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| 18 | This man really saw a woman’s standards of “has a job, showers daily, and has all his teeth” and came to the conclusion “nah, asking too much, men just can’t meet that”. If we lower our standards, there’s always someone trying to push them even lower.Tbh I was once downvoted in a comment section here for saying showering daily is a must. Other FDSers were saying the opposite and a few days later I got the pickmeisha flare 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 11:29 PM |
| 18 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Honestly I gotta say I love the development I’ve experienced with this. In my previous relationships I was an anxious insecure mess of a woman, allowing my exes to treat me poorly and in that way treating myself poorly. Now I learned to be kind to myself, I know how to give myself credit for my accomplishments no matter how small they are compared to what I want to achieve. I am managing to juggle university, a part-time job and learning my 4th foreign language. I made friends with similar views… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 11:43 PM |
| 38 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?Very early into my current relationship (actually still in the courting phase), my now boyfriend let me know that he won’t send dick pics and is not into thirst traps. He loves when I send him selfies with my cat though and photos revealing my teeth-showing smile😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 11:37 PM |
| 16 | Men who spew “not all men” rhetoric, this is for you.It’s a lovely written post, I like your vocabulary and formulation and you’ve taken a lot of your time to do it, but you are basically giving men a blueprint on how to tailor their answers and behavior to fool us into thinking they’re HV. We shouldn’t have to teach men to be HV (unless they’re our young sons) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 11:33 PM |
| 129 | “Men are simple creatures”In my language the word for “simple” also means “dumb” and I think that’s beautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 03:31 PM |
| 380 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childI love all the men in the comments telling him to give her 25k because her loss of 50k should be split between them but I don’t see anyone ready to split morning sickness, hemorrhoids, stretch marks, peeing when you sneeze or cough, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 04:03 PM |
| 22 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?He for the streets. I stopped giving blowjobs to my ex when I learned he has had anal years before, I was like idgaf to me you’re dirty now and I am judging you for it 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:54 PM |
| 64 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.Opposite here, actually. One of my friends back then kept saying how she’d never agree to it, but her bf wad obsessed with “getting all 3 territories” and when she agreed, I guess she was too embarrassed and hid it for months. Only to then start convincing us how nice it is and that we should all try. 🤢 Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 09:12 AM |
| 98 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.Horrific. I thank myself that even in my worst times, with everything else I put up with, I never allowed anyone do anal to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 09:02 AM |
| 23 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileAn attractive/hot guy (that’s what my mom tells me and I actually believe I exude hotness when in fact all I offer is a baby face with a double chin due to bad posture and a receding hairline at 22) from country X (I think my nationality is a personality trait and make sure to stress it) living my best life and exploring country Y, I love to party (who cares if said party ends with me f*cking a girl who was blackout drunk but I was certain she wanted me because in her completely rational blackou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 11 | Friends with Men?Yes, I have a male friend who I’ve known for 6 years and he hasn’t slipped once, hence why we’re still friends | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:51 AM |
| 21 | I have no words for men who are excited about the opportunity to pounce on Ukrainian refugees who are in a vulnerable position and having to flee their country and leave family behind. NO words.They are disgusting, what else is new? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 08:21 PM |
| 31 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesI used to go to high school with girls who were like “I can’t wait to be married, I want to be a beautiful bride and stand by my favorite beloved man”, 7-10 years later not only are they not engaged but also completely forgot what they were saying and I need to listen to crap like “I never wanted to get married, I never said that, I don’t need a wedding what matters is we love each other” or pickme-humor (“marriage is when you legally agree to ruin his life and vise versa hAhAhAaH”) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:30 AM |
| 16 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?Bad, extremely bad. I had an ex who hated his mom for cheating on his dad and he was openly cursing her behind her back in front of me. But had no issue with her paying his bills, plane tickets and basically covering his life abroad while he was unemployed. I had another ex who hated his dad for apparently bailing on their family and making my ex deserve his love, according to him. Never met the dad, but it just seemed like he left my ex’s mom for the woman who was his true love and also my ex i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:07 AM |
| 88 | Karmic Revenge on Cheaters (share your stories!)Honestly everyone knew, even me on some level 😂 I found him funny and cute visually because I was in love but I was ashamed of his behavior in social situations and felt extremely uneasy about him meeting my parents and friends, I always had some excuses ready in my head like “he’s a bit weird but it’s how he is”, I also dreaded the thought of having kids with him because the way he was raised and his manners were absolutely not what I wanted in my hypothetical kids 🥴 I think destiny was just ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 12:13 AM |
| 266 | Karmic Revenge on Cheaters (share your stories!)One of my cheating exes used to neg me and remind me that I can’t get guys as hot as my friends could. After we broke up, a guy that this ex had introduced me to asked me out. Guy is an absolute 10, my visual dream of a man and my ex has expressed being envious of how this guy looks. 6’3, gorgeous face, cheekbones and jawline like molded by angels, fit and balanced body with legs as proportionately trained as his upper body, straight posture, killer abs, personality that makes me proud to be see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:34 PM |
| 9 | What common FDS advice or opinions do you disagree with and why?Personally I do not do the “no blowjobs but get oral” thing. I see how in other situations it can be logical, since most women need oral to orgasm whereas men don’t need a blowjob to orgasm. Seen as I orgasm with no oral but my boyfriend knows I like it and never skips it, I also like pleasing him orally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:25 PM |
| 179 | I could not find ONE comment saying she’s in the right. He expects her to come over on the first date but gets offended when she mentions him paying for tea. A $2 item. 🥴Private jets and private schools are expensive but they want our private parts for free? Nah pass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 73 | Man Deducted $1 From Fiancee's Valentine's Day Gift Every Time She YelledHe’a a gold digger | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:52 PM |
| 191 | Zero Effort Valentine’s DayNeeeeext | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 61 | A reminder that being a high value woman will be uncomfortableMy guess is either male lurkers or people just generally assume I don’t know what I’m talking about due to my flair 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:53 PM |
| 138 | No.I’d call in sick to get my pussy eaten 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:37 PM |
| 160 | A reminder that being a high value woman will be uncomfortableFor the future I would advise you to avoid letting a man drive you in his car that early on especially to your freaking address!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:37 PM |
| 33 | 22 year old woman killed in Denmark because of misogyni - the most equal country in the world? Femicide and hatred of women - the state of the union 2022.Well written. Sadly I agree. The absolute state of Danish men I have dated 😒😒😒 I know a lot of girls sharing your opinion. I have noticed that when it’s bad, it’s terrible. But when it’s good, it’s out of this world - not to sound arrogant but I feel like I’ve found one of the few HVMs in Denmark. He makes the contrast with most other men eye-gaugingly visible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 09:55 AM |
| 47 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”If I ever get this question, I bet I’ll just shrug and blurt out “It’s easy when men are trash” and then I’ll laugh about them going batshit crazy like nOt AlL mEn 😡😡😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | This guy telling women we don’t know how beautiful we are and then blesses us with shirtless “clarity”. The bar is in HELL. 🙄Anyone remember that scene in Modern family when Phil was telling Gloria “You’re a beautiful woman, you’re probably one of those beautiful women who don’t know it” and she interrupted him firmly saying “No, I know it.” So yea, same here 😂😂😂 I know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Dirty Talk in the Sheets: Yay or Nay?There’s a major difference between dirty talk and sexy talk and people need to figure it out. Tell me your absolute dream man saying something as simple as “I love you” during the best sex of your life wouldn’t melt your insides with passion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know what to say other than ewwwww!If I ever sink this low, someone give me a lobotomy pls (considering I haven’t already gotten one because no other way would I agree to this crap) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:27 PM |
| 0 | There would be so many cockroaches with J namesReading this comment thread makes me feel like I probably got the only HVM in the world having a “J” name 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:23 PM |
| 10 | No words…Anyone else extremely creeped out by kids with small age difference? It rubs be the wrong way because even though I have never been pregnant, I know the female body needs time to rest after such a huge strain of carrying and birthing a baby, let alone hormones need to be normalized, cycle, etc. I’ve been thinking of that recently due to this weirdo from Love is blind Mark whose girlfriend gave birth to their first child in May 2021 and is now pregnant again and due in March 2022. She should have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 19 | When is the last time you had 5 star sex ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐?<1 week ago actually | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:59 PM |
| 6 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I love make up. All the colors, textures, available options of products. I am not as good as I want to be but I enjoy coloring my eyelids. Please don’t think of it as beauty industry being pushed on us - some women just love it as an activity. And it has nothing to do with men, what they like or how pretty they find us. I can go out with winged eyeliner and tropical pink eyeshadow one day and go with only serum and SPF on my face for the next 2 weeks. It’s all about my mood. I am pretty either w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Tell us about the PickMe friend(s) you ditched!She ditched me actually. Claimed I preferred my boyfriend over her (I don’t think that’s true, yes I have said no to plans with her because I had preferred him, but I had also done it the other way around, only I never specifically said “Today you have been chosen to spend time with over my boyfriend”). She kept making everything about her being single and having boy troubles. She slept with a trash guy who flat out said he didn’t want a relationship but she kept giving herself to him and fallin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:09 PM |
| 285 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"My HVM: “Really? Did he apologize? Jesus Christ what an ass” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:07 PM |
| 278 | Protect your wombNo man’s sperm is special enough to be inside my womb and that shall remain this way until I am married to the right one and decided to have kids. 🥰 No more, no less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Do you use fds to improve your partner?The handbook covers it pretty well why you shouldn’t teach a man how to be “HV”. And to answer your question- no, to me it’s important that the man I have chosen as my boyfriend is HV and keeps being HV. Only thing he can get is even more HV than he is right now 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:27 PM |
| 90 | How do you like your eggs: A vetting strategyI like my eggs un-fertilized | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 09:30 PM |
| 44 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭Bro, there’s no dick in this world I’d compete for 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:43 AM |
| 23 | A "compliment" that men need to stop usingOne of my exes called me “blowjob queen” and kept saying I was doing it like a porn star and he felt like in a porno movie 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:12 AM |
| 21 | Anyone else have "COVID glasses" about men now?He knows everyone is replaceable so he keeps up his love, attention, affection, care and effort towards me because he knows that’s the way to keep me 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:16 PM |
| 61 | Anyone else have "COVID glasses" about men now?Ew @ men like that. Meanwhile my bf picked up fishing as a new hobby, started going out running to keep in shape while the gyms were closed, experimented in the kitchen with many tasty meals and new products, has been the best company to quarantine with and took excellent care of me while I had covid. Men, level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:12 PM |
| 15 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?My LVX introduced us at a party 🤷🏻♀️ best thing he ever did lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:31 PM |
| 26 | Pay Attention To Where His Eyes LandOmg I hate when guys do that. And people in general!!! I used to be the “cool girlfriend” ogling girls with my ex and now I hate how creepy and disrespectful I was. 🤢 I was thinking how I’m so cool commenting on other girls’ boobs and asses and giving my ex green light to do so as well and fantasize about threesomes 😑😑😑 Also keep in mind that some guys love it when girls stare at them and stare back. Both my exes had girls ogle them and ofc ogled back. My current boyfriend also gets stared at be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:22 PM |
| 4 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Not really, because I met my HVM extremely easy and by coincidence. I know way more women and I am yet to meet a woman who even comes close to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:16 PM |
| 7 | Carrie & Mr. Big Show How Toxic "Endgame" Relationships Can BeAidan was trash too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:36 PM |
| 0 | How do you know if he's "the one"?You don’t 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:37 PM |
| 18 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I don’t mind changing my last name, because IF I do it, it will be for a man who’s worth it and a family that I’d be happy to be part of. And my boyfriend carries his mother’s last name and I’d love to be carrying it as well some day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:20 PM |
| 225 | This is the kinda shit we women have to put up with on OLDWith so much mentioning of pooping, my bet is he’s one of those who get turned on by poop in bed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:57 PM |
| 328 | Wonder why he stuck around for 3 dates... Just when you think men can't get any worse“Because she’s nice to me” That’s why I’m not nice to men 🤷🏻♀️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 10 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanI started reading with a huge interest. Unfortunately this post concerns the USA and not generally. Anyone has a piece of advice on the situation and laws in Poland? My heart aches for Polish women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Men puts more thought into a high-school sweetheart proposal than the "proposal" to his current wife. Of course the onus gets put on the woman and she gets told to cOmUNicatE.All I could read was “blah blah blah somehow I ended up thinking it’s a mutual problem so I am also at fault” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Do you have any female role models?Crossing my fingers for you and if allow me to give some unsolicited advice - therapy helped me. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 09:33 PM |
| 112 | Do you have any female role models?Am I allowed to say myself? Picked my own damn self up from what felt like literal rock bottom (TW sexual assault, an ex tried to rape me, which sent me into a spiral of depressive episodes, inability to sleep which in turn made me unable to focus and study so I got expelled). Managed to get back into university, got a part-time job to support myself and am killing it in my language class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:51 PM |
| 9 | My brother is becoming more and more LVM as he grows up, how do I reverse this?I don’t understand why is it your job to reverse this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:48 PM |
| 9 | Dating men on a similar level of attractivenessDate men who look better than you because they age worse than women. 🤷🏻♀️ If he’s a 6 now while you’re a 7-8, it’s only gonna get worse in some years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:01 PM |
| 10 | 365 Days on Netflix really helped when I was feeling horny AF.Honestly the thing I liked about this movie was the song I see red. That’s it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:12 PM |
| 5 | FDS when you're down on your looksI can give you an exercise related tip: look up Pamela Reif, she makes home workout plans that are different each week and with different difficulty levels. They are free and short - from 20 to 45 mins I think, you choose. As for make-up, IF you are interested and want to learn, look up some blogs and YouTube vids on beginner techniques. But I have always found that the biggest thing to make my skin feel pretty wasn’t make up, but the skincare I put under it. Spoil yourself with some new face cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 02:19 PM |
| 18 | Examples of green flags in my boyfriend’s fatherBecause his masculinity isn’t hurt by it? 😂 honestly idk, I haven’t asked since I don’t see it as abnormal. She gave birth to them so it’s her who continued the line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 09:42 AM |
| 48 | Examples of green flags in my boyfriend’s fatherMy boyfriend is so far my absolute dream man - kind, loving, affectionate, protective, supportive, inspiring me to be better, believing with me, spoiling me. Of course no one is perfect and my boyfriend realizes his father also has flaws and tries to avoid them. One example is that my boyfriend prioritizes his healthy habits more than his father. But when it comes to how he treats me, I have absolutely no complaints for now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:45 PM |
| 55 | Examples of green flags in my boyfriend’s fatherUnfortunately they are both dead, all I know is they were inseparable, loved to travel and experience new things and didn’t stop doing that until their last years. When he passed away, she was devastated and it’s like a piece of her was lost forever. I think they loved each other a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 12 | What's the best gift you received by a HVM?A cruise to Norway during which he sat me down and expressed his thoughts and intentions about the future with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 10:56 PM |
| 46 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.Fuck that noise. Do you see me going around killing my exes for cheating on me? No. I got therapy and moved on with my life. That’s why I am superior to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 06:53 PM |
| 19 | If he can’t pick up a box of tampons for you, he aint it!Mine did the same + stocked up on make up remover wipes and hair ties for when I decided to shower and didn’t want to wet my hair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:34 PM |
| 51 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsCan we talk about how much it irks me that you immediately answered? Like a part of you knew you needed to answer for your fiancé. Is he a wee toddler who can’t speak for himself? Or were you thinking he wouldn’t say “no, there won’t be any strip clubs” so you jumped in to say it. Either way, break off this engagement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…Report is filed, but with no wound or bruise the doctor cannot issue me a document to use when going to the police station for questioning 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 04:29 PM |
| 20 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…Shit, that’s an excellent question I will ask when I contact the police! Thank you! My brain is too fried, I feel like crying of helplessness thinking it can just keep happening every time I go out. I think I need to call my therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:45 PM |
| 33 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…Do you think I need blood tests if there’s no wound or breakage of my skin? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:21 PM |
| 35 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…I’ve already checked how is the procedure here where i live - I can report it but unfortunately without a name police cannot do anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 10:05 PM |
| 19 | Followup to yesterday's question: When do you first remember being told that a boy is mean to you when he likes you?Kindergarten 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 09:25 PM |
| 145 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…Luckily there isn’t a wound, not even a scar. It did hurt like a mf even though I was drunk so I was surprised he didn’t actually puncture my skin. It just hurts a little like a sore spot but no trace whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 09:11 PM |
| 289 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…As for everything else wrong with men, I blame porn culture and the narrative that biting and other pain-causing moves are sExY 😒😒😒 thank you for the kind words, I had a nice long talk with mentioned friend after we went back to her place for a sleepover. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:31 PM |
| 97 | Whenever I think men cannot possibly get worse…What @sofuckinggreat said. Nothing will happen to him on a busy Saturday night now when clubs here are finally revived after we all know what happened 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 08:30 PM |
| 257 | How to vet if a man is pornsickI’ll never forget my boyfriend’s face and the way he said “uhm… I’m not into that at all and will never be”, he was visibly so uncomfortable at the mention of bondage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 10:55 PM |
| 22 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?You might have a point, but to me casual sex can never be HV behavior. There is also a post in the handbook about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:42 PM |
| 195 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Samantha is not a HVW. It’s not HV to sleep with any and every guy you like immediately, including the gross old man who gifted her jewelry for her company. Remember how startled she was when Smith wanted to hold her hand or refused to leave her when she had cancer and couldn’t have sex with him? Yeah that’s pickme behavior. As for Desperate housewives, I adore Gaby’s sass and humor, but she cheated, lied, manipulated and stayed with Carlos when he treated her like shit. Again, not HV behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 08:25 AM |
| 2 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I like giving them to my boyfriend, because he is fantastic in bed, wildly invested in my pleasure and has the prettiest dick I’ve seen - beautiful, proportionate, just amazing. That’s the kind of dick I will gladly get close to. Still he isn’t a fan and has never requested one, it’s only when I feel like it as part of foreplay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 09:00 PM |
| 2 | What communication between dates an FDS lady would expect ?That plus let’s not forget men use dAiLy CoMmUnIcAtIoN to create false intimacy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 07:25 AM |
| 6 | What communication between dates an FDS lady would expect ?Could be, guess it’s just my understanding. I need hellos in person, not that much over text. When we’re not on a date, you can just let me do my thing and live my life 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 10:03 AM |
| 180 | "WIFE 💍"A girl from my high school had “XYZ’s better half” on her Instagram description for years. I totally agree that she’s better, but why did it have to be about XYZ and even mentioning him? Oh, and btw XYZ is ofc 10 years older than her, started dating her when she was 19 and they’ve been together almost 8 years with, yes you guessed it, no ring in sight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 10:02 AM |
| 15 | What communication between dates an FDS lady would expect ?I personally like my daily communication with boyfriends or guys I exclusively date after some time. Not from the very beginning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?Interesting. According to what I learned, it doesn’t scratch in the sense of usual scratches (as in losing part of the metal and hurting the surface), but it develops something called “patina”, which is a matt look that in some cultures is considered beautiful and a sign of a long life of wearing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 06:48 PM |
| 55 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?I mean where’s the lie. However, I still think Lestat is hot purely visually (face-wise, otherwise Tom Cruise is too short) but absolute trash as a person (or a dead person) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:32 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?https://www.withclarity.com/education/metal-education/gold-jewelry/ring-dipping this is the last article I read on that topic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 02:55 PM |
| 22 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?The country that I wanted to study in didn’t have suitable degrees in that - only in private high schools, not universities. I like it more the way it is now - a hobby that I teach myself about, not sure if I’d love it so much if it was a whole job. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:44 AM |
| 38 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?Yes. :) I wanted to study for a jeweler/gemologist, but I chose something different so I teach myself about those topics. Platinum is more durable than white gold. White gold needs to be “redipped” in rhodium so to say once a year to keep its color, otherwise it gets closer to actual gold color. Which is also pretty, but I don’t like the gold color on my skin so it needs to be either platinum or white gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:33 AM |
| 12 | Torry Hermann makes me laugh everyday. She loves to egg on useless guys.Torry is Russian. I am pretty sure her accent is overly “Russianised” for the fun of it. Same like Olga from TikTok, who doesn’t even have an accent in her everyday speech. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:29 AM |
| 68 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?I am not sure how much it should cost, but I am sure what I want in mine - lab diamond, platinum setting. The stone should be between 1 and 1.5 carats with certain degrees of clarity and color which bumps up the price. But it’s still a lab diamond so it’ll never be as expensive as an earth one, which is actually better for me! The dream ring for me could be anywhere between 3000€ and 4500€ depending on the retailer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:18 AM |
| 9 | The guy I've been dating for 3 weeks helped me move last weekBecause I like the saying and because she wrote “we didn’t even had sex” which is probably exactly the reason he’s so nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:03 PM |
| 40 | If he wants an*l sex from you, chances are that he has the potential to be, or is, abusiveMy ex told me “If you allow me, I’d take your butt immediately” 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 To which I got out of bed, got my bathrobe on saying “Of course you will, you are obsessed with fucking my butt, but I already told you I don’t allow that and never will so stop pushing” And he turned on the puppy-crybaby-nice guy face like “baaaaabe I’m sorry you know I love you so much” Can’t believe I stayed for over 3 years after that case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 08:35 AM |
| 419 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!📢 It’s not a “healthy sexual appetite” if you want to use “all the holes” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:43 AM |
| 55 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???bUt BuT bUt WoMeN gOLdDiGgEr | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 11:11 AM |
| 39 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?I left when I was 19 and still managed to gather plenty of bad experience 😂 the only good Eastern European men I know are: my dad, my younger brother, 2 friends of mine, my bestie’s boyfriend and more family members. That. Is. It. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 10:12 PM |
| 104 | Lmfao I died at this. Do any Eastern European women agree?I don’t date Eastern European guys because I’ve had too much bad experience and don’t feel like risking it any more 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ even if things with my boyfriend don’t work out, I still won’t date Eastern Europeans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:48 PM |
| 22 | This is what happens if you keep your DMs open. 🤢 Time to close.Honestly what’s wrong with just not responding and blocking them right away? They feed on you giving them response (=attention) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:25 PM |
| 57 | This just in ladies, lazy proposals are the pinnacle of romance and just the best!My ex screamed “If you only love me and I have no reason to be jealous, will you marry me then?” in the middle of yet another fight he had started over his insane uncontrollable jealousy. It was so sweet how much he loved me to not be able to contain his anger and to sound threatening enough to make sure I would say “yes” 😍😍😍🥺🥺🥺 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 06:47 AM |
| 54 | It screams LVM to me, but my friend argued that it's actually a HVM behaviour. What do y'all think?Precisely. I hate things like that. To me such billboards are total LV behavior 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:13 AM |
| 155 | It screams LVM to me, but my friend argued that it's actually a HVM behaviour. What do y'all think?He can admit doing something wrong personally. No need to bring outsiders in it in order to gain sympathy from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:09 AM |
| 448 | It screams LVM to me, but my friend argued that it's actually a HVM behaviour. What do y'all think?How is it HV to guilt trip her into forgiving you by posting a gigantic billboard in order to make everyone in her life advocating for you like “oh look at this billboard he’s so sorry you should forgive him!” To me, HV behavior is keeping the conflicts between the 2 people in a relationship and solve them in private, without big flashy billboards or similar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 08:46 AM |
| 37 | 16 mins of Nikki Glasser saying Pickme.I paused after “sometimes I work so hard to get myself wet” because I don’t have 16 minutes to waste on something that starts off like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:05 PM |
| 21 | I set the boundary…Love that, enjoy your dinner 🍽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:04 PM |
| 12 | 3 days, a whole 72 hours on NC .. Spent the weekend distracting myself with my family; had a lot of first times: bowling, mini golf, laser tag ✨ saw the city at night after what feels like a decade 🌃, then drank until I cried - but DIDN'T stalk him. Thanks so much for being patient with me 🙏🏽Wow those are some fun new activities you tried 😍 it’s okay to cry, I’m so proud of you for holding your ground and not stalking him even in a vulnerable state (drunk and crying) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:00 PM |
| 34 | This is why even a low value man like Gaston doesn’t like pickme behavior 😂😂Seconded. Evans is a true gem in acting, I’m just about to rewatch Dracula untold, The alienist and Beauty and the beast mostly due to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:14 PM |
| 63 | Pervert pretends to film wife at the beach but is actually recording woman in bikini behind her. Trash. Things like this are why I thank my lucky stars everyday that I never married or reproduced with a scroteThis was embarrassing to watch but if it was me, I’d be embarrassed to post. I’d just quietly walk away at the first sign of disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:06 PM |
| 6 | 2 DAYS OF NO CONTACT!! 48 whole hours!! Couldn't do it without you. 💖 Sticking this counter onto my door so every time I'm tempted, I'll be reminded of the self respect I'm about to lose.I personally won’t, years ago when I was going no contact with my ex, I was the same with my friends. They helped me immensely, so now I want to pay it forward and I’m gonna celebrate your willpower every day 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 10:21 AM |
| 1 | I bailed on a date and I’ve never been more proud of myselfGood for you, but for future reference, your first red flag is “to get drinks”. Say “no” there and then and save yourself from everything that you described in your post afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 10:19 AM |
| 42 | I paid for the dateHe loves spoiling me and loves my reaction to food/desserts. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:29 PM |
| 7 | Pleas share your tips for getting over someone and taking care of yourself after an amicable breakup!Skincare!!! I loved buying new products to test out after my ex dumped me. I had all my time to myself and chose to make it into “Netflix & skincare evening in my comfy jammies in bed” rather than “crying alone and depressed in bed”. I am a firm believer that when I do something good for my skin, I instantly feel better on the inside. Just like how when I eat bad food or feel bad emotions, it instantly shows up on my skin outside. Not too FDS friendly, but I dated guys from Tinder. It just felt … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:20 PM |
| 23 | Masturbation requires porn apparently“mEn NeEd PoRn” explain how they were able to wank in the 1700s without porn and still survived, Shadanda | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:14 PM |
| 13 | 2 DAYS OF NO CONTACT!! 48 whole hours!! Couldn't do it without you. 💖 Sticking this counter onto my door so every time I'm tempted, I'll be reminded of the self respect I'm about to lose.I love content like that, I’m all here for it if you decide to post something here every day 💕💕💕 be proud of yourself, I already am proud of you 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:11 PM |
| 37 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Honestly I wonder if he doesn’t like you enough to ask you out, what do you need him for??? Ofc I will ask my boyfriend of 1+ year out now, but it didn’t cross my mind in the beginning. And I never had to ask him out, because he always expresses that he wants to take me out and do the full thing- asking, planning, executing a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:10 PM |
| 7 | Can we talk about men who act like they are doing women a favor by objectifying them?This is why I said “then boyfriend”. My now boyfriend is a continuously vetted HVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:29 PM |
| 64 | Can we talk about men who act like they are doing women a favor by objectifying them?This page reminds me of a photographer where I lived 5 years ago who took photos of girls I knew (similar to those, lingerie photoshoots and whipped cream covering the nipples) and my then boyfriend went and liked every. single. one. of. those. photos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:41 PM |
| 67 | so.. I let my feelings get ahead of my logic and did something idioticNothing is a lost cause yet. Accept your setback, forgive yourself and do better next time ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:02 PM |
| 83 | Comment Section of Reddit’s “Popular” Posts Today on a P*rn Meme…He couldn’t give up porn and that’s one of the reasons I left and found a guy who puts me over women on a screen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:05 AM |
| 157 | 27 year old scrote with ED and porn sickness 🤢 and she’s the one who’s insecure and worrying about what she’s doing wrong! 🤦🏻♀️Aaaaaand that’s why we don’t deal with porn addicted men. Someone please link this lady here, she could have so much pain and time spared if she realizes porn addiction never gets better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:01 AM |
| 392 | Comment Section of Reddit’s “Popular” Posts Today on a P*rn Meme…I hope porn keeps my ex warm at night while I’m out here making someone else’s life amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 11:18 PM |
| 6 | Bare Minimum vs High ValueMy boyfriend is luckily the total opposite of those whiny bois who treat a minor cold like their last day on Earth 😂 my exes were both acting like on their deathbeds and it annoyed the hell out of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:57 PM |
| 9 | He was a medical help diggerI have the softest spot for mine too ❤️ she is the perfect granny, however I wasn’t the perfect granddaughter and have come to terms with it. So sorry for your loss 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 01:06 PM |
| 18 | He was a medical help diggerLol if I was the person I am today, I‘d never have put up with it. Let’s not forget we were probably all pickmes once. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:08 PM |
| 17 | If a man is willing to sleep with me too soon then I stop finding him attractive.Don’t forget ketchup bottles and raw chicken breasts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 06:08 AM |
| 29 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?Excellent then, lists are great for keeping you accountable 🥰 I am a person who loves that. One of my friends ended a relationship with an absolute LVM and we made a list of all his bad qualities so she could re-read whenever she missed him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:03 PM |
| 328 | If a man is willing to sleep with me too soon then I stop finding him attractive.Hard pass on community dick. Both my exes were like that and it took me years to stop blaming myself for being judgmental and repulsed and start seeing them for the disgusting manwhores they were 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:40 PM |
| 182 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?Absolutely DO NOT have a list of red and green flags, nor what you’re looking for/what you want out of a friendship or a relationship. Men will immediately tailor their whole behavior to your list to get laid. Make a list but keep it private - on paper only for yourself. Don’t discuss or express your standards, boundaries, wishes, etc. This way you can get attracted to men who naturally fulfill those standards instead of being told to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:22 PM |
| 109 | When a guys says he is a good listenerTo me, a guy saying he’s a good listener is like saying he’s a nice guy. Like he’s trying to convince me AND himself. Buddy, if you’re a good listener, I’ll be able to tell if you demonstrate it. Actions, not words. I agree with all your points, OP. Actually being a good listener is an incredibly good thing that I cherish highly. Everyone needs to know when (and how) to listen and when to speak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 02:16 PM |
| 19 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsI support the earlier comment on being overly guarded. We all know most men are trash, but I am super annoyed at almost every HVM post inevitably gathering some negativity in the comments. There’s a fine line between “I am happy for you but never stop vetting” and “He’s probably LVM in other ways”… just. No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:02 AM |
