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No advice really, just solidarity!! I just hit 10 months volcel and WOW I really miss sex!! And it's not just about the orgasm, it's about connecting and being with someone else that I miss. This is the longest I've been without since I was 17 too, and it's taking some getting used to for sure lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:31 PM
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Most women who think they “like it rough” simply desire an assertive, passionate man. Yes this! I was actually just thinking about this recently. I used to think I liked it rough, but I really just wanted to feel like I was wanted, and not just being used as a human flesh light. I wanted that passion from my ex-husband, but he only had p0rn eyes for me 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 01:57 PM
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HAHAHAHA I just can't believe this 😂 unbelievably pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 07:44 PM
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But also don't make more money than your husband because you'll hurt his fee-fees!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:27 PM
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Everything really is a woman's fault isn't it? Yes, I purposefully picked men that would treat me like garbage 🤷‍♀️ they didn't manipulate me or hide behind a facade until I was so entwined with them that I couldn't see the abuse happening for some time. Or think I could even leave as a SAHM of a toddler. Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 03:47 PM
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That is just so vile, so evil and terrible 😞 I'm so sorry you had to endure that treatment, but nice to see he is an EX now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 03:12 PM
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My ex-husband is seeing someone new and I pray that she sees through his BS and leaves. Though he's in the courting phase so he's extra nice and charming and romantic right now like he with me 😞 We'll see how it goes! PS I always block and delete my exes but this is different because we share custody of our kid so I unfortunately know what's going on in his life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 02:41 PM
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This post made me think back to the last night I spent with my ex. I hadn't been feeling well due to a round of antibiotics, and we were sitting on the couch watching TV. We were just kissing and he started pinching my nipples, which isn't my favorite thing anyway. I told him no pinching and he pinched AGAIN and said "just a little pinch!" Told him no. My body and mind gave me very clear signals through heightened anxiety and the feeling of needing to be alone. The next day I told him I needed s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:59 PM
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When the movie House Bunny came out, I was in my early 20s and had just lost a lot of weight and wanted to show off since I had been overweight and insecure my whole life. Playboy was actually having auditions near me and I signed up to go. But, thankfully, something about it felt wrong to me so I withdrew my application. One of the better decisions I've made for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 10:58 PM
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They WANT to cheat but can't 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:34 PM
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This scary story is going to give me nightmares tonight 😥😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 05:14 PM
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Love to hear things like this!!! Also, the part about him marinating both options just sent me 😭 I love that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 08:38 PM
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"is this normal????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:21 PM
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Oh 1000%!! I had disordered eating prior to my raw vegan days, but then I developed a different eating disorder. I was so obsessed with eating (what I thought was) healthy. It's called orthorexia. I remember crying when I was about to eat a gasp cooked black bean burger once because I thought the bread would feel like glass moving through my body as I digested it. I also remember having cravings for eggs, and I did miss them but I thought they were super unhealthy. Another raw vegan that I looke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 01:37 PM
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OMG Sarma?!?! I was in the raw vegan cult in my younger and more naive years. I had her book, I bought snacks from her shop Lucky Duck! Wow, I aspired to be like her so badly, I had no idea about this! Definitely have to check this out! I thankfully got out of it a long time ago, but it's wild how many weird food ideas still hang with me because of the raw vegan mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:53 AM
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I recently found a great picture of me and my dog lying on the floor when I was like 7yo...I noticed on the side table next to my dad's chair is a Playboy magazine just out in the open!! 😡😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:14 PM
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Another vetting technique? Check his Google reviews?? 😵‍💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:32 PM
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How do we feel about a man saying "I'm so lucky to have you/have found you!"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 06:27 PM
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And the point isn't even the divorce? It's that he's trashing her in front of the kids which is just terrible. As much as I can't stand my ex-husband, I never ever speak ill of him in front of our son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 07:24 PM
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Imagine being so pathetic that your life is ruled by your genitals lmao the superior sex 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 05:34 PM
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Ok so thought this going to be about him getting drunk and accidentally peeing on the dress somehow...but reading that he deliberately did it AND HAD BEEN WANTING TO?! Even more disturbing than I thought 😥 wtf is wrong with these scrotes?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 06:42 AM
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My most recent boyfriend sucked up so much of my time and smothered me so much that I stopped journaling. If I had actually had the time and energy to get my thoughts and feelings out, I no doubt would have ended the relationship a lot sooner. It's so important to listen to your heart and your intuition. Especially getting it out in your notes or a journal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:08 PM
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Really wish that first comment was blacked out completely. Didn't add to the point and I really didn't need to start my day reading something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:16 PM
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Finally unsubbed yesterday after seeing a post showing a poor duck probably drowning while being mounted by 2 other ducks being laughed at left and right by scrotes. "Might as well have a chuckle!" "Mother nature is kinky like that" "who cares? It's just a duck...?" Ugh. Disgusting. The post had over 20k upvotes!! 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:50 PM
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Can I....can I be like her some day???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:53 AM
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I unfortunately wasted time dating a former addict. He had been clean for ten years and I thought it was all behind him. All it took was a drunken, emotionally charged night for him to freak out and ask me if I would support him if he relapsed!!! That was a big HELL NO from me, but I said yes in the moment to pacify him 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:44 PM
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Ooooo good tip! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:52 AM
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Of course my ex's full name is comprised of 3 super common names 🙄😂 came back with thousands of results! Ah well, good for future reference. Just gotta make sure my future dates have more unique names 🤔 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:36 PM
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I love Christmas music, and I noticed this past Christmas that there's a good amount of songs about not wanting presents or anything under the tree, or diamonds and jewelry...I just want youuuu 🙄 Miss me with that and get me the damn presents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 02:52 PM
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Costs literally nothing to wrote a love letter if you don't have any income 🤷‍♀️ There are all kinds of ways to make your partner feel special...if he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 05:42 PM
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OLD has been depressing tbh. I uninstalled months ago because wading through the crap was awful. And then when I would match with someone, they just wouldn't respond??? The one guy that responded to me turned the conversation sexual when I asked his favorite comfort food (we had been talking about food). Told me his comfort food was eating a woman out (in more vulgar terms). I actually made a post here about that but it was removed for being low effort lol! Just like the scrote 😂 It's just not w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:50 PM
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I bought myself some yummy treats and my favorite color roses 😍 I have a young son, so he is my little darling Valentine as well. I treated him to an action-packed weekend filled with super fun experiences, and surprised him this morning with treats, a balloon, and a beanie baby 🥰 I love spoiling the people I love!! Happy Valentine's Day, Queens!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:55 PM
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How much you wanna bet he was freaked out by the risk of getting into trouble, and not because he actually had concern for her well-being
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:46 PM
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I grew up in a football house and hated it so much. My dad and brother would get so He-motional about it, especially when their beloved team was playing. I'll never forget how UPSET and straight up pissed my brother got when the 9ers lost the super bowl one year. It's so ridiculous! It was like somebody close to him died!!!! Like, yeah, I'll get into the mood if I'm at a super bowl party but the way they get all upset is just awkward, scary, and ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 04:00 AM
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Ugh. They really are 😡 Currently, I'm dealing with my own inconsiderate man. A few weeks ago, I bought tickets to take my young son to the zoo, and I invited his father, my ex, thinking it would be nice for my son to do something fun and have both his parents there. Wellp. He agreed to go and bought his ticket, but a week prior, he decided that flying in his new girlfriend (???) for valentine's weekend was more important and completely bailed on the plans. I had to explain to my disappointed chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:47 PM
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Yes, same 😥 I'll be flying solo overseas this summer and a story like this isn't helping my nerves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:51 PM
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I do not have anyone following me that I don't know in real life - I feel safer that way. I get follow requests frequently from randos and I just delete them 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:36 PM
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Gah, my first boyfriend was super annoying with this. If he drove me somewhere, and I opened the door when I was getting out, he'd make me shut the door so he could open it for me 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:16 PM
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He-motional 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:24 PM
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Yes, I did have that worry in the back of my mind that it would affect our work dynamic. Very glad with the current outcome 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 05:51 PM
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I'm actually coming back to reality after letting what I thought was a harmless interest in my coworker get carried away. He approached me (through work chat bc we're remote) to help me with learning a language that he's fluent in. We'd message each other regularly, with him initiating the majority of the time, and then we finally met in person for a work function and he was putting out more signs of interest and I was absolutely falling for it (why wouldn't I??). I thought for a while maybe he'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:18 PM
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👏THE MAN BROUGHT HER AN ELECTRIC TOOTHBRUSH AND THEN LATER SAID IT WAS HER CHRISTMAS PRESENT 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:11 PM
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Yes! I'm so happy she was receptive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:14 AM
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Excellent points!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:13 AM
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Thank you!! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:12 AM
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It was like playing whack-a-scrote with having to block all of the new numbers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:11 AM
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And then to post about it on reddit for laughs and karma. 😑 Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:01 PM
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He probably had Rick and Morty underwear on 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:49 AM
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Oh thank you!! 🥰 yours is making me hungry lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:17 AM
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Holy shit! I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:03 PM
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How awful!! I'm so sorry you had to go through that! But glad he's an EX now!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 04:56 PM
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Who else is she giving out fruit snacks to 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:09 AM
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After I dumped my exlvm, I went off to my family's house in the mountains to unwind and get away. I have a camera set up at my front door. My ex drove 30+ minutes to my apartment to LEAVE A NOTE ON MY DOOR! Which would instantly alert anyone around that I wasn't at home if left up more than a day. I was about to call a friend to come by and grab it, when by some act of God, a hobo came by and stole it off my door. He also messaged me through ETSY to inform me of the note and I told him to never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:19 PM
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Omg how awful!!! So glad you're ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:12 PM
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5 days after we broke up, I checked his reddit account to see if he was whining about the breakup (he whined to reddit before about a fight we had lol) and he was talking about his new, AMAZING girlfriend 🙄 I assumed he was making it up to rile me up in case I checked his account, but during our relationship he was always worked up about the possibility of me cheating on him (allllll of his exes cheated of course) so I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out he actually was cheating 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:13 PM
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He spent a lot of it on doordash and weed 😬😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:09 PM
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I saw this yesterday too and cackled 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:08 PM
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To me, a gift like that is more insulting than nothing at all 😡 I take gifts very seriously, and if I received something like that from someone I had been seeing for 6 MONTHS I'd be insulted and hurt AND PISSED OFF The last guy I saw got me a birthday present that was personal and we had only been dating for barely 2 months!!! Your situation is just unacceptable. NEXT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:24 AM
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I just about got whiplash when a guy I was seeing told me he only had $5k in his savings despite making well over 100k!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:10 PM
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And she won't give him a blow job in the car either! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:40 PM
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These men are so pathetic!! Like instead of making a connection about Star Trek and possibly creating a scenario where he introduces me to DS9 or we talk about it or whatever he's just too far up his own ass about it! Same in your case, instead of like "oh wow, you really know your stuff!" and opening a further conversation, he just shuts down because he feels bad about himself hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 05:15 PM
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My ex this past Christmas - got himself the new Xbox. His gifts for everyone else in the family? Tins of chocolates. 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:34 PM
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I matched with a guy on Bumble and his profile said to tell him your favorite sci-fi so I was like "hey, I love Star Trek The Next Generation :)" and he never responded and I was like, ok whatever 🤷‍♀️ Then I saw him on Hinge a day or so later and in his profile he was like "let's get this straight...Star Trek Deep Space 9 > The Next Generation Like, BRO!!! Calm down 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:13 PM
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Takes you to McDonald's because he's got a reward for a free McCafe but makes you pay for yours 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 08:13 PM
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She and I definitely have a fantasy of us living together with our children living our best lives. However, we live 3,000 miles apart currently and my area is very HCOL and she's afraid she couldn't afford it out here. I try to help her with motivation for getting a job, I offered to help with her resume too. Her family is also very abusive, so that's unfortunately not an option for her. It's just a bummer situation all around. I parrot FDS ideas and share stuff on IG to plant seeds in her mind.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:10 PM
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My best friend is in a financially abusive relationship like this 😩 well, it's all around abusive and I want her to leave him so badly. He gives her an allowance, watches her account like a hawk and doesn't give her access to the main bank account with his salary in it. I keep telling her to leave him, to kick him out, and she won't 😞 she knows she should but doesn't believe she can. I'm sorry, I just needed to get this out. My heart breaks for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:07 AM
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No woman in her right mind would love you! I just realized this is even funnier because he ends up with a woman named DEMENTIA 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:37 PM
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"Gimme a kiss!" "Give me a twenty" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:35 PM
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This is true 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:34 PM
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Can you imagine living such a sad and pathetic life like that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:34 PM
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Disclaimer - Please excuse the non-PCness of her comment and sentiment My ex and his mom always butted heads because he was so cocky and stubborn. He told me she would say to him that he would grow up and have a wife walking ten paces behind him like "an Indian squaw". Past Me: that's so weird! Why would she say that?!🥴🤡 Me, in the future, still at the car, wrangling our baby, diaper bag, stroller, purse etc while he's already speed walking off to our destination: ohhhhh I get it now :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:03 AM
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Same experience here 🥰 I carried so much internalized misogyny and I'm so glad I was able to educate myself and grow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 03:11 AM
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My most recent ex was really insecure and yes it drove me crazy!! He became severely codependent on me ( because he had no hobbies and then his friend group began shutting him out) and he was sucking the life out of me. I'm a single mom with 50/50 custody, so my free time is precious to me. He took all of my free time, made me feel guilty if I didn't want to spend time with him even though he would say he understands my needs for alone time 🙄 He ended up initiating a breakup when I put my foot d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:29 PM
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I am such a light sleeper that sometimes my own breathing keeps me from sleeping 😂 When I was with my ex-husband, my quality of life was so terrible because he snores SO LOUDLY!! I'd have to use 33db ear plugs AND a special Bluetooth headset for sleeping so I could put on white noise, and I could still hear him. Though once our son was born I had to go without 😥 Some nights I'd get up and sleep on the couch but he'd hate that because it'd make him feel bad to wake up and see me gone because of h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 03:10 PM
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I'm a mother and I didn't realize that my bone structure would change as well. I have a short torso, so my pregnancy was super difficult because it just pushed my baby outwards which was such a burden to carry. My hips are wider now, and if I'm sitting down and cough or sneeze or laugh too hard, my hips hit my ribs and it hurts!!! Women are expected to bounce back, and men are being praised for their "sexy" dad bods 🙄 it's unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:19 PM
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Holy moly 😮 I have no words...that's just terrible!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 04:48 PM
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My ex-husband was super fine when we met and when we were in our early and mid 20s. Add on a decade of crappy food, smoking, excessive drinking, horrible sleep schedule and lack of skincare and he looks terrible now 😬 he still has his hair, but he makes it look terrible by constantly shaving it into a mohawk 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:19 AM
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They are so pathetic - imagine living life being ruled by your genitals!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 07:36 PM
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and it's been "soaking" for 3 days now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 09:04 PM
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Tried it once on Instagram 😂 got a comment reply of "if porn is so bad for women then why do women do it" 🤡🤡🤡 Oh! Of course!! What a valid argument , you're right!! 🥴🙄 It's hard to see so much support for the porn industry, but I was also ignorant of how bad it really was until just recently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:43 AM
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The day after deciding on a divorce (after thinking about it for only 3 days) my now ex-husband was already talking about how his coworker could be a great step mom to our kid. He ended up sleeping with her for a while (she was married at the time, too) but turns out she was pretty crazy and they broke it off 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:30 PM
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Before we broke up, my ex commented how I never communicated with him. When in reality, any problem I brought up with him was turned around to be MY FAULT and so I learned to just not say anything anymore. Fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:33 PM
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I feel you ❤️ what an awful experience, I would have been disappointed too. I won't be prioritizing my dad during Christmas anymore either after a few years ago he insisted we go to his place for Christmas. During the presents every gift from him came with the comment "hurry up and open it so I can see what I got ya!" Like, you didn't put any effort into these gifts and had your gf do the work for you?? I know there's some mixed feelings about love languages here, and I really feel like gifts is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 04:26 PM
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iT's aRt!!! But nude males never sky-rocket to the front page 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:22 AM
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Amen!! Was reading in another sub about a guy that was watching porn and still couldn't finish after FORTY MINUTES! Not surprised men are getting penile injuries with activity like that 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 06:02 AM
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Peyronie's disease is caused by repeated penile injury, typically during sex or physical activity. "Physical activity"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:12 PM
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Women: My husband expects me to do everything around the house, never cooks, doesn't clean up after himself, barely interacts with our children, is letting himself go, pokes me with his boner, and gets pissy if I'm not in the mood for sex at the drop of a hat Men: LOL WOMAN TALK TOO MUCH 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:08 PM
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Hahahaha! Back in my younger days 😂 my BFF was having a Halloween party and I bought two blow-up dolls to attach to each other and myself to create a Human Centipede costume 😎 it was actually pretty impressive lol! I was with my now-ex at the time but went to the party solo. A friend of a friend started talking to me and flirting wasn't on my radar at the time because I wasn't single, but yeah this guy was totally flirting with me while I dragged around two blow up dolls attached to my ass 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:08 PM
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Lmao she's "not a team player" because she won't pay for dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:07 PM
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I was hit on while wearing a Human Centipede costume 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:52 PM
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My ex-husband phrased it as I was too good to not share 🙄 he was 1000% just wanting to bang his coworker and wanted an excuse to go after her. Sidenote: Opening up my marriage destroyed it in the best way. I went on a date with an internet celeb who is known for being an asshole, and he treated me so nicely and so well that it planted the seeds in my head that I could do better than my scrote-ass pornsick limp dick husband. I ended up breaking the rules of the open relationship and he asked me f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:36 PM
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The resentment really started showing after our son was born and I was staying home with him. Even though we both had agreed that I would be a SAHM and it was what we both wanted for a long time. He ended up telling me it wasn't fair that I wasn't contributing to the rent 🧐 I could go off into a long tirade of all the ways I contributed, but I know you all already know lol! Fking scrote. So much better off without his ungrateful ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:55 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️ yes, it's difficult but I'm doing it 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:32 PM
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My great great grandmother was murdered by her husband while their 3 young children watched. He stabbed her to death!! She had left him and he was mad about her not taking him back. So enraging, so sad, and just so tragic. My maternal line has felt the ripples of that trauma for generations. I'm finally the one to break the cycle of abuse. All because some fking scrote couldn't take no for an answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:37 AM
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Straight up started SOBBING so hard he was almost hyperventilating during a fight we were having because I apparently lied to him that his peepee was the biggest I've had when it wasn't. Just couldn't look at him the same anymore after that 😳 And they say women are emotional and illogical????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:30 AM
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I thought it was TwoX, but after a quick scan on that sub I don't see it 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:01 PM
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At least several top comments were saying how low the bar is lol! Hopefully OP gets a clue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 04:40 PM
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When I was in my early 20s, I took a tiny universal remote to the sports bar type of pizza place my family went to dinner one night and I discreetly turned off the TVs 😂 that was fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:15 PM
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I just really hate the chapter where she recommends serving a date cocktail weenies and some nasty sauce for dinner. I just can't ever imagine a scenario where that's ok. I tried picking it up again recently and that part just upsets every fiber of my being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:09 PM
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I recommend using D-Mannose as well! I'm very prone to UTIs and this helps so much! There's also a product called Uqora that is D-Mannose with some other ingredients - it mixes in water and is pretty good! Though just the plain D-Mannose is cheaper and works great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:15 PM
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I begged my ex to use sunscreen and bought him some moisturizer with spf and he didn't wear it. His face has like a permanent red/pinkish tint to it now. His skin just looks awful! He's only 35.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 05:46 PM
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I saw a post last week or so of a grown man punching a 12yo girl in the face, knocking her to the ground. So many comments saying that he was provoked, the girl and her friends were being shitty etc. It was absolutely disgusting!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:45 PM
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AND HE DIDN'T KICK HIM OUT?!?! "One of the strangest things LOL" WOWWWW! This makes my stomach turn. Christ!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:07 PM
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So many appalling things in such a short story 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:06 PM
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My ex telling me that therapy doesn't help him makes so much sense now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:48 AM
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...he typed furiously, Cheeto dust flying off his fingers and settling into the cracks of his keyboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:30 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. I gave 24 hours before unmatching. If I said hi first, like on Bumble, I'd usually unmatch before the 24 hours were up if he didn't respond yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:23 PM
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Uh...correct me if I'm wrong but you can't just "go back" to breastfeeding once you've stopped. And for him to suggest she do so when she stopped for health reasons is just selfish. He could easily just keep one or two subscriptions and be fine. Get a job, you lazy garbage pile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:36 AM
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i haven't used Facebook in a month! After showing him his profile -thats my old profile that I have no access to! His old account that he has no access to that just randomly added you while you happened to be at the shop he works at?? lmaoooo fucking idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:08 AM
41

"Women cheating is worse" They only say this because of their fragile egos lmao My exbf threw a HUGE hissy fit when he found out his precious peepee wasn't the biggest I'd ever had 😂 told me that I needed to build his self esteem back up. How about no, Scott? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:37 PM
4

I married and am in the process of divorce from a Taurus man - ACCURATE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 05:42 AM
6

I was able to guess my therapist's sign 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 05:41 AM
64

Some highlights from my experience: I'll brag about you to my friends if: "You have teeth" An overshare: "I suffer from depression, anxiety and insomnia" You should leave a comment if: "You have a pulse" We're the same type of weird if: "You think cooked vegetables are gross" I geek out on: "Wood" These are all from Hinge. It's awful wading through this muck. But I guess I should be glad these scrotes just tell on themselves from the get go??? And the weird thing is even if I do match with someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:47 PM
42

I love this so much!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:21 PM
72

They're so unoriginal lmao I felt like I was reading texts from my ex 😂 barf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:29 AM
104

The ending made me ovulate 😂❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 11:15 PM
35

Thanks, I hate it 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:45 PM
6

Say it with me, "I'm not Josie Gross-ie anymore!!" Hahaha! Been there with the pick me past...I was absolutely pathetic! But doing much better now thanks to this sub 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:26 PM
31

I don't think circumcision isn't a big deal, I find it cruel, but I also wouldn't compare it to FGM. Edited to add: I will clown on whiny men all day for whining about vasectomies, but circumcision is a different topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:03 PM
112

Some whiny scrote commented on an Instagram post likening a vasectomy to MUTILATION!!! 😂 I asked if he was serious, he said yes, I laughed at him. Unbelievable 😂😂😂 Whiny crybaby cowards!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:58 AM
88

everything felt like a boob Ugh 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:24 PM
46

It's too spicy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:20 PM
43

My exbf wanted a sleeve and just let the guy tattoo whatever on him as long as it was in a traditional style. This rubbed me the wrong way because it's just so impulsive and blasé about something that's super permanent. He ended up getting some really shitty tattoos that I hated and he wasn't thrilled about them either, and now he has stupid tattoos forever lol Glad I don't have to look at them anymore :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 04:39 AM
21

You also can't tell how current their pictures even are!! I've actually run into my ex-husband's profile as well as my ex-boyfriend's... ALL of my ex-husband's pictures were at least 2 years old! My exbf also had old pictures, some within the past year we were together lol! And two really old ones. He at least had one current one though, but you still couldn't really see his face in it. Look for clues if you can, my exbf has his forearm tattooed so these old pictures showed the development of hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:47 PM
24

