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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:00 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 10:34 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:56 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:32 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:00 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 12:04 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:57 PM
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How-To High Valuemillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:56 PM
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REMINDER 👑millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 08:46 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:39 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:16 AM
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SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 06:44 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:51 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:01 AM
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FDS HUMORmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:11 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:45 PM
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Story time ☕millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:59 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:45 AM
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NAH, SISmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:15 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:47 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:23 AM
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PICKME CULTUREmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:28 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:08 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:18 PM
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STRATEGYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 06:55 AM
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Story time ☕millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:21 AM
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Story time ☕millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:11 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:10 AM
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LIES MEN TELLmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 05:29 PM
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LEVEL UPmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:54 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:53 PM
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Story time ☕millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:58 PM
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NAH, SISmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:06 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:54 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:27 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!millennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:51 PM
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How-To High Valuemillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:58 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:30 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 10:14 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:04 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:47 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYmillennialpink2000/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:49 AM
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STFU you're obvi a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/22 04:07 PM
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Love is often out of the question. They don't even like you most of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/22 05:29 AM
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Nope. She's single and still in pretty much the same place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/22 05:28 AM
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Her life has been a never ending series of men treating her badly, yet she thinks she gets along great with guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/22 06:40 AM
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I haven't met up with her in 6 months. Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/22 05:51 AM
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This was 10+ years ago unfortunately :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:27 PM
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I watched a male professor delete outliers from data to achieve the outcome he wanted for a market research survey. That's literally what they do to 'prove' their ridiculous theories
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 05:01 PM
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When you put someone on a pedestal, you're forcing them to look down on you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 04:12 PM
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- watch who they admire - notice how they treat people who can't help them - listen for what they joke about / laugh at - pay attention to the stories they tell about themselves - watch how they act when they've got the power in a situation - notice how they react to other people's good news - take note of their friend circle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 02:37 AM
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Save that convo for much further down the line. When you mention it, do it casually. If you're chill and non-chalant about it, he should be too. If you make a big deal about it, he'll be more likely to do the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:15 PM
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Don't let him move in with you. He's wanting to sponge off of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 04:57 PM
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I'm so tired of this poor Johnny narrative. He's abusive trash, accept it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:55 PM
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I've seen Hamlet, I know how it goes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 10:53 PM
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Great list. Yeah, my ex didn't have a car and I refused to let him drive mine so I was always on the hook for rides. Never dating a guy without his own car again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 07:46 PM
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That's the real deal!! Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:54 PM
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The grease and snoring alone are reasons enough to live alone forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:27 PM
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He calls himself an expert chef too! BAHAHAHAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:06 PM
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More like lone gerbil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:04 PM
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Did you get told it wasn't a big deal and you were overreacting when you expressed frustration at his boneheaded actions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:01 PM
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Holy smokes, yes they are! HAHAHAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:01 PM
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"My workload has halved since leaving my shitty ex." Amen. It just melted away. My home today is gorgeous and I have no trouble meeting my own high standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:55 PM
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I love hearing this! It builds your confidence when you don't need to rely on anyone for minor fixes too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:54 PM
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YES! No audience is when you can actually relax and recharge. I never knew how much alone time I needed to feel like me (cuz I never got it growing up), so this freedom is necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:52 PM
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Don't give up your space. Who cares what your friends say? They aren't you and love isn't enough. Your comfort and sanity matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:47 PM
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His interest is takeout but he's a nutrition expert? LOLOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:44 PM
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Yeah, you just wanna live in peace without that concern of appearance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:12 AM
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One day is someday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:06 AM
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That's so unfair, what bs. No doubt you wised up quickly to that trick VERY early on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 06:06 AM
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Soon, hopefully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 04:09 AM
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"I never had time for deep thinking when he was around" That hit hard. He could stare at his computer (which was the TV in the living room) for hours, but if I was on my computer doing the same, he'd constantly interrupt me. I'm the same as you—I can actually process and strategize without having to pay him attention when he demanded it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:16 AM
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Sometimes you've gotta climb down to go up—good for you for securing for future with a condo purchase. Stay strong, it'll just be a reminder to gtfo when you've got the funds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:12 AM
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YUPPPPPPP I'd get asked (aggressively) "what's wrong with you" which would send me from 0 to 100
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:06 AM
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I'd be livid. But of course, why would he care? It's only YOUR place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:05 AM
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Amen. I can make it through Costco in less than 14 minutes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:02 AM
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Mine was the opposite. He would step on my feet because he had no spatial awareness of where I was. It took so long for me to realize how symbolic that was of our entire relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:01 AM
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It can be unsettling in the beginning to be away from that feeling of being on edge. I know what you mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:58 AM
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Yup, they assume we're all lonely and miserable living alone! Hahah people kept telling me to get a pet and I don't want one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:54 AM
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Same, except it was a blaring TV. God, I hate the sound of the TV on in the background, music is much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:53 AM
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That's EXACTLY it. I don't need someone there when I watch TV or hang out, it's not relaxing then. Being alone is relaxing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:52 AM
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Of course it sucks for men to live alone, they don't get access to our emotional labour and everything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:51 AM
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Ah yes, the tone policing and mincing your words for the guy who steamrolls over you— I know it well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:50 AM
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YUP!! It was all about 'appreciating' his greatness that was absolute BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:06 AM
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Oh god, yes, the shitty comments and tone policing—I forgot about those. Hahah yeah, I had guys complain about my pjs not being sexy enough too. What a crock of shit. Ew, Fox News is a red flag for next time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:05 AM
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The coffee table became the symbol of oppression. Glad it's gone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:03 AM
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Amen. Especially as a creative, I didn't realize how deeply other people ruined my mental state and mood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:03 AM
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Amen. Someone was ALWAYS home growing up, I couldn't get 10 fucking minutes to myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:02 AM
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I starfish as well! Yeah, it's crazy how magically things stay clean when a guy isn't around to ruin it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 01:01 AM
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Congrats on the solo digs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:59 AM
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The introvert in me just shuddered reading that. Gah, no way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:29 AM
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Yeah, the folks who use every pan to scramble an egg and expect you to help clean up, yet when you cook you clean as you go so there's no mess for them to go halfsies on. Shocker eh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 12:00 AM
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You met my ex? Somehow dealing with his ego was more work than dealing with the situation at hand lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:35 PM
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I've never had such a situation, but I've always dreamed of it! Glad you've found one that's working for you, I'm jealous. The right person can make living together really fun :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:34 PM
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And no mess from someone else's "cooking"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:10 PM
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The lack of judgement is truly fantastic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:08 PM
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Same. I have a toolkit and have been able to fix most things, or just pay someone! Not worth having dead-weight around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:08 PM
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Yes to ALL of this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:07 PM
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Will they be addressing gay porn as well? Doubtful. Will it be taught by a woman? Doubtful. Will they speak to Gail Dines? Doubtful. Will it just be a bunch of guys getting off to their 'intellectualism' of violent, degrading videos? Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:05 AM
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This is abusive behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 01:25 AM
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He pulled every word—especially the stats—out of his ass Someone should tell him his fever dreams aren't reality, no matter how badly he wishes it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:54 AM
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Yeah, just bros being bros watching sweaty men in spandex run into each other. Or going to the pool hall....a dark space where women were excluded so men could play with looooong poles, touch balls and have their asses up in each other's faces LOLOLOLOLOLOL the most homoerotic shit ever Yet these guys scream at the idea of watching women compete. Ummmm ok, tell on yourselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:37 PM
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Men refuse to learn from a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:34 PM
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YUP! Simple economics of supply and demand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 05:53 PM
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Most guys I know who are involved with their kids don't feel the need to tell everyone how much they care—they just do it. Also, these guys never use the word 'babysitting' when it comes to their own offspring. They use the word 'parenting' and will respectfully and gently correct anyone who suggests otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 05:51 PM
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YUP!! Being with a loser will suck the youth from your soul
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 02:45 PM
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They're so desperate LOLOL bUt WoMeN NeEd MeN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 03:41 AM
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This is pretty great, I had a good chuckle. Enjoy the ego boost! Hah no kidding. What a prince who's willing to waste two women's time while pining for someone else. Another reminder why dating isn't it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 03:40 AM
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Love your avatar You're totally right, and to add to your point, it's better to be the gal who wouldn't do xyz than the girl who did everything. They don't respect either, but it'll be less likely they're regaling their bros with disgusting stories behind your back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 02:54 AM
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It's like trying to learn to drive from reading a book. Yeah, you know the rules, but you've gotta actually drive the car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 02:10 AM
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You've got it all figured out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 12:46 AM
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I LOVE THIS MOVIE, thank you for this post. Toula was freaking awesome, and this love story was actually inspiring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:41 PM
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They're like babies! I'm 37 as well, and there's a cute 30 year old guy who has shown interest but I can't help but see him as a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:40 PM
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They certainly don't. They erroneously believe their great "personalities" will carry them through life LOL, as if
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:39 PM
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Grandma's got game! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 10:37 PM
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They SHOULD be insecure about aging! They fall apart like the crypt keeper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:36 PM
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Open your window as you drive down the street and you can catch a dick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:36 PM
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Hahah maybe he thought you were a mirage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:35 PM
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I aspire to be this person for my mentees and others. Luckily I don't have nieces and nephews
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 07:27 PM
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Cool aunt or coastal grandma from a Nancy Meyers film >>>>>>>>> your own kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 06:36 PM
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We're not human, we don't matter in the equation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:55 AM
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I know exactly what you mean, all my relationships have been trash. But everyday you're single is another day you've saved for yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:54 AM
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100%. If he needs to physically harm you to make his pee pee excited, he is trash. Why would you WANT someone to hurt you in order to get off? Like, huh? If you removed the sex, it would be men casually abusing women. The former friends I knew who were into this lifestyle were seriously in need of therapy, not being abused by a guy for his erection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:43 AM
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Same. I am afraid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:34 AM
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Maybe she could just lock herself in the closet or in the backyard when his bros come over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:24 PM
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Wow, thank you for the kind words. I'm thrilled my comment resonated and had such an impact :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 03:26 PM
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A good reply to invasive questions is: "I'm surprised you feel comfortable asking that"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 02:38 PM
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Go forth and prosper! :) Use it with abandon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:43 AM
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They should be more ashamed than you. I doubt they'll ask you, but if they do, you can power move usurp them. Make them feel silly and ridiculous: "I tolerated you for as long as I could" or "you don't see why I had to block you?!" Make them feel like fools :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:32 AM
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I've NEVER given oral first, my ego is too damn high. Guys I have dated except for 2 were very excited to perform it. It's never been something I had to ask for or hint about, they offered it willingly. It IS a litmus test though. Guys should be crawling through broken glass to perform it on you, if they aren't? Boy, bye. Breakfast, lunch and dinner, baby. Colin Farrell educated a generation of men about what's uppppppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 05:24 AM
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Good luck with the conversation. Hopefully he saved his moving boxes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 07:29 AM
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Same. I just don't get the hype surrounding her, it's all negated because she stayed with a man who humiliated her. All the posturing about their power couple BS these days is just laughable—you. stayed. when he disrespected you. Nothing she says holds any value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 06:12 AM
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The only thing she won was humiliation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:38 AM
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It has nothing to do with you, it's all about the quality of man beside you. I stopped reading celebrity gossip after 20 years because everyone is a pick me and it's celebrated in our culture. I won't Stan Beyonce for staying with a cheater and having more of his kids. She wants to sing about being a single lady to empower women, but then stays??? The real power would have been if she ditched his ass and made a bunch more $ dragging him through the mud. I was even reading about how Ri started wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 11:47 PM
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They ALWAYS say that with a smirk thinking they're sooooo clever. Then you rob them of the 'gotcha' moment they crave so they hate you. It's so lazy and disrespectful to just assume you've gotta be a lesbian to be critical of men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:52 PM
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Amen. Every damn word. FDS has been the piercing honesty that has helped me more than therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:11 PM
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"What surprised me most though, is how the more things I volunteered to do for them, the more hostile and hateful they seemed to become towards me over time. This made no sense to me as women for the most part, have always been grateful and kind when I helped them. I've always been grateful and happy when people have been nice enough to help me too." That smacked me in the face, it's so true it hurts. I did the exact same thing with my exes, just over functioning and investing more and more of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 06:54 PM
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To the surprise of no one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:25 PM
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Pack his stuff up, leave it outside, change the locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 10:22 PM
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I've experienced this exact thing. Women are soooo shocked that you're not 'raw raw' lib fem 'yasssss queening' them to act like men's personal prostitutes. They always turn on you. It sucks, but then they aren't even close to being HV so it's easier to avoid taking it personally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 03:16 PM
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They will talk about you behind your back, just to have something to talk about with their beloved bros. They are entitled to get things from you. This is 100% truth. Sooooo damn true. For some reason they think they're owed some female friend tax
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 01:11 AM
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WOW. Careful who you trust eh. Glad your son is ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 10:58 PM
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I respect this move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 10:57 PM
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And when I’m not dating I look at how I’ve pulled my life together since my last hideous long term relationship and wonder if I really want to upset the apple cart. I don’t want someone tainting my space I'm in the same boat. I've made so much progress, I don't want to upset the balance of the ecosystem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:52 PM
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Love this. It's like detaching a part from a spaceship and letting it float away while you remain unbothered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:46 PM
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I’m much happier living by FDS principles than when I was giving every man the benefit of doubt. They honestly have never deserved it. Preach. Life is so much easier now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:42 PM
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Exactly. LOL I remember Dr Laura. There seems to be a dominance switch that gets flipped after marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:39 PM
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Every word of this resonates so hard. I'm just assuming I'll be single forever and no decent man will ever cross my path. I doubt I'll be able to trust a guy after knowing how trash 99% of them are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:44 AM
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But the moment I mentioned living apart together, cue that deep disapproving silence that's such a tell. This is such an underrated vetting tool. Men will drop you like a hot potato once they realize they can't sponge off your emotional labour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:23 PM
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Luckily it wasn't something I was being paid for, so I didn't lose anything, but I will make money off him. I've included this anecdote in a work project. This bozo just accidentally paid me residuals with this gem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:41 PM
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100%. Thankfully I'm self-employed so can just avoid him altogether. I'm grateful to know this upfront though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:37 PM
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I agree. He wasn't more than 6 feet from me and other people near me noticed it and actually turned to look at me in shock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 11:36 PM
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Yes, yes, yes. A guy (stranger I met that day) recently stole my joke and repeated it to a room of people in front of my face. It's been hilarious how people are telling me I'm being mean and petty for vowing to never work with him or bother with him professionally. They think 'karma' should take care of it. Bullshit. Thanks to FDS, I know this is a HUGE red flag because it reflects his character and integrity. If this is what he stole IN FRONT OF MY FACE, what is he gonna do when my back is tur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:41 PM
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I would have paid money to see the look on his face when he realized you zoomed off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:34 PM
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I could have written this, damn. I've experienced this exact situation and gaslit myself into staying. What a waste. I've experienced the same thing with female friends too. One even apologized for being a bad friend, which enraged me because that meant she KNEW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:33 PM
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I trim but have never had a bald coochie. Disgusting. I'm a woman, not a child. It's a solid vetting strategy because they will immediately react if they have an issue with it. And if they do? NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 08:23 PM
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He's still dealing with the whiplash :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 09:28 PM
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Even when they're not horrible, they're not really great, either. Testify
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 09:23 PM
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You're totally right. I remember watching Bar Rescue and Jon Taffer perfectly summed up the industry: "Men follow women wherever they go. If women don't feel safe in your bar, you don't have a bar" When women vote with their feet, it changes the status quo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 09:09 PM
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Damn, this hit home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:15 AM
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I'd bathe in it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:14 PM
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Adult baby men who are enabled by their pick me moms are terrifying. This is the type of woman who will help her precious son disappear his gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:13 PM
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he cared about the thrill he got from exerting power over someone else My ex. Holy smokes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:10 PM
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Amen. Society sees the best in men while everything is a woman's fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:05 PM
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The boy mom strikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 04:46 PM
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Yessss glad you claimed your glory!! Say hi to your mom for us :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 03:56 PM
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Good on you. These little things are indicative of bigger problems, we can't let them slide. It's so easy to just drive away, thanks for taking action and calling it in. It's so easy not to do what he did. He should be reported and hopefully he feels embarrassed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:44 AM
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That reminds me of an article I read last year about the woman who didn't want kids, her husband changed his mind and pushed the idea on her. She didn't want to lose him, so she had two kids. Now? They're divorced, she's got primary custody of the kids she didn't even want to have, and she doesn't have the husband she wanted. He literally ruined her life. She's left with nothing she wanted, but is stuck taking care of shitty kids while her ex gets to see them on the weekends. Nightmare fuel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 08:32 PM
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Shout out to the wise FDSer* who introduced me to her mom's saying which totally applies here: "you don't need to buy the pig to get a little sausage". You can enjoy allll the benefits of a guy without living with one. I'm in the 'never again' boat alongside you *claim your credit if you see this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 06:28 AM
33

Yes to this. I have 3 young women mentees that I try to be the best role model for. I never had a mentor and there were no good role models back in the late 90s/early 00s for me, but I'm committed to making it different for others. I try to be the HV role model I never had
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 08:13 PM
69

It was his way to assert dominance and remind you he's got the power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:53 PM
2

What stuff do you expect he'll say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 03:50 AM
319

You're not intimidating, they're intimidated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 01:08 AM
217

Men create a society that tells women from birth their only value is their appearance, then when women capitalize on it, men scream misandry. Did I get that right, guys? Just acknowledge you want it both ways and go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 08:01 PM
116

Yupppp so damn true. I always felt I was asking 'too much' but the resentment grew because I knew I wasn't. Fuck ya. I don't wanna come home after a long day and eat garbage because you're selfish and lazy. It takes 25 min to whip up something simple and yummy—I can do it, so can you. You've seen me do it 1000 times, you never paid attention???? I love being single because there's no resentment at dealing with these morons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 07:56 PM
258

"you're so particular and I don't want to screw up." This is EXACTLY how my lazy ex got away with shifting everything to my shoulders. I was soooooooo particular (apparently liking chicken cooked properly to avoid e.coli is too much for them) that he'd weaponize that to sulk and leave me to do everything I want a guy who WANTS to make my life easier and is actually on the ball
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 06:27 PM
178

I feel the same way. I tell people if a man wants me, he'll have to come knock on my front door because I'm putting zero effort into finding one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 04:24 PM
91

Or even come up with 2-3 suggestions and let you pick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:34 PM
81

I'd hazard a guess that your pattern recognition is going off and you have noticed something in him that you know is incompatible. Boom. This happens to me. When I can't put my finger on it, but when I start acting a certain way, I know it means my intuition has picked up on something my mind hasn't yet. Now, I know that when I start acting unlike myself, it's a huge red flag of the company I keep, not myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:24 PM
78

YUCK. She has zero character and personal integrity—yeet her out of your life. It's disgusting what she did and expected you to keep to yourself. Tell her husband before you block her on everything. What a piece of trash. She's no friend of yours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:19 PM
133

When my mom first met my dad, she said she went home to look in the newspaper at job ads for his profession to see what kind of money he would make throughout his career. He was just starting out, but she was bright enough to ensure he'd be able to actually support a family because she knew she wanted kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:11 AM
39

I see these young women and I remember how exhausting life used to be. Everywhere you go whether it’s Starbucks or the gym or a club or a friend’s party constantly scanning, craning your neck to see what men are out there. Or even just thinking ahead, planning outfits and hairstyles and behavior, trying to fit a certain ideal. Yessss I feel the same way. I remember those days when I wouldn't leave the house until I looked cute because 'you never who you'll meet' but now I know that's unlikely. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:41 AM
68

Same. They get furious at the idea of a man treating a woman nicely..so ok then. Take each other out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 09:56 PM
211

This is precisely what I imagine the advice was. Like, you want to date women so you ask men for their opinion. Huh? Then they c*ckblock him! HAHAHAHHAH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:53 PM
147

These guys are perpetually playing defence for all mankind. Individual men don't exist, just a monolith of men and he has elected himself in charge of speaking for/defending all of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:41 AM
49

LOLOL oh the comedic timing was grand. Lemme guess— if you mentioned that he'd have freaked out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:45 AM
47

This is glorious, thank you. I've never heard that before, but wow, it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:24 AM
75

He's outsourcing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:39 PM
22

I bet you she's religious and that's how she ended up married to this trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:29 PM
17

She must be insane!! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:28 PM
46

That jumped out at me too. Men have no self-awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:25 PM
32

- "I tried slapping her tits" - I'm 300 pounds (but "she knew what she was marrying", while apparently he didn't) - I wanna do it like animal planet - what's a clit? - I wanna, I wanna, I wanna, I wanna - I'm obsessed with porn - I wanna "wrap around like a boa" I'm no detective, but I'm confident I solved the mystery about why this poor woman wants nothing to do with her disgusting husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:24 PM
90

I imagine her passing him on the highway and his mouth falling open with shock as she speeds by his clown car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:16 PM
107

He was expecting her to want to impress him by giggling, rolling her eyes and getting in anyways to be a cool girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:15 PM
63

Never. They have other men to rally around them and bail them out. Men never face consequences because men only sympathize with each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:12 PM
34

My mom used to say "you can't take love to the grocery store or pay your mortgage with it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:02 PM
40

"He has no real power in his actual life, so she's supposed to sacrifice herself for his DoMiNaNt side" You just described every single Dom. They have less than nothing going on for themselves, so might as well be abusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 02:51 PM
580

A victim of his own choices. He married the vanilla girl (thanks madonna whore complex) and now is wondering why she won't swing from the chandeliers for him. 3...2....1....he'll be cheating to 'get his needs met' while telling reddit how much he loves her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:42 PM
7

I wish someone had screamed this in my face as a teenager so I would have avoided the people who were all talk and no rock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:25 PM
34

If they ever confront you, just lie and say you're an introvert who likes to recharge alone. People will get off your d*ck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:22 PM
3

Yeahhhhhh that's how we do :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:17 PM
3

Yeah, it feels icky and degrading to anyone with an ounce of integrity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:17 PM
6

Exactly! I don't need you darkening my doorstep. Stand at the curb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:15 PM
8

Yeah, these guys really think they moonlight as CIA operatives with their 'clever' retorts that are as transparent as Saran Wrap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 08:14 PM
33

I cringe at all the Pickmeisha friends I let myself be surrounded by and how I let their horrible advice dictate the way I live Yup. I still think about this a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:23 AM
140

Wow. Just wow. Lemme guess—he was surprised when you turned him down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 04:20 AM
5

BWAHAHAH that's magic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:33 AM
99

YUP he sure does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:33 PM
191

This is financial abuse. Full stop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 09:33 PM
202

The allure of a bangmaid is too much for them to resist, I suppose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:19 PM
97

Amen to this so hard. I truly thought I was the problem, now I realize how much trash is out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:18 PM
336

Men: iT'S jUsT a JoKe The punchline: Hurrr hurrr it's cuz ur fat!! *slow clap* They all think they're Lenny Bruce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 07:17 PM
40

There's a bug in the system. Time to reboot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:43 PM
547

He hates relationships yet got married. Yup, that makes total sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:19 PM
183

Gray rock her. She's awful and will drag you down. You're not gonna get through to her and she'll likely throw you under the bus to get male attention. Snide comments can be fun, but since she's unhinged it may not be the best move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:18 PM
46

They know. They don't care. My ex didn't snore when I met him, but he gained so much weight he snored horribly after about the first year. He expected me to solve this problem on my own, he refused to get any treatment or lose weight. As usual, it was up to me to suffer and deal with the problems he created. He used to laugh about it, he truly didn't care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:11 PM
139

This is what casual relationships look like. Perpetual disappointment for women dealing with “confused” men This needs to be carved in stone with the 10 commandments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:45 PM
152

Why buy the goods and have him move into your house when you can get the milk for free?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:18 PM
71

I sleep peacefully without a snoring warthog next to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:09 PM
168

Does he realize he could have waited to have sex with her if his morning was that raging? Oh wait, what am I saying lololololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:06 PM
41

That's one of the biggest dating dog whistles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:00 PM
91

"physical touch" was his love language but he never even held my hand Well doesn't that sum it up, eh. Congrats and well done! You won't regret dropping this dude. Now it's time to soar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:42 PM
5

Jesus. Make your priorities more obvious, bud. Times she rode the bike vs wearing a jacket? I bet we know the answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 05:45 AM
44

Society will happily wink and nudge at the old fart dating a young woman for her looks and body, but if a woman dares date a man for his money, she's the worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 10:58 PM
26

They already live here. We're a multicultural city
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:58 PM
50

I know right? How does the shoe feel on the other foot? Women are judged for *everything* we do, and a guy suddenly feels attacked for their money. As if those are even close to the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:39 PM
575

Patriarchy is affirmative action for nice guys. Now that women make their own money, all men have to offer is how they treat you. Ergo being nice doesn't cut it. That's the baseline to enter the arena. You've gotta have empathy, a personality, good hygiene, the ability to hold a conversation etc. And that gal is right: what are you doing to better yourself and be more desirable in this tough market? This doesn't mean get a 6-pack—although that'd be nice. It means developing your inner self, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:37 PM
371

"I don't want you but you should wait on my doorstep and beg me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:30 PM
16

Unbothered by boys. That's how FDS rolls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:26 PM
191

"I have not seen a single anti-porn man cite the damage it does to women, the abuse, assault, rape, and trafficking the women experience in the porn they watch, as a reason they quit." They 100% don't care about the women involved. As usual, it's only about what benefits them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:16 PM
23

That's friendship. Someone to gently and nicely tell you to pull your head out of your ass. We all need people like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:13 PM
122

He's never experienced it before in his life, so of course he has no clue what it feels like! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 08:05 PM
346

AWWWWW POOR BABY FEELS OBJECTIFIED How does it feel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:07 PM
25

Yes, exactly. Thank you for putting it so succinctly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:17 PM
109

while I've never met a white man who actively pursued asian women who wasn't bottom of the barrel. I'm white, and in my city, sooooo many white guys only date Asians. They are straight up about their fetish, and I can confirm this 100%. The white guys here who only pursue Asian women are disgusting and low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:44 PM
152

Being a good friend doesn't mean being a doormat. These people are horrible friends because they have zero common sense, self-sabotage themselves then expect you to pick up the pieces and will never reward your loyalty. Get away from these losers and find real friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:41 PM
18

Same. I'm the youngest and got both siblings' (brother and sister) shitty hand me downs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:37 PM
8

Thank you, I'm looking forward to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:36 PM
51

I'd like to see the "don't judge, let him try" crowd step in her shoes for a moment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:35 PM
51

Whaaat? Amazing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:34 PM
5

Whew! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:33 PM
254

Please, yes. It's disgusting and he'll never get better, now much how much she debases herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:40 AM
438

Let me guess: the comments are screeching to communicate and compromise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:28 AM
109

Just some girlfriends and I are going, it was my activity suggestion so I took the lead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:52 AM
103

"if the guys step ups but is not appreciative, he will turn resentful" Totally felt this before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:56 AM
227

awful lot like what "progressive" men have learned to say but don't believe I got a twinge of 'this feels rehearsed for social settings' but it felt hollow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:54 AM
288

who thinks things like bath mats and winter coats that fit properly are unnecessary. You've met my dad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:53 AM
40

I know, right. I'm glad for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:02 AM
193

Exactly! And it's relatively inexpensive since tickets are like $100 each. Way less than a gaming chair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 03:01 AM
50

Yup, I saw that too. She bought him a truck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:29 AM
115

No kidding, eh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 10:18 PM
257

You're crying at your job because of this guy. He's impacting your money, reputation and sanity. Drop him like a hot potato He's showing you how little regard he has for you, believe him. Don't apologize to him, you haven't done anything wrong. Unless his mouth is wired shut, he is fully able to communicate his feelings to you instead of the silent treatment which is abusive. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:07 PM
173

She's a PickMe and he's an addict. They're the perfect LV pair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:57 PM
40

LOLOLOL no kidding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:55 PM
467

Years ago a friend was online dating her only standard was 'must have a job—any job' and she didn't care if he was working at McDonald's while going to school. She just wanted him to be employed. One guy called her a gold digger LOLOLOLOLOLOL what a fool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:53 PM
117

In the words of Samantha Bee, "gentlemen, objectively your dick is the most hideous thing about you'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 05:11 PM
22

Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:45 PM
211

Amen to this. Every guy I've ever dated who claimed to love strong women were the most abusive. Now I recognize it as a dog whistle for 'how much can I heap on your shoulders without you complaining and expecting reciprocity' Then if you ever do raise an issue, they're suddenly calling into question your 'strength' so you're back to jumping through hoops to prove yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:27 PM
230

The staggering lack of self-awareness is breathtaking. I had to pause after reading this mess There are still good men out there, yes, but this guy isn't one of them. Good thing he 'knows his worth' aka negative infinity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 03:43 PM
123

I was reading something yesterday (I tried to find the link but failed) about how when they were developing Cialis, they realized that it cured menstrual cramps for 4 hours with ZERO side effects to the patient. What happened?? The all male panel voted to ignore that data because there was 'no use for it'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:59 PM
19

What people find funny is a reflection of their values and thought process. You can learn A LOT about someone by what they find funny and comedians are a reflection of our culture. You should be grateful your bf (hopefully soon to be ex) shared this video with you, because you just looked into his mind and it's a bucket of garbage. I was disgusted with some of the things my ex would insist were hilaaaarious, but they weren't at all. Run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:56 PM
144

It very much felt like he was checking you for daring to ask about a plan. Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:12 AM
594

"I'll think of something" really did it for me. It's a neg combined with laziness that's meant to make you feel grateful for all the scraps of 'effort' he'll put into this date. NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:50 AM
34

LOL my first thought was 'sounds like I wrote this'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:26 AM
20

I've always wondered the same. He doesn't deserve it, keep it to yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:49 PM
44

Precisely. Power is a seat on the Supreme Court, a promotion, buying real estate etc etc. not sending nudes and doing s*x work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:32 PM
145

Empowerment is a feeling, power is tangible We're supposed to feel empowered doing things for guys to jerk off to, which is libfem bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:31 PM
10

That's a fantastic point, it's so accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 02:37 PM
672

The way men can compartmentalize is terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 06:50 PM
139

My thoughts exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:39 PM
10

No one enjoys it, it's disappointing. It's for self-protection, but go off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:34 PM
76

WOW he was stealing from her parents!! Of course... How humiliating to stay with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:32 PM
37

Yes!! This is a great addition, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:29 PM
59

Going through your purse or bag is an insane privacy violation, wow. People who cross lines like that need to be far away from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:28 PM
31

I do the same thing with passwords too. I look away but so many won't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:26 PM
8

It's not printed in full
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:25 PM
40

Everytime I've met it in the wild, it was pushed on a woman who had been wronged. Amen to this. We're told to just take the high road. Nope, they never do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 03:24 PM
2

It's not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:09 AM
142

Being a straight woman is a meandering road towards celibacy. Who cares that your friends have boyfriends? It's 99% likely they're trash anyways. Buy your own Valentine's and birthday gifts. Being lonely will not be solved with a bf, it'll be solved by creating an orbit of awesome single gal pals. Get away from your friends and their partners, it's not helping you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 08:41 PM
108

The last paragraph on the last slide is perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 07:01 PM
158

He's not interested in what she eats, he's interested in controlling her and moving the goal posts so she continues jumping to please him. Honestly, it sounds like he's in the closet and using her weight as a reason to never be intimate with her. This level of control isn't normal, and it reminds me of a family member who struggled with his sexual identity and came out later in life. He used to try to control me and my eating in similar ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:39 PM
113

I had the exact same thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:36 PM
48

I had a "friend" like this. When my life was off track thanks to my loser ex, she was great to me. Then once I left him and got my shit together, she turned on me like your friend did. Run. She is threatened and wants to knock you down for her own ego. Like you, I clung to the rare good things she did for me back in the day, but as I put more distance between us, I realized I was putting her on a pedestal for the bare f*cking minimum. She didn't go above and beyond, she did what any normal, sane…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:32 PM
87

Every word of this is truth, GD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:33 AM
5

I was just thinking about making an FDS post on what you can glean from someone's sense of humour, and this confirms I need to For all the basement dwellers screaming this is 'just a joke'— it isn't funny. If this were period blood, no one would be laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 01:49 AM
40

Gotta lash out to remind her who's boss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:24 PM
778

So what does this fool think, his mom needs to ask HIS permission???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 09:22 PM
73

He was looking for an excuse to berate and unload on her. This was about power and keeping her in her place
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:37 PM
14

Of course he ended up in law enforcement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:32 PM
49

that moment when a man destroyed the relationship and went back to being a stranger in my eyes. BOOM. This was the final straw. I've been there and it's like a tap shutting off. You're so done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:12 PM
131

BUT IT'S SOOOO EMPOWERING, RIGHT??? ​ as if
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:34 PM
29

Preach! You want it? You gotta pay for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:32 PM
5

That's rather heartwarming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:31 PM
8

Funny how there are sooo many men propped up by their wives yet truly delude themselves into thinking it's them. Glad your mom bounced and he fell flat on his face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:30 PM
2

So she got rights to everything or she gave them away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:55 PM
30

You're absolutely right to consider him dangerous. Those guys are landmines
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 04:30 AM
45

I've seen that too. These women are whip smart and engaged, yet saddled with an unmotivated, unambitious guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:49 AM
44

While happily driving around in it, showing off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:43 AM
40

Truly. Truly. She was doing the 'well.. my husband won't...' type script we all know. I suspect you're right that she's building both of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:58 AM
30

I hope not either. It would be a shame for her to lose everything :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:57 AM
158

Also, a family used to be a luxury item that many men couldn't afford. This remains even more true in today's economy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:17 PM
148

"But I'm niiiiice!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:06 PM
120

They get angry when we expect anything back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:05 PM
373

Men love comparing us to cars, so if you can only afford a Honda, that's what you're buying. You don't get to go into the Rolls Royce dealership and demand a discount because you can't afford their cars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:28 PM
151

He's just shown you how he views women and relationships. Run, girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:57 PM
21

Yupppp. These guys wouldn't let anyone in their offices, and forced everyone into the bullpen. Luckily I was remote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:37 PM
228

I recently left a contract that had this exact structure. Two male co-founders and allll the work was done by women. I told them the optics were horrible and they should promote more women. The dynamic was exactly what you'd expect: show them brilliant creative, they disembowel it then ask why everything is generic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 05:16 AM
194

ED and audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:24 AM
33

We can only hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:23 AM
5

That's a great perspective, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 04:23 AM
1082

You're 22, he's 65. Just repeat that to anyone who dares suggest you actually led this delusional guy on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:36 PM
15

Boom. That's the stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:12 PM
71

Yup. "nice" women accept a guy's mediocrity and protect his ego by making herself small
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:09 PM
140

"I am at a point in my life where I actively decide to be neutral towards men and actively go out of my way to be kind and nice to other women." Same. I'm fine with dying alone, I'm not pandering to dude's egos anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:08 PM
12

Amen. I've found journaling helps a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 10:37 PM
41

You're hardly old enough to have the youth drained out of you. You're only 23! You received a valuable lesson that you'll remember forever, and never make the same mistake again. I hadn't learned that particular lesson until I was in my 30s. You're way ahead of many of us. 'It's so hard to forget pain, but it's even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.' - Chuck Palahniuk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:13 PM
132

I've repeatedly made this mistake and it has cost me dearly. I'm still learning to be less open, it doesn't get interpreted the way I intend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:41 PM
17

I've lost my job countless times (thanks 09 recession) and NEVER expected anyone else to carry me. I was depressed and it sucked big time, but I knew no one was going to carry me That guy got really lucky when he asked her to move in, otherwise he'd have had to find a job (Gasp!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:07 PM
72

Pay off your boyfriend's mortgage! (LOLOL as if, I really hope that lady yesterday didn't do it) Congrats, invest it wisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:03 PM
7

After seeing his despicable parents, it's no wonder he never grew up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 02:52 PM
28

It's a horrible way to live
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:34 AM
27

It really does. I've enjoyed true crime since I was a teenager in the 00's, and thanks to FDS, I can now recognize the signs of DV and where FDS rules would have prevented harm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:38 PM
334

There's no doubt in my mind he encouraged the kids to do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 10:36 PM
316

Dump him. He knew exactly what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:56 PM
98

Each sentence contradicted the previous one. Like, huh? Dump him, girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:55 PM
1380

He's punishing her for leaving him to care for his own children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:53 PM
111

Oh dear lord. This woman is about to lose a lot of money. If the roles were reversed, reddit would be screaming at the woman for expecting a guy to pay off her mortgage on the hope she'll get 'paid back' over the next 15 years. I really hope the comments are telling her not to do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:36 PM
68

That's SUCH a good way of putting it. And yes!! Being the provider only means he's motivated to keep the dynamics that way. Shudder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:23 PM
25

No, it puts you in the position of being right (ie. authority/above them). It feels juvenile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:23 PM
171

Another power move is to say: "you're right" instead of "I know"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:03 AM
117

My thoughts exactly. Those kids didn't magically appear at your doorstep, buddy. And kids aren't free. Like, where's the surprise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:47 PM
27

He didn't even think to get a full panel of tests???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:25 PM
86

*slow clap* Women's texts aren't the reason men can't act properly. Way to leapfrog the problem and (AGAIN) put the blame and effort on women for men's behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 01:52 AM
86

This story is Swiss cheese. Bro is leaving a LOT of details out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 07:46 PM
35

Because we're 'beneath them'—what could they possible learn from a WOMAN?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 12:01 AM
87

It's a classic, eh. Of course she'll wear alllll the societal shame for his mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 11:12 PM
337

He's gonna dangle marriage as the carrot to open the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 10:10 PM
5

There's no good reason to bring it up, at all. Why tell another woman that? Zero positive, healthy reasons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:09 PM
205

She's fantastic. Talk about shutting shit down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:18 AM
10

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 12:10 AM
79

I had some friends suggest I leave my number for the waiter a few weeks ago at dinner because we had a good rapport. Thanks to FDS, I was able to confidently tell them nope, and stand firm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 09:27 PM
61

Take a giant step back. It's not normal human social behaviour to announce to people what turns you on. It's irrelevant and disrespectful. No woman would blurt out her 'preferences' while sitting at lunch with someone. It's fucking weird. Men seem to think whatever gets their dick hard is public information
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 05:37 PM
117

- how they react when something good happens to you - how they react when something bad happens to you - if they try to dominate you - if they pounce when you're vulnerable - if the power/respect dynamics change after they see you vulnerable - if they use you to boost their self-esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 05:31 PM
21

They go to feel better about themselves, to feel superior. And this is why so many serial killers start with SWs as victims. Bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:19 AM
51

This is so pathetic. Giving him a car that doesn't even fit the kid in anticipation of things he hasn't even done yet????? NOPE. Unless he's pushing the kid out, he can kick rocks and catch the bus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:02 AM
3

It's block o'clock. You aren't anyone's option, and god certainly didn't have a hand in this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:33 PM
44

In areas where s*x work is legal, violence against women SKYROCKETS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:38 PM
177

Cue the chants to legalize s*x work This isn't the solution. Taking violence against women seriously before these guys escalate and dealing with the massive porn problem in our culture is how to stop this problem at the source
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:46 PM
22

Pretty much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:31 PM
29

"This is just a personal belief but I think God/the Universe or whatever higher power you may believe in, blesses us when we have "the nerve" to do what is right for ourselves. " I've heard from friends into spirituality that universe/source/god whatever you believe in DOES reward bravery and rejecting things that aren't meant for you. It sounds like you got that! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:36 PM
253

Does anyone else hear the world's tiniest violin? These fools don't deserve an ounce of sympathy for thinking with their dicks. Serves them right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:22 PM
37

Yup!! I did the same thing. I wanted to have sex, not get homework and emotional manipulation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:17 PM
21

It's so rare, I'll just have my scarce memories too. 99% of meeting a guy he's low value, why bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:16 PM
26

They're sooooo boring. Missionary on the bed is all they want because they lack imagination
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:15 PM
13

I'm in the same boat. Not interested in mediocre sex ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:15 PM
8

FWB always SEEMS like a great idea until reality hits. Yuck, you dodged two bullets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:13 PM
18

I know exactly what you mean. They hated when you enjoyed yourself 'too much' (which of course HE gets to decide)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:12 PM
9

Amen. I'm so much happier than listening to society tell me what I SHOULD be doing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:11 PM
102

- easy to clean - doesn't mess up my house or eat my food - quiet - humble etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:10 PM
47

It's truly mind boggling. They should give young women vibrators so they'll stay away from guys since they've been mainlining violent porn for years. Of course the church has a vested interest in keeping women clueless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:09 PM
19

You're not missing much by avoiding sex, unfortunately. Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:07 PM
25

Yup, they're so far gone they don't even want a willing participant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:06 PM
8

They're so delusional, thinking they're Adonis just for getting you to say "yes" to sex that after they get the consent, they have already fulfilled their fantasies to themselves and don't put effort into playing it out with a real human being. It's honestly so sad and gross SO TRUE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:05 PM
91

I've often wondered the exact same things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 05:39 AM
234

No kidding. So society teaches young women that masturbation is horrible—so they won't ask questions about the juxtaposition when it's with a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:54 AM
46

They think they're the victims, but women have unmet desires too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:52 AM
241

It's so true. How can they not understand that if you made sex really great for women, they'd wanna do it all the time? It's a simple equation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:50 AM
260

That'll do it, eh. There's really no point in going back after you've got a toy and no drama
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 03:49 AM
26

Excellent, that's really promising
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:18 AM
27

That's such a great analogy, thank you. Ohh very cool! Is the sub moderated by guys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 02:05 AM
97

Exactly. It's so pointless you it's just not worth the effort. Buy a toy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:30 AM
166

Except for one, the guys I dated weren't porn watchers, which makes it even more pathetic. They were just lazy and inconsiderate. I know what you mean..I don't think the sex I want exists nowadays anyways, thanks to porn culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:29 AM
90

Fantastic rant, brava. I was nodding along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:26 AM
44

Yup. No one bullshits more than guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 07:35 PM
13

Did it dissolve in water?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:11 AM
74

“never tell your problems to anyone. 20% don’t care and the other 80% are glad you have them”. First time I've heard this, and damn. I'm staring at the wall thinking about life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 11:50 PM
37

Yeah. A friend connected me with someone in their network and I'm meeting them for networking, so I'll definitely be paying. I asked, they're traveling to me, I expect to pay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 11:44 PM
175

Right? Just stick your dick in Kevin, then. Go ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 11:00 PM
7

except it wasn't even a real diamond. it was a shitty lab grown 'diamond'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 10:59 PM
40

LOOOOL well done. Guess his sock got a lot of use that night
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:53 PM
164

Exactly. They're like "I hate you with every fibre of my being, but will fight to be in a relationship with you so I can abuse you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:15 PM
281

Amen to this. Men change in an instant, and it has nothing to do with you. I blamed myself for soooo much stuff that men were doing on their own accord, I wish I saw it for what it was. This gaslighting needs to stop. A woman doesn't enter a relationship expecting to be abused and treated like shit. The man steers it there ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:13 PM
524

Evidence #100975647762648348: Men f*ck women, but LOVE other men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 08:32 PM
55

And they think they're being noble! I'll stick my dick in a stranger but I WON'T pay for her dinner. Ummm?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 08:31 PM
51

There's nothing about a dinner date which stops your legs from working or making excuses. LOLOLOLOL amen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 08:29 PM
28

I was secretly relieved, but puzzled. Thanks to FDS, I know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 06:55 PM
78

My loser ex made a big production of ring shopping when we moved in together. He got the shitty little trinket and it sat in his drawer for over 5 years and was still there the day I walked out. I'm sure it's still there gathering dust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 03:44 PM
42

You're 100% correct. It's infuriating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:36 AM
75

I'll add: "Why are you talking to me like I have a head injury?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:14 AM
260

Didn't expect to find the gospel on reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 04:12 AM
41

This is more than a flair, it's a rallying cry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:37 AM
36

Thank you, that means a lot :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:34 AM
276

Pez dispensers of trauma then they wonder why women become jaded LOLOLOLOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 09:58 PM
2

Funny how they imbue that language, eh? They're soooo close to getting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:26 PM
15

As usual, it's up to the oppressed class to assuage the feelings of the oppressor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:50 PM
158

Guests are people you know and would vouch for. This guy is a literal stranger. They are not the same. It's your place, furnished with YOUR stuff, tell her to fuck off if she doesn't want to be respectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 11:56 PM
8

Exactly. This experience has been a useful litmus test for idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:44 PM
41

"I’m fascinated how people think, especially my partner. I wanted an even exchange of concepts and ideas. We could disagree but I wanted him to dive into what makes me tick like I did with him." YESSS THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED TOO "But no, instead they want to be the professor, and you are the student. Or worse, they think they know how you think and will dictate it to you, despite you saying that’s not it. How they think you tick is formed mostly from their delusions and (uncharitable) assu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:43 PM
124

Amen to that. Separate bedrooms for the win. I remember being so resentful of my ex cuz he'd 'forget' to wash the sheets (even tho it was his only chore) and knew I would do it because I couldn't stand sleeping in filth. Never living with another human ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:40 PM
88

My dad is an engineer and our family has often wondered if he's on the spectrum. He likely is to a degree, and these types gravitate towards professions like engineering. It's hard to know where his personality ends and a possible diagnosis begins. From my observations, being selfish, linear thinking and rigidness is personality. Even though these people may at first glance appear socially inept, they can be very manipulative. I know how my dad thinks, he has zero clue how I think. He's not inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:15 PM
285

Let him do his own laundry. Problem solved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:08 PM
15

It's a disturbing yet fascinating social experiment. Agreed, being ruled by my dick would make me feel like a caveman. I've known guys to centre their whole lives around sex, it's insane. You're absolutely right about it in the context of murder, I never thought of it that way. Being that single-minded to the point it's running your life and ruining others' isn't healthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:54 AM
283

If it were empowering men would have flooded the market. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:12 AM
88

A year?? Whoa. I'm glad she makes that kind of money, but wow, what a lazy loser of a husband. No kids and he didn't even work. Got paid to play video games I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:11 AM
103

Yes to this. We often forget we're not defending a decision in court, you don't have to over-explain OP, if anyone demands to know, just tell them you walked in on your fiancé f*cking the dog. That'll shut them up and regret asking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:18 AM
24

Amen to that. So sorry to hear about your recent findings about your soon to be ex's extracurricular activities. You've got every right to be calm, there's literally nothing you could have done to change a man without personal integrity. His dick is the compass of his life. How pathetic to be ruled by something so small. He's his own worst enemy and will sabotage any shred of happiness in life because he needs a fleet of therapists. Instead he'll just stick his dick in anything. He's found his l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:11 AM
50

These men do not care how noble and fair and kind you are. Because to them, those traits aren’t seen as noble and fair and kind. They are seen as weakness, easy target, naive It took me a loooong time to realize this for myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:36 AM
60

You could even borrow a page from George Costanza and look angry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:17 AM
121

Bingo. They love to pounce when you're vulnerable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:07 AM
334

This is scary. He's taken out life insurance and is planning to cash in soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:14 AM
231

Look mean. Guys don't want to approach the gal who might make a scene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:09 AM
110

The Elaine Benes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:05 AM
130

What a self-own, buddy. Way to advertise how stupid you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 07:47 PM
77

Don't take it as a reflection of you, these guys will hit on anyone with a pulse. Looking your best is no guarantee they'll leave you alone. Rather, I think while you're working on levelling up, it might be more useful to shift your vibe. A 'fuck off' vibe will likely do the trick, regardless of your appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:40 PM
61

It's truly amazing how these men would rather resort to manipulation and abuse rather than just pick up after themselves and put some effort in. Like, really?! That was your go-to move to stay lazy??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:12 PM
37

The graph is in here if anyone wants to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:07 PM
83

Successful men (for the most part) would feel embarrassed walking into a banquet with a dumb teenager as their wife. They want an intelligent woman who can hold her own and make him look good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:04 PM
22

Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:17 PM
14

Your life is going to get so much brighter and better the SECOND you walk away from this loser. Congrats on making the tough choice, it's totally worth it. It'll be like a light switch turning on for you. Get out now. Put the airfare on your credit card and don't look back. For 3 years he's shown you with his words and actions he doesn't care about you. You deserve better than that. Once you leave, everything in your life will get so. much. easier. You'll be surprised how quickly the fog lifts a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 04:03 PM
638

It's about power, not the photo. He likes keeping you vying for his approval. Stop sending anything like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 07:57 PM
161

That was my favourite part too. Peter Pan, checking in right on time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 04:38 AM
243

LOOOL well done! What? Feeling 16 at heart in the body of the Michelin man at 59 doesn't cut it with 20 year olds?? Discrimination!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 04:36 AM
559

Laugh in his face and tell him he doesn't have the cholesterol to be with a 20-something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:54 AM
19

I get the sense she's hoping others will commiserate with her "funny" story so she won't be on the only clown in town
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:56 PM
27

Scullllyyyyyy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:38 PM
87

That's really the only response to such a statement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:32 PM
329

Why be in a relationship with a ghost? If he's grinding sooooo hard (LOLOL) and has no time for a relationship—he shouldn't be dating. Who the f-ck wants to be with a guy who comes home to shower and sleep before going to work again??? He can chase success on his own because he doesn't deserve a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:31 PM
96

HAHAHAHA what battle did they fight??? Waterloo? D-Day? A sea bass?? Oh wait, their pew-pew game hurt their feelings so they punched a wall and run to mommy..oops..girlfriend..for comfort. This is so laughably unattractive and screams of unresolved trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 03:42 PM
42

YES TO THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 10:59 PM
57

IMHO sex is one of the least important parts of a relationship. Every relationship I've witnessed where they listed sex as soooooooo crucial were divorced or split up within a few years. It DID NOT WORK as a barometer of their relationship. It was the refrain of selfish, childish people who couldn't handle the real parts of a relationship and wanted everyday to be a day at the beach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:59 PM
15

He only likes her brain and drive when it benefits him by bringing in a pay cheque
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:50 PM
138

Sounds like your teacher was reading from his fan fiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:24 PM
98

His reaction confirms WHY she needs this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:20 PM
472

"Nobody teaches you how abuse works, how controlling men operate and think, what the patterns are and what "small things" are actually serious indicators of danger." Society ACTIVELY gaslights and shames women into ignoring their instincts, trying harder, and extending themselves for men. It's not just that we don't learn it, we aren't allowed to put ourselves first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:08 PM
308

It sounds like you're not comfortable with the situation and that's the key. Maybe you've just learned a new boundary for yourself? If you're not ok with a guy who's done anal, then that's all that matters. For me, I don't want a guy who wants to do anal—past or present. But that's just me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:26 AM
200

I posted this sentiment the other day but it bears repeating. The 'women and children can evacuate first' rule is because men are considered first class citizens therefore it is their DUTY to protect their country. Traditionally, women have been second class citizens (and still are) so it's not their duty to fight for a country that treats them like shit. Also, the reason men are more expendable than women historically, is because women are more valuable to a tribe, nation or area. That's why th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:34 AM
1

Thanks for this info, I wasn't aware his HK coverage was off. I'll dig into this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:57 PM
116

In my experience, men who have to tell you how simple they are, are not simple. It's used to keep you doing all the emotional labour, to gaslight your standards and excitement down, an excuse not to be thoughtful, and basically keep you in the driver's seat of the entire relationship while he abuses you from the passenger seat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:45 AM
116

My grandparents didn't consider my mom family even though she was married to dad for nearly 40 years and had all of his kids (and their only grandkids). They didn't think we were family either. It's truly amazing these people exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:38 AM
87

100%. I wouldn't trust this guy even if he were my kid, he clearly has no integrity or loyalty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:36 AM
2

Agreed on your idea about being actively in the industry vs retired. That's really useful context that hugely impacts how the laws would get made
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:35 AM
54

LOL, prob cuz he wasn't even there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:54 PM
559

WOW, some actually decent parenting!! WHAT A SHOCK It's nice seeing people with integrity. Too bad their son didn't inherit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:54 PM
38

I'm honoured to have been the source of your public guffaw! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 09:40 PM
204

Bingo. Anytime a guy brags about being a 'proud single dad' the best follow up question is asking the name of his kid's doctor and their teacher. 99% of the time they can't tell you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:49 PM
118

That part pinged for me too. You should be turned off by someone barfing their guts out, not feeling them up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:06 PM
71

It's better to make people climb your walls than lower them for the wrong people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:54 PM
5

I liked that part too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:46 PM
109

Just watched this too. Wow. The collateral damage this ONE man caused in so many people's lives is why FDS is so important. Brittany's mom is basically left with nothing because this guy spent it all. It was heartbreaking that during a vulnerable period, this lovely young woman got taken advantage of until her final days by a selfish man. Ladies, protect yourselves. This guy demonstrated classic abuser behaviour: isolation, control, negging, financial control etc. Poor Brittany, she didn't deser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:05 AM
58

It feels lazy to just "ask sex workers" instead of addressing the root of the problem. Yes, they should be consulted, but I wish they'd ask sex workers what support programs would have kept them from ending up in a position where they consider selling sex instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:01 AM
35

That's a great point, thank you. They don't deserve to be haunted by their trafficking past
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:55 AM
6

Snerk no kidding. I guess I'll come hang out in your corner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 01:00 AM
22

Which normally I'm board for, but this one felt different. I guess I expected him to see the BS propaganda for what it was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:53 PM
46

It felt very ra ra libfem-y to me and like they rushed over the decriminalization part. Almost felt like two different pieces edited together because of the sex positivity tone. But yeah, decriminalization sounds like the best move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:40 PM
125

So damn true. I swear each guy I dated would incessantly talk about how sexual his ex was, and I was basically this, like ummmm then go back to her? Instead I gaslit myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:14 PM
643

Is this a flex??? Bragging about being used like a dish cloth?? You're better off getting your IQ tattooed on your forehead. One digit shouldn't cost much anyways so she'll have the money after paying for a hobosexual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:55 PM
273

Without fail, guys who initially liked my 'modesty' would eventually flip the script and want me to wear revealing, tight clothing that I didn't feel comfortable in. Truly astounding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:03 PM
24

I totally get that. It's nearly impossible to find a female friend who isn't actively looking to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:07 PM
63

More like a melted candle ON a toothpick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:06 PM
11

It's a major red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:11 PM
56

I recommend finding single friends so your circle isn't just couples. It really helps calibrate your sense of 'normal'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:48 PM
376

Holy smokes this was magical! She was running circles around him and needs a standing ovation. A man calling this "evil" is more proof of what babies they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:40 AM
45

I recently heard someone talking about a man who "only dated women with blue or green eyes" and the best part? He has brown eyes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:35 AM
75

That's such a relief!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:29 AM
121

Truly. I couldn't fathom EVER doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 10:25 PM
59

Since he's so terrified of giving 'power' to a woman by dating her, I suggest he consider investing in a fleshlight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:14 PM
954

He did it perfectly. He's got her gaslighting herself instead of dumping him because he's a thief
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:09 PM
50

Yikes. Yeah, she's a dumpster fire when it comes to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:23 PM
147

Reduce. She's a fool who will lead you astray from your standards. She has no right to be condescending and her relationship isn't even close to something you'd want or accept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:05 PM
99

This is a great test, the character is right. Except when a guy applies this test it's pragmatic, but when a woman does she's being cruel and unfair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:38 AM
80

Keep us posted!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:12 AM
396

So on brand for religious men to cheat. I can't wait for her to show up at church and expose his dirty laundry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:52 PM
140

This is one of the sanest things I've read in a while. I wish I had known this info growing up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:15 PM
880

Nothing better than men creating their own problems and then whining to the internet about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:36 PM
186

Same. This sub delivered me my sanity because I was able to let myself off the hook for the shitty treatment I suffered from every man I had been involved with edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:35 PM
41

This is the same reason why women weren't hunters in ancient tribes—because they were too valuable. It was NOT because they were weak and couldn't do it, not at all. It was because if 3 women were injured or lost on a hunt, their civilization would collapse because women played such a huge role. Men were sent to hunt because they were expendable. If 3 guys didn't make it back, society didn't even notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:22 PM
45

Comical. If those fools knew anything about the draft, they'd know that's it's INTENDED for first class citizens. THAT MEANS MEN. As the beneficiaries of the country, it's their DUTY to protect it. Second class citizens like women and minorities are not expected to defend a country that places them on the second rung. Again, this system was created by and for men. If anyone remembers, we saw this in action during the Korean War. They didn't draft women because the women said their first order of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 05:18 PM
33

Shit jars. And they want to act like the prize woooo eeeee. Nope. Never in a billion years would a woman bottle her shit and accessorize her kitchen with it. Then drag it back in from the garbage at the side of the road. Dear god, get a fleet of therapists, my man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:03 AM
67

Yeah, it's not a man's place to be criticizing 'imperfect' feminism. He should be quietly doing the work in daily life to make things better, not bragging about his feminist beliefs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 09:46 PM
49

Heck yeah!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:53 PM
616

Hey guys? It's not dating when you're an occupying force
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 06:03 PM
65

And how dare you confront them with reality! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:01 AM
109

I think they each expect to be the exception
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:44 AM
155

Thanks for this, it resonated deeply with me. After doing inner work, I came to similar conclusions about myself and why I tended to date older guys—stability, confidence etc. But it was a farce. Definitely worth interrogating ourselves about our attraction to people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:56 PM
23

"Real connections" and "meaningful conversations" are not to be found on OLD LOLOLOL AS IF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:51 PM
13

My ex did this and it really bugged me. He was lazy and selfish so couldn't be bothered to try. If I were you, I'd be gone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:48 PM
252

Wow, that guy's behaviour is such a turn off. Grow up and go on the date, bud. Being with a self professed 'shy guy' means you'll be making alllllllll the decisions. You'll be the one asking for more ice at the restaurant, you'll be the one arguing with the rental carpet cleaners when you move out of your home etc etc. THIS IS NEVER ENDING work on your end, because he's 'shy' and can't handle anything in life because he's so precious. YUCK These guys are an instant quiver killer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:25 PM
13

What filter is this guy using??? This is facetuned to the max
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:17 PM
125

She's Robinhood and he's a classic con artist. Emotional manipulation is easy compared to gaining access to rich people's inner circles and conning large financial institutions to take you seriously enough for a multi-million dollar loan. What Anna did took skill and artistry, Swindler just emotionally manipulated vulnerable women. No contest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:06 AM
260

Because it's so much easier to blame the woman individually than admit how hideous our culture is and how widespread abuse is within heterosexual relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:12 AM
85

Sadly, the only way to keep that attitude from affecting your level up journey is to ditch them. You're not missing out on anything, and there's likely no chance you'll convince them otherwise. Friends like this infect your life in insidious ways you don't realize until long after they're gone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 05:08 AM
153

They expect you to save them, but fiercely hate your guts because they're depending on you to save them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:46 AM
224

I tell women to avoid apps because it feels gross to commodify yourself for some guy to swipe while he's on the toilet. That's not how decent men met their wives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:44 AM
36

It's truly astounding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:07 AM
73

I had one guy in my teens - who didn’t even love me- trying to stop me from going college. Two weeks later….he moved abroad permanently! That's insane. Like, he was totally fine torpedoing a valuable experience for your future even though he didn't want you. Before FDS I never would have believed people acted like this, but they do. Glad the trash took itself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 12:29 AM
36

The power is reversed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 10:28 PM
69

It's truly horrific. Porn is a public health crisis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 10:24 PM
385

That's exactly it. If you took the sex out of kink, it's just men viciously abusing women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:33 PM
642

These comments from men amaze me. They LOVE being men because they reap societal benefits, but then they freak out when they're expected to ACT LIKE MEN and ask women out, as is the natural order. This is cafeteria manhood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:50 PM
875

Every pick me and cool girl in the kink community lurking needs to take note of this. When she asked for you know..less abusive sex, she got laughed at. He has zero intention of changing this dynamic, he's just going to punish her. This isn't about their respective kinks, it's about power and degradation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:45 PM
377

A man ever asks you if you live alone, the FDS reply is "Why? Are you homeless?" and watch these guys "huurrr hurrr" themselves into next Tuesday backpedaling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:02 AM
69

Best way to handle guys like this is to laugh and smirk at their tantrum. Act like you can barely get the words out because you're laughing so hard and struggling to take their questions seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:14 AM
755

It's not about the tea, it's the power. He doesn't want to invest anything in her, yet feels entitled to her time and likely body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:25 PM
151

This is my dream. I have gently mentioned it to women when it felt appropriate, but so far no luck. Love that this happened to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:21 PM
100

So weird. They hate women, yet also hope to be coddled and supported through life by women. Like, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:19 PM
39

That's terrifying on a few different levels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:18 PM
444

I'll eat the jeans I'm wearing right now if someone can show me this BS propaganda that encourages men to lift up and support broke, homeless women instead. It's allllllways one-sided in the direction of the man FFS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:53 PM
115

An oxymoron if I've ever heard one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:51 PM
15

It was years ago, but thanks. Wishing you luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:00 PM
81

I left my ex while he was at work because I knew it wasn't safe for me otherwise. None of us expected to be in that position
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:06 PM
136

DO NOT GO ALONE. Get 1 or 2 men to accompany you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:15 PM
447

Run, run, run. This man actually said the words out loud that he would be satiated by you rolling onto your back and letting him win a dumb argument. You didn't insult him, he's making it into a bigger thing to control you and force you to admit you're wrong. Don't. This is alllll about power, you won't win a game like this and it's not fun to play. RUN RUN RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:13 PM
135

Great observations, thanks for this. So true that the company you keep and the permanent choices you make when you're young can haunt you for the rest of your life. Choose wisely, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:42 AM
4

You're exactly right. There's one lady I remember who really relished her role in abusing younger women because it's what happened to her. She couldn't understand what she was doing, it was insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 11:24 PM
13

I've worked with women like this in the past, and your take is spot on. The older women were the WORST to us younger women. They were so angry they accepted a life of BS with an alcoholic who hated them, went to the military or did other shit things, they MUST make you hate your life like they did. It's pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:22 PM
2

This is the dumbest fiction ever. There's zero doubt a man wrote this dribble in the hopes of using it to triangulate women into disgusting shit they don't want to do. Dear god, it's so obvious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:01 PM
121

Wow, sorry to hear how disappointed you were. How weak to allow himself to fall into a porn addiction. But, good on you for doing the right thing for yourself. He's on his own journey and needs to deal with himself, it's not your responsibility. If he wants to be with you, he'll fix himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:28 PM
190

Back in the day when I was seeing a guy 20 years older than me (I know, I know) we spent hours shopping for him at a high end department store. I watched this moron try on clothes for hours and spend a small fortune on himself. I was testing to see if he'd offer anything for me. Nope. He never once offered anything, and I am too proud to ever ask. We never got intimate (he couldn't get it up the one time he tried lololololol) which I'm so glad about. Even in my pick me haze, I knew what he did w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:03 PM
13

Exactly. In daily life, I never feel bored. No wonder assholes from the past would rely on me to entertain them with my personality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 07:59 PM
62

This is so damn true. Upon reflection, the people in the past who've either implied or acted like I must entertain them have themselves been the most boring people on the planet. They had zero interests, passion or curiosity about the world. I myself have been feeling bored in my career lately, so I've been making strides to pivot what I'm doing to go after new challenges. Being bored can be an invitation to do more, if you let it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 07:52 PM
100

Poor little him. I'm suuuure a woman with a month old baby has so much free time she's making up stories and living to cause drama. Riiiiiight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 02:44 AM
14

It's heartbreaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 04:19 AM
101

$360 is less than a dollar a day. For less than $1, you too can sponsor a gf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:28 PM
89

God, this is pathetic. Reducing all her own accomplishments to being attached to a man who is using her and won't even tell anyone they're engaged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:45 PM
55

Guess he can use the egg on himself when it arrives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:19 AM
44

Ohh that's a good one. I DID know a guy named Ares, but he was actually Greek
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:33 AM
8

YES! Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:44 PM
58

Personal integrity. This is a man with zero personal integrity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:41 PM
2

It was! I love being an adult and buying cake for yourself because you want it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:38 PM
171

Lemme guess. He changed his name to Lucifer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:38 PM
35

Same. I'm 6'1 so I tower over most men and they're scared of me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:47 PM
2

Hope you had a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:40 PM
2

Wow, that sounds fantastic! It feels great to be seen by those around you. Yup, men should learn from the bffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:44 PM
1

Thank you! It's vanilla in the shape of some sort of flower. I got the cake from the grocery store, they have a great bakery. A few ladies around at the time really liked it too and commented
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:43 PM
2

You're just giving her a task
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:40 PM
69

I'm speechless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:33 AM
120

It's funny because of cum! *slow clap*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:26 AM
134

This is lame of him. He likes the witty banter because it's an ego boost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:23 AM
123

Just wait until somehow his mom's c-section gets mentioned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:18 AM
74

A guy this obtuse should not be procreating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:17 AM
5

Spreading the joy, love it! Hope you had some candy yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:13 AM
5

Ohh sounds good! I love rose and chocolate too. Enjoy David Boreanaz :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:54 AM
10

Happy Galentine's! You're gonna smell delicious, hang with friends and eat great food—what a night! All while looking rad :) Another FDS success 💅 Edit: Congrats on dumping last year's dead weight. No wonder you look so svelte
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:44 PM
180

Perhaps his time lecturing about 'consequences' would be better spent talking to men who abandon litters of children with single moms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:18 PM
48

SECURE THE BAG! Well done and good for you! It's amazing what we can accomplish without men stealing our energy, time and sanity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:16 PM
33

It takes the same effort to fart as send a text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:07 PM
90

Brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:05 PM
17

Awww I'm glad you saw that! I was hoping to see some of it, but maybe later at Costco :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 10:00 PM
29

Women always have to prove they're equal and independent but giving to men. Yup, that sounds about right for culture
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:58 PM
85

Yup, you totally did the right thing. He's broadcasting his laziness and you're supposed to stick around and be grateful? Delighted to hear you Lizzo'd your fine booty out the door He can beg his way into another relationship. His ego was sky high thinking he'd pulled a fast one on you, but you were too fast for him. Love it. Please tell us you're doing something fun or treating yourself anyways?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:56 PM
4

I'd say take a shot every time you cringe at them, but you'd be in hospital before the appetizers arrived :) LOLOL Have a blast at your birthday dinner and happy birthday!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:53 PM
8

Yummers!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:51 PM
8

You're a star, love it! I need a whole bag of crickets :) Very Elizabeth Taylor, we support FDS ladies dripping in jewels. What kind of earrings did you get?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:41 PM
13

Happy Valentine's Day!! Congrats on the job interview, this is a powerful time celestially so my fingers are crossed you're gonna hear good news. Let us know!! Your bouquet sounds gorgeous and I'm jealous of the chocolates. I love love love being alone, glad to hear it's really suiting you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:38 PM
14

Yummy!! Tea time makes me feel like a fancy b*tch so I love that for you. Been there. Those guys don't tell you they don't 'believe in it'— they show you instead with their low effort. Ohhh of course you're the selfish one for being unhappy with their mediocre bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:36 PM
51

Ohhhh I bet she's got hilarious war stories. She needs a flask under her station to deal with the fools today :) Watching them 'pick out' flowers was hysterical. They act like putting thought into the flower selection or even touching them costs $50 a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:33 PM
34

That's so thoughtful!! Proof that if he wanted to, he would. Bet the flowers are gorgeous :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:30 PM
108

I used to tout that shit too during my cool girl phase. I felt I was morally superior for not "needing my man to be forced to show me he cares by a day on a calendar" and that I was "proving" my low maintenance status by declaring it was meaningless. In reality? I was desperately hoping a guy would actually surprise me with something romantic and thoughtful because he wanted to. I wanted a guy to go all out for me. They never did, and now thanks to FDS, I know guys who 'don't need a day to tell …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:29 PM
67

No doubt. They're calculating how cheap they can be and still get their dick wet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:24 PM
25

That sounds fantastic!! Enjoy the food, ambiance and good company. Make sure you treat yourself to dessert and bubbly :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:24 PM
24

Spot on. Spot freaking on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:22 PM
45

Music to my ears! Hope you're cackling at each dumb text that pours in Of course Reddit is thrilled to tell a woman that receiving dirt on V-day is more than she deserves. What a sad state of affairs, eh. You know he's gonna drink half that wine and eat half the chocolate too. Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:20 PM
51

Right, people HATE receiving thoughtful gifts! I want a guy who WANTS an excuse to spoil me and show me how much he cares. You're right that all holidays are 'fake', but they're an excuse to have fun Glad to hear you're having a blast and receiving the Valentine's you deserve!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:18 PM
21

Tried uploading it again, did it work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:10 PM
156

When I worked in male dominated offices, they would sit around and complain about Valentine's at work because of the 'effort' they were expected to put in later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:07 PM
238

Same. They all tried that on me, and like a fool I believed it. What a crock of shit. Not one of those guys EVER did nice things for me the other 364 days of the year, they wanted to make sure it was 365
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:06 PM
21

Cheers to you! What a wonderful plan for this evening. Your gals won't disappoint you the way the loser ex did, and the food will be great. Get dressed up and have a blast! I'm looking forward to dying alone rather than be with a loser ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:58 PM
3

Apologies for misunderstanding. And yeah, that's pretty much it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:42 PM
231

Anything for a scrap of clout to impress the boys! Except now the boys will be roasting him about this public fail lolololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:35 PM
48

Congrats. Getting the f*ck away from shitty people is the best thing you can do for your health. Suddenly anxiety, stress and body aches are gone. The mental fog dissipates and you can see clearly again. Then you'll start to get angry at the treatment you allowed in your life. That's a good thing, this anger protects and galvanizes you. It won't be a linear progression, that's normal. Be patient with yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:11 PM
43

People often assume if you have standards you must hate love and be cynical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:06 PM
32

I know how you feel. The last shred of love I had for my dad disappeared at Christmas thanks to his shitty, selfish behaviour which proved he doesn't give a f*ck. So glad to hear your family is unharmed from the accident, it must have been scary. I was yearning to move out for over a decade before I could. Hang in there, when you leave, don't look back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:01 PM
184

Awww well done! Being generous to the lady who has taken care of him when given his first opportunity to do so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:42 AM
102

If you don't like women, you're probably gay Edit: This sounds like a grade 9 boy buried so deep in the closet he's in Narnia and this is how he deals with "strange feelings"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:58 PM
36

Lololol my mother would like a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:47 PM
110

Shit vs. diarrhea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:32 AM
18

It still astounds me how LV people can gaslight, straight up lie and twist reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 10:47 PM
53

As someone who gets paid to write jokes for other people (among other things), I can tell you with my entire chest, this isn't funny. It's soooo childish. Jokes should be CLEVER and WITTY, not so stupid you're left wondering if the guy has brain damage. This isn't him teasing himself, it's a shit test
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 09:51 PM
152

It's the same here in Western Canada. Men expect women to make the first move, plan the date, then pay for the date. American guys actually ask women out in person, Canadian guys don't. They only use OLD then expect the woman to do everything to prove how independent she is. Aaaaand that's why I don't date anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 09:46 PM
94

Men have successfully rebranded anger as "not an emotion" so they're convinced every thought that falls into their head is abject logic. Ergo, she "deserves" abuse because now so she "knows what it feels like to be hurt" because remember (!) women live life on easy mode, so without his "lesson", she'd never know how it feels to be rejected. As women, we know we face rejection everyday of life and keep it pushing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 07:58 PM
31

YES TO THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:33 PM
79

Bingo. Her not wanting anything serious suddenly becomes a war crime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:22 PM
915

I hope she moves right back out like a boomerang. This guy is selfish and hates his gf. He's entrenched in this power game, he doesn't even like her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:03 PM
119

She's rocking her dating life!! She knows what she wants and enforces boundaries. Love her. This clown has no clue what it's like dating for her, he has no say. He's putting the feelings of imaginary men above his friend because he only feels sympathy for men. I hope she drops him and continues living her life the way she is Ladies, when men only sympathize with other men and will give you 'advice' based on what benefits men, not you—run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:01 PM
30

I thought the same thing. Somehow I was the common denominator because 99% of guys were decent, right?!? LOLOL *laughs in FDS*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:56 PM
118

"you rejected me, so you deserve this for hurting my feelings"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:51 PM
168

Sooo many times I've been told "you can handle yourself" while my idiot ex did nothing but could have easily stepped in to help me Edit: I only realized at the end of the relationship how terrified he was of other men but he built his whole ego on being bros with cool guys. When I saw him lose his nerve in front of another man it was hilarious. Then I mentioned it to him and seeing the rage, I thought he was gonna punch me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:48 PM
233

It sounds like you and your bf are on different pages. He instinctively went to 50/50, then course corrected when you called him out on it. The 'your dream house will be yours solely' sounds like love bombing and future faking. His level of 'surprise' at your previous contributions sounds shitty. He shouldn't have been surprised if that was his norm. Don't mean to be a Debbie downer, but you may want to reconsider this relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 10:11 PM
28

A complete story arc in two comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 05:38 PM
207

These guys need to go outside and look around. Everywhere on the planet, most women date men who are uglier than them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:15 PM
2

Dear god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 06:14 AM
92

Is her face visible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:50 PM
354

"F*ck me on camera for free and I'm gonna have allllllllll the recordings and post them online" On what planet would this be a good deal? A woman doing porn does NOT need a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:57 PM
101

I've heard how common this is. I'm still stunned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:42 AM
12

Same. Now it's an instant nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:41 AM
7

You echoed the exact thought from my head. I did the same thing too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:40 AM
90

Prob 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:24 PM
91

truly. The writing was juuuuust a bit too self-congratulatory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:23 PM
34

He did triangulate me with her, so yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:22 PM
29

Ah yes, the fake outrage for optics tactic. Mine would do the same and complain about other men's crappy behaviour then do the exact same thing because he had zero self-awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:21 PM
316

Fiction. He's gassing himself up for internet clout
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:07 PM
51

Then these women get screamed at for needing public assistance. They want it both ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:00 PM
41

Lol I've yet to have that one. It's always how "cool" she was. Well then go back to her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 08:54 PM
186

- talking about her in casual conversation (any excuse to bring them up!) - telling you all the wonderful gifts and thoughtful things they did for their ex, but you've never gotten anything even close to that attention - taking you to all the same restaurants and spots they went with their ex (bonus points if they tell you what the ex used to order) - hanging onto old photos, mementos etc - bringing the ex up in front of others - getting you the same birthday gift because their ex liked it, ergo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:15 PM
73

SAME!! My ex didn't see what the big deal was and didn't think it was realistic. Meanwhile I was numb from that movie because it confirmed my feelings about men sticking in relationships with their second choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:11 PM
44

OH MY GOD that movie gutted me!! I was with my ZV-ex at the time and this movie made me cry because I knew in my bones that I was in her position and this validated so many feelings I had
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:10 PM
79

They just contradicted themselves in two sentences. This symbolizes how stupid the s*x pozzie lifestyle really is. It does not benefit women to jump into bed with strangers and it's not our job to maintain "cultural values" with our coochies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:07 PM
71

Surprised they haven't thrown their backs out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:35 AM
211

Precisely. I'd even liken this ego thing to the college admissions scandal from a few years ago. If you grew up rich and told you're superior to everyone, then suddenly all these poor "inferior" people get into university without the help of their rich parents bribery, then academically run circles around you...well you better shut that door tightly so those thoughts don't creep into your mind. Suddenly those people are just a "diversity hire" or "minority admission"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 12:44 AM
32

We must be talking about the same people :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 12:30 AM
112

That's one macabre benefit of having shitty parents. I will happily leave them in a rest home or by the side of the road. Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 10:44 PM
30

I hear what you're saying, but I think it's a stretch. And yes, men need to stop judging women's sexual history. Loving yourself and respecting yourself are different, I'd wager. Some of the dumbest people I know are blissfully happy—because they're so damn stupid they bump through life like children—and they're fine with it because they don't know any better and everyone picks up after them. The one gal in particular I was thinking of when I wrote my initial post, was very happy and loved herse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 10:07 PM
197

That's an interesting finding because it's completely contradictory to what I witnessed from friends back in the day who were all about the casual sex. They did have incredibly low self esteem and sought out hookups to feel good about themselves. The only kicker? This was obvious to everyone except them. They swore up and down they were in control and 'getting theirs' even when it was very clear they weren't. I guess women like that were studied and this conclusion was drawn? From what I've witn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:14 PM
65

This is the worst argument to settle down. If all the good men are "taken" I'm gonna exit stage left alone, NOT grab the loser closest to me If all the restaurants are booked, I'm gonna go eat at home, not have dinner in the dumpster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:08 PM
713

- $400 for the privilege of being r*ped daily by Owen and making his meals. HUH??? - "How'd you meet your partner?" "Oh, he had painted a sign asking to date any woman 18-45 on the side of his car!" - And, "I'm gonna r*pe women in the bedroom next to my PARENTS and they're totally cool with it. This arrangement ended horribly last time for reasons I won't tell you though. But I WILL be counting the hugs and cuddles I get"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:18 PM
50

Most guys who say they "want a family" just mean "I'll nut then you'll take care of literally everything else so I'll just throw a ball once a year"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:06 PM
60

The best part is that they truly don't see any reason why they WOULDN'T be dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:35 AM
124

It's magical watching a guy try to mansplain feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:11 PM
126

The red flags are waving high here. Basic vetting takes care of these guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:07 PM
915

LOLOLOL he "supported" her by subscribing then TORPEDOED her shot at a real job!!! WTFFFFFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:17 PM
507

I look at them innocently and say "aren't you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:15 PM
1336

Just lucky I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:14 PM
127

Congrats on your levelling up journey, keep it going! The red flags are waving here, it doesn't seem like this guy is worth your precious time. - he's been a wallflower since 2018 and didn't make his intentions known - when he finally got a shot with you, he took you to a mediocre restaurant which wasn't what you said you wanted. You wanted steak and he brought you to Italian. This is the first date with a guy who's been carrying a torch since 2018? Nope. - his reaction to you mentioning his fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:53 PM
84

Thankfully most women my age (I'm 37, an old millennial) witnessed this trash dynamic growing up and are desperate to avoid it. It's hilarious that the millennial men haven't figured out what's up yet. They expect to be like their boomer dad who does nothing but work, and have a woman like their mom who works and does the full shift at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:43 PM
50

The horrific cycle continues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:23 AM
27

Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:31 PM
22

Thank God I found FDS , kicked that hobosexual out begging and pleading, future faking love bombing like a mofo. He went to live off his sick elderly grandmother of course. This made me cackle. Good for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:30 PM
34

That's...the exact question that kept me stuck for years. Never gaslighting myself again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:21 PM
533

He's got a great deal. He cheated, stayed, exerts no effort and has a human gl*ry hole. Now he'll blame her pregnancy body as the reason he cheats again. No wonder LVM look for women like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:43 PM
111

And now they have a baby together. Just what the world needs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:42 PM
282

FDS truly awakened me to men's ability to compartmentalize. I used to project my own integrity and feelings of "well, of COURSE they'd feel guilty or shitty for xyz" but they don't. That was a huge realization that at times still gets me. Men don't think like women, at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:46 PM
5

Yup. Even when I'm home alone all day I still do my face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:11 PM
14

Yup. Conveniently missing the entire point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:32 AM
3

No doubt. You could have fun with them in the meantime. Every time they bring it up, just nonchalantly reply that you're looking forward to dying alone. They'll freak out, you'll laugh and lower their expectations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:32 AM
15

No doubt. You could have fun with them in the meantime. Every time they bring it up, just nonchalantly reply that you're looking forward to dying alone. They'll freak out, you'll laugh and lower their expectations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:32 AM
14

Fantastic point. And to piggyback on it, OP, if clothes don't fit right, it's their fault, not yours. You're the shape, and the clothes don't fit your shape, ergo, they're the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:49 AM
76

Amen. I donated all my heels, work clothes etc. Now I wear a 'uniform' that suits me and makes me feel like myself. It's alll about buying for who you are today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:46 AM
38

Giving up dating has been wondrous for this. I used to put cute yoga pants on if I needed to pop out for errands. Now? I'll go out in sweatpants to dine alone. As I figure, guys don't approach you in person anyways, so what's the point in trying to look cute? Now, I feel like they don't even deserve to look at me. They'll get sweatpants unless I feel like dressing differently. I do have my usual make up on, because that makes me feel like myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:44 AM
1

It's a good thing you're not expecting much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:33 AM
5

Are you planning to say the 4 points to him to gauge his reaction and decide from there if he's worth being friends with or just to get it off your chest with no expectations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:15 PM
13

Never again. I totally expected her to crop up during mercury retrograde, but I've been spared Well, you'd know best how he might react, so I'm not going to tell you otherwise. It's worth weighing the risk vs. his actions. Meaning, if you think he'll just show up and call you names then leave, it might be worth it. If he'll get scary, that's another story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:50 PM
29

It was a long time coming. She grew resentful and emotionally abusive after I left my ex and she didn't. She never reached out or tried to come over. Are you worried about your bud showing up to confront you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:25 PM
41

It really is. I twisted myself into knots before I pulled the plug, and for what? Best decision ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:22 PM
212

I actually knew a guy who tried to woo me by bragging about all the unprotected hookups he had and was mystified when I told him he should never tell a living soul that info. He claimed to have a drawer of plan b to give these dates because he was such a gentleman. Let's all laugh together now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:48 PM
273

No kidding, right? THIS COULD BE YOU!!! What an honour to suck his member while he texts another girl. Except this totally didn't happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:45 PM
114

I blocked and deleted my "bff" of 13 years. Don't bother explaining anything to him, he's committed to misunderstanding you. After you've cut him off, you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:43 PM
39

Amen. I'm happily ready to kick the bucket solo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:09 PM
72

LOL communicate? There are already 30 min voice messages lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:59 PM
128

Singles events for Valentine's will not be where you meet high quality people. It's too loaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:01 PM
411

He's currently living with you and your mom and talking to his friends about girls he'd like to "cum in". That's a hell no. He's blatantly disrespecting you and your relationship. He's jealous of single guys who get "all the girls" which means he clearly doesn't think he's lucky to have you. He's lying to your face about who he follows and what he does. The things you get from him—watch movies, work out etc—could be accomplished alone or with a pet. You don't need this guy, he adds nothing to yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 05:57 PM
24

Same. I dumped my useless ex and levelled up, but she didn't have the courage to dump hers. Suddenly I became the enemy and she turned her sights and resentment on me. Soooo glad I blocked and deleted her. Should have done it sooner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:36 PM
1

Yikes! It's been strong. Hope you're well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:27 AM
844

Has he tried cOmMuNiCaTiNg and CoMpRoMiSe??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:35 PM
272

Again, everything returns to "who benefits?". Men benefit from this nonsense kink movement, not women. Ergo, it's a no-fly zone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:34 PM
64

Reminder: NOT dating is an option. Not worth even entertaining men anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:22 PM
40

It could be unlike him only because the mask is slipping and this behaviour is new to you. The fact he doubled down by pseudointellectualising instead isn't a good sign. Guys with personal integrity don't resort to word salad because they don't need to. They own their mistakes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:30 PM
44

Bingo. A is above you in his mental hierarchy and he wouldn't dare call his bro out in front of people. You? You're not people to him He just showed you—very clearly—where you rank in his life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:18 PM
201

This tells me what I need to know: "I felt alone, or even as I’m fighting 3 people" I've been in your shoes before, and the guy who leaves you to battle the group solo while he sits there in silence will continue to do so. It's even worse when it's an issue he agrees with in private. It shows he values their opinion of him more than yours and he's not really in your corner. Furthermore, know he won't have your back when you're not in the room
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 09:27 PM
456

I just learned that spinster was a term used for women weavers who made so much money at their job they didn't need to get married
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:24 PM
39

There's no coming back from an admission like that. Hope you walked your fine self out the door
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:26 PM
67

/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:30 AM
17

dear god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:29 AM
83

He looks like a fat lizard with those eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:15 PM
25

Every word of this is gospel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:14 PM
105

The first word in his caption is incorrect. It's "you're". This guy should get hooked on phonics before finding clarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 09:12 PM
6

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:41 PM
6

Bingo, you know the drill! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:41 PM
14

My thoughts exactly. Never once have I googled them—I don't care to know \
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:30 PM
33

Damn right!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:13 AM
227

That why we gotta carry ourselves with the confidence and swagger of people who've broken through. After you've accomplished all your goals, you gotta loudly laugh in their faces when they fret over you not being 21 years old. Think of yourself like a mob boss in that effect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:15 AM
59

Keep your eyes peeled. I've had like 6-8 old colleagues, acquaintances, friends resurface. I wonder if your former BFF may reach out again. That must have a tough day for you. The "overreaction" is a classic for a reason, eh. LOLOL oh poly people and their pliable boundaries. Totally no banging planned! How generous of her You may have to play whack a mole again soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:01 AM
68

Why do these people keep having kids when they can't afford them? Thank you for asking the important question. I'll never understand it either. I swear people put more thought into their pizza toppings than bringing another person into the world. Yeesh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:28 PM
73

Damn right. Or the Madonna route of "you're just a sperm donor, this kid is MINE"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:18 PM
45

Amen. I've stopped reading gossip blogs I've followed for 20 years because the libfem BS is too hard to swallow now. One in particular gushing over this pregnancy announcement was the final straw for me. Enough of this nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:17 PM
289

Take my upvote! I feel the same way. These women aren't HV by that behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:21 PM
131

SAME!! As soon as I heard the news I was disgusted. HIM??? Then I saw the pics today of her showing her stomach and him smirking beside her. She's in for a life of misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:19 PM
337

It's a tactic to assert dominance and keep you vying for their approval. They ARE judging you and trying to put themselves above you, you're right to feel uncomfortable by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:57 PM
684

This read was DELICIOUS. Everyone has moved on to find happiness, except the one who blew up everyone's lives. He got exactly what he deserved. If only more men would read this as the cautionary tale it is and behave accordingly. All he had to do was keep his dick in his pants and none of this would have happened. LOLOLOLOL enjoy your shitty one bedroom apartment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 12:39 AM
102

I like to imagine she wised up and dropped that dude like a hot potato
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:36 PM
298

Those stories make my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:55 PM
550

I resented having this garbage shoved down our throats during the 00's, and I'm glad that bastard is gone. He's a pervert who turned his hatred of women into a degrading empire. It belongs in the dirt where it is now. Keep going Crystal, you're doing amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:27 PM
1

Sign me up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:55 PM
34

They really can't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:54 PM
34

I love keeping bubbly at home! Never know when I need to celebrate myself!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:52 PM
257

I don't know ANY woman who drinks bud light. They like small craft breweries and enjoy picking out their beer. These guys truly know less than nothing about women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:01 PM
302

HAHAHAHAHHA OH MY GOD what a cope!! This level of fiction is almost as good as an Agatha Christie novel. Single men sit at home on lawn furniture, swim through empty water bottles to get to the door and don't eat anything that doesn't arrive at their door in a box. As for drama? They bring in. Going to the gym? As if. Dishes in the sink? We know that ain't women. This is single men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:00 PM
25

No kidding! I certainly wish I could switch teams, which totally proves you can't pick your sexuality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:33 AM
88

Yeesh, this spoke to me. That's why I came to terms with never dating again. There's not a single relationship around me that I want to emulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 11:33 PM
62

That's why I often joke "when can I have a wife?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:25 PM
55

And you know if he got in an accident and seriously injured her, he'd walk out the fucking door because he "didn't sign up for this"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:22 PM
60

Great point. What on earth does she get out of it?? NOTHING, yet she's supposed to be thrilled to be his fleshlight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:19 PM
74

That's exactly right. We're damned if we do, damned if we don't. That's why I don't bother with men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:17 PM
107

Yup. There were guys I knew who were short and not attractive always had a partner because they were generous, thoughtful, funny, could cook, had good hygiene, decent fashion sense etc. They were rarely single. Oh, and they actually asked women out so there's that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:11 PM
69

I liked that part too. I've worked straight since I was 11 years old (babysitting etc) and yes it's tough, but adults work for things. And I still have to work, soooo why is he such a martyr for being an adult??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:07 PM
64

Nothing says romance like whiskey dick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:05 PM
149

I figured it was a blatant exaggeration. It happened like twice and he's blown it up in his mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:59 PM
228

"In today's world, your average man doesn't have power over anyone, they are losers." This has been a pattern throughout history. The King had all the power so the peasants got a wife to abuse and that was to appease them not to revolt after realizing it was a bad deal. Nowadays corporations are king, and they wanna blow the billionaires like Elon who keep their boot on their necks because they're too dumb to realize they're a huge part of the reason average men today are broke and will stay bro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:41 PM
535

He doomed his own future. Rather than marrying any of his exes who gave him sooooooo much anal, he married the madonna trying to change her. It didn't work, and now he's crying and blaming her. Suck it up buttercup, you chose this. You don't end up married with a kid by accident
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:21 PM
259

"But having a baby will save our marriage!" Snerk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 04:19 PM
7

I'm sorry this happened to you and that you have to deal with it. I'm certain this reply with get downvoted into oblivion, have fun everyone. I have a friend who's in the exact same situation as you, but she's freely able to admit all the signs she missed and how much she screwed up. Yes, of course she blames their idiot father for changing, but she acknowledges her role (ignoring red flags, gaslighting herself etc) in it. I'm not saying this to blame or shame you, but as a gently nudge towards …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:37 PM
10

It literally is. That bothered me too in the beginning of the pandemic because allllll parents did was complain about being with THEIR OWN KIDS. What a nice thing for them to hear... And yes, I know being a parent is tough and requires sacrifice—which is precisely why I won't have any. Once you have a kid, that's it. Your life has changed, accept it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:26 PM
67

I've seen a rise of "why is this on LinkedIn?" content too, but these posts in particular irk me now. You chose to have kids (with a useless man, to boot), so deal with it. Trying to elicit sympathy online from strangers? Go ask the man who made those kids with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:25 PM
641

Guys in their 20s should be able to look at concrete and get hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:37 PM
193

Hilarious to me that "put more effort into developing my personality" and "asking women out in person" never occurred to this dude. He'd prefer to whine to the internet than put in more effort to get what he wants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:20 PM
77

Yeah, I liked how quickly he skipped over that very important detail!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:30 PM
90

Yup. It's less fun for them to break down a sex worker than a CEO. They like the games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 11:37 PM
256

WTF is wrong with men? Asking a woman to come clean your storage unit as a date??? Are you mentally ill???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:00 AM
50

That happened the other day when I was on my way home from some errands. Some girl's bf was hard core eye balling me. Pathetic loser, focus on your GF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:22 AM
31

Damn right you did!! Keep looking hot as shit, they can eat their hearts out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:21 AM
168

This is the stupidest fucking hot take. Sex work is legalized rape, full stop. Without the cash, there'd be no consent, so fuck off with that choice nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:20 AM
117

There's nothing I love more than pick me's thinking I'm after their disgusting man. I pay for my own stuff then saunter out to my fully paid for car. I'm not buying groceries for anyone and I'm going home to the apartment I own. They can mate-guard the guy who can't even pay for their weekly groceries LOLOLOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:29 AM
87

I'm just so beautiful they couldn't control themselves. For any other crime except SA, that's considered a confession
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 11:09 PM
294

To your point, OP, I think weird mannerisms can trigger our lizard brain's flight or fight. We developed this sense as a survival mechanism to spot dangerous humans, a la the 'uncanny valley'. For example, throughout history, getting rabies was a death sentence and could destroy the entire village/tribe. So humans developed a sense to pick out these people— they smile a little too wide or acted "off"— we knew that was a predator masquerading as one of us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:42 PM
83

Thanks for posting this, I saw this drivel today and my FDS radar pinged. Why is she defending and minimizing his gross behaviour??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:29 PM
19

We can only hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:39 PM
189

Well done! She knew her worth and kept her options open while still seeing a guy she liked. This is what FDS teaches. Clearly a winning strategy because they've been married for 50 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:36 PM
22

Absolutely right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:19 PM
127

Yup. As someone who is childfree but spent her formative years babysitting a lot, boys are like dogs. They need to know who is in charge or they'll go feral. The boys required my drill sergeant behaviour, rarely the girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:38 PM
35

My thoughts exactly. That ring won't seen so romantic when we find out later he's controlling and abusive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:59 PM
59

"If we can't assault our wives we don't wanna get married" is saying the quiet part out loud, guys. Tells us everything we already knew about how men see women they're with. Good riddance, this will work in women's favour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 03:44 PM
74

As usual, bunch of gaping nerves freak out. Total escalation that isn't appropriate. Soooo many funny things they could done with this, but they didn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:23 AM
296

His default is women placating him by telling him they "don't care about their own orgasms" and he wants to act like a stud LOLOLOL make it make sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:58 AM
86

LOLOL this guy's hot take shows he has never cracked open a newspaper or spoken to a woman. Oh wait... More importantly, this idiot is operating from a staggering place of entitlement. One show that's "against men" and he rushes to the internet to bemoan it. Welcome boys, you'll get used to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:56 AM
52

My thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:08 PM
33

It sounds like stepping off the roller coaster might offer some clarity. From what you've described, it sounds like you're on autopilot. Could you step back for a while? I'd stop dating all together because it'll be too tempting in the early stages. Get to know yourself instead of distracting yourself with dates. Reinvest that energy into starting new hobbies, business ideas and making female friends. Sex positivity is BS anyways, you're giving men what they want. They don't deserve to even look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:22 AM
143

This...isn't even funny. "Ohhh women are concerned about safety! Burn!!" Like, huh? This tired "comedy" is on the same level as fat jokes. Jokes that are actually funny are insightful and often make you look at a situation from another perspective. This? Doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 05:14 AM
22

Except the 23 hours a day he's watching sports on his wonderful TV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:22 PM
48

Until he inevitably crashes the car then expects to use yours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:22 PM
36

LOL true, except those brave losers who post asking for a female roommate who's looking to pay for rent in other ways and must be thin and gorgeous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:01 PM
286

It should be a tin can for them to shout into
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:00 PM
198

Shouldn't this riveting post be on Craigslist in the looking for roommate section?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:51 PM
111

If he does it with you, he'll do it to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:01 AM
94

Ditto. Not one man on this earth is worth me having a baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:12 AM
64

So damn true. Power through their puppet son
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:12 AM
373

And they began dating when she was 23 and he was 31... ​ Edit: All she has from this relationship is 3 kids she'll be raising alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:40 PM
35

"who are you going to believe? me or your lying eyes?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:39 PM
322

Not surprising that OLD companies have the worst marketing. They are trying to dress up dog shit, it's no small feat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:37 PM
66

Yeah, I was like "what kid??" that's a full grown man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:35 PM
93

Glad you had a good experience and supportive partner. The second a man tells a woman how a good wife should behave is end game. That guy's a piece of shit, 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:48 AM
497

All together now: CASUAL SEX IS A SCAM FOR WOMEN. Men don't respect you in the best of times, they will degrade you when you're just a fleshlight hookup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:41 AM
290

GOD, I'M THRILLED TO BE CHILDFREE. This is my nightmare. A lazy piece of shit that you're tied to for the rest of your life. Never. Never, ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 01:37 AM
26

This is fantastic, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:51 PM
81

AMEN to this gospel. Too many men get the benefit of the doubt: "he's weird and socially inept, ergo he must be deep and thoughtful." When in reality, he's exactly as shallow and useless as he appears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:45 PM
1

As someone who has been ugly and is now attractive, what I've noticed is that some people (especially women) take particular glee using the attractive women for social clout. Using her as the butt of the joke, turning the group against her to mock etc. And since I'm 6'1, short women also like the feeling of bossing around a taller woman. Bonus points if she's attractive because then they can punish you for whatever perceived slights they experienced in their life. Get away from these people, the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:39 PM
36

That's horrific but not surprising. Monkey see, monkey do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:17 PM
77

THERE IS NO MAN from my past that I wish was still in my life today. THIS IS GOSPEL. Just like there are ZERO relationships I see around me that I'm jealous of. Why the f*ck would I want to date?? Literally never once in my life have I seen a couple with a relationship I've envied. None.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:15 PM
1

" sneakily suggest I don’t know how to have friends, get along with people etc" That's what happened to me too. I have no problems conducting myself in social settings, so no clue where she started this from. It was little things that felt off, but felt silly to confront her over. But looking back it was a clear pattern to undermine me and use me to make herself feel superior. She'd also laugh really hard and loud about something that wasn't funny, but it was to be cruel to me. As someone who's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:12 PM
58

I support it Edit: Then have terabytes of porn that shows women abusing men so we can "prove" how much they loooooove it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:17 PM
80

Bingo. He works at a gas station or something and the only way to feel like a man is by abusing his gf rather than levelling up his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:16 PM
2

Bingo. You're in the same boat I was. - "Nonetheless I feel I find her looking for ways to position herself as superior to me socially or class wise" - "I kindly swept her failure under the rug only to have her step to me and try and expose me/ snatch the sheet off me at the slightest sense that my promo may not be as good as I said" These points jumped out at me. You allow her dignity and grace, she actively looks to target you doesn't extend you the benefit of the doubt. Those are the glaring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 08:15 PM
325

As usual, if you reversed the genders, men would be SCREAMING at him to leave because he's being disrespected and degraded. But when it's a woman, it's just a smirk and gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:27 PM
108

Well done!! Like you, I don't see myself dating again. Just turned 37 and haven't been on a date in over 2 years. I don't miss it at all. There's a big world out there, go explore it, ladies. No man necessary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:26 PM
2

Typically it was after seeing an ounce of vulnerability from me. They'd pounce and seize that moment to put themselves above me. It was hysterical because their lives were utter train wrecks, but then the dynamic never went back to normal. The mutual respect was gone, suddenly they had positioned themselves above me. I didn't call them out because I didn't want to be mean and I gaslit myself into thinking it wasn't true, that I was being paranoid. I wasn't. Now it makes me angry to think how lon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:23 PM
14

I've got to ask, why are you still friends with her? She sucks at life. Are you comfortable standing there and watching someone who's clearly wrong spout on about things? I've had friends like that in the past and they were shitty friends. They had no integrity and honestly didn't even like me. They only liked having me around because they (in their twisted minds because it wasn't true) felt superior to me. It sounds like you're dealing with the same issue. It'll only get worse and become more a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 05:15 PM
9

Glad you're in a better spot now. It's gonna keep improving. Like you, I'm not dating but am in the sub to level up and learn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 01:15 AM
84

That black and white thinking is spot on for a teenager. He or she likely feels worldly and grown up for pushing you so hard about this. Blocking is a permanent boundary, so it's not surprising a teenager is enraged by it. Young people are in a race to see who can care less, but that's not realistic for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:32 PM
206

I'd rather shit in my hands and clap than pay for this loser's holiday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:20 AM
40

It's not the $20, it's the principle. It's selfish and petty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:18 AM
20

"I felt like I couldn't set or maintain boundaries cuz my self-worth was low and I'd not seen or learned healthy boundary-setting as a kid. I didn't know I was supposed to do this and as a result, I would feel hurt when he would let me drive to the doc with a high fever while he played vid games, but not know exactly why." Yes to this. Growing up with narcs desensitizes you towards that behaviour and you have to learn how to set boundaries etc cuz we were never taught. I knew in my bone marrow w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:00 AM
417

Ohhhh take your ghost stories elsewhere, old man. She did fantastic, she's gonna level up so hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:08 AM
184

His current sugar mama just walked out so he's in a tough spot lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:07 AM
21

Something was in the air!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:06 AM
1216

My favourite part was him saying she's lucky to have HIM. This was awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:09 AM
39

Same. Kinda crazy, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:40 AM
396

I've been fully celibate for 2 years now and highly recommend it. It's really not worth entertaining men because they don't bring enough benefits to make it worthwhile. Since most guys are selfish in bed anyways, what are you really getting? Nothing. Get them out of your life, body and mind. Then watch yourself soar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:07 AM
169

It's so common. They really are convinced you're fooled, but you're just being polite. My favourite part of how they couldn't even remember whatever fake age they told you so suddenly he's 43, 37, 51 and 39 in the span of a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:59 PM
27

I've found that tall men can be particularly vicious to tall women and only seek out short women. I found this is because tall women are far more unique than than a tall man, and suddenly his ONLY personality trait (hurrr hurrr I'm tall) is void. You get all the attention and suddenly he's average. These men will punish you for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:57 PM
24

Proximity to power. From afar the halo effect of being with a tall woman seems like a great idea (I'll be treated tall too!), until their ego and insecurity kicks in. Being with a tall woman is like being with a movie star. Guys can't handle it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:08 PM
574

Men are DELUSIONAL about their age. When I was dating guys 20 years older than me (I know, I know), they all lied about their ages and were CONVINCED they looked in their late 30s when in reality they were in their early 50s. It was funny because of how pathetic it was. These guys also used LinkedIn photos from 20 years ago too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:05 PM
35

As a fellow tall woman, we are magnets for insecure men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:38 PM
104

I feel like a dog who has been trained all her life to traverse an obstacle course before getting a reward (affection). Only now, I've been offered a treat without having to 'work' for it. It feels ...wrong somehow. Unfamiliar, empty, boring, but also like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Yup. Those of us people pleasers who grew up working hard for crumbs need to retrain ourselves. Direct that hard work to something in your career, your hobbies etc. The other part requires practicing rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:47 PM
34

His family got him a hotel room for a night for his 45th birthday present so he could have a place to spend the night with his kid. Every word was more pathetic than the last. Good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:11 PM
41

Yup. My ex wasn't much of a snorer until he packed on the pounds and then you had to pull the curtains out of his mouth. But of course he refused to believe he snored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:50 PM
169

Men don't have friends they talk about stuff with, so they resort to reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:40 PM
74

Hilarious that their boogeyman is an FDS mod.. Like, really? Woooooo look out, ladies! Upholding standards for women and keeping the group safe from nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:33 AM
40

I interpreted that statement to mean he kept interrupting her so she couldn't get a full sentence out, ergo his pea brain and ego immediately assumes she's got no direction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:37 AM
33

I saw that fool! What a selfish moron
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:53 PM
2

Yup, that's exactly right!! I'm the king, but can't even earn enough to feed my kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:38 PM
14

Truly heavenly. Never be bothered by anyone's carelessness again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:58 AM
103

Soooo many times I found myself wincing and saying "gently, gently" as I pulled away from a man's ham-fisted touch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:07 PM
65

Maybe dry humping would do it if she had some kindling that needed to be lit on fire
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:05 PM
323

I'm firstoarswoman of that boat. I have no desire to ever live with another human being ever again. I can't be myself. The best I'd ever consider would be apartments next door with a private entryway like a hotel or a big enough place that I've got my own space and there's a common area to socialize. I'll never share a bedroom, kitchen or bathroom with another living soul. I can't relax and be myself if someone else is there. I know I'm going to be told this is unrealistic, but I don't care. I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:03 PM
29

Hello and happy birthday to my fellow Capricorn! Congrats on a loser-free year and spoiling yourself. My birthday is tomorrow and I'm thrilled the loser who disappointed me last year isn't around for a repeat performance. Have a blast treating yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:59 PM
3

I was aggressively told I was expecting too much, and he does soooooo much for me that I just can't see. When I would press him for all these wonderful and mysterious acts he could never name ONE. NOT ONE. Then instead that turned into hours of him telling me I'm a bitch because I can't see allllllll that he does for me *footage not found*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:27 AM
30

He just removed the video!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 12:43 AM
327

For boomer men it was a status symbol to afford a stay at home wife. For millennial men, it's a status symbol for them to have a wife who pays for everything (cuz she's independent hurrr hurrr) and buys a PS5 for them Edit: that Buzzfeed article about a lady who paid off her man's debts jumped into my mind here. She's getting called such an amazing wife, when she's actually a chump. That man will be cheating on her by the end of the year, guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:48 PM
30

YUP. I felt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 08:22 PM
298

Everything on the planet includes men and is built for men. Women carve out one small space for themselves without the voices of men, and they lose their minds. Talk about entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:42 PM
28

He'll prob drop her when she gets too thin because he'll want to repeat the cycle with another woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:43 PM
146

Yeah, we gotta save her. This was horrifying to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 05:50 AM
141

usually the reply is just a smirk, shoulder shrug and "that's the way it is"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:47 AM
19

If you don't wanna ghost, then send a 'meh, this isn't working for me' message and block. I don't think a cousin is that important, you can always have a side chat about how lame this guy is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:05 AM
8

Just bite the bullet and block. He's not going to say some magical combination of words that'll make you change your mind. Do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:39 PM
82

Amen to this post. After 5+ years together, my loser ex had no idea how I make my coffee or ate my English muffin. Literally the easiest things he'd witnessed countless times, but had no clue how to make them. That was one of the big moments that helped me see what trash he was. When I confronted him about it, his reaction was very telling. That was the beginning of the end for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:10 PM
3

Glad we're in it together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:17 PM
16

Yup. It's really hard to take men seriously when they hit on you because you know they'd never look twice at you before, even though you're still the same person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:17 PM
33

You don't owe him anything, but if you really want, do the boiler plate "we want different things" blah blah then block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:00 PM
133

Getting to know each other over text benefits him and not you. You're subconsciously projecting positive qualities etc onto him while also missing red flags. This is classic lazy male behaviour. Instead of taking you out, he's gonna sit on his ass and text you. You don't know what he's saying is true and this is designed to speed up intimacy so you'll feel you know him better than you really do. This whole situation is gonna explode. End this nonsense now and refocus on yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:57 PM
129

He sounds boring and like he has nothing going on. Mindless texting all day is annoying and shows he's not doing much. Assuaging your loneliness this way isn't helping you in the long run. It's just using him as a crutch instead of redirecting that time and energy on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 05:50 PM
4

"America is a mess." Empires last, on average, 250 years. As of July 4th, 2021, America is 245 years old....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:50 PM
14

You should be flattered he wants to stick his dick in you. You're the 'chosen' one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:36 PM
11

I wasn't limiting it to just autistic, it was more for all men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:35 PM
33

It's a reference to myself. Given my surroundings and the early 00's culture, if I'd been hot growing up I would likely have rested on that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:58 AM
45

Ohhh I know that BS. They think every thought that falls into their head is pure brilliance that must be shared with humanity and if you don't react like it's the most profound thing you've ever heard in your life, they meltdown
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:09 AM
80

Actually guffawed out loud a few times, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 11:36 PM
62

I've experienced that too, and hilariously it's from men with zero ability to read people!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:30 PM
98

Exactly how my ex acted in couples therapy because the therapist caught onto how abusive he was. Stonewalling, temper tantrums on the street as we walked home, raging at me because she was 'biased and a man hater' and eventually refusing to attend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:28 PM
46

Yessssssssssssss we love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:55 PM
138

I know exactly what you mean. I grew up ugly so know precisely how awful men are to women they don't find attractive. In a surprise twist of fate, I grew into myself and now when I leave my house people ask if I'm a supermodel. Experiencing both ends of the spectrum was powerful, but like you, I know women who never had ugly duckling years and can't understand what it's like being ignored or bullied for your appearance. I'm grateful for these early experiences because I was forced to develop a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:17 PM
125

*slow clap* Things women use to masturbate aren't even close to the disgusting things men will stick their dick into. Remember the cum coconut? I won't link to it, just google it and see for yourself. As usual, another SUPER FUNNY JOKE (not) from the manosphere. Once again proving they aren't funny and have zero self-awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:29 PM
303

What a CoMpLiMeNt of the highest order
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:59 PM
47

Amen. Unlike men, who have countless options of amazing women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:20 PM
18

He never took courses to better himself, network or anything. He just sat like a bump on a log hoping nothing would change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:46 AM
33

Same as my ex. From the day we started our relationship till the day I walked out, this guy still had the exact same job but with the added paranoia he was gonna lose it to younger guys. I hope he did but I don't care enough to look. He never bothered to DO ANYTHING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:58 AM
141

Men manipulate us so we'll make a choice that benefits THEM, not us. It's 100% calculated to rob us of our autonomy because otherwise we wouldn't do what they want
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:56 AM
27

He has zero right to know info like your salary. Zero. He's a stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:53 AM
323

One sign to spot these guys is they can't get into anything because they're as deep as a wading pool. They have no real hobbies, passions, friendships and they tend to be ambivalent about their job, even though it's often the one thing they hinge their personality on. These guys don't do anything with their chest, because they're empty inside and avoiding life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 10:04 PM
25

He's lying to secure her interest so she's in too deep to leave when the truth is revealed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:29 PM
73

This one is really simple. He puts in no effort, she's got the ick and that's where they are. Guaranteed he does nothing sensual to seduce her or try to make her life easier 99% of the time, so she's turned off by him except when she has an itch. Once it's scratched—post nut clarity, if you will—she sees him clearly for the lazy, uninterested man he is. The cycle repeats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 07:10 PM
72

Men don't like sex, they like the power, degradation and domination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:31 PM
9

I remember that nonsense. I'm not playing that game with some loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:49 PM
56

Same. No dudes own both their own place and business in my city, so already there's a 0.1% chance lolol byeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:35 AM
43

YUP!!! YUP YUP! Every word of what you said is accurate. He's NEVER gonna clean those counters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:33 AM
72

This is BS. I've tried this, it doesn't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:44 AM
8

The American version is all yelling so it's unwatchable. The UK version is awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:40 AM
27

Ohhh loved the early seasons of the Amazing Race too! But yes, it's soooo grossly abusive to women. Kendra and her BS leapt to mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:06 PM
16

Gordon? Only when confronted with stupidity and ego. He's a fantastic leader to the younger chefs and really cares
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:05 PM
81

What a horrible idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:13 AM
312

He LOVED that she was very young, he's just upset that the consequences have arrived at his doorstep. I hope the girl aborts and lives her life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:11 AM
50

It sounds like you lost a potential gold digger who was tepid about you. You're very lucky he's gone because he's found a new victim to use and abuse and it won't be you. You're free. Block everything, don't ever look again. You're only seeing a curated snapshot anyways, it's not reality. Being with guys like him is being in a fog, it takes time for clarity. Men always find someone quickly because they line up the next girl before unlatching from the current one. This is a reflection of his lack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:07 PM
28

I couldn't stomach watching more than 2 episodes of season 5 because the Pick-me energy was too strong. It was such a shame to see such accomplished and awesome women chasing men who didn't care about them. Nathan didn't like Issa and was shit talking her in the car and she's begging for a relationship with him and he's mad he didn't get sex that time he stayed over. HUH?? And this is a great guy we should root for?? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:57 PM
43

I thought that was gross too. Why does your kid and family need to know that? It was like he was using her to bolster his ego by letting everyone know he cared less. But as they say, never give a man opportunity to humiliate you because he'll take it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 04:40 PM
36

A platonic female life partner is exactly what I was thinking for myself too. I've never gotten what I want from men, and would love to share my life with a close friend or two instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:54 AM
46

Of course he would have. Then been offended when you called him out on it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:32 AM
77

Men get power, women get empowerment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:49 AM
2

Maybe just check back on the page without following him? That keeps you from adding to his follower count (and ego) and protects you from BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:05 AM
10

That's exactly it. They lack the self-reflection to ask themselves why the fuck their entire lives are designed for escapism. Hmmmm dig deeper into that, guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:43 PM
104

I used to do this my entire dating history, then I couldn't understand why the switch flipped and that ego she mentions emerged. I remember thinking to myself "I'm spending my social capital on you, and you can't even act properly and appreciate it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:31 PM
4

Spot on with all that. Just enough to rope you back in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:24 PM
106

This is poetry. Drag them to hell and back!! Edit: Gentlemen, some free advice: And for the love of God, gaming isn't a hobby. The sooner you wake up and realize that, the sooner you can fix your life. It makes you BORING. No one wants to hear about your silly little scavenger hunts, we're not 15. It's pathetic you're staring at a screen for 12 hours a day when you could be living. If women knit for 12 hours a day, never showered and lived in mommy's basement you'd be repulsed. Admit it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:18 PM
14

And the free clinic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:06 AM
81

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHHA oh my god glad I got that out of the way P*ssy is priceless, if it isn't good... it's cuz you're bad in bed, mate. Men love comparing us to cars, so let's do it. If you've got a Ferrari that doesn't "drive well" it's the DRIVER'S FAULT, not the car. This loser thinks that because women aren't turned on by his jackhammering that they're deficient. Get a mirror, bud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:22 PM
23

it is all about making THEM look good instead of making you feel special. BAM. Ain't this the truth, eh. That was my loser ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:33 PM
46

Come on ladies! If you make him dinner you'll get geriatric dick and burnt eggs from a 44 year old who wears giant trucker caps and is definitely lying about his height in return!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:27 PM
51

You could definitely do that, but ask yourself why you'd want to. Is the extra practice worth commodifying yourself for guys to swipe on you while they're sitting on the toilet? Only you know the answer to that question. Maybe challenge yourself to practice looking for those red flags in other areas (god knows there's no shortage of shitty male behaviour, amirite?) instead. For me, I don't want my photo and details on those websites and I can get practice in many other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:24 PM
103

All anecdotal evidence in my life has shown that once a man gets into a serious relationship he will immediately get comfortable and lazy, and ride that thing until the fucking wheels fall off. Amen 100% to this. Never once seen it the other way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:18 PM
165

Always. I've never once in my life seen a man not have the next woman lined up to monkey branch to. The longer it takes them, the more resentful and cruel they become to their current partner to punish her for their lack of success in that area. It's sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:14 PM
95

You're a saint. She needs to hear he's a loser and she's better off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:40 PM
86

I don't venture outside the protective enclave of FDS on reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:25 PM
288

What was that? Oh. Just the sound of the gaslighting kicking off in the comments. I really hope she realizes what a blessing in disguise this is and stays away from him. Someone's gotta message her about FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:11 PM
17

Yup. The denial is strong in that one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 04:44 PM
98

Amen. Being on the hook to look after myself is a breeze and it's more pleasant when some asshole isn't being abusive and running me out of my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:17 AM
2

Thank for this. That's what I've been rolling around in my mind. Basically meet at restaurants or coffee shops where he can't beat his previous records for laziness. The only time I'll set food back in his place for a meal will be when I'm bringing the food and cooking it. But only if/when when I'm mentally prepared
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:13 AM
169

Years ago I was at a networking event and this old fart basically said exactly that. I called him on it and said "women don't go crazy for no reason. You did something. What did you do?" and he looked sheepish, laughed and actually admitted that he did something shitty and she was justified in her reaction. So there we have it ladies. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:41 PM
82

My ex used to explode when I responded the same thing. Then the hours of justifications, projection and turning it back to make me the asshole kicks off. God, I love being single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 05:08 PM
10

Been there. I love receiving gifts but usually am achingly disappointed because they're just a reflection of how little the other person knows me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:36 PM
7

Thank you. I know I'm conditioned to put his feelings first and soften the blow, you're right about that. You know what? I'm his favourite child and this is the shit he pulled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:33 PM
5

Normally when we BBQ at his place during the summer I bring everything as well for that exact reason. I just thought this time I didn't have to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:32 PM
14

LOL I've been calling him on that for years now. He'll drive by my place to get his CAT vaccinated but won't bother to stop by for a coffee or something. ONLY when it suits him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:56 PM
10

Thank you for your kind words and sharing your experiences. YES, that was my thought exactly: This is how I've ended up dating the laziest men who don't care about me. I know what you mean, I still want to protect him and his feelings even though he treats me like shit and I KNOW IT. It's a real mindfuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:54 PM
52

I had plans for me that I was so excited about but had to cancel. Dad knew that. We don't see each other much because he can't be bothered and I match that. He doesn't add much to my life and only wants to see me at the holidays because it's the exact pattern he had with his parents. Doesn't give a shit 51 weeks of the year, but at Christmas suddenly we've all gotta show up when he wants. Moving forward I don't plan to go to his house for meals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:52 PM
11

That was exactly the thought rolling through my head: "He thinks this is a perfectly fine because it's just me" Thank you. Him trying desperately to defend himself was pathetic to watch and pissed me off. Thanks to FDS it was so clear to see it as the typical male BS and not get emotionally sucked into making HIM feel better. And it's clear his gf has no standards so he's never challenged to ever be better. I did feel proud of myself for saying it and not resorting back to my old patterns. It sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:50 PM
12

Thank you. That's what I was telling myself but that old socially conditioned "maybe I'm being mean and overreacting because I know he's lazy and this is on brand, what did you expect?" self-gaslighting crept in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:35 PM
8

He definitely is. We were kicking around ideas about food and he latched onto takeaway because it was easy and cheap. I even suggested pizza multiple times His partner normally does everything. He's so lazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:34 PM
20

As soon as he opened the fridge and sounded surprised there was no eggnog, I was stunned. I actually thought about just walking out then Absolutely. He doesn't care about anyone but himself, he was trying to get me to come over on the weekend when I had a painful eye infection and hadn't slept. He still expected me to drive over to him (in the dark!!!) and acted all disappointed when I was like UMM NO I'm not coming over tonight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:31 PM
19

You're right. He'll twist it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:29 PM
14

Thank you. After sleeping on it, I don't want to either. Ha. He's too lazy to drive to me, always tries to finagle me going to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:28 PM
28

Thank you Platipus6 and TikiTikiTata- You're right. He'll twist the apology. And after sleeping on it, I don't want to apologize. It doesn't feel right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:26 PM
230

Yeah I liked that part too. At least her friends are on the right track, too bad she won't listen. The fact he was laughing is sick. He's eager to do it again and he's gonna go further. I really hope she leaves him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:36 AM
8

Yesssss snatch those coins!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 12:53 AM
136

His wife is carrying 99% of the load and now she's supposed to hold his hand in counselling too???? Fuck off with that Good for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 12:51 AM
23

This is AWESOME because he's gonna be spiraling about how bad he is in bed! HAHAHAHAH two days after they bone and suddenly she's tossing him to the curb. This was fantastic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:21 PM
25

Just like animal farm: Everyone is equal, except the pigs are more equal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:14 PM
38

Yes, thanks for adding that in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:07 PM
4

That quill pen must have flames coming off the top!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:06 PM
25

People like us do things like this, and you're not one of us anymore. Exit stage left until you can be a person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:50 AM
43

I knew a lady who was getting stalked online by her ex on PINTEREST. How pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:48 AM
85

Her: I want a man with eyes and a face Him: WOWWWW you're gonna die alone, b*tch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:45 AM
335

- 20 year age gap - met in a chat room - she's a billion times more attractive than him - his crimes reenact violent porn and he was keeping her as a sex sl*ve Rinse and repeat. Stay safe out there, ladies. We aren't human to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:37 AM
165

A man who reacts this way isn't one to procreate with. Snapping at your pregnant wife that you don't want to hear her voice? Abort and go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:07 AM
243

They're so close to getting it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:57 AM
5

An eyebrow raise along with the head nod can do wonders!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:40 PM
9

Same. My parents are NOT flashy by any means. Ridiculous, eh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:40 PM
30

YUP. My parents are well-off and men I've dated looked at me with dollar signs in their eyes, already counting the money they'd get. It was clear they resented having to "put up with me" to get the money down the line. Their goals were so obvious. NOT THAT THEY WERE GETTING ANY ANYWAYS. As if
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:26 PM
57

Thank you, I needed this screamed in my face. Since I've been culling the herd, I've actually been experiencing reciprocal relationships (friends, work etc) and it's wild!! I still sometimes have to kick the socially conditioned demons back down the stairs, but it's been a huge improvement. Onwards into an amazing 2022!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:08 PM
42

I've had guys say out loud to other people, they see me as a sister (cuz we're fRiEnDs) then get angry that I "led them on" LIKE, HUH???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:39 PM
18

They must circulate a template among each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:38 PM
60

Bingo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:15 PM
193

His eyes give me chills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:10 PM
86

All I read is: "Waaaaa I'm dating a rich girl who gets money from her parents and I'm not getting any of the spoils!! I actually have to PAY to use her as a fleshlight!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:21 PM
33

Do the head nod to acknowledge his existence and keep it pushing. You're polite and cordial, but nothing beyond that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:17 PM
130

Can't wait for men who refuse to use their own arms to feed themselves starve
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:16 PM
25

Absolutely. The green rash on her finger will last longer than the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:13 PM
108

Pandora-- We care, so you don't have to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:18 AM
265

Yes, men get off on degrading women, but no I don't feel pressured to do it. The only pressure I feel is from society being more upset about women's reactions to this disgusting behaviour than the behaviour itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:12 AM
36

Precisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:24 AM
97

Amen. I prefer friends who haven't seen me naked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:52 AM
204

I can't understand the people who proudly proclaim their ex(es) attended their wedding. All that tells me if you have no respect for your current partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:51 AM
169

He LOVES this dynamic and will do nothing to change it. That cheap trinket was just to keep her on the hook jumping for his approval
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:24 AM
187

I wish women would get in the habit of asking themselves who benefits from these arrangements. It sure as fuck isn't them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 01:28 AM
24

This is scary, he's abusive. Screaming at her and calling her a cunt is never ok, I don't care how angry you are. Please tell me the comments are telling her to run as fast as her legs will carry her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:45 PM
65

Ding ding. I think you're right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:38 PM
150

To me, a guy who saves women in his phone as "Amber Tinder" lacks personal integrity. A guy who sees women as people doesn't have so many dates on the go he's gotta remember them with clues. As per a ho past, I personally am not comfortable being the one he "settles" for. He'll always be comparing you to the legion of girls he has bedded, and will one day get that itch again should thing ever get "boring" between you. It's way too easy to slip back into ho mode for these guys. Plus, I don't want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 08:51 PM
73

I could have written every word of this. Except I'm 6'1. I also used to think I was asexual, but turns out it was them the whole time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 02:28 AM
116

Men can't understand why being single is amazing because single men's lives are tragic. They live in a filthy, empty apartment with a single lawn chair pointed at a giant TV, no food in the fridge, one bare lightbulb swinging from the ceiling and skid marks on the toilet. NO WONDER THEY THINK BEING SINGLE SUCKS—IT DOES FOR THEM. Juxtapose that against the lives of single women and LOLOLOLOLOL it's night and day. Women have furniture, pictures on the wall, food in the fridge, a nice clean apartme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:13 PM
79

It sounds like he's hovering at the door giving "suggestions" about how she can do it better/faster whatever so he can usurp control. Now he's enlisted his mom to triangulate her. This guy is a moron who thinks this is a power struggle, not a time when he needs to demonstrate empathy and be a team with his partner. This guy will be a monster to divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:09 PM
141

I know what you mean. The simmering resentment is just enough to keep you tap dancing around their ego. These men hate you. Glad you left him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:49 PM
10

I'll drive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 08:34 PM
137

Watching this was a religious experience. Every woman should be forced to watch this before she dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:27 PM
12

That's so depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:25 PM
17

This makes me wanna cry. Lemme guess, he's a deadbeat with a fraction of her earning potential?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 05:28 PM
19

Good for you! Bet you feel lighter without the dead weight. He can find himself behind the dumpster at Wal-mart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:02 PM
30

Yikes, that hurt to read. Foreshadowing just showed up to hand out bottled water
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:59 PM
11

Sold!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:57 PM
371

I've heard of this happening to SO many women. Never let him pursue his dream first, always you. What a shame about your friend. Too bad it's so predictable. We're rooting for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 06:07 AM
300

If society took violence against women seriously, sooo many other issues would disappear. This is heartbreaking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:00 AM
62

Captain Hook can jerk his crooked dick into oblivion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:59 AM
5

Rejection is redirection :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:27 AM
9

I heard back!! It worked! Wooo moneyyyyyy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:12 AM
31

This is what I want to hear!!! Woot woot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:54 PM
28

Same!! I can actually think when I'm single. My creative energy is how I support myself, and not being picky about men literally cost me money because of this. Yes, you're so right, they diminish your work for NO reason. Just because they can
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:23 PM
45

100%. Men need to become more like women. It doesn't even cross their radar to care or think about other people. It's mind blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:42 PM
50

Amen to everything you said, thank you for chiming in and sharing your experience. Everything falls on the woman's shoulders whether she's a single mom or married, but married women have to contend with tap dancing around a man's ego. That's where all hell breaks loose. Gawd, a man threatening divorce over not leaving work early. Imagine the shoe on the other foot, eh. What a piece of shit your ex was to "come clean" at that moment. NOTHING can ever be about you, they're the star. My ex stomped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:39 PM
25

YES! You nailed it, thank you for adding your thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:34 PM
143

I know where you're coming from. Thanks to the way women are socialized, even the most self-focused still organically shift their life to suit their mate. It's not their fault, it happens so naturally. This erodes their personhood and single women have a spark that I don't see much in married women (I'm not saying this to slag off anyone). I know this is controversial to say out loud, but I also prefer working with single women vs married women. Single moms and women have an inherently different…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 06:41 PM
29

Thank you. I haven't heard back yet, but there's a kickoff meeting booked for Thursday. I didn't bargain myself down. I added a buffer in case he wants to negotiate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:22 PM
115

This is what my ex said for me for YEARS while bragging about all the thoughtful gifts he got his ex. I'm very consistent with what I like, but I didn't realize he was gaslighting me and trying to make me feel horrible so he could get away with putting no thought into it. The first Christmas we were together he bought me exactly what his ex got the year before, even though it wasn't what I wanted. Then he gaslit me. This is an abuse tactic, I hope this lady sees it as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:21 PM
13

For me I split time between the gym and at home HIIT workouts. The HIIT workouts have a range of flexibility so I can do stomach and abs one day and then thighs and butt the next. I also climb the stairs in my building, it's a fantastic free workout that takes about 20 min and my ass is at least an inch higher now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:22 PM
134

I needed this. I just sent my hourly rate to a new potential client and felt the imposter syndrome "oh my god what if they refuse and ghost?" urge rise up. I didn't mince words, I upped my rate and now I'm waiting to see if they value me enough to pay up. I'm cool to walk away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:20 PM
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I read one similar a few weeks ago, and the wife thankfully left his ass over it. Turns out, he WAS a cheater and naturally assumed she was too. The comments were surprisingly positive about her leaving. This post, however, is a mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:56 PM
66

These are the same guys who did nothing in high school then expected to turn on the turbo burners in grade 12 and propel themselves to the top of the class and clean up with scholarships. LOLOL Spoiler: It didn't work for any of those fools, they all graduated with c- averages because they had no study habits or retained knowledge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:56 PM
3

Men do the most catfishing on LinkedIn. Soooooo many times I meet a guy in person, he adds me or vice versa and his pic is--no joke--20 years old. One guy was pushing 55 (if not pulling it) and had a pic from him at 35 during his glory days. Frozen in time and delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:46 AM
15

This is gospel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:34 PM
13

The accuracy...whew it blew my hair back. Amen to every word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:27 PM
29

LOOOOL lemme guess, he immediately screamed about the sun being in his eyes, he wasn't ready, he let her win etc etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:48 PM
58

First off, who cares if he marries in a year? He's a loser. He's gonna find his level and you're gonna find yours. You're in a great spot. You've made up your mind you want to ditch him, that's the hardest part. You've got the advantage here, don't squander it. Now is when you can start re-activating your support network, moving important paperwork etc out of the apartment, saving money and planning your escape. Make sure he doesn't catch on. This will ensure you have stability for your jump off…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:44 PM
39

This was like 2010-ish online dating era. So imagine how much worse it is now... This guy's entire personality was how many women he was boning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:52 PM
119

A guy admitted this to me once. He normally stands outside waiting so she'll pay for her own coffee and if he forgets what she looks like, he can spot her and get her name from the cup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:26 PM
218

Men are not funny. Nothing about these responses even remotely resembled wit or intelligence. Stay home and play video games, it's all you're good for, guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:42 AM
75

Sounds like you're staring at a BOGO sale here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:47 PM
295

Get this woman out of your life, she's no friend of yours. Her delusional stance on her bf is so far gone, you won't get reality through to her. When she inevitably has the 3some, you're gonna be the dumping ground for her feelings and she won't listen to your voice of reason. Protect yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:26 PM
26

Regardless of whether it's true or not, this is not how you should have found out about this mini drama. A guy who thinks of his partner and includes her in his life would tell you this information about himself because it's something big going on in his life. He doesn't include you or think of you. Ditch him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:12 PM
70

After that, I was so devastated that I always told guys, on the first date, about how awful my ex was. I felt like they would see how amazing I was, feel sorry for me, want to protect me from ever feeling that way again, and show me what real love was. I felt the universe owed me a great guy because of that experience, and leading with my sob story was the way to get it. The crappy guys took it as permission to treat me the exact same way, since I was used to it. This hit home so damn hard. I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:39 PM
78

Amen. I refuse to commodify myself for some loser to swipe while he's on the toilet. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:29 PM
6

"I really don't see a reason to ever date again." Amen. Not worth wasting my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:23 PM
4

No, he was never into porn but the guy at work he looked up to (it was so pathetic) was red pilling him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:22 PM
55

Their motivations are inherently different. She needs to protect herself and her wealth because this guy sounds like a mooch who's looking to cling. Being honest with guys like this will get her taken for a ride. His ego is already showing signs he won't be able to handle the truth, so she's better off protecting herself and keeping it private
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:54 AM
130

Bingo. He just wants to know how much more he can finagle from her and how tightly he should hang on. GOLD DIGGER Hope the comments tell her to run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:50 AM
17

It's also way safer. I was really dreading breaking up with this guy too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:46 AM
18

They're blocked on everything so can't climb the wall It's easy when you've got no kids, pets etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:45 AM
1

YUP!! Sooooo true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:49 AM
2

See babe, I'm too fat to fuck anyone else! Huh???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:48 AM
8

These are always the guys who can't remember their kids' names 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:40 AM
25

That reminds me of something I saw on twitter where the gal was talking to a guy and he asked her when was the last time she had sex. She replied "yesterday" (it wasn't true, she was testing him) cuz she knew that's what guys would say/do and he immediately blocked her. When the tables were turned, he ran for the hills lololololololol. Yet they all looove casual sex, right? Snerk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:38 AM
10

And attack you when you're funnier than me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:35 AM
36

Never breaking up with a man ever again. They'll get ghosted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:30 AM
25

His excuse was that I had a car and he didn't, so I should do it. I own the place I live in, when I was with the ex we rented a different place. He's such a loser who's over 50 with nothing to show for it, whereas I'm in my mid 30's and own my own place. Such a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:30 AM
93

Yup, being gay isn't the issue, it's the deceit. You're so much better off without him, good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:27 AM
56

Alexander the Great was inconsolable for months after his lover died. This sounds similar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:04 AM
24

Smart girl! Sounds like you're figuring it out quickly and taking care of yourself. Well done, you can do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:01 AM
88

He's lucky I was that kind to him. I coulda Amy Dunne'd him and he deserved it. Same as you. The other day I had to wheel my propane tank a few blocks to exchange it (no big deal, it's like 2.5 blocks) and thought "you know, this is the only time having another set of hands miiiight be useful" but then immediately laughed cuz I remembered even when I was with the ex, I still did the propane exchange myself cuz he was soooo busy (did nothing cancel?) and I am perfectly capable of doing it myself.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:58 PM
59

Love how accurately you drew those furrowed brows on the guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:01 PM
349

I don't ever want to get married. It's like having a trap tied around your leg that impedes your life and mobility. By never getting married or living with another human being (shudder), I can essentially pick up my purse and walk my fine ass out the door Lizzo-style anytime I want. Edit: I ghosted my piece of shit ex after 5+ years together, I'll happily do it again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:59 PM
55

Came here to make a joke about not dating and vowing to do that only to see you snatched it from me! LOL great minds, eh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:54 PM
66

Every single night I sleep peacefully knowing no man on this planet is using me as his fleshlight, running me out of my mind, gold digging me or invading my peace. Playing Russian roulette has better odds than dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 08:38 PM
34

You still can!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:05 AM
513

Public service announcement: Men only spend money and time on what they value. If that doesn't include you, you've got your answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:11 PM
222

Looking back, it's stunning how many men circulated around me while I was at my lowest and vulnerable. They were like sharks in the water and they were NOT good men. Now that I'm in a waaaay better place, men are nowhere to be found. Coincidence or conspiracy? We know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:09 PM
59

Get your head in the game. He's messing with you to get all the gf benefits while setting the stage to never reciprocate or give you what you want. He's manipulating you, you've only been on 7 dates with him—he's a stranger. Do not give him the benefit of the doubt, RUN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:07 PM
5

Keep a weapon with you and go MENTAL the next time this guy tries something. He's punishing you for reporting him and he'll stop at nothing next time Also, get on the horn to management NOW and tell them how he's escalated and demand they send someone to grab him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:15 PM
134

Ditto. This never even crossed my mind, but it makes total sense. I never even thought to ask for female only. I always get a woman for anything below the belt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:04 PM
232

Come on ladies! We've got a high school educated 54 year old lying about his age with a grown son living in his basement and old dogs that probably need extra care that you'll be doing! Oh, and luckily he's open to hook ups just in case you wanna jump on that flaccid dick without going out with him! Form an orderly queue please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:40 PM
60

Yes, I'd say Americans in particular have gotten increasingly and aggressively dumber over the past 20 years of being spoon-fed reality TV. I'm aghast at how that country behaves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:10 PM
64

Pretty much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:53 AM
351

Husbands who LOVE their wives, treat them well, perform emotional labour, don't go have gross guy talk, lust after them and actually give a fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 03:24 AM
155

This is so true. Too many times I've made excuses for guys who had shitty friend circles or networks only to realize too late they were the same. Men are as good as their lowest common denominator friend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:59 AM
62

Yup. It's a wonderful vetting strategy for men in life. Oh, you like Joe Rogan and Elon Musk? NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:27 PM
27

It's hilariously pathetic and not at all the same comparison. These guys are like mushrooms, just burying their heads in the dirt and eating shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:26 PM
138

It's like clockwork when I mention anything about Elon Musk on FDS, some loser will immediately follow my profile. I immediately block them Like Elon, these guys are such losers and offer nothing to society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:57 PM
45

My favourite is when they use your joke on you then wonder why you don't laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:55 PM
242

I will often ask to switch the channel and they're usually fine with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:54 PM
77

I had one of those too! He'd regale the boys at the office with my jokes and stories while passing them off as his own. Soooo many men have done that to me over my life, I purposely pull back my humour when with men now because they just steal all my jokes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 06:33 PM
53

Don't commodify yourself for some disgusting dudes on OLD. Invest in clubs, hobbies and networking instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:32 PM
211

Translation: You're funnier than me and I feel emasculated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:28 PM
17

I still love this for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 07:17 AM
82

For my own petty delight, I'm imagining you cackling and turning on your heel to leave as this piss baby was being comforted by his new mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:04 AM
145

It sounds like they don't have kids so he's sitting at home all day picking his ass while she's out working. He's worse than deadweight because he's gonna take half when she divorces him for cheating. I would lay it out clear as day for her. This guy isn't a man, he's a dependent. She'd have more money and peace without him. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:02 AM
20

Yup, it's so icky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:13 PM
78

Fellow tall gal here. He liked "conquering" a tall woman because of how it made him appear to the outside world. I get fetishized a lot as well, and it feels really dehumanizing but you can't quite put your finger on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:03 PM
19

This gold digger is sharpening his shovel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:39 PM
86

Say it with me: If he does it with you, he'll do it to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:34 PM
8

This describes my ex perfectly (except the office!). Sooo boring, same stories over and over, no introspection WHEW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:10 PM
89

I've never met a gamer in person who wasn't a complete waste of space. Throw the crypto bros into that volcano too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:06 PM
40

Anyone know what the comments advised?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:02 PM
16

He proudly told me this!! This was back when he was in his 20's and he's 49. Soooo yeah..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:09 AM
39

Have fun with it too! Guys do shit test like this ALLL the time to suss out gold diggers. Now it's your turn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:08 AM
147

My ex used to do stuff like this too, it's just control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:05 AM
122

I've heard of men doing that. They have a $5K Honda they'll pick the girl up in and see how she reacts. Put the shoe on the other foot. When you want to bring a date "home", just bring him to your rental and cover everything with tarps because you're "painting" You're not downgrading your lifestyle (no way!), you just have a poor Sims lifestyle you only show men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:04 AM
30

Elaine Benes shout out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:11 PM
42

LOL just had a guy at the weed store try to use his dog to get a convo going. HUH??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:45 PM
81

No kidding. I'm 36 and have never looked better in my life. Women Kool-Aid Man through the wall, men bounce off it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:44 PM
52

I knew a guy who switched his career to follow his dick. He realized he was too broke to be "polyamorous" (read: community dick) and since then his whole life has revolved around his job and his dick. He's 50 and the most laughable business person I ever met. He keeps his yes-man on staff to tell him how great he is and is a walking Dunning-Kruger graph. These guys never change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:43 PM
45

I wish I could shoot this post directly into my arm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:39 PM
1

Yet all we hear about is MeAn women are to men. Gimme a break
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:35 PM
443

They have spoken for no one. These guys are repulsive and look like ferrets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:59 PM
18

This is the gospel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:28 PM
42

Disgusting. Then people will praise the man for "waiting" and not cheating. What a prince
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:25 PM
126

Guys need to be scared they'll lose you, or they'll never put in any effort. And a guy is only scared of losing a woman he actually likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 11:04 PM
70

He has "studied women for quite some time and am quite familiar with their thought patterns and mannerisms" Translation: I've watched thousands of hours of porn so I completely understand women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:08 PM
33

As usual, beat down basic expectations that are normal for relationships. Men really think holding down a job is the toughest thing on the planet while women work 4+ jobs everyday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:00 PM
6

This looks rad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:41 AM
1

Stuff easily gets taken out of context and often they'll show the person you're writing about the message or email
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 11:31 PM
49

I just called and left a voicemail for the President's office at (208) 426-1491
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:34 PM
63

And this is from their values page. Emphasis mine: "An innovative, transformative, and equitable educational environment that prepares students for success and advances Idaho and the world."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:31 PM
106

You're spot on. Yet Lord of the Flies counts for nothing even though it was an metaphor about privileged white guys Lolololol. The demographic who can't distinguish between IRL and TV would totally get the nuance eh :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:24 PM
90

Nightly, women gather to eat yummy snacks, drink wine and watch videos of these failed daily attempts to cross the ocean! We can hold up scorecards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:51 PM
95

BAHAHAH I can picture the crudely constructed rafts falling apart when they hit a wave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:32 PM
20

As usual, men do NOTHING to help each other then turn around and blame women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:37 PM
54

That sums it up beautifully. No one wants to acknowledge there are NO GOOD CHOICES since 99.9999999% of them are abusive garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:26 PM
305

Men laugh and bond with other men about how they manipulate and abuse women. They cannot handle the possibility of the shoe being on the other foot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:25 PM
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Because they can't function without women, so they assume the reverse is true and they're BIG MAD that women thrive without them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:23 PM
26

Amen to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:33 PM
113

Men's validation amounts to less than nothing. It's seriously the most worthless resource on the planet. Too bad we can't get solar energy from their delusions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:16 PM
39

To be fair, Elon Musk is doing the most to convince these losers too! LOLOLOLOL *footage not found*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:15 PM
14

As usual, men place the burden of comfort on the woman saying she should speak up. Well, why is it never up to the man to CHECK IN?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 09:35 PM
62

She finally got the ick! Now she's stuck with a melting candle of a man and a long life ahead of her. Poor gal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:19 PM
23

Ohhh they flap and fail! Brilliant post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 03:02 PM
6

Thank you for your feedback but I respectfully disagree. You're right in that it certainly may not apply to everyone though. For myself, I was a very late bloomer and felt I was missing out on the world of dating so applied my type-A personality to throwing myself into the mix. I should have just continued along solo and reinvested the time and energy I spent on guys into myself. FOMO is not a good enough reason to date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 11:23 PM
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Ignore men completely until you're 30. Ignore their half-assed attempts at 'romance', their opinions about everything (especially yourself), their 'compliments' and their entire existence. You're not gonna age out, it's a fear tactic spread by desperate men who know they can't get a woman without resorting to manipulation tactics and lying. Men have nothing to offer you, they will only take away your time, energy, opportunity, money and run you out of your mind. You're not missing anything by av…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:25 PM
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When a guy is interested, he's not behaving this way. He's either playing games or not interested. Either way, turf him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:46 PM
7

Glad it gave you a laugh! Oh my god the hair flipping. I've noticed that girls clutch their bfs tighter or forcefully get their attention, but not that. Hopefully next time the FDS spirit will inhabit your body and you can laugh at them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:16 AM
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I can relate. I go most places alone (restaurants, symphony, comedy shows etc) and that can irritate women who are insecure about their gross boyfriends. Like you, I'm not doing anything to attract their attention or engage with them. In my experience, the woman picks up on her bf eyeballing you or he may comment on your solo status to her and that triggers the reaction. Depending on my mood and the setting, I will either ignore it or have some fun. When I want to play, I'll make eye contact as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:37 PM
259

What a piss baby. Good riddance. He's threatened and emasculated by your drive and ambition because he knows he can't match it. He has less than nothing going on, so your success is like a blinking light in his face reminding him of everything he lacks. Take that as a compliment. My ex manipulated me very similarly under the guise of 'spending more time together' and I can assure you with complete confidence it's a dead end. The goal post will move and there's nothing you can do to ever appease …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:36 PM
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I had to move back in with my emotionally abusive and mentally ill mother to get back on my feet a few years ago and it was difficult to say the least. I'm not sure of your circumstances if this might be possible, but treating it like a hotel was how I barely made it through. I was out of the house as much as possible, but that still didn't stop my mental health from eroding during that time. I didn't realize when I was in it, only afterwards. Again, only you know your unique circumstances and w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 04:31 PM
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I'd take those screenshots to the ombudsperson on campus to get their advice. If there isn't one, maybe take it to the dean or someone in their office and ask for help. Edit: do everything in person, no email trail
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 12:01 AM
121

He was basking in the fantasy of being with his old "friend" while his gf cooled her heels on the perimeter. Classy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 05:22 PM
39

He dragged her through the mud for 10 years, she supported his addicted ass, and finally had enough. Of course it's "just as I'm turning my life around" and she's supposed to patiently wait another decade. WHAT HAS HE BEEN DOING FOR THE PAST 10 YEARS?? Getting drunk and letting her deal with the consequences. I don't feel sorry for this loser who's externalizing all his problems that he causes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:11 PM
1

I'm in the process of re-reading it now. How fortuitous :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 03:56 PM
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LOL I got high, ate spicy butter chicken last holiday and watched my shows too! Great minds... I've got one of those too. She can't hold her tongue or keep her doubts and thoughts to herself to protect you. Instead she adds to the dog pile because it feeds her ego. Yup, no amount of self-sacrifice ever earns you sympathy or a kind word. It's only a one way street no matter how hard you try. Been there. Since we have the same mom it seems, you might want to read this. I haven't spoken to my mom i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:25 PM
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Your mom is the exact person who will pressure her daughter to marry a loser, then once things are going horribly, she'll blame you for choosing him and never help in any capacity. You're doing the right thing. The only thing you're running out of time on is getting your first divorce under your belt by your 40th birthday. Egads. Getting married is easy, getting a law degree is not. Your mom feeling 'punished' by you protecting yourself and your womb shows how selfish she truly is. This has noth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 10:22 PM
37

What a guy. His way of spreading positivity in the world is by complimenting women in front of his partner, not volunteering or donating money to worthy causes and issues. How brave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 12:58 AM
17

Meeting a decent guy is luck. So focus on building a full and interesting life that you love. Then, when you're out doing your thing, you might stumble upon someone. Don't actively search or put yourself in places where you think you might meet someone. Build your life and a HVM may appear. But if not? Meh, you're busy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:34 PM
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