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REMINDER 👑SeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:46 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:54 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?SeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:15 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF FAMESeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:48 PM
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STRATEGYSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:32 PM
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SCROTES MADSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:16 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:18 AM
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SEEKING ADVICESeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:23 AM
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NAH, SISSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:42 PM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:51 AM
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NAH, SISSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:15 AM
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REMINDER 👑SeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:26 AM
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LVM LOGICSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:45 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:23 PM
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SeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:29 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨SeaNegotiation8/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:53 AM
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When men pretend to feel threatened by an unarmed woman half their size, you know they’re into some MRA bullshit. They both sound pretty awful, but Johnny Depp’s misogyny is next level depraved. I can’t imagine being married to someone so poisonous and hateful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 01:02 AM
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This is why so many men are awful in bed. They’ll treat a woman like a human fleshlight that they actively despise, and then wonder why they have a dead bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 03:46 AM
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Yup. For all his talk about women accepting rugged masculinity, I bet his hands are as soft as room-temperature butter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:01 AM
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Yes, an iconic female badass. Jada Smith is an obviously attractive woman in any hairstyle, and if being compared to another gorgeous badass woman is insulting for her, then I’m really not sure what to tell you… We may have to agree to disagree over the impact of the joke, but I hope we can all agree that assaulting someone and screaming obscenities over something so harmless is wildly inappropriate. Those two need to set aside their egos and get some therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 11:35 PM
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Yes, Bill, it’s those mean old feminist’s fault that the male sperm count is low. Couldn’t possibly be that testosterone is aromatized into estrogen in the presence of fat tissue, as a direct result of a sedentary lifestyle of constant video gaming and excessive Cheeto feasting. Nope. It’s gotta be those damn feminists. s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:08 PM
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I tend to believe open marriages are a complete joke, and this one is no different. Both of them seem like toxic clowns, tbh. I would hope that if my husband were to assault someone in my defense, it would be to save me from something actually threatening and dangerous, not over a joke comparing me to an iconic female badass. Will’s overreaction over something so innocuous was just bizarre. I thought this vid explained it well: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HRShtiI-ga8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:36 PM
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Cosplaying as a nurse on TikTok is not the same as being an actual, licensed nurse. This woman is a poser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:31 AM
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Well, it kind of is a racial dogwhistle, but not in the way that she thinks. Men that catcall women definitely seem to feel more comfortable yelling at a WOC walking by than they do a well-dressed white woman. Ask me how I know. These kind of men know whose dignity will be protected, and who is fair game for their shit behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:10 PM
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Lol, your ex husband admits the only attention he gets is from women that get paid to pretend he’s attractive and he actually thought that was a flex? My god, if I were so undesirable that the only people willing to hook up with me were sex workers, I’d be so humiliated. You could waterboard me and I wouldn’t confess to that shit. Sometimes it’s like the whole male ego is formed from one giant narcissistic injury that just becomes their whole personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:41 AM
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I apologize for being off topic, but why can’t more straight guys do skin care like this “gay bestie”??? It’s really not that hard. Just wash your face twice a day, wear sunscreen, use retinol. His skin is clean and dewy, and his facial hair is well groomed. It can be done, fellas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:12 AM
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It’s almost like all of us “people with vaginas” should get together and come up with a name for ourselves. I bet we have a lot in common!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:19 AM
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I think the porn talk needs to happen before puberty. It needs to be age-appropriate, of course, but it should probably happen at the same time as The Birds and the Bees” talk. I wish there was a children’s book that addressed this stuff. I’d love it if Gail Dines would write a kid’s book about the harms of porn. I feel bad for boy moms sometimes. Very few moms will ever even try to approach the topic of consent and porn, but this mom did her best and it still failed. I’d love to hear from FDS m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:12 PM
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So…because she’s obviously miserable in her sexist work environment, other women should just shut up and be miserable too? I worked in the restaurant industry for decades. It can certainly be quite sexist, but claiming it’s “the most sexist industry “ is a huge stretch. It just sounds to me like her coworkers fucking suck, and she needs to have a talk with HR. Tolerating sexism and letting it make you miserable and toxic toward other women isn’t the flex she thinks it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:43 AM
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Those documents are either a life insurance policy, or a “suicide note.” I’m leaning toward suicide note because it’s not unreasonable for a spouse to ask their partner to consider getting life insurance if they’re sick. It’s completely normal for a married couple to discuss life insurance, so I think she’s being asked to sign something much more nefarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:38 AM
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Yes, this is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:26 PM
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Piss on his phone, his laptop, or his gaming console. “It’s just pee! It’ll wash right off.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 10:42 AM
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What this woman is doing is revolutionary, and I’m so proud of her for being this financially savvy at such a young age. She is entirely correct, and conversations like this should become standard for childrearing couples. There should be a plan like this for pregnancy outlined in the FDS handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 01:23 AM
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Sex robots just give LVM a chance to practice how they’d like to rape a woman. For them, it’s a rehearsal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:01 AM
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If this guy wants to taste shit, I can come up with a gloriously unethical business scheme that involves me walking my dog. I mean, I have to clean up after my dog anyway, so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 06:24 PM
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The only sex workers I’ll listen to are those that have completely exited the industry and are permanently retired. Why? For the same reason I wouldn’t trust the confession of a tortured prisoner: if they’re still trapped in a prison being tortured, then their testimony is coerced and inherently untrustworthy. John Oliver has done some cool investigative journalism, but he’s very much another comedian-turned-mouthpiece-for-the-Democrats, and he rarely ever punches Left. This thinkpiece was woefu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:49 AM
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It’s just so baffling to me that anyone would treat a guest with such disdain and open resentment. What they don’t realize is their stinginess and poor manners directly correlates to their skills in the bedroom. In my experience, a man that is stingy at the dinner table is going to be even more stingy and selfish in bed. They don’t become generous or thoughtful lovers after the check is paid. They’re relationships with women are completely shallow and transactional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:13 PM
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Um, yes, I want equal protection under the law AND I want to be treated politely by my dinner host. Image that. If a man has such a problem with showing basic hospitality toward his guest at dinner because she’s female, he can always just eat dinner alone. I would love to see one of these dumbasses get invited to a woman’s house for dinner, but instead of cooking for him, she just casually eats a Hot Pocket right in front of him and indignantly insists that he shouldn’t come over expecting to ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:03 AM
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When men apply the same failed logic to dating that telemarketers apply to sales, this is the result. “BuT iT’s jUsT a nUmBeRs gAmE!” Nah, bro. You’re just a bottom-feeder casting a pitifully wide net and coming up with nothing, when you should have focused on what you want and showed her your very best effort. I guarantee these women could sense his low energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:35 AM
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I agree that a thong is inappropriate for a child. I’m not sure why other users here feel personally attacked by this suggestion. A thong may have its uses for a grown woman (no panty line in a pencil skirt, easier for a larger butt to fit into, for instance) but none of those issues apply to children. If this child wants to wear thongs, this stepmom should have a heart-to-heart with her stepdaughter to find out why. My guess is that she sees other girls wearing them at school and in the locker …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:29 PM
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My god, he’s more melodramatic than his teenage girlfriend. Her: “I’d really appreciate it if you would stop interrupting me.” Him: “FINE, I’LL JUST NEVER SPEAK EVER AGAIN!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 10:03 PM
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By the way, this is also how you deal with someone that you suspect has Antisocial Personality Disorder (colloquially known as a psychopath or a sociopath).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:22 PM
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She really played herself 🤡. Here’s an abbreviated list of her mistakes, so we can learn from them: 1) Having “casual” sex (there is no such thing as casual sex, only grossly irresponsible sex). 2) Telling him about the pregnancy. Unless you intend to have a baby AND raise it with him, that pregnancy is none of his business. 3) If you choose tell him about the pregnancy, and he wants you to have an abortion, he needs to pay for the entire thing himself, not just half. He is entirely responsible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:38 PM
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Dick is abundant and low value, ladies. There is absolutely no reason you need to share one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:13 PM
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She knows. She knows this is awful. The poor thing will take to the internet to talk about how insulting and demoralizing this “gift” was soon enough. She knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:17 AM
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I’m “parasitically attached” to my own vagina? Excellent example of projection, little fella. Bravo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:24 PM
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Supplying kids with porn could land her in prison as a registered sex offender. Leaving digital proof on her FB was beyond stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:31 AM
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Now let’s see if they can go to a therapist consistently, follow through with their treatment plan, do the hard work of self reflection, and refrain from using psych jargon to manipulate others. That last one is important. I’ve seen some truly awful men weaponize psych buzzwords to do some pretty evil shit. They go into therapy as broken men, and come out as full-blown manipulators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:37 PM
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That was written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:29 PM
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The hiring manager should have fired him from the paid internship for admittedly subscribing to OnlyFans…I mean, it goes against the company values, right? Oh yeah, that’s right. The manager is a misogynistic piece of shit, too, for vetting her differently than he would any other candidate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:45 AM
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“The common erotic project of destroying women makes it possible for men to unite into a brotherhood; this project is the only firm and trustworthy groundwork for cooperation among males and all male bonding is based on it.” -Andrea Dworkin All men knowingly participate in rape culture. Every last one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 06:15 AM
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I’ve got a book recommendation for you: https://www.amazon.com/Testosterone-Rex-Unmaking-Myths-Gendered/dp/1785783181/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=3GX04A5SRZMOE&keywords=testosterone+rex+book&qid=1643847247&sprefix=testosterone+rex+%2Caps%2C220&sr=8-3#aw-udpv3-customer-reviews_feature_div I enjoyed it. This author has written a lot of material about neurosexism that has challenged many assumptions and pissed off a lot of scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:18 AM
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Quite frankly, these women just seem a bit naïve and immature. They’ve bought the whole “happy hooker” narrative hook, line, and sinker. They’ll need more time to develop their ideas about feminism before they can put together a good faith critique of the posts here. The part where they fussed about the logo was just so cringy and disingenuous, I almost couldn’t watch any more. Also, they’re lesbians, and the content here is for women who date men, so I’m not sure why they care so much about our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:41 AM
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Send him back to his mama, let her have him. Then schedule a “miscarriage” as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:04 PM
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It just keeps getting better and better, doesn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:50 AM
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Yes, that’s the one! He’s getting roasted for good reason, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 03:34 AM
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My only regret about Hugh Hefner’s death is that he passed away before the #MeToo movement. I would’ve loved to see him get the same treatment as Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, or Jeffrey Epstein. I’m sure that shit would’ve been absolute 🔥.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:06 PM
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Just a PSA for everyone: If someone threatens to commit suicide as a means of making you say or do something you wouldn’t ordinarily want to do, it is ALWAYS abuse. Call 911 (for USA residents) and report them to the police for a mental health welfare check. If they’re actually suicidal, they’ll get the help that they need… …and if they’re just being manipulative, well…an emergency detention to a psychiatric unit could teach him a valuable lesson about honesty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:42 AM
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This is what happens when you have multiple generations of men being raised on video games, porn, and weed: they don’t have the social skills to manage a single conversation with another human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:01 PM
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When men complain about their lack of success with online dating, I think of conversations like this. OLD could be like shooting fish in a barrel for them if they would just stop being oblivious douche bags. How hard could it be to say “Oh wow, happy birthday! I’d love to treat you to dinner sometime soon to celebrate. Are you free this weekend?” But no. He had to neg her about her age instead and then get testerical when she called him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:41 AM
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Nailed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:02 AM
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Did he forget her birthday, too? It seems that she had to remind him - twice! - that her birthday was yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:33 PM
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I like this breakdown of male friendships. After all, just being casual friends with someone for a while is (still) one of the best vetting strategies. It’s still an easy, unpretentious way to match their energy and get to know each other as humans without the awkwardness of dating etiquette. The trick, of course, is to always remember that these male friends all want to have sex with you. As long as you remember that their motives for friendship are different from a woman’s, you won’t be surpri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:02 PM
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Whichever Queen came up with this is a genius that needs to run for president.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:35 PM
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This was beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 06:13 AM
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On a less serious note, this person apparently doesn’t have a single repeat customer, and they appear to be selling something that they can’t even give away for free. So its probably time to think of a new business venture, because prostitution doesn’t seem to be panning out well for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:24 PM
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Besides the author’s tacky, amateur attempt at alliteration, how can anyone with a shred of dignity describe sex with another human as a “bargain-bin BJ”? It’s demoralizing as fuck. I can’t imagine how far my self esteem would have to drop before I could describe sex with me as a “bargain.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:20 PM
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Megan Murphy is an awesome journalist, and her take on prostitution is spot on. She’s basically a LibFem exorcist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 07:04 AM
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You wouldn’t believe how shitty and selfish boyfriends/husbands can be on the Labor & Delivery Unit. The beds are basically a twin-sized bed, but they’ll try to “share” the bed with her, forcing her to squeeze up against the guardrails. Not fun when you have staples/sutures from a C-section to worry about. They’ll bring in their entire gaming console and monopolize her TV, ignoring the newborn baby and his SO to play video games. The hospital I worked for actually had to ban visitors from bringi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:16 AM
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Omg your comment reminded me of this clip from Bob’s Burgers (my whole family loves this show). https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6ezbYl3rzOI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:33 AM
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Not that I know of.☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 01:51 PM
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Just wanted to share my friend’s vetting strategy for OLD: She says she has two profiles - one with her real bio and pictures, and a fake profile of a similar looking woman that’s “just looking for casual fun NSA” (aka casual sex). If she meets a man on OLD who seems promising and claims to want a relationship, she’ll message him from the fake profile. If he responds to the dummy profile and tries to hit up her doppelgänger for no-strings-attached sex, she blocks and deletes him from her real pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:33 AM
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Wait until he leaves and starts his new, higher-paying job and then sue for divorce. She’ll be able to prove he abandoned his children AND he’ll have a higher income to garnish for alimony/child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:36 PM
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I wish there was a more robust legal precedent for prosecuting rape by deception. I’d love to see the definition expanded to include men who lie about being married or men in committed relationships, men who lie about their age, their net worth, men who lie about having kids… Basically, anyone who has to lie about anything to get sex from someone is a fucking predator, and I’d like to see this fact recognized by the law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:22 AM
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Exactly. PickMe’s will virtue signal their gullibility like it’s a badge of honor. She could be dating a serial killing pedophile, but if she found this out by “snooping” then she’s somehow just as culpable. She could literally find a corpse in his freezer, and the internet, including women, would be like “What were you doing looking through his stuff??” It’s unbelievable. There needs to be a huge paradigm shift among women. Instead of applauding their failure to investigate the man they’re dati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:07 PM
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If you’re a woman, you’re wrong no matter what you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:14 PM
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Whenever the topic of snooping comes up, there’s always a PickMe in the comments claiming that if they ever felt the slightest urge to snoop , they would just immediately breakup with their SO “because they obviously don’t trust him anymore.” This is the kind of advise that sounds good on social media, but is never followed in real life. Ever. It’s completely bogus advice. If that poor woman had divorced her husband simply because she had a gut feeling that she shouldn’t trust him, she would’ve …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:57 PM
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Same. If it’s real, her post makes me feel both pity and disgust, in equal parts. Although, I did consider that this post could have been written by a man to intentionally give redditors an example of “See? Women do it, too!” It makes the rampant misogyny behind prostitution look a lot more watered down if men can point to examples of women using prostitutes as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:52 AM
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Yeah, I’m seeing so many red flags in her post indicating that she’s probably suffering from some serious mental health issues, which need treatment before she can pursue a healthy social network. For instance, she seems like she suffers from social anxiety. Telling someone with social anxiety to go out and network/make friends is like telling someone with depression to cheer up. It doesn’t work like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:31 PM
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Seriously. And a therapist may have some good advice for how to deal with social anxiety, and healthy ways of dealing with depression and feelings of worthlessness. The part where she had the sex worker read “I’m proud of you!” off of a flash card made me so, so sad. Seriously, though. A Gen Z girl with no social media that hires prostitutes for validation? That’s a huge red flag for some pretty serious mental health issues that really need to be looked at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:06 PM
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Definitely. Nothing can really replace a good social network, especially not prostitutes. But I would definitely recommend therapy over meeting a male stranger in a hotel room, though. Even an incompetent therapist is unlikely to rape you, murder you in your hotel room, and steal all your money. What this OP did was not only cringy and bizarre, it was straight up dangerous. Meeting men off the internet for a contrived cuddle session is just about the worst way to deal with loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:35 PM
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Respectfully, I disagree. Some therapists are better than others, for sure, but comparing an educated, licensed professional caregiver to a prostitute is and always will be a false equivalency, and a very tacky one, IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 12:52 PM
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In my opinion, she absolutely needs therapy, though. A therapist worth their salt would never advise her to rely on fake affirmation from a stranger in a motel. I really hope she finds real support before something bad happens to her. Having clandestine meetings in hotels with male strangers rarely ever works out well for women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:22 AM
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The concept of paying someone to pretend to feel emotions for you that they don’t actually feel is just bizarre. Even in a highly capitalist society, emotions are not a commodity. You can’t pay someone to sincerely love you and feel proud of you. You can only pay them to pretend to love you and feel proud. Which doesn’t actually fulfill the human need for love and affirmation at all. It’s such a male way of viewing relationships. It’s shallow as fuck, and it shows a completely solipsistic denial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:08 AM
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May I add one of my own? “You seem like you watch a lot of anime.” Works beautifully every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:25 AM
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One of my first sexual assault examinations was done on a patient from a “walking date.” She met him on OLD, got in his car wearing a cute dress and heels, and he drove her to the woods 20 miles outside of town for a “sunset hike.” She tried to object because it was getting cold and dark, and she wasn’t dressed appropriately for a hike, but he ignored her objections and kept driving. She was effectively trapped in his car. She said she had to be as pleasant and accommodating as possible so he wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 07:16 PM
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For me, grown man that likes anime is a red flag,IMO. It’s one thing if they liked some anime as a child, but they should’ve grown out of it by now. Hell, I used to like Sesame Street and the My Little Pony cartoons, but you don’t see me watching that shit now, because I naturally grew out of it. So if his interests as an an adult involves anime, it’s almost certainly pornographic. It’s a sign that he has a sexual interest in children or child-like features, or he’s deeply immature. Or both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:39 PM
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So, like, he’s gonna do everything in his power to stay fit and sexy for her, too, right? No dad bod, no balding head, no erectile dysfunction… He’s gonna pass up career opportunities so he can spend more time at the gym maintaining rock-hard biceps and a six pack, right? He’ll get hair restoration the moment he notices a receding hairline, right? He’ll stop watching porn immediately so he can have a working dick for many years to come, right? Oh wait…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:22 PM
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Oh god. I though I had a strong stomach, but that just makes me want to wretch. I can’t believe you had to experience that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:39 PM
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I just involuntarily gagged. In my state, that would be considered assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:21 PM
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You don’t tell them it was a fake allergy, you just block and delete them. The example that I used above about the pistachios is a real-life example used by my sister, and it saved her life. She has a severe peanut allergy, but she told her boyfriend she was allergic to pistachios. Lo and behold, the next day he surprised her with a scoop of Ben and Jerry’s Pistachio Pistachio ice cream served on the side of some birthday cake at a party. He didn’t tell her what kind of ice cream it was, but the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:08 PM
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I’ll be blunt as well: I’m having a very hard time understanding your comment. Would you mind rephrasing it for more clarity? The Blood in the Water technique is an FDS-approved strategy for quickly and safely weeding out dangerous and disrespectful LVM before you get poisoned or violated. It’s perfectly ok if men are aware of this vetting strategy! If a male lurker suspects his date is using this technique, he can either a) respect her fake boundary like a normal human, or b) violate the fake b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:11 PM
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This post reminds me of the “Blood in the Water Technique” for vetting. To use this vetting technique, you would basically make up a fake boundary, in this case it would be a fake food allergy. You’d tell him, for instance, that you’re really allergic to pistachios, even if you’re not. If he tries to feed you pistachio ice cream on your next date, you know this scrote enjoys violating your boundaries. Anyways, there’s been a lot of great FDS posts about the Blood in the Water technique, and safe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:38 PM
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Same. I didn’t think it was controversial to say McDonalds and porn are shitty products and we all deserve better, but oh well…🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:03 AM
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Seriously, the number of responses I’ve gotten from people missing the point to talk about how much they like McDonalds is…really interesting. To each her own, I guess, but I thought we came here to level up and learn to treat ourselves like Queens, didn’t we? McDonalds is low value food, that’s why we would never accept it as a dinner date. I’ve eaten at McDonalds just like everyone else, but it’s not exactly something to brag about on a sub that is dedicated to self-improvement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:50 PM
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No hostility intended, but there’s no way to prove that what you’re watching is consensual. This includes both amateur porn and mass produced porn. There’s even porn that features the actress being interviewed after a scene where she states “I was not raped, this was consensual” but she confesses later that she was tortured and frightened to death of what they would do to her if she told the truth. Nuance is fine, but there’s no sure way to know which porn is “safe.” And at the end of the day, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:02 PM
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That’s really sad, I’m so sorry. I hope you gain access to better quality food so you don’t need to walk through the cold for McDonalds. Your body deserves so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:10 PM
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“Amateur porn”? I think you mean revenge porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:52 PM
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That sucks. I’m so sorry, sis. I hope you get a chance to try some good, fresh food so you can find a more worthwhile hill to die on. Your body and your tastebuds deserve waaaay better than McDonalds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:49 PM
1

