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| 7 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.I think that there’s a way to do sexual content in TV well, and that in some stories, it really does add to character development and advancement of the plot. Some examples off the top of my head are Brooklyn, The Queens Gambit, and Santa Clarita Diet. The first two are about young women coming of age, and their early sexual experiences are shown from a very feminine perspective, not to titillate the audience, but to show us what she’s going through, the good and the bad. The last one, Santa Cla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:26 AM |
| 26 | What characteristics are you looking for in a partner?I’m dedicating my live to the advancement and passing on of mathematical knowledge , and I think I would have a hard time being with anyone who doesn’t really value that, deep down. Maybe not a mathematician, someone who’s doing the same in physics or philosophy might be ok too, but I don’t think I could be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t find the statement and story of the proof of Fermat’s Last Theorem riveting. Like, what I do matters deeply to me, and I never want to be with some … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 03:08 AM |
| 28 | "Not all men" and intentional trauma triggersOne thing Lundy Bancroft says over and over in his book “Why Does He Do That” is that abusers can control themselves. They will rage and scream smash things, but it’s always their partner’s stuff that’s gets smashed, not theirs. When the police show up, he’s immediately a perfect gentleman, calm and cool and points at the women’s agitation and alarm as proof that she was the one causing the scene. “Look officer, we were just having an argument and she started screaming at me, we’re dealing with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 02:26 PM |
| 203 | The audacityReminds me of when I was crafting with a male friend (back when I had any lmao) and he just randomly, while I’m gluing little fake succulents to something, leans in to kiss me. It was like a game of limbo how far I had to lean back before my brain caught up and I said “NO” with all the force I could. I had already told this man I wasn’t interested, and he kept trying to talk me into dating him, but we had been friends since middle school and our families know each other so I didn’t feel ok just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 01:37 PM |
| 88 | I did it.Good job, it’s hard leaving a relationship after you’ve poured so much time and energy into it, even when you know it’s the right thing. It’s good you’re planning on taking some time to work on yourself! My advice as a former serial dater: spend lots of time with other women. Text that friend you haven’t seen in a while to meet up for brunch, make friends with women in your yoga and dance classes, work on building up your social life so you won’t feel the need to jump back into dating right away… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 01:51 PM |
| 318 | How I sleep at night knowing no man is cheating on me, lying, hiding things, scheming for ways to undermine me / get my money, drooling over instapics of another woman, watching porn, dragging me to his buddies...!For real though, the cultural narrative is that being single is inherently bad, that being in a relationship is always an improvement, but the years I’ve spent single have been some of the most peaceful, happy, and nurturing years of my life. My current relationship is nice too, he’s a wonderful guy and I never stay up at night wondering if he’s doing something behind my back. But if I did have cause to worry, if I did start stressing about the relationship all the time because of his actions, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 01:30 PM |
| 119 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?I like how Michal puts it in The Good Place: “If soulmates do exist, they're not found, they're made. People meet, they get a good feeling, and they get to work building a relationship.” No one is your one and only chance at love, and thinking that way sets you up for disappointment, or even mistreatment if you stay with someone abusive because you think they’re “the one”. But some people, like my parents, just seem to be perfect for each other, like puzzle pieces who’s weird pokey edges fit rig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:30 PM |
| 87 | Blocked & DeletedGood job dropping him! Don’t feel too bad you didn’t follow the handbook exactly, years of social conditioning won’t go away without some trial and error, and you’re learning/reflecting on the mistakes, so you did get something out of it. Don’t feel like you have to drop the hobby because of him though, just totally ignore him, don’t even make eye contact, and keep going about your life how you want to. Trust me, it’s much easier to ignore an ex in public than you think, and it’s a good skill to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:30 AM |
| 56 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?So, some of these are legal in some places, and I generally classify legal drugs like weed (depending on location) in the same group as alcohol. I’m not going to judge someone in Colorado who smokes a little on weekends any more than I would judge someone who drinks a little on weekends. But I will judge someone who smokes all the time, spends a lot of their money on weed, and ignores their responsibilities to get high just as harshly as I would judge someone who drinks all the time, spends a lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 07:57 PM |
| 10 | I lost track of how many red flags I heard.One think I find really funny about this is you just KNOW he sent this as a voice message because he knew it was unhinged enough to be shared online as a screenshot, and totally forgot that screen recording is a thing 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 07:44 PM |
| 89 | I have no words, this isn't even pick-me behavior anymoreI was first catcalled walking home from middle school, guess I’m racist for feeling scared that men old enough to drive were yelling obscenities at me out their car windows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:18 PM |
| 78 | Male/Female FriendshipAll my successful friendships with men have fallen into three categories: 1- long term partner of a woman I’m friends with. This only works when both people are what this sub would call high value, and only when they have a solid relationship for long enough for me to get to know him, but all of my favorite men I’m not related to (except my boyfriend) are in this category. 2- Men I work with who keep things friendly/professional. I work at a university and some of my best mentors (and my thesis … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:25 AM |
| 13 | But sex work is work, amirite?Men: “Sex work is EmPoWeRiNg” Also men: “dump her if she ever did sex work, imagine the ridicule you would face if anyone found out you were with a sex worker, she’s terrible for not telling you right away” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:28 PM |
| 24 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…I think one of the things I like about (some) moderates is the willingness to look at issues individually rather than accepting a whole list of things as “this is what the left/right thinks” and running with it. Like my dad, I wish he was a little more left on some economic things, but he’s very feminist in his core beliefs, very pro-choice, very pro-equal pay, very anti-patriarchy. He doesn’t publicly identify as a feminist, doesn’t try to get clout, but he does things like advocate for coverin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 19 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…Yeah he claimed he was tickling her, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that wasn’t the whole truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 06:40 PM |
| 36 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…Yeah she had large (non-surgically enhanced) breasts and he called them “saggy”, which made me feel especially bad because I also have large, non surgically enhanced breast, which also have the normal response to gravity. In hindsight I think he was trying to neg me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 06:39 PM |
| 213 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…Oooooohhhh yeah. Man was openly pretty woke, stood up for women’s rights (particularly when it involved “sexual liberation”), happily made fun of conservative guys with me, seemed great. Then the mask started to slip. If he knew I didn’t like a women (my ex roommate who hurt my cat for example) he would feel comfortable insulting her as I assume he insults all women he doesn’t like, using sexist language, comments about her body, comments about how many men she sleeps with, stuff like that. The … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 02:20 AM |
| 7 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidMen: “I don’t like if a women have slept around” Also men: “time to lower my standards to make myself better at sleeping around” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:50 PM |
| 269 | Imagine being this uselessImagine being in a grocery store, where every isle is labeled, every item is required to have packaging that describes what’s inside, there are people working there who can help you find things or answer questions about products, you have the whole wide internet at your fingertips, and badgering your partner because you can’t be bothered to use your brain or your resources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Red pilled Twitter caught encouraging men not to wear condoms and thinks STIs are part of a government conspiracy to keep birth rates down🤡Yeah, casual sex isn’t great for women, I never said it was, I’m just pointing out that the pull out method is much, much less effective than any actual method of birth control. A married couple using the pull out method is over twenty times more likely to have an unplanned pregnancy than a couple using a copper IUD, for example. It just isn’t a good method of birth control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Red pilled Twitter caught encouraging men not to wear condoms and thinks STIs are part of a government conspiracy to keep birth rates down🤡You can do whatever you want, but the pull out method is significantly less effective than condoms, hormonal birth control, or an IUD, and doesn’t protect from STDs. Just because you’re comfortable taking that risk doesn’t mean anyone else has to be, and definitely isn’t a reason to side with redpill men advocating to never war conforms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 11:26 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts? How would you debate that? Seems like it's from a male perspective?!There are two statements here, and I few differently about them. “It is a myth that you have to love yourself before you can be loved” I basically agree. I think it’s ridiculous to say you can’t love someone who doesn’t love themselves, my mom never stopped loving me when I was depressed and hated myself, silly notion. “People can love us into loving ourselves.” Ehhhhh, your self love shouldn’t be reliant on outside influence, I don’t think it’s healthy to enter romantic relationships when you d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Can long distance relationships work?Well, my parents are a pretty good couple, neither one is perfect, but they have a really good relationship. For the first few month of dating, they lived in cities about 3 hours away, and my dad drove to see my mom regularly, after a while they started planning trips together, and eventually they moved in, got married, had kids, the whole nine yards. He was willing to put in a lot of effort to see her, and eventually she was willing to move cities to be with him. They’ve been going strong for l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 03:25 PM |
| 9 | Hansel-and-Greteling my way out of a toxic relationshipI love this, my variation is keeping a note titled “John Doe Red Flags” for each guy I date and literally keep track of everything that bothers me about him, to make myself face the whole list and not just excuse little things because they seem insignificant. Looking at all the problems as a whole is helpful when trying to figure out if I want to keep seeing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 03:10 PM |
| 2 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsYeah, I entirely agree that men tend to be more critical of and more openly negative towards books, film, and TV featuring female protagonists. I think the captain marvel complainers are being silly, but I only really like two marvel things at all (black panther and WandaVision) so I know I’m not the target audience. But on Star Wars, I do get it. The sequel trilogy is pretty wack, they changed directors partway through, threw out a bunch of old cannon, did some really tremendously stupid things… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 15 | Adele needs to de-center men from her music 👏🏾👏🏾I’m not really an Adele fan, but people say this about Taylor Swift all the time and it always makes me roll my eyes. Artists should always have the freedom to express themselves how they want, and to focus on the things that inspire them. Love, heartbreak, grief, passion, these are things that people have been singing about since before the language we’re speaking in now existed. Trying to limit heterosexual female artists from expressing how they experience those things, just because it involv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 11:53 PM |
| 6 | On "Roasting"Too many men think cruelty is funny, and will excuse it as “just joking around” when they say things that hurt you. Then it’s your fault for not taking a joke, when the only person ever meant to be amused was him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 06:44 PM |
| 7 | If a man ever says something along the lines of "I am a terrible person" or "I am an asshole", take him at word, thank the Gods that he showed himself early on and GHOST/BLOCK AND DELETE. Men who say such things have nothing good to offer you. I promise you.I can remember talking to an LVM ex trying to explain why I couldn’t just “get over” him cheating on me with his ex girlfriend when I was out of town visiting a sick relative… he would just go “yeah I know I’m trash” “I’m a terrible boyfriend” crap like that, as of that excused it. But he was being honest, he was a terrible boyfriend! I should have dumped him a long time before that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 11:22 PM |
| 13 | Keep things in perspective - make an ‘ick’ list100% agree, it’s also nice to be able to look back at it if you feel bad about blocking/deleting, like do I really want to spend my life with someone who licked all the salt off their margarita glass like a dog before starting the drink? Not really, much easier to ignore him if I keep that in mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:31 AM |
| 1 | It's not him being turned off, it's meOk so multiple men have made negative comments about my vocabulary, which is extensive, but like, what a wack ass thing to try and neg me about. I’m a graduate student, I use big words. I am more than happy I define anything I say, educating is my greatest passion, I love explaining things. Trying to get me to dumb myself down, limit the language I use to express myself? Low value as hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:51 PM |
| 12 | So close...So, I know more frat guys then I like to think about, and some of them had no sexual experience coming into collage. Across the board, social pressure from their more sexually experienced brothers drove them to try to have casual sex or enter a sexual relationship ASAP. I never once saw any evidence of women in sororities doing the same thing, and there were girls in my sorority who were waiting for marriage or just hadn’t had sex yet, and sisters just didn’t pressure each other like the guys di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:35 PM |
| 49 | Ummm...yes? And?Classic pick me. Bends over backwards for a man to “keep him” and puts down women who aren’t subservient to men by saying they’ll be unable to keep a man. It’s perfectly acceptable to like making your partner happy, to want to do things for them. But if your relationship depends on doing unpaid labor for someone who wouldn’t be with you otherwise, girl, get out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Obtaining Self loveMake a list of things you enjoy doing by yourself, separate them into “going out” and “staying in” then, whenever you feel crappy and like you need a man, use google or a dice to randomly pick from whichever list works for you (I use the going out one in the day and the staying in one if it’s late or I don’t want to leave the house) Some ideas from my lists Staying in: 1- bubble bath and tea 2- yoga and audiobook 3- play with pets! Maybe just cuddle 4- read/write, eat some fruit 5- listen to an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:24 AM |
| 43 | When did it “click” for you that’s what posted here/the principles were helping/helped you? Let’s start a list for others…For me, it was after a guy dropped some red flags and I just ghosted him, not worth the effort. A few months later I ran into him in public and he tried SO HARD (like, really pushy and gross) to get me to go out with him but I just said no and went on with my life. A friend saw me talking to him and told me that he had sexually assaulted someone she knew. I already had cut him out thanks to FDS, and I wouldn’t have gotten that warning until it was too late if I hadn’t ghosted him in the first pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:06 AM |
| 242 | Man scouted Ohio college in mass shooting plot to ‘slaughter’ women, Feds sayWhen women hate men, we avoid them. When men hate women, they slaughter us. I’m glad they caught this one in time, I hope he’s sentenced with the fullest force of justice and never has the opportunity to harm anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:52 AM |
| 3 | Hating cats... a red flag or the biggest red flag?Hating ANY animal (except maybe mosquitoes and ticks) is a red flag. If you have a phobia, deal with that shit in therapy! If you’re allergic, take your allergy medication. Animals are amazing, and we are so much more dangerous to them than they are to us. Fear and caution are different, but hate??? I just can’t be around people who’s hate is focused on beings that mean them no ill will, instead of the many evils of humanity that deserve our wrath. Like, I got bitten by a dog when I was a small … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Don't put men on a pedestalHere lies a toppled god- His fall was not a small one. We did but build his pedestal, A narrow and a tall one. -A poem by Frank Herbert I enjoy, in context (Dune: Messiah) it’s about how elevating a leader above being human sets the leader up for failure and the people up for disappointment. The higher the pedestal is, the bigger the fall is, and the more you can end up hurting for it. Also, I like the poem just for having a nice sound to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 02:30 PM |
| 27 | And they aren’t treated well either!One thing I had pointed out to me today was that colorism affects women in Hollywood way more then men. Almost all black women in major films/shows (looking at you Netflix originals) is light skinned or mixed race, where dark skinned male actors, while still facing discrimination, get to actually be in major productions. Example: rue and thresh in the hunger games were literally described as having the same skin color, but they casted a light skinned girl to play rue and a dark skinned boy to pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 03:09 AM |
| 51 | Scrote's GF can't meet the same standards as his anime sex dollIf a man told me he preferred masturbation to making love with me, I’d leave him on the spot. Pornsick nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 05:07 AM |
| 39 | Found this on another sub and it’s NOTHING BUT FACTS 🔥It’s not about them believing in astrology, it’s about them not lecturing you on your interests and beliefs unasked. “I don’t like/believe in X” isn’t a red flag “liking/believing in X is stupid” is. Obviously this only covers trivial things, not like real social issues and stuff, but especially if he doesn’t believe in astrology (most men don’t), seeing if he can handle a difference of opinions with grace and let you do your thing uninterrupted is important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:15 AM |
| 41 | Found this on another sub and it’s NOTHING BUT FACTS 🔥Honestly seeing if a guy tries to explain to me that astrology isn’t real is a quick way to vet intellectual types, if he dives into philosophy 101 over my Taurus necklace, I’m out ✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 04:31 AM |
| 1858 | This is why we can’t even trust the “good” guys.Also a valuable message: bad guys aren’t bad to everyone they know, so trust women when they tell you something alarming about a guy, even if you could never imagine doing something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 01:12 AM |
| 14 | How I stopped caring for male validation✨I love her content, she’s grown so much as a person and a creator in the past few years, and she really makes me feel better about myself as a work in progress, because she is to, and she still loves herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 15 | Let's NOT even think of this, let's normalize not feeling like a victim for buying the love of your life a decent ring and proposing in a good manner, let's normalise that.Imagine getting on your knees for a man 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Guy says he idolizes Jordan Peterson, should I run?Here’s a link to a list of misogynistic things Peterson has said. That man is the well dressed, well mannered face of the men’s rights movement, and even though most of the time he speaks in code, trying to dress up his ideas as logical and scientific, his ideal worlds looks more like the handmade’s tale than anything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 228 | "empowerment" is such an empty wordReal empowerment comes from access to education, healthcare, and safe working environments. When people have those, they get to make more decisions about their life, rather than just trying to survive. In particular, women having access to education and birth control is one of the biggest predictors of how free a country actually is, because we’re one of the most universally discriminated against groups and those are the best ways to keep up under control. What I’m saying is empowerment isn’t ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 05:10 AM |
| 17 | I never support violence against anybody but this scrote is making me see red.Woman - this is what I want you to do to be supportive, my friend’s husbands are doing this and it’s my expectation that you’ll do the thing. Husband - but I’m being supportive from a distance by not participating and getting grossed out when you talk about it! Why aren’t you grateful for my very distanced support? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 03:27 AM |
| 147 | Reminder that most men aren't looking for an equal partner, but rather someone to feed their ego... Always check if his "dream woman" description matches a dog! 😂Giving “why men love b*tches” a whole new meaning here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 12:28 PM |
| 8 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetOof sorry, I was taking out my arse then. But yeah it’s been really hard for me to figure out how to identify, like I’ve been so used to saying I’m bi, and “lesbian” is such a stigmatized word, something I associate with the porn industry and comedy at the expense of women, it’s hard to undo all that damage overnight, especially when it’s quarantine and I can’t get out and meet be in LGBT spaces irl. And part of that is that being a bi women is considered sexy by society at large (aka men) but b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 01:51 AM |