Absolutely brilliant. I had such a hard time watching it, and was this close to not finishing it because the part with the baby made me so upset, especially because I was just a few months postpartum. My ex-husband made me finish it, and I'm glad I stuck it out because it was just brilliant! It's not on my "movies I'll rewatch" list but I found it absolutely amazing because of how it made me feel while watching it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:02 PM
23

Thank you! ♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:22 AM
87

Mine got thrown out of the strip club for trying to finger the strippers :( I had actually blocked out this memory until a few days ago I was such a clown to stay with him. I'm just glad I know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 03:40 AM
41

Diets of Mt Dew, frozen finger foods, fast food, and alcohol will do that to ya 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:09 PM
42

I got a guy right off the bat saying he doesn't check the app often and asked if I had WhatsApp. I said no, he said I could download it. I unmatched 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:31 PM
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The weird thing is, I had 6 matches and he was the only one to even respond to me! I don't understand why they wouldn't even acknowledge me?? 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 03:29 AM
5

Yes to all of the above!!!! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:30 AM
21

And I was so especially turned off by him saying he's SALIVATING??? 🤢 So glad he didn't waste more of my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:09 AM
6

Chili fries is so good too 🤩 I feel like the cold of the milkshake really helps! I've also had success eating frozen blueberries 😋 it only helps a little bit, but I'll take it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:07 AM
17

Yesssss!!! One thing I miss about my exbf is that he was always getting sushi for us 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:30 PM
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HAHA! That sounds delicious!!! Mac n cheese is always a great idea! My comfort food is french fries dipped in a milkshake 🤩 it's my favorite thing when I get a really bad migraine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:13 PM
19

He did end up saying he likes this fried chicken from a place that's attached to the gas stations around here 😂 just disappointing all around lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 11:03 PM
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Good strategy! I agree! I was definitely taken aback by his answer because our conversation hadn't been sexual at all!l. I was genuinely looking to talk about delicious food 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:12 PM
30

Apparently so 😂 took me by surprise lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:57 PM
178

Agree 1000% I'm sure they think women like to hear that and that's why they say it. edited to add: men who say that are worse than the Tootsie Pop owl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:56 PM
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Been flexing my boundaries and standards muscles by using OLD. This was disappointing - we were having a nice conversation and he mentioned the good food around where he lives. I got a knot in my stomach when I saw his reply. Ah well. Better now than later ✌️ Unmatched!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:30 PM
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Ughh I'm having a hard time even being able to swipe right on anyone! And the 3 I've even matched with are completely unresponsive?! I don't get it! I swear, all the men within a 100 mile radius are bridge trolls with unflattering pictures, weird info in their bios (one guy likened himself to "BK mac and cheese bites that at first it's great but gets old fast"???) or men telling on themselves about how shitty they are, or I can't even tell what they look like because he's wearing sunglasses or a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:39 PM
14

I thought the same thing!!! Completely unrealistic and set in some perfect fantasy world lol! I'm glad it was written the way it was, it would be so different if it was set in the real world 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:17 AM
15

Ugh I just watched The Ugly Truth and she picks the misogynistic scrote in the end 🤢😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:12 AM
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It got me thinking how much more happens at actual strip clubs?? My ex-husband's bachelor party was in Vegas, and at the time I knew they were going to a strip club but it didn't bother me (I've since grown). One of his friends (who was in a committed relationship btw) RAW-DOGGED a stripper ON THE FLOOR in front of EVERYONE!! She was giving him a lap dance and just pulled his weiner out and they kept pretending to be grinding against each other while they were doing the deed. He came clean to hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:55 AM
64

"That Gabby person" Fuck off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:18 PM
22

Ughhhh my ex would always text me that he misses me. I'd leave his place and have one before I got home!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:59 AM
55

I was telling my coworker about my ex because we were talking about red flags. I told her I didn't see his red flags in the beginning and she hit me with "No, you SAW them, you just decided they were OK" Oof! Can't argue with that because it's true 😩 if my standards were up to par, I would not have continued seeing him. 🤦‍♀️ I now have my standards written down as well as boundaries 🙌 ~Also, a shoutout to my coworker who spits out FDS-style advice to me! She's so awesome!~
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:47 PM
9

When we were still together, my ex posted about a fight we had trying to gain sympathy and thankfully the majority of commenters told him he was full of shit 😂 He deleted the post after having it up for a couple of hours, but I confronted him about it because from the way he described things, I knew we were on completely different pages and wanted to sort things out. We broke up just weeks later lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:03 AM
35

Being a red pill woman is being an ultimate pick me. It's laughable to compare FDS to that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 01:53 AM
191

Yes this is a completely innocent inquiry🥴 Hahahahahaha! Bye Felicia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:15 PM
59

I blocked and deleted my ex and he created an account and messaged me through my Etsy shop!!! 😩😂 Didn't know you could block people on Etsy, but I figured out how to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:14 PM
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I went out to dinner with my friend and her fiancé. I was wearing this awesome Weird Al shirt that I had pre-ordered. I've seen him in concert twice, I just love so many of his songs. I even had this awesome DVD of a collection of his music videos! I just love the man! The waiter comes over to take our order, looks at my shirt and says, "Weird Al? You don't know Weird Al..." I was like?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:27 AM
32

All I can think of is "Silenzio Bruno!" from Luca 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:24 AM
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I just attended a conference this past weekend where Dr. Gail Dines spoke about the porn industry and how even if the actresses state they won't do a certain act, the producer pushes it on them to see if they "break". So it isn't always her choice anyway! They are also coerced into agreeing to certain acts because if they say they won't do those, it's likely they won't get work. These women are groomed from a young age for this industry. Is it really their choice at all? I do feel sorry for them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:24 PM
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All these insanely specific preferences but you just know he'd cry misandry if he saw a woman's profile specify penis size or even height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:22 PM
2

Awesome! I'll give them a try - thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:44 AM
4

What earplugs are these? I'm a very light sleeper and am always looking for better earplugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:42 PM
6

Thank you for this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:42 PM
15

Not to mention I'd be awake the ENTIRE NIGHT! Coffee hopping sounds terrible to me lol do people really drink multiple coffees throughout the afternoon?! Maybe I'm just sensitive, but I can't drink past noon or I'll never sleep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:42 PM
2

It was a relief for me too!! It was always a punch to my self-esteem, but the problem wasn't me...it was him!! After we separated, but were still living together, I stumbled upon medication he had for ED! It was shocking to see that, but it made so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:49 PM
106

that gave me such a visceral response - more so than the other ones. just can't fathom that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:32 PM
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My friend's fiance proposed to her after they had a big fight 😬 She told him to try it again at a different time lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:09 AM
14

Special sex toys for VR porn when he has an ACTUAL WIFE he could be having sex with?!!! JFC! This is just disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:10 PM
20

I feel this from so deep in my soul. It's so sad to me that someone could put into words what I've been through.... And even sadder that so many women can relate to it. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:36 PM
1

Thank you so much!❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:06 AM
9

I saw a post on TwoX the other day that was a man talking about his infant son.....there are countless parenting subs, GO POST THERE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:07 AM
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My ex wanted me to non-chalantly play with his flaccid weiner while we'd be relaxing and watching TV lol said it made him "feel loved"😂 When he said he loves physical touch I thought he meant back rubs 🤷‍♀️😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:35 AM
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I was dropping my 5yo off at my ex's and he was wearing a t-shirt I got for him from before I was pregnant! The armpits had holes and the picture on the front was all faded and cracked 😂 come on, man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:31 PM
1

