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8

It’s like they all learned from the same handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:16 AM
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Humans thrive by being social. Aggressiveness is awful for life in society. Hypergamy, though, is a very effective way to improve the fitness of a society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:31 AM
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I think, along with everything said, it’s a matter of accepting reality: having sex does reduce women’s social standing, so it has to be damn well worth it. One of the ways we gauge if sex is gonna be worth it, is by making him wait. If he won’t wait, he won’t wait to pleasure me either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:27 AM
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The thing is, these jokes come with an implied power dynamic. I’m not saying to joke about forcing pegging on a man because we’re not crass. But the implication is there. Anal jokes make us deeply uncomfortable, an effect which I doubt pegging jokes would have. But we can always try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:20 AM
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It’s not the same thing. Men are physically stronger than women. Men can much more easily force anal on women than women can force pegging on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:27 PM
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Men would fuck a McChicken. If I go to a random discord channel and identify myself as a woman, there’ll be 5 guys offering to show me their dicks before even knowing what I look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:06 AM
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Exactly. His words may lie about his porn use, but physical manifestations/intimacy marks will not. A man whose brain isn’t rotten by porn shouldn’t need much stimulus to get aroused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:57 AM
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Porn users tend to be desensitized to sexual stimuli. When you’re fooling around, how easily does he get turned on? Does he get turned on by the idea of having sex? By the sight of you clothed? Does he get hard easily and maintains an erection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:08 AM
7

I love that the app I use for Reddit doesn’t even notify me of those 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:11 AM
21

I have more men interested in me than I know what to do with. Most women do. My feelings regarding young women is of concern. Why would I be jealous of predator dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:33 PM
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Queen - I can’t live with you Hot and cold BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:32 PM
8

Exactly. We’re not playing a numbers game like they are. Who cares if 99% of the men don’t find me attractive? I can go for the 1% who do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:04 AM
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I feel for my sisters with BPD out there. But she’s exactly the opposite of what BPD representation should be like. First because she doesn’t seem to do anything to even try to control her symptoms, and I know many people who have the disorder, so I know it’s possible. Plus, she’s using it as a shield while fueling the “BPD, run!” stigma. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:04 AM
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I think that by 30 the last oomph of brain is finished being built. By 30, even if you’re an attractive 30 year old, you’re less likely to attract predators. Also, 30 year olds in general tend to be better at knowing and sticking to their boundaries. That goes for men and women. Men without boundaries are off putting as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:38 AM
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Not nearly the same thing, but since we’re talking about it, I can’t get my mom to stop feeding my cat behind my back. My cat is pudgy but not overweight. I don’t wanna lose control of her weight. I keep some important items in locked boxes so my mom won’t get to them because she tends to steal my stuff, but doing that with cat food feels overkill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:12 AM
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MGAWBTO Men going any way but their own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:51 AM
8

Reminds me of my mom parading around how she’s the best mom. I’m 31, I can be the judge of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:18 AM
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My male friends would be happy for me! What the fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 09:24 AM
9

Women can’t be incels. Men would fuck a McChicken. Just by existing, there are plenty willing to fuck us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:42 PM
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We humans are a social species. Maybe I can’t get something done alone, but I can do it with another sister with me no problem. And with modern technology, physical strength has becoming more and more niche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:40 PM
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I want to add to what my sisters said and say that the amount of men throughout history who actually created things has been extremely small. Tesla created things. The average scrote wants credit for it because they both shared a set of genitals. Whereas, the average woman is more intuitive and perceptive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:00 AM
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They’d stick their dicks in a McChicken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:34 AM
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I think if your porn use is making your partner insecure, that’s a very good reason to stop it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:31 AM
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I have several. A corn kerneler, a snapping turtle, a rod cleaner thing that’s a cylinder full of spines inside!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:29 PM
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According to one of the porn addiction subs, they practice a thing called edging, which means they get really close to orgasm, but hold off, then go on to the next porn video. They can edge for hours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:27 PM
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Actions are a form of communication too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:43 PM
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I’m all for it. Have your sex dolls, leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:21 PM
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I love showing this image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:55 PM
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I saw a guy make fun of friend of his who was afraid of a large dog by saying “you must have been molested by a dog as a child.” They all laughed. That’s male humor for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:27 AM
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It’s a shitty joke anyway. That’s the kind of shit I have in mind when I hear them say “women aren’t funny.” Women are plenty funny, you’re the one who can’t laugh at anything that isn’t a rape joke, Kyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:21 AM
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I’m Catholic. I’ve been straying away from the religion and following what brings the most comfort to my heart. God doesn’t punish you, God loves you. Jesus wants you to love your neighbor and doesn’t approve of hate. These are the messages that make me feel comfortable and powerful, but I’m aware that I’m cherry picking aspects of the religion I like. I still pray every day, but I’m having a real religious crisis in my life. Seeing my situation, my friend introduced me to spiritism. She wasn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 11:08 AM
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Tbh I don’t care what they think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:18 PM
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It’s hard to get rid of some patriarchal standards…I just can’t feel comfortable wearing shorts unless I’m smooth legged, even though it’s no one’s business. I hope to slowly get rid of these hardwirings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:27 PM
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That’s what pickmes don’t get. Nice, you got a man. But this man doesn’t respect you. He actively has contempt towards you, because it takes more than passive disrespect to do what this guy did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:47 AM
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I think there’s anger and there’s anger. Your anger is extremely reasonable. It comes down when you’re processing emotions. It’s healthy anger. It helps you grow. However, I had to unsubscribe from FDSsuperfans because some sisters would get way too worked up over some meaningless scrote in their DMs. Not nearly the same level of angry as you, but angry enough to give them what they crave: attention. If them is who the post is aiming, I’d totally agree with it. As always, your emotions, includin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:42 AM
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Okay you pissed on the floor. Now clean it…? That’s the part I get the least. They truly have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:29 AM
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They reported me too and I have super long hair 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:56 AM
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I’ve been saying this since before finding FDS. Not to mention “woke” misogynists also rape and commit violence against women, they just gaslight you into believing that’s impossible because they’re an ally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 09:35 AM
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I use humor to cope with mental health issues. It’s uncomfortable for some people, but it’s not like I can stop having mental health problems at the snap of my fingers. Humor helps my woes seem more bearable. That leads to a scary realization here: they don’t realize life doesn’t have to be like that. What they do is very annoying, but I actually feel sorry for them. They’ve internalized that life completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:05 PM
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One of the deepest regrets I have is laughing at her having a breakdown in the aughts. I was a teenager back then, but I’d proceed to have several breakdowns too. I thoroughly empathize with her nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:58 PM
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I asked someone who spoke the same first language as he did and yeah, it was a famous poem in that language. He was just not that articulate with words, I could tell right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:38 PM
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AoC means it’s not automatically rape. “Not rape” is a very low bar. But we all know the bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:23 PM
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I have friends in their 20s and I treat them like younger siblings. The thought of dating them is absolutely repulsive to me. I’m 31.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:21 PM
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Women without education as well 💅 No one deserves a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:58 AM
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There’s a truth background to everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:56 AM
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I don’t make a lot and I wouldn’t date a man who doesn’t make more than I do. I don’t even care much for gifts (I like them here and there, too many are overwhelming), there’s just no benefit in dating broke men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:55 AM
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He wants his dream girl to approach him. Except she stops being his dream girl the moment she approaches him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:45 AM
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Well, when I said they can I meant in the sense that they have no excuse not to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:48 PM
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Definitely triangulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:55 PM
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Even if you were going for 7 ft tall body builders, so what. It’s your business alone and no one has the right to tell you what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:24 PM
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My parents actively prevented me from doing chores, while making fun of me for not doing them. I really don’t know what’s up with some parents. Anyway, I still struggle with anxiety doing chores, but I eventually learned how to do them anyway. Women can overcome bad parenting, men can too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:49 PM
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Specially if they are in the entertainment/fashion industry. They’ve probably been groomed their whole lives to have no boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:40 AM
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Pretty much. Anyone can reject anyone for any reason, that includes men rejecting women because they’re bigger. I’m still not into short men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:40 PM
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I seek validation from other women all the time. Validation from men is cheap. They’d fuck a McChicken. They’ll say anything to get in your pants. Validation from women has actual value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:14 PM
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You’re too kind <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:16 PM
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Why did the scrote cross the road? He thought it was a boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:41 AM
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I love the comparison!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:40 AM
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By this point in time, I take gold digger as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:38 AM
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Traditional is a euphemism for “I fail as an adult so I expect women to be an adult on my behalf.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:22 AM
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My boyfriend is also extremely practical. He knows I love flowers, so I got flowers. That’s practicality for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:36 AM
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Reminds me of when I quit drinking. Many people took that as a criticism of their choice of continuing drinking. And they either got mad at me, or pushy. Cut them from my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:02 PM
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He didn’t even try? Because I have poop problems (albeit opposite, I don’t poop enough) and I’ve struggled to find a doctor who doesn’t just tell me to “eat more fibers” (because I totally haven’t tried that). But I fucking tried! Over and over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:01 PM
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If you have to say you’re nice, you’re not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:36 PM
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I’m glad to see women here actually waking up to it! Until not long ago, there was a barrage of comments about how men are “dumb” and “don’t know shit.” Men aren’t dumb, they’re sly. They know very well what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:13 PM
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Contrary to what naysayers spew around, FDS is not about taking money away from men. Romance is a super important part of a relationship and he’s neglecting that, thinking he can fix that by throwing money at it. This ain’t it sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:03 PM
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I’m having kind of the opposite conundrum. I’ve met a guy who seems like he might be a good match for one of my friends, but I refuse to set them both up until I can do some more pre-vetting. Thing is, most vetting advice in this sub is for when you’re talking to someone with intentions to romance them yourself, so I’m a bit lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:59 PM
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Post pictures of McChickens, guys are sexually attracted to those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:54 PM
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I’m still getting over the concept that I’m not good enough to receive gifts. That’s right. I’m insecure about receiving gifts. My boyfriend loves pampering me, but my insecurities get in the way. He said he wanted to give me much more for VDay, but he didn’t want to overwhelm me. It was an honest sentiment, too many gifts would have been too much for me to handle. I’m still processing the amazing ones he did, and I’ll bring my insecurities to my therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:52 PM
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It’s the insecure men who call VDay BS because they’re afraid of making an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:46 PM
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I’ve thrown the bottle away last year. The show BoJack Horseman helped me a lot. It’s not exactly an FDS show (none of the female characters do anything FDS worthy), but it’s a great overview on dysfunctional relationships and it basically showed the dangerous path I was walking in. I can safely say it saved my life and made me a better person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:39 PM
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Is that the content of the book they wanted to ban? Fuque les scrôtes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:02 PM
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Tbh no men is attractive enough to get away with abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:46 AM
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Naming conventions in my culture are different and it’s not uncommon to have people with 5+ names. Usually people go by their first and their last names. In my case, they are just too unusual and stand up too much. I just pick two random names off the middle and go with them. They’re super generic names.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:02 AM
11

What are the chances he doesn’t know that measuring body fat is different for women and men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:52 AM
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So if I avoid doing that will I be left alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:18 AM
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The only time I did that, she got mad at me for her boyfriend’s actions 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:56 AM
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They want sex from us, but then lose respect if they get sex from us 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:14 PM
16

