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60

Aw man. Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/22 12:45 PM
198

This is the first one I'm seeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/22 12:34 PM
45

You're back! 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/22 12:33 PM
392

Yes, I fucking hate this, and correct people on it a the time. A girl is a child. If you wouldn't call a man of the same age a boy, then that should tell you it's probably inappropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 08:15 PM
6

That's not what FDS is though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:01 AM
-3

Lol, what? Is there some more context to this that I'm not getting, or is this just a man washing dishes with his son? How is that HV? And your SIL is an HVM??? Is this a troll post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:30 PM
36

Yes, this. Keep uplifting them anyway. You're planting seeds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:45 AM
398

I think of myself as a recovering pickme, who put up with way too much, but when I hear about what some women put up with, it doesn't even compare. It is so, so important to combat this by ensuring our daughters develop a high self-esteem. Help other girls around you develop a high self-esteem. Tell them how beautiful, smart, deserving, and worthy they are. Call out scrote behavior you see, in real life, movies, in celebrity culture, online, etc., so they know what isn't acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 02:37 PM
37

I don't think people mean that in the way you are thinking. A lot of women who get cheated on take it as a sign that they're not good enough, not pretty enough, not desirable enough. Pointing out that even Beyoncé (or whichever celebrity) got cheated on is to say that even the hottest, most desirable women in the world get cheated on, so being cheated on has nothing to do with you not being good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 05:22 AM
1

I would be stunned if he didn't cheat. It's almost a guarantee that rappers will cheat, even if you are a beautiful and successful woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 01:00 AM
25

I use that, sl-t, and h0 to refer to promiscuous males only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:18 AM
19

Hell yeah! It's fantastic to see young ladies learning early!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:53 PM
15

Right? They're telling you exactly what they'll think of you and how they'll treat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:15 PM
77

FDS makes most MEN undatable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:03 PM
47

You're not getting any younger, so you women should settle for low value males who think women expire by 25. That's definitely not setting yourself up to get cheated on for a "newer model" later down the road. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:02 PM
447

This is the most obvious argument I think we can use when arguing against the idea of ”Sex work is real work". There is no professional as universally agreed upon by men to be undatable as the sex worker. If it's "just a job like any other" then why aren't most men refusing to date nurses, lawyers, and fast food employees too? If all labor is "using people for their bodies", then why do men refer to sex workers as "used up" but not refer to an accountant as the same? They KNOW they view sex work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:56 PM
9

Yup. They're grown adults, just like us. They understand shit just fine when they're in a situation that they have to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:32 PM
12

we shouldn’t give men brownie points for the bare minimum 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:28 PM
23

That sub is is pitiful. So many unrespectable, weak-willed scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:17 PM
25

Yesssss. I was just arguing with two males on the anti-porn sub the other day, and it was clear that their abstaining from porn was 100% just about themselves. They don't feel bad for women AT ALL. They don't take full responsibility for their porn use, they see themselves as VICTIMS of evil temptress porn actress women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:14 PM
33

Same! I totally thought I was an anti-feminist in my early 20s, largely because of what the media and mid-2010s YouTube told me feminism was. It was only after finding this sub that I realized that I'm not an anti-feminist, I'm just not a liberal feminist. I'm a radical feminist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:01 PM
26

I love this ♥️♥️♥️. I am so grateful now to see women as friends and fellow victims of the patriarchy, instead of threats and competition. I mean, I am still unlearning that of course, and always will be, but my eyes have been opened so much. You are beautiful, ladies. You are strong. You are smart. You are worthy of the best. Love to you all.♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 01:41 PM
117

I don't. It doesn't make sense. What if, say, your perfect person lived on the other side of the world, or was born 300 years before you? I believe that there are a number of people that each of us could connect and maintain a good relationship with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 01:40 PM
332

So WOC don't feel threatened by strange males in the streets yelling at them because... culture? Fucking libfems, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:38 PM
12

It's just not my thing. I don't have experience with other drugs, but having smoked weed and been around potheads as a teenager, it is just not a culture I want to be part of as a grown woman. Maybe I could be convinced to try it once again with a partner, just to say we've tried it together, but I'm not even sure if I'd want to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 01:43 PM
52

Yep! Thought he was getting special treatment from an attractive woman, but really he was just watching porn and flirting with a guy named Steve.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 02:35 PM
128

I just learned recently that this is a thing, and I think it's hilarious!😂 I hope it helps the wives and girlfriends of these unfaithful scrotes feel a little bit better knowing that he likely got tricked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:22 AM
32

Yep! A generous rich man would have no problem spending the money it takes to maintain a very attractive woman (which he knows would improve his status).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 06:12 AM
2

But, like, where is the logic with these scrotes? Even the most plain-looking 22-year-old wouldn't need to date someone who could be her grandpa, so why would she? Even if you were looking for an older man, you could easily get one 3 decades younger than old pawpaw here. What do they think their appeal is over a man closer in age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:05 AM
13

Damn. Kinda wish I saw this yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:21 PM
26

I haven't been in a crush situation like that, but from my experiences, I would say try to have empathy for her. My LVX had been trying to talk to other women at work, ones I had previously been friendly with as well, and seeing them after finding out was a major source of pain for me. It wasn't their fault, and I recognize that now and have been building up friendly relationships with them again (they were not interested in him), but for a long time, I was cold towards them. Not outright mean, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:09 PM
110

😂😂😂 Girl, what??? I mean, you might as well set up their first date for them while you're at it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:05 PM
1

Thank you for explaining. Not good, but better than what I thought he meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 06:50 PM
122

Is he suggesting war r*pe victims reward invaders with love, or am I misunderstanding? Because I sure hope the fuck I am. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:18 AM
208

Absolutely. Gold diggers and trophy wives are very desirable to men, it's just the broke and stingy scrotes who claim to hate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:20 AM
43

Absolutely. There are many, many scrotes out there that would LOVE to ”stick it to those b*tches". Any man who has genuine interest in understanding will read the handbook and lurk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:04 PM
323

Exactly. No scrote just visits this sub and doesn't get triggered about something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:51 PM
84

SUS! If he really believes it's just a normal dating sub, and has no idea why some dude would ask him to discuss it on his podcast, then why would he even do an episode about it? Sounds boring to me. He's pretending to not understand why LVM would have a problem with us, so he can appear to be a neutral party who truly wants to understand FDS principles. If he was honest with his intentions (likely to lure one of us into the lion's den, catch us off guard, and try to harass us or make us look st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:43 PM
64

And why do these 70% of women initiate divorces, I wonder.. The fact that the overwhelming majority of divorce are initiated by women should tell you who marriage really benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 06:39 PM
365

It is 100% about their insecurity and desire to be worshipped. The older you get, the more life you have experienced. You've lived on your own, had your own success, owned your own stuff. You're not impressed by the fact that he has the bare minimum requirements for adulthood (a car and a place to live), like you would have been in your teens and early 20s. You've had previous boyfriends, and he's not the only person you've slept with, so you know if he's bad at sex and doesn't put in effort. Yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 06:21 PM
13

What does he even say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 05:01 PM
5

Who is the man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:08 PM
17

Same. Having spent a good portion of my life with a man I wasn't attracted to, no amount of money could get me to ever do that again. I would rather be broke with a man I was sexually attracted to than rich with an ugly old man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:57 AM
14

I agree. It seems like yet another idea of liberal feminism that suspiciously ends benefiting males more than it does us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:27 AM
3

Oooh, you also need to learn how to not take pictures from such a shitty, upclose angle like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 09:28 PM
32

Letting an 11-year-old watch porn is child abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 03:08 PM
190

And I'm a men's rights activist because I paid some dude at the mechanic shop to change my oil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:09 PM
247

LOL! 😂 Acting as if him "supporting women with onlyfans" is some noble cause, as if he's not just buying porn to jerk off to.🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:08 PM
6

Wow. Is Leo DiPedo really that chunky now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:06 PM
10

If a man is genuinely a traditionally masculine man, then he wouldn't need you to fake being submissive to or respecting him. That's like letting a child win at a video game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:18 PM
5

But really though...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:56 PM
25

No they are not more ‘mature’ otherwise they’d have settled down with an age appropriate woman YEARS ago YES. This is the mistake in thinking that young women who get with old scrotes make. You're not getting the same quality of man that his fellow older women have, you're getting with a scrote that is too stunted to relate to and meet the standards of women his own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:54 PM
166

Absolutely. A "b-tch" to a scrote is just a woman they can't manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 04:15 PM
321

You're either a wh-re for sleeping with a male on the first date, or a b-tch for not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:53 PM
77

Yes, it always follows the same formula of least desirable woman scrote can imagine demands most desirable man scrote can imagine. Like, this is literally the opposite of how it works in the real world, outside of redpilI fantasy land.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:00 PM
27

I think it is perfectly acceptable to break up with a man who lies about his height. No matter how unfair or shallow you may think someone's preferences are, it's not your place to con them into a relationship with you to try and change their mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:33 AM
3

The concept of a woman "baby trapping" a man is so stupid. Like, you both had unprotected sex, but it's HER fault for nature taking its course??? The only way a woman could do such a thing is if she intentionally sabotaged the condom, which would be hard for him not to notice as he's putting it on, and I'm willing to bet that's not what happened here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:01 PM
6

They always say this shit, but where in the fuck is this actually happening? Where do they even get this idea from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:40 PM
1

the (not) hard way. 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:30 PM
8

It doesn't even make sense! What do they think is more appealing about old men than young men to a young woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 04:27 PM
3

Why can't hot, inappropriately younger women just love me for my moobs and receding hairliiiiiiine?!😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:36 AM
15

I think a lot of them actually DO know they're undesirable though. I'm always seeing males online say stuff along the lines of "Oh well if Chaaaad says hi to a woman, it's ok, but if a 'regular' guy does it, it's sexual harassment." That says to me that they've shot their shot with enough women that they know their attention is unwanted, but that since women give their time to desirable men, they think they're entitled to our time too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:47 AM
19

And so we project onto them, inserting humanity where oftentimes there is nothing but an empty pornsick shell. This is something I hadn't really thought about. Of course I know that they project their depravity onto us, but I hadn't really thought about how we project our humanity onto them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:13 AM
11

So she's been through multiple relationships in a year? Sounds like she's still very desirable, despite what the writer wants you to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 03:20 PM
153

100% a fucking joke. He admits he's average-looking (which we all know males overestimate their looks, so probably slightly below average at best), and if he had any qualities that made him more attractive (intelligent, well-off, special skills or talents, well-liked, etc.) he would have definitely played them up to convince the readers that he's a catch. I guarantee that his girlfriend is AT LEAST as attractive as him (almost certainly more attractive), travels for work, so probably a good, wel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:26 PM
7

"oH bUt i WoNt gEt mAtChEs wItHoUt lYiNg" So they want to trick women into going on a date with someone we wouldn't be attracted to, and just hope we'll continue dating them out of guilt/pressure after we find out they lied. Do they have no dignity???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:54 AM
10

I'll never be a SAHM again. You're made to feel like it's some luxury, like you're so lucky for the gift of being able to stay at home and watch TV all day on the couch, while your husband slaves away in the heat, breaking his back to support the kids and your lazy ass. In reality, in my case (as is the case for many women) my ex worked an office job for normal hours 5 days a week, and that was it. I did everything else. Cooked, cleaned, made his work lunches, took care of our child, did laundry…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:30 PM
25

The people who are always going on about how much they hate drama are involved in drama more than anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:40 PM
46

The audacity to ask for help now that she is already one foot out the door, and thinking it might actually work. As someone who has been there before, she's not into you anymore, dude, and she never will be again. Women lose attraction when we have to raise you. Poor woman is forced to raise 3 kids alone now, since that absolute scrote couldn't get his shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:45 AM
41

That is so amazing that you had the wisdom to save yourself at that age!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:04 AM
4

Lol, what a nerd!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:10 PM
16

Is that an unpopular opinion? I wouldn't be with anyone who insisted on having women friends at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:04 AM
9

If I had to guess, I would say that it's some variation of negging where the scrote insults something unusual, or that they think you've never been insulted about before. Say you have a big nose, and it's very obvious you have a big nose. It's probably something scrotes would go for frequently to neg you about, because they know you would probably be insecure about it. After a while, you might get used to hearing it, it might not be as memorable. But your tear ducts? You've almost certainly neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:55 PM
20

And that's the difference between us and redpill/pua. You don't meet our standards? Bye. We're not aiming to trick, manipulate, beg, or squeeze anything we can out of people that don't want to fuck us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:20 PM
6

🙌 🙌 🙌 You are entitled to have any, ANY standards you want. You are not obligated to give anyone a chance. As long as you're not demanding that the people who meet your standards be with you, you're good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:57 PM
5

Exactly. This scrote is just extremely jealous that dick is abundant and low value, and vagina is valuable and scarce. Instead of trying to work hard to earn what he wants (women), he's trying to artificially lower the value of us to make us easier to attain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:35 PM
9

So fucking stupid. If you actually cared about POC and ending racism, you wouldn't even think about saying those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:27 PM
17

I've never met a man that wasn't his own worst cock block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:56 PM
14

This just makes me angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:20 PM
46

I agree! A girl is a child. You wouldn't call a woman you respect like your grandmother or a CEO a "girl", would you? We don't call grown men "boys", do we? Don't help society disrespect yourself and other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:07 PM
12

Yes! I know I shouldn't have, but I was arguing with some scrote about that the other day. He was trying to argue that "forcing" the man to choose between the girlfriend and porn was controlling. If they think their girlfriends are crazy and controlling for saying no porn, then why don't they just go find a woman who is ok with it? My guess is because they know most women aren't going to like it. They know it's not really acceptable, they just try to convince us it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:56 PM
6

How do they not see a flaw in the logic of "women don't want a good man"? So you think women want worse men than you? It makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:45 PM
43

I fucking hate that shit. I use "male" and "woman" whenever I can to balance things out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:38 PM
2

This is exactly how I feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:34 AM
45

Thanks for the warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:23 AM
16

He would probably insist that he isn't one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 10:42 PM
35

We know most lib fems don't want their man to watch porn either, they just think they have to say they're ok with it. Every woman wants to feel like she alone is enough for her man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 01:05 PM
6

Ew! She's younger than me (late 20s), and that's even waaay too old for me! It always makes me so sad when young women give their most fun, carefree years to an old scrote. It's like either way, they lose. Either he dumps her after sucking the youth out of her and wastes her time, or they stay together forever, and she has to play nurse to some elderly scrote while she still has plenty of life in her, and has to bury her partner way too early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:41 PM
34

Yes, this is so important. If you're a lib fem and think simply a woman choosing to do anything she wants is feminism, then you aren't concerned with improving the lives of women, that's just personal freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:16 PM
23

I, too, was thinking "Wow. At least he's not trying to prey on some 20-30 year old.", and then the more skeptical side of me kicked in, and I realized that he's probably secretly hoping some younger woman would message him for this amazing opportunity /s so he could pretend he's not normally an age gap creep and that she just sought him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:27 PM
4

Wow. So he's not offering this "privilege" for free??? For that money, I could get a regular roommate and not have to fuck an old scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:03 PM
3

Oh, I believe you. I'm sure they're eager to share their logic as usual. I just truly can't imagine what they'd say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:00 PM
6

If any scrotes comment on this post, I'd be interested in hearing from the mods what they said, because it's a good question, and I can't imagine what their reasoning would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:56 PM
14

Outsourcing the parenting is exactly how I think of it too! Too many pickmes and scrotes out here thinking they raised their sons because they got him to adulthood alive, when really they just relaxed for 18 years and left us with man babies who can't even boil a pot of water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 04:06 PM
13

I don't know why I hadn't thought of it that way, but that's actually a really good point. LVM are almost always LV due to their shitty/non-existent upbringing. The way they raised him is likely the reason he's a divorced, broke, unemployed 40-year-old anyway, but then they continue to make it worse by enabling him and housing him for free while he does nothing but jerk off all day? It's not so much a betrayal as it is reaping what they sow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:30 PM
125

First of all, if you're engaged to someone, you aren't "free". Sure, you're not legally bound to them yet, but being engaged implies exclusively. Second, if you're already feeling nostalgia for your "freedom" before you're even married, then maybe don't get married? Nobody is forcing you. If you're still interested in paying a stranger money to grind on your 🍤, then go do that and stop wasting this woman's time, and your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:08 PM
5

😔 This makes me so sad. I am a mom also. It is so painful to feel not good enough for the man you carried a baby for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:59 AM
130

I think every one of us former pickmes knows that that isn't how you keep a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:01 PM
15

Same. It's usually at least one of those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:43 PM
22

Still won't keep them from watching porn and cheating though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:34 PM
18

I believe it's porn too. My ex hadn't been promiscuous, but he had watched porn heavily since childhood, and he was still obsessed with novelty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:46 AM
35

which didn't make sense because he has eyes 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:36 PM
24

Yes! If you're over 21 and not a creep, this shouldn't even be a problem you encounter. Also, if you "accidentally" hit on minors often enough to notice that a lot of them look 18, and that doesn't alert you to the fact that your meter is off, then you're doing it on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:14 AM
178

Yeah, thank god that evil witch isn't around anymore to make him purchase a bed frame or wash his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:00 PM
13

It was definitely him doing the hurting, I just mean that it would be more comforting to know that my ex would have done the things he did to any woman he was with, rather than just to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:34 PM
65

This is the one I pray is true the most. I want to believe that is was him and not me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 04:34 AM
7

This was very validating to read, because this is pretty much exactly what porn did in my previous relationship. Made him less satisfied with my looks and ok with sexualizing minors, and it has given me extreme body image issues, an eating disorder, insecurity, and betrayal trauma. I also used to ask him "If your friends get the emotional side of you and pornstars get the sexual side, then which part is only for me?".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:45 AM
11

Because fuck men having to actually be desirable and bring something of value to the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:32 AM
149

Have you all noticed that anytime women contribute even a minuscule fraction to a problem, we're always "just as bad as men"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:36 AM
57

I cringe now at the thought that I used to feel like I had to pretend to be ok with porn. I wish I could make other women understand that they don't have to be ok with it either. I remember that awful feeling well, and I feel so sad for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:17 AM
1

Good for her! I love how she told him exactly why it was a no, instead of just saying "No thank you".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:24 PM
7

That's what I always wonder about celebrity women. It's crazy how many of them choose to be with predatory, elderly, criminal, or otherwise undesirable scrotes, when they could have their pick of almost anybody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:57 AM
6

And by "modern" girls, I'm sure he meant hot. He just looked like your average overweight guy from what I've seen. I've definitely seen uglier men in relationships. Either his personality was so unbearable that even the most extreme pickmes wouldn't date him, or he was going after women way out of his league. Or, like most incels, he probably never attempted to approach women in the first place due to his laziness and cowardice, and excused it by saying "Why bother when I'm just going to get rej…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:31 PM
1

You don't even need an app for it. I'm not sure if iphone does the same, but my ex had an android and just clicked on the button where you can scroll through all the apps you have open, and screenshot a minimized image of a woman's snap, which apparently doesn't alert them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:59 PM
27

I also think that 99% of men are pedophiles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:39 AM
23

That's terrible, but 😂😂😂.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:29 PM
16

For real! It's a free drink, not a new car. Who's going to make out with some nasty for a $10 margarita???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:08 PM
11

Sooo many comments saying "At least he's trying". Lol stop! I know the commenters are likely all children and teenagers, but it's sad that doing literally anything for a date is seen as praiseworthy as long as the two people are together. I'm hoping this isn't the new standard, and that they'll grow out of this thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:44 AM
18

Yeah, it sounds really stupid of them when you put it like that. Like, what else would we want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:39 PM
2

We all know he's just worried she's not going to snap back to a size 2, 10 mins after birth. This 100%. Given how vain he is, his wife is probably not even slightly overweight, he just wants her to return to maximum fuckability ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:18 PM
37

Someone tried to start the idea on deadbedrooms that "being denied sex is just as emotionally painful as being raped" 😱 No! What the fuck is wrong with them?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:51 AM
17

I absolutely think this is the primary reason for their obsession with virginity. Sure, there's the part where they don't want their property pre-owned, but for the majority, it's the insecurity. If a woman has previous partners, she has something to compare his penis size and skill level to. If she's a virgin, she doesn't have that experience, and therefore won't have as many expectations or know if he sucks at sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:59 PM
3

No. When you give someone a gift, it is expected that it will be theirs forever, even if you get mad at them. I'm a fan of a little bit of pettiness from time to time, but that's just too petty in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 04:46 PM
14

Yep. In their minds, men see it as a power move because, since they will fuck women they hate, women they think are ugly, and women they're angry at, they at can't fathom any reason other than control to not want to have sex. Message to lurking scrotes: Your girlfriend isn't having sex with you because she's either mad at you, repulsed by you, or you suck at it and she's tired of faking pleasure to protect your ego. Nobody is playing a power move on you, she actually, legitimately does not want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 05:17 AM
59

She's awesome! I was just thinking yesterday how she's my mom idol, and now this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:09 PM
3

Check! My ex gave me the passcode to his phone, and I found plenty on there. Sometimes they're too dumb to delete evidence, sometimes they miss something, and some of them just don't think that you'll check. If you find nothing, then great, no harm to either of you. If you do, you will have the information you need to leave him and stop wasting your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:58 PM
11

Haha, it's ok! She is right though, it was just a parody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:59 PM
413

I too am a fellow "women", and I tell my boyfriend of 13 years that I am ok with never having any orgasms because he already works so hard providing for us at his part-time job (technically I make more for us at my full-time job, but I don't count that) that I don't deserve it.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:31 AM
3

Than you for the explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:09 PM
23

I feel like that was his way of sneaking in "Look at me, guys! I'm so big and tall and manly!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:00 PM
7

Could you explain what this means?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:10 PM
60

I so recommend snooping, even if you're not tech savvy (I'm not really). Read his internet search history, texts, social media messages, emails. Go through anything you can. I would probably still be with my LVX if I hadn't, because even if they admit to some things, you will never get the full story if you don't check for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:07 PM
81

A job is NOT a free pass for a man to not take care of his family! Low value males think that bringing home the paycheck is EVERYTHING, and it's so not. I will NEVER be a stay-at-home mom again, even if it makes more sense financially. Imagine having to do everything for a household, never getting a day off, not getting financially compensated for it, having to watch a man return home from his finite hours of work and get to relax and do nothing for the rest of the day, and you STILL get treated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:58 PM
26

