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Wow, you must be ready to bake a nice pie, with all that cherry picking you just did! Oh wait, that's true, you don't bake, or cook, or do dishes, or laundry, or lunches, or wash sinks or bathrooms or floors or anything, really, that's women's work - the endless, exhausting, essential care and maintenance work, of which three-fourth is done by women. Like yeah, I'm sure men can have the time and energy to do ten percent more paid (and better paid) labor than women, since women do seventy-five pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/23 11:17 PM
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Fulfilling their lifelong dreams of being stay-at-home gamers 🙄 Like they seriously think they can do none of the work, take none of the responsibilities, own all the resources, and take all the decisions, like mini princelings... they're going to have a rude awakening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/22 06:39 PM
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I honestly can't believe anyone would think otherwise. How brainwashed are young women that they'll literally risk death for male approval? Obligatory: "choking" is when something gets stuck inside your airways and cuts off your air intake. The correct name for the act of violence that degenerates commits against women is "strangling/strangulation". Calling it "choking" is PR, to make it sound less hateful and painful than it is. In any case, that kind of sadism is a telltale sign of societal co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/22 12:26 AM
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Thanks for the reminder, Lundy is definitely next on my reading list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 11:34 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/snr0rf/how\_to\_win\_in\_family\_court\_a\_psa\_from\_a\_lawyer/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 10:59 AM
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Yeah, that's a whole other layer of absurdity to their argument. Never mind that we have an organ made only for pleasure, which is a biological refutation of men's claims that our sexuality just aims to serve theirs. Any argument they make about how "women don't really have needs" ends up being about them being selfish in bed, circular reasoning at its finest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:01 PM
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Passwords, like when you type a password on the computer. I look away, and so do the really honest people I know; LV people tend to just look with this air of "well I'm so innocent I would never, you can just type you password..." Btw, when someone does that I will literally look at them and wait for them to look away before typing. A few times, I've asked someone not to look. Their reaction is very telling - LV people do not like boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 10:59 AM
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Yeah, defining sex as a "need" is the cornerstone of that whole stack of lies. Men can live their whole lives without sex, many have (monks etc.) while, on the other hand, sexual exploitation kills women regularly and frequently. Their argument is basically that their "right" to comfort/ physical pleasure/ ego validation trumps women's right to life and safety. Also, notice how they specify "sexual intercourse with a female"? Because the easiest thing in the world is to tell them to use their ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 10:54 AM
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I just love how vulnerabilityand harmlessness are marketed to women as moral duties. It's a load of BS and it ruins lives. Here's the truth: you have a duty to protect and take care of yourself, which takes priority over "being the bigger person" to a dishonest manchild. You don't even have a duty to "be the bigger person". Just curious, has this "bigger person" stuff ever been pushed on men? Everytime I've met it in the wild, it was pushed on a woman who had been wronged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 10:42 AM
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Yeah, that silence is what a guy does to punish you when he's not 100% sure he would get away with abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:04 PM
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Since there are at least 3 comments that aren't visible, I'll go with the scrotes silencing thing. Also, their campaign or harassment seems to be getting worse, doesn't it? I guess they've all managed to shirk off every last responsibility they have to their mom or bangmaid while they spend all day giving themselves Peyronie's and harassing women online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:00 PM
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Ok, new norm: Whenever a man says he doesn't want kids, we immediately say: "Oh ok, so when did you get your vasectomy?" When he says he didn't, we stare at him looking confused: "but... didn't you just say you didn't want kids?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 09:49 PM
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Yeah, whenever men see vulnerability or hardship in women/children, they go into predator mode, and this goes double for those who sell women and girls as merchandise. We need some change around here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 12:13 PM
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Yeah, it's crazy how common so many of them are - I don't think there's a single one of these signs I haven't seen in the wild. It's also a major problem how many of these signs will be dismissed by people as "normal" or "not a big deal". It's unreasonable to expect us to want to have children in this kind of a context - let the population thin out enough that they learn to value women and children's lives first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:39 PM
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Yeah, narcissism is a huge problem in relationships, and everywhere really. Also, we live in a culture that tends to reward narcissists and give them their way, so that even people that aren't full-blown narcissists will often develop narcissistic traits - especially men, because they get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:08 AM
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Yeah, and there have been studies showing that porn causes men to lose empathy for women and to not see us as people, not to mention it blows their reward center, making them lose enthusiasm and motivation - they become the dead-eyed wrecks we've all known and tried to love. It ruins them as people and makes them unsuitable to be partners, even when it doesn't make them full-on violent criminals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:03 AM
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Omg you could use that as the first, ground-level vetting - if he thinks that staying faithful is hard, in the garbage he goes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:50 PM
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He's pretending he's the employer and you're the employee, when its the other way round and its setting you up to impress him or prove your worth. Yeah, I haven't been dating and I was surprised to read this just now - that men will really ask you to name three things about yourself? That's just so off-putting. Also, I think it's trying to set up a dynamic where they're the choosers/the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:47 PM
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As if. Society is constantly pressuring women to make themselves available, to be friendly and welcoming and whatnot. It's just that, believe it or not, women don't dream of talking with strange men. in commute and in life, we're better off by ourselves than with abusive or exploitative men, which is the majority of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:39 PM
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Yeah, Paul reminds me of some people. Like the worst abusers just want to fake decency so hard, at this point I kind of think it might be a symptom. Always want to look good, ready to do any depraved sh*t on the dark but don't you dare name what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:34 PM
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This is the mommy-maid dynamic, magnified. None of the women are ever going to be listened to unless they say exactly what the boss wants to hear, there are going to be huge problem that go unadressed because the bosses don't think they really matter, workers will be expected to do everything and baby the bosses, and - a raise? What's that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 12:04 PM
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Yeah, above all don't chase, only ruin lies that way. But also, different approach: feelings of fascination/limerence can sometimes be brought out by someone who demonstrates qualities that you would like to claim for yourself. You mention he's very knowledgeable - if you get the tingles when he demonstrates knowledge, maybe it means you would like to accumulate more knowledge for yourself? If so, just a little tweak to a routine can help - like reading relevant books/listening to audiobooks on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:58 AM
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Lol they're all hooked on porn - like children who refuse to eat real food because they only want to have hot dogs and boxed mac and cheese forever, and with about the same level of maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:34 AM
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Lol spring is coming in too early, but everyone's still following the program. There's still a lot of snow but it's melting fast, any piece of ground you can find is either frozen or wet mud. The trees don't have leaf buds yet, but you can finally tell it's coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 11:15 AM
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I think this is a really good point - I think these dynamics scale up and down into society. The "never been told no" syndrome shows up in bad boyfriends, fathers, customers, landlords, bosses, investors, and of course authoritarians heads of state. I've heard/read many times women compare the Russia/Ukraine situation to an abusive relationship (also, the China/Taiwan one to a stalker situation), and it's kind of odd to see how they use the same tactics too. Like that random "accuse the other of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:02 AM
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I think it's more like she's reluctantly impressed 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 10:49 PM
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Interesting thing about good/bad people: the worst people you'll ever meet are those who will insist forever they're good people. The best people you'll ever meet are those who say they try to be good. So when men go on and on about how nothing they say or do really means what it means because they're good people regardless, well, that's worth exactly nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:03 PM
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Yeah, like how dare a HVM care about a woman and - gasp - make an effort? Way to raise the bar! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:46 PM
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He does something LVM seem to do a lot, which is argue as if every single man in the world was LV. Yes, LVM who are good-looking and rich will have lots of options, and will stay in their child fucboi phase for a long time, but that just shows they're LV and that they would be a bad partner anyway. That guy cannot even imagine a HVM existing, and my bet is that if he ever meets a HVM, he will resent the HVM insanely for being better than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:34 PM
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The way to that is to treat yourself like your own best friend - if you wouldn't do something to a friend, don't do it to yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:08 AM
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Yeah, and with this kind of guy, when you try to cOmMuNiCaTe it becomes a game of how much bad faith he can put off. If you ask him to do his part around the house, here comes the weaponized incompetence. If you ask him to not ignore you and play video games all evening, he'll come to see you, be as annoying as he can, and act like you're so mean to him. Every reasonable request will be met with sabotage and gaslighting. You can polish a turd all you want, it's still just a turd, and you can try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 03:42 AM
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I'll bet 5$ that not a single person on here is surprised by this 😄 Is it just me, or will some guys just make some dumb argument and then, when you rebuke it, they will completely ignore your answer, insist you didn't understand them, and say the same dumb argument again, louder? Seems relevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:07 AM
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... And Kim K. doesn't have to deal with one of the major impediments that other women in abusive situations have, which is that housing is so scarce and so unaffordable. It's a huge problem, among others for women seeking safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:27 AM
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Hey, glad you're back! But yeah, the only way I've found to make sense of the counterproductive stuff men do is to remind myself, again and again, that they were taught and told they were entitled to a slave, while we were taught to be slaves and told there was no such thing as a slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:20 AM
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Especially since most men like nothing more than coercing half-hearted "consent" and then insisting it can't be revoked ever. Right now consent is treated as a legal box to check, when what's really needed is for men to treat women as actual people and sex as mutual pleasure, rather than as an act of violence/domination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:18 PM
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He pretty literally used her as an incubator, and gave her almost as much respect as one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:13 PM
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Yeah, the porn - even though it demonstrably causes huge damage - is uber-sacred, can't touch it. To the patriarchy, it's also a bonus "associate mental health issues with women" opportunity. Then, in turn, they can use that association to deny us rights, professional opportunities, even rights over our own body - who wants to take a bet that soon, it'll be "Well we have to force girls and women to have children against their will, because it's just their mental health problems that make them wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:32 PM
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Yeah, and they will call it that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:29 PM
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Sooo... when women are stay-at home parents, they do everything and get nothing for it. When men are stay-at-home parents, they play video games all day and... get Lamborghinis for it? And you know that a bunch of golddigging LVM are going to bring up this story to their gfs. Anyway, she'd have invested that money so much better if she'd hired a woman instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:05 AM
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Bwahahahaha otherwise said: date like a man. Well, it sure seems to work well for them, they go their whole lifetimes getting everything for free and never making an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:51 PM
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LVM. The nicer you are to them, the more they'll make you regret it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:15 PM
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They don't realize a lot of these porn stars fucking hate it. They hate having to deep throat, swallow, or go through facial abuse for horrible men who can't be bothered to eat them out properly or make the women orgasm. Yeah, and about that, some time ago someone on here linked to an article that mentioned yet one more problem with our all-porn-all-the-time culture: We humans are social animals, and as such we read body language natively, even subtle body language and facial expressions. Now, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:14 AM
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Yeah, I think it's a general thing. It's why I gave up on sex with men too - I do want it, I did like it sometimes, I can easily imagine liking it a lot, but the men I've been with were just so selfish, lazy and incompetent that it was, at the very best, okay. Most of the times it was pointless, a few times it was really bad. Will or won't, I can do more by myself in five minutes than any guy I've been with could in a whole evening, so... *shrug*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 12:11 AM
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Patriarchal conditioning, effect and cause at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:44 PM
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Yeah, this is BS. Translation: "I would rather you pretend nothing happened, I mean just because it made your life into a hell doesn't mean you're allowed to complain about it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:25 PM
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Yeah, and that whole "sex is a need" thing - if it's a need, then women also have needs, and no woman can really enjoy sex unless she feels safe, so we can start prosecuting r*pists and intimate terrorists now? Oh, no, wait, the point of that argument was really just to justify r*pe, got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:53 PM
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Yeah, I find it hard to believe that anyone ever believed that BS - When you see street pr*stitutes, half of them seem scared out of their minds and the other half are unable of forming a complete sentence. When you pass by strip clubs, they all have bouncers, and it always seemed to me like those bouncers are there to keep the girls in more than anything else. Who tf looks at this and thinks those women seem happy? Yeah, I know there were articles written by like three high-level call girls who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 12:38 PM
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When faced with gross sexism or threats: "I don't understand what you mean, could you explain it to me?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:23 AM
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Yeah, you can tell he enjoyed that. He enjoyed your reaction and he enjoyed saying that. Are you really, really sure that was a man and not, say, a sarcoma?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:35 PM
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Aaaaand that's just the one that got arrested. There's no way he's the only one that did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:08 PM