Exactly my point. If you’ve never had a great cheeseburger with fresh ingredients, you’d probably grow up thinking McDonald’s is pretty good. Just like if you’ve never had amazing sex with an excellent lover, you’d probably die thinking your porn-addled boyfriend is as good as it gets. I’ve eaten McDonalds, of course, so I get it, just like I’ve had bad sex with porn addicts, too. But then I tried filet mignon, and now I know what meat should taste like and I can never go back, if you know what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:20 PM
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I don’t think anyone goes to McDonalds for “quality ,” though. That shit is objectively gross, especially if you love a good cheeseburger, like I do. But I see your overall point, though, and I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 07:20 PM
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It was over messaging, so I couldn’t see her expression. But she started backpedaling pretty quickly about how her bf really only uses porn “occasionally” and it’s totally not the sole focus of their sex life, and they’ve tries lots of other stuff too blah blah blah… It was pretty easy to get this PickMe from bragging about using porn to seeing it as pathetic and shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:53 PM
14

Wait a minute….”Van Life”?? Isn’t that the same lifestyle that Gabby Petito and her abusive fiancé Brian Laundry were living? The same lifestyle that facilitated her abuse and isolation from her family? The one that enabled him to (likely) murder her and leave her corpse out in the wilderness? That one?? How any woman can endorse “Van Life” as a legitimate lifestyle for couples after Gabby’s murder is beyond me. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:34 PM
32

I think we all kinda wish we had your Queen energy when we were younger. It really took a lot of practice for me to say the words “Please stop, I’m not comfortable with this.” I was in my thirties. I hate it so much that my industry takes advantage of women and girl’s weak boundaries under the guise of professionalism. I believe little girls should be taught from a young age to loudly say the words “Fuck off!” when they encounter creepy situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:55 PM
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That was something that made me incredibly uncomfortable throughout my clinical rotations. If one student got a chance to insert a urinary catheter in a patient, all of the other students were told to stop what they’re doing and pile into the room to watch. Once, a classmate got an opportunity to perform an enema on an elderly man. When the instructor rounded us up to watch, I asked if the patient would feel self-conscious with 10 students watching, and my instructor said “It’s ok, he’s pretty o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:29 PM
132

Funny how loads of people claim that BDSM is “therapy,” yet there are almost no actual therapists willing to publicly endorse it as being therapeutic. Especially when it comes to strangulation, or “breath play,” as the BDSM community calls it. Almost like therapists know their license would be revoked if they encouraged their patient to participate in abuse. So when someone tries to tell you it’s “therapy,” just call their bluff and ask them which licensed healthcare professional recommended it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:51 AM
328

Funny, I’ve had to wrestle with some personal demons myself, but somehow I’ve managed to keep from raping people. 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:28 AM
217

Even more sad because they had a case that was open-and-shut, with airtight forensic evidence, and very well televised. And he still got a light sentence. How the fuck was this rapist offered a plea bargain?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:40 PM
138

If you’re in a hospital setting, the best person to ask is the Charge Nurse. They will be the one to assign staffing to each patient, and they should communicate your request to the rest of the staff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:12 PM
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Yes! But if you’re hospitalized, you can easily request female staff for ALL intimate care, not just OB/GYN stuff. This includes showers, dressing, etc. Anything that involves exposing your body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:04 PM
41

Generic Plan B is extremely cheap and sold on Amazon for around $5-7 a pill. Stock up, ladies. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B079TF9QG4/ref=ox_sc_act_image_1?smid=A2EL76ETRFLGN1&psc=1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 08:12 PM
12

He “studies” women. He sounds like a stalker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:35 PM
94

There was a standup comedian (I forget who) that once said “There’s no such thing as a sex addict. Only cheaters that got caught.” Seriously, though. There are no single men attending therapy for sex addiction. Just a bunch of married guys desperately trying to keep from getting evicerated in divorce court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:15 PM
20

Lol, it was a work function. So the company was paying for it, not him. Cheap ass scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 02:12 PM
8

I hope she got home safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 07:16 PM
182

This may be an unpopular opinion, but… I don’t give a fuck if pedophiles can’t access therapy. I really don’t. There’s not even enough therapists to treat the victims of pedophilia, let alone the perpetrators. Besides, isn’t their whole argument that pedophilia doesn’t respond to therapy? Isn’t that the basis for their claim that it’s a sexual orientation? And I don’t give a fuck about that talking point either, because you know what else doesn’t respond to therapy? Narcissism, sadism, psychopat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:58 PM
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Last time I checked, China’s male population is about twice the female population at marrying age. Men are delusional to think any Chines woman will be “leftover” when they have twice as many marriage options as men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 09:30 AM
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Are they offering the same “advice“ to their male students?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:18 AM
48

Exactly. This is why I fume when people start saying “he should just relinquish his parental rights so he won’t have to raise the child or pay child support.” Don’t they realize most deadbeat scrotes would gladly sign those papers and pretend that his child doesn’t exist? In my State, the government won’t let the father surrender his parental rights to get out of paying, because it just makes it statistically more likely that the mother will need welfare and food stamps. This is not a dig on wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:05 AM
21

Great movie! I’m glad they made the victim another man instead of a woman. It kind of gave the movie a very effective “man-bites-dog” element to it. It conveyed the creepiness to a male audience in a way that a female victim wouldn’t, so it had more impact. Men just don’t sympathize with women when we say someone gives us the creeps. Now they know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 03:41 AM
21

Him: “iT’s jUsT a jOkE.” Me: “Jokes are supposed to be funny.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:04 PM
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Yup, sounds about right. Also, I’ve seen many abuse cases coming in and out of the healthcare system, and while tattoos are common, it seems like a disproportionate number of abusive men have their victim’s name tattooed on their body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:09 PM
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Some women may disagree with me on this one, but… …when a man has his children’s names/faces tattooed on him, I find it extremely suspicious and distasteful. If he was actually a good father, he would’ve spent that money on his children, not on tattoos. And since men with tattoos tend to be from a lower socioeconomic class, it’s very likely he spent his limited income in a tattoo parlor instead of proving his dedication to fatherhood in a meaningful way. It just comes across as a really trashy v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:55 PM
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Want proof that men already know how terrifying and cruel rape is? Want to shut down the next tacky scrote that makes a rape joke? Just mention men getting raped in prison. Hell, you can even make a joke about it. Then tell him “iT’s jUsT a jOkE! CaLm dOwN.” Makes that smug smile disappear from his face instantly. 100% success rate, guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:31 AM
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I’d like to add that when a man pays for dinner with a woman, he’s getting exactly what he paid for: dinner with a woman. Nothing more, nothing less. He asked her to show up and eat a meal with him, and she showed up and ate a meal, just like he asked. For the cost of one meal, he got the time and attention of a beautiful woman. Any other expectation he may have makes the relationship purely transactional, which is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 06:05 AM
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Well, rape is ALWAYS about entitlement, that’s for sure. He felt entitled to your body, so he exerted power over it to get sex. Whether it was by coercion, manipulation, lies, or physical force, these are all tools that someone with power can use to get what they want. And men feel pure lust for women and sex, for sure, which partially explains why they’re willing to commit rape, but they also feel lust for power. This is why porn that shows women being hurt and degraded is so incredibly popular…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:57 PM
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Do not brow beat a man into marrying you. Do not “teach him a lesson” by withholding certain girlfriend privileges until he proposes. Just gather your things and leave. There’s no lesson to teach him. Marry the man that is dying to make you his wife, the one who can’t wait to make a life with you. My husband cried when I told him I found the dress I was going to marry him in. You all deserve the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 06:01 PM
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An orgasm isn’t a unique “need.” They’re not gonna die if they don’t get a hand job. I would sue the shit out of any employer that asked me to jerk off a patient. Anyone who feels that sorry for all those poor, lonely disabled men can go jerk them off themself. Please don’t volunteer medical employees to perform forced sex acts. I’m sorry if my tone sounds overly harsh, I just never thought I’d encounter this kind of suggestion on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:54 PM
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Exactly! There are just as many lonely, disabled women out there that desire intimacy. You don’t hear them demanding have their pussy licked by some poor, reluctant man. Because women aren’t entitled rapists. So let’s just be honest here: men don’t demand sex because they’re disabled. They don’t demand sex because they’re lonely. They want sex on demand because they feel completely entitled to sex, and they don’t give a fuck if the woman wants them in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:38 PM
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Um…did I misread something, or did you just suggest that (some) legitimate medical professionals should have to jerk off their patients? Please, please tell me I read that wrong. Because, as a medical professional myself, I can confidently say that there is absolutely no medical indication for performing sex acts on a patient, ever, including paraplegics. Orgasms are never a “right” that a person can demand of someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 08:57 AM
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Can you offer his practice a scathing review? Because I think other potential female patients need to hear about this. Tell this scrote “IDGAF if he’s paraplegic or lonely, he’s not entitled to sex that isn’t freely given with enthusiastic consent.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:39 PM
15

A well-timed post. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:33 PM
12

Tell me you’re an emotionally stunted misogynist with poor social skills without telling me you’re an emotionally stunted misogynist with poor social skills…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:42 PM
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I giggle snorted when she placed herself at the top of her own arbitrary “enlightenment” scale (cough). I’ve met houseplants that are more self-aware. Side note: Ever notice that people who openly refer to themselves as “enlightened” are the most self absorbed, obtuse, cringy motherf*ckers on the planet? Every single time. This is why I don’t listen to cam girls. They call themselves “sex workers,” but they only experience the tiniest glimpse of male depravity from the relative safety of a compu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:24 AM
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He’s trolling the seedy side of town to find street walking prostitutes. My daughter’s father did the same thing. Then he says the only thing keeping him from buying sex is his job security??? Really? My advice: offer him a heartfelt apology for violating his trust, and swear you’ll never doubt him again. Make him think everything is normal again. Meanwhile, hire a Private Investigator to find the evidence of infidelity. Collect evidence of wrongdoing LEGALLY. Then rake him over the coals in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:27 PM
80

So her contributions are always bigger and more expensive? Got it.🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:55 PM
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I dunno…I’d be so embarrassed if I had to manage my husband’s boredom for him like he was an angsty 9 year old. “I know you’re bored, sweetie, but just sit there and play your video games. Mommy needs to give birth now.” If he’s wound up while she’s napping, he could read a book, watch the news, or go to the lobby to call their eager family and give them updates on her progress. There are so many things he could do to demonstrate maturity and a readiness for fatherhood, but playing video games w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:40 AM
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I’ve heard of Labor & Delivery units disallowing gaming consoles to be brought in by visitors, including the father. Their rational is that the TV is there for the patient, not the visitors. So when someone else plugs in a gaming console, it monopolizes the TV and prevents the patient from using it for their own comfort/entertainment. It doesn’t prevent scrotes from using their laptop for gaming, but at least it recognizes that gaming robs the mother and infant from the attention that they need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:42 PM
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But in most of the world, sex work is illegal for both the Johns and the prostituted women, and yet it still flourishes. So no, John’s don’t feel particularly chilled by the thought of breaking the law, since they’ve been doing that all along. John’s get away with abysmal treatment of sex workers because those women can’t go to the police and report it without being arrested themselves. Under the Nordic Model, they can. That’s what has Johns feeling chilled: they sense the shifting power dynamic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:51 PM
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I know what you mean. I really wish more sex workers would recognize the incredible advantage they gain with the Nordic Model. When the sex worker is legally innocent of any crime, but the John is considered guilty, it gives the sex worker a huge amount of leverage. This could potentially shift the power dynamic in her favor. Sex workers often consider themselves savvy entrepreneurs, so I don’t know why they don’t recognize this as a money making opportunity to increase their rates, which could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:04 PM
11

I read you loud and clear, sis.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:22 AM
20

Best response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:25 PM
17

I’m old enough to know better, yet I’m still shocked at men’s inability to self-reflect. Like…they’ve been spending their days jerking off to porn and playing video games for at least a couple generations, and they’re just now beginning to feel worthless?? Jesus, these scrotes really can’t seem to connect the dots. If our male counterparts keep choosing to spiral downwards, I wonder how long it will be before they become a sad evolutionary dead end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:47 PM
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It took my ex husband over 15 YEARS to complete his bachelors degree. He was enrolled in school the entire time. How did he finally finish, you ask? Did he experience a sudden surge of self motivation? Was he overcome with grit and determination to reach the finish line? Nope. His new Pickme bangmaid started writing all his fucking papers for him, that’s how. I know this because she bragged about it. Because that’s what Pickmes do - they brag about their cringy codependent relationship with a ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 02:32 PM
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You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. https://www.thehotline.org/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 09:00 PM
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Yes, you can. Maybe the Emergency Department is better equipped to handle DV issues, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:59 PM
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Also, your ethnicity would be taken into account when examining the bruises. 👍 A bruise on a darker skinned person would obviously look different from a very light skinned person. That is to be expected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:57 PM
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It would probably still be considered circumstantial evidences at best, unfortunately. It wouldn’t be considered forensic evidence unless it was taken by a forensic professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:55 PM
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Yes, an X-RAY or CT scan is a great idea. Tell the physician your ex-boyfriend did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:53 PM
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That’s great, but the pics need to be taken by a neutral third party, like a doctor or a detective. Pictures taken by you or a friend won’t count, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:51 PM
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Just wanted to add… I know a case where the man called 911 and reported himself as a victim of domestic violence. When the cops arrived, he showed them scratches on his chest as evidence that he was abused. How did he get those scratches, you ask? He was strangling his girlfriend, and she clawed at his chest with her fingernails as her only defense. She was arrested, not him. The bruises around her neck didn’t show up until the next day, after she was arrested. So it’s very important that you ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:48 PM
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I have seen this situation before. Please get pictures taken your bruises immediately, before they heal. Get pictures in both color and in black-and-white. The pics should be taken by a health care professional, like a forensic nurse. You can usually stop by an emergency room to be assessed for this. Please contact an attorney ASAP. They will advise you from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:35 PM
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He was grooming her to put up with unsolicited dick pics, I guarantee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:06 AM
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He’s porn sick, and his wife sounds clinically depressed. We need an FDS rescue mission for his wife. She would get alimony and child support if they divorced. Then she could level up and find a better partner, and he can chase his delusional porn star fantasy. And what do you want to bet this guy is not nearly as “hot” as he thinks he is? Far too many men pressure their wife into an open marriage, thinking he’s gonna be drowning in pussy, only to find out that their wife can get more action tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:37 PM
330

10 years with my husband and we have never called each other “retarded.” So no, you don’t have to tolerate that sort of language from your partner, not even once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:56 PM
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Some of the greatest minds in all of documented history have been men that did horrible things to women and children. From celebrated philosophers that believed women were inferior, to civil rights leaders that molested children, to national heroes that raped their slaves, men have proven throughout history that even the very best of them are objectively horrible human beings. And that’s the very best of them! The heroes, the leaders, the prophets, etc. That’s to say nothing of the average man w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:15 PM
26

The homeless encampments in my city are cleaner than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:59 PM
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I was gonna write post on askreddit to ask “Can you think of a single animal in the known Universe more cruel and sadistic than the human male?” The obvious answer, of course, is “no.” But the responses would be a predictable blend of “women can be mean, too, you know!” and accusations of misandry. But seriously…no living creature on Earth has inflicted as much murder, torture, or physical suffering on humanity as the human male. A woman is statistically safer going into a forest full of predato…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:19 PM
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I feel sorry for his patients. He’s a shitty caregiver, he has no instinct to protect, he abuses illicit drugs, and he exploits vulnerable women for his own pleasure. These are not the qualities of a good nurse, and I hope she reports him to the Board of Nursing in leu of a divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:39 PM
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If you wouldn’t keep sex videos of your ex, it is completely reasonable and fair to expect the same of your boyfriend. That is a very simple boundary to set. There’s also another troubling question: Does he have his ex’s full consent to have this sex video? This isn’t a courtroom, and men don’t have 4th amendment rights in a relationship. There’s no law against “snooping” through your boyfriend’s phone, but there are laws against making pornography without the other party’s consent. Sounds like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:32 PM
10

