I'd like to open this discussion because I noticed the Handbook (especially the section on "HVM characteristics") accurately describes a lot about how a HVM will treat you or friends/family, but what about how he treats everyone else in difficult situations? I'm a strong believer that you learn a lot about someone through their behaviour in crucial moments where they've been called to action. So what are some potential ways a HVM will act in the following situations with LVM/LVW?

  1. When desperate pickmes flirt with him (when he's either single or taken).
  2. When Pickmes and LVW bother his girlfriend (e.g. being rude to her at work or at social events).
  3. When he's ended up in conversations with LVM who say LV/sexist/misogynistic things.
  4. Extending Point 3, when he sees ZVM harass women in public.

I know that the "correct" answers to these situations might be nuanced since it depends on the circumstances and other factors. I'm honestly expecting various interpretations and perspectives on what we expect from a HVM in these situations.

However, I think it would be beneficial to brainstorm this, especially for fellow ladies like myself who have had no (or very few) HVM role models while growing up or have their perspectives muddled by "Simp" culture (e.g. men supporting/protecting/respecting women are just white knights). Also, it's inevitable that both HVW and HVM have to deal with Pickmes and LVM, you simply can't avoid them completely (as much as I like to think I can). They'll be at work, in your class, at home, at parties, on the street, etc etc.

I'm keen to hear all your interesting perspectives on this! And perhaps this discussion might help develop a new strategy post to put into the Handbook.