| 28 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetThat fear of being the creepy man is really common is wlw, like being uncomfortable and afraid of sexual advances is such an early experience for most women that we all have the instinct to never ever be like that, to the point where it becomes hard to date at all because no one wants to creep each other out. I’m definitely still working on that, luckily I’ve always been better with women than men (plus dating a HVM and being on FDS I’ve picked up some good hints, I’m talking a woman to a nice r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 01:41 AM |
| 13 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetI mean, I always feel like what you want out of life should come first and what you label it should come second. And there’s a difference between liking men sexuality and romantically, and also between being attracted to men but choosing not to be in a relationship vs not being attracted to men at all. I obviously don’t know your life but if you’re not attracted to women, lesbian isn’t going to be the best label for you regardless of how you feel about men. From your comment (and again I don’t k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 01:31 AM |
| 4 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetThank you, I’m really ok, it was just something that needed to happen, and I’m happier now that I know what I want and am working towards it <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 01:16 AM |
| 103 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetYeah, there are a lot of challenges related to being a wlw but the dating pool is more of a pool and less of a shark infested waters situation that heterosexual women have to deal with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 07:34 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts?My mom has a funny story about a friend of hers who’s boyfriend asked if she wanted to marry him while just chillin on the couch, no ring, no plan, and she responded “are you fucking high?!?” He was, indeed, fucking high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:27 PM |
| 65 | We don't get to participate because of our views.Saying that the porn industry is unsafe for women and damages men’s ability to empathize with women is not “sex-positive”, nor is telling women to be careful about who they engage in sexual relationships with and avoid one night stands, or telling women that men who want to hurt you in the bedroom are bad news. I’ve been called a SWEF (sex worker exclusionary feminist) for saying sex work should be illegal and men who buy sex should be in jail (because the sex work industry runs on and fuels hum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 10 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityIt’s been a while since I’ve been on dating apps, but I matched with so many more women than men when I was because women’s profiles were like 10x more interesting on average!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 20 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityYeah, it’s kinda like the old joke, if you want the male version of any zodiac just take all the flaws of the female counterpart, and you’re done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Community Chat Megathread (29 November 2020)Try keeping a sleep log for a month, note things like alcohol or smoking (especially weed) by putting like an A or W on the time that you consumed it, and note when you went to bed separately than when you fell asleep if it’s more than an hour apart. (Also feel free to write notes in, like “went to see a movie at 10pm” so that later you know why that fat is so off). Once you have a month of accurate data, you will be able to spot patterns more easily and show them to a sleep doctor (they probabl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/20 12:29 AM |
| 10 | If you got a dick pic, it's your fault. Remember!The classic “men’s bad behavior reflects poorly on the women they mistreat” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:47 PM |
| 109 | "We want to make you happy. The fact is, we love when you orgasm almost as much as we love it when we do."Porn isn’t sex. At it’s best it’s a performance of sex meant to be visually appealing rather than pleasurable to the people involved, at its worst it’s filmed rape. Learning sex from porn is like learning Kung fu from anime, except making anime doesn’t involve blackmailing, coercion, or drugging women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 02:59 PM |
| 2 | “I can’t stick my dick in your master’s degree”LVM prefer women with no financial freedom because they can’t leave when he gets abusive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 08:11 PM |
| 7 | LVM: "If the world were ending, you'd come over right?" ME: Blocked him while he was typing.If the world were ending I’d have better ways to spend my last days on earth than having unsatisfactory sex with a dusty man child. No thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:33 PM |
| 74 | Oh look another double bind for women. Damned if you do, damned if you don't 🤷♀️I once shocked and outraged a group of men because they were trashing Greek life at my school (something I’m involved in) and I made the comment that I had faced more misogyny and abuse from nerdy guys in my stem classes then I had from fraternity guys. Like they refused to accept my actual real life experiences because it didn’t fit into their worldview of “quiet guy good buff guy bad” no, all men are capable of abuse, they don’t walk around with labels that say “I’ll threaten to kill myself if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 01:59 AM |
| 5 | Part of the reason why I’m not religious and don’t go to church anymore. Too many pedos having their crimes covered up. Pastor creates fake nudes of teenaged girl in order to blackmail herYeah covens are organized religion, and organized religion is an amazing way to control people. I practice by myself, and while I’m willing to discuss it online, I just don’t see the point of doing anything relating to paganism with other people. Like I eat holiday meals with my family, but that’s about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:04 PM |
| 27 | The extent... Like there's not enough pressure on women during their first time. I get that she's trying to help, but maybe just let them enjoy each other's company, instead of giving a to do list?Girl no... I was trying to be positive like “maybe it’s about safe sex, consent, how to set boundaries, stuff like that everyone should know before their first time!” But no, it’s about how to turn guys on, as if if men don’t Jack off to unusually curvy driftwood in a pinch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 8 | Part of the reason why I’m not religious and don’t go to church anymore. Too many pedos having their crimes covered up. Pastor creates fake nudes of teenaged girl in order to blackmail herThis is why I became pagan, I can celebrate holidays on my own, follow the wheel of the year, still have the benefits of a belief system, but not associate myself or support evil people using organized religion to cover up terrible deeds. Religion is great for my mental health, organized religion is terrible for humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 07:28 PM |
| 150 | Men do not and will not care about your feelings.I love lizzo, “Truth Hurts” is a jam and it will always be in my good vibes playlist, but damn is “boys” her weakest song. Having standards and preferences is not discrimination, and the idea that to be body positive you have to want to sleep with every body type is just wack as hell. Everyone should love, nourish, and take care of their body, I don’t have to pretend to be attracted to every body to think that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:54 PM |
| 27 | She did not hesitate to put his ass down lolCyborg sisters rise up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Nothing like bragging about your proposal with a $76 ring while playing video games to the freaking New York Times.There’s nothing necessary bad about them, it’s just a personal preference. What’s special about gemstones to me is that they’re something beautiful and rare made by the earth herself, so man made gems just don’t really have the same appeal to me. They’re great shiny rocks, so if that what matter to you got for it! In some cases it’s actually more environmentally friendly because mining stones can have a lot of negative impact, there are pros and cons for each, but man made gems just aren’t it fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:52 AM |
| 3 | I was only looking up a face mask when I came across this trash. What are your opinions on people who wear the PH logo on their clothes, phone cases and I guess now mask etc...?I wish all NVM waked around with warning labels on them like this, then I could literally see the red flags before they even open their mouth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Men using women on Tinder for emotional therapy. Comments are from another man doing the same thing. Women are not service animals, go and seek help!Get👏professional👏help👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 08:39 PM |
| 90 | Onesies all dayBro men always regret asking me this, they in for a 30 minute rundown of ethical fashion, from the type of materials that have the smallest impact on the environment to how I ensure that my cloths aren’t made in sweatshops. Want to know about my clothes? I’ll tell you! In lots, and lots, and lots of detail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 2 | What is with Snapchat?Lack of accountability, if you can’t look back and see how flakey he is, how rude he is, how little he considers your needs, if all of that just disappears, it’s easier to gaslight you into thinking that his poor behavior so all in your head. I use Snapchat with my friends, but even my boyfriend of 10 months isn’t on there, no way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:19 PM |
| 31 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.Regardless of if it’s conscious or not, they’re showing where they think a women’s place is: supporting men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:16 PM |
| 28 | I just ordered her book, ngl.My favorite quote from the article is: ”I am married to a man, who is great and really supports my writing. But in general I mistrust men I don’t know,” Harmange said. “I just don’t have confidence in them. This comes less from personal experience than from being an activist in a feminist organisation that helps the victims of rape and sexual assault for several years. I can state for a fact that the majority of aggressors are men.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 2 | I know I remember. 😂Some of the lessons should have been super obvious too: don’t date people who hate animals for example. Like why’d I have to spend 8 months learning why when it should have been an instinct??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Saw this and instantly thought FDS.This is what aging like fine wine looks like. High value energy over a whole lifetime looks so beautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:49 PM |
| 1 | I am so TIRED of these ''memes'' We BoYs NeVeR gEt ComPLimENts...People who only give attention to people they want to sleep with think that any attention they receive means that person wants to sleep with them. That’s why it’s “gay” for men to be nice to each other and “leading them on” for women to be nice to them. It’s a low value self-fulfilling prophecy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 10:33 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Thanks, that’s basically what I try to do it’s just hard walking that line in between “I’m at work and can’t be rude to customers” and “this dickhead isn’t respecting my boundaries”. And like I can usually stay composed for 3ish hour pretty well but one guy in particular will study in there for my entire 6 hour shift and keep trying over and over and like.... the stamina involved is way more than I’m used to. Luckily he was bugging other people and my boss gave me the power to kick him out of he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 08:33 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Can I just rant for a second about guys who hit on me while I’m at work? Like I work as a peer tutor in a university math department, people can just drop in and ask me for help with math, and because I’m an “outstanding undergraduate” (literally how the non-grad students who work here are described) I can help them, I’m in my senior year of undergrad but I’m already taking some 800+ level math classes. I’m 22. And yet, some scrawny ass 18 year olds who are still halfway through puberty and can’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:36 PM |
| 5 | Covid is getting to me. Are there any resources I should look into that you'd recommend?1) find a therapist. If you’re depressed, seek help from a professional, there are lots of options for online help, so please please get help. 2) depending on the restrictions in your area and your own health levels, try to get out more. I’m not saying go to a rave or anything, but if you can take a walk in the park on nice days, do out and treat yourself to a nice dinner, get takeout and eat it in your car somewhere with a nice view. Like I said, this will depend on the restrictions on your are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:43 PM |
| 25 | In what ways do you practice assertiveness? (STEM pursuers)1) I don’t make friends with people in my field. I have friendly acquaintances, but I don’t let anyone I work or study with into my personal life, I set boundaries and enforce them. 2) I act calm and dispassionate while in a work environment, professional, kind, but unbothered. I don’t talk about myself, I stick to work, I’m not unkind, but I keep things professional. I don’t give people anything to work with except math if they’re talking to me in a work environment. 3) Never ever ever ever dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 3 | So... This got me thinking lolI mean, marriage isn’t a goal for me to start, I can take it or leave it, and if feel the same at any income level. I’d love to start a family and teach little mini-me’s about the world, if love to live on my own in a cottage fostering high-needs kids and kittens, I’d love being the kooky old math professor who’s like an unofficial grandmother to all her students, there are so many awesome things ahead of me regardless of if I get married, so if I meet the right person that’s cool, but if not, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:44 PM |
| 4 | Nothing like bragging about your proposal with a $76 ring while playing video games to the freaking New York Times.Personally, if a man proposed to my nature-worshiping goddess self with a lab grown stone or one that resulted from slave labor, I’d dump him on the spot. Those things are just tied too closely with my core values, ignoring them would be a betrayal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Would you tell a pickmeisha her bf is cheating/trying to cheat on her?I always tell, and if she decides to get mad at me, I just say “well don’t say I didn’t warn you” and block them both. I wish that one of the other girls and told me about my cheating ex, so I will never keep than information from another women, but like, don’t tolerate verbal abuse from anyone, if she’s gonna be LV about it, block her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Stop Talking To Men Who Flirt With YouI work as a math tutor for other collage students and I’ve learned to just repeat the same thing over and over when guys try to chat me up at work “...ok? Let me know if you have any math questions!” And I will literally say that over and over every time they try to talk to me about anything other than math. Usually after 2 or 3 hours of this, they take the hint. (Key word: usually) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Your age is your age....it’s not a sliding scaleBeing immature doesn’t magically make your young! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:26 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeThe golden rule of pranks: confuse, don’t abuse. Taping nic cage’s face on all the family pictures (in a way that has no way of damaging pictures and is easily removed) confusing! A+ stupid thing to do. Damaging property, emotional manipulation, public embarrassment? Abuse! I’m proud of you for leaving, anyone who uses pranks as an excuse to be abusive is (drumroll please” an abuser and a gaslighter. Not only do they do fucked op things, they shape the story so that you question your own sanity … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:21 PM |
| 3 | are men ok lolSome of the research into same sex reproduction is actually really promising, here’s some info of the stem cell research being done now and here’s a Ted talk about it if you’re more of a video person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:43 AM |
| 290 | are men ok lolOk dude, show me when your sock grows a human inside of it and I’ll believe you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:38 PM |
| 4 | I’ve often wondered why our detractors care about what we think so much, but this tweet sums it up nicely.Pick-mes are just female NiceGuys, change my mind. “Pick me I’m nice” “pick me I’m low maintenance” although I guess even niceguys have standards so... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 04:08 AM |
| 3 | Quotes from Simone de Beauvoir and Christine de Pizan cycle across my home screen to help me stay in a HV mindset as I go about my day. Also, big fall vibes 🍂The new iOS update allows you to put widgets on your Home Screen, and the app icons are done by making shortcuts for the apps you use a lot and putting custom pictures for them! I used Canva to make the app icons and Widgetsmith for the pictures, there are lots of tutorials online! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Quotes from Simone de Beauvoir and Christine de Pizan cycle across my home screen to help me stay in a HV mindset as I go about my day. Also, big fall vibes 🍂Aristotle didn’t believe women were capable of being good people because he didn’t consider us people, Einstein was abusive and married is cousin, Pascal’s triangle is one of the most brilliant mathematical breakthroughs while Pascal’s wager is one of the stupidest philosophical ideas. Just because some of what a scholar did or believed was undeniably terrible doesn’t mean all of their ideas and writings are wrong. If we could only share ideas from perfect people the world would be a smaller, sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:05 PM |
| 74 | Absolute queen shooting down an ignorant scroteAye aye Captain! 👩✈️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 18 | Let’s unpack, shall we?I very much doubt that this man has ever been quietly reading and minding his own business and then been approached by a bad bitch who has a problem with him reading, but one of my earliest posts on Reddit was a rant about not bothering women who are reading and SO MANY MEN GOT MAD AT ME for suggesting that a women reading/studying in public actually isn’t hoping to be bothered by random strangers. If lots of women are cold and rude to him, I higggghly doubt it’s because he’s quiet and keeps to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:42 AM |
| 34 | Pre-order your copy!I’ve never understood car sex, like they don’t even have sex organs, where do you do it? The exhaust pipe? Nasty. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:31 AM |
| 13 | When LVM and I took a personality test together...Goddess, grant me the confidence of a mediocre man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:27 AM |
| 6 | Male shouldn't be the *standard* of successful careers.Relevant 2 minute stand-up comedy routine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:18 AM |
| 8 | Tale as old as time...Episode 1 of Santa Clarita Diet has a situation inspired by this with a satisfying ending spoiler and gore warning | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:03 AM |
| 60 | And if it does, it’s probably gaslightingI was SO AFRAID to tell my current boyfriend how I felt about something and he was like, understanding and wanted to make me feel better and immediately took action to make the situation more comfortable for me and like, I have so many exes who would have made that conversation into a fight. Just more proof for me that he’s on a different level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:45 PM |
| 23 | Women only gyms need to be normalized so that we don’t have to deal with being stared at, harassed or catcalled while trying to workout🙄🙄Men get mad when women work out near them because it’s distracting, men get mad when women don’t work out because it’s unattractive, men get mad when women work out far away from them because it’s exclusionary. It’s almost like men get mad when women do literally anything and the only way to have a happy life as a women is to completely ignore male opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 01:41 PM |
| 11 | “LOVE HAS NO AGE” IS AN IDEA PERPETUATED BY PATRIARCHYBecause age isn’t “just a number”, it’s a measure of how much time you’ve had on earth. How many days you’ve experienced, how many opportunities you’ve had to grow, how much time you’ve had to develop. If you aren’t mature enough for someone your own age, it’s because you haven’t spent your time on earth wisely, so you shouldn’t be around young people, influencing them to make the same mistakes as you. If you want to be with a younger person so that you can shape and mold them into a perfect par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:47 PM |
| 2 | These are the kind of pickmes who are detrimental to other womenI had to work so hard to convince the 4 other officers on the exec council for a collage club I’m in that a guy who repeatedly went out of his way to make women in the club uncomfortable, even after a warning, should be kicked out of the club. They all have some sort of #Istandwithher #feminist #believewomen stuff in their social media bios but if I didn’t threaten to go to the campus newspaper that dude would still be making the club an unsafe space for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Wannabe intellectual LVM be like "You're not allowed to criticize me because that's ad hominem!" *struts around triumphantly while making smug noises*As a mathematician I love studying logic, and people who think identifying fallacies is a sufficient condition for being a logical thinker either aren’t cognitively developed enough to understand the subject (no hate on children or people with special needs, just the way it is) OR they’re willfully ignorant and using logic as a bat to hot down anything said by someone who disagrees with them. We don’t talk in structured logical arguments, so people are constantly breaking the rules of logical ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:17 AM |
| 3 | The Audacity of some scroteamen be like “relationships are two way streets, he has to try his hardest not to make your life hell and you have to forgive him for making your life hell” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 04:07 AM |
| 32 | Prime example of the type we don't give our valuable presence to. A date with a woman is worth far more than $18.75. He had the audacity to call himself a "gentleman" after all that! 😂If a guy is like this to you, drop cash on the table and walk away, he might be a failure, but you’ve successfully vetted him! Then go buy yourself the dessert he should have gotten you✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:41 AM |
| 84 | It bothers me so much that most men see sex as something humiliating and degrading done to women and that they see woman as an submissive sex object, just body parts to use. And this is why i hate porn so much... It basically traumatized me and ruined sex for me forever.Men who see sex as something men do to women for men’s pleasure alone are the same men who... Are bad in bed because they don’t see your pleasure as a necessity. Care about your “body count” because all you are to them is a sex you and they don’t want a used sex toy. Categorizes women as Madonnas who are fit to marry so they can be incubators and maids, and whores who are only good for one thing. This is why seeing any one red flag for any of these things is sufficient information to block and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:20 PM |