You make so many great points!! And thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:28 AM
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Thank you ♥ I'm so sorry you had that experience, that is just awful. “How hard could it be taking care of the baby?” This boils my blood so badly!!! My NVM brother said something similar to his wife when their son was a newborn, "What do you DO all day??" and then bragged about how he managed a team of 9 people and how hard that was 🙄 Pathetic and unbelievable. Can't wait until my SIL can call him an ex like we can with ours. I just hope she gets the courage to leave him soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:26 AM
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I got downvoted a little while back for saying that obesity isn't so easy to help with diet and exercise because for a lot of people it's an addiction issue. Of course it looks easy, but try being an addict who cannot abstain from their addiction? It's hard!! I'm currently really struggling with my weight. I know how to eat less and move more, but it's not that simple for me! I finally joined WW to see if it helps because I'm really just at the end of my rope here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:22 PM
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Thank you ❤️ I think he started to resent me for some reason. His behavior towards me just really went downhill after the baby was born. Maybe a dash of depression in there too. I'm much happier without him for sure, even though we still need to interact often because of our shared custody. But it's much better than my former life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:10 PM
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I don't even know how to screen for this in the future. My ex-husband was so good with kids, he had experience with much younger siblings and he was always so great with my young nephew. He read to our son in utero all the time, he was so excited! When our son was a baby, I stayed home with him and had a really difficult time. My ex would come home from work, ignore me and the baby and head outside to his smoke spot to smoke cigarettes and guzzle wine for hours because he "had a stressful day an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:45 PM
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Can't get your weiner up?? Got lazy sperm?! We got you covered!! Pregnant and don't want to be?? Too bad, should have kept your legs shut you wh*re!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:23 AM
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he will always be thinking about other women and basically mindfuck anything that walks while I'm just his physical release. Damn. I used to believe that as long as he came home to me, I was ok, but now this just turns my stomach. I don't want to be his masturbation vessel, I want to be his partner. Anytime I'm upset about my theoretical boyfriend vigorously beating it off to someone who looks nothing like me it apparently means I'm insecure. How does that even remotely make sense??? I got downv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:45 PM
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They think because you’re not earning, that you’re not contributing. Ding ding ding!! My ex-husband and I always talked about me staying home when he had kids. I'll never forget how he told me things were unfair because I didn't contribute to the rent! I will never be dependent on a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:55 PM
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My ex and I used to check each other's reddit accounts, and the last time I did was about a week after we broke up - he had posted to a sex-related sub about his "amazing" new girlfriend 😂 DAYS after we had broken up. Sure, Jan. Also from this list - he asked to take me to dinner for closure. (no.) Hours after the breakup, he realized the breakup was all his fault because of X reason and he's going to get help. Oh, he joined a group that's meeting THE NEXT DAY!! He's going to be a changed man!! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:52 PM
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He was 28 when he got married, which was years ago. He's in his 40s now, but still obsessed with Nintendo and video games in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:59 AM
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My brother had a Nintendo themed wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 05:14 AM
224

I thought I had an anxiety problem...turns out I had a lvm boyfriend problem!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:51 AM
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I WISH my biggest problem was someone using me for a free dinner 🙄 men complain about being used for a free meal?.....What about being used for your body?! Or the MYRIAD of other things men use us for?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:39 PM
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That's something I've thought about too. Right now I'm struggling with the biological urge to be pregnant and give birth. I had such a hard time with my son when he was a baby and toddler, I do wonder if I could even do it again. Adopting an older child might work for me; for now I'm not setting any option in stone and really thinking about the options and the weight of them too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:37 PM
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I brought it up with my friend who adores Labyrinth, and she sees it as being all part of Sarah's fantasy, so not as creepy as it looks at first glance 🤔 Sarah does have a figurine of Jaret in her room. Even so, it's still creepy lol! I'll have to watch Willow again - haven't seen it in years!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:29 PM
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I've been on the fence about wanting more children (I have one). I keep bouncing between "do I want to bring a poor child into this shitty world?" and "I want to raise someone who can make this shitty world a better place" Though my anxieties around having another one seem to be winning most of the time with how depraved the world is. My wants for another child just seem selfish at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:01 PM
2

I did it the first time, but probably won't if there's a next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 10:20 PM
7

I used to to work for chiropractors and someone bringing in two new patients without notice is unacceptably rude! A chiropractor can't just work on a new person without exams and the like - it's also insanely time consuming to bring in a new patient! We'd block out AN HOUR minimum to have them fill out the necessary paperwork, run a new patient exam and have the doc get an idea of how to treat them!! Absolutely abhorrent he'd take advantage of a sweet old woman who had always done him favors!!! …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:14 PM
8

I was trying reeeally hard to forget that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:24 AM
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Men are really out here shaming women for having a "body count" higher than 1 while they're fucking McChickens and couch cushions and coconuts and GOD KNOWS what else!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:27 PM
7

Men don't think not shaving is brave because they think body hair on women is gross 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:02 PM
19

Automatic swipe left for me if I can't tell what the dude looks like in his first picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:47 PM
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I downloaded to remind myself that the fish in the sea are all ugly and LV 😂 so many men don't even have a picture showing what they look like, most or all of their pictures have them wearing sunglasses 🙄 I automatically assume they're ugly if their first pic is them wearing sunglasses lol!! Or they're bald if they're wearing a hat!! Also saw my ex-husband's profile and about fell out of my chair 😂 his pictures were ones from a couple of years ago lol!!! Also telling on his alcoholic self by say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:43 PM
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I am unrecognizable from the person I was when we met. I had no self-confidence, addiction issues, was overweight, and dressed like a slob. In retrospect, of course I had no dates; I was undateable She definitely settled!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:46 AM
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Yes, sometimes I find that their personality makes them more attractive to me....also having sex with them changes my perception too (I call it getting dick-notized) which is why I'll be following the FDS guidelines of holding off on sex in the future. It's funny that my friend clowns on my taste in guys because I think she has terrible taste 😂 but she is also good at picking up on red flags, which she did with my ex but didn't tell me til after we broke up! I told her in the future to absolutel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:58 PM
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My BFF was just telling me the other night about how ugly and fat my ex was!!! I thought he was cute most of the time! I don't know what it was, but in pictures he looked so different than in person, and just certain angles he didn't look that cute. He did have a big belly and chicken legs though lol!! When we first started dating, he talked about getting into shape, and all the equipment he bought for a home gym....which stayed in their boxes while he just got fatter. One of my new standards is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:19 AM
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Ohhh isn't that the sweetest thing 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:20 PM
38

Yes!! Since my ex moved out, I've been learning how to do things myself! I've mounted several curtain rods, mounted a TV in my bedroom, fixed my garbage disposal (that one felt great!!) and I plan on re-caulking the tub. It's amazing how simple these things are if you just research for a few minutes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:20 AM
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And these are the same men who whine and moan and throw a fit if you even suggest the idea of getting a vasectomy! Men think they're stronger than women, but they can't handle shit! Imagine a man getting an IUD inserted without any anesthesia or numbing? Or even just getting a pap smear?! How would they even handle the smallest of period cramps? These idiots are so fucking pathetic. Overreacting while pushing a baby out of your body!? Fuck you! My SIL's baby just turned a year old a month ago, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:16 AM
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Another point to consider - what is his username/gamertag? What is it a reference to? Is it vulgar or offensive? I play video games myself, so I'm not opposed to a partner who also plays, but if it's too much that's not ok. Treat it like any other entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:16 AM
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My parents raised a son who asked his wife, who was at home with their newborn, "what do you DO ALL DAY?!" Narcissists beget narcissists My poor SIL is still with him, and he just treats her like crap. She's got 2 babies and her mother to think about. She's been out of the workforce for over 10 years. Leaving him is so daunting, but I truly hope she does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 08:39 PM
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I didn't realize it was misogyny. I was in a very bad place mentally back then. I know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 08:12 PM
27

Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:20 PM
12

Omg!! I could really use this - thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:42 PM
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They complain that women are too picky and only want 5% of men, but see nothing wrong with their insane standards Ever heard or seen a gaggle of scrotes use the number system to rate actresses and celebrities?! 😂 so pathetic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:44 AM
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1000%. I felt so disillusioned when my ex-husband and I broke up. I had this narrative that we were true loves, meant to be, had this amazing love story! I thought I had major problems when I was struggling with being faithful to him (I didn't cheat but had a wandering eye) but looking back on it now, he emotionally abused me and used me for sex which made my mind and body cry out for something else, someone who'd treat me better! But because I was sucked into this true love shit, I thought ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:54 PM
83

