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RED FLAG 🚨curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:08 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:26 AM
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NAH, SIScuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:40 PM
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Story time ☕curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 12:54 AM
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REMINDER 👑curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:54 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:45 PM
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DISCUSSIONcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:29 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:24 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:05 PM
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How-To High Valuecuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 12:23 AM
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FDS TRANSLATES MENcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:05 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:45 PM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:14 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:22 PM
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REMINDER 👑curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:09 PM
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DISCUSSIONcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:03 AM
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Story time ☕curiousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:59 AM
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FINE AF FRIDAYScuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:00 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:18 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYcuriousandbashful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:55 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Houri
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:24 PM
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Serotonin is a helluva drug 💓💓💓 I look at it the same as another types of addiction, honestly. Except the "liquor store / drug dealer" is between their ears. Change is possible...but they have to want to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 03:18 PM
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Over the child he raised groomed from age FOUR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:36 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 10:56 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:46 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 09:44 PM
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If anything, some of us are voluntarily celibate, i.e. vocels. Edit: clarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:14 PM
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Sucking would be an improvement, amirite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:47 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:02 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:37 PM
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"NO, I'm not insecure. I'm confidently telling you straight up that something you are doing is bothering me. And since you apparently can't be bothered to do anything about your offensive behavior, I have other ways to spend my time." Then get up, block, delete, and go do one of those things. 💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:30 PM
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I had a dude immediately unmatch me when I said I didn't drink. Trash taking itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:18 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:24 PM
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Their behavior is a combo of unresolved family-of-origin issues, serotonin addiction, and "God's word says so" drivel Edit: words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 07:17 PM
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Yep, pickled pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:41 PM
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I'm going to DM you something that helped me process my divorce. Please consider watching (trigger warning: Bible stuff) AND sharing with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:08 PM
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💓💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:47 AM
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Story time: My mom likes to take pictures of me, without my knowledge (🙄), then show them to patients whom she thinks are cute. Like, pics of me ordering tea at Starbucks, in yoga pants from the back (i.e. my body more than my face). Her picks☆ include a guy who worked at Block Buster, my high school Chemistry teacher, a dude she met in a recovery workshop, and a divorced, flimsy-armed biker dude with three kids. It's like I'm bait for some weird vicarious relationship. Her motivation? Well, for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:14 AM
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🤢👆👆👆👆👆👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:02 AM
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Aha, I see. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:32 AM
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Right there is the payoff: drama. Gives something to obsess about and talk about to friends. Perpetual state of feels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:39 AM
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I agree with all but the last (hear me out). Dating is just like interviewing for a job. So I have no qualms with a dude chatting up multiple people; he has other applicants, I do too. But the second one or both of us want to be physically intimate, that's when the DTR conversation happens, i.e. "so...what do you think about seeing each other exclusively." To continue with the job interview analogy, this is the "can I have the job/do you want the job" conversation. If he starts dating around aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:27 AM
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Always her, never him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:56 PM
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Re: bonus point, bleh, spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:15 PM
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While on a job interview, is it a thing to ask about other candidates? No. Same goes for dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:26 AM
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He wanted to know how much social flex you have relative to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:24 AM
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If something isn't growing, it's dead. -Lauryn Hill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:59 AM
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IT WILL NOT GET BETTER. IT WILL GET WORSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:54 AM
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...Do you really want to bind your life energy to this? Like, honestly, what fear(s) does this dude "salve"? ...And what are other ways you could address those fear(s) instead? 💓💗 Edit: please read my DM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:51 AM
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👆👆👆👆👆👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:46 AM
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I genuinely look at it now like a business agreement. And, since I don't want to go into the business of having children, I don't see the need to enter into a marriage contract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:37 PM
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Despite the huge increase in women participating in the workforce and many husbands and wives both earning money, the wider social attitudes still consider men should be the primary breadwinner. These beliefs place pressure on men to perform, ...for some men who ‘fail’ to live up to the breadwinner role, they use coercive control as a way of achieving a sense of masculinity, power and control. Aha...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:34 PM
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Serotonin addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:26 PM
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Hopefully what I've written here will help someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:59 PM
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💓💗 I hope you (and he) are healing. I think, personally, if the root cause issue (i.e., child abuse) is addressed, many societal issues would resolve. We aren't to blame for what happened to us but we are responsible for our recovery. 💪💓 Related aside: many cite "good" King Solomon with the "spare the rod, spoil the child" adage on how to treat their children. I see no need in emulating the "wisdom" of someone who might have committed child sacrifice. "Wise" is not the same as good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:47 PM
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Guess at the age of mom? Boomer/Gen X/Millennial? (I'm trying to gauge how long this trend might last.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:45 AM
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If I had a wholesome award, I'd give it to you 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:39 AM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:34 AM
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And it's a win-win for them. If she doesn't put up with it, he got to microdose some serotonin AND he gets to complain (brag) about what a bitch she was to his friends / the internet for more serotonin. If she does put up with it, he's got myself a reliable stash off of whom to dose serotonin until he finds a new quarry / challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:50 PM
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Tradwives = the Madonna side of the Madonna/whore complex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:44 PM
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For your consideration: https://sanon.org/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:39 PM
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Everyone I've ever known who was into BDSM was reenacting childhood trauma. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. Edit: at first. It escalated from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:36 PM
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Yep. These aren't things to ignore. Every dude who has done these sort of things has later progressed to more overt/extreme abuse. Bleh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:32 PM
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Sensitive = senses are engaged. Sight, sound, touch, balance, etc. sense signals are activated. So, for someone to say someone else is too sensitive, they are essentially saying "your equipment is calibrated in a way that doesn't enable me to do the thing X I just did without you speaking up." Sure, the impact of a sense signal might not match the intent of a sense signal, but the sense signal itself is valid. 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:15 PM
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Women totally put up with shit that's this serious. Agree that ^ this all is the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:50 AM
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Completely agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:01 AM
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This needs to go in the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:39 PM
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Yeah, I need a translation, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:29 PM
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Yep 💓 I haven't vetted this fully but could be promising as far as sex ed goes: https://www.uua.org/re/owl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:51 PM
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We agree. My point is the rule is the minimum time required. If dude isn't actively working on himself during that time, then "next," regardless of the time gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:34 PM
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My rule is to allow three months out for every year in. So if dude is coming out of a 3 year relationship, I steer clear if the breakup wasn't at least 9 months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:56 PM
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It really is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:50 PM
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👆👆👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:49 PM
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I wish his life had been different, regardless if he and I ever met. My life certainly would have been different had I heeded my signals and bounced on the first date... My experience is a possible outcome of being ignorant of / ignoring FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:33 PM
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Ha, no, I'm more suspicious of US Midwest church-y conservatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 02:10 PM
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Sounds familiar... 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:40 AM
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Ha, yes, I did indeed escape to the US Southwest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 11:26 AM
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💪💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:44 AM
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Thank you for your kindness. I think about alcoholism the same way as type 2 diabetes; it's a medical condition that requires specific actions. Do the actions, folks can get to feeling better and even eliminate their symptoms, albeit they still have the condition. Don't do the actions...slow death. He elected to not do the actions and eventually even lost his ability to chose. So, yes, I know it isn't a reflection on me. He was sick and didn't seek help until the road out was too steep. That, of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:11 AM
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Agreed. 💓💗 And, yes, they are better for me, to the point it feels like someone else's life. Except it isn't... Grief is a loopy, long process sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:19 AM
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Final straw was when he got fired from his job and called a "lesbian" he met on the internet while I was on a business trip. We spoke nightly, and after 24 hours when I hadn't been able to get a hold of him, my next call was going to be a wellness check in case he was dead in our apartment. How did I know he called her? Because when I got home, he told me. A friend then asked me, "how much of your LIFE are you going to give to this?" That question changed my life. Saved my life. Re: regrets, sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:47 AM
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🤭😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:31 AM
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Re: wanting kids, ask her if she wants a toddler, teen, and young adult. Because my suspicion is that she hasn't thought of all the developmental stages of said kiddo(s). Baby is just a developmental stage; the purpose of parenting is to raise young adults, not perpetual children. My point is, if she wants something that depends on her until it dies, she probably should get a dog instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:09 AM