Took the words out of my mouth, sis. It doesn’t matter if you just got your nails done, or what your salary is, or how bad your menstrual cramps are. Those things are frankly none of his business at this point. He’s paying the check because he literally asked you to be there, and you are simply obliging his request, nothing more. If someone invites you to eat dinner with them, then you are their guest and you should be treated as such. It is unbelievably tacky for a man to invite someone to shar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:47 PM
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When someone says prostitution is the oldest profession, I like to respond by saying “So you admit that it’s archaic and regressive?” Seriously. If prostitution has been going on since before the Dark Ages, maybe it’s time to admit that if has no place in a modern society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:56 AM
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It’s annoying to read an article that contradicts itself so much on the topic of sex work. Hateful, misogynistic men are not entitled to sex. Period. They’re not entitled to sex for free, and they’re not entitled to sex for money. Why is that so hard for LibFem journalists to understand? It takes a hefty amount of classism for this author to think it’s acceptable to send these hateful monsters to a sex worker who will have to absorb their abuse just so more privileged women won’t have to. Then t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:18 PM
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Boo hoo, so sad. Imagine being valued for your hard work, your integrity, and your accomplishments rather than your looks and then actually complaining about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:55 PM
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Seriously, tho…how the hell is enthusiastic consent “besides the point”??? Enthusiastic consent is ENTIRELY THE POINT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:53 AM
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This sub does not support the sex trade industry because it is inherently exploitative. Read the handbook and the sidebar. Legalizing exploitation is NEVER the answer, but thanks for playing. PS - look up the Nordic Model.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:52 AM
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Oh wow. He sounds like a campus predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:52 AM
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The “sex work is work” mantra just shows you how archaic people’s views of sex still are, including liberals. For men, sex is enjoyable. They feel entitled to it, to the point where they believe they can demand it as a “service” that underprivileged women have to provide. And for women…it’s work. A job. A woman’s authentic desire is never a factor, never considered at all. Sex is something she has to do in order to survive, like flipping burgers. Anyone who believes that sex should always involv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 08:28 AM
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This guy has a very long-winded way of saying “I’m bad in bed and my wife doesn’t like having sex with me.” Seriously though. The myth that women don’t want sex as much as men needs to die. Does he have an orgasm every time they have sex? Probably. Does she have an orgasm every time they have sex? Probably not. So there’s your answer right there. She doesn’t have a low libido, for fuck’s sake. She’s just been conditioned to be disappointed in sex and exhausted from life with a shitty partner. Li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:44 AM
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Honestly, I think she needs to hire an attorney and probably a Private Investigator to pursue the side chick. Then I think she should go stay with a friend for safety and stay offline for a while. But she doesn’t even seem to have enough self esteem to feel angry or scared for her own safety, so this OP really sounds more like a shitposting scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:46 PM
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Prostate cancer is one of the easier cancers to treat, relatively speaking, as long as he follows doctor’s orders. But he refuses to do even that. So just…let him die. Meanwhile , she needs to hire an attorney to protect her estate and pursue the revenge porn issue strategically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:25 PM
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It cracks me up when scrotes argue that gaming “improves hand-eye coordination.” Yeah right. So does tying your shoelaces, but no one is exactly impressed that you managed to put shoes on today. It’s especially pathetic that men have to pretend to be soldiers or heroes or gangstas through video games while their actual bodies and minds are deteriorating in front of a TV screen. Their male ego needs to remain immersed in a fantasy about being a badass war hero, but in reality they live in their m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 08:34 PM
9

He targets women with low IQs. And he actually admits to this openly. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:57 AM
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I love the idea of a woman forging ahead just as much as the next gal, but I thought this article was a little odd, to be honest. It has some very insidious LibFem undertones. Not a fan. True agency is great, but no woman will ever find real agency in sex work, where her income is dependent on making a man’s dick happy. And Arnold Schwarzenegger is and always will be a cheating LVM. These were just examples, I guess, but they were very weird examples.🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:44 AM
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There is a restaurant in my city like the ones you’re referring to. The employee uniform is similar to Twin Peaks. Upon hiring a waitress or bartender, they take her picture and weight her. Then they have her sign a hiring agreement which states she will not change her appearance or allow her weight to fluctuate by more than 10lbs or they reserve the right to terminate her employment. I shit you not. Is this legal, you ask? Yup. My State is what’s known as a “right to fire” state, where you can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:29 AM
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I honestly think there needs to be an alternative suggestion for how to handle this situation spelled out in the handbook. Paying your way without protest and then declining to date him again is not gonna teach him a lesson or improve things for women overall. He’s already used to not getting a second date, so he’ll learn nothing and continue to make other women miserable. Embarrassing him is the best way to go. “Oh you need me to help you cover the check? That’s weird. I could swear you invited…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:48 AM
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Took the words right out of my mouth, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:33 PM
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Fair enough. To each her own! My finances are in good shape, I just wouldn’t want to get dressed up and leave the house for a stingy man. So I would want written proof that he intends to pay before I invest my precious time. But if he ends up asking you to pay 50/50, it would be funny if you looked at him with pity and said loud enough for people to hear “Awww! Are you BROKE? I’ve never dated a broke man before. I guess that explains the bad haircut. I do charity work from time to time, so of co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:39 PM
13

Yes, exactly! When discussing BLM and white police violence against black people, we don’t find ourselves bogged down by people disingenuously wondering what a black person is. No matter what your political views are, we all know what a black person is and we all know what a white person is. But when we discuss male violence, including the #MeToo movement, no one is taking to the streets in mass protest. And many of those same people that claim to be anti-racist in support of BLM will suddenly p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:50 PM
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True. It’s funny…the language that shapes our political & social commentary changes all the time, yet the underlying issues stays the same: People born with penises commit the vast majority of sexual violence, and people with vaginas are the majority of victims. And naming this basic fact makes people so uncomfortable they’ll deflect, minimize, or argue semantics until they’re blue in the face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:52 PM
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I love this article so much, but I noticed a couple of sticking points. One issue with it is that the author frames misogyny as a Republican issue, with no mention of misogyny among Democrats, even though we know that misogyny knows no political party. She also mentioned that gay men are good allies, even though misogyny among gay men is often rampant, and gay men participate in patriarchy all the time even if they’re not at the top of the patriarchal hierarchy. I guess I also wish she would’ve …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:22 PM
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When he suggests the restaurant over text, you would reply “Oh wow, that’s such a beautiful restaurant! But it’s a little out of my budget. Can we meet somewhere more casual?” If he responds by suggesting something cheaper, block and delete, because he obviously expected you to pay. If he says “Don’t worry about the cost, it’s my treat!” then you’ve got a green light and written proof that he plans to pay. Do this every time he tries to meet up, because many men expect you to start paying after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:29 PM
3

Wonder how many of those non-binary folks have a vagina? My guess is all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:33 PM
25

This is great news, but Germany legalized the sex trade industry (prostitution), so this is not nearly enough to curb trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:46 PM
15

ALL men. Every last fucking one of them. Especially the spineless cowards that sat there and said nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:38 PM
36

This really reminds me of the post where a very young OP sent nudes to her much older boyfriend, and he had them made into huge blowup portraits that hung in his living room for his friends to see. Her husband let his friends and family see nude images/representations of his wife without her consent. Not fucking cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:44 AM
10

The exact same grooming language is used to funnel teenage kids into prostitution, almost word for word. You’re “infantilizing” her if you don’t think sex work is an empowering career move. You’re “stripping her of autonomy” if you think teenage kids deserve an education instead of a creepy, controlling sugar daddy. It’s pure projection. Every lame ass argument they put forth in their sad efforts to get their d*cks sucked by adolescent kids is pure, simple projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:10 AM
111

Poetic justice is sometimes better than legal justice. She got her justice by being creative, and I love it. However, I really hope she safeguards herself against violence, because he’s likely to get angry and vindictive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:54 PM
3

You leveled up in the most important ways possible! You would make a great Executive Chef.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:45 PM
2

You did the right thing. $200 can stretch a long way if you’re thrifty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:19 AM
2

Yes, exactly. It’s like saying “Meh, it’s just a used car.” Sure, a car might depreciate in value quickly, just like a diamond ring, but that doesn’t mean you should just give the keys and the title to your ex because he promised to give it to your child on their 16th birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:38 AM
4

Yes! If he felt he had a legal right to the ring (he doesn’t), let him retain a lawyer and sue his ex wife for it. The cost of the attorney’s retainer + hourly fees would likely be higher than the resale value of the ring, so he would probably just give up. But if he wants to bankrupt himself trying, let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:05 AM
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Nope. If it was “just a ring” he would not ask for it back. It’s pretty simple. The ring has value, and every woman has a right to keep it in the event of a divorce. This has been validated by the courts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:24 PM
23

That was such a sleazy thing for him to do. I’m so glad you left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:46 PM
67

I love how my posts always trigger men to impotently scream at me before their comment is approved, or they try to mansplain the resale value of a certified diamond. The goal, of course, is to keep women from realizing the true worth of a diamond ring in order to dupe them into giving it back. That’s their endgame. IF THE DIAMOND RING DIDN’T HAVE RESALE VALUE, HE WOULDN’T BOTHER ASKING FOR IT BACK! Die mad, scrotes. Stay woke, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:35 PM
114

Solid FDS-worthy advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:57 PM
17

Fair enough, but I might suggest selling the ring and using the money to make your life better in some way. Or you could give the money to charity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:53 PM
35

Even worse…They’re already married, but I don’t think he gave her any engagement ring at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:47 PM
121

Hell yes. I want the younger FDS women to learn from my mistake. I think women, especially me, have been so terrified of being accused of “GoLdIgGiNg” that we let men exploit us for our youth and beauty, sex, money, or literally anything they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:41 PM
222

LVM husbands make LVM dads. I was always the one to buy our family gifts while we were married, so after we separated I had to remind him to buy her some Christmas gifts. He scoffed and complained at the idea of buying gifts for a toddler. “Why should I buy her toys that’ll just fall apart?” “She’ll grow out of them in a month.” “She’ll just lose them.” I had to explain to him the value of making his little girl happy on Christmas Day. This is yet another reason to never go 50/50 when dating men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:46 PM
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It should’ve been the price he paid for wasting my youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:26 PM
7

Oh honey, that’s not the flex you think it is. The poor dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:55 PM
38

This. THIS is why I listen to sex workers only after they have completely exited the sex trade. I won’t listen to sex workers claim they love prostitution while they’re still in the industry for the same reason I won’t consider the confession of a prisoner while they’re still being tortured. If a sex worker’s livelihood still depends on pleasing men’s dicks and men’s egos, I will consider their statements coerced and made under extreme duress. I’ve met many women involved in prostitution. They e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:14 PM
6

Queen Paxton!👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:52 PM
1

Lol, no. It was a seafood/steakhouse. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:57 PM
20

Wait - did you get the impression I was letting men off the hook for cheating? My comment was referring strictly to the bragging behavior of sex workers when they interact with FDS on Twitter, which I correctly identified as a cope. And yes, to read their comments, they are gleefully participating in the cheating. Here at FDS, we can operate with enough nuance to blame the cheating man while simultaneously understanding this to be low-value behavior that stems from cripplingly low self esteem. F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:03 PM
69

My impression is that “wh*rephobia” is almost exclusively used to describe women’s unfavorable reactions to prostitutes, not so much used to describe the dangers sex workers face from men. I know it’s really just a cope, but it always floors me when I see sex workers on Twitter brag about sleeping with another woman’s husband, breaking up families, and helping to destroy marriages, while simultaneously demanding support from women. Smh. Also, it’s important to note that many Twitter profiles cla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:10 AM
9

This is amazing content. Thanks, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:32 PM
1

That waitress may have been me!!!! I did this to at least a couple of regulars that brought in multiple women to my restaurant. (I live in the south USA, if you’re wondering.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:12 PM
21

Love it! Is it garnet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:06 PM
8

Remember kids: If you can’t formulate a coherent argument, just accuse the other side of being a Nazi!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:38 PM
50

I have Jewish ancestry. Genetic screening is easy and fairly cheap, and I recommend everyone get it done before having kids. That Jewish commenter should be especially wary of their partner’s genetic makeup, and should consider getting genetic counseling before getting pregnant. There are a number of congenital diseases that effect people of Jewish decent like me, such as Tay-Sachs disease. It may even be safest to consider IVF, if you can afford it, because they can test the embryos before impl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:15 PM
41

What a bunch of drama queens. Men don’t have to worry about the draft, either. And none of these dipshits have ever worked in a coal mine. Hell, most men don’t even know how to change the oil in their car, so they can seriously just shut the fuck up and give us our equal pay already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:47 AM
19

A private nurse would be WAY more than a driver, a maid, or a laundry worker. If we changed this pie chart to make it more accurate, the salary would be well over £200,000.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:38 AM
45

Unfortunately, the mistreatment of Shelly Duval didn’t end there. Did you see her interview with Dr. Phil a few years ago? It’s absolutely infuriating. “Dr.” Phil’s treatment of her was deeply unethical. He exploited and humiliated a sick woman on television, when she clearly couldn’t consent to being interviewed. For years I’ve been hoping Shelly Duval gets better and sues the shit out of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:31 AM
26

“Women only love you for your status…” Imagine acknowledging that women are attracted to you for your hard work and accomplishments more than your looks and actually being angry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:13 AM
1

Take a screen shot of their ridiculous massage first to post to r/FDSSuperFans, then block. But DO NOT RESPOND!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:41 PM
22

The joke’s on him, then. Therapists regularly suggest cheaters give up their passwords and pin codes to their partner to reestablish trust. The cheating victim is encouraged to look through the cheater’s phone or laptop as often as it takes. But more often than not, counseling will help her realize she should dump him for violating her trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:09 PM
8

In my school district, they won’t even enforce masks during a fucking pandemic. But if my daughter showed up to class wearing spaghetti straps, the administration would be all over her like flies on shit. She would get sent home immediately, losing an entire day’s education. It’s quite simple, really. In a patriarchy, it’s more important for men and boys to have a distraction-free education than for girls to be able to attend school at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:14 PM
48

This is sub par negging. 64/100 at best. I’ll bet your block/delete game is a 10/10, though.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:28 PM
11

Sounds like a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:56 PM
12

I’ve seen it, too. A woman will describe her partner engaging in the sketchiest behavior you’ve ever heard of, and then proudly announce how she’s stifled the urge to “snoop”. She wears her gullibility like a badge of honor. I think deep down, these women are announcing their gullibility to the universe in the hopes that someone out there will tell them what they really need to hear: that his behavior alone warrants suspicion, that she has every right to ALL information that keeps her safe, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:06 PM
9

Wow, I’m sorry they put you through that. You deserve better friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:55 PM
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Those kind of comments are echoed constantly to keep women from properly vetting their partner. The reality is that a woman is extremely unlikely to leave a relationship without seeing evidence of wrongdoing, and society gaslights her into believing that the very act of collecting that evidence is what actually doomed the relationship, not the potential wrongdoing. So she never leaves, but she’ll never feels safe either; she is effectively paralyzed. Women find themselves in this catch 22, where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:24 AM
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I would take this sentiment even further, in fact. Casual snooping is fine, but digging a little deeper and doing some more serious investigating is also your right. Statistically, the single most dangerous thing a woman can do is get involved sexually or romantically with a man. Trusting the wrong man could land you in a coffin. Do your due diligence. Dig deep. You don’t owe any man the “right” to privacy more than owe it to yourself to stay safe. He lost his right to privacy when he decided he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:52 AM
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Yes, that’s correct. This is why mandatory reporters are so necessary when it comes to caring for children/adolescents. By law, a minor cannot “consent” to any kind of sex work - they are automatically victims of human trafficking. However, the moment that same child turns 18, it becomes a legal grey zone, even though the same exact coercive circumstances are still present. Libfems like to pretend that a sex worker and a trafficking victim are simply two different people, but the reality is they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:31 PM
47

Yes, absolutely. It’s pretty common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:04 PM
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That man is not her boyfriend. I guarantee she just got trafficked. That man is her pimp. I have treated women like this. Edit: I have performed forensic exams as a nurse. I am also a mandatory reporter (obviously), so I report when I suspect abuse, including trafficking, even if the patient doesn’t identify it as trafficking. You would be surprised to hear how men trade sex with their gf in exchange for ridiculous shit, like weed or video games, all of which is human trafficking. I strongly sus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:19 PM
25

Absolute truth. Your safety and wellbeing is so much more important than a scrote’s “right” to cheat or dehumanize you in private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:54 AM
119

Whenever I hear men complain about how “no one cares about men’s health! Waaaaaahh!” I think about shit like this. No sweetie, literally the only people that don’t care about men’s health are.....drumroll please... ...men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:38 PM
8

She should make a point of wishing all the other men in her life a happy Father’s Day, but completely abstain from doing anything for her husband. Then file for divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:39 PM
67

You seem like a great sister, and she’s lucky to have you.🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:37 PM
2

I think it’s the storming into the bathroom with her cellphone to scream at her own reflection that cracks me up the most. Maybe someone should tell her that filming herself screaming into the mirror isn’t the way to convince us that she’s a hardass. She’s trying so hard to be #notlikeothergirls that she winds up looking like a sad lunatic. Can you imagine what her roommates must think listening to this from the next room?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:05 AM
53

Has Mrs. Teigan forgotten about #MeToo? Where thousands of women came forward to expose the men in Hollywood and beyond who raped and abused them in private? I really liked you, Mrs. Teigan, but we’re still going to continue discussing how men behave inappropriately toward women and girls when they think no one’s looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:22 AM
27

Ink poisoning? While I have a couple of discrete tattoos myself, I don’t think a sneering, screaming woman wearing anarchy symbols and neck tattoos is gonna gain much traction with HVM. The whole persona she’s cultivated reeks of a shitty attitude and emotional instability. So if her only options left are greasy, low-value scrotes, it’s no wonder she defends them so vehemently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:07 AM
54

I briefly dated a man with a micro penis. I was 29. His penis was about two inches, and the same diameter as my pinky. I knew he had a micro penis long before we had sex. I gaslit myself into believing I was a shallow bitch if I didn’t give his tiny little dick a chance. “Maybe he knows what to do with it, or maybe he’s great at oral sex!” is what I told myself. Nope. He was neurotic in bed, he rushed through everything, and it was all over before I could even ask for oral sex. The Small Dick En…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:12 AM
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Not sure where you live, but if you work in the USA, you can report this to the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission). This is sexist abuse. They investigate the claim, and I’ve known co-workers that have been provided with a free attorney. https://www.eeoc.gov/ Please tape record your conversations with him on your phone, if you can. I have a tape recorder app on my smartphone for just such occasions! Make sure you understand the laws in your area regarding a secretly recorded conversa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:07 AM
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I love to see little nuggets of advice like this. It’s easy to implement, and it works immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:55 AM
17

Ask her how she would respond if a patient or her boss took her aside and asked her to suck his dick for $100. Would she consider it sexual harassment, or is he offering her a valuable job opportunity? After all, according to her worldview, he is simply asking her for a simple service, a job like any other. He’s only asking her to suck his dick, which is just like nursing, isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:13 AM
13

As a nurse, I can say that woman was a f*#king moron. A dishonest and disingenuous moron at that. How insulting it is to nurses to compare us to prostitutes. We don’t let patients stick their body parts inside of us. We don’t exchange body fluids with our patients. We wear protective gear when handing a patient’s genitals. Do prostitutes get to wear full PPE? When I have to chart when I don’t feel like it, it’s just another day on the job. When someone has to have sex that she doesn’t want, it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:36 AM
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Before the date, while you’re still talking to him online, ask where you want him to meet you for dinner (never accept an invite to a dive bar, coffee shop, or anything low-effort.) When he states the restaurant, tell him “Wow! That sounds really nice! But I’m on a budget this month, so that’s a little out of my price range.” If he says “Ok” and chooses a less expensive restaurant, block him immediately, because you know he’s stingy and expects you to pay. If he says “Don’t worry about it! It’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:22 AM
138

...And that they never seem to share the same “concern” for overweight men is a dead giveaway for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:09 AM
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Overweight women. Source: I am pretty slender, so men feel that they can trash talk overweight women to me, thinking that I will gladly join the pile-on. Say what you will about obesity being a major public health issue (it obviously is), but I find it curious that overweight women are the ones receiving ALL of the hate, despite men making up the majority of the obese population. So yeah, you want to weed out the LVM, bring up the obesity issue without even specifying the gender, and watch the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:26 AM
12

”We have never been smart enough to view sex in the same transactional way that men do...” WTF??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:11 AM
65

Whenever I would breastfeed my baby in public, I was stalked and harassed by creepy men every single time. And I’m far too modest to expose myself much in public, so I would hide as much as I could under a nursing blanket. It was bad enough to keep me from going out in public unless I had to. I would cringe whenever I heard some naive young PickMe claim that Free The Nipple was about changing laws to make breastfeeding mothers feel more comfortable in public. Believe me, it wasn’t the law I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:33 AM
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It is so sad that even in the year 2021, the only “empowerment” some women can fathom is from getting naked or letting men fuck them for money. So fucking sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:27 AM
6