A bigger dick is nice to the eye (in person, when I’m about to have sex. I’m not aroused by dick pics). My sexual arousal matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:44 PM
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If he isn’t eager about me, I don’t want him either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:30 AM
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All my attempts at playing therapist for men resulted in my saying something hurtful in my attempts to help. Vaginas don’t come with psychologist degrees. I don’t feel bad at all for the things I said nowadays. They’re the ones who shouldn’t be trying to make me their therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:26 AM
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I can’t get over how my mom will try to defend guys who take the lives off their ex girlfriends. Her excuse is that “women trap men with babies.” She also hates single moms. She is a single mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:12 AM
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My physical standards are very lax. Taller than me (I’m pretty short myself), pleasant face to look at (very subjective, but I like a nice smile), don’t care for a bit of chub (is comfy). Other than that, don’t be aggressive, be generous, be respectful, be responsible. It’s also important that he knows how to set boundaries for himself too. Boundaries on both sides make for healthy relationships. Y otras cositas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:05 AM
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If it’s just about getting a dick inside, that’s very easy for men too. If that’s not what they want, we have things we don’t want too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:55 AM
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Trying his hardest, while putting no work on himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:53 AM
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It’s easier for women to walk around smeared in shit. The thing is to realize you don’t have to be smeared in shit at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:52 AM
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On one of the subs for recovering porn addicts, some claim to have been perusing porn from ages as young as 6. 9-10 are very common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:51 AM
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Exactly my thoughts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:20 AM
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Yeah, I’m super needy, but there’s such thing as too much even for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:02 AM
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“Women are such nags, I’ve already said I’m gonna fix the gate, no need to remind me every 6 months!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:41 AM
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I have worked with addicts. This was my way to give back to the world after the damage I caused after my own addiction. Dealing with addicts is rough. Being punched in the face by dopesick men was the least of it. It’s soul crushing. You have to be just the right amount of compassionate. You simply can’t be too understanding. One of the biggest takes, and it applied to me too, is that it’s up to the addict to be there for the people they hurt, not the other way around. It’s a heavy burden to bea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:55 PM
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People have to understand that actions are a form of communication too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:40 PM
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Love that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:01 PM
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Does it matter? Even if it’s a “joke,” it would only be considered “funny” because there’s an element of truth to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:10 AM
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Does he know that’s on him right? Women only carry Xes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:08 AM
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It fits the definitions of social, and it fits the definitions of media…or does he not know what these words mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:48 AM
3

Nah, I think it was a bad case of pickmitis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:43 AM
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You hate…yourself…for that? He took the picture! Let’s hate the correct person here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:30 AM
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We’re “toxic” for not coddling men. They don’t want to stop and reflect on their actions, they want women to tell them that some men may be bad but he’s not like that. Add to this the fact we’re raising the bar for women and we’re just rubbing pepper on the wound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:25 AM
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Reddit is social media 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:21 AM
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Because it’s not coddling men. That’s literally it. We don’t step on eggs and say “not all men.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:20 AM
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They don’t want a woman who’s secure enough to know she can get a new man in by snapping her fingers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:45 AM
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If I had things my way, young women would bother with themselves, not men, at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:43 AM
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Men are real gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:04 AM
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You can’t say the name of the sub. I believe vaguely referencing the sub is alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:52 AM
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Yeah. It’s very tempting to just assume that men are just dumb. Many women here make this mistake. But the thing is, they aren’t. They’re sly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:44 AM
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Triangulation, ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:15 AM
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I don’t care that it’s unchangeable anyway. I’m dating, not running a charity. I’m not trying to be inclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:07 PM
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Men aren’t apt to be adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:20 PM
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Basically, women internalize their symptoms, men externalize (abuse).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:57 AM
363

Men hate women because they’re entitled. Women hate men because we’re scared and mistreated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:52 AM
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Communication shouldn’t be a burden placed on women. It takes two to tango. If the man isn’t making an effort to communicate either, neither should you. The workings of communication is managerial work. It takes from your mental energy. It’s cruel to expect one person (aka the woman) to be the sole communicator in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:51 AM
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Not another woman…a child :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:08 AM
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Understand that for men (and some women) like these, there’s no such thing as bad attention. They thrive on any kind of attention they can get out of you. They thrive off your vital energy. So this game they’re playing…don’t play it. Don’t try to outlogic them. If they’re disrespecting you, leave the room. Be assertive. It takes time to reach that level, but that’s what you should aim for. Total indifference. Don’t let them feed off you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:06 AM
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Unfortunately, I believe he was a sociopath looking for a weakness to exploit. He was unhappy about being “caught,” of course, but he probably just moved on to the next victim :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:30 AM
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Nothing, my country celebrates it in June 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:11 AM
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I’m more triggered by your mom’s “I did everything for you.” This is code for “I’ve done the bare minimum and want accolades for that.” eye twitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:10 AM
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Nerdy guys are the “not like the other girls” of men. They’re exactly like the other men, minus the things that make other men attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:25 AM
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I have an acquaintance who once admitted defeatedly that her partner has to watch a bit of porn before they have sex to get it hard. She didn’t like it, but didn’t seem to think there was anything to be done about that. She was young and childless, they weren’t legally married. She was a forever girlfriend. Leaving wasn’t an option for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:10 AM
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???? Why don’t they comment on the tens of thousands of pieces of social media showing mothers having to forsake their careers because their useless spouses can’t take care of a child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:07 AM
175

I had one who couldn’t help but make snide remarks about any choice I made. He picked up I have bad choice anxiety. He wanted to put me in place by preventing me to get anywhere, and choice anxiety is an insidious way to do that. He just had to make me second guess my choices. Well meaning but clueless friends made it by accident too. It was hard to see it as a red flag. Eventually I picked up on it. By the end of the relationship, I reminded him that he, too, was a choice I made. And guess what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:02 AM
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Men don’t even know how to caress an asshole erotically without trying to shove a finger there (roughly of course). I actually like my asshole stimulated, but I don’t trust most men near it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:45 AM
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Don’t forget the smooth skin from spending an extra 10 minutes in the shower just applying moisturizers with amazing scents!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:16 AM
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Russian roulette isn’t that bad…sure one of the chambers has a bullet in it… …But not all chambers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:48 PM
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I have a few friends in their 20s and I feel an older sisterly relationship towards them. They’re all like my younger siblings. I can’t conceive dating one of them. I want to guide and protect them — to a healthy extent. I feel so gross imagining myself dating a 20 year old (I’m 31).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:02 PM
10

Because women are so not funny and men are sooooooo funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:45 PM
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When will men understand that their dicks are unappealing. Women (pickmeishas) who say yes do so out of peer pressure/politeness. No women want to see their dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:44 AM
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I’d say it’s a way of vetting — seeing if they are okay with not getting what they are told they’re entitled. If they act angry/frustrated, they are not someone you want. I’d not do this long term though, like another thread suggested. I don’t like playing games and at some point I’d just like to be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:32 AM
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3 specially. Fuck vanilla shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:12 PM
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I don’t know whether being honest or trying to hide would be worse. I think it’s the fact he did it at all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:47 PM
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Don’t overexplain to anyone. People will regard you more if you metaphorically (or literally) get up and leave the room if you’re disrespected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:44 PM
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A week? Did you mean 6 months?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:58 PM
8

Don’t worry, I no longer let people (aka men) make me their therapist. I let my friends pour their heart onto me, and they all see professionals to address their issues. Sometimes they just need a friend to vent. But back when I played therapist for men…I did end up saying hurtful stuff in my attempts to help. Now I see it was not my fault. I don’t have adequate training for that. Vaginas don’t come with psychological training!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:50 PM
21

If they vented to me but actually sought professional help, like my female friends do, it would be one thing. But no, they actually expect me to fix them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:12 PM
45

Grey rock technique “oh that’s very sad.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:10 PM
96

Vaginas don’t come with psychologist degrees. If you try to make me your therapist just because I am a woman, I will inevitably say something hurtful because I have no tact or training. Vaginas don’t come with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:43 PM
18

Fuque les scrôtes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:39 PM
12

Women suffered from men for centuries (and still do, but we at least have more of a voice now) and didn’t murder men for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:37 PM
35

I used to be a very messy person. I didn’t want to be like this so I concocted some plans. That included limiting the amount of stuff I own (I can’t deal with too many stuff at the same time) and making my home “tidying up friendly” (one of the things I did was adding several neat boxes so I can just put my stuff in and it still looks presentable). I also sought, guess what, therapy to deal with the deep seated issues that caused me to become so messy. Nowadays I’m still a little bit messy, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:33 PM
5

I think some posts get flagged for approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:38 AM
1

I used to be an apprentice too, in my old account that got report trolled. I was banned for phony reasons by the Reddit admin staff then unbanned, but I still needed an email to recover my account. I had no email attached to that account, so it’s lost. Ladies, add a throwaway email (jot down the password to it) in case you get report trolled!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:35 AM
24

I will admit, the pickmeisha flair puzzles me. 90% of the women I’ve seen with this flair say sensible things, then you have women with other flairs saying stuff like “men are dumb and don’t know what they are doing.” I just don’t get it. Well, I judge people by the content of their post, not their flair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:32 AM
8

I won’t lie, I love snuggling and hugging more than speaking sometimes. Maybe physical touch is my love language. Of course, I don’t watch porn, so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:01 AM
15

Love what I could understand of it (I actually speak Portuguese not Spanish 😅)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:51 AM
8

Print one of those projectors from the 90s, one of those biiiig ones, and paste on your mirror. Now you have a reminder of what he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:48 AM
59

And the demure housewife is the good girl of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:08 AM
6

I ended up distancing from her due to my depression…it’s tough to think about it, I was pretty much the one person preventing her from being drunkenly used by guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:36 PM
65

His brain was completely rotten, ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:23 PM
53

Scar has gay mannerisms. Ursula was literally based on a drag queen. You can find a bit more about it by searching for “queer coding.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:28 PM
116

Let’s not mention how many villains have obvious queer traits (Scar, Ursula) or feminist traits (Cruella).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:17 PM
51

It’s in the narcissist handbook. They all seem to have got a copy of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:37 PM
7

I’m glad you saw the light…I really hope she saw it too, because deep down I still fear she got raped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:32 PM
33

My college friend would ditch me for any guy she found. And it was up to me to make sure she was safe and unraped. Which meant trying to convince her to go back to her home not to the home of whichever guy she just met. The guy would usually try to intimidate me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:24 PM
30

Several women here fall for the myth men are too dumb to know what they’re doing. Men know very well what they are doing. They’re just sly enough and got us convinced they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:22 AM
7

Jet sprays are love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:06 AM
9

Turn the fire on and…wait?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:05 AM
8

I don’t expect men to know how to do even “men” things, let alone adult things (they’re not women things).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:33 AM
44

I love me some gaming…in moderation. Women don’t game for 12 hours while neglecting everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:04 PM
437

I love affectionate, non degrading sex with a loving man close to my age who’s attentive to my needs. Apparently that makes me sex negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:49 PM
16

Definitely. He probably doesn’t realize 1 million isn’t even that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:57 AM
44

He probably mentions 13 times an hour how he doesn’t like playing games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:49 AM
11

I gave FDS advice to my boyfriend in regards to some work issues. Non abusive way to be confrontative! Really works for everyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:16 AM
19

Men aren’t in touch with their emotions, it’s different. They’re super emotional, they just don’t know what to do with all those emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:13 AM
5

Back when I left my DMs open, I got a few saying I’m not “all that.” The obvious implication is that I lower my standards. Even if that’s true, how about, instead, I work on myself and become “all that”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:52 AM
38

