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| 5 | Women Don’t Know. Old Scrote = Birth Defects, Developmental IssueDid you read the book.Countdown? Never using plastic again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 06:10 AM |
| 31 | You shouldn’t have to teach a man how to be in a relationshipYes, sadly did all this and was even "successful" as a teacher. I felt like a drained mom of a baby without the rewards of a bonding experience. I don't think it is an adult's responsibility to parent another adult. Especially for basic human decency and behavior. I think an extra red flag is if they can and know how to do things (cooking, chores, decency) but become very agitated, stressed and angry at doing those things. Watch body language because what can start small would end up a tantrum i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Casual sex culture depraved millenial women of children, marriage and familyYes, I suppose it is an accepted saying so I do understand what you meant by it. It is good advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 14 | Casual sex culture depraved millenial women of children, marriage and familyGood question...I think this phrase does describe a certain frame work of a relationship but one that for me FDS is all about overcoming altogether. The goal is not to "have him buy the cow" because that does not garenity anything at all. Him "buying the cow" is still operating with the framework of LVM and NVM who only view women as GIVING them something be she a mother, maid or s0x toy. It's a transaction not a marriage wether he buys the cow or not. It's better to stay single OR find someone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 04:41 PM |
| 22 | Casual sex culture depraved millenial women of children, marriage and familyI kinda feel bothered by this cow and milk saying because "buying" assumes women are products to be enjoyed. It is not like him "buying the cow" is a real relationship based on love and trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 11 | Casual sex culture depraved millenial women of children, marriage and familyI agree with you 100% but not all is lost. Men will simply have to figure out the HVW won't be a product for consumption. That's the issue really isn't it? Women have become products. It wasn't so great in 1950 but now it's worse because we are free products due to porn and hookups. I believe the solution is teaching women to love and respect themselves so hopefully the next generation has it better. If a woman truly loves herself she would not be selling herself or settling for empty "relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 04:23 PM |
| 14 | Thoughts on matchmaking services?I think matchmaking can be a good idea for a few maybe unexpected reasons: It really pushes you to define who you want, your standards and your boundaries. It is safer! You have someone between you and the person you date. There are background checks and if they do ANYTHING inappropriate they get banned. Men who use a matchmaking service are not looking for hookups usually. You choose people with your brain and based on set criteria. This is very helpful if you tend to go for attractive charming… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Ask a Therapist- How Long Should I Date Before Getting Married?This is great! "Touch should reflect level of commitment" "It takes at least three months to get to know someone" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:47 PM |
| 37 | This is so distributing.It was in the Allen vs. Farrow HBO documentary. I think in the last or middle episode? They covered this guy and how he impacted the way the public thinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:23 AM |
| 164 | This is so distributing.This guy was in the HBO documentary about woodie Allen if I'm not mistaken? He has zero scientific basis for his theories and no serious professional would cite him. Sadly popular culture did embrace his ideas because they were good for TV ratings and drama. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:09 AM |
| 247 | A question?We are all part animal that doesn't mean having more intimate soulful connection isn't possible. The men you described are: A. Have bad character. B. Are not intelligent enough to differentiate between lust and actual feelings for a woman. C. Manipulative and otherwise psychologically/physically dangerous. Want to hear something amazing? Men do release oxytocin the hormone of attachment when they work hard at taking care of someone. This has been shown in studies on how fathers bond with thier c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 10:06 AM |
| 5 | Settling because you want kidsYes, I think that for social change it isn't a solution. To be fair, the last decades are also the first time in history men didn't need to have a good social standing, a job and belonging in their community before being worthy of a family. It is also the first time men feel like they are "doing women a favor" by marrying them and having kids. It used to be a privilege. Maybe it still is in some places? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:00 AM |
| 11 | Settling because you want kidsI can understand that absolutely! It is a huge responsibility. I think the bigger picture is that there is a real deep crisis going on if women are moving towards this choice. FDS helps with dealing with this crisis and fighting a war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 44 | Settling because you want kidsSo well said about decoupling desire for children from desire for a man. The only thing this desire is good for during dating is vetting men. You ask yourself more if he is someone you want to have a family with and raising your kids. It really helps keeping standard up. I would be curious why late 20s is your age point? Considering it is still early unless you want more kids? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 22 | Settling because you want kidsThanks for sharing your thoughts! I think the downsides to using a sperm donor I would worry about is that you don't really know their personality/morals/health habits even if they screen for genetics. I would also worry my child growing up and asking me why I chose to deprive them of a father or something like that. That scares me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:28 PM |
| 43 | Simon NessmanDon't settle for unattractive men queen. They exist. My mama always told me "A man needs to be handsome and a woman smart." A debatable parable but I like how it rings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:01 PM |
| 13 | Simon NessmanDon't settle for unattractive men queen. They exist. My mama always told me "A man needs to be handsome and a woman smart." A debatable parable but I like how it rings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:01 PM |
| 23 | Mads Mikkelsen 😍Yes, he has that feel underlining sexiness that take time to grow on you. I feel like it is a love it or hate it type of energy. For me it's the intense eyes and long legs. Good point about him being a family man. As far as we know. Also yes, men who are in touch with thier femininity are the most masculine and attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:10 PM |
| 34 | Mads Mikkelsen 😍Yes! He is beautiful in an unusual sort of way and a wonderful dancer. I almost posted him too! Glad to see he is getting some recognition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:01 PM |
| 5 | Montgomery Clift is perfection💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Montgomery Clift is perfectionI looked him up and yeah! Those wonderful eyebrows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:40 PM |
| 55 | Montgomery Clift is perfectionI don't know why but I rarely if ever find contemporary actors or famous men attractive. I usually gravitate towards vintage looks and classic holywood men. You know how some men idealize the past and complain that "today's women are not what they used to be" (nonsense) especially in the manosphere. Well, fellas, they don't make men like that anymore either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 02:21 PM |
| 56 | Opinion | Pornography is more than just sexual fantasy. It’s cultural violence.- Porn Awareness is spreading! I am so happy.I agree and I say this as a somewhat gay woman it really made me uneasy she ended the article with this solution. Her rhetoric is why people say lesbians are not real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 04:31 PM |
| 129 | Opinion | Pornography is more than just sexual fantasy. It’s cultural violence.- Porn Awareness is spreading! I am so happy.It's interesting that the solution she offers is for women to date each other. Personally, I see that as letting "them" win and keeping porn culture going. Some other solutions I think are helpful is yes boycotting dating any man who consumes porn and also making sure the new generation of young boys is not exposed to it. I think at the very least there should be an age restriction of 25 so men can form healthy sexualities during these formative years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:58 PM |