It's always best to follow your intuition. Chances are, your feelings are right, but if not, who cares? For whatever reason, this man makes you uneasy, and what's the point of sticking around with someone who you're always going to be worrying about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:27 PM
76

I'm guessing the only reason she even started doing it in the first place is because she realized after 2 weeks he wasn't going to touch the mountain of laundry, and she didn't want to live in a pigsty. She probably hoped he would take the hint, but when he still hadn't touched any laundry by week 3, she had to say something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 03:31 AM
50

I mean, I think so. I don't know if it could be considered an eating disorder, because I was doing it purpose, but I started starving myself for months and lost enough weight to fall just in the underweight category because a girl LVX emotionally cheated with was a skinny teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 05:01 PM
227

Ew. What is even the point of dating some shady, age-gap, billionaire scrote if you're not going to financially benefit from it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:54 PM
19

Absolutely. Men aren't grateful for second chances, it just sets a standard for what you're willing to put up with next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:42 PM
10

"I LOVE when women treat me like a child, but HATE when women treat me like a child." Guarantee this same scrote is the type to whine about how women don't know what they want and are never satisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:57 AM
8

He wasn't joking about the "lil" part of his name. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:26 AM
66

I think love really clouds your judgement of a person. That, or we're just conditioned to find something nice to say about men. Women on the relationship subs are constantly saying shit like "He cheats on me twice a month, doesn't know our son's middle name, and does no chores or cooking, even though I'm working 12 hour days as the sole earner in our household. Other than that though he's a loving husband and a great father.🥰" I mean, I'm sure I've been guilty of it in the past myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:08 AM
27

I fucking HATE when someone mentions communication. Like, she clearly said that she already tried that. Why would anyone think this next time she communicates with him is totally going to be the time that solves all their problems?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:03 AM
76

They're so full of shit. I'm not fat, and never have been. Was that enough to keep my LVX's eyes on me? Of course it wasn't. Just because scrotes will fuck anyone, doesn't mean they don't have preferences, and won't bring down your self-esteem for not meeting them. I promise you, even if you lost weight and became the perfect size to a scrote, they'll still find a way to make you feel inadequate, whether it's that you're not curvy enough, not a teenager, not subservient enough, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:36 PM
17

This is the reason my ex is so thin. When he doesn't have a mom or girlfriend to cook for him, he often just won't eat because he's too lazy. When he does eat, it's either takeout, or something not filling that a young teenager could make like scrambled eggs or a bowl of cereal. Teaching our sons basic life skills is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:17 PM
55

Haha! That's what I was thinking too. Definitely sounds like one of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:25 PM
5

What the hell!!!? Is this a joke? If you're going to be ugly, obese, short, AND unemployed, you better come with something better than a goddamn stained shirt!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:59 PM
2

That, or he forced her to accept it so he wouldn't break up the family by leaving her. They probably have grandkids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:15 AM
8

If you waste your youth dating old scrotes, when are you going to get the chance to date handsome young men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:49 AM
102

To me, it's already a form of cheating. There's a big difference between happening to notice an attractive woman that walks by and actively seeking out women dressed and posed suggestively to ogle and gain sexual gratification from. The latter requires intent, and in my opinion, seeking out other women sexually, even if you don't have physical sex with them, is cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:15 PM
141

When he says "You're so insecure"... Yeah, I AM insecure. I'm done (and have been for quite some time) with men suggesting insecurity is a character flaw. No, it is a perfectly normal response to being made to being made to feel like you're not good enough, or like you're competing for your man's attention with another woman. YES, you messaging people that you tried to fuck in the past DOES make me insecure. You scrolling Instagram looking at half-naked women DOES make me insecure. Those are nor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:40 PM
18

Scrotes that say this kind of thing KNOW they wouldn't pity fuck a woman who saved their life unless it was someone they wanted to fuck anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:07 PM
5

Yes. I would be personally offended if I found out she wasn't walking away from this fucking LOADED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:20 PM
5

No way they are a couple!😱🤮😵 I swear to god, she better be set for life after this. Can you fucking imagine having to even look at this every day? I really hope she doesn't have to have sex with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:17 PM
6

I'm enjoying the videos! I'm genuinely curious who negging works on. Even as someone who has struggled with self-esteem, I am very turned off when a person insults me, even if it was unintentional. I can't imagine wanting to associate with, much less date or have sex with, someone who made me feel bad the first time we met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:11 PM
52

I'm not old enough for men my age to be setting their preferences to 15 years younger yet (it would be illegal), but if I see a man my age setting his preferences to more than 5 years younger, even if I still fall within his range, I would never date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:58 PM
1

Men rely on other men to be ugly/unattractive, so they're not jealous and then blame us for being insecure when we want genuine love and attraction. I am glad to see someone else say this, because I have definitely thought this myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:46 AM
2

YES! If physical cheating is the next step, then you already crossed the boundaries MILES ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:16 AM
1

I hate this mentality. If all you care about is physical cheating, then you do not care about your partner, you see them as a sex object. I'm willing to bet though that this scrote absolutely WOULD care if his girlfriend was sexting or talking to1 another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:01 AM
12

The porn blocker is actually a great idea. I wonder if I installed one on my son's devices if his dad would notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:57 PM
6

I think most men prefer women who are high maintenance, it's just that most of them don't have the ability or money to get a woman like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:48 PM
8

Me too, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:51 PM
9

Lol! It's crazy how many of them are basically the same man in a different body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:36 PM
21

Haha, you're right though. There's no point in repeating your concerns. They want to make you feel like you're just not cOmMuNiCaTiNg well enough, but there's only so many ways you can ask a grown man to stop playing video games for 12 hours a day before you realize it's not that he doesn't understand, it's that he doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:31 PM
157

I think men also don't see it coming, because for them, things are going pretty well. By the time I left my first ex, I had been miserable for years (pretty much the whole relationship, really). I was not attracted to him, never had pleasurable sex with him, and pretty much raised our child and ran our household while he spent every waking hour of his free time as a lump in the La-Z-Boy chair playing video games. When I told him I was leaving him, he said he didn't suspect something was up until…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:44 PM
26

Yep. My ex's younger brother is very talented at a lot of "man" things, despite them both growing up with the same useless NV father, because he wanted to learn and taught himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:40 PM
46

I was thinking the thing about the social boundaries too. Like, even if this man doesn't have bad intentions, he's still some weirdo who would forever be putting her in awkward and uncomfortable situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:18 PM
6

As a single mom, I personally think it's best for childless people to be with childless people, and parents to be with parents. I would probably prefer to date a single dad, because while I'm not thrilled about the possibility of having to weed out scrotes using me for free childcare, kids are already a part of my life, so a man having them wouldn't be a huge adjustment. I would feel more comfortable knowing I'm with someone who has experience with kids, and I wouldn't feel like I was burdening …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:27 AM
53

Yep. She asked his height only 40 minutes before the date?Riiiight 🙄. Definitely just some larping manlet. Whatever helps you sleep at night, bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:31 PM
21

My ex was like that too. He was always wanting to be seen as the leader and as "the man" and such, yet could barely function as an adult. As a woman who is tired of always having to be the mommy and the manager in relationships, I would welcome a man who took more charge, but it seemed like he never really wanted to take that responsibility upon himself, he just wanted me to not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:11 PM
20

One of them even had the audacity to tell me he had been asleep from midnight to 7 pm 💀 Shit, I don't know what's worse him cheating or whatever he was doing, or the thought of him actually sleeping for NINETEEN HOURS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:29 AM
20

"I would do ANYTHING to have sex with this woman...except start exercising and brush my teeth."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:16 AM
1

A gold digger. Over a pair of shoes that she probably could have afforded herself.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:21 PM
3

It really is traumatizing. I was with a man I was physically repulsed by for years, and I dreaded doing anything sexual with him. It was gross and unpleasant, and I still have flashbacks about it. It really is more than awkwardness. It's like you have to turn your brain off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:11 PM
56

That's so gross. How is he not ashamed of himself? I wish women wouldn't enable their leech scrote sons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:18 PM
18

I mean, kind of. I'll stick by my son more than I would any other male, but I'm not going to just look the other way if he's acting like a scrote and cheating on or disrespecting his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:07 PM
10

braid his daughter's hair nicley Men are truly treated like gods if they put their own daughter's hair up in a basic, messy-looking ponytail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:56 PM
25

Nobody seems to understand that this is a major chore all on its own. Every man child I have been with, I had to tell what to do and when to do it. It's exhausting and annoying to be the memory for two people at once, especially one who should be old enough to do this for himself. It truly is like having a whole extra child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:34 PM
215

Same. I am not a curvy woman either, but that's what my ex was into, and I'm still working on recovering my self-esteem after that. And just like you, I'd rather die alone than be with a man that ever indicated I might not be enough. It is so crushing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:29 PM
17

That's the main reason why I prefer to have confrontations over text, rather than phone or in person. As long as you're being honest, it protects you from being accused of making things up, and prevents the other person from being able to lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:59 PM
92

Lol, if learning another language isn't that hard, then why doesn't he do it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:41 PM
51

No!😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 04:46 AM
17

Oh my god, yessss 🙄. I'm so tired of being made to feel like some control freak because I expect household chores to be done properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:32 PM
26

That's honestly fucking disgusting. I've been with some useless scrotes, and even I can't imagine being attracted to someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 01:57 PM
8

They wanna have th the benefits of being man but without being a man in the relationship ! That always gets me. Not even just in dating, but relationships too. No matter if you are the breadwinner, are smarter, more talented, emotionally stronger, and better at traditionally masculine things than them, they still expect you to pretend that they're above you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:27 AM
51

Exactly. They only want 50/50 to be ok when it comes to the cost of the meal. If we went 50/50 on the cost and effort getting ready for the date, and simply showered, combed our hair, and threw on something casual within an hour before walking out the door like they do, they would most definitely be looking down on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:52 AM
27

I think even straight women know women, with or without makeup, are prettier than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:42 AM
38

Same. I had somehow managed to forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 12:50 AM
27

It just sounds like some stupid edgy teenage shit to me. I would be so turned off if a man said this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:21 PM
5

Seriously 🙄. He's a 55-year-old man, and he really thinks he's going to have some constant stream of fuck buddies like a hot guy in his 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:11 PM
9

Nothing wrong with "love" between tWo CoNsEnTiNg AdUlTs. And then they just go right in. People who act like that upon hitting 18, you gain an instant dose of wisdom and maturity, making you equal to all other adults, and therefore protected from being coerced or manipulated by them, are either dishonest or extremely delusional. People recognize that a 17-year-old is still a child who deserves protection from predatory adults, but the day she turns 18, it's morally acceptable, even expected, to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:03 PM
67

Seriously! Is your man 4? Because that's the only way this drawing is cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:51 PM
12

But HiS iS cUtEr! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:28 PM
101

That's what I came here to say. It's more like an accurate visual of how women downplay their hard work and talent and praise men's low effort and bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:26 PM
4

I mean, I'm sure a lot of people think you did the wrong thing, but honestly I think you did amazing! Any time a woman makes the call to stand up to an entitled scrote, I support her 100%. I consider that activism, and activists are people who make change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:26 PM
4

Yeah, I've got to say, while I don't think he looks terrible, he's definitely not as attractive as I remembered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:19 PM
5

Same. I don't care if you told me that both my children and I would be set for life, no amount of money could make me touch some nasty old dick like that.🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:44 PM
4

But for some reason he felt the absolute need to be a father at an age where he should be a grandfather and nothing more. My kids' great-grandparents aren't even that old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:39 PM
27

Yes. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Even if she had said explicitly that she would have sex with him, she could still legally withdraw consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:36 PM
51

Setting aside the abuse, trafficking, pedophilia and prostitution aspect of it, how someone can justify that porn would be compatible with relationships is beyond me. This. Of course I care about the direct victims of porn production, but even if every single woman who participated in porn was respected, paid well, completely enthusiastic and never coerced, and proud of her work until the day she died, I still wouldn't be ok with my partner watching it. It's involving other people sexually, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:18 PM
111

Lol, right? Imagine being proud that you get to play mommy to the community dick, just so he can go fuck other women he likes more than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:13 AM
7

I can't stand when pickmes complain about "eugenics". Like, if you think these males deserve to reproduce, why don't you carry their children for them? Why are you trying to force other women to do it for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:58 PM
30

Maybe, but a lot of them are just trying to protect men's feelings. I used to say size didn't matter, because I was with a man with a small dick and was just trying to be nice. I have had bigger now, and it absolutely does matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:56 PM
23

I'm done with lying to men that size doesn't matter. They're honest about their preferences, so why shouldn't we be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:53 PM
91

Funny how they forget male nature when they're sitting their asses at home the entire weekend playing xbox and jerking it to videos of other men having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:28 PM
2

That's exactly what I was going to say. My last relationship was anxiety hell. If that was truly how relationships are supposed to be, then I would much rather stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:20 PM
10

They're not scared by the idea of women harassing them, because even if the woman sexually undesirable, they still don't have to worry about her being bigger and stronger, and possibly r-ping or murdering them for turning her down. I'd like to see how they'd actually react to a ripped guy half a foot taller than them sexually harassing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:13 PM
6

Off topic from what you said, but I appreciate that you put "chance" in quotes, because it actually isnt a "chance" at all. If it were, then you would be allowed to decide things weren't working out with him after a trial period with no consequences. Instead, after you give a guy a "chance" then you will be expected to stay with him, regardless of what he does, because "he has a good heart", "everyone makes mistakes", and a variety of other guilt tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:06 PM
5

That one girl's pedophile abuser was 26, and he was just standing there with her, not in prison! Crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:59 PM
3

I have never been confused and thought “you know what would clear things up? Stripping off my top and flashing a guy who never indicated he’d be interested.” 😂 Seriously! What is showing your private parts to someone supposed to clear up??? They're so illogical!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:45 PM
3

It's always the brokest, shittiest, good-for-nothing motherfuckers who think you're trying to gold dig or baby trap them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:08 PM
4

They literally call the women they have sex with "plates" (the ones that do have sex anyway).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:29 PM
16

I saw this bs a few days ago. Someone complaining that TRP was quarantined, while FDS "the female equivalent" 🙄 isnt. Once someone pointed out that the the two subs are completely different and TRP is way worse, the story changed to "Well, still, I'm just saying that they both objectify people, so they should both be banned."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:24 AM
2

Yes, they absolutely do care about height, and will definitely let you know about it. I have even been made to feel too tall at 5'4. Yes, 5'4.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:37 PM
4

I don't think it makes sense either. Things that women look for in a man are usually long term or permanent (tall, good career, decent sized penis, generous, etc.), while the things that men look for (young, firm body, innocent, etc.) all fade with time. It kind of guarantees that they will eventually be unhappy with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:22 PM
20

These days no one wants to hear my stories, I've been in many a room full of progressives(especially men) who never experienced sex work who will literally argue with me while I tell them what I actually saw and experienced. That's how you know the "sex work is real work" crowd don't actually care about sex workers, they just like exploiting women's bodies and want to seem woke because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:05 PM
32

Yesssss! What's the appeal? I'd take a man a few years younger than some old scrote any day. These ladies are wasting their youth on nasty old men, when they could be having young men that still look good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:14 AM
8

Don't waste your youth on a man, unless you are 100% into him. I wasted most of my 20s on a male that I wasn't even attracted to, just because he was "nice". Do everything you want to in life! The time is now. Don't get pregnant. Also, realize how young you actually are. I actually felt old by my 22nd birthday, because I thought "Well, now that I'm old enough to drink, birthdays are just a sign that I'm aging." Now that I'm in my late 20s, I realize how dumb that was, and how young I actually wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:11 PM
177

Yes, and looks gap...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:37 PM
9

I struggle with this too. I would love to have someone to be on my team, to do nice things for and have do nice things for me. I miss cuddling and just that feeling of romantic love in general. I have kids with my LVX, and sometimes (although I know better) that makes me have thoughts about being with him. He's single, and would gladly have me back, so that makes it even harder, to know that I could have the things I miss about being in a relationship tonight, if I wanted. What keeps me from wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:30 PM
5

I get those sometimes too. I think some words aren't allowed uncensored, and some words or phrases make the automod think you're a male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:17 PM
82

I don't even understand! He's not even attractive, and she's already rich, so it's not like she needs his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:01 PM
341

NOOOOO! I just looked it up. She's 24, and he's 41😱! What is she doing???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:56 PM
263

Right? "FdS iS jUsT aS bAd As ThE rEd PiLl". Yeah, fuck that. Look at what these pieces of shit do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:04 PM
11

Wow. This is exactly how it was for me. I left my LVX, but I'm still working on getting over my insecurity about it. Most of his favorite porn stars had big asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:59 AM
26

Seriously! What about that part??? Even if we believed them that she was the biggest btch alive and totally deserved it, that still doesn't explain why he klled his own children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:09 PM
20

Right? Like no woman is going to that sub with some petty "I don't like how my man styles his hair. How do I tell him?" type stuff, it's almost always GTFO today levels of terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:13 PM
7

Stop shaming women for standing up for themselves. You don't personally have to do it, but the more women who are willing and able to, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:27 PM
2

I can confirm, it WAS a big mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:34 PM
8

For a split second I was thinking, "Jeez, that's a lot of money! He must owe back child support.", and then I did the math. 800 dollars. Imagine going through the trouble of acquiring and loading up 80,000 heavy pennies onto a trailer and making an absolute ass out of your self over 800 dollars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:23 PM
3

I have relatively easy pregnancies and births compared to most women, and I still had to deal with morning sickness, stretch marks, changes to the appearance of my vagina, and a couple other things. When women say they had "easy" pregnancies, most are just saying that they didn't experience major complications like 4 degree tears, hyperemesis gravidarum (extreme morning sickness), emergency c-section, birth injuries, and things like that. Easy definitely doesn't mean you get off scot free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 PM
49

100%. I've stated it many times on here, and probably will many more, but I did everything I could to make my LVX feel special, and it completely backfired. They won't appreciate it, they'll just take your adoration and compliments as a sign that they're better than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:05 AM
20

Men are extremely basic. Find one that doesn't idolize Elon Musk, Jordan Peterson, or Joe Rogan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:48 AM
32

Women will always uplift and make the ugliest, laziest, most abusive, low value, undeserving piece of shit feel special, so if your girlfriend isn't doing that for you, you must be terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:40 AM
6

We're allowed to say things without having to make the disclaimer of not all women, not all men, etc. every time. Unless "all" is explicitly stated, it is implied that there can be exceptions to the rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:19 AM
19

Yeeeepppp. They're really out here expecting gorgeous young women, who could have their choice of handsome young men, to like them for no reason. You're not providing anything nice for her to look at, sweetheart. You're going to have to attract her with something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:07 AM
13

No one named you specifically. The fact is, a lot of women do do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:00 AM
34

I don't even understand why. Your ass is THE number one most important place to wash when taking a shower. Like, if I was told I could only wash one body part for the rest of my life, my ass it would be. I can't fathom not making it a priority, much less not washing it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:51 AM
22

That's so nice of you. When I would go out with my LVX, I would always be so on edge, and it gave me major anxiety if we had a woman server, because I knew he would be checking her out the whole time, and as a result, I would sometimes act pretty cold (not rude, just not talkative) to the server. I wouldn't mean to take it out on her, it just made me so sad and uncomfortable to know this was the woman he was currently checking out, and I guess I would take it out on her in a way. It's very kind …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:38 PM
10

Same. It takes a lot of work, even just to burn a few hundred calories. For him to eat a shit ton like that and not be morbidly obese, he would have to attend the gym a hell of a lot more than "regularly". He would need to practically live there. And in working out sufficiently to burn that insane amount of calories, I figure he would be more than just "fit", but rather very muscular (unless he exclusively did cardio or something). But then again, someone who is a gym rat would carefully monitor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:05 PM
12

Haha, my future daughter-in-law is my motivation too. My son is already way better at chores than any man I've ever been with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:51 AM
16

Yes! All of this is so true. This has actually been a problem in multiple relationships for me. I feel like when I date a man, I'm always left feeling like his parent because I'm having to teach him how to do basic life tasks exactly like I do with my actual child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:25 AM
12

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 WHAT THE FUCK?! I am so disgusted for you! Ew ew ew ew ew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:16 AM
270

Lol. What does "well you haven't even tried to get to know him" really even mean? As if you're going to find out you and the dude both share a common interest in hiking, and then the fact that he's a rapist suddenly won't matter anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:03 PM
30

Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:02 PM
35

Look at me, everybody! I am a DAD (!!!), yes you read that right, a MALE PARENT who is attempting to learn to care for my OWN girl children! Yes, I'm a fucking bumbling idiot (teehee, you know how us men are!) unlike mothers, but I'm trying to learn AND I have a penis, and that is just so special of me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:04 PM
42

Whaaaat??? I heard all the ladies in their teens and early 20s love old men! 🤣 Seriously though, it's good that you're realizing getting with an old scrote is a bad idea before you wasted any of your youth on one. I look at it this way - I've never head an older woman say "Man, I really regret not spending my 20s on that 40-year-old man.", but I have heard plenty of women who regret that they did do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:47 AM
22

I'm in my late 20s, and I would (and have) gladly take a man a few years younger than some scrote over 35. Young ladies, don't waste your youth on some grandpa scrote. Save the old men for when you're an old lady. Get you a handsome young man while you're young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:44 AM
64

Right? Like, it's moving a wet cloth around over the counter, Kyle, not rocket science. If I'm noticeably better than you at tasks a 9-year-old could complete, something is seriously wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:33 PM
12

What's your point here though? That not every stripper in the world is a prostitute or treated like dogshit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:48 PM
11

Haha, that is so pathetic and embarrassing that he thought the strippers wanted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:41 PM
33

They think it makes them look secure and confident, but it's really the complete opposite. It just makes you seem like your self-esteem is so low that you don't think you could do any better than to be with a man that openly ogles other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:36 PM
27

I won't accept a man who has ever paid for sex or sexual content in any way (strippers, prostitutes, cam girls/OF, etc.), only one who has watched porn in the past and quit of his own accord. Sadly, that's probably a tall order, but getting with someone who views women as objects to be bought is just asking for trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:30 PM
407

Literally ANY REASON is a valid reason not to have sex with someone, even if that reason is offensive to someone else. Also, maybe I missed it, but I didn't see where anyone said they shouldn't be allowed to donate blood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:54 AM
12