| 7 | Homelander from the boys seems like most guys in real life, minus actual superpowersI love the show partly because it shows an impressive range in male depravity. Butchers wife rightly turns him down because she knows he cares more about winning over homelander than having a peaceful life with her, and that he won’t protect her son. The deep is NVM 101, the player who preys on women. Stewie lies to starlight about everything in order to work on his revenge plot for robin, when she probably would have been anted him to mourn in less murder-y ways. Translucent in on screen for al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 06:29 AM |
| 2 | Yesterday we agreed that Pisces men are wack, what about other signs?I love astrology, but there are LVMs in every sign, and while my best friends are a Capricorn and an Aries, those are the signs of my two worst ex-boyfriends. The most dangerous LVMs are ones you talk yourself into thinking are good for you, like by having compatible signs for example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:27 AM |
| 3 | Taking ourselves on dates 2020!Also spend more time with your friends! Making effort to spend more time with other women than you do with any men is the best way to have a social life that doesn’t depend on dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 07:07 AM |
| 145 | When I read this I knew it belonged hereSome of the best advice I ever got was from my dad, who taught me how to live like men do. Putting themselves first, standing up for themselves, assuming they can do something until proven otherwise, assuming the rules will bend to their will if they argue hard enough, just being assertive (almost to a fault). I was having a really hard time with things and he asked me “what are your top 3 priorities, in order?” And I started with school and he said “No. Number one is your health. Don’t run your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 09:03 PM |
| 180 | They want to be seen as providers and protectors, yet seem to dislike girls who are attracted to and needful of their money. What exactly do they want?But when women avoid men who can’t pay their own bills we’re “gold diggers” lol ok | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 03:02 PM |
| 64 | Pickme's when they talk about their "HVM"😂All posts that start with “He has HVM qualities but...” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:57 PM |
| 8 | If a guy vehemently hates cats, run.Hot take: hating any animals is a red flag. Maybe things like killer bees and wasps and stuff because they’ll fuck you up for no reason, but most animals just want to live an let live, so even if you wouldn’t want something as a pet, hating it is just being hateful for no reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:56 PM |
| 3 | If a guy vehemently hates cats, run.Not wanting something as a pet isn’t a he same as hating it, I don’t want a tarantula as a pet because they kinda freak me out, but I don’t hate them. I guess I just don’t really see how your comment is relevant, the post is about people who hate cats, not just people who don’t personally want to have one around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:52 PM |
| 7 | If a guy vehemently hates cats, run.Hating any animals is a massive red flag. I don’t want a tarantula as a pet because they kinda freak me out, but they’re living things that don’t mean me any harm unless I frighten them, so it’s hating them would be just hateful for no reason. Being a hateful person is low value, full offense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:49 PM |
| 165 | Reminder, it's never your fault when a man hurts you.My ex confessed to cheating and I ended up comforting him. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 06:41 PM |
| 1 | My husband's dad just said that he felt bad for a family member that just had another daughter.My dad used to get so mad when men he worked with asked him if they were going to “try again” when I was born a second daughter instead of congratulating him. He was the youngest of 7 and the only son and he saw firsthand how his parents treated him with preference over his sisters, it made them resent him until well into adulthood and he ended up being really disconnected from the family because everyone hated the golden boy. My grandparents need to have a son have all of their children lifelon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 06:12 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else have serial add-er LVM? 😂Yeah, flash back to my pick-me days where guys got un-blocked if I was lonely.... dark times.... 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:46 PM |
| 64 | Ladies teaching each other why we should let men use our bodies to masturbate with when we don’t want to have sex. iT’s LoVe 🤡Any man who is willing to have sex with a woman without enthusiastic consent is a LVM. No means no, but so does: “I’m not in the mood” “Not tonight” “I have a headache” “I’m tired” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 14 | 🤣Any man who genuinely believes all women are good for is sex is disgusting, I’m glad they’re starting to take themselves out of the gene pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:28 AM |
| 11 | I wish I'd had this in college.This is why I never go on purple pill debate or subs like it, I’m just not willing to put up with men telling me that I should put up with abuse when they will literally never be hurt by other men like I have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:59 PM |
| 10 | Please Use Our New Flair "SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGY" to discuss issues specific to your racial, ethnic, political, professional, or religious group.I love this! I’ll definitely be making a thread about dating as a wiccan/pagan because I’ve had some wack experiences with Christian and atheist men alike and I think out of 96000+ queens there’s got to be a few other witches on here who can help out/relate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 29 | I saw this in another sub and 🤨🤢“I will not bother you again” bothers her again and again and again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 11 | How long to wait to tell him I’m divorced?I’d say this is something to bring up if you’re discussing marriage with someone, like in a “I think I could see us spending the rest of our lives together” sort of conversation, just mention it casually “oh by the way when I was going through collage...” and act like it’s not a big deal, because it isn’t. The only way I could see you having problems is if you don’t mention it and he finds out from someone else, because then it would feel like you’re hiding it from him, but as long as you’re the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:33 PM |
| 16 | A guy on OND who never owned a home yet is seeking for a financially Independent woman to give a birth to 5 kidsFor anyone not in America: that is not a medium size family here! The average number of children per family in America is 1.93 as of 2019 and 5 is seen as A LOT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:48 PM |
| 96 | Some men are seriously looking for a free therapist . A HVM correctes him tho. There is hopeOk but I’m charging $50/hour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:44 PM |
| 30 | Why we don’t go to multiple locations on the first date.Well I feel like because there’s a specific plan and you’re walking from one to another you don’t really have to worry about points 2 and 4, but 1 and 3 are still out there. I agree that this is a grey area, so it’s up to your judgment of the situation as a whole, if you think it’s fine, go for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 11:19 PM |
| 1 | You’ll meet the most HVM IRL.Volunteer organizations can be a great place to meet people, because it’s usually only people who are already pretty financially stable and decent human beings who dedicate time to helping animals/the homeless/kids with cancer. I don’t know a lot about volunteer organizations in Scandinavian countries but I’m sure there are some you could look into (plus, volunteering is a nice way to spend your time regardless of the friends/relationships you make along the way) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:41 PM |
| 13 | Women aren’t sad that you don’t view us as sex dollsIf you think all I’m good for is sex, I don’t want you!!!! Like if you genuinely believe that a sex doll fulfills the same roll in your life as a girlfriend would, why on earth would anyone want to be your girlfriend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:20 PM |
| 30 | I mean since we’re talking genders...It’s a joke about how on average, woman are paid less than men This is using slightly outdated data, 72 cents to a dollar was the number (in the USA) for a while but now it’s 82, so on average women make 18% less than men, although for women who are black, hispanic, or Native American the pay gap is much larger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 10:03 PM |
| 47 | On an article where they asked men to describe their dream girl, this scrote described his ideal sex dollWell she need to put her needs after his, so 50/50 on bills plus she does everything in the house and for the children, and how is she gonna earn her half of the rent if she doesn’t have a good job? So of course they need an educated woman because she needs to be totally self-sufficient and also take care of him and the kids, but no way in hell is he going to take care of her, women who need to be taken care of are gold diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:34 PM |
| 202 | Because marriage it's a torture, of course. Way to ruin happy marriage photosTears of joy are so common and scrotes out here trying to act like they’re not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:19 PM |
| 22 | How have you applied FDS principles to your friendships/family/work life?Honestly just setting clear boundaries and not accepting people crossing them is a power move in every aspect of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | "how to talk to a woman who is wearing headphones" - don'tEven when I don’t want to listen to music I wear headphones when I walk around campus specifically to discourage men from hitting on me I cannot believe men are actually trying to excuse hitting on women who clearly don’t want any male attention. “Nervousness and excitement” my ass, if a strange man is trying to talk to me when I’m clearly signaling that I’m not in the mood then I’m afraid that he’s going to ignore more of my boundaries, not take no for an answer, following me, ect. Fuck everyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 12:28 AM |
| 153 | 48M Seeking 28-34FWhat about my legacy? Why would I put myself at higher risk for miscarriage and my children at higher risk schizophrenia, autism, and leukemia by letting some dusty old man father them? I would happily raise take care of my child regardless of special needs or disability, but for their quality of life I’m going to make sure I do everything I can to make sure they’re born as healthy as possible. Advanced paternal age is linked to all sorts of issues, but there is so much more research linking wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 07:08 PM |
| 8 | "FDS is so JUDGEMENTAL" Yes, and we are proud of it! Mate selection is among the most important decisions you will ever make, it is a crucial time to be choosy!When I think someone is low value, that doesn’t mean I wish them any ill will, I just don’t want them ruining my life. I want LVM and pick-mes to grow, to become better and have happy lives. It’s just not my responsibility to fix their lives for them. I don’t have to have anyone in my life who’s going to make it worse, that doesn’t mean I hate them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 02:21 AM |
| 2 | How can I be/look as high maintenance as possible? What screams “pick me energy”?Spend your time, energy, and money on things you want. It’s that simple. Want clear skin? Develop a good skincare routine, and stick to it! Want beautiful hair? Develop a good hair care routine, and stick to it! Want flawless nails? Develop a good nail care routine, and stick to it! Want a certain figure? Develop a good workout routine, and stick to it! Doing any of these things just for male attention is what makes it a pick-me move, but weather it’s working out, getting your nails done, or wea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 02:09 PM |
| 12 | He’s just mad because he keeps getting rejectedAhhh yes, a model designed by lazy men that minimizes male effort, what a surprise.... Doesn’t take into account that if you’re reasonably attractive (don’t even have to be a knockout, just not unattractive) and you ask out a single guy, 90% of them will say yes just for the small chance they’re going to get some, even if only 20% of men would actually be willing to put in the effort to date you. Basically, every time I have ever asked a man out in my pre-FDS days, the answer was always “yes” or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.I don’t think he understood the Ted talk about sex and mathematics, it’s the first video he linked and while maybe he really liked the part where she said data supported couples with high uncompromising standards lasted longer, that was more of a throwaway comment making a larger point about mathematics being an elegant science that can be widely applied, like I don’t think he got the point AT ALL. So much for valuing intelligence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:16 PM |
| 22 | I can't believe the way some men talk. Just whyMen who rate women’s attractiveness on a numerical scale and use that scale to reduce women to only physical objects are all NVM or LVM, no exceptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:52 PM |
| 12 | Pickmeishas in the comments bragging about being proposed with a recycling project 🤦🏻♀️I love sustainability and I absolutely demand that my emerald or morganite engagement ring be ethically sourced; but come on, beer bottle glass? Get some class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:27 PM |
| 75 | Trust your instincts ladies!Literally every time, this is why The Gift of Fear is #2 on the FDS reading list ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:25 PM |
| 12 | I’m just so done trying to be friends with heterosexual/bisexual men...Oh I’m never going to be alone with him again after this, even if I don’t block him (still debating, leaning towards blocking him) I don’t feel comfortable around men a lot anymore, for obvious reasons. And thanks for the sympathy, it was a little over a year ago and one of the incidents that made me realize FDS was right for me, I’ve had professional help since then and I’m able to drink margaritas again (they were my favorite drink but after that night I couldn’t stand them for a long time, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:22 AM |
| 14 | I’m just so done trying to be friends with heterosexual/bisexual men...Yeah, I’m 22 lol. Honestly this is the last straw for me, I just can’t justify putting energy into a relationship with a man unless he’s husband material anymore, I’m so done being disappointed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:17 AM |
| 2 | I’m a virgin going into the dating field, what is your advice for me and how do I know if a man is using me to be my first? I’m 20, should I just focus on school right now?Your education and career 100% come first, you can date at the same time, but if it becomes a distraction, be single for a while. I dated a lot in my first two years of college, and I went my whole junior year without any male attention at all, that was the year I realized I was in the wrong major and changed it, that was the year I became a leader on campus, that was the year I started leveling up. I’m dating again now as a super senior (lol changing your major junior year is fun) but I know be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Online dating profile, what would you write?Saying what you’re looking for won’t filter out guys who only want sex, it just shows them the best lies to tell you so you get an emotional connection in hopes that it will help them get sex. Learn to be a little mysterious, let him show through his actions what he has to offer, don’t tell men how best to play you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | He almost broke up with me after 1 month, now we’re taking a break.Yes, growth takes time. Healing takes time. But that time will pass weather or not you use it to grow and heal. A year from now, a year will have passed, the question is will you be a year into thereby, well along the road to a happier life, or will you still be afraid to start? You absolutely have it in you to be happier, more powerful, most self-actualized, and we all believe in you. Getting help is scary at first, trust me, I’ve been there, but it’s sooooo worth it and you’ll wish you started… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:54 AM |
| 98 | Well...In high school I a guy I had maybe one class with in 4 years and had barely spoken to did like a huge public “promposal” for me and I got so much hate for saying no, like I literally didn’t know him but he got balloons so I was supposed to ditch my friend’s plans and go with him instead of a group of women I actually liked??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:43 PM |
| 192 | Actual r/wholesomememesExactly, I had to talk to HR at my old job because I “wasn’t dressing professionally”, which confused me because I wore slacks and high necked blouses every day. I asked the person what specifically I needed to change to look professional enough, and they had a lot of trouble putting it to words. Finally they said the problem was that I was “showing off my curves too much” and it hit me, the problem wasn’t my choice in clothing, it was that my cloths fit my body, and my body wasn’t deemed profes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 7 | Umbrella Academy discussion: HV and LV characters in relationships. [SPOILERS]I think Sissy is a HVW and stuck in a shitty time to be a woman. My favorite line from her was when her LVM husband said “I stayed, you can’t ask more than that” and he says “I’m asking, but not from you” like chills She saves up so she has her own money for a rainy day, protects her kid even through it would be easier to send him to an institution, and when she gays a chance to leave her husband, she does. They get stopped by state troopers because plot, but she was willing to give up a comfort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 04:03 PM |
| 4 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.Schedule a call from a friend or family member at a certain time, make sure you’re where you can get to your phone. If the date is going well, look at your phone, turn down the call, and comment about it not being important if asked. If the date is going badly and you want an out, pick it up, pause, look alarmed, then tell the person on the phone “I’ll be right there” or something and explain there’s an emergency, of pressed say “it’ll take to long to explain”. This is also a good way to have so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 12:57 PM |
| 2 | What's your opinion on having male friends (purely platonic)?Nope, his parents were lovely, he was college educated, he volunteered with environmental groups, never gave off any incel or gamer vibes, he was bi and didn’t seem to have a drop of toxic masculinity in him. But when I told him no he took that as a challenge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 05:15 PM |
| 157 | LVM and their heinous tactics about pressuring women for sex.Ah yes, because I am a treat to be consumed, not a sentient being with a right to bodily autonomy. MGTOW goons who right stuff like this think they’re doing something clever and really they’re just demonstrating how they don’t even see us as humans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:39 AM |
| 5 | Staying friends with exs - what's the point?I get that, I definitely don’t recommend being close friends with someone you were in love with, that can only lead to further heartbreak. You don’t have to block and delete him if you don’t want to, but do step back and let him live a separate life, and move on with yours. You’re changing your life for the better, furthering your education, and doing what’s best for you right now, enjoy it! It’s sad when good relationships have to end, but you have so much good stuff ahead of you! Don’t be too … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:58 AM |
| 7 | Staying friends with exs - what's the point?Yeah, like one of my exes ended up going to a different collage than me, we both knew we needed to go different directions in life and we ended our relationship with a hug. We aren’t close anymore, but he’s the only ex I don’t have blocked, and I don’t see any need to, he’s a good guy, just not for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:27 AM |
| 2 | ExactlyYup, a sorority sister of mine is engaged to a guy who I know for a fact still has a tinder, multiple sisters have seen him on there and sent her screenshots, and she makes excuses for him every time. Either they’re in an open relationship but she doesn’t want to admit that to her friends or she’s getting hella played. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:52 AM |
| 28 | This so used to be me. Not anymore now. Please don’t let it be you!Last time I gave a man a second chance he used it to cheat on me. He used his third chance to stand me up in favor of getting high. He didn’t get a 4th chance, so at least I can be proud of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:21 AM |
| 7 | What's your opinion on having male friends (purely platonic)?Yeah I’m so lucky I was living with a sorority sister at the time who knew I wasn’t drinking so when he pulled that “oh she had one too many” thing she realized something was up and didn’t leave my side until he was long gone. And yeah, this was before FDS and was when I really started vetting men, agreeableness in men isn’t an indicator that they see you as a human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:50 PM |
| 22 | Is a guy [25M] whose friends are mostly attractive women whom he’s previously crushed on but with whom he’s remained friends, is he a LVM?I mean, I’d say he’s a ZVM, aka zero value. Think for a second: what had he done to improve your life in the past year? It sounds like you’re only in contact with him because he’s “persistent”, which is not a good thing, he keeps pushing your boundaries just a little bit each time because over time he thinks he can wear you down. Get out of there, you’re way too good for him. Old friends aren’t necessarily good ones, I was friends with a guy since middle school and when he finally got the courag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:45 AM |
| 12 | What's your opinion on having male friends (purely platonic)?I’ve never had a male friend who’s only wanted to be my friend. I have friendly relationships with male colleagues and my friend’s boyfriends/fiancés, but every time I’ve put in the effort to be friends with a man he’s ruined it by trying to date me/have sex with me. The worst one tried to drug me after I said no, we were friends for 6 years before that. It was “purely platonic” for 6 years and he tried to assault me. So no, I don’t fuck with male “friendship”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Removing yourself from a toxic situation isn’t selfish, it’s self love 💕Thank you for finding the artist! I found this already with the quote and didn’t realize it wasn’t the original artist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 03:57 PM |
| 7 | How does FDS feel about the picture book "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein?I love the art style but it always made me sad, and I didn’t understand why when I was a kid. Figured it out once I got older | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Universal Hot Girl Matrix found on Match.comAh yes, I had forgotten the color of my hair makes me dangerous :))))) For real though the fetishization of red hair was really damaging to me growing up, it’s so sexualized but also mocked and I’d love to say “it took a long time to get over” but I’m definitely still not over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 03:08 AM |