| 18 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.The 20% of maybe HVM of the 80% LV and NVM I dated or observed in my 20s were too young to settle down. Real HVM require a career and health mind and body before even considering marriage. Most of my male friends only started getting serious at around 27 or 30 anyway. So...Unless you are one of the rare lucky women who met their person in high school and they happen to be a good fit I don't think 20s is all that amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 11:51 AM |
| 105 | This bio is sadHe means she is serious about HIM to the point of moving to Kansas and giving her life up. Btw police officer screams "I want to feel powerful and dominating and get away with treating people badly." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 64 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.How is her working, taking care of the kids and home 50/50? She might as well be a single mom. But what really makes me shudder with disgust is how calculated it all is and why two strangers are even getting married in the first place. He has no trust or appreciation after 8 years. Like a stranger not a family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about how LVMs have a love/hate attitude toward lesbians?To be fair because the dating pool of women is much smaller and your chances of meeting potential male dating partners is just higher. Meeting other women who I find attractive and who want a serious relationship is very rare. Meeting men who ask me out happens frequently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk about how LVMs have a love/hate attitude toward lesbians?I'm bi and I can definitely attest that just because a man seems positive and accepting of my orientation it doesn't mean he really is. Another annoying thing is when they don't take it seriously so they say it's ok for you be with other women...Like it isn't just as serious. I even had a guy tell me lesbian s*x is not "real." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:55 PM |
| 166 | How a guy speaks about/treats his mother is super important and tellingI agree but I know several abusive men who treat their mom well. They tend to split women into good/bad categories. The "good" woman, like thier mom is the type who sacrifices herself for him completely. The mother is often herself abused by the father and doesn't take care of her own needs and becomes completely selfless. He would speak highly of her and give her gifts and what not....So what. These men grew up with a family dynamic of the mother erasing herself and the father being controlling… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 10:32 PM |
| 1 | The myth that marriage is for women. From "Marriage: A History" by Stephanie CoontzThanks for sharing! I was wondering about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:07 AM |
| 7 | The myth that marriage is for women. From "Marriage: A History" by Stephanie CoontzAmazing! 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 49 | The myth that marriage is for women. From "Marriage: A History" by Stephanie CoontzI'm sorry I may have posted one page twice. Either way, I really recommend this book to anyone curious who likes history. There are so many myths busted in this book. Most ideas we have about marriage, relationships and sex only reflect the 1950s and not the larger picture of how things were. I feel FDS is like that folk tale, we get to choose our mates but our life is just as fine without them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 15 | Can "workaholics" be HVM? ...an anecdotal inquiryIt is getting into "changing him" territory imo. Maybe I'm wrong but what you want is not the action itself of, say, texting you and tiking the box with some action on his part, rather you want him to have more time or be more romantic in general? You perhaps want to know you matter more to him than his work? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:43 PM |
| 98 | Ya’ll, please tell me I did not just read what I read? After seeing that I went and made a donation to FDS. It was the only way I could calm down. Is this a thing?!?!?!?!I hate the "natural=good" argument that seems to permit this awful thinking. Serial killers also have shown a physical, genetic whatever disposition for their acts so now we should do what?! A lot of serial killers alos feel bad sometimes but it don't stop them. Oh, but "brain scans show." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 10:40 PM |
| 348 | Forcing men to invest in us will force them to be pickyNot so long ago men knew they couldn't sleep with a woman unless they married her and provided for her. Not all men had wives because not all men could afford the privilege. I am not idealizing those times at all...But it just proves OPs point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 03:48 PM |
| 25 | Let’s talk about why so many men are almost always dating women much younger than them.Glad you got fed up with his vampire energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:17 PM |
| 3 | This aligns with my experienceI recomend a book on the topic written by Shanna Swan called Countdown. Another reason to avoid age gap relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 12:15 PM |
| 254 | Do they even themselves believe it 😂😂 as a 18 year old in my 'prime' i DEFINITELY don't want greasy hairy old pathetic 50 year olds 🤢🤢🤮🤮18 is not a woman it's a girl. What nonsense is this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:40 AM |
| 93 | Let’s talk about why so many men are almost always dating women much younger than them.I just dumped someone only a few years older than myself. The older I get the less attracted I am to older men. I still look the same or better but most of them don't. Anyone relate? I think society conditions us to think it's normal or not a big deal. I cringe now at the thought of the age gap I used to find normal. Why do men date younger women? Younger women are less experienced making them easier to manipulate or mistreat. Younger women can be forever girlfriends longer. Great for men who do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:34 AM |
| 6 | Rejected a low effort dateIt's alright it's not harsh and I understand the bigger picture reasoning for it. I agree with it...I just really don't like long dinners with strangers. I hate eating in front of then or even most restaurants. So I guess I'd have to define for myself some type of non causal date I can accept that would also be enjoyable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:48 PM |
| 8 | Rejected a low effort dateI get that abviousely. I just think it is not a matter of what you drink/eat but the effort he puts in it. A coffee date can also be planned ahead and full of effort and expensive. It really depends...A HVM can make a "coffee date" something unique too. A LVM can ruin an expensive dinner. All I did was asked a question no need to jump to..."If you like coffee this place ain't for you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:33 PM |
| -2 | Rejected a low effort dateWhat if my idea of a great date is good coffee and cake? Isn't HV behavior tailored based on what a specific woman enjoys? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:08 PM |
| 8 | Maintaining mental hygiene without unsubscribingThank you! Exactly was wondering how to deal with this issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:15 PM |
| 59 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check InDo you ever feel your emotional or mental type VS. your sexual type are extremely different? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 10:04 AM |
| 29 | How do you feel about men since following FDS?Yes! I feel less repulsed because now I don't have to deal with that much repulsive behavior in my dating life. I think more about myself and don't have crushes or hours of obsessing over some stranger. I used to feel awful and think it was my fault. Now I know it isn't so I can finally not waste energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 07:02 AM |
| 26 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMWorse. He was an aspiring musician recording his album. His entire life was payed by his dad..Who owned this fancy catering company. Now that I think about it (it was years ago) his dad was there too. I call the guy the Sushi Elvis. He looked like Elvis post booze and drugs days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:44 AM |
