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DISCUSSIONMaude2010/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:43 AM
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Sounds tacky AF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:33 AM
3

A guy once asked me to introduce him to Bernie Madoff. That was funny. Most of the other stuff I’ve heard wasn’t amusing at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:09 AM
109

Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:27 PM
1

Why not just go to a sperm bank? The sperm is safe, she can choose whoever she wants, and there are no potential legal issues. It’s not that expensive and a straightforward insemination isn’t either. If she bought one unit of sperm and got pregnant on her first try, it would cost her less than five grand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:03 PM
41

I love those cozy home dates, but I also love taking myself out to try new restaurants. I went out on the weekend and had the most amazing meal. I ended up talking quite a bit with my server and she invited me to check out an exhibit she’s having soon. I’m usually not chatty but that time I was. Most of the time I just like to enjoy the food and people-watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:57 PM
10

It depends on a lot of things, like age, equity, savings, and what level of money we’re talking about. Like if I’m 50 making 300K and my partner is 60, semi retired from his job making over a million and is now making 80K doing freelance consulting, and we both own our homes and have equity and savings, it’s not really relevant that he’s now earning less than I am. If we met in med school and I started practicing general medicine while he’s still a resident because he plans to be an oncologist, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:36 PM
3

I appreciate that you took the time to respond, and I wish you well, but I see no point in further engaging on this subject. You too are misunderstanding and projecting, not to mention using some pretty offensive language about women who don’t shave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:03 PM
2

It doesn’t sound like you really understand what a HVM is. Almost all the HVM I know are actually with women who aren’t particularly conventionally attractive or “feminine”. HVM doesn’t mean “eligible” (and doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with high earning) or the kind of man every woman wants, particularly since that is a standard set by the patriarchy and pick mes. A good looking wealthy man who has his “pick of the litter” might be high value, but he isn’t necessarily. And given most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 02:30 PM
8

Every word of this is nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:44 AM
121

We don’t have televised judging of men’s bodies for scholarships…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:01 PM
23

I’ve also known a lot of poly people, even briefly dated two married poly guys eons ago. Not all of the situations were the man’s idea or benefited the man more. I know women who legit want it, sometimes at the expense of their marriage. But these relationships are always full of drama, everyone involved is pretentious as fuck, and it seems like such a ridiculously over complicated way of living. I’ve also known plenty of people who’ve had their lives shattered by cheating and honestly, while it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:06 AM
70

This is generally the rule at sex clubs. (I used to walk by one all the time and there’d always be guys hanging around outside trying to get a woman to go in with them because they were allowed otherwise). Kind of appropriate since men treat the world like their own wannabe orgy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:13 PM
38

I was my happiest, hottest, richest and most content at 43.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:43 AM
11

If he was HV, he’d be out of the picture. He’d have respectfully told you that it wasn’t a match, wished you well and gone on his way. This dude either doesn’t want to be exclusive with you or with anyone, but he’s sticking around for the sake of his ego and his dick. It IS possible for a man to be HV but not want to be exclusive with you for whatever reason. Those men will be honest but polite about it, and will never speak to you again. And it actually doesn’t even hurt that much because they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:20 PM
30

Patriarchy The wedding industrial complex Social media Fairy tales/romcoms Brainwashing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:23 PM
56

Secret poly relationship? lol that’s called cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 06:41 PM
155

Why do these guys always do this shit with their hands?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:43 PM
105

Yes. I’ve heard men ask how women change tampons or pads without getting blood everywhere. They seem to think blood gushes out like from a gunshot wound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:29 AM
148

No. Some men will just never cheat, no matter the options. Some (probably most) will cheat as soon as they can. It’s not about options, but character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:30 AM
9

Prostitution is not a supply issue. It’s not even a supply and demand issue. Prostitution is about demand, and always has been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:42 AM
20

He doesn’t support “sex work”. He just supports his boner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:38 AM
9

I’m pretty sure he’s gay (was rumored to be in a LTR with Lukas Haas) and enters into these Tom Cruise like contractual relationships where he gets to be seen as a heartthrob and they get publicity. I’d also suggest that he goes younger and younger so people talk about him. Bad publicity is better than none, and this is the only reason why anyone even mentions him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:18 AM
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I deleted it a few years ago. I could be dead for all those “friends” know. They’ve completely forgotten I exist. I did try to remain in contact with people but it was futile. It’s amazing how people would comment on my posts within minutes but “don’t see” or ignore direct messages on Messenger for months or even forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:15 PM
54

Seriously. In my family we help ourselves from platters and offer to help the kids or anyone else who might have trouble. Maybe it’s different in different cultures. If someone handed me a plate without asking me what I want on it, I’d be really confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 07:11 PM
40

The correct answer is get a vibrator and a pet, cultivate friendships and interests, hire women whenever possible, and live happily ever after. (Or at least not miserable and exhausted).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:46 PM
8

I hate all these smug hetero couples who act like single women exist to spice up their sex lives. I haven’t been on OLD since before Covid (and don’t plan to again) but honestly the couples were more predatory than the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:24 AM
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If men were allowed to listen to music and wear their facial hair the way they want to, they’d be all in favor of living under the Taliban. They don’t care about the effect on women. If anything, they’d prefer it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:20 AM
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I feel absolutely sick about the situation in Afghanistan and I can’t do a thing about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:16 AM
38

Incels have a particular obsession with teenaged relationships, which is nonsense. The only women I know who had sex as teens consider it abusive or unhealthy in retrospect. These guys watch too much Gossip Girl or 90210. It’s not indicative of real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:03 PM
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Sorry, I misread your post and realize now that this isn’t relevant. It’s more about independence and introversion in general than being reserved on actual dates. I’ll leave it anyway because dudes suck whenever we’re not behaving the way they want. A guy got himself thrown out of the resort we were both staying at because he made a scene every time he saw me sitting and minding my own business. At the pool, it was “Why are you just sitting there reading?” In the dining room, “there’s that girl …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:56 PM
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I once had a fancy brunch date as a first date. It was at one of the nicest hotels in the city, which is famous for its restaurant. It’s very common for locals to eat at the restaurant or go to one of the bars. Turns out he’d reserved a room and suggested we continue the date there. Sigh. Scrotes gonna scrote I guess. Generally I do think brunch is a nice idea, for the same reasons you gave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:50 AM
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A guy I went on two dates with sent me a video of a woman giving him head. He said he thought I’d like it. They’re insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:29 AM
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Men’s worst experiences with women are like “she missed a few hairs near her ankle”, while women’s worst experiences with men usually involve narrowly escaping a violent death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:26 AM
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Every day I read shit like this and every day I express my disappointment, disgust, and outrage. And then there’s another story. And another. It never stops and I’m so tired of being angry at men being so unbelievably awful. But they never stop being awful. It’s exhausting and I hate it. Can’t we just banish them all to Mars or something? I’ve had enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:21 AM
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I’m lucky in that I’ve always been an extreme introvert and really independent. A man would have to make my life significantly better for me to even consider being with him. I’ve felt lonely maybe a handful of times in 25 years. All my coupled friends seem exhausted and miserable. I’m sure there are people who’d think I’m pathetic but that’s okay, I’ll just keep on spending all my money on myself and enjoying my drama free life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:44 PM
10

I’ve been on dates where the guy made sure I got home okay and never asked me out again. It’s just being a decent person. I’ve also been on a lot of dates where the guy peaced out in front of the restaurant despite being “really interested”. That’s not “really interested”. That’s just really interested in having sex and they’ll figure out later what they actually think of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:31 PM
13

Have you noticed how men say “how do I get a girlfriend”? Have you ever heard women talk about “getting” a boyfriend? Women say things like “where can I meet a guy?” or “how do I find a guy?” If you listen to the words they choose, you’ll see that they simply do not see women as human beings. Even the better ones who think that they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:24 PM
31

She looks like she could be twelve. Not that any 19 year old would be okay, but come on. There’s no way he can even try the “she’s so mature” lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:11 PM
16

For real. I need a nap after every conversation I have with a man. I need to take the day off after a date. And I need at least a year off after a relationship. Men are energy suckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:45 PM
32

I think that’s generous. I’d put it at less than one percent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:41 PM
129

Yup. They don’t lose interest after sex, they were never interested in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:41 PM
20

Men think they’ll die if they don’t have sex for a month, and will have sex with anyone, and as usual they’re projecting. I see an attractive man maybe once every six months. Then you have to factor in whether that guy is into women and into me personally, and if he’s worth having sex with. Even when I had no standards that added up to maybe one sex partner every few years. Now that I’m choosier, I haven’t had sex in two years and could very realistically never again. Not that body count matters…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:39 PM
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Okay I know men have always felt entitled to sex in a way that women don’t, but what is with them acting like they’ll literally die if they don’t have sex for a week? I’ve seen so many Reddit posts lately about women talking about their men having literal panic attacks over the possibility of not having sex for awhile. Like men with partners about to give birth or about to have surgery, and all they’re thinking about is the fact that they might not have access to her body. And thinking it’s acce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:11 PM
70

Married at 19 to a 34 year old. Instead of getting an education or traveling the world or just living her life, she married an abusive predator and now has two kids. I’m not saying her life is over, but she no higher education, likely no money and no support network, clearly no confidence or self esteem, and probably stopped developing intellectually and emotionally when she met him. I do not know how a woman comes back from this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:01 PM
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Extremely common. And in many cultures considered completely reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:16 PM
13

It’s probably a more peaceful and supportive environment for her at her parents’ place but the husbands are taking this freedom to have sex with other women. You’d be horrified if you knew how many men with newborns (sometimes even a day or two old) have tried to get into my pants. And they think they’re entirely reasonable, since their wives can’t have sex. There are mom subs full of women telling stories about being cheated on while they were in labor, raped a day after giving birth, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:16 PM
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I had my first date in college. Didn’t have my first serious relationship till after grad school. I know teenagers have always had sex but I think it’s strange. I was a child until I was in my twenties, and I don’t really feel like adulthood started till I was thirty. (My twenties were this in between period of self discovery, when I was in school and traveled a lot). I used to wonder if I was just a really late bloomer but I know a lot of people in the 16 — 25 range, and they’re exactly the sam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:53 PM
2

I’ve always felt this way. I’ve never married a man, never lived with a man, and have never dated one for more than a few months because they just add drama to my life and make me tired. There is nothing positive that a man can add to my life. If anything, I’d revise the saying to “like a fish needs toxic waste in the water” because rather than being unnecessary, men almost always make women’s lives worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:58 PM
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👑 This. All of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:33 PM
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Barns 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 11:57 PM
8

Seriously. I wouldn’t even be able to ask a man out for a drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:54 PM
33

Marriage is a financial partnership. If you don’t see money as “our money”, you should not get married. I’ll make an exception for inheritances but other than that, all money should be shared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:55 AM
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Men have bizarre eating habits. Like they’ll eat a box of granola bars for a meal, or they’ll go twenty hours without food and then order four subs. And they never drink water. A lot of the younger men I know (late twenties/early thirties) also seem a bit anorexic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:28 PM
7

Maybe I’m just not that sexual but I don’t miss sex at all. I get the itch occasionally, and I enjoy a little me-time with my vibrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:34 AM
45

He’s known for wanting to stifle his women’s careers. Probably because he’s not very talented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:06 AM
7

He owns a lot of property and has investments. He’s rich, but a serious loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:50 PM
489

So I was once really into this guy. After being indecisive and stringing me along for months (I know, I know, but it was a long time ago), I finally made him talk to me about what was going on, and he told me he wasn’t into it. I was gutted. I cried. I cried hard for about two days. And then I started to feel better. He checked in a few days later (I know, I know, this was way before I learned to block), and asked how I was doing. I said I was good, thanks, and asked how he was. He actually said…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:50 PM
78

I have an ex who hasn’t held down a job in like ten years. He has enough money so that part is fine. But he does NOTHING but watch TV and try to pick up women. He could volunteer, he could start a business, he could take up new hobbies, read. Nope. He watches TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:03 AM
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And to top it off, nearly every adult woman I know has health problems and/or suffers from some kind of trauma (usually because of men). They still do more than sit around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:00 AM
114

Younger women don’t like being hit on by older men either. At least not the HV ones. I had older men clamoring to date me when I was young. I thought they were pathetic and told them so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:19 PM
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Gotta love when you’re 20 years younger than some scrote but still too old for him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:59 PM
37

I just watched the Amy Winehouse documentary and a lot of blame can be placed on the awful man she was in love with/married. She was an alcoholic and bulimic and probably had some mental health issues but that guy made her life so much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:46 PM
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They make everything sound like four full time jobs but yet can’t be arsed to brush their teeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:40 PM
4

My idea of gaming is my dad giving me some quarters to play pac man while they waited for the bill. The idea of adults tranced out in front of a screen for hours is just whack. Yes, I’m old. But some things used to be a lot more sane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 01:37 PM
3

Yeah that was pretty much my face every time she’d say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:18 PM
14

Re your first sentence, I knew a woman who didn’t even refer to “having sex”, she called it “giving sex” or taking sex” whether she was talking about a woman or a man. She would literally say “It was the third date and he took sex” or “Did you give sex?” And she’s a native English speaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:33 AM
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They don’t care about anything other than what they want. They don’t even think about it. Some guy approached me in the park this week and said that he’d seen me a few times and thought maybe I was “the one”. 🙄 I lied and said I was married. And he’s like “….oh” and then sat there like he didn’t even know how to process the information. It’s like it didn’t even occur to him that some random woman he’d never spoken to, or even seen up close, might not be available or interested. If I see saw a ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:54 PM
17

How can a person not be embarrassed to send a text like this? I’ve had dinners with casual friends where they ordered food/drinks costing three times what I did, and I didn’t even have the balls to speak up when they assumed we’d split the bill 50/50. I cannot imagine having the kind of chutzpah that enables a man to say something like this. Blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:40 PM
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Seriously. Men in my dating age range could easily have sons as old as thirty. And yeah I’m sure if I find a man attractive in his fifties, his adult son would be very attractive. I would never comment on it though, let alone say I’d rather fuck then, because I’m not total trash. (I could totally see adult sons hitting on their dads’ girlfriends though).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:19 PM
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Not good enough to pull this lady over 45!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:39 PM
23

I’m 46, and I wouldn’t be into them either. They both look cheesy as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:38 PM
5

I was actually hoping England would win, but now I hope they get pummeled just to piss this man off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:24 PM
4

There are loads of male English football fans telling her he’s an abusive monster and she’s still defending him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:22 PM
12

The thing I hate most about men (maybe tied with the constant nagging for a threesome) is that they don’t just fuck up, but they then go on to blame women for it, or for making them feel bad. It’s like “I abandoned you while you were giving birth, and you’re such a drama Queen for going into labor right when my friend got these nice steaks”. “Stop crying over the fact that I cheated on you; you’re an asshole for making me feel bad”. “You’re such a bitch for getting texting me during my bro’s bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:03 PM
7

Exactly. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:36 PM
0

This is true. But for me, it’s her smile that makes her so beautiful. She’s glowing. Though yes, her body is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:10 PM
65

Since other people have said the important things, I’ll just share that I love her hair. She’s gorgeous. It’s amazing all the ways that women ate beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:07 PM
40

This old dude has more style and swagger than men a third his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:01 PM
11

I know so many completely unattractive men with gorgeous, amazing women, either because 1) the woman has terrible self esteem, or 2) he’s HV and has other great qualities and treats his partner like a Queen. Fact is that an ugly man can always find a partner, even a beautiful one, because a man’s worth isn’t tied to his looks. Meanwhile, life can be pretty brutal for unattractive women. Even someone like Lady Gaga will always be reminded that she’s “ugly”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:20 PM
3

I don’t want to spoil anything for anyone who hasn’t seen it, but there are a couple of proposals by mature men to mature women toward the end of the series that are just so lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:09 PM
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It was so good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:07 PM
6

She’s one of my fave people in the world. And Violet Crawley is fabulous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:06 PM
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Every woman who’s ever received oral sex from a man: “There! Right there! Don’t stop!!” Every dude: starts licking somewhere else 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:11 PM
11

She seems like a pretentious sugar baby to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:54 PM
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Yup. He’s probably already getting messages from women who watched this, and he’ll cheat on her the first chance he gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:45 PM
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I dunno, there’s also that woman who destroyed her life for that pharma bro who literally everyone in the world hates, and is still pining for him after he ghosted her from prison. It’s a tight race.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:43 PM
15

I know it’s cliched but trust your instincts. Always. If someone is making you uncomfortable, get away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:13 PM
165

“accessibility to women’s bodies” Sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 11:08 PM
1

Just wanted to let you know that I haven’t checked since I made the above comment!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:09 PM
15

I like a happy ending. This made me smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:07 PM
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I pick spiders up and put them outside. One boyfriend said it was “emasculating”. If they want to do it fine, but if they’re not scared to, they’ll say “I’ll do it later” and by then who can even find the spider anymore. Useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:22 PM
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I have a vivid memory of dancing with my late grandfather at a family wedding. He was a simple shoe salesman and a bit rough around the edges, but damn he made me feel like Ginger Rogers. I think that was the day I realized that younger men are literally pointless. Can’t lead a waltz, can’t change a tire, can’t or won’t even try to stand up for you, lazy, scared of everything, and still want all the male benefits of living in the 1950s. They aren’t good at anything except wanking to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:18 PM
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What a monster. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:51 PM
7

I lost someone today and was crying. My dog came over and snuggled up and gave me kisses. She’s not even feeling well herself. She has a cough. She still tried to comfort me. I love her so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:04 AM
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So expensive. I went through a period of not taking good care of my teeth because I was very depressed. It cost so much to get them back into shape. I still have trouble sometimes, but the expense factor keeps me from letting them get too bad again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:43 PM
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I have chronic depression so I can get pretty gross. I don’t date when I’m at those low points though. Men just assume they’ll be desirable no matter what state they’re in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:39 PM
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Interesting! I had a relationship with a NV Brazilian when I was younger. Complete trash bag of a person and he’d put his dick in anything, but he was very on top of his hygiene and also had a very clean house. I always thought it was an odd disconnect because he was so gross in every other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:35 PM
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Sigh. I know. I know a dude who is educated, handsome, well-dressed, even has a relatively clean home. He doesn’t wipe his ass and hasn’t had his teeth cleaned in years. It’s nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:30 PM
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I’m really happy with where I’m at right now. Despite a rough year, I’m doing well professionally, I’m taking care of myself, my relationships with HV people are good, and I’ve culled everyone else. The one problem is that I cannot seem to stop “hate following” someone on social media. She’s someone I used to know casually and she’s now an influencer. I don’t respect her and I hate everything about her lifestyle and the fact that she’s now rich and famous. I resent her success, not because I’m j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:35 PM
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They’re all bad, but the other two only affect her. Re-homing her cats is upsetting because to pets, we’re their parents, their whole lives, and she’s tossing aside that responsibility—and putting their well-being at risk— over some guy, a guy she barely knows. These are the same kinds of women who let their new boyfriends rape their daughters. It’s concerning. It’s one thing to do stupid things because a man wants you to, but bringing children or animals into it is fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:30 PM
63

The cat part is the biggest red flag here. Poor kitties. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:47 AM
6

Thank you. I posted as much in another comment. If anything, feminism has gone backwards this millennium. And it’s not the fault of young women. But no, it is not older women encouraging younger women to go on walk dates, have violent sex with strangers, tear out their pubic hair, start Only Fans accounts, buy men expensive gifts, and so on. Throwing older women under the bus over a brand of feminism that started after us is just more misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:53 PM
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I’ve noticed all over Reddit that younger people seem to not realize that older people are even here. I don’t remember being so myopic at that age. Maybe I was. I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:25 PM
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Of course some older women are pick mes and misogynists. You’ll find women like that at all ages. But who are the ones going on walk dates and letting men punch them in the face during sex? We talk about how low the bar is, but is it men getting worse or women accepting less, or both? Dating today makes dating twenty years ago look positively Victorian. Back then, dates were always real dates, sex on the first date was not expected or very common, anal sex was a very niche kink, and kink was kin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:41 AM
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I hope he’s more like 28, but yeah, I feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:58 PM
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Apparently he treated Carey Lowell like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:56 PM
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Gave up her name too. I just cant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:55 PM
1

I don’t date anymore. I have zero interest. Life is good and I’m content. I’m not on any apps and rarely even speak to men, but if someone were to somehow ask me out anyway, I’d say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:56 AM
1

A dude on OLD once messaged me, literally, “will you be my mommy?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:47 AM
43

I once dated a guy who I thought was great until he talked about how he believes in spanking children. It was so disappointing but I noped right out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:44 PM
6

I have an amazing HV cousin. He recently married an equally amazing HVW who he adores. The only thing wrong with him is that he’s my cousin and I couldn’t marry him myself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 07:41 PM
52

These dudes are all into “ethical non monogamy” too. Funny how that always translates into them enjoying FMF or FFM threesomes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:22 AM
10

And they say women are the hypergamous ones. Women don’t glow up or get a raise and immediately think about how they could’ve had a “better” man. They just don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:19 AM
2

That’s weird AF. I would have left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:41 AM
2

I’d sex is more like a pomegranate. When it’s just right, it’s amazing. But if it’s not, it’s disappointing at best. And you have to put in a fucking lot of work either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:21 PM
26

Yeah, that was 20 years ago. I shaped up after that experience. I’ll never forget the audacity though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:06 AM
73

I’ll never forget the time I was a 26 year old personal trainer and my obese boyfriend told me I needed to do a better job exfoliating my elbows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:41 PM
44

Her mom is gorgeous. Her dad is repulsive. Nothing new here, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:34 PM
1

I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:53 AM
2

You were totally reasonable and he’s an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:58 PM
9

I’m so sick of men acting like they’re going to die if they don’t have sex for a few days. It’s not a necessity, and if they need sexual release they don’t need to have sex for that. And then if you say that there are perfectly healthy, sexual men who can go a month or even months without sex, they insist it’s impossible. It isn’t. I know typically sex crazed LVM who haven’t had sex since Covid started. Do they bitch about it? Yes. Are they alive and well? YES. It’s not like men don’t have dry p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:22 PM
11

Wow. I’m so very sorry. I don’t even know what to say but I do know that we’re all here to listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:07 AM
5

They hate vaginas too. Reddit is full of women complaining about how their partners won’t even touch them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:49 AM
52

I’ve tried dating men with kids. (I don’t have kids of my own). They’re either shitty dads who think childless women will want them more because they’re not involved in their kids’ lives at all (no, a woman with any sense or any empathy at all is not going to be interested in a man who’s abandoned his children) OR they’re involved dads who are unbearably pretentious and act like childless women are frivolous idiots who can’t be trusted. I’m more annoyed by the latter because I won’t even meet th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:26 PM
149

I was confused by this comment because I didn’t read carefully enough and just assumed the OP was a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:17 PM
16

Pick-mes are to all women what scabs are to unions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:32 PM
12

Successful couples always look vaguely alike, even if they’re not the same race or ethnicity. My most successful relationship was with not only one of the most attractive men I’ve dated, people constantly commented on how good we looked together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:30 PM
10

There are some HVM on dating apps, but they are breathtakingly rare and they usually only last a few weeks. It’s not worth the investment of time and energy to try to find one of them. That time/energy is better spent on literally anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:16 PM
143

They’re like this even if it’s not a matter of aging. I once dated a guy for about eight months. For the last three months, he whined all the time that I didn’t look like I did “that night when you wore that little white dress”. He fixated on how I looked one time in one particular outfit, and was disappointed for the rest of our relationship. They’re insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:47 PM
2

Love is fleeting. Equity is forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:07 AM
10

I’m going to set up a play area for my dog in the backyard. I got a slide and a kiddie pool and sprinkler, and she’ll have her own little lounge area to nap and work on her tan. Yes, she’s spoiled. But peacefully stretching out with my book and a cocktail while she splashes around living her best life is basically all I want out of my summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:19 PM
6

I started to think about it, and just felt queasy. I going to buy myself a new diamond tonight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:29 AM
6

It’s an MLM thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:48 AM
8

I was on Bumble BFF for ten minutes when I got my first “Hey Hun!” Noped out of there even faster than the regular Bumble. (That was about a six hours).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:57 PM
19

I’ve dated men so repulsive that total strangers have said to me “Girl, what is you doing?” right in front of both of us. I was once in a hotel elevator with a man and a couple got in, took one look at us, and the woman said “you’re not actually going to hook up with that guy, are you?” And it’s not like these guys had other good qualities. I’m talking stupid, boring, broke, mean, ugly men...and every one of them treated me like garbage. I finally started dating attractive men, and even the ones…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:30 PM
61

I remember a persistent guy once asked me “How many times am I going to have to ask?” I told him “You can ask every day until you die. If I was interested, I would have said yes the first time. It’s a no.” It’s not flattering. It’s disrespectful and frankly a sign of low intelligence. I wish women didn’t believe that persistence was a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:15 PM
12

I know of a guy with more than twenty kids. He’s not rich or famous. I’m not sure if he even has a job. He’s obviously gross. But I can’t for the life of me figure out why women keep sleeping with him, let alone having unprotected sex and bearing his children. Everyone knows how many kids he has. He’s proud of it. The children are all exceptionally beautiful (several of the girls are models) so all I can surmise is that women see him as a good sperm donor. None of them seem to expect anything fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:28 PM
5

One of my exes is still my emergency contact. We had a bit of a fight once and weren’t in touch for a few months. He called me because my alarm system had gone off and the security company called him when they couldn’t reach me. I wouldn’t even say he’s really HV. He has some qualities I could not tolerate in a partner. But he’s a decent human being. If I need him, he’s there. And I’d do the same for him. The night we broke up, we actually slept together. (No sex or anything). It was late and he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:08 PM
5