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They don't understand that bi =/= poly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:57 PM
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Another scrote-y song is Paralyzer by Finger Eleven: I hold on so nervously To me and my drink I wish it was cooling me But so far, has not been good It’s been shitty And I feel awkward, as I should This club has got to be The most pretentious thing Since I thought you and me Well I am imagining A dark lit place Or your place or my place Well I’m not paralyzed But, I seem to be struck by you I want to make you move Because you’re standing still If your body matches What your eyes can do You’ll p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:54 PM
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Posting in case this helps someone: https://www.onetonline.org/find/descriptor/browse/Interests/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 02:22 PM
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Yeah, my Christian-y upbringing was why I stayed nine years when I should have bounced after the first date. "When people show you who they are, believe them." The kindest thing she can do is accept (i.e., face reality) that he doesn't have the capacity to be what she wants / needs. What she does from there is up to her--my solution included divorce and a legal name change so he couldn't find me (because guns...) I hope she is willing (and able) to learn from my experience. Suggestion: ask her, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 02:11 PM
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😔😔😔😔😔😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:08 PM
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Please share these with anyone, regardless of age, who says "I don't know enough about the issues to vote." https://9axes.github.io/ https://www.isidewith.com/ https://ballotpedia.org/Main_Page
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:50 PM
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Holy shit. Re: adoption...yeah, people paint that option as sunshine and rainbows (and sometimes it is). But having worked in an ancillary way for a CPS, there can be some SHADY stuff going on. Fraud is common. And sex trafficking doesn't surprise me at all. 😔 Edit: P.S. that throws a new light on private prisons. 😳😔😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:45 PM
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Okie dokie, was hoping I graduated to the next tier. Apparently not, ha. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:21 AM
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Consultant here. People hire contractors/consultants for two reasons. They don't have the experience in-house to do what needs done. They want a legal way to fire someone when/if they project goes sideways. So, for the first point, that gets instant halo effect...and halos are shiny bright...and shiny bright things attract moths and magpies. It's novelty. It's...the Madonna side. For the second point, eh, expendable and, by the way, we want a refund even though the service is complete. It's...th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:52 AM
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Hi! Flair review please 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:37 AM
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This works for EVERY relationship, be it work, family, etc. Folks that need/want that bump of serotonin are energy drains. The kindest thing to do is deny the serotonin addict their supply and take the energy elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:35 AM
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Fear of missing out 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:58 AM
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Completely agree. Doing the best we can with what we have is all we can do though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:35 PM
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Ah, apologies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:25 PM
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I genuinely think of it like a business merger. Unless we both are adding value to each other's lives, then what's the point? I'm not a non-profit. Doing life together means mutual benefit toward our goal(s). And if he is a non-profit...er...well...okay, I guess. ...Thanks for the tax shelter. But if our goals aren't aligned...no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:35 PM
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😚💓💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:25 PM
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Cops Edit: specifically people trying to hunt down Capitol insurrectionists or BLM protesters, depending on their political inclination
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:10 PM
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WORKAROUND: Get an address at a mailbox service provider. (NOT a P.O. Box, but a place that accepts packages from USPS/UPS/Fedex/DHL). "Move" there, i.e. do a change of address from with USPS. Change ALL credit cards, subscriptions, online shopping deliveries, etc. to the mail service address. Go once a week at random times to get your stuff. Tah-dah, now the creeps will be rolling to a strip mall and not your house. And, if they try to break in? Since it's a business, there might actually be ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 09:05 PM
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👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:13 AM
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This dud(e) is a baby boomer. His delusions are proto-manosphere. Thus souring for a loooooong time. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:12 AM
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I genuinely think one of the applications of AI/VR will be a robotic sex workers in video game-like locales. And, you know what, that might be okay. Because by putting chip-enabled cards into AI robots while locked in a VR green screen room means: 1. Electronic records so divorce is more efficient 2. They aren't spreading disease/getting human females pregnant 3. Their private room is actually a self-made jail cell 😉🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:00 AM
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Ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:44 AM
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This isn't new though, the weirdness toward women has always been there, it was just under the surface. The difference now is that women can be (and are) self-supporting. Just like feminism had its first, second, and third waves, their counter movement is as well. Which is more socioeconomically viable? Law-abiding women who are gainfully employed consumers...or law-breaking men who are hobosexual mooches? To answer your questions as well as my own above, I say this: follow the money. That's wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:14 PM
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👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:57 PM
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Not anal sex. That's yet too complicated. Try saying 'buttseks'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 11:15 PM
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My limit is plus or minus 4 years. Like, if we wouldn't have possibly gone to high school together age-wise, then nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:32 AM
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Don't forget the crab legs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:19 AM
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🤦‍♀️😔💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 04:34 PM
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Your husband is a unicorn, for real, so glad for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:07 AM
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And, let me guess, disabled women have a right to get a man from the government, right? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:43 PM
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*Yeshua
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:38 PM
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My mom is a baby boomer (aka generation army brat). Her life goal GENUINELY was to be a stay-at-home mom. She was a teenage mom (scandal back then). When her baby daddy came back crazy from Vietnam, she did the pickme entrapment game with my sister (and later me) in tow. She's wanted grandbabies since I was SIX YEARS OLD. My point is, I think part of the reason moms want grandbabies is to recapture their "misspent" youth. Mom: "Well, I wasn't a stay-at-home mom but at least I can be a retired gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:27 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 03:12 PM
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Family-of-origin, most likely 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:57 PM
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But we can change it. Look up neurofeedback 💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:43 PM
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Neurofeedback helped me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:39 PM
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I don't like that this happened to you but I am SO GLAD you see the value of your time and acted accordingly. Best wishes as you grieve what could have been. 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:17 AM
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This is sex & love addiction in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:09 AM
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Thanks, that helps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 11:56 PM
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To confirm, are you saying instead of her "so much more" comment, she should have said "this is an existential threat"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:51 PM
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Ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 02:18 PM
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Addaway 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:55 PM
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👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:58 PM
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💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:58 PM
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👆👆👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:57 PM
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Yes, I agree she didn't know how that concept works. ... My boundaries are mine. They are my limits. They are "if X happens, I will do Y." They are self-definition, how I distinguish myself from the other person in the relationship. Because only I can think/say/do my thoughts/words/actions. Boundaries are not emotional lassos by which I try to get others to do what I want them to do. Boundaries = when someone is abusive, I end my involvement with the abuser. Because if they were willing & able, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:50 PM
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https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/spiritual-abuse https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:31 AM
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The fact that this bent my brain helps me realize how ingrained some double standards are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:18 PM
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And get a legal name change and go no contact...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:12 PM
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Applies to family members and coworkers too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:07 PM
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By that they mean submissive (i.e. spineless) and infantile (i.e. like LITTLE GIRLS)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:57 PM
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My grandmother was married, had four kids, and lived to 103. I'm single divorced/widowed, it's complicated and have no kids. I'm 40, but look like l'm 25. So, I figure I'll top out at 115 while looking 70, ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:13 AM
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Paul was just an opinionated dude. NOT infallible. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. https://biblehub.com/1_corinthians/7-12.htm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:01 PM
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Texts abusers abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:56 PM
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Texts abusers abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:53 PM
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Yeah, no hotel bar dates ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:08 PM
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Nah, dude just wants to scope how you look in skin tight clothes***, see you sweaty, and access your flexibility. ***or, if you wear a t-shirt and shorts, tahdah, judged as prude, next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:54 AM
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It's just like interviewing for a job. No one invites someone to meet in-person for an interview after a brief glance at their LinkedIn profile. So, neither should we.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:50 AM
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👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 01:38 AM
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Gentle reminder that enmeshment and EMOTIONAL INCEST are closely related: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/enmeshment-and-blurred-boundaries-emotional-incest-explained-0210204
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:14 PM
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She's a self-cleaning fleshlight to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:03 PM
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My ex tried to reverse psychology me by saying "you love the patriarchy" when he was drunk/drugged up and I wasn't doing something he wanted me to do. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:00 PM
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I move that "scrote quotes" be a new post tag, ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:55 PM
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🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:52 PM
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I read a book once (that I've since thrown away) by a doctor. I bought it because he was a doctor and I THOUGHT he was going to go into the science of male to female attraction. He didn't; instead he cataloged all the ways women think men are attracted to women and gave sex addict-y rebuttals. One of those rebuttals was (paraphrase) "Why do women think men find a women being a doctor, lawyer, or scientist attractive? At best, she's competition. At worst, she's unavailable." Lesson learned: be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:43 PM
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Bluntly, regardless of the words used, OP's post made me be like, "blugh, staying single is less time-consuming," ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:38 PM
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🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:20 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:18 PM
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I had a near miss with a dude with young two kids. I assumed they were 50/50 but NOPE dude was mommy shopping 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:15 AM
80

