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Healthy scepticism aside (which would be a good thing) some people really get off on playing dEvILs AdVoCaTe. As another member said I don't think it has to do with negging as there is no romantic/sexual context here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:53 AM
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"I'm good but thanks for the offer :) Have a good day" Block. Delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:38 PM
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Men (as a class) feel threatened about everything that is exclusively women. Be it tampons, female only gyms or schools, public rest rooms or any activity with an accumulation of women. "Womanly" jobs and hobbies get ridiculed, underfunded, approached and overtaken then discredited and finally erased. Any form of female separatism threatens male authority. They are afraid of women talking to each other, sharing experiences and finally liberating themselves from their influence. It's always about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 11:56 PM
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Well noticed. Would you imagine a "male" AI acting like that? They didn't make "her" sound like a average woman. More like a naive, helpless girl. Even using third person to refer to "herself" - like, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:45 AM
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Sounds like red pill theory for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:57 AM
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This^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:20 PM
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I'm glad the comments are calling him out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:49 PM
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When you bring up an issue he might let you do all the talking and thereby larps as a GrEaT LiStEnEr. He isn't. This is an emotional abuse tactic called stonewalling. He makes you communicate to exhaustion. He doesn't actively oppose you. He just "doesn't get it yet". He might even breadcrumb you into thinking "wow, he seems to get it now". He might even thank you for "your insights into his problems he wouldn't have discovered on his own". Now you are being rewarded with praise and gratitude fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:59 AM
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Nice! I really like that one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:37 AM
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I often hear from people that I'm kind yet they wouldn't want me as their enemy. I take it as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:32 AM
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Why yes, ofc, bad sex is definitely a deal breaker. Don't put up with that, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 11:25 PM
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No objections from my side here. I really feel that LVM desire HVW too but since they are unable to get her they resent her instead of working on themselves. It's the coping mechanism of a loser. If given the opportunity a LVM would use a HVW as a fleshlight too, the same way they do with pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:53 AM
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LVM want HVW too. They just hate how they can't have them and therefore do everything they can to bring them down to their level. Some of them won't actively try anything tho. They just wait and keep orbiting if the HVW lets them. They have no drive in life, no backbone whatsoever. They desire her but are to much of a loser to pursue her. That's my personal experience however and that of other women might differ from mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:45 AM
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Interesting question. I understand and share your concerns to some degree. On the other hand I'm feeling optimistic because what FDS does is turning pickmeishas into HVW, which men desire. It's paradox how patriarchy grooms women into human beings who can't be attractive to healthy men when it comes to her character. I don't feel any pity for men, don't get me wrong. What I'm saying is that patriarchy cripples men as a class by denying them what they really need in order to feel like they are ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:47 PM
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What a great analogy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:00 PM
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I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:34 AM
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I'm glad about the changes, especially those regarding low effort posts and post flairs. Some questions that came to my mind: Since all podcast criticism should remain in the weekly discussion thread what does this mean for the PODCAST DISCUSSION flair? Is that one obsolete now? Or can and should we use it when referring to later episodes? Personally I like this flair and I would have made one post for each podcast episode if I had had more time. I do plan on doing so in the future when I'm less…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 11:43 AM
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Saved. Great comment. Thank you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/21 03:10 AM
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Because mens expression of sexuality is the only accepted one. Therefore womens sexuality is non existent in contrast. It is only allowed to exist if it pleases men and even then it's something bad, something "dirty". If women's sexuality can't be erased it has to be shamed and ridiculed. See "vanilla" for violence free sex or "greysexuality" for respecting your own sexual boundaries. Everything is "boring" when it isn't phallocentric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/21 04:29 PM
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I'm sceptical of that term. If you tell me you need emotional connection for sex it does make you normal in my eyes. I mean, what it implies it that the default state of sexuality is wanting to fuck people solely based on their physical features. Sounds sociopathic tbh. I'm bi. One stereotype of bisexuals is how they are always down to fuck. For me this couldn't be further from the truth. I'm picky af. I only develop sexual feelings when I feel a personal/emotional connection towards people who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 07:21 PM
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The point behind it is that he is not invested or is straight out lying about the location (it happens. He'll suddenly act surprised that the fancy place in question mYsTiCaLLy closed that day.). If it's the first option the downplaying/humble bragging will him allow his ego to claim that "we were never dating to begin with anyway" in case you reject him. Either way he is low value.
/r/askFDS09/10/21 12:31 AM
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Like /u/ASeaOfQuotes said. They know what they are doing. Men know what a proper date is and they will prepare one if they want to. It's not your job to see the "date" in a "hangout". If he says "hangout" it's a disaster waiting to happen. If he calls it "date" explicitly it's slightly less likely to turn in to a disaster. It's his job to impress you and give you a good time. It's your job to have fun and leave if there isn't any.
/r/askFDS09/10/21 12:09 AM
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100% this. Also the justification of a man's actions by arguing that he "can't control" himself is an instant turn off, at best. How do you expect me to respect a person who isn't in control of their own life? And it gives of rapist vibes. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:49 PM
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Happened to me too recently. I returned the favour by not knowing who was is either every time. Because impolite people aren't impressive enough to get my attention or occupy any space in my mind. Guess who addresses me by my name now every time he talks to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 09:54 PM
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This is sexual coercion, plain and simple. I'm so sick of the normalisation of sexual coercion in partnerships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:43 AM
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1 is a fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:44 PM
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I'd like to add for those who consider polyamory and living in communes as an alternative to the nuclear family: No. Just don't. It's a trap. I came to witness this phenomenon recently where the wokest abusers push that narrative onto women with childhood trauma: "You can have all the love you want and need. You'll never be alone again. ALSO YOU'LL BE SAFE FROM SPOUSAL ABUSE BECAUSE ABUSE THRIVES ON ISOLATION AND IT THEREFORE CAN'T HAPPEN WITH US." Lies. Abuse in polycules happen and it's one gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:39 PM
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Agreed. Maybe this has something to with the fact that it's the women who moves in with her spouse' family, not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:41 PM
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Agreed. This one video is funny but the rest feels off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:29 PM
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Reddit in a nutshell. When even your love interest herself tells you you embarrassed yourself yet you go on and show a screenshot of your humiliation to random dudes on the internet it becomes clear that you never wanted a gf to begin with. This isn't even about about sex/blue balls whatsoever. They fuck up on purpose because it gives them fuel for their petty misogynistic mantrums. Even if they got all the hot, kinky sex in the world they'd never be happy. Because (the lack of) women/sex in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:24 PM
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In 2015, she was raped by her ex-boyfriend. They were having consensual sex before he forced her to have anal sex, despite telling him she didn't want to. "Consensual sex" = sex. Sex without consent is rape. No need for redundancy. Call things by their name. "Consensual sex" sugarcoats and thereby normalizes rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:06 AM
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I only know of a Olivia Fox Cabane who wrote "The charisma myth". The book has a duck-peacock on it's cover. Are you talking about this one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:09 PM
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It could be true tho. Unfortunally I knew some kinkmeishas (female and male) personally who were into similar shit. Not with a gun but with a razor sharp knife against their throat while getting fucked. Thrusting while pressing a knife against someone's carotid - not stupid at all./s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:54 PM
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Yep. If you want to get an inspiration about the type of emotional abuse he is going to inflict on you by proxy take a look at his exes. What "fault" did his ex have? Listen to his rant about her. What do his friends and family say about her? Because I can guarantee you the same thing is going to get reused to justify his abuse towards you. He is the common denuminator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:42 PM
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That's what a scrote would say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:45 AM
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You are absolutely right. You articulated it very well. Thank you for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 02:57 AM
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He definitely killed her and the police knows it too. They just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:05 AM
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They usually start sexually harassing me when I use this kind of bait. It's truly bizarre. They always start by initiating physical contact, something they didn't do before. Casual touching on the upper body like shoulders and arms. Requesting long hugs when greeting from now on and negging me as being too "cold" or "stiff" when I hug them back in a normal way like I did before. You know, like friends do. Making too many compliments about physical features of my body to a degree where they come …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:23 PM
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Negging. They think they are setting the pace, that they can get you to chase them for approval. They test you for kinkmeishas/open-minded/cool girl tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:33 AM
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👆 I like this one. Speaking of misogynistic bs, you can also play around with the "I'm not like the other girls" stereotype. Say that you've always disliked typical girly stuff like the color pink, dolls and stuff. Say that you are proud to have rEaL HoBBiEs (like the boiz) and that nobody has called you boring or not cool because of it. Your fake insecurity could be to come of as a "girly girl". Scrotes will buy this nonsense, they've preached it over decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 03:21 AM
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This is the dumpest shit I've read today. He should learn to communicate better 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:23 AM
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Also way too risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:19 AM
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That's so sick. Absolutely disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:02 AM
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Yes and not only that. Men also use evolutionary psychology as a tool to push their own misogynistic agenda. See RP and incel ideology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:21 AM
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Same here. I absolutely love the podcast. The lighthearted approach on difficult topics, the inspiring conversations that give you more perspective into the hosts through processes. The the medium of the podcast conveys FDS's message in a way the subreddit can't. It's not a substitute but a worthy addition to the sub. Also the bonus content has been really excellent this far. I can only recommend to become a patreon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:42 PM
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I'm so confused. Is this a man, a woman or a poly couple LooKiNg fOr A tHiRd To CoMpleTe OuR FaMiLy? "Lesbian" OLD did a toll on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:00 PM
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Thank you for bringing this up. Also the combination of huge man + "petite" woman and age gap in relationships (old man, young woman) gives me pedo vibes. And I'm not saying this to shit on any woman here. I get your preference for tall men. I'm mentioning this on behalf of my short female friends whose body type seem to attract pedophiles and I want to keep you save.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:04 PM
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PSA: Those "creatives" are often neurodivergent women. There is the hypothesis that creativity is to neurodivergent women what math is to neurodivergent men. There are always exceptions to the rule ofc. But the reason I mention this is because these women are often undiagnosed because they are able to express themselves far better than their male counterpart. In fact language skills can be above average. Due to sexist biases in medicine neurodivergent women are often overlooked. They don't neces…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:45 PM
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Hopefully it is still a wakeup call to sex workers who believe that their work leads to "empowerment". When your power can get taken away that easily maybe it was never there to begin with? I wish that at least some of them take the hint and start investing in a sustainable way of income - physically, mentally, economically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:49 PM
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Jop, comparison wouldn't make sense here. Especially since one is considered a slur where the members of the discriminated community are allowed to reclaim it. The other one was used as a slur too but it became mandatory for its members to describe themselves that way. Fascist dynamics are dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:48 AM
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I think it's a bit difficult to describe. You can't compare the Q word to the N word like that. How do I say this...if you are gay or bisexual and go to a demonstration (like the pride parade) for your human rights you are expected to use the q word. If you openly state that your community mainly fights for the rights of homosexual and bisexual people you can find yourself in a situation where a bunch of violent lunatics are eager to hospitalize you with pastel colored baseball bats. Edit: Actua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:01 AM
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I'm also bisexual and I used the term for the longest time because I wanted people to feel inclusive and welcomed. Problem is that when you include and tolerate intolerance and hate really bad things happen. I can't use the q word now. I feel like I have lost my community to sex pozzy rape culture. I don't feel safer in something what used to be a "safe space", in fact, I feel safer outside of it. Yet I don't know where to meet like-minded people. It's difficult to date inside this "culture", da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:37 AM
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You can apply every red flag from heterosexual dynamics to homosexual dynamics too. Women can be just as creepy as men. Problem is the abuse is often minimized ("stop fighting, girls") or fetishized ("cat fight"). Additionally perpetrator and victim often get treated like one and the same. It's difficult to talk about abuse because many victims are afraid to "stain" the community and/or get kicked out sub-sequentially. It's difficult to talk to heterosexual people about your relationship issues.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:19 AM
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Sadly I have to agree. Every women who used the word "queer" sexually assaulted me sooner or later...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:06 AM
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Yes, basically. Idk why you are being downvoted for this, that's exactly what I'm saying. The person who invites the other one pays & and FDS says we shouldn't chase men (meaning women don't ask men out). This results in men paying for the date since they are the ones who ask us out. It's not rocket science. When I invite my family, I pay. When my family invites me, they pay. Same with friendships. When I ask a women out I make sure she knows that she can except me to pay. I literally tell her t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:51 PM
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She must be dying inside when she realizes that he meant every word he said about him and her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:46 PM
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I think there's a misunderstanding. I'm all pro compensating reproductive labor and I'm also on the same page as you regarding government and that one mate in particular. Point is that you shouldn't use this as an argument during vetting or in the relationship to justify your standards that a man brings said nuptial offerings to you. He does this because it also ensures the survival of his offspring when he protects you and makes your life easier. It's in a man's own best interest to do the "dan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:44 PM
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Scrote: "I literally hate you" Pickmeisha: "OMG so cute he just joking so funny" 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:15 PM
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I confirm the invitation the moment he asks me out. If he asks "May I invite you on a dinner at <place>?", "I wanted to invite you to do <activity> at <place>. Are you interested in going there?" or "I'd like to take you out to <place> at >time this week>. Are you free?" it's a sign that he is willing to pay and sees it as an actual date. I then confirm with something like "I'd like that, yes. I'm look forward to it. :)" If his proposal doesn't make his intentions clear I'm less likely to accept…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:07 PM
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This sounds lovely. I like the regularity of this dates. It give you something to look forward to the whole week. And especially after/during Covid and abuse the regularity provides stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:24 PM
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Let me know your date ideas in the comments. How do you pamper yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:21 PM
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Show them to his wife, then block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:07 PM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:34 PM
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Thanks! I have both books at home but haven't had the time to start reading them yet. The dumb fox technique is from Why Men Love Bitches, if I remember correctly. I'm looking forward to reading them. Thank you for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 12:11 AM
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We all have somewhat of an "outside-persona" when we interact with others. Also as social creatures we behave different when we meet different people. The way you interact with your parents differs from how you behave towards your bff. And that's completely normal and actually a good idea to do so. The key is that you choose to display different facets of your own nature instead of becoming a strange person you don't identify with just for the sake of pleasing the other one. I'm glad you are hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 12:08 AM
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Absolutely. Integrity makes you a desirable lover, a reliable coworker and an interesting & honest friend. For yourself you become a strong, self-respecting person who is able to self-reflect and manage their life like an emotionally mature person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:43 PM
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Thx! It's definitely beneficial for you, especially in the long run. And this has nothing to do with "slut-shaming" women whatsoever. If shifting the goal posts doesn't work on you LV people can't treat you like a doormat. Simple as that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:29 PM
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Lol, nightclubs can go ahead and do so. And while we're at it don't forget to let women pay the same fee to get into swinger clubs. Huh, what do you mean this wouldn't be profitable for the host? Are you saying men go there for the same reason they go onto OLD and pay for extra swipes? It's almost as if women are the product in a capitalist society that makes it socially acceptable to buy women's bodies. Discrimination of menz!1!!11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:32 PM
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Thank you for giving me hope! I honestly didn't expect my post to spark this amount of controversy or misunderstanding here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:08 PM
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LVM are looking for a HVW at a LVW's price. That's why they invented negging. They want to have it all but offer nothing in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:48 PM
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Yet you say LVM want to commit to women who follow FDS? Would you mind telling me where I said that? I said that high standards make you desirable. I didn't say that this desire makes them want to commit to you. A man who tells you that he wants you only tells you that he wants you. That doesn't mean that he loves, respects and values you as a human being. A HVM does and he shows that with words and actions. A LVM only tells you that, at best. Do you know how many LVM told me that they are into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:44 PM
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If you think that a man who expects you to tolerate his BS is actually "committing" to you I've got some bad news for you. Stringing you along =/= commitment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:49 PM
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I spotted only 1 red flag and it's called "Turon".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:38 PM
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I wouldn't respond at all. If he were serious about you he'd 1. Asked you out in private and 2. Don't suggest a coffee "date". What he does is the LVM's way of showing dominance: If you respond, even agree it shows the following to the group: You have no standards, you are used to low effort. This can and will backfire at work btw. You basically tell the whole group that you are OK to be walked over with. Anticipate backlash in the future. Especially when it comes to stealing your ideas, taking …
/r/askFDS17/08/21 03:15 PM
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A man treats will treat badly when you are above his league but too much of a loser to meet you there. We also know that scrotes can believe they are attractive and a catch, despite no women being interested in them. They talk all the time about how they get no matches. A woman finally matches with them, but they decide they could "do better" (with who?!) but they no one else interested so they are going to date her...but treat her like crap....because they are out of her league...but she's the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:33 PM
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So they basically want to date and marry FDS women and pump&dump libfem kinkmeishas. Unfortunately for them FDS women refuse to take on the madonna role while throwing pickmes under the bus. No, kinkmeisha, the whore/slut role is not beneficial to women. No, "tradwife", you don't really want to be the madonna either. Know your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:23 PM
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Please let this be a male troll. Please let this be a male troll. ... 🤞🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:47 PM
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I came here to say this. Definitely do it, OP. There could be more to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:44 PM
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Good point. In my case he was against me having pets. I think it was because of jealousy. This was not the first bf who was jealous of my pets. One literally complained that I didn't talk to him like I do with my pet mouse (Calling her a sweet cute ball of fluff and stuff. Yes, it's ridiculous). He did try to baby trap me the whole time though. Maybe it was because the baby would be "part of him" and so he saw it as investment in himself? Heck, I'm glad to be away from him this psycho too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:11 AM
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For those saying "why doesn't she have a life outside with real friends?": I want you to consider that he might have already isolated her from her friends and family. Now she stays inside, getting her emotional needs met by an island full of animals in a console, which can lead to an addiction in her current state. Her bff would have told her to leave but Tom Nook will not do this for sure. Pickme's think it's cute, FDS thinks it's embarrassing. But I have been in.this.very.situation. He did thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:54 AM
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I came here to say this. Leave. It will get even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:34 AM
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Vetting strategy: Blood-in-the-water-test, Afghanistan edition: Tell your date how the disturbing incidents in Afghanistan concerns you and watch his reaction. Does his face look indifferent? Does he "forget" basic chores so you as a wife/slave remind him of and later take upon them? Does he bring up BDSM despite your statement? I'll see myself out. On the other hand, no healthy man would think that way so maybe there's more to it. Nevertheless this post made me vomit into my mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:21 AM
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The manosphere has led to young boys feeling unwanted. An easy solution would be to ensure that no man between 18-25 is single, make sure that other men available are given to these men. There, fixed it for you. Solve two problems at once. What, you mean state ordered rape of men would be barbaric and dehumanizing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 09:42 PM
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I wrote a post about this some time ago. It's about his ego. You being introverted makes him sweat because he is used to getting his ego pampered with attention (to him noice equals attention). And even when he has your full attention (obviously, you literally made time for a date with him) it makes him panic how he has to put in some effort. Yes, you noticed correctly: His reactions are attempts of negging. See, for him you were there but not "there", even though you sat right in front of him. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:45 PM
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One "bragged" to me that he kidnapped a girl he was into, drove her into the desert with his car and threatend to kick her out in the middle of nowhere if she didn't - and I quote - let him rape her. She preferred to get out of the car. I should have seen this coming from a self proclaimed nIcE gUy who stated how much he hated feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:22 PM
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Yes and so are BPD and HPD. Their treatments and symptoms however differ. Even though egotism always plays a major role how they behave is different. Also, how do they look at you? In the early stages of the narcissistic abuse cycles a narc will look "smitten". He watches you with a smile that looks like he is in love with you to outsiders. You are put on a pedestral. He then starts to devaluate you and the "smitten face" turns into an angry/concerned/disinterested look, that signals how much he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:58 AM
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Fake. Too much self refection for someone with NPD. This is just your usual butthurt reddit scrote who wants to frighten you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:37 AM
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Like, she needs to feed the tequila worm now in order for it to function properly? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:22 AM
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Personally I dislike the term "demisexuality". It implies that promiscuity and hookup culture are the norm. Basically that (what mainstream thinks of) male sexuality is the norm and that needing feelings for sex is "strange". I don't want to fuck everyone. Most people don't interest me sexually. The majority of strangers I see on the street disgust me. I don't want to see them naked, I don't want them inside of me, even when they look good. But hey, maybe I'm "demisexual" too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:17 AM
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Sounds more like a psychopath than a narcissist to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:04 PM
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Without more context this whole conversation sounds quite off. Idk why you would share this information with a date. It's nobe of his business and I don't know how he should have reacted "better". If I had this conversation with a woman(date) I would be confused or annoyed because it sounded like fishing for compliments and I hate those things. I probably would have reacted the same way he did because of the discomfort and cringyness I felt.
/r/askFDS15/08/21 06:25 PM
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I like this posts very much: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p2uhm9/what\_do\_good\_sex\_and\_a\_good\_sense\_of\_humor\_have/ https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p3eut1/first_phone_call_first_date_red_flags/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:58 PM
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Absolutely pathetic. I then asked how it was going and she replied with "They all cheated on me or left me for another girl." What a surprise 🤦‍♀🤦‍♀🤦‍♀ She also "stole" my back then scrote from me. I thanked her for it and wished them well since we obliviously haven't been compatible to begin with. She didn't like this. She instantly lost interest and didn't want to fuck him anymore. His whiny ass tried to come back to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:46 PM
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The MOST insane thing...this is a though one. But I have a few gems: 1) One publically bragged to me: "Well at least I already had an abortion at 13." Sis, this is not the flex you think it is. Abortions are emergency procedures that are important for women to have access to. Not something you use to push your perceived market value in terms of sexual experience. 2) "I stole all my boyfriends from other girls." 3) One pickme I tried to safe. After I told her she should take responsibility for he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:50 AM
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Ladies and gents, enter the future MIL from hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:13 AM
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I know. If I were you I would rather DM them. Maybe use a different account. Also mods can blacklist certain words. I assume "FDS" is one their lists and gets you autobanned the moment you submit your comment. So my course of action would be: 1) make an alt where you don't participate in FDS (they can scan for this too) 2) offer descent, FDS minded advice with ever mentioning this sub in public. 3) optional. DM them but make sure you don't harass them. You can inform them of FDS to guide them he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:53 AM
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I haven't but tbh I don't feel the urge to comment on women hating subs. Why should I fight to contribute to their subs when I'm clearly not welcomed there? Working for free? Generate traffic for their hateful views? Worrying to get banned for helping others? Nah. Fighting on my enemie's ground puts me on disadvantage. I give my best here on reddit to help other people not only with dating but in other areas to, like mental health issues too. The feedback I get has almost always been positive so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 09:33 AM
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Your last sentence killed me 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:51 PM
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I agree with your whole post and tried to summarize it into one sentence 😊 LVM try to larp as HVM by acting like they are the prize aka setting ridiculous high standards they aren't able or willing to meet themselves. That's why I wouldn't call them standards but unjust entitlement. Edit: Great job with the post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:38 PM
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Interestingly the "male feminist's" view on women&sex is very similar to TRP - a clearly anti-feminist - ideology. The first call it "sex-positivity" and "open mindedness", the later call it "overcoming her anti slut defense (ASD)". Makes you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:11 PM
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Ofc it's always about them. They don't slutshame women. Not because they respect their bodily autonomy but because it pushes their own chances of getting laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:05 PM
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What do these men have against Lady GaGa? Homophobia. But what do you expect from people who blame the woman for finding out she got cheated on by her bf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:47 AM
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No, you are weirder for listening to a 6 minute voice message your bf sent to your mailbox. Like, for real?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:44 AM
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Fight the need for abortion at its roots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:21 AM
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This is definitely one of my favorite episodes so far. You confirm what I've been saying all along: Your attention is your social currency. Spend it on valuable actions you receive. Rewarding LV behavior with your attention is a bad investment of your currency. Not only won't it have the desired outcome - it will back fire at you, you will achieve the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:20 AM
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We need more of these posts. Technology plays an increasingly bigger role in dating, we need to learn how to defend ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:23 AM
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They are actually seen as misogynists, even within the kink community. Problem is that they are tolerated. NV-dOmInAnT-men self describe that way with a tongue in cheek sort of "charisma" which abolishes all constructive discussion. The kinkmeishas have only themselves to blame for enabling and even openly defending those abusers (ironically that's one of the rare occasions they are allowed to speak openly despite being a woman). Needless to say that kinksters absolutely despise assertive or fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:48 AM
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There is a difference betweet high standards of a HVM and entitlement of a whiny LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:34 AM
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I never understood what problem misogynist have with women driving a 2-seater. They hate how they can't control a woman looking after herself. Control, everything about it is about control. Your comment opened my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:58 AM
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And even then it's her money. She can buy herself what she wants with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:48 AM
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I think you got the wrong link. This one points to this page here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:11 AM
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It didn't come off that way at all and even if that were the case that wouldn't be a problem at all. You brought up an important addition; a good reminder that we as women aren't accountable for men's self esteem. If they take shitty actions based on that the only responsibility we have to take is not to put up with it and walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:45 PM
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Yes, absolutely this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:52 PM
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Yes, you can find some good examples in the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:03 PM
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I've made it halfway through the video and I'm now familiar with muscles groups in my body which I didn't know could cringe themselves. But I can't look away either. Make it stop. Edit: He is trying to kiss this cornered woman now and I want to give him a nipple twist as thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:14 PM
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I agree. Credit where credit is due.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:08 PM
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There is another new tactic too: Sharing FDS's and other feminist tweets/posts to virtue signal towards pickmes and not fully recovered FDS aligned pichmes. Remember: Scrotes love to break down assertive/strong women. Bonus points if FDS gives them more exposure to their followers by retweeting/replying. By the end of the day it's nothing orignal, just good 'ol virtue signaling & peacocking of so called MaLe FeMiNiSts. Men don't get a say in FDS, they know that because they follow us but deliber…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:15 PM
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Here, you'll need this as background noise while reading: https://youtu.be/pct1uEhAqBQ Edit: Thank you for the gold award, kind stranger!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:59 PM
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As I radfem I don't get it either what other users problem with this tiktoker - whose handle literally says dworkinfem - seems to be. I have a suspicion that it's about the "type" of radfem ideology but I refuse to go down that road in this thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:10 AM
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It really depends on the context. There are countries where it's appropriate to walk up to a stranger and ask them "How are you?" but they mean ut as a greeting/conversation opener. They don't actually want to know how you are. Personally I thinks this is stupid and misleading but whatever. I also know people on the spectrum and this can be VERY confusing for them at first. Then there are shitty people who you actually know well, toxic friends/family members/love interests, who also don't want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:45 PM
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This post gives me flashbacks. For the newer members this here is the horror OP is referring to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:28 PM
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What do you need?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:33 PM
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I don't agree with everything he says tbh. Eg in one of his studies he concludes that women prefere older men because of their percived higher status in society. I have never been into older men. With only one exception all of my bfs were about the same age or slightly younger than me. There is always so much space left for interpretation in Humanities as an academic field of studies. Another thing you should consider is that said conclusions are always influenced by the current Zeitgeist. I'm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:24 PM
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Interesting. This man is also quite famous btw. He contributed to 4 of 11 studies I used in my last post about mate-retention. I'd take him for a reliable source.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:03 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:08 PM
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Neither "pickme" nor "scrote" have been invented by FDS. FDS launched 2019, but urban dictionary mentioned the term "scrote" waaaay before that. The first occurrence dates back to 2002(!): https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:56 AM
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Ay, lurkers, before you get even more butthurt than you already are read this translation: OP is saying to act like a man in a patriarchal culture. Want us to copy more ethical behavior then act accordingly and be a better role model. Remember your "argument" you use to dismiss any productive approach to combat the gender pay gap (WoMeN aRe NoT rUtHlEss EnOuGh, ThEy aRe tOO sOfT aNd OnLy HaVe ThEmSeLvEs To BlAmE). Guess what, we are listening to your advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:08 PM
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Just wow. First sentence and it's already a neg. I've never been on Tinder. Can people DM you there without a match?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:25 PM
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Self proclaimed MaLe DoM negged me over four hours in some desperate attempt to get my attention. Why are they so fragile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:04 PM
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He didn't even take 0.5 sec to look at your profil pic to see that you are a woman not a man. Instead he goes on on questions a "man's" experience with women. Interesting though, it's like they care more about what other men think of their ducks than what women think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:13 PM
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NVM will say shit like this because they want you to confirm their negative value ("Told ya, WoMeN sUcH GoLddIggErS, WoMeN BaaaaaD!!1!") or pander to their fragile ego ("Woo is me, I'm so misunderstood. Spoon feed me attention, mommy."). The only winning move is not to play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:11 AM
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I would add this to the handbook if I could. Great post! Give positive reinforcements (attention/appreciation) to things he does FOR YOU. Don't do so for peacocking/acting like he is the price. Because he isn't and he knows it and if you praise him for investment in himself you treat him like his momma. If you do don't be surprised if he continues to act like a child instead of a man. You will lose esteem for him and he for you as well. Ultimately both of you lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:54 AM
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I recommend attending trauma therapy. You'll learn what made you stay in the relationship. Most likely he did something (a good thing) that made you feel so special because you haven't been used to it.
/r/askFDS06/08/21 05:27 PM
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Thank you, this means a lot :) I try to write content that add value to this community instead of giving LVM even more space. I want those who come to this sub leave with the impression that their time here wasn't wasted but well invested. I'm glad to hear that it works :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:49 PM
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I really don't see the point behind this. If he is low effort he is not interested in you. Why try to reel him back in and play mind games? Ok, you can end things politely like she did with her first text but it's just that - ending things. Thank you, next. Have a good life. But what she does is to threaten him with a break up yet hoping he crawls back to her? If someone sent me this text I assume that they are actually sure about not wanting me in their life. I respect the people I'm dating, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:20 PM
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Spoiler: It doesn't get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:06 PM
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Did you notice how all this a-hole stories where it's obivious that the OP is the a-hole contain some form of self-defense where the man tries to justify what he did? The want their ego stroke until the last minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:40 AM
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Yes. That and a men has to carry his own weight in a relationship - like it's expected of a woman too. The thing is, trying to fix a man is bad for everybody in the dynamic. He might beg you to do so but if you give in he'll hate you for it. It's bad when done to women too. But I personally believe that this is one of those cases where sex baseed differences play a role. I think it's particularly destructive for a man when his LVness gets excused because he secretly wants to be a HVM. Most of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:15 AM
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I'll keep 'em coming 🙂 Regarding the scientific papers, unfortunately a lot of them aren't freely available. But the abstract/overview is still better than nothing and they provide a starting point for those who are interested in investigating more on that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:35 AM
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😂👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:27 AM
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Yes, I often think the same think. Red as in "Stop", "Don't pass", "Imminent danger up ahead". Red like the blood from a wound? Idk why so many women deliberately choose to ignore the red flags in order to "preserve" the green flags. So I came up with the 💩-flag analogy: A 💩-flag is a green flag tainted by a red flag. No matter what you do I will never be the same. Love-bombing works like that: Alternating red flags with green flags in the never ending cycles of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:25 AM
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I don't know where LVM get all the audacity from. Somewhere in this universe there has to be a mysterious deposit with a never ending stock of audacity piling up. Maybe that's where all the fucks I had left for them went too? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:16 AM
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NopeNopeNopeNopeNope....Eating a strangers butt gummi bears.....I'm outta here. And never shove candy in your vagina as it gives you candida infections. A certain amount of fungus spores (as well as other bacteria) live there all the time which is absolutely normal and harmless as long as your immune system stays intact and/or you don't bring in sugar. Fungus feeds off of sugar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:54 AM
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Those are such good points. Right now I'm in the middle of another post that specifically focuses on the different forms of mate-retention (benefit-provisioning & cost-inflicting) with those categories you just mentioned. Maybe you want to check it out too? ​ Back to make retention tactics and this high-low being one of them, it makes me think of trauma bonding, only this is incremental. Exactly my thoughts. It makes me wonder if we are evolutionary predisposed to abuse and it somewhat creeps me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:28 AM
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This is not just emotional abuse but also sexual abuse. It took me years to learn that sexual abuse and sexual violence doesn't have to include physical force. Sexual violence can take more forms than physical violent rape, this here is one form of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:25 PM
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Thanks! And, as always, the best reaction to shit behavior is no reaction atall. Ignore, or laugh derisively, and walk away. Even a good, witty clapback is more attention than this sort of thing deserves. Absolutely. When dating negging is definitely a dealbreaker. I don't need those whiny scrotes in my life.Yesterday I met with a colleague at uni to solve a software problem and that other guy in the room was not amused that I dared to take up space like a man. And when I say "not amused" I mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:48 PM
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Thank you! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:34 PM
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"So....what is your preferred love language?" "Yes."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:08 PM
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Pictures like this one are actually pretty common at anti-FDS/anti-feminist spaces. They are so desperate to paint this picture of a pickme black woman. There is also a lot of cope from those sad clowns 🤡 They NEED to convince themselves that black women are beneath them. Thank you for deleting, I think you did the right thing. As you said, this narrative needs to be eradicated for good. Have a good day/night too and keep up the fight ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:39 PM
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This has to be a troll post to discredit black women or to get them to lower their standards. Keyword dropping like "burger king", "jobless for 13 years" and "secret child" instandly followed by "her" justification for his behaviour suggest you should be grateful for a cheating loser bum who's been jobless for "only" like 12 years. To make this seem more realistic they took a picture of a womens hand with horrible nails. The text doesn't match the picture because if you really waited that long f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:07 PM
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Please stop giving the pickme's more reach and views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:35 PM
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😳 Typo. Confide not confine, of course! NVM confine their "loved ones".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:07 AM
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I'd argue that this was a LVM - isolation is something that abusers (NVM) push for. And yes, you are absolutly right of course: Always confine to your loved ones, especially those who love you without sex on a platonic level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:20 AM
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Relationships with narcs can be very damaging for your soul. I'm glad to hear you are taking care of you :) There is a huge difference between opening up to an already trusted person vs attempting to tie a random being down by (subconsciously) invoking feelings of guilt and personal responsibility for your needs in them. The first is healthy as it comes natural. The other one is manipulation, even though you mean no harm. I don't know how much you already told your SO but I'd stick to what feels…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:21 AM
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Red flags are universal. Things, that aren't OK, not for you and not for others. Things, nobody should put up with, you and stuff you don't do to others yourself. Examples are: Yelling, name calling, cheating, consent violations,... Red flags violate common sense, expectations of morale and ethics. Exhibiting red flags makes you a shitty human being. Deal breakers are personal preferences. Things that don't meet your expectations of a relationship but maybe OK for other's dynamics. For example i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:09 AM
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You can be open without revealing trauma. You can share past positive experiences. Then, if you build consistent trust over time you can disclose more - if it doesn't put you at risk that is. Personally I wouldn't talk too much about trauma, especially if the other person doesn't need to know. If I feel the need to "open myself" about trauma in hopes for a more "intimate relationship" that's usually a red flag. IMO there is some gendered double standard in our society: Bringing good vibes with y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:26 AM
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Some also add "Ok, so I've got to do something even worse to her to one-up my predecessors."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:32 AM
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I once heard about a good distinction between personal boundaries and control issues: I won't (boundaries) vs. you should (control). I try my best to keep this in mind. It helps me unlearn my old bob the builder/emotional dumbster way of thinking - for relationships of any kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:39 PM
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Better block him now. Save your energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:46 PM
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I like your blog :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:42 PM
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My version of helicopter dick consists of a rotating, nacked man being positioned in a 90 degree angle from his rock hard cock, which is the only thing that touches the ground. Do this and maybe you'll convince me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:24 PM
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Oh! Oh my! 😳😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:52 PM
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Most of the time men are angry at women when they set a personal boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:39 AM
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Great work. Now on to listen to the actual song. I have got some song suggestions, the majority of the are blatant pickme-ism like the already meantioned "Girlfriend" from Avril Lavingne. Taylor Swift had quite the personal development when it comes to her songs. I'm talking about going from "You belong with me 🤡" to "The one" (which I love). Are you looking for songs with obvious pickme vibes or more hidden ones? How about positive examples (there is already the FDS anthem flair for that so I g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:54 AM
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You bet. And it's so dangerous too. They really needed to pick survivors of sexual violence and re-traumatize them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:18 AM
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I absolutely love this post and hope it makes it's way to the handbook. Thank you for making me realize what I do all this time when I decide to talk to him first - you called it dropping the handkerchief. It may be a cultural thing too since it's rather uncommon to casually chat women up where I'm from. I'm not from the states. Cold approach is gladly deemed as creepy here. If a guy would do this to me I usually don't even respond because the one who do are creepy predators. On the other hand I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:19 PM
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NP but I know what you mean. He doesn't strike me as sympathic either and something is definitely wrong with men who describe themselves as feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:45 PM
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I do this too, well, something similar: When a man hits on me who isn't my type I tell them straight to their face I'm not interested in men who are/do XY. I don't beat around the bush, let them down easily or even tell them they are suuuuch nice guys when they are actually being unsympatic assholes. If he asks friendly I respond friendly. If he negs I neg harder. But I'm always honest. And tbh, they like it. I feel the whole thing with cOnSiDeR HiS fEELiNgS doesn't work because it makes them fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:41 PM
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Unfortunately this is old news. The kink community preaches this form of "healing" since many many years. In fact, it was one of the first things I heard back then when I met them for the first time. It's interesting though: They only push this sexual healing hoax when it's a male dom/sadist/top who wants to have power over a (usually younger) woman. In rare cases they target queer men too but only when he is a sub and percieved as fuckable "fresh meat".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:20 PM
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You know, it won't get better with this scrote. He is testing the water. Where do you draw the line? He is "only" acting passive-aggressive for now, yet I guarantee you that someone who behaves like that will eventually turn to more active approach. He will start to raise his voice, then shout, the physically threaten you or worse. He already thinks you won't leave, that you are trapped. Why didn't you confront him about his nightly escapade? You are already walking on eggshells. You what, forge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:16 PM
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He sounds like a redpilled incel aka loser. Pickmeisha needs to learn that she can't save someone who already gave up on themself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:56 AM
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FDS is against cohabitation with a man before marriage for a reason. "But I'd never marry him!" I hear you say. - Yeah, it doesn't matter when he already treats you like his housemaid which is the same to him. Get out of there. Find another (single) woman to cohabit with. If you intent to stay in this flat and want him gone I recommend not phrasing it like "You need to move out". This would trigger his hardcore basement dwelling scrote mode because he'll start to believe that he can control the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:23 AM
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Can you please link that? I only found this one here: https://www.spin.com/2017/10/maroon-5-red-pill-title-explanation/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:38 PM
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I also became allergic to the word "communicate". Every time I hear someone I know suggesting to "communicate" in order to solve any kind of interpersonal conflict there us a medium to high chance that I kick them out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:52 PM
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There is a difference between regular partying with randos and having (few yet) solid friendships. The later is part of being a HVW/HVM. You also need friends to ground you in life and as a support system against predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:06 AM
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Puhh...I once had one who knew about my minimum standard of a partner having basic life skills like cooking, cleaning,... He still lived at his mommas house and tried to impress me by semi regular "reporting" to me on how he did his own freaking laundry just now. I'm not sure if this passes. IMO it does because in his clown world he dId It FoR mE (y'know, because I "need" that in a partner, so it is "my need") 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:06 PM
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The man who cheats on you with camgirls, porn, etc. won't care if you do the same to him because - unlike you - he doesn't care to begin with. You can't give him a taste of his own medicine in the original sense since you different values. You can't "insult" him like that as he is only with you for convenience sake. Edit: TL;DR: You are giving them too much credit. They already checked out or never even checked in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:20 PM
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Those people who become parents merely because "I'm expected to reproduce" usually make LV fathers/mothers to their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:27 PM
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Also thank you for telling me I don’t need to be defensive, I was really afraid of ruffling feathers. This is your standard. At FDS we are loud and proud about our standards. Heck, there us even a whole subreddit rule against standard shaming you can use to report if someone were to put you down for it ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:15 PM
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You are absolutely right and you don't need to be defensive about it. It is a bullshit argument to say us women deserve to be treated well because we as a class can bear children. It's the same like saying the man should pay for dates because I already pay X for my makeup, hair and nails. I wear makeup when I feel like it. No, this isn't every day and most of the time I don't wear my pricy foundation because it cloggs my pores. Whether I wear a full face or no makeup at all I still expect him to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:36 AM
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It's the same with toxic female friends. When they make self deprecating comments you can be sure that they will come after you next. And you know the ones who expect you to build them up when they put themself down in front of you: "Booohoo, my teeth/hair/skin/nails/nose/etc. look sooo bad and yours look sooo good! Boooohooo that's so unfair!" It's a subtle neg. They expect you to put yourself down and when you don't they will try it. It's the same with insecure dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:14 AM
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Two additions from my side: Maybe his goal was ultimately gaslighting you but I think he wanted you to chase HIM at this point. Seeing if his girl chase works than proceeding further. The subtle neg: You had the version of the physical well being "concern". It also happens with your emotional ("Are you really FEELING well?") and mental ("Are really MENTALLY cured yet?") health. Especially the mental health issue is tricky. That's why we don't recommended sharing past relationships/trauma/therapy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:28 AM
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Think about branding. Invent a move/phrase/challenge/dance/video format/etc that says FDS energy. Nothing cringy ofc, think Roast-a-scrote style videos. Troll feminism but still classy. It encourages other women to make their own content based on it and it also helps you gain reach. Unfortunally I haven't any specific idea at hand. But if you manage to channel the vibes of the podcast into tiktok videos you'll be good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:48 PM
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Yes, this is very true. I'm in STEM and I experience the same. The "look at me I am veeery close to her (so back off)" Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:09 PM
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Scote was hitting on you. Stay professional as you were before. No need to adapt to his negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:29 AM
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I'm guilty for explaining to other users in comment sections what FDS is all about. While my goal has always been to help them I understand how this is not my place to speak as I'm not a mod/didn't start the subreddit. I have my assumptions about FDS principles but I can't speak for them and what idea they had when founding the sub. Thank you for the reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:24 AM
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Am I the only one who's also enraged by the family's behavior? Those 3 CNM clowns aside, you can't just blow up a stranger's phone, let alone based on an assumtion. This is stalking. OP got to put her foot down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:02 AM
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Imagine the path you walk in front of you like you were a navi. Walk with a good posture. Don't make eye contact but when someone is about to invade you physical space (like on the sidewalk) walk slower and guve them the dead stare. Or the Ice Queen Stare our mod modernmedusa mentioned in her post yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:21 PM
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You could try HER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:13 PM
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No, I mean you should actually fully embrace being an Ice Queen. You already said that you love it so don't be afraid to own this persona. You won't scare away any good man since the adore women who know what they want (and what they don't want). Your authenticity gives them a sense of security. Like smilie if you feel like it and don't smilie if you feel otherwise. The Ice Queen is just hard to please but she is not "evil", " bitter" or "grumpy". I think you are already on the right way and unn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:05 AM
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Just try it, sis! Practice this mindset for the next two weeks and let us know how it went. And don't be afraid of scaring off a potential HVM. High standards are probably the last thing on earth that would put off a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:36 PM
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I understand. Thank you so much for your detailed explanation. I can work with this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:37 PM
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IMO it's a very FDS-like way to think. Don't beat yourself up if you slip. Practice makes perfect. You're welcome :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:28 PM
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What worked for me was developing a "how will this interaction/conversation/going to that place instantly benefit me?"mindset. If the answer is "in no way" or the anser is not to my liking don't engage. If I can come up with an answer that feels pleasant I engage.This sounds harsher than it is. In fact, men are raised to think that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:34 PM
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Thank you very much for this! I'm still practicing the ideal ice queen stare. I figured that looking them straight into the eyes often works but looking RIGHT TROUGH THEM works even better. I first focus on the eyes to make them aware that I can see them. Right after this I focus on something, like an object, behind them. I makes them feel like air, I guess. When I maintain eye contact longer than nessessary it can backfire as sone mistake it as flirting. I conveys the message that they only bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:29 PM
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I've noticed this too! I recently met an ex and he smelled completely different than he used to when we were in a relationship. Back then when we were together and into each other I loved his scent. But last time he smelled different and unfamiliar. He has always been a very clean and hygienic person, he didn't didn't reek of sweat or anything. But he smelled to me, I didn't like it at all. I find this very strange because some studies suggest that smell is a sign of genetic compatibility and th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:07 AM
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Yes, this is definitely mate guarding behavior! Thank you for the example. Is it OK if I add it to my post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:40 AM
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You can not not communicate. Every piece of information tells something, it's up to us to interpret it. So many dudes would wave themselves around if they could 🕺🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:13 AM
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"Do you have any red flags?" Interesting how he instantly esponded with "No, I AM one". I like this direct approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:20 PM
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Nomen est omen 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:49 PM
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I'm so sorry, I know too well how you feel 😓 Sending you virtual hugs if you want them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:48 PM
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Thank you! Good riddance on your Pickmeisha, I have to raise you this epitome of one: I had a Pickmeisha in my life who referred to herself as "the mommy of the group", consisting mostly of males. She was smart, pretty, intelligent, hard working & career wise successful, educated with ton of money, owning a house in her early 20's. Her determination got her pretty far in life, even more then me - and I'm quite stubborn myself 😂 But she was so desperate for male attention, she literally bribed th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:45 PM
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Okay, so it says "29 comments" but I can only see 7 of them. 7/29 is a good quota for stirring up triggered trolls w/o a flair, OP 😂 Die mad, scrotes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:59 PM
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They say they want to be fbw - semi-regular sex with no strings attached - but when you you actually do they start pouting like little children. It's almost as if fbw means to men "effortless one-sided monogamy with the entitlement to casual sex but without friendship"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:51 PM
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Happy to help and sorry to hear this. I agree, it's absolute cringe. Human are animals after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:19 PM
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I, too, am interested in more studies about "mate guarding" but there is probably a reason behind it why there aren't. Given the impact institutional religion had on society it's no surprise humankind likes to think of themself as "top of the food chain", some even still denying we are animals at all. Our brain doesn't make us the apex species - which is a men made standard. Survival of the fittest is the reason why we are domineering the other species. I'm glad that you like my post and I never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:59 PM
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It's psychological abuse what TRP does. Definitely not for "maximal female benefit" like FDS but they also sabotage themselves. The few instances where they succeed they aren't even happy with the outcomes. That's because their assumptions are based on false premises, like how women are naturally submissive and weak and that men are "born leaders" - probably the cruelest rule patriarchy tells men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:35 PM
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Doesn't this confuses authenticity with nativity and boundary setting with controlling behavior? I get what you mean, it's about accountability and responsibility towards oneself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:31 AM
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Ask what he thinks of Knives X Scott X Ramona in Scott Pilgrim vs the world. Ask his opinion on ALL female star wars characters through the whole film series. Pay attention what he says about the ones in power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:54 PM
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Trauma therapy. Find a good psychologist who specializes in trauma therapy. Edit: Especially for sexual trauma I recommend a female psychologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:26 PM
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Up to 1991, only 30 years ago. Considering that probably the majority of us was born around that time...to think we may exist because "dad" raped "mom" yet this was deemed "OK" and "normal"...this makes me physically uncomfortable right now. "Do the deed" 🤮 Edit: fixed auto formating of reddit's editor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:23 PM
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Have you even heard of Munchausen syndrome by proxy? The over-helper (TM) is the type who'll gaslight you and keep you sick for the feeling of being the helper. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factitious_disorder_imposed_on_another
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:08 AM
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No personal experience but I'd do this: Inform the boys parents and tell them you'll have to involve the police the next time it happens. Invole the police the police the next time IF it should happen. If the parents aren't willng to cooperate/DARVO/other shit involve the police now. Keep your ex out of it, he could twist it into you being "irresponsible" or "it's to much for her". I swear, when it comes to court cases men seem to be OK to let their offspring rott or even die... Hug your daughte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:46 PM
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"Scrote shares his revenge porn fantasies" would be a more appropriate titel for the video. The way he talks I'm wondering if he got a hard on. How bizarre, it's like he's chanting himself into sexual arousal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:48 PM
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Yeah, during the whole video my thoughts were like "Who hurt you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:44 PM
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I don't have snapchat and I'm therefore not familiar with the app's settings but have you tried block&delete? Every messenger app I know of has this feature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:22 PM
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Before I'll go 50/50 again hell freezes over and the devil learns to ice-skate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:52 PM
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Ahh, I see! Thank you for the clarification :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:08 PM
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Do you have an example of this? I'm not sure what you mean exactly. If you say we should deliberately cross their boundaries then that's nothing I can get myself behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:55 PM
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Thank you for write that list. It brought back some unpleasant memories but that's exactly the reason why this is so important. "Dating should be a fun and stress-free experience for you as a HVW. " This extends to his family. Even though you are not actively dating your in-laws they are part of the dynamic and they should add some form of value to your life too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:51 PM
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They are shit testing us to see our reaction. If we act frightened and afraid like OP's psycho urged her to be that's a green light for him to go further. He'll most likely brush it off as a JoKe, then burst into laughter while bumping our shoulders like we were their buddies. He knows though, if you don't delete him from your life after being back in safety that there will be no consequences for him if he did. He assumes: She has no boundaries, no backbone, no supporting and sane family and fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:30 AM
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Great video! Something that has been on my mind for a while is how to deal with negging/subtle insults in front of a group, like at work. I'd appreciate any input.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:11 AM
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When they insult your family. An early sign they plan to isolate you from them. Same when he or his family act overly friendly to appear as the "better family of choice". Any form of comparison, explict or even implicit is fucking off limits! When they insult your social status. Intersting enough this only happend to me from families who were in a lower social class than me. Treating you like Cindarella or like someone whos alliance with their son would bring THEM a bad reputation while it's the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:58 AM
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Interrupting you. Even though you told him you don't like it. He's asserting dominance, testing the waters over and over to see how far he can get this time. Do you leave? No. Green light for going further, eventually physical abuse. Anything along the line of sexual abuse, starting with "compliments" aka objectification especially way too early in the relationship. Pickmeisha will take it as a compliment when he tells her on the second date that he likes big/small boobs like yours. It's not. Yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:04 PM
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So when you do reply it gives them the illusion of the girlfriend experience, just like OF? I'm trying to wrap my head around their depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:32 PM
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I've never payed attention to their bulges and now I can't unsee it. In a good way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:39 AM
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Women's belief in NAMALT is literally the reason why FDS exists. Women: Make ongoing horrible experiences through their lives with men but still have hope left that there are valuable individuals amoung men Men: "NAMALT!!!!" Women: Make subreddit to encourage each other that NAMALT Men: "Wait, not like that. Also: NAMALT!11!!" They are...not very bright, are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 11:29 PM
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"Pay half his rent although we don't live together" WAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:58 PM
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No, he seems like a self-important manchild with an unhealthy junk food obsession. He works in tech but will expect you to go dutch on your first "date" at KFC because all these women told him you a woman should love him for who he is: Stingy, unfunny and pampered. Dispite his high earning job he expects you to play his free therapist - a role you should be proud of 🤡 He will bitch about you with every one of those women who know waaay to much about your love life. When he doesn't make you cum i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:58 PM
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This video is like a car accident: Horrible but you still can't look away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:42 PM
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People need to become their own lights in their lifes instead of bestowing that role upon others. It's to much of a responsability to shine for two people while the other party turns into a black hole, that eats away all your effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:32 PM
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Her temperament is not for me. I've watched a few videos about styling, like what colors and fabrics makes you look more elegant, which I found helpful. There are also some good videos about mannerism (a lot of that advice is obvious for upper-middle class woman but not for lower classes). I think her boundaries and standards for men are too low to be considered FDS compatible. Her definition of elegance is seems to be a doormat - but an expensive one. Her approach is "kill them wirh niceness" l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:26 PM
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Flashback to the dates who acted victimized by telling me their biggest fear is being left in the dark (by me). For a better understanding, not letting them control my life and every minute of my day counts as "leaving them in the dark". Not texting them more frequent than usual was "leaving them in the dark". Not CoMMuNiCatInG why it was not OK to cross my physical or emotional boundaries was "leaving them in the dark".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:05 AM
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Great post as usual! I love your whole series sis ❤️ I'm amazed of all the valid arguments you come up with. You never fail to broaden my perspective. I also need to compliment you on your writing style. The way you articulate yourself in your posts screams queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 09:29 PM
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Right, that's why I put his own "bff" in quotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 02:56 PM
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Hi ladies, thank you so much for everything you are doing. I love the podcast, the bonus content is great and I've never regretted becoming a patreon even once. Even though the bonus content wasn't the reason why I initially became a supporter it's reassuring to see that you stick to your promise to provide more of it. I have some ideas about content I'd like to see but this probably the most urgent one that comes to mind: How to actively influence a relationship without being a pickmeisha. This…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:40 AM
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That would be a LVM. Overall he adds some value, therefore he is not a NVM (negative value man) or ZVM (zero value man). He isn't reliable in the value he provides - it doesn't appear like you could count on him - which contradicts being a HVM, like you already pointed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:06 AM
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I understand the interest in knowing who plays what role in FDS but keep in mind that this a risky business for the mods. Because of the blatant misogyny in society going public at this stage could become potentially life threatening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:59 PM
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That's a relief. Some people are so bitter they hate everyone and everything. Especially those who are less miserable than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:45 PM
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The most harmless explanation I can think of is that Scroty was jealous of her because she "stole" "his mommy's" (read your) precious attention from him....as for the other cases...as a friend of your daughter she's probably around the same age as her, young, maybe even a teen or tween
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:27 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:19 PM
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I think the same way. Luckly not even the most horrible man I've been with expected me to wear lingery or gave it to me as a present. They all thought it would be be objectifing, disrespectful if I had to dress up for them. And a waste of money and effort too since the garment ends up on the floor anyway... That being said I had men dress up nicely for me. Let me tell you a muscular guy in a net shirt and/or some tight black shorts can be very sexy. A booty dance can be very sexy too. Men love s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:36 PM
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What's stopping you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:21 PM
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"Maybe you'll prove it to me." "Haha, maybe I won't." The audacity. Scrote thinks he's the price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:12 PM
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*Women not females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:05 PM
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Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:02 PM
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These are reasonable standards. They are a good prerequisite to be able to have good sex. And for those who doubt a men can meet them all: Yes, he absolutely can and he will do so gladly if he is not some LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:59 PM
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I recommend testing again when/if you actually reach the 3 mo. mark. A lot can happen in that time. If he refuses and argues that he already did 1.5 mo. before then that's a red flag. So far his actions speak HV but his intention could be to get sex earlier. I had a similar experience with a date, where I told her that that a full STD/STI test is always a must for me. She also knew that I won't have sex until I'm in a commited relationship. She was VERY eager to test, told me 2 days after, that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:35 PM
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I too think tit for tat is a great idea. Trying to be the bigger person means excusing their disrespect and this won't get us anywhere. Never had and never will. I love the backlash <3 Edit: Grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:03 AM
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It's pathetic and it backfires big time. Like I would never even consider sleeping with a man who has tried this at least once for the rest of my life. Because if he has to stoop that low I simply can't see him as a man. It's impossible to have any respect for spineless losers like them. They are throwing themselves away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:02 PM
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Downvote and report this scrote 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:10 PM
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I'm honestly glad they called out his glaring double standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:11 PM
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Typical gold digger scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:07 PM
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I know, the part about "especially between strangers" was an addition to make a connection back to OP's post. My comment was supposted to add to the general discussion, not to critisize your situation with your seperate friend circles. So as for you, I do the same in those situations too. I try to keep it brief because I don't want to make anyone feel left out. Or everyone gets along and we merge for some time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:44 PM
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Agree. The friend's job was to gatekeep the conversation. I'd have told him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:28 PM
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I kept these moments short and include the others cause it's plain rude not to do so. We are taught to act polite while excusing other people's (read men's) rudeness. It's rude to ignore but it's also - if not even more - rude to intrude/hijack a conversation, especially between strangers. You don't need to stay polite when the other person is rude or disrespectful. It's a two way street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:26 PM
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It absolutely is. Predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:17 PM
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Thes are telling on themselves lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:15 PM
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My ex ticked every one of these boxes, except for the one about self punishment. He was always the victim and misunderstood. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:46 AM
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It's a common PUA tactic: Scrote approaches a group (= more than 1) of woman and openly starts talking to the one he finds least attractive. Scrote does that because of several reasons: He is too insecure to talk to the one he actually desires. He indirectly gets the attention of his target without the fear of rejection. If confronted by target he can always claim that he wasn't talking to her ("HaHa SuPeRfIcIaL biTcH I wAsN'T tAlKiNg tO YoU"). This spineless appproach allows him to leave to sit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:31 AM
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In a wider sense men love to please women they are into. Money is just a tool they use for that. Men adore women with high standards because it gives them security. A HVW woman offers what a man naturally desires: The opportunity to demonstrate himself as the best fit for her. Scrotation aka many men chasing one woman, a harem of men - this is the natural state if things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:37 PM
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If someone sexualized and/or harrassed my child on the internet I'd sue the hell out of them. Widerlich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 11:28 AM
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I can already tell this is going to be great 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:38 AM
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I just started reading "Nice girls still don't get the corner office" which I can highly recommend so far. I don't know about your profession so arguing against the requirement of formlessness wouldn't make sense. What I learned in my own professional life is rather the opposite of your experience - don't be formless but develop your own brand. People need to see your outer persona to know what they are dealing with, what they can expect from you. This is particilarly important when you are goin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 09:17 PM
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Haha, you're right. Chihuahuas are actually cute. Sex pests aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:39 PM
