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It’s so funny cause all we need is just 1 good man. The numbers and stats and whatever does not matter at all. It’s all for themselves so they can feel entitled to complain when they don’t get what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:59 PM
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This is really the truth! You can’t negotiate on those key qualities. I didn’t know it in the moment but the last really serious relationship I had that almost led to engagement, was essentially this, he was perfect on paper - handsome, good career with high earnings potential, intellectual, also an absolute charmer around people in general. Yet he was not kind at all, he was calculated and extremely critical behind peoples backs and always looked down on others. Was also a lazy partner, so he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 10:53 PM
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The tone deafness of this is baffling. He asked her to suggest a place, to which he already agreed. What’s worst than a stingy man? A man that goes back on his word. And he is both lol. Not to mention the fact that he even explained it to her. No wonder it took 10 years to get a date. I don’t think ANY woman (regardless if they’re FDS or not) would appreciate it and I think even my friends who are all about splitting equally, will no doubt block and delete this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:58 PM
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Beyond that, this is actual financial abuse - exerting control by controlling all the money and limiting her to $20 spending which is just horrible, how can he justify leaving her with an almost empty bank account. If she were to run into an emergency that requires cash, what would she do?! $20 doesn't even cover gas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:51 PM
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This is the truth. He added a reply to someone in his original post stating that he’s not interested in getting married. Didn’t say whether it’s to her or at all. Which means he’s waiting till he finds his dream girl. Cause why move in with his GF if he’s not interested in marriage? I pray the GF knows cause if he’s not offering her a future together, what is the point of being with such a stingy man who clearly doesn’t love her cause he’s getting all worked up about a $100 meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:21 AM
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Isn't it funny how perfectly timed that Pacsun and Urban Outfitter comes out with Playboy merch right when the Secrets of Playboy miniseries comes out and is starting to gain traction? It is 100% the power of those greedy rich powerful predatory men behind this. They don't want their association to Playboy in any way to taint their images since the series has brought to light so much woman's suffering through first hand experiences; it's not like allegations in the past that got shut down immedi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:26 AM
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Agreed, social media in general made me realize how common these alarming views a lot of LVM will admit to, under the premise of remaining 'anonymous'. Makes me scared cause all these nice guys will pretend to be nice and we have no idea the disgusting thoughts they actually hide. That's why vetting is so so so important and doesn't stop at marriage - lot of LVM playing the long game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 07:00 PM
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His way of thinking is very misogynistic and old-school. Everyone knows how expensive it is for modern day women and men to have their own place and raise families so everyone is delaying marriage and kids. We’re (millennials) essentially raised to believe as you point out that BOTH having a family and kids as well as having a job are equally important, we’re the generation that wanted and have been juggling both. There’s no such thing as “waking up at 30 suddenly realizing we want kids and marr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:04 AM
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Yup all these things you suggest are so easily accomplished yet he’s being all dramatic and jumping to plastic surgery lol. It’s like, welcome to the daily life of a woman living with impossible beauty standards, these men can’t even last a day without collapsing and blaming a whole gender instead of society for their inability to manage the pressures. Can you imagine if women reacted like these men about beauty standards, we’d have died out as a species ages ago. A lot less complaining and more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:31 PM
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And if not, I’m glad these men are getting more ridiculous and essentially filtering himself out for all women instead of women having to invest time just to find out this man is bottom barrel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 03:08 PM
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Exactly! And his "patiently waiting for my girls to grow up and reach out. It may never happen but I'm hopeful that they will understand me more as they become adults and gain context for life" LOL, once they grow up and have even more context, they are going to resent him much more. What is there to understand? Dad got horny and disrespected their mom and completely threw their family life away. All to entertain a girl 20 years younger, who's only a couple years older than his daughters. All I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:55 AM
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This poor woman is the sole breadwinner of the family AND also does majority of the childcare and household chores. She’s basically living like a single parent, plus the added stress of living with a man child whose cheating and lying to her. Unfortunate I keep seeing posts like these and hearing similar stories in real life. If a man isn’t adding to your life on anyway, he’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:48 AM
