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NAH, SISGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:17 AM
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LEVEL UPGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:25 AM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:12 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:02 AM
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RANTGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:33 AM
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DISCUSSIONGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:33 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:42 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:05 AM
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QUEEN SH*TGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:30 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:17 PM
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QUEEN SH*TGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:01 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:03 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:31 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:33 AM
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QUEEN SH*TGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 09:56 PM
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DISCUSSIONGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:20 AM
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RANTGretaTheBeeotch/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:53 PM
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I have equally high-achieving, highly-educated female friends who married the same types of men. This is the norm, & we are socialized to accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:35 PM
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Yes it does I focus on the future And inviting women on Reddit to this sub : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:24 PM
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I’m sorry Inter-generational trauma fucking sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:25 AM
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One of my grandfathers beat & raped his daughters, the other one called his daughter a “used car” after she was raped & beaten (by a stranger in a parking garage,) implying the main thing that gave her value had been lost. Both law-abiding, well-educated (engineers,) respected members of their communities. “not likable” could possibly be an understatement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:48 AM
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48 and SAME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:05 AM
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This is sickening and so true. Never stop fighting sisters- for ourselves and for all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:30 PM
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A woman I grew up with wanted kids so she hit a sperm bank, had TWINS 12 years ago. Has supportive, retired parents in the same town, & a sane work/life balance. Her life has been easier & way less traumatic than mine as a SAHM to a business owner who makes good $$$ (divorcing after a decade+ of substance abuse/porn-addiction/unaddressed bipolar issues/financial irresponsibility.) No one needs a man/husband to have a family/raise well-adjusted kids. That is a lie society feeds us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:27 PM
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Thank you- my son & I are in a much better place now. Flipping out (like yelling & arm waving) when the ATM wouldn’t take his card (he eventually realized he was putting the wrong card in the machine.) Yelling at his ((17#) dog Refusing to admit fault for anything, EVER Always having to “win” all debates. Anyone (including me) who ever disagrees is wrong/bad/stupid. Compliance with this rule is enforced by bullying/pouting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:53 PM
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I’m proud of you & amazed by you . Divorcing from a similar man & family dynamic. Entrenched societal expectations are a helluva drug. Fuck that shit. Keep your eyes on the prize (leveling up,) and only associate with like-minded, supportive people. Keep us posted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:44 AM
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That just gave me goosebumps & you are AWESOME And misogyny isn’t systemic, right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:31 PM
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If you need it (I think most of us would benefit,) start therapy. Ask friends for referrals, the first visit should always be free (just like an attorney.) If you have a local women’s resources center they could give you recommendations. Be RUTHLESS in choosing- not a good fit, NEXT. I’ve been with the same person (actually a guy) for 15 years. Therapy has positively impacted my quality of life, the way I see myself/past situations, and my ability to self-advocate in incalculable ways. I wish I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:22 AM
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All of these are awesome, one addition: Ways he let his family disrespect/abuse/gaslight you & never stood up for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:54 AM
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I’ve had to walk away from my narc Mom too. You are doing the right thing, there is so much peace ahead : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:50 AM
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Thank you for this- that last sentence is GOLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:32 AM
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Hayzeus Christo Thank you for sharing this I’m so sorry that happened to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:30 AM
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THIS It’s free online I had a marriage counselor who said all of the problems in the marriage were my fault. There are shitty mechanics, shitty dentists, & shitty therapists. Ask friends for referrals, hit the Psychology Today search engine, and GET A NEW ONE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:28 AM
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In case no one else has mentioned it, please read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft (it’s available free online in PDF format.) You should also research codependency & attachment styles. I put up with what you’re describing (& worse) for decades. It sure as hell wasn’t my fault but men like this know how to identify us. Now I understand, & NEVER AGAIN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:23 AM
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WAY TO GO SISTER!!!! Also, I will never again live a cat-free existence. They are nature’s perfect biofeedback devices : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:18 AM
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Everything you have to do to get away from this toxic waste dump of a human is worth it. I’ve been where you are. The peace that is waiting for you is right there. You may not see it yet, but once you experience it you’ll never look back. You’re doing the right thing. Just keep moving forward. EDIT: If there is any possibility he could know any of your PIN numbers or passwords, change them now. Keep your SS# secure if it isn’t already, nothing laying around/where he could dig & find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:12 AM
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The first time I saw the man I married get angry I should have run like a scalded dog. Currently divorcing him 20 traumatic years later. I will never, ever, EVER tolerate anyone’s fucking man-trums ever again. I will never be so emotionally & financially invested that if a guy shows me who he REALLY is I can’t just walk away. This is amazing advice ladies, I wish I’d known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:56 PM
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Stories like this are why I keep inviting women to FDS. It saved my life too :’ )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:10 AM
