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| 42 | I ended my relationship - A cautionary tale to ALWAYS VET and ALWAYS FOLLOW FDS STANDARDSLike most men who quit p0rn, he was doing it for his PP, not because he actually thought the action of what he was doing was wrong. It’s like an alcoholic a quits for their physical health. Yes of course you are going to reap the benefits for your liver, but if your narcissistic mindset hasn’t changed, you’re still the same broken person, just sober. And that’s the kind of mindset that just leads to transfer addiction | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 04:20 PM |
| 24 | I ended my relationship - A cautionary tale to ALWAYS VET and ALWAYS FOLLOW FDS STANDARDSI knew I made it the first time I got a Reddit Cares message for a non-FDS post! It wasn’t even about dating or men! Incels just hate to see women thriving and happy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 04:16 PM |
| 48 | I ended my relationship - A cautionary tale to ALWAYS VET and ALWAYS FOLLOW FDS STANDARDSI never tell them my stance first and I didn’t post it online, back when I was doing online dating. If a man asked me how I feel about children, I always say why do you ask? I flip it back on him and get his stance first. It’s the only way to get the truth, and even that isn’t 100%. But the thing is I think most men are good either way. Of course they want children if they think the wife is going to be obliged to do all the work. Once you let me know that if there was a child hypothetically they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 04:12 PM |
| 40 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateIt’s been three years for me. I don’t even notice. I had a sexy dream the other night and yeah it’s nice, the contact, but then I remembered all the stuff that used to come with it. Not worth it. Every day I thank God on my knees S/He preserved my life while I was out there being a fool. Since I stopped wasting my life playing the cool girl, I’ve gotten into a doctorate program. Men are not the be-all and end-all and honestly sex is very overrated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 05:47 PM |
| 81 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology"LOL, no matter how much these misogynists try to hide it with “science “and word salad, their inevitable hatred of women will pop out. According to this in.cel HVM won’t wait because they have options and they won’t “invest in a woman who is withholding from them.” Did you catch that? He just said women’s only value is sex. If anyone wants further proof he says, “All my relationships started with a quick bang, the rest were boring.” Yeah, of course they were boring to you, you don’t see women as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 02:52 PM |
| 787 | my bangmaid actually has a mind, a soul, and is a person! who knew?See, he almost told the whole truth. The real reason he thought she was dumb is because men who think women who agree to FWB are automatically dumb because they know for a fact it benefits them and not women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:52 PM |
| 67 | Ignoring red flags won't make them go away: a LVM case study.Before I was an FDS girl, I was really proud of myself on having high standards. But that was one red flag I never noticed until I started coming here- men who want to be the expert at your expense. I started thinking back and realized I dated a number of guys who wanted to argue about every little thing and even when I was clearly correct did the old “well, that’s one way to look at it” or “You just don’t understand.” It’s gross. I always ended up breaking up with these guys for other reasons, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 01:07 PM |
| 5 | and they want women over 30 to just... disappear? hide in a basement somewhere? this queen is goals! title is" why can't I be sexy at 71". LVM in fumes! gross is sexualizing teenagers and 20 somethings and preying on them! gross is drooling over 16 year olds when LVM are their dad's age!I’m finding all the negativity on this thread very hypocritical. The women on here are first to shout that there is no wall and then they’re talking about this woman because she enjoys looking trendy and showing off her body at 71? There could be a lot of reasons for that. First of all she’s a WOC who is 71. Maybe depending on where she grew up in the world she didn’t have the opportunity to do this when she was younger. Maybe she was oppressed by patriarchy and forced into that wife and mother … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:43 AM |
| 4 | and they want women over 30 to just... disappear? hide in a basement somewhere? this queen is goals! title is" why can't I be sexy at 71". LVM in fumes! gross is sexualizing teenagers and 20 somethings and preying on them! gross is drooling over 16 year olds when LVM are their dad's age!Right?! I’ve actually seen this video before and it never occurred to me to think about this women’s clothes or her make up, I was just blown away by her stamina and her flexibility. I am less than half her age and I could not do the moves she was doing. When I see women like her or those triathletes who are in their 80s, I am so humbled. I think she’s a fantastic role model for the fact you can be fit and independent your whole life. That’s all we need to be focused on comments and not her look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:34 AM |
| 413 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.You know that other sub Reddit that claims to be for women had a post on this a little while ago. Some girl was asking if it was OK to ask men out. And because they let men comment over there, all of these men were boosting her up to her destruction. I actually took screenshots but I couldn’t figure out how to upload multiple pictures to one post here and I didn’t want to get banned. But what I noticed was without fail every guy who said he had been asked out by a woman and just loved it ended t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:52 AM |
| 41 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.I didn’t know this was a thing! You know life is a crapshoot. I really want to move over to the UK in part because of things like better health care and a better work life balance, but I was born and raised in the US which has no-fault divorce. Now this can be problematic in its own way, but it set a lot of women free because they no longer need permission to divorce. Apparently, when it was signed into law all sorts of divorce records broken overnight. Women who had been waiting to get away fro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Why do men pretend women don't go for looks?This is the most brilliant thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:53 PM |
| 360 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsFunny how what happens to women’s bodies, including girls, is too adult of a subject, but they expect girls to deal with being the objects of male desire from 11 on up. Girls are supposed to be consumed with looking pretty and refining their man catching skills from the damn cradle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:08 PM |
| 97 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsThey do everything except the desirable things about these men. They aren’t making any Tony Stark money or trying to be humanitarians. They don’t protect women. They don’t work out and get bodies like Thor. The only thing they want to emulate about these guys are the toxic aspects of entitlement and violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 10:06 PM |
| 88 | Finally Figured Why LVM Think all Women Sleep Around.And the thing that kills me is that men have it all, but they are so spoiled they don’t want any of it! I mean, I look at the single men my age dithering around about whether they want to commit or not and it is so annoying! “I don’t know if I’m ready to settle down, hurr durr. Might miss out.” Miss out on what?! The market is so set up so that men can get a partner way more attractive than himself who is going to do the vast majority of all the domestic work, pretty much all the child rearing l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 06:00 PM |
| 37 | Finally Figured Why LVM Think all Women Sleep Around.I mean yeah, but I think men believe what they want to believe. Action movies show martial arts stars defeating tons of men with guns with just high kicks and I don’t see them trying that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 05:17 PM |
| 36 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherThree is SO FUCKING IMPORTANT. My brothers, who I love, are both on dog #2. And there was nothing wrong with their first dogs, except that they weren’t fantasy docile dogs that magically didn’t need any attention all day and were ready to play as soon as they got home from work. They were real dogs that needed to be walked and to have a schedule. Surprise, surprise, they weren’t into that. And now they’ve given the first ones away and gotten new ones and are beginning to learn these dogs are no … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:10 PM |
| 223 | Finally Figured Why LVM Think all Women Sleep Around.Of course. That’s the point. No woman is an actual person to them, just a representative of their screwed up ideas, a place to project their shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 12:17 AM |
| 48 | Yeet any man with weird food hangupsSo true. And I also think the one caveat to this post is an HVM with food issues will try not to be a nuisance, much like a woman. I dated a vegetarian and my brother is a veggie, too. The veg I dated would take me to any restaurant I wanted to go to, never tried to stop me from eating meat, paid for everything, meat included, with no complaints ever. My brother is much the same. We much sure we accommodate him at Thanksgiving and Christmas, big family dinners, etc, but ordinary times he cooks f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:53 PM |
| 120 | Yeet any man with weird food hangupsI have all the food restrictions and I am a very picky eater on top of that. And this is still such a valid boundary. Because like most things that are difficult in life like mental illness, women will do what they need to do to not make their issues everyone’s issues, whereas most men will just expect you to accommodate them. It’s a no for me. I don’t think my food issues have ever bothered any man I’ve gone out with, because my only thing is don’t order for me or if you want to cook for me, as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:23 PM |
| 249 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Yes. I wrote the post about not letting men into your home and not letting them know you have your own house and it was crossposted to a red pill forum. The guy who posted actually wrote, “Let’s use their strategy against them! Don’t let women know that you have a house and don’t let them come over!” That would’ve been really something if any of them actually had a house. 😆 The thing is if I ever see in.cels saying, let’s do what women are doing, I’m all for it. Yes, don’t have sex! Yes, go to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:11 PM |
| 16 | You have a RESPONSIBILITY in being HVThis is so true. All of my sisters are much younger than I am (10 years+) and I never wanted them to be able to point at me and say they were making poor decisions because they were following in my footsteps. Not today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:04 PM |
| 3 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesYou just said it all! You articulated it so well, I have shivers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 09:00 PM |
| 220 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesBut the problem is it’s not a boundary. Her friend is in a fit of pique because the OP refused to boost her up to her destruction. And the OP has every right to be mad because this young woman has no problem letting them use her constantly but the minute her friend of long-standing gently says maybe you should step back from that, the girl gets an attitude. I think being FDS is about setting standards about what you will tolerate in your life, not just dating. If you have a friend and she’s givi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:03 PM |
| 51 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesWhy is this my life? I’ve been experiencing so many issues with this lately, and I too felt like I should’ve just been quiet at first. But first of all, it’s not really fair to you. Even pre-FDS I knew the way my friends were living was insane and I would get drained listening to all of their drama. I mean it’s just rinse and repeat, every week the same thing. And it’s also very tiring because no matter how gently you give the advice, they tend to get offended at the truth and then they want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:00 PM |
| 14 | Chronicles of the Modern Day “Gold Digger”: It’s more than just the moneyHe can. He just needs to go suck some d!ck . He sounds lazy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 05:29 PM |
| 15 | Chronicles of the Modern Day “Gold Digger”: It’s more than just the moneyMy favorite from that movie is, “do you wanna end up in a loveless marriage?… If a girl’s always worrying about the money she doesn’t have, how she’s going to have any time for being in love?” It’s true. Love is great but if you’re always worrying about the lights being cut off or you’re hungry, I presume it’s not as great as it could be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 05:11 PM |
| 51 | "It's hard to make a woman come"... as ifThat is so true. A man may request a specific technique but if you as a woman were overall unable to make a man come at the age of 29, every man in the world would advocate for him leaving you or cheating on you. They would say for you to go read a book or watch some p0rn and learn. Why don’t men have that same burden? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 04:46 PM |
| 78 | "It's hard to make a woman come"... as ifThis reminds me of that scene in Everybody loves Raymond. Deborah says, “how come you only pick up on the signals that matter to you? You know what “I’m tired” means because it means “no fun for Raymond.” But when I do say yes to sex, it’s like you stop listening all together. You get on and you don’t stop until you get what you want.” That last line is a little paraphrased, but the rest are all direct quotes. Ray is such a trash husband but I love to watch that show because Deborah really gave … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 04:43 PM |
| 68 | Positive stories of finding a HVM or enjoying singlehood?So I don’t write in my journal very often. Sometimes I go a year or more without touching it and ever since I discovered notes in my phone, I kind of prefer to put my feelings in there because it’s so convenient. But I say all that to say the other day something occurred for me I had to put it in my physical journal and when I went back a few entries and read what was happening in my life about three years ago I realized I am currently living every prayer I prayed back then! I’ve got my own love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 01:00 AM |
| 115 | Don't limit vetting to only people you date!My God! I was just thinking this. When I have more time I want to make a post about how friendships need to be vetted as much as romantic relationships. I just had someone who I thought was a friend come at me with some serious evil energy because she hates my FDS stances. But when I looked back on the relationship, I realized I will cut her off week one if she was a man. I do cut off obvious pick mes right away, but I do give women more mercy in general because we’ve been groomed by society so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 12:53 AM |
| 494 | but doesn't it help? why shouldn't I have these things as a woman?I like this movie, but this scene always makes me so sad. It makes me think of Marilyn’s two husbands who basically married her for the same reason. It’s funny Arthur Miller and Joe DiMaggio couldn’t be more different men, but they were both men. I’m sure Marilyn thought by marrying a famous playwright, a philosopher, a brain who wrote some pretty intelligent, complex women characters, she’d finally got a man who appreciated her mind. But he was just like the rest. He just wanted the image, the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:12 PM |
| 23 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?The Op had to delete the post because he got thoroughly roasted. Nobody fell for this BS including the girl he tried to pump and dump | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 10:12 AM |
| 345 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?It’s really crazy. There is no point in playing men’s game. This girl did what she was expected to do and dutifully gave it up by the third date only to be kicked out afterwards without a shred of human feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 03:25 PM |
| 24 | for the love of god stop explaining yourselfThis is so true. A male relative of mine called me the other day, obsessing about a girl who said yes to a date but ultimately decided to turn him down. This guy is like the golden child of the universe. Life just smiles on him and he’s a genuinely nice person and quite handsome. I think he was just stunned a woman wasn’t interested for once because he’s used to women throwing themselves at him. Anyhow, he starts talking and it turns out this girl turned him down like a year and a half ago. Appa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:37 PM |
| 31 | Beware of the man with a female friend/female friendsThings like this always makes me wonder. I know perfectly well why the husband didn’t marry Mary. These hypocritical men will pass around a woman but don’t want to marry one who has been passed around. But why on earth did he marry his wife if all he was going to do is cheat on her and gaslight her? Mary sounds like the ultimate pick me who would do anything for a man. He could’ve just kept dating and had her on the side and had it all in his sick mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 10:37 PM |
| 67 | Ughhhh this excuse making ridiculousness. Sometimes it *is* that simple.“Can’t do is like won’t do, neither of them have a home.” Maye Angelou I don’t care if a guy can’t treat you well for some actual good reason like verified illness or family issues or trauma. Is your outcome any different than the guy who just won’t treat you well because he refuses to give you that respect? No?! Either way your energy is not being reciprocated and you are not being treated the way you deserve. You don’t have to get a PhD in a man’s mental state, either he’s doing or he’s not. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 01:25 AM |
| 27 | Why are men often so short sighted they sabotage themselves?User name checks out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 06:49 PM |
| 24 | Straight from the horse's mouth 🗣️That’s what I noticed immediately! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 06:33 PM |
| 14 | Another Way Women Are Not Aware They Are ShrinkingSee, this is the FDS content I come for! Such a good thought. I will stop doing this immediately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 64 | Don’t let men (or women) shame you for leveraging your looks.That old saying is true, “there are no ugly girls, only lazy ones.” There is a hierarchy in our society and most women aren’t going to be considered the 1% when it comes to beauty, but there are so many things one can do easily that take them from plain Jane to eye catcher. It’s not just about relationships. Studies have shown everything in life is affected by people’s perception of you, from housing and education opportunities to whether people help you on the street. I used to think it was aga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 06:05 AM |
| 17 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)I love your comment and the edit is just gold. I’m a BW myself and the truth is the truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 02:06 PM |
| 4 | Someone has reported me to a Reddit for posting about internalized misogynistic on FDSAre you a WOC? Even if you are, it’s really best avoid blanket statements like that. I personally hate statements like that, especially coming from women who aren’t WOC or who aren’t dark. It’s an overgeneralization. You can say darker women are valued less in the social hierarchy or beauty standards in most societies trend toward lighter skin and Eurocentric features. But the above statement is loaded with inferences that just aren’t true. While it is true most societies are colorist, many dark… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 02:03 PM |
| 71 | I call BS on his “Parental Instincts”, and am I the only one who thinks this? I think he abused his powers towards minor girls.Men go out of their way to help other scrotes. This guy’s whole broker’s license was suspended and he still has legal charges pending. But I don’t doubt Westport sought him out to hire him. Why? Because the guy who runs the place is probably a racist, sexist scrote, too, and empathizes. I hope they both reap the consequences | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:13 AM |
| 164 | I call BS on his “Parental Instincts”, and am I the only one who thinks this? I think he abused his powers towards minor girls.Men are crazy. If your child is in anaphylactic shock and fighting for their life, you don’t have to time to think of anything but them. Either his son had a mild reaction and he overhyped it to justify his violence or he just didn’t care about his son’s life at all and was glad to use this excuse to be violent towards young women. Men only seem to have two modes: sex and violence. And they’re typically related to one another. This seemed way too extreme reaction to really be about his child. Se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:41 AM |
| 58 | The mental process of a pickme - it’s long but I feel like we have all been herI actually stumbled onto this video the other day. And I wanted to post it here but I didn’t think they want to watch it because it was so long. This woman needs therapy. She is too old to be so goddamn gullible. And honestly there was no synchronicity there. It just reminded me of how much women project their low self-esteem into the stratosphere so that even the dumbest man on earth can see it and use the clues to take advantage of them. As soon as she started talking I can already see what ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:23 AM |
| 46 | What in the apron strings?!Which just goes to show that he doesn’t respect his girlfriend or care about her. He is projecting his view of tattoos onto his parents. He thinks women who have them are less than and slutty. Of course he wants to date the girl with all the tattoos and use her, but freaks out when his mother gets a tattoo from that same “dirty girl.” What a moron | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:01 AM |
| 41 | This comment section on Youtube reminded me of FDS. Keep brunching and treating yourself like the queens you are ladies. 💕This is such a brilliant commentary. These men know if you are spending your money on brunch, self care and vacations, you aren’t spending it on them. Modern men are leeches, tbh. They want your body, soul, labor and your money. It’s ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:37 PM |
| 267 | Scruffy aged man (Simon Baker) has a meeting with an "OLD-er" woman. I don't always scroll through the daily mail but when I do, it's posts like these that make me snort. Media is ready to devalue women and put scruffy men on pedestals. The comments call them out.Older than 20. Don’t you know after we’re embryos, we shouldn’t be seen in public anymore /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:25 PM |
| 14 | For lurkers: Putin and other dictators and their weaknesses, and how it relates to male-female sexual politicsIdk. I think what you said is excellent in theory, because it’s how I think. But I was sharing some thoughts like that with my mom the other day and she said we had to stop projecting our thoughts on to men. The example I used was Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates, how foolish they were for screwing up marriages to the women that helped build their empires/raise their children. I said their children might stick around because their fathers are billionaires but they aren’t gonna be close to their fathers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:50 PM |
| 126 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEWTF?! Just no. She needs to run to a divorce lawyer and restrict all contact between him and their daughter ETA: What were the comments like on the original? I keep searching the thread but I can’t find it, she probably took it down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 05:16 PM |
| 55 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingI remember the same thing happened with John Grisham. He was like a freaking press conference, defending his friend who was arrested for CP. He literally said “it’s not like it was 10-year-old boys, it was some site called teen sluts, the girls were sixteen, where’s the harm? So misleading to call that CP.” I went to my shelf and threw every one of his books in the trash and I have never read anything else he’s written nor watched any of the movies. The FBI needs to check his computer, that’s al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 04:19 PM |
| 71 | Husband Hates Wife: CEO Edition. He refers to his wife publicly as a "sucker", she asked HIM out, they dated for 5 years before getting married. This is his anniversary post after 12 years of marriage.You’ll notice, everything he said is a projection. He’s calling her a sucker in that situation because he hated who he was at the time. Most people view working at a place like a rental agency as the bottom of the barrel job-wise.To her, the story of how they met is just a cute tale, she needed a car and she met the guy behind the desk. To him it’s probably one of the worst memories of his life. He hated his job, knows it was looked down upon and he probably even hates thinking about that period… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 79 | In.ce.ls and Their Link to Violence Against the StateI never got the “logic” of men blaming feminism for male violence. If women getting more rights or even that imaginary special treatment incels get mad about makes men violent, isn’t that proof they are the problem? Never in the history of the earth have I heard people saying ohh terrorists are violent because their victims provoke them to it. Terrorists are necessarily crazy all by themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 05:20 AM |
| 33 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Even when men tell their truth, they're still lying. Like the guy who said he can't have a conversation with his wife. I bet she's wanted to have lots of conversations-about the division of household chores, where the kids should go to school, or even what's happening in Ukraine. For many men, probably most, "conversation" is a euphemism for listening to him monologue, fake-laughing at all his lame jokes, and letting him teach you things you already know. It's crazy. It's just that Cool Girl men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 33 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatThat argument never made sense anyway. Aside from everything else, men who are willing to shoot up a yoga studio don’t give a damn if prostitution is illegal. If they were that determined to utilize those services, they would. Clearly they don’t care about breaking the law. But it’s entitlement. It is a fundamental point of incels that they, at least most, refuse to pay for SW. They either want government sponsored house slaves or for women to have no rights and be pushed out of the workforce wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:12 AM |
| 73 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatI have often thought that women should take an extra legal approach to stalking. The law is designed to favor men and not women, so we should learn how to bend it our way. Or evade it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:55 PM |
| 116 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatI often think the parents of incels are just as culpable. Aside from Elliot Rodgers, whose parents did call the police and warn the school, most of the parents are enablers. I mean these people kicked their son out of the niece’s birthday party because he was touching little children, but they didn’t call the cops. They didn’t have him committed. Now look. And that other incel, the one who was stalking the couple next door and eventually k!lled a guard at the pentagon, his parents bailed him out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:54 PM |
| 17 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.This isn’t weaponized incompetence. Weaponized incompetence is when you fake like you can’t do work to get out of labor somebody else is entitled to. A wife has a right to expect her husband to help keep up their living space or buy groceries. Some guy you’re dating has no reasonable expectation of you doing his chores or helping out around his house. That’s not weaponized incompetence, that’s drawing boundaries of behavior because men don’t hear words. I agree 100% with the advice. It’s a shame… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:04 PM |
| 245 | SWer finds out her dad watches porn. Calls him vile and disgusting. He doesn’t get why and neither does Reddit.It’s the latter. This man is lying like a rug. I would bet my pinkies he didn’t block her on a damn thing, he’s been watching her this whole time and he said something disgusting to her and of course she doesn’t want anything to do with him. He’s trying to get some external validation that “accidentally” watching his daughter was just fine, so then he can blanket apply that absolution. That SW who posted that men who consume p0rn or pay SWs are in.cestous bas.tardy who desire their daughters was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:35 PM |
| 13 | The whole unmitigated audacity of this scrote. 🤢 I am so glad sis leveled up, adjusted her crown and LEFT.So his socially awkward 24-year-old ass preyed on a 19-year-old girl. He took her virginity in every aspect and now that he has practiced his manipulation enough on her he wants to go and ply his trade with other women. They are keeping hell hot just for this MF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:58 PM |
| 3 | The whole unmitigated audacity of this scrote. 🤢 I am so glad sis leveled up, adjusted her crown and LEFT.Because everyone knows women are supposed to do the performing! These men are doing what they’re supposed to do, just lying there and occasionally jackhammering. They have to get with a bunch of different women because they’re looking for the gymnast to do backflips on their dique or the ballet dancer to do splits on their dique or the yoga instructor who will bend into a pretzel on their dick. Men believe they will have the ultimate sexual experience when they meet the woman who performs the be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:55 PM |
| 63 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?Personally, I believe you should be getting married within a year after the proposal. Unless there’s some kind of extenuating circumstance where he’s deployed or something or y’all are both young, what is there for two independent adults to wait for? An engagement is a temporary stage, a stepping stone, it is not someplace to hang out. Barring something like the pandemic, if you have been engaged for six months and no wedding plans have been made, no deposits have been put down, no venues have b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:39 PM |
| 3 | This review for an odor removing laundry detergent….what the heck is wrong with your husbands health that led to this review????What detergent is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 12:40 PM |
| 310 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.She’s a smart girl. Especially to be so young. She already wised up and saw this guy only valued her for sex and half the rent. He probably gaslighted her into moving in by claiming it was a way to test a relationship and see if it was ready for marriage. She just called his bluff. Nice work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 12:21 PM |
| 28 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!This is exactly why I live alone now. I had to pay a premium for it, but it’s all worth it. I remember at the start of the pandemic, I had roommates who didn’t fear man or God. They were out partying all the time, bringing people back to the house. Just being idiots. Of course they acted stupid before the pandemic. Once I came home just as one girl’s boyfriend or whoever that guy was ran down the stairs into the street to greet the delivery guy in her shorty robe. It was like something out of a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 12:00 PM |
| 199 | Poor woman terrified of her own husband. 💔Please someone who has been there, send her a message. Throw her a lifeline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 03:41 PM |
| 92 | Love Is Blind- What Did Shake Say Behind Deeptis Back?But why does it have to be internalized racism? If this is what she gets treated like when she does date desi men, no wonder she’s not interested. I’m a black woman and I don’t date “my own” men. They are too headache, as the old women say. I love myself and my culture, but I don’t feel obliged to deal with colorism and misogynoir to prove it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 03:38 PM |
| 10 | Stanzi just dropped "Men trying to humble women"I love her confidence. The only way this video could’ve been better is if she said, “OK, let’s say I’m not attractive to you. What does that have to do with my worth? I can’t be confident if some random man doesn’t think I’m fuckable?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:48 PM |
| 37 | The exposure of misogyny against famous women is a massive part of the revolution.No. I don’t wish any harm on Kim K but that “we’re all in this together” sentiment as expressed in the post by Dworkin is exactly how black women get screwed. It completely ignores how intersectionality functions. The fate of one woman has never been the fate of all women, at evidenced by the fact that white women were slaveowners. Right now in the Ukraine, Ukrainian women citizens go first. African women go last, after Ukrainian men. I don’t see Ukrainian women protesting that.So fuck that bull… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:57 PM |
| 11 | D.L Hughley on Kanye West stalking Kim KardashianI really cannot say this enough. Fuck DL Huguely. Like this is the man who had an affair on his wife, had a child with the mistress, kept that a secret for years, and when the child died said he was glad because he didn’t have to deal with the secret anymore. He is @busive in his language and actions towards black women. The only reason he is showing KK a little human decency is because she looks like a woman he’d want to fuck. I hope that they’re keeping hell hot for this human waste | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:34 PM |