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“Mind you, objectively, the cost doesn’t matter to me. I am doing well. I’m generous with my friends.” These guys always tell on themselves. It’s pretty clear but a direct translation is basically, ‘I make good money and will spend it freely and unlimited on myself and people important to me like friends but nEvEr ever on a woman, even if I want sex and asked her to trek her way across the city in the snow instead of find a place convenient for us both, doesn’t matter if she may have potential t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:14 PM
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Absolutely agree. The whole point of a partner is having someone who adds value to your life. I consider myself to be doing quite well for my age right now and live by myself. Why would I change my lifestyle to bring in a guy who doesn’t add value in anyway to my life resulting in more emotional labour, added chores, extra work of raising kids and knock on wood having to split my assets should I want to get out of the relationship. If I wanted someone to go exactly 50/50 with then I would’ve jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:54 PM
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Seems like he was scared of being alone or he's just lonely. Totally agree. I think the honest truth is that men are actually more fearful of being single and alone more than women, solely based on the fact that women in general have no issues attracting men, whether those men are value or not doesn't matter in the context of their mind. Which means their version of projecting that fear is by "settling" for a woman who they don't think is good enough, even when reality is they don't even deserve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:26 AM
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Yep, I’ve deleted the apps cause meeting guys through mutual friends and events is much better (quality of guys). I was so tired of guys that seem to lack basic awareness of basic manners, catfishes, guys who send d*ck pics and lie about height/age/kids etc. I’m so much more at peace now without the apps. Find 1 normal compatible guy who wants a relationship out of 500 problematic guys is not worth the time. Maybe cause prior to apps, my social circle (who I consider to be normal people) and all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:53 PM
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Exactly, the issues with patriarchy reside in how women are mistreated, unheard and the unfair disadvantages it puts women in. Yet when this topic gets brought up of tackling patriarchy, it's funny how these men make it all about themselves again by fighting for 50/50 - all in the name of equality, which isn't the resolution. Women and society in general want equity - equal opportunities. Until women get paid the same, treated with respect and being a women no longer provides disadvantages, then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 01:14 AM
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Quite sad that what you say is true, a loving partner would never request 50/50 cause that is keeping score. Some days you give 90% and other days you only have enough to give 10%, that's why you in theory have a partner so you can share and take turns supporting each other. But these relationships are unfortunately so rare nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:14 AM
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Omg what did I just read. I kid you not, every guy who has mentioned 50/50 end up exhibiting toxic traits like this husband. Literally discounting the fact that there’s human life growing inside her, not to mention HIS own child. Men can never go through the pain, emotionally and physically of 9 months carrying a child so it will never be possible to be 50/50. But the fact that so many husbands post questions like this so commonly makes me so scared of having a kid, it’s like these men are psych…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:31 PM
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This. And also, it's coming from a place of bias because they want to condition young women (girls in these cases) in general to think it's okay, so that should they ever be in a situation where they are that 35 year old man who managed to snatch a 21 year old, that the girls are groomed into believing it's okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:35 PM
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Yes seriously, I don’t think many people think long term when they accept a man with a huge age gap. If you marry a man whose 50 while you’re 25, by the time you have walking kids, the dad is literally the same age of the grandparents, which sucks for the kids cause you have a less active parent who will inevitably live a shorter life span. For the wife you become your husband’s caregiver 20 years earlier - forget about enjoying life, you’ll still be in the workforce while caring for the husband…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 09:32 PM
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Yep clearly he was being extremely loud and if his neighbour can hear his racist profanities which is insulting for others publicly hearing it, it’s no longer a private matter. The audacity of this guy to add this… “undermines the work I’ve done against racism for years” - he’s the type to send a mass email out to his firm about how important inclusivity is, then turns around and yells racist things at his girlfriend, fking hypocrite 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:44 PM
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Exactly! You can definitely tell when they jump to the worst conclusion. The reason they want to congratulate themselves is cause they hate whatever they're doing (in this case taking care of HIS kid) and crave that emotional boost of praise for the most basic thing. So I have high doubts that he's actually a good dad. Bet he only does that for one day and calls himself a "good parent".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:22 PM