| 231 | I feel that I’m always walking on eggshells with you.I read the title and thought it was meant as something addressed at a man. Just want to add that it’s absolutely a gigantic red flag if a man makes you feel like you’re walking on eggshells. I feel like men would use this saying to trigger guilt. If a woman hears this phrase, she’d probably feel guilty and think of adjusting her behavior. And here I see a very clear difference between me and men: men would say it to manipulate women into changing their behavior (read “be more accommodating towar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 12:29 AM |
| 23 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptAll depends on the circumstances. Your skin and hair could also end up being awful if you shower in the morning, spend a day doing manual labor for example and then not shower for a second time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:56 PM |
| 27 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsI also agree with your comment and elaboration. My boyfriend is so far an absolute HVM but I am never taking it for granted, honestly vetting is a life-long process. Catch me vetting my husband at friends in my 90s. People can always turn on you. However, the whole “he’s probably cheating” narrative tells me something like “you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him then”. I believe a HVM would make you feel secure that you’re not being cheated on- the second this changes, he was never HV. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:42 PM |
| -1 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptOn your first point, bathing absolutely does not need to happen only if someone is stinky. I personally love standing under my shower in silence and feeling the water on my skin. I do it twice a day (water is free where I live so yay) and so does my boyfriend- when you shower in the morning and then spend a day at university/work/public transport/etc., it’s more than normal to take an evening shower as well. I don’t think it’s connected to a medical issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:15 PM |
| 29 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsAt a place with so many ladies with different views, you’d hear many different opinions. Some want more HVM stories, some don’t want to read about men (even HV) and prefer women-themed content, some want a third thing, some like the constant reminders that bare minimum isn’t HV, some like something else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:09 PM |
| 33 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsNot many. Hoping your parents are fully back on their feet and well now, mentally and physically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 55 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsI think OP wrote that as a conclusion for this specific flooding story. It sounds like an incredibly scary thing to happen to OP’s parents and in this specific case I think we can agree the husband acted pretty heroic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:45 PM |
| 274 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣Too many people in need of therapy instead of relationships 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:55 PM |
| 139 | What was your moment of clarity?Not a moment per se, but when we went from LDR to living together. I soon realized he had bad personality traits that I haven’t noticed before because when we saw each other for 2 weeks every 2 months there just wasn’t time for anything but overhyping the fact that we’re reunited. This went on for almost 4 months, building up and me going back and forth between feeling absolutely drained from fights and feeling like I can’t throw away over 3 years together. The tipping point was one December aft… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:08 PM |
| 6 | This 50/50 crap makes me want to rip my hair out - Priyanka Chopra says Nick Jonas only bought an engagement ring; reveals they split wedding expenses equallyI feel like Kevin (the oldest one) could still be decent. That or he’s not all up in media with his LV-ness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 01:29 PM |
| 148 | Y’all, he put a stuffed animal on me.I love stuffed animals 🥰 such a sweet story, I wish you a speedy recovery! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 08:48 PM |
| 16 | This 50/50 crap makes me want to rip my hair out - Priyanka Chopra says Nick Jonas only bought an engagement ring; reveals they split wedding expenses equallyYeah I kinda blanked on that bit. But in this case splitting the costs is even better than if her family had to cover everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 04:23 PM |
| 844 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Bold of you to assume having women would stop those men from harassing girls 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 39 | This 50/50 crap makes me want to rip my hair out - Priyanka Chopra says Nick Jonas only bought an engagement ring; reveals they split wedding expenses equallyWhere I live there’s no such tradition, the bride gets an engagement ring from the groom and they pay for the wedding themselves. In my home country it may have been the case of parents covering the wedding, but some years ago. Nowadays it’s always the bride and groom paying for the wedding together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:40 PM |
| 71 | This 50/50 crap makes me want to rip my hair out - Priyanka Chopra says Nick Jonas only bought an engagement ring; reveals they split wedding expenses equallyWait, since when it is not FDS-approved to split wedding costs? And why? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:14 PM |
| 7 | Help, I think my sister is not in a great relationship and realizing it and I don't know how to helpYou’re welcome and I’m hoping for the best development 💕 but honestly, it really is that simple. No one would keep pouring resources in something that doesn’t give back. It’s a bad direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:36 AM |
| 28 | Help, I think my sister is not in a great relationship and realizing it and I don't know how to helpAsk your sister this: “Hey, sister, if you don’t want to break up because you have invested so much time and money in this relationship, why do you want to keep investing more time and more money and get nothing in return?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:21 AM |
| 36 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualCheck out Luke Franchina on TikTok and thank me later 😂 dude is hilarious and his punchline is exactly that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 08:30 AM |
| 4 | How do you feel about video games?I don’t mind my boyfriend playing games. :) He plays a history-themed one he likes and uses this time to talk and play with his brother and friends as they live in different cities. But he also has long university days, a part-time job, an endless desire to spend time with me and excellent hygiene and life skills. Games are literally the last of his priorities and when a man is not addicted to them and has a life to lead, he won’t have that much time to spend playing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:35 PM |
| 39 | I love it when the trash takes itself outThey remind me of the small dogs that are always louder and angrier than any Labrador or German shepherd, for example | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:56 AM |
| 155 | Can we talk about how being with a porn addict seriously impacts a woman’s psyche, body, and life?It’s incredibly draining. Even now years later I am super disgusted and sick to my stomach that he ever touched me. A few times during our relationship I had moments when I absolutely lost my sex drive, looked at him and didn’t feel anything but “What happened, I used to find him attractive and now he’s gonna want to kiss me and else?!?!?!?” I felt like I was never enough because his porn turned him on more than me. I starved myself, overworked my body at the gym (had a few times I fainted), bou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:34 PM |
| 12 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.That’s a great story, tell it while you’re bringing me some ice tea 🧊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:37 PM |
| 9 | Male Scrote TrollsMy inbox is blocked and I also blocked the Reddit care team. Finally, inner peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:15 PM |
| 57 | My first experience with a phone screen, FDS-style.I don’t like guys asking what are you looking for in a relationship. It’s a highway to them faking whatever you say you look for. Big no. I don’t know who Deborah Cooper is but I don’t like trying to justify coffee for first dates, I’ve heard a lot of justification on that recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:14 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, what are some of the worst examples and common trends of LVM and pickme’s giving advice on the dating subs?I hate the “ride or die kinda chick” bit. People just throw it around expecting women to put up with all sorts of hell because they need to be “ride or die for their mans” and “wifey material”. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:54 AM |
| 4 | Why can't I post an image?I want to know too. I cannot either and I am an apprentice, so maybe it’s not flair related 🤷🏻♀️ it’s only texts I can post, no photos, videos, links, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:53 AM |
| 3 | What is everyone's advice on offering advice to people?I always ask what I can do. Depending on whether they want to vent or they want solutions, I take it from there. But I always give out FDS-friendly advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 02:03 AM |
| 30 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.Don’t engage or give your body to LVMs or their friends, please and thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 01:59 AM |
| 26 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...I am so sorry for your loss. And happy for the loss of this man. A mature and rational thing he could do was at least ask you something along the lines of “What do you need, would you like me to come and comfort you or let you be? Do you need a phone talk? Feel like sharing what’s on your mind?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 90 | Men benefit from women romanticizing marriage through the lens of unconditional loveif you loved someone you wouldn’t care what ring they got or how they propose to you. If HE loves me, he’ll get ME a beautiful ring I’d love to wear for the rest of my life or as long as I am married to him. 🥰🥰🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:05 PM |
| 57 | He actually said she should be happy with a lump of coal in the comments 🤦🏼♀️So he didn’t conceal it was a quartz, but also didn’t tell her - she found out from the jeweler. Why is this man so dumb 😩😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:03 AM |
| 60 | Multiple kids without marriage- thoughts?I don’t get this either. Creating a child is much bigger deal than marrying so I don’t buy the excuse “oh marriage is something very serious and we need to be sure we’re ready” 🤡 IF I ever get accidentally pregnant, I am expecting a ring and a wedding planned before I get fat. Or I am having an abortion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:17 AM |
| 19 | She’s only asking this because she know deep down her fiancé sucks and she’s settling. Why not wait until you’re no longer students?Maybe unwanted advice, but if you love morganites, consider that they’re a bit softer and easily scratchable when used daily. :( I adore how they look too but it’s those facts that made me swift towards other favorite stones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 05:22 PM |
| 38 | Scrotes in the comments were pissed😂 Keep raising those standards queens👑Wow I love how she articulates! Amazing voice and not a single lie spoken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:52 PM |
| 30 | Pick me-ism is a hell of a drugWas wondering that too 😂 for some reason I keep hearing it in my head with a French accent 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:55 PM |
| 21 | Study suggests that I don't give afStudy suggests that this woman 🙋🏻♀️ sexually desires her partner because he is sexually desirable and never forgets to keep winning and impressing her. 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 25 | Had a HVM and lost him☹️I see your opinion and you might have a point, but Let’s say a man puts up with mean treatment and being made to feel miserable for 2 years. Imo him staying in such a relationship makes him a doormat, not a HVM. We wouldn’t encourage a HVW to stay with a partner that makes her unhappy and we wouldn’t blame her for leaving said partner at a low point in their life. So why would a HVM put up with this? He knows his qualities and he’s probably seeking a healthier relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 49 | Had a HVM and lost him☹️Even if you find a HVM, it’s not guaranteed he’s the right HVM for you, he could very well be someone else’s soulmate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 59 | “Promising Young Woman”I know of this movie thanks to my bf who suggested it for one of our home-edition date nights. I kid you you not when I say that his beautiful eyes were glued on the screen, he assimilated each and every bit of the plot line and was utterly and openly vocal about how disgusting it is to take advantage of women, be they drunk or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:28 PM |
| 292 | He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡i’M sOrRy YoU’rE uPsEt 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:23 PM |
| 98 | What age range should I be dating in?If I was 27, I’d stop at 30. As for younger, I am not really interested in younger guys 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Men will say crap like “Marriage is something serious and needs to be done after more time has passed”…To me it depends. A HVM can become a widower, that I can accept, sure. He and the kid need to be very special for me to consider anything. Right now I wouldn’t but who knows 🤷🏻♀️ In the divorce situation, there needs to be a lot more digging because if the ex-wife wanted to divorce him, there’s a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 11:00 AM |
| 23 | Men will say crap like “Marriage is something serious and needs to be done after more time has passed”…Miss me with that bs 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 07:53 PM |
| 87 | Men will say crap like “Marriage is something serious and needs to be done after more time has passed”…That’s obv hyperbole for the sake of comedy 😂 I wouldn’t even date a man with a kid. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:46 PM |
| 38 | How do I deal with my extremely high libido?Well adult content is a path to porn addiction. As for the fact that you have so many hot guys around you, it sounds a bit like you’re too infatuated over their appearance and not vetting their personalities enough. Being hot is one thing. Are they decent humans? Do they brush their teeth? Do they shower daily? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:35 PM |
| 66 | How do I deal with my extremely high libido?I think you should seek a therapist, you sound a bit sex addicted. Solving this will make you feel lower levels of horniness and prevent you from jumping in bed with someone too soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:27 PM |
| 7 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑People saying “oh he’s lying to you” are just PLAIN PROJECTING. Just because pornsick Paul lies to his gf and pickme Patricia knows her bf is lying to her but chooses to stay and be RiDe Or DiE kInDa GiRl doesn’t mean we’re all in the same boat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:54 PM |
| 13 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑Did I miss something? I need a story here 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:51 PM |
| 9 | Holy shit. I finally did it.I was reading the bit of him saying he couldn’t do it today and you being understanding and kissing his forehead. Boy oh boy, imagine if you had forced yourselfon his as*hole despite him saying “No” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 97 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡Why would he do this to me. Because he hates you 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:19 PM |
| 125 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑Samesies ✋🏻 sex with a man who’s not porn addicted is out of this world 🤤🤤🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:12 PM |
| 73 | OLD in one picUgh, there was one of those when I was still on Tinder. Under the name Oral Fetishist (yes, really) he had written similar crap, finishing up with “dark hair, dark eyes, 175cm, discreet”. AND he had stated he goes to my university 🥲🥲🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 56 | Boundaries in bedYou dodged a bullet. In no world is hair pulling pleasurable for a woman. It’s pleasurable for the man only because it causes her discomfort and pain. I don’t accept my hair pulled. Ever. I don’t accept choking, spanking, spitting, name calling, slapping my face. Either you make love to me or you go act out your porn scenarios in your head with your hand instead of with me. You can’t have both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 10:40 AM |
| 134 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...Aaaaaaand ofc she had sex with him on the first date and wore the lingerie he, oh so much loved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 58 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyAbsolute same, I feel like 3 is ideal especially if he looks my age due to great skin and genetics 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:42 PM |
| 23 | I often find myself using notallmen anytime I try to talk about LV behaviourI just say “men are trash” and my bf doesn’t care because he knows I don’t mean him 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:32 AM |
| 188 | Oh btw…she mentions in the comments that she’s caught him chatting with other women, too. Also that he makes her feel crazy but that she is mentally ill so it might really be her.This reminds me of that scene in Desperate housewives where Bree was knackered after a whole day of work for her catering company but Orson was waiting for her in the dining room, staring at her saying “You promised to make me xyz for dinner today”; she said “Darling, this takes 4 hours, I’m tired and it’s crazy late, I’ll make it for you tomorrow” so he stared at her in a pouty way and repeated “You promised”. And she went into the kitchen and started cooking while crying. He was sipping his wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:29 AM |
| 230 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.How could we ask them to suffer like that when their partners could suffer like that There I fixed it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:06 PM |
| 141 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.You shouldn’t have to make him wrap it, he 👏🏻 SHOULD 👏🏻 know 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 210 | I just discovered that my boyfriend had been on Tinder for ALL of 2020 and only stopped because he kept getting rejected.Sorry you had to go through this and let this be a lesson and once again proving what has been discussed on this sub way too many times - there’s no middle value ❌ it’s either high or low/negative/zero. No middle ground, no compromise because of some HV traits 🙅🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 191 | Can I just leave this here? 🤣There’s no loose vaginas, only dicks too killed by death grip and unable to feel normally 🤙🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:02 PM |
| 230 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sMy boyfriend was in a car accident with sprained ribs, whiplash and shoulder trauma and still fed himself even though I offered help because he was pretty banged up. Meanwhile on the opposite spectrum of manhood 🙃🙃🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 07:23 PM |
| 200 | Is she high maintenance tho?“WoMeN aRe GoLdDiGgErS” said this giftdigger piece of 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:39 PM |
| 76 | Vet🙌🏻themAm I the only one thinking Matt is Mattilda? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Label TimeMy boyfriend asked me almost 4 months after our first date. To me it was a well executed courting phase. He respected my wishes and my “no”-s as well as my “yes”-es. Thinking back it only brings me good memories - it was a lovely time getting to know him and deciding my lovely bubble would be better with him in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:26 PM |
| 344 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.Women with class not ones that shove things up their ass “But she needs to let me shove my pencil dick up her ass because sEx LiFe NeEdS tO bE sPiCeD uP 🤪🤪🤪” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:10 PM |
| 8 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪A champagne tasting of 7 different types plus a tour of the champagne-yard (or whatever a vineyard for champagne is called); thermal SPA visit; wooden sauna hut overlooking the sea; or a gift card for a shooting range where you can choose between a gun, rifle or arrow (that’s more for me since I looooove shooting and have an excellent aim. Boyfriend got into it only this summer with my dad) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:53 AM |
| 65 | Another reason why 50/50 is bullsh*t: PERIOD PAINThat’s super sad to read 🥲 as a fellow sufferer (not to the point you describe but still, cramps have made me unable to go to university or school sometimes, also the diarrhea and throwing up) the only thing that helped me immediately was morphine. I was in the middle of my period and my boyfriend went to his dad and asked him for some of his post-operation stash that was unused. Literally felt instant relief and even took a nap lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.She tried the vanilla-soy milk back then and liked it, but she’s still sticking to black coffee :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 10:22 AM |
| 27 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.Not really related, but my boyfriend’s mom had coffee with me ONCE and noticed I drink vanilla-soy milk. Since then every time I visit them, there’s vanilla-soy milk in the fridge. It’s not something picked up together with the regular milk. It’s specifically remembered solely for me since they all drink black coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:55 AM |
| 14 | The complicated coffee order and the HV and LVM reactions.GIRL. SAME. I know he was pornsick but now I can connect it to his terrible memory which annoyed me but he was always like “You know I have a bad memory 🥺” but then unproblematically remembered the scene and name of the porn actress he wanted me to recreate for him 🚮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:53 AM |
| 45 | User sees a thirst trap tiktok, sees a particularly gross public comment, and sends that comment to the girlfriend of the guy who wrote it. These comments suck like have SOME respect for yourselfI was surprised it was a guy who made this screenshot and sent it to the girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:37 AM |
| 70 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪No, just no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:00 PM |
| 55 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪I can’t verbally express how much I don’t wanna be cOoL 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:21 PM |
| 87 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪😂😂😂 love your humor but that’s not a way to treat a HVM and anything different from HVM is just not worth the time and effort 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:15 PM |
| 5 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryI like James Allen, as you can choose whether to design your ring with a natural diamond, lab-grown diamond (way more affordable and conflict-free) or another type of gemstone. You can filter for shape, size, cut, fluorescence and so much more - all the filters have explanation and you can read further on things like “inclusions”, “cut”, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:49 AM |
| 16 | Tired of getting ads for cheap engagement rings and society telling me I have to lower my standards for essentially costume jewelryBecause of how brainwashed we all are - women into thinking “wanting an expensive ring makes me a golddigger and men don’t like that” and men into believing “if she’s a ride or die chick, she’ll accept scraps” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:45 AM |
| 78 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!He deactivated it so she can feel guilty for CoNtRoLiNg him, this way he’s silently gaslighting her. Takes literally 30 seconds to reactivate his Instagram. Buuuut now she saw he deactivated it and the thought that he might reactivate it or have a hidden account doesn’t cross her mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:07 PM |
| 59 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!Swear I just typed what my initial thought was 😂 I got more to say but a. Men don’t listen and b. Women here know ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:47 PM |
| 139 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!Ewww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 38 | FDS position on lube?I sometimes have “dryer” moments where we reach out for the lube. No clue why, my boyfriend is fantastic at foreplay and gets me started every single time, sometimes my body just doesn’t produce enough lubrication and no harm in that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:09 PM |
| 7 | “wHaT dO yOu bRiNg tO tHe tAbLe?”Adore your username btw! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 54 | In a post asking reddit to ban incel subs after an incel shooting in the UK, comments that FDS needs to be bannedUgh yeah like I’d waste time on men even if it’s to shoot at them. Nah, pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 29 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama cultureTrue but LVMs make your life worse in way too many aspects. Your financial stability itself doesn’t negate all the others ways in which a LVM drags you down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:33 PM |
| 3 | QueenWho is this lady? What is she badly known for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:31 PM |
| 38 | What do you all think about this?Just my 2 cents: my ex tried to r.pe me; my current boyfriend didn’t try to do the same to my ex and I wouldn’t want him to. I would much rather prefer my boyfriend do exactly what he did - listened, understood my trauma and made everything about me being understood and helped and not him executing revenge on my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:30 PM |
| 78 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama cultureWell Oxlade-Chamberlain is a footballer and those aren’t exactly known to be HVM 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 42 | PSA to the kinky pick-mes.Brilliantly written post! I went through that and loving every second since I snapped out. I saved and screenshot this in case it disappears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:15 PM |
| 41 | “wHaT dO yOu bRiNg tO tHe tAbLe?”Never got this question, but just in case I ever do - is scoffing and not saying anything else a decent response cause that’s the way I imagine myself 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:13 PM |
| 49 | This is actually my worst nightmare. It was posted on a "wholsome" sub.I’d rather have an abortion in the third trimester than this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 07:18 AM |
| 13 | This is not a dating post but I felt terrified last night because of a man. I feel partly responsible; I know I shouldn't say that.We’re all here to learn ❤️ no one started out knowing it all. Stay safe out there 🤞🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 08:47 PM |
| 29 | This is not a dating post but I felt terrified last night because of a man. I feel partly responsible; I know I shouldn't say that.I get it buuuuuut men stick their d*cks in ketchup bottles and McChicken sandwiches. No amount of greasy hair and matronly clothing can keep you safe. So always be prepared for the worst ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 08:42 PM |
| 44 | This is not a dating post but I felt terrified last night because of a man. I feel partly responsible; I know I shouldn't say that.I am sorry to say that, but I think the bit about you waiting to go out in the dark because of your clothes and hair is a tad problematic. You shouldn’t try to appeal to the male or female gaze - go out in the daylight, it’s still dangerous but not as much as during the night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 08:36 PM |
| 7 | Breakfast first date?When I was still in the courting stage with my HVM, we had a fantastic breakfast date. He was leaving for his hometown for Christmas and suggested we did something in the morning before his train. He had packed beforehand and woken up earlier to shower, get ready and appear on my doorstep in a button-up shirt and dress pants that stopped my breath a lil. It was a very pretty steakhouse that served all my favorite breakfast items. Everything he did showed effort so it was a yes from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:22 PM |
| 6 | This man does not deserve to have sex. Also note the age gapI was thinking 6M could refer to 6 months, meaning her body is absolutely not healed and ready for intercourse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:15 PM |
| 25 | Why do so many guys and girls say size doesn't matter? Do they genuinely believe this? Because it does matter for me....My theory is that’s their coping mechanism. If you have a big dick, great. If it’s small and you “know how to use it” and size REALLY “doesn’t matter”, why would you joke about it? Do you expect people to laugh and make you feel good about yourself with the countless “awh of course it doesn’t matter I aCtUaLlY pReFeR tHeM sMaLlEr” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:54 PM |
| 189 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everWow, wait until they find out we poop and that our “anus is too close to the vagina” as per this one guy’s realization post 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:19 AM |
| 5 | WARNING: Please stay away from Serbian men or Balkan men in general.Ah, that pickle. Been in it myself (with a pick-me friend) and the general tone of the advice I’ve gotten on here is basically you can’t force FDS on a fellow lady. She gotta be ready and willing to put in the work, you can’t spoon-feed her unfortunately. Crossing my fingers for your sister, here’s to hoping she snaps out of it. It’s always good that she has you, though, if only just to feel a part of that energy. Maybe it’ll start rubbing off on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:18 PM |
| 5 | WARNING: Please stay away from Serbian men or Balkan men in general.I do feel lucky to have them, they’re excellent with voicing their opinion on problematic men. Super great for your friend - it must be great to have a FDS sister who’s a literal sister 😍 sorry to say that but Balkan men absolutely do the acid throwing- I have read a gruesome story on the news about a case like that. One story on a man throwing acid in a woman’s face is one case too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:12 PM |
| 53 | WARNING: Please stay away from Serbian men or Balkan men in general.As a Balkan woman, I sadly agree. I’ve dealt with a lot of crap and men from my nationality have shown too many bad behaviors. To me, it’s a done no-no. Even if things with my boyfriend don’t work, I’d still date men from his nationality rather than from mine. To everyone saying “not all Balkan men” - I am too exhausted to look for a decent Balkan man and why should I when I have found my dream guy far away from that peninsula? Yes, there absolutely are good Balkan men I know: my brother, father… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:08 PM |
| 135 | Make it stop. 💀People with that thinking need a therapist, not a relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Quarantine and chill?Thank you 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Quarantine and chill?Oh thank you so much 🥰 and I didn’t know this bit about the spices, good to learn it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:51 PM |
| 32 | Quarantine and chill?Thank you 🥰 haven’t thought of spicy, maybe I should! I managed to get some flavor back only after dumping the juice of 3 lemons in my tea 😆😆😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 49 | Quarantine and chill?You hit the nail on the head with your explanation- this is why we do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 74 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Absolutely none because I am down with covid and quarantined with my lovely HVM. He makes my days great. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 03:32 PM |
| 390 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.that’s what you do with children. She’s so close to getting it 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:24 PM |
| 211 | Ugh, expect?Still better than your “cum sock”, Jared | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 5 | FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peaceChicks before dicks ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:39 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you 🥰 and thanks for asking, I love telling that story haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you so much 🥰 he’s just a sweet soul. There’s been a fox coming around the house where we’re vacationing and he leaves out water and sausages for him. Yesterday he said “This sausage I left has been standing for some time, it’s not very fresh anymore” and he proceeded to take out a fresh sausage for when mr. Fox arrives 🦊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:32 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Such a cute story 🥰 good luck on your quest to healthier eating habits 💪🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:30 PM |
| 3 | FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peaceThat sounds awesome, I’m happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:29 PM |
| 269 | FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peaceAs I like to say, it’s either the best man possible, or no man at all. I don’t need any half-assed men and won’t compromise my happiness ever again. ☀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:34 PM |
| 6 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.My ex was pretty much a social butterfly whereas I, on that specific day, didn’t feel like partying. Still, he promised it’d be a fun party and I’d get to meet my new dorm mates so I joined him. As we entered the garden, he introduced me to some new faces, ending with “And this is J., Mr. Hot guy” so I looked in his direction and lost my breath a lil. In front of me stood the most handsome guy I’ve seen, tall, well-built, with a jawline that could cut through a cake, a form fitting button-up shi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:26 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.At our previous dorm, my LVX introduced us 😄 oh the irony | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Oh lord 🤤🤤🤤 any chance you feel like sharing your husband’s homemade ice cream recipes? 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:19 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.He is 100% HVM so far and all my vetting that keeps going on says so too. It’s like he keeps making me happier and happier the longer time we’re together 🥰 your definition is beautifully put. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 52 | Revenge porn and anxietyAre you sure about that? Did you look for them scrolling up? That way they might not appear. Try going to the function where you can search in the chat itself and try with a relevant word. I have deleted messages with my ex but could still find them that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:26 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you so very much 🥰 it’s been almost 1,5 yrs and keeps getting better and sweeter 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:46 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Congratulations on your new job 🥳🥳🥳🍾 amazing idea your partner had! Physical fitness is important for our good health | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.No shame in that, I also do it for my boyfriend 🥰 after all, relationships are about mutual care for each other 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:44 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.It really isn’t that difficult. Nor is it an exhausting concept to grasp. You love someone, you show it, not just say it. 🥰 Glad for you and your man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:31 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Absolutely loving that ❤️ I was wrongly diagnosed with a pinched nerve and bought a heating pad, he then said he would pay for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 10:59 AM |
| 7 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I am sure the sister bond is something very special 🥰 I am happy you 2 have each other | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:57 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Your boyfriend sounds very sweet and like he cares about you a lot 🥰 I agree with everything you wrote | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:27 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I am sorry for your loss but he sounds like he knew you very well 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:31 AM |
| 22 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I love me a man who can think in advance 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:27 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you so very much 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:26 AM |
| 6 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you so much 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:25 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.You’re too sweet 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:25 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Tell me about it 🥺 I love these small gestures he does every now and then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:25 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Taco bell honestly sounds so good 🤤 we don’t have it where I live but damn it sounds delicious. Your comment also shows that even guys who do nice things are not automatically the right guy for us. I am crossing fingers you find your HV knight if that’s what you wish 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:24 AM |
| 21 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.At a dorm party, my LVX introduced us. After he broke up with me, l kept running into current bf at dorm parties and he eventually asked me out on a date. Been dating 4 months and in a relationship ever since. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:21 AM |
| 44 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Ahhh that is so sweet! Traffic can be super annoying. It didn’t cost him anything, but this gesture will probably get you home faster and happier 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:20 AM |
| 9 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Your last sentence sums it up beautifully 👌🏻 even if you don’t find someone, it sounds like you’ll be in pretty good company by yourself 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:18 AM |
| 6 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Damn, the smell of a fresh warm cinnamon bun 🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:09 AM |
| 48 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Wow I didn’t even think of that since it’s been almost 2 years of no whiny NVMs for me, but you are for sure speaking facts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:46 AM |
| 129 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.I love everything about that 🥰 mine does the same and my “nothing” always disappears when I see my favorite vegan mint choc chip ice cream in his hands 🤤 I also like doing it with his favorite cheeses 😁 it’s great when a couple speaks the same language ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:45 AM |
| 12 | The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitchI wanna say I’m alarmed because your username makes me think you’re only 23 and this guy is probably in his 50s 🥲🥲🥲 but can’t say I’m surprised, classic “fine wine” going for a young woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:39 AM |
| 220 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.That is really sweet of your husband, happy for you 🥰 my bf hasn’t done that before, but I always feel like the more time passes, the more new things he has up his sleeve to make me smile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 66 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Thank you! And me too, I am a sucker for sweet gestures, my bf says he can feel me smiling when I’m happy even if he’s not looking at me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:34 AM |
