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FDS HUMORchasingastarl1ght/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:40 AM
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That's a lot of words to say "I'm a control freak" - the guy is out there acting like patrick bateman and I'm so glad the girl brilliantly called out the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:24 PM
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😳 what. (Thanks for that friend that refused to be an enabler and immediately went to warn her)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:50 PM
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Bless my family doctor. I was going to get a paper to see a psychiatrist. I felt fundamentally broken. She listened to why I thought I needed that and inquired about "what do you mean, you always fight with your bf?". Her diagnosis about 15 minutes of questioning later : "I can give you a thing to help you stay calm & focused, but you don't need a psychiatrist, you need to leave the abusive relationship you're in right now" Oh. Turns out, yeah, I'm all good. It was him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:13 AM
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No! That is horrifying 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:47 PM
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The mirror thing was very horror-movie like, true. I inspected the whole appartement with a pair of hair scissors in hand to make sure the person was hiding anywhere at the time oh boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:01 PM
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Oh yeah that was a few years The worst part was people not believing me and thinking I wrote the numbers myself on my mirror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:58 PM
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Yeah, let's say I didn't renew that lease when it expired...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:42 PM
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😨 omg imagine the horror
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:41 PM
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Honestly, I think it might have been the building's concierge. Which would explain why my dog didn't freak out : he knew him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:40 PM
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I've had that happened in the past. Someone was having fun just... Coming into my place. One time, I was taking a hot shower. I used to have these waterproof headphones so I'd basically just be chilling under the hot water vibing with my music. When I got out, in my horror, there was a phone number in the mirror. The first digits were unreadable. Nobody believed me they tought I was looking for attention. A week later, Im on my bed and listening to music, but suddenly, things felt drafty. I got …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:26 PM
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Just to provide a positive example of male doing good in the animal kingdom : https://www.thedodo.com/dad-wild-fox-tribute-1907006683.html The female fox was thought of having some form of post partum depression - so the dad fox took care of the babies and made sure everyone was fed while she hid and rested. He died sadly providing for his family. But this story really made me love red foxes so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:23 PM
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Like the story is dramatic in itself ecologically speaking But also : wow it's kind of hilarious as a metaphor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:53 PM
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Omfg this is absolutely psychotic behaviour and the fact that he told the kids "mommy drank too much and ruined Christmas" Wtf wtf wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:00 PM
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Why does he remind me of Ted from Schitt's Creek :'( I'm still upset about Alexis and Ted not working out. I have this dream of a follow up movie where Alexis organizes a big charity gala in New York to save the turtles. Everyone attends - even the Schitt cause they heard of the event from David and assumed they were invited too. Chaos, good fun. Then, Ted shows up : he is not longer in the Galapagos but head of a committee that overseas the protection of endangered species. His job isn't locked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:22 PM
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I imagine having to explain to your gf why you're covered in glitters after "working all day in a coffee shop" is kind of difficult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:45 PM
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We had a women-only coworking space in my city and they had to allow men in legally speaking. A group of men kept making a point to sit and be disturbant so the owner started to organize super graphic "menstrual talks" during lunchtime. They also glitterized the table they always sat at. Took 3 days and they never came back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:11 PM
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They are trying again - someone posted a violent thing flaired "omg goal" - the name of the profile is male. It's on FLS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:07 PM
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TRP teaches men how to step over women's boundaries. FDS teaches women how to enforce their boundaries. It's not two side of a same coin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:58 PM
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Oh same. For sure that man has driven all his past partners crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:28 PM
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"strike 1 for you" Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:52 PM
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My religion only recognized the New Testament for their rules and considered the Bible kind of like "history of how Jesus ended up fixing it all". Rules from the Bible were overridden by the NT. And Jesus didn't like the merchants, helped the poor, suggested men gauge their own eyes to manage the lust they felt and otherwise advocated for everyone to be full of love for everyone. I'm agnostic now that I'm an adult, but I honestly don't understand how people go from a text that says "love is the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:38 AM
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I call this being "dicknoptized" ahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:45 PM
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If she's paying everything, doing everything, he adds chores and financial costs + makes more money than her... Litterally, the best case scenario is divorce plus child support. He'll financially pull his own weight and she won't have to extra work to clean after him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:19 PM
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Same tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:44 PM
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Omg it does have a way to cloud your judgement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:37 PM
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This. When women are writing stuff that are hurtful to other women : yeah shame them (see the post about why "as a woman I think IWD is stupid" or women that recruits young girls into SW). When women are suffering alone because nobody has told them this wasn't ok. We shouldn't shame them. We should support them and have empathy : we all tolerated stuff we shouldn't have in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:28 PM
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Depends what they love about the dog. Do they want to love and care for it. Or do they like having something "submissive and loyal" to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:23 PM
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Damn, that's a lot of words to say "pick me 🥺"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:10 PM
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When your ego and sense of self are weak, every criticism feels like a full blown attack on your whole character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:07 PM
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She might as well be alone. What does he bring? Urg, it breaks my heart and I'm terrified of ending up in this kind of marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:35 AM
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No I agree. I will never have a relationship with my mother. But i don't straight up hate her anymore is mostly what I'm saying. To quote brooklyn 99 "cool motive, still murder"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:49 PM
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I have a clear memories of my mom saving up cent by cent to buy herself a storage chest made out of wicks to store some souvenirs in it. She wanted it so much, she cut in her own food portions for weeks. In a fit of anger, my dad kicked the hell out of that bench, destroying it to pieces. It was about something silly, me not hearing to something like teenagers do sometimes when they listen to music too loudly in their earphones and they don't hear you. I still remember vividly, my mom, on all fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:37 PM
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Dating is a battlefield
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:08 PM
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Imagine... Wanting to make a scene to cheap out of a 1.50$ filter coffee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:41 AM
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Also : who wears heels on a first date? Id feel so vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:40 AM
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Between Dis Son Nom, the guy that axed his ex and her mother following a break up and all the "celebs" that recently were judged non guilty of misconduct... Everytime I heard "Québec is a matriarchy under the thumbs of Germaines", i wanna scream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:47 PM
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I had told her that domestic violence was the reason he wasn't living with me anymore so she simply told him his name wasn't on the lease anymore and she had nothing to tell him. Then she contacted me to warn me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:53 AM
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There's something in the air, mine contacted my landlord to know stuff about me. Urg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:35 AM
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<3 (Just wanted to write as a side note that i love the way you write)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:57 PM
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Honestly, i never really acted upon the fact that i loved women too because I wanted a family - and i realize now how dumb it is because sperm banks are a thing and i could litterally have a family with another women. My best friend keep saying she wishes she was into women so she could build a little cottage, with little farm animals with her and I'm like "just say the word 👀 I'm all in"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:54 PM
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This is clearly the explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:36 PM
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This. It's still about beauty as the only value a woman can have (and therefore the only source of confidence) and trying to expand the definition of beauty. When all women have inherently value. And beauty is... Just one ever changing thing. It's great that we're decolonizing beauty, expending it's vision as we do with art, etc. But. Beautiful is not the most important thing a woman can be and anchoring your confidence in your appearance is a losing game because your body changes constantly and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:34 PM
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Men who sees oral as "degrading" don't go down on their partner...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:28 PM
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It's an anti manic pixie girl movie. The whole point is that the main character projects the whole concept of MPDG on Summer and she refuses, breaks his heart and go on to be happy with someone else. The movie isn't ruined for anyone that looked past the unreliable narrator that is Tom. The little sister explains it clearly "just because some girl likes the same weird shit you do, doesn't mean she's your soulmate". That's what I liked about it - how it takes the concept and turns it upside down.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:06 PM
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It's... It's women that do not want to have kids. Not the man. As long as having kids becomes a one-way disadvantage for women, natality is going to keep going down. A catastrophy for capitalism - it's a pyramid scheme after all. A good thing for the planet however
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:23 PM
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To be fair I do know a few people who actually have careers on Twitch and they make in the six digits. But I've also seen someone on Bumble tell me their full time job was twitch and they had an average of 2 viewers... Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:52 PM
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That aside, The Good Place is an amazing show and I'm so happy to see it referenced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:38 PM
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Light movies I've enjoyed and didn't make me cringe : 500 days of Summer Palm Springs Ingrid goes West (not romantic, just a comedy)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:30 PM
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I'm not sure I understand this post. They answered an instance of abuse - and luckily they were believed and supported. Why post this here? Sharing your experience on a forum after being invited to isn't a problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:51 PM
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That's funny cause the worst abuse I've ever suffered was from the nerdy "nice guys" that were average at best. Ugly guys are ressentful AF and will make you pay for all the girls that rejected them before you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:50 PM
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I'd assume she was scared of losing her job and financial support for the upcoming baby. Cognitive dissonance hits hard sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:59 PM
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The Bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:33 PM
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Some countries - like New Zealand, are not living with the same restrictions as we are in North America
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:21 PM
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Lol, a place that has coupons isn't a restaurant worthy of a date wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:17 AM
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As if the guy with the roses wouldn't also want a blowjob anyway LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:44 PM
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I've had a man loan me a book of his and then ghost me not long after. 2 years later he contacts me for the book back, I asked if the copy was meaningful in itself of if a brand new replacement from Amazon would do the trick. He says the Amazon replacement would do and asked for the 10$ it was priced at. I'm not sending 10$ to an old date that never bothered paying for my drinks and ghosted me, so i blocked him instead. (My pickme friend at the time thought I was so rude to not get him his book …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:27 PM
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She mentions a difficult family situation. My heart breaks for her. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:12 PM
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I mean, once in a blue moon, a curious HVM tries it out. They don't last long : either they get a few unlucky matches and run away from the platform because it's filled with LV people or they match with a great woman on one of their first attempt and uninstall the app immediately to focus on the person they are now interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:09 PM
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I wish there was a secret recipe, but i litterally swiped on mine by accident and he seemed friendly enough to accept a date. A year later, this is the healthiest, safest, most loving relationship to date and he checks all the green flags with absolutely no red flag on the horizon. However, if you look through my comments history, you'll see I've had a couple of really bad first dates. It's luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:56 PM
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Everything will have to revolve around her, you litteraly stop existing if you're not in her company, everything you do has to support her narrative arch. You're basically a "friend accessory", a side kick. She'll want you to be pretty enough to fit next to her, but she'll always pick the picture where she looks better than you. Shared friends : You are not allowed to be friends or hang out with other people in the group without her. She'll actively damage your reputation to other people so that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:05 PM
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The song had potential. When the other girl comes in and goes all "I stole your man" - they call him trash. The song could have ended as an awakening for the girl - instead of singing "she doesn't love you boy let me show you" a simple "he doesn't love you girl" where they acknowledge the whole yeahz the guy was cheating and him liking girls on IG was a symptoms. The line "some women want wife" is honestly urg. So if my man doesn't use porn, he's a "wife" subtext "submissive"? (Sorry I'm mad cau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:45 PM
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Imagine being lucky enough to cheat death... Only to spend the extra years cleaning behind a dude that's proud of how useless in the house he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:38 PM
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It is awful and I would have not made this situation a "bad first date story" if it hadn't gotten angry at me and called me names tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:45 PM
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I did end up finding a pearl on there - but wow did I had to go through a bunch of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:26 AM
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Yeah, this was a tough one cause... I have a ton of empathy and I immediately assumed it was a recent thing that he hadn't accepted yet and how traumatic this whole thing was for him. However, I also wanted to speak up, nicely, about feeling tricked a little. I offered him to have a friendly drink but he got frighteningly angry. The guy was very classically handsome on his pictures - I wonder how he would have reacted, back in the days, if he had showed up to a date and the girl wasn't looking l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:48 AM
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One guy showed up drunk AF and a foot foot shorter than me - his first sentence was "good you look like your pictures, where are we fucking?" (Called my friend at the bar for help on that one and he sent the guy away) One guy was so self absorbed, I managed to live text the whole thing to my friend, he never noticed I had my phone in my hand. He called himself "a modern Jesus" multiple times because he wanted to create a couponing app. One guy, there was no connection, but drinks had been ordere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:26 AM
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Seeing this right after I saw this tiktoker that did amazing anticonspiracy videos supporting porn :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:12 PM
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BPD is the new hysteria. It's basically cPTSD used to discredit women when they are reacting to intense trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:27 PM
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Ahahah, my current bf is like that too. He told me initially "hmm, wouldn't be my preferences, but ok". And then I come back from a shower one night and the two of them are spooning and sharing a pillow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:22 PM
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Do they act like all they have to offer is their money and then act bitter when they attract people based on their money? Does he describes any of his exes as gold digging? What did the exes do for a living? Did they have actual career or were all in a very unbalanced financial situation (stay at home, starting a business, still in school). Pay attention to decorative careers (not that they are alaways decorative, but some jobs look prestigious but can be done in a part time manner for appearanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:14 PM
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Imagine thinking that offering a woman to be basically an object is aspirational
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:48 PM
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They think the dog sleeping in my bed or curling up to me on the couch is a bug and not a feature I actually wanted and encouraged ahaha My dog is well behaved, never barks or growls, patient with kids and puppies, well socialized but he's also kind of goofie and headstrong, but also as tons of empathy (if I'm sick, he actually refuses long walks and drags me back inside). He walks very well on the leash, but will communicate with me if he thinks the walk wasn't long enough for him. (He sits str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:12 PM
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Urg, my best friend new guy told me exactly that. He also added "girls don't know how to train their dogs. Dogs are meant to be dominated and I'm not living with a dog I didn't train myself" And if this wasn't a parade of red flags... I can't wait for covid to end because right now she's too afraid to be completely alone in lockdown to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:54 PM
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Yours is independent? Mine follows me like a shadow. He's also really goofy and never fails to make me laugh. He's an amazing lockdown partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:10 PM
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What is wrong with that guy and why are these people tolerating this kind of behaviour? If any of the guy in our mixed group strated this kind of embarassing shit I would have asked him to leave immediately since he can't behave in social circumstances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:21 PM
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So I get very fancy with my skincare (we're talking multiple 100$ serums, toners and creams used nightly - biossance, Estee Lauder, Fresh, La Neige, Shiseido, etc.) - but the hydro boost cleanser is litteraly the only one I've found that doesn't make my skin react. I've tried expensive stuff, I always come back to that damn cleanser. It looks hella stupid on my shelf alongside the fancy stuff, but I actually really recommend it. I have sensitive skin too and it's always difficult to find a produ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:55 AM
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Pretty privileges is 100% a thing However there's a "ceiling" of beauty allowed. If you go past that, you're reduced to a sex object incapable of thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:27 AM
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drinking beer is an entire personality, dad bods, big beards finance boys with the cookie cutter fully furnished micro apt in condo-town, fancy gin drinkers will wake up at 40 realizing that family is a status symbol, drives agressively an audi tech boy which means either he works in videogames or porn. Wears the same black hoodie everyday. Manchild, pornaddict, plays videogame all the times woke poly boy that's high all the time and think he's the best lover in the city : he smells weird market…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:50 PM
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That understanding is so important. When I initially got back with my ex, i was so ashamed but my best friend really told me that while this wasn't what she had hoped for me, she did not judge me and she loved me all the same. She also said, if he hits you again, you don't even have to ask, just come stay the night here, bring your dog. It happened again and i called her "can i spent the night at your place?" - she knew. I arrived, she had cooked me a nice meal, we drank, we cried, we laughed. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:50 PM
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Ask them questions - they have to come up with it. You can't just be like "that guy is a giant pile of poop, dump him. You deserve better". They'll block it out. How does that make you feel? When he does that - what do you think? What's your ideal relationship like? Would you treat someone you love like this? Do you think he loves you? What do you think he loves about you? Do you think he loves you, as a person, the concept of you of what you do for him the most? Etc. Eventually, you'll ask the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:46 PM
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My jaw got dislocated. She's not hitting 10 ten times harder. I'm trained in martial arts, I'm athletic - and that skinny bean pole turd of a man that never even step foot in a gym still managed to knock me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:23 PM
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Donate to dog shelter the 20$ and block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:58 PM
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I don't know how venmo works, but can you simply not accept it and block a user?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:54 PM
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This is so sociopathic omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:35 PM
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I totally get you - it used to drive my ex crazy - you absolutely cannot date an insecure many. You need a partner that has a chill, confident vibe to them. But mostly a man that sees you, past the charm, past the good looks. But those things are blinding - even the most HVM could get momentarily distracted on a date with a really charming and beautiful woman, which is why the first dates or so, I tone myself down a little - let him have the space to charm you. You know you'll charm him the mome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:38 PM
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I feel what you're saying - especially the nice nerdy guys seeing me as a revenge fantasy when I'm a nerd too that was bullied in high school. I just had a big glow up right before college. The other problem is that people with healthy attachment styles don't stay single for long - especially men... They'll take the time to heal, but once they put themselves back on the market they get snatched really quick. As for the feeling of "f-able trophy" - i personnaly found that showing up without any e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:06 PM
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Yes there are. Some realized it had become an addiction & went clean. Some are aware of the abuse going on and simply can't support it. Some have watched it a few times as a horny teenager but grew to find it boring now as an adult. Some find it gross. Some only watch once in a blue moon when single and out of imagination but consider it cheating in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:41 PM
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What breeds this level of sociopathy in boys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:01 PM
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Back to front... And they don't wipe their ass? Blergh. I litterally have different underwears for sleeping and daywear. Two panties a day for me, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:03 PM
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This is the story that turned me into a radical - the reality of sex work past the liberal/empowering PR speech
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:24 PM
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How is 10 days 3 underpants? HOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:15 PM
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Yeah and the poor girl got herpes in there too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:34 AM
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That makes me think of my friend who dipped into escorting. One of her colleague had a hole in her stomach to plug in a bag and collect poop following some very serious medical situation. And she collected premium for men that wanted to use that hole... like everything can be turned into a lucrative niche in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:34 AM
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Also even the attractive guys can't pose to save their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:02 PM
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The level of devotion Joel has for his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:14 PM
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What? I litterally just want my equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:58 AM
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I got extremely lucky and met a wonderful guy right before the whole thing. Kinda funny cause on the first date i just wouldn't shut up about "the virus in wuhan" and how we should get ready. We spent 3 months just talking and having little virtual dates once lockdown started and eventually, after 3 months, i said fuck it - put yourself into a strict 14 days quarantine and come over. He did and we've been together since then. This is by far the easiest, most loving relationship I've ever had. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:20 AM
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I don't get how he got to be this age and not know girls have to pee after sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:12 AM
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Right? Kids are so brutally honest. A man tells me I'm pretty? He wants to stuff his dick somewhere and those are empty words to get there. A woman tells me I'm pretty? Either she genuinely thinks so or she likes me enough as a person to sincerely want me to feel pretty. A kid tells me I look like a pretty princess? The truth. Just the absolute truth, i guess I do look like a pretty princess thank you so much child for giving me the highest of compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:18 PM
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It was cute! We are in full lockdown here with curfew so options were limited (all non essential stores were, up until very recently, closed) He showed up with strawberries dipped in chocolate he made himself and champagne. Take out from my favourite restaurant in candle lights. I already had received a bouquet of flowers from the bestie (for some unrelated thing a few days ago) so he opted out of getting me flowers on the day of since my vase was already busy. We played boardgames together, wal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:18 AM
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Also, this might allow you to avoid getting doxxed. On my main Reddit, I follow my city sub and other things related to my job/my hobbies/etc. I could be IDed. You don't want an angry troll that found you on FDS to identify you IRL - It could be dangerous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:36 PM
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"According to its owner, this is the first time that Spanky has ever bitten anyone, and he acted strictly out of self-defense." Protect Spanky!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:48 PM
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They better not put that adorable dog down because he defended himself against a rapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:47 PM
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Childbirth also terrifies me and I feel like the reality of it and the options aren't really properly discussed? We have a birthing house around here that's next to an hospital. It's expensive (compared to free healthcare) - but Id prefer to give birth in a place where I'd be surrounded by women, in a private room that allows me to move according to how my body feels comfortable. And if there's any problem, the hospital is next door. I've heard so many stories of doctor rushing the birthing proc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:26 PM
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Like seriously. The woman clearly wasn't cooperating because she knew subconsciously the child was safer inside her womb rather than exposed to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:53 PM
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The woman wasnt cooperating cause unconsciously she didn't want her child to be unsafe outside her womb - exposed to this clearly abusive man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:52 PM
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Men see "write about yourself" but end up writing a shopping list buil your own women kinda thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:50 PM
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I hate that boon with a passion. It's at the point where I actually consider it a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:12 PM
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I mean Whisper in itself is so toxic. Just a bunch of horny men trying to groom teens into their kink, admitting to cheating and trying to become some Splenda daddy. The irony of them thinking FDS is the toxic platform lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:10 PM
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Yeah I think we need an exception for Canadians with the sport thing... Also, a guy playing hockey shows he's able to play as a team, is a good way to stay fit without being a gym rat and is a healthy way for a man to spend times with friends (instead of bar hopping)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:04 PM
22

I see it too! We have a little Facebook group of select women where we created a truly safe space for us and I've noticed one of the founding girl often posts content that I've seen on the forum here and I realize this is a little conversion bubble to the FDS principles 👀 like "girl I see you and I'm 100% on board"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:53 PM
14

Jesus was a chill dude but anything pre-new testament is not it. I don't need to believe in a torturous hell to love my fellows and respect them. Also, religion as a moral compass is a slippery slope because a lot of religious folks think homosexuality is "satanic depravity" and they are using old texts and cherry picking what justifies their bigotry. So let's stay away from religion and focus on moral philosophy instead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:47 PM
1

It's the difference between common law and civil law :( The law was initially to prevent a kid taking control of an old and senile parent's money and then letting them starve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:13 AM
1

Will do! I'm so grateful for the support I'm getting here. Had not expected it. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:43 AM
3

I know. My therapist also mentioned that it was abusive emotionally to dump that kind of guilt tripping on your kid and it explains the feeling I've been having since then. In my country, I can get sued by my parents and be forced to pay alimony and that sent me into a full panic. I consulted a lawyer, and the history of negligence and abuse would however stop them from getting a positive judgment if they were to attempt it, so theres that at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:15 PM
6

Honestly, you should never answer truthfully those questions anyway because they can be discovered thru social engineering or a good old Facebook stalking. If the idea of putting absolutely random stuff scares you, pick a book or movie and answer from a character pov all the questions. Easy example would be Harry Potter : Mother maiden name : Evans First pet : Edwig Etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:08 PM
10

Speaking from experience, just showing the mace can is deterrent enough. (It's funny cause everytime the guys would call me crazy for threatening them when they were the one harrassing me in the first place)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:09 PM
36

Thank you so much for this reply. I did offer a few financial advices to my mother (consolidate debts, programs to bridge them over, etc) but I refuse to put my own financial health that I've worked so much for - on my own, alone in the world - at risk when they did this to themselves. So, thank you for validating my feelings. I've been struggling the past few days about my decision to not actually wire them the money (which is money I saved for my cashdown on a home)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:46 AM
56

I haven't been in contact with my parents for years, but my mother just contacted me, crying for help : my dad gambled away their money and they will loose the house. Mom is currently working 12 hours a day, with a broken back, to try and keep them afloat since the house is litteraly the only thing to their name and their whole retirement plan. My dad refuses to help, ask for help, go to the food bank or get any type of work to help. He filled the credit cards, the credit line and took a double …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:22 AM
21

Is there a special spell I gotta use to syphon off their life force and youth? Does it work with knowledge too? I was studying for a certification, but maybe just absorbing the personnality of a guy that already passed it would be quicker?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:10 AM
33

So, women are succubus?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:03 AM
253

Just say your kink is big dicks, kinks are untouchable, no? Or it's just when it's about degrading and abusing women that the limit of acceptability doesn't exists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:47 PM
140

Bf and I watches our newsfeeds while drinking coffee in bed on Sunday mornings and I always joke that I'm scrolling my favourite "man hating subreddit". Sometimes I gasps reading things here and he inquires "oh no, what have the men done this time?" Side note but I am shocked about all the strange conspiracies around this otherwise harmless forum of discussion. It's just a bunch of women setting boundaries for themselves. It has no impact on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:51 AM
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You don't know hows he's treating her - what you're seeing is a curated image of what he wants people to see, not reality. Now block him, you don't need the temptation to look again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:58 AM
58

It weirdly makes sense? Not knowing how to manage their feelings, they confuse the intimacy with a really, deep friends as a sexual feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:40 PM
102