Also, which type of car has more social flex, her Miata or his Lexus? 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:08 AM
131

Suffering is NOT a virtue!! 💪💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:02 AM
18

Agreed. Every person I've ever known who was (keyword) into BDSM had horrible child abuse in their past. When I helped them see the connection, the revulsion was fierce. Message for lurkers of any type: consider reading Body Keeps the Score, especially part 3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:02 AM
3

I did and TAHDAH he stopped 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:52 AM
5

"Exotic"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:50 AM
6

DM me how to collect traffic logs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:41 AM
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FTA: Eighteen percent of the women had buyers who worked in law enforcement; 10 percent of victims were trafficked by family members; suicide attempts and overdoses were common exit methods; and the majority of buyers were white, while about 44 percent of the victims were women of color selling sex as a last resort. ... SeekingArrangement even offers a special membership called Sugar Baby University, offering college students premium status for registering with a student email account WTH Edit: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 07:30 PM
5

The differences between a sex worker and a fleshlight are: 1. The sex worker generates their own heat, no microwave required 2. The sex worker cleans themselves, no "dishes" after cumming So, quite literally, johns are EVEN LAZIER than dudes who use fleshlights. 🤯😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:43 PM
12

As a project manager, dealing with scope creep sucks. Doing that for sexual services would be so time-consuming, johns would get laid less. People who advocate that "sex work is work" clearly have never endured contract negotiations, technical debt (i.e., rework), bill-backs, etc., etc, etc. Legalized sex work equal Corporate coitus. No. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:36 PM
15

Or children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:23 PM
7

👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:15 PM
5

Are they of a particular religious standpoint?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:08 PM
1

I have a theory that people's signals get messed up and they reach for their drug of choice instead of addressing the need that is prompting the signal. Ex. I'm not actually "hungry" for chocolate, I'm stressed out. Similarly, I think dudes get "horny" when they are actually hungry/thirsty. Try this: set out a granola bar and a glass of water on your nightstand. In the morning, if/when he hassles you for (sub-par) sex, ask him to have the granola bar and water first "for stamina." Nine times out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:22 PM
2

Yearly models, like cars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:09 PM
4

I have ADD (no H). What pisses me off is that people act like what I do / don't do is somehow a reflection on how I think about them. I'm like, "yo, I have a condition that makes some things harder for me to do. I can do them, in my time and way. Stop passing MORAL judgments on me for a MEDICAL condition I didn't ask for." Incidentally, neurofeedback has changed my LIFE: http://scottsdaleneurofeedback.com/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:57 PM
45

I was taught 3 months out of a relationship for every month in the relationship. Ex. 3 year relationship = 1 year to reset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:32 PM
10

They don't have A woman, never mind multiple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:25 AM
9

🏅🏅🏅🏅🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:03 AM
22

In anonymous fellowships they say "expectations are premeditated resentments." So the solution, I think, is to be honest and direct about what one wants and needs. Future faking a relationship for sex isn't honest/direct--it's bait and switch and that's some bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:00 AM
17

Steer the conversation into the area you want to ask about. Example, instead of asking point-blank: "are you married currently?" Ask about who he spends his weekends with and ask follow-up questions about what he says. People like talking about what they do during their off time--vague answers or eagerness to change the subject is a tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:40 PM
30

Glad you left too!! 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:24 PM
19

Lol, thank you. My younger self understands what the deal was now. When I was 12 people asked if I was 21. When I was 13, they asked if I was 31. Now I'm 40 and people guess me at 25. I've gotten hit on more in my 30s/now than I did in high school/college. I think what shielded me when I was a kid was that I was hell bent on getting away from my parents and thus put all my energy into school/work. Maybe that aged me, ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:45 PM
24

👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:32 PM
7

Marriage = general services agreement 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:28 PM
8

🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:21 AM
70

Porn of a different color
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:37 PM
3

The second one is the rapist. The first one (with the hand gestures) is presenting the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:48 PM
4

Your therapist sounds like a newbie who has bright and shiny therapist tools but doesn't know which ones to apply when. Pro-tip for her: don't use the handle of a screw driver as a hammer. 🙄💓 I have found this woman's channel helpful because her focus is on sharing the tools in general and not making people depend on her interpretation on which tools to use when: https://youtube.com/c/TherapyinaNutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:44 PM
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Yo, it's our money 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:26 PM
28

Exhibit A: "PiCs/ViDs oR iT dIdN't HaPpEn!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:10 PM
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almost...incestuous It's called emotional incest FTA: "Emotional incest, also known as covert incest, is a dynamic that occurs in parenting where the parent seeks emotional support through their child that should be sought through an adult relationship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:07 PM
8

🤗💓💗💃🤸🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:20 AM
7

This is a related aside but I see these tendencies in my mom toward me. Low value is gonna low value, apparently. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:27 AM
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I'm a process flow nerd so please forgive the oversimplification but I think of it like this: Complete this sentence: "I wanted/needed from you [person living rent free in my head] and did not get..." Then I ask myself the following questions: "What is the likelihood this person will ever be willing and able to give me thing from point 1?" "Who does this person remind me of? What is the likelihood that person will ever be willing and able to give me thing from point 1?" "Where/who are other sour…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:09 AM
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And I'd be willing to bet the show host didn't breath a hint of "yo, fam, that's...that sounds like rape"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:34 PM
23

It's just like with jobs. Don't like what you are doing and see no future with the place you are at? THEN GO! Elsewhere or start your own thing. We don't have to be content with bleh; that's just fear. And I can't think of a single time I've been happy/content and afraid at the same time. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:24 PM
2

When I was a kid, my stepdad used to randomly smack me on the top of the head. Called them 'love taps.' Thankfully mom stood up for me. Does the same with his dogs now. 🙄😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:10 PM
1

Aw, yay!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:05 PM
19

Glad he is your ex. 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:23 AM
4

Lol, sigh 😕😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:19 PM
18

Blugh!!! 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:42 PM
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I completely agree. Thing is, she's fed, bathed, collared, immunized, etc., etc., etc. So, much like with kids, I'm up against the "if the abuse isn't visible, it isn't that bad" garbage. 🙄 I'll call and report back what Animal Services says. Edit: Yep, as expected, no recourse unless the dog is dramatically visibly abused. 🙄😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:18 PM
3

I seriously wonder how long sex workers live. Sure, it depends on several factors. Like, I mean, enslaved Africans trafficked to the Americas lasted...I want to say seven years, max, if they even survived the passage? My hunch is sex work, especially of the sex trafficked, would be similar, if not less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:15 AM
9

This is was happens when delusional Disney and bastardized Christianity are mixed. Dude wants a fairy tale and NO personal accountability. Hope you are safe now or will be 💓💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:50 AM
8

Are these quotes from some red pilled movie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:40 AM
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There's a free version: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3nbo9A1MBxuUwHV5zRwLJK?si=spX7jTq-STGcynDKrSKQQQ&utm_source=copy-link&dl_branch=1 And here's a paid version if anyone is interested: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3IuGheIImbTapbJja3QNwD?si=FN8koEZJSDuT9GZZvR53Qg&utm_source=copy-link&dl_branch=1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:10 PM
8

Happened to me too. Were together nine years, no pill, no condoms. Never had a pregnancy scare. My womb must have picked up on the alcohol/drugs. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:03 PM
34

I really want a red pill dictionary. Had I known "white knight" was a watchword, I would have known how off the rails my ex was in the manosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:17 PM
1

I figured it was like people say "harass-MENT" instead of "har-ASS-ment" because otherwise it's too close to "her-ASS..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:01 PM
1

🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:18 PM
16

Rejection is also protection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:11 PM
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P.S. there's nothing really stopping a headhunter from doing a social media search with your contact info. You know, like stalkers do. 🙄😔 LPT: never, ever, EVER post your email address / phone number on a profile page of any kind. And the only picture that exists of me online is my LinkedIn profile pic. All work and no play makes Jane a dull (employable) girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:12 AM
3

Did you see the second screen shot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:10 PM
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I think the question might be getting interpreted differently. Women: what age of a man looks best to me who I could reasonably have a relationship with Men: what age of a woman looks best to me who I could jack to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:12 PM
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Consider adding this to the list of books to read: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Incest-Syndrome-Parents-Rules-ebook/dp/B00564GNX8 Edit: also - https://www.amazon.com/Silently-Seduced-Parents-Children-Partners/dp/0757315879 Edit: last one I think - https://www.amazon.com/When-Hes-Married-Mom-Mother-Enmeshed/dp/0743291387
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:21 PM
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I'm beginning to think it was something invented to make women somewhat agreeable to being married off to the highest bidder in exchange for some cattle and land
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:25 AM
8

Thanks, added to the list! 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:02 AM
17

I have fibromyalgia too. Consider getting evaluated for gluten sensitivity/allergy. And STOP eating sugar/honey--I only use stevia (a dusting is plenty). Finally, consider following the AIP Paleo temporarily until you learn what your food triggers are. For example, anything with cashews, mangoes, or pistachios are no-nos for me (and, surprise surprise all of those are related to POISON IVY). Potatoes, tomatoes, and peppers are also evil (for me). Edit: add dairy to the list too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:57 AM
2

You mean something to me. 😌💓 Thank you for being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:07 PM
3

Addicts are hella convenient for capitalists. Not only do they reliably have demands, but their demand curve is exponential. Well, until they die of course. Good thing a sucker is born every minute 🙄 (some of which are or will be addicts).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:59 PM
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Ever heard / read a guy describe a women (or something about her) as "exotic"? You know, like cars? Because, you know, the purpose of a woman is to get you from point A to point B while impressing your friends eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:43 PM
14

Yes, uncommonly beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:24 PM
23

💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:08 AM
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The fact that he knows it's an addiction is potentially encouraging. ...Or it's a signal that he dropped out of one (or more) of the five sex/porn addiction anonymous programs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:04 AM
39

Well, my ex husband had EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. 20/20 high-sight = broken rose-tinted glasses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:57 AM
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😃👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:45 AM
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She's probably with him because "God hates divorce" programming. Things to know: if a family splits up, that's less tithing for the church and potentially less members (for example, when one parent gets custody and takes the kids elsewhere). Further (trigger warning: Bible stuff), God hating divorce is not the same as saying divorce is a sin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:07 AM
8