| 220 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Ahh that’s just awesome! Boyfriend always brings me some of my fav ice cream or candy without even asking “What do you need from the store?” 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:55 PM |
| 362 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Wait what? Which vulnerable group is it? 😂😂😂 The vulnerably fragile male ego? 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:52 PM |
| 26 | My boyfriend was making iced coffee and asked me if I wanted some. I said “No, thank you”, then he sat on the couch with his glass, I was like “Damn that looks good shoulda said yes” so he got up, went back to the kitchen and brought me the second iced coffee he had made for me.Fair enough, but I wouldn’t be annoyed and he knows me well enough to be aware of that :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansI really liked this movie as a kid and still watch it for laughs but the story and messages are an absolute no-go for me. Also, Pierce Brosnan was so good looking in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:17 PM |
| 27 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceDo you know what the funniest part is? My boyfriend doesn’t need to be babied and told how to adult, on the contrary, he is fantastic with all kinds of work (be it house- or something else) and I’d voluntarily give him a blowjob 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 56 | Share your badass breakup stories!After over 3,5yrs of LDR, after we moved in together, my ex started initiating fights and having jealous outbursts every month. I felt drained. He punched walls and then whined about how much his hand hurt, while I was scared shitless that if this 2meter-110kgs guy decided to, he could punch me with the same strength. During one of the last fights, where I was already losing so much love for him by the minute, he screamed “Well if I don’t have anything to worry about and shouldn’t be jealous bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:05 PM |
| 4 | Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?Uhm excuse me, but I’ll have to disagree. I’ve looked at 3 different mattresses my boyfriend has slept on for a good amount of time and there were no stains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:24 PM |
| 43 | You shouldn’t be cultivating a HVMI love that 🥰 brings me back memories of when my now boyfriend and I first started dating. I had no clue what FDS was back then, but he displayed fantastic HV traits since day 1. Now I look in retrospect and know he’s not HVM because I learned the meaning last year, he has been HVM since the beginning and I just didn’t know how to describe it. In a way, he taught me what HV is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 05:21 PM |
| 36 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"I have a so far HVM by my side, he is the only one with whom I’ve wanted children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:22 AM |
| 105 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"I‘m just lucky I guess 😂 Jokes aside, I’d love to have kids but not right now ❤️ someday with a HVM 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:45 AM |
| 25 | Greys Anatomy LVMI’m also watching Grey’s and love the medical plotlines, but the men drive me insane. My boyfriend knows Shepherd is called “McDreamy” but he refers to him as “McShit” and I laugh every time he says it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:05 AM |
| 76 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itMeanwhile my boyfriend when we were still dating: “I have read up on birth control and I know it can give you some nasty side effects. It’s a pretty normal thing to be on it here, but I am against it because of the risks. I don’t want you to feel like you should go on it, I am always prepared with condoms.” - The end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:57 PM |
| 119 | This is just ridiculous (don't forget to swipe)I’ve had the same with a guy who had turned 22 the week before. 🤷🏻♀️ And because it was my first time and I had no clue, the next few years were spent blaming myself for his inability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:55 AM |
| 161 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.Plus they have to pay the escort for each time they want to access the service. Nothing like splitting the bill on a coffee date and thinking you’ve secured your sex for the next 2 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 06:03 PM |
| 75 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?I love myself more than I could love any relationship and that gives me the strength to leave first thing tomorrow if I catch him cheating (also valid for any other red flag btw). I trust my bf won’t cheat because for the first time ever my gut feeling isn’t telling me I should worry. He’s completely different from all the other men I’ve been with and dated. He’s been open and honest since day 1, even before we got into a relationship. He doesn’t measure his success by how many women he can “bag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:31 PM |
| 17 | In sickness and health.That reminds me of my bf’s grandparents, both sets of them. He lost his paternal grandfather and since then his grandma has been getting worse, but according to him she misses her husband and wants to join him. Apparently they traveled a lot and experienced many nice things together up until he passed away. His other grandpa is in a home and his grandma was showing me their wedding picture, talking about how much she wishes he could live with her, how she loves and misses him and about their 65-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:52 AM |
| 1 | You Can Learn Lot From Their Behavior at the GymOhh, same here! I am romantic all the way in my bones 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 12 | You Can Learn Lot From Their Behavior at the GymHis brother is engaged and set to marry his lovely fiancé next summer 🥳 we are so excited for them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:08 PM |
| 70 | I effed upI feel like we should stop using this “2-year-rule” as a “one size fits all” kinda thing. If 2 people start dating at 18, maybe they’re not ready for marriage at 20. I, myself, am 25 and don’t agree with the 2-year “rule”, I want more time. FDS will not convince me there. Let’s be more understanding towards different points of views, situations and opinions. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:26 PM |
| 4 | I’d like to hear your opinions here.My boyfriend is 28 and a student but he’s also a graduated electrician, worked for some years, gathered savings and is now onto a second education because it offers more and better paid career choices, as well as less than 1% unemployment rate. Furthermore, the place he interned at offered him a paid part-time job which he accepted 🥳 I am proud of his determination and drive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:20 PM |
| 34 | You Can Learn Lot From Their Behavior at the GymMy boyfriend cleans and re-racks his weights. He is also never in my face with unwanted advice (but I do ask him, because he reads a lot on weightlifting), he never stares at anyone or criticizes them. He just goes to do his thing. When we went together, he used to say I motivated him and he was thankful for that, and also congratulated me every time I had new records with my weights 🥳 I think it was very cute how we both did our thing and then high-fived whenever we switched machines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:10 PM |
| 17 | How does he talk to the one who loves him unconditionally? You know, his dog?I absolutely adore how my boyfriend is with cats. Dogs are clear, they’ll love anyone. But cats are picky with who they give time and attention to. We are currently on vacation and he hasn’t missed showing me a single cat, while they all come to him, sniff his hand and let him pet them. My heart melts every time. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:16 PM |
| 16 | 99.9% of OLD profiles are like this.Men age like fine wine, innit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:21 PM |
| 1 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksTrue and that’s how I did it when I was dating around. Some of my behavior changes when in a relationship. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:06 PM |
| 86 | "Good Morning" small talk and other irksHonestly I’d feel annoyed if a guy doesn’t text me good morning. It’s like if we were in the same place and he just wakes up and leaves the room without greeting me. It’s a matter of manners to me. Seems rude af. I agree with the other points though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 09:15 PM |
| 944 | This is an actual “settlement” proposed by the pro se defendant in a divorce case. Unbelievable.Minus the use of salt, pepper, garlic and other basic ingredients??? What kind of a pissy toddler wrote that??? Which woman in her right mind would get turned on by her pissy baby-husband 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 6 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?Vetting is a life-long process and we all know that 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:24 PM |
| 76 | Ex-LVM didn't want to contribute, but was more than happy to take creditWow, okay I’ve never thought of it that way. Damn that’s some effort to dress such audacity in flowery sentences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:20 PM |
| 271 | Ex-LVM didn't want to contribute, but was more than happy to take creditI see you and raise you: Went to dinner with my LVX to celebrate 2 years and 5 months together, he invited me, picked the place, etc. By the end of dinner he said “Can you give me some of the money you withdrew from the ATM today because I want to pay for dinner?” 🤡 Money I withdrew from my card 🤡 he didn’t pay, he literally wanted to give my money to the waiter 🤡🤡🤡 he knew it’s embarrassing for the man to not pay so he wanted to make it look like he was paying 🤡 men 🤡 know 🤡 Let’s just cringe t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:09 PM |
| 13 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?Thank you, it was 3+ months ago and I am completely healed now. As my father called to say back then, “It’s easy to be together when it’s fun. But tough times and situations show the true colors of the man by your side and he has shown to be a good one.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:05 PM |
| 20 | Once comfortable with a vetted HVM, would you share some of your personal problems, traumas/health-related issues with him?Sometimes it’s not about whether I would, unfortunately… I had a health issue that required me to immediately go into the ER. My so far HV boyfriend was fantastic. If it was my choice, I wouldn’t share unless absolutely necessary (something like “I am dying of pain and you need to take me to the ER”) and that sharing would ideally be after the 1st year mark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Today I got up early and was very tiredApologies then. I’ve read countless posts here about women meeting with friends and or going out by themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:53 PM |
| -2 | Today I got up early and was very tiredNot sure what you mean by “call home” since English isn’t my first language. There was no calling, we had decided to take a walk in the park prior to today. I don’t call it a date when I’m with friends. I don’t really understand what are you trying to say, that FDS doesn’t allow to take a walk in the park with a friend? With guys I’m dating it’s obviously a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 12:51 PM |
| 71 | The new dating scam.But- but- but wOmeN bAaAaD, wAhmEn GoLdDiGgErSSsSs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:47 PM |
| 136 | Low effort is now the bare minimumI love fast food a lot, but I’ll eat it at home, cuddled up in bed in front of a comedy on Netflix. Comfortable and able to lead a conversation and cuddle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:45 PM |
| 15 | Thoughts on dating men without fathersMy ex was raised by his mom and didn’t like his dad, claiming to have had a bad relationship for most of his life and only recently starting to mend it. Said ex was also babied by his “mommy” as he called her and raised to think he was some sort of a king, because his mother put him on a pedestal his whole life. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:43 PM |
| 39 | Why do even high value celebrities have to date scrotes? Dude looks like he hasn’t brushed his teeth for years. Also, there’s a 17-year age difference — He’s 52 while Alexandra Daddario is 35. . She looks beautiful and should have ample options but she goes for this?!Out of curiosity, how is Alexandra Daddario high value? I am not familiar with her but in my book, you can’t call someone “high value” if they’re dating a scrote? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:30 PM |
| 17 | How to raise boys with HVM values and traits?Honestly my hope is to have kids with a HVM. My boyfriend’s father is so far HV, as is my boyfriend (and his younger brother too). Personal example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Are success stories on marrying a HVM?Not married but my boyfriend is so far HV. I am absolutely not afraid of being single so I screen him all the time and he’s fantastic so far. Thought I was anti-marriage but I’d marry him - turns out I was anti-marriage-with-my-LVXs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:01 PM |
| 11 | Not all men are bad. This is great news for women and bad news for the unwashed masses of Reddit.Of course it’s not all men 🤪 my fantastic HV boyfriend couldn’t be further from all the LV trash in this world | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:09 AM |
| 2 | Cats and HVMsThank you so much 🧡 my brother sent me a selfie with her yesterday, she was next to him in bed, laying on his pillow 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:03 AM |
| 1 | (SPOILERS) "I should treat you like my mom" - Too Hot to Handle is a Hot MessYou can’t turn your life in less than a month. That and people who are genuine about turning their life around don’t need to sit in front of a camera explaining how much they’ve turned their life around. 🤷🏻♀️ Carly has a lot of damage to undo, absolutely can’t happen during filming the show and after it ended, why would she care if there’s no money at stake? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 09:02 AM |
| 28 | (SPOILERS) "I should treat you like my mom" - Too Hot to Handle is a Hot MessCarly is on OF and publicly admitted to breaking the rules, proud that Lana didn’t catch her 👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Cats and HVMsShe had some sort of virus last summer, probably got it through licking something dirty. It made us very thing but not as much as now. She was healed and gained back all her weight lost. And now it’s probably this old issue acting up, vet says there are problems with her stomach and liver so we need to be extremely careful what food she gets. She was on antibiotics and now is getting a pill daily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Cats and HVMsI have actually heard many cases of female cats always going more to men and wanting attention from them, whilst male ones are very territorial of their female owners and don’t like other male cats or humans around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Cats and HVMsThank you so much ❤️ last night I just stayed with mine for 20 minutes talking to her and petting her, telling her about all the good times we had with her and asking her to please fight and get better 🐈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Cats and HVMsI am sorry for your kitten 🧡 he sounds like he was a fantastic fluffy guy 🐈⬛ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 12:41 PM |
| 16 | Cats and HVMsThank you so much to you and your girls ❤️ my boyfriend also petted a stray cat he saw yesterday, as well as some yard cats who walk around our neighborhood. They just all seem to like him. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:41 AM |
| 11 | Cats and HVMsThank you ❤️ I am happy for your kitty and hope I can soon say the same about mine. I will definitely treat her to chicken once the vet allows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:39 AM |
| 8 | Cats and HVMsI will definitely try that when she’s well enough to go off vet-prescribed food ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:38 AM |
| 17 | Cats and HVMsI adore that about cats ❤️ this pickiness on who they give their energy and attention to. We should all take notes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:37 AM |
| 7 | Cats and HVMsThank you so much ❤️ he is like this with house cats who walk around our neighborhood. He always sends me videos of them walking up to him and giving him some love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:36 AM |
| 7 | Cats and HVMsThank you ❤️ she only eats vet-prescribed food which has some specific effects on her organs. Nothing else is allowed. But good to know about chicken hearts and livers - that’s the first thing I‘ll treat her to when she is allowed normal food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:34 AM |
| 7 | Cats and HVMsThat sounds so sweet ❤️ definitely HV behavior! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:33 AM |
| 6 | Cats and HVMsThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:33 AM |
| 50 | SexIntheCity: Ultimate Pick Me show!!When he had the excuse of “I can’t marry you if you’re not a jew”, she turned her whole life around, sacrificed Christmas and so many hours of her time, put in all that effort. If Harry was serious about the marriage and not just making excuses, he would have bought a ring and proposed as soon as she started lessons. Wedding could have been after she was a Jew but why couldn’t he have proposed before??? Also when she spent so much time to get ready for her first Shabbat, he wanted to watch a foo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:36 PM |
| 8 | SexIntheCity: Ultimate Pick Me show!!Why is Harry the only man worth marrying? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:26 PM |
| 85 | SexIntheCity: Ultimate Pick Me show!!Charlotte obsesses over marriage to the point of asking her first husband Trey to marry her, ignoring his Madonna-whore complex and generally staying when all he demonstrates is bad sex and prioritizing his mom over Charlotte. And then she meets her divorce lawyer, sleeps with him even though she finds him unattractive, then changes her entire life and religious belief for him and then cries when he doesn’t propose to her, to which he dumps her. And then she takes him back. Yikes. Samantha may b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 07:24 PM |
| 184 | Truly embarrassingI absolutely hate that. For something this soft and squishy it sure did hurt as hell when my ex did it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 08:53 PM |
| 2 | I honestly think that when women say they want a nice guy this is what we are talking about. This man is masculine but also very sensitive and kind to his wife, it is so nice and attractive. thoughts?Ohhh that would be so cool, I will check tomorrow! When I was younger and living in my home country, there were so many Turkish dramas dubbed on TV, but I haven’t been able to find any recordings of them whatsoever 🥲 I loved watching Gümüş 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:42 PM |
| 104 | “Why are you still single?” And other questions I hate answeringHonestly I was always using the old “I haven’t found the right guy” and as cliche as it is, it sums up exactly what I was thinking. How are not more women understanding that single is better than the wrong guy? And that most guys are the wrong ones lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:23 PM |
| 1 | I honestly think that when women say they want a nice guy this is what we are talking about. This man is masculine but also very sensitive and kind to his wife, it is so nice and attractive. thoughts?May I ask where exactly do you watch Turkish TV dramas? If it’s somewhere available with English subtitles, I’d be soooo interested in that!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Today in “romanticizing abuse”Wtf is this word salad? English may not be my first language but this was too difficult to grasp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:42 PM |
| 29 | imagine being happy because a little kid is crying 🤡🤡Honestly I’d be ecstatic if Ukraine kicks England out. A bunch of air-filled peacocks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:01 PM |
| 3 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyThat was so sad to read. Minus the bit about loving when native people compliment the language skills. I am fluent in 4 languages myself (1 native, 3 foreign) and learning a 5th one and absolutely love the compliments I inevitably get because I am just incredibly good and fast at learning and remembering languages. I’d find that so sexy in a man ngl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 10:04 PM |
| 38 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyNo guys from my nationality 🙃🙃🙃 I’ve seen and experienced too much crap, so I’ll stick to dating foreigners even if my current relationship doesn’t work, I’d still choose a Scandinavian man over someone from my country | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:33 PM |
| 24 | For folks you ended up dating the hvm, how did you guys meet. I don’t want to get into OLD - had the worst experience last year.I was at a dorm party with my then bf who knew way more people than me and introduced me (I had recently moved in and he was good at making me part of the group). The tall handsome guy I met that night instantly caught my eye as the most attractive man I’ve seen and I kept running into him at following parties. A bit after my ex broke up with me, I remembered the tall handsome guy and soon after, he asked me on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 12:30 PM |
| 41 | Don’t give wifey energy to someone who isn’t your husbandTotally reasonable. I would advise you to practice reading your own comment(s) and imagining it’s a close friend asking you for advice. That way you’ll probably learn to recognize what is reasonable and what is pickmeism instead of following a “one size fits all” kinda mindset where someone says “XYZ is a wifey benefit” and everyone just agrees. Situations are nuanced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 11:21 PM |
| 2 | With the UEFA Euro going on at full speed, I am already annoyed at how many men have tried to slide into my DMs 😒I haven’t watched much football with my LV exes (one wasn’t into it and the other was almost always in another country) but I can imagine how your fun could be spoiled. So happy for you taking back your power. I personally absolutely loved today’s game of Croatia va. Scotland, laid in bed and watched it by myself, enjoying every minute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:33 PM |
| 15 | With the UEFA Euro going on at full speed, I am already annoyed at how many men have tried to slide into my DMs 😒Definitely agree on the metal music, experienced some of that back in high school. Looking back I’m just annoyed at the situation and my pickmeism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:34 PM |
| 8 | How to get over fear of men?Idk where you live but if you’re a student, you might be entitled to some discount. Also look into your country, maybe they offer something more budget-friendly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:15 AM |
| 16 | #couplegoals and real womenAlways liked Sofia and Joe together. Such an attractive couple, they match each other fantastically. Sofia looks like the kind of woman who takes no shit from anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:22 AM |
| 32 | How to get over fear of men?What about therapy? If you feel uncomfortable to such an extent, it would probably help to talk to a professional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 08:20 AM |
| 7 | Don’t think your boyfriend is HV just because he has green flagsI apologize if I was a bit too rude. It was not my intention to make you feel bad, but only to give an example of how red flags can be disguised so we gotta keep our eyes peeled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:40 AM |
| 25 | Don’t think your boyfriend is HV just because he has green flagsI am sorry you’re going through that but honestly, I stopped believing this guy was HV the moment he asked you out for drinks on the same day and you stuck around to give him the chance to eventually ask you on dinner. In the future, just block and delete low effort men, don’t stick around to teach them how you want to be dined. Also, you telling him “I have other dates lined up but don’t wanna go” basically screams “Ask me to be your girlfriend nowwwwww but even if you don’t, you already know I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:57 PM |
| 11 | Traumatic past- Don't want to share details with Future S/O. Thoughts?Absolutely okay! Everything you do and say should be okay for you. I personally refrain from sharing too much trauma, since a) my boyfriend isn’t a therapist and b) you can never be too protective of your past | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:02 PM |
| 4 | Ask a man why he loves youThank you 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:27 AM |
| 5 | Ask a man why he loves youThank you, he is exactly the type of sweet I like without overdoing it 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:26 AM |
| 1 | What other podcasts besides from FDS nurture you? I find that the most popular ones are conducted by males, gets tiring after a while.Disclaimer: they are in German but the Tabu-Brecher with Antonia Elena and Christian Wolf had some good episodes (one about violence in the family growing and and one about violence in the relationship, they laid out so so many violent traits that were familiar to me, I cried a bit) Podcaro by the influencer Caroline Julius, she has a super calming voice and has episodes on topics about self-love, positive body image and how to get there, as well as answering and advising followers on some probl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:52 PM |
| 8 | My friend's FB post, sounds about right. 😂I wanna be your friend’s friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:21 PM |
| 19 | FDS cured some major wedding FOMOMeanwhile my boyfriend started to work out and diet a bit more to get in better shape before meeting my family next month 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:26 PM |
| 17 | Advice from Baba Yaga (written by Taisia Kitaiskaia)I’ll look for this book in Russian first thing tomorrow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:18 PM |
| 190 | Ask a man why he loves youBoyfriend’s words: When we started dating, the more I got to know you and the more time I spent with you, the more new and interesting character traits I found in you. You are definitely the most beautiful woman, but you’re also incredibly smart and accomplished. You are also very funny and your laughter is so contagious. You have a beautiful smile. You are such a good friend to your friends, you are always trying to be sweet and kind to people. You do that dance with little jumps up and down wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:16 PM |
| 11 | Kind of Peeved After “Build A Man”On another note, google Marko Jarić - he is Adriana Lima’s ex husband. He looks like a sack of potatoes next to her. Bonus points- he cheated on her multiple times. (She did take him back the first time but that’s not the point I’m making for anyone who feels like adding that detail) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:59 PM |
| 14 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.Now I’m scared of ever encountering bad sushi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:52 PM |
| 77 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.Guys who have described bad sex to me have always had the argument of “She was boring/just laid there doing nothing” (= fancy words for saying she was 0 into it and waited for you to be done) or some sort of jab at her appearance, body, sounds, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:50 PM |
| 23 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.Underrated comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:47 PM |
| 19 | The popular saying "Sex is like pizza, even if it's bad it's pretty good" is proof that men just do not see the world the same way as women.Bro just say you’re terrible at sex and go jerk off in a sock | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:46 PM |
| 13 | There was a thread in a male subreddit where straight guys asked bi guys what their experience was like dating. All the bi guys said they had an easier time with other men, to which the straight guys said they were jealous they weren’t attracted to males. Cue pickmes getting upset for no reason 😂😂sO sAd To KnOw GuYs WoN’t PiCk Me 🥲🥲🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:12 AM |
| 8 | Stumbled upon this in my archives. The apology my ex sent to my best friend. They have never met or spoken, yet my ex was raging against said best friend and even made me stop talking to him for months. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩Thank you so much! I am having the time of my life right now with a man who has so far displayed everything I look for in a man 🥰 FDS works! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 12 | Stumbled upon this in my archives. The apology my ex sent to my best friend. They have never met or spoken, yet my ex was raging against said best friend and even made me stop talking to him for months. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩He is but he’s not looking to date because he says “I can’t expect someone to like me when I’m not the biggest fan of myself” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:40 AM |
| 22 | Stumbled upon this in my archives. The apology my ex sent to my best friend. They have never met or spoken, yet my ex was raging against said best friend and even made me stop talking to him for months. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩He apologized after every scandal he started, every fight we had and every time I was drained to the point of not even being able to cry. Then he cried (and he was an ugly crier). But an apology without a change in behavior is just manipulation, nothing else. Eventually I felt sick and infuriated by his “I’m sorry”s and stopped taking them seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:37 AM |
| 33 | Stumbled upon this in my archives. The apology my ex sent to my best friend. They have never met or spoken, yet my ex was raging against said best friend and even made me stop talking to him for months. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩He apologized to me after every fight he started, every time he made me sad, every time when he promised to be better. His apologies meant nothing to me at some point, it was just words and he was good at throwing them around sounding like a movie script. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 40 | Stumbled upon this in my archives. The apology my ex sent to my best friend. They have never met or spoken, yet my ex was raging against said best friend and even made me stop talking to him for months. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩My friend is too freaking good for this world, after all this word salad, all he had to say to me was how sorry he was that I had to put up with my ex’s crap for too long. We are close again, luckily. During the first 2 years of said relationship I was naive and the obedient, but after the 3rd year I totally changed and my ex knew he better not try to forbid me anything if he wants his balls intact. And eventually I dumped him, a few days before he sent out that apology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:50 PM |
| 30 | Remember, men have no problem using you for relationship benefits until they find someone betterThis guy is a sexdigger | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:24 PM |
| 4 | A HVM knows how to take care of sh*tDenmark, but I’ve heard similar things about Scandinavian countries in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:20 PM |
| 133 | I just love everything about this absolute Queen!!I remember her from her TikTok about guys learning everything from pornoCRAPPIES 😂😂😂 she’s hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 09:09 PM |
| 3 | Are there men who don't look at porn?Agreed, but nothing to worry me there. He has dated women and had a long-term relationship that ended without any bitterness or “she’s a crazy bitch”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Are there men who don't look at porn?I’d love to get the name of that documentary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:19 PM |
| 10 | A HVM knows how to take care of sh*tNot OP, but also living with my boyfriend. FDS frowns upon it because men get used to wife privileges without ever committing (marrying). I have made this choice for myself because my boyfriend is so far HV, takes care of the apartment, cleans, cooks, shops equally as me, even more. We have the same views on marriage and when it is to happen so right now there are no problems (obv if he doesn’t follow through, I’m out), I am not a live-in maid, I am a happy and loved woman who has been loving co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 07:46 AM |
| 40 | Are there men who don't look at porn?My boyfriend grew up shy and didn’t have success with girls until after he turned 20. Contrary to popular belief, that didn’t make him bitter, angry at Becky who rejected him in 8th grade or aggressively consuming porn. He sees women as living beings, not as eyecandy to satisfy his needs. What I’m saying is there is hope. He said he wasn’t watching porn before I even cared about that or had it as a boundary, before we were even in a relationship. He doesn’t have the crazy sex drive of my exes - … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 07:33 AM |
| 93 | Men are grossI hope that’s an ex partner and that you got some shots 💉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 10:00 PM |
| 518 | The CheckIf a man loves and respects his buddies enough to treat them but not his girlfriend, he should just go be with his buddies and suck their dick. Plus, he’d get his oh so desired anal all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:53 PM |
| 33 | Title: “I (25f) am pregnant. Partner (28m) wants a paternity test. I think he's looking for an excuse to leave.” Just yikes 😬Usually yes, however there’s a possibility to conduct such a test while the mother is still pregnant. From what I know it’s more expensive, requires more effort and it’s more painful and traumatic to the baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 13 | QUEENS, How Have You Found Your HVM?I wasn’t looking (in fact I was in a relationship when I first met him). My then bf introduced me to my HVM at a dorm party. Obviously nothing happened then, apart from me thinking “This is the most handsome guy I’ve seen, I wish I was single” After our break up I was dating a few guys from Tinder, nothing serious. I ran into said HVM at another dorm party, where we ended up having a nice chat, some beer pong games, etc. At the end of it, he walked me to my block and asked me out on a date. Date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:41 PM |
| 21 | Today’s story: Aenne Burda. Spent decades being a housewife only to find out her husband was cheating and had a kid on the side. Instead of turning a blind eye, she took over his not so successful business and turned it into a fashion empire. Absolutely queen energy!Exactly how I interpret it. We can’t be sure if it was even possible to divorce back then and people might have assumed she forgave him just because she didn’t kick him out. Maybe she never forgave, but accepted the situation and made the best of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:35 PM |
| 42 | Today’s story: Aenne Burda. Spent decades being a housewife only to find out her husband was cheating and had a kid on the side. Instead of turning a blind eye, she took over his not so successful business and turned it into a fashion empire. Absolutely queen energy!Agreed, however let’s not forget that even so, everything else she did must have been pretty unthinkable for that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 11:33 AM |
| 9 | After being single for years, dating again is like testing out the boundaries I’ve developed in my single petri dish in the wild. I can finally be my authentic self instead of catering to men, but I’m also scared of falling into old patterns. Do you have other reminders?Hmm you might have a point. I’ll admit I haven’t gotten that feeling of jumping into cold water but I lucked out with literally getting served a HVM on a silver platter by my LVX. I haven’t considered how things are from someone else’s perspective, so your comment was very useful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:10 PM |
| 3 | Long-Distance Post: Further than 200 milesMake sure someone close enough to you knows this full story plus any information on this guy who has your address. I don’t know if you live in a house (leave out male shoes in front of the door) or apartment complex (depends on what the level of security is, can just anyone enter? Are there cameras? Think on those points and remember, you can never be too safe) Unfortunately there’s no way for you to change your address I think but I am sure in the future you wouldn’t give it out that soon. If a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:07 PM |
| 25 | Why is it...The only man who I refer to as “viking” is, logically, my Scandinavian boyfriend who’s tall, gorgeous, masculine and strong, incredibly smart, handy and efficient at problem-solving. Note for all dusties, vikings had incredibly good hygiene (for the time they lived in), they had razors, tweezers, ear cleaners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:58 PM |
| 43 | After being single for years, dating again is like testing out the boundaries I’ve developed in my single petri dish in the wild. I can finally be my authentic self instead of catering to men, but I’m also scared of falling into old patterns. Do you have other reminders?I feel a bit iffy about the second point. There was a discussion on the podcast why it’s a terrible idea for a woman to date before she has healed from all her mental and physical problems. Therapy first, dates can wait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 28 | Why being string along in a relationship is bad idea.OP, I, for one, would love to read more on “mEn ArE nOt BaD, wOmEn BiTcHeS”, do share more if you feel like it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:47 PM |
| 34 | Love this. Louder for the scrotes in the back.It says torryherrmann and she’s really a Russian (her name didn’t sound that way to me but maybe she americanized it) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:40 PM |
| 3 | Long-Distance Post: Further than 200 milesI agree with everything but the bit about him introducing you to his friends prior to meeting you in person. Big red flag to me. Even meeting his friends early on in the relationship isn’t okay for me, let alone before ever meeting him? Men like to create this fake sense of familiarity and making you feel included. Don’t fall for it and don’t go all giddy about it, this makes you way easier to manipulate and “command” after you’ve put your pink glasses on thinking how much must he cherish you to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:37 PM |
| 3 | Movies to avoid in his Letterboxd FavouritesThat was very pleasant to read. You hit the nail on the head, describing exactly the way I liked it and the way it’s unhealthy for it to be liked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:28 PM |
| 13 | I’m fuming y’allConditioning or not, there’s a line after which it stops being “I don’t realize what I’m being put through isn’t normal” and “He’s abusive but I still love him and he’s not always like that”. The latter type of mindset, to me, is linked to being incapable of happiness on your own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:59 PM |
| 10 | So I’ve just created a female only sub and was wondering how I moderate it to keep it female only?I’ve personally caught men by their post or comment history, however, I don’t have any other advice for you. Maybe the mods here will add valuable insights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:52 PM |
| 209 | Love this. Louder for the scrotes in the back.Living for this accent!!! 😂 why does bashing men sound so good with Russian accent!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:04 PM |
| 10 | Movies to avoid in his Letterboxd FavouritesI might be biased because there’s something I really like about Joaquin’s presence on screen. I get the movie isn’t FDS but I wouldn’t judge myself or anyone else picking it as a favorite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:02 PM |
| 4 | I’m fuming y’allBet she thinks she’s so cool and unique, yet she’s exactly like most other doorma- girls, I mean girls! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:54 PM |
| 23 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.Hahaha I love that 😂 seen as I am very tall for a woman and walk relatively fast, I’d be out before someone finishes a sentence 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:36 PM |
