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| 355 | They know.This is why it's crucial to be ruthless and BLOCK. LVM care more about trying to interrogate, bully, humiliate and gain pleasure than actually trying to form a meaningful connection. I recently had to tell a friend that her nasty LV ex was NOT "flirting" with her the other day. He was asking about her family/friends/career, if she's dating again, asking her out to coffee, etc and overall acting nice even though she kept trying to end the conversation. I had to tell her to block him and never tal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 11:55 AM |
| 121 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girls100%. And it’s clearly projection and confirmation bias. They see a male hero holding many of their “masculine” values (cool, powerful, rich, playboy) but that lens makes them completely blind to any other traits and character growth. They have a very basic, kindergarten level understanding of the character. Tony Stark has to be this smart rich man and nothing else. To them, the male heroes are blank canvas that any man can easily project himself onto and fantasise about his powerful position in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:07 AM |
| 381 | I have no words for the way other subs invalidate womenthere’s something severely wrong with our society if people are thinking “just trust him!” is the cure for all women’s dating problems when men have clearly disappointed us time and time again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 03:29 AM |
| 223 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.I’ve been trying to talk my friend out of a similar situation. She’s in part time retail while he works full time for a major TV channel and they have this stupid joint account arrangement where basically all her week’s earnings go into it and he just sprinkles whatever money is needed for their date/event. He loves to “spoil” my friend but that literally translates to using their joint account on one card so it looks like he’s paying for everything or “treating” her to sporting tickets to go su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 02:22 AM |
| 53 | A New Vetting Strategy???Just ignore a Scrote like that. Don’t even look them in the eye. I don’t talk to men who don’t deserve to talk to me. Besides, the gym is a place to workout, it’s not a place to “hangout”, mingle, flirt or hookup. Why would I want to do that anyway when I’m all sweaty, serious and focussed. If you interrupt my workout or think you are entitled to take up time during my busy schedule, then you are being disrespectful and inconsiderate. Wearing headphones at the gym helps, even with no music playi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 22 | Being anti-porn is not enoughI see this perspective too. Dr Gail Dines talks about this in the FDS podcast- men are major targets of this monstrous porn industry too, but for men the first step is to learn how to manage and rewire their arousal. This is the same way we must first manage our pickme habits. We have to remember most men are only at step one because society constantly suppresses the crucial info about porn that’s frequently discussed on FDS. Even the men I know who were aware of the negatives of porn were unawa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 07:53 AM |
| 307 | "Men are visual creatures"If men were visual creatures, they’d be able to fix their grubby appearance since they look at themselves in the mirror multiple times a day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 02:31 AM |
| 122 | This is why you should NEVER be the breadwinner! ultra huge red flagHer logic baffles me. She loves being treated like a proper Lady in the relationship and sees how that was the best stage of their relationship, yet concludes that 50/50 is the way. Ok 🥴 And she blames herself for treating herself like a Queen when her LVM should’ve gotten her those gifts in the first place?? He chose to be a lazy Scrote and bring nothing to the table yet she thinks she’s at fault? Nah sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:27 AM |
| 31 | Foreplay is a chore? Nah babe, this man is a chore!omg yes it’s like the “nice guy” syndrome. They think they’re nice and that we have to agree with them simply because they say so, but in reality they act like entitled jerks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 03:44 AM |
| 85 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceHey kiddos, wanna play some music?! We can use dad’s xbox as a percussion instrument!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 12:59 AM |
| 16 | The most effort this dude has put into anything. Block and Toss.Notice how unemotional and robotic the letter is. * “I saw you and you saw me.” * “I want to love you.” * “I think about you at moments of clarity (?).” * “I was the worst.” Like what? Does he call that a romantic love letter or a heartfelt apology?? I don’t know… gives me psycho vibes like he’s unable to feel any real emotion for someone. He doesn’t describe anything genuine about you and can’t describe his feelings/attributes beyond basic kindergarten-level. He probably doesn’t know what love … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 12:31 AM |
| 155 | Foreplay is a chore? Nah babe, this man is a chore!He’s literally saying the “love of his life” is just a hole/fleshlight to him. He enjoys the PIV sex but not the foreplay. And now he’s looking for more fleshlights attached to different bodies that visually stimulate him. He’s got a f*cked up pornsick view that he should be ashamed of and she deserves better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:50 PM |
| 114 | Foreplay is a chore? Nah babe, this man is a chore!What is it with men saying their wife/gf are the “love of their life” yet thinking daily about cheating and not wanting to put in the effort to actually love her?!?! My dude, you clearly don’t love her or have any clue what love is. What sort of mental gymnastics is this?! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:34 PM |
| 6 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of CheatingI think majority of us can relate to this experience. My two most recent exes targeted any male I interacted with or friends with. One ex gave me silent treatment and verbal abuse for a whole week because I bumped into a gay friend and we grabbed bubble tea before class (this ex was clearly homophobic and didn’t believe my male friend was actually gay). They even started to accuse my FEMALE besties, implying that I’m lying about being straight because I hug them and care a lot about them. They a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 01:21 AM |
| 90 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileHey there girl, I’m a “hunky male model” looking for a new Boo (AKA a new Mommy- but you’ll NEVER be better than my actual Mommy and I’ll remind you of that 24/7). Follow me on my mega-cool-famous-aesthetic IG, Tiktok, Snapchat, etc etc and you can join my thousands of followers, AKA my harem of female “friends” that send me heart emojis and give me constant validation 🥰. Our dates include me lovebombing you to oblivion then ghosting you to be with another “friend”. I’m a pretty committed guy th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 14 | 'Mums Unite To Make Porn They Are Happy For Kids To Watch' | This is just soooo embarrassingThis just sounds like a bunch of middle-aged Pickme’s getting insecure that their husbands (and children) watch prn of other women. These mothers are getting desperate for attention that they decide to become prnstars themselves and get validation for it. Like they need to “prove” their worth, sexually. They’re selfish, insecure, LV and harmful to society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:28 AM |
| 42 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?One of the many many reasons they put forward low-effort dates is because of the numbing “abundance” of dating candidates on OLD. They swipe through hundreds of women a day and just seeking a quick fix (often from as many women as possible). It’s like a sugar overload to them. It’s hard to find a man who actually take his time to build a relationships/connection with a woman and actually FOCUS on her. These days, LVM don’t care about your interests or standards, they won’t put in any effort that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 6 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?I went on the same trip 10 months after I went with my LVX. The location and activities were very very important and special to me (my first cozy “winter wonderland” style trip because i’m from a hot, tropical country) but my abusive ex completely ruined the vibe. He made me cry a lot, was in a foul mood, very disorganised and he hated Winter too. But when I was about 5 months in with my new bf I really wanted to go to that place again. He planned and paid for pretty much EVERYTHING (I added all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 10:37 PM |
| 346 | Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh...Exactly. I can’t imagine locking myself in a random room with a male stranger!! Major safety issue 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 233 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?An elite athlete here- need way more fingers on my hands to count the number of times i’ve had to explain to grown adult men (including my exes) that it’s physically impossible for my petite/gamine shaped self to have a lean, athletic body (with strong arms and washboard abs might I add) as well as huge G+ cups and be “phat” everywhere else… doesn’t make sense. And these men think WE are being unrealistic for having a height/cleanliness expectation put on them while I’m here trying to tell them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 41 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?Men also have to deal with acne- whether during puberty or after. So they should know that a lot of the time people can’t help it when their skin acts up and the level of insecurity people can experience even without the negative comments. They honestly have no empathy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 01:34 AM |
| 58 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?This is actually so true- his parents conditioned him to only ever care about their baggage. And you’re right it’s so sad, they basically prevented their own kids from flourishing or becoming better people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 06:05 AM |
| 159 | When all of my frienda are so desperate not to be alone and date guys just because they're "nice", how do I stop this from infecting leveling up journey?Detach. I have a friend (bit of a pickme) that seems to have the same issue with her bf constantly, only repackaged in a different scenario and she still doesn’t wise up. When she brings up those stories again and again (after i’ve already told her my FDS opinions on the issue) I just say “oh no. What a shame. That sounds terrible. Hope you two can work it out.” If they’re celebrating something just say “Wow! Congrats! Happy 4 U.” and leave it at that. Their journey towards happiness is not the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:23 AM |
| 134 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?I’m all too familiar with the: “you need to be nicer to me, I have it so tough right now and you will never understand my struggles” AND “it’s really unattractive how you keep babying me and caring too much just leave me alone ffs” IN THE SAME ARGUMENT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:15 AM |
| 130 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?If you’re looking for a specific example, one of my exes’ parents came from very war-torn countries and violent/abusive families so they had A LOT of trauma. My ex’s parents were also anti-therapy and basically vented all their problems onto their own children since they were babies, constantly traumatising them with morbid and gruesome stories about their home countries. Then I stumbled into a relationship with their son, and whenever he did something horrible to me (he was an abusive bully who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 05:02 AM |
| 161 | Women leaving the dating appsSomeone can help me with the specific statistics, but the ratio of men:women on the apps are just ridiculous. It’s like 70% men 30% women or something like that. And majority of those men are desperate and LV whose attitude worsens with time as they continue to fight over the minimal women on the app. And when they finally land themselves a match, it doesn’t feel so special to the woman because these men have just been swiping on EVERY woman on the app. Basically, women using dating apps are jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:47 AM |