Their brains are serotonin addled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:13 PM
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Serotonin hits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:03 PM
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🏅🏅🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:33 AM
9

In this case penetrating her with a vibrator (as opposed to merely hanging out together after some weed)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:43 PM
65

Mom's husband had prostate cancer. She stays even though he can't anymore. Then, when she had breast cancer, he cheated on my mom by vibing someone MY age. People, his dick didn't even work anymore. Glad he's her ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:44 AM
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Quick check: suffocation (air), frostbite / heat exhaustion (shelter), dehydration (water), starvation (food), terror (safety), prolonged isolation (love / belonging), depression (self-esteem), suicide (self-actualization) .......Where is blue balls? Type of frostbite, maybe...? ...Nope, not on the list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:31 AM
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There's not a setting or anything. When someone follows or DMs me, I check out their profile and block accordingly. I NEVER follow just because someone follows me. Edit: on mobile, I tap my profile. Under my username, it shows the tally of my (unblocked) followers. From there, I can tap the block button. To see the users I've blocked, on mobile I go to Settings > Account Settings for [username] > Manage Blocked Accounts 💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:31 AM
5

My philosophy is: if 1) we didn't watch the same first run cartoons as a kid AND 2) we wouldn't have possibly gone to high school together, then the answer is nopenopenope. Four years, plus or minus ONLY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:34 AM
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💗💓 Edit: I'm only appalled because there's enough of a market to justify it 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:28 AM
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I am glad and appalled that this book exists: I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:22 AM
4

🤢💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:06 AM
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🤢💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:29 PM
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I have three followers. I've blocked them because I auto block followers on this alt (they were porn peddlers and/or red pill/PUA anyway). When I post anything, I see the notification that they comment but don't see the comment when I go to the thread. (Hey guys! 👋🙄) It's a dumb system. Ladies: gentle reminder to downvote, block, and report creepers. Edit: just checked and one of them is legit FDS. Hi sis, you aren't blocked. 😌👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:06 PM
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Story time: My ex was an alcoholic (died in 2017). While waiting for him to sober up like the good Christian-y girl I was trained to be, he started using kratom too, come to find out. (Made him hallucinate. I didn't know that at the time.) Anyway, in one of his drunken, (apparently) drugged up moments, we were in bed and he wanted me to tickle him. "Er, well, okay" and I did. He was giggling and it was cute in a derpy way. Then he got turgid and propositioned me to "help it." I went from "aw, he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:54 PM
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A sheltered friend wants to know what "pied" means. She grew up in the hella conservative US Midwest 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:36 PM
36

"Step-bro" is a porn meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:25 AM
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Depends on the discipline. Oil & gas engineers for sure are nopenopenope. Chemical engineers are a hell no too. I personally have always gotten along with electrical engineers. Mechanical too. Civil/structural are hit and miss but they tend to be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:13 PM
27

Civil servant, no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:08 AM
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Okay, there has be a nature/nurture thing going on here. Nature: anabolic androgenic steroids are intoxicants (~1:30). Nurture: trauma drives addiction. So between brain chemistry (nature) and toxic masculinity ("nurture"), it's amazing there are any HVM at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:07 AM
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Most definitely. How many times have you heard these gems preached from the pulpit?: https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:42 AM
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I JUST REALIZED AN AWFUL FACET OF THE "ASIAN KINK" SCROTES HAVE: SCARCITY 🤯🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:56 AM
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Message for lurkers: Bi =/= polyamorous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:47 AM
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For your consideration: https://sanon.org/ And his: https://www.themeadows.com/addiction-treatment/sex-addiction/ https://pcsintensive.com/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:41 PM
1

Thanks 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:05 PM
11

Afraid to Google, what's it mean? preemptively cringes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:52 AM
5

What an ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:41 AM
19

faux basic human decency FTFY. Because they aren't doing it to be decent, they are doing it to get something. Anything. Hell, even a simple conversation so they can dramaticize it later as he brags to his friends on <video game title here>.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:39 AM
8

Their business model is identity theft, figuratively and literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:27 AM
12

Why does porn even exist anyway? Money Edit: and, I suspect, that people get addled by serotonin/dopamine. Personally, I think serotonin addicts are worse that dopamine addicts because pursuit of dopamine doesn't necessarily involve others. Still awful but at least it's more locally contained. Serotonin addicts' drug of choice is one-up-ism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:20 AM
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Agreed. Also not digging the "everything is the millennials' fault" vibe. Did my old pastor write this thread, pretending to be a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:26 PM
10

It is: https://www.themeadows.com/addiction-treatment/sex-addiction/ https://www.themeadows.com/addiction-treatment/love-addiction/ https://pcsintensive.com/intensive-program/ https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:03 PM
41

Or for drugs. Former sex worker friend said the ones who gave drugs were the "nice" ones because at least she could check out while being raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:54 PM
112

Entrapment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:49 PM
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Not love. She trips his "less than" switch and it pisses him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:47 AM
22

Honestly, a fleshlight would save everyone time. But no, gotta get that serotonin hit 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:41 AM
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In the mid-20th century, marriage was close to socially mandatory for both genders: women had few economic survival avenues outside marriage and, paradoxically, unmarried men faced job discrimination Here be why the Church and the State care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:13 PM
10

There's a term for that: emotional incest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:30 PM
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This applies to non-dating relationships too. Example: mom crossed emotional boundaries constantly by TMI sharing. Lady I don't need to know your third husband has never been with a virgin. Like seriously, in what situation is that information I need to know? I had to drag her into a therapist office before she finally (kinda) got it that I'm not her personal emotional dumpster/gossip buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:31 PM
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Given the chart, I wonder if the PUAs realized that stuff doesn't work so the rage quit and became MGTOW. Prediction: Red Pill will be the next spike. 🙄😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:18 PM
8

I was watching the movie 300 with my mom. During some scene, the bulked up actors were ripped, top less, with red capes whipping about. My mom commented something mildly vulgar. It was only after she said something that it dawned on me, "oh, yeah, they are physically attractive." While I see the point you are making, my orientation is quite real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:23 PM
4

I've found having a word very helpful. Because some people are very different than me; I thought (and think) their way of being as odd...and so I reasoned that they might think my way of being as odd. Excellent! Saved each of us time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:17 PM
2

Because genetic yahtzee is the Lord's Will. Oh, and miscarriages are sad but okay because "Lord giveth, Lord taketh away"...erm, wait, no. It's your fault you miscarried because you are an unfit mother!! /S
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:34 AM
6

It's projection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:17 AM
10

My guess is the bump of serotonin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:57 AM
16

Hate your job? Now imagine your job is to pretend to be foaming at the bits at the drop of a hat. I mean...I'm annoyed when my boss calls without a meeting invite, ha. So I'm sure they are disassociating up a storm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:54 AM
6

Sounds like demisexuality. I'm Demisexual anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:48 AM
25

💗 I'm glad you are healing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:45 AM
15