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I check our numbers everyday, & I invite 10-20 women everyday (you should too!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:02 AM
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Wonderful wise words, and very similar to my life experience I’ve thankfully arrived at the DGAF portion, no more man-trums for me. EVER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:48 AM
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When you have children, no job, and haven't worked in 10+ years they will treat you poorly because they know you have no options and they can get away with it (my abusive spouse showed his true self once I was unemployed and pregnant.) But it's also all our fault for choosing the wrong man/abandoning our careers/pick your poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:37 AM
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Ouch Yeah I feel that too : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:29 AM
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Congratulations! Thank you for telling me about the light at the end of this tunnel I’m currently walking through. Can’t wait to join you there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:28 AM
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CHURCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:23 AM
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PREACH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:26 AM
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Couldn’t send in chat, here it is- https://www.theidaho97.org
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:43 PM
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Oooooo Contact the Idaho 97% with this suggestion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:01 AM
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THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:59 AM
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WOW She sure did post about the victim on FB How can anyone question WHY rape victims rarely report? https://www.ktvb.com/article/news/local/208/idaho-97-ethics-hearing-giddings-request/277-9ef32402-ba50-4bd6-97e0-4b92d847cb6f
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:45 AM
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I’m in my 40s, surrounded by highly-educated married women with kids..... none of their husbands pull their weight. Not a single one. Best case scenario they’re not abusive, mentally ill, irresponsible, cheating, substance abusers. Most are at least two of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:21 AM
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I didn’t know until I quit my job & got pregnant. By then it was too late to get away. It just got worse & worse & worse. I had no idea what I’d married, told him to leave a year ago. The damage to my son, my psyche, and my health can never be undone. Always have your own money to get out. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:05 AM
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Over 40 too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:18 AM
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No She stayed Now she’s the foreman for the whole crew : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:54 AM
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Happened to a close friend of mine. He sent the pics of her sleeping nude to their mutual coworkers (in a 99% male workplace.) Good times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:33 AM
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DING DING DING DING you have no idea what their lives are really like, and how little their husbands contribute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:09 AM
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You are an exemplary human
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:35 AM
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When someone is emotionally unavailable women can perceive the sex as "great" because that's the only time said douche is attempting any sort of connection. Rinse & repeat. I've seen this stupid trope too many damn times (looking at you Sex & the City.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:37 AM
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This needs to be the top comment All of those creepy polygamists (the child molesters & the ones on that terrible TLC show) have one legal wife. They set the rest of the women up to get single Mom benefits through the state. Utah doesn’t care about making men accountable. They’re attempting to make polygamy less self-sustaining/profitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:40 AM
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I’d give you FDS bling if I had the power. You just described my life/the lives of the bright, well-educated, hardworking Moms I’m surrounded by. I don’t have a single Mom friend in an equitable, mutually supportive marriage. Not. A. Single. Fucking. One.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:21 AM
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EXACTLY I used to think the fellow that wrote that was woke Post-FDS..... nah, just a manipulative clueless scrote. Relationships aren’t brain surgery. If he had wanted to he would have. Endlessly blabbering about how to analyze/interpret women’s mysterious signals just makes you look like a misogynistic dumbass. Women are fellow humans worthy of respect. That’s it. No fucking mystery involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:28 PM
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You did the right thing- time to focus on YOU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:20 PM
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OH YES Yes I do Usually blows most women’s minds initially, I follow it up with supportive memes They start to get it ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:21 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:07 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. Don’t marry this man & don’t breed with him. He does not value you & he will never contribute equally to the household/partnership. No amount of explanations/polite requests/lists/management will ever change that. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:04 PM
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AGREED It gave me chills to read that, it’s so damn true EDIT: It sure did that to my ex-husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:06 PM
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Found her on FB. Wondered what to say that would matter/make some sort of difference. Now I can thank her for proving our point & for bringing 2000+ new subscribers to FDS. Way to go Dominque!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:34 AM
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You’re doing the right thing. Any time you vacillate re-read what you told us. I’m so sorry your kids are struggling, but getting him out of their lives is absolutely the best thing. Never let him be alone with them, & don’t let anyone convince you differently. Good luck, stay strong, keep us posted, you got this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:51 AM
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It was actually on r/parenting Of course she was advised to communicate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:35 AM
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It was on r/parenting She doesn’t think this is bad enough to find/post on r/breakingmoms Still depressed the shit outta me. She also bakes & decorates stunning bday cakesfrom scratch for her small children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:50 AM
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CHURCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:49 PM
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And when someone you thought was kind/stable/a good provider turns out to be an abusive, financially irresponsible alcoholic with mental issues he refuses to address, it’s our job to help/fix/love them no matter what. Actually, it’s not (thanks 2020.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:40 PM
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YUP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:22 PM