| 43 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.I love how you defined it, it’s definitely frosty politeness. It helps that I generally don’t smile a lot so I am completely used to my face being like a stone, most people have said they’re a bit afraid and choose to not address me 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:22 PM |
| 8 | I’m fuming y’allGreatly put! As I said, “if he leaves his socks on the floor, I’m out the door” 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻 and the only time I would post a screenshot of a man insulting me would be to warn everyone what a piece of work he is 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:00 PM |
| 7 | I’m fuming y’allI am sure they will with an example like you and your husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 116 | “What do you bring to the table?” is a question men use as a set up to devalue women—it is never sincereA badass lady posted here and talking about making 70k, having a degree and a secure job, as well as her own place, was crossposted in one of those FDS-hate subs and scrotes were like rEeEeE tHaT’s BaRe MiNiMum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:53 PM |
| 18 | Movies to avoid in his Letterboxd FavouritesI had to google what Letterboxd was 😂 On a different note, what’s up with Joker? I must admit I don’t remember what was it about in detail and don’t have the habit of rewatching movies. I only remember I loved Joaquin’s acting and liked the movie a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:19 PM |
| 13 | Hi!!Welcome! I am sure you’ll feel really cozy in our women bubble. 🥰 Good on you for the break up! It only gets better from now on 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 26 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.Don’t get me wrong, I think of myself as a very empathetic person. I am kind to all my friends and family, I am also kind to elderly strangers, women of all ages or children. It’s only this kinda group of guys around my age that I am a bit iffy about and don’t generally enter conversation with them with my kind side dominating. Usually I enter bitch face first and expect the worst of them. Most recent source: a guy in my class who has a gorgeous girlfriend and knows I have a boyfriend, yet had n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:12 PM |
| 48 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.That’s why I’m not nice to random men 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:04 PM |
| 12 | I’m fuming y’allOMG the fap socks 🤢🤢🤢 for my ex it was a c*m shirt 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:03 PM |
| 12 | I’m fuming y’allEasy, you brush it off as a joke and proceed to give a lecture on how “You don’t give up on someone you love over something so insignificant, and if you do, shame on you, you don’t deserve a man and to be loved” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:36 PM |
| 13 | I’m fuming y’allJust general disgustingness I guess 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:38 PM |
| 19 | I’m fuming y’all... if you leave your socks on the floor, I’m out the door 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 36 | "Am I the most beautiful woman in the world?"I’ve never asked this question. In fact, my boyfriend himself tells me I’m the most beautiful woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:17 PM |
| 32 | I’m fuming y’allYou do know that men sometimes wear a pair of socks, take it off and then proceed to put it on again, right? If you didn’t, sorry for the bad news. 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:25 AM |
| 37 | I’m fuming y’allUgh, that’s super annoying. I personally just hate feet and socks if they’re on the floor so this whole thing irks me. Even with my exes who were lowest of the low, I never picked up socks or underwear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:10 AM |
| 107 | I’m fuming y’allImagine being so incapable of being happy on your own that you’d put up with all kinds of male crap only to stay in a relationship 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:52 AM |
| 81 | I’m fuming y’allThis was EXTREMELY hard to translate but the original word in my language means something along the lines of “a woman who is vulgar and provocative” and I feel like the closest translation was “slut”, feel free to correct me though. My insult vocabulary isn’t top notch 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:51 AM |
| 10 | Wife SchoolIt’s so funny they still think they are the choosers 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:13 AM |
| 76 | I’m fuming y’allWhere I come from it’s so common for men to pull crap like that. So often you can hear guys belittling their gfs, calling them things like “sheep”, “dummie”, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 08:56 AM |
| 21 | Didn’t take him long to show his true colours“I’ll try to plan something” Really? That’s the effort your friend wants? With the same logic it could be “I’ll try to pull out”, “I’ll try to not cheat”, etc. NEXT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:47 AM |
| 51 | This is absolutely domestic abuse and he should be in fucking jail. I'm outragedRead that gem too, absolutely loved how another user went off on this comment, completely translating what it said but using real words and not flower language 😃 OP didn’t listen though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes I forget what the rest of this platform is like. Does not take long to come across this kind of content, in droves.You might have a point, but let’s be fair - how many men would welcome attention from a woman they don’t find attractive for the sole reason of getting their dick wet? Short answer is “a lot”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:58 PM |
| 3 | Call me radical but this is one of the reasons why hookups should stop being popular and glorifiedThe first time I wanted to have sex didn’t work since he lost his hard-on and couldn’t get it up again (he was 22 at the time) so I spent years feeling like it’s my fault for not being attractive enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:42 PM |
| 14 | Sometimes I forget what the rest of this platform is like. Does not take long to come across this kind of content, in droves.That’s an incredibly disgusting thought to express out loud to a girlfriend. I’d reconsider my choice in an SO if I were you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:41 PM |
| 26 | Sometimes I forget what the rest of this platform is like. Does not take long to come across this kind of content, in droves.Men would love attention from women because in their male brains it means women want to fuck them. Women avoid attention from men because we know the main purpose of it is for men to get to fuck us. We’re not the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:23 PM |
| 43 | Call me radical but this is one of the reasons why hookups should stop being popular and glorified25 and can’t get an erection? Dr. Sass says erectile dysfunction, absolutely his fault, no one else’s. 🩺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:51 PM |
| 31 | My grandpa’s gesture made me almost cryThis is such a beautiful story 🥺 I am so very sorry for your loss 💔 and my country also has that tradition, I love how your grandpa made sure to follow it 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:16 PM |
| 17 | 🚩 RED FLAGS 🚩 Career edition 🤭😳 (psychopath edition 🥲🧛♂️)Which is sad because McDreamy is absolute and utter trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:54 AM |
| 23 | Dating in ScandinaviaHahahah for real though 😂😂😂 but I still don’t encourage dealing with LVMs, my boyfriend is a rare breed and men like him don’t just walk around at dorm parties acquainted with LV trash 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 05:09 PM |
| 92 | Dating in ScandinaviaI live in Scandinavia (I am non-Scandi) and my HVM is Scandinavian. While I was still on dating apps, Scandi men asked me out for coffee + walk. My boyfriend is the first guy to actually ask me out on proper dates. He has displayed many green flags and keeps displaying them (over a year together). However, from my experience, he is a rarity. My LV ex introduced us two and we started dating after said LVM broke up with me, I mean what are the chances 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:59 PM |
| 162 | I am feeling immense guilt for leaving my relationship. Feeling like the bad guy and that I wasn’t patient enough. Would appreciate support to not go back to him.7 years without a ring should erase all your guilt, love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 480 | Why I will never allow a gun owning man in my homeApparently prior to shooting her in the arm, he thought she had his cellphone in his hand and he thought they were fighting over the cellphone. It was only after the gun fired when he knew it was a gun, not a cellphone. What kind of intellectually challenged monkey can’t tell the difference between a phone and a gun? And that’s the police force that’s supposed to protect? God save America. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:24 AM |
| 261 | This lil queen out there telling scrotes off is a beautiful thing👑💛For the love of god please don’t post your selfies on Reddit. Would you really want some questionable men jerking off to them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 11:25 AM |
| 8 | Being Vegan is a deterrent of LVMsI won’t go vegan (at least now, who knows what the future will bring) but I do enjoy vegan meals and products every now and then. And am absolutely disgusted that people (read men) have managed to ruin a whole nutrition lifestyle with their horrific “meat jokes”. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:48 AM |
| 113 | "Why won't women date me? I'm a NICE guy!"Get a grip. He already has, a death one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:42 AM |
| 334 | It's the edit for me ~~~if women talked about men like men talk about women Ew, sis, ditch this golddigging boi! I bet he doesn’t even do the dishes! What good is a man if he won’t even give you oral on demand while you drink wine? Besides he let my girl Shannon smash on the first date and you don’t wanna get hitched with that 🍤 if ya know what I’m saying hehehehe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:37 AM |
| 6 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Hm I don’t know, feel like if someone has invested 22 years of studying (as he has said he had), it wouldn’t just be for a marketing strategy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:31 AM |
| 17 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Hm, I don’t know what to say. You might be right, but I personally love posting funny TikToks like that or posting green flags in my HVM so I am not gonna stop doing it, unless it starts being against the rules. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:10 PM |
| 23 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️The “dating” part of Female DATING strategy would assume that men will be brought up here, since women who are not homosexual would date men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:06 PM |
| 19 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️He has shown ass implants in other videos and they did look exactly the same. I was expecting they’d be transparent and liquidy like the breast ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:11 PM |
| 19 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️This is exactly what I have noticed, some of his comments openly saying “I don’t do this surgery/I wouldn’t do this surgery to you personally”. It’s so cool how close you are (I’m in Europe lol). I would love to be able to afford him as a specialist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 05:45 PM |
| 29 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Honestly I did want to get sterilized at 21. So happy I didn’t do it since now I do want to have children. But of course people (read men) will try to control and minimize anything that would jeopardize women’s fertility since, you know, their main task is to provide offspring. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:09 PM |
| 35 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Really? I read his wife was working in pediatrics, there was a post about him and her here some months ago - which is essentially how I found out about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:06 PM |
| 69 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Can’t make this shit up, scroll a bit through today’s posts here and you’ll find it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:13 PM |
| 158 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️It was posted here and rightfully massacred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:12 PM |
| 182 | The random man I locked eyes with the other week shopping for cool ranch doritos and mountain dew 🥰🥰But he’ll treat you like a queen tho, nice guys are so much better than those bad boys you should give him a chance!!!!! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 01:11 PM |
| 335 | Why are there so many stories of shitty men not respecting women’s’ bodily autonomy?Where are the scrotes lurking and screaming at us for being “toxic bitches”? I dare them to be this brave when defending creatures like this husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:35 PM |
| 193 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️I wanna hear them scream and cry under posts like “My husband tried to pull out my IUD to force me to have his offspring” WHY ARE THEY SO QUIET THEN? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:34 PM |
| 49 | Cole Sprouse was in my dreams last night 😍I appreciate Cole Sprouse keeping up with my tastes. When I was 14, he was my teenage crush kinda type, now that I‘m 25, he‘s also my type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:33 PM |
| 551 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Exactly. And I’ve seen him add things like “you absolutely don’t need surgery for anyone else but you and IF you decide you want it, then carefully research and choose your doctor” which is a nice touch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:23 AM |
| 720 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️I am sitting on my couch laughing out loud at a lurker’s comment 😂😂😂 “this is against the rules, he’s a man and you hate all men” 😂😂😂 nOt AlL mEn 🤪🤪🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:56 AM |
| 26 | This reminds me of the slug storyHe hates her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:06 AM |
| 18 | I have doubts…they don’t need to put in the effort. He’s so close to getting it 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 28 | Men know.Of course. We met at a party at the dorm we lived at the time. My ex introduced us 2 and I instantly thought „This is most definitely the most handsome man I‘ve seen“. We only started dating after my ex broke up with me. We had a few lovely months of courtship and have been in a relationship for over a year now. It keeps getting better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 03:16 PM |
| 48 | Men know.I am not sorry 🤣 it happened long time ago and led me to my current HVM. I just remembered his words today and thought I‘d share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:46 PM |
| 22 | CURRENT RELATIONSHIP STATUS: IN THE AIR/ POTENTIAL COUGAR.Same, Italian men just didn’t seem like my type. I am all for fair skinned dark blonde Nordic vikings. 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:51 AM |
| 33 | Dating coach says to implement a 3 month no kissing rule. Thoughts?Once you hit that sweet spot when you adore yourself to the point of not letting men’s attention dictate your ego, it’s an indescribable feeling ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 09:03 PM |
| 45 | Dating coach says to implement a 3 month no kissing rule. Thoughts?Positive, you don’t want to be chased by all sorts of mentrash, you want to be pursued by a HVM or left in peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 08:25 PM |
| 7 | Men Are Trash ex. # 72858395I get this, but from what I understood he punches her before her orgasm so that her muscles contract and bring more pleasure to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:32 PM |
| 17 | Men Are Trash ex. # 72858395Bold of men to assume that they could give their sexual partner an orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:08 PM |
| 5 | A HVM never stops showing you who he is.She has made a comment explaining it 5h ago, take a look at it :) as I guessed, they were teens when they started dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 10 | My birthday was on a Sunday, and my boyfriend turned my birthday into a weekend celebration, starting with these huge (B&BW candle for scale) roses delivered to my door on Friday and taking me to a lovely restaurant in the canyons on Monday, with gifts and family time in the middle🖤🖤🖤Thanks for such a nicely detailed story ☺️ it does sound pretty good to me, our courting phase for almost 4 months so I definitely like that you went for 6. You speaking of your personal growth and changes is a very good sign imo. It’s what we should aim at. ❤️ I think your boyfriend is dealing well so far from what you say. Differences between the backgrounds, histories, etc. can sometimes make it challenging to “keep up” (source: my own boyfriend who has never dated a woman who wasn’t his nati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Nikolaj Coster WaldauAhhhh, Danish men 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:28 PM |
| 2 | We can literally never be like incels because we choose HVM or we happily choose to be single.Every time I see us being called incels, I get so sad that I ask my boyfriend to take off his shirt for me to wipe off the tears (whilst looking at his abs and pecs) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:06 PM |
| 19 | My birthday was on a Sunday, and my boyfriend turned my birthday into a weekend celebration, starting with these huge (B&BW candle for scale) roses delivered to my door on Friday and taking me to a lovely restaurant in the canyons on Monday, with gifts and family time in the middle🖤🖤🖤Happy belated birthday! 🥳 gorgeous bouquet, roses are my favorite too 🌹 Do you feel like sharing how you met your boyfriend and how you came to be together? :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:49 PM |
| 20 | Ooft yes please ❤️🔥✨He seems more attractive to me with each next season of Supernatural. I love him and his wife together, they‘re both so beautiful and made some gorgeous kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Comments in a group for engagement rings 😂Not sure in this specific case, the rock was a good size imo, but the ring looked a bit lazy to me. The stone didn’t seem very well picked and one of the prongs was visibly bigger. Absolutely no issue with the type of ring, stone or size a woman prefers, but the man should at least take it into consideration since she’s about to wear it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 08:29 AM |
| 21 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?Bet he’d be pro-choice if a baby was about to ruin his body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:44 PM |
| 27 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?Hey mr. Feminist, if you wanna overcome the traditional gender roles, why don’t you parade for her in something skimpy and sexy, then give her 30 minutes of oral sex and then she can roll over to sleep and you can stay orgasm-less? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:42 PM |
| 14 | Comments in a group for engagement rings 😂Could be, but I don’t think posting your ring in a group and saying “Shame me for my ring hehe my husband knows I don’t wear any jewelry so he insisted I get this but I think he did well” screams “I’m a HVW” either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:28 PM |
| 18 | posted by a large account on instagram. everything in this is bad but the phrase "bad little girl" gives me major pedo vibes. i hate that this is so normalized.If you have to “spice up your sex life” with all sorts of crappy kinks, I got bad news for you Gavin, you suck at sex 🗑 get better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 03:15 PM |
| 10 | Don't waste any of your time on people who watch porn.Erectile dysfunction | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:16 AM |
| 8 | Self Appreciation or Gratitude: what do you love about yourself?I honestly love my personality and it’s been such a struggle to get to a place where I feel like I’m just the right mixture of sassy, hilarious, kind, empathetic, but also not tolerating any bs and being snappy when necessary. I love my eyes and hair too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:27 PM |
| 1 | A woman I know shared this...😬My boyfriend saw that, raised his eyebrows and said “I don’t get it”. I don’t get it either, love, it’s some sort of elvish. Miss me with that bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:23 PM |
| 15 | The scrote and the stoneI mean... he doesn’t even have a nice ring idea. The 3 stone setting just looks lazy with a triple-emerald cut. The prongs don’t flatter it. I can’t believe he could afford a 2-carat center stone (provided it’s a diamond), it’s probably badly cut, with low clarity, high fluorescence and very visible inclusions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:15 PM |
| 24 | THE LOWEST VALUE MEN ON TELEVISIONDesperate housewives has always been hilarious for me to watch 😂😂😂 their sub has a separate flair for hating on Tom Scavo, some days I filter by it, read the posts and enjoy my popcorn 😂 all the husbands were terrible but Tom was the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 21 | Ain't that the truth. 💅🏽😙 It barely takes an year to figure that outFirstly, we are not married, since we are still studying. When having the timeline talk, we both had the same views- graduating, then family. “Oh” was a mixture of things. It’s the realization that I have met a truly HVM (for now, always vetting) and that he has absolutely every quality I have wanted in a man. He’s visually everything I find attractive. For the first time in my life I don’t see attractive guys and think “I wish I was single”, I think “He may be attractive, but he’s not even clos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:43 PM |
| 90 | THE LOWEST VALUE MEN ON TELEVISIONCurrently watching Grey’s anatomy (been wanting to for years and love the show so far) and I’m still at the very beginning but... the beloved McDreamy is absolute trash. The made-to-be-adorable O’Malley is trash too. The sexy-bad-boy Karev, yep, you guessed it, trash (I’ve heard he has a good character development and a great redemption arc though so curious to see). On the topic of New Girl, I always disliked Nick. He seemed helpless and ball-less to the point of “I’m just annoyed now, Imma rew… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 08:26 PM |
| 56 | Ain't that the truth. 💅🏽😙 It barely takes an year to figure that outOr him for that matter. I thought I was anti-marriage and anti-kids and then I met my boyfriend and slowly went like “oh” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:48 AM |
| 3 | What are your standards for a proposal and ring etc?I am an absolute sucker for the classic look of a solitaire ring. I don’t like how yellow gold looks on my skin tone, so it should either be white gold or platinum. Lately I’ve been getting into lab grown diamonds and I want a round one, color G or above, no fluorescence, VVS1 clarity or above. As per carats, no idea what would look good on my finger, I think ideally 1.00 to 1.25 carats, but in the perfect scenario I would try rings with different carats to see what I like most. As for the propo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 136 | Don’t know if this one has been posted, but the absolute depravity of this man.I am absolutely disgusted and yet there are still scrotes who’ll scream “rEeEeE bAd MeNs OnLy ExIsT iN FDS iMaGiNaTiOn” 🙃🙃🙃 hopeless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:01 PM |
| 45 | Ladies, what are your physical preferences?tall, ideally ~6’2 broad shoulders, trained body (I don’t mean steroid gigantic gymbro kinda type, but well-proportioned arms, strong back and legs and developed chest with some ab definition makes me weak at the knees) clean shaven face, soft skin defined jawline, nice cheekbones, soft lips recently I’ve discovered how gorgeous hazel eyes are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, I present Mario Gómez ⚽️ I am not only a football fan, but a fan of him tooHe’s German so it’s actually “Guten Tag” for me 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Rege-Jean Page, ladies, I can't recommend Bridgerton enough ;)He is alive, he’s just not that in the books. Second book is based on Daphne’s oldest brother and the dude has one scene and 5 lines in it, and they can’t fit the entire book into season 2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:02 PM |
| 35 | Reminder: never reduce yourself to the kind of woman that has to go through their partner's phoneTrue that. I’ve never touched my boyfriend’s phone except when he is driving and asks me to check who messaged him. The day I feel like checking his phone is the day I know my place is not in a relationship with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Some additional ideas on what to vet for.That too, and I’d be super worried over any guy using the word “female” when talking about a woman 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:51 PM |
| 12 | Ben Barnes! My go-to guy to daydream about.Watched him recently in Shadow and Bone on Netflix and was just considering to post him here today 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 04:51 PM |
| 139 | I hate everything about thisHe has too much hair for it to be realistic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 02:37 PM |
| 11 | Antonio Lujak, a Croatian modelThis was my next thought 😂 that and the fact that I can confirm mine is so far HV and also fine af but I’m not gonna post him here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 01:35 PM |
| 14 | Antonio Lujak, a Croatian modelFine AF Friday was specifically made to be used for any “hottie with a body”, no one is talking about the full package here and no one can fully know any celebrity’s entire contents. As far as I understood, we just look at handsome men here, we don’t debate whether they’re HV or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 01:06 PM |
| 16 | My favorite hottie this week 🔥🔥🔥Look at that jawline 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 07:36 AM |
| 16 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureWell actually my ex was American and it’s alllllllll differences between him and my boyfriend. one was a 6 at best, thinking he’s an 11 and kept putting me down so I was desperate enough to tolerate his shit; the other one is an absolute 10, most handsome man I’ve seen and everything I’ve wanted in one, visually and characteristically the American thought that him being American is some sort of a character trait 😂😂😂 he was full of himself and looked down on everyone (weird how he managed to look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:28 AM |
| 22 | Applying FDS Values in Nordic Dating CultureI am not Nordic, but managed to find a so far HV Nordic viking. Most guys I’ve dated here were always 50/50, but when he took me on our first date and paid and has been doing so ever since, I really liked it and obviously didn’t protest. He started the exclusivity talk, he kept on courting me and he initiated the relationship talk. I could just relax and have a great time with him. I did express interest first and kissed him (pre-FDS), but remember, a HVM won’t see you differently after somethin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:01 AM |
| 6 | Some additional ideas on what to vet for.My advice is towards “If you haven’t thought of vetting for those specific green flags, check if he possesses them” and not “If he displays those green flags, he’s HVM and you can stop vetting forever.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 04:33 PM |
| 11 | Some additional ideas on what to vet for.Let me clarify a bit: obviously all green flags here should be taken with a grain of salt since they could be acting or just a drop in the ocean of red flags. My advice is towards “If you haven’t thought of vetting for those specific green flags, check if he possesses them” and not “If he displays those green flags, he’s HVM and you can stop vetting forever.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 02:25 PM |
| 40 | [Vent] getting attacked on another sub for saying porn addiction is related to cheating and psychopathyI got banned from a sub with an oh, so wise and profound explanation which read “FDS trash”. Poor mod couldn’t even build a proper sentence with a verb. 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 9 | In a FBgroup about dating...post was about women who expect men to pay on first datesEh, Dutch women... 🤡 No wonder the phrase is “going DUTCH” 🤡🤡🤡 APOLOGIES to any Dutch ladies on FDS, y’all know I don’t mean you when I look down on those 2 from the screenshot. But I’ve heard multiple times that the Netherlands could be a pickme-central. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:10 PM |
| 102 | I still have a “pick me” mindset.Slow down, breathe in and out, remember you did the right thing by declining those dates, maybe go on a biking tour or to a museum with a girl friend. You’ll have a better time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:04 PM |
| 53 | And this is why you demand more for yourself and set clear boundaries and expectationsVery good rule, depending on how he expresses it. Love bombing is a no, rational expression of the opinion of a marriage-minded person is a yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:48 PM |
| 13 | Probably the only post on the unpopular opinion sub that I'll ever agree with. Vetting men is vital to not end up with a manchildI have browsed this sub with typing “FDS” in the search bar and there were a few comments/posts that I would agree with. A small fraction of people get it, or at least so they say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 03:19 PM |
| 58 | Meme I found posted on a Facebook page. The joke flew over a bunch of men's heads, and a lot were commenting dumbass stuff like the guy in the second slide [translation in comments]I’m Slavic and I did exactly that 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 07:34 AM |
| 69 | When the scammer scams himself trying to scam you 💡 😱😱😱They already got their names when they were born | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 11:00 AM |
| 10 | My fave is Jason Momoa (w/ short hair)To me that’s LV behavior, it’s creepy. Just because there’s way more trash in Hollywood, doesn’t meant he’s not LV. Plus his saying that being on GoT is fun because he gets to rape beautiful women. One LV trait doesn’t come by itself, there’s more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 10:40 PM |
| 26 | Men who get too comfortable in relationshipsThey withhold their depravity until they think they got you. Joke’s on them, never again will I stay in a questionable relationship. It’s not bitterness or anger (I am with a HVM and very far from the “single sad ugly cat lady”-narrative that LVM love to imagine), it’s me being smart and putting myself, my comfort and wellbeing first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 13 | My fave is Jason Momoa (w/ short hair)Plus his obsession with his wife, apparently he saw her on TV when he was a kid and said “Mom, I want her” and then went into acting to get a chance to meet her. She ordered him his favorite drink and that’s how he knew she was the one. 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 09:02 PM |
| 225 | I don’t even know what to say to this. This is just really sad5 bucks says he doesn’t do any kind gestures for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 06:57 PM |
| 7 | Kıvanç TatlıtuğWhich one? I watched him in Gümüş, but my country also broadcasted Aşk-ı Memnu and Menekşe ile Halil with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 06:23 PM |
| 15 | Mads Mikkelsen 😍“Mmm, Danes” is pretty much a mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:51 PM |
| 48 | Mads Mikkelsen 😍I LITERALLY looked up pics of him earlier, was thinking to post him here. But OP, you have chosen fantastic ones. I agree with everyone about his unusual attractiveness, it’s so captivating. I may be biased because I find Danish men so attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Vetting for porn useThank you, it is quite the shocker. Not as shocking as how many women still put up with LVMs... but not for long, I hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 32 | Share your stories about men wanting to continue their "legacy"I know that now, I am using men’s opinion about having daughters as part of my vetting strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:21 PM |
| 102 | Share your stories about men wanting to continue their "legacy"Tale as old as time: my ex constantly saying “I never want to have a daughter!!!”. He was absolute trash and I understand his fear of his daughter running into a guy like him. Eventually he changed to “I want to have daughters so I can scare the guys who like them” which was absolute caveman behavior. He imagined shooting his daughters’ eventual partners. To top it all off, he was dying for me to carry his kids but never proposed to me while I wanted him to. I am so happy I protected my womb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 34 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantI just love how trashy men screenshot and make fun of this post, but never dare to screenshot and cross-post any of the posts here about them not wiping their asses or being into diaper play 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:19 PM |
| 48 | Stumbled upon this nugget while on OLD. Posted by a guy who looks like a clogged shower drain 😒 The scrodacity!That comparison is just 😂😂😂 any and every man could turn out to be trash so might as well go for the hot ones and get something pretty to look at while we’re at it 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:39 PM |
| 30 | Text and talking are cheap ways to build faux intimacy with a woman! Make it expensive for him to waste your time.🌺Exactly where I am coming from now. One of my exes was unemployed for 3+ years and just sat home, went to the gym or played games. The other was a student like me. Ofc they would have time to text me. My boyfriend is doing an internship for his studies right now and it’s too physically demanding for him to be able to half-ass it and be on his phone. I respect that so much about him. Even when he is in university, he only texts me in breaks which is a habit I need to pick up since I used to be on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:11 PM |
| 3 | 5 months since leaving LVM, my success/progress storySending kisses back and please give some of them to your fluff 😍 I adore dogs!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 10:01 PM |
| 142 | Text and talking are cheap ways to build faux intimacy with a woman! Make it expensive for him to waste your time.🌺I had a pickme friend who always said things like “omg how can you be okay with your bf almost not texting you, I could never be okay with a guy who I have that little messages with” and when I asked her “How can you be okay sleeping with a guy who clearly said he doesn’t want a relationship with you so you say you’re done and then run back to him and history repeats itself?”, suddenly I was the bad guy 😂😂😂 In all fairness though, I was deeply used to constant talking and texting with my exes, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:55 PM |
| 8 | 5 months since leaving LVM, my success/progress storyChecked your post history and instantly remembered reading about “the full-on glam lady” 😍 I was like “yasssss” when I read your first post here. Glad to read more progress in your life and congrats on your puppy, I know you’ll be very happy together 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 09:46 PM |
| 31 | Vetting for porn useIt absolutely did NOT come across that way, at least not to me. Men lie and I know that. I’ve worked a lot on myself and my trust issues before I could enter a relationship. And I am very happy that it’s with a so far HVM who doesn’t lie. I see how he looks at me and how he treats me. He adores me, he wants to be intimate with me only, he doesn’t need porn. No man needs porn, they were able to get off without it in the 1700s and they can do so now. He also doesn’t have the addictive nature - he’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 08:01 PM |
| 60 | Vetting for porn useThere was some discussion in 2019 when we started dating about sex and porn and he said “I don’t watch porn and I’m vanilla in bed, so if you’ll want something else, I’m not into that”. I didn’t care for anti-porn back then so it was the end of this discussion. However, we’ve had the bigger discussion about it, including negative effects in a relationship. I choose to believe him because if I can’t trust him, my place is not in a relationship with him. It helps that he’s never displayed any beha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:00 PM |
| 71 | Vetting for porn useI personally have never vetted for porn usage (LV exes straight up told me and me being a total pickme was cool; whereas my current HV understands the issues with porn and doesn’t watch it) but I think pretending like you wanna explore kinks in the bedroom and ask him what he watches would work beautifully. Men into porn would be over the moon if they think their cool gf would support and partake in their porn usage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 05:27 PM |
| 51 | Terms and phrases scrotes use: OLD edition!“I’m a nice guy” = ANYTHING BUT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 35 | This bio is sadWho’s gonna tell him that marriage is as serious as relationships get? Men are dumb ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 07:32 AM |
| 7 | Celebrate with meCongratulations ❤️🎈🍾🥂 I haven’t been divorced, but remember my first days after breaking up with my LV ex, the sun was shining brighter, the sky was bluer, food tasted better, I slept like a baby, literally everything hit differently 💗 may we never allow LV in our lifes, ever again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:49 AM |
| 43 | Consumption of porn makes me lose attractionI feel the same. Couldn’t put it into words exactly, but with my first ex I was always angry, uneasy, in a bad mood around the times we had sex. And the pickmes around me were always minimizing the issue like “oh come on that’s normal all guys watch porn it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you” At one point I was seriously thinking “is he getting uglier to me because he’s gaining weight or I see him that way because he watches more and more porn?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:36 AM |
| 2 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.This is going on my list of must watch, thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:28 AM |
| 2 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.I actually recently talked to my bf about it, he’s also a history geek which was a thing I found very sexy when we started dating. It’s good he knows I know about poisons ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:27 AM |
| 48 | Women thrive without men, men perish without women, not the other way aroundI feel like OP knows the women I know and also some of the men I know. Orrrrrrrrr it’s just a universal truth which is valid in many many cases? Hmmmmm 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:23 PM |
| 44 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.Hi, I’m just a history geek stopping by to say I loved that reference 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:00 PM |
| 176 | This is why FDS says we shouldn’t act like wives until we’re married. Scrote asks for pre-nup after his live-in bangmaid mommy bankrolls his life and “builds” with him for nearly a decade.You mean “let a man give her the perfect relationship until the prenup came along” /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 07:57 PM |
| 82 | Why it's hard to find HVMFantastic post, I enjoyed reading it! I found my so far HVM so easy, my LV ex introduced us since we all lived at the same dorm. What are the odds? But I always say my situation was extremely rare and totally unexpected. I remind my friends that HVMs don’t just walk around at dorm parties. I would also like to talk a bit about another point: I think we can all agree that finding a HVM is difficult in most cases. Some ladies might turn it into a whole mission, find a guy with HV traits and hold o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Ways to protect your devicesUgh, that’s so annoying. But you should be able to find something similar I think, I googled something like “apps that take a photo when you type a wrong unlock code” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:05 AM |
| 33 | Ways to protect your devicesHello! I don’t remember unfortunately since this happened 5+ years ago but I took the liberty of doing a Google search and can advise you on HiddenEye if you have an Android or FrontCam Trap for iPhone. I was dumb enough to tell my ex that I caught him trying to snoop and then I was even dumber to uninstall this app so I can’t check which exactly it was. They all work the same way though. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:34 PM |
