'm not salivating over anything that isn't served cooked over a bed of veggies or noodles. Is he going to slice it up and Sautee it in white wine or something? No? Then I'm not cock hungry. Edit - not even puppies! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:32 PM
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Yes! It was packed full of figurines, cardboard cutouts, full sized models/dolls of Lola, and it was only ONE of the rooms dedicated to stuff like that. Umm excuse me? There are several psychiatrists who would like a word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:54 AM
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I'd rather he place the blame on absent fathers, where it should rightfully be placed. Men who, might I fucking add, are his age or older. How's that for demonizing? Not only is he implying the younger men are failures at "manhood" (whatever the fuck he thinks that is), but he just sliiiiiiiiides right over the fact that older men are responsible for the younger ones "not having good examples of manhood." Dude, they HAVE examples of manhood, from men your age, which tell them that they have no r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:17 AM
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Imagine thinking you have the right to shit on someone's happiness just because nobody fucking asked your opinion. Fucking yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:33 AM
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"I wish you didn't remember." If wishes were horse, motherfucker.... "Why do you always bring that up?" Because you keep doing it? "I know I made mistakes!!! Stop reminding me :'(" With such a short memory, I'm concerned about your ability to function... "How many more times are you going to bring this up?" Until you stop doing it "I said I was sorry! What more do you want from me?" Stop doing it? "I can't apologize for things I don't feel sorry for." I'm not in the business of helping sociopath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:20 PM
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"I feel like I'm a nice person..." but I'm about to say something really douchey now and you'll have to physically hold yourself back from laughing at me or punching me in the face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:31 PM
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If I were in the dating pool, one of my requirements would be a grown man who doesn't spend time on social media. I don't like my picture posted online, I'm fiercely private (having grown up juuuust before the internet was a thing) and that would be a red flag for me. I've had virtual strangers take group pics and post that shit on Facebook and tag me. NO THANK YOU. I have my reasons, and I always ask them to untag me at the least, or take the photos of me down. We're not friends and I have peop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:29 PM
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I had a feeling. I figured it meant you never relaxed enough around him to come again, not that I blame you. Such an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:44 PM
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My mother did the same thing when I was filing for divorce from my ex. He was a nice enough guy, just generally low effort and not the one for me. She tried to tell me I should stick it out and try to fix things. This woman who was at the time on marriage number 4 (+? Never could determine if she was married to some of the men she lived with), told me I should stay. 🤨 It was the first step in slowly fading from our relationship. It may be a coping mechanism from their raising, but there are unhe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:05 AM
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Jesus christ on a pogo... any person who actually says that out loud is a sociopath, lacks any empathy for other beings, and should be dropped like a hot rock. I'm so sorry to hear that she did that to you, and I'm glad that you have developed a strategy that works for your mental health. I cull my social relationships in much the same way, and can vouch for its effectiveness. I'm very happy with a tiny number of solid friends who don't spout bullshit at me. My life has become so much calmer sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:06 AM
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They play us too. Note she didn't say she never had sex with him again; she said she never had one (orgasm) with him again....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:19 AM
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First of all, orgasms are not a competitive sport. There's no gold medal for having them faster or better or squirting or screaming. That is a humongous lie sold to men and women by porn. Most women (as far as I can tell) do not exactly require ceiling swings and whips to achieve orgasm; we are for the most part simple with our needs. We want to feel heard and loved and don't want to be taken advantage of. That's like half the foreplay required: safety and compassion. Beyond that, any man with a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:17 AM
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Girl, you wish. The judge will be a man (statistically most of them still are) and his reaction will be the exact same as every man on reddit: "he's just trying to be affectionate and funny!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:51 AM
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Holy motherfucking shit, every story on here about abuse makes me so angry and this one is just so goddamn petty and I want to give past you a hug and a ride home to pack your shit before he got back. I'm so glad for you that you're out of that situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:49 AM
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Yeah, no. In my family we all have solid boundaries. I never did tickle much with my older two, outside of a tiny little finger wiggle in the armpit to make them giggle. But the instant someone looked unhappy or said stop it was over. Later I instituted a safe word and they only ever used it for breathing time between mad tickles (my younger kids are masochists, I have no idea where they got it). Now that they're all over 10, we don't really do that anymore. There are pretty firm personal spaces…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:43 AM
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Thank you for the input! I assumed as much regarding the vetting, because frankly if they had to do background checks they would be charging the donors lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:36 AM
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I'm so happy for you, that the option is available and I wish you the best with your prospective motherhood. It is tough, but I've enjoyed the hell out of the moments where I didn't want to strangle them 😂 As they get older, I appreciate them more in different ways although I miss the baby/toddler phases with a fierceness I didn't think I would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:31 AM
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The rise of men accessing casual sex through dating apps has been prevalent for quite a while. The decline in birth rates is a tiny bit more recent. In all seriousness, I suspect more women are making full use of pregnancy prevention and abortion measures because more of us are waking up to the reality that having a baby by a useless ass man is far, far worse than being single and childless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:40 AM
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That's pretty interesting. I saw a post on here about sperm banks, and how even though they screen for optimal donors it still only pays like 75 bucks a sample. I was cracking up on that one, and I wonder how hard they vet on those. Do they actually verify that the donor has the education and physical requirements?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:18 AM
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I am so sorry they treated you that way. You are not difficult, and it is on your providers to pick up on cues that you are distressed. Especially given your comment about him yanking on your underwear. I say this as a nurse (albeit not in the ED). It may be helpful for you to have a script to run in your head when forced to seek emergent care. Ask your nurse for privacy right off the bat, before you're forced to engage panic mode due to invasive things, and let her know that you have triggers d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:34 PM
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Can we also talk about despite being locked in together for essentially a year projected birth rates are still on the decline? Is it possible that familiarity (with LVM) breeds contempt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:14 PM
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To be fair, Vampirism has a venerated history in folklore. Harvard was just establishing that (despite not working quite the way it did according to Bram) it is effective. 😂😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:11 PM
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Well, that's where I went wrong! I didn't shove a speaker up my vagina for my fetuses (feti?). I swear if men had uteruses, shit like that would be a complete nonstarter. They won't even go to the doctor for prostate exams without the threat of cancer? Can you imagine shoving a SPEAKER up there? It'll be good for your bowel movements!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:06 PM
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"They don't talk like any women I know" Gee, I think it's kind of telling that not a single woman you know has trusted you enough to share her trauma and distrust of most men. It's a shame they don't consider you part of the subset of good men. I wonder what could possibly have given them that impression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:48 AM
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Fully agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:56 AM
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Hey, I was going to edit but wasn't sure you'd see it. Someone else pointed out the rest of the slides which hadn't shown up when I first clicked. I didn't see the part where he referred to Breastfeeding as gory, which firmly places him into the stupid/crazy territory you saw him in. I thought he was just a jerk, using adequate language for pushing out a human and being unsupportive of the woman having to do it. But NOPE. It was so much worse. I wish I could be surprised by this turn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:29 PM
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Ahhhhhhh, the slides didn't show up when I originally opened it. I'm not used to desktop reddit but my phone was charging. I was looking for more, but sometimes people just cut off the screenshot, so I shrugged it off. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:24 PM
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Precisely. "we've done nothing to make ourselves attractive to the opposite sex and they want nothing to do with us! They effectively pushed us into ruining our brains and penises for sexual gratification!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:20 PM
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Fair enough. I personally think it is okay to consider birth a miracle and also a bloody, messy process. It doesn't have to be one or the other. In fact, it is possibly more miraculous that so many women survive it (and too many still do not).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:15 PM
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Wait, what? I missed the breastfeeding part. I knew he was an ass already, but goddamn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:12 PM
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Haha, have you been around a birthing? There's blood and feces and urine and other disgusting fluids. There's a reason for the trash bag at the foot of a birthing bed in hospitals. Maybe not violence, though. I've been on both sides of it, personally and professionally, and 10/10 do not recommend. EDIT - NOT TO SAY that he is justified in being a dick, just that gore is actually pretty apt as a term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:35 PM
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Pffft. for the 5 minutes it took for him to cum, then he shoved her out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:31 PM
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I do find it interesting that he uses the present tense "I AM guilty", not "WAS guilty." I have to wonder if he still feels the guilt of it, or if he is telling on himself. My first instinct is to give him credit, but this sub has made me reflect on my instincts and I see below that there are still issues with his behavior that I wasn't aware of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:30 PM
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I'm pretty sure it's because they insert tags that make them seem like feminists, which we don't necessarily see. I am pretty ruthless in my culling of YT recommendations if I'm not interested, but I spend a lot of time on there in my downtime (background noise as I craft) and I don't want to listen to bullshit. If I did, there's Fox news for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:08 PM
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Oh my fucking....WHATTTTTTT? I don't even know anymore. I don't even drink and I need alcohol just to cope with that whole comment. Chocolate. I'll just eat my feelings right now. ;_;
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:03 PM
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My god, that is something I never would have thought of. But his book does say that the level of violence men sink to is purely determined by what they feel is acceptable. If the first responders shame them by calling it selfish or unacceptable, that would alter their perception of acceptable violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:58 PM
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"I don't want to walk on eggshells, never knowing when a virtual stranger will cross my stated boundaries through sheer fucking entitlement. Good luck with that, though." Don't send that, but goddamn these assholes need a dressing down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:50 PM
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> (especially in America during college). FTFY American culture has this weird perpetual youth thing going on. It's gross. I'm so happy I outgrew that in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:43 PM
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I am fucking HERE for that shit. I loled so hard I think I scared the neighbors....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:40 PM
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God, that hadn't even registered in my night shift brain. This is what I get for opening reddit when I wake up. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:01 PM
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I'm sorry, I haven't kept up with anything but the headlines. Why do you say it is geared to white women? I've never been so happy to have burned down my babymaker...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:58 PM
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Don't you know it's tough to keep up with all his doctor's appointments and clinic visits for his heart failure and low sodium/low fat diet planning? He needs help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:09 AM
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If the fabric of society can't stand a little machine wash now and then...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:03 AM
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What the fuck does that question even mean? My hard limit for food? Drugs? Sex? Them prying into my business? My hard limit on privacy got blown away about 5 minutes ago....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:33 AM
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I'm not trying to be hurtful, merely letting you know how your replies come across. It does go both ways, when your statements are dismissive it makes people less likely to open up and have a conversation. I like to think we try to be supportive of each other here and I meant it when I said if you have ideas for alternatives, we are here to listen. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:37 PM
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Ugh. I don't know if you saw the post yesterday about how men have convinced the world that anger isn't an emotion (tweet screenshot). My reaction to "his feelimgs" is that lust is not a feeling and he can gtfo with that shit. I cannot imagine why he thought that was an appropriate thing to divulge to a colleague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:12 PM
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OP posted this in hopes of being helpful. Do you have constructive suggestions for those who cannot fire hot lead at their oppressors? Im sure we'd be interested in hearing them. All I'm seeing is you sneering at the options presented. It's difficult to stay engaged in a conversation with someone when they express such contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:06 PM
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The more I've been reading stories on reddit, the more introspection I've been doing about past friendships with men, and I can't think of a single close male friend in over 25 years as a (adult) woman who wasn't just hanging on on the off chance I'd fuck him despite being married. Not a single one was selfless or vested in my well being as a person. The few men with whom I am friends today are primarily my husband's friends, and they are truly good men in our age range but they're not my friend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:19 AM
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Sex work is work! Uh huh, I found out the reason all the sex workers in Pahrump NV didn't get stimulus money last year is because even though it's legal, the state refuses to tax them like a real job, so they don't get social security, or any other benefits derived from taxation. Yet, they still have to get health checks at the health district, and no one can convince me it's not primarily for the benefit of their customers. I like that it's mandatory but it just feels scummy and self serving on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:57 AM
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Haha, I was here to say this exact same thing. And few sentences are guaranteed to trigger me faster than "Calm down." Volcano incoming 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:53 AM
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Okay, no one claimed it is a gun gun. It simply has a grip convenient to the human hand, and doesn't have the issues you brought up about aerosol sprays. Many places don't allow the legal ownership of guns, and this just one option on the spectrum of what is legal and available. There is no claim that it is the pinnacle of self defense, but if someone is approaching you with aggressive body language, is it not better to have something rather than nothing? Self defense is great, but having more o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:51 AM
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I try! A woman needs variety in life. 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:28 AM
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If someone hasn't experienced it they won't get it. I gently beg to differ. I have never been abused by a significant other, though I have had my boundaries crossed by acquaintances on occasion, and I understand that he gives zero fucks about OP's well being. It should not be too much to expect that a caring friend can empathize when you have a panic attack after hearing from someone. There should be no "awwwww how sweet, he still cares". No. Their friend is literally panicking over this; a grai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:25 AM
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What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:08 AM
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A) They don't care B) No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:00 AM
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Their video claims it is not an aerosol, so it won't blow back in your face. It seems like more of a gel, launched at high speed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:55 AM
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Thanks! I thought as much, since condoms haven't changed much in 100 years lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:30 AM
