Say it with me: I will not be disrespected again

Buggy1218 · 2022-02-14T13:17:45+00:00

Good for you girl! Not tolerating disrespect is such a simple and important thing.

Just remember that even though logically you’re better off without LV people, it’s still normal to miss them sometimes.

It always helped me to journal or write out a list of all the ways they disrespected you, or upset you, their character flaws, etc. If ever you’re missing them, refer to the list to remind yourself why you let them go in the first place.

jijitsu-princess · 2022-02-14T15:36:50+00:00

I think once you break up with those people the air will move easier in and out of your lungs, your brain will operate at a higher frequency and your heart will eventually become more settled.

millennialpink2000 · 2022-02-14T16:11:26+00:00

Congrats. Getting the f*ck away from shitty people is the best thing you can do for your health. Suddenly anxiety, stress and body aches are gone. The mental fog dissipates and you can see clearly again. Then you'll start to get angry at the treatment you allowed in your life. That's a good thing, this anger protects and galvanizes you.

It won't be a linear progression, that's normal. Be patient with yourself

katiekat0214 · 2022-02-14T15:36:17+00:00

A few tips to keep from getting disrespected:

-- question and push back, ask why do you say that? what does that mean? how do you know? where's the proof?

-- if it's a deliberate slight or slur, get up and walk away, no arguing, no rationality, just vote with your feet and leave. It really is the strongest message.

-- if someone is important to you, set a boundary once, and also lay out consequences of what will happen if they ever disrespect you again, up to and including cutting them out of your life. Seriously, people who love you for you won't ever disrespect you. There's great freedom and ease in leveling up and cutting out people in your life who disrespect you.

radfem_babe · 2022-02-14T17:22:27+00:00

I will not be disrespected again. This is my oath.

Ok-Yogurtcloset3467 · 2022-02-14T18:43:17+00:00

I've learnt that your ability to enforce your boundaries with men and walk away when they disrespect that is just a small piece of the picture. How you value yourself in every relationship in your life will translate into your romantic life. And honestly all those other relationships are more important and say more about you.

I've had to detach from friends and my own mother for this reason. It's honestly so painful and do gt filled with self doubt. But I feel so much stronger and confident in all ther areas in my life because of it.

My advice (that I still trying to embody) is the journey to valuing yourself and advocating for yourself isn't a linear process. You'll have moments when you will feel like you're doing it all wrong or you're being weak or you're losing too much by trying to set boundaries, but it's working. You are improving and it will get so much more easier to set those boundaries and enforce them.

ReadLearnLove · 2022-02-14T21:42:00+00:00

It is hard. The best I can say about it is it has given me a clear focus. The hardest part is many people want me to "go back" to being "nice," and so I feel very alone much of the time. However, I will take "alone with self-respect" over "in company without self-respect" if those are my only frickin choices. You got this. Take the vow, and walk the walk. Just make sure you are wearing your as$-kicking boots.

Auzurabla · 2022-02-15T03:43:03+00:00

Yes!! Good for you!

Title	Say it with me: I will not be disrespected again
Author	Lightningxxx
Upvotes	613
Comments	16
Date	February 14, 2022 12:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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