| 5 | What common FDS advice or opinions do you disagree with and why?Exactly! He should do whatever works for you as long as he’s doing it out of love/respect for you and your needs. To be honest, I absolutely LOVE gifts and gift giving, but I think my bf and I need to re-evaluate how we’ll do it in future because both our birthdays, many family birthdays, valentine’s day AND our anniversary are all within a 1 month time span!! We joke about how our bank accounts haven’t even recovered from Christmas and New Years lol. So yeah i guess whatever is practical for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 41 | What common FDS advice or opinions do you disagree with and why?I get anxious during my current relationship because I worry things will go bad just like with my exes. In those situations I just want to breakup, run away, not have to stress about men, etc and it all starts when I initially think my gut feeling has warned me about something. Then I find out I’m completely wrong about the “red flag” i detected and just triggered myself by catastrophising in my own head. Then I’m back to being so happy with my boyfriend lol. I can’t just go with my gut feeling … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 46 | What common FDS advice or opinions do you disagree with and why?The whole “Flowers = green flag”. My friends and I all buy each other flowers but to be honest, I don’t really want them in a romantic sense. Firstly, I think i have trauma around flowers in relationships since I only received them from my exes when they were apologising for abusing/fighting with me. To me, flowers are a temporary band-aid over the problem that never actually gets fixed and the ex just hands me flowers to shut me up or because they want something from me. And that’s why I’m much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:52 PM |
| 54 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!My thoughts too. They’re trying to erase their tracks and acting out irrationally when it’s not working. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:49 AM |
| 5 | 👏 Never 👏 Stop 👏 Vetting 👏I’m the same. I was young and naive back then, but my first ex had the Tinder app right on the front of his phone home screen and receiving heart emojis from multiple women. I was embarrassed by how “oblivious” i was and how many excuses i made up in my head for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | 👏 Never 👏 Stop 👏 Vetting 👏This is why i commented too 😭. I’m always sceptical about certain relationship coaches (unless they’re FDS approved) but they’re usually onto something when they say “the red flags that led to the breakup of a relationship could sometimes be detected on the 2nd date but we often ignore it”. And this is not to say the woman in this post is at fault here and should be shamed. Of course the man is at fault here. But it’s just that we can ALL fall into their trap!! And just like the woman in this po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:26 AM |
| 65 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?It’s ironic because the LVX’s of my past would absolutely admire my passions (or so they say) then a few months later it ends up being one of the reasons we break up! It’s always something like: * “You have so many hobbies and I don’t 😞” * “How can you be so good/passionate/optimistic about something? Wish I had something like that..” * “UGH we get it!! You do xyz!! Stop mentioning it all the time!” (me just casually mentioning I have a certain activity later on in the week). * Or they’ll make r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Better than Botox: Something I realized yesterday about HVM vs scrote influence on your looks.And this happens to a lot of women without them even trying! Sleeping peacefully, eating well, spending more time with friends, having a more balanced lifestyle. Just living life naturally without the added weight and stress of their ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:27 AM |
| 17 | 👏 Never 👏 Stop 👏 Vetting 👏This is shocking. It’s like men live double lives. I wish there was more context to this though- like what signs/red flags were she missing?? Especially before marriage. Being able to prevent this is a an FDS priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 11:24 PM |
| 7 | Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values.The problem for me isn’t the word itself, because when you look at some of the definitions they’re actually quite respectable (men who are honourable, proper and polite) BUT it’s actually society’s standards of what constitutes a gentlemen. People just throw the word around or use it for mediocre behaviour. Even sleazy, rude, foul-mouthed, classless men who abuse/objectify women can be called “gentlemen” by those around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 12:13 AM |
| 17 | Scrote seduces his boss on a work trip, has sex with her, and shares her photos on Reddit in his profile for everyone to see. Someone needs to find her and tell her.Is this a male attempt at fanfiction? YUCK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 12:06 AM |
| 64 | Scrote seduces his boss on a work trip, has sex with her, and shares her photos on Reddit in his profile for everyone to see. Someone needs to find her and tell her.This guy hasn’t matured since he was 13… He literally says “fucking and sucking” like an immature child haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 12:05 AM |
| 18 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesFor those like me who struggle with food-related dates, maybe because you have bothersome dietary requirements, dinners are incompatible your schedule, you can’t (or simply hate) dressing fancy, you struggle to eat in public with strangers or you’re sick of doing so many dinner dates lol… then just vet for THOUGHTFUL dates. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you love art, does he take you out to a museum? He should plan the whole date, organise transport and pay tickets to a special exhibitio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:54 AM |
| 18 | To all the women doing the hard work of healing: give yourselves creditWonderfully worded. I made a post on here a few days ago complaining about how my friends don’t understand or respect the FDS approach. I had a realisation that they don’t understand FDS because they are not ready yet to put in the hard work. It takes courage, patience and self-awareness. And once you start that growth, it’s not easy, but it’s incredibly rewarding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else get lonely or disappointed when they can’t share FDS and their dating life with their friends?I know right?!?! They think this discussion indicates we must be socially-isolated basement dwellers. They couldn’t be any more wrong wtf. They really out here projecting 😂. I’m just talking about how tricky it is to talk about FDS and HV relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 09:07 AM |
| 13 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"omg!! you are correct. When we broke up (i made the mistake of not blocking him asap) and his IG following count suddenly skyrocketed with porn, Nick fuentes accounts and other alt-right podcast accounts 🤢🤮. I was still so young and naive back then and had no care for politics… I had no idea what kind of misogynistic mess I had gotten into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:21 PM |
| 67 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"My current bf used to go to the same school as my ex. He knew my ex was toxic, LV, abusive and misogynistic. My current bf has been the complete opposite, a HVM. There have been several instances where we’ve seen creepy men harass and chase random women on trains, and my bf has always been the first of the crowd to intervene and he even chases the men away lol (this crazy NVM was harassing, scaring and yelling at a few teenage girls for entertainment). He is infuriated by way men mistreat women,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:28 AM |
| 213 | Foolproof vetting strategy : tell him "a man did something to you"This!! My ex was an alt-right misogynist (abusive cycle so i was in denial about this) but omg whenever a man was rude or disrespectful to me, he’d laugh about it. One time I mentioned how engaged or married women still get hit on by their sleezy male workmates and he said it’s the WOMAN’S fault for being at work anyway! Wtf… BUT!! If it was just a random guy being NICE to me (like a friendly waiter giving good service) or a I’ve been partnered up with a man for my college assignments, then he g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 11:38 PM |
| – | I'm donating this meme to all the FDS members here since you aren't very good at making them, yourselves.it’s women from all backgrounds. Yes some of them are even models and successful career women. Most won’t show themselves, not because they’re ugly, but because they value privacy. Look at their rules, they encourage women not to post sexual photos on social media. As if they’re gonna do it on reddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/22 01:36 PM |
| – | I'm donating this meme to all the FDS members here since you aren't very good at making them, yourselves.I laughed at this. Women with standards must be “landwhales”. What is this logic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/22 01:34 PM |
| 9 | This 4chan story is fake AF, but if there’s even a grain of truth in it, good on the ex-gf on leveling up!Exactly. I’m laughing at the other subreddits complaining about us pinpointing this issue- that we’re siding with a woman who’s “let herself go” and that we’re only doing it because we’re “also landwhales like her”. What disgusting comments. Nah man, she’s liberated herself and found a better healthier and happier version of herself. Women in society deserve that happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 01:24 PM |
| 122 | This 4chan story is fake AF, but if there’s even a grain of truth in it, good on the ex-gf on leveling up!Lol. He’s basically saying the gf levelled up and gained confidence in herself. She’s become “unpleasant” because she doesn’t attract or connect with LVM anymore. The only thing we know about the bf is he’s his friend. That’s it. So I’m guessing the friend is a lazy, grubby-looking LVM who scrolls reddit 24/7 and expects 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:33 AM |
| 161 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.I’d rather use too much toilet paper than be someone like him who doesn’t use any at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:31 AM |
| 45 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?That last quote! Did we date the same man-child?? 😂 My NVX kept breaking our no-porn boundary (that HE made btw!!) and used that exact same excuse. Then he proceeded to ban ME from using my vibrator because he wanted to control my sexuality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:25 PM |
| 92 | What’s the most idiotic thing a LVM has ever told you to avoid accountability?Bringing up old, resolved wounds from 8 months ago that were irrelevant to the current issue. For example, he broke our no-porn boundary so many times (a boundary HE made) so when I expressed my hurt after discovering more porn, he would get mad at me for getting upset and then say “Well don’t forget the fact you called me immature one time back in our fight about me using Tinder back in January. You hurt me so much when you called me immature, I don’t deserve to be called that. Since you called… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 95 | What classifies as social media red flags?I honestly haven’t met a single man that isn’t part of a group chat that sends dumb, sexual, explicit memes/tiktoks. Literally I look over and it’s some busty thirst trap or the screenshot of p-rn. How is that a quality form of socialising?? They should stay single if they act like that. Men seriously have no sense of humour and think that sending their favourite links to P*rnhub is cool 🤢🤮. These guys are such degenerates and losers. I definitely recommend checking some of their conversations w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:07 AM |
| 33 | what happens to men's physical appearance when they have a guarantee that they will find a partnerit’s their gross and gunky feet for me 🤢. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:31 AM |