Fucking hypocrites. When you look at it, it's "No big deal! It's jUsT pOrN!", but when women do porn, suddenly those same women aren't good enough for you? What happened to sex work is real work, d*ckheads? Isn't porn an important part of sexual health? Why would you refuse to date a healthcare provider, scrotes?🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:18 PM
6

Haha, that's what I was thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:36 PM
11

Cheating on a pregnant or postpartum woman is truly irredeemable. You have to be bottom of the barrel scum to betray the woman who is permanently damaging her body to make your child, and probably not feeling her prettiest at the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:19 PM
13

Keep in mind that most males, even ones that wouldn't commit a physically violent rape, still don't consider things like giving a hesitant woman a few drinks to "loosen her up" or putting pressure on her until she gives in and "agrees" to have sex rape. In fact, coercion like this is so normalized that they don't even see it as shady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:07 PM
1

I don't agree when people get angry at women for doing or suggesting this, when they say women should trust men, I disagree, we don't automatically owe anyone our trust, Yesssss. Trust should be EARNED, not freely given, and it is earned by examining all available evidence. Anything else is willful ignorance. People say you should trust your partner until they give you a reason not to, but how are you ever supposed to know if you have a reason not to trust them if you're never allowed to check? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:50 PM
1

That's my favorite part about it! I love the thought of some porn addict scrote coming here to lurk, only to be hit with the shocking realization that women care about looks too, and that a soft, middle-aged dad bod is actually not peak attractiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:56 PM
5

I mean yeah, he's right about that first line for me. My boyfriend watching other women having sex did make me insecure. That is completely normal. Most males would feel the same way if they found their girlfriends watching men have sex. What he's wrong about is that it is a part of men's sexual health, or that we have to accept it. Oh, and also, in my last relationship, I was a major "cool girl" 🤡 and did all the kinky things for my ex, and he still watched porn and lusted after other women in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:21 PM
53

Just tell her you're you're over 30, scrotes! Everyone on reddit knows that teens and young women love an old man who's at the peak of his prime!😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:31 PM
89

Aye! Shoutout to this girl for putting us on to the term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:25 PM
53

We should do a poll sometime. I'm pretty sure that the majority of us found FDS from hater scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:05 AM
5

I feel so horribly sad for women who go to the strip club with their boyfriends. Imagine just sitting there, allowing yourself to be humiliated, hoping it will earn you the approval of the man you love, wishing that you we're enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:07 AM
17

Yeah, this whole thing rubs me the wrong way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:42 PM
9

I will never understand trying to force someone to eat something they don't want to eat. Like, what if she was totally making it up and just didn't like peanuts or something? Why on earth would he care even then? What do you gain out of feeding someone something they say no to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:41 PM
44

I am genuinely so jealous. I'm sure there are probably downsides to dating women too, but it just seems like there would be so much love and understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:07 AM
6

I'm so happy for you!😁 I'm straight, but I wish so badly I could be attracted to women and have a relationship like yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:03 AM
5

😱! I went and read the comments on your post, and I'm stunned! Of course I expected a few low effort guys to tell you that you're asking too much, but it was the majority! I promise you, asking your partner to do a few clicks every day to support your business is completely reasonable, and anyone who genuinely cared about you would be glad to support you in such a quick and easy way. The bigger problem that I see though is that he is still interacting the woman that you have had fights over. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:52 AM
4

Right? Like is she making 200 posts a day? How hard is it to like a few posts???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:36 AM
3

Whaaaat? If I'm in a relationship with someone, I expect to text every day, especially if we didn't see each other that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:24 AM
9

That's a lot of words for "I'm ugly and weird."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:50 PM
5

What the hell? That's so weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:51 PM
3

This is of course them projecting. Males (especially red pill/incel) are the ones who regularly admit that youth and attractiveness are all that matter. They have sayings like "She hit the wall" and "I can't fuck her degree".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:03 PM
58

As the mom of a boy, I still don't understand women who treat their sons like they can do no wrong. Of course you love your son because he's your child, but do you have no empathy for other women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:43 AM
12

So fucking embarrassing and childish. Venting is one thing, but using your mom as a referee is peak immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:22 AM
7

Ever since I found out that my LVX would check other women out literally every time we went anywhere, I began paying attention to other scrote's eyes to see if it was really that common to be checking out other women while your girlfriend is right there, and holy hell it is! Checking out me, checking out other women... The bar is so low that I find myself thinking what a loving and committed boyfriend the man must be if he appears to not be staring at anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:27 PM
32

It's insane how they care so little about impressing a potential partner that they can't even stand the thought of spending under $20 to get her a meal at a chain restaurant. Not only does it tell you that he's broke, and she would have to spend the entirety of their relationship fighting to get him to pay for anything (I mean, if he's upset over the cost of dinner, imagine what it would be like when a $200 electric bill comes along), but it also tells you that he's a whack job conspiracy theori…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:10 PM
12

Seriously. It seems like a terrible idea, and what's the best case scenario here? You don't have the unwanted children, and then your boyfriend either leaves you way down the line, wasting years of your life, or he stays with you, and resents you for not allowing him to experience fatherhood? It would be better for everyone involved to go their separate way and find someone who is compatible on this issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:19 PM
13

Also, children deserve to have parents that want and love them, and are willing to be a part of their lives. If you have children that you dont truly want, someone is going to suffer. Either you are going to sacrifice your time, schedule, and happily child-free lifestyle to give your children a proper and loving upbringing, which might leave you resentful, or you can hire a nanny, chef, chauffeur, and maid to raise the children for you, which will leave children longing for the time and affectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:59 PM
26

Or they think that they helped too because they jizzed in you and one of the sperm happened to find its way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:32 PM
39

Yep. It is the biggest tool used to oppress us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:59 PM
19

Proposing to or asking out a man is crazy. If he really wanted to marry you, HE would have asked YOU. If a man accepts your proposal, it is only out of pity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:22 PM
6

1/3 actually seems low to me. If we were including things like whistling, making inappropriate sexual comments, or pressuring an uncertain woman into saying "yes" to sex, the percentage would be nearly 100.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:11 PM
42

It's insane how we always try to see men as "good people", despite the horrible things they do. It's always "He's a pedophile, rapist, serial killer, but he's a good father and a great member of the community." Like, yeah, everyone on the planet is a "good person" if you leave out all the bad things they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:49 PM
4

Right? I'm trying to be as vague as possible on Facebook so the whole town doesn't know my ex and I broke up, while this guy is giving all the embarrassing details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:00 AM
101

I noticed that too. He's trying to gain sympathy and act like he didn't know he was neglecting her because for normal people, keeping up with the chores would have been good enough (which we all know he didn't actually do), but that just wasn't the "type of love" she in particular needed. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:42 AM
14

All a chart like this would do for me is confirm what I already knew, which is most scrotes are pedophiles, so even if I do settle for one now in my 20s, he'll just be lusting after younger women before long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:42 PM
6

I'm so done with society acting like adult men are naturally incapable of mastering domestic tasks. There is nothing about their physiology that would make them bad at these things, they just get by with it because we as a society allow them to. Vacuuming, planning Christmas gifts, and putting your daughter's hair in a ponytail don't require a degree or a vagina, they just require you to not be a lazy sack of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:01 PM
12

I'm ok with some leg and arm hair, and trimmed pubic hair, but I can't stand when they have a carpet on their chest, back, and ass.🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:07 AM
157

The creators of their own problems, as usual. Women wouldn't have the "privilege" of making money on OF if depraved males weren't paying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:14 AM
19

I am really starting to get turned off by the idea of them now. Any time I see an attractive one, I quickly remember that the overwhelming odds are that he's a porn user, has misogynistic views, and would probably leave me with the majority of the housework. I'm just not ready to be disappointed again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:31 AM
6

Don't feel bad about it. I rule them out too. They're either immature, perverted, or both, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:07 AM
8

Any woman that would help raise a scrote's affair child has ZERO self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:54 PM
1

That's why they have to bribe them into having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:24 PM
2

BS. Any kind of scrote that would make something like this wouldn't be spending $1000 dollars on her birthday just for having sex with him twice a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:18 PM
1

All this tells me is that no adult males should be allowed alone around children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:03 PM
2

Thanks for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:47 PM
8

Yeah, I'm not an expert either, but my dad had one that looked very similar to that like 15 years ago, just to take pictures of vacations and us kids and such. He wasn't even an amateur photographer. I doubt it's that fancy or expensive. My friend who actually was a (semi?) professional photographer had a more complex looking camera with a longer lens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:42 PM
15

They act like they wouldn't care just to prove a point, but you know scrotes would be livid if someone took a picture of their girlfriends or daughters. Like you said though, they wouldn't actually do anything to defend her though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:34 PM
6

"Anything between two people is ok as long as they're both consenting adults." "Um, actually I don't consent to having pictures of my body taken by this man." "Shut the fuck up kArEn! It's ArT!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:30 PM
18

Exactly. This isn't even the bare minimum for women. Not only would they not consider this being treated like a king, they don't even say thank you for this kind of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 07:26 PM
34

If you're resigned to have to go 50-50, wouldn't you rather do it with someone younger that at least looks good? That's what I don't understand about women my age (late-20s) and even younger who date much older men. Like, you can easily get a handsome, age-appropriate man. Why would you want some rough looking old scrote with low stamina? Unless he's rich and can set you up for life, which let's be honest, almost none of them are, then there's absolutely no benefit to dating an older scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:32 PM
54

The commenter admitting they take photos of random people all the time... Uh, what??? Maybe don't do that? Just because you're a creep too, doesn't make that nasty old perv any less of a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:43 PM
13

Sometimes I tell myself that, but then I remember it's ok to die "alone". Not having a great partner to love and share life with makes me sad sometimes, but settling for someone that doesn't meet my standards just because he's easier to find (for example, choosing to date a porn user because "all men watch porn") will make me even more unhappy. And, If I do someday decide having any man is better than no man, I can always lower my standards then. Despite what they tell you, LVM will always be av…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:13 PM
13

I know people think of this as a breach of privacy, but it's true - if he has nothing to hide, then he shouldn't worry about you snooping. You are his partner, not the government or some rando on the street. What reason would there be to keep texts, browser history, emails, social media, etc. from you if there were nothing objectionable in them? Trust is not a virtue. Trust is earned. Refusing to vet a man's trustworthiness by looking into all available information isn't trust, it's ignorance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:55 PM
91

I never understand when they say "It's not like he's having sex with them." Like, is that really all that matters in a relationship to you - that his wiener doesn't go inside anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:32 PM
7

Ignore. It's just a new technique they use when you reject them to degrade you. It's like the modern version of "Well, I didn't want to date you anyway! You're fat and ugly!".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:28 PM
35

They have videos about us now???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:00 PM
36

Yeah, ladies. We should really stop discussing "spinning plates", and abusing our boyfriends with the "dreadgame" to make them insecure, and manipulating men into sleeping with us, and sleeping with men young enough to be our sons. What's that? We do none of those things, and people are just projecting shitty male behavior onto us?🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:48 PM
37

Thank you for standing up for girls and young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:18 PM
50

Yes, please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:16 PM
62

"Adult male pedophiles, if you're going to prey on children, don't treat them too well so when the next piece of shit comes along to ruin her life, she won't expect to be treated decently by him either."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:14 PM
7

They only like the surgically enhanced big boobs. But also think that women who get plastic surgery are fake and gross, so...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:40 PM
3

I would change that TW to child sexual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:53 PM
44

Lol. This scrote really can't take a hint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:45 PM
20

It's interesting how in their fantasy, they're never some tall, handsome, athletic guy, they're just their same old neckbeard selves, and the hot woman who could have anybody likes them anyway for some reason. Like, even in their dreams, they can't put in more effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:30 PM
6

I wish someone had told me this a couple of years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:38 AM
9

🤣 You're right! It's the no chin thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:39 PM
10

Maaaaan! What the fuck happened to Matthew Perry? He looks ELDERLY and he's only 51! He used to be attractive. How does a male with so much money let himself go like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:37 PM
39

Even if the woman manages to not have to work a traditional job, and is a SAHM, how often is the male actually a GOOD provider? Any woman I've known whose husband "provides" while she is a homemaker (i.e. does everything else besides have a job) is either perpetually trying her luck at various scam MLMs to make up for his piddly income, or having to do extreme budgeting and going without.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:19 PM
37

Hell yeah! I do this too! I like to think I'm doing my small part to help the women in their lives by not reinforcing his notion that he's actually funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:45 PM
79

Exactly. Grandpa knows what he's doing. If he has the wrinkly old balls to hit on someone way too young for him, then he better have the balls to be rejected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:35 PM
54

I love it! I'm going to have to remember this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:32 PM
1

🙄🙄🙄 At least the comments aren't trying to gaslight her into thinking this is acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:07 PM
9

Haha! I just went over to read the comments, and saw some super fans advertising for us! Keep trashing us, folks. It only leads to more and more women to checking this sub out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:55 PM
18

It is hilarious to me that scrotes are calling her ugly! She's objectively attractive. Poor low-value scrotes are so salty because they can't afford to take a woman on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:20 PM
44

Oh my god! No way they said she is ugly! Haha! They're so full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:12 PM
1

Exactly. I looked it up. The last person was drafted nearly 50 years ago, so virtually none of the scrotes complaining about it have ever had to worry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:29 PM
9

Same. Any time I wear anything cute to try and boost my confidence (I dont even wear anything that revealing, just like a pair shorts or a knee-length dress), I end up feeling guilty because disgusting scrotes that are with their wives or girlfriends look at me, and I don't want to aid a scrote in lowering another woman's self-esteem, because I was on the other side of it recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:35 PM
3

I wish I could see their reactions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 03:13 PM
1

A lot of the online anti-feminists talk about how men are oppressed because they have to sign up for selective service (the draft) while women don't. Meanwhile most of them have have never even voluntarily served in the military, much less been forced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:47 PM
23

They are LV. Any male I knew of that went in straight after high school would have either been a drug addict, unemployed, community dick, or in jail if they hadn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:24 PM
6

That is my actual worst nightmare. Oh my god, I am so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:45 AM
4

Yes! Almost every man would KILL to sleep with numerous women and settle down with the best woman that would take them. They're just mad that we are actually able to do what they can only dream of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:34 AM
8

Oh, yay! So, this is going to be a regular thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:56 PM
22

I don't expect that scrotes are going to magically start treating us better overnight, but I do think there is value in making them measure up to a set of beauty standards too. They're never going to stop judging us based on appearance, but what if they were also strongly judged based on their appearance? More men would put effort into themselves. Women could freely pick men who we actually want to have sex with, instead of having being pressured into relationships with someone who repulses us, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:45 PM
24

She's the White House Press Secretary, not a model or cosmetologist. Why are they even discussing her makeup? So degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:43 AM
6

I really appreciate how you broke this down. I wish I was better at articulating my own feelings like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:38 PM
8

I was a SAHM. It's such a scam. You have to manage an entire household from the moment you wake up until the minute you go to sleep, while your husband works 8-10 hours 5 days a weeks, then comes home and sits his ass in front of the TV until bedtime, only to have people tell you how lucky YOU are that he provides for you. Okay 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:54 PM
12

Fucking Dogecoin... they're so basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:53 PM
14

Same. And, ironically, the ones who shit on us for hypergamy are the exact same ones whose dream girl is the 17-year-old prom queen, while they themselves look like a bridge troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:43 PM
16

Yeah, it's not that hard for them to look more attractive. Women do it every day. Take even the most gorgeous, genetically-gifted woman you can think of, and give her the same routine as your average male (so basically a terrible diet and minimal grooming), and even her looks would diminish. They're so entitled and lazy though, that would rather have 5 o'clock shadow and smell like ass, than to spend 20 minutes in the bathroom every day, and blame the reason they have a hard time with the ladies…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:33 PM
21

I wouldn't want some nasty that was trying to hook up with inappropriately young women either. Even if he ends up choosing a woman his own age, he's still a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:41 AM
17

Ageist! 😆 Something tells me he would be a little ageist too, if he had the same age gap, but in the opposite direction (84-year-old woman).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:28 AM
9

I don't feel any positive feelings towards them. I mean, I don't blame them for male depravity, but the existence of voluntary sex workers has contributed to making my and a lot of other women's lives hell, and as a bonus, damaging our self-esteems, so yeah, can't say I feel a lot of compassion toward someone who willingly aids scrotes in our oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:36 PM
13

So which is it - is he above average, or not that attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:06 PM
4

Big (or at least good sized) dick. The thought of a really small one grosses me out now that I know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:32 AM
31

Don't. What are the odds that you're going to get the HVM cop like you see in movies? The only man you'll be guaranteed to get is one who you will have a hard time going up against if he ever decides to abuse or harass you. Not worth it, in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:00 PM
54

For real. Like, am I missing something? Most of them don't even go to combat. People will just walk up to them in the grocery store and thank them for their service. They get privileges for the rest of their lives after they get out. Why do people insist on kissing their asses?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:33 PM
41

YES! That's why I refuse to be with either. They have such a high rate of domestic abuse, and if you try to report him, his colleagues will protect him legally, and you'll have a hard time getting friends/family/community members/the public to believe you because "He's such a fine member of society protecting and serving. She is probably just a b-tch trying to ruin a good man's name."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:19 PM
1

I don't know about the rest of it, but all I have to say is clean your house. Right now. No free time until it's done. Work room by room. Pick up all trash and dishes in the room, and put them in the trash can and sink. Then dust and wipe down all surfaces and items. While you're doing this, be honest with yourself if you really need each item. Yeah, that's a perfectly good, unopened tube of lipstick, but you've had it in a bathroom drawer for 2 years now. It's not your color, you're not going t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:33 PM
3

If they are people you will be around for years, I would just do your best to have influence where you can (if that's something you're interested in). If the girl talks only about being a mom when she grows up, ask her what career she will have. If the boy says something misogynistic to you, tell him it's not ok to talk to people that way. Plant little seeds, essentially.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:56 PM
4

Maybe even have a unique family codeword (written down on paper somewhere for the elderly family member) that the elderly person can ask for to confirm that it's actually a family member calling them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:25 PM
4

Very true. She wouldn't have been worse than a scrote. I don't think women politicians have to be perfect, but it would at least be nice for the first one (which will be a very special and memorable thing) to be a better example than an "alleged" r-pist scrote defender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:48 PM
15

Same. I want our first woman president to be a great role model for girls, not someone who is loyal to a lying, cheating and "alleged" r-pist scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:03 AM
6

Yep. That has been the case for both of the exes I have lived with. They only lived in clean conditions while in a relationship. Once I left, their houses went to shit, because they literally do zero cleaning besides dishes and laundry (the only chores you're forced to do).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:57 AM
11

So they think young women date old men because...they're more attractive than young men, or what? You can't come to a transactional relationship without something to offer, sweetheart. If you want an attractive young woman without being an attractive young man, you're gonna need to be an ATM. Sorry, not sorry, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:47 PM
6

Yeah, it's not the same. A better comparison would be a fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:36 PM
8

But seriously, what is wrong with them? It's crazy to me that they could feel this way about cartoons and toys. Why aren't we like this, but they are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:34 PM
7

I see it as misguided love. They do love their sons, but they're so focused on making his life happy right now in childhood, that they forget to consider how having zero life skills will serve him for the rest of his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:48 PM
53

I think a good bit of it is because they never clean up as they go. Where a woman would usually take her dirty clothes to the hamper right after her shower, a man will just leave them on the bathroom floor. When a woman finishes a bottle of water, she takes her trash to the trash can, while a man will just leave it on his desk. And so on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:29 PM
25

Exactly. Most of them barely even deserve father's Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 02:38 AM
18

Also, these scrotes commenting are so full of shit. If their girlfriends (doubt most of them have one) even glanced a little too long at an attractive male cousin, they would lose their shit, nevermind her doing a whole photoshoot of him lifting at the gym or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:44 PM
26

Telling women to communicate stupidly obvious stuff HAS to stop. We shouldn't even be with men that have to be told every little thing that isn't ok. If you don't come pre-programmed with a basic level of common sense (who the fuck doesn't know that taking bikini pics of your cousin is gross???) then you aren't fit for a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:40 PM
19

Her being a cousin means nothing to scrotes. I have had one that was interested in his teenage cousin. Plus, are they unaware of incest p-rn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:30 PM
10

Some of the dirtiest dogs I know are the most protective fathers, because they don't want a male to do to their property (daughter) what they did to another male's property. They don't give a fuck about women, they just don't want another dog pissing on their fire hydrant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:09 PM
141

I agree. I've never known any shithead teenage male to grow into a good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:46 PM
26

"Sex work is empowering" is the hardest one for me to imagine that anyone who calls herself a feminist could support. It is selling the use of your body for male (opressor) sexual pleasure. That is the least empowering thing I can imagine for a woman to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:28 PM
0

I always tell them "Well, if you weren't going to accept my answer, then why did you ask me?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:54 PM
7

Hell no. I choose women everything when I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:52 PM
3

Me too. I try to use "male" a lot more to counterbalance the use of "female".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:51 PM
3

Scrotes that do that make my blood boil. Truly some of the lowest scum on earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:28 AM
13

They say the "good luck finding a guy who will wait" things, because they're hoping it will convince you to lower your standards. Like, no scrotes, the alternative is just being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:06 PM
7

Right? I mean, no hate, because I'm not rich either, but this man had to save up 5,000 dollars to afford a used car. He can't be doing that much for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:53 PM
15

And they look so much worse than fat women. No one wants big boobs and thick thighs on a man. Not to mention, often entirely goes to their gut anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:00 PM
36

Yep, while "mom bods" (you know, the bodies of the people who actually made the child) are seen as less than.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:00 PM
27

The sex with them is terrible. I just will not be with a fat man again. I'd rather be with a short or ugly man, if I had to choose. And your ex probably did overheat. Physically strenuous activities, like sex, with all that extra weight is just too much for them to handle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:56 PM
24

The same bra size! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:45 PM
68

The same bra size! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:44 PM
21

It's definitely the no BS attitude. I have picked this up more and more as I get older, and it helps the scrotes understand pretty quick that I'm not interested. And they ARE bad at guessing ages. I am in my late-twenties, but they usually guess I'm in my early-twenties, and one predatory scrote even asked me if I was still in high school. There is no way I look like I'm in high school.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:57 PM
8

It's definitely the no BS attitude. I have picked this up more and more as I get older, and it helps the scrotes understand pretty quick that I'm not interested. And they ARE bad at guessing ages. I am in my late-twenties, but they usually guess I'm in my early-twenties, and one predatory scrote even asked me if I was still in high school. There is no way I look like I'm in high school.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:54 PM
32

Exactly. You're the age they want now, but in 10 years when you're 30 and they're 40, they're not going to appreciate that they have a woman a whole decade younger than them, they're just going to be interested in the new crop of 19-year-olds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:39 PM
36

I always think this is silly too. They don't just want a woman that is X years younger than them, they want a woman that is X years old (usually teens-early 20s), so even if they do manage to con some woman decades younger than them into a relationship, they'll still be lusting after someone even younger than her in a few years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:32 PM
16

I've never seen a man call himself "king" or talk about his "kingdom" that wasn't a narcissistic piece of garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:18 PM
36

If I remember right, it's a reference to a post where a young scrote broke his arms, and his parents could tell he was depressed, so his own mother jerked him off and eventually had sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:22 PM
63

They're so unoriginal, and they keep doing it because the other ones still upvote it anyway. Years later, a ton of them still think someone simply saying "broken arms" is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:27 PM
6

No. Most women are just conditioned to say that. I would have said the same thing in the past when I was with a small man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:44 PM
10

Even though most said it didn't matter, males in the comments were still getting pissy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:40 PM
5

Is it possible that you've never been with a man with a decent sized penis, or that was good at sex? I ask, because I used to think that I wasn't very interested in sex either, until I was with a man with a larger size and better skill than previous partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:37 PM
20

We're even encouraged to be with undesirable men. Attractive men are all jerks and abusers, and we are shallow sluts if we go for them. Good (classically attractive) women go for ugly/awkward/short/small-dicked men, because unattractive men are kind and treat women well. I honestly have never even seen it suggested to men to be with an unattractive woman. In movies, and by society and men's social cirlcles, men are encouraged to go for the hottest woman that will take him, even if he is disgusti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:32 PM
15

Haha! Soooo many salty guys in the comments saying the women are ugly. Just say you have a small dick and move on. When y'all stop having preferences about every aspect of our bodies, down to the shape of our noses, then maybe I'll have a little more sympathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:11 PM
56

I know penis size is one of the few things a scrote actually can't control about their appearance, but it really makes me mad that society tells women we only care about personality. It's so not true. I really wasted a lot of time with a couple of guys that I was not attracted to at all(who actually didn't turn out to have that great of personalities overall) because they were "nice". I really used to believe that I had a low libido, but I later found out that my libido is pretty high when I'm w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:22 PM
2

Amazing job, Ladies! I admire them so much for standing up for themselves to this nasty old creep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:20 PM
1

You're absolutely right. I learned the hard way, but at least I eventually learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:14 PM
5

So true though. I can see a man a decade younger and think, yeah, he's an attractive man, but the thought of being with someone who was so recently a child grosses me the fuck out. They may look like men, but when you interact with them, it's very obvious that they aren't on the same level. I don't see how scrotes can do it without being disgusted with themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:30 PM
14

That's why I barely have respect for the ones who quit anymore. Basically all of them quit because it caused ED, was affecting their time management, made them feel lack of control, or because their girlfriend gave them an ultimatum. It's never because they feel guilty for the trauma it is causing their female partners or women in the industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:54 PM
3

It is embarrassing. I never did this publicly or anything, but I would tell my LVX how lucky I was to have him, because I thought it was a loving thing to do, and it totally backfired. If you say how you're the lucky one enough, people won't think you're just being cute, they (including the LVM himself) will actually start to believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:56 PM
16

For real. Males in the wild are usually beautiful, strong, and talented, and have to work hard to earn the right to mate with females, while broke, ugly, weak, unskilled human scrotes are over here expecting us to jump their bones because they're "nice".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:38 PM
8

Also, so many men lowkey think they're smarter than their girlfriends. And they will despise you if they aren't. I was smarter and more capable than my LVX (I'm not highly educated, he's just immature and a ditz), and he felt emasculated by that and was upset that I didn't look up to him (since I guess women are supposed to look up to men simply for the fact that they're men). I believe, in addition to pornsickness, that this is one of the reasons low value men often go for significantly younger…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:01 PM
4

How to rebut things scrotes say like that would be a good idea for a post. So much of their gaslighting, or just stupid things they say in general, falls apart if you simply question or comment back in disagreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:26 PM
3

Now they're getting it! Yes, scrotes. This is a circlejerk. This is a safe space. We only want to hear from like minded women. We're not interested in being gaslighted enlightened with your FACTS and LOGIC™. We are familiar with your manipulation tactics. You can't trick us into to letting you in by convincing us that if we were rational, we wouldn't be afraid of alternative viewpoints. We already know your viewpoints, we just don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:38 PM
3

Many of them will openly admit that they don't put any effort into asking women out because they "know they'll get rejected anyway, because foids will reject them for being short/ugly/fat/whatever" and they don't want to give us an ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:25 PM
9

A long time ago, I saw some incels commenting their usual shit about women (it may have even been in the actual incel sub, I can't remember), so I commented basically asking "Why do you think women would want to be with you if you talk about them like this?" and they were saying that they only vent like this online, and don't actually talk about women like that in real life. You can't tell me that they call women foids, say all this depraved stuff about assaulting us, and completely despise us, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:14 PM
6

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:56 PM
16

WOW! After 3,650 days of dating, she picks THE night before he was going to propose. What are the odds??? And I bet their relationship was going perfectly, and the break up came out of NOWHERE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:58 AM
5

Thanks. I would still be interested in finding some material about it of anyone has a particularly good article or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:49 AM
18

I have never understood the "it was in the past" thing. Like, so? Literally everything that happened was in the past. Do things just magically go away because time has progressed? And, it's funny how none of the good things they did are ever "in the past".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:13 AM
17

Does anyone have any material I could show a male, who has quit porn for selfish reasons, how harmful it is for their female partners, or just women in general?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:59 AM
2

In my experience, any time I leave a man, he reverts back to eating mostly fast food or simple food that a tween could make like ramen, frozen dinners, and hot dogs. The housekeeping becomes pretty much non-existent, except when they absolutely have no choice, like needing laundry or a clean dish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:41 AM
22

Insane how they see women being provided for financially by a man as her using him for his money, but they don't see using a woman for domestic duties as using her for her labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:11 AM
9

I HATE ironing! I only do it if I absolutely have to. Luckily my job doesn't require fancy clothing, and I don't go to many formal events. If I can mist an item with water and throw it in the dryer to get the wrinkles out, I will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:05 AM
1

Lol, right? What the hell are they on??? It's all but impossible to get a man to do his fair share of child rearing, and these scrotes think they're going to raise a whole ass child by themselves without a woman to pass it off to? That, combined with the fact that it will be way too expensive for the average man to afford, and I don't think it's going to be the future in the way that type thinks it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:54 AM
1

Any GIRL??? around 40-years-old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:09 AM
5

I've never heard of the syndrome but I'm certain it doesn't apply to this woman. We know that scrotes paint themselves in a better light than they should, and even still, he admits that everything else about her is great, except for this one thing that he doesn't like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:36 AM
7

I was with an ugly man (or two). I can tell you firsthand, his personality didn't make up for the lack of attraction. Now that I have been with someone who I was actually attracted to, I will never be with someone that I'm not. It makes zero sense to be with someone you're not sexually attracted to if you're going to be having sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:18 AM
8

I so wish this could be posted to a certain relationship subreddit to see what the scrotes and pickmes have to say to genuine questions like yours. What do we get out of dating undesirable men? Why isn't it seen as important for women to be sexually aroused by our partners? I really don't think they consider that we might need some kind of benefit from marriage too, or if they do, they think the warm fuzzies we get from providing our vaginas and companionship to needy ugly guys should be enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:07 PM
5

On it's own a single sandwich doesn't seem like a big deal, but it's almost guaranteed to be the first thing in a long line of compromises where the woman will probably end up feeling unfulfilled and uncared for. That's what I think people misunderstand or intentionally misconstrue. All they see is "Wow! That woman is going to end things with a great guy over ONE $10 sandwich?! What a greedy b*tch!", when, like you said, it's not about the one sandwich. It's that how a person acts in the beginni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:03 PM
23

Even if he's offended, he should at least be able to see her point. If you are going to do worse with the next guy than your ex, why not just go back to the ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:30 AM
1

Oh, that's good to hear! I'm amazed it went that smoothly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:01 PM
74

Exactly. It's a problem that they create for themselves. If they had any standards beyond "has a hole for my dick to go in", then we wouldn't have so many options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:52 AM
29

I wish we could make every woman that posts on relationship subs (or just every woman in general) understand this. Too many women think they need the approval of scrotes and pickmes to be bothered by something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:46 PM
1

It does suck to have to dial it back if you're generally a friendly person, but you don't have get rid of it completely, just save the extra friendly attitude for your women customers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:53 AM
25

Haha, my ex saw attention from other women that wasn't even there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:40 AM
18

Maybe when I see these same scrotes give a fraction of a fuck they give about "scrote" towards slurs toward women, then I will take them seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:26 PM
8

I also work retail. I am not trying to blame you for scrote behavior, this is just kind of how I manage interactions with them. My first piece of advice is to always be polite to male customers, but never friendly. You can give good customer service without acting like their bff. Basically, just tone down the peppy attitude around them. They say they like your necklace? You give them a quick "Thank you!", not "Awwwww, thaaank yooouuu! You're so sweet! My mom gave it to me for my birthday." Don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:51 PM
6

Yes! Support for what??? Existing in a fucking hospital room???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:14 PM
5

Fuck that pickme!🤬 How about I'm the one who just went through contractions for HOURS, pickme? I'm the one who ripped my perineum, the one who can't walk to the bathroom alone because my legs are numb from the epidural. The one who's fucking BLEEDING! Poor fucking dad sleeping on the couch in the hospital room while I can't sleep at all. Won't someone think of the MALE???🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 Edit: And yes, that's totally why the overwhelming majority of fathers subpar parents, because they didn't get equal s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:05 PM
6

This is definitely the answer. Of course they don't believe we're all fat and ugly. Statistically, it's just not possible. It wouldn't even matter though if we all looked like Tammy from 1000-lb. Sisters, men have no standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:01 PM
46

No way! Do people actually say broke men have good dick???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:46 AM
9

I Will Always Love You (and my ex) Smells Like Teens Man of Constant Excuses - The Crusty Bottom Boys Dirty Little Secret (I Still Have Tinder) Stickwitu (Unless My Coworker Finally Accepts My Advances)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:41 AM
146

They love appealing to biology to justify why cheating and fucking 14-year-olds is normal, but they always want to ignore it when it comes this fact. Lurking scrotes, the next time a woman wants someone bigger than you, stronger than you, more successful, with a bigger penis, bigger house, and more money, don't blame her. It's just biology! 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 07:48 PM
21

I see it as him showing you right away how unequal things would be if you two were in a relationship together. On first dates, and in the beginning of a relationship, men always put their best foot forward. They aren't going to suddenly start treating you better or putting in more effort once they already have you, so if his best foot forward is going halfsies on dinner, when he knows full well that you spent much more time and money than he did doing your hair, makeup, nails, and picking an out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:04 PM
3

Yet I've seen scrotes refer to actual grown women as "adult girls".🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:00 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:57 PM
4

Yes, exactly. You can be a really mature 19-year-old (or whatever age you are), but you're still a 19-year-old. Being extra responsible or emotionally intelligent or whatever compared to most people your age doesn't magically make you identical to an older person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:39 AM
7

I can't stand that excuse. Age gap people always say that. Like, maybe she is. Maybe she really is the most mature 19 year old that ever lived, but even then, she would still not be anywhere near equal to a 48-year-old man in maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:18 AM
16

I would never be a stay-at-home mom again. I would rather work to earn just enough to pay the babysitter than stay home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:25 PM
5

Scrotes would fuck their own female cousins, no way in hell I would EVER allow a female friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:03 AM
2

This has to be fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:16 AM
12

I kind of feel bad for her. I mean, this is super embarrassing, pickme supreme b.s. she's talking, but he is clearly making her feel insecure about his exes for her to feel the need to write this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:45 AM
6

That's exactly what he's saying. Literally just looking for ways to soften the blow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:40 AM
7

I guarantee that's what it was. I used to think I had a low libido too until I was with someone who actually made sex enjoyable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:38 AM
16

He's trying to dress up his desire to bully women into immediate sex by claiming it's some scientific phenomena. Lol, so true! "I'm not a slut, I just fuck women on the first date for the eMoTiOnAl CoNnEcTiOn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:49 PM
10

Yep. Obviously some people are less conventionally attractive than others, but few people are so ugly that being pleasant and well-maintained wouldn't help them attract a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:09 PM
5

Haha, wow! I didn't know she was like this. That's awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:50 PM
9

It had to have never been cleaned even once. Even when I have let the shower go longer than it should, it has never looked anywhere close to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:33 PM
12

She has no respect for the ex for not cleaning, but respects and has sex with this scrote who equally didn't clean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:26 PM
17

I don’t want to try to bring you down Then don't spend several paragraphs doing so. She literally says at the end that it's not the same, but just enough. And guiding your child absolutely IS a big part of parenting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 12:24 PM
14

Woman: I caught my boyfriend naked with another woman in our bedroom. Is this normal? Reddit scrote: I don't see a problem. It was probably his coworker and they were both just getting dressed for work, and she was at your house because they were carpooling today. Also, you should have knocked before you walked in and invaded his privacy like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:15 AM
72

Reddit males are so fucking ridiculous. If you don't literally catch your man with his dick in another woman, they'll act like everything is fine, and you're just being unreasonable. They will go to incredible lengths to cast doubt for some scrote they've never even met, and their gaslighting works so well that women are asking stupid questions like "Is it normal for my boyfriend's female friend to have a key to his house?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:57 AM
38

Scrotes are always stunned when their wives or girlfriends won't give them a 15th fucking "second" chance, as if SHE is the one throwing away their relationship for nothing. Like he really can't understand why his wife might give up after him repeating the same disrespect over and over?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:26 PM
127

😂 You're right! This "planning for months" was probably just one of them saying, "Honey, we should take the kids to the museum sometime this Spring when the weather gets nicer." and the other saying "Oh, yeah. That would be fun."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:10 PM
140

He probably actually sees it as "little shit" because all he does is load the dishwasher once every 2 weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:52 PM
5

So only an LVM will wait 3 months to have sex, but a HVM will make you do it immediately? I think he's got it confused lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:31 PM
10

Yes, PLEASE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:56 AM
35

I'm glad you realize this. Any 30-year-old man worth dating would be decent enough to not prey on a woman in her early 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:58 PM
32

It's most definitely male projection, and could be easily disproven. Get a group of people in that age range, half women, half men, and ask them which of the following they would prefer: A) An attractive, loving, committed spouse and two beautiful children (or puppies) to live a content life with, OR B) The ability to have sex with as many hot and enthusiastic partners as they want for the rest of their lives. Who do you think is going to pick B more often?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:50 PM
1

It's most definitely male projection, and could be easily disproven. Get a group of people in that age range, half women, half men, and ask them which of the following they would prefer: A) An attractive, loving, committed spouse and two beautiful children (or puppies) to live a content life with, OR B) The ability to have sex with as many hot and enthusiastic partners as they want for the rest of their lives. Who do you think is going to pick B more often?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:50 PM
1

It's most definitely male projection, and could be easily disproven. Get a group of people in that age range, half women, half men, and ask them which of the following they would prefer: A) An attractive, loving, committed spouse and two beautiful children (or puppies) to live a content life with, OR B) The ability to have sex with as many hot and enthusiastic partners as they want for the rest of their lives. Who do you think is going to pick B more often?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:50 PM
16

Fuck that. I, like most pickmes, was always the more thoughtful one in my relationship. I would write thoughful cards and give gifts for every major occasion (birthday, Christmas, anniversary, etc.), compliment his appearance often, ask about his feelings regularly, buy him little snacks and such on my way home from work, anything I could think of to make him feel appreciated, on top of doing the normal expected womanly tasks, i.e., everything else it takes to run a household. What did I get in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:19 AM
37

I came to a similar conclusion for myself. Hormones may have the affect of making my reactions to things stronger, but they never caused me to create problems out of thin air like people think happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:20 PM
6

That's what I was thinking. Like, isn't she's basically saying that addicts don't have a problem with their addiction until it causes a problem? Duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:58 PM
13

Exactly. Most women could charge money for sex, while most men have to beg for someone to take it for free. It is just not the insult they want it to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:26 AM
27

It's a shame. Women like sex too. Scrotes could be having so much more sex if they just weren't fucking idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:55 AM
17

That makes me so mad. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:26 AM
11

You're right. I know that there is no wall or anything when it comes to men, but I guess I was still unknowingly applying that to myself as far as moving up in life goes. Now I just have to figure out where to start lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:26 PM
24

Thanks for saying this. Sometimes it feels like it will be impossible to level up, because I'm at the end of my 20s, and I spent the entirety of them being in LTRs and having kids, and I've gone basically nowhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:59 PM
8

That's my favorite part! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:29 AM
47

Teenage girls won't stop victimizing meeeeee! How was I supposed to know she was 14 and not 26 like she said??? It's sooo hard being a sexy balding, 5'8, 45-year old man. These attractive children just won't leave me alone!😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:25 PM
12

They're so worried about being emasculated, but then allow their wives to treat them like actual 4-year-olds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:24 PM
28

"ThEy'Re GoNnA dEgRaDe Us AnYwAy. MiGhT aS wElL mAkE mOnEy OfF oF iT!🤡"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:54 PM
8

A good indicator in my mind of who is genuinely in it for women, is look which side the males are on. Males are naturally going to choose what leads to them coming out on top. So, which do more men side with - FDS/radical feminism or liberal feminism? Oppressors don't want to give up their power. That's why they're scared of FDS and desperately trying to convince us that sex-positive, male-centered liberal feminism is the correct feminism. Sometimes they'll out their true motives by crying about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:49 PM
5

Shut up!😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:24 PM
8

I think "Can't make a fiancé out of a fuckboy" is my favorite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:33 PM
11

It's an extremely hard pill to swallow. I haven't been single in my entire adult life, and I would love to have someone who loves me as much as I loved them, but porn is a dealbreaker, and I can't imagine finding a man who isn't ruined by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:11 PM
12

It sounds harsh I know, but I follow the nofap subreddit, and it really disgusts and saddens me to read sometimes. No joke, they'll be like "I relapsed for my 5th time after 3 days, but I'm totally ready to turn my life around for good this time, guys!", and it's sad, because statistically, they're almost guaranteed to fail, but it's also disgusting at the same time knowing how addicted they are to something so awful. And like you said, they only care to change their porn use because it's affect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:55 PM
17

That's such bullshit. If you need your woman to pretend to be weaker or less intelligent, earn less or achieve less, or put on an act in any way to artificially make you seem and feel more masculine, then you are not actually masculine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:00 AM
35

"Why are you calling the police, KaReN?! It's not a crime to ask a woman out!" When a man wants sex outside of a committed relationship, there is no way to win. Decline him in ANY way at all, you're a bitch. Accept his offer, you're an easy slut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:01 AM
42

Most women have LOWER standards for a man's looks than we should. If we all only wanted "Chad", then the majority of us would be shit out of luck, because gorgeous men who maintain their appearances are so rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:38 AM
16

So, so true. Why should you give a person a chance? I wasted the prime of my life with the "nice guy" that I gave a chance. I loved him in the way that you would love a good friend, but I never felt romantic feelings for him, because that's all he ever should have been - a good friend. Kindness, generosity, and a similar sense of humor are things you should look for in a partner, but I think where people get confused is that they assume if a man has all of those things, then it automatically mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:35 PM
4

And more proof that when these scrotes choose to date (prey on) a young woman it's not about her being "sOoO mAtUrE fOr HeR aGe", it's because she's a completely normal maturity for for a young woman, and that's what they're targeting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:59 PM
6

I would definitely say it's to place blame on the woman. It gives the male a one-time free pass on any and everything she hasn't thought to explicitly prohibit, and gaslights the woman into feeling like the male's indiscretion is her fault, or at the very least, not his, because she was too inept to set boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:36 PM
1

I personally wouldn't be friends with a predatory scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:17 PM
6

I have no idea! I'm in my late 20s, and 35 even feels too old for me, I can't imagine wanting a 45-year-old a decade ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:07 PM
5

I am so exhausted from seeing people defend teenage girls dating grandpa scrotes. How could you possibly think a middle-aged man dating a 17 year old = gross and predatory, but the day she turns 18, everything is cool as long as it's "consensual"? I feel so bad for the women too, wasting what should be the most carefree time of their lives on some wrinkly, balding old man. Of course the predatory old scrotes would be happy. Nobody is questioning that part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:25 PM
59

So she attended a whole date just so she could con a man into giving her a free ride...right back to her own house?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:52 AM
3

I don't use tiktok personally, but from the comments sections of the tiktoks people post on FDS, I have gathered that most people there are teenagers or younger children, so I wouldn't take what they're saying too seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:36 AM
19

Yep. The most dramatic people I've known are the ones who constantly talk about how much they hate drama and complain about how everyone around them is dramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:37 PM
14

Yes. I don't understand why people are so trusting of men around their children. I would barely want an uncle talking to my daughter like that, much less some unrelated scrote. What the hell would some man be talking about with a tween girl for that long? It won't be my kids, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:16 PM
22

For the love of god, young ladies, please listen to this post. I am in a really bad position right now because of the choices I have made with men. The attention feels nice, I know, but men can ruin your life. The most important thing is to be financially independent before you get with a man, and NEVER quit your job. In fact, rely as little as possible on as few people as possible, even your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:52 PM
3

I have never understood why, whenever a shitty person dies, people suddenly act like they were a saint. Such a weird phenomenon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:22 AM
6

He is the most greedy, controlling sack of shit on the face of this planet!😡 She gave this scrote, who she never even had a relationship with a FREE FUCKING BABY at the expense of her comfort, vagina, and skin, when she could have easily had an abortion or given him up for adoption, but no, she was being an extremely selfless, generous human being. Not only did she gift this waste of life a free surrogacy, which normally costs TENS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS, she is paying child support for him, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:07 PM
49