| 15 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMNope, but I got some pics with one or two people. It was all very surreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:41 AM |
| 20 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMMy life at the time was a joke. I was a pickme in many ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:40 AM |
| 33 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMSo he gets points for honesty? 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 06:39 AM |
| 281 | Let's hear stories about dumping/blocking a LVMI tried posting about the full story but it never went up. One time a guy invited me on a Sushi date at an event and it turned out he was WORKING as a waiter and expected me to join and help him! The event was really cool and full of politicans and I being overdressed ended up joining the party well he fumed at me in the background. He also tried to kiss me when I was leaving. So...His idea of a date was me working for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:08 PM |
| 115 | I’m bi but following FDS is completely killing my attraction to menNo need to be bi to notice women are just very attractive compared to men. I don't mean just physically but in every way. I don't label my sexuality but I have dated women in the past. It was a good experience and I NEVER felt unsafe or disrespected. Even in the less than great relationship scenario I remember how it was full of mutual care, nurturing and effort. We would get each other gifts and take each other out on wonderful dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:00 PM |
| 104 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Talk about sex openly with boys so that it doesn't become some taboo forbidden fruit. This way getting info about it from other kids/online is less tempting or needed. Comment on the topic if (we don't live in a bubble) porn is.encountered in advertising, film or elsewhere. Limit thier internet access so that they can't see porn at home in any shape or form. Give them a good role model in the form of...Yourself and the husband you chose. Fathers should be role models for not consuming porn and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:10 PM |
| 8 | Overcoming trauma caused by menThat's hilarious. Truly though, that show is so underrated. It has several women who are driven to murder thier husbands. It is a comedy. I think it is very FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:52 PM |
| 25 | Overcoming trauma caused by menWhy woman ki** (reddit wont let me say the k word) Amazing show. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:21 PM |
| 2 | How easy it is to slip.Really? I thought if in your 20s yes but in your 30s its is more flexible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 11:05 AM |
| 1 | How easy it is to slip.Whay about 6 year age gap? Where is the line? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 10:39 AM |
| 14 | How much of women's birth control use is simply to accommodate men?I agree but actually the new science suggests women can and do ovulate twice a month. Even with once a month the window for pregnancy is five days. An additional huge unfair factor is that HBC interferes with partner selection. You can't choose the genetically healthiest partner for you if you are on birth control. Many women stop after marriage and are in for a sad awakening on the physical level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:35 PM |
| 20 | What is your all-time favorite FDS post?I like all those mentioned and Practical Tips Mega Post. It's just very...Practical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 4 | Details of the elusive HVM in practiceThank you for sharing! You are amazing. I can feel the level of emotional connection, respect and gratitude you have. I guess this strengthens what FDS already talks about. We can learn so much from this. Just this one thing even is so good to notice..See how he acts in an emergency situation and wether he makes it MORE stressful or makes it easier for you. In my abusive relationship every little thing would be turned into a a vortex of negativity and stress that literally would start giving me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:21 AM |
| 5 | Details of the elusive HVM in practiceI suppose this applies more to early dates when it would be a red flag for him to come to you with issues or use his issues to manipulate you. Even in early stages he seems to ask for my advice or opinion on things. advice and working together VS. Emotional support. Feel free to brag more! It is so encouraging to hear some good things once in a while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Details of the elusive HVM in practice"HVM are not even from the same planet". Love that! This was so refreshing to read. Really happy you are treated like the queen that you are.🙏👸 I think him treating his mom as he is and being connected to his emotions is definitely something to notice in early dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:09 AM |
| 13 | Details of the elusive HVM in practiceThat is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing. I was also very hurt and now even with all these behaviors I'm very slow to trust. Needed to hear about a man not being intimidated by the vetting! Great point. Can I ask when did you know he will be your husband? At what point did it happen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Just a reminderSo true! You become attracted only to respect and love. It makes you bullet proof. My taste changed drastically and now I am not attracted to people I used to find attractive. Even to actors...Who act like LVM in films. They don't look good anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:56 PM |
| 3 | An oldie but a goodie: Marina's twist on "Boyfriend" hits different after discovering FDSI love her. Her original song Man's World is also awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 7 | Finally HVM on a dateThank you, I absolutely agree and would keep vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:30 AM |
| 3 | Finally HVM on a dateMatched by a mutual friend...OLD is awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:26 PM |
| 9 | Finally HVM on a dateOf course! I'm not talking about happiness which is perfectly achieved without any man but about learning and practicing to get the results you want. Key word being want not need. Regarding "it not being our fault" I mean you can act the same with two men and one would behave high value and the other low value. Naturally, you block and delete those who show themselves to not be worth your time. The interesting thing is that a HVM would not behave any worse even if you slip up or make a mistake d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Finally HVM on a dateVery hopefully it will get better in your country soon! Good things of value are rare rare and a lot of trash to go through but eventually treasures would be found. I like your mindset of enjoying going on dates. It can definitely be empowering! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Finally HVM on a dateI love hearing some positive experiences too! So worth it and hopefully would only grow Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:06 PM |
| 6 | Finally HVM on a dateThank you queen! You too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:05 PM |
| 20 | Most Toxic SongsWithout You by Mariah Carey..."Can't live if living is without you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 04:29 PM |
| 16 | Thoughts on being friends/hanging out with men who see you as more than a friend?It really depends. I think if you are both in a relationship and there is a genuine shared intrest or hobby it can work. FDS applies in that he needs to be a HVM for it to work. Personally I had an amazing friendship with one such guy and over time we both were very sure we don't want to date but had similar hobbies and good conversations. He started off wanting to date me and I didn't. Eventually, he met the love of his life during our friendship...So it worked out great. He is a very kind pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 07:40 PM |
| 22 | Out of curiosity, what’s the special flavor of scrote from where you’re from?Never date anyone in finance. They are married to thier work and wake up at 40 looking for a wife. They think money's is an excuse for having zero social skills or interests outside work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 06:04 PM |
| 26 | What is something a man did that he thought was cute and romantic but was gross and insulting?Wow! Did you know he would do it? In my case it was a complete surprise and if anything made me see that the person he seemed and who I knew him to be after some months are a different person. It really solidified my need to breakup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:26 PM |