| 87 | Any thoughts on this date idea?Before COVID my grandparents went on walks together picking up trash as they went, but not as a date, as an act of service to the community. I think that established couples can absolutely do community service together, and I think community service organizations are a great way to meet HVM, but those aren’t dates. Dates aren’t free and dates aren’t labor. Volunteering your time to a worthy cause is great, but don’t mix it up with a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 03:03 AM |
| 33 | Ever had your career mansplained to you on a first date? Did a boyfriend tell you that you're too emotional/men are the more logical sex? Then the nine types of reply guy list is for you!“Just to play the devils advocate about if you should have the right to make decisions about your own life and body....” Like bitch if you know what you’re saying is devilish why you advocating for it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:37 AM |
| 8 | How did a guy ruin his chance with you before the first date?Yeah, I’m just thankful I found out what sort of guy he was before having to spend any time with him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:34 AM |
| 18 | How did a guy ruin his chance with you before the first date?I assume he meant to get condoms, and wtf what a gross thing to say! A woman being on birth control isn’t a reason to make sexual comments to her, I’m glad you never saw him again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:11 AM |
| 33 | How did a guy ruin his chance with you before the first date?Dude once asked me if I was on birth control right before a first date, I think his exact words were “hey are you on the pill or should I stop by Walgreens on my way?” That was the end of that. (I was mad too because I had already gotten ready) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:55 AM |
| 3 | What these LVMs think we areI don’t even know how many guys I ghosted, blocked, and rejected in my year of voluntary celibacy. I needed a break from men and they did not want to give me one. Highlight of that year was going to 4 different fraternity formals so I could chill with my sisters and not going on a date with any of the guys before or after because why would I? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:41 PM |
| 431 | Here is the follow up to my post from last nightBonus points for never saving his number in your phone, Queen energy 👸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:34 PM |
| 14 | Gigi Engle and Suzannah Weiss wrote back to back articles in Men’s Health on how to choke us out. “Feminist” writers pandering and promoting sexualized violence to men has got to stop.My kink is making love to someone who wouldn’t ever imagine hurting me because they love me too, pretty fringe stuff nowadays | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 12:49 AM |
| 5 | The delusion... I’ve only seen men look better in their 30s vs their 20s if they were obese and then lost weightYeah, my mom has a friend who went through fertility treatments for her ex husband because his boys couldn’t swim, his apathy towards the hell she was going through is what triggered the divorce. Yet another reason not to date older than yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 125 | The delusion... I’ve only seen men look better in their 30s vs their 20s if they were obese and then lost weightLMAO advanced paternal age is linked to tons of increased risks both for the child and the mother!!! Past 35 both men and women have increased risks when reproducing, and evening though most of the focus on lifestyle choices and reproduction is on women when pregnant, stress can affect a man’s sperm quality and there is a lot unknown about the affect men’s lifestyle choices have on offspring because the research just isn’t being done at the same rate as research about how women’s lifestyle choic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 02:35 AM |
| 6 | A Simple Exercise for Objectively Evaluating MenLmao, on a post that’s literally about judging people based only on their actions and not on identity or vulnerability | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:44 AM |
| 48 | This is emotionally manipulative and LVM are passing it off as advice. You do NOT have to be available 24/7! You do NOT have to text back right away! If a man uses manipulative tactics on you, no matter how silly or trivial it may seem, DUMP HIM!LVM just expect all women to be at their beck and call, laying around the house in matching bra and panties sets waiting to get a text so we can finally send someone nudes, on our phones 24/7 because we have no need for jobs or schooling or hobbies, so if we don’t respond it’s because we’re bitter and vile; not because we have, you know, lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:18 PM |
| 4 | women who focus on themselves instead of dating, how do you do it?It sounds like you’re craving social connection, which is normal, but you’re fixated on connecting with men only, which can be detrimental. Reach out to old friends, call your family more, socialize with other women, look up book clubs in your area, take an art class and befriend other women in it. As other people have said, you can always be working on yourself regardless of your relationship status, but if you’re not spending time with other humans it will be harder to be happy and fulfilled, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:20 PM |
| 23 | This is what they preach to young girls🤡Stop defining women by their relationships with men and start encouraging each other to fulfill the hopes and dreams about that actually matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 03:55 PM |
| 3 | I think we have all dated one of theseIf I could go back in time I never would have fallen for some scrawny dude who looked like a garden gnome and “played the devils advocate” any time a women shared her experiences but at last he pushed me to FDS 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 12:14 AM |
| 3 | I think we have all dated one of theseLmao one time my ex who cheated on me with his ex (and I stayed with him like an idiot) cried because he told me his ex gave better blow jobs and I asked if that’s why he preferred her: apparently I was “bringing up the past against him” I apologized and comforted him (again, like an idiot.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Are we clear? ARE WE CLEAR?!?I love how LVM are self aware enough to know that blocking them is the only real way to reject them, talking to them like adults never works and they can’t take a joke (seen above) so you have to make it impossible for them to contact you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:49 PM |
| 12 | Study find low-skilled men more likely to be hostile towards women than men, and high-skilled men do not show this hostility. Just more proof that sexism and LV go hand in hand.Yeah, I think maturity is a big part of it because as you get more mature you’re better at resisting your worst impulses, where immature people kinda do whatever they feel like without thinking things through entirely, and that’s a huge factor in being HV. A lot of typical collage dudes are immature, and it doesn’t help that in mathematics and aerospace (the stem classes I’ve taken a lot of) many of the people are just so smart they never struggled in a class before collage, so when they struggl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 11:53 PM |
| 40 | Study find low-skilled men more likely to be hostile towards women than men, and high-skilled men do not show this hostility. Just more proof that sexism and LV go hand in hand.Exactly, this study was done to specifically look at workplace behaviors but we can probably assume that some men who are high skilled at video games would be low skilled in an office and would be part of the problem in those cases. I’ve noticed in STEM classes that overall, the men who are doing well are kinder to me than the ones struggling, regardless of how I’m doing. At the same time, those men might go home and not be as good at finest tasks and lash out to their wives there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:31 PM |
| 41 | Study find low-skilled men more likely to be hostile towards women than men, and high-skilled men do not show this hostility. Just more proof that sexism and LV go hand in hand.Abstract for the study: Gender inequality and sexist behaviour is prevalent in almost all workplaces and rampant in online environments. Although there is much research dedicated to understanding sexist behaviour, we have almost no insight into what triggers this behaviour and the individuals that initiate it. Although social constructionist theory argues that sexism is a response towards women entering a male dominated arena, this perspective doesn’t explain why only a subset of males behave in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 09:10 PM |
| 4 | How to handle people pushing their pick-me views on you?The best way to shut down family discussions on how to live your life, as told by my mother who left her family’s religion (and subsequently didn’t allow her family to indoctrinate my sister and I to their religion): “I understand why you feel that way, nevertheless, this is what I’ve decided to do.” And literally repeating that over and over every time they come up with a new argument. Don’t tell them why, don’t engage in the argument at all, just acknowledge that you get what they’re saying bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:39 PM |
| 242 | Thought this belonged hereWhen I was 16 my mom sent me to the store for cheesecloth and I was completely lost, I asked an employee, they showed me where it was, and I came home with the requested item without bugging my mom once. The idea that an adult man is incapable of handling this sort of situation with as much grace and thought as a high school girl is just ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | This is the type of husband I want to marry.I literally didn’t say they are masculine, they’re considered masculine by society because women have been forced out of them, and then valued higher than things that were considered “women’s work” such as teaching. People can be celebrated for hard work in jobs like being an artisan, saying that you don’t want women’s work to be celebrated unless it’s in a career that women have been blocked out of for centuries is reinforcing the idea that those jobs are worth less than the ones that society a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:02 PM |
| 46 | Relationship advice succesfully pressured this woman into doing a sex act she hates with her entitled, predatory boyfriend. There are no words to describe how sad, sick and disgusted this makes me.“Who she really was” ahh yes I forgot that a woman’s character is defined by where a penis has touched her, her entire self is based on her relationship with men, not only in the present but also all other past relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 06:07 PM |
| 0 | This is the type of husband I want to marry.Ahh yes, I forgot that women should be ashamed of doing anything other than cooperate buzzwords. Husbands should only hype up their wife if she’s a lawyer, businesswomen, or investor; but doing anything that isn’t traditionally male dominated is just a “out-there hobby” Check your internalized misogyny sis, you’re the one actually like her job is a cute little hobby, not him. I say this as a woman in stem, there are LOTS of acceptable careers for women, and shaming a woman for being a craftswome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:29 PM |
| 16 | Grandma Hattie is totally a pickmieshaI really hate people joking about this, most sex workers have no other option, most sex trafficking takes advantage of economic shackles, not physical ones. It’s just not funny to me to joke about doing sex work for food, because that’s the decision a lot of impoverished girls and women are faced with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 05:54 PM |
| 75 | Text god website? So dude made some interesting points but number 3 made me go 🧐 he also mentions women like ‘primal animal sex’ like the fudge that’s supposed to meanIf a man said this to me on a date I’d just leave. Stand up, walk to my car, start driving. No goodbye, no acknowledgment of his existence from that point forth. Pervy, pornsick, objectifying comments warrant no other reaction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 06:18 PM |
| 23 | Ladies what's stopping you? I'll start! Self respect... and go!Can we stop using “daddy issues” to shame other women? Like having a negligent or abusive father is the father’s fault, not the daughters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:43 PM |
| 16 | Boyfriend isn’t supporting me going back to universityThis sounds like a financially abusive relationship, you have every right to leave any never go back. If you have any family that can help you, please reach out to them, here are some resources that may help. Financial abuse IS domestic abuse and it can only get worse from here. https://www.stnce.ca/confidence/relationships/financially-dependent-relationship/ https://www.moneygeek.com/financial-planning/resources/financial-help-women-abusive-relationships/ https://www.thehotline.org/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:05 PM |
| 15 | Block him or Let him see what he lostBlock, don’t let him be in your life even a tiny little bit, don’t think about what he’ll think when you post something, don’t do anything for that man, even if it’s to make him feel worse. It’s about letting go on your end, you can’t let go if you’re clinging onto being petty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:54 PM |
| 28 | **LVM; it’s not even always ‘a taste of their own medicine’ it’s just saying ‘enough is enough’Oh my god did you date my ex??? He told me a sos story about his “abusive” ex and when I finally talked to her to confirm that he has been abusing her too she had a story very similar to yours. Why are there so many men who think this is ok??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | TO WALK AWAY OR TO CONFRONT?I’d say if it’s someone who you can’t/don’t want to walk away from, confrontation is the healthy way to go, but don’t go in guns blazing in anger, you’re trying to communicate to them that their behavior must change or you will walk away/Eli are the issue. This is the route to take with people at work or in the same organizations as you, as well as family and close friends. When I went away to collage me and my dad had to have some hard conversations about treating me like an adult, but we had t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 02:21 PM |
| 39 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020One week into summer (online) classes, ahead in both classes and no grades under 100% so far. Donating blood this week, getting new prescription glasses, seeing sorority sisters in person for the first time since March 9th (with masks and social distancing of course). Honestly just living my best life and I can’t believe that this seemed unattainable two years ago. The glow up is real!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:16 PM |
| 31 | Any rules about your Instagram account as a HVW?I like to take a third-person view approach: if a reasonable person who doesn’t know me stumbled across my account, what conclusions would they draw about me? I’m not saying to just post stuff based on how much others will like it, bust consider the version of yourself you are projecting to the world and ask yourself if she’s a HVW. I also highly recommend going on private and choosing who you allow to follow you. Not only does this mean you can prevent randos from leaving gross comments on your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:16 PM |
| 13 | What range of price is acceptable for gifts on bdays?The approximate price of the necklace he got you is an absolute upper limit, don’t buy something way nicer for him than he got for you. At that point commitment will have been established for 3 months, so you should do something for his birthday, but don’t go over the top. On specifics: You can get a pretty nice car washing kit for like $50-$80, but there’s a big range so you can get one for more or less if that seems appropriate. (I’ve seen them as cheap as 30 bucks and as expensive as 120) It’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:05 PM |
| 12 | There’s clownery going on in this relationship. He’s lied to her like 10 times 🙄This is just evidence to him that she’s willing to put up with his shit. She knows exactly how shitty he’s being, and she’s still with him, that’s a clear message to him that it’s not that bad and he can keep going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:37 PM |
| 7 | Older guysAsk yourself why he would want to date a woman 10-15 years younger than him. He doesn’t find women his own age attractive, and will leave you when you no longer look 21. Women his own age with more life experience can tell he’s a loser, and you’ll find out in time. He’s so emotionally immature he can’t handle a relationship with someone his own age, he will actively try to prevent your growth because he won’t want you to outgrow him. Basically, any 31 year old man who wants to date a 21 year old… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:32 PM |
| 101 | Ironically, TheRedPill "redpilled" me about male nature and made me realize that I was a pickmeisha.Yeah, for me it was clicking on profiles in MGTOW and seeing the other stuff they posted about. It was all stuff I considered normal at the time, constantly playing video games, marking fun of women for being on their phones or doing their eyebrows, porn, BDSM, anime obsession, sexualizing any post with a women in it. I realized that ALL of those things were connected, and looked at my male friends and boyfriends, and it all started to make sense. OF COURSE it didn’t work out with the guy who sp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:21 PM |
| 48 | Remember at this time that if he can't listen respectfully to your political views, he doesn't respect you.Wish I had seen this 3 years ago, my ex would always “play the devil’s advocate” any time I tried to talk to him about things I’m passionate about, and when I got frustrated that he was being willfully ignorant and arguing in bad faith he would refuse to listen to me because I was being emotional rather than logical. A relationship isn’t a debate team competition, you’re allowed to express yourself, and any man who tried to stifle that can GTFO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 04:04 PM |
| 17 | House husband. Thoughts?It’s would be cheaper to hire a gardener and house cleaning service. What value is he adding to her life? If they have kids she’s still going to be the one carrying the pregnancy and dealing with postpartum problems. This absolutely isn’t an equal situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:40 AM |
| 52 | In your opinion: What kind of mistakes and hiccups could a HVM possibly make, as opposed to the mistakes (red flags) a NVM/LVM exhibits?I mean, in general “how would I react if my best friend did this?” Is a good question. Obviously it won’t cover things like cheating or anything in the bedroom, but those are areas which clear boundaries anyway. Forgetting I don’t like guacamole and ordering a sharing size for the table? Not a big deal, as long as they’re not regularly forgetting details about you, and they apologize for their mistake. Drive to the wrong location of a restaurant and end up being a little late? Not a big deal, as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 09:20 PM |
| 3 | You guys, I'm laughing... this man got a WHOLE ASS LIST OF REQUIREMENTS. This isn't a dating profile, this is a job description.“Most importantly” uhhhhh, I’m all for hyping up the people you care about on social media but it’s not even in the top ten most important things in a healthy relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:44 PM |
| 10 | These men know what they’re doing!!!!!!You bring up such an important point about psychological analysis and soul searching in general: everyone should do it for themselves as a way to grow, but unless you’re a mental health professional getting paid a salary plus benefits, don’t be doing this for someone else. Unless it’s literally your job, it’s not your job! You have better things to do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 04:27 PM |
| 33 | What are the things that you say or do to help yourself in this patriarchal society?“_____ is not up for debate” -how I wear my hair -my comfort -my credentials -my outfit -my body hair -my rights -my decision If a man makes a joke in the workplace that makes me uncomfortable, I’ll say “that makes me uncomfortable” and if he tries to argue “my comfort is not up for debate”. “You would look better if...” whatever comes after, it’s just not a matter of public debate. Inform them of this, and move on. It’s all about not engaging with it, patriarchy isn’t logical, so no debate is g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 04:08 PM |
| 20 | Asshole throws away his Native American girlfriend's umbilical cord and then complains because she ran away and she's the one who cooks and takes care of him, so now he doesn't know what to do.I’m so proud of her for leaving him, it’s takes a lot of courage to step back and realize the relationship is not worth fighting for, he’s not worth fighting with, and just be done. Queen energy at 21 in the face of massive betrayal and spiritual loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:53 PM |
| 10 | Is it a red flag that my boyfriend is against pedophiles being killed???If your views on this are incompatible, that may be reason to give pause, but being against street “justice” isn’t a red flag in and of itself. Justice is a complicated issue, and I personally feel that murder in cold blood of people, even bad people, isn’t justifiable. Revenge isn’t the same as justice, and if your boyfriend values the former, expecting him to be ok with revenge killings is a misunderstanding of his character. Personally, I think he’s right about this issue, but the question is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:45 PM |
| 31 | Damn straight! Cheating is the ultimate sign of disrespect - dump them immediatelydemographics of cheating in USA, 2018 It’s totally true, but only for the age group of 18-29. In every other age category, and overall, men self report cheating significantly more than women, and it gets worse the older you are. “women cheat as much as men, they’re just better at keeping it secret / men just don’t notice as much”? All men love siting statistics until the statistics say they suck lmao, it’s a cope. The study I referenced was self reported, so while we can expect some lying, it’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 02:21 PM |
| 154 | Ladies, when you hear a "I did nothing and she suddenly went crazy for no reason" type of story, rest assured it's complete bullshit and the guy is omitting a lot of things to make the girl look insaneMy dad was friends with a guy we’ll call Jason, and my mom was friends with Jason’s wife, Andrea. These two were younger than my parents but still got along really well. Well Jason traveled for work, like my dad, and they were having marital problems because of it. Well, Andrea was. She talked to my mom a lot about all the things she was trying, asking for advice on how my parents make it work. She tried to talk to Jason but it never went anywhere. One day, she packed up all her stuff and left, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:15 PM |
| 6 | Scrotes be scroting: the tale of yet another NVM“I didn’t mean to come off as controlling” while literally trying to control his girlfriend. He doesn’t realize that the mistake was being controlling, he thinks the only way he messed up was being too direct about it. If she stayed with him he would have been much more subtle about manipulating and negging her in the future. Good on her for leaving his ass! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 06:52 PM |
| 11 | Shut the F*** UpI would gladly oblige. He never gets the privilege of me speaking to him again. Instant dump/block/ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 06:47 PM |
| 19 | Men who wear the "I tell truth, take it or leave it, I dont care if you dont like it!!!" badge. Honest or emotionally immature?Aristotle considered tactless honesty a vice, along with habitual lying. Like with all traits, he argues that there is a golden mean where virtue lies, someone who is truthful without giving up on modesty, temperance, or friendliness to do so. (link to a table of Aristotle’s virtues and vices) The deontological idea that there are certain rules and one of them is “never lie” is just one way of looking at ethics, and one that followers of virtue ethics (like myself) take issue with. If you lived … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 04:32 PM |
| 100 | Why do men fetishize "crazy" (mentally ill) women? and also use "crazy" to gaslight women?Women with mental health problems are easy to abuse and manipulate. Men who want “crazy chicks” are all abusers. Just reading this thread it’s easy to see they completely lack empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 07:54 AM |
| 7 | LOL what a load of crap. Who comes up with this stuff?These are the same men who watch anal porn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 04:50 PM |
| 5 | My birthday was last weekend and I was blown away, but probably shouldn’t have been.We’re both collage students, he founded a club on campus that I ended up going to at the beginning of last fall semester, we got closer outside the club and started dating, then at the end of the semester we made it official :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:02 PM |
| 101 | LibFems: Rape Culture is Terrible! 😡Also LibFems: Just because a man is sexually aroused by strangling women & calling them degrading names doesn’t make him a rapist, BDSM is normal and that’s just his kink! 🤡 Pick a Struggle Kinkmeishas! 🤦♀️My kink is loving sex with a partner who doesn’t get off to the thought of girls and women suffering, and doesn’t support the porn industry in any way. I’m also really kinky in that if I don’t have an orgasm, neither does my partner. LibFems ready to stand up for my kinks??? Or am I abusive and controlling for not wanting to be abused and controlled? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 08:49 PM |
| 13 | My (26F) boyfriend (35m) choked me until I passed out during sex, waited until he "finished" to check on meThe people calling this a “red flag” are delusional, the red flag was not liking “vanilla” (aka normal, loving, enjoyable for women) sex. Abuse isn’t a red flag, it’s abuse. Never engage in even “light” kink with a man, once he figures out you’re willing to compromise on your boundaries, he WILL take advantage of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 04:09 PM |
| 50 | Do I even need to say it? 😒42.3K likes... what. the. fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 03:45 PM |
| 24 | Not me, but my heart aches for this girl. “My boyfriend displayed my nudes on a wall of women he and his friends have slept with. I feel like my life has been ruined”This is literally all I could think of reading this post. Classic narcissist manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:45 PM |
| 8 | Take your dignity and protect it with your life.If you really have to write it out: do it on paper and burn it (Safely) Writing out how you feel can be therapeutic and help you move on, but you gotta move on after. Block, delete, write, burn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 02:39 PM |
| 216 | This is worth watching all the way through. They know the truth ladies, they just refuse to care 🥰🙃If you don’t want to be in a relationship with a women, don’t be in a relationship with a women! Just say upfront “I’m a fuckboi and proud” and we aren’t gonna come chase after you. No one is making men commit, they just act like that’s what they want to in order to trick women into being their free maid/mommy/fleshlights. Get away from me with this dusty “I got burnt and now I’m afraid of committing” shit, we don’t buy it no more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 09:41 PM |
| 86 | Man tries to slut-shame single woman chatting with multiple men, calling them “side hoes”I’m not gonna act exclusive until we’re exclusive. You don’t get the girlfriend experience unless I’m your girlfriend. I don’t to wifey shit for fuckbois. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone actually had success in advising their pickmeisha friends not to be pickmes?Has anyone actually had success in advising their pickmeisha friends not to be pickmes? Yes, when my friends ask for dating advice I give them my honest takes, and in every case they’ve either taken my advice or told me later that they wish they had. I am considered the wise one in the group when it comes to things like this, and it’s all FDS advice. I’ve watched my friends grow more and more capable and have healthier relationships with men, and I like to think some of it is due to the discussi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 06:15 PM |
| 124 | some men need to learn thisAlso respecting women who turn you down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:19 PM |
| 10 | Kinkmeisha Reform School 101: The BasicsHere is the Wikipedia page for BDSM if you really don’t know what it is. And I know no one is going to remember every part of the required reading, that’s why I told you where to look. But if you ask a question and I tell you where the official stance of this sub is, maybe check that out before asking the same thing again. You took less than 2 minutes to respond to me, so I know you didn’t actually go check the “sex talk” section before replying. Short answer: if something you’re doing in the be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Kinkmeisha Reform School 101: The BasicsI think you should review the “sex talk” section of the required reading for this sub, it’s spelled out in there. Also a quick scan of your post history shows posts about bondage, public masturbation, exhibitionism, and a desire make porn, so I don’t necessarily believe you’re unfamiliar with these terms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:33 PM |
| 15 | Do you have any dating advice for when/how to come out of the broom closet?Merry meet! I’m a Wiccan living in the Midwest, bordering on the Bible Belt. I’ve never really been in the broom closet, although people at work probably assume I’m an atheist, so we have different situations, but here’s what I’ve learned: There’s no right way to bring it up if he’s not ok with dating a non Christian. There will never be a good way to do it that will end well, because the best ending in that scenario is not going out anymore, and that’s not a fun conversation. You have to mess u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 08:03 PM |
| 4 | Why I don’t have male friends- *gestures wildly*It really shook me, I realized something was wrong and locked myself in my room before anything could happen, and I lived with a sorority sister at the time (she was ok with him staying on our couch too) and when I texted her that I think he drugged me she threw him out. He sent me pages of apologies and explications after, but I haven’t said anything to him since then. It’s been almost a year now and I’m doing a lot better, it came up in therapy a few times (because duh) but overall I’m fine no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:27 PM |
| 7 | “Love is hard” yeah ok.If you’re going to use “tho” don’t also use “though” in the statement before. Also don’t gaslight women into thinking that abuse is love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:10 PM |
| 6 | The audacity. Stay at home orders are still in place here.Longest response that deserves is “lol” But seriously just block and delete, it’s enough for you to know that you’re doing the right thing, he doesn’t deserve the time you put into typing that out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:53 PM |
| 57 | .....Pickmeishas evolvingMaybe she has enough faith in other women to think we all recycle? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:44 PM |
| 74 | On today’s episode of why are men™This is not a functional adult. This is a toddler tall enough to reach the high shelf, and thinking he’s helping out his mommy and she’ll let him have candy before dinner as a reward for trying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:42 PM |
| 102 | Why I don’t have male friends- *gestures wildly*I didn’t cut of any of my male ex friends be they were male, I cut them off for... sending an unsolicited picture of his penis to my best friend. putting a weed edible in my food without telling me and trying to sexually assault me while I was tipsy and high (a sensation I’m not used to because my work does random drug tests so I never do anything except drink) sending me shirtless selfies after I told him to please stop sending them because it makes me uncomfortable (not like, pictures of his f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 03:40 PM |
| 15 | Instagram pls get this off my explore page 🤦🏻♀️Whyyyyyyyy would you want to spend your life with someone who doesn’t want to be with you????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:37 PM |
| 65 | Whilst this may be true in many cases, people will always find a way to blame women for men’s actionsHmm where are their fathers? Oh wait I forgot, LVM don’t parent their children, they model bad behavior or disappear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:19 PM |
| 106 | I have been seeing a surge of these kinds of tweets lately— I love it. We’re doing something right ladies 😜My ex was like “I’ll stay here as long as you need me to” and I was like “ok bye then” He didn’t leave, I had to kick him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:00 PM |
| 14 | No words... what happens when you don’t make a big deal of special days in a relationship: you end up married to an LVM who doesn’t get you anything or acknowledge you when you have a baby, a birthday, an anniversary, and Mother’s Day in the span of two weeks (text in comments)So my mom’s birthday is March 31st and my parents anniversary is April 16th. My dad used to have to travel a lot for work, and one time he made a 4 hour drive home to give my mom an anniversary present in person... on March 16th. He still did things for both of the days on the right day, but my parents love telling that story because he was so sweet and thoughtful to surprise her, but she was actually genuinely surprised because he didn’t expect an anniversary present a month early. Anyway that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 02:22 PM |
| 266 | A moment of self awareness...Another instance of a man not empathizing with women until he has a daughter smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a general rule for age range and dating?I’m 21, going into my senior year of college. I would only date older if they’re a grad student, just because that’s the phase of life I’m in right now, and I definitely wouldn’t date anyone in high school, even if they were 18. Maybe like 18-24, assuming they’re also in university? The most recent suitors I’ve been interested in have both been 20, one accelerated so he’s a senior next year too, the other is going into his junior year now. So far every man older than me who’s pursued me has been… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 04:43 PM |
| 7 | Simple but TrueImagine being so disconnected from the intimacy of sex that it becomes nothing more than an appointment on your calendar: 1:00PM- pick up dry cleaning 1:30PM- unfulfilling sex 1:34PM- shower 2:15PM- yoga Couldn’t be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 04:25 PM |
| 16 | Shun them.Blocked a male friend of 6 years for sending an unsolicited dick pic to a women I introduced him to. All she did was send me a (thankfully censored) screenshot of the conversation and he was out of my life forever. LVM don’t get a space in my phone, in my life, or at my table. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:31 PM |
| 12 | Thank you Carrie ❤️Oh I’ll check that out! Last time I tried to shop there they had nothing comfortable in my size, but that was over a year ago now lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:08 PM |
| 73 | Thank you Carrie ❤️I mean, I have a pretty large chest so if I’m doing even light activity(i.e. walking up stairs) I’m very uncomfortable without a sports bra. But yeah underwrites can go die in a fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:54 PM |
| 13 | Saw this on Twitter and I immediately thought of this sub. Why do Pickmeishas subject themselves to this?Leave the man, keep the strawberries 🍓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about guys that say that women are more beautiful without makeup and that they prefer "natural" women?Bold of them to assume I care what they think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 04:44 PM |
| 12 | Consider it a red flag if a guy isn't wild about any unique features of yours.He wasn’t even cute, looked like a skinny garden gnome🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:17 PM |
| 40 | Guy says gf is selfish because she wants a breast reduction due to back pain...Part of why I don’t engage in any sort of sexual contact until commitment is my fear of ending up with a man like this. My body is mine. My boundaries are firm. My body does not care of it pleases you. You are a guest here if and only if you earn an invitation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:14 PM |
| 26 | Consider it a red flag if a guy isn't wild about any unique features of yours.My shitty ex kept trying to get me to straighten my hair that hasn’t touched heat since high school. He cheated on me with a woman who has the same body type, skin tone, and hair color as me, but hers was straight. I was just close enough to be in a relationship with for 8 months before he found a better model. Jokes on him she’s also too good for him and left his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 04:00 PM |
| 36 | What do you think of men who don’t post pictures of their girlfriends on social media ?I tend to date men who don’t use a lot of social media, but if he’s active on so around media but an objective observer would assume he’s single after commitment, that’s a big red flag. I definitely don’t post pictures of people I’m just dating on anything, but if it’s an actual relationship, I think social media should reflect that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 02:06 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on guys who “suck at texting”. What does this mean exactly?It’s one thing to have certain scheduled things that make it impossible I hold a conversation over text (like work, sleep, or D&D games) and set clear boundaries around those times like “I’ll respond if I have a minute at work or during a break from the game, but this is time I’m spending on something else, so talking to you isn’t my top priority right now”. It’s another thing to randomly drop out of a conversation and only give a reason later (as long as it’s not an emergency). No functional ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 04:55 PM |
| 10 | How to dress?I definitely struggled with this too. What I did was make a capsule wardrobe for work and having only a few other random pieces for things like sorority functions or vacations. That won’t be for everyone, but the process of building a small wardrobe forces you to figure out how you actually like to dress and what makes you feel best, so even if you want to have a big wardrobe at the end, these 8 blog posts on building a curated wardrobe might be helpful. I know it seems like a lot but step one i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 04:26 PM |
| 3 | What’s a good comeback for “Why buy a cow when the milk is so cheap ?” Or “don’t buy a car without a test drive “ , things they say to try and lower your standards for sex ?These questions are never asked in good faith. Don’t engage, don’t waste your time on people like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 03:01 PM |
| 50 | The whole timeI remember after my ex cheated on me I was upset with him but LIVID at the women he cheated with, like I couldn’t process that this man who I thought loved me was a terrible person so I misplaced all my anger and frustration at her. It took me a long time to realize she didn’t “steal my man” he was going to cheat on me anyway, she just happened to be around when I wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t care that hormonal birth control is causing sex to be painful for girlfriend, not supportive of copper IUD because he “doesn’t want to feel the stings” courtesy of r/birthcontrolI’m the same age as her, never had a child, and getting an IUD was the best option for me because of the side effects I had on hormonal birth control. I had multiple conversations with medical professionals about it, and the medical advice I was given was to get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 11:38 PM |
| 0 | Girl DatesDid I ask for workout advice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Girl DatesOne of the things I’m missing most in quarantine is Thursday night Zumba and tacos with my girl gang, it’s really fun and working out with friends makes it easier to stay active. From how you phrased this I feel like you misunderstood my post, I’m not going on actual dates with women like I do with men, I’m straight; rather I make a point to spend quality time with women at least as much as I do with men. Zumba is a great girl date it is however not a good date date | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:06 PM |
| 140 | I hate it when LVM compare romance novels to pronRomance novels don’t prop up and profit from slavery, sex trafficking, and rape on a worldwide scale. Also in this category: steamy Star Wars fan fiction, your own imagination, consensual sex with someone you care about, cringy erotic vampire books, ect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 02:44 PM |
| 9 | Ex txt me and then left me on read, so confusedYou know he’s a compulsive liar. I know it sucks and you want to make it work, but there is nothing you can do to make him treat you well. Trust me, if you get back together with him he will just let you down again. If you need to block and delete his number, social media, ect. In order to keep yourself from talking to him, do it. Lingering on this man who has already shown you how unworthy he is of your attention isn’t healthy for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 07:27 AM |
| 10 | Reasons for getting married and reasons for wanting kidsI mean, I look at what my parents have and I want to be that happy. I want someone to randomly do nice things for me, I want to buy a bunch of presents and set them up under a tree in complete silence except for the crunching of the cookies my kids left out for “Santa”, I want to send my kids to school having already memorized the state capitols from trivia on long road trips, I want to wake up next to someone who would kill or die for me, and feel the same about them. I want a loving family wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 07:23 AM |
| 64 | Can one woman's LVM be another woman's HVM?No, but someone can be a HVM and not be compatible with you. One of my close friends is happily engaged to a man who I definitely consider a HVM, I knew him before they started dating and during the whole duration of their relationship, and I couldn’t be more exited for her marrying him. I would not be able to get through a month dating him. We’re just not compatible, we have different values, different religions, different philosophies about how to practice religion, different ways to unwind, d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 06:46 AM |
| 25 | Can a man get any lower than this?Cowards would rather have someone leave them angry than have to actually talk about their feelings and break things off like a mature adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 03:17 PM |
| 5 | Some FDS press again over on Unpopularopinion 🙄🙄🙄Our “hate” is saying we don’t want to sleep with men who don’t treat us well. Their hate ends with dead women and girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 04:22 PM |
| 2 | "You wish you could sway my attention." 🎶This whole album is a major vibe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 02:02 PM |
| 2 | More Bad Advice From RPWHonestly as a junior in college I only date freshman/sophomores. Just had to many guys my age or older talk down to me about stuff, I’m done with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 01:49 PM |
| 17 | Cringe“ I figured out what the bare minimum was, so that’s what she’s been getting for 13 years!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 01:34 PM |
| 208 | My sister says HVM only seek feminine womenDon’t change who you are to be more attractive to men. Not only is it not necessary, but even if it was you would never be happy pretending to be someone you’re not. Having a few traditionally masculine interests doesn’t make you any less of a women. Is it true that not all men like X women, yeah! But you can put literally anything in for X and it will be true, “feminine”, “masculine”, “tall”, “short”, “blonde”, “redhead”, “brunette”. You’re never going to be every man’s dream girl, so be yourse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 01:24 PM |
| 11 | Pandemic and old dates coming out of the wood workYup. He hasn’t matured. He hasn’t “had more time to thing about it. He didn’t “listen to a song that made him think of you”. He’s bored and wants to be entertained | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 02:49 AM |
| 10 | Quarantine has LVM telling on themselvesWhy even respond? Don’t give attention to men like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 04:26 PM |
| 19 | Based GabeThere are lots of awful Christian men. The gospel doesn’t fix LVM, it just gives them another reason to think their wives should be subservient to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Which one should I follow? I like the advice on this sub and was wondering which of these posts would be more beneficial for me in the dating scene. Personally I'd feel bad if someone judged me on looks.It’s a balance if both. These are not conflicting posts. Prioritizing physical attraction above all else is a bad mindset, just because someone is hot doesn’t mean they’re a good partner for you. At the same time, if you’re not attracted to someone, you’re not going to be happy in a relationship with them, they are not a good partner for you. Mutual attraction is just one of the requirements for a relationship, that doesn’t men you should dump someone the second you see a hotter person. Personal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:08 PM |
| 18 | Could you call him if you were in the hospital? If not, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM.This should be required reading. Thank you for sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:10 PM |
| 22 | DAE notice how often guys communicate like this? "It hurts my feelings when-" "FEELINGS AREN'T EVEN REAL, THEY ARE JUST CHEMICAL REACTIONS IN THE BRAIN"Yeah, it’s not like scientists looking at a wind turbines are cackling and yelling “UNLIMITED POWER” Nah fam, it’s renewable because we can use as much as we want today and it will still be here tomorrow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 01:38 PM |
| 12 | the LVM experience TMGeez the advice in there is so frustrating. People blaming her for not understanding his love language. Y’all, Bojack horseman isn’t a love language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:48 AM |
| 14 | Stay awayEyyyy it’s my ex! Literally everything I said he had to “play the devils advocate” and I could never get him to understand that not every conversation is an argument that he needs to win. Haven’t seen that loser in 15 months! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:41 AM |
| 14 | Putting careful vetting into perspectiveMy gut instinct told me than man who drugged and raped me was trustworthy. I think the point should be: trust your negative gut feelings, but still be careful when you have good feelings about someone. I don’t blame myself for what happened, but if I had been less trusting towards a man I thought was good, I wouldn’t have had to go through years of therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:38 AM |
| 70 | This is honestly so disturbing, makes it so hard to trust any man.Pro tip: if a man tells you he’s not good enough: believe him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:23 AM |
| 60 | DAE notice how often guys communicate like this? "It hurts my feelings when-" "FEELINGS AREN'T EVEN REAL, THEY ARE JUST CHEMICAL REACTIONS IN THE BRAIN"As someone who has taken college thermodynamics, I understand that “renewable energy” doesn’t break any of the laws of thermodynamics. He’s just saying words he doesn’t understand to sound smart, sick of men like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:20 AM |
| 10 | I need advice about my boyfriendA few weeks and he’s already your boyfriend? Girl, read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:18 AM |
| 137 | Apparently, a woman stating her boundaries is a mere challenge for a man to violate them. These psycho pervs who have nothing better to do in a pandemic other than finding women to “overcome” are a virus upon God’s green Earth. Be safe and vet HARD.Guys like this are dangerous. This is the mentality of a date rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 09:24 AM |
| 19 | Daily reminder that men are seven times more likely to leave a sick partner than women are. Also, what a major asshole (full text in comments)I feel so bad for this woman and daughter, just when they were dealing with one of the worst things anyone can have to deal with, this trash bag of a man made it worse. This is why we dump men at the very first red flag. If he’s pushy about sex now, how can you expect him to act differently when you’re on your death bed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 08:39 AM |
| 43 | No, It's Called 'Being with a LVM'That’s a lot of words for “I gaslight women” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 02:18 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020I’m like 5 months in with a guy who I think is a HVM and he’s treating me as great as ever, but I’ve started to feel less attracted to him and kinda feeling like I’m settling looks wise. Like I know it isn’t everything but it’s hard when I have much more attractive men practically lining up to get a chance with me and the guy I’m choosing to be with is like, great personality wise but meh looks wise. Like, I don’t want to be shallow but I also don’t want to settle, you know? Anyone have words of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Well, there’s nowhere to go for dates now....Your health is infinitely more important than your dating life. However long this lasts, use this time for self development, watch a lecture series on a topic that interests you, read that book that’s been collecting dust on the shelf, konmari your house, order some paint on amazon and learn to watercolor, the possibilities are endless, just don’t expose yourself to some crummy dude’s germs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 43 | Cringe stories from your pastI forgave some garden gnome looking MF for sleeping with his ex while I was recovering mentally/physically from being raped less than a month before... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Confession TimeHe didn’t know I was in a relationship when he asked me out, and hasn’t made any advances since I said I wasn’t interested at this time. Part of why I feel like I’m being stupid is that I don’t know if he’s an LVM, he’s a math major, in the orchestra, and his social media is clean, but I’ve dated guys who look better than that on the outside who are awful. I don’t know why I’m bored, maybe I’m just not that into my boyfriend anymore, maybe the amount of time I spend at work and school cutting in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:13 AM |
| 5 | Confession TimeI’m in a good relationship right now, but I’m starting to feel kinda bored and a really hot guy who I barely know is interested in me and part of me wished I was single so I could say yes to his advances. Like my relationship with my boyfriend is good, I just don’t know if what I’m feeling is the passion running out (it’s been like 5 months so not too long) or if it’s just this Henry Cavill looking dude messing with my head. Part of the reason I might be feeling bored is that I’m a math major co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 12:58 AM |
| 1 | Anybody else SCREAMING at the screen during the Bachelor finale??I mean, agreeing to be on the Bachelor in the first place is a big enough red flag... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 03:24 PM |
| 1 | I am so over this—second person blocked this weekMen with low self esteem are a nope from me dawg. If you don’t like something about yourself, work to improve it. If it comes from mental illness, get help. If you don’t like yourself why would I like you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 03:23 PM |
| 2 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!I hate the attitude of putting people in boxes, according to this graphic I’m halfway to being a TradWife, when I’m reality I’d rather life out my days in a cottage taking care of my herb garden and foster kittens than spend a single day mommying some “master race” LVM. I love my natural face, hair, and body not because “men prefer natural” but because I feel comfortable and happy as I am. I wear modest, effeminate clothing because I feel comfortable and happy in it. I eat healthy and work out n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 04:37 PM |
| 3 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedYeah I’ve had a lot of trouble finding a time to call a mod because I’m a full time mathematics student working part time and I’m an officer in two campus organizations at my university. I eventually just gave up and left the discord, I might try joining over spring break??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:41 PM |
| 19 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedDisturbingly normal, just a reminder to vet ruthlessly and not trust a man you haven’t known for a significant amount of time. He looked normal, good career, outwardly HVM vibes, but any man trying to join a FDS server is a lurker who isn’t ok with women having our own spaces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 02:29 PM |
| 21 | Time is your most valuable resource, live your life accordinglyI get paid 20 bucks an hour to tutor, so I value my time at 1 dollar per 3 minutes. Spending half an hour stressing over what some dumb man means by some dumb text cost 10 bucks, it ain’t worth it; get Starbucks instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:19 AM |
| 26 | 3 degrees of separation. He's been reported.When his literal clown shit is the most impressive part of his profile... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:15 AM |
| 29 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedAlso you can be unverified in the discord and still see the profiles of the other people in the discord, so don’t use an account with your real name. Found out because there’s a man who’s obviously man in there (unverified) but his full name is on discord, I had his LinkedIn up in about 10 seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 04:33 AM |
| 4 | A friend asked me what I’m looking for in a partner...Are my expectations really that unreasonable??“That’s what I bring to the table” Such a perfect response, and a good way to think about it. My standards aren’t unachievable, I meet all of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 02:39 AM |
| 4 | FDS SHOUTOUT IN THE ATLANTIC!It’s amazing how men can say they want government issued sex slaves and women can say we aren’t going out with men who don’t meet our standards, and those are seen as comparable statements expressing the same level of reason and humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:22 PM |
| 8 | Rolanda Hollis proposes bill requiring men have vasectomies at age 50. “Year after year the majority party continues to introduce new legislation that tries to dictate a woman's body and her reproductive rights. We should view this as the same outrageous overstep in authority," she said.The face of a women who doesn’t take bullshit from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:13 PM |
| 2 | In your experience, do men remember the things you say or do?Listening to and remembering what you say is a necessary quality for a HVM, but not a sufficient condition to be a HVM. What I mean is that a guy can be doing this as part of his playbook on getting you emotionally invested, so just because he’s a good listener it doesn’t mean he’s HV, but if he isn’t a good listener and doesn’t remember what you say and do, he’s definitely a LVM. I’ve commented about this before, but my boyfriend handmade a minimalistic necklace for me out of rose quartz arrang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 06:33 AM |
| 45 | The Misogyny from nerds. I though this was a interesting video to share.I’m a nerdy women, STEM major, chess team alum, honor roll, LOTR fan, D&D player, the works. I am also a sorority women, I’ve performed in dance competitions, I’ve modeled in fashion shows. I have faced more misogyny from nerdy men than from frat guys, dance coaches, and photographers combined and that’s saying something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 09:21 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts on having a sex toys thread?He’s the standard to which I hold all men TBH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:55 PM |
| 11 | I feel like this is supposed to scare us? Hmm nope if I have a kick ass group of girlfriends and no man when I die that's a-okay with me! 👌My headcannon is they just had a filling meal inside and these are there after dinner drinks. (But for real put some pretzels out there) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:53 PM |
| 43 | Laundry list of demands on his profileTo the male lurkers who are gonna say “so women are allowed to have standards but men aren’t?” I want to clarify: have standards, not demands. You can have a list of standards in your head and not date people who don’t meet them, but going around telling people you might date what those standards are is at best rude and at worst dangerous. At best, you are telling them how to behave to earn the prize that is you, with no regard for if they even want you, it’s putting the pressure on them to prov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:23 PM |
| 29 | I feel like this is supposed to scare us? Hmm nope if I have a kick ass group of girlfriends and no man when I die that's a-okay with me! 👌Tag yourself! I’m rocking chair with killer heels skeleton! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 06:48 PM |
| 68 | Thoughts on having a sex toys thread?Some of my worst pickme moments came about because I was horny and my judgement was clouded. Having the power to give myself orgasms easily took away some of the power men had over me. 10/10 would recommend a vibrator and some steamy Obi-wan Kenobi/Duchess Satine fanfic, 1000% better than sex with a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 06:46 PM |
| 28 | Queen energy: Woman refuses sex with new partner unless he gets STD-tested and shows proofIf I have any doubts about a mans trustworthiness, I’m not sleeping with him with or without without proof. Sex just isn’t worth risking my physical or emotional health, sorry not sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 06:07 PM |
| 2 | So what do you ladies think of women who don't want children?I want one or two children someday, my best friend in the world doesn’t. We both respect each other, love each other, and are kind to each other. We also have different career goals, she wants to work in finance, I want to work in academia. You don’t have to have the same goals as someone to respect, love, and be kind to them. To me, the question “what do you think about women who don’t want children?” is like asking “what do you think of women who don’t want to be in academia?” I don’t really h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Men who say “I’m worse at X household duty because I didn’t learn that as a kid” aren’t worth your timeI didn’t learn to iron cloths until I was 21. I looked it up, practiced, and now I can do it. I know collage educated men who act like changing a diaper is beyond them... like BOI, you learned linear algebra, you learned physics, you learned elementary logic; of looking up a YouTube tutorial is beyond you, then you don’t deserve your degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:56 PM |
| 23 | Ladies, do you have any examples of subtle negging?“...for a _____” You’re really pretty for a math major! You’re really smart for a sorority girl! You’re a good dancer for a white chick! Pretty much any statement that implies surprise that you have a positive trait (or proposes a false dichotomy between two traits) is a neg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:52 PM |
| 3 | things to worry about instead of men?Your education Your career Your health Your friendships/social life A philanthropic cause (animals, childhood cancer, homelessness, the environment) Developing a personal talent (take up painting, learn and instrument, take ceramics classes, ect) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Level Up Check-In: what have you done lately to improve yourself?Grinding at school: 4 tests in the past 2 weeks: 3 As and a B. Grinding at work: putting in all my hours, not working more than an hour of overtime a week and keeping work at work. Relationships: putting in lots of time with the new members of my sorority, making sure they feel welcome in the house and making friends with them along the way. Dating: still in a happy relationship, my boyfriend gave me a tour of the paleontology lab he does research in this week, even got to touch some mammoth tus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:13 PM |
| 30 | LVM thought he could get away with a $6 engagement ring from Amazon. His fiancee found out when she was going to resize it at a jewelry store otherwise she would've been fooled.It’s crazy, Like if I was wearing a 6 dollar ring the only item cheaper than that in my wardrobe would be my socks. Like a 60 dollar engagement ring is one thing, that’s what I would consider a “cheap ring”, 6 dollars is on a whole different scale... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:57 PM |
| 43 | She took the words right out of my mouthHe isn’t afraid of commitment, he’s lazy and wants to maximize the benefits of “just hanging out” with you while minimizing the effort he puts into his relationship with you. He’s afraid of being required to put in effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:19 PM |
| 87 | LVM thought he could get away with a $6 engagement ring from Amazon. His fiancee found out when she was going to resize it at a jewelry store otherwise she would've been fooled.LVMs in the comments acting like she’s a gold digger for being upset at being lied to, having the humiliating experience of being told it was a knock off at the jewelry store, being lied to again, and being gaslight. It’s not about the 6 dollar ring, it’s about the fact that the physical representation of his love and commitment for her was a lie. Also that’s literally less than a fast food meal wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 07:59 PM |
| 45 | Hayden Panettiere’s Boyfriend Arrested for Punching Her in the Face on Valentine’s DayThis is why we vet ruthlessly and don’t give men second chances. It’s hard to leave an abusive relationship, and abusive men aren’t exactly labeled for our convenience. Stay safe out there. https://www.thehotline.org/ https://www.breakthecycle.org/blog/leaving-emotionally-abusive-relationship https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 06:49 PM |
| 4 | After the depressing thread on HVM in cities - A general discussion on where to find good HVM.It’s not pathetic, but you are looking at it the wrong way. It’s not about where lots of men are, you don’t red lots of men; it’s about where the right man for you will be. If you love animals, a guy who volunteers in an animal shelter is more likely to be a good match. If you’re passionate about the military, volunteering with disables veterans will help you meet people who share that passion. It’s about looking at your own values, who you would ideally be, and doing things that your ideal self… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 06:04 AM |
| 1 | What are your "requirements"/standards for a man?Yeah, well everyone need different things. I’m a big cat person (still like dogs, just not my speed) and I know I’m gonna keep fostering kittens until I’m too old to catch them when they run off to do dumb stuff, so if a guy is in my life he needs to be down for that lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 06:00 PM |
| 4 | What are your "requirements"/standards for a man?Ok, so aside from general HVM things, here are my more specific nitpicks: - happy to come to formal events with me - healthy relationships with family and friends - has hobbies in common with me - has hobbies not in common with me - likes animals - loves cats - cares about the environment - not hyper consumerist - philosophically/religiously compatible with me - does not feel the need to “play the devils advocate” in every discussion. - not make fun of my passions/only call me a nerd affectionat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:30 PM |
| 73 | Don't settle for this, that doesn't have to be your fateOne mark of an HVM for me is someone who can hear the words “Stop” “I don’t like that” and “try this instead” and immediately change their actions. No arguing with you about what feels good, no defensive reaction, just improving their techniques and not going back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 04:06 PM |
| 80 | Why is all advice about toxic males on reddit the same???One frustrating thing for me about the “good faith” argument is that the phrase “bad faith” was used by Jean-Paul Sartre to describe the phenomenon in which human beings, under pressure from social forces, adopt false values and disown their innate freedom, hence acting inauthentically. One of the examples he used to demonstrate bad faith was a couple sticking together when they both had nagging suspicions that they were together for the wrong reasons. His exact example? A women who wanted to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:43 PM |
| 47 | Don’t let them know if they got to you. Just smile and move on ✨Gonna be honest, I found it on Insta, I would also like to know where it comes from lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 09:33 PM |
| 6 | entitled man divorces wife because she doesn’t enjoy having sex constantlyNever ever ever play some roll just to get a ring, if you don’t want to fuck a guy, don’t do it. I just can’t understand why she would play along to get him to marry her, like why marry someone you aren’t even attracted to? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Ultimate Pickmeishas in MoviesRole Models, from Beth’s point of view: - She’s a successful lawyer dating a energy drink salesman who hates his life and is a dick to everyone, including her. - He impulsively proposes to her, so she has a moment of clarity and dumps him -he and his man child best friend get arrested for property damage after he snaps and drives the company car into a statue - she stakes on his case pro bono and gets them a deal to do community service instead of a month in jail -they do their community service… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 06:12 PM |
| 21 | CLOWN MOMENT: my ex who i have blocked on everything stalks me on reddit to warn me about the evil monsters at FDSI always laugh when men put “Militant” in front of whatever a women is doing to try to make it seem worse. Militant indicates “extreme, violent, or confrontational” methods. We actively teach women not to confront men, just to leave. We never advocate violence, )that’s MGTOW’s thing, wouldn’t want to steal it.) And if not dating people who don’t meet your standards is extreme, then it’s also extreme to not eat food you don’t have any to, or not have sex if you don’t want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Wife permanently alters appearance for husband, he hates it and she thinks she should now apologise??? Wtf.Example 97,492,185 of why you should never try to change yourself for a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:16 PM |
| 119 | you’re single until there’s a ringCuffing doesn’t mean getting married, it means being in a committed relationship. If there isn’t commitment you’re both single. If a guy is actually interested in you, he’ll ask for commitment. I think you’re trying to approach this in good faith but you’re just misunderstanding what cuffing means colloquially. When people say “cuffing season” they’re obviously not talking about wedding season, one is in the spring/summer when most people have weddings because it’s nice outside, the other is in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:09 PM |
| 46 | Men using "feminist" buzzwords to violate your boundaries and pressure you to have sex you don't want.What we want from male feminists: 1. Do their fair share of unpaid labor in the household 2. Advocate for women in the workplace 3. Not enable rapists (ex. Believing women who say they’ve been assaulted, not supporting porn or sex work, not voting for rapists in government) 4. Generally recognizing women’s rights as human rights and acting accordingly What we actually get from male feminists: 1. “If you were really empowered you would put out” 2. “I believe in equality BUT...” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 03:35 PM |
| 8 | Men who walk in front of their partnersHuh, I never really thought about it but my ex who was super cold and didn’t care about my feelings did this a lot, his excuse was that he was tall and just walked faster, but since then I dated a guy like 4 inches taller than him who definitely walked side by side with me... wack. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 03:05 PM |
| 32 | When you try to talk a friend out of pick-me shit and it ✨ACTUALLY WORKS✨Background: last night was Galentine’s day and me and the other two girls in this groupchat stayed up late talking about life, girl in pink and I were trying to talk girl in purple out of going over to a guy who she’s been crushing on for 4 years who’s never given her the time of day’s house. (She’s literally amazing and he’s a loser) We didn’t think we got through to her, but she sent this today! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 08:59 PM |
| 22 | Honestly don’t even know what to say“No it’s not that you’re ugly, I’d just rather sleep with my sister!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 08:33 PM |
| 53 | Trigger warning: rape, abuse. Porn is disgusting.Men who support the porn industry are supporting manipulation, blackmail, and rape. Does that sound HV to you? #kickhimout2020 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 07:43 PM |
| 49 | Always have your ownWomen on AITA: my partner is abusing me, am it the asshole for asking him to stop? Men on AITA: my partner wants me to wipe my own ass instead of doing it for me like my mommy did, am I the asshole for verbally abusing her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 04:44 PM |
| 65 | r/Shortcels wants to know why we’re “obsessed” with rapists and pedophiles.They’re all secretly attracted to fire, basically pyromaniacs just in denial /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 04:36 PM |
| 15 | "Man" feels entitled to oral sex from GF... Expects her to put out.... Daily reminder to take zero shit from these men!!How do men not understand that pressuring a women to do something and whining about it is the least sexy thing in the world? Oh I forgot, they don’t care off she wants to do it, as long as she does it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:02 PM |
| 72 | Wow.He’s not looking for a date. He’s looking to rape a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 05:03 AM |
| 54 | Would you date a man who secretly thinks you are a "5" or a "6" on their "scale"?Honestly if I found out my boyfriend thought he could put quantitative values on qualitative attributes I’d dump him for bad science, he’s a geologist, he should know better 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:20 PM |
