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I am feeling really lonely nowadays. I feel like going back to my situationship just to feel some sort of love, even if he really sucks. But then I look at the long term consequences of that and how I always feel horrible when he starts breadcrumbing me. How he’s greatly disrespected me and treated me like his plaything. If I had discovered FDS sooner, I would have ran away at the first red flag. Would also want tips for overcoming loneliness, actually. Currently in therapy nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 06:30 AM
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I am trying to be firm in my boundaries. I still have a long way to go when it comes to all of this. And actually, I’m taking a break from dating and boys, since I’m in therapy and currently focusing on myself. But I appreciate the thought, thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 07:02 PM
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Totally agreed. It would have been creepy anywhere. Sure, if I had introduced my mom to him and we had been close friends, it would be okay. But not in this context, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:04 PM
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Someone on here asked me if I’m from India (unverified user so comment deleted). Actually I’m from Pakistan and every other guy does this super weird stalker-y stuff because they’re sexually frustrated and I guess it’s normalised now. But not for me, nope. That’s why I wanted to puke when he did that. God knows what goes on in the minds of these men. Not to mention, my mom looks younger than her age and is super pretty. I don’t want these pervs near her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:54 PM
22

Exactly :’)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:52 PM
45

Ahh yes exactly. Im a pretty private person, I don’t like it when any of my private life gets out without my consent, to anyone. I dont care if it’s the love of your life. My personal stuff is mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 03:52 PM
57

Thank you, I had kinda started thinking maybe im paranoid lol But yeah I felt what I felt. If its weird its weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 12:00 PM
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Seconded. If you ignore the first small red flag, there’s a whole ship of red flags docked at the harbour, waiting to come wreck you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 10:27 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:44 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:44 AM
1

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:44 AM
2

I hope you get there one day, because therapy really helps. And you will. I’m rooting for you too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:44 AM
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Im so looking forward to the day when I forget to think about him It isnt there yet but it will be one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:43 AM
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Oh yes. We never dated but we went on a date once. And when I think of that date, it’s a painful memory since I was the one who asked him out as an idiot. Really cringe. But it was honestly nice, or so I felt at that time. I think I was just lonely and wanted someone to love me. Gotta work on that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:40 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:39 AM
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Oh yes. I’m pretty sure i didnt like him as a person, I just focused on the good qualities of him such as kindness and comfort and safety (at times). Other than that he was horrible to be all around. I just didnt realise it because it wasnt so obvious till you pondered on it. Also, I love writing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:39 AM
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I would rather choose the short-term pain of losing him and then getting fully over him one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:37 AM
7

I’m sorry that piece of shit did that to you. I hope youre in a better place now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:37 AM
3

Exactly It holds true for everyone in your life… don’t keep people who sabotage your progress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:36 AM
6

Excellent advice :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:36 AM
6

It is! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:35 AM
2

Thank you so much :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:06 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:06 PM
2

Means a lot :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:06 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:06 PM
4

Yes. I am finally embracing all the pain I’ve faced and repressed, and one day I will move past all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:06 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 12:05 PM
2

Exactly. I would rather be alone than miserable being in someone’s company
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:51 AM
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This hit me hard. He never ever puts any of our pics on social media even though apparently I’m such a good friend to him. The stranger part is also so true, he keeps repeating tidbits and doesn’t really tell me much about him if he ever has. And after 1.5 year of this, he’s even kinda stopped pretending anymore. He just hangs me around for his own entertainment, constantly reassuring me that we’re friends. Cant believe I’ve been so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:37 AM
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Oh dear. Friends like this can suck the life out of you. Good on you for not putting up with this bullshit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:50 AM
2

EXACTLY. Not everything can be fixed by communicating. I know that if I tried to tell her what’s been bothering me, she would gaslight me and tell me it’s not a big deal and that I’m overreacting, plus she would dominate me. She would make me feel bad for everything, i know her since so many years so I know what her reaction would be. So what’s the point? My other friends also suggested that she could be jealous, since she belittles me so much. I say fuck her honestly. I deserve so much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:49 AM
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Damn that really does sound like an energy vampire. Im sorry for what you went through. Honestly I really really hate cutting off friendships too, I only do it if I’m really done with that person. I know that if I tried to justify my side to her, she would gaslight me and tell me it’s not a big deal and I’m overreacting, plus dominate me. So I felt like there really was no point, and simply distanced myself from her. She took the hint and kicked me off her social media today. I’ve never felt mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:47 AM
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Honestly? I’ve been feeling really relieved and free these days. It gets awkward in class but it’s better than fuming inside while sitting with her. I would rather be alone than be with her lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:45 AM
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Exactly, I spent so much time and effort and money on her. And what did I even get in return? Comments and generally misery Thank you for the kind words. I deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:44 AM
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With the best friend I mentioned above She never ever hung out with me outside of uni. Like very rarely. She would always say she’s a huge introvert and always say no when I asked to hang out. Since im an ambivert, I genuinely became miserable in her presence. Now I realise I deserve more lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:43 AM
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I’m 20, yeah. That’s why I’m still learning lol. And you described exactly who I’ve been throughout my life: I had no friends in childhood, so when I got to high school I was so glad to have a friend that I completely became a doormat to every friend that I ever had. I did everything for them, I did whatever I could to avoid conflict. As ive gotten to uni, ive found much better friends and I am learning to establish my boundaries. I won’t put up with this shit anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:48 PM
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Great vetting strategy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:16 PM
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EXACTLY like all I’m doing is living my life lmao.. you don’t need to comment on every single thing I do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 07:15 PM
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Yasss go us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:17 PM
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I will definitely do this from now on. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:16 PM
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Thank you for this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:16 PM
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I feel angry but I’m so glad I’m getting there yk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:16 PM
1

Ohh definitely, life is much better now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:15 PM
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Solid advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:15 PM
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Definitely not and you’re right. I never thought of it like that lol. I need to start valuing myself more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:32 PM
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It’s not possible for me to cut contact with my family sadly since I live in a conservative country and am dependent on them But yeah I definitely agree with the other points
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:31 PM
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Ohh yeahh definitely, it’s the hormones too haha. But I still will try my best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:28 PM
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I actually really think the journal thing is a good idea I love writing And thank you so much :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:27 PM
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Okayy I’ll check them out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:25 PM
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Heyy this strategy is really good. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:23 PM
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Thank you for this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:23 PM
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The whole problem is that I know this, I’ve known a really long time that he’s using me. Yet it feels like I’m so starved for affection or smth lol so I let him do all that. I’m like insane or smth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:06 PM
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He wanted a friends with benefits thing so physical affection and sexting, yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:54 PM
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Ohh definitely, tho I guess he doesn’t care if I don’t care lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:15 PM
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That’s a good method I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:14 PM
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I guess so, tho my feelings keep getting in the way lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:14 PM
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Yeah you’re right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:14 PM
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He gave me affection I don’t have that in my life. I never got that from my family. I guess I’m generally a broken person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:14 PM
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Yeah you’re right, thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:13 PM
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I mean my feelings, yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:11 PM
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I’m done with him, but I also have feelings so yeah it really hurts when I see him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:09 PM
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This is the biggest problem in my life: I live in a conservative Muslim country and religion dominates and ruins every girl’s life here. I am asked to cover up by family and society, and if I don’t I’m committing a grave sin and deserve to burn in hell. Islam controls every part of my life, I am considered second to my brothers and my mother is second to my father. There is no equality or peace in this religion. Most other religions, like Christianity, are becoming progressive as people are refo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:03 AM
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Ohh yes definitely, especially with our current Prime Minister who is a huge misogynist. This country just keeps getting worse and worse for women everyday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:50 PM
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Also, thank you for this guide. Tho I will never be marrying any Pakistani guy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 05:27 PM
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There are good men everywhere in the world, but there are very very very less in Pakistan :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 05:25 PM
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I am living in Pakistan, and I am more privileged than your average Pakistani woman, but even I have limited options when it comes to living my life. I can only imagine what it’s like for underprivileged pakistani women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 05:19 PM
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I am also from Pakistan, and I can vouch for this. Living here is a NIGHTMARE. There are almost no good men in this country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 05:15 PM
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Honestly you’re right, I never thought of it that way. I really need to get away from him tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 07:22 AM
2

Thank you for this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:55 AM
1

Definitely, you’re right. I would tell my family member/ friend to get the hell away from this person since he’s causing her so much pain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:55 AM
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Honestly I owe him no explanations, so I will definitely do this in uni especially since I will be getting love bombed if I let him talk to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:54 AM
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What the hell, that’s such a shitty friend. More power to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:53 AM
3

Hi, this is an AMAZING post. And it really did help me. Thank you so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:52 AM
2

Definitely agree with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:49 AM
1

Thank you for your kind words :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:49 AM
3

Hi, thank you so much for this And yeah even though I know that replying to his texts and sending a final message will cause him to explain to me that he values me as a friend bla bla (basically love bombing) and I don’t know if I’ll be strong enough to let go after that (though I will definitely keep reading this thread and this time be strong enough). But I also think a closure message would be appropriate, so that I can finally move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:49 AM
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I agree, and I will definitely read that advice thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:46 AM
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I definitely agree Friends don’t mess with each other, friends don’t mess up your friendship by telling you they wanna have ‘fun’ with you suddenly one day, because they don’t want to risk the friendship. How were we ever friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:45 AM
5

Honestly yes! All of my male friends pretend theyre looking out for me, and in the end I find out they’ve been expecting something more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:44 AM
6

Woah damn this one really will stick with me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:43 AM
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I definitely agree. Whenever I try to explain to him how he’s been making me feel, he tells me I’m making this about myself and what about his insecurities? He rarely apologises because he just doesn’t get what he’s done, he thinks I’m overreacting or that we’ve misunderstood each other. How do I explain to someone who doesn’t even understand what I’m saying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:43 AM
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Damn, you really are good at cutting toxic people out. I wish I was more like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:41 AM
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That’s like drinking poison thinking it’s medicine I needed this, thank you so much. As for what he did to me, he told me ‘you have too many boundaries ans you keep denying me’ when I didn’t want to sext with him the way he wanted me to. I was a major pickme so I accepted this, as he hadn’t touched me without my consent so I thought he’s a good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:40 AM
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Nope, I don’t have access to therapy or counselling thanks to the country I live in. Though the online books option does seem good. Thank you for your kind words honestly, this means a lot :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:23 PM
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Thing is, when I started the friendship with this guy, I was a major major pickme and I’ve taken a lot of wrong steps. He asked me on call some months into the friendship if I would want a no strings attached thing, while I had already started developing feelings for him. I was so furious, but at that time I forgave him because I couldn’t see how much of a red flag this was. And after that I’ve let my mind think that we’re great friends and that the past is forgiven (which has stayed in my mind)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:14 PM
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I love this, imagine dating a woman who actually knows what women deserve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:16 AM
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Hi, I really needed this. I am currently studying computer science (again, a male dominated degree) in a conservative country. I have three years of my degree still left. And my GPA really sucked in my freshmen year. There are very less girls in my uni, and the guys are favoured majorly. I really hate sexism honestly :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:30 PM
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I 100% agree with this. I have always experienced this, guys sending me lovey dovey messages and then telling me they’re unsure, want to go with the flow, don’t want a relationship right now etc etc. And in turn, I have got hurt by hoping something would change and he would ask me out the way I want him to. But it NEVER happens. Either he wants to date you, or he doesnt. There is no in between.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 12:25 PM
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More power to you, you’re really strong and amazing for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 03:50 AM
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I was once told ‘you’re a woman with a heart of Gold and the eyes of Shangri La. And your braces are so cute I just wanna rip them off. I think we really have a special connection,’ within a few days of knowing each other. Then the little demon proceeded to completely ignore me once he got what he want. I was a wreck at that time. Now, whenever someone tries to lovebomb me with ‘that special connection’, I just yawn because it’s gotten so boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:08 AM
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Lol I would never FR do that, friends are meant to be FRIENDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:06 PM
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Fuck male friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:53 PM
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I am VERY sorry to hear this. These guys deserve to die honestly, this is unbearable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:13 PM
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Honestly? These ‘FEMINIST’ guys are the ones who turn out to be the real dicks, every guy friend I’ve had has tried to pretend he’s an ultra feminist woke boy and turns out, he’s had a history of either harassing or cheating on women :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:12 PM
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Upvoted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:10 PM
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What I don’t get is.. doesn’t our friendship mean ANYTHING to these guys?! Why do they just throw it away like that??? Just proves how worthless they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:10 PM
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I don’t understand, do guys not get that they can’t get with EVERY female in their life? They have to have some limits on what their dick can fap to? But nope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:09 PM
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What a huge SCROTE!!! I’m so happy you found your man ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:08 PM
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EXACTLY, I always require that the guy drives to me, because it is 10000x easier for a guy to drive on the streets in my country so how the hell is this even fair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:04 PM
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Where the HELL do these type of men even come from?!! They’re like cockroaches from the gutter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I was thinking at that time, was he suggesting that he would be creepy on future dates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:03 PM
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Thankfully, I don’t have time to be anyone’s pen friend, let alone a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:02 PM
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Yep, that’s what I did, immediately unmatched him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:02 PM
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Thank you for your kind thoughts ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:01 PM
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Thank you for the kind thoughts. And yes, it really is unfair but there’s absolutely nothing we can do about it lest we get killed :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:01 PM
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EXACTLY ITS SO ANNOYING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:16 PM
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Dating is done very secretly here, guys are very sexually frustrated because the opposite genders are not supposed to mingle before sex. So many people resort to online dating for hookups, no one is serious on it. So online dating culture is hugely lacking, it only exists in posh areas like mine and that too you have to SEVERELY vet the guy and ensure that he isn’t a full on psycho creep. I am very careful while meeting up with guys from online. I ensure that the place is very public where there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 01:43 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:51 PM
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I have yet to find an HVM guy friend, but I have not lost hope that they exist somewhere in the world :) just not around me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:43 PM
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Exactly? At least put in some effort??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:25 PM
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I live in an underdeveloped Muslim country where if a woman goes out alone and drives to a far away area, 8/10 chances are that she gets raped and buried somewhere with her case not even reported. We have femicide cases everywhere. My family would never let me drive outside by myself. Public transport is also barely up to the par here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:23 PM
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The plan had been initially for a cafe or street food, and he was asking me from which area should he choose the place. Then when he realised that he would have to drive 20-25 mins, he ditched the street food idea and asked me if we could have a discord movie date instead. AS IF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:44 AM
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I was too furious to ask :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:32 AM
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That is exactly what I was thinking, if he can’t even drive 25 mins to see me for the first time, why should I waste even one second more on him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:32 AM
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Exactly my point, sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:31 AM
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Guess they can’t keep it in their pants, so they disguise it as ‘feelings’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:31 AM
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Honestly, I’ll have to start doing this. It’s time to start treating my guy friends and girl friends very differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:30 AM
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‘Trust me, I know you, I understand you, we are so alike in many ways’ -guy with whom I haven’t even gone on a first date with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:49 AM
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I have no idea why guys think this can actually work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:46 AM
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Definitely, I immediately unmatched him without an explanation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:42 AM
