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Men suddenly know the difference between actual work and “sex work” when it comes to the women in their lives or themselves… lots of them even understand that a kid can flip burgers or clean toilets and that it’s different to have their bodies sold and exploited for sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 09:14 PM
36

Lone gerbil! 😂 I love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:54 PM
13

Awesome! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 09:24 PM
208

This is gross. It sounds like the life of a politician’s wife without the spotlight. If it is a woman, there’s no way she actually loves him. I wonder if she grew up in an environment where nothing much was expected of men and this is the grown up version of “men just need that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 06:54 PM
103

This is hilarious. We really need FDS ladies to come together and creat a show that isn’t outright FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 03:51 PM
6

Cowardice is it’s own form of evil. It does take some growing up to realize that standing up for yourself and ending things when you aren’t happy is the right thing to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 01:48 AM
15

Disgusting. I’m still trying to shift from being angry at creepy old men to just focusing on the fact that they are pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:09 PM
33

Yeah, and it’s disrespectful to the relationship and bf and not a HV thing to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 02:28 AM
9

Yes! It can’t be controlled. There’s only anxiety if you try to justify what you know is wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:00 AM
11

I will always love this clip. Does anyone know who she is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:36 AM
105

“I now stay away from LVM who try to convince me something I want is unreasonable.” Needs to be plastered everywhere!! This was literally everything I wanted with one of my exes. It’s exhausting and tears you down and is a form of gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:34 PM
63

See checking someone out I when in a relationship is wrong. Noticing is different. Checking someone out is cultivating something to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 08:47 PM
2

Mind Hacking by Sir John Hargrave is a great book on how to change the way you think to change your life. It includes meditation too. It’s also available for free online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 02:10 AM
10

Wow. I am so sorry that you went through all of that awful treatment and I am thrilled to hear how you turned out! It’s so nice to hear about good relationships with no insecurities caused by men’s misogyny :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:27 AM
54

It is like Groundhog Day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:27 AM
17

It was an outdoor bar patio, the girls walked by on the sidewalk near these two old pervs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:15 PM
236

He better pay for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 09:43 PM
563

I was at local bar on St. Patty’s day and I overheard to old men (both ordinary gray hair and beer bellies, dressed like shit, gross all around) talking about these two young girls who were passing by. They were commenting on how good they looked and one guessed that one of the girls was 12 and the other 15. It made me sick to my stomach. I have no idea how to deal with anything predatory or disgusting even if the predators are directing their energy at legal adults. If an older guy has a moral …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:07 AM
-23

Amen. If anything they need women’s support (not in what they are doing, just support)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:02 AM
131

It’s so sad that probably tons of men are disgusting like this and they act like family men in real life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:07 AM
107

Yeah the porn part ruined it all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:22 PM
38

She sounds like she’s in loud denial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 10:20 PM
74

HVM do not have LV friends. He will entertain upstanding guys who don’t all go to strip clubs before they get married. HVM are not forgiving of their buddies’ bad behavior while saying that they wouldn’t do it themselves. They have no interest in pickme’s and are good at setting boundaries. And aren’t afraid to speak up and call other guys out and stand up for and protect women when necessary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 05:51 AM
8

Oh boy. I hope you get out of that okay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 11:55 PM
42

Oof. He’s a digger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:46 PM
3

I bet we can figure it out. I’m 100% up for it. I will also have an extra room this summer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:44 PM
10

Ew. This is a great post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 11:42 PM
138

Ew. I’m sure they really appreciate her…….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:43 PM
104

There are! I know 3 of them really well in my family or super close family friends. These men are caring and loving, don’t watch porn, and give advice that could make any FDS post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 04:13 AM
54

Yes! It’s hard in the beginning but we always know deep down :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 01:41 AM
164

Yes! Every relationship I’ve ever had with a guy I’ve been the teacher. It’s so exhausting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:03 PM
96

At least it’s probably smaller than his
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 06:58 PM
65

I wish FDS had a network for women to house together when leaving bad relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:08 PM
114

That was an interesting take! I’ve met a lot of the guys you’re talking about, spiritual guys who are very pro porn/prostitution and religious guys that are sexist af and the duality of it is astonishing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:14 PM
178

This sounds so much like my most recent ex. He couldn’t even get his laundry into the hamper. He wasn’t working at all, and I’d come home after a long work day and he would scramble to make it look like he didn’t make a mess and sit naked on his phone all day 🤢. Being a momager so that they can turn their brains off is a horrible taxing existence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:01 AM
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Please, I want to see it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:52 AM
137

We can also gatekeep relationship though. It’s quite fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 01:23 AM
7

I’m still hurt over the disrespect from my LV ex’s Instagram activity. I feel you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 06:07 PM
129

That is disgusting. How can she touch him?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:10 PM
48

I’ve been single since my lease ended and I sent my jobless LVM home to his mom and I’ve been getting so horny when I’m around a cute guy. Definitely masturbating often helps and thinking about the habits he likely has helps…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:49 AM
38

That’s exactly why I laughed too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 06:18 PM
227

It’s crazy how the everything the “Me Too” movement is against becomes ok if it’s labeled porn or prostitution. How blind can people be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 01:36 PM
19

That’s what I was thinking, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:32 PM
13

I do this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:47 PM
14

I love that you’re asking this. I think you should make this a discussion post. It could literally lead to saving lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:30 AM
22

It’s such a strange duality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:13 AM
301

This is extreme but there are so many versions of “relationships” like this. Young girls really need to learn FDS principles from childhood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:06 AM
11

Sometimes I feel a little disgusted when I think that the men in my family likely consume the abuse of women for their pleasure but it’s gross to think about on so many levels I try not to. It keeps me holding them at a little bit of distance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:35 AM
9

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 08:33 AM
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I’m so happy that FDS is a space to say this out loud because the world really went crazy gaslighting women (and men) about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:47 PM
13

I have felt this crack grow for for almost 2 years before I broke up with my ex. It’s wild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:42 PM
21

So disappointing :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:01 PM
42

My ex told me that he loves me way more than I’ll ever love myself 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:02 PM
34

The guy explaining how to say the depraved thing properly is the scary part. I think guys who are fucked up learn how to say it in an acceptable way and then truly think that makes it ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:21 PM
26

This terrifies me too. I don’t feel I know them unless I know exactly what they do online when they don’t think I know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:50 PM
53

So many good usernames in this sub. Thanks for sharing OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:57 PM
472

How is our culture not see as an insane crisis in need of urgent correction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:33 PM
18

It’s insane. So gross. I hate that men who think that’s okay are everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:45 AM
9

He’s describing a sex doll with AI maybe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:03 PM
9

I usually try to avoid saying that I’m a radical feminist out loud to people who I don’t trust or know well because they may have some incorrect notion of what that means and stop listening and it’s usually not the time or the place to help someone paradigm shift. Instead I focus on a few of my views without using terms that summarize them. People tend to be more open to ideas than terms they’ve heard with negative connotations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:39 AM
53

Same, I want to work on my boundaries! I made a dangerous mistake after sending my LVM fiancé home to his mom then had to reel it in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:34 AM
192

I always used zero sexy photos and never the best photos hoping to find guys who were genuinely interested in what I said… but it’s OLD so it’s garbage and less smelly garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:31 AM
314

I always say “yes, but not the kind you think” if they’re assuming I’m a lib fem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:00 PM
63

I usually say that I’m tired of taking care of man babies and “they’re really hard to get rid of”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 05:58 PM
52

Yes! This makes so much sense. If it were men, it would be a problem that gets talked about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:18 AM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 09:24 PM
60

I love your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:26 PM
380

I would say that women who put up with NV/LV men are doomed. But I completely agree there are way, way more HV women out there than HV men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:45 PM
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I get this. Are there things that make you happy to wear though? I used to buy things that were tight fitting and for the male gaze because my ex complained about some of the clothes I had (by comparing me to his ex). But now I buy things that I like that men don’t necessarily like at all, like clothing made from natural fabrics and fun dresses that aren’t always form fitting but are super comfortable. I get compliments from women on my clothing more than I used to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:50 PM
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Yeah, If is so hard to find a show that portrays women as people. I actually think and FDS show that didn’t come right out and say it would be well received by women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:55 PM
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There must be enough of us to make this happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:11 PM
252

Perfect! I wish I could have witnessed that! This is the type of thing I want to see in a show, I hope FDS ladies make a show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:36 PM
238

It’s like reporting a crime to those committing the crime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:17 AM
21

I’d love to find a guy who isn’t pornsick but being single and not having to think about it for a second is feeling really good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:38 PM
40

I love the posts that make you think like this one! Thank you for sharing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:36 PM
1

A herd of unicorns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:22 AM
72

You nailed that way of thinking. Saving this comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:03 AM
13

This. After getting out of an abusive relationship I met a guy who was great in comparison to my abusive ex. He pursued me, I knew he wasn’t the one but I still got attached. It made it so much more difficult to get out of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:43 PM
3

👍 👍👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:50 AM
90

I’m not actually mean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:30 AM
18

This was the most disappointing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:22 PM
18

He is low vibration, as someone else said on here. His mind isn’t where you’d want your partners mind to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:26 AM
30

This is such a common tactic! I love the way you said it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 04:49 AM
142

Thank you for this post. I agree completely, women are forced into nagging or letting things go and doing more labor or being hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:39 AM
13

God that’s so gross and disrespectful. I want a guy who doesn’t want to look at other people because it degrades the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 07:02 PM
460

Lots of guys think they’re sneaky and it’s not noticeable but it’s so obvious sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 11:49 PM
10

So depressing. It’s almost always horrifying when men are genuine about their sexual interests Can we keep the eye bleach thing going? It really is nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:16 AM
32

Well said. I’ve definitely met scrotes who operate like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:16 AM
48

Low vibration is a good way of looking at low value men, I like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:01 PM
11

This was a painful watch. Sometimes in situations I want to end quickly I’m too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 05:17 AM
11

My hair has not grown back thicker, it’s finer and sparser. The girls I know who have gotten laser had the same experience as me so I can’t comment on any negative side effects
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 06:02 PM
104

For me the sensation of hair down there rubbing on clothes bothers me. If you find the right place, usually a small cosmetic office, laser hair removal is can be about the same price. I was going every six weeks for $80 and there are no bumps and less and less hair grows back each time. It’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:41 AM
23

I’ve arrived at the same conclusion that I just cannot date a man who isn’t already against porn and selling women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:23 AM
17

My ex posted videos of me to a porn site and other sites picked them up and they are everywhere now. I wish this had gone better but when I went to the police they didn’t call me back, I had to keep calling to get them to do anything and eventually I stopped because I couldn’t handle reliving it. I still intend to have them taken down some day when I’m in a better place. It gives me hope that you are pursuing this. I wish you all the luck in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 05:09 AM
2

The eyebleach actually worked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:40 PM
28

I love that saying about water, it’s so simple and clear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:13 AM
24

What a mess! I’m glad you’re able to stand observe and be thankful for where you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:24 AM
4

It’s so crazy when this happens because it’s so recognizable but we don’t have the words to describe it because it’s the way they do the thing that makes it creepy. Having language to describe what is wrong is so important, nothing will change without it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:52 AM
6

This is such good advice! I love that you learned more from your ex than just how to avoid/rebuff narcissists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:04 AM
6

It’s a process to feel more and more confident in your opinions and beliefs when they oppose the vast majority of people’s opinions. I’m learning, little by little, not to be bothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:49 AM
1

Does anyone have the original post? It says it was deleted and I’m dying to read it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 07:18 PM
8

I agree with this sentiment but I’d say that each woman is so valuable but it’s a mistake to think that a man will recognize this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:55 PM
3

This sounds like a good idea! Do you have any suggestions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:11 PM
51

But the bird and thunder sounds were cool when we were younger 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:09 PM
17

If he brings it up that he doesn’t watch porn he’s more than likely lying, and he more than likely believes that “aLL mEn wAtCh pOrN.” So it’s better if he thinks that women will block him if he lies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:15 AM
32

Or still pretend to be the cool girl and say “I don’t deal with liars” and then leave, block, and delete. Then they hopefully will be honest with the next woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 09:39 PM
197

I dread this becoming more and more popular. Honestly, I just want to be done with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:34 AM
115

Gross. She should report him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:42 PM
9

I’ve wasted too much of my time in the past doing the same with zero success. Why is this such a common take?! It’s so heartless and thoughtless of men to do this. It’s gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:33 AM
106

Let’s make a big one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:19 AM
11

It does manifest in different ways. My ex would stay hard for hours because of the viagra he took. It was a long time before I realized. He would also watch teen porn for hours on end when he was mad. He also loved to call me names common in porn titles during sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:16 AM
28

Not feeling the need to perform femininity everyday sounds so appealing. I noticed that I feel obligated in relationships with men even though I know I shouldn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:06 AM
32

Can any men give back what women can give?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:11 PM
50

That was my ex’s reason for sure. All he consumed was hours of teen porn. He was 17 years older than me when he hired me. I can’t believe I was so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:24 AM
10

It is a great microcosm of het relationships. So sad and scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:27 AM
13

This is a fantastic strategy to analyze how you think of yourself. I’m so glad you posted this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:18 PM
36

Yes! Learn to root out misogynist/beliefs and ways of thinking by reading between the lines and paying attention to their choice of words and their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:38 AM
41

At the same time they say “it’s just pixels” and “it’s just fantasy.” Ew, just eww. And I’m so glad this is a dealbreaker for you. It’s definitely language that instantly gives away the man as someone who wants a subset of women that exist just for his sexual pleasure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:58 AM
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We were in the middle of an argument about how widespread misogyny is and he pulled an “it’s biology” about something. So grossed out. He didn’t want to understand. That’s when I realized I would never be happy with someone who can’t see women as people in all situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:05 PM
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That sounds awful! I’m so glad you had that moment and are rid of that petty, NV man-baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 07:28 PM
6

Yes! I wish I knew to check their following before getting into a relationship last time because he hated girls taking pictures of themselves but liked followed SO many sexualized girls and that tells you he’s into porn too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:51 PM
6

This is a good way to put it. I agree 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:48 PM
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Girl, think about all the problems and pain staying with him will for sure bring vs none of those problems without him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:51 AM
278

Right? He really thinks that image is the one to go with?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:40 PM
7

This is perfect! I hope it trends on Twitter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:48 PM
60

You nailed this! Men like the “idea of women wrapped in what they’ve come to know as femininity” not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:00 PM
77

Yes! And women are never “easy” compared to men. Men are the biggest sluts, there’s nothing easier
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:52 PM
45

I get annoyed at this too! It’s so prevalent, I hate that it’s normalized to pretend women’s sexual attraction doesn’t matter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:51 PM
92

So twisted. And it’s so sad how much labor women put into untwisting this way of thinking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:08 AM
135

I love FDS energy so much!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:18 AM
71

I love this. Both because it’s been proven that women treated by women have better outcomes and because it supports women’s businesses/careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:50 AM
124

At this point I would never go to a male therapist or counselor because of the chances that they are even a 10th as bad as that old scrote. If it’s likely that your therapist or counselor jerks off to women being used and traumatized, how can he empathize with you and does he even want to help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:20 AM
105

Maybe it severs their souls a little bit each time like a horcrux. If not their souls at least their empathy and ability to love purely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:43 PM
77

Yep. It’s insane to choose that over a partner. This is a great way to weed out the empty ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 10:40 PM
81

Also it’s the them who are giving women so many matches. Why bitch about it? It’s you dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 03:07 AM
30

God, me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:20 AM
1

What a loser, sitting there like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:43 PM
4

Women like Ghislaine Maxwell would never have done those horrible things on her own, it’s always for the benefit of some sick man. It’s Pickmeism at its most warped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:14 PM
122

