TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

jijitsu-princess Archive

View 8 posts and 357 comments by jijitsu-princess on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
14

This is what I’m working towards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:20 PM
1

Not a lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 11:44 PM
2

Perfect way to put it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:54 PM
10

I saw someone mention crusty dick. That’s a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 06:04 PM
10

Penis zombie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:26 PM
12

Interestingly enough the Webster dictionary states skank is a genderless term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:19 PM
99

I like used up diseased dick. It needs to have an acronym though. Limp Impotent Diseased Dick. Or LIDD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:43 PM
132

I think that’s my goal. I want to find the best and most stinging words to use that describe men like this. Skank is the best I would come up with for now. I’d be interested in hearing what you would suggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:32 PM
38

You are right about the term fuck boy, I just thought about it and realized most fuck boys are actually skanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:21 PM
54

Love this! That’s going to be my reply as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 11:00 PM
78

I agree with it mostly being associated with women but it actually makes me feel better calling fuck boys this. As for calling them scrotes I agree but not all scrotes are fuck boys. Some haven’t been laid in ages. The word skank would apply to that sub group of men who manipulate women into bed and have a ton of partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:58 PM
367

In my state she could start the process of eviction. Calling the cops won’t get her anywhere unless he is being violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:13 PM
20

This! Omg dude I dated couldn’t remember to text me or seemed annoyed that I texted. It was because he was talking to 10 other women. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 09:46 PM
57

Trust me it’s miserable. And then they wear out quick too. Like 5 minutes tops before dude is getting a side cramp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 01:20 PM
120

Thank you! Spot on. Saying “ Im a nice guy” means you do the bare minimum and are passive aggressive as fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:29 AM
49

Jesus Christ he’s stingy. Can you imagine if she had a kiddo with this asshole? He’d probably make her still pay half the rent while she is out on maternity leave and half the hospital bill for having the child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:26 AM
11

What in the pick me hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:19 PM
13

Or he had to get high to participate in social activities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 09:24 PM
18

Can I just say I have waited for men to do what they said they were going to do or at least put action to words and that shit never happened. Time to try it the other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:52 AM
26

I’ll take reasons why men are fucking insane and will die miserable and alone in their own piss for 1000$ Mayim. What is men value money and the opinions of their fellow dick slingers more than they value women and the wonderful neurobiology of the female brain that ensures the survival of infants, and small children. You are correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:46 AM
9

I feel that. I’m often questioned by those closest to me as to why I think my late husband died and why would I think he didn’t love me. Interrogated really. He was “a good man” who financially provided for his family. Never Mind the fact he was morbidly obese, possibly had a male lover and had an addiction to prescription pills. He rarely if ever touched me and forget sex. But yeah, he was a good man. I think honestly people don’t want to see the truth about the people they think are good. It w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 11:09 PM
75

The first trauma victim I took care of after transitioning to critical care was a man who shot himself in the head after taking the life of his black girl friend. His family was praying for him to get better and that the cops must be wrong. Nope. I spoke with the first responders who were first on scene and processed the evidence. There was no mistake he pulled the trigger. It left an impression on me of how the biggest threat to black women are the black community. Not just black men who commit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:43 PM
10

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:43 PM
25

Not to mention how many of these male lawyers will have short professional lives due to stress and all the medical problems that come with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:39 PM
78

It’s really fucking scary to think men believe it’s okay to apply pressure to a woman to have sex with him. I experienced this with my ex husband on the regular. He keep my up at night until I gave in and could finally go to sleep. I tried locking the door to the guest bedroom one night and he broke the door trying to get in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:34 PM
87

Red flag for community dick: more female friends than male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:44 PM
31

Yeah that’s already my decision. I’m never living with anyone again. Living together but separate should mitigate the risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:21 PM
162

I went through this with my late husband. I knew he was wracking up debt but he wouldn’t let me in on the number or how bad it was. After his death I found it was about 65,000$. I don’t even think that is all of it. 3 years into our marriage we paid of 115,000$ of debt all in his name. We sold a house and used the proceeds to pay it off. I should have left then. Edited to add: how does one go about looking into someone’s financials? It’s such a private thing but also vital to your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:35 PM
9

Incel meaning for love = free unfettered sex and devotion from women while playing fuck boi games. Who are we kidding, that’s most men definition of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:16 PM
8

Of all the age gap relationships I’ve ever encountered the men were the most egotistical, self absorbed, immature man babies I had ever met. You made a good choice. It’s okay to feel the pain of loneliness but don’t go back to the scrote who would cause you much more pain that the pain of loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:18 PM
50

Roflmao! Truth! And their sex drive takes a nose dive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 02:48 PM
62

If you take the vagina out of the equation these men only want other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 03:21 AM
25

I used to love cooking and baking. Then it became an obligation that was never appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:46 AM
332

I’m seeing more FDS terms in the mainstream too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:44 PM
89

I agree. There should be a law about age limit use and put responsibility on these porn sites for verifying age before user can access. We do the same for tobacco and alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:35 PM
366

So many people believe that porn is apart of growing up. I myself remember finding my dad magazines in his closet and the porn VHS tape. If you attack and expose porn for the damage it does it’s like you are attacking an entire belief system. To the porn addicted it would be like the Spanish Inquisition to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:25 PM
15

It was the same with my last marriage. I gave him peace because he conditioned me to be all and do all for him. He literally had no concerns except to breathe, and work his job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:06 PM
6

George Lopez divorced his wife after she gave him a kidney. He cheated on her with two prostitutes. Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:51 PM
5

Amen. I follow my faith and walk in it daily. I learned the hard way that there are serious preditors using religion to hide and prey on people as they do in every organization. Men in the church have the endorsement of misogynistic interpretation of the Bible and the pickmeshas that cower in hope these men will love them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:47 PM
7

I believe my late husband saw this as a power trip. He held my heart in his hands and did his very best to deprive me of any affection, intimacy and sex for the entirety of our marriage. He’s gone now and I’m single for good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:31 PM
46

I can’t agree with this more. Any sign of unbalanced or “crazy” feeling I bounce. Any man with poor sense of self and direction will make you crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:21 PM
9

Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 11:06 PM
18

I live in a rural area. Don’t let the country boy fool you. Most are fuck bois too, and quite a few of them have several baby mommas/forever girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:35 PM
21

That’s it. These type of men want you to see them as superior and have all the knowledge. It’s almost as if they are in the same boat as cult leaders. I had one who bragged to me about reading Carl Jung’s Red book in it’s entirety and followed it’s principals as if I was supposed to be impressed. Nope and I don’t remember any of Jung’s principals. I had to study 8-10 different theorists in my psychology class. Most of its trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:32 PM
23

You weren’t bamboozled. You worked the FDS strategy and it came through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:21 PM
5

This is great advice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:15 PM
2

This post has changed my mind about sizing up each and every man I encounter. I used to feel bad about it, but after reading this post I am doing this for my own protection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:05 PM
10

I wear a BB cream that is tinted and has spf in it. I’ll put a though of mascara on with some lip gloss and call it good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:10 PM
16

I like a low heel but damn the 3 inches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 11:09 PM
5

I agree with this. The day of reckoning is coming for low value men. And it will be beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:19 AM
18

Thank you for putting words to my thoughts. I couldn’t quite figure out how to say this was so one sided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:32 AM
262