| 81 | Ways to protect your devicesMy previous phone had an app that took a picture whenever I made a mistake in my unlock code. One day I was looking through my gallery and saw a whole album with the app’s name full of my ex’s face. All of them were taken when he had brought my phone to the other room and plug it in to charge. They were all taken at such a terrible angle (him leaning over the phone) that I literally thought “damn he’s so ugly here, look at that fat face, the triple chin and his snarky eyes” And then proceeded to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 9 | How do you introduce friends to FDS? I need advice and success stories.She has read some of the posts from the handbook and messaged me that the one about not having crushes made her think. Hopefully in a good direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 06:30 PM |
| 5 | How do you introduce friends to FDS? I need advice and success stories.That makes sense. Guess I had no idea from this perspective, since I found FDS when I was already with a HVM so nothing needed to change for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:19 PM |
| 24 | How do you introduce friends to FDS? I need advice and success stories.Honestly I was thinking the same. My previous pickme self would keep talking and trying to push her to this change, but now I don’t feel like giving that much of my time and effort for free. Was just wondering if I am missing something in my behavior to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:18 PM |
| 25 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachThank you ❤️ It’s been such a fantastic feeling. He’s the first man I can see myself having children with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:41 PM |
| 145 | The so-called butterflies in the stomachHello, I am a lady with a HVM (so far). He is the only guy in my life that never gave me butterflies. I think when I met him I had grown out of my phase of needing “movie-like” love. He is not quoting me cheesy lines from romcoms, I never felt those crazy fluttering butterflies, the raised heart rate and everything else that I felt with my exes. With him, I felt calm. Just calm, secure since day 1. It is not movie love full of drama and obstacles. It’s the same level of love, appreciation, respe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:29 PM |
| 2 | His gift to her for her first Mother's day as a mom was "him making her a mom." Comments say she's partly to blame because she didn't explicitly say that she wanted something...Always a pleasure to discuss with the ladies here ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 1 | His gift to her for her first Mother's day as a mom was "him making her a mom." Comments say she's partly to blame because she didn't explicitly say that she wanted something...Love reading that, it’s up there with my favorite compliments, thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:30 PM |
| 28 | mEn ArE mOmS tOo...Love, a man killed his baby in anger over losing a video game and you think men would have problem with the lesser evil of child neglect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 25 | mEn ArE mOmS tOo...Imma be there to remind them they wouldn’t be fathers if their poor wives didn’t have to carry and push out their kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:35 PM |
| 59 | His gift to her for her first Mother's day as a mom was "him making her a mom." Comments say she's partly to blame because she didn't explicitly say that she wanted something...By his retarded logic, he also made his own mother a mom by appearing out of her so that should also be his present to her. Yet he still put in effort in an actual present. My bet is on him being a mama’s boy. As for the card aimed at his MIL, my bet is he’s trying to pose as the perfect son-in-law, cause, chances are, his MIL has pickme tendencies and will end up telling her own daughter “Oh but Kyle is a great person, look at how he send me a card for Mother’s day” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:31 PM |
| 91 | Men will be on their best behavior until they get what they want.Yep. Catch me still vetting my eventual husband even 50 years from now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 27 | i wanted affection, loyalty, and adventures - so i got a dogThat’s the content I love seeing 💕 congratulations on building a relationship with your new puppy more meaningful than most relationships with men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:42 PM |
| 13 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Exactly 👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:40 PM |
| 103 | The anime obsessed🚩🚩My ex’s obsession with Japan and him always telling me “One day I’ll take you” even though I kept saying “I don’t want to visit Japan” casually escalated to him fetishizing women characters of his video games and making me watch Aisan porn with him, whilst saying “Look, I’ll show you a video of my favorite porn actress” and showing me an Asian woman with disproportionately big boobs. Everything about this rubbed me the wrong way but I couldn’t put it into words how and why exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 04:36 PM |
| 13 | As requested... My aforementioned cats 😻I applaud people like you as much as I despise people who mistreat animals. I am sure your cats are as happy with you as you are with them. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:49 PM |
| 9 | As requested... My aforementioned cats 😻How old are they? The female looks pretty young (or she’s just a smaller size), I can’t tell about the male. Do you feel like sharing their names and how they came into your life? 🐈⬛🐈⬛ I know you rescued them which is probably the best thing one could do for an animal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 34 | As requested... My aforementioned cats 😻They are both so so cute! Living for those pink noses 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:18 PM |
| 11 | Happy Mothers' Day to all you beautiful Moms, Mothers-in-law, Grandmothers and Like-a-Mom-To-Me LadiesSuch a lovely post. And remember, ladies, Mothers’ day is a good opportunity to vet your SO. Did he call his mom? Did he send her flowers to surprise her even though they live in different cities? If you have children yourself, did he greet you? Did he give you a gift? Don’t get sloppy with your vetting and don’t buy into the crap that “it’s not that important to acknowledge Mother’s day, he still loves me regardless” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:12 PM |
| 6 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Yeah.... but... dirty feet 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 02:06 PM |
| 191 | Can I kinkshame yet?Nothing will stop me from kinkshaming those people, they’re clearly not of sound mind and need to be treated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 8 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂All of this, especially your second paragraph and if I may add this little reminder - the only guys who had anything to comment on my standards are the ones who couldn’t fulfill them and I wasn’t even considering dating them. Some may call me a gold digger for wanting my man to take me on dates, while my man himself takes me on trips, cruises and dates while saying “I am happy that you’re having a good time with me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:39 AM |
| 14 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂You make excellent points and I am totally excited to see what happens when my boyfriend meets my cat in a few months. I have no reason to worry, he’s been great with other people’s cats and also with stray cats so far. He loves sending me videos of a cat that he sees on his way to work and it always comes to him and lays down belly up waiting for belly rubs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:34 AM |
| 28 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂What always gets me is that guys who are into cuckold love seeing their woman with another man because there’s a level of humiliation. And they get off on it. Yet when women say one bad word about them, suddenly they don’t like being humiliated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:27 AM |
| 17 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂They automatically think that having a cat means you’re single, hence miserable and lonely. When in fact you can have both a cat and a HVM. And fact #2 being single doesn’t make you miserable, unless you’ve put your whole worth into being codependent on a man and unable to live without one. Which we are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:18 AM |
| 10 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂I was shocked since I didn’t even imagine that’s a thing. 🥲🥲🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:15 AM |
| 13 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Aww I find labs so cute! Every one I’ve met has been a giant ball of fluff who liked to cuddle with me. Yours sounds adorable and smarter than some men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:14 AM |
| 60 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Exactly, I love commenting on men’s trashy tendencies but I do it here, around people I want to discuss that with and whose opinion I’d want to know. Never have I thought of individually going after those LVM, telling them how to be decent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:53 AM |
| 8 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂They probably don’t but I love the free comedy and am here for it 🍿 If you ask them, they probably think they’re giving out expert advice and we should be grateful to hear “a man’s point of view which is way more useful when trying to date men” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:50 AM |
| 13 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂What kind of breed is your dog, if I may ask? Bunnies are also cute af in my opinion. I came to the conclusion that my cat is a good judge of character and always brought the worst sides of my ex. Obv I was a blinded pickme but now I see it in retrospect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:43 AM |
| 30 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Honestly whatever he says loses any credibility when you know he’s not okay in the head. Men sexualizing such disgusting things need therapy, not to be on Reddit and thrive on support from their like minded buddies. 👩🏻⚖️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:23 AM |
| 37 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Loved your “Scooby snacks” comment btw. I love laughing at how they lose their shit and this entire thread was a crybaby-show 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:21 AM |
| 35 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Read somewhere that it’s not a surprise for LV men to prefer dogs over cats because the former listen to commands, whereas the latter do what they want. I am in no way bashing on dogs, I adore both them and cats. Just a weird coincidence how every LVM in my life has disliked cats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:20 AM |
| 137 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂Haha yeah, he dumped so much text trying to explain to me how it’s so bad that I don’t want to listen to anyone else’s opinion and that different opinions is how we grow 😂😂😂 why don’t you grow by accepting the different opinions of FDS, scrottie? Why don’t you start taking your woman on thoughtful dates, surprising her with nice gestures and maybe giving her oral for once??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:16 AM |
| 42 | They get off on dirty feet and question the thought that women MIGHT be smarter than them 🤨 y’all, I just can’t 😂They just love to lie to themselves that we’re miserable cat ladies when in fact we stopped being miserable the moment we threw all this LV trash out of our lives 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:12 AM |
| 3 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦Hmm good point. Can’t say I’ve experienced something like that, I think pretty much every pickme I’ve experienced was crying about being single and wanting a man. Imho, as soon as a taken woman starts envying others for being single, she’s one step closer to getting that it’s better to be single than in a trash relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:03 AM |
| 11 | Why Cats, Dogs and Horses Reveal the Truth About LVMMy ex has dogs and is used to act with any animal like it’s a dog. You can’t do that. You don’t pet a 4kg cat and a giant German shepherd the same way. I kept explaining this to him over and over again, he always said “I get it” but never listened. He kept trying to pet her the wrong way, making her scared of his sudden reach and of course, she attacked him. He kept whining about how she never lets him pet her and tries to scratch (red flag - check). Ironically, he did the same with me - listene… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 09:00 AM |
| 107 | They don’t trust each other eitherMy dad is a HVM and has displayed an excellent radar for all sorts of crap I’ve tolerated. If only I had listened to him. 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:40 AM |
| 35 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦Yeah, everyone is praising her and hating on us 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:37 AM |
| 36 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦I think it’s pretty funny how this pickme chooses to love low effort shit. I choose to love high effort and have a HVM who looks like a model and acts like everything I ever wanted in a man. Yet she could theoretically be whining about how I am an incel. Whereas I don’t care since I’m too busy having sex with orgasms (probably unlike her) and being spoiled by my boyfriend with proper dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:24 AM |
| 25 | Some men get it 😱I have read the handbook more than enough times and have met more than enough stupid men with ruined brains to stand behind my opinion that some of them truly don’t know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 09:01 PM |
| 105 | Some men get it 😱There is absolutely no reason to not have hope. Either you end up with a HVM or you end up single, happy on your own, fulfilled and loving life. Both scenarios are fantastic, no reason to be hopeless, no matter which of those two scenarios happens to you, you’re gonna have it great. 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:08 PM |
| 63 | Some men get it 😱Agree to disagree. Some truly don’t know because they’re dumb af. 😂 There is a difference between someone who can’t even spell correctly and a law graduate, for example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:03 PM |
| 79 | Some men get it 😱Absolutely not. 😂 It takes sooooo much more vetting and time, way way more than this specific case. Plus I am in the most mature relationship in my life and happily in love with my HV boyfriend (who I also keep vetting). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 05:00 PM |
| 53 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️I went to dinner with my LV ex who asked me to give him some of the money I had withdrawn earlier (from MY card) so that HE could pay the bill (read give to the waiter since it’s not paying if you give someone else’s money) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:43 AM |
| 58 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️Been there done that, but the positive thing is I actually ended up liking artists and bands my crushes were into. That truly expanded my music library and I ended up loving it for the music itself, not for the guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:37 AM |
| 26 | It’s 2021- no more getting scammed for straight women.🌺 Reject casual sex and normalize sex as an extension of a loving relationship for our youth.Even better that my boyfriend has never gotten his semen close enough for me to sense that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:17 PM |
| 14 | If we wanted to, he would.Loved everything about your comment 😍 when I learn the same phrase in Danish, I’ll 100% use it all the time! And no need to apologize, we know men are shit, it’s only the rare cases that are good. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 03:56 PM |
| 1 | What do women bring to the table ?What a lovely compliment 🥰 thank you so much! Never feel guilty. You have all the worth and I am sure you bring so much to the table. Figure out your self-love and you’ll never doubt yourself after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:54 PM |
| 14 | What do women bring to the table ?I am a loving, caring, kind woman who would do anything for the people who matter to her. I am smart, a good conversationalist and have amazing sense of humor. It’s easy to talk to me, since I have good amount of common knowledge on many topics. I love cooking and testing new recipes and express my care for people by preparing food for them. I know not only how to talk, but how to listen - I try to be unbiased when asked for advice, or just to listen if needed. Bonus point from my boyfriend: he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:27 PM |
| 58 | If we wanted to, he would.Hello you, I am not Scandinavian, but I did manage to find a so far HV Scandi man. 😄 He knows that in 5 years I’ll be married - if not to him, than to someone else. I’m vetting not only him, but his father and the whole family dynamic as well. My boyfriend knows having children and buying property is a thing for a husband and a wife, nothing less. I am incredibly happy with him and truly the best version of myself, our views, beliefs and timelines on starting a family align, but make no mistake,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 12:21 PM |
| 27 | I absolutely can not stand this trend of woman thanking their male partners for "putting up with them" on social media.Miss me with that bs. I’ve absolutely never said or thought this, but, funnily enough, my disgusting LV ex was always like “thank you so much for putting up with me 😘😘😘😘😘 you’re my queen, my happiness” HOW BOUT you treat me like one then, boi? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I’ve thought of having mine with a dash. Then again, I never felt like someone’s property, so to say. My dad is an absolute HVM, it’s been great being raised by him. To me carrying his name symbolizes that right now he’s the male figure in my life that protects me, cares for me, etc. When I get married, I expect love, care, protection from my HV husband. Actually my boyfriend has both his dad’s and mom’s family names (very typical thing where I live, the kid gets 2 family names) and they’re both… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:02 AM |
| 8 | Once again, from the horse’s mouthHis response was cool until he added “I mean I know what an ass I am, anyone putting up with me would suffer” NEXT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:07 PM |
| 64 | Once again, from the horse’s mouthHaven’t seen a lot of such men (only those who specifically put effort into skincare), but this girl is generally making comments trying to appeal to the guys in class 😒 I don’t really take her words seriously | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:06 PM |
| 9 | Women are being shamed online for having standards nowDepends. Does he care more about saving money that can be earned again or about getting me a beautiful token of affection which I’ll like? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 12:48 PM |
| 8 | Tell me about your HV first date with someone who did, in fact, turn out to be HVMy so far HVM is the first guy to actually use the words “I would like to invite you on a date”, I have absolutely never heard them before (I had 2 relationships prior to him, one of them almost 4yrs). He came up with an idea and asked whether I agree. Then he asked whether I feel like meeting with him and going together (we lived at the same dorm and had to take a train to town so duh, it didn’t make sense to sit in a train separately). He was ready earlier, dressed absolutely drool-worthy (yes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 07:23 PM |
| 48 | What are your dealbreakers in terms of looks?I absolutely dislike beards. I don’t think there could be any debate here. Luckily my boyfriend has a fantastic bone structure and a gorgeous face, he doesn’t need to cover that goodness with a beard. Shorter than me. No go. To be honest, my height would also be a dealbreaker, as I am a tall woman with good posture and men usually slouch. Obese goes without saying, I think since I’ve had a taste of a non-overweight guy, I am not going back 😂 Dirty, long nails 🤮 don’t even come close to me What I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 83 | My small guide for the "BIG" event of meeting the family.As the girlfriend of a so far HVM, raised by a so far HV father, I couldn’t agree more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:11 PM |
| 11 | A reminder on the scope of this sub.A lovely lady from FDS messaged me about this the other day, an excellent point I had missed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:41 PM |
| 37 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)You do make excellent points but I am speaking from personal experience which is, thankfully, positive. My bf is porn-free and has never displayed any porn-addiction signs. And after my exes, I know those signs and how to watch out for them. 🤓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:57 PM |
| 123 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)No one needs some crooked ass bent dicks. Now, the ones with an upward curve that hit just perfectly, that’s what we need 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:20 PM |
| 62 | “Just give him a week”If you were a man and say Adriana Lima (or another gorgeous “dream” woman of you) was dating you, would you switch off your phone and disappear on her? Men know. If they wanted to, they would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:19 PM |
| 89 | On today’s episode of MEN (TM) fetishists ruin EVERYTHING. 🤢🤢I mean... if you’re as retarded as to get off on women’s long hair, then you deserve women to take your money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 11:16 AM |
| 35 | Scrotes are right about us ending up single with multiple cats.Cats are fantastic, mine is an incredibly sweet and loving fluff and my HVM will be happy and lucky to end up with my cat and me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 7 | “Stay mad, betch” is my new mood 💅Exactly this post made me look him up and I’m absolutely hooked. I’m keeping Tik Tok mostly for his videos + the fun plastic surgeon who’s also been posted on here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:48 AM |
| 6 | “Stay mad, betch” is my new mood 💅Thank you! Same here but have been binging all morning. I adore his energy 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:47 AM |
| 15 | Men are most attractive in their 20sThank you 🧁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 09:12 AM |
| 19 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMMaybe tmi but I’ll bite the bullet and say that my V got healthier. My exes had questionable hygiene, one was heavily into BDSM and his porn addiction made him unable to cum from penetration so he would jackhammer me for at least an hour every time, resulting in bruises, bleeding and pain when I tried to sit down or walk afterwards. Remember though, the internet has turned all that shit into a sign of good sex (“iF sHe CaN sTiLl WaLk AfTeR sEx, YoU dIdN’t Do A gOoD eNoUgH jOb”). My other unhygie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:42 AM |
| 36 | Remember, wanting gifts isn't shallow or materialistic, but it's also your right to decide what kind of gifts and level of effort you're willing to accept. Me? That pink flower better be made of gold, buddy. 🤣🤣🤣I think it’s sexy when men are generous, but also smart with their money. I don’t like extremes - like my ex who blew a few months worth of salary on buying me gifts and treating me to SPAs, brunches and dinners to then be left with an almost empty bank account and ask ME for money instead of his parents. Or the ex who always tried to find part-time jobs in order to have money and support himself while studying, but paid on a date only once, whilst buying weed and alcohol way too often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:23 AM |
| 91 | Men are most attractive in their 20sAbsolutely agree. I’ve never been more attracted to men in their 30s or 40s than to men in their 20s (spoiler alert, I’m in my 20s). I would like to be attracted to a man in his 40s for instance when I am in my 40s myself. Luckily, my bf’s father is aging great so I don’t have much concerns if I end up with my boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:18 AM |
| 12 | Tiny quick vetting method: MEN AND CATSThanks, love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:14 AM |
| 3 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmThe only positive thing from this post is that after your comment I feel like eating some delicious cinnamon toast 😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 07:14 AM |
| 208 | Tiny quick vetting method: MEN AND CATSFor almost 4 years I wondered why my cat always attacked my ex. Now it all makes sense. I am not sorry she scratched and attacked him. Honestly, he never acted the way I told him to. Listened, but never did as I said. She never took his shit and neither should have I. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:09 PM |
| 147 | No Neck Ed is a great example on how LVM use playing stupid and pity to get away with sh!tI share a guilty pleasure with you, OP. Another absolutely crap thing he did was the whole gifting her toothbrush and mouthwash thing. When she explained she had an ulcer, he didn’t do anything. If he cared for her, as he claimed as a reason to give her a toothbrush, he would have taken her to a doctor to get this ulcer treated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:17 PM |
| 44 | What’s wrong with vanilla?Welcome! I only skimmed the part of your post with the spoilers but read thoroughly everything else. Nothing, absolutely nothing is wrong with vanilla sex, in fact I love it! However, I also fell victim to this whole brainwashing that vanilla is boring and sex is only good if it’s kinky. Miss me with that bs. Since I went vanilla (actually it was an ex who took me there after another ex did BDSM on me) I’ve felt better in so many ways! My sex drive improved, my orgasms felt nicer, I fell in love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 33 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmGuess which subreddit I found him on 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 01:50 PM |
| 189 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmI did a quick google search on what do “vital fluid” donors get vs. what egg donors get. For such a vital fluid, it sure is cheap af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:14 AM |
| 147 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmBut “wOmEn ArE dRaMaTiC” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:10 AM |
| 373 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmWhy stop at teenage? Adult redditors also have no idea what they’re talking about most times 🤷🏻♀️🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:56 AM |
| 90 | 5 bucks says he’s never made a woman orgasmHe’s been keeping his vital fluids to himself for 117 days 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 10:55 AM |
| 493 | I don’t even know what to title this one... 🤡“Start utilizing your plates” but meanwhile women are gold diggers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:05 AM |
| 58 | I’m glad more women are realizing this, but the comments are just sadAlmost 4 years of my life I’ll never get back 🥲 being with a LV guy whose dad convinced him to never marry me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:05 PM |
| 59 | I’m feeling so jaded after getting out of my last relationship and finding this sub. Can I hear about the HVM in your lives? I need to know they’re still out there.Of course. Disclaimer I had no idea what FDS was back then so be kind, ladies. We had our first date in late November 2019. It was 2 weeks after my break up, but I liked him and didn’t feel like waiting, so just decided to live in the moment and see what it’s like to actually be taken on dates and spend time with a guy who I found attractive (I used to settle with my exes but always wished I could have a tall fit guy with abs and a gorgeous face with a defined jawline). We had clarified that sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:01 PM |
| 66 | I’m feeling so jaded after getting out of my last relationship and finding this sub. Can I hear about the HVM in your lives? I need to know they’re still out there.My boyfriend studies a very demanding university programme with manual labor and has classes Monday to Friday. Currently he’s doing an internship, wakes up at 5.45 in the morning and is done at 15. Absolutely never have I been in the background. He goes out of his way to plan dates and activities for us, even when he’s absolutely knackered, he’ll still try to plan a nice evening together (a new movie, dinner in bed, cuddling) so he can be with me without using the “I’m so tired” excuse. Weekends… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:17 PM |
| 49 | Billie speaking facts!Nah, they both got lazy in a certain way. First one started taking his depression out on me, neglected his appearance and whined about not finding a job, the other one chased me vigorously until I slept with him, then he started not showering for days on end and took me on one date for a 3-month relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:22 PM |
| 449 | Billie speaking facts!Every time I gave an ugly guy a chance, he started acting like I was the ugly one 🤷🏻♀️ even at my worst, with depression and 20 kilos more, I looked better than any of them 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:23 PM |
| 4 | Started playing guitar again after I've had it abused out of me for years. No makeup or filters needed. Not vying for the attention of men anymore. My middle finger to the patriarchy. Women supporting women. Anyone else get back into hobbies and interests since throwing NVM/LVM in the trash?Love the Nine inch nails tat! Your fuck-it-all look is absolutely fantastic 👏🏻 I can’t say I’ve dropped any hobbies due to my exes but it’s so good to see women like you snap out of it and go back to what they love doing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:59 AM |
| 143 | DO NOT SHARE NUDES IN NEVER EVER EVER.Oh 🙃 my 🙃 god 🙃 I just remembered my abusive ex had a secret folder on his phone full of all my semi-nudes 😖😖😖 he still had it after I dumped him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:37 PM |
| 6 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceYes. I was shocked as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 17 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡I cringe at “I am so impressed by you, it was like I was being blown by a pornstar, and you took that spanking so well and you took all that dick so heroically” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:57 PM |
| 89 | Is it possible to trust any man these days?My ex told me a few days into our relationship “Tinder just sent me a notification, should I delete the app?” 🤡 I instantly went pickme mode like “Obv I want you to delete it but I don’t want to tell you what to do” meanwhile boy was cheating on me even without Tinder. Trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceI’ve said it multiple times, my ex had countless unresolved issues and trauma and tried to make himself into a Christian Grey (but poorer, balder, fatter, etc.) instead of addressing this trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:22 PM |
| 5 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceHonestly is was hard a year ago. Now I felt fully ready, hence why I shared it now. I agree with all your points and the bit about “aftercare” reminded me of something I heard in the podcast - if you need an hour of aftercare and reassurance that he doesn’t hate you, that’s not a normal sexual relationship. My ex loved to compliment me on my endurance, like “how flexible you were to get in all those positions, how bravely you took the belt, how heroically you took all that dick”, I used to see i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:19 PM |
| 10 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceYou know, I’ve never looked at it that way with your ice cream and ketchup analogy but it makes sense! I am so so glad if I help even one woman avoid such hell and leave at the first “innocent” sign of that. Don’t repeat my mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:15 PM |
| 4 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceThank you for sharing. We have similar stories. It’s a long journey to get in a better place, but eventually it does. I am devastated over what happened to you and hope hope hope you are healing or have healed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:07 PM |
| 5 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceI have accepted this. I was a victim but I came out of it 1000 times stronger and a winner. Sadly he’ll never get punishment for what he did, unless you count me dumping him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:04 PM |
| 9 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceThank you so much! Is this your puppy? It’s adorable!!! Luckily I am with a lovely man who constantly proves himself as HV so far. I am happy, I am content, I am at peace with my past and have learned from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:03 PM |
| 3 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceReally? I live close to a lake and love walking around watching them swim and do their thing, they’re super cute imo. My boyfriend got me a stuffed duck when he saw how cute I find them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:59 PM |
| 41 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceFunny you should mention that, since I just blocked a thin-dicked lurker of this post 5 minutes ago. 👌🏻 BDSM is disturbing af. It’s abnormal to claim to love someone and want to hurt them and derive pleasure from that. Idgaf how you word it or how many fancy words you’d try to dress it with, if it walks like a 🦆 and quacks like a 🦆, then it is a 🦆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:37 AM |
| 43 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceGood catch about the lovebombing, he was the picture poster of lovebombing. That left me scarred and feeling uncomfortable with actual normal love gestures. I am incredibly sorry for your rocky journey, but I hope you’re in a better place now. Thank you for such a detailed and greatly put comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:21 AM |
| 105 | Why BDSM is the worst idea, personal experienceI did obviously, but those comments are still there visible to anyone to read. I had a very strong reaction to them, so I couldn’t stay quiet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:05 AM |
| 7 | Bringing up marriage upfront?Exactly, and he will respond positively, by agreeing with you and smiling, saying something like “Those are great goals” instead of getting defensive like “Who tf do you think you are blah blah blah” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 06:07 AM |
| 24 | Bringing up marriage upfront?“In X-amount of time I see myself married, if not to you, then to someone else” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:55 PM |
| 4 | Unexpected pregnancy?This broke my heart a lil 🥺 I am so so sorry you had to endure this. Hope you’re in a better place now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:52 PM |
| 9 | Unexpected pregnancy?I don’t think I’d ruin my life by reproducing, in fact I do want children, but I am pro-choice. I’d have an abortion in such a situation if I am not fit and ready to bring a baby in this world and in such a case, I will fully expect the treatment you have described in your comment. If me and my partner are both fit to parent a child, educated and financially independent and we get engaged and married before I start showing, I would keep it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:51 PM |
| 20 | Unexpected pregnancy?That all sounds so heavy on you, I am glad you weren’t alone and it all worked out well for you and your babies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:21 PM |
| 16 | Unexpected pregnancy?Brilliantly put, thank you for this detailed input. I completely agree, especially with the bit about the healthy and functioning relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 10:56 AM |
| 14 | Unexpected pregnancy?Excellent point, especially your last sentence. I am the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 10:55 AM |
| 16 | Unexpected pregnancy?I’d also get an abortion (luckily where I live it’s fully covered by insurance, and it’s a pill abortion and relatively easy on the body, as much as an abortion could be, and quick), unless it’s in the future when we’re both educated and financially stable - then I could think of keeping it if I feel like we’re both ready for it and if I get a proposal and a wedding planned fast enough so I don’t show in my dress 👰🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:34 AM |
| 12 | Stop sexualizing women— not because they’re people too, but because it will benefit you more somehow. 🙄I read his username as “Scrottie” 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 07:41 PM |
| 406 | The increasing number of men such as him scare meAt least she got it in the end. Her bf is clearly showing rapist mindset. Scary af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:09 AM |
| 2 | ✨ mood ✨Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:09 AM |
| 62 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"Totally unrelated, but I read your comment in your voice, especially the way you say “u bitches” in the podcast | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 07:35 PM |
| 373 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"Men: If I want to date women, I’d listen to what they have to say. Women: We’d only date HVM or none. Men: reeeeee MiSaNdRy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 06:49 PM |
| 95 | ✨ mood ✨Not quizzes, but I was pressured by myself to do BDSM for years because my porn addicted ex couldn’t cum unless he was hurting me 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 04:39 PM |
| 21 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildI really don’t think you’ve read and understood the handbook. FDS promotes healthy sexuality and this term absolutely excludes everything listed above, even if to you it’s not a kink. For you a kink may be something more extreme but this is not the place to positively discuss it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 30 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildAll power to you, but to me “kinky” refers to anything unnormal to bring pleasure and painful. To me it’s not normal to get off on being spit in the face and convince others that “he loves me and he’s a darling outside of the bedroom, it’s only in bed where I’m his dIrTy LiTtLe SlUt for him to use” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:49 PM |
| 172 | ✨ mood ✨All of this! I listened to the last podcast episode today and remember another excellent point made aside from yours: all those kInKy women appeared all at once. To me it was just a flood of kinky women around 2014 when 50 shades started being a thing. All of a sudden, like by command, girls started openly expressing their kinks 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:33 PM |
| 25 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildIt’s from a Twitter post I stumbled upon long long ago, I just love quoting it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 12:56 PM |
| 109 | This man has found himself a mother.I wouldn’t even make such awards for my kids. Their mother being happy over their help should be reward enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 11:24 AM |
| 194 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wild“Vanilla sex is awesome, not my fault you gotta have your leg in a bear trap and get punched in the face to cum. Relax.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:10 AM |
| 283 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildThat’s been in my mind too. I’m almost always like “oh you like choking and your hair pulled and getting spit in the face? You’re so special sweetie” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:02 AM |
| 33 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them.I’ve suffered way too much in my past relationships, always wishing for something else that my exes were lacking. Now I am finally fulfilled with the man next to me and the feeling of not constantly asking myself what’s wrong with this relationship- I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 10:28 AM |
| 118 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them.I bet it’s something like the dude who didn’t have a bed and slept in a nest on the floor | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:59 AM |
| 149 | All the emotional labor, organizing and managing being pushed on the woman, who would have known? This is why multiple partners are not beneficial for women, instead of one man baby, she now has two of them.I’ll never understand poly, it took me years to meet one man that has everything I want in a man, partner, eventual spouse, etc. and if I had to also find another??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:27 AM |
| 287 | He says he is all for “enthusiastic consent” but his whole post is putting women down for not wanting to have sex and being upset when their partners turn to porn.Ugh, that’s just trash. I’d like to use the opportunity to remind all women (and male lurkers) and there are men and men. Why has my boyfriend not turned to porn even though we haven’t had sex in almost a month? Why is he understanding of my recent surgery and puts his sole focus on my recovery, instead of his desires? I’ll tell you why, because he’s a decent human being who loves and cares for me, not for my hole. It’s like the easiest thing to choose to be a kind and emphatic man who sees his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:20 AM |
| 19 | I’m Celebrating My Acceptance Of Two Job Offers: One Full-Time & One Part-Time!Wow, that sounds so amazing! At such a young age, you should be very very proud of yourself! This is absolutely great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:31 PM |
| 19 | I’m Celebrating My Acceptance Of Two Job Offers: One Full-Time & One Part-Time!Congratulations! Might I ask what field would you be employed at? If you feel like sharing of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:27 PM |
| 18 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?We had the talk about him wanting to marry me and start a family at around 7 months into our relationship. My timeline depends on when we both graduate from university, we both agree we want it to be after we’re educated. But I do want to be married and ideally a mother in 5 years tops (I am 25 now) and he agrees. He knows I won’t be wasting any more years of my life on a relationship that wouldn’t go anywhere. If he doesn’t follow up on his words, I’m going 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 05:23 AM |
| 136 | Self-aware LVM notices more young women are buying houses 💅 keep it up ladiesI take it he’s unaware of the term “pay gap” 😂 “men are getting dumber” I’LL SAY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 06:16 PM |
| 5 | 🙄 There’s literally no pressure on men because the bar is in hellIf he loves me, he’ll get me the ring I want. If I love him, I won’t require a ring that would empty his bank account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:10 AM |
| 102 | He made me cry last nightThis post made my heart happy. Anyone else so used to horrible treatment and so deprived of basic human affection that they just start crying when they experience kind gestures? No? Just me and OP? My eyes would sometimes water when my bf does kind things for me. He’s baffled every time. Says it’s nothing. But to a woman so hurt and abused, it could be tear-inducing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:36 PM |
| 29 | Just left what I thought was HVMDo not literally fuck that man, other than that those are all lovely suggestions! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:33 PM |
| 11 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!Army is supposed to teach you all that if your family failed to. My boyfriend grew up being taught to do everything around the house. He was in the army and has told me many stories of dudes who came in with no idea how to clean and be disciplined. We laughed together at their inadequacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:31 PM |
| 78 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!Good luck on your escape journey! Please take all necessary precautions to ensure your safety and know we’re all rooting for you to be out of this hell soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 05:27 PM |
| 47 | Another day of men having the audacity. Yeah my gf is a PhD candidate, works full time and works part time, but calculus is so HaRd!!Notice how he listed she works full time and part time to then throw in “sHe HaS tImE oN hEr HaNdS” in the same sentence, he’s too dumb to be an engineer. Can’t even follow his own train of thought. Which one is it - is she working full time and part time or does she have time? 🤡 Yes, engineering is not easy, my boyfriend has expressed that it’s not the easiest thing he’d studied. But he has never failed to find the time to clean, cook and do all sorts of chores, while romancing me with regular … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 04:25 PM |
| 60 | Best post in the history of reddit. Not for the audacity of this POS, but the backlash he got from the replies. He really thought he could use this baby to control her and it backfired HORRIBLY. Love to men getting a taste of their own medicine. I hope this woman is great and doing well 🎉🙏🏼I always laugh at this post. My boyfriend asked me what was I reading, so I filled him in and his immediate reaction was “Well what was he expecting? He’s the one at fault, he has no one to cry at but himself” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 01:45 PM |
| 14 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.I am guessing this poor woman’s emphatic nature found this excuse reasonable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 03:06 PM |
| 36 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.He specifically put fruit in the garden, lying to her that it was to feed some mice, but instead it was to collect slugs. Men will literally put all this effort when it comes to harming a woman but refuse to channel half the effort into cleaning up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:28 PM |
| 24 | From Instagram. Speaks for itself - so much garbage behaviour gets dismissed by men and pickmes as "shyness".Jesus christ, that’s straight up life hazard. I am terrified of fire and even reading that made my skin crawl. Luckily I’ve never had a laundry accident, even my LV exes were very skilled at it. They could all do chores fantastically, they just preferred me to. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:24 PM |
| 18 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.Small and innocent was supposed to be in air quotes and refer to the fact that at first he was “only” not showing any care of her. Later on it escalated with slugs, tempering with her medication, etc. My main point is to not forgive even if something seems “not that bad” because it tends to escalate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:43 PM |
| 5 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”Oh my god, I wasn’t expecting such detailed help as to go all the way to my native tongue. It means exactly “naked snail” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 12:04 PM |
| 17 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.I understood it a bit too late but better late than never❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:23 AM |
| 135 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.That’s very easy, because they profit from our caring and loving nature, not to mention they get their precious sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 10:22 AM |
| 44 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.This is all too sad. I am glad you’re done with him. However, don’t be too harsh on yourself - I had the opposite approach and always tried to talk to someone about the problems. Most of my so called friends kept taking his side which didn’t help and led to more chances given and further pain and gaslighting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:51 AM |
| 53 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.One of the most useful things I learned was that term. Explained so so much when remembering my past relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:49 AM |
| 30 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.Scroll a bit through the sub, there were a few posts yesterday and the topic was also mentioned in the latest podcast episode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:49 AM |
| 87 | A post titled “It feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore” by the lady who was fed slugs. It started so small and “innocent” to evolve into her bf feeding her slugs less than a year later. Red flags evolve into life danger sometimes.I agree with your mom. There has to be a reason for such a sudden change in behavior. I’ve learned to always be alert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:30 AM |
| 16 | If he’s letting himself go (both fitness wise and diet), it’s over 🤷🏾♀️ I’m sure you ladies can guess what the comments are saying 🤮Yes, because if a woman is aroused, she’d get wet and her vagina won’t be as tight and men don’t want that, they want tight and forceful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 08:01 AM |
| 15 | ANOTHER SLUG UPDATE and honestly, this one is much worse. He was clearly exploiting her mental illnesses for his own personal amusement. One of the most disgusting, depraved, and truly evil things I've ever seen.I hope that’s your ex boyfriend you’re talking about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:47 AM |
| 9 | How a guy speaks about/treats his mother is super important and tellingI’ve been on both ends of the spectrum. My first ex flat out told me “I don’t care about my mom, fuck her, I’ll never forgive her for cheating on my dad and not allowing him to be with any other woman and build his happiness”. She was still the woman who gave him life but he blindly only saw his father’s side. Cheating is trashy but the woman freaking brought him into this world and gave him the ability to flap his gums like that. My second ex was the total opposite, a mamma’s boy, “I hate my da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:29 AM |
| 700 | The reason some men are so awful is because pick-mes let them get away with using and disrespecting them.Notice how they’re all gorgeous, speak properly, are well-dressed, with effort put in their make-up. Meanwhile those guys they refer to are probably a bunch of 2/10s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:14 AM |
| 105 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”Are you f*cking kidding me? I am terrified. Jesus Christ, is the original post still up? Can someone send me a link maybe? I am running a little bet with myself that there would be male comments defending this pathetic excuse of a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:37 PM |
| 153 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickNever underestimate the good ole makeout session. I figured out my boyfriend was packing when I literally felt it on my thigh, there was absolutely no touching below the waist neither for him, nor for me. I think he got kinda worried about it and pulled away from me which I loved, because guys used to literally rub and press their boners on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:20 PM |
| 44 | The famous "slug post" from the FDS podcast episode 5. Man makes girlfriend sick by grinding up slugs in her shakes. "aM i OvErReAcTiNg?”Ladies, I am scared to google “slugs” because, like men, I aM a ViSuAl CrEaTuRe and I’m scared “slugs” is something utterly disgusting so can someone just give me a word description. Is it a bug? Or another word for “poo”? I’d expect anything. 😣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:12 PM |
| 51 | Spin off: how to tell if a man has a small dickI’ve never been with a small dick so idk how accurate I’d be but my logic would be that men with small ones are more likely to have low-self esteem because too often they put their dick as a top priority. Also, I imagine less endowed men would try to make those jokes that “it’s how you use it” and laugh nervously 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:10 PM |
| 40 | Is it just me, or is sending nude selfies a really stupid thing to do?I used to buy into the bs that it’s “sexy and empowering” until my boyfriend flat out said he doesn’t do it and doesn’t expect it because it’s too private with today’s technology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:06 PM |
| 27 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁I just stopped giving them the time of day 😂 it’s like “okay pickme, have all the degradation you are tUrNeD oN bY, I’ll just be going on with my day” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:00 PM |
| 33 | I really enjoy watching antifeminists have a meltdown every time we discuss penis size. Just take your L and leave us alone! 😂 Ladies, please enjoy this curated collection of male tears, from the left-wing manosphere 🎁No no no, you have to pretend you only like your ass ripped apart, but not your cervix “punched” /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 01:36 PM |
| 8 | Did this crusty just blame rapist on women??I actually learned that from my bf. He pointed out that fat men have more feminine features and I suddenly thought about it and had this moment of like “ohhhhh” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 10:19 AM |
| 5 | 🧻 When he offers to wipe for you 🧻This is exactly what my father told me recently when it came to my boyfriend taking care of me post-surgery. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 05:38 AM |
| 2 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'I could also see that problem. I was in middle school and I think 12 years old when a girl from my class suddenly got boobs. Every guy in our class started commenting and making disgusting gestures and trying to touch them and undo her bra behind her back. I was so sad about not having beautiful boobs like her that I tried to convince myself “at least the good thing is boys don’t try to touch me that way” but what they did was insult me for being flat and make fun of me. No girl could get a brea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:28 AM |
| 10 | What are physical insecurities that a man has drilled into you?One of my exes said he thought my boobs would be bigger and “they’re not big or perky but they are what they are”. The other one was love bombing me to the point of never saying anything bad about me but all his porn usage made me insecure since he watched women who looked nothing like me. Also, after I dumped him he said “I could tell our relationship was bad for you because close to the end of it you started looking ugly and drained” 🙃 his tell was not his actual terrible behavior towards me, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:19 AM |
| 324 | "CoMmUnIcAtE"I just wish for once to go back in time (but with all my new FDS knowledge) when my ex addressed me like that and just kick him in the crotch and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:31 AM |
| 2 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳Men at all age lie because they think it’ll get them into girls’ pants imo. Women are taught to be forgiving, to stand by their man during all problems and to work on them which has turned into “put up with all the terrible treatment or you’re not a good woman” 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I have really bad experience with mama’s boys. To me, when this mother-son love dynamic is too over the top and distorted, it’s never healthy. My boyfriend’s mother is an amazing and loving woman but has never babied any o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:27 AM |
| 7 | POLL: DOES/HAS HE PRETEND(ED) HE CAN’T FIND YOUR VAGINA DURING SEX?I had a yeast infection while with my ex. He had terrible hygiene but I didn’t know it was a cause. And he himself had the audacity to tell me “I am breaking up with you partly because you won’t go on the pill and wearing condoms gives me UTIs” if only I knew back then it was his nasty lack of hygiene giving him those UTIs 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:22 AM |
| 39 | POLL: DOES/HAS HE PRETEND(ED) HE CAN’T FIND YOUR VAGINA DURING SEX?I was lying on my back with him about to finger me and he literally stuck it in my ass. The skin there is so tender that his fingernail hurt me so much even though it was cut. I screamed out in pain. This was 6 years ago and I took his apology, of course. Nowadays I can’t believe a grown-ass man would have not known when to stop going down with his finger before reaching my ass. 🥲🥲🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 137 | "Men are the true romantics"My bf has progressively gotten more and more romantic the longer we’re together. Not in the lovebombing way, but with the genuine thought to make me feel good and happily comment on my smile when he sees it. ☺️ I’m here for it but I’ll never let it get my head cloudy again and make me sleep on red flags. I love my mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 05:00 PM |
| 13 | I like good abs and I can not lie...Omg yes. Both my exes had skinny legs, especially the one who was over 6 feet tall and over 240lbs looked ridiculous with those twig legs and complained that “leg day hurts too much” so he skipped it. First thing I noticed when I first saw the guy who would later become my boyfriend - his overall posture, legs and butt. He wore very flattering pants and I’ll admit I looked a bit more than I should have (even though I was still in a relationship with my LV ex). Later on I started going to the gym… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:56 PM |
| 9 | I like good abs and I can not lie...Never ever again 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 04:36 PM |
| 17 | The "Jokesters"The nickname part reminded me of when my ex called me “blowjob queen” and I laughed and felt special and he even said he would get me a T-shirt with that saying (it was part of someone’s trashy merch back then). I wanna throw up now remembering that🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 68 | I like good abs and I can not lie...My past relationships taught me to just go for looks because even the ugly ones treated me like shit. Idgaf if anyone calls me shallow, I’ll just ask my bf to take off his shirt and wipe my tears with it while I look at his abs, strong chest, defined arms and muscular back. 🤷🏻♀️ But in all seriousness, I’ve always secretly wanted a fit boyfriend. Neither of my exes was, the second one was on a quest to get abs because he thought it’d make him hotter (too bad there’s not abs for the face) but ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳Your daughter is way better off without that guy. Especially when she has a mother like you to teach her well. ☺️ I wish her a speedy recovery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 28 | This Is How It Went Down For Me TOO Many Times!Wow girl, are you me? Same exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:39 AM |
| 4 | Do you guys think that sex can be good even if you don’t orgasm?I have never had sex without orgasms so can’t imagine putting up with that ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:38 AM |
| 53 | Nick Miller from New Girl was the worst NVM on TV. The entire sitcom is about the emotional immaturity of men, and this dude represents the worst of our culture. Join me in listing the reasons why he’s the worst. 1. Who dumps Megan Fox in a train????I don’t like the wording of point number 1. Stating Megan Fox specifically makes it sound like just because she’s hot, she doesn’t deserve this treatment. No, no woman deserves this treatment, be it Megan Fox or an unknown less attractive woman. With that being said, I don’t remember much of the show because I watched it pre-FDS and had no idea of LV and HV. But: he kissed Jess when she had a boyfriend if I recall. Also, when Coach suggested he lost some weight and got in better shape now that h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:22 AM |
| 90 | Nick Miller from New Girl was the worst NVM on TV. The entire sitcom is about the emotional immaturity of men, and this dude represents the worst of our culture. Join me in listing the reasons why he’s the worst. 1. Who dumps Megan Fox in a train????I liked the whole plotline of him taking care of his appearance throughout the whole show and, no surprise, he was mocked for it. I think he was the most attractive man on the show. Can’t say much else since I haven’t rewatched this show with my FDS-eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 07:19 AM |
| 4 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳Your friend is way luckier to have you rather than that ex of hers. I wish her all the best and a fast recovery as well. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 06:44 AM |
| 22 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'My ex always had comments about my body or face so after our relationship he was crying after finding out I am seeing a guy whose appearance he was always envious of. Poor LVM thought all his comments about me not being hot enough “to pull guys that hot” would make me believe that’s true and make me too insecure to notice the gorgeous man pursuing me. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:33 PM |
| 18 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳My father was the supportive male figure next to me when I had the same surgery 8 years ago. He wasn’t allowed to stay in my room (only my mom was) so he kept calling to ask if I needed anything he could bring me. My loss of appetite was so severe that when I mentioned food for the first time after the surgery, all I could utter was “I guess... maybe McDonalds” and he drove to the hospital with like 10 bags with their entire menu. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:23 PM |
| 62 | From the same post I shared earlier, in the comments... Pickmesha back at it again with the promoting painful and degrading sex acts for men's sake.Just in case anyone starts warming up to some men, there is farting porn. It wouldn’t exist if there wasn’t demand for it. Most men are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:08 PM |
| 84 | Men and voyeurismIt’s all that money he saved on not buying deodorant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 213 | From the same post I shared earlier, in the comments... Pickmesha back at it again with the promoting painful and degrading sex acts for men's sake.Call me old-fashioned but I can’t take this woman’s opinion seriously when she’s posing naked on a leash and proudly calling herself a “slave” on Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:50 PM |
| 9 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳God, that must have been so terrifying. I swear such a thought would never cross my mind, I am so sorry you had to be put under anesthesia with that fear but happy that you had your father for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 61 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'Better late than never. ☺️ He himself told me “I knew our relationship was bad for you because by the end of it you looked uglier and drained” That was his tell, y’all - the level of attraction I induced in him, not his shitty behavior towards me but the fact that I wasn’t as visually pleasing to him anymore. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:54 PM |
| 7 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.It absolutely did not seem like you were criticizing, rather than making a valid point that you and me both see and discussed further and in more detail. I just love discussing and reading here. I definitely understand the word mess when you speak multiple languages, as I am having mine mixed up often as well. 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 87 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'It is such a terrible place to be honestly. I myself have no idea how I overcame it, feels like one day I just snapped out of it. With no therapy, no treatment at all. However, that time overlapped with when I dumped my porn addicted ex who loved to picture my face on big-boobed porn actresses getting anal and c*mshots. Yeah, after I flushed him down the toilet, my life improved instantly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:16 PM |
| 5 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.Nothing like that. My shyness and his shyness is basically us both not being crazy about talking to and meeting new people at parties, being more on the quiet side and disliking too much attention on us. It may not be exactly this according to the official definition of “shyness” but neither me, nor him are native English speakers. Our shyness doesn’t show through or interfere when it comes to jobs, university, study groups, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:11 PM |
| 9 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳I am glad your heart was warmed. I am doing better and better, thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 07:02 PM |
| 10 | Saw this on ig, unfortunately it’s too accurateDoes he trust you or does he know he’s carrying multiple STDs and doesn’t care for protection? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 45 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'And that’s why we’re different from men 🥰 I wouldn’t tell them to get a dick enlargement surgery, a sixpack surgery and a detailed course on how to be a decent human being - instead I just went and found a man who already has those. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 14 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳Thank you so much, I feel much better and am starting to regain my appetite 😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:30 PM |
| 23 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳You summed it up beautifully in the last paragraph. I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:20 PM |
| 41 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳That is a lovely comment, I agree with every word and think the same, just couldn’t put it in words myself. I have been with unreliable men before and am now more than happy to fully relax and be in the strong hands of my viking. P.S. He felt my forehead was a bit too warm and brought me a wet towel saying “I chose a pink one because it’s your favorite color”. Seriously y’all, it’s the little things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 04:46 PM |
| 422 | I hate it when men say 'I have small dick, because of porn I have insecurities 😭😭'How come when I had my insecurities for not having big boobs and an ass that could bounce on a d*ck for 30 mins straight, no one came to support me??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 04:23 PM |
| 18 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳Thank you for those kind words, recovery is painful but I am hoping it goes well. I am also very thankful for this treatment. He knows I’d do the same for him. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 04:22 PM |
| 77 | A HVM will always work on himself!Beautiful. I enjoyed every word of it. HVMs are not just a shiny packaging, they are a whole treat on the inside too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:24 PM |
| 60 | Ran into LVM exIs it terrible that I legit thought you were driving and ran him over 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:21 PM |
| 40 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.Exactly. I am also shy and I think it’s a normal human trait, as long as you don’t use it as an excuse to not be a big boy about asking a girl out for example 🤷🏻♀️ my boyfriend was really very shy at first sight but he still pursued me. I won’t accept any excuses from anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:20 PM |
| 63 | Awake from anesthesia and ready to tell a story 🥳I’ll never settle again and won’t stop trying to make people see that there are decent men out there. ☺️ thank you for your kind words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 03:15 PM |
| 16 | Discussion: why do men think they can bring nothing to the table and still be valued? Why should we value a man who offers NOTHING?I was impressed when I saw my bf’s collection of hair and skin care products and he asked me “Why?” in the most casual manner. Like that’s nothing to be impressed over, I just had terrible exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 01:18 PM |
| 83 | The fucking audacity to think porn can fix anything when you already can't get it up for your wife...Disgusting. I still remember when my first bf told me he had watched 2 porn videos a few hours before we reunited (we were in an LDR and haven’t seen each other in over 3 months). I was shocked but couldn’t figure out what exactly rubbed me wrong since back then I was still brainwashed to think porn was cool and acceptable. I was upset though. And asked him if he knew he would see me and have sex with me in a few hours, couldn’t he have masturbated without porn, but with the thought of me instea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 01:14 PM |
| 168 | The advice on dating subs will have you down bad. Reserved guys ask women out too. It’s actually even more obvious when they’re into someone.I just want to say that my HVM told me very early on “I am a bit shy if you haven’t noticed BUT I like that with you this feeling disappears and I am very comfortable” He DID NOT use his shyness as an excuse, instead he kept planning dates and asking me out. He messaged me, looked for my company and pursued me. And he keeps being this way today after over a year of our relationship. Honeymoon phase my ass. Shyness my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 01:06 PM |
| 73 | I wish I could knock some sense into my friend. She’s talking about the time she tried anal to please her bf. She puts up with so much shit from her bf. They been together for two years. I don’t know how to help her. She just won’t listen.I just love it when men try to push anal with the promise of “you’ll get much stronger orgasms babe” HOW ABOUT YOU GIVE ME AN ORGASM ONCE FROM NORMAL SEX CHAD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:44 PM |
| 16 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerHe does more of the grocery shopping since a. He can carry more things and b. He goes to work and just swings by the store afterwards while I am studying online. We both cook and take turns, one day I would make dinner, the next day it would be him. Of course I pick up on dinner and don’t insist he does it when it’s his turn but he’s sick. Just like how he’s been cooking for over a week now because I am feeling under the weather. Our apartment gets cleaned every week and we take turns there as w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Wanted free therapy and counseling, blocked and deleted. Just for fun glanced at his profile - he was “finally ready” to give his ex gf a promise ring because he’s in grad school and not ready to propose. How old are grad schoolers?Really strikes a chord because I’ve been “shut up” with a low-effort promise ring before 🥲 miss me with that bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:01 PM |
| 0 | Wanted free therapy and counseling, blocked and deleted. Just for fun glanced at his profile - he was “finally ready” to give his ex gf a promise ring because he’s in grad school and not ready to propose. How old are grad schoolers?I get that, but promise rings are outrageous and offensive imo. He had a 3 year relationship. I would break up if there was no engagement after 3 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:01 PM |
| 12 | Wanted free therapy and counseling, blocked and deleted. Just for fun glanced at his profile - he was “finally ready” to give his ex gf a promise ring because he’s in grad school and not ready to propose. How old are grad schoolers?Why would he read if he thinks there’s a woman out there whose life mission is to make everything easy for him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:44 PM |
| 121 | What is healthy loveMy healthy love is contrary to all romantic comedies that falsely tried to teach me love was supposed to be dramatic and full of obstacles. My boyfriend has displayed the absolute same level of love, affection and care since day 1. This is my most mature relationship, I feel calm and comfortable. Our love is not movie-like, but it’s perfect in our eyes. He is a plethora of green flags and everything I want in a boyfriend, eventual husband and a father of my eventual child. If I start listing his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Found out he watches porn, kicked him out at 1:30amI rolled my eyes at the first paragraph when he said porn like bs and you chalked it up to him being a guy. Just a reminder there are men who watch porn and still have the brain to not repeat what they hear in it. There’s no excuse for a guy who doesn’t watch porn to speak like that, never ever chalk that up to him being a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 12:55 PM |
| 2 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.That really hit home since most of my “friends” back then kept jokingly reminding me they’re on his team and he’s amazing and if we have problems, I should solve them. They all enabled his abuse by reminding me I was in the wrong and asking who else would put up with me. Because no one saw what happened behind closed doors, they only saw the love bombing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:53 AM |
| 4 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.I know HVMs but they’re family or my friends’ partners. The majority of the rest of them have displayed insufferable behavior. Pretty sure even if things don’t work out with my current HVM, I’d still look for men of his nationality rather than Bulgarians, guess I’m too scarred haha. But if I live the rest of my life without such a questionable Bulgarian LVM touching or getting close to me, I’d die a happy woman 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:49 AM |
| 3 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.During our whole relationship he kept explaining every romantic thing he said or did with “I watched many romantic movies” and he copied from them. I hated him using English while speaking to me with every cover of MY being 😂😂😂 it was creepy to see how his native language kept disappearing, it’s like more and more words kept slipping away from his speech and didn’t come to his mind even if he wanted them to. He even used English words but conjugated them in our native language (which made them s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:46 AM |
| 5 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.This one did all the time and it was always “some day in the future” so after almost 4 years, I was done with waiting and dumped his ass (among other reasons). My next one I didn’t even wanna marry so I didn’t care, he was never serious future guy in my eyes. My current boyfriend knows that in 5 years tops I’ll be married - if not to him, then to someone else lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 05:13 PM |
| 397 | Struggling to see value in myself because although I'm fairly attractive (or so I'm told) literally every guy I come across just wants to sleep with me and it's emotionally exhausting.Don’t build your value based on guys. They all want to sleep with you? Doesn’t mean anything about your value. They all want to marry you and treat you like a queen? Doesn’t mean anything about your value. You are you and have your own value from within, which is approximately 0% dependent on men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:25 PM |
| 13 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.Exactly that, he kept apologizing but never dropped the English speech. I would speak to him in our native language and he would literally respond with sentences in English. An apology without changed behavior is worth nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:23 PM |
| 19 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.That is incredibly kind, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:11 PM |
| 48 | Same guy would try to sexually assault me around a year after that message. He kept dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. He knew I hated him speaking in English to me but still kept doing it. Last lines read “Sorry I wrote that in English but it made more sense”.He was like that after every fight. It got to the point that I dreaded affection and kind gestures because it was either his guilt after a fight or a calm before the next fight. He’s been out of my life since over a year, was just cleaning up an old phone and stumbled upon this gem. Can’t believe I used to go “😍” over such messages and now I’m disgusted he ever touched me. Nice catch about the laws in Russia though, we are not Russian and I am 2000km away from him now. And my current boyfriend h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 04:05 PM |
| 15 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.I don’t see why guilty since it’s not your fault. Just biology I guess. I only know one other girl like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:53 AM |
| 7 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.I wasn’t always that person, but I got there. Cheers to you and the process of getting to that point. Once you gain that strength, there’s no going back and no more half-ass treatment from questionable men 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:32 AM |
| 20 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.You do make a good point, but all in all, depends on how you look at it. And depends on the person, of course. If I had a terrible relationship with no orgasms, I would have ended it after a few months. When I had a terrible relationship with orgasms, I ended it after almost 4 years. Years I’m never getting back 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:01 AM |
| 76 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.Eh, don’t be quick to be jealous, because of this “talent” of mine I’ve put up with terrible relationships just because I thought sex was amazing. Turns out, this amazingness had nothing to do with my partners 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:56 AM |
| 117 | If things were flipped, and sex ended when women came, most men would throw temper tantrums.I think it’d be hilarious if sex ended with my orgasm because I get them fast, easy, from piv. I’d just burst out laughing like “yeah honey it’s been 2 minutes and I came, time to go to sleep” 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:00 AM |
| 16 | Green flags for breakfastPreach! You sound like an amazing woman, your friends and fiance are lucky to have you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:39 PM |
| 33 | Green flags for breakfastExactly! I’ve always loved cooking, taking care of and doing small gestures for my friends. And finally I have a guy by my side who’s worthy of getting such treatment and appreciates it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:31 PM |
| 124 | Green flags for breakfastI love everything about that! My HVM finished work earlier than me today and when I got home, he had made lasagne (my favorite meal) and bought 2 tubs of my favorite ice cream (I am not a fan of sharing and prefer we each eat from a separate tub) - he did this all without asking, without telling me or making a big deal out of it, just like the most normal thing in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 04:23 PM |
| 16 | PSA: Healthy Friendships With Men Are Rare & Almost Impossible 🗣I’ve “lost” many male friends over the years. Now I’d say I have 2 left and obviously keep vetting them and would be out at the smallest fuckup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:16 PM |
| 23 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!Just remember there was a guy who wanted to put in in his girlfriend’s ear flesh hole. You know those things you put like a regular earring that then dilate and make the bottom part of the ear look like a gigantic hole. If there’s a guy out there wanting to sexually penetrate this hole, I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s a guy wanting to sexually penetrate a woman’s nose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 03:10 PM |
| 25 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!I am so sorry you went through this but now you have us, love 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:22 PM |
| 67 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!Of course. Porn addicts who lost all their sensitivity due to death grip want tighter and tighter because a regular vagina doesn’t squeeze them like their own hands. Bet they’d try to put it in a woman’s nose as well cause TiGhT fEeLs So GoOd | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:21 PM |
| 74 | Other things he does in Bed that are Red Flags and Manipulative!Bring on the yeast infections 🤮🤮🤮 my poor kitty and what it endured while I was with my unhygienic ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 10:44 AM |
| 64 | Gross! 🤮It won’t happen to you if you vet your future husband and father of your children as well as your doctor. HV people wouldn’t even think of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 01:19 AM |
| 85 | Gross! 🤮Even if she didn’t get this stitch, I bet he’s demanding she “gives up the ass” because he thinks his desensitized dick is entitled to something tight to painfully penetrate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 01:13 AM |
| 120 | Last red flag: would you do my pedicure?If it seems too good to be true, it is. I really don’t understand what about this dude seemed too good to be true? I find it hard to believe there was anything good when reading your post. Girl, you dodged a huge bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:02 PM |
| 25 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Never lose hope, love. My boyfriend doesn’t watch porn and the sex is absolutely fantastic. Not having your brain rotten by porn and kink may seem insignificant to men, but it makes a huge difference. Remember if a man understands the issue with porn, the issues with women in it being exploited, as well as the issues for the woman he’s with (for example insecurity), that means he has the potential and intellectual capacity to be a better partner and man for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:56 PM |
| 17 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Good point about the coping mechanism. I would definitely dive way deeper into it if I have a son, or maybe I’ll see things totally differently when it’s real rather than now when I’m speculating. However, I will be firm in my view that porn is absolutely unnecessary. Men can get off without it. Some men don’t watch it, surprise, they’re still alive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 60 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Thank you for raising such a good question! I will hang around and read all the comments as am kinda clueless about it. I am nowhere near ready to have kids, but the only thing that comes to mind is a conversation, be it with me or with my son’s father (in this version obviously the father is my current boyfriend who would become a husband eventually). I do think my boyfriend is emotionally intelligent enough to express to our hypothetical son what damage porn could do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:11 PM |
| 63 | Conservative Pick Me Magazine Evie thinks we’re all Femcels Y’all. I wonder which man dictated this idea for them to write down? Lmaooo, imagine being this desperate for male approval in 2021.Lol homegirl thinks we’re femcels? Bet she’d drool over my HV boyfriend if she saw him and do all sorts of pick-me bs to attract him bless her heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Once a cheater always a cheater ?My 2 cents is that both my exes have cheated on me repeatedly, not just once... so yeah. Only time I’ve been unfaithful is when a kiss with a guy happened but I was drunk and don’t remember how it got to the point of kissing, who initiated, etc. I took a note and never got that drunk again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Mass shootings have been solved everyone! Turns out lack of access to women's bodies is why men go on violent rampages killing women/poc/children/everyone.Jesus Christ please don’t think that way. Please reach out to someone if you are having such thoughts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 04:53 PM |
| 20 | 💁♀️🤷♀️🙋♀️ yeah nah mate, kk byeeI loved all of those pics 😂 first one immediately caught my eye since the guy in the white jersey is one of my favorite footballers - Mats Hummels. He seems so down to earth to me, he’s a UNICEF ambassador helping children and invested in a Cologne start up company that helps people find football equipment and training. His wife is so beautiful and I love seeing photos of them together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 08:22 PM |
| 586 | Mass shootings have been solved everyone! Turns out lack of access to women's bodies is why men go on violent rampages killing women/poc/children/everyone.Ah, of course, women are free tools for men to ease their anger issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:46 PM |
| 23 | I just left my porn addicted boyfriend, he was my first everything and I feel so stupid because I am struggling so much and I want to go back to him, please give me motivationThank you for those kind words. Let’s all try to help and support each other to prevent such abuse from keep happening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:25 PM |
| 24 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.During his whole visit (I lived in another country back then) he kept reminding me “oh here’s an ATM, didn’t you say you were running low on cash?” and then he’d be like “Oh let’s buy this and this and that” in the supermarket 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:08 PM |
| 14 | What the actual fuckApologies for the offtopic, but what exactly happened that the sub became private? I woke up and tried to check it but nothing appeared, so I thought I’d been blocked out of it 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:30 PM |
| 196 | I just left my porn addicted boyfriend, he was my first everything and I feel so stupid because I am struggling so much and I want to go back to him, please give me motivationI want you to imagine what that could lead to. Imagine a young woman whose first boyfriend (first sex, relationship, first “I love you”) is addicted to porn. She is young and naive and inexperienced and has no idea what porn addiction is, but ofc she is brainwashed that porn is cool and cool girlfriends have no issue with it. So she has no issue with it, no issue with discussing and even watching it with him. Oh, what’s that? She feels sad because his favorite actresses are thin with big boobs a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:15 PM |
| 210 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.Once my ex asked me to give him some of the money I had withdrawn so he could pay for the dinner he wanted to take me to to celebrate 2 years and 5 months together 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 08:54 AM |
| 3 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahNever thought of that, nice catch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:16 AM |
| 3 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahQuestion is why wasn’t he blocked after she said “no” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:15 AM |
| 3 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahIt’s not me, I would have unmatched after the first message. I don’t owe explanation to anyone and most times I don’t even feel like typing a “I’m not interested, thanks” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 7 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI forgot to add in the title that it’s not me. It can never be me. I know enough about red flags, vetting and FDS success. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:25 PM |
| 4 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI wish the girl whose screenshots those are would understand that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:21 PM |
| 8 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastI love everything about that comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:13 PM |
| 74 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI like referring to myself as “badass bitch” and am not offended by it 😃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 04:09 PM |
| 60 | I love being tall. There I said it.Heeey, I am a fellow 5’9 woman! My boyfriend told me one of the first things he instantly liked about me was my posture. My ex was ~3 inches taller than me and I didn’t want to wear heels and was slouching my back to appear shorter🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:51 PM |
| 14 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahMy previous relationships taught me to just go for looks because even the ugly ones treated me like shit 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:07 PM |
| 4 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI am not on any dating apps but am sure that’d be a good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 03:06 PM |
| 11 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahOf themselves AND of shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:22 PM |
| 15 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI specifically googled it since I am not a native either and it doesn’t exist in the Cambridge dictionary 🤷🏻♀️ it was only explained on some “slang dictionaries” webpages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:11 PM |
| 72 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI was right, my life was better before knowing there are guys out there joking about forceful oral 🙃🙃🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:10 PM |
| 59 | I really feel so sorry for this generation of women.One of my absolutely best decisions was to dump a porn addict ex. I literally thrived after that, my sex life became amazing, I started wanting and initiating sex, I felt my whole body and soul healing. Loved that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:07 PM |
| 19 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastThat’s one of my favorite compliments to get, thank you 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:03 PM |
| 21 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahBanter is like a conversation that is funny, not serious, an exchange of teasing remarks. Basically his opener backfired and he tried giving her the ole “iT wAs A jOkE” but dressed in the word “banterous” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:39 PM |
| 54 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastHow much are you willing to bet that it’s the girl birds who clean their nests while boy birds lay around all day? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:30 PM |
| 64 | Promising Young Women is an empowering movie for all women **Trigger WarningI remember my boyfriend telling me he has found a movie he thinks would be interesting for us to watch. I wasn’t overly excited but happy he stumbled upon and suggested it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:29 PM |
| 28 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahAhahahah I mean for real. Are they alright? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:28 PM |
| 39 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI’m not even sure I wanna know at this point, sometimes I wish I could un-hear some of those jokes they deem funny. And Sansa DID deserve better imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:27 PM |
| 11 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI would have definitely unmatched after the opener. Poor girl dealt with his bs way too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:25 PM |
| 56 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI am lost as well. Gulags were labour camps in the Soviet union. I doubt this dude is a history nerd, more like he’s trying to make some sort of joke that only he sees? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:12 PM |
| 32 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahActually I DO MIND their confidence, especially when there’s absolutely no reason for it??? Too idiotic to include pictures of himself only (unless him and his buddy in the photo are too codependent and want to date as a couple seeking a third person for a throuple?). Terrible posture, both of those guys. Shirtless photos - does he even expect to be taken seriously? Main goal is to bang a chick one last time before he moves. Where is the reasoning behind said confidence?????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:40 PM |
| 139 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastSis is dating a bird, I hate to say it but that’s zoophilia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:30 PM |
| 47 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahBecause some pickme out there was head over heels over the bare minimum and now he thinks all women will trip over themselves lining up for him to take them on WALKS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:28 PM |
| 74 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahSo he’s looking for a female human fleshlight | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 12:26 PM |
| 138 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI haven’t been on dating apps since I met my lovely HVM in autumn 2019 but if one day things don’t work out and I am dating again, I’d be exactly this bitch - ruthlessly blocking and not taking any of their bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:08 AM |
| 98 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahI’d take a dog over most men tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 34 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahHonestly I’d be ashamed to try and level up while posting things that expose me as responding like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:01 AM |
| 322 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahThe amount of guys who try to gently slap down women and stomp all over their confidence in order to make them easier to manipulate is outrageous. I, myself, have fallen victim to the ole “he attacks me, so I must chase him to prove I’m not ugly/stupid/prudish” NEVER AGAIN LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 112 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahEw. I’m ecstatic over the fact that I’ve never came across such garbage on Tinder while I was still single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:56 AM |
| 61 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahThis is not me. I am smarter than this and hence, have a HVM on my side, not some questionable dick-possessing creatures messaging me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:55 AM |
| 13 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahBonus points because he can play with her as well as with his dog. Honestly poor dog though, stuck with this dude... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:33 AM |
| 165 | gIvE nIcE gUyS a ChAnCe waaaaaaahAnd look at the photo 😂😂😂 I am dying of laughter over the Chad vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:32 AM |
| 7 | Are you ever haunted by treatment you tolerated ?I am sorry you are going through this. The first time I slept with my boyfriend I was in a great place mentally. My panic attacks started while I was with my ex (guy #2) and were because of what my previous ex (guy #1) did to me. I started dating my boyfriend after guy #2 and it was great since my panic attacks have stopped, because guy #2 helped me through them. However, some time into dating my boyfriend, guy #1 tried to sexually abuse me and since then both the panic attacks over the degradin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 09:30 AM |
| 18 | Are you ever haunted by treatment you tolerated ?TW sexual abuse. I started getting panic attacks over the years I endured BDSM and all sorts of derogatory sex acts because my ex couldn’t cum (death grip and porn addiction). I was angry at myself for allowing him, I felt like I sexually abused myself, lying to myself that I like it in order to endure it, brainwashing myself that “kInKy SeX iS tHe BeSt”. Overlapping with those times was also an attempt from him to rape me. My current boyfriend helped me immensely during those times. To think le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:17 AM |
| 32 | Wonen shouldn't settle for personality and we deserve to be attracted to our partnersI felt like the most terrible shittiest person for thinking my exes were ugly. They were both “nice guys” and I felt happy with them at certain times but every now and then, whatever we were doing, I would catch a glimpse at them and think “God, he’s not attractive at all”, or I would see friends post selfies with their boyfriends thinking “Why can’t I have a guy I really find sexy all the time and not only when I’m in allure over him treating me nice?” With my exes I would always notice attract… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 06:08 AM |
| 135 | Well this is a new one. Even if he's actually disabled, why would it matter what the woman looks like if it's not for anything except for "therapeutic and health reasons!"But men can LiTeRaLlY die from blue balls /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 04:46 PM |
| 3 | His presence is a gift :))Love, did you really say $1000 or is it some other currency where 1000 is not that much of it 😂 either way badass response! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 04:44 PM |
| 16 | Your life does not end at 18 nor your worth as a womanThat’s scary. I live in Scandinavia and still think the men around me are one of the most attractive ones. My bf is hands down the most attractive men I’ve seen. His dad, the inspectors in my previous dorm, my uni professors, idk but anytime I see older men I do think they have aged really really well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 02:24 PM |
| 24 | How do you go about vetting a guy's dick size?I have never and would never touch a guy’s crotch before being sexual with him. I would be disgusted if a guy groped me “accidentally”. Wtf. This was important for me to say. Aside from it, I don’t have much advice since I’ve been lucky in that department but in my experience the best sized dick came from the guy who never made a big deal about it, never mentioned anything sexual and never considered being special just for the sole reason that he’s incredibly well endowed. Side note, the fitter … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 12:33 PM |
| 7 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesYou’re more than welcome. I lived with a LV ex who screamed, threatened me, slammed doors and punched walls. I knew he was taking my phone and reading my messages so in my mind, the thing I held onto to keep me calm was the fact that I am fluent in German while he barely understood it. If worst had come to worst, I could have always lied about having to take a work call and explained how desperately I need help. Without leaving any written proof of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:22 PM |
| 7 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesI do translate for him. So does he because I’m not fluent in his native language yet. Neither my family, nor his purposely try to speak in an unknown language just for the sake of talking behind someone’s back. But, let’s not forget at the end of the day I am the woman and he is the man, it will never be the same even if we reverse the roles. If tomorrow he totally flips the coin and his HV proves to be an act, I want to be able to pick up the phone and call for help in my native language withou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:11 PM |
| 12 | Your Standards Aren't Too High; Looking For Positive Stories PleaseI missed out on so much while studying in Germany. When I moved to where I live now, I was determined to try it the other way 🥰 I am a firm believer in destiny: I was destined to meet my HVM and if I haven’t through my ex, then we would have crossed paths another way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:43 PM |
| 21 | Your Standards Aren't Too High; Looking For Positive Stories PleaseI had moved in the same dorm where my LV ex lived. There was a party and he said he would introduce me to new people who would definitely like me. Took me to said party and in front of me stood the most handsome man I’ve seen in my life. My ex’s exact words to me were “This is name - mr. Hot guy” Soon after my ex dumped me, I ran into my now boyfriend at a few other parties, it was clarified we were both single, he walked me to my block after one of said parties and asked me on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:14 PM |
| 7 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesHm, I do not wish my boyfriend would learn my native language. I am learning his because I live in the country and had planned to stay here and build my life here way before I met him. However, I do like the fact that I can always talk to people in my language without him understanding me. My grandma used to say it’s always good to not share 100% with your partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:54 PM |
| 7 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesI like checking up on them every now and then to see if they’re still together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:50 PM |
| 32 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesSo that was him! I remember reading about this situation somewhere but totally skimmed on the names. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:43 PM |
| 52 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesPlus, he’s not terrible to look at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:41 PM |
| 63 | HVM Behavior in Male CelebritiesIdk if he counts as a celebrity but Cameron from Love is blind demonstrated HV traits during the show. He did partake in an experiment looking to prove that appearance isn’t everything. He has been lovely to Lauren before and after he saw her. He made effort to be approved by her parents and really took it seriously. He had a house, a stable job and his life in order before starting to look for a spouse. I didn’t hear any sexist jokes from him during the show run. I feel like every word out of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 06:35 PM |
| 58 | Your Standards Aren't Too High; Looking For Positive Stories PleaseMy boyfriend plans and pays on each date. Time after time he expresses how he wishes some places could open so he could take me out on a proper date. He cooks for me and plans home-edition dates. He cleans up after himself and does all sorts of chores. He is now sick and instead of whining like a big baby, he did laundry, changed the bed linen, cleaned the bathroom, the kitchenette, all the other tables and surfaces, vacuumed and washed the floors. That’s not a one-time thing, he has always kept… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 05:48 PM |
| 58 | Would probably sprain my thumb from the force of that block and deleteDreaming of giving someone a blowjob? No. Haven’t given one in idk how many months, my HV boyfriend has expressed that’s not his thing and he’s not really into it. He gives great and regular head though, but has never raised the subject of blowjobs. When he gets one, it’s because I feel like it and always as part of foreplay, never to completion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 12:21 PM |
| 58 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateTrue. I want him dressed nicely all the time tho. Even when we’re stuck at home cause everything is closed he wears the jeans he knows I like on him, the belt I gifted him, the T-shirts he knows look good on his chest. Cheers to men who know how to always make an effort 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:37 AM |
| 131 | I was really excited about a first date, but I'll be canceling due to some mini red flags... This is my personal farewell.Feel like sharing the mini red flags? I don’t mean to pry but usually we talk about those giant glaring ones and mini 🚩🚩🚩 could be missed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:44 AM |
| 108 | Don’t Dress Up for a Man on the First DateFor my first date with my HV boyfriend I picked a pair of pants that I felt bomb af in, a long-sleeve blouse and a coat. Nothing off the top, just an outfit I loved myself in. Imo he had outdone me, but I prefer it this way. He was dressed incredibly to my taste, dress shirt, my fav type of pants accentuating his legs (and ass obvs) and an army-style coat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:43 AM |
| 330 | Males pretending to be women so they can get an FDS Newbie flair trying not to mansplain so they don’t get caughtI’ve read total pickme bs from profiles labeled Apprentice while I’m here being a Newbie, don’t sweat too much over those flairs, clearly they’re not always accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:30 PM |
| 25 | Males pretending to be women so they can get an FDS Newbie flair trying not to mansplain so they don’t get caughtI’d also love to know 😂 I wish I could catch some butthurt scrote comments but I never get the chance before they’re deleted :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 04:03 PM |
| 7 | All the comments are “omg this is literally my husband 😂❤️”. What a joke.Oh, they do exist, believe me! I’ve posted about my viking plenty of times here, you’re welcome to check my post history, I’ve covered Valentine’s, my birthday, my bf’s understanding that bare minimum shouldn’t be praised like a miracle and is “normal for a man to do so” and so on... more of my FDS posts are green flag stories ☺️ I already have ideas for new material because he’s sick now and still HV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 10:35 PM |
| 4 | All the comments are “omg this is literally my husband 😂❤️”. What a joke.Some of his many green flags 👌🏻 so far he’s definitely HV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 10:17 PM |
| 147 | OH NO! I’ve been outed as ‘vanilla’ by some p*rn-sick scrote who says my sex life must be boring. Whatever will I do?!?!? #VanillaIsValidMy kink is my handsome, well-built, big-dicked, six-packed boyfriend showing me new pinnacles of sexual pleasure time after time. And then kissing my forehead and making me his signature lasagne. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:41 PM |
| 65 | All the comments are “omg this is literally my husband 😂❤️”. What a joke.What in the fucking hell???? I have a boyfriend and have never said out loud “I am depressed” to him. Why? Because he is so amazingly good at paying attention to me, my body language and signals and always picks up on the slightest change in my behavior. So I don’t need to tell him anything about being depressed, he always comes to me with “Are you feeling okay right now/Is anything weighing on your mind/You seem down, what can I do to help/I can’t have you be sad if there’s anything that could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:15 PM |
| 9 | Using movies to screen?I am watching Paternity court with my bf and absolutely love internally laughing at some of the questionable trash of men who appear there. My bf is always the first one to dish them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:04 AM |
| 54 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.Reminds me of the time I sent my long-distance bf a heartfelt message how sad I was that we wouldn’t see each other during the summer and he responded in English (he knew I hated when he insisted on using English instead of our native language) “yeah sorry about that” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 08:28 AM |
| 206 | In the original tweet a guy got busted by his girlfriend as he liked pictures of sexy models on instagram. Male or female, and especially this one, the replies were terrible.Been there, done that, my ex cried baby tears (might get hate and judgement but I’m incredibly turned off by crying men) and after a while I couldn’t stand seeing that anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 10:11 AM |
| 11 | What happens if you give wife benefits to a HVM?I might have to respectfully disagree. My HV boyfriend is incredibly hot, both face and body. He takes good care of his diet, physical health, skin, hair. He looks younger than his actual age and multiple people have considered him 4-5 years younger than he is. His younger brother is also very attractive. Their father imo aged better than most men younger than him, he’s barely balding (just a spot on top of his head) and all 3 of them put effort into their clothing, hygiene, cosmetics, etc. My f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 09:09 AM |
| 17 | Came across this fantastic picture of Frederik, the Crown Prince of Denmark, running behind his future wife Mary, who was a “commoner” at the time.She gave a welcome speech on the first day in my university. She was so lovely and kind, I liked her voice and overall vibe she brought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:01 AM |
| 17 | Came across this fantastic picture of Frederik, the Crown Prince of Denmark, running behind his future wife Mary, who was a “commoner” at the time.I think that would be considered short in Denmark, I am almost 6 feet. My boyfriend, his father and brother are all taller than me. Most Danes I know are also taller. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:00 AM |
| 19 | It isn't just about how he treats youMy boyfriend has always spoken lovely of his mother, aunt and two grandmothers. He is always helpful towards any of my female friends who needed help, they never needed to ask. He is a big and strong guy who had a car and all sorts of tools so he would always say something like “If she needs any help with anything, I can help”. Anything would include driving her places, picking up, carrying, assembling furniture, help with documents (he is native in the country where we live), help with electric… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:57 AM |
| 15 | What happens if you give wife benefits to a HVM?Let me start by saying that my vision of wife benefits differs from most people’s. I kept beating myself up about it but in the end, screw it, I love cleaning, cooking and tidy spaces and I won’t call them “wife benefits”, I will keep calling them “basic life skills” like I think they are. My boyfriend is HV so far, he’s a fantastic cook (knows how to make more things than I do), he’s a clean and tidy person. For every “benefit” I give him, he gives me “benefits” as well. He hasn’t stopped takin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:48 AM |
| 67 | If he wanted to, he would.I love everything about that! She looks so cute and happy, and we share a favorite breakfast/brunch dish! 🤤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 8 | How is an HVM an enrichment in your life, examples!Exactly this, I absolutely love their rainbow sparkle (diamonds only sparkle in grey-ish) plus the fact they’re almost as durable (second on the Mohs scale right after diamonds) has made me totally prefer them over diamonds. I’d also love a bigger stone and moissanite makes it way more affordable, win-win. You said it so well, people can change overnight. I am crossing my fingers your SO doesn’t miss out on the true gem which is you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 06:43 PM |
| 12 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.Exactly. To each its own and no judgement but to all women with that boundary - never settle, there are men who don’t need porn 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:56 PM |
| 30 | How is an HVM an enrichment in your life, examples!he was great with my parents when they met. Kept engaging with both of them on specific topics that he had prepared and that were typical for each of them. I dreaded such meetings but not with him, he made me incredibly calm and looking forward to that introduction. I could just relax and enjoy my food. he was great when I met his family, translated anytime necessary, I had the same feeling of relaxation and for the first time didn’t dread meeting a bf’s family. every night before we go to sleep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:50 PM |
| 14 | How is an HVM an enrichment in your life, examples!Hey, I am a fellow moissanite lover 😍 I find those stones so incredibly beautiful! Best of luck, keep vetting and maybe you’d post your ring here for us to see 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:25 PM |
| 45 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.10 bucks says he knew and was trying to give her the “But all men do it, it’s normal” speech | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:47 PM |
| 43 | Is always skipping foreplay a red flag?Only time I don’t consider it a red flag is when it’s my choice to skip it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:47 PM |
| 4 | How easy it is to slip.Men can be shitty in all ages 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 5 | How easy it is to slip.Someone please correct me if I’m wrong but I think the biggest gap acceptable was 4 years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 10:40 AM |
| 17 | You’re single!I absolutely love his voice and accent 😂😂😂 this was great to watch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 08:20 AM |
| 18 | How easy it is to slip.I’m sorry but I stopped reading after the 10-year-age gap. It’s one of the principles that are so strictly covered in the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Lack of compliments?I never wonder if men find me pretty, I know I am. I don’t need their compliments to feel great about myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:49 PM |
| 11 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?And good point about some restaurants! I thought a bit about it and it’s almost always like that in my home country, men there are very much expected to pay. I live in Denmark and took my boyfriend to a restaurant that serves my national cuisine, ran by men of my nation, and of course, they handed the bill to him, which has never happened in any other restaurant in Denmark we’ve been to. However, that was the only time I paid on a date with him since I asked him. I’ve asked him to other places a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:04 PM |
| 16 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?My ex literally said something like “Can you give me some of the money you withdrew today because I want to pay the bill?” BITCH you say you “pay the bill” when you use your own money, doesn’t work otherwise! And during his whole visit that time he kept filling up the cart in the supermarkets and then proceeded to remind me to “withdraw some more cash so we have” 🤡🤡🤡 at least he paid for everything when I was visiting him 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ I was wondering if he would expect me to finance stuff the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:01 PM |
| 58 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?I think my personal top 2 would be: him visiting me in Germany, us going out to a restaurant to celebrate 2 years and 5 months together, him asking me to withdraw money from the ATM (from my card) and giving it to him so he can pay. He literally paid with my money but wanted it to be him who gave it to the waiter. 🤡🤡🤡 I was visiting him in the country where he lived at the time, having had an annoying sore throat for like a week prior and still in pain. Few days into my visit, he goes like “Not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:12 AM |
| 5 | 3/14, Steak and BJ DayYou shouldn’t be contacting or entertaining your ex at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:04 AM |
| 38 | 3/14, Steak and BJ DayLadies, let me paint you a picture. It’s currently 8 in the evening where I live, meaning this made up Steak and BJ day is almost over. During the whole day my HV boyfriend hasn’t even mentioned it. I am pretty sure he has never heard of it either. Among the things he told me today: asking if there is anything specific I want to do for our first anniversary (next Sunday), any idea I want executed, etc. asking me about my home country that I haven’t visited in 8 months and my family that I haven’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Happy wife, happy lifeI am incredibly sorry you had to go through so much bs. But this is what made you who you are now, you’ll never back down on your standards now and this is what matters. Fully agree with your point about aging better, my bf’s mom is a few years older than his dad and is a very beautiful woman, stylish, always well-dressed, very kind and gentle. Both his parents look great which is no surprise because my boyfriend is a hot Nordic guy, can’t be that without some bomb genetics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:14 PM |
| 14 | Happy wife, happy lifeI grew up watching my parents’ great marriage and been wanting the same. It’s the norm for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 27 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?Also, there’s a huge difference between a gymbro and a guy who understands his good genetics alone won’t cut it unless he takes proper care of his physical state | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 12:50 PM |
| 25 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.My guess would be she expected the number to be higher. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 11:16 AM |
| 77 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?The stamina thing. It’s so real. When I met my boyfriend (fit guy who works out 4-5 times a week and eats a healthy diet) it was like another level, I’ve never had sex like that, the difference is huge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 09:34 AM |
| 35 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?Keep in mind, this “quality” of mine made me think my exes were great in bed and I was putting up with so much bs in my relationships “because the sex is good”. It’s been a double edged sword for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 09:32 AM |
| 50 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?I have, as a matter of fact. But I am a rare case and orgasm easily from PIV. Even mediocre sex with my exes did it for me - granted, they always made sure I have orgasmed and took time for foreplay, but still, mediocre sex. Sex with a HVM though is a whole new universe, no one should settle for anything less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 09:27 AM |
| 2 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsDenmark | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 06:16 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on a 4-5 year old relationship, no ring? Celebrity editionDepends on when the relationship started. If they were around 15 and, it wouldn’t sit well with me to see them married at 20. Otherwise I think 4-5 years is in most cases a perfect timeframe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:56 AM |
| 4 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsThey both work full time in the fitness industry and are Instagram influencers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:43 AM |
| 3 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsGo build a house. Go provide for yourself, me and the 5 kids you want me to birth you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsI do but my boyfriend’s nation is a rare case of men doing chores and therefore not moving in with a woman to get a maid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 05:24 PM |
| 6 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsI am super happy that I have a boyfriend whose whole country raises little boys to do chores and take care of everything without expecting a woman to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsMy ex also called me “the wife”, I used to giggle like a high school girl in love. Ew @ the past me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:38 PM |
| 6 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsI didn’t know you could make a chat on Reddit 🧐 definitely count me in! I’d love to get to know Bulgarian FDS women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:54 PM |
| 14 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsI’m super happy to see more and more Bulgarian and generally Eastern European women kicking the old stereotype of being the housewife. You’re more than welcome to DM me ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:33 PM |
| 2 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Thank you, so far he has been dubbed HV. Let’s see what the future brings. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 12:27 PM |
| 2 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I will admit my first thought was that Scandi men are way more attractive to me personally. Which is completely normal, since appearance is the first thing I notice in someone. I am far from the thought that all of them are great and perfect (and that all Slavic men are terrible) but for now I am happy to say that in my boyfriend I have found everything I am looking for in a man and a potential husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 11:55 AM |
| 18 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsSecond part of her answer is “He helps me with everything when he has the ability and always makes breakfast” WHEN HE HAS THE ABILITY? Meaning when he has 2 working hands? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsI came to that same realization and dumped his sorry ass. Truly felt like I was reborn and like a weight was instantly off my back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 11:36 AM |
| 29 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsIt’s our own fault imo. I am always subtly attacked when I say I am not a maid for my bf. There’s always a Bulgarian woman coming at me with unsolicited advice like “But you’re a woman, you should keep clean and tidy and take care of your man” NO Keeping this comment in English so anyone could understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 10:25 AM |
| 5 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsWhy would that be shame? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 10:21 AM |
| 12 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsExactly. I also live with my boyfriend and he would never disrespect me to the point of accepting me doing most of the chores just because I am the woman. He has no issue with cooking, cleaning the oven, doing dishes, serving me food because he doesn’t want me pausing my show, etc. What I’m saying is he’s a fully capable adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 10:08 AM |
| 20 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsExactly why I always cut off any bs like “oh, you’re like his girlfriend/wife”. I am always one to say either “I am not his girlfriend” or “I am not his wife” :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:57 AM |
| 71 | Question “How do you split house chores with your boyfriend?” and her answer starts with “I do the bigger chunk on chores, after all I am the woman and the housewife at home” ... miss me with that bsPlus she has openly admitted they’ve “gone out” since summer 2019 but started posting boyfriend-girlfriend photos in summer 2020. Meaning he fucked her for an entire year before officially making it a relationship. No, thanks. And of course he calls her “his wife” because this is what many guys and girls do - “she’s/I’m the wife, we’re like married” 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:44 AM |
| 3 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I read somewhere that the number of women to men is Russia is still too imbalanced so many women marry foreigners. It’s super common imo, all my life I’ve come across Russian women married to Western, Asian, American men, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:53 AM |