"How to wipe your ass! 3 simple steps!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:40 PM
181

My ex was a severely porn sick. I don't think I'm fully over it, or have even fully processed it yet. Towards the end, it felt like he was just using me to masturbate, which felt awful. If he didn't get his way, he'd guilt-trip me. Even after he asked me for a divorce, he asked me for sex one night and it took a lot for me to say no. I knew I didn't want to, but I knew he'd throw a fit. And he did! I try to give my past self compassion. I try not to think "why didn't I do/say something?! Why did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:31 PM
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Their HVM are our LVM/NVM 😂 I got sucked into the tradwife thing years ago - I now realize I was very depressed and in a shitty relationship that I was desperately trying to save in any way imaginable. I tried looking into the joy of picking up my husband's dirty laundry (he's just soo0oo busy providing for you! It's the least you can do! at least you HAVE a husband!), being the "queen of the home", and nurturer of the children. Essentially, they teach you how to be happy with a mediocre man who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:42 PM
20

Best of luck to you!! It's such an amazing shift to have a job that works for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:22 PM
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He could have guilt-tripped her into not going. My ex and I were set to go to my company's holiday party a few years ago, but all of a sudden he wasn't feeling well and didn't want to go. He convinced me not to go either :/ It was hard hearing my coworkers telling me I should have just gone without him, because it wasn't that simple at the time. Now, though, I really wish I had left his stupid ass at home and gone :( It was a casino night theme ON A BOAT!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:10 PM
5

Excellent points! And very true with how kids can pick up on things about a person too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:09 AM
38

My gran really fucked with my mom's life with the number of men and the types of men she dated and married. It's so sad when children don't get a say in things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:08 AM
16

Thank you for your response! You have a lot of great points - moving in after marriage makes the most sense. Also great advice on his role in your kid's life, thank you for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:06 AM
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Suggests kinky bedroom games like eating nuggies off his boner and licking cheeto dust off his fingers!! 🤩 (oh god, I just made myself nauseous)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:03 PM
51

I've thought about this often, and if I shave because I want to or if it's for the male gaze. My pubic hair gets so unruly, it will just keep growing so long if I leave it alone, I feel the need to trim it at least for my own hygiene and comfort. There were a few times in the past few years I shaved for the male gaze, but only the labia, and I left a nice trimmed patch on my vulva. I do enjoy the way it feels when I've groomed it this way. Though I've never gone through the trouble of grooming i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:25 PM
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Definitely! Very happy she doesn't fall for his BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:54 AM
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And he straight up DRUGS her (by forcing Hoggle to give it to her) with a spiked peach to get her into that scene!!! Yikes all around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:53 AM
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I just watched The Labyrinth with my son for his first time, so I was watching it through new eyes. Um...Sarah is 16 years old, and Jareth is a grown-ass man trying to manipulate her!!! It's so gross!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:15 AM
16

I made a comment on an Instagram post about how Will Smith was praised for showing off his fat belly and how if an actress did that there'd be so much backlash. A scrote ACTUALLY REPLIED, "Don't pregnant women do that?" Equating letting yourself go to being PREGNANT!! The logical sex, indeed!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:01 AM
9

Oh 100%! If I could snap my fingers and make it safe to travel there I definitely would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 05:42 PM
21

A woman on my team at work said she wants to travel to Egypt and Iran and I could NOT believe my ears!!!! I would NEVER even THINK about stepping foot in either of those countries! edited: realized I put "the" in front of Iran
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:56 AM
29

"wE wErE MADE foR eaCh oTheR!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:45 PM
14

That's so terrible you had to go through that 😔 glad he's an ex now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:27 PM
50

This is so true! And this is why it hurts so much - I would never treat my SO in a way they'd need to talk to me about it over and over. I had so many talks with my ex-husband about his behavior and how it affected me on a daily basis but he never cared and never changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:21 PM
2

Thanks! I'll check it out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:41 PM
4

I didn't realize it had a reputation for being gross! Though I guess I could expect as much from the author of Flowers in the Attic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:06 PM
8

All I knew about this book was that it was a page-turner. Though I had read Flowers in the Attic years ago and enjoyed her writing despite the grossly dark themes. I am also consuming other books - I just finished a book about sobriety, and I'm also reading The Gift of Fear. I do have some Austin and Bronte in my library, but I did find Wuthering Heights a little difficult to read so I put it down. As someone who's trying to foster a reading habit, page-turners are important to build the habit f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:05 PM
15

How do you snoop if his phone needs a pin or password?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:45 AM
46

I really really wish I had gotten the vaccine when I was younger. I was in a monogamous long term relationship back then, so I thought I didn't need it 😩 🤦‍♀️ I'm so sorry you had your choice in the matter taken away 😞 my hope for you is that you can get through this with the best possible outcomes 🙏 God, I wish we didn't have to suffer so much and in so many different ways at the hands of these scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:42 PM
25

During our breakup, my ex mentioned how I don't make enough effort in the relationship because I essentially wasn't his therapist. He was upset when I wouldn't probe him for more info if he was feeling sad. He told me he legit has depression and anxiety issues. I kept urging him to go to therapy! "It doesn't work for me!" Ok?! Then what am I supposed to do?!? One of my biggest peeves is people who won't help themselves! He was having self esteem issues too, and I said I could only do so much on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:02 PM
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and there’s no way to test for HPV for men, Just want to reiterate this point! I am also dealing with an HPV diagnosis (every site says most people have it but still...UGH) I had to have a cervical biopsy (OUCH) to take a further look at the abnormal cells, and thankfullly the results came back ok and I just need to do another pap next year. I know 2 women who had cancerous cells, and got them frozen off and are ok now. It was just a difficult process. For now, I'm being responsible and abstaini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:58 PM
122

I'm the best thing that ever happened to him. He done fucked up! I do sometimes wish I could be a fly on the wall to watch him cry for me... I 100% know why he fucked up and I don't blame myself. I just wish I had realized it sooner. But oh well. Better late than never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:00 AM
7

I was waiting for it to end with how he cheated on her! Soon enough...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:50 AM
15

I definitely worry about the outside influences 😥 also, I only have him half of the time as I split custody with his dad who is an LVM! Really hoping I can instill good values in him. I always wanted a big family, but I'm scared to have any more. Even scared for my son growing up! This world definitely needs more HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:11 PM
30

Doing my best to raise my 4yo son right 🙏 working on teaching him boundaries and no means no right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:55 PM
8

The logical sex indeed!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:38 AM
33

Back when I was engaged to my ex-husband, I was at a grocery store free sample table making friendly banter with a male shopper while we sampled the food. Ended up seeing him again by the deli and he noticed my ring and got all upset ! "that's a nice ring you've got!" Wowwww calm down buddy! 😂😂😂 I'm literally just being a nice person?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:48 PM
50

Excellent post with great points! Posts like yours have really done a lot to change my mind about porn. Used to think it was harmless and normal, but that's really not the case. Reading more and more about it just solidifies the idea in my mind. Thank you for a well thought out post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:42 PM
14

And see if he's still a big leader man when he gets there 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:42 PM
8

Thanks for the laugh, dude! 😂😂😂 Now go get a curtain rod, you janky, angry, little man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:37 PM
212

My ex-husband has a lot of the pornsick traits. I always knew he watched porn, but back then I thought it was normal and ok. He also burned the PornHub logo into our $5,000 4k TV 🥴 Want to add to not forget about the ED, and how they can't keep a boner during sex with a real live woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:09 AM
161

Men want us to happily swallow their cum and lick our lips yet won't come into the bathroom for 3 seconds because of ewwie yucky period?! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:30 AM
39

My recent ex told me he was cheated on by every ex he had. He was also a controlling nutjob! He also called me by his ex's name during a fight we had 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:23 AM
11