Omg this is so heartbreaking. Did anyone contact her? I can help her disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:07 AM
19

If you are the type of man who thinks that “the wall” is real and you hold all women up to that measuring stick I probably disassociated myself from them the moment they opened their mouths to say hi. These types seethe immaturity, entitlement, and are quick to blame others for their own failings. I can smell these men a mile away and they certainly do smell like the dead fish that go with the flow who eventually settle to the bottom and become pond scum. They probably fuck like dead fish too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 10:42 PM
11

I am stealing the fish statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 10:39 PM
12

Also, in the US adult court cases are public knowledge. If know his first and last name and the county he lives in you can look up his court proceeding history. Even if he has been divorced, been in foreclose or had a debt go to court. And always make sure you ask where he grew up and went to collage. It takes a few minutes to dig but if there is information you will find it. You can also look up properties he owns in the property tax website.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:56 PM
15

This was my late husband. He needed me to need him and yet when I needed him at all I was an inconvenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:45 PM
15

I’m dealing with this now. Dude told our mutual friends that I went crazy. No dude. In two sentences I broke it off with your ass because you were so low effort you forgot to wish me a happy birthday. Even though it was all over Facebook and shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:42 PM
27

I don’t agree they will die alone. I was out last night with friends. In our area we get all the spring break crowd for 9 excruciating weeks. While at the local bar I sat back an observed they dynamics of the male and females around us (obvious collage kids). 9 times out of 10 it was the girls who were trying to get these guys attention and hugging all over them when the dude is clearly less than interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:36 PM
26

Totally agree. Often time it’s the male “friend” who rapes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:32 PM
17

I’ve often been told I was intimidating and needed to smile more. It makes me feel bad. And when I go to clubs with my friends I’m not approached nearly the amount of times they are and yet I’m my own version of beautiful. I smile and laugh with my friends but I also hang back, am quiet and enjoy listening to the conversations around me. This post has enlightened me. I am not an intimidating person. I am HOWEVER unfuckwithable. And I have a far easier time in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:29 PM
10

I’m going to look it up on etsy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:41 PM
6

Let’s dress up being a fuck boy by calling it polyamory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 07:09 PM
3

I’ve often wondered that too. My late husband was fine as hell when we started dating. Trim, muscular and yummy. We got married? He put on 50 pounds in 5 months from the eating disorder he hid so well from me. 5 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:43 PM
2

Yup dude straight up storms off the mats, gets his shit and stomps out the door after practice. He would normally hang out and chit chat with everyone. Lol jokes on you dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 05:38 PM
3

Yes. And while I’m against diagnosing anyone he hits just about 8 out of 10 traits of narcissistic personality disorder. He basically stalked all of my social media (my husbands illness and subsequent death were posted), inquired about me to mutual friends feigning genuine interest and targeted me at a very vulnerable time. What makes it worse is before hand I had never met him but we had mutual friends and trained at separate but affiliated gyms. He has since moved his attendance to my gym even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:31 PM
30

Thanks! I have that book in my audible library. I wholeheartedly agree with the house of cards analogy of most organizations and systems. We are all flawed humans with our own shit to deal with. Only the insecure walk around with their dicks hanging out and declaring it’s the biggest and shiniest. And they happen be the most dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:17 PM
59

Yup. I’ve also allowed myself forgiveness for not trusting my intuition. Between the 30 year conditioning and a lot of mens craft in manipulation of course I’m going to miss some obvious errors in my dating life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:33 PM
18

Yup. I look back at my pickmesha self and see how that is so ingrained into us from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:05 PM
43

I agree with you. Most men are not loving husbands and fathers. We are surrounded by mediocre men who won’t acknowledge this. This is the struggle. Women being victims and then having everyone around you saying “but he was loving”. No, no he was not and there is nothing to prove it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:18 PM
4

I’m proud of you for stepping up for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:01 PM
11

This! When I see their insta and it’s full of memes stating how “drama free” they are I do an about face and move the fuck on. They are anything but drama free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:00 PM
9

I agree. I am a very inquisitive person and love hearing what others view points are. I’m also kind. I have a hard time describing myself because I’m always learning a growing. If anything I am a much more complex person. As it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:59 PM
28

When I hear “simple man” I hear unintelligent, not a damn original thought in his head and emotionally stunted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:58 PM
58

Yup. I see it all the damn time. I’m a single mom, widowed. Run a business, work part time and train. No one pats me on the back. But as for the men who are single parents? All the sudden it’s this life changing trauma that we must lift them up and support them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:53 PM
12

I’m sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:13 PM
16

It’s not so much how they stick together. Most physicians/surgeons barely tolerate each other. It’s how much money the hospital used to bring them on board and authorize them to practice in their hospital. I’ve seen surgeons make big fucking mistakes and the hospital settles it because it’s cheaper to do it that way then recruit another surgeon, authorize him/her to work in that facility and pay the bonus they used to recruit them. Also the hospital typically pays their relocation expenses. Edit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:43 PM
22

Actually I know quite a few that have married nurses. It’s quite disgusting because you know how a lot of their relationships start out. If they didn’t cheat on their wives with them they were definitely the rebound who is the newest mommymcbangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:18 PM
30

In all actuality they don’t make that much and have a horrible work life balance. Between med school debt, living a Drs. lifestyle, and paying off the ex wives it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I used to work with a neurosurgeon that easily cleared 900,000 a year and he was still having to ask people for money for lunch. 3 ex wives later and a horrible drinking habit. I had to stop him from taking a patient to neuro surgery from the ICU because he reeked of alcohol. No shit had to call another…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 05:14 PM
3

They’ve bought into the lie that they have OpTIOns. No what you have is an inflated sense of ego, STDs and bad teeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:57 PM
30

The purity culture has done so much damage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:07 AM
28

I’m a Voluptuous woman. Think rubenesque. I’ve always worked hard to hide my features because I didn’t want to attract the male gaze and be sexualized. What I’m learning is they will sexualize me anyways. And it’s not my fault. Women in Afghanistan are covered from head to toe and still raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:04 AM
13

Male 36: liar, manipulative, and coerces women into bed then switches preference up to polyamory. Uses his expertise to make himself a favorite in mutual friend group/ activity. I smoke weed everyday. Almost to excess. Recently moved a woman and her 2 children into his home that he barely knows to help him take care of his two children and provide maid services, fuck and mommy services. Oh and she has a domestic violence record and has had her children taken from her. (Has since had them returne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:03 PM
19

He says evil because she ripped him to shreds and called him out on his fucked up bullshit. Nope she just set a boundary. Men are straight up sociopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:48 PM
3

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:44 PM
9

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:33 PM
11

This! We cannot change men. We cannot make them happy. Only God himself can and even that is shaken because men are still human and will go back to their own vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:02 PM
41

I like that framing of this situation. Instead of saying dumped I’m going to now say my boundaries were too high for his low value male self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:52 PM
42

I can’t agree with this enough. If a man is not content while alone and seems unhappy, run. Things to look for that would indicate unhappiness: Obsessive about activities. Especially thrill seeking activities. Always chasing that dopamine high. Has not gone without a partner for more than a few months. Excessive watching of sports. I’m a firm believer that men who watch a sport every god damn time it’s on is unhappy with their own lives and wants to live vicariously through them. Mismanages his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:47 PM
8