| 1 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Oh, but they do tweet it and express it openly. And most of the time, they get support from their fellow LVMs. They feed off the same energy. And that way they also attract the cool pick-me girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:51 AM |
| 2 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Я болгарка, но обожаю русский язык 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:49 AM |
| 9 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”That’s why I am incredibly clear about the following: no babies with a boyfriend, no babies with a fiance. I refuse to be one of those women getting married with their bumps out and posting pictures like “I said yes” like okay hun you’re 7 months pregnant, what else are you gonna say except “yes” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:55 PM |
| 2 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”As I always say, my father and brother are amazing men, and some of my girl friends have amazing boyfriends of our nation, but we always emphasize that those amazing men are rarity, not a general rule. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 03:52 PM |
| 6 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Direct quotes: “Babe, sometimes I wish you were smarter because I like to be able to talk with my girlfriend on all sorts of topics and my brain functions way faster than usual people’s” Vs. “Babe, I have to break up with you because you’ve been too insecure lately and I can’t be with a person like that” BITCH YOU MADE ME INSECURE 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:03 PM |
| 11 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I don’t generalize but my experience with Slavic men is so bad that I completely gave up on them and started dating Danes until I found my HVM 🥰 even if it doesn’t work with him, I wouldn’t be with a Slavic man, I’m too traumatized I guess 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:01 PM |
| 5 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I mean, you’re not that far off. I was with my ex for almost 4 years, his problems when it came to sex increased and were unsolved, he gained weight and stopped taking that much care of himself and his life and goals, he didn’t propose to me. I had every right to be out 👋🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 09:59 PM |
| 4 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”If I could live the rest of my life without any man ever noticing me (except my own), I’d be ecstatic 😂 I have started imagining that my life could really get better and better in my 30s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 13 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Second this. It went as far as my LV ex literally telling me “Sorry to say this but towards the end of our relationship you looked terrible, drained and not as beautiful as now” GEE I WONDER WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:30 PM |
| 5 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Многие из этих выгляжут плохо в своих 20-х 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:25 PM |
| 30 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Because I got my first white hair very young and have been progressively getting more and more white :( Plus, I am not where I want to be in life professionally. I keep thinking my early 20s are gone and not coming back. The constant need to dye my roots also annoys me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 03:12 PM |
| 18 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I am 25 now and want to have a kid before 30, he knows and agrees with this plan. Let’s see what time will bring. Best of luck to you, keep being solid about your principles!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:29 PM |
| 17 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”No reason for anger, love. What do you win if you’re angry? What do you change? Absolutely nothing. It also ached me when I kept hearing my ex’s dad saying “Never marry, look how badly my marriage ended, your gf is a nice girl to live with and have kids with but never ever marry her” but in the end I couldn’t change either of those men. So I made my peace, left and never looked back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:26 PM |
| 27 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”This plus my ex for example kept trying to put me down so I ended up being a pathetic crumbled up excuse for a woman who he could manipulate in any way he wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 01:24 PM |
| 65 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Age has been a concern of mine even though I am 25. One time my boyfriend flat out said “Stop worrying about getting wrinkles, I think you’ll look even better than now. You’ll see when the time comes and you’ll believe me, I tell you.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:35 AM |
| 59 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I notice the same in Denmark but I very clearly explained to my lovely Dane that in 5 years I will be married with a child. If not to him, then to someone else. He is on the same page about starting a family after we’re done with our education but if he changes him mind, I’m out 👋🏻 I already lost 4 years of my life on a relationship with a Slavic man who never intended to marry me, never again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:33 AM |
| 118 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I love how the men who bullied me for my looks didn’t even have a fraction of the attractiveness my boyfriend possesses. Not only is he the most attractive men I’ve seen, but also the only one who never had any negative comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:30 AM |
| 41 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”I take it you have never met men? 😂😂😂 The amount of that kind ⬆️ is ridiculously high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:27 AM |
| 171 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”There was a comment on this post about Eastern European men being like that (idk why I don’t see it anymore 😒😒😒) and in my experience it’s a fact. My shitty ex was with me for 4 years, dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me, crying how he can’t wait for me to be his wife but never followed up. Tried to coerce me into engagement screaming at me to marry him when he sensed I was about to dump him. All my high school “friends” back then were talking about how they can’t wait to be brides an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:25 AM |
| 22 | “Me and her dated for a very long time. I was planning to marry her but over the course of 8 years she aged a lot, so I changed my mind.”Я тоже так подумала 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:22 AM |
| 13 | It he wanted to, he would!I personally wouldn’t like my bf doing that. If I like 2 dishes, he’ll simply take me on a date at the same place again. He can order his own choice of food without me having any say in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 10:19 PM |
| 23 | Seriously?I’m cringing so hard since my ex was literally that. Broke up with me and had the audacity to immediately say “I’d love to stay friends with benefits though” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:57 PM |
| 20 | Twirling for the patriarchy. More in commentsCan’t ever be me, but she do her 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:06 AM |
| 84 | Twirling for the patriarchy. More in commentsThe sex point is freaking outrageous. “I know he won’t be satisfied but at least I know I’ve done my bit well” ??????????????????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:01 AM |
| 8 | Is dick worth it?Dick is only worth it if attached to a HVM, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"I fully agree even though I didn’t make my boyfriend wait. It was truly my decision to sleep with him and I initiated it. This happened before I knew of FDS but looking back I really don’t regret it. Why you may ask? Because a HVM will not treat me differently or look at me in a different way after I have sex with him early on. (We’ve been together for over a year and all my vetting so far says he’s HV.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:17 AM |
| 4 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).I’d do exactly like she did honestly, ignore and unmatch 😂😂😂 luckily I don’t have to deal with dating apps anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 21 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).Me neither!!! Everyone uses this app so much and I myself use it every day but totally forgot that it’s connected to the phone number that can be easily traced | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 229 | The audacity is off the charts. This is also why FDS advocates blocking and deleting men as soon as it’s done (NOTE: this screenshot was found on Twitter).A friend of mine was telling me about a Tinder date that went really badly (the guy couldn’t tell from her body language that she wasn’t feeling like getting closer and kept trying to touch her leg) who then messaged her like “I am struggling right now, can you MobilePay me for the beer I got you?” It’s a different story how it wasn’t even a dinner date, but this dude literally messaged her asking for ~10€ back. She didn’t respond and unmatched him, telling me that if she had paid him, he would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:09 PM |
| 6 | FDS wisdom to keep in mindI wouldn’t call 70k likes hope, if I had to guess, most of them are from men because of her boobs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:55 PM |
| 68 | Absolute gem I found on a newspaper (2021 published!!) It talks about divorce and reasons for it and as you can tell, the differences between the sexes are, interesting.Maybe she likes a guy with a 6-pack because your body is deformed by the time passing, Dimitris. (Dimitris would be the Greek version of Kyle in my head) Offtopic but what a beautiful language. I only know a few words and can read to some extent (without understanding) but I always considered it sounding so beautiful and looking so beautiful written down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:17 PM |
| 44 | All the comments saying how sweet this is have me PUKING...count the ways this is wrong.So much focus on her appearance and then saying it’s not about how she looks?????? Creepily pouncing on her like she’s prey? I didn’t read all the screenshots, because honestly this sounds like lovebombing to me. My ex idolized me the same way, can’t stand reading about it. But I do think that when your partner’s parents don’t like you, there must be a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:13 PM |
| 104 | Don't let the red flags pass you by.Let’s appreciate the “More men should go to jail” bit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 01:37 PM |
| 11 | LVM interactions with your pets that set off alarms?My ex loved my cat (duh, she’s awesome) but she never let him get any affection from her. Time after time I tried explaining to him how to act with her and how to pet her because she’s not a dog like the pets he was used to. Well, he listened but never did as I said. I am not even sorry she scratched and attacked him. Maybe she sensed he treated me terribly during our relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:23 AM |
| 2 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮Oof, that hurt when I remembered I’m 25 and already have wrinkles | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:31 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, in your experience, what are some examples of sneaky condescending behaviors/words that a LVM will usually throw at you as an attempt to lower your self worth?One of my LV exes literally texted me “ngl sometimes I wish you were smarter” and I DID NOT dump his ass on the spot 🤡 instead I said “I’ll try to get better” 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 I have my current HV boyfriend to thank for the figurative slap in the face he gave me asking “So your ex called you stupid? And you let him? You, with the bachelor’s degree in German and speaking 4 other languages, going to one of the highest ranked European universities, let this 20-year-old child speak that way to you?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:42 AM |
| 16 | First comes the baby carriage...then marriage?I was just remembering my ex recently and how he wanted to have kids with me, dangling marriage like a carrot in front of me. While I had to keep listening to his father being like “Never marry, look how my marriage ended. Your girlfriend is a nice girl, you can have kids with her and live with her and be happy, but never get married!!!” I am cringing so hard and thanking myself for never believing my ex’s bs (“I can’t wait for you to be my wife 😭😭😭😭😭”) and not having any children with that kind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:16 AM |
| 12 | 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮Can’t help but sit back and giggle at this, thinking of my boyfriend’s amazingly soft and cared for skin, on which he uses medicinal cosmetics and unfamiliar to me pricey Scandinavian brands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:12 AM |
| 5 | Out of everything he could’ve said on his bio he chose this...175cm but his attitude 250cm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 03:48 PM |
| 56 | Our fav guy just dropped another gem 😂He dropped straight up facts and I love his accent too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Humanoid admitting that relationships are interchangeable with sex dolls. One could only hope the rest follow this logic and we get a population bust in malesIt is amazing! Simple to make and rich in flavours and nutrients. One of my favorite recipes to make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Humanoid admitting that relationships are interchangeable with sex dolls. One could only hope the rest follow this logic and we get a population bust in malesYou’re welcome and let me know if you like it if you try 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 07:10 PM |
| 54 | Likely going through a breakup with boyfriend of seven years. Need support.I honestly don’t understand why it’s your fault. Fellow FDSers, please get included here because I feel like OP is blindly blaming herself which is never a good sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 14 | Humanoid admitting that relationships are interchangeable with sex dolls. One could only hope the rest follow this logic and we get a population bust in malesIt’s very simple since I love easy recipes: I like choosing jasmine rice which I boil in a pot. In a separate pan I cook mushrooms, yellow bell peppers, carrots. To that I add a can of coconut milk and 1-2 teaspoons of green curry paste (there’s also red but it’s too spicy for me), stir well and turn to medium heat. I rinse and drain a can of chickpeas and add to the pan, followed by fresh broccoli. I stir again until it’s reduced to the desired thickness and serve this curry vegetable goodness … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 05:51 PM |
| 27 | Humanoid admitting that relationships are interchangeable with sex dolls. One could only hope the rest follow this logic and we get a population bust in malesNot a vegetarian, but agree with you and this thread really made me crave some rice veggie curry for dinner 😋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:29 PM |
| 16 | “I’m part Viking” Avoid Men Who Fake Their Ancestry or Try to Claim Their Ancestors Accomplishments As Their OwnI jokingly call my boyfriend “a viking” because he’s a man of his word, really good with his hands, isn’t afraid of working with them, is very fit and taking good care of his physical and mental shape and obviously because he’s Scandinavian 😂😂😂 he has never once claimed to be one, though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:41 PM |
| 38 | Whose child is this? And she proposed at her brother’s wedding of all places?! 🤦🏽♀️ please do not mistake this as “gEnDEr EqAuLiTy” 😑I thought she was proposing to her girlfriend but then I saw the caption and the end of the video and was like “no, baby, no” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Loving everything about this! You sound like my boyfriend’s mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:29 PM |
| 11 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I know that theoretically!!! But what if I get a brain damage and start tolerating shit like that 😩😩😩 big fear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I felt literal pain reading that. I have no idea how I would’ve dealt if my mother was like that after I dumped my LV ex, I’d probably be completely broken. You’re a heroine for standing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:27 PM |
| 29 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I try to block this thought since the only male hands touching me are always being washed and dried :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:36 PM |
| 9 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻He has been dubbed HV so far, yes, by me and ladies on this sub. Let’s see what happens in the future. Keep up your good work on yourself <3 eventually it pays off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 05:55 PM |
| 14 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I was the same at first, praising him like that, but he always responded something in the context of “??? It’s the bare minimum” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 05:37 PM |
| 9 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Hm, really doesn’t sound weird to me, probably because I’m not native. The more you learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:57 PM |
| 31 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I am super happy I grew up with an amazing father who is a partner, a support, a good husband and a role model. I have the same opinion on my boyfriend’s father and am gonna hold him to both mine and his father as a standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:40 PM |
| 184 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Imagine if genders were reversed and women started asking for appreciation for doing the bare minimum. “Fuck yea, I washed my hands after I peed this morning” “But you didn’t wash them after any of the other times you went to pee? Gross.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:37 PM |
| 73 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Jesus, I pray I never end up in such a marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:35 PM |
| 31 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻I mean English is not a language where there’ are separate words for “your = one person’s” and “your = multiple people’s” so I’m willing to let it slide and think that the mom considers the kids both her daughter’s and her son-in-law’s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:34 PM |
| 120 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Honestly I’d be so pissed at my mom if she ever pulls crap like that on me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 14 | Mom praising son-in-law for the bare minimum 👏🏻Is my English knowledge completely failing me or is “your” also used for something belonging to more than one person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:17 PM |
| 2 | How's your life/love life right now? What's on your mind these days?I am in a relationship with my HV boyfriend and most of my close friends are in relationships too, the ones who are single, are not into dating apps. Everyone is taking covid very seriously. Where I live only supermarkets and pharmacies are open. But my boyfriend is doing an internship at the zoo and asked his boss if he could take me there even though it’s closed for visitors. I love the zoo and really like how my bf had this idea for a date in the absolutely empty zoo (it’s only employers and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 07:04 AM |
| 57 | The contempt some of these men have for their wives is EVIL.That’s a lot of complicated words for “I am a shitty husband” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:39 PM |
| 100 | The contempt some of these men have for their wives is EVIL.His wife’s mom doesn’t like him, really?????? That’s so strange! Why wouldn’t she, he sounds like the dream son-in-law 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:20 PM |
| 2 | Valentine’s with my HVMBesides, it was handwritten. I wanted to buy him one of the pretty ones but the store was closed. So I decided to write down 14 things I love about him on a piece of paper I usually make notes on 😂 he loved it so much, the whole effort I made and thanked me for every word written. To be honest, it was tricky to only list 14 things I love, but I tied it to the date 14th 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:22 AM |
| 7 | Valentine’s with my HVMThank you! :) I hope you were having a lovely day of love too 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:52 PM |
| 44 | I’ve learned that when men accuse their partners of certain things, it’s because they are in fact doing those things. They assume everyone else must also be a total shitbag like them and become paranoid. I messaged this poster with a little advice. 😚I realized that so long ago. Both my exes accused me of cheating because they were cheating. I was never doubting them because I was always faithful. They didn’t deserve my love and loyalty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:04 PM |
| 9 | Probably posted before, but it's trueNothing like being multipally cheated on and dumped by a guy with a receding hairline at 20 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 03:58 PM |
| 19 | Long time lurker~First Post here! Happy Valentine’s Day! Thank you,I have found the perfect HVM(puppy) to spend it with :)💕Well isn’t this the goodest cutest boy in the world 😍😍😍 he’s gorgeous, love! Give him some cuddles on my behalf 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 10:53 AM |
| 18 | Y'all, it just hurts so so bad. I found out my bf was cheating on me by finding his reddit account where he also says awful things about me.I am a firm believer that everything you go through is preparing you for everything you dreamed of. My ex might have been a total shit who repeatedly cheated, but he was the one to introduce me to my HV boyfriend. Destiny knows its work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 03:53 PM |
| 35 | Y'all, it just hurts so so bad. I found out my bf was cheating on me by finding his reddit account where he also says awful things about me.I am so sorry for your pain but remember, you already started the healing process - it’ll only get better from now on. Women are resilient, you can get through it. Also, I understand your pain of finding out via Reddit. My ex confessed to cheating on me prior to dumping me. He knew I was on Reddit and that I knew his username so he was incredibly dumb to post about it. But I confronted him and was even dumber for believing his made up story how he posted it on behalf of his friend to ask for opi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption.That I can not tell you for sure, but I do know that parental leave can be shared between both parents. When it comes to housework, I’ve only observed closely my boyfriend’s family, but the men in it contribute to the housework a very good amount. There is no such thing as a “woman’s job” or a “man’s job”. The man will gladly do dishes, cook, while the woman is more than prepared to carry her own bags and open doors herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 02:19 PM |
| 4 | Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption.You are correct, Denmark has been voted very high on the happiest people index for some time now. However, this equality is not to everyone’s taste. Women pay bills and go 50/50 on dates and it’s not considered pickme behavior, it’s considered normal. My boyfriend always pays but from what I’ve experienced, he’s insanely rare. Usually couples go 50/50. Also, it’s very common to have children, buy property and not to marry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 08:14 AM |
| 125 | Lots of LVM in the comments, ofc.Why is it “If you love him, you’re not gonna be upset over the ring”, why is it not “If he loves you and won’t turn broke over it, he’ll get you the ring that you’ve dreamed of” ????????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 06:41 PM |
| 8 | Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption.Never said a bad word about her, told me the reason they broke up was their incompatibility when it came to personal traits. Acknowledged his own issues while also not taking the full blame for it. And it IS okay. We all have negative sides and it’s up to us whether to keep pursuing a relationship where our and their negatives clash too much. Yes, he is brought up to not touch a woman he’s dating or in a relationship with without her permission. Asked me for permission to hold my hand, hug me or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 04:06 PM |
| 72 | Grab your popcorn 🍿 why I dislike most men of my nationalityNo no no, they’ll cheat with the exotic nationality while their good little wife waits for them at home with dinner the men can complain about and use the occasion to beat their wifes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:38 PM |
| 110 | Got this gem from a guy I used to see in college(my 19-year-old pickme era)It’s... it’s not even a compliment. He literally insulted you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:18 PM |
| 31 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsAh, the “joys” of horrible periods. I’m in the same boat but way too scared of possible side effects to go on BC. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:57 PM |
| 116 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsI won’t put chemicals in my body when there’s a perfectly harmless for both parties contraceptive 🤷🏻♀️ both my exes wanted condomless sex and for me to go on BC, one of them even stated my refusal as a reason to break up with me (even tho he knows a friend of mine got a breast tumor as a side effect and another one had years long acne that left her face scarred; he even talked badly about “her skin being too fucked up” but extremely oblivious to the reason until I told him) My current HVM not o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:48 PM |
| 34 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsYep. It’ll be a good while before I consider having children even with my eventual HV husband | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 02:01 PM |
| 354 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsSome men.... that’s why when I told my ex “I don’t wanna have kids”, the “with you” was silent 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 01:05 PM |
| 3 | Ah yes, because unsolicited touching gets us ready to be raped 🤮True true. I was just out if a draining toxic relationship and was also horny lol bad bad times. You’re spot on though, I had self-esteem issues and he was playing on that for months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:46 AM |
| 2 | Not even if Dean provided me with everything I've ever dreamed of in life.I am one of those Castiel girls 👼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:30 AM |
| 0 | Ah yes, because unsolicited touching gets us ready to be raped 🤮OKAY BUT PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME with this, I am screaming internally. Why is this what happened with my ex???? WHY the fuck? Swear I had no attraction or willingness to be intimate with him, we hung out for a coffee and he was having his arm around my shoulders, touching my upper arm and upper back and nothing else, but for some reason I went home wanting to sleep with him. I couldn’t wrap my head around over how it had happened!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:31 AM |
| 25 | First, it was anal; Second, this scrote kept a hidden condom from 8 years ago and didn't know condoms expire. But it's so funny to have a grown ass man not knowing basics.How much are you willing to bet she still did it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 05:14 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else deal with men in their life who don’t wash their hands? Or basically unhygienic?All those stories are from 2019 and then, boom, 2020 came and of fucking course I heard he has been tested for corona. With his lack of personal hygiene I wouldn’t be surprised if he was positive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 04:51 PM |
| 13 | Remember not to date or stay with a pornsick loser. Remember they can convince you that you like it too and that watching it together is your idea. Remember that they can ruin your life. Remember that sex with a pornsick loser is subpar at best, damaging or deadly at worst.Mine was on Instagram and all it could do was take it down. I’ve read the law of my country regarding this: unfortunately I cannot prove it was me since they need a face or any distinctive marks/tattoos, etc. Even if the legal institutions in my country weren’t so corrupted and in favor of men working there (my ex’s dad has been a policeman for many years), I wouldn’t have a case since nothing tells it’s my ass except me recognizing it 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:37 PM |
| 37 | Remember not to date or stay with a pornsick loser. Remember they can convince you that you like it too and that watching it together is your idea. Remember that they can ruin your life. Remember that sex with a pornsick loser is subpar at best, damaging or deadly at worst.Oh, love, I wish I was a citizen of a country where the police would do anything. Sadly, women in my country are always deemed “sluts” if their photos appear online. Big part of the reason why I never wanna be with a man of my nation again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:32 PM |
| 277 | More dating coaches rubbishMen shouldn’t agree to coffee dates? How about MEN SHOULDN’T PROPOSE COFFEE DATES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 01:03 PM |
| 135 | Remember not to date or stay with a pornsick loser. Remember they can convince you that you like it too and that watching it together is your idea. Remember that they can ruin your life. Remember that sex with a pornsick loser is subpar at best, damaging or deadly at worst.I was ridiculously stupid to allow photos and videos being taken in my kinkmeisha days... Guess it’s just a “coincidence” that both my LV exes wanted nudes from me, while my current so far HV boyfriend has openly commented that he’s not into either sending or receiving nudes because it’s trespassing personal privacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Never feel bad spending a man's money: If he gives you shit, dump him!It will if he keeps being how he is. Loved when I met his grandma and she warned him to “always treat this girl right and be careful!” as he assured her he would. Such a sweet lady, English is not her native but she tried so hard to express this piece of advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?Been preaching that since I’ve been with my boyfriend and a former friend kept being like “I want a guy like that” then going back to the same LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:11 AM |
| 237 | Remember not to date or stay with a pornsick loser. Remember they can convince you that you like it too and that watching it together is your idea. Remember that they can ruin your life. Remember that sex with a pornsick loser is subpar at best, damaging or deadly at worst.I had to message one of those “dirty-minded-sexy” Instagram accounts because I saw a photo in my explore feed and recognized it as my ass, apparently sent by my ex without my permission or even knowledge. Luckily they took it down immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:09 AM |
| 54 | Anyone else deal with men in their life who don’t wash their hands? Or basically unhygienic?My ex didn’t always have hand soap in his bathroom and usually proceeded to come home and stick his hands in my pants. Upon asking him to wash them, he was like “Oh come on, I didn’t touch anything dirty” Like excuse me??? The train handles??? Your keys??? Cash or your credit card??? Your shoes that you just took off???? When he took me to meet his family, no one washed their hands before sitting down for brunch. All of them (3 generations, with a baby among them!) had just pet the dog and had t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:09 AM |
| 11 | Pickme BRANDS herself with degrading tattoo ahead of marriage to LVM.I just remembered today a girl from my middle school who got her bf’s name tattooed under her boob. They broke up and since then she’s only been looking for boyfriends with the same name, guess because of the tattoo 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 08:40 PM |
| 47 | PSA: You don’t owe anyone anal“Your ex was so done with your shit that she kicked you in the balls but you won’t let ME do it????” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:09 AM |
| 80 | PSA: You don’t owe anyone analIt doesn’t even matter if they’re small, even big thick guys ask for it because they’re so into their own death grip that a normal vagina isn’t tight enough for them. I know of guys with average size and thickness who still feel a vagina tight enough to cum, and I also know of well endowed guys who want to feel something even tighter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:06 AM |
| 120 | PSA: You don’t owe anyone analI remember even years ago in my first relationship when I had no idea of FDS and was an idiot putting up with so much crap, I still was insanely angry about how normalized and expected anal is. My ex pressured me for years, even shoved a finger there leading to me literally screaming in pain. He asked for anal before we even had vaginal sex as I was sucking his dick - he made me feel like I am doing a bad job and I was just a scared virgin needing reassurance instead of being made to think “ok I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 07:10 AM |
| 50 | Ladies, how are you treating yourself this Valentine's day?Not really planning to treat myself, since I could do that any day. For Valentine’s my boyfriend is going to surprise me just like he did last year. Edit: He asked me if I felt like joining him at the florist today and asked if there was anything specific I liked, while following my look and which plants and flowers it went to. Ladies, men know how to treat you, and if they don’t, they’re not the men for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 07:03 AM |
| 18 | Can’t help but be proud of my development 🥳Thank you, I was unfamiliar with this sub. Just joined and am eager to read posts in it with my coffee tomorrow morning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Never feel bad spending a man's money: If he gives you shit, dump him!Thank you, both my LV exes were a great learning curve, if nothing else. I am with a HVM so far, we’re having our first anniversary soon, moving in together and planning to get married after we graduate. He has already come up with a name for our future cat. 🐈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Never feel bad spending a man's money: If he gives you shit, dump him!He was. Unfortunately I was young and dumb and living with him at the time (started looking for a place to move out immediately after the break up but it took a long time) and he was like “I am not gonna throw you out on the street, I like living with you even without the relationship, I like cooking for you and spoiling you with gifts.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Never feel bad spending a man's money: If he gives you shit, dump him!That was after I broke up with him tho. He knew I didn’t wanna get back together and was dating another guy. But my ex just kept insisting to shower me with gifts and stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:27 PM |
| 9 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021They could say they love you but porn and the 50 shades of Grey trend made their brains so obsessed with BDSM that they need to go that extra mile to cum. Regular sex just doesn’t cut it for those damaged “men” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:56 PM |
| 5 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilSo nice words. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:30 PM |
| 7 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilI wasn’t worried. Just wanted to read the study in case I am being totally oblivious and missing some points. Can’t risk getting sloppy with my evaluation and sleeping on possible red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 03:27 PM |
| 3 | I decided I’m done settling for half assed men.I totally get the food excitement though 😂 but I do love pizza and all food Italian generally. I am also glad your ex wasn’t harmed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:42 PM |
| 6 | I decided I’m done settling for half assed men.Concussion sounds like a bad thing to get. Mine was just covered in bruises on his chest and ribs, had shoulder trauma from the seatbelt and whiplash but his speech and mind were unchanged. Breathing and talking were difficult and painful because of the rib trauma and combined with shoulder and neck injury, pretty much any movement of his upper body was painful. My grandmother is a doctor and she said that what the doctors ordered of him resting and not moving was the best way to heal. He was on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:38 PM |
| 98 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021All this degradation kink bullshit is making me wanna go back in 2017 when my ex called me “you dirty little slut 😘” and answer with something like “yes, you balding overweight jobless crybaby with insane jealousy issues?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Why is it the norm to give kids the fathers last name even when he's a LVM/NVM? I think it's time to start normalizing giving kids the last name of the person who's really making the sacrifices. What do you think?Pffftt my father is an amazing husband, partner, person and father so I’m proud to carry his name. It’s gonna take helluwa lot from my potential husband for me to take his name and give it to our kids as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 02:00 PM |
| 3 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilMay I also ask where you found this study? I love posting lovey dovey stuff but am the farthest from miserable so I’d be really interested in reading this point of view? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 01:57 PM |
| 25 | The friend we all need 😭👑R.I.P. my ears but I support every word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:48 AM |
| 15 | I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfilLove, he probably treats her “well” at first so she would get comfortable and let her guard down, thus allowing him to get worse and worse. Don’t underestimate the ability of shitty men to play nice in order to be allowed to get gradually worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:47 AM |
| 70 | Where's the lie?????I wouldn’t want a ring connected to negative experience and bad marriage. My boyfriend’s maternal grandmother has been married for 65 years and told me the story of her marriage and life with his grandfather. Sadly he doesn’t remember it now, but god, it’s a beautiful story, but such marriages are rare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:45 AM |
| 59 | I decided I’m done settling for half assed men.My boyfriend was in a car crash in December and upon returning from the hospital after doctors told him to rest, lie down and avoid any movement, he said “I am going to join you to the store. I like spending that time with you.” (Mind you, we were about to spend our whole Christmas break together) There are men and men. Choose wisely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:43 AM |
| 23 | Thank you!Always aspire to be the woman who wrote that post. Anytime you feel like making compromises, remember this post and tell yourself you’ll never again allow to be treated this way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:40 AM |
| 12 | Do LVM’s treat the next girl well?True that. I expect the worst out of every man. It’s up to them to prove themselves as non-low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 09:38 AM |
| 17 | Do LVM’s treat the next girl well?Oh, introducing you to his family doesn’t mean anything, love. Both my exes introduced me to their families and I still got abuse, lying and cheating. To them it doesn’t change anything and they won’t magically stop doing you wrong after you meet their family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:48 AM |
| 6 | mUh SpErM qUaLiTyCan I ask you something because I see that your flair makes you more experienced and familiar than me. The whole process of setting up your age range higher just to browse through old scrotes’ profiles, I don’t see how it brings any positive value to your life. Isn’t it just wasting time of your day to read through creepy men’s ridiculousness? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 07:45 PM |
| 26 | This Resonated With Me DeeplyI kept changing them until I found the one that’s HVM so far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:42 PM |
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