We all have that family member, who everyone tells to ignore, who’s so sexist he’s about to explode. And I’m not going to shit on older generations, sometimes he’s younger than 40 too. It’s a man problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:50 AM
14

Tactfulness is a something to be proud of. Being proud of brutal honesty is like being proud of failing every exam you take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:27 AM
9

What a fucking asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:25 AM
6

Pretty much. It’s not that I don’t want to be challenged, it’s that people who actually do have the arguments to challenge me never say that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:23 AM
24

I have to remember this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 09:19 AM
12

I got that line. I insisted. And I insisted. Until they had a small outbreak upon realizing that they’d have to explain their sexist joke to a woman. That was hilarious. Not for them, but definitely for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:17 PM
312

Imagine dating Dita fucking von Teese and still cheating. Goes to show looks mean nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:06 PM
39

People won’t change for other people. They might change for themselves, but no, they won’t change for other people. Better to just move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:57 PM
68

You’re not missing anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:55 PM
137

They’re told to have casual sex, but are not taught to vet partners, let alone how to have boundaries and stick to them. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:53 PM
18

Portuguese!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:24 PM
313

There’s a saying in my first language “all jokes have a truth background.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:34 AM
48

It’s almost like things start to work when you quit the porn, put the controller down, and put a little bit of thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:33 AM
3

Honestly, most people I’ve known who call themselves empaths are on the lower end of the empathy spectrum and tend to project their emotions on other people. It’s a bit like how actual nice guys don’t need to call themselves nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:30 AM
42

Back when I left my DMs open some scrotes said that the wall for men is about resources. If I was the type to entertain clowns instead of the other way, I’d have asked what resources, is this 78 000 bC?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:25 AM
26

Safety >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> men’s fee-fees If they don’t like it I’m reserved about men, go complain to the source of the problem (other men), not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:09 AM
16

Keep in mind that this is normal! And you have your sisters here to help you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:05 AM
15

Definitely anxious :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:50 AM
8

There are concubine laws in my country too (Brazil), so I wouldn’t be surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:37 PM
100

Not to mention that putting the onus on woman to communicate is putting all the managerial work of figuring out how communication should be done on women. If communication isn’t flowing naturally, he doesn’t want to be communicated with. It’s not up to one partner (let’s face, the woman) to fix this. Managerial work is mentally taxing. Managers are paid well for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:05 PM
4

Basically most europop/aughts electronics I used to listen. Why are the lyrics so pick me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:01 PM
12

It’s the common denominator here! Women with mental health issues find a way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 01:00 PM
12

Depends on what you mean by online. I’ve met my bf online, just not through OLD. OLD is a nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:58 PM
12

Honestly, as a Christian, I’m wary of Christian men. They have the biggest Madonna-wh*re complexes I’ve ever seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:40 PM
4

I’ve seen videos of wild gorillas deciding against attacking a group of humans who entered their territory. I’d still prefer not to enter a wild gorillas’ territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:45 AM
17

A vice is jumping straight to rendering without doing character concepts first. As another Christian woman, I’m ashamed of this pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:32 AM
140

There’s a million women willingly taking naked pictures out there for the world to see. We may not like it, but they’re there. But nope, they have to go for the ones who are clearly trying to hide their body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:28 AM
24

If you want people in general, not just men, swooning at you, work on your self confidence. Beware of vultures (usually men) who will feel threatened by it and believe you need to be “knocked down a peg.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:15 AM
15

You can’t avoid, you can’t change other people. You can only change how you react to it. Better to say nothing and just blocking and deleting. Or if they do that irl, trying to end the date as soon as possible then ceasing contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:03 AM
16

I think porn is more addictive than videogames. Also more degrading to women. I even game myself in moderation. My only problem with men who game is that they can’t seem to do it in moderation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:57 AM
23

Exactly. They only bring up things like male suicide rates or male rape when there’s a discussion about women’s problems. They don’t bring it up on its own. It’s just a tool to silence women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:52 AM
49

I have no psychological training. It’s a thing some men have to come to terms with: vaginas don’t come with psychologist degrees. If you try to make me your therapist I will end up saying something hurtful because I lack training. I won’t even mention the burnout because we all know they don’t care about our wellbeing. It’s still in their best interest to seek someone who has a degree in psychology, not just a vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:49 AM
19

I usually wax my legs and I’ve taken to like them hairless. Probably a patriarchal standard, but unfortunately, we don’t unlearn all our patriarchal conditioning in a day. However, if my legs get hairy and my boyfriend complains he’s gonna get his waxed next to mine the next day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:44 AM
44

I’m an only child and my parents shielded me from chores (while making fun of me for not doing chores) and granted, I’m a bit messy (nothing disgusting, I’m very hygienic), but like, I eventually learned how to cook. If you are motivated enough, chores aren’t hard to learn. I game sometimes and learning the gist of some games can be pretty hard to learn too, that doesn’t stop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:38 AM
41

Don’t ever underestimate the depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:42 PM
85

Not black, but I live in a country of brown people. I’ve met too many white losers who come here to fulfill weird fetishes 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:39 PM
16

It’s like you’re magically mature when the clock dings midnight and you’re 18.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:24 PM
19

Imagine having Dita fucking von Teese and cheating at her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:24 PM
4

Dude, I’m into some alternative/goth aesthetics, but he’s just gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:21 PM
7

About the last part of your comment — I can only hope. I do believe históry is cyclical though, so it makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:18 PM
21

Men don’t bring men’s mental health unless you bring women’s mental health. They don’t give a shit about men’s mental well-being, they just want to silence women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:50 PM
76

It’s impossible not to lead a guy on. You can make your intentions clear as crystal and they will lead themselves on. Not to mention that old scrotes love to go for young girls with poor sense of boundaries. Maybe she just doesn’t know how to say what she wants crystal clear because she’s been shamed into being a yesgirl. You, an old scrote, should be taking that into mind before claiming she lead you on. No, go after women your age who know how to be assertive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:18 PM
34

My mom did something that infringed on my autonomy. When I didn’t listen to her, she did her version of a special needs person voice (which is enough for me to not want to see her again) saying “weekend doesn’t wanna listen because she’s a baaaaaby.” I told her to GTFO and not to talk to me again. Can’t wait until the pandemic is dealt with and I can move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:32 PM
34

Exactly. They’re attention starved scrotes. There’s no such thing as bad attention. Just ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:58 AM
548

I’m sex positive in the sense that I love non degrading, affectionate sex with a loving man my age who’s attentive to my needs and takes precautions to avoid spreading STDs as well as avoiding pregnancies. I’m negative to being a masturbation aid, which most sex nowadays is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:49 PM
20

Men understand consent. Men don’t value consent. More specifically, lack of consent gets their peepee hard. There are plenty of girls sharing willingly sharing their pictures out there for the world, whether we agree with them or not, but they want the ones who don’t want to share their pictures. They’re depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:44 PM
38

Yeap, the vast majority of the violence committed against innocent men is committed by other men, not women. But they don’t like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:57 AM
60

Also the fact that domestic violence against men is perpetrated by fathers, sons, and brothers, not female spouses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:51 AM
31

I usually have a theory for everything but I’ll never understand this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:32 AM
12

Yeah, COVID is affecting my relationship. We’re taking a very “ride or die” approach. It’s not our fault and we can’t do anything about it. Our relationship is still worth it. Ride or die is not to be applied to relationships with a scrote when you’re in control of it: you can leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:29 AM
64

Run from guys who claim to have a “dark sense of humor.” This is Scrotish (not Scottish, autocorrect) for “I can’t read the room and I’ll pretend it’s your fault.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:27 AM
3

I have never owned a pitty, but my friend has one. I’ve known that dog for several years now and it’s kind of sad seeing her growing old and less energetic, but living things get old, it’s part of life. She doesn’t have a single mean bone in her. Her favorite hobbies nowadays is warming her elderly bones by the fireplace and cuddling warm cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:24 AM
19

I assume all women have been abused by default. Even if she says otherwise, I take it with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:20 AM
8

No one would watch a movie about a guy who wakes up, skips shower, has breakfast, goes to the office, has an unremarkable day, and goes back home. People like outliers. People like the one in a lifetime events.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:15 AM
52

I should say, I’ve found a man who respects me and my body and abhors degrading sex. I don’t feel used after having sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:14 AM
42

I consider myself sex positive. I love affectionate, consensual sex with a loving and attentive man my age who isn’t set to degrade me. I’m not assisted masturbation positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:13 AM
72

Why do I usually feel disgusting after sex (with most men)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:09 AM
5

Yeah, I’ve wondered before if LVM are made or born and how much of an influence porn has had on it. I want to make a thread but I haven’t been able to word it just right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:06 AM
11

In the past, it made sense to have a woman taking care of the house and children because men were working backbreaking labor in the factory for 12 hours a day, every day. They weren’t playing in the PlayStation for 12 hours a day because they fail at being adults. They don’t need a tradwife, they need to stop being slobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:57 AM
9

I hate generational wars, but I gotta admit there was a time men took women they deemed worthy (men should vet too, but this worthiness was measured in very sexist terms of course) to dinner without expecting sex afterwards. That’s a practice that should partially come back (minus the sexist vetting). Of course, I’m talking about Latin America in the 70s and perhaps 80s, may differ in other places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:49 AM
1

I believe it’s always a gamble to find a man who doesn’t watch porn and you’ll never be 100% sure. My boyfriend said he doesn’t like porn and I do believe in him. He gets really excited over small things, he gets hard and maintains it, sex isn’t pornified, etc. so the evidence adds up as well. But at the end of the day, I’m going by his word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:44 AM
11

8 bored wives he can’t satisfy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:39 AM
37

That’s one thing I can commend them for. There’s nothing in it for us, everything in it for them, but they still managed to make us believe they’re doing us a favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:37 AM
24

Probably that she needs to CoMuNiCaTe. ETA: she needs to disable her DMs. Scrotes don’t deserve it. Wish I could set it only so FDS approved people could DM me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:34 AM
11

Don’t underestimate the power of the pickmeishas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:22 AM
15

Ask them how does it feel to be in the 50s while everyone else is in February of 2021 wearing a mask everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:21 AM
111

When women are being oppressed, they suddenly care about the situation of men. You don’t ever see them bring up male suicide, for example, unless someone brings up stats for women’s issues. They don’t even care about men’s issues, it’s just another tool to silence women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:11 AM
82

Let men be the ones to strive to marry, they’re the only ones to benefit from rushing women into marriage. Women should wait as much as they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:05 AM
6

Exactly. I didn’t reply to messages all day because I was busy designing little trees. It was entertaining for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:58 AM
70

“Before or after you asked this stupid question?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:45 PM
75

It takes a lot of porn to be able to say that with a straight face. This line is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:43 PM
7

Yeah, I don’t like the idea of playing games. Being legitimately busy, alright. Games? I’m too old for this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:42 PM
221

“Rearrange your guts” is both cheesy and degrading at the same time. Big nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:33 PM
7

And they have no respect for their mom either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:29 PM
27

They never bring these stats unless you mention something about women suffering. They don’t care about help for men, they just want to silence women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:25 PM
3

I’m very sex positive. I love affectionate consensual sex with a loving, attentive man my age (or close). Degrading sex is the opposite of sex positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:12 PM
1

So you’re saying the patriarchy is to blame for the pain I suffer to go to the bathroom too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:54 PM
43

If he can control himself towards someone he respects (his boss) it means the only reason he did it to you is he doesn’t respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:49 PM
49

Would he have a fit with his boss? If not he can control himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:59 PM
31

This would be a nice jab if directed at your usual menbabies. Men suck at being functional adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:56 PM
52

But people, FDS, which teaches women how to spot and avoid abusive partners, is just like red pill!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:38 PM
56

My boyfriend says doesn’t watch porn, and it takes very little to get him very excited, which indicates he’s not pornsick. Sex with him doesn’t feel pornified. But still, I’m very well aware it’s a gamble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:44 PM
48

I run if the guy calls his ex crazy. There are some psycho women out there, but 9/10 times a guy is calling his ex crazy he was trying to gaslight her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:27 PM
27

And they always believe they’re the ones who are gonna provide said mindblowing sex. Narcissism much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:59 PM
54

It definitely turned him on. Their depravity knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:57 PM
19

Young celebrities, specially girls, often have horrid stage parents who force them into having no boundaries and are groomed from a young age. It’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:13 AM
2

This is sad but creative. Too much effort to be made by a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:11 AM
3

I’ll admit my feet are like that. I do what I can to do damage control, but the rough skin insists on being there. It’s frustrating. I guess the difference here is effort. I put an effort in having presentable feet, they’re just extra sensitive or something and grow rough skin easily. This guy gives no fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:10 AM
7

I just feel I have to be careful showing feminist stuff to a few of my friends because their minds have been poisoned and they believe feminism is evil. The few who’ve heard of radfem think we spend our days hating on transpeople. I guess the first step would be to show you can be a feminist and not evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:05 AM
6

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:57 AM
7

I’ll take a look. Part of my level up process is standing up to those I believe need someone standing up for them (to a healthy extent, I’m not gonna force someone who doesn’t want to be helped). I’m just autistic and can come off as tactless sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:51 AM
10

Since this comment is here, I’ll ask, what’s the best way to talk to someone showing harmful dating behavior (like extreme pickmeism)? Because calling them out directly only causes them to become defensive and cast me out as the villain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:43 AM
41

I don’t know. I think we women have been taught to see our emotions as a hindrance rather than the amazing thing they are. I’d like this better if it said to beware of what our emotions are telling us, and be in control of how we react to our emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:13 AM
11

It’s not on removeddit either 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:05 AM
71

And I don’t feel bad about men who are lead on. Like it’s possible not to lead men on. You can be clear as crystal about what you want, they’ll lead themselves on. ETA: not that she deserves it even if she deliberately lead them on. Psycho dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:44 AM
43

Then they wonder why they’re single. Not even the pickmes want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:42 AM
7

It’s a national day in China Parade!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:27 AM
8

Some things deserve punishment (positive or negative, more on this later), such as not asking consent. In psychology terms, think of the words positive and negative as add and subtract rather than good and bad. Both positive and negative reinforcements are good (positive reinforcement means you add something good, negative reinforcement means you remove something bad) As well as, both positive and negative punishments are bad. Positive punishment means you add something bad, negative punishment …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:26 AM
16

BoJack was definitely an important show in my life. It got me to throw the bottle away before it was too late. It also has an interesting take on dysfunctional relationships. I don’t know if it’s FDS approved (I don’t remember any of the female characters doing overt queen shit) but I don’t see why it should disapproved either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:14 AM
100

Some men achieved and invented things. Many useless men want credit for that just because they have the same set of genitals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:03 AM
38

Could be an ESL? I had to call out a German friend who was totally clueless that calling women “females” was inappropriate. I’m also ESL and I’ve done it in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:00 PM
33

That’s talking to men in general. They’re basic and boring. They’re everything they accuse women to be. Kings of projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:58 PM
125

I like thoughtful gifts. So a handmade card would be very appreciated. Won’t turn down some flowers and chocolate either though 😄Anything that shows “I thought about you.” They can’t do even fucking that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:36 AM
46

Don’t assume they are doing that out of incompetence. They’re doing that because they’re sly. If they suck hard enough, you’ll end up doing the chores instead. If it’s a romantic partner, I dump them. If it’s a family member though, I make them do the chores anyway and remark on their “incompetence” in a condescending tone. They usually temporarily pick up the slack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:32 AM
12

Yeah, granted I was a teenager when it happened and I didn’t really understand mental health the way I do today. I didn’t see the human being desperate for help. But the fact I laughed at someone having a breakdown haunts me sometimes. Feels like I’m part of the reason for the situation she’s in today. And celebrity mental health is an advertisement for general public mental health. If they can’t persuade the public to be taken seriously, you can bet non celebrities are being treated worse :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:17 AM
25

One of the biggest regrets I have in life is making fun of her meltdown in the late aughts. She needed help, not the whole world laughing at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:37 AM
18

Male attention is so cheap I straight up admit I do it for the female attention! Much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:22 AM
24

I love the part you say “people and men.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:20 AM
28

Hey, if they believe my lips are actually bright red, that’s on them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:15 AM
3

Good job girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:02 AM
81

That’s sad, indicates how saturated this kind of porn market is. How many women have been duped into thinking this is empowering, now selling themselves for a pittance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:55 AM
27

Thank goodness for autism. I don’t have the automatic reaction to laugh at a joke I didn’t find funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:45 AM
42

Deliberately malicious behavior over an extended period of time despite repeated requests to stop, is a red flag no matter how seemingly petty or trivial the behavior its self is. Exactly. This wouldn’t be a red flag if it happened once, it’s the insistence that makes it a red flag. It’s as if I gave you a nickname you don’t like and kept calling you that despite you asking me to stop. I’d obviously be doing that just to get on your nerves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:03 AM
26

I’ve always said that, if men are so uncontrolled the mere sight of some skin triggers them off, they’re the mentally (and morally) inferior ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:53 AM
29

It’s like when they say “you’re not all that.” Then if that’s true, I’m gonna work on myself until I am all that. No I’m not gonna lower my standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:43 AM
29

How…just how do they reach adulthood without learning to wash their asses?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:21 AM
153

There’s no such thing as bad attention to a scrote. They like any type of attention. The only way to get to them is to show your indifference. Don’t bother replying at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:03 AM
9

I like the Russian roulette comparison. Sure one chamber has a bullet in it…but not all chambers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:56 AM
50

I enjoy some videogames, I’ll admit, but you don’t see women spending 12 hours a day while neglecting everything playing games. Women who game do it in moderation. Men who game make their lives revolve around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:47 PM
46

Yeah, and you should never argue with a man. Either block and delete or walk away if possible. If not possible (say, co parenting, or living with a potentially violent man you can’t immediately leave), keep all interactions about the topic at hand and grey rock the fuck out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:31 PM
18

Women know damn well what to do with a good man. You’re just not a good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:18 PM
34

Right answer is, leave him. Fun answer is, watch softcore porn with extremely hot guys and no women. They can’t take the triangulation themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:59 PM
70

Unless they hit on every single woman they see, indiscriminately, they’re rejecting all these women as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:57 PM
2

Don’t give him attention, just report it and block the user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:53 PM
31

If an HVM doesn’t come along, enjoy the single life. Being single is not a disease and you’ll certainly be better off single than with an LVM. In general, single women are happier and healthier than married women. This scarcity mindset will make you end up ignoring red flags and end up with an LVM disguised as HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:51 PM
5

I love europop/electronic music from the aughts…but the lyrics…ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:26 PM
47

Yeah, if they try to treat trauma as a competition…run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:24 PM
5

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:57 PM
51

They really can’t take when you match their disappointment of an energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:58 AM
156

Women have trauma and abuse themselves. Men have trauma and abuse everyone else, specially women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:39 AM
118

Bet he liked to play trauma Olympics. “Your trauma is nothing compared to my trauma!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:38 AM
86

Because being single is a disease, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:36 AM
32

Yeah, my pickmeisha self might have gone on a few walk dates (no cold weather where I used to live, tropical area) but going into a strangers apartment? I like not being murdered, thanks. Only difference is that back then I’d never say that, I’d be coy and make an excuse. Today I’d also not say that. I wouldn’t say anything. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:39 AM
77

Managerial work is mentally taxing and they’re unloading it all on you. There’s a reason managers are usually paid well. Don’t hesitate to call them out for unloading managerial work on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:35 AM
50

Also men are happiest and healthiest when they’re married. They’re just being sly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:32 AM
10

Celebrities often have parents who instill poor boundaries in them and have been groomed from a young age :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:22 AM
9

Men are real gold diggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:22 AM
18

Post narc clarity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:19 AM
33

One day they’ll run out of Greek characters, then they’ll resort to Cyrillic. Then they’ll run out of Cyrillic and will go for Hebrew. Then they’ll run out of Hebrew and resort to Devanagari. They’ll go all the way until they have to resort to Chinese characters, and will realize that they’re a bunch of 不 males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:16 AM
31

I’m writing a story I intend to make a comic book out of. I’ve decided that none of the main characters will be conventionally attractive. It’s about flawed people overcoming adversity in a fantasy world based in 1700s England, they don’t have to be hot. There’s 4 main characters, 2 women and 2 men. One of the women is a young woman, the other is an elderly woman. The young woman has to do a lot of socially reproachable (for the time period) stuff to find herself such as confronting her husband …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:08 AM
5

I’ll admit I’m just not the most organized person. My home can get a bit messy. But never so messy it’s not sparkling clean after two hours of cleaning, Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:56 AM
44

So many songs out there have a cool beat but pickmeisha lyrics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:36 AM
188

I’ve found many women including here falling for the myth that men don’t know what they are doing. They fucking do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:39 PM
107

It’s like when they accuse us of having nothing to offer but our vags. They have nothing to offer but their (empty) wallets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:55 PM
54

A turn off for him, a turn on for many, but what I’m looking for is the guy who’s as perplexed as me these pictures have been taken in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:11 PM
17

Having a bad “not like the other girls” phase :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:48 PM
10

You’re not radical. Elliot Rodgers is radical. You wanted to look after yourself 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:21 PM
22

Are you in a situation you can block and delete? Because he doesn’t deserve “closure.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:00 PM
19

I’ve only heard people talking about the show and it was enough for me to nope out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:31 PM
10

It’s very hard to fully write off trauma, even for yourself. Trauma can be insidious. Sometimes you don’t realize something was traumatic until much later, but you’re still suffering from the consequences of it anyway. Many women who’ve said sex work is great later came to admit that they were trying to convince themselves as much as others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:27 PM
30

I have a driver’s license and I’m not a bad driver, but I suffer from paranoid anxiety and it’s made it impossible to drive at a certain point. I never made it other people’s business to drive me around. It’s my responsibility to deal with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:56 AM
20

Ask them where’s theirs, when they reply “right here,” repeat the question 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:54 AM
128

They seem to believe cats only love you for food. They can’t conceive a relationship that isn’t transactional. A relationship with a cat isn’t transactional. They love you and they really do, but on their own terms. This only makes earning the love of one all the more sweet 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:49 AM
62

I’m with a man who has HV traits (I haven’t been with him long enough to call him HVM). And he was a long time friend. I didn’t see the HV in him because I was a mess. Took me getting my shit together for things to work. So they can really be anywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:46 AM
70

Dual income, no kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:05 AM
15

Preach sis. Not only I have paranoid anxiety, I’m on the autism spectrum. I had to find a way to understand cues, and I’ve put so much work at it I’d say I’m better at interpreting some cues than many neurotypical folks. My gut feeling has never been wrong. I’ve been wrong about it because of the paranoia, but if it tells me something is wrong, something IS wrong. I just have to be careful about it so I don’t let the paranoid thoughts back, but my gut feeling has never failed me before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:05 AM
92