| 55 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onBruh, why was there an episode of Amen like this? The guy always offers to take women out to these fancy restaurants and conveniently remembered he “forgot” his wallet on the way. So of course then he had to go home and get it and wouldn’t she come up and help him look. That was in the damn 80s. Scrotes never change | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:26 PM |
| 111 | Men who try to trick you into coming over on the first date or early onMen love the bait and switch! The most popular variation I have experienced is a nice first date at a restaurant then a lowball second date. See scrotes are wising up a little tiny bit. They know that you’re most likely not going to go for the foolishness right off the bat, so they really try to charm you on that first date and pay for everything and do what they’re supposed to do so you feel emotionally invested- then they come through with a lowball second date offer. I remember once a really … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:22 PM |
| 8 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡That’s a very clever catch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:50 PM |
| 1 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?I was once at a professional writers’ conference where this man read aloud a dystopian story where women were traded sexually as commodities. The very next man in line read a time-travel story where is a hero was kind of like Walter Jameson in that old twilight zone episode and there was a woman who was his sex slave in all the times he travelled to. In every era she was reborn so she was always a teenager/early 20s when he was in his 40s/50s and she was a perpetual virgin who could only have se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:42 PM |
| 5 | tw: rape. the comment section is *full* of angry scrotes blaming her, telling her she didn’t get raped, not to ruin the guy’s life because it’s her fault she was drunk.I’m so sorry. But you’re strong. Even in that weakened state, you fought back. You get the treatment you need, I’m sure the ladies here can point you in the right direction. And those people who told you it was too late to get tested for date r*** drugs wrong. That’s a myth. They can do blood and hair tests for up to two months afterwards. So if you didn’t get to do that, there’s still time if you want. Bless you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:41 PM |
| 3 | on being told (over and over) that I have "walls up"Too true. Stealing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:02 PM |
| 6 | on being told (over and over) that I have "walls up"Once, a friend of my brother’s, a vague acquaintance of mine said to me, “I feel like it would be hard to date you. You don’t open up easily.” This was a random statement made after church, no less. I had never dated this guy, never talk to him, and he had a girlfriend. The point of the story is two weeks later I found out he was a serial cheater. Men know women, especially predator men who use women. What men mean when they say you have walls up or you aren’t open is that you’re not easy to use… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:54 PM |
| 161 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.Thank you for the honesty. I remember seeing the original post and thinking there were some red flags, especially the speed of the cohabitation. Sometimes we get the fairytale which contradicts some of the FDS rules we’ve been taught and it’s confusing. I really respect you for coming back to set the record straight and being honest about how everything blew up. That can’t be easy. But you won! You did keep vetting and you quickly course corrected and you’re going to come out on top. You’re a qu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:48 PM |
| 8 | Family annihilators and how to spot one quickly when dating. Long-ish post. TW [murder, suicide]Yes. Erasure is the right word. Even the men who do unalive themselves too often ki!l their families because of some setback in their own lives, like a job loss. They literally believe that their families don’t exist without them and they are doing their families a favor by ki!ling them all before they can find out the head of the family is less than perfect. Men are delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 25 | You know how you feel about a man within the first 5 seconds of meeting himYou know, I was just thinking about this. I spent most of my dating career being nice and giving guys a chance. Not losers, but the nice, established guy you’re supposed to want. But twice, I had this experience, meeting a guy and catching my breath because he was so gorgeous. And in both cases that severe attraction lasted for years, the whole of the relationship. Thanks for putting it in those terms, I’m gonna start vetting for that. Because in every other relationship, things faded physically… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:15 PM |
| 17 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveThis woman is clearly in a lot of pain and many of her bad choices surrounding this guy are a product of the trauma of losing a child, so I don’t want to judge. He manipulated her at an incredibly vulnerable time that I know nothing about. But I can’t believe that she still believes that this guy cared about her/cares about her. He preyed on her. What happened was not an accident. He came around because she was vulnerable. He came around and used her panic attacks as the fulcrum to get in the do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:01 PM |
| 6 | HVM and HVW in pop culture?Reminds me of Commander in Chief with Geena Davis. Very HV couple | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 01:28 AM |
| 13 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.But Boaz had already noticed her first. He noticed her the first day she was picking grain in his fields. That’s why he told the girls to leave her extra. Ruth basically was told by Naomi to let Boaz know she was available for re-marriage, that enough time had passed. Otherwise he might have hesitated because her husband, Boaz’s kinsman, had died pretty recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:54 PM |
| 88 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.This man is trash, but now I can share my new theory. There is no such thing as “like”. A man can never like you romantically. Men are very black and white, very all or nothing. They either love you or they don’t. There are no degrees of love. There is no “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” That’s something men say to make using you sound better. What they mean is “I would rather leech off of your emotional labor and energy than be alone.” What do I mean by there is no like? Have you read… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 03:15 PM |
| 310 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.So brilliant. That and lust were the sum total of his feelings for his ex. And idealization because now he’s an old man who’s dying and in his mind the ex is forever 20 something, young and beautiful and perky. Not an annoying real person with needs who ages like his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 02:57 PM |
| 19 | No words about how disgusting this is.Wow. This is so astute. I will vet for this from now on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 02:51 PM |
| 4 | TW: nasty as hell. I don’t even have words..You know when I was a kid I loved that show, Ahhh real monsters. And the monsters use human toenails as a currency. Anyhow there’s this one episode where the plot is they go into this old man’s house and he has all these jars of his toenails stored up, so the monsters become rich. And I always remember this because I thought it was just so ridiculous. I mean it’s unbelievable. What human being stores their toenails? And then I saw this. Internet time is officially over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:31 AM |
| 286 | If he wanted to he wouldYeah, he’s married or has a girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:27 AM |
| 33 | Fucking idiot 🤡I thought this sounded familiar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 12:19 AM |
| 496 | No words about how disgusting this is.This happened after 9/11. This is where “burka p0rn” was born. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, men experience everything through their penis. Whether they feel angry, sad, confused, curious, it all has to be metabolized through their dick. This is why gay, tranny, and ebony p0rn are the most searched in the Bible Belt. It’s not that those guys are secretly gay anymore than they are secretly black. But this is the only way they have to explore and try and understand things that are dif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 11:41 PM |
| 27 | Always keep this in mind, ladies ✨It’s true. Being an HVW is twofold. If you are a high value woman, you are going to attract a lot of men. All you have to do is sift them. The one you’re left with who meets all your standards is the right one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 6 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameIDK why people are so afraid of male virgins. My last serious bf was a virgin at 27. One of the best lovers I ever had and packing, too. I have to say, I think being good in bed for men is intrinsic to their attitude. I dated a few men with limited sexual experience and they were all great. I’ve also dated men who are very “experienced”. It ran the gamut. Some of them really knew what they were doing and some of them obviously slept around because they couldn’t get any woman to sleep with them a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 09:05 PM |
| 91 | when men have nothing else they have the audacityI see my fellow Frasier fan! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameI agree with SayNad, but I also wonder why we have to assume something is “wrong” with the man who will wait for you. I think that’s defeatist. A true HVM wouldn’t be slinging his penis all around town. He would be selective and he would be dating for marriage. So I don’t think he would have any problem with waiting until you all get married to have sex, particularly if he’s had sex before. I think true HVM are as tired by this shallow dating scene as we are and they wouldn’t want to be hopping … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:17 PM |
| 25 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameWomen always say that and I think it’s such a groundless fear. First, look at the orgasm gap. It appears most women aren’t having orgasms with men, married or single. Second, marriage is about a lot more than sex. Suppose there was some sexual issue. The love, shared values and goals, financial security, etc I’d be marrying for wouldn’t evaporate. Third, there are plenty of ways to gauge sexual compatibility/function without having sex. If you been making out and heavy petting with a guy for ove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 02:13 PM |
| 28 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameYES! I personally was already waiting at least for the engagement, but why not hold out until marriage? That’s the ultimate in vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:19 PM |
| 105 | Waiting for Sex: Not a Zero Sum GameSay it again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:00 AM |
| 12 | Woman quits job to breastfeed boyfriend "full time", what in pickme hell?This is the entire plot of Morrison’s Song of Solomon. And now it’s just a kink. I cannot with the earth today, Lord. Beam me up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:28 AM |
| 14 | Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lackingI like that. And you’re right. In the oughts, when sensitive men were in style, that was my go-to. Then in the 2010s it was ambitious, dot com tycoon types. Now, it’s some sort out of cross between the two | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lackingThis is me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:08 AM |
| 51 | Is Leaving Early the New Coming Home Late for ZVM Who Buy S*x Workers?A lot of women really get off on that imagined competition between them and the wife or girlfriend. Low self-esteem. They feel like they’re beating you or winning if the guy is cheating on you with them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:44 PM |
| 33 | Is Leaving Early the New Coming Home Late for ZVM Who Buy S*x Workers?I have never even understood how men can get it up for SWs. I mean everything else aside, do you know this woman doesn’t know you from a can of paint and literally would not consent if you had not just handed her money. How can you get excited about that? And then to, safety! You know she was with someone else like seconds before. It could’ve been anybody. I just think it’s funny how men have all of these “standards” for women they would and wouldn’t date and would and wouldn’t marry but they wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 96 | Vetting: if a worst case scenario happens to you, can you rely on him?Yes, that author talks about doing the damsel in distress test in “the power of the p*ssy.” If you have an semi-important emergency and you been dating a guy for a while, call him to help you. Call him to pick up the important work papers you left behind, change your tire, pick up your animal from the vet, w/e. It should be semi-important, but not life-threatening. She said you should never commit to this guy without him passing the test. I concur, personally. She also says to perform these regu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 23 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayThat’s still too big an age gap. He should’ve hit on some 30-year-old women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:25 AM |
| 12 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂If you actually swipe these, it becomes exponentially funnier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:05 AM |
| 9 | What counts as toxic femininity in 2022That's what I've always thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:20 PM |
| 93 | What counts as toxic femininity in 2022Honestly, when I hear you guys screeding into the void that wanting 6 inches is too much, I wonder what shrimp dick men these are. I’ve only ever known (in the intimate sense) two men under 7 inches, they were both micros to boot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:48 PM |
| 39 | Dating has no second chances. Stop giving them!True. Whatever society says is good, women need to do the opposite for mental, emotional, and financial health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:37 PM |
| 59 | Stick to your boundariesWhat I’m learning from the ubiquity of these stories is that despite how these men may seem to care about you during the brief courtship, they already made up their minds not respect you to start with. Because the girl they actually respect they would have waited for for any amount of time, even years. Men are weird AF. If I didn’t really care about someone and I didn’t like them all that much I certainly wouldn’t hang around trying to get free sex from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:30 PM |
| 35 | Scrote douses woman in acid for rejecting his advances and giving her life threatening injuries. This is why you can't be friends with men, there's to much at stake. TW: ViolenceThat’s right, but for him, the @cid should only be below the waist. His face already looks like he had an attack | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 73 | Scrote douses woman in acid for rejecting his advances and giving her life threatening injuries. This is why you can't be friends with men, there's to much at stake. TW: ViolenceIt just goes to show you, there is no wall. This woman was 42, this guy was significantly younger and he was still begging her to be in a relationship with him and got violent the second she spurned his advances. And before the attack, she was gorgeous. But this just makes me wonder. If she had said yes, no doubt he’d be treating her like a dream girl. But it’s really two sides of the same coin, isn’t it? He sees her as an object, and object to protect and value if she belongs to him and an obje… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:39 PM |
| 182 | “How do I ask my boyfriend to stop beating and strangling me?”Yeah. It’s never a kink of serving women pleasurably, a kink of giving women multiple orgasms and tender affection, or a kink of extended, erotic foreplay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:30 PM |
| 76 | “How do I ask my boyfriend to stop beating and strangling me?”“I’ve been taught in order to get a man to pay attention to me I have to submit to sexual @buse. I did my job for months and now I’m telling the man who is supposed to be in a relationship with me I’d like to be treated as a person and not a sex doll and he laughed in my face. Is it possible trading my sexual degradation for love doesn’t work?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:29 PM |
| 137 | A message to the kinkmeishas: No, porn is not "normal".Thank you! I saw women on here earlier, on FDS, saying they don’t mind a little “light p0rn use, cONseNtuaL of course, hurr hurr.” First of all, you don’t know what situation those women were in. You don’t know how old they were, you don’t know how they were coerced, abused, frightened, intimidated. And above all have you seen p0rn?! Even when I was a young pick me I never deluded myself that any of that looked sexy or attractive. There’s a reason that they have tons of different genres dedicate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 25 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesApparently JFK never carried his wallet anywhere. His friends said if you wanted to hang with him, you had to pay. A lot of super wealthy people are like this, especially the second generation. Their parents were stingy because the parents didn’t have anything and made the family fortune and they raise their children to be sort of afraid of losing all the money. When it comes to family houses, education, and clothes they make sure to have the best. But when it comes to the more transient pleasur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:32 PM |
| 8 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, Ladies🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:22 PM |
| 15 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesYou know, this is so true. I have a car in a city that mostly doesn’t drive and women are so respectful about taking rides and hesitant to inconvenience me even if we’re going the same way or to the same place! I have to force my coworker to let me take her to the train station every day, but I just wouldn’t feel right letting her walk because I’m literally going to pass the station on my way home and it’s dark and cold outside, not to mention dangerous. Meanwhile men I’ve met twice want to try … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:09 PM |
| 62 | Scrolling Reddit is downright depressing: women with no dignity or self-respectThese women are proof positive of what happens when you allow yourself to be conditioned that men are essential and you have to put up with anything to have one. They have just fallen into the trap of a low self-esteem. When you agree to settle, society will always lower your standards even further than what you settled for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:35 PM |
| 193 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesThey can't hide their predation for a minute. It's disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesThanks! It also happened with my most recent post, Hot and Cold in Business: Why You need FDS in all aspects | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesThat would be fabulous. So I just share a fresh post? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesNot like other girls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesI was flaired when I shared it the first time. It just didn’t go through. It was canceled by automatic moderation when I shared it. I asked the mods what happened, but I never got a response. I figure I must’ve accidentally used some banned phrase. If someone could tell me what that was, I’ll remove it and repost it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 50 | FDS: From minimizing dating disappointment to averting life-derailing disaster - Or the power of sticking the hell up for yourself."I'd rather cry a bit to my girlfriends one night over drinks every six months over a New break up than cry myself to sleep in my own damn house with my own damn husband who doesn't appreciate me and doesn't love me, pretending that he doesn't notice." This is the single greatest thing I've ever read. That's it. That is EVERYTHING! This is FDS in tablet form, this is the tabula rosa of our beliefs distilled into a phrase, this is the silver bullet. No one else needs to write anything else now. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:25 AM |
| 27 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!One of my friends actually recommended FDS to me, but I didn’t tell her I was on here so I could keep my identity a secret. I like having a space where I don’t have to be responsible to people I know in real life for what I say on here. But that showed me I’m hanging out with the right people! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:06 AM |
| 59 | “The success of single women is the success of all women.“Like, this video is everything. It just makes you realize how much of the hype surrounding having a man is just pure propaganda. Men were only ever “men”, sold as that essential being for women to have in their lives by virtue of keeping all opportunity away from women! Can you imagine? The only way men were ever indispensable was by barring women legally from education and financial independence. And just a couple of decades into women having the social, financial, and legal ability to live ind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 14 | Scrotes and their effects on your lifestyle: FDS observations in the wildThey only receive dietary advice from a nutritionist and a bit of health advice if they have preexisting conditions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 12:15 PM |
| 68 | Scrotes and their effects on your lifestyle: FDS observations in the wildI didn’t even think of that. But I definitely saw a lot of women on the show appeasing their partners with junk. Then, these men actually had the nerve to blame the women for their own weight. What prizes. Not to mention, these men were round like the earth and still had the nerve to complain about their partners’ weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:27 AM |
| 323 | Reminder: Please don’t be like this 37 year old woman on a blind date.This is what men like Seth MacFarlane wish older women were like because then they would have a chance with them. It’s funny, shows like family Guy make all these jokes about how “undesirable women” are desperate but apparently they aren’t desperate enough to settle for you. I was watching this awesome episode of Cold Case the other day about this woman who was an alcoholic. I think it was incredibly accurate because it showed how her wanna-be sponsor was just a predator of a man who been kicked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:47 AM |
| 111 | FDS lessons from a social worker-in-trainingYou know, I once read a very interesting article in AARP about men who had never been @busive becoming @busive once they were retired. And there were similar pieces about the pandemic. I’m coming to believe a lot of the women did not know the men who they were married to. It was proven that a lot of men became @busive during the pandemic because they didn’t have their usual outlet of affairs with coworkers or constant p0rn surfing because they were home with their families. I wonder if that’s wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:34 AM |
| 160 | Big oof. This whole thing made me cringe really hard. This is why we don’t chase or be too forward without properly vetting. The wrong men will get the wrong idea, their entitlement doesn’t have limits.Choking is always presented as such a p0rnsick, sex @buse thing, I couldn’t figure out why he was trying to choke her during a kiss. The last slide made it all clear. He was trying to r@pe her. Jesus. I just cannot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:59 PM |
| 38 | I am just so... disappointedWow. I’m so sorry, but I’m very proud of you for walking away instantly. That took a lot of courage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 11:28 PM |
| 143 | This is why casual sex is a big no-no. Thoughts?My only thought is thank God this woman had enough sense to have it terminated. There are too many women having casual sex, getting pregnant by men they don’t know, and then having the babies and wondering why their lives are screwed up. I mean hopefully you wouldn’t even move into an apartment you knew that little about, let alone get a mortgage on a house you glanced at casually, So I don’t know WTF women are doing when they reproduce with a man whose middle name they don’t even know. Do you k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:00 AM |
| 36 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItThis is one of the ugliest men I’ve seen this year | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:53 AM |
| 10 | 21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩WTF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 105 | "Vetting is exhausting"Exactly! I guess I was clicking too fast one day and accidentally entered the sub of former FDS ladies. So sad. Literally, most of them said they left not because they disagreed with FDS standards but because it was “too hard” to practice them. More than one admitted to being afraid of being alone, so they settled instead. I’m friends now with women who are a couple years younger than me and it’s just amazing to see what I used to be like in real time. They tell me about these horrible LV relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:54 PM |
| 13 | You need to *humble* yourselfThat was so fabulous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 41 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?I was coming here to say this. You’ve got it exactly. Men think life is some kind of movie and they are the main characters. Obviously that would make you the Manic Pixie dream girl who is going to be just fun and weird and quirky enough to keep him entertained. You’re going to be up to travel who knows where on a moment’s notice, because you’re not a real girl with a job or a skincare routine. You’ve got lots of silly hobbies that mostly involve you running around scantily clad and doing “guy t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 01:38 PM |
| 25 | Zero Effort Valentine’s DayYou sound afraid to lose this guy because of the time you invested. You should be afraid to invest time with someone who so obviously does not care about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 41 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!No, OKC is trash. It was fun years ago and good quality, I met a couple of long-term relationships there, but ever since they changed the format and now you have to like the person’s profile before they can message you, the whole app is so male-centered. It’s pretty much just tinder 2.0. I deleted that back in November and I will never return to OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:59 PM |
| 12 | on personal space in general and in datingWhat kills me is how many men will use the excuse of tight quarters to try to touch you inappropriately. I was coming off an airplane and you know how that gets. It was pre-Covid, so it was worse than usual with everyone jamming and trying to get off the plane at the same time. This man who was old enough to be my fucking great grandfather definitely pressed the length of my full body. It was not that crowded. First time, I just moved up a foot, no big deal. He moved right up, too. So I moved up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:45 PM |
| 5 | on personal space in general and in datingYou have to put your cart behind you and stand in front of your cart, not behind it. This used to happen to me all the time. I think it’s a form of violence, because it only happened to me when men were at the cart behind me. But they don’t like bumping their cart into another cart, that doesn’t feel good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:40 PM |
| 12 | “She doesn’t bother to pretend she’s not being raped and that makes my pp sad”I mean as soon as these men on the thread heard that this woman was uncomfortable in her videos, they ran to watch them and got off on her humiliation, so you’re probably right. Men say all of this bullshit about p0rn being popular because of sex and nudity, but it’s really the debasement. That’s why even though the actual videos may have different genres, p0rn is uniform. It’s pretty much all about degrading, humiliating and @busing women. That’s why there’s that disgusting kind that starts wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:20 AM |
| 63 | Getting (discount?) Flowers delivered to you the day after Valentine's Day.It was my aunt’s birthday today and I literally sent her a different gift instead of flowers because I didn’t want her getting cheap leftover roses from Vday crowd | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:05 AM |
| 7 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?Just working on my fitness. I’m in the gym at least five days a week and I’m thinking of starting at the climbing gym. I also want to regain my fluency in Spanish. I’m also in the midst of redecorating my apartment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:46 AM |
| 8 | Heartbreaking…long con revenge plan by scroteI’m so sorry this happened to you but I’m really glad he’s dead. Congrats! Maybe you can get your record expunged? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:42 AM |
| 23 | Heartbreaking…long con revenge plan by scroteThat’s because most of them are violent to women themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:41 AM |
| 13 | “She doesn’t bother to pretend she’s not being raped and that makes my pp sad”I don’t get it. So are you saying that men enjoy that she’s looking uncomfortable while being assaulted and that’s why her videos are so popular? Frankly, that wouldn’t surprise me. Men are sick bunch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:39 AM |
| 26 | This is how "decent" men contribute to the bar being so LOWI think this guy said the friend is an essential stranger to make him sound better/more distant than he is. Do your work acquaintances drop by your house? Do they just tell you their deep dark secrets with no preamble? His coworker, who has no reason to lie about that, said he hasn’t said a word to anyone else. He must feel close to this guy. I have a feeling they’re a lot better friends than he’s letting on. He’s met this guy’s wife, knows quite a bit about their marriage. Either way. He could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:21 AM |
| 20 | Low effort men rantWhat is this guy’s name, Priapis? Dionysus? Either way, he’s a lame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 66 | The red flags, the entitlement, the audacity 🤡🤯THANK YOU. He just really couldn’t resist inserting the fact that he groomed this girl and got his fantasy teen virgin. But ladies, notice how that wasn’t enough?! The virgin dreamgirl almost a freaking decade his junior was still pumped and dumped. These lying crackhead misogynists don’t know what they want, apart from sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:37 AM |
| 33 | The red flags, the entitlement, the audacity 🤡🤯That’s what I came here to say. She was 16 at the very least. He rounded up because he knows he was going to get flamed. Now the scrote doesn’t wanna let the girl he groomed get away. How else can he keep this p0rnsick fantasies going? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 05:34 AM |
| 118 | Never Forget: Men will stop at nothing to chase their DreamGirl. If you know or suspect you're not her, then disengage immediately.What I want the FDS women to notice is how the LV scrote’s dream girl is never getting treated better. In the first example, no matter how much that guy idealized his ex, apparently he didn’t treat her well enough to keep her in the first place or she wasn’t interested. Either way it was hardly true love. Not being his dream girl isn’t a statement on your worth, as the last example shows. This guy’s dream girl is a woman he can degrade who has no boundaries or self-esteem. Be wary of using the d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 09:50 PM |
| 112 | He showed up at my door last night11 pm? I do think this was a power-play, just not the one everyone else is saying. He was trying to see if you were with another man and break up the party if you were. He probably only backed down because you were alone. If there had been another man, he probably would’ve turned violent. I would get a restraining order and look into moving. He’s unhinged | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:57 PM |
| 12 | Valentine's Field ReportGot some beautiful flowers from family, candy from my parents, and bought myself some YSL perfume. Cooking for our Galentine’s day potluck and prepping a cute pink outfit. Last year I had a scrotation and Vday still sucked. Nothing like low effort, low value men. Thank God I found FDS and dumped those idiots | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:17 PM |
| 15 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another manMy married boss told us that her husband doesn’t believe in Valentine’s Day when a coworker asked her what she was going to do tonight. I would much rather be single than to be embarrassed and lonely like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:09 PM |
| 33 | Heartbreaking. Wife wants to spend time with lv hubby v-day weekend, gets ignored. He admits he’s trash but doesn’t want her with another manBehavior is communication! If someone is treating you like they don’t give a shit, it’s because they don’t give a shit. Learn how to listen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:59 PM |
| 88 | They can’t STAND not taking credit 😂😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:14 PM |
| 101 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthThat sounds about right. We really have to stop believing in that mentality that looking a certain way is going to get you better treatment, what is going to do is make you more vulnerable. These men see their type in the wild and start planning to sleep with or abduct her, not marry her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:10 PM |
| 380 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthTwo things have helped me with this: 1. Divesting and 2. Realizing that they do not treat the light brites of their dreams any better. I have a friend now who is their fantasy video vixen. Gorgeous, fit girl, light enough to pass with loose curls down her back. when I tell you this girl is forever telling me about her dating woes. And they sound just like the ones I had back when I dated those men. They are cheap, don’t appreciate her, want to rush sex with no commitment, try to rotate her and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:43 PM |
| 25 | More straight people than gay / bisexual people being diagnosed with HIV for first time in a decade according to U.K. health secretary. We’ve been telling you these men are doing too much. Protect your cooch!I say this all the time! Plus the side effects are outrageous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:01 AM |