They’re only visual when it comes to picking apart women’s appearances. Most of them see it as a point of pride that they don’t even notice if their wives redecorate the whole house. I know a woman who got a subtle haircut and her boyfriend hit on her thinking she was someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:57 PM
6

I get hit on way more when I’ve dashed out to the store in my pajama pants or am walking my dog in sweats and a ponytail. When I’m dressed well, men look and then look away when I notice them. Sometimes they’ll even nod and say “ma’am” before skittering away. I also ALWAYS get hit on when I have a pimple. I probably look a lot younger. The difference in treatment I get when I look like a polished middle aged woman versus a bit of a mess is shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:53 PM
6

I did! We met at a protest. He turned out to be married. Actually said “well you never asked!” when I got suspicious and asked him. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:54 AM
31

He didn’t mean walk super fast? I actually thought that’s what he meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:43 AM
10

The only men who’ve ever loved me were men I didn’t respect or particularly like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:10 AM
27

Yeah, same. That’s why I don’t argue with men who complain about misandry. Yeah, I hate you. You got me. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:22 PM
24

Even when faced with literal proof of some truth or of something they’ve said or done, they’ll just deny it. You can record a guy saying something, videotape him, screenshot and print out his texts or emails, and he’ll just stand there and act like you’re crazy. Men get away with so much by living in their own reality and gaslighting everyone who challenges them. You’ll notice that men aren’t nearly as careful as women when they do something wrong. For instance, women supposedly cheat as often a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:21 PM
299

I’ve always found it fascinating how the patriarchy is simultaneously “all the best chefs are men” and “woman, make me a sandwich”. LVM literally never shut up about how men are better chefs for women. And the cooking industry is full of misogyny, harassment, abuse and sexual violence. As usual, men like to take over “women’s work” as soon as it’s artistic, fun, an issue of talent, and most importantly, paid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:36 PM
97

I don’t know why people think in such extremes. Some of the most exciting, wild, passionate, neighbors-banging-on-the-wall sex has been kink-free. Just because sex isn’t violent or painful, it doesn’t mean it’s boring or bad. And I have tried all that libfem S/m, woke sex so I know what I’m talking about. When you get over the novelty of it and whatever substances you used have worn off, it’s really not that good. It’s just theatre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:21 AM
1

I have a little house and I’m happy with it. But I also want a waterfront cottage and apartments in New York and Madrid. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:58 PM
7

That’s weird. I’m not on Twitter. I guess someone copied it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:33 AM
10

Where did you screenshot this from? I wrote it as a comment under a post in the superfans sub a few days ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:23 AM
50

I posted it as a comment on the super fans sub a few days ago. It’s on Twitter now??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:14 AM
20

I don’t think I’ve met any who’ve never seen it, but I’ve certainly met men who don’t make a habit of watching it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:43 PM
7

Try to blend in. If you’re lost and need to check your phone, sit on a bench or pop into a shop. Wear comfortable shoes but try not to look like a tourist. Trust your instincts. Basically all the same precautions you’d take at home, but act like a local, even if you have to fake it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:42 PM
14

I’ve had some BAD relationships and experiences with men, and I mean really really bad, but I’m grateful that I didn’t start dating until I was in college and that my first boyfriend treated me really well. Everything was so sweet and special. On our third date he asked if he could hold my hand. When we had sex, it was my idea. I don’t think I had any awareness of what I looked like or was supposed to look like. He just adored me and was so happy to be with me. This was in the mid nineties. (All…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:31 PM
71

Even in situations where an older man IS rich and lands a much younger woman, men think the woman is a gold digger but the man isn’t the equivalent. They’ve really deluded themselves into thinking that it isn’t transactional, like a young, beautiful woman is with some ugly old rich dude because she loves him for him. I don’t approve of these kinds of relationships but let’s be real: it’s a transaction. She’s with him because he’s rich. He’s with her because she’s young or hot or both. Yet men th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:28 PM
9

We need more of these kinds of posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:37 PM
89

I’ve seen men literally run away when harassed by female pan handlers. Hungry, addict-thin old women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:36 PM
3

I love this so much. I’ve sent it to everyone. I might have to print it out and put it on my fridge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:58 PM
6

Every one who isn’t my dad, my brother, my nephew, or my gay neighbor who occasionally helps me with stuff and doesn’t expect me to fuck him in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:54 PM
32

I’m still hurt that I lost what I thought was a great friendship when my supposed friend leaned in to kiss me one night (after we’d be “friends” for years and I’d never given him the slightest reason to think I’d be interested in anything more), I rebuffed him, and he never spoke to me again. Men don’t have a clue what rejection is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:59 PM
88

Fuck it we’re gonna all die anyway, foster that one eyed dog, talk to that old lady at the grocery store, buy that kid’s lemonade, eat the rest of the cheesecake, try out that language you’re learning even though you still suck at it, take the hip hop class even though you’re fifty, get that purple streak in your hair, paint your nails yellow, wear the vintage dress while riding your bike, get matching pajamas for your pet, try that recipe with cinnamon instead, rent a convertible for your next …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:16 AM
10

Exactly. And it more than makes up for any grey hair or aches and pains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:00 AM
6

Being nagged for threesomes is one of my most hated parts of dating. I tell men that it will never happen. Ever. (I could maybe see myself trying MFM but that’s never want they want). What drives me insane is when they tell me it’s no big deal and all women want to fuck other women. Yeah, no. Sorry. Sorry for me mostly because I’d love to be bi, but I’m not. I am SO sick of them asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:31 AM
3

I think you’re underestimating the power of persuasion and how society shapes our ideas of what we enjoy. I look at my eyebrows and think to myself, “ugh, they look hairy”. Eyebrows ARE HAIR. But two years ago I made an Instagram account and since then all I’ve seen is brows that look more like tattoos than hair. Microblading, makeup trends and filters have completely warped my idea of what eyebrows even are. It’s a small and silly example, but to me it’s significant. There are things that we th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:59 PM
3

Corsets and heels are perfect examples of things that actually feel awful, but we’ve been brainwashed by the patriarchy into thinking that they make us feel good “mentally”. I used to think that heels made me feel more confident and productive, but the fact is that I just knew that I looked better to men and that made me feel more confident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:26 PM
3

I’m in my mid forties. Shaving pubic hair beyond what was covered by underwear was not expected or common when I was a teenager. Being bald wasn’t expected or common until I was in my late twenties. I distinctly remember as late as 2005 partners thinking I was kinky or promiscuous because I shaved my bikini area. Brazilians were considered niche well before they went mainstream. Then Brazilians weren’t enough. Women also never removed hair on their arms until very recently. I did fitness competi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:57 PM
2

They’re gorgeous. Flowers are my weakness. I have a standing order for weekly flower delivery, and it’s one of the things I most look forward to every Friday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:25 PM
5

I have one friend and I haven’t spoken to her in a few weeks because I found out she lied about something. So, I hear you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:32 AM
155

Yeah I’m the same. I’m probably as heterosexual as a person gets. But I find so few men attractive. I see a man I find attractive maybe once every six months. I’m not really asexual but I guess I’ve sort of become asexual because men are so unappealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:30 AM
3

This is weird, but I don’t like a lot of hair on a guy. If it’s long enough to style in any way or even brush, I’m not into it. I do not want to be able to run my fingers through it. I’ve also never in my life been attracted to a fair haired white man. My ideal is dark and very rugged. I’m not a big fan of tattoos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:12 AM
42

She apologized for seating me with couples my own age and told me to go sit with my family. (It was fine because none of the kids really sat at the table; they were running around doing kid stuff). I would have preferred that in the first place because it was a family wedding. Still, the whole thing was ridiculous. And yeah, it started because the dates of the two women were asking me basic, civil questions (like “how do you know the bride/groom?”) and I guess they were worried that would lead t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:07 PM
53

I’ve been celibate for a year and a half and everything is working great. Every time I have sex again, I start getting infections. And of course they always act like it’s me. Bruh, no, it’s your nasty dick and dirty hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:03 PM
284

I get so much hate just living my life on my own. Going out to dinner by myself, to a lounge to listen to live music, on vacation, even just sitting in the park. People have pointed and stared, come up to me demanding that I join them, told me to move, and even have asked to have me removed. It makes people so uncomfortable and so angry. The two craziest examples I have are 1) when I was alone at a wedding and seated at a table of couples and two of the women went to the mother of the bride and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:50 PM
26

I’m afraid to ask, but why does he need to inspect her public hair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:23 PM
5

“I don’t want to seem toxic”. It’s like women have been gaslit into being afraid to have even the slightest bit of self respect. What’s next? “I caught my fiancé of eleven years groping our tween daughter. Should I kick him out? I dOnT wANt tO sEEm ToxIC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:32 PM
17

Oh really? Late at night I’m usually reading or watching a film in my luxurious bed and cuddling my puppy, with my phone on Do Not Disturb until morning. Losers projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:04 PM
29

Yeah, now that I’m middle aged I’m definitely glad that I have my brain and my education! Still, I feel this odd sense that I missed out on something, which is really messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:48 PM
72

I always wanted to be a super well educated professional and became one. Still, I often feel like I missed out on something because I never got paid for sex, I never partied with rich creeps, and I don’t have a ton of sexy pictures of myself. It’s sad. I have an impressive resume and I’m even considered “hot”, yet I see these Instagram babes lounging around on yachts and feel like they’ve got life all figured out and I’m some kind of sucker. I know it’s not true but I still feel that way sometim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:59 PM
11

Liberal Feminism doesn’t mean feminists who are liberal or progressive. I’m basically a socialist. But I’m a second wave feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:03 PM
3

When I saw “elevate”, I was expecting something about encouraging men to level up, not treating them like children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:50 PM
150

I’ve always felt like liberal feminism was a massive troll job by men. Women are spending their time and energy making themselves look “sexy” and taking photos of themselves to send to men. They’re having sex with men immediately—all risk and no gratification. They’re engaging in activities that a couple of decades ago were considered niche kink. They’re throwing away their futures to do porn for almost no money. And they’re doing all of this thinking that they’re strong and empowered. Meanwhile…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:44 PM
11

She sounds stunning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:34 PM
3

I love looking at women. Such variation in body types and styles, such creativity. I frequently compliment women and ask them where they got an item of clothing or what hair or nail color they use. And they’re always so gracious and happy to share.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:34 PM
9

This is my favorite place on the internet. I feel understood and supported. And everyone is so smart and funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:29 PM
18

I read stories like this and I’m almost flattered that men have always just looked at me but have never tried to get me into a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:06 AM
34

They married when she was 19 and he was 31. That’s all we need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:56 AM
21

Any man who claims to find enthusiast consent confusing is either (1) lying, (2) purposely not paying enough attention to his partners so he can claim ignorance later, or (3) has some major socialization problem that he needs help with before he can be alone with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:41 AM
12

Only the hottest, most charming and fascinating men can pull off carefree dating after 25. This guy is jealous that he’s not one of them and resentful that he actually has to put in some effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:18 PM
17

He’s just resentful that he’s not the kind of man who can put that in a profile and still get matches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:12 PM
11

It was once. Now “dating” is apparently getting a quick look at someone before having sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:52 PM
1

Yes. It’s not even a romantic thing. It’s a thoughtful person thing. If I was dropping a friend off at home, I’d wait till they were inside before pulling away. Even cab drivers often do this. I’ve gone on dates where the guy has texted to make sure I got home okay, even when there was clearly no chemistry, and we never talked again. It’s just the right thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:46 PM
11

Women aren’t. Whitney Houston and Amy Winehouse are remembered less for their contributions to music than their problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:19 PM
39

I pointed this out to a (female) friend when he died and I was annoyed that everyone was crying over him. She never spoke to me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:16 PM
54

Phil Spector, who wasn’t just a garbage husband and father but an actual murderer, was lauded as a great man when he died recently. Yet I’d be willing to bet that some day when Katherine Heigl dies, everyone will talk about how half a century before, she was rude in some interviews.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:10 PM
4

That occurred to me too but then she wouldn’t have contemplated abortion in the first place. And I’m not sure that such a boss woman would allow herself to be guilt tripped like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:20 PM
36

I hope it’s fake because it’s just so ridiculously unfair. She should’ve had an abortion and if he actually wanted to be a father so badly, he could’ve found a woman who wanted the same (which wouldn’t be hard), without the same time limits women have. Or, he could’ve ponied up the money for a surrogate, or gone through the time, expense and often immense drama of adoption. It seems unlikely that a woman who is this much of a boss wouldn’t have told him too bad and had an abortion. Maybe she was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:09 PM
68

Yup. This is the dream of everyone who wants kids but can’t bear children themselves: gay couples, single men, infertile women. He was handed a healthy infant, that is genetically his too. And he’s getting paid. Problem is he didn’t want a child. He wanted to control his girlfriend. Anyone who actually wanted to be a parent would consider themselves so blessed by this turn of events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:00 PM
21

She’s no deadbeat. She’s gone above and beyond what even divorced dads with shared custody do. She’s paying more than she needs to and seems reasonable and respectful. I think she’s an amazing woman: bore this child she didn’t want and did not have to have, has ensured that he’s cared for, is more than complying the court orders, and has gone on with her life. She’s not evasive, she’s not making the father’s life difficult, she’s not confusing the child by floating in and out of his life. I thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:46 PM
409

Men will use women for practice or just as placeholders until they find who they want. Sometimes they know who they want even while they’re doing this. I knew one woman who was dating a guy for a few years. He proposed. He bought “them” a house, let her choose everything she wanted to renovate and furnish it. Then when it was perfect and ready for them to move in, he ghosted her, blocked her on everything, and moved in someone else who he married a few months later. Posted all the pics all over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:47 PM
12

I’m doing group therapy (online) for the first time. Twelve women, three men. Two of the men got kicked out in the first session for refusing to turn off their background noise while they weren’t on mute. Probably porn or video games. Losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:42 PM
9

So did mine. Then I fired her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:09 PM
11

Women literally asking if they should confront a guy about injuring them to the point of bleeding. It’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:55 PM
58

I’d watch a movie based on this story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:51 PM
5

The fact that she phrases it as “let him do anal” is so telling and so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:40 AM
17

I can’t even talk to a man who calls his ex a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:11 AM
4

I laughed so hard. And I’d love to be able to do this. But the risk of being raped, assaulted or murdered is too high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:54 AM
2

I know. My dog always lies on my chest. I never even think about it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:42 PM
4

Sounds like a completely normal relationship with a pet, and even people who don’t have pets know that it’s not safe for them to travel in the cargo hold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:40 PM
10

Years ago I met a guy who asked me out several times. He put in effort and was a total gentleman, but his date ideas were the opposite of romantic. One of them was going to a jiujitsu class together, for example. I wasn’t really attracted to him but I did think he was a great guy and hoped maybe that would develop if we ever had something that felt like a real date. In the meantime, I was pleased that we had a lot to talk about, that I liked him as a person, and that he kept planning dates. Well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:52 PM
15

Um, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:30 PM
2

I’ve noticed that 95% of the time I see heterosexual couples walking together, the man is a foot or two ahead, even if they’re holding hands. I’ve pointed it out and been called all sorts of names, as much by women as by men. The thing is that he IS walking at her pace. Otherwise he’d be a foot ahead, then, ten, then a hundred, and so on. He just needs to be that little bit in front. It’s subtle but it’s important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:04 AM
9

Whenever I have conflict with another dog parent, it’s always a man. They don’t pay attention, they don’t train them properly, and they just don’t care. The same way they are with their children. They stand around the dog park smoking weed and making stupid sex jokes about the dogs when they bother to look up from their phones. There’s a reason why shelters don’t want male fosters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:50 AM
4

It’s because they don’t extend even the most basic human courtesy to women they don’t want to fuck, and, like always, they’re projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:11 PM
92

I feel suffocated and overwhelmed in relationships, which is why I’ve never really had one. For awhile, I sought out casual relationships because it was the only way I could have a relationship without feeling like I was losing myself. But I don’t want someone who feels casually toward me, and doesn’t value or respect me. So I stopped that. I truly don’t think men are capable of the kind of relationship I want. So I stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:01 AM
3

I’m pretty sure a man wrote this. Though I imagine that there are women who feel this way, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:56 PM
29

Men just stare at me while they’re out with their girlfriends/wives, and occasionally tell me how great I am when they’re drunk. It’s so pathetic. The vast majority of men would choose a “pretty good” woman over a “great” one, even if they could get a great one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:25 PM
7

I love hairy men. The swarthier the better. I love a man who can grow a beard in two days, and gets a shadow by noon. None of these pathetic patchy thin goatees. I love chest hair and I like it thick. Hairless men weird me out. That said, I like it when these hairy men are clean and groomed. That might mean two showers a day, beard shaping and grooming, two shaves some days, biweekly waxing of backs and butts, and strategic trimming. It still pales in comparison to the beauty stuff I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:48 PM
63

It’s definitely meant to hurt women over 30 too. The difference is that we let it hurt us less because we’re out of fucks by then. It still does hurt at times though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:06 PM
4

I stopped drinking around men and am basically asexual now lol. I realized that alcohol was the only thing making them attractive to me. I don’t think I’ve ever had sex or even desired sex while sober. I can add that to the very long list of the negatives of drinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:08 AM
7

It’s hard to explain. Obviously bad sex (which is sadly very common) feels bad, emotionally and often physically. But good sex leaves me feeling overwhelmed. Spent. I think a lot of women like this feeling, but I find that it interferes a lot with my life. I remember having great sex and feeling disoriented and really out of it for awhile afterward. It would be fine if I had nothing to do, but that’s not my reality. Plus, there’s all the physical stuff, like tenderness or soreness, that can ling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:17 PM
55

Whenever I tell men I want to take it slow, they’re like “yeah, me too!”, but then it turns out they meant three dates instead of one. 🙄 I remember when the “norm” was three dates. (Still waaaay too fast, IMO). Now three dates is considered “waiting”. Where does this end? Just meeting up, nodding at each other and then getting naked? I don’t understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:54 PM
18

Sounds like a fantastic day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:40 PM
24

I haven’t had sex in over a year now. My body feels so...peaceful. Sex can be wonderful and exhilarating but even when it is, it feels like an upheaval, or like it upsets a kind of balance in my body. I always feel like I need to rest and restore myself afterwards. I don’t miss that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:11 AM
47

Exactly. I’d also recommend trying to find a female trainer close to your age. I have to say that it’s kind of annoying having a woman young enough to be my daughter telling me that women only gain weight around menopause because they let themselves go, and not for any physiological reason. Better than a man either way, but if I hire a PT again I’d prefer someone who appreciates life’s stages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:55 PM
64

Yeah I once did one of those free consults. The dude kept saying “you’re not that fat but...” I was a size four. Then he called and called for weeks trying to get me to sign up for training. I ignored him. Yes, obviously the free consult is a window to getting people to buy a package so I expected a call or two. Not harassment. Then the dude sees me working out and comes up to me all, “Why are you ignoring my calls?” It felt like a dating scenario, from the negging to the bugging me. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:51 PM
2

Gah. They’re both so cute too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:24 PM
132

What kind of woman actually wants an underclass of women to bear all of men’s abuse so the rest of us don’t have to? Definitely not a feminist. Probably some kind of sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:42 AM
4

The last time I got my nails done, there were two guys at the salon too. One was clearly a regular. The other, his friend, was there for the first time. The first timer spent the entire pedicure (and then manicure) loudly laughing and making comments about how he was at a nail salon. It was so cringe and so stupid. You could tell he was enjoying it, but he was clearly embarrassed and felt awkward and felt the need to be a clown about it. His poor friend (who was very masculine and very hot) was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:18 PM
64

Most men are rapists, just not necessarily violent ones. I do not believe that there are many men who have only ever had fully consensual sex. I was sexually active for twenty years before I had sex to which I enthusiastically consented. Yet no man ever hurt or threatened me. Men cling to the old fashioned definition of rape (violent rape by a stranger) because it’s a convenient way to pretend that they’ve never raped anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:10 PM
3

How can someone who says this be a feminist? Feminists don’t want other women to have to take men’s abuse so they don’t have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:38 PM
3

Every time I think I’ve heard the absolute worst, men go and outdo themselves again. She needs to kick this man out of her life completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:25 PM
2

Breaking Mom should be required reading for any woman considering marriage or procreation. I realize that women with good partners don’t complain on Reddit, but Oh My God the stories. Each one is worse than the last. This one is honestly mild because the husband is merely useless. A lot of them are useless as well as abusive, screaming at the kids, denying the woman access to their bank accounts, and then there’s the porn, the cheating, the ogling their daughters, leaving loaded guns around the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 07:57 PM
1

I recently discovered that my niece and nephew refer to me as their Cool Aunt. I was very proud. 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:08 AM
10

This tradition is ridiculous. If a man thinks being only with his bride is going to be so awful, he shouldn’t have proposed to her. My brother’s bachelor party involved renting a movie theatre so he and his friends could watch some Star Trek or Star Wars movie. I don’t even think there was any alcohol involved. Yeah, kind of nerdy but they’re all successful and happily married ten years later and aren’t porn sick losers with brain trauma from sports.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:06 AM
331

I’ve had every experience imaginable when it comes to the check, from literal dine-and-dash to him obnoxiously announcing that he’s paying the bill for everyone in the restaurant. Generally, I would make some sort of movement to pay and he’d say he’ll get it and I’d say thanks. But it’s like theatre. He intends to pay but wants to see that I’m willing to; I want him to wave off my gesture and pay, but I don’t want to seem like I’m “entitled” or whatever. Ultimately, it’s dumb. And it’s usually s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:21 PM
8

A man was sitting on my couch with me one evening. We’d both been at a party earlier and had been drinking. I was sort of interested in him but at that point we were casual friends. I woke up in the middle of the night on the floor by my front door, covered in vomit. When I questioned him about the evening, he told me that I’d started to “perspire a lot and it was a turnoff” so he left. He’s a medical doctor. He was so disgusted by a woman sweating that he left a friend (and apparently he was “i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:48 PM
11

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:29 PM
56

Aside from all the obvious reasons why this person and this thinking sucks, there’s something else that bothers me about it. There are a lot of women who wanted or want the engagement, marriage and pregnancy, but it didn’t happen or hasn’t happened yet. Those things are not totally under our control. There’s a tremendous amount of luck involved. They’re also all half about men. Running a marathon, going to school, writing a book, starting a business, learning a new language, building something..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:07 PM
4

I love his voice and all his music. He’s really so talented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:53 PM
42

The last guy I dated says on his OLD profile that he’s a “wealth management consultant” with his own business. He hasn’t had a job in more than ten years. He’s educated but his personality disorders make it impossible for him to hold down a job. He has a friend with his own business who occasionally throws him some tasks and some money. He actually has a lot of savings and is generous, but he’s a liar, not to mention a narcissistic psychopath. He does NOTHING with his life. He could at least vol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:55 PM
13

Men will blame women for anything and everything. And if the man is really really bad, they’ll just blame his mother. I knew a guy who blamed car accidents on women being out in public. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:12 AM
5

I love THIS. And this community and my friends and my family and my books and my interests and my dog, and most of all myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:10 AM
25

Well, he took that advice! He’s still ugly but has been with a revolving door of stunning women. I don’t know what his personality is like but he’s talented and charismatic, and both go a long way. (With women, at least. Men wouldn’t bother with the most talented and charismatic woman in the world if she wasn’t hot too).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:08 AM
35

Does no one have any class anymore? Also, that photo is weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:57 PM
8

I spend a lot of time at dog parks or stopping on a walk because my dog wants to say hi to another dog, so I see tons of men with their pets. So many of them ignore or mistreat their dogs. There’s a reason why nearly every ad I see from a dog rescue organization says they’re only looking for female fosters or adopters because the rescue hates men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:16 PM
29

I blame socialization to some extent, but I am of the (controversial, perhaps) view that male humans are just flawed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:04 PM
4

I think some men are interested precisely because it’s something they’ll never experience personally. One of my uncles does OBGYN and he feels that he gets to take part in something miraculous by helping to bring a baby into the world. He’s probably delivered over a thousand babies by now but he says it’s truly amazing and life affirming every time. The gynecology part isn’t so amazing obviously but the two go hand in hand. Personally I’d always choose a woman for anything if I could, but I can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:46 AM
35

Nah. The uglier the man is, the worse he treats me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:37 PM
22

With some exceptions, HVM generally aren’t on dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:35 PM
33

His always looks like he’s wearing a mask of his own face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:34 PM
64

Thirty-two?! Good lord. What she should know before losing her virginity is that she should tell her parents to call the cops on this predator, stay in school, focus on herself, and maybe lose her virginity several years from now with a nice classmate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:28 PM
1

I wouldn’t say it’s “standards”. I don’t have height or hair requirements or anything like that. I’m very rarely attracted to men you’d consider a “Chad”. I’m just not that attracted to the vast majority of men. But studies seem to suggest that that’s pretty common for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 07:42 PM
9

His facial hair sucks. If you can’t grow a proper beard, give it up. (And if you can, ffs get it groomed).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:14 AM
4

I live downtown in a major city. Pre-Covid, when I actually did things, I’d say I’d find a random man attractive maybe once every couple of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 12:35 AM
68

Yup, that’s a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:52 PM
90

The Wall really isn’t about looks. I know this because I’ve had plenty of men hit on me, ask me out, be very into me, and then do a complete 180 when they find out that I’m in fact ten or fifteen years older than they thought. A woman’s looks don’t change in that moment. She just becomes less impressionable and less controllable. Men are lying when they say that women in their teens/early twenties are all more attractive than women old enough to be their mothers. Younger women can be overweight …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:45 PM
63

All the urban fauxhemians in my hood are like this. They’re all “ethically non-monogamous” co-parenting “conscious beings”. Pretentious as fuck with their “vibrating” and “manifesting” and lecturing everyone about gratitude and not needing anything, all the while showing off their constant travel to luxury resorts that they refer to as “the jungle” because they’re wearing a thousand dollars worth of hemp and crystals. I know so many of these people and they are insufferable. Cripes, they almost …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:31 PM
17