That is so crazy to me that anyone could believe women are responsible for the degradation of the family. It's so obvious that we are the ones who work hard and put up with so much shit to try to hold our families together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:45 AM
11

Wow, yeah, good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:32 AM
20

Same. This is a good example for why I don't believe in unconditional love, even for your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:56 PM
17

YEEEEPPPPP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:24 PM
53

I agree. Every time I see someone not social distancing, I think how rude and uncomfortable it always was to stand that close to somebody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:38 AM
7

I don't think it's a medical issue. It sounds like he has just let himself go (doesn't exercise or dress well anymore). To gain weight, you have to take in more calories than you burn, so if he's really eating healthy foods in proper portions at home, he is definitely eating a shit ton of garbage at work. Sedentary lifestyle and excess calories can make you pack it on fast .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:08 AM
25

I guess they just don't care because society puts way less importance on their appearances. Like you though, I am still amazed at how little they care. You would think their constant desire to get laid would at least lead them to putting in a little more effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:56 AM
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You scrotes like to lurk and read everything we say, well this is the thread we actually want you to read. Listen to what the women here are saying. Think about why it is you who still wants to have sex, but not your wife. Don't be defensive, really try to think about it. Does she get to orgasm every time you two have sex like you do? Do you do adequate foreplay (not just fingering her to get it wet enough to stick in)? Do you ignore her often for video games or TV? Do you do a good job helping …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:13 AM
22

Ew. I can't believe this was my life for years. Why the hell did I ever believe just giving him a chance was a good idea?😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:42 AM
8

Poor scrote. I'm sorry that comments that you shouldn't even have seen because this is a women-only sub made you and your tiny wiener sad. Thank goodness we women don't have to experience body-shaming every single day in every corner of the internet and in real life. If only we knew your struggle. I think it's hilarious when they let you know how much you've gotten under their skin. That's why I keep my DMs open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:00 AM
16

😂😂😂 Thank you for the laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:49 AM
10

It will happen. It took me months before I got one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:30 AM
5

Awww, thanks!😁 I hope you're doing well too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:54 PM
3

I really think you're right about being expected to just go with whoever picks us. They want us to "give the nice guy a chance" (nice usually being codeword for meek and unattractive), and once we get with him, we have to accept everything about him (poor hygiene, porn/gaming addiction, laziness, fetishes), lest we be accused of being bad or controlling partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:54 PM
23

Oh, for sure. A similar situation was one of the factors I broke up with my ex for. He has a fetish for big asses, and mine is not large, so he secretly resented me for that. That is why I say I would rather someone that isn't completely satisfied by my appearance not date me at all. I am not an unattractive woman, and could definitely find someone who likes all of my features, so I don't want to settle for someone who doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:34 PM
17

I will be EXTREMELY cautious about trying to make a man feel good about his appearance in future relationships. I had been with a very unattractive man before my recent ex, so I didn't know how massive an averagely attractive-looking man's ego could be. I would always tell him how beautiful and amazing he was, mininized his physical flaws and told him I loved them, and just everything I would want to hear myself, because I loved him, and duh, you want to be uplifting to your partner, right? Huuu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:08 PM
24

I would rather someone not date me to begin with if they are not completely satisfied with my appearance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:47 PM
12

For real! I'm discussing my preferences in a small space of the internet meant just for women. When I go on any other part of the internet, or even this very website, I am bombarded with men's opinions on mine and other women's bodies. I can't participate in whole fucking social media websites because the objectification of women's bodies is inescapable, and they are detrimental to my current goal of rebuilding my self-esteem. How DARE they have the audacity to complain about a few women in ONE …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:22 PM
15

Yes!!! I just made a comment about this before I saw yours. If you're not allowed to choose a partner based on any criteria, then what are you basing compatibility on? Are you just supposed to pick a random person and force it to work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:50 PM
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Slide 8 has me wondering: What characteristics does the mainstream think is ok to choose a partner based on? People, like the commenter on that slide, scoff at the idea of us choosing a partner based on "shallow" characteristics like penis size or financial stability(?), and instead encourage us to "find a man you connect with deeply", but I often see women being encouraged to accept and overlook deeper incompatibilities too, like their partner's unwanted porn use, hobbies, mental health status,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:43 PM
1

Exactly. I was in a relationship where I rarely wanted to have sex. I wasn't trying to punish him, but the fact that he was super unhygienic, ignored me for video games, and that he never cared about my needs when we did have sex, left me with zero desire. I would actually have sex with him anyway occasionally, just to get him off my back about it for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:21 AM
4

How is it emotional abuse? If I'm not having sex with a boyfriend when I'm mad/upset/annoyed at him, it's not a form of control, it's me not being in the mood to have sex. I think it's pretty normal to not have sex with someone you're not happy with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:59 AM
10

"You're such a serious girl" 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:27 AM
13

That's what I don't get when older scrotes go for significantly younger women. Like, ok, I could have your old ass who will look and act elderly way before I do, or I could have an attractive guy around my age who will actually age alongside me. What would be the benefit of picking the old scrote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:47 PM
9

Lol, right? I guess his soul is like 90 or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:42 PM
27

Damn, sorry you have to miss out on a hottie like this. 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:40 PM
7

😱 The fucking audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:20 PM
34

I can't fucking stand this. Man sees one YouTube ad objectifying men and suddenly knows exactly what it feels like to be a woman, and is shocked and horrified at what we have to go through. Then pickmes kiss his ass because he's giving us precious male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:59 PM
73

Yep. Porn addiction is probably what convinced my ex he was such a stud, despite being single and celibate for years before we were together. We had sex almost every day, and now he's back to being single again. Men seriously overestimate their sexual market value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:39 PM
7

😂 What a gross, but hilarious ending there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:58 AM
2

I mean, I see it as both. Yeah, your parents should have taught you, and it's shitty if they didn't, but at some point you have to take responsibility for your own life and teach yourself what they didn't. Like, if you're 18 and don't know basic things like how to cook simple meals and do the laundry that's on them, but if you're 25 and still can't do those things, that's on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:55 AM
29

Hell yes! I'm doing the same. I'll be damned if another woman has to raise my son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:13 AM
10

Lol. That was 100% him telling on himself about his small peepee. He probably didn't even think it was loose, but was just trying to sound cool to his friends. The only time I've ever heard someone use "hot dog down a hallway" to describe someone's vagina was guys gossiping in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:55 PM
10

I'm 5'4, and even I have been made to feel tall because his ex and his general type was shorter. If they want to make you feel too anything, they will, whether it's true or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:01 PM
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We're visual, it's just that the average man is way less attractive and maintained than the average woman, so most women end up settling and convincing themselves it doesn't matter (me in the past). We definitely notice the guys who put effort into themselves. Also, it's funny how they think women aren't visual and their looks don't matter, while simultaneously thinking we will all accept nothing less than the mythical 6'4 bad boy supermodel Chad Thundercock with a 10 inch dick and a six-pack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:40 AM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:44 PM
25

I see this as a false dichotomy. You don't have to "entertain" men for free or for money. You also have the options to only spend time with men when you are mutually benefiting, or to not "entertain" them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:27 AM
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I see this as a false dichotomy. You don't have to "entertain" men for free or for money. You also have the options to only spend time with men when you are mutually benefiting, or to not "entertain" them at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:27 AM
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All for them to just be grossed out by our post baby bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:00 AM
6

Poor tiny dick men. Men are the true victim of porn's unrealistic beauty standards. We women have no idea what it's like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:30 AM
6

Most women in the world can't get boob or ass jobs. That shit costs tens of thousands of dollars. I mean, if any lurking scrotes want to give me the money for it, let me know, but until then...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:22 AM
12

That last paragraph... you literally cannot win no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:58 PM
15

Wow. This really opened my eyes. So accurate, yet I've never thought about it this way. Saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:03 PM
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Congratulations!😁 On whether or not FDS works, I don't see how it could not work. Either you end up with a HVM, or you stay single and avoid LVM. Either way, you're better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:15 PM
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I can only get hard for these women who look nothing like my wife, and never her, but it's not like I'm comparing them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:10 PM
39

This is exactly it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:26 PM
47

Kink shaming is GOOD! I'll keep saying it. Shameful things deserve to be shamed. That's how we keep society from falling apart. And who gives a fuck what some nasty who likes to fart in women's faces thinks? Why should I care if I offend them by being grossed out? Isn't that part of the draw for people with gross or violent kinks anyway, that they're taboo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:34 PM
26

Can we also stop moaning moaning like a cat in heat the second he puts it in? My ex was surprised when I wasn't screaming during sex because his previous partner had apparently learned about sex online (I'm assuming porn) and did it the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:25 PM
4

Especially with that age gap. Like, hun, he's clearly using you for your youth, but you're afraid to take advantage of his wealth? What's the benefit of being with some old ass then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:06 PM
3

Yep. That's the only part I needed to read before I decided how I felt about their relationship. I don't care if he buys you nothing or everything you've ever wanted, he's a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:54 PM
10

It is extremely old for a girl that age. I'm over a decade older than 17, and even I wouldn't date a 37-year-old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:52 PM
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Absolutely. Any man in his mid-20s or older who would be with an 18-year-old would be with a 16-year-old or younger if he could. They just put the cutoff at 18 because they don't want to go to prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:49 PM
21

I used to really believe in CoMmUnIcAtIoN, but now I realize most of the time, the stuff women have to communicate about should never need to be discussed in the first place, and is a sign that he doesn't respect you. Like, communication only works if there is an honest lack of understanding, but most of the time men are well aware of what they should be doing, they just don't care. This man isn't unaware that his wife is unhappy about having to do all of the household labor and contributing the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:21 PM
11

He should be happy. If it did tear, and she didn't notice in time to get Plan B, he would probably be on there complaining about how she "baby trapped" him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:34 PM
14

Who cares if it's an echo chamber? This isn't a debate sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:39 PM
3

Your description of what OLD men look like is amazing!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:13 PM
5

They're definitely from porn. Unless you're a psychopath, you don't just come up with the idea to tie up and choke your sexual partner within an inch of their life on your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:10 PM
12

Yep. They WILL NOT appreciate their second chance. Males will act like losing you would absolutely shatter their world, change for a couple months MAX, and then be right back to testing your boundaries or outright doing the exact thing you left them over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:31 AM
25

I agree. I think we need to kink shame more often. If you're aroused by children or someone shitting on you, you deserve to be embarrassed about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:17 AM
2

Omg, I did that too where I went on and on about how great he was and how lucky I was to have him.🤡🤡🤡 I feel so lame for doing that now. I wasn't even trying to be fake, I just genuinely cared about him and wanted to make him feel good. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:57 AM
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Lol, yes. A person who actually gave birth and is genetically predisposed to holding more fat carrying some extra weight = gross and unacceptable A person who has never given birth and is genetically predisposed to staying lean and muscular having tits and a Santa belly = sexy???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:46 PM
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Exactly. Dad bods are objectively unattractive. Women can still look good at higher weights, because fat can be stored in places like hips, thighs, boobs, butt, which can look attractive on a woman. When men gain weight, they just get a pregnant gut and a flabby chest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:16 PM
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I'm definitely not attracted to "dad bods". I don't prefer a super muscular look, but I do prefer a reasonably fit, non-flabby body. I have given birth, and while I have stretch marks and other normal signs of pregnancy, I still maintain a healthy weight, so I expect a man that has never given birth to be able to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:02 PM
7

Yep. This was my ex. Single for 2-3 years before we got together, but still thought he was better than me, and still thought he could get any woman he wanted. Like how does it not add up to them that if they were so hot and amazing that they would have had somebody by now? It never crosses their minds that they might just be an average or below average dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:53 PM
7

I will not allow female friends, period. I don't expect to be able to have male friends either. It makes me uncomfortable, and I don't have to allow anything in a relationship that makes me feel uncomfortable, even if other people find it silly. If a man wants to keep female friends, that's completely fine, but I am not required to date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:35 PM
21

The creepers are USUALLY the friendly guy next door (family, friends, neighbors). Most children know their abusers.That's why you have to be cautious of all men, ESPECIALLY the kind paternal type who you would never suspect in a million years. Parents are much more likely to trust their children alone around the goofy youth pastor at church than some creepy alcoholic who watches neighborhood children playing through his window, and predators know this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:23 PM
26

People are soooo goddamn naive. We have intuition and fear for a reason. It's how we have survived as a species to this day. You aren't supposed to give everyone and everything a chance, you're supposed to heed red flags and avoid dangerous situations before they happen. A grown man being involved in teenage girl sports when he has no children or grandchildren on the team is a HUGE red flag. Are their parents not wondering what his interest in the team is? Why not cover a WNBA team if you're goi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:42 PM
16

Yet another example of why you shouldn't give the ugly guy a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:43 AM
15

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:08 AM
121

"And then I waited until I knew they were having sex and barged in on them. They looked shocked and embarrassed. They were frantically looking for their clothes to get dressed, until I asked 'Can I join?'. Then we all had sex together. It was so hot, and now my sister is completely cured of her depression because of the magic powers of my husbands peepee." There. I finished this scrote's fantasy story for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:53 AM
31

Yeeeeepppppppp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:59 AM
23

WoMeN aRe JuSt As BaD It GoEs BoTh WaYs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:34 AM
69

Yeah, it seems like they're just using the word "incel" to describe a generally repulsive and pathetic person. Female incels (involuntarily celibate) do not exist. Men fetishize literally everything, so even a woman with severe physical deformities or mental disability would be some male's cup of tea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:30 AM
21

This is absolutely what living with a man and trying to get any help from him is like. It's not an exaggeration. We can clearly see that this man does next to nothing in the grand scheme of things, and has to have his hand held through the little bit he actually does, but I am positive if he were to tell it, he would say he "does about half" of all the responsibilities. Mental load is the most difficult chore of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:57 AM
9

Absolutely. I'm glad it seems to be trending toward fathers helping more, but there is still more work to do, because like you said, just watching your own kids should be expected. It shouldn't even be noteworthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:31 PM
6

I fucking hate when a scrote calls me, a woman in her late twenties, a girl. I call them out on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:17 PM
25

Ugh, the "knew what she was doing". Yes, I'm sure you, a 23-year-old man, couldn't resist the advanced of the 16-year-old temptress. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:14 PM
16

Men's confidence really is astounding. Like, gorgeous women are out here crying in the mirror about being fat because their waists are a few inches thicker than they'd like, while some scrote with a scraggly beard that hasn't gotten a haircut in 4 months is probably thinking how attractive "the rugged look" is on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:30 PM
17

Yes, it is disgusting. It's nothing more than a word to make pedophiles that prey on older children feel superior to pedophiles that prey on younger children. I will always call a pedo a pedo, whether his target victims are 5 or 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:14 PM
18

Such a stupid excuse. I was with someone only 4 years younger (both in our 20s) and there was an obvious maturity difference. There is no way in hell a teenage girl is mature enough to date a grown ass man. I don't care if she has a part-time job and has been raising her younger siblings since she was 10, the brain development of an adult and child is just not equal. If it was possible for a teenager to be mature enough for a grown man to date, those pedos wouldn't want her, because the immaturi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:06 PM
29

"TeChNiCaLlY iT's EpHeBePhiLiA" Okay, pedophile. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:31 PM
38

Do you think he also wonders if Harry would have married a kind, but homely, craft store employee? Of course he doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:28 PM
18

Yes.🙄 my LVX is constantly having to be told how to take care of our child and fucking it up, but his mom thinks he's an excellent father for watching our child while I'm at work, because her NVX did literally nothing for their kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:15 PM
2

Yeah, maybe just sharing with family more. A journal is a good idea. I've been meaning to make one for him, but never got around to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:48 AM
149

Right? It's an internet company. It would be embarrassing if they admitted they didn't. But they definitely did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:48 PM
1

Haha, I got my first recently and was proud too! He wanted me to be upset by his wishing violence on me, but it really just made me feel powerful to know that, without even trying, I offended some scrote enough to make him waste his time creating a throwaway account and typing me up a message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:51 AM
3

Could anyone explain the gray rock method more? I have a child with my ex, and struggle with getting sucked back into talking to him too much due to having to talk about our child. Do I only discuss what is absolutely necessary, or is it ok to mention cute things out child did and such? It doesn't help that I feel very alone right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:59 AM
3

This goes without saying, but if you have to make fake posts on a sub to make it look bad because there aren't enough real posts to make it look bad, then maybe it's not so bad after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:30 AM
18

I love this! I'm not 30 yet, but pretty close. You are absolutely right about everything. If you were getting attention from men before the imaginary wall (25-30), you'll still be getting attention from men, young and old, after. If you spend enough time on FDS though, you'll start to care less about male attention, because you realize how cheap it is. I don't even see random male attention as a compliment anymore, because all attention from men necessarily means is that you're good enough for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:47 PM
9

Wow, really? I only got my first DM about a week ago, and I've been on here for a few months now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:57 PM
6

Thank you for the reminder. This is super helpful and needed. I, too, have regrets about putting my desire for happiness and validation before my child. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:35 PM
5

Ew. You're right. I didn't even think about his comments about the work she had done. He is 100% concerned with her, not his son. He is probably mad because he saw her stretch marks and loose skin as a punishment for her leaving him, and now he doesn't have the satisfaction of knowing her body is "ruined".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:01 PM
3

I agree that it sounds like she got coerced into giving birth, but I would still call it "goals", because doing what she is doing after the birth is basically unheard of. Most women who get manipulated into having a baby would be further manipulated into either staying with the father, or keeping and raising the baby by herself as a single mom. She is sticking to her guns and forcing him to raise the child completely on his own (not counting her generous child support).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:55 PM
9

They only ever say they want custody to hurt the woman or make her look like a b*tch for taking away his kids, when in reality like 99% of men would actually hate it if they had to be anything more than a weekend dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:27 PM
2

I am by no means shaming women who appreciate expensive things and like to be shown it through gifts, and I also think that if you are coming from a background of high wealth and social class then it should reflect in your dating life. But that personally isn't me right now. I'm glad you mentioned this. I'm trying to learn what I should expect of a partner, and sometimes it's hard to figure out, because I'm clearly not as wealthy or from as high of a social class as a lot of the commenters here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:28 PM
38

I would never trust a male rapper in a relationship. Listen to the things they say in their music - they're basically telling you what they're going to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:32 AM
30

Wowwww. Imagine having one of the worst things imaginable happen to you, and your boyfriend leaves you over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:25 PM
76

And what's stupid is they don't even mean it! Has any woman ever actually caught her man looking up women online who wear no makeup, have average-looking body parts, and are generally less flashy than her? Of course not. They love women who wear a lot of makeup, dress up, get their hair and nails done, have implants and fillers, and are generally high-maintenance, most men just don't have what it takes to get a woman like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:19 PM
14

Women are only worth money when they're showing me their buttholes, not when they're running their mouths!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:41 AM
13

How is having a patreon a scam? I guess every big YouTuber is a scammer too? Also, why do you care what our standards are? If you're so awesome, and were just crazy b*itches, then you should have no problem finding some low-maintenance woman who will put up with you, regardless of what we say here. How about you all go take your pickmes on a 50/50 date and leave us the fuck alone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:25 AM
18

This is super depressing. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:13 PM
9

Communication is, without a doubt, BULLSHIT! I cOmMuNiCaTeD the same exact concerns with my exes literally HUNDREDS of times, and they would change for a week at the most. Nevermind that most of the shit you have to communicate to them is common fucking sense. Telling women to communicate is nothing more than an attempt to blame us for mens' failings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:00 PM
2

Seriously. If he can afford takeout, he can afford to not let her starve. You can get a pound of spaghetti, a jar of sauce, a box of frozen garlic bread, and a bag of frozen vegetables at Walmart, and have enough food to feed 4 people plenty¹ for like $6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:21 PM
23

That was one of the worst things I've ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:39 AM
28

Men have cell phones nowadays. They can call police, a friend, roadside assistance, find directions, pretty much anything on their phone. Pretty much everyone has one nowadays. If he insists he doesn't have one, move along, that's not your problem. He can head into the nearest business or find another man to help him. If you two are out in the middle of nowhere and there are no businesses nearby for him to borrow a phone? All the more reason to not stop and let him use yours. If he's having a he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:43 PM
8

I really don't see how I'm not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:49 PM
4

I just hate this. Super hairy men gross me out. Most men aren't in shape either so they're just some soft, saggy, hairy mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:40 PM
3

Ah, I see. Thanks for the explanation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:48 PM
10

Interesting. I would like to hear more about this if you ever feel like explaining more. You are saying men don't care about the attractiveness of pornstars or women that they're having sex with, but do care when it's a random woman or someone they're not having sex with? I wonder why that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:14 AM
3

Ew. I'm a few years older than you, and even I wouldn't want a 35 year old. You deserve someone who will age with you, not a whole ass decade faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:47 PM
26

Am I the only one that prefers smoother men? I'm fine with leg hair, trimmed pubic hair, and light hair on the rest of the body, but when they look like a yeti on the chest, back and butt, it's a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:49 PM
18

They definitely know the difference. It's just their little way of trying to get back at us for not letting them say whatever the fuck they want anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:56 PM
31

If you don't want to get falsely accused of rape, you shouldn't be at parties alone. Always be near a friend so you're never in a situation where you're alone with a woman. Don't drink too much, or you're begging to get accused. If you wear sexy clothes to attract women to you, you're asking for it. Maybe you should be more picky about the kind of people you hang around. Maybe we need to start telling them the kinds of things they tell us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:46 PM
14

It's so stupid when they say not all men. Like... no shit. Nobody thinks that literally all men do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:28 PM
8

Hey, fellow vegans! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:19 PM
3

🤮 I'm really sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:09 AM
7

Right. That makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:21 AM
10

Men who hate their wives bodies after giving birth are right on up there with pedophiles in my book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:19 AM
6

This is 100% true. Exactly what my first relationship was like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:16 AM
5

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:13 AM
27

"My wife cooks me 3 meals a day, and I repay her by spending all my free time on the couch watching ESPN and farting. Why won't she just hug me?😥"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:06 AM
7

Very good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:58 AM
4

I would feel sympathy for them too, if it wasn't almost always their fault. I was in a dead bedroom relationship for years. When we weren't doing sexual activities, he was sitting in his chair playing video games the entire time he was home. I would even ask him to just come hang out with my while I cooked so I wouldn't be alone, and I would give up a couple minutes in, and tell him he could just go back to playing because he would just stand there and stare and ask "Well what am I supposed to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:42 AM
13

I use NVM as no value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:02 AM
3

Yes, thank goodness he clarified has morals so we wouldn't think he was some sort of creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:04 PM
5

They directly compare us to these people. As if women who are fed up with dating men are in any way comparable to creeps that stalk children for fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:47 PM
12

And nowadays, there's no reason anyway. He can look up directions on his phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:32 PM
12

I don't understand. Even I, as an average-sized (not big or buff) woman, try to avoid making children and other women feel like I'm following them. I don't see how men are either just so unaware or don't care about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:20 PM
11

This is exactly the kind of male I don't want. We would butt heads so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:11 PM
7

Awww! Thanks! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:03 PM
4

Absolutely disgusting. Saying she had no reason to be scared 🙄. Yeah, I'm sure this waste of life totally wouldn't have hurt her if he got the chance. /s And these creeps can't fathom why nobody wants to have sex with them...smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:15 PM
17

Any man who would say "Not all men are like that", really means "Not all men are like that, but I am though."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:57 PM
4

For real. If it's all about "muh biology", then why are they trying to fund an abortion as soon as they find out the biology worked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:05 AM
3

I agree. They think this makes their cheating look better, but it actually just makes them look worse. Like, I'd rather know someone cheated on me because I treated them like garbage and made them feel unloved than know they ruined our relationship just because they wanted to jizz in a new hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:00 AM
60

Yes! Female everything for me. There is nothing that men could understand about women that a woman couldn't understand better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:08 AM
52

Prostitution isn't just a personal choice either. It affects all women. How many women are pressured into sex because a man paid for their dinner on a date? How many women and girls are solicited for nudes or videos online? Prostitution teaches men that all women are for sale for the right price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:18 PM
15

Hahahaha!🤣 Thank you for this mental picture!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:50 PM
10

Yes! Any time a male shows up looking for attention and gives an opinion that shows he's nOt LiKe OtHeR gUys, all the pickmes kiss his ass for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:56 PM
5

They absolutely don't peak later, they're just worried about aging like we are, and telling themselves that their prime is later in life is just a cope. I mean, think about it, what is supposed to be better physically about a man in his 40s vs a man in his 20s? His hair is only getting grayer and more bald. His muscles don't look firm anymore (if they ever did), and he is physically weaker than a young man. His stamina is lower, his penis doesn't work as well, he starts getting a gut and saggy m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:47 PM
11

Hahaha! 😂 OMG! So out of all of the ridiculous things men think are gay, actually being gay isn't one of them?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:35 AM
5

Can't wash your ass, can't use a straw, can't be 24 years old... Life must be exhausting as a scrote, having to memorize and avoid all of the numerous things that can make you gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:31 AM
65

Exactly. He would cheat on the hard-to-get woman too, because with guys like this, it has nothing to do with who you are, and everything to do with who they are. Sure, he'd be happy he got his ultimate prize and show her off for a while, but then the novelty would wear off, and he'd be off again looking for a new conquest. Guys like this want quantity above quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:21 AM
13

I don't trust ANY man that wants to teach/coach exclusively teenage girls. I just don't see what innocent reason they could have for it. Like, you're not the same age or gender as them, what genuine connection could you feel with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:54 PM
5

I'd say good looking because that's actually how I feel at this point. No more giving ugly guys "a chance". I don't need someone insanely gorgeous, but he at least needs to be someone I would identify as attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:32 PM
5

I think he was using him as an example of ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:59 PM
11

Good point. They manage to correctly perform tasks and learn new ones at work, so why can't they do the same at home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:18 PM
22

Yep. No man that's not a rape apologist or a rapist himself would say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:51 PM
8

I will pick "misandry" every time. If he's a good man, he will understand my cautiousness. If he is a bad man, then I don't care how he feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:47 PM
51

FUCK YOU, VICE! We don't have to fuck, date, or give a chance to ANYBODY, and you are owed NO explanation for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:53 AM
4

Wow. I truly can't even fathom a man putting this much effort into me (or any other woman for that matter).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:28 AM
26

The difference between us and scrotes is that we don't care what their standards are - if we don't like the scrote, we just won't date him. Scrotes on the other hand, want to force us to change our standards so they can date us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:22 AM
22

I was a SAHM for about 6 years, and I would never recommend it. I am way behind in life because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:56 AM
42

You can't win. If you turn scrotes down immediately, then then they're like "I said 'hi', not 'I want to fuck you', egotistical b-tch.", but if you wait until they make their move, they're like "Thanks for leading me on, b-tch. If you weren't looking for a relationship, you should have said so."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:37 AM
3

Lol, they have such nerve! What would an attractive young woman want to do with some ugly man nearly 2 decades older? I would be OFFENDED if some ugly old scrote thought he could get with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:07 AM
1

That's thing. They usually used up their real second chance like 5 days into the relationship. When they ask for a second chance later down the line, they've already had too many "second" chances to count.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:24 PM
7

Yeah, I guess the guys who just didn't refuse weren't satisfying at sex in general. Thinking about how ungiving most men are with sex makes me nervous to permanently move on from my most recent ex. At least he would do oral once or twice a week, and I almost never had to return the favor, except to get him hard before sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:55 PM
3

Is this a common thing for men to not do? I haven't had a lot of partners, but the ones I've had never refused (although only one did it regularly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:25 PM
5

I know it's the fault of porn, so it's no mystery why they feel this way, but it annoys me so much that they think we're supposed to be moaning like we're having the best orgasm of our life as soon as they put it in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:06 PM
2

Lol. People act as if feminism has won, and there is not still a surplus of "tradmen" willing to beat you, and force you into a life of domestic labor and terrible sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:47 PM
8

It's such a cliché, but, as I discovered from talking with my ex during our breakup, with guys like this, it's really not you, it's them. It has nothing to do with you not being pretty enough, fun enough, cool enough, or anything. They will always want what they don't have. They could have have the most attractive woman in the world as their girlfriend, and they would still be lusting after other women. If he had been in a relationship with one of those other girls from Instagram instead of you,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:52 PM
22

Ugh, they are! I see hundreds of people every day at my job, and seeing a super attractive man is a rarity. Most of them are straight up unattractive, and the rest are just ok looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:03 AM
25

It definitely matters. Most men are unattractive though and don't maintain their appearance, so we're told to overlook it and focus on personality instead, and most women just end up settling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:55 AM
2

I would have stopped there too, not because I know anything about astrology, but I'm not about to be with some man who excuses his shitty personality traits because of what time of the year he was born, like "Yeah, babe, I hit on that girl, but what can I say? You know Geminis are naturally flirtatious!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:29 PM
3

Honey, no. I wouldn't even accept one poster or figurine.🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:13 PM
8

I can't do it either (again 😬). Even if they don't have a ton of merchandise, it's still gross that they're in to sexualized cartoons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:12 PM
58

Haha! I love her! Seriously though, why aren't these pedos in prison?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 08:03 PM
22

Exactly. How many men do any of us know, who complain about not being able to get women, and their only downsides are that they're short and have ugly facial features? For me, the answer is ZERO. Almost all men who say that have some combination of either: Being obese from overeating and being too lazy to get any exercise. Being too skinny from being too lazy to even heat up a hot pocket or get any exercise. Not getting out and making an effort to find a woman, and just hoping one falls in his l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:14 PM
2

Let's pretend the victim is actually the most manipulative, money-hungry witch on earth, who is actually fine with Chris having CP of her, and is just using this to squeeze every penny she can out of a rich man. Is possessing CP still illegal? Yes. So it doesn't matter what her motives are for coming forward, she wouldn't have anything to sue him over if he hadn't committed a crime. Plus, it is very telling that scrotes are more worried about a woman hypothetically manipulating a situation conce…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:50 AM
4

It IS child p*rn, they just think they're too good to be grouped in with perverts that prey on younger children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:39 AM
10

My ex scrote fell for a bot before we dated, and he is exactly the type described, huge ego and thinks he deserves a supermodel, but has nothing to offer such a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:46 PM
5

Yep. They don't care about personality at all, but expect us to care about nothing but that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:36 PM
6

What happened to your precious cOmuNiCaTioN now, fuck sticks??? Why aren't you telling him that he should have told her how he felt instead of cheating???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:21 PM
7

I'm in my late twenties and have that insecurity too, but mine worsened after finding out my ex was attracted to teenagers and felt like he "could get someone younger".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:03 PM
8

If they really thought we were all old, obese, and unattractive, they wouldn't be so pissed that we weren't dating them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:56 AM
28

And that's all by his own choice. His wife is the one stuck in bed, not being able to take care of the kids, not him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:56 PM
13

Bingo. He has either cheated already, or he's planning on leaving her for a younger woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:50 PM
5

I've never been under the impression men are doing us a favor by being with women. Even at my most insecure times, I have always known that we are a gift to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:12 PM
42

I am so glad something like the 2 oz. of leftovers in a 2 quart container was brought up. Even when men do contribute to housework, they are NEVER on our level. Ask him to load the dishwasher, and he'll either load 10 things and run it nearly empty, or he'll pack it so full and have pots on their sides and two plates to a slot, so nothing gets clean. Ask him to fold towels, and it will look like a first-grader did it. Ask him to pick up a tomato from the store, and it will be mushy and bruised. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:05 AM
14

Ugh, I can't stand listening to men babble on and on about shit they think makes them sound smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:56 PM
72

I think it's so embarrassing when a man doesn't care about pleasing a woman in bed. Like, you're proud that you're bad at sex? You want her to remember you as one of her worst partners?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:05 PM
148

Have you guys ever heard men talking about being "metooed"? As if women telling on their rapists is something that should make us feel bad FOR THE RAPIST!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:53 PM
36

Actually, self defense is legally and morally ok. If someone is trying to steal my keys from me, I would hope I had the courage to fight him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:38 PM
1

L!1q111
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:30 PM
33

"MeN aRe ViSuAl CrEaTuReS" Ok, then where the fuck were your eyes when you matched that gray and teal striped long-sleeve with blue basketball shorts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:02 AM
2

Awesome! I've been really worried since I've seen a spike in FDS hate. This sub has helped me so much with my break up, and I don't know what I would do without it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:18 AM
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They really don't. I get so tired of people acting like hetero men and women can be friends just like two women or two men can. Just because you wouldn't have sex with the man, doesn't mean he wouldn't have sex with you! He says he would never sleep with you? No shit. He has to say that to keep you around. No, he's not "like a brother", no, he doesn't "love his wife too much to ever do anything with you". Those are lies. And there can't be a genuine platonic relationship on both sides if at leas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 06:56 PM
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Was your ex 5?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:30 PM
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This is disgusting. Why don't grown ass men know how to do basic adult things like this? Your daughter knows by watching your wife. Did you never watch your wife? Or mom? Have you never heard of a recipe book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:03 PM
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Yep, it's clearly fake and meant to manipulate people into hating FDS or feeling sorry for him. I'm not surprised in the slightest by what you found in his comment history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:03 AM
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No. This is clearly a troll. He is not validating FDS he is mocking us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:59 AM
200

Exactly. Don't be fooled by this attempt to once again make it all about men and their feelings. We should not feel bad about pointing out the shit that men and society put women through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:54 AM
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That last paragraph sounds like a troll to make us say "Oh no! We've made the poor man s-icidal by pointing out how terribly women are treated in society! We must stop our misandry and think of the poor men!" -OR- to add to the negative perception that others have of FDS. He could be hoping others people outside of the FDS community see this and think "Wow! Those b-tches spew such hateful words that this poor man is considering ending his life. They must be awful. Ban them now!" Either way, the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:52 AM
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Somehow I'm more offended by the sleeping bag than I would be if he just has some messy wad of sheets on an unmade bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:12 PM
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Exactly! If y'all want these LVM, then YOU take them, and stop trying to force them on women who don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:47 PM
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50/50 only means splitting the cost of things to them. Can you imagine the type of scrote that won't even pay for a date actually scrubbing the shower half of the time or waking up to change and make a bottle for the baby every other night? You'd be lucky to get that with any man, much less some 50/50 scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:56 PM
4

You're so right about people who claim to hate drama producing the majority of it. An ex's mom used to claim to hate it, and would blame various other people in her family for causing it, but once she came after my family, I started putting the pieces together and realized that she was always at the center of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:58 PM
59

Why do men age SO much faster? My parents are both in their early 60s, and my mom seems like a normal 60-something woman, maybe even a bit more youthful, while my dad acts like he's nearly 80, and has for a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:44 AM
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It's pretty much anything physical for me. I wish my immediate access to that wasn't such a pornsick, LV scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:37 AM
2

Yeah, I understand. There is definitely a stereotype.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:09 AM
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"Took a wrong turn= Convicted felon" 😂 Also, the vegan one scares me. I would prefer a vegan if I could find, but I'm sure they would be the 50/50, pro-porn type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:59 AM
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Great list! To the "no bad vibes/drama" one, I would add "I want to be able to do things in our relationship that would obviously make any woman unhappy, but I want you to be the type of woman who is too passive to call me out on any of it." That could actually apply to the next two bullets too though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:38 AM
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Why do they want so badly to make women put up with things that make us uncomfortable? I don't understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:53 AM
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I am not accepting anything, ANYTHING that bothers me from a man EVER again! Why would I when I can just be single? I would still like a relationship someday, but not if I'm going to have to compromise my boundaries and constantly compete for my partner's attention with other women (online and in real life. If pornsick scrotes that hate your body are so awesome, then pick mes should be glad that we're leaving more for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:44 AM
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Right? Certainly they wouldn't change their strong stance on splitting all the bills equally, just because it stopped benefiting them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:25 PM
31

Right? I can't control my fat placement to make myself have curvy hips, but I don't see any man changing his preferences for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:03 PM
21

Girth for sure. I mean, not that I've had anyone with a long dick, so maybe my mind could change, but I've had skinny and above average girth, and thicker feels so much nicer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:58 PM
70

As if we all just have tens of thousands of dollars lying around to pay for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:55 PM
6

Same. My porn addict would often be hard before any physical stimulation occurred, and never suffered from ED. It still caused other problems for our relationship though, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:32 PM
2

I was a prize for one of my exes. He was way less attractive than me (low self-esteem and he got me when I was young). Sure, I didn't have to worry about him cheating on me, but he did not make my dreams come true at all. He didn't work any harder than any attractive man to keep me. It is such a myth that ugly men are better partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:20 PM
2

Yep. I have young male co-workers (18-early 20s), and while they may be tall, have muscles, and generally look like adults, they definitely show their age by the way they act and talk. Same with the young women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:25 PM
10

Yep. They really think they are something special. You know that same man would have blamed the woman though if any of those 3 babies that his magical penis created had birth defects or health issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:39 PM
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I feel this so much.😔❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:38 PM
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I am genuinely scared. Those comments are awful! Most of them have to be children, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:31 PM
5

That was fun to read! Thank you for the story!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:14 PM
3

I've never thought about it that way, but this is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:02 PM
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Came here to say this. Fraternal twins run on the mother's side (it has to do with her body releasing two eggs at once), and every woman has the same odds of having identical twins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:32 PM
3

I will NEVER have a mane gynecologist! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:18 AM
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Coercing someone into having sex is r*pe culture!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:27 AM
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No, lol. He is a separate gross scrote who was shitty to his beautiful, way out of his league, fiancee. The meme isn't trying to attribute the quote to this man, it's just using him to illustrate the meme. It is implying that some men have extremely high beauty standards for women, yet often are very unattractive themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:35 AM
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Lol, he's not mistaking anything. He's not there for anything but titty and ass pics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:05 AM
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Trust is WAAAAYYY overrated. It's NOT a virtue. Your girlfriend doesn't have to catch you cheating to distrust you; Doing shady shit (like trying to stay at another woman's house until the early morning) is enough for you to rightfully lose her trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:01 AM
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fair boy* He called her "fair girl".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:44 PM
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But he still gets to keep all of the gratitude she gave him for taking her out. Side note: How old are they that he's calling her a "girl". Ewww. I'm hoping they're in their teens or something at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:33 PM
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Pornsick men WILL NOT be satisfied by you going above and beyond for them sexually. I was that pickme in my last relationship. I was willing and available any time of day he wanted it, anywhere he wanted it, had sex with him almost every day, often even multiple times a day, did very painful acts, allowed him to treat me how he wanted during it, etc. Basically I was down for anything, anywhere, anytime. He STILL was not satisfied. He still jerked it to porn, he still checked out women and girls …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:50 AM
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It seemed like a troll to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:40 AM
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No, I understand. It is disheartening for sure when you realize not only do you have to watch out for the insane amount of men that are predators, but you also have to worry about all but a few of the rest of men who defend and make excuses for the predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:54 AM
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Why don't y'all go after the good ugly women then? If looks shouldn't matter to us women, then they shouldn't matter to you men either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:36 AM
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Yep. Good point. If it's like any other empowering job, then why do men scoff at the idea of dating a stripper or prostitute, or say that they wouldn't want their current partner to do those things?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:01 PM
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They can definitely be good at intimidation, I just wouldn't rely on them to actually tear someone up, or even bite, when it came down to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:47 PM
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I see a lot of ladies mentioning dogs. They are good as a deterrent and to alert you that someone is on your property that you might not be able to hear yourself, but please don't rely on them to protect you if they're not trained guard dogs. A lot of dogs are all bark and no bite. I have a dog that is known as a "dangerous breed", and she will bark at strangers, but one time a male house guest advanced on her, and all she did was bark while backing into a corner and peed in fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:40 PM
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I could easily see them throwing out a number of of excuses for the waste of life scrote and criticisms (aka victim blaming) of the woman. "After he left the house, she should have stopped chasing him." "Maybe he was just a little drunk and the houses in the neighborhood all look the same, and he thought it was his wife." "She should have locked her door." "Maybe he is mentally challenged and was just trying to be friendly and didn't know any better. See, he tried to give her a hug!" "Maybe he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:14 AM
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You absolutely know that he thought this was ok because of PORN. They ALL believe some aspects of porn are real, but some, like this one, literally can't tell the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:47 AM
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This is why I will always blame the male, and not the woman for awful and abusive relationships. It's awesome for the ladies who were wise and strong enough to avoid men's bullshit from the start, but for most of us, we had to make a lot of mistakes before we realized what was up. It's not like we're idiots running out in front of cars; We are are actually encouraged to put up with the abuse, bad sex, poor hygiene, porn...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:40 PM
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Oh my god, guys. I'm so scared of dating some day! Like is this really what I'm going to have to put up with???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:05 PM
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When you're 37, he'll be 50!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:38 AM
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Thanks!😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:31 AM
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I mean, I just found FDS a few months ago, so I still remember being a pickme well. Some might even say I still am a pickme, even though I am way better than I was, for sure. Now that I know what it means to be a pickme, I see it everywhere, and I'm very frustrated by it, but at least for now, I still feel sorry for them. It is ingrained from birth. When you're a pickme, you just believe that all the horrible shit you go through with men is just how it is. All men watch porn, skidmarks are norma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:28 AM
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So delusional. Society has tried to convince us all that men get better with age, and they definitely don't. Soft, saggy, middle-aged man titties look objectively worse than the firm, muscular chest of a younger man. When women gain weight, it can enhance curves, but for middle-aged men, it always turns into a potbelly. Having to take more breaks during sex because your stamina isn't what it used to be isn't sexier than a young man who can keep going for the whole thing. Like really, what is sup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:54 AM
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Now they can pretend the reason they don't want to defend women and children is because of feminism, and not because of the real reason, which is that they're too weak and cowardly to stand up to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:19 AM
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If you don't have sex with them on the very first date, then you used them for a free meal, but if you've slept with more than 5 guys, you're a sl*t. So which is it, scrotes? Are we supposed to sleep with every guy that spends a dime on us, or do you want women with minimal previous partners? You can't have it both ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:01 PM
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Yup. I don't care if she has C cups already and is wearing enough makeup to put a drag queen to shame, no 13-year-old girl looks like a woman. Pedos don't like a young teenager because she looks mature for her age, they like her specifically because she looks like a young teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:41 PM
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Because they're pedos themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:36 PM
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Exactly. I refuse to make the "hebephile" distinction to make pedos feel better because the children they prey on are older. We should keep using pedophile for any person that is attracted to children of any age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:35 PM
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Yeah, what a little ska*k for hypothetically tricking this grown ass man into thinking she was in her mid-teens instead of her early-teens. He is probably an ethical pedophile who would only prey on high school freshmen, not girls in middle school. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:41 PM
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Mine is collapsible, so it fits right in my purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:53 PM
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I've been more conscious of this since FDS. Now I do my best to not give courtesy laughs. I'm trying to be better to other women, and reinforcing the notion to a woman's scrote/future scrote that his low effort jokes are funny, isn't going to do her any favors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:51 PM
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Yeeeppp. We possess the most important thing in the world to men, and it's easier for LV scrotes to convince us we're just as undesirable as them, than to work on making themselves more desirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:36 PM
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ANY woman. Single mom, fat, no curves, 7 feet tall, successful, unemployed, no arms or legs, buzz cut, face tats, large labia, elderly, you name it. None of the things that they say are unattractive to crush our self-esteems will actually prevent men from wanting us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:18 PM
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Nice! It sounds like you did a great job standing up for yourself. Arrogance is a huge turn off, and we should never give guys that display it any attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:42 PM
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They're virtue signaling ("I'm not like other guys. I like a real woman with imperfections"). They have this idea that makeup is tricking them into getting with ugly women. Or most likely, in my opinion, they're so used to seeing women with makeup, yet know nothing about it, so they think every day makeup (as opposed to a bold look) is what a woman's bare face looks like, and an actually bare face looks sick or tired in comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:09 PM
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I can't believe this doesn't have more attention! Very well written! People need to stop putting the blame on the hurt partner for being insecure, and start blaming the porn addict who knowingly makes her feel that way. It is perfectly normal to be hurt by your partner seeking out sexual gratification from other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:52 AM
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No. Way. No way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:31 AM
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Seriously. At least if they do this, they'll be upfront about how shitty they are, and any sane woman will know to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:11 AM
12

Do you know how memes work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:24 AM
12

A snowman! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:24 AM
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It's because they have no idea what no makeup looks like. If you're not basically in drag, they don't think you're wearing any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:51 PM
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Honey, no. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:50 PM
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Men need this system, but the opposite. I'm gonna number sheets 1-10, and then instead of "stop", I'm gonna put continue, and then label another 10, because judging by this video and the skid marks, they think 1 swipe with only 4 sheets is enough to get their ass clean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:15 PM
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Yep. I do all of the traditionally woman tasks, but I've never even been with a man that can change the oil in the car. So we're just supposed to be happy with the fact that they work a job and that's it? I can't believe they're not embarrassed about being so lazy and useless. "I bust my ass ass for 10 hours in the heat 5 days a week!" Ok, Todd. And then you come home to your wife and do fuck-all for the rest of the time. No one is impressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:22 PM
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🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:41 PM
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Wuuuuutttt? She gets to have sex with a working-class, middle-aged man with a gut! Isn't that good enough???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:28 PM
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Right? At 18, you could have a handsome young man in his teens/early 20s, who is going to have the same energy and interests as you. Why on earth do they think a woman that age would want an old man, who is physically on the decline? It's wishful thinking, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:17 PM
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"But hot 18-year-olds should just want my hairy, wrinkly, saggy self for my personality, not for the whole $200 I have in my bank account!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:15 PM
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And what's with males thinking women and girls sooo much younger than them want them anyway? Sure, you get the odd 19-year-old with 40-year-old man, or teenagers who think an older, very attractive celebrity is handsome, but for the most part, we don't want to be with a man decades older. At 12, your idea of a cute older guy is like 17, not some crusty, hairy man who is probably older than your dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:09 PM
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"But men die in war and k*ll themselves more often!" Ok, but did you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:46 PM
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They can't even "not all men" their way out of statistics though. Like, those statistics don't change, whether an individual is part of them or not. If they think really don't think men are so bad, they need to provide some numbers. Would their numbers prove that these statistics aren't true? Would they prove women are just as dangerous? Of course not. If they could prove such things, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:34 AM
15

I figure that's what would happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:25 AM
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Hey, men, do you have anything to counter this???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:03 AM
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My pick me self allowed it in my last relationship, because I felt like you had to, and surprise surprise, I didn't get any cool girl points for it. It just allowed him a steady stream of women to judge my body against, and now I'm horribly insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:52 PM
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I hear the insecurity one most often, and I'm still trying to figure out how you making your partner insecure by watching porn is THEIR fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:40 PM
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😂 I just said 5'6 too before I saw your comment! You know they all add at least a couple of inches - to everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:11 PM
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Damn, I have kids so I don't have a chance with this fine 5'10 (probably 5'6 converted from the Male Measurement System to the Imperial System) specimen.😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:10 PM
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What do you think the average pro-porn person would say if I asked something like "If porn is so positive, even in relationships, then why do so many woman feel bad about it?" I want to know, but I just don't feel like interacting with them right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:04 PM
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I thought I had a low libido for most of my 20s. Turns out that an obese gaming addict, who ignores you and sucks at sex, just isn't all that much of a turn-on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:42 PM
15

You take care of all the cleaning, cooking, childcare, appointments, grocery shopping, planning, and any other needs that arise from sun up to sun down, and he works one 8-hour job, and then sits his ass down in his chair and does literally nothing productive for the other 16 hours of the day. You know, "traditional".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:55 PM
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My ex's dad thinking I'm trying to trap his jobless son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:37 PM
10

Yep. They want us to believe we're in the same boat as them so we have to settle, but that's so not the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:29 PM
9

For real!😂 Why do they even need porn, when they've got such wild imaginations anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:56 PM
1

That's awesome! Definitely, none of them are worth jeopardizing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:25 PM
280

It's funny that they say we're incels, because most, if not all, of us could have casual sex or a monogamous partner any time we want. The problem isn't being able to find a man, it's finding an acceptable one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:41 AM
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It was a lot of things combined. I don't want to share too many details, but a few things were, he confessed to trying out gay porn for a while, had close gay/bi male friends, discussed "personal details" with one of those gay friends, had more feminine music interests, was very sensitive (not emotionally intelligent though), his mother thought he might be gay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:01 PM
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😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:46 PM
1

I appreciate that. Thank you! I may sometime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:41 PM
3

Exactly. Everyone experiences it. People use it in an accusatory way like they would "lazy" or "rude", when really it's just a feeling, like "worried" or "uncertain".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:20 PM
16

I will never again date a man who watches anime or porn. I can't stand either. The combo of the two is much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:59 AM
12

Why is insecurity automatically seen as a flaw of the person experiencing it? It is is not a shameful thing to feel! If your partner is doing something that feels threatening (watching porn is very threatening), of course you're going to feel that way. "You're just being insecure" is not an argument. Imagine smashing someone's windshield out and, when they get mad about it, saying "You're just getting angry!" Yeah, doesn't make a lot of sense, does it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:09 AM
16

I am angry a lot of the time every day. I am still upset about how my ex took all of my self-esteem and made me feel horribly ugly. The person I talk with about it says I should let go of the anger, but I just can't. I wonder if this kind of anger is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:18 AM
23

There's no way my LVX isn't at least bi. I mean, he insists he's straight, but...there's just no way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:00 AM
40

Wow. Now I understand the lyrics to that one song because of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:55 AM
32

Yep. If you're a pedophile, I'm gonna call you a pedophile. Like, sorry Eugene, but I'm not gonna split hairs and call you a hebephile to make you feel less creepy because you want to fuck 13-year-old children instead of 12-year-old children or some shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:59 PM
2

No, I think that's pretty normal for people to go from ok to more attractive, just not so much from unattractive to attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:18 PM
4

They don't all have to be adonis, but if you're not drawn to him physically almost immediately it's not gonna work sexually. This. A man doesn't have to be one of the most drop-dead gorgeous things you've ever seen, but if you were forced to make a judgement about his appearance on the spot, you should be able to confidently say "Yeah, he's attractive."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:48 AM
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Have you ever experienced that? I mean, I personally have been with unattractive men, and while I can start to see some qualities that I think are OK, I never ended up really attracted to them. I think love, or the lack thereof can change how you see someone (I notice my ex's, who I still find attractive, physical shortcomings a lot more now than I did when we were together), but I don't think love can magically make you find an ugly man sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:11 AM
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I don't think that's bad. I don't have a major preference there, but I find myself more drawn to brown. There is no shortage of women who like brown eyed men, if that's what you're worried about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:50 AM
9

EXACTLY what I'm talking about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:46 AM
3

I personally don't want them even having attractive women as social media friends. I allowed my ex to have some female social media friends in the past under the guise that they were former co-workers, and I found out that he was just thirsting over them the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:03 AM
2

Yes, ladies! Communicate! How else is your boyfriend, who is supposed to be faithful to you, supposed to know that liking sexually suggestive pictures of other women is hurtful to you? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:31 AM
5

Haha! I love how the music and lighting changed.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:39 AM
5

In theory, if everything else was 50/50, this would be ok, but that's not actually how the real world works. Women nowadays are expected to match men on traditionally masculine things like paying for dates or having a full time job, but in turn, are men matching women's time and efforts in other areas? Do men spend an equal amount of time and cost maintaining their appearance? Do they do half of the cooking and cleaning? Do they bear the burden of half the mental load (planning Christmas gifts f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:24 AM
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Men don't even understand makeup anyway. Unless you're wearing bold eyeshadow or a bright red lip, they don't even notice you're wearing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:12 PM
4

Yeah, that's probably it for me too. I think I miss sex, but really, if I could get the same care and attention from a man without it, I probably wouldn't feel like I need it as much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 08:05 PM
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I actually ended up doing it like 4 weeks after instead of 6 because I felt insecure to not. Yeah, it's really not enough time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:15 PM
57

After labor: Don't look your best because you still have baby weight, are taking care of a newborn, your vagina is beat up from just shoving an 8 lb human through it, you're feeling super vulnerable, and you can't have sex for 6 weeks, so your boyfriend decides to flirt with the teenager at work. Why yes, I AM still salty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:38 PM
51

I was with an ugly, obese man for years because he was nice and I felt like it would be rude to turn him down. He didn't try any harder than an attractive guy to please me. He wasn't better or more enthusiastic at sex. He wasn't good at giving gifts or planning things for holidays. He didn't have better hygiene or dress nicer. He didn't "treat me right" by showering me with plenty of attention and affection. He was a gaming addict who had poor hygiene, didn't give me attention, and didn't try at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:26 PM
5

I dated a few years younger, and while I think I would like someone younger sometimes, this one was immature and pornsick. I would still be open to it if I could find a decent one though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:15 PM
6

I'm glad you were able to get out.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:05 PM
5

Yeah, like, either way, he's still a creep, but I think that somewhere in your thirties, at least, you should have enough common sense to avoid getting yourself in a situation like this if you don't want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:18 AM
50

Right? Even if this man miraculously lived to be the oldest person ever (over 122) he would still die when the kid was only 52. Most likely though, he will die at about 85 (if he's lucky) when the kid is just 15, and he's ok with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:51 AM
7

But if you don't accept them, then you're a bitch. You can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:13 AM
13

I honestly just don't think most younger women in age gap relationships think that far ahead (I mean, I'm not one to talk. I've made some pretty short-sighted relationship choices myself.). They're probably just thinking about what does it for them about him right now, and not thinking about how that cool, older guy is going to turn into an old man way sooner than a man their own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:53 AM
15

After realizing how bad men are at taking care of themselves, and learning what pervs older men can be, I now hesitate to consider dating a man even 5 years older than me (I'm in my late 20s). I feel bad for women who end up in situations like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 02:34 AM
6

Exactly. That's how you know she's very attractive when that's all that someone who was trying to insult her appearance could manage to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:27 AM
1

I haven't either. I think if he was a celebrity, he'd have a checkmark by his name, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:20 AM
3

Lol, yeah, Russell. You're in a great relationship with a beautiful celebrity, who is also the mother of your child. Why don't you seek more fulfilling things like fucking dozens of random women who wouldn't give a shit about you if you weren't a football player, simp?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:00 AM
1

How did this person get a flair? Look at their comment history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:43 PM
2

Probably not even that high quality. Walmart has cheap gift sets in their seasonal section that have off-brand products in them like lotions or body sprays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:35 PM
1

Yes 🙄 "She didn't like my shitty, low-effort gift consisting of a premade gift basket and gift cards so she can go buy the gift instead of me having to do the work, so this must mean she wants a brand-new vehicle worth tens of thousands of dollars. There is no in between."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:28 PM
1

The cleaning thing puts me off so much. Cleaning is pretty black and white, either you cleaned it, or you didn't. I guarantee, GUARANTEE, that he is doing a shitty, half-assed attempt at cleaning, (like vacuuming, but not under the furniture, or doing dishes, but leaving obvious crust on them) and then trying to act act like it's simply a difference in cleaning styles. If she's able to go back and make it cleaner, then you did not clean it. Why would this woman add 20% extra cleaning to her work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:05 PM
2

If a man says his wife nags, what he's actually doing is telling you that he is so immature that another adult has to tell him how to behave all the time. Women never have to accuse men of nagging because we do what we're supposed to without being told.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:28 PM
75

They want so badly to think that the hot young women want them, just as much as they want the hot young women. Young women may be attracted to men several YEARS older than them, not several decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:15 AM
82

"Now I only get to see the kids, that I ignored 99% of the time while my wife took care of them, every Wednesday and every other weekend. 😢"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:03 PM
26

I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees it that way. I always felt dumb for feeling bad when he would play games with characters that looked like that, because it felt like I was being jealous of a cartoon character, but despite trying to feel ok about it, I never could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:12 PM
1

Thank you to whoever deleted this. It sounds like this person was asking for advice that should have been very obvious. I would hate for this sub to turn into r/ relationship_advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:15 PM
3

I'm with you. I will never be with a man who has female friends. A person that he has a close bond with, that he would also fuck? What's the difference between me and her? The only reason a man doesn't have sex with a woman he wants to have sex with is because she isn't willing to have sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:12 PM
2

That's what I call my ex too lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:57 AM
1

Hell yeah! Good job! I think it's so important for mom's to set their daughters' expectations high. Never let a man impress them with basic shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:28 AM
65

He works one single full-time job AND is male, therefore he is the provider of the household and doesn't need to do anything else. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:15 AM
11

Yes! I think I've said it on here before, but they only hate gold diggers because they don't have any gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:06 AM
29

Yep, like do they actually believe that? They always want us to just like them for "who they are" (which is usually a piece of shit), and say things like "LoOkS sHoUlDn,T mAtTeR" and "AgE iS jUsT a NuMbEr", but I wonder if they would do the same. Any young male lurkers willing to date some old, unattractive woman just for her personality, no money or gifts involved?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:13 PM
5

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:23 PM
89

I have always thought it was stupid how nobody ever called out the man in a relationship like that. Like yes, of course she wants that ugly old man just for his money. Why else would an attractive young woman want to be with someone like that for free, when she could get an attractive young man? But... why would an old man want want a young party girl he can't keep up with, when he could have a woman his own age, who he has more in common with, and has settled down more? Obviously for her looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:22 PM
27

Right?! Insane! I already feel obligated to shave, do my hair, do my makeup, wear pretty clothes, I can't imagine adding even more work to maintaining my appearance, especially to entice a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:03 PM
25

Haha, fuck this! I'm already salty about the amount of shit I have to do to be acceptable to society, I'm not about to change the way I walk and sit. Gee, relearn how to do things I learned how to do as a literal infant to attract a scrote with bad hygeine who's gonna lust after other women regardless, or keep doing exactly what I'm doing right now, and keep attracting the same exact scrotes? Such a hard call. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:59 PM
7

I learned the hard way. Now I know to closely monitor the amount of compliments and praise I give to a man, because if you are too uplifting, they will think they're better than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:17 PM
1

I know. Sometimes I just wish for women that they actually believe the lies they tell themselves about their scrote's intentions, because it's so painful when you're just faking it and trying to convince yourself it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:12 PM
6

Right? Thank god this attractive model with probably thousands of thirsty male followers has this other woman's hero boyfriend to "support" her. What ever would she do if she didn't have Kyle, 29, in her corner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:05 PM
1

I feel so bad for women like this. I hope she's actually happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:57 PM
15

Eh, that still sounds pretty objectify and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:52 PM
11

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:19 PM
12

I know this won't be a popular opinion, but I feel for that woman in a way. My recent break up from LVX left me with a severe hatred and fear of other women that I'm still recovering from. He was very pornsick, and his addiction made him be dissatisfied with my body and lust after other women and girls. He was fantasizing about so many other women - women that didn't look like me, and especially teenage girls. Even though I blamed him, I still started seeing them as competition. They were the re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:04 PM
5

😂 So stupid! She could be 80 years old, and have the most narcissistic attitude in the world, and she would still have a line of men down the street willing to marry her that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:43 PM
44

Isn't it ridiculous? I have several co-workers around that age, and they seem so young, even child-like in personality. I am only around 10 years older than them, and even I can see it. The thought of a man around my age or older be interested in them and preying on them disgusts me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:02 PM
4

My ex thought several of the women and girls at work were flirting with him because they were nice to him. They were just the kind of people who were nice to everybody. I told him that, but I'm sure he really does still believe he was special to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:59 AM
8

Yes, like I commented elsewhere on here, they don't have the same societal pressure to maintain their appearance. That is why they look so much worse. Even women who choose later in life to forgo participating in some beauty standards, such as dying their hair or wearing makeup, still maintain their appearance to some degree, like wearing pretty clothes, keeping their hair styled, taking care of their bodies, etc. Men usually just get bald, fat, wear damaged/poorly fitting clothing, and the exte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:17 PM
10

Exactly! I know for a fact I could easily pull men within 5 years of my age both ways, so why would I want some wrinkly, balding old man if I don't have to? And they don't have the same societal pressure of maintaining their appearance, so older men usually age worse than older women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:57 PM
7

Yes! I don't care what anyone says, it's just weird and offputting! That show is designed to be interesting to children, especially little girls. If a grown man willingly chooses to watch it by himself (not while caring for his kids or something) then he has to be very immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:47 AM
7

Thanks for the info. It's sad, the way they describe it, it seems like a legit mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:27 AM
15

I don't even know what Qanon is. I've heard of it (them?), but have no idea what it means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:31 AM
64

Eight year olds!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:22 AM
21

I found about FDS from a hate comment elsewhere, so I know the hate is out there, but I didn't know it was so deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:18 AM
1

I love them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:16 PM
28

I don't want you to live in fear, but do always be cautious of adult men. Date boys your age. You'll have more in common with them, they are less likely to be able to control you, and young women deserve young men who will age along side them. You don't want to become a beautiful woman in her thirties dating some balding old man with a beer belly, because you thought getting tied down to a handsome older man in your teens was cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:12 PM
19

Any man would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:58 PM
15

I can't pretend I wasn't the same way. At that age, you're just excited to be seen as attractive and womanly. You don't realize yet how predatory it is for adult males to go after minors, or how cheap male attention is. Honestly, realizing how creepy and predatory men can be to teens/younger women, I've found myself lately disgusted at the thought of dating an older man, even though I've had a bad experience with a younger man too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:49 PM
4

It should be. If he's such a catch, why can't he find women in his own country? Either he's not suitable for the women in his country, so he has to find women elsewhere that have a harder time telling that something is off about him, or even worse, if they're always from the same foreign country, then he probably has a fetish for that kind of woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:08 PM
10

Lol. My dad always tells us he "didn't see it coming" when my mom left him. It's funny, because even I, as a young child, could see that they fought and yelled at each other all the time. Like, what did he think all of that was???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:03 AM
21

She is so right. Having a man isn't special. Any woman can get one at any time. Women are single because we have standards, not because we can't get one. Yes, even women over 30, single moms, fat women, ugly women, women with disabilities, etc. The attention and approval of men is so easily accessible, that it really isn't worth anything at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:14 AM
56

Kink shaming should absolutely not be off limits! Just like with anything else on earth, if it's gross or abusive, we should be able to say something about it. Whether or not it gets someone hard or wet is irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 01:03 AM
2

I understand. I'm going through the same thing. I wish I could give you a hug. It will get better, it's just going to take some time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:54 PM
3

I'm so sorry. Honestly I've fucked up recently too. You just have to try to forgive yourself for it, move on, and try not to do it again. The most important question is, are you making progress? Slip-ups can happen here and there, but how are you doing overall? Are you trying to contact him less frequently? Are you doing better at detaching emotionally? Those are the things that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:58 PM
8

Haha, right? "All guys want are the Stacies with big boobs and a tiny waist, and then complain when they get divorce r*ped. Should've chosen a nice girl like me who would treat them right."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:43 PM
7

Why do men think they want 50/50 custody of the kids when they divorce, but only want to do 5/95 of the childcare while they're married? My theory, assuming they're not just trying to stick it to their ex-wife, which I'm sure many are, is that they get so caught up in the idea of equal and fair, that they forget that 50/50 means they're actually going to be completely responsible for their child 50% of the time now, and there won't be a wife there to do all the work while they play video games o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:25 PM
4

Oh my god. How dumb that he would blame YOU for potentially ruining his career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:08 PM
102

Yes! That guy doesn't exist! It's so important to remember that if you ever miss your ex. The guy you miss is as good as dead. You were in love with who you thought he was, not who he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:12 AM
109

It's absolutely gross. If a man in his mid-20s+ would have sex with an 18-year-old, then you know he would have sex with a 16-year-old or younger. They don't put the limit at 18 because they see younger girls as too young, it's because that's the youngest age pedophiles are legally allowed to prey on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:49 PM
121

Oh my god, why do they say all the right things and suddenly know how to act, only after you're gone? That's how you know they knew exactly what to do all along, but didn't put in the effort, because they were lazy and it wasn't urgent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:06 PM
23

So well said! They rarely speak up about men's issues unless it's to prove how they're actually the ones who have it bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:56 AM
13

I would do the same thing. To me, it doesn't matter what the cause of their bad behavior is, be it prior trauma or abuse, disability, how they were raised, or any other reason, I still don't think you should have to associate with someone who treats you poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:17 PM
15

Is she taking commissions? I need one for my ex titled "Just Because I'm Civil to You For The Kids, Doesn't Mean I'm Trying to Be With You, Scrub"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:44 PM
12

And it soooo hypocritical that they act that way about sex workers. Like, these women are so desirable that you spend hours jerking it to them, pay for their nudes, would give anything to fuck them, but suddenly when it comes to being in a relationship, they're "damaged goods" even though you directly participated in the "damaging" (creating demand for her body)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:26 PM
72

People always cater to bullies. It's insane. They act like just because the child MAY have a bad home life or something that that means the rest of the kids just have to sit there and take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:56 PM
99

Seriously. I definitely have jealousy issues about some things, but this is not it. Pedophilia disgusts me. I have been the teenager with the older male attention. I know it can feel flattering at that age, but I promise you, it's not. Now that I'm older, I am disgusted at the things that were said to me when I was a teeange girl/early 20s woman. I realize now that these men were only interested in me because they were creeps, and felt too inadequate to associate with women their own age, and we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:19 PM
12

That's why I think it's a false equivalence when people say "Oh well if the genders were reversed, everyone would be up in arms! You just don't care because the victim is male." Every time a female teacher preys on a male student, almost every man comments how lucky the boy is and how they wish it had happened to them when they were in school. How often do we hear women wishing they were the victims when we see a story about a male teacher preying on a female student? Never. So if men crave the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:07 PM
10

I wish I knew all of this before procreating with a pornsick LVM. I wish I knew this before I started to hate the other women that I was competing with, and more importantly before I started to hate myself. Instead, I had to learn this all the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:53 PM
29

They think they want that, but imagine any of them actually getting off their asses and having a good enough job to support a traditional family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:29 PM
21

What the hell does "try X race" mean anyway? It's not like sex with X race is going to be wildly different than with a woman of any other race you've been with. We all have the same parts down there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:18 PM
134

And I wonder why they last as long as they do now. Divorce is legal. Why are you trying so hard to work things out with a man who cheated on you with 5 different women, thinks you're gross because you don't look like a pornstar and have stretch marks from pregnancy, yet has a beer gut and is balding, never does the laundry, and spends all of your money on video games. Like, if you have the means, just leave. There is no reason anymore to struggle to make things work with someone who you clearly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:50 PM
9

I relate to so much of what you say on here. I mean, I haven't tried dating women, but I have thought about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:01 PM
51

I'm so glad I found FDS. It has been so helpful during my breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:38 PM
51