That's an important point : every friendship with a straight man that got deeper - like the kind I'd have with women ends up with them trying to make a move (even got straight up assaulted once) The only guy "friends" i have is the mixed group of friends from university. All of us are in serious relationship, we've known each others for 10+ years. However - we are not close. No deep talk, nobody ever hangs out one on one, it's always as a group. Everyone is extremely loyal, i could ask them for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:39 PM
32

Joel is his wife's biggest fan - they do have silly arguments, but it's always respectful. Loved that show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:36 PM
3

In Canada, "college" is between high school & university. Its A 2 years for general "pre-university" that is almost the equivalent of a french bacc or 3 to become a technician - so trade school. We do have high school level professional school, but you don't have the technician title that comes with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:23 PM
12

This. He's 28 yo and fresh out of school, no work experience. What did he do in his early 20s to only be out of school now? Most people graduate from trade school at 19-20.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:19 PM
2

I've been shopping for a yoga bolster too to replicate the studio experience at one with covid and all that! I do recommend a dog if you can provide him with a good life :) mine keeps me healthy, makes me laugh, makes me feel protected, keeps me warm and forces me to keep a good life routine even in the chaos of lockdown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:41 AM
27

The word concubine doesn't have a negative connotation in French. It essentially means "common law" relationship - except France is under a civil law system and not a common law system. We could say a "civil union" (union civile) instead of concubinage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:01 PM
63

Hey so I just want to validate those feelings of being "emotionally raped" Yes, you were. He withheld important information from you and you gave consent based on false information. If this were a contract for any other thing, it would be fraud and you could sue. You gave consent to a relationship with this man under certain terms. He knew that and he had all intents to keep the truth hidden from you as long as he could knowing fully you wouldn't have given him the time of the day if you knew he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:22 PM
13

I feel genuinely so weird when I'm all shaved off. Like... A naked mole?? Blah. I don't get it, it's painful, it's itchy and the skin gets damaged. Plus, you can't convince me that skin in the area doesn't get desensitized after going thru the pain of waxing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:34 PM
81

A weighted blanket doesn't snore and offers the comfort of cuddling at night. Add a hot water bottle between those sheets and bam, warmth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:08 PM
17

He should at least have a linkedin! Twitter & reddit could be used to lurk industry trends and follow professionals but rarely if ever to post. IG & FB empty / only following friends & family and not updated for the past years is very common around me. But I doubt a man below 40 yo wouldn't have at all a FB registered to their name. If they tell you they don't have one, I'd investigate a little...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:59 PM
73

I actually gagged America needs to normalize bidets and douching your butt after going to the bathroom - this is so gross wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:18 AM
61

For real, it's the porn brainwashing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:13 AM
170

“ I didn’t want to know. Because I don’t know the other side, I’ll never actually know what the truth is” So he doesn't believe the victim of abuse and he's willing to actually give the benefit of the doubt to a men he doesn't even know? She needs to run far away, the guy has zero empathy and he only wants to have sex with her. He litteraly doesn't care about her past or where she's coming from, he has no intent of ever acknowledging or accomodating her previous wounds. He could have said "I fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:58 AM
16

Honestly, highly cerebral men are just bad & draining. (Doesn't it always feels like you gotta always be "on" intellectual to keep them entertained otherwise they resent you and immediately start doubting your intelligence? Like you gotta constantly prove yourself to them) They have to debate everything and they're often edgelords or extremist (to the left or the the right) Plus they don't like when you're their equal intellectually cause you'll be harder to manipulate (litteraly was told so fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:53 AM
39

Your comment is perfect. I'd give it an award if I had some
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:22 PM
41

Wtf?????? That's extremely dangerous why even advertise the idea????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:33 AM
35

I'm in this picture and I dont like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:33 PM
88

So happy the girl was like "lol no"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:20 PM
188

Why doesn't he simply tell her he doesn't actually want to get to know her/talk to her and he's only into the concept of doing the bare minimum until he can have sex with her? Oh yeah cause he knows honesty would blow up his chances at getting laid with the girl he's not even into
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:19 PM
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I was like that too. It was a cope. Never again. Told my newish bf "I want something special for vday" He answered "then you will get something special on vday :)" And that's it. TBC to see what he'll actually do, but so far he's been very thoughtful when it comes to gifts and planning little dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:33 PM
20

My favourite flowers are white daisies. They are ether cheapest ones - and yet my ex couldn't he bothered. There was a woman selling cheap flowers on the streets litteraly in front of his office place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:30 PM
97

Honestly, same. "Isn't that not feminist" "What do you mean? Women can be psycho too!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:36 AM
30

Honestly, Yellowstone needs to go ka-boom and put us all out of our misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:33 AM
26

I love that the algorithm has declared your bf wholesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:43 AM
1

It will die down in a few days - markets close in the evening, ask him to be present with you and make up for the lack of attention during the day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:43 PM
1

It will die down in a few days - markets close in the evening, ask him to be present with you and make up for the lack of attention during the day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:24 PM
31

I'd say that's more boundaries... I've had cats and they could get in the bed, on the couch and anywhere really, but kitchen counters and dinning tables were off limits and they knew it. Cats are actually really good at understanding "territories" and boundaries. However, they'll only respect your boundaries if you respect theirs and that's why some people have issues training their cats...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:29 PM
44

Of course! Large difference between "I got a cat because the level of needs it requires fits my lifestyle more" and "I think it's ok to neglect my cat until I actually want attention from it". I'd say it's more like "yellow flag" material as in "check it what he means exactly by that".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:26 PM
31

For sure, always vet! Not all genuine looking smiling dudes online are HVM. But most HVM will be genuine looking smiling dudes. There's no magic recipe, just a collection of potential green flags & the absence of red ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:45 AM
78

You can definitely catch some of their vibe in the way they pose/smile. It's so rare to see a guy with a genuine smile and soft eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:05 AM
44

I spent all my life telling my previous partners as a former "cool girl" that I wanted nothing for Valentine's Day cause it was just a commercial holiday blah blah. So my self love this year was telling my current SO that I wanted everything - the whole VD package. And that I wanted to plan absolutely none of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:39 PM
30

I remember when everyone was doing the personality test thing... As an "INTP", thinking it's special to be one is so 5 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:33 PM
18

We Are Young too - the scar he gave her months ago? Hmm...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:38 PM
44

7 rings was so great in comparison :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:37 PM
73

True. I was the "dream girl". He was perfect at the beginning, if a little jealous & possessive (he never wanted "something" as much, see) - he became a nightmare of a man. It's a year later and I still have nightmares about it. He couldn't sustain the "good" behavior and then resented me for it. He was so angry. I was the dream girl. But also, because he "loved me so much", I was the first girl he punched in the face. No value is no value. They'll either string you along cause they don't care e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:20 AM
5

Strange that she plays on your local alternative radio station however. Our local alt station is definitely "alternative rock with a sprinkle of modern rock (and some emo-rock nostalgia for good measures!)" but I'd say guitars are absolutely mandatory to be featured on there. I think 21 pilots did make appearances here and there, but because they definitely used to have songs that dipped into the genre so they were known on the scene. Billie Eilish gets played 24/7 on the pop stations along with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:33 PM
25

I explain this with the blanket analogy. Right now, men have burrito-ed themselves into the blanket and women are actually tired of being cold. When we yank the blanket, we're not taking it all away, but it feels "colder" for them, and it feels like we're taking something away from them. But there's enough blanket for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:59 PM
49

Ahaha, music snobs are the worst. "I only listen to "real" rock". Like yes, i can recognize that some music is definitely genius in their creation, interpretation, etc. But a good pop song is just... Fun. (And yes it took me a while to realize I was "not like other girl-ing" when i was refusing to just appreciate a fun bop for what it was)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:55 PM
7

Indeed! But yes, tech can be used for nefarious things that's absolutely true too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:52 PM
5

He didn't account for the girl sharing screenshots with a mutual :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:29 PM
19

I've learned the hard way snooping is useless. You don't need proof of their cheating anyway. The moment your guts are telling you something is wrong, there is something wrong. (If you have deep rooted insecurities because of past trauma and feel like you can't trust your guts, please heal yourself before dating. Trusting your intuitions is how you avoid being gaslit, lied to, manipulated, etc. Sounds weird, but the Marie Kondo book was actual magic to retrain trusting my own feelings)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:11 PM
6

Probably because lots of women get harrassed by men they don't match with. (Like they'll google your picture and find your insta/FB and ask you why you didn't match with them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:01 PM
15

Even if you could snoop through his whole phone. You can set multiple phone profiles. One that is "my gf is snooping-friendly" - and one that contains the bad stuff to be hidden. Unless you know how to access the second profile, good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:59 PM
31

And men you don't match with can't stalk you elsewhere... Im pro this feature if it's not available to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:58 PM
24

Secret conversation is a savior however when my friend is going through a crisis. Her bf is abusive and reads her messages, she can only get help this way. (She can't leave for a myriad of reason and I'm too far away to help physically - I can only call the cops when things are getting scary)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:57 PM
9

I honestly just feel empathy for the guy. He's in a "incel without hate" group. While not a perfect subreddit, they seem to at least attempt to provide a space for men to discuss their loneliness without the notorious rage against women brewing in other similar sub. He respected the dancer boundaries and he's realizing how much he's missing on. I don't think we should be mocking him for that post... (Side note: The curse of empathy)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:39 PM
13

I would absolutely adopt in my group of friends any fellow FDS woman! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:16 PM
103

As I side note : same with losing a job. I remember, a while ago, some friend lost their job and they were bummed and everyone was going "awww nooo" I said instead "fuck yeah congrats you hated that job! Got a package? Yaahhh hi five!!' and then proceeded to mention how that cozy package was going to be perfect for them to take the time to reflect about what they really wanted from a job. Spin your life positively whenever you can tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:57 AM
115

I do that!!! When my close friends get broken up with, I always show up with favourite food, cupcakes and champagne (the good stuff!) Celebrate the new beginning! I always bring a gift too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:54 AM
12

When there's a new baby, the family cooks large amount of food for the new parents. Homecooked meals only need to be warmed up, one less thing to worry about. Grandparents are regularly available for babysitting and giving a night off to the parents so that they can rest & spend quality time together outside of "parenthood". This is what it should be like...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:51 AM
334

"never had to work a day in her life" They don't see the efforts it takes to care for children and a home 24/7 while they spend their evening jerking off to porn online instead of helping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:52 PM
2

My people ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:04 PM
19

Girl, that's self harm. Please get help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:10 PM
20

Fix things, pick up with their cars furniture, name it. Had one guy bring me vitamins and snacks once - having never met me, cause I was sick while he were talking and I was out of soup. The guy in the screenshot is so weird?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:06 AM
81

Lol what? I feel like any normal guy would be so happy to help with some small stuff like that? They get to feel all manly and helpful??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:01 AM
47

Anyone heard that ayayayaya she did when leaping into battle as she crushed him with her words?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:32 PM
31

I genuinely do not know a single woman that doesn't have a history of abuse/assault/harrassment. And yet, men think it's rare and doesn't happen "cause they've never met an abuser" In my city, every few months there will me a "metoo" movement - women will publicly open up their wounds and trauma so that men can witness how fucking many have been through this shit. And yet, they can't comprehend it "but I don't know any abuser? All my friends are good men!" And they say that while I know for a fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:24 PM
19

Projection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:21 PM
52

"ok but I prefer being told the truth" Your preference does not overrun the safety of a woman. Having no ways to know if you're a good guy or one of those violent jerk, she certainly won't gamble with her safety for your preference. If it bothers them so much, they could maybe start by trying to fix the issues with their gender. Or you know, they could have a little empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:08 PM
25

For sure, engagement mean nothing legally, but they do have resell value if end up wasting your time. I see it as a "putting your money where your mouth is" kind of thing - and the norm is that the wedding happens within a year. It basically marks the beginning of the preparation for the ceremony. I agree that an engagement should never be a surprise. The exact moment can be surprising... But the rest should be discussed prior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:15 PM
88

Promise rings are for high schoolers or like....college students in a "I promise to marry you after we graduate" kind of way. When you're definitely too young to marry, but you want to do a small gesture. The moment you're out of school and of drinking age, promise rings are no longer acceptable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:09 PM
130

The amount of guy that had nagged me for a BJ, as a form of foreplay, when it was actually extremely risky behavior. I wouldn't sleep with you without a condom, why would I put your dick in my mouth (or my throat?) I was called boring, a prude or paranoid for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:05 PM
225

This is a cry for help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:33 AM
13

No I agree, anything obsessively done is a problem! Videogames, Netflix, wasting time on the internet and watching sports is for when "all the rest is done" and I wouldn't date someone who puts more importance than that to those hobbies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:29 PM
16

We have a curfew and we're in lockdown in the middle of winter. This year is an exception ahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:10 PM
91

I know, poor guy, he was so committed to the idea of a grandiose proposal and waiting for covid to pass and she asked the question when they were on their couch wearing pyjamas, greasy hair and all that. Ahaha the ring is absolutely gorgeous however
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:23 PM
27

Good food, good wine & flowers at the minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:14 PM
184

I have heard ONE good excuse. They had a beautiful trip planned, but covid happened. Guy had the ring and a plan for her dream proposal in a vineyard in France, etc. He waited a few months, hoping the world would resume but it didn't. So when she asked the question, the excuse was pretty valid. Anyway they are engaged now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:13 PM
123

The girl. You think she woke up for real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:25 PM
32

My friend asked for a sperm donation from a gay friend that doesn't want child of his own and living in another city. His role will be limited to being an "uncle" and once the child is old enough to understand, it will be explained to him if he ever ask who's his father. They used a menstrual cup for the insemination. The kid is now almost 3 years olds, she's happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:07 PM
4

Social Media! Sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:34 PM
48

But it's the opposite? The more I orgasm, the more sensitive I get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:18 PM
215

Beware if he uses SM has a punition/reward tho. I was the one that didn't like to showcase relationships on SM. He insisted "I want a picture of us!!" - he put it out as a profile pic. Every little fight, he'd take it down - so that his harem of pickmes could come and ask what was wrong with us. It was humiliating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:57 AM
20

Tell him youd like a bit more of proactivity on the text and that it makes you feel appreciated when he randomly texts you during the day. It's easy to adapt to this kind of demand and it costs him nothing to take an extra 5 min in the morning to wish you a good day and check up on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:57 PM
17

It's such a major red flag for me when a person describes travelling as their main "hobby". A date with them is basically just them bragging about every places they've been to, their whole personality is about travelling and nothing else and urg. They live with roomies or in small, all furnished, apartment that are otherwise empty, just a place to sleep in until the next travel. Imagine how much of a whiny baby they must currently be with the pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:04 PM
29

Everything is politics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:42 PM
8

Oh yeah, they thought they were playing a puzzle based video game and suddenly realized they were not willing to die for whatever the cause was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:04 PM
17

Yeah it's not like he said "hey my boss just dropped on me an extremely rushed project. I might not answer my phone as quickly for the next few days. I'm sorry - i miss you already and will plan us a nice special date to make out for it when it's over" He said "i have to focus on more important thing" with no timeline or anything. Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:23 PM
12

There's a weird crossover between CrossFit fanatics and alt right. Honestly, you can't go to a fitness center anymore without seeing an incel trying to bulk up to become "a muscle alpha" (i forget the specific term they use) or a QAnon believer - or some "libertarian" believing he can fight off covid by taking the proper shakes and being fit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:19 PM
22

Have you heard the interview of the young guy that was next to her when it happened? He's pretending on camera that he tried to help stop the bleeding : videos show him hovering over her, phone in hand to film every grusome details of her death as she is bleeding out. It's tragic that she died - any life loss is sad. She was a mother deluded by an algorithm that she was saving children from sex trafficking. But, the agent that shot her only did once she crossed over the barricade leading to impo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:17 PM
217

I kinda like this trend of younger men realizing how some "normal masculine" stuff is actually toxic and calling it out. A little hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:28 PM
61

The two hottest guys I've ever dated were the only ones that weren't abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:36 AM
16

I only know Mejuri because I like the complete opposite : minimalist & modern. I like that a big part of their branding was to be a brand for women to gift themselves diamonds and beautiful everyday jewelry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:24 AM
31

It's 80k$ after taxes. He makes 6 digits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:19 PM
124

A month. He's been dating her for ONE month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:40 PM
77

Notice how he gives the salary "after taxes" because it looks lower? He makes well over 100 000$ pre taxes. He has 6500$ a month net to spends and he thinks a few take outs per months is too much. Boy needs to stay in his tax bracket and stop gold digging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:38 PM
100

Yup, he's basically whining about parking his car at her fancy apartment that he definitely enjoys staying at. He mentions not walking/ubering to her place instead "out of pride" - even thought it would cut his budget in half. Also, they have been dating for 1 month barely from the comments - he's already wondering about how much he's paying... And thinking about having her pay for stuff instead... While he lives in her beautiful apartment. Edit: i just re-read. It's 80$ parking for an overnight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:14 PM
136

That's one proper take out a week + parking once a week overnight for him - he isn't really spoiling her or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:04 PM
20

Yeah in retrospect, my limp dick ex getting a raging boner whenever I cried was definitely a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:48 PM
16

I'm against circumcision too - especially when it's not even done in a religious context and if there's no medical reason for it. It's a permanent mutilation that the infant did not consent to. And I wish men activitsts addressed that kind of stuff instead of crying about feminism...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:32 PM
50

I don't think it's a "he knows for sure", more like recognizing really quickly "this relationship has potential, we fit!" and working with that initial impression to make it work. And if a guy decides to make the relationship work, it will (because women pretty much always put in the effort, the only variable is them) Tbh, we have that too, but are just fooling ourself into ignoring blatant red flags. I've always known exactly how a relationship would end in the first few months and somehow thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:45 AM
11

Depends on the type of deeds and the State, but from what I saw in the comment, she might have grounds to : get all money moved around from the joint account back into it and it's all hers house would be all hers She'd basically loose the money that was in the personal checking account of the men because it was willed away - however the way he went about it might actually invalidate his whole will. So, moderate chances with a good lawyer that she gets everything back. Except for a percent that c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:08 AM
72

So glamorous!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:00 AM
132

Yes! Also, ice skating is kinda romantic imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:54 PM
67

I glanced, no details but she might have a case in her state. Moving the money a month before dying shows he basically intended to "steal" marital property and might invalidate the whole will. The kid, if proven to be his, could potentially get some part of it however. It is outrageous, I agree. The insult of... Finding out your husband has cheated for so long, you still care for him in his dying days and... He steals years of savings to send it to her. Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:10 PM
44

I hope she lives in a state where that's not a thing he can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:02 PM
9

Why is this so true. And the good looking guys are the one that make you feel like a goddess and drown you in compliments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:13 PM
37

It's the opposite? Like when I think about the actual strong guys around me : tall, muscular, good at sports, leaders, good career and ambitious about it - they all like strong women that are going to keep challenging them. Now, when i think about the losers playing games all day, masturbating to disgusting porn, neck beard, beer guts and with part time jobs for students while they are no students and way past 30 yo : they want a girl with no self esteem that will baby them, let them degrade the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:32 PM
13

Oh yeah absolutely - we have to do the self improvement too because it's unfair to just drop our trauma response on someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:24 PM
17

Yeah there's a whole market for brand named box out there. Assume you always get 100-200$ off whatever luxury thing you buy because the box/bags and even tags have incredible value for people who wants to fake luxury Medium brand (Mejuri, pandora, MK) will get you a good 20$ per box
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:44 PM
27

In my area, there is law for domestic abuse. You can kick someone out of the lease for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:37 PM
41

She needs to change it back then. What is she doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:37 PM
24

True and I'm in a similar situation. Except, LVM will make it worst by invalidating you, brushing you off, turning your questions into arguments, telling you youre too sensitive, etc. A HVM will notice you're getting triggered by something and ask you kindly "are you okay? What is wrong, talk to me" - and he'll listens, acknowledge your emotions and offer reassurances, empathy and will take the time to understand which part of the behavior created the reaction. He'll adapt to that, even if it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:32 PM
7

It's a bit more complex than that. Positive is adding stimulus, which can be a reward or a punition. Negative is removing a stimulus, which can be withdrawing attention or pain. But for general understanding, most people do use positive as "positive :)" and negative as "negative :(" Generally speaking, kids (& everyone really) aren't that different from puppies : they will seek attention. And if good behaviors we not rewarded but bad behavior results in a lot of "negative :(" attention - then th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:51 PM
32

I too have a clear preference about nose when it comes to guy ... Like it's potentially in the middle of my kids face...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:08 AM
3

Same guy, old pictures. Had that happened (pre FDS) multiple times. Guys forgetting to mention the pics are from 10 years ago, before they lost hair/gained 60+ pounds - which, hey, happens, just be transparent about it and use recent photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:05 AM
61

There's a short story that's pretty much that but i forgot the title. The girl basically learns shes not the first this "charming" guy has awoken. Basically, once the honeymoon is done or the moment the girl starts being disagreeable, he freezes her back up (killing her in the process), then pick a next victim studying her files so he can be the perfect mate at first, etc. It was chilling and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:52 PM
77

She's clearly being rude because he's being an asshole to her - that's why all the nurses that have come to help in the house "weren't a good fit" and "condescending towards him" Also "muttering about people that are not in out life anymore" - he cheated on her, she forgave him and now he won't even take care of her when she's sick. I bet he cried "in sickness and health, we're married" and now that it's her turn to claim it for valid reasons, he's backing out of the very argument he used to her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:25 PM
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It's because the brain doesn't differentiate that much between negative and positive attention. So endless communication after something bad can feel like a reward actually. Ignoring is the way to go. Also works excellent with puppies when you're training them. Reward the good stuff, withdraw attention when a mistake is made until it's corrected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:33 PM
30

I mean there's adult Legos now which are basically complicated 3D puzzles. They can be used in design thinking workshop or architecture prototyping and then there's the collectible side (think elaborate star wars spaceships).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:57 PM
69

He could have : pick a piece of paper, draw a cute strawberry on it & a sweet little message inside. Uber eats 2 pieces of strawberry cake from a local bakery, coffee shop or restaurant with dessert options. And somehow, that would have been a total of 10 min of efforts and been miles better already then this disaster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:32 PM
24

This is so absurd. Like... I don't even want it to be true. He made her pay for her own cake which is not even what she wanted, couldn't bother to make a card (a kid could make one) and basically gave her his trash for a birthday gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:23 PM
26

Actually, it is such a weird marketing campaign because the demographics of bumble users in big city was definitely "HV" oriented - higher education, more family/serious relationship oriented. (Self reported - agaisnt other dating apps) Yes, women speak first, but only as a mean to avoid the strain of having too many of your matches talking at once. The initial message was that "she'll only message you if you're extra interesting because she has way more matches than you do". It made it more com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:20 PM
100

So I learned recently that some men have anorexia fetishes and they actively find girls with ED to make them deadly skinny because it's what turns them on. Big crossover between ana fetish and pedophilia. They basically like sickly, weak women that have a childish body (no breasts, no curves, no ass) - so weak they can't carry anything by themselves. They will even trigger their gf ED on purpose and encourage them to get to very extreme weights... So yeah. The girl should RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:14 PM
6

About meathead doing sport: I would simply like to make an exception about this footballer guy that help won the Superbowl but is also a medical doctor and he skipped a year of sport (and million dollar contract) to help his country fight covid in a nursing home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:46 PM
15

The man was no afraid to die at her hand. Only his ego was bruised. She could have died from being strangled. Those things are not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:08 PM
20

Women tend to get more attracted to other women around their 30s... Makes sense biologically tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:50 PM
46

"just die alone like you deserve" I love her ahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:42 PM
54

Omg I'm having war flashbacks from that damn mechanical keyboard my ex used to have. The CLIC CLIC CLIC made me feel murderous & he was upset that i couldn't just sleep through that annoying and loud AF sound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:47 AM
23

I used to be the same and it was never enough. I was litterally putting myself up on a shelf, waiting for crumbs of affection. I've wasted years of my life waiting, on stand by to participate in a guys life as a voiceless doll basically. Never again. I'll be as annoying, demanding and uncompromising as I want. I don't care if i end up alone - but ironically, this has attracted an actually really nice partner that loves it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:24 PM
29

Yes! We drink and eat in precious porcelains & everything is soft pink, gold and feminine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:21 PM
12

I absolutely get it. But the four of them together really do look like a goofy unproblematic pack of golden retrievers & the group chat seemed to be a reflection of that. Of course, I'm not stopping my vetting there, but that's a whole year of absolutely no red flags whatsoever so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:23 PM
133

The biggest joke is that this guy is an extremely anti feminist guy and would be offended to even be featured on this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:02 AM
29

I did. It was so wholesome and cute (with a healthy sprinkle of hockey memes). Gf/wife/fiancé are regularly mentionned - very positively and never in a gross way. Just them being proud of their partner and highlighting how great they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:58 AM
62

J. Michael using is male privileges for good clap backs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:42 AM
4

Omg I'm so sorry this happened to you. <3 you deserve so much better than this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:08 PM
33

He texts me good morning/checks in after work if we're not going to be seeing each other's that day at a minimum. Then it depends on if anything is happening in our lives and we want to talk about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:17 AM
35

Seduction is not deception. If you know a woman wouldn't sleep with you because she doesn't do hookups, only relationships and you lie about wanting one with the sole purpose of hooking up to disappear afterward, you were not seducing. You were blurring her consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:09 PM
18

Same. :/ When you're abused for a long time, to survive, you try to make it "pleasurable" instead. It's a coping mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:11 PM
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Might be controversial...but lying outwardly to get sex is assault. When you sign a contract, consent has to be informed. If you're being maliciously misinformed to get a signature, it's fraud and a crime. Same with sex. Consent should be informed. Otherwise, it's an assault. I guarantee you that it feels very violating and sickening when you realize the guy lied to you to get in your pants only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:19 PM
41

True! You see it in their eyes, especially with "wearable" gifts such as jewelry. They look so proud when you wear with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 10:33 PM
11

A perfect title really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:42 PM
53

"the girls im attracted to know their worth and I ain't it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:32 PM
89

AITA from men: my gf smiles too much, my gf dresses like the teacher from magic School bus when teaching kids and it annoys me, etc AITA from women: I'm being terrorized and abused by my bf and I told him to stop in a rude way after asking nicely multiple times, AITA? I asked my bf to contribute a fair share, AITA? It's ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:24 PM
29

All men joke about is that their wife don't wanna have sex with them anymore after the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:19 PM
26

I am now terrified of stairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:18 PM
15

I'm legit terrified for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:51 PM
24

Didn't that happened to a woman in UK? Broke her neck falling down the stairs but apparently that was a kink and an accident?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:49 PM
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Love the dad in this story tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:40 PM
10

Or he has enough money that the ps5 is pocket change. But yeah, someone struggling financially or without savings/investments shouldn't be spending that kind of money on a gaming system
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:56 PM
31

It's probably a fetish, hence all his life revolves around this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:28 PM
141

This guys after never getting any match: "gIrLs OnLy WaNt BoRiNg ChAdS" Well, I've all you have to offer is dick, I'll get the one attached to abs, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:56 AM
4

Not only that, but Id bet good money these companies have no cybersecurity specialists on board actively protecting the precious information of the girls on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:53 AM
44

So glad someone said that. Like if it's that important to you, communicate with your partner that for you, it's an honor and very important to be the one to open the door and that youd love if they let you do that gesture for you. Slapping is violent and shows it's about control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:16 PM
5

I bet that guy can learn very intricate game mechanics and learn by art crafting for his video games. But refuses to use any braincell IRL - why would he? He just has to mess it up and his maid will do it for him instead, freeing more time to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:39 PM
39

Also, why would you even care about knowing him more? You have dogs and he doesn't like them. There's zero potential long term. The audacity of him asking you to have you dog babysat so that he can try to get in your pants real quick ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:07 AM
39

I used to be like that. If i wanted nice liquors or wine, i had to pay for it. Otherwise, we'd be going 50-50 on the cheapest wine available. Current bf pays for absolutely everything regarding alcohol if we're at the cash together and the boy doesn't cheapen out on quality. My mini bar has never been this well furnished and I've never spent so little on it. Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 10:40 PM
100

Here's on very telling comment front the guy: Whenever I try to clean she says I do it wrong. She gets sad because she says that it’s more work for her like I tried doing laundry and I didn’t separate them so it turned her whites red and the next time I didn’t know you had to clean the lint thing or use a dryer sheet so then she told me not to do it anymore, and then doing the dishes I didn’t know you had to use soap so she told me not to do them anymore, and then when I try to feed our dog I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:52 PM
11

Lol what? If i look at my girl friends they all picked up new hobbies, upped their workout and been cooking like crazy. Skins all looking excellent cause we have time to do masks and never wear make up. The boys? Videogames all day, lots of beer and take outs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:58 PM
76

My ex went to address his violent abuse toward me - a condition to staying together I had imposed after the first incident. And never mentioned hitting me to the therapist. So he'd tell fights - where I'd end up in a complete state of panic and shock after he'd punched me, omitting the reason I was an emotional mess was being hurt by him. And so his therapist concluded that I was probably "over sensitive" and was the one that needed to address my emotional outbursts. Which was premium gaslightin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:42 AM
3

I absolutely respect that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:40 PM
0

Culturally speaking however, it's unheard of to marry without living together first for a few months where I'm from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:08 PM
6

That's what they are saying to their friend. Leave the girl or step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:29 PM
3

There might be a linguistic issue here, but all I see is men holding other men accountable. Good men flock together and they do not tolerate when one of them isn't doing right by their partner is the thing I'm trying to communicate here while trying to not give identifiable information - quite the challenge! PS: they are mostly asking why he won't to it - forcing him to do the introspective work instead of simply cruising along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:21 PM
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I'm not doing anything???? I'm just an observer here. My SO and his friends are doing this whole thing on their own because they all believe that dating is for marriage and if you don't want to marry the girl, let her find someone who will. They are keeping each other's in check and making sure everyone is held to high standards. From what I understood, the delay in proposing is mostly due to financial reasons (expensive weddings being culturally required) and we're talking 4 years relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:58 PM
35

I'm so sorry he lied. He was an addict covering his addiction :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:55 PM
134

They are men out there that don't watch porn. Some watched when they were teens a little but never found it interesting and as adult, they simply don't consume it. Some realized how addictive it was and have gone cold turkey because they know it's better for their mindset. Some actually are well aware of how cruel the industry is and they refuse to engage with. Some only watch when they are single - but would never watch it while in a relationship. And some are very light casual user - and when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:56 PM
60

They probably Uber all day. The thing is, as a women, i wouldn't be safe doing Uber tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:20 PM
10

All healthy relationships are basically similar. So children in a healthy family basically all had the same childhood or at least very similar. You'll notice every post about HVM all seem to describe the same guy. Healthy looks like "one" thing. The green flags are all the same. Whereas, abusive relationships are... Creative in their ways to be dysfunctional? There's infiniti ways to be shitty for a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:06 PM
8

❤️ this was perfect. I wish I had read it 4 years ago. Feeling "shelved" honestly kills your soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:41 PM
9

Yeah they became too big and men made a scene of course. I think those space should be managed fight club style. The front should be a regular, if extremely girly coffee shop. And women are informed about what is happening in the rest of the space when they come in. Men brave enough to come grab a coffee are simply not told about it. Instead of having one large club that needs extensive advertising - a network of small spaces that can be kept hidden from most of them. You don't need to say "wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:30 PM
15

There's a search function in text messages. He could have simply searched for it 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:41 AM
65

My story is so similar to yours. Like every details. Even the discussion initially about what are his kinks and he was so confused. No kinks just pure 100% high quality vanilla and i swear my lady parts are humming when we're done and i feel so relaxed. Miles away from whatever brutal stuff I've let past partner do to me. Who was the member that said "happy family all look the same, but dysfunctional ones are all unique in their brokenness"? Cause damn. It's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:35 AM
2

Yeah the sulkiness is not ok at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:16 PM
5

Yeah the sulkiness is not ok at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:50 PM
24

Have you heard about The Wing? If you live in a city that doesn't have a women only co-working space - and you've got an entrepreurial spirit... I've seen also social clubs in my city - women meeting up in cafés, restaurants, private small shopping events - with the objective to meet other women and make friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:24 PM
83

Hated when men took over in hot yoga classes. Suddenly, it wasnt about being mindful and breathing into positions, but some contest on who can do the most extreme poses and one teacher even started to incorporate actual push up/sit ups after male students requested more "core trainings". The men are also definitely there to look at the girls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 03:21 PM
3

He could have made for less money a good cacio e pepe with a bottle of wine. Plates included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:00 AM
45

Sounds like one of your love language is physical touch and i know how frustrating it is to have guys get horny when you just love to french kiss- some guys really do get angry about it. A good man will respect that you just want intimacy. Maybe he'll have to talk once about it in the realm of "hey sometimes I interpret you kissing me with passion as you trying to initiate, but obviously it's wrong. How can I know when you just want to cuddle vs when you want to initiate?" - which is a normal qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 04:59 AM
9

If she gets fired, she won't have a choice but to "embrace" OF to survive in an unchecked pandemics. Not accounting for the fact that OF absolutely is already in contact with her with a shiny contract since she's in the spotlight right now and could be making lots of money (they can't take a commission out of the GoFundMe, so they need her to stay on the platform with her new found fame) In all cases... It's so senseless that a medic needs to work extra (sex work or not) to pay her bills. Like I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:40 PM
83

And if not, she can afford to pay someone to clean and meal kits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:51 PM
35

What in the actual f?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:13 PM
48

The amount of food?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:03 AM
85

Idk. Life is too short to be playing these elaborate games. If he doesn't respect you, leave him. You don't have to be angry at him. Just go. You shouldn't have to say anything more than "I'm not comfortable with this relationship you have and would need you to set strong boundaries with that person" - if he argues or refuses, then you guys are simply not compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:12 AM
21

Seriously though. If your friends flirt with your man, they are low value and you should kick them out of your life. If your man tells you he doesn't like your friends and wants to isolate you from them, he's potentially a narcissist & dangerous, kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:09 AM
40

You have terrible friends if they start flirting with your man! Don't you guys do couple nights? In my main group of friends, everyone is in couples and it's a mixed group so significant others are always invited. Then I've got the besties who are separate. We do girls night among us, but when we're all in relationship, double/triple date nights is fairly common. We play boardgames, go to nice restaurants, wine bars, cook for each others, go to cabins, etc. (Wow I miss pre covid world)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:47 AM
6

They want their favouritr cam girl, per example, to be shoving particular object into themselves while moaning their name. That kind of stuff 🤷‍♀️ And yes, it's an addiction. Some develop para social relationship with the girls they're watching. Demo data shows most of these guys are married and accessing the websites from their office quite often. Some guys go bankrupt over porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:25 AM
8

There's a lot of premium content or live actress you can watch and pay for "special" content customized for you. I've seen data for some of these websites and there are men out there burning hundreds and sometimes thousands for custom videos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:20 AM
11

Porn is big money! But that was my first thought too when they announced the switch to cryptocurrency. This is what is going to bring it mainstream - porn always leads the way when it comes to tech adoption (Just to be sure: i am not endorsing porn in any way. Just observing patterns with tech)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:57 AM
22

I mean once you live together, being "alone together" can be fun once in a while. But this is not quality time together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:23 PM
5

My thoughts: A cheater is a LVM even if he pays for everything. The girl was basically a sugar baby - FDS doesn't approve of sex work since it's inherently exploitative industry even if some participants in it are willing. That man is absolute trash and that girl is a pick me voluntary participating into the financial rape of another woman. She wouldn't be welcomed here. FDS is about empowerment of women - but not at the cost of other women. We don't compete for a man attention or money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:18 PM
105

I paid for my University diploma by catalogue modeling too! I am absolutely conventionally attractive. And not single at all! The problem with dating when beautiful is exactly what he mentionned "we need a bat" to send away the too many suitors and FDS is a strategy to filter, not to attract. I've had so many "nice guy" pretend they'd love me to the moon&back when it was just a manipulation tactic. In retrospect I should have seen past the "nice guy" facade - they were flags that I was socialize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:10 PM
13

An actual king 🥰 (of the jungle)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:43 AM
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Imo, lack of intense spark at the beginning is a good thing. Love is a slow burn not a firework. Intense spark and chemistry is how narcissists get you, you're too high on those feelings to notice the flags. I feel like a good first date should feel comfortable - you find the person attractive, you had a good time and you felt safe. But there's probably some little awkward/shy moments because you're two strangers trying to figure out if you're a good fit or not. Especially if none of you are a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:43 PM
1

But tbh, in my experience, guys that are naturally attractive tend to be nicer actually than guys that are angry because they were rejected a lot in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:38 PM
193

"Why can't I get any match? Women are so shallow they only go for Chad with the big dick" Idk man, maybe cause your profile openly state that you're litteraly toxic and disgusting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:31 PM
12

I'm sorry what? The audacity of a guy looking like that thinking he can be so controlling? She's trapped in an abusive relationship for sure. The passive agressiveness of this and the humiliation wasn't enough - it ended up on a news website for everyone to witness it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:19 PM
66

Same. The top I've done was call out "hey, I'm doing some delicate dark wash - got something you need to throw in?" and he'd do the same when he did his wash. Practical for that one item you actually needed clean asap. But a full wash of his clothes? never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:16 AM
3

Oh wow, my wine went straight to my nose ahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:27 AM
19

Porn sets the standards in tech and this is how cryptocurrencies are going to become extremely common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:47 AM
38

So far this guy has been a proper investment for me. I would have been stuck indoor in lockdown all summer - but with him I had access to a nice boat, large cabin with fireplace by the water, visiting vineyards, etc. Plus a few spa trips, nice restaurants, wine selection definitely got upgraded, all that on his money. I've never ate out, shoppped and got out of the city so much and yet I've saved so much money (used it to take large chunks out on my student debts). He provided companionship, goo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:21 PM
4

How old are you? If you're a minor : call social service and get out of there. If you're 18+, pack a back and find the nearest women shelter. They'll help you secure employment, education opportunities and long term place to live safely at. You have to leave them all behind and never contact them again. I know the pandemic makes it very complex right now but use that time to plan your exit. You are stronger than you think. And trust me : I've done it. It took years of hard work to rebuild my lif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:30 PM
2

Better Help offers online counselling - it's relatively affordable if you do by chat only (85$/month)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:24 PM
61

The beautiful thing about healthy love is that you never have to fight for it. It's there. Respect is at the core of every interaction in it. All you have to do is nurture it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:22 PM
1

You can hire people to manage your whole dating life and set you up for dates. The ghost will filter, match, talk and find out whatever he need to know about you. He'll also set up the date and send a calendar invite to the man with pictures and important talking points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:29 PM
3

Every vegan man I know have intense OCD - it's about control for them. Being as morally superior as they can, as pure, controlling any food intake and their partner's too. (Most woman I know that are vegan never force it on their male partner, but guys always make it mandatory to commit to their lifestyle with them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 03:24 PM
32

Imagine telling to the whole world, in that much details, how bad at sex you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:48 PM
11

I was born pre-wedding and the priest forced my parents to give me both names. My sister was born after the wedding so she only has my dad's name. But now I have an extra long family name and it's be weird to pass that one down...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:45 AM
13

You can always tell. Narcs want to know what was the trauma, the reason. Theyll joke about not having to deal with a MIL. HVM will be supportive of a bit sad to learn you don't have a family. They'll usually avoid asking potentially painful questions and wonder instead about your desire to eventually fix those relationships or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:38 AM
7

Those man just need to spend on a good dildo that's safe & use that instead, it's not that hard 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:30 AM
25

I'm sorry what? Has this man ever had a gf? I'm literally confused by his thought process?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:37 PM
20

Ah. I say "byebye love you" to alllll my friends. No matter the gender. 😳 But i wanna just maybe explain that I don't say it in our main language? I would never say "je t'aime" cause that's too personal. But culturally we're using "love you" as "like you" cause we don't have a word that means "like" in French.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:31 AM
17

They do. The bitterness eventually builds up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:27 AM
123

I went and read the thread and if this is real.. Wow, that guy hates his wife guts. Like... He despise her and he's clearly only still married to her because he's jobless and mooching off her salary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:00 AM
20

Are we the same person dating the same guy lol?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:01 PM
187

Damn they copy pasted that to everyone, uh? Surprise! I am in a happy relationship with a tall, handsome and wealthy man that worships the ground I walk on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:47 PM
259

Get a restraining order and let him explain to his current gf that he can no longer visit her because he sent you a threatening email where he fantasized about running you and your dog over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:41 PM
37

Do you happen to have any friends in the police force? Cause I'd definitely enlist them into giving that guy a little call about death threats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:38 PM
47

Omg! The boy was looking for a free nurse. Wow. A litteral bang-nurse-maid. You know, once I was past the "deer in a headlight" shock - i tried to address the situation kindly. There was a strom outside, we both had made our way to the bar - let's enjoy a drink and chat. I figured - the guy hasn't come to term with this traumatic change, I'll treat him with compassion. I did clarify however that the deception really was a deal breaker for me when it came to dates, so this would simply be a frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:20 PM
40

Maybe it's a cultural thing, but people here wear their engagent ring forever. Usually the wedding band is made to match the engagement ring and they are worn together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:46 PM
12

Love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:34 PM
47

I had a date that had forgotten to mention he had been in an accident that had melted off his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:43 PM
27

My dog as better food impulse control than that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:33 PM
8

Sorry that I'm always right ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:18 AM
23

Ahaha idk why but the "water breaks" made me laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:17 AM
20

I've had the "rent an Airbnb" dude also. The place had an eerie hotel room feel. It was 😳 he was obviously cheating on someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:12 AM
61

That's something I've established with my current partner. If we move in together, there's a weekly maid, a robot vacuum, a dog walker and we cook together the meal delivery kit because I'm not spending a braincell planning meals. He loves how effective it is and can't wait to do that. Life's too short and I work too hard to not fully have my evenings + weekends to enjoy. (Speaking from an ultra privileged position of course because I can actually afford all of that)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:09 AM
36

Aw. Gotta admit, but generally speaking, I think my name in my bf's mouth is actually sexy so I guess I understand the tweet. But it's just a sexy little thing, not a green flag or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:04 AM
3

She used to be the queen of not taking any BS from men. It's the current guy that absolutely fucked with her mind. Ar the beginning, he was the perfect man for her although way too intense in my opinion (he booked them a weekend trip as a second date). He was exciting, generous, etc. Then, lockdown happened and he became extremely controlling - and idk. Something happened to her, she became a shell of herself. Jealous, needy, anxious, afraid of being alone forever... I don't get it. Now she's ob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:10 PM
6

I'll take smiling in the luxury car while my fantastic and loving bf keeps his hand on my knee on our way to the spa he's treating me to so that we can relax from this stressful year. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:00 PM
34

My bestie has that mindset and it's so annoying at times. Leave the asshole, it doesn't matter that "he doesn't realize he could never do better than you". That's none of your business who he entangles next, you're unhappy, he treats you like shit, dump his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:05 PM
9

Fully aware of that and i absolutely think that it's ok that she doesn't want to be in this man's life anymore. Nobody knows how we would react if someone pointed a knife at a loved one. He was absolutely high on intense survival mode adrenaline (hence not feeling the knife) and cried out after, probably in shock. This was a very traumatic event for both of them, i fully understand that this is a deal breaker and why and I hope both of them can get access to therapists to process this extreme ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:37 PM
52

I think every human is capable of that - Im a calm & loving person. If someone tried to hurt my dog (who's like a child to me) I would absolutely flip too and protect him at all cost. It is a scary thought for sure. I understand why it would freak you out, this is not something I'd want to witness. It's also one of the reason why I don't want to watch my bf play sports. I love how gentle and kind he is. I don't want to see him fight and be agressive on the fields...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:42 PM
157

She... That's... Why? Why is domestic violence ok if framed in a sexual context? Cause that's what it was. He was angry at her, so she "allowed" him to hurt her, but in a sexual context. But pushing you against the wall, hitting you, or making you cry during sex as he violently violates you is all form of physical abuse. And I feel so bad because a few years ago, I knew my bf also used agressive sex as a way to hurt me in an "acceptable context" and believe me - it escalated to eventually not bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:50 PM
32

This is the first time ever I'm in a relationship where I have never felt coerced in any way sexually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:44 AM
66

I sadly have no advice but I can tell you this : this pain will pass. Trust me, that pain will eventually be a far away memory... This is temporary. In a few weeks... Maybe months. You'll be looking back at this and you will sight of relief : you got free. This guy is no longer in your life and this pain will protect you from ever trying to get back with him. Stay strong, cry your heart out, soothe yourself with whatever helps you. Indulge a little. You are strong, you will get through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:42 AM
3

Oh yeah! I understand. Couldn't live like that. I love having fancy teacups, plushy towels for me and guests, extra blankets to bundle in, etc. More of a maximalist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:59 PM
13

You want "lived in" level of cleanliness basically. It's good also that freakishly clean makes you wonder because that points to either OCD (which tends to make very controlling partners) or... A rented airbnb because that's not his home. You know : an empty cup of coffee by the sink, a book on the couch, etc. Tiny little things that shows the house has been lived in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:40 PM
36

Hope someone gifts the boy a Marie Kondo book or something cause he needs to clean that mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:28 PM
2

The problem is that clear communication requires self awareness. Which men are lacking because they do zero introspection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:36 PM
2

Yeah and i was upset all day about it... I could have been that girl so many times. I hate this so much, i hate that men are not socialized to be gentle and caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:53 PM
19

Just wanna say, i always thought I had pretty bad attachment style too. Yes I did some work with a therapist and all but... Dating someone with a secure style definitely helps. It's a chicken and the egg situation. We need secure style of attachment to learn from them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 02:13 PM
9

Just the image on the newsite with her face blurred out wa enough to send me spiraling. Men are horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:09 AM
19

Also the song Animal was super creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:28 AM
5

I know, it's very hard. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 10:10 PM
20

Our souls are remarkably strong however. They can light back up from the tiniest bit of ember even after being buried deep. Just takes lots of care & love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:37 PM
42

Men are terrifying and I have no idea how I'm supposed to trust even the sweetest ones when they are so many psychos murdering their "loved ones" for clicks, out of rage or pure neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 07:29 PM
157

"hi I will absolutely emotionally and physically abuse you" At least he's honest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:59 PM
34

I mean you know what I mean. All those are super valid careers. But these are also careers that can be done "half in" for the sake of appearances. Social media manager can also fit that category if all the girl is is a glorified hand model for products on Instagram. (But its also a legit career if done properly full time)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:29 AM
15

My question is how to we differentiate between someone who's genuinely in love with you, enthusiastically willing to surprise you and make you happy... And a sociopath? I guess it would come down to their reaction to boundaries?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:22 AM
12

What he tried to communicate is "friends don't go 50-50, this is a date & you make more money so you should pay it all" He's the gold digging one :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:08 AM
26

Yes, that's so confusing??? Poor girl. He communicated very clearly that he found it insulting to go 50/50 if they are on a date. So the 4th date, she obviously didn't offer because she didn't want to insult him again. Except, the thing is that he wanted to be courted. He wants HER to pay for HIS meal. That's what's his angry about. Friends don't go 50-50 and she makes more money then him. Aka. He's a gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:06 AM
37

There was this guy that wrote "I'm looking for... My soulmate! Yes, on a dating app, leaving no stones unturned" And it was... Kind of endearing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:56 AM
57

Those guys wants gf with "placeholder career". Think "starting a business" that's really just a pet project financed by her parents credit card, or real estate brokers but she's really only selling 1 house a year and not putting any efforts into it. Think a pretty job that finances the hair/nails/gym membership but nothing else while looking good on the CV but being really a part time gig. Very common with guys in their 30s dating early 20s girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:50 AM
20

She should say no to penetrative sex if she hasn't been properly aroused before. Enforce that boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:10 PM
11

My ex was a big reader, but all he read was sexist SciFi. And he thought I was a pretentious asshole for reading non fiction books about physics, biology, economics, history and psychology. I just like to read and learn 🤷‍♀️ "I bet you don't even understand half of the words in your fancy books".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:47 AM
12

Same! Never dating an INTP man again. The only emotion he knew was anger and he had zero empathy. Dating a softie full of empathy is honestly the way for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:43 AM
11

Early 30s, you'll attract close to 40-ish yo men that suddenly woke up that they need a family now after having partied all their 30s. Beware. Honestly, I realize that dating older guys litteraly just steal our youths. I didn't get to enjoy my early 20s because I was dating an older guy that shamed me for wanting to go out with my university friends and then I basically missed the last years before 30 to a man child who'd called be immature while asking that I mother him while he acted like a 20…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:56 PM
9

Yup. I've also observed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:44 PM
48

We don't know each other's code, but sometimes we'll both be on our phones and cuddling and I could have a clear view of this screen, he's not hiding it. Or he goes take a shower and his phone is on the couch, in view, with notifications visible. He'll pass me his phone to pick what I want form a menu (or I read him a news article from this phone) - the fact that he is zero stressed about leaving his phone in my hand (or unchecked while he's busy) to me is enough. I wouldn't want someone to snoo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:36 PM
1

It's just that it skips the "hi/hello/how are you?/good you?/good thanks - so {insert actual question}". The theory being that sometimes, it's hard to tell if - the guy is being low effort - the guy is inexperienced about online dating and approaching you like he would IRl by first saying hi first and then getting into a conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:23 PM
-2

Controversial maybe, but that's why I liked bumble the best. Id set the tone with my first message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:54 PM
77

A book written by a gay man as a satire of masculinity. But all they care about is that brad pitt is tHe MaN in their one dimensional analysis of the movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:49 PM
47

And the best part : we could all still have children because science found a way to produce "sperm" from a woman white cell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:51 PM
11

Also I'm pretty sure there's a risk to getting piss inside your vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:48 PM
20

Yeah the attitude is obviously the problem. Saying "I have a personal preferences when it comes to physical appearances favoring people that are on the leaner side" is way different then going "no fat bitches!!!" .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:10 PM
85

Good for her! Get that 50%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 03:16 AM
22

So a girl that likes him enough at one point to send nudes is not being mocked and disrespected in her death? What the fuck is wrong with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:05 AM
48

It used to be that parents bought their teenage boys a console. Now that gamers are full grown adults, they're trying to turn the women in their life into Santa Claus for the nice boys on our list. Of course some people bought into the PR and are replicating it sincerely, but yeah, that was a communication line to sell PS4 back in the days (and now the ps5!) as christmas gifts initially and that's how it came to be. This is the big sale season and adults are a huge part of the market
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:58 AM
181

Lol imagine looking like the first guy and saying that kinda stuff 🙃 where are your abs buddy if you're so obsessed with fuckability???? (Yay for the second guy! This was such a cute speech)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:51 AM
79

It's not. This is an attempted PR campaign. Considering how the economical impact of the pandemic affected massively women (in greater amount than men) - it's honestly insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:47 AM
1

In college, I had a friend that really got into escortism & let me tell you... Her colleagues and her had so much political gossips because litterally every old rich politician were regular clients (especially those living in luxurious condos downtown)... It's so dumb because that makes them extremely easy to blackmail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:00 PM
2

Nah. They were criticisms, but nothing past a slap on the wrist and a promise to re-evaluate probation conditions of similar cases. I went to reread the story. It's quite something. 16 years ago, the guy murdered his wife using a hammer. He was freshly out of prison and considered at "moderate" risk of recidivism. Hence why he wasn't allowed in proximity of women except for that exception. Except he got banned from the massage place for being too violent against the girls. Following that, he off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:34 PM
11

He asked for a POSTER of Belle Delphine?!??!!? Throw the whole man out wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:28 PM
30

My electricity billed was 75% less expensive when my ex moved out. He spent a whole year telling me our bill was so high because of my long hot showers. Surprise! It was is over using of the AC, forgetting to properly close the water after each usage and electronics that were driving up our bill, not me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:20 PM
11

Honestly, my bed is also always full of love because I have a 90 pounds dog. I'm never cold in winter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:39 AM
47

I agree a 100%. But the probation agents that gave the guy an exception were obviously all men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 06:51 PM
1

I wish there was a way to hide our post history... I empty out mine often because I don't want to be potentially trackable if someone decides to really go thru my comments and connect the dots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:10 PM
83

That makes me think of a case in Canada where a guy was in probation after doing time because he was violent with women. He wasn't allowed to date as his intense hatred for women meant he was still dangerous - but the probation officers agreed that he had "needs" so he was allowed to pay escorts to fulfill them - as if those women didn't need protection as much as any other women out there. Well, he ended up killing a young women doing sex work in a violent outburst while he was "fulfilling his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:58 PM
21

They do flock together and they are in their own bubble of high quality people with nice family dynamics, healthy relationship and good support system. It's a whole nother world tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:30 PM
18

Omg imagine the horror of seeing this with your friends. The shame of it. Id file for divorce immediately too, that's super weird and gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:19 PM
24

Why?! That doesn't sound fun in any way & you potentially risk your friendship with your bestie so that a guy you don't even like can fulfill his little fantasy to disappoint two girls at once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:15 PM
3

How is the pedo a "beta nice guy"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:44 AM
20

He's balding. He only got that jawline going for him :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:35 PM
39

It's like going shopping for a Channel bag at a thrift shop. You have to go through tons of LV stuff and finding one is kinda like winning at the Loto. There's also high chance that even if you find one, it's a convincing fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:30 PM
5

No, you did not overreact. With or without yourpast experiences, that's not ok. Plus, you stated it as a boundary and he went over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:35 AM
108

Ok but Gwyneth doesn't platform white supremacists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 05:24 AM
71

The candle story is extremely scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:48 PM
19

Same <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:42 PM
59

Also... MGTOW and red pill is about strategies to break other people's boundaries. FDS is about enforcing your own boundaries. I really don't get why men care so much? There's no manipulation involved (unlike PUA) - we clearly state at the beginning what we want and then stick to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:38 PM
144

They know they are below you and they resent you for it. The goal is to lower your self esteem and sabotage you so that you feel so terrible about yourself, you think you're lucky to even date him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:32 PM
128

That dude is cheating on his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:42 AM
6

Imagine missing the point that much...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:52 PM
51

What the actual fuck??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:23 PM
21

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-05-17/surging-suicide-rate-among-young-girls-raises-questions-about-role-of-social-media And we're closing that gap... Sadly :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:46 PM
80

I bet she has his name as a cute little nickname with emojis ✨❤️ my fiancé ❤️✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:04 PM
57

Oh and for suicide, women and girls are actually "catching up" as it seems social media is having a devastating effect on women psyche. Also : women attempt more often. Women tend to use method that are however less drastic (pills per example), where men use more violent methods. Hence they have a end result of more concluded suicides, but women are simply "luckier" because they attempt to pick painless methods which sort of gives time for hospital to rescue them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:01 PM
115

Watch them be totally silent about it even tho NOW is the time to be talking about young boys dropping out of school, the importance of having changing tables in men bathroom, getting additional ressources for single father and the mental health crisis men are having (with high s*****e rates) Can you hear the crickets? We'll only hear about those in March...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:57 PM
29

Or they do it in the worst possible way so that you never ask them again (Shut out to my ex who put all my precious clothes at hot water/high spin + high heat drying - they were all "handwash in cold water - dry flat. His answer "i don't know how to read labels")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:51 PM
11

I don't even keep the same underwear from day to night 😳 (Daytime undies are focused on being low rise, invisible, nighttime are usually more comfy or boxer-style)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:01 PM
129

I'm sad cause there's a beautiful fireplace - I would make this room so cozy and pretty. How can men claim to be visual creatures and then live like this? Where's the visual appealing stuff??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:43 PM
8

She proposed ... On the first day meeting him??? Girl. Wtf? (And her friend is absolutely terrible. The guy is not wrong: it's widely inappropriate and she has bad friends)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:43 PM
40

Thank you! It took me a while and lots of back&forth to escape that relationship (we shared so many friends & group activities always lead to us getting back together, that's 5 years and so much money im never getting back). I blocked him, deleted all those terrible friends and im now much happier. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:21 PM
92

Imagine having the occasion to present yourself with depth in a flattering matter to intrigue a potential date and opting to write this kind of boring condescending non sense...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 09:29 PM
12

I'd say the only exception about social media is if he doesnt actually use them (which is not totally anormal for 30+ yo men) You don't usually post your gf on Twitter or Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:20 PM
100

I can't even describe the amount of anger I would feel if a guy spat on my dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:55 AM
92

War flashbacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 09:21 PM
3

We are bombarded by images of women that look a certain way and eventually... It takes its toll. One short example: as a teenager, i was told a few times that I had a "perfect nose" / "the kind of nose used as an example for nose jobs" 15+ years later, I'm honestly developing a complex about my nose because it's not small and pointy enough to those "really perfect" noses I've seen online. I litterally have to snap myself out of it frequently when i start feeling critical of my nose. People with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:17 PM
68

I wanna know in which universe is Gaetz considered attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:04 PM
19

Animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 04:17 PM
6

Yes! It was funny when we did behavior analysis. Women will absolutely make the profile look perfect before even opening to swipe. Men will go check out how everything in the app works (swipe section included) and then once they understand the system, will go back to adjust their profile. That actually penalizes them initially by a lot cause the first moment on the app is when you profile is the most seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:39 PM
1

Demographics speaking, yes there are more men on tinder, however, the general demo of bumble is better. (+ Educated, more people looking for relationship versus hookups). I did a case studies on dating apps for work so I had data and all that. Basically, being on bumble means there's a natural pre selection. What's important to know is that apps use an elo ratings for people in it. So you see what the apps think you should seex what's at your "level". On bumble especially, if you wanna keep havi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:22 PM
18

Yeah that's Mercy from Overwatch. Ironically, girls are usually teased if they use her as their main character even tho having a good healer on the team is absolutely necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:44 PM
70

Also. There's no way she has gotten a 8 hours night of sleep in like forever. And that's assuming she falls asleep in a minute and her crappy husband never bothers her for sex at bedtime. I read her daily schedule and I'm drained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:37 AM
35

I mean there are issues for men, but they also all steem from patriarchy and the very thing feminists are fighting against. Men are not involved in their kids life because they are not seen as nurturing. Men's rate of (censored cause I don't want the post blocked) is higher because "men don't need therapy" and have to bottle up their feelings which leads to higher depression and higher (censored) Men feel more alone and tend to have less meaningful relationships again because homophobia and show…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:41 PM
16

Yeah, There was a scene were the male lead shove his fingers into a woman to assert control over her and it's not consensual and... I just closed the window and never watched it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 05:05 PM
2

Well yeah cause they've been through it, so can feel empathy. + You don't have to worry about your husband being traumatized and never finding you attractive ever again. And I'd trust another woman to advovate for my health if doctors are doing things without my consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:23 AM
32

Loving that Among Us reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:19 AM
7

Honestly, the quickest way i found into joining women sisterhoods that are close to holding the beliefs I do (equal but different, protecting your energy, etc) are a bit "witchy/spiritual". Don't believe in it, but worth it for the women in it. Usually they do yoga, meditation, "healing circles" - there's a coffee shop with yoga around here and they always hosts events like these and it feels so nice being among women like that I'm also in a male centric industry, so we have a "women of X" group…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:37 PM
88

Her eyes look sad and empty. She's young still, she sincerely thinks this is how she'll finally be loved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:08 AM
19

Oh! Im so glad you ended up being ok too <3 this community is such an eye opener to how widespread this type of abuse is and how vulnerable we can be. This definitely strengthen by beliefs that women need to form strong sisterhoods where we can deprogram ourselves and support each other's. We have to support and mentor younger women that are so susceptible to grooming from older men. You are so strong for making it to the clinic in that state and bless the doctor that paid your cab to make sure …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:06 AM
6

Ahahaha, same tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:13 PM
64

My ex had probably spent up to 30k in games (that he hasn't played half off), gaming system cable, graphic cards and related trinkets that collected dust. To then complain that he was an almost 40 yo loser that couldn't afford to buy an apartment. Buddy your potential cashdown is your game collection. And that's coming from someone who enjoys gaming! I miss the era where we could rent video games easily. The switch lite + animal crossing definitely have been worth their while in quarantine howev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:23 PM
59

I feel like creative types are looking for a one dimensional muse and get bitter when you're more creative than they are. Whereas the "boring type" are just amazed at what your mind produced and they simply appreciate it instead of comparing... Also, idk about you, but I'm way more creative when i feel safe and stress-free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:17 PM
10

Imaging being self aware and then simply doing nothing about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:51 PM
28

Also the sexy guy he showed as illustration for that part of the video is the singer from Arctic Monkeys which i kinda find funny... The guy isn't conventionally sexy - most of it comes from holding a guitar on a stage with a leather jacket on his shoulders. And also most of the complaining in the video is "wah I'm told to be decent and non egoistical by women but then the patriarchy also wants me to be a toxic alpha male so it's confusing"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:15 PM
173

Ah, the softboy. The sensitive equivalent of the fuckboy. He is so sorry he played with your emotions 🥺 but he'll do it again... You're just sooo pretty, he can't help himself. But like, he really likes you and respect women, he's just not ready for a relationship cause his cat died like 12 years ago and it really confronted him to the meaning of life and how death can be sudden and... Yeah, I know the type. What is it that you like about the type? Shared taste in art/music? The appeal of a guy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:06 PM
1

That sounds great! Don't think it would work for my laundry however. None of it is dryable in the machine :( most of it is wash by hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:02 AM
60

Most guys have no loyalty amongst friends. Litterally every friend of my ex have tried to make a move on me, some before we even broke up. Oh and two confessed "being in love" with me, so they would have been willing to ruin a 12 years old friendship to actually date me, more than sex. Guys usually have very superficial friendships from my experience... Its all "hey bro, what's up bro, woah bro" - no depth. The emotional labour is usually done by the girl they friend zoned or that friend zoned t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:10 AM
377

"you can still come over" Aka, i have decided you were not worth my time and money, but I'm actually free tonight and we can still have mediocre sex if it costs me nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:04 AM
4

Wait I wanna know how you send your laundry out. That's my weak point when it comes to keeping my house clean. I'm in Canada too! (Can you DM me the name of the service so I can Google something nearby that does that?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:26 PM
3

Block any guy that updates their profiles after their date with you. At best it means "she was awesome, let me find if I can't get a bit better tho making an extra effort" at worst, he's doing it so you notice that he's still looking for other options (devaluing you)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:02 PM
7

Disappointing cause "7 rings" was pretty fun to listen to. My favourite genre of music is however sad British guy simping over a girl he's obsessed with as he strokes his guitar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 06:47 AM
58

My friend is a teacher and the barely legal girls were getting exploited by their bf on OF at her school. Basically, the guy would set up the account and control it then take the pictures of their girls and give them back part of the profit on the forms of "gifts" so that the girl's parents wouldn't be suspicious. They were pimping their gf. It got exposed because they were so many girls in the school on there and one was actually not 18 yet so it became a big thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:30 PM
33

She doesn't look happy.... Her eyes are so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 05:07 AM
16

Oh me too! They instantly upgrade any picnic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:26 AM
104

A well crowded park in a city with an actual proper effort to set up the whole thing (real dishes, good wine, cheese board, etc) with flowers + nice set ups feels like pretty much being creative and putting an effort into organizing a date that is safe but also generous in the present context to me. Obviously, a dude coming in with a plastic bag, two beers and a bag of chips while you sit on a blanket is a big no. The challenge is... How do you know what he means if he invited you to a picnic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 01:15 AM
5

Just wanted to say I'm very sorry about your dog <\3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:38 AM
279

I'm so mad at that asshole for posting a pic like this of the women he should love. It's humiliating, she's in a vulnerable position, in pain... And he posts it for funny internet point? Urg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:16 PM
520

I'm shocked by the audacity of suggesting 50/50 on a bday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:13 PM
26

Abusers will drive you with time to turn violent like them. This way they can escalate violence and then make you feel ashamed cause "you're just as bad". The shame means you absolutely won't confide in anyone cause you'd have to admit to hitting them too in response. It's reactive violence...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:18 PM
15

I mean at least he knows he sucks. Self awareness is step one! (/S)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:07 PM
1

For sure, he loves craft beers, has a million funko pop collecting dust and has reached the limit on his credit card to pre order the ps5 (unless he's a "PC master race type and just ordered himself a fancy new graphic card)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:54 PM
1

So many people in the gamer community get entirely engulfed in it. It becomes their one thing. Try to make a living out of streaming, spend all their money on games, decorate their whole place with funkopop, posters and other collectibles, only talks about games, all clothes have videogames ref on them and they probably jerk off to that gamer girl on Only Fan that sold her bathwater. It's all game game game. It's obsessive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:51 PM
19

Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:55 PM
74

I am heart broken for this woman. Imagine having a husband that hates you this much :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:00 PM
146

I don't think you're imagining it! Here's the factors I think are playing a role in this Pornification of the culture - as men get desensitized, porns get more violent. Self explanatory. It gets harder to be seen as a multidimensional human. We're turned into porn categories "gamer girl" "good girl" "milf" "daddy issues" etc. The traditional version of manhood is no longer possible and men are too busy focusing on hating women thinking they stole something from them instead of adapting manhood t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:52 PM
27

I know but do you trust men to have the emotional intelligence to see past the title of the book? We live in a society where everyone has super inflated ego and low self awareness and the author preach more ego while caring as little as possible about the way it looks to others (self awareness of your actions on others) Its good for people who have high self awareness/low self esteem (anxiety-proned people) but otherwise is more often than not harmful...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:15 AM
36

Guys in marketing are honestly the worst. They cheat a lot, lots of them have drug/alcohol problems, very superficial - it's all about the brand! And I've seen them discuss "funnel of conversion strategies" for their dates. Plus, women in advertising are usually gorgeous and the ratio in an agency is like 10 women for 1 dude. They are used to constant attention from bored coworkers who have nothing to do but flirt with the only male in the office. Also, most of advertising is psychology and mani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:07 PM
41

That's the kind of food I feed my dog when he has an upset stomach. It has to be super bland to help the diarrhea get better. Boiled grounded meat and white rice. No seasonings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:01 PM
75

Somehow they always fall on Peterson after having read "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" (as if guys needed to care *less)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:59 PM
81

Joe Rogan is so annoying. Like I don't get how people even listen to his podcasts? They are so boring and the few quality guests usually end up monologuing until rogan says an awkward joke that's politely ignored only to keep on monologuing. The guy is dumb and adds nothing at best - at worst, he contributes to platforming white supremacists and other sexists dudes. He's a gateway to the worst type of ideologies out there's
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:58 PM
98

Why would you want to piss in someone's mouth? Especially someone you love?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:37 PM
20

Similar situation, and FDS is so amazing because: I'm not sabotaging the relationship like I would have since I was used to bad relationships and the lack of drama would have led me to believe we lacked passion I'm not turning into a total pickme in awe of being treated decently, I know this is what I deserve and nothing less I'm not anxious about "losing a great guy" because I know now how to recognize HV versus LV I actually let him pay without feeling guilty. It does make him happy and the mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:09 PM
21

Being a former stand up comic is like the biggest red flag there ever was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:05 PM
61

Honestly, the only thing that scares about that news is the way men would react faced with the concept that they'd be, effectively, absolutely irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:29 PM
95

In theory, they could only produce a girl. This is how women take over 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 06:00 PM
24

Oh yeah I know. First boyfriend purposely ruined a whole batch of clothes so I'd never ask him to do the laundry. Same with the dishes. "If it doesn't go into the dishwasher it's unworthy of being in my house" Adios to all my cristal, cooking tools made of wood and my precious porcelain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:35 PM
108

Or they forget the mental chore of having to plan those meals. My ex said once that it didn't count that I was cooking as a chore... Because I loved it. He also said that putting the dishes in the dishwasher was totally equivalent as a task because it took him as much time. Don't ask me how he managed to take 2 hours to put dishes for two people in the dishwasher and clean one pan, the guy was a snail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:17 PM
2

I'm really a fan of "take only what you need" instead of making a scene about how something doesn't cater perfectly to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:13 PM
5

Incels/MGTOW aspire to destroy women boundaries so that they can get their dick wet without reciprocating any kind of feelings/care. FDS is about standing up for yourself and enforcing your boundaries. How are they even remotely close to one another?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:05 PM
39

An arrogant chipmunk might be my new favourite insult!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:49 AM
37

I used to baby sat three kids at once when I was 14 yo. One of them a new born baby (others two were 5&7 - usually for about 5 hours too. Like. It ain't that hard? I was a pre teen with only my babysitter official course card in my pocket and I made it work. How can a grown man be so freaking useless?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:48 PM
84

"woman are so mysterious" "No, we just want..." "SUCH complex mystery" "Listen, it's real easy, just..." "Oh, the deeeeeeeep intrinsic puzzle that is the women's mind" "Maybe if you shut up and listened???" "So emotional."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:43 PM
32

That is such bullshit? That guy is just too porn sick to be normally aroused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:05 PM
46

So true! I've been accused of being a gold digger by a guy making less than half my salary (while being 8 years older) because I suggested it would be nice if, once in a while, he'd grab the check when we go to brunch especially on times where he was the one to insist we go instead of eating at home. A 15$ brunch. My standards used to be so low and yet he'd never even meet them 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:03 AM
16

Lol, he'd get jealous cause she'd get so many viewers compared to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:15 PM
36

Omg. I'm disgusted by that man. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:46 PM
35

Terrifying stats 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:44 PM
171

Lol, what a douche. He thinks that since people love to watch him play online his gf will want to watch too. How lucky right? She gets a premium viewing experience from his couch. /S He's treating her like she's an extra viewer, not someone he actually likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:42 PM
13

What? That is so scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:42 AM
35

That man needs to just adopt a cat really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:40 PM
43

Yeah I've read a study that hinted that the reason women have more trouble conceiving past 30 isn't their own eggs, which are good as long as there's eggs left . Its their male partner who are often way older having poor quality sperm. Their half of the chromosomes are the broken ones...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:29 PM
70

Most body positivity is still about your worth being linked to your physical appearance aka your fuckability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:07 PM
114

Feeling attacked ahaha - team hypervigilant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:35 AM
241

Seriously, some men just hate women. They need to stop faking loving us and just have sex with their own buddies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:31 AM
264

Honestly, the moment a guy starts talking about alpha/beta stuff, red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:59 PM
200

The next night he asks if I ever fantasised about my abuse This is the biggest red flag I have ever seen. Omg. Girl. Please. Abuse turns him on, that's what it means. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 11:55 PM
52

Casually joking about murdering your date in the ocean. My ovaries have shrivelled reading this bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:56 PM
117

Have fun being used like a toy, discarded, receiving mediocre sex most of the time, getting trauma bonded to any good rare sex you receive cause you're craving intimacy so much, developing self esteem issue after you get rejected a few too many times by guys that are "not in that kinda space right now", having your boundaries disrespected, risking sexual assault and ending up settling for the first LVM that offers you crumbs cause you got used to receiving absolutely nothing date after date...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:14 PM
40

The Edible Woman was such a poignant read about women who erase themselves for the consumption of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:38 PM
7

Hey! Personally, I don't do oral sex on a man I'm not exclusive with and who doesn't have a clear std test because of the risks associated with it. Nobody wants a blowjob with a condom on anyway. And I'm not risking gonorrhea in my throat. When it comes to receiving, it's their risk to take, but it's, in theory, less risky. Ways to vet would be : cuddle session, caressing, kissing and touching (you can assess if sizing is appropriate for your needs there). Also having talks about what you and hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:02 PM
49

Hate that sometimes existing as a women is just so inconvenient because of men. Just leave us alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:21 PM
194

These men are the very same that complain about women-only gyms cause they made the unisex ones so hostiles. I bought a spinning bike and weights. Working out from home in skin tight shorts and sports bra, safe from covid and the creeps. (Got stalked and assaulted by a guy from my previous gym, never going to one again tbh)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:09 PM
18

"boys will be boys 💗" Lol, f*ck off. Seriously, such a very big red flag when a guy announces he can't get himself off without "visual content". How unimaginative are you? How broken is your mind from porn consumption? Also, when you look at the way guys have sex, you can absolutely tell which ones are heavy porn consumers. Hate how people are just telling her to suck it on her own boundaries for the pleasure of his partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:05 PM
2

Did not expect someone to ref the Onceler here ahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:53 PM
13

What? Grimes was well known before dating Musk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:41 PM
2

Who insults you with a date SO low effort, you might as well be meeting your MLM pitching acquaintance for coffee? Ahahaha, at least, the acquaintance actually offers the coffee when she pitches you her "biz opportunity"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:55 PM
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