Jesus. I wish this was shocking instead of just worrisome for the OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:59 AM
11

I wish there was a way to help get women and girls out. I’m not sure what to do to help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:00 PM
6

Reading this made me realize just how low my standards are for “really good guys” compared to women. Men really keep the bar low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:38 AM
21

I feel you. It’s depressing. It’s good to take a break from the news to protect yourself a bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:24 AM
23

Definitely block and delete. That’s a mess that’s not worth getting into
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:22 AM
69

That was so much more than I was expecting! Worth it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:53 PM
292

Yeah, it definitely matters. It sounds so nice to say it doesn’t but that’s just not anatomical reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:54 PM
34

That was when the conversation ended
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:11 PM
100

A guy tried to tell me that saying porn is bad for men’s view of women is the same as saying video games are bad for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:52 PM
30

The clarity and certainty in moments like this is powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:24 AM
7

Great reminder! Starting to orbit them is subtle sometimes! Proud of you for realizing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:33 AM
127

This is so true. It doesn’t become a habit if you don’t entertain it, you have to choose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 06:20 AM
22

Same. Paywall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:57 AM
66

This always bothered me because it’s many middle eastern women’s reality right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:20 AM
192

I’m all for a women’s only planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 01:13 AM
36

This is an awesome strategy. It cuts right through the BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:58 PM
17

I had this too. But also I was so sick about it with my ex that I didn’t have an appetite anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:18 PM
50

I love this. Definitely something to keep in mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:13 PM
49

God that’s creepy! I think I’m getting better too, the comments that are “off” from people like my uncle are telling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:48 PM
45

Yeah, pretty much. But there are some that can see the light, just not a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:45 PM
35

The last paragraph is so good! I’m so tired of arguing for basic decency
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:32 AM
9

Thank you! I’m going to listen to this tomorrow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:34 AM
10

Yes! It’s how he thinks and it’s incredibly unhealthy and just downright pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:21 PM
15

I hate that too. Being the product and producing a product are not the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:32 PM
24

My much older ex did this. I didn’t realize how bad it was back then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 10:30 PM
66

I agree, shared values is exactly it! And it’s not possible to truly respect women (see them as human) and jerk off to them being abused, sold and humiliated, so it’s impossible for a woman to have a truly trusting relationship with a man who watches porn unless they’re a pickmeisha and their trust is misguided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:48 PM
8

Oh god. This is something that’s so hard because how can he really not understand?! He can’t be evil, how is he this dumb?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:19 PM
63

Honesty is so freeing! I love this post. The more women FDS can help to realize that there isn’t something wrong with them for feeling unhappy with liberal feminism (misogyny) or conservative misogyny the more women will be honest about want they want and deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:20 PM
104

That’s exactly what I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:04 PM
75

Me too. I remember feeling like I had to tell this one guy that his tampon sized dick was good when in reality he was laughably bad in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:48 PM
17

Venting a bit helped me. I needed to get it out in a context where I wouldn’t be gaslit. I like the one day/week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:35 AM
13

Taking baths with your partner sounds amazing! I want that kind of relaxed fun in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:21 AM
0

I struggle with this concept when it comes to dating. I think in most cases the guy benefiting from patriarchy is not worth the effort you’ll have to spend to get him to even understand what decent means. But there have to be some that are worth the effort, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:36 AM
70

Now do the next one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:35 PM
6

“Don’t kink shame” is just another way to shut women up about abuse and oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:27 PM
2

Sex after showers only. I don’t want to be gagging out of disgust. But I completely agree that cats are almost always better than men. They’re so pure and indoor cats always smell good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:51 AM
1

It took me a while to process after I posted this because I realized that I still have a knee-jerk reaction to make up excuses for him and let things slide because there are so many things and I’m tired. Tired of teaching and having to reason and argue with him to get through to him and help him change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:47 AM
14

That is so true of non abusive men. I see this in my partner, it’s easy for him to feel above all that and look good in comparison. But he doesn’t want to think about the horrible things men do, he wants to ignore it and ride that wave through life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:31 AM
3

This makes me so happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:07 AM
33

I gave my phone to a repair service to replace the screen about 5 years ago and the guy insisted that he needed my password and he had it for about 4 hours and I just know he went through it. He acted so weird when I picked it up. It made me feel unsafe but at that age I just pushed it out of my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:22 PM
68

“I suggest looking for someone with positive things that fill their life, not a list of things they talk about being against.” I really like this, it should be part of vetting. They should be against things, like exploitation of women and not consumed by performative hatred. (I don’t know how to quote on Reddit)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:55 PM
13

I think it’s better if he wants to wear them because it’s not about her then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:49 PM
3

Yes!!! That would be fantastic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:37 PM
38

That sounds like a healthy way to look at dating men, it’s stressful when you have high expectations and are always being disappointed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:13 AM
145

I love this energy, this should be standard. I wish young girls were taught this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:03 AM
9

There is nothing more pure than love from pets. I’m grateful for this everyday, it’s so healthy to have animal companions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:54 AM
22

Almost all my stress comes from my current partner. It’s awful. He doesn’t feel this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:50 AM
7

Yuck, he’s creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:32 AM
17

She doesn’t even hold his hand 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:29 AM
8

Emily Dickinson is truly amazing. I highly recommend reading her work, it’s cathartic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:11 AM
95

I hate how being anti-porn and anti-prostitution is immediately associated with hating women who work in it instead of empathizing and wanting better for these women than having to sell their bodies to men who don’t care about them. Women should not be a commodity. Libfems don’t listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:43 AM
18

One toxic trait I’ve acquired is an increasingly low tolerance for my current partner’s extremely minimal effort. Single life is sounding better and better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:28 AM
27

That was my favorite part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:24 AM
37

This is so sad. It’s very revealing of how deep the patriarchy is rooted in everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:18 PM
0

I think I’m a bit stuck in the “has potential if I can get him to hear and understand me” trap. I only have a few complaints about him, and besides those we are very compatible. My lease ends this summer and I think that’s a good time to move on if he still doesn’t get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:44 PM
19

I love the way you described being more your own, as clawing back your dignity from corners of your life. I feel this. It hurts so much when people you are close to don’t treat you the way they should but it feels so good when you reclaim yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:38 AM
0

At least that guy hasn’t posted anything in months and he’s unfollowed lots of accounts since I talked to him about it. I know I shouldn’t have had to talk to him about it but I was a pickme when we got together and honestly I didn’t look to see who he follows until months after we moved in together. I would never get into a relationship with him now. I was so worn down after my ex that he seemed so good. This is why women need FDS so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:44 AM
70

Yep yep. Some guys can’t help but look. It’s so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:05 PM
28

Oof. Just looked and my guy follows him :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:31 AM
9

The love you had sounds amazing! Thank you for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:26 AM
4

I love this. I’ve been asked advice about leaving abusive relationships by women I know in real life and it’s really good to share the patterns and strategies I wished I knew earlier. It helps so much to see that it’s not their fault, it’s that their man is ruined and broken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:09 AM
20

Sexy Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:04 AM
58

Oh my god! I don’t know why buying your dream engagement ring on your own never occurred to me! I fucking love this idea. You go girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:39 PM
22

This picture is so accurate! Good find, I’m saving it for later :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:38 PM
40

I agree. Men always hate the outfits that are the most fun and women love them. It’s always been be yourself or please men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:31 PM
80

It seems like they do well at first and once you’ve been in a relationship for months they get worse. At Everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:17 PM
13

I started seeing every woman who goes against beauty standards as really cool. It’s not something I’m willing to do in some areas because both men and women will judge you for it and honestly it might hurt job opportunities. It’s really wild how much conformity matters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:06 AM
107

Hating women is so engrained, I think it just goes unrealized most of the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:53 PM
36

“Good for her!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:19 PM
57

Exactly. “Nothing is wrong if it’s in porn.” And if you don’t accept that you’re a crazy, controlling prude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:09 AM
1