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Funny how so many guys push painful and damaging stuff onto women, but would never even consider enduring those things themselves. Is there some way of making a new norm - like, say, when someone is pushing for something "adventurous", they have to be on the receiving end first, before they do it to anyone else? Just a thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 03:55 PM
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Yeah, LVM are the anti-prep, guzzling resources, wearing us out and making every problem worse. The insane housing bubble just makes it so hard to find a decent, safe place to be in though, damn close to impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 02:14 PM
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She has other good reasons to do this too, but who wants to take a bet it was only "great" and "amazing" for him, and he didn't know or care how it was for her? Maybe he demanded she make noise to flatter his ego, meanwhile she's never even had a real orgasm and he never bothered to really try to give her one. Typical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 12:34 PM
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That demand for younger women is really a demand for vulnerable women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:50 PM
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I understand the impulse, but country guys can be... (shudders)... There was a comment made on FDS some weeks ago where the commenter mentioned that HVM are usually outside male social hierarchy - because those that have a boys' group tend to value that group above women, while those that are uneasy with male subcultures and don't fit in them have higher odds of being able to really value a woman. (To be clear, she wasn't saying that all guys who don't have a group of friends were HV, just that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 12:18 PM
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Yeah, that's a role model we can get behind! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:21 PM
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Aaaaaah omg what a creep! 😲 Good on you for leaving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:18 PM
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Ah, ok, so by that token it's also time for men to do all the unpaid housework, and for women to get all the well-paid decision-making jobs, right? Since we're switching things up? Oh no, wait, my bad, he meant that he still wants all the privilege, and he still wants women to do all the work, except that we have to do the chasing too. Well, he's gonna die mad and alone because we're not chasing anyone, and no one is chasing him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:39 PM
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Yeah, notice how he said he had 2 fwb, but stil thought he couldn't get laid? Because it's not about the facts, it's about fooling new women. Those guys aren't much for reality and facts, are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:10 PM
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If you want more proof that s*x work isn't empowering, just look at the Icelandic experience. Here it is summarized: Iceland has sufficiently good labor laws and standards of living that Icelandic women aren't financially desperate enough to do s*x work (stripping etc.) The s*x industry imports vulnerable women from abroad, creating problems with human trafficking. Icelandic society gets sick of it and bans s*x work. The (female) Icelandic prime minister apparently commented, saying (quoting fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 12:12 PM
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"I'm such a badass edgelord warrior, don't you know you're still breathing only by my mercy? You should be gratefuuuuulllll" - some loser who could probably be taken down by at least 45% of working-age women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:52 AM
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It's so easy for bad things to happen in a hospital setting with imperfect communication - from misunderstanding allergies or previous adverse reactions to medication, to family or personal history (that can have an impact on speed of diagnosis), to just not being able to communicate symptoms or their evolution right. His selfishness, stupidity and contempt for her literally endangered her life. ... but some of his friends think it's "not a big deal", so you know, who's to say? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:48 AM
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That's true, but let's not forget that women don't just disregard red flags on their own, they're trained to, not just socially (other people's examples and comments), but also through cultural material, like movies/tv, books etc. Our brain can't really tell the difference between fictional people and real people we know, and this has all kinds of real-life application. The fact that those materials are chock-full of heroic guys who fight the good fight while accidentally neglecting their signif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:29 AM
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Your challenge might be elsewhere, but for other sisters in similar situations reading this, there was a good post not too long ago on exit strategies for those stuck with LVM, here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/t3oizl/we_need_to_talk_about_exit_strategies_for_those/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:20 AM
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Bwahahahaha (To the tune of Bohemian Rhapsody) 🎵 Is this the real life 🎵 🎵 Is this just Photoshop 🎵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:01 AM
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Omg, what a moron. I'm not sure if it's legit will to research or just morbid curiosity, but I'm really curious what those messages were... ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 10:58 AM
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She was just out of the hospital, so... life insurance? Some kind of financial abuse? Deeds to some property of her? And yeah, I'll bet my next paycheck that this is some brazen scam. It kind of bothers me how she says she "might be paranoid", because the taboo against women trusting themselves is just that strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:43 PM
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What. the. F*** this is insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:44 PM
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What was that quote again? When you're used to privilege, equality feels like oppression?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:38 PM
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I feel dumb for ignoring my first impression and communicating with him when he said he was only looking for friends. He had me convinced his flirting was harmless pleasantries, that I was misreading it. I'm not normally naive. That's the part of the original post I was referring to. I think that it's because, when we lose our self-confidence and our poise, it's easier to make us doubt our own impressions, to kind of erase our perceptions in favor of what someone else thinks is going on. Thought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:05 PM
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Yeah, well, that's the thing: while no woman is every safe from these kinds of creeps, they tend to focus especially on women they think are vulnerable, it's the "wounded gazelle" thing. Plus, I think that uncharacteristic naiveté might have something to do with diminished confidence. I do think that glowing up might help with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:56 PM
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Preach!! And anyone who insists on defining you through a man is someone whose opinion is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:44 PM
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2% too many
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 02:31 PM
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Hey this is really good as a vetting strategy. Maybe even, the rest of the year, ask a question like: "What do you think is a good way to celebrate International Women's Day?" Lol masks gonna drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:28 PM
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Yeah, and add to it how we're shamed for refusing to put our lives at risk and/or sacrifice them. Sir, Ma'am, if you really believe that couplehood is The only path to happiness for womenTM, why are you telling me I'm selfish for not participating in it? Just admit that hetero couples are labor camps for women but that you think we have a moral duty to go to them already. Also, why is it so taboo to recognize that men pose a risk to women's lives? Everyone buckles their safety belt without quest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:15 PM
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The nuclear family is just a support system for the patriarchy - where the woman is completely drained to ensure the man gets free time, money and energy, and the children are taught to do the same once they've grown up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:15 PM
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I like how there's not even a part that states anything he brings to the table, since we all know that even negative-value guys, with not a single thing going for them, consider that they are owed this... hmm... shall we call her pick-me Barbie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:02 PM
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Pretty well-produced, you know, for propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 10:55 PM
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Well their whole life is built on the privilege conferred to them by their genitalia; everything they got, they got through gender privilege. Just like rich people are obsessed with money, whatever the main advantage that someone has in life is, they're going to think about it a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:13 PM
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Just switch the genders and the insanity becomes obvious, even for a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 01:00 AM
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Yeah, just the fact that they're so upset about us refusing to be with them means it's actually a tactic that works. If you try to educate and support them, they'll exhaust you; if you try to debate them, they'll gaslight and lie to you. If you try to prove yourself to them, they'll keep moving the goalposts; and when none of that works anymore, they'll resort to violence. Sometimes the only defense is distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:15 PM
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Yeah, that's spot on. It makes it sound like "turning our back on love" is a bad thing, but then, in the absence of HVM, when all we are offered is abuse or exploitation, we're still better off doing without. Better to go thirsty than to drink poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:00 PM
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Hahahahahahaha does that come in poster-size?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 07:28 PM
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They can keep repeating this BS as much as they want, that still won't make it true. If they were half of the benefit to women they claim to be, they would have their picks of relationships. Instead, they keep demanding 50/50 (or even worse, financially providing) mommy-bangmaids to abuse and exploit, and whine about wOMeN bEiNg tOo pIcKY. Well then...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:08 PM
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... and how he treats people he has power over is who he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:58 PM
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Yeah, I kind of did this unintentionally because I knew what my "job" (from an existential point of view) was from a young age, and that always stuck in my mind. Every few years, I tried to get a boyfriend, and every time, I found out that they demanded so much time, energy and sacrifice that I could barely sustain myself, much less do my real job, so I bailed. Of course, I would like to have a real, solid, loving partner if I could find one. Men aren't genetically or essentially depraved, it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:53 PM
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He doesn't like the sister and is seeking to blame her/isolate the wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 12:06 PM
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Yeah, p*rn and privilege did that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 11:56 AM
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This lame job is just temporary baby, just wait and see” "... and in the meantime, can you lend me some money?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 01:07 AM
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I'm sorry, can we talk about that capitalization? trying to work out the SUCCESS code Because just that gives me some serious 🤡 vibes. Like he's the kind of nitwit who fell for a certain orange ex-president's fake uni promising to let student into the "world of success".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 11:19 PM
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Good on you!! Also, for all sisters, a trick for when you want to get mad but you're frozen in place: swear. Swearing helps you go from terror/paralysis to rage, I don't know why but it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:56 PM
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I agree with the principle, and it also works the other way around: the reason the bar is so low is because the poorest and most vulnerable women have no choice but to endure some atrocious treatment. As long as men can get barely-paid women to clean up after them and s*x workers to degrade, they will demand maid service and s*xual degradation from all women. We'll only be free when every woman is free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:39 PM
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"Hey, treat me like the hero I'm not, and also like the child I'm not! What do you mean, I need to do something for you too? It doesn't work that wayyyyyyy!!! You're only here for me, and I'm only here for me too!" - LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:31 PM
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Please also note the before-last paragraph, where he whines about her taking housework into account. Because he was expecting her to lose the income from her job, AND pay all the fees and the hospital bill, AND do or pay for all the housework. He loves her because she's so accomplished, except that he's "turned off" that she won't sacrifice everything to please him. By asking for guarantees, she actually managed to make the LVM come out before she was pregnant and stuck with him - and he seemed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:50 PM
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Hmmm let's ask Nature whose lives She thinks should be preserved. For all the men (and brainwashed women) who like to talk about bIoLoGy AnD eVoLuTiOn (and somehow their idea of those always suits their needs of the moment), nature values women's lives above men's; if a tribe is threatened, nature wants to keep the women. If women are threatened, nature wants to keep their uteri and vital organs. Please allow me to demonstrate using the mechanics of death by hypothermia: Women have a higher diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 10:22 AM
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I think you would like "The Gift Of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker; it talks about intuition and how it will perceive tiny unconscious stimuli, among many other things. I have definitely avoided something bad at least twice thanks to that book. As for trusting ourselves in general, it's a challenge a lot of us have. Myself, I found that it became easier when I lost my naive-colored glasses - like when I realized that most people in positions of authority don't know better than the rest of us, and that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:14 PM
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"Yeah, I mean, I thought you were all lying or crazy, but then I checked for myself and I was shocked that it was exactly how you said it was, shocked!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:50 PM
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Yeah, and what's the deal with that? So many of them are so resentful of their mothers, while they also want to be mommied all the time, and then they look for a woman who will also take care of them as if they were children and whom they'll also resent... like this has to have a name and it's probably a diagnosis, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:56 AM
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Yeah, similarly, an ex of mine said I was "overprotective of myself". I'm sure it's just a wild coincidence that the guy was a net negative in my life; also had the same message given in various ways, the "can't you at least give him a chance?"s and all the similar ways we're told to make ourselves accessible. I don't typically answer, just kind of take a mental note to put as much distance as I can between the person who says that and myself. I know it's tempting to have a witty retort, but hon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:40 PM
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And because he told his family he wanted to get away from me, if I had moved there it would look like I had followed HIM. This. I see this sh*t over and over again, like just how manipulative, dishonest and immature is that? I don't think there is a cure for being that much of a pos. Unless someone knows how to reset a guy to factory settings, those guys are just never going to be decent in their entire lives, better luck to the next generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:52 AM
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Yeah, the goal is to find out what kind of people they are. Telling them how to act like a good person won't help them be better, it'll just teach them how to fake it. If they want to be good people, they'll be good people without being instructed on how to be good. If they want to be trash, no amount of instruction will change that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:16 AM
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Oooooh we're getting close to a tipping point... once most women can see it, we're going to see some change around here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:52 PM
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When she says: "Hey, could you stop by at the grocery store and get... oh, nevermind, forget it, I'll stop by on my way home from work", he won. I'm guessing he can't wrap his mind around doing laundry either, too darn complicated. You should definitely listen to his political opinions though, he's a genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:39 PM
50