Is this the real George Takei? That’s so disappointing. Honestly, I think his celebrity status could be coloring his opinion of the labor & delivery process. He’s probably the type who is accustomed to being waited on hand and foot, especially in the hospital environment. He is probably the type of man that would complain if the nurses don’t drop everything to bring him a cup of tea instead of caring for their laboring patients. If a man is allowed into the delivery room, it is only by staying i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:21 AM
3

I love when men come out and admit that they’re boring lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:37 PM
9

Definitely a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:28 AM
6

Trust, but verify. Unfortunately, one of the most dangerous things a woman can do is trust a man. There are very few things in life that are as risky for your health or will make you more vulnerable. It is unfortunate that society puts women in a mental prison where if she feels even a moment of healthy skepticism, or if she feels like she needs evidence of his trustworthiness, it means their relationship is doomed. That’s not how trust works at all. Establishing trust is not a one-time event. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:37 PM
9

They literally can’t think of women as anything more than passive objects to be bought or sold, can they? It would just destroy his fragile little ego to realize that every beautiful single woman he’s ever met has looked at him, quickly sized him up, and thought “Nah, I’d rather stay single than hook up with that shit.” Men always tell on themselves for being ugly and dull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:50 AM
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Theses scrotes are in for a huge disappointment when they realize that most of the Gen Z girls they’re lusting after have grown up extremely familiar with the concept of grooming. They can also describe predatory behaviors, and can easily recognize abuse in a relationship. The way we educate our girls has changed. I only wish I was as educated about these things when I was their age. I’ve spent a lot of time around teenage girls lately. One of the most common words they use to describe older men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:53 AM
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Judging by his age and the way he’s speaking to you, I’m willing to bet he has a criminal record. This is the way older men speak when they’ve spent some time in prison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:03 PM
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Wow, he’s really violating his wife’s privacy, isn’t he? What a shitty husband. And trying to persuade you to approve of his masturbation habits is absolutely sexual harassment. Please consider reporting him to HR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:18 AM
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When I was 16, my boyfriend told our friends that sex with me was like “throwing a hotdog down a hallway.” It never occurred to me to feel self conscious about my vagina in that way. I was devastated. This is probably TMI, but at the time I couldn’t even fit a normal tampon inside of me because my anatomy was just too small. I could only wear maxi pads because using tampons was painfully tight. Of course, it turns out there was nothing wrong with my vagina, he just had a really tiny penis. So sm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:43 AM
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I love to see posts like this! Thank you. Well said. It’s funny that the same crowd that believes ‘kinks’ are fine if they’re shared between consenting adults are always throwing tantrums when a woman says “That’s fucking disgusting and I don’t consent to being involved in that shit.” Also, another disingenuous accusation that people like to throw around is that having boundaries makes you “iNsEcUrE.” This couldn’t be further from the truth. The most confident, self-assured woman in the world is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:58 PM
82

They also missed the part where she finally initiates a divorce, and he begins complaining to a judge about “parental alienation”. He conveniently forgets to mention how he’s spent years ignoring the kid. He doesn’t know the name of their pediatrician, doesn’t know his child’s favorite subject in school, doesn’t even know what color the child’s eyes are. The judge agrees, and the kid has to spend every other weekend in dad’s filthy apartment while dad spends hours swiping on Tinder. I could type…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:38 AM
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Hope he’s ok, but yeah - not your problem. In my area, the 911 dispatcher always answers the call by asking “Do you need fire, police, ambulance, or mental health services?” so it’s pretty easy to get the right kind of help. If he’s telling the truth about his intent to harm himself, then you’ve done him a great service. ...And if he’s lying in order to manipulate you...well, then he’s going to have a real hard time explaining that to the judge who signs the order for an Emergency Detention!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:19 AM
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Great post, and excellent points. I think these talking points are especially true if he’s threatening to harm himself or sabotage himself in any way, physically or otherwise. If he’s threatening to harm himself or sabotage himself, get away fast. Ghost him, block & delete, and then call 911 or whatever mental health services are in your area to do a welfare check on him. This gets him the help that he may need, and covers all your bases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:02 AM
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Probably because you’re a good listener. They look for good, empathetic listeners and attach themselves like leaches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:57 AM
82

Love this quote. Hosseini was a brilliant writer. For a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:38 PM
43

You must be GLOWING right now! So proud of you. Go out with your friends and drink a margarita for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:05 AM
347

He has a small penis. It’s as simple as that. Please, ladies, do me this one small favor: if a man makes a comment about “loose” vaginas, call him out immediately for having a tiny penis. If a man truly had Big Dick Energy, it would never even occur to him to joke about the size of your vagina. There are no loose vaginas, only tiny penises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:35 AM
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Right. Why do these men feel so ashamed of the principles they live by?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:52 AM
7

There’s no such thing as a “non-offending” pedophile. There’s only those that have access to children, and those that don’t have access to children yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:24 AM
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At least he admits that these “red pill” men sound retarded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:54 AM
8

Her ten year old half-brother made an outcry of sexual abuse a couple years ago, right around the time his severe psychiatric symptoms surfaced. He’s in outpatient therapy right now, and they’ve filed a police report against the (male) perpetrator, but they can’t investigate his case any further because of the boy’s unreliability as a witness. It’s been incredibly sad to watch from the sidelines, because he’s a pretty sweet little kid. He’s still a small child, and he doesn’t seem to have the ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:37 AM
13

I hate to admit it, but I think there’s some truth to this. I met her dad when I was 17 and he was in his mid twenties (yuck). Now my daughter is 17, and she’s tall and beautiful and looks remarkably like me at that age. I don’t believe her dad would commit incest, but I do think my daughter’s striking resemblance to me at the age when her dad and I fell in love is a giant elephant in the room for him and his wife. I’m sure it weights on both of them in a very weird, unhealthy Freudian kind of w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:43 PM
23

A creepy man working in an elementary school... What could possibly go wrong? s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:26 AM
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Thank you so much. The thing is...the two boys are actually pretty sweet and seem very bright. The oldest has some pretty serious mental health issues that he inherited from his mother, but he’s a nice boy nonetheless. My daughter swears they’ve never been sexually inappropriate with her, and I believe her. So the issue is entirely with her dad and stepmom. I just didn’t realize they’ve become some kind of weird Fundamentalists or something. I angry at myself for not seeing it sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:54 PM
13

These men speak as though the Sex Offender’s Registry doesn’t exist or something. I just entered my zip code into the Registry just now. There are about 20 convicted sex offenders within a relatively easy walking distance of my house, and I live in a nice area. Next time some dumbass man tries to claim he’s never encountered a sex offender, invite him to enter his address in the Sex Offender’s Registry and see how many mug shots show up on the map. I guarantee these criminals shop at the same gr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 07:38 AM
47

Wow. So he wiped himself with a Clorox wipe? I hope he gets a chemical burn on his scrotum and anus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:38 PM
29

Omg, I could have written this post myself! The trick is to immediately distance yourself from any man that comments on how young you look in the context of flirting with you. This includes comments about your supposed “innocence.” He is either a pedophile, or he has a massive Madonna/whore complex. It’s sad, but these men are commenting on your youthful appearance for one of two reasons: a)to discredit your intellect and hard work, or b) to fetishize you Either way, it’s a good idea to get away…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:31 PM
41

Damn, that’s good to know! I guess I’m showing my age. When I was using Plan B, it was $40 and you had to get lectured by the pharmacist before you could purchase it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:53 PM
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See, THIS is the kind of content I’d like to see more of! Small but strategic nuggets of advice to keep women and girls safe in the dating world. I would like to add one thing: Do NOT go “halfsies” on paying for Plan B if there’s an accident. Please don’t make the same mistake I did. If the condom broke, that’s his fault, and he should pay for the whole Plan B. If he didn’t “pull out” in time, that’s definitely his fault, and he needs to pay for the whole Plan B. In addition to having some Plan …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:59 AM
91

Excellent advice! Do NOT tell anyone that you’re pregnant unless you’ve chosen to have a baby. With the exception of your OB/GYN, it’s literally no one else’s business what is or isn’t inside your uterus. That is privileged patient information that is protected by HIPAA law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:50 PM
3

Yes, agreed. Besides, nearly all gun violence (including suicides) is committed by men. Let women keep the firearms so that cooler heads will prevail. (I know it will never happen, but a girl can dream.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:45 AM
11

In my state, she wouldn’t get in trouble for defending herself. She would probably be celebrated on the local news, lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:26 AM
8

I know that people have (legitimately) very strong feelings about guns, but I’m very thankful for the 9mm that my husband bought me. It’s small, discreet, I can conceal it easily if i’m out walking. To me, a woman’s right to defend herself against an attacker - with lethal force if necessary - is absolute. Fortunately, the law in my state agrees with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:07 AM
22

I bought my daughter some pepper spray for her keychain, and also a set of brass knuckles in the shape of a kittycat face. The kitty’s ears are the pointy parts that would stick out between her knuckles. It’s cute AND deadly! Highly recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:26 AM
41

“I don’t abuse and harass women because I have a daughter, a wife, and a mother. Otherwise I totally would.” -All men. Every last one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:39 PM
13

Yikes! Thanks for the heads up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:29 PM
181

Every vaccinated patient is given a wallet-sized card with the CDC’s logo on it. It has their name, birthday, the name of the vaccine maker (Moderna, J&J, etc), and the lot number of the vial. He should be willing to send you a pic of the vaccine card, or upload it to his bio, and then maybe you could consider his claim legit. But then again, there’s always photoshop, and men lie about literally everything to get laid...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:47 AM
58

It really make you wonder...don’t these dating websites know that having creepy hobo-sexuals using their service is bad for business? If all the beautiful women get scared away from OLD, then the entire industry goes bankrupt overnight. Horny, lonely, loser scrotes are a dime a dozen. Dating websites should just give them the boot at the first sign of creepy behavior. I’d love to see an entrepreneur create a dating app that actually vets their male users thoroughly (no sex offenders, no felons, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:03 AM
9

Wait ‘till he finds out her eyelids aren’t naturally green and purple, and that her legs aren’t naturally hairless. This poor, poor man. What kind of world do we live in where women can just alter their appearance to suit their personal style without consulting him? [Wipes a single tear from cheek]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:41 AM
119

Their penises also shrink with age due to decreased blood flow and testosterone. Ladies, you are REALLY short-changing yourselves when you date an older man. Age-gap relationships are not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:32 AM
7

I would like to join Ovarit if you wouldn’t mind sending me a code!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:46 AM
49

I’m not sure! But the fact that my comment above was downvoted tells me that we already have some obsessed male lurkers among us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:30 AM
66

Is anyone allowed to vote, or is it only flaired FDS users? I have a feeling some lurkers could attempt to manipulate the results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:22 AM
46

I’m so sorry that happened to you! I’ve encountered many, many women on Reddit and other social media who were raped/abused by a male “feminist” under eerily similar circumstances. There’s definitely a certain kind of predator that is being pandered to among liberal feminists. I hope you are getting the support you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:58 AM
75

Yes, abusers should absolutely never go to therapy with their victim. It’s actually contraindicated. I’ve had a similar experience with my ex, but it was for a court-ordered Alcoholics Anonymous class where they were allowed to bring their spouse. It was awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:40 PM
23

You’re right. I was thinking about men-only groups. I should have clarified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:37 PM
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I think group therapy with other men is better for most men. In group therapy, they’d have to listen far more often than they get to speak. At best, I’ve seen far too many men use therapy as yet another excuse to be completely self-absorbed while getting a gold seal of approval for being in therapy. Plenty of men could really benefit from therapy IF they’re willing to do the hard work of introspection. However, if you sense a cruel streak in a him, or you sense abusive tendencies, please don’t s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:56 PM
8

Yes!!! A High Value Man will always sincerely want you to have high standards. Conversely, as a High Value Woman, I need my husband to have high standards for me as well. I would feel insulted if he didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:57 AM
16

Lol at men like this. They make sure to advertise that they don’t value women for anything other than pussy, then they try to pretend that our pussies don’t have value. It’s literally the ONLY thing they value! Only men could be this fucking dumb. They value pussy more than anything else in the world. They’re consider their lives worthless without it, and they become bitter and depressed, often even suicidal when they can’t get laid. Want proof? Just peruse any incel sub. Male lurkers: y’all ser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:00 AM
71

Aw jeez, you guys, I guess all those Boomers should’ve stopped spending all their money on avocado toast and start actually saving money for once in their lives instead of expecting another government handout. /s How the fuck are these people so out of touch that they assumed the pandemic would produce another Baby Boom? We’ve been isolated for a year with no money, our anxiety is through the roof. Fun fact: at my hospital, the number of patients admitted for suicide attempt by gunshot wound to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:25 AM
5

Just want to add an inexpensive suggestion: You could buy a GPS tracking device and mount it to the underside of his car, or some other discreet place in his vehicle. The one I’ve linked here is super cheap, but it requires a subscription. However, there are tons of GPS devices that don’t require anything. It would show you where he’s driving in real time, and give you some idea of what he’s up to, if you can’t afford a Private Investigator and don’t want to risk getting caught following him you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:47 AM
9

A balding manchild, most likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:52 AM
3

She should open up a GoFundMe in his name, then post it all over his Facebook page, then share it with his coworkers. “This poor man is so broke he can’t afford $35 for drinks at Applebee’s. He obviously can’t even afford a good haircut! Can anyone please help him out?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:33 AM
4

Yup. In other words, actions speak louder than words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:05 AM
121

One thing that the “cOmMuNiCaTiOn iS kEy” crowd will never admit to is that communication is happening 24 hours a day, whether the man realizes it or not. Everything you say, everything you don’t say, everything you do or don’t do...ALL of it communicates something important. Even the most nuanced micro-expression on his face is a form of communication. You don’t need to sit him down for an awkward, one-sided conversation to gather valuable information about your relationship. Even if you barely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:23 AM
88

A whole generation of men and boys raised on porn, and most of them STILL can’t even find the clitoris. And the clit is literally so obvious and reliable in its appearance and placement that, clinically speaking, it’s considered an anatomical landmark! Male lurkers, if you can’t find the clit, you ain’t shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:12 AM
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Four words for you, sis: SUGAR FREE GUMMY BEARS! Please look them up on Amazon and read the reviews right now. They contain an ingredient called sucralose. This ingredient is a sugar substitute, and it is also well known for causing explosive diarrhea within minutes. I’ve seen these little gummy snacks in action. They are fast and discreet, and he will never forget to leave his wife’s live-saving glucose snacks alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:35 AM
19

I am so relieved that I’m not the only one here that read this post and thought “OH MY GOD GET AN ABORTION ASAP!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:13 PM
140

Tell your friend that she is still welcome to come over anytime, but her new boyfriend is no longer welcome in your home. If you want, you can add that if you ever see him again on your property you’ll report him to the police for trespassing. She might be shocked at such a strongly worded response, but at least it’ll get the idea across. Best of luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:34 AM
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Oh. My. God. This could’ve been me writing that post 17 years ago. When my husband wanted to sleep in, I packed a diaper bag and left the house with our baby to run errands. When I needed to sleep in, he would sleep on the couch and leave the baby screaming in her swing for three hours until it was her nap time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:37 AM
21

I agree with the other commenter. If you made this into a Hallmark card, you’d make a killing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:25 AM
6

Copypasta.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:24 PM
4

Beautiful painting! You’re so talented. Watercolor painting is extremely hard, but you make it look easy. Happy V day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:23 PM
32

This is actually a really important topic given the global health issues we’re having with Covid-19. Hygiene - especially hand hygiene - is so incredibly important right now. I really wonder how much of this pandemic could have been curtailed if men would practice better hygiene. Obviously, we ALL have to wash our hands, wear masks, and practice social distancing, but let’s face it...men are so much less likely to be compliant with these measures. Scrotes have been pressuring women for dates/cas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:18 AM
151

Next time a man misuses a feminist concept, ask him which feminist book he read it in. Ask him when the last time he read a single book about Feminist Theory, then ask him to quote it chapter and verse. For instance, if he says a woman paying for herself on a date is “fEmInIsM”, ask him which feminist author/leader/philosopher has ever actually said that. I’ve found this technique quickly reveals their ignorance on the topic of feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:23 PM
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My ex’s mother died of brain cancer a few years ago. Two weeks after she passed, his father bought himself a brand new Jaguar convertible. Six weeks after she passed, he was remarried to his next wife, a woman he’d been talking to for a year. No wonder my ex was such a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:37 PM
25

Yup. Sounds familiar. Nowadays, if I do someone else’s laundry because it’s combined with my laundry, I keep whatever is left in the bottom of the machine, including cash and coins. Don’t like missing your cash? Clean out your pockets before putting it in my laundry basket. Usually fixes the problem pretty quickly once it’s their money on the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:19 AM
59

Yikes. That looks more like early diabetes. He should get his HgA1C checked. That’s not something to brag about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:23 AM
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...and they hate you for it. Which is why they are murdered more than any other demographic on Earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:12 AM
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I don’t think women are risk adverse, either, per se. I think women are better at calculating risks vs rewards in ways that men usually aren’t. This may be because men are generally the wealthier sex, so they tend to be sheltered from the consequences of their financial decisions, while women rarely have that luxury. I don’t think OP’s article is particularly anecdotal, though. Historically, most stocks are purchased by men, and most of the world’s overall wealth is concentrated in the hands of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:42 AM
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It is a gendered issue, though, according to OP’s citation from the Wall Street Journal. Maybe you don’t know the sex of the people calling in for GameStop stocks, but their financial advisers certainly do. Congrats on making a quick buck, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:24 AM
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This is yet another case study of what happens when a large enough group of men get Big Mad and let their drama get the better of them. Let’s face it - whole ass wars have been fought because men just can’t get a grip on their emotions. Buying stocks in a failing company to get revenge is not an investment strategy. It may have felt good in the short run, because caving to your emotions can be instantly gratifying (I hear one redditor even paid for his dog’s surgery with his earnings), but it’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:40 AM
16

Buddha may have some nuggets of wisdom to share, but in my opinion it’s important to keep in mind that he abandoned his wife and infant child in the middle of the night. Then he tried to justify it by claiming they would both suffer from the human condition whether he stayed with them or not. By FDS standards, he was a NVM, and his wife allegedly never forgave him. He thought being super spiritual and seeking all that super duper thruthy truth would absolve him of being a dead beat dad. Sounds l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:29 AM
5

Come to think of it, I don’t think I’ve dated a single man that bothered to tidy up his house before inviting me over, let alone scrub his bathroom or change his sheets. Why the fuck is the concept of making a good impression on guests such a foreign concept for a man???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:03 AM
8

I’m so sorry for your loss! I recently gave up on my best friend of 25 years. For the last decade, she’s only called if she’s going through a breakup or if she needs money. She hasn’t worked in a while, but she’s borrowed money from me a few times. I’ve always given her the money because she has children. She’s missed my birthday 3 years in a row. She doesn’t answer her phone when I call, doesn’t respond to texts. The list goes on. Making friends gets harder as you age, so it sucks to write off …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:49 AM
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How was he supposed to know you didn’t want him to have sex with your mother? Did you communicate with him? He’s not a mind reader, you know. s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:16 AM
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Oh god everything about that post made my skin crawl. What that man is doing is so fucking cringy, and you can bet your sweet ass the daughter notices. I am a mother to a 17 year old girl. My husband, her stepdad, wouldn’t dream of making jokes about vibrators or sex around her. Jesus fucking Christ. If they ever bond over something, it’s usually over their favorite Karate Kid movie, or sometimes they both love to talk shit about Donald Trump. Normal shit. If either of us made a sex joke around …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:25 AM
6