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That is terrifying I wish I could make it required reading for all women when they turn 16 (& probably have them re-read it every 2 years.) Most men simply have no concept of anything beyond “I want this right now so I should have it.” I wish that was a fake post. Stuff of nightmares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:18 PM
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PREACH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:32 AM
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Hobo-sexuals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:30 AM
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He’ll never stop, no matter what you do/what he promises Ask me how I know : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:13 PM
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You did the right thing, & good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:56 PM
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My guess is married- he was interested in meeting someone in theory, once it became a reality he got cold feet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:55 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:14 PM
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Your username is awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:20 AM
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THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:42 PM
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I made the mistake of searching “porn” and “ley” (this article’s author) in Psychology Today. The scrote doth protest too much, methinks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:46 AM
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Danke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:04 AM
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“Carry yourself with the confidence of a mediocre white man”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:58 AM
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Explain sugar soap?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:54 AM
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And here is a list of “two-party consent” states https://www.dmlp.org/legal-guide/recording-phone-calls-and-conversations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:57 PM
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Beautifully put : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:24 AM
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You made the right decision. The lying would have never stopped. Ask me how I know : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:58 PM
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The Huntington Open Women’s Land is about a-drive from Waterbury, Vt., the home of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. It’s a secluded patch of 50 acres, laden with wildflowers, tall woolly bushes and deep ponds, nestled up against Camel’s Hump, a hiker’s paradise frequented by outdoorsy types in Teva sandals and wraparound hydration packs. It is, by most standards, a paradise. At least for now. HOWL, as it’s known, was once a residential community with on-site events; today it’s more of a rural retreat. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:06 PM
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That’s definitely what made me stay. It’s horrible & so fucking common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:24 AM
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I married one of these, you hit the nail on the head. It’s horrid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:32 AM
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I personally think this should be a sticky on this sub, it’s just as important as the handbook (which covers the same info but not with the same level of sphincter-clinching horror) https://www.thebillfold.com/2016/01/a-story-of-a-fuck-off-fund/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:08 AM
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This 1000Xs over. Wish I’d known this 20 years ago : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:03 AM
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SPAY DAY that is AWESOME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:51 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 05:49 AM
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This is amazing. Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:41 PM
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Welcome, & spread the word! I send private messages, “You should check out r/FemaleDatingStrategy (it’s not just dating advice.)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:05 AM
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I hope someone extended an invite here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:49 AM
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Thank you, I need this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:55 AM
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That is amazing & SO FUCKING IMPORTANT FOR WOMEN TO HEAR. Thank you for posting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:50 AM
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PREACH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:36 AM
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Wish I could send her an invite to r/FDS. That shit will never end/will snowball out of control. He will flake/lie & she’ll be doing his damage control until it drives her mad. All while being treated like she’s worthless/incompetent/lazy. Ask me how I know : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:36 AM
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I like his writing, just not the overall message (romanticizing substance abuse.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:29 PM
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AND Bukowski
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:50 PM
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I needed this today Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:58 PM
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My best friend told me this weekend she doesn’t want children (she recently got engaged.) I’m proud of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:52 AM
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God I wish I’d read this 20 years ago. Need to add that a man’s FAMILY will also try to talk you out of being able to support yourself. Don’t let ANYONE come between you & financial independence. Even once you get married/pregnant/have a kid. The only person you can ever trust is yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:34 AM
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Call me in a week, & I totally agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:53 AM
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I also ended up with an autoimmune disorder trying to be perfect. Discovering r/FDS earlier this year kinda saved my life (& helped give me the courage to change my living situation.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:44 AM
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Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:09 AM
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Will do, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:03 AM
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Although I just watched an American series with Lady Mary (Michelle Dockery) that was better than most (I really like the author of the novellas the series was based on, & it’s set in the Carolinas where the author grew up.) Good Behavior, check it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:59 AM
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I live in Tennessee, & love all things British. Especially Monty Don. And that show Grand Designs. With Mistresses, yes the name says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:49 AM
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I loved it too!! British dramas portray female characters with nuance that American shows simply can’t grasp. Other British shows you might like- Killing Eve, Mistresses (LOOOOVED it,) Fleabag, Harlots, Bodyguard, Humans, The Durrells in Corfu..... as I remember more I’ll send ‘em your way EDIT: Also Harlan Coben’s The Stranger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:21 AM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:20 AM
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Wise, wise words. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:19 AM
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Same here man, same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:15 AM
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I needed this today- thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:49 AM
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Thank you. Saving this. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:33 AM
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Please tell me you gave her supportive feedback & PM’ed her an invitation here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:53 AM
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I want to be you when I grow up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:04 AM
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I wish I’d known this, & I’m so glad FDS exists to educate women now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:08 PM
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Your last sentence is called devaluation, it’s a thing & it’s fucking horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:06 PM
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Sure as fuck is. Been there, never going back again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:55 AM
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PREACH!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:41 AM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you. Too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:11 AM
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Danke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:59 AM
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Thank you for sharing She Is Not Your Rehab
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:52 AM
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HOLY SHIT that’s fucking awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:44 AM
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Please define MRA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:42 AM
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Therapy helps tremendously. Also, use r/FDS to surround yourself with like-minded women/people in general. Only accept respect from family/friends/potential romantic partners. We are conditioned to believe we enjoy having our stress triggers activated (Does he like me? Why hasn’t he called/texted? Why is he running hot/cold?) Fuck allllllllll that noise. It’s difficult to retrain yourself, but it’s certainly worth it ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:34 AM
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Been there. Fuck ‘em. Get a good therapist, work through the issues that make him (& others like him) appealing. There is another side, & it’s taken me 10+ years to finally see it/get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:20 AM
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ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:45 AM
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It called devaluation, its a tactic abusers use so they don’t feel bad about the way they treat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:09 PM
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That last paragraph should be required reading for all women upon their first menses. It’s too many women’s reality (sure as hell became mine.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 04:52 AM
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WAY TO GO!!!!! And your story sounds too familiar : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:44 AM
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I am so, so, so sorry that happened to you. It had nothing to do with you, that person was barely human & has horrible karma coming his way. I hope you have processed/are healing from that experience. Love & light to you interweb sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:37 AM
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That’s me right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:38 PM
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You are fantastic, & let no one/nothing convince you otherwise. Just read something you posted recently in one of those subs, and it was simultaneously crystal clear & (I’m certain) mind-blowing for the clueless scrote who posed the question (about dating being HARD.) Keep spreading your Queen energy, you have no idea how many woman you are impacting positively!! EDIT: It’s happened to me too, & I also came here to proudly display my badge of honor ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:16 AM
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Destroying something you love is pushing boundaries to see what else they can get away with. I’m so sorry this happened to you , & you did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:56 PM
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We’re all very proud of you, & thank you very sharing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:27 PM
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I love her so- and she’s fantastic in Umbrella Academy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:06 AM
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That shit is revolting, & now I have another sub to check (to see who needs a pm invitation to FDS.) Sisters help me out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:08 PM
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PERFECT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:23 AM
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Yes it fucking is & it almost fucking did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:39 AM
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My SO is one of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:32 AM
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HAHAHHAHAHA that’s awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:03 AM
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I get random chat invites and they all get deleted immediately. I’m so sorry that happened to you : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:51 AM
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It’s happening to a good friend of mine currently. Thanks for giving me the proper terminology for a shitty situation : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:58 PM
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Defining Amy Coney Barrett’s Gileadian worldview as “unpopular beliefs” demonstrates an intense amount of internalized misogyny. But you’re probably not ready for that conversation yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:37 PM
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Very well put, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:06 PM
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GOOD FOR YOU !!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:05 AM
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PREACH!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:19 AM
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Right choice queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:07 AM
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You made the right call on that dude ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:30 AM
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Beautifully put, saving this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:05 AM
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I told my husband to leave. I had no idea there was this much air to breath. Thank you FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:01 AM
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Thank you for spreading the word, I’m sorry this has been laid on your head : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:59 AM
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Did you first hear of FDS from me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:57 AM
11

“How they treat you is more important than how much you like them.” Words to live by ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:41 PM
21

“Enabling bad habits and the path of least resistant is NOT helpful or empathetic.” Thank you, and I wish I’d heard those words 20 years ago. This is why I invite women to this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:34 PM
7

Hooray! Spread the word!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:39 AM
22

You’re right! Mwah-ha-ha-ha!!!!! EDIT: I think those MFs just lit a fire under me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:19 PM
3

I assume, yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:09 PM
7

I always reach out privately, and wow you do take a lot of precautions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:36 PM
11

Correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:15 PM
86

: )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:12 PM
73

If you go to the Wiki for this mass murder (happened in 2017) there are links for 2 other similar crimes (where the man killed his ex & their entire extended family.) Horrifying & too fucking common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:52 AM
7

You should watch the show Better Things with Pamela Adlon. Won’t help your current situation, but the show is based on her real life (& she deals with the same thing with 3 girls.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:31 PM
1

I really needed this today- thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:16 AM
2

Read a book called All The Rage, have your husband read it too. Do not it follow the book ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:19 AM
64

Had a 10am appointment for an arborist to come to my house today. 10:15 I called him, he said he was just leaving his house (he lives 40 minutes away.) 11:40 he texted that he was 20 minutes away. 12:30 I saw him drive by my house & park in my neighbor’s driveway (my address is on my mailbox.) I called him, went to voicemail. He called me back a few minutes later (he’s still sitting in my neighbor’s driveway.) 12:40 he knocked on my door. HOW ON EARTH DO MEN LIKE THIS STAY EMPLOYED?!! He works f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:43 AM
8

I did this & I wish I hadn’t. DON’T
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:36 AM
93

Thanks for reminding me to go to that subreddit to PM invitations to this subreddit, it’s been a while : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:45 PM
7

I’ve been living under that sword of Damocles for a long time. It suuuuuuucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 02:33 AM
36

That is hilarious & terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:52 AM
16

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:51 AM
1

Thank you for the incredible example you give us all : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:26 AM
2

And we need to do our best retrain ourselves and each other to fucking STOP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:17 AM
10

WOW I wish I’d seen this 13 years ago : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:43 PM
4

At least you didn’t spend 20 : (
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:38 AM
5

Same. And the hidden alcoholism. And the bipolar disorder. And the horrible irresponsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:24 AM
4

Have you visited r/wgtow?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:12 AM
7

That square hole is the entrance to a hive, they’ve been kicked out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:32 PM
3

Smith stood by Samantha when she got cancer, I thought he was a good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:20 AM
1

AGREED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:16 AM
213

I have a friend with a 2 year old who’s 3 months pregnant. Her husband doesn’t believe in parenting his son when he wakes up at dawn so that his pregnant (also working part-time from home) wife can sleep. Not even on his days OFF (he works 4 ten hour days a week.) His excuse: “I work full time so I need to catch up on my sleep.” I have no words. Only rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:05 AM
4

You need better friends- they exist : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:13 PM
4

THIS!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:02 AM
4

Are you me? : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:20 AM
3

Same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:19 AM
1

My first thought too : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:01 AM
3

That completely fucking sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:53 AM
7

I always do, through PM. I have received beautifully written thank yous that have made me cry. We all need to do this. All the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:10 AM
5

WAY to GO!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:52 AM
11

: ) spread the word sistah! Preferably with a private message, bc many subreddits consider r/FDS too fuckin’ radical >: /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:50 AM
18

Reading it now, I think it’s saving my life : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:14 AM
2

Grrrrrr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:01 AM
3

Sweet Jesus : (
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:57 AM
27

That is fucking infuriating. It’s like treating women as fellow human beings is just too radical of a god damned concept. EDIT: All those awards mean other people (maybe not just women) agreed, and the mods still shit canned it. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 04:07 AM
2

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:11 PM
9

Same here, & it completely fucking sucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:21 PM
19

The vast majority of male partners will lead you straight to hell. Familiarize yourself with a book called All The Rage by Courtney Summers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:04 AM
7

Also, his parents: “She’s so ungrateful for everything he’s/we’ve done for her. What a bitch.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:56 AM
3

Yeeeup, same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:08 AM
14

Cold & composed. Focus on those two words. He will try to suck you back into drama because it’s always worked in the past. I haven’t been perfect at it, but overall it’s helped my keep my cool since I told my abusive SO of 20 years to leave 3 months ago. Also highly recommend Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That?” If money is an issue PM me & I will send a copy anywhere you request. Good luck sister, you’ve got this ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:57 AM
14

I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you (all of y’all.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:59 AM
3

R/breaking mom is the saddest sub on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:09 AM
12

Thank you, that made me tear up :’ )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:57 AM
15

We are very, very proud of you! I wish I’d had your strength when my son was a baby (instead of staying for 11 more years.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:47 AM
3

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:00 PM
41

What does fw/fr mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:50 PM
5

CHURCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:07 AM
2

I read every word. Thank you for sharing this. I hope your health & (everything else) continues to improve. I’m so glad you wised up before you became legally bound (so many of us don’t.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:07 AM
1

Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:12 AM
1

What does nbd mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:02 AM
1

Found out about Lundy’s book here, I think it’s saving my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:49 AM
2

Told him to GTFO 4 months ago. We’ve been married almost 20 years, one kid who just hit double digits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:25 AM
1

That’s been my life for 15 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:20 AM
2

Pushing 50 here, & I completely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:49 PM
2

Bc they’ve been watching/masturbating to porn & actual human interaction no longer works. Ask me how I know......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:49 PM
3

We have a fantastic therapist..... that my husband stopped seeing many years ago (“waste of time.”) His mental health/substance abuse/abusive behavior nearly did me in (all while I’m trying to do what a therapist/doctor/psychiatrist would do.) When I kicked him out he moved in with his parents. They’re forcing him to see a therapist & psychiatrist now as a condition of living with them. Guess who’s decided it’s worth doing??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:26 PM
1