| 226 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!If men act like children, then treat them like children 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 03:08 AM |
| 25 | Flip that script and call a spade a spade!They literally expect women to effortlessly perform as their full-time Mommy while also dressing/acting like a hot supermodel or pornstar. All while having 0 idea of women’s anatomy and women’s real, lived experience. “What do you mean women don’t think about my awesome amazing alpha d*ck 24/7??” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:16 AM |
| 28 | Flip that script and call a spade a spade!“You expect too much from meeeee”, says my ex when all I did was ask for an apology for breaking several boundaries followed by hours of verbally abusing me 🙄. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:12 AM |
| 6 | Venting about a recent dateI was thinking something similar. Like some sort of severe anxiety/depression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:55 AM |
| 185 | Men are incapable of being honest even for the purposes of peeingWhy are we pandering to their fragile egos. This is like relabelling A cup bras to DD cup bras… (not that women should ever be ashamed of being A cups btw) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:49 AM |
| 114 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himI hate how he tries to get sympathy points by saying “I don’t want my kids to go through this and it breaks my heart thinking that they might because they’re mother is leaving me” when honestly those kids would probably be better off without a lazy and incapable father. He’s gotta reap the consequences of his actions. His wife knows he’s a burden to his entire family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 01:57 AM |
| 18 | ever been shamed? a case for being shameless/shame-less... it is, after all, externally imposedMy NVX used shame as his weapon of choice against me. For things that were out of my control. I had a great upbringing and responsible/sensible parenting (e.g. being taught no alcohol until legal age, family time is valuable, visit your grandparents, date wisely, practice safe sex, etc etc) and he told me I’d struggle being a mother because that sort of upbringing would make me so uptight. He ranted and made me feel ashamed for my upbringing and identity. He also negged me all the time about how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:47 AM |
| 177 | Hilariously Bad First Dates That I Have Been OnThe dude was too embarrassed to be with her while she had her own meal. Or he probably couldn’t even pay for a cheap meal just for himself. Or worse, he didn’t want to be SEEN on a dinner date with someone 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 05:39 AM |
| 281 | I just realized that men never teach other men, or boys, how to swing a baseball bat or a golf club by sliding up behind them and mimicking the swing.I was an assistant coach for a softball team and was absolutely MORTIFIED when the male Head Coach taught these teenage girls about the top of the strike zone by physically showing it on their bodies— so yes, he was repeatedly touching their boobs/chests. He also pressed the end of a bat against their chest as another way to indicate the strike zone. Some of the girls felt incredibly uncomfortable and those that had a bat directed at them felt incredibly scared and intimidated because he was a l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 04:03 AM |
| 108 | Let’s bring back shame! Society does not shame men enough!100%. We need more shame or at least ACCOUNTABILITY. For example, if a man is a porn addict, he has to be accountable for wasting away all his time indulging in hours of porn and he should 100% reap the consequences of it (e.g. being seen as unattractive to women, unable to sexually satisfy women, being dumped by a gf who’s tired of dealing with an addict, etc etc). None of this BS of “give him a chance”, “he’s a man! it’s not his fault he has these sexual needs”, “women need to stop being so in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 12:22 AM |
| 79 | Say no to community dick.I’ve been trying to say this to my friend (who said she wanted to level up) because her exes and current bf all have been the community dick. She’s still complaining about how her bf is always busy because he’s taking Becky out to dinner or seeing a movie with Jennifer or going to the gym at 3am with Veronica. My friend hates it but gaslights herself for being “insecure” and pines for the day he will change for her, marry her and they’ll live happily ever after 🤡. I don’t talk to her much anymor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:23 PM |
| 282 | How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them?From memory of much older posts I think people have said that making out and groping down there can help. He thinks your teasing but basically you’re just having a feel down there to see how big he might be. (This also helps to see if he’s pornsick, to see if he’s completely soft even while making out with a woman). The other is just paying attention to his personality (arrogant, raging or a misogynist = small peen). If he BRAGS about having a big peen, he most likely doesn’t have a big peen at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:36 PM |
| 25 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunked100%. Sex work is still the inequality and exploitation of women, therefore a crucial tool in maintaining the patriarchy where a woman’s role is in servitude of a man (in this case, sexually). If we want the patriarchy to end, we need to prevent women from ever falling into these lines of work just to get by in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:56 AM |
| 27 | Common arguments used to defend the sex/porn industry debunked“You can’t call me racist, I love asian women!!” said the man with an asian fetish (and therefore, a racist 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:51 AM |
| 76 | If you have trouble thinking about continuously vetting after finding a man - try the "Wing Mindset".I love this!! The analogy I was given was a garden instead of wings. You are a gardener that carefully curates this garden filled with gorgeous flowers and plants, and we sometimes welcome LVM who come in and ruin it or make us neglect our own garden to help theirs (a patch of dirt most likely). We have to be selfish in a good way where we can’t let our own garden whither and rot away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:44 AM |
| 119 | Why do males not accept it if their SO's want to start an only fans account? While it's acceptable for men to watch porn?In answer to your title question: the Madonna/Whore complex and Misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:58 PM |
| 223 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.So… they think it’s equality to give the woman nothing and make her (and the children) fall into poverty?? Selfish scrotes who blab about being entitled to a bangmaid and creating “spawns” but won’t even help them survive. Isn’t it bIOloGY to ensure your offspring actually survive and thrive?? 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:13 PM |
| 97 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.Time and time again I’ve had male friends, classmates, colleagues, etc do this to me. When I’ve finally “friendzoned” them (even though they were in the friendzone the entire time…) they become the most bland, irritating and useless friends I ever have and I just stop talking to them. Literally adding 0 value to my life. I do have one HVM acquaintance who I competed with in debating, mooting and mock trials. He’s got a gf but I think he’s mentioned they’re both asexual or somewhere around those … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 12:00 AM |
| 467 | 19-Year-Old Billie Eilish On Starting To Watch Porn At 11, And How It Damaged HerI know on FDS she gets criticised for her libfem views but let’s hope she levels up (I definitely did when i entered my 20’s). She’s got one of the biggest voices and spotlights at the moment in mainstream media, let’s hope it does some good for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:54 PM |
| 19 | Why I used to wear a ring on my “wedding finger” and why I won’t do it again.I was lucky to learn this lesson at such an early age. When I was younger, my mum told me a story about how in the 90s (when she was engaged to my dad) suddenly she was the hottest woman in the office. EVERY man was trying to sleep with her!! Why? Because she had a ring on her finger and was engaged. Absolutely disgusting Glad I can’t really wear rings anyway because of my sensitive skin 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 57 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startoh absolutely. You are spot on with that. Usually Mommy or Daddy are already top lawyers or have good connections to top lawyers. And usually these lawyers come from the same upbringing. It’s like a circle-jerk for entitled a*sholes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:03 PM |
| 69 | The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last TimeIn deep intimate relationships, your partner will learn your weaknesses, even if you never expressly disclose them. That man will always come across opportunities to use that weakness against you, especially in the heat of an argument, but the right man will NEVER choose to weaponise your weaknesses even if that option is staring right at his face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:54 PM |
| 26 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?It’s a tough one, i definitely agree with one of my exes (a guy who was actually diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder) which my friendly fluffy little dog actually barked at non-stop and bit his entire wrist without wanting to let go, something I had NEVER seen my dog do before. But another ex, the one who did the most damage and trauma to me, my dog didn’t seem to mind. That ex gave off submissive non-threatening vibes to my dog because he was severely depressed, frail, pornsick and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:48 PM |
| 201 | There are so many things wrong with this. I don’t even know where to startThis angers me so much but is also so relatable. I feel like I need to do a post dedicated to the difference in men vs women in law school because most women are incredibly smart, driven and friendly/supportive (so hardworking and can actually network properly), while most men are whiny little rich boys from wealthy families who complain 24/7, always say inappropriate things that makes everyone hate them and they love to argue at the wrong times (like the guy’s email who can’t take No for an ans… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:32 PM |
| 22 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?100%. This is a guy who thinks he’s entitled to any woman, online and offline. It’s an over-indulgence and obsession. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 09:30 AM |
| 24 | [deleted by user]Let me tell you, Hentai is equally bad if not worse!!! I say it as a former-user (long ago in a very different time of my life), and it’s really misinformed to think it’s ok because it’s more detached from reality and no real women. Because it’s cartoon they can display insanely warped bodies and anything that is too f-cked up to be done in real life. Women can often be portrayed as prepubescent little girls or with extreme assets or morphs and the sexual acts usual involve being harassed, moles… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:44 AM |
| 12 | A huge red flag that I ignored. Never give him the benefit of the doubt.Gross- sounds like my ex and wish I detected the red flags on our first few “dates” (to him, we were just hanging out fwb but me as a Pickme kept insisting they were dates). Literally shoving you around like their little plaything or sex toy, expecting this benefit for FREE, throwing constant insults at you, and they don’t even see you as a human being that deserves basic kindness and empathy. Crabby and rude little leeches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:17 AM |
| 14 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?Ahhh ok ok I see. So the red flag is similar to people who idolise psycho villain characters or take satirical films literally. Thanks for confirming. Yeah I never watched the film and never cared much for it, but so many people have watched it. So I got a bit worried to hear it was a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:32 AM |
| 68 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?even worse if he considers one of them his BEST FRIEND 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:34 AM |
| 40 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?I’m laughing so hard right now. I JUST had a phone call with a (pickme) friend who has a bf that’s got heaps of close cheerleader friends (all previously fwb’s/hookups which he HID AND LIED about this for an entire year.) She told me this bf hasn’t seen her in the last two weeks because of his work but he has organised a special dinner “meet up” with his female bestie from high school who was ALSO a FWB for years!! This female “bestie” is apparently having her own relationship issues and wants t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:01 AM |
| 58 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?I actually want to know more about this too. I haven’t seen the movie, but so many people love it- men, women, even my own parents. My bf loves it (we both enjoy Scorsese films) but he also says the characters are f*cked up and notorious. I have a slight issue with Margot Robbie always being obsessed about (every man including my bf has to comment about her appearance in the film), even though I love her as a person and as an actress. I’m assuming the entire film is heavily in the male gaze. Is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:52 AM |
| 159 | Negotiation tactic: always be willing to walk awayWhen learning about negotiations at college, I came across BATNAs (acronym for the best alternative to a negotiated agreement). You must have a BATNA decided before entering a negotiation (or in this case, a date with a man). So my dating BATNA is walking away from the man and being a happy, free, single and independent Queen. When I have to deal with or negotiate with a man, I’ll ask myself if my BATNA is still a better option than having to deal with that man. If so, then leave. For the time b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:32 AM |
| 20 | Do not let men rationalize/justify/explain sexual harassment because it’s *BiOloGy*100%. They’re only interested in science because of purely narcissistic reasons (confirmation bias on why men = good). They’ve spent all their days buried in books for their ego boost that they’ve gone numb to real life and the society around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:21 PM |
| 27 | Do not let men rationalize/justify/explain sexual harassment because it’s *BiOloGy*What’s shocking to me is that my ex’s father talked like this… and he was a DOCTOR and University lecturer!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 09:25 PM |
| 114 | This is why we block and delete, it’s as much about preventing our own harmful acts in a moment of weakness.My ex started following several of these Women L’s accounts. He was an alt-right misogynist who thought the average independent woman (like myself) was actually like the woman in the picture and spread rumours that I did stupid things like this… Nah man… i’m about to be lawyer now and don’t have time for that bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:13 AM |
| 36 | Grace Millane - Murdered by her Tinder date - This is why we vet ruthlesslyI have a dog but sadly he’s 14 years old, tiny/fluffy and is probably way more terrified by these men than I am. Poor thing wakes me up and whimpers all night… Security system is a great idea too. Thank you for mentioning it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:12 AM |
| 30 | Grace Millane - Murdered by her Tinder date - This is why we vet ruthlesslyYeah I’ve got my boyfriend and a few local friends who are happy to come over or pick me up thankfully. I call them LOSERS too. Sadly this response was not well-received by my sister or my parents. Even though these men think it’s acceptable to waltz in at 4am and rudely interrupt everyone in the house… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:09 AM |
| 86 | Grace Millane - Murdered by her Tinder date - This is why we vet ruthlesslyThey’re being too libfem about it. I’m apparently “sex-negative” for not letting my sister explore her sexuality and have her own dating life… Honestly i’ve gotten to the point of begging for the bare minimum of MY OWN SAFETY rather than mentioning even the simplest FDS principles. We don’t allow locks inside the house but i’m ordering one from Amazon lmao. My boyfriend has also offered to pick me up whenever my sister has people over. Even if it’s 4am. My sister has this panic disorder. It’s re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:07 AM |
| 381 | Grace Millane - Murdered by her Tinder date - This is why we vet ruthlesslyThis freaks me out. When my parents are out, my little sister brings multiple guys home in one night. It’s so dangerous and obviously against FDS but she won’t listen. And I’m in danger too- sleeping in my own room while these strangers wander around my house at ungodly hours! I’ve been scolded (by her and by my parents) for talking against her views of casual sex… they don’t understand that these murder cases run through my mind every time I hear a random man’s voice in my house at 4am | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 12:01 AM |
| 24 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.Girlfriend: “Hey!!! I can’t believe you still haven’t paid rent!! You are unbelievably lazy! The landlord is going to kick us out!!” Him: (picks her up and swings her around) “Did my little girl just say she wants to play aeroplane??” What?!?! 🤡 Sounds like any man who uses this tactic is the real child here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:18 PM |
| 24 | Dog bites man because girl is screaming during sex and his reaction makes him a “keeper”?the dog could probably sense the scrote a mile away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:50 AM |
| 51 | Intuition vs Being TriggeredI’m a bit of a workaholic that repressed a lot of my relationship trauma. The trauma didn’t start coming out until I was in a healthy relationship. It came out heavily through tears, hours of crying and not being able to explain what’s happening to my bf because I’m in such a wreck. Nothing really triggered it except maybe my overthinking. I’d be at home by myself or having a nice picnic with my bf and it would just happen. A while after, my bf and I had an open discussion after seeing a video o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:34 AM |
| 15 | REMINDER: It's ok to ignore / not be friends with / get distance from a man "for no reason".Agreed. I’m not close to him at all but he’s definitely hiding something. But most people see to not pick up on it. He’s the bubbly sweet cheerful guy 24/7 that everyone loves… I’m definitely calling BS on it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 11:54 AM |
| 17 | REMINDER: It's ok to ignore / not be friends with / get distance from a man "for no reason".Yes, thank you for this!! I agree 100% Im not doing to keep my silence from now onwards. But I think for the most part the idea of having to justify myself just sounded so exhausting and it was more of a “feeling” of not wanting to have to use up my energy on it. But yes I totally understand what you mean and agree 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 11:51 AM |
| 75 | REMINDER: It's ok to ignore / not be friends with / get distance from a man "for no reason".There’s a really “lovely” and “nice” man who works near my office. He’s “polite”, “friendly”, seemingly from a good family, does volunteer work and does not strike himself as a misogynist (which is the bare minimum). My workmates and I have hung out with him and his workmates a few times before because we go to the same cafes and bars. However, I have a bf and this “nice” guy (who is very well aware that I have a bf) keeps complimenting my personality and asking to take me out, to which I remind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:58 AM |
| 34 | Why do men manipulate even when they already get what they want?The patriarchy makes men value power. They think it’s in their nature to conquer things and be the King. If they have that strength and status, they abuse it to make everyone around them crumble. And if they can’t have the physical strength or status, they will attempt manipulative or physiological means to gain that same sense of power. And they’re compensating for a small PP, literally or figuratively. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:06 AM |
| 14 | Complimenting other women - red flag?I’d say red flag but it depends! Like for me, after some pretty hardcore vetting, the only thing I could tag against my current bf is that during our earlier days, he occasionally called a few actresses “beautiful” or “attractive”. Of course I took very careful consideration, especially after being with narcissists in the past, but then I realised he says this about everyone!! Maybe even more so with male actors/singers. And often in a light-hearted, cheerful or humorous manner. And while he doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 06:23 AM |
| 25 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?Omg!! I felt this in my very first year of college. Back then, i had never had male friends, but then I ended up in a friendship group with 2 guys and 3 girls. I dated one of the guys but he was an “aspiring model”, an F-boy and a narcissist. However, he was my first ever bf, I was “in love” with him and completely confused about the abuse. So i turned to my girlfriends but also to the other guy in the group (who came across as HV to me) so I could get a male perspective. He empathised with me, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 11:42 PM |
| 162 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.100%. This is too basic of an issue to be asked on reddit. He’s just bragging!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:02 PM |
| 93 | Men will waste your time and then waste it some more.That’s why pickme/doormat behaviour is a BIG no-no according to FDS principles. If a LVM is getting frequent sex, maid services, free accomodation, access to someone’s finances, etc without ever having to earn it (he’s essentially getting all these services for free) then of course he’s going to drain the life out of that opportunity for as long as he can. In the meantime, NONE of the woman’s needs are being met. For women, there is no fulfilment in that kind of relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:42 PM |
| 149 | Boundaries with male friends and pickmes not having anyYou make an excellent observation here. I’ve cut a lot of these major pickme girls from my life, but i have friends that still engages with them. To this day, my friend still denies that her LVM ex (who was a diagnosed sex addict with 100+ body count btw) was sleeping or at least hooking up with his obsessive pickme female “bff” when they hung out together at 3am without my friend who… was the actual girlfriend 🙄. How could you ever feel comfortable and loved in a “relationship” like that?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 11:28 PM |
| 3 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.I wish people didn’t make reddit titles like this… The title merely mentions breakfast but there’s more important issues here??? Seriously gotta stop downplaying male depravity. Better title: My Scrote bf put c*m on my breakfast to get back at me and because he’s deranged 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:00 PM |
| 126 | For any woman who has ever been negged about her appearance...And let’s not ignore the fact that women who achieve that “standard” are still negged, triangulated, traded, humiliated, and cheated on. 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:47 AM |
| 42 | 🤣🤣🤣It seems we live in a society where women CONSTANTLY have to prove themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 04:00 PM |
| 35 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”So true!! Working as a waitress is a nightmare because every man interprets good customer service as flirting/love. They even fall in love with random women in magazines and with influencers on social media! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:26 AM |
| 23 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.As if the average woman goes “Teehee banana smoothies are amazing!!” to a random stranger… then proceed to CHASE after him and ask him to a smoothie date 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 03:45 AM |
| 437 | The IckWe were watching movies on my bed with my laptop while snacking on popcorn, I was sitting further back on the bed and could smell his feet (this was AFTER he had supposedly showered). I also noticed the way his skinny frail fingers quickly snatched into the popcorn bowl, proceeding to chomp messily at each handful like some kind of starved squirrel/guinea pig/rodent which just made me feel so grossed out. I spent more time staring at him with disgust than actually watching the movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 02:53 PM |
| 47 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?My first ex was a male model who was mostly friends with other female models and university peers 🤡. When we broke up, i bumped into his “gym bros” (his only male friends) and they called him a weird, whiny, insecure and overly sensitive Mommy’s boy which was why they left him too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:34 AM |
| 8 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupIf people spend money on HIM it’s merely “helping him out” but if he needs to spend money on someone else, it’s “no that’s so stupid why would i do such a thing”. 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:27 AM |
| 9 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupOh my god. His gf was his carer after a serious car accident, PAID for his rent/expenses and he feels that just a “thanks” was sufficient?!?! How selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:46 AM |
| 114 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."this is so sad because it just shows they sometimes think children are replaceable too… not just women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:38 AM |
| 5 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.Haha are you talking about MY ex?!?! The “dark thoughts” thing is SPOT ON and exactly like my ex too!! He loves “bragging” about his batman-like personality, calling himself the brooding type that spent a lot of time in his dark bedroom pondering about things. Obviously it came across as depressive moods, but to him it came across as being “dark and mysterious”. He would go days without leaving his room (ew), then it would be followed by extreme spikes of anger (insecurity) which he would take o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:19 PM |
| 96 | Be wary of the guy who communicates a little too wellIt’s hard to explain, so I’m just gonna take a stab at my understanding. I’ll just provide some really random examples that pop into my head. Reasonable “communication”: requesting time away to collect your thoughts during an argument, asking to have your morning eggs scrambled instead fried, asking to unfollow a toxic friend/ex, calling out any actions that may have triggered trauma, expressing how meaningful it is to hold hands in public. Things like this. They’re reasonable and justified. Unr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 09:38 AM |
| 249 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.Just adding a comment to emphasise MENTAL HEALTH counts here as well!! I’ve dated so many guys with obvious, undiagnosed and severe trauma or personality disorders. And these guys “would rather DIE than ever walk into a therapist’s office” for their issues (their words not mine). Edit: and might I add, don’t get me started on the ones who “try” therapy (aka haphazardly attending one session) and claim the experience was so horrible they refuse to go again. But really, it’s because the therapist … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:22 AM |
| 111 | Be wary of the guy who communicates a little too wellI agree that we should be very careful! It’s meant to be a balance. And if he’s asking for something that requires change, you must always first assess if it’s WORTHWHILE and REASONABLE to make that change. Being asked to make him a cup of tea instead of coffee in the morning? fine. Being asked repeatedly to change the way you walk, laugh, sit, smile, cry, dress, etc because it pisses him off or “upsets” him??? leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 66 | Don't stay for a guy that claims they don't know what they want100%. Be with someone that is fully committed to the idea of being with you. If they ever say they aren’t sure they want to be with the current version of you, then take it as a “no” and move on. Don’t waste precious years of your life waiting for someone who’s indecisive or has only one foot in the door. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Confiding in your boyfriend about how other men sometimes do bad things is apparently "crazy". Men shouldn't "stick their dick in crazy", or do, because that's all women are good for, but don't ever have a relationship with themplot twist: he broke up with her because he’s exactly like the misogynists she constantly disses and he felt attacked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 11:22 AM |
| 12 | Confiding in your boyfriend about how other men sometimes do bad things is apparently "crazy". Men shouldn't "stick their dick in crazy", or do, because that's all women are good for, but don't ever have a relationship with themtypical “bros before hoes” mentality. She could just be talking about misogyny, inequality and power imbalances that seep through our patriarchal society and he would literally throw her under the bus because it means she’s critiquing men and understanding women’s injustices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:37 AM |
| 3 | Offline FDS Strategies100%!! The question of how people met their partners is a perfect opportunity to express certain mindsets and strategic approaches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 12:11 PM |
| 62 | Offline FDS StrategiesThe thing that’s helped me the most is the more empathetic/safety/care approach (?). Not sure how to describe it… But essentially, when I’m giving dating advice or expressing my radfem views, I’ll tell my friends something like “I care about you so much, nothing will hurt me more than to see you get hurt… that’s why I feel that (insert FDS/radfem view)”. I’ll amplify the life-or-death dangers of dating and the patriarchy. Gotta exaggerate the consequences and worst potential outcomes. I’ll strai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:13 PM |
| 88 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandIt’s how they will remember you mostly, too. Doesn’t matter how good of a person you were, or the positive traits you had or what kind of meaningful impact you had on the group. If you were known for a series of excessively and embarrassingly long texts about honesty or the importance of cleaning or whatever LV behaviour you’re calling out, then that’s how they’ll remember you and what they’ll look back on to laugh at once you’re gone 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:49 PM |
| 91 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandLearned the hard way on this. And I didn’t realise until my ex’s friends drunkenly announced at a party that I was writing embarrassingly long complaints to him, and they left out the fact it was because I was so upset about my ex’s racism, misogyny and bullying. They made it look like I was being excessive or crazy. Never again! Felt great when we broke up and he tried to argue with me again and saying nasty things in the middle of class at college, but I just hit him with a “cool story, bro.” … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 03:28 PM |
| 26 | Should I go out with this guy?If you want an unfulfilling situation-ship, then by all means go ahead… But in all seriousness sis, you deserve a guy that puts way more effort. Seems like he’s only going to reach out when the women he’s actively pursuing are not giving him attention, or he’s just not ready for anything serious/committed right now (and that means you move on, you don’t wait til he’s ready). I strongly urge you to read the handbook and other posts about the early stages of dating. He should be: * scrambling arou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:49 PM |
| 236 | A Coward Move Many Men Make and I Just Don’t UnderstandI’ve been at social gatherings where guys would literally joke to other guys about the fact their girlfriends are mad at the moment. Like he’d show his friends all the essays she’s spamming him via text. Or, maybe she’s also at the party and they’ve just argued in the hallway and he comes back to the party CHUCKLING because he just got scolded. Why is it a joke? You’re the idiot here so why are you the one laughing?? It’s like he’s purposefully dismissing the issue and her feelings just so she a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:21 PM |
| 37 | What coping mechanisms did you not know you had (or developed) after post-breakup reflection?Saviour complex. Regardless of how much he hurt me, I’d convince myself he needed my help and that he was only hurting me because he was hurting inside. He was horrible- like a tyrant but I convinced myself I was good because I always forgave him and he just needed my help. I loved my high school, but since it was catholic, it prided itself in “being of service to others”, showing compassion, etc etc. I swallowed up that ideal without even thinking. So in my adult life, whenever I was being hurt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:45 PM |
| 124 | Keeping the first few dates short in length... he is not your friend.A useful tip that has worked for me: make ACTUAL plans with other people (or for yourself) after the date. Seeing a guy for a lunch date? Then make sure to also plan an afternoon zumba class with friends or visit your grandma for afternoon tea. Or, if it’s a dinner date, say you have 6am start for work or a college assignment due the next day (be firm about it) and a HVM will ALWAYS respect and honour that commitment (he wouldn’t want a woman to burn out, nor would he want to ruin her important … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:16 PM |
| 63 | This post will probably be removed.I understand that people should be the change they want to see in the world, but it seems like OP has been contributing to FDS in the past (making posts/comments). If OP was a stranger or anti-FDS, then I’d see where you’re coming from. But it looks like OP is an active member (although perhaps not as active as you which I can see in your post history and I admire your dedication/efforts to the sub). It just looks like OP is looking for further opportunities to engage in more unique, critical di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 11:52 AM |
| 133 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.I love Lundy Bancroft! I wish I had read this book before my ex came into my life (rather than after I had been through hell and back with that ex). That way, I would’ve gotten out on the first red flag “apology”. It was amazing that before the abuse, I was actually thinking all these things stated in Bancroft’s book, but during the abuse, I was too soft and let him gaslight me into thinking HE was more correct... Not in an abusive relationship now, but thank you again for this reminder. This se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 38 | Mods: Could we have a No Complaining Wednesday or a Strategy Only Saturday?Would love to see more of this too! I love the strategy posts and I think this subreddit already has plenty of examples of scrote behaviour. The focus is meant to be on us and how we can level up. To add, as someone who has only been in relationships lasting max 1 year, I would LOVE to see more strategy posts related to maintaining a HVW status after the first stages of dating and how to continue vetting in longer-lasting relationships, pregnancy, parenting, careers, friendships and marriage. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 06:56 AM |
| 5 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESMy friend (I’ll call her Anna) had an ex who was a personal trainer. And this personal trainer ex had a female bff who was ALSO his gym buddy. When Anna was dating him, she would always track his phone and he was ALWAYS out past midnight with his female bff!! The female bff used to also “joke” about stealing him away and how he “loves” her. This ex also repeatedly ditched plans he made with Anna because his female bff called last minute needing “help” at her house. They even had casual sex befor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 11:08 AM |
| 35 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?When MBTI becomes a topic of conversation: Them: “What type are you?” Me: “I’m not that into MBTI but I always type as INTJ when I do the test. But I see myself as acting like an ENFJ especially when I’m in public.” Them: “No your not an INTJ. You can’t be because I’m an INTJ.” OR Them: (proceeds to make jokes about the female counterpart to their type. In this context of INTJs, they paint me as socially inept, dismissive, rude, deluded, basement-living unicorn with a god complex while they’re t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:05 AM |
| 66 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.We have a genuine reason to generalise. As would anyone that belongs to a group that regularly has their human rights, basic respect or their very own livelihood threatened on a DAILY basis. Women are oppressed in every aspect of their lives. Women need to protect their own from millions of potential threats that society seems to uphold. Men (especially those who have been rejected by women for their own poor behaviour) are in no position to generalise women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:27 AM |
| 98 | It screams LVM to me, but my friend argued that it's actually a HVM behaviour. What do y'all think?This is similar to how manipulative LVM propose to their gf (or date) in crowded places like Times Square just to cause a scene and pressure the gf. Then if she declines, she is seen as the b*tch and the public would shame her rather than the LVM who has probably been treating her like crap behind the scenes. Anything that causes a public scene is LV behaviour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:20 AM |
| 35 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowYES OMG! They are such COWARDS- an excellent word to describe them. They believe all these warped things but keep it in hiding because they know they’ll get their ugly scrawny ass handed to them if anyone found out they held these beliefs. But they’ll blame the entire universe for not being able to handle the “truth” when really they are of such sh*t character. The entitlement, the lack of accountability and the lack of self awareness in these LVM!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 01:48 AM |
| 50 | Cringeworthy :/This is what I was about to comment!! I spend so much on special skin products and treating my skin with luxury, there is no way in hell I want some man’s sticky smelly body fluid ruining it and making my sensitive delicate skin get all itchy/breakout. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 2 | 1 DAY OF NO CONTACT!Ah so proud of you!! This is a massive achievement!! Keep this up and trust me you will feel like the Queen you are! Keep busy, focus on yourself, treat yourself and do all the things you never got to do while you were in that relationship!! Give yourself all the self-love in the world! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:53 PM |
| 111 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageI’m only a few years older than these kids, but in my opinion the ones who get married young also end up settling down with kids too early and it becomes a million times harder to pursue your career or even just to pursue your hobbies which help develop your character and your identity. It becomes harder to explore who you are when you’re tied to being a teenage housewife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:48 PM |
| 137 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageThese kids seem to have it in their head that marriage is the ultimate success in life and that they’re better because they achieved it earlier than everyone else. They’re really going to regret this decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 48 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowThe worse he became, the bigger my pickme self was like “i can change him!” But when he started acting this extreme, that’s when i had enough haha and found FDS. Definitely good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:37 PM |
| 150 | Not sure why men can't have conversations without getting triggered into wannabe Sasuke Uchiha but wowEwww this sounds like my ex… Weird incel LVM with a god complex or something. He literally used to proclaim that everyone is trash and he was some misunderstood “genius” that a “lowlife” like me or my friends would never understand. He was using this excuse when I called him out on his blatant misogyny and racism, like i remember he argued that “inferior races” deserved to be slaves or women were all disgusting sl*ts and inherently EVIL. Of course I went absolutely insane and cried in disbelief … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:26 PM |
| 74 | Pick me cultureI have to agree with the earlier comment posted here, I’ve noticed a strange vibe from Megan Fox lately- in the way she dresses and acts. Like she seems really vulnerable/desperate/attention-seeking at the moment, or as if she’s almost compensating for something? Feel bad for her and it’s probably her current lousy bf that’s causing her to slip into this massive pickme behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 10:33 AM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Check-InI don’t know the right answer either but in my personal experience I report them too. Anyone who has the audacity to spread misogynistic, hateful or aggressive messages should be held accountable for being misogynistic, hateful or aggressive 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-InI’m on that subreddit because that and FDS saved my life in escaping a porn-addicted, abusive LVM. But you’re right, there’s a lot of them that are still quite “soft” about the issues but for good reason… These women are usually in the midst of very fresh or ongoing TRAUMA (betrayal through porn-usage) therefore it’s common to see the blame-game, denial, complaining, persistence on “changing him”, and hating on pornstars or sex workers or even the average woman (they’re looking for something to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:48 PM |
| 44 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)ahhh yes yes I see now. Thank you. Porn addicts crave variety so they’re ok with storing you on the shelf in the meantime while they indulge in something else. This sounds very “monogamous” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:11 PM |
| 34 | Why you shouldn't stay in a relationship with a Porn Addict (PA)Do you mean porn addicts can be men with high libido and be highly aroused around you but have absolutely no need for sex?? Wow, now that just makes it difficult. Because then he could be a HVM who doesn’t pressure you for sex or is happy to not have sex if you aren’t comfortable (yet also reassuring you that he still finds you attractive/arousing) but really he could just be hiding a porn addiction. This is really sad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 101 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesThe industry and society as a whole honestly has selective hearing 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:02 PM |
| 423 | Porn actress on TikTok admitted that stopping a scene had consequencesI feel so sorry for these porn actresses who were lured into the porn industry. They’re often vulnerable women who were coerced into this career under the guise of empowerment, success, money, fame, etc. There’s not enough publicity about how much of a LIE that is. Their managers break contract terms: e.g. depriving these actresses of their pay, threatening/gaslighting/shaming them even if it’s on sexual acts they didn’t contractually agree to (“Oh you don’t want to be strangled and have cum in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:58 PM |
| 265 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.These LVM are literally wasting all their energy putting down HVM when they could be using that time to improve themselves. The least they could do is learn and be INSPIRED by how a HVM expresses generosity, respect and consideration for others. It’s funny these LVM refuse to grow (they would rather stagnate and try to drag down women and HVM) when I thought they’re supposed to be all about “Brotherhood” or supporting their “Kings”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 11:02 AM |
| 5 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..THIS. A bit about my ex: insanely insecure/emasculated by everything I did (even small things like how I dressed or could talk to people lol). He hated how I called him out for his incredibly bad and abusive behaviour too. He hated me because of how i made him feel. But he also wanted wife privileges and was well aware he wouldn’t get those wife privileges in his life (except from me when i was a major pickme who wanted to “save” him). He knew he would never be able to get a gf/wife in the futur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:58 AM |
| 33 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨Simple as that. The entitlement, molly-coddling and the lack of accountability amongst LVM is absolutely astounding. Scrote: Acts like a Scrote. Then gets called out for his poor behaviour because it’s damaged someone. Other Men: “That’s not fair!! You are so mean, what a misandrist!! You can’t call him the S word!! You have to be nice about it or just stay silent because you could hurt his feelings! Or my feelings 🥺” boohoo, accept the tiny slice of what it’s like to be women, who literally spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:30 AM |
| 6 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨was just about to say this!! The pattern is that men’s hatred towards women = violence and murderous tendencies. They assume women’s hatred towards a lot of certain men’s behaviour would lead to the same tendencies. They think we’re just as emotionally incapable with dealing with problems in the same way Scrotes are emotionally incapable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:22 AM |
| 106 | Comment Section of Reddit’s “Popular” Posts Today on a P*rn Meme…I love how they think women asking for no porn is considered MANIPULATIVE?? In what I’m assuming are MONOGAMOUS relationships?? Firstly, since when was arousal to pixelated images considered a “biological” instinct? Secondly, it’s amazing how these men are so blind to seeing their own manipulative tactics and gaslighting, then proceed to put all the blame onto their partner for the relationship breakdown. Thirdly, it’s also amazing how these men will OPENLY ADMIT to how they will always pick the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:10 AM |
| 48 | Comment Section of Reddit’s “Popular” Posts Today on a P*rn Meme…I noticed this too!! I unfollowed a lot of subreddits (so the ones I do follow now are FDS-related, anti-porn or fashion/plants) and all I get recommended to me are literal LVM pro-porn or hentai humour. WHAT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 04:50 AM |
| 44 | Female psychologist wants to normalize Stay-At-Home DadsThis just makes so much sense! And imagine the jealousy or emasculation these lazy men probably experience while being stay-at-home dads. Their wife has brought life into this world and then continues on to be the successful careerwoman/breadwinner, then what does he have?? Nothing. And they’re probably doing a half-done job at all the chores, glued to their computer/tv while sitting in their own filth, then expecting his busy wife to perform mind-blowing pornstar sex for him too. EDIT:to the ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:14 AM |
| 233 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..One minute he’s talking about how he absolutely hates me, next minute he’s talking about how he is still considering me as a potential wife. Make it make sense | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 04:19 PM |
| 7 | The amount of guys who think the clit and orgasms are made up is... scary.Ahh you are right on the money!! This was exactly him!! He was very insecure and only saw my orgasm for himself as an ego boost. Then scream at my vagina like it’s depriving him of an orgasm he feels entitled to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 10:55 AM |
| 160 | The amount of guys who think the clit and orgasms are made up is... scary.exactly!! same here! I tell my current partner foreplay happens even outside the bedroom too (saying the right things and HV traits can be such a turn on). Was literally dry all the time with my childish cranky ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:59 PM |
| 405 | The amount of guys who think the clit and orgasms are made up is... scary.Might be a little nsfw to mention, but my LVM ex literally had tantrums over my orgasms. Like he’d aggressively go down on me and not listen to my guidance. But literally 2 minutes later he’s screaming at my vagina like “WHY WON’T YOU CUM!” and i’m just laying there thinking to myself “I wish I had just stayed with my vibrator 🤡”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:56 PM |
| 37 | I finally left.I stopped reading when you said he wanted the sex to hurt and had to try a few times to actually finish this post. I’m so sorry this happened to you OP and this is why there is something wrong with society and why FDS exists! I’m proud of you for getting out of that situation. You are worth sooo much more than this narcissistic psycho that just wanted to shove his d*ck into anyone for an ego boost. He did NOT deserve you at all and doesn’t know how to give basic respect, let alone love. He’s not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:08 AM |