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He had asked me where should the restaurant be, I informed him that it should be in ____ areas because they are closest to where I live. In my country, it is very dangerous for girls to drive alone, so it would be majorly inconvenient for me to ask someone to drive me. When he got to know the location I’m suggesting is 20 -25 minutes away from where he lives, he decided he’s not gonna make any effort to drive and see me, hence why he suggested the virtual date. IT IS SO FUCKING EASY FOR GUYS TO …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:41 AM
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That’s horrifying, I’m so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:14 AM
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Even when they are in committed relationships, they won’t give up the chance to bang another one of their female friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:14 AM
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I have actually experienced this SO MUCH. Guys on OLD, the DATING APPS, asking me if I wanna ‘hang out’ or ‘meet up’. ‘Im just looking for new friends, tho my settings are on date mode.’ Dude, we matched on a dating app. What are you supposed to do if not ask me out on a date? I say to these guys, I only hang out or meet up with friends. Now I realise they are just afraid of rejection, that’s why they don’t use the word ‘date’. Cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:02 AM
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I used to think that I’m doing something wrong, I’m leading them on and that’s why they think of me as ‘someone to have fun with’, the same guys who would respect their other girl friends. Then I realised, it’s because these guy friends look at me as an easy target, someone to manipulate and coerce. If given the chance, they would start hitting on every one of their female friends because they would never give up a chance to have sex with a girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 08:34 AM
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Yes!! You’re an amazing mom!! Many people think this is a small issue, but the thing is, you need to teach boys from a young age that they need to respect a woman’s space. Otherwise they’ll just end up like those creepy men we see on the bus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:20 AM
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THIS. He never even mentioned or wondered how his wife was feeling, it was all about his dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:54 PM
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Oh, I don’t know, realise that YOU are the one who impregnated her, the reason why her body is ‘disfigured’ in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:49 PM
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Lmao who is this man-child, even in my pickmeisha days I wouldn’t accept this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:45 PM
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Because in muslim countries, a guy would automatically assume that a girl who wears a hijab is protecting her modesty and therefore be more careful while attempting to get her guard down (these sleazy guys will try anything honestly)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:34 PM
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Honestly? I may be wrong, but before going on dates with guys from OLD, I add them on Instagram to vet their profile, see what kind of people comment on their pictures and how they engage with them, what kind of stories do they put up (to figure out their mentality). Your social media says a lot about you. It does make me a bit unnerved that they now have access to my pictures, but then again they could save those pics from my dating profiles too. So honestly I add them just so I can scrutinise …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 09:33 PM
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Ahh that’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:47 PM
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I have actually started employing this technique. When a guy tries to have a whole convo over text or asks me personal questions over text (who the hell does that?), I interrupt him and tell him that I prefer to keep the texting to a minimum and would rather save the real convos for in person. They get hella confused on this part. Also, one of them asked me if he should call me instead. Do you think I should entertain calls, or turn him down on this too? Because my country is also having many CO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:43 PM
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I have actually witnessed this throughout my life in my Pickmeisha days, and only now have I realised how badly I’ve been breadcrumbed. Never am I falling for this bullshit ever again, if a guy tries to slow fade on me I will seriously block him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:29 PM
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Can I get a flair? Thanks! Also I’m really really happy I found this subreddit, i would have been under some LVM’s control right now if I hadn’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:32 PM
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I don’t want to sound like a bigot here, but he is most probably Muslim (the Quran). Ladies, look out for your safety and don’t involve yourselves with religious guys (unless you are religious yourself and your preferences match). Talking from experience. Just don’t. Because they WILL suck the life out of you, they believe the ‘women should stay at home’ bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:52 AM
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This is so sick. When I was 18, I sent nudes to my ‘guy best friend’ (who actually ended up using me) while we were sexting. Till today, I do not want to make an enemy out of him and regret sending him my nudes. Even if they were without my face. I just regret it. Do NOT send any guy your nudes. They will have a sort of power over you, and that is a very shitty feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:03 PM
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I used to post on other dating subs and they always told me to cOmMunIcAte Turns out they were asking me to lower my expectations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:24 AM
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