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| 24 | Yeet any man with weird food hangupsI read an article from Bon Appetite that surveyed folks, who throw dinner parties, about who is the worst type of guest. 1. Someone who doesn’t bring something. 2. Someone who doesn’t offer a hand, or 3. Picky eaters. Pickers eaters was the “winner” at like 80%, and I couldn’t agree more. That’s just my personal preference. I’m vegetarian, but my partner is not. BUT. When he cooks, he makes sure it’s something I can eat, and when I cook, he enthusiastically eats it. Technically, we’re not compat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 08:42 AM |
| 16 | Never go backNothing may happen if the dad goes and “confronts” him, but the victim will know that she has a protective man in her corner, and that can make a world of difference. Typically these women don’t have strong protective HVM in their corner :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:54 PM |
| 18 | Never go backThis is what stood out to me the most. The victim was looking for Daddy because hers was a POS. Such a sad, heartbreaking story that could have been avoided if the man that was supposed to protect her actually protected her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:48 PM |
| 5 | What does it mean if a guy has no friends?If he stopped putting effort into his supposed valuable friendships for no good reason, he’s capable of doing that in all relationships, for no good reason. | /r/askFDS | 22/02/22 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Heartbreaking“Have you tried anal training?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:20 AM |
| 4 | HeartbreakingFor all the crap we get from haters, if they actually stopped and fairly observed, they’d see that it’s simply a support community of strong women who don’t take shit from bad men. They’d see that our communication style and strategy is helpful in all areas of life and as such is beneficial for all human relationships and interactions. Seriously, imagine a world where everyone followed FDS strategy. Everyone would be leveling up and being held accountable :) what a concept ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Pickmeisha hall of fame 😂🤦🏻♀️Nah. He can treat me like a Queen, and then I’ll see how I feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:19 PM |
| 23 | HeartbreakingOh. Sweetie. I felt this so much. You’re my sons’ age. And I swear, if I found out this was happening to my daughter, I’d break that man’s dick right off, and get her some counseling. Don’t beat yourself up for being bitter. You have every right to feel that way about what men your age (and even older) expect from women in the bedroom these days. I’m proud to have you as a sister who has my back. It’s the only way forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:20 AM |
| 26 | HeartbreakingYup. All ya gotta do is bring the abuse into the bedroom and it magically becomes “just sex”. “Bbbbbbbbut, I only beat you up when we’re naked.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:09 AM |
| 16 | HeartbreakingAre they also telling her she’s experiencing ‘let down’ or some stupid phrase like that? Bc you know, all you have to do is call it BDSM, and it’s not magically not abuse. I’ll entertain that thought for the sake of argument (that she’s enjoying herself) but did anyone answer why the man gets off on throwing her around like a rag doll? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:06 AM |
| 157 | What is this the FDS take on “free the nipple” movement?I was gonna say…they didn’t like when my nipple was in my sons’ mouths for feeding so…let me know when women can nurse without harassment and then we can talk about free nips. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 10:33 AM |
| 11 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisGo ‘head with yo badass liftin weights self 🤩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:14 PM |
| 7 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?Do NOT give this woman the benefit of the doubt. Fuck that. She’s not your friend. FULL STOP. Unless you’re into getting trafficked, which you’re clearly not. This is a no brainer. This woman is garbage. Put her on the curb where she belongs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:17 AM |
| 11 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?Bullshit. No being fair to her! You think she set up an account that was difficult to find? She doesn’t give a fuck about your privacy, as that doesn’t benefit her ability to traffic you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:12 AM |
| 10 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?Yup. At the very least, the pick me has committed fraud by using OP’s email addy without her consent. I’m not sure if OP can press charges in China from another country, but it’s worth exploring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:05 AM |
| 5 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?She’s not your friend; you owe her nothing. Change your email addy, block/delete her; report her and him to proper authority, press charges for her fraudulently using your information without your permission. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:57 AM |
| 15 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisIf I was willing, I’m not, but if I was, my awesome HV twin brother would totally go with me to fuck with this guy. When I was around 11, one of these 500 pound rapey scrote neighbor would flash me. Apparently he had been doing it for years, but I was the first to tell someone. His mama was a staunch Republican so she knew the judges, and he got by with a slap on the wrist (if that). He did stop exposing himself but that should have been the bare minimum. Anyway my brother and his friends tortur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:58 AM |
| 29 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisCan’t see his ween because it’s buried under 400 pounds of Dorito flesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:35 AM |
| 79 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisAs someone who is at least 5’5”, I can tell you that anything under 140 lbs and I look like a skeleton. This scrote wants us under 120? I swear they have no clue what a female body proportion is. And he’s only an inch taller and 200lbs heavier? Scrote can’t even find his dick. And, while we’re under his fat flesh, we’re supposed to find his mini and snuggle it with his parents in the next room? 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:33 AM |
| 44 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisUgh. And you were the type desperate child these rapey scrotes are preying on. I hope you were able to remain safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:24 AM |
| 23 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"And acts of service are NOT him helping around the house. You’re supposed to take care of domestic responsibilities because you’re a grown up, not as a sign of love. Any man who says, “well, I did the laundry, what more do you want,” is not showing love - he’s simply doing a grown up act, which is standard, not romantic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 09:30 AM |
| 30 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"Yep. Jew here. Ultra orthodox men won’t even acknowledge that I’m Jewish because my hair is showing. Good news is that they are a very slim minority. That doesn’t make it any easier for the women stuck with ultra orthodox men, tho. It’s truly heartbreaking to watch them have baby after baby while the men drink wine and study. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 09:17 AM |
| 13 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?Yep. All of the young adults I know (I have YA kids) think the libfem sex positive movement is garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 01:23 PM |
| 30 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?Yeah, I am in contact with a lot of teens and young adults. Just yesterday this topic came up my son said, “you really have to wonder what’s going on behind the eyes of any man who wants to degrade or torture his partner during intimacy.” Having these conversations is what we’d consider sex positive in my home - not whatever the fuck Reddit scrotes and pick mes claim it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 01:20 PM |
| 5 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?“You just have to accept and respect that murderers are FUNDAMENTALLY different people.” Essentially men can do whatever the fuck they want as long as their dick is involved. Slap the word fetish on the behavior and poof it’s suddenly just a fundamental difference of opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Why am I doing things to make myself more attractive when at the end of the day, men are still going to look at other women anyway?If you feel good, you look good. If you want to attract a man who likes you for you, he will be attracted to you, not your lipstick. If you want to go all-natural, do that, be proud of your choice to be you the way you want to be you. Be firm. “I am who I am, and I don’t change for anyone other than myself.” That, too me, is far more attractive than a woman who is clearly uncomfortable wearing high heels (walking all clumsy) and red lipstick to attract men. BE YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 12:55 PM |
| 71 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?Honestly, I stay away from all people who aren’t actively working on themselves, either through therapy, community, or some other means of holding themselves accountable, by being honest with another person, about their behaviors and actions. I’ve learned the hard way that people who aren’t doing this tend to be very self-righteous because they’re not telling on themselves to anyone. We all fuck up, and have reasons to work through falling short. In other words, people who simply do not have an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 08:59 AM |
| 3 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Ew. What a jerk. I’m gladded you saw right through the negging!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 11:47 PM |
| 95 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.It’s a real story somewhere even if one of them “made it up” for karma. Every women we know has encountered at least one of those examples of abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:31 PM |
| 21 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Thanks! To clarify, I’m not here to brag, but to offer hope to other queens - FDS works!!!! After my divorce (he was HV, but I didn’t love him), my friend, who is someone I consider a spiritual mentor, had me write out a “romantic inventory”. On it we’re physical, spiritual, emotional, and financial ideals that are non negotiable. And in true FDS fashion what do I bring to the table. Gotta be HV if I want HV. It made vetting so much easier. For example, if they’re HV in every other way, but don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 11:40 AM |
| 40 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Yes! He did remember, from conversation, the exact amount of icing I like (not a lot!!). But the one that won me was him remembering me saying that my deceased mom made cheeseburgers every Halloween- even after we were no longer dressing up- so our first Halloween together, he invited me over to his place to give out candy and he surprised me with cheeseburgers! He also bought candy/other not food goodies for kids who are neurodivergent or have allergies…wait, I’m not finished !!!- it was a chil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:32 AM |
| 30 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Thanks :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:14 AM |
| 67 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?This is exactly what I did, and the man I married is the one who passed all the tests :) For my first birthday, with him, I told him I wanted a homemade cake (in addition to any gifts). And, he made a decent not from a box chocolate cake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:57 AM |
| 164 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?I do most of the cooking because I love to cook, and I’m a decent cook. My hubby loves to clean and do laundry (which I hate…lol), so it’s a good match. I especially love that when I have a holiday dinner, he helps with the cooking, and does ALL the clean up, so I can catch up with the people I cooked for - usually my kids (not his kids) and their partners. What I do not do, is set an expectation that dinner will be on the table when he gets home. We both work, but I’m home a lot earlier. Someti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:44 AM |
| 6 | This scrote was apprehended by police in my city this morning. A reminder of why we vet and pay attention to red flags: men’s minds can get very, very dark. Didn’t take long to find misogynistic garbage in his “manifesto.” I’m tired from spending a whole day scared, please help me roast this scrote!I’m also concerned about OP sharing her location. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 01:39 AM |
| 19 | The way deadbeat fathers victimise themselves is wild.They crave the type of unconditional love they were supposed to get from their parents; the attention and care they get from being pregnant; the attention from the public from being pregnant; the attention they get from the daddy. it’s really sad. I mean, after 13 years without him, and she’s reaching out directly to him? I suspect she’s looking for more than child support. I’m also suspicious that she included all her information (name/account number) in the screenshot that she shared publicly.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 09:27 PM |
| 17 | Why are women hated so much by men?I had this revelation yesterday, reading through the sex subs. I was once that militant can’t tell me shit teenager, so I do have an understanding of immaturity. My fear is that they’re practically being raised with TT and the like, so I don’t know that their ideals are being countered, like mine were through actual discussion and having HV women teach me their wisdom. So, I try to plant seeds, for any young woman who has intuition tugging her that something ain’t right. I also have contact, thr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:58 AM |
| 124 | Why are women hated so much by men?Yup, they hate us bc they ain’t us, and will never be. And I get it. Women are warriors, and not only are our bodies beautiful (women in general are stunning), but they also can carry and sustain life (breastfeeding), then we go about fiercely protecting our young, cooking for them, educating them, teaching them love and respect. We are magical, and a bit mythical. There should be no competition, but men want to compete and they can’t. I think about the ultra orthodox sector of Judaism, and whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:44 AM |
| 35 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳That’s really terrible and low and I wasn’t a fan of Nancy’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.My ex husband told me that men will jerk off to a neck, if that’s all they can find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:04 AM |
| 8 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I’m tempted to see my husband’s reaction by telling him this. “Ya know, the other day, John popped into my mind’s eye, while masturbating, so I went with it, and it was an incredible orgasm…I know, I was surprised too…bc John kinda sucks in general, but his one bicep, it just does it for me…I was reading Reddit and all the men were saying it’s normal, so I hope you’re not upset.” I’m pretty sure he’d barf on the spot. But also, he’s a HVM (fan of Lundy) and that would be kinda mean. I know he do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:58 AM |
| 7 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.How fucking hard is that to understand? Not everyone is for everyone. It’s so ass backwards. If you think you’re friend is “insert insult here” bc she doesn’t want you jerking it to her, why would you want to be friends with that person if you believe she sucks so bad? Just end the friendship and go find a pick me who is ok with being your centerfold. Oh, right, bc then they’d have no female friends or not the type they want bc they hate pick me too bc she “sluts it up with everyone.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:35 AM |
| 5 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I think it speaks volumes to the “emotionally unavailable” man’s perspective. “She’s a great friend, and a great fuck, but just not girlfriend material bc as a girlfriend, she has emotional needs and fuck that.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:12 AM |
| 13 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Ick. They’re the same men who, when given sexual directions, will say: “shhhh…I know what you like…no need for directions” bc in their head they’ve watched you get off to getting strangled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:05 AM |
| 4 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I was waiting to read that - “I would be honored if I was in his spank bank” ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:01 AM |
| 8 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I suspect with libfems nodding along to “sex positivity” it’s only going to get worse. I literally saw a patient yesterday who was there bc she tried anal, with her husband and was shitting blood and pus. I had to send her to the hospital. I asked all the SA screening questions, but she protected him to the teeth. Good to know that none of the doctors, or PAs, or RNs or administration thought it was “normal” I made sure the younger female staff understood that it is ok to say no to that garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:58 AM |
| 9 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.They really do be calling anything related to sex, “normal”. Outside the bedroom, rape, bad. Inside the bedroom, rape normal. Sex positive has become a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:53 AM |
| 3 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.You know, I do believe that some will stop - not most, not even close to most, but some, which indicates that they absolutely have the power to control that shit, contrary to what most of those scrotes are saying - “I can’t stop the thoughts that enter into my mind” yes they can because they know damn well, if large marge showed up while wanking, they’d pump the brakes so hard their dick would pop off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:47 AM |
| 8 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.From the looks of it, that mod couldn’t find any real broken rules, but wanted to scare her into stopping her from spreading the truth, which is that men don’t give a fuck about boundaries when it comes to their fragile pp-ego. I hope she didn’t stop, although, I’m tempted to get a throwaway to troll the shit out of those scrotes. But, I won’t because…well, I’d rather talk with queens and cat lovers…lol. I do, however, use that sub to block the scrotiest of the scrotes - I know it doesn’t stop m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:40 AM |
| 7 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I had a friend who was a FB/Insta like-whore. I mean she woke up posting pictures. You couldn’t go to any party/event without her snapping pictures, and immediate upload! Naturally, as her friend, I was tagged in her pictures and even at middle age, I was men would still comment - “who’s that thick one?” I eventually declined taking my picture with her. You’d have thought I was forcing her to chew glass. She couldn’t take no for an answer. The only way around it was to stop being her friend. I h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:27 AM |
| 3 | My friends husband said something weirdThat’s a great idea, bc “how soon we forget” when we are feeling good about our partner. | /r/askFDS | 30/01/22 09:11 AM |
| 6 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Holy crap ! You summed that up like a professional journalist! You may want to switch careers bc that’s talent! That’s how I was reading that exchange too, but couldn’t formulate the words bc my jaw was on the floor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 09:05 AM |
| 57 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.They’d say they were honored and that it was none of their business while seething inside, ending the friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 06:46 PM |
| 111 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.That poor woman was getting slaughtered. She did hold her own and not back down (or insult back, from what I saw) so kudos to her for planting a seed for any other women who are afraid to speak out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 48 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Oh I absolutely want to know if my supposed friend is using me that way so I can drop his ass as a friend. Look, shit happens, but if I’m in someone’s rotation, fuck that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:35 PM |
| 60 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Haha. The Scrotes are downvoting us 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:32 PM |
| 5 | My friends husband said something weirdI don’t think that trust comment needs to be the straw that provides final judgment because there’s already enough evidence that he’s a LV scrote. He negs, he is rude to her friends, and he blacked out at his own wedding are all scrote traits. There’s your answer. | /r/askFDS | 29/01/22 01:30 PM |
| 80 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.The other salient point was the part where Queen says “well at least tell her so she has the option to back out of the friendship if she’s uncomfortable” and scrote response is NO -they’re mine mine mine thoughts and none of your business and if you think it’s your business you’re a bad friend. Ok, so Queen a bad friend if She ask him not to think about her that way. So shes controlling. Then why don’t they end the friendship with her if she sucks so bad? Oh, right? Emotional labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:21 PM |
| 52 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.This is the exact sentiment I would post if I wasn’t worried about all the harassment I’d get through dm and what not. How hard is it to not jack it to a friend? The HVM in my life tell me it’s not hard at all. In fact, they’re also saying that because they value their female friends, it’s an automatic switch that doesn’t need to be switched because it’s never been on. I guess those men are just prudes. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:14 PM |
| 86 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Growing up a scrote neighbor told me he’d end his friendship with my brother if my brother came out as gay —- “because all those previous years of getting undressed in front of him.” Quite presumptuous that he thought he was masturbation worthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 01:02 PM |
| 139 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.I was dumbfounded by all the comments saying that the person they’re wanking to isn’t being sexualized ON A SUB DEDICATED TO SEX! Suddenly touching yourself intimately isn’t a sexual act, when they’re called out for sexualizing their female friends. why the fuck don’t they wank to a doorknob then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:57 PM |
| 105 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.For sake of argument, they’d say they were flattered, but the truth is, they’d end that friendship fairly quickly after finding out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:47 PM |
| 121 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.The mod gave a Queen a “warning about sexism” for saying she wasn’t friends with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 11:38 AM |
| 69 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Check out my copied samples above. The excuses, the insults just because a woman said if you’re my friend, please don’t jerk off to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 11:37 AM |
| 265 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.Just a little sample that I copied (because I couldn’t load more than one screenshot) Queen - That’s why I’m not friends with men, and I don’t participate in social media where my pictures are posted. Mod - We don't allow sexism here. This serves as your only warning. Queen - Friends don’t use each other as sexual objects for masturbation. Scrote - Remember folks, if someone becomes your friend, you are no longer allowed to be attracted to them! You have to stop yourself from being attracted to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 11:34 AM |
| 1 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Also to note, Bill wrote that chapter. Lois begged him to write it herself because it is, after all, about her experience and he refused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 11:08 PM |
| 9 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesI do to. The girls are young, and with therapy they may one day be open to seeing him - the poor motherless babe. I mean fuck that guy for sure…but also, there’s a lot of damage done to kids here, and that’s all I care about. I feel the 25 year old mistress was probably trafficked of some sort, and when her owner found out she’s inherited a huge expense, instead of huge financial inheritance, the direction was to cut the baby loose and return home. Fuck, this is just terrible all around. And it’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 10:00 AM |
| 79 | Should a man get hard from making out? What if he doesn't?My guy still gets aroused at 6 years in from just kissing. He doesn’t watch porn. Your guy could be nervous and trying really hard to not get aroused and accidentally cum. Or he could have performance anxiety, and is not aroused because he’s too focused on doing it wrong. Or he could be porn sick/limp dick. The last 2 are problematic, and will continue to show up during intimacy. | /r/askFDS | 23/01/22 10:28 PM |
| 13 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scrote“Should I let him continue to potentially rape children while I cry trying to figure out if I’ve been cheated on?” That’s her focus, not the child. Shame on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:56 AM |
| 11 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteSis! I just said this. OP cares only for herself and is not thinking about the child. So fuck her and her pedophile husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:53 AM |
| 10 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteSomeone needs to get her to understand that allowing this to go on makes her complicit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:51 AM |
| 8 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteI mean, chances are very likely this is behavior she’s noticed before (another commenter said the wife DID have previous suspicions), and he probably gaslit her, and she was probably convinced that only physical contact counts as cheating. Then she comes to Reddit and the woman are like “sis, no.” and the men don’t even address that part and go right to the age of consent because they know it’s cheating and they can’t protect him from that but they can possibly protect him from going to jail. Ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:49 AM |
| 12 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteYup. See comment below this. She ignored the red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:26 AM |
| 44 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteThat’s my first thought - the OP will get through this, but little girl will not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:24 AM |
| 13 | Casual Sex ConfusionI think it’s time to do a bit of level up work with a professional therapist. What are the roots of this “addiction” you have? You gotta pull up those roots and take a good hard look at them. Easier said than done, but if you are willing to trust that potentially long process, and put in the work, you will heal from whatever is causing you to make poor choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:35 AM |
| 5 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatSee, I think not paying for porn is worse than getting it for free. I’m against sex work, but if you must employ someone for sex, pay them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:26 AM |