And for good reason!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:57 AM
19

This is a phenomenal idea. Just throw all the details in the fine print and when they click agree they really get vetted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:39 AM
57

“Men have successfully engineered a system where they are the normal and women are the other.” I love how you said this. This is absolutely the eyes open way to see society. My ex of 4.5 years used to spit in my face (among other things) when he was mad at me. It was so shocking and degrading I did nothing for a long time. It took a while but I started to boil inside. My inner turmoil grew stronger as the way I was being treated became more and more incompatible with what I knew at heart was rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:17 AM
62

That’s a killer point! It could be the difference between life and death or a wasted life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:31 AM
168

They can’t understand that alone and happy is a million times better than being attached to a misogynist who doesn’t actually care about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:07 PM
288

This is another area where scrotes like to excuse what they believe/are doing because it’s nOrMaL. A guy I dated told me that he didn’t want other guys looking at me “like that” but could not fathom that him looking at other women “like that” is wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:56 PM
6

I wanted to in the past too but I was afraid of getting hate messages for it or worse someone who just wants to trick you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:42 PM
75

Same. The trope of the unattractive male being a really good guy is BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:00 PM
14

I love hearing that they exist, it’s easy to write off men entirely **spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:41 PM
54

Multiple guys have told me that they’re immune to porn changing the way they think/see women. And they’ve excused the abhorrent language and racism in porn because “it’s just so that it has the widest appeal” 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:49 PM
27

This is such a good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:46 PM
50

Every guy I’ve told I don’t like porn says “good luck finding someone then,” as if being with a shitty partner that causes me anxiety and stress is better than being on my own 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:29 PM
15

Yes, I want this to be super normal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:26 PM
16

It’s awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:17 PM
33

I feel this. It’s so frustrating when people say things like “it’s not your problem,” when porn infiltrates society and shapes behavior on every level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:19 AM
39

I really like the idea that every woman can practice separatism in small ways, even if it’s just choosing a female run business to support whenever you are able instead of a male run business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:53 AM
73

“Porn says a lot about men as a whole” is exactly right! From the domination, abuse, language used to speak about women, pedo-type stuff, racism, and clear and obvious exploitation, Popular Porn speaks volumes about who men are as a group and it’s fucking terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:50 AM
15

I love this quote! I think about it all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:43 AM
11

I agree, the thought of having children in today’s world is terrifying. I can’t imagine raising a girl in such an oppressive culture or a boy who would possibly participate in the oppression of girls and women. Like you said there are other reasons too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:21 AM
4

Maybe he likes men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:13 AM
24

Exactly! It’s an icebreaker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:38 AM
21

This is so good to hear! Proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:55 PM
105

Same. Men shouldn’t buy women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:55 PM
24

Changing this is such a confidence booster! It does feel awkward at first but then it feels good because people listen to you more and take you more seriously. It seems to improve any experience no matter how informal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:19 PM
5

He’s 6’7” and loves his mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:55 AM
34

That’s a good way to put it! It sounds ridiculous because it is ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:20 PM
274

Porn makes men so stupid. I’ve had men get mad at me and ask me what was wrong with me for not orgasming when they imitated exactly what they saw in porn. Men literally cannot tell when a woman is enjoying sex or not. Porn ruins their ability to pick up on body language and distinguish between acting and actual pleasure. It’s also funny in a pathetic way that they think the “pleasure” they’re seeing in porn is real. Like they’re really sure that teen lady is enjoying that fat old greasy bald man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:13 PM
2

Yep. It’s BS. Words matter. If you can’t talk about oppression then you can’t work to get rid of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:49 PM
3

It seems like libfeminism changed the goals so that if as long as everyone uses the right language everything can stay the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:40 AM
25

Yes, sometimes it’s depressing we’re stuck here while people destroy the planet and make life for women worse and worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:33 AM
3

Asking myself what advice I would give to someone I love in my same situation is exactly what helped me get out of a 4.5 year abusive relationship. It really helps to look at things through that lens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:53 PM
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