My recent ex told me he was cheated on by every ex he had. He was also a controlling nutjob! He also called me by his ex's name during a fight we had 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:23 AM
44

Men complain when we don't initiate sex...it's like bro, you're so horny all the time you don't give me a chance to initiate! You're always asking and don't give me space to even think about initiating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:56 PM
57

I told my ex that he made enough money to afford good quality toilet paper instead of the half-ply he had. He said he used too much of it to get the good stuff???!! Though he ended up switching to a much softer brand after I said that. On another maybe related note....when we were together, my toilet started having weird flushing issues where it wouldn't flush every other time. This hasn't happened since we broke up and he hasn't been coming over anymore!!! Wtf was he doing in there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:47 PM
28

It's just a pReCiOuS rElic fRoM hIs pAsT!! we all have those!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 fuck outta here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:56 PM
19

Is there something worse than negative value?? My brother is so far negative it's disgusting. I have always tried to hold my dad in a good light, but lately I just see how low value he is. 😞 Our birthdays are two weeks apart, his comes first. I spent a lot of time thinking about what to get him, and got him a Tolkien recipe book, which he loved. Also tried to Facetime him on his birthday with my son but he didn't answer, so we recorded a video and sent it. 2 weeks later comes my birthday. No car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:49 PM
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Answers like that would give me a complex! Definitely wouldn't post this for everyone to see. Is that part of her coping??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 04:01 PM
2

I couldn't believe it when I heard about it - quite a few other horrible details too :( I have dreams about once a month about fighting the guy, or screaming at him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:40 AM
10

"The egg doesnt chase the sperm" "If he wanted to he would" These two are my favorite right now! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:51 AM
35

Yes. My friend is in an abusive relationship right now. He convinced her that her phone got hacked and freaked her out enough that she shares his phone. All contact with friends and family is through him. I tried texting her on her birthday but he blocked my number. She's totally isolated from her family, no one can even get through to her! I hate him so much! My friend useful to be so independent, was doing well for herself and he made her quit her job and cash out her 401k! Pretty sure they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:53 AM
27

Men and their fucking dicks I STG 😡 If they're not the biggest peepee you've ever had, they'll never be happy. Even if you liked theirs the best anyhow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:32 AM
18

I got my first one the other day! Feels like a right of passage 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:48 PM
9

Not my problem if men feel oppressed by the very system they built and support
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:47 PM
30

A LOVING HOME! Completely out of touch. It's sad when you can't automatically tell if it's a troll or not :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:48 PM
10

It really feels like an addiction! It's such an intense feeling of need, but then so much relief later when I don't give in. It's getting easier; I can't wait for the day when I don't feel this anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:10 PM
6

Ah! Thank you for the phrasing! I had no idea that was a thing or that it had a name!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:04 PM
41

I keep struggling with wanting to check my ex's reddit account to see what he's up to. I know it won't be helpful, I know I would have a reaction to whatever it is he's posting about. I have him blocked so I would have to take extra steps to see his profile, which helps. Days after we broke up was the last time I checked it (~2 months ago), and he posted to a sex sub about his new partner, which I assumed was made up because he knew I'd check his account from time to time. I wanted to call him o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:30 AM
6

This man is absolutely pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 04:06 PM
20

My recent ex used to talk about wanting to fight my other ex...and it was just ridiculous. I'd tell him to stop talking like that. It's just unattractive. It's also a red flag, imo. He also made a joke about that ex dying...I was not happy with that and told him so. The more I talk about this ex, the more relieved I am that the relationship ended 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 09:21 PM
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Men will literally beat you and strangle you during sex, then turn around and cry when your teeth graze his peepee during oral 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:21 PM
113

So CSA is only bad because it's abuse...not because you're sexually attracted to children....am I getting this right??!! Makes me sick to my stomach 🤢😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:13 PM
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Sounds like the pills were more of a problem for him than FDS 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:57 PM
13

"Don't judge me!!!" - someone doing something that absolutely should be judged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:00 PM
16

"I checked out that FDS subreddit and it's SO TOXIC! They call men scrotes???" 😂😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:24 AM
23

I like to think about WHY I tolerated a LVM - this helps me think about myself, my boundaries, my standards, and my self-respect. Why did I tolerate my last LVM? He wasn't that bad of a guy - he was better than my ex before that, who treated me badly enough that I thought my recent ex was treating my like a princess lol! He did nice things for me, made me feel good, and he was amazing in bed. I was happy enough with these things that I let other things slide. Now that I'm looking at the relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:49 AM
41

Agree - I thought I liked more rough stuff during sex, but the more I had "regular old vanilla" and more love-making, I realized I didn't enjoy the rougher things anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:40 AM
80

My ex was severely codependant. No matter what I did, how much time I spent with him, it was never enough. I think I'm a great partner, thoughtful, loving, caring, and giving. I did the little things for him and the big things too! But because I wasn't around him 24/7, or was his therapist when he was dEpResSeD, and he wasn't my #1 priority (I'm a parent, I'm not even my own top priority most of the time!), he told me I didn't put enough effort into the relationship. He really sucked the life ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:49 AM
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I never ever thought that I would say being a single parent is easier than how it was when my ex-husband and I were together. It has its other challenges, for sure, but I know I can count on myself when it comes to caring for my child and getting things done around my home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:36 AM
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he tells me he doesn't know how to have sex to make me orgasm He knows, he just doesn't care 🤷‍♀️ NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:22 AM
85

Men ruin fucking everything. I've been on the fence about having another child - I would really like to experience pregnancy again, but after reading shit like this...I think I'm just one and done :( Which is absolutely depressing, since having another seems to be something that I would want!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:28 PM
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I don't watch this show, but watched an episode a few weeks ago with my SILs. Greg was unanimously our favorite...I'm crushed to hear he's a manipulative scrote 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:30 PM
9

He had so much baggage I got catapulted into the air once I dropped him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 11:51 PM
38

My ex ticked so many boxes. When we first started dating, I liked him but didn't feel crazy about him. Now I know why 😒 my gut knew he was a scrote in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:45 PM
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I totally see what you're saying - I was with my ex husband for over 10 years and I wouldn't think of going through all of my Facebook pictures and erase him, that's not feasible or something I'd want to do, or expect someone else to do. Plus we have a kid together. Though I did take off our wedding albums from Facebook. With my recent ex, he only had about 15 pictures, and looking at his Instagram, you'd have never known we were together. He never posted about me, yet had 2 pictures of his exgf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:26 PM
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What do you think about him having pictures with his ex still up? My ex had ~15 pictures on his Instagram and 2 of them where of him and his exgf. He was still friends with her which I didn't mind, just think is strange since I block and delete my exes...but then he called me by her name during a fight we had 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:27 PM
1

Cars, locks, candies, and now...uh....wood??? They'll just compare us to anything and everything, won't they??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:16 AM
3

My mom would tell me if the house was burning down, her mom would still have put lipstick on to look pretty for the firemen 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:35 PM
5

Absolutely! I had a similar experience, I was introduced years ago, but only recently have found that it's helped me. Maybe I wasn't in the right headspace for it yet? 🤔 Gala is just wonderful; she has great energy! And even if the tapping still doesn't quite help, she has other great resources for helping you to level up :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:11 AM
27

Reminds me of this "funny" (pathetic) Jimmy Kimmel clip 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:02 AM
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LOL! It was the stupidest thing, and we fought for HOURS about it! I had apparently previously told him, when we were being intimate that his was the biggest I've had (though I don't exactly recall distinctly telling him that), and that night he asked me point blank if my other ex was bigger than him and I said he was because it was true lol 🤷‍♀️ Cue tirade of "YOU LIED TO ME! WHAT ELSE ARE YOU LYING ABOUT?!" 😳 er....ok..... Men and their dicks, I stg 🙄 It would have cost him nothing to not ask …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:19 PM
17