For any lurkers... https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:32 AM
10

^ MY THOUGHTS! I couldn't think of the character's name though, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:39 AM
10

https://youtu.be/HKk91x0Yg7Q Need a dude version of this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:33 AM
14

Aw, what? I heart gingers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:25 AM
17

There's a subreddit called brandnewsentence; this belongs there too, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:21 AM
6

Ugh. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:17 AM
12

This seems like a new post, ha--shows popular with scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:05 AM
14

Bleh, I just threw up a little in my mouth. I think the evolution is Office<Seinfeld<Monty Python 🙄🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:03 AM
35

Now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:32 AM
97

🔔🔔🔔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:32 AM
44

What's his handle? Link? 💗 Edit: oh, I see it now https://www.tiktok.com/@paul_gulley
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:18 AM
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First, bleh. Second, trigger warning: Bible stuff... I doubt those dudes have read these passages: https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/potentially-helpful-texts Third, IF ANYONE QUOTES THESE PASSAGES, RUN, THEY CAN'T BE HELPED: https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse Fourth, the more I'm learning about the history of Biblical times, the less impressed I get. The Deuteronomist is one of the sources identified through source criticism as underlying much of the Hebrew Bible. Among source-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:42 AM
19

Plus unresolved mommy/daddy issues. I'm SO SICK of men triangulating their family-of-origin issues on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:29 PM
2

Eh, he didn't reply and I got a laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:01 AM
11

ding ding ding!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:24 PM
5

ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:17 PM
5

Link for the lazy / lurkers: https://saa-recovery.org/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:15 PM
24

Those who cry matriarchy are really saying "I have unresolved mommy issues and haven't done / won't do therapy!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:16 PM
2

Which them? The dudes or the mom and girlfriends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:18 PM
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Link for the lazy 💗: https://www.tiktok.com/@claramelapple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:30 PM
6

Source? This is excellent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:08 PM
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No one has ever died of blue balls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:54 PM
22

Oh, know how to solve this problem: Fleshlight vending machines!! ...🙄😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:52 PM
28

They were possibly allowing you to learn from your own experience without sullying it with theirs. They were also possibly allowing Jane to have a "phase." Or they were just as shocked by her behavior as you and were doing the best they knew how to do at the time. Regardless of their intents, it impacted you. I'm glad you have grown and learned from the Jane experience. 👍💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:40 PM
15

"But then I can't brag to my friends how I gave it to her" *ermmm, why is dude getting his self esteem from other people...? ...Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:20 AM
21

Hence the preoccupation with anal 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 12:15 AM
6

Yo, I'm glad for the knowledge. And more glad for your apparent wisdom. 💓😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:06 PM
24

My ex used to threaten divorce as a way to manipulate me to do things his way. ...and then I woke up (finally) and (actually) divorced him. Actions > words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:32 PM
27

I'm thinking it's a four way split of unequal portions. Functional & Decent: HVM (10%) Functional & Indecent: Red Pill (20%) Dysfunctional & "Decent": Nice Guys (30%) Dysfunctional & Indecent: NVM/LVM (40%) Red Pill dudes make money off Nice Guys and LVMs via their "enlightened" blogs, youtube channels, and books. Red Pill dudes are essentially peddling the same shit as the porn industry: if you pull this lever, you'll get a dopamine cookie. Meanwhile, NVMs are too busy scrounging for free porn …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:28 PM
13

We agree. My post is just regarding the text I put in bold italics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:36 PM
5

I did laser hair removal everywhere. Expensive in the short term but I, personally, didn't need to shave my legs after 3 sessions, pits after two. Nethers are drastically improved but I still go back ~6 months or so for a maintenance zap. Definitely less time-consuming. Environmentally, it saves on mining as well as plastic production but the laser uses a lot of energy; I don't believe it's a push but I don't know for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:30 PM
3

I don't post my cell online anywhere but it's just hella creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:54 PM
11

I received Christmas socks from someone who lives in the same state as my mom. Asked her and a couple other people who the socks sender might be. No leads. Mom suggested it might be from a dude I went on a Bumble date last time I visited her. Buuuuut, if so, how did he get my mailing address? Dude only knew my cell number. My inclination is to ignore the gesture. No note was included so it feels like bait. The concern, of course, is that whoever it is knows my physical address too. Ideas? I'm no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:35 PM
5

By the way, you see how it had search terms sprinkled in throughout? *way to be part of the solution NYT* EYEROLL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:13 AM
31

This thread is full of his favorites. Bleh. I was (taught to be) so naive. Feel cheated out of years of my life. US Midwest conservatism can fuck right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:22 PM
8

Switch to kik?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:44 PM
2

https://www.iflscience.com/editors-blog/men-send-unsolicited-dick-picks-usually-narcissistic-sexist-study-confirms/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:10 PM
27

We get what we tolerate Mold (literally and figuratively) only grows worse with time if not addressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:17 PM
5

Needed this, lawd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:14 PM
59

Because he's actually a coward. "I can either: tell gf the truth and 'have to' deal with her on my birthday while dudes call me a simp lie to her, get shitfaced with them, and then get cake 🎂 (and CAKE) from her later on a different day Hmmm. Option 2. Win, win, and, if I'm lucky, win 🎂" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:02 PM
13

Apparently therapy is a more recent development for him. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tucker_Max Regardless: Can't BELIEVE that clown is married with two kids Can't BELIEVE my ex-husband was a disciple of that clown Lessons learned: thou shalt investigate the authors a dude reads as part of the vetting process
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:38 AM
15

white girl Did she unpack that bit? sounds like he's a racist too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:16 AM
37

My sincere hope is that her post is the "waking up" glimmer and her comment (that you quoted) is sarcasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:12 PM
13

sexiest Sexiest or sexist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 02:40 AM
22

Theory 1a: they want zero risk of being a father
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:58 PM
27

Same for me on all counts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:54 PM
94

Ding! For these dudes, marriage = general service agreement for sexual acts, i.e. live-in hooker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 07:53 PM
4

hobosexual Stealing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:49 AM
2

https://saa-recovery.org/our-program/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:08 AM
0

I'll update my original post but it's more accurate to say "post-mortem." A "what did I learn" debrief. I checked to see if my fellow human was alright but regardless of his answer my answer was 👎 . Car wreck? Cat died? Friend from out of town? "Hmmm, sounds like now isn't a good time for you." Barring the traumatic possibilities, if I was a priority, he would have texted. So. Moved on.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 08:09 PM
1

Eh, now he (hopefully 🙄) knows to never do that again. Won't with me, that much is certain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:49 PM
34

Dude and I had a really good first date. I picked the place. (Eh, no big deal. I have dietary weirdness.) We ranted about Trump together. (👍) Shared our FORD (family, occupation, recreation, dreams) (👍) I had thai spice level 5. He tried it and chased it with coconut ice cream. (😊👍) Split the bill as is my custom on first dates. (👍) Asked re: how to say bye. (👍👍 I hugged him. I don't kiss acquaintances. ) "Can I see you again?" he asked. (😊👍) "Yeah! I'll shoot you my number on Hinge." Texted the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:18 AM
124

