Damn. Please leave him!!!

dandymalion · 2021-01-16T08:26:10+00:00

I spent my night reading through the relationship subreddits (cause I have no life, lol) and it just made me sad how many women are in these loveless, twisted and sick relationships thinking they can't leave. What makes it worst are the people in the comments telling them to go through counseling or that they need to "work it out" with their husbands/boyfriends. Dear Lord, just leave. It hurts to see them so defeated but I know most won't listen to anyone and only come on here to rant then log off.

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-01-16T09:07:14+00:00

I hope she leaves him, leaving my pornsick husband was the best decision and I have no regrets. But now despite having a healthy sex drive, I don't think I could have sex with a man again. I can't look at men without thinking, what depraved stuff have you been wanking over and so they gross me out and I wouldn't want a man to touch me again. I keep having dreams about being with a woman and I have always suspected I'm bisexual, maybe I've just been living my life as a compulsory heterosexual, but either way, men just completely gross me out now.

FluffandRainclouds · 2021-01-16T06:11:40+00:00

I wonder if she feels like she cannot leave (the devil you know vs whatever else is out there). Why get married if you are going to be tortured every second with this?

pinkcloudzzz · 2021-01-16T06:39:34+00:00

Yep, that’s what porn addicts and their depravity do to their girlfriends and wives. I’ve been there. You end up hating your body and then yourself deeply. Suicidal thoughts. Self-harm.

Never date a porn addict.

weekend111 · 2021-01-16T09:39:46+00:00

If she posted this on any of the mainstream subs, she’s gonna be told she’s the problem and that she should be watching porn together with her pornsick fucko husband :/

bambina92 · 2021-01-16T07:03:28+00:00

Why are we so conditioned to make men happy? I bet under this inadequacy complex lies the unconscious urge to “satisfy your man”. I hate how the society forces us that kind of mindset. We don’t have to satisfy no limp dick.

NottodayScrote · 2021-01-16T14:14:04+00:00

And had she been "thick" he would have cheated with a smaller woman "because he was bored" or some other bs. My ex was a porn/drug addict with a fettish for well endowed women and to everyones surprise his mistress was tiny, thin and flat all around. Men never appreciate what they have. Just throw him out

karaokekiller · 2021-01-16T07:50:47+00:00

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souredskittles · 2021-01-16T07:34:36+00:00

Guaranteed this will be you one day if you marry a man who watches porn

Eat_Pant_b0ss · 2021-01-16T16:17:41+00:00

Nothing crushes your spirit like humiliating yourself over and over again to prove that you're desirable to some cruel idiot man

IAteTheDragon · 2021-01-16T09:52:37+00:00

This ship has sailed. No amount of 'soberiety' time would ever console me. This man's deepest desire is fucking thick women, he resist the urge actively every day, he still wants to have them, dreams about them. This is sheer torture for the poor wife. And the guy is already sullied, the end.

vintagexrose · 2021-01-16T09:12:18+00:00

This is really sad, she seems miserable :( if I were her I would leave, the damage is already done, she shouldn’t have to continue/deal with the self torture.

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-16T14:31:17+00:00

When you see posts like this can you please send them to r/PornFreeRelationships

azureangel35 · 2021-01-16T16:02:57+00:00

I relate to her so much. The difference is I ended up getting surgeries and one did not go well and maimed me. The surgeon even did something against my consent and the law where I live does not hold him accountable, although it would in other places. Please don’t ask me what surgery. The point is the relationship with the porn addict ended years ago and still, I’ve been wanting to die for years. Please don’t date these men.

blackwidowe · 2021-01-16T07:22:54+00:00

Please tell me someone directed her to a different sub?! ( assuming this was relationship advice)

CrazyPaine · 2021-01-16T13:59:04+00:00

It's bad that will hurt your self esteem in yourself so much. It's bad that it will wreck you and doubting yourself especially with yourself and your body.

iaintgonnacallyou · 2021-01-16T15:39:18+00:00

And I bet he’s gaslighting the hell out of her for feeling this way.

Sensitive-Ad8553 · 2021-01-16T06:01:20+00:00

This post really hits home for me, I just want to give her a hug 🥺❤️

2021-01-16T18:00:29+00:00

I imagine when they're having sex, he stares off into space while dumping all of the grossest parts of sex onto her, with none of the benefits.

Lavender_flow · 2021-01-16T22:40:55+00:00

DIvorce this fucking clown already. He is PATHETIC and DISGUSTING. You think any of these girls wants to fuck him or touch him with 10 feet pole? HELL NO. He is nothing. JESUS. This woman needs to level up and smell the turd (her husband). She is trauma bonded and think he is something he is not. No amount of therapy will change how pathetic he is. Wake up sis.

2021-01-17T00:34:28+00:00

This is what porn addiction does to women. It's happened to me before -- Never again. I'm falling in love with myself lately as the thought of even *dating* is starting to become a non-option.

Romance is so dead now that porn has been normalized. Men actually seem PROUD of watching/using porn these days. It's like a big giant cult and those who refuse to drink the kool-aid are guilted and shamed.

Maude2010 · 2021-01-16T20:51:31+00:00

My heart breaks for this woman.

level_up_always · 2021-01-16T23:56:03+00:00

cOmMuNiCaTiOn right ladies?! she just needs to try harder and stop being such a frigid bitch! doesn't she know that's just fAnTaSy?!? /s

it's so unbelievable how we can know in our heart and intuitively what we need to do (she knows this is killing her soul and needs to leave like.. yesterday) but the social conditioning to be rIdE oR dIe makes us rot from the inside out

BungalowBootieBitch · 2021-01-16T20:21:32+00:00

Someone get her far away from him my goodness. I don't think her current environment will allow her to heal. She's so deeply hurt.

abstractsadgurl · 2021-01-17T21:49:43+00:00

I've been there. Never again.

relationship_reddit · 2021-01-22T17:58:01+00:00

Poor thing. I had the exact same problem. He wanted fat asses, and even if I gained 100lbs, I still wouldn't have one, because that's not how my fat is distributed. It is so crushing to your self-esteem to know you don't have the type of body that is popular at the moment, and to have that confirmed by the person you love.

Title	Damn. Please leave him!!!
Author	crapcakes0987
Upvotes	483
Comments	60
Date	January 16, 2021 5:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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