HA!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:16 PM
3

Just read about it/ordered it. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:15 PM
1

Trying to lead a gal over here for the exact same thing......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:58 PM
1

I PM gals on dating/relationship subreddits to come here when they post things that FDS might help with : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:42 AM
1

PREACH!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:29 AM
9

Read about post-nuptial contracts on TwoX earlier today to protect stay-at-home spouses (99% of the time Moms.) I have 2 friends that went to a sperm bank to have kids. Husbands aren’t required for a family ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:34 PM
2

Nope- only have one, he just hit double digits. And thank you for your kind words of support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 05:02 AM
14

Quit working 13 years ago to start a family, if I’d stayed in my field I’d be worth $100K+. Told my husband to move out 3 months ago. If we divorce I’ll be starting where I was in my early 30s (I’m pushing 50.) I wish I’d chosen differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:30 AM
4

I think it belongs here too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:27 AM
1

I just started it this week- I’m in : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:19 AM
6

I agree wholeheartedly about kindergarten enrollment. The only reason I ever visit that sub is to PM gals to come here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:55 AM
3

PREACH. I gave birth to one son, somehow wound up raising 2 children ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:19 AM
3

I hope you told her about us!! I tell everyone (PM bc most mods think FDS is the devil)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:18 AM
6

Then don’t watch Big Little Lies ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:36 AM
4

Well stated, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:51 PM
10

Y’all- anyone I see making choices like this gets a PM “You need r/FemaleDatingStrategy. Seriously.” JOIN ME PLEASE, I get 99% positive feedback
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:54 AM
4

Older gals (in their 60s+) that bucked the system & had careers know more about the world than most human beings (male or female) than I’ve ever interacted with. They aren’t angry (good God they should be) but if you can find one be her acolyte ; )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:15 AM
1

Let the scales fall from your eyes, & live the best time we have on this planet : ))) OH and share this when you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:06 AM
5

Three things: 1.) Your health issues will improve/disappear once you’re no longer living under the same roof (ask me how I know.) 2.) You need to read Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do That?” Others have suggested sending it to a friend’s house so your SO won’t see it, dunno if that’s an issue. If $$$ is an issue, PM me & I’ll send a copy wherever you ask. 3.) You’ve GOT THIS, beautiful queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:14 AM
2

THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:08 PM
6

Yeeeup- heard the same shit from our first counselor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:04 PM
5

Some are better than others- don’t treat them as infallible, but in many cases that LVM/NVM ain’t changing his stripes (ask me how I know.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:03 PM
7

I was treated that way by the first therapist we saw together (a woman, internalized misogyny is a helluva a drug.) So glad you had your Mom to tell you your reaction was justified, & so happy you’re ditching that asshole : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:00 PM
12

I posted a link to this sub at r/DatingOver30 and got a similar response from a bot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:57 PM
4

That is horrible, I’m so sorry you went through all of that : /
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:12 PM
7

Doctor/lawyer/Indian Chief types like this excel at this sort of thing. There’s a reason most wealthy wives are fucking miserable (bc they’re married to men like this.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:32 AM
7

I know exactly what you mean. Unfortunately. Good for you for not being gaslighted into staying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:31 AM
3

I don't think it is. There are plenty of effed up parents out there. This website provides insight into estranged parents' online forums (it's a thing.) http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:56 AM
40

I’m old as dirt and that new show repeating that tired trope pissed me the fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:46 AM
1

Therapy (with the right person, don't be afraid to try a few folks until you find the right fit) will help you immensely. It can provide clarity regarding where you've been, where you are, and where you're going. Don't let anyone make you think your mental health isn't worth the time/money/effort. This is precisely how I've built my strength- be prepared to work, but it's sooo worth it. Stay strong sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:46 AM
2

I call 'em man hoes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:14 AM
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