Hello loves, I just wanted to share what happened to me today. I spoke to a guy from my high school (this pandemic has been hard on us all, there are people I haven’t seen in months so we do a lot of talking on the phone) and we were talking about where I live (I moved to a new place recently) and him deciding to go back to our home country for good. I asked why, he explained that he sees a bigger chance to get his life in order in said home country. I jokingly said “Oh, I thought you have met someone worth moving countries for.”

To which he laughed and said:

“Are you kidding me? How am I gonna date right now? I am broke as fuck. I need to get back on my feet [he had health issues for a long time and there’s finally improvement], I need to make effort in my new job, build a name for myself, have financial stability. How can I be with a woman if I can’t provide for her? Men are supposed to be the chasers, the ones who need to win the woman, the providers. It has always been like that, it still is like that, no matter how much some men try to change it.”

I’ve known him since 2015 and now when I think back on the past, his actions have been aligned with those words. It was a pleasant talk. I had fun catching up with him.