| 220 | Just wonderingThey have it stuck in their head that they’re the top of the hierarchy thanks to the Patriarchy. So even when they’re being the most degenerate or depraved, they still think they’re fine and amazing purely because they’re a man. They have never really been held accountable for their actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:00 AM |
| 7 | Study suggests that I don't give afDid Jordan Peterson write this 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:21 AM |
| 124 | This is just ridiculous (don't forget to swipe)I’m betting $20 that the commenter also has ED | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:22 AM |
| 6 | “Lonely angry sad wanna-be masters of control” Starter PackIt’s funny though, when my LVM ex made me take the MBTI test, I typed as an INTJ and he laughed so hard. He made fun of me saying that female INTJ’s were renowned for being crazy, deluded, severely antisocials who claimed to be geniuses at everything. He said i should be embarrassed for typing as an INTJ. I think it was a potential mistype anyway but what I really learned that day was HE was clearly projecting because that description of female INTJs seemed more like how he perceived himself and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:31 AM |
| 71 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meyeah! She’s clearly a wild and wayward one that needs to be put in her place. Ugh. Gimme a break. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:38 AM |
| 177 | Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.i remember a male acquaintance/classmate of mine from university saw me without makeup and his reaction was “Woahhhhh is that… is that your FACE?!?! NO WAYYY!” then he kept wanting to stare at my face. Like up-close and to analyse it. Over and over again. Then proceeded to tell all our mutuals that one time he saw my bareface and how “SHOCKING” it was! ugh! Thankfully, everyone rolled their eyes and supported me. I don’t think i’m ugly at all- but i definitely like to emphasise my eyes with a lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:31 AM |
| 282 | imagine being happy because a little kid is crying 🤡🤡Men claim I have no sense of humour, but that’s because they’re humour is like THIS. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:25 AM |
| 88 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meyeah she’s definitely 100% the villain in this post. He’s such a nice guy!! So clearly she’s taking him for granted and not doing right by him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 11:21 AM |
| 171 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meyeah clearly he’s looking for a woman that has to consult him as the Big Boss Man before she goes to grad school (which he’d probably ban her and jeopardise that opportunity anyway because the idea of a woman going to grad school hurts his ego) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:42 AM |
| 662 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting me“my girlfriend is very ambitious and confident in herself (pursuing a career and starting her own business, progressing in life, creating her own style) and i’m really really jealous and can’t be happy for any of her successes, so OBVIOUSLY her behaviour is a BAD thing and i must drag it down as being impulsive, reckless, delinquent behaviour.” 🤡🤡 Edit: love how the first line was “I LoVE My GiRLfRieNd WiTh aLL mY HeARt”. BS!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:34 AM |
| 10 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupIt was about the 7 month mark he came begging for friendship. Being all nice and friendly. Complimenting me in the ways he NEVER did. He came out with how depressed he was and doesn’t want to date ever again (which is good because he’s pornsick and verbally abusive) and that i was such a good gf to him and he never appreciated it until now. ONE WEEK LATER, out of the blue he berates me with angry confrontations after class ans text messages claiming that I’m a horrible person, that i’ve rebounde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 02:28 AM |
| 42 | Just doing pick me things, oopsie! 🤪In the comments people are praising her for this??? please no. eugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:32 AM |
| 32 | A disgusting comment in the comment section of a vid about Elliot Rodger ! I'M SCARED !!!!!“Females” experience loneliness, societal shame and worthlessness too. I don’t know why he thinks this is only a man’s problem. Man’s suffering is only “more severe” because they literally don’t build themselves up or build a decent support system that prevents them from spiralling down and constantly victimising/pitying themselves and feeling entitled to things they haven’t earned. And it’s not just an individual problem, it’s the entire patriarchal society itself that’s also the problem for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:03 AM |
| 19 | Beware of the non-apology apology!!! Anyone ever had a LVM say "I'm sorry you got hurt" rather than "I'm sorry that I was a piece of shit asshole who did not respect/consider your feelings?" One is not even attempting to accept blame!! BEWARE!!This is so true. And I’m going to be totally honest, the only time I ever used this tactic myself was when my abusive LVM ex bumped into me at university, proceeded to BERATE and INSULT me and my new bf, have a tantrum about how his life sucks, how it’s WRONG that i’ve moved on from him and how I shouldn’t be at our university because it’s making him uncomfortable that I’m there. Claiming it’s my fault he’s unhappy and blames friends, family and my new bf too. He used to dump his woes onto me an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 02:28 PM |
| 261 | When the most basic requirement is exhausting."Genuinely loving someone?!?! That sounds exhausting!! There is NO WAY I could possibly do that!! All these women ask so much of men. Such high standards. As if I would give a woman BASIC LEVELS OF LOVE. That's so insulting!" Ugh!! This dude doesn't deserve a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 10:54 AM |
| 45 | It.Never.Ends.it’s weird because they’re falling in love with perceived similarity. Not actual similarity. They’d settle for a girl that will tolerate their rugby rants (probably because they have nothing else to talk about) rather than look for someone with actual long-term compatibility in values/goals/etc and appreciate the actual person in front of them (as you stated). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:31 AM |
| 30 | It.Never.Ends.You are 100% spot on. Don’t get me started on all the cool girl things she tries to tell me about porn, “pleasing your man”, being kinky, picking up all his hobbies, etc and how to maintain that sexy bombshell look just to impress him... I love her so much as a friend but ever since men had walked into our lives it’s been quite iffy with her- she’s notorious in the group for ditching plans with the girls just for her boyfriend who she already spends time with 24/7. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 05:26 AM |
| 97 | It.Never.Ends.Guys literally froth over my (pickme) friend because she follows the rugby on a real-time app. She actually hates the rugby and never had any interest in it but has started keeping track of it because the outcome of the games determines her boyfriend’s mood (e.g. if his team loses he’s grumpy for the day and becomes a literal pain to hang out with). But when my friend and I are out at bars, guys swoon over her when she says “Be right back- gotta check the rugby results!! Don’t want my boyfriend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:12 AM |
| 35 | If you haven't already, get to know yourself sexually. It'll make it easier to stop desiring LVM and make it easier to drop men that are selfish in bed.Far out. My LVM ex was similar but with vibrators. I bought a bullet vibrator and he called me a Pervert, shamed me for it and that i was doing a very “evil” thing. Clearly the small piece of plastic shattered his ego. But he really was selfish/unskilled/pornsick in bed and really couldn’t give me an orgasm at all. He watched porn all the time yet I was essentially banned from orgasming at all in the relationship. Should’ve dumped him on the spot when he had that tantrum. Eventually his friends … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:19 AM |
| 15 | When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping".I agree completely with what you have to say- I’m baffled too and realise that age does not equate to wisdom when older women tell me how to date. And yes, thankfully I learned at a young age (stumbling onto FDS is such a blessing) that scrotes would rather get jealous of a woman and drag her down than to appreciate and respect her. They use all these abusive tactics to make themselves feel better about themselves which is so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 02:48 PM |
| 25 | When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping".In response to your question... yes. I can’t speak on behalf of other women, but for me especially, i realise i need to be extra cautious not to feel the need to “save” someone. Scrotes who just want to use you but not do anything in return have used the “boohoo my life sucks and you’re the Angel that’s gonna save me” tactic that i fell for a couple times pre-FDS. Also realising I would essentially get my dopamine spike from helping people, therefore settling for partners that needed a lot of he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:37 PM |
| 53 | When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping".Fair point. I think I see it in a limited view as all my LVM exes DIDN’T want a relationship because they suddenly realise being with me was too difficult for them and they realised they weren’t good enough. So then they would reek of insecurity and controlling behaviour as an attempt to peel away from me while causing an absolute traumatic mess of a relationship. I can see that a lot of these men may still want a relationship in the sense that they want the benefits of a relationship at the exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:01 AM |
| 228 | When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping".The truth: they don’t want to be in a relationship with you. How they express it: Gaslighting, negging, arguments, ghosting, demanding unrealistic expectations, mood swings, future-faking, abuse, following insta models / only fans, cheating and then proceeds to blame all his behaviour on you and saying it’s all your fault 🤡 He might be able to get out of the relationship (he might not if you’re persistent), and as a result he’s broken the poor woman. Nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 10:09 AM |
| 272 | Mainstream "women's empowerment" is a lie.I also want to add “Going with your partner to a stripclub”. Still not sure how this is empowering but I notice how many of my friends are proud they do this with their bf and normalise it and claim they’re good girlfriends for doing this?? Really?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 06:05 AM |
| 25 | Mediocre MenAnd these men are the type to get defensive in arguments and gaslight you by saying “I’m a good person! Have I ever hit you? Never!” or “I did a bad thing but stop treating me like i’m your abusive ex” or even a simple “I have never intentionally hurt you.” But the argument started because they’re rude/lazy/inconsiderate. Like arguing over how they didn’t do their share with the laundry or they were rude to your parents or they forgot to pick you up last night and make sure you got home safely. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 12:41 AM |
| 6 | Hint; this is done on purpose. It's not that men/grown boys can't aim, it's an assertion of dominance over women.I wanna be that ruthless mother that watches and waits for them to clean it themselves but if they don’t know how to clean and start complaining or bawling or having a tantrum, I won’t budge. They’re gonna clean it themselves and no whining is gonna make me do it for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:40 AM |
