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Wait 😂 it makes a lot of sense. He was a deeply insecure man, he chose his friends based on what they could bring to the table… prestigious diplomas and everything, I think he wanted to benefit from the halo effect. “I’m friend with this guy who achieved so much more than you! It says a lot about me!” What a pathetic, shallow creature
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:53 PM
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It happened to me so many times. The last time, not only did the scrote completely ignore what I said, he immediately started bragging about his (male) friend latest accomplishments… like he was trying to one up me? I’ve had scrotes before him compare themselves to me like it was some sort of competition, but it was SO weird that this one mentioned his FRIEND? He was proud of his friends accomplishment… but he couldn’t be proud of mine, the woman he was supposedly in love with? So weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:09 AM
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Facts. A man told me once he liked that I threw a tantrum because it meant I cared about him. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have insulted him. I don’t react impulsively anymore. I simply ghost. If I really care, I will tell you once, if you ignore it, I simply distance myself ; and I do that with everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:26 PM
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What a degenerate. I wouldn’t even touch him with a stick. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:54 PM
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🎯🎯🎯 This + he seems to be dating her more for status, than love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:09 PM
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This tbh. He’s dating her for status more than love. I think the only reason why he wants a baby with her is because she earns a lot of money, so it’s a good deal to have her as a baby mama. This man is very calculative and he is getting maximum benefits from his decisions. Now he’s pissed that she wants “real equality” he wants his plans to benefit him only, not her. He was never interested in being her equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:04 PM
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This. Especially men involved in politics. They tend to have a great PR team and a lot of charisma, they seem like trustworthy family men, with good qualities, but how many secretly cheat on their spouses or neglect their children because they are workaholics etc. A man can seem like a great leader to his country and be a piece of sh!t in private. All that glitters is not gold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:52 PM
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Agreed. I feel like people respected this rule at first, then after a few weeks we were flooded with low-effort posts again. I’m talking about screenshots of male depravity, sometimes not even in the context of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 07:17 PM
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I’ve heard it too! It’s a r*d pill tactic. Selfish scrotes will tell you they like strong, independent women, but what they really mean is a woman who will never ask them for help, or rely on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:29 PM
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Proof none of them respect women who let men degrade them in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:57 PM
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Based
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:59 PM
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The abuse + aftercare creates a trauma bond between the abuser and his victim. This keeps the young woman attached to him and she goes back for more. He doesn’t give a damn about her and he never will. If he pretends to, it will only harm her and trap her more into this toxic dynamic. She needs a therapist, not an unhealthy coping mechanism that will traumatize her more. As usual, I’m disappointed but not surprised by Redditors. Most of them are porn sick anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:23 AM
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You get bits and pieces, maybe, but as a whole the dude feels like a stranger. Yeah this one hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:19 PM
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I sent him a selfie (his request). First he complimented me, then he said “…but I’m probably smarter than you” as if he was trying to reassure himself or something? It was weird. Every time I posted a picture, he’d be the first to react, but he always insulted me subtly a few seconds later. One time he said “You’re really smart, I thought you weren’t smart at all” and I replied “Because I’m attractive?” and he was speechless. Then he said “No, bEcAuSe YoU’Re [insert ethnicity]” (the same as his)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:10 AM
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I thought Tinder was the app to use for casual sex. They’re doing this on other apps too? They ruin everything with their depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:50 PM
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So he cheated on her with multiple women and she still thinks he’s great…? He’s spending money on other women for his sexual pleasure and she’s ok with that…? This is beyond pickmeism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:47 PM
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It’s true. I ghosted a man, he begged me to answer his texts, he tried to guilt trip me, he said “I thought you cared about me” blah blah and at the time I fell for it. Well he did all of that only to dump me back. 💀 He even admitted it to me. The second I liked him back he reminded me of this one time I ghosted him. It was so ridiculous, I couldn’t believe it. Glad I blocked and deleted the pathetic scrote. So, ladies: 1) dump him first 2) don’t give a second chance to men you’ve rejected in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:35 AM
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Fuck diamonds! C o p i s m 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:31 AM
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^ I’ve experienced this in my last relationship. It took me a while to heal from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:06 AM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:36 PM
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It reminds me of a scrote who posted on another sub, he was mad that beautiful women didn’t give him a chance, he admitted he wasn’t attractive but he “dressed well” so he felt entitled to a supermodel gf for that tiny bit of effort (wow, you’re not in pyjamas all the time!/s) Someone asked him in the comments “why don’t you date average looking women? (His looksmatch)” and he basically said he was too good for them 🤡🤡 Male entitlement is phenomenal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:46 PM
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EXACTLY. They even have a name for it “oneitis” They keep projecting on us. They get attached to 1 woman and can’t get over her for the rest of their lives, and they punish the other women who date them (because they’re not her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:06 PM
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Unfortunately there are thousands of posts like this one. I’ve reported worse and Reddit did nothing about it. It’s horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:30 AM
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It’s not uncommon for lvm to use their mothers as an excuse for their poor behaviour. I couldn’t hold an ex accountable because his mom suddenly had cancer (she didn’t have cancer, imagine lying about such a thing). It’s always a female relative who is sick, or in a bad place mentally. Lvm have no shame, it’s one of their tricks. The fact that he stopped therapy is a red flag. He stopped because he couldn’t face himself and recognize his own faults. It screams fragile ego and emotional immaturit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:08 AM
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Every time 😩 Every time what? You say something ableist and try to educate someone with ADHD about their own condition? You said no empathy and not being able to care are symptoms of ADHD. You also said porn sick men have the same “symptoms”. You’re absolutely equating people with ADHD with these sociopathic entitled misogynistic males. I never heard or read about “lack of empathy” as an ADHD trait and most people with ADHD (who actually experience it) will tell you we tend to care too much for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:36 AM
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I have ADHD. no empathy, not being able to care You’re describing a sociopath. People with ADHD can absolutely be too sensitive and emotional for neurotypicals. We have trouble regulating our emotions (they can be too strong) and most of us struggle with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. no motivation We’re more than capable of having motivation and having big dreams. We tend to have a lot of ideas and be very creative. What we struggle with, is discipline. We can make great plans, but we struggle …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:01 AM
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The things you described are not symptoms of ADHD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:12 AM
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That’s not ADHD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:30 AM
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Scrotes: expect all of this from us Women: ok, cool. Can we at least not go 50/50? Scrotes: ReLatiOnShiPs areN’T wOrTh iT then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:25 AM
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This. A guy once listed all those things + "therapist" when talking about me. It wasn't flattering at all. Gross. I kept looking at him thinking "He can't take care of his own mental health like I do/afford a therapist? He's proud of using me for free.99?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:30 PM
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I’ve also been asking myself: Would I do this to a loved one/ treat them this way? (NO) If the roles were reversed, would he/the other person tolerate that? (The answer is always NO)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:50 AM
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This is interesting. I like it a lot… Do you know if he was seeing other women? Did you accept it? I think a lot of men who would be ok with this, wouldn’t care about me/exclusivity enough and they would see it as an excuse to have a rotation too. ETA: by the way, congratulations!!!! ❤️❤️💍 the ring is BEAUTIFUL and I wish you a lot of happiness. ✨💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:32 AM
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I didn’t have internalized misogyny in the past, I always had more female friends than male “friends” but FDS made me realize that we all share the same experiences no matter what age we are or where we come from. It made me distance myself from identity politics and really see all women as my allies. We’re all in this together. Women in a patriarchal world should not be divided, we should not side by our oppressors, but each other. The same way men, no matter their race, their status, etc have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 12:40 AM
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We talk about mental health sometimes on FemaleLevelUpStrategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 09:15 PM
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Yup. Reddit (outside of female only subs) made me realize men are savages. Their raging misogyny and porn sickness made me feel empty and nauseous for a few weeks, when I first joined this app. It really changed me as a person. I didn’t even know FDS or other female only subs existed at the time. I’m so glad I discovered them. They’re the only reason why I stay on this app
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:49 PM
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Am I reading too much into it though? No. Don’t gaslight yourself and don’t give men the benefit of the doubt. Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t matter if someone’s intention was to harm you or not if it made you feel bad about yourself you are allowed to distance yourself from them. In fact you can distance yourself for any reason, or even no reason at all. Feeling uncomfortable, anxious, bad around them is a great reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:40 PM
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Subtle negs that will eventually turn into straight up insults. I’ve experienced it, twice. If a scrote negs you once, run for the hills. It will get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:14 PM
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It’s a neg too??? I thought it was done subconsciously by misogynistic males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:12 PM
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😭 I’m dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 06:34 PM
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He sounds like an ex of mine, who was also in STEM. All the men I’ve known in this field are cruel, arrogant assholes, for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:51 PM
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Thank you, sister. We got this. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:55 PM
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Yeah, the attention seeking scrotes want everyone to listen to their shitty opinion. They want people to listen to them. It’s not the message that matters, it’s the attention they get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 11:59 AM
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Him: I’m better than you! I could get any woman I want! Also him: I refuse to let you go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 11:12 AM
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The constant negging + doubting every single thing you say/your intelligence = the man HATES HIMSELF. He is MISERABLE. Honestly even when I was a Pick Me I knew it. It always screamed insecure, immature, man child to me. It's so repulsive. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 03:28 PM
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porn joke wholesome award 🤮 They sexualise everything. Every time I read the comments I find a gross comment about sex, porn, what the depraved males would do to the woman in the video etc. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 02:42 PM
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It’s true. My exes begged me for a second chance, but it didn’t feel right. Even though they pretended to know better now etc. It was either false, or their efforts were underwhelming. I was like, this is your best behaviour…? That’s it…? It took you so much time and effort to do… the bare minimum? The thing is, men who come back and pretend they’ve changed, forget that WE change too. While they were trying to get on our level, we became BETTER, so we’re even more out of their league now. Also, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:40 PM
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Healthy, successful people tend to be surrounded by their equals. The sociopaths and narcissists I know are all high-achieving, successful and surrounded by good looking, healthy, powerful people, because they're social climbers. They also only date up (women who are wealthier than them) etc. It's true that someone's group of friends will tell you a lot about them, for example if he's a LVM who pretends to respect women but he's surrounded by misogynistic males, but the cluster B parasites I kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:31 PM
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You’re so right. In hindsight, all the emotionally abusive men who I’ve personally known or heard of in the past, didn’t bother to be consistent in their lies, there was a lot of red flags that I, or my female friends, chose to ignore about them, etc. Now, every time there is a tiny red flag, or my intuition tells me something about the man is off, etc. I DO NOT IGNORE IT. I don’t give men the benefit of the doubt anymore. Guess what? I can see the manipulative, misogynists males LOSE their pati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:51 PM
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Nope. I don’t have to settle for a man who I am physically not attracted to, him being kind is the bare minimum. It’s good but it’s not enough. There are men out there who are my type, I don’t have to change it. I won’t settle until I meet the one who is right for me. Neither should you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:01 PM
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I met one a few weeks ago. Not my type, but he’s genuinely a nice person. He reminds me of a male friend I had in high school, he was kind, polite, not the type to sexualize women, a bit shy etc. and who is, to this day, in love with the girl he started dating in high school. I was the matchmaker. He’s matured now, he got his diploma, he spoils her, takes her to fancy restaurants, trips in Europe, etc. I never saw him like any other woman’s picture, he’s surrounded by high-value male friends, et…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 02:52 PM
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Yeah. I felt uncomfortable, uneasy, I wasn’t even attracted to most of them but I still gave them a chance because I didn’t want to seem “shallow” etc. I knew up front who I was dealing with but I gaslit myself, I thought they couldn’t harm me, I genuinely believed I wouldn’t fall for them and they would never be anything more than a distraction etc. Until they started to emotionally abuse me and suddenly it wasn’t innocent anymore and I slowly became a shell of a human being. I was naive and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:06 AM
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Like she said on SNL, he’s the richest (black) man in America, so if she left him it’s definitely because of his personality. I stopped caring about celebrities a long time ago, they’re nothing but a bunch of privileged, self absorbed strangers, but I agree with you 100% Even I can see the difference of treatment. Kim is expected to be there for her kids, she can never do enough, but when Kanye spends half the time with them, he’s praised for it. It’s Misogyny 101. The same way a picture of a da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:52 PM
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They're rapists. I'm glad she got rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 03:46 PM
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I was in a relationshit with a scrote who was obsessed with getting BJs. One day, he kept pestering me about it, demanding one. I told him I had guests over (to shut him up) and he said “It only takes 5 minutes…” I felt like a prostitute, who wasn’t even getting paid. There’s nothing more repulsive than a man who feels entitled to sex because you’re in a relationship with them. Men focus only on their pleasure and wonder why their partners become repulsed by their touch. He never gave me head, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:56 PM
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More sociopathic than idiotic: His mom had cancer and that is why he was entitled, rude and greedy for months. She didn’t have cancer. His mother was fine. He was a desperate, lying asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:47 PM
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Western European countries have this problem too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:39 PM
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Shit. This is exactly why I blocked and deleted a low-value ex (before FDS). He started ignoring my bids on purpose, one day it was so obvious, I knew that it was over between us. He was emotionally checked out and icing me out. Turns out, he was cheating on me. He denied it but I knew the truth. This is really good advice and not something to ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:16 PM
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Yeah there’s always a guy who mentions EquALiTy in the comments, too. I wasn’t surprised to see that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:46 AM
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Shameless man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:27 AM
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Here’s the thing, men love “casual sex” because they get to sleep with a woman who desires them/ wants more from them. This is why they’d rather hurt a naive woman’s feelings than pay a sex worker. No one wants to feel used/ like you’re not desirable to the person you’re sleeping with. Men know this. Women are gaslit into thinking it’s ok to sleep with men who don’t give a single f-ck about us and we’re told feeling shitty afterwards is anoRmaL and we’re PrUdES and it’S jUsT SeX. If it was reall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 11:31 PM
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I’m an attractive woman and my exes were cruel to me. At first they would call me their trophy, eye candy, etc. In public, they showed me off to their (male) friends but in private they always had something to say about my body. I was even told I should get butt implants by a porn sick, narcissistic scrote. Who would even demand this from their partner? I was way out of his league too. I had an eating disorder and genuinely thought I wasn’t pretty. I was ashamed of my looks and didn’t understand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:19 AM
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YES. The intention matters a lot to me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:40 PM
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Marriage isn’t appealing to me. It’s not something I dream of, I need a lot of space and, after being abused, I don’t know if I want to be legally “chained” to a man. Personal space and freedom are really important to me. I couldn’t even date a needy, controlling man. I haven’t met a high-value man who is both my lover and my best friend, tho. When I do, I might change my mind, but he’d have to be truly exceptional. He’d have to be my “soulmate”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:22 PM
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…and this is exactly why we need to be ruthless. Don’t waste your time with lvm, don’t give them the benefit of the doubt, because when you’ll end up miserable men will laugh at you and blame you for putting up with lvm’s poor behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:21 PM
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Right lmao “He bought me 2 slices of cheesecake” ma’am he probably wants you to gain weight so you stop being so “attractive” and stay by his side forever and ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:40 PM
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Same. For MONTHS. And he still didn’t have the courage to dump me, when I called him out on his behaviour, he claimed he didn’t know what to tell me and he didn’t want to LoSe Me. He wanted us to stay BesT FrIeNds, code for “I’d like to keep you around, in case things don’t work out with her, if she pisses me off, if she doesn’t give me enough love and attention,” Obviously I blocked & deleted him because I couldn’t accept this treatment. Cheating scrotes are so weak. Always monkey branching fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:13 PM
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You’ve been seeing each other since July. Him waiting 4 months to make things exclusive is a red flag. I wouldn’t have waited more than a month and a half. Men who value you won’t take the risk of losing you to another man. He probably thought no one else was pursuing you. There are so many red flags, but this was the first one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:09 PM
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THANK YOU. Men are loyal to their GENDER. If they weren’t the Patriarchy wouldn’t exist. Men created it and men are enforcing it TO THIS DAY. Every single time I shame a scrote for his behaviour, whether he’s a billionaire white scrote or a scrote of colour who lives down the street men always, ALWAYS try to defend him, they say Oh but we don’t know his side of the story! Oh let’s not be JuDgEmEnTaL! Oh but men get (raped, cheated on, abused too)! They ALWAYS play devil’s advocate, they NEVER fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:24 PM
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I’d like to add that women usually are straightforward with men they don’t like, on top of being nice to them. I’ve always been nice to the guys I rejected in the past. Women keep it short and sweet. Men are more likely to string along women they don’t like, while acting like jerks the entire time. And if the woman doesn’t take hiNt and leave (because of low self esteem + pickmeishaism), he’ll keep abusing her until he gets the attention of a woman he actually likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 11:47 PM
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First of all your cat is so precious 🥺 And to answer your question… Yes. I’d trust my cat’s instincts. They can feel the bad vibes 🧿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:51 PM
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I hope she sent him the "I ain't reading all that. I'm happy for u tho, or sorry that happened" meme lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:37 PM
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I never get so easily annoyed by people, unless I hate their guts. That's not normal behaviour. This man can't stand his girlfriend. He's not in love with her. I hope she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:01 PM
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I LOVE IT 👸🥂🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:50 AM
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We’re really not allowed to get some rest. I LOVE spending time by myself, ALONE, at HOME. When I say that to men they always try to make me feel like something is wrong with me. Where should I be, Peter? Hm? Am I not allowed to like my own company? Should I be getting drunk every night, putting myself in danger so that strangers (men) can touch me inappropriately, all that in hopes of finding a boYfriEnD? This isn’t sex and the city. I’m in my twenties so they act EXTRA offended that I prioriti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:16 PM
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You see how you slowly but surely start to lose value in his eyes. Yup, all the time. Especially when they start “guessing” my reactions, my personality, talking about “you must be like this, you must react like that, you must say that…” and I correct them, that’s when they realize I’m an actual person and not a blank canvas they can project all their fantasies onto. I can see it in their eyes, that the illusion fades. I’m tired of men expecting me to be their dream girl, and when I’m not her (t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:07 PM
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The problem is, a Pick Me would probably punch you in the face or call you names for pointing out the obvious. I tried to help a (delusional Pick Me) friend once and she aggressively lashed out at me. I was shocked by her reaction, and cut her off soon after. Imagine strangers. I wouldn’t take the risk to approach them tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:08 PM
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It’s worse than that: age gap relationship are totally normal… only if the man is older. Yesterday I saw a post on another relationship sub (we all know which one 🤦‍♀️) and if I remember correctly the OP was 28 and hooking up with a 22 yo man. Almost everyone in the comments was calling her gross and accusing her of grooming him and they shamed her for not “finding” a man her age etc. I never saw such a response when the OP is a man dating a younger woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:06 PM
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❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:48 AM
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that’s such an inefficient way to access his funds I’m curious. What would you recommend? In the context of an engagement. If a man is proposing, what should we expect other than a beautiful, expensive ring on our finger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 03:44 AM
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If we cry in front of a man, we're "manipulative." We're not even human to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:06 PM
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He tried to push your boundaries. You said you weren’t ok with something, he immediately tried to justify it and change your mind. That’s a red flag. Why did he ask this question in the first place, if it was to make you feel like you’re too demanding, closed minded?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:56 PM
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Thank you. I’m tired of reading: I don’t like your take. not all [group] are like this!! It’s exhausting having to write not all men, not all this and that. We’re intelligent women, we can share an experience or a negative opinion on this sub without a trigger warning ⚠️ not all short men, not all bald men, not all white men, not all men of colour, yada yada.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:07 PM
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Yeah, basically I needed some time away from you to realize you were the one. Low-value men and their grass is greener syndrome, they piss me off. I hope Alice won’t give him a second chance. This isn’t flattering at all, it’s insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:52 PM
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Lmao the opening of his letter is literally him bragging about his conquests/sleeping with other women and how it felt good at first. I would be so embarrassed if a low-value man did this to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:49 PM
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oh absolutely. a man can treat his daughter right and sexually harass his female colleagues at work. a brother can be kind to his sister while he pumps and dumps other women. I see women say "men are trash" but "not all men" because "my (male relative) is perfect (with me)" and that's just naive. edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:15 AM
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Is he in love with you? That’s what most men will think, since they don’t usually stick with us through thick and thin out of the goodness of their heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:31 AM
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same. it's insulting and it's because of them that bisexual women are not taken seriously. my first love was a woman, it took me two years to get over her, the whole idea of French kissing another woman at a party to impress men is repulsive and never crossed my mind. ​ They are diminishing women's humanity in order to be a "cool girl" absolutely. it's performative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:31 AM
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I don't know, I slept with a guy once, I thought he was focused on my pleasure but no, the man was porn sick and couldn't c-m from "normal" sex. So Idk. If a man doesn't c-m during sex I wouldn't necessarily see it as a green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:27 AM
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Yeah. So many “bisexual” women who claim to be attracted to women “after a few drinks hee hee 😜😘” and in front of men only. You’re not bi, you’re a depraved pick me that’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 11:56 PM
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Yes. Fuck all religions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:44 PM
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Isn’t the woman not allowed to sleep in her husbands bed when she’s menstruating? Doesn’t she have to cover her hair too, some do it with wigs but it’s still covering her hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:43 PM
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My repulsion for this 50/50 relationship had gotten so bad, that I could not stomach him touching me and asking for sex It made me smile. Welcome to the club. 💘 I was in a 50/50 relationship once, and I felt nothing but disgust for him. I resented him for his laziness, his lack of generosity, and a part of me knew he was taking advantage of me and wasting my time. This was before FDS. I’m happy I met my tribe. 💗💘💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:59 PM
20

I know 99% that he’s not a narc I have to disagree with you here. I have been with narcissists in the past, and if I learned anything from it, it’s that you can never tell who is a narc or not UNTIL you’ve been super close to them, and around them for a long time. Seeing them as friends is different from seeing them as lovers. They don’t treat everyone the same way. I had a close male friend (we were super close for the longest time) and when we started dating that’s when he dropped the mask and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:05 PM
125

Yeah, it’s exhausting. I attempted to have a nice conversation with a man, and he never bounced off what I said. I was really helping him out. He was just talking about himself, and ignoring what I said about me, as if my messages were never delivered. Imagine what it must be like talking to him in person… might as well go to the theatre and watch a monologue from a professional actor. I don’t even bother answering him anymore. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:51 AM
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and use it to manipulate you, like my nvx 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:36 PM
49

Facts. When I assert my boundaries, low-value men run away Sometimes they shit test you. A man I was talking to started mocking me. It made him laugh, I didn’t pretend to find him funny. I looked at him in silence, until he stopped laughing, and I said he was funny with a straight face and a monotone voice. He found me terrifying (his words) This is all it takes for scrotes to be intimidated by you, ladies. They’re really out there looking for doormats lmao. I don’t want to date and love a man w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 10:07 PM
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Even in my teenage years, I’ve had males ask me, to take birth control because they didn’t like wearing condoms. Birth control has many side effects and I wasn’t gonna stress over taking pills and take all the blame if I ended up pregnant, so I always said no and they always tried to push my boundaries, some even compared me to their exes, claiming that they all agreed to take birth control and blah blah blah males put themselves first, always. if you don’t care about their pleasure you will be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:22 AM
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Pick Mes are pimping other women. This is what we’ve come to. I’ve seen it too, it makes me sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:57 AM
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I’m afraid her friend will go and repeat everything to her boyfriend, like: you lied, she said nothing happened. and he’ll deny it and call OP a home-wrecker or something like that. unfortunately some men are really good at this. Someone said to text her friend, but what if she is next to her boyfriend and shows him the texts. I made the mistake of doing this, and my friend (at the time) put me on speaker without my consent. He was clearly telling her how to answer. He was isolating her from me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:39 PM
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You described it perfectly. low-value men keep weaponizing our empathy against us. they want us to feel bad for them, pity them, and think “oh, he wants to be better. he just doesn’t know how. 🥺” they’re evil. they know what they’re doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:59 AM
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They’re so stupid. They keep saying women won’t give them a chance and when we do they make us regret it. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:13 AM
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I dated a short guy and he kept negging me. He had so much to say about my appearance! The audacity. He was short and had a receding hairline. He kept repeating “I like tall women. I’d love to be with a tall woman.” meaning 6' + He was an insecure, short, bully who begged me for a second chance when I dumped him. Tall men never disrespected me like he did. I learned my lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 03:53 AM
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Scrotes mad in the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:47 PM
7

Now her relationship with harry styles makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:43 PM
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Oh hell no 🚩 Most people don’t bother remembering birthdays or sending texts consistently to wish a happy new year, happy birthday, happy thanksgiving etc. Why does he bother? It’s not “nice” it’s unnecessary. Sounds like he didn’t move on from them and/or he’s keeping the door open for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:44 AM
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No, because I dated a man for a year and a half and he ended up cheating on me with his ex, who (I thought) was one of his “best friends” Not only did he leave me for her, but he also insisted on ME becoming one of his “best friends” (keep me around just in case he decides to leave her, I suppose 🤡) I knew at this moment that all his female “friends” were exes/FWBs/part of his harem. Now I ask and if a man tells me yeah I have close female friends! Oh yeah I still get along with my ex! It’s a de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:23 AM
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Yeah I’m shocked at the amount of people who chose YES and IT DEPENDS (on WHAT?) answers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:12 AM
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Exactly. He’ll temporarily stop to make her “happy” but he’ll end up doing it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:41 PM
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They don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:50 AM
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Facts. my nvx told me “you should get implants” and I told him for who? he said “for me” smh I was way out of his league and he knew it and he still had the audacity to neg me and remind me I didn’t have a “fat butt” every chance he had. He talked about that like it was a deal breaker. He literally had a dad bod despite being 6”4 🤡 OF COURSE he was porn sick, he used to watch porn DAILY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:47 AM
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I’m proud of you 💗 You did the right thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 07:01 PM
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A guy ghosted me for a week after our third date. I didn’t call him, text him, I stopped watching his insta stories etc. He literally stopped existing for me next thing you know, he calls me, I let it ring, end up answering because I was bored, he tells me “are you ok?” and I said “yes, why wouldn’t I be?” he said “You didn’t contact me.” 🤡🤣 HE REALLY THOUGHT I WOULD CHASE HIM so I answered “Why didn’t you contact me, if you really wanted to talk? You’re the man, you’re the one who needs to init…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:35 PM
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I used to date a guy who kept saying “I feel like you’ve been hurt in the past” out of nowhere. He was literally pestering me about it. I told him “no” and he KEPT asking, as if my answer wasn’t satisfying enough to him. It pissed me off. I was a pick me back then and I still KNEW something was wrong with him. They’re weirdos. Now we know they were trauma fishing like another poster said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:22 PM
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This is gold. 🤣 I decided to stop masking and I see how uncomfortable people are when I’m just being my blunt self. I speak in a neutral tone and don’t bother with the facial expressions anymore, and it’s enough for people to find me intimidating. Good. When I used to mask and look like a bubbly smiley NT people (men and women) would walk all over me, thinking I was dumb or something like that. No more. When people are passive aggressive, I don’t torture myself to get what they really mean anymo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 02:15 PM
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they literally follow the same script 🤡 what a bunch of clowns. I love that OP told him life is not a movie, I know he was mad as hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:50 PM
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Ok, it’s disturbing, a guy (who gave me incel vibes too) told me the EXACT. SAME. THING. word for word, bar for bar as soulja boy would say 💀 It has to be a r£d piller thing or some pick up shit they read about online. How pathetic of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 09:30 PM
38

How does an FDS member come to terms with the misogyny in their religion? I’m not religious anymore. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:58 PM
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I stopped reading at “he has female BFFs” ladies, listen. men. aren’t. your. friends. If he has a female BEST (are we in middle school?) “FRIEND” you RUN. I’ve been the female best friend TWICE. They were emotionally cheating on their girlfriends with me. I dated a guy with a female best friend, he LOVED her despite not admitting it. He would always run to her when she needed help, he would spontaneously take her on road trips, pay for their dinners at the restaurant when they used to “catch up”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 04:54 PM
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exclusive as in not seeing other women/men. being a couple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:18 PM
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I can't even imagine what he meant by "every evil thing you think of, he has done." what did this old scrote do for ELON MUSK to describe him that way. Scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:47 AM
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Yeah they all fall in the same category
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:41 PM
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Yeah let’s not attack the mods and the podcasts hosts. Let’s not cancel FDS for a single episode. It’s a good thing that we’re allowed to give our opinion, even if it’s negative, as long as it’s done in a respectful manner. Negative reviews can be very constructive. I think the hosts are smart and hilarious and I’m grateful for all the work mods do, but I also believe we can criticize liberal feminism without giving a platform to a gold-star republican. I don’t agree that we should hear “both si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:24 PM
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Yeah I’m not muslim but the rant about islam being terrible to women and then siding with conservatives who are nicer than people might think (😐) despite them believing in Jesus and the bible having misogynistic verses too that felt a little bit disingenuous on her part. So one misogynistic religion is tolerable and we should give conservative christians who are pro life a chance because they’re niCe but we should never associate ourselves with the other religion? Make it make sense. It’s giving…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:00 PM
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Yeah I’m worried it will tear us apart. Personally I thought the conservative propaganda at the beginning was a little bit weird. I didn’t expect to hear that on an episode of The Female Dating Strategy. It was an -unpleasant- surprise. Female Political Strategy should be a whole other podcast on its own. Edit: I’m not a democrat or anything by the way. I think women get shit on by both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:34 AM
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He’s laughing at her not with her 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:13 AM
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And now he gets to be the nice guy who “let her go” (after 6 years🤡)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:44 AM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:23 AM
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Coward insulted her on purpose. He knew what he was doing. My nvx did the same thing to me. He was seeing another woman behind my back and was trying to get rid of me. I tolerated a lot from him, until the day he said something similar to what her ex-fiancee told her. I dumped him immediately and I don’t think he was that bothered about it. Scrotes will use you, drain you from your energy, take everything you got and leave with no remorse. They won’t even have the courage to break up with you li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:21 AM
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HINO?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:31 PM
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It’s scary how accurate this is. I got chills reading this. do all tech dudes have the same scrote formation or something because… wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:52 PM
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Facts! I could’ve written this comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:22 PM
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it's heartbreaking when you "drop hints" or even ask directly, they have no effort to make whatsoever and still won't offer you anything. some exes would dangle the idea of gifting me a bouquet of flowers like you would dangle a carrot in front of a horse, basically telling me "if you behave well I'll buy you (insert cheap gift that they didn't even have to think about)" and they still didn't at the end. Men are so disappointing. I wish there were more HV men out there bc damn. it's tough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:33 AM
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sometimes, men will deny you those things you mention because they don't want you to be happy. it's all about power and control, not giving you control over them by denying you what you want. when I was a pick me (19 years old) I wanted a big teddy bear and a book about greek mythology and I'd always talk about it in front of my ex. He'd always say "maybe one day I'll buy them for you" he never did. When I broke up with him I told him he was a pathetic cheapskate and I could never respect him as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:25 AM
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I noticed, almost on every single picture of her going for a kiss, she’s smiling and he’s like: 😐 I’m sorry but he doesn’t look like a man in love. He looks dead inside
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:23 PM
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This should be on FDSSuperFans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:18 PM
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It reminds me of a NVM I used to have feelings for. He called me his beSt FriEnD when he got romantically involved with another woman. I’ve never felt so stupid. Turns out she was one of his clOsE fRieNd too when I was his main supply. Low-value men are pathetic and terrible at setting boundaries and so are their friEnDs/exes for accepting this behaviour. 🤡 I blocked him as soon as he called me his best friend. No thanks sir. Let’s be real for a second. I’ll never be able to see you only as a “f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:32 AM
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do weird angle tricks to make it seem bigger 🤣 it’s so specific but I know exactly what you’re talking about. Even in my Pick Me days I could easily guess why my ex did that. Insecure weirdos 🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:52 AM
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I want to have a group of likeminded female friends before I start dating again (I don’t want a man to be the center of my life + a woman with no friends is often seen as an isolated, vulnerable prey)… but It’s HARD. There are too many pickmeisha’s out there and the few women who (I believe) share our views are very private. They never really open up and it makes it hard to bond with them. I really want sincere friendships with likeminded women but it’s hard to find them irl. And the friendships…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:32 AM
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They’d rather perish than treat women right… what a bunch of clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:38 PM
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THIS is what a feminist looks like. Not your average libfem who’s pro-porn, pro-polyamory and who shames other women for having standards. That’s a meninist undercover 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:33 PM
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I couldn’t agree more with you. I get that some women of colour will defend men from their communities but it shouldn’t be at the detriment of their own sisters. You should be able to say “they are trash” without women coming at you and basically saying NOT ALL BROWN MEN. Like… we know it’s not all of them, but it’s too many of them to stay quiet and pretend they have no faults/ are as thoughtful and kind to women from their own communities. You’re not saying all white men are perfect, clearly e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:09 PM
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Middle eastern - north african men are right next to them lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:29 PM
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All the POC men (I know) who act high-value with their white girlfriends treated women from their communities like absolute trash. They’ll treat a white woman right and take for granted/abuse women who remind them of their mother and sisters. I see it all the time. Sure, their girlfriends are more than happy to be the prize, but I cringe when I see them praise for example muslim men of colour. Do they know their partners were abusive to other women? That they hate themselves and their culture? D…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:17 PM
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It’s shocking how they will punish you for APOLOGIZING to them. Now I see why scrotes would rather lie and gaslight than ask for forgiveness, they don’t want other people to use it against them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:07 PM
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Yeah I really liked that part. It’s true that a lot of men will see you apologizing as a sign of weakness and admission of guilt, rather than a sign of maturity. I’ve apologized to men in the past and they immediately started to treat me like shit, as “payback” anything they did or said to me afterwards was justified because I apologized this one time to them. Low-value men won’t appreciate a woman who’s mature and willing to recognize her faults. They’ll make her pay for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:49 PM
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She’s a cOoL girL 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:08 PM
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What a clown… look at the aggressive body language too. You already know he’s insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:04 PM
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Even selfies? I was thinking about selfies not nudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:29 PM
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I think a lot of women tend to justify men’s behaviour through their MBTI (or astrological sign) and I have a problem with that. “Oh he must be this and that… because he’s an INTJ! 😍” “Oh he criticizes me everyday… because he’s an earth sign! 🥰🤡” when all the time, the guy is simply being a jerk. women try to understand men and justify their behaviours, meanwhile men objectify us Also men who know about those usually do to manipulate other people (especially women) so it’s a big red flag to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:51 PM
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why do men want to collect our pics? I never understood that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:26 AM
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This is true and when you experience it it’s really hard not to be disgusted by them. They don’t see women as people, unless we have something to offer. The acting is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:35 PM
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Yeah when you feel like you’re on a job interview, not a date, it’s a deal breaker. The man is collecting data on you and he will never reveal anything about himself, even a few months later. They’re the type who want you to trust them and believe their sweet words early on but they will never trust you. Projection at its finest. I was in a relationship with a sociopath and he would always change the subject when I asked him about his life. I was dating a man I knew nothing about, except for his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:58 PM
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Thank you, I’ll keep that in mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:38 PM
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What’s an appropriate time for a guy to make a woman his girlfriend? I genuinely have no idea. Edit: why am I being downvoted for asking fellow FDS-ers their opinion? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:08 PM
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Yup. It’s an insult, not a compliment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:42 PM
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She said “most men” not “all men”… which is the truth. There are a lot of misogynists who don’t see women as human beings, but as objects to use and abuse, or to brag about to other men. And it’s good to be aware of it. Less than an hour ago I had a conversation with a guy who seemed fine at first, and who ended up admitting that he wanted a pretty, ambitious girlfriend with a PhD (like him) to brag about to his friends and family. He told me he didn’t care about her character at all. It’s not t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:53 PM
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This. Such a tough lesson to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:41 PM
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Having strong boundaries is a sign of self-respect and high-value people will appreciate that. People who complain about your strong boundaries and high standards are mad because it denies them access to you. Instead of levelling up, they complain. They feel entitled to you. Also, if you have no boundaries, men will take advantage of it and insult you on the way out. You'll be shamed and blamed for allowing them to do it. Being "nice" to low-value people will get you nowhere in life. The higher …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:20 PM
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This makes me so happy. I don’t know her but I’m proud of her for coming to this conclusion by herself. Someone send her a link to join this sub, she’s one of us. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:45 PM
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😂 he was so shocked. Even my pickmeisha self had her limits. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:41 PM
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My ex called me a liar when I called him out on his bullshit, I dumped him on the spot. He told me “No, I didn’t mean to say that, I don’t think you’re a liar, I’m just mad” Die mad, then. Scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:18 PM
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The man you’re in a textuationship- fuckationship with is taking other women on proper dates. Ladies, stop giving these scrotes the confidence to pursue the women they “want”. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:16 PM
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I never understood gym dates. How. Why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:10 AM
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I’m a good cook but if a man ever asks me this question I’ll lie straight to his face. Back in my Pick me days I used to be like “Yes! Me! I loooooove to cook! Pick Me! Me!” 💀🤡 Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:02 AM
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Sorry… you feel that way Sorry… I didn’t know it was such a big deal, sorry… you’re so sensitive Oh and don’t forget about “sorry… you misunderstood me!” 🤣 Putting the blame on both of you, when he’s the only one at fault. 🤡 It’s such a waste of time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:47 PM
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Yes, don’t give him any attention, block him and his little friends. There’s nothing a narcissist hates more than being ignored. That and losing control over their target.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 10:13 PM
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Thank you! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:40 PM
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Yes. 👏 It happens all. the. time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:25 PM
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Yeah, I don't like that some FDS-ers are invalidating other women's experience. I even read something along the lines of "beautiful women are handed things easily even when it's not deserved" and I've heard misogynistic men say the exact same thing. You'll never be good enough to people who are always downplaying your achievements. "You must be dumb and a gold-digger and life must be so easy to you so let me treat you like shit and invalidate everything you say." That's dehumanizing and such a h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:03 PM
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I've had a Pick Me cut me off because her boyfriend would compare her to me. Clown behaviour. I told her he was no good for her and she chose to see me as the problem, instead of his emotionally abusive ass. Pick Mes love to give back-handed compliments and compare themselves to "attractive" women, I stopped posting pictures of myself on social media because whenever I did, a Pick Me would dm me to complain about her looks. I had to hype them up all the time, they knew it was expected of me (or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:27 PM
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These days I can tell the difference between a trophy hunter and a genuine guy from a mile away. If you have any tips, please share them with us. I'm in serious need of help because I'm starting to see all men as manipulative trophy hunters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:15 PM
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Immigrant men are the type to love bomb you and be more than happy to keep you at home (to control you). Especially if you’re white, it’s the whole package, they’ll pretend to be open minded and kind etc. whatever you need, really to seal the deal. Don’t believe they’re any better or some type of prince charming. 💀 Look at how they treat women from their own communities, it’ll tell you a lot about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:15 AM
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Same thing happened to me, fluctuating weight, same observations made. As terrible as it sounds, I felt much safer being overweight. I didn’t want to say it, but I completely agree. There’s less projection on both sides (men and women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:56 AM
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Tbh if I lose the weight I gained in quarantine and start to date again I’ll play the game like nobody else. Might as well go for men’s pockets since they’ll project so many false ideas on us anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:13 AM
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Yes, yes, yes. This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:00 AM
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I can relate to everything you’ve said. They’re the same men, only at different stages in their life. A narc love-bombed for a year and a half, the minute I liked him back, he started devaluing me and thought he could do even better. He called me his trophy and put me on a pedestal for so long, only to want more at the end. I realized he never saw me as a person. To be honest, there were some red flags that I ignored, like him comparing himself to me, he was so insecure, he’d say stuff like “You…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:51 AM
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I believe it. Narcissistic behaviour is the new normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:34 AM
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These men are evil. Not only trash, evil. I hope life punishes them when they expect it the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:31 AM
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🤡 this narc I was dating would repeat non-stop “I don’t think your cat cares about you. Oh really, you miss him? I don’t think he remembers you at all. Cats don’t care, I’m sure he forgot about you!” He really insisted, to hurt me. Dude had a dog, he never thought about his dog not loving him. 🤡 what a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:46 PM
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They talked about it on the last episode of the podcast. Narcissists will tell you the wildest, most incriminating thing and if you nod, stay, say “I understand” etc. you’ll pass the test with flying colours. He’ll know you’re an easy target and will accept anything from him. The normal reaction would be to be shocked and leave, block their ass, etc. A woman who stays and listens is a traumatized Pick Me and they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:42 PM
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He was threatening you. "This is what I'm capable of, don't disrespect me, woman."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:10 PM
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He laughed at the pain of other people. He thought someone crying or showing emotion = ridiculous. He told me he didn't trust his "best friend" because he could betray him anytime (projection at its finest). He didn't care about anyone else but himself and he was proud of it. He talked shit about every. single. person he knew, men and women. They were all losers compared to him. He wanted to "r-pe" me, the idea of doing it turned him on. Another scrote (used to be a friend of mine) bragged about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:02 PM
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Unfortunately, it’s not my definition of being spoiled. Receiving gifts on special occasions is the bare minimum. I waited for special occasions in the past and was disappointed to get low-effort gifts, after months of dating. It made me resentful. What I meant is should I expect a man to give me a gift (flowers, a necklace, a plant, whatever) during the first dates or should I wait a month or so or what. 😭 I don’t want to be unreasonable but I also don’t want to waste my time with a man who's j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 04:50 PM
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I wonder how long I should wait for a man to offer me something (other than dinner, obviously). I’ve always wanted a man to spoil me and I had to wait MONTHS before my exes offered me anything (and it was always shitty things, even though they knew exactly what I wanted). How much time is reasonable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:38 AM
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Heard in the past: "I'm a MAN, I NEED sex." He yelled it, he was visibly angry. It was his reaction to me explaining calmly that I didn't trust him yet and that I needed some more time before spreading my legs. It was over the phone, I refused to meet him again after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:18 AM
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LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:20 PM
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🤣 Thank you ladies! I can’t wait to shit test them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:02 AM
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I need examples of fake insecurities because I can only think of real ones. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:29 AM
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I’m dead lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:16 AM
32

Also the fact that he lied about his dad being in the hospital… he’s red pilled af. He expected her to chase him and turn into a Pick Me, catering to all his needs (because women are so empathetic amirite) ☠️ Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 02:10 AM
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I don't believe men can be real/good friends to women. That would be a hard no from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:38 PM
21

Yup. Idc if they’re the best male friends someone could ever have, it’s not worth the disappointment at the end. Friendships with men (if they’re genuine) are 99.9% of the time temporary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:42 PM
78

Engineers? Men in tech in general are assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:45 AM
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Thank you for explaining. Yeah that’s like the bare minimum, I’m surprised people downvoted you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:56 PM
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what did it say? I missed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:04 PM
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Yeah, when a man shows you who he really is, and what his real intentions are, leave. I regret not leaving as soon as I saw their real selves. I would have saved so much time and energy. I regret calling them out and giving them an opportunity to gaslight me. The worst ones apologized immediately, they would tell me “see? We just need to communicate” Well, communication didn’t do shit when the abuse started. Ladies, you’ll never regret leaving a man at the first red flag. You’ll regret ignoring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:01 PM
9

Thank you so much ❤️ I’m grateful for my FDS sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:22 AM
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The last part about him knowing I’m not going to take up on his offer has happened too much in the past, I didn’t even realize it until now. Thank you for helping me see things more clearly, it all makes sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:21 AM
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What would be a good example of “take care of you when you’re sick” when you don’t live together? Is it something I should expect even if I don’t live with a man? I would like to know. Because in the past I’ve only got texts (“what is it?” “I hope you’ll feel better soon” etc) and I wonder if I should expect more in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:04 AM
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This dude has Madonna - whore complex vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:37 PM
31

I was with you until the “ask him”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 04:37 AM
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Yeah, “very charismatic” isn’t a quality but a red flag to me. I’ve dated very likeable men like that, who could charm anyone = who could get away with anything, get whatever they needed from other people. In private, they were super different. Awful men who bragged about fooling everyone else. It was disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:55 PM
58

Back in my Pick Me days, I was talking to a NVM and went full pick me mode for him (after a year of him simping, I lowered my guard) and guess what? He started treating me like SHIT. He ADORED me when I was my non-pick-me self, but when I started to be interested in his hobbies, his studies, when I became super affectionate, his therapist, always there for him, eager to pick up the phone 🤡 yada yada you think he was grateful? You think he liked me more? NOPE. He started negging, triangulating me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:04 AM
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Thank you, it’s really useful, I’ll start doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:18 AM
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That's a good idea. Could you please tell us more about it? I never thought of doing that. I was just thinking to myself "a man can't be perfect, what/how much to tolerate"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:35 AM
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Tradwives always praise women (usually their mothers) who stayed married to their husband, who stood by them no matter what (the cheating, the uselessness around the house, the bankruptcy) They're no different than regular Pick Mes who are proud of being "ride or dies" Tradwives aren't the type to leave their men, but men don't care. Even trad ones, they'll leave if they want to. Most of them won't because their wives will tolerate everything, and being in a long term marriage makes them look go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:58 PM
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🤡🤡🤡 what a CLOWN. Good riddance! What is it with scrotes criticizing our appearance when we call them out on their shitty behaviour? Is it to punish us or something? “How dare you call me out, let me hurt your feelings b*tch” as if we cared in the first place…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:21 PM
48

It’s all an act. Their respect only belongs to their male superiors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:10 PM
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Happened to me in the past. 😵‍💫 The exact same thing, even the little ugly smiles (I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about). You’re nice once to a guy, he starts thinking you’re obsessed (not even “she likes me” no no OBSESSED with me, let me test her limits it’s gonna be so funny😏). They get so disrespectful and don’t even care when you bring that up to them. They’ll pretend they care, but won’t change a thing. That’s insane. It makes me never want to act like a decent person around a man, eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:56 PM
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It’s not worth it, sis. There’s a huge risk of him changing within the next few months (mask slipping) and you becoming his side chick/pen pal when he needs attention and women irl aren’t giving him any. It happened to me, it was a nightmare. I’ll never do it again. Imagine falling in love with someone who doesn’t bother loving you back, because they know damn well, in the back of their minds, that a “normal” relationship with a woman by their side is 1000x better/easier. Do you really want to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:15 PM
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Men who date multiple women are unattractive. You know a man does that when he only offers low-efforts date that won’t cost him much. A man who invests in you, takes the time to find a nice restaurant, who pays at the end etc. is making efforts to impress you. He isn’t likely to do that with other women, that would be too pricey (and exhausting). This is why we say no to coffee dates and a pizza slice at his apartment. We don’t do it for the same reasons as men. There’s no need to compare oursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:43 AM
12

Yeah they truly have an inferiority complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:39 AM
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This one hurts, but it’s effective. Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:56 AM
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A man explained it to me. It’s actually delusion. It’s because they didn’t get to be with that person, or because she left them when they didn’t expect it so they keep obsessing over her. It’s not love at all, despite what these men think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:30 PM
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Tbh, it depends. I’ve seen a lot of (non-white) men treat their white girlfriends like royalty, and women of color like garbage. This is why all of my non-white female friends (asian, middle-eastern…) date white men, it’s not that they’re not physically attracted to men from their own background, but they know they will be taken for granted, abused etc. Because non-white men know how to act around white women, they know that they can’t treat them like their dad treated their mom. They also know …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:02 PM
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I was “in love” 🤡 with one. He crushed my self-esteem and he enjoyed it. Mr. Nice guy became a sadistic monster overnight, it left me so confused. From now on, I’m keeping a foot on men’s necks. You really can’t give them an inch, not at the beginning, not after 6 months… not until you’re sure the mask has fallen off. It’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:43 PM
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Thank you. Men who choose to be unsure about you do it because they’re not afraid of losing you. They think you’ll always be around, as if there’s no competition, no one is pursuing you. They also think they can do better (prettier, smarter, wealthier) than you. You’re a second choice, always will be. Even if you end up in a relationship with them, they’ll keep looking for the next best thing. You’ll never feel good enough for them. Men who send mixed signals are assholes. It’s so insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:31 PM
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Or they’re obsessed with an ex “the one that got away” and know that they will eventually end up with her. You’re a place holder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:16 PM
36

Men shouldn’t have a female best friend past a certain age. That’s for teenagers. I’ve been the female best friend for years, nothing ever happened between me and the guy, I thought it was innocent when I was a kid, but when I grew up, I realized he was emotionally cheating on his girlfriends with me. He placed me on a pedestal, I was the Madonna and they were all whores who couldn’t compare to me. Last year, he admitted he was in love with me for the longest time (even though he never made a mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:56 PM
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Truth is, if a man doesn’t respect you at the beginning, he won’t respect you more with time. You will be always be the woman who let him get away with shit, the woman who didn’t stand up for herself, you’ll always be weak in his eyes. Even if he gets attached to you with time, in the back of his mind you’ll always be low-value to him, and he’ll eventually leave you for a high-value woman who makes him work for it from the beginning. If you’ve been a Pick Me in the past and you grew out of it, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:38 PM
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I think women have a hard time accepting this because we rarely know why a man would use us, rather than date us. Pre-FDS, it just didn’t make sense to me. I’m glad I’ve seen the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:14 PM
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You’re making the right decision. Trust your gut, respect yourself, leave him in the dust. That’s some queen sh*t. I’m proud of you, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 01:29 AM
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IMO lying by omission is even worse than lying to your face. Men do this because they know you can’t call them out on it easily, and when you do, they can always gaslight you B-b-b-but I didn’t lie!! You just didn’t ask specifically for the details that there’s no way you could have known about in the first place!! 🙄 Men who lie by omission are the sneakiest snakes out there. Run, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:21 PM
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100%. Male depravity will get worse. Look at what they’re normalizing now, imagine what it will be like for future generations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:46 PM
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Lmaoo he wanted you to chase him. He’s a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:03 AM
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Men still expect women to do all this, women still get beat up by their partners (only now, they have their penis out 🍤), on top of splitting the bills. 🤡 We have been scammed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:17 PM
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It’s so predatory and disgusting. From now on, I’m just going to assume every man who shows interest in me is a piece of shit, so that I can stay detached and not be surprised if/when his mask falls. Better be safe than sorry. But don’t look too closed off. My strategy is to play dumb and let them show me their true colours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:55 PM
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No, because I already did this mistake in the past. I rejected a man, he ran after me for months. I thought it was flattering and lowered my guard. I thought “it feels nice to be chased, he seems really interested in me, maybe I should give him a chance”. As soon as I showed interest, he started negging me, told me he could do even better, and ghosted. He got his revenge. These men are only interested in the chase. It’s a game to them. If you rejected them at first, don’t change your mind later.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:36 PM
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and six months maximum to meet their family. If his family doesn’t know about you in the first six months of the relationship, he’s wasting your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:49 PM
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I had a friend who ghosted me as soon as she got a boyfriend, but she didn’t ghost a mutual friend who’s been in a long-term relationship, and they go on double dates all the time. She’s the only friend she kept in our social circle. I really don’t get it. I have been in relationships and I’ve never discarded her because she was single at the time, that makes no sense. It feels like Pick Mes think they have levelled up once a man finally picks them, but it’s not true. It’s so disappointing being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:33 PM
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They should be ashamed of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:13 PM
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I can’t tell you how many guys have talked about eqUaLiTy when it came to split the bill… some even wanted ME to invite them to the fancy places I go to. Leeches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:06 PM
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Their facade. I am very suspicious of (all) men to be honest but especially the woke ones, those who mirror my interests and political views. I’ve met men who did it for sympathy, to look like the good guys, the allies, only to be misogynistic, rapey nvm in private. Men care a lot about their image, more than you think. The smartest (= worst) ones can be very calculated and have perfected their mask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:31 AM
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Facts. I dated a guy who told me “maybe you’ll be the first [my name] in my family” and “maybe you’ll get to meet my parents some day” and make plans for the future, “we’ll go to this place together” we did nothing, I ended up chasing him, each time I’d talk about “our” plans (his, originally) he’d find an excuse not to turn them into reality. That’s a PUA tactic and also a common thing that narcissists do. To them, words have no value, so they can tell whatever if it gets them what they want AT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:06 PM
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Exactly! A dude told me once “I’m so sorry, you know I didn’t do it with the intent of hurting you, right?” and I could only think “yeah… because you weren’t thinking of me at all. If you were, that would have been your only intent (to hurt me). That’s not a good excuse, it actually makes it worse.” They really think we are stupid and lack logical/observational skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:44 PM
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“I thought you were too stupid to put 2 + 2 together… my bad”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:41 PM
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I love this so much💕 thank you! I saved your comment and will be reading it again. Your bestie is lucky to have you in her life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 09:21 AM
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Yeah, I should do that. It’s the simplest and more effective thing to do. To answer your question, masking became a sort of second nature, I do it without thinking and then it’s hard to backtrack and be like eeee no I’m not actually like that all the time. There’s also a lot of fear and shame that I feel when I’m just being myself, which is why it’s so hard for me unless I trust the other person. It makes me vulnerable and I’m so in my head that I don’t notice the red flags. That’s definitely so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:55 AM
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friend banana dick slide 💀😂 Yeah he expected easy access into your pants. What is wrong with men? You smile at them once and it’s enough for them to think you want them. You still got to chase us! Show interest! Make some efforts! That’s the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:34 AM
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Thank you so much, these are words of wisdom and I will definitely remember them. Now that I think about it, you are right, he was crossing my boundaries and making me feel crazy on purpose. I didn’t realize that. I tend to be clueless, thank you for pointing this out for me! I would also say you have no choice but to mask and make small talk too initially. Relationships are built on communication. There’s no avoiding it. You make a really good point. I guess I can make small talk without preten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:25 PM
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Men also never call out a psycho who’s sniffing women’s hair on the bus or the train. Even if the weirdo is skinny as hell. Why? Because it’s none of their business (remind me again why men are seen as protectors?) and they don’t want to be stabbed or worse. Men know. We know. But when you cross the street to avoid walking near them at night, they all turn into cry babies and the gaslighting begins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:57 PM
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❤️❤️ we’re in this together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:34 PM
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saaame same same same. I develop romantic feelings when I can trust the other person, but the last time I did I got screwed over lol. The minute I took off the mask he started to neg me and he even told me he could do better. 🤡 (he couldn’t but that’s another topic) I actually had a crush on a male friend for about a year and I knew it was mutual but I knew it would only lead to a low effort relationship. When we used to hang out, he would always split the bill (because we were friends), and it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:35 PM
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You’re right, I’ll make a post about it. It would be interesting to discuss on FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:23 PM
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Performing out the correct social cues for my peers was just exhausting Do you mask around men (when dating them)? That’s my biggest issue with dating because I want to be close to someone and feel loved but I’ve had bad experiences in the past where I got shamed and criticized by men whenever I started to unmask. So I guess my question is, how do you all deal with that? Do you just act like yourself and risk being seen as weird or immature or rude or [insert other negative trait] OR do you alwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:14 PM
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or eLoN mUsK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:48 PM
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In the meantime, I had to learn BY MYSELF how to pass for normal Same, sis. Same. I was shamed, mocked, bullied, I didn’t understand why everyone hated me when I was just being myself and had no bad intention towards them. I had to learn by myself because health practitioners, my parents and my teachers didn’t take me seriously when I kept telling them “There is something wrong with me, I know it, I know I’m not like everyone else” It was a cry for help and no one took me seriously. I was shamed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:06 PM
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As a neuro divergent woman, it makes me so mad when I think of the way boys were treated at school (teachers were patient with them, understanding, “boys will be boys”…) VS the way I was treated (yelled at, criticized because girls are supposed to behave a certain way, I couldn’t make any mistake, I had to be mature at a very young age). Men’s feelings are far more valued than women’s feelings, anyone who tells you the opposite is a liar. Health practitioners also tend to diagnose men faster/mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:25 PM
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Your boyfriend being deliberately cold to you after you displeased him is emotional abuse. He wanted to punish you, so you’d learn your lesson. By any chance, did he also reward your good behaviour? If he did, you can be sure this man was training you like a dog. It’s not healthy, it’s not normal and a good partner would have communicated what was bothering him. Men are capable of using words, if he chose to play mind games instead, it’s a deal breaker. He’s manipulative as hell. I started to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:35 AM
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Yikes her boyfriend will either dump her and it’ll worsen her mental state or he’ll become her pimp. Men who support their sex worker gf do it because they benefit from it in some way. It sounds like your friend is surrounded by shitty people… she’s lucky to have you as a friend. I hope she’ll listen to you, for her own sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:58 AM
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She won’t be able to make money with OnlyFans eternally. Once she loses her looks, and it can happen due to an injury, depression, staying in an abusive relationship, aging… she won’t be able to find a serious job. It will also make it really hard for her to get a good man, there are already not a lot of them out there. Mia Khalifa still regrets the videos she made when she was younger. She will be in danger and sexualized all her life. It’s not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:36 AM
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I hate that it’s called feminism. It should be called equalityatthedetrimentofwomen or protectingmensfeelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:31 PM
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I’ve been permanently banned of a feminist subreddit because a man gave bad dating advice (women should chase men) and I basically just told him it only benefitted men. These subreddits are a joke at it’s either run by men or pickmeishas. If you focus on the woman, actually help her out and don’t gaslight her like everyone else, you get massively downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 08:20 PM
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It’s the fact that men support each other (by lying to women) even when they do not know each other personally and have nothing to gain from it… impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:02 PM
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Perfect! Thank you, I’ll do this in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:10 PM
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💀💀💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:35 PM
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I agree… I’m conflicted lol. OP’s also right, I can’t really have a good time if I am unsure he will do the right thing at the end of the date (pay). If there is a way to avoid being uncomfortable, I’d love to hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:44 PM
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“Honey, why did you PICK ME over 1 billion women? 😍” as if he had the choice lol. The man was probably attractive to one or two women maximum. Pick mes really need to stop acting like their men are a catch. They’re not. The man knows it, and when he says ehh I was getting old thought I might as well settle, he wasn’t joking, he was telling her the truth and she was laughing at HERSELF. Girl bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:28 PM
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How do you make sure that he will take care of the bill (before the date)? How do you ask him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:21 PM
68

I am not afraid of asserting my boundaries anymore, or calling them out when they cross them. I already knew they were shitty and abusive, but I didn’t have the courage to call them out. I thought I wasn’t allowed to defend myself. FDS taught me it is my right to call out people who harm me, and my responsibility to distance myself from them. They didn’t like it at first. They still don’t. They never will. But they have stopped screaming at me when I assert my boundaries, because they know that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:13 PM
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Yup 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:09 PM
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It really is so disrespectful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:51 PM
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It really is a form of negging. Back in my pick me days, I used to wonder what I did wrong, and why did he text me first if talking to me is so annoying?! Why does he text me first then leaves me on read/sends one text per hour. It’s to make you chase them. Now if a scrote ever sends me “hey” I’m not even matching his energy, I’m gonna leave him on “delivered”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:37 PM
68

They absolutely judge us on our music taste. This is why so many men are reluctant to share their playlists. They know it’ll show us their true colors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:11 PM
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Agreed. Don’t forget about men who listen to The Weeknd a.k.a toxic, pill popping scrote who fucks b-tches left and right and proudly sings about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:45 PM
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🎯🎯🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:26 AM
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most of them will just use it against you or think less of you Facts. I’ve been called “weak” by a nvm when I opened up to him (once) but he would always complain about his life in my DMs and treat me like a personal therapist. Absolute trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:53 PM
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Scrotes all think that way. That’s why they will “punish” every single woman in their lives after being rejected once in 12th grade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:49 PM
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I can relate. It makes me so mad when I think about it. I was doing better when I had strong boundaries, standards and listened to my intuition. If you’re not a doormat, people think you’re “mean” but when you become one, they think you’re dumb, weak, with no personality or self-esteem and it gives them the right to abuse you. Fuck that. You can never win with them. I’m done being a people-pleaser. I’m angry at people who told me to be soft and sweet and nice and forgiving because that’s how a w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:01 PM
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Look at the quote/fav ratio 😂😂 He deleted out of shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:58 PM
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He sounds like a covert narcissist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:07 AM
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do men realize how selfish it is for them to have a kid in their fifties? Mine could be my grandpa, his age gave me extreme anxiety when I was a kid because I could see my friends dads young and healthy and I was wondering if mine would still be alive in my 20s/for my wedding etc. It's traumatizing. I'm never going to bring a child into this world at an old age, and surely won't waste my youth being some old scrote's bang maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:13 PM
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Did I write this and forgot about it? Seriously, I agree a 100%. I am neurodivergent and take (most of the time) everything literally, so when my parents taught me not to lie, I instantly followed this rule and thought everyone else did too. But not everyone is honest and to be trusted and I've had to learn it the hard way. From now on I'm doing whatever it takes to protect myself. Idgaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 08:56 PM
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> it's reduced down to their ego and what gets them the most service for the least effort. simple and clear description of lvm mentality. A relationship to them is a contest, you're not their partner, you're their competitor. If they provide (SiMp) they lose. If they get you to act like a doormat, chase them, they win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:13 PM
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we all go through stages where we reevaluate friendships apparently, some people don’t. I’ve had a few low-value people acting like it was shocking for me to be in this phase at a certain point in my life, even when I explained clearly they would make me feel like I was too complicated or some social loser, like wtf… no… you can go through something rough in life and realize you’ve outgrown most of your friends… that’s a thing, people, and it’s totally not unreasonable. I feel like it’s a red fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:40 PM
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Back in my pick me days, I made the mistake of telling a man (basically dropping hints) that I was thinking of booking a spa day, that I needed to relax, you know what he said? “Which one? I am planning on taking my brother to (enter name of fancy spa)” I was shocked. I wasn’t good enough to be taken to the spa, but my idea was a good one… for someone worthy, meaning his brother or another male friend. He never went to the spa with his brother lol, he’s cheap as hell, but he wanted me to know ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:26 PM
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Yikes reminds me of the time a narc forced me to keep my eyes open while he was kissing me. It was absolutely horrifying. He opened his eyes so much I thought they were going to fall. Complete psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:06 AM
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I’m DEAD 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:43 PM
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How is this different from what talibans do with afghan women and little girls? Incels redpillers misogynists are a menace to society. Give them guns and chaos and they will treat us like cattle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:28 PM
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Lmfaooo what a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:25 PM
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most of them are psychopaths I’m convinced
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:46 PM
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Sorry…you’re so sensitive and can’t take a joke!!!!🤣 classic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:14 PM
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👆 this! People are becoming more and more ridiculous. Yes, in this situation women and children should be a priority and it’s not a crime to say it! It’s common sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:10 PM
285

Paris’ mayor Anne Hidalgo tweeted “we need to help the afghan women escape” and a dozen of libfems said “what about aghan men!? do they deserve to die!? You just want to propagate your anti-burqa propaganda by “freeing” these women” WTF. No, women in this situation are in greater DANGER than afghan men and we need to rescue them ASAP. Women who won’t get killed won’t be able to get an education, work, wear what they want, express themselves, they will be forced into marriage or turned into sex s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:42 AM
237

Terrifying but realistic image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:23 AM
21

You know what… I think you’re right. It’s terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:58 PM
236

is it cuz mom makes more money than you? 💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:34 PM
1

Yessss. I want a chiseled greek god with a heart of gold and a big fat bank account. Nothing less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:54 AM
76

What would you gain from playing dumb? Who cares about his misogynistic point of view? Communicating is a f-cking trap. A scrote will never tell you the truth. BLOCK AND DELETE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:42 PM
92

same sis. same…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:46 PM
269

addiction from cycling through fear and pain to happiness from him being nice and affectionate a few days after OOF. That’s the harsh truth. Men know it too. They’ll temporarily treat you like a princess… as a treat after letting them degrade you. Training you like a dog. When he calls you sl-t or wh-re or b-tch to get off, it’s not play - that’s how he fucking sees you. Yeah they aren’t going to like this one but it’s the cold, harsh TRUTH. Any man who enjoys degrading women in bed is a MISOGYN…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:20 PM
45

Men are never praised for or encouraged to stick around toxic, manipulative, women who don’t care about them. They are called c*cks and simps for far less than that. Edit: typo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:31 PM
79

Dear pickmeishas, when you choose to see the good in a man who is clearly evil, you are not seen as a Saint, but as a clown. You are not the Madonna, but the desperate woman who “deserves” (edit: according to scrotes) to be used and abused because you allow others to do so. Also, stop posting stuff like this on social media, even if you do believe that everyone is capable of being good, it will only attract predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:26 PM
22

Exactly. Women have to meet ridiculous standards since the beginning of time, but you don’t see a terrifying number of them turn into mass murderers, psychopaths or rapists. Men reject feminism and modernity because they have to pretend to be nice to us now if they want a girlfriend or sex. They actually have to make efforts, unlike their grandpas, and they hate us for it. “FeMiNiSm HaS rUinEd eVeRytHiNG anD iT wiLL oNlY gET wOrSe.” shut the f up, Kyle. If you can’t be a decent person maybe go l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:21 AM
16

I’ve seen men defend the murderer on another subreddit, talking about his mental health issues and how people (women) use it as an excuse to dehumanize him and that’s meAn. The fuck. Someone needs to lock them up before they turn into mass murderers themselves. The manosphere creates monsters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:15 AM
5

You could call the police and let them know a creepy man (a stalker) showed up in your neighborhood last night and you don’t feel safe. It may be a good thing to report him, just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:09 PM
3

Yes sis, I will text you later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:59 PM
624

What is (not) funny to me is that low-value men will say this… but we don’t want them. We literally do not want to pick you up. 🚮 FDS doesn’t teach women to manipulate men, or coerce them into having sex with them. FDS teaches women to have some self-respect and to stay away from weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:17 PM
7

Scrotes have nothing but audacity (and entitlement)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:39 AM
25

I was wondering if it was a “test” to see if the woman is gullible/ a “good” person. You’ve confirmed my suspicions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:37 AM
46

A hobosexual is a person who jumps into relationships to have a place to live. Meaning, he’s homeless, or he lives with his mama, or in a small, dirty flat with male roommates who won’t cook and clean for him and he wants to get out of there. He’s an opportunist who wants to live in your place for free, get free food and sex, and in exchange he’ll pretend to love you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:19 AM
55

❤️ Thank you for sharing. I got played left and right, and I didn’t wake up until a narcissist broke my heart (and my spirit). It’s like I was given a slap in the face, one that finally woke me up. I decided to focus on myself, got a therapist and discovered FDS and FemaleLevelUpStrategy not long after. It felt like “divine” timing lol. I’ve grown so much since, it makes me proud of myself. I have learned to set boundaries and distance myself from toxic people of all genders. I should have done …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:48 PM
55

But is she the asshole? 🤡 /s screams HE CLEARLY IS THE ASSHOLE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:13 PM
43

Right? meanwhile, you can’t even be sure he’ll get a haircut/take a shower before meeting you. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:42 PM
5

Agreed. It can also be extended to men who grew up in a household where the mother and father both had to work, and went 50/50 on everything. The men I dated who only knew this dynamic always expected me to pay half for everything, even if they made way more than me. We would talk about finances and they’d always make me feel like a gold-digger. I am not, I can take care of myself, I don’t need anyone to help me financially. It’s what I grew up with so I think it’s natural that a man protects an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:24 PM
147

A lot of women actually fear going on a dinner date with men because there is always a chance he’ll be rude to her, neg her for an hour, expect her to pay at the end (not only for herself but for him too, we all know the audacity of scrotes), etc. We don’t even enjoy dates with them, we’re fearful before meeting them & literally put ourselves in danger (you can never know if he’ll follow you back home or harass you for weeks after this one dinner date). To male lurkers: Stop thinking highly of y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:20 PM
19

Exactly. He thought she would spoil him and make him delicious meals. The scrote doesn’t want to eat rice, chicken and beans everyday, even if it’s for free. He wants better than that for himself. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:43 PM
212

“Boo hoo she’s so vanilla, she’s no fun, I want passion” = tOxIC sex, choking her, insult her, spit on her, doing it from behind etc. He’s really asking for strangers on the internet to criticize his WIFE and (indirectly) give him tips on how to lower her boundaries. He’s looking for support. This man is a piece of sh*t. I hope his wife leaves him, if he doesn’t like vaNiLLa sex he should try having none at all. Edit: also, notice how he says “she’s definitely a beautiful woman” and “I’m an aver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:26 PM
98

“I just want to feel superior to someone, even if it’s just in bed, with a woman. Am I really the asshole for wanting to degrade my wife for my own pleasure? She won’t let me r*pe her you guys, she’s so mean. Apparently I’m the gross one for not respecting her boundaries. I just don’t get it. I am insecure and I feel so small compared to other men, why won’t she let me use her body to inflate my ego? :(“
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 12:19 PM
30

Have you seen a man coMmUniCaTe with his disrespectful/cheating girlfriend? no. Men have too much ego to give you a second chance. They never tell other men to CoMmUnIcAtE. The woman is called all kind of names & he’s told to dump her asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:07 AM
16

Exactly. It means you’re giving straight to the point, useful advice. Which is exactly the opposite of what people are used to on these subs. They’re amateurs of word salad, useless personal questions (voyeurism) and debates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:05 AM
3

Ladies, don’t forget to check their DISCORD app. From personal experience, trust me when I say gamers are a big NO, no, but if you do date a man who seems high-value and is a gamer, check their discord!!!! They use it to call, videocall and send messages, and many men add gamer girls and flirt with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:36 AM
3

This is gold. Thank you! Where is it? In the settings?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:18 AM
16

Yeah pick me’s don’t like to be called out, and this is out we do on FDS. We hold women accountable too, their ego is too big to see it’s in their best interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:06 AM
60

Your boyfriend’s friend is a scrote. What does your bf and him even have in common, for them to be friends? It’s a red flag sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:57 PM
1

Thank you! I learned something new today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:36 PM
4

Yup. This man is knocking down a woman, I don’t care if she’s a Kardashian or AOC any man who’s comfortable criticizing a woman this openly is pathetic to me. He’s probably jealous of her success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:34 PM
2

what is reaction formation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:31 PM
133

same here. we were shamed as little girls because grown men couldn’t stop staring at our bodies, it’s disgusting. I still feel uncomfortable when I think of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:49 PM
147

If prehistoric men were only interested in young teen girls, humans would never have survived. THIS. Thank you. It’s not in men’s nature to be pedophiles past a certain age, that’s 100% our society’s fault. They became more depraved with time and porn (which didn’t exist before) normalizes it. I am SICK and tired of scrotes hiding behind “biOloGY” and sCiEnCe to justify their depravity. They should be IN JAIL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:30 PM
354

And the UPVOTES? How many men out there relate to him?!? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:23 PM
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Girls that age are a whole lot of drama I’m sorry that’s what stopping you from hooking up with a teenager? What the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:13 PM
72

I love your energy so much. I can’t wait to buy myself a nice car and intimidate the scrotes 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:58 AM
42

reminds me of the time I apologized to a man for rightfully calling him out (he told me I made him sad blah-blah and how could I believe such things about him). He even told me “what are you apologizing for?” I felt so stupid. I didn’t even know what to say. Now I know it was my reaction to being gaslit. He must have thought I was dumb as hell. ☠️ and honestly, as a pick me, I kinda was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:10 PM
14

Very insightful post. Thank you! I’m saving it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:40 PM
37

I’ve even had male “friends” send me to the wolves. They gave me the worst advice on purpose, even though they pretended to care about me and respect me 🤡 I’m so glad I’m not a pickmeisha anymore & can see (low-value) men as they truly are, and not as I want them to be (good).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:02 PM
15

Thank you, it makes a lot of sense… I completely agree, it’s emotional abuse and not to be taken lightly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:53 PM
55

how come? I never made the link between nitpicking & cheating, but now that you say it, my nvx was dating other women behind my back, while criticizing me all the time… do they compare us to other women? Is that the reason?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:58 PM
102

a lot (I mean more than we think) of men fantasize about their mothers & sisters. they secretly feel entitled to their bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:55 PM
25

Your boyfriend is dishonest… is it something you can tolerate? it doesn’t harm you now, but it could in the future. His mask slipped for a moment, you’re right to not trust him completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:44 PM
25

Yes! People who lied for no reason (it was always the smallest things) always turned out to be abusive and way worse than I could have ever imagined. At first, their lies would make me laugh, like “that’s ridiculous but ok, there’s no harm in that” until the lies accumulated and they did a lot of harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:50 PM
131

Yiiiikes they’re so embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:58 PM
10

Exactly. She doesn’t need to find him a new place, she’s not his mama. Women aren’t responsible of their boyfriends. We’re only responsible of ourselves. Anything else is TOXIC. Who cares what happens next to him? Sis, it’s your place, kick him out, he’ll call a friend or a relative or go to a hotel. He’s a grown a* man. He would have kicked you out if the roles were reversed. Don’t let him poison your life any longer. Your mental health & peace of mind comes first. He sounds like a man-child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:20 PM
298

People need to grow up. Unhealthy relationships are for high schoolers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:42 PM
20

oooh she’s insecure and intimidated by you, that’s why she was touching her partner non-stop “he’s mine” “look how much he loves me” “look we make such a good couple” Edit: now that I think of it, I used to be friend with a pickmeisha who did this all. the. time. when I met her (and her bf was around). I always felt uncomfortable. It clearly wasn’t something she did naturally. It felt forced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:05 AM
15

he’s mirroring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:02 AM
28

👆Exactly! Since I’ve discovered FDS I realized dating/relationships can be so easy/simple, you get out at the first sign of abuse & when your needs aren’t met, finito end of the story you saved yourself time and energy and can focus on people who will actually be right for you. There’s really no need to overthink and all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:55 AM
19

Yeah well it’s “FDS BuLLsHiT” clowns and abusers dEseRvE LoVe tOo you misandrist how dare you deny them access to your body. /S🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:25 AM
34

Exactly. Before FDS I was completely clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:45 PM
22

Scroty McScrotoson 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:22 PM
164

Classic pick me negging. She’s insecure and jealous of you. Don’t take it personally sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:19 PM
64

A man who seemed high-value shared Jordan Belfort’s (the wOlF oF waLL sTreEt 🐺) latest post on his feed. It was disappointing. Now I can’t help but see him as a clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:51 PM
174

The problem is, a lot of “single” guys jump from situationship to situationship, and you’ll never know about it. They’re emotionally invested and sexually active but will lie and act as if they’re “focusing on themselves”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:48 PM
30

Thank you so much for sharing 💜 I take notes too. 😂 The content is just so good and valuable, if it was all in a book I’d buy it immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:58 AM
138

I’m not surprised he didn’t attack MEN who “looked happy” because he’s weak compared to them and he knows it. Men who abuse & attack women are cowards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 09:48 AM
11

same!! I dated a guy who misspelled my name multiple times when it was written on HIS SCREEN (Facebook messenger). The disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:22 AM
14

Don’t forget this emoji 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:21 PM
130

Yeah, meaning letting him beat you up in the bedroom. If you tell him you’d like more hugs, forehead kisses, holding hands in public and stuff he’ll say you’re too needy/being a princess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:53 PM
3

Exactly. Just be yourselves, scrotes. There’s no need to play games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:21 PM
145

Lmfaoo he showed all his cards in the first few messages. Block & delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:12 PM
123

what the hell is wrong with them? That’s a level of stupidity I’ve never seen before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:07 PM
234

He’s a sexual predator. You did the right thing by listening to your intuition, he was 100% talking about his penis. 🤏 Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:44 AM
73

He probably wants to find one only to crush her & get an ego boost. Like it’s a challenge. You know they won’t block & delete like we do with red pillers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:18 AM
46

“we’re not dumb like y’all” and this is why men are never grateful to the women who support them at their lowest, a “ride or die” is a loser who should know better, it’s not a title to be proud of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:04 AM
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Yup. I honestly wonder where the idea “pretty women live life on easy mode” comes from Because people always try to knock me down, men are insecure around me AND pickme women see me as competition, making it almost impossible for me to have genuine friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:56 AM
78

I was nice to a scrote once, he was convinced I had feelings for him, we could never have a normal convo without him reading inexistant things in between the lines. It was so ridiculous, I cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:32 AM
136

“But- but- I’m a king!!! I’m the prize!! MuH peNiS makes me superior 🥺🤡”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:30 AM
1

ooof that’s my mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:24 PM
111

He was thinking of another woman… while sleeping with his wife… on their honeymoon. But he pretends to love her and respect her. Scrotes don’t even know what LOVE is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:56 PM
35

She takes 2-3 months to answer? That’s more than disrespectful. This woman does not value you as a friend (or see you as one). I’m sorry, I know it can hurt, but the relationship is clearly one-sided, she’s a coward who’s scared of telling you how she really feels about you, she probably wants you to take a hint. Edit: I had the same experience with a former bEsTfrIeNd. Ended up blocking her. The only thing I regret is not doing it sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:21 PM
167

Lmfaooo as she should
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:37 PM
50

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:36 PM
132

I will not mentally chase some random dude, if he doesn’t put in the efforts to be in my life it’s his loss 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:29 PM
98

Thanks for the reminder. Earlier* today, I caught myself thinking “why didn’t he react to my post/how should my IG feed look to make me more attractive in his (any man’s) eyes?” I shouldn’t have to think so much about it, to stress about what I post online, I shouldn’t be so afraid to show up as MYSELF, my real self, I’m good enough. there’s so much conditioning to undo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:01 PM
455

woman who had a baby with an emotionally unavailable scrote gets all the love and validation she needs from her son (the other man in the house). she commits emotional incest, has internalized misogyny to the point where she’s jealous and proud of making a younger woman’s life miserable, and is not ashamed of it one bit Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:49 PM
44

I know very intelligent abusive, workaholic, zero-value men. They lack self-esteem and need their academic titles to feel better about themselves, they need something to compare themselves to other people and feel better than them. I thought they were maybe more mature, more satisfied with their lives, but nope, they were the most abusive, pathetic men I dated. They could never be satisfied with their achievements, and project that onto others. I’m talking about top-students in engineering with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:43 PM
18

Thank you! I’m so tired of people (MEN) telling me it’s normal that the honeymoon phase ends in a relationship. No it’s not normal. If you stop seducing me & making me feel happy, I’m leaving you. I’m not staying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 12:32 PM
128

It’s not funny, it’s not cute, women in relationships with incompetent, useless men need to stop doing this shit. It’s embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 09:06 AM
187

That’s disgusting. I had a similar experience at the airport, an old man (great-grandpa old, I’d give him 75-80 years old) came to me, he wanted me to serve him a cup of coffee (he didn’t know how to use the coffee machine…) so I did, because I pitied him. He then proceeded to tell me how he was a successful businessman who owned several buildings in the US and Canada, and how he used his money to travel now. He was clearly hitting on me. He then asked me if I was a student yet and if I needed s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:48 PM
39

Throw away the whole friend group , OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:30 PM
28

I hate when people talk about “both sides” when there is clearly an abuser and a victim. Makes me want to vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:28 PM
147

“I ain’t your hooker, your nanny, or your maid” 🎶😌🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:50 PM
62

It was never love, it was fear of losing control over you. He’s a pathetic man, will always be. I’m glad you got rid of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:34 PM
294

WTF dude. I’m a person, not a democracy 🤣☠️ Ok but why do they feel so entitled to us?! My nvx told me “we can’t break up, I put too much efforts in this relationship” um sir, first of all, no you clearly didn’t or else I wouldn’t leave you, and 2) you don’t get to decide for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:55 PM
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It happened to me once. I stayed in a relationship that was unsatisfying to me, my partner didn’t cheat, he wasn’t abusive, he didn’t play games, but he took me for granted after a while and stopped making efforts to seduce me. I ended up resenting him, I tried to tell him I was unhappy and bored, he did try to seduce me again, but it was too little, too late. I hated him for even putting me in this position. From now on, if I’m unhappy in a relationship, I’ll just leave. I don’t have to stick a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:32 PM
21

Thank you. This is a great post. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:53 PM
18

You’re describing my dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:59 AM
32

This is exactly how my ex treated me. You’re not overly sensitive, if you have to ask yourself this question, it means you are being gaslighted. Your boyfriend is the problem. Trust me, he knows it, there’s no need for you to tell him. You won’t gain anything from that. He doesn’t care if his words hurt you. He needs someone to belittle in order to feel better about himself. This man doesn’t care about you as much as he cares about himself. Please take your dignity and go. I was in the same situ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 10:57 AM
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And when they tell you what they’re looking for in a woman (even though you didn’t ask 🙄 no one cares sir) they do it to manipulate you subtly. “I’m looking for an independent woman” is code for “a woman who won’t expect anything from me” & “I’m looking for a woman who can laugh about anything, who’s not sensitive” is code for “You better laugh when I insult you, be ready for some intense gaslighting” I had to learn this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:25 PM
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I’m glad you got rid of him. My narc ex treated me the same. Literally the same. Men with mental health issues can be dangerous and abusive to the women they’re dating. I’m not ashamed of protecting myself by refusing to let another one into my life. Cry more, male lurkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:11 PM
86

Unfortunately a zero-value man will expect his girlfriend to be his therapist, on top of being his bangmaid. Scrotes feel entitled to our energy, so when you call them out and tell them “don’t rely on your partner to fix your mental health disorders” or “go to therapy, get some help, focus on yourself instead of hurting women” it feels like an attack. To us, it’s common sense. If we’re not in a good place mentally, we’d rather stay single and work on ourselves than poison someone else’s life. Sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:04 PM
15

Oh hell no. I don’t even know what I’m looking at. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:44 PM
431

You know what they say: when respect isn’t served, learn to leave the table. You said no to a life of misery and for that, you can be proud of yourself OP. 💕🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:08 PM
23

as if he’s only allowed to respect one woman at a time OMG YES YOU WORDED IT PERFECTLY what is wrong with them?! I thought there was NO ambiguity between us 😐 suddenly there is? I came to the conclusion that they’re only keeping us on the bench until they find another woman who’ll fulfill their emotional AND sexual needs, two birds with one stone. They only distance themselves when we’re not useful to them anymore. Friendships with low-value men are transactional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:03 PM
2

🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:54 AM
3

Obviously none of us would marry a potential cheater, but people change. This is simply something to protect yourself, in case he ever betrays your trust and disrespects your union. I also see it as a vetting strategy, if he’s reluctant to sign a legal agreement, it means he doesn’t know for sure he won’t cheat on me (and get caught). You’re not obliged to take this preemptive mesure tho. You do what’s best for you. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:35 AM
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😂 this is gold. I’m saving it as a NVM Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:02 AM
24

Honestly same. She had some very bad experiences with men in the past, but she levelled up. She really loves my brother, but she didn’t want to be tied down to a possible low-value men pretending high-value. She valued her independence more than anything because she knew marrying the wrong man could destroy her life. He chased her and HE proved his worth to her. So when I see low-value men not doing shit to impress women, even negging them, and acting like they’re the prize (basically princesses…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:39 PM
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I’m sorry this happened to you. It was rude and irresponsible of him. He put you in danger. On the bright side, he mask FELL on the third date. It saved you so much time and energy. Can you imagine dating a man for months and he’s hung up on his ex the whole time? No thanks. The trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:11 PM
87

That’s the harsh truth. Men do not care about their female friends as much as they pretend to. We live and we learn. ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:29 PM
4

Do you have any tips related to tech for us please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:56 PM
78

If something ever happens to him, she will inherit all his money & possessions. She doesn’t want to be left with nothing if we (other relatives) ever decide to claim our part. She told him she’ll have his kids one day and as the man of the family, he needs to think ahead and put her (and their kids) first. He will also have to take care financially of her and the kids, e.g. paying the nanny, putting money aside for college etc. So he’s not entitled to her money at all. Mind you, she doesn’t want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:44 PM
85

I can only think of a legal agreement. Make it expensive to waste your time. If he’s smart, he’ll think twice before cheating on a woman who could leave him and take all his assets. This is what my sister-in-law did with my brother. Good for her. Honestly, if a man who pretends to love me isn’t willing to sign a paper that protects me, he’s not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:31 PM
6

what’s the title of the book please? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:32 PM
27

I’m not gonna lie, at first I made the mistake of beating myself up. I was angry at myself, instead of being angry at the men who manipulated me. Until I realized this is what I was conditioned to do. As women, we’re taught to internalize our pain, we’re taught men can never be held accountable for their actions. But victim blaming is unfair. I realized it was due to internalized misogyny and decided to work on that. I needed to honour my feelings and allow myself to be angry at those who hurt m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:34 AM
12

Classic love-bombing (words were like licorice to the taste, you’re the one who started talk to me) -> devalue (you started getting funny with no jokes, you’ve been lying just for fun) -> gaslighting (now you’re treating me like I’m insane) -> discard (been dodging phone calls lately) Glad she realizes she’s not the problem, he is. “now I see YOU’RE kinda crazy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:06 AM
20

Also use it as an opportunity to invest in yourself, not only your children. A way to do it is to buy jewellery (especially GOLD) with his money. Tell him you can’t wait to pass a jewellery collection down to your kid, act like it’s a treasure that will always stay in the family. You will always be able to sell his valuable gifts if something ever happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:49 AM
14

This is why you don’t coddle/baby a man. He’ll let you do it if he profits from the situation, but deep down he’ll resent you for treating him like a child. They’d rather be held responsible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:36 AM
30

Now imagine if we all sued our LVX for mental anguish. At least we would have a real case lmao. Reverse uno 🔄 More seriously, scrotes have no shame. 🙄 If you dare hurt their fragile egos they’ll do anything to make your life miserable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:06 AM
34

Red pillers be like: I’m not a victim! No one oppresses me! Patriarchy can’t be against me! I’m an alpha male! I’m the one who benefits from it! 🤡 and then put all their time and energy in learning how to manipulate women. They feel so small next to high-value men, they HAVE to dominate (bully) SOMEONE, even if it’s a woman, to feel better about themselves. Real lovable and respectable men would never do what they do. Real men protect and provide for the women in their lives, they’re strong men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:32 AM
45

Yikes. If only I knew this earlier. First low-value ex told me his mom got cancer right after I broke up with him, like it was a pass for all the abusive things he did. I didn’t flinch. Told him it was sad for his mom and he should focus on her health instead of harassing me. Blocked him right after. Another scrote (who pretended to be my best friend… when we weren’t flirting/having sex) ghosted me for a whole month. When he came back, I called him out on his behaviour. At first, he tried to gas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:52 AM
222

Women get called sensitive all the time. Men are very much allowed to feel their feelings. they’re just taught not to empathize or care or be of service (…) that’s when they’re called a SIMP or a beta She worded it perfectly 🗣 It’s no surprise 80% of sociopaths are men. This is a reminder to always be careful around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:55 PM
2

🫂 ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:50 PM
5

You’re so right. I had to learn this the hard way (pre-FDS). It doesn’t help that he was a software engineer too ☠️ I’m starting to see a pattern
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:48 PM
22

A true queen 👑 much respect to her. I hope her daughter knows how much she loves her 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:43 PM
91

A narc told me it was very common for men to show each other’s sextape at the gym etc. I was shocked. He was 25 and the last man who showed him a vid of his girlfriend naked was in his FORTIES. We’re not talking about immature teenage boys here. Ladies, never trust men with your nudes. I regret sending some in the past, I wouldn’t be surprised if they screen shotted them & showed them around. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:31 PM
28

It is no wonder in the past I have been a quiet pushover with no boundaries when dating men. I came to the same conclusion recently. this behaviour was definitely learned at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:27 PM
11

He’s never reached out to anyone before for help Yes, because he didn’t want to. He’s only doing it because he’s obliged to. Remember, you caught him red handed, he knows he’s in trouble. He knows you could leave him at any moment and rightfully so. Objectively, it’s too little, too late. It’s not something you should be grateful for. He shouldn’t be proud of it either. It’s a desperate attempt to lure you back in and if you fall for it, and lower your guard, he will betray you again in the futu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:11 PM
5

We must protect our peace and mental health at all cost. Proud of us for making the tough but right choices 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:22 PM
35

Yup. The mask is slipping. It will only get worse. If she tolerates this, he will destroy her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:22 PM
37

when you truly move on, an ex serves no purpose in your life. You’re over them, they’re over you, you wish each other the best and go no contact. You can still respect them and care about them and recognize you weren’t meant to be on the same path. It’s called life. This man clearly wants something from his ex, wether it is attention, validation, sex, knowing she’s still one of his girls (part of his harem), control… Healthy, mature people don’t stay in touch with their exes, especially not in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:59 PM
52

I’d recommend distancing yourself (and your children) from muslim communities. I’ve moved a lot so I’ve seen a lot of them, and they all are toxic as hell, full of hypocrites and judgmental people. Most muslim moms are raging Pick Mes and their kids will influence yours. Seeing muslim husbands and sons being treated like kings will have an impact on the way your boys will see women. It will have a negative impact on your little girls self esteem. I’m a young muslim woman, I’m not part of a commu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:12 AM
36

Exactly. Plus, I could never respect a man who’s all talk, no action. Don’t get my hopes up for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:50 AM
45

Thank you for thinking of your neuro divergent sisters. 💕 It’s a great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 08:04 AM
165

we’ve talked about getting married …but he didn’t propose. How long has she been waiting for a move on his part? Talk is cheap. I finally decided I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t need to wait for him to propose! Sounds like he’s stringing her along & she knows it deep down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:41 AM
20

The picture has some weird vibes. AHS vibes lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:00 AM
6

I went on a date with a guy in high school. He kept blowing up my phone and told everyone I was his girlfriend. I had to set boundaries and let him know we simply weren’t meant for each other. I blocked him the same week because he kept pushing my boundaries. It’s been YEARS and he keeps creating new Facebook & Instagram accounts to add me. I block one, he creates another, and it won’t stop. I created a new account recently and he managed to find it. I talked to this guy once in my life, now he’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:18 PM
72

Video games companies treat their women employees like garbage. UBISOFT Montreal has so much sex scandals, misogynistic comments made openly in the office space etc it’s infuriating but I can’t say it’s surprising. The promotions are given to men there too. There are a lot of NVM working in the video game industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:12 PM
39

men don’t get shit for this they get praised 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣 louder for the people in the back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:30 PM
45

🤣 this post is hilarious. Thank you for sharing. The man is still LV, he probably wanted you to chase him now that he’s making money & lost the extra weight. He showed you pictures of his girlfriend to prove “he’s a catch” and maybe even make you a little bit jealous (“look at what you’re missing! This could have been you!”). You know how men fantasize about being rich and famous and rejecting the girl who rejected them in HS. ☠️🙄 And please don’t listen to those who tell you you’re being mean. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:21 PM
30

my narc ex held it for 6 months. I dated another narc who held it for a year and a half (so around 18 months) they both became abusive monsters once the mask slipped. It was like dating mr. Jekyll & dr. Hyde I was terrified In hindsight there were definitely some early red flags I ignored. The unnecessary white lies, the uncomfortable feeling around them, the love bombing, the manipulation, they’d both say stuff like I don’t like sensitive women… I like independent women who don’t need me or my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:08 PM
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and blaming the kids when they start to understand what’s going on. I told my mom about my dad watching my cleavage and how uncomfortable it made me feel, I was crying. She didn’t confort me. She looked mad & told me “it’s a very serious accusation to make on your father” in an intimidating tone. She went back to drinking coffee next to him right after, as if nothing happened. She gave me the silent treatment for a few days, surely as a way to punish me for speaking up. Pick Mes are dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:07 PM
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99% of people seeking relationship advice on Reddit already know what to do (dump their shitty partners) They always answer their own questions. I understand sometimes you need support, validation, but when it includes children’s safety they need to go ahead and do what’s right ASAP. Not debate with strangers online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:02 PM
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No, no. This man is not stupid or ignorant at all. You probably shouldn’t have seen those He knows it’s wrong. He knows he can’t be proud of having these pictures in his phone. When it come to scrotes, I’ve learned to never give them the benefit of the doubt. Look at his girlfriend gaslighting herself, she can’t believe he’s a pedo, even with good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:49 PM
37

Date him at his lowest and he’ll think you’re a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:27 PM
47

Women are taught to internalize their pain and blame themselves Men are taught to externalize their pain and blame EVERYONE but themselves for their own short-comings. He’s insecure? He’s broke? EVERYONE needs to suffer as much as him. You’ll have body dysmorphia while dating him. Oh, and he’ll call you poor while abusing you financially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:24 PM
33

men : ThE raTioNaL sEx women : cRaZy sEnSiTiVe eMoTiOnAL PsYcHoS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:22 PM
127

This. depraved men love to see how much they can get away with. they want you to feel uncomfortable. it arouses them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:17 PM
505

“He’s a great dad.” 😑🙄 REALLY? I’m getting tired of women complimenting these creepy men. Are they scared of being told they’re exaggerating or something? You can call a spade a spade. It’s not a crime. I fear for his daughters safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:08 PM
1

Lmfao I knew a tech bro who’d always say stuff like this. He was trying too hard to look unimpressed. It was pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:59 PM
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Yes of course. As soon as he shows you he’s dishonest, manipulative, stingy, run. Run away from weirdos as far as you can and never look back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:10 PM
9

😂😂☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:09 PM
28

They are so terrified of their own emotions. How can they not see how weak and pathetic it makes them? Scheming, over-complicating romantic relationships, what the hell is wrong with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:04 PM
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I’ll never understand why scrotes date women who they are clearly not compatible with, only to hate/ neg her & force her to change to please HIM. What is wrong with them? Sir, there’s no need to be insulting, go date a woman who doesn’t want to have kids, there are tons of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:58 PM
35

Spot on 🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:57 PM
13

This man sees you as an option. He doesn’t want to fully disconnect because he doesn’t lose anything by keeping you on the bench. If he needs attention one day, or “a friend” 🙄 he’ll know who to talk to. It’s selfish of him. If he was high-value, he would have told you the truth and by doing so, giving you the choice to go no-contact. But he’ll never admit he played you. That’s exactly what he did, and what many men did to us too. The second they get your attention, they move onto the next one… …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:15 PM
11

I read Blake is rude to Reynolds female fans, she lashed out at one for wanting a picture with her husband. I wonder why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:38 AM
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It’s never a stupid decision to stand up for yourself and not allowing others to treat you like garbage. It’s called self-love and self-respect. “Maybe it’s because my other friends spoiled me too much” You’re totally gaslighting yourself there. Friends should be caring and loving and good to you. It’s not too much, it’s the norm. We keep close to us the people who are good to us. Not the ones who gaslight us, neg us and make us feel like they’re doing us a favour by tolerating us. I cut off a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:44 AM
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Yup. I cut off a few friends because of this. It’s so obvious why they put themselves down too, when they usually think so highly of themselves 🙄 It’s Pick Me negging 101. And watch how the moment you fall for their game, they easily make tons of depreciative comments about you, how their face lights up as if that’s exactly what they needed to say/hear to feel better about their insecure selves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:30 AM
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Scrotes do this when they know you deserve better than them. By belittling you all the time, you’ll have the impression he can do better and he’ll leave you the first chance he gets— so you’ll try harder to impress him. It’s a manipulative and pathetic thing for a man to do. It comes from a mix of jealousy towards his partner (how dare a woMaN 🤮 be better than mE!) and insecurity. But of course instead of levelling up and becoming a better and more attractive partner, they try to knock you down …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:25 AM
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😂😂😂☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:58 PM
12

You’re 100% right. a LVM (who had feelings for me at the time, or at least pretended to) told me once “There will be another round, just to honour you” meaning with FWB there’s only one round, it’s over as soon as he c*ms, no effort given for the woman sleeping with him. He did it on purpose & he was proud of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:03 PM
12

And when you’re cheerful, they think you’re dumb. You really can’t win with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:59 AM
2

Male gaze through pick mes. You worded it perfectly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:18 PM
4

Thank you! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:18 PM
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Yesterday I deleted the number of a friend of 10 years. She ghosts me everytime she gets in a relationship, and starts to belittle all her girl friends who are celibate, talking about how she has outgrew them and blah blah… I’ve heard this one before & I decided I wasn’t an option. We also had a podcast together and she really insisted on us buying all the material, when we did she stopped answering my texts and calls to talk about our podcast. I can’t forgive her for being so childish and avoid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:47 AM
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“I don’t want to say it to my family… I don’t want anyone to hate him” 🤡🤡 she literally said that to someone in her comments. I hate to see it. This sociopath will find a way to make her look insane (unreliable source) in the eyes of their families and friends, just in case she decides to report him one day. It’s what they do to protect themselves: lie and tarnish your reputation before you get to tell the truth. She’s a huge Pick Me, I fear for her daughter’s safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:35 AM
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Exactly. Talking about “people have to earn my respect! I don’t respect anybody!” spoiler alert: you’ll never earn their respect… they’re not even capable of respecting or loving themselves If they were, they wouldn’t feel the need to manipulate everyone else into liking them. They don’t feel lovable. Well, they aren’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:00 PM
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You described the relationship I had with a scrote who pretended to love and respect me & who called me his best friend at the end because he still wanted to have me around, just in case he was in need of love and attention. NVM are shallow and superficial parasites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:59 PM
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What a parasite. Scrotes literally have no problem gold-digging a child. He’s not even ashamed of grooming her, he’s proud of it! Look everyone, a young girl slept with me! And she paid the bills! I bet red pillers think of him as a Chad whatever that means ☠️🤡 So so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:24 PM
74

I just saw a picture of them. He is a tall muscular man with a beard and she… well she looks 14 (even though she’s a bit older). It really made me uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:18 PM
352

EW EW YIKES. Not this pedophile slut-shaming a literal CHILD in public. And he’s proud of what he did?! What the actual F-CK. And what is her family even doing? Do they care at all about Millie’s safety & well-being? It’s so irresponsible on their part to not protect her from predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:14 PM
545

Millie is dating a 20 years old? She is a CHILD. This is illegal. I’m so shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:26 PM
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Don’t treat them like precious little princesses. I know a lot of moms who are harsh towards their girls and soft towards their boys. It’s disgusting. Growing up, even if I didn’t like a dish, I was obliged to eat what was served to me & be grateful too. Meanwhile, my brother (who was very picky) got special dishes made specially for him, put in front of him with a smile too. My mother would say yes to all his demands & even apologize when he threw a tantrum. He became an ungrateful man who thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:02 AM
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Low-value man is intimidated by a woman who has standards, boundaries and who’s not afraid to speak her mind clearly. There’s no way for a LVM to manipulate or gaslight a woman who knows her worth and prioritizes herself & her peace of mind. Good for her. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:30 AM
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Yes 👏 One thing I’ve learned is LVM will continue to cross our boundaries and do other shitty things as long as there isn’t any consequence to their behaviour they won’t feel the need to stop. Women need to hold them accountable, for themselves and for others, as long as it doesn’t put them in immediate danger of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:08 AM
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Yes. She should let them know she’s scared of going back to the store to make a purchase, since their employees are harassing clients. I’d do it. This scrote would be called out for his unprofessional behaviour in front of all his colleagues, as he deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:28 AM
12

100% yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:41 AM
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LVM will chase you, only to make you chase them later on when you’ve caught feelings for them. It’s a game to them. You may be his dream girl at first but it won’t last eternally. LVM jump from one girl to another, then complain that love doesn’t exist and blah blah blah… dude you could have been in a happy relationship but you thought you could get better. 🤡 I know so many men like this. One of them even admitted to me he was scared of never being satisfied (in his relationship, in his career, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:21 AM
55

Back in my pick me days, I matched with a LVM who texted me all the time but wouldn’t ask me on a date. When I told him we should meet, he would always be busy. I thought maybe he’s insecure about his appearance, maybe he wants to know me better first… anyway, he was using me for attention as a penpal. When I had a glow up a year later, he told me he wanted to take me on a date immediately after seeing my newest story on Instagram. And I’m talking about a date in a fancy italian restaurant, want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:30 AM
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Yeah, I have the same feeling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:25 AM
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I’m happy it resonates with you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:36 PM
24

My therapist told me “the shame you feel is not yours to bear. You did what you had to do to survive. You did what society taught you was best for you.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 08:31 AM
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These scrotes are truly useless. It proves that men benefit from being married and having kids, it gives them value, it makes them trustworthy in the eyes of others. They don’t even have to be emotionally invested or helpful around the house to earn the titles of husband and father & they know it. Our society and its rules are literally built for them. This is why I roll my eyes back so far when a NVM says he will never get married for x reason. Like just shut up. It’s so embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 07:15 AM
11

Someone please give us an answer lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:14 AM
38

Look at Ghislene Maxwell. Same type of woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:55 PM
74

Exactly. Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:11 PM
180

“can be a better caretaker in old age” 🤮🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:00 AM
14

EW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:09 PM
96

Has this emoji 🐺 in his bio lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:00 PM
12

You’re right🤍 lesson learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:56 PM
65

All lvm do this. It’s ridiculous. Some will do it after a few dates, a few weeks. That man who used to compliment you all the time? He was love-bombing you and now that you’re attached to him, he’s taking off his mask. You need to get up and leave, delete, block the second they start to do this shit. No explanation given. If only I knew this before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:27 PM
13

scrotes are truly disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:05 PM
60

Yes, huge red flag. 🚩 I knew a guy who thought I would be “extremely cold towards men during parties” he meant it as a compliment, he thought I was unattainable. When I told him I’m not afraid to get to know new people at parties, I actually really enjoy it, he was almost disappointed. Very weird. He was a 100% projecting his dream-girl fantasies on me. After a while, when he really got close to me and saw me as a real, individual person, he wasn’t interested anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:33 PM
53

Please. All the men I know (and who are my age) have told me apps like Tinder aren’t for serious relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:33 PM
127

I LOVED this scene. Also when she said she “makes mistakes, but she’ll always own up to them” while her ZVX “will always be a coward-for-life, liar”. It gave me chills. I loved it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:14 PM
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It’s a huge red flag. Cats have boundaries. They don’t obey us like a dog would. I knew a guy who hated cats, and by that I mean he could insult and criticize them all day long (like a sociopath, I mean cats are innocent animals how can you hate them that much?). He was an abusive partner. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:09 PM
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Exactly. I’ve told my (then) best friend how online dating/ hookup culture wasn’t for me, she told me “girl why are you so serious! It’s fun to have a FWB! You fuck with them and move on” WTF I was so shocked. Am I not allowed to say it’s not for ME? She turned out to be a huge pickme, now I understand why she reacted like this. But damn. It’s still disappointing. Edit : It’s the fact that I told her it made me miserable and she gaslighted me immediately. At first I thought” something must be wr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:23 AM
2

I couldn’t agree more with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:02 AM
8

A hundred percent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:44 PM
29

lies my abusive exes told me: “my mom has cancer (she didn’t, he thought I’d get back with him)” “my grandmother died, I was depressed (it was his aunt, he lied about when it really happened, and he was cheating on me at the time, partying and all) “my uncle’s dog died, I was really attached to it (=forgive me now, give me your affection) So yeah, I agree, NVM* WILL use your empathy to manipulate you. They see it as a weakness. One of them told me I was “really kind” and coming from him, it soun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:39 PM
1

Omg. she’s so talented. Thank you for posting!! I can’t stop listening to her song “being real is the new fake” 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:50 PM
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Yeah, I think the same. Men don’t admit it openly, but there’s no such thing as you (as a woman) being their best friend, their FWB, or any other title they give you to use you emotionally and physically while owing you nothing. It really is all or nothing with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:21 PM
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You gave him more than enough time to initiate contact, and he didn’t. This man was wasting your time. IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD. You did the right thing OP 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:45 PM
125

Get an uber before you get up. Tell him you “need to make a call” or “go to the restroom” take your stuff, jump in the car and leave. Personally I wouldn’t be ashamed to do that. If I’m not having a good time, I can leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:29 AM
15

👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:48 PM
2

Congratulations! ❤️ we love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:09 PM
31

🚩 🚩 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:24 PM
99

Please run. I dated a guy like this, he ended up being a master manipulator and not a (genuinely) caring man at all. Someone who really cares about you won’t need a list to remember stuff that matters to you, or even what would bring you joy (hiking, a gift…)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:18 PM
371

They’re afraid of gold diggers because they step all over women all the time. Projection at its finest lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:25 PM
172

This is why LVM jump from relationship to relationship. They don’t care about you, they don’t love you, they love what you can do for them, what you can give them. The thing is they’re never satisfied. Even if you give LVM the world they’ll believe they deserve even more. If not from you, from another woman. They’re only loyal to themselves, the minute you stop serving their interests, they replace you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:23 PM
3

Disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:37 PM
54

especially the tech bros (in my experience)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:07 PM
55

It happened to me so many times! Even with male “friends” like what is their problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:38 AM
26

If only I joined this sub a year ago... it would have saved me a lot of energy spent on OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:50 AM
13

Excellent post. Thank you. My ex did all of these, girls take notes and never let your guard down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:18 PM
90

Same. I hate the fact that men call women bitches with so much ease and everyone happily dances to it. Now I even have trouble listening to women celebrities calling us bitches. It’s not cute, it’s not empowering, it’s degrading. I hate that it’s so normalized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:07 PM
12

I’ll try that in the future! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:08 PM
30

This!! This happens a lot to me, even with people who want me as a friend. What do you say when you feel interrogated and want it to stop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:03 PM
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