Yup, I think you're really right about women's communal spaces. One thing I've been wondering about, in the current context of ever-less-attainable housing, is housing cooperatives - basically people pooling their money and buying apartment blocks that they run together. It's work - like you have to involve yourself and discuss decisions in a group, and I think that typically everyone gets a few chores for common spaces upkeep, etc. - but it seems like it might really be a better life than what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:35 PM
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Yeah, that you are definitely right about. I happen to think that it's been done on purpose to push us into late-stage capitalism's embrace (find meaning through overwork! Community is colleagues! Self-love through consumption!). Anyway, a lot of the things we talk about here - basically abuse and exploitation in intimate relationships - are facilitated by a destructive social and economic environment. However, I think there's good reason to believe that those structures are going to change very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:17 PM
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Maybe I'm mistaken, but you seem young. When I was much younger, this was a huge problem to me. Now I honestly think it's a bit weird to care about that. Have you ever seen anyone who was loved the way you want to be? Like, seen them from close enough to know what their day-to-day life was like? Because I think you've been sold a bill of goods. Sure, being with a HVM would be a good thing - like being supported, having a real partner, a reliable ally in life - but I think girls are trained to wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:42 PM
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This is still, always, just about power. They want us to believe that they get their pick of women because they want us to grovel and beg for their attention. The worst part is, they know full well we don't act that way toward them, most of their manipulations hinge on exploiting our good faith and our desire to cooperate. We could have a genuinely good life with them if they would just stop their power games. They throw their own opportunities, quality of life and conscience in the trash just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:33 AM
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Yeah, I grew up in a region and with people that had little money and less education, and you could really see the dynamic in play. Women there theoretically have access to abortion, except you have to travel a long distance to get it, and they typically don't have cars and/or can't afford the trip. Plus, everyone around them pushes them to have "a CuTe LitTlE bAbY!". They typically have their first around 18-20, though 16 is still pretty normal. By the time they're in their early twenties, they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:17 AM
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Yeah, having a baby is one of the most dangerous things a woman can do. It also ties in with the push against abortion rights and against contraception - they want us vulnerable and at their mercy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:21 AM
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Errrrh yeah how dare you deny him use of your body! And yeah, everyone knows men show their love by refusing to respect boundaries! /s As for sexual compatibility, you know how I know it isn't there? If a man tries to pressure me into something I don't want to do, it's not there. Anyway don't they get tired of those mental gymnastics?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 05:01 PM
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Ok, so i want to get this right - is she saying that no man is capable of true affection and every single one aims to use us, which is why they wont's stick around? Or is she saying they have no self-control and can't possibly keep it in their pants that long? It always amazes me how we're told we hate men... by people who insist that the bare minimum standards of decency are too much for men to meet 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 04:54 PM
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Ok, am I the only one who runs at the word "submissive"? Like it's not normal, no one wants or deserves to be or be called submissive, the fact that it's even considered a legit concept gives me the creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:50 PM
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Good luck - this is a difficult situation, and it won't be solved easily. Anyway, when I need to find ideas like that, I like to kind of look for them once in a while, but then think of other things and relax, to give my subconscious a chance to point me in the right direction (your subconscious can express itself better when you're relaxed and in "soft focus" mode, that's why we have "shower thoughts"). I hope your friend can wake up and leave before any lasting damage is done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:45 PM
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Yeah, but was there any situation - in other people's lives, in sitcoms, whatever - that she called abusive, or where she stated that a way of treating someone else was wrong? Like, for an example: if one of your mutual friend was pressured by her husband to give up her job, and Friend Who Needs to Wake Up said: "that sounds abusive" at any point, then you could bring the subject "Oh yeah, I saw Mutual Friend last week... hey, remember that husband she had?" and, hopefully, you can point out one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:24 PM
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Ok, so what I'm understanding is: how to open her eyes to unhealthy dynamics without stating these are unhealthy dynamics, so she doesn't dig in her heels? If there is some media (movie, TV, books) where a character acts the way her boyfriend acts and either is called abusive, or is shown to escalate abuse past a point where it can be rationalized? I can't think of any such media now (there is just such a normalization of abusive behavior), but maybe someone else here can? Are there other relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 02:55 PM
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I think maybe one in a million can, and ten percent will try to fake it. Here is one minimum test; because they pass this test doesn't mean they are now HV, but if they fail it they're definitely faking: Can they sincerely admit their past behavior was bad, explain why, apologize, and decide never to do it again? Clues they're faking: If they make it about you (e.g. "It was wrong of me to throw the remote at you, I mean I throw things at my buddies all the time and it's no big deal, but I should…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:48 PM
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God forbid you ask them if they're afraid of vaginal tears, they will tell you they are BECAUSE OF THE EFFECT THOSE WOULD HAVE ON THEIR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:05 PM
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Your exasperation is completely justified - it's just more male entitlement. It takes a minimum of respect and consideration to accept that something is for someone else but not for you. Other example, to clarify the dynamic: the N-word. We reasonable non-Black people accept that it just isn't for us and leave it alone. However, the same kind of grabby, petulant, insistent white guy who says he has "postpartum depression" (as his wife has to drag around a donut cushion to sit on) will also get t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 12:00 PM
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What men say: "Well men are visual creatures, we have to be a attracted to a woman to date her - but it's not the same for women though, women shouldn't be hung up on our attractiveness" What men mean: "Our needs and desires matter; women's needs and desires don't"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:40 PM
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I honestly don't know what a woman-centered s*xuality would be like - somehow, I can't even really imagine it. The only thing I know about it is that I think it would feel safe. I don't think I ever really felt safe having s*x with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:30 PM
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Once again: they are fully aware that this hurts us. If they look for women under duress to fantasize about taking advantage of them, then they are clearly lying when they claim that they think women "like" the stuff they see in p*rn. If they really thought we liked it, they wouldn't think that our lives being threatened would make us more likely to endure it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:20 PM
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Maybe a bit of a tangent, but: Some years back, when I complained to my office neighbor/work friend about being SH'd by the office creep (he was part of our "team leader"'s extended family, so obviously no help was coming from her), my work friend said I had to be attracting it somehow. And the worst part was that I believed her. Instead of getting angry, I analyzed and scrutinized myself and my every action - what could I possibly have done that caused it? What could I possibly do to make it st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:08 PM
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... then the world would become a terrifying hellscape for boys, where they could never feel safe, and the threat of violence would hang over their every interaction with others, until they ended up afraid of speaking up, afraid of occupying space, afraid of attracting any kind of attention to try and lessen their chances of abuse. Then, of course, those adaptations would be held against them in the workplace and, you know, everywhere. Well, sure am glad we don't live in an awful world like that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 09:55 PM
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Yeah, I wish this stuff was rare. If you need motivation to drink yourself to sleep, google "MMIW" (Missing and murdered indigenous women). We kind of pretend that we live in a somewhat fair society and are protected by the rule of law, except that some of that doesn't apply if you're a woman - and some doesn't apply if you're not white, and some doesn't apply if you're under a certain income or education level, or if an officer doesn't like you for any reason, or if they're tired and don't feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:13 PM
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"I haven't done anything vile in like 45 minutes! I deserve iiiiiit!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:07 PM
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I find it interesting how this "law of attraction" stuff is always pushed on the least powerful people in a situation. Like oh, no, don't seek to take control of your own life, above all don't restrict other people's access to you, and certainly don't start defending your boundaries or anything like that - just tHiNk hApPy ThOuGhTs instead and it'll all get fixed magically! Don't look at the reality in front of you, it's negative!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 06:59 PM
342