| 14 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatThe stories of the good looking daddy charming all the mommies at the playgroup are sadly common. Whenever a SAHD join one of our mom groups, we were very suspicious. We asked one guy to stop calling us and our children pet names. “It’s just a habit I can’t seem to break” “well, work on breaking that habit, and get back to us, when you do.” He said he was going to sue us for discrimination. I always wonder what excuse he gave his wife for not coming to our group anymore. I did feel really bad fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:22 AM |
| 6 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatI be livin dat stream dream, yo! Good grief | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:12 AM |
| 13 | always ask reciprocallySisterhood is so lovely ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:46 AM |
| 23 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I’m trying hard to see your logic, but it sounds like you’re recommending that women who aren’t wealthy steal sperm to become wealthy or that it’s excusable when they do. If you’re willing, ofc, could you clear this up? I don’t think it’s a good look for FDS commenters to co-sign stealing sperm in any situation, no matter how financially desperate you are. I hope you agree :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:39 AM |
| 3 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.They’re forced into women’s shelters :( which is not a great way to live, especially with children. So, yeah, not much has changed :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:07 AM |
| 35 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I have to agree. As much as I love FDS, I think we sometimes have a tendency to excuse LV behaviors from women, simply bc the men are obviously also LV. It’s not black and white - sometimes it’s gray. In this situation, it’s gross on her part to steal sperm. It’s also gross on his part that he intended to burn her insides, when he could have disposed of the condom differently. I always told my sons if they must have casual sex, which I did not recommend, 1. they absolutely must be honest with he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:02 AM |
| 3 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Great read. It’s so bleeping pervasive that it’s damn near impossible to not have it recommended as the ONLY option from professionals you trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:31 AM |
| 8 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.I could never figure out those people who had 30+ years and still needed a meeting every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:29 AM |
| 8 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.There a movie called the 13th Step. It’s about a woman who was raped in AA. And ofc, AA blamed her for not following their guides. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:26 AM |
| 19 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.It’s definitely not in Jewish spaces. Forgiveness is something you ask for, if you’ve done harm, and then you actually prove that you’ve changed through actions. Being asked to simply forgive someone who hurt you, is far more complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:20 AM |
| 5 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Yup, almost all of my moms 10 siblings were from my grandfather drunkenly raping her. Where’s that woman to go in the 40s and 50s with 10 kids in tow? I can not remember what she started feeding him to knock him out when he got home from “work”, but it was a heavy-duty drug (she was a nurse), and that was the best she could do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:16 AM |
| 3 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Ya know, I always forget that term weaponizing my feelings against me, and it’s so suitable to describe their actions. When it’s happening, you feel like you’re in a fog, that perhaps you’re overreacting, but once you realize someone is using an abuse tactic, it becomes so clear that you can’t unsee it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:09 AM |
| 65 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Thanks, Queen. I think the pressure women feel to forgive could be it’s own post. I remember telling my Rabbi that I felt like a bad person bc I had hate in my heart for a particular politician. Her response was that I have every right to feel what I feel, and that it matters how I act on that feeling. So, I took that hate energy and applied it to social justice initiatives. She also share that forgiveness is an very personal inside job, that is only helpful if it’s meaningful to me - if it adds… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:36 PM |
| 9 | Share your methods! How do you reach out to ask for help?Many many years ago, I needed open heart surgery. My kids were young and my husband (now ex) and I ran 2 lucrative businesses. Asking for help was literally a matter of life or death. That’s when I learned a few things - a good friend won’t flinch, and a a shitty friend will complain. I have no problem asking for help. And, honestly, my fear of asking was actually a fear of having hurt feelings if they say no. If I ask a friend to drop off food, and they complain, now I’m stuck with the reality … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:29 PM |
| 41 | Looking for reassurance that I didn't jump the gun too quickly in blocking.He took your money = auto ban. He didn’t reach out for 4 days = auto ban He didn’t react positively when you told him about your sex boundaries = auto ban. Good job, Queen. | /r/askFDS | 17/01/22 12:22 PM |
| 27 | Looking for reassurance that I didn't jump the gun too quickly in blocking.It’s never jumping the gun. Humans, especially women, are notorious for ignoring their intuition. | /r/askFDS | 17/01/22 12:13 PM |
| 7 | Saw this elsewhere and yupDag. This is the truest meme I’ve seen in awhile!! And, it precisely why the ring our phones 20 years later. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:10 PM |
| 21 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.Thank YOU for your thoughtful comments:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 12:03 PM |
| 105 | An Open Letter to Woman Considering AA.I do still help women through my synagogue, and I used to be a MH professional so I am still in contact with some of those women :) I agree that fundamentally the 12 steps are helpful depending on how you interpret. I’m not opposed to most of what is suggested through the steps. I’m not even opposed to using a higher power. I don’t agree about the forgiveness. I will never forgive my rapist. In fact, once I came to the conclusion that forgiving people that hurt me, is not necessary for my recove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)Queen, my SO and I are 💯 NC with his JN. Long story short - when I had a very young close family member die by suicide and then only 6 weeks later, my dad died, this interfered with SO ability to be at JN’s beck and call for an elective knee surgery. She threw a major temper tantrum. When he explained - “my SO comes first, and while she’s in mid crisis, I’ll be holding her, and only her up, so sorry Mom, you’re gonna have to find someone else” she told him that…wait for it…”she’s overreacting be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:35 AM |
| 10 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)I really love that sub. They are almost as ruthless as FDS. And, I am here for it!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:23 AM |
| 34 | I’m still confused as to why some guys still expect us to put out on the first date or do casual hookups. This is why we don’t. Shit like this isn’t fun for usJust communicate! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:13 AM |
| 19 | I’m still confused as to why some guys still expect us to put out on the first date or do casual hookups. This is why we don’t. Shit like this isn’t fun for usRescue mission! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 11:12 AM |
| 58 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockJust another attempt by the patriarchy to soil the brains of young women and children. “Be tough like a man so we can rape you like a woman.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:35 PM |
| 104 | We are living in a clown world 🤡I roomed with a woman who was in “the lifestyle” (dumb) and I swear all they talked about was jealousy - either how they’re not jealous, not supposed to be jealous, are feeling jealous but processing it, BUT THAT “they are definitely not jealous like the vanilla people.” Every last one of them had underlying moderate to severe mental health challenges and traumatic upbringings. They’re trying to process some shit, just like the BDSM community, refusing to acknowledge that not only is it not a he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 03:15 PM |
| 4 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”AMEN! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:17 AM |
| 6 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”I agree. If we want to stop old men from dating young women, women need to stop it. We are the ones in power. Men will always desire younger, no matter what. My last marriage was a very financially secure marriage. I was not in love (and he’s HVM), and I chose to be poor over wealth because my integrity wouldn’t allow me to stay married to someone I didn’t love for any amount of money. Like, I could no longer bring myself to kiss him. I don’t know how these women do it. My body is so stubborn ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:14 AM |
| 2 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”Scrapple? Scrapple Scrapple that very few people know (and understand) what it is? The Yum scrapple? The Scrapple that goes good with toast and ketchup? Scrapple sandwich meaning the delicious poor person meal? Yay for that scrapple ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:03 AM |
| 4 | Is there a cure for pornsickness?I’m going to disagree that 12-steps are helpful. Fundamentally, yes, they are fine guides to living a meaningful life, but the problem I encountered, and I spent a significant chunk of my life in “the rooms,” is that lay people such as sponsors are steering the ship. Almost all addicts have abuse in their history. Lay people are just not qualified to support addict through trauma recovery. In fact, some interpretation of the 12-step language is more harmful. I’ve done more 4-7 steps with woman I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 11:01 AM |
| 6 | Is there a cure for pornsickness?I saw this post. 100,000 upvotes, it had. I was sick to my stomach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:36 AM |
| 9 | Is there a cure for pornsickness?Neuroplasticity says yes. But also, that entails a lot of therapeutic work. So yes, but also most men won’t put in the work to correct it. A question, and this may need to be answered by an addiction specialist, but it’s my understanding that with certain substances- particularly heroin (or opioids/opiates) addiction, the amount of dopamine that a person receives can never be matched naturally. IOW, while the brain can heal, it will never be able to replicate that level of euphoria naturally. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:32 AM |
| 1 | This 4chan story is fake AF, but if there’s even a grain of truth in it, good on the ex-gf on leveling up!Ok, which one of you mods is this?!?! 😂😂 can these scrotes get any dumber?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:19 PM |
| 6 | What to do?Amen, sis, amen. As a mom of 2 grown men, it is so important to show your kids that your needs are top priority. It’s not selfish parenting. It’s saying, I matter in this family dynamic, and I’m not a slave to the family’s whims just because I’m a woman. My rabbi tells all soon to be married men, “you can’t be the king of your castle, if your wife is not treated like the Queen.” If Mom good, we all good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:11 PM |
| 68 | What to do?You are already driven apart, sis. Sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:55 PM |
| 35 | What to do?Oh, sweetie. You’ve been betrayed. It’s one thing to lightly grumble about your partner’s quirks, but this is such a violation of your privacy, both yours and the marriage. The only person he should be talking to about you, is you. I can’t imagine how crushed you must feel. I’m sorry. Enough good advice on how to get your affairs in order, will be given to you here, so I’m going to keeit short. Please be kind to yourself. Whatever you do, put your needs first. If you’re fine, your babies will be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:52 PM |
| 110 | So.. if she’s so important to him why aren’t they married after 7years? No one in the comments brought that up. People in the comments are betting the brothers relationship won’t last as long but at least he knew he wanted to marry his bride within 2 years.what is more salient of a red flag is the family’s meddling and enmeshment. “He freaked out and called Mom.” Ladies, flag of all the flags is when a man brings Mommy in to settle an argument, like she’s authority over grown men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 09:18 AM |
| 9 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/trauma-informed-care-what-it-is-and-why-its-important-2018101613562 What does trauma-informed care look like? The first step is to recognize how common trauma is, and to understand that every patient may have experienced serious trauma. We don’t necessarily need to question people about their experiences; rather, we should just assume that they may have this history, and act accordingly. This can mean many things: We should explain why we’re asking sensitive q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:55 AM |
| 10 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...My spineless scrote Dad didn’t sue. I thought we should have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:34 PM |
| 53 | Typical emotional abuse- bodyshaming tactics & using feigned ignorance regarding his fiancée's health needsThis poor woman doesn’t know what to do? This is heartbreaking that she’s not identifying this as abuse. Someone really hurt this girl. My goodness, I can’t imagine feeling that low, that you can’t see red bombs going off. I mean, I may not notice red flags, but this is such obvious abuse that my heart hurts that she needs to be validated that this is, in fact, some serious, in your face, possibly deadly, abuse. I hope we can rescue her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 10:18 AM |
| 50 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...My Mom went in to have 1/2 a lung removed. The male surgeon removed ALL of the lung, THEN, he didn’t tie the suture properly, so fluid leaked into her healthy lung. We took her off life support after 5 days. She died in less than a minute. I was so furious with my mom for not doing her research. We lived within 2 hours of some of the world’s most renowned hospitals, but she chose some local county guy because “he was nice.” My Mom’s generation are notorious for “but, I’ve been seeing him my whol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 09:48 AM |
| 30 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...Vet female doctors as well. I always ask if they are trauma informed. If their answer is a loose yes, as opposed to a firm yes, I move along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 09:37 AM |
| 5 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Yeah, if you watch the pickme’s face when she pushes you can see the evil. My pickme friend thought it was funny to kick people smaller than her in the tailbone. I’m pretty sure I have permanent damage. I feel horrible to say this, but grade school bullies rarely change into adults. Some go through a legitimate transformation, but that’s rare. All I could do to correct my naivety is tell my kids - stay away from bullies - forever - bc they will later bully you in different forms. They are deadly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 08:59 AM |
| 7 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.No worries, it’s a good question. There are Quaker (private) schools all over the US, mostly east coast, and England, where Quakerism was founded. It is technically a religion, but there’s no authoritative literature (like a bible), hierarchy, or dogma. And, they operate on consensus, not majority. Not all Quakers will have the same philosophical thoughts or ideas, but they do all believe that our relationship with G-d is between you and G-d and not something that can be preached into you. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 12:42 PM |
| 5 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?Yup. I love that I don’t have to log in/out with my phone, I just switch u/name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:45 AM |
| 13 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Yup. I can be compassionate, loving, and understand that they were once bullied too…but from a distance. Just because I understand the chemistry of poison, doesn’t men I have to eat it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:43 AM |
| 15 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.They’re just fucking comedians, aren’t they?! Except when you turn the comedy around on them, and suddenly you’ve crossed a line, and they become a victim. GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:40 AM |
| 15 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Yup. She said the same thing about having boys, hating girls. She would make fun of me for wanting to visit my nieces because I needed girl energy because I lived with all boys. She’d say things like,”Ohhh…you gonna go play dress up, and dolls… you’re a sellout.” Like wtf negs their friend for hanging out with their nieces?!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:36 AM |
| 8 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Thank you. The grieving was rough, ngl, because I was so guilt ridden. But anytime that happened, I’d go back and look at my journal and pages and pages of detailing all the times she abused me, and poof the guilt goes away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:32 AM |
| 21 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.I too was very attractive to narc-friends. They all were very similar- very very funny, and very very fun to hang out with. But, mean mean mean. Oddly, this didn’t extend to people I dated. I always went for the safe men. Lol, I needed some balance from the abuse. Looking back, my Mom had girlfriends who treated her like shit. She was such a sweet woman, I mean she literally would take the shirt off her back in a thunderstorm. And, those bitches took full advantage. As a child, I hated those wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:28 AM |
| 9 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Amen. My kids graduated from a Quaker school, and humanities classes started in kindergarten. I think this is something that can be done in all schools and it would save a lot of victims and even bullies from a life of pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:11 AM |
| 3 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:09 AM |
| 11 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Damn, Queen, are we talking about the same friend? Shit. Almost identical behaviors. I suppose the character similarities are exactly what defines red flags. I really hope any FDS Queens struggling right now with whether or not their “friend/s” are pick me bullies, read these red flags and get the fuck out before it destroys them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:08 AM |
| 6 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Thanks so much for reminding me :) It’s been over 20 years since I’ve read it. I’ve been keeping an eye out for a theatre to perform it tho, no such luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:03 AM |
| 8 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!Wasn’t there recently an article on FDS that opined that people who hate cats are narcs because cats don’t swoon like dogs, and it takes time and patience before they warm up, and trust you. Narcs demand that you like them !right now!, and bc cats don’t give them an immediate source of attention, they’ll say they hate them. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 07:13 PM |
| 19 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?I created an alt yesterday for this reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:59 PM |
| 34 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Oof. Seriously. What’s the play about the woman who kills her own kids over jealousy? Oh. Medea, I think? Humans been known the deadly risks of jealousy…since forever…but somehow, Neanderthals still exist. They really gotta go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 156 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑I had a women finger me like that. I stopped her dead in tracks, made an excuse like, oh shit, my babysitter is calling, gotta go. I didn’t try to redirect she has the same equipment and should know better 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 165 | This should be how women approach sex. If he can’t make you orgasm he can’t get access. 💅🏾👑Sounds like baby girl is reading our handbook. Yes, Queen 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:43 PM |
| 79 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.I just discovered it, and I can’t shake it. I commented below about how I just broke up with a friend of 30 years, because she would have totally pushed me off, and would have only had remorse if the feedback from the men was negative. If they thought it was funny, she’d have left me for dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:41 PM |
| 196 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.Just last year, my best friend of 30 years and I broke up. I had had enough of her bullying. FDS taught me the red flags. I never knew what negging was. I knew she had bullied me when we were younger and I cut her off for several years as a result. I thought she changed with maturity. I was very attached to other parts of her personality. She was fun. The impetus for this most recent break up was her attempting to relive her bullying me when we were in our late teens, when she and her brother th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:35 PM |
| 26 | Basically they admit to everything FDS warns us about.I agree. Fundamentally it’s good strategy. But using good dating strategy to do bad things (use women as objects) is null and void. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:21 PM |
| 72 | Angry right nowI’m so sorry. I wish I had something more profound to say, but I’m so fucking out of steam today. I just changed a tire on my own, and yep, you can imagine all the, “I’m not a rapist” type comments I was assaulted with JUST FOR CHANGING A TIRE as a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 11 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsAtta girl ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:17 PM |
| 15 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsThis!!!! Most women feel it in their gut that it is awful and they just need a Queen like yourself to break it down for them and give them permission. Thank you for doing that work ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:44 PM |
| 21 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsI’ve never been in a serious relationship with a man who’s attended a strip club. And, once explained, with sources of research, they all stopped watching pornography, especially because the research highlights that a porn watching habit contributes to poor sex performance for all parties involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:42 PM |
| 10 | Don’t waste your time or energy debating about sex work to men and libfemsJust below this post, on my page, is a 50g upvoted post that roasting a woman for trying to express FDS’ sex industry logic. It’s so fucking gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:38 PM |
| 74 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭I will enthusiastically scream from the rooftops that I suck in bed, if this would stop scrotes from harassing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:22 PM |
| 160 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭I can’t wait for the robots to replace us. It will make the vetting process so much easier as the men who truly want women will be the only option, and the scrotes will be home sexually abusing robots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:20 PM |
| 63 | Another FDS hate post on the frontpage of LV males frothing at the mouthYou got the transactional scrote too?! He’s on a roll today. He must’ve just learned the word transactional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.Lol. Yes. Exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:20 PM |
| 79 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsPre-FDS, I asked my SO about trying anal. “No, because I love you, and do not want to hurt you.” And, get this, some men actually like and are satisfied by vagina! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:19 PM |
| 72 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsI was hungry and he bought me a slice of pizza = love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 06:03 PM |
| 91 | Guy dumps his GF over not enthusiastically having oral and not doing anal, and gets hailed as an upstanding guy for doing this in the commentsFuck. How many other women are out there feeling this way, getting treated like a sex bag, while saying things like, “he’s so good to me.” These type posts devastate me. I wish we could scoop them all up and bring them to FDS-safety. Seriously, FDS needs a retreat center on a remote island. Here’s my suggestion ladies. Even after you vet for sex, after first time sex, and before marriage, withhold sex (yes, Scotes, I’m suggesting strategy) for “personal reasons” for a month or so. If he’s suppor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:56 PM |
| 27 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.No one sends her the pics. She plans clothing optional retreats and convinces her friends to join along by talking up body positivity/empowerment with middle age women. Then when you’re naked, she says…let me take a pic to show your husband how beautiful you are. It’s very covert and manipulative. Hence why I broke out in shingles :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:37 PM |
| 26 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.Yes. My question as well. I later discovered, she likes to attend naked events with other woman as an attempt to empower them. Don’t worry, I’ve sent the memo that she does this. Not that that will stop her from meeting new friends, but her husband left her. He did NOT want the pictures, and I believe when he got mine (he was my buddy), he was furious because he told her to stop putting him in this position. So you know about the shingles. Ugh. I tell people it felt like someone took a hot iron … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:56 PM |
| 16 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersLol. I’m a Jew, so any Merry Xmas text are immediately suspicious, and immediately yield a block/delete. Can’t a girl watch Fiddler on the Roof and eat Chinese in peace. Damn Scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:36 PM |
| 98 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.Involuntary porn is exactly the phrase I used. If she were a he, they would have also block/deleted, but somehow bc she’s not a he, is was “just a lapse of judgment.” Pickmeishas are atrocious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:47 PM |
| 233 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.Yup. Later than day, she nonchalantly said, “oh, by the way, I send all my friends nudes to my SO.” I was dumbfounded. I was stuck with her for the rest of the weekend, so I played it cool (lest she gets mad and sends to more people). The next day, my trauma response was SHINGLES. I fucking broke out in shingles, so I had an excuse to go home early. I didn’t talk to her on the 5 hour ride home, but she was so busy getting likes on FB, she doesn’t notice. The second I dropped her off, BLOCK/DELET… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:37 PM |
| 292 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.Even your girlfriends. Many years ago, I was at a retreat, in the middle of nowhere, and phone reception was crap, so I left my phone in my cabin. There was a swimming hole that was clothing optional. In an attempt to embrace my aging body, I stripped down. I asked my friend to take a pic and send it to my SO (I explicitly told her not to share with anyone else). He responded, “tell her she’s perfect, and I hope she’s having a great time.” I was having the best time. Until…she confessed to me th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:18 AM |
| 71 | Why I have trust issues and why we should be guarded.“How should I approach him?” …with a restraining order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:06 AM |
| 55 | If you found yourself starting to NAG your man - LEAVE.This is great. Reminds me of a time where a LV bf told me to stop treating him like a child, and my response was “then stop acting like a child.” The next day I had the ‘hold up’ moment. If I’m playing mom and he’s playing son, this relationship dynamic is doomed. I ended it that day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:53 AM |
| 5 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himWRAP - wellness recovery action plan. Ask me anything about it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 03:04 PM |
| 71 | My FDS post gets shared across another sub, and now my inbox is flooded. HELP.I saw it this morning. Not ONE comment addresses FDS’ content. Not one. It’s all: “they’re gonna die alone, gold-digger, cat lady, etc.” Nothing but a bunch of scrotes and scrotesses. I blocked every single one of them. I’m sorry this is happening to you. Block them all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 11:58 AM |
| 19 | Can we hear your LVM break up stories?After drawing a diagram for him (no cell phones then) about how to properly give cunnilngus, he still chose to do it “his way”. I kicked him off his own bed, had him drive me home, and told him to never call again. He still called. He still called 20 fucking years later to “get it right.” He’s blocked from all possible forms of communication. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:31 AM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?It’s fun! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 01:50 AM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?There are a ton of articles on the connection between Chanukah and Winter Solstice, but I really like this explanation:) Link to full article below. “While it would appear that Chanukah is an exception to this dual character of the holidays, lacking (as it does) an agricultural motif, a fascinating Talmudic piece would seem to suggest otherwise. In explaining the origins of the pagan festival kalenda (perhaps linguistically related to calendar), the Talmud (Avodah Zara 8a) claims that after Adam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.Ugh. Why am I not surprised. WTF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.Hahaha 🤣!! Good eye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?Me too ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 15 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.Yeah. Fuck that. Any man who wants to choke a woman has some real deep rooted hatred for women. Also, I really resent that they took the phrase sex positive to mean something so absolutely negative, and repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:27 PM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?Thanks!!! They’re both 3x vaxxed, and so they’re mostly ok, just staying home to not spread it. My FDIL felt good enough to make a Solstice smudge, so yay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:24 PM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?My oldest and his fiancée got Covid :( and it just didn’t seem right to do without them. Side note: do you know how stole I am to see that someone else celebrates the solstice ❤️🌞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 01:56 PM |
| 4 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?When my kids were little this included a day of cooking for our Solstice feast. Cooking = dancing also. Then we’d take turns reading the history and significance of solstice, for all religions (I’m Jewish), then sit, Quaker style, with unlit candles, meditating on the suns return, and when we feel compelled to share what it means to us, we break the silence by lighting a candle, and making a wish on that candle, stating your wish only if you want to. I never realized how much my kids loved it (t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 11:07 AM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?This was the first year, in 20 years, I didn’t have a solstice party. Next year gonna be banging! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:58 AM |
| 3 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?Cutie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:57 AM |
| 2 | How Are You Treating Yourself this Holiday Season?Chanukah came and went. I’m almost unaware that the rest of the world is stressing the f out over last minute gifts. For me, when Xmas rolls around, I take advantage of the quiet peace and calm, which equates to ordering Chinese takeout and watching Fiddler on the Roof :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:54 AM |
| 97 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.I made no qualms with commenting this to OP. Fuck that sexual assault sugar coating. He raped her. Full stop. Go to a woman’s shelter STAT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:09 AM |
| 41 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.This comment got me all kinds of fucked up: “Hey girl! I love to be chocked and my Fiancé is pretty good at it. He used to make me pass out for a few seconds (i consented to it and enjoyed it) but he stopped doing that after he read articles on how passing out is bad for your brain. He cared enough to stop! He stills chokes me but not hard enough to make me pass out. You deserve someone who cares for you.” WTF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:07 AM |
| 20 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himI used to teach adult learners how to manage their MH challenges, and that was always the first lesson. It seems to be a trend these days that the mention of trauma automatically excuses poor behavior and that the world should halt to their triggers. Folks had to apply to get into my class and the first question on the questionnaire was, “how do you support yourself when triggered, because when you are in a room full of people with PTSD, you will be triggered, and the class can not stop every ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:04 AM |
| 38 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himYup. My ex (was HV) had ADHD and executive function disorder. He was pretty bad. It never stopped him from helping around the house. Granted, there were post it notes and to do list all over the house, but my kids and myself are ADHD and autistic spectrum so it was helpful for all of us. My house was unusually organized for a house full of scatterbrains. Bc none of us loafed around. Having Organization was the biggest need for us. It was a family priority. The divorce was mutual and we did it qu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Roasting and insulting as a form of joking💯 there’s playful and then there’s being a dick and hiding behind the joys of being playful. | /r/askFDS | 22/12/21 09:35 AM |
| 7 | Roasting and insulting as a form of jokingIt really does depend. Recently, I was at a wedding and there was a picture of my wedding from 20 years ago. My cousin was standing next to me, and said, “wow, you haven’t aged at all” I said “fuuuuuuck you” and laughed my ass off. If it was someone else, or in different context, I may not have thought it was funny, but he’s my baby cousin (I’m old enough to be his mom) and he’s a giant sweetheart who adores me, and doesn’t “get off” on hurting feelings. And, if I said, “I don’t like that,” he’d… | /r/askFDS | 22/12/21 09:29 AM |
| 51 | what happens when you initiafe contact even onceYup. This the vibe I got. He didn’t feel put out because you initiated a ride. He felt put out because you didn’t “put out” on date 3, which scrotes believe is the magic number. F this guy for pouting like a child, and still trying to get in your pants after his temper tantrum. He’s entitled to zero zilch nada. You made a very mild mistake, (not by offering him a ride - that was you just being kind, but by outreaching the next day), but Queen, you made up for it by that immediate B-D. Lesson lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 08:54 AM |
| 151 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”I had an old boss who said something like this when she had laryngitis. “My husband is was so happy” I reactivity blurted, “EW, your husband doesn’t like when you talk?!?!?!” Needless to say that was the beginning of her harassment and subsequently firing me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 11 | How long to wait after divorce to date with kids?Date when YOU feel ready. Only you know what ready feels like for you. There’s no timeframe where an alarm will alert you that you’re ready. Your kids do not need to know that you’re dating. If you meet someone that you want to commit to, then you can decide when you’d like them to meet your kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 04:53 PM |
| 1 | A year of climbing without menBeautiful, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 12:36 PM |
| 12 | A "compliment" that men need to stop usingMost girls don’t look good with short hair, but you really rock it. (From my pixie cut days - they stayed far away when I shaved it…lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:19 AM |
| 16 | Love seeing men educating other men :)Lol…as someone who loves plants and flowers, I don’t want anyone arranging them for me, but I get this post is more about emotional labor that gets put on us, and with that regard, I 💯 agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:09 PM |
| 50 | Ben Affleck casts blame on Jennifer Garner for his drinking problemHe could have said a million different reasons for his drinking and he chose his marriage, to JG specifically. If he was truly committed to recovery, he would have said something like: I’m a womanizer narc, and when my narc source runs low, I feel like shit, so I drink to excess, and abandon my wife and children. He’d never say that because he’s a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:06 AM |
| 51 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?There’s a sub that I’m still holding on to, but I’m on the fence. The women there used to be fierce. I think they’re still there, but they’re being shot down, reported, and downvoted. “Bbbbbbut he was traumatized and sexually abused by his mom, and any women who “abandons” their boyfriend when that happens is just cruel and narcissistic.” Nvm the fact that he was obviously a stone cold alcoholic in denial about his stone cold sexually abusive alcoholic mom. When I asked about the girlfriend’s we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:09 PM |
| 46 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Every single man in my life that I am close to is !fuck yes! about FDS. They don’t feel personally offended AT ALL. Sorry scrotes, it’s YOU. If it don’t apply, let it fly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 08:47 PM |
| 19 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?It really does depend. I say this as a person who’s worked in the MH field. I’ve seen men repeat their parents behavior (either like dad, and they cheat or like mom and they have no backbone), and I’ve seen them completely abandon any behavior their parent had. Here’s what is true: They are deeply wounded by betrayal. If they are putting in the hard work to process that betrayal they can be wonderful partners. This is a huge IF. That was what your gut was telling you. If he’s telling you about i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:51 AM |
| 22 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.Yup. The hairy armpit woman on the left is definitely my type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 11:38 PM |
| 3 | First, I laughed. Then, took a screenshot.Angel. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:50 PM |
| 66 | We are on our ownQueen. Several years ago an ex friend of mine shared a nude picture of me with her husband without my permission. Not one of our mutual friends stood up for me. NOT ONE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 01:34 PM |
| 7 | This is the prime example of rich =/= high value..Oh, he probably loves looking at her evidence to make her feel small and smaller and smaller and eventually so small that she never feels tall again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 08:41 AM |
| 40 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineI wouldn’t put her past 15. A HVM wouldn’t say anything because she’s a kid. ETA. I’m kinda uncomfortable with a picture of half naked child posted on FDS page. 1. it could be used against us. 2. She’s a little girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 09:46 AM |
| 22 | Do you have any male friends?No. They either want to fuck me or want to take advantage of my femininity. I’m middle age and btdt - it never works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:03 PM |
| 17 | Anyone heard of the Tobe & Fat struggle love story?Ok, WTF is up with the decor? Why they painted over the empty picture frames?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:07 AM |
| 38 | Anyone heard of the Tobe & Fat struggle love story?He just LOVES retelling the story of how much he hates her. How romantic. And she just babies him and plays along. NO ONE should be looking up to this. NO ONE. I couldn’t finish watching because it’s too early to be angry on a Friday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:00 AM |
| 1 | (Part 2) Seriously, how to deal with downstairs neighbor having loud sex?/TW: Sexual traumaYour response to me? Or would you like me to respond to your response to who I responded to? | /r/askFDS | 09/12/21 09:54 PM |
| 2 | (Part 2) Seriously, how to deal with downstairs neighbor having loud sex?/TW: Sexual traumaThat’s really rough, sis. I’m not sure if it’s legal to record it (or if that’d be way too much for you to bear), but perhaps, let the HOA hear the recording or get an attorney to file a cease and desist, during sleeping hours. Or have the attorney file a complaint against HOA w/ threat of suing for damages as a result of their neglect. I have a neighbor who fights with herself for 2 hours straight every night - and i mean full on screaming bloody murder and throwing shit. It stops, tho, right a… | /r/askFDS | 09/12/21 01:55 PM |
| 3 | (Part 2) Seriously, how to deal with downstairs neighbor having loud sex?/TW: Sexual traumaYeah, I’m a MH professional and that is NOT standard advice…AT ALL. | /r/askFDS | 09/12/21 09:49 AM |
| 2 | (Part 2) Seriously, how to deal with downstairs neighbor having loud sex?/TW: Sexual traumaHow long are they having sex? I’ve heard plenty o’ neighbors having sex, and it never lasts that long. Earplugs and white noise. I’m saying this as a professional in the mental health field. I think your therapist gave you bad advice. You can not spend your life expecting (and asking) others to change their behavior because you had sexual trauma. That is entirely your responsibility. If you live with neighbors, you run the risk of hearing them doing all kinds of shit - fighting, sex, dog barking… | /r/askFDS | 09/12/21 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Pick me! I’m cool! I don’t need a man to put in effort! Pick me!!Oh. Rose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:13 AM |
| 38 | A guy once wrote me a huge paragraph on how when a man offers to pay a bill, you need to argue and insist to pay for yourself. Pls, share your funniest and dumbest interactions about first date courtesy.Yeah, because scrotes are well-known for being able to “wait 5 minutes.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:01 PM |
| 13 | What theme would you like to see displayed more in movies?I love this. It would also be fun to have her be idolized by young good-looking men that she turns down all the time because she is all she needs AND not because she’s been abandoned, betrayed, broken hearted, but bc she genuinely adores herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:36 AM |
| 2 | somebody called these men hobosexuals 💀💀✋After my divorce, an ex (from when I was 20 - I’m middle aged) showed up from across the country and being naive, I agreed to meet up. I lived in a efficiency in a seedy neighborhood - it’s all I could afford after being a SAHM for 15 years - and he was rich. All he talked about was how “he was gonna rescue me from my situation.” I did not want to be rescued, hence divorce, I loved my little hole in the wall bc it was mine and I owed no man anything in exchange for a home. It was cute, and cozy,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:21 PM |
| 13 | Roe will likely be overturned.I’ve been saying women should do this since I read Lysistrata when I was 13…lol. I’m middle age now. Pickmes would never ever go for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 08:47 AM |
| 19 | This is all bad. This poor woman😩.Sometimes I’m too quick to label a pickmeisha, but not with this woman. I just feel so emptied for her. I hope she gets some useful advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 09:32 PM |
| 23 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..“too comfortable being alone?” Too comfortable for who? Is there some expiration for a maximum level of comfortability with being alone? “I see that you are at comfort level 10, Miss. At that level, you will not get dates. We need to bring you down to comfort level 5, or below. If not, you are not accessible to men, and that’s just unacceptable.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:04 PM |
| 25 | I don't think there can ever be too many reminders that: if he wanted to, he would.He’s right. I am entitled to have parameters around who is or isn’t worth my time. My partner just surprised me by going to my Amazon cart and buying me a bunch of items from it. Why? Because I’m fucking worth it - he knows I’m going through a little something right now and wanted to cheer me up. Anytime a man complains about reaching into his pocket for a woman, it’s just disgusting to me. I hope these LVM know that HVM think LVM are garbage as much as us women do. I was recently talking to a S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:33 PM |
| 33 | He found me.He’s full of shit. If he was well, physically, mentally, spiritually, respected himself, respected his girlfriend, respected YOU, he would not have reached out to you to prove that he’s fucking dandy. “The lady doth protests too much, me thinks!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:04 PM |
| 3 | I have no wordsFor me, the t-shirt is better for my curls, but definitely slower and messier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:24 AM |
| 24 | I have no wordsWhite = straight, calm hair. Curly = Black, POC, Jewish, unruly, dirty, wild, rude hair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:20 AM |
| 81 | I have no wordsAlso, there’s a known stigma around curly hair - dirty, wild, unkempt, unruly. Curly hair is also associated with black women, POCs, and Jews. Long, straight hair is the golden standard. In other words women have been straightening their hair for decades in an attempt to not be those descriptors I mentioned. Curly hair is making a comeback and men are pissed. I bet he was more worried about her luscious curls, than the towel and he took the towel to force her to straighten it or do something els… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:16 AM |
| 21 | I have no wordsMP and sports. If you mention, you will be given an exam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:08 AM |
| 19 | I have no words17-1 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:06 AM |
| 41 | I have no wordsGo to curly hair sub. I use a t-shirt. It works better than the microfiber :) (for me). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:05 AM |
| 123 | I have no wordsYup. She uses curly girl method, and I’m here to say that that towel is the difference between curly hair and a poof of frizz. In other words that towel is a lifeline for our hair. Everyone in my house knows, YOU DONT TOUCH MOMS TOWEL!!!! Or there will be hell to pay. You think I looked crazy with that towel? Wait until you see how it looks when I’m chasing you out the house with my poof of frizz and Denman brush in my hand!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:00 AM |
| 5 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.A friend of mine was the treasurer for her AA group, who held onto the collection of donations. One day she realized there was a lot missing. Her boyfriend, who never told her what he made (red flag), took it to pay a bill, and had planned on giving it back (which he did). She asked for my advice. LEAVE HIM NOW was all I had. Never mind that he’s a thief, but the position he put her in, and him exploiting donations from alcoholics. At the very least, I thought he should have told the group what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 02:38 PM |
| 9 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?Because they’re big babies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 73 | Help me out of this spiralThis. We are a society that overlooks respect for “love” all the time. Sis, he can’t love you if he doesn’t respect you. He’s proven that in the past, and he’s proving it to you now. He’s testing how much of the unacceptable you will accept. Accept NONE of it. I’m so proud of you for coming to FDS instead of responding to the scrote. It’s not easy to tell on yourself. That says a lot about how much you’ve grown. Keep growing. Don’t let him poison the garden your flourishing 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 08:53 AM |
| 48 | Stories and examples of sensitive/emotional men being abusive or manipulative?They seem to move back and forth between “I’m just a big piece of shit” and “it’s everyone else’s fault that I’m a big piece of shit.” They never take responsibility for “being a piece of shit,” though, and they certainly never work through it. The entire point is to get woman to see them as victims at all times. Because they think if you feel sorry for them, you’ll feel even worse if you say, “ok, there there, I know it’s not your fault that your parents are garbage and ruined your life, but it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:30 AM |
| 38 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantYup. They cut her off, my guess, because of him. He’s love bombing the guest. He’s furious that she is refusing to be part of his need for source. I bet the reason he has to have everyone over his house for a free meal, is bc he has no friends bc he’s a narc, and no one wants him around, so he latched on to new people EVERY FEW DAYS. Once they see how he treats his wife (surely he’s not hiding, and likely bragging about how he has a servant), they decline the next invite, so he’s back pounding t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:04 AM |
| 21 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantI love how he tries to walk back his asshole ways in his edit bc I’m guessing even the pickmes were like, yeah, you’re an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:28 AM |
| 3 | Did I make the right choice in cutting him off?Grief is tough. That said, thinking back to when my Mom died, I was in no condition to date. I was not reliable or emotionally stable. Regardless of his intent, he’s not ready. I think you made the right choice to back away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 11:01 AM |
| 9 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Yup. Another commentator discovered that homeboy is an untreated alcoholic - so there’s a lot more than not being able to hold down a job. She’s keeping that from us for a reason - to manipulate one of us (not me, certainly not you…lol…because unable to hold a job = automatic LV) giving her the advice she wants to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:14 AM |
| 7 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Him having untreated ADHD is something he needs to take care off before he brings another person into the fold. We already know that scrotes are deeply wounded. It’s not our jobs to correct them through intimacy. Yes, it’s not “his fault” that he may have underlying issues, it’s 100 percent his responsibility to take care of it. Also, in what world is it ok to emotionally manipulate someone because you have ADHD? If you can’t tell that it’s manipulation from her post alone, you’re not paying att… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:03 AM |
| 10 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.See, this shit really pisses me off. Bc this is a sign of OP playing head games with FDS posters - making SO out to be perfect in every way, except finding a job. By omitting all but one toxic traits, she’s got a better chance of 1 of us co-signing her “he’s got 30 days, then I’ll dump him”. All she needs is 1 woman, and she’ll cling to that and ignore the rest. If she’s being honest about all the above, she knows damn well, the answer is block/delete. Co-D play games too. Sometimes they’re narc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:49 AM |
| 13 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Sis, no. 30 days will not change this man. Job or no job he is a LVM, who doesn’t want to work. He will continue to look for ways to not work. Maybe he’ll get his shit together enough to make it look promising, but get married/pregnant and he’ll be right back to his old ways because you’ll be stuck with him. Do you want to be nursing a baby at 4 am, go to work at 9, pump all day, come home to have to cook/clean, give baby a bath, etc. because he will not be working. Sure, he’ll play mama’s helpe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:29 AM |
| 27 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?“Oh, you like that “sport’s team? You must like their colors. What’s x player’s stats?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 09:53 AM |
| 108 | I haven't seen a disgusting serial dater like Pete DavidsonHe’s a hot-ass mess publicly, so it’s not like these women don’t know that he’s got nothing to offer them. I mean, if there was a friend in my group of friends as fucked up as PD, I would not recommend dating him. And, I’d tell him to put his junk away until he’s cleaned up his act. That’s not how Hollywood operates though. It’s a fairytale to sell consumers. To the men: “Look, you can be ugly, and have BPD and substance use and still find the woman of your dreams.” To the women: “if you love hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:34 AM |
| 47 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postA very dear friend of mine got a call from school that her 2 daughters (6 & 8) disclosed that someone was sexually abusing them. She immediately called her husband and her husband immediately went home and destroyed all evidence. Only a few days later in therapy, the girls disclosed that it was their father. He was also sex-trafficking them. Because the only evidence was the girls testimony, the father was not prosecuted because they were too young to testify. They still had to have supervised v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:36 PM |
| 195 | Male friends and brothers will 'pity' my bfSee, my brother was the type to go to bat for me, quite literally, if I told him a man wasn’t treating me like a Queen - I didn’t always tell him. My Dad was a POS, so my brother and I took oath to never be like, or be around men like my Dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 04:31 PM |
| 24 | How to answer questions on a date about your family if they’re toxic/you cut them off?I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. I wonder if you’re actually ready to date, being that you are likely incredibly raw, and vulnerable right now, and require a lot of self care and time away from men - scrote-narcs are masters of sniffing out women in pain, and I’d hate to see you become revictimized. Hug for you ♥️ | /r/askFDS | 19/11/21 12:10 PM |
| 328 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Hit it off. Sparks. Enthusiastic. Replace with horny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:10 PM |
| 9 | Words and Actions😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:08 PM |
| 28 | Words and ActionsI had one like this post divorce, so I wasn’t exactly in the right place emotionally (divorce, sobriety, moving out of married house, sent first kid off to college, and my Mom died) either. But his words - I don’t want a relationship did not match his actions, which were doing all the right things. Texting me everyday: you’re so pretty, buying flowers, paying attention to my words and remembering what I said (that was a big one) sexual monogamy, hand holding, snuggling, etc. I just assumed he “n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:05 PM |