So cute! My only criticism is that she should not have revealed how she knew he was lying. He’ll just do a better job of deceiving the next woman. Just block, delete, and disappear from his life without a trace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:59 AM
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Even the scene in the beginning where she interrupts the would-be rapist and asks “What are you doing???” is pretty unrealistic and a little disappointing, in my opinion. If a woman actually did that, she could be beaten, forcibly raped, or killed. The chances of the man cowing to her and letting her walk him into a corner while giving a feminist soliloquy is pretty slim. I realize it was meant to be a “Fuck yea!” moment for women, but it just fell a little flat for me because it just didn’t ref…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:45 AM
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Right!?! No one “loses interest in parenting.” Parenting isn’t a hobby. He went from being a barely competent father to a dead beat dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 10:59 PM
4

Yes, excellent point. In my area, only one person needs to consent to a recorded conversation, and dash cams are everywhere. It’s definitely important to check the laws in your area!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:20 PM
83

Spoken like a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:45 AM
51

Tape recording with your cell phone is a really, really excellent way to get evidence of abuse. I wish women would utilize their phone in this way more often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:24 AM
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Yeah, it’s pretty weird. If they’re laying flat on their back, the penis kind of “sinks” in to the fat pad on the lower abdomen/pelvic area. The penis tissue loses elasticity and becomes so loose that it just kind of collapses. It kind of looks like an “innie” belly button.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:21 PM
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Can confirm your nurse friend’s comment about penises. The penis always ages badly, and gets smaller over time. Just another reason why women short change themselves when they date older men. And here’s one more reason not to date overweight men either: their penis shrinks dramatically. I’ve seen many male patients that have only a small hole where their penis used to be. If a guy has a “dad bod” by 25, that’s a good indication there’s a budding endocrine issue that could result in a completely …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:36 AM
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Wow, I’m so glad he showed his true colors so early on in the relationship. What a psychopath! I’m also glad your mother overheard his abuse, so she can testify to his abusive nature if she needed to. This guy sounds unhinged, deeply misogynistic, and possibly dangerous. Also, have you heard back from your doctor about the lump in your breast? Was it just a false alarm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:19 AM
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Love the comments under that post. “But have you tried communicating with him?” You can’t communicate when you’re unconscious on the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:15 PM
14

Those yellow teeth are really something...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:28 PM
5

That is exactly the kind of DARVO shit you see in this field. When you see scratches, you’re most likely looking at the perpetrator, not the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:50 PM
13

They know. They’re completely aware that they’re watching children get raped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:54 AM
18

I had a guy try to initiate trauma bonding with me once in a failed attempt to hook up with me. He told me he too knew what it was like to be in an abusive relationship. He told me that he had been abused by his ex girlfriend, the poor dear. I began to feel bad for him, but then he described the injuries she inflicted on him, and something about it made my skin crawl. Scratches. On his chest. From her fingernails. That was it. Now I’ve done some work in forensic healthcare, and it’s no secret ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:19 AM
22

Do you guys remember the movie “The Help”? Remember that scene where Minnie serves her tormentor a delicious “chocolate” pie? Suddenly, I think I know a really good way to show her boyfriend how she feels next time he asks her to come over and cook for him. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, amiright?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:30 AM
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At least if she snaps out of it long enough to press charges for rape, she will have medical records and documentation of her injuries. She described cervical injuries, so I’m assuming they took colposcopy images, which will really help her case if she chooses to move forward with this legally. Poor thing. Hope she wakes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:11 AM
32

Aw shit! Screen name checks OUT!!👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:32 PM
235

There’s a reason why he doesn’t invite Jane along to hang out with Cassie. There’s a reason why he only hangs out with Cassie when Jane is busy. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 06:11 PM
31

But why doesn’t he just swipe left if he doesn’t think she’s attractive in her profile pics? Oh yeah. That’s right. Because men swipe right on literally everyone and then pretend like they have standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:42 PM
12

I took one look at his neck beard and physically grimaced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:10 AM
72

Don’t let him know that you’re on to him, or he’ll erase the messages. Don’t let him know you’re getting a lawyer, either. When you’ve settled on a good attorney, just let them take it from there! Best of luck and stay safe, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:19 AM
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You will never regret putting your safety first. I hope you got screenshots and evidence of his infidelity and abuse. You’re definitely doing the right thing. He sounds like such a crusty loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:10 AM
8

For an “anti-hate” sub, AHS seems to really, really hate feminism. Maybe they need a watchdog sub to monitor their content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:02 PM
27

“Ski-sloped nose with a pointed tip” Holy shit, he was literally describing an anime character, not a human woman. This man has an anime fetish. Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:04 AM
11

In my experience, they’ll still feel entitled to sex no matter what you do, even if you split the check. They’re a bottomless well of excuses for why they believe women owe them sex. This is patriarchy. At least if you go in fully expecting him to pay for the check and he starts whining about it, you’ll know by the end of the first date that he’s cheap, stingy, and entitled. Better to find out now instead of finding out after weeks of going “halfsies.” I’ve learned the hard way that what a man s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:23 AM
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She left as soon as she saw her boundaries violated. Good on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:33 AM
16

This absolutely sounds like something a man would say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 08:59 AM
88

She’s a queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:17 PM
27

Yeah, I hope she tells her parents about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:40 AM
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I’m actually a little concerned for her safety, to be honest. When a guy wants to be the beneficiary of your life insurance that badly, I’d say your days are numbered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:38 AM
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If there’s abuse within the relationship, couple’s therapy is contraindicated anyway. Your therapist would most likely reject the idea of seeing him during your session. Attempting to isolate you from your own therapist really is textbook abusive behavior. Block and delete him ASAP. He’s sounds like he’s escalating the behavior because he’s getting desperate to worm his way back into your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:28 PM
5

I literally find something new to enjoy about it every time I watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:48 AM
13

She should show his face. And she should inform the police that she was taken and held against her will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:33 AM
13

Just gonna leave this here... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DTsdKycVZZ4&list=PL678wZiYwu2SdB2BmWDOdWe9aQVlU44CD&index=22
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:17 AM
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You ladies are being absurd. This guy can get you free refills on any soda AND unlimited breadsticks at TGIFridays! That’s basically just as good as a trust fund. Of course he needs a prenup! Back off, gold diggers! S/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:57 AM
7

My first boyfriend told ALL of our mutual friends that sex with me felt like “throwing a hotdog down a hallway.” I was 14, and a virgin when we met. I was mortified, humiliated, and I remained self-conscious of my vag until my 20’s. Then guess what? I got some experience under my belt, and learned a lot about penises (including their average size). I learned that my first boyfriend had a much smaller-than-average sized penis. I just wish I realized that while we were dating so I could call him o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:11 AM
32

My bank needs to start showing me more gratitude for not robbing them when I’m there. They flaunt their money all the time, they’re totally asking for it. A lot of people would just rob them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:36 PM
28

OMG well said, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:39 AM
58

Being a good woman is our default mode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:56 AM
3

No worries! Your overall point about Christie Smythe is totally accurate. Clymer just likes to jump on the ‘Captain Obvious’ bandwagon on a regular basis for Twitter karma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:15 PM
91

He’s Al Bundy.🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:38 PM
11

He’s being dragged in the comments. 🙂 Except on Twitter, where people who disagree with him are “luxury shaming” all those poor, poverty-stricken gamers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 09:09 AM
27

Men like this deserve homelessness. Do you think a woman would get 63k upvotes if she posted something like “Of course I bought myself a new Gucci purse with my $600 stimulus check! If I’m fucked financially, I’ll at least be fucked with a really dope new purse!”? Do you think she’ll get any sympathy from the internet? No, she would be raked over the coals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:08 AM
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Fucking PREACH, sis! I’ve literally had to choose between feeding my kid, and keeping the electricity running. Sure, we had to shower at the YMCA for a couple weeks, but we had food in our bellies and I felt grateful. This guy definitely does not know what poverty is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:04 AM
17

I guarantee this scrote has a woman in his life enabling this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:48 AM
25

I’ll bet that necrotic tooth in the back of his mouth fucking stinks. So that’s another thing his girlfriend is putting up with. Dump. Him. Let him play his video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:46 AM
25

He’ll let his guard down at some point!😉😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:52 AM
69

Step 1) Take the Game or whatever it is and sell it on Craigslist. Step 2) Take the money and buy yourself something amazing and indulgent. Step 3) Dump, block, and delete him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:38 AM
21

Took the words right out of my mouth. Clymer has been creeping women out for years. How that [cough] person got a job with the HRC is a mystery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:32 AM
27

In return, she should get him an empty PS5 box, fill it with a few rocks to give it weight and a little note that says “Suck it, you gullible POS!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:56 AM
123

So just date men, dude. It’s not that hard. You clearly love male sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:20 PM
27

I just love how her husband and family seem to believe a mother is simply a fungible object in a child’s life. Any woman will do! Just set a woman down in front of any random baby, and she immediately imprints on them to assume the role of mommy. If she does not immediately assume her natural role as “mommy” to any random baby, she is defective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:12 AM
79

Unmatched by any other creature in the known universe, if we’re being honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:32 AM
31

Looks like someone married my ex boyfriend, the poor girl. Listen Carli, if you’re reading this...just serve him those divorce papers, get that alimony, and get out of there. You will feel amazing when you leave his joyless, sorry ass behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 12:30 AM
72

She danced until the end of the song, like she’s required to do. What a gullible dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:56 AM
72

Men are sO iNsEcUrE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:02 AM
90

Buying him underwear and socks places you in the role of Mommy. DO NOT allow yourself to be duped into a mother/son dynamic with your man. My mom asked me why I refused to buy my husband socks. My response was “He has his own money, he has his own car, he knows where WalMart is, and he’s a grown man.” I could never feel sexual attraction for someone that still requires the same care as a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 09:46 AM
2

Approval please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:06 AM
36

It wasn’t that particular article, but pretty close. The article by Julie Bindel interviewed several individual sex workers, where they described the intellectually disabled woman as “extremely sexual” despite her disability. They described how they would try to protect her from the cruelest of Johns, the men that would abuse her simply for being disabled. 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:47 PM
108

I read a great article by Julie Bindel (that I’m having trouble finding) about the infamous Moonlight Bunny Ranch in Nevada, in which Bindel described interviewing the prostituted women working there. The women were not allowed outside at all, were not allowed to own cars or any other way to escape the ranch, and were only allowed to eat the calorie-restricted food provided by the ranch. One of the women working there was severely intellectually disabled, with the mental capacity of a five year …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:56 PM
17

You guys really just need some couples counseling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:53 PM
36

Yes, because it’s so hard to tell whether or not her eyelids are naturally green and purple. JFC, I genuinely don’t know which is worse - his entitlement or his fucking stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:53 AM
2

Maybe I’m naive about how PornHub works, but I thought the content was mostly free? I’m glad the major credit card companies are dropping them and all, but pornsick men will still be getting their fix. Am I mistaken?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:34 AM
245

And please get the license number and call the police. It’s an attempted kidnapping. I mean...that’s some Ted Bundy level shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:35 AM
840

Ladies, please also note that predatory men will pull up next to you as you’re leaving the bar and claim to be your Uber driver. It’s pretty easy for a man to spot when a single woman is looking around as she waits for her ride. This has happened to MULTIPLE friends of mine in my city’s popular entertainment district. I’ve literally known 5 or 6 women who were almost abducted this way. ALWAYS look and make sure the license plate matches your Uber ride and ask them to give you their name!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 12:42 AM
18

And I’m sure the pandemic has made the situation even worse in both of our cities due to unemployment and financial crisis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:15 PM
57

Excellent point. The so-called “ Squatter’s Rights” laws tend to be worse in areas with a bigger homelessness problem. Just FYI. The city doesn’t want your NVM boyfriend to become their problem when he starts living under a bridge, so they write the laws in such a way that it puts a roof over the NVM’s head even if it’s to your detriment. In other words, your home involuntarily just became a homeless shelter. In my city, someone just crashing on your sofa for 3 nights in a row gives the little p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:10 PM
26

If you do a FaceTime pre-date, you may be able to screen him for his living habits if you’re able to see his room in the background. If the room behind him looks nasty over FaceTime, hang up and block/delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:28 AM
74

That post was written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:31 AM
2

I love how your mind works, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:26 AM
5

Ball torture is my kink. Don’t kink shame me. I just need someone open minded enough to explore my new fetish for ball stomping without judging me. Look, this is about self-discovery, ok? Keep your prudish judge mental attitude out of my safe space, got it? You’re on the wrong side of history. Ball stomping is the future.😉😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:41 AM
5

I guess the trick is to knock them down a peg or two, and them dump them. Then, when you’re ready, you can date someone more respectful.😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:11 AM
67

You did the right thing. It would be an interesting social experiment if every woman that’s in a relationship with a porn consumer started masturbating to pictures of chiseled male bodies with huge, thick dicks right in front of their man. If he acts hurt, just tell him to stop being so insecure. The self esteem of your average man wouldn’t last five minutes as a woman with all the bullshit we’re expected to tolerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:06 PM
12

As a CSA victim, this is a great list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:40 PM
13

When I told my 16 year old daughter that I started dating her father when I was 18 and he was 25, she said “That is so disgusting. He was such a creep. He was literally a grown man dating a teenage high school kid.” I couldn’t be more proud of her. I think there’s definitely a ground swell of awareness among teen girls about predatory men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:39 PM
39

What do you want to bet his wife spent WAY more on this man-child’s Christmas gift than he spent on his entire family combined?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:18 AM
179

Has he performed enough oral sex on her lately? Women have needs. Look, women are emotional creatures, ok? We’re biologically wired to seek out deep, powerful emotional connections with other men by receiving cunnalingus. If he’s not into giving oral sex, maybe he should let her peg him every once in a while, as a sign of trust and emotional fidelity. Look, don’t get mad. I didn’t make the rules. You can’t change nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:30 AM
16

Beautifully written, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:50 PM
45

They probably don’t even realize that you’ll still have a hymen even after you’ve had sex. Even a forensic nurse examiner can’t definitively tell whether or not you’re a virgin by the appearance of the hymen. You could literally show one of these scrotes a close-up photo of a woman’s vulva, and I guarantee they wouldn’t even be able to identify which structure is the hymen, let alone determine if there’s been penetration. Let’s face it, these losers can’t even find the clitoris, let alone the hy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 12:42 AM
20

I guarantee that was a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:14 AM
57

“Consent and respect is [sic] key” But not when it comes to respecting a woman’s boundaries when she only consents to a same-sex relationship. Fucking scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:29 AM
74

Whenever I hear a man whining about being enlisted (as if the draft is somehow women’s fault???) I like to remind him that, much like the draft, nearly every war in documented history was started by men. All over the globe, men can’t figure out how to use their big-boy words, so they start wars instead. And then they have the audacity to wonder why women don’t drop everything and literally fight their battles for them. Truly, their audacity is a marvel, isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:56 PM
24

In most US states, taking nude photos without your consent is illegal, possibly even a felony. If it’s still an issue for you, you could definitely consult a lawyer about pressing charges. I’m so sorry he did that to you. That is so incredibly sleazy of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:27 PM
66

Yup. Contrary to populate belief, it’s men who are the most eager to exploit other lonely, horny men. Not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:39 AM
18

That makes a lot of sense. We really are more beautiful with every passing generation, aren’t we?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:34 AM
17

Bingo! Yes, you are correct. My daughter is one of a minority that are virtual learning, where she attends Zoom meetings with her classmates. She says the students are rarely wearing masks, and the teachers don’t bother to enforce the policy. I don’t want to shit on teachers, but I’m disappointed to say the least. But I digress...a kid without a mask poses a real public health hazard, while a girl in a spaghetti strap tanktop hurts no one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:01 AM
53

At my daughter’s school, the girl’s ridiculous dress code is enforced ten times more strictly than the mask policy. I mean, sure, there’s a sizable Coronavirus outbreak at her school with evidence of community spread, but at least our precious boys aren’t distracted by a girl’s wanton shoulders and exposed thighs. Priorities, amiright ladies? Edit: I firmly believe that girl’s dress codes are meant to keep male teachers from being “distracted” most of all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 06:14 AM
13

Sis, you’re 29 and you’re already a homeowner making six figures. You’re a rock star. Please don’t let this man have a claim to your equity. Guard that shit with your life, and look up the laws regarding Common Law marriages and squatter’s rights before you attempt to kick him out. My skin started to crawl a little when I read the part about him “changing after [you’re] married.” It sounded like he’s just riding this one out until he can stake a claim to your assets, one way or another. He’s cer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:41 AM
73

What do you want to bet his main “hobby” is playing video games? I bet his entire post was written because his date had actual passions and interesting things to talk about, and it just made him salty because he can’t exactly reciprocate by talking about how he uses his free time to jerk off and play video games. Does he really think he’s digging deep by asking her to rattle off personality traits? “Well, I’m nice, and I’m smart, and my friends think I’m funny...” Jesus Christ, getting through a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 12:35 AM
70

Just think of how sad and tepid her sex life must be if her idea of “spicing things up in the bedroom” is to watch other women faking an orgasm. I genuinely feel sad for her. Honestly, if you’re not turned on by your partner’s body/sexuality, then you absolutely shouldn’t have sex with them. This is true of both sexes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:05 PM
10

She’s lucky to have a friend with good taste in bubbles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 11:35 PM
67

I’ve done laundry for many different people of all ages over the coarse of my life, so I’ve seen plenty of dirty underwear and boxers. I have never, NEVER seen poop streaks in an adult female’s dirty underwear. I have only seen this disgusting phenomenon with men and boys. So yeah, men have a basic hygiene problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:12 AM
4

If he ever utters the words “boys will be boys” he is trash. Complete garbage. Dump him immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 03:03 AM
24

Nah, he just realized that he will have easier access to her estate and her pension if they were married. Old dogs don’t change their ways. Why change a situationship that benefits him perfectly unless it’s about money? This was financially motivated for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 06:11 AM
24

Knew a “male feminist” from school. He was such an awesome feminist that he campaigned for a leadership position as president of a local feminist organization. He became irrationally angry because he lost. To a woman. Let me repeat that. He was angry because a woman won an election to lead a women’s organization. Instead of him, a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:08 AM
53

Now we just need to get florists to start doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:01 AM
22

You’ve come a long way, sis. I’m really glad that you’re out of that business. Hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:52 PM
126

I used to wait tables in an upscale steakhouse, the kind that had several hidden “speakeasy” banquet rooms for private events. I served many, many bachelor parties there. Because the rooms were completely private, the men would invite strippers and kick out the wait staff. It was allowed by the management, because money always buys silence and complicity, and the customer is always right. I walked in on strippers performing oral sex on the groom-to-be during several different bachelor parties. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:36 AM
65

Men: “Not all men!” Fathers, to their daughters: “Yes all men. Every last goddamn one of them.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:46 AM
78

Saying your name is a cheap sales tactic. Ask any salesperson. It is also a tactic commonly used by pervy weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:40 AM
113

Next time he talks about another woman, she should casually make an off-handed comment about another man: “Yeah, I know what you mean. That’s how I feel about ____. He’s just so handsome and talented.! He’s super confident, too. I don’t know what it is about him. I guess he just has that Big Dick Energy, you know?” Then promptly break up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:40 PM
10

In my opinion, this is the ultimate PickMe position for any woman to take. In this scenario, the woman is knowingly sharing the man’s attention with other women in the hopes that he’ll eventually pick her. She’s letting him triangulate. Also, if more than one of those other women are willing to have sex with him, you can bet your last dollar he’s sleeping with multiple partners, which is tremendously unhealthy for her. But most importantly, he should realize she’s amazing and special really earl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:01 AM
20

It’s one thing I really love and appreciate about this subreddit: when the mods say FDS is for females only, they don’t entertain a bunch of LibFem rubbish about the definition of a female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:31 PM
24

Funny how those “non-binary” people with a penis seem to interrupt just as frequently as any other person with a penis.🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:57 PM
13

It seems like the people who want to exploit thirsty, insecure men the most are...other men. All the PUA websites and subreddits are littered with “coaches” trying to sell their advice to horny doofuses. Remember Ashley Madison, that dating website for cheating spouses that got hacked a few years ago? It was designed and operated by men, and it was nothing but a dystopian cyber hellscape filled with thousands of fake female profiles designed to extort married LVM. Men really are shameless gold d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:57 AM
32

And acne.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:32 AM
7

Would you DM me as well? Congrats on your business!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:20 PM
26

I read something a while back (can’t remember where) that suggested that a county’s higher divorce rate was evidence of a healthier society. It’s a generalization, of course, but I thought it made an interesting point. Since women initiate divorce far more often than men, it shows that society has become more accepting of women leaving toxic or abusive marriages behind. Just thought it was interesting because so many institutions screech about divorce causing moral decay and the destabilization …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 07:23 AM
20

I remember back in the day I used to low-key brag about how I wasn’t a “high maintenance” woman. Then it hit me: being low maintenance isn’t something to brag about. House plants are low maintenance. I am not. I am a human being with value and needs and sovereignty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:36 PM
24

To be fair, most of our criticisms here are pretty constructive. When we ask “Why can’t men practice better skin care?” or “Why don’t men have real hobbies instead of video games so they’ll develop social skills?” or even “Why can’t men at least try to use Rogaine before they lose all their hair?” these questions offer men plenty of room for real improvement. The comments here offer men valuable insights, but they just want to see them banished so they can continue jerking off to porn and wonder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:29 PM
4

Right?! That whole sub is mostly just funny posts that are obviously meant to be humorous, or little tricks to keep from getting dicked over by the system. But this guy straight up just asked how to ruin another human being’s life. Edit: I wonder how those same commenters would react if a woman posted something like “How do I make a guy fall in love with me and then scam him for every dime that he’s worth?” They’d probably lose their minds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:29 PM
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It has been established that the male IQ is dropping. If you look it up, the headlines will say “The human IQ is dropping...” but it’s not the human IQ, it’s specifically the male IQ. Funny how when something is unflattering to men, the narrative will always try to dilute the issue to make it sound like it’s a human problem instead of a male problem, huh? Studies show that the female IQ, on the other hand, has risen to slightly exceed men’s since the 1950’s, likely because their newfound access …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:07 AM
2

So if your husband stares at other women, it’s shitty and disrespectful. But if he spends your shared income as a married couple to stare at other women, it’s totally fine? WTF? Like she’s literally losing money to her LVM’s shitty behavior. Cut your losses. Leave him, sis. Take the money that he would’ve spent at the strip clubs and make a better life for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:12 PM
7

Men are so melodramatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:39 PM
21

Love how he’s fed her a false dichotomy, and she’s eating it up: “But honey, if I don’t go in there and objectify other women, I’ll freeze to death outside! Those are literally my only two options: leer at women or certain death. Do you want me to literally die?!?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:34 PM
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“Too bad you’re short. Tall guys are the best.” Good comeback. I wish I could think on my feet this well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:55 PM
6

You did the right thing. You saw the red flag, and you acknowledged that awful feeling in your gut instead of pushing it to the back of your mind. You recognized your (ex) boyfriend’s attempt at intellectual masturbation and gaslighting, and you shut that shit down. That was swift and decisive, OP. Good on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:47 PM
4

I think this is a very healthy mentality, sis. Totally agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:35 AM
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I predict that’s gonna be the go-to excuse used by every pedophile from now on. “It’s not kiddie porn, officer, I swear! It’s just sOcIaL cOmMeNtArY about how child porn is bad. Don’t be so narrow-minded.” Filming crotch shots of an 11 year old child twerking is not an intellectual pursuit. It’s not avant-garde. It’s not edgy. It’s not art. It’s just child porn (albeit soft-core, but still).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:29 AM
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Check his hard drive, sis. Your man sounds like he’s in to underage porn (better known as child rape/trafficking). Like seriously, who watches blatant child exploitation and says “hmmm...gonna need to watch more of that shit just to make sure.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 09:57 AM
5

My thoughts exactly! Anyone who needs a reward for brushing their teeth is either an underage child or a highly intellectually disabled adult. Either way, it’s profoundly wrong to have sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:51 AM
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Hmmm. This is...an interesting take. This advice doesn’t feel very sympathetic to teenage girls to me.🤨 I feel that saying “This is none of your concern” or framing her reaching out as a request to “referee” her romantic life is a bit dismissive. I will most likely avoid conversation stoppers like this in the future because it shuts down a valuable opportunity to have a dialogue with my daughter about dating and sexuality. I still appreciate your thoughts, though. Thank you for your feedback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:47 AM
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Totally agree. It doesn’t help that we’re talking about kids here, so you can’t expect them to process this stuff in a mature way. The scope of what is “normal” for a kid to feel is pretty broad. At least it’s universally true to say that that mixed signals are never a good thing at any age. You’re never too young to learn to walk away from a love interest that makes you feel unseen and uncared for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:15 PM
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That’s a really good point. It would be heartbreaking to learn that he’s not gay by watching him date another girl. It’s a tough lesson to learn at any age. At 16, if someone had told me “He’s just not that in to you” they may have meant well, and they would’ve been technically correct, but I would’ve silently interpreted the message to mean “I am not worthy of his interest.” It’s tough for young girls to cope with disappointment or rejection in a healthy way. Self esteem is a tricky concept to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:56 PM
3

Love this, good advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:15 PM
5

Agreed!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:20 PM
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If your daughter had a crush on someone who might be gay, how would you approach it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:13 PM
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Edit: I agree with everyone here about my suggestion that he’s gay. I think it may have sounded inappropriate. I don’t mean it in a derogatory way, but I think my wording could’ve been much better. I’ve known him since he was 7, and I think my daughter should consider that he really may not be interested in girls. Ultimately, his lack of interest should tell her to move on, regardless of what his sexual orientation is. Now that I think about it, if he were actually gay, I feel like he would be m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:42 PM
35

You’re totally right. Fair enough. My husband said the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:33 PM
6

Sis, you’re about to be a badass NURSE with an awesome career. It takes a lot of ambition and intelligence to get through nursing school. You also go to the gym, so I know you’re taking care of yourself. You have so much going for you...why on earth would you settle for the creepy guy that stares at women? Please tell him he’s an embarrassing douche bag. Please tell him you’re too embarrassed by his creepy behavior to date him, and that he’s making every woman around him uncomfortable. He deserv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:46 AM
4

Kick him to the curb, sis. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. He hasn’t even admitted that he has an addiction. There’s really nothing either of you can do until he’s admitted he has a problem. And if he’s addicted to infidelity...well, that’s just fundamentally incompatible with a healthy relationship. Masturbating at work...Jesus fucking Christ I hope he gets fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:31 AM
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After 3 dates, in my opinion. He should realize you’re pretty special by 3 dates. Also many (if not most) other women would have slept with him by then, so if he’s still multi-dating then you can be nearly certain that he’s sleeping with multiple women, which is super unhealthy. My husband asked me to be exclusive with him at exactly 2 weeks, and I could tell that he wanted to ask me before then, but he didn’t want to seem too eager. It was pretty cute.😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:32 AM
35

Imagine if you had initially selected “serial killer.” Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:21 AM
56

Your boyfriend sounds coercive, controlling, manipulative, rapey, and disrespectful. Also, no man should ever possess nude pictures of you. Ever. Nobody has a right to see you naked on demand without your express consent. If a man wants to see you naked, he needs to EARN the privilege each and every time by being caring and respectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:51 AM
12

When my husband and I travel, we ask friends to pet sit our dogs. We always ask weeks in advance, sometimes even months. We went to Europe for 2 weeks last year, and we paid our friend $400 to watch the dogs. $400!!!! But dogs need lots of love and care and plenty of attention, not just a potty break twice a day while they spend the rest of their time in a cage, so paying someone a handsome sum of money is the only appropriate thing to do. It pisses me off that your “boyfriend” is a shitty dog o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:45 PM
5

If you got a score of 4 on r/truerateme, you’re probably a total goddess. The women that post their pics on that sub are objectively beautiful, but if a commenter gives her a good score, he is accused of “white knighting” and banned. They are extremely misogynistic and have no credibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:01 AM
6

He sounds like Eurotrash. If he’s making racially questionable statements that even his friends are calling him out on, he’s probably racist. There’s plenty of racism in Europe. Just remember: there’s no one nicer than a man that hasn’t had sex with you yet. He seems like he’s flakey and unstable. He sounds like he’s love-bombing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:19 PM
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Before I was married, I was never comfortable with seeing guys that were multi-dating. First of all, multi-dating for a man usually means he’s having sex with as many of his dates as he can, and it’s not safe or healthy for me to be involved with someone like that. I don’t want any trashy, disease-riddled dick inside me. Also, I think my value in a relationship is incredibly obvious, and I expect a man to realize this pretty quickly. He doesn’t have to present me with a diamond ring on the secon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:11 PM
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Yikes...this is a really bad take. The only mold I expect men to fit is the one where they respect my boundaries. Also, please pay attention if your dog barks at him. Could be a very real warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:25 AM
80

Don’t deliver yourself to a man you’ve never met at his beck and call. That’s what escorts do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:29 AM
13

Yes, and I was so hurt. And when he bought me that necklace, it looked like something you would buy for a 9 year old girl. Like no grown ass woman is gonna wear a heart necklace from Claire’s Boutique.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:18 AM
3

Oh this is just fucking perfect. Just exactly what we need in the middle of a pandemic. Jesus wept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:38 PM
70

For our first Christmas together, I bought my ex a new guitar. It was an electric-acoustic Taylor, and I saved up my tips for months to buy it. I was 19. Our mutual friends warned him that his Christmas gift was going to be really special so he should probably buy me something nice. He ended up buying me a freestanding toilet paper holder. “It’s so we don’t have to set the roll of toilet paper on the back of the toilet anymore!” he explained. I was crushed. Fast forward a few years. He got me a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:34 PM
6

Oh I see. Sorry, thought it was on OLD. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:15 AM
24

My daughter’s father treated me this way. Jesus, this could have been me 20 years ago. Thank fucking god I divorced that sleazy piece of shit. I haven’t got the stomach to tell my daughter the kind of man her dad really is. Yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 10:05 AM
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It’s ok to have boundaries. It’s not rude, it’s completely healthy. He is a complete stranger, and you don’t owe anything to him. I suggest blocking him with no reply, and no chance to argue. But if you really want to respond, you could say “I’m not interested anymore, but best of luck to you out there. Take care.” And then block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:56 AM
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So, um...did he ever explain how exactly Christianity changes the size and shape of a woman’s vulva? Also, it seems he’s overlooked the fact that Taylor Swift is a Christian, and very public about it. And how did he manage to get a woman pregnant without ever seeing a normal vulva? I have so many questions for this man.... Edit: oh dear god this was originally written by a woman. This is so unsettling. Hasn’t she ever looked in a mirror?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:23 PM
220

Do. Not. Send. Him. Nudes. He will use them for extortion or to control you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:16 AM
53

I hope he’s getting dragged by Asian women in the comments for that awful post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:35 PM
3

For me, the worst part of the cervical exam is the speculum placement. Even if the OB/GYN is super gentle and considerate, the experience of having a device shoved inside to crank me open while I’m in such an utterly vulnerable position is terrifying. I really wish there was a protocol to offer patients a light dose of Xanax beforehand so it wouldn’t be so panic-inducing. I’ve had to do forensic exams on my patients before, and I feel so terrible putting them through the same procedure after the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:10 PM
2

License To Carry. It’s a legal permit to carry a loaded firearm. He’s in to guns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:50 AM
8

If he doesn’t want to date an FDS woman, he’ll never have to. After all, an FDS woman is never gonna chase him. Win-win. But of course that’s not what this is about, is it? This is really about his visceral fear that more and more women will adopt an FDS mentality and value themselves more, and he would have a more difficult time using them for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:54 AM
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His rhetoric is lifted straight out of PUA forums. “Leave her better than you found her” is a common expression among these scrotes. What do you wanna bet the women (“subs”) don’t remember their experiences with him quite so fondly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:35 PM
6

I decided that next time I encounter someone claiming FDS is a hate group, I’ll say something like “I would love to join you in condemning FDS as a hate group, but I couldn’t find any examples of it. Would you mind citing some examples of hateful activity on that sub? I tried looking on the sub myself, but all I could find was a community of women dedicated to identifying predatory men and asserting healthy boundaries.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:59 AM
23

This scrote had the audacity to call his 5 year old daughter “dramatic” after storming out of his child’s gender reveal party. JFC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:44 AM
15

Her boyfriend is a pedophile. She needs to recognize the red flag and get the hell away ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:35 PM
3

Yes! Or at least talk to a lawyer first before taking drastic steps to catch your spouse cheating. My comment wasn’t even about defending a cheater. It was about speaking out against a criminally voyeuristic husband. I was also about calling out a blatant double standard between how men are allowed to assuage their suspicions by any means necessary, yet women are expected to swallow their suspicions and are gaslit whenever they take basic measures to investigate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:03 AM
2

OLD is so awful. Can you imagine meeting this guy at a party? Can you imagine watching him have an absolute meltdown in front of everyone while you’re just trying to make chit chat? I really hope she reported him. This guy is a liability to the dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:42 AM
9

Despite the down votes and the negative comments, my point still stands: women are consistently raked over the coals for even non-criminal acts like peaking at her partner’s cellphone, while men get away with blatant felonies and unthinkable acts of revenge. Many men don’t just stop at snooping through their partner’s cell phone or checking her browser history. They create whole ass websites dedicated to ruining her life with revenge porn. Let’s all keep that in mind before we brand her with a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 06:56 AM
9

There’s no way to know what he did with the footage. That’s why the law punishes this kind of crime so heavily. The footage of his soon-to-be ex wife could travel the globe for years before she finds out. The video could be up on Pornhub with millions of views by now, for all she knows. These kinds of things happen to women every day. (Side note: I meant no offense by calling you “sis.” I wasn’t being facetious. You called me sis in your first comment, so I was responding in kind. I’m ok with no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:39 AM
5

No one said he doesn’t have a right to know the truth. What I am saying, on no uncertain terms, is that he never never NEVER has a right to film a woman in her bedroom without her consent, whether she’s changing clothes, sleeping, or having sex. It’s a felony, and he could wind up listed as a sex offender. Men constantly feel justified committing felonies against women when they suspect cheating, and there are countless people that would defend them. I’m curious to know how Redditors would respo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:04 AM
2

You would think. I’ve been cheated on, but I never thought to literally secretly film my ex husband pile driving another woman to feel justified in divorcing him. I’ll snoop around whenever I feel suspicious, but I won’t break the law to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:48 AM
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Oh she definitely fucked up! She’s a LVW. But even a LVW shouldn’t have to be the victim of a felony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:43 AM
11

You might want to check the laws in your state first, sis. Planting hidden cameras in someone’s bedroom and filming them having sex could get you a prison sentence. It goes way beyond snooping. Edit: he could have placed a camera near his front door, or outside the bedroom door to avoid this controversy. But he hid the camera where he could visualize her having sex, which is pretty gross. He basically created revenge porn. Even if all she did in her bedroom was sleep, she should be livid that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:04 AM
14

Whenever a woman “snoops” through her husband’s emails, or searches his browser history to find evidence of cheating, she is accused of violating his privacy, as if it was worse than cheating. But there’s no law against snooping through his computer. There are, however, very robust laws against filming someone having sex without their consent. In my state, it’s a felony offense. Planting hidden cameras in someone’s bedroom could land you in prison for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:02 AM
33

It would be interesting to see his reaction if you accepted his “boys will be boys” argument at face value, but then countered it by casually explaining why you need to go out and form a deep emotional connection with other men. Cuz you know, women are just more emotional. “I get it, sweetie. You stare at other women because men are just visual creatures. It’s totally cool. But listen, I’m going out tonight, and I may form an incredibly intimate, deep, emotional soul connection with another man.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:19 PM
11

You could post this to r/FDSsuperfans. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:20 PM
16

Maybe you can speak to an attorney and make your get-away plan while your husband is busy being unfaithful. If there’s been infidelity on his part, it may get you better terms in a divorce. Also, I agree with the other commenters. It sounds like he might be gay. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Imagine how great it will feel to move on to the next chapter in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:39 AM
1

If a man with a deformity or a disability still thinks his money entitles him to a young woman’s body, then he’s obviously hideous on the inside, too. I don’t think the desire for a sugar baby is a function of looks or ability, it’s simply a way to rationalize male entitlement. After all, we don’t see disabled women targeting young men for prostitution with some sob story about being too ugly for a real partner. If an ugly man is lonely for a partner, why doesn’t he just date someone who is his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:28 PM
6

Am I the only one that thinks asking your partner about his “celebrity crushes” or his “dream girl” is a terrible idea? It’s almost as bad as asking him which of your friends he finds attractive. It just emboldens him to objectify other women right in front of you. I used to ask men these kinds of things when I was younger, but now I look back and realize it was super cringy PickMe behavior, like I was desperately trying to prove how totally-not-insecure I was by inviting him to be “honest” abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 11:33 AM
2

Psssst! Calling someone an asshole doesn’t debunk them. Pass it on!😁😁😁
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 01:40 AM
2

Heeeeyyyy, wait a minute....are you saying that excusing shitty behavior by claiming it’s “natural” and “instinctive” is a bad idea?? Maybe you should let OP know. Meanwhile, you’ve helped me prove exactly why OP is wrong for staring at women and making excuses. Thank you for being my lovely assistance today. You did great.😁
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:38 AM
3

You’re just being too sensitive. You should take it as a compliment. It’s just my animal instinct to recognize you as an incel. It’s only natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:11 AM
3

That’s exactly my point, though. Any normal human (man or woman) would be totally uncomfortable with OP staring at their ass, and they would understandably turn around and say “What the fuck are you staring at!?” And if OP offered the same repulsive excuse to a man (“Oh I was just admiring the way your ass looks in those pants, sir. You should take it as a compliment.”) he would probably get the shit kicked out of him. OP’s entire post is cringy as fuck. If you disagree, then by all means keep s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:06 AM
5

Incel’s gonna incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 08:40 PM
10