| 145 | Just your average everyday LVM thingsIt’s funny i come across this post because literally just now while lining up for coffee at my local coffee shop, i came across a young clingy pickme snuggling up to her grouchy narcissistic bf (they look about 18) and when they got to the counter, he rudely said to his gf “What do you want? HURRY UP” and she just goes “okayyyyyy hehe” 🥰 and while she’s ordering he’s got his selfie camera up to admire his jawline and fix his hair. Turns out the coffee she ordered was too expensive so he whines a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 11:07 PM |
| 9 | The things men say to justify their porn addiction. Sports addicts?? Also someone got abused for a movie 50 years ago so I should be able to watch porn of women getting abused today! No fair!His argument goes like this: 1. consuming lots of music is ok 2. consuming lots of movies is ok 3. consuming lots of sport is ok 4. THEREFORE, consuming lots of porn is ok! huh? Dumb, illogical counter-argument that doesn’t address the initial argument. The argument is not just the porn (which is bad anyway) but it’s also the ADDICTION. Addicts forget the humanity in others, including themselves and their loved ones. Drug addicts, alcoholics, gambling, sex addicts, etc. You name it. So why would… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:37 PM |
| 16 | The things men say to justify their porn addiction. Sports addicts?? Also someone got abused for a movie 50 years ago so I should be able to watch porn of women getting abused today! No fair!He’s comparing porn to music, movies and sport without actually distinguishing the key facts that define porn and make it so problematic: it’s sexual, addictive, corrupting, abusive and perverse. Sport won’t corrupt you. Judy Garland won’t corrupt you either lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:25 PM |
| 39 | Comments from a thread about a Tik Tok video talking about how hard OLD is for men. "Your nightmare is our dream."She wrote beautifully, but i doubt the scrote read a single word. Men like this don’t think a woman’s view is even worth acknowledging or talking about. She’s just talking to a stupid wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 10:30 AM |
| 15 | Preach it 👏🏻This is probably only valid if the woman is toxic or LV and he’s stuck in an toxic/abusive cycle with her. Like obviously her demanding “better treatment” would not be worthwhile and he’s better off finding someone better that he feels safer and happier with. But I don’t think this video applies where HE is LV because those kinds of guys will never move on and treat the next girl right. That’s a complete lie- they don’t change. They just pretend to treat the next girl better just to peeve their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:23 PM |
| 6 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youthey were definitely projecting. During my pick-me days, my LVM ex was just a FWB at the time and he went off at me for being too much of the “girlfriend/relationship” to him when all i was doing was chatting. I think he started freaking out he was catching feelings for me and started pointing the finger at me when he was the one constantly bringing it up (“we’re defs casual right” / “stop acting like my gf”). Eventually he came out with it and we started dating but yeh all that panic confused m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:27 AM |
| 5 | I hate how men truly believe that their looks don’t matter. That women aren’t “ Visual”Idk why they think they can date me (as i’m in my business suit + red lipstick + a Chanel bag) while they’re looking like a smelly homeless hobo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 10:20 AM |
| 11 | Pew pew. And then you eventually get sick of it, question your up bringing, invest in a good vibrator and call it a day.I regret my pick me/casual sex days but I wish I told those men who refused to wear condoms “Ok, so what are we gonna name our first child?” and watch them freak out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 12:11 AM |
| 137 | Discussion: why do men think they can bring nothing to the table and still be valued? Why should we value a man who offers NOTHING?Literally children who expect Mommy gf to give them unconditional love. Having severe flashbacks of a lazy LVM ex that moped about how I “wasn’t accepting him for who he was” when he’d treat me real horribly and I asked him to do better as a bf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 11:55 PM |
| 39 | Scrote so mad he forgot how to spell and shitsounds like he’s “gon littarly misogynic” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:15 PM |
| 17 | Has a man ever shamed you for your orgasms?Not only was i shamed for not orgasming during sex, he shamed me for owning a bullet vibrator. Lashed out at me calling me a pervert and doing a very evil thing. He was a porn addict btw 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:41 AM |
| 11 | Has a man ever shamed you for your orgasms?i tried to be nice to my LVM ex. Told him he didn’t need to make me orgasm. I appreciated the sex and he shouldn’t worry about it. Eventually he had an actually tantrum coz he was going down on me way too hard til it hurt and eventually got fed up with me and saying “why aren’t you cumming!! i feel so much pressureeeee!! argh!” after like 2 minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:41 AM |
| 8 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingI wonder if he became a relationship coach because he himself was unhappy in his relationship. (I’m definitely by no means justifying him cheating that’s an absolutely abhorrent thing to do) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 11:10 PM |
| 70 | This poor man's wife and family - but porn is a normal and healthy expression of sexuality 🤡One thing i learned from my recent lvm ex is that it is a massive red flag if they have an unhealthy relationship to porn, masturbation, sex, etc. If they talk of feeling GUILTY or DEPRESSED or say they can’t help themselves or they do it for the wrong reasons (validation or escaping their problems in life or running away from shame and insecurity) RUN AND KEEP YOUR DISTANCE SIS THEY WON’T DO YOU ANY GOOD. Signed by yours truly, who went through an ex that was so stressed by one uni exam he star… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:47 AM |
| 22 | So apparently watching porn to get turned on before having sex with your partner is normal... And the comments are not even by men.. 🤢I’m the same. It’s simple- just be in the moment with the person you’re attracted to and then you won’t need additional stimuli. I cannot imagine how pathetic and embarrassing it would be if i EVER had to say “soz babe brb gotta go stare at some tiddies and crotches for half an hour and then i’ll come back for our sexy time ok?!” haha that just sounds so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:32 PM |
| 12 | So apparently watching porn to get turned on before having sex with your partner is normal... And the comments are not even by men.. 🤢pretty sure i’ve stumbled across subs that support and praise cheating/infidelity... Hard to trust a man who uses reddit tbh simply because they can easily go down the rabbit hole of those insane subreddits or the pornographic ones too if they can’t control themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:29 PM |
| 54 | So apparently watching porn to get turned on before having sex with your partner is normal... And the comments are not even by men.. 🤢what happened to being able to get into a “sexy headspace” simply because you’re with your partner that you are supposed to be attracted to? or simply because they’ve done something that turns you on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:24 PM |
| 18 | So apparently watching porn to get turned on before having sex with your partner is normal... And the comments are not even by men.. 🤢tbh i’ve lost faith in pretty much every subreddit besides this one and a few others. Sometimes I get disillusioned and perceive majority of subreddits as a circle j*rk of incredibly deluded thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:19 PM |
| 77 | We don't want cHaDS, we want someome who knows what abhorrent means and treats women with love and respectIt’s honestly so sad. Bumped into some people who are friends with my recent LVM ex. They asked me why we broke up. In the politest way i could, i said we were simply incompatible... i was looking for a long-term partner and he was looking for a Mommy/Therapist/Punching Bag/ATM machine 🤡. Funnily enough they said “ah yeah not surprised.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 16 | OLD is mentally drainingNgl the only success I’ve had with OLD is by chatting and going out with guys I already knew but didn’t know were single (e.g classmates, workmates) and I stumbled across on OLD. Of course this won’t work for everyone but it did for me. Every other time was an utter failure —> Complete strangers that seemed “nice” at first, then red flags appeared but u had already been on dates with them or wasted a week of long messaging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 11:11 AM |
| 160 | Males wanna make fun of women going to the bathroom together but...No guy believed me when i told them the number of times i’ve walked out of the female bathrooms at university or at the danceclub, and some creepy dude is waiting out there and tries to start chatting to me. We walk in groups for protection Edit: One time i was even grabbed. Lifted up by some 6ft 6 hairy brazilian man that kept proclaiming how much he wanted to take home a little japanese woman for a wife (i’m not even japanese) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 04:50 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, in your experience, what are some examples of sneaky condescending behaviors/words that a LVM will usually throw at you as an attempt to lower your self worth?Omg so true!! My ex didnt have an ex before me but he sure does speak a lot of crap about his female friends and women in general and would definitely tell people in future that i’m crazy or something. Isn’t it weird tho- wouldn’t a normal mature man say to himself “wow, i’m so glad my gf is so mature and calm and not making huge accusations or jumping to conclusions of cheating because my friends needed help with tinder!! We can have a civil discussion and she doesn’t suddenly scream at me.” Bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:34 AM |
| 30 | Ladies, in your experience, what are some examples of sneaky condescending behaviors/words that a LVM will usually throw at you as an attempt to lower your self worth?My mother always reminded me with dating that you can’t change someone! So I was raised to voice my opinion to my partner, set up a boundary (if needed) and if they didn’t adhere to the boundary or didn’t agree, that i was to accept it and simply reassess the relationship. So what happened is my ex’s friends kept handing him their tinder so he could chat up girls for them (his friends sucked at talking to girls and needed help). He kept coming home telling me that he did these things to help the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:45 PM |
| 18 | Ladies, in your experience, what are some examples of sneaky condescending behaviors/words that a LVM will usually throw at you as an attempt to lower your self worth?Everytime I called him out for saying hurtful/offensive things or try to manipulate/gaslight me he’d say “I’m not being manipulative or gaslighting!! That’s what abusive people do! My father had an abusive family like a father that beat him up and THAT’S abusive you don’t know what you’re talking about!” We both studied psychology I’m pretty sure I can work out what he was trying to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 11:29 PM |
| 23 | It makes me sad how delusional this woman is. This is such a bullshit excuse!Protagonist/Hero Mentality. Justifying every dodgy thing he does as some kind of community service or act of compassion for the greater good. This is the kind of guy that could cheat on his girlfriend and justify it by saying that the other woman was “just feeling really insecure and she really really needed my help so i slept with her to make her feel better. So technically i’m doing a good thing here and you can’t get mad at me for cheating on you.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:59 AM |
| 29 | Something I came across today... just in case you needed another reason to get rid of an LVM! Watch that skin glow once he goes 👋omg this is so true. Less stress with my ex LVM so my skin is way less hot and itchy. And not gonna lie, i think my body is so thankful it can sleep in a clean bed without a sweaty greasy-faced LVM that refused to shower because he “already did this morning”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:37 AM |
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