To add to your statement, for the 2 conflicts in the Middle East women are in fact on the front lines. When I was in Kosovo I was on the front lines as a medic. Combat positions such as infantry and tanker are now open for women to join.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:36 PM
1

I’m a fan of JP. Not all of his tenets but overall a good read. I’ve met men who claimed to be followers of JP, but I’m left wondering which part they follow because there is no evidence they actually do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:05 PM
33

The load of female friends would be a hard no for me. Acquaintances? Sure. But other women he calls friends and hangs with them. Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:57 PM
11

That’s a good way to look at it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 07:56 PM
6

I keep hearing polyamory repeated by men who use these dating apps. It’s because they now think they have multiple options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:01 PM
6

THIS! I’ve had two dudes in my life that could only muster up the compliment that I had a nice ass. As a matter of fact they kept saying it quite frequently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:47 PM
10

I treated my husband like a king and still got the bare minimum. Not even sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:29 PM
10

How much of this bullshit have I leaned into and it only got me fucking heartbroken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:00 AM
1

I’m hearing it a lot throughout social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:45 AM
54

I have to admit. Right now I’m alone in a hotel room in a big city that I absolutely love exploring. And I feel so alone. BUT after watching this I am reminded that I would rather experience these fleeting moments of loneliness than ever experience the soul sucking presence of a man who barely tolerates my presence because of the mommy mc bang maid services I can provide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:31 AM
8

I recently introduced a young coworker of mine to FDS. Y’all she’s jumped on board completely and is now staying single for a while to work on herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:23 AM
147

Trying to be a cool girl gets you nothing. No help with the baby, housework or finances. Oh and absolutely miserable. Ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 02:01 PM
3

Holy shit. Why am I not surprised?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 04:18 AM
2

I hate it when any dude calls me a pet name except my friend from high school. You don’t know me so stop trying to be intimate with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:16 PM
50

Or maybe she’s still in shock. When I found shit out about my late husband it took time to process what the fuck I was even looking at. Men like this have a mask and it’s slipped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:55 PM
44

I’m so sorry your are going through this. He’s a narcissistic asshole that got caught and thinks he owns you and his kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:53 PM
52

Thanks. I’m sorry for you too. It’s taken a while to acknowledge that what he did was wrong and process that I was sexually assaulted. There were more than a few times he forced himself on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:34 PM
98

My ex would do the same thing with sex and sleep. He would also treat me like total shit and scream at our son if I wouldn’t agree to sex. Mind you he was getting it on average 2-3 times a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:30 PM
159

Oh fuck no. Giant red flag. Block, and delete with such precision that he’s knocked on his ass from the shockwaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:26 PM
89

They don’t even love this dream girl. What they love is how he thinks she makes him happy and will do all the wifey things while being a pornstar in the bed. What these men actually are is unhappy with life and looking for the next “high”. They are passive aggressive as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:18 PM
1

Rarely if ever happens and I am not the exception
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:02 PM
2

Absolutely agree. I’ve met some great people on the mats. I’ve met some others that are one giant red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:12 AM
10

You hit the mail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:13 AM
2

It’s definitely a process. But well worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:11 AM
35

For sure. It’s been a hard road of confronting some deep rooted traumas and my own toxic traits. But this experience is my own reassurance of making steps in the right direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:58 PM
29

For sure. I’ve missed great men because I didn’t know what the fuck healthy was or even loved myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:04 PM
71

I think once you break up with those people the air will move easier in and out of your lungs, your brain will operate at a higher frequency and your heart will eventually become more settled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:36 PM
166

Absolutely agree. What is important to me is my pattern is changing and I can identify men that display qualities that indicate good character. I’m becoming less attracted to the “nice guy” who is really a passive hot mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:22 PM
46

Scary as fuck. What she needs to know is a visit to the ER is needed. You can have an embolic stroke if you are choked. Especially if she is experiencing dizziness afterwards. Edited to add for more accuracy: you can suffer a vertebral artery dissection that can result in a stroke 1-2 days after the choking incident. The dissection itself can also lead to a hematoma (bruise) within the walls of the vessel and result in paralysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:06 PM
5

5’9 at 120lbs? That’s my 18 year old son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:29 AM
7

Found it in Esty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:21 PM
2

Omg I want that sticker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:19 PM
66

My ex loved the idea I was going to nursing school. I could see the dollar signs racking up in his head. Poor thing. I divorced his ass when he became violent. Sure he wanted to stay together. Now he’s married to another woman that makes a pretty penny while he sits at home on his ass collecting disability. Ffs he’s only 48. Must have been all that fighting for our h freedom while playing world of war craft and call of duty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:31 PM
88

I think this has been an issue since the beginning of time. Most of the men alive today wouldn’t have made it past early 20s due to lack of intelligence, poor genes, illness and war. If anything there was a higher percentage of single mothers back before the 20th century. Now we are seeing an increase of angry men because they didn’t fulfill their destiny of dying sooner. So they are taking it out on us. Like they always have. But now we have the ability to earn money, own property and gain educ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:12 AM
39

Men say we play games. If anything I hang back and watch his next move. I might get a free meal or two. A 120$ investment. Meh As for men? They will lie, neg, and manipulate you to get you into bed. Then treat you like yesterday’s takeout. And we are the bad guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:06 AM
1

This! So this! I was called crazy because I broke off a relationship super abruptly. I learned he told this to a mutual friend. No thank you. I will not be ignoring my intuition. It’s never been wrong before. I’ve only ignored it because I didn’t want to be labels as crazy and it’s been ingrained from the beginning but men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:50 AM
2

I just ended it with a dude because of the button pushing and confusing signals. It was like my heart and my head and my soul was screaming at each other but no one could understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:45 AM
18

Don’t get me wrong, I love great sex and the connection that comes with it. BUT….. being single after being married to low value men is almost right up there with good sex. And if there is heartbreak while single, I don’t have to look at the mother fucker that broke my heart day in and day out. Being married to a man that breaks your heart and puts in no effort? You have to live with him until you decide not to and the breakup is expensive. It’s a struggle every single day to hang on to your own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:46 PM
2

Huge red flag for me is trouble sleeping or insomnia. My late husband had to take meds to sleep. He had untreated depression, and anxiety. Latest dumpster fire of a romantic interest had insomnia. He had anxiety and depression too as well as narcissistic traits. Trouble sleeping may not be a huge red flag but your spider senses need to be hyper aware when they state they are insomniacs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:54 PM
2

I was in the military and spent loads of time being the only woman per 4-500 men. Dudes are straight up awful to each other. They definitely pick the weakest and make his life miserable and talk behind each other’s backs horribly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 08:25 AM
5

Most European decent women didn’t even meet the Eurocentric standard. I know I don’t. I have curly brown hair, big hips and ass hooded eye lids and freckled skin. It’s a pain in the ass to be the sore thumb sticking out because I don’t dye my hair blonde, wear fake eyelashes and have tits that stand up at attention due to implants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:56 PM
33

“Why yes I am a serial manipulator of women and try to fuck everything with a pulse to gain self worth. Girl you could be this lucky to catch me plus AAALLLL the STDs.” There I fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:16 PM
13

I recently blocked and deleted someone. It gave me such peace. Only bummer is I’ll still see him a few times a week at my gym.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:45 AM
17

As long as he keeps dodging bullets he’ll have a nursing home to contend with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:44 AM
84

Can confirm. My own mother wanted me to stay with my abusive ex husband because he was a good provider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:35 AM
3

I’m shattered with you. Please know that you are in my thoughts as you navigate this breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:40 PM
166

I’m heart broken for her. Reading this thread makes me realize that being single is better than taking any risk on any man. I just have to figure out how to satisfy my needs for the intimate connection that sex brings. Hopefully that will fade as I get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:36 PM
21

They usually are taken. Taken up by whatever girl broke their heart many years ago Taken up by porn Taken up by their egos Taken up by serious insecurities. There. I fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:17 PM
6

I had a dude tell me I have the same body type he searches for on porn websites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:14 PM
57

In the past I stayed because society ingrained into me that in order for me, as a woman, to have value, I must be a good forgiving wife. Not anymore. My ass drops men as soon as I see drama or I feel unsettled around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:03 PM
34

I’m glad her parents are super supportive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:11 PM
20

Yeah I saw this. I wish there were laws protecting spouses from fraud and theft by the other spouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:48 AM
5

This was what I felt from my late husband. I could feel his anger simmering under the surface. But he was silent, withdrawn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:39 PM
54

This was truth I had to accept about myself. I didn’t want help because I got attention and sympathy for my troubles and change is hard and uncomfortable. I am a codependent in recovery. Pick-mes are codependent. Codependents were raised to control others by changing themselves into what the other person wants in order to receive the love they feel they are lacking. (Masking) If you look at narcissist criteria and codependent criteria they are strikingly similar. The only difference is that code…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:50 PM
7

That’s awesome you learned to use this tactic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:39 PM
83

My therapist is a male and he is very supportive of FDS and has stated there is a very good cause to name toxic masculinity for what it is. He thinks the terms we have are funny too and has started to share those with other clients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:19 AM
194

Calling you insecure is manspeak for I can’t neg you without being called out for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:09 AM
2

My heart is broken for her. Loving and desiring someone who has no kind words to say or doesn’t love you in return is a demoralizing degradation. Fucking insecure scrote has projected his own issues about his appearance on to her. Fuck him. He doesn’t deserve to breathe the same air as she does. Only reason he keeps her around is for his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:27 PM
3

I love BJJ. My confidence soared after starting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 03:33 AM
19

Jesus H Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:00 AM
103

I so needed to see this post right now. Today. Dudes are not indecisive. They are just hanging on to you for easy pussy knowing you are waiting for their next text. Edited to add: just learned the last dude I was dating has a girl friend now. Confused the fuck out of me while we were dating as to what he wanted but only one week out from me ending it he has a girl friend off of Tinder. I just wasn’t willing to put up with his emotionally uncommunicative, unavailable ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:13 PM
1

My late husband dabbled in day trading and crypto. He made quite a bit of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:58 PM
3

I hope he gets crabs the first time he sleep with this student.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:33 PM
51

I’d agree. We ladies over the age of 40 can see through the bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:29 AM
3

I recently discarded a LVM who raised every fucking red flag in the narcissist handbook. In the past I would have held on and put up with his tactics because I had a scarcity mindset. I did have sex with him which was spectacular but I was able to block him even with the oxytocin flowing through my body after the alarm bells went off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:08 AM
3

I recently had this happen. Spent just a few dates with a man and he swore up and down that he knew me so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 02:01 AM
41

100% about the OLD. I feel like I’m being served up on a platter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:12 AM
4

I’m 100% for this arrangement. I’ve been married 2 times. I’m raising a few kids. I don’t want to share my space, my peace or my comfort with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:26 AM
13

We started to be able to leave and/ or avoid abusive relationships. Women started to be able to earn our own way avoiding the “need “ to marry for stability. But what is even more awesome is men have to prove to us they are worth the headache that is living with them and that they are mentally stable supportive partners. I call it a win win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:41 AM
80

UseTeeth2022
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:45 AM
49

I knew when I checked out and went silent about what I needed it was over. We could still live in the same house but at that point I no longer saw him as a partner but as a pain in the ass roommate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:56 AM
5

I received a request for a casual relationship recently. Hot as fuck make out session, extremely hard to stop, he has a body and mind that ticks all the boxes, but I know what my brain does after sex and it’s not in MY best interest to engage in sex before any commitment. Even at my ripe old age of 42. I don’t care if my chances of finding a HVM are slim to none. I’d rather masturbate than experience empty casual sex ever again. Just ain’t worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:01 PM
4

That was my late husband. Always polite, quiet, but abnormally distant and withheld affection. I could feel the rage simmering under the surface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:51 PM
2

Needed this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:24 PM
5

Yeah my mom was the same way. Everyone thinks she’s the best thing since sliced bread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 09:00 PM
8

Oh how I loathe male incompetence. Live with it for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 02:58 AM
93

Looks like the scrotes have shown up. They are starting to reply with guesses on my weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:23 PM
13

Yeah I never understood gang rapes or gang bangs. What the fuck is pleasurable about sharing the same pussy with other men WHILE they are in the same room?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:21 PM
120

Mine was an alcoholic, beer belly, and couldn’t keep a job. Now he’s in his 70s and can’t do a damn thing except wheeze and grunt whenever he moves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:17 PM
79

Yeah dude, sorry I’m not your indentured servant who barely receives a look and a slap on the ass before sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:05 PM
290

Nah it’s more like 250-300 pounds of dead weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:03 PM
16

Definitely the first one. It happens so insidiously too. Kind of like the frog in the boiling water analogy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:24 AM
6

Fuck him. Low value ass hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 07:18 PM
11

I have male acquaintances. But zero male close friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:28 PM
3

Yeah. I was looking at the latest release of the sex and the city series. I’m not wasting anytime watching that drivel. Garbage in, garbage out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:20 PM
8

Fuck looking for the potential in men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:00 AM
36

Mine was looking at a Maxim magazine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:18 AM
14

There’s quite a few young ladies in my community who do this. It never ends well. You can hear the sadness in their voice. Their boyfriends give them a baby and a place to live. These men get a no strings attached mommy mc bangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:15 AM
10

Good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:02 PM
7

I’m heartbroken for her. He damn well knows she is struggling. He just doesn’t give a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 03:24 AM
59

This! So this! Especially after having kids our senses are amplified by 100%. I can smell different types of bacteria on people when they come into the ER. I can smell if someone used to be a smoker. I can smell the breakdown of muscle mass on a patient that’s been running a fever. Don’t tell me to calm down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:22 PM
28

Not really. I enjoy sex and when we did have it it was decent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:35 PM
25

Pretty much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:18 PM
124

She really hit the nail on the head. In my marriage I was basically an indentured servant. I was there to portray an image that he was trustworthy and him being married was his accomplishment. I had his children, did all of the work in caring for them and worked full time. If he cut the grass I was supposed to shower him in praise and adoration. He never wanted sex from me though. He was getting that need met somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:49 PM
18

Good job! I hate it when people feel entitled to my shit or my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:02 PM
2

I agree. For perspective I’m college educated and work with physicians. Maybe one out of the 6 male physicians I work with are capable of having a decent conversation. And half of them I wouldn’t let touch my dog. Blue collar or collage degree dosent matter to me. It’s in how he manages his money, if he continues to educate himself through travel and books and how he views those around him. I’ve met some broke indebt blue collar workers and I’ve worked with physicians who make a million a year n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:31 AM
4

I’d say a pick me is someone with serious case of codependency. I’m listening to the book “women who love too much”. Very eye opening and why I was a pickmesha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 11:17 PM
6

I hear you. I’m a little above average weight and certainly not today’s definition of beautiful. If I don’t have makeup on and am not wearing flattering clothes I barely get noticed. Like I’ve had dudes at a cashier counter completely skip over me to take the order of the drop dead gorgeous woman behind me. Made me feel like total shit. And all of my porn star looking friends get far more attention than I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:25 PM
7

I have male acquaintances and training partners but I wouldn’t give them the time of day outside of the gym or anyplace without another person present.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:19 PM
9

I don’t want to devalue your statement, but keep in mind that even “beautiful, skinny, perfect women” are devalued and treated like absolute shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:17 PM
22

I do the same. I’m constantly getting alerts so I turn it face down so it doesn’t distract me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:18 AM
3

I am codependent. I was raised with a mentally unstable mom and an alcoholic dad. My whole extended family is mostly drug addicts, alcoholics and codependent women. Im working on that. I thought I had it fixed until I met my husband. I got played hard. But never again. I’m in my 40s. My life is going to be loved for raising my children and enjoying life by myself for a long while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:28 PM
3

The supplements he was taking were illegal to be sold in the US. The bottles stated the mane of the supplement and below the name it said not for human consumption. The first listed side effect was lowering testosterone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 07:33 PM
9

He was also prescribed medication for depression and refused to take it. Yes he had a very serious addiction to food that led down the path to low T, depression and a myriad of other mental health problems. I stayed until I couldn’t, he died before I had the chance to leave. We were married only 8 years. And keep in mind he hid the adderal and benzo use. I had no idea of those until after he died and I was searching for documents in his office.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:47 PM
4

Amen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:54 PM
6

Absolutely. I agree 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:52 PM
19

He was taking an illegal supplement to lower his T levels. The benzodiazepines and amphetamines were his “best friends” prescription. He had an addiction to food. Severe addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:52 PM
4

I have no idea either. He certainly had my full support to seek whatever help he needed or wanted. I was his biggest fan. One of worst part about his passing is he was a genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:49 PM
3

I would encourage you to go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:51 AM
6

Not quite. I’m still unlearning a lot of unhealthy shit from my childhood. I’m a pickmeha and cool girl still in rehab. And will be for a long damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:48 AM
84

I was tested in January and was clear. We also had been using condoms for about a year before that. Thanks for the tip though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:00 AM
3

He’s not into her but he’ll keep stringing her along for the good (for him) sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:18 AM
197

I certainly don’t hold it against him if he was gay, but that was a war I didn’t start or get invited to. It was brought tot my door with zero fucks given about how it would impact the rest of us. There is no excuse for poor integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:17 AM
62

I agree! With a disgusting ungroomed scraggly beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:48 PM
44

As for the debt the state I live in does not hold me responsible for his unsecured debt ie credit cards, hospital bill etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:45 PM
12

It was maddening. And eventually I gave up. That’s when I knew I was done and started making my exit plan. But then he died so……
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:44 PM
9

Will be just fine. I’m financially savvy enough to keep everything afloat while we still live our best life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:09 PM
16

I’m the future I may have a long term relationship who dosent live with me. But I’ve been in 2 and that shit was horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:37 PM
67

Not to mention how fucking expensive they are. I’d rather treat myself to a nice vacation or a home upgrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:36 PM
45

There are several reasons I stayed. As a side note I was formulating an exit plan before he got sick and the six months prior to that I was just doing my own thing, training hard, kids activities and my job. I had a lot of supportive girl friends too. I was ingrained with the mantra that marriage is very serious and you can’t just leave because it gets hard. I had hope he would become the man I had dated again. My therapist thinks he was a covert narcissist. Never took responsibility, always def…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:05 PM
94

Omg thank you. I almost shed some tears reading your compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:55 PM
61

Thanks for your very kind words. I think what has kept me sane is my ability (or sociopathic characteristics) to separate my self from my emotions. It’s great when working codes and when I was in the Army. As for the good parent part I just do my best with what I have. It’s taken a lot of work to get here. I also treat my parenting as raising my kids to be good adults. It’s not my job to be their friend. It’s my job to teach them integrity and hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:53 PM
59

There are definitely times where I was scared for my life because of how withdrawn he would become at times. Like murder suicide type scared. He was never visibly angry but you could tell it was simmering beneath the surface. And you could tell by the way he drove. Super dangerous and aggressive. Besides from that the debt o would have been saddled with would had we divorced would have been crippling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:18 PM
387

I think he was trying to suppress homosexual feelings. His “best friend” is taking his death a lot harder than I am. And it was also his prescription bottles I found in my husbands office.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:15 PM
161

For sure. The kids are in counseling and I am holding back what I know their dad as. Thats not their burden to bear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:27 PM
49

Roflmao. My first thought when I read that statement was “well he’s cremated so he lost a hell of a lot of weight in about one hour”. My sense of humor is so fucked up right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:20 PM
26

Yeah his last 2 weeks were horrible. He stated on several occasions he felt like he was drowning. He dropped 20 pounds in 2 weeks from breathing so fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:00 PM
342

My thoughts are that he was ashamed of his sexuality. He grew up in a very moralistic family (read not church going but shame driven and religious) I’ll never know for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:59 PM
25

It’s all good. Long story short my late husband started spiraling 2 years before his death. I had already mentally prepared myself. When he died it was rough emotionally for about a month or two but now it’s all about my kiddos and making sure they are okay. This is absolutely why you want to vet harshly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:32 PM
75

Trust me I’m not. 7 years later I married a “nice man”. Turns out he was a covert narcissist. Now I’m a widow with 2 children to raise because he self destructed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:10 AM
164

He sounds like my ex husband. The only thing he did was work and complain that I wasn’t working and staying home with the kids. My ass went to nursing school, got a job and divorced his lazy disgusting ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:21 AM
95

This article mentions the wearing of a white ribbon to honor these women and bring awareness of misogyny. I wonder if we could do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:08 AM
2

Will do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:04 PM
2

I generically use the words female and male in day to day. I’ve been put on blast by women in this subreddit because I’ve used the terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:59 AM
108

A story of male vengeance on other men who are predators. Naming and shaming other men who abuse women. Public ally. I want the bad men to be lawyers, preachers, and other “upstanding” men in the community. Female hero who is NOT dressed like a porn star. Wickedly smart (as we all are), physically strong. And there is strong boundaries between her and a romantic interest. A story of a badly behaved man who gaslights women, watches porn and takes advantage of mentally weak women. I wanna see his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:42 AM
15

Some of the nicest dudes I’ve met are on the shorter side. But then again the meetings were brief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:29 AM
4

The Body Keeps Score is a book on my list to read. I’ve heard great things about it. I details how our body will eventually breakdown from unaddressed trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:23 AM
6

What the fuck did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:32 AM
7

His testosterone is probably dropping and he can’t get it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:23 AM
7

I’m right there with you. I have two school age children but I’d prefer a man whose children are grown. Im not looking to raise someone else’s children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:21 PM
12

It’s what breeds narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:14 PM
39

I have a list of books to read and I’ve just added this one to the top of the list. I am a woman who loves too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:25 PM
15

I have a habit of using the word females and males. I used to be in the military and it stuck. Now I work in healthcare and it’s in the language there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:21 PM
6

I have read up on the Kibbe. Apparently I’m a romantic something or other (short with serious curves, very fleshy). I’ll check out those Facebook groups. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:14 PM
7

We have a Dillards. And I wouldn’t mind making a trip to a big city to find a Nordstrom’s either. Thanks for the tip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:10 PM
9

Maintain a stiff upper lip. I will say though when a narcissist or otherwise abusive partner was (in the past) trying to get a reaction out of me I use that ability to Mai rain my composure and not give them the pleasure of seeing me upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:48 PM
15

Thanks so much. Yeah DIY is my thing. I’m the girl who can take apart a toilet to fix it, or repair broken furniture. But fashion? Not my wheelhouse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 12:34 PM
4

Fuck yeah I’m comfortable being alone. Better than sharing a space with a Neanderthal who kills my chill vibe with his negging/passive aggressive bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:58 AM
19

Beware of the “recreational” pot smoker. Recent studies show they are less emotionally intelligent than their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:34 AM
43

Does anyone recommend resources to learn how to dress and accessorize? I’m out of my depth. I see so many styles I like but just don’t know where to start. Unfortunately my default is a T shirt and jeans. I am wearing makeup, earrings and necklaces though. AND I wear heels! When I add the accessories, makeup and heels I feel really good. Even if it is just a pair of jeans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 05:30 AM
98

One of the things that stands out to me is his drive to figure out what works instead of just giving up because he lost his legs. I can’t tell you how many men I know who straight up gave the fuck up, became alcoholics and drug addicts because they lost some limbs and life got a little more challenging. I don’t know if this man is HV but the character traits he is displaying right now are indicative of what a HV man should have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 02:29 AM
82

This post hits a nerve. I used to diminish myself so much in past relationships in order to make my partners happy. I used to gaslight myself and reason out in my mind why my partner had done xyz. I would take on the guilt thinking I had caused him to behave poorly and I really shouldn’t be upset to begin with. I have a long way to go to unfuck my mind. I’m looking forward to the journey because it means I no longer have to give my entire being over to someone who wouldn’t piss on me if I was on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:38 PM
185

A select few men age well because they’ve taken good care of themselves. Leo whatever his name is has not. The dad bod does not look good on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:02 PM
5

People tried to push me into marriage therapy with my abusive ex husband. Claimed it was my obligation since we were married. I gave it some thought but then realized I hated him and that would never change. I didn’t want to live with a man I hated. Plus I had developed a friends with benefits relationship (I do not advise now of course). The sex was mind blowing and gave me motivation to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:22 AM
7

Yes I do. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 02:01 AM
12

Fuck struggle love. I’ve had it and it sucks the life out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 11:10 PM
19

THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 03:18 AM
12

I’d love to see her set up. It’s my dream to spend my life like that after my kids are grown and gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 12:17 AM
17

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:35 PM
4

I just rolled my eyes so hard they almost got stuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:30 PM
2

I’m so happy you chose a future without this man. Congratulations on the first steps towards freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:15 PM
6

FYI a warm compress applied over the bladder will help calm the spasms. If you start to run a fever or start vomiting I would encourage you to go to the ER for more urgent treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:13 PM
11

I’ve been standing at arms length from a man discussing some random subject or laughing about the antics our kids get up to and up slides the wife wrapping herself up in the husband to subtly letting me know they are married. Bitch I don’t want your husband. If you both have trust problems trust that I don’t want to be apart of it. Or any other married men for that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:10 PM
12

I need to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:00 PM
42

I had never heard of Lundy Bancroft. Looked him up and have a few YouTube videos to watch. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 04:58 PM
16

I’m 41 and I am happier than I have ever been. Part in reason for being single and having total control over my money. If I could go back in time I’d tell myself to love my body more and show her FDS. I’m not sure I would have listened because I was so boy crazy but at least I’d have the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:56 PM
34

I have a family member who does this. She regularly invites her friends over to hang out while we are in town or when she’s visiting our hometown. She will completely neglect to introduce me to her friends or include us in conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:21 PM
96

I honestly hate the holidays. There are so many expectations to get everything so perfect. And the gifts are usually junk I don’t use anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:58 AM
50

Oh you bet my boundaries will be up after Christmas. Im keeping the peace for Christmas for the sake of my kids. And because it’s the first holiday without their son/ my husband. But I’ll never be apart of a get together like that again. Im done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:57 AM
16

Holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:05 AM
1

I’ll pay for my own expensive steak. Better yet I’ll go out to my freezer, pull out a local grass fed steak and grill it myself. Lol these ass holes think we can’t survive without them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 06:03 PM
3

He’s mad because you took away his free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:58 PM
3

I’d nope the fuck out of that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:00 PM
2

I pay for a background check service. It’s about 26$ a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:54 AM
7

Holy flying cat woman. That’s really reaching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:42 AM
7

Yup. Swoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:39 AM
1

I’ve been listening to a podcast by a neurobiologist. It’s called the Huberman Lab. In one podcast he goes into detail as to how the dopamine reward system works along with glutamine and oxytocin. (Anti anxiety, feel good and attachment neurotransmitters) The short version of this podcast is if you keep doing/ performing the activity that causes the release of these neurotransmitters you cause a temporary depletion. Do them long enough you cause a low base level of these neurotransmitters availa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:29 AM
18

HVM thing he does: he does a lot of appearances at gun expos and range competitions. There are always “gun bunnies” around wanting pictures with him etc. (read models who look like porn stars and dressed rather scantily). In every picture you can see his arms open and around the models but he never touches them. You can see his hands are hovering at the waist but he never touches the models.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:45 AM
67

They whine when you don’t work and contribute financially. They whine when you work, making money AND have children AND take care of the chores. Damned if you do. Damned if you dont
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:30 AM
1

I’ve thought about this issue a lot. What I have found is most men choose the bury their head in the sand when it comes to what happens to others around them. It also speaks to their inability to question their own choices in friends, relatives and fidelity to the “men’s club”. In other words if they chose to pull the scales off their eyes and actually look at the character of the people they spend time with and who they trust it would rock their world and shatter their reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:35 PM
5

Dating and marrying an overweight man is abysmal. And most of the time it’s a result of a serious food addiction. I’ve been in a relationship with an overweight man. They secretly hate themselves and it spill over on to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:05 PM
6

As I’m reading this I’m wonder why tf is your boyfriend not shutting this shit down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:50 PM
160

I have to confess. I’ve listened to Jordan Petersen quite a bit. While FDS hates the man I find him very good at calling men out in their complacent flaccid bullshit. He certainly has view points I disagree with but some of his podcasts inspired me to become a person of character. And I continue that pursuit everyday. I hope this post dosent get me banned. FDS has added exponentially to my life. I’m the kind that will listen to just about anyone just to learn. Even those whom I know hold extreme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:45 AM
1

I’d be down for that. Or trips to Europe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:26 AM
3

I wonder if we could form an FDS travel group
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:17 AM
1

I wonder if there is an adopt a grandma or big sister program?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:15 AM
1

Amen sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:13 AM
2

As a daughter of a LVM these dads don’t really give a shit if their daughter is hurt. It’s more about control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:07 AM
14

I am a living example of this article. My late husband had one “close” friend. Everything else was up to me. I was placed in the role of wife, maid, savior. He rarely worked out, played sports or did anything besides work. My husbands’ demise came about because of his severe lack of self care and drug abuse. Somehow I am still blamed for not saving him from himself. He was a “nice guy” though so in my family’s eyes I was lucky. NOT! Word of advice. Run away from men who do not have a few good qu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:56 PM
4

I have male acquaintances but only one male “friend”. Turns out all he wanted me for was to fuck. I have plenty of female friends. Men aren’t safe to be friends with. Cut and dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 04:15 PM
1

What is the opinion of dating a young guy? I’m 41 and men my age cannot keep up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 02:27 AM
196

What do you wanna bet the girl he initially broke it off with wasn’t putting out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:32 PM
6

LVM see any communication about a request as us being controlling or that they have fallen short. They take it extremely personally and instead of using the opportunity to rectify a simple situation they sulk and heel drag. They are so caught up in how they feel they can’t see the forest through the trees. Wives haven’t been silent. They’ve been trying and communicating. Husbands just weren’t willing to listen and refused to give a damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:06 PM
7

When I would go silent in a relationship it’s over. I was just formulating my exit plan. With FDS I’m not even waiting to that point. I see undesirable actions or low emotional intelligence I’m out. No nagging, no long conversations. Nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:58 PM
6

Disney lied to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:57 AM
0

100% they need God. I know I do and if I had not had Him I’d be just as bad as the men we nned to avoid. The entire book of Proverbs outlines what it is to be a person of character. You are correct that the Bible was written by men in a male dominated world, but I think the real twist is that the strongest characters in the Bible are the women. There are two books entirely dedicated to women. Three if you count the Song of Solomon. If the entire Bible is read as a historical account and history …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 12:32 PM
3

Roflmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:57 AM
4

The more jacked up the pickup the smaller the penis and weaker erection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:56 AM
2

Hiding as I roll coal in my BMW suv that helps haul hay for my milk goats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:54 AM
2

No. First 2 sentences gave me all the info I need. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:44 AM
18

FYI this technique in wrestling and Jiujitsu is extremely frowned upon and will get your ass kicked. By everyone. Repeatedly. And then your membership is terminated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:24 AM
14

Yes. God forbid men be loving and thoughtful towards their wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:22 AM
7

I always belt like my husband married me to check the boxes. Not because he actually loved me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:19 AM
27

Girl you are taking away their maid service, free sex and personal chef. Of course they are going to be pissed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:18 AM
25

I don’t know how to answer this discussion except to answer with my own experiences with religion and where my faith is at now. I was raised in the evangelical/ church of God/ southern baptist. When I became a teenager it was the whole purity movement and shit. They never went into detail as to why except that you needed to save yourself and that your sexuality was a gift. If you waited to have sec your marriage would be perfect and it meant that your husband really loved you. Fast forward I’m a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:53 AM
13

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:59 AM
148

I’m super fucking proud of you. It’s tough making a decision and sticking with it. Especially when you are emotionally invested but this LVM will no longer be in the way of you living your best life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 02:00 PM
2

I’m invested in ETFs. Doing quite well. I’ll look into index tracking funds. Do you recommend any reading material or follow certain websites to learn more about investing. I’m just starting to dip my toe into the water but there is so much more to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:56 AM
6

I second the budget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:51 AM
1

Let’s hope she’s got a throw away Reddit account and is on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:47 AM
8

What really scary for black women is the high rate of STDs to include HIV. At least it is in the three counties around where I live. And it’s all because of black men giving to them. Black men hate black women except their mommas and grandmothers. They hold them up on a pedestal. But a young black woman? Completely different treatment. Damndest thing I ever saw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:04 AM
8

I want someone to show me where in the Bible is states that we are to be stay at home mothers? When I was young they used to push this stay at home type narrative. And these days they are pushing it even harder. But no where in the Bible does it say to be only a caretaker of the home. Most churches quote Proverbs 31 as if all it means is for women to be of character for her family but the biggest thing they miss about that chapter is where the woman is selling things and buying land. She’s a bus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:56 AM
14

I can’t say it will be easier especially during the holidays. But the peace I get from not having those people in my life is priceless. I’m also against “family is blood yada yada”. Statistically family’s cause more harm to the vulnerable than any other group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:45 AM
2

My dad came over to my house the day my husband died to stay with me. Got drunk on the second evening and proceeded to fight with my step mom on the front porch just outside of my children’s bedroom window. Mother fucker didn’t even hug me or tell me was sorry until we were in front of a crowd at the memorial. Granted my husband was LV but I hadn’t found out half the shady shit at that point. My dad only lives an hour from me. Guess how many times he’s come to see me in the 3 months my husband d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:42 AM
53

Aggressive driving is associated with serious anger issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:36 AM
6

Um… I’m quite happy without a man in my life. Do I want some ass from time to time? Sure we all do BUT! I’ll be damned if I sell the for yesterday’s catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 02:34 AM
7

That’s funny cause when I’m pissed my southern accent comes out so thick it’s like syrup. And in this instance I really do feel bad for her. Not the other way bless your heart can be taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:52 AM
11

Bless her heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:46 AM
9

Perfectly said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:37 AM
65

I’m conflicted about marriage myself. Even if I find a HVM I’d be seriously gun shy. I’ve been in two bad marriages. Ill be damned if I ever give that much power to another human being for as long as I live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:36 AM
52

Never go against your instincts. After his death I found so much that he had hidden from me. One secret was that he was abusing benzodiazepines and amphetamines. They were prescription drugs but the prescription was his “best friends”. He spoke more and texted his best friend more than he ever talked to me. I also suspect he was hiding his love for his best friend. He was very low sex drive and was prescribed testosterone but only received 3 injections and quit. After his death I found supplemen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:09 PM
66

I would like to add watch out for females that are the mans flying monkeys. I experienced this with my mother in law. She was so eager to see her son married and happy that she covered up serious character flaws. Never ever ever underestimate the females they are close to. Edited to add: soon after we were married his flaws came to the surface. I blamed myself for missing the red flags and or causing him to behave this way. I basically gaslighted myself. Recently I realized that even if I have f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:58 PM
61

Fuck if I know. I swear to God pickmes are just as toxic as the men they are married to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:04 PM
28

It’s resolved now. She stopped showing up after a few weeks of bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:02 PM
35

You are not wrong. Myself? I’d never date one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:28 PM
66

She did on several occasions and even had security walk her to her car and call sheriffs deputies. Wasn’t enough to prosecute. This is the same sheriffs office that didn’t file the charges against a patient that struck me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:48 PM
275

My best friend just got burned by a scrote who said he was getting a divorce. He had even moved in with her temporarily. One day he ghosts my friend and moves his stuff out while my friend is at work. Backstory:Turns out wife kicked his ass out and they were separated. Hubby and wife reconciled. The wife found out about my friend and stalked her mercilessly for several weeks until my friend got a restraining order. Didn’t matter though because friend and I work in an ER and you can’t prohibit a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:44 PM
4

I discovered this about myself when listening to a Brene Brown book. It’s a part of myself I really a dislike. I just have to figure out how to break this habit/ behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:10 AM
4

Spot on. I’m right there with you sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:50 AM
4