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No worries, I just have a fetish for giving accurate information 😋 Its my nursing side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:30 AM
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The only redeeming feature of that sub is that there is an automod that posts a message about contacting authorities when children receive messages like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:27 AM
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I saw where he was going and I still laughed like an idiot. Thank you for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:54 AM
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I will say I haven't come across that one myself simply because I was never single long enough. I saw my daughter dealing with being disappointed that the boys where we live were paying attention to her friend and not her, but it seems her disappointment was a result of her friend teaching her these pickme values. She didn't actually want to 'date' any of those boys, she just thought she should because the only example she had was doing it. They were 14ish. Fast forward 2 years and a pandemic an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:52 AM
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Last I heard, doubling up wasn't recommended since it increases the risk of the condoms slipping or breaking. Any new education on that front?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:39 AM
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I don't care how fast he moved on, so much as his behavior around the split. Whether he was future faking her, or couldn't mentally cope with the next step of their relationship (they were literally talking about buying property that morning), it marks him as not worthy of her. That is LV behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:29 PM
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Uhhhh, he ditched her without a second glance. He IS a LVM. At most I would give his shit to his friends, so they can pass it on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:05 PM
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Please, honey, read the handbook front to back. Realize this jerk was future faking you and decided he was in too deep when you two started talking about buying property together, panicked and ditched. If he is fine treating you like this once, why on earth would you want this guy? He clearly has no compunctions about your feelings or well being. Think long and hard about the way he treated you: shit like this doesn't come out of nowhere unless he was a true sociopath and a master at hiding hims…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:04 PM
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State nothing... his joint assets with his current wife will be tapped first to pay for his care, unless she had the brains to move it offshore and get rid of assets or something equally skeevy. That poor woman has no business upending her life and that of her daughter to take this guy in now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:57 PM
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Lol the friend was probably like, "look I'm moving anyway, I'll just get a bigger place. He can't possibly be worth it." Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:55 PM
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It says a lot that she didn't even ask what the hell his problem is. She didn't even call, just texted. Probably after she got off the phone with her new attorney.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:05 AM
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Aging is just a fluid process of life. Truth. No man ever looked at a picture of a 500 year old shark and thought to himself "damn that thing really hit a wall." No, we marvel at how much it must have survived and seen. No one looks at their aging pet and thinks "gosh rover, you've hit a wall buddy. Time to go out with the trash." We are grateful for the years of companionship and love they've given. Only men can look at women and think that. No woman looks at a dude and says to herself that he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:57 AM
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Christ, the men commenting.... I didn't realize it was a cross-post and almost reported one of them 😂 Yeah, yeah men are trash... move on. Okay bud, case in point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:44 AM
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He straight had an out of body experience. 😂 He has that deer in headlights/PTSD stare the whole time. 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:18 AM
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Yeah, I'm a little disturbed that this is a thing. "Haha no one would want my man because of...." Then why do YOU want him if that's such a terrible trait, and if you want him its entirely possible someone out there likes his hobbies just as much as he does. Also, why are so many of these guys wearing helmets at home? Even Boba didn't wear that shit while lounging on his couch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:07 AM
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If my mom had ever said that to me, my immediate reaction would be "it would also be easier to divorce his dumb ass." If I have to babysit every move another adult makes, they are not worth my time. Children were a decision and a commitment, adults are not my fucking problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:07 AM
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My husband is the same. I haven't even kept track of what's in our family fridge in YEARS. I do some shopping for my own snacks and goodies for everyone because I like treats, but the general household feeding? Nawwwww. He shops, cooks, and the dishes are shared, and I don't hear a fucking word about it unless he is just too tired to cook that day (which is fair because he works too). I can't even fucking envision a world where I updated him (or vice versa) every time I accomplished a portion of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:21 AM
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I want to gild you, but I don't want to give reddit money. 😭 Why is life so fraught with difficult decisions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:42 AM
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Trevor Noah, the only man who can make me laugh and cry in under 30 seconds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:00 AM
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Lilith, that is like saying it's a shame you can't be friends with a tiger. Sure, they may attack bad people, but that's because they attack everyone. The difference between AHS and a tiger is that tigers can be left alone in their natural habitat and AHS seems bent on ruining ours. Also, I am perplexed by the defense of people who do terrible things on the basis that they are a vulnerable class. That should be an entirely separate issue from their behavior as an offender. For example, Aimee did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:02 PM
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Makes you wonder how they have it to hand. Welllllll, if it's true that Aimee is one of their mods, or is associated with them, her partner can certainly hook them up with that, seeing as he is a self avowed pedophile who has been writing his proclivities all over the web for years. Hacked Twitter, my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:54 PM
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I saw him do it and I've got nothing. Baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:27 PM
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Not as weird as that guy who runs water over his pizza before eating it. The girl took video and posted it as proof. What. The fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:08 PM
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"Sprayed all over her bedroom"..... like men are skunks? I've stimulated a man's prostate and yes he was very much wowed by it, but he was no fucking firehose. Jesus, the cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:24 AM
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"K" What a self absorbed loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:02 AM
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I would imagine it is the same as for non pregnant women: make sure you have your own finances in order, consult a good lawyer, plan your exit, and execute it accordingly with as little drama as possible. Of course this is not applicable to abusive situations, where extra caution for your safety must be taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:30 AM
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I'm not very knowledgeable about the stock market, but an IPO is an Initial Public Offering (of a company's stock for purchase by investors). The point OP is making (I think) is that they need to start getting busy cleaning up reddit's public image before trying to get people to invest in their stock. Good luck with that shitshow. If there is an IPO, I hope someone talks to a major publication about the revenge porn and child porn and all the other crap lurking on here. Not to mention the shitsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 10:43 AM
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Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 10:39 AM
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"I personally know 2 guys who are up on charges, but they can't possibly be sex offenders because women are eeeeeeevillllll" 🥴 What kind of crackerjack logic bullshit is this? We can hardly get police to believe us when we report crimes against women, but all of a sudden we're master manipulators and can get DAS to prosecute on the mere hint of our word that a man was naughty? World news says you can't have it both ways, asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:16 PM
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I shouldn't have smirked at your recommendation of a handheld vacuum for a guy with no hand muscles, but I did. Its okay, my reservation in hell was made decades ago....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:49 PM
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So it's not a law so much as a violation of professional ethics (afaik - I work in hospitals, not pharmacies). By using private information about OP, which he gained in the course of his work as a pharmacist, he accessed her social media and tried to add her. Pretty much every workplace sees this behavior as a HUGE boundary crossing (as they should). So when OP called his work to report him, they fired him for his creepy behavior. HIPAA doesn't really apply here, I think, because he didn't discl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:46 PM
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Hope springs eternal... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:24 AM
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I've gotten exactly one DM, saying I was probably a fat cow. I laughed so hard. Like yeah, I'm overweight, but I still get laid more than he does, and I have a wonderful family with a husband who worships the ground I walk on (and not just for my vagina, thank god). Nothing they can say matters to me. I am a reasonably good person, with a fantastic job that I enjoy doing, and I like my life. Funny how shitty opinions melt away in the face of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:49 AM
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Ah, but you left out the "shut up or" part. No one likes having their words parroted back at them demonstrating how stupid they sound. Eta that shutting him up would be just as much of a win as him catching a clue, if he's frequently spewing dumbassery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:24 AM
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Every time he says anything derogatory about any woman, just throw it back at him: "she's so lucky though, guys aren't picky so she could get with anyone!" Slather on the false cheer, super perky attitude. Eventually he will shut up or get a clue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:51 AM
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you're like a man in a woman's body "Why? Is that because you're actually attracted to men?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:32 AM
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"Jesus girl, stop fucking men for 5 minutes and get your life and your shit together. Get an education and earn a living for yourself."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:50 PM
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I'm sorry to have to be the one to tell her: a neck tattoo isn't personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:38 PM
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They shouldn't worry so much. Not all men are like that, right? If they've got nothing to hide, they should be welcoming the checks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:14 PM
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In an hour, no less! Brass balls on that one...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:45 AM
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I gave a hearty chuckle. I love everything about this: the art, the sass, the little tiger print jacket with hood (just in case of dickhead showers!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:09 PM
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I love how pissed he is. FEEL THE RAGE 😂😂 "WHOSE MAN IS THIS?" 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:07 PM
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That post made me sad and angry on behalf of that child. You know he's going to talk shit about her until the day that kid goes to college, and then when he's old and alone he'll wonder why the kid never comes to visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:31 AM
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Pffft, I know! My parents were divorced before I turned 2, and my father was toxic AF (mom wasn't much better, but at least she didn't shit talk about him). Why is this an inducement to the institution? I'm happily married now, butttttt if anything ever happens to my husband, I'll happily die alone. I don't need to do another human being's cleaning ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 05:42 AM
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Apparently experience with being a woman makes me psychic 🔮 lol I'm sorry to hear that it's worse. It may be time for a revolution 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:47 AM
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there is always a possibility of pregnancy for women except for anal sex. I understand you're not advocating for anal, and I have to give a tiny PSA that even anal sex doesn't preclude the possibility of pregnancy. Precum can contain sperm. Semen can dribble to the vaginal orifice and actually migrate and fertilize an ovum. (Why does my autocorrect recognize 'precum' but not 'semen', 'sperm', or 'vaginal'?) So you can (under very rare circumstances) become pregnant after non-vaginal sex: frottag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:04 AM
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A guy does it to keep himself from hitting you. I seriously think they do it as (a threat and) a precursor to hitting you. The only thing keeping them from carrying out the threat is the potential consequence (an arrest record/the judgment of other men) ruining their livelihood. I have had many discussions with my husband on topics where we disagree. Not once has that man become heated enough to so much as tense his hands, much less clench them into fists. And I go hard when I debate things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:42 PM
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What sub was that screenshot from yesterday? The one praising him as a hero? They're not silent, they're happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:31 PM
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Yup, if you're not the buyer, then you're the product. If we haven't learned this from social media yet, then we never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:27 PM
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Let me guess, he got what he wanted and Parliament went on as if she had never spoken?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:26 PM
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The worst part is, she didn't even ASK for an expensive gift. She even gave him a homemade memento for his bday, which he didn't appreciate either. He's sitting there ranting and throwing a full on tantrum about her materialism and "brainwashing" while she just asked for something that would indicate he gives a shit. Cooking spicy food for himself when she has clearly told him she doesn't like it rather shows the opposite. In fact this whole rant shows he has paid exactly zero attention to anyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:43 PM
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God, this using spectrum disorder as an excuse to be nonfunctional when they are clearly capable just pisses me off so badly. My oldest son was evaluated during middle school at the request of one of his teachers (a whole other can of worms I won't go into). The psychologist gave us a slew of checklists to go through, and did both in- and out-of-class evals 1 on 1 with my kid. Before it began, he offered me the option to decline the evaluation, but I wanted it because if my child has a disabilit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:28 PM
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There was a post on popular today that screenshotted a list of standards from a strategy coach. The comments were all saying how unreasonable the list was and how they're not surprised she's "miserable". Ummmm, I didn't see anything about her being miserable, or even indicating it in what he screenshotted. Also, I feel like they have some reading comprehension issues: the misery they see is created by terrible men with shitty behavior. It certainly isn't from being alone, it is because finding a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:57 PM
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Call me crazy, but isn't the word kink to designate an abnormal fetish? Cherishing your spouse should be normal. Cuddling, forehead kisses, and hugs should be part of your normal interactions with a significant other. I've got nothing on the ass wiping, though. My husband carries baby wipes in his bag, so I'm flabbergasted that some men won't even clean themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:49 PM
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Lol Right? What was the dog supposed to do? Decline the honor and berate its owner for being a douche?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:01 AM
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I'm dying that I watched that whole tiktok and that's a minute and a half of my life I'll never get back 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:58 AM
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My hairstylist (whom I adore for many reasons, but she's no spring chicken either) said to me when I was talking about highlights "...plus it'll blend some of those grays..." I was 32. 😒 Now I give zero fucks about grays, and get balayage for fun. The roots can tell on themselves and I can't wait for them to take over completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:12 PM
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His TJMaxx analogy is spot on, but he doesn't realize HE is the odd sized, last year's style he's talking about. 🙄 Dinner is not enough inducement to spend time with someone like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:08 PM
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I feel like a predator would put in effort. This guy's laziness and cheapness are the ONLY things competing here, and it's with each other. He is so low effort, I'm amazed he can breath and swallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:51 PM
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If he couldn't reach his car door, how did he open it? How did he pump gas? You were absolutely right to be skeptical. Those are just the first questions I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:49 PM
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So, she picked a photo of him after his arrest looking all deer in headlights, and the hair styles in the 70s were.... less than flattering. Google him and take a look at some of the more flattering pictures to understand why women at the time were likely to override their instincts. He looked pretty human when smiling, and did a good job of camouflaging his dead fish eyes. I personally do not find him attractive, but I don't base attraction on appearance so that doesn't mean much. Word is that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:45 PM