Once again, difficulty in finding housing directy endangers women, by increasing the pressure on them to endure unacceptable behavior in exchange for having a roof over their head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:32 PM
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Lol yeah, worst-case scenarion when you have standards is being happy on your own - now compare this with the worst-case scenario of not having standards, which is lifelong abuse and murder...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:46 PM
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Oh ffs how low can they go? Won't leave you alone when you want to leave him, instead dumps you a few days later at the worst possible time. Like are they trying to do the worst they possibly can? Is this a competition between them or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:59 AM
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One thing that worries me about that is the prevalence of SA in the military - not to mention SH, which seems to be everywhere. The armed forces, as they are, are a dangerous environment for women; being drafted as a woman would mean being forced to go to a place where the risk of SA is very high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:55 AM
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Yeah, he always seemed kind of overrated to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:28 AM
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Lol being "rational" like that gets you to wonder how tf any of them can ever get anything done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:48 PM
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Wow, what a delicate little flower your ex was! 😂 Lemme guess, he's going to be the kind of dad who whines if he can smell the poop while a woman changes a baby's diaper, nevermind changing one himself...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:41 PM
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**Pseudo-heterosexuals who "don't like" reciprocating on oral** Yep. Can confirm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:38 PM
54

Your ex acted like a f*ing monster. I hope you never endure anything of the kind ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:16 PM
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"How DARE she not give me every single thing she ever had?!?" Men really don't realize that they're the best argument anyone can make against being with them... right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:10 PM
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I hope ukrainian women don't even let those soldiers touch them, but fill their pockets with sunflower seeds. (context: there is a video going around of an Ukrainian woman confronting a Russian soldier, legit cursing him, telling him: "put sunflower seeds in your pockets, so that flowers will grow where you die on Ukrainian land")
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:02 PM
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Wanna bet that at some point, none of them wanted to mention removing the door pins because she had?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:56 PM
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Ooooh this is good and important. I'm saving this and taking notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 07:54 PM
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My intuition is telling me that he’s no good. All the proof you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:18 PM
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Playing to trauma - a specific example is a comment I read (possibly on FDS?) of a woman who had been traumatized by hearing a friend get hit by a car while she was on the phone with them. Her boyfriend knew about this and faked being hit by a car while she was on the phone with him. It didn't work because he was a dumba$$ and didn't sound close to realistic, but it's a clear way to show that dynamic. LVM will try and "call back" your trauma to throw you off balance and gain control over you. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 02:41 AM
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I understand the impulse, and obviously police officers - between the all-around brutality, the targeting and semi-random murders (esp. of non-white people) and the support and perpetration of violence against women - seem to be more of a problem than a solution. When it comes to female police officers though, I've known some women that used to be cops, and they were also very aggressive, destructive, bullies, one was pretty close to psychotic. Taking into account also the history and origins of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:35 PM
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Now is that guy so very stupid as to believe that men treat women well overall, or just lying? Lemme guess: both, he's deluded and refuses to look at reality because it doesn't fit into his narrative. Anyway, yeah, we need to select guys who think this way straight out of the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:37 PM
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Yeah, this is good advice, it's been my main weapon too - when he was doing the loud-porn-in-the-middle-of-the-night thing and I asked him to stop, he told me several times that he could do whatever he wanted and I could just leave if I wasn't happy with it, I had to go get a screenshot from our local housing authority about noise management; he threw a fit too, but he had to cut it out, because he wants to avoid me making a complaint, as I'm 95% sure he doesn't claim the income from my rent and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:17 PM
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Hahaha, got a good one: So, a few years ago I moved into my current apartment; it's half a house, separated from the other half, that the landlord lives in. The landlord was real friendly - think bearded millenial self-identifying as a "free spirit". Over the course of the next 1.5-2 years, he did a lot of what I would call "baiting" - coming to talk to me often, standing very close to me while telling me how "we get along so great", compliments, that kind of things, it was very obvious that he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:36 AM
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Yeah, at this point anyone who argues that porn is good/harmless is either stupid, brainwashed or lying. If anyone ever needs a man's argument against porn, here is one, it's Chris Hedges, he's anti-porn and he calls out sadism as a manifestation of social decay. Chris Hedges on the pornification of society (TW: slightly graphic mention of injury and harm inflicted on women in port)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:28 PM
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He was trying to buy one sex, he thought he had put enough basic decency coins in... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:03 PM
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I grew up in a place where everyone insists that women have to make the first move because "rEjEcTiOn iS sO hArD oN mEn". My own experience, as well as the experience of just about every woman I've known from close enough to be able to judge, was... not great. Like, I have heard - several times - women say that their boyfriend is a good guy because he doesn't beat them. That bad. F*ck this. The reasons given - that he needs to care enough to lift a finger, that he'll value more a woman he's actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:01 PM
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... then when they get bit, the medic just looks at them and says: "but what were you doing with those snakes? Not even wearing a full-body three-layered leather armor? Do you know how biteable you looked? Why would you let that happen?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:43 PM
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Oh, the lameness, it hurts!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:40 PM
25