That’s what I’m afraid of. I’m with a man now I consider amazing. He does add value to my life. But will this be true in 5 years? 10? That’s making me lean into being child free and just enjoying the DINK life. I have savings as well as property in my home country, but imagine dealing with an international custody battle if things turn awry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:58 AM
23

Tbh, I don’t like the way this advice is phrased. Ideally, young women should focus on other things in life until they are older, the men are better (older men who are attracted to their own age tend to be slightly better, I agree), then look for a good guy. But the way this is phrased, you’ll have 20 year olds thinking they need a 33 year old man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:46 AM
125

How much you wanna bet he wouldn’t like to pay child support?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:14 AM
16

I’ve been triggered!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:07 AM
79

For years I’ve wondered “why do men want me, I’m very obviously unstable!” Well, there we have it. Just to add, I’m not as unstable anymore. Haven’t had a bout of paranoia in forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:59 AM
35

I love him so much!!! But he [proceeds to list a bunch of absolutely awful stuff]…anyway, I really love him, what do I do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:07 AM
16

When do we get Chinese character males? Most are 不 males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:52 PM
43

Not gonna lie, in my 20s, first time a guy didn’t steer the conversation towards sex I was confused af as well. Like, it did not compute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:31 PM
139

A man walks over a bar. Several men do. None of them trip because the bar is in the rock hard core of the earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:20 PM
33

If other people’s choices don’t affect me, then surely my choices (including dating choices) don’t affect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:12 PM
62

Wtf, is not wanting to date a hoarder too high standards now? The bar is truly in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:00 PM
6

Do you really want to have disappointing 5 minutes jackhammer sex with a pornsick scrote who can barely keep it up for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:41 PM
40

I’m currently dating a guy who works a white collar job, but I’d consider a guy who works blue collar. He’d have to be smart about his finances, be capable of smart conversation, and pass most of the same standards as a white collar guy would, but I wouldn’t turn down a guy who has high value attitudes regarding women just because he works blue collar. In fact, I’ve found that my experiences with blue collar workers show that they tend to be more HV, whereas white collar are pompous. But that mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:01 PM
23

I used to volunteer with drug addicts. I’ve been punched in the face by dopesick men. I was taught to both have empathy for them and to keep my emotional distance. The first thing you have to understand about an addict is, they’ll never not be an addict. Their addiction can go into remission, but it’s at best dormant. It’s always there. The second thing, for an active addict, you’re never the most important thing in their life. Their object(s) of addiction are. The third thing is, an addict who’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:12 PM
2

I love music like this, rhythm wise (late 90s/early 00s electronic), but this one irritates me because of how pick me the lyrics feel. Don’t like the music video much either. If anyone knows music like this without the pick me feel, I’d love to know it 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:01 PM
23

Keep in mind that a guy who isn’t willing to wait and probably isn’t willing to take the time to pleasure you either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:55 PM
29

FDS hás been super encouraging when I say I don’t envy lavish lifestyles. Every other place has said it’s sour grapes. I truly don’t want a millionaire lifestyle, I want just enough money so it’s not a concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:50 PM
64

Being with a woman is always a benefit to men. It increases his social standing, they get emotional support they don’t get from their useless male friends, and the list goes on. He was still using you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:44 PM
9

That’s why I’m building some assets in my home country close to my family. I hope things don’t go south, but if they do, I have somewhere I can run to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:42 PM
37

What you’re experiencing is part of the narcissist checklist. I’ll never get it, it’s like they all learned their tactics from the same handbook. I know it’s hard, sis, but you must block and delete him. ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:34 PM
9

I don’t care if it’s legal, if you wait for the moment the clock turns midnight and she’s 18 to pursue a woman, you’re a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:32 PM
5

There’s no limit to how much you should write, but this man just isn’t worth writing this much about is what they meant. We want the best for you even if we may seem blunt at times. We take a very hands on approach when a sister is falling prey to a LVM’s tactics, including letting him live in her head for more than it should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:29 PM
3

And often will push them away due to guilt, because we’ve been raised to believe we don’t deserve to be treated right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:27 PM
3

Don’t ever give guys the benefit of doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:21 PM
16

Paying only makes men feel more entitled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:00 PM
12

I do have actual, diagnosed paranoid spells. Still, my guts have never lied to me. If something feels off, something is off. ETA: I have to be a bit more careful than my sisters because paranoia can make me more prone to obsessive behavior and false accusations, but never have I felt something was off and everything was okay. I’ve just been wrong about what. Also I’m very careful so other people don’t shoulder the burden of my illness, so I’m strict about medication. Paranoid spells are rare for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:45 AM
107

There was a post a while ago about how you can in fact be traumatized by sex you consented to. There’s another example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:43 AM
1

I’m a very chained spirit and I’m very strict with who gets to see my pussy now. Life can’t be better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:41 AM
8

That can’t be true, what’s their problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:33 AM
64

Exactly, during “social collapse,” what matters is your ability to stick together the most and benefit the team. Maybe that woman isn’t strong physically, but she has great fine motor skills. That would be far more useful to the group than a brutish (not British, autocorrect) guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:13 AM
18

Either that or they rely on the achievements of other men. Oh, Tesla invented a lot of things? What have you invented?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:10 AM
24

I’m not “most women,” and if you’re dating me, you’re not dating “most women.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:55 AM
12

I’m sorry sister. So far my current boyfriend has been adding value to my life and I believe he doesn’t watch porn. Hope I’m right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:49 PM
11

I don’t even give him the satisfaction of being offended. At most puzzled or perplexed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:53 PM
14

He was accusing you of cheating because he was cheating. He figured if it was easy for him, it would be 3x easier for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:46 PM
18

And that’s why you don’t take fixer uppers. It’s a lot of work for a benefit you will not see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:07 PM
9

Men suck at adulting. So many babies well into their 50s complaining that women aren’t doing enough adulting on their behalf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:55 PM
2

In theory, I believe they can change. Have I ever seen that happen? No. But in theory…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:52 PM
29

The first person to understand my stance on porn is my current boyfriend. Everyone else assumed it had to do with religion. I was already religious during my cool girl pick me days and it didn’t stop me from spouting how porn is normal. It has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with morals and concerns about the mental health of children (on the porn addiction subs, many claim to have started as young as 6).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:42 PM
18

Yeah, after this case I bought a SIM card (voip is difficult in my country) just to give out to online forms. At least that way I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:34 PM
14

That would require them to think with their heads not with their peepees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:16 PM
47

They won’t do anything right, but they WILL find ways to harass you. I’m currently still trying to figure out how a guy I went on two dates 6 years ago found my current phone number, which since has changed. I’m not on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:03 PM
2

You can lead a horse to the water but you can’t force it to drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:58 AM
7

I can give second chances, with a caveat: change comes first, I decide if I accept it after. If you come for me asking for a chance before you’ve changed? Bye. No third chances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:54 AM
18

Yeah, that’s my opinion too. He was trying to get her into bed. Because she has a warm hole, so who cares whether he likes her or not, he’ll try to stick his dick in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:47 AM
31

IMHO he was trying to get sex. Because men can be that sleazy. I don’t like you, but you have a warm hole so I’m stick my dick in it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:46 AM
11

Yeah, I was looking for an opportunity to comment that the old adage “it takes a village” has changed. Now it takes a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:34 AM
7

I wonder if women who have kids later, when they have a career and, contrary to what society says, aren’t more desperate, on the contrary, are picky af, are happier with motherhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:29 AM
3

Fair enough. I won’t edit so my post serves as a warning and reference for people who read this, but I’ll keep this in mind in the future. Only thing I’d like to add is that I’m in many autism groups and some people there are proud of taking autism as part of their identity. They don’t like to be called “persons with autism,” but rather “autistic persons,” because they feel autism is an important part of who they are. Obviously, not all are like that, but it’s also something to consider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:10 AM
11

I seem to have found a decent man, but I’ve only been with him for a few months. What if he turns up (did I get the phrasal verb right?) on me in 5 years? 10? And I’m not that young anymore, I can’t wait that long just to vet someone and then have their kids. So I’m leaning towards child freeness and that DINK life (with an escape plan for me in place it things go awry).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:01 AM
22

Single moms are dragged down for being the parents who stayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:54 AM
20

It wouldn’t be necessary if today’s “tradhusbands” had any adulthood skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:45 AM
18

Do you think men who want a tradwife are the type to treat women with any kind of respect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:44 AM
53

Car exhaust pipe. Men will fuck a car exhaust pipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:20 AM
3

It’s pure projection on their part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:58 PM
6

Oh yeah, being called too sensitive by mom brings memories…I’m 31 and very assertive now. Guess whose mom likes to dish but gets very sensitive when taking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:55 PM
7

Your mom knows what she’s doing. There’s no world in which this isn’t intentionally hurtful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:23 PM
44

Oh god, it would be terrible for my blood pressure but I don’t care, I’d scream until he fixed it. No wonder unmarried women are healthier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:15 PM
4

I’d say he lost his dignity to win an argument, but that would require having any to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 03:46 PM
14

And the other 83% is trafficked for what, tea and biscuits? Or is it…slavery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:37 PM
3

I have never properly learned how to interact with other women due to my lengthy “not like the other girls” phase. I just went for men for companionship when I should be going for friends, specially female friends, for it. Cue lots of shitty and meaningless relationships that shouldn’t have happened. I get you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:14 PM
38

I think the only think preventing some men from hitting their partners is that they don’t want to shatter their own self image that they are not the abusers, even though they do every other abusive thing in the book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:09 PM
128

The lower you’re perceived to be in the dating totem pole, the harder you have to vet. If you’re a bigger woman (note, I hate whoever put “N” and “B” so close on the keyboard), you have to vet brutally. Scrotes will go after you and WILL act as if they’re doing a favor by dating you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:38 PM
6

And they say it directly…they don’t even beat around the bush!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:25 PM
35

I’m really hoping to talk my gen alpha nieces against having a “not like the other girls” phase. Hope they realize from day one girls are fun and cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:23 AM
110

I love when women look up for each other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:55 AM
56

A shoutout for your roommate, for looking after you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:50 AM
8

Pink happens to be my favorite color 😢 That’s okay, I go for second favorite (yellow).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:09 AM
12

In my country I’ve seen beer and whiskey scented shampoo and conditioner…so beware, your competition is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:07 AM
4

I understood what you meant! Didn’t mean anything to you in specific! Sorry if it seemed that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:58 AM
13

I don’t know how controversial this opinion is gonna be here, but I don’t like calling myself a “radical” feminist. Radicalism brings me to the likes of Elliot Rodgers. I’m simply a woman, a feminist even, demanding respect and being firm about it. That’s not radicalized, that should be the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:38 AM
14

I feel, no matter how much I screw up, my sisters will take a hands on approach in helping me 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:33 AM
32

I’d say it’s at least a yellow flag. Yellow can change to red with number of divorces and age. I’d say a guy my age (32) who’s been divorced once is a yellow flag. People, even HV people, make mistakes. But men are supposed to be vetting too, and getting divorced so young shows a lack thereof. A guy my age with 2 divorces? Red flag. Why would a 32 year old have 2 divorces? Just no. And yes I’ve met guys not much older than me in their second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:29 AM
38

Men don’t value the company of women. They’re glad to use us as free therapists, but they’re paying for sex. The emotional labor is always free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:08 AM
34

