This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.

myeggsarebig · 2021-12-30T18:35:37+00:00

Just last year, my best friend of 30 years and I broke up. I had had enough of her bullying. FDS taught me the red flags. I never knew what negging was. I knew she had bullied me when we were younger and I cut her off for several years as a result. I thought she changed with maturity. I was very attached to other parts of her personality. She was fun. The impetus for this most recent break up was her attempting to relive her bullying me when we were in our late teens, when she and her brother thought it would be funny to hit me in the head with a phallic shaped balloon yelling SUCK IT. I would run out of the room crying.

So she says, giggling, “remember when me and my brother used to hit you (it was multiple occasions) with the ballon yelling s…?” I stopped her and said, “l never like that, it was horribly not funny at all!” She tried to back track with, “I thought you liked it.”

I started having nightmares. I told her this. I told her I needed a break from the friendship to sort it out and to be sure that I don’t unfairly look at her through the lens of the past. She didn’t respond. A week later, I got an email from her (bc she swore I blocked her from other forms of communication) to ask me if she could use a my “coupon code”. I said I wasn’t comfortable with that bc we’d have to discuss the details so she didn’t get caught using a code she wasn’t supposed to. Well, that set her off, cue the bullying.

I could write a book on all the ways she’s mistreated me, but that is not the point. The point is that I missed every single red flag waved in my direction. My gut felt it, but because she’s otherwise a “good friend” for 30 years, I convinced myself that I was overreacting.

She never missed an opportunity to hate on women. She never missed an opportunity to have a group of women at a party hate her because she behaved like she was looking for sex. Her ex husband was an abuser in prison, for life, but she sneaks him burner phones. She has sons, and she hangs out with them and their friends, buying them “goodies”, while hating their moms and girlfriends. She LOVES her alcoholic Dad who abandoned her, and hates her mom who worked 3 jobs to feed her. I was never comforted with any of this. I just shrugged it off as, well yeah, she’s a bit desperate for male attention, but she’s such a good friend because she…because she…she’s just so much fun to be around…that’s all I could come up with.

She would have been the girl in the video pushing me, breaking me, to make the guys would think she was so cool. Then apologize with some bullshit that somehow made her the victim. That girl could have died or spent the rest of her life paralyzed.

These women are the right arm of the patriarchy. If you find yourself in a situation where you’re wondering if you’re dealing with Ms.Scrote, you probably are. Treat them how you treat Mr.Srote - block-delete.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-12-30T22:55:40+00:00

I blocked and deleted my ex best friend. She was mean in a "It was just a joke" way for years Sometimes openly hostile. She didn't like it and tried to message me from different accounts until she gave up. Today I met a friend who told me that she keeps harassing our other friends in the exact same way. I'm so glad she's out of my life. I never regretted it, not even for a second.

The_Oracle_of_Delphi · 2021-12-30T23:40:45+00:00

I think we need to start teaching “emotional well-being” classes in high school, to help people start looking at behavior in their own lives and realizing that some of it is not acceptable - and setting boundaries. So many people go through life just trying to fit in to whatever horrible things are going on around them. This would help them step back and realize that some of it is just unacceptable. And maybe we could begin to finally break the cycle of misery that so many people keep perpetuating.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-12-30T18:50:00+00:00

Jealousy is one of the most destructive forces on earth.

fds_throwaway_4_u · 2021-12-30T18:05:02+00:00

I remember this story. I have never forgotten it. Fuck bitches like this.

Usual-Vegetable-3638 · 2021-12-31T06:50:14+00:00

This is so 💯 true! I had an (ex)friend in highschool who is a pick me girl who bullied me. When I became top 1 in class, she gets jealous and turned me into an outcast. I was naive at that time, I should've noticed the red flags when she told me that she doesn't believe in female friendships and she only talks about boys. Social bullying is hard like any other bullying, what's worse is that most adults don't notice this kind of things because there is no physical evidence. She manipulated all the friends that I made at that time and sabotage all my group projects. She insults everything about me behind my back, you know what's even harder? My classmates who are bystanders who doesn't do anything to stop it. Most stereotypes revolve that only people who are timid only get bullied but that's not true. I'm aware of my capabilities, I'm above average in looks, personality, and intelligence in my class. Never thought in my life that my optimism shattered and I will have suicidal thoughts. Thank God, I'm rational and never acted on it.

That's why vetting even on friends is very important, they will affect you in some aspects of your life whether you are young or old. They can have positive or negative influence in your mental, spiritual, and physical health.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2022-01-02T20:29:35+00:00

She could have died. There could have been rocks underwater that would have killed her.

She was lucky to survive and without permanent disabilities.

That pickme showed no remorse and didn’t even check on her friend. Even the “apology” she issued before the judge seemed forced, generic, and insincere.

I’m surprised she didn’t get more jail time.

That’s kind of sociopathic.

queeninprogress · 2022-01-04T05:59:17+00:00

Poor little girl :'( all those injuries because of this fuckwit

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