I checked my ex's profile and would periodically check it to see what he would post. It was pretty tame, trading equipment subs and things. Then we had a fight and he ran to a sub for big peepees to ask for advice about our fight (which was about his weiner...yes really.) 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 10:37 PM
15

At first I thought this was an exercise in writing about an experience you had from your exbfs point of view....then realized this was an actual post!!!! WOWWW! He probably disagrees with all the YTA comments because he's such a scrote and wrote this only for validation. So happy she left!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:47 PM
41

“This is why you split the bill on first dates, or better yet, meet for coffee. For the adults in the room, it is also a good rule of thumb to let the person know if you won’t be seeking a second date. If you think that’s mean, ghosting/ignoring someone is much worse. Be respectful,” responded one person. Overall, most people defended the date, who many believed deserved at least a text back. WHAT?!? Unbelievable!! The invoice was creepy, and petty!! That guy was absolutely nuts for that alone a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:15 PM
30

Omg it's me! I'm the ex he's gonna be hung up on for years!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:27 AM
21

Ughhhh! The last time my ex and I had sex, he told me afterwards that he shaved his butthole "just in case"....just in case of what?!?! I had previously told him I would never do anything to his butt!!! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 02:53 AM
16

HAHA! Brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:02 PM
3

Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:17 PM
34

What!!! That is so vile! I'm sorry that happened to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:17 PM
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I think my recent ex tried this manipulation shit - he initiated the idea of breaking up because I didn't "match his efforts" in the relationship (ie, I wasn't his bang-therapist). When I decided a breakup sounded good, he backpedaled, "I just wanted to love you forever!""I thought I was gonna marry you someday!""Still not done trying if you change your mind". The last one was after a string of comments about how I didn't put effort in and he needed someone who could match him 🙄 don't let the do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:14 PM
18

Aww, I love that! One of the nice things my ex would do is pick up extra items from Taco Bell for when I finished mine and wanted more lol! I miss having my whims anticipated!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:39 AM
19

And mental health! My ex needed therapy for several issues but always had excuses - "it's hard to find a therapist!""I tried it in the past and it didn't help!""I don't like doing video calls, it's not the same as in person!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:52 AM
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Thank you ❤️ the feelings are still so raw, but I'm working on moving towards being the best version of me from these experiences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:49 AM
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Wowww, this is so true!! Thought my friend was harsh or difficult to love because of how "demanding" or straightforward I thought she was. In the meantime, there's me, little Ms. Nice Doormat, bending over backwards for losers. My friend is getting married now to a guy who seems pretty HV, I don't know him that well yet, but from what I hear and see, he's pretty great. And there's me, divorced, with a child with a LVM, just went through a breakup with an absolute scrote loser who charmed me and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:15 PM
10

A comedy club since he actin a clown 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:30 AM
46

To quote Cher Horowitz: It is one thing to spark up a doobie and get laced at parties, but it is quite another to be fried all day. Not making the mistake of dating an extreme stoner again. I'm all for a bit of herbal refreshment, but he was dabbing on the regular throughout the day. Even told on himself when he met my friends by saying "I'm an asshole when I don't smoke weed".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:07 PM
36

What about projection? My ex always talked about how he was cheated on by every girlfriend he's had and how he's insecure and has trust issues. Less than a week after we broke up, I saw he posted to a sex-centered subreddit about his new amazing girlfriend 🤔 Though I wonder if it was fake because he knew I'd check his profile...but I can't know for sure. I've also stopped checking his profile since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:21 PM
1

He was the 2nd one for sure - spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:45 PM
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My ex and I broke up because I enforced a boundary of alone time. I messaged him first thing in the morning that I needed alone time that night and I needed some space because I wasn't feeling well. He flew off the handle saying I ghosted him all day (I responded to some messages) and got snotty with me through text when he called me while I was in the shower and didn't answer. He initiated the idea of a breakup and I was like....you know what? You're right! Bye! Grown-ass man throwing a tantrum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:14 AM
2

My ex would tailgate people really badly 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:20 PM
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I'm visiting with my inlaws for a few days before my SIL and her husband and baby move to Texas (UGHHHH). Not only is her husband pushing 500lbs now, he's verbally aggressive towards her and even has been towards me! I've called him out a couple of times, but I'm usually more passive so I'm more surprised that he's being such an ass. He's also a mama's boy who picks his mommy's comfort over his wife's EVERY TIME My SIL is intelligent, strong, loving, beautiful...she deserves so much better than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:30 PM
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I just ended a relationship with a guy who didn't have close friends...and it was a lot of pressure to be the only one he hung out with. He was also very codependant and clingy, just suffocating. He went on a trip with a group of friends, and I was grateful for some alone time, but for the first several days of his trip he was constantly texting me about how he missed me, wished I was there, and wanting to cut his trip early and come home to be with me! One of my new standards for a partner is t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:57 PM
4

Oh yikes! That's rough 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:26 PM
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Just got rid of a clinger 😥 at first the attention was nice...but then he would get sad and depressed when we weren't together. Completely smothered me and it still wasn't enough for him. He finally flew off the handle when I enforced some alone time (it had been weeks since I'd had a moment to myself) and I knew I couldn't stay in the relationship. He used me like a drug, we'd have a great time together, and he'd crash the second we were apart. I'd leave his place and would get messages of "I'm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:41 PM
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I had a recent experience with a relationship as a single mom. I found FDS after we had established a relationship. We're broken up now, so I have new standards and guidelines. One thing I was firm on was not meeting my 4yo right away. I wanted to establish a relationship and vet him. He kept pressuring me to meet him (he pressured me A LOT during the relationship, which I won't stand for next time). Finally after 11 months I figured it was OK, and they met with me introducing my bf as just a fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:49 PM
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I've always wanted a daughter, but now I'm not so sure 😞 I have a young son and it's hard enough knowing there's people out there who would abuse him. Not sure if I could handle the anxiety with another child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:37 PM
41

Ok it's too early for me to be crying like this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:40 PM
2

Thank you! I thought the breakup would be worse than it was, I'm so relieved! Thank you for my new flair! I'm so happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:27 PM
13

Very interesting about your success with younger guys! Glad to hear you have a bf who's great with your daughter 😊 that's great he's a good uncle to his niblings! That definitely matters 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 06:26 PM
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This is interesting to me, as a single mom. I just ended a relationship with someone who didn't have kids, and I felt like he didn't understand the nuances of what having a child meant to my schedule and timeline of going forward with a serious relationship. I thought maybe in the future, dating a single dad might be a better experience but now I'm not so sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:31 PM
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Thank you!! It's definitely been a journey, and it's not over yet, but making progress feels so much better than where I was at 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:48 AM
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Thank you so much! The break-up is a lot to handle, and it hurts, but I'm taking the appropriate measures to mourn and move on because I know it's what is best in he end 🙌💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:47 AM
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Your reply means so much to me, Phoenix Queen, thank you! I have a child from a previous relationship, so I had that in the back of my mind this entire year - is this the type of step-dad that I want for my son's life? Is he a strong male figure? I have my baby to think about and to protect, along with my own self to protect and look out for. I'm so relieved that I was able to listen to my intuition, those true-gut feelings, and really make the correct decision for the both of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:46 AM
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Oh hellllll no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:46 AM
2

Been reading this sub for a while, but created a new account because my newly ex-scrote knows my other username and checks my profile. Just dumped him a few days ago, and I feel so relieved. But I feel mad for letting him emotionally manipulate me for so long!! Though I'm super excited to really dive in to myself, level up, and do more of the things I love to do now that I have all this extra time 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:28 PM
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Posting with a new account, but I've been fairly active here, just didn't have my flair yet. Anyway! Had to change my account because I just broke up with my ex who apparently was a SCROTE! Knew this man for a year and the mask just slipped enough for me to see how crazy he actually is. There were signs, and I was constantly vetting for patterns and saw enough that I knew there was a problem and was working on ending it. Broke it off. He immediately came to my house and dropped off stuff I left.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:25 PM
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