Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!

LadiesOpinion · 2021-12-31T03:14:49+00:00

My father used to be "unable to wake up", unless pestered/begged by his wife. After they divorced, teenage me took over this task.

He'd have ten or so alarms set, shut them all off one by one, and rolled back into bed each time. This started at 6 a.m. and they always woke me up, one hour before my alarm clock, so I could never sleep in. It took me half an hour each morning to drag him out of bed. He'd never thank me. In fact, he was moody as hell when I woke him.

Eventually I, sixteen years of age, told him: "You are a grown man. I'm not waking you up anymore." Ladies, the mantrum was u n r e a l.

"Go ahead. I'll lose my job if you do." Your problem, it's not my job. "We'll see how you like living in poverty. You're living off of my income, you're screwed if I lose my job." No I'm not, I'll just become an orphan, you will be homeless though. 💅

He set his alarm clocks to start at 5 a.m. on full volume as revenge. This stopped after two weeks, because I ignored it. He overslept twice before he was suddenly perfectly capable of waking up, probably because his boss got pissed.

_mooness · 2021-12-31T05:57:09+00:00

Imagine marrying a man who didn’t make you have to do shit like this.

miloba_ · 2021-12-31T07:41:14+00:00

One of my exes was absolutely helpless when it came to general health checkups because, for 18 years, his mom or aunts would schedule them all for him. After he turned 18 and was out of the house, he managed to date a number of women back-to-back who took on that responsibility. When him and I dated, he revealed that he had never once scheduled a single doctor’s or dentist’s visit in over 30 years! 💀 My biggest regret was not leaving at that major red flag. When I told him I refused to mother him and that he needed to learn to take care for himself, he sulked but said he would.

Guess who never visited the doctor or dentist despite having cause to visit both? Him. Guess who still sulked and wanted to be babied when he had constant stomach aches or toothaches or even loss of sensation in a hand for TWO DAYS? Him. I refuse to baby a grown man.

lansburysoda · 2021-12-31T03:52:08+00:00

Where do these child-men come from? NONE of the men in my family are like this. They’re all extremely organized and put together. I wouldn’t put up with weaponized incompetence for a second because I’m used to men who care about the people and spaces around them.

ThrowRA_lantern · 2021-12-31T03:08:57+00:00

If men act like children, then treat them like children 😂

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-12-31T02:20:54+00:00

This is the most awesome thing I’ve ever heard.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-12-31T08:33:56+00:00

Nah, at this point, I'd be leaving. If they'll even once try manipulative tactics, they'll try it again.

melympia · 2021-12-31T02:09:51+00:00

I must admit, I live for stories like this one. Totally amazing!

orangechickengeneral · 2021-12-31T03:16:24+00:00

Yeah yeah this is hilarious but you know what's even better?
Walking away from such relationships and not looking back.
Here's why:

My time on this planet is very limited.
I can be:
1) happily single
2) happily in a relationship with an adequate, mature, and fully capable man who knows how to take care of stuff.
If these are my options, why waste my time on educating, teaching, training, and ultimately patronizing a man who is actually a child on the inside?
I ain't got time for that. And neither do you.

Just W A L K away. Don't waste your time. You deserve better. Let him learn Adulting 101 on his own.
You are not his mom. You are not his babysitter. Walk away.

askmeabouttheforest · 2021-12-31T11:05:12+00:00

Hmmm a boyfriend did that to me once - this supposed adult, who was proud of having worked in restaurants washing dishes, suddenly didn't understand the idea of rinsing, And he thought that you set dishes to dry upright (you know, as if you were going to use them right away). I kind of thought about actually giving him a course in dishwashing, and then I decided against it - the way I thought about him back then was: "there's nothing here to be saved". I dumped him and only ever regretted not dumping him faster.

Back then I wasn't used to the idea of vetting (yOu ShOuLd Be hApPy AnYoNe lIkEs yOu aT aLl...), today that guy wouldn't even touch me, ever, I wouldn't let him.

fds_throwaway_4_u · 2021-12-31T02:01:05+00:00

Hell yes!!

creamtart_ · 2021-12-31T02:26:53+00:00

This poor woman was probably having a nervous breakdown bc of her useless husband. Wouldn’t surprise me if she presented him divorce papers immediately afterwards.

aekimieme · 2021-12-31T19:15:03+00:00

Weaponized himcompetence is why my dad was just another child of my mother’s. I’m really really not about it. No thanks. Immediate block/delete.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-12-31T03:44:31+00:00

This is BS. I've tried this, it doesn't work.

jameswoods7thwife · 2021-12-31T03:14:37+00:00

Genius but I could see a real manipulator using this tatic against a woman to make her look unstable and crazy around others in the worst kind of gaslighting so that worries me

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-31T04:06:03+00:00

I'm also the "I won't do it, but I'll tell you how to do it while you do it" type.

scorchedsouI · 2021-12-31T06:35:23+00:00

At the end of the day, didn't she clean the counter and get it dirty again? No mention of whether he cleaned it after, so I assume she did. No mention that he never used weaponized incompetence again, so I assume this obviously solved nothing.

This is a pseudo-victory. A cute comeback that punches up at the man, but does nothing to solve the actual problem, it just provides temporary and empty satisfaction.

Women need to stop using pseudo-victories and pathetic little comebacks to substitute legitimate resistance.

ItsFreezen · 2022-01-02T22:50:30+00:00

Scrotes will Mansplain your life to you, but they will pretend they don't know how to wash the dishes.

perks33 · 2021-12-31T06:41:16+00:00

Goal post will just keep moving. Next he won’t know how to get the floors as clean as hers, the laundry as well done as hers…etc. He’ll wear her down with these lil tutorials until she’ll give up and do the damn chore herself

Only way to address weaponized incompetence is to leave.

If you can’t/don’t want to leave, then you should mitigate the effects of weaponized incompetence by making him carry all the financial labor of the house. No 50/50, no 30/70. 100%. Every mortgage payment, bill, every vacation, tuition.

JustTrynaSleep266 · 2021-12-31T09:12:01+00:00

This is hilarious

bakatenshi · 2021-12-31T08:06:53+00:00

Wow, what an awesome lady! I love this!

Competitive-Use-736 · 2021-12-31T04:16:07+00:00

The only way this story could be better is if she poured some of the chocolate over his head too.

spaghetty8 · 2021-12-31T06:03:22+00:00

It's so funny to see man-children put in their place 😂

Ericaeatscarrots · 2022-01-03T04:00:43+00:00

Just seems like a lot of wasted time

Title	Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!
Author	herbivorouscarnivore
Upvotes	1877
Comments	64
Date	December 31, 2021 1:58 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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