| 26 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmAmen, sis. Amen. If I sent this to any of the men in my life (partner, brother, sons), they’d be like “fuck yes”, and legitimately want to cherish her. Unrelated-ish. My brother had a terrible role model (my Dad) so he was raised by women. His most profound lesson was when he coached women’s field hockey and heard their conversations on the bus. He was mortified. I remember him coming home crying because he felt utterly defeated and betrayed by his fellow man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:38 PM |
| 30 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmAnd what is it about their inability to write coherently? I got several today, and I have no clue what any of them said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:29 PM |
| 38 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmThey really do. My guy looks forward to it. That’s a great vetting strategy - no snuggles, no relationship. Complete deal-breaker. There’s way too much mental health fuckedupness behind the scenes, if a man can’t snuggle. It’s a pretty clear indication that he’s porn-sick and only gets off on his own dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:21 AM |
| 32 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmGenuinely asking, what don’t you understand? Are you afraid of asking for your needs to be met? Are you afraid that if you ask for your needs to be met, you’ll be SA? This is why vetting is so important. It doesn’t guarantee that you won’t be SA, but if you’re getting yo know a man through vetting, and you get to a point where you can talk about sex, and what you expect, a HVM will not flinch if you say you want sex to be focused on connecting intimately as opposed to focusing on cumming. A HVM … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:10 AM |
| 72 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmGood stuff, Queen! My partner and I like to do naked snuggles every Friday night. It’s simply a way to connect. Sometimes we’re both turned on or 1 is 1 isn’t or both. But, we connect intimately, if there’s no orgasm, that’s ok, and that’s the point - to enjoy each other without the pressure. To be fair, he’s never not gotten hard as a rock, but he NEVER asks for anything, let’s me lead, and is totally used to the possibility that he may not cum, AND - if cumming is going on, Im prioritized, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:44 AM |
| 41 | Famous HMV?I believe he’s the only president who never cheated on his wife. Not that that makes him HV, but he does stand out by the way he treats Michelle and his daughters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:43 AM |
| 27 | 18 Common Red Flags on Dating AppsAh. I was victim to the joint account. She was posting as w4w, but once the conversation moved…in came the “I’m married in an open relationship, so my husband knows, but will not join.” I was post divorce trying to be casual, with woman only and keep an open-mind (ew. cringe at those days), so I kept conversation open - I told her I was 100% NOT interested in her husband and I told myself maybe she really wanted sex on the side with a woman… nooooooooope. Right before we were to meet up, she cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:38 AM |
| 102 | Pick mes like this are the reason bisexual women have to hide our sexuality.I’m terrified that this is the garbage my teen nieces are watching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:56 PM |
| 17 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”There was a post earlier on a sub that I respect because the majority of women there are fierce, and don’t do bullshit. But there were still the few, that actually suggested the victim go to therapy with their abuser to appease the scrote husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 84 | Let’s count the red flags together!I think it’s possible for both of them to be LV people. That’s, of course, assuming he’s telling the truth, and not lying and bad-mouthing her bc he didn’t get laid, so he can hold the narrative that he didn’t want her anyway because she’s an a-hole. In this scenario, he rejects her first. I think this is the most likely case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:12 PM |
| 9 | Why do they keep normalizing this gross behaviour????Right? Like, even if he is around, he’s not throwing the baseball or taking her to ballet…in fact, more likely that she’s gonna have to take care of him. The POS that he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:39 PM |
| 6 | Why do they keep normalizing this gross behaviour????Him not being around to raise them is so fucking selfish. I want to scream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:37 PM |
| 6 | Religion is by men, for menOh, of course, for sure they are only a sliver of the community…thank G-d! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:44 AM |
| 21 | Religion is by men, for menI’m Jewish practicing, but was raised Catholic. And I remember clearly being very upset when I realized the holy trinity did not include women. Worse was, no one could give little me a valid explanation for our exclusion. I left the Catholic Church as soon as I was old enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:10 AM |
| 28 | Religion is by men, for menSame. I’m Jewish and my Shuls senior rabbi is a fierce radfem woman. We have a female only Torah companion that is optional in Torah study, but everyone uses, even the men. Anyway, I find a lot of Judaism to be very woman-centric. HOWEVER- those ultra orthodox have different ideas about where women belong, and it’s gross. Tho, even in their misogynistic laws, women are still worshiped like Queens. It’s weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:05 AM |
| 2 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorAmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:51 PM |
| 41 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorWe already know it’s “not all men” and that what they’re doing could “totally be innocuous”. Read the handbook. FDS is not about arguing “if”. The “if” and “not all” is implied, and we only deal head on with validating women’s experience with scrotes without questioning “what if I’m wrong?” That’s pick me behavior, and an attempt to gaslight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 11:21 AM |
| 29 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorAnd, you can be their token to prove that they’re not racist like other Trumpers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 11:13 AM |
| 64 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorOh, white teen girls totally fetishize black men and MoC to piss their parents off - and possibly piss off black and WoC by “rubbing it in their face” that those black and WoC women can’t keep their men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 11:10 AM |
| 121 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorThere’s a group of libfems who think it’s racist to hold black men accountable because “ThEy ArE ViCTiMs of the white patriarchy too, and it’s not their fault” So, while they won’t engage, they won’t clap back either because they’re afraid of looking racist. No bb girl, LV is LV is LV as LV will ever be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 10:56 AM |
| 5 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 36 -Barstool Sport‘s Dave Portnoy: Let‘s Roast This (Alleged) RapistI read this article when it came out bc Portnoy had down a pizza review by me. The first time I watched him do a review, I was immediately repulsed by him. Nothing about his r*pist behaviors surprise me. I hope he comes back to my city because I have some “words” for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:11 AM |
| 22 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.I learned this term recently, and felt like, “yes, yes, that’s me” - I’m talking about what the definition actually means, and not the definition that’s about needing a connection to have sex, which is most women. For me, It’s about attraction. I have never been attracted to someone based on looks alone. While all my girlfriends were all, “oh look at that hot guy over there, hubba hubba” I could not see/feel what they were seeing/feeling. I thought I was broken for awhile. Turns out, I need conn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:14 AM |
| 35 | This is terrifying. Scrote at a thrift store tries to lure a 17 year old at to his farm talking about getting injured and needing help.My name is Lori - aka Ted Bundy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:32 PM |
| 10 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseYou can leave on read AND block delete with IPhone:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 12:23 PM |
| 27 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseThe only response. Bye bye, scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 12:21 PM |
| 77 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.Every day. Every. Single. Day. I asked myself: do these people really need the whole internet to convince them that their partner is LV? Yes. They do. And it’s annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:32 PM |
| 11 | Any career-focused ladies have dating advice?My ex husband married me knowing I wanted my PhD, he supported me while I was trying, engaged in my work, read my papers, etc. , and now he’s remarried to a woman who has one. Both of my sons are committed to educated career-track women :) They exist! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:34 PM |
| 26 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.For TWO EFFING YEARS home girl bought that excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:40 AM |
| 11 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.I bet if we could read their texts from the last 2 years, we’d see all the red flags that homegirl totally missed. I mean, her best relationship ever is a covert narc with covert narc family members hiding his daughter and baby mama that he’s definitely still fucking?! “He loved me enough to propose to me.” WTF?!? Baby girl is a pickmeisha. Also, Not being able to just “show up” anytime you want FOR 2 YEARS?!? Because of the dog?!?! No. There are so many other ways to mitigate that situation. SM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:35 AM |
| 24 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?I’m confused. Did you allow PIV without foreplay/enough foreplay? This is an opportunity to vet. If a man starts taking his pants off and I’m not ready, I say so. His reaction to this is where the dealbreaker lies. Does he joyfully offer more foreplay, letting you know that you’re safe to ask for what you want; that he values your desire for more foreplay; that he wants to please you because he respects you? If so, carry on. If he unwillingly does what you ask, just so he can get laid, it will b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | To dress up for dates or show up as you are?If you feel good, you look good, is my perspective. It doesn’t matter what I put on my body. My goal is to feel good, first and foremost. If a man is turned off by that, he’s not for me. I mean, be presentable, but don’t go out of your way to “look” the part that you think he’s expecting. Be YOU. And, if that’s wearing a pair of jeans, t-shirt and sneakers to a coffee date, because it’s comfortable to you, then do that, bc that’s who you are. I’ve never dressed differently than normal bc that’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:36 PM |
| 24 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!I never understood this tactic. Part of getting turned on, for me, is knowing that they are digging me. If they’re ambivalent, I’m completely turned off. Most likely it’s because I know it’s a play “hard to get” game, and I don’t do games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:38 AM |
| 44 | I don’t cook nor clean for any manMy poor mom was conditioned to do the same. The fucked up part was that he gambled all the money needed to pay bills, so my mom had to work AND cook/clean. Before she died, I begged her to leave. But, I understood her position: “after all the work I put into this house, I’m not going anywhere.” So, she stayed and found a boyfriend who treated her right, and there was nothing my scrote dad could do about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 03:09 PM |
| 19 | I don’t cook nor clean for any manI’m the cook in the relationship. I’m just better at it. He will pick up slack if I ask. In exchange, he does all the cleaning (I’d much rather cook than do the clean up) and laundry. I don’t even know how to operate our washer and dryer…lol…bc I’ve never used it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 03:04 PM |
| 27 | I knew I wasn't crazy to think that BDSM/rough sex is wildly incompatible with respecting someoneI think she’s my ex-pickmeisha-best friend 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 12:33 PM |
| 10 | Role of a therapistIt really depends on the modality. With a psychoanalyst, for example, they are 💯 your advocate and don’t say a whole lot. The idea is that you will hear yourself and make your own connections. CBT, is cognitive behavior therapist and that’s where you’re more likely to hear their opinion from a CBT perspective. Look for a therapist who has their own therapist as those therapist are less likely to experience counter transference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 04:56 PM |
| 45 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesMy ex husband, his wife, me, my husband and all the kids get together once a month. We have a great time. My ex and I were very young when we married, our divorce was actually easy - we shared an attorney, and we agreed to co-parent to the best of our ability. We didn’t have this close relationship right away bc even tho the divorce was mutual, it still hurt to separate a family. And, his new wife had to be ok with it too..,which she gave a us very appropriate space to heal and not interfere wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 09:18 AM |
| 10 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endI have to agree. Unless he was arrested and/or charged, I think it’s fake. Also, what the hell with the cat in the cart with no carrier?! Walmart shopping centers are wild. Either way, this stuff does happen. However, we need to be believed more than anything and staging abuse does not help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:05 PM |
| 66 | When negging is made mainstream!Right?! Oh, ok, so you don’t remember what your date looks like, and you think that will subconsciously turn me on because I look close enough to the woman you forgot about, and I’m going to be convinced that I’m so fucking special that you’d actually remember me. These tactics are for pick-me’s, which is the kind of women they say they don’t want, yet it’s the only type they prey on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:42 PM |
| 41 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setup“I mean, didn’t she just perform her wifey duties like she was supposed to? I don’t understand why I’m supposed to be indebted to that!” /s Ok, I’ll humor myself for a second here and follow his logic - if she was just doing what she’s supposed to traditionally then it’s time for him to do what he’s traditionally supposed to - TWO MONTHS SALARY, scrotebag. Ante up the 12g ring, and consider it even. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:56 AM |
| 15 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupMmmhmmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:50 AM |
| 3 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeYes, I understood that you were not a swinger. I meant the lifestyle of going outside of the marriage, multiple partners, in general. I’m glad you were able to see that you no longer wanted to be than in a position that causes harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:31 PM |
| 17 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeOh, babe. Thanks for sharing that with me. I’ve never had anyone lay it out there like you did. I’m so glad you came around to realize that you want better for yourself - that you were able to clearly see that “the lifestyle” was not beneficial to you (and other women). I say this with Queen-love: Please, for your own safety, remove your city from your comment. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 04:57 PM |
| 59 | Men cannot be trusted with an idea like polyamory and its popularity shows how naive and desperate women have becomeMany moons ago I roommated with a single (she was looking) woman who was poly. On one hand they (her and her friends) talked about jealousy “in the lifestyle” like it was just another emotion like being angry or sad, that folks in the lifestyle are very good at navigating. On the other hand, there was so much jealousy drama…like non stop “communication”. This woman was pushing 40, getting dressed up several nights of the week, to go out after 10 pm, and get home at 3-4 am. She was very depressed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:06 AM |
| 305 | Watched a man be who he was when he thought no one was watching IRL. There are far more tricks to hide activity than I ever knew.I work with a guy who openly said to me the other day, in his very thick Russian accent, “I don’t understand men on men; women on man, I do understand.” I just gave him a blank stare. He then says, (he’s also a cabbie) “but sometimes, if they cannot afford they cab fare, I let them nibble on it a bit.” So yeah, he went from ‘hates gays’ to ‘but it’s fine when I need to be gay for money.’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:19 AM |
| 71 | Saw the vetting through first date questions post and wanted to share a tiktok on reasoning why he might not like cats!Holy moly!!!! You are right!!!! I just got narc-discarded by a friend. And she friggiin hates, and I mean hates cats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 07:39 AM |
| 9 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?My culture doesn’t put any emphasis on water as cleanser but it absolutely should…lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:14 PM |
| 55 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I hear you!!! I love going down on women!!! Like, it’s a beautiful garden to roll around in 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:08 PM |
| 96 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?😆 I thought the same. My friend was trying to help her brother get a date. I asked what was his type. She said, skinny with no curves…like at all… Um? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:05 PM |
| 52 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?Yup! and any man who enjoys that type of humiliation against a woman is probably porn sick. my current partner would be mortified if I attempted a traditional bj - like, “what I’m the devil is you doin down there like that…” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:02 PM |
| 278 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?If I am in love with him, then I enjoy love-making to all of his body parts, including his dick. However, I’m not into “giving a blowjob” like, a start and finish type thing. It has to be organic and a part of lovemaking, like I would with his neck or ears. Making it the primary focus? Like, I give a blowjob, finish, and that was the session? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:36 PM |
| 17 | Raised on porn - documentaryYeah, it was so bad we had to transfer him out of his school. The parents were asleep. They later denied that “their son would do that”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:22 AM |
| 23 | So I just discovered what demisexuality isI feel you on the labels, but you’d be surprised how many women will talk about how “their panties are wet, thinking about that hot guy” they saw earlier or even at the moment. I think what this term is specifically referring to is finding people attractive and having a visceral reaction, like your face flushing, hands sweating, nervous-talking, when you are in their company before getting to know them. Growing up, and still sometimes even, my girlfriends will talk and even behave this way if th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:51 PM |
| 30 | Raised on porn - documentarySomething less terrifying than rape happened to my son when he was 11, but still gross. His best friend had little supervision over what he watched and he thought it would be funny to reenact while my son was asleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:27 PM |
| 24 | Raised on porn - documentaryI’m so happy you’re talking to him now. You’re a great mom. I’m not sure I remember what I used for my sons when they were that age, but if I remember or see something, I’ll pass it along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 34 | Raised on porn - documentaryThis made me literally cry. I have 2 sons. They have been talked to at length and in depth about the devastating effects of porn. I think they are ok - they’re both in healthy relationships with HVW, but I’ll never really know. It’s my young nieces and nephews who will be inundated and force fed these “movies” that somehow legally get away with the promotion of violence against women because it’s categorized as porn - as if that makes it better. That makes it a million times worse, because of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 08:20 PM |
| 8 | FDS going privateThis was my thought too, as it seemed to happen immediately following that cry-baby post. | /r/askFDS | 10/10/21 10:47 AM |
| 26 | You are not an equal opportunity employer. Your intimate relationships are not centers of civil rights. Your body and mind are not subject to anti-discrimination standards.They are struck dumb when the response is “if you want to split the date bill, then don’t go on dates with women who expect you to pay; find one willing to split the bill,” to the demand that was, basically, “society needs to ‘get rid of the standard that men should pay’” Yes, they want ALL of society to put out a memo, bulletin, billboard to ALL of society that men shouldn’t have to pay on first dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:17 PM |
| 13 | The straw that broke the camels back for me, and what has turned me angry and bitter against men is not only the abuse they've subjected me to, but the fact that I'm 28 years old and no man has never even gifted me a bouquet.This may be something we could get going, like a clothing swap but with flowers:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 09:54 AM |
| 3 | Yes, that’s EXACTLY what I’m saying, and I won’t stop saying it.Thanks, sis. He was my adopted Dad, so at least it’s not in my blood. Although, bio dad isn’t much better. FFS. If it wasn’t so tragic, it would be laughable how in denial we are that this is a man problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 05:10 PM |
| 4 | Yes, that’s EXACTLY what I’m saying, and I won’t stop saying it.Those covert narcs are also covert rapist that men don’t want to address. And these women, who almost facilitate the rape, devastate me. I mean, that’s some deep rooted hatred of the femininity of the self. Sigh. My father was the covert sicko until he died and still only a handful of people know that he was a piece of shit. I only talk to those people. I don’t trust not one of the others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 05:07 PM |
| 6 | Yes, that’s EXACTLY what I’m saying, and I won’t stop saying it.Queen, I hear you. I heal with you. I respect you. We have every right to be wary of every single man we see. My own father pimped me out when I was 11. For the simple fact that he wanted to be liked. Of course that scrote couldn’t handle what we’ve been through; they can’t even handle not being liked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:58 PM |
| 19 | Yes, that’s EXACTLY what I’m saying, and I won’t stop saying it.Holy heck!!!!!!!!! My story of some exes is very similar. And this is precisely why I assume it’s all men. Funny how some of these wokies would lose their shit if we said “not all white people” bc yes, we know it’s not all, but black people have every right to assume it is. This is the same logic they use for anti-racism (and I agree), but how dare women use this logic. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:14 PM |
| 31 | Yes, that’s EXACTLY what I’m saying, and I won’t stop saying it.Oh, someone already commented a link to a stat that WoMeN dO iT tOo. I didn’t open it because it’s dumb, and I’ve never heard a man say he’s afraid to leave his drink at the bar while he goes to pee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:07 PM |
| 1 | And y’all are still using OLD?A shitty ass Mets fan. Sorry, Mets fans…lol I kid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:21 AM |
| 3 | "I know it's not actually 'cheating' per say" uum excuse me what 😀Yup. If you don’t want to be viewed as a scrote, don’t be a scrote. For years, I held off on writing my autobiography to protect my scrote dad. Not today. If that book gets published, the facts are the facts and he should have been a better dad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 1 | "I know it's not actually 'cheating' per say" uum excuse me what 😀😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:22 PM |
| 5 | "I know it's not actually 'cheating' per say" uum excuse me what 😀I once found a friend (a guy) sniffing my mom’s underwear when we were teens. I kicked him in the dick. They start scrote-ing at a very young age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:22 PM |
| 7 | Look who apparently "Picked Up" COVID (screenshot lifted from a sub almost as reviled as this one...😆)All those mysterious symptoms just came out of no where! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:14 PM |
| 0 | Perfect example of a lovebomb - Dr WendyThank you. I also remember being reminded that if we are going to talk about specific cultures, they have to be our experience of said culture. When I read that, I thought she was just clarifying her location, so she wasn’t coming off as a generalizer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Perfect example of a lovebomb - Dr WendyShe looks amazing!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:05 PM |
| 40 | Excuse me?Anyone man who requests that his wife stop breastfeeding is jealous. And creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:14 AM |
| 21 | Excuse me?Fucking ouch. Fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:12 AM |
| 25 | Excuse me?I hope her breast milk is still an option and she can just go back to that and hide all the damn formula until she’s able to get his weird ass out of the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:11 AM |
| 58 | Excuse me?I’ve tried my own milk, so did my husband, just out of curiosity. But this isn’t that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:09 AM |
| 41 | Excuse me?There’s no way this deranged brain is just now revealing itself. If she properly vetted, he would have been a goner on date 1. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 10:07 AM |
| 15 | Jesus wept (photo not mine)Ugh. When I was dating after my divorce, someone asked a person I was dating, bc I had children, if my vagina was loose. Oy vey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Scrote: I have $7.5 M in assets, my wife has cancer, we have three little kids, if I quit my job I might resent the fact that I never got to my arbitrary $10 M target, I'm thinking of leaving her because the stress is too much for meWait, I’m not seeing the part where he talks about volunteering?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 08:53 PM |
| 13 | I went and read comments about the Korean Marriage situation and thought this one was greatI wonder if this will create a law to force women to marry? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 08:38 AM |
| 22 | I went and read comments about the Korean Marriage situation and thought this one was greatI work with 13 -14 y/o girls in the US. Unlike when I was a kid, most have no interest in getting married. They want to work in STEM and have their own house and maybe have a boyfriend to go on dates with. Not only that, but since being gay is less stigmatized, they seem perfectly fine coupling up with another woman. They truly see men as “just not worth the effort” for the return. Especially — 13 year old boys aren’t exactly making themselves attractive - and not necessarily by looks and hygien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 08:33 AM |