| 33 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄Yes, my life, my safety, and my mental health are about “me, me, me” thank you for acknowledging why these things are under my control. (Side note, no one is saying men don’t have these rights, one even specifies not having to act macho, that’s not for women. Everyone has the right to set boundaries and have standards, they’re not mad about men being able to, the focus is only on women being heartless for doing what’s totally fine if men do) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:04 PM |
| 23 | REMINDER: Men DON’T Get Wifey Perks Unless You Are Actually Wife’dPro tip for male lurkers: Just name your alarm “Good morning Mr. Alpha Male uwu 😍😍😍” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 03:46 PM |
| 8 | To get a high value man do I have to settle on his appearance?I feel like being attracted to someone is just kinda necessary in the long term for a sexual relationship, like obviously in the long run youth and beauty fades and personality is exponentially more important, but I ultimately want a healthy sexual relationship and that just can’t happen if I don’t feel attracted to him. Do I need him to look like Chris Hemsworth? Nah, that would be male fantasy levels of unrealistic, but I do need fit, taller than me, and overall kinda Nordic/lumberjack vibes, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 03:40 PM |
| 90 | Stop being children and grow up40% of female murder victims were killed by an intimate partner, compared to 4.9% of male murder victims. There’s also evidence that many female perpetuated crimes are self-defense or retaliation because many of the women are battered as well. source | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 03:10 PM |
| 29 | V-Day PlansI don’t entirely know, boyfriend said be ready at 6, evening attire. I know he has a plan but it’s a surprise for me <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | I'm not sure if he likes meThe FDS handbook has the answers you’re looking for, but given that you posted this to all the dating subs you could I’m guessing you didn’t look at the handbook on here at all. What I’ll say is that you met this man less than a week ago and from the sound of it you’ve only hand drinks and hung out, not been on actual dates. Basically you don’t know this person, why are you even trying to kiss him? Saying things like “I’m not sure if he likes me” and posting about it a bunch of times shows you’v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:48 PM |
| 89 | Don’t write the paragraph sis, he don’t care. Unmatch, block, delete.Excellent point, if writing out what he did to hurt you is therapeutic and helps you get past it, do it! But either post it here, delete it when you’re done, or write it out by hand and burn the page when you’re finished. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:24 PM |
| 3 | I spent my morning arguing with men from PPD who hate FDS and they made me realize the true breadth of female power.I don’t fuck with PPD, my worth as a human is NOT up for debate. Period. Red pill men are constantly saying that they “love debate” and just want to have “intellectual conversation” about gender, it’s a rouse, they’re getting us to listen to them in good faith when they don’t have the same intention. Why would I engage in a debate with someone who doesn’t think I should have the right to my own thoughts and opinions? Why put myself through that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 01:40 PM |
| 51 | Did anyone here end up coming to their sentences about the guy they were currently in a relationship with and promptly dumped him after finding this subreddit?Not the guy I was in a relationship, but some of male friends, I just realized I have no reason to put up with their shit, and I stopped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 06:07 PM |
| 20 | They're just grossNothing you can do will ever make a LVM care about you as a person. Your skills, achievements, education, none of that matters, it’s all T and A for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | A man has to choose between three girlfriendsNothing you do will ever make an LVM care about who you are on the inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 06:02 PM |
| 14 | The power of attentionPeople will say you gotta tell someone why you’re not talking to them anymore. Those people are tripping. It’s OK to ghost someone who’s acted like a fuck. It’s OK to block someone who’s acted like a fuck. It’s OK to just say “bye lol” as the whole goodbye to someone who’s acted like a fuck. Don’t give fuckheads the satisfaction of closure with your goddess self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 12:15 AM |
| 6 | Male birth control pills are around the corner. How do we feel about this?I’m happy it’s gonna be a thing, but I can just imagine some LVM trying to talk a woman out of using condoms because he’s “on the pill” and just blaming it on being “not 100% effective” when she misses her next period. Like call me a pessimist but I just don’t trust men to use it as anything other than an excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 11:10 PM |
| -1 | Newbies reposting other highly rated postsI think there could be a FAQ part of the Wiki where there are threads like “where do you find HVM?” and stuff like that, also a note to search before posting if it’s not a specific sort of situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 10:56 PM |
| 27 | Parents and their gender favourismAfter I was born (second daughter) men regularly asked my dad if he was gonna “try again for a son”... he was rightfully disgusted and I have no younger siblings. Gross normalized misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 10:51 PM |
| 4 | Where to meet men ?Here’s a thread from a few days ago with some good advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 10:44 PM |
| 46 | I was dating a (I think?) HVM and he just disappears. What Happened?Here are two threads I think you should read, in addition to going over the required reading again, I know there’s a lot in there, but it’s all good advice. Stop calling men HVM after two or three dates First rule of FDS: don’t talk about FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 09:29 PM |
| 27 | I'm not wrongMy boyfriend hand made a necklace using one of my favorite stones (rose quartz) and arranged them in a Fibonacci Sequence along the chain because I’m passionate about mathematics. That meant more to me than any gift I had gotten from a man before. A gift really doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful and personal. It showed that he listened when I talked, that he put time and effort in, and that he cared about making me happy. This was less than 2 months in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 09:17 PM |
| 9 | Found on Twitter - a LVM refusing to even chat with the woman he’s dated for months for 5 minutesNever beg for the bare minimum. He doesn’t care, and you’re better than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 09:09 PM |
| 51 | Advice from the AuntiesMy aunt is a major yikes, but he’s some advice from my mom: - have your own money - don’t trust men who never spend time with women platonically - watch how his dad treats his mom - avoid men who watch porn, they will never be satisfied with an actual human partner - children are more serious and permanent than marriage, protection is an absolute must unless you’re ready to have a man stuck in your life forever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 06:58 PM |
| 3 | How much do you agree with this post?“What is your proudest accomplishment?” It gives them a chance to show off without having to be boastful, tells you what sort of life he’s lived, and tells you what sort of accomplishments he values. Plus most of the time he’ll ask the question back, so you get to show of how amazing you are in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 05:53 PM |
| 6 | Lazy, no expectations guy vs ALL of the expectations guy. First one I received an intro from today and the second one is from years ago. Of course, I didn't bother with either.Exactly! And the stigma around getting help literally only hurts people. My aunt and uncle judged my parents for years because when they had problems in their marriage they went to a relationship counselor and actually fixed the problems. A few years later my aunt was in an institution because it had gone too far. If she had just gotten the help she needed, things would have been way better for her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 05:45 PM |
| 16 | Lazy, no expectations guy vs ALL of the expectations guy. First one I received an intro from today and the second one is from years ago. Of course, I didn't bother with either.The “not on meds” part annoys me. My aunt is bipolar, not diagnosed or medicated until her 50s, so awful that my family stopped seeing hers for holidays, until she was diagnosed, mediated, and become reasonable to spend time with. One of my friends is bipolar, diagnosed and medicated since she was 17, perfectly normal, happy, bubbly, woman. Well-managed mental health problems aren’t a problem, what’s bad is when someone needs help and won’t get it for themselves, instead relying on the emotional… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 04:54 PM |
| 7 | Pick me logic 101: being in a relationship makes me better than the other girls- even if I’m being degraded!One thing I’ve struggle with for years is how much better my parents act when I’m in a relationship, they waited until their 30s to have kids and now I’m in my 20s and they want grandchildren. When I was single they were constantly nitpicking things about my career, school, outfits, friends, everything. Now I’m in a relationship again and they’re suddenly so proud of me and I can’t do anything wrong, just like when I was with my crappy ex. They really act like any man is better than no man for m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 04:28 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Male friend of mine sent unsolicited pictures of his penis to one of my female friends. I immediately removed him on Snapchat and insta when I found out and he had the audacity to call me mad about it. Done being friends with dudes unless they’re a) one of my boyfriends’ friends or b) one of my friends’ boyfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:24 AM |
| 77 | No thank you 🙌Oh boy this is a great format | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:11 AM |
| 14 | What do you think of ¨Living together apart¨ relationships?I mean I think it would solve a lot of the problems people have with LVM, and I think it definitely works for a lot of people, but I don’t really want that for myself. I want to be waking up next to the person I choose to marry every morning, cuddling with them when I go to bed, getting up with them to eat breakfast together. Maybe it’s because my parents relationship is #goals for me and that’s how they’ve lived for the last 25 years, but I just don’t want to be so separate from the person I de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 10:14 PM |
| 21 | Come watch some males call me “porn sick and delusional” for expecting men to be able to last 15 minutes of penetrative sex. 🙄The other day I woke up in bed with my boyfriend at 8, and we got out of bed at 10 (because we were both hungry after that workout). All things considered there were probably like 30 minutes of cuddling in there but the idea that 15 minutes is an outrageously long time is laughable. The average is probably brought down by literal one pump chumps, and if you’ve never had that experience, good for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 08:36 PM |
| 12 | Gross guy wants sex with crying girl - can they get any worse?I am! My current boyfriend is like cookies and cream ice cream - basically vanilla but not at all boring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 06:02 PM |
| 10 | Tinder Lets Known Sex Offenders Use the App. It’s Not the Only One. STAY WOKEI once reported a guy on a dating app for filling me home after a date and knocking on my door until I called the cops. He just made a new profile when his hot shut down. I reported the new profile and it stayed up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 05:57 PM |
| 34 | Gross guy wants sex with crying girl - can they get any worse?Oh so here’s a fetish to ruin your day: Black Tears. It’s the sexual attraction to makeup running down a woman’s face due to pain, choking, or gagging during sex. They have their own subreddit, 0/10 recommend. I found out about this because I have an ex who asked me to put on more makeup before sex because “it never runs” and this was obviously surprising to me because I try to look put-together, not messy. Pornstick got dumbed, but I still can’t believe I ever let that man touch my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 05:48 PM |
| 43 | HVM support FDSSolid yikes, never give any man a playbook on how to manipulate you. HVM agree with the principles behind FDS, but they show that through their actions, through how they treat women. Any guy can agree with you, that’s easy. And LVM will absolutely tell you treat they totally agree with feminism or FDS just to win your approval and hone what lies to tell you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 04:26 PM |
| 126 | It's okay to not want to "try new things" in bed.“BuT hOw Do YoU kNoW yOu WoN’t LiKe SoMeThInG yOu’Ve NeVeR tRiEd???” Have you ever tried sticking needles in your dick? No?! Well let’s try it, make sure you “know” you don’t like it! Don’t kink shame me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:12 PM |
| 16 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menI always go into relationships with hope, but I trust my gut, my judgment, and my experiences more than I trust my hope. If I feel good about being with him, if he seems great, and if his actions reflect well, then I can keep being hopeful! But if his vibes are super off, if I feel like there’s something wrong with him, or if his actions reflect things I don’t want in a partner, I’m ok letting go of my hope in that relationship and moving on. Having hope that a man is going to be worth falling i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 04:04 AM |
| 20 | "I was blindsided!!!"My mom told me something similar a long time ago. She was friends with a women married to a man who was friends with my dad. My parents watched their divorce as it unfolded. They had been to couple’s counseling for a few months and basically it was just her talking, the therapist making suggestions, and him agreeing to everything in the room then acting like it was brand new information when she wanted him to follow through later. She basically gave him an ultimatum one day, and he didn’t change… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:31 AM |
| 8 | I support everyone's right to have standards, but like...I think I have a pretty OK understanding of the Republican Party from having a family full of Republicans, having a minor in political science, and fucking following the news; but no I need to engage with every republican to hear them justify why it’s ok to have a rapist in the White House. If I don’t I’m basically a nazi. Sounds valid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:15 AM |
| 20 | Man is about to get $1.4 Million dollars. Is already looking for a way to upgrade his wife.Men identify as “poly” to justify using as many women as possible, for their bodies, their insurance, their unpaid labor in housekeeping and childcare. It’s 100% crap and his wife wouldn’t have married him if she knew about this “identity” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Know your priorities...My dad missed his fathers funeral because I had just been born, I was a dangerous pregnancy, my mom was still recovering from her C-section, and they had a 18month old in addition to a newborn. He would have had to fly overseas to go to the funeral, and because he didn’t, his sisters refused to speak to him for almost a decade. Because he put taking care of his living wife and daughters was more important than going home to mourn his father. Reading this post was gross for me, I never realized t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 11:35 PM |
| 65 | A cautionary tale of an “abuse victim” who was, in reality, a sexually abusive manipulator.Everything you said is true. I know that it was really rape, it’s just hard to say that. We did turn in an anonymous report on him to the university but to my knowledge nothing ever happened, what did actually go well was telling my sorority sisters that the rumors about him were true, and now no sorority girl on campus trusts him. It’s definitely hard to talk about, because it only happened 6 months ago, but I really don’t want other empathetic women to buy into that crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 06:50 PM |
| 21 | When they Invite you over to chill "in bed" after your second date...Yeah he’s not a HVM, to keep the peace with your mutual friends you might want to send him a “I don’t want to pursue a relationship with you, I don’t think we want the same things” kinda text, but don’t tell him what he did wrong. That’s just giving him pointers on how to trick future women into trusting him, let him continue displaying his red flags loud and proud. But yeah, don’t be alone with this man again, he’s sexually pushy and he doesn’t take your consent seriously. LVM tickle women to s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:19 PM |
| 30 | Worst male advices you have ever received“aSk MeN oUt” No. Men will always go for low hanging fruit, even if they have no interest in you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 03:23 PM |
| 29 | The men of asktrp won’t let “moral responsibility” stop them from spreading disease. Yet another reminder that men dgaf, and will knowingly harm you just to get off. 🙄🤮I have a friend who found out she was getting cheated on because her boyfriend gave her an STI after 7 months of being in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 03:13 PM |
| 39 | After the depressing thread on HVM in cities - A general discussion on where to find good HVM.I met my HVM through volunteer work for a cause I care about, it something’s he’s passionate about too and we hit it off. I’m not gonna say all men who volunteer are HVM (judges sometimes give mandatory service hours as punishments for nonviolent crimes) but if he is there of his own volition, it means that he: 1. Cares about at least one thing you care about. (Homeless people? Cats? Dogs? Children? Bees? The environment? Cancer patients?) 2. Has the financial stability to do unpaid work for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 03:06 PM |
| 20 | You ever met ONE guy you lowered your standards for? Why?Yes. He was very physically attractive but a complete asshat who couldn’t get his shit together. Don’t get crushes ladies, see men for who they are, not what they could be if they tried. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 11:43 PM |
| 11 | The cockacity!!!!“I feel so bad for sleeping with my ex while you were out of town plz comfort me uwu” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:53 PM |
| 4 | I have been noticing a lot of post about avoid being in. Along term relationship for years. Is there a situation where it’s actually ok to be in a long term relationship? Like I have seen relationships that lasts longer than marriage so I’m curious to see other people’s opinionsI think waiting until after both people graduate college is generally good, as long as the have a formal plan to get married after (like proposing in college). Education always takes priority over relationships in my book. Also if you just don’t want to get married, that’s totally valid and you shouldn’t feel pressured into tiring your life to another person’s legally. Personally I would like to get married someday, but my life plan isn’t going to be fulfilling for everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | This is a whole moodI think you should review the required reading sis. None of the attributes of a HVW are physical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 09:12 PM |
| 19 | Girlfriend makes me feel bad because she gets mad at me for half-assing chores! Also, I’m 32yo.When you’re at a guys place, check out how clean the spaces he doesn’t show you are. Under his bed, in his closet, the cabinet under the sink, his dresser drawers, ect. That’s how neat he actually is, the rest of his place is how neat he’s willing to pretend to be. Like don’t be obvious, this isn’t a home inspection, but like, if he has dirty laundry stuffed under his bed, that’s a problem. Bonus story: one time I lost my phone in the couch at a guys place, lifted up the cushion, and found about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:04 PM |
| 75 | How do I respond to this? I'm so confusedDon’t tell men what you’re looking for, you’re just handing him a tip on how to play you. Deflect the question, say you don’t know, say “the right guy for me I guess?” Or “someone who shows me who they are without knowing what I like.” Act like it’s a dumb question, because it is. Never hand a man a personal playbook on getting into your pants. Let him show you who he is, then judge if that’s what you want. And yeah, looks to me like he’s trying to lower your expectations for him, which is a red… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Never Wear the "No Makeup Makeup" LookAlternatively: wear whatever makeup you want, do it for yourself, and don’t let men or women tell you what to do. If I want to wear a little concealer and mascara, I can do that. If I want to do your makeup like Kylie Jenner, I can do that. Either way it’s my business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 06:36 PM |
| 5 | Have any of you gotten over your BDSM kink?For me it was a mindset shift, I no longer wanted to “have sex”, “get laid”, or “sleep with” men. I want to make love and I accept nothing less. If I’m going to be intimate with someone it has to be someone I love, someone who has shown that they love me (reliably, over a period of time spanning months, not dates). It has to be passionate and emotional, he needs to be focused on making me feel good, and vise versa. Dirty talk should be things like “you are amazing” “yes, that feels so good” and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 05:37 PM |
| 2 | What's your "power" makeup?I don’t wear a lot of makeup, so my power makeup is a slight contour with bronzer, some blush and highlighter. Clay-tone red lipstick, and bronze eyeshadow on my lid with dark brown blended into the crease and gold on my inner corners. Also mascara. It’s subtitle but it all matches my coloring and just makes me look a little fiercer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:04 PM |
| 9 | "I'm looking for a woman who will clean my house, cook for me, and pay the bills. No gold diggers."I want this as a swimsuit tbh, stroll up to the pool business casual | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:58 PM |
| 22 | I graduated from university today! :)It’s simple math: 👩🎓>🤵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Which other subreddits have made a positive contribution to your life?I highly recommend the curly girl method, even if you just cut out silicones and sulfates you’ll see a huge difference. I still use a shampoo (sulfate free) because I have oily skin and co-washing leaves my scalp oily but other than that I follow the starter routine in their wiki and love it. I’m gonna check out r/femalefashionadvice and maybe try out some tips next time I change up my wardrobe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 04:13 PM |
| 12 | Which other subreddits have made a positive contribution to your life?The biggest two (outside of FDS) for me are r/curlyhair and r/skincareaddiction I used to think that I would look better if I just used more expensive products and I waisted a lot of money on stuff that wasn’t intended for my skin/hair type. Now I have more simple routines which give more time for important things, and I look better when I roll out of bed which gives me more confidence. r/minimalism and r/capsulewardrobe are both nice for having a more simple life based around what actually adds… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:35 PM |