Yeap, a man who feels useless won’t do anything about it…he feels eMaScULaTeD instead. And it’s now your fault. I’m yet to see one woman actively preventing her husband from getting a job (the opposite happens a ton.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:05 AM
8

I’ve never heard an IUD story that isn’t a damn horror story. Guess who’s wearing a condom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:49 AM
2

I appreciate that! <3 Just be prepared for the possibility of her not appreciating (and still marrying him to boot :/).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:35 AM
3

LVM comes in all sorts and varieties! The question you should be asking yourself is “is he adding value to my life?” Also, it’s hard to assess a relationship while still in it. I only realized how bad my last ex was months after the breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:33 AM
3

Very normal. They’re manipulative. They don’t do anything right but they know exactly what buttons to push on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:39 PM
7

Just beware that some people may shoot the messenger. She might get angry at you. Don’t hesitate to block and delete, you’ve done your job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:36 PM
12

Poker face and walk away perhaps? ETA: I know it’s not always possible to walk away, but a girl can dream…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:20 PM
48

I’m a very calm feminist, block and deleting does wonders for my blood pressure 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:13 PM
15

I’m on the spectrum, so I have a natural difficulty interacting with people. Due to my “cool girl” phase, I’ve never learned to properly interacting with other women. Often, I went for men to offset my loneliness, when I actually needed friends, preferably female friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:49 PM
7

I can actually end up saying very hurtful stuff to people I love because I want to help but I have no training or tact. Women are not natural therapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:33 PM
6

My friend called me out for trying to solve all his problems, saying I’m not his therapist and it’s not my job to solve everyone’s issues. A bit harsh, but I needed this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:14 PM
1

Hahahah! Thank you, you made my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:08 PM
2

I guess the biggest one was accepting that my style is simple and modest. I’m not a glamorous person, and the sexualization was brought by my former pick me thoughts that I needed that to ensure a guy. Now I do the opposite of what I think guys want, doesn’t stop them from hitting on me 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:04 PM
14

This legit made my blood pressure raise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:50 PM
9

I came to the conclusion I actually like wearing makeup. I sorta consider this a fuck you to society because men deem women who wear makeup literal liars. It’s like they believe my lips are actually bright red. Anyway, I don’t really like the style of makeup that shows up in subs like makeup addiction. I’ve been gaining the confidence to wear makeup my style, I don’t care what anyone says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:41 PM
7

Sometimes I cringe so hard I feel everything around me starts triggering me! I need a few minutes to recompose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:09 PM
26

In hindsight, every time I was told I was overreacting, I was underreacting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:48 PM
7

This is hard to notice when you leave someone toxic due to depression, but then the fogs of depression start to lift off and you are like “what was I thinking?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:28 PM
35

Men will fuck a car exhaust pipe. And if you allow, he’ll treat you the same as he would the car exhaust pipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:19 PM
38

She’s giving us advice too. Can’t save she who doesn’t want to be saved, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:13 PM
60

My 70 year old mom calls her 80 year old boyfriend a boyfriend, and he calls her his girlfriend. Juvenile what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:06 PM
26

Good for you for realizing you can’t help she who doesn’t want to be helped. I have a bit of a problem with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:04 PM
20

Ugh, the only people I feel sorry for here are the wife and the kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:02 PM
17

They know it’s pointless to market this to men themselves, this says a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:57 PM
6

He’s probably fetishizing you :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:35 PM
3

Classy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:12 PM
28

He said most men. That implies not all men. I’ll find me one of those who don’t have streaks on their underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:07 PM
17

It’s 2021. Communication (I’ll never be able to write this word without a slight eyeroll) is easier than ever. If he’s late due to circumstances outside of his control, you most definitely deserve to know about it, and he has the means to tell you. There’s no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:02 PM
19

This isn’t a black and white world and Disney villains don’t exist. No one is 100% bad, not even the vilest creature. This makes abuse all the more insidious. It’s very easy to hate a Disney villain, but it’s hard to hate someone who, even if very superficially, has redeeming qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:59 AM
25

I have to define: • what am I doing for others • what am I doing to conform to society • what am I doing as a fuck you to society • what am I doing for myself Second to last can be healthy to an extent, but it should never overshadow the last one, which is the healthiest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:49 AM
33

My ex did the same 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:44 AM
38

I was talking to a friend. My mother was born in Latin America in the 50s. His was born in the Soviet Union in the 70s (or 80s). Their abuse techniques are the same. This will never cease to amaze me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:24 AM
29

You know the adage to discover if someone has issues or is manipulating, “if he screams at you but wouldn’t scream at his boss, he can control himself?” This guy would scream at his boss, he has fucking issues. Not that I’m sad to see him gone, good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:50 AM
8

How old are you? I used to think my mother was a good parent because she’d literally parrot “I’m a good parent.” When I got older and stopped to think for myself I realized that she sucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:37 AM
8

This makes me a bit apprehensive because I’ve definitely overshared to my current boyfriend. We were good friends for a few years before dating and it’s definitely taken us a while to get our shits together (hence us only starting dating last year). Never over the course of the years or the relationship has he used anything I’ve said against me, but he definitely knows a lot. • I definitely have an oversharing problem, I had to actively stop myself from sharing a paragraph specifying why we didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:24 AM
34

I browsed /r/PornFree and some users claim to having been addicted since they were 6. No one will ever convince me this shit is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:44 AM
32

You can’t communicate to someone who doesn’t want to be communicated to. Communication should not be a chore. It should flow naturally. If you find yourself struggling to communicate with your partner you will understand why we mock the concept so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:39 AM
13

Cheating while the wife is pregnant is very common. You’re not prepared to know how many men don’t tend to their wives in the hospital during labor because they’re busy cheating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:07 PM
18

Would m’lady spare a crumble of pussy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:06 PM
193

There’s nothing they loathe more than strong boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:02 PM
148

Just wait until they (men) are dealing with grief or suffer a traumatic event and all their male friends suddenly abandon them. Their only hope for a support system is having a girlfriend or wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:49 PM
20

I’d particularly like the “I’m here” text. I don’t think it’s rude. It’s okay for technology to change things. As long as they take their time to get out of the car and greet me, I’m good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:32 PM
41

I like it, but I wish standards for girls were presented by the media in a positive way, not in a “grandma is so annoying” way. Guaranteed young girls didn’t get the right message out of this :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:25 PM
38

Having a mommy around is convenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:21 PM
7

If you’re gonna have whiny kids, make sure all of them are small and cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:17 PM
25

If you’re dysfunctional enough these things are hard for you (they were for me at a point), you don’t dump the tasks onto your wife and just laugh, you seek professional help. But the word “therapy” is nearly offensive to men. Although, I had executive dysfunction brought by paranoid anxiety. I doubt there’s anything really wrong with these guys other than not giving a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:42 PM
90

Mainstream Reddit has this idea that FDS is female redpill. Because telling women to stick for each other and how to spot and avoid abuse is the same as teaching each other how to be perpetrators of said abuse, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:25 PM
1

Basically. It’s not that I don’t believe men can benefit from feminism, they certainly can. It’s just not the point. It’s something for women, and I’m okay with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:23 PM
35

I resonate with the content of your post, but I disagree with the title! At least with the way it was phrased! Body count definitely matters, a guy who sleeps around a lot probably cares more about keeping his body count high rather than actually getting to know and please women. For older guys, too low a body count probably means they can’t get into relationships (not even with pick mes). And when he’s at the point not even pick mes want him, he’s bad. The last part is controversial and there a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:18 PM
8

Don’t even need to get that far. I said on mainstream Reddit that I’d prefer to have a girl but if I have a boy I’ll love him too. (Yes, big mistake) Cue uproar. It’s just the truth. I’d prefer a girl. I won’t be an asshole parent if I have a boy (nor will I show favoritism if I have a boy and a girl), but I feel more equipped to deal with girl issues. With a boy, I’d just try my best to raise an HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:43 PM
59

I like to ask what have they, personally, invented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:31 PM
180

Men know very well what they are supposed to do, they just did a very good job of making us believe they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:54 PM
13

It’s like telling an anorexic they shouldn’t eat because there are obese people in the world. We’re not even close to a matriarchal society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:28 PM
30

Guilt is for when you accidentally step on your puppy’s paw. You did nothing worthy feeling guilty for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:24 PM
77

The mom does have crap taste though, look at her taste for men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:22 PM
148

A few men produced things of value. Lots of men want credit for it because they have the same set of genitals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:21 PM
109

Why do men suck so much at basic adulthood?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:18 PM
1

Girl, I was once in the elevator with a hot shirtless guy (ah, pre-COVID times). I didn’t wanna gawk at him but I didn’t wanna make it obvious I was averting my gaze. So my phone it was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:18 PM
1

I don’t wanna take sides here, since it’s impossible to prove, I’ll just mention one thing that’s happened to me. I made a meme once on mainstream Reddit and it got quite popular. Then there were several accusations that I was stealing an idea. Turns out someone else had had the same idea a few months before. All of my memes are (were, I don’t post on mainstream Reddit anymore) fully OC. I hadn’t seen the post they were accusing me of stealing. Of course no one believed me, but it was an origina…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:56 PM
403

They want a submissive woman BECAUSE they can’t deal with adulthood. The woman is supposed to adult on their behalf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:46 PM
37

Why do men treat therapy like it’s horrifying? Look I’m just a woman. If you try to make me your therapist, I will say something hurtful because I have no training. Vaginas don’t come with psychological training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:22 AM
-1

I’ve also heard of church of satan as a political group making sure that separation of church and state is kept. I’m religious myself but I can appreciate the goal. I still find the edgy name kinda 🙄 worthy though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:09 AM
53

Makes sense. All I feel about my actual exes now is disdain. Wouldn’t piss on them if they were on fire. They’d have a hard time getting a reaction out of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 09:47 AM
39

Yeap. I’m not jealous of people that wealthy. I don’t want that level of wealth. I don’t want more than enough to live comfortably on. I feel more than that, your money starts to suck on your life. But everyone I’ve said that told me it’s sour grapes. It isn’t. I really don’t want a millionaire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:00 AM
133

Can you be a virgin and still fuck? Can you be a vegan and still eat meat? Can you be an atheist and still believe in god?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:04 PM
138

Leaving is the best option. But the fun option would be to watch some softcore involving hot guys and no women right in front of him. Ask him to watch together, like Reddit always suggests! Bet he can’t take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:45 PM
54

Just a reminder that you are not worth any less for having got the surgeries either 💜 don’t ever believe otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:41 PM
5

Exactly. Women lose social standing by having perfectly consensual adult sex. And what for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:15 PM
17

If she got sick, they’d dump her right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:54 PM
6

You mean 3 out of her 4 kids are cute…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:25 PM
53

Probably watches stepparent porn 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:20 PM
8

You’re actually more likely to meet them once you get older. You’re in the favorite age range for predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:37 PM
10

When I’m really anxious, I get really dysfunctional. My creativity goes to hell, my ability to concentrate gets nearly zero, I can barely do basic tasks. Basically, my executive functions become nearly nonexistent. I also get paranoid thoughts too, but none regarding showers so far. I think what makes showers difficult during a bad anxiety episode is executive dysfunction. Edit: sometimes I’m panicking too, so I have that inexplicable urge to run away. So I’m in the shower and suddenly I wanna r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:27 PM
15