You do have skills. If you can make really good pickles. No joke. I made some and took them to the local farmers market and pulled in over 400$. I also make rum roasted sugared pecans and other homemade goods. People go Gaga over homemade local goods. Edit: look up you cottage food laws in your state it will give you some guidance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:06 PM
8

I got banned from dead bedrooms when I suggested a poor woman join FDS after a horrible sexual experience with her soon to be ex husband who insisted on participating in BDSM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:56 PM
14

This is my hang up. Providing emotional support and trying to help way too soon. I overshare about my traumas way too much. I’ve really thought about it and where the desire to do this comes from. I’m working on it and part of that work has been me being really honest with myself. I am trying to convince these dudes to like me or find me valuable enough to want a relationship. I do this by being overly supportive and helpful in the very beginning of a relationship. At the very heart of my behavi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:48 PM
19

Omg yes! Huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:24 PM
74

Yes! Never mind that deep sea fishing is prohibitively expensive, usually cocaine and booze fueled and a enormous waste of time. Tell me have no retirement account or savings without tell me you have no retirement account or savings. = dude with a picture of himself out deep sea fishing. Twice as true when they have a huge pickup truck but do not work in a trade or position that requires said pickup truck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 10:22 PM
20

I hope he enjoys his gangrene raisin toes with a side of erectile dysfunction. Diabetes is no joke. Especially type 2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 09:04 PM
50

I can really identify with her frustration. It’s disgusting and the spouses know it but now they have their own personal maid and nurse to take care of them. Question: how do you ask a person you are dating about their chronic health conditions? Mine hid his from me and when we got married all bets were off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 02:29 PM
63

I swear to God Red pilled men are today’s MGTOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:39 PM
45

My guess is these dudes haven’t seen a vagina in quite a while. All talk. Poor pickmeshas will get wrapped up that train wreck though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:57 AM
8

I live in the area where a lot of these fishing charters are. Trust me when I say stay the fuck away from these men. Most of them are coked up, drunk and behind in child support living with their mommas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:42 AM
1

I’m not defensive. I’m just pointing out that you made a generalization about something I said. As if I absolutely think that the south is the greatest place in the planet. And then you question if I’m a female. Let’s ask the mods to take a look at my Patreon account to confirm because my legal name, Reddit name and a picture of me are in their inbox. Furthermore if you want to stalk my profile (Big red flag) you will also see some of the other subs that I belong to. One of them is for the recen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:23 AM
1

Oh lord. Are you really going to break down every comment and wag your little finger at everyone? Wtf has that much time. And FYI sexism is EVERYWHERE. Not just in the south. And last time I checked there are abortion restrictions in every state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:38 PM
21

Life insurance and his unspent retirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:10 PM
1

Where did I say it was perfect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:55 PM
34

I was recently fucked zoned by a long time “friend” of mine. Dude was shit anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:44 AM
26

There’s a special place in hell for men who beat pregnant women. May God give him the rewards he so richly deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:37 AM
22

I’m fortunate to live in the country. The homeless may pass though our small town but the cops move them along fairly quickly. The closest city to me has zero tolerance for this type of bullshit. The sheriffs arrest pretty quickly and don’t release. True story: my aunt owns a business and goes to the farmers market every Saturday to sell her goods. No shit the homeless guys help her unload and reload. She pays them in food and lemonade. There is something to be said about living in the Deep Sout…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 02:50 AM
24

In most states she has the ability to stay. He at least needs an eviction notice to kick her and the kids out. I’d venture to say that a judge would be extremely reluctant to evict a mom and her two children. If anything the judge would order him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:59 PM
36

I recently stopped making eye contact with them. Unless I know them and are in a conversation with them I avoid eye contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:49 PM
7

You’ve got my support. I’ve been in shitty relationships before where the dude held me hostage because I “loved” him. I hate to break it to you but you aren’t in love with him. You are in love a dream and the hope that he will one day love you back in the way you need him to be. With his porn and alcohol addiction that’s no going to happen. Those things are his true loves. Not you. Not any human. I’ve walked this road before. I promise that you will be thankful you left this sorry sack of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 03:16 AM
15

I do too. I was at one last week and had a blast except we had one dude who was hot for my friend and would not let the fuck up. My best friends husband had to step in and get rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:22 AM
14

I just ordered this. While I don’t have a porn addiction I know I have used sex to gain “love” or companionship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:25 AM
55

Oh fuck no. The lying alone is a huge deal breaker AND I’ve got kids. You don’t hide something like that. EVER!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:52 PM
123

It’s time to start boycotting clubs and bars. After a week of no females men stop attending, revenue drops and partying spots do more to prevent this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 08:56 PM
40

Score!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 01:12 PM
36

Omg this! If you are going to claim realism then we need to see the 20 year olds missing teeth, dead bodies piling up after the dysentery, cholera, and typhus outbreaks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 01:10 PM
17

Oh girl. You speak the truth. When the pickmeshas get loud and insist on being in charge I step back and watch the disaster unfold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:31 AM
11

I’d say what let’s you know about a man is how he relates to the world around him. And also how he handles his money. Is he ass deep in debt in spite of making 6 figures or is he a mechanic that saves what he can, lives modestly but put thought into what he does for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:21 AM
74

I’ve been told I was a tad bit intimidating because I seek to excel in everything I set my mind to and I speak my mind. No sis “ I am not intimidating you are intimidated.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 07:37 PM
33

Girl my late husband did this shit. Fucking mind blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:49 AM
5

Holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:21 PM
74

I practice Brazilian Jiujitsu. It’s a grappling sport. I get all the bro hugs I need with none of the “intimacy”. And the girls I practice with are huggers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 12:27 AM
2

I listen to a number of podcasts by men and women. Much of them have information on topics I am interested in. My most recent podcast binge is of course FDS but also Dr Huberman. I will consider myself healed from the past pickmesha and cool girl disorders when most of my time is spent learning a new skill, language and furthering my education. FDS and other empowerment podcasts will be listened to weekly as a reminder to maintain my path towards a goal of emotional, financial and physical indep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:17 PM
9

I can’t even
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:09 AM
58

Look up Bartholin cyst. Extremely painful. Shaving/waxing can contribute to this condition. Anytime I’ve seen a woman present to the ER for this she’s bald in the pubic region.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:17 PM
24

I’m proud of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:18 AM
121

I wish they wouldn’t have taught me this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:59 PM
52

They do cover for their do nothing sons. However, the way my late husbands mom covered for him was helping him behind the scenes with money. He had a good job, but he didn’t manage the money well. I thought I was maintaining awareness of our financial situation until I discovered $65,000 in debt. His mom was floating him money without her husbands or my knowledge. She also hid her sons character flaws by downplaying incidences of his “slip ups” to me. She would say things like, he was forgetful …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 08:38 PM
261

I know this all to well. At least the mothers helping out bit. Mother’s of LVM seek to help hide their sons worst habits and character flaws in order to rope a female into a relationship. These men also tend to be narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 06:40 PM
9

I’m thankful for this group. It’s opened my eyes to how horribly I’ve been treated in the past and given me the motivation to stay single lol instead of swooning for the first man that looks my way. Do I notice it when a man is paying me attention? Sure. But I start looking for evidence in his conversation that he is a HVM. Fuck being miserable in a relationship ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:47 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter