Banned from another dating sub

Lightningxxx · 2021-08-12T10:24:00+00:00

I used to post on other dating subs and they always told me to cOmMunIcAte

Turns out they were asking me to lower my expectations

Pickled_Tink_Tea · 2021-08-12T10:36:13+00:00

I have been banned from a sub for "feminists" for no good reason. I asked why and they said that my comment (didn't even mention FDS or any of our principles) didn't make sense. I'm very articulate so that's unlikely.

heleninthealps · 2021-08-12T09:03:11+00:00

Not banned, but had ALL my comments on one thread removed after telling a girl that she shouldn't ask out men first due to them undervaluing you and seeing you as desperate or text a guy that ignored her 2 weeks after a date and acted flakey. They all want to just hear the same thing "Stop playing games and text him if you want what if he is shy, girls should be chasing too and yadayada"

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-08-12T09:33:12+00:00

I haven't but tbh I don't feel the urge to comment on women hating subs. Why should I fight to contribute to their subs when I'm clearly not welcomed there? Working for free? Generate traffic for their hateful views? Worrying to get banned for helping others? Nah. Fighting on my enemie's ground puts me on disadvantage. I give my best here on reddit to help other people not only with dating but in other areas to, like mental health issues too. The feedback I get has almost always been positive so far. But when someone doesn't want my help why try to prove my worth to them?

BasieSkanks · 2021-08-12T10:22:31+00:00

Other dating subs will ban you because those subs aren’t interested in making dating equitable and beneficial for women. They’re usually overrun with men who are invested in women keeping their standards low and their legs open. Consider it a badge of honour if you’re banned, because the advice they offer is usually garbage.

CapableReplace · 2021-08-12T08:56:10+00:00

Yess I am banned at hinge!

fleuretpomme · 2021-08-12T12:33:19+00:00

Yep I called out gendered slurs and questioned why they hadn't been removed (a man was calling someone a bitch) and they banned me for it. Asked what rule/specific comment caused it and they muted me so I couldn't message mods. They have some internalized misogyny they need to work through.

A lot of female posters have been unsuccesfully dating for years and can't see why they're struggling when they follow advice of men in their peer group (who have a vested interest in keeping women as a groups' standards low)

it turned out to be good for me though! I no longer waste my time arguing with bad faith actors.

Title	Banned from another dating sub
Author	Determinedblonde
Upvotes	45
Comments	21
Date	August 12, 2021 8:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p2vyv5/banned_from_another_dating_sub/
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