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This is cringy. Imagine being her, so proud of this sign, bringing it to see your idol’s concert, only to have him feel so bad for her to publicly help pressure her boyfriend to propose. Clearly there are a million people at his concert and it was bad enough of a situation that Harry noticed this in a sea of signs. Was that not a sign for her to wake up to the reality that he’s not that into her?! If the man was into her, that would’ve been the perfect moment to propose as a last minute cop out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:18 AM
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Totally saving this! Would pretty much answer 90% of the questions asked on those subs 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:08 AM
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Yes and you can tell so many women in the comments feel the same. Whether they want to call it FDS or not, that’s a win in our books! There’s lots of women living with toddlers as their husbands (ew) pretending they don’t know how to do the most basic chores so pushing it onto the wives, called it strategic incompetence, and these women are clearly smartening up and not having any of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:25 PM
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Yeah the greater problem of appealing to men is that: if women can't even see it as a problem, which a great deal don't whether it's grooming or blissful ignorance, then men will not take it seriously especially when the system is inherently rigged to benefit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:08 PM
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It’s also why they think HVM don’t exist. They can’t imagine operating through honesty, integrity, and compassion to have fulfilling relationships. This is the gold here. Selfish people, just like LVM, believe that all people are selfish in core and think the worst of other's intentions cause that's how they are and how they conduct their lives. It's them projecting their own 'values' onto others. Most women spend money to get ready for dates - hair, nails, makeup, waxing, clothes etc. Then it c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:16 PM
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Yup when they hide assault calling it a "kink". Reddit reminds me how sick some men can be. I don't understand why these girls want to stay and save 'relationships' like these and degrade themselves. All that trauma and stress is literally cutting years off of their lives and mental health, pray these girls learn, I'm exhausted from reading posts like that daily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 09:41 PM
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If they want to use evolution as their argument, I don’t get why men get so defensive about women preferring taller men while they also prefer their women to be smaller than them, “it’s evolution that women prefer taller stronger men who can protect you and your kids”. Oh right, the rules don’t apply when it’s not in their favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:23 AM
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Yep and if you go on any of those threads, many guys who are 6”0’+ actually say they don’t want taller/too short women too, ie they like their girls 5”0’-5”5’. So in fact men are picky about height too, it’s just that most men are under 6”0’ so don’t have the luxury to ‘choose’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:59 AM
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Oh god this poor woman, I missed that she’s pregnant again. The 50/50 title was to signal when men try to use ‘equality’ to take advantage of woman but now I wish I can change the title, it’s much worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:29 AM
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A lot of men will argue to death about how fair “50/50” is but reality is… it just shows low effort and pettiness because if you want to build a life with someone you truly love you won’t be penny pinching your SO or keeping a score of who paid more or who did more. Many of these men who insist on this, turn out very similarity into husbands like this OP. And it’s the woman, like this OP, who selflessly sacrifices more. That’s why take it as a warning sign if a man insists on a “50/50” lifestyle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:16 AM
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Those comments are gross, so they're fine with it when it's them viewing Onlyfans and exploiting girls that way BUT they won't date those same girls cause "men want wholesome women". This is why women out there need to think about WHO benefits from promoting how "empowering" it is to have an Onlyfans - it's those deprived men. For a quick $100 your photos and videos are out there in the hands of these type of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:53 PM
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This woman may be onto something amidst her confusion of staying with this man, it’s something you should do when vetting a man, ask hypothetical questions so you know how he will act if the worst happens. Goes to show that without law and rules, so many of these deprived men will treat it as a free for all and disrespect women who they see as beneath them. If that’s how he will treat his girlfriend, as a slave, how would he treat all the other women who has no relation to him… such a pig
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:40 PM