And yet, if he found himself in a jungle with a giant gorilla staring him down, I really doubt he would be scratching his head saying “Durp durp! What does it all mean? Maybe that gorilla is just trying to pay me a compliment.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:07 PM
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Yeah, it’s crazy how men don’t tell me how they “just can’t help staring” when my 6’ 5” husband is standing right next to me. All the sudden, they forget how “natural” it is and keep their fucking eyes to themselves. Edit: can you imagine what would happen if men tried to justify staring at me right in front of my husband? “I just can’t help it, bruh. Your wife is so hot. It’s just my animal instinct, bro.” Yeah. That’s not gonna happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:19 AM
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The thing is they know EXACTLY what happens to men when they go to prison, and they are (very rightfully) afraid of it. So yeah, they can already vividly imagine exactly what it’s like to be leered at by men. They know exactly how uncomfortable and afraid it would make them feel, they’re just telling us that they literally don’t care and intend to do it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 10:35 AM
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What do you want to bet he doesn’t stare at women when their boyfriends are standing nearby? If it were “just natural” or he “just can’t help it” then you’d think he would behave the same way if her man were standing right there. They’re just totally unable to stop themselves, amiright ladies? For some mysterious reason, I never get sexually harassed or stared down when my husband is with me. Only when I’m all alone and I appear vulnerable. Go figure. Like I said - it’s inherently predatory beha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:29 AM
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I commented that staring is universally understood throughout most of the Animal Kingdom as threatening behavior. Why should it be different for human women? Here’s a challenge for all the male lurkers: Go to the gym and stand behind another man and stare at his ass while he’s doing squats. Just stand there and stare. Do this repeatedly every time you see a man at the squat bar. My guess is every man you stare at will show very visible signs of displeasure and discomfort. A few will turn around …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:32 AM
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Staring is widely recognized as threatening behavior in most animal species, including humans. Why would you expect a human woman to react any differently? Have you tried staring at a man the same way you stare at a woman in yoga pants? Try it sometime and report back to us. My guess is you won’t even try it because you know you’ll get punched in the throat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 07:44 AM
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I saw a video posted by a porn actress who gave a gory description of being beaten and raped by her costar while filming. After the filming, the director had her sit in front of the camera to state that she was not raped in order to get paid for the scene. These after-the-fact statements of “consent” are common in the porn industry, especially when there’s BDSM involved. It’s how they shirk liability for rape. But how are these statements considered legally legitimate? If a suspect is beaten by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:01 AM
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“That is clearly a picture of a child’s penis, sir. This means you are in possession of child pornography, which you are attempting to distribute. This is a felony. I am contacting the police now with your name and personal details. I am also contacting your employer with screenshots.” I’ve found this method works beautifully as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 10:05 PM
12

Love this. Blockanda forever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:35 PM
82

This probably qualifies her for a protective order. She should get in touch with her local police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 08:42 PM
3

Lol, I understand.🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:57 PM
3

Fair enough, since it’s not specifically about dating. 🙂 But personally, I like to see posts that call out some of the more suspicious elements of LVM behavior. If a recovering PickMe was dating a man that went on a diatribe about how she’s trying too hard to protect her children from pedophiles, I’d like to think it would be helpful for her to see this post and learn to recognize the 🚩.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:57 PM
4

Or he did something creepy and got called out...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:35 PM
50

I was watching a news segment once about how good Samaritans should approach children if they appear to be lost. Undercover footage showed a middle aged man approach a little girl who was crying for her mother. He kept an appropriate distance, assured that he was getting mall security to help her, and even showed her a picture of his own children (from a respectful distance). Men know how to act appropriately, they just don’t like being held accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:31 PM
65

“Sorry, I joined this dating app to look for dates. I already have friends to ‘hang out’ with. Maybe you should try Bumble BFF.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:10 AM
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And if a pediatric patient (or their family) requested female caregivers only, I bet your nurse friend wouldn’t throw a fucking tantrum over it. I’m in charge of staff assignments on my unit. It’s not uncommon for female patients to request female caregivers only. My male staff members don’t complain about it, they just move on to the next patient because they’re professionals. They understand that patients are completely vulnerable, and they just want them to feel safe. Unlike most male Reddito…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:50 AM
47

Yup. Definitely ties in with the reluctance that some companies have hiring female employees for fear of being sued for sexual harassment. The creep that complains about HR harassment policies is always the same creep that goes up to women in the office and says “WHERE’S MY HUUUUG?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:16 AM
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One Redditor offered an anecdotal example of a “good guy” who was driving past a pond and noticed a child drowning. He kept driving because he was “afraid of how it would look,” and because he had legal issues already. So he let the child drown. And that was supposed to be an example of a “nice guy.” A man that knowingly let a child drown to save his own skin. There were soooo many comments claiming that this was the perfect example of how child safeguarding has gone too far, as if he were the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:16 AM
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To make matters worse, he unironically uses Leonardo DiCaprio as an example of a hapless victim of overprotective safeguarding. Apparently he doesn’t realize that DiCaprio groomed his current girlfriend since she was eleven years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:17 AM
2

So if he can be low-effort and trashy, then she can be low-effort and trashy as well, right? It would’ve been funny if she had agreed to go on a date to Applebee’s and showed up in sweatpants with no makeup on. In between belches, she could say “I’m so glad we decided to skip the part where we try to make a good first impression on each other. I feel so comfortable and down to earth with you!” -and then let out a big fart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:52 PM
23

It’s hilarious that he uses black women as the quintessential example of an ugly FDS woman, but those are exactly the women that are swiping left on him and ghosting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:19 PM
49

The way this man speaks of black women is fucking atrocious. It’s shocking how poorly (too many) black men treat black women. Abysmal. Solidarity, you guys. May you always vet ruthlessly, identify these scrotes early, and toss them out decisively with the rest of the trash. (Ok, did this guy really just brag about getting 4 women to want to date him? 4?? FOUR?? He’s been under quarantine at home for six weeks with nothing but time on his hands to message hundreds of women on OLD, and he could on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:26 PM
2

If he makes flirty or sexual comments about how “innocent” you look, it’s a huge red flag. Predators fetishize innocent above all other things. Conversely, if he comments on how other women (particularly older women) are dirty, unclean, or uses misogynistic slurs like “whore”, it’s time to GTFO. Both of these kinds of comments indicate that he has a Madonna/Whore complex, the hallmark of every predatory misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:43 PM
21

Nah, this is exactly what the vetting process is for. Your radar is in good shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:30 AM
11

I really wish L&D units would institute a policy forbidding gaming consoles. The TV in a hospital room is for the patient only. If you’re not there to give 100% of your time and attention to the laboring woman or the newborn infant, then you flat out shouldn’t be there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:16 AM
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It’s so sad that there are young women out there that are that beautiful, but still feel like they need validation from men. The thing is...women that beautiful are constantly told that they’re beautiful and get tons of attention from men, yet that doesn’t bring them enough confidence to keep them from seeking validation from men over the internet. It just goes to show you that being the object of men’s desire will never make you feel good about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:01 AM
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Most of the commenters over there appear to be men. Men have a vested interest in keeping women’s self esteem low. A beautiful, confident woman is literally terrifying to them. Like literally...the women posting on that subreddit look like angels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 12:24 AM
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Let’s also keep in mind that the “average” looking women he’s complaining about are probably much more attractive than him. What I’ve consistently noticed (and this is backed up by subreddits like r/truerateme) is that men rate themselves and other men on a much more forgiving scale than women. It’s skewed to the point where a flawlessly cute woman is given the same average rating as a bald, overweight troll of a man. Men just can’t seem to figure out that they need to offer more than just their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:35 PM
2

I was reading about how MGTOW got quarantined, and the men of reddit we’re losing their minds. Tons of comments were complaining about how FDS was just as toxic, so I popped over for a look. I joined immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:23 PM
19

Generations of men are watching porn literally every day, yet most of them still can’t find the fucking clit. But sure, dude, keep blaming women for wanting better lovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:21 AM
8

Bruh, way to out yourself for being bad in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 09:58 PM
3

You kinda hit the nail on the head. Studies show that male pedophiles statistically tend to have lower IQs. They also display poor interpersonal and social skills. This doesn’t exactly explain Jeffrey Epstein, but for your average male pedophile, this definitely makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:12 PM
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Oh wow, I was in an eerily similar situation! Except the LVM was already an established message therapist. Just a word of warning: young men often get into message therapy for creepy reasons. The LVM I was seeing would speak very professionally about how he was just interested in physical therapy stuff and using his skills to help people, but then he confided in me that he would get an erection if his client moaned a little while massaging her. He constantly treated his clientele like it was his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:31 PM
12

Love this idea. If you know what school he works for, you can contact their administration with these screenshots. Being creepy on a dating app certainly isn’t a crime, and maybe not a reason to fire him, but his comments raise some very specific red flags that I’m sure would get their attention. Any agency that works with special needs kids would be alarmed at his comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:24 PM
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This man fetishizes innocence, relishes the belief that you are inexperienced, and seems obsessed with “cleanliness.” This tells us a few things. This sounds like conjecture, but bear with me. 1) He has a small penis and/or is terrible in bed. He prefers women & girls that he believes are inexperienced because he hopes they’re too naive to realize how inadequate he is. 2) He may be a pedo. Above all other things pedophiles sexualize innocence and vulnerability. 3) He is deeply misogynistic. He’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 04:12 PM
31

Such a good, succinct list! May I add the inevitable No True Scotsman Fallacy that comes up every time: “That abusive man isn’t a real member of the BDSM community” or “That’s not real BDSM!” Happens every. single. fucking. time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:15 AM
3

Sounds like one of the “friends” he was going to visit was another woman he was intending to hook up with that probably fell through. I think you might have been the backup plan. Or he was able to score a date with another woman on OLD who was closer to home. It seems like he’s an LVM that had a fairly sudden change in circumstances, and he felt he had a better chance of getting laid elsewhere. If that’s the case (and we all know that it is), I hope he gets catfished really hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:35 PM
4

He doesn’t respect your boundaries, and doesn’t listen when you tell him you’re uncomfortable with the way he’s speaking to you. He sounds aggressive and angry. Seems like your “fwb” situation isn’t very friendly and has no real benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:23 AM
25

Can confirm. I waited tables for 15 years, mostly in upscale dining. I just want to make you aware of another nearly identical scam that men would consistently pull: You calculate the cost of your meal + a nice tip. You put the cash on the table. $50 for the meal + $10 for the tip. $60 total. Meanwhile, he puts a credit card on the table. You tell the waitress you’re slitting the bill. The waitress can’t assume how much of that cash is for her tip (it is considered very rude in the States, and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:12 AM
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To the male lurkers on here: It doesn’t matter if your lover literally begs you to strangle her during sex, if you are the kind of person that could orgasm at the sight of a woman being strangled, then YOU are the fucking problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:23 PM
6

And men have the audacity to complain when a woman accepts a free dinner. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:57 PM
16

And they need to immediately retry all cases that involved “rough sex gone wrong “ as a defense, if possible. (I confess I am ignorant of the UK court system. It would be difficult to get a retrial of a ‘rough sex gone wrong’ case in the US, too, but not impossible. Sisters in the UK, please feel free to correct me.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:39 AM
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I would write to the neighbor and let them know that there is a pervert spying on them. I would publicly out him, see if he wants to play the same word games and rationalize his behavior to the girl’s mom and dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:01 AM
30

As if the restaurant & the ambiance isn’t an enormous part of “quality time.” Jesus. By this logic, LVM will start insisting on dumpster diving for your next date and acting butt hurt if you don’t appreciate his attempt at quality time. And for the love of god, Grandma Hattie, work on your self esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:38 AM
3

This video would’ve been more accurate and hard hitting if they hadn’t omitted one very, very important concept: The Orgasm Gap. In hetero relationships, women often don’t orgasm with every sexual encounter. This gap is much smaller in loving, committed relationships where the man genuinely cares and is invested in making her happy in bed. However, for men that just want to “pump and dump,” their noncommittal attitude and lack of investment results in a shitty, disappointing, and completely sub-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:27 AM
2

There’s plenty of bad information to point out from that video, but just to name a couple things: *Men’s fertility does, in fact, diminish with age, just like women’s. Don’t believe me? Call a local sperm bank and ask if they’ll accept donors over 40 years old (Spoiler alert: they won’t). The quality and quantity of sperm begins to deteriorate by about age 34, reducing a man’s chances of having a healthy child. *The video claims that men are in the driver’s seat when demanding casual sex, but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:51 AM
4

If she was trying to get pregnant, I doubt she would have insisted on using a condom. Also, here’s a short list of medical conditions that effect a woman’s candidacy for birth control. Many of the conditions listed can also lead to fertility issues. https://www.reproductiveaccess.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/chart.pdf So many men are paranoid that a women are trying to “steal” their sperm, which is literally impossible to do with consensual sex. He left sperm inside of her like an irresponsibl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:30 AM
2

So this woman views prostitutes/sex workers as a subclass of human that should be offered up to homicidal rapists. They literally want these sex workers to absorb male violence so that more privileged women won’t have to. They are actually arguing for this openly. My god, this really is one of the darkest examples of Pickme behavior I’ve ever seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:45 AM
27

That’s a weird thing to emphasize over and over again out of the blue. Sound like he was setting you up from the very beginning to be blindly trusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:37 AM
58

I still have my daughter’s umbilical stump, the hair from her first haircut, and a bunch of her baby teeth. I may even have clippings from the first time I trimmed her tiny little fingernails as a newborn. I don’t care if it’s weird, she’s my baby, and I may never get to do those things again as a mom. If a boyfriend threw those things away I would go fucking ballistic on him. That guy sounds like absolute racist trash. I hope she sends someone else back there to pick up the recovered pouch. Som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 09:33 AM
13

Yes yes! Of course. International Man of Misery: he’ll drive for hours to share his desperation and HPV with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:12 AM
35

Ah yes, this man is truly shrouded in “mistery”...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:48 AM
30

When he guilt trips you because you didn’t “give” him a boy, it’s the perfect time to remind him that his sperm is what determines whether the baby is male or female. Flip the script on his ignorant ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:41 PM
36

This reads like women are consistently losing interest in him after getting to know him for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:08 PM
40

If he makes flirty or sexual comments about how innocent you look, it’s a huge red flag that he’s a pedo. When pedophiles describe what they like most about their underage victims, they use the word “innocence” repeatedly. Pedophiles fetishize innocence and vulnerability above all other things. There’s other synonyms that can apply, too. Words like angelic, or pure for example. If he comments on how small and defenseless you seem (in a sexual way), that’s another red flag. Hope that helps. Stay …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:22 AM
34

She probably has, but think of all that sweet, sweet male validation! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 02:00 AM
70

So toxic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:29 PM
65

Seriously! I mean men have literally started whole ass wars because of toxic masculinity, but yeah sure Sally gossiping about Jessica’s weight is totally just as bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:15 PM
147

Let’s hope not, but I’ve heard Pickmeishas say similar things.☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:07 PM
225

Sorry, I’m just totally sick of these disingenuous arguments. What people are usually talking about when they discuss “toxic femininity” is really just gossipy or mean-spirited behavior from women. That’s it. However, when we discuss “toxic masculinity,” we’re usually talking about the emotional retardation and entitlement from men which leads directly to rape, murder, domestic violence, stalking, street harassment....the list of toxic behavior goes on and on. There’s no comparison. There’s no r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:04 PM
3

Oh dear god I hope he didn’t learn all his sex moves from porn. How awful for his partner. Porn users are so, so bad in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:29 PM
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Men: “We love porn because we’re very visual creatures. Women just aren’t as visually stimulated as we are.” Also men: “Why won’t women date short, fat, bald men?!? Waaaaaaahhh!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:59 PM
19

Can you imagine taking a bunch of selfies for your OLD profile and settling on that as the winner??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:33 AM
33

Wow. That dead-eyed stare is really something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:25 PM
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Maybe you could show this to HR. That email was highly inappropriate. “Virginal beauty”??? That’s never an ok thing to say to a colleague. It’s infantilizing and fetishizing at the same time. Yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:18 PM
5

I’m a little confused as to how this guy could pass as a HVM for you? Maybe it would help to make a list of his traits that you believe are high value? To be honest, I saw nothing redeeming about him in that post. Just a looooong list of LVM traits. Is there any chance you could stay somewhere else for a while to clear your head and talk to someone you trust?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 10:19 AM
12

Happy, happy birthday, sis!! Now that you’re single, I hope you treat yourself to something really fun and indulgent, since you don’t have that dumb LVM scrote weighing you down anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 03:58 AM
22

I understand completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 08:28 PM
88

Isn’t it wild how some people use their trauma to actually become a better, more compassionate person?? It is truly a trait that is central to any HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:06 AM
6

I hang out with my sis whenever I can, but she doesn’t show up with flowers, lol! She worked in a flower boutique, though, so I’m sure she has a whole other perspective on flowers. I don’t know. If a male friend learned that I got dumped and offered to hang out with me, I would be kind of offended if he showed up with a bouquet of roses. It would make me think he’s being opportunistic and trying to hook up with me while I’m on the rebound. That’s why I wouldn’t want to see the same gesture from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 10:39 PM
4

I buy my mother orchids on Mother’s Day. My father sent me a really beautiful pot with a succulent and cacti arrangement for my birthday last year. My brother once bought me a lovely print of Van Gogh’s Sunflowers from Amsterdam. He had the print professionally matted and framed. Maybe that counts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:04 PM
0

I’ve gone out with my sister, too! Never presented her with a dozen roses, though. Because that would be weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:50 PM
-11

No, I think I’m the only one willing to outwardly dissent on this particular topic. I have wonderful men in my family, including a HVM brother. He knows how to observe boundaries and understands that romantic overtures have no place in a sibling relationship. I’m pretty damn sure there are plenty of women that are quietly mortified at the idea of their brother taking them out on a fake date. But if you disagree, then just downvote and move along. No hard feelings.🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:46 PM
-21

A dozen long stem roses has romantic implications. Presenting a young woman with a bouquet of roses and saying “Make yourself look beautiful, I’m taking you out!” also has romantic implications. That is courting behavior. I wouldn’t feel comfortable at all accepting this behavior from anyone strictly platonic. A brother should never behave like a high school sweetheart. My brother (who I’m very close to) will always lend me a sympathetic ear. But the brother in the video essentially saying “That…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:39 PM
-24

I’m sorry, but it would make me incredibly uncomfortable if my brother did this. Even if he wasn’t filming it. I have no desire to go on a fake date with my brother. I can’t be the only one that feels this way? I really do get incest vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:36 AM
98

There was a time when I was into older guys (yuck). But at age 25, an older man for me was 35 or so. Not 51 fucking years old! That’s just geriatric. The only thing a 25 year old woman would think when she sees that guy would be “Aw! Look at that cute little old man!” We all remember what it was like at 25. We weren’t lusting after someone’s grandfather. Jesus, these guys are delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 09:27 AM
20

He doesn’t want to be held responsible when he does something horrible and selfish. If you ever call him out or express yourself, he’ll accuse you of being “dramatic.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:33 AM
12

Yup. Literally no one can “steal sperm.” Like how does that even happen? It doesn’t. What does happen is men are lazy and irresponsible with their body fluids, and it reeks havoc on an unsuspecting woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:05 AM
76

Yeah, asking if you live alone when you’ve never even met is pretty creepy. It would make my skin crawl to read that message from a guy I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 08:09 AM
15

Something similar happened to me, but I was 16. He tried to traffic me into prostitution. He told me over the phone that I had already broken the law and would get into big trouble, but he would keep it a secret if I just did this one thing. I called his bluff. Told him I could get him thrown in jail with a snap of my fingers. Never heard from him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:02 AM
15

Nope, not buying his shtick. Not for second. When I was 14, I was very underdeveloped and awkward. Truthfully, I looked like a lanky 11 year old, and I was made fun of relentlessly for looking so childish. I was a late bloomer. But guess what? I still got hit on by middle aged men. Every single time I was hanging out without my parents standing nearby, some nasty creep would crawl out from under his rock to hit on me. And they all said the same thing, too, like they’re reading from a script: “Wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:40 AM
22

Him: “Prove you’re not a gold digger!” Her: “You’re a 40 year old bartender that drives a used Honda. Case closed.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:22 PM
19