| 174 | What is something a man did that he thought was cute and romantic but was gross and insulting?In an attempt at romance he started to reenact our entire first date down to what he was wearing and where we walked and what he said. Edit: It might sound romantic but it was done in a very forced way and lasted hours like a bad theater play I had to watch. Other "romantic" gestures include threats of suicide and "can't live without you" acts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 8 | "Women can have a man who is either attractive or a good person, but not both. If you want to date a hot guy, expect him to treat you like shit. If you don't want to be abused, you have to put up with having sex with someone you're not attracted to"There is something about Mary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 08:17 AM |
| 38 | Why are they so lazy??Yes, they think it is fun and sexy but long term.they never respect the woman who chased them. This tells you men who want that are only looking for something short. Because long term no self respecting man would feel happy knowing he didn't choose or persue her. He would start to resent her or worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:53 AM |
| 5 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveYes, to me the energy is also far more noticeable. I can rationally see if someone is attractive but that doesn't make them attractive to me. That said I do think on some level I've been brainwashed by society to give a person a chance who I find unattractive because he is "nice" or "successful". I guess what matters is if he is attractive to YOU. I mean look at someone like Jack Nicholson when he was younger. He isn't conventionally handsome but... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:40 AM |
| 2 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI have experienced this but with generally with ok looking people who over time become beautiful in my eyes. Maybe I'm strange but to me attractive and sexy are very different things. A man can be very handsome but some other man who has a voice or way about him and an intense gaze would be sexy even if he is less conventionally attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:37 AM |
| 9 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI had to laugh. I know the Russian tv dramas you mean...It was actually what I was thinking about. I would never date someone who I don't think looks nice or is repulsive. I agree that is dishonest and disrespectful. I do date people that are not my type and sort of try and see if maybe they might be. I guess never date someone beneath you in any area or they will resent you. Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:23 PM |
| 14 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveYou are right. I actually really appreciate finding another FDS point to work on. Some parts come more easily than others...I also think it has to do with growing up in a culture full of gorgeous women with ugly successful men. Seeing that in media growing up and hearing over and over how male appearance doesn't matter really gets you. Funny, looking back I realize my ex acted very abusive in part because he knew he was less attractive. I didn't know but he and other people made remarks about it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveThat's a good point...But also sexual attraction isn't all physical so in theory you could suddenly find them attractive. I think? I don't know if you've ever experienced that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:49 PM |
| 11 | Do not feel bad for having physical standards - women deserve to be with a man they find physically attractiveI agree but what do you think about giving a HVM a chance even if you aren't attracted to them at first? Because there is this famous idea that attraction can grow over time and several dates. What do you think? I really struggle with this, especially because HV behavior is so rare these days that it seems ok to not pay as much attention to wether they are your physical ideal. I still feel guilty if I reject a man only over his appearance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:31 PM |
| 16 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalThank you for writing this. I think even women who don't want children can really picture the vulnerability of it and use it to raise thier standards. Even a HVM is not enough because he needs to be right for your own particular needs and vulnerbelties. Also...I do wish our culture had more respect for the amazing shift and transformation that is pregnancy, birth and motherhood. Our culture doesn't say it but many women find amazing powers within them during this initiative transformation. This … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:17 PM |
| 27 | I broke up with my boyfriend todayCrying is good let the pain out until it runs dry. You will be okay. You will be more than okay. If you turn cold or shut down you feelings just to be able to be with someone you are letting him win. You are abusing yourself...Instead you chose to be brave and strong and to believe in yourself. It's super courageous and truly you and every woman who decides to value her well-being and emotional needs is making our society a better place for us all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:56 PM |
| 54 | I broke up with my boyfriend todayI know this is so hard and so many of us have been through this. I know you are in pain now but the most amazing insight you had is you don't need to close your kind heart or be cold or slow down your feelings for anybody. One day you will meet some one who matches your heart and vulnerability and it would be so worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:46 PM |
| 40 | Online DatingMaking OLD a little better: Google him and check his online presence. You can find out a lot. Never match with anyone who's profile shows immaturity, bad habits, partying or narcissistic pics. Always have him make the first move and persue you. Does he ask questions to really get to know you? Does he answer your questions with real answers? It is usually clear if someone is intrested in you as a human being and not a passing entertainment. Talk about common values and beliefs. Talk on the phone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:39 PM |
| 44 | Dita Von Teese breaks her silence on Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"I respect her right not to have her image or career tarnished because of him. Plus, cheating and drug abuse is not a healthy or non abusive relationship...I mean, if that's his healthiest relationship it says a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 06:09 PM |
| 13 | I found this thing called MDS.Yes! We vet and we can't be fooled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:49 PM |
| 155 | I found this thing called MDS.This is actually fascinating (for research purposes only) Honesty they can fake but not a clean room/working out/diet/long term friends. I also can't help but find the last comment so depressing..."No woman will really love you you must fake an image of what she wants." Ironically, "faking" all these points seems so much harder and time consuming compared to just actually being a HVM who is just living his life. Imagine FDS was about creating a superficial image of what men want... I kinda want … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:30 PM |
| 10 | Held off on sex, it was horribleThat is truly the saddest thing. Men who without porn may have been capable of connection and intimacy and having thier brain rewired to this level. It's like a scary sci fi plot. It really isn't your job to fix it (probably only a therapist can). I would tell him that though maybe even in these exact words you said. As long as it is safe for you to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:06 PM |
| 12 | Held off on sex, it was horribleI want to adress the question posed because it is definitely a concern. OP correct me if I'm wrong but did you feel emotional attachment/attraction prior to this? Basically I think that real sex is not physical and is based on an already existing deeper connection between people. That is what makes it mystical almost. Your description suggests it became just a mechanical physical act that had nothing to do with the the above. That sucks. Aka that isn't even sex! So vetting would include having t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:55 PM |
| 9 | How do we slow down our own sexual impulses?Some manipulate but imo It is also projection because they kinda assume women are like them and can enjoy sex even without real intimacy or security. That's why for me any guy who tells me women and men are the same is potentially going to be very abusive in various situations. HVM understand what women need better even if they themselves don't need it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:46 PM |
