If you are an introvert then you are familiar with people around you making various false assumptions about your reserved personality. It can be exhausting to deal with in everyday life but it gives you some advantages when it comes to dating.

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Observe projection instead of fighting it
People tend to project their own reality onto others, especially when facts are at shortage. This doesn't exclude their ignorance about them. Most of the time they simple don't want to wise up, making you jump through hoops to educate them about you. Don't engage any longer in their circus play. Introversion gets confused with shyness. Shy - maybe even submissive and therefore quiet women are unfortunately seen as something desirable in patriarchy: Women shutting up and knowing their place. Great! \s
But you can use this burden to your advantage.
Now you have to consider how difficult it is for LVM to consistently hide behind a facade over time. FDS makes it even harder for them. With you being introverted men will tell on themselves earlier. Your personality trait sparks men's interest in chasing you. You come off as "mysterious" and "distant" so they want to get to know you, to conquer you. You automatically save a lot of time with this already. But the biggest perk is that men reveal their true intentions faster than they do towards your extroverted sisters. Getting your attention is harder but keeping it is even more tricky. LVM can't keep up with it while HVM will absolutely adore you for simply staying true to yourself. You know what I'm saying? Your natural self functions as an accelerated version of your standards and boundaries in your constant vetting process with men as well as with other people!

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Pitfalls to avoid

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  • Scotes are mesmerized with your perceived "distance". They will go out of their way to catch up with you. Keep that in mind and stay safe. Take self defense classes. Assert the INFJ door shut at the first sign of disrespect. Your options are plentiful, believe me 😉

  • Chances are you have fewer yet more intimate friendships than extroverted women. While you are in the process of leveling up their number is going to reduce even further eventually. You are going to feel lonely for a amount of time. LVM sense your vulnerability and will try to appeal to your inner pickmeisha. They will try to convince you into chasing *them* with phrases like "Come on. Open up. You don't have to be shy." You are not shy. You are introverted and hurt. There is a difference. Do not engage with them. Heal and invest in yourself to find your ground again. Don't date while you are healing. No, not even an assumed HVM, because 1.) your perception is clouded and 2.) you are not a HVW yourself yet and the law of attraction will bestow LVM upon you.

  • Speaking of pickmeishas: LVM will try to gaslight you into viewing extroverted women as the enemy. As I already described above LVM will try to sell you your introversion as a faulty character trait. They want you to compete for their dick attention with the extroverted ladies. To them your said mysterious aura possesses a special kind of value, so breaking you to reveal yourself is their goal. Don't let them have you. Extroverted ladies: You know what's up. Call those scrotes out on their bullshit!

Introverted and extroverted Queens: Each one of you radiates in your own way. Keep shining 👑✨