... he's acting like a toddler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:54 PM
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Nobody with a sense of self wants to be assaulted I think there's something there - the "with a sense of self" part. I was always creeped out by all the ways in which "selflessness" is sold to girls. It shows up with those women that change their personality depending on their boyfriends but can't see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:43 PM
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Ok, so I want to go to every discussion where they complain that women aren't interested in dating and link to this. I won't, because I have things to do and I value my peace, but I still kinda want to. After reading this, you can't pretend that dating most men is good for women. The fact that men act this way, really, makes it hard to believe that women would date at all. Yeah, I'm sure there are a few good men here and there, but the fact that guys like this exist at all speaks volumes, and it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:30 PM
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Let's not forget: what they find so attractive is a woman so young and inexperienced she doesn't know how to set boundaries, doesn't think she needs to, and can't recognize abuse aside for the super-obvious, bloody-nose-and-black-eye type (and sometimes not even then).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 12:32 PM
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Lol yeah, right there at the end, "the only real power they have is emotional manipulation" - like yeah, their only currency is validation from a guy, it's imaginary money that only has the value we give it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:47 AM
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Especially after I asked if he would do what that guy did if he ever hit his limit with me and his response was just to stare at me. Oh, that was a full answer. I just got so creeped out at that part I physically shivered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:42 AM
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It takes a special kind of stupid to react to the fact that he's wrong by... being wrong louder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 01:31 AM
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Yeah, the girls are seeing this. Apparently each generation gets smarter than the one before (from what I read, it seems that the IQ score measures have to be adjusted every so often because of that), so I'm hoping there'll be more and more girls who'll refuse to line up for the slaughter. Who knows, within 3-4 generations, men might even get smart enough to treat us well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:48 PM
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"Men go through things too" Sure they do, but I don't really think those are nearly as bad as the things they put us through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:25 PM
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That's because he's playing out a script that's common to a whole lot of abusers; it's legit weird how similar they are to each other. Please note: - He's going to try and make it about you: you won't communicate or work on the relationship, you have no loyalty, you're unworthy and won't ever find someone else, blah blah blah, empty words all of them. He will start accusing you of a lot of things: probably cheating, lying, whatever. DO NOT try to get him to see the truth. For one, he knows he's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:24 PM
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If you don't break up with him, he's going to do it again. He's going to do it more and more frequently, and he's going to escalate. This is a binary question: is he really a good guy or not? He's demonstrated that he's not. If he doesn't get abusive now, he will later - most likely when you're vulnerable or in a difficult situation, at the worst possible time. That kind of a guy will worsen every problem you have and create some from scratch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 07:03 PM
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Hmmm sounds like he's trying to trauma-bond you. Yeah, don't go to get your stuff alone and, just in case, maybe start recording on your phone before you get there? Anyway, this guy'll make your life a hell if he can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:57 PM
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Self-loathing without a willingness to improve oneself is a labyrith without an exit: They hate us for not wanting to be with them. The hate pickmes who do want to be with them even more. They won't do the work to improve themselves when they're single, they'd rather hate on women. They won't do the work to improve themselves when they've got a partner, they'd rather just abuse her... All of this just so they can avoid even admitting they're not perfect. Their ego is just that fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:18 PM
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Main character syndrome, here shown in 3D. I'm hoping he won't be able to find that victim "assistant", because the only women for whom that could be an acceptable deal are those who are currently homeless, and something's telling me he would have an issue with that. He legits wants everything for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:40 AM
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At this point the word "entitled" has no meaning when used by scrotes - it started off as projection, then got popular, but now it's used for any attempt to denigrate; most guys who throw it left and right don't even have a clue what it means, they just know it describes anything that women do that they don't like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:32 PM
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Yeah, also a lot of abusers hide behind fake niceness - and then, cue everybody saying "He's so nice, he never could do XYZ!". Because they know to keep a good facade doesn't mean they're actually good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:05 PM
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I don't think you're paranoid, I think we live in a very unhealthy culture, where many narcissistic and abusive elements are writ large. I think part of why abuse survivors are so constantly silenced is because we might wake people up about the insane stuff that's just considered normal and taken for granted everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:12 PM
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That's what I thought too, how comes all the guys that want a woman with "passion" end up sucking her dry? I think it'll follow the pattern of a LVM exhausting a woman until she has no time or mental energy left for anything other than dealing with him, and then dumping her with "you're not the same *passionate* woman I "fell in love with"".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:07 PM
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They’re either really into super cars or sports. Not that there’s an issue with those interests, but it certainly doesn’t make them as special/unique/superior as they like to think they are. Just my personal opinion, but I think men who make a big deal of being into sports **as spectators** are dull and kinda pointless as people. (That doesn't apply to men who actually play sports).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:59 PM
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F*ck yeah I'm in 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:10 PM
35