| 6 | Everything you need to know about a man you can learn from his bathroomHa sorry I can see it was already mentioned :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 28 | Everything you need to know about a man you can learn from his bathroomA man can be a psychopath with a very clean bathroom. In fact, I kinda freak out of a man's house is too polished and organized...Like where is the mess you are repressing and how will it eventually come out? Hannibal lecter had a very clean house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 01:47 PM |
| 3 | OLD Safety: photos you useGood advice. On the flip side use this yo your advantage and safety. This month on OLD edventures: One guy I found was in the news for making a violent scene somewhere. Second guy was abviousely older. Third guy had the type of social media that tells me to run. Definitely use :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:33 AM |
| 11 | *MBTI TYPES IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR LOW VALUE BEHAVIOR* Has anyone else noticed an influx of men who label themselves “INTJ” absolutely shitty, and leave you with a funny feeling?THIS is real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:30 AM |
| 25 | How do we slow down our own sexual impulses?I totally understand the struggle. In general, I'm also a very warm and touchy person and I don't feel at ease when I need to block that with someone I like. What helps me is really being aware that the emotional/psychological toll is real and dangerous. I also remind myself that if this person is right for me it would only affect sparks when we finally after a long time! of dating even brush hands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 09:27 AM |
| 22 | How do you add surprise and adventure while following the handbook when dating?That is actually such a good and nuanced question. I think first of all, you and whomever you date are unique individuals and there is nothing in the handbook to stop you from expressing or enjoying that. Secondly, sounds like you need a man who has a more exciting personality and life! You can vet for him being able to plan a date that is a little different and not a dinner. Ultimately I think that there is a lot of space for funny conversations, interesting activities and a sense of adventure … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:01 PM |
| 17 | New study confirms what we've been saying all along: dating low value/abusive men will literally make you die sooner. "Higher quality relationships lead to slower biological aging whilst relationships of lower quality and increased partner violence leads to faster aging."When I was dating my NVex I became crazy underweight no matter how much food I was eating (a lot!) doctors didn't know what wrong and it was getting scary. I dumped him and went back to normal without trying. It's like a bad man is literally eating you and your energy alive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:34 PM |
| 7 | What Should a HVW Say When a Man Asks Her to Pay Half on a Date?Ladies, what if it is the third date? Serious. At what point if at all do you pay? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:41 PM |
| 68 | Relationships “built on friendship”No offense but if I wanted an awesome relationship based on friendship I'd just date my girlfriends. Plus, when it comes to the emotional labor if I'm friends with a guy I can guarentee it would be me listening to his problems and offering emotional and psychological support most of the time. It is one sided from the get go. I am saying this as someone who had awesome friendships with boys since kindergarten and who does enjoy a good conversation with a man. Also if you and him are building a re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 10:30 AM |
| 32 | A HVM is gentle towards women. Not just someone who “can be” gentle every now and then, but someone who is gentle towards you and all women ALL THE TIME.Amazing stuff. I only want to add that it doesn't make sense to me that the respect and dignity goes out the window after committment/marriage. It should be the opposite! This is the person who committed thier life, emotions, energy and the future of thier kids to you! If the man is not trembling in awe in front of that he doesn't know what love is. If he isn't a little bit afraid that he would lose it. He doesn't know what love is. If he dares disrespect the intimacy you share. He doesn't know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 09:57 AM |
| 7 | Women's media showcasing sad desperate spinster ladies, even when they are 20 some things. A mini rant.Sweet Home Alabama? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 13 | Moonstruck (10/11) Movie CLIP - Have I Been a Good Wife? (1987) HD .. i know its movie. if your not careful this if the type of man you build life with. i hate this movie for this scene alone. its so sad.I also adore it and recently rewatched it with a fresh perspective. I think actually the main character (Cher) chooses the guy who is exciting and attractive over one who is stable/safe but a mamma's boy. I can't help but root for her choosing what makes her happy but...Is he a HVM? I did notice: She is kinda his therapist from day one. He has anger issues. They sleep on first meeting. Vs. He treats her well. He let's her decide things. He is not attached to his Italian mama. Still, I find this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Hi, I'm a lurker on FDS...I would suggest the simple practice of one day not cooking and going instead on some job interviews, meeting friends, yoga class ANYTHING so that your life doesn't revolve around him. You don't need to say a single thing just do it. If he asks tell him about all your wonderful busy life. | /r/askFDS | 15/01/21 09:25 AM |
| 12 | Your bottom line is the end of the line. Gold from the book "Too good to leave, Too bad to stay" by Mira KirshenbaumI understand. I can't help associating this book with well..Breakups. We all have regrets and things we wish we learned earlier. You are far from alone in this and if anything I really believe that this regret now is a good sign we do understand and have knowledge and power. This new understanding and power you have is yours and no one can take it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:54 PM |
| 15 | Your bottom line is the end of the line. Gold from the book "Too good to leave, Too bad to stay" by Mira KirshenbaumYes! It's really good and practical. I think the principles can be applied to how to choose a partner you can have a healthy relationship with and how to avoid abusive men in general. Although abuse is not the topic of the book it has chapters that touch on it and give you insights at recognizing it is happening. It helps it is written with a sense of humor and very clear guidelines and questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:43 PM |
| 4 | What do you think of Cindi Lu’s Four Man Plan?I think it's a wonderful safety measure that makes sure it is easier for you to walk away or say no at the first sign of it not working out. I also think it keeps you rational, poised, beautiful, in a good uplifted mood and most importantly reminds you you are a queen who is being courted by suitors. You have options and you can always take a step back. That being said, it takes some practice and can definitely be a humorous challenge at times. I almost wish they could make it into a documentary… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 09:04 PM |
| 59 | She explains it perfectly...To her king!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 08:52 PM |
| 24 | Dating as an introvert has its perks - use themAs a fellow INFJ 100% to this post. So well articulated! We watch, we learn, they talk. We stay or we walk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:24 AM |
| 10 | Red flag wordsMy take on this is what happens if you ask a guy to not swear in front of you? HVM respects it bothers you. LVM would swear to see how you react. It's more about what YOU would prefer and care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:19 AM |
| 9 | If a man says he was abusedThis is so scary. Good for you listening to your instincts! That is the strength of empathy they can't use. Oh and Trauma Bonding is what is happening here. I am now feeling really uneasy to the point of skin crawling over the fact my date said he was physically abused by his girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:26 AM |
| 7 | If a man says he was abusedI know the question isn't for me but I have had some early experiences with this and I'm bulletproof to addicts as a result. There are different reasons people get into this pattern of being with someone who is an addict. I know it can often be frustrating because at first all these guys seem very different before you find out that underneath it all they share the same deep addiction to something. The best way to become bulletproof to dating addicts is basically FDS aka the longer you vet and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:54 AM |
| 6 | If a man says he was abusedPlease do try that response! Awaiting reports from the field ;) Actually this is exactly what prompted my post. I am very tempted to actually ask him "why do you think she did that?" I mean..."You chose and loved this woman for a reason!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:46 AM |
| 7 | If a man says he was abusedThank you for your great point. If he can't say what part he played in a relationship breaking down and it is all her fault it tells us all we need to know. I felt like writing this post also to strengthen myself after going on a date where the men mentioned his ex girlfriend cheated on him and physically abused him. He is in therapy and does a lot of self care. Nevertheless, after reading this thread I feel differently about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:42 AM |
| 12 | If a man says he was abusedExactly! That one is a a classic in the lexicon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:39 AM |
| 8 | If a man says he was abusedI'm really sorry this happened to you. It is absolutely ridiculous sometimes how they project thier own actions or try smearing your name after the fact. I also had a HUGE guy on a first date tell me his girlfriend physically abused him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:37 AM |
| 9 | If a man says he was abusedEven if he is in therapy for it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 06:33 AM |
| 3 | Tradtional gender roles?I see...I'm afraid I messed this one up. I reacted very strongly and talked too much. What can I do now to balance it out? I suppose if he keeps asking I'd just tell him it's very individual what people need in a relationship. | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Tradtional gender roles?Really? I think though he was asking about other actions and roles in the relationship not just that. Like...Who initiates? Who decides what? What does the woman provide and what does the man provide? | /r/askFDS | 06/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 1 | When to mention you want marriage?Thank you, I'll definitely continue to vet. I agree it's a red flag if a man doesn't bring it up first but we are talking EARLY dating so perhaps they are testing me to see if I will be clear about my goals and desires? I feel it's a damned if you do damned if you don't situation. If I'm clear I won't be a "forever girlfriend" I am standing my ground from day one! But on the other hand, I might get hooked on the promise of a man's positive reaction to what I want. If I don't say anything specifi… | /r/askFDS | 02/01/21 10:15 AM |
| 53 | Is it an American men thing or?What absolutely baffles me is why they assume marriage is some magic wand that would mature them (at like 35). I also am baffled they want a woman teacher/evil policeman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:51 PM |
| 59 | Is it an American men thing or?That's a really good point about screen time and early access to porn/games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Your thoughts - men with mostly female friendsWe became great friends for many years but not romantic. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/11/20 01:37 PM |
| 7 | Living with a partner and splitting expenses 50/50.I think it's awful. Some questions: Is it a business partnership or an actual family? When and if you have kids are you going to argue about who bought the diapers? You might not want kids or not want kids YET but I believe the foundation of the relationship starts day one. As women we are biologically more vulnerable. For 9 months to two years you could be in a state where you can't provide for yourself. Is the 50/50 dynamic going to work in that case? It can work NOW but would be hard to chang… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/20 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Is it actually a good strategy to pursue someone or should I wait for someone to pursue me?Honestly...Every real and good relationship I had I was the one to start it but I never ever asked a man on a date or made plans. It is a balance between showing intrerest and creating space for conversation (vulnerability is powerful) and letting him actually ask you out and put in effort. Even if you were to ask a man out you can still do it in such a way that requires him to be very active, plan, make effort and so forth. I don't think it is a bad start even for a traditional relationship wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/20 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I tried to find something I can disagree with in your post but as general advice goes it's solid. I actually think men have never been lonelier or lacking in intimacy. They don't know what they are missing because they have never experienced it in the first place. What most men call sex or love these days is like a poor imitation of the real thing. Anyway, I'm getting off topic. Thankfully, I see many happy thriving couples around me and I hope the picture is not so pessimistic. So yes, It's rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Yes, either he is misleading or one of those dreamer types who likes to fall in love (in lust more like) and live in the moment. But I also don't understand a scenario where a man is dating a woman and only enjoys the sex or some other aspect and he KNOWS it has no future yet and he still tells her and all around him he loves her. If he is an experienced guy...He knows he is playing and misguiding her with this. So many posts on Reddit start with "he says he loves me BUT." Usually the list after… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?The word love? No, frankly love is a verb so actions would weigh far more. We are talking about a script or scenario EARLY in a relationship where a man openly proclaims his love to a woman and his social circle while simultaneously avoiding commitment or further relationship. Naturally, she understands this proclamation to mean he sees her as his woman and his future. Hence the paradox. I can't speak for all women but I'd imagine that most would take such a proclamation to be honest and therefo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?100% wonderfully sums it all up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I can see that happening...But once you do know you can never go back or misuse that knowledge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I'm afraid here I disagree. Both have higher and lower potentials of conduct or treating one another. Women too can simply be all about consuming and using men. So again, it's a matter of how evolved a person is and how much they managed to rise above basic animal instinct. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 11:01 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?It is a matter of maturity. Most women do not want a gentle killer or beast with a heart of gold. To be fair, men have similar unrealistic expectations of women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 10:56 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Thanks for the honesty. What you describe It's more the category of "I love chocolate cake." Consumer love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Well, they also wouldn't be intrested in one another without all this projection in the mix. Perhaps it's not really all that bad? I agree we should work on understanding each other better. For example, most men KNOW the world love is taken very seriously and deeply by women and can refrain from it or make it clear it doesn't mean what the woman in front of them thinks. It takes about a minute of communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Yes, I suppose it is different. Men also fall in love much faster and in that moment would use that word and express it. It doesn't always mean he is lying... Just as you said it should be taken in the right context and not read into beyond that. I just say "thank you." It is a compliment after all...But never put hopes it is something more unless he acts on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 08:31 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?In that case calling it "love" is unwarranted. It should be called "feelings." | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 08:28 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Yes! Exactly. Indeed poor Rosamond... | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?These archetypes hold true, I agree but thankfully we have many others just as powerful. I also think this is very culture dependent...The ideal American husband is not the ideal Viking and never was. Additionally, most children that are exposed to pop culture still have a positive fantastic image of the good father/husband. Men desire to be him and women desire him. Human beings are so complex that ultimately it's not impossible to meet men who has that "warrior husband" element but it's only a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/20 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I shall read it! But you know what? I do think this dilemma can be solved. It can actually be easier for women in some regard because Eros can grow as the bond of trust, security and time is being solidified. Female attraction is less based on looks anyhow. As long as attraction and respect towards a man in present in a her heart when the relationship starts...I believe the passion can only GROW over the years. Who is to say that seeing the qualities of a good father/husband isn't very much attr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/20 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?That is a very interesting perspective. I remember reading that in 18th century France for example, it was normal for both husband and wife to openly have affairs for this very reason. You found it elsewhere outside the family structure. National and political propaganda tried to abolish this and encourage the nuclear family as we know it. I personally wouldn't build a family on this passionatte short lived type of love. For me real love is not something that changes once circumstances or passio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/20 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Wow, that's a lovely comment! I was Rosamond and it was a very strange experience. Jane Eyre is right... Makes me think a popular psychological complex we all know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/20 11:26 AM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Thank you, good point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/20 07:06 AM |
| 3 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Well said! I like that. This can prevent a lot of heartache for many women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 04:52 PM |
| 0 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Fair enough :) Let's flip the plot. A woman falls in love with a man she dates him but for some reason she doesn't want or isn't ready to marry him. Is her love unreal? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 04:51 PM |
| 0 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Yet, claims to all the world and her he loves her and has feelings for only her. Can't we claim men and women differ on this issue or is lack of commitment equal to lack of love? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?I agree, perhaps I should rephrase my question. He does want her, he does date her he just doesn't want a future with her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?Oh yes! makes me think of courtly love. It could be a good reason for this phenomenon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 02:25 PM |
| 3 | Can a man claim to love a woman and not want a serious relationship with her?You are right...What good is such love from a distance? I guess from my perspective it is hard to understand how he "doesn't want to commit" yet have genuine feelings simultaneously? I suppose it's possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 02:24 PM |
| 0 | I don’t care about a mans financial stability or security,job status at all is that strange?Nothing strange about having a type :) or finding more artistic men attractive. Actually, I think it shouldn't be an "either or" situation for you. Why not find someone like you described who is also responsible, employed and knows how to save? There are many artists, poets and butterfly scientist who are doing great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 10:35 AM |
| 4 | Your thoughts - men with mostly female friendsI dated someone who fit B! He was truly a great guy but made comments about finding other men threatening or too domineering. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/10/20 10:27 AM |
| 13 | Husband privilege is what to you?I can add to the excellent responses that "husband privilege" is a result of my respect and trust. Essentially, it can also mean how willing I am to open up and rely on him. It means MORE INTIMACY as a result. Intimacy can be...Physical, mental and emotional. Higher intimacy means more committment from me that is always growing upward. More commitment means I'm going to give my best and my all. Boyfriend means I'm still figuring out how much I trust and respect him over time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 10:13 AM |
| 25 | I chose the wrong captain and stayed with him for over 5 years, now what?No. You should work on having better boundaries and vetting. You sound like someone open and willing to work hard on themselves and offer the best to a relationship. Please, work on choosing the right man who would be equally invested in growing with you and shares this value. 5 years is better than 20. You already know the results of trying to improve on a shaky foundation. Imagine starting off with someone who shares your values and whom you can respect. Any issue you have in THAT relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 10:06 AM |
| 4 | To cohabitate or not before marriage?Only if you are engaged and have concrete plans for marriage. Engaged with no concrete timeline can often backfire. I know many situations where the couple was engaged but once they moved in together the timeline kept being "one day in the future." If you want to know if you are compatible when sharing domestic tasks and routines you can simply go on long stressful trips, nice vacations or stay the night few times a week. You will not get any huge surprises after marriage, I assure you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/20 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Need wisdom an advice after ragingI think context is actually important. Unless you have a rage issue...I imagine it would take something real to upset you. Either way, don't contact him and give it time. Collect yourself and calm down. Write what happened and make sense of it. After a day or so find a way to communicate why you acted as you did and what you will do to avoid in the future. That's it. The rest is his choice. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Should I be hedging my bets?Good luck :) I hope think continue going upward. He could be the one...It can just happen and be it. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/20 03:14 PM |
| 3 | Should I be hedging my bets?Personally, I used to over commit and think it's often a mistake to do so too early. And although I agree you should continue getting to know him I don't think you should advertise you are "all in". He doesn't have to know you basically committed to him after just a few dates. The fact he is making that statement that he is only intrested in you is great but it can also be a way to make sure you do the same in return... Full commitment takes trust, time and actions on his part. It should happen … | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/20 08:19 AM |
| 1 | Identifying a HVM.My ex fit ALL your list even after he became abusive. I think this list is a minimum of basic standards. So what if he payed for all dates, opened doors, provided and helped or never talked bad about other females or previous relationships? I'm sorry to say it isn't enough to stay safe. We need even higher standards and boundaries. Many women like myself stay in bad relationships because our partners don't easily fit the usual red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Question: I am a bisexual woman, but I also love the values here at RPWI don't think sexual orientation should be political. Period. It is unique and personal to you. Just like...Being a woman doesn't automatically mean you have to be a feminist or hold certain political agendas. No one can force you or tell you otherwise. That being said, you will find it hard to meet like-minded women who are queer. You would find it easier to find men who agree with your values. There is an element of choice in that because if you are being realistic you would realize you need t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/20 07:11 AM |
| 4 | Help dealing with the men in my life?I understand, it sounds like you know what to do :). Submission is not unconditional even with your partner...It's a balancing act that is a little hard to do at first, especially when you are naturally inclined to be feminine. Men only respect you if you respect yourself and you might need to access that inner masculine in some situations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 04:29 PM |
