My grandma is the absolute sweetest kindest lady and a very skilled chiropractor. Now, my ex had constant back issues, as did I. It had turned to a ritual for us 2 to visit granny and she literally revived our backs, necks and joints.

• one time he visited her alone and what do you know, apparently he pulled up the car and 2 of his friends came out! He asked her to also treat them!!! Nothing about calling in advance or planning or asking if she even has the time slots available!!!!!! Just springing them on her. Manual therapy is exhausting, it requires a lot of strength, effort and time. Granny is a small but incredibly strong lady and has no issue treating gigantic guys who doubted she’d be able to help - but still, 3 patients one after another is outrageous! Zero consideration on my ex’s side.

• he also asked her if she could treat his parents which she did

• after I broke up with him, we kept being friends and one time he asked me “Hey, can I still visit your grandma even though we’re not together? She always does wonders for my pain.”, I felt weirded out and said that it’s her decision to accept or deny him service, but to me it was tacky if he still wanted to ask her.

• some time later, we ended our “friendship”, he blocked me everywhere, but was still Facebook friends with all my family members. One day I was talking to granny and the topic of him came up. She told me that a while ago he texted her something like “Hello, can I still visit your cabinet to get manual therapy? I will pay.” - she then said she didn’t feel like answering him 😂

Ladies, he freaking offered to pay for the first time when we were no longer a couple!!! All this time during his visits and his parents’ and friends’ you read about, NO ONE ever paid her.

Granny doesn’t ever say “You owe me this and that”, she does her magic and the patients are more than overjoyed to be pain-free so they give as much as they decide. Also, everyone brings her small gifts like boxes of chocolates, wine, etc.

Then it hit me. This absolute jerk felt entitled to her skills because he was my boyfriend. BUT he knew what he did was unacceptable, this is why he couldn’t be this obnoxious to expect free labour when he was no longer with me- this and only this is why he offered to pay after I dumped him. He was ready to pay not because of the excellent treatment he was getting or for the time, effort and skillset, but only due to the fact that he had lost the “boyfriend” stamp that he used to get free medical help.