Seriously. I’ll take a guy who enjoys sports (not to the point of obsession) over this. It’s like “I’m not like the other girls!” for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:12 PM
52

I think it’s possible she hasn’t had work done, actually. But yes, I agree that these posts aren’t that helpful because they buy into the idea that a woman’s worth is in how she looks and how well she can defy aging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:04 PM
6

He’s too old for you. And you shouldn’t be approaching anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:48 AM
255

My go-to response to “why are you single?” has always been “I’m over qualified”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:32 AM
9

For me, the best thing is to curl up and close my eyes. Even if I don’t sleep. Just resting my body and trying to calm my mind helps. I usually do fall asleep, and things always seem better when I wake up. But different things work for different people. A bath, a piece of chocolate, a glass of wine, eating something you love, a walk, a bike ride, listening to music.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:40 AM
61

It’s unfortunate that it’s true, but it is true. I’ve noticed this in the few successful happy relationships I know. It’s not obviously unequal. The women are in love and invested. It’s subtle, but it’s there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:55 AM
44

Same here. I wrote off men fifteen years ago. The last thing I want is dating tips. I’m here because it’s nice to be around like-minded women. It’s nice to find a place online where people are smart and funny. It’s great motivation for living your best life and loving yourself. Sometime it seems like the only sane place on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:29 PM
5

Whoever wrote this so has obviously never met an eighteen year old girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:24 PM
3

I wouldn’t let my genitals anywhere near tp covered in ink and whatever germs were on this guy’s hands. Wouldn’t let any part of me anywhere near this loser either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:21 PM
34

Before Amal, Clooney was basically DiCaprio, just with lesser known women. Tons of people speculated that he’s gay and that they were all just arrangements. Who knows. Amal is way out of his league anyway. I have no idea what she sees in him. He’s a goofball and looks like he smells.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:16 AM
35

Twenty years is a big difference but 55/35 is waaaay less offensive than 50/20. (I don’t know exact ages here). I wouldn’t say it’s comparable since VC’s new wife was barely out of her teens when they got together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:13 AM
26

I cringed through the whole story. If I was on a first date with a man and he told the server it was our anniversary, I’d nope right out of there. If I was going to visit a man and he told me to pack light because he had clothes for me, I’d be like WTF. I like thoughtful and generous but I’d be so uncomfortable with a man like this and I wouldn’t trust him at all. Over the top gestures make me think he has something to hide, and throwing around money in this way is tacky, no matter how much you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:56 AM
6

I would be mortified. I’d probably break up with him from the shame of it, and stay home brushing my teeth all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:40 AM
1

With my last partner, we always had “vanilla” sex. Hot and enthusiastic but nothing BDSM at all. Then one night, he SPITS on my face. I was so stunned I didn’t do anything. We finished and the next day I was just like WTF. I was angry at myself for not doing anything about it but it’s like I was paralyzed. I think men get away with a lot just by sending women into shock. Nearly every time I’ve had sex I wasn’t okay with, I couldn’t even process it until later. I once had a guy slam my head again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:16 AM
22

Heck, a lot of them won’t even make small talk small talk anymore. They send texts that are all acronyms and emojis and in person they just stare and say yes or no to questions. Even LVM used to at least chit chat. The devolution is startling. I swear, most of them just want to send out an eggplant emoji and then have some babe show up and get down on all fours. That’s how they want to interact with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:52 PM
21

Surely there’s a photo somewhere of a woman who isn’t an uneducated tacky pickme holding up her middle figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:08 PM
77

I’d say in the last ten years but particularly in the last few. I dated a lot between 2012 and 2017 and people still basically had that dumb three-date rule. Now it’s like people think you’re suspect if you don’t have sex on the first date and you’re a complete weirdo if it doesn’t happen on the second. But calling men “daddy” while being choked during anal sex is totes normal. It’s like upside down world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:19 PM
39

I’m sure she’ll do neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:05 AM
8

He’s garbage and she’s a mess. Sadly, a perfect match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:56 AM
38

A lot of these pickmes become predators. It’s a thing in the kink community where couples who have a D/s dynamic then go after young or vulnerable women who they both dominate. Of course most of these women have been groomed or abused and don’t even know it. The submissive girlfriend or wife becomes the “queen sub”, so to speak. She gets some semblance of power back by abusing other women. You see this in a lot of cults and fundamentalist polygamous communities. It’s so messed up. I’ve seen more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:43 AM
1

The story behind this is that I’d started seeing someone and he was on a business trip and his hotel room had a really nice bathroom. He sent me a picture of the bathroom, and his dick was in it. I hadn’t seen it IRL yet and wasn’t expecting a picture of it. I didn’t notice his dick at all. I wrote back a bunch of texts about the tile and the tub. Then I was like “That little thing in the corner, what is that?” He of course was about as embarrassed as you’d expect a dude to be. He’s all “That’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:16 AM
3

I always block/delete. Unless it’s a dick pic, in which case I text back “what is that?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:35 AM
23

This is great satire. Praying it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:40 PM
15

My parents both look really cute and they’re in their mid to late seventies. They’ve definitely lost some fucks due to age and particularly the pandemic but we had a zoom party for my mom’s 75th last month and they both looked fantastic all dressed up. And yeah even just hanging around reading at home for months they’re still bathing and flossing ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:39 PM
89

And he wouldn’t feel bad about it the way she does, and she’s not thinking about leaving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:34 PM
9

They’re such sad people. I’d feel sorry for them if they weren’t so mean and violent too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:31 PM
27

Men don’t know what quality is if they think pro athletes are HVM. Football stars are by and large a bunch of brain damaged violent thugs who are good at one inane thing that society stupidly values, and they have about five years to earn money that they’ll probably mismanage. If this man is a HVM, it has nothing to do with football or money. It’s about who he is, and he’d be the same if he was driving a truck for a living. Men are the ones who want to throw themselves at pro athletes, not women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:28 PM
3

He sounds awesome. Mine isn’t handy at all. He’s definitely a bookish intellectual type. Beyond mowing the lawn, weeding and barbecuing he didn’t do much of that stuff. But he knew he couldn’t and joked about it, and hired people who could. None of this “yeah yeah I’ll do it” every weekend for five years. No stupid pride. Having a good dad and seeing the kind of partner he is really puts the current crop of men in perspective. I tell my parents they aren’t great. But I’ll never get into detail a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:40 PM
5

To be fair, that kind of marriage is much harder to pull off in economic times like we have now. My parents are in their late seventies. They bought their first house for like ten grand. The parking spot I just bought cost three times that. But my dad is really a special man. He’d never call himself a feminist but he actually is one. He respected and appreciated the hell out of his mom and mine for all they did. He knows he wouldn’t have had the life he had without either of them. He also recogn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:20 PM
38

I grew up in that kind of family too. My mom threw the most perfect dinner parties. Our home was beautiful and immaculate. My Dad supported the family, did all the yard work, made our lunch sandwiches and tucked us in every night, and to this day brings my mom home flowers every week. He worshipped her and still does. And now that he’s retired he’s learned to cook and clean. He also didn’t even know how to access any cash until he retired because my mother was in charge of the family finances. H…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:08 PM
143

And she’ll be complaining on breaking mom that she has two babies and she’s using her inheritance to buy diapers because he spends all his paycheck on porn and video games. But he was so great for the first three days after she gave birth and he only yells at the baby to leave him the fuck alone on his days off!!1!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:42 PM
9

Spoken like a man who fucks every woman who’ll have him while his doormat wife waits for him at home. I don’t think his wife is unattractive at all but clearly he does, and that’s partly why he married her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:33 PM
5

I read up on “avoidant attachment” last night and it doesn’t really sound like me. I didn’t experience any of the trauma that it’s supposed to stem from, except maybe childhood bullying. My parents were very loving and always there for me. My home life was very secure. I don’t get afraid of men wanting commitment; I just hate when they bombard and suffocate me, especially at the beginning. In fact, once I’m in a good relationship, I do tend to worry about it ending, which is more aligned with th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:40 PM
2

I’ve basically become asexual because men are just so unappealing. And if I’m ever horny, finding someone to fill that need is as easy as hailing a cab. Usually I’ll just get myself off though because it’s safer, quicker, and much more pleasurable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:51 PM
3

Most of my friends are lesbians. Dating and relationships are a nightmare for them too. It’s been really eye-opening, as I thought lesbians would have much nicer relationships. Plus of course there are still a lot of homophobes out there. I still wish I was attracted to women though. Even if women can be just as bad, I’m pretty sure there’d be less property damage and skid marks, and more orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:46 PM
79

Everyone should value their peace. I’ve always had problems dating because men come on too strong. I’ll go on one or two nice dates and then they always text too much or want to see me all the time. I get overwhelmed and feel suffocated and exhausted, I try to establish boundaries, it doesn’t work, and then I ghost or slow fade. This has been going on for literal decades. But the last time this happened, which was a few months ago, when I realized that he was going to be as annoying as the rest …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:36 PM
22

I knew a guy who’d talk about how he always forgets that he has kids. They’re grown but I mean wtfff. My parents think about me and worry about me every day and I’m in my forties. Both of them. And I’m the same way about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:10 PM
34

They want to have children without doing any of the work. Cute things to have around and deal with only on their own terms. I’d say they should get dogs but dogs are a huge amount of work and the dog parks are full of misbehaving dogs whose dads are ignoring them while scrolling through their phones. My dog loves the park but I’m constantly getting into it with men who aren’t paying any attention to their pets, which causes problems for mine and for me. I rarely have this problem with women. Men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:08 PM
45

When a man goes on and on about being a feminist that’s usually just a nice sounding way of saying that he’s going to shame a woman for not sending him nude photos or letting him choke her while he forces her to have a threesome with one of his other girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:02 PM
204

This is basically the message that the world sends to women, in every way, all day every day. Reductress always nails it but this is next level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:56 PM
1

I was upset about it for a long time. I tried to tell myself she was clearly a resilient and tough kid, but ugh, she shouldn’t HAVE to be that way because her father doesn’t care about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:54 PM
2

Early twenties, preferably just nice romantic dates with a man very close to her age, ie. not jumping into anything super long term or serious, and no sex. I don’t think women should be considering anything further until schooling is finished or she’s in her mid to late twenties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:26 PM
41

This is horrifying. It reminds me of something that happened a few months ago. I was walking on the sidewalk and this little girl on a skateboard fell in front of me. She must have been six or seven. She bounced right up and looked okay but she was shaken and teary-eyed. I immediately asked her if she was okay and if she needed help. I also scanned the sidewalk for the adult who should have been with her. I see this idiot dude like a block and a half ahead, careening all over the sidewalk on his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:43 PM
13

You do realize that single women can have sex on demand too, right? If all you want is the d, it’s available and will be at your door faster than an Uber.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:28 PM
64

If you ever feel unsure about choosing to be single, go check out the breaking mom sub. I was on there for about a half hour yesterday and saw about five women finding out about cheating husbands, one concerned that her husband might be stalking one of her daughters friends, and pretty much all of them complaining about doing absolutely everything while their husbands sleep and play video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:22 PM
26

Thirty words or so, mentions blue eyes twice and can’t even figure out whether or not to use a hyphen. Dumbass weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:44 PM
5

Why bother having one then? I’m personally not that into engagement rings but if the person proposing isn’t giving it as a gift, there is no point. Just get wedding bands then. You’re either into these traditions or you aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:27 PM
85

I’m kind of a sensualist so I still do all that. But I lounge around smelling great in my expensive lingerie alone in my clean and beautiful home. Men just stink up the place and break things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:09 PM
72

I haven’t had sex in a year and it’s fine. Occasionally I think about it, but then I’m just like...meh. I went on a couple of first dates in the past year and they were pleasant I guess, but then the guys hound me to get together again with all their “hey beautiful” and “when am I going to see your gorgeous face again” texts and I just get annoyed and tell them to leave me alone. I guess my life is a bit boring right now. I work, I go on walks with my dog, I watch movies, I talk to my family on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:06 PM
50

Every time I’ve let a man into my house, he has broken or soiled something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:29 AM
41

That too. I do know some exceptional men, but 99% of them are truly horrible human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:27 AM
86

Most of them are sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:16 AM
36

Let’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:14 AM
19

Part of the reason why I was using dating as a way to find friends (something which I only later realized I was doing, and that it was harmful for me) is that I lost all my female friends when they coupled up. Some flat out told me they weren’t comfortable with a single woman being around their family. After years of friendship!! They act like single women all want their shitty husbands or like being single is such a shameful state and it’s contagious. Being a single woman of a certain age is ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:47 PM
5

Men can think “sex work is work” and still disrespect, demean and harm sex workers. Talk is cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:52 PM
50

I recommend getting a pet if you can make the commitment. My dog obviously isn’t a substitute for a person (much better in many ways!), but the closeness and touch are healthy, and of course PAWSOME! (Sorry, I’m such a dorky dog mom, my autocorrect does that now). Plus, the love is pure and completely mutual and drama free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:08 PM
78

But they’re SO VISUAL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:06 AM
19

This made me feel sick. The last time I had a FWB was about four years ago. He was the first guy I ever got involved with who was quite a bit younger than I am. I liked him but just figured the age difference made a serious relationship a non starter. And I was fresh out of a terrible relationship with a controlling, suffocating, abusive man who I wasn’t even attracted to. So at first I was psyched to have this super hot guy to have sex with and hang out with. It was exciting to be desired by so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 08:28 PM
34

Better than being in servitude to a man. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:35 PM
2

Yeah, just like some women like being strangled by their boyfriends. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:58 PM
19

Most of the men I’ve dated didn’t watch porn. (They weren’t all HVM). I’m sure they’d all seen it at some point, but they didn’t watch it regularly or need it. I know because I used to be a “cool girl” and asked if they wanted to watch it with me, which generally led to discussions about it. That said, I’m mid forties and most of those men were my age or older. Younger men I dated were all into it. They’re also more into social media and Instagram. Very few men my age seem to be on Instagram—at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:20 PM
6

If anyone I was seeing called me a bitch I’d be out the door. How do people put up with this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:02 PM
1

I think women like men more than men like women, but they don’t like them that much. Men WANT dimensions, but generally they hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 03:05 AM
1

Expectation, but luckily I’m considered attractive so I don’t have to put in much work. I’ve never spent more than a few minutes doing hair and makeup. I do less and less beauty stuff as I gradually lose my remaining fucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 03:01 AM
45

I know a man who wants kids for the sole purpose of taking care of him when he’s old. He’s now 55 with health problems. If he has kids, they won’t be old enough to care for him and they’ll lose him well before they’re adults. Now he’s widened his search for women with adolescent or teen daughters. Not creepy at all. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:59 PM
234

THAT IS GORGEOUS. Sorry for yelling but OMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:04 AM
3

You’re so lucky. I’ve actually prayed to become sexually attracted to women. I’m an atheist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:03 AM
17

In a way I do. I personally am a bit of a homebody and my ideal way to spend some time with someone is to chat on the couch with a bottle of wine. I don’t enjoy getting dressed up and going to fancy restaurants. I would love to just wander around the city with someone. I LOVE giving thoughtful little gifts. But all of that leads to men taking me for granted and not putting in any effort. They equate being sort of laid back with not expecting to be treated well. So I’ve had to force myself to dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:45 PM
512

“then behooves on you”. Gotta love how men always act like they’re eighteenth century poets when they send texts like this. And then don’t even get the language right. This man can’t even put a basic sentence together (“speaking no more”?!!!) and he’s trotting out BEHOOVES. lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:48 PM
36

Yikes I’m sorry. I hope you’re safely far away from him now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:10 AM
93

Literally my favorite thing to do since Golden Girls came out on Prime is to cuddle up and watch it with my puppy. Sometimes it’s over wine and candlelight, sometimes chips and beer, sometimes we dress up, sometimes we look like shit. It’s all good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:01 AM
9

This whining about height is so tiresome. Yes a lot of women like taller men. But plenty of women don’t care. There are hundreds of millions of women under 5’3” or so and it’s very rare for men to be that short. So even a guy who is 5’4” has plenty of options for women shorter than he is, and that’s not factoring in women who are slightly taller and don’t care. I know tons of tiny guys who are huge players and get laid constantly. The one thing they all have in common is swagger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:58 AM
28

I like watching some sports sometimes but you couldn’t pay me to date a professional athlete. They’re almost all stupid womanizers who’d be in prison if they weren’t good at their sport.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:26 PM
41

I guess sometimes it’s a blessing that they’re too disgusting to even shower. Proud of you for dumping him and taking control of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:04 PM
17

He’s a garbage person and a misogynist. His life is also an utter train wreck soI don’t understand why people think he’s fit to give advice on how to live a good life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:00 PM
102

I hope the poster who was bragging about her boyfriend being in med school sees this. Honestly I think families should shame this kind of behavior. What do your parents think about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:58 PM
13

I’m not on Twitter. Please tell me he got piled on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:55 PM
34

I hit mine in my early forties. Sexual confidence, no fucks given about my body, and effortless multiple orgasms. Sick curves too. A birding magazine subscription sounds fabulous. I might subscribe to a dog magazine too. 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:48 PM
51

Haha, just reading that made me tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:44 PM
11

Completely true. And even my HV female friends who lucked in to meeting HVM know this is true. That’s why they’re not the women nagging me to settle the way pickmes do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:50 PM
124

How else was she supposed to say Sunday?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:46 PM
63

He spent our kids’ college fund on video games and Only Fans, but aside from that he’s perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:36 AM
6

The last man I dated didn’t finish high school. He’s a computer wiz though so he always has good work. Such an amazing writer though even though English is his third language. I attributed that to his nonstop reading. Too bad he was kind of a jackass. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:24 PM
35

A lot of liberal arts PhDs cannot find jobs. My friend’s partner has literally never had a paying job that wasn’t a post-doc contract. He’s in his late forties and basically waiting around for tenured professors to die. Engineering, science, medical type PhDs at least can usually find work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:20 PM
12

I find that men who are well-read communicate well. I’ve dated high school dropouts who write far better than lawyers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:17 PM
29

I have a lot of degrees and know that education does not necessarily translate into intelligence or a good career. I’m also old enough that men I date might be moving into retirement if they can afford it. My standards are: (1) exceptionally smart, whether that came from books, travel, life experience, or formal schooling, or some combination of these things; (2) he does something with his time that he’s passionate about and that adds something to the world, and he has no concerns about money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:09 PM
7

And she’s so wowed by the fact that he’s a student, it’s cringe worthy. Watch him ditch her for one of his classmates when he graduates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:05 AM
7

——I’ve said this on this sub before, but I asked my current boyfriend what his intentions were and he said he doesn’t like labels, so I let him know I wouldn’t be exclusively dating him and the next day he told me he was in love with me and wanted me to be his official girlfriend. Guys are really something else..—— I thought initially that you posted this as an example of a manipulative LVM. Little did I know you actually think he meant it and that he loves you. And bragging about him being a st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:55 AM
8

Why are you acting like it’s special to date a med student? Almost everyone I know has a post graduate degree and an impressive job. Some are HV and some aren’t. Some of the men are good boyfriends/husbands and some aren’t. Level up and stop being so impressed. Educated, successful women aren’t wowed by doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:42 AM
9

Yellow roses are my fave. 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:01 AM
5

It can be hard to undo all the nonsense we’re taught. But you’re right about getting out the first time. The first time he should be excited to explore your body and trying his absolute best. If he’s not putting in the effort then, he never will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:05 AM
5

I’m not talking about someone I’m with. Obviously good advice in general though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:44 PM
208

They don’t even want “coochies”. So many are absolutely disgusted by vaginas. First it became normal for them not to eat pussy. Now many won’t even touch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:33 PM
14

Oh really? That’s a shame, though I guess unsurprising. :/ I sort everything on Reddit by New.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:10 AM
64

Yup. Men statistically prefer curvier to slightly plump figures. They choose wives based on the image they think they’re supposed to project. And then everyone is miserable. They’re such cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:19 AM
54

This sums is up beautifully. I really wish single sex bath houses were more common in western countries. I’ve been to some when traveling and it’s so peaceful and freeing. I’m pretty shy and it’s amazing how quickly I let go and felt comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:32 AM
109

Remember when nobody cared about eyebrows? Ten years ago I never thought twice about mine. Now whenever I look at them, I think they’re too thin, not dark enough, and that they look too “hairy”. I’ve actually been brainwashed into thinking that eyebrows aren’t supposed to look like hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:10 PM
135

I recently discovered the “normal nudes” subreddit. A young woman had posted in the sex sub about how her new boyfriend hated her body, and someone suggested she check it out. At first I was like yikes: It’s shocking to see so many naked bodies, and I’d never be comfortable posting a naked photo of myself. But when I scrolled through the photos (trying to ignore the pics of men lol) it really struck me —in a positive way— to see all the different body types and shapes, different butts and boobs …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:06 PM
12

I do too. The last time this happened, the guy made such a song and dance about me transferring him my share of the bill, I just sighed and said “this is silly”, handed his card to him and put mine down. He’s probably living on credit and was hoping to actually get ahead by me sending him cash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:09 PM
25

I’m horrified at things I consented to. I came out of it okay but damn. These things do happen. I’m glad people are talking about it more now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:02 PM
229

One of my worst first OLD dates: We met at a restaurant. We ordered drinks and started talking. After about ten minutes he says “Hurry up and finish that. I have to go home in forty five minutes and we still have to have sex”. I thought he was kidding but he wasn’t. He said that dates are about getting to know someone and sex is as important as talking. At the time I wasn’t dating with intention and probably would’ve had sex with him after a good couple of dates. Still, I should’ve walked out. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:30 AM
3

Love the username too. 🖖🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:21 AM
8

Girl, I agree with every one of your comments here. I’m a lockdown skeptic too, and I’m tired of all these women using the “people can’t stay inside forever” reasoning. I’ve been outside every day of this pandemic. I’ve met people. I’ve lived as normal a life as possible while respecting current laws. Frankly I think these lockdowns have done more harm than good. But that’s a discussion for a different time. None of this has anything to do with dating. The fact is that there is a pandemic, life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:05 AM
7

Look, I hear what you’re saying. And you certainly don’t need to explain any of the fertility stuff to me. I started down the sperm donor route in my late thirties and it was too late. If you want to keep that as an option, you should not wait till your forties. You should freeze your eggs (or embryos with donor sperm) in your early thirties at the latest, if you can afford it. All of my doctor friends froze theirs in their twenties. It’s also not a last minute resort. It takes years of planning…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:51 PM
8

You really need to stop calling other people damaged. And no, I wouldn’t really call FDS a dating site, or a dating site exclusively for straight women. I know the word is in the name, but I’d call it a sub for women to empower themselves, with some really good advice on how to meet high quality people. That advice includes not dating during a pandemic by the way, because only low value people do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:47 PM
11

I know you don’t realize it but you’re making yourself sound desperate with this scarcity mentality. Its ironic because you’re calling other people “severely damaged”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:39 PM
27

Can we do something about the LVW taking over this thread? Being too thirsty not to date during a pandemic is bad enough, but calling responsible women unaccomplished and traumatized is not acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:22 PM
8

Where are you getting all this nonsense about being accomplished or not, healing and trauma? Nobody is talking about that but you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:18 PM
16

I’m in a great place in my life, and that’s precisely why I don’t feel the need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:16 PM
19

Um, yes, people are supposed to work on themselves forever, even if they’re in a relationship. Or do you think it’s only something women do to land a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:13 PM
14

I think it’s highly unlikely that a HVM is dating right now, or meeting women on social media under any circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:12 PM
3

Literally nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:59 PM
36

I’ve never faked an orgasm. Even so, there’s usually at least a little moaning. I can feel some genuine pleasure but not orgasm. I’d think that’s pretty common. Anyway, I remember many years ago I fooled around with this guy. Afterwards he’s like “How many times did you come?” I said I didn’t. As we lay there cuddling and talking, he kept saying “How many times did you come?” I kept telling him I didn’t. Not once. I wasn’t upset about it. It was just kissing and petting on vacation with someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:36 PM
23

Men always say that their ideal woman is like a best friend they want to have sex with. I have found that with men. t’s not what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:15 PM
7

I haven’t in over a year and I feel fine. I’ve often gone a year plus. It’s no big deal. If I want to get laid, I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 12:21 AM
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OMG he’s so cute. I’m sure he’s the best boy! Look at that faaaace. I’m so happy for you both. I have my hands full with my dog but I always look at posts from rescue organizations looking for foster parents or adoptive parents. More than half the time, the description says that the dog is afraid of men. Once, when a really bad ex was being mean to me, his own dog actually ran over to comfort me. His own dog, in his house. Dogs are very smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:03 PM
88

Ladies, I cannot even express how much better sex gets. And that includes sex with yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:13 PM
17

I’d love something like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:54 PM
12

I don’t have the fucking time to take them. There are literally fifty things I need or want to do right now. Every few years I get a sexy shoot done by a professional, with lighting and makeup and hair and all that. I don’t even share those with men. They’re for me to enjoy, and to show off to the other ladies at my retirement home when all the men are dead. 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:14 AM
5

A guy once sent me a video of a woman giving him a blow job. I deleted it immediately and responded WTF. His response? “I thought you’d like it”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:07 AM
19

I remember getting hit on by forty somethings all the time when I was in my twenties. I was always appalled and always gave them a piece of my mind. Many women told me to just pick one of them because when I got older, I wouldn’t have options. I said I didn’t care. Now those guys are single and in their sixties. I’m in my forties and get hit on by men from 20-70.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:00 AM
95

My city is on strict lockdown so that’s pretty much the only option. But men love it. I’m just not dating rn. I barely want to meet men when we aren’t in a pandemic. I can certainly wait this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:57 AM
2

There’s nothing wrong with it. But people come from different backgrounds and want different things for themselves. I would never post sexy photos of myself on social media and none of my friends would either. And I actually have had sexy photoshoots done. No one has seen the photos but me. Posting sexy pics on Instagram would ruin my career and disappoint a lot of people. It’s not something that I would ever even consider. For some people, it wouldn’t matter in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:33 AM
3

Being a student means shit. Everyone and their dog has a BA these days. Women who feel that they have a real future to look forward to won’t risk it for some attention and don’t have time for this nonsense anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:18 AM
5

Why do men think that everything women do is about men? Lesbians post photos of themselves at the beach too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:42 AM
5

Sure, if by “women” you mean thirsty Instagram hos with nothing going for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:37 AM
29

Yeah I think the bottom line is that there are HV and LV people of both genders and everyone needs to be vetted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:05 PM
26

lol yeah basically. Succinct and very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:00 PM
79

I’ve never had much luck with female friends. Most of them were more pick-me ish yet I was more promiscuous, so they kind of judged and acted like I didn’t deserve a partner even though I wasn’t the one desperate to find one. They pretty much all got really smug when they married and dropped out of contact. A few reached out when they divorced, all “let’s get pedis and go out for martinis!” and I was like “Um, my life isn’t SATC. I’m usually at home reading”. They dropped out of contact again an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:55 PM
196

I read the purple pill sub sometimes and nothing drives them more crazy than the idea of a woman wanting to take things more slowly with them than with previous men. But the thing is that it’s actually a compliment to a man if I see potential there and want to get to know him as a possible partner. If I met a guy who wanted to take the time to get to know me instead of jumping into the sack with me, I’d be flattered. I already know I’m hot and that men want to have sex with me. That part is easy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:26 PM
31

I really love doing it for someone I’m into. I don’t find it at all demeaning. (I once dated a guy who didn’t like to receive and I really missed it). But I do think that the way it’s currently portrayed in porn is disgusting. That’s not how I do it and any guy who starts grabbing my head or slapping me with his dick is out of the question. But of course if you don’t like it any way at all, you shouldn’t feel that you need to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:19 PM
2

Do you make pet clothes? I’d totally commission a sweater for my puppy. She’s a fancy bitch with great taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:52 AM
1

So?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 12:54 AM
122

When I was around 22, a classmate tried to set me up with a guy she knew. She said he was nice. When I asked more about him, she said he was an okay guy. Funny. When I asked if he was cute, she said not really. I asked her: Is that what you think of me? She said no, of course not, you’re smart, you’re interesting, you’re beautiful. So I’m like Okay, so why would you try to set me up with this guy?! People expect fantastic women to settle for average men because we all know most men ain’t shit. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:18 AM
18

There have always been weird people doing weird things. The thing is, we weren’t all subjected to it. People have no sense of privacy or shame anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:42 AM
26

Good grief. And I’m calling bullshit anyway. This kind of thing would only work with a hard boiled egg. A soft boiled egg would fall apart before it was “laid”. I can’t even believe I thought about this sickening thing, whether it’s accurate or not. That’s enough internet for today. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:34 AM
32

I always hated her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:51 AM
3

I disagree that they are not happier than women of previous generations. Our definition of happiness has evolved over time, and means different things to different people. Not to mention that nobody really asked people if they were happy fifty years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/21 11:54 PM
3

My heart breaks for this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:51 PM
35

From an evolutionary perspective, women should actually be with somewhat younger men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:34 PM
25

He hasn’t looked good since Titanic and even then he looked like a skinny boy with nice eyes. He’s always been a weird looking person. Now he’s straight up disgusting and the personality makes it even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:28 PM
20

I’m in my forties and have been with men from 19-55 over the years. I’d say peak in terms of physique and sexual performance is about 28. For women it’s probably around late thirties because that’s when orgasms get really good. I believe statistics bear this out as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:24 PM
112

And she’s still like five or six years younger than he is. Men are so weird about age. Like even if they’re not lusting after teens or much younger women, they’re so uncomfortable with the woman being older (unless they’re young guys with a “milf” fetish). People make all sorts of weird comments about Kate being a year older than Prince William. A year. She’s going to be beautiful into her sixties (have you seen her mom?) and he looked good for about two years in his late teens/early twenties. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:21 PM
81

That’s so sweet. Man I miss my grandparents. Spend time with them while you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 08:17 PM
153

He cheated on you. If you were into losers/bad guys, you’d still be with him. Men are so stupid, I can’t even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:30 AM
11

I’d add 3) unless they have some sexual related trauma, like a history of sex abuse, or 4) have some issues with self-hatred. I think I agreed to it because (4). I realized though that I didn’t really like it or want it; it was just a form of self harm, with the bonus that I was a passive actor in it (as opposed to something like cutting) so I could deny that I was engaging in self harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:23 PM
11

I hear this. I’m pretty much a socialist and despise/am fearful of the far right. But let’s just say that since finding this sub, I think that if I ever meet the right man, he’ll probably be more of a centrist. Obviously no racists, homophobes, heartless people etcetera, but yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:20 PM
1

Proud of you. I know it’s tough, especially when beautiful ones are so rare. But you did the right thing. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:17 PM
36

I’m very bad at breakups. I don’t know if I’m afraid of how they’ll react or if I’m just afraid of confrontation generally. Probably both. I’ve been guilty of ending relationships by text or voice mail in the past. Never super serious or long ones. Now I prefer the fade out. I really do wish I could be better at just directly and firmly shutting it down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:06 PM
1

Untrue. Wealthy and educated people have tons of sex. They just tend to use condoms and get abortions if necessary. They also get tested, get STIs treated if necessary, and move on. Plenty of wealthy/educated people even take PREP now. I’ve been with a few poor/uneducated men and they were shockingly ignorant about safe sex and even how women get pregnant. A young woman in medical school who gets pregnant will likely have an abortion. (I know several who have). A young woman who dropped out of h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 03:42 AM
47

My mother never taught me these things either. (I told her when I got my period at 15 and my Dad bought me pads. I figured out tampons on my own). But I see it as a positive. She raised me the same way that she raised my brother. I have never really had a relationship and she’s never asked me why. She’s never pushed me into relationships. She wanted me to get an education. She taught me that I need to make my own money. She encouraged and helped me to buy my own house. She’s concerned about my p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:23 AM
8

The fact that he wouldn’t or couldn’t do it to his wife says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:39 PM
23

I refuse to nag anyone. Twice this year I’ve hired someone to do a job for me. They didn’t communicate or kept delaying so I hired someone else. I have limited energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:24 PM
10

EXACTLY. This is it exactly. I’m saving this and sending it to anyone who doesn’t understand why I’m not dating. I have wasted far too much time with both types. The first is usually okay for most of a first date, until he comes on too strong, and then it’s a nightmare trying to get rid of him, and it causes stress. The second is usually okay for about two dates until you realize he doesn’t give a shit about you, and then you either feel like garbage and walk away if you’re lucky, or you keep se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:30 PM
28

I have dated on and off for more than 20 years. I have literally never met a man who could find a balance between suffocating and ambivalent. It is exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:24 AM
54

Yikes. I’m kind of sorry I asked. But thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:15 AM
76

I’m afraid to click. Can anyone give me the TLDR on who this woman is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:51 AM
112

I went a year without having anything to do with men. I went on one date which was going really well until he kissed me. It was nice. But then he spent the rest of the date pawing at me and trying to make out with me. So that was it. I was no longer anything to him but a body. I declined a second date saying that I wasn’t looking for just sex. I don’t regret kissing him. But I do regret that men apparently can’t balance some attraction with treating women like human beings. He insisted that he l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:56 AM
95

Every time I’m alone with a man, he’s pawing at me or just staring at me like he’s wondering when we’re going to have sex. The last time I was with a man, which was ages ago, I actually slapped his hands away from my thighs and said “I’m talking to you!” It’s frustrating and demoralizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:44 AM
5

Possibly. But I think even men know that women are better than they are, and that it’s harder for a good woman to find a good man than vice versa. We all know tons of loser hideous men with amazing wives. And we all know tons of great eligible women who are chronically single. It is very rare for HVM to be single, because HVW outnumber them about 100,000 to 1. I’ve never been married or in a LTR and nobody has ever suggested that I improve my personality or looks or implied that I’m doing someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:17 AM
4

A woman once said to me “You always seem so at ease”. It’s not true but it felt great to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:59 PM
31

Jeez. It’s not like she asked him to help her move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:56 PM
9

Yeah, even if I thought he was the most gorgeous man of all time, I’d think he was hideous after hearing all this stuff about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:23 PM
22

He looks like a giant blob of vanilla pudding to me. Everything about him is too big and too blah. I don’t tend to find fair haired white men attractive but I find him just next level gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:51 PM
24

I always thought this guy was repulsive and creepy as fuck. It’s nice to know my intuition was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:56 PM
11

I’ve met some cool women on Bumble BFF. I’ve tried making friends on dating apps, but the men never just want to be friends, despite what they might say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:53 PM
12

Yeah, except if you tell them to leave after sex instead of cuddling and chatting, then they’ll say you’re mean and they “don’t do hookups”. Ughhh I can’t stand these FWB guys. They want relationship-style sex and whatever friendship they want on their own terms, and we’re just supposed to be their girlfriend or friend to the extent that they need it, but not want anything ourselves, and not get confused or catch feelings. Forget it. At least the “fuck me and leave” guys are honest and unconfusi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:43 PM
14

Women also need to stop letting men set the tone for the relationship. My problem wasn’t so much putting up with poor behavior (though I definitely did), as always wondering how he felt or wanting him to feel a certain way for me. I’d always say “I want him to...” instead of focusing on what I wanted. What I should have done was just walk away from men who weren’t meeting my energy or who seemed ambivalent toward me. It’s such a shitty feeling to have relationships where you’re more invested tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:57 AM
4

It just seems like a way to further complicate things and/or try to minimize a relationship. If you want to say you’re “talking” to someone, it should mean you’re doing nothing but talking, in which case it’s not really worth defining. It’s just stupid, in my opinion. I’m either dating someone, or their girlfriend/partner, or we’re strangers. Those are the options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:07 AM
35

The problem with FWB relationships is that the man doesn’t actually want to be friends. They’ll cuddle after sex and suggest ordering food and watching a movie, which feels like more than just sex, but if you ever want to talk about your shitty day, they don’t want to hear it. It’s basically sex, plus whatever friendship or romantic relationship stuff that they want, when they want it. I’ve had some FWBs. I’ve also had some hookups, where we literally just met, exchanged a few pleasantries, had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:26 AM
2

Yeah if I was talking to a guy on Tinder, I’d be talking to him. If I was going on dates with him, I’d be dating him. If I had an established relationship, I’d call him my boyfriend or my partner. Seems pretty straightforward to me. Personally I don’t use this “talking” thing. If I’m just chatting with someone on Tinder and haven’t met him, it’s not worth defining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:59 AM
1

That’s what I’d call “dating”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:32 AM
8

I had two fairly good relationships that started on OLD, but neither was the right one. I do know a A LOT of married couples who met on dating apps. Overall though I think it’s better to meet more organically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:33 PM
5

I’m lucky that my closest neighbors are three single women, two hetero couples, one lesbian couple and one gay dude. I have a security system though, and a very protective dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:30 PM
11

I don’t understand it either. Maybe I’m just old too but I don’t believe in romantic relationships where you’ve never seen each other in person. I also don’t really understand what people mean by “talking” as some sort of relationship stage. If I’m using OLD, I’ll chat with someone for a bit so I can decide whether or not to meet them but that pre-meeting stage isn’t even worth defining, in my opinion. I try to be open minded but I find myself often very confused by younger people’s relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:27 PM
15

It certainly can be. It really depends on the couple. It seems like any relationship where the man is holding all the cards is not going to work out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:12 PM
37

My next door neighbors are an unmarried couple. He is HV, absolutely enamored with her, and I know he’ll propose the minute she’s ready. But she’s not. She’s a doctor and so tired and stressed all the time, she can’t think about it. So for now, he’s just doing all of their chores, home renos, and errands and making himself completely indispensable. Some other neighbors are also unmarried but very clearly devoted, committed and just waiting for whatever reason. None of them are situations where t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:07 PM
16

My go-to answer for this question is “I’m over-qualified”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:12 PM
143

I didn’t start dating till I was 27. I spent my 20s in school and traveling. I think it’s really weird that teens date and have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:35 PM
1

Yes. And I’ve had men tell me that if I reject or break up with a man, then I have to expect this. So apparently I have to be with any man who wants me as long as he wants me, and I get no say in the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 03:21 AM
7

I love a thick but short and well groomed beard. Like Diego in El Gran Hotel, if anyone has seen it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:21 PM
140

I’ve battled depression my whole damned life. It’s awful. There are days and weeks that I can’t get out of bed. Do I expect a man to fix it? No! Do I date when I’m in a really bad place? No! Do I take this out on other people? Am I violent? Am I a miserable person to be around? No, no, and sometimes yes, in which case I stay away from people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:12 PM
34

Men are such garbage. That is really amazing work though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:08 PM
31

Also. Even when men do try to help themselves, society tells them they don’t have to. I know some men who have gone to therapy. They’re usually told that they’re fine and sometimes that their unhappiness is all the fault of their nagging wife or gf. This shit does deep, and there is so much to undo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:06 PM
5

I don’t think any of these things make a person high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:24 AM
12

No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:08 AM
1

I’m too old for kids and don’t need anyone’s money. I think at this point I’d like either a long term companion or just being on my own. If I met someone who also wanted long term companionship, I’d prefer to marry him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 04:57 AM
1

I prefer bald or a combination of balding/buzzed. I find full heads of hair like Justin Trudeau’s extremely unappealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 01:53 AM
3

He sounds like an...I don’t want to say animal, because animals are awesome. Aside from the fact that he’s a rapist, a garbage husband and an awful person, like how are men like this so boring? He’s having plenty of sex. I swear, I think men like this want to just fuck 24/7. It’s pathetic. What is the point of even being a human being if literally ALL you care about, think about, and want to do is sex? There is so much more to life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:06 PM
8

Men are trash for exploiting it but I mean, that’s dumb af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 09:58 PM
34

A morbidly obese man I stupidly gave a chance to said my nail beds were ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:41 AM
1

Pretty much everyone I know with a pet does this, whatever their relationship status. Most people love their pets as much as if not more than family. I don’t know any crazy people who actually think an animal is a person, but in terms of love and care and concern for them, then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 01:02 AM
1

You have the prettiest hands and nails!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:37 PM
55

She is so pretty omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:32 PM
55

I don’t understand these women. Even if you eventually get married, do you really want to marry a man who didn’t want you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:55 PM
29

Uh, rejection doesn’t feel great for women either. We don’t tend to react by purchasing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:53 PM
34

And Ben Shapiro
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:51 PM
6

He’s so cute!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:38 PM
14

OMG EW. I’m not surprised that his license has expired. I used to date a male RMT and he is seriously trash but even he was so careful at work. Because like he didn’t want to lose his livelihood (and for all his faults actually was passionate about rehab massage). Like he even told me he was afraid his clients thought he was rude because he didn’t ever want to be perceived as being too friendly. I try to go to women for everything. (I had a male psychotherapist for years who’d brush off all of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:06 AM
2

In my experience people who are sex obsessed aren’t having any.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:10 AM
3

And here I thought I was on here because my dog is afraid of the fireworks and won’t get off of me. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:00 AM
2

So what? He’s trash and any woman who’d want him is trash too. Also “she belongs to the streets” is hardly a famous term. It’s a line in some dumb song and a sentiment that misogynists have been parroting for millennia. Stop acting like this thug is an intellectual or poet or anything resembling what a decent woman would want in a man. If you can find Barack Obama on record saying he prefers “low n count” women, I might listen. But you wouldn’t, because he’s a classy adult who probably doesn’t e…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:41 AM
2

Future is a garbage person. Who cares what he thinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 03:31 AM
1

Jealous of an insecure 26 year old virgin who dated a man old enough to be her dad only because she thought no one else would? If this was my friend I’d give her a hug and get her into therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 03:27 AM
2

It wasn’t necessarily weird before, but it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 03:24 AM
19

Congratulations! I always say: love is fleeting*, but equity is forever. *except for self love, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:08 AM
47

Sixty. Thousand. And that’s just these chat rooms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:59 PM
1

I don’t care and never talk about it. Though one former FWB mentioned that he’d been with several hundred women and that was a bit shocking. I can’t say I wasn’t a little weirded out by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 12:30 AM
55

If he met that perfect flirty chaste etc. woman, he’d cheat on her anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:44 AM
68

The name sounded familiar so I looked him up. The reason the name is familiar is because his father was a famous dude who cheated on his wife with Stefanie Seymour when she was sixteen, and married a seventeen year old when he was fifty. Apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:39 AM
17

Yeah he’s pretty great. The best person I know. Having an example like him means my standards are super high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:20 AM
7

I’m a woman. I think she looks fine in both. A bit nicer on the right but definitely like the same person. She’s not the slightest bit fat. I guarantee she’s better looking than any of them men commenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 04:26 AM
5

I’ve gotten so many random texts in the past few days. I don’t even know who some of them are from. The only people saved in my phone are my family, friends and doctor. Why do men hang on to women’s numbers for years? It’s so weird. They’re all blocked now but damn, I didn’t know I needed to block these random people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:17 AM
0

Yes, they exist. They tend to feel sad about it and eat a lot or put their energy into other things, instead of complaining online or shooting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 04:07 AM
37

I’ve literally never heard my dad raise his voice. I’ve never heard him swear. He doesn’t even honk his car horn unless it’s an emergency. It’s really protected me because I find yelling and swearing and speeding and honking and slamming doors and stomping and all that stuff so jarring that I’ll just back away. I once turned down a job offer because the interviewer kept slamming his hand and files onto his desk during my interview and I found it startling and aggressive. He freaked me out and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:01 AM
16

I think your friends are extremely naive. What happens if their boyfriends decide they’re done? Aren’t they worried about ending up homeless?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:50 AM
39

This is so upsetting. I hate how men have certain expectations or make certain assumptions and then act victimized when they’re wrong. Like he’d clearly never seen her naked prior to their wedding night but just assumed how she’d look and then has the nerve to act this way. Would I be disappointed if I married a guy with a tiny penis? Yes. That’s why I’d make sure I knew how big it was first. I could hardly marry a guy whose dick I’d never seen and then complain about it. It’s like they don’t us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:32 AM
6

I’m past the age where I need to be concerned about pregnancy, and a lot of men my age have had vasectomies, and man it’s annoying having to explain that we still need to use a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:56 AM
37

This is really why I’ve always been single. It’s true that there aren’t a lot of great men out there, but I have met some pretty good ones over the years...and I’m just never that happy being in a relationship. I’m extremely independent and introverted, and content with my own company. It’s not that I can’t love someone or enjoy his company. But I just can’t seem to find the time, energy or desire to see someone more than once every week or two, no matter how much I might like him, and that does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:51 AM
73

Maybe so but men constantly take these “realest females” for granted and don’t give them these basic things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:01 AM
27

What’s his problem? His Only Fans girl didn’t respond to his Christmas message or something? I feel badly for his wife and kids. It sounds like they were having a great time. He’s the one with bad energy. If he was that miserable he should’ve gone back to bed or taken a walk instead of ruining their good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:20 AM
24

I’m a forty five year old woman. Everything is better. I get more attention from men than I did twenty years ago, and from better people. I am less tolerant of bullshit and disrespectful behavior. Sex is so much better. I’m more comfortable in my own skin, less needy, paranoid and insecure. I have less energy and my joints hurt but otherwise my body is the same or even more desirable by current standards. (Luckily the fifteen pounds I’ve gained since I was 25 have gone to T & A). I have more mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 11:45 PM
85

I’ve been depressed enough to neglect my teeth and not bathe enough. But not wiping my ass is just incomprehensible. Actually not brushing for weeks is hard to understand too. It gets uncomfortable after about two days, and that’s usually when I’d pull myself together and take care of it, even if I’d go straight back to bed. I don’t think this kind of neglect is even depression related. When you’re depressed, you really want to do these things, but you just can’t. The one man like this I had exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:50 PM
51

How is she okay with him subscribing to OF at all? My mind is blown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:26 PM
82

Okay I’ve been chronically depressed. In those times I don’t brush my teeth or shower enough. It’s pretty bad. I have NEVER not wiped my ass, because like how is that even possible? Also, I don’t date when I feel that way. And when I’ve been that depressed while I’m seeing someone I usually tell them I’m depressed and need time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:19 PM
140

Everything seems like too much effort. Sex with women, holding down a job, buying a gift, wiping their asses. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:06 PM
1

Yes it’s wonderful and I’m personally lucky that I can orgasm from intercourse. But so many women can’t, or their partners aren’t making an effort to get them off another way, or there’s some issue that’s making it difficult for them to let go and experience that. Statistically speaking, sex with men doesn’t seem to be the best way for women to have orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 09:01 PM
11

Thelma & Louise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:45 AM
21

Singers, actors, artists, writers... It’s so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:56 AM
24

The part that jumped out at me was how he doesn’t want to “date” a SAHM, who is going to be the mother of his child, and with whom he is planning to live with in a house he’s going to buy for the three of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:37 AM
16

Awww, I’m sure Ivar was the best boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:32 AM
41

It was very weird. She was a private school girl from a very wealthy family, who was apparently fine with the relationship. I dunno man, my parents wanted me to find a successful Jewish man too, but they sure af wouldn’t have been cool with something like that. She was also spectacularly busty, as well as gorgeous, which made everyone talk about how “mature” she was. Plus Seinfeld is such a Peter Pan I think people actually thought they were on the same level. Just ugh. She ended up becoming a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:25 AM
13

My pup is such a little princess, I think she smells better than I do. She’s always grooming herself. In any case, yeah men are gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:17 AM
39

What’s so weird is that he got almost no flak for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:14 AM
9

It’s not a rule that women have to marry men older than they are. It also doesn’t mean you can’t find companionship if that’s what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:13 AM
65

Controlling, narcissistic, religious, separated, recently divorced or otherwise on the rebound, poor hygiene, addicted to drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, porn, gaming or gambling, bad temper, and someone who never reads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:03 PM
23

THIS. Unfortunately the bar is so low that women can think a man who shows up for a date looking clean, being polite and paying is HV. Figuring out if someone is HV is a long process, and it’s about integrity and values more than anything else. In fact I’d say that good looking successful LVM are the worst and most dangerous men because they fool women who don’t know what being HV really means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:50 PM
17

Also, if you need to fight all the time because you think makeup sex is so great, you’re not really having good sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:39 PM
1

Well, there you go. Barely more than half of women remarry while a solid majority of men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:15 PM
1

And what’s the percentage for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:10 PM
1

Actually they don’t. But I’m not going to debate with someone who thinks men should lead women on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 10:08 PM
2

No, it’s because they want and need to be with someone. Most women post divorce don’t want to do it again. They’ll date and maybe find a FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:58 PM
1

There are pretty large communities of women who did choose single parenthood. I know several women who are single moms by choice and one man who adopted. It’s becoming more common. Generally, it’s people who are quite well off though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:55 PM
2

This isn’t games. This is the behavior of someone who wants to see you/fuck you on her own terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:36 PM
2

I have never understood what people mean by “games”. Maybe there are sociopaths who toy with people for fun. But by and large, if you think someone you like or are seeing is playing games with you, he or she is simply not interested in you to the extent that you need them to be. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:32 PM
2

I don’t believe that there are alphas and betas. But I’d prefer 2 or even being impregnated by 1 and being a single parent. If I was truly financially independent I’d choose single parenthood and I’d probably prefer that the sperm donor be whichever man is smarter and has fewer health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 09:06 PM
2

Sure, many enjoy those things. I do too, if I meet someone I’m attracted to. I’m also perfectly content to live without them if I don’t, or if I have other priorities. I know everyone loves the word “outlier” but there’s a very wide range of what’s normal, and that goes not just for sex but for pretty much everything. I know tons of happy functioning people —single and coupled— with a whole range in lifestyles, including sex. None of them is surprised to learn that people aren’t all the same. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:56 PM
1

I don’t have a problem believing that you want frequent sex. I don’t see why you have such a problem believing that others don’t. People aren’t all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:28 PM
1

I know women —and men—who have gone years. I personally have gone a year or two here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:24 PM
1

Same. Most of them are enjoying the time to focus on other things and find it something of a relief not to feel any pressure to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:21 PM
2

Having sex with men is actually the worst thing a woman can do to ensure an orgasm. Do you know how common it is for women to be able to masturbate to orgasm within a minute but have literally never had one with a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:20 PM
2

It’s almost like people aren’t all the same. Some women can’t go a few months without sex; others are fine without it. I haven’t had sex in about a year. I have a vibrator if the urge strikes. It’s really not a big deal to me. My group of friends and acquaintances has all said pretty much the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 08:00 PM
15

They won’t stop bothering you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:36 PM
35

I was in this situation and my chosen donor was 25. There aren’t even any donors over like 32. There’s a cutoff for very obvious reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:34 PM
1

And all the single women I know haven’t had sex in at least ten months, and they’re just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 03:17 PM
14

That’s depressing af but not surprising. I don’t know why these men aren’t embarrassed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:36 PM
33

I know. People are so trashy. It’s not like people never thought terrible things before, but they at least had the sense to keep it to themselves. There is zero shame anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:42 AM
12

Yup. They live together too and unfortunately now there’s a precedent for her doing stuff like this for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:28 AM
21

I’ve seen this too. I try to give my business to women whenever possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:27 AM
2

I think everyone would have much happier lives if we didn’t hold romantic love above all other kinds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 03:37 AM
103

She looks amazing too. 94?! This is better than men look at 60. Look at that lip color. Fabulous and fierce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 12:25 AM
6

I recently saw this again in the middle of the night after I’d had some wine. It’s pretty bad. I think Renee Zellewegger did a good job as Bridget and Hugh Grant is great in that kind of role, but ugh, not an empowering film at all. As modern adaptations of Jane Austen novels go, Clueless is so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:39 PM
24

It’s SO bad. The really interesting part is that the women aren’t even really “sex positive”. They’re marriage hunters stupidly throwing themselves at everyone. And Carrie honestly doesn’t have much to offer a HVM. She somehow lucked into finding one and then took him for granted. Ugh. Samantha is the only character who isn’t sleeping around in the hope of landing a husband. I don’t think Samantha is all that realistic in terms of her sex life, but she’s truly independent and really does value h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:24 PM
93

“He really wants to and I wouldn’t mind”. I just can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:16 PM
2

Maybe. I wouldn’t say that the single women I know have sad lives. They are in relationships, just not romantic ones. Women love their friends. They love their communities. My life is full of love, it’s just not like something out of a phony rom-com.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:02 PM
2

Only because women have lied about what they find attractive. The resentment comes from him wasting his time being a nice guy when what she wants are hot guys with elements of danger. No, I don’t mean being a nice guy. Everyone should try to be kind, men and women alike. Being nice isn’t wasted time and shouldn’t be something people fake in order to get into a relationship. I mean being an appealing partner, ie. developing interests, being a self sufficient adult. If you really think the women y…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 03:52 PM
57

This is what I’m naming my band. (If I ever learn how to play a musical instrument and form a band, that is).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:06 AM
167

A lot of women are already better women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:04 AM
4

I’ve dated men from 5’2” to 6’6”. It feels most comfortable and “right” when he’s around 5’8ish, which is four inches taller than I am. Super tall feels so off to me. Kissing is impossible. Even holding hands is awkward. I just looked at the FDS post. Sounds about accurate. I laughed at the eggplant emoji part. There are definitely a lot of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:51 AM
3

I’m only 5’4” so my preference is 5’9” tops. Taller isn’t a total dealbreaker but definitely not my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:35 AM
9

Monogamy and marriage aren’t the same thing. As for money and power, even accepting that this is what women are attracted to, do you really think a woman pushed into a marriage to the village shoemaker would end up getting super hot for him because he could earn money and she couldn’t? The money and power attraction applies to men with actual money and power.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 05:01 AM
3

I don’t see any problem at all with men walking away from relationships and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:34 AM
4

Well, kind and caring are pretty much essentials for all humans. But women don’t actually all want the same thing. I swipe left on anyone over 5’9” and think blue eyes are creepy. So these generalizations about very specific looks that women supposedly all want really aren’t helpful. Women have just as varied and complex ideas of what is attractive as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:18 AM
10

How many men do you know who’d marry a woman they weren’t attracted to in the slightest?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 04:05 AM
15

I think society will be just fine. In any case, its success shouldn’t depend on half of its population being forced into what is at worst, slavery, and at best an intimate lifelong partnership with someone they don’t want. As for mental health, I’d say men and women suffer from problems equally. Women tend to take medication more often because they’re more likely to seek help. I’m not convinced that men are much happier, given how many of them do nothing but watch porn and play video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 03:55 AM
82

It’s way worse. A forever gf is still being used for sex, but in addition she’s used for money, property, child rearing, and everything else a person can be used for. It’s so much easier to walk away from someone using you for sex. You just need to decide you’ve had enough. A forever gf often has a house and kids involved, has a relationship with his family and friends, and a whole life to undo, essentially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:50 AM
6

I wouldn’t say that women don’t like emotional men. But even if they did, it doesn’t mean they want some robotic weirdo who never smiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 02:12 AM
18

This is basically how most of the straight women I know live already. They have their friends, pets, maybe children, their homes and jobs and their interests. They’re fine. If and when they have the urge to have sex with a man, they spend a few minutes on Tinder. Then they go back to their lives, often remarking that the sex wasn’t that good. Divorced women generally want nothing but this, women in unhappy marriages say they want this, and more and more never-married women think this is the best…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 01:48 AM
56

Women have never found the majority of men attractive, because they aren’t. Society was set up so that women had no choice but to couple up with a man, whether she wanted him or not. Now that things have changed and women have their own money and there’s slightly less social pressure to find a partner, women are choosing to stay single instead of settling down with men they’re not attracted to. This sucks for men because, going back to the beginning again, women don’t find most men attractive. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 01:24 AM
7

A random guy commenting on r/AmITheAsshole even noticed this a few days ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:25 AM
13

I really feel her on the special room. I think it’s valuable and important and it sounds so nice. Though it doesn’t make much sense for the nursery to be furthest away from the master bedroom. They’ll want the baby close by. They’re going to be stumbling around in the dark, exhausted. Actually the baby will probably be in a bassinet in their bedroom for a while anyway. If this is a starter home I’d vote on a bassinet, then setting up a little nursery area in the wardrobe and then moving into a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:44 PM
276

So much wrong here. Of course there’s a large age gap. What the boyfriend did is disturbing, disgusting and completely wrong, but omg women have got to stop asking if it’s okay if they’re mad. Even worse than all these men acting like selfish, juvenile depraved fucks is their poor wives and girlfriends asking Reddit if it’s okay to be angry at them. Women and girls have been so brainwashed, not only into accepting poor behavior from men but also into thinking that any reaction is “crazy”. I’m so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:35 PM
22

Did you see that recent post here about the lions who’d surrounded a little girl who’d been threatened or assaulted? It was so sweet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:23 PM
140

He sounds so boring omg. No wonder he wants someone whose brain isn’t fully developed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:37 PM
41

I hate to insult animals that way. My puppy has never damaged anything and knows how to aim onto the pee pad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:51 PM
25

“A few kids”?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:49 PM
59

A promise to what? Put up with his shit forever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:53 AM
30

She’s infatuated with one of the most hated shmucks in the world, and destroyed her whole life because she thinks they’re “life partners”. He doesn’t give the slightest shit about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:52 AM
25

Raised a husband?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:30 AM
8

I don’t doubt that she has a lot going for her but she spent a year with another woman’s boyfriend. I think she needs to work on herself before finding a HVM. Does she not realize that he’ll cheat on her eventually?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:52 AM
3

Yikes. I’m more certain than ever now that he’s a narcissistic sociopath. As for her, I don’t even know what to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 12:46 AM
8

Who’s “we”?! Speak for yourself, lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:50 PM
3

I remember being in my twenties and completely creeped out by men over thirty and even forty hitting on me. I rejected every one of them. I wanted a man around my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 02:56 AM
3

I’m here because my city is under lockdown and there’s nothing else to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 02:52 AM
16

Porn has always been around in some form or other. The problem is that it’s become so easy to access so much of it, and the content just gets more and more extreme. And there’s zero embarrassment about it. Twenty years ago, teenaged boys would hide an old Playboy under their mattress. And if their fathers didn’t have any magazines like that, they’d steal their moms’ bra catalogues. Now teenaged boys will watch hardcore group sex on their phones in public without headphones. As someone who, at ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:24 PM
51

My life didn’t even start until I was 28. I was a student till then and focused on school. When I look at photos of myself from my late teens and early twenties I look like a bookish child. Sure, I was cute back then, the way kids are cute, but I was never called “beautiful” or “sexy”. That started at around 30 and hasn’t stopped. If I hit a “peak”, it was probably around 37.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:12 PM
54

Unfortunately the girl’s father is dead. I hope the OP stays strong and does not give up one cent of her daughter’s college fund.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:02 PM
5

You can’t call him. He didn’t give you his number. You have it because he called for a professional appointment. It would be so sketchy to ask him out, even if he likes you and would go. You’ve just got to let these situations go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:37 PM
46

I only read a few before noping out of there. But it’s interesting how parenthood has made these women anxious for their own parents to die. Talking about their parents being a burden, anticipating their inheritance...jeez, I guess my parents are lucky I’m a childless “spinster” who will care for them and love them and doesn’t actually want them to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:59 PM
57

I met a guy on an app a few years ago. We went out a few times, I stopped seeing him because he came on a little too strong and I was more interested in someone else, and we’ve stayed in touch, chatting here and there. He thinks he’s a good catch. (I think he’s okay. He’s cute and he’s kind and bright, but he’s not polished or at my professional/financial level. He’s happy enough with where he is in life so that’s good for him, and I’m sure he’s exactly what some women want, but he’s not for me)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 11:11 PM
181

I’m really uncomfortable with the way she capitalizes “husband” and “he”. Edit: I see she capitalizes “me” too, so maybe it’s not that weird. But it still gave me the creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:24 PM
16

A lot of companies have codes of ethics that govern how employees act outside the office. It’s how people get fired for being obnoxious at a basketball game or tweeting something offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 06:02 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:45 AM
3

May I get approved?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:00 AM
6

This exactly. I used to have a friend who is extroverted to the extreme. Always around people, always doing something, always had to be distracted by noise or music. She has this energy that’s almost frantic. One night I was out with her and some other friends. She got dropped off at home before me. When the driver (one of our friends) stopped in front of her house, she started crying and made us wait, with the driver patting her hand and rubbing her back, until she felt capable of going home by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:01 AM
5

My dog loves to cuddle. I highly recommend adopting a pet to anyone who can make the commitment. In addition to not seeing any men, I don’t really see friends or family because of Covid, but I never feel alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:46 AM
3

I haven’t had sex in close to a year. I have absolutely no interest in sex or desire to meet anyone new. I’ve been getting texts all year from guys I dated or slept with in the past, and I’m just like...nah. I’ve always preferred being alone anyway and would date mostly just as a social activity. But I think when things open back up again I’ll make an effort to meet new women because going on dates with men always turns into drama and nonsense and them nagging me for sex. Life is really quite go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:38 AM
43

It seems like there are so many posts about this. It’s so depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:16 AM
6

Same. Not shy or lacking in confidence at all. I just enjoy my own company and find others exhausting, even when I enjoy their company. I actually think I’m a lot more confident than people who need their every thought and action witnessed by others. I have nothing against extroverts, except when their insecurities interrupt my peace. I’ve had many instances of being out in public by myself, doing my own thing, whether it’s at a bar or restaurant or sitting on the beach, and some idiot comes ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:09 AM
35

The worst are the extreme closeup selfies where you can see their too long patchy facial hair up close and the fact that they don’t floss. I don’t know why they can’t even try to take a decent picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:04 AM
1

A forty year old woman can get whoever she wants, whether that’s a 25 year old or someone closer to her age. I have. My friends have. It happens every day. Nothing I read here lines up with what I see and experience in real life. It’s fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 05:33 AM
3

Men never looked at me until I was in my mid twenties. I looked like a child until then. Peak attractiveness and attention getting was probably around 35. I only modeled once, but it was lingerie and I was 41. I personally think I look like shit rn because Covid has made me more sedentary than usual, but I still get hit on all the time. I don’t know, my real life experiences just don’t line up with what I read on Reddit. I don’t know anyone who dated in high school, married before 30-35 or marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:45 AM
6

I didn’t have my first date till I was like 25. I don’t feel bad about it at all. I do feel sad for people who think high school was the highlight of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:16 AM
27

I think I have to stop looking at this before I have a heart attack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:09 AM
1

People’s Sexiest Man Alive isn’t a survey. It’s selected by the magazine and is usually someone with a movie to promote whose people pay for the PR. Also no one under sixty reads it. Tons of older women are having sex with younger men. It’s been happening forever. They just don’t make a big deal about it because the men aren’t status symbols to them. And they don’t have to give them money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 04:04 AM
36

Yeah it’s bad. The last time I made an effort to meet people, it seemed like all the men who could string a coherent sentence together or wrote something witty were poly. It truly felt like it’s so bleak out there that women have to share. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:57 AM
61

And of course the only one that seems remotely promising is “ethically non monogamous”. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:49 AM
163

For some reason I logged into tinder tonight. First time in at least six months. Ninety nine out of a hundred men are repulsive. I didn’t even get to the bios. And of course that one in a hundred is like 28 while I’m 45. I have my settings wide open so I see them all and I swear mean are deluded if they think they age better than women. Even the thirty somethings are gross. I don’t know what I’m going to do if I ever decide I want a man around lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:33 AM
68

I have to laugh at men’s insistence that they’re so “visual”, when a woman can repaint the whole house and her husband won’t notice. Also, how does “so visual” work when men also claim that they can’t see dirt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:06 AM
1

Some younger guys want relationships, though they often have mommy issues and it’s a turn off. I agree with you that women can find relationship seeking behavior from men at any age. Just “attended” a zoom wedding of a 47 year old bride and 50 year old groom. First marriage for both. The few older women I know of who can’t get a date couldn’t get a date in their twenties either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:36 AM
1

I agree. I think in general, attractive people are always fairly attractive, and those who aren’t just aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 02:07 AM
15

Clinton was brilliant at compartmentalizing. I know a lot of people who met and worked with him when he was young, and he really did have an almost cult leader like effect on people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:11 AM
3

Women in their forties and fifties get hounded on apps by men in their twenties and early thirties. When I started dating in my late twenties, I mostly got hit on by men 35 and up. Now I get hit on by men 18-60. So, a lot more choice. As for what women want, well every woman is different. A forty something woman looking for a life partner probably wouldn’t respond to a 25 year old. But you can bet that a woman looking for something casual will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 12:10 AM
29

I remember when one of my married “friends” said “I hope you never meet the right guy. Your stories are SO FUNNY”. I used to blog about dating and people really did love it, but after awhile it did feel like I was some pathetic court jester.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:52 PM
31

I don’t think there was a snowball’s chance in hell that he would have married Monica.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:38 PM
5

I hate that reasoning. It’s so callous. I met a male friend for a walk several months ago and he mentioned that he was seeing a married woman. He shrugged and said “Their marriage is none of my business”. It came off as so disgusting to me, I never spoke to him again. Yeah, a person who wants to cheat will just cheat with someone else. Still, I hate when the third party acts like they haven’t done anything wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:36 PM
1

I don’t see why. I’m straight. I don’t feel like dating. It’s very simple. If you want to identify me as an aromantic asexual because I don’t tend to enjoy having a boyfriend, that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 10:16 PM
5

The thread is literally about the OP’s hypothesis that women aren’t looking for relationships. I weighed in because I relate. It’s an interesting discussion because I get what they’re saying. Nothing weird about it at all. Why do you even care what random people comment about?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 06:20 AM
3

I differentiate between sexual orientation and interest in dating or being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:31 AM
5

Well that’s kind of what this conversation is about. Sorry for finding the thread interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 05:29 AM
3

I was responding to your statement that “being straight isn’t a choice”, which you deleted. Of course I know that sexual orientation isn’t a choice. Anyway, I meant being indifferent or not into men as opposed to “obsessed”. A woman can be straight and still indifferent to or not into the idea of dating or being in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 04:50 AM
0

I never said sexual orientation wasn’t a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 04:25 AM
4

I can’t speak for other people, but personally I am just not happy sharing my life. I like meeting people and I will occasionally go on dates but every time I’ve gotten into a relationship I’ve missed being alone. I like my peace and quiet and zero drama. I’ve had long periods of FWB type relationships where I’d see the guy on my own terms like once every few weeks, and that worked for me. But I haven’t called up any of those guys in years.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 03:47 AM
1

Well since Covid no one I know has been dating. But prior to that, most of the single women I know just aren’t interested in dating. It’s not that hard to avoid since people tend to meet on apps. I just turn off my dating app notifications for like a year and then one day I might get bored and read them. Occasionally a married person will reach out and ask me if I want to be set up with some guy he or she knows and I’m just like Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 03:27 AM
1

I can’t imagine dating anyone who’d ever even been arrested, unless it was a mistake or an arrest for political protest or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 03:16 AM
1

Population of about 10 million. So yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 03:14 AM
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It’s not about the makeup or no makeup to me, I just wouldn’t meet a guy who’s going to tell me what to do, and before we’ve even met! Red flag. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:01 AM
5

One of my best friends is a total social butterfly but has never dated or had sex. She’s nearly 30. Definitely not asocial or even asexual, she just has other priorities. I didn’t have my first date till my mid twenties. It’s not totally unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 02:59 AM
8

A man doesn’t have to be sexually repulsive for a woman to not want to be with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 02:24 AM
18

Maybe some are. Many are totally indifferent or not into men at all, and the number who feel that way is growing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 02:10 AM
9

So true. I could so easily see myself never dating again. I haven’t because of Covid and I don’t miss it at all. I can’t say I’ve ever really wanted a boyfriend very badly. I tend to date once in awhile, start seeing someone, and then miss being by myself. Even my married friends say that if their marriage ends, they’ll never bother with men again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 02:05 AM
28

I actually find the guy on the right more attractive, but that’s because I generally prefer men of color. Colin Firth is probably more age appropriate for me though lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:53 AM
19

People are disagreeing with you because they don’t want to believe it, but I do because I know tons of women who are single by choice. They’re perfectly happy on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 01:47 AM
165

Colin Firth was Darcy in Pride and Prejudice. For literary types who aren’t super young, he’s the epitome of sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:34 AM
67

I’d say most are stupid too. But the not caring is why they’re so disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:07 AM
14

I have my settings so no one can message me. Incidentally my friend has been completely bald since her early twenties and is married to an amazing man who worships her. He actually made a point of proposing to her when they were alone together and she wasn’t wearing her wig. So that dude can stfu.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:24 PM
6

I spent nearly ten years in university to obtain certain educational and professional credentials. I’d risk losing all of that if I did sex work and someone found out. It would embarrass my family and possibly affect their careers and social lives as well. I know that some sex workers have conventional lives and jobs but many never did and never will, so these things don’t matter. The few women I know who do Only Fans haven’t finished high school and have neck or hand tattoos. They never would h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 08:37 PM
49

I thought of this today when a guy whispered “Damn, girl” at me when we passed each other on the sidewalk. If I’ve hit a wall, no one seems to have informed the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:58 AM
13

Of course he’s hideous while she’s cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:14 AM
43

Exactly. I’ve always been opposed to “I choose my choice” feminism because it struck me as awfully suspicious that women were choosing all the things that men want them to choose, from ripping out their public hair to giving up their names. I feel like liberal feminists have been trolled so hard, the way they think it’s empowering to do porn or be choked during sex. Men must laugh at how easy it was to get women not only to do what they want, but to think they’re empowered for doing it. I’m not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:00 AM
10

It’s cool watching it again and understanding it all. I was pretty young when I first watched it and I missed a lot. It’s still so relevant and funny. It was really a show before its time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:29 AM
1

Yikes. Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 02:19 AM
1

I like bald heads and beards or stubble, so it’s not for me. To each her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 01:35 AM
50

I’ve been watching The Golden Girls and if I ever decide to share my space, it’ll be with other women. I love those fab ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:31 AM
54

I agree. Single pickmes are obviously miserable but women who are truly single by choice are very happy. Others just don’t want to believe it because it messes with their world view or calls their own choices into question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:09 AM
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I saw that post. It was so poorly worded I didn’t even understand what he was talking about. I think women have a problem with men who lie about wanting a relationship when they only want sex. Men always seem to assume though that it’s only men who reject women after sex. It’s like they don’t realize that men are the hornier ones and the ones who aren’t good in bed. Why would a woman even want to go back for more? Of course if you point out that women might hit and run on men, then men will just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:03 AM
163

I think it’s difficult to be a woman, but I also think that women have a greater capacity to be truly happy than men. The reason so many women aren’t happy is because they’ve been brainwashed into putting up with awful men, or they’ve bought into impossible beauty standards, or both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:55 AM
1

I wouldn’t say the men are gorgeous. These generalizations aren’t very applicable to the people I know. My social circle includes surgeons, truck drivers, artists, engineers, judges, professors and hair stylists, and their partners are just as varied. Everyone works, they just make different amounts of money and work more or less hours. There doesn’t seem to be nearly as much drama about as this sub would suggest.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 12:47 AM
1

I know a few female doctors (two are surgeons) who married much poorer men. Though the men are all artists, which might make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 10:20 PM
1

Stereotypically masculine qualities I like: hairy chests, nice biceps, baldness, heavy beard, deep voice, decisiveness, confidence, being handy. Stereotypical masculine qualities I dislike: height, aggression, arrogance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 10:14 PM
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Obama
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 10:06 PM
2

These women you think look sad might not actually be sad. Besides, walking a dog is a one-person activity. I’ve never walked mine with anyone else. They might not even be single. It’s possible you’re projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 09:56 PM
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I always say: anyone who thinks sexual orientation is a choice hasn’t met any straight women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:44 PM
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The Covid excuse is hilarious because most of them expect to exchange bodily fluids after their stupid walk date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:32 PM
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I selfishly spend my time alone, at the gym, working...and waltzing around my house in lingerie, arranging flowers, cooking, and reading novels in the bath. It’s almost like women are complex, as are ideas of masculine” and “feminine”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:29 PM
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Try an endometrial biopsy, you coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:23 PM
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My parents have been married for more than fifty years and their marriage has been wonderful for both of them. I have always been open to the idea of a life partnership with a good man. But I also knew from my adolescence that my parents’ relationship is rare. So I’ve lived my life for myself. I know exactly one woman who has a relationship that I envy. The rest of the couples I know make me feel lucky to be alone. I’m fortunate that I’m very independent, emotionally and financially. I’ve always…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:56 AM
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I don’t think anyone has ever flat out asked me to split the bill. But there have been a few instances when my date took me up on my “reach for my bag” gesture. The most cringe time was when the guy said “sure, I’ll pay for it with my card and you can give me cash or send me a money transfer”. I swear I almost just grabbed the bill and paid the whole thing myself. Such a to-do over a half liter of wine. The bill is often awkward even if you and the guy are on the same page. The best guys just ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:50 PM
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I might get downvoted for this but I am vehemently against women changing their names. Aside from the logistical nightmares it causes, I find it so offensive. I’ve had my name since birth. It’s ME. My voting and reproductive rights mean less to me than my actual identity. I felt this way from the time I learned to read, saw a piece of mail addressed to my mother, and asked her why she didn’t have her own name. I was like five. I know women who have published books under their “maiden” names only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:34 PM
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I used to always offer to split the bill, mostly just by reaching for my bag, and almost every guy would wave it off and pay. Then I went on a brunch date. The dude was hideous, though nice enough. I made my gesture and he said “Oh thank you so much for offering!! I keep going out with these women who make me pay! This is such a relief. Dating is so expensive”. Awkward as fuck. He ended up asking me out again and I either declined or ghosted. It was like fifteen years ago so I have no idea. But …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 08:23 PM
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lol what a loser. I love that she’s unapologetic about it, but she needs to stick with that attitude and ditch the cry baby instead of thinking that this needs “teamwork” or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:11 AM
20

I dated an older man ONCE. I was 31 and he was 48. When I told my father, he said something like “Ok well enjoy I guess, but this is a non starter”. He knew I was too stubborn to respond positively to him telling me what to do, so that was his take. The guy was, unsurprisingly, a misogynistic, abusive, absolutely horrible person. The worst I’ve ever dated by far. I broke it off after a month. I heard he married a mail order bride...and then tried to send her back. I can’t remember why I even dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:50 PM
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This is very true. And as someone who doesn’t really “relationship well” (I was very sheltered and didn’t start dating till I was in my late twenties so I was behind in developing these skills), it gets much easier with age just because you’re more confident and whole as a person. My experiences dating over forty have been almost all positive and I cannot say that about dating ten or fifteen years ago. It’s so much better when you know who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:32 PM
2

Oh I know it happens but it blows my mind. I haven’t always made brilliant choices but I’ve always always been adamant about condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:21 PM
44

Wow. This made me want to go back to bed and hide under the cover all day. Some people are just despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:17 PM
1

I wouldn’t call those women single moms. Women who were abandoned by a deadbeat dad are actually single mothers. There’s no other parent. I don’t consider divorced people who co-parent single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 06:36 AM
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This reminds me a bit of a guy I dated a few years ago. He’d make a big deal about bringing me boxes of fancy pastries from this expensive bakery. (He was a narcissistic love bomber with an inferiority complex about being underemployed so he was always trying to show off with gifts). I’d thank him and he’d stare at me and be like Why don’t you eat one? So I’d choose one and take a bite and then he’d basically demand that he get to finish it. Fine with me because I don’t love super sweet desserts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:21 AM
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He’s not the right man for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:08 AM
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I grew up during the AIDS crisis so we had condom usage drilled into us. I never had sex without a condom outside of a LTR. A woman would have to be crazy to not demand a condom IMO. I don’t care how hot the guy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 05:20 AM
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Basically this. More spending money, a bit fatter, but it’s pretty much the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 05:10 AM
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If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:54 AM
12

Right. No one over 25 ever dates, falls in love or marries.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:51 AM
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No, it’s called dating and relationships are pretty much the same whether you’re 25 or 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:38 AM
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I’m a Gen Xer. Most of my single female friends are pretty contentedly celibate. It’s true that we CAN get dick. Most just aren’t that interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:26 AM
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I’m a woman. It’s not any different from how it was when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:09 AM
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She describes her marriage as “okay”. She enjoys the intimacy of sex with her okay husband who doesn’t satisfy her sexually. What a sad woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:07 AM
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If a man said “why don’t you fuck off” to me, I’d be out the door. Luckily, based on his comments, he seems to be a troll. But the sad thing is that plenty of men are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 03:37 AM
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An “okay marriage”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:13 AM
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Even in that little thumbnail it looks one sided. I can’t even explain it. She looks genuinely happy and he looks like he’s posing for his next tinder photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:49 PM
5

Therapy. And be gentle with yourself. If you were watching porn at 8, you were failed by whoever was supposed to be raising you. It’s not your fault. Forgive yourself for being into BDSM and then you can try to work on moving on from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:44 PM
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I don’t even understand what it is. Something related to video games? What’s with men and video games? It’s annoying enough when they get super into a sports game on TV. If I met a guy who played games I’d probably laugh at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:37 PM
1

Disgusting. So disrespectful to his wife and his daughter. And this new girlfriend should be ashamed of herself. Let’s invite the daughter here so she can have 100,000 supportive aunties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:25 PM
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They’re not feminists. They’re handmaidens of the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 11:22 PM
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I love that one woman who slapped the guy back. Though honestly, it’s a risky thing to do. Probably better to just get out safely. But damn that must have felt good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:22 AM
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Yep. It was a sign of wealth because only a wealthy woman could afford a new gown to wear once, and keep a white dress clean. Now it’s just something people do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:01 AM
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To add insult to injury, he’s divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:58 AM
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I’m glad for his wife that he’s out of her life. And I’m glad for the girls of the world that he’s dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:22 AM
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He’s too old for you and that’s why he didn’t tell you. He’s a pathetic middle aged man who only wants to date much younger women. There’s no way you should even consider seeing him again. Yes, the age difference is a big deal. I’m surprised this is even a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:16 AM
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Maybe I’m an outlier but I got way more sexual attention in my thirties than when I was younger. I was a late bloomer and quite sheltered. If boys/men were interested when I was in my teens I didn’t know it. The fact is that I was never out in public alone or with friends until I was in my twenties. I was always at school, at home, at an activity my parents took me to, or out with my family. In my early twenties I started to get male attention but I wasn’t really aware of it for a long time. I’d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:04 PM
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I’m celibate because there’s a pandemic and I was single when it started. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:55 PM
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This is awful. I can’t believe anyone would speak to another person this way, let alone their partner. I once used the word “bitch” in a general context and my father was horrified. My niece once used the word “asshole” and was grounded. Maybe my family is a bit uptight. I personally like colorful language. But using it in this way is a form of violence. Do not spend another minute with a man who would speak to you or anyone this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:51 PM
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I’m sorry, it was years ago and I have no idea where I found it. But the part that really stayed with me was that happiness isn’t the same as numbness or even fun, and people often don’t make the distinction. When you try to think of activities that make you happy, they’re the times when you feel alive, energized, and present. So that’s unlikely to be when you’re covered in Cheeto dust on the couch watching a show, even though that might be fun or relaxing at the time. When I thought about times…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:25 PM
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Exactly. Any woman who carries on a four year affair with a married man is a shitty person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:09 AM
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He’s confusing numbness with happiness. The “happiness” you think you feel when you binge a series or get drunk isn’t actually happiness. It’s like being in a stupor. It’s a very different feeling from the happiness you feel when you play with your children or pets or go for a hike or finish a wonderful book or documentary or have a wonderful party or something. I didn’t always understand this. Depression can make it confusing. Then I read a really good article about how to figure out what makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:09 AM
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I don’t understand this “gamer” thing. Playing video games is a skill or lifestyle? Maybe I’m just old but to me the word for an adult who devotes his life to video games is “loser”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:10 AM
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Sigh. I think sexual compatibility is really important but it’s way too soon. They went on a walk. They presumably haven’t kissed yet. Like cool it, man. Figure out basic compatibility and chemistry first. We’re also in a pandemic, so how exactly are they going to have sex? When it’s time to venture into that territory, saying “let’s do the sex talk” is not how it’s done. He’s the one who sounds like a child. There are flirtatious/sexy ways to figure out what you’re into without sounding like Bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:06 PM
21

I LOLd at “Scandinavian serial killer”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 08:38 PM
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Those women will be really embarrassed of those tweets when they’re older. Older women aren’t jealous of younger women. Most of us wouldn’t ever go back, even to have our young metabolisms again. If they want to ruin their lives with older men, that’s fine I guess. We’re really just trying to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 07:11 PM
22

I don’t think it matters really but I have noticed that some of the best men I know have a few older sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:03 PM
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The big prize is...sex? As if you need to give a man anything for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 04:02 PM
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I generally think it’s a waste of time to reply but I love your response here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:47 AM
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I do. My father was the sole provider but was always home for dinner and there for us. He worked hard and was respected in his professional community until he retired. He adores and respects my mother. They’ve been married for more than fifty years and he still brings her flowers every week and holds her hand. I’ve never heard him raise his voice. He doesn’t smoke or drink or do drugs. He’s kind and thoughtful. He’s brilliant. He’s funny. He’s the best man I know, and I honestly don’t know how I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:43 AM
1

Oh my God, what? I’ve never seen this. I’d be horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:28 AM
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Apparently her father couldn’t be bothered to bury her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:24 AM
5

There was a case in Brazil a few years ago where a large group of men filmed themselves raping an unconscious woman. Everyone made fun of her and I’m pretty sure there were no repercussions for the men. It’s sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:24 AM
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Yup. They’re never out of work, the hours are stable and it’s a physical job that’s outside so they’re not usually fat. I always laugh when low level white collar grunts make fun of these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:04 AM
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They do though. Sometimes it’s cheating, sometimes it’s something else. We can’t know. And she’ll never know either. It’s awful but either way it’s over and she’ll survive and thrive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:13 PM
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Seriously. My dog even has her own toy area, clothing area and bathroom lol. I should also point out that she’s damaged far less of my home than men have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:53 PM
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It’s so much better than a man’s place. She just needs to tidy up but everything there is productive. A single guy would have two pizza boxes, some rotting chicken wings, several half empty beers, an ashtray overflowing with roaches and maybe one barbell. And he wouldn’t look even half put together. Most women don’t live like this anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:48 PM
11

My dog is only six pounds but she’s very protective of me and our life together. She’s friendly with everyone, but if she sees a man so much as hug me and she doesn’t approve, she’ll bark her little head off. She needs to really be comfortable with a man before she’s okay with him touching me. She’s actually helped me a lot, along with FDS. I remember once when she was young, I invited a new guy over and he actually gave up on trying to have sex and left because she was so agitated. I thought ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:04 PM
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She sounds fabulous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:48 PM
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It was my plan and I arranged my life to be a single mom. I dedicated several years to it but unfortunately didn’t conceive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:45 AM
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This guy is either pathetic or manipulative or both. But seriously, this kid sounds fab with her glow clock and sound machine. Mom should lose the dead weight and have fancy dress nights with her daughter in a peaceful, clean, resentment-free house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:08 AM
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When you see a couple and the man is more attractive than the woman, it’s actually jarring. That’s how rare it is. Years ago I was a guest at a wedding and there was a gorgeous man there with a not very attractive woman who was his wife (and who he seemed crazy about). It was the talk of the wedding. People were whispering about it all night. It’s really that unusual that people will gawk and gossip about it. Meanwhile, seeing a gross old guy with a woman who looks like a model is just normal. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:51 AM
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45 here, can confirm. Men used to have way better game. Simple things like brushing a strand of my hair off my face, kissing my neck or the inside of my elbow are so hot, and men are just so clumsy and lazy and dumb about sex now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:38 AM
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OMG stop. This isn’t about Adventurous’ weight or health. BMI isn’t everything. The woman in the post doesn’t sound at all overweight for her height, and even if she was, she just had a baby. Not just a baby, but her seventh. Losing 30 pounds would make her too thin. Her husband sounds horrible and doesn’t deserve her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:33 AM
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Haha, I’m sure you’re trying hard enough. My work has only recently picked up again since Covid started. I spent most of the last several months homemaking, reading and taking a course online. And I do agree with the comments that a balanced life is important. I just think the original comment from the man is amusing because it’s not like working a standard work week is heroic or deserving of a woman greeting him with a drink, slippers and a BJ when he gets home. It’s fine but it’s standard. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:16 AM
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Women are smarter and better with words, so they’re funny in a way that I appreciate. Men are funny if you like fart jokes and laughing at people hurting themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:28 AM
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I love how they act like 40 hours is even a lot. No one gets anywhere in life putting in their 37.5 hours and going home to watch TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:26 AM
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Men are so weird about birthdays. They ALL say they don’t care about them and don’t want to mark the day at all, some won’t tell you when it is, and many of them are passive aggressive assholes at other people’s birthdays. Pretty much all of the worst behavior I’ve experienced from men I’ve dated has been on my birthday. I dated one guy for a couple of years and he lied about the date. They are so strange.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:20 AM
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This is why I never got married. Yes, some men aren’t like this but too many are. Whenever I struggle with housekeeping activities (like recently when I had to replace some appliances and prepare my yard for winter), my parents point out that I’m doing it by myself. Yes, I say, but if I had a partner there’s a good chance I’d still be doing it by myself. And I’d be full of resentment. At least this way my messes are mine, my effort is mine, everything I do for my house is for my benefit. As alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:24 PM
11

I’ve never played a video game in my life. (Unless playing PacMan at the store when I was a child counts). I don’t think I know anyone who plays them. Maybe it’s because I’m middle aged. It seems anywhere from kind of pathetic to really tragic, like in this case. My Dad and brother can get really into watching sports on TV and you might have to repeat yourself if you’re trying to tell them something during a game. I thought THAT was annoying. This is off the charts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 09:09 PM
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You can get it while having sex with a condom or not even having sex at all. The stigma is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:29 PM
20

I suspect they want to shock their social circles or piss off their parents. You’ll notice that none of them is racing to marry him. They’re using him for sex and their story of how they went slumming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:26 PM
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I think you’re incorrect to assume that most people are hopeless romantics. Relationships have for almost all of history been about practicality. The idea of marrying for love is very recent. People do fall passionately in love, but it is often fleeting. My own parents have been married for more than fifty years and love each other. But it looks nothing like The Notebook. Fairy tales and romantic movies are fiction. Love exists and I think people crave it, whether they admit it or not, but it’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 10:21 PM
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Why are men so obsessed with Joe Rogan? I don’t even know what he’s all about. To me he’s just the dude from Fear Factor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:45 AM
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Five years. That poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:08 AM
22

Let’s just put it this way. I’m very horny for hot men with big dicks who have their shit together and treat me well. So yeah, I’m basically asexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:59 AM
17

When I had Facebook, I made my settings so that only friends could message me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:28 AM
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The only guys I’ve dated who brought me a token of affection were love bombers or totally desperate. Now I’m wary of any gifts. The rest is good. Though please don’t let men know where you live until you’ve spent some time with them and trust them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:14 PM
15

Yup. Plus there are plenty of smoking hot women who don’t get periods anymore. And a lot of them are recently out of long sexless marriages and would actually love nothing but sex. But heaven forbid a disgusting man in his forties or fifties consider a beautiful woman who’s hit menopause. (It’s like when these fifty year old dudes bitch about their young girlfriends wanting kids and being sooo scared of getting “trapped” and you’re like “hey, why not date a woman your age and you can fuck to you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:55 PM
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I’ve had similar experiences. Men who weren’t even HV didn’t bat an eyelash when I bled on their sheets, on their hands, on anything. Most finished sex, including making sure I was satisfied, and then we cleaned up. Can you imagine a man having access to a woman’s body and then being disgusted by it? Sure, it’s not ideal but we have running water and soap and changes of clothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:27 PM
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Except men use women for emotional labor all the time. The main difference is that when women say Let’s be friends, they tend to mean “listen to my problems and keep me company, and I’ll do the same”...which is pretty much what friendship is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 08:09 PM
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Didn’t she marry very young to some minor royalty? I read some interviews with her years ago in which it sounded like she was rebelling from that. She’d gotten her big break and broken up with the husband, and was doing the whole “marriage is too traditional for my wild spirit” routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:42 PM
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Naomi Watts is so gorgeous and sexy and talented too, and Schreiber looks like a giant wad of play dough and doesn’t have half her talent. Ugh it’s maddening. It’s also so worrisome that these young women are willing to date or marry men who mistreated other women, as if it’s not going to happen to them too. Sean Penn’s new wife is a good example. Like girl, he’s going to treat you like shit. Maybe not today but eventually. He’s proven garbage. Schreiber might like this new woman better than Wat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:25 PM
12

The fact is that men are rarely looking for relationship compatibility. Even the ones who want a relationship would want to gauge chemistry and basic compatibility first. This is especially true of OLD, where you’re total strangers. There is a balance, of course. Men who want to meet you after you exchange nothing more than hellos aren’t looking for anything but sex. But men who are content to talk for weeks or months without meeting are usually not available. Men don’t have the same security co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:19 PM
13

Covid makes things a bit different obviously but men do not just chat for months with women they might want to date. They will usually ask to meet within days (and immediately if they just want sex). That doesn’t mean that you need to meet them before you’re comfortable, of course. I personally prefer to meet before too long, because chemistry can’t be determined until you meet in person. Also, you have no idea who you’re talking to. These guys could be messaging you from prison for all you know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 03:10 PM
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I don’t know. And they still talk about planning the wedding as if it actually takes that long to plan one. I think they’re one of those couples that will actually get married, and then split up within a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:11 PM
2

You never know what a man is thinking when anything. They can say anything no matter what you do or don’t do. And trust me, then are men who disrespect women when they have missionary sex with the lights off too. If you don’t like giving oral sex, fine. You don’t have to. But making an account solely to talk about how freaky and wrong oral sex is is obsessive and weird, and I’m not convinced you aren’t trolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:20 PM
3

I think you’re confusing oral and anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:12 PM
5

My social circle is very wide. I know some women who don’t enjoy giving. Some who don’t even enjoy receiving. Many do enjoy it. Most seem to love it when it’s a mutually satisfying happy relationship. I can assure you though that it’s a very ordinary sex act. I’ve been sexually actively for nearly thirty years and it’s always been this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:03 PM
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Fingering is kinky?! Come on. You’re basically saying that sex acts that are pleasurable for women —and often the only acts that give women orgasms— are abnormal. Or that women are supposed to have penetrative sex without foreplay?! Oral sex, for men and women, is extremely common. Most people engage in it. In fact many younger people have oral sex for years before having intercourse. I’m not talking about the “throat fucking” stuff in porn. I’m talking about normal oral sex. Your preferences ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:50 PM
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Oral sex isn’t kinky. It’s basically like fingering and penetration. It’s a very ordinary sex act and has been forever. It’s more common than not. That doesn’t mean you have to do it, of course, or anything else that doesn’t appeal to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:57 AM
12

This dude is gross, but oral sex is very normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:54 AM
51

I have a friend who’s been engaged for twenty years. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 03:51 AM
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Of the hundreds of women I’ve known over the years, I’d say five percent are happily partnered, eighty percent settled and are anywhere from dissatisfied to miserable, and fifteen percent stayed single. Women are SO conditioned to settle and the problem is that men just aren’t good enough for them. Women are smarter, better looking, kinder and more interesting. It’s not even debatable. There are some men with a lot going for them, but many of those men prefer women who they don’t feel are their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:12 PM
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And here I thought just not wearing perfume on dates was a good enough way to let chemistry and pheromones do their thing. I had no idea I was supposed to be dabbing my vaginal fluids onto my wrists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:01 PM
17

Brad Pitt is just as gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 10:55 PM
23

He looks disgusting. That said, he was never a good looking man. He has nice colored eyes and people liked Jack Dawson. That’s it. He’s always looked like a fetus, but like the kind you’d ask your OB about because it doesn’t look right. Now he’s just fat too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 07:51 PM
149

I love that International Men’s Day is the same day as World Toilet Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:17 AM
26

Projection. A man suggested this ludicrous scenario because it’s the kind of thing a man would do. (Like a guy I know of who bought a house for him and his fiancé, bought all the furniture and decor with her, then as soon as it was ready, dumped her, changed the locks, and moved in the woman he’d actually bought it for). Men are crazy. I once was waiting for my boyfriend to pick me up. He didn’t show, so I called him. Turns out he’d come but my doorbell was broken. He decided that I must have be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 03:05 AM
13

He sounds like a narcissistic psycho. It’s no wonder she doesn’t want him there. And really, it’s only very recently that men were allowed in the delivery room. Most women say that their partners are more of a hindrance. And that includes some otherwise complete HVM who are fantastic husbands and fathers. It’s just not a place for men, in general. If I were pregnant I’d want my mother there more than anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:56 AM
294

Unsurprisingly he’s a decade older than she is. At least he’s getting skewered in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:52 AM
19

I read somewhere that he destroyed Jennifer Grey’s self esteem and pushed her to get the nose job that ruined her career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 12:37 AM
36

I know times are tough and some adults are living with roommates or their parents. It’s not that that bugs me so much as the fact that the men who do live with others expect women to live alone. (Which they tend to do, because women tend to have their shit together better). Because they all want to “hang out” and Netflix and Chill and all that, and there needs to be a place to do that. The last time I was on Tinder I even noticed a lot of profiles saying they need the woman to “host”. I have a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:31 AM
2

I think it’s socialization but I can’t help thinking that there’s a biological component as well. Sometimes I look at men watching sports or playing video games and I feel like I’m at the zoo. (And not watching the majestic or elegant animals). They really do seem unevolved. I think a lot of them would just live in filth and grunt for food or sex if they could. The last time I hung out with a man it felt like he was just staring at me, making noises that weren’t really conversation and waiting t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:59 PM
5

I’ve seen men literally run away from women they don’t find attractive. They’re terrified of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:42 PM
11

I’m always surprised by how many women don’t bathe. I have good friends who’ve admitted that they only shower once per week. I think it’s nasty, yet I’d never have known. Just today I read a review on Sephora’s website in which this woman mentioned that she used the lotion instead of showering. Blows my mind. I’ve had suicidal depression and have never gone more than three days without a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:28 PM
56

Ugh gross. He should’ve picked up a meal from a nice restaurant or had something catered. Or rescheduled the dinner. That’s what my father would have done. And my mom didn’t work out of the home. It’s not about what she’s willing to do or can do. How about some consideration and responsibility for messing up? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:30 PM
346

I’ve decided to only count the ones with whom I enthusiastically consented and had a good time. I’m practically a virgin! But seriously, I want to forget the others, focus on positive memories and move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:27 PM
170

Most of the times I’ve stopped seeing someone, I said to him “It really doesn’t feel like you like me” before ending it. I mean it’s sad to date someone you love who doesn’t love you back but at least you want to be with the person. It’s insane to date someone you can’t stand, and that’s how so many men act about their partners. I once went to see a concert with a guy I was seeing. We had to drive to another city. We were together the whole day. He barely spoke to me and wouldn’t touch me all da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:54 PM
12

I mean, I’m pretty sure most of us experience sexual harassment at work and would make more money doing OF. I have three college degrees and that’s true of me as well. The world is a hard place for women. We all know that. I personally don’t want to make things worse, and in my view, OF is bad for all women. (The therapy situation the OP mentioned is the same where I live. Except private therapy costs $300/hour, and no, I can’t afford that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:45 PM
16

There’s a post right after this by a devastated woman who broke up with her boyfriend of a year for subscribing to OF. I think we all know that men are trash and yeah, they’ll be trash whether you have an OF or not. I don’t blame you for the fact that men cheat on their partners. Still, this post rubs me the wrong way. We already know all of this. We don’t need to hear it from someone enabling it. I feel terrible for women and children who’ve been forced into sex work either by violence or coerc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:29 PM
17

Yes. I have one ex who I guarantee speaks glowingly of me. I know this because before I blocked him he’d send me updates about his life and always tell me how big an influence I had on him, etcetera. He’s a narcissist who used me for life experience and thought I was happy to spend a year of my life teaching him things and helping him grow. He does think I’m amazing but ultimately wanted to just leech off of me and become the person he wants to be for someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:45 PM
53

He’s a user. One day he’ll decide he’s ready and he’ll marry and start a family with someone he doesn’t think nearly as highly of as his exes, because she’s there. I’ve seen this happen a million times. Man goes through tons of women he thinks are great but says none is “the one” be simply doesn’t want to settle down, then at 45 marries some random woman who has nothing going for her besides meeting him when he’s balding and has had his first health scare. I know this man. Block his number and f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:41 PM
6

What a monster. I wish I could cuddle that sweet pup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 11:24 PM
1

I’m sorry you feel that it’s so difficult to be kind. And that doing anything for its own sake is a waste. I find that quite sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 08:11 PM
2

Since when is being kind an effort? Anyone who feels this way is utterly broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 05:11 PM
16

I saw a guy on OkCupid who I went out with 18 years ago. Divorced with two kids. Same pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:52 PM
65

Guys like this are such losers. Last year I went on a couple of dates with a guy and then noticed he liked some porny photo on insta. The man has a teenaged daughter ffs. She can see what he likes too. It’s just tacky and embarrassing. Not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 04:07 PM
12

I did. He had some of the most shockingly backward views I’ve ever heard from someone in real life. Born and raised in a pretty sexist country but still...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:37 PM
37

A boyfriend once cheated on me and as a test I suggested that we both see other people. You can imagine how that went. Dude actually said “men have more liberty”. lol no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:17 PM
82

Khloe Kardashian has entered the chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:12 PM
55

I could buy this if men felt the same way about women cheating on them. But they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:09 PM
102

Exactly. There are very few female incels. Even incels know that. They complain about it allll the time. Women who are single are single because men aren’t worth being with and they’re not desperate or brainwashed enough to settle. Hell, most women IN relationships complain all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 11:54 PM
18

I always thought it was around 95 LVM to 5 HVM. Reddit has made me revise that to 99-1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:13 PM
57

Bet he wanted kids though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:10 PM
8

I personally love homemaking. I probably could have been very happy as a SAHM. Or even a homemaker without kids. The thing is though that it only works where you have a really solid relationship with mutual respect. The one who works outside the home MUST respect the contribution of the one at home and understand that the homemaker enables their career. That’s pretty uncommon. I think even men who love their stay at home wives tend to undermine how much they do. (Plus, it’s also rare these days …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:08 PM
2

Well, I was thinking about women with the thick ass and thighs and flat or mostly flat stomach, and toned arms. Women who work out and don’t starve themselves. Not women with guts. A lot of white men think a size 6 woman with thick thighs and a big ass is fat. I’m just lucky I don’t really like white guys anyway. I don’t see that many legit fat people, male or female. Mostly thicc girls and Dad bods.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 12:10 AM
2

Don’t forget handsome black men and Latinos! Not all men who like bigger women are unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 11:57 PM
27

Jeez it’s been so long since I heard that word. It’s not even that they’re not doing their hair. They’re not brushing their teeth. It’s so nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:37 PM
98

No. I dated twenty five years ago and I’m dating now, and I can assure you that a lot has changed. For some perspective, I was in my late twenties when I got my first cell phone, in my thirties when I got a Smartphone and joined Facebook, in my forties before Tinder was mainstream. When I first tried OLD, around 2000, I had to mail in a photo of myself. People didn’t even have digital cameras, let alone Smartphones. Certain things haven’t changed. There were always double standards around sex, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:18 PM
15

This is one of the hardest things to accept, but we must.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:08 PM
12

LMAO. I think even a hamster would give up after about four tries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:26 PM
35

It’s true. Men have always been shit, but my horrible dating stories from 20 years ago were nothing like this. Awful was “he cheated on me”, not this insane psychological torture. Plus anal was not common and certainly not expected, slapping and spitting on women were strictly for the kink community and not mainstream, and men brushed their teeth and wiped their asses, especially before sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:43 PM
19

One dude I dated claimed that love can only be mutual. It’s one thing to tell a woman that you don’t love her, but a whole other level of fuckery to tell her that her love isn’t real because you don’t love her back. The man wouldn’t even let me have my own feelings. FFS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:34 PM
10

They can still pretend it never happened. A man could be living with a woman for twenty years and have a house and children with her and have lived their entire lives as a couple, and then one day wake up and claim they’re just friends. It’s obviously crazy, but men are gaslighting sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:31 PM
1

Again, we don’t marry everyone we chat with. People tend to marry those of similar education and class. That is a fact. That people are friendly with the guy who pumps their gas or the woman who cleans their house is irrelevant. Sure, a heart surgeon or judge might encounter a lot of service workers and chat with them. In rare situations this chat might lead to marriage. It’s not common.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 01:41 AM
1

I completely agree with you. We have people here who seem to think male doctors only marry female doctors because they’re there, as if there aren’t a thousand other women there too, and people who think male lawyers have the same kinds of interactions with their female lawyer colleagues that they do with the barista at the cafe in the lobby. That is not how real life works, despite how much we want to pretend that socioeconomic status doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:54 AM
1

Yes. And they have polite and brief interactions with them. Working on a merger or a litigation file for months with a colleague establishes a much more close relationship, no matter many coffees you drink. And PS, lawyers usually get their secretaries to liaise with service workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:47 AM
0

Chit chat and friendship aren’t marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:42 AM
1

Lover and partner are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:36 AM
2

It’s proximity but it’s also compatibility. A doctor who works at a hospital will be in close contact with all sorts of people. He’s most likely to marry another doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:34 AM
1

But it isn’t as easy. I know that romantic comedies want to convince us otherwise but most people marry someone from the same socioeconomic background. For a lawyer from a long line of lawyers, it is rarely worth the family and career drama to marry the maid or even the legal secretary. Class matters way more than people like to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:27 AM
1

You think a lawyer has the same interactions with the barista he sees for a minute few times times a day than he does with a colleague? A lot of lawyers are at work 80 hours per week.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:19 AM
1

Yes. Most of the people I know are doctors. A lot are specialists and surgeons. Many are still technically students well into their thirties, though they are getting paid. And contrary to what many men here think, they marry each other. It’s not like these guys are settling down with career baristas.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:13 AM
69

She was SO beautiful. Still is. What a waste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:06 AM
1

Are you kidding? The world is full of gorgeous women, and very few of them are working models. That means that Instagram and other social media are crawling with women trying to market themselves. Almost none of them “bag” high status men. Most of the Instagram models I know are with losers who are also trying to market themselves on Instagram. Also, having a bit of money is not the same thing as having value. Most high value men don’t even use social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 09:58 PM
1

Are you kidding? Pro athletes are largely womanizing illiterates. They might have money but that doesn’t mean they’re high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:39 PM
3

An educated woman from a good family wouldn’t go near a pro athlete. Are you kidding? I’d be a laughing stock. I want a Barack Obama, not a Steph Curry. And the Obamas of the world don’t marry influencers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:02 PM
1

All the women I know have multiple degrees, as do their husbands. Most of these couples met in medical school or law school. (Their houses are immaculate l, by the way. They have housekeepers). Women who are surgeons and judges don’t want men with “a degree”. This post has nothing to do with a dude and his BComm. It’s about highly successful women tending to pair with highly successful men, which is a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 07:40 PM
36

There are men who don’t watch porn, or have seen it/watched it in the past and aren’t into it, or found it damaging. People like to act like whatever depraved or wrong shit they’re doing is universal. It’s like when people are caught using the n-word and then insist that everyone is racist. It’s so pathetic that they need to try to drag everyone else down instead of just admitting they’re wrong in some way and trying to improve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:20 PM
79

I found a great women-only general contracting business. I’m so sick of creeps coming over to do jobs and spending way too long here. And they ALWAYS text afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:15 PM
1

I’ve never needed a man’s help to open a jar and I’m not afraid of spiders. There’s really not much point to them at all lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:13 PM
2

I’m not sure what you mean by slutty vibe. But in any case, you really can’t tell. A woman can have manners like something out of Downton Abbey and still sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:12 PM
305

It’s kind of pick-me behavior if we’re honest with ourselves. Why write a brilliantly witty response instead of just “fuck off”? Or ignoring? I used to write these savage responses, but then I started to ask myself why. On some level we want these guys to know that the woman they’re disrespecting is smart and funny. They don’t care. They don’t care how witty you are or how well you write. And they’re probably not sharp enough to get most of these clapbacks anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 05:58 PM
36

I hate him and I hate that you and so many women have had this exact experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:31 PM
76

Men who are disgusted by pussy don’t deserve sex, wives or children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:28 PM
39

You’ve gotta love the logic of men who don’t want small tits, don’t want women who are over 110 pounds and don’t want a woman with implants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:27 PM
85

So sad. I know a couple that finally married after THIRTY years together. Lord knows why she even wanted to marry him. He’s not good enough for her. And he obviously didn’t want to marry her because it took an ultimatum. They actually do seem quite happy now. They’ve since become grandparents and are really enjoying that. I just hope she outlives him and enjoys his money, ‘cause she earned it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:03 AM
92

Ugh no. Nooo. I’m lucky to come from penetration quite easily (one of the perks of aging) so it’s not so much about my orgasm, but I want a man I want to desire me the way that I want him. If I’m really into someone, I cannot wait to go down on him and give him all the pleasure. Isn’t that the point of sex? Enjoying each other’s bodies, experiencing all those amazing feelings together? If he doesn’t love your body and love sex with you, you shouldn’t be having sex with him. I don’t understand th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:35 AM
47

Oh sis, no. I’ve met plenty of loser LVM even who loved it. Men who love women love doing it. And a man who loves you will love doing it with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:03 AM
185

I think a lot of women are overestimating money in the early evaluation. Him paying for things means nothing. Especially if he has a lot of money. Also, the bar is so low in general that men not acting like total pigs makes women swoon. “He planned a picnic, didn’t rape me, and he asked to take me out again” is no reason to be excited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:00 AM
196

Plenty of men LOVE going down on women. Even trash LVM. I do not understand how women tolerate this. I had one friend who said her boyfriend was “a bit of a prude” and elaborated that he didn’t go down on her. Yet she went to sex parties with this guy. A prude. Right. Turns out he was engaged to another woman the whole three years they were “dating” too. Any man who doesn’t do oral either doesn’t care about his partner and/or thinks women are disgusting. And he belongs in the trash. I don’t want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:55 AM
5

It seems to me like you guys just want to cling to a very specific idea of what women are attracted to, so then you can hate them for not looking like the “Chads” you’re so infatuated with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/20 04:57 PM
15

Ugh it’s so horrible I can’t even. He was on his back and I was on top. We finished and he got up and I saw and smelled it. I was horrified and mortified and he either didn’t notice or didn’t care. It’s all just so shocking and disgusting. WTF is wrong with these guys?! My friends still bug me about it and I’m still so embarrassed and grossed out. And I’m not the one who doesn’t wipe my ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:20 PM
27

My dog cuddles better than any man ever could. She does somehow manage to hog the bed even though she’s six pounds, but I don’t mind. Most men cuddle like they’re drowning and I’m buoyant, they sweat, thrash around, snore, and hog the covers. Three quarters of the time I’ve tried sleeping with a man, I’ve ended up on my couch. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:03 PM
10

It was three years ago and I still can’t even believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:56 PM
10

Sometimes. And then I remember that the best lover I ever had (an educated, handsome, wealthy man with a huge dick and magic hands) got shit all over my sheets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:45 PM
17

Awful. I can’t imagine a woman doing this kind of thing. And if she did, she’d probably feel badly about it. I broke one man’s heart, twenty five years ago. He was my first boyfriend. I didn’t break up with him as gently as I should have, because I had no relationship experience and had no idea what I was doing. I STILL feel bad about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:40 PM
1

Sigh. Like I said, I only have sex with men I’m attracted to. Call that a 10 if want. This number thing is weird. Maybe I’m just too old to get it but this isn’t how people talk about other people in real life. This has been interesting but I’m done.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 10:01 PM
1

I’m not sure the point of the question then, since most women have sex with people they’re attracted to. The problem here seems to be that a lot of men insist that every woman’s idea of a 10 looks the same, despite what women are saying. My friends always tease me for liking “ugly” guys, but obviously I don’t see them as ugly. I literally swipe left on any men over 5’10” and think men look weird with hair. I’m rarely attracted to white men. “Attractive” is completely subjective, and we seem to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:33 PM
1

I couldn’t tell you that. I don’t rate people and have never heard of it outside of Reddit. I date guys I’m attracted to, but that doesn’t mean you or anyone else would think they’re attractive. I have had total strangers ask me why I’m with such an ugly guy, if that answers your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:19 PM
1

I personally can’t give you a number because I don’t rank people’s looks that way. But I can assure you I’ve been attracted to men you wouldn’t say are conventionally attractive. I’m short, so I don’t like to date tall men. And I like bald. My type is basically short, bald and brown. Ben Kingsley esque. I doubt anyone here knows who that is because he’s over thirty. I actually DON’T tend to like tall conventionally attractive white guys with hair. The only conventional preference I guess would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 05:59 PM
6

Mine was 5’2”, covered in acne scars, and had a gap between his two front teeth. He also happened to have a really small dick. I was infatuated with him. He’a great dancer and sexy as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 05:57 PM
3

I’m in my forties and no one has ever asked. I’d be appalled. Not because of any shame but because it’s a rude, tacky thing to ask. People in this sub are just the weirdest I’ve ever witnessed on the internet. Asking about “n count” isn’t a thing in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 07:10 AM
15

Exactly. It’s like the men on here don’t understand real life and how attraction actually works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 06:11 AM
93

Yeah I have a friend who is in a LTR with a man she wants to marry, who has told her to her face that he doesn’t want to get married. She knows she needs to end it but admits she’s not strong enough. I give her props for knowing what’s what but I do hope she finds that strength sooner rather than later. Eventually she’ll end it and wish she’d done it sooner. Oh, and one more lesson: men will fuck women they think are repulsive, so don’t even take any “feeling sexy” confidence away from someone d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:42 AM
10

Iris has a little cottage in a rural area. It’s very cute but I think the whole point is that it’s supposed to be modest. That’s why she’s so excited to stay at the other house. I agree with the rest though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:27 AM
199

If he wants to go out with you, he’ll ask. If he wants to get married, he’ll ask. If he loves you, you’ll know. If you’re at all confused about how he feels or where it’s going, he’s not into you and it’s not going anywhere. And most importantly, you already know all of this, so stop pretending that it’s confusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:21 AM
9

Ugly people cheat all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 01:08 AM
3

I’ll only date men I’m attracted to. I’ve never heard anyone off of Reddit use a number system.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 12:58 AM
1

A 33 year old who hooks up with a teenager isn’t a high quality person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 11:51 PM
29

This is like saying “She’s a vegetarian and still doesn’t eat meat”, and acting like that’s inconsistent or weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:44 PM
2

Nurturing mothers who are also kinky virgins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:11 PM
5

Getting good support for mental health problems is hard work. It can take years to find a good therapist or the right meds. And yeah it’s extra hard when you’re already depressed. But women do it. Men want a quick fix. And I bet if you actually handed them a skilled and accessible therapist, they’d cancel after the first appointment. They really just want a babe to listen to their problems and then suck their dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:07 PM
38

I always tell them what I’m wearing and then they get upset because I’m not actually in lingerie. Sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:40 PM
3

Cry me a river. Men who were supposed partners or friends never cared to listen to me either. And they expect random women to listen to their problems. (Well, hot young women at least).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:39 PM
57

Because men need women and don’t actually choose to stay single, and, as usual, they’re projecting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:32 PM
4

I have “friends” who text me nonstop telling me how much they want to hang out. I tell them when I’m available, ask when they are, make suggestions, and then it’s crickets until a week later when they text me to tell me how much they miss me, how we should “make a plan” and so on. And on and on we go. Some people did this for YEARS of us never ever seeing each other and me thinking I must be insane until I finally couldn’t take anymore and blocked them. I don’t know if people like this are flake…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:00 AM
7

Ugh. I’d feel sorry for these kinds of people, because they’re clearly miserable, but they hurt me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:39 PM
11

I feel like I could’ve written this. I feel this so hard. I hate that I have to stop myself from doing nice things for people. I think some people are so miserable that they’re just incredibly uncomfortable with any sort of kindness. A former female friend once said to me “I can’t handle your kindness. It makes me feel bad”. Just a couple of months ago, I went to a spinning class and told the instructor afterward “Thanks! It was a great class!” He backed away from me saying “Um...whatever”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:15 PM
20

Same. I haven’t had much interest in dating in a long time. But I’ve applied FDS principles to my female friends. Just this week I ended three friendships with women who’ve flaked on me repeatedly. Just as I don’t want a guy keeping me around as an option, I don’t want friends who tell me all the time that we should hang out but refuse to commit to plans. I’m just sick of spending any of my time or energy on people who don’t value me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 11:10 PM
51

I once had a boss who’d refer to his girlfriends as simply “Asian”. Like “I’m having dinner with my Asian”. “I just met a gorgeous new Asian”. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:55 PM
32

Bingo. The worst man I ever dated used to say shit like “when are you going to cook for me and make me feel like a man? I’d tell him he shouldn’t need me or anyone else to make him feel like a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:51 PM
9

They’re not even together?! Oh hell no! I’m not even down with kids always getting the dad’s name when he’s around. But if he’s not around just WHY? A lot of women justify taking their husband’s names so they’ll all have the same name. But then you have these situations where a single parent and her child won’t have the same name. The kid has a name of a sperm donor he or she will never meet. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:14 PM
2

Every family is different. According to Jewish law/tradition, a convert is supposed to be accorded the absolute highest respect, because it’s a very long and difficult process and those who’ve gone through it are obviously very serious and devoted. At the same time, though, there are different sects of Judaism, and each one has its own conversion process and the stricter people wouldn’t accept a conversion from a less strict branch of the religion. (For example, I know a woman who had a reform c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:43 PM
7

I think his response was great. You say you’ve been together almost a year. Has he said anything about your future or the fact that his family wants him to marry someone Jewish? I can tell you as a Jew whose family is very traditional that it can be a big deal. Plenty of Jewish men marry non Jewish women (and vice versa) but in most of the cases I know, the woman converted. (It’s much more common for women to convert. Has to do with whether or not you plan to have children). I think you need to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:21 AM
30

A reminder, if anyone needs one, that men aren’t our friends. Except maybe gay men or in the very rarest of cases. A male “friend” literally just told me that he will not even consider hanging out with me without the possibility of sex. And sex is absolutely not on my agenda, with him or anyone else. I mean, I appreciate the honesty for once but damn. Doesn’t matter how badly you might need a human being to talk to—it’s all But muh dick. Meanwhile, my best friend of many years is a lesbian. Who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 11:45 PM
2

Even the ones who wanted kids are fine. I know a lot of women who wanted kids but don’t have any. Some are married but just couldn’t conceive. Some of these spent years and a lot of money trying. Some didn’t meet anyone with whom to try. It’s a loss, but they’re okay. Life rarely turns out exactly how we’d like it to. It’s hard when you don’t get what you want, but what can you do... The older childless women I know are doing okay. They have their friends, their hobbies, their pets, their travel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:37 AM
30

This. There’s really no such thing as alphas and betas. Hard left swipe on any man who refers to himself as an alpha on an app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:22 AM
8

I’m not a Shallon apologist. I thought she was trash the first time I saw one of her videos. Everything about her is tacky, starting with the fact that her entire livelihood is based on celeb gossip. Please note that I said that dating younger men isn’t a good look. It sounds like she is indeed a predator if she deliberately seeks out much younger men because they’re inexperienced. I didn’t realize that she did that, because I’ve only seen half of one of her videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:50 PM
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I don’t think it’s predatory in quite the same way that it is when the genders are reversed. It’s not the best look though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:17 PM
55

I don’t know why anyone would even want to marry someone who’s dragging his feet. The last woman you mentioned is the only one with a partner who wants her. I guarantee the other husbands are cheating or want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:07 PM
5

Early forties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:04 PM
18

He probably went silent because it’s a weird thing to say to your doctor. Doesn’t change the fact that men suck in bed though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:35 PM
2

OMG what? I was weirded out at even him FaceTiming while running errands. I don’t even know what to say about seeing someone actually get arrested. I probably would’ve hung up and thrown my phone in a sewer. I’m glad everyone is okay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:50 PM
12

What bullshit. Every woman has had the experience of moaning/screaming “Right there. Don’t stop”, and he instantly moves his fingers away. They don’t want women to enjoy sex. They might say they do. But they don’t. They think women who enjoy sex are “whores”. Men want inexperienced yet sexy women who somehow know how to please them and never enjoy sex but are still happy to do it whenever they want. And as if any woman would tell a guy to watch porn to learn how to please her. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:32 PM
41

I think my biggest complaint about men, sexually speaking, is the constant nagging for a threesome. With another woman, of course. I might try one with two men, but of course they’re horrified by that idea. I’ve explained that I’m straight and don’t even want to kiss a woman. (Trust me, nothing in this world would make me happier than being sexually attracted to women. But I’m not). They don’t care. They insist that all women are at least a little bi, that I’ll like it if I try it, or at least t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:26 PM
8

And when women don’t eat, they complain. Men are incapable of being happy. At least he refers to dates and whole plates of food though. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:17 PM
2

Don’t you find that your evenings and weekends are busy with chores and homemaking and hobbies though? Even when I’ve been in relationships I’d usually only have time to see him every second Saturday. I’ve always been way too busy and/or tired to go on a date on a Friday night, and I don’t work full-time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:51 AM
3

I mean, why would we? 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:15 AM
17

I understand the desire to do this, but it’s just a waste of time and energy. The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:24 PM
10

Sometimes I do, but it’s because I don’t have enough good friendships. I never feel lonely and think that I really wish I was with a man. There’s definitely a desire for more friends though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:14 PM
3

Yikes. One of my friends has a really cool short haircut for a long time. She’s mentioned before that her husband prefers it long. Guess what? He’s still madly in love with her and attracted to her and devoted to their family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:37 PM
13

Any guy who does this is a no value loser with too much time on his hands. It’s so funny how low value people think that everyone is like them and that their behavior is normal. Believe it or not, plenty of men have never used Instagram. Some don’t even know what it is. It could just be my age but in my peer group it is not remotely normal to save pictures of strangers or even to constantly look at pictures of strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:22 PM
1

What is the right thing to do when someone keeps asking you to hang out and you don’t want to? I been avoiding this person and making excuses for nearly a year. Personally, I wouldn’t ask someone to hang out with me more than once. I’d be embarrassed. I don’t understand this kind of clueless or desperation or lack of pride, or whatever is going on. At this point I feel like I need to just say “I don’t want to hang out with you. Please stop asking me”. Though I know that that would be considered …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:56 PM
2

Oh ok lol. That makes more sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:30 AM
0

Okay. I personally haven’t experienced any difference based on country of origin and I think these kinds of generalizations are a really bad idea. The original question is just completely weird, imo, as is much of the discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:20 AM
14

This is extremely common on OLD. It’s full of unicorn hunters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:16 AM
4

No, it’s not a British thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:13 AM
50

She’s skinny with big tits. I thought this was considered ideal. Do men even know what they want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:45 PM
5

They care about the weather? What does that have to do with how they treat women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:37 PM
24

Who wants an illiterate man anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:51 PM
5

18 is so young. At 18, I’d never even been on a date or kissed anyone. At that age, my whole life was about school. My parents didn’t even let me have a summer job. No one I knew was in a serious relationship. I only know one person who married before 30. Most were older than 35. Different strokes, I know, but I find it hard to imagine thinking about marriage at this age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:43 PM
26

I’m happy for you that you’re in love. And I’m not a fan of hormonal birth control. It’s also good that he’s responsible about condoms. But he really shouldn’t have any say in your birth control. It’s your body and he doesn’t get to tell you what to do or “refuse” you taking the pill if it’s what you want. In general, I’m skeptical that a progressive woman can have a successful relationship with a man who is anti choice. And eighteen is waaaay too young to get engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:56 PM
20

No. Men are largely terrible everywhere. Misogyny and patriarchy are universal. I’d argue that at least in western countries we sort of pretend to care about these things. Russia? Domestic violence is condoned by law in Russia. I’ve dated more men from Brazil than from any other country and they can be as awful as the worst men from anywhere. I’ve dated western men and immigrants from all over the world. There are good and bad people from every country and culture but this is not a good generali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:25 PM
40

It isn’t regarded that way at all. Does this myth come from period dramas? Because most of the male characters in them are lousy people. Don’t forget the Queen’s own son is a pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:08 PM
39

Don’t let a posh accent fool you. Don’t even let good manners fool you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 06:07 PM
47

Okay this might not be popular, but I once called 911 on my neighbor and her boyfriend. She’d just moved in, and I heard constant fighting. I couldn’t hear what was said, but it was him screaming and her speaking, or crying. I was just out of an emotionally abusive relationship and it was horribly triggering. I didn’t know if there was physical abuse but I heard a lot of banging. One night I called 911 and said I thought there was a DV situation. The cops came right away. I heard my neighbor say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:50 PM
95

I was assaulted by a homeless woman on a bus a couple of years ago, a few hours before a scheduled first date. I was sore and upset about it and texted the guy to see if we could reschedule. He was super understanding and actually helpful, but then of course offered to “come over”. I was like “thanks for all your advice but I still don’t actually know you”. They’re always thinking about their dicks and they know they’re more likely to get them wet when a woman is vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:26 PM
138

I saw a bunch of people complaining in a news subreddit that it picks on men and should apply to women too. It does. No one bothered to read the article lol. It’s gender neutral legislation. Of course the headline specified dick pics because women don’t send men unsolicited pictures of their genitalia. Men are babies who don’t read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:22 PM
25

I do this all the time. To everyone. Like if someone is taking days to respond to me, I stop making it a priority to respond to them. Then they notice and they always say I’m being immature and keeping score. I don’t see it that way. I treat everyone well off the bat but if I’m not getting that back, I stop trying. Most of the time it’s not actually deliberate. People gravitate toward pleasure and avoid pain. It’s pretty basic stuff. I can’t tell you how often people (usually men, but women too)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:25 PM
37

I went through a phase where I watched stuff like that, because I hated myself. I was ashamed about it. It’s fucked up and I knew it was fucked up. I never told anyone. Certainly wouldn’t have made a public video about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:18 PM
85

Practically every male celeb has been caught cheating and it’s all fine, while Meg Ryan’s career was ruined over it. Same goes for other actresses. No one should be cheating. But the double standard blows my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:11 PM
11

Ugh, shut up, McNulty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:08 PM
12

They’re way cuter than 95% of men too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:35 AM
7

One of the coolest things about dating someone who speaks another language is the opportunity to learn it. What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:13 PM
23

I’m in my mid forties and, since I’ve pretty much always believed in FDS theory, I’ve pretty much always been alone. I’d be lying to you if I said it was easy. It’s very hard sometimes. Not so much loneliness as all the societal messages telling me I’m weird or should settle and all the pick-mes acting smug and like I’m tragic. This isn’t the easiest life. You have to be pretty tough to live it. My parents and most of my family are very high quality people with good relationships and of course I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 09:21 PM
24

THIS. Many years ago I started dating a guy who was really into me, and told me that he’d dumped his FWB when he met me. It wasn’t just that he had a FWB, but that he discarded her the minute he met someone he thought was dating material. I was appalled. He could not understand. I tried to explain to him that it’s not enough that he liked me. The fact that he could treat someone else that way was a major red flag. And guess what? He started treating me like shit too eventually. I should’ve liste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:38 PM
71

I never understand all the discussions in the PPD sub about number of past sexual partners. I’ve never had anyone, HVM or LVM, ask me. If anyone ever asked I’d be like WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:24 PM
7

I don’t know what you mean by “the gross stuff”. But I don’t know any men who spend their free time doing meal prep or studying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:19 AM
76

I’d like less duplication. I wish people would do a quick scroll through recent posts before posting. I see more than one screenshot of the same thing most days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:41 AM
2

I know men from basically every culture and none are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:21 AM
86

Men are boring. When they’re not at work or the gym, they have nothing to do. I’ve had periods of twelve plus months where I was unemployed and single, and every day was full. I cook, I take care of my home, I see friends, I read, I wander around, I travel, I volunteer, I take classes, I go to concerts and events... I could not work for the rest of my life and I’d be able to fill every single day. Hell, in the past six months, I haven’t worked, I’ve barely seen anyone, nothing is open and I’m ST…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:19 AM
2

Okay? My point was that women value men for things other than their appearance, while men do not. Effort or not, plenty of women are attracted to ugly men for reasons other than their looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:46 AM
14

I think it’s a scary way to live. A lot of these women are essentially homeless. They’re usually staying with a man, or staying somewhere as an influencer. That can be taken away at any moment. I don’t know what the end game is. To snag a rich husband? For every Instagram babe, there are literally a million more. The likelihood of an Instagram babe finding a decent man to take care of her, or even landing a legit modeling job, is very low. And all I see in the meantime is these women going to gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:57 PM
97

I’m extremely moody. But in observing others, I’ve noticed that men are WAY moodier than women. And more importantly, that their bad moods are taken out on others and are often violent. When women are in low moods, they seem to just feel bad. I believe that women internalize and men externalize. You can see this difference in how men and women react to rejection. Men lash out at the woman, call her flawed, call her names, possibly threaten to harm her or do harm her. While women will beat themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:22 PM
30

I see some of these women on Instagram. One is someone I used to know casually. Now she travels all over the world, doing OF and flaunting her body and her stuff. Yes, they get a lot of freebies, but do they actually have anything? I do envy the clothes and the vacations but what happens when it dries up? Do they have any savings? Any income? Any skills with which to earn an income? There’s a reason why kept women are rarely given cash. They’re given stuff, because ultimately it’s worthless. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:08 PM
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Like can you imagine destroying a painting someone did, or deleting a manuscript that they’d written? It’s the same. How awful. It’s beyond a possession; it’s someone’s passion and dedication. What a massive red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:55 PM
7

Pranks are for children. Annoying children. I’ve never understood them at all. It’s why I’ve never understood why people like Jim from The Office or celebs famous for pranks like George Clooney. I don’t want anything to do with any man or woman or child over like five who thinks it’s funny to hurt or bother people. I’m so sorry this happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:52 PM
2

They beg and guilt trip women for nudes, and get angry when they don’t get them, yet at the same time they hate the women who do send them. Men’s issues around women and sex make it impossible for them to ever be happy. Pathetic people. I’ve never sent nudes. (I don’t even send men photos of myself. I have better things to do with my time than take selfies). Men won’t be happy either way, so I might as well keep my privacy, my time/energy, and my dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:47 PM
23

Yup. Everyone around here advertises the “Kylie package”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:08 AM
23

And then they do OF because they think it’s a safe and not damaging alternative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:43 AM
29

What fresh hell is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:32 AM
152

This is such a good point. Sometimes women are with unattractive men because they’re insecure and wrongly think less conventionally attractive men will treat them better. But a lot of women legit find men sexy even if they’re not conventionally attractive because they’re talented or brilliant or charming. I’ve been into some fug guys because they were incredibly smart or because I admired some talent they had. It’s so sad that women can’t have that. And even when a man is with some brilliant wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:59 AM
6

Exactly. If you meet a man you like, and he’s not texting or he doesn’t follow up after a date, FDS will tell you to delete his number and move on. We don’t want men who don’t want to be with us. There is nothing in FDS about manipulating or ensnaring men. If they’re not feeling it, we wish them well and forget about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:46 AM
42

I did go on super low effort dates at one point. But I put in no effort myself. Once I met someone for coffee during a day of running errands. I showed up with my dry cleaning and groceries. Another time I met someone for a quick drink on my way home from the gym and then told him I had to get home to get ready because I had plans later. Even then, I could not justify putting on heels or makeup, or even taking a shower. I won’t bother at all now, because it’s still a waste of my time. But I cann…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:38 AM
328

He “identifies” as 30s. 🙄 You can feel young, sure, but you’re still 51. And I guarantee he looks 60.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:30 AM
6

Okay fine, but then why get engaged? I do know some couples who’ve been together twenty, thirty, even fifty years who never married. It’s not what I’d want but I don’t doubt their commitment. It’s the ones who’ve been engaged for a decade that I side-eye. They obviously do think marriage is important or desirable, or they think it has a certain societal approval that they want. But they obviously lack the commitment or initiative to just go to city hall and do it. They obviously aren’t comfortab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:28 AM
18

Reddit is the only social media I use and FDS is the only sub I post in. I occasionally find myself starting to browse other subs while I’m here, and I stop myself. I deleted Facebook about six months ago because I found that it was bad for me. But I was still on Instagram. After discovering FDS, I did a lot of thinking, and I realized that none of the truly high value people I know, male or female, is on social media. Even when it’s not toxic, it’s a massive waste of time. So I deactivated ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:23 AM
36

According to Shallon Lester, she’s barely literate. Don’t shoot the messenger, I don’t know anything about Beyoncé and don’t think I know any of her songs. But I have heard from several gossip sources that she’s not bright at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:47 PM
5

I know of a few couples where the man works outside the home and does all the chores and cooking. They seem like much happier couples than most. I do think they have a lot of sex though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:43 PM
42

Unfortunately, misogyny is so ingrained. Even among women. You’ll notice that even when people are disgusted by something an awful man does, they’ll bring up his mother and how she raised him poorly. I’ll never forget a story years ago: A woman I knew told me about a male acquaintance who killed himself just when his wife was about to have their baby. Her immediate assumption was that he must have found out that she cheated on him and the baby wasn’t his. I thought that was such a bizarre assump…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:52 PM
48

Beautiful!! I got some for myself and my dog. She didn’t really appreciate them, but oh well. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:44 PM
3

They all look exactly like I thought they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:36 PM
25

Yeah I had a boyfriend once who’d always tell me how perfect my body was...but he liked bigger tits. I was like Then find a woman with bigger tits. 🤷🏻‍♀️ He was obese himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:19 PM
22

Imagine telling on yourself like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:36 PM
54

OMG. His wife. He shouldn’t be talking about any sex partner that way, but damnnn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:35 PM
42

I’ve said this before: this is new. Men have always been problematic for many reasons but this refusal to take care of basic hygiene was not a thing twenty years ago, or even ten years ago. Even the biggest losers would shower and brush their teeth, especially before seeing a woman. This is deliberate. This is men acting out because women are evolving past them. Instead of leveling up to meet us, they’re digging in and trying to be as disgusting as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:32 PM
175

I once spent New Years Eve at a party with a guy I was seeing and he introduced me to everyone as his girlfriend. The next day we were talking on the phone and he cried to me about how badly he wants to meet someone because he’s tired of being single. I was hurt and confused, but I mostly just thought he was crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:06 AM
24

lol I’m like 25 years post “wall” and it’s not hard. Well, I mean it is hard to find a decent man but it’s hard for every woman. Getting matches and messages is not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:03 AM
265

Okay she’s an idiot but him claiming they’re not dating is just sociopathic. Unless this is one of those scenarios where she’s insane and imagined the whole relationship, I’m sure they were dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:01 AM
21

This bitch needs to watch Outlander or something. Burly Highland warriors carried purses. (Over their kilts). It’s just a bag. Grow up lady. (Sorry, I’ve re-watching Outlander lol).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:23 PM
131

lol this loser. And women are the “gold diggers”. 🙄 She’s absolutely in the right here. He has no right to anything but her companionship, if she’s okay with that. But I hope that this makes her realize that he’s not worth staying with. She deserves a man who wants to marry her, as well as one put together enough to have his own house and his own insurance. This dude is just using her. (And he’ll change his tune about marriage in a split second if he falls for a broke nineteen year old hostess a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:10 PM
8

I have enjoyed it on occasion. A lot. But it’s a lot of work and it’s complicated. It’s not really worth it. And men’s attitudes toward it are so problematic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:22 PM
30

This. I’ve done it. And I’ve even loved it. (With one partner who did it very very well). I still do not want to do it anymore and I don’t want to have to explain why or listen to begging or bitching about it. If any guy ever asks, I’m just saying it’s a hard no, always and forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:18 PM
77

Porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:48 AM
33

I think the current terms are “flight attendant” and “bartender”. “Male stewardess” just makes me laugh. My friend knows it’s not the correct terminology but we like misandrist humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:31 AM
43

I once went out with a guy who called women “shape shifters” because of makeup and wardrobe. When I (stupidly) saw him again, I met him bare faced with wet hair and in cutoffs and a tank top. (Still looked hot af). Needless to say, he didn’t like that either. (Still tried you fuck me though). Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:30 PM
157

I hate how BJs are expected but but a man eating a woman out is some kind of saint. I hear that a lot of men won’t even touch pussy anymore. I consider oral sex tit for tat. One shitty ex of mine would take a break from PIV and be like “Ok my turn” and that was supposed to be my cue to suck his dick. He acted like PIV was something he was doing for my benefit, so me giving him head was the trade off for that. As if penetration isn’t pleasurable for men. WTF. I don’t understand that mentality at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:42 PM
270

My best friend always says “male stewardess” and it cracks me up so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:55 PM
7

I think this is why blocking is so important. I’m so sick of guys popping up as long as years after the last time I saw them. They never stop. They never go away. They always want to know that you’re still an option, even though there’s no reasonable or logical way that they could be. I haven’t been an option for any guy who’s popped up weeks or months or years after I saw him. The fact that they even keep my number is infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:46 PM
11

Those guys are drowning in models, they have zero incentive to look good or be good people. Every man’s dream. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:34 PM
40

I admit I have a morbid fascination with these guys and their bizarre behavior. But I feel like I could’ve gotten another degree in psychology with all the time I’ve wasted just reading their texts and wondering why they do this shit. Not wasting another second. Even a “hi” is getting blocked from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:09 PM
109

I did this with a guy last year. We’d been seeing each other for a month or so, but after awhile I could tell he wasn’t into me. He kept texting but seemed unwilling or unable to make any plans. Always excuses. I deleted his number and started seeing someone else. But he kept doing it. I would respond politely, partly out of curiosity. I couldn’t figure out what he was doing. Finally, about four months after the last time I’d seen him, I was like “Why do you keep texting me? We’re clearly not se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 09:43 PM
197

It’s because they do things for female approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:20 PM
75

Yeah I once had a party and this dude (who was brought by another guy I’d invited) asked me to set him up with my friend who was there. My friend was half his age, owned a house, had three degrees, an amazing job, brilliant, interesting, stylish. He lived on his mom’s basement. In his fifties. I don’t think he had a job. Both he and the guy who brought him were outraged when I said I didn’t think they were a good match. Like how are they this stupid?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:00 PM
69

They’re always like this, until they meet a woman they want to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:51 PM
43

I have no idea. I can’t imagine going to all that trouble and going through all that anxiety for a meal. A woman would have to be literally starving to bother, and what are the chances guys are asking out women who are eating out of trash cans. It’s ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:47 PM
54

It’s amazing how unkempt they are and, being in my forties, I can tell you it’s gotten a lot worse over the years. I haven’t always dated the most high quality guys, but twenty years ago it was unheard of for a men to show up on a date looking the way they do now. Men not clipping their nails, not brushing their teeth, not WIPING THEIR ASSES are everywhere now. I know that life is hard and a lot of people are depressed. I don’t always take care of myself. But if I’m doing anything with another p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:44 PM
14

Personally, I rarely show off body parts, but I do like to show off my shape. Not in anything skin tight, but just in clothes that are tailored to fit my body. My absolute favorite outfit is a simple wool or linen or silk sheath dress that flatters my curves. Or a pencil skirt and a cashmere sweater with a nice pair of heels. So elegant yet sexy. I rarely wear any skirts or dresses above the knee and almost never show cleavage anymore. But I do like high quality clothes in natural fabrics that f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:29 AM
17

Aw I love your mama. She sounds very wise. My mom isn’t much of a talker and mostly led me by example, but one thing is that neither of my parents ever pushed me into settling or gave me any grief for being single. They’ve always focused on my education, my life experiences and my ability to take care of myself. I know they’d like to see me in a happy relationship but they know that I’m way better off alone than in the wrong one. My mom also has exquisite taste and is responsible for me being a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:02 AM
11

I get Botox every three/four months, a chemical peel every month and occasional filler, but I don’t do much beyond that. I wash and condition my hair once per week. I don’t put any products in my hair and I’ve never brushed it. (It’s curly). I had laser hair removal years ago so I don’t shave. And I never wear makeup. If I want to look special, I’ll put on chapstick and curl my eyelashes. I get pedicures during the summer and the occasional manicure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:48 PM
73

I hate that I can’t even enjoy anything created by men because they’re all such rotten people. I’ve loved a lot of his books but stuff like this just sours everything good they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:41 PM
158

I’ve been with some LVM in my time, but I have to say none has ever made a big deal about periods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:52 AM
42

OMG what a freaking baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:33 AM
26

Oh man, now I have to go check!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:38 PM
6

What on earth is your problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:23 PM
128

She’s probably attracted to him and they had a good conversation, which is, sadly, actually better than how a lot of dates go. But there’s no way this guy thinks that was a “date”. She’s some chick he talked to in her car. The sad thing is that so many guys are so repulsive and can’t carry on a conversation that she’s excited about this dude. She might have had a great time but this wasn’t a date to him and it’s not going anywhere good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:21 PM
103

Bet it wasn’t the best date of his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:54 PM
3

Yes, I know, but this was a long time ago and I can’t remember what my profile said. I said a lot of things in it. Women don’t need to say a specific thing for men to take them seriously and want to be their best selves around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:49 PM
4

This is what men do when they want to pursue a woman they think highly of, that’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:33 PM
74

I once dated a guy who told me that he had me bookmarked on OkCupid for a year, but lost twenty pounds and got a new job before he messaged me. If they want to, they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:15 PM
240

Okay so I have a friend who once let a guy like this clean her apartment. Figured why not, she’d get a clean place out of it, right? Apparently he couldn’t clean for shit. They do a bad job cleaning even when it’s their kink. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 08:12 PM
0

There are millions of women in their thirties, forties and older who can’t pick up on blatant misogyny. People share posts here all the time from other subs that illustrate just that. Is this really the hill you want to die on? Picking on a literal child who is being grossly mistreated by a predator? Sure, 17 isn’t 13. And 13 isn’t 5. Who cares? This is a minor. She’s years away from having a fully functioning brain, and I don’t care how mature you think you were at 17. Why are we even discussin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:38 PM
10

I agree he’s stealing her youth. But I need to point out that young women who have lots of sex with young, hot men still get punished socially for it, and a lot more so than the “sad cougars” who are well past the point of caring what anyone thinks of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:29 PM
2

Yeah, I’m pretty sure all the very young women with much older men really like them. So what? I’m not going to get through to you. Please read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:43 PM
8

Asperger’s is a term that isn’t used anymore. It meant a mild form of autism. So I’m not sure what mild Asperger’s would be. A lot of men claim that they’re on the spectrum, but simply don’t know how to behave around others, or don’t care to behave properly. I don’t know if he’s diagnosed as on the spectrum and don’t know if you know either. Still, it’s not a reason to seek out a “partner” half your age. I’m so sick of all these men using “immaturity” or “social awkwardness” to justify this kind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:52 PM
11

Forty eight year old men who date women half their age aren’t good men. He doesn’t respect her or see her as a partner. Even the worst men can treat women well. Any 24 year old woman can find a 48 year old man who “really cares” about her. Give me a break. She’s not lucky. She’s been had. This is a massive age difference and it’s even worse because she’s barely an adult. This is problematic in every way and completely against FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:09 PM
10

This still sounds terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:52 PM
7

I mean, good for you for being so independent at 17. At 17, I had the mind and body of a little girl. Legally, she is a child. Scientifically/medically, her brain is years away from even being fully developed. These comments are unhelpful and unkind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:50 PM
7

She’s. a. child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:45 PM
49

I’ve experienced this as well. They want to have casual sex with women who have feelings for them more than they want to have casual set with women who want casual sex. It’s their Madonna/whore shtick, their egos, and a bonus bit of sociopathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:40 PM
7

It only works in rare cases. I’ve had some casual sex that was a positive experience, but most wasn’t. At the very least it needs to be a situation where the man is really into the woman and she’s not into him (but is attracted to him). And it’s always a bad idea when it goes on for awhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:31 PM
14

I’ll probably need my breasts removed at some point and plan to get them reconstructed larger, as I’m pear-shaped and would like to be more proportional. I’ve known this for as long as I’ve known I’m at high risk of getting breast cancer. That said, if a man ever suggested this to me or said anything other than “I support whatever you want to do”, I’d dump his ass. Imagine surviving breast cancer only to have to deal with this. FFS. The silver lining is that his family is piling on him. But he o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:50 PM
3

Yes. I’ll admit I’ve got some problems right now but having a man in my life most likely will only make things more difficult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:07 PM
149

I’ve noticed that men make weird sexual comments about my dog. If she’s grooming herself, it’s “lol she’s licking her pussy!!” If she licks my feet or legs, she’s a perv. If she’s chewing on a stick, they make innuendos about dick. It’s so juvenile and creepy. She’s a dog. Nothing she’s doing has anything to do with human sexuality. Can they NEVER stop thinking about sex?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:41 PM
55

I hope he gets her nice flowers and chocolate and then bails before she gets any further invested. He’s not into her. Either because she’s doing all the work or because he just isn’t, but probably both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:35 PM
10

A broke guy who wants to impress a woman or cares about a woman will be generous anyway. (There was a post here the other day about a pan handler begging till he got enough money to buy his girlfriend a burger). A rich guy who’s cheap or not into his date won’t be generous or make an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:07 PM
7

Jeez. Even if you’re not opposed to low effort dates, that’s unacceptably rude. Back when I would have met someone for a walk, I would NEVER have tolerated this. And I sure as hell wouldn’t have considered seeing him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:56 PM
41

Agreed. Plus, this is a really good time to focus on ourselves. Take a break from it, order a new vibrator, and use this time to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:35 PM
1

He’s definitely a HVM. He’s very lucky and he knows it, and his wife is lucky too. They’re a nice couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:31 PM
9

I have a cousin who is pretty ugly. He’s married to a lovely woman. She’s not gorgeous and sexy but she’s very pretty, and just the sweetest person. She also comes from money. My cousin is extremely successful, smart and interesting. He’s generous and funny. He and I had drinks once and he told me flat out: I know I’m not good looking so I have to work harder at everything else. And he does. It was so refreshing to see a man have a clue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:29 PM
16

Okay so when I was in my late twenties, this older guy hit me up on a dating site. I asked him why he was pursuing a woman so much younger than him, and he complained that women his age “aren’t very attractive”. I was so stunned, I lost my usual tact and blurted our “but neither are you!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:20 PM
8

I don’t know anything about this particular guy, but for me there are certain things I can forgive and certain things I can’t. Someone who has problems with tardiness but is working on it? Okay. Someone who uses racial slurs? Nope. I once invited a new friend over. He used a racial slur. I threw him out of my house and never spoke to him again. I can’t remember now what his name is. I don’t want someone like that in my life. Sure no one is perfect, but when people say “oh everyone uses the n wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:12 PM
14

I agree with you. Using a racial slur isn’t a mistake. If someone uses the n word around me, I’m walking away and never talking to them again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:07 PM
6

Anyone who says it is trash, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:34 PM
28

I find it so weird that people can be so invested in the lives of people they don’t even know. It’s weird when it’s legit celebrities and even more weird when it’s reality or YouTube “celebrities”. Maybe it’s just ‘cause I’m middle aged, but I don’t get it at all. I’d also argue it’s not very high value. Would we want a guy who was so invested in celebs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:57 PM
10

Even if you like her, I hardly think it’s evil. Its a simple observation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:50 PM
38

I used to send guys a link to a local escort service when they’d do this, and they’d get SO offended. “I don’t want a WHORE!!!” So cheap. So hypocritical. So misogynistic. And so stupid too, ‘cause I don’t know why they assume that a woman on OLD who will go over to their place for sex isn’t going over to other guy’s places too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:19 PM
19

I don’t know what’s worse: the dudes who want a free out call sex worker because they’re too lazy to leave the house, or the dudes who want a free in call sex worker because they “can’t host” (ie have roommates/live with their parents/still live with their ex/aren’t even single).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:16 PM
25

I don’t know who these people are but I completely agree. A person who treats you wonderfully but treats others badly isn’t a good person. A man could worship the ground I walk on, but if he’s rude to a salesperson or waiter, I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:12 PM
32

Evolution supports women having a series of younger partners. But men only care about science when it suits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:16 AM
51

Speaking of the dudes who don’t want kids or have kids and don’t want more, it’s so hilarious when a man who’s like 50 bitches and moans about how the 30 year old woman he’s dating wants kids and it’s ruining all their fun, or how he’s so scared she’s going to try to “trap” him with a pregnancy, blah blah, and then you casually suggest Hey man you’re fifty, why not date a woman closer to your age and you won’t even have to worry about this stuff. (And she’s still going to be way hotter than you)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:05 AM
197

I remember many years ago, a guy dumped me and broke my heart. I cried and cried in front of him. I went home and cried and talked it out for days. Then I felt better. He hit me up on Messenger to say hi and ask how I was doing. I said I was doing fine, which was true. (When I’m hurt, I let myself feel it so I can heal). He actually said: “Wow, you really know how to put a man in his place”. They’re crazy. They’re fucking crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:39 AM
99

The number of times a guy has tried to use a tragedy to get in my pants is absolutely sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:28 AM
116

Because ultimately they don’t want a pickme. LVM hate themselves, and hate the women who settle for them. They know they suck. They think women who settle for them are pathetic, even if those women are way out of their league but legit love them. I don’t want to belong to a club that would accept me as a member” — Groucho Marx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:26 AM
7

Ah thank you!! I was looking for something like this. I got a few this week since I started commenting. I just rolled my eyes and blocked but I’d rather not see the messages at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:46 PM
1

I think it’s always better to do too little. You build on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:53 AM
11

Almost all do. Sandra Bullock adopted hers, so that’s easier on the body. I think Nicole Kidman had a surrogate for one, but I’m pretty sure she’s also given birth. Salma, Halle, Julianne, JLo, Cate, Julia have all given birth. Being rich makes a huge difference in how you age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:47 AM
9

Yes. And any of these procedures changes how you look at yourself. When you get filler in one place, you’ll start to think you need it elsewhere. You see “flaws” that you never noticed before. I’m glad I’ve done what I’ve done but I really don’t recommend it for younger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:06 PM
7

I’ve had filler there. It helped a bit but not that much. I too have very deep set eyes. I think it’s a very hard area to “improve”. It’s obviously your choice what to do with your body but I think 19 is far too young to be considering something like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:41 PM
19

I think until late thirties at the earliest all you need is sunscreen, water and sleep. I do get Botox and filler and I’m not shy about it, but younger women don’t need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:49 PM
18

They’re like what scabs are to unions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:40 PM
15

I’m curious what procedures you’re referring to. Like Botox and filler? I know that young women are getting filler and it’s a terrible idea. They end up looking like older women trying to look younger. Think Kylie Jenner. Filler IS good for older faces but it’s very expensive to keep up. I was just thinking recently about how much it’ll cost me if I keep doing it. I kinda think putting that money toward vacations is a better idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:38 PM
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“4-5 months” makes me think he’s lying. Men will do this awhile —usually till they get laid— but an investment like that is the work of a complete psycho, not a garden variety LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:00 PM
11

This is just it. Men say I look so much younger than my age. But I don’t. I don’t look like I did as a 25 year old. They’re just simpletons and think hot = young and not hot = old. So they’ll assume an attractive woman in her forties is much younger. Honestly, women do this too. We’re all conditioned to associate youth with beauty. A woman once literally fell down when she heard my age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:50 PM
14

Well, yeah, in porn, you have 25-30 year old women in pigtails doing “barely legal” and any woman over 21 is a “MILF”. They have no idea how old anyone is. And yet they’re SoViSUal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:37 PM
184

I remember the first time I started dating a guy who did this. I thought it was so weird. When someone I literally just met is acting like we’re a couple, he’s either desperate or manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:29 PM
25

Time to stop being his friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:19 PM
114

This is sociopathic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:17 PM
4

Forty-five. Can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:55 PM
14

I really feel sorry for these guys. Are they going to lie on their death beds thinking about all the pussy they had? Life can be so rich and interesting. There’s so much to do, so much to learn and experience. They’re missing all of it. They’re just so hollow and boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:49 PM
1

You know what really irks me about these women? They complain nonstop amongst themselves about their shitty husbands, while lording their married status over single women like we’re pathetic losers. Sometimes quite cruelly. Then, if/when they finally decide to leave, they make some big reveal on social media about how their husband was actually a pedophile alcoholic abuser or whatever, and they were just lying to everyone the whole time they were being smug, and everyone is all Yass Queen you’re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:46 PM
3

My God. Everyone who had anything to do with this needs a bullet in the head. Irredeemable. That poor animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:24 PM
1

I agree with you, but I’ve also had good relationships fail because there was no chemistry. My longest relationship was with someone with whom I didn’t feel a spark, but I wanted it to work because of our compatible interests, shared values, etc. Ultimately, despite loving him, I wasn’t attracted to him at all. And he could tell. We’re good friends now, but that’s because it’s really all we ever were. In retrospect, as much as I bemoan the lack of HVM, I regret spending that long in a relationsh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:45 AM
30

I dated a guy whose idea of washing the dishes was to wash the exact dishes that he used, and nothing else. Like I’d cook, we’d eat, and then he’d take his plate and cutlery to the sink and wash them. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:24 AM
3

I have no interest in dating. But since hanging out here I’ve felt more confident, more disciplined and yet gentler with myself, more optimistic, and just overall so much happier. I know this sub is called Female Dating Strategy and we talk a lot about men, but I’ve been focusing on women, including myself. I don’t think I was ever much of a pickmesha but I still cared too much about men, and was way too generous and accommodating. Now, except for the HVM in my family and one ex boyfriend who is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:29 PM
72

I have a male casual friend who has been going on a few walk dates per week for the past couple of months and most are ending in sex. Blows my mind. I will say though that except for one of the women, none has wanted to see him again. Poor dude’s feelings keep getting hurt lol. I think they’re mostly LVW (possibly already in relationships) just looking for a fling. It’s funny to see him so bothered by it. I mean if he wants a relationship or even to not feel completely used, he can get to know w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:26 PM
453

Everything with men is projection. It’s always the ugliest ones who are most critical of our looks. It’s the ones with average to low income/assets who are afraid of gold diggers. It’s the shady cheaters who think we’re not loyal. Gorgeous men (not that there are many) don’t put down women’s appearances. Rich men don’t worry about women being after their money. When male celebrities or rich businessmen marry young women without a prenup, every Reddit dude with a net worth of under 100K talks abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:51 PM
6

It’s a line. I’ve heard it a hundred times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:55 AM
9

I certainly will!! I discovered this sub a few months ago and started posting, but then I cleared my cache one day and couldn’t find my Reddit info. Yesterday I set up a new account and decided that I’m only using Reddit for FDS going forward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:10 PM
150

I love this story. Amazing how this man offered you his coat and the average dude off an OLD site would just watch you shiver over your drink that he wouldn’t offer to pay for on a walk date. And then probably make some stupid comment about your nipples being hard and try to segue into suggesting sex. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:02 AM
35

It’s a sweet story. I’m sure no one here wants to be strung out on crack on the streets, but to have a partner who adores you and puts you first is the goal. And he did that in his way, despite all his struggles/flaws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:57 AM
20

Both of these things are true but not necessarily related. Women aren’t opting out because they can’t find men their age to date. They’re opting out because they’re not interested in finding a boyfriend or long term partner for their own reasons. A lot of these women still date, and they’re perfectly content to be “limited” to younger men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:31 AM
18

I’m not really looking for dating strategies because I’m not interested in dating. But I love this group so much. It’s a rare safe and supportive space. And the advice can be applied not just to men and dating but to all aspects of our lives. It’s about valuing and loving ourselves and putting ourselves first. I haven’t even thought of dating since I discovered this sub a few months ago, but I use the advice every day. I’m not taking nearly as much shit from friends, clients, strangers...anyone!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:14 AM
11

Sometimes I think about starting a general contracting business and employing most if not only female tradespeople. A lot of homeowners are single women and they don’t want random men in their homes or to deal with all the stuff you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:44 AM
9

They ruin literally everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:53 PM
8

I didn’t get it till my forties. It’s so random and has nothing to do with fitness or weight. I wish people would just lay off about our bodies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:12 PM
18

Last week I saw some dude on Instagram saying he wouldn’t “smash” Rachel McAdams because her elbows were gross. I can’t even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:11 PM
7

I’ve seen professional athletes up close. I’m talking 20 year old Olympic track medalists. They have cellulite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:08 PM
29

I remember when I was a hot little size 4 with curves, dating an obese man. (I thought he was brilliant). He told me I needed to exfoliate my elbows more. That was when I decided to stop dating men who aren’t as hot as I am. The uglier they are, the meaner and more critical they are too. They’re embarrassed and lashing out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:54 PM
54

I'm 45 and this is definitely true for me. I've always thought the vast majority of men are worthless and, while I know that there are good ones out there, I never really felt like investing my limited time and energy into finding one of them. I have wonderful friends who have been trying to find a good man for literal DECADES. Some of them have gone on three first dates a week for twenty-five years. By the time I was in my early thirties I was just like Fuck this, I have a life to live. I was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:43 PM
1

Back when I was way more accomodating than I am now, a guy asked me out and I said something like "Sounds fun! I'm busy this week but I'm pretty open on the weekend and next week." His response? "That's too much drama". These dudes seriously just want a free out-call sex worker with no other clients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:47 PM
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