Yeah, it's like they're grasping at straws, trying to keep their privilege and there's simply no reason for it, so they make stuff up to try and convince us we're lesser. I hope we can hundred-monkey all women into waking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:52 PM
22

Yeah, the worst mistake a woman can make is usually a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:23 AM
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Yeah, and we're going to be trying to set up food and shelter and those guys are just going to sit on their asses and whine all along 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:07 PM
33

Yeah, he's going to be one of those "it's-been-a-week-we-have-to-have-sex" guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:52 PM
30

Yeah... I don't know if there is a mistake worse than having a kid with the wrong guy, but I hope never to find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:51 PM
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Wanna bet that: He won't read the articles or watch the videos He might become less vocal in his belief but will keep it, possibly trying to manipulate her away from a cesarean If she does give birth vaginally, he will complain afterwards that she got "looser" Once the baby is there, he will get resentful and jealous and claim he's being NeGlEcTeD Good luck to her, she's going to need it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:54 AM
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Yeah, I think that at its core negging is as market negotiation tactic - they want to get more out of you for less, so they try to find "faults" to bring up to lower the "price" of a relationship or various services from you. If it's not skin tone, it'll be weight, social class, education, the way you pluck your eyebrows or don't - they just look for a negative to bring up, it never was sincere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 05:01 PM
6

Thank you! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:45 PM
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Darwin, take the wheel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:34 PM
32

Oooh that's a good one, the "" make it seem like a quote, who is it from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:17 PM
129

Yes, can you imagine how sad her life would be if she was all mean like us? Like she would be all alone and free to do what she likes, and she wouldn't even have brain damage from strangulation! Wait...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:15 PM
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But hey, it was worth saying it, she got picked!! By a guy who woud rather not murder her at that!! She won the game!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 01:01 PM
242

Awesome if true, but... am I the only one who gets a weird feeling about this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:52 AM
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Yeah. it's insane how something so damaging can be tolarated so blithely. Now we've got - what? Two full generations, maybe more, where most men are useless and abusive. It's like compounded dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:51 AM
112