That sounds like a really harsh internal monologue you’re having. I’m no therapist, but maybe your self-talk could change a little? Maybe you could tell yourself “She has a good job, and I’m happy for her, but I’m the kind of Queen that’s always seeking new ways of being successful cuz I’m ambitious as fuck.” “She’s very pretty and that’s great, but I’m pretty damn cute, too. Plus, my sense of style is on point, and I look like a million bucks in a pair of heels.” “She has a nice HVM - and she d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:22 PM
24

Why should you give a single fuck what his friends are doing? You’re not dating his friends. His response was something I would expect of a 6 year old, not a grown man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:57 PM
11

That’s why I find the “Just cOmMuNiCaTe with him!” mantra to be such a repugnant response. If her face turns pale and she’s hunkered over a toilet bowl, she is ALREADY communicating her needs. He is just deliberately ignoring her communication because he is selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:39 PM
28

Her husband’s lack of basic compassion is truly alarming. Whether you’re male or female, everyone knows what nausea and fatigue feel like. I don’t know. Maybe she should just throw up on him. That would probably get the idea across pretty effectively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:17 PM
112

“yOu’Re jUsT dOInG BDSM wRoNg! CoMmUnIcAtIoN iS kEy!” -Every BDSM/rape apologist/liberal feminist I’ve ever met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 12:40 AM
101

Many of the comments are supportive and helpful, but far too many feel they have to add the obligatory “I’m not anti-porn or anything. I’m a Cool Girl™️!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:45 PM
62

Tell them that men who watch porn are bad in bed. (True) Tell them that the only people who use porn are men with no imagination, the kind of men that lack any real personal chemistry or genuine sex appeal. (Also true) If a Pickmeisha friend tries to rationalize her partner’s porn use, say “That sucks. I’m sorry to hear that. Imagine how much better your sex life could be if he focused all of his sexual energy on you instead of jerking it other women. Sorry, sis.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:35 PM
2

I’ll keep it short and sweet. I spend time, money, and effort on my looks, like most women, but I have 2 rules: 1) Beauty should NOT be painful. I will never subject myself to pain to appear pretty. 2) I will NOT overspend on beauty. Hair, makeup, clothes, etc. I stay within a budget that is well within my means. Don’t ever bankrupt yourself trying to look pretty. Other than that, practice habits that keep your body healthy. That’s it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:12 AM
16

Anyone else notice that “micro penis” was listed twice on his IG page? Sounds like someone’s male ego has a sore spot....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:18 AM
3

In my state, anyone that “blocks the breath or blood” of another person can be charged with attempted homicide. I would personally love to see at least one of these “kink” cases result in an attempted homicide conviction. I think it would set an appropriate legal precedent. The message should be loud and clear: if you’re someone that enjoys strangling people, you belong in prison. And if you’re someone who enjoys being strangled, you belong in therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:45 AM
19

It’s so unfortunate that young women are being fed liberal feminism, which encourages multiple sex partners. They’re taught to believe that casual sex is just an equal exchange of equally good sexual experiences for both men and women. BEcAuSe eQuAlItY! It completely fails to recognize that there’s an orgasm gap the size of the fucking Grand Canyon. It fails to recognize that the woman are at an inherently higher risk for STIs, and that women incur all of the risks of an unwanted pregnancy. Way …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:51 AM
12

When I was in school, I did a clinical rotation in a Labor & Delivery unit. You wouldn’t believe the number of men that would literally bring their gaming console with them and hook it up to the TV in the perinatal suit. The mother of his child would be in active labor, or recovering from a C-section with staples in her abdomen, and her partner would be playing Call of Duty the entire time. It was so sad. The only upside to that situation was that he would at least stay out of our way while we w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 01:40 AM
26

Man joins community of PUA. Then he is brainwashed to see women as literal objects in a numbers game. Then he moans about not having genuine feelings for a special girl. Then he completely fails to connect the dots, while his buddies egg him on with more bad advice. He’s not a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:42 AM
7

This exactly^ There are plenty of females like yourself that have high levels of testosterone, such as women with PCOS, female bodybuilders that use steroids illegally, females that “identify as men” and get prescribed testosterone... ...yet none of them go on raping sprees when they get a taste of that sweet, sweet testosterone. There are endless pseudoscientific excuses for shitty male behavior, but none of them pan out. It will boil down to male entitlement. Every. Single. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:13 AM
1

Tough pick, but I think I’ll vote for Trick Mirror. All sound good. When should we tally votes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:53 PM
4

Tough pick, but I think I’ll vote for Trick Mirror. All sound good. When should we tally votes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:45 PM
109

God I hope she told the younger Pick Me that she needs to get screened for syphilis immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:26 PM
33

I would say Everyone Sucks Here (ESH) because your 13 year old girlfriend was being really immature and stupid about that hamster, but you totally should have involved her in that dope ass Viking funeral. Communication is key. You could’ve communicated your intention to kill her hamster and at least given her a say as to how her hamster should die. Then she could’ve looked on while weeping as you burn her hamster alive, and the whole process could’ve been a bonding experience for both of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:31 PM
1

Then I’ll answer your question more directly before I move on to a better thread. -Your ex friend sounds like she’ll end up divorced, miserable, and saddled with a couple of kids. -And you sound like you’ll end up date raped, miserable, with a couple of STIs. Neither situation sounds like anything to be jealous over. There. Question answered!😁 Nobody on this sub is going to admire or “cheer on” either behavior pattern because both are incredibly self defeating. When your ex friend marries her LV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:04 PM
0

Is it possible that she was expressing concern for your safety when you travel abroad alone? She may have been giving off jealous vibes, but there are places in the world that are legitimately dangerous for women to travel alone. Also, are one night stands beneficial to YOU? Does every short-lived sexual encounter leave your body feeling completely satisfied and valued? Obviously, you’re the only one that can answer that question, but I’m guessing that one night stands have resulted in some pret…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:42 PM
131

An HVM would never request an open relationship. Requesting an open relationship is profoundly low-value behavior. It means he doesn’t especially value you, and he would compromise the integrity of your relationship for the promise of a potential hookup. It is fuckboy behavior. I hope a man never asks you for such a thing! You deserve waaaaay better than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:17 PM
92

I’d like to take this opportunity to point out one very important distinction. “Choking” is when a foreign object becomes lodged in the airway, such as food. When a man squeezes your neck with his hands or with a ligature, it’s not choking. It is strangulation. It may sound like semantics, but I think men have adopted the word ‘choking’ to make the act of strangling a woman sound less severe, less homicidal. I think FDS women should stick to the clinical definition because it is accurate and bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:23 PM
2

I just looked through your profile, and I think I saw a pic that you posted in a makeup subreddit. Was that you? If that was a picture of your face, then I’m really not sure why you would consider yourself a “femcel.” You look like a conventionally attractive woman, quite frankly. You should absolutely expect men to chase you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 11:00 PM
13

Look, he’s not a mind reader, ok? How is he supposed to know that you don’t enjoy feeling hideous and unwanted unless you communicate with him? Have you tried cooking for him more often? How about daily blowjobs? Anal? Maybe you’re just boring him. But seriously, the onus of responsibility is entirely on you to discuss your feelings with him. Try to schedule this discussion when he’s not in the middle of a session with his favorite camgirl. Honestly, tho, it sounds like you’re just being insecur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 05:51 AM
20

Beautiful women attract literal narcissists and psychopaths. Ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 10:17 AM
7

The comments on that post getting upvoted the most are all suggesting that she cOmMuNiCaTe wITh HiM. She’s already freaking done that. The entire onus of responsibility for communicating always seems to be placed on the woman’s shoulders, doesn’t it? Meanwhile, her boyfriend is communicating, too. Loud and clear. He’s communicating his blatant disrespect for her wishes, and he’s communicating that he thinks her discomfort is amusing to him, and that he enjoys making her the butt of a joke. Dumph…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:08 PM
2

Yes. If he invited her on a getaway, he should pay. Even if you’re of the mindset that they should split the costs, what he did was shady as hell. Scalping your girlfriend for a free vacation is thuggish behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:57 PM
10

That looks like food purchased from a cafeteria, tbh. Looks good, though. It’s like he just snapped a pic of some cafeteria food and attached an angry MRA screed for likes and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:43 AM
34

I have a different perspective. If she’d broken up with him simply because she had a funny feeling that she couldn’t trust him without finding the evidence first, he would have gaslit her into an oblivion. He would have guilt tripped her for being “insecure” and she would have been financially exploited by her untrustworthy, gold digging LVM. Catching an LVM in a lie does not make a woman low quality. It makes her a smart and resourceful. She shouldn’t let her partner claim to be a victim just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 11:14 PM
111

Nope. Nope. Nope. The most secure woman in the world is the one that asserts her boundaries and commands respect from her partner. This OP tolerates his porn use because she feels inadequate. She admitted to this fact in the first paragraph. So her feelings toward his porn use stem directly from her insecurity. Her statement about tolerating him being disrespectful to her face rather than behind her back was the saddest thing I’ve read in a long time. “He’ll be abusive toward me no matter what I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 09:49 PM
5

It will feel so good to break up with him on your terms. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:27 AM
87

If a man chooses to leave his sperm inside of a woman’s vagina, he is also choosing the possibility of becoming a father. Not a hard concept to grasp. Don’t want a baby? Start being responsible for your own fucking body fluids, fellas! Wear a condom, or get a fucking vasectomy. In my Pickmeisha days, I dated a man that “accidentally” came inside of me (condom slipped, I think. I can’t remember.) Even though I was on birth control, he thought it was a good idea for me to take the morning after pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:23 AM
39

He deliberately tried to make you feel ugly and unwanted. He was systematically and methodically trying to lower your self-esteem. He has also attempted to isolate you from your friends. This is blatantly abusive behavior. Lots of young men are just dumb and thoughtless, but your ex sounds like he knew what he was doing. The absolute BEST thing you can do is block him on ALL social media. No goodbyes, no explanation, just quietly block him. This will starve him of the narcissistic supply of atte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:53 AM
23

He looks like Saddam Hussein, but somehow less attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:10 AM
15

Yup. Conventionally beautiful women are treated the same way. Far too many men are pathetic, disappointing lovers and make terrible partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:08 AM
13

He was - and likely still is - an incredibly abusive and dangerous man. His behavior would’ve only escalated, and you’re lucky to be alive. He talked about killing himself and killing you, and it sounds like he wasn’t just making idle threats. He had a plan, and he was rehearsing his plan with you in the car. Have you read “Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men” by Lundy Bancroft? It is an easy read, and I think you would identify with it very strongly. I hope you’ve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 02:52 AM
22

That fact that you’re getting away from all that and seeing through all the “sex positive” bullshit means you’re probably a lot smarter than most of us. Are you able to see a therapist? If you choose to see a professional, you may need to screen them first, because there’s plenty of therapists that are not up to date in their practice, and are unaware of the most recent research in the undeniable harms of porn. Even therapists are human, so it’s important that you find someone that won’t gasligh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:41 PM
31

OMG that’s good to hear! I obviously have no idea what you look like, but I do know that you don’t have to look like your mother to be an attractive, intelligent, confident woman who knows her worth. Also, if a man makes you feel like you’re nothing more than warm hole to fuck, it is highly likely that he sucks in bed and he’s a terrible lover, which has nothing to do with your looks. You could look like a fucking Playboy Bunny, and a clueless, selfish lover will still view you as a hole to fuck…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:28 PM
84

“I’ve had people tell me that both my parents are so attractive, wtf happened when they had me” WTF??!! The kind of people that would make these comments to you are exactly the kind of people you may want to consider limiting contact with if you’re gonna level up and be your best self. Seriously, I would never dream of saying that to a friend or anyone I care about. That is something a person would only say if they’re deliberately trying to keep your confidence low. If someone makes this kind of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:37 PM
116

That post sounds like it was written by a man, TBH. But it’s still reveals how LVM think and why women shouldn’t have sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:31 PM
35

It’s so sad to see men RedPill themselves this hard. To make matters worse, the ones complaining the loudest are all completely mediocre men with mediocre salaries living in mediocre apartments. Like calm down, Steve. You drive a fucking used Corolla. Nobody’s trying to gold dig you, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:13 PM
11

You don’t owe him an explanation about your clinical issues if you’re not comfortable sharing the details of your depression yet. Not until YOU feel comfortable doing so. Perhaps you should show his comment to the other women in your church community. Maybe they should see his true colors, too, in case he tries to date one of them next. Protect your sisters.🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 07:30 PM
27

I am so PROUD of that young girl for dumping him!!! She is so young, and apparently a virgin as well, and she’s already a fucking Queen that refuses to put up with bullshit! My god, I wish I was like that at her age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:17 PM
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Unfortunately, OP has a good point. Feminism shouldn’t mean we never criticize women’s decisions, otherwise nothing would ever change. While most women are trapped in the sex industry and can’t find a way out, there are a shitload of Pickmeisha libfems that ignore this fact so they can appear “woke” in their brain-dead defense of prostitution. The ones that call it “empowering” even though they’ve never been bought for sex are the ones that deserve every bit of OP’s criticism. They’re the ultima…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:23 PM
7

You deserve someone that wants to take you out for the sake of getting to know you, not to improve his image at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:26 AM
12

I am so utterly turned off at the sight of a grown ass man playing video games. I can’t help it. It’s pathetic and disturbing. It’s one of the most effective ways of killing my libido. If my man chose to play video games instead of meaningfully interacting with me, I would probably say “Sex is for adults. Video games are for children. Which one are you?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 09:15 AM
25

Happily married woman here. Husband has never, ever asked me for nudes, and I never send them. If he wants to see me naked, he knows exactly what to do! Seeing me naked is an enormous privilege. He has to work for it, he has to earn it, he has to deserve it. Never accept some lazy, low-effort attempt to access your body. Asking for nudes is the digital equivalent to demanding sex with no foreplay. It is utterly substandard behavior that needs to be weeded out immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 05:16 AM
12

There is always a chance that a more feminine man is simply playing what is known as “Mr. Sensitive.” Mr. Sensitive is an archetype that has been described extremely well in Lundy Bancroft’s book “Why Does He Do That?” Here’s an excerpt: https://m.facebook.com/notes/rebecca-nan-cummings/abuser-profiles-from-why-does-he-do-that-by-lundy-bancroft/480862655302912/ Also: https://www.muchnessmama.com/profile-of-an-abuser-mr-sensitive/ And now for the obligatory disclaimer (since women can’t name a pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 09:43 AM
23

A while back a man attempted to hit on me who was clearly well into his 60’s. He looked like an old, chronically ill alcoholic: his belly was distended but his arms and legs were wasted and scrawny. He had a turkey neck, and grey stained smoker’s teeth. I was 26, very attractive and fit, mind you. I was thinking to myself “WTF? You need to stop trying to get your dick wet and start working on your health, for fucks sake.” So yeah, men are delusion, and their priorities are pretty fucked up as we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:55 AM
1

Then it seems you’re doing exactly what this meme is making fun of! 😄We’ve already been “suspending reality” to our own detriment for long enough. If you’re looking for a place to ask “what if” when it comes to the proven harms of porn, you’re probably in the wrong sub. Not trying to start an argument, but there are literally tons of reddit subs that will entertain a dIsCuSsIoN aBoUt FeMiNiSt pOrN, but this one ain’t it. Namaste
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:41 PM
13

If you’re waiting for porn to be empowering for women, you’ll probably die waiting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 02:46 AM
22

Seriously, tho! You weren’t demanding anything from him. He doesn’t have to like your standards. He doesn’t have to agree with your standards. If he can’t meet your standards or simply doesn’t want to meet your standards, he could just move the fuck over and stop harassing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:26 AM
65

I would feel so humiliated if had to talk someone into having sex with me knowing that they don’t actually desire me. I would want to crawl under a rock and die. But if you think about it, there’s an enormous number of men that literally pay women to pretend to find them attractive. The sex industry wouldn’t exist if men didn’t feel entitled to women’s bodies at any cost. So I think that men, as a class of people, feel deeply entitled to sex and are pretty indifferent to women’s desires. Which, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:33 AM
8

Research suggests that the male IQ is dropping substantially (7 points on average) in Western countries, while the female IQ is rising. https://www.pnas.org/content/115/26/6674 There are any number of explanations for this, but one recent hypothesis suggests that consuming pornography may explain the stark discrepancy between the sexes, since men are the primary consumers of porn. A case can easily be made that porn use causes neurological damage, which in turn can cause a drop in IQ. So porn us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:20 AM
43

I wouldn’t reply to an emoji or a one word text. He sounds like he’s disinterested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 06:16 PM
15

I think you should report the employee to HR, quite frankly. They need to know that everyone at your place of work was exposed. What that guy did was beyond shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:42 AM
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I swear to god if I ever had to make a fucking sticker chart to get my husband to help out around the house (even as a joke) I would lose all respect for him as a man. I just can’t have a mommy/son dynamic with my husband. I would be so deeply repulsed and completely turned off that I would never be able to have sex with him. Making a sticker chart is something I would only do for a child, and I’m just not sexually attracted to children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:52 PM
12

Practice saying “no” in the mirror. When you’re ready to say no to someone’s face, don’t offer an explanation, don’t use qualifiers, or anything else that would soften the blow. Just say no (or maybe “no, thank you” if you have to). It’s hard the first time you tell someone no, but I promise it will feel so good when you finally assert yourself. At this point, I’m kind of addicted to the satisfaction I get from watching assholes get angry and flustered when I calmly say no to their inappropriate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 05:17 AM
53

A HVM would have completely understood your safety concerns. This guy showed you his utter contempt for your boundaries very early on. He was super disrespectful even in his text messages. It’s funny. LVM always blame women when we’re too trusting of men. Then they blame women when we don’t trust men. The only way to win with a LVM is to block, delete, unmatch, and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:40 AM
22

You don’t sound like you’re “all for FDS,” quite frankly. If my husband decided to vet me after years of marriage, I guarantee he wouldn’t find a stash of porn depicting young boys that I hold considerable power over. In fact, I don’t know a single woman who does this. Thats why I can’t accept your what-if-the-tables-were-turned kind of logic. There is simply no female equivalent to the way men hoard porn and objectify young girls. This is not a gender neutral issue. The staggering majority of p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 08:29 PM
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These days, many couple’s counselors are pushing back against the idea that “snooping” is somehow worse than cheating. If there is a breach in trust, such as cheating, the cheating partner is told to give unfettered access to their phone & laptop to their SO, along with all passwords and pin codes. This is done to reestablish trust, and if he refuses to comply it would prove that he is unwilling to earn her trust back. This practice is becoming extremely popular with marriage counselors. In my o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:15 PM
27

Brought to you by Liberal Feminism. Thanks a lot, libfems!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:24 PM
8

It drives me batshit crazy when people compare prostitution to menial jobs. Having sex that you don’t desire is inherently traumatizing, whether you’re a man, woman, or a child. In fact, we have a word for it - it’s called “rape.” People often need years of therapy after being roofied, and that’s when they don’t even have any memories of their rape, that’s how traumatizing it is. You don’t even have to remember it for rape to hurt you. Being forced by desperation to have sex that you don’t want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:23 PM
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I once posted something on my Twitter account saying “There is no creature in the animal kingdom, or any form of life in the known universe for that matter, that is as needlessly cruel and sadistic as the human male.” Predictably, I got a ton of comments from LVMs and Pickmeishas offering the same weak ass “not all men!” and “women can be mean, too!” responses, but not one of them could prove me wrong. Because seriously, even the most blood-thirsty predatory animal on Earth couldn’t be as deprav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 01:07 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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