| 5 | His indifference is killing our marriageI have a controversial idea. You have done everything but take actions. You communicated and he affirmed he intellectually understood what bothers you. The key problem is that there is nothing here to motivate him to take any action. He knows he is comfortable. He know you would never leave. You suffering or hurting is not motivating and won't be a motivator for change. A. Yes, do focus on yourself and your happiness. Start something new in your life that would be fulfilling. B. Hopefully that s… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/10/20 11:32 AM |
| 4 | Help dealing with the men in my life?Good point. Maybe you should frame your problem with the fact that his friends are being disrespectful of HIM when they let themselves talk like this around you. It's not manipulative because in actuality it's true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 11:19 AM |
| 8 | Help dealing with the men in my life?I can only add that it would help for you to define what a "good relationship with them" looks like for you. Once you define it you can ask for particular actions and behavior or put a clear a boundary when it is crossed. It sounds like it is very important for you to feel validated by ALL the men in your life. Isn't just your boyfriend enough? Perhaps you see his friends as an extension of him... Another important point is that before you make further commitment to you boyfriend (why are you al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/20 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?Thanks for your perspective, it makes perfect sense. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/10/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?I think that is it. | /r/RedPillWives | 01/10/20 01:15 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?Wow. I understand what you mean. I think though there shouldn't be a contradiction between something almost mystical and the unity of soul to soul and "the games we play." I think people who go into extremes of one or the other get info painful trouble. I personally hate how the sense of mystery and magic is missing in our lives and in depictions of relationships, sexuality and so forth in the media. We are all losing something precious as a result. It's a balance :) I don't think a marriage can… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/09/20 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?Well, I think unconditional love doesn't exist between anyone. I mean, if my BF starts murdering cats and setting buildings on fire I can't love him. I would still feel I love him but...The condition for love as an action would require me to step back. Love isn't a feeling per se is it...It's a state of mind that is selfless. We wouldn't need so many rules for love if it wasn't dangerously selfless in its nature, would we? As a woman that is how I see love, hard work to cultivate and practice it… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/09/20 07:33 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?It depends, I think. Can you give an example of particular details that make you despair? In reality TRP is a reaction to a problem and to fear so it is grounded on wanting a sense of control and security. I am of the mind that love needs rules, limits and conditions but it also needs intimacy. Intimacy can only happen when people are vulnerable and open. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/09/20 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?Well...What about men who weren't loved by thier mother and only experience this unconditional love from a woman in adulthood? | /r/RedPillWives | 17/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to talk here about feelings about TRP, and what it implies philosophically?Although I obviously embrace an approach that is in line with RPW..I think it is important to keep a sense of the unknown, mysterious and enchanting that is at the core of all psychological relationships and attraction. My point its...Sure, its is good to know hard truths and make a general strategy but no love can happen without a willingness to take a risk and leap of faith into something beyond the daily. I don't think men or women should let go of thier ideals...But perhaps have a strong fou… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/09/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?But what I really wanted to say is...They equally often fear feeling bad about themselves now that they can't flirt etc...A lost freedom. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/09/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?Thanks for the reply :) | /r/RedPillWives | 16/09/20 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?I think men fear betrayal very deeply. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/09/20 05:21 PM |
| 4 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?A very interesting take...I don't think that is the reason. I think it's because if the situation was reversed I'd just politely smile, say something short and walk away. The very strong emotional reaction and the fact that he stayed to continue an interaction...Makes me think he is uncomfortable with his own reaction to being flirted with while in a relationship. So the questions are: Why would a man stay and start showing his phone to a girl he is so clearly disgusted by? Why would showing pic… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/20 06:46 AM |
| 4 | Is this a good or bad male reaction?I asked and he said it was just really upsetting to him that people or women could act that way...It wasn't about it being another woman flirting but because it showed a disloyal woman. She knew he knew she had a boyfriend. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/09/20 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriend with no jobI was in the same situation as you and chose love...What happened next? Well, it was hard but my man felt and knew I had faith in him and that was a great motivation for him to finally work. Some men are romantics...If they know you truly love them they will do and change and grow. I would suggest DON'T marry YET but be there. Give your self and him a timeline. Since sounds like you both want kids ask him how that timeline works for you to be able to stay home with them. Ask him when would he ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | When is "I'm not ready" not a red flag?Talking about things really helped. Men do have thier own often different fears and concerns that are very valid :) You are absolutely correct that his financial concerns are a factor here. It was important for me to make it clear that planning marriage wasn't about these expectations...I needed the emotional reassurance of commitment and a future. So....I Explained my fears about being a forever girlfriend and wanting children. Explained the emotional and spiritual meaning of marriage for me. I… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/07/20 11:21 AM |
| 1 | When is "I'm not ready" not a red flag?Wow! I can relate to this story as a possible future...I also don't care about throwing a weddings much as the meaning of the committment. Can I ask why did your husband wait and how did it suddenly change? Also sounds like all is good :) and you are happy with each other so why shouldn't I wait? | /r/RedPillWives | 01/07/20 04:42 PM |
| 1 | When is "I'm not ready" not a red flag?Yes, that worries me too but I'm not sure how to explain that to him or find out what is behind it exactly. His response was..."But you like living with me". I can't say I don't. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/20 05:00 PM |
| 2 | When is "I'm not ready" not a red flag?Yes! It's so hard because over time it eats away at you to block what you truly want and you become unhappy and it starts effecting other areas. I am curious about your opinion on cohabitation :) I can say we have spent time in the same space and under the worst circumstances and all moods. Seen it all. I think you are right and in part, knowing the responsibility it would take he does needs reassurance. BUT I'm not actually even interested in a wedding or anything that would cost money. It is t… | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/20 04:57 PM |
| 2 | When is "I'm not ready" not a red flag?Thank you so much for your advice and most importantly, empathy. He has been under a lot of stress and the financial side of things is lacking...So I can understand if that is the rational argument for waiting. I absolutely am outspoken about what I want and where I hope the relationship goes...He agreed to work with me on a timeline and some steps towards those goals. Progress? | /r/RedPillWives | 28/06/20 04:53 PM |
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