Wow. It must be nice being that delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:35 PM
7

I wish I knew this sooner. So much wasted time on exes making excuses why I should stay, telling myself it doesn't matter if they're lazy and ugly because they're nice, telling myself I was just being too jealous and needed to get over it, etc. Nowadays, I don't care if he sneezes wrong, I'm gone. I am just not wasting any more time on a man that makes me unhappy. Of course, I would really enjoy having someone, mostly to cuddle with and physical stuff like that that you can't get from friends or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 11:32 AM
14

A thought about regular women: your date doesn't think you're on a date, he sees you as a prostitute who is expected to give him sex at the end of the night in exchange for dinner instead of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:04 AM
34

Am I doing something wrong? I almost always text back right away, unless I'm at work or doing something that prevents me from touching the phone. I always appreciate getting texts back asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:59 PM
290

This is my ex to a T. Wants some 18-year-old, big ass, 10/10 weeb girlfriend, meanwhile he's some slightly above average looking, broke skinny guy with no career and a porn addiction. He was single for years before I dated him, but somehow still has a gigantic ego, and thinks he's very attractive and could get any woman he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:36 PM
62

I used to think that I had a naturally low sex drive with my first ex, but it turns out he was just super lazy, unattractive, unhygienic, and sucked at sex. When I got with someone who was better at those things (still turned out to be a lvm though), my sex drive went up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:33 AM
12

Right? What actual man puts this much effort into his appearance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:23 PM
1

I am so heartbroken for you. I am so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:51 AM
7

Yes, you just know the media and scrotes are going to act like this excuses it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:24 AM
10

No. Fucking. Way.😱 Clip his toenails????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:08 AM
8

For real. Any time I go out in public, I see way more attractive women than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:30 PM
37

It's insulting with all of the grooming that we women have to do that men can't even manage to not smell bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:11 PM
91

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:07 PM
53

The being used for dinner thing is so silly. You just know men that think that way are the type to take their date to some cheap chain restaurant anyway. Like, yeah, bud. I'm sure the $20 you spent on her enchilada plate and iced tea really broke the bank. How will you ever recover from this financial devastation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 05:01 PM
18

Haha, I wish some strange scrote would call me a bitch... Yes, honey, that's me!😉 Thanks for noticing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:46 PM
19

Gross. That type also thinks the waitress being polite is her flirting with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:44 PM
35

Wow. Imagine being so self-centered that you actually think random women on the street care if their underwear choice is sexually appealing to you. Unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:49 PM
9

My ex was seriously like that. Like, I had to tell him in detail every little thing that wasn't ok. He did many not ok things, including emotionally cheating on me and having women he had tried to be with before me on his social media, but he "thought he was being completely faithful to me" and didn't think he was doing anything wrong until I pointed each thing out, one by one, over the course of our relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:28 PM
18

Women get labeled as nags, because we have to instruct men to do basic tasks that we do without being told.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:02 AM
1

That's honestly what it sounds like to me. I'm not into that kind of thing, so I think it would be a red flag to me, regardless of what his assortment of letters were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:04 PM
7

This is giving me major anxiety. I agreed to some things like this with my ex. It's so hard to accept that like nothing was ok with our relationship. Even the things I thought were, like sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:52 PM
22

I'm guessing the unsatisfying sex thing, and being way out of his league in attractiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:07 PM
5

That's what I want to do too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:54 PM
9

I love all of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:53 PM
4

I've really been wanting to get myself a ring, but I haven't found one I like yet. Maybe I'll get myself one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:52 PM
14

It's ALWAYS the broke-asses! My ex's NV broke father, who is supported by his wife, alluded to the fact that I was trying to trap his LV broke son with a baby that wasn't his. Like, sweetheart, if I wanted to trap a man for his money, it sure as hell wouldn't be your son that lives below the poverty level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:26 PM
13

Exactly. They're just jealous they can't have one. They would love to show off how much they spoil a woman, if they had the means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:12 PM
124

People don't like FDS, because it seems too radical to them. It IS radical, because it's a strong position that completely goes against the norm. The mistake is thinking that radical means unreasonable. Society and liberal feminism have given us the short end of the stick. In modern times, we're expected to work as much as men, and have casual sex like men, but we still have to take care of most or all of the household chores, be primary caregivers for our children, cook all of the meals, do all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:06 PM
6

That is SO gross. The older you get, the less excusable this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:01 PM
12

How ironic that he was trying to seem less childish by NOT labeling the relationship. I'm guessing he just wanted to be able to date other people, but got upset when you said you'd do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:55 PM
6

I've never heard of salt daddy!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:47 PM
17

Ew, you're right. I can't imagine some guy going 50/50 on dinner and then expecting sex afterwards. Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:26 PM
6

I don't care what else is going on with his look, if a guy has a huge beard, it's a no for me. One of my exes had one, and the only people who thought it looked good were other guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:21 PM
52

These LVM expect the service of a prostitute or sugar baby for the price of dinner date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:27 AM
163

Someone that looks like Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:50 AM
71

100%. I don't love the idea of being single forever, but I'd much rather that than to be with a porn user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:41 PM
114

Do grown men actually say this? I'm only in my late 20s, but I still can't imagine a man my age saying "We're just talking". That's some shit teenagers would say when I was in high school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:31 PM
13

Please tell me they didn't actually get their feelings hurt about a woman crossing the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:43 AM
5

That's really so dumb that they feel that way. It's your own ass, not another man's. How could it be gay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:15 PM
1

I am a few months out of it, but yeah, he mostly just added stress and insecurity, rather than value. I am usually fully aware that I made the right choice, but sometimes I guess my mind tricks me into thinking something could be there. It doesn't help that I have never been single in my entire adult life, so being single is unfamiliar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:10 PM
4

Thank you for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:57 AM
2

I tell myself the same thing when I'm thinking logically - I miss the person I thought I was with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:38 AM
1

I think I have a hard time sometimes, because he doesn't seem as severe as what some women have to deal with. Like he is definitely LV, but he's always apologetic rather than mean to me. I guess that's part of the manipulation because he knows mean won't work on me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:34 AM
5

Thanks ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:31 PM
3

Idk, it didn't work out for me. I was close with my dad, but I still have low-confidence, I think, and all the men I've dated are lower value than him. I am, however, much like my mom when it comes to self-worth and dating habits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:24 PM
37

You're right. Regardless of whether or not there is a scientific reason behind why men act terrible, the main reason is because we as a society let them. There is absolutely no reason a grown ass man can't be faithful to one woman, clean the house, take good care of the kids, buy you a thoughtful gift, or any of the other tasks women excel at. They're not good at any of it because when they mess up, instead of holding them accountable, we just say shit like "Oh, well you know that's just how men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:17 PM
16

I honestly can't think of any either. There have been decent men, but no HV. The closest to HV man I knew, my grandfather, I found out after his death, had cheated on my grandma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:25 PM
11

😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:39 PM
8

Is it normal to miss garbage LVM? I have been doing a lot better, but had a weirdly sad day yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:31 PM
2

❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:24 AM
1

Yeeeeesssss! Fuck being compared to porn actors and social media models. If that's the kind of women they want to look at, then they can try to go get that kind of woman. I'm not going to be with someone who makes me feel bad for having a perfectly normal body ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:59 PM
8

I know what you mean. His type was either curvy woman or super-thin teenager. I was neither curvy nor super thin. I ended up just undereating myself into the underweight category, realizing it made me look worse, and then trying to gain it back so I could try to be curvy (even though that's not my body type).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:26 PM
7

I'm still recovering from it as we speak. It's crazy the level of damage an addict can do to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:16 PM
4

I've thought about being with women at this point. I'm not sexually or romantically attracted to them, and I would never mislead a woman about my intentions, but just the thought of getting to be intimate with someone you could feel safe with, who understands you, who wouldn't nitpick your body so hard because she has the same parts as you, sounds so nice. I can't imagine being with a man at this point either. I know that if I ever am, I will never make the mistake of letting my guard down again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:09 PM
1

Poor thing. I had the exact same problem. He wanted fat asses, and even if I gained 100lbs, I still wouldn't have one, because that's not how my fat is distributed. It is so crushing to your self-esteem to know you don't have the type of body that is popular at the moment, and to have that confirmed by the person you love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:58 PM
51

This guy to his friends: "I never get any matches because women only want supermodels."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:48 PM
17

I don't see how he even has time for fishing anime gaming with all the ladies undoubtedly begging to hop on his dick after reading this bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:45 PM
38

Yeah, and it's a shame all those gorgeous bitches are out fucking attractive men with jobs instead of "a nice guy that will treat her right", like Mr. Cheeto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:26 PM
85

So true. How are they going to demand the respect and benefits of a leader, when we're the ones who run everything? Like you want me to work the same hours as you, cook, clean, take care of the kids, but still act like you're the glue that holds this family together because you have a penis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:19 PM
6

Damn! I never get nice emails like this. I'm jealous! Maybe I'm not offensive enough yet. Gonna have to up my game!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:03 PM
10

Well, yeah. When women have preferences, it's because we're all shallow whores who just want to fuck Chad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:01 PM
6

Lol, I know! He didn't have to out himself like that!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:43 PM
27

And a "private activity" isn't something shameful or wrong. I don't want to talk in depth about pooping, my period, or sex with my dad, but that's because they are private and embarrassing things to talk about with certain people, not because they're bad things I'm doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 04:55 AM
36

Men put WAY too much sexual value on their kindness. I'm so sick of them thinking they can aim outside their age range and attractiveness level, just because they are nice or do something for a woman. NEWSFLASH, scrotes, our grandmas are kind to us, complete strangers help us jump the dead battery in our car, the lady at work bakes us cookies, the guy behind us at the convenience store holds the door. MOST people are nice, but kindness in and of itself is not sexually attractive! If kindness was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:26 PM
15

Lol, yeah. Let me just pull those tens of thousands of dollars in disposable income out of my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:02 AM
30

I think your intentions are what matter here. Sure, maybe a particular woman feels better maintaining her appearance "for herself" because she has grown up in a society that makes her feel like she isn't beautiful enough without doing so, but every decision we make is influenced by society, in which case, no decision is pure. If a woman really thinks about why she's maintaining her appearance, and comes to the conclusion that she isn't consciously doing it for reasons other than her own enjoymen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:12 AM
132

For real. Make up your fucking minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:40 AM
47

I'm not going to be ok with a man that is part of a fandom for any children's shows. It creeps me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:44 AM
69

Fuck that. I'm DONE being told to be ok with porn. You wanna call me controlling, a prude, insecure, vanilla? Yes, I sure am, honey! Thank you! Literally every man on the planet watches porn? Good. I'll be single forever then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:45 PM
16

For real. They most definitely could not handle the shit they put us through. Like I mentioned somewhere on here before, my ex was jealous about me talking with lesbian coworkers (I am straight), and was jealous if I wore shorts in public because he didn't want other men thinking about me sexually, but he saw no problem with having women he had previously tried to talk to on his social media, taking conversations too far with women at work, fantasizing about teenagers, checking women and girls o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:41 PM
12

Honey, what? Is this a joke? I feel like if you allow this level of blatant disrespect, then you're getting what you asked for. This isn't ok by even the most pickme of standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:01 PM
101

I'm in my late 20s, and if a man in his mid 30s said I was too old for him, I wouldn't be offended at all. I would assume something was wrong with him and move on. Like, that's already too big of an age gap, and if it's not enough for him, he's obviously deficient somehow (broke, bad at sex) and needs someone who is too young to know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:53 PM
60

FDS came for me. I had recently broke up with my LV ex, but was still crying often about it, and FDS helped me realize that I don't have to accept the kind of behavior I did from my ex, and that I am valuable on my own, and am better off alone than with someone who makes me feel insecure. I feel like I've been given permission to have standards, and it's amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:44 PM
56

Same! I forget where, but I saw someone say FDS are like female incels, so I had to come check it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:36 PM
3

Yes. It's seen as no big deal, while we have to deal with broken relationships and shattered self-esteem because of it. Where were their parents anyway when they were watching it at such a young age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:07 PM
5

Ugh, I wish I was interested in women too, all the time. I always imagine that they would understand my mind and body better. Also, I'm from around the same era, and I think it would be extremely difficult to find HVM in this age range. I think I would die of shock if I even found one that isn't addicted to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:03 PM
4

My ex admitted that part of it was that they were more likely to see him as a "bigger man". He was very insecure in his masculinity and maturity, and I guess he was into the idea of being seen as a strong, capable man without having to put in any of the work to make himself seem that way to women around his age or older. I mean, his porn addiction was probably a bigger factor, but that was at least part of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:53 PM
13

Lol. As if finding Latinas attractive is some rare thing that you should have been impressed by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:38 PM
14

Yes, really think about it. Why would a man spend so much time, effort, and money to find a woman in a foreign country, when there are women right here at home? It's because he knows he can't meet their standards (because he's ugly, poor, socially awkward, etc.), and thinks foreign women will worship him because he's from a western country (and probably white). Beware of our trash, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:23 PM
6

It makes me mad that society allows men to let themselves go and get so ugly, and still have such confidence and high self-esteem, while we're expected to do our hair, makeup and dress nicely our entire lives, but hate ourselves if we get too many wrinkles or gain too many pounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:29 PM
8

Yup. Women may have a hard time finding a good man, but we will never have a hard time finding one willing to have casual sex with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:22 PM
40

Dodged a BB!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:50 PM
2

The thing is, I'm a sure we're both attractive to a lot of people (not that it should matter what other people think), but we just didn't happen to fit our exes preferences that they picked up from porn. I'm stil in the learning to love myself again phase, but already I'm looking in the mirror and seeing myself and realizing that I'm not so bad. I'm glad you learned to love your body again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:39 PM
17

How did they convince us that we're all crazy for disliking porn, when most women in the world feel this way? I guess it's a vicious cycle of so many of us lying about being ok with it that we all believe the other women actually are, which pressures us to keep lying and saying we're ok with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:20 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:15 PM
6

Also to go along with number 2, realize that the person you thought he was didn't actually exist. The John (or whatever name) you knew was a good, loving man who did right by you, but he was imaginary, and the man in this body that you thought your John was in is actually a different person. The person that you had in your head IS dead, so even if you get in a relationship with the same body, it will never be the man you thought you knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:14 PM
5

Number 2 is SO important if you're still holding onto feelings! I didn't keep a physical list (although that would have been a good idea), but I did keep a mental one, and it really stirs up my negative emotions toward him when I miss him or get some brief notion that I should just make it work for the sake of ease. It seems counterproductive to keep hurting yourself, but it was the only thing that helped me break the bond, because despite all the hurt he caused me, I still loved him. You have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:02 PM
66

Yes! How are we supposed to believe them when they say we're attractive when we KNOW we're not their ideal? My ex was looking at big ass and teen porn. I neither have a big ass, nor am I a teenager. If what they're choosing to watch, when they have the option to watch any kind of woman they want, looks nothing like you, then it's safe to assume they prefer that kind of woman to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 05:07 AM
118

In my experience, they won't do any chores unless they absolutely have to, like if there is no laundry or clean dishes left. As far as scrubbing, sweeping, mopping, dusting, etc., never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 01:47 AM
41

And the bar for "good father" is so low to begin with. They get praised for even the slightest bit of effort because it's so rare for them to put in any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:16 PM
77

Yep. Guarantee "did something inappropriate" and "family member" are used to sugarcoat a MUCH worse offense than he's letting on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:54 PM
64

If black women are so undesirable, then why are they trying to convince you so hard to lower your standards for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:19 PM
7

I really wonder why we're so conditioned to accept men following or talking to other women. I allowed my ex to follow some women his age because they were former co-workers (that was his excuse), and I felt like I would be unreasonable if i didn't. Come to find out, he wanted to fuck both of them. Like, why are we told we are insecure if we don't like that, even though so many women feel the same way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:13 PM
9

Amen! I ESPECIALLY won't be with a man that has ANY behaviors that make me feel insecure, even if I feel like I might be unreasonable. My feelings are my feelings, reasonable or not. But also, I won't be with a man if I don't want to for any reason. My first relationship was with a man that I was not at all attracted to, but I "gave him a chance" because he liked me and he was nice. Guess what? Even though we were together for years, I could still never force myself to be attracted to him, becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:59 PM
6

I would anyway. What are they gonna do about it? Say something to you, thereby admitting their men are trash?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:08 PM
5

Ewwwww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:03 PM
2

I was commenting on how some people say "Well, it's not like they're meeting in person." which seems to suggest that the hurtful or bad part of cheating is the two people coming face-to-face. Of course physical sex increases risk of STD, which is worse than no STDs, but that's not what I was commenting on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:06 PM
8

You can't. I can't police a grown man's behavior either, I just hope that I am being respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:05 AM
1

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:02 AM
6

I'm so glad I found both of these subs, because like you said, all I was getting before was a biased perspective, which was pro porn. It is so relieving to realize that I'm not alone, and that feeling bad about my previous partner watching porn was valid. It's a shame she wouldn't come see what any of us have to say, but I'm guessing that she didn't want to hear what she didn't want to hear. I get it though, because it's very painful when you realize what your partner has done to you, and that y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:59 AM
5

Not if he's doing it without the use of other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:42 PM
7

At some points, I actually kind of convinced myself that I was ok with it. If society says something is ok, it's really hard to go against it. It makes you feel like you must be the wrong one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:39 PM
10

I was like that not so long ago. I said porn was allowed, because I thought saying no was wrong. I thought the negative feelings I felt about my partner watching it were just me being jealous and unreasonably insecure. It is so normalized that I really thought disallowing it would be akin to telling my partner he wasn't allowed to greet the receptionist at the doctor's office because she was a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:36 PM
12

Mine could watch women with bodies way different than mine get double penetrated, but would get insecure if I made small talk with a lesbian at work or wore shorts to the grocery store because men would "think about (me) while they (were) jerking off later". Funny how it was perfectly fine for him to look at other women in a way that he didn't want other men to look at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:07 PM
3

I said ok to porn because I didn't think it was ok to say no to it, and because I was trying to impress him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:01 PM
13

And why is meeting someone in person the bad part? Like, it's ok for him to sext her and know what the inside of her asshole looks like, as long as they're not in the same room? It really makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:48 PM
11

It's absolutely cheating. Everything is the same as having sex with someone, except for the physical aspect. Think about it, if you found out your man was cheating, is the only part (or even the main part) that would upset you knowing his penis touched her vagina, or would it be the betrayal behind it? The knowing he was thinking about her, wanting her, seeing her naked, hearing her sounds, lusting after her, etc. All of that would be much more hurtful to me than his body touching her body, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:42 PM
8

A female bff, is a NEVER for me. I have allowed myself to be disrespected in many ways, but allowing female friends is one that I won't. Unless she's an 80-year-old woman, I would always wonder if something was there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:14 AM
11

Wow. I just Googled the situation, because I have never heard of him, and I saw his wife, and she is beautiful! Another example that goes to show you that if a man has the mind to cheat, he will, and it has nothing to do with you not being pretty enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:18 PM
17

People think mental illnesses are cute little nicknames for their personality traits. Crazy=eccentric or feisty, ADHD=short attention span, OCD=likes organization, Psycho=confrontational and quick to anger, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:17 PM
12

"Ugly femecels that can't get laid" lol! I guarantee the MAJORITY of us could stand in a parking lot right now, yell "Fuck me!", and have someone in our bed within 30 minutes. While men may have unrealistic beauty standards for the women they date, the will fuck anything with a pulse (or maybe not even a pulse).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:03 PM
9

That is truly a deal breaker for me. You don't have to have perfect grammar or spelling all the time, but if English is your first language, and you can't even use the correct form of very common words (your/you're, too/to, it's/its, there/their/they're), then you're going to give me the impression that you're lazy or dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:50 PM
5

There must be! Yet, you know all of them think they are just so original and funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:01 PM
11

Wow. This really made me realize what a true HVM could be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:48 AM
3

😂 Post Malone is already the ugliest man alive. I can't imagine how you managed to find an uglier version of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:42 AM
214

I am actually a cashier, and when I can tell a man thinks too highly of himself (there are a lot of regulars, so you get to know people), I am purposely short with him, and use a very straightforward, non-bubbly, deeper voice. I'm not gonna help boost someone's over-inflated ego by acting all upbeat and chipper. They will absolutely take it as flirting if you do, like they're the only customer you talk that way to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:37 AM
26

When I was 18 and working at a grocery store, I had to clean the windows one day, and several old men did the whole "Will you come over to my house and do mine next? Hur hur hur!" deal. I had to do so many half-hearted fake chuckles that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:01 AM
3

No!😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:53 PM
2

Fucking absurd. Why would you help pay off a gift that someone else gave you? So he gets to decide how much THEY are willing to spend, by himself, what the ring looks like, by himself, and you know he's still gonna be showing it off to people like "Hey, man, see what I got her?".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:06 PM
57

They're so full of shit. Any time I see a mismatched couple, the woman is always more attractive than the man, rarely the other way around. How many healthy-looking, averagely attractive men to you see with obese, unhygienic women?Because I see the opposite all the time. Their standards for us are WAY higher for us than ours are for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:11 PM
1

It wasn't my post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:09 PM
116

The ones who say they don't want gold diggers just don't have any gold lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:51 PM
9

I have gotten this feeling too, and I pray that I'm overthinking things. They are just so addicted and perverted in their choices of porn, most of them looking for very young women, that I almost don't see how they couldn't have these feelings towards their daughter and other family members too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:39 AM
3

Those things matter to me, especially looks. I wouldn't want or expect a super model, but I at least want to be sexually attracted to my sexual partner. I also wouldn't want someone so broke that he affects me negatively financially. Honestly, does none of that matter to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:28 PM
7

Never again. I don't care if it doesn't cause him ED, or any noticeable effects. I have realized that I don't have to accept my partner seeking out sexual gratification from someone else, and I'm not being ridiculous or a prude for expecting monogamy in my monogamous relationships. People can think this is as ridiculous as they want, but I now see porn as a form of polyamory. While the women in porn don't know who is watching them, the men that are watching them know their names, what their most…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:08 AM
12

He sounds like a great guy. It's a shame men would rather actively encourage each other to do worse than just change their own behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:15 AM
1

Lol, seriously. What was he doing his entire 20s before they got together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:35 PM
1

Lmao! Why is she even asking this?! He is TELLING HER he is going to cheat! Why would you try to be understanding of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:59 PM
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