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Yep the first red flag is when Rose commented that her husband is hot, I would never tell a friend I thought their husband is hot out of respect. Another is how willing she was to drive 6 long hrs for this, that means she frequents the city and isn’t as detached as she thought. That OP ignored those and still went through, it was bound to get messy. If my friend came to me knowing I was monogamous and asked me to have a threesome with them I would honestly be shocked and grossed out by the fact …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:02 PM
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This makes me so upset, I saw so many videos of men trying to run after the planes fleeing for their lives. In the same video there were men laughing too as they see the plane sending the American army away. What about the women and what about the kids that were forced to stay at home unable to flee. The men in Afghanistan didn’t even put up with a fight and surrendered so easily. 20 years of training and resources, they just willingly roll over to the regime. They gave up the rights of their mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:14 PM
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This is what I thought was the funniest thing. Men like that in their 40s who hit on girls the age of their kids think they're hot shit. He showed his true colours at the first sign of rejection, that tells everything you need to know about his intentions and how disrespectful he is as a person. He is looking for young women who won't (or can't) say no and the fact that his comeback is about being rich, is telling that he is exactly looking for someone weak who he can groom. In the past men thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:14 PM
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It’s cause they’re the same type of men earning the low end of the salary range at their age compared to peers and have nothing going on for them in their lives along with balding hairlines (if not completely), leathery skin and ED so no accomplished women above 25 would even waste a second on them. Or they’re the rich successful type who’s guarding their fortune planning for the divorce before the marriage even happens, for when he decides his wife thats 20 years younger than him is too old and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:30 PM
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It really is grooming. In her responses to commenters, she was trying to justify her husband's actions and seems completely unaware that abuse is not just physical in nature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:29 PM
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This is not about being feminine or masculine and they are not polar opposites. Your intentions are right but you're also equating his whining/complaining to feminine energy which is not true and feeding into stereotypes of women. He is just straight up a LVM and the opposite of LVM is a HVM, not masculinity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:21 PM
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Her post reached comment limit in just 2 hrs and was locked, thankfully it was cause hundreds of comments were pouring in telling her she was being abused and how to get help, hopefully she reads through all of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:33 PM
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They got married when she’s 19 and him 34, which means it’s likely they started dated when she was still a minor and he’s already in his 30s. Major red flags if a man has a history of dating just legal girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:39 PM
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Yeah very much cherry picking. I’ve seen some men say FDS is toxic and link to a post that only has like 3 likes and is mildly offensive, then uses that to spread lies that this is what the whole sub believes to the rest of reddit. Clearly our top posts have thousands of likes. I’ve since learnt that there are many trolls from past MGTOW and red pill who purposely come in with fake accounts and post obnoxious things to try and bring down the sub (someone posted about this yesterday too) - kind o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:18 PM
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Yep then they go on about how AlL wOmEn are gold diggers and don't self evaluate themselves on why they're going for women that are 10+ years younger than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:26 PM
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Exactly, first off he agreed on texting her willingly. If he was not okay with that, he should've said so and broke it off with her. Instead he drugged her against her will, that is illegal. In what world is that acceptable. OP's friends need a reality check, they won't be so chill about it if that happened to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:48 AM
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It’s true, more women are finally waking up that we don’t need to marry a man for all those things women use to need men for - money (women earn their own), intimacy (emotionally available men without attachment issues are far and few) and sex (this generation of men are addicted to porn that translates into poor bedroom skills, those pornstars are not enjoying it they’re actresses basically). New studies are showing women are happier unmarried and without kids, this stems from the fact that wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:38 PM
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Yeah seriously this. In their 20s they think they have the whole world ahead and people keep saying that men age like fine wine and that dating gets better. These are the same guys that don’t put work into improving their lives or prospects - career, appearance, fitness and think things get handed to them. Then they turn 30 start aging terribly and are still not even financially independent, realizing things haven’t changed and blame women for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:34 PM
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The fact that they can’t honestly speak about this is an issue. They’ve been together for 8 years and are even married. It blows my mind that men like this still want to separate their finances with the mentality like they married a gold digger as if they’re complete strangers - why get married if you can’t trust each other. I am very generous with my family as they are the same way with me. If I’m married with a man, I would treat them like my family instead of being petty about this and expect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:07 PM
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And even if you’re a woman who has those qualities (earn over 100K, attractive, stays in shape) and asks for these same qualities in a man, these lvm will go on to say how shallow these woman are. They’re just bitter that they’re nobody’s first choice. Instead of working on themselves such as advancing their career or hitting the treadmill, they want things handed to them on silver platers. That’s why it’s their personality and mentality that is the worst trait which unfortunately can’t be fixed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:57 PM
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The icing on the cake is that the OP commented somewhere saying the guy earns 3x her salary, so it’s not like he can’t afford to pay for HIS OWN portion. Nothing worst then someone either this stingy or unaware - not sure what’s worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:12 PM
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This is so true, happened with my last long term ex-BF, till the end he was confused on why I can’t be happy even when we discussed about it many times over several years. Yet glaringly he wasn’t willing to change and never thought that he was the one unfulfilling his BASIC expectations for a relationship - when you can’t even offer up any time or effort, bare minimum of any relationship, that’s a huge problem. He’d always blame external factors but never take any ownership on his part. Then he’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:57 PM
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Such a shame that society normalized basically women’s worth and publicly showing off your body for the internet to keep forever, is only just worth $200” and mask it under “woman empowerment”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:34 PM
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Omg this is the worst. It’s funny I don’t get so many of these guys now that I’ve committed to vetting guys and pretty much since following fds and worked on myself. In the past when I went on dates where the guy accused me of using him for food instead of considering that maybe his personality was such a turnoff, it was always those bitter guys that didn’t have much going on in their lives (ie lives in parents basement, no income, unfit kind of guy). Worst thing is I used to always offer to pay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:26 PM
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This was my past self before I started working on myself. When I was with my ex, one day I woke up realizing I was so much lonelier with him then when I was living the single life. Suddenly started feeling anxiety about the fact that I could potentially spend the rest of my life with the wrong person feeling unfulfilled. Relationship ended and I was heartbroken for a while, but afterwards I never felt more alive. If you can’t think of anything he adds to your life other than extra work and emoti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 08:15 PM
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Absolutely agree, it takes stepping back to realize the root cause and why we fight this fight, that none of us really want to. Yet we’re put in the position of having to do so because we see how past generations of women were mistreated and how we continue to be mistreated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:32 PM
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The scariest part is that they’re taught techniques to conceal their hate and on the surface look like every other guy, but use these manipulative tactics to trap their girlfriends and wives who don’t even know it’s happening. I guess Reddit/social media is a blessing and a curse cause without the need for filtering and the anonyimosity, social media has highlighted how common and strong misogynistic views are. FDS would not exist if there wasn’t a need to combat all this misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:17 PM
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Yeah this is assault. Especially considering there is a global pandemic going on. Absolutely file a police report; someone like that who casually spits on a random women who did nothing to him is probably going around doing this often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:02 AM
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This is disgusting, 8 women died and this man's first thought is to applaud the killer and point at FDS to ridicule. To date I have not read violent content from women here in FDS directed at men; we point out low effort and misogynistic content. FDS was created for women as a safe space, not to insult men yet so many men feel the need to interject. If you're a male lurker who is genuinely offended by FDS and think that you're high value, better think twice about how you treat women in your life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:04 AM
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I relate to this so much. Till this day I don’t have close straight men friends; all my best friends are women or gay men. All the men that I’ve considered as my close friends have either told me they fell in love with me or I found out from mutual friends which always made me super uncomfortable knowing that they were acting a certain way to try and get what they wanted and crossed boundaries even though I made it clear I want friendship. Needless to say, I either had to distance myself to stop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:58 AM