Ratties are lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:15 PM
20

I find that people who say they have higher than normal empathy are trying to convince themselves as much as other people. They are usually on the bottom range of normal empathy. It’s like when guys say they’re an alpha male, if you have to say it, you aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:14 PM
13

Yeah, I’m against sex work, not the women who do it. They are almost inevitably in it out of need, coercion, or trauma. The men who abuse them though, have no redemption.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:05 PM
6

Except adult stuff 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:00 PM
9

How does he think men get their positions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:53 PM
167

How about they unlock my sex potential?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:44 PM
12

For part of my life, I suffered from anxiety so bad taking a shower was actually hard. Mental health is tricky, but I’m not a guy and I don’t expect people to put up with lack of hygiene, so I sought professional help (the horror!). It’s been well over a year since I skipped a shower due to anxiety!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:43 PM
17

I will admit that sometimes I have to brave my anxiety to take a shower. That’s just how anxious I can get. But if you are too anxious to shower, you have to see a professional about it. It’s not a level of anxiety you can just ignore and expect others to just accept it. I don’t even remember the last time I skipped a shower due to anxiety, way over a year ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:36 PM
34

I had accepted that I’d probably just be single. By luck I found a man who adds value to my life (haven’t been with him long enough yet to call him HVM). But if he disappoints me, I’ll probably willingly stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:29 PM
6

Cheaters leave a path of destruction where they go, but who cares…their peepee found a new willing pussy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:26 PM
58

When I was 19, I tried to cOmMuNiCaTe with my then boyfriend and say I didn’t orgasm. He sulked. He moped. He took it as a personal offense. How dare I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:37 PM
39

Remember, women are the emotional ones!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:26 PM
6

I’m a millennial and I just think men as a whole suck. The entire alphabet. Add foreign characters to it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:14 PM
110

He mad young women aren’t jumping on his peepee. The end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:37 AM
6

That’s a level of crazy I’ve never seen before. Men are deranged but this is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:34 AM
5

It’s like abusers all learn from the same handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:29 AM
7

Don’t tell him to do it, if someone threatens you with suicide, call the authorities on them. If they believe him to be serious, he can be held in psychiatric hold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:25 AM
137

In general, married women have poorer health. Most men are of low quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 11:15 AM
4

Specially women who don’t know another life and were trained not to have boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:44 AM
5

I can’t imagine phrasing that in any way and still believing I’m the good guy. Men are something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:29 AM
36

RIP if he has a wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:25 AM
28

It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Men treat women who wear makeup as literal liars. If a woman says someone isn’t a real man, it means he has no character. If a man says someone isn’t a real woman, it means she wears makeup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:24 AM
38

What they mean is “it’s your fault for letting him abuse you! You should be letting ME abuse you instead!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:14 AM
52

Like 1% of them are even attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 01:19 AM
68

I thought the human male mating call was “I showed you my dick please respond”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 11:08 PM
17

There’s nothing wrong about wanting to have something for us for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:53 PM
8

I’ve said before and repeat. When men say they’re logical, they actually mean callous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:17 PM
27

Smart women make good free therapists 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:44 PM
95

I remember the one time I tried to be honest and say I didn’t come. He took it personally and got mopey. C-c-c-c-c-communicate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:39 PM
126

Then following up with a “hahahahah jk, imagine that!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:59 PM
56

They no longer spend 12 hours a day working hard in the factory to provide for their families…they spend 12 hours a day on their PS5 complaining about having to be adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 01:03 AM
101

I want to have pleasure, not watch a scrote failing to pleasure me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:16 PM
10

Couldn’t have been more succinct hahah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:41 PM
71

And even when a man is a legitimate leader, it’s a rare trait. Maybe 1 every 1000 (if that). What you have then are a bunch of scrotes who try to get credit for that because they both happen to have a penis. Scrotes live off stealing credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:40 PM
31

You’re better off without him and with the support of your sisters 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:17 PM
120

Can we just celebrate being alone? Being single is not a disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:16 PM
44

Around 200000 bC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:07 PM
9

I’m not pretending anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:04 PM
31

Sometimes I cringe so much I just have to stop whatever I’m doing because everything is triggering me 😖😖😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:52 PM
3

Didn’t get a chance to check the lists yet 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:57 PM
8

All nuns I’ve had the pleasure to meet were happy and charitable. They genuinely took joy on the life they lead and the work they did. The last thing they were thinking of was men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:53 PM
22

When a man is willing to understand you, communication flows naturally. There’s no communicating with someone who isn’t willing to be communicated with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:19 PM
33

I was listening to some Lady Gaga oldies and “Telephone” has such a queen vibe. “Can’t talk to you, I’m busy dancing~”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:26 PM
33

When men say they’re logical, they actually mean callous. “Men are more logical than women” means “men are more callous than women.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:54 PM
3

And FDS will even admit some women are beyond redemption. We’re much more truthful about the nature of women than men are about the nature of other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:40 AM
58

/r/PornFree taught me some kids are addicted from ages as young as 6. What’s next, are we gonna give our toddlers heroin?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:04 AM
25

I’m not like the other girls because no girl is like each other :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:57 PM
102

Women existing and not jumping on their peepees drive them crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:58 PM
35

Didn’t you get the memo? It’s women who aren’t funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:38 PM
15

Honestly, I’m not all that sad about this. Don’t take me wrong, I’m anti sex work, but I don’t like the idea of prosecuting sex workers, who are often victims of their situation/trauma. As for men, they’ll sleep with sex workers anyway. Vet, vet, vet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:37 PM
2

Also a shortie. I’d date a medium height guy, but not a short one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:09 PM
38

In /r/LegalAdvice they always say “don’t take legal counsel from your adversary.” Don’t take dating advice from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:00 PM
22

Communicate=bend over backwards for men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:59 PM
66

Not to mention that the perpetrators of domestic violence towards men are usually brothers, sons, or fathers, not female family members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:53 PM
36

It’s like our vagina knows when a guy is repulsive better than our former pick me selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:49 PM
17

If you want a pick me, date a pick me. The reality is that no one wants a pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:46 PM
54

Do you know where you can put a dick? A car exhausting pipe! Try it, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:06 PM
6

The lower you’re perceived to be in the dating totem pole (no matter how scrotish the motive is), the harder you have to vet. If you’re of color, vet brutally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:43 PM
34

They want their dream girl to ask them out; she stops being the dream girl the moment she asks them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:49 PM
7

I wouldn’t go straight to feminism because her mind might have been poisoned and she might believe feminism is evil. I’d start by teaching her boundaries, and how his behavior is not okay. I’d leave feminism for when he’s gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:41 PM
6

Fuuuuuuck. I read it. I usually don’t follow true crime stories (unless they make the news in my country) because I feel it triggers my anxiety. A family dead because of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:33 AM
4

Yeah, I wouldn’t be able to sleep knowing a family now can’t pay their mortgage. The guy’s a sucker, but I don’t condone the behavior of the woman either :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:24 AM
12

In my headcanon you made a 🤨 face and said “you can’t even keep it up.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:20 AM
25

You can find a quack psychiatrist willing to justify anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:16 AM
13

Men know that consent is an enthusiastic yes. They just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:45 AM
68

Seems like he broke up with you, but wasn’t man enough to go through with it. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:37 AM
69

Even if you think your guy is the most trustworthy guy in the world (and no man is that trustworthy), still don’t. His phone could be hacked or stolen, a number of things can happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:35 AM
35

Does he react impulsively in anger to his boss? I bet not. I bet he can control himself just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:10 AM
34

I, too, got very big ones at a young age. Fuck men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 10:04 AM
25

Yeah, why is this a bad thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 09:56 AM
9

I’d say it’s best not to reward these excuses for a man with the attention they crave so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:44 PM
116

I know we complain a lot about cheap guys, but there’s nothing that puts me off more than meaningless displays of wealth. I’m a simple girl, not due to pickmeism, that’s just how I am. Trying to buy the way to my heart would simply make me walk away. You can’t win me by throwing more money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:16 PM
114

Men are making the choice for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:34 PM
3

Which women aren’t allowed to have apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:32 PM
105

If they wouldn’t scream at their boss, they can control themselves. They’re just assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:15 PM
46

I’m South American. No I’m not easy, nor feisty, and I’m repulsed by your dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:35 PM
32

I actually like to have my ass gently played with. Caressed. Definitely not jackhammered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:28 PM
7

Have you tried to look at the rock hard core of the earth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:27 PM
15

Fellow Aspie here. We should make a pact, one ask each other’s potential partners hahahahah Joking, of course. It’s a bad idea to meet people from this sub because of infiltrated scrotes, unfortunately :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:20 PM
55

Broke men aren’t nicer or better looking, they’re just broke. Ugly men aren’t nicer or wealthier, they’re just ugly. Neither will treat you better just because you gave them a chance. Up with those standards, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:18 PM
59

Shoulda told him whatever height he is is a little short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:41 AM
8

They understand consent. They don’t value it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:18 AM
40

When they say logical, they mean callous. Women aren’t as callous as men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:17 AM
19

I’m so jealous of younger women…preyed upon by predators of all types. Nope. I want to protect them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:06 AM
14

At least 2 out of her 3 kids are cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:16 PM
67

Because in the sub name it’s used as an adjective. The problem is female used as a noun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:07 PM
44

A younger person has no personal boundaries so he can abuse them more easily, is what he meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:31 PM
9

I really like the idea of women being there for each other. I’ve been trying to do more to stand up for others, specially women, who I perceive to be in need of someone to stand up for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:44 PM
39

Give a broke, ugly, socially inept guy a chance and he won’t be thankful for the opportunity. He’ll wonder what’s wrong with you. It’ll also empower him. If he can land you, even if you’re only with him out of pity, he’ll start to think that he can do better. Don’t ever pity date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:15 PM
76

My standards are high enough. Your game needs to step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:05 PM
116

Logically for men is synonymous with callously. His mother is a callous person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:03 PM
4

We are the gender in touch with our emotions. They’re the gender who can’t understand theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:52 PM
12

They’re trying to convince themselves as much as other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:31 PM
13

If you have to say you are, you aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:30 PM
13

I mean, that’s what you’d be having if you date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:20 PM
9

I used to dance ballet, and I caught a glimpse of how brutal and competitive the ballet world can be. Once upon a time I’ve left my clothes unattended for a few minutes and came back to them destroyed because they were mistaken for another girl’s who got a desirable role. The apology I got I was “I’m sorry, I thought you were X.” The entertainment world is this brutal, but times 1000. I can’t imagine you making it there without a dose of narcissism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:18 PM
4

And we are compared to them, when we tell women to spot abuse and walk away. Clearly the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:10 PM
6

I’m with the team that is okay with it depending upon what they watch and how frequently. If all he watches is fan service shit, out. If it takes time that could be used for other, productive hobbies, out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:08 PM
75

Who the fuck write porn as an assignment? Have their brains rot away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:04 PM
8

Classic “pitting women against women” logic. We’re all sisters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:01 PM
7

I’ve noticed few parents/teachers really teach their kids how to have strong boundaries and stick by them. It’s convenient for the parent/teacher to have little yeschildren who won’t question them, but not so good for the children when they grow up :/ Even worse if the children are girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:40 AM
3

They think because men are generally stronger than women, they get to beat all women, no. Some fat knock kneed manosphere waste of cum was going about how female olympics are useless because women can’t outcompete men. I sent a reply asking what sports he excels at, or if he’s trying to get credit for other people’s merits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:35 AM
7

Young women are so preyed upon they should be expecting more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:53 AM
9

There are no combination of words that override your actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:40 AM
87

If she posted this on any of the mainstream subs, she’s gonna be told she’s the problem and that she should be watching porn together with her pornsick fucko husband :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:39 AM
25

If some women have nothing to offer but their pussies, some men have nothing to offer but their dicks. Except dick isn’t a desirable commodity, so they have nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:30 AM
22

He sounds like a peach, I wonder why aren’t women flocking to him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:22 AM
23

The bar is in the rock hard core of the earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:48 PM
5

Thanks! I don’t think my current boyfriend is a narc (I wouldn’t be with him if I did :P) but I haven’t been with him for very long and they can take a while to show their teeth. I wanna enjoy the good things but be prepared in case they turn out not to be what I thought they were!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:39 PM
121

Don’t ever respond. He wants attention. Don’t reward him with attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:19 PM
4

Thanks for the explanation! What about long term relationships? I’d guess love bombing would be more likely to come immediately after the perpetrator did something bad, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:12 PM
15

I was certain I was gonna be single forever. Out of luck, I found someone who’s shown high value traits (I haven’t been with him long enough to call him HVM yet). If he disappoints me I might stick to singledom. Men barely feel worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:20 PM
7

I’m autistic and I have difficulty with some social cues, is there any way to tell love bombing from genuine love?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:04 PM
440

It is a big deal, and it shows you have strong boundaries that you stick by!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:06 PM
74

Handle them when they’re broke and they’ll assume there’s something wrong with with you for putting up with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:49 PM
19

Due to my “not like the other girls” phase, for a long time I suffered from a case of the male friends only. Not even them would treat me like this. My best male friend didn’t understand panic attacks until he had one but he knew they were awful. He actually started crying when he had his first one, sobbing “is that what you have to deal with every day?!” Guy’s just an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:51 AM
17

It’s up to her to set the rules! Papa gets to be the fun parent! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:16 AM
70

It’s your fault I snorted my beverage! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:14 AM
8

Former binge drinker here! Cheers to sobriety!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:05 PM
9

I’m all for empowering bigger women, but not the way she does it. Specially since her argument is about what men like more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:42 PM
4

Yes I am! I’m actually a long time member who had her former account suspended by report trolling (long story short, my account is permanently suspended because I didn’t have an email attached to it, so I can’t recover it). I’m familiar with the whole FDS family :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:31 PM
6

“Your ex was crazy? What did the psychiatrist diagnose her with? Too much time with you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:22 PM
21

I think this sub has definitely been healthy for my life as a whole, however, since the content tends to be overwhelmingly negative (it’s unavoidable, when speaking about the way men treat women), I find I need periodic vacations, for my mental wellbeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:57 PM
15

Most importantly, parents who are narcissistic or have narcissistic traits do not teach their children boundaries. Why would they? It does not benefit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:22 PM
17

The only thing my current boyfriend said about his ex is that they weren’t compatible and that he wished he’d realized it sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:01 PM
23

I find male comedians tend to appeal to edgy, vulgar, or gross humor, whereas female comedians tend to be more subtle…oh there were have it, the reason men don’t like female comedians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:28 PM
45

Tbh…they’re men, who cares what they think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:47 PM
1

I know it hurts, but trust me, you aren’t losing much 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:10 PM
7

The term “third world” has been used to oppress and stigmatize us indeed. Some people don’t get it. I get it, I’ll refrain from using it in the context of this sub :) Are you from or close to Rwanda? You don’t have to answer if that makes you uncomfortable, but I used to date an African guy. It was a disaster except for the fact it brought up in me admiration for economics and cultures of Africa. Rwanda is one of the countries I intend to know once the pandemic is dealt with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:56 PM
15

I edited because the last thing I want is to upset my sisters, but I don’t like the term “in development nation” either. Feels like a term to cater to people from rich countries “oh, I why should I care about them, they are _in development_” even though I helped directly/indirectly cause it. I’m kinda radical when it comes to international politics (I’m from one of these “developing nations” too), so I tend to use terms that make people uncomfortable on purpose, but I acknowledge that this isn’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:18 PM
22

I believe it’s women’s nature to nurture a child after she’s given birth. That’s about it. Everything else, including choosing to be a mother, is socialization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:02 PM
155

Some incels believe women who own large dogs do so to fuck them, rather than, y’know, protection from sick fuckos who threaten to rape them every time they get rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:57 PM
105

As long as you’ve learned, sister! Have a ghost hug, you can’t physically feel it, but it’s there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:15 AM
461

It’s not about maturity. Older guys prey on younger girls because they have weaker personal boundaries. You don’t really learn to assert yourself in this society until about 25 (aka, the wall).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:03 AM
11

Yeah, women ghost because sometimes men go full psycho on them and it’s the safest way. Men ghost because…it’s convenient? They lack balls? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:34 AM
13

Men infantilize women because they’re shit, height doesn’t have anything to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:24 AM
89

I’ve worked tourism. Gotta love white losers who come here because they expect women to be easy. Then comes the harsh truth: poorer countries women have higher standards than wealthier countries women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 10:10 AM
24

Because you don’t need a reason for a boundary, but they have a good reason for respecting it: else they lose you. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, if you’re afraid of losing someone, they’re doubly afraid of losing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:58 AM
94

This is a powerful message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:54 AM
61

Let’s not forget who socialized us to be like that…because that shit is definitely not “woman nature,” and, as this sub shows, can be undone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:44 AM
101

Because he’s a man, and men believe we are always dying to hear what they that to say :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:40 AM
38

I’ve found that being more withholding works in non romantic relationships too. My family respects me way more now that they know I will speak up and if they dare raise their hand to me I’m gonna pick my phone and call the damn police (didn’t actually call, but the threat showed I meant business). Back when I tried everything to please them, they treated me with nothing but contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:13 AM
42

Unfortunately, my experience with female doctors hasn’t been that much better. Women are simply deemed as hysterical (fitting word, hysteria comes from the Greek word for uterus), while male ailments are taken more seriously. If I recall correctly, they don’t even like to apply tests to women due to “hormonal shifts,” despite 50% of the world population having said hormonal shifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:04 AM
7

You’re expecting effort from a scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:23 AM
14

How about a man who’s my romantic equal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:09 AM
14

“Too picky” should be a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:03 AM
85

Hope senpai picks her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:51 AM
42

The wall they hit at 21. Men are frumpier than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:39 AM
5

If I had one thing to say to women, don’t bother with men until you are 25. They’re probably just looking to prey on you because you’re young anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:35 AM
21

I’m thrifty, simple, and don’t like diamonds (moral reasons). Still, i expect my SO’s love for me to me symbolized by a nice gem. I know my worth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:29 AM
8

I usually ask those men if they ask out every girl/woman they see, of whatever age, with no exception. No? You’re rejecting all these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:19 AM
7

It’s like there’s a conspiracy aiming to get women to lower their standards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:17 AM
2

Attention from men as a whole is valueless. You don’t need to do anything more than being a woman to get male attention. If you want compliments that are worth something, look for compliments from your female friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:13 AM
92

Fat men don’t get half the hate fat women do, and fat women will at least dress well, smell well, and carry it off well. Because women take care of themselves better. Fat men are just dumpy. Don’t wanna date a fat woman? Then don’t. But they are still a lightyear ahead of your average knock kneed fat guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:09 AM
7

“Many men show interest, but they run away once I show my teeth” used to be my usual reply (miraculously, I’m not single now).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:00 AM
6

“The catch is that I won’t be dating your sorry ass”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:58 AM
3

We’re specifically talking about criminal cases in which texts could be used in court as evidence of harassment. Hopefully that’s not your case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:19 AM
20

How to get male attention: 1) be a woman 2) exist They’re salty about the truth they brought about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:17 AM
62

Friend confided in me her SO watched porn to get hard before sex. She just accepted it. Like, she didn’t like it, but she was like “what else can be done.” As if she couldn’t just leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:55 AM
9

Exactly. I’m not anti sex worker. They’re often in it due to need, abuse, coercion, trauma, etc. I’m anti sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:07 AM
5

I’m the most horrible dancer in the world and y’all about to witness some horrible moves, but I ain’t taking that dumbass back 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:49 PM
4

Not only it helped me spot and stand up for abusers, it’s given me the confidence to stand up to the abuse other people suffer too! A moment I’m particularly proud of is when I stood up against a couple throwing slurs against a gay couple in a mall. The gay couple did nothing but hold hands. Everyone else just ignored it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:45 PM
15

That’s a form of negging imho. If a man says they want nothing to do with you, he does. If he didn’t, he simply wouldn’t say a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:39 PM
53

Men are sly. “Communication” is pointless because they know very well what is going on. They just con us into thinking they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:32 PM
21

Pretty much. The last thing women younger than 25 should waste their time on is men, who most likely are preying on them just because they are young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:30 PM
182

Bet the standard subs would still tell it was all your fault for not “communicating” with him enough lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:21 PM
7

Wasting a girl’s 20s should be a crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:48 AM
11

Don’t block because you may need those as evidence, but also don’t reply. Ever. It’s painful, sister. I know it is. Hang in there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:05 AM
2

Unfortunately, that’s the reality of being a woman. Very few will be willing to rock the boat for you (I’ve been trying to be that person, whenever possible). Most of the time, you’ll have to rock it yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:19 PM
3

Exactly. They want attention. Bad attention is also attention. Don’t engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:45 PM
3

Yeah, we’re at the same time emotional and cold. It’s almost like it’s all been bullshit from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:12 PM
4

I’m bipolar and someone said “hahah all women are a bit crazy right?” And then had the gall to be offended when I just stopped responding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:59 PM
2

Here we usually talk about how cheap men usually are. I broke up with one of my exes due to how boisterous he was. He had to display wealth no matter what. Wealth I later found out he didn’t have. Excessive displays of wealth are a red flag for me now. I am a simple girl. This isn’t me being a pick me, this is who I am. I don’t like being showy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:45 PM
19

Exactly. I’ve always been assumed to be really submissive because I’m a bit shy, when, in fact, I’m not afraid to rock the boat if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:34 PM
3

I’m in my 30s, pursuing my first degree. Yes it won’t keep me warm at night, but why do I care, I live in the tropics. I’d rather pay the air conditioner bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 12:08 PM
1

When I see a woman being a “cool girl,” I tell her how not not actually cool she’s being by doubling down on the queen antics. It usually plants a seed in their minds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:49 AM
1

I feel I have a resting idiot face. Whenever I enter a store, salespeople beeline towards me, sometimes ignoring their own clients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 10:21 AM
3

I actually like beards…neat, trimmed beards. The kind that actually take effort to maintain. And we all know how much men hate effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:52 PM
3

I used to be a binge drinker in the past. I found a friend who was also a binge drinker. We were sharing stories of how awful our binge drinking past was. Keep in mind we never once said a good thing about our alcoholic past. As soon as we started to do that, we started to have alcohol cravings. We became miserable. I felt I was hanging by a thread. Little did we know our stories were triggering us. As soon as we realized that and stopped, our lives did a whole 180! We are doing great now! To fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:47 PM
14

Nothing proves them wrong harder than your silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:15 PM
7

Worked in tourism in a land known for “slutty women” (aka, normal women with a bad rep). I love seeing the frustration of the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:59 PM
146

I looked through the porn addiction sub and some claim to have been addicts since 6. That’s like giving heroin to a toddler. What the fuck, world?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:06 PM
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