Re: hire a sexworker, that would be pay per play. Dude is front loading the payment plan because wants it long-term for free. Plus cooked meals, clean laundry, and split rent. Fuck. That. Noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:41 AM
2

I figure life is a choose your own adventure. Which means both camps (predestination vs. free will) are wrong. 😉 P.S. the second paragraph of this intro was the beginning of the end for me (bold emphasis mine): The Deuteronomist is one of the sources identified through source criticism as underlying much of the Hebrew Bible. Among source-critical scholars, it is generally agreed that Deuteronomy and the Deuteronomistic history originated independently of the books of Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:36 AM
16

The courts send alcoholics here: https://aa.org/ Dunno what that pastor was thinking. "Hey, the thing that isn't working, keep doing that" 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:27 AM
15

Bet the yearly mother's day sermon was a real banger 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:23 AM
12

pssst guess what? I'd be willing to bet money your ex did the same sort of stuff to your kids that he did to you when you weren't around. Source: my experience as a kiddo Suggestion (has helped me with my family of origin stuff): https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Codependence-Where-Comes-Sabotages/dp/0062505890
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:14 AM
74

Agreed. P.S. while I'm super glad we don't see her face, I'm bleh that we are seeing her body. Don't want to be complicit in the spread of this further along the internet 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:30 AM
1

r/tihi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:56 PM
24

Using the same word to describe a person as one would a vehicle (i.e. a thing to get oneself from point A to point B 🙄) seems pretty damn telling about how they'd treat the person. But even if they are a "car guy" who spends a lot of time on the maintenance of their vehicle (handwash/wax, car cover, etc.), you can be damn sure the purpose is to peel out and drive it dangerously. It gets wrecked? Eh, that sucks but they just get another one. Fuck. That. Noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:07 PM
39

WE GET WHAT WE TOLERATE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:55 PM
13

Please consider sharing this with your fans: https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/self-assessment/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:36 PM
6

An "ethically non-monogamous" dude swiped my profile. One of his pics was him in a shirt that read: "I'm with her for the blowjobs" and an arrow. The arrow was pointing to an empty lawn chair outside of a camper. I wish I would have snagged a screenshot--was too busy chuckling as I swiped left. It was very r/selfawarewolves ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:38 AM
3

Plenty of fish! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:29 AM
15

item 6 on the list https://saa-recovery.org/am-i-a-sex-addict/self-assessment/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:07 PM
3

💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:01 PM
5

Let's change that 😉✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:01 PM
2

Moc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:00 PM
6

'Murican Taliban
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:59 PM
173

My pet theory is, in the course of cultural telephone game, the genders got switched in the Bible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:05 AM
4

I suspect when they were kiddos they were violated in some way. And now that they are grown, they seek to recreate their trauma so that "this time it's different." Maladaptive coping. Solution: help the willing (I'm fond of anonymous programs), let go of the unwilling (anonymous programs as well as here), ...bury the dead (because the really sick ones don't generally live long...that whole unwilling and/or unable thing)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:17 PM
11

My ex was a red pill disciple (come to find out). Once in a lucid drunk moment he said I was a tough nut to crack. The shit he was doing was totally intentional with the purpose of siphoning "power hits" (serotonin) off me. Because of mommy issues he was unwilling/unable to face and resolve. He endured horrible child abuse and I was the "stand-in mom" against whom he was hell bent on getting revenge. He died in 2017 (alcohol)--if I would have stayed, I'm sure he would have eventually killed me. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:46 PM
2

Welcome home, fam 💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:55 AM
4

So...live-in hooker nothx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:51 AM
6

Facts Edit: https://slaafws.org/ https://saa-recovery.org/our-program/ https://adultchildren.org/newcomer/family-types/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:35 AM
51

sexual fantasies center around abuse of power Unresolved sexual abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:19 AM
15

Dingdingding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:07 AM
7

I thought babies were stretch source? (Thanks)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:33 PM
12

Had a regrettable whatever with a dude when I was 37. Dude asked if I was a virgin because I was (his words) so tight. Same thing happened recently--I'm 39 now. My secrets: 1) never been pregnant and 2) hella, HELLA picky so point 1 continues to be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:34 PM
48

If a relationship doesn't enhance and advance my ability to be of service to G-d and my fellows, then it is in my way. Same for them; mutually beneficial gets it done. Only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:19 PM
2

I once worked with a dude in a dining hall in college. The wash rags needed folding. I started folding. He said, psk laundry is women's work. I shot back: your mama raised you to be helpless? Took him two seconds but then he acted right and started folding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:18 AM
12

I now understand why there is a reddit goat award.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:10 AM
12

Dunning-Kruger anyone? https://youtu.be/GJz66wm95-M
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:00 AM
16

I'm torn between thinking it was actually written by a (female) therapist to expose ways her patients were gamed or by a recovering sex addict during "living amends."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:53 AM
17

Every single person I've known who were into BDSM has had SIGNIFICANT child abuse in their history. 💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:36 AM
3

"Rinsed" 😁😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:41 AM
33

Their pics together are awkward. Like, I think she knew deep down already even before the big day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:34 AM
55

Wasn't "I'm washing my hair" an excuse Lorraine gave Biff in that Back to the Future movie? Similar...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:43 AM
1

Why am I being downvoted for his depravity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:29 PM
12

Agreed. Decent =/= HV. Decent is on the cusp of HV only, not over the line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:32 AM
9

They don't respect themselves. Arrested development, exhibit A.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:42 PM
-6

I think "kids" in this context is referring to sperm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:30 AM
42

My hypothesis is a combo of the following: PROLIFIC porn use https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:21 AM
17

What I don't like is how similar "acting like his wife" is, in ways, to "acting like his mother." Jackass doesn't have the self-awareness to hydrate himself? Was he not taught to take care of his basic needs when he was a child? ...Not my job. Grown ass man can take care of himself. Or suffer from self-inflicted consequences. His choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:38 PM
49

Full on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:26 PM
19

My mom stayed with a cheating scrote because "It's not God's will." No. Mama, you are afraid of being over 60 and living on your own--don't mistake G-d's will with your neuroses. P.S. she FINALLY got passed this after he cheated on her for the THIRD TIME (while she had CANCER, mind). Although I like to think some of what I said finally sunk in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:16 PM
25

NO TRUST = NO RELATIONSHIP An employee steals from someone? Fired A child steals from a parent? Grounded Etc. Victims have shitty stuff happen to them, but if they stay in the situation / don't change the dynamic that hurt them, THEY ARE VOLUNTEERS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:00 PM
7

Updated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:47 AM
24

WHY IS SHE DOING FOR HIM WHAT HE CAN DO FOR HIMSELF?? Enabler!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:36 AM
21

Women "being emotional" and being prescribed hormonal birth control is akin, IMO, to kids being kids and being prescribed ADHD meds. It's about control (with the added benefit of no babies to be RESPONSIBLE for). Edit: also, note that the highest risk of pregnancy is about a week a month. Assuming no vaginal sex during period week, that's still HALF THE MONTH for lower risk of getting pregnant. And THREE QUARTERS of the month if she does non-vaginal sex during period week. LVM: "I know, I'll hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:23 AM
6

*she is I ain't doing this shit, ha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:58 AM
9

Borderline?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:53 AM
14

🙄💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:51 AM
6

Axe murderer evidence should she get dead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:49 PM
50

Sounds like a sex trafficker that scoped her from a distance then changed his mind. GLAD SHE'S SAFE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:47 PM
17

I believe that's a crime He probably reposted somewhere else 🙄😔💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:37 PM
25

accused me of letting dudes eye fuck me (instead of joining the conversation he loomed awkwardly in the corner) FDS TRANSLATES MEN / LVM LOGIC: "It's your fault that they point their eyes at you because you control their minds. And since you are to blame for their behavior, I'm going to sulk in the corner and take out my issues with them on you later." Glad he's your ex 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:54 PM
3

Address to her, not me. 😉😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:58 PM
0

Pronouns?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:08 PM
45

My stepdad does the same sort of shit as Trump. And, surprise, surprise, he's a Trump supporter. And racist af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:07 PM
42

Right? Edit: To my reading, the first sentence is essentially her assuring herself what she hopes to be true. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:42 PM
65

The only answer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:44 PM
23

1920s flappers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:49 PM
13

🤮🤮🤮🤮💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:46 PM
15

Ding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:45 PM
14

"Biology"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:09 PM
16

Called you sir when survey was about women... 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:06 PM
4

^ my thoughts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:04 PM
35

"Feminine" is code for submissive, I'd bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:04 AM
74

Childfree by choice 👋 There are PLENTY of kiddos in the world already and a lot of whom need more nurturing as it stands. And, to be honest, I just don't want to deal with attempts at being strong armed by relatives who want to see the kiddos (mom, dad, his mom, his dad, etc.) Stopping generational abuses in 3...2...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:26 AM
2

🧸🪡🧟‍♂️ close? reach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:15 AM
3

Shitty behaviour needs to be called out but in some instances, especially online, it’s best ignored. downvoted, blocked, and reported FTFY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:12 AM
3

Holy shit, dude is atrocious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:10 AM
8

Porn peddlers are straight up drug dealers. How many people are going to have to die (physically and/or emotionally) from this before we, as a culture, bottom out? 😔 https://sanon.org/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:08 AM
50

My question is why though. Like, here is this real, live, actual human being standing in front of you and you want to "keep your [imaginary] options open"? Srsly? Tangent: penises are shaped different and therefore feel different. But aren't all adult woman vaginas essentially the same (shape-wise, not in appearance)? Like why does a man "need" multiple women? It's not like I want shrimp dick on Sunday through Tuesday and beefcake dick the rest of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:58 PM
39

Just in case it's helpful to someone, here are some relevant recovery programs https://slaafws.org/ https://saa-recovery.org/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:47 PM
6

"Take care" AWW, what a gentleman! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:51 PM
22

Scrote = 🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:30 PM
2

Depending on what his job was (ex. sales, management, etc.), they were also mitigating any possible sexual harassment issues at the work place. Cuz I'd be willing to bet that this type of behavior isn't limited to one facet of life...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:24 PM
17

Not going to lie, the upside of this story is there were actual negative consequences for his atrocious behavior. So, from that perspective, yay!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:21 PM
2

I support this strategy ✊💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:14 PM
6

I grew up in Kansas. So include Midwest in that tally too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:36 PM
12

Thing to know: this was the "True Love Waits" generation. https://religionnews.com/2019/12/10/how-the-purity-movement-created-a-sense-of-shame-in-evangelical-women/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:24 PM
10

Saaaaaaaame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:47 AM
6

😔💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:42 AM
16

'Kinky' I call these dork doms, bed brats, and bed bullies. Dork doms: think being the "dom" means switching sexual positions every 30 seconds 🙄 Bed brats: want hand jobs, reverse cowgirl, 69, and other low to no effort positions on their part Bed bullies: a variant of the dork dom that also actively tries to push your boundaries while in the moment (and, like the bed brat, whines when you don't CONSENT.) Often fond of anal and some degree to bondage. You, never them, mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:31 AM
11

Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:12 AM
35

Anyways, it's a red flag for a LVM who is trying to poke you, get on your nerves and see how you react. They are trying to push your boundaries and test your limits. The best way to respond is to not respond at all, ignore it, block and never see them again. This would have saved me almost a decade of marriage 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:11 AM
17

A fleshlight really is what they are after. Or rather a fleshlight that cooks/cleans/splits rent. And I'll bet that AI will be made that does all that. But, since it's technically a part of the house, it'll be tax deductible. Robot's way of splitting rent, you know. 🙄 My point is, with men like these, the species doesn't deserve to continue...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:06 AM
32

They want Bugattis (plural) for the price of a Ford because that "proves" they are something to their friends. Personally, I don't want to be with anyone that bases their self-esteem on...someone else (i.e. me).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:40 PM
1

NP link? What's that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:19 PM
1

hates female protagonists in movies My ex did that. Adding to the red flag list 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:22 PM
1

https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:44 PM
1

https://www.nacr.org/abusecenter/texts-abusers-abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:40 PM
3

Biden is the corporate Dems' choice. Corporate Dems, lean a touch right (irony, yes), whereas Republicans anymore are Alt Right. Corporate Dems were afraid of Bernie so, when South Carolina went to Biden, they lunged to push Biden in front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:02 AM
16

Like 50/50 with kids, estranged from parents, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:40 PM
15

I thought I married a guy that wanted (4) Girl Next Door but he actually wanted (2) Maniac Pixie Dream Girl. (And, to be honest, I kinda was back then.) But then he stumbled onto red pill culture and regressed to wanting (3) Popular Girl. Exhausting and so glad to be out of that! Just broke with a dude that wanted a (1) Mother/Caregiver/Maid/Therapist. So I...guess that's progress? Where are the men that want the unwritten archetype?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:32 AM
29

I hate that you went through that. He sounds absolutely awful. And unworthy of you all.💗💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:13 AM
158

I've heard "we get what we tolerate"...let THAT sink in. Good on you for not tolerating that bullshit! 💓💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:16 AM
8

🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:26 PM
9

What I want to know is how the hell this merry go round started (and how the hell we stop it). Or, if we can't stop it, how the hell we get off of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:51 AM
1

r/lifeprotips
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:28 AM
1

Silence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:41 PM
1

Yes please 🙏
/r/seduction18/07/20 03:25 AM
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