"Not all men" and intentional trauma triggers

Hey there guys

I was reminded again today that some guys who claim to be "one of the good ones", who'll insist that they've "nEvEr HiT a WoMan" and "nOt aLl mEn" will also, almost as a reflex, trigger trauma responses whenever women don't obey them.

Things like stomping loudly, slamming doors, hitting walls, hateful looks, are all meant to make women scared and trigger the trauma response of people pleasing (that's right, I said it: the insane level of people pleasing that's pushed on women as the norm is a trauma response).

So, whenever a man uses those tactics, please know that this is intentional. Don't make excuses for them, that they "can't control their frustration" or whatever, I promise you they can control it perfectly well when talking to their bosses. This is intentionally profiting off the mass trauma of violence against women, and it shows you exactly who they are.