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Hang up or flip it on the radio host: "he invaded my privacy and dug through my personal items while I stepped out of the room, and you are enabling and encouraging his shitty behavior. What is wrong with you people?" click They want to shame her for having boundaries? Shame them right back for being invasive assholes. Eta, this is why I don't answer unknown numbers! Leave a message, and make it good if you want contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:35 AM
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Personal experience as a bedside nurse: a patient came in after overdosing, she was a long time psychiatric patient, with several inpatient psych stays in the past. Her parents were caregivers for her and her 2 small children, the youngest of which was conceived during her last psych commitment. They requested that she not be sent back to that facility once she was ready for downgrade, as it was thought a male staff member was the father of her infant. 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:31 AM
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I had to listen, and now I'm watching her song Show Me.... Oof. And she has such a voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:46 AM
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I will take this a step further and say any man in his 50s who uses snapchat is a predator. There is no legitimate reason for adults to be using a self deleting chat app. I'm in my 40s and have never even downloaded it. Why do adults need this?? It's skeevy on its face. Period. Also, you know who else is "persistent"? Rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:03 AM
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I had a man tell me his friend wanted coffee dates because "wHaT iF ThEy DoN't HiT iT oFf?" I said, if a man can't make polite conversation over a meal for 30 minutes, he doesn't deserve to hit it off with anyone. What the actual fuck. What they mean by 'hitting it off' is taking a quick peek to see if she's hot or not. No, guys. Anyone who takes this tack isn't dating; he is serial fucking and women don't need that kind of hassle. THIS is why low effort dates are an easy filter: you know right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:45 AM
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I'm so glad you posted this! I had been putting off watching it because I had seen such lukewarm reviews and muttering online about how it's not as good. It never occurred to me those were coming from disgruntled misogynists. Now I need to add it to my list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:39 AM
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I would expect to see headlines in the next year or so, that he followed through on those threats. He absolutely sees this as emasculating and will want to recover face. I hope she can survive this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:16 AM
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I like this even better because the literal translation is 'for nothing', as in "you're thanking me for nothing, it was a pleasure to help". But DeRien over there is Mister Nothing. 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:29 AM
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Mmhmm, I think the key is enjoying cooking. I'm a survival cook: I will make healthy meal prep for my work nights, but my days off I'm exhausted and I just want to eat without effort. It's hard for me to make that conscious decision some days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:13 AM
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The key is to not have your pot at a rolling boil! That will shred your poached eggs faster than you can say boo. A very mild simmer is enough. I had to watch a recipe on the French Cooking Academy YT channel to learn that shit. I was always afraid of making them because I kept seeing people serve these little yolk bags with lace for whites lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:10 AM
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Ah, yes. They could have a knife or a gun and you never know what they'll do. Which is exactly what women have been telling you for decades: men are by and large unpredictable and dangerous. Thank you, gentlemen (I use the term very loosely here), for making my point for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:33 AM
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I think the important part was that he took action. So many of these guys whining about how they're not like that would have looked the other way. How do I know this? Because they do. Every day. Talk is cheap. Put up or shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:48 AM
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Just finished, and I can already tell I'll be listening regularly. Good discussion, solid foundation and background, all with humor and grace. I love it.💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:45 AM
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I searched for female dating strategy and it popped up with the right icon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:06 AM
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I flip it around and feel grateful that I had the opportunity to grow away from that person. Every woman alive still has the chance to grasp the truth of her own value, and set her own boundaries. Despite the fact that I was already married before discovering this sub, and had a strong set of my own boundaries and expectations, I still had, no, HAVE a lot of room for growth. Finding FDS has been an absolute blessing for me. It has given me such an amazing wealth of knowledge, different viewpoint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:27 AM
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Added on stitcher, can't wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:07 AM
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My husband and I are not really drinkers, and the occasional beer with BBQ doesn't bother me at all since I wouldn't be drinking myself anyways. I would be very uncomfortable with a man who drank more than occasionally (even when I wasn't pregnant), since I don't either. I think this may be a highly subjective thing, depending on a woman's habits apart from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:53 PM
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This has been going on for a long time, and has nothing to do with the content of your comment. They are modded by men and use FDS membership and participation as an excuse to ban you. They include all those other subs because everyone knows they're hateful; they ban FDS because we say things that tank their dating strats. They think that maybe, just maybe, if they lump FDS in with the hate subs enough then people will assume FDS is hateful too. There's hate alright, but it isn't on our end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:45 PM
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Okay, so you can relax a tiny bit. I suspect that every comment with the word k_ll in it gets that automod message. I've gotten it several times and not been banned after the review by an actual human. I'm honestly not sure what the logic is for the automod message rather than just flagging it for review and banning as needed. But the takeaway is, keep calm and carry on. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:44 AM
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So, I would like to be sure I understand. Men are unable to obtain sex, jobs or property... because they're men? Women in western countries (the article seems to be focused on the US) are rising in education, income and property ownership despite having been deprived of the right to those things for nearly the entirety of civilized history, but MEN are disenfranchised? Do women have a monopoly on self improvement, or education? I'm confused about what exactly the fuck is stopping these men from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:51 AM
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You stay calm, I'm fucking excited 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:41 PM
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If being a sugar baby is so lucrative, why does she straight up admit she's broke? She says it right in the video. If all these men are lining up to throw cash at her, why isn't she rich yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:16 PM
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In that case I will give him credit for at least openly admitting he got therapy. If I paid any attention to the man I would be cautiously optimistic for his wife and kids. Lol Honestly he was so vile in the 90s when I last heard anything about him, that I flushed any thought of him from my mind as not worth the effort. And 99% of celebrities fall into that category for me: outside of admiring their talent or good looks in passing, I do not dedicate brain power to them. I barely have enough to f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:33 AM
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You don't magically grow up in your 50s. I guarantee he's still an asshole, they just don't get to witness it. Either that or 'sweet' Beth has an iron grip on his testicles lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:53 PM
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Please... Their bosses are men too. They know the game, and don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:48 PM
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Not the way she used it. I've seen scrotation used to refer to shitty behavior from men, not a rotation of scrotes. She didn't even bother reading. She just skimmed, found a few catchy words and threw them in sentences that she thought would make the sub look evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:22 AM
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Shit, you know I just realized whoever did the art made the woman's hair look like Greta Thunberg's. 😒 I don't see that style very often on grown women. I also just came from your rebuttal post, and someone commented that they imagined she had already submitted the article and her editor probably said she should ask for commentary before submitting. Sure enough, I see this post and she straight out says she submitted her draft without ever reaching out first! And gave you a generous 24 hours to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:20 AM
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Amazing breakdown of some major points of contention in that trashy piece. I'd really like this to be stickied for a few weeks, while the article causes an influx. That way when women come looking, it is an easy reference for the sub's rebuttal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:13 AM
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I wonder if anybody ever said to men "hang on, stop being violent towards women, you're creating a toxic rift between the sexes" The thing is, what needs to be said is "hang on, force other men to stop being violent toward women." I'll tell you why: because men who are violent toward women don't give a flying fuck about a toxic rift between the sexes. Men who are sitting around whining about being discriminated against... THOSE are the men who (supposedly) have a stake in this, and they are the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:11 AM
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Can't have the prey defending itself... 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:39 AM
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I highly recommend the Lelo Mia 2: it is a wonderful quiet little USB-rechargeable bullet style vibe and I use it alone and with my husband. You can use it to explore the whole area around the clitoris and figure out which spots really do it for you. One thing I've noted about myself is that if things go on too long, my clit will actually get desensitized. If I am stressed or tense and trying too hard to get to climax, it will often backfire with a numb clit. I absolutely must be relaxed and fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:52 AM
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I finally got around to watching it a few weeks back and I still can't decide if their language was purposefully irritating in order to illustrate the problems that were and are still so prevalent in our culture. I say 'our' because they do the same shit in the States, telling women to stay indoors and carry whistles, as if any of this helped then or now. There was this constant grating contrast between the 'prostitutes' and the 'good girls', the 'innocents'. The interviews with female researche…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:33 AM
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And he was originally convicted of brutally murdering another woman, but he was downgraded for good behavior. Of course it's easy to behave well when you're aurrounded by armed guards. As soon as he was placed under limited supervision he re-offended. This isn't even about sex work being legal or not; he would have done this to any woman he managed to get alone. She just happened to be an easier target because she was in the business of delivering sex. This is about a man with easily predictable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:48 AM
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We cannot both hold men responsible for their abusive and manipulative behavior, while still victim blaming the women who suffer their abuse. I don't feel like this is in line with FDS principles. Should we all learn what behaviors are red flags and indicators of future escalation? YES, because it helps us. Is it always possible to predict when a partner will flip on a dime and show himself to be low value? No, as we've seen time and again. All we can do is be mindful of our boundaries and maint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:33 AM
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Personally, that would be a hard stop if I were in the dating pool. Only idiots use that line, and it always means they're hiding something stupid (like a shitty job or a wife/kids they have to spend time with), never that they actually work in security clearance positions. I've been married to TWO men who had top security clearance, had to have my own background checked for their jobs and mine and even my loser first husband never used that line on me. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:25 AM
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Yes! You are literally paying for the professor's time and insight by signing up for classes and paying tuition. That is the best time to ask questions, and no student should ever let a professor make them feel as if they shouldn't. Spreading ideas and information is their job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:15 PM
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Right? My first husband had a nice size to him, but he was just about useless with it bc he thought sex was insertion and piston for a few minutes until he came and fell asleep. I was young and dumb and that wasn't even my biggest issue in that marriage. 😒 Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:10 PM
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Regardless of his fetishes or porn usage (which are all good points), when your partner makes you do all the work in the bedroom that is a pretty massive red flag as to his selfishness in other areas of life too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:01 PM
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Can we just admire her self delusion that "he would never ask me to give up my dream job," but that is exactly what she would have to do if she left the workforce for a minimum of six fucking years. Does she not realize the loss of skills, contacts, references, etc... that would occur if she just dropped out of the legal profession until their kids are in school? Because you know it won't be just one; he'll talk her into 3 of them and 12 years later she's a SAHM with zero earning potential and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:17 PM
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Thank you kindly! I wish I had had this attitude 20 years ago, which is why I say it out loud now. If I can help one person realize that other people fucking up is not their problem then I am content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:14 PM
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Yes. But I'm married to my husband for many reasons, one being that he puts his soul into making me feel good in bed and out. He puts in the effort and reaps the rewards after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:37 AM
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If he is masturbating but not having sex with a willing and (VERY) available woman, he is lying about his libido. This behavior is contrary to what he is saying. I also have a friend whose boyfriend refuses to do any work during sex: huuuuuuge red flag. He won't perform oral or even offer to do missionary position. She is always on top and so dissatisfied but won't hear advice on getting rid of him. K. Why do women torture themselves like this? You know a man who isn't getting laid regularly by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:34 PM
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Good lord that makes me insane. My kids have heard the word no nearly since birth, and respect it. Did they sometimes try the "ask the other parent" game, as all kids do? Yeah, but we worked as a team to block it, and explain how disrespectful that is and why it was a No in the first place. Thankfully, they've outgrown that game and No is a hard stop in our home. I also sometimes use this as a filter for people I don't want to socialize with: if they push my No, I will ghost the fuck out of thos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:29 PM
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Yes, but this song is so old it came long before the name change. My 21 year old was a baby when they put out this nugget of genius. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:21 AM
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He bought at least four of them. Baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:15 AM
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What is wrong with just 'no'? It is a full response and doesn't require any elaboration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:36 AM
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THANK YOU. I was looking for this comment. My only thought if he busted out a used scrunchie would be to wonder how many girls had left shit behind during their rotation through his grunge flat. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:29 AM
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Maybe if he took up some cardio for sport, he'd be less disappointed with his life and relationships...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:05 PM
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I'd be bringing a melon baller to church and telling him "if thine eyes offend thee..... you know what to do, bitch."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 09:33 PM
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You know what time it is? . . . . . Time to bloooooooooooock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:38 AM
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I just laughed explosively at work. I hope you're proud of yourself 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:55 AM
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Lol I was gonna say, that accent is defo not american. I couldn't place it but it's not nearly as broad-mouthed as Americans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:04 AM
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Yikes. That's awful. I'm really happy that my daughter doesn't do much internet and has virtually no social media. She's so gloriously and unashamedly herself, I hope she never changes for another person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:49 PM
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Being ‘elegant’ is being strong in the face of adversity, being true to your integrity and morals. Being empathetic. Having the conviction to live by the words you say. Letting others shine without thinking it’ll effect your own shine. Being humble. Accepting you are human and you will make mistakes. Treating others the way you deserve to be treated in turn. Being independent and knowing your there for yourself even when it gets rough. It’s boundaries. It’s supporting and advocating for POC, LGB…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:37 PM
42

Nahhh job applications are better organized and less verbal diarrhea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:40 AM
3

I just use blank bullet journals, and fill in the date and a little decor that pleases my eye when I prep to write. There's no pressure to get it done every day and I can go long if I need to. As for therapy, I finally caved and found a counselor last spring after 42 years of not really having anyone I could just say anything to. It was extremely challenging and liberating at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:57 PM
1

Just a hint of nausea in that lip smack.... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:37 PM
45

There is a magic phrase, "I'm so sorry, I can't make it today/tonight/next week. I have other plans/am not at home." It is okay to step back from soul sucking relationships, even if they are with your girlfriends. Relationships should be about balance: you help each other and ease mutual burdens, not dump on one friend while expecting her to do it all. (It has just occurred to me your friends may be closet men. 😋) In all seriousness,, take time to focus on yourself, your mental health and well b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:39 AM
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MeN lOvE wOmEn WhO mAkE tHe FiRsT mOvE 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:14 AM
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When this was first posted a few months back, she stated that he was supposed to be driving her to a dinner date, but instead took her to his home that wasn't within easy distance of any transportation. She recorded several videos while being held captive in his home, and managed to get around him and out the door by keeping her with about her and talking his guard down. This is why we not only don't go to men's homes, but we do not get in cars (or on boats!!) with strangers. Period. I know we w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:12 AM
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This is because groveling isn't what he is doing. He is trying his absolute damndest to maintain a semblance of control over her life. OP is not wrong in calling him a narcissistic abuser: this is textbook shit. I second all the comments about a paper trail and honestly a registered mail (with signature receipt required) cease and desist from an actual law firm might be a good idea too. Once he receives that, and continues contact, a police report on the harassment will hopefully carry more weig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:08 AM
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"Yeah well my love language is gold and platinum, so if we're going to get transactional here, he can fork up first." ETA the whole point of knowing love languages is to use the one your partner values when you want to make them feel special, not for an excuse as to why you don't do ANYTHING to make them feel special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:10 AM
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You are welcome to try. They just double down. Best option is to just walk away, honestly. I only engaged because they were playing stupid in a nursing sub as spouses, and I wanted to make it clear for my fellow female colleagues that that behavior is bullshit and a façade for their true intention of never picking up the fucking slack in their marriage. It angers me that on top of the shit year healthcare workers have had, their spouses are being actively unhelpful despite knowing their wives ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:34 AM
4

Fucking. Dead. ☠😭😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:54 PM
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He should have communicated before the trip. You know they'd shred a woman who tried this shit on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:52 PM
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I called a dude out on this attitude a few weeks back because he said wives have to tell their husbands when they're upset so the husband can help, like they don't have eyes and a brain to make these observations. I asked how he holds down a job with such poor life skills. All of a sudden, he's like "I would make a coherent argument but I'm going to spend time with my kids." And I was like oh NOW you're a great family man and husband.... suuuuuure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:19 PM
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I'm sorry, I didn't get past the part where her own children are her colleagues (albeit junior, oh praise Jesus! 🙄) If your view of marriage places your partner as your superior, you are in for a LOT of moral injury. Peace out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:14 PM
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The part that gets me is where men think they're doing more than ever and not getting credit for it. No, bud. She's running around managing your time with the kids too, while you don't cook or clean or do laundry. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:41 PM
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This is why, as women, our boundaries are absolutely paramount. Imagine if that woman had held firm to what she knew was best for her. It pisses me off so much that he has the balls to sit there and act like the victim. "BOOHOO I miss my life and my wife" Yeah buddy, I bet she wishes she had never met your sorry manipulative ass. When I was a preteen, my mother remarried and her husband convinced her to have another kid for him. She had my brother, and worked her ass off to support our family wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:52 PM
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Because women aren't people, so hating us is A-okay in their books, and I include that disgusting reddit CEO (iirc) who gave an interview in which he called porn empowering (my eyeballs may never recover from that roll). If women aren't people, then anything goes and the shit I've seen making it to the front page is appalling. It's gotten to where I only load it to see if there is any global news I've missed (sigh at the name of THAT sub...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:23 PM
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The ONLY thing that made my student and early career years feasible was my husband picking up literally all the household duties on top of his job (which was thankfully flexible). He was the cook (still is), the school contact (especially once I started working nights), the coordinator for many family activities (I can't be bothered and he still bakes a custom cake for every child's birthday, including separate ones for our twins). If he had been the typical man expecting me to go to school, wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:15 PM
11

God, you're probably right. I feel bad for her with her green finger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:51 PM
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Sooooo I have 10 year old twins. They make money by making deliveries for my husband's business around our marina. They recently saved for about 6 months and bought TWO switch lites. If my fucking ten year olds can save over 200 bucks each, this man can buy a ring that costs more than a Big Mac combo. What the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:16 AM
21

Ha, I was going to say that I look forward to his camera debut!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:25 AM
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And providing for her children to boot. The nerve of that woman! Making money! Like a MAN! Also, I am dying that they have the balls to hold a meeting and make decisions about her behavior going forward..... WITHOUT HER PRESENT. I want to send that woman champagne for slapping the patriarchy out of this moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:17 AM
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I remarried, but only because I found a man who is all the things I want him to be. I've said it many times: if he dies or shows himself to be other than the man I need, I will never ever live with a man again. Period. I will buy a little bungalow near a beach and die alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:10 AM
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It's not even compliance. It's just malicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:48 PM
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Maybe he should consider lowering his standards...... like he expects women to do. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:34 PM
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You're so welcome! You can substitute Maggi, but that's mostly salt cubes. I like the BTB because it's actually reduced vegetable stock, and is very flavorful. Wondra is just special flour that doesn't clump, so sifting works just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:29 PM
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Super easy (I'm a survival cook, my husband does most of the kitchen duties) 😂 I know this looks like a massive wall of text, but it's honestly not bad. The rotini is just boil to your taste per the box. Sauce: one diced yellow onion blanched in a half stick of butter with one small spoon of veggie Better than Bouillon in the pan. You can get the BTB at most grocery stores. Add in sliced mushrooms of choice, and let simmer to cook down partially covered. When your mushrooms and onions are nice a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:59 AM
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Omg I meal prepped rotini with chicken and mushroom cream sauce and it was delicious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:30 AM
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Haha nope! Faded gold. Also nightmare inducing. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:30 AM
22

Holy shit truth.... that my first boyfriend's car, and you forgot the peeling paint on the hood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:40 AM
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It's telling that his nightmare is being at the mercy of someone he claimed to cherish.... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:07 PM
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I just want a reduction so I don't have to deal with underwires ever again. I just want a pretty bralette in my size. Nope! Grandma bras for you! Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:01 PM
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This video makes me smile every time, she's so adorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:28 AM
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Which misses the whole fucking point because she didn't ask him for anything, and he still offered shitty dessert while hoping for sex. Men on reddit hold this up as an entitled attitude, but the ladies here didn't even ask for this guy's (and guys like him) time, much less his half ass efforts. Sure FDS mocks this behavior, but that's because it is predatory, lazy and low effort, not because it is inexpensive (although cheapness as a character trait is a red flag in its own right).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:08 AM
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Thissssss. If it's their professional account, they absolutely do have a filter: it's called saying what their potential clients want to fucking hear. It's like men have no concept of critical thinking in advertising. Any business will say anything to get you to buy their product; just in this case she is the product and the business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:18 PM
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Nahnahnah.... if I pass up a whole shift for a dinner date, that's 12 hours I won't have the opportunity to earn. 1200 bucks, please. And that's not even counting the overtime after hour 4 (because I'm not calling out my regular shifts for a date, it would have to be OT). If they wanna play, we can play too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:09 PM
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That is a good time to ask for a manager, and tell them they need to educate their employees on consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:41 PM
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Right? " That's an odd way of saying you're intimidated by me" lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:35 PM
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I mean, I could have picked up a work shift instead of loser dates (I don't date, I'm married, but you get the idea). My time is valued around $100/hr these days. He can do the math.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:22 PM
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"Any woman could have told you that life isn't fair, little man. Grow up."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:12 PM
10

u/CatSweets above gave a bit more information, being from Brazil. Apparently gaming was only the link between them, not necessarily the trigger; it seems the killer was some sort of incel and they played in a group together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:35 AM
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Also, women aren't property? The come-backs are funny and witty, but we aren't a commodity and thus the law of supply and demand should not be applied to relationships as if we were. Anyone who thinks in those terms is unworthy of your time and attention. It is textbook misogyny to think women are here to be bought and sold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:04 AM
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I debated making a whole post, but I kind of felt bad making one just to vent. I am a nurse, and have that sub on my front page. There was a post yesterday from a woman who was basically at the end of her rope, and part of her post was her freaking out that her husband wouldn't help her out with the kids so she could have a day to decompress from her insanely stressful job (which had her repeatedly in tears and dreading the next work day). I shit you not, there were people in the comments tellin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:41 AM
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Right?? She's not a feral cat for fucks sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:01 PM
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You can Google Scold's Bridle for more information on that device. It usually had a piece of leather or metal that fit inside the mouth between the teeth so the woman couldn't talk (instead of the pictured padlock shown above). They've been around since the 16th century, according to Wikipedia. Just more awfulness from the male sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:31 AM
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All joking aside, whose hand is the bride holding on the left? This photo seems to have been cropped for a laugh, but I suspect they're both holding a parent's hand. Every generation has customs that seems a bit weird to others, especially those of us nearly 100 years down the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:10 PM
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That's the beauty of self reflection: you can look at your past and use it to decide your future. You're already head and shoulders above so many people if you can think critically about the way you've come and use it to steer going forward. Also, I love that the friend filter worked positively for once! It is very possible that your unwillingness to "let it slide" made those women begin to think about all the behaviors they allowed in the past, and why they shouldn't have to put up with them. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:38 PM
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Jesus fucking christ that enraged me on a whole other level. I've never experienced shit like that, although I have experienced less traumatic forms of sexual harassment as a teenager. That doesn't mean it doesn't fucking happen; it just means I was more sheltered than most. I recognize as part of my ability to think conceptually that my experience of the world isn't the only one. How is this woman qualified to be a counselor in any way? I am heartbroken for the women who will see her and not kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:16 PM
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That poor guy, someone stole his neck! Probably the last unworthy woman he let in.... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:07 PM
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I love all of the tips in here. I also agree that you shouldn't be too hard on yourself for your reaction to their bad behavior. You might want to take a hard look at the people you are hanging out with as well, if the ones in the above story are part of your friend group. Start being more choosy in the people you spend time with, because their behavior affects you. That ruined mood? Why was the group upset (even silently) with you calling out shitty behavior? We should all be a bit confrontatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 09:03 PM
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"The carpet matches the drapes" is a reference to a woman's pubic hair being the same color as the hair on her head. It's disgusting to ask, and I have no idea why this moron thought he would get away with that behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:59 PM
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I love how in the same breath he accuses women of not seeing men as people, and then labels all women as "a product". Excuse me? How does the dissonance not make their heads explode? Also, this is why FDS tells Miss Hypothetical to dump that dude who treats her like a product he's test driving for free. He clearly isn't the right man for her (or any woman with self respect).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:01 AM
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In Outlander, the male lead is captured by a British officer who has a history of sexually abusing male prisoners in his care. (Spoiler/TW) He is brutally tortured and raped repeatedly over the course of days, and is finally rescued by his wife. I cent remember the show, but in the book he was branded and flogged among other things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:46 AM
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For real. I'm married. I love my husband deeply. I love his penis, and he uses it (and the rest of his body) to my pleasure first. Always. I still have NEVER requested nor received a dick pic from this man, and I am okay with this situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:52 PM
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The comments on that article are astoundingly obtuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:49 PM
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Also, can we just discuss how "being the best of all the guys she's seeing" is an insanely low bar, and why can't he rise above it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:28 PM
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Allllllll of this: fantastic comment! Ladies, also bear in mind that no matter how clean HE is (if he cleans himself properly) you still will want to urinate after intercourse to flush the urethra of any bacteria that may have gotten in there during penetration. It can be normal vaginal flora, or anything from his hands or genitals. Bacteria that are normal to have on skin or inside the vaginal opening may be harmful if allowed to migrate into your urethra or bladder, and can even cause kidney i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:58 AM
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News flash: this just in! Women do not owe gratitude for unsolicited comments about their personal, whether the person saying them intends them nicely or not! The more you know...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:10 AM
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Wait til they get to Mrs Whistledown 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:45 PM
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The whole series is based off of a series of romance novels. They're not going to be discerning characters and the plot points are ridiculous throughout the family's romances. Yes, I've read the series and it's fun but not exactly realistic or a good example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:13 AM
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But that hose is such a sexy S-curve!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:10 PM
4

I see you, fellow Bailey Sarian watcher.... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:14 AM
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I especially liked the first one for the numbers breakdown and citing sources. Its a trail to follow for the lazy researcher in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:54 AM
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You're awesome! Thanks 😊 Edit - I keep a folder of articles i find educative in my bookmarks bar and show them to my daughter or husband when time permits. It makes for interesting conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:02 AM
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Honestly, to me there is no such thing as a taboo act. It is always always always about balancing whether the act or behavior will benefit me more than it will hurt me. Especially as I get older, I find myself thinking of the things I do in terms of how they will affect my life. That is really why I phrase it that way: it may be a short term advantage in some way, but will it shoot me in foot tomorrow or next year? This goes for any act, sexual or not, but sexual acts have more impact on your em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:02 AM
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Yes, there was this stuff called 35mm film, which could be put in a camera and used to take pictures. It was then developed into negatives and printed on paper.... 😂😂😂 Jk, yeah there were plenty of print nudes running around and plenty of dudes collecting them for their spank bank (aka the shoebox under their bed). And apparently common enough for it to be one of the first things my (baby boomer) mother told me when I hit puberty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:54 AM
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I would really like links to these to stick in my bookmarks for later reference. Do you happen to have them on hand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:16 AM
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I am just as baffled as I was before, but now I'm disgusted too lol I am so sorry that you (or ANY woman) would ever have to endure such bullshit. I'm glad you left it for him to clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:05 AM
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That is a pretty massive failure on your boss' part. He should have stopped and asked the other teacher to give you privacy. Failing that, it is perfectly socially acceptable for you to say that. "I am receiving a performance evaluation, and I need you to give us adequate privacy. I wouldn't intrude on your evaluation, and I'd appreciate the same courtesy. Thanks." And then stare him down until he leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:54 PM
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I also use a website called Whatsupnails dot com. They have so much stuff, I'm like a kid in a candy store. I started doing my own nails years ago, and have my own gels and lamp and stamping sets. They have it all. Also for the major collections from OPI, China Glaze, and Essie I use polishpick dot com. They have fantastic ship times and customer service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:37 PM
1

Ehh, the only parties I went to (precovid) were dinner parties at my friends' homes with all couples. Would i rinse a couple plates and throw them in the dishwasher during the post dinner socializing? Sure. Am I running around picking up empty bottles? Hard no, but we're all older and mostly clean up after ourselves as we go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:19 PM
5

Wait. What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:07 PM
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Dude. I'm a nurse, though not in L&D. If my pts spouse said that out loud in my hearing I would ask him to leave. Those kinds of statements are not conducive to a healing environment and I'd be asking her some pointed questions about whether she would like a social worker to visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:59 PM
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When I was young, before the advent of the internet, my mother told me to never take "dirty pictures" of myself and to respect my public image as if I wanted to pursue politics for my career. She knew. She knew that men will beg and plead and bargain for access to your body and images thereof, and they will NOT respect your privacy and autonomy because you do not matter to them as a human being. Exposing your body to men shuts SO many more doors than it opens. It simply isn't worth it, and the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:55 PM
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I am so sorry it was so miserable for you! My heart always goes out to moms with traumatic births or losses, and even diffulicult pregnancies. 💗 I wanted to be a surrogate after having my own kids, because my sister in law had such a hard time keeping her little ones. Sadly I can't have any more; my OB found high grade cervical lesions during my last pregnancy and my factory has officially shut down. I still intend to look into possible fostering when my kiddos are grown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:48 PM
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Same. It has taken me a LONG time to regulate my giving nature, even toward colleagues. Luckily I work primarily with women in Healthcare so its usually appreciated and reciprocated, forging better teamwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:19 PM
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I have to agree with this. Women aren't coupons or flash sales that can be tucked away for later. The only acceptable reschedule is death or emergency, and frankly that would require some sort of proof. Otherwise I would deem it a flakeout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:52 PM
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Right? My husband used to hate holidays (it seemed like everything that could go wrong in his life would happen on those days). But despite his misgivings, he went all put on them from day one of our relationship. He cooked a Thanksgiving dinner with alllll the trimmings, he bought a real tree for Christmas when I was going to grab a fake one because it isn't Christmas without the smell of pine in the house. He took us all to see fireworks on NYE, and brought home flowers and jewelry on Valentin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:03 PM
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I believe that men fall in love with you by doing things for you [...] I think you may be right. The "Benjamin Franklin Effect" is pretty well known among psychology folks and it may very well extend in odd ways to romantic relationships. Men certainly do not appreciate women who go out of their way for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:41 AM
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I believe the word "bxtches" tells you all you need to know about this man (and I use the term very loosely).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:40 PM
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Its a term used in pet adoption, as opposed to pet fostering which is temporary. Fostering is used a lot in smaller rescues without a lot of kennel space and they prepare pets socially and behaviorally for a permanent home, to make the transition easier and increase success with adoption (less returns for behavioral problems). This girl is basically saying she is wasting her own time by training men for other women, even if that's not precisely what she means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:39 PM
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Of course you would; that cover letter was written by a woman. And you know so many dudes would have their mommy writing theirs lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:22 PM
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Uhhhh, perhaps they shouldn't be given unfettered access to their victim pool. Jesus tap-dancing christ, that's scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:42 PM
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Right? The circle wasn't even necessary. Every line is a new flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:18 PM
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No, he didn't "take her on a date" because when you take someone out it behooves you to cover the costs. This is just a lunch meeting. And a boring one, by the look on her face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:12 PM
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I saw one comment in a thread today, talking about how those subs are supposed to be for women, and I came so close to messaging that person to tell her to check out the mods and their most frequented subs. But nah. For all I know, that was a guy too. I don't have time for that crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:16 AM
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Right? Can men start following his advice and save women some time and aggravation? Don't want to be friends? Great! Walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:14 PM
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Lollll look at him busting out big words he doesn't understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:27 AM
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If it works for you, that's great. Not everyone can be as talented with cutlery (or spouses?) as you. 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:07 AM
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Lol knife... protip: the grippy (foam rubber iirc) stuff they sell to line drawers or shelves can be cut into smaller squares and used to open jar lids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:15 AM
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I think its really great for you both that he was open to the discussion. It may have saved him years of frustration and anger, and the same for you. He's lucky to have such a caring sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:36 PM
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Conveniently ignoring that none of them would choose to get fucked by a man to be "provided for" The MAJOR flaw in their dumb heads is that, of all those idiots lining up to bang that fake profile, none of them are offering to support her. NOT. ONE. They all want to pump and dump, and they're lining up because they think that an ugly woman is a soft target, no pun intended, who will put up with their bullshit more easily. Its not about looks, its about achievability ("I want a hot girl with low …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:36 PM
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I am truly glad you got through to him. Is he a younger sibling? I feel like this would be the rare exception. Older men who are canalized in their thinking are much more difficult to reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:30 PM
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"LOL you could be dead in a ditch and I wouldn't have noticed." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:16 PM
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The logic is there. My question for you (and all of the ladies participating in this sub) would be: is there a single solitary man out there who is worth arguing this point with? If you have to bust out a full blown argument for them, they are already lost. if you're dating him and this issue arises, do you think he is likely to see the logic of this argument and cease all porn usage? if he is a friend or family member, is your relationship with this person really worth having this argument? I c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:26 PM
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The replies...... 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:39 PM
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She certainly doesn't. That also doesn't oblige people to listen if they find it abrasive. Its a fantastic message, but I'll confess I don't enjoy torturing my ears, so she's probably not my cup of tea. It's not like I have tiktok anyway so it's sort of moot for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:21 PM
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Oh, I am sorry to hear that. I can tell you you're unlikely to see that money again in any case, that was another hard lesson I learned over the years as well. I know it hurts to be used. I'm sorry your friend isn't the person you deserve and wish she she was. I wish you all the best, friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:56 PM
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This is where you tell her it isn't working out between you two and she can give you a call when she learns to see the stupid and malicious in people too. There is value in learning your lesson, ladies. This goes for you and her, because unrepentant pickme friends will suck your soul out through your ears and eyes and no one needs this time- and energy-sink in their life. No one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:47 AM
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Let's be honest here: he was hoping to get in your pants the whole time, but it backfired because that statement is so monumentally stupid it dried up your poor vagina like the Gobi. Of course he believes that line. It just happens to be a tip off that he's an idiot. When he realized you weren't going to come crawling back for his manhood on your own, he threw out a desperate strip of shriveled bait by saying you (a mere frail woman) were right about something and implying that he has changed. 🙄…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:35 AM
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You know how sometimes mods on other subs will list out the reports they get because its funny? I would pay hard cash to see the ones for this post. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:25 AM
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he reminded me men & women can't be friends "Oh good, I was hoping I wouldn't have to remind you." blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:25 PM
36

Ehhh, I refuse to cook so the hubs and I split other chores as we don't mind. We share some of them, and some we do exclusively. BUT I never have to tell him to get his done. I don't do anything 'his way', and if he doesn't like the way I do things he has yet to mention it. Its always, "thank you for getting that done, I appreciate it." So sharing tasks can be efficient and convenient as long as its actually sharing and not delegating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:40 PM
7

The last time I followed up on buying the book, it was literally sold out because it was a very small publisher and run. I'm glad to see the hoopla got her another run and a translation, even though I would have read it in French.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:23 PM
19

I really enjoyed Moana too. No man required, and the one guy she meets acknowledges his own flaws in the end. She doesn't coddle him along, she forces him to match her despite being a demigod to her mortal. And not once do they make googoo eyes at each other. Refreshing. Plus, Heihei is my spirit animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:20 PM
9

I think its important to note that fairies of old are not the kind and gentle creatures of light that people imagine today, and that every fairy tale I can think of originated as a cautionary tale, not something to emulate. The "happy ending" is a pretty recent invention, mostly to sell movies as far as I can tell. From the size of Disney's holdings, I'd say it worked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:17 PM
10

Heads up, consumption is tuberculosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:10 PM
1

Ahh, totally different than what I had in mind then. I can't bring myself to watch reality shows at all so I would never pick up on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:54 AM
3

Well, no reality show is going to give you an accurate display of a marriage, and the home buying shows specifically ask couples to play up the disagreements. Those couples have already bought the house they "pick" on the shows, and the rest is just smoke and mirrors. That said, there are wayyyyy too many couples who shouldn't be together out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:57 AM
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Lol thats the youngest he could possibly be, if he managed to snag some poor idiot right now. He is gonna die alone if this is the best he can offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:03 AM
38

He is literally beating her and strangling her but the sex is boring? What the fuck does he want, sex with her tepid corpse?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:00 AM
7

Yup. I can't advise you definitively, but I can tell you the last time a friend did this to me, I literally hung up after our conversation and never called her again. People who do not respect my time, and who do not prioritize their own properly are not needed in my life. If you make plans with me, I expect you to follow through, in a timely manner. If you must excuse yourself it should be for a good reason such as illness, and it shouldn't be fucking disrespectful of our relationship. This is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:19 PM
72

Please report his threats. Also, I love how they think that what they're ordered to pay actually supports all of a child's needs. I (used to) have to feed, clothe, educate my kid on that 300 bucks a month, not to mention health and dental insurance, and visit co-pays if they get sick. AND put a roof over our heads to boot. My ex was goddamn lucky I never asked him to pony up on the agreed 50% of childcare costs. I can't even imagine the asshole with the broken car trying to house and care for hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:13 PM
52

That is straight out of the narcissist playbook along with DARVO (Deny the behavior, Accuse the individual confronting them, Reverse Victim and Offender). It sadly isn't even limited to men, but is used by all kinds of assholes who are used to getting away with bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:52 PM
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Uhhhh he's right in that it isn't a gift: it is a promise that he is capable of providing a stable home for her, and a monetary representation of that promise. Its not some fucking birthday googaw that he's picking out. This is the ring that she will wear the rest of her life. Will she be mortified of it when she's 50? Will she stop wearing it in a year because it turned her finger green? It doesn't have to be insanely expensive, but it should be made of quality material and with stones that won…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:33 PM
60

Thats my secret: I'm always enraged. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:50 AM
6

My whole issue with this dumb article is that even if you can make a case for AOA, 99% of the time these women have no assets. You can't get blood from a stone, as my LV father used to say (about his child support, classy guy). What the hell would be the point in suing someone with no possibility of redress on the other end? You're just out time and money for what, a shitty man? Get proof if you can, dump his ass, and pursue your divorce options with extreme prejudice. Then block and delete unle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:43 AM
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I would turn that around on them: what exactly is their problem with prudes? Why is my desire to control what happens to my body a flaw?? Prude is not the insult they think it is. Morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:22 AM
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I saw this this afternoon and almost posted a comment about the mods over there being MRAs, and then I reconsidered because I don't need that negativity and they'll just delete my comment and ban me anyway. Its just sad that a sub named for and supposedly dedicated to women is run by dudes and is a place where women have to put up with such bullshittery every single day under threat of permaban. And we aren't really allowed to say anything to them, because that might be brigading. It really has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:11 AM
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That is a very real possibility too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:14 PM
3

I can tell you that the utilitarian items (I'm guessing small appliances like a coffee maker or such) will gradually lose their association with him. If it is something you can easily afford to replace, I would do so. Leave the items like clothing and sentimental stuff in the bag for a while, and revisit in 6 moths or so. You'll be surprised at how quickly life flows onward. I wish you all the best in recovering from this guy. You've got this, clearly, and you're strong, and you have learned fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:13 PM
4

Oh my lord, the pickme replies to the first comment. 🙄 Why did I open that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:06 PM
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I suspect its probably a bit of both: she probably didn't entirely recognize his boundary pressing for what it truly was because she didn't give him the time to go full bore (as if throwing objects in a drug induced rage wasn't enough!), and she really wants nothing to do with this scandal out of pure self preservation. I'm torn on this. I feel bad for anyone who endures abuse of any kind and wish we all had the strength and resources to support each other in the ways we need. At the same time, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:43 PM
18

I think I'd almost prefer the toaster guy. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:36 PM
4

This is beyond adorable. FDS is saving your butt in real life and dreamland. Also the playdate made me cringe so hard, I may have created a black hole with my face. You poor thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:26 PM
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I want to ask him to step up or let me go. Woman. WOMAN. You are not in chains. He doesn't need to give his consent. Just go. You have already asked him to step up and he has failed abjectly, then given excuses for his failure as a human being. Just go. And when she leaves, he will function just fucking fine, like he did before they married and he willfully became a goddamn nincompoop who doesn't know how to pay bills. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:01 PM
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I deleted the entire message and just wrote "I'm done" and promptly blocked him everywhere. Well done. Chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:41 PM
12

I feel like she hits the nail on the head: these are men trying to ride this trend for money. Social media popularity leads to views, and to monetary gain. I honestly think that even if they are attracted to women of color, it is disgusting to attempt to use them like this. It would never occur to me to put a person I loved or was attracted to on public display like that. It is shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:34 PM
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Also, a weird flex to admit that he's never given her an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:00 PM
6

I wonder if it would be possible to have POA and guardian paperwork made up for a non-marriage coparenting situation. I know that prior to my husband adopting my older kids, we had MDPOA and legal guardian paperwork for emergencies if I wasn't available, since he wasn't technically a relative. I don't see why it should be too different for women in the same household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:47 PM
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"Yeahhhh, no. I've earned my meals without you. This dinner is social lubrication for a potential relationship. You can choose to fork out for KY, you can use Walmart brand lotion or try going in dry. Which will it be? Choose wisely."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:39 PM
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Narrator: "As it turned out, he didn't."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:40 PM
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Oh my fucking God I cannot. And also, again, we have a man saying that men who do this aren't men, but boys. This implies that they just need to ripen a bit like a fucking melon on your counter. No. They are adults; they're just damaged. Do you keep a rotten melon on your counter, hoping it will get better? No. Men, carve out the rot. Fix your shit, become better, see a damn therapist, and then try again. With someone else, because that woman you traumatized needs someone who isn't you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:59 PM
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It should come up in your browser even if you're not logged into Facebook. Are you on mobile? On Android you can long press and open in external app, pick Chrome. I'm not sure about Apple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:53 PM
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This is no surprise: any place named "debate" is just begging for dudes without sources to out-yell women. I'm not sure how they conned anyone into thinking it was for legitimate conversation or good faith arguments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:33 PM
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I read somewhere that everything you say before the word 'but' is always bullshit. Also, "you have to draw the line somehwere"? Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck you, buddy. We should give the little women rights but let's not get carried away. Maybe the right to shop or something. I want to slap him so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:58 AM
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It always gives me natgeo vibes, like we're being observed by a Walmart brand David Attenborough. It's disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:02 AM
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Hahaha, my husband doesn't even get home cooked meals daily. I got shifts to work. Bless him, he doesn't even care. He cooks for me. If some woman was bringing him home cooked food every day, I'd have some serious questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:49 PM
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Yes, she wants him to leave the room instead of crop dusting her sleeping area, and he has yet to suggest any alternatives which might be acceptable compromises (such as the fan you mention). The farting isn't the problem per se; repeating actions that your loved one has declared uncomfortable and disgusting to her on a nightly basis without ever seeking a solution (be it practical or medical) is a big problem. We all deserve respect and fair treatment from our partners, the people we trust enou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:53 PM
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I have to give you props: this is the first time my entire 42 years I've ever seen someone use the term 'anally retentive' literally. I'm way more impressed by this than I should be and it has given me the early morning giggles. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:45 PM
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Oh my god, I have a short story for you. I was running errands with my husband and we popped into a pharmacy for some of his prescriptions. There was a small TV mounted to the wall playing a telenovela (we're in Central America) and I was absently watching it while they grabbed his stuff. In literally 5 minutes, the girl told her boyfriend she was pregnant and how happy she was about it, he lost his shit, and beat her to death. On a daytime TV show. Now, I watched him get pissed and thought "typ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:03 PM
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Your comment just reminded me of both my grandfathers. I really wish they were still around. Wonderful, gentle men whose only goal in life was to make the people they loved happy. I'm glad he found you and your mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:32 AM
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Right? I'll trade you all the wine for some good dark chocolate, but otherwise I'm down. And I'm not even single. If my husband dies first I WILL have a lanai. I fully plan to become Dorothy in my senior years. ETA - Apparently ONE strong man is attracted, because I have him. Where one of them exists, others surely are too. I find when men make blanket statements about what strong men are attracted to, they wouldn't actually know because they aren't in that demographic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:59 AM
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“Why aren’t you more upset? It’s like you don’t care!” Thats my secret. I don't. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:48 AM
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I try. I also try to stay on top of what her current interests are and be able to discuss them a little bit (I am limited with the switch games bc I don't play them lol). All my kids are important to me, but she's my only girl and I know how vulnerable she is, especially at this age. So I'm being extra vigilant and she probably low key thinks I'm paranoid delusional but she tolerates me and hasn't rolled her eyes yet. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:47 AM
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I spend a lot of time in Central America and tooooons of ladies here use scarves on their heads when they can't be bothered to style their hair, or to coordinate with their outfits. It looks pretty amazing, tbh. You should just buy a few you like and rock it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:29 PM
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So we have an odd life, and live in a marina, so her local friend group is transient. Our kids are homeschooled with a program we vetted extensively before buying, which is all self contained, so there is no online group component /fortunately/unfortunately. She participates in chat groups on discord (for witchcraft, which is one of her recent interests and seems to be composed mainly of girls and women) and amino (for art and a video game she's into). So she doesn't seem to mind not using the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:37 PM
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I think the people who recommend it as such are thinking about the social commentary, not because the characters are role models. I've watched many uncomfortable movies that were powerful and still had deeply flawed characters who weren't admirable at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:15 PM
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Right? Sir, why would you think your penis has any place in the same sentence as food? They aren't equal in the hierarchy of needs, not by a long shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:07 PM
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I'll be honest, I've sort of won the lotto when it comes to my daughter. She is utterly uninterested in boys, and we have never had the explosive teenager phase with her. She has had plenty of emotional moments, but on the whole she is a wonderful kid and she listens to our advice. I told her that snapchat, kik, and tiktok were not apps that I believe are healthy for a young girl to be participating in and she believed me. Probably also because I won't use them either. I explained to her that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:21 AM
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But WOE to any woman who has the same relationship with another guy. Her bf would lose his tiny mind. Because they know what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:59 AM
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And the price tag has gone UP to £2000... who the hell actually wants a pair of men's feet as a dangle charm??? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:16 PM
8