| 57 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.BC if they call it out, they’d be tip-toeing around shaming. And they don’t dare shame men for kinks. I work with transition age youth (13-23) who have experience with various challenges (anything from autism to homelessness) and I’ll tell you what, these are some sassy kids who don’t care about what society tells them to do with their body. They are leaders in their community, and call it out just as they see it - lol, 13 y/o DO NOT care at all about your feelings of shame. Because of this, I v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:24 AM |
| 5 | The level of mental gymnastics hereBbbbut…ThAt’S KiNk ShAmInG…😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:58 AM |
| 8 | The level of mental gymnastics here🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:56 AM |
| 16 | The level of mental gymnastics hereAsking someone to pick up their shorts is considered nagging because they might die? We’re all gonna die. And we’re all supposed to behave like grown ups in between the time we live and die. She could just as easily used the same thought process - “I’m not trying to die with a legacy as an underwear-picker-upper of grown men.” Set the underwear on fire! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:55 AM |
| 36 | The level of mental gymnastics hereThis was nice to read 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:45 AM |
| 3 | The level of mental gymnastics hereMmmmhmmm…you’re damn right they ain’t come home……….BECAUSE THEY DIDN’T PICK UP THEIR FART-SHORTS and I kicked them tf out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 09:41 AM |
| 2 | Jewish Women- Please Be Careful Out ThereOk, that is kinda funny ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:55 PM |
| 10 | Jewish Women- Please Be Careful Out There“Is it true that Jews are dirty?” “I’d love to play Monopoly with you, Jews always win.” And my favorite, “Jew broads give great head.” I could go on and on. Vile. But guess what?! When anti semitism is on the rise, I get a bigger Star to wear around my neck. Soon I’m gonna look like Flava Flav. I’m sorry, Queen. Thank you for your post. Shalom. 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:06 PM |
| 17 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menWow!!!!!!!! I love this so much. I was just talking to a dear friend about this yesterday. I have such a problem with accepting the truth about toxic friends because I’ve been conditioned to believe that I am hysterical, and therefore, so must be my intuition. Every. Single. Red Flag at first sight was excused, and what’s worse, I gave them a green flag in a pretty bouquet of flowers. I’m wiser today for having FDS Queens on my side, who tell me straight up - “that person is garbage, block-delet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 10:18 AM |
| 5 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?Actually it’s FDS that is awesome because he defers to us, and not his dumb “woke” internet “friends”. Guess who has a HVW in his life? Guess who cherishes her like the Queen she is?! He does. And he’s not afraid to call it out despite the overwhelming college-age opinions to the contrary. His close friends go to him now for dating advice! I love it. All credit to FDS for demanding our worth :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:27 AM |
| 5 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?I feel like you just described my high-school boyfriend. He went down my pants, while we were kissing, and stopped to slap me in the face HARD, because I was aroused. I returned the favor. He then spread very nasty rumors about me, and was literally bragging that he r**** me. I ran into him later at a nightclub I was working. I told the bouncers what he did to me. Sweet revenge was paid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?Did she know that usually the “violent” women she’s referring to are defending themselves? And that that’s likely why “you just don’t hear about it as much”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:07 AM |
| 5 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?My son was just having this argument with a tik tok-er. He always responds with, “dude, the only time you promote equality is when you are trying to get out of paying for a meal or you want to hit a girl back…GTFO - stop trying to justify your desire to hit women.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 11:00 AM |
| 6 | Black women are not protected, LVM plans to rob a woman and goes to her home pretending to want her number.I’m so sorry that this is your experience. On a regular basis, I can hear the conversations from out front of my house by black men. On too many occasions, I hear them shit-talking black women - their mothers, their sisters, their wives, and their girlfriends. The irony is that while they’re wielding weapons to defend their turf, they’re complaining about how aggressive black women are. Unfuckingbelievable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.We try not to give to many details about our skin, hair, eye color on Reddit, especially on FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 08:44 AM |
| 19 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.I’m still laughing at this hours later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:49 PM |
| 45 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.This is the same guy who also hoovers for a vase that was his grandma’s. I threw that thing in the trash when we broke up, and I told him I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:48 PM |
| 4 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Yup. Well, to be fair, he is always working when he meets them… then boom he suddenly loses his jobs once the woman is in love. He’s a classic narc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:36 PM |
| 5 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:34 PM |
| 9 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.It’s truly night and day. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 08:31 PM |
| 41 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Ya know, if I was going to respond (I’m not), I would say, “so you admit to using me for sex and money, like I said you were when I broke up with you?” We were both in a position, at the time, of “needing” each other. I only ever gave him money if he was willing to work for it. But still, that’s a pretty sweet set up. As for the sex, oddly, I likely used him for sex more than he used me. I hate to admit it, but he was a really tender lover, and the sex was the one thing about him that was redeem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:24 PM |
| 15 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.They hate us, yet want to be us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 05:11 PM |
| 9 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.This exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:53 PM |
| 18 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:52 PM |
| 32 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Yoooooooo!!! That’ll learn ‘em! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:49 PM |
| 12 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Yep. And he’ll still text me later with a with a new number. In his mind, he thinks the reason I didn’t respond is bc I didn’t have his new number saved and didn’t know who it was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 04:47 PM |
| 26 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Lol…yeah…um… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:32 PM |
| 53 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.He already did. It’s like pages of drama between his dad and child (I didn’t read it all…just bla bla…dad is on crack…like clearly a talk to text deal) before he even asked for friendship. He must think I’m desperate for a juicy story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:30 PM |
| 19 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Haha. Oh the temptation to request Venmo for my services is boiling… a Queen posted this suggestion to this thread…😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:26 PM |
| 53 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Oh, he offered to buy me an expensive tea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:45 PM |
| 65 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:42 PM |
| 87 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.He’s never called me that before - a new low for him, and too obvious that he’s using it to act like his intention is platonic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:04 PM |
| 38 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Yes. It was from the start of the relationship. I should not have been dating at that time in my life. I was unwell, and grieving my marriage (and some other things). He fit like a glove. I wanted to care for someone (replace my husband) and he wanted to be cared for (replace his mom). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:01 PM |
| 61 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.He’s a very very good-looking charismatic man. He does not have a hard time getting women to pine over him. Nor does he have a hard time making friends nor does he struggle with being alone - he’s an introvert. He’s been regretful since I broke up with him, as he just couldn’t believe it. No one has ever broken up with him. He’s not interested in the ones who chase him. He thinks that I’m going to fall for his invitation for friendship, and then somehow suss out if I’m still in love. That’s all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:53 PM |
| 58 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.For the 3 years of our relationship, I was post divorce- raw and vulnerable. I was very much a pickme. I think he thought that would go on forever, and that tge 12th time i broke it off for not getting my needs met, wasn’t real and that I was not interested in whatever lies he was telling me to get me back. It’s been 6 years and I haven’t budged or given any hint that I am remotely interested. He still thinks I’m the same women from 2012. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:48 PM |
| 108 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.They think they have us in their back pocket | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:11 PM |
| 114 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.I’m trying to figure that out myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:56 AM |
| 302 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Yeah, the “hey sister” is a new low for him. He also asked me to meet up with him…and that he’d buy me a very expensive cup of tea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:38 AM |
| 159 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.Oh, I do. He changes his number at least 2 times a year because he can’t keep a job to pay for a contract, so every so often, I’ll get a text like this. We broke up 6 years ago. My “friendship” must’ve been quite memorable. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:35 AM |
| 131 | A Text from an Ex. Have a field day, Queens.That’s amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 11:32 AM |
| 69 | FDS is not the place for you if you’re not willing to examine your own attitudes, beliefs and behavioursYup. Yup. I’d rather step on your toes than dance on your grave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 02:17 PM |
| 2 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩Lol, yeah, us old queens are not easy to entertain …and I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:36 AM |
| 2 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩He stole it all from his Mommy’s vanity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 09:33 AM |
| 32 | Bette Midler recommends all women refuse to have sex with menI came here to see that comment— or write in…whatever came first. ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 10:37 PM |
| 20 | Thank you mods! But I missed this sub.My partner and I are in recovery (very long term - I’m mental health, he’s substance) and when we decided to get serious, that was rule #1 - if one of us relapses, the relationship can not survive. We know this bc we know how we behave when we’re “active”. We know that, for us, “loving us through the relapse” is not only enabling, it’s futile. When folks are in the midst of type of behavior love does not penetrate them because they only care about getting their next fix/feeling. By default, livi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:00 AM |
| 27 | Men actually do know how dangerous other men can beI made this same comment about a week ago on another sub; was downvoted to hell. I was corrected by someone that that first group was all interpreters (thooooose are the ones that are in the most daaaaanger). No. Women and children are in the most danger. And, ok, fine, I’ll give them that…get the interpreters out first…but what’s the excuse today?!?!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:08 AM |
| 3 | I blocked and deleted ...I’m proud of you!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:29 AM |
| 58 | Welp this proves it.You ain’t ever told no lie, Queen! I’ve been asking men this question (seriously) since I was a little girl, when I would hear the way my Uncles would talk about their wives. As I 5 year old, it was just simple logic. “Why are you married to someone you don’t like?!” I was too young for a complex answer but that question stayed in my little girl brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 09:35 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!If you’re using from a PC, all new posts are on the front of forum home. Same for the application. Problem is, there aren’t a lot of posters. If we all started posting there, instead of here, it would be jumping! And, if we all donated to Patreon, the Queens who do this all for free, can actually get paid for it, which means they have more time to make FDS even more awesome! Right now, this amazing service is being provided for free, and I’ll tell you what FDS has inspired so much positive chang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:49 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!When I first signed up, it was closed to new membership…so a few months, but once they opened it back up, a few days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!See my ETA. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:51 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!See my ETA :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!See my ETA :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!See my ETA :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 1 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!See my ETA :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:49 AM |
| 3 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!It takes a little trial by error to figure it out. Things that were helpful to know: - Patreon is separate from FDS. - don’t forget to send a verification from a social media platform. I used my old Twitter account. - you should Download the Spaces by Wix application - keep checking your email for the code to get approved. -send that email to FDS immediately For Patreon - download the Acast app so it’s ready when you decide to listen to your exclusive podcast. If you continue to hit a wall, emai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:45 AM |
| 100 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.When I was still dating I let everyone I dated know what I thought of sex work - men and women. The ones who were even slighly contrary or even a little bit uncomfortable got canned. My current partner was the only one who looked me in the eye and said, I agree wholeheartedly. Apparently when he was younger his scrote roommate called him a prostitute, unbeknownst to him, and of course the roommate left the apartment, so my partner was stuck. He explained that she looked so beat down, defeated, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:58 PM |
| 14 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.It is the only business that relies solely on young women being sexually abused, to later exploit them. If sexual trauma didn’t exist, neither would sex work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:43 PM |
| 2 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!Check the first comment in each post from the AutoMod [1] | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:37 PM |
| 20 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!Yeah, they had to table new membership to work out the bugs, but all good now. It may take a little time before getting approved, but the wait (for screening so scrotes don’t invade) is worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:26 PM |
| 27 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!Membership isn’t sparse, but participation is. I hope we can move away from Reddit :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:38 PM |
| 8 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!Hooray! Can’t wait to “see” you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 03:26 PM |
| 13 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....“Men have important things to say.” What in the actual devil do they believe is so important that we need to hear?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:31 PM |
| 7 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.Oy vey!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 05:40 PM |
| 12 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.Dag. Larry is a whole ass fool. SIS!!!! See, this right here is why you stay TF away from scrotes, pickmeishas, and their flying fucking monkeys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:00 PM |
| 134 | What does the FDS think about being a stay at home mum?FDS is about maximizing our benefit. Only you can decide if being a SAHM benefits you - not us, not your friends, not the baby’s father. I loved my time as a SAHM. My only caveat is to make sure you stay connected to your career, just in case things don’t work out. I didn’t do that, and I paid severely when I got divorce. As for your boyfriend, just no. It’s opinion is not only garbage, it’s none of his damn business! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 02:22 PM |
| 27 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.Oooooohhhh…just has multiple women last minute scrubbing they ass for him…lol… Also, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this bull. You deserve to rest in your home peacefully:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:55 AM |
| 58 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.This is just all kinds of gross. First, baby mama should be in the picture, and they should have a healthy relationship so they can raise healthy HV children together. Your friend doesn’t give AF about anyone but herself. For me, I’d be real upfront and tell her that you will not participate in any way, shape, or form, in infidelity ESPECIALLY with children involved. Narcs are notorious for attracting drama, so don’t be surprised if a baby-mama-drama ends up knocking down your door. Tell Pickmei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:41 AM |
| 66 | Don't send nudes to friend-turned hookups!!Also, never let your pickmeisha friend take a picture of you in nature embracing your body positive naked experience to keep for your own private memories. if they are pickmeisha, they will send that picture to their husband so she can say…”look how much fatter she is, than me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 42 | It is ALWAYS about them.Hmmm…seems like sex positivity is guided by…hmmm?!? Men perhaps?! We know damn well they are still mentally slut shaming her behind her back. To her face: nah, baby, you’re like one of the guys…so cool that you don’t have standards… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:17 PM |
| 46 | SNOOPING 101Right?! If they hate us, they will always be mad…bc it’s not really us they’re mad at…it’s their itty bitty self esteem that they believe is our job to correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:08 PM |
| 49 | It is ALWAYS about them.ETA: my fat thumb upvoted it, before I snapped the picture, and realized. Trust and believe I did downvote;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:29 PM |
| 48 | A man attacked three women on a busy street and no white knight came to the rescue...I say eggs. See my username. Because I have big eggs and I ain’t afraid to use them ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 09:49 AM |
| 7 | “Oh the breadcrumbs Look Gretel, there are a lot of sweets down this path but it will end in a fiery oven for you or you have to shove his ass in to save yourself.” 😭I still have a scrote attempting to track me down for his grandma vase. After multiple attempts of explicitly letting him know I threw it out, and him not believing me, I went to the dollar store and bought a vase, screenshot it, and texted, “I found your vase.” His response: “that’s not the right vase…you threw it out, didn’t you?!?!” Hahaha…yes, fool, that’s what I told you a year ago, but you refuse to believe that there’s no longer a physical object to connect us. Yes, I block delete, but he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 11:33 AM |
| 1 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”Hell YES! I’m enjoying that technique so hard right now with a certain narc in my life rn. Especially the covert ones…but fortunately I have been blessed with the ability to see that knife in their one evil eye, while the other eye is love-bombing. And, just when they trust you, that irrational rage comes out (just a bit, to test you), then they apologize and if you accept apology…within a month, you’ll get the full rage. They are laughable as you say!!!! 😂😂😂 Thanks for the giggles | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:21 PM |
| 27 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.I agree. As a mom who really tries hard to honor autonomy, I had to let go of fear when they explored different politics. I realized it wasn’t about their intrinsic value, but rather attempting to separate from Moms identity, to have their own. They both swung back, I think, bc I didn’t shame the person they were exploring. My youngest has been sharing HV traits that I share with him from FDS, with his friends, and they are actually picking up what he’s putting down. Young men want direction; sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:13 PM |
| 5 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”They truly are more transparent than they think…er…they actually believe they look superior…doh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 4 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”Oooooo…me too. The second I get a whiff of that type of competition, I’m out. I am very attached to the idea of respecting, and not competing with, a person’s autonomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:21 PM |
| 38 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.Thank you. Still scary to me that they’re will always be tempted by man-culture to be scrotes. I’m mostly sure they’re not, but fuck, that culture is pervasive:( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 12:18 PM |
| 13 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”I forget which podcast it was but after asking a bunch of women who experienced covert narc Moms growing up, there was actually a common anthem that the narcs all sang all the time, 🎵 anything you can do, I can do better…I can do anything better than you🎵 yup. I kid you not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 143 | Here’s what a HVM looks like in his own words, then shared by a guy friend who I know is a HVM to his wife.My oldest son tried some ish when he was a teen “not fair that I don’t get paid to do chores!!” No, son, this is a family home, and if you are part of it, you contribute to it operating smoothly. No one gets paid for doing what’s right. You get to live in a nice home, in a nice city, go to a great school, eat well, and otherwise want for nothing. You’re welcome to trade places with some one less fortunate, and I open the door - that homeless person would be grateful to do your chores for your co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:09 AM |
| 3 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…Thank you. That means a lot :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:55 PM |
| 32 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…Libfems do it too, sadly :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:04 PM |
| 29 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…Do you know how many men (and wokie libfems) love to play DA in regards to my relationship with Israel? It never ends. When I ask why they care about a conflict that has nothing to do with them … they say…”I care about world peace.” Yeah, ok, didn’t you just choke your woke pickme wife…for pleasure?! World peace my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:02 PM |
| 53 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…OMG!! I got one too. And I was like…”oh…ouch…burn…yeah, you really showed me…” hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 16 | Markers of AbuseKudos to us all!! Every session every week I want to cancel …and I’m always glad I didn’t:) But yes. We were robbed. That’s what they do. Lie cheat steal. And ya know what? I’ll keep going to my therapy, I’ll keep leveling up and they’ll keep laying in their own filth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:48 PM |
| 9 | Markers of AbuseAfter my divorce was the first time I ever had my own bedroom. Never going back ….;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 4 | Markers of AbuseThis is something I am going to print and put on my refrigerator. You never know who will read it (eh hem, a dear friend of mine who is coming to terms with a covert-scrote-narc NVM). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 11 | Markers of AbuseEven in a healthy relationship, I like to have my own bedroom…lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 28 | Markers of AbuseI was raised by a covert narc NVM. It’s takes a hell of a lot of willpower to deprogram and heal your brain. Hats off to you for getting out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:33 PM |
| 4 | Markers of AbuseWhat does monkey-branching look like? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 15 | John Lennon was a horrible man.Commercial radio is absolute garbage that play nothing but pop songs meant to brainwash you during a 4-minute jingle that you’ll hear over and over again. In between the 4 minutes, you get brainwashed by another 20 of commercials. Buy this, be a cool-slut, “yes, daddy” is sexy, viagra is normal, vaginas are gross, you have a mental illness, and so on… Ladies, we have power over this! Let’s level up, pay for a music subscription and support music that doesn’t perpetuate rape and pediphlia! ETA: B… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:10 PM |
| 54 | John Lennon was a horrible man.Bob Marley was out there purposely spreading his seed. People talk about him like he was a prophet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 4 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Yeah, I’ll drive and pay…and when it’s over…there will be no romance…but you will thoroughly clean my house while I point and shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:02 PM |
| 11 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Lol…I’m pretty sure my brother would have very strong words/maybe hands for this fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:59 AM |
| 21 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!I know of a guy who took a woman out (that I also know). He paid. She ghosted him bc she was not interested. He later saw her at a mutual event and……………ASK HER FOR A REFUND!!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:57 AM |
| 22 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Hanging out of the side of his best friend’s ride, tryin to holler at me … 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:54 AM |
| 14 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!These women all need to read Lysistrata, and understand the power of their p. Cut these scrotes off. This one in particular thinks the world of himself. Why would he attempt to be the best version of himself if women are giving it up for free…shit, some of them give up the goods and get NOTHING in return. Shoot, I’ll cut my husband off for a lot less. I mean c’mon…know your worth…know your value…and USE IT! You want to get into my beautiful mind, and hear my beautiful thoughts? you want to watch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:49 AM |
| 18 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?Literally broke. He couldn’t even masterbate. This was the response after I tried something new in the shower. Talk about fucking with my self esteem. I thought it/I was sexy af, and he’s over there trying to get it up. I was very young then. I now know it was never me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:59 PM |
| 10 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?Ask the locals what brands they prefer. If your state has medical cannabis, there’s likely a sub for it, and someone there should be able to guide you. Or check Weedmaps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:30 PM |
| 24 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?Sadly, the best lover I’ve ever had - gah the man was t e n d e r - was a complete narc. My libido didn’t know what to do! My ex husband thought penis-waving was foreplay. That did, in fact, screw up my desire for sex with him. And, initially, bc he has a great penis, I would get turned on by the sight of it, but eventually was like, “look man, it’s pretty and all, but you’re gonna have to put more into it.” All that did was create performance anxiety and limp dick. Cue divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:26 PM |
| 4 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaAmen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 11 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaI posted about this several months ago. It was taken down - I think because FDS wants to try to stay away from generalizing oppressed groups, unless it’s a personal experience of your respective group. For example I could say that Jewish men are (x) bc I grew up with Jewish culture. It made sense and I think it can be helpful:) But yes, I had a drag queen tell me that I had no idea how hard his job was? ….Um? What part? Acting like a mean bitch and being called fabulous for it?! Yeah, no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 06:38 PM |
| 15 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaI knew a woman who ate dirt on her first date bc she wanted the man to know that she had an eating disorder called PICA. Girl! Any man that finds you more attractive after you ate dirt, is in fact dirt himself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:18 AM |
| 26 | Say NO to bonding over past traumaI actually had a gay man best friend - what could the harm be if he’s not attracted to me. But he was attracted to the idea that we’d be a “Will & Grace” couple, and in a sense, we were. We did everything that couples do, sans sex. Well, about a year after dating my current partner, he decided that he was tired of being second, when he used to be first. As soon as I mentioned that he and I are getting married, he stopped calling me. He did drop off food and visit when my Dad died, but that was t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:06 AM |
| 71 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?I used to always ask if they were into mani-pedi - gives me insight to their comfortability with self care. I love to roller skate. It’s not expensive, but again - if they don’t really like to roller skate, but are willing to put on a pair to express that they value my interests, that’s a good sign. If they belly-ache, they’re likely to belly ache about anything I like and they don’t moving forward. My current not only went (almost broke his ankle), but he bought me a pair of skates, do I didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 2 | The new dating scam.Oh, it’s strange! I grew up in a restaurant family, and I’ve dined all over the country (yum), and I’ve never witnessed a server preemptively make a suggestion for how the patrons should pay. They used to leave it in front of the man; now they leave it in the middle - although most servers I know secretly unfavorably judge men who don’t pay…lol ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:08 AM |
| 71 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.WTF?! Imagine having a penis so small that you have to micromanage the cleaning of a vagina?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 01:32 PM |
| 32 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.If she can find his itty bitty pp, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:39 AM |
| 37 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.What is “tissue bloating”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 11:38 AM |
| 13 | The new dating scam.What a friggin pickmeisha right there. Like srsly she cares so much about libfeminism so much that she’d berate another woman who actually had her back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:40 PM |
| 20 | The new dating scam.Exactly. In all my dining experiences (as a worker and patron) servers leave the check, tell them “no rush” and let them sort it out. Sounds like server was a bit of a pickmeisha who was clearly forcing her pickmeisha approach of “spitting” A true HV server would have put the check down in front of the dude…where it belongs…especially bc he did all the eating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:45 AM |
| 5 | The new dating scam.Doh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 06:39 PM |
| 150 | The new dating scam.Amen. Also, I’m furious that the server even suggested that they split, after he said he wanted separate. Just the fact that they were put on the spot like that…to figure it out…right then and there in front of the server. Bizzarro | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 22 | The open demand for ‘feminine, submissive’ women by LVM is cringy as hellI had a LVM tell me that the way I talk isn’t lady-like. I told him (tongue in cheek) the only trait I have that defines my lady-hood is my pssy - everything else *he made up. He never talked to me again. I Guess he thought insulting me would invite his control over me. He was fucking 5’3”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.So so true. Oy vey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.Lol…I’m not sweating it. Someone else up/down thread said something similar and got like 87 upvotes…so it’s just Reddit and sometimes we catch a troll…so to speak. Bc if it’s actual queens doing the downvoting…well, they need to level the f up, and stay away from Pickmes. Thank YOU Queen for having my back :) :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:54 AM |
| 10 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.Oh, Queen, I am so glad you put that garbage on the curb where it belongs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:35 PM |
| 47 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.I see them and I just …just cringe. I have a cousin with a glass eye. If I guy buys her a drink, after saying no, she takes out her eye and puts it in the drink. They leave her alone after that…lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:32 PM |
| 93 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.Same. And people got really irrationally mad at me when I was younger. The worst was the date that practically abandoned me at the restaurant when I told him I didn’t drink. So foolish I do like my cannabis though :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 11:49 AM |
| -2 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.What century is her friend from. Is she like a 100 year old fossil who hasn’t left the house, red a book, looked at the news in her entire life. Either way pick me hall of shame for the friend who immediately downed that drink. Bc she’s either stupid or desperate or both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 11:44 AM |
| 5 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushThey wouldn’t even pay her…just a hot and a cot is sufficient as well as something she should tbe grateful for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:09 PM |
| 6 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushI just some how ended up homeless. No. He decided alcohol was more important and he was quite confident that “some desperate lady” would bail him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:06 PM |
| 8 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushSo, we’re supposed to have our heartstrings tugged bc he’s homeless and “down on his luck” while ignoring the red flags - that he’s an alcoholic narc thief who demanded that she show up on time, only to arrive late while clearly not using that extra time to wash his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 12:01 PM |
| 6 | I Married a Homeless Man Living Under a BushWhy would they date when they can just r*pe them instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡Yup, while Bernie was campaigning on socialism, his son and baby mama were on welfare bc BS wasn’t paying support. https://www.vettingbernie.org/2019/03/deadbeat-dad-how-bernies-craven.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:47 AM |
| 4 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡The fact that they don’t see it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:44 AM |
| 2 | Wonder if she got picked at the end of the day 🤡The mental gymnastics they did around the fact that he never paid his baby mama child support…”BuT It WaS So LoNg AgO”. Tried using their argument for Hilary’s supposed transgressions … they weren’t having it…and SWORE it was not sexism bc they’re libfems…they couldn’t possibly sexist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:41 AM |
| 4 | Is this the logic they are using??? 🤦🏽♀️ So which is it? Are men rapists and violent towards women inherently or not?? Are men on board with this excuse?? 😹Oh. Ok. So I suppose when a man rapes a sex worker, then what?! More sex work?!? These are the elite who think they are better critical thinkers than the rest of the world. I’m too old for this crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:19 AM |
| 4 | An idea/game to try? Your affordable treat/splurge and financial advice for those of us still starting out or working on leveling up.Every Friday, I buy flowers (discounted), light Shabbat candles, sing prayers, eat challah (home made or store bought) and put my feet up (I don’t do anything that can be considered work) until 6 pm Saturday night. My good friends and HV partner know not to interrupt this sacred time. I don’t have much money to save, but I find that cooking mostly all my meals is what makes the flower and challah money accessible:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 07:09 PM |
| 14 | Eye-OpeneningThis is so lovely to read. Scrotes mad that pickmes aren’t doing as they’re told. I’m older than you and while I don’t struggle with being Pickme for men (I have a solid HVM), I struggle with being pickme in friendships. Thanks to FDS, I discovered that all the so called friends I desired, were LV. They’ve all gotten the boot and like covert narcs do, they are shocked that I have firm boundaries for them “the nicest people on earth.” Yeah, no. FDS offers ways for queens to maximize our benefit i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:46 AM |
| 5 | Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY.Wow! You really are on the ball!!! I’m so proud of you. Coming out of the narc fog is no joke, and here you are just naming it, and nope-ing right tf out. You’re knocking life out the park. Grateful to call you a FDS-sis ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:25 PM |
| 11 | Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY.He sounds like a covert narcissist. If you’re interested: Check out ‘the covert passive aggressive narcissist’ by Debbie Mirz I think it’s a perfect companion for some who is in therapy and is experiencing the revelation of being a victim of narc abuse. You’re kicking ass!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 11:57 AM |
| 60 | Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY.Therapist of sorts here. Do you know how many controlling men made their wives fire me because they were becoming empowered?!?! A LOT. Good for you, Queen. Block-delete!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | How do you make it clear from the start that you only want friendship?You can say all you want to him about not being romantically interested, but as long as you’re giving him attention, he’s going to believe he has a shot. This is the case 99.99% of the time. Why would you want to subtly tell him? That seems passive aggressively like leaving the door open to a possibility. Again, bc men are going to hold on to that, “well, she wasn’t explicit” What do you get out of this relationship that you can’t get from a female? It’s masculine sexual attention, platonic or n… | /r/askFDS | 23/06/21 10:39 AM |
| 55 | Reddit hates women who say size matters.As someone who prefers girth over length -My vagina is just small - I do not ever feel the need to protect men from their feelings being hurt if a woman prefers a big dick. I prefer a long tongue and big lips. I’m not getting off on a short tongue, thin lips. If these men respected personal preference, and didn’t take it personally, and upped their game in other areas, We wouldn’t be having this discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:40 PM |
| 9 | I don't know if I cut things off too quickly or if it's my anxiety talking.It’s narcissistic hovering on both your ends. You’re free to explore this with your therapist, but you can’t get dry in the rain. Block delete | /r/askFDS | 19/06/21 10:17 AM |
| 22 | “Build with him”Oh, I hope she divorces him and says, I was just waiting for the alimony check to grow, so I could trade you in for a decent human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 07:00 PM |
| 20 | “Build with him”And to say it in public!!! him even thinking that his wife has no value is grotesque enough, he did it on a soapbox. That’s pond scum low. And what type of value does he think he’s going to attract like that?!?! Like, they cry about “gold-digging” then turn around and “offer” gold AND believe it’s substantial gold. Sorry, I’m not sucking pond scum scrote for 6 figures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 06:54 PM |
| 38 | Much love to FDS, always ❤️There just has to be something off with these folks’ wiring to think that these 2 scenarios have anything in common. The underbelly of conditioned misogyny is so fierce that they can never allow their brains to process an iota of empathy for a (gasp) woman. No, instead, they dig heals as empathy would threaten their ability to control women for their own twisted entitlement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 7 | How to Navigate Friendship with a Man?In a perfect world, I agree. | /r/askFDS | 16/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 35 | How to Navigate Friendship with a Man?He is not interested in friendship, even if you’ve explicitly stated your platonic feelings. As long as you pick up the phone, he believes there’s a chance. I’m sorry. I know you’re enjoying the attention, but you can get that same excitement from a female that’s not trying to f**k you. If you can’t, then there is some subconscious sexual energy transferring that you are getting off on. | /r/askFDS | 16/06/21 04:38 PM |
| 66 | “Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” -@sheenie_weenie_, 2021 ADA rabb I know said a few years ago, and I’ll never forget his words, “in my day, if you wanted to be king, you had to treat your wife like the Queen” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:07 PM |
| 263 | “Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” -@sheenie_weenie_, 2021 ADIf I had 24 hours with her and she couldn’t say no? I’d have her sit and read the entirety of FDS Reddit, Twitter and Facebook, until she begged for mercy and admitted to perpetuating rape culture and promised to stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:06 AM |
| 8 | Posted this on FDS earlier - It was suggested I could post it hereI truly hope you are able impress this new found you to the men in your real life. Keep up the good work. | /r/askFDS | 11/06/21 11:40 PM |
| 30 | Jealous scrote tells his girlfriend that he hopes she gets raped - she asks ‘Should I end this relationship?’Breaking up with him is the least she should do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 01:05 PM |
| 14 | He Who Does Not Wash His Ass has nothing of value to say to you.Just EW. I’ve always been grateful for my mom’s wisdom: “good breath and good manners will get you a lot further than the opposite” Breath is the litmus test for me. If you don’t bother with the obvious hygiene, you’re definitely not bothering with the hidden hygiene. I attempted to date a guy who had all the traits of HVM, but his breath was foul. When I asked him if he had a dentist, he proudly said no. Proudly, like just having teeth was enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 08:34 AM |
| 28 | Thanks to FDS, this young adult isn't afraid of ageing anymore! 💕👸🏻This is not meant to slight the young, but a personal experience with aging. I was on the beach watching a group of younger women obsessed with how they look; taking selfies while they harshly critique their appearance. And for me, I’m fat (by my own standards that I’m ok with), stretched (gained and lost a lot), and squishy, yet in a bikini. Once I let go of the image society created of women my age - over 40, I love the mess out of what my body has granted me and when it’s 100 degrees, less cl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:14 PM |
| 8 | Thank you.When you find out you’re not alone re: despising violent kinks!!! I was so happy to hear I’m not the only one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 8 | Thank you.I found this through another “level up” type sub. I’m an older woman who actually has a HVM. I’m here because I like to continue to learn how to find the best value in all relationships. The mods are on the ball - which is a huge bonus. I’m glad you’re feeling the magic of women coming together <3 Thank YOU for contributing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:03 PM |
| 12 | Today is Meme Free Monday!Girl! Jewish woman here! And I agree. This is the least anti Jew sub out there. In fact, I’d go as far as to say it’s very much about “wrestling with g-d”, telling the truth, leveling up, and being accountable for our actions, while calling out actions that are harmful to the world - which from my perspective - are Jewish tenets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 03:28 PM |
| -1 | Trading her self-respect for a Lego setWhen I was dating my ex husband, he told me that he had plans to go to a rock expo, after our date. I thought he collected literal rocks, and was about to nope right on out, when he realized what I thought, and corrected himself “rock and roll, and were you going to break up with me if I collected rocks?!” Yes. I really was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Zack de la Rocha Stops a Show to Condemn Sexual HarassmentI have not, but I will now :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 09:40 AM |
| 14 | Zack de la Rocha Stops a Show to Condemn Sexual HarassmentAnd those scrotes are the same ones who say things like “RATM fucking rocks, man” while not having a clue that they are the machine we’re raging against. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 15 | Zack de la Rocha Stops a Show to Condemn Sexual HarassmentI actually thought that was a possibility...bc my stomach would flip too if ZDLR was a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:54 PM |
| 24 | Zack de la Rocha Stops a Show to Condemn Sexual HarassmentThere was definitely movement in the 90s. It’s been completely diminished. Why do you think that is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 03:10 PM |
| 1 | I get offended when a guy calls me hot. What is a good comeback?Show him hot, and send a flaming bag of poo to his house. I kid. Just block them on sight. | /r/askFDS | 28/05/21 02:38 PM |
| 2 | I love her so much!!!!Clearly there’s a lack of morals goin round at that party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:50 AM |
| 1 | I love her so much!!!!Love it. Every woman in my family has healthy arms and legs and we ain’t afraid to use ‘em. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 09:47 AM |
| 3 | I love her so much!!!!I’m feeling so proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 3 | I love her so much!!!!As a fat person, for me, it's simply just a descriptive word that means I have extra weight. She looks around my size. However, I would never apply this term to someone else unless they gave me permission to. Then there's the scrotes descriptors, which is likely anyone who does not fit into a size 0. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 02:56 PM |
| 225 | I love her so much!!!!He’s lucky that’s all she did. She had a right to do more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:38 PM |
| 46 | I love her so much!!!!Girl...you know ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 191 | I love her so much!!!!My guess is that his scrote friends were instigating that he prove his manliness by...”har har..bet you can’t pick up that nasty fat girl...har har.” Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:36 PM |
| 102 | I love her so much!!!!I purposely didn’t read the comments. Not today. Today doesn’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:34 PM |
| 4 | FDS has made soooo many shows unwatchable for meOmg, I spit my coffee. “Sit down Jeffrey!” Wouldn’t it be great if the misogynistic “Karen” label was reset to Jeffrey (the jerk)!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:18 AM |
| 13 | FDS has made soooo many shows unwatchable for meIf ya’ll remember the show Oz ...choc full of male on male rape scenes. I used to have nightmares that I was arrested and sent to prison every time I watched it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:11 AM |
| 5 | Recently made out with a guy I’m seeing and he came in his pants. What does that say about his porn usage? Should I be concerned?Exactly!! | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 09:23 AM |
| 19 | Recently made out with a guy I’m seeing and he came in his pants. What does that say about his porn usage? Should I be concerned?It doesn’t seem to be porn. Either way, I think if he’s honest and upfront about it, as long as you were willing to work on it, it’s not a big deal. The red flag is how he walked out. I have a hard time believing this is the first time it’s happened or that he’s telling the truth about it not happening again. Like, own your shit and don’t up and do the wash and walk leaving you to feel fucked up about it. | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 11:26 PM |
| 15 | We hit over 160k! Thanks for driving traffic here, scrotes.This made my heart swell ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 55 | Thought this belongs here. (From selfawarewolves... Men are so close, I can't decide if they're ignorant on purpose or genuinely can't grasp basic concepts)Should be titled #men are single because they ignore these 3 cues# | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Next Mansplainer is gonna feel the fury.Ahhh...this makes sense of the message I received from askfds. I didn’t even know askfds existed! And it definitely belongs there! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 10:48 AM |
| 8 | Long time lurker. Need help.I’m curious what you’re thinking about when you say love and marriage. How can you find a way to imagine yourself as the person you’re in love with and getting married to...maybe until you’re 30 or maybe forever. Treat yourself the way you’d treat an HVM that you’d consider marrying. I’ve had experiences where I’ve been obsessed with the idea of love with a specific person. I couldn’t go 5 minutes without thinking of him. One day I woke up, I cried a river, I shaved my head, and I drove across c… | /r/askFDS | 21/05/21 10:13 PM |
| 37 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎Yesterday I attempted to spend some time alone in the park across the street. Took headphones and Sudoku so no one would bother me. Nope. My nerd ass kids (18+) wanted to “hang” with me because my “idea” (playing Sudoku in the park ALONE) was a good one. Me to them: I know it’s a good idea...now scram. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:24 AM |
| 28 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎That makes me so happy. Just picturing him reading “how women really feel” while losing his mind with no way to comment his vile antagonistic disagreement. Hahaha hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:18 AM |
| 10 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎Awww...how nice...wittle baby scrote is looking out for women and doesn’t want us to end up lonely old bags........like himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:10 AM |
| 10 | Men still harass us no matter what we wear cause it doesn't change what they know we have underneathLove this! Especially after I take a bit of herbal remedy...I really don’t wanna look, talk, nuthin at yo ass. Sunglasses, mask, and summer hat! Leave me alone. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:44 AM |
| 20 | I am losing faith in humanity, and by that I mean the “man” part of it.The only time I called a man who wasn’t my Dad, Daddy, was when I told my kids: “ask Daddy” Non scrote men should be repulsed by being called Daddy. And yes, I’m kink-shaming bc it’s a disgusting perpetuation of sexual child abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 12:24 PM |
| 36 | Billionaire Pedophile Rings are looking less and less like a conspiracy every day. Save yourself, Queen.Yup. Ask your wealthy billionaire “person you know who is a billionaire” to pay for your life saving major organ surgery and see what they say. They say...here’s a list of impossible contingencies you must meet. Then they donate that same amount to their “friends” “charity” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 12:22 PM |
| 3 | Billionaire Pedophile Rings are looking less and less like a conspiracy every day. Save yourself, Queen.Holy crap!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 12:17 PM |
| 24 | Creepy men taking pictures of young women will never be okay.Ugh. He has kids. Those poor kids. Mom can divorce. Kids are stuck :( Nasty ass scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 09:41 AM |
| 3 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!“I really would like to rape you as conveniently as possible.” Is what I read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:31 PM |
| 2 | (Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!They really have no problem saying it out loud like it’s 1920. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:28 PM |
| 28 | Watch until the end!Oooooooffff...I’m like oh this man finna ta have clot mail show up in his box. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 8 | Period 👏🏻Her shirt is 🔥 🔥🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:47 PM |
| 5 | PSA: Ladies, don't post self identifying content using the reddit account you participate in FDS with. And PLEASE don't cross post in beauty subs with your face!Hahaha...so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 10:35 AM |
| 10 | PSA: Ladies, don't post self identifying content using the reddit account you participate in FDS with. And PLEASE don't cross post in beauty subs with your face!Yup, that’s why I use FDS. I have a HVM. FDS teaches me how to have HV in all my relationships. So far, I’ve dumped 1 LV woman friend and a LV man friend, and my life has been so much gentler and kinder without low value in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 10:33 AM |
| 97 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wild“After having rough sex, there was poop all over the floor from him ravishing me...it was glorious.” WTF! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:55 PM |
| 33 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wild“Basic Bitch Trope On Steroids” BBTS. 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:52 PM |
| 8 | Scrotes Are Mad 🗣😂Yep. I have good looking sons. I tell them all the time. Inside needs to match your pretty outside or you’re basically a pre-scrote in the making. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 11 | Scrotes Are Mad 🗣😂Oooooo...that’s rich! The only man I ever pined over was sooooooo hot at the time we dated. I mean GQ magazine cover. Not today. He drank his hair and teeth away. Womp womp. Haha My hair is tho 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 09:30 PM |
| 12 | I can't imagine 😂 (xpost)Amen sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:44 PM |
| 19 | I can't imagine 😂 (xpost)Not that it’s 💯 safe, but this is why carefully vetting them for abusive red flags before having sex with them is extremely important. Ive never felt scared to confront my partner about shitty sex. Now I’m sure in situations of casual sex (not really recommended here) it’s best to be careful and leave without a scene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:36 PM |
| 32 | I can't imagine 😂 (xpost)Hahaha hahaha!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:32 PM |
| 46 | I can't imagine 😂 (xpost)I made one boyfriend drive me the 1.5 hour home because his cunniligous skills sub par. I gave him 3 shots to get it right. I even drew a diagram. No fake moaning here. Shot, I won’t even pretend to like you, let alone put it in me if you can’t get #1 right. He said, “you’re really making me take you home because you didn’t cum yet?” Yes. Take me home and leave me there. He did get it right the next time. We broke up my later bc his Valentine’s Day was wimpy. I was 20. He fucking called me maaaa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:31 PM |
| 6 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!They actually said later that they are a sex worker and would enjoy the work. Another chimed in that they would exploit the market if there was one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 8 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!Read more...the OP in screenshot is a sex worker who “takes pride in this type of work” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 11:42 AM |
| 3 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!I searched and couldn’t find it, so I reverted my screenshot to see the u/name. Private message me and I’ll give you the link. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 11:36 AM |
| 7 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!I totally understand the pull towards empathy bc women are conditioned to do that. Sometimes my empathy serves me and I’m grateful for it. Other times it’s unnecessary. In this situation, I feel nothing for anyone who hurts women and child. Full stop. I don’t care whose fault it is that someone came out that way. Hitler was obsessed with Jews. And I don’t know anyone who felt bad for Hitlers fucked up brain. Lock them up and throw away the key. If they want rehabilitation to work so badly, maybe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:59 AM |
| 4 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!The “but I was molested first” loophole that gets them 5 years for 15 teenage girls? Where the judge feels bad for Uncle White Van, and not the struggling teenage girls? Infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:33 AM |
| 7 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!Public freakout | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:28 AM |
| 85 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!Women who are forced to pretend they’re a little girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:18 PM |
| 46 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!I mean 4 awards!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:06 PM |
| 8 | This is my worst fear. Hope she can take her kids and get the hell out ASAPI was searching for this. If we found her, could we set something up for her so she can leave safely? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:35 PM |
| 2 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureMale dominance and the perpetuation of covert male dominance is harmful to women. It’s akin to microaggresion. If we can chip away at male dominated language, it’s a start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 05:57 PM |
| 3 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureI think his reason for saying that ya’ll is not an acceptable greeting - ‘it’s black and from the south’ is what is racist. He wasn’t saying that the term is racist, but rather that using the term is not formal bc it’s a southern black thing. But, I do agree with your original point :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:28 AM |
| 2 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureGreat minds!!! I just responded with the “ask your man friend how many dudes or guys he slept with?” to another commentator:) Your last sentence, tho ...💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:50 AM |
| 3 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureI do too :) Did you see what he wrote about using that? It’s kinda racist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:46 AM |
| 5 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureOr ask them how many dudes or guys they slept with? See how gender neutral it is then?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:45 AM |
| 6 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureGuy is 100 % gender specific. Ask one of your hetero male friends how many “dudes “or “guys” they’ve slept with? You wouldn’t phrase it that way. Or next time you post here, be sure to call this women only sub guys. You wouldn’t because it wouldn’t sound appropriate. Maybe you’re not offended. But women who don’t like it have a very valid reason to not like it - it’s a perpetuation of male dominance, and I hope you’ll consider how male dominated environments cause damage, even if you’re particip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:44 AM |
| 1 | This *guy* writes himself into the conclusion that calling a group of women “guys” is gender neutral. Oh, and a dash of racism for good measureThe other PA city uses “yous” so yous and yins in PA... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 09:29 AM |
| 3 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.My guess is if he respects you, he doesn’t mind if you make more and pay for dinner. He may even be proud of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:32 PM |
| 12 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.I wonder what the sex is like? “Sorry I can’t make you cum, just pretend you’re cumming real loud, so no one thinks I’m a 2 pump chump.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 8 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Yessss, like the Christmas Bazaar in Elementary school. Ya give the kid a 10 and she comes home with a bunch of jewelry that turns your skin green. 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Haha...that’s true... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:25 PM |
| 5 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.It’s a chain ffs!!!!!!!! In fact that became a red flag for me...lol...if they offer to take me to a chain, they definitely watch porn...😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:23 PM |
| 0 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.I mean, if she thinks CF is fancy...she definitely doesn’t have her standards set all that high. It’s a chain ffs 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:19 PM |
| 3 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:44 AM |
| 3 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.I sure did have his gross foot on my back. I’m feeling a bit of freedom coming...thank you 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:44 AM |
| 4 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.I may hit you up for a chat...thank you 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:39 AM |
| 2 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.Thank you for that validation 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:38 AM |
| 4 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.💜💜 thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:38 AM |
| 6 | I NEED YOUR SISTERLY LOVE, SUPPORT, AND A LITTLE PETTINESS.Thank you! I know my son knows his Dad has done me dirty. Kids know - you knew. I’m sorry your Dad and my sons Dad are aholes! It really sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:37 AM |
| 10 | I really feel so sorry for this generation of women.Ugh. Every time I read someone this age, I think “I really hope that’s not my son.” I raised him HV, but peers are far more influential than Mom. It’s scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 23 | I really feel so sorry for this generation of women.Also, they confounded having an orgasm with needing porn to have an orgasm. Like, they immediately determined that’s she’s “controlling his orgasms” as opposed to the truth - she asked him to not watch porn. She never said don’t have an orgasm. The mental gymnastics they must have done to make orgasming the same as watching porn is infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:35 PM |
| 8 | What Is Happening on Reddit Shows the Importance of Female Run Subreddits💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:05 AM |
| 30 | This is the double bind society presents women with when we try to speak the truth about male pattern behaviour. If we call it out, it’s misandrist. But if we don’t call it out and end up getting harmed anyway, it’s our fault for not seeing the signs. Head men win, tails women lose. Again.The word misandry needs to go away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:17 PM |
| 41 | This is the double bind society presents women with when we try to speak the truth about male pattern behaviour. If we call it out, it’s misandrist. But if we don’t call it out and end up getting harmed anyway, it’s our fault for not seeing the signs. Head men win, tails women lose. Again.Wait, it’s misandry if we assume men who rape may rape us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenSame. I have a HVM and I come here for inspiration and to learn to apply HV standards to all of my different types of relationships, particularly friendships, but even employment. The haters gone hate bc we are firm about not compromising our values which excludes LV from entering my orbit. They hate that we are working towards self determination and full autonomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 01:28 PM |
| 8 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violencePs. Then let the libfems do the sex work and leave us other women out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:53 PM |
| 7 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violenceUgh. I was halfway through my bowl of oatmeal. I’m done. These so called feminist disgust me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:52 PM |
| 15 | Thought of you immediatelyI just cried a little. I love being a woman for this reason. HVW are magic! 💜💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Those poor women. Actually naw, they know the history.Sometimes the answer to their whereabouts is in the newspaper 🙄😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 10:11 AM |
| 2 | Those poor women. Actually naw, they know the history.I think you’re describing one of the scrotes I pined over until I realized I was the special friend of friends. Ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 01:03 PM |
| 12 | Those poor women. Actually naw, they know the history.Good grief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inI always found the nerdy men to be much more confident about reaching out, than the traditionally good looking men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 26 | A reminder to drop the LVM and focus on love and leveling up for yourself.Me 💕💕 But I did find a HVM ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:30 PM |
| 32 | A reminder to drop the LVM and focus on love and leveling up for yourself.Awww...Rochelle...made me cry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:29 PM |
| 34 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.Thank you. I hope so. It’s scary tho. Bc society has a greater impact than I want to accept. He’s still a man, which means no matter how well I reared him, he still needs to be reminded regularly that he participates in the patriarchy regardless of how hard he tries not to; and that he always has to do better for feminism. He’s my son (I have 2) and I love them fiercely but fuck if it still doesn’t play out in their lives; it’s like going to a pool swearing you won’t get wet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:20 PM |
| 113 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.I’m 44, and my oldest is 26. He has a partner. They love to travel. They’re not sure about tradition, and definitely not sure about babies. The amount of foaming boomers that side-eye me when I respond that my son and his partner’s legal nuptials and reproduction is non of my business. My only concern is that he treat her like the Queen she is. And I’m pretty sure he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:29 AM |
| 23 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.Huh. Imagine a US where you need women for something AND YOURE NOT GETTING IT. Lysistrata may become a reality. If you’re not familiar with Lysistrata here’s a little peak of a story about women who withheld sex from men as a bargain tool to end war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:17 AM |
| 18 | Yep...I traveled across country by myself. I only took 20 min power naps with a knife in my hand. Men definitely don’t have that problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 10:35 AM |
| 3 | The rabbis have had ample time to use their sharp minds to nullify a Jewish husband's ability to exploit his power to chain his wife to an unwanted marriage. They just haven’t done anything since it doesn’t benefit men.This is beyond conservative. It’s ultra orthodox. OP, are you Jewish? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:16 PM |
| 12 | Why “50/50” is so often still unequal...This is why I never paid my sons to do housework. It’s life. You clean up after yourself, and participate in daily family operations. That’s it. No one gets a cookie for making the most basic contributions to the family. Everyone is supposed to “do life.” In all my years as a sahm, once I finished eating, after cooking, I went to my room and let the men finish up. No one asked me what to do bc it was built in. If there a mess in the house, especially a mess you’ve benefited from, get your damn h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 10:50 AM |
| 6 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).That makes me happy! I hope he’s spreading the message to other men :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:01 PM |
| 18 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).I’m glad they attempted to unlearn. How are they doing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:59 PM |
| 11 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).BuT ThEy’Re SeX WoRkErS. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:57 PM |
| 51 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).The women I dated were equally misogynistic - maybe more so than men bc they thought they could get away with it. But yeah, I was basically shunned from a lesbian group for calling them out on their strip club patronage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 20 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).I know a guy (WAS friends with him) who did this. He actually asked us what we thought about him doing it. Everyone of us (men included) were like that is fucking disgusting dude, no. And he went and did it anyway. I never talked to him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:53 PM |
| 12 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).Omg!!! I would love to see this!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Men’s magazine glamorizes 20 year age gap between old scrote and beautiful woman for their “modern love” edition. 🤮Modern my ass. Rich men have been exploiting young beautiful women since the beginning of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:58 PM |
| 20 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectShould we check and see if he’s over at AITA rallying troops? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 04:19 PM |
| 9 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectOh, and I bet he’s telling everyone that your just overly sensitive. Like, “I don’t even see the big deal?” Good for you, OP 💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 7 | I was looking at old anti-suffragette propaganda, and just realized that so much that was said about women is still being said today. In the comments tell me if also recognize any red flags.Yuck. Basically women who are free to do as choose will abandon their kids, get laid, and do drugs, while the man is stuck at home. In other words, men are projecting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:51 PM |
| 3 | the double standards 🤦🏻♀️Or their husbands were molesting children. I used to clean for rich folk. Their skeletons are frightening! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:12 PM |
| 3 | the double standards 🤦🏻♀️All of my women elders either farmed (while nursing, etc.) or worked for rich people bc the husbands were drunks. My Dad was a scrote. He made enough for my mom to stay home, but he pissed it away and she had to waitress in high heels. Why these women stayed? They really thought that was their job - that the men were no different than children in terms of being cared for. My mom had a boyfriend on the side. Now that I’m older I appreciate that she did what she had to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:10 PM |
| 1 | the double standards 🤦🏻♀️But you can’t afford one!! LOVE IT. Also, Her face is just gorgeous! I couldn’t stop watching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 10:05 PM |
| 1 | I'm not sure he's set his requirements high enough /sUm. Even in my darkest days (and I’m talking dark), this scrote would have gotten a verbal beat down. I know there are women out there who’d go for this...but WTF that is low... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | I'm not sure he's set his requirements high enough /sDoes he even like women? He’s describing preference to male bodies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!Fancy! I like it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:11 PM |
| 2 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!🎶I love you, you love me 🎶 I feel the same about my vibrator | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:10 PM |
| 11 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!Hee hee ...😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 04:01 PM |
| 61 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!Lol,,, big purple is my vibrator. And, I’ll take medical cannabis ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:12 PM |
| 48 | “Traditional” relationshipsIt was delightful. Every gender, race, etc. was on the jury and NOT ONE person disagreed on the solution. I will never forget the look of the wife’s face. Pure betrayal, that even the 200000 grand she was awarded didn’t settle yet bc she was straight fire from his manipulative ass. He even involved his kids. The dumbest of all was that had he not gone for the 2.5 million, he would have gotten that 200000 settlement and gone on with his lie. But no, he had to get fucking greedy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:37 PM |
| 27 | Sorry if this doesn’t fit but this had such FDS energy to meNo gold to be dug. Shhhhheeeet...there ain’t even a pocket of pennies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:49 PM |
| 119 | “Traditional” relationshipsI was on a jury that used those numbers to award the wife. The husband was suing Amtrak for getting hit, but through discovery we found that he wasn’t hurt, but his wife was caring for him like he was. The look on her face when the video played of him lying to everyone. We awarded her money that Amtrak already agreed to in a previous reconciliation, that the husband turned down. The contingency was that she’d be awarded once the divorce was final and he’s see not a dime. The judge was very impre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:36 PM |
| 26 | “Traditional” relationshipsI just made this comment down thread...either sit down or scrub the piss. They sat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:30 PM |
| 22 | “Traditional” relationshipsMy house rules whey living with all males: sit down to pee or scrub the toilet. They sat down - and I’d there was piss around toilet, they also scrubbed. Their aim magically got better. Huh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:29 PM |
| 23 | Fearmongering about single mothers is just male propaganda to make women afraid of leaving their shitty baby daddies.I was a single mama for 5 years and then married and had another baby. I really missed being a single mom bc I mad ALL the child-rearing decisions and now I had to co-parent with a man and consider his feelings around rearing the boys?!?!?! I did it bc it was the right thing to do and my ex-husband is a good dad, but damn...I’m stubborn... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:20 PM |
| 26 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsMy mom’s (May her memory be a blessing) most solid advice: “good breath and good manners is a MUST. No second dates if not.” That saved me a lot of second dates. Didn’t matter if everything else was perfect. If you can’t brush teeth, what else don’t they do? Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:58 AM |
| 89 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsHe denied it. Unbelievable. Like, you were doing him a solid. Heed the advice, scrote. Go to the dentist. Fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:50 AM |
| 9 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsWait that’s the degradation that gets to her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:46 AM |
| 8 | If men are "biologically" attracted to teens, they need to stop being teachersApparently there was a study done that determined that men can not discern the smell of the women in their family from random women. And when asked to smell tshirts with pheromones, they got erect with no discrimination. Women, however, were repulsed by the smell of their male family members, but not turned off by random men. In other words, men are not biologically equipped to have sexual aversion to their family members. So, yes, keep them far away from young girls...far far far away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 11:56 AM |
| 5 | A Queen Grandmama.“I put in trashcan” 😂😂😂 Yaaaaaassss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 12:52 PM |
| 3 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?My ex husband had-still has (?) a beautiful dick. But it was difficult to suck, and get fucked with. Most times he couldn’t put it all the way in. He was a HVM so he respected that he would never be able to go all the way in and would have to be gentle. And guess what? He had no problems cumming. So whatever whoever says men can’t get off from love-making is porn-sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:28 AM |
| 5 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?Rob is a needle dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:19 AM |
| 8 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?My friend during a hot and heavy hook up: “put it in baby.” Him: “it already is.” Ooooooooooooffffffffff... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:14 AM |
| 5 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?When I was a teen, it was a boob feel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:11 AM |
| 11 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?I feel this way even later in the relationship. If he ever stops getting aroused by foreplay, he’s porn-sick on some level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:10 AM |
| 8 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?I made a guy drive me home after I gave him 3 tries to go down on me correctly. I drew a diagram and all. Yes, I hurt his ego. No I don’t care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 11:03 AM |
| 97 | If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos?Same. My vagina is small. If it’s too big, it hurts. Also, Most men that big don’t know how to use it bc they think their size is enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 20 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.Women: “Hey man, could ya maybe value me for me?” Men: “Whoa whoa whoa, honey, don’t you think that’s extreme or radical? No. Just stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:48 PM |
| 22 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.I just said this before seeing your comment:: :) calling basic self respect extreme is unfortunate. It’s extreme only because it’s not what we we’re conditioned to believe. Being and desiring HV shouldn’t be extreme. It should be the standard. And Kudos to FDS and the women working tirelessly to normalize that we MUST be valued. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:43 PM |
| 24 | You know fds is working when other platforms are noticing (and hating ofc) us.calling basic self respect extreme is unfortunate. It’s extreme only because it’s not what we were conditioned to believe. Being and desiring HV shouldn’t be extreme. It should be the standard. And Kudos to FDS and the women working tirelessly to normalize that we MUST be valued. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 22 | I'll just leave this one here.Shiiiiiiiiit... You want what?!?!? I don’t even do that for my own children. They tie they own shoes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 11:00 AM |
| 12 | Queens don't waste our energy on greasy ass napkins.Right?! My dog was actually a HVD!! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 10:29 PM |
| 37 | Queens don't waste our energy on greasy ass napkins.Um, breeds are for dogs and cats. And that’s definitely some dog-shit right there! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 29 | Queens don't waste our energy on greasy ass napkins.The useless greasy McDonald’s napkin at the bottom of the bag with all the other useless shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:45 PM |
| 5 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂I just went through the wiki and such to try to find out what these men are so afraid of? It’s not that hard to be HVM. Like, they’re still getting off fairly easily. Further, it’s mind boggling that they wouldn’t want to market themselves as HVM so they can attract HVF.it seems so logical... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 05:55 PM |
| 98 | Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan TorresOMG!!!!! This sooooooo much. I’m a social worker of sorts. I’m literally trained in communication. Nothing, literally none of the skills I have is enough to get through to LVM. And sadly it’s most men, not some men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂This is what scares them the most. They are losing their supremacy by not being able to separate us by using racism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 01:06 PM |
| 14 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂YAAAAAASSSSS! I just commented about how a guy actually snatched my kippah off my head bc I didn’t respond to his German-Jew peace offering beer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂Hey, I’m a Jew, so if I let you borrow my space lasers will you gimmie some blood?!?! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:57 PM |
| 6 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂If you go Dutch that’s 4 for 2...that’s the real bargain 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂Thank you!!! Good call. I’ve probably got a lot of down votes from suggesting FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:51 PM |
| 9 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂This really made me happy! I had no idea abt all the conspiracy theories. I actually received a positive referral for this sub. I’m a Jewish woman (who grew up in a black neighborhood) so I am plenty used to every conspiracy you could think of said against Jews, Blacks, Asians, etc. some saud it right to our faces as they walked passed out house “Jew-bag, n-lover” was their favorite. They’re like summer flies...I just shoe them away...and sometimes I grab the swatter and squash them. Men are fuc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:49 PM |
| 83 | Being single is not an insultBack in my 20s I was headed on a road trip to go be one with nature for 5 days (a hippie festival), and my friend asked her bf if he wanted her to pack his toothbrush. He said no like she asked to bring a gun, like she was crazy. Every man that hit on me that weekend I asked first: “did you brush your teeth?” Do you continue to brush your teeth? Please brush your teeth!” And GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 05:54 PM |
| 89 | Being single is not an insultWhen my oldest son started dating his current girlfriend, he was deeply disturbed by how many rape stories they had. From his perspective, there’s a rape culture that rapey men (doesn’t mean they physically rape, but turn an eye) hang out in. Fortunately, he never experienced this within his group of friends. Most of the are from small hippy dippy independent upper schools, so they were quite sheltered from a lot of hyper masculinity. I’m grateful for it, but fuck, I shouldn’t, women shouldn’t, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 05:46 PM |
| 30 | Being single is not an insult“Men are not gold” But WOMEN AND OUR VAGINAS ARE!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 05:39 PM |
| 14 | This worksI agree wholeheartedly. I’m in a similar position as you. However, I struggle with healthy friendships, and FDS helps me develop and maintain HVF (high value friendships) ❣️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 01:51 PM |
| 6 | All the empowering women on this subreddit to everyone who needs to hear it be like:Thank you for following up with some evidence ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 01:06 PM |
| 12 | All the empowering women on this subreddit to everyone who needs to hear it be like:Right?!?! They hear it how they want to hear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:30 PM |
| 12 | All the empowering women on this subreddit to everyone who needs to hear it be like:Yup. Empath is not a clinical term, but it sure is getting thrown around like it is. Self proclaimed empaths are just love-bombing narcs —- usually (don’t want the true empaths coming for me...lol). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:27 PM |
| 6 | All the empowering women on this subreddit to everyone who needs to hear it be like:Lol, I never asked tarot about my love life... “Where’s my money?” is what I wanted to know! 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:23 PM |
| 43 | What LVM really mean when they say...“I just believe a man should have 2 or more wives, I don’t know why I feel this way, it’s just intuitive.” “I know I’m a dirtbag, but I don’t want to change bc I don’t have to” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 04:57 PM |
| -3 | This is nice.I’m not even addressing your assessment of my child rearing...but in case your concerned, they’re grown and HVM. But your last quote, last sentence. You do realize where you are, correct? Because that’s exactly what I’d say to a LVM, if he wasn’t in fact a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 12:50 AM |
| 3 | This is nice.This basic shit is taught when they’re children. My sons never got kudos or praise or money for making the most basic contribution to the family. And the one time the oldest complained, I open the door and told him that homeless man would gladly switch spots with you and gladly scrub the toilet, walk the dog, help with dinner, look after your brother...etc. for a warm home, healthy food, clean clothes,and parents engaged in their well being. Kudos is staying up all night to draw your wife while … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 10:51 PM |
| 22 | So-called "petty" deal breakersAll of the above. Bad breath...noooooooooo - that’s just disgusting and proof that you don’t go to the dentist. Ew. I was trying so hard to get over this w/ this one guy. I mean he was hv - and fit all of my ideals...but his breath...omg. I couldn’t. How do people kiss that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:21 PM |
| 10 | So-called "petty" deal breakersYup. I may be petty for this tho, but idgaf. I went vegetarian 2 years into the relationship. Guess who had to support this endeavor? Guess who eats what I eat and has also learned to cook vegetarian? My guy. And yes, it would be a dealbreaker bc it is about our collective health as a nuclear family unit! Love ya’ll. Happy Friday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 16 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnydon’t be polite to men who creep you out!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:36 PM |
| 17 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyMany years ago, I was sitting outside of a cafe. Man, who apparently is a “big deal” on the block, sits down to talk with my friend. “Who is she (makes dumb joke, I don’t laugh), oh, she’s cute, a tough cookie, I like that, can I touch your leg?” Me: “I swear to g-d, if you touch me, I will fuck you up.” His response, “oh, shes not like the rest.” Apparently all the pickmes let him do whatever he wanted. EW. Even if they’re funny, if I sense any creepiness, I don’t laugh. I just stare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:28 PM |
| 1 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSLol, yeah, I don’t buy man stuff even if it’s m-free - because there’s a woman writing/producing something just as good, if not better! 💪🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:36 PM |
| 6 | Y’all be safeI love how she summons the women in the crowd 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:48 PM |
| 10 | Y’all be safeYou lucky duck!!! I bet it was fire! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 10:44 PM |
| 16 | Y’all be safe🎶ya better call Tyrone...call ‘em🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 02:26 PM |
| 54 | Y’all be safeThere’s a woman out there dating my ex as well ... hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 12:28 PM |
| 3 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSOh, jeez. She’s full on vampire. I left a 30 year back in summer. I know it was the right decision, bc she was still bullying me, but covertly so it was hard to prove - bitter sarcasm “I was only joking, and you’re so sensitive” No, lady, you’re fucking mean mean mean, and I let you get away with it for far too long! I’m grateful we’re in this together ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:57 AM |
| 1 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI’m so sorry for your losses as well. We deserve better! We WILL have better! Xoxo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:51 AM |
| 4 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSYes!!! A Lion sure doesn’t!!! Thank you for that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:50 AM |
| 2 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI agree. I need meaning in my friendships bc I love being a good friend, I really do. But, if I can’t rely on them, at the very least for a drive spontaneous visit, they just blow, and can’t and never will be a decent friend. This is a lesson that took way to long to learn. Bless them (I wish them well) change me (I’m not putting up with LV) is how I’ve been looking at it. Cheers to finding solid friendships 💜 You will find your tribe bc now that you don’t take any shit, the non users will find … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:48 AM |
| 4 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI’m so sorry for your loss :( may his memory be a blessing. Oh, so she got her wimpy condolences out of the way so she could lean on you while you’re grieving?!?!? I’m glad you don’t feel bad about her BS, bc you shouldn’t! F her! Keep your chin up ❣️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:39 AM |
| 5 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI actually got that feel too, but I’m taking his fuck yes philosophy and making it Ours! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:32 AM |
| 6 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSYup. I broke up with one - a 30 year BFF - she abandoned me when my mom died, I forgave her, and when my dog died I forgave her...but past summer my HVM bought me a ring :) she didn’t call, text, or FB. I know that’s a weird straw to break the camels back, but I thought given the history, she deserves more understanding. No. Looking back, it was 30 years of being bullied and then love bombed - no in between. I actually reached out to her to let her know I was backing away, needed to do some proc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:28 AM |
| 5 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSDaaaayum! She stopped bringing her wallet? Now that is cringe! Holy crap. Glad you got away from that vampire! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:21 AM |
| 4 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSWho says this stuff? I mean, we’re frigging grownups. We should know hurtful language by now!!! Good for you for having boundaries!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:19 AM |
| 3 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI’m going to respond fully, but as a Jew, he knows damn well of the Jewish tenet for Tikkun Olam - to repair the world - and that includes anyone suffering. He’s a scrote. And, the all about me friends! They are the worst! I mean I’m definitely a talker and I do take up space, but I will also listen and hold space. Some weren’t taught and I was willing to show them trough my actions, how to be a friend. Nope. Lesson 1 for me, Ms ex-codependent- can’t teach the unwilling. I’m so angry for you tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:16 AM |
| 3 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSNo, thank YOU for teaching me bc it is some for me to be mindful of 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 11:02 AM |
| 12 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSI love that you still wish her well ... from afar 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 10:08 PM |
| 12 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSOooooooohhhhh....The F was for friend in my post HVF = High value friend...lol :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 5 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSIt was that article. I’m not sure about who he is. I just liked the sentiment:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:08 PM |
| 9 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSHappy Cake Day!!! I can not either play the superficial game. Frequently that’s the advice, “just play nice when you see them.” Ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 16 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSThanks!!! Maximum female benefit is a term from FDS, as well as Female in FDS. I’m just following the terms from the sub? Unless, this is a reminder from the wiki? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:45 PM |
| 21 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSAND STOP ASKING YOUR FRIENDS TO WORK FOR FREE. Stop that right now. No one would ever ask a man painter to paint their house for free. But, social working women. All the time: “hey, could you talk to my friend, research this, advocate for that?” Yes, I actually can do all those things...for 50/hour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:25 PM |
| 13 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSAnd you know what else? A trait that can be learned anytime in life, so no excuses that mama didn’t raise you right. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:15 PM |
| 21 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSYes!!! I’m proud of you!!!! Inconsideration is very top of the list for me in terms of standards and reg flags. Inconsiderate people don’t change a whole lot. Growing up, we sent thank you notes immediately. As a kid, I hated it...lol...but today, I’m grateful my mama (May her memory be a blessing) was a stickler for manners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:12 PM |
| 12 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSThank you for the confidence boost!! I agree. Lukewarm is not a fuck yes. And guess what, I’m fucking fuck yes material ;) lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:42 PM |
| 34 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSAin’t that the truth. Why would they break it off when they get all the benefits of a friendship without having to work. They’re real confused when the call to find the number blocked. “What did I do wrong?” You did nothing at all and that’s the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:28 PM |
| 44 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPSGood for you!!! Bc that’s some no value bullshit right there! She could have brought her boyfriend to help out if she couldn’t pull herself away from him. You were drunk and stuck and they are both POS for leaving a woman stranded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 38 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?Huh? Unabashedly Jewish and Feminist here. I've heard a lot of tropes, but this one...lol...this is new. So, pro-women is anti Jew? Good g-d. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:43 PM |
| 51 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?I mean, if you hate it, than leave it and go do your own thing. I never understood why anyone would put that much energy into rallying troops just to agree with you. I mean, if you're rallying troops for a cause, fine. But, what the cause? I just don't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:35 PM |
| 35 | "Most women dont have a problem with their boyfriends watching porn" - 27yo MOh, and they’re all bisexual as well. I am an actual bisexual, like I’ve dated as many women as men, and I don’t discuss it with men unless we’re committed and I know he’s not so immature that he believes it would involve him or that I’m such a slut, that I fuck everyone. But this whittle pickmes are all “OMg, I TotALly LOvE WoMEn ToO” NO. You like the attention from men who think it’s sexy bc they think they’re getting in on it. EW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:24 PM |
| 86 | "Most women dont have a problem with their boyfriends watching porn" - 27yo MOmg! I just started taking 45 mins to sit and go to bathroom and read. It’s wonderful. He’s all kinds of confused. “If you can do it, so can I” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:15 PM |
| 30 | Dude said I needed to be “vetted” before he could buy me dinner because he’d “been used by women in the past”......For the record, I make ~6X his salary. Anyway, I’ve moved on, and now he’s back begging for sex. Love to see it!I like how they change the English language from “not interested” to “used”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:21 AM |
| 20 | Dude said I needed to be “vetted” before he could buy me dinner because he’d “been used by women in the past”......For the record, I make ~6X his salary. Anyway, I’ve moved on, and now he’s back begging for sex. Love to see it!Omg! I knew a guy who actually ask a date for a refund on the meal he paid for bc she didn’t have interest after the date. Every friend he had told him not to do it. He lost a lot of friends over that. Then he tried poly, then got married, and 6 m later divorce. Now single. I can’t make this up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 11:19 AM |
| 15 | Relationship Ambiguity Is The New Backlash, and It's Dangerous and Effective Because of Its SubtletyI loved reading this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 12:28 AM |
| 20 | Men can impregnate multiple women at the same time, while women can only have 1 pregnancy ~every 10 months. Stop unwanted pregnancies at it's source!My son has an appointment at Planned Parenthood this week to ask about this possibility. He and his gf had a situation- condom broke, and he felt like a complete asshole that she had to take something to prevent pregnancy and not him. He did pay for it, but that’s not good enough. They need more options for sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 03:05 PM |
| 28 | That's on that - period.“The lady doth protests too much, me thinks” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 12:11 PM |
| 21 | That's on that - period.My partner works 2 jobs and helps care for his older parents. I’m not following your logic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 12:05 PM |
| 18 | That's on that - period.“Unsatisfying thirty seconds of jackhammering” I can’t. 😂😂😂💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 12:02 PM |
| 28 | That's on that - period.So, I was a single mom at 18. Baby daddy LVM. I was home with a baby jealous of my friends who were out having casual sex. I was jealous at the time. I’m not still friends with them today 20 years later, but guess what?! They’re still single and still giving up the goods. C’mon ladies, we’re in our 40s. Stop that. Stop that right now. In fact, my ex-BFF, chose her jealous husband over me when my mom died bc he was jealous of the time she and I spent together (grieving!!!!!). I just couldn’t forg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:59 AM |
| 32 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freeMy partner does not like anal. It was hard to believe at first, but you nailed it. He likes my lady parts. He said it’s a degrading act only and he’s not interested in degrading the woman he loves. I still sorta felt like he was just saying that to appease me, but huh, after reading this, it makes a lot of sense. And, I’m glad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 1 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Yes. I’ve attempted school 3 times in the last 9 years. I did this to pander to what men don’t have to pander to and that is - needing a piece of paper to prove my value and worth. I have 140 college credits. During my first attempt (post associates degree when I was 21) my 3 month old twin nieces were murdered by their mother (my cousins wife); my second attempt, my Mom died unexpectedly, and most recently, this past September, my oldest sons best friend, died by suicide with a gun, at their pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 2 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.Thank you! I actually landed my dream job, then was fired when a new director came along bc she wanted everyone to have a BA. I was the only one on the team without one. In other words, a woman hating a woman. I’m still paying for my mistakes as a married person. I’m gonna keep at it, tho! ❣️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:29 PM |
| 4 | LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.I just found this article on Twitter. I’m actually crying. This is my life. Got married young, gave up my career and degree completion. I started our family business and kept it running - it was a 6 figure income. 9 years ago, I asked for a divorce because I was in hell. He was a good husband and father, but I was not happy. Because of guilt and shame, I walked away with next to nothing. Since then, it’s been non stop struggle to find a job that pays what I’m worth. I’ve tried going back to scho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:02 PM |
| 11 | I wish more men would admit this to themselves.This is similar to the “you got lucky” mentality from women as well, when we find a good one. I did not get lucky. It’s insulting that my high standards and hard work are boiled down to luck. Men didn’t get lucky, the got superficial. When they realize there ain’t no mute button in real life, and they actually have to go home and listen to their trophy be a human and talk, the high fives kinda lose their flair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Comeback queenMamas bestest ... 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Comeback queenGet a laugh at this!!! There is an actual DSM for it!!!! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Koro_(medicine) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Comeback queenI wonder, tho, if there are women who hate them, where the rumor started that they are better. Ya know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:27 PM |
| 3 | Comeback queenSame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 12:17 PM |
| 74 | Comeback queenLololololo...So good. Boop boop, me too, buddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:17 PM |
| 25 | Comeback queenAnd I hate big penises too. They’re damn annoying! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:16 PM |
| 9 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.Ugh. Why are they fucking fine with the way things are?!?!?! Women can’t possibly be the only gender (in general) that want to grow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:04 PM |
| 33 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.This is something LVM just don’t understand. They think because they’re “getting away” with it, meaning she’s still around, that she’s not keeping track. We are absolutely keeping track and when we say get your shit together, we mean it. If we’re kind enough to walk with you, we’re paying very close attention. Then they’re indignant that we broke up with them over something relatively innocuous. Fool, this is just the straw that immobilized the relationship, the camels back been broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:58 PM |
| 21 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.SEVEN —— YEARS!!!!!!!!! That’s years! I don’t even keep decent running shoes that long! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.When I was little, I live across the creek from an all black apartment building - I lived in the white one. We were all poor. Anyway, I hated playing “house” with the white girls. Against my parents rules, I crossed that creek for double Dutch, stomp, hopscotch! And, every chance I got to sneak across I did! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:51 PM |
| 19 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.Generally specific ;) lol... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 14 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.I’m 44, and I’m not saying this to brag, but a few of them are still trying after 20 years. “I’m so sorry...you were so great...perfect...and I was a fool...” Me: Um, sorry to disappoint, but I was 20 something and I did what all 20 somethings do after a breakup, I got drunk, and found someone else. I haven’t given it much thought, since then” HE ACCUSED ME OF LYING! - and said that I was just putting up a wall because he hurt me. Unbelievable. I have another one - HE could not commit, and I gav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Just another story about how men are 'genius', even when a woman was killed...Same. I love my mama (May her memory be a blessing), but I don’t hide her humanity. She was shitty at times. I don’t pretend my experiences are now somehow irrelevant bc she died. Why do we do this?!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Just another story about how men are 'genius', even when a woman was killed...Yeah, my Dad was one of these flawed genius. He died in November. I cried for my liberation, and my freedom from never being hurt by him again. That’s it. All the family - “he was such a great guy, the funniest, the kindest, and Myeggsarebig, you need to have more compassion and focus on his good qualities.” “NO, you all need to have compassion for ME - if he didn’t want people to say bad things, he shouldn’t have done them.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:53 AM |
| 39 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.😂😂😂Love this, love your humor and love FDS. Do you know how we can best spread the word? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:55 PM |
| 4 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.Ha. Suck it, indeed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:14 PM |
| 3 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.Omg. Yes. Ugh. “We feel your pain from behind the cook’s line, where all the men cringe, while frying those juicy dark meat thighs, at the sickness of it all, then we go home and replay it in our heads, and struggle to sleep...it’s just terrible.” GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:13 PM |
| 56 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.“Hooters - where we perpetuate the objectification of women, then fiercely protect you from it.” Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 12:14 PM |
| 44 | Energy all 2021- What makes you think I'm looking to attract you“Your rudeness isn’t attractive.” That’s the point. Now scram. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:12 PM |
| 17 | Whatever it looks like & feels like - it is. DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELVES.I dated one who did literally get hit by a train, and survived w/o a scratch. That’s how I found out he had a drinking problem. Getting hit by a train is a red flag 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:48 PM |
| 10 | Whatever it looks like & feels like - it is. DO NOT DOUBT YOURSELVES.I’m seeing a t-shirt in the making ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:46 PM |
| 34 | I just thought this was really sweet and refreshing.Clearly his intellect matches hers if he’s taking a stab at her academia. Most people would never look once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 03:10 PM |
| 37 | I just thought this was really sweet and refreshing.Lol, I had a woman tell me, “I’m gonna wine and dine you tonight.” Now, I live in a city rife with top restaurants, so I was a little unsure about what suburban spot she’d pick. It was Red Lobster. The end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 03:07 PM |
| 69 | I just thought this was really sweet and refreshing.My ex husband (super guy, we were very young) surprised me on our honeymoon by buying me new hiking boots. When he opened the trunk, there were 4 pairs in the trunk: “I wanted to be sure they fit!” Green flag 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 03:05 PM |
| 3 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.That’s what I’m talking about!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 8 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Detached meaning: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/post/establishing-assertiveness--queen-energy-from-day-one Red flags are yours to decide because your standards may be different than mine. For me, the moment they missed an opportunity to be considerate, it’s a clear view of the future. For example if I buy them their favorite candy bar and initially they’re really excited about how I actually thought of them, then 3 weeks later I send a silly gift in the mail, and i have to check in to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:35 PM |
| 8 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Amen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 12 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Ooof...the dreaded distancers. You keep your distance first. There’s some red flags that this sub can show you and are obvious markers for a man who is about to detach. Perhaps you can’t see it now, but once you know what they are, you can’t unsee it. If you keep your distance from them before making any serious claims, you will know first and you will have the upper hand to detach from them if they’re not serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:51 PM |
| 18 | If you ain't serious, send me on my way and I will thank you. Sadly, LVM love to string women along with the hope of something permanent. I'm good.Yup. Not gonna go through emotional masterbation with anyone. Also, not going to hold someone hostage. If you don’t like peaches, I will surely get stuck in your teeth. That’s not fun for anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:44 PM |
| 14 | Where's the lie?This. My partner and I got a little carried away with rough sex (my idea, he was not all that convinced), and as soon as he saw that I was not enjoying it, he started to cry. We never tried that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Libfems - BuT iT's EmPoWeRiNgsome of the vegan people I know (I’m vegetarian so I get the health aspect) treat cockroaches better than humans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 35 | Libfems - BuT iT's EmPoWeRiNgThis was my response to another comment, but firs here too. I was just on r/sex and a sex worker was finally getting the truth. I felt horrible for her, but she was genuinely frustrated that she couldn’t find a date for potential long term relationship, due to her work. She wasn’t shamed for her work, but it became clear to her that it’s not necessarily sex positive if you’re struggling to find a healthy partner - IMO a healthy partner doesn’t want me to have to pay a bill with my sex - that is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:51 PM |
| 17 | Libfems - BuT iT's EmPoWeRiNgI was just on r/sex and a sex worker was finally getting the truth. I felt horrible for her, but she was genuinely frustrated that she couldn’t find a date for potential long term relationship, due to her work. She wasn’t shamed for her work, but it became clear to her that it’s not necessarily sex positive if you’re struggling to find a healthy partner - IMO a healthy partner doesn’t want me to have to pay a bill with my sex - that is ok with sharing the most intimate parts of their relationshi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:44 PM |
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