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RED FLAG 🚨FDSfollower1/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 09:26 PM
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True for many families. When daughters move home they are often treated as unpaid, inadequate domestic servants. This is especially true if the daughter is the oldest daughter and there are younger children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:51 PM
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The worst are men who are self-proclaimed psychics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:54 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 03:48 AM
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Great comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:39 AM
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Thank you for sharing your experiences. One of your points really hit a nerve, the isolating from the family on the grounds of covid. I know some people who have not seen their parents who live in the same town for two years "because of covid." Until you wrote this, it had not occurred to me that this may be an isolation tactic for abusers. WFH because of covid has not been the picnic for many women that it has been for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:29 AM
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Fish where the fish are. Give some thought about where HV men are going to be in your community, and go there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:48 AM
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Please consider reporting the images of the mutilated animal to law enforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:16 AM
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Some people have children because they fear not having someone take care of them when they are old. It's not a good reason, but it's a common reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:05 PM
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Agree, handbook material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:19 AM
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Utterly disgusting. There is nothing sexy about being almost murdered. 22?! Heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:47 PM
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He's absolutely hideous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:56 AM
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(can't find the actual thread) We don't even know if that commenter was actually a cop or a 14 year old pretending to be a cop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:09 AM
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This has got to be fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:34 AM
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She's not your friend. She's using you. Block and delete her. And you don't owe her an explanation and you don't have to be polite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:30 AM
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These are absolutely atrocious. Many years ago, I answered an advertisement for my own apartment, it was NOT listed as a roommate situation, but was listed for women only. I found out that the landlord's dog would be living with me, and I declined on that grounds, then he blurted out that he himself, the landlord, would also be living in the apartment and caring for the dog. I still get the creeps thinking about that situation. The dishonesty and creepiness was over the top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 11:01 PM
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I think it's fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:07 AM
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It's astounding that other hetero "men" on reddit are rating Caleb as "at least an 8."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:20 AM
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This author -- what the heck?! The writing is sloppy and the content is awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:31 AM
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Yes, the tone of the articles about Caleb seem to all be in favor of Caleb. Poor Caleb! He had a great thing going until these women all realized they were taken by the same loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:26 AM
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Oh good point, let's hope and pray that this is scrote fanfiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:15 PM
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Edited: I believe this story is totally Scrote Fanfiction, so deleting the comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:15 PM
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,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 06:51 AM
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Nancy's Nook on FB, and their nemesis group, the truth about Nancy's Nook, both helpful but you will need a different FB identity if you join both groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:57 AM
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Getting custody for some LVM men is all about avoiding child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:57 PM
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Your class sounds great -- do you have a suggestion for a list or book about wellness tools or to use when triggered?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:56 PM
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I think one of the main reasons that male politicians don't pay teachers adequately and exploit their labor is that they hate women and most elementary school teachers are women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:26 PM
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Have you read the handbook yet? This is discussed in detail there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:20 PM
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You have to change your entire friends group, too. Consider relocating to another city and being very careful about the people you let into your life, including women. There will be a period of deep loss, but you need the open space to allow new friendships, relationships, and to allow your real self to heal .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:22 AM
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I worked for a telephone answering service, and one of the lines I answered for a podiatrist office. We constantly got pervs calling in for the podiatrist -- I'd say well over half of the calls for that line were from perverts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:05 PM
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Yes, plus then you have to listen to their tiresome explanations of how you deserved to be subjected to their poor behavior. And listen to them whine about how they will change. Just move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:54 AM
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It's perfect, isn't it!? I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:47 AM
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This is a brilliant, handbook worthy post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:46 AM
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I thought of him too, when reading this thread. Look up his name, he's not a popular person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:42 AM
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Is there a way to link to this without generating clicks for the writer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:56 AM
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Yes, and it's a total abuse of a system designed to help people who are actually suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:33 PM
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I feel sorry for the dog because the dog has to stay with this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 09:46 PM
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OK, found it -- one of many critiques of TikTok invasive tracking. https://www.boredpanda.com/tik-tok-reverse-engineered-data-information-collecting/?utm\_source=duckduckgo&utm\_medium=referral&utm\_campaign=organic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:07 AM
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I don't like TikTok because I have heard that TikTok apparently tracks its users even more than other apps. Edited to add: I wish I could find more information about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:34 AM
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He's horrible. This video makes me furious at his gaslighting and uselessness. I hope she reconsiders their entire relationship after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:09 AM
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Very intense video, I could barely watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 07:30 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:27 AM
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Instead of blocking and deleting, I just fade out for female friends. I go very low contact (LC) Be too busy, forget to return phone calls, etc. It's not worth explaining yourself and hurting people's feelings unnecessarily. I've had a few women friends do this to me, and I appreciated that they didn't drag me through an explanation, etc. The only exception would be a very close friend, when I might try to work it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:00 PM
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"When a Woman's Fed Up" by R. Kelly. (yes, I know). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tmUcqSay3Dg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:48 AM
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Her "friends" thought she's being too sensitive? Those are not friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 11:14 PM
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Can you post the rest of this? I want to read it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:21 AM
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https://www.dictionary.com/browse/solipsistic I had to go look that word up! It's perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 02:55 AM
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This assistant professor doesn't have tenure yet. They need to get rid of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:01 PM
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Read up on Dr. Fung for T2D... lot of videos and written word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:41 AM
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Interesting thread. I think it's incredibly important that white women listen and learn from black women. So I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with the original post. I've come to the conclusion that there are NVM of every race and ethnicity I've cared to study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:29 AM
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I dumped an incredibly toxic brother about 20 years ago. My family was furious at me. Later, and predictably, he was arrested for a crime and put in prison for two years. My pickme family or origin rallied around him and constantly pressured me to forgive and love him, except for one family member. I have zero regrets about removing that asshole from my life. He continues to torment the pickmes and make their lives a living hell. He also continues to backstab me and lie about me. He's a NVM but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:18 PM
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Never polyamorous, but as you go through FDS, you will find yourself questioning all of your relationships, not just your relationships with men. Women who are not supportive of you as a friend or person should be faded out of your life. I would avoid a big confrontation, just be "too busy" as often as it takes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 02:55 AM
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Ugh, what a perv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 02:24 PM
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Women are the product they are selling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:32 AM
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Yes, in addition to the man not paying for the ring, the man can ask for the ring back on the grounds the ring is a family heirloom. My NVM ex-fiance "gave" me a two carat oval diamond ring that was his grandmother's in a setting I hated - it was asymmetrical and I wanted something simpler. He would not "allow" me to change the setting, and he asked for the ring back back when I broke up with him. I cheerfully returned it, just happy to be out of it. He contacted me a few years later to ask me t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:24 PM
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I had a problem with the anti-feminist spoutings of this blog post. On the flip side -- If men frantically push you to set a date after you say yes, and want the earliest possible date, that's a major red flag. If that happens, he knows he is batting out of his league. The reason for moving so fast is that he doesn't want you to have time to discuss money, children, porn, in-laws, or any other important issues before the wedding. It may seem like a romantic whirlwind, but it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:15 PM
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Yes, absolutely read the Gift of Fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:49 PM
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Just don't ever talk to men in situations like that. Don't go walking in trails alone. Sadly, that's the world we live in - all men are presumed dangerous until proven otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:44 PM
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This is heartbreaking. FDS principles could have prevented all of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:45 PM
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What a horrific nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:56 AM
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The account just for FDS is the way to go. Much, much simpler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:45 PM
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It sounds like you are a recovering pickme, so are many of us here. My only objection to your current plan is giving him almost a month, and that will put you right into the holidays. Guys like this usually don't have a lot of family support, they burned those bridges long ago. But that's not your problem. Edited to add -- you absolutely can do this, and you know your circumstances and your life better than I could ever know. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:40 PM
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Excellent advice. Call your local battered women's shelter (or whatever it's called in your community) and get the ball rolling to get him out. Change your locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:27 PM
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Agree completely. Get him out sooner than the end of November. Box his stuff up and let him figure it out. Breaking up with men is dangerous, and you have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:26 PM
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Figure out a plan for keeping your pets and children safe. You may need to move yourself and let the landlord evict him. Transitions are rough. You won't be alone, you will be without a man, and that's very different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:52 PM
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You can do this. Don't waste your time, youth and beauty on this loser. More and more women are waking up to fact that porn is deeply harmful in relationships. It might take a few months, but you will realize you are much happier and better off without him. As far as just looking -- he's lying. Edited to add: you are not overreacting, you are not insecure. You are waking up to some unpleasant truths about your boyfriend, that hurts. Don't waste time arguing with him. He's showed you who he is an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:43 PM
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Sickening story. Also, as a mom, she should not be moving her minor children into a home with a man she barely knows. There is more to this story than meets the eye. This man is horrible in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:31 PM
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He's hideous! In every way. Violent, predatory, sickening, physically disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:36 PM
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So incredibly sickening. I'm glad you got out of that nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:45 AM
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This is a great sub with a great group of mods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:44 PM
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Yeah, those posts are so common on reddit I suspect they are generated by a handful of fiction writers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:21 AM
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Chump Lady might be a fun guest for the podcast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:49 AM
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Kindness to animals and children is not necessarily an indication about how he will treat his own wife and kids. I would count it as neutral. Stanton Samenow, the famous criminologist, writes about the way psychopath criminals can be incredibly kind to animals and commit brutal crimes without a second thought in the same day. http://www.samenow.com/conceptmarch\_12.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:39 AM
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Rough sex defense. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:16 AM
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Great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:10 AM
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Agree, Gabby was way, way out of his league. Brian Laundrie was a total loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:03 AM
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Sadly, I noticed that too. Gabby's dad was not a sympathetic character on Dr Phil. But the stepdad was a very sympathetic character, truly supporting Gabby's grieving mother in the Dr. Phil interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 05:01 AM
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OMG, that tumblr!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:39 AM
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Wow, brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:35 AM
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Yep, I was about to say the same thing. The guys call the number to make sure you're giving out your real number. Take a hint, guys. If she doesn't seem interested enough to give you her real number, leave her alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:35 AM
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Totally agree. Get a FDS account and only post on FDS subs with it. You will lose karma at first but so what. I've seen redditors posting on some of those forums giving advice to give up and not waste time, but only in very extreme situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:02 PM
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Very powerful show -- highly recommended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:12 AM
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Some of the work for SAHM these days involves hours of admin labor for the entire family. Waiting on hold, filling out forms for school, handling all the medical insurance, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:06 AM
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Yes, that's why he was angry when you said no and demanded to know where you were going. Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:53 AM
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They call it "classroom management" but it basically means putting the quietest girls next to the worst boys. It's a horrible system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:45 AM
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I'm extremely suspicious of these sorts of posts and think many if not most of these posts are created by employees of organizations that financially profit from the commercial porn industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 08:05 PM
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You stated that very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 06:13 AM
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Yes. One of my friends said that her half sister's serious illness was caused by her "thought patterns" which started to seem like a way of not helping her sister for her illness since she "created" it. It was not a lifestyle disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:15 PM
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I think there is some LOA but it's more like how to play the hand you're dealt in life. I also have concerns that LOA is gaining popularity during a time of historic wealth inequality. It's a way of blaming oppressed people for their problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:32 PM
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Yes. It's important to have a separate FDS account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:56 AM
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I had to leave that horrible sub. I truly think some of those commenters in that sub are paid trolls because their comments are that horrific. But there are also just horrible Brian apologists in vast numbers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 04:43 PM
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Unfortunately you are probably right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:09 PM
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You have a good point, the defense lawyers can try. I hope that the prosecutors will have expert witnesses who can testify about domestic violence. I believe Brian is guilty and if he is smart, he'll take a plea deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:37 AM
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I wonder how many of those comments are from troll farms? https://www.technologyreview.com/2021/09/16/1035851/facebook-troll-farms-report-us-2020-election/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:26 AM
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German shepherds have so many hip problems. AKC has destroyed this wonderful breed of dogs. Maybe a lab or lab mix, though they won't attack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:12 AM
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. deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:00 AM
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Good analysis. See the article interviewing her best friend in the Daily Mail. That interview is consistent with your analysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:57 AM
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This is a great thread. What you said about camping is absolutely true, and that outlook goes for everything in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:55 AM
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Agreed. I can't confirm this, though. It was just one of the people Nancy Grace interviewed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:42 AM
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I was just watching Nancy Grace about this case. According to one of the men she interviewed, Brian was sent to a "family crisis center" not a motel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:32 AM
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People who claim to be women. I'm guessing most of those are men or mothers of sons who are horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:32 AM
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This counts for medical care, too. So many women have their very real symptoms discounted by doctors when they tell the doctors that they suffer from anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:29 AM
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This message sounds like it's from a pick me mom. Edited to add -- it's too polite for a typical message from a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:10 PM
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Thanks for sharing that article. I wrote about it in a comment above. Terrifying that she stayed with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:46 AM
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I would like to see a FDS approved Gabby Petito forum because I can't handle the misogynistic, psychopathic discussions on reddit or FB, blaming her. I hope all of you can read the "exclusive" by Gabby's best friend on Daily Mail. (I know a lot of folks hate DM for good reason, but it's an exclusive interview). The BF says that Brian was very controlling, and gives lots of details about how Brian controlled Gabby in a terrifying way. Edited: maybe just a FDS megathread if the mods are ok with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:34 AM
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Use one account for FDS subs and other accounts for the rest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:23 PM
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I know someone like that, too. She doesn't see her husband the way the rest of us see him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:28 PM
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I was reading that sub and was not shocked. It's pathetic that they will even stand up for Brian Laundrie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:29 AM
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James Dobson and his kind, like the Pearls writing "No Greater Joy" are horrible people who formalize abuse and manipulation. I'm so sorry you were raised under such horrible theories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:41 PM
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Excellent advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:11 PM
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It's also their unbelievable sense of entitlement. The weakness and entitlement go hand and hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:13 PM
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It's just another way to neg women, block and delete. BTW, in the US, some high school students can attend local CCs for little or no money and knock out basic college courses (Eng. 1301, etc.) while still in high school. So many four year colleges were online last year, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 06:56 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:37 PM
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I only know one pageant winner IRL, a neighbor who is just an acquaintance. At every neighborhood event, no matter what - think Easter, Santa Claus, picking up trash at the park, etc. etc. she always mentions that she is a pageant winner and that the children would like to see her in her crown and gown, she'll be there in full regalia. The children are not even remotely interested in her. It's very weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:40 AM
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His MOTHER called?! I wonder if it was actually his mother. I would like to think that no mother would do that, but who knows?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:30 AM
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Yes. They are a lot of fun in terms of charm, then the veneer comes off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:28 PM
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This is starting to be an issue at some family hotels in the US south. Families and businessmen are traveling less, even in the summer. Hotels are often filled with single male work crews doing who knows what. Women and girls have to walk through groups of single men at the front door to get in and out of their hotels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:54 AM
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You KNOW what you need to do. That's why you posted here. You can do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:21 AM
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He was probably awful all along, but Amy dropped the ball by not stating that the husband needs a full medical workup. He needs to be reported to CPS for the exploitation of a minor. It's also possible that the so-called nineteen year old girl (or her handler) needs to be reported to Adult Protective Services for elder abuse if the old man has some form of medical problem causing him to totally lose his judgement. Just in case this is a case of early onset dementia. I would still divorce him and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:12 AM
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Very triggering and upsetting video. But important if you can bear to watch it. I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:49 PM
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When you meet men like this, fade into a pale nothing for safety's sake. They may be more dangerous than they appear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:30 PM
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The famous criminologist, Stanton Samenow, write about the differences between antisocial personality disorder and autism. https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/inside-the-criminal-mind/201406/autism-spectrum-disorder-or-antisocial-personality Some of the men described on FDS seem to go beyond general male selfishness and immorality and misogyny and go more into more extreme criminal behavior. Dr. Samenow has a lot of content on his "concept of the month" which is worth reading if you are inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:25 PM
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Agree. Woke men are the worst. Especially woke men who seem to only be woke when it comes to women being available to them for no strings sex. Avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:21 PM
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This is true. My mom worked for an international aid organization that stopped giving aid to men and gave aid to women instead. Women always used the money for the entire family and community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:35 AM
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Yes, in all of those refugee situations, there is no requirement of ratios of men and women. Then all of those single men go to their host countries and bring their selfishness with them. One of the big risks, though, in requiring ratios, is that men will then kidnap or buy women to take with them to their new countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:26 AM
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I *totally* agree with every word you said, HOWEVER I'm uncomfortable with the "numbtard" and "short bus" language. I have some older friends who have teens with special needs and those teens are really delightful young women who need FDS just as much as I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:42 AM
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It sounds like that young man is clueless. Edited to add -- after reading the other comments below about his post history, he's not clueless, he's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:33 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:32 PM
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This is the worst advice I've ever seen for a man who wants to create a relationship with a woman. I don't even think it would work for a one night stand. It reads like it was written by a fifteen year old boy, not a man who has actually interacted with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:45 PM
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What a bunch of drivel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:13 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:08 AM
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Thank you, will add it to my list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:46 AM
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Potentially dangerous too if you don't know the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:47 AM
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What brands of high quality vitamins do you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:36 AM
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Daily Mail is an "interesting" tabloid, but DM does have some good articles on a regular basis. DM goes out of it's way for salacious headlines, but it also covers topics I have not seen in the US mainstream media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:35 AM
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Loretta Lynn was married to a LVM (Mooney) -- I think they still are both alive and still married. If you watch the movie a Coal Miner's Daughter, the movie is excellent and well worth watching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 11:49 PM
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When I was a server, we had to cover the cost of any tables that walked out of our own pocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 11:39 PM
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You sound smart to make the decision that's right for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:02 PM
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Great article. Not sure this guy was worth it, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:22 AM
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Read the entire book, it's life changing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:19 AM
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Excellent post. Thank you mods for all that you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:21 PM
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Good work. Now block and delete him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:15 PM
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Watching those old movies like Pillow Talk where men take their dates to these great romantic dancing venues -- pretty great stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:41 PM
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Just bought this based on your recommendation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:26 PM
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It's a laziness thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:18 PM
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I'm concerned about Tik Tok as a platform because of the allegations of spyware. That said, I'm really looking forward to your content on Tik Tok. With this team, it's going to be great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:21 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:19 AM
16

It's horrific, and one of the main reasons that girls are pulled out of public schools to be homeschooled. It's a misogynist classroom management technique. It's terrible, and it's everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:28 AM
13

Four drinks?! That's a lot of drinks with dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:05 PM
26

That's why those of us who post on FDS need a separate account just for FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:14 AM
25

If he is going to be towing a boat, he may feel he needs a super truck that can tow the weight. A five thousand dollar tent?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:13 AM
6

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:49 PM
27

He sounds awful, he should be embarrassed. I'll add one more thing a HVM or HVW would do -- they would be prepared in a sensible way for the possibility that things might go wrong. Severe heat can be just as harmful as severe cold. People in cold climates have backup heaters. People in hot climates, and people enduring catastrophic heat waves, should have backup ways to cool their homes. In a house, people should try to buy a window air conditioning unit at a minimum, stored as a backup. If peop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 04:50 AM
74

It's also less frightening. Anything opinion other than libfem will get women attacked or threatened, not only by "progressive" men but also by other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:41 AM
1

Real numbers will depend on where you live. In general, money is a good thing. In some communities, 80k is broke, in others 80k is wealthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:42 AM
6

Married with Children -- absolutely disgusting mainstream show, ran for years, incredibly popular, absolute misogyny was late 80s early 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:50 AM
87

Her mom sounds great, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:35 AM
4

Well, I'm still going to be surprised and this is a dating sub, after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:08 PM
6

Well, I'm still going to be surprised and this is a dating sub, after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:07 PM
9

What the heck? Are you saying that women should not have daughters? I'm confused by your comment. I understand and agree that we should not have men we are dating meet our daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:21 PM
21

This is correct. Some women end up with men they don't particularly like much less love so they do not have to be afraid of being alone. Afraid of other, dangerous men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:57 AM
22

Three cheers for the moderators!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:07 AM
7

Endometriosis surgery is very serious. He doesn't give a damn about her. She needs to find a lawyer and get out. Seriously, can someone contact her? This needs to be a FDS rescue mission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:06 AM
11

This is a good book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:43 AM
7

Mary Daly wrote some great books on this subject. "Beyond God the Father" was eye opening for me. Z Budapest and Starhawk also had some interesting insights into women's spirituality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:42 AM
6

I've only had one of those "self harm" messages -- pathetic. I have a FDS only account. You will lose your old karma but so what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:57 AM
12

Fantastic, you are on a roll. There are some amazing books in the "Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner (and her other books) about how people will get furious and try to manipulate you to get you to change back when you make positive changes in your life. The part about the husband saying it would take time for him to change REALLY hit a nerve for me. Thank you for sharing that. Good for you. People who expect subservient doormats get really upset when the doormat won't play with them anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:20 AM
2

It's financial abuse and the guy is hiding something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:29 AM
14

She needs to appeal. I can't begin to understand what the judge was thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:35 PM
40

I think this is just a publicity stunt to draw attention away from Ben's other shenanigans. Source : none, just speculation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:42 PM
79

I could have written this post. One of my 70-something- year old neighbors has had two marriage proposals in the past three years. She turned down the first proposal from a man her age, but accepted the second proposal, from an athletic, sweet, generous man her own age. She also has a large group of women friends of all ages. She's really delightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:39 AM
2

Also be aware that unknown to buyers, some sellers provide bonuses to the realtors that make the sale of homes that aren't selling. Realtors are seller's agents unless you have a contract stating otherwise. Be sure to ask about this and get it in writing. You definitely need a new agent, imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:24 AM
2

In this market, it's important to write a letter about what you love about the home and explain that you plan to live there, not have it be an investment property. Some sellers care about the neighbors they are leaving behind and won't sell to investors. Also include your qualification letter that shows you have financing lined up. Fire your agent if she's not working for you. It's painful, but I've fired two real estate brokers and my only regret is the time I wasted trying to work with them. B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:17 AM
75

I see those kinds of articles all the time about birth rates, and misogyny in the home is never mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:51 AM
5

yes, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:57 PM
18

It won't stop until the men who watch these videos are sued civilly and prosecuted criminally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:57 PM
4

Totally worth it, agreed. Also totally worth it is Patreon for FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:52 PM
17

Gift of Fear is a great book. Everyone on FDS should read it, along with Lundy Bancroft's books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:24 AM
15

Great post. I've heard that expression so many times about thinking things are evil when they are really incompetence. You're making me see the reality behind it -- heck yes it's evil. So many times we're told "oh, it was an accident" when it's obviously an intentional scheme. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:21 AM
2

I read the book again last week, and it's incredible. Highly recommended for every woman, even if they don't think they are being abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:52 AM
9

I've also had men insist that they will "wait in the car" while their wive wrangles multiple children and their supplies on their way to go somewhere. My dad did that and I've seen it repeatedly. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:50 AM
7

I saw this with a man crossing a busy street last week. He was paying more attention to his dog than to his three year old daughter 10 feet behind him. The mom was not with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:48 AM
11

I've seen men in their 60s walk ahead of their wives, probably not wanting to be seen with an older woman as their partner. I once saw one man in his 60s race ahead of his staggering, injured, spouse at the entrance to the ER where he was taking her. Probably just habit on his part. But if the woman a man is with is young and beautiful, notice he is waling close and holding her hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:45 AM
10

You are very lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:25 AM
1

Lilith, you are a brilliant human being and I've loved reading all of your posts. I hope you will consider writing a book, possibly with a pseudonym, because you are changing and saving lives here. I totally understand your reasons for leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:55 AM
19

Listen to the podcast! It's really good and worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:15 AM
9

It was a brilliant analysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:15 AM
13

I'm halfway through the podcast and it's been fantastic! I didn't realize Gail Dines herself would be on the podcast. She's so impressive. Is she still teaching at that college? What was the name of it? Edited to add -- everyone who can afford it, you might want to consider supporting FDS through Patreon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:14 AM
10

Agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:10 PM
3

I'm baffled by the scrodacity here. He thinks he is such a catch that if you want a relationship with him, you better put out? Like you would ever want a relationship with someone like that?! What a total loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:46 PM
5

Don't agree. Some people do not "deserve" love. I agree with LilithWon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:52 PM
3

Yes, that was a great documentary. The hobosexual was still trying to take advantage of women even in his 80s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:50 PM
8

Beautifully said, u/gcsubthrow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:22 PM
2

Good luck with getting a clear diagnosis. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:14 AM
2

FDS gets better and more meaningful every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:10 AM
2

Excellent point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:06 AM
13

I'm so proud of you and so proud of FDS mods for creating this incredible space. Most importantly, you can be proud of yourself for taking these steps for creating a wonderful new life for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:59 AM
1

Really, this explains so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:09 AM
2

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:29 PM
63

There has been a little bit of shade thrown at older women in this thread. Some of it may be deserved,and I'm not sure what you mean by "older" women. Many of the the older women I know IRL, especially the boomers who were teens in the sixties and seventies, are feminists with values that strongly align with FDS. Many were reading Mary Daly and Andrea Dworkin back in the day, when there were feminist bookstores and lesbian bars in many metropolitan areas. They were anti-porn long before the inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:01 PM
14

One more point -- it's impossible to know what will happen in life. You may plan to be a SAHM and be happily married and it all works out. Or you may plan to work outside of the home but your kid is born with a disability and you live in a place where there are no real services or supports, much less decent special education, for kids with disabilities. So a woman can end up being a SAHM or end up having to homeschool, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:49 AM
4

You can be so proud of yourself for taking this brave and important step. You have changed. Now the pressure will probably be relentless for you to change back and rejoin your place as their scapegoat. Continue to be strong and love yourself. This is the first step towards real healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:48 PM
1

^^THIS.^^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:38 PM
43

Men at gyms don't realize we are vetting them by the way they act at the gym. If they are not wiping their sweat off the equipment, leaving their gross used towels everywhere, putting their feet on the walls, etc., they are going to be worse at home. If they don't rack their weights or hog free weights or equipment, they are telling you all you need to know. You can also look for signs of steroid use very easily (search it) and avoid those guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:41 PM
3

You can be so proud of yourself for figuring this out so young. Forgive yourself and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:45 AM
55

This is a handbook worthy post, imho. I wish I could boost it to the top. Women are the product that these apps are selling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:42 AM
18

I watched it a few days ago. I thought the gigolo was even older -- early 80s? But I was not watching closely. Fantastic documentary for FDS women to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:38 AM
203

Good starting place. I wish him to be imprisoned for a long, long time. This is criminal behavior. He raped her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:28 AM
10

He's sorry he lost his unpaid domestic servant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:23 AM
8

Agree -- I had to fast forward through anything that had Steve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:47 PM
27

I watched SATC after FDS and wow -- Big is the ultimate example of a NVM. I'm not sure about Aiden -- he seemed to have some serious LVM characteristics, such as when he moved into her apartment, but HVM in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:04 PM
12

Fantastic post. Thank you for writing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:17 AM
7

One of the surprises in the Asperger's book (where is it?) was that if you are looking for a broader range of women friends, consider a mainstream personal style. If you are looking for a niche group of friends, then go with the niche style. But be aware that if you go with a niche style, you may miss out on friendships with women you might like who may make snap judgements about you from having a niche style. I'm not autistic and this concept never even dawned on me on a conscious level. The Da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:39 PM
10

I'm going to have to look for them and report back! I read them ages ago and there were a few surprises in them for me. I think they were in books about women with Asperger syndrome. (autism used to be separate from Asperger syndrome, so some older books with good content use the old term).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:13 PM
140

Do not use Bumble BFF. It's not going to help you make female friends, imho. Its a cynical attempt to get women to use Bumble's dating app, imho. Instead, join activities that are consistent with your own natural interests, start volunteering in causes you believe in, and read Dale Carnegie's classic book "How to Win Friends and Influence People." There are also some good books about making friends written for ASD people (autistic) where techniques for making friends are spelled out. If you want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:42 PM
6

Great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:40 PM
30

Sing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:20 PM
36

She should have gotten rid of the man, not asked the man to get rid of the gaming room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:18 PM
30

He's not HV if he uses porn. He's probably not being truthful about the amount of porn he consumes, claiming he cut back, etc. This is hard to hear and accept, but it is the truth. A man has to make his own journey to overcome addiction. Now, when love is new it may not be an issue, but the likelihood is that this will become a serious issue later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:02 PM
3

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:01 AM
9

Ha! Agreed. Unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:27 AM
10

This post is profound and I'd like to recommend it for the handbook. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:19 AM
12

I'm suspicious that he is tracking her somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:02 PM
8

Congratulations! Consider moving into a different complex, though. You will run into him all the time if you are in the same general complex. Also, consider taking the dog with you and not leaving the dog with him, for the dog's safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:49 PM
8

If there is a first name of an admired woman in your heritage, you can choose that name if it works for the laws in your country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:46 PM
1

What about taking your mother's maiden name? One tip, all else being equal, try to choose a new name with the first few letters of the alphabet. So many things are alphabetical, you may as well be at the top of the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:45 PM
35

The media narrative makes me suspicious. I'm not a conspiracy theorist, but wonder about whether media companies have investments in pornography, or some benefit to the media companies of breaking up marriages, lowering the birth rate, etc. Reddit is obviously pro-porn and intends to remain that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:19 AM
3

You are right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:37 PM
2

What do you mean by sex positive in this context?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:19 PM
18

I would consider moving and finding a new hobby, or starting a women's group for the hobby with no men allowed. These people sound awful. The way they rally around this horrible man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:18 PM
14

The risks far outweigh the benefits for women. Women are the product for OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:05 AM
14

If you do this, be safe. He sounds like an angry NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:52 PM
102

I'm proud of your MIL. It's never too late to create a new life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:46 AM
24

So that is OK on twitter?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:04 PM
8

So grateful to the women running FDS and FDS twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:44 PM
52

Agreed. He needs to be fired. This sort of behavior puts patient safety at risk and makes the surgery about him and his feelings. He should not be in this role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:57 AM
16

It looks like 4chan. I think we should find out. Extremely disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:00 PM
25

This is true. I agree that it's a major red flag if men are bad to animals. But it's just one part of the vetting process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:05 AM
11

Totally agree The age of consent being 18 is just to make it easier to exploit women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:27 PM
6

Unfortunately, I think some true psychopaths can fake it for almost a year, but the red flags are there if we are willing to see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:48 AM
26

The rose colored glasses are off and we understand who most men really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:54 AM
23

But the daughter deserves neither of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:50 AM
11

A bartender is not a smart career move during a pandemic. Some of the variants are hitting young people now. Agree, don't do Only Fans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:24 AM
15

They used to call this "Mad Money." Also, young women all knew where there was a cup with money in their homes to pay a cab driver if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:28 AM
3

Good movie. Great cast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:53 AM
6

I had an adult woman "friend" pull something similar to this, but different. You made the right call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:06 PM
32

Exactly. I cringe when libfem FB friends refer to women as Karens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 11:03 PM
3

Why would they do that -- only in response to serious public pressure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:49 PM
41

Agreed. It's a good starting place. Maybe a good starting place would be to put pressure on OF to require the exploited people (so called sex workers) to be at least 25 before they can participate in OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:52 AM
314

He must be a FDS lurker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:37 AM
4

Fantastic resource, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:32 PM
47

Where can I find this illuminating quote of Forsstrom's? If it's a book, I want to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:54 AM
7

Beautifully written and absolutely true. This is handbook worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:59 PM
7

If they love the old sitcom "Married with Children" it's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:12 PM
26

The grocery store aggressive behavior doesn't make them look classy - it makes them look tacky. Men don't realize that behaving like that to anyone makes them repulsive to every woman who witnesses the behavior. Men who create standoffs at the grocery store with women are pathetic. No, it doesn't make men appear dom, it makes men appear dumb. Maybe we need to add going to the grocery store with a man as part of the vetting process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:21 PM
13

This "man" sounds revolting and clueless. Totally self-absorbed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:03 PM
25

I use a technique when men try to pass me on the shoulder in a long line of cars that are waiting their turns. Using mobile phones while driving is illegal where I live. So I fake talk into a hairbrush (legal) and don't let them know that I notice them trying to cut in line in front of me in a long line of cars. Lots of animated laughing into the hairbrush. They never have the guts to shove me over when they think I don't see them. They always tried when they knew I was watching out for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:39 AM
101

Same damn thing at the grocery store. I think men are testing out being what they consider alpha. Notice how men at the grocery store invade women's spaces, tailgate them, etc., even behaving that way to older women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:36 AM
2

Thank you. I'm going to get rid of my lavender products tomorrow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:19 AM
4

I would not tell anyone who might tell your brother until after it's done and you are gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:05 AM
3

I would go no contact and make sure that your plan is not announced to him in advance. If you are going to lose your deposit anyway, is there any reason to tell the landlord a month early? The brother sounds horrible. You are doing the right thing. Keep yourself and your pets safe before you take action. If you have pet, take it to the vet and board it for a few days if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:04 AM
29

Lavender? I think the main culprit is plastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:21 PM
3

He may be trying to keep his crimes secret and buy you off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:06 PM
3

Contact a lawyer. He may be trying to set you up so that you don't file civil suit, criminal charges, or otherwise embarrass him with your revelations. I would not accept this check without consulting with a good attorney first. Please consult with an attorney before you do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:01 PM
14

She's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:53 PM
44

She did the right thing, but I worry that she needs some real protection from this man. Thinking about her randomly -- sure he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:37 PM
26

The Chinese company tencent supposedly owns part of reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:05 PM
3

I've wondered about that before, whether white feminism is basically libfem. Why do we frame it as "white women are relying on BIPOC to take over "their" domestic tasks." Why are these chores "their" (meaning women's) chores in the first place? Why aren't the chores also the chores of the men and the older children in the household?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:35 PM
119

I've heard but can't personally confirm that Some of the feminist subs on reddit are not run by pickmes, they are run by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:49 AM
21

I think raising the legal age for sex work would be a good starting place towards the goal of having the industry eventually die out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:51 PM
8

I see posts like this and wonder -- what the hell is wrong with men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:11 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:45 PM
9

Agree. OLD is designed to get women to lower our standards. Also agree this post should be pinned or in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:13 AM
6

Exactly. Beautifully stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:06 AM
5

I think that site still exists, I just searched for it. But it may be a fake site, not sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:05 AM
11

This is one of the best posts I have read on FDS. This post, and the discussion about safety below, are critical for all women to understand. This is handbook worthy, imho. Women are being gaslighted into ignoring our own personal physical and emotional safety and for what? A fictional dream of a perfect romance with a stranger? Edited to add: women are the product that these apps are selling and getting rich from. The bumble female friendship app is a desperate attempt to rope more actual women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:04 AM
10

The personal is political is so clear for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:31 AM
12

I think there is a "don't date him" website with a "secret forum." I don't know anything about it, though. (not related to FDS)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:18 AM
14

^^^THIS^^^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:10 AM
24

Where can we find the traffic stats?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:07 AM
7

I hope they are downloading and saving the content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:46 AM
16

Reddit is bent on destroying healthy relationships between men and women. Who benefits from this strategically or financially?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:38 AM
9

I have a NVM brother. I cut him off completely many years ago, and my sisters, father, and mother all pressured me relentlessly to reconnect with him. It was a nightmare. He was a horrible, abusive monster and my family rallied round him. I'll never have contact with him ever again. If he shows up at my door, I will call 911.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:48 AM
21

Three cheers for the moderators!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:00 AM
11

Yes, do not google this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:28 AM
8

What a disgusting, sickening criminal. Horrific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:04 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:15 AM
1

I've been harassed and flashed on all forms of public transportation. If the powers that be are not going to address the issue of scrotes thinking this is their golden opportunity to bother women because the women can't escape, then women cannot buy in to public transportation for safety reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:36 AM
17

My great grandmother died in childbirth giving birth to my grandmother. Her father remarried and had more children with the new wife. My other grandmother almost died in childbirth giving birth to my mother. She had to remain in the hospital for several weeks. One of my friends had hyperemesis (uncontrolled vomiting) for the last six months of her pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:04 AM
49

It’s a propaganda drug designed to addict men to woman-hating. Brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:58 AM
5

Interesting article. It appears from some of the comments that it must have been shared in some men's red pill forum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:44 AM
4

This is profound, and true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:16 AM
11

Such a great book. The recent posts are making me want to read it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:04 AM
8

Actually, I agree with you completely. I would prefer that the age be never, but was thinking of starting gradually with something we may be able to achieve by having it be something like the drinking age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:42 AM
17

The age of consent for so-called "sex work" should be changed to 21. Our young people need to be supported, not exploited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:29 PM
2

The pandemic has changed my ideas about HVM to a certain extent. Some of the common behaviors of men in their responses to the pandemic are red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:28 AM
13

Good for you, I'm so proud of you, and you can be so proud of yourself. Now you will see the red flags early and drop them at the first sign. Your courage will inspire other women to dump these losers and to step away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:59 AM
7

Incredible writing, Dworkin got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:31 PM
16

Right Wing Women by Dworkin was a fascinating read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:49 AM
10

So glad you got out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:44 AM
31

Yes, what the hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:40 AM
237

I'm not convinced that these falls were accidents. In that situation, she needs to brace herself and never leave her baby alone with her husband for minute, even if she has to just pretend that he doesn't exist other than for running errands until she can figure out a way to get out of there and keep her baby, herself, and her pets safe. Anecdotal, but possibly a good idea -- some people put their mattresses on the floor, shoved up against the wall, when their babies are little, just to make sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:02 AM
30

If you know how to reach this person, please tell her to contact her state's legal aid services if she is in the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:30 AM
31

But he did go to effort -- he brought her a protein bar, which she wisely refused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:40 PM
13

The FDS twitter account is downright impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:07 PM
71

It also screams gas lighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:33 AM
6

I think it's worthwhile to read these sites to see what they say to gain an understanding of the fact that these men know exactly what they are doing. But it is horrific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:55 PM
23

Women are the product making men rich from dating apps, and more and more women are waking up and leaving the apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:48 PM
5

What a nightmare. I'm so sorry they did this to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:00 AM
2

Who is this writer? Is this a woman or a man with a woman's name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:53 PM
6

Agree, what a great twitter account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:36 AM
10

The boyfriend sounds horrible. I hope she finds FDS so she doesn't waste any more of her life on guys like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:12 PM
20

Yeah, I doubt there is a human Mrs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:26 AM
38

Also to make it harder to prove that he was the one who sent the stalker-ish letter. The typing, the lack of a signature, etc. etc. I don't have a good feeling about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:16 AM
7

UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:42 AM
9

That article links to an even more offensive article in Today, which bends over backwards for men's feelings. From the article I'm quoting two examples, but it was actually kind of hard to choose just two examples: "It’s not necessarily a guy thing. Anecdotally, lesbian couples with kids report feeling the same frustration with their partner. Raising kids is just stressful; adult relationships are even more so." "Perhaps part of the solution for stressed-out married moms is to emulate their rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:55 AM
3

Why does this fool think he should be giving advice to women? Thank goodness for FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:39 PM
10

This is an excellent post about the practical issues concerning leaving an abusive man. Is there any way that this can be pinned or put in the sidebar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:21 AM
12

Congratulations on getting rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:59 AM
8

Good for you for setting the boundary and mostly for making him your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:35 AM
10

Sending nudes, imho, is not a wise decision at all. It's putting women at risk for the benefit of men. Those nudes benefit one person -- the man. They put one person at risk -- the woman. Those nudes can show up anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:33 AM
3

I thought she meant they had been together for 18 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:03 AM
10

Maybe he meant soaked with his gross slobbering on her neck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:55 AM
7

OMG, this person is actually saying women want to be taken by force already?! Thank you for posting this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:46 AM
3

The minimum age for people to be sex workers should be raised to 21, then 25, then abolished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:20 AM
13

I lurked on Roosh V's website and forums, "Return of Kings." They had a fat shaming day and explained that the number women made it harder for men to find women who met their standards. So then it was OK to bully and torment young women! I found the articles and especially the comments on the articles very helpful for understanding full fledged, unabashed, porn fueled misogyny. Then Roosh found Jesus and changed into a different type of misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:36 PM
72

Absolutely agree with this -- they enjoy the conflict. Men who are lawyers often go into the practice of law because they like to argue with people. Think long and hard before marrying a male lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:27 PM
3

Wow!!! I hope she's not pregnant with his baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:15 PM
24

It's like the "fetish educator" who works for Cosmo talking about cannibalism kink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:58 AM
4

What is this horrible man's name? I think there should be some sort of dating alert. Does he have 200K followers?! Are they really this disgusting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:56 AM
46

I don't know who is running the FDS twitter account, but she really gets it. Wow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:45 AM
2

Fantastic post. I've wasted years of my life as a pick-me. Good for you for figuring this out young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:31 PM
6

I wish every day could be Meme Free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:47 AM
15

Make a plan. If you live with him, make a plan for getting out, keeping yourself and your pets safe. Find a way to support yourself financially. Then leave. If you are independent, then just block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:09 AM
6

I would not waste my time communicating with this man. If he wanted to do it, he would have done it. A woman is not responsible for educating a man on the bare minimum basics. It takes away all of the fun of romance to set expectations. He's not her child, she doesn't have to educate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:05 AM
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Agreed. Block and delete. Hopefully you don't live with him. If you do, make an exit plan to keep yourself and your pets safe. If you don't live with him, change your locks and become invisible and unavailable. This guy knew exactly what he was doing. The low value lunch date where he actively goes out of his way to insult you -- just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:01 AM
35

OLD promotes a hook up culture and it dehumanizes women and sells us as a product. I say that, but I do know of several true love stories where OLD worked. It's dangerous and risky for women and not worth it. If women do decide to use OLD, they should read and apply the handbook and do everything possible to protect their own safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:54 AM
14

FDS is a way of life, not just dating. FDS principles apply to jobs, friends, family. As women, we're socialized from birth to put up with a lot of bad treatment. We try too long to make things work when it should have been clear immediately that we're dealing with a man with a grand sense of entitlement. I can't figure out where that sense of entitlement comes from, but guessing at least part of it has to do with parenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:45 AM
4

I bought my daughters and myself bouquets of flowers and some chocolates and etsy gift cards. Your gifts and flowers are especially lovely though, I'll have to do better next year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:23 AM
6

Women are the product for OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:50 AM
8

Thank you, FDS twitter, for standing up to this pathetic "fetish educator."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:16 PM
2

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:37 AM
1

I, Tonya is a good movie about what her NVM did to destroy Tonya Harding and her career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:24 AM
2

It's very painful to watch the documentary. I think Justin Bieber was exploited by Scooter, but not even on the same level as the emotional torture and exploitation that Britney had to endure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:22 AM
4

You should not get into sub/dom relationships anyway. Not cool. Read the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:37 AM
1

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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:37 AM
22

In the United States, your mom needs to contact a bankruptcy attorney and a family lawyer, as soon as possible. She may be able to protect the house, depending on the state and the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:56 AM
2

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:23 AM
60

FDS is a way of life that I wish I had discovered when I was younger. The personal is political - FDS reminds me of the "consciousness raising" groups that women used to have in the sixties and seventies. It's a different online format, but by sharing our experiences we are recognizing the common experiences of being girls and women in a misogynistic world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:26 AM
111

In 2019, 200,000 rape kits had not been processed. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:40 PM
19

I've seen mods in at least one big sub actually shut down a thread because too many commenters also participated in FDS. That's why I have an alt account for FDS friendly subs only. Also some subs ban people from commenting just for being members of FDS. Mods - thank you for all you do for this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:38 AM
1

Yes, please find out whatever you can find. It's outrageous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:36 AM
21

There was some car video on youtube, where they were stopping people in fabulously expensive cars to ask what the owners did for a living. One man was driving a Rolls Royce. He said that he was the CFO of OnlyFans. No idea if this is true or not. Women are the product for sale, and men are getting sneakier about their pimping and exploitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:00 AM
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