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Since this is coming from a man, maybe they’ll actually listen for once and be more willing to believe the possibility that not all women are gold diggers 🙄. I couldn’t agree more with this video; if I’m with a man, it’s sure as hell not for the money that he has (doesn’t have). Competent and ambitious men tend to be successful - they won’t let themselves fall into poverty within their means and make smart financial/life decisions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:41 PM
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The ironic thing is that most rapes against men are actually committed by men too. Just goes to show that immature men will grasp and point to anything to try and dismiss women’s issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:51 PM
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The keywords this poster uses annoy me. “Can you change a girlfriend into a FWB” - girls are not cars you swap parts for. “Hottest best looking woman I’ve ever been with by a factor of 27. She’s probably perfect for 9 out of 10 guys” - he should stop being selfish and breakup so great guys treat her with respect. The fact that he knows 90% of guys will treat her better yet he’s holding her back selfishly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:32 PM
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My parents were divorced soon after I was born and I have always stayed with my mom. The irony with my dad is that he’s a chef by profession but has never once cooked for me, as a kid or ever. I’m pretty sure he never cooked for my mom or took care of the house when they were together. Stories like this remind me of how thankful I am for having a living, loving mother. Instead of the alternative, having to stay with a father who probably didn’t even want me. If you love someone, be it wife or ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:09 AM
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Yeah sadly it seems impossible to win on both sides, we have to accept the fact that any man, no matter how good they seem to treat you, can decide in a moments time no matter how many years you’ve been together that we’re no longer good enough and blindside us. All we can do is protect ourselves the best we can and having the financial independence so that even if he left, you could still go on with your life as if he never existed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:03 AM
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To summarize, the poster is a SAHM and her husband left her and 3 kids after cheating to be with another woman 8 years younger. What’s shocking is the 5 reasons she lists out as the reasons she felt she wasn’t good enough and why he left. Take this as a lesson to make sure that you are financially independent and invest in a career for yourself so that you don’t ever need to depend on a man to support your livelihood. There is nothing wrong with being a SAHM either, but if you are make sure you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:29 AM
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Agreed. In my first long term relationship my ex casually said one time that he doesn’t believe in getting wedding rings. The pickme back then brushed it off. In the end, it was clear to me there’s a correlation between that and him being extremely selfish and inconsiderate. Ontop of that he gaslit me and cheated. Feelings technically shouldn’t be monetized but a guy willing to spend whatever amount that the girl wants is showing that he believes her to be priceless and a reflection of being com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:32 PM
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Those type of men who get so heated and exhibit real hatred when they trash talk FDS in other subs are looking for a specific type of woman that FDS women do not represent. The fundamental empowerment movement goes against the type of woman they're used to and looking for, hence they're lashing out. Whether consciously or on a subconscious level, they're afraid that one day collectively all women will wake up and suddenly decide we won't tolerate subpar treatment and all men will need to step up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:19 PM
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For anyone that doesn't believe women can make good leaders, I just say Jacinda Ardern. Youngest woman prime minister who was pregnant the year before while she was president in New Zealand, she currently eliminated COVID-19 completely in her country (they have absolutely NO active cases now while US is hovering at ~150K+ daily), LGBTQ+ supporter, immediately banned military automatics after white supremist killed many people in a planned attack. I didn't mean to get all political, but regardles…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 04:06 PM
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Sounds like he’s contributing nothing to the relationship, not financially or emotionally. In this case she is literally better off being a single parent, at least she won’t have to share in the $7000 debt that he’s bringing up. His spending and debt will continue to increase. The worst part is when she brings up having to spend money it’s always to maintain the household like the fence she was talking about, nothing to treat herself. Yet her husband is so selfish and only thinking about himself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:14 PM
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Had one ex who was slightly older than me but we were in the same profession and field. He would always try to “manage” where my career was heading and my next steps. At first I appreciated it being fresh in the workforce but when I started heading in a different path than he did, one that started giving me greater recognition, happiness and a jump in salary compared to when he was my age, he started to discount my experience and resenting me. It’s sad when the person you think loves you, doesn’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:15 PM
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It’s Crazy Rich Asians
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:48 AM
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There's also another interesting study that states that men with younger wives live longer but for women, the opposite is true where the larger the age gap (older or younger) the lower the life expectancy. Quoting this below: Previous studies have shown that men with younger wives live longer. While it had long been assumed that women with younger husbands also live longer, a new study finds that this is not the case. Instead, the greater the age difference from the husband, the lower the wife’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:55 AM
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Yes, all those! Another is that those soft red flags you see in the beginning and choose to ignore, are the same red flags that always re-surface and become the reason for your unhappiness if you choose to stay. An unfortunate faith for Diana, that she was pressured into the marriage by the time she found out all those early cheating red flags, as the nation already acknowledged her as the new Princess before the wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:39 AM
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Men do have a choice, what about responsibly deciding to use protection before having sex or choose not to have unprotected sex unless you're ready to be a father. Or if the woman wants to keep the baby, they can walk away but pay child support so that both parents are making fair contributions. Those are rational and sensible solutions, but no of course if it doesn't benefit them or are not how they want it, they want to decide how women treat their body. There are so many ways to prevent pregn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:54 PM
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It all comes down to, if he cares he would get you something thoughtful. And thoughtful doesn't even mean it has to be an expensive gift. But in this case with the husband, it shows that he's selfish. He got himself a $3K gift so they are well off but he still got her cheaper items that she *already* had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:59 PM
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I would take that subreddit's advice with a grain of salt because it's known to be bias, I saw your post there and it's shocking that the top voted comment literally had nothing to say to address your issue about finding his degrading porn obsessed reddit account and instead was like "I don't get why women..., you should feel this way". And all the other people's comments basically blame you for finding the account whilst ignoring his alarming fetish. That's like saying when someone looked on th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 05:47 PM
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This should be the banner for that relationship subreddit. Reading some of those post sometimes just makes me lose more faith in humanity. I don’t understand how people could be so ruthless towards someone they supposedly loved. But reading those posts really open my eyes on how important it is to very carefully vet any potential guy, cause I don’t ever one day want to be posting on that subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:05 PM
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All this advice is gold. I think the main advice that is reflected in all the tips is to try and pull yourself out of the dating bubble since love causes changes to your brain due to the dopamine and oxytocin high of being in love and the strong bond that is created. That's why they call the feeling of being in love equivalent to an addiction. I always try to think of it as, if my best friend was in the relationship instead of myself and asking me for advice, what would I be saying to my best fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:24 AM
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I saw a documentary on netflix that talks about this, how male contraception was heavily researched and experimented as early as the 70s but due to "side effects" which are similar to those experienced by women, unfortunately male contraception was not mainstream and researchers concluded that the market was too small as men were less likely to use it due to side effects, hence studies keep getting delayed or pushed. Sad that the onus is on women to suffer side effects to practice safe sex. I ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 04:23 PM
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This sounds like a play by play script out of Betty Broderick's life (based on true story, it's on netflix season 2 of Dirty John), I wonder if the guy in that post watched this series and took inspiration as a fellow lawyer. In the docu-series, Betty gave up her career and became a SAHM to support her husband to become a doctor AND lawyer (again, true story). And decades later he cheats on her with a paralegal, takes their kids away and gaslighted and degraded her to drive her literally crazy. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 03:30 PM
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I have received similar messages. I think men think that the usual dating apps like tinder and bumble are saturated and since they're not getting the dates that they want, those men are moving towards Linkedin thinking it will give them a better chance at scoring a date. Plus men always say there are a lot of fake bots in dating apps, but Linkedin is pretty vetted in terms of people posting real life information about themselves. I think men that use Linkedin to find a date are extremely unprofe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 02:50 PM
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