Total green flag right there, gives one hope for the next generation - let's hope it's a trend! You can tell he's not p*rnsick either, because if he had been, he wouldn't have been able to appreciate the outing nearly as much, he would have had flat affect from the brain damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:23 AM
105

Yeah, like you can tell he wants women to "prove" to him that we're more than pieces of flesh and that we're "worth" a relationship with him (shudder) - which is impossible, because he's arguing in bad faith - and then he'll get his little fefes hurt when we all just nod and speedwalk away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:53 PM
363

Sooooo... they would leave us alone then? Of course, this guy is pathologically hateful and very likely a public menace, but I would kind of prefer it if maniac incels really left us alone, compared to trying to manipulate and lie to us so we'd let them use us. But hey, who am I kidding? We all know that guy is most likely stalking women as we speak, insisting they're oPpReSsInG him if they won't gIvE hIm A cHaNcE... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:53 PM
14

Holy s*it he sounds like a nightmare. Splashing cold water on you and physically making you sit up - not to mention the busywork and, you know, all of it? Good on you for getting out, but the audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 02:05 AM
173

I understand mileage varies here, but I just hate beards, I find them disgusting. Plus, you can get honest-to-god dermatitis from microcuts when kissing a bearded guy. Let's not even get into the whole "beards are manliness" meme gang, because it makes me want to google how to become a lesbian lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:19 AM
60

Yeah, we see it. He's dragging her down to his level, and then he'll try to stand on her head. He's already succeeded in taking away the job that would have helped her leave him. He's in the process of enslaving her, and this has no good ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 09:42 PM
80

Yes! honestly, intentional sleep deprivation should be recognized as physical abuse - but then, seeing the way DV is treated by the system in general, better not to hold our breath...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 08:49 PM
76

Yes!! I'm not dating at the moment (maybe not ever) but my landlord turned into a godawful prick when the covid inflation hit the housing market. Men in general see women as their subordinates/ lesser people in general, and it all flows from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 08:47 PM
286

Yeah, and what's with the sleep deprivation? I see it used as a weapon so often, it's not even funny; always along power lines. It ranges from that guy "I will never let you sleep again, you can just get used to it", to a straight-up intentional torture tactic: "Oh, you refused to do what I want? Fine then, kiss your 5 hours of sleep goodbye". Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:42 PM
587

Because narcissistic LVM have each other's back, and: - Doing anything better than them is an insult - Naming accurately and objectively the things they do is an insult - Failing to cover up the things they do is an insult (see the tweet floating around that says that "a woman paying for a date has to give the man all the money for the date ahead of time, it's just basic manners") In regard to that specific situation: so now, we're all supposed to adjust our behavior to match the worst thing eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:57 PM
5

😋🎵🌲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:51 PM
9

Lol https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRW\_zVeRp9I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:36 PM
99

Hmmm lemme guess - he's also not good at managing his life, emotions or money, because he's spontaneous. He also likes receiving head, but not reciprocating because, you know, he spontaneously just feels that way every time. You know who else is spontaneous? Young children. There's a reason why that's supposed to be a limited-time thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:14 PM
70

all men profit off the bad behavior of other men. Yes!! How many men go around insisting they're good guys - and when confronted with their actual, anything-but-good behavior, go "well I don't beat my girlfriend"! For contrast, let's consider what would happen if you applied for a job and, when asked why you're the right candidate, said: "well I never embezzled millions of dollars from an employer". Someone who wants credit for not doing a bad action is communicating that that action was on the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 01:43 PM
176

Ain't that the truth! Every "brutally honest" guy I've known was big on the brutality, not so big on the honesty. Funny how that goes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:44 PM
16

I'm neither, and trust me, that type of guys doesn't ask! But hey, glad you didn't get that experience, it sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:20 PM
83

Yeah, he's got some audacity complaining - especially when we all know that he could probably easily date someone on his level (you know, if he took a break from the hatey misogyney vibes), all this pathetic whining about "women won't date me" is actually about "model-looking women that are miles above me won't date me, I'd never consider anyone else..." Anyway, if the self-pity can keep him away from the dating market, I'll call that a win of sorts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:11 PM
48

I think that's probably happened to all of us, like how uncomfortable is it? Like ewww get off me. What kind of a worm does this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:57 AM
7

Lol had me fooled there! But yeah her expressions are spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 11:39 AM
34

Ooof that guy can. not. afford. to be this cocky... And what's with his face in the last one? What is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:34 AM
47

"Start with Cheetos - like the crumbs at the bottom of the bag, it doesn't matter if they're stale..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:08 AM
123

🎵 He's trying to control the narrative 🎵 Anyone who's lived on Earth for longer than twenty minutes knows full well that women are just as capable of being assertive as men. If anything, we have to develop the ability to defend our boundaries, because men keep pushing at them. These kinds of guys are trying to push the idea that assertive = masculine to wear us out until we give in and become some Stepford smilers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:08 AM
120

Yeah, to me hearing them use "submissive" as a requirement feels like some serial-killer sh*t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:59 AM
15

Lol of course he has! His pornies are full of wimmyn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 01:52 AM
461

Lol "opportunities I create" - lemme guess, opportunities for orgasm faking, housework and skid mark management? That guy believes his own BS, but I doubt any woman ever will. Also, "potential for power struggles" the moment she has literally any opinion of her own? Dude, we see you, and this won't fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:56 PM
45

complain about us being overweight and not as feminine (USA has some of the worst healthcare, food options especially for working class and poor Yeah, that's a thing that people don't want to acknowledge, overweight is statistically linked to both poverty and sleep deprivation. Of course personal choices factor into it, but a lot of people like to pretend personal choices are the only thing that matters, and they're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 09:00 PM
130

Yeah, that's because closed doors could make you safe and he don't want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:52 AM
75

The interaction between poverty and violence, illustrated for your convenience despair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 09:38 PM
40

Am I the only one who's seen situations where women seem to be scared of their adult sons? They never say it though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:24 PM
85

Loooooool Lemme guess: like every super-obvious rule, you're going to have people saying it's "too much to ask of a poor widdle man". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:01 PM
91

Sooooo... she didn't look her best in front of his coworkers - when she was acting like his free taxi (and paying for her gas for the trip) - therefore embarassing him, because as his property/ego extension, she owed him to look good for him. Therefore he gets mad and wants to punish her, refuses to help, intentionally forcing her to get cold. Then it gets worse, but honestly, how much does he think she owes him? And she owes him all that for what again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:44 AM
36

Yeah, you're spot on. Jung wrote (quoting from memory) that the will to love and the will to power are opposites, where one is present, the other is lacking. I think the current system of patriarchy/capitalism/authoritarianism (call it by whatever name, it's all the same death cult) just gives power to people who want it, to the ones who prove they want it most by being ready to abuse others the most for it. People who have power - either men in relationships or at work - can only be really good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:04 PM
10

Nope. Irrespective of the question of whether the Law of Attraction works (I haven't made up my mind, I'd like to run an actual experiment on that), there's still the fact that the "Law of Attraction" concept is awfully convenient for abusive people in power (it's not my fault that I did this to you! You attracted it!") Let's please consider that: Everyone is responsible for their belief or actions. If the vast majority of women are treated badly, or pursued by horrendously inadequate men, does …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:23 PM
8

Hahahahaha "Factualism"... from a guy who writes like some caricature of a high-school kid... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:57 PM
10