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Yeah. IMO she should put more back bone into it. Not despite but rather because she has enough reach and is in the position to be a role model. Her videos are good. Just yesterday watched like 8 of them on manners and styling advice. Her branding wouldn't suffer from advocating for firm boundaries - on the contrary. A so called elegant lady has more to loose in the public eye of high society when she tolerates sup par behaviour from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:13 PM
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Next thing he says is going to be: "Find the study yourself. I don't have to google for you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:48 PM
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I love your practical approach too! I also second your advice to not settle for a the penis sleeve. While it was fun to play around it doesn't make up for the real thing and having him wear it as a default state would be a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:54 PM
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I love this so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:41 PM
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There is nothing wrong with wearing a penis sleeve. One bf even suggested it and bought it himself so we could play around. Big dick: You know when you actually see it but there a few pointers that might indicate he has a small one: He explains that size is important because he is delusional about his own. He denies that size is important and tEcHnIcQuE Is FaR mORe ImPoRtAnT. He talks about other guys size (penis envy). He is obnoxious loud, negs and is annoying to have around because he is inse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:26 PM
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I love cooking. I always use fresh ingredients, try new recipes, prepare for the following days, etc. For me it's self care and a sign if responsability, especially since cooking is a basic life skill. While I like to show off my creations I don't do it with a pickme mindset. When I text with my date and send him food porn I set standards. It's my way of telling him: "That's the treatment I'm used to. Can you keep up?" Ideally he responses with his own food porn. I need to see that he is at leas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:45 PM
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I love her Videos. But on this one here Anna is being too forgiving.No way in hell I'd keep seeing a man who insulted me or made sexist remarks even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:05 PM
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She also uses the term "scrotes" 😁 Good find, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 04:37 PM
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Thank you, it's refeshing to see that there are people who get it. Reddit posts about womens sexual standards seem to receive the biggest backlash, which is telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:12 AM
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Thanks I needed this today. Especially the section about self sabotage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:14 AM
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Bad hygiene is one of the fastest dealbreakers if not already a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:22 AM
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We are taught that the feeling of "Love" always comes with "a little bit of pain". This misbelief begins when you have a crush and experience longing for the other person, insecurity, embaressment alongside fear of abandonment and the whole world tells you that ThIs Is LoVe, thus is CuTe and NoRmAl. None of this us true. You experience a hormon cocktail, similar to the fight, flight, freeze or fawn reaction of a cornered cat. It's a fear driven reaction. Our bodies aren't made for this so after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:14 AM
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IMHO men with full and well kept long hair can be incredible sexy. It doesn't make them appear "girly" or "unmanly" but idk ... virile? It's an indicator of good genes, health und yough to have good head hair so wearing it long is even more impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:04 PM
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Thank you very much! Yes, I plan to summarize my points in a separate post. Yes, absolutely! It would be an honor. I whitelisted you for chat and messaging requests. You can write me anytime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:11 PM
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Finally a hotty with long hair 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:34 PM
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That's not the point of fine as fuck Fridays. We focus men's behavior all other days of the week. This is supposed to raise our standards when it comes to men's bodies. If you find any hotties doing the dishes or cooking or vacuuming that would be very welcome!!! You are missing the point. You wouldn't ask "But does he look like a cake?" when a member talks about green flags from her HVM. Both. Both are important. We are not mutually excluding our standards, we don't compromise. Edit: Grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:24 PM
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It took me that long to respond that OPs reply got deleted in the meantime. I hope it's OK if I respond to you instead. TL;DR: You are right Here is what I wrote: "I get what you are saying. I really think there's a huge misunderstanding about what fine as fuck fridays are about. As you level up your body changes as well, among other things. You care more for your self, your health. Your body is one of many manifestations of this process. And the same goes for men as well. I'm not advocating for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:14 PM
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Women have been discouraged to have standards when it comes to men since like ever. Especially when it comes to physical appearance. We get told to give the nIce GuY a chance, not to be "shallow", that we should value his personality over his looks, etc. Besides from that being a logical fallacy (false equivalent, those with a good heart aren't necessarily ugly and the other way around) which is dangerous to women the whole argument is nothing more than a sexist double standard where women get n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:06 PM
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...and that's what I call trying too hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:21 PM
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Once the mask slips and he knows that you know getting out there ASAP is most important. There is no turning back now. The most dangerous time for a victim is when they are about to leave. So leave fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:46 AM
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PUAs ARE rape advicers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 05:55 AM
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You are welcome. I'm still upset on your behalf! What a scrote -.- I'm positive that Krav Maga could be your thing. As far as I've heard it's not a martial "art". It's more like "Don't attack until necessary but when you do end things quickly to get into safety". No fancy bumping around but using your aggression the right way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:33 PM
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I'm so sorry that shithead crossed your way. I can imagine the shock since those lunatics can get you really off guard. Glad you are safe now. IMO you did the right thing. You can never control how people behave, only influence them. My experience has show that the following also help: Always yell louder than the perpetrator. Always. As you yell at him don't let him catch at breath. Don't let him interrupt you. Let the words flow like a waterfall until he shuts up and then keep going. And like I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:21 PM
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Reddit didn't let me take the worm emoji for some reason. It would be better fitted IMO :X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:11 PM
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Why do they feel so threatened by us if we're all entitled and will die alone? Because it's all about projection and lies. They know that they themselves are actually the ones who would die alone if FDS becomes mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:48 AM
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If you see posts where you suspect that go against the subs rule's please downvote and report them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:41 AM
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Remember that he is unlikely to wipe his 🐛 after doing no.1 and that he expects you to have that thing in your body, even in your mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:55 AM
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I don't even know how many times my comments got caught in automod, threatening to permaban me, if the contents have gone against FDS values. At first I was shocked and I felt like walking on eggshells. I figured that it was nothing personal, because, you know, automod. It checks the syntax. Eg writing / r / <subredditname> turns into a direct link to that sub. Although this is a feature of reddit itself doing so can be interpreted as brigading, which is against reddits TOS. Since reddit hates w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:27 AM
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Being a friend requires much less effort than being an actual partner to someone. It's easy to be fun and easy going so people enjoy your company. Commiting to another person for years of your life, making serious choices long term as well as sticking to them, supporting each other because in difficult times,.... That's a completely different thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:53 PM
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It's dangerous. I think goal-oriented women can be particularly susceptible to goalpost manipulation. Absolutely. It's the strong, motivated, goal-oriented woman they are after. The vixxens. The feminists. The businesswomen. The passionate people pleaser. Every women with a strong internal motivation to get things done her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:27 PM
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He doesn't sound interested thb. Let him go, you'll find find someone who actually values your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:15 PM
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Modern men are just as manipulative as ever, but are now equipped with an internet's worth full of bullshit statements about "communicating better" and "growth mindset." My narc ex used to say "I see much potential for (personal) growth in you." to me and apparently to and about everybody else. He reverse negged me, if you will. He didn't say "You are not good enough" because he knew I would leave any time during our yearlong situationship. Instead he said "You can do better" letting me do the l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:12 PM
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They'll come back but NOT because they want to apologize for the pain they put you through. This is important. Remember this. They lack that kind of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:09 PM
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Why open my DMs in the first place? I have no need to communicate that way on this site.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:38 PM
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Jop :) Or like phoenix does on the weekly strategy spotlight. Or like in the original handbook pdf version back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:49 PM
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Reply to you Edit: That's not a gendered issue. LVM do the same. Have you you ever read one of these pathetic texts where the man goes from "Hello m'lady, what a wonderful time to talk to you. You are the woman of my dreams." to "Stupid c*nt, answer me. Do you think you are better than me? Ha! You aren't pretty, I lied. Ha!" in like 10 minutes? It's the same picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:20 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that your mom treats you that way. I honestly think you should distance yourself from people who treat you bad, especially your so called "friends". Most of my childhood friendship didn't survive puberty. I've been kicking toxic friends to the curb since more than 10 years. I was a NEET back then, now I'm at university writing my thesis. They are still at the NEET stage, hating their life, barely getting through because of drugs, alcohol and self pity. They are the same they we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:13 PM
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I don't know if that helps you in your decision making process but my bff and I have known each other for years, half of my lifetime. Both of us have been in different development stages and different social classes over time. Our interpersonal communication patterns changed and still keep changing. Sometimes we met like 2 times a year, on other we hung out several times a week. When we talk via telephone no conversation lasts less than 5 hours straight. Sometimes we don't hear from each other f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:44 PM
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I think it's the later. My guess is that the downvotes come from people who have been treated similar by their own friends in the past and feel offended by the comment's (perceived) dismissiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:16 PM
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Oh, that would be great! Thank you in advance☺️ Watch out for copyright issues though, make sure to mention the authors of the posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:45 PM
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OMG it's so f*cking hot here right now since the last few days/weeks 🔥🌞🥵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:37 PM
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It's a learnable skill. You can never be 100% sure until the mask slips but most scrotes play are numbers game. So you just habe to make sure you take care of yourself to be considered "too much" or a "hassle". The trash takes itself out. As for online commentars I don't put too much heart into it. Like "On the internet nobody knows you are a dog"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:04 PM
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Hi, I just came here to say that dick size matters Have a good day and stay hydrated 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:44 AM
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Reports from the 🍤 dick brigade incoming in 3...2...1 Vile woman, how dare you decide what goes into your body? Setting boundaries as a female human being is literally violence./s BoDy ShAmInG ... welcome to the era of gendered thought crime. Scrotes and pickmes who complain like that give me rapist vibes. I wonder why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:41 AM
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I see. The thing is block&delete is not subtle or even "hard" but rather ambigous for the recipient. You could try to reach out to her one last time if you want, giving both of you one last chance to set things straight. If you already made up your mind and don't want her in your life anymore making a clean cut would be the appropratiate thing to do. I normally don't tell people to CoMMuNiCaTe, especially not when it comes to scrotes. But your situation here is different as it's about a yearlong…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:25 AM
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Genuine question, why not cut out those toxic people for good? I get that your reputation will suffer when you do so with female "friends". But honestly, wouldn't it do more damage if you go on and off blocking them only to allow them back in your life again? It teaches them that they can have their way with you even when they misbehave. It shows the same thing on a "global level" - your reputation suffers more when it comes out that you blocked them but allowed them back. Your fake female frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:42 AM
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I'm not sure where you found this but thank you very much! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:16 AM
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Another member just made a post about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/o4cn1k/blood_in_the_water_a_custom_made_tactic/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:09 AM
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What a wonderful post! Thank you ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:15 PM
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This is so accurate! I had only a few men cheating on me and their pickmeisha plates always tried to show off for getting picked. Those pickmeishas resented me as much as their LVM clowns so by getting picked they thought they could get back at me. Unfortunally for them it never bothered me, which made them extremely furious! I don't do this on purpose. I distance myself instinctly emotionally because I feel like they match each other better than the LVM and I did. For or brief moment I think to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:09 PM
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You totally got me at the beginning. Well done 😂😂 I was soooo close to hit the report button
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:20 PM
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Leave him, it doesn't matter if "he understands" and you don't need to feel guilty about this. Dating is suppost to enrich you life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:57 PM
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👌 Have you got that question before too? I think it's a wierd thing to ask when don't know each other. Trust has to be earned over time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:27 PM
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Haha, saving this for next time 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:25 PM
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Some pickme might think it's "cute" and he is just kidding, but never let a scrote crumb escape and eventually damage you, even in the slightest bit. Second this. My date got incredibly defensive even though I never attack her in the first place. She probably knew she fucked up and then started to heavily gaslight me ("It's a sign of sympathy. I do this to the people I like.") Even a friend of mine told me to feel "honored about the trust she bestows upon me" until I told her the full story. So,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:01 AM
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He is testing you of you stick to your boundaries. Abusers do this. It's almost compulsatory to do this. They smell blood and can't resist their urges. That's why I love the blood in the water test. I was in in similar situation recently. A woman I was seeing insisted to know what my greatest fear was. "So that I won't hurt you by accident." I answered to get pushed into the therapists role in a romantic relationship. I told her that my last bf used me for free therapy sessions, that my altruist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:44 AM
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I don't know if you are using a reddit reader app or your brower on the phone. On my brower it says "About" next to "Posts". In "About" you should be able to find all their ressources, the handbook included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:56 AM
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It says multible times to read the handbook to gain a better understanding about their values and there is even a rule that requires it. We can absolutly expect newer members to read the sidebar, respect the rules and consult said handbook if they want to participate. Pinning this information to remind people of the obvious doesn't make any sense unless there have been relevant changes to it. The actual problem is that you can't enforce consequences when they lack premisses. Also the amount of p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:30 AM
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I wouldn't be surprised if a not indignificant amount consists of male LARPer who want to push the FDS = toxic narrativ until the sub gets banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:21 AM
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You are not auto banned. Posts take time to get reviewed manually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:18 AM
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For her ex nontheless. While he is out visiting his new gf. So many questions, so few answers. She is either trolling or these videos are some crazy PsyOp shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 11:42 PM
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I absolutely agree with you on this as I see it as a matter of respect, politenes and basic human decency to behave when entering someone elses space. This goes for online communities as well as for a physical house: My home, my rules. Guests are welcome as long as they respect the host. Since you are in the process of reiterating the sub I'd like to address some other issues which I think also deserve attention: The handbook needs an update. Especially the part that is based on reddit posts fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:49 PM
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Having to talk like a kindergarten teacher is exactly what it is and this approach is what couple's therapists preach. This was literally the first thing that popped into my mind. It is what it is: Tone policing women, monetarized blame shifting and thus enabling further abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 08:53 AM
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The first thing you have to do is to understand that it's a natural thing to imagine a future with somebody you really like but that you shouldn't assume to know anybody inside out, especially after a short period of time. Future faking abusers aside many people might not have specific plan(s) about their own future yet, let alone a potential common future. It's also easy to get carried away when having a crush, which is one of the reasons the handbook advices against it. So the most important t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:41 PM
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This really depends on what you are aiming for. Pre FDS I was a practioneer of BDSM and as dom with top tendencies I used eding as a tool to "punish"/"reward" my sub back then (instead of spanking him and let him count up to like 30 I edged him the same amount of times instead, NOT making him cum 30 times in a row and then wishing him a good day). This particular guy was into it and claimed he never feel any resentment towards me. I heard the resentment argument from other female doms from the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:37 AM
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When people constantly rant about "all men" it puts others in the position to NAMALT back at them and that's the last thing I'd want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:43 AM
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You can do funny things with somebodys orgasm. E.g. it's possible to prolong the orgasm if you manage to fine tune your stimulation. Think edging during orgasm. Works for men as well as for women. Longest female orgasm I achieved was 15 min. ongest male orgasm was 2 minutes. Much shorter but buy far longer than the average male orgasm in average. Prolonged orgasms are physically challenging and require trust. Always make sure you and your partner are on the same boat when trying this. Don't assu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:12 AM
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I don't want to go into too much detail but IF you decide to do butt stuff you first clean yourself inside with water (there exists equipment for this), then you bath/shower and even after this I wouldn't recommend eating ass without protection like a dental dam. When you go for prostate play the first two steps are considered the bare minimum. You can use toys/gloves and be very careful with nails. Only finger someone with short and well kept nails in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:02 AM
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I would prefer we focus more time on discussing level up methodology. Could you specify what you mean by that? What "discussion on level up methodology" would you like to see on FLS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:09 AM
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Pre FDS I used to be part of the BDSM community. The question if dom have to compensate for a lack of control got asked quite often there. I personally think it depends on the sex. Every single male dom I encountered was a loser IRL, every female sub I met conflated the idea of femininity with a passive, powerless and submissive state, waiting to get "erotically exploited". Most of the male subs I met were actually bottoms, to lazy to think, wainting for mommy Mc(not)Bangmaid to provide emotiona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:36 AM
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I'll write it down after I've aced my exam :) Could you explain why that can cause one to end up in a bad relationship? Spoiler: You settle for the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:00 AM
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Great Episode als always. Depressing topic yet you somehow managed to insert humor to lift the atmosphere without coming off as tone deaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:21 PM
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I don't know if it's a bug but the youtube link the says "Episode 15" doesn't work. In fact, Episode 15 doesn't appear on youtube (yet).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:48 PM
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You are welcome! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:14 PM
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Some of them are lurkers/trolls engaging in vote manipulation, either because they think of them as important enough to passivly engage in this discussion. Or they'll try to rile us against ourselves. The other group consists of newbies who feel offended due to the nature of this post ("Help they force us to date or they'll kick us out"), completely missing the point: OP wants to keep the focus of her dating dating sub on dating, which is valid. OP and the other mods are volunteers, they get no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:00 PM
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That's OK too. We are allowed to make mistakes as human beings. Society put the burden of a relationship onto women. The bar is in hell. We are brainwashed to settle for crumbs and mistake a LVM for a HVM. The last thing I want on this sub is women feeling ashamed to admit that they discovered they were with a LVM because they'd "ruin the mood". I don't think we'd see so many depressing posts like you said. Why? Because mods do a pretty good job at keeping them in bay by keeping the posting stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:35 PM
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I think you and OP are giving into male criticism that FDS is not a dating sub. Oh, not at all. I personally don't give a flying shit about said "male critisism" aka hate because it's impossible to teach somebody who is set to misunderstand you. I saw you on defending FDS on anti FDS subs on this plattform so first of all: Hi! I'm glad that you value this sub so much that you choose to spread the word and try to convince the critics. I can relate since I used to do the same thing too until I fou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:24 PM
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FDS used to have more queen vibes in the past. A manifestation of the handbook: Be a HVW, date HVM. What is a HVW, why do you want to be one, how to get there. Don't chase men, focus on your own happyness and eventually a HVM will come along. Or he won't. But that's OK because a queen doesn't give a shit. She manages herself - financially, socially, emotionally,... - and is therefore independent from men. Experinced women help less experinced ones. The only space men on this sub have is when we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:04 PM
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I feel the same way. I'm happy how this sub grows but I don't like the influx of complaints about the most obvious things in LVM and our misogynistic society. This doesn't benefit us in becoming the best version of ourselves and certainly not in attracting HVMs. Why did you get downvoted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:35 PM
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I haven't viewed FDS (for myself) as "how to find a good partner", but "how to avoid ending up with a bad partner". I'm sorry to tell you this but this is a bad idea. If you approach relationships with this mindset you'll end up with a LVM/LVW at best. I spend the last day thinking about making a post about this and now I'm convinced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:23 PM
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Thank you for putting this out there, I really appreachiate this. A while ago I critisized the pictures of "clever clapbacks" from subbies. Later I critisized the by then overwhelming amount of tiktoks that made fun of stupid male behaviour. And you know, I get it. So many men ARE annoying, creepy, stupid,... up to actually dangerous and life threatening. But I know this already. Heck, I'm not blind. I have eyes and ears and brains. I only need to take a look outside my window to confirm male de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:14 PM
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I really get it. As interesting as feminist literature is the truth it holds is very uncomfortable to digest to the point where it can feel emotionally draining. Give yourself time. Reading the handbook, especially the parts that focus on how to be a HVW, will help you regain focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:00 AM
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Because they were abusers all along and the percived state of her vulnerablility (pregnancy) combined with cultural misogyny that allows them to get away with this crime triggers the abuse. It's not much different than predators chasing young girls (yes girls, as in "children") and inexpirenced naive women. Or like asking for past traumas to see where your weak ppints are. The moment an abuser spots a vulnerability it's nearly impossibly for them to resist, making the mask drop off. They smell t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:49 AM
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I had this feeling just yesterday. Today I read the handbook after a while, like 6 months or so. It instantly reminded me of my past self, of all the progress I made in last half year. I noticed the difference between past me and present me. This was when I recogniced what was going on. I leveled up so fast in a short amount of time yet forgot to keep track of the progress amd thetefore didn't felt the acomplishment - just the exhaustion. And I also noticed that I kept a toxic person in my life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:04 AM
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I think those guys you are talking about care more about impressing other men than women. Personally I don't have anything against him being proud to be my SO. He doesn't have to hold back his admiration for me and I agree with the post 100%. OP is absolutely right that it's important to have him demonstrated this kind of pride in public. If a HVM values a HVW he is honored by having her by his side. Her presence is his present and stuff... What I was trying to say was: Is he proud to be my part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 09:13 PM
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This is some queen sh*t right here 💖 As for communication - Use your FEET, not your WORDS. Preach sis. Actions speak louder than words. FDS got me so riled up, evey time somebody asks me to cOmMuNiCaTe it's an instand red flag. They just confirmed they know nothing about actual communication yet expect me to perfom free emotional labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:53 PM
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I recently found http://shewhopersisted.com/ and I think it's interesting so far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:25 AM
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Always welcome. Ofc you can do the same thing, create backups of changes every few minutes or so. But I personally don't think it's worth the hassle. Depending on your country chatlog data can save you in a court case or get turned against you (Sexting = "she asked for it"). Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:00 AM
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And they better keep hearing those good things about you during the whole time. Not only at the beginning stage where he puts you on a pedestral only to neg and gaslight you later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:55 AM
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It's still possible to create backups though. And yes, it's possible to script this too. If they want they can easily store your whole conversation at any time, like every 2-5 minutes and check for changes too. When they introduced this delete feature they advertised it with "giving our users control over their data". In truth they wanted to shift the responsability to the enduser. All of this happend when the EU enforced their privacy laws. This does not give you control over your data and conv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:52 AM
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Yes, but watch out for his motives: If he wants to show you off to make himself look better, he cares more about the opinion of others than yours. A narc doesn't see you as a person neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:05 AM
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It's not uncommon to feel even lonelier in a relationship than while being single, it's just more difficult to spot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:37 AM
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Telegram allows the other party to delete YOUR messages without any notification that says so (like "deleted message")!!! Don't recommend for dating. Edit: Encryption is a farce too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:30 AM
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Someone please make a shitpost about this so I can cope with this insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:44 PM
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What a brilliant episode! I'm still in awe that you managed to get THE Dr. Gail Dines. This is big. Love to see how Dines and FDS get along so well. I'm proud and thankful to be part of this movement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:43 PM
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That's interesting. Because for me bisexual men were the only kind of men who NEVER asked me for a threesome after I outed myself in front of them. They were all just like "Cool, me too btw." and that's it. The bar is in hell, I know. But when you are so used to sapphobia (misogyny specifically targeted to bisexual women) it sticks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:50 AM
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I see, thanks for pointing this out! Althought I have to disagree with the last part about boomers expecting women to have standards. Boomers are my parents generation and speaking from personal experience one of the last thing they expect is a woman to have standards towards men. Their own parents generation though had high standards. Maybe it's a cultural thing too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:38 AM
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Me looking through the yt comments like: Where to report them for standard shaming? These things make it to the news? Really? Two boomers complaining about a pretty millenial woman from tiktok who states her idea of a date? This is really, really pathetic. They are so butthurt lmfao Like nobody is forcing them to date this gorgorous lady (like she'd even consider them!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:16 AM
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Absolutely! In my personal experience bisexual men are also least likely to go for pickmes. I'm not sure why tho. Those pickmes in the comments are fighting an already lost battle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:55 AM
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Nom :3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:50 PM
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Do you piss in bottles during meetings, forget about them afterwards and secretly store them at the attic over years? ​ Do you use your t-shirts to wipe away your cum from secret masturbation sessions during home office?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:13 PM
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I always recommend having a paper trail in those situations. Your manager sounds strange with a hands-off mentality at best. I'd write him a second time what happend so, how this negativly affects the company (it's his job to watch out for the company) and, most importantly, what you want him do to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:40 PM
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A few months ago I wrote how not only men project but also women. This is what I was talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:21 PM
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Interesting question. For me it's less a matter of attractiveness and more about sexism. A pretty woman will be treated differently from both men and other women than an attractive guy. As such lookism is always related to sexism and the other way around. I'm meeting most of society's beauty expectations due to good genes and a lot of personal investment. However I know how to upgrade or downgrade my appereance. It might come off as paradox but there are situations where you benefit from looking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:52 PM
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The sniff. Why is it so sad to know how many men would fail the sniff test?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:16 AM
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..., using you as their therapist, guilt tripping you to get their way, ... Dating a LVW is like dating your toxic "friend" from high school who secretly bullies you: It's a very bad idea. Good that your friend warned you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:57 PM
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I despise how this whole porn/hookup culture sexualizes queer women. Every time I out myself in front of assumed trustworthy people as bi some pickmeisha starts to hit on me. Every.freakin.time. Even if it's another bisexual women. Or "straight" LVWs suddenly declare themselves as "bicurious" because, you know, it's sooo important to have had sex with another woman at one point in your life. Like it's a checkbox they have to tick that brings them street creds. I'm not your sex toy, ma'am. I'm al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:46 PM
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I never got an unwanted dickpic my whole life. Should it ever happen I'd be seriously unimpressed as I'm used to see naked people when I go to sauna. Heck, if they sent me their pinky toe it would have the same impact on me. Yet another functional part of the human body. Thanks for the explaination tho. Nobody ever told me. Should I ever get a dickpic I now know how to react: Fake discomfort over an ordinarily biologic fact to keep their feefees intact. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:21 AM
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Ah, I see! My DMs are always turned off by default on these sites so I never got any unsolicited messages so far. Thank you for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:06 AM
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Seriously. Guys, get a life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:38 AM
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I didn't know you could autoblock followers. It says I have 20 followers but I don't know who they are. Is there any chance I can find that out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:23 AM
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Exactly 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:21 PM
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I never understood why sending dickpics is considered gross yet somewhat flirty(?) while flashing random people in the park IRL is labeled exhibitionism. Both are exhibitionism. None of it is OK. Why send nudes anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:59 PM
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Thank you for the insights! I have a few questions of general nature. I hope it's OK to ask them here instead of pm since I think others would be interested as well: How much interpersonal contact is needed to keep the attraction alive? How do you cope with the lack of physical affection in a relationship, like cuddling and kissing? Are LDR more prone to cheating because of this? How common is it that at least one partner suggest to open the relationship because of it? For whom is a LDR recommen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:07 PM
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Yes. The most toxic MILs in my life all had the following in common: - shitted on their DILs - pandered to their sons, my partners, and treated them like freakin children - were abandoned by theoe sons in old age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:52 PM
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I know your post is more of a anouncement than a request for advice and that despite everyone here advices you against doing so there is little that can change your mind. But I urge you to asks youself a question before: Where do you draw the line? What crime would he have to commit against you that is bad enough to make you refuse his request(s)? If you can't come up with anything know that you are not in a position to consent. Because if you can't say no you can't say yes either. If you can up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:23 PM
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He would never do it for her because it would be a "hassle" to him. Like it was a "hassle" when she didn't perform to his liking so HER success reflected good on HIM. He wouldn't even donate his blood and she knows it. She knows that he doesn't care but still considers it. That's what worries me the most here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:57 PM
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I really hope that OP realizes that the only reason she even considers this is because she has been groomed for abuse and taught to feel this guilt for disobeying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:47 PM
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Is there any option us normal users can help ease the burden?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:39 PM
70

Those who claim to fear succubi while simultaniously avoiding condoms are actually pout about being denied living as an incubus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:22 PM
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I've never been on the childfree sub. Guess you learn something new every day about the clowns of this circus website.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:17 PM
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Wait, we are not talking about the donation of money (which would be bad enough) but of your body parts, like organs?? Don't you dare do it! Have some self respect. Listen to your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:15 PM
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Then he had the nerve to say, "I had a vasectomy for you!" Bullshit; you had it for you. He had it for his PP 🙄 Good for you for leaving! When it's impossible to stay it's most important to be able to get away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:02 PM
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There is the Wix app. You can find all FDS ressources in the "About" section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:48 PM
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I can't bring myself upvote this one post but I can't argue against your decision either as it would be selfish of me. Thank you for everything you've done. Your posts had a great influence in my life. Please keep fighting the good fight on your turf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:21 PM
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Then there are those guys who want sex without a condom and don't want to become a father but don't want to get a vasectomy either. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:08 PM
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If you live for their approval, you'll die from their rejection. What a powerful statement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:03 PM
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The devil wears prada is a good lesson on tough love. Yes, Miranda is cold and all BUT how is that a bad thing? She wouldn't be there where she is now if she had Andy's NLOG attitude. Andy straight out disrespects Miranda and her work from day 1, starting with the Interview. I probably wouldn't have hired Andy. But Miranda did. Because she recognised a part if herself in Andy. Yes, she often was unnessesarily cruel but she is not the devil. Andy's LV boyfriend Nate and their friends are. I found…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:44 PM
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You did well. Maybe there is a women only gym in your country. If not, have you considered going with a group of other women to the gym. This is also fun and motivational for a couple of reasons. Most of the times I went to gym I did so with girlfriends.
/r/askFDS09/06/21 02:42 AM
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You are absolutely right about this. From now on I'm going to use active communication to address the issue. I was assaulted. -> A man assaulted me. Or: A woman assaulted me. (Yes, there are NVW out there who assault other women.) Regardless, we have to shift the focus towards the perpetrator to hold them accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:03 AM
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I come with three topics: 1.) FDS is growing by the minute and it's wonderful to see it! 2.) Thanks to you I started listening to podcasts. I came across one named shewhopersisted.com from the two feminists Beatrice Frasl and Elizabeth-Schreiber-Byers. Go check it out. I'd absolutely LOVE to hear a collaboration with them on one of the following episodes. Since it's pride month my suggestion would be to discuss LGBT+ topics, sex-positive feminism and the impact it has on the LGBT+ community (whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:54 PM
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A HVM wouldn't push for sex without exclusivity anyway. There is nothing to explain about if he is truly as great as he seems to be at the moment. Don't put yourself under this pressure. This is part of the vetting process. If he attempts sex without even asking for exclusivity you know you are dealing with a LVM fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:39 PM
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The best diet choice I've ever made was to go vegan and cook my own vegan food. I can eat waterever I want, it tastes wonderful, I'm very resilient and I haven't worried about my weight since then (it's been years!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:26 PM
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I always have a carafe with infused water on my desk. It's so much easier to drink enough water when the slightly tastes of fruit. I usually put the chunks of half of an organic lemon into 1l water, refill at least 3-5 times and drink it over the day. It's really easy and it looks pretty too. When I go outside I always carry a bottle of water with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:08 PM
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The house part was future faking and meant to impress a pickmeisha. Totally inappropriate of him let alone the other red flags the other members already mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:00 PM
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Nothing makes me lose affection faster than a man who pesters me for sex like a child nags it's mother for a treat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:36 PM
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I discovered cooking - specifically vegan cooking - as a hobby. I used to hate cooking because I associated it with the dependent housewife stereotype, a sweet but sad woman/mother, who has to financially rely on her dismissive, cheating or even abusive husband. As a result I only got into relationships with men who liked to cook themselves (I took onto other chores in the household). And while it definitely has it's perks to have man who cooks (hello bare minimum!) it led to the paradox situati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:23 AM
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Bracket and artificial hanging basket sounds pretty. Yeah, he sounds like he has no life at all. Don't exhaust yourself with the decoration part. It merely serves as a symbol and as such it should represent your own fullness in life. I don't want you to burn yourself out by building a facade for others. Focus on enriching yourself. Living by yourself can be initimidating at first (I absolutely understand your situation!). On the other hand it's wonderful to finally have your own space! Girl, thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:33 AM
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The best doesn't need to compete. Aka The smallest dog barks the loudest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:55 PM
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Penetrating somebody so that they have a pleasureable experience isn't that difficult, especially when you receive explizit feedback like that. Now imagine also having nerve endings down there yourself. Men have literally no excuse for sucking at penetration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:42 AM
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Personally I'd let it slip to the normal neighbors (not the creep of course) that I'm in a fullfilling relationship. I'd distance myself from the creep as good as possible, we'd talk about the weather at best. Invest in strong locks and an alarm system. If you are a dog person and this is financially an option for you then get a dog. Stay friendly but professional with everyone in the neighborhood who you are unsure if they (read she) is absolutely pro women. If you have friendly old ladies in y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:02 AM
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I usually go with the Apple or Google link. For me it's also about finding closure. I can't undo what happend to me, the treatment I accepted in the past. But I can influence that other women will less likely put up with it. The podcast is a great addition to the sub too. The team manages to convey the original queen vibes of FDS so well. These are not bitter women like haters like to attest to this subs users. These women are joyfull yet experienced, they don't take men too seriously but warn u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:13 PM
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This is my idea of polyamory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:25 PM
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I'm not on spotify but I love the Podcast <3 I consider becoming a patreon too. Great work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:57 PM
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When a man attempts to use me as emotional dumpster, usually in the form of appealing to my inner pickmeisha by shitting on other women, I tell him to CoMmUnIcAtE. It shuts them up. And they don't like the it. Why? Because everybody knows that advicing women to cOmMuNiCaTe in the face of abuse from men means "Shut up". The appell to CoMmuNiCaTe is inherantly dismissive. Nobody cares when they tell this to a woman. I say this to emotional leeches, who are mostly men by nature, giving them a taste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:54 PM
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I just watched an episode of a german podcast named "paula kommt" because my friend recommended it to me. And it was horrible. A woman told the moderator that she found out that her man, who didn't want to sleep with her for months, had been sending dickpicks to familiy members. The other woman informed her about it. Now one would think the only sane thing the moderator could do do would be take her side. But no. The moderator called it, and I quote, "A cry for help". I kid you not. The poor poo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:24 PM
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Same @ the oral part. Kissing occured but he seemed to self-identify as a washing maschine xD Equipment was nice too but he didn't know how to handle it right. Fortunally there are sweet loving guys with good dicks AND good personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:01 PM
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One of my LVM exes was so terrible in bed, I still cringe at the thought of the experience about it from years ago. It's like he sucked on purpose. At the same time I craved sex (with him, because LoVe). So as a result he got rewarded with access to my body for being a terrible lover. I, too, thought of myself as a person with high lipido. Now, many years later, I know there is a difference between wanting sex with a loving and affectionate partner and needing sex because of sexual malnutrition.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:31 PM
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It's her child too and she should divorce his ass ASAP before the abuse gets more severe and eventually turns physical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:17 PM
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When women are chronically sexually unsatisfied they tend to fuck men more often. If you've ever been with a man who's a bad lover you know what I mean. Media, porn specifically, leaves women unsatisfied. Further men (as a class) profit from women lowering their sexual standards (in desperate hopes to reach satisfaction). IMO it's not just to pander to the male ego when the media puts too much empathis on the g-spot and dismisses the importance the a-spot or the clitoris. It's cultural gaslighti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:03 PM
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Same. I don't kiss one the first date. By the second date I have to feel the physical connection, meaning I really should have the desire to kiss. Then I wait until the third date though, giving myself some time to cool off and reflect more rationally over it. This no kiss before the third date rule worked best for me so far. I don't want to waste time either and I don't want hormones to get the best of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:41 PM
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You are absolutely and 100% right!! If he isn't vaccinated he doesn't care if he gives you or other women cancer. He doesn't care about your health because he plans on discarding you anyway. Also relevant for wlw when weeding out LVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:19 PM
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Thank you, this is very well written! I'm looking forward to your list :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:37 PM
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"You should message me if[...]You're Hoping To Find (!) Your Soulmate, True Love, Best Friend & So Much More All In One.[...]" Note what he wrote. He didn't write that you should write him because he'll give you those qualities. He wrote that you should be hopeful (read desperate) to find them in him. Guess what he'll use to emotionally blackmail you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:00 PM
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Hamsters are actually more evolved than those men. A hamster urinates and defecates in one tiny spot in its cage/habitat. It doesn't piss all over the place. You only need to put some sand there and the hamster will recognize it as its toilet. Men don't do so necessarily. Also hamster are cute. I'd choose hamsters over human males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:01 PM
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Telegram and Signal aren't necessarily used by alt right breeding groups in europe. They are more like an alternative to whatsapp. They pride themselves with providing better control of your data as end user in comparison to whatsapp since whatsapp is controlled by facebook. They recently became more popular with the overall population after the EU started to push against the right for encryption. They call it "terror prevention" which is absolute garbage, they just seek to compromise their citi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:59 AM
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I was in the wifes position with my forever bf ex back then. Can confirm that everything was great as long as it was just the two of us. She didn't need to secretly "invite him" (her wording) doing her while she was doing me tho. Especially after I declared that those situations were unbearable to me and I therefore never want to participate in a threesome of that kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:53 AM
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I always do the STD test together with before having sex for the first time. That means we bkth go at the same time to an ambulance I know and trust. Then we show each other the results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:17 AM
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Good that you left! He basically saw you as his mother. It's terrifying how many adult men are like that. I'm so glad that you immediately stood behind your child! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 12:29 AM
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I personally think that those men are jealous of the child the same way they are jealous of any pet a single woman has. They want their bangmommy maid and they want her NOW. How dare the child/pet get any of her precious attention "for free"? Scrotes always feel entiteled to women's attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:45 AM
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I'm bi and if a woman brought me flowers on the first date I would feel flattered and valued. Go for it :) Edit: Grammar
/r/askFDS18/05/21 11:12 AM
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There could be several reasons: Didn't wash properly, drys with old towl, puts on same old, stinky clothes after showering, bad diet or lifestyle as a whole,.... It could also be that you don't have chemistry, that he doesn't smell good to you. Women have a way better sense of smell because they vet for genetic compatibility. Either way if you don't like his smell it's a sign to stay physically away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:33 AM
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The men who want a "mini me" are always narcissists. Beware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:19 PM
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Short, virgin, hairless, underweight, naive("cute"),... yes, it's a kid and yes, you are a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:09 PM
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Long hair + muscles 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:05 PM
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I'm only attracted to men with long hair. Something I tried to ignore back in my pickme days. And even though most if them were still LVM I only dated men with long hair in the last decade. At least I was physically attracted to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:01 PM
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Especially for the environmentalists and their double standards and sexism when it comes to everything related to sexuality. For example, I love my mooncup. It's much better for my body than tampons or pads. I get to know my body, my ph-value doesn't suffer and periods become more planable. Let alone the financal aspect because tampons are quite pricy. I understand that menstrual cups not for every woman and I wouldn't want to push the idea on anybody. It's just that they work better for me and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:21 AM
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Men are usually as happy receiving compliments from their "bros" as women are when getting them from their "sisters". Nobody is stopping this big dude. Or could it be he is talking about women when he says "people"? Well in that case enjoy you gender bend day off. You sure as hell won't forget it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:56 AM
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"Shrimp dick loving pickmes" 🤣👌 They lied to you. They lied like they did in the children's tale "The Emperor's New Clothes"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:06 AM
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And why don't we have a name for men who are in a relationship with a woman for other benefits besides sex - like money, social status, free food, household chores, one-sided companionship and emotional care? Because all of them translate to money as well. Namely HER money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:55 PM
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That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works. 🤦‍♀🤦‍♀🤦‍♀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:47 PM
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They make me want to dig my nails into them 😺😏👌 You have excellent taste btw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:41 PM
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The womens comments make it even better 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:35 PM
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I have to say that even if i enjoy a trained upper body toned legs are incredibly hot. Usually comes with a well defined ass. Women check out men's butts too. Like, a lot. Some of us are more subtle then others. I had a bf who worked out every day and his whole body looked like cake. One day when we went to the mall he stopped to pick up the bag from the ground. Another woman behind him gazed, her eyes widened and she nodded her head in agreement as she walked past us, eyes fixated. Her whole bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:13 PM
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Divide and conquer, a very old technique. They want oppressed groups to fight each other because it enforces their own established position by deflecting the blame onto women. When minority groups are busy fighting feminists men benefit. Funny how those tough guys who claim to be against political correctness/sjw, those who like to "play devils advocate", engage in oppression olympics the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:03 AM
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It's nothing but virtue signaling, they don't care about non "cithet" women at all. They just hate women, plain and simple. Disgusting double standards. Sincerly, a "cisbi" woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:05 PM
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Post flair checks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:25 PM
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Leading by example while being kind to women as a class aka having a feminist mindset is what works best in my experince.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:48 AM
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Jealousy in women is seen as a flaw of character while it is seen as an expression of love or at least desire when it comes from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:46 AM
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I know a few female narcissists too. But yeah, as you said, there are far less than male narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:50 PM
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Exactally my thoughts. Even the men before the Great Era Of The Internet were like that. Most men I know would certainly get diagnosed as narcs. Difference is they before the narc label became popular they were called cOnFiDeNt. No, they are not. They are abusers abd they are mentally ill. At this point I consider narcissism a male illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:54 PM
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Nice! Have we fixed a day yet? Sexy saturday or something? 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:31 AM
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The average dick I had was about 7" long. I found that 7.5" - 8" works best for me, with a girth where my index finger and thumb merely touch while grabbing the base. Base more circle shaped than egg shaped. I don't have any preference for circumstation since this is a medical issue on his side. I am however against the circumstation of men against their consent, especially for any other reason than the treatment of phimosis. The cleanliness argument doesn't count for me because when it's smelly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:00 AM
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How about no? On mother's day all the women in my family come together because every one is a mother of at least another woman. The daughters and sons give the mothers gifts like flowers, sappy DIY presents and home made bakery. We thank our mothers for our existance and for putting up with us. "Lower your expectations" my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:10 AM
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I wish the sex positivity movement would focus on those issues: How masturbation (without porn) can help to get to know your body to develop a better understanding of your own anatomy and as a result your sexuality. Have sex that is good, save and healthy for you and your partner. Explore your body through masturbation to raise your sexual standards. Self care through masturbation. But no, they had to turn it into this pornified shitshow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:54 AM
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Yes. As for the Uber example this means that HE suggests to pay for her ride beforehand. No need to cOmMuNiCaTe your standards because that's what you are doing: cOmMuNiCaTiNg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:20 PM
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Thank you so much for these links! So many things of my sex life make sense now. I knew of the deep spot before but didn't put much meaning into since everyone is like "g-spot, g-spot, g-spot. A woman can cum from only a few inches." Yes, I can. I can also orgasm from nipple stimulation (like mentioned in the article) or even neck kisses when they are coming from the right person. But the deep spot orgasm is something else. Maybe this sounds silly but it's somehow emotionally satisfying and I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:55 PM
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I've never seen a burning red penis before. Did he have a STD/STI? Can you get a sun burn down there? So many questions. The only redness I know off is when he is literally about to explode, postcoital or if he wears a penis ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:34 PM
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So basically: Don't cOmMuNiCaTe, just walk away. Don't overshare your private life because it's his job to earn this information by himself. If he wanted to he would. If he wants to focus on YOU he does. Men are not dumb. Don't let your inner pickmeisha hijack your own vetting process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:52 PM
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Most men I know have any skincare routine. And by that I'm talking about that they splash some water on their face. At best. Every other day. No cleaning products to get rid of cloaked pores, no creme to moisture the skin, old towels full of bacteria, no peeling to get rid of dead skin and don't get me started on nails. It's true that makeup is bad for the skin but if you use more than powder chances are that applied daycreme of primer before. Most of them offer light UVA/UVB protection so there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:20 PM
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Only a man would think that his presence is so important that the mods chose to message him personally for his comment. Auto mod, scrotes. Nobody, literally nobody, cares. Your false assumption confirms our suspicion of your pathetic projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:56 AM
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That's definitely something to watch out for when dating a man from the same field of expertise, doesn't even need to be the same workplace: Scrotes who are looking for a woman to dominate her in her own domain to keep her in check. Not only can he influence her self esteem, but also her financial independency as a result. He can influence if she wants to start a family business with him where she is "flexible" regarding child rearing (read: She "is able to" stay at home, without proper monetary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:56 PM
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A past bf of many years who I considered to be life partner and soul mate back then suddenly started to physically assault me while I was working on an assignment for my bachelors degree... I never saw it coming. He attacked me from behind. He was older and worked in the same field. He probably felt threatend because I was making progress. The other times when he "helped" me he always made me feel dump and incompetent for asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:47 PM
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I would never take another men surname as my own. If he wants to, he can change his surname to mine. We can have a double surname or create anew one, although I'm not sure if I would compromise that much. Probably not. Also keep in mind that if you are in academics it's crucial for you to have your name out there. If you abandon your name and take on your husbands it can and WILL have negative consequences on your visability and further on your academic reputation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:25 PM
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Right? Men stress women out but women still look youger than men on average.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:43 PM
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Not making self demeaning jokes and not downplaying your achievements. Talk like a sucessfull man and watch them turning themselves into the emotional equivalent of a rubber ball.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:40 PM
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I was wondering if we could do something about vote manipulation of comments. Not for personal reasons, I try to follow rediquette and don't up-and downvote based on personal opinion but on percieved value for the discussion. This means mostly upvote as long as this condition is fullfilled. I also don't really care about stranger's votes on my comments on the internet. What concerns me is my observation how a concatenation of replys escalates in both directions: As soon a post gets one or two do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:53 AM
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B-b-but the precious attention of men!!!11! 👉👈🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:21 AM
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No, I think you misunderstood. B**** is originally connoted as it describes a female dog in heat - a dehumanizing term which is also pure male projection at the same time. A female being acting illogical, desperate and mean because the to lack of dick. A scrote or pickme will call a woman a b**** for any reason to get their way. It doesn't have to be in response of assertive, cunning and smart behavior coming from a woman but it's not unusual, especially for the assertive part. Because as we kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:17 AM
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Please, please, please. Sex-positive libfem lurkers: Read what Pickup artists think about your type of feminism. "There is good and bad feminism. The feminism movement deserves its own blogpost. However in general, positive feminism and embracing of women’s sexual nature is the type of feminism that resonates with the PUA community, while hardcore feminism denying sluts or sex and sexually represses women is considered negative. As Hugh Hefner said, “I didn’t have the words to express it at the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:53 AM
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I, too, struggle with the concept of reclaiming because of the same reasons. I'd definitely won't call another women a c, k, b or whatsoever as an insult and I don't know if I'd do it if even if she asks me to. It would be a big deal to me because in my mind I'd still be insulting her for being a woman. On the other hand I see my younger sister and her bff call each other the b-word to express cunning, smart or assertive behaviour which earn them praise if they were men. And then I notice myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:19 AM
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Well, yeah, they still use it as an insult. But it doesn't have the same effect now as it had ~15 years ago. Back then it sufficed to call a woman the b-word to get a shocked gasp out of her or the audience. Nowadays when someone says it they lay themselves open to ridicule. "You bitch!" is like saying "You....stupid woman, you!". Back then it was synonymous with "Her who shouldn't be named". At least where I am from. The b-word is still used as insult but the impact is has is more neutralized. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:45 PM
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FDS lives true sex positivity while libfems are rape positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:31 PM
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Yeah, I knkw very well what you mean. He treats you normal, like a human being, like you treat him. Mutal respect. You get along. He talks about friendship and acts like a friend but then BOOM he was acting all along. He never saw you as such. For him, you were but an object, not even human. The feeling of betrayal, like you just lost a friend. Yet he was never one to begin with. Yes, it's crushing and traumatizing. Men refuse to acknowledge this. They don't know this kind of lonelyness. They do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:29 PM
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Since the b-word got reclaimed (by feminists and those who don't call themselves ones but act pro-women too) the k-word has to do. I'd say time to claim the k-word as well. And every other misogynistic vocabulary as well. And yes, you are absolutly right. It shouldn't be that way. But it as long as it works as a bullying mechanism the bully will keep on using it. Patriarchy is bullying against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:22 PM
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Tbh women get sexually rejected all the time. We don't get offered sex at every corner - we get offered rape. This is a huge difference. Just imagine if men were sexually harrassed as much as women are AND when they complain we tell them "you can have all the sex you want". No, we can't have sex, we have to defend against rape attempts, even - or especially from - the most intimate people in our lifes. Women on the other hand get indoctrinated to cater to men's sexual needs. Men recive more sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:14 PM
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I guess that most of those men who want custody because it's convenient to them. Let me explain: Men make more money than women in most cases so they can hire a nanny. While "single mom" get's treated as the devil incernate for all of society's problems "single dad" is seen as a hero. "Single mom" is chronically overworked and/or neglectful and therefore should stay out of the workforce; "single dad" deserves a higher salery in order to take care of the child. A married men earns more than an un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:02 PM
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Whoever controls the exchange of interpersonal information controls the group - and further - society. No wonder so many scrotes dwell in IT aka Information Technology. It once was a women's job to "compute", to program.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:41 PM
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It's pure projection because men use women for free dinner since like ever. Men areso used to their mommy mcbangmaid that the shere thought of providing a meal to women is offensive to them. In their minds it's "emasculating" - like cleaning their own shit. Their understanding of masculinity is defined by being the son to mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:06 PM
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We hadn't got as far as becoming exclusive in the first place because he failed the vetting process very early on --> flirting with me next to his ex, bad mouthing her, going back to his ex, etc If I still choose to ignore these --> first day of the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:20 AM
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Until men as a class don't hold men accountable, starting by excluding NAMALTers from their ranks, I won't even think about giving them the benefit of the doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:32 AM
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Yes, this is natural. It's beyond me how this ever came out of style with this species. The male courts the female until the female approves of the males value. Then and only then does the male get exclusivity. But only as long as he actively works on keeping her interest. The male knows that other males are already hoping for their turn, that's why he mateguards her. Imagine pouting a male of any other species about this lol. He would just confirm his extinction from the gene pool. Human female…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:21 AM
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Most of all 6. My ex loved to time shame me after delaying the conversation over HOURS. He stonewalled me nearly daily until it was bed time. Then he said "Let us talk about it tomorrow, I'm too tired now." Mind you, how do you think it feels to CoMmUnIcAtE to the point of physical exhaustion? Only to be rewarded with going to bed angrily where you are still too riled up to sleep for the next couple of hours? The oh so complicated topic was always me begging him to respect my boundaries. Funny h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:06 AM
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Let go of all hope of cooperation and gaining his respect. He showed you who is is and you better believe him. This is hard but it's important to learn so you won't take his actions personally. It's simply his personality and he acts like this towards other people as well, especially when you don't look. As he's your dad and seems to be unable to handle critisism try this: Don't say "I don't like it when you do X." Say "I'd be so happy if you do Y." or "I really like when people do Y for me." Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:55 AM
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If you are vetting him this is your call to leave. If you have no romantic interest in him but have to put up with him anyway (family member, co-worker,..) do this: Play right into his games and act dumb. I mean it. Answer brief with "Whaaaaat?" or the like and make a joke out of his passive-aggressive behavior. He'll grow tired of it because he can't get through to you with his hate. If others are watching he won't be able to stand the humiliation that backfired at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:22 AM
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Part of my vetting strategy is to see if he can laugh at my jokes. I love joking around and it's important to me to see that I can make my partner laugh. If he doesn't have the same humor as I have we won't get along on a fundamental level. At the same time it's not really important to me if he can make me laugh. There are many other ways he can make me smilie :) A man who is able to laugh at your jokes is able to show you his vulnerability. Only a ZVM/NVM won't expose himself to you like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:09 AM
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I had the all-in-one package.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:48 AM
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This right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:28 PM
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I see. If he ruins it himself shaming him is justified. No sympathy for irresponsability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:29 PM
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Thank you for your answer! The person in question is an ex of mine and I'm pretty sure he has been addicted. He watched porn on a daily basis and was VERY desensitized because of it. He pressured me for sex but wasn't able for any initimacy or passion, everything had to be performative and cater to his fetishes. He never did anything about it but deflected the blame onto me and argued that his high sex drive didn't suffer from it. He eventually turned violent in his attempt to fuck me. That's wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:24 PM
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It's not a new derogatory term but a known medical condition. Porn addicts are literally breaking their own dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:55 PM
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Question! How can I tell the difference between a dick that naturally bends upwards (~45° angle during erection) and one that's suffering from peyronie's disease?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:45 PM
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I'm becoming sick of the phrase "But men just need healthy role models to promote healthy masculinity." because it portrays men as victims in desperate need of help. Men are CAN get help. They are privileged. There are in fact many ressources that can help men with their mental health. Most of them actively choose to ignore them. They choose to not look at healthy male role models. They choose to not go to therapy but dwell in self pity instead. Men don't need any more pity. They need to be held…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:27 PM
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The couple thing they mentioned...They talk about this like sexworkers are professional couple consellors. They are not. Imagine your bf insisting on taking you to a sexworker for a threesome. If you refuse you are "suffering from tOxIc JeAlOuSy", apparently this makes you the problem in the relationship. Also as a bisexual woman who gets harrased for threesomes by scrotes and pickmeishas I found this part very insulting yet telling: They do see us like free prostitutes. They desire and despise …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:58 PM
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This is really valuable advice! And yeah, your are not limited to potential boyfriends. Do it with job hunting, salery, new friends, roommates, collegues, mentors, service providers,...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:28 PM
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Until it sinks in I'm going to watch this multiple times a day from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:24 AM
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A rule of thumb of mine is: If he is truly interessed in my opinion he shows me that he is eager to learn. This can be demonstrated by asking a very specific question that show that he already did his homework on the topic. A person who values your time don't ask you to teach them basics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:36 AM
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"Are you enthusiasted about a narrow minded opinion?" "No." But you say "OK". Keep in mind that actions are bigger than words, so it's irrelevant what you say. For christs sake, you could even start jodeling or switch the topic to mating choices of the red horse ant during rainfall on saturday evenings in the presence of felines. With most people you better limit your communication to actions only. You are valuable. Recieving your attention is a privilege that needs to be earned. Don't give away…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:29 AM
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Seriously, do this. "Ok" them, "Yes" them (ironically. But "Ok" is more versatile). You are not "losing". You are not "giving in". What you are doing is declining a request for a conversation like an adult. Remember that the troll can't force you to conversate so he tries to hook you by appealing to your emotions. Translation of the post: "actually, I think men are more discriminated against against than women are these days." ==> "Requesting your attention." "OK" ==> "Declined."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:40 AM
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Imagine this: The levels of pickmeishm increase to the point where every, and I mean literally every pickmeisha on OLD doesn't come over for free sex but to perform free clean-up services. This may sound even worse but bear with me. As a result LVM would be forced to tidy his home himself if he wants to have any action that night. Y'all always hatin, this is genius 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:57 PM
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Just a suggestion. Do what works for your body :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:31 PM
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Some brands offer cups with a variety of firmness in their models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:47 PM
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The handling might take a bit to learn so don't give up if it doesn't work at the first try. There are larger cup sizes for women who gave birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:04 AM
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Cunnilingus with a menstrual cup is completely mess-free if it sits properly. It's also healthier for the vagina than a tampon. Tampons dry you out and become smelly (because of bacteria+fabric of the tampon+lack of oxygen). Also the cup isolates the blood from the rest of the fluids so it just feels much much better than with a tampon IMHO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:03 AM
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I'm beginning to question if it's really worth it dating men at all when you are a bisexual woman. FDS works, when you follow through. No doubt about it. But do I really want to be on constant guard over even the most mundane things in a relationship with a man? Is he really worth it, even if he covers 100% of our costs. I know, that women can be abusive as well. Yet some issues would be simply nonexistant, like unwanted pregnancy. When I weight the HVM in my life against the HVW in my life the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:36 AM
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Everything about this goo is gross and they know it. That's why they fetishize the process of swallowing. Even submissive men feel like this. Many of them enjoy the fantasy of being "forced" to eat it for this exact same reason. It's just like sperm isn't intended for consumption.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:23 AM
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Right? This has to be a larping man. Probably the scrote in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:11 AM
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Your story just made me cry. You explained the sex life of my yearlong relationship with my narcisstistic ex. You gave me goosebumps with every sentence. There where some differences though. You were smarter than I was: He pressered me to have sex and to get the coil so that "we" could have sex without a condom. Sex with a narc eats away your soul. There is no better term for this. You dissociate so much that you even fail to notice that you do. He promised we would have sex like at the beginnin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:06 AM
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Same here. I have so much respect for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:05 PM
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I'm quite tall and the number of scrotes getting triggered by just standing next to me is amazing! Your genes are not my fault, Kevin. Get mad at your ancesters instead. Your height is not a dealbreaker, your pettyness is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:28 PM
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Good for you for calling him out! Did leave him after this? Or did you give him another "second" chance like I did every so often with my scrote back then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:00 AM
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First: Yes, I'd like to hear about this topic in the podcast! I went to couple counseling with a narcissist. The therapist focused on partnership dynamics with narcissists. This is rare and it was pleasantly surprising to learn about the origins, genetics, symptoms and so on about this mental illness. On one hand she told us that a healthy relationship with a diagnosed and untreated narc (yes, the man sitting right next to me) won't be possible unless the narc decides to work on himself. Because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:03 AM
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👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:57 AM
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Why, do you expect him to actually listen to you then come up with reasonable solutions which take both of your feelings in consideration? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:11 AM
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What you describe sounds like Stonewalling or Silent treatment, as you already mentioned. Stonewaller attempt to render the conversation pointless by exhausting you with performative emotional incompetence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:22 PM
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I'm not sure that she really likes it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:36 PM
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"Trust me. I know you even better than your friends and family. Only I fully understand you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:30 PM
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See, my ex never told me I was a bad person. He didn't badmouth me either. Instead he told every other person how "troubled" I was, always "guided by my emotions" like a sweet naive airhead. So I "needed some guidance" - his, of course. He isolated me from every social group, framed me as the manic pixie dream girl without ever using the term. So it was THEM who gave him "advice" for financial, emotional and sexual abuse. He did it with all his partners and I really thought I was the exception t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:24 PM
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"I can't do anything right, can I?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:42 PM
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Somebody hurts you and then shames you for your pain. Adding insult to injury. Abusers use this to deflect the responsability for their actions by putting your focus on the symptom (your pain) instead of letting you address the root of the problem (their abuse). It puts you on defense ("in your place") which enables them to facilliate abuse further which increased serverity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:35 PM
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"I see a lot of potential for personal growth in you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:26 PM
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You know what another very common weapon is in war? Rape and sexual violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:33 PM
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They use false equivalences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:14 PM
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"I can't open up to you. Next time I'll kept it to myself."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:57 PM
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"I'm sorry you feel that way." 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:45 PM
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He said he wants to have kids, not raise them. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:39 PM
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If the woman has to be married by 30 what does that say about the man by her side? Show me an age appropriate partner - a man who is around 30 - who is successful, loving, high earning, generous, educated, healthy and ready to take on the burdens of fatherhood. If there where more HVM around maybe woman would marry earlier. Instead they have to stay vigilant to not waste their 20's with lying LVM.
/r/askFDS20/04/21 12:13 AM
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It's a very cruel and unfair hierachy to all people involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:27 PM
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"High maintenance" like wanting to use a bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:57 PM
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I'm so sorry. Thank you so much for sharing. Now I can understand people who engage in self harm better. I only heard that they did it because they wanted the pain to go away. Yet this explaination never made anysense to me. "How is that supposed to work when you inflict more pain onto you?" This also explains why FDS calls BDSM "self harm". It's because it's self harm by proxy.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:41 PM
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This is interesting and funny at the same time. For me it's the opposite: They try to get away with their shit when I'm not paying attention. But when I look at them most of them don't dare fuck with me. Then again I have been told to have the "stern face".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:53 AM
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There was a post here on fds not long ago (about obe month ago) that talked about the subtle devaluing of LVM who delibertly walk/run/drive faster than their female partner in order to maje them chase them. This is LV behavior at best and it has nothing to do with this one. I'm talking about a gentleman who uses his male privilege to your benefit. Unfortunally that's very rare though :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:48 AM
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Dissociation: Makes sense. I goes if you are cuffed in a degrading position andget beaten over 2+ hours with no end in sight you'll somehow start to think "Whatever. This is fine. I can't do anything anyway. Better accept the circumstances. Hahahaha..." because my mind submitted and it felt "good" not having to think and question. It was intoxicating, similar to being drunk. I never thought that it could fall under dissociatiom though. Interesting. Thank you for bringing it up. I will look furth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:42 AM
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I want to add, a HVM will make sure you are safe but still feel respected. Depending on the culture in your country and the situation it's possible that he lets YOU walk in front of him. To watch your back and/or to watch the people in front of you while making eye contact. It's can be a thing of "ladies first". You'll know when he does it because you'll feel very valued. He uses his male aura/rank to boost your presence in public. But like I said, it completely depends on the situation for him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:27 AM
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It's the same as sidewalks: If you want them to respect your space and don't run into you you have to make yourself noticeable. More than a men. Except you are in the presence of a man. Then his importance magically flows over to you. Or you appear in numbers/as a group of women. If you walk alobe try making eye contact with the driver. Let them know you see them, that you are aware of their actions. Don't smilie, don't appear empathic or understanding. You are crossinf the road, he has to wait …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:58 AM
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Since when do men help women when they are about to be murdered (usually by other men)? Did I miss something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:11 AM
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Yep. The point of the cuckold fetish is a desire for degradation. He is not complaining at all, he is chanting himself into ectasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:56 PM
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I respect your decision and I don't want to pressure you. I just wanted to share my own experiences about dealing with this sort of environment. I know how hard it is to step outside when you are already being cornered. As it's so hard to imagine not being the scapegoat (and to know what is "right") I recommend you the following: Visualize who you want yourself to be - like an idol/a strong friend to whom you look up to/etc. Then ask yourself how 'you' would react in this kind of situation. What…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:34 PM
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Pickmenique from vice. Since there seems to be misunderstandings about fds that could use clarification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:22 PM
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You do both: First you alert the police in the country, take a restraining order and THEN you inform him that you did. You do this because you want to prevent that if the police/law system over there gets cocky (if he actually stalks you) you can argue, that they were aware of the situation. Don't assume the state is on your side as a woman. But you pay your taxes so they have to do their job. Make use of your right. You don't want to depend on the police either, they are full of misogynists. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:18 PM
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Wow, that's a new low. Back then when I was in the kink scene the "sub drop" was something that a sub experiences when the dom fails to give them proper aftercare. It was the doms responsability to console the sub to prevent "sub drop". I did notice a shift towards "we are progressive now, the sub can get their aftercare elsewhere. If they do, they are 'good subs'/'better to pLaY with'. Just think of the poor doms." yadda yadda.... I experienced sub drop only once after an intense spanking sessi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:54 PM
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I know this is less of a priority to you, but you can absolutely kuck him out or call the police on him. There is no excuse for abuse, physical abuse on top of it. No need to feel guilty towards your day and your brother. Ask yourself how your dad would react if you started to assault your brother. Are you able to defend yourself? I'm not familiar with your country's laws and of course I don't encourage you to stay in a dangerous environment. Just keep in mind that literally running away won't p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:36 PM
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OOF...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:17 PM
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Thank you. This means a lot to me ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:47 PM
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Also remember: The Field, The Cumwall and The Pissbottles&Cumshirts Guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:45 PM
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Uhm no? Nobody spits on my vagina. Or any other body part for that matter. Is this dude a frickin lama?? That being said, my first two bfs put in no effort in foreplay. They either didn't touch me at all or playee dumb. (No, the inner tight is NOT a clitoris) And because I didn't want to hurt them 🤡 I secretly inserted lube into me before intercourse. Still, no zoophilia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:34 PM
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I like this. The more specific you know what you want the more likely you are to get there because you become less vulnerable to manipulation from outside.
/r/askFDS18/04/21 02:41 PM
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Thank you. I'm still healing but it gets better. Sexual 'compliments' are a huge red flag for me now. No decent person would compliment you on your genitals or your ability to perform sexual acts. This is an abusers thing because he is the one who profits off it. Abusers praise you for the things you can do for them (sexually or not).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:27 PM
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My narc ex praised me for my creativity and craftyness because "they enable me to craft great gifts for him". He saud that in front of others. After calling him out for his yearlong sexual abuse which eventually turned into violance. I wasn't proud or satisfied by any means, of course. But I didn't leave either, which means I accepted it basically. Edit: [TW] Since there are so many genital related answers here: Said ex complimented me on my "tightness" which I only "gained by the frequent orgas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:17 PM
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I checked out some of Mina Irfan’s videos and I don't think I can work with her approach of relationships. What she calls "feminine energy" sounds like an encouragment to surrender yourself to a man as a woman in order to save the relationship. Also there is a huge difference between being emotionally codependant and mutual, genuine love. She puts so much pressure on the woman, advocates to "look past his mistakes like you did in kindergarden". No, thanks. I won't lower my standards. I'm going t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:29 PM
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The concept of being someones girlfriend is a scam. Wife privileges without any legal security for the woman. If you don't watched out you'll end up playing house. LVM and pickme's whine about something that was considered normal back then in the "good old days". "But-but-but the poor menz", "you'll want to see how you vibe before marriage" - grow up. Save me the fearmongering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:55 AM
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LVM are opportunistic so they want to trigger you at all costs. No bar is to low. When you respond (this doesn't need to be with words, body language counts too) they still get to live in your head rent free. "Negative attention is better than no attention at all". As long he gets you to think about him, it shows that you "have feelings for him". You might think this is all nonsense because if he wanted you, he's be eager to impress you. Wrong. This confuses "wanting you" with "valuing you". The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:50 AM
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Sometimes we need to hit rock bottom in order to see our worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:03 PM
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Nice xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:49 PM
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And that's a skill on it's own. :) We just need to be careful to not sell ourselfs short in professional life, especially when I comes to our salery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:46 PM
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Full-Stackoverflow Developer 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:42 PM
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I love this whole conversation xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:38 PM
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I'm sure you are a great programmer. I don't have many female colleges. But the few I know and work with are excellent programmers. It's mostly my own imposter syndrom speaking here, I guess.😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:36 PM
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Yeah. She probably tells herself (and her friends&family) how he isn't "perfect" but that she still loves him because "he is a good person". Unfortuanally this doesn't matter since he doesn't see her the same way. She calls him her "hubby" but he literally pisses on her carpet. If it were the other way around he would be celebrated as a "loving and passionate husband who even stays with a severely mentally ill woman".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:23 AM
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It's not just the absence of love. He cares so little about her that I wonder if he feels enough to at least hate her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:52 AM
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I have only one question: How is it possible to love a person who obviously hates you that much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:38 AM
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💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:24 AM
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All jokes aside I always had this understanding of LVM/HVM/ZVM/NVM. I like how using integers takes things better into perspective. Especially since people here tend to use LVM for an abuser, just because the term "LVM" is more common than "NVM" on FDS. If he substracts value he is of negative value. If you have to pay for a therapy to process trauma coming from a past relationship you made a bad deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:40 AM
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That I'm sure! But it's probably easier to show by proof of contradiction 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:20 AM
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We said "I love you" to each other at the first time when we had our first kiss. This was about 4 months into dating. And it still took a lot of courage. I wouldn't rush these things.
/r/askFDS16/04/21 03:55 AM
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Or then he overflows and turns into minimum value. Typical case of "Too good to be true". Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:45 AM
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🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:34 AM
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Nooo, I'm so sorry 😭 Intergers are data types for integer values. Booleans are data types for binary values in most languages (True/False aka 1/0) like you wrote. Convenient for splitting men into HVM and LVM. Floats are floating point numbers for working with values between two intergers, like 3.54. Epsilon is used to define a range for checking said floating point numbers for rounding (e.g. 3.542653.... becomes 3.5). Overflow occurs when you try to write a higher value into a variable than it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:33 AM
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Male lurkers: Now switch the genders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:48 AM
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Using progressive integers instead of those nasty closed-minded booleans is a wonderful idea! Yet this inevitably raises further questions which shouldn't go unnoticed: Wouldn't it make more sense to use floats for additional nuance? We don't want to appear shallow, now would we? Is so, what epsilon would you suggest to settle rounding differences? How should we handle overflows or underflows? If he sucks so bad that he automatically becomes a HVM? Edit: Just joking. I'm working on my programmin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:26 AM
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The early signs of a cheater. He wants you to be there because your presence boosts his value. He cares more about impressing others than you. More than that, he uses you to impress others, to appear more desirable than he is. This kind of LVM uses you to land a few pickmeishas. You lose either way: You chase/get jealous and/or pickme "succeeds" in her attempt to "steal" him from you to boost their ego. The one winning move in this is not to play. Excuse yourself (if you want), walk away, block …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:24 PM
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if it benefits women = evil and controlling There, fixed it 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:23 AM
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I believe this too. Homophobia is rooted in misogyny. Maybe also the other way around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:29 PM
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There are so few men I know of I can exchange polital opinions with. 97% of them at some point start to interrupt, speak dismissively, make backhanded remarks (thinking of them as intellectuals), raises their voice, change the topic, ridicule, insult, strawmen arguments when the don't knlw what to say. Like I expect them to fight my opinion, to convince me by all means. I don't loose respect for people who admit they were wrong. We are all human after all. I wouldn't make a fight out of a civili…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:24 PM
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This is very intersting. Thank your for sharing. Reminds me of my narc ex. It further raises the question if the majority of men are actually narcs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:59 AM
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Wow, 10/10 is indeed lucky! When I talk to women of my mothers generation they can't relate to the pandemic of porn sick men and what that men's for us. We don't talk explicitly, but on a generall level. They say it "strange" how seemingly healthy young heterosexual men don't want to sleep with women. They say that their own partners "always made them happy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:03 AM
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They call FDS a cult because for being a safe space. At the same time they are butthurt because they want the handbook to be more specific on the physical aspects of a HVM. What is it now? Do they expect FDS to promote eugenetics, like "a HVM should have blond hair, blue eyes and go by the first Name 'Hans' "? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:48 AM
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That would be horrible for all parties involed tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:03 AM
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I rejected men who refused to get tested or have never been trsted before, if that counts. I rejected everyone who boasted about their sexual history. It's an instant turn off when he gives off the player vibes. Every man who speaks about the (un)importantness of penis size for sex gives me the ick. I've never sleped with a men who brings that up, let alone in casual conversations. It's not normal to cross this boundary, they were all porn sick. So I it wouldn't work even if I were attracted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:24 AM
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Most of them like knife play, cutting, needles,... fell under the umbrella term of "edge play" for a long time. "Edge" in the sense of stressing the limits of the safe priciple in "safe, sane, consensual" (SSC). Boarderline-not-OK if you will. But as BDSM became more mainstream (thanks to 50 shades of abuse & porn) the definition of "edge play" shifted as well. What was considered as "too risky" became a "practice for the more experienced doms", then a "let's combat the gatekeeping with broader …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:57 AM
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So true. When I had sex with a woman for the first time I was like "Whoa, she knows what to do! This doesn't have to take ages! My body was never the problem!". Then the second insight (her orgasm): "Whoa, I know what to do! This isn't difficult at all!". Most men are simply horrible lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:12 AM
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I don't hold my tongue but I don't burst out my unsolicited opinion either. Well at least when it come to female friends. I'm strategic about when I want to save PickMe's: When their man is present I'm being very expressive about my standards and how my life benefited from being treated with the same respect I give to men. While it's not my place mess with other people's relationship there is nothing wrong with sharing what worked for me so far (FDS principles basically). This gives the pair an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:02 AM
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I definitely don't allow it. I get at least as many orgasms as he does. Closing the gender orgasm gap on a local level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:55 AM
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I recently saw that one of our mods wrote that FDS only adds men to our personal body count who actually get us off during sex. Andie sounds like a virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:38 AM
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"We are sexually compatible!" - "Does she know about this too?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:22 AM
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To understand the "women are emotional" trope one needs to consider what emotion mean to LVM: LVM like to portray themselves as the "logical sex", which is quite to opposite to their view on women as the "emotional sex". To them emotion = women = vulnerability; while on the other hand logic = man = strength. LVM's fragile sense of masculinity is based on being the opposite of a women, a not-women, if you will. Their identity is relative to women's identity so they need to control what it means t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:18 AM
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The one-upmanship in BDSM is very dangerous. And it's the women who are encouraged to take on the the sub/bottom/masochist role because it's "hot". Like "vanilla sex" women are expected to bear the risks of the sexual encounter. No, it's not just "people doing role playing". Patriarchy exists in BDSM too. There is a bias. Those women who engage in the most risky activities get the highest rank among the community. Those who agree to public slapping, knife play, edge play, breath play, needle pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:31 PM
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With "compatibility" he means if HE enjoys sex with YOU, not the other way around. He is also not talking about mutual compatibility. PS.: Look at this scrote wth. 😂 Definitely not somebody who gets a say in my sexual decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:04 PM
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I'm beginning to think Corona is a vetting strategy in itself: So many men around me turned out to be of LV - at best. I have some group projects this semester and the amount of guys who turns petty and behaves like abusive 3 year olds is astonishing. "No, I don't want to do this." - "Ok, at what part of the project would you like to work at instead?" - *silcence* - "Deadline is in 2 hours. What is your progress so far?" - *silence* - "Ok, could you fix X instead?" - "Why don't you do it? I'm wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:54 PM
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It's especially tricky when they suddenly drop their mask and you start to wonder, how you deserved it. No worries, he will tell you. He'll always pull a carrot on a stick, dazzeling before your head. The manosphere calculates this. They advice men to "withdraw emotionally" to keep you in the dark, to keep you "mentally busy". Why? Because the more thoughts you invest trying to figure him out, the more control he gets over you. FDS calls this "living in your mind rent free". It's intented. I'm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:18 PM
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When I lived in a polyamory construct I noticed that it's always the women who do the emotional labor of the group. But hey, you get male attention back. You'll never be alone again, because men see your relationship modell as an invitation for casual sex. Don't you dare to have standards. You are exhibiting controlling behavior, better reflect on your JeAlOuSy PrObLeM. Soon you'll find that your family is abusive and you should only rely on your so called "chosen family". Polyamory is a pickmei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:05 PM
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Oh, yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:54 PM
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"You don't accept my nest!" sadface
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:53 PM
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The "nesting partner" describes a poly partner with whom you share a household with. Usually for the sake of child rearing and finances. This may or may not be the "primary partner".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:51 PM
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Why would anyone be so proud of their lack of self-awareness, control, intelligence, etc? Well, it allows them to delegate the responsability for their actions. Lazy at best, abusive or deadly at worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:44 PM
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One gyn pushed me to get the nexplanon. She said it were the best alternative to the mini pill and I wouldn't bleed that much. Turns out I was scamed. My bleeding lasted 24/7, the whole month. I constantly had to plug myself with tampons and had to change them at least every 1/2 - 2 hours. It made any normal participation in every day life impossible. When I told her she said - and I quote - "It seems your body doesn't accept the nexplanon. Learn to accept it to get rid of the bleeding." Then sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:33 PM
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They can, but AFAIK the sperm can only be used for IV afterwards. Please correct me if I'm wrong. My source was not very reliable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:22 PM
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Yeah, f*ing disgusting. Who does he think he is lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:09 PM
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Lmfao isn't he cute. Like how he shoves his handpalm right into my face, dismisses my funny-romantic gestures with blatant disrespect and dirties my glasses. See how he makes me look like an desperate idiot during the whole time. But I'm so chiiiill, hey! Haha, because I can take a joke. So quirky!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:51 AM
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If she has at least some boundaries estabilshed in her life, then yes. But if she's a pickmeisha or has gone through a traumatic past (eg with a narc) chances are she finds some sort of "fullfillment" in this situationship. If she has been sexually assaulted a woman might feel safer by making the first step(s) and continue to do so in the relationship in order to feel being "in control". Not saying they should date though. It's best to heal before thinking about dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:55 AM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venus_flytrap under Etymology: [...The plant's common name refers to Venus, the Roman goddess of love. The genus name, Dionaea ("daughter of Dione"), refers to the Greek goddess Aphrodite, while the species name, muscipula, is Latin for both "mousetrap" and "flytrap". ...] So how about "Aphrodite"? Her leafs resemble the shell in Sandro Botticelli's "The Birth of Venus" ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:40 AM
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Synthetic oxytocin (the labor and bounding hormon) gets prescribed to patients who suffer from anxiety. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin I'm not a doctor so I'm not qualified to advice for/against the use of oxytocin to treat PTSD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:05 AM
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This is also where the "sunk cost fallacy" enters the game. Since you had to chase him you are less likely to walk away when he mistreats you. PUA's know this so they advertise for a manipulation taktic called "girl chase". It's like their beloved "dread game" but on steriods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:47 AM
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Women have up to 50% more olfactory cells than men on average, leading to a better sense of smell. I can tell when a sympathic person is about to get sick. They smell different and with "smell different" I mean they reak horrible. It's nearly impossible for me stand next to them let alone to give them a hug. I don't mean to be rude or anything but they just smell of illness and my natural response is to keep my distance from them in order to stay safe. When tell my boyfriend and he is always gra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:37 AM
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No, you instinctively did the right thing. Be proud of yourself, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:06 AM
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This is so sad. Thank you for sharing. Given how men treat everyone and everything they deem vulnerable it makes sense that disabled women have to face those issues....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:34 PM
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Jesus. How does that chain of thought even compute? To sum it up: The L gets attacks from people who claim to fight for the T. They try to force the L to act like what they expect from the B (specifically the B women stereotype: slutty). The G remains mostly unaffected since the L is the prime target. Decent T people take damage from the T activists actions but overall their voices are too silent. The T needs to sort their shit out and cancel those who engange in misogyny under their name. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:23 PM
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Corrective rape of lesbians is being normalized in lgbt spaces. "Open minded" people or rape apologists - show me the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:52 AM
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He said I’ve neutered every man in my life, feline or human alike. 🤷‍♀️ I aspire for your reputation. 😹 On a more serious note: I guess it's those moments when men are confronted with their biological purpose on a fundamental level. Society teaches men a false sense of entitelment. Deep down they know their existence has limitations too. That they depend on external factors for reproduction. They hate this feeling, it's absolutly conflicting. So topics like castration, vasectomy, testicular canc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:45 AM
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Uh...I dare him to repeat himself. In prison. "Your nightmare is our dream." - rather a pain in the ass, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:19 AM
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A book written by women who made a lot of money and fame by telling other women to accept marital r*pe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:12 AM
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sigh Men wouldn't make any rules for sex if it weren't for the violent institution called patriarchy the males of this species desperately maintain since centuries. Males offer and court. Females choose the best fit. Human sexuality in particular (like other higher developed species) favors quality over quantity when it comes to reproduction. Human females have to be particular picky when choosing their mate. Further, those countries where women aren't denied their biological purpose (that much)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:58 AM
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Haha, what a noob. Scrotes gonna scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:06 PM
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I won't tell them where I work in the first place. But since that's easy to figure out I refrain from talking about anything work related, let alone drama. I prefer to keep my work life and private life seperated in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:48 AM
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Cooking and weight are also good ideas. I'd strongly advice against taking anything career related since he can use any information on this to hurt you on a fundamental level. Same goes for finances, housing, etc. When applying the blood in the water technique you are feeding information to a potential abuser, so keep the "problem" casual. There is a difference between a petty tweet about your pancakes and befriending your rivals from work to get you fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:26 AM
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Yep, I wouldn't delude myself into thinking that we can "change the menz" if we somehow managed to turn all pickmes onto HVW. People - in this case men - have to change for their own sake. We can shape the direction it goes by collectively raising the bar. But saying pickmes are at fault for LVM behavior is not where I want to go. After all, this would mean going backwards. Blaming women because men don't get their shit together. Nah sis. I personally think it's to some extent in the nature of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:37 PM
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The same kind of guy secretly ejeculates in burgers of fast food restaurants. Or smuggles his urine into soup kettels at buffets. The psycho in her story started with spitting on her toast. There is a pattern. He has a god complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:13 PM
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The slug story was too much (even for me. And I have withnessed some disturbing shit in the BDSM community). He started cooking and backing for her...just to execute his sick experiments, where he poisons her over time. The reason she survived was probably his friend to whom that psycho bragged to. I guarantue you, he 10000% thinks he is the shit for getting her to eat slugs. It's about his ego. He seeks to control and thinks he is smart. In reality he only managed to exploit the trust of a ill,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:04 PM
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If I had been able to see the consisting pattern in his abuse I would have left way earlier. But it WaSn't AlWaYs Bad, you know? Just "occational episodes of disagreement", "he can't read your mind" (accept that he made me the most thoughtful gifts. Not (just) expensive one - actual high effort gifts and dates and I reciprocated)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:38 PM
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“my dick is enough.” “you will from my dick.” M..MuH PENIS!!!11! What a delusional manlet smh 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:28 PM
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I recommend something stereotypical as bait. To some extend it can be rooted in something real about yourself but it's not a must. Say, you don't hate your nose but like that of your bff better. You wouldn't do something invasive like plastic surgery since contouring with makeup is absolutly fine for you. You get the idea. This would make a good bait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:59 AM
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My ex was a narc (diagnose came in couples therapy). He didn't talk much about himself BUT he loved to create relationship drama to make everything revolve around him. He lovebombed me, treated me poorly, then gaslighted me to made it my fault. I cried almost every day, begged for him to meet me in the middle, etc. He never actually intended to solve "our" problems. He created them, then burdend me with the impossible task to solve them (alone) while he kept shifting the goalposts. He also bread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 11:45 AM
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I came across the follow up posts, didn't dare to look for this. Now this here poped up in my timeline. I feel physically sick. What in the everf*ing hell did I just read? This can't be real. This is so wrong, in so many ways. I didn't listen to the podcast yet. I know that I will, but later. That's enough internet for today. I'll try to process the pictures from the follow up post for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:20 AM
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If he's a momma's boy, take a guess what your role in the relationship is going to. Timeless fun with MIL already included, 'cause guess who doesn't want to loose their "innocent little boi" to such an evil harpy like you?/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:32 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. I've been (or am I? lol) in FLRs myself so I can also confirm the statement of egalitarianism. I'd like to point out how there is a very thin line between a FLR and the women being back to doing all of the emotional labor, like in a "traditional" relationship. For women who aren't into macho type of men this can be quite tricky. You don't learn about the specific red flags. It's too easy to mistake his lack of interest for shyness and manipulation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:35 AM
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Your mom sounds like as wise woman 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:54 PM
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Also pay attention on how the father treats the mother and vica versa. If he the father makes sexist remarks towards the mother you can bet he expects you to put up with it too. Should you decide to marry him them, become pregnant or otherwise "vulnerable" you are in for a surprise. Get ready for the in laws from hell! Vet the whole family. The mom should be a HVW, the father has to be a HVM and treat her like a queen. You might think I'm being too hard since nobody can choose their parents. Tru…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:50 PM
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I shall read this book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:01 PM
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Couldn't be me. At least not anymore. Im my current relationship I cum even slightly more often than him, because he just knows how to do it, loves to give me pleasure and the body of a woman simply works that way. Let's be honest, it never made any sense that the sex, who is physically able to have multiple orgasms, gets to have less. For those who are in a healthy relationship with an attentive man but still struggling with coming off as too "demanding" I advice you this: Basically every sexua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:44 PM
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It never made sense to me to do anything other than "rotational dating". Yes, I've always been loyal in a commited relationship and expect the same from my partner. But if they aren't sure about me (yet) why should I chase them? It doesn't do anybody involved any good. Why play pickmeisha when I'm content with myself? Why bother a guy who isn't interested in me? Why waste both of our time when clearly better matches can be made? It's just unnatural tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:19 AM
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You're right. Sorry for the uproar. Ad femdom: I know that FDS is anti kink, that femdom falls under this category and that I might risk getting a pickmeisha flair for this, but: I personally don't have anything against femdom. I just don't like how LVM pornify dominant women. Like, why should I spank him and call him a "worthless worm" when I'm angry at him? I'd rather don't interact with him at all. My only problem with femdom is how women often get treated as kink dispensers. Which is exhaust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:11 AM
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Ah, I see! Sorry for the misunderstanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:52 PM
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Oh, I can imagine how butthurt he must have been! Those honest reactions are the best. No malice, just solid standards 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:21 PM
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I think, many women still underrate of how much interest their attention is to men. Ladies, they fear your indifference. Not your anger, sadness, rage, revenge - those show that you still care. It's the same reason why LVM are afraid to be laughed at by women - it shows them that you don't care. The best "punishment" for their disrespect are therefore your self-love and high standards. Edit: Why else do you think he magically starts to care the moment you are about to leave? He always knew what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:07 PM
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That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works. You need to be self sustainable to a certain degree in your life. This applies to your self esteem as well. What are propagating is the high way to mutual codependency. This tells me you are not intimately acquainted with how emotional abuse works. Withholding ANY kind of affection can be emotional abuse. Replying to this, not sure if you edited your comment or if I simply missed it (my phone won't tell me): I do know how emotional abu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:10 PM
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It's a complicated topic. Porn is definitly not the root of misogyny. More like a symptom and self-cultivating factor of it. Narcs are often porn users. They get their kicks from using sex as a weapon. They also get inspiration from porn. I know of many porn addicted narcs who were thrilled to pushed their gf into porn stuff they explicitly hated. Just for the sake of power and abusing them. On the other hand they refused to engaged in normal sex or sex at all. Not because sex felt bad but becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:43 PM
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I'm glad he is out of your life. I know, because I've been there too. Craving for intimacy and physical warmth, not being able to understand why he gives me the cold shoulder. Longing for sex with the person I love but he uses it to get me to jump through hoops...just to be near him, to feel him. Yes sis, I know. "Just a porn addiction" is an understatement. I'm already familiar with your links. Porn IS a systematic campain of abuse. Just because he is an addict/victim doesn't mean he can't be t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:19 PM
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It is fine to not give out compliments. But if you refuse to ever compliment your partner, because you know your partner wants that affection from you, you are being emotionally abusive. That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works. You need to be self sustainable to a certain degree in your life. This applies to your self esteem as well. What are propagating is the high way to mutual codependency. I case you are actually serious about this and ranting about your partner: You migh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:03 PM
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Withholding the right to say "No" is sexual abuse, pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:37 PM
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LVM: "You are not good enough for us, we don't want you." Women: "Ok. Date someone else then." LVM: "Wait! Not like that!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:04 PM
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Their only insult is “enjoy being single/alone”. To them it's an insult because they are afraid of being single/alone themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:01 PM
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Fair enough. I mean, I can't prove if he watches porn or not. He can always create a new account, hides his habit, etc. So far he didn't exhibit any signs of porn sickness. He has always prioritized my pleasure and orgasm, never threw a mantrum, never pressured me in any way. His dick works like it's suppost do, he always explizitly askes for consent (and only even asks when the answer would obviously be "yes"). No porn moves, no porn speak. He is very sweet and caring. Sex always felt like "mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:53 PM
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Fellas, is it gay to have sex with a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:29 PM
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Yet so many women still think their bodies are broken because the man simply sucks in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:55 PM
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I know this, yet I still struggle with telling LVW. This is one of the biggest challenges for me in becoming a HVW. I feel guilty for "mistreating women by speaking over them" which is absolute bs, of course. I know this on a rational level but not on an emotional one. Any idea on how to solve this? Maybe some books?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:44 PM
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Will do. Thank you, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:33 PM
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I replied to your comment; happy to see you made a post about it to draw more attention to the problem! :) Doing clapbacks means our inner pick me is still controlling you. That part, that cares about shitty men's opionion about you. That part, that seeks closure from abusers. That part, that hopes to "better him", to build him, to educate him on how to be a better person. Or maybe that part, that wants to hurt him back. That part, that seeks revenge for your mistreatment, your wounds, your prid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:11 PM
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This is important. If you seek closure from outside you are putting your mental healthy into other peoples hands. You don't want to depend on people, who are not interested in your well being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:48 PM
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Yes sigh... Also been there, done that. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:23 AM
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Not sure why you suddenly attack me for stating how LVM who specifically prey on strong women do so because of some femdom fetish. But I asure you that I will shame the fuck out of them. Also your kinks are none of my business. Edit: If you are being sarcastic please excuse the misunderstanding. It's sometimes hard to tell over the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:55 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear this. It gets better, believe me. First and foremost you owe sympathy to yourself for trauma induced fear of commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:55 AM
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I'd write that I don't want to hear from him ever again and that if he continues to bother me there will be legal actions. Then I block and delete.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 01:20 AM
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Good to hear. That's the right way to do it. 👍 Not falling for LVM who prey on strong women. They tend to have a femdom fetish but they don't see them as human beings. Edit: word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:12 AM
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Sometimes they do it to deliberately gaslight you, to make you insecure about your own perception. Alternatively they are so delusional, egomanic narcissists that they actually believe that. Or both. Other than that they like to sell those lies to their friends. We know how LVM care more about to be liked by other men than be liked by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:45 AM
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When we met both of us watched porn and talked openly about it. I eventually quit shortly after finding FDS. After reading the post about not having to tolerate porn in your relationship I asked him, if he still watches porn. He answered that he does so but only rarely, because most porn simply disgusts him. He said, he was thinking about quitting it for good, starting by deleting his reddit porn account. That he is curious to see how it affects his sexuality. I wrote, that I quit and that it ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:28 AM
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Haha, thanks! 😂 I can totally relate to the initial shock when it comes from a relative. The LVM bf of my cousin liked to neg female family members, usually with "just asking questions". I eventually grew tired of it. One time he asked me if I intend to become a construction worker because I attended an academic seminar in static. I answered with a short "Yes.". He shut up ever since. He also stopped man-spreading when sitting next to me. He even avoids sitting next to me at all. For LVM it's al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:11 AM
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Future faking - when he overemphasizes how much he thinks you are The One, his soulmate, whatsoever with the intention of stringing you along. But those words aren't met with actions. Putting the responsibility to fulfill this vision in your hands. Related to love-bombing. Early red flag to spot future faking: He centers himself, his vision. He uses the term "the relationship" synonymous for "you" thus avoiding accountability for delaying by making "his dream" your responsibility. Difference to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:46 PM
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Yes 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:24 PM
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This might sound paradox but I'd recommend the following: When tells you something like this "I always thought you were mean cause you're a pretty female" or this "all the pretty girls at my class are 'b#tches'" you laugh and overenthusiastic agree with this statement - but in a way where it's obvious you are being sarcastic. Mock the statement (but not him). Don't step low. Joke, reduce this nonsense to absurdity. Why am I suggesting this: As a 13 y.o. he has reach puberty. He is pouting, he is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:19 PM
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IMO there should be a posting rule or handbook entry about those clapbacks. They are so much anti FDS. No sis, you didn't tell him off. He doesn't care now and he never cared to begin with. That's why he treats you like trash. No, your response didn't "show him" anything because he.does.not.care to see what you try to show him. He want's to deliberately stay ignorant, so let him. You are chasing him. In truth, you are letting your inner pick me roam freely because you still care what he thinks o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:59 PM
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I'm totally stealing this 💃💃💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:47 PM
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Imagine being in excruciating pain, mid labor. In your most vulnerable state the person who you loved, who you thought was The One^(TM) humiliates you like that! You can choose to turn another blind eye, continue to clown yourself into thinking "He DiDn'T mEan It LiKe tHaT" (he meant it exactly like this). Or you take a deep breath, realize that you are dealing with a ZVM (at best) and begin plan your exist strategy with your newborn once as soon as this procedure is over. How loud does he need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:41 PM
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*hugging you back* 🤗 Thank you so much! You're right. We survived, we are smarter now. I, too, identified as a feminist back then. Yet at the same time I was afraid to openly call myself one. Go figure. 😒 I tried to hard to justify feminism for men. "Men benefit from feminism too." It's almost like I wasn't a feminist at all. 🤡 Now I'm proudly a radfem. "Men don't like those fEmIn*ZiS? Oh, no problem, that's fine. We don't care lol. Men don't get a say in this anyway."☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:28 PM
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Take this to heart. Especially if at least one of the following characteristics applies to you: - extroverted and naturally assertive - introverted and thus sympathetic about the struggle of making the first move - traumatized and thus sympathetic about the struggle of opening up - lonely pickmeisha/cool girl ​ Edit: Grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:43 PM
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And, you know, at the same time I gave my friends that same "advice". I was also said POS friend who told other women to cOmmUnicAte aka to tolerate disrespect. Not because I hated them. Not at all. I was convinced I could help them get through to their LVM bf. I encouraged them to do so because I was convinced it could fix their relationship, that it would eMpoWeR them to take action. I bought into sex pozzy libfem lies. Was it out of stupidity? Maybe more like naivity? Internalized misogyny pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:23 PM
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Save the relationship, because it is a greater entity than your worth as a human being! This felt like a hit in the stomach. You just explained to me, why I tried to save all my previous relationships. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:48 PM
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My rule of thumb is that each of us has to be able to live on their own and has done in before. If he wants to move out of his momma's house right into mine - not a chance. The state of his home as I enter his life is how I expect to look it in the future as well. Same goes for shared future homes. I'm not pedantic but I value a clean home. He has to have the same housekeeping standards for us to work. To summarize it: If I'm going to cohabit with a man, this has to been within a marriage. His p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:47 PM
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Also you are the one whose reputation takes the most damage if things get public. Society sees you as his wh*re nonetheless. Even if he is the submissive one in the dynamic. You are just a kink dispenser, nothing more. This alone is the "shameful part", not playing the dom or the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:52 AM
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Oh, I see you came across gfd? 😂 Where "gentle" means "fetishized mommy issues". Most male 'submissives' I've encountered in my life were just lazy, entitled, spineless, whiny, manipulative, verbally coercive, auto-gynophiles with a sissy fetish. Interestingly they are just as misogynistic as their dommly dom counterparts. Everything is about them and their pleasure, how they get off on the fantasy of getting you off while still making everything about themselves. They won't shut up about MuH Pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:44 AM
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You might want to check out this link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:55 AM
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This post belongs into the handbook. It's so important to address these issues. Reliable medical information on women's sexuality - especially on reproduction - is still so meager, it's scandalous. Motherhood gets romanticized to the point where you get shamed if you dare to express regret for this choice. And we one of the are lucky ones if we are in an actual position to choose! Choosing motherhood or deciding against it - it's still a luxury that most women don't have. So it's on us to decide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:50 AM
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Is the husband stitch still a thing? Asking as a nullipara woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:36 AM
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I hear you. I hated how every single one of those straight female girlfriends of mine wanted to make out with me when they were drunk. I usually don't drink much and have a high tolerance in general. So when we were partying there was some point where they started to behave inappropriately in front of guys. I get being horny, easing-up because of the intoxication and wanting to have fun. But not on my expanse. I don't want to be involuntarily outed in front of men so pickmeisha gets to unlock "C…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:31 AM
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As long as reddit stays peddit that tolerates abuse porn, CP, brigading, death threats and harassment I won't pay them any money. Edit: I do give out awards, but only the free ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:22 AM
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People expect us to just be “down for anything”. I found it especially hurtful when I came out to my hetero pickmeishas friends back then and they were either like "But I am not bi." or "Nice, that means we can fool around sometimes." Uhhhmm....no? I still have standards. In fact, they are very high and I only see you as a friend. I also didn't trusted you with this because I'm sexually/romatically interested in you. I told you because I see you as my friend and we share our relationship stories…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:10 AM
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He is most likely projecting because he secretly likes it in the ass or is a pornsick closed bisexual himself (not the same thing, of course, but those scrotes usually don't know the difference). Homophobic/biphobic men tell on themselves exactly like that. The things they unsolicitedly told me... it all stops once they have their coming out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:48 AM
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Nope. I'd rather shove that camera right up his cheating *ss and then leave. Thank you ❤️💜💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:30 AM
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Hi, sis! I just wanted to tell you that don't need to have sex with another women to be a valid bisexual woman. You also don't need to have any other same sex experience, not even kissing or holding hands. You are attracted to both women and men and that's enough. Hetero people aren't bi or gay until proven otherwise. They also don't need to feel attraction during the whole time let alone act upon it to 'stay heterosexual'. The same goes for you. I needed tell you this because bi women get const…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:22 AM
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I do and it works for me. Although I should add, in my experience it's hopeless to tell a straight guy in the most cases. They usually lack empathy on the topic and the majority is pornsick. The only men who treated me as a human being weren't straight themselves. So far only bisexual and/or biromantic men behaved normal after I told them. "Ah, cool. Me too." or "Haha, I suspected it. Thank you for telling me. I'm also bi btw." are the standard answers. In my experience they are also better love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:00 AM
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My cat figured out that standing on my chest while knedding my breasts was a very effective way to get me up at 5 a.m. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:03 PM
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This is child abuse, lady. Report him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:44 PM
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Yes. I'm getting pedo vibes. 🙅‍♀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:36 PM
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I swear, some men are regressing mentally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:31 PM
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Yes. It's totally human instinct to destroy the sources of life for future generations. It makes evolutionary sense to prevent your species from procreation. Especially as a male you want toake sure that the female you're sexually interested in doesn't carry your own potential children to term by violently destroying her body. \s Porn logic 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:17 PM
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Ok. It took me a while to understand what they meant by "picking me up". I thought they were talking about "coming to pick me up" as in a date/meeting context. But they are talking about literally lifting me up from the ground and carrying me around? Wth is that? Are we now romanticizing abduction or what? I would totally defend myself, if anybody touches me without consent. Let alone kidnapping me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:10 PM
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When they fantasize about orally raping women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:54 PM
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When I quit porn I found it helpful to refrain from toys as well. It was tormenting at first NGL. As things are now I do like toys and still use them. But I rarely use automated ones. It's much better for the overall experience to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:37 PM
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Pornsick men devalue women, pornsick women devalue themselves. This right here. It took me long to understand, nobody told me that porn would affect me differently. So my previous addiction went unnoticed over more than a decade. Hell, I even thought I was was being progressive for consuming porn. 🤡 Yet I actually needed it every day to get off. Even after discovering FDS I thought: "Well, I don't have a porn problem. I don't get ED and I still crave sex with my partner. 🤡" I eventually decided …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:28 PM
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Sex-positive feminism is first-world feminism. It's made to teach wealthy women to fetishize their own oppression, to see "benefit" in women's suffering. Going 50/50 libfem-style is actively harming their financial situation. Libfems and misogynistic men think it's "empowering", because the woman is paying for herself. Instead removing the price-tag would actually make sense. No woman with 3 sweatshop jobs struggling to get by would think that giving that money to a higher earning man would buy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:54 AM
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Report him now. Don't GiVe HiM AnOtHeR ChAnCe, don't "wait & see". Report. Make it known how you react when somebody crosses your boundaries even once and that you are not afraid to speak up. Don't argue with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:02 PM
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Same. No, there was never anything wrong with you. On the contrary, you reacted right. A 'wrong reaction' would have been to be attracted to somebody who treats you bad. To be attracted to the person you sleep with is crucial to orgasm - unless you are using them as your masturbation tool. Which is definitly unhealthy. Since I'm with a man who gives me reasons to be attracted to him, orgasms during sex is a no brainer. All of this is especially sad since women are told to not be "shallow" and ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:59 PM
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It's normal to grieve when a beloved animal dies. I fostered many many pets in my life, different species with different lifespans. It always hurts to loose them. When they die I need some time alone to cope with the loss and move on. Ranging from days up to a week. I don't isolate completely though. I still check my phone but don't want talk about it with others because it wopens fresh wounds. I think it depends on how long you have been dating, how frequent you have been seeing each others nor…
/r/askFDS30/03/21 04:45 PM
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I came across a thing called "amazon position". It's a variation of cowgirl but with the guy's legs bend back. It allows more nuanced g-point stimulation, requires less physical stamina from the woman and it is actually fun. The amazon succeeded where the cowgirl failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:01 PM
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My knees or feet go next to his shoulders while he is lying on the back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:51 PM
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Thanks you for the info. I don't like this position. At all. One argued that it's like missionary but it's a lot different. Missionary can allows intimacy, the mating press thing doesn't. It feels distant even while kissing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:44 PM
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One day my ex managed to consider that I need constant stimulation, sligthly less pressure to cum. Everything good until I actually started to orgasm. He was obsessed to make it last as long as possible and publically prided himself in front of friends with my 5 minute orgasms that he managed to give me. He wouldn't stop while at it. He argued my screams meant "louder = better" and that I couldn't withdraw consent during the O (because the brain functions differently and shit). We were together …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:32 PM
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Before FDS I didn't know that was even a thing for some men. I only knew of people with alzheimer or other mental illnesses who would forget to wipe/wash. But these are unfortunate, poor human beings who need help. Not entiteled, homophobic fucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:15 PM
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My ex was like that. He was so desensitized from porn that he couldn't cum with lube during masturbation. He needed it to be completely dry and apply a lot of pressure. When I was "too wet" - which meant normally aroused - he complained about not feeling a thing. I eventually became less aroused and attracted to him (go figure) which resulted in a lack of wetness. Mind you, he now complained about my body being wrong. He saw using lube as some kind of character flaw. He also required me to stimu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:00 PM
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He didn't value you because he is a LVM, not despite being one. So what does he have in his life, other than said audacity?
/r/askFDS29/03/21 02:42 PM
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My kink is kink shaming - don't kinkshame me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:22 PM
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If you don't want to be his bangmaid you can still play his maid. Horray to your sexual freedom of being allowed to say "No" by allowing him to bang another women 🤡 Edit: I'm serious, that's it: The sexual liberation of women libfems are advocating for is "lifting the women of the burden of sexual coercion by letting the man cheat while still providing other types of comfort to him".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:11 PM
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When men say "Sexual compatibility is important" they usually mean that the woman has to make herself compatible to fullfill his sexual wishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:15 PM
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The phrase "If he wanted to, he would" applies to his own behavior, it doesn't talk about your value. You need to differentiate between wanting someone and valueing someone. He indeed wants you to some extend or else he wouldn't stay in your presence. To be wanted by a man isn't a compliment, despite what society is teaching you. He wants you, because your presence adds value to his life, like comfort. He doesn't value you, because he is of LV and therefore doesn't want add value to your life. L…
/r/askFDS29/03/21 12:04 PM
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He did this, because he wanted you to feel guilty about your boundaries. "You want to do something on your own? Like getting back home? Not until I allow it. When you are with me, you have to follow my rules." You are a free human being. You can go home whenevery you please. He generalized that he does that with other people too but I guarantee you he was lying: He wouldn't dare to do it with people, who are in a position of power over him, like his boss. He only does it to those who he thinks l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:05 AM
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Yes, you are right, they are not women only. But to me it feels like they are. Better call it women centered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:10 AM
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You're welcome. Generally speaking, no HVM gaslights you. Like, at all. If you bring up an issue a HVM listens to your concerns because he values you and doesn't want to risk losing you. If a man can't see your value that's his problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 12:07 AM
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"What?! I just walk at my pace! [...]” And so are you. He can either accept yours or he can keep walking for good. This ain't it, sis. One-upping your partner with a increased walking pace is the sporty version of one-upping your partner with increased voice volume. It's all about power. Scrote got some ego problems but those are not yours to fix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:53 PM
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To provide a positive perspective I'd like to share some green flags on this topic: Sometimes it does make sense that he walks ahead of me. Eg when scouting or leading the way. When he does he makes sure to match my pace. He reaffims this constantly by checking in. He turns around, he asks me, how I doing and if I'm still OK with his speed. He stays within earshot. He makes sure that I don't get lost. He makes sure to not stress me in the slithest. He carrys my baggage. If he knows he informs me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:16 PM
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Exactly like chihuahuas. The smallest dog barks the loudest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:56 PM
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It's very subtle but that makes it so dangerous. When your partner openly calls you names every sane person will tell you that this is verbal abuse and that you should leave. But this here, you can't even talk about it openly since most people will tell you that you are overreacting. So you dismiss your own intuition, get self esteem issues and become emotionally dependent on him over time. They know what they are doing is shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:30 PM
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I don't mind a man's high at all. But they do. So many short men seem to have a napoleon-complex, it's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:21 PM
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It's the same LV mindset. He just deliberatly walked slower than you but expected you to match his pace. The lazy version of OP's post. I bet your ex was passive-aggressive too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:16 PM
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"Transphobia", "Homophobia", ...laughable! Nothing but virtue signalling to openly distribute their propaganda. They don't care about the lifes of trans people at all! No decent trans person I know wants to get assoziated with the rape excusers from AHS. There is a special place in hell for people, who distribute CP to get back at women who seek shelter from abusivers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:53 AM
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I signed up a few months ago and got approved soon after. But I'm not flaired a verified member. I use another name on the website than here on the sub. A while ago one mod made a post about the verification process being temporarily on hold. Does this post here overwrite the previous statement over at the website? If so, who should I contact for further steps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:55 AM
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I can tell, 'the nestTM' is going to haunt me in my dreams. It's the place where buttcrumb-guy returns to after a long day at the field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:12 AM
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I joined yesterday and I really like it. As you said you can talk openly over there. And depending on your circle selection you don't even need to confront yourself with male behavior. I know, that might come of as ignorant but it's very refreshing to have women only spaces just for their own sake. Being able to talk about games, technology, veganism, gardening, movies, books,... without men interjecting their unsolicited opinion and making everything about themself/getting personal is simply wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:49 PM
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I understand where you are coming from. Additionally to all the other arguments against this approach I think it would be unnecessary stressful for the mods to cleanup the sub 1-2 days a week. This includes new posts as well as the comments on older post made before the weekly lockdown days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:53 AM
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Yes, male allies can help thru leading by example from outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:04 AM
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Yes! just have a look at the sidebar for all the provided resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:00 AM
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I guarantee he's been watching porn made with athletic models who were not bloating yet Either this or furry porn/hentai. Cartoons offer more options for bizarre fantasies than real life does. My ex was like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:38 AM
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They are narcissistic af. They don't care about you or the baby, they want to model a mirror-image of themselves - the most disturbing character trait of a narcissist. They pray on women who want to build a family. Their victims are often empaths with a sad family background who want to start anew. They compliment them on her "great genes" and tell her how "it would be a such waste" to not procreate. Vulnerable women fall victim to these monsters. Once the child, usually a son, is born they drop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:34 AM
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Cheers to that! 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:58 PM
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There is the FDS website and the discord server to retreat. 🙂 Happy Cakeday btw 🎉🎉🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:55 PM
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Google "glass cliff"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:47 PM
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As I started to archive a higher education scrotes who I turned down began to insulted me in one way: They addressed my intellect, calling me stupid. I'm in STEM and pretty confident that I'm smart. I'm hard working too. Those who called me as stupid were neither one of them. They slacked off and were therefore always behind me. Skill and intelligence are turn-ons for me, you could say I'm sapiosexual. Real stupidity in a partner would be a deal breaker. I have always worked like that yet attack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:01 PM
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I'm finally reading Lundy Bancroft's "Why does he do that?". Such a great book, every page is filled with so much truth. Highly recommended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:26 AM
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Just imagine what could happen if women collectively started to boycott that dumpster fire called OLD until it actually ensures their safety and benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:35 AM
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My edit was directed towards the comments who encoraged getting touchy. You didn't state anything like that in your deleted post, no worries. I completely understand the preference because it would be a dealbreaker to me to have unsatisfying sex. Personally I think it's okay to simply ask him about his size. However that doesn't mean he's going to be honest about it. I guess his first reaction is going to tell you all you need to know. You can hint that it's something you'd appreciate. This info…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:29 PM
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All if this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:41 PM
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BDE is a thing. Eigher that or I just got lucky that the average dick I had was 7" at least? I "go with the flow", that means I pay attention to the vibes of the guy. And even if it turns out that he doesn't meet my expectations - what now? I don't have to sleep with anybody. I can decline sex for any reason I want, I don't even need an explaination. Edit: Don't let your scarcity mindset drive you into sexual harassment. Do you believe a HVM likes get "felt up"? Does a HVW grope a man to see wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:37 PM
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Interesting, I didn't know they exist. He sounds very exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:17 AM
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A male pickme, do you mean a self proclaimed nice guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:02 AM
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It's okay, she can have all these so called "good men" 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:42 AM
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There is a place for rapists that increases their chance of getting fucked. The cops escort them there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:34 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏 THAT'S how it's done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:20 AM
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I completely understand what you mean. Emotional terrorism is a very fitting term. On the internet but unfortunally also offline there - LVM are everywhere. You grow up, become an adult women - only to find that most men are mentally stuck in kindergarden. No serious conversation, not even light jokes or friendship are possible with them. You hope LVM get wiser with time yet they only become older and more ugly. Big, entiteled babies. Always annoying. I want to treat people without pre-judgement…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:08 AM
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Why 666 though? Sounds quite satanistic if you ask me. 😂 Maybe that's their real concern? Let's make it 777 then, a lucky number!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:08 AM
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Let's call "sex positivity" "dick positivity" already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:36 AM
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This is wonderful to read. Great that he turned out this way. I have similar experiences with men, not only relationshipwise but also as friends, whos single mother raised them alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:31 AM
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That's good to hear. I know many women who are that deep into pickme mindset, they know aka don't expect to find love on OLD yet still secretly hope to land a relationship with their ONS. They argue that they "felt a connection" after sex, hoping for it to be mutual and end up persuing a fuckboy. So even if many say they aren't looking for something permanent on those app, they find themselves in that exact same position. I think hormons, especially Oxytocin, play a huge role in this. ONS had th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:22 AM
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Because I was quite shy myself back in school I fell for this lie long afterwards. I persued shy men out of sympathy. Projection on my part. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:05 AM
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I fully agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:17 AM
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If I were a man being with a pickme would be my worst nightmare. I couldn't respect her because she doesn't respect herself. It would irritate me af to be with someone who I don't know because she stops to exist in the relationship. It would be really stressful to have a yes-sayer as my partner because I would always have to guess what she really wants and needs from me. I would feel insulted to have a women choose me that would choose any other guy to validate herself. Based on that I wouldn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:15 AM
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Same and damn, it turns out that percived HVM have literally no problem with so called "man hating". They know, they are aware of their genders toxic behaviour and they are willing to change it. Not only do they not invalide my experiences like "male feminists" do.They joke about men themselves. Call me crazy but could it be that HVM actually love radfems?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:02 AM
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Am I right that the infamous "666 rule" is an urban legend or does an actual handbook entry about it exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:31 PM
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They certainly have issues, are insecure und unhealthy in many ways. Yet I don't see those men treating other overweight men the same way. I'm not into fat men but I wouldn't insult them for looking the way the do. I just don't care, it's not my business. At the same time said name-calling scrotes chase overweight women and persue sex and/or relationships with them. That's not a coincident IMO. It looks like that's the NVM way of humbling them into their company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:56 PM
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We all know how men project their ulterior motives onto women: Men who accuse women of golddigging want to leech of their money themself. Men who say women are being "too emotional" make passive-aggressive remarks and have a overall poor emotional intelligence themself. Men who describe pretty women as "shallow" are unable to look past a persons physical features themself. ... They expect others to think like and act them in interpersonal relationships. Now, I think we are faulty of the same log…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:43 PM
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My mother's ex always called her an "elephant" to neg her yet she was far from being fat. Meanwhile he complained that my sister and I were being "too skinny" and he wanted us to get more "womenly curves". 🤢 PS.: Your username is wonderful yet somewhat disturbing and I love it. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:14 PM
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"Most men are a waste of ressources, especially time and mental health, and you don't even need to be in an actual relationship with one for that." "If you are afraid to call yourself a feminist because you want to 'fit in' you are following anti-feminists rules." "Your trust has got to be earned." "Women project different than men." "The only efficient feminism is the on that focuses solely on women's benefit. Don't fall for 'b-b-bUt bOtH SiDeS' and 'MeN sUffEr fRoM pAtEriArChY tOO' male pander…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:04 PM
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I know you are all euphoric and all and I don't want to be a killjoy, but I have to. Social credit systems are problematic for a couple of reasons. Look at China. Is that how you want to live? And they're only getting started. Technology is a tool for estabilshing and maintaining power. If you think this is going to benefit women you are gravely mistaken. If you think tinder cares about womens safety because of this you are naive. I don't see it as a step in the right direction. If tinder cared …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:02 PM
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Every man I met who trashtalked overweight women had a sexual fixation on them. Didn't matter if they themself were fit or overweight too. They insulted them on the streets/in front of their friends but later admitted that they were into "BBW". So ladies, if you got called a "whale", a "fatty" or whatsoever - don't take it personally. It's their pornsickness speaking. Healthy men don't care about strangers body type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:33 PM
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"She could have known it. It's not our fault."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:32 PM
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Yeah, idk, I can't take them seriously for all those whiny, irrational statements stemming from victim mentality. Like they even compare divorce to rape. I'm not even mad anymore...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:43 PM
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I guess, yes. Maybe it's because the bun keeps itself in place so the weight on the scalp is more evenly distributed? You know the pain of a loosely tied ponytail? The bun has queen energy IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:37 PM
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Those restaurants offer women free drinks for the same reason that swinger clubs offer women free admission to their establishments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:57 PM
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Sorry, I'm confused. In one sentence you talk about dating your boyfriend. Then in the following one you describe him making demeaning remarks on your appearance. This doesn't add up. Why are you being with him again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:45 PM
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Being a good partner to you like you are to them, treating you respectfully and like a human being, that's bare minimum territory and shouldn't effect sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:13 PM
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Thank you. Skill is sexy. Competence is impressive. A women taking care of her life is normal. A man taking care of his life is normal. It doesn't arouse me, I just don't lose my respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:54 PM
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So you are telling me the same guys who are funding PUAs, who monetize misogyny by paying money for exclusive content on how to abuse women, are mad at the same class when they provide free protection to other women from them? I don't know. That may be a big word, but to me that sounds illogical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:35 PM
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Like isn't it alarming how it is perceived "kinky" as in terms of "perverted", "abnormal" yet somehow "exotic" and - only because of that - therefore somewhat "desirable" to have interest in the concept of female pleasure?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:57 PM
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Then they want you to dress them up as woman to degrade them by being a woman. Yes, as a domme I actually hate myself that much, I get off on degrading men by making them look like...me? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:47 PM
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Some do it out of stinginess ("water is expensive, I clean them while I shower, I have to be a genius"). Others block their sink because they are to lazy or entitled to clean their own dishes. So the shower has to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:36 PM
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I do this since I turned 13. It's also a classy hairstyle and more durable and comfortable to wear than a ponytail. On top of that it's more healthy for the hair structure. If you have straight hair but would love it wavy style your wet hair like that after talking a shower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:28 PM
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The men of the manosphere also accuse women who wear makeup of "rape by deception".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:19 PM
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Don't forget those men who claim to be into (gentle) femdom but treat dommes as their personal free-of-charge kink dispenser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:10 PM
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To receive and accept praise means to subjugate to them and their opinion of you. That makes it the sub' and bottom's role. In BDSM praise can be seen as a form of hierarchical intimacy at best and as brainwashing at worst like telling someone she/he did a good job in accepting abuse from their dom. "Good girl." to the sub from the dom after a beating is meant to reassure her that she "did the right thing" by submitting to that treatment. A "true sub" would never say "Good boy." or "You did well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:55 PM
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God, this hurt to read. I just want to take that phone, throw it away, give you a long hug and all the emotional warmth you need. Please, don't ever do that to you again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:10 PM
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There are actually some "kinks" for those things you mentioned but I refuse to call them like that when you are treating someone like a valuable human being. In the BDSM community there is this niche called gentle femdom. They overlap with "praise kinks" (the sub (being "bottom") gets praised by the dom) or with "(body) worshipping" (sub (being "top") worships dom). You mentioned cuddling, forehead kisses and hugs - the also fall under gentle femdom. On the other hand gentle femdom can shift tow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:38 PM
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In my experience the people who get pleasure from their giving their partners pleasure are the only good lovers. There are men out there who work like that AND make decent partners too. They are typically not very loud but they make their move when they are into someone. If he is HV he will let you know. I'm pointing this out because so many entitled creeps claim to be JuSt Shy to make a woman jump through hoops. Wonderful sex and a great relationship are not mutual exclusive. In fact, they ofte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:49 PM
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If someone called me names while having sex I'd instantly get a laugh flash. Those dommly dom dudes are so pathetic, I wouldn't be able to contain myself 😂😂😂 Then again I've never identified as a submissive or masochist towards men so all of this comes naturally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:30 PM
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I advocated for male birth control for years, trying to educate men that it's in their best interest to have control over their reproduction choices. They didn't care much and I naively thought it was because they lacked experience and therefore understanding. They only faked interest when it increased their chances of getting laid. I'm talking about the "woke male feminist type". Today I know they didn't care because they don't need to for biological, economic and societal reasons. There is no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:45 PM
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You are very brave for leaving. When I left Christianity my family wasn't amused. They didn't threaten me though. I got automated spam, letters and phone calls from the church for several weeks. They tried really hard to with their guilt tripping and FUD tactics. That didn't work so they claimed that I owe them money, threatened legal consequences but told me they would cancel their request if I stayed. I was very poor and unemployed at that time and struggled to come by. Hundreds of Euros of al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:20 PM
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To me it doesn't sound like laughter. More like he is trying to fake sympathy and failing the attempt. "Holding it together"...more like "this reaction is suppost to snatch me sympathy points". Nobody switches from "I can't control my emotions, I nearly have to cry on camera" to a straight face so fast. Unless you studied how to react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:31 PM
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That's what I call an understatement. They are not even commited and he already lets her starve and risks food poisioning. I don't even want to imagine what he'd do in a marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:59 PM
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Yes. FDS ladies don't date frugal men because it would mean to be OK with dehumanizing treatment like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:54 PM
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Back then in the "good old times" when there was a shortage of food due to war (which men started) it was expected of the housewife to rationate the meals of the household members to the man's advantage. The wife (and children) would starve to make sure the man gets enough food to perform his "civic duties". Men were oppressed by the state and oppressed their wifes and children instead if fighting the system like women did (suffragetes). This man is a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:46 PM
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Well written. I'd like to point out that enforcing your boundaries doesn't necessarily require any explanation. In fact, never explain. If they cared they wouldn't have done it in the first place. You can chose to give the benefit of the doubt but then again, do you really like to be around people who you have to give the benefit of the doubt in your interactions? I'm a pacifist yet when somebody violates my boundaries I make sure they remember it. Right now I'm working on enforcing my boundarie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:53 AM
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I don't even know how this is possible to have a mandatory joint account where one person is the administrator. Seems fishy af. Or are the states actually that reactionary when it comes to immigration law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:05 AM
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I mean it's definitely positive that an adult man teaches boys (and girls) that rape is never the victims fault and that it's men's responsibility to hold other men accountable instead if NAMALTing. But somehow his reaction at 0:37 feels...off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:31 AM
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I feel like he should have gathered the boys separately instead of assuming that teaching a mixed class is in the girl's best interest. I do think that girls and boys should get educated about their bodily autonomy as early as possible so they recognize rape (and assault in general) for what they are. But how about separating the class for those lessons? Let certified women speak to the girls. Ask the girls if they even want to discuss it right there instead of just assuming it. Provide them wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:25 AM
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Through a friend of mine I heard some news about one of the LVMs from my libfem phase with who I went no contact about half a year ago. He told me that said LV-lefty-libfem-sexpozzy-open-minded-man posted a meme comparing the risk of getting thrombosis through the birth control pill to that of a covid vaccine. Content was basically: "Trust the vaccine, it is less dangerous than the pill and the pill is completely harmless." Yeah, no. Tell me again, what does he - a man - has to say about the hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:02 AM
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And it happens. Currently a dear friend of mine who married her spouse from the us has to share an account with him. He turned abusive very quickly and even though she earns 4 times more than him he blocks her from their joint account when he feels like it (like when she tries to run away and stay at a hotel over night).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:07 AM
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Thank you. Impressive lyrics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:50 PM
2

What are they saying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:44 AM
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This is long overdue but it still won't get me to use that forsaken app. Or any OLD app/website for that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:33 AM
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Is this MenWritingWomen? The picture of "the man" rather describes a narc, one that is only interested in your presence to make himself look better. Point taken, men are socialiced like that. But it's dangerous to sell it like that as it tells women to lower their standards to get a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:29 AM
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I wonder about that too. Marriage is harmful to women so why should I say yes even when a (seemingly) HVM asks me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:18 AM
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I know, it's unfair. But we have to protect this sub. People like him are waiting for any opportunity to accuse you/FDS of "hate", like he already did there. By not blurring out the names he gets you to do exactly what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:19 AM
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the best would be to delete this post, edit the picture (eg with a picture editor on your device) and repost it. Reddit doesn't allow changing pictures in your current post, I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:16 AM
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I came here looking for this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:11 AM
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OP, I'm totally with you on this. But could you please blurr out the names & repost?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:01 AM
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It becomes more realistic when we ignore the "No brigading" rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:59 AM
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"male pick me". I like this term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:57 PM
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This is why I don't associate with men who don't hold other men accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:01 PM
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That so refreshing. Cutting LV people off of my life was one of the best decisions I made so far. I never look back. The only thing I regret is not doing it sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:30 PM
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I boycott NAMALT and I boycott those who silently tolerate NAMALT people as well. It isn't as lonely as one would think; people are waking up :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:12 PM
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We need to normalize keeping the same high standards we have as singles or while dating when we enter a exclusive relationship or even marriage. Those stages are a manifestation of mutual love, respect and commitment. They are to be earned. Staying in they is to be earned as well, every day, every moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:01 PM
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I appreciate tough love myself, most of the times that was the only kind of my friend's advice that brought me to my senses back then. Also sugarcoating abusive behavior is irresponsible IMHO.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 03:50 PM
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The reason why he refuses to tell you is because he is trying to groom you into accepting the same treatment from him. Run. ​ Edit: To be more precise, if he sees you accepting this behavior he will feel confident that: - you won't hold him responsible in the future when he does the same to you as you accepted it in the past. - even if you choose to hold him responsible for future abuse he will get away with shrugging it off like he tries to do now. - you will have a weak support net or only few…
/r/askFDS14/03/21 03:21 PM
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This is harsh yet I can only agree with you. OP, I hope you get angry at the right person and leave this manchild for good.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 03:15 PM
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This is something that needs more discussion within the community, for sure!! This is what I always say too. Unlike mono relationships polyamory isn't mainstream, which leads to a lack of information while discussing dynamics. I heard oh so often that poly is more "natural" and "healthy" since "controlling behavior" is frown upon. But that is not true. It is absolutely possible to have a toxic poly relationship. Abuse just looks different than in mono relationships. Everything is more tangled, l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:09 PM
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While being in a poly relationship I developed anxiety, regular panic attacks and got diagnosed with CPTSD. All of it stopped the day I opted out. People in the poly community talk about their mental illnesses very openly, which is a good thing. Nevertheless I can't help but wonder how many off them are (still) sick because of their relationship style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:14 AM
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I get caught by automod all the times when I indirectly quote hatespeech against women or men to critisize their usage. At first it flashed me, now it's annoying at best. I'm not sure if you are talking about automod or that you got reported later on though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:02 AM
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Step 5: It sex work becomes the norm for women. At the same time the class ceiling in actual powerful, influental fields like STEM, finances, politics, law,... grows stronger. Women get bullied out of regular jobs too, to do "something that they are actually better at" Step 6: I becomes illegal for women to work regular jobs because "(their) sexuality distracts working people", I mean men, harrasment of women (="seducing of men") harms the company's image and "women are not good at it anyway"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:45 AM
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That's the saddest part about the men's rights movement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:12 AM
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Yeah. I didn'd know how much I needed this before I came here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:38 AM
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Exactly this. Scrotes are taught to feel entitled to own everyone and everything. It's a greed which knows neither limits nor boundaries; a narcissistic, psychopathic trait that let's them lash out when they see themselves denied. They claim to be "victims of hate and violence" to justify taking their deemed property by force. Women only spaces are interesting for those kind of men for that very reason: It is because they can't have it. So they have to throw a tantrum. LVM are mentally stuck in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:16 PM
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Pity sex, mediocre relationships, ... LVM/LVW will resent you when you give them what they claim to want from others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:56 AM
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TIL...I didn't know they were that bad. Thank you very much for letting us know! Especially for all the resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:29 AM
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I'm ashamed to admit that I followed them during my sex-pozzy phase 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:23 AM
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modern men are also confused, undermined and suffering emotionally Sounds like a topic for an actually healthy men's right movement, not feminism. "Woke" statements like that are part of the problem because they reinforce gender stereotypes. Repeat after me: Women👏are👏not👏responsable👏for👏men's👏mental👏health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:02 AM
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I had an argument with another woman last weekend. First she said that sex work is work, that it should be monetarily compensated how it is an easy way to get money. Then she added how sex workers are basically safeing us other women from men's rape by providing them with an outlet for their sex drive. She wouldn't want to provide that herself though. Basically: Don't rape me, rape her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:37 AM
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Men are willing to learn, you just have to teach them on how to treat you like a human. Just communicate more, sis reeeeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:01 AM
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Thank you, this is long overdue. If I wanted to get triggered about patrichary I don't even need to check the internet. I'm here to exchange dating advice, help and grow as a person. This is one of few women centered safe spaces. Don't give men and male pandering pickmes too much room (in form of jokes and clapbacks) here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:54 AM
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I'm more for a weekly thread than for a meme sub. Memes aren't bad and they ease up the atmosphere. There are just too many of them and their (often lack of) quality doesn't help the mission of FDS, which is women centred dating advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:38 AM
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Whoever manages the FDS Twitter account is my spirit animal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:26 AM
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[TW] I learned that a good friends 'HVM' husband turned out to be an abusive, alcoholic NVM. He already abuses her physically and financially, even though she makes way more money than him (mandatory joined bank account). He bruises her and blackmails her with deportion when he feels like it. I feel helpless since the only support I can give her is through conversation at the moment. I know her narcissistic parents quite well to. Instead of supporting her to get away from that scrote they tell h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:15 AM
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Oh, there are so many red flags, many are already well known like: porn induced ED, sexist jokes, the feeling of distance during sex, the pornification of sex, lack of respect for sexual boundaries (yours as well as other people's (!)), going to the toilet for hours to jerk off to porn, etc. I just had to think about a more subtle one I came across myself many years ago. My bf back then started to loose interest in sex shortly after the begin of our relationship. He blamed it on his work schedul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:55 AM
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I'm bisexual and I have yet to find another place on the internet or irl where I can talk about my dating experiences so freely. No libfem-, poly-, kink- or LGBT community I have ever been gave me that much empathy, love and support like the ladies here. Here I get treated like a human being. I can talk openly about my sexual orientation without being reduced to it. I feel most welcomed. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:02 AM
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Some years ago one sexist LVM I knew with a sweet forever gf told me straight to my face he wanted to fuck me, right in front of his friends. Instead of lecturing him (because he obviously doesn't care) I told him: "I can only imagine it under a few conditions: It has to be within a femdom setting, I wear a giant strap-on and, oh, you need to drop some weight, you are really not my body type." ​ He was the butt of the joke in front of his bros and he never dared to ask again. ​ ...He actually st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:35 AM
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I do the same for the same reasons. Ain't nobody got time for that. Trash takes itself out early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:00 AM
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The most efficient way a father can protect his daughter from bad men is to spoil her from early on. She'll develop high standards, they'll become second nature to her. LVM or worse simply won't be of interest to her so she won't get drawn to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:52 PM
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Cool, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:42 PM
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She sounds triggered. I also don't go to work to help the anti-conservatives movement grow primarly, it's a nice byproduct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:05 PM
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I came here to say this. You need to report them. Femizide shouldn't be normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:39 PM
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And if he doesn't stand up for me as a women outside of a our romantic/platonic relationship it's because he doesn't want to. We have no business then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:29 PM
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Your lists belong in the handbook labeled 'FDS translates men'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:48 PM
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No person who does that to me deserves a second chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:30 PM
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Good inspiration for my next maschine learning project!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:48 PM
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FDS vibes in the comment section too 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:04 PM
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I see. Yes, you should have left IMO. He isn't worth your nerves or time. The fact that he is a lawyer does come into account since some countries like the US do have a very ...special mentality towards lawyers. This man in particular looks like a manipulative asshole with god complex. For other situations with narcs I found that talking to them without giving them attention does the trick. Narcs search for victims who have empathy or at least self doubt to turn them into a resource for narcissi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:22 AM
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And he was in absolute and utter shock stammering over and over he “didn’t see it coming” and calling others wailing that he “thought i was happy”. This right here. Look closely. First one: You complain. His answer: I didn't see it coming. Second one: You complain. His answer: I thought you were happy. (Or like here to others: I thought she was happy.) Do you see it? I. It's always an "I". You voice your concerns and he makes it about him again. He gets defensive. Now you dare to steal his show …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:59 AM
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I tribute my free "Give Hugz"-Award to fragile masculinity. Remember: Everything is better with a good hug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:04 AM
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Today I realized that having a resting bitch face may not necessarily be a bad thing. When I walk through the city some annoying crowd-funder jumped in my way, 3 of them in a row. I signaled that I don't want to be talked to (especially serially, one after another) so it was completely uncalled for from this one woman to "joke" that why I look so angry. My first thoughts where: "WTH was that?", "Women don't owe you nice." and "Yearslong training, honey." I wasn't even angry. I was just focused t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:51 AM
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Maybe you like styling your new Converse'? You can find many Pinterest ideas about how to lace the shoestrings. Play with lace color and pattern too. And congrats on your Honors Essay, of course. Great job! 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:16 AM
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Occuping the toilet way too long, from a quarter of a hour up to several hours. They watch porn on their smartphones or even take their laptops with them. When he feels "distant" to you, more like an acquaintance than your partner: -When you spend time together aka date -When kissing -During Sex Sex is mechanical, performative and/or lacks intimacy. Seems to have sex for getting a fix out of it. Gets aroused or looks relived when you are in discomfort or even pain, physical or emotional (tears!)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:09 AM
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Thank you for Meme Free Monday. Thank you for the weekly FDS Chat, which is back again. But most of all, thank you for involving us by listening and taking our feedback seriously. It means a lot. 💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:03 AM
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I do. IMO it does make sense to censor them. They are problematic for the same reason those posters were problematic back then. They incite nothing but hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:25 AM
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My comment got cought by automod for using femcel language, asking me to repost without such vocabulary. To be fair, these are incel slurs. I named them to critizice their usage, not to casually use them on other people. Automod isn't smart enough for that context though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:01 AM
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It would be funny if it weren't true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:00 AM
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I came here to say this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:56 AM
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Notice how they picture the supporting men as 'emasculated' and therefore unhappy. It's the same rhetoric which lies behind today's propaganda buzzwords "s*mp", "b*ta", "cu*k", etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:22 AM
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So much seething hate, even with torture fantasies,... No. They were more than fantasies... [Trigger warning]: [1] https://www.history.com/news/night-terror-brutality-suffragists-19th-amendment [2] https://medium.com/the-collector/force-fed-through-nose-and-rectum-for-women-wanting-to-vote-59b9c45f52
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:56 PM
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No one should hit anybody if it's not for self defense to get out of a dangerous situation. Initially slapping someone is NV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:09 PM
2

That's great, thank you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:48 PM
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It would be really awesome to have the Weekly FDS Chat regularly, like weekly. It's a good way to inform members about recent changes/updates here and it contributes to a warm and welcoming atmosphere. I think newbies and potential new members (aka female lurkers) benefit the most from it as it can be quite intimidating to post here for the first time. I remember myself back then being afraid that my posts wouldn't be relevant or good enough to be accepted here. When coming from other places of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:45 AM
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Yes please, I would definitely like to join!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:12 AM
1

Ah, yes, the obligatory threesome request of cishet men. When they pull it on me I mirror their facial expression, declare how I like his open-mindedness and that I know just the right guy for him. Watch his smutty smirk fade as he realizes it's no fun to be objectified for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:56 AM
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Ah, yes, the obligatory threesome request of cishet men. When they pull it on me I mirror their facial expression, declare how I like his open-mindedness and that I know just the right guy for him. Watch his smutty smirk fade as he realizes it's no fun to be objectified for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:56 AM
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I used to lurk there from time to time, didn't post because I wasn't single but dating a man. There was nothing extreme about it, it was not even very lively. Basically some bisexual ladies sharing their dating experiences like asking about OLD apps to meet other women. It's beyond me why reddit took it down but I'm very disappointed in this platforms double standards. What about consent and boundaries?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:39 AM
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Hating women comes with hating women for having choices. Women's ability to choose equals hate in their minds. As you mentioned being febfem: The respective sub got banned for "promoting hate", which just proves my point. Misogynists feel oppressed when women can't be sexually exploited. So being febfem triggers them even more than being a men dating FDS lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:14 AM
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How long does it run until you have to recharge the batteries? Can you use it while charging? Bad battery runtime was my no.1 reason to ditch vibrators for the hitachi magic wand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:24 PM
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I've got the njoy Pure Wand. A curved metal toy of significant weight. You can have maximum g-spot stimulation with minimum tilted angle. It's kind of pricey. I got mine from amazon back then. Here is the link to their hp: https://www.njoytoys.com/product/purewand/ ​ It's really heavy, you can basically use it as self defense weapon lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:58 PM
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+ Glas as well as metal are rock hard. Because of this it will eventually feel "bigger" than silicone. EDIT: Keep that in mind while buying, you don't need one as big as you are used to from other toys. + You can adjust the temperature of glas/metal toys by holding them running water. + Plus they are easier to clean, look more stylish and they are an excellent choice if you suffer from latex allergy. + They are the most durable toys I have. + You can use any lube you want on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:43 PM
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It's not so much about begin lazy (or scared of rejection) in making the first move. It's about avoiding responsibility from the beginning so they can slack off later on our cost. Enforcing a sunk cost fallacy on us in the process benefits them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:17 PM
3

I will definitely 3d-print myself a Clitoris model. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:19 PM
7

This text urges my knee to courageously *touch* that rapist's balls. And what a complete nonsense that is. 🤦‍♀️ Unsolicited touching from unsympathetic people actually does the opposite. But keep dreaming scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:49 AM
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In my mind I'm reciting all my past relationships with men right now. I'm putting emphasis on their relationship with their mothers and my conclusion is: And you are right. Right about every single one of them, it's terrifying. ​ If you are a mother of sons, and you want to raise them to be high value men, don't reward bad behavior. This sparked a trail of thoughts in me: Women shouldn't reward men's bad behavior with attention, like at all. For men even negative attention is some kind of reward…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:28 AM
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There’s so many new posters it’s hard to individually remind them. Yeah. That's why I focus on reporting from now on. The mods are super great at explaining “why” your post got removed too. So even if you report it and it gets removed, the mods will tell the OP why. I saw it under many removed posts. It's great to have a little feedback to improve further posts. As for myself I once got a post deleted by a mod, without any explaination, about two weeks ago. I still wonder where I failed/broke a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:47 AM
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Gotta put up a pay wall 💰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:42 AM
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Ultimately if a man is misbehaving with other women, it's not because of the other women and it's not because you're lacking, it's because he's trash. This is so important. Don't let those trash men get away with pitting women against each other. As for same or different ethno-types: When he puts too much emphasis on it is always a red flag. 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:37 AM
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Whenever I see a post that goes against the new No Brigading rule I report them, sometimes I inform OP to provide context. I really hate reporting these posts, all of them were sparking interesting discussions worth having where I'd love to participate. On the other hand reminding them is tiring and I don't want to draw any more attention to it. EDIT: Thank you for writing this down again. I too think this post (or the original one from the mods) should get stickied. Like for a week or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:32 AM
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Why, when having sex, does a women become the man and not the other way around? Part of him literally disappears for the time being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:14 AM
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It's OK and normal to become attached to the people who value you, to those you naturally spend your time with because they are good to you hence you like them. But you should never allowed others to consume you. You are still your own person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:10 AM
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Thank you for this post. It's always important to consider that a man's interest in you can be based merely on some sick race fetish. 🤢 I'm white and what you wrote can be applied from the other side as well:I had white men interested in WOC and naive past me thought it was because they were anti-racist and OpEn MiNdEd (and after all who am I to argue against it, it would make me the racist myself). While in truth the opposite was the case. They all wanted to 'taste the exotic flavor' but - surp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:04 AM
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Where do you all get those LVM? Why bother answering in the first place? Why, oh, why do you ladies keep entertaining them? How are still interested in a man after "Tell me a bit about yourself"? So many questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:55 AM
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That post scarred me for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:03 PM
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This is great. Thank you for writing this together. And you are absolutely right: We need to have higher standards and firm boundaries - inside and outside of the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:32 AM
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Reddit can be very buggy sometimes. This was actually how I found FDS half a year ago: My reddit reader back then kept notifying me about new posts on here even though I never visited the sub before. I didn't even have an account by that time, I just went on reddit for some memes. You never know what it's good for. A software bug changed my whole life! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:51 PM
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One minute after your reply I got the the message that I got approved. Commenting works now too. Thank your for your help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:12 PM
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I got the [FDS Specialist] flair and I could submit posts too, if I wanted to but it's still not possible to comment. I've just sent a request to comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:29 PM
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I'd like to help out over there too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:46 AM
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Ironically yes, even if they get called "the bad girl".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:26 PM
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I had to delete more than half of my mediathek, which is a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:22 PM
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He ruined it himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:00 AM
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I'm all in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:56 AM
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I had one of those too. Possessivness disguised as 'caring and accepting'. Very tricky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:38 AM
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"The Bad Girl" seriously needs reframing from 'the chick who sucks d*ick at the club's bathroom' to 'the carrer driven, educated and self efficient feminist'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:30 AM
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Women need to band together and have (another) global sex strike. Not to punish the rapists, they are beyond repair, but to punish the less evil men, those look away, those who want to fuck us, those who we date. Because they profit from rape too. Men need to hold other men accountable or we hold our men accountable for tolerating those rapists amoung them. Does your 'HVM' tolerate the rape of your sisters?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:17 AM
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Every single woman I know in my private life has been sexually assaulted in some way BY MEN. Let's name the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:46 AM
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The world is full of LVM and LVW. Those ads are preying on their insecurity, hope and hunger for control of the other sex to fill their inner void. It sounds edgy because it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:40 AM
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6 inch? Cute. ​ Ok, no, for real. Have your life together, dude. When if are at the point where faking happiness takes up more energy than actually being happy you might want to reconsider your goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:21 PM
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Yes, I know...It's so disgusting 🤢 They are truly unscrupulous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:21 PM
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I will never accept those victim playing predators there. They want to turn the LGBT acronym into LGBTP, where *P* stands for *pedosexual*. They try different ways: First the 'It's a gender identity' - route ("child-gendered"). Then the 'It's a sexual orientation' - route. ("pedosexual"). Also look up their next strawman, "MAP" - which stands for "Minor Attracted Person".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:18 PM
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The excuses I heard for those cases were also women blaming: "My mother wasn't there for me as a child, that's why my childhood is ruined and I'm trying to catch up where I missed out back then when I was a boy." Described himself as 'Hebephile', was professionally diagnosed with the Madonna-whore-complex. Edit: Also "The law (in his country) discriminates against the age of consent for mlm relationships. Women have it easier." (He wanted to legally fuck boys not even half his age)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:58 PM
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Pedophiles (men, of course) are now 'fighting for acceptance' in the queer community. They call themselves 'child gendered', painting themselves as victims like usual. They claim to be 'in the wrong body', that their 'right body' is that of a child. Thus their attraction to children is only 'normal attraction towards a same aged person'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:49 PM
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Never, not even in my darkest kinkmeisha days, would I slap my partner or accept to be slapped by them. It's just sick and I resent every person who tells me otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:39 PM
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They will make tiktoks themselves where they claim, that it is Ah-OK because their 'Dom' does that to them too when after they have been 'naughty'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:36 PM
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"BuT mY lAsT gIrLfRiEnD lIkEd It". "I'm sure of that. Now bend over" *whips out 10 inch rainbow-colored strapon named 'pride' *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:39 PM
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Unfortunally it doesn't matter to those LVM if women like anal or not. They only care about their own gain. So I wouldn't blame the women who state their preferences but the scrotes who misuse this information to coerce (other) women into it. Because they don't need said ammunition against our sisters in the first place. They just lie straight to their faces. Hold abusers accountable. Hold pickmeishas accountable for their 'I-do-anal-because-I'm-so-NLOG' - bullshit. Don't silence women for their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:26 PM
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No. Being a HVM is not only about character and while most men are IMO not attractive or not as attractive as most women, telling women to 'look past his physical features' and not to be 'shallow' is standard shaming. Men do it all the time. It's just another factor that enforces the imbalance in patriarchy. I wanted to have sex with all previous LVX who weren't physically attractive to me, it's a hormonal thing and it's LoooVe. But all the LoooVe couldn't hide the fact that I never fantasized a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:38 PM
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Anal seems to be a very charged topic here. When I look at the other comments I can understand how. I had my fair share too. Occationally with a trusted partner I enjoy anal too, so you are not alone with your opinion. As you are not advocating for anal sex I don't see the the downvotes justified. They are targeting the wrong person. You are not to blame for your preferences, rapists are at fault. Don't take it personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:17 PM
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This is actually the only one that's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:59 PM
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I couldn't agree more with your stance but don't forget the new no brigading rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:45 PM
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I had those situations so often. I don't even get jealous, both are telling on themselves and their cringy behaviour is saving me time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:33 AM
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I'd never take a man's last name. He can have mine or we both share a double surname a best. But I don't erase my identity for no man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:06 AM
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I've definitly fallen victim to comphet too. I have always been more attracted to women than to men. In fact my attraction to women was always so natural to me, I didn't realize until mid puberty that I can be attracted to both women AND men, meaning men too. And yet I always chickened out when a girl made a move. Other times I was simply too dumb to realize that she was actually flirting with me. Once I had some dates with a women without knowing it. She was wonderful, smart, we shared the same…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:22 AM
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I didn't read the post as victim blaming of women for expressing their emotions after their mistreatment. My interpretation of this is to learn to detach from the ego when required to see through manipulation from others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:11 PM
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Completely understandable. I would have gone nuts by now. Doesn't 'woman' stem from 'wife of a man' too? It is LITERALLY not possible for a female human being to have her own identity without a man. This makes me so angry every time I hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:02 PM
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I always felt sorry about you english speaking folks because of that. There is really no female equivalent of 'Sir' that isn't tied to the martial status of the woman, or is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:53 PM
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Uh, yes. I wrote about this phenomenon two times in different posts, calling them a blessing in disguise because they are doing your footwork. Not wanting to change people, simply observing them and the social dynamics around them safes you so much time money and mental health. You've learned that there are women who don't follow the girl's code (aka pickmeishas). They can't be true friends, not with you or anybody else and it's impossible to change them. And you should never try to change peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:40 PM
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I want you to know that there are HVM out there who experience sex as an emotional thing too. With them, both of you bond during sex while it generates affection and love on both sides further. For a HVM Sex is not some goal but just an expression of mutual love and desire. Like it is for you. Women and men are very different at so many aspects, from biological over physical to mental level. But a HVM enjoys nothing more than to bring you pleasure which is based on respect. Because you are his q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:31 AM
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And I naively thought that socks in sandals were the only contraceptive with a 100% success rate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:01 AM
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No. Apparently it's 'punishment'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:49 AM
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Vasectomies aren't 100% reversible so it's better to really think such a decision through. But given the circumstances, gene defect and age, it would be better if he got one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:35 AM
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Male sterilization = vasectomy. I can't see where she is being irrational. His genes are risky for future children and besides that he is old too. There is a reason my sperm banks don't accept donors over the age of 32. The sperm quality decreases. He puts his ego over his children's health, absolutely irresponsible. She, too, should get a gene test because you'll never know. Maybe it turns out that both of them shouldn't have children. Then maybe adoption becomes an option. Not that I'd advice …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:25 AM
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Yes, of course the woman is the abusive one to those people 🤦‍♀️ She is being responsible because she wants healthy children. It's not like she lied to him for being on BC. His small ego can't handle the fact that he can't control her bodily autonomy so of course he aborts all rational thinking and pulls an ad hominem on her. Manchild. Let's talk about him instead. What kind of father would knowingly risk his future kids life? He should be grateful that at least one person in their relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:06 AM
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I'd definitely do that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:29 AM
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This is amazing - have my free award (though it doesn't match the comment's topic really well)! I'm confident that sex is always psychosomatic with long- as well as short-term outcomes which swing in both directions. I'm positive that a healthy, truly pleasurable sex life can be (re-)learned. For this reason I recently began to set up a women-only community here. If you ever happen to come across resources I would be really thankful for every contribution!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:28 AM
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Unfortunally I don't know :/ There is the weekly FDS chat for those things, but only occasionally, not weekly. Reaching the mods seems to be a bit of a challenge at the moment. I noticed that some of my suggestions (like the fds movie flair) have been adapted shortly after I brought it up as a comment under another post and it got upvoted. So maybe if we are lucky the mods see this comment too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:48 PM
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[Never Build A Scrote] would make a nice lesson learned like flair, drawing attention to the harms of building-tendensies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:43 PM
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Yes, true. Prostitution is PAID assisted masturbation. "Sex" is free assisted masturbation hence their entitelment. Actual sex is mutual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:12 AM
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On point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:36 PM
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Pseudointellectual narcissistic freak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:33 PM
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Aim for high standards for yourself and don't accept anybody whose standards are below yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:25 PM
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Now they are actively working to make surrogacy the next EmPoWeRmEnT scam...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:50 PM
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So they want to impregnate a woman but don't want her to look pregnant? Should she outsource her inner organs over 9 months or what? So many words for simply saying "I shouldn't reproduce."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:57 AM
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I didn't post it but was about to. Thank you for talking sense into me, before I could ask you for it. I love this community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:48 AM
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I wouldn't say that having those instant-gratification hobbies is a matter of being a LVM because I struggled with porn and gaming as well (and I'm a woman). I quit them, since they didn't benefit me and only made me miserable. Some of my real hobbies are sports, crafting, writing (especially in other languages than my native language so I can learn it better), plants, designing automated hydroponic systems, coding, learning new programming languages, creating small computer programs (especially…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:36 AM
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All of these reasons and many more made me leave church and I never regretted it once. I choose to meet other people with love, I neither need a shabby old book nor a misogynistic community who also excuses child abuse for it. As long as they refuse to work through their fundamental issues they won't see me again. I don't know if there is a god but if there is I'm sure he/she/is doesn't want Christianity (or religion as a whole) to abuse their name. That's the biggest blasphemy of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:04 AM
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I am so so sorry....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:53 AM
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She also practices ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). Thank you. I will definitely look into this. It's still not clear to me what's going on in your situation. If a stranger accidentally bumps into me on the sidewalk, I'm not going to make a federal case out of it. But it sounds like you're describing a campaign of physical harassment. Or am I misreading? No, it's not a campaign of physical harassment against me. Regarding my example: In the city where I live the streets have rather small…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:52 AM
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While being drunk my dad told me that if I weren't his daughter he would rape me right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:07 AM
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When organized religion couldn't even convince me when I was a little girl I wonder how educated, developed adults manage to stay so ignorant about logical fallacies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:43 AM
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I tried several types of therapy and they could help me with other problems it had back then like depression, suicidal thoughts, anxiety and so on. I attendant CBT and family therapy. The last one was a flop because I my wasn't the problem, my family structure was. They made me the scapegoat and identified patient. They paid this therapist well for "curing" me, but it was maltreatment at best of course. A family therapy should involve the family, not one single person. I guess you can tell a lot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:29 AM
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I was raised a catholic christian but decided to leave church. The first time I painfully began to realize the patriarchal structure within it was when I was a little girl. I happily told my mum that I'm going to become a priestess one day because I love god and want to tell people more about god and love to make the world a better place. She looked away awkwardly and told me that this won't be possible because girls can't become a priest. This made me sad and I began to question the whole syste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:57 AM
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Thank you, this mean a lot to me 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:20 AM
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There isn't a higher instance as long as he isn't authorized grade me. I can only let them held responsible by their superiors in those cases, which I did and they got shut up. No problem with that. Thank you for your answer but this isn't really my issue. I can hurt them if they hurt me. My problem is that I kept quiet for too long because I was lonely and don't wanted to mess up a potential "friendship". Stupid, I know. But when you come to a foreign country for education, with no friends ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:11 AM
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If your coworker is saying sexist things report him to hr. The colleague in question is not a coworker but students like me in university. We are on the same hierarchical level and there are no formal instances like a teacher or boss. I'm in a field of STEM where ~97% of my colleagues are male incels or neckbeards. It's extremely frustrating to have those degenerates around me on a daily basis, let alone mandatory teamwork. At work I always report them to hr, but I can't do that here. I talked w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 01:34 AM
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Beautiful. Simply beautiful. 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:57 AM
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Not only in a relationship but on a societal level are women made responsible for men's comfort and behavior. I learn to think "Not my problem" to partners. But what about my male colleagues when they make sexist remarks? Who about strangers on the street when they act inappropriately? Male roommates (can't move out rn due to financial reasons and COVID, please don't tell me to live alone. If I could, I would!) when they risk my health by inviting their friends over? I have this guilt still in m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:53 AM
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Damn, I used my clit wrong over the whole time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:00 PM
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Once I have a secretary I will do that too. Till then friends and family will have to do. When me and another girlfriend stay out late and separate at some point on our way home we stay in contact during that an send an all-clear signal once we arrive safely. It sucks, that we have to do this tho. Edit: As for flexing, it seems to me that most men only 'respect' women when they directly or indirectly threaten their supply of sex. I'm still deciding if they respect men because they are male or be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:10 AM
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I can personally attest to that, yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:00 AM
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Would talking about a religious or spiritual community work as well? It's okay to talk about a religious or spiritual community when you are not members of one and the same community, because it's easy to tell if you are exaggerating or not. you have been there over years, are an established member and you can actually talk to people about private matters to some degree. But the first point is more important. Positive example: You come from a christian family and you went to church from childhoo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:56 AM
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For everything that's holy, I hope you were spared that experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:38 AM
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Yes, I like that too. I generally like the FDS post the most which focus on us as HVW in a dating context. The 'men are depraved/porn sick/entitled, have an example' have their place too. I know of the importance of venting or asking to be consoled. But I think that FDS has the most impact if it stays true to it's queen vibes. Wouldn't want to give misogynistic men and the patriarchy the high ground here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:24 AM
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Bruh, what?? Reminds me of the guy who asked my to be his gf on the 3rd date right after I told him about some creep who touched me inappropriately when I was a child. He casually petted random children, said he didn't love me anymore and turned into a neonazi after the breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:09 AM
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Yes, that's the sad truth. Let them know you were pampered and are used to only the best. When he asked, why it ended: "It didn't work out." Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:04 AM
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They are truly great! Improved the quality of the posts a lot. I also love when mods make their own post. This seems to happen much more frequently now. They are good guidelines for new comer and older members can learn from it too. Really, really good job mods! You are doing god's work. I love you all, thank you so much for everything! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:59 AM
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Never let them view you as a victim. I had so many men ask me to be their gf after I told them about my trauma (long before FDS). It was especially disturbing when my trauma had to do with sexual assault or harassment, even more when the incident occurred in my childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:47 AM
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Yes, me. I'm a humanoid narcissist-indicator 🕵️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:42 AM
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I believe FDS kind of is against OLD. If you'll notice, there's zero mention of OLD in the Handbook. But there is. I linked it in another branch of this comments answers. It's empty tho. Yet wouldn't the link get removed from the mods themselves since they summarize the handbook entries?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:50 PM
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This garbage has been around for years but it seems to have some kind of revival now. You are not the first person I've seen this from in the past 24 hours. It's circulating mostly on twitter right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 09:35 PM
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In case you were wondering what cognitive dissonance regarding sexual assault and rape looks like. She knows and feels it's wrong but tries to convince herself otherwise. The rape defenders in the comments sure know how to 'help' her with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:59 PM
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If you mean this entry: It got deleted by it's autor. I can't say if it was a mod because the account is gone as well. It's basically a dead link. I'm not sure if the pre-interview is aimed for OLD but I read it like that it's for screening before seeing someone for the first time IRL. The entry itself was created during the pandemic as well. But to be fair, it makes also sense to apply it also when you have known them already causally before and I like the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:45 PM
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There are strategies specifically for OLD in the handbook so I'm not so sure about that. Yes, they should IMO. And people shouldn't meet strangers in person during a pandemic at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:22 PM
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Back then when I participated in the BDSM community the 'daddy-dom' fetish wasn't the standard for male doms. 'Sadistic chauvinistic male-dom' was the norm. Daddy doms were viewed as 'too gentle', but of course I can't know what actually happened behind closed doors. Only about 5% percent of the kinkster there where into 'daddys'. The rest preferred 'real doms' aka assholes. Harder, better, faster, stronger... Kinkmeishas prided themselves with the amount of pain they could take in from those sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:11 PM
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I never understood why FDS isn't against OLD. I can't see 'female benefit' coming from it other than having more options when you live in a secluded area. Maybe it would be too prescriptive to do so?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:44 PM
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So I was right! I appreciate your kind of humor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:25 PM
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I agree with your advice. When you run into drama in this friendship it can make your professional life a living hell, which can cause serious damage to your career. Don't let your loneliness and longing for affection push you into making unwise choices in your workplace. Been there, done that. Never again. Now I have to watch others make the same mistake as I did because they don't want to follow my warning. I can be polite and professional without friendship. Conversations don't have do be sha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:20 PM
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I love that you took the [shower thought] flair for this post. Yesterday wanted to make a "consider vetting for toilet compatibility" post after reading through comments complaining about nasty urine stains in the bathroom. Your post took it even further and I like it. Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:48 PM
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I'm buying myself roses and a beautiful necklace 🌹✨💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:34 PM
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Think of it from the law of attraction POV: FDS focuses on women and encourages us the make the best out of us. That's why we have the FLS sub too. When you level up and become a HVW LVM are simply not interesting for you anymore. This threatens LVM/ZVM/NVM perceived right to women, especially sex. They hate FDS because it means they have to Level up themselves like every decent being does. Financial power over women is the main factor to keep them dependent on you. They can't prohibit women fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:27 PM
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Those trolls also love to screenshot their 'work' then upload it with another account on other subs to 'prove' how toxic FDS is. That's why we have to watch out for suspicious posts/comments too and report them. Our mods work their asses off but they can't be everywhere at the same time. Oh, and one important note on that: Never judge posts/comments based on their upvote score. Lurkers manipulate them to pit us against each other and gaslight us about what FDS is really about. Always take posts …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:46 PM
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I did too...But it's better that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:32 PM
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I didn't reply to each one of your credits to my post since I didn't wanted to spam around, but I'm really happy it resonated so well with you. Thank you for the awards, dear anonymous givers!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:19 PM
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I know not a single guy with intact aim tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:11 AM
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No recommendation so far, just wanted to tell you there is a [BOOK REPORT] flair. You can use it to filter for books too. Maybe you'll find something there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:43 AM
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The one thing they are better at than us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:39 AM
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Thank you!! Adding it to my list :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:23 AM
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I'm ashamed to admit that this misbelief about the sex-positive movement got me involved with it back than. I'm an absolute proponent of educating women about sex and their own body, it makes us less manipulable through men and patriarchy. There is an immense lack of knowledge and bodily autonomy, it's not even funny. You could say I'm that kind of friend who gets asked by her girlfriends on how to insert a tampon or a menstrual cup when the description isn't clear about it. Who can give advice …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 12:21 AM
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I will definitely look into it! Thank you very much!! I heard much about Dworkin & Co but didn't find the time to read any of their work. I have things to do! Back than in my lib fem days i read their literature like 'The ethical sl*t' and 'More than two' (a book about polyamory) and I can't want to debunk more myths about why sex posititivity is such a good idea. I have this feeling that they historical context is crucial to understand why sex-positivity won't work out. Since I started with FDS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:54 PM
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Do you happen to know some quality links or papers regarding the historical timeline of the invention of The Pill and The Free Love Movement? I'm very interested in this topic. I also want to study the ties to Anti Pornographic feminism; as I undestand it it's the backlash to Free Love? Free Love seems to have it's revival as sex-positive feminism. What about the anti-porn movement from back them? I read that too, 'free love' wasn't so lovey-dovey as it gets portrait. I was misogynistic as hell,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:10 PM
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This is what sex-positivity should really be: Shine a light on the responsibilities of sex and how to handle them like adult people to take the burden from women's unfair share of sex due to biological reasons and social indoctrination. We took the wrong turn along the way. Humanity invented contraception for women, which is a great thing - don't get me wrong. Women should have access to free, safe and risk-free contraception methods. It prevented women who were getting raped (even in marriage, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:58 PM
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'Doctor fish'/’Nibble fish’, yes. Aka 'Red rufa'. They are tiny fish that get used (eg in a Spa) to remove dead skin cells. It tickles a lot and is completely harmless.You could also take ’Bluestreak cleaner wrasse', 'Labroides dimidiatus' as a figure of speech. Maybe they are more common. Edit: What I meant to say was that pickmeishas do you a favor by getting rid of your old problems/parasites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:09 PM
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If you choose to stay I advice you to distance yourself emotionally to some degree or your self esteem will suffer as a result and it gets harder to revert that the older you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:58 PM
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I think it's really hard but it's also the right thing to do. He will automatically have less respect if you take him back so it's only a matter of time until his audacity shows. I really like your advice. I imagine giving it to a friend or my younger self. We should treat us like we are our own best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:48 PM
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Takeaway: If he disrespects you once your relationship is over. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:38 PM
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Charming. If I told you they won't change and the next 10 years would be like that - what would you do now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:33 PM
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I highly recommend it. I has also saved me from sexual assaults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:51 PM
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👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:49 PM
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I approve! He can stay. You won't hear this often from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:39 PM
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Now you know what people to unfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:35 PM
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It's a bait and switch tactic compressed in one sentence. They 'bait' you with flattery, the kind that only works, when you have low self esteem. They pull the 'switch' turn you around to prove your (intellectual) worth to them. You can also read it as an insult, since he reduced you to your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 03:05 PM
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Not only during sex. When you are in a relationship with an abuser this is your default state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:38 PM
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In short: They want control over women's sexuality. NVM use sex as a weapon through a variety of ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:35 PM
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My ex broke to that level.He abused my OpEn MiNdEd, joyful approach towards sexuality to erase my own preferences and fill the gap with his kinks. He only touched me sexually with lead to cognitive dissonance in me. The only kind of intimacy he gave me was sexual. So I lowered my standards further, far below the bare minimum, only to feel love. He forced me to cum which added to trauma bonding in the form of oxytoxin as a reward. I didn't want to sleep more with him because of this. On the contr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:59 PM
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This and they are afraid of their victims going public about the abuse. Because when their public image is ruined it becomes more difficult to find another woman to use and fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:33 PM
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I wrote a comment but it became so long, that reddit refuses to submit it (TIL). I will redefine it and make a post in the next days. Maybe it's more fitting to do so. As for the article. I experienced a similar situation about sexual abuse in the relationship. I didn't understand it as such, because I submitted "willingly", that means he made me break me myself to bypass violence. And like her I only recognized the abuse as such when it turned physical and even that was not really "violent". Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:29 PM
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On it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:04 AM
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*Intimacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:29 AM
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squirrel-pilled 🐿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:51 AM
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Also note how anti-feminists love to generalize feminism yet nitpick certain aspects of each one of the movements, only to generalize them once again as feminism (TM) later on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:32 AM
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Ah, yes, jealous feminists shaming women who long for genuine love. This has absolutely nothing to do with throwing other women under the bus 🤡 \s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:22 AM
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Ladies on FDS inspired me to buy flowers for myself. I didn't know how happy this could make me. Thanks for the reminder. I will buy a bouquet first thing next week after my exam. Money well spend ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:23 PM
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He looks so cold, cunning and at the same time oddly calm. I can imagine him with the same facial expression while watching a person get dissected right in front of his eyes. And not only on this photo in particular. I looked him up one google images and he has that disturbing vibe in every picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:03 PM
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This doesn't surprise me the slightest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:44 PM
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Thanks for pointing it out, i didn't know it either. Can you name some similar shitty sources for non UK redditors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:43 PM
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Good that other men are calling him out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:32 PM
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I'm honored ❤️ Yes, it's definitely realistic. Men are not necessarily dump when it comes to such a strong driving force in their existence. Who would have thought! *insert surprised Pikatchu face*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:30 PM
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Good point! He looks into your eyes and it feels wonderfully intimate. Intense yet intimate. Thank for for bringing this up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:22 PM
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True that. I'm still looking for these buttons IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:19 PM
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You could say that I'm living under a rock when it comes to international media scandals. And under this wonderful rock I heard his name but never saw the face behind it. So this was the first time I did as I clicked on the link. I looked at the face of this man and it instantly raised all red flags in me. "This is a sociopath." was the first thing, that occurred in my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:17 PM
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Also men: "Damn, this cold is killing me. I'm seriously sick. Goodbye world."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:29 PM
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"For all the raging feminists..." - Yes? Did I just hear my name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:14 PM
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I'm glad. I could have used his some years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:13 PM
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I've come to the conclusion if a movement isn't to some degree uncomfortable to their oppressors the movement can't make a positive change. Feminism has to be unpleasant to men in order to not only be effective but efficient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:12 PM
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It's not bad of libfems to think that open-mindedness and sex positivity could solve all of our problems through consent. It's just very naive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:08 PM
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You handled it like a queen. That's an example of how a HVW should to it. I'm so proud of you. Say OP, if you'd pay for half of the house to 'own your space' it surly wouldn't hold a problem if you'd fuck other guys on your half of the house, right? You know, equality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:04 PM
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aNd So HyStErIc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:58 PM
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(Guilt tripping into sex) ^10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:57 PM
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Welcome! Check out the handbook for FDS's opinion on paying 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:55 PM
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Yes, this is what baffles me the most about his audacity. Not only wanted he to leech off of her monetarily and was narcissistic enough to think his company deserves her payment while she is unemployed(!). No, he low key tried to guild trip her. This is the same method that those "liberal feminists" use to talk themselves out of paying for a date: "If the man pays, the woman owes him sex. Pay on your own otherwise you'll give him the wrong idea about you." Well, scrote is already FULL of wrong i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:50 PM
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Also men "love sexual women" until we won't sleep with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:39 PM
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