| 98 | Men who give you a number/large number of children they want before discussing commitment just want to use your body.And honestly, I’d be more afraid of regretting having children then regretting not having them. Look at the women over at break.ing m.om-a lot of them are single mothers. It’s not always men, children are a lot of work. And that’s assuming that you are blessed and nothing goes wrong. But women are often injured in childbirth and suffer lifelong consequences. Do you want children or do you want the fantasy society has sold you of unconditional love and motherhood being the ultimate expression of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:59 PM |
| 29 | Men are so inconsiderate.Aren’t apartment style dorms sex-segregated? If you don’t like the arrangement, can’t you complain to the housing authority? I’ve never heard of women on campus being forced to share a room with any male. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:54 PM |
| 8 | Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries.You've called it. And additionally, while he's squatting at Her house, you just know he's talking to other girls, possibly taking pictures in it for OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:55 PM |
| 127 | So I got left a day before VDay but I am not the sad victim -- thanks to FDS!And there was no "potential" lost either! I've realized what we call potential is our own imagination. If this guy was mad he wasn't getting sex and playing hot and cold, nothing good was ever coming from him. The only way this could've turned into a good relationship would be if aliens beamed him up and replaced him with a superior copy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries.Oh no, I totally get your point and you're right. I'm just saying he's not offering this altruistically. He's only doing it now because he's about to lose her benefits. She's been struggling the whole time and he ignore it. The minute she talks about taking real action which might impact him, he offers to contribute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries.No, he’s offering to help himself. What is he paying to live with three roommates, like $1000 a month. He gives her say $500 a month and he still gets all the benefits of a lovely studio in New York for an absolute bargain basement deal. Because if she loses the apartment because she can’t afford it, he’s stuck in his shitty, cheap situation. And think about it- for $500 a month not only is he getting the physical space of her apartment to chill in, he’s probably getting free home cooked meals, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 05:04 PM |
| 6 | Men will not compromise on their space and living arrangements just for being in a relationship. They can use the woman's place as their own when it suits them but not return the favour. Women who compromise for the men that don't, disrespect their own boundaries.These scrotes really want all of the benefits of solo apartment in New York for free! And I bet you anything while she’s out hustling her life away to afford $3000 a month in rent, he’s laying up in her apartment, funking it up, and enjoying the life that she’s paying for. He might even be trying to sneak girls there behind her back. Dump this loser and watch your utility bills, food bills, and everything else get much lower and you can easily afford this place. I moved into my own one bedroom i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | How To Stop Being Insecure About Your Body? I Don't Want To Waste My 20's Hating It.Love your own look and reaffirm that you are beautiful. The thing that helped me the most was starting a Pinterest board of women who look like me. I’m kind of unusual, especially within my community. I didn’t have the look that was popular there. I was very thin instead of “thick”, tall not petite, dark, with a small chest. So I just made a Pinterest board called beautiful women and pinned only women who looked like me with my style. Honestly, it helped more than anything. Constantly reaffirmin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 02:45 AM |
| 51 | Why we shouldn’t have men as friends….a sequel.Nah, I believe it. First off, if a man had written it, he wouldn’t have the self-awareness to realize why women find relationships so draining. It would say something like, “Even though I’ve met lots of wonderful men who want to marry me, I’d rather sleep around with young hardbody Chads!” The OP is serving me a whiff of NLOG so of course she’s had a man as her best friend for 30 years and it makes sense that she would be really concerned with his opinion of her. To be fair, I think anybody woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 12:38 AM |
| 173 | Why we shouldn’t have men as friends….a sequel.I literally came here to write this. That’s why men say women are selfish if they don’t want children or expect men to carry their own weight. They actually believe that we exist to serve them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 19 | "Liberated: the new sexual revolution" on NetflixOh my God, I used to travel with my college choir over spring break! Those trips were the best | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:24 PM |
| 151 | You deserve to be loved tenderly.This is so true. I’ve known a few couples, married for 50 or 60 years where the husband was just so tender towards the wife. A beautiful sight to behold. That is definitely what I’m looking for, because it is possible. Who’d want to spend several decades with somebody snapping at you and treating you was less than when you can have somebody who treats you like a princess and adores you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:15 PM |
| 85 | Mistakes were made, let us count the ways…Disagree, I think the father is using the excuse of his daughter but he either instigated all of this stuff or he’s straight up doing it using the daughter as his proxy. This girl does not want the OP’s nudes, she wants her father’s attention and I’m sure the only time the man bothers to speak to her is when they are collaborating on how to make this woman’s life a living hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:34 AM |
| 17 | Mistakes were made, let us count the ways…I may be alone, but I one hundred percent believe the story is real. Because what’s actually happening here is the father is manipulating the daughter and weaponizing her to control the OP’s social life. This is just an advanced version of what regular men do when they break up with the mother of their children/ex-wife. They use their children and weaponize time with them to keep tabs on who the mother is dating and cause chaos so she can’t successfully move on. They hope that they’re going to w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:32 AM |
| 3 | How to deflect dating questions from friends/family/coworkersHey, we didn’t start the fire. But I definitely carry around lighter fluid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 04:36 PM |
| 115 | "The Johns complain that women in the wild (aka not sexually exploited) are too emancipated." Adopting FDS standards will repel predators and save your life.Now contrast the above video the comments and content on this BBC “Why I Pay for Sex” 3 minute video. (If you open the first video on YouTube, this one crops right up next to it.)This one is of the male perspective, has way more views, and a bunch of men justifying the exact attitudes mentioned above. It’s like men don’t even hear themselves. “Well yeah, some men have to pay for sex because otherwise they wouldn’t get any female companionship or intimacy!” To them companionship and intimacy from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 02:50 PM |
| 107 | "The Johns complain that women in the wild (aka not sexually exploited) are too emancipated." Adopting FDS standards will repel predators and save your life.“Hunting in the wild”, “prey”, “3 hole mare”,= dominance, power structures, inhumanity. This video is just so real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 02:32 PM |
| 25 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Why are we trying to be better than bitter Elliot Rodgers types? This guy is a sociopath and deserves nothing but our contempt. F his feelings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 02:24 PM |
| 74 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Techbro is the perfect way to describe that aesthetic! You know I hate those articles that give you Bill Gates or Elon Musk-type tips for success because one of the things they always say is wear the same outfit or same type of outfit every day because it “frees your mind for more important decisions.” First of all, women don’t even have that option. Men can wear the same black suit or the same hoodie and jeans every day and nobody blinks, but if you as a woman repeat one outfit in the same week… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 02:20 PM |
| 125 | How to deflect dating questions from friends/family/coworkersI’m kind of cold. Most people, especially women, are in sucky relationships, so I just turn it on them. “No, I haven’t met anyone. Most of these men out here just want to use you for emotional and household labor. You know, the kind of man who won’t even change his baby’s diaper? Considers watching his own child babysitting?” The trick here is you want to make your criticism of men as specific as you can to the husband of the woman you’re talking to. Look innocent while you do it and conclude wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 04:00 AM |
| 9 | Even on Airplanes in business class we are not safe.I had a thought. What if he drugged her? I mean he was betting a lot on this woman remaining quiet and compliant for a few minutes and not screaming and waking up the whole plane. That’s a big risk in picking a random target. That’s very bold. But if he was right across the aisle, as another person said, he was watching her. He must have known there would be a window of opportunity, and really the only way for him to know that for sure would be if he created it by drugging her or otherwise incap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 03:40 AM |
| 5 | Even on Airplanes in business class we are not safe.Wait, how did you find out more details? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 03:34 AM |
| 36 | Even on Airplanes in business class we are not safe.My mind keeps spinning logistically as to how this possibly could’ve happened, but ever since that guy decapitated his seatmate on greyhound, I guess anything is possible. This is bullshit though because they get you on the plane and make you completely vulnerable. It’s not like you can have a stun gun or pepper spray. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 30 | MIDDLES: Middle Aged, Middle Income, Middle ManagementThe only thing they forgot was middle-age spread! Lol these scrotes are pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:41 PM |
| 8 | Free vs SlaveThank you. I did not have the spoons to take this down, especially during Black history month. This is just out and out fucking disrespectful. People were literally treated as furniture, cut up and tortured while still alive for wanting freedom or even food. There is no comparison. And this statement ignores the existence of black women. Hello, they were actually enslaved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:39 AM |
| 31 | He’s crazy if he thinks Gen z/millennial woman are gonna put up with this😂💀It’s crazy how they’re convinced vaginas change from sex but can’t understand that their peens don’t work because of p0rn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 09:15 PM |
| 130 | Women and CaregivingThis is exactly why I said if I am not married by a certain point in my 30s, I’m not marrying a man unless his parents are already dead/he’s rich. The first time I watched Sex and the City that’s what struck me the most. Miranda hadn’t been married to Steve a year yet, and there she was bathing his elderly mother with Alzheimer’s. I fucking refuse! You don’t just have to watch out for guys wanting you to be the nurse and purse for them, a lot of men get married when they’re in their late 30s/ear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 02:53 AM |
| 22 | Don’t date cops reason #2,387: female district court judge tries to rebut the statistic that cop families have 2-4x domestic violence rates. She literally is a judge and can’t grasp that her experience isn’t a statistic.It’s funny that a judge would have so little critical thinking skills. She knows perfectly well the reason she doesn’t see cops before her is because their friends don’t arrest them and their DV doesn’t go on the record. I’m sure she has seen the old buddy boy system at work 1000 times, but she’s willfully ignoring every instance she must’ve known of it personally to act like male cops are innocent. This is actually what’s scary. That a woman in a position to see the real truth is lying about it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 02:29 AM |
| 78 | How to win in family court: a PSA from a lawyer.But in cases like this don’t men eventually get tired of having custody of their children.I know they typically have their new girlfriend or old affair partner or their mommy waiting in the wings to do the actual work, but even with all that help children are work. And most men do not like dealing with the everydayness of parenthood: The kid needing help with the homework, expecting to be fed every day, putting out their school clothes and doing laundry, etc. You would think once they gained the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:33 PM |
| 161 | How to win in family court: a PSA from a lawyer.So basically you have to pretend you’re NLOG, but in court. This is very valuable advice, but it’s so disheartening to see how every institution caters to male fantasy of how women ought to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:26 PM |
| 12 | Thoughts on a particular sort of female-perpetuated misogynyIt’s funny that a judge would have so little critical thinking skills. She knows perfectly well the reason she doesn’t see cops before her is because their friends don’t arrest them and their DV doesn’t go on the record. I’m sure she has seen the old buddy boy system at work 1000 times, but she’s willfully ignoring every instance she must’ve known of it personally to act like male cops are innocent. This is actually what’s scary. That a woman in a position to see the real truth is lying about it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 39 | Don’t date cops reason #2,387: female district court judge tries to rebut the statistic that cop families have 2-4x domestic violence rates. She literally is a judge and can’t grasp that her experience isn’t a statistic.Don’t delete it here, but definitely make a post of it in addition to this comment. I know people who have had brushes with family court and it’s insane what women are penalized for. My aunt’s divorce lawyer told her straight up not to wear red lipstick to court, the judge will think you’re a gold-digging harlot. I interned for a judge for a bit and I saw the no-fault divorce judgments. Fascinating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:32 PM |
| 19 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?See, this is where you let men do the legwork for you. I would start a separate email and give that to your friend to send to these guys. And then I would tell them the truth. That she is putting up profiles that she basically took off of Instagram and none of these women have any intention of meeting these men, nor knowledge this is even being done in their name. The scrotes won’t care about your safety, but they will care that your friend is making false promises and taking money in exchange f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:23 PM |
| 143 | I’ve seen so many of these, the entitlement is real. No one wants to be your live in bang maid, especially not for FREE!! They’re hoping to take advantage of a woman in need, forget that women can room with eachother without the expectation of chores and sex. We don’t need men like thisHe didn’t think it was fancy, he thought she was an alcoholic and that would induce her to get in his car. That is so sad. There are lots of mentally ill women on the street and men know that they are self-medicating and to use that against them is so disgusting… On another note, this is why I don’t understand why women run around getting plastic surgery and spending tons to conform to the male gaze. They will literally try to pick up homeless women. They will do it with animals. The male gaze r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 158 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.He was universally panned as the asshole. I didn’t see one single dissent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:37 AM |
| 14 | I have the absolute lowest value male dad, and I want to vent for a bitGrey rock. Once it stops becoming entertaining to mess with you, he’ll quit or at least cut down a lot. Don’t feed into his negative energy. Being a gray rock means just being boring and unemotional. But whatever he says just give one word answers or make a little noise. Yes, all right, mmm-hmm, huh. He’s bothering you for the satisfaction of torturing you so just make sure he doesn’t get any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:29 PM |
| 93 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitClown world! I swear this is just reinforcement for leaving as soon as the guy cheats. This woman is an idiot. Oh, and the husband and Jane are still sleeping together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:21 PM |
| 932 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.HE NAMED HER IN THE POST. He put her real name up on Reddit! The post has since been altered, then removed but this SOB. I hope that by outing her he also has outted himself because there can’t be that many people who knew this girl in college and worked at the company she was applying to. I hope karma falls on him like a sumo wrestler | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:59 PM |
| 129 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.The same army that has like a 90% SA rate? Yes, talk about a blessing in disguise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:54 PM |
| 201 | This is why you don't get an OnlyFans. Men that you know will happily buy the nudes to wank over you, and then go on right ahead to use that fact to stop you from getting a job. Male 'feminists' are evil, do NOT believe them when they say they are supportive of 'sex workers'.Two things: 1. He knew this woman’s name and stats instantly. Either he’s been stalking her or he asked her out and she refused. That’s the real reason he did this. Bitterness because his peepee didn’t get served. 2. As horrible as this is, men have posted in AITA and other subs about trying to blackmail women with the knowledge of their only fans for money and sex. Just say no to OF. The money it will make you is never worth the cost of the money and privacy you lose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 27 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.I hope he failed and you did well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | How are men so obsessed with sex and yet still SO BAD at it??Back in the dark, dark days when I followed rsex, I saw a man say to the tune of thousands of upvotes that masturbating was better than sex unless you liked the woman. They tell on themselves daily | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:20 PM |
| 110 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.Right! It has to be more than a coincidence. I know young lady whose father passed away recently. Right after she came back from the funeral, her boyfriend who she had just moved in with, broke it off. WTF?! But the craziest part was I was talking about the situation with my siblings who are all around my age and they insisted that even though the guy was a jerk for the timing, that was just life. I tried to get them to see that this was obviously a deliberate move to break this woman’s spirit, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:59 PM |
| 14 | Reminder that this is the common behavior of husbands. Vetting is lethal and so is depending on someone other than your romantic partnerGod bless this woman. But I don’t think that we have to worry about this. I actually know two women this happened to in real life. One’s husband divorced her when she was suffering through her second bout of breast cancer and the other woman’s husband stayed, but refused to take her to chemo or do anything at all to help her. He was pissed she was no longer able to do all the housework and childcare. Both women’s husbands cheated on them A LOT while they were being treated. Here’s what I learned… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:48 PM |
| 223 | Age Gaps in the MediaYes, I too am very disgusted by Leonardo. I’m glad women are starting to judge men more harshly on their physical characteristics. At least most older women are still attractive. This guy just looks like a bloated, obese alcoholic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 01:48 AM |
| 103 | A Baby Cannot Trap a Man. A Baby Cannot Trap a Man.You hit the nail on the head. And that’s exactly why I am child free. I don’t ever want anything preventing me from leaving a man if I need to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:30 PM |
| 36 | Are most high value women “doomed”?OK, but an LVM it’s not a truly loving partner, so she’s not missing anything. I swear, it sounds like some of these women just need to take some time to work on themselves. You wouldn’t take an Hermès bag and throw it in the mud would you? So why would you expose yourself, which is infinitely more valuable, to low value men just to not be alone? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:47 PM |
| 35 | Are most high value women “doomed”?Lol Doomed to what? A good time? The only difference between an FDS woman and a regular woman is the treatment they’re willing to put up with. So what are you asking? Essentially the question is has FDS has harmed you by opening your eyes to the truth because men are going to treat women like conveniences regardless. So all you’re missing out on is the opportunity to be used by some man doesn’t care about you anyway. You’re missing the chance to do a bunch of extra chores, go 50-50, and get chea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:40 PM |
| 342 | The darker underside of the “cool girl”You know there’s an issue we don’t talk about when it comes to the cool girl. It’s not just a struggle for male attention. A lot of these women think that they are worthless if they aren’t having sex, even if they don’t enjoy it and it’s a violent, painful sex. It’s not a matter of idle male attention on social media. They literally are always struggling to be a man’s hole in one, so to speak, even if they hate doing it. It’s very sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:21 AM |
| 59 | TW: r*pe very triggering, I almost logged off of the internet after reading this but I decided to post here so we can all seeI remember watching the Kavanaugh hearings. And you know what my biggest take away was? There were a bunch of guys in the room with Cavanaugh and Dr. Ford. One guy tried to stop the assault, tried to help her. But a room full of men sat there watching. And people thought that was a legitimate position. The ones who weren’t helping him or egging him on were considered innocent, and even the ones who didn’t physically touch her weren’t considered as committing a crime. But there’s no neutrality be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:40 AM |
| 58 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsAs a black woman I totally get this and black men do the same exact thing. They promote a bunch of women who either are actually mixed or look Eurocentric (eg Halle Berry, Beyoncé, Paula Patton, etc). You can’t win. They like to criticize black women who straighten their hair or wear what they call Eurocentric styles, yet like you say about Asian men, they hate on the features and hair texture indigenous to black women. They want the freedom to create a beauty standard and a preference for women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 10:35 PM |
| 13 | The audacity! Time to abandon or murder your pet, as all good women doYou have to remember she’s relatively young and raised in a society that conditions women to give themselves away. Unless you read a handful of select books or have been in a few select spaces, nobody’s telling you that you’re worthy as you are and you should have boundaries and put your interests and hobbies before having a man. Socially, we might as well be in the 1950s, only now in addition to expecting you to be the perfect housewife, they also expect you to be the perfect sex slave for some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:27 AM |
| 46 | The audacity! Time to abandon or murder your pet, as all good women doExactly. He’s only trying to destroy every relationship in her life so that when he breaks up with her she has absolutely no emotional resources. He wants to destroy her and he can’t do that until he’s gutted all of her resources. Thank God this is the kind of hubris that normally trips men up. Women might tolerate emotional abuse and controlling actions towards themselves but the vast majority of women won’t stand for it about their pets. She’s going to ditch him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:15 AM |
| 6 | Stop fucking falling in love with "potential"!That’s what I call the difference between potential and a plan in progress. Don’t get me wrong. A plan in progress can still go off the rails. Watch him. A decade ago I dated a really brilliant aerospace engineering major who wrote his own math theorems. I’m about to get my PhD and to this day he has not graduated with his bachelor’s! I had to cut him loose in undergrad. Some people are “too smart” to function in the real world and follow instructions and that’s just as dysfunctional as an illit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:02 PM |
| 15 | Stop fucking falling in love with "potential"!You have put into words my major frustration with women right now! I have women in my life who are well educated, well employed, and seem intelligent, but they keep making the same stupid decisions when it comes to men. I don’t get it. If you meet a loser and he’s not doing anything productive with his life, why is it reasonable to assume that he’s going to do a 180 by virtue of being in proximity to you? And I wish that it made sense! At least when I see a woman get with a good looking loser, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:55 PM |
| 174 | Is it a crime to wear fake brand?I just think it’s funny how places pick and choose what crimes they want to prosecute. There is a thriving sex trafficking industry in Korea, but they are pressed over this girl wearing fake brands. I’m not saying it was not a poor business decision. She could’ve easily gotten real Dior pieces for the commercial. But have you ever noticed a male government official will literally be accused of r@pe or abusing women using his position and his life will hardly change. But let an attractive, indepe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:52 PM |
| 982 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Ugh. The man forces his five months pregnant wife to wake up in the middle of the night and go down on his sweaty unwashed junk, which even he said was disgusting, and then play with his sweaty unwashed ass, which he knows she hates and she is still wondering if she hurt his feelings by gagging and not being enthusiastic. She is still wondering if he’s the victim after he did her like that. Female socialization is a hell of a drug | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:46 PM |
| 76 | TW Abuse - Reality TV ‘star’ with criminal history turns out to be an abuser. We need to boycott trash series that enable these predatorsBut this is more than bad form. All those reality TV shows do background checks. They knew perfectly well what they were getting. Not only should they be sued for exposing the women on the show to this dangerous guy without their knowledge, they should be tried as accomplices if he does harm women he met on the show or through the show. It’s like what we say about OLD. We boycott because we don’t want to be used as the product. Women are being used as the product in reality TV and this is how th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:32 PM |
| 1105 | That time I walked out on a date after his first sentenceAs soon as I read the caption, I said “I wonder what one sentence a man could say that would make her leave so quickly? “And it did not disappoint. Yikes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:30 PM |
| 19 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.I never said and I don’t think she had the baby to get him back (nor did I say to the OP herself she should have aborted). I think she had the baby out of fear. Fear about age and fertility. Fear about the future. Fear once the husband cheated that the baby was all she had left. Women should never operate out of fear. We can have it all, but only if we really consider our decisions. I mean, we wouldn’t advise making a major decision with a man who cheated otherwise, right? We wouldn’t advise sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:04 PM |
| 38 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.This woman says that he is “obsessed with her”. He threw a violent temper tantrum just because his own father told her she looks nice. She’s afraid to have a personal life because he might find out. Sounds like she’s in danger to me. And she thinks she’s in danger, that’s why she’s posting. And that’s why all these people are advising her on safety, because they see it, too. There’s nothing anti-feminist about self-preservation. But I think it’s very anti-feminist to prioritize fertility myths o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:41 AM |
| 51 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.This group is called female dating strategy. We cannot control what men do, we can only control our own actions. She got to be “right” by having the baby. And now she gets to be terrified to date again while her ex is engaged to his affair partner and terrorizing her at her child birthdays. She gets to be tied to this man and he gets legal access to her address and personal info for 18 years. He gets to use their daughter as a football to control her. Being FDS is about realizing the true nature… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:46 AM |
| 47 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.THANK YOU. It is completely selfish for women to have children with men like this. If you want a child, find a sane man. Adopt. Foster. Sperm donor. But how many children have been killed by their fathers to spite their mothers or to keep from paying child support? And that’s not counting the ones who are abused to death by men who are negligent and evil. Women need to think more about the effects their decisions are going to have on their children. It is not fair for you to give birth knowing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:19 AM |
| 57 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.She should have aborted though. She said herself in the comments she thought about it and decided to have the baby. She had plenty of notice that the guy didn’t care about her and was at best a cheating narcissist and at worse actually out to harm her. As these other intelligent users pointed out, this connection to him that she can’t get rid of might end up costing her life. You want a child, have one with a sane man or sperm donor. Or adopt! But here at FDS we don’t applaud reproducing all wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:12 AM |
| 124 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.Notice how many of these stories are about the “hot “high school or college girlfriend who they’re going to idealize for the rest of their lives. Now when they get married, their 35-year-old wife will be nothing compared to this image of the hottie who lives in their head, but when they had the “perfect girl” they cheated on her left, right, and center and abused her emotionally and probably physically. No woman is ever good enough for them. When they have the youthful, no strings attached hook … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 12:58 AM |
| 81 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.You know, once I was high as a kite and a male friend of mine who I always thought it was gorgeous started coming on to me. Now I had known him for years and he had never intimated any physical interest before, so I removed myself from the situation because I didn’t know how high he was or drunk and I didn’t want anyone to have any regrets. Next day when he was sober, we discussed it and it was what we both wanted, so we went forward, but notice how I’m not expecting a cookie for not sexually as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 7 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!I will never get over that book. I think the masterstroke is that it’s written from his point of view and yet you can still see what a douche he is. I mean he spends all this time talking about how in love he is with Ellen and how he feels trapped in his life, how he and May don’t have anything in common. And then bang, May is pregnant, which let you know he was sleeping with her all along. He couldn’t be bothered to talk to her, but sex was on the table. It’s just male entitlement. It was all a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:18 AM |
| 5 | I’m not gonna ask on relationship advice subs to get gaslit, I’ll ask here if allowed. Do you think I should leave because he didn’t stand up for me, or is it trauma?You should run. Even if you are dead wrong, if it’s a matter of opinion your partner should have your back. Unless you’re proslavery or something else crazy, your partner should always be defending you from others. It’s one thing to have a friendly disagreement about the rules of Uno or something, but if you’re in a seriously heated debate and a man is screaming at you and talking over you and your partner doesn’t jump in, you should run without delay. But what concerns me most is the substance … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:15 PM |
| 148 | Woman Crush Wednesday! This queen graduated law school 20 years after being rejected. Never married, no kids, glowing at 41! 👑Doesn’t look a day over 25. Proud to be a BW! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:26 PM |
| 138 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Talk about problematic-what about The Children? At the time, I was reading all of her novels, that book made me stop. The main character was a 46-year-old “bachelor” who met up with a bunch of siblings who were orphaned. The oldest was a girl who is 16 or 17. He, of course, is entranced. He proposes in a very oblique way and she thinks he wants to adopt them. I need a shower when I think about that book. But I think Edith was all about exposing what men are really like. She just did it so well t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:25 PM |
| 14 | FDSers who are waiting for marriage to have sex or have sex later in committed relationships, have you found that HVM (even non-religious) are willing to wait?I’ve never had vaginal sex, never done oral before a few months in a relationship and I’ve dated a ton. Honestly it’s never been a problem. I like what one guy said, something to the effect of “I’ve had sex before. Going without it to be with someone I really like is no sacrifice.” The only men I dated who pushed sex upfront within three dates (and I’d say there were only three of those men) just wanted sex, period. They had different methods, but nothing FDS standards won’t weed out. I met the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:52 PM |
| 226 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Because in reality he doesn’t love his ex either. If he really had a chance to be with her again, he’d be happy for maybe a day and then he discover she’s a person and not the perfect girl who lives in his fantasies, 13 years older and wanting him to take actual responsibility. This guy is like the husband who wrote five pages about his dick the other day and how his ex girlfriend used to give him a blow jobs while he was driving. He probably doesn’t miss his ex girlfriend, he misses being 20 wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:13 PM |
| 159 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!I think we need to worry less about the feeling he has for an ex and more about the way he treats you. That will tell you everything. Men are limited. They are pretty much incapable of lying with their actions. If they’re not excited about you, it’s going to show. No man who ever courted a woman with real enthusiasm for a long period of time was faking it. They just don’t have the emotional bandwidth or intelligence. That’s why men love bomb you for a short time or breadcrumb you for a long time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:10 PM |
| 400 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!You know, that reminds me of the Age of Innocence. Newland Archer cheats on his wife with her cousin, Ellen. He’s actually about to leave his wife and runoff with Ellen to Europe or somewhere which he knows is going to ruin his wife’s life seeing as she’ll never be able to remarry because she’ll be married to him. And she’ll be disgraced in the eyes of society. But he just has to do it because he’s so in love with Ellen. Anyway, his wife tells him that she’s pregnant as he’s leaving, so he ends … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:47 PM |
| 314 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Highlight the part where he says he “likes her” and they have THREE children together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:41 PM |
| 28 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢My father packed lunches for us kids. My mother would paint the house with nail polish brush before she ever packed a grown man’s lunch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:32 AM |
| 27 | Reasons I changed my mind on having children and all the aspects of motherhood society does not want to acknowledge:I was definitely parentified at a young age, I empathize. It was there I learned that children aren’t that amazing. It’s a lot of work: you have to constantly be worried about their safety and you lose personal time. I never went on a date in high school, I was always watching my siblings. I feel like I’ve had three children already. Over kids, being a footloose and fancy free adult is so much better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:37 PM |
| 21 | Reasons I changed my mind on having children and all the aspects of motherhood society does not want to acknowledge:This is my exact thought process. I just want to birth myself as Toni Morrison wrote. I don’t want to give myself away for the title of mother. It’s not worth it to me. I mean imagine who women could be if they poured all that energy into themselves. I’m going to be Dr. WriteNow07 soon enough, with the money and freedom to do whatever I want. And I’d say that’s pretty damn good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:34 PM |
| 15 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I feel like because Cheslie wrote about a fear of aging a year ago, which she seemed to have come to grips with by the end of the essay, people are minimizing the reason for her suicide into “women are afraid of hitting the wall.” But the truth is, we don’t know what this woman was going through. Just look at the last two years. We don’t know who she lost to Covid, we don’t know what her living situation was like, we don’t know what her health was like. We do know she struggled with mental healt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 17 | The slow normalization of pedophiliaI disagree. Look at how NAMBLA is treated versus men who like underage girls. Those men who stalk girl celebrities, who count down the days till those girls are 18 are mainstream. They’ll go right on Howard Stern or whatever shock jock show and say whatever about young Britney Spears or Dakota Fanning or Miley Cyrus, no fear of retribution. But mention NAMBLA and men are out for blood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:53 PM |
| 53 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?Back in the day, I had a guy I was dating show up to my home uninvited. I wasn’t home. Later I went out to the college bar we all hung out at and he was there. He was getting drunk on whiskey and acting possessive, so I sat with some other friends, including men. He left in a huff, after I refused to sit with him or leave with him. The next day, my best friend called and told me he’d called the night before and threatened to “take care of” the guys I was sitting with. This was the South, so he o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:15 PM |
| -35 | The slow normalization of pedophiliaIt’s possible, but not a problem. You’re forgetting boys are considered people, unlike us women. That argument will fall flat on its face the first time people begin to suggest that men have a right to make deep fakes of boys without their knowledge or use random boys’ pictures for their own sexual gratification. Society will tear them apart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:06 PM |
| 126 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!Very good, lots of growth. One small note, in the future, if I were you, I would not tell men I was looking for an LTR or tell them that you’re waiting for sex. When you do that you’re giving them the playbook. They think if they act a certain way and rush the commitment they can get sex free and clear and then get out of there. Be the dumb Fox, don’t talk. No discussion and watch his actions. A man will show you who he genuinely is and what he really wants soon enough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:54 PM |
| 70 | Your male friends WILL masturbate to you, and it’s not their fault. Here you have it Queens, If you are friends with men, they will masturbate to you, because they can, and because it’s private, and none of your business.You should ask them if they’re cool with gay men or just male friends beating off to their pictures. Or male friends beating off to their gf’s pictures or sister’s pictures, since it’s harmless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 06:41 PM |
| 2 | He’s just like every other man I’ve met, except this one has a working machine of complicit enablers.This is what I said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:54 AM |
| 3 | Negatively branding FDS in forums leads other women wary of joining and checking it out.I found FDS because I was on that sex forum and got permanently banned for saying the 30+ couple who “seduced” (preyed on and got drunk) an 18 year old girl for a threesome were predators. I started searching comment threads to find like-minded women, found FDS the same day, never looked back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 03:47 AM |
| 94 | Crystal Hefner Destroys Depraved Hugh Hefner's Revenge Porn StashDo you know what I think about when I think about Hugh Hefner? This story I read once. It’s not even about him, it’s about that guy Larry some thing, owner of The Bunny Ranch out in Vegas. Anyhow, it’s Ron Jeremy, the p0rn star, telling the story. He’s met Larry at some sport event and they’re hanging out and Larry is continually making references to Ron’s equipment. He was infamous for his size. At some point they stop playing whatever sport and they go into the dressing room and change and Lar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 199 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesThis is the ultimate validation. I don’t know if you ladies caught this during the long self pity party this scrote was throwing, but according to him his first wife was the love of his life, beautiful, wealthy, generous, brilliant, gave him four daughters, let his scrote ass be a stay at home dad, funded his pipe dreams AND HE STILL ASKED HER REPEATEDLY TO OPEN THE MARRIAGE BEFORE CHEATING ON HER AND HAVING A SIDE BABY. And why did he cheat? FOMO! This guy literally cheated on her just because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:40 AM |
| 85 | My friends keep telling me, “not all men.”It’s truly amazing. I just moved to a new city, so I’m trying to make new friends. At a tennis club, I thought I met a bunch of socially aware, leveled up ladies. They were all educated, make more money than me, and just generally doing well. We all get along fabulously when we’re playing, so we decided to have brunch a couple weeks ago. We get on the subject of men and their standards are nowhere to be found! They’re dating and having sex with these loser ass leeches and when I venture in the o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:12 PM |
| 120 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityBut men aren’t childfree for a reason. They intentionally get women pregnant to “book mark” them, as they say. In their minds if they get a woman pregnant, they have access to her for life, which is kind of true. For the next 18 years he has entry into your house. He has a legal right to know where you live at all times and where you work. It’s a means of marking you and controlling you with the child. They figure she’ll be too tired and busy to go around dating and even if you do, your prospect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 02:49 PM |
| 113 | Porn ruins menBut what gets me is who forced this guy to get married? Unless he lives in a country where arranged marriages are a thing, there’s a choice he made. Men want all the benefits of being a married man with children but they don’t want any of the responsibility. They want mommy bangmaid at home and they still want to live it up like single men with no accountability to their partners and no responsibility for the children they made. I just get so sick of the fucking foolishness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 07:04 PM |
| 513 | Porn ruins menThis SOB wrote FIVE pages about why his wife is a frigid shrew because she won’t have anal or give him blowjobs while he’s DRIVING. Yet his wife is begging him to spend time with their only child and he won’t because: 1. He’s too busy with work, Reddit and drinking and 2. His MIL is living there, so she can do it instead. No wonder this idiot’s marriage is failing: him. No time for his child or quality time with his wife. Nothing about complimenting her after the baby or trying to create any non… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 06:43 PM |
| 18 | Compilation of the “bearded cutie” filter. Women on tiktok are dragging the podcast menThis was absolutely amazing. Especially the end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:09 AM |
| 197 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!I think it’s for real, because if it was a troll he’d be calling a girl a cheap golddigger for not wanting to have sex in his very nice storage unit where he just happened to have his bed and all his home furnishings. But this situation makes him look insane. The place is filthy and filled with rotting food and he wants her to clean it and then fuck him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:24 AM |
| 467 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!That’s literally what prostitutes do-rent storage units for a cheap indoor place to have sex. This man is actually treating her like a street walker, except without paying her! He wants her to work for free and then have sex with him for free | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:21 AM |
| 1135 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!Guys, not only is he trying to make her clean the storage unit, he wants it cleaned out so they can have sex in it because he’s tired of paying for hotels! I just…Thank God for FDS because this is the kind of bullshit men are out here plotting against us. You are not missing a damn thing once you cut off casual sex, because this is what men think of you when you do sleep with them upfront | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:06 AM |
| 303 | Men wanting to have sex with you is not the compliment you think it is! Men will have sex with a mcchicken sandwichThis also explains why most men have terrible sex lives. Long before p0rn, men came up with a concept that sex with some thing that degraded women, hence the whole Madonna-Whore complex. Men continually show their “respect” to women they actually care about by not pressuring them/abstaining from sex with them. If you genuinely believe sex is some thing that violates and degrades, you’re never going to have a healthy sex life with anyone you actually care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:27 AM |
| 282 | Men wanting to have sex with you is not the compliment you think it is! Men will have sex with a mcchicken sandwichI was literally just saying this to my work friend. We agree on a lot of points and she’s very FDS minded, but she was saying if she were to begin dating again she was wondering when it’s the right time to have sex. I said for me personally, I’m waiting till I’m engaged, possibly married. She said oh don’t you have to test out the merchandise? I said let’s keep it real. That’s some BS that men put in our heads but of all the times you tested the merchandise, what came out of it? Most times, the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:26 AM |
| 72 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?I think during the pandemic women realized how much their illusion of being equal in the society has been fed by circumstances. What happen right away in lockdown and just kept getting worse? Domestic violence. Now I don’t know if these were mostly men who had never touched their wives or girlfriends before or this was just the natural increase of men who are already violent, but regardless it had to do with entitlement. For a lot of men it’s easy to maintain the mask as long as they go to work … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:57 AM |
| 19 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleI disliked Samantha the most. She was a huge libfem pick me, even though she didn’t want to get married or have children. She said men were hardwired to cheat and she took Richard back after he cheated on her. For someone who didn’t want to get married, she spent copious amounts of time and money on plastic surgery, and looking a certain way to continually attract men. And she never really grew up. What woman close to 60 is still obsessed with sex, sex, sex? She was far too male identified for m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:36 AM |
| 3 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleI meant more of a “not like other girls”, emotionally detached cool girl than a pick me cool girl. The only reason Miranda even got stuck with Steve was because she remained his in-case-of-emergency medical contact and then when he got cancer, she found him all the information and made sure he went to the right doctors. And then she had to go out and shoot pool with him when he recovered and be his emotional support ex-girlfriend, which is how they ended up sleeping together and she got pregnant… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:35 PM |
| 64 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleMiranda had more sense than her friends, but she was LV in a different way. I think the reason she went for losers like skipper and Steve was because she wanted to run things. On the one hand I get it. She saw relationships like Carrie and Big or Charlotte and her many wealthy men where the men were running everything and the women just acquiesced. She didn’t want to be some Stepford wife. But I think the only way she thought she could maintain equality was to be the one in control and when you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 39 | What could be better than this? India Plans to Criminalize Marital Rape, So Some Men Are Boycotting Marriage - VICEThat to them marriage equals r@pe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 03:51 PM |
| 121 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleI'm saying! The man was literally living in a dirty, grimy studio. She upgraded him like crazy and he was an ungrateful leech. Couldn't be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 06:02 AM |
| 93 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleI think Miranda just never wanted to do the work. She met some really awesome, worthwhile guys but she had never worked on her issues. She just didn't believe she could have a relationship that worked. She always ran from good prospects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 03:50 AM |
| 539 | Steve from Sex and the City is what happens when you settleYes, she was busy caring their child and his ailing mother, so naturally he got bored instead of you know, helping. But now we're supposed to feel sorry she's cheating back. Not today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:49 AM |
| 161 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteOn the one hand, I’m really glad that these people are giving her advice which can help her and this young lady. On the other hand, if she was say 18 instead of 16, you just know the advice would be completely different and they’d be blaming her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 111 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does He Care about YOUR COMFORT?My parents have been married nearly 40 years and my dad still insists on bringing the car up to restaurants and our driveway so my mom never has to walk in heels. That’s what I want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 04:59 PM |
| 80 | I thought this was a joke but it’s real and disgusting.I’m thinking there’s a good chance. Utopia is just around the corner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 84 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.The thing that’s really disturbing about this is that he’s only going through this elaborate “friends”ruse to try and orbit her because she never slept with him. If she had already slept with him and he met somebody else he wanted to be exclusive with he would just block her on everything and act like she was crazy if she ever ran into him in public. But even though he’s met someone who he deigns worthy of commitment, he’s still obsessed with the vagina that got away. Stuff like this honestly ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 05:42 AM |
| 10 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?You know, it doesn’t matter. I am a teacher and men sexualize that all the time. Hot for teacher and all that. Perverts. I actually had a guy offer me a massage, pre-FDS, on a first date within about 20 mins. He was an engineer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:30 PM |
| 226 | Can we talk about Drake’s hot sauce condom incident?I have always said entertainers and athletes should just get vasectomies and freeze their sperm that way they can only have children with their wives. And anyway, children and child support aside, don’t these men worry at all about STDs? I mean, there’s no cure for HIV. All the money in the world cannot save you from that. You think they would care about their own lives. But low value men going to low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 4 | Comments are ROASTING him for his age-gap preference - very happily surprised! Based Reddit.Man! I went over to the original post just to be nosy and watch this man being dragged. I didn’t respond to him at all and I still got banned just for being part of FDS. I love it. Subs that give out abusive advice are afraid of us and I’m proud to be part of that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:52 AM |
| 17 | Is He Negging You? 10 Signs He’s Trying To Secretly Destroy Your ConfidenceMy first bf, a raging narc who was morbidly obese had the unparalleled nerve to criticize one stray hair on my nipple and my attempts to remove it. I was a size four, a top student on scholarship at a Research One school. He was about 350 lbs. and flunked out of community college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 31 | Relation between abuse and surgery, beauty practices aren’t discussedYes, and he was abusive, too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:55 PM |
| 177 | Relation between abuse and surgery, beauty practices aren’t discussedAnd let’s discuss “the no self-love” part. Misogynoir is abuse, too. BM love to talk about women like Kim not loving themselves but are mighty fucking quiet when it comes to why. Ugly ass fuckboys like Biggie who hate themselves spew their own insecurities on to BW and make them feel like they have to change to be good enough. At the root of every BW with “low self-esteem” is BM. Let’s talk about that part | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:59 PM |
| 18 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleThat’s why if a man doesn’t know if he “likes you enough” to spend 50 bucks buying you dinner, you shouldn’t be going out with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:55 PM |
| 34 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each day…There are no words. And men think we are afraid to be alone. Being alone would be an absolute pleasure compared to this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 31 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I disagree. Because behind closed doors means that they are married or living together. But you didn’t marry or live with someone you just met, if so, you engineered your own issues. But before these women committed they had ample opportunity to see the guy’s red flags. I concur, men aren’t that smart. Now I believe that men will explain away their bad habits and women choose to listen. They blame mental illness or their childhoods or whatever else and women choose to accept those excuses. But I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:26 PM |
| 72 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"This is the greatest post I have seen all year. And I’m including 2021 in that assessment. You are so right. I guess I’ve been holding back on dating because of an irrational fear of the great con man when in reality every bad experience I’ve had had plenty of red flags up front that I chose to ignore or didn’t have the experience to decipher. But now that wouldn’t happen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:06 PM |
| 83 | Redpill/PUA tactic: breaking the touch barrierI was just thinking of this. It’s definitely a tactic. I had a guy who was pursuing me like crazy. We went on several dates, and he never even accidentally brushed my hand in passing. At first, I was like oh, he’s being respectful, taking it slow. But then he was accelerating like crazy in every other aspect. He would text good morning and then text nonstop all day long, it was actually annoying. Then he would call in the evening. Wanted to go out multiple times a week. Which would’ve been fine … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:02 PM |
| 75 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meI’d start dating other men. 34 is a ridiculous age to be talking about what you’re going to do, especially if he’s been in his field all the time. He’s had around a decade to establish himself, he hasn’t. Time to move the agenda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:21 PM |
| 13 | I am the female version of the Sorcerer's StoneI’m a huge Harry Potter stan, so I’ll definitely be using the allusion from now on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:43 AM |
| 2 | The lack of self-awareness is astounding 🥴No, it’s worse. It’s like his daughter-in-law, his son-in-law’s sister. So basically some young girl your daughter’s age who is family now. Pervert | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:58 PM |
| 6 | R*pe by deception is seen as normal by men in the comments.That doesn’t count as deception. Men do that all the time they pretend they’re looking for a relationship but really just want a one night stand. Rape by deception is literally lying about your identity or the sex act (eg you agree to PIV, he takes this as blanket permission to do whatever). Now is it unethical for a woman to do this, sure. But it’s not deceptive because by definition sex creates babies. You can never trick a man into thinking otherwise. The only way that would be rape by decept… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:14 PM |
| 9 | R*pe by deception is seen as normal by men in the comments.Anytime a man has sex, especially without a condom, he’s consenting to the possibility of making a human. I mean it’s called sexual reproduction, isn’t it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:31 AM |
| 4 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsOMG, what?! It’s always the nerdy, sweet seeming ones who are the fucking worse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:21 AM |
| 2 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsThat reminds me of when a family friend died and her husband remarried that same year-on Mother’s Day weekend. And yes, they had children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:15 AM |
| 3 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsEvery day I see IRL how much truth FDS is spitting. I got two truths in one this week, 1. There is no wall, and 2. Widowers ain’t shit. I know a man in his 80s, supposedly a man of integrity, a deacon in my childhood church whose wife died about a week ago. Before the week was out, he asked my godmother (88) on a date. That’s fine. I mean it’s a hot horrible mess because his wife is not even cold in the ground, but at least my godmother’s age appropriate for him. To me, it was just another insta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 09:14 AM |
| 2 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This comment is gold and your name is awesome | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:38 AM |
| 10 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.I definitely get my dad and my brothers gifts, they spoil me rotten. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:20 AM |
| 10 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.*I completely agree with your message with the exception of the last couple of sentences. Motherhood is sold to women as much as being picked. While there can absolutely be a joy in motherhood, Society very intentionally says nothing about the dangers to your health in pregnancy and labor, not to mention the financial and emotional cost of raising children. Just like marriage, there is a reason women are choosing not to do this, to the extent lawmakers are trying to roll back our rights and forc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:18 AM |
| 116 | "Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon, study reveals" I am lost for words...This is the FDS content I come for. I don’t think I ever would’ve known this otherwise. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 31 | How do you like your eggs: A vetting strategyThis is big facts! I want things how I want them, when I want them, where I want them. A shout out to my parents for always honoring my food preferences because that taught me I had a right to that kind of treatment. Many men have had something to say because I order like Sally in When Harry Met Sally. I’ll be making a whole new dish because I have a number of food preferences. If he has an issue, he’s not the one. And it’s always the most pedestrian, won’t-eat-any-vegetable-except-corn, orders-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:05 PM |
| 4 | It took him 41 years to finally make her a priorityHis side action | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:57 PM |
| 90 | Why she doesn't care for him during sex...This story sounds so fake. This guy is either lying or leaving out major details to make himself sound like the victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:24 PM |
| 4 | What's considered good or bad when it comes to sex is all about the male gazeThis faux concern for Steve had me cracking up. He originally cheated on Miranda because they hadn’t had sex in six months. Miranda said to Charlotte i. a previous episode now they haven’t had sex in years. What do you bet Steve is cheating on her right now? And if a man cheated on a woman because she hadn’t touched him in years, everyone would applaud. Right on for Miranda, I say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagListen, I’m a BW, you can check my post history. And yes sons of single mothers are disproportionately bla.ck. And they’re disproportionately useless as well. Check our r@pe and homicide stats-double everyone else’s or higher. BW as a whole are unprotected and preyed on by these men. There’s a reason so many BW are divesting. I don’t think that she saying that women can’t raise sons alone. The blame is on their absent fathers. But whatever the cause, no one can deny the effect. And I think part … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:55 AM |
| 3 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagI see people are mad, but this is the gospel truth. It’s just an uncomfortable truth. Just like the truth most m.en are hot garb.age. We all had to grow up and get over that, in spite of the fact that we all have fathers and brothers and other male relatives that we love. I’ve dated LV sons of fatherless homes and LV sons of two parent homes and the difference is night and day. You’re right about the anger. There is a vitriol, a forcefulness that just doesn’t exist for other men. My first bf was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:44 AM |
| 126 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!This is the most awesome thing I’ve ever heard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:20 AM |
| 81 | This is why vetting EVERYONE you spend time with is for your survival. Know the covert red flags of bully pick me’s. They will literally push you off the ledge.That’s not really what happened in Medea. She was basically Barbara the builder, she gave up everything for Jason, made him wealthy, made him famous, was with him for years. But when he took her back home and they had two sons together, then he had a chance to upgrade and marry the king’s young daughter. Medea was older than Jason and though he was glad to take advantage of her magic to get ahead in life, in his hometown, he joined everyone else in calling her an old witch and treating her terri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:03 PM |
| 103 | The Dangers Pick Mes Pose to FDS WomenSadly, this isn’t unusual. There are many stories of women letting their boyfriends come around and harm their teen or prepubescent daughters and then kicking the girls out. They view the girls as lures for male attention and then as competition. A pick me has no boundaries. To her, even her daughters are just females and that means competition for male attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:23 PM |
| 78 | The Dangers Pick Mes Pose to FDS WomenIt’s not that the Pick Me is less attractive it’s that she feels less attractive. For some women, them being beautiful isn’t enough, you have to be ugly, too. They aren’t satisfied unless all male focus is exclusively on them. And like I said men are about control. The attention they give and their obsession is rarely just about attraction, it’s about who they feel is outside their influence. If you’re an FDS women, you’re actually going to attract that obsession and jealousy because they’re goi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:18 PM |
| 172 | Queen of the Pickmes Ghislaine Maxwell found GUILTY on all counts of sex traffickingThis is what is so important to take away from this case. Maxwell’s actions were extreme and repulsive, but her relationship dynamic with Epstein was identical to many “normal” women with their SOs or men they want to be their SOs. And just like Maxwell, many of them are willing to do anything to get these men’s love. Be careful, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:02 AM |
| 296 | Queen of the Pickmes Ghislaine Maxwell found GUILTY on all counts of sex traffickingI disagree with the women who think pick me isn’t the right word to describe her. “Pick me” is a starting place, not a destination. It’s a mindset and there’s no limit to it. That girl last year who helped her boyfriend r@pe and dispose of her Spelman roommate because she said no to a threesome with the LV boyfriend was a pick me. She started out being willing to facilitate a threesome because she thought it would keep the boyfriend interested in her longer, but she was willing to do anything fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:21 AM |
| -2 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorThank you. This cool girl trope Zendaya is playing has always bothered me and I couldn’t put my finger on why, you’ve broken it down perfectly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 223 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭I’ve been saying, the original show is everything. They were talking about stuff back in the year 2000 we’re just now starting to have language for. Porn addiction, the normalization of sexual abuse through porn, men pushing women’s boundaries sexually. Remember when Charlotte had that boyfriend who was pushing her to have anal sex? Or the one who felt entitled to BJs? Or the one who wanted the threesome? Shut all that shit down like a queen. One thing about Charlotte, she might have been a litt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:39 PM |
| 250 | Darcey from TLC's 90 Day Fiance is usually a mess, but I love this video where she handles her petty, insecure scrote ex like a queen.Umm where did they find this incel? This was like watching a textbook RP guy breadcrumb and neg. “Let’s be friends.” She shut that down. “Have you gained weight?” She doesn’t feed into it. “Don’t ruin your next relationship!” Like STFU. Even his stupid emotionally stunted persona seems like it’s right out of the RP handbook, with a fake posh suit and smoking a cigarette all calm. What a pathetic scrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:32 PM |
| 134 | Just another year end reminder to NEVER EVER build a man. Focus on yourself and only yourself.Eh. The takedown is absolutely epic, but I really don’t feel any sympathy for this woman. Not only was she playing Barbara the builder to the extreme, it seems like she had fields of red flags that she ignored over time. The revenge she served is definitely one for the history books and I hope she’s stranded her scrote ex abroad and his side chick, too. But we as women have got to stop thinking that we are exceptions to the rules and ignoring men’s horrible behavior. They are not going to change… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 04:18 PM |
| 37 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Exactly! F@ck all this love dove nonsense. The women need to make sure men are bringing tangible benefits into the relationship. You can’t fake that. That way if he’s providing even if he starts clowning, you got something out of the deal and now you can leave. And it certainly easier to measure when he takes away the financial benefits versus trying to gauge every little emotion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:34 PM |
| 58 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Avoiding a guy like this is the easiest thing in the world, because even though he is the one who wants the relationship for the benefits, he’s going to act like the woman has dragged him into it. So let the guy do the work. Don’t plan anything, don’t call him, do not do anything to advance the relationship. If a man wants you he will be consistently treating you well over a long period of time and he will be escalating his great treatment of you all the time. A guy like this, who doesn’t want t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:15 PM |
| 51 | If he says he isn’t looking for a relationship he won’t change his mind even if you end up in a relationship with himThe thing is before FDS, I didn’t realize how much I needed FDS because I always had high dating standards. But this group is a lot more than dating standards. What I have gotten most from it is the realization that men are looking for benefits, not love. The reason why so many of them get married is because of what they get out of it, not because they care at all about the woman who they are marrying. The OP reminded me about that story in “Why Men Marry B*tches”. Sherry Argov says a man and a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/21 11:43 PM |
| 103 | Seriously, what a QueenI was going to post this here! I’ll have to see if I can post my favorite reply instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 04:27 PM |
| 164 | Man in a hetero relationship doesn't do housework -> solution = "get a cleaner!!!!"I actually grew up having housekeepers, and I think it’s not the solution. I think a guy who automatically thinks when there is a disagreement about the division of labor, “hire out”, is a huge red flag. What are you going to do if you have a baby? Are you really going to hire a night nurse and a nanny because I guarantee the kind of guy who doesn’t want to clean a bathroom isn’t going to wake up for 3 AM feeding. What are you gonna hire someone to be on call to take your child to have their doc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 03:18 PM |
| 3 | Men are incapable of being honest even for the purposes of peeing😂 🤣😂 Men are just…Even the best and the brightest are just so pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:46 PM |
| 65 | Things like this are becoming more and more common. Squeeze in the wrong area of the neck and she easily could have gotten real brain damage (from the lack of oxygen). Be careful out there ladies.I’m so grateful she has sane friends were telling her to get the hell away from him. Hopefully she listens | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:52 AM |
| 137 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportForget condoms. I think part of becoming an HV woman is learning how not to sleep around for comfort or male attention. Pregnancy prevention is only part of it. If it’s not OK to sleep with a man because of the dire possible consequences I have never had a clue why it’s OK to be with him in the first place. A lot of these women need to practice self-control, work on their self-esteem and stop using sex as a short cut or male attention as a panacea for their pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:49 PM |
| 65 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportYou’re not. Shoot, things are hard enough when all of your children have the same parents. Even then, one child still feels like someone’s being favored above the others, someone else got to do more than them, that their sibling is smarter or prettier. Now imagine how that gets magnified and exacerbated when people do have different parents and different phenotypes, different rules and different experiences, when they live in different houses and live off different incomes. Chaos, Lord. I rebuke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 40 | cringe Slate post on 50/50Friendship is friendship. Dating is dating. If you’re just dating for fun, you need to be a valuable resource so the woman in question will continue to want to see you. If you’re dating for courtship, you need to be demonstrating your ability to care for her as a wife and any children you may have. Either way, you need to bring your A game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:34 PM |
| 185 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...True story: And when I came home at Thanksgiving my mom was telling me that unfortunately the wife of neighboring couple has Alzheimer’s. My mom discovered this when she saw that their car door was open for hours, so she went over to see if everything was alright. The lady was in her kitchen, which faces onto the porch. They were looking at each other for the kitchen window. Although she has known my mother for 40 years, she didn’t recognize her, so she didn’t open the door when my mother called… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:21 PM |
| 55 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...If you are an adult, if you can read, you can cook. I was making eggs and pancakes as a fun weekend activity by eight. Moved on to roasting chickens and putting together meals by 12. When an adult human being tells me they can’t cook, I judge them because it is not hard. When an adult man who has/had a responsible job says it, I know he’s just a lazy, entitled prick. Watch Food Network for a week and read a cookbook and you’ll be able to cook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 07:10 PM |
| 19 | Friends that make questionable relationship decisions like this are LV. I don’t understand how the entire friend group KNOWS it’s disgusting and yet…no one steps up to call him out. Gross.The men in the situation are all LV as fuck, but I’m surprise the women didn’t say anything. Over 20, women will normally go with the messed up flow as well, but under 18, they typically speak up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 09:43 PM |
| 6 | Philanthropist husband leaves his wife, disabled child, and two other children following an affair spurred by ostensible charity-workThe truth is this: men think they deserve praise for breathing. If they could get the same praise for actually raising their own children and doing what they’re supposed to do that they do for a “rescuing” someone like an addict, they would. And men don’t like to feel like they have a responsibility. With their own children, there’s always work to be done and they’re not getting the praise they feel they deserve for it, plus it’s just their job. They aren’t doing extra and they aren’t entitled t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 12:19 AM |
| 61 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?I almost got banned from the sub when I suggested showering, treating your wife like a person, and taking care of household chores and YOUR OWN CHILDREN would cure the vast majority of dead bedrooms. The men tried to run me off the sub, begged the mods to ban me, but the women stood up and said I was right and refused to even let the thread be taken down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 15 | Forever GF finally done after being forced to care for BF's stinky slobbering furbabyMaybe once she’s away from the guy she’ll finally connect the dots. But yeah I was like somebody’s brainwashed and it’s not his ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 09:51 PM |
| 12 | Was your dad an HVM?Actually, most people who marry that young get divorced. My parents are the exception, but I wouldn’t try to follow that path. They wouldn’t even allow me to date in high school, because they know what really happens nowadays with p0rn-sick boys running rampant (I’m a millennial). Everyone I know who dated seriously in high school in my generation was pretty much traumatized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 16 | Was your dad an HVM?Oh, that happened to my mom a few years back. I guess it was the 40th anniversary of their first date, he remembered, she did not. They actually had quite a lively debate about it, because she said it was their second date, but he had the receipts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 02:36 AM |
| 39 | Shout-out to this line in a Korean drama. Didn't expect that but really loved itAhhhhhhhhhhh! I will be using this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 02:00 AM |
| 138 | Was your dad an HVM?My dad is amazing, he’s the reason I can’t settle for less. He cooked, cleaned, washed, and ironed , did at least 50% of the child rearing labor, and never expected any praise. For every birthday, Christmas, Valentines, anniversary and Mother’s Day, he’s spoiling my mom with flowers and gifts-and this is after nearly 40 years of marriage. They were high school sweethearts and he’s never looked away from her. He still brags about how pretty his wife is to strangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 12:12 AM |
| 31 | How much do you expect your SO to spend on gifts for special occasions?I never dated in high school, so my first bf was freshman year of college. He got me a iPod for Valentine’s Day (in 2007) and loaded it with my favorite shows and movies, along with three handmade cards. If an 18-year-old with a minimum wage job could do that, there’s no limit to what a grown man with a full-time job can do. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:17 PM |
| 25 | My Friend's Husband is About to Ruin Her Entire Career. This is why you should always be financially independentShe needs to play the long game. Tell her to do what she needs to do to make sure she can finish this program, whatever that is. If she needs to play nice, play nice. If she has something she can hold over his head, like he cheated on his taxes or whatever, do that. Maybe just remove herself from the situation for a while. If she stops doing any sort of household labor, maybe he will do a cost-benefit analysis and want to stay. And then she can finish her degree and divorce him. I mean of course… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:14 PM |
| 104 | single womenI have a lot of older women in my life and now they are becoming widows. And I’m starting to realize I never knew them at all. I’m talking about women I’ve known my entire life! But men suck up all the oxygen in the room. They are constantly over talking or sharing some boring ass shit nobody wants to hear and so you never get to know the more quiet women. These women are amazing! They were getting PhDs when hardly any women had access to do that. Just found out in the past couple years my godmo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:45 AM |
| 225 | Being sexually desired ≠ Being respectedNewsflash: men can sexually desire a Mcchicken. Sexual desire is low value and worthless. Even if men pay you, it’s not equitable to the amount of time you spent bending yourself into a pretzel, nor to the backlash of things like only fans which may pay you short term, but will long-term inhibit your ability to make a living. Focus on yourself. That’s what will really empower you. If men are afraid of it, it’s a good thing, if men encourage it, it’s a bad thing. So being educated, independent wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 09:11 PM |
| 204 | I feel like I can't trust menHonestly, what has helped me the most is this is approaching relationships just like men. I am hoping to strike it big in the not too distant future in my field. I’ve thought a lot about how marriage impacts women and money. I don’t think that women actually fear the break up of the marriage or whatever. They fear the consequences of it. They fear losing their home and being broke, they fear being taken advantage of, they fear losing everything they’ve worked for. And they’re right to fear that.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:38 PM |
| 16 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeBut the thing about that kind of abusive dynamic is the guy lovebombs her, or changes from how he was in the beginning or he gaslights the woman into disbelieving her reality. I just don’t understand how a guy who was saying from the beginning he didn’t want you and treating you badly always and constantly trying to get away from you is abuse. If we label every toxic dynamic abuse we are infantilizing women. Sometimes even when given all the facts repeatedly and with no mitigating factors women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:24 PM |
| 7 | Help! My Husband Threatened Divorce After I Got Mad About Him Being on Adult Dating Sites.Prudence should not be allowed to give advice. The advice of top was not so horrible, but if you skip down to the next question a woman has been with her boyfriend for four years (RED FLAG) And she’s only met his family three times even though her people basically consider him a son. His brother died of Covid eight months ago and his mother is currently dying from terminal illness and she still is not allowed to interact with them because the boyfriend claims they are so private. Obviously he is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:51 PM |
| 18 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?That’s just it. Men believe at their core relationships are all about them. That women should be lining up to suck their dicks for free and to do all of the emotional labor and chores. Look at your average sitcom. That’s what men think I relationship is. That should buy them in a few dinners, if you’re a big Baller, and then she moves in and takes care of your entire life. Sometimes you even throw her a ring to keep this treatment forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:42 PM |
| 37 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.I concur, but I kind of empathize. Men as a whole are so fucking terrible you tend to develop feelings for ones who are decent human beings, whether you actually want romance with them or not. It’s just kind of reactive. If this guy really is a great paragon, picture what that must be like. You’re in constant close contact with one of the few men on earth who is a self-sufficient, handsome, not objectifying, wonderful guy. That would make anyone a little loopy. I’ll say this, she’s damn lucky it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:27 PM |
| 10 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?I’m sorryw I almost had a panic attack when you said he had been ripping the pages out of your books! WTF! That’s a cardinal sin. He’s a monster. I’m glad you’re out and getting therapy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:15 PM |
| 22 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?Dump the MF Already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:05 PM |
| 19 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeFun fact, in the book the “Big” character and that dynamic sends Carrie to a sanatorium for a bit. Because in real life that kind of back-and-forth would drive you crazy. I don’t know how they got the series from the source material because the source material is all about the realistic consequences of living like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:01 PM |
| 17 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeThank you! I never really cared for the Samantha character and I think you’ve really summed up why. Even the most Libfem woman in the world doesn’t act like that. It’s just not realistic. She’s essentially a man because she was written by men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:58 PM |
| 20 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeI adore that scene and I rewatch it too. If the series had just left it there, it would’ve been the perfect ending. You should also try watching the alternate ending to the show, if you haven’t. Carrie comes back to New York, but it has nothing to do with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:56 PM |
| 27 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeI think it takes way too much responsibility off of Carrie to call her dynamic with Big emotionally abusive. He definitely jerked her around but she was absolutely a willing participant. Let’s not forget she had an affair with him helping him to cheat on his wife. And she directed all of her negative feelings toward Natasha rather than Big, to excuse her adultery. Big is a very obvious and toxic example of the Madonna whore complex, but at the same time I will never say he wasn’t honest with Car… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:50 PM |
| 17 | Reminder: If you want children you need to be 100% clear on what you expect from the dad (for yourself). Division of labor for house, etc and especially child care is so important ladiesI disagree. My dad was the pretty traditional child of a stay at home mom and working dad. He said to me once that he had never even seen his dad prepare a plate. Not prepare a meal, but make his own plate. And yet my dad cooks and cleans, when we were growing up he would make our lunches. My mom used to go on trips for work or her social organizations all the time and my dad could do everything but my hair. And my parents have five children. I saw him getting up in the middle of the night an eq… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:33 PM |
| 33 | Men are losing their sh*t over on IG and the pickme's are making lists that aren't even the equivalent. I see nothing wrong with this list except her numbering. Why are women shamed for having preferences?Concur. I’m about to have my PhD and I can’t even speak to a man with less than a graduate degree. Say what you will, advanced education shows me that he can follow instructions, finish something difficult that he started, plan long-term, and communicate in decent English. I need to know at least that much before we go out. Every autodidact I ever knew who didn’t finish school was a lazy, entitled quitter who thought the world should revolve around him and people should just take his intelligenc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:33 AM |
| 88 | Men are losing their sh*t over on IG and the pickme's are making lists that aren't even the equivalent. I see nothing wrong with this list except her numbering. Why are women shamed for having preferences?Perfect list. Just add men without degrees. chef’s kiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:32 AM |
| 85 | Opinions on dating a man whose dad is a serial cheater?Nope. Unless he has disavowed his father and they no longer speak, leave him alone. People repeat the patterns that they have lived | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:09 AM |
| 3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 40 -Scrote Decode: John Cena & His Insane 75 Page Girlfriend ContractOh my God! I never knew that. Well now I can never watch Groundhog Day again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:00 AM |
| 3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 40 -Scrote Decode: John Cena & His Insane 75 Page Girlfriend ContractBrilliant commentary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:00 AM |
| 43 | I know this is the last show to look for HVM or healthy relationships, but still this scene made me cringe so much. Run girl!!I thought it was Bates Motel. All these shows are the same. You have an angsty, pasty white, dark haired serial k+ller in the making and his loyal pick me sidekick who thinks he’s so brooding and sexy. No doubt he hurts her in some way eventually, but that’s soooo hot s/. You, this show, Bates Motel, the Vampire Diaries, Twilight, etc. Like, get a new f’ing plot already. I hate that they keep pushing this onto young girls, normalizing this kind of mentally abusive and toxic dynamic. We have to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:15 AM |
| 1 | I know this is the last show to look for HVM or healthy relationships, but still this scene made me cringe so much. Run girl!!I thought it was Bates Motel. All these shows are the same. You have an angsty, pasty white, dark haired serial k+ller in the making and his loyal pick me sidekick who thinks he’s so brooding and sexy. No doubt he hurts her in some way eventually, but that’s soooo hot s/. You, this show, Bates Motel, the Vampire Diaries, Twilight, etc. Like, get a new f’ing plot already. I hate that they keep pushing this onto young girls, normalizing this kind of mentally abusive and toxic dynamic. We have to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:15 AM |
| 17 | Here is what being single will get you:Yay! You got the long term victory, which is the only thing that matters. One thing about it, your ex will be suffering before long. Men may rule in divorce court, but old age is the great evener- outer. Because these men are not there for their children, they don’t have anybody to see about them when they get old. That’s why men d#e sooner. This is why we’re seeing more men than ever dropping de#d alone in their fifties. Keep playing, scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 11:32 PM |
| 7 | Came across this in OLD today, respectful women must chase the man, ladies we’re doing it wrong 😂I’ve seen that comedy sketch. It’s not Kevin Hart, just some guy, but it was the same low value comedy. But it really hit home for me. “If he wanted to, he would.” This guy met another guy on the basketball court and the guy was asking if he wanted to hang out. The accidental gay date picked the comedian up at his house, took him to an event he knew he would like, had prime seats, paid for dinner, and a very nice dinner at that, and took him back home. This from a color redacted man who try to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 07:46 PM |
| 29 | If it’s true it’s sad :(Fantastic, and of course the username checks out 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 07:33 PM |
| 33 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenThank you! Not to mention this is not an equivalent argument at all. Kanye has nothing to do with FDS women with mental health issues. When do women ever get the benefit of the doubt to act the damn fool using mental health excuse? Never. Whatever issues women have, they are expected to deal with them themselves and not put them on the men in their lives. Men need to be held to the same standard, especially men who have all the resources in the world for any kind of professional help that they n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:35 PM |
| 116 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenIf Kayne has enough money to rent out stadiums, he has enough money for therapy and medication. Women are not clinics for sick men. His mental health is his responsibility and doesn’t excuse his behavior. That’s a very LV attitude. LV men weaponize mental health all the time to excuse their bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:03 PM |
| 19 | F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the worst shows I've seenFriends is hot garbage. It is one of the most toxic shows I’ve ever seen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:30 PM |
| 165 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineIs this idiot on crack? Wow, men legit think we are puzzles to be solved, not people. Whatever happened to "hi, how are you?" Or “Good morning, you look beautiful today." What a bunch of freaks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:03 AM |
| 82 | Just Maintained a Boundary!Thanks! I struggled for a moment, but thanks to FDS, I made it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:36 AM |
| 111 | When I’m doubt, DO NOT give men the benefit of the doubt.I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, can’t do is like won’t do. This is post is great advice because nine times out of 10, there are no special circumstances, scrotes are just trying to run game on you. But what about that 10th time? What if he really does have some sort of emergent life circumstance that’s keeping him from treating you well? Who gives a fuck! I don’t care if a man can’t treat you right because of circumstances or won’t treat you right, the end result is you aren’t being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 02:40 AM |
| 8 | This is likely the darkest 'joke' in the entire sitcom and this guy is laughing about it happening in real life. Beware the man who laughs when women are in danger rather than report it to the police 🚩🚩🚩Wow. I never knew that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:44 PM |
| 1 | This is likely the darkest 'joke' in the entire sitcom and this guy is laughing about it happening in real life. Beware the man who laughs when women are in danger rather than report it to the police 🚩🚩🚩I’d like to believe this comment but the Chappaquiddick proves that’s a lie, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:42 PM |
| 16 | Dear Lord…You. Need. To. Write. A. Book. Immediately! In fact, you’ve written a book. Just take all of your comments and posts, format them and there you go. You really have some amazing insights | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:15 PM |
| 27 | Dear Lord…Both of the writer of the letter and the advice columnist are absolutely disgusting, but there was this one kernel in the pile of crap, where the columnist calls the guy for wanting to be FWB: “But you’ve got to understand that even as friends, you still won’t like this girl. Friends hang out and help each other. If you only want sex, then you need to take the “friends” part out of the equation.” Truer words were never spoken. Men definitely need to stop using that friends term in vain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:11 PM |
| 271 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileAlso, we don’t know how “lucky” she got. I’ve dated guys like this from OLD, where everything seemed like a fairytale for the first few months. This is way too soon to call. Not to mention the fact that they’re still just dating, they’re not engaged or married. This is early days, she will have to wait a long time to see if the relationship is actually a success | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:00 PM |
| 167 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileI had a profile like this when I still engaged in OLD. It was funny and challenging and showed off my accomplishments, contained references few men would get, because I am in a very advanced field and I only want someone who would understand that. And it did dramatically increase the quality of the messages that I received from men versus my nice girl profile which included my habits like gourmet cooking. You know what that “bitchy”profile did not increase? The actual quality of the men sending … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 02:52 PM |
| 82 | Actions speak louder than wordsAnd let’s be real, they are lying about that, too. They a hundred percent intended to lie to you or cheat on you. Men like to play these solipsistic games by acting like your hurt is a byproduct, so they aren’t responsible for it because they didn’t “intend” for you to get hurt. Look Professor Hairsplitter, If you did something that you knew would hurt me on purpose, you intended to hurt me. The end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:27 PM |
| 9 | Unbelievable... my brother can't come visit our dying mother several states away but has time to go to a further state to sky dive with his bros.I am so sorry. He's awful. Prepare yourself now, though, because when the time you're dreading comes, he's going to blame you for everything because you're the only one who has been doing anything. I'm telling you so you can be ready. Unfortunately, I've lived this several times. People never want to take responsibility for their failings, never want to admit what they did wrong or be real about their negligence. If the will favors you, that will be your fault. If you have to plan the service al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:55 PM |
| 210 | In light of Roe v. Wade: Please be aware that not having PIV sex is a realistic, pragmatic, modern solution that does not have to be mixed in with religious convictions or shame.Glad to have inspired this post 😉. It honestly never occurred to me to make one. It never occurred to me that most women have never thought of this as an option. I’m 32, never had PIV, first for spiritual reasons in undergrad but then because for most of my career as a grad student I simply couldn’t afford an abortion and wasn’t willing to risk my mental health with BC. And once I could afford abortion the pandemonium hit and my state shut down all “unnecessary medical services” meaning abortion… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Anne Boleyn Has Had a Bad Reputation for Nearly 500 Years. Here's How One Historian Wants to Change ThatBut even that book, which is one of the most salacious and extreme examples, still leans heavily into Anne’s intellectual and political ability. And even that book at its worst only suggests she had one extra marital affair to save her life because the king couldn’t conceive a living son. I thought it was an interesting way of exploring the incest accusation. As we see from the fates of Henry’s other wives, having a male child was life and death. The king because of his syphilis could not give h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:34 PM |
| 54 | Anne Boleyn Has Had a Bad Reputation for Nearly 500 Years. Here's How One Historian Wants to Change ThatI’m really into Tudor history and portrayals of Anne Boleyn. While this guy has some fascinating insights especially re. the poor law, he’s not saying anything that female historians/historical fiction writers haven’t been saying for decades. Pretty much everyone agrees putting her to death for incest/adultery/witchcraft was a show trial, meant to rid the king of his male political enemies who he beheaded with Anne and to shift focus from the fact he made similar accusations against his first wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:07 AM |
| 109 | US-based women who are actively dating/in relationships: Protect your wombI am in grad school working on my PhD. Because I absolutely cannot take any chances with my body in this program, and also because up until the pandemic I pretty much never had any money for things like abortion, I follow this one simple rule: never have PIV sex. Have fun, go on dates, make out, have outercourse, have digital sex if you want, have oral sex if you want, grind, rub, have all the contact but no P in the V. Cut it off at the source, don’t even create the opportunity for pregnancy. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:48 AM |
| 11 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.This guy is so weird. He praises how good his GF’s hair looks, but apparently he’s angry that the towel represents even minimal effort? He goes out of his way to say how superior she is to other women because she doesn’t blow dry her hair or use products like those silly broads, /s. But it’s like the towel represents the fact she does put in some effort and he’s angry about it. Is this a p0rn thing? We have to look perfect, but now they’re mad if they see anything that looks like work surroundin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:39 PM |
| 20 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.What about skin care man, the forerunner of hair towel guy? There was a guy on AITA who went on and on about how his girlfriend had the most beautiful skin, I think she was an aesthetician or something, but in his opinion she had way too many skin products. It’s like these men have no concept of the correlation between the effort women put in and the end product of them looking good. But anyway he was constantly trying to convince her she needed fewer products-apparently she had drawers and draw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:37 PM |
| 4 | Help me out of this spiralI did a list of everything I hated about him/why he was unworthy of me: Hygiene I’m way better looking, I was embarrassed to be seen with him Even with 1/2, he was acting ambivalent about wanting to be with me. He chased me, but he was like a dog that caught a car he chased. Once he had me, it was like “what do I do now.?!” Very bizarre. All women deserve a man who is sure, who adores them. Hated his family background, very toxic $250,000 in debt (grad school) Start your own list of things you h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Did I make the right choice in cutting him off?Can’t do or won’t do have the same outcome. A lot of women get hung up on why the man “can’t” treat them right right now. But it doesn’t matter. The outcome is the same, they aren’t getting treated well. Ditch him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 10 | Thanksgiving red flagsMy dad is an HVM and why I have such high standards. He cooks, but he doesn’t cook for Thanksgiving, so yesterday he helped by cleaning the house, plating the food, and this morning before myself, my mom or my brothers who did the cooking got up, he had washed and put away all the pots, dishes and china from yesterday. I cooked, along with my mom and siblings. I have one brother who didn’t cook, so he set the table and cleaned the house for the guests. It starts in childhood. If you and their fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:39 PM |
| 37 | Where have all the young male novelists gone? *I wonder why young men aren’t writing (or reading) books anymore*The truth is most of these “great men” like F. Scott Fitzgerald just stole from their wives. Men aren’t getting married as much as they once were and women have the ability to publish on their own now, so men are no longer able to steal as readily. That’s why they aren’t publishing books. And when they weren’t stealing the actual books, they were stealing the ideas and the labor of their wives either to organize their lives and support them while they wrote books about the ideas they stole from … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:18 PM |
| 38 | See how he treats his family, especially the womenAnd he only cared when she misbehaved. She probably had to seek negative attention because it was the only kind he gave her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 82 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."You did god’s work on this comment. Because none of that was right. I feel like he was trying to access the knowledge the queen theorized in the book about the socialization of straightness. But that’s literally about the interaction of economics, social forces, and patriarchy in forcing women into certain roles. Also I felt like he was distilling the trouble that women have interacting with men down to sex and relationships, which can be solved by the queering of relationships. And that’s absol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 4 | When the queens say "dicks are abundant" it reminds me of Self Esteem by Garfunkel & OatesThis is so great. But every time I see the brunette I flashback to her unfortunate role on scrubs where she was dating Ted, who is old enough to be her father, bald and gross. I know she only took the role for the exposure and her musical career, which worked out great, but that whole storyline made me so uncomfortable. I was under age at the time, so it was just really obviously gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:15 PM |
| 7 | When you find out and they gaslight you anywaysI think so, just in different ways. Think about the popularity of the trope of a guy being into his best friend’s girl like you see in the media, e.g. Jessie’s Girl. How many times has the “clean up man” been creeping on his friend’s girl, telling his friend that the girl isn’t good enough for him and she’s ugly or she’s boring and as soon as they break up, he gets with her? Or getting the best friend to break up with a girl because he doesn’t want to be alone and he hates that his friend is in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:58 PM |
| 232 | Acrobatic sex from his poor wife still isn’t good enough for this hypocritical idiot! (Reposting)Are you fucking kidding me? This jack ass is looking at porn right after his child had a health scare that put him in the hospital. His wife catches him at it and just doesn’t even have the energy to deal with it, and he is upset because this doesn’t give him the opportunity to talk about how mUH pEnIs has been neglected. She needs to leave him, today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 6 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳I saw her PSA on that. Nightmare fuel. And the worst part was when she, the three year old, was questioned and not believed and the male relative or friend got to keep coming around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:39 PM |
| 7 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳The moment that lives rent-free in my nightmares is when I was watching the news and I was about 15 and they said a local cable installer s*xally assaulted a toddler while in someone’s home. I’m 32. I’ve lived on my own since I was 18, years and years before Netflix was a thing. Except for where someone else had it installed, I have never had cable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 01:05 PM |
| 41 | Type of man to avoid: the brosocial or homosocial manDid you see the one wedding where the minister said, “does anyone object, speak now,” and the groom played a damn video of all his groomsmen and friends listing bro-related reasons he shouldn’t get married? I would’ve left that idiot at the altar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 12:48 PM |
| 7 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!Did the mask drop or was there insufficient vetting? I’m not here to sit in judgment of any woman, but just by one sentence I can tell the guy was not actually HV. Unless the writer was in high school or college, no man you’ve been in a relationship of three-years with should just be your partner. He should be your husband, your fiancé at the very, very least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 03:07 PM |
| 4 | I left a perfectly good man because FDS made me believe I could do better. And you were rightFantastic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 12:34 AM |
| 34 | Healthy things to do when you’re horny but have no partner? 🤔 (Other than the obvious)Following. I don't have an issue with horniness, most of the time, my sex drive is under control. But man, I could go for all the other stuff- some good sensual kisses and touch. How to get over that? Until I find someone worthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 02:01 AM |
| 5 | Please carve my eyes out of my head nowI am so sorry. This should really be classified as a kind of assault. If he flashed you in person, it would be. Why is over the phone different? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 04:55 PM |
| 158 | FDS IS OFFICIALLY 200K STRONG!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳When I joined in January, I don’t think we were even at 150,000. The good word is spreading faster than ever thanks to the pandemic. Cheers to a scrote-free future, ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 5 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’Thank you for doing that labor sis, because I was not in the mood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:50 PM |
| 19 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.Yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:35 PM |
| 11 | Last Night in Soho - an excellent FDS cautionary taleNow I can watch it. Thank you so much. From the way the trailer was cut it looked like some sort of scrote wet dream, I didn’t wanna be bothered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 11:23 PM |
| 189 | “Under the patriarchal rules they ascribe to, providing financial support should come with the promise of control.”The older I get, the more I discover, the real truth is that men DGAF about children unless they are ped0s. Children are a means to an end for men. They are pawns which can be used to exact control over the mother or trophies to show off to feel like a big man or good man, never ppl with needs and thoughts of their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 157 | “Under the patriarchal rules they ascribe to, providing financial support should come with the promise of control.”Brilliant deduction. And I feel “control” here is a bit of a euphemism. There’s a reason that men who are still able to extract or feel they can extract sexual favors and return for supporting their own child don’t complain about child support. Many of them pay extra. But a man who no longer has access to his ex’s body in return for supporting his own child feels cheated and is angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 08:21 PM |
| 8 | If they won't listen to us, they should listen to this guy.Pretty much. Something about this piece and the tone reminded me of the gang r*pe scene in Half a Yellow Sun. The teenage boy character is trying to be “cool” and helps assa@lt a girl. He doesn’t even care until he goes home later in the book and realize his sister has also been violated during the same war and all of a sudden he feels bad. But not for the girl he hurt. Oh no. He feels bad for himself and cries. It reminds me of this jackass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:15 AM |
| 40 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightI do not date disabled men and there’s nothing ableist about it. We as women are already expected to be caretakers of abled men. I am not trying to be a free nurse. And think about the state of healthcare in this country, if you’re an American. How will this impact your financial future? Your ability to have children if you want them? Your responsibility in caring for those children, if he can have any? How will this affect where you can live? The kind of events you can go to? That is way too mu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:46 AM |
| 25 | FDS observations in the wildIt’s funny. After I wrote this post and saw the comments on his relationship, I decided to look it up and see if I can find more information about who his girlfriend is. And that led to me finding out a bit about her and a lot about him. The man is really sick, mentally. A lot of people dismiss eating habits like his as greed, but between that and his alcoholism, I think he was using food and drink to self-harm. He clearly had a lot of issues with his parents. I think he was with the girlfriend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:08 PM |
| 33 | FDS observations in the wildWell, that’s not shocking. He’s probably an alcoholic and most of them are narcs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:03 AM |
| 24 | FDS observations in the wildWow! When was this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:48 AM |
| 16 | Thank you FDS for making dating fun and enjoyable again!Where/how do you meet these men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 03:18 AM |
| 11 | This guy was calling me crazy and I blocked him. These are his last messages. To be clear, he brought up ethnicity out of nowhere.…lol actually MOC and wh!te women have some of the highest divorce rates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 07:44 AM |
| 17 | A snapshot of the dating world today -IDK. I actually had a massage on Friday and for me it did the opposite. I have been so happy with my intentional celibacy and focusing on grad school, but all of that touch really awoke the urge for male companionship in me. Took all weekend to get it back under control. And when I went out with my friends on Friday night I definitely noticed an undercurrent in my behavior which isn’t typically there. I didn’t lower my standards or anything, but I was definitely a lot more attuned to the men aro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 02:25 PM |
| 20 | Why staying in a toxic relationship makes you NV (lower than LV) when you have childrenIt’s the bravest thing in the world to put your safety first rather than allowing yourself to be in danger for the sake of “family”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:44 PM |
| 97 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.Oh my GOD. This man is a mur.derer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:38 PM |
| 51 | Men Know What They're Doing. Stop Letting Them Get Away With It.I loved this comment yesterday and I love it even more as a post today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:37 PM |
| 39 | “Rape isn’t about lust, it’s about power.”I actually think this phrase exist more to help non-rape victims and especially men who aren’t rapists understand the logistics of it. I have heard even the most well-meaning people say things like, “if he was so horny or hard up why didn’t he just get a prosti.tute?” Or if it’s the case of an unusual victim (or what we think of as an unusual victim, because really the most likely victims are the most vulnerable populations), like women in nursing homes, sanatoriums, or homeless women. I think t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 02:57 PM |
| 3 | The Baby Trap ScamHonestly, this is why I encourage every woman who is in a precarious financial situation to just not have PIV sex. I’m a grad student now and before COVID-19, where I was able to live at home rent free for a year and a half and finally stack some savings, there were only two years in my life where I could have afforded an abortion if I needed one. And the side effects and complications of birth control were never worth it to me. Most men suck in bed and aren’t even going to make you come. Have f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 01:05 PM |
| 90 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?I don’t believe this is true. Like it may be true for some people in the world, especially people of older generations, but I don’t believe this is a blanket truth for gen X and millennials. In fact I think it’s just the opposite. Because men don’t value their emotions, they are emotional whores. I mean how often have you had a guy who was just a friend, maybe even an acquaintance, someone who you barely knew, tell you all about his life story and his traumas and his issues and his little fee-fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:16 PM |
| 3 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionBeyond true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 01:28 AM |
| 11 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionWow! This is such an astute commentary and absolutely accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 01:01 AM |
| 4 | we hold SO Much power over men. even if you are partnered up already or not interested in a relationship at all, you can still empower women (and yourself) by spreading the fds messages.This is a beautiful post full of positive energy and I thank you so much for putting it out here. We who are blessed to live in today’s world really do need to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. There’s no time I’d rather live in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:46 PM |
| 28 | Calling women insecure/controlling because they don't want their BF to watch pornThat death sentence is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard. We need to have that here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:36 PM |
| 442 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…Run to the doctor immediately. And get tested for everything. It sounds like this guy could be trying to transmit something on purpose. Go to urgent care and see if you can’t get some treatment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:42 PM |
| 31 | Shout out to everyone who told me to lower my standards, that no one would ever meet themLove it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:41 PM |
| 20 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionSimilar episode on Law & Order SUV. Avatar. This child mol.ester kidnapped a girl in the 70s or 80s and brainwashed her into thinking they were a couple. Of course the minute she turned 18, he was no longer interested and abandoned her at some cabin in the woods. But in the 00s he’s online and sees some girl’s avatar, basically a Sim, that looks like and is aged with the girl he kidnapped all those years ago. So then he stalks and kidnaps the creator, a woman, to keep the SIM alive and doing exa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:34 PM |
| 39 | Family Matters. Pay close attention to his expectations for you joining his family, and pay equally close attention to his expectations for him joining your family.Well, of course he wants you to spend all of this time with his parents. Men like this are setting the stage for you to take care of their parents later on. And why would you take care of their parents and buy all the Christmas gifts, cook the holiday meals, and do all the emotional labor unless he’s manipulated you into thinking that you were close to his parents and he’s not close to yours, so it’s a perfectly fair expectation for you to do all of this work surrounding his parents while he’s n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 05:26 PM |
| 135 | Women are interchangeable, movie editionAnd then what about the logistics of it? Your comment made me think of another instance of this on that show Boston Legal. It’s actually why I stopped watching. Denny Crane starts hooking up with this girl who is young enough to be his daughter. Before he hooks up with her he learns that she is the daughter of a woman he used to go at it with back in the day. And then he still dates her. And then the mother says oh yeah you might be Bethany‘s father. I was so disgusted. I realize that how much t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 02:58 PM |
| 129 | I think this bad date has potential to go down in FDS history. Woman spends $160 on TACO BELL for bum ass scrote.…At least she took the tacos with her. I swear, at times I wonder if I’m a different species because I have never been that dumb. Ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:38 PM |
| 3 | I'm done with men shorter than me5’5 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 10:22 PM |
| 98 | I'm done with men shorter than meBruh, short men are a huge waste of time. When I was doing OLD, I matched with a finnnnnnnnne guy who was 5’7. I’m 5’7 and that’s the time I didn’t mind dating my height. I show up and he’s gorgeous, but he stands up to greet me and he is obviously shorter than me. I confront him about it, he blames our height difference on my “heels”. Yeah, I had on sandals. This was years before I was on FDS, I was an ignorant girl in my early 20s, so I went on and dated him. He was fine and he was a sweet guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:18 PM |
| 15 | Reading a relationship book made me realise I don't want a relationship that muchWhy men love bitches and why men marry bitches are actually very good books, but reading both of them made me not want a relationship. At some point Sherry Argov says men misbehave to get attention just like toddlers. Then I realized being in a relationship with a man is almost exactly like having a child. And I don’t want children, so why would I want a man? I don’t feel like controlling or pretend praising someone to get them to do the basic bare fucking minimum. Sherry has some good tips, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:54 AM |
| 9 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.This man really needs psychological help. In patient help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:23 AM |
| 18 | Weaponized incompetence is a form of mental abuse.$100 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 02:50 AM |
| 52 | Tell me you have internalized misogyny without telling me you have internalized misogyny.She looks like some narcissist has worn her out. She looks exhausted and now she’s trying to convince herself this is normal. Sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 03:37 PM |
| 10 | Most men don't learn from communication, they learn from consequenceNever lend money you can’t afford to give away. But my personal rule is never give money to any man who you aren’t related to and who hasn’t given you money. I’ve had times of my life when I was down financially and my parents and my twin were there for me. Consequently, when my twin was in grad school, I happily gave money when needed. If they ask for a loan, I would make it a gift. Then there are no hard feelings. If you want to do something nice for me down the line as a thank you, that’s gre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 03:32 PM |
| 183 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!The mass delusion of men has gotten out of control. Did you notice how almost all of them mentioned they weren’t interested in trading money for sex? Do they really think a line of women, preferably attractive ones, are going to be queuing up for a chance to screw them raw for free?! Damn. At least in the 90s no matter how sick men were they knew they had to pay to play. But online dating, etc. has so skewed men’s expectations they actually expect women to either screw them for free or in some c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 01:17 PM |
| 85 | Thoreau - the baby manIt’s amazing how scrotes support the delusions of other scrotes. So Thoreau was living at Emerson’s pond. Fun fact: Emerson was also the godfather of Louisa May Alcott who wrote Little Women, Little Men, etc. And do you know how she got into writing? Her father was a friend of Emerson and Thoreau and a transcendentalist as well. So he set up his own commune and was all about living off the grid but of course it failed because he was a lazy scrote. So he just never worked again! In the 1800s! So … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:39 PM |
| -5 | The truth about why my male family members have taken the redpill.This is true. While a lot of men who are involved in red pill blame bad high school experiences with women or whatever BS, the truth is a lot of them have always hated women because they aren’t attracted them. They know being a real man in our society is all about being with women and they don’t want to be. They are either pedos and are angry adult women aren’t little girls or it’s not socially acceptable to want little boys like it is to lust over tween girls and anime waifus. Or they’re gay. P… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 39 | 🙄🙄 let’s idolize a couple that’s clearly miserable!!!Yea, fuck Will. I’m not buying his sad act. Anyone who has watched his stuff knows he can cry and sniffle on cue. He’s been cheating on her for years and he pretty much forced her into marriage. Jada didn’t want to get married, she told him over and over and he was the one who chased her and pressured her into it. Culturally, women are so force-fed that perfect HVM BS and her own mother told her that if she didn’t marry Will, even though she didn’t want to, she was going to regret it and it was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:58 PM |
| 21 | Recommendations for "Chick Lit" Books?I think most of Sophie Kinsella’s books meet that criteria. They may meet men, but nine times out of 10 they end up teaching the man what’s what. They’re all highly accomplished women with at least bachelors’degrees, most often professional degrees as well. And I like that they have “smart problems” like issues at work, with international trade, banking problems, and the like. My favorites are The Undomestic Goddess, Twenties Girl, and Remember Me? The classics are the best, ironically though. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:45 PM |
| 1 | No wonder I saw few/if any women and children rushing to the outgoing planes to leave Afghanistan. Apparently, the military was letting men/allies through but refusing to let their families come through the airport gates.This is a bullshit explanation. The US and all the other western countries actually run things when it comes to setting refugee policy. If they wanted the numbers to shift, they would shift them in the blink of an eye. Quiet as it’s kept, they run things for rebel governments as well, because they control whether or not those people are recognized. The Taliban can control the people and borders of Afghanistan but they won’t be selling oil, making international trade deals, or pacts with other co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 05:50 PM |
| 1 | My first experience with a phone screen, FDS-style.IMO, you don’t need to FaceTime AND do coffee. And the FaceTime call should be cut from 30 minutes to 10, 15 minutes max. This guy is auditioning for a place in your life, he doesn’t have one. Don’t waste your time and don’t let him think he has all this access to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 01:39 PM |
| 191 | JFK, the Harvey Weinstein NVM of his time who cheated on his wife Jackie Kennedy with more than 30 women: His conga line of concubinesBecause his father gave her $1 million, quite a lot in the 60s, just to stay through his presidency. Then you know what happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 06:53 PM |
| 335 | Starting to Regret Getting TattooedThe tattoos are their excuse, not their reason. They are harassing you because you are human and female. I have zero tattoos and I dress super conservatively. Then I started wearing my hair naturally and the sexual-harassment went through the roof. I can’t tell you how many men have tried to “hey queen” their way into my panties. Men always have an agenda | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 02:04 AM |
| 41 | He knows his worth y’all. I can’t even with this 😩The real deal is he used a picture of some hot, young girl on this fake profile. The problem isn’t that women get all the attention, the problem is that he is ugly. It’s the response attractive people get versus ugly people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Staying safe whilst travellingPlease explain to me how this compromises safety? I don’t understand | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Staying safe whilst travellingI agree completely. I’ve traveled abroad solo several times and I have never had any issues because I always follow these simple rules: Safety first! Your main focus needs to be on securing a safe living situation. Do extensive research on the area where you want to stay. No sketchy areas, no matter how cheap they are. Your life is valuable, treat it like you would an expensive purse or a sack full of money. Nice hotels or solo Air BnBs ONLY: Personally, unless it’s a four-star hotel like the Fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:47 AM |
| 10 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)I was really on the fence about reading this book before, but I’m going to download it right now. I’ve had two of this type of men and I have to say that they have been the worst relationships of my life. Cost me years of peace and sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 8 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.When they finally became “friends”, Sally hung around being Harry’s emotional sponge, even though clearly, she wanted more. He talked to her about all the women he was sleeping with and she listened. Harry wasn’t thinking about her-he was still in love with his ex-wife, his real dream girl. And after a year/ year and a half like this, they fell into bed together and Harry ran like the wind. Sally literally said he acted like it didn’t mean anything to him (newsflash: he wasn’t acting). And final… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 22 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.I order like Sally in When Harry Met Sally (btw that movie was some pick me foolishness). It will take me an hour to order a sandwich. I know what I want and exactly how I want. HVM love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:34 AM |
| 112 | Why do men take SUCH offense to my reserved demeanor?I’m very similar. I’m extremely introverted and I’m quiet and withdrawn with strangers. But I’m quite bubbly and at ease with my own family and friends. Men who have seen me in that atmosphere first actually get offended I don’t treat them the same as my family and best friends! “You’re not really this quiet! Be like you were before!” It comes down to two things. First of all, men are boring. They expect women to be free entertainment to them. If you are reserved, it means that they can’t hide b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:22 PM |
| 3 | Your diminished ability to “pair bond” is actually protective.So does this mean if you make yourself come multiple times mastur.bating, that you become more attached to yourself? Hmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:30 AM |
| 89 | Incels have always been among us.You know, I was just thinking about this. I love classic novels but if you read anything by Roald Dahl or Sir Arthur Conan Doyle it is patently obvious they were incels and hated women. I may do a longer post on it later but I realized the villains in Dahl’s stories are almost always women- Trunchbull in Matilda, the aunts in James and the Giant Peach, the grandmother in George’s Marvelous Medicine, the witches in The Witches. And these aren’t ordinary villains! These are literal monsters who ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 12 | Incels have always been among us.You know, I was just thinking about this. I love classic novels but if you read anything by Roald Dahl or Sir Arthur Conan Doyle it is patently obvious they were incels and hated women. I may do a longer post on it later but I realized the villains in Dahl’s stories are almost always women- Trunchbull in Matilda, the aunts in James and the Giant Peach, the grandmother in George’s Marvelous Medicine, the witches in The Witches. And these aren’t ordinary villains! These are literal monsters who ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 62 | BDSM Apologist Slams Gail Dines, Claims it's Not Violent to WomenI did not read the article. They say you can’t go by hairline, but I have never met a half bald man who was a decent human being. That’s like coloring of poisonous berries. It’s obvious, so you can stay far away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:32 PM |
| 88 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”If you read the book version of “sleeping with the enemy,” the couple is just lower-middle class and when the woman escapes she’s not stealing apples from the next-door neighbors tree to make a pie, she’s stealing apples to survive. She’s literally starving to death, and even so when this new man invites her to dinner, she hesitates and says no at first. She literally would rather starve to death than deal with men. And she doesn’t just fall in love with this guy, she confronts him about trying … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:59 PM |
| 144 | BDSM Apologist Slams Gail Dines, Claims it's Not Violent to WomenIt’s always some ugly as sin man trying to h-t women as a k*nk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:53 PM |
| 16 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersYou know, I agree and I expand that to include men with divorced parents, especially those who had acrimonious divorces. I have experienced it too many times. Because of what they saw it in their formative years these men are often toxic AF. Things may be sweet while everything is going well but when things start to go badly or even if you have a fight, these guys go into fight or flight mode because that’s what they saw growing up and they just escalate everything so rapidly. It’s weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:13 PM |
| 98 | Man on Twitter turned off by a woman being too GOOD at budgeting and not over-spending 🤡The minute he mentioned her height, I knew he was a weirdo. Too many men want extra tiny women because it makes them feel like a big man, those guys are insecure Muppets. Notice how he’s clocking her job, estimating her salary. He’s looking for a purse. He’s pissed off at her budgetary skills because he knows he can’t just sponge off of her. A lot of women who do well for themselves and date down end up treating the man to everything they treat themselves to. He was looking for a sugar mama. Ano… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 12 | FDS ladies this reminded me of you, her videos are absolutely hilarious.🤣😂😅. I hope he has some ice for that burn! Typically, I believe in the power of non-engagement, but I’m so happy that sis woke up and choose violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 13 | Of all the pick-me BS! Is this empowering?Right! 😀😁😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 37 | Men Who Get Angry When You Express Unhappiness Are MisogynistsThis is informative and hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 78 | Extra vetting bulletpoints I wish my mama had taught meThis is all very true especially if you’re getting married older. If you get married in your late 30s or 40s there are only a couple of years before your spouse’s parents reach retirement age/are geriatric age. They might already be in failing health when you marry. What is he expecting? Discuss it before hand, because after you’re married it’s too late for that discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:46 PM |
| 23 | SNOOPING 101This is the most foolish logic I’ve ever seen. You’re right in the sense, if you’re snooping it is because your relationship has issues, that’s WHY you’re snooping. Let’s examine this logically. Is a sociopath or a cheater going to tell you that they’re just using you and lying to you to get what they want? Of course not. So how are you gonna find that out? By snooping. It’s pure self-preservation. One of the groups with the highest rates of STIs is married women. Not because they’re going aroun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:13 PM |
| 6 | SNOOPING 101This is the stupidest logic I’ve ever seen. You’re right in the sense, if you’re snooping it is because your relationship has issues, that’s WHY you’re snooping. Let’s examine this logically. Is a sociopath or a cheater going to tell you that they’re just using you and lying to you to get what they want? Of course not. So how are you gonna find that out? By snooping. It’s pure self-preservation. One of the groups with the highest rates of STI’s is married women. Not because they’re going around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:05 PM |
| 54 | SNOOPING 101But they don’t dream of being community penis, not solely. They dream of having a bang maid at home to do all the work while they are out being community penis and of course, in case they need extra sex. They need you to complete the dream. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:54 AM |
| 10 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.THIS. This. T-H-I-S | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:46 AM |
| 6 | "Sexual compability"At first, I read that as “the place of their poking.” Which frankly it’s true. IDK why men are always trying for anal and they haven’t even mastered the first two holes yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:07 AM |
| 764 | Single fathers will date women for free child care. Don’t let a man dictate which car you buy because they don’t want their child in it. This woman needs to 🏃♀️LOL, I love how she says the relationship was casual forever so long and now he expects her to buy a car with his child in mind. In other words, “I’m just using you for free sex and childcare, HOW DARE you not center all your decisions around me!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:35 AM |
| 32 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!Women need to get serious about turning the tables. Yes, vetting is all very well and good, but the truth of the matter is sometimes I’m either going to find themselves in a horrible situation and as we all know it’s not enough to leave. That’s the most dangerous time statistically for women, when they first get away from the abu.ser. The law is definitely stacked against us on purpose to make us afraid to defend ourselves. Women get a longer and harsher sentences for defending themselves agains… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:51 AM |
| 293 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.I believe that this happened, but I don’t believe for one second that that was her reply nor do I believe that he went there by accident. Not only did he do this on purpose, he knew where she was working because he was stalking her and he did this to show that she wasn’t better than him. He was taking out his anger at being rejected, although it looks like he never actually made a move on her when they were in school together. And he was sad, not because he used and abu.send another human being,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:18 AM |
| 6 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”This is heartbreaking. Her parents sold her and she’s the one who had to suffer. Sadly, she was probably suffering the whole two months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:56 PM |
| 20 | Today a stranger man grabbed my friend's phone and opened her Gallery in public.Next time, call the cops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:24 AM |
| 91 | Women Are Very Familiar With 'Weaponized Incompetence,' And We Are 100% Over ItThis right here is why I would never live with a man I wasn’t married to. Men’s talk a good game about equality, but it’s crazy to me how they expect any female human in vicinity to suddenly start cleaning up after them. Good work, charging him. When you take away their precious money all of a sudden they understand English | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 55 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?The words “you think”. I just realized, they never proceed anything good. It’s always either an intentional misunderstanding of your point, e.g. “you think women are always angels and men are evil!” or it’s some challenging of your standards, “what makes YOU THINK you deserve this job, that house, this life?” The person already knows what you think, they’re just questioning your right to think it. I first heard it when I heard men talking about Simone Biles. “What makes her think she’s the best?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:33 PM |
| 174 | Women Are Very Familiar With 'Weaponized Incompetence,' And We Are 100% Over ItI love how his mother checked him and taught him all that info. One less future LVM in the world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:18 PM |
| 148 | Men like to use nature to confirm their biases. But they hate it when we do the same. Here's a few I thought are worth mentioning.I actually believe women should give men full custody and pay child support. When they see how much work it is and how child support covers like 1% of the cost of a child, they’ll be eager to switch back. They’ll offer to pay double, even triple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:07 PM |
| 119 | Today a stranger man grabbed my friend's phone and opened her Gallery in public.He needed a taser.ing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 97 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthBruh, I have actual anxiety and this guy is just a bit.ch. So weak | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 42 | Unruly scrote duct-taped to seat after allegedly assaulting flight attendants l GMAWhere the hell was the Air Marshal? A guy attacking a flight attendant like this definitely sounds as possible terrorism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:54 PM |
| 36 | I felt SO positively affected while binge-listening to a podcast (about empowering women as they date/heal from dating), I found myself taking notes like a college lecture 😂 and of course I want to share them with y'all!Very good, the only point that is patently false is that friendzone thing. “Good husband material” doesn’t actually mean good husband material. It’s code for an unattractive man with no real personality who pretends to be nice to you that you were supposed to give a chance. I grew up in the church and they are notorious for this rhetoric, even more so than incels and the world. I really believe that if you picked the “nice guy “you would never have any problems, when they are the most problemati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:51 PM |
| 192 | Daily dose of scrotitySo by his “logic” since women are getting approached by at least 2 men a day and sleeping with at least 6-7 men a year. Each woman is sleeping with tons of men. There are about 3.5 billion women. Leaving out the underaged girls and women who live in conservative countries where women can’t have casual sex, that’s still like a half a billion. And if each slept with 35 separate men in her lifetime, let alone in five years, that’s more than enough to cover the entire male population many times over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:19 PM |
| 43 | A Little Schadenfreude at a Scrote's ExpenseI’m sure she’s going to get all of that. She’s finishing up her grad program and slated to make lots of money, scrote free. Like high six figures. She was already in a great career when she lived here, I’m sure she’ll be even more in demand now. But thanks for the idea. Now that the scrote is no longer in the way, I’m definitely going to see if I can get her new number from our mutual friend and check in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:04 PM |
| 3 | My family has ZERO boundariesThat’s a strong FDS lady! Good work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 11 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorWomen need to learn that of a man pulls away early one of three things happening: 1. He’s ghosting 2. He’s manipulating you (I.e. lovebomb cycle) 3. He’s leaving you on hold to see if there’s anything better. When there’s not, he will circle back around to you. None of these three scenarios is going to lead to a happy ending. No matter why men aren’t being consistent in the beginning, cut them off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 65 | Came across while scrolling through IG recentlyWhat I've always preferred to say is men think it's all fun and games when they are playing with some women's heart, but they are all hurt and confused when they're finally sincere and the woman in question doesn't believe or trust him. You're going to be begging and pleading trying to knock down the wall of mistrust men like you built- and it may never happen. Karma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:54 PM |
| 25 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayMe, too! No one raises their voice to me. No second chances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:43 PM |
| 44 | My family has ZERO boundariesIf your father also knows about the abuse and never did anything, cut him off. He's already proved you aren't a priority. He wanted your stepfamily so bad, he can have them. But this just shows the importance of the scapegoat. The family dynamic depends on you existing and taking the abuse in silence. Notice how none of them cared or acknowledged what you went through, but the minute you left, they were coming after you to get you back, or sending the flying monkeys. Nah, sis. It's so they can g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:40 PM |
| 88 | This is terrible advice and will just come off as a manipulation tactic. Just block and delete.“How to set yourself back six months by falling into the manipulation he planned.” If you have been on three dates or fewer with a guy, he’s a stranger. He has no expectation of hearing from you ever again. But I don’t care if you’ve been married to the guy for 10 years, if you feel like your safety could be compromised, leave in silence. Men turn to violence when their little feefess are hurt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 80 | *Internal screaming*Sentence one: oh, no. Sentence two: OH NOOOOOOOOO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:18 PM |
| 71 | Opinion: No woman should ever have to have ‘maintenance sex’ with her husbandOh my god! This is my first relationship to a tee. I was 18 then and I’m 32 now. I knew afterwards in my 20s that he had been emotionally abusive but it’s just this year with FDS I’m able to see how calculated it was and how much he hated me. When I was younger just thought it was the effect of his abusive childhood. But nope. He absolutely insinuated himself into my life, then he sexually coerced me, triangulated me with his ex and his mom (ick), tried to isolate me from my family, so he could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:02 PM |
| 847 | AITA, boys shouts at girlfriend, girl moves out the next dayDid you see the comments?! Almost all YTAs reaming him out. I have hope for humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:57 AM |
| 12 | Poor girl. This is what men can do to you.I said from the first day I don’t think this was a hike. I think he flew her out to klll her. Premeditated. Think about it. Where do you get rid of bo.dies? The desert. If he just wanted to hook up or even go on a hike date, why not somebody in town or from the same state even? Why groom a woman from across the country for two whole months into coming to you? We all know scrotes consider time without sex, time wasted. He wanted a woman who didn’t have ties to him, a woman who was from out of tow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:48 AM |
| 97 | My fiancé NEVER tells me he loves me but he pulls the car around so our toddler doesn't have to run in the pouring rain and that's love 🤡We got to start using that argument on men. “Why do you need sex/ cooking/emotional labor to feel loved? It’s enough that I’m here, right? I shouldn’t have to be constantly proving how I feel. You should just know.” It sounds a lot better when we say it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:28 AM |
| 17 | How many red flags do you see? I wAnT tO eNjOy mY eArLy reTiReMenT (but my wife can still work f that)Read the comments and now I’m depressed. It is crazy to me how RP theories are becoming main stream. Or maybe it just seems like that because it’s Reddit. But I saw all of these mail commenters talking about how men are only valued for their jobs and what they bring to the table financially. Just screeding into the void about a bunch of stupidity nobody mentioned. When the real issue is that this idiot wants to retire and leave his wife to work for 20 years to support the family while he sits ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:27 PM |
| 43 | You can’t be treated like a king if you can’t act like a kingFantastic outfit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:40 PM |
| 40 | Man of deadbedroom is amazed that it takes effort to have a great marriageYep. He posted this lovely tidbit a year later. "...My dead bedroom has been fixed. We rebuilt our relationship, and are in so much a be better place. But my SO is very happy with intimacy and commitment - she just doesn't crave passion like I do. So we went from a dead bedroom to having sex at least 3 times a week, cuddling almost all tonight, mastur.bating in front if each other, and just getting along really well in general. We're happy together. we genuinely love and support each other. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:26 PM |
| 111 | Man of deadbedroom is amazed that it takes effort to have a great marriageYep. He posted this lovely tidbit a year later. "...My dead bedroom has been fixed. We rebuilt our relationship, and are in so much a be better place. But my SO is very happy with intimacy and commitment - she just doesn't crave passion like I do. So we went from a dead bedroom to having sex at least 3 times a week, cuddling almost all tonight, mastur.bating in front if each other, and just getting along really well in general. We're happy together. we genuinely love and support each other. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:12 PM |
| 87 | If he wanted to, he would! 😊That's so sweet! I love HP-themed proposals and rings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:19 PM |
| 181 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.This is why you leave men who cheat *immediately*. Boyfriend, husband, w/e. It's very essential. If he does it once, he WILL do it again. In this era of HIV and crazy mistresses, better to save your life and protect your peace. Don't believe the hype. It's never just sex. It's a test to see if you'll accept disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:43 PM |
| 418 | Man of deadbedroom is amazed that it takes effort to have a great marriagePause! Not to rain on a good post, I found the original and look at what this OP says in the comments: “…When my wife began to consistently feel loved, wanted and understood, it was like a switch turned on inside her. We went from a dead bedroom to sex 2 to 3 times a week (not counting oral and other activities). We went from cold and distant to holding hands, cuddling, have an intimate conversations, and enjoying each other’s company. She was as vanilla as they come, but now she’s become open m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:22 PM |
| 135 | Man of deadbedroom is amazed that it takes effort to have a great marriageOmg, it’s almost like if you treat your wife well, acknowledge her feelings, and LISTEN to her, you’ll have a great, passionate marriage. Alert the press. I can’t wait to go over there and see all the comments of the men accusing him of simping for sex. I swear the only solution men in that thread ever want to hear is “divorce or open relationship”. While every man there claims it’s all his wife’s fault that his bed is dead, they know the truth. They know if they treated their wife well and did … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:09 PM |
| 41 | Triggering Home LifeBeen there. Gray rock them. Be completely neutral. No response or short responses. Hmmm, yea, well, you don’t say, ahh, mmm, uh-huh. Don’t feed into their negative energy. I don’t care what they say. They are going to say things specifically to trigger you. It doesn’t matter what it is, I don’t care if he says “men can cheat, women can’t” or “women shouldn’t vote.” Just ahh, oh, mmm, uh-huh. When outrageous behavior doesn’t get a response, people stop doing it. Also, do not waste time arguing wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 154 | Why do the manosphere and pickmes hate men so much?Oh yes, the soft bigotry of low expectations. Do the manosphere even think men are human? Even a toddler can exercise self-control, if they think all grown adult males cannot, are they people to them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:21 AM |
| 71 | Why they're hung up on their exExactly! This is spot on and absolutely brilliant. These modern men think it’s so normal to launch into these long, unasked for panegyrics about their ex and how wonderful she was. Of course this soliloquy is always about what she did for him. Because that’s all that matters. It’s not like she was a person with feelings and thoughts of her own or anything. And how can they triangulate you with her if they don’t tell you all the stories about how she was so amazing at serving him? Either it’s a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:18 AM |
| 81 | "dO yOu eXpEcT A mAn tO pAy FoR EvErYtHinG fOrEvEr": How Women Talk Themselves Out of Following FDS Standards By Creating Imaginary Problems.Exactly! Our feminine existence is so valuable. A guy should show that he appreciates it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:06 AM |
| 13 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.LOL Pretty much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 23 | Husband replaces wife's lost ring and upgrades her too! Never settle. Story in the next pic and comments.Love it! Never settle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:05 AM |
| 17 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.Yes, thank you. I had just gotten it and I hadn’t been adjusting my gears correctly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 36 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.Blockt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:41 PM |
| 115 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.Yes! Once a guy drove me home from a date. It was January and snowing. He waited for me to open my front door like a gentleman. My key broke. Must’ve been the cold. But he sat there with me until I could get the situation resolved. It was hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:12 PM |
| 25 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsI remember I met a guy online years ago. He was actually a sweetheart and great company for two dates. But I had to break it off. I felt like Gulliver in Lilliput and I'm only 5'7 and a size 6. He was just tiny, not just in height, but in his dimensions. He was extremely thin and had very delicate hands. It was unnerving. I hope he finds a lovely short lady or a lovely tall lady who likes small guys. But I've learned I need them above 6 ft. I had one long-term BF who was 5'5. He was gorgeous and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthBut why deceive her into a hike? Even if she was willing to hookup with him, I’m sure dehydration and the heat would’ve quenched her ardor. He probably planned to k*ll her all the time. Distance from all help, the elements eroding physical evidence, solitude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:27 PM |
| 100 | Scrote Translation: I’m going to wait for other men to work and erode your standards first, then swoop in and take advantage of you ;)This guy literally is waiting for an ex-abse victim who thinks he’s Prince Charming because he doesn’t raise a hand. He’s clearly emotionally manipulative and absive though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 44 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansWhen I was a kid I loved that movie. But even then I can see how irresponsible Daniel was and how much everything was his fault. As a grown woman I hate him with a fiery passion. He might’ve loved his kids, but he did not become Mrs. Doubtfire because he gave a damn about them. He literally was doing everything he refused to do in his marriage, learning how to cook and clean and disciplining his children, just stick it to his wife! What did nosing into her business with her new man have to do wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:48 PM |
| 115 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthI don’t think that’s what happened at all. Yes, this is the official story that he told the police and that they have told the news, but who goes on a hike with no water, even in a cool area like Boston? If she had been in Arizona a day she knew how hot it was. I think he took her water when she wouldn’t give him sexual favors or w/e, or he chased her off the trail, and either lost her and went away to establish his alibi, or he hit her or somehow caused her to be disoriented and she couldn’t fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:41 PM |
| 26 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?This is perfection! You are the scrote decoder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:59 PM |
| 4 | You don't have to start dating early to maximise your chances of finding a HVMThis is the second post I’ve seen in like a week about women not dating in college, and I have to say I strenuously disagree. Yes, dating should not be your focal point in college and I absolutely believe that women should be celibate in college-that will weed out the guys who are serious about you from the guys who want to use you. But to not date at all is impractical. This is the best time to begin dating. Most of us did not date in high school, at least not seriously, and there’s a world of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 64 | What (FDS) Women WantMen don’t “get” sex. That sounds rapey. While it is certainly a gift for any woman to share her body with a man, it shouldn’t be a reward. We aren’t objects. It should be a situation of equals, enjoying each other in a committed context. Maybe “Men and women would have more satisfying, frequent, and fulfilling sex lives?” Otherwise, spot on post, really, really excellent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 28 | Women should not go on hiking dates whether as a first one or as a married couple.Again, how vetting can save your life. If a man’s first wife died of unnatural causes, I don’t care if every investigation says it was an accident, I would never speak to him again, let alone marry him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:36 PM |
| 23 | if you are childfree, vet your partner’s reasons for being childfreeLol studies also say women are happiest CF and single. I would love to see the study that said anybody in their 30s or 40s was lonely. That’s literally when you have the best capacity for interacting with others. You’re young, footloose and fancy free, and have some money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 16 | if you are childfree, vet your partner’s reasons for being childfreeI truly agree with the child free flights and child free days at Disney. No flight I have ever been on has been improved by children. If Disney doesn’t want to offer child free days, that is their prerogative of course, but people would pay good money for that. Best time I ever had at Disney was grad night, where it was all seniors in high school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:34 PM |
| 83 | if you are childfree, vet your partner’s reasons for being childfreeI completely agree. I’m CF myself but I had to unjoin that sub Reddit quickly. There’s nothing but a bunch of pick mes and their kings. There are plenty of women who say openly that they love kids but they are CF because they know that the boyfriend or husband wouldn’t “help out”. One woman literally said she’s too busy taking care of her husband to have children. Ohhhhh no, Satan. I don’t want children, so I definitely don’t want a man child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 3 | requirement for a childfree HVMOf course, they are thrill seekers and those are often narcissists or just lack empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Men Don’t Respect Disputes Between WomenOh my God, I was just about to post this! The other woman was literally stalking Elaine and threatened to beat her and the guys just kept going “meow!” So accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 25 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistakenI don’t think there’s anything wrong with him wanting to leave something to his son, but she knows him better than we do. She knew that if she did the exact same thing with her own money, he would throw a fit. It’s not about the money or who he’s leaving it to, it’s about his attitude of entitlement to all of her resources while she doesn’t have the same on her side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:49 PM |
| 8 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieI’m definitely not. I don’t want to have to k*ll any scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 32 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.I think this is a kin to those “success stories” where the woman overlooked his cheating and his major disrespect. They may dress it up so it sounds nice, but that relationship is no success behind closed doors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 13 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieHere’s another, more recent example. The Red Cross aid workers in Haiti were “paying for sex” aka withholding the aid until they forced poor, desperate women and children into sex acts. The Red Cross claims it was 21 people facilitating, but there are reports of the numbers being much much higher, as well as there being a child sex trafficking ring run through the UN aid workers. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2018/02/24/world/icrc-sex-scandal/index.html | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:43 PM |
| 13 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieYou have the greatest freaking name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 29 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieTHE END! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 12 | Love songs to myselfAnita Baker's "Body and Soul". I used to think it was about romantic love, but now I just think of it as the embodiment of being an HVW. Loving myself inside and out with good, healthy choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:54 AM |
| 15 | What do you think of women being forced into the military draft?They've been talking about that for years. It's not going to happen. First, there hasn't been a draft for men in over 30 years. They don't need one for women. Second, the US birth rate is steadily declining. They aren't going to further endanger their prospects by sending women to war en masse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:50 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InRun. I had this experience once and ignored my instincts. Went on the date. He had no grasp of nuance. Pretty sure he was Buffalo Bill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:41 AM |
| 17 | Being High Value - An Energy/Polarity PerspectiveI love your definition of the mature feminine. I’m really striving to get there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:04 AM |
| 294 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieWow, the scrote lurkers really came out of the woodwork on this one. Apparently, they saw the title and thought I penned some kind of Cool Girl missive about how porn is totally fine and if you don't let your man punch you in the throat until you pass out and have threesomes like Jenna Jameson, you're lame. Now they're screeding into the void how they aren't really violent r*pists, it's a FaNtAsY, but the mods are doing an amazing job of blocking their comments before they show up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 11:37 PM |
| 106 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatOh my god this date is getting more horrible with every detail you all add. Abort, abort. Five hours for drinks and water 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:50 PM |
| 15 | Ilhan Omar refused to condemn Female Genital Mutilation - handmaidens are on the left too, make no mistakeI read the article, it appears to me she didn’t refuse to condemn FGM, she basically said the reporter questioning her about it because she’s Somali and Muslim is Islamophobic and she’s right. In this capacity, she is a United States Congresswoman. It’s quite xenophobic that they keep questioning her about all of these perceived Muslim issues. She said she’s constantly being asked to publicly rebuke Hamas and Al-queda, etc. and she’s tired of it. I feel that. How much of an issue is FGM in the U… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should TooHmm, I’m of two minds about this. Definitely believe that girls should be celibate in college. Young men are the worst, they are sexually inexperienced and most of them are being educated by porn nowadays. Plus, college campuses are notorious vectors of STIs. Not worth the risk. I knew too many girls who ruined their bright futures getting pregnant by some scrote who wasn’t even part of the school. Get a vibe or toy and move on. But while I don’t think dating should consume you while you are in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 53 | Boundaries & Experience of AbuseWe should have test boundaries just like we have fake insecurities for the “blood in the water “test. A test boundary should be a real boundary, but it should be such an obvious boundary that someone will never mistakenly violate it. For example, because I share my first name with a lot of people in my family, I have a family name that I go by within my family. No one outside of my family calls me that, ever. I do not allow it. If a guy even jokingly called me by my family name, I would always n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 03:37 PM |
| 25 | my quickest vetting strategyOf course women create the ideal man. That’s why all the best romantic male leads like Mr. Darcy of Pride and Prejudice were written by women. Shakespeare’s male leads are always some toxic fuck boys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 04:13 AM |
| 21 | An open letter to men who will have sex with me but won't date me.You know, I often see articles about this phenomenon and it really has very little to do with weight and more to do with low self-esteem. I know a girl in school who was nuts about a guy who literally said to her face that he only wanted to sleep with her but he was constantly trying to get into a serious relationship with her best friend. The girl he told she was only good for sex was a size 00 and considered quite pretty by many people. She just had horrible self-esteem and she actually let th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:25 PM |
| 89 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.Burns with anger I hope she said no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:15 PM |
| 36 | Hypothesis: You can tell if a man is ready to “settle down” by looking at his hairline. 😂😂Will add link in comments.No, leave it up! Just the stats are excellent actual dating and marriage strategy. Where he’s talking about things which are objective and not subjective, like the age where men are more likely to marry or the circumstances (ie men whose friends just married are more likely to marry) the advice is invaluable. Something doesn’t have to be perfect to be useful. And also I think it’s good to see that even though this guy is obviously misogynistic, even he as a researcher confirmed with facts and fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:34 AM |
| 219 | Hypothesis: You can tell if a man is ready to “settle down” by looking at his hairline. 😂😂Will add link in comments.Here’s one: the author’s argument short, ugly or awkward men aren’t married because women are shallow. “We talked to dozens of men in their late thirties and early forties who had given up on the idea of marrying. Most lacked one of three things-looks, height, or social skills. They had been rejected so often that they had despaired of ever finding a woman who would love them or even put up with them. Many had been treated cruelly by women… These men have been rejected and demeaned for years by … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:00 AM |
| 363 | Hypothesis: You can tell if a man is ready to “settle down” by looking at his hairline. 😂😂Will add link in comments.It’s funny, because I read this article before. I thought some of the points it made were quite misogynistic, but for all of that, this point is definitely FDS-aligned: “ There is a possible drawback to dating a man aged 40 or older. Many men at that age begin to look at women and marriage as a poor financial investment. There’s no other way of putting it. When you ask them why they’re not married, they tell you they spent most of their lives building a nest egg, and they’re not about to share i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 12:22 AM |
| 374 | I hope she got picked 🙄This woman is lying. No one turns down orgasms. What she turns down is the chance to fake orgasms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:42 PM |
| 4 | Seen this repost on FB today. Are men really this stupid?I’m not agreeing with him on that. I already said, if we were in a different sub, my comment would’ve been different. In the childfree sub, I would’ve said have a vasectomy or stop having PIV sex. But this sub is for women. There are no men here for me to say that to. For us FDS ladies the best advice is to have sex and children with committed, vetted partners. Having children with uncommitted, resentful men is not going to improve your life and that’s why we’re here, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:59 PM |
| 5 | Seen this repost on FB today. Are men really this stupid?I don’t understand what’s wrong with this. I mean yes, obviously it’s up to the women’s discretion whether or not she wants to have a child and his feelings have no bearing on her body. But I’ve always thought it was the height of silliness for a woman to have a child with a man she’s not married to, especially a guy who said he didn’t want the baby. Is it your right to have a baby after that? Absolutely! You’re the only one in charge of your body. But it is just willful self-deception at that p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:51 PM |
| 47 | Thoughts on the manosphere. Why redpills and incels direct their anger at women.And this is brilliant. Reminds me of the societal structure in 1984. As Winston and Julia say, The big brother government in the book try to eliminate any natural human outlets for emotion like familial relationships, sex, pleasure of any sort because they want you to channel all of that energy into intense jingoistic fervor, whether that’s actually fighting in a war or just patriotic delusion. You’re supposed to be bursting with energy all the time, then that energy will be used for government … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 03:01 PM |
| 123 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.This guy is a creeper. He must be getting uncomfortably close or purposely using his size intimidate women. I personally have never been afraid of a man just because he’s on the street and tall, in the daylight. Now if it was night and he was coming up from behind, that’d be different. But just during the day running errands he’s noticing multiple women go in the opposite direction or being incredibly aware of him. He’s doing something that caused it. And he’s doing it on purpose. He specificall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:45 PM |
| 36 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?Do you know how many years of my life I have spent trying to answer this question? From the time I was a preteen I was literally reading books about cheating and how to prevent him from cheating and had to choose the right man and how to cheat proof your marriage. I have yet to come across what I would consider a fool proof method. But one day I realized it wasn’t a man cheating on me that I was actually afraid of, it was the effects of the cheating. I was afraid that like many women I saw I wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:13 PM |
| 32 | Old,' M. Night Shyamalan and Hollywood's horror of aging women This source of terror persists because it reflects society’s misogynist fear of mature female power.This article is excellent. Thank you so much for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:00 PM |
| 5 | I effed upThey flock together, just like LVM do. Find one who has been thoroughly vetted through years, preferably decades of marriage to someone you know, and his friends are often at the same type he is. And, just upgrade your lifestyle. I’ve met some in my graduate classes, others when I’m volunteering | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 09:57 PM |
| 51 | Once a liar always a liar?You have a lot of health issues already. I don’t think you can afford to have STIs, too. Leave him and get tested NOW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:19 PM |
| 38 | I effed upI agree completely. Women have got to stop ignoring gigantic neon red flags, and then excusing that behavior by saying there’s nothing good to pick. Listen, I have dated some first class jerks over the years. Narcs, emotional abusers, etc. And you know what? I’ve managed to avoid them for the past few years because I looked at what I was doing wrong to attract and stay with such men. Abusers are going to abuse, but they won’t stay with just anyone. They like a specific kind a victim, someone the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:55 AM |
| 75 | Eye opening but depressing Tiktok account about the true nature of men (and it’s all of them)You know, this is the real truth. Guys spit all that yik-yak about wanting to a “good girl” and they probably do-in 20 years. After they hit the wall and are old and broke down, they want a good girl nurse with a purse to take care of them and their dusty ED ridden peepee. In the meantime they want to use and abse as many women sexually as they possibly can and they aren’t going to put down two dollars unless they are getting maximum sexual benefits. F them. And this ugly vile thing advertising … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:45 AM |
| 17 | Even some men in the comment section were saying that they wouldn't like it if their lady proposed to them but were attacked like anything !I came to say this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:39 AM |
| 34 | Even some men in the comment section were saying that they wouldn't like it if their lady proposed to them but were attacked like anything !I’d rather mop up the ocean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:38 AM |
| 35 | Time, awkward tasks & your comfortThis is excellent and thoughtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 07:29 AM |
| 17 | Dump him on the first lieYes well. As he was married when he met her and she actually had to pay his wife so she would divorce him and they could get married, I’m sure him lying about his age was the least of her concerns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:12 AM |
| 5 | Why waiting makes senseI think when they say a man can only hold the mask 3-4 months, they mean he may still pretend but the big neon red flags appear. I concur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:07 AM |
| 14 | Was Joshua Jackson’s Public Reveal That His Wife Proposed a Passive Aggressive Attempt to Humiliate Her and Promote His ManhoodThis seems quite the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:00 AM |
| 227 | I’d like to hear your opinions here.Aside from her awful marriage choice, this woman is awesome! A legend. Prenup, check. Maintaining those separate finances, check. Making sure he pays his way and not letting him leech off her parents, check. Not letting him drag her down to his poverty level, check. Leveling up financially with multiple properties, check, check! Get it, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:54 AM |
| 6 | Ever blocked a guy and he still tracked you down?I blocked two separate numbers from a scote I dumped. And when I broke up with him I said emphatically that I never wanted to speak to him again, there was no room for misunderstanding. Like a year later, my phone rings, it’s my hometown area code. I pick up immediately in case someone is in trouble. He says, “hey Annie,” like we spoke yesterday. He had actually gotten a Google Voices or something with that area code to get me to answer. Weirdo. I blocked that, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 12:37 AM |
| 27 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.How is this post mean? Like 20 years ago, she put a bully in his place and apparently he never got over it. Just like most LVN he’s obsessed with the HVW who didn’t take his BS. I noticed while he was complimenting the OP for turning his life around, he didn’t say boo about the girl he was bullying. Maybe let’s think about that. How was she affected by this larger guy picking on her? Was she scared? Did she feel alone before the OP helped her? How has it affected her whole life? This is a subred… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐What a shitty therapist. I mean, I get it. It’s a lot easier to get and keep clients if you give them advice that keeps everyone around them happy and gives them a temporary high of acceptance. But what is actually going to serve your client, is advice that will make them their best selves and give them strong boundaries. No, they aren’t going to have as many people around, but the ones they do have will be the very best of the best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 12:26 AM |
| 3 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureThat’s actually not true. Men will feel something for you. Contempt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:40 PM |
| 40 | Porn teaches men to derive pleasure from causing women pain. This blatant misogyny is in full view and being promoted by lvm and libfems with internalized misogynyOMG, why is this exactly what I was thinking about earlier! So, I am abstinent but I date quite a bit. You’re thinking, doesn’t that conflict? That’s an FDS standard, sure, but in real life doesn’t it get hard. Not really. I was just thinking back on the last 10 years and there was really only a handful of times when it was difficult for me to abstain. Back in college, it’s just seemed like things were so much more passionate. Guys really kissed you and everything was an adventure. But now, idk.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:40 PM |
| 19 | As much as I hate war, I agree with her response. And "a period"? 🤔. Yeah it's not like I pick and choose when menstruation begins each month.Or r*pe us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:29 PM |
| 111 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"You know back when I was reading Cosmo, a.k.a. like 10 years ago, I saw an article just like this about how women are going 50-50 with their husbands and living like paupers while their husbands live like kings because of course the men make more money. Literally they quoted women in the article saying that they couldn’t afford to go to group outings with their friends to restaurants and such, so their husbands would go and leave them at home! I don’t understand how women took the good tenants o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 118 | What made her such an excellent villain in this movie was her highly realistic ax to grindI used to think that, but then I realize that’s exactly what Amy would do! She wanted him to feel what she felt, forced into pretending to be someone else and putting her first every day of his life. In the end he had to think about Amy more than he thought about himself and that brings me so much joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 06:34 PM |
| 29 | The Real Reason Scarlett Johansson Divorced Ryan ReynoldsI just saw an interview with Ryan Reynolds I want those late night talk shows. He literally said when he met Blake he immediately felt she was the one. He was married at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:33 PM |
| 150 | He just might be a LVM if... (behind-the-wheel edition)This is true. I was once dating a guy who seemed HV. Something kept nagging at me though, and I broke up with him. He was so heartbroken, but still so sweet and generous to me, it lured me back. , He made this beautiful impassioned speech about missing me, how I was irreplaceable and I was charmed. We went on another date and he picked me up. Now up until then I always took my own car and met him places. This was my first time ever seeing him drive. We were driving and a guy didn’t let him get o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:03 PM |
| 59 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookGuys who are really into working out often meal prep. That’s why I hate when incel type men try to spread the “meat head gym bro” stereotype. Like, of course I want a guy who looks good, is physically fit enough to keep up with me, and knows how to cook. What part of that is not attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:03 PM |
| 114 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookEven when men do cook in a relationship or cook for themselves, I find them to be disproportionately angry about it. I had an LVM friend. I saw him last in 2019. Mind you he was nearly 40 and living with his girlfriend and I was asking him why the relationship wasn’t progressing. He told his girl’s father (who was on his deathbed,btw) he was going to marry her and take care of her. Well, he and I were going to a friend’s party and on the way we’re talking about what was going on in his relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:00 PM |
| 10 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureActually, no! I think Shonda just has a good grasp on reality. I think adultery is normally the bedrock of her shows because it’s juicy and creates drama, but she fired “Derek” because having an affair with someone on set is actually against his contract. And she fired Burke all those years ago because he called TR Knight the F word. I think she just has high moral standards. It’s my personal theory that Alex was fired for the same thing. I track the timeline and he was fired suddenly, no mentio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:46 PM |
| 55 | Reminder: You can twist a man's arm to make him say/do almost anything. In the end, a choice that he makes in the absence of pressure is infinitely more reflective of his feelings and intentions.To you. Find someone who wants to get married to you. A lot of women mistake a guy not proposing marriage to them as lack interest in marriage. Nah. He's just trying to run out the clock, trying to get the maximum benefits without committing himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:57 AM |
| 568 | This need to be sharedWow. And the thing that’s even more amazing about this is that ostensibly, Einstein should have been the more enlightened person of the two men. After all, he was working and living almost half a century later. I can’t believe that Pierre was so high value in the 1800s when misogyny was the air men breathed. Women had zero rights all around the world. But it just goes to show you vetting is worthwhile and there’s no such thing as too high a standard. I’m sure if Marie had verbalized that she wan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:46 AM |
| 207 | The only advice needed is to break up, delete and block the liarShe needs to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:38 AM |
| 33 | Feel like a million bucks without breaking the bankIf you haven’t gotten your birthday gift from Sephora yet, they’re giving out a whole Laneige set this year, including the lip mask. It’s free and it lasts forever. Also, I just picked up another Laneige lip mask at Marshall’s. Just a few bucks. Also got some extremely inexpensive Laura Mercier translucent powder in my shade. Way less than half of what it would’ve cost in a Sephora. Check out these places, they often have great deals on the prestige make up and skincare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 09:28 PM |
| 360 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”Yeah, I have known he was LV for sometime. To me it was obvious he divorced Scarlett Johansson when she wasn’t his fantasy in real life. First, he seems like the guy he definitely is threatened by his wife having a more successful career which Scarlet Johansson definitely has. No shade to Blake Lively, but I have barely heard of her. I haven’t seen 90% of the movies at Scarlett Johansson is in but I know who she is just because she’s a household name. Ryan Reynolds gave me a vibe like he just wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 43 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureYes, Mark was hot, but even as a child I was completely creeped out by the age gap between him and Lexie. And Lexie just looked so young. Even Meredith and Derek were gross to me. Even though Ellen Pompeo was in her late 30s when the show started, she was playing a girl who would’ve been in her late 20s and Derek would’ve been close to 40 if not over. Yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 09:02 PM |
| 160 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureYes, he did. Derek always acted like Meredith was great love of his life which is why he cheated on Addison with Meredith but never cheated on Meredith. But I think it was a power age gap thing. Derek liked that he could mold Meredith. I don’t think that Derek liked that Addison was his age and she was his equal. She was as good a doctor as he was and people were flying in from all over the country to see her, just the way they were flying in to see him. She didn’t worship him like Meredith did.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 08:59 PM |
| 50 | How Media Grooms Women Into Hookup CultureThe problem is this is being normalized across the board. All these shows geared to younger girls like Gossip Girls, Vampire Diaries, Secret Life, etc normalize hookup culture for girls who are far too young to know better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 08:33 PM |
| 9 | What power shift?? Lies men tell XD Women get BETTER with ageThat’s right! Gay men like younger partners too. I have to use that as evidence that men do not age better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 21 | Catch and Kill documentary series on HBOGood job, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:37 PM |
| 107 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?THANK YOU! I hear far too many women say they have a high sex drive, but if you ask them they never orgasm from the hookups. It’s not really a high sex drive you’re serving if you’re constantly unfulfilled frustrated. This is just a socially acceptable way of getting male validation and company. Get to the root of your need to seek out intimacy through this way and you will be able to fix the actual issue instead of medicating the symptoms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:34 PM |
| 38 | This is why you protect your womb. This is why men's lies about the court system is bullshit. Ladies, always vet and vet ruthlessly. The world is against you, so be ruthless.This is a sad story, but at the same time, a little elementary vetting could have helped her avoid this. The guy moved countries and CHANGED HIS NAME after being convicted for pedophilia where he was. She married this guy without ever questioning why he and his family had different names, without seeing his old passport or high school yearbook, without asking any pertinent questions about his past. She says herself she bought into all that "my evil ex-wife is out to get me" crap and didn't talk … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:49 AM |
| 68 | Easy Vetting Hack : Are you proud?Oh, I absolutely agree. Society tries to gaslight women into thinking good treatment and attention will compensate for an ugly partner. While most ugly/short guys truly do not treat you better because they are just as entitled and demanding as other men, in my case, my ugly exes treated me very well. And I was still ashamed to be seen with them and had huge anxiety around doing anything sexual with them. I was disgusted, but I was sublimating it, I suppose. Never again. Being with a fine man who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:25 AM |
| 1 | The Four Tolkien LVM And What We Can Learn from Them: Part 5I just love these! I’ve been off of here recently, so I’m just getting to part five and part six, but I am enjoying the series thoroughly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 12:36 AM |
| 32 | If he is capable of making small misogynistic comments, he is capable of doing way worse things, tooI wrote about this in a longer post, but the system is uneven on purpose, so women can neither get real protection from the police from predators and we can’t defend ourselves without facing harsh legal consequences (eg look at how many women are in prison for killing abusive husbands vs. how many abusive men escape any punishment for klling women using the rough sex defense). The whole goal of the system is to gaslight women into thinking just taking the abuse is the easiest option. We can’t pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Is this ok?“Oh that’s too far for me to travel on …(Whatever applies, a work night, a school night, late at night). What are you planning?” And then when he answers, just tell him there are whatever, restaurants, jazz clubs, etc. near you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Is this ok?Not cool, he should be coming to you. It shows more of an investment and it’s a safety thing. You don’t want to be where he’s got the home-field advantage and he knows the area and you don’t. Stick close to your own area in case things get dicey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:20 AM |
| 143 | Double Standard with Long DistanceA lot of women say they would only move for their husbands. The only way I would move for my husband would be if he paid my salary in full, a year in advance. I am not going to be a trailing spouse. Where are you live is about more than your job. Why should you leave behind your support system, your community, your friends, all of the things that you’ve built just to accommodate him? Because I gurandamntee he would not move for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:29 AM |
| 202 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.….It’s safe to assume he’s alone now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 12:27 AM |
| 7 | Ex-LVM didn't want to contribute, but was more than happy to take creditOK, your username is fabulous! I assume you work in psych | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:14 PM |
| 41 | Not having children in this pedophilic society.I’m definitely not having kids. I’d have to end some scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:05 PM |
| 17 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?I definitely always put my purse in the seat next to me. I had way too many horrible experiences with guys trying to sit there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 12:59 PM |
| 3 | If you can't see him being a good potential father/good around kids he isn't the one. Swipe for a reminder to not get too invested too soonThis is how my dad is with my mom. I will not settle for less | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 12:05 PM |
| -4 | Literally Was Just Talking Abt this To My BFFOne drop of African ancestry does not a black person make, especially in the Caribbean. I’m sure in all the situations that it is beneficial, she leans on her white passing Latin privilege. So, again, ick and no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:44 PM |
| -1 | Literally Was Just Talking Abt this To My BFFShe isn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 13 | Literally Was Just Talking Abt this To My BFFI agree with the sentiment of this video, but hard pass on this black fishing language. Ick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:30 AM |
| 7 | Easy vetting strategyAll men are a headache, but I’d much rather deal with white men than MOC. It just requires a lot of vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:25 AM |
| 105 | Easy vetting strategyI am a black woman. I asked every white guy I was dating when Black Panther came out if he was going to see it. I knew some men who were obsessed with Marvel. If they even hesitated about going to see Black Panther, I knew it was about race. You’ve seen every movie in the MCU including the freaking Guardians of the Galaxy but you don’t know if Black Panther is “a necessary watch”. F you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?Yeah, that guy was ready to stop. Your flat tire probably happened because he scattered nails as a trap. He was too prepared and he left quick when he found out another man was coming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:59 PM |
| 15 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.This reminds me of my parents. Awwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:09 PM |
| 6 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?I think you’re right to be worried. This guy sounds insane. If you can, vary your routine right now. If you have any men who can come around, have them come around. Vary them, have them stay different hours at different times. And if he asks, be very upfront about that aka lie to scare him off. “Oh that must’ve been my dad and my brothers. I’ve got a huge family and they’re always coming around unexpectedly. Actually, one of my brothers is going to be staying with me awhile as he does the police… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 01:49 PM |
| 8 | I am so glad I didn’t end up with any of the losers I pined over in my pickme yearsMy high school/college crush still has no degree and lives with his parents. He's 32. Dodged a BULLET. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 01:54 AM |
| 3 | Start by rebuilding your sex life with yourselfI always love your posts! You should write a book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 08:54 PM |
| 12 | Being an HVW is just as much about what you *don't* do as what you doSnap out of it! As soon as you start thinking about the time you wasted, realize that you can’t get that time back, but you can waste more. Make a list of productive things to do instead and do them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Negative effects of combining childcare and housework.Make him be better. Men only do what they are required to do.So don’t tell him you “need help”. That implies that the things he’s about to take over our naturally your job and he’s doing some sort of favor. Just say what you need done and let him figure out how to do it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:25 PM |
| 3 | Negative effects of combining childcare and housework.Make him be better. Men only do what they are required to do.So don’t tell him you “need help”. That implies that the things he’s about to take over our naturally your job and he’s doing some sort of favor. Just say what you need done and let him figure out how to do it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:25 PM |
| 124 | Being an HVW is just as much about what you *don't* do as what you doYes! Too often we women see a shell we like and we imbue it with all these great characteristics and then fall in love with the persona we created! We're in love with the projections of our own imaginations, not the men themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:44 AM |
| 3 | Wait...what?I've never ridden a motorcycle and even I know those and ties don't mix. And those bare arms are just begging for a degloving injury. Don't look that up, you'll be grossed out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:22 AM |
| 2 | Four Statistics on Living Together Before MarriageI'd advise waiting until after the wedding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 07:09 AM |
| 132 | Don’t be settled forThe sad part is, the wife is probably touting the story as a fairytale. “The FWBship that became a marriage.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:03 AM |
| 197 | One of the Benefits of Living Together... Splitting the RentThis is exactly why I do not believe in cohabitation. It’s not just that men are far more likely not to marry you and you’re more likely to get divorced if you do get married. It’s not even just that men abuse your emotional labor and take you for granted. It is that your lives become so enmeshed automatically! If you are just dating, you see a man on your terms. You get to choose when and how you engage with him and if you feel less than your best, you don’t have to be bothered. Your home is yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:02 AM |
| 16 | Sucking the labour of women for 40 years!!!!Oh that’s because the people who responded and gave him advice are just doing their job. That’s your role. You were supposed to be servicing him and making his life easier, you’re not owed any thanks for that /s. Jabba the ex-husband better get off his ass before firemen have to come cut him out of his house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Start by rebuilding your sex life with yourself😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:53 AM |
| 25 | Sucking the labour of women for 40 years!!!!And that’s that on that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:51 AM |
| 37 | My ex-LVM friend sent me a handwritten letter and I tore it up and threw it away without reading itAnd the reason he wrote a letter is because he probably thought he was blocked by email. This is a very toxic example of “if he wanted to, he would.” He has the energy to handwrite a letter and send it to you through the post office, but he won’t exert the minimal effort it takes to treat you with respect. Because he doesn’t want to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 12:16 AM |
| 11 | Start by rebuilding your sex life with yourselfYou might want to try just focusing on sensation. “That feels good. I like the way this feels against my skin, it feels good to stroke that or cup this.” Focus on what makes you feel good and dismiss all thought of how your body appears to others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 12:14 AM |
| 20 | What are your standards (and have you been able to find a partner who met them - esp if people have told you those standards were too high/"unreasonable")?Lol there’s nothing too high about any of these standards. People are just afraid they won’t be able to fob their loser sons and brothers off on you. Seriously, the only people who are mad at your standards are people who don’t meet them-and this includes women! When I was in college, I was posting about some of my standards on Facebook (this was years ago). I was shocked on some of my male relatives attacked my post. But when I told my parents, they just reminded me these were LVM mostly unmarr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:54 PM |
| 73 | “You’re a woman though”*This is just general information, but there’s really no need for any woman to go to jail. If a woman was attacked randomly on the street by a man she had no connection to, and she probably was wearing a mask because of the plague, if she defended herself and walked away, the police would have no way of finding her. There’s no connection between her and the man, they’ve never exchanged a text or an email, because he’s a stranger. Any man who’d attack a woman in the street has a long history of v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:41 PM |
| 16 | When his family participates in grooming you to accept his LV/NV behaviourI’d add his family could be sweet as pie because they want some tough emotional labor from you. When I was growing up I knew a married man who introduced his (unknowing) mistress to his mom and dad. They were having her over for Sunday dinner all the time and everything. They helped him keep her totally in the dark about the fact he was married. Why? Easy. He was about to get divorced and they knew “cheating man with no prospects” wouldn’t win custody. But they knew a bit down the line him being… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 01:51 PM |
| 33 | Adopting a nonchalant attitude to female dark triad behavior while dating.I met a gorgeous girl last weekend and all the women at the event I met her at were talking about her behind her back because she openly received interest from two different guys at the party. As far as I know, she didn’t so much as shake hands with these two, but from the way these women were acting, you would think she’d fucked them both right there on the dance floor. The gag is she’s got men chasing her, while the women so worried about respectability and being NLOG are bitter. They need to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:33 PM |
| 26 | "friend" refuses to accept "no means no".I couldn’t even read this through. Just imagine what kind of advice the columnist would’ve given if it was a woman writing in. Lose weight and brush your teeth, I’m guessing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:24 PM |
| 2 | How all of the "Chad" stuff really soundsYes, a man who is truly “nice” is never going to see any negative connection between his personality and women not liking him. If a man ever says “I’m nice BUT…”, RUN. What he is saying is he’s pretending to have a certain personality but he’s pissed it’s not getting him what he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:23 AM |
| 12 | I wish I would left my ex so much earlier.Just an aside, it’s really not too late to sue him over ownership of some of that stuff. Even the threat of a lawsuit on some nice stationary is often enough to generate the results that you need. Men like this are bullies, they’re not going to back down unless there’s the threat of a real consequence (ie jail time or lawsuits.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:59 AM |
| 30 | If Carrie Bradshaw posted on FDSSome of the men were hot and 95% were rich or upper middle class. That was a fantasy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:55 AM |
| 82 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.I applaud her honesty, but anytime somebody is comfortable enough to tell you to your face that they are jealous of you, and they don’t end with some sort of constructive follow up, like they are going to go to therapy or change their own behavior so they don’t have to be jealous anymore, you need to run. Start phasing her out. And just an aside-don’t let her babysit your kids. Pickmeishas are dangerous. They exercise poor judgement and give LVM every benefit of the doubt. She will leave your ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:53 AM |
| 77 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.I’m SO glad. How many men would’ve insinuated their way into the daughter’s life and then assaulted her? Thank God for small favors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 08:44 AM |
| 7 | Why I don't feel empathy for unattractive menI’m tired of ugly men acting like good looking ones got that way by magic. Hot guys have good bodies, not just handsome faces. That takes work in the gym and good diet, which takes discipline, investment, and planning. That’s effort by definition | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:13 PM |
| 8 | Why I don't feel empathy for unattractive menThe end! Gay men and women do a lot of upkeep because they both date men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:08 PM |
| 2 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutYou’re absolutely right about men having to opt in to hard experiences. But even then they get the thing of greater value. Take military service or being a LEO. In theory these are extremely dangerous jobs that men do to benefit society. In reality it is a space where men who can’t function in regular society get to exercise power over those who are weaker than them through violence. I’m trying to figure out what men do that is actually a sacrifice, that benefits the world and not themselves. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:11 PM |
| 7 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutWhy is number two my life? I dumped an LVM after a couple of dates because he was complaining about how unfair the work world was to him, a white man. I’m a black woman. Now I was giving out a little bit of grace because he was a healthcare professional and this late pandemic. But as soon as he started talking about how things were more fair during his parents’ era aka the 60s, I politely corrected and dumped him. More fair to who exactly and at the expense of whom? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:05 PM |
| 3 | What men want: women to do ALL THE WORKI came here to write this and she said it so much better than I could | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:08 PM |
| 19 | It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.My girl said, “poverty is a sexually transmitted disease.” And it’s true. Dating, marrying, and having children with poor men is literally the largest indicator of poverty for women. Women can pick and choose, why they would choose to pick a man who is going to destroy their lives is beyond me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:44 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, now the war is really on. We have came this far now. One down, many more to go!Thank you, Goddess! This is a major victory | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:34 PM |
| 17 | I know it's a joke... but some of the women I grew up around weren't too far from this 😂Like the mommy dinosaur. Because your man is the king of the earth! Rawr 🦖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:33 PM |
| 35 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.I go to music festivals that are for women or centered around women like EMF. Much safer and better vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:28 PM |
| 19 | Stay safe ladies. Always trust your instincts. The gift of fear is yours to use.Thank you. I’m going to share this with my baby sister, an about-to-be freshman in college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:26 PM |
| 55 | ' gOlD DigGeR 'More like three. You know if men don’t pump and dump you on the first day, they think they deserve wife level investment. yOu’Re sPeCiAL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:10 PM |
| 13 | Rejected a man due to his height - family are giving me second thoughts +gaslighting me!But he’s not kind and polite. He’s pretending to be kind and polite. In reality, he’s a liar. He purposefully misled you about his height. Run. If he would lie about something so obvious, he will definitely lie about any fact that’s inconvenient to him later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are your current level ups?Bought my first car Hired a personal trainer and start working out at least four days a week, I’ve already lost over 10 pounds. Submitted my novel sample, and I’m working on completing the first draft. Leveled up my skin care routine and my make up game. Really investing in clothes that fit me and suit me. I read a lot of dating books when I was in my pick me phase and because of The Rules and other books like it, I parred down my closet to form fitting dresses in bright colors. Now, I love dres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 12:03 PM |
| 18 | If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my bestYes, people forget it was Marilyn Monroe who coined that phrase. A lot of men, probably most of them she encountered, wanted to enjoy her pretty face and figure without caring about her history as an abuse victim. All of her issues with substances, etc. stem directly from that history. She was tired of men just being out for what they could get from her and not caring about her mental health issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 11:39 AM |
| 197 | "You need to forgive!"You want to forgive? Forgive yourself. Too often for giving the abuser becomes about blaming yourself. Give yourself grace. You were the victim and you are now the survivor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:32 PM |
| 10 | Is the transitioning stage always this hard?You sound like you’re winning at life. Yes, it’s hard to put up boundaries initially, but you see it’s so much easier to live this new life where you aren’t a doormat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 04:02 PM |
| 128 | SexIntheCity: Ultimate Pick Me show!!This show was pick me central. But even with that attitude, there’s something I have to praise about the show, the women’s sexual boundaries. Charlotte had two different boyfriends pressure her for oral and anal sex. And this was in 1999, season 1. She said NO and her friends, who were far more sexually liberal backed up her right to say no. As much as they had sex, they were good about not doing things just for guys’ pleasure and demanding basic respect. Miranda dated a guy who was addicted to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 06:01 PM |
| 152 | Why exes circle back aka “the phenomena of the circling penises”So once, years ago I was dating this guy. Decent enough, so he seemed. One day, he didn’t call. Odd. I waited and a few days went by. I doubled texted, nothing. I figured he was ghosting and I moved on. TWO YEARS LATER, my phone buzzed at 6 am. It was the same scrote asking if I had moved away to Atlanta. I had been talking about moving when we were dating. I couldn’t believe it. Not only did he have the temerity to text me like nothing had ever happened, he didn’t even pretend to have common co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:05 AM |
| 23 | Poor Britney. There’s not much else to say.At least it’s out in the open now. All that’s necessary for these abuses to flourish is for them to continue to be hidden. For years I don’t think most people knew she was in a conservatorship. Now that it’s front page news, even though she didn’t become free at this juncture, she has a better chance of becoming free very soon, and her father as well as the judges are going to be a lot more circumspect because they don’t wanna get caught with their hands in the cookie jar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 01:28 PM |
| 4 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What We Can Learn from Them: Part 4I really love these. I like fantasy but I’ve never been able to get into Tolkien because it is such high fantasy with so much world building. I like more medium fantasy like Chronicles of Narnia. Yes there are mythical creatures, but they’re all still operating on an earthlike premise. This makes Tolkien’s work so accessible and I feel like I can actually start reading his stuff. So thanks 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY.lol you’re right, I just assumed asshole=man, so natural. 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 02:50 AM |
| 30 | Don’t talk to any of your exes. ANY.It's really interesting that your woman therapist was for him and your male therapist saw through him and encouraged you to hold him accountable. That's the opposite of what I would expect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:23 AM |
| 11 | The author said both positions were “totally reasonable.”More like an excuse to stare at/chat up other women while wifey is out of sight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 05:31 AM |
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