Lol I'll add one more context in which that BS is used: When house (and rent) prices skyrocketed, my pos landlord tried to push me out by playing porn super-loud in the middle of the night (he's got the upper half of the house, I've got the lower half, he was playing it right on top of my bedroom). When I texted him to stop, he tried to evict me with some ridiculous copypasta text that said, basically, "if you're not happy you've got to leave" - it was clearly a template meant to break up with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:35 PM
92

Yeah, "that's just how I am!" Except when the boss is within earshot, then suddenly that's not just how they are anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:29 PM
73

Hell to the yeah! Training girls to be unassertive - while it's heavily encouraged by most people - is one of the worst things a parent can do outside of straight-up abuse (and it often is a part of straight-up abuse, for obvious reasons). Those girls are probably, at some point, going to be called "agressive" - by people who would make their lives a hell if they weren't "agressive". Training them to take up space and stand their ground will probably allow them to skip years of misery. Kudos to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 03:29 PM
57

There was a classic joke (tweet?) going around saying: When we're talking about teenagers that were SA'd, they're young women. When we're trying to negotiate better pay at work, then we're girls. It's all about framing the discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 04:25 PM
1

Yeah, it sounds way saner than what we've got going on now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:55 PM
3

I'm really curious about that cookbook, are you aware that an online version exists?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:06 PM
202

Well, that's clearly impossible, how could a functioning human adult feel threatened of replacement by someone completely dependant, who contributes absolutely nothing tangible and is a source of neverending work? Oh, wait... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:21 AM
48

Ted Bundy: clarifying for us scrotes' bat***t crazy and terrifying ways since 1980TM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:07 AM
117

Yeah, it's like men were spared from Darwinist pressure while women were subjected to way more than their share. They just keep finding new ways to cause their own misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:33 AM
195

No doubt inspired by a true story that happened 10 000 times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 12:14 AM
130

Yeah, I think we are about to see a huge change, but reactionary forces never look as terrifying as when they realize they're losing control. The patriarchy is going to flail and go all out, but by now it can't bring things back to how they were. It's a question of when, not if; it's not going to be fun, but eventually we'll get somewhere better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 11:39 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:05 PM
5

Yeah, I do, I'm on the classifieds like white on rice, but the reason he's doing this BS anyway is because rents (and house prices) went parabolic during the pandemic. Anyway, I'm saving up and watching for the real estate market crash, the moment I find something decent I'm out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 11:51 AM
41

Am I the only one who thinks the intent in agressive? Like to make women feel uncomfortable? A bit similarly to that, I have a scrotastic landlord, who's been trying to push me out even if I don't owe him a penny (where I am, lanlords can't just increase willy-nilly, they have a limit percentage as long as the same tenant stays in, so they try and switch tenants to charge the incoming one a lot more). His weapon of choice was... porn, blaring super-loud in the wee hours of the morning. Yes, I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 12:14 AM
22

Hahahahaha such a terrible thing, right? Being "too honest" like that can really backfire when you're downtrodden, like when a lot of people can just punish you as they please, but as you get control over your own life you get to a point where you can just speak your mind. By that time, though, most of us are so conditioned to fear that we stay with the old habits and pretend to like everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:19 PM
77

Yeah, somehow it still surprises me how much of abuse dynamics are all about manipulating us into accepting it. Of course, there's a lot of abuse that is just imposed, but fairly often I see a situation where abusers will extend a lot of energy into pretending their actions are right or justifiable and/or their target's fault. It's like they want to take their frustrations out on someone, but they also want to claim to be good people while doing it. Also: Men choose to forgive, women are TOLD to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:40 PM
177

Yep yep yep yep yep yep we are way overdue for some selective procreation here; improve the gene pool and the world by refusing to carry assholes' genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:40 AM
24

Yeah, I think it was Jung who said something like that we are fascinated by people who show us aspects of our own unconscious// qualities we need to integrate. (not exact words, quoting from memory)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:39 PM
48

Am I the only one who finds that the men who make a big deal of being a big strong man usually aren't even that strong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:44 PM
10

That must have taken a while to write, thanks for sharing! I'm not ready to date yet, but I'm reading all these stories and learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:23 AM
13

Thank you, it makes me feel better to come up with fun insults lol. He's a Peyronie-curve because he looks real weird on his own but he's actually just a symptom of something much worse :P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:36 PM
90

Goes without saying, any woman who does end up procreating with that Peyronie-curve of a guy will find herself a single mom, at best. Good luck, get better soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:19 PM
37

Yeah, actually I think it's a common side effect of nose jobs, to not be able to breathe through one nostril, because this is an operation that serves to change the appearance without a thought for the function, so sacrificing the function is par for the course... these are the people who get mad at women for breastfeeding in public but wouldn't mind porny ads in the same place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 02:03 PM
1

Hmmm am I the only one who doesn't believe that she did come over at midnight the next day? I think he just made that up to pretend like he won. No receipts on that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/22 03:53 PM
6

Yes, you're exactly right - that guy put dishes in the drying rack "to dry" with the rims facing up. I couldn't believe it either when I saw it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:00 PM
15

Also: cameras that have infrared lights (to film in the dark) will not be visible to the naked eye, but will shine through a camera lens. For example: if you suspect that there might be a camera hidden, say, in a bookshelf, and that it has infrared lights on, then even if it looks perfectly normal - no shining light - when you look through your phone's front-facing camera, you will see shining dots. Source: had to get a camera after I caught my landlord snooping, said so in the manual, I tested …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 04:23 PM
128

Lol I'm not even sure that they actually find all those women unattractive - most men will hook up with a lot of women they call unattractive without a second thought. They just have to insist on unreasonable standards to maintain the power imbalance; half the time, calling a woman ugly is just insincere negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:48 PM
22

Hmmm a boyfriend did that to me once - this supposed adult, who was proud of having worked in restaurants washing dishes, suddenly didn't understand the idea of rinsing, And he thought that you set dishes to dry upright (you know, as if you were going to use them right away). I kind of thought about actually giving him a course in dishwashing, and then I decided against it - the way I thought about him back then was: "there's nothing here to be saved". I dumped him and only ever regretted not du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:05 AM
53

I'm sorry for your sister, she deserves better. As for your brothers, well, I'm sorry that you had such a disappointment. You can't make anyone engage in good faith, or push them to empathy. You have now seen how little empathy and consideration they have for women irrespective of circumstances, and how they tend to take a man's side even when they have literally not a single good reason to. Remember this next time they try to give you advice or opinions about you life, I guess. Good luck to you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 01:24 PM
253

I swear, I don't think most guys have a libido even remotely as high as they claim - at least 9/10 of their "wanting sex" is wanting to assert power over us, humiliate us, feel like the big man that can push us around or whatever. It just happens to be the pretext that works well for them. Tangent: I also found that about sexual harassment at work, btw. It's done by the same people, to the same people, and for the same reasons (often fear of competition) as other types of bullying, it's just tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:25 PM
13

Run. Also: when you "don't know how you feel", you do know how you feel, you would just prefer not to feel that way. And yes, the Gift of Fear is a great book, should be read by everyone. Run fast and run far is my two cents. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:43 PM
42

When he was teaching me to drive many years ago, my father would tell me that every mental issue people have gets magnified when they're driving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:54 PM
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