I like the idea of matrilineal naming (fuck you autocorrect for not knowing the word matrilineal). I came to feminism a bit later than some of the women here, and was married twice with two name changes before 30. I'll be blunt: I upgraded my name when I remarried. My birth surname was annoying and easily mispronounced, and my first married surname was worse. For this reason alone, I think women should have the option to choose which direction they take with the name issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:36 PM
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Lol It kinda does, and frankly only LVM would use that term, so it's an easy vetting tool. I would wear it as a badge of honor because no one is entitled to my enthusiastic responses; I bestow them on the man I have selected because he earns them repeatedly. Anyone else can stay out in cold. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:22 PM
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mind my own business YES. Who I date IS my business!! Jesus, people are fucking dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:14 PM
7

Improving over your upbringing, establishing yourself in your boundaries and personhood is always impressive. It takes hard work, determination and guts to go against the prevailing example that has been set for you, to make yourself an independent person without relying on others. And I don't know how old you are, but YES, FDS is for people your age. Why? Because it is for women of ALL ages. There is never a cut off age after which you are unsalvageable as a woman. We do not have an expiration …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:29 PM
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I swear I saw the same damn story in another sub a few months back. It's like it's catching. We have this desire to help out our mothers when they are in need, and it seems to backfire because they haven't learned their lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:14 PM
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It's a derogatory term men use when they are telling a woman she is 'frigid', unresponsive in bed, or uninterested in sex. The opposite of hot, because they think their opinion is a motivator for us to change how we behave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:51 PM
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I turned off location services for my camera years ago, after reading an article saying pedophiles were able to locate the children they chatted up online by looking at raw photo data. No thanks. Edit - in fact I've turned off location for just about every app except emergency services. None of those apps need my location.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:52 AM
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While I agree that it can be frustrating to see other women struggling with learning to enforce their boundaries (and I did read this whole post with "blooooooock hiiiiiiimmmmmm" on repeat in my head) I also think it can cathartic to vent about the lesson to friendly ears. Plus there were some crucial lessons learned during OP's experience and from the comments here after she posted it. She has learned that her gut isn't just useful in work situations and it needs to be listened to: it has her s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:20 PM
8

I'm going to go out on a limb and say the history is the one you fill in yourself at your initial visit with checkbooks, and not the digital one sent over from your prior provider. I hope. The doctor in this scenario is an asshole, so there isn't much hope, but this is what I thought they were talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:23 PM
20

Good God. I'm sorry, but if I smell poo while still on approach, I'm aborting the whole run. Actually, not even sorry. I don't need visual confirmation; the possibility is enough for me not to risk my payload.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:30 PM
90

What kind if woman could he hope to attract with his terrible hygiene? One who doesn't know yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:43 AM
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In one fell swoop, he made it not matter how far away your brother and parents live. How considerate of him to make your decision making process easier for you! Now you can choose between your reasonable options without the limiting factor of his dumb ass presence. What a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:34 AM
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I literally got 4 seconds into the video. Her tone and general demeanor made me so uncomfortable so quickly I couldn't continue watching. I knew where she was headed, in the same vein as the one posted a month or so ago where her husband never refills the keurig and leaves the empty kcup boxes and his shoes at the top of the stairs for her to trip over and break her fucking neck. If this is satire, surely there is a better way to send this message and if it isn't she needs to throw the whole man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:01 PM
9

This is the "SCRAPS ARE FOR PIGEONS" woman! 😂😂😂😂 My daughter and I laughed like idiots at that one. I'm pretty sure it'll be my quote of the year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:29 PM
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Hey, hey now.... maybe he's depressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:34 AM
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You know, the funny/sad part is that I never saw it as anything special. I was just annoyed that no one else in the family wanted to pitch in and help after how fucking nice she'd been to them over us. Lol Knowimg what I know now about gender dynamics, I'm not even surprised looking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:05 AM
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Ngl, my absolute favorite scenes in the BBC version were ones where the focus was on Colin Firth's eyes. That man can act out a whole damn scene without saying a single sentence. And hands down the best one is toward the end when he and Bingley return to Longbourne and they are in the sitting room. Watch his face as Mrs Bennett natters on about them; his expressions are pure gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:24 PM
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Of course he is, or trying at least. My only comfort is that he hasn't managed to con any of these young women into being his mentee-girlfriend yet. Imagine going to college and lifting yourself up in the world after years of hard work only to have this whiny old guy telling you he needs your validation in exchange for helping you in your job search, because he wants to be seen as a person. Go to eHarmony, jerkoff. I feel oily just reading that trash blog entry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:46 PM
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What? Those women are led to believe you're offering professional assistance and they take you up on it but won't enter into a relationship with you, a man 20 years older than them? The horror! Gosh, it must really suck to have the opposite sex see you as a tool to achieve their own goals instead of a thinking, feeling human being. Except in this guy's case, that's exactly whats he's offering them. What a self absorbed idiotic creeper with zero introspection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:26 PM
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Lol I was about to jump in with a "hey now be nice" and then I read the usernames. And now I'm chuckling because apparently you are me. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:48 AM
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Ha. I have 2 uncles and my grandmother favored them in every way, as well as their children, over my mother and me and my brothers. Guess who got tapped to provide in-home care for grandma as she was declining near age 90? My uncles and their wives couldn't be bothered to even visit, despite grandma going to see them in their respective states (one with an overseas flight) every fucking year until she had to stop traveling, giving their kids valuable family heirlooms and sentimental trinkets and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:23 PM
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This is one the huge reasons I will never work peds. I cannot do that, and that is okay. If my husband decided that his lifestyle was more important than my mental health, I wouldn't even take a few hours to make that decision. Done. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:50 AM
7

Uhhhhh, is she saying her ex cheated on her with her dad? 😟 there are so many questions I don't want the answers to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:18 PM
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Have you reported it to discord as well? Surely they have a TOS that would get these people banned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:15 PM
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First of all, the collection itself speaks to obsessive behavior, especially given that he knew it was missing within minutes of arriving home. He needs therapy for that alone. The fact that he grew hostile over it takes this to another level, with which a layperson is not qualified to deal, and him sleeping on the couch and avoiding his partner over it is not a good sign. He knows what he did was very strange, and unsanitary, and lashed out. He wasn't sheepish and apologetic for his behavior; n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:00 PM
44

"Not balls of hair... hairs he plucked from his testicles. Now tell me I'm overreacting." 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:44 PM
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You could do that now. It's bigger than the flags they fly at the white house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:43 PM
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You are so right. I stand corrected. Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion in giving me a frame of reference for where she is coming from and for sharing where you have been. 💕 I always appreciate learning more and growing. Your comment shows you have a grace I aspire to these days. I hope you are in a much better and safer place now. I will leave the above comment as it is so there is context, and I will aim for a little less salt and a lot more compassion going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:06 PM
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Haha, if I had actually had a saddle on him I probably would have felt it in my calves too, but I was clamped down for the ten seconds he decided to get a stretch in. Young and dumb, that was me. 😂 But it taught me a lot about why I was more interested in admiring horses than actually riding them. My mom was smart. Also, of course they make it sexual. "I bet you have great stamina..." 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:29 AM
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Yeah, they want to cuddle right on into dry humping your ass cheeks until you give in and let them into your pants. Cuddling... smdh 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:21 AM
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Lol as a teenager I used to muck stalls for a family friend. I was riding one of her gentle giants in from the pasture and he got it in his head to have a little canter and I had to work to get him back in line and my thighs felt it for a week. I have mad respect for a ton of muscle with its own brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:30 AM
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That is tragic, and I can only hope that more women find FDS and realize how valuable we are just for ourselves. I'm so glad every time I see ladies here leveling up and refusing to put up with nonsense. I'm glad you don't feel that way anymore (I hope! Because you are all beautiful people to begin with) and I'm glad we all have each other for support and learning. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:52 AM
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I'm torn here. I'm glad he had the decency to treat her like a person. At the same time when he says she started crying and telling him how all the others just used her for sex and thats what she expected....why did she go and lay herself out like a buffet for them if she knows this? Ladies, please, PLEASE have some dignity. I want to rip my hair out when I read shit like this but I would be bald by the end of this month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:41 PM
18

Bullets like that guy actively shove women out of the way. Its just that some women jump back into the line of fire with their pick me behaviors. It isn't hard to see they'll treat anything with a vagina as a chunk of beef, I don't understand why women hop in line for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:55 PM
12

😂😂😂😂 C
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:52 PM
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I'm rather enjoying the idea of just being alone if I outlive my husband. I know how lucky I got once. I do not expect to find another man worth my energy again if something happens to the one I have. I told my daughter jokingly I'd be happy to go 50/50 with her but no one else. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:26 PM
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My daughter (whom I have mentioned a few times in my comments) came out to me this week as asexual. I feel such a sense of profound relief that she will never deal with the romantic woes I've put up with in the past. She will never put herself out mentally, physically, emotionally, financially for a man, and it makes my heart lighter to know it. I am beyond happy to know that she will live her life for herself and no one else's comfort and joy. 💗 I told her I was grateful that she felt comfortab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:44 PM
9

Right? I'm not a fucking potato. Go make dinner, if you're so keen on smashing something...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:31 AM
2

Umm, excuse me! If sex work is legitimate work, how were those women toxic? Its just a job like any other to pay the bills, right? RIGHT??? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:28 PM
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So I don't use my Twitter much, and don't open the app unless I'm following a link. But the comments around her post are .... disturbing. There are pleeeeeenty of "don't kinkshame" rallying cries and "she's a consenting adult" (but never-ending how literally every post that isn't her in her underwear or naked, is her dressed in children's style clothing, with her face tuned to look like a young teenager. Even some of the underwear looks like shit Baby Huey wore, with big frilly diaper-esque bott…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:16 AM
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