| 6 | I don’t know about you, but I’m proud knowing I’m not being used as anyone’s “plate”.Women isn’t an adjective, female is. Ex. “That move had a lot of strong female characters”vs “I loved the representation of strong women in that movie.” In the first case “strong” and “female” were both describing the characters, in the second case, “strong” was describing the women, who we understand to be adult human females. So “female dating strategy” is equivalent to “dating strategy for women” but “woman dating strategy” isn’t grammatically correct. and yes I know I’m a grammar nazi This i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:15 PM |
| 25 | One month after IUD insertion, I'm still having horrible pain. Fuck the lack of male birth control purely for their convenience. You should NEVER have to be the only one who suffers and sacrifices. Fuck that.The day I got my IUD was the day I stopped listening to men’s opinions about women’s health or reproductive rights. They can go shove a copper rod up their dicks for all I care. Even with it in I expect men to have condoms on them if they think there might be a possibility of sex, it’s nothing compared to what women go through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 09:39 PM |
| 14 | Do I let a guy know I expect to be taken to a nice place for a first date? Or if he offers something like coffee is that a sign of LVM?Lol well you have your answer then 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 08:08 PM |
| 27 | Do I let a guy know I expect to be taken to a nice place for a first date? Or if he offers something like coffee is that a sign of LVM?“I’d prefer if we got dinner together instead” is a fine response to asking for a coffee or bar date, if he has an issue with that, he’s an LVM. But if he invites you for coffee, you say you’d prefer dinner, and then you get dinner, he’s listening to you and trying to meet your standards. No guarantee that he’s a HVM, he might think that if he gets you dinner you’ll sleep with him. Don’t explain why, that invites negotiation, just be firm, direct, and polite. “This is where the bar is set” and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 07:37 PM |
| 5 | One piece of dating advice you'd give your younger self and why?He’s not going to change, and he doesn’t deserve your forgiveness. That would have saved me more than once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 06:28 PM |
| 45 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidI had to read that twice to believe it. On what planet is that an acceptable question to ask a fellow human being? Like if I asked a guy about his astrology, tried to beg him for having standards, and then asked how big his dick was, I would be called “crazy” but then dudes go and do this. The audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 05:58 PM |
| 5 | What’re you having? Non-alcoholic drinksFor me it depends, my favorite restaurant is Vietnamese and I always get hot tea there, I avoid Mexican food for dates because I love margaritas and it’s just not the same without (save that for girl’s night), I might get a Shirley Temple or fancy lemonade if I’m in a mocktail sorta mood, or just water. There’s no shame in drinking water on a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Fills you with hope, doesn’t it? 🙄I fully support this man not trying to date any women. 100% on board with him taking himself out of the dating pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:44 PM |
| 6 | LVM made a younger female teacher in my art class (adult evening class) extremely uncomfortable by commenting on how incredibly phallic her choice of still life was. Here’s a pic.Well, 100% chance he has weird balls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Questionable sleeping pattern?I have a sleep disorder and know a lot about the processes of getting diagnosed and treatment. If he actually has problems, he can make an appointment with a sleep specialist (most insurance covers this as an office visit). Most of the time they have to fill out a month’s worth of a sleep/caffeine/alcohol tracker. (A lot of people who think they have disordered sleep abuse uppers and downers, mostly caffeine and alcohol.) If at that point there’s an actual problem, there are medications you can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 03:56 PM |
| 18 | Womans pornsick boyfriend is upset she didn't tell him about her IUD and compares it with his fetishCompares women’s medical needs to his sexual desires 🚩 Entitled to an opinion about girlfriend’s medical choices 🚩 Acts like a child when girlfriend doesn’t pander to his entitlement 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)Absolutely agree, I’ve known this guy for about 6 months, we started casually dating about three months ago, and we’ve been in a relationship for a month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 01:21 PM |
| 2 | ..... so you want a girlfriend but you don’t want to be in a relationship okTranslation: I wast to be the only person you have sex with and give you nothing in return | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:23 PM |
| 5 | Carla knows!Carla has HVW energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:18 PM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 20th 2020)One year ago today I dumped a cheating LVM! And yesterday was 1 month since committing to a relationship with a HVM! He showed up to pick me up with flowers, took me to dinner at my favorite restaurant, and then dessert at a fancy little chocolate shop downtown. It was a fantastic evening and I cannot believe how much I’ve leveled up in the past 12 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:02 PM |
| 116 | Please alert your fellow woman!I once saw a picture in my “people you may know” of a women with a guy I had been on a few dates with and had sex with (pre FDS). It was clear from her profile that she was in a relationship with him and I was the side chick. I reached out to her with screenshots and everything and she sent “😂😂😂” then blocked me. I’m still gonna try but like, really? Why would I make up getting played? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:13 PM |
| 12 | Parents expectations: race, culture, religion”And on your side, it’s really important to remember, at whatever stage or level of the relationship, even if you only want something short and casual, never do it with someone who is fundamentally opposed to being in a relationship with you.” I learned this dating the son of a pastor. I’m not Christian, and he acted like he didn’t have a problem with that, but on the way to meet his parents he was like “oh by the way I told them you’re Methodist” and just expected me to roll with it, as if he d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:42 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone else dislike beards?I like a well maintained beard, scruffy is a no-go. Honestly as long as he’s attractive and well-groomed I don’t have a big preference on facial hair. (Note that I don’t consider hipster styles well-groomed) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:33 PM |
| 21 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?They really like feeling intellectual, and stoicism gives them an excuse not to care about ethics. To a traditional Stoic (Marcus Aurelius being a good example) a good life is defined by success, and control of your reactions. It’s a philosophical excuse to not care about if your actions are morally right, if it leads you to success, it was good. If it lead to failure, it was bad. Stoicism also means shoving down your emotions and reacting “logically” to a lot of men, although that’s a little tw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 03:26 AM |
| 17 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?They think that women just go around saying every guy they don’t like raped them, they also pressure women into sex, so either way they don’t want you to be credible. And it’s part of going on real dates, don’t go out dancing, don’t go do an activity, sit down and eat a meal. No freaking selfies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 03:08 AM |
| 20 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?Yeah it’s not a red flag, it’s just that a lot of red pill guys think they’re intellectuals and they like philosophy videos, cherry picking the ones that don’t focus on living ethically. And thanks! I’ve stalked incel/red pill subs for a while in order to not fall for that BS, I definitely recommend reading the Anti TRP guide in the FDS handbook, it’s just three posts and they’re all great. But yeah, those dudes are crazy and it’s strait up not safe to be around them, they WILL attempt to pressu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 02:55 AM |
| 49 | [Discussion] What are some indicators that reveal they person you're interacting with buy into the red pill?First off, if you follow FDS you will repel men who follow Red Pill strategies, because you 1) won’t pay on dates 2) demand dates, not “hangouts” 3) don’t “put out” 4) block men when they won’t leave you alone As long as you don’t buckle under the pressure they put on, they’ll give you up as a bad job. But, here’s a few of the tells if you want to find out faster: -talks about Stoicism -makes fun of other guys to make himself seem better -negging. Any sign of that and you need to drop him. -take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 02:09 AM |
| 415 | If my husband doesn’t shower me with this amount of love, adoration and appreciation into our 50’s and beyond, I DON’T WANT HIM.And she didn’t end up with him by doing pick-me shit! Need proof? Here are some of my favorite Michelle Obama quotes: “High bar, ladies. High bar. Keep your bar high, because it’s hard enough with a high bar, it’s hard. So you don’t want to start making huge, huge compromises in who you are and how you want a man or a partner to show up in your life." “My husband is my teammate. If we are going to win this game together, he has to be strong and he has to be okay with me being strong. I do not wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 06:43 PM |
| 10 | i fOLloW cHriSTiAniTy - seen on OKCBack when I was on OLD I matched with a guy who had “Christian” on his profile and he asked before we went out what church I went to, I told him I wasn’t Christian and he acted like he was totally cool with that and apologized for assuming. Fast forward to the date he brought a bible and spent the whole time talking to me about how I need to let christ into my life. Aaaaand that’s the story of the first time I walk out on a date before the check came. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:37 PM |
| 10 | What are some things that remind you that men ain't shit?Personal hygiene. I was once pretty taken with a guy, we had been dating for a few weeks, I came over to his place after a date (pre FDS) and while I was using his bathroom I noticed that the only thing in his shower was a combination shampoo/conditioner/body wash. He had like 4 different products for his beard next to the sink, an expensive razor, electric toothbrush, and literally one $3 bottle for the rest of his body. Like, what??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:26 PM |
| 5 | The REAL clingy sexIt’s why I don’t regularly text first, from time to time sure, but if he wants a “good morning” text he’s sending one first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 58 | OkCupid experiment proves men don't mind dating sociopathsMen fuck who they can, women fuck who they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:52 PM |
| 16 | Woman helps her husband “transition” & now he calls her “some d*ke" and filed for divorce. You don’t have to be a Pickmeisha in the name of gender equality. Abandon ship as soon as they start to put their needs far above yours. Trans scrotes are still scrotes and expect them to behave that way.Also search “lie” if you want to be horrified. The results go on and on... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 08:28 PM |
| 11 | The most hilarious allegation about FDS is that we are celibate & not by choiceOh well obviously there’s only two types of women: femcels and sluts. We are too selective to be sluts, so we must be femcels. It’s just logic, sorry your tiny woman brain can’t comprehend it. /s /s /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Red flags on tinderThe problem is that if a guy is covered in tattoos, he obviously doesn’t have the sort of ambition in his career that a HVM would have. You just can’t be as successful in most careers (things outside of the music or tattoo industries) if you can’t walk into an interview in professional clothing and not have a lot of tattoos showing. That “style” isn’t professional, so dudes with it just don’t set the bar high enough for themselves to be considered HVM in my eyes. Something that my style that als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 42 | Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselvesIt doesn’t take a super genius to hear “I’m dumping you because you do X” and then not do X in front of the next woman they’re trying to trick into sex. And to me it doesn’t matter if “most men” are, most abusive men are way more calculating and manipulative than this, and they’re the ones who definitely don’t need extra advice on how to hone their craft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 01:09 AM |
| 153 | Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselves”You want to get to know him exactly as he is.” Damn right, and so will the next woman he tries to date if you do dump him. Don’t give him pointers on what to hide from other women, even if he is out of your life. “I’m over this” is a full explanation of why you don’t want to see him anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:27 PM |
| 21 | Red flags on tinderWell FDS isn’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 06:25 PM |
| 50 | Red flags on tinder“Swipe the direction of your political views” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:54 PM |
| 22 | Red flags on tinderI definitely don’t see tattoos as a problem in general, but lots of very obvious tattoos that can’t be hidden easily just tells me he probably doesn’t have career aspirations that I will respect. Yeah you totally can get employment if you look like that, but you don’t see a lot of company Presidents with that sort of look. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:53 PM |
| 135 | Red flags on tinder”Call me daddy” Buy me a car then 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 05:11 PM |
| 30 | Men are not your friends.”Unless he’s gay” Unless you know his boyfriend; still beware. My “gay best friend” took pictures of me nude without my knowledge or consent through a keyhole and refused to delete them when I found out. He also pushed my boundaries all the time and thought it was harmless because it wasn’t sexual. It was about controlling me, plain and simple. I said I didn’t want to cuddle, he pushed and pushed and pushed until I let him, and it was “ok” because he “only wanted to cuddle as friends” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 03:57 PM |
| 41 | Men are not your friends.My longest was 8 years! We had been friends since middle school, and one day he just grabbed my shoulder so I couldn’t move away and leaned in for a kiss out of nowhere. Proud to say I decisively ended that “friendship” on the spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 03:54 PM |
| 16 | I really want to ask this man if he has a job because how do you have so much time to tweet about this BULLSHIT!!??!I’m a Taurus, so is one of the biggest pick-me’s I know. Like believe in what you wanna believe, but judge people on actions, not birthdays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Made a phone background with my new mantra, courtesy of a post by u/the-cool-hedgehogThanks! Also this inspired me... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 10 | Made a phone background with my new mantra, courtesy of a post by u/the-cool-hedgehogI love having little reminders of who I strive to be in my life, and right now I’m working towards being more confident in my own worth. I saw the post u/the-cool-hedgehog made yesterday and the first part of her mantra “you are already worthy” stood out to me, so I made this today. Comment your personal mantra and something that makes you feel powerful/grounded (for me it’s mountains) and I can make a personalized one for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 04:27 PM |
| 15 | Beware of bearded men: exhibit 268You see, THIS is why I date swimmers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 03:42 PM |
| 113 | Study: Men Divorce Their Wives in Sickness More Than Vice Versa“One explanation is that women provide more care and support for spouses within marriage than men do — many men reap more benefits from marriage than women do while women are doing more work.” I’m shocked!!! Never could have seen that coming!!! What a surprising revelation!!! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 07:33 PM |
| 37 | The amount of likes & retweets... 🤢Translation: If I mistreat you and you refuse to take it lying down, I’ll mistreat someone else instead. Let the trash take itself out ladies, and daily reminder that if he cheats on her with you, it’s only a matter of time until he cheats on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 06:27 PM |
| 5 | Divorce is final on the 15th:Wow, you are a badass. You and your kid are going to have much better lives because you stood up for yourself and got what you deserved, I know the 15th is a Wednesday, but it’s a champagne kinda day if ever I’ve heard of one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Midweek FDS Chat 1/8/20Some random thoughts, in no particular order: Keep male friends in check by saying “no hetero” whenever you show them affection or give them compliments. Do a cleanse of your contacts/accounts you’re following and get rid of men you don’t like in your damn phone. I realized that I need to stop giving dating advice to LVM friends, at least my advice can’t be “how to treat her better” because that’s just helping them hide their true nature. My friend asked me for advice today and I asked him what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Midweek FDS Chat 1/8/20I really enjoy r/capsulewardrobe for some of the clothing advice, even though I personally don’t have a capsule wardrobe anymore (still have a fairly small one though) because the whole idea is to curate a personal style and have every clothing item count, which is useful no matter how many things you own. A big part of it is just figuring out how you want to dress, make a Pinterest board with looks you think would suit your ideal self, and then try to shop for things that get you closer to that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 04:08 PM |
| 11 | Great dates but very minimal contact in between them. It feels low-effort, so I don’t know how to read it.”It feels low-effort, so I don’t know how to read it.” You have read it, your answer is right there in the title. It is low effort. Stop wasting your time and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 03:11 AM |
| 36 | Help! I'm scared that I lost a HVM by exhibiting pickmeisha behaviorI mean, yeah you were definitely acting needy, which is not really HVW behavior. But I don’t think you “lost a HVM;” you laid out your expectations and he can’t won’t meet them, breaking things off was the right thing to do. Do not go back to him. Nothing will have changed, except you nonverbally telling him that you need him and that he can be as low effort as he wants because you’ll put up with it. Saying you’re done and then crawling back anyway tells him that there are no consequences for di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 12:57 AM |
| 13 | Can we make a playlist for this subreddit?I scanned through my “Bad Bitch” playlist, I tried not to list any that someone else already posted, and I will say some of the artists on this list are pick-me’s, so just judge the one song I picked out from them. Also I like rap, so if that’s not your jam you probably won’t enjoy some of these. I’ve also picked out one lyric from each that sums up why I find it empowering. Thank u, next - Ariana Grande “Spend more time with my friends I ain't worried 'bout nothin' Plus, I met someone else We h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 12:39 AM |
| 10 | Losing friends while enforcing boundaries?A friend who doesn’t respect your boundaries isn’t a good friend. You can’t level up surrounded by people like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 08:31 PM |
| 120 | Guys they officially hate us on reddit, but why?!Sometimes when I see shit like this on relationship subs I DM the girl a link to this sub and explain that she doesn’t need to get advice from men ever again. The response always “thank you” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 04:51 PM |
| 27 | 5 ways to be not be used!!”Don’t fall in love with potential” That hit me hard, I wish someone had told me this a few years ago, would have saved me a lot of heartbreak... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 02:49 PM |
| 11 | Do you believe you are what you attract??Who you attract doesn’t say that much about you, but who you choose to entertain does. I went on a first date with a guy in film school who does a lot of cocaine but refuses to get a flu vaccine because he doesn’t know what’s in them, if I went on a second date after learning that, you would be able to tell that my standards are on the basement floor, but I didn’t. If you’re attractive and female, you’re going to attract some absolute clowns, you’re only a clown if you choose to spend time with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Girl DatesI guess the way I see it is with a women, the absolute worst case scenario is she doesn’t like me, and maybe talks about me behind my back. With men, the worst case scenario is kidnapping, rape, or murder. I know that women are capable of these things, but it’s much more likely to be a man, and much more likely to be a man in friendly with. With men I feel like I need to have a shield up because I’ve had awful things happen to me in the past that I could have prevented, even if I know it wasn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Girl DatesI don’t think anyone is to young to try to be their best self, that’s something I was trying to do long before I found this sub and the “HV/LV” language, and not for men’s attention. Self improvement is just part of growing up, and one way I realized I could improve as a person was prioritizing female friendships, so I do. I’m not like, randomly dragging my girls out because I have a new man in my life, I’m always making plans with them and doing things we love, the 1-for-1 rule makes it so I ke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 06:53 AM |
| 68 | Don’t be best friend with your boyfriend, it’s not worth it. I did that and now I want to breakup with him but it’s so hard because he’s my best friendThis is important. One rule I have for myself is for every date I go on, I have a “girl date,” weather or not I’m in a relationship. This can be coffee with my best friend, Zumba with a girl I want to be better friends with, mani pedis with my mom, doesn’t matter, as long as I’m spending enjoyable social time with another women, it counts. It keeps me from being that friend who disappears when she has a new boyfriend, or thinking that I only have fun when I’m going on dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 08:37 PM |
| 23 | The bar is set so low, they don’t even bother hiding their rings anymore.The philosophy of this sub isn’t that all men are crap, just the vast, VAST majority. Don’t give a guy the benefit of the doubt going in, because chances are he doesn’t deserve it. But yeah, I believe my dad is a HVM. He’s shown for the past 26 years that he puts my mom first, he immigrated to the US from the UK for her, he missed his father’s funeral so that she wouldn’t be alone with two small children on Christmas, he works incredibly hard and is now the president of a company and can take he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 05:46 PM |
| 23 | The bar is set so low, they don’t even bother hiding their rings anymore.I’m with you on this, my dad is a HVM and had had to travel for work throughout my life, not an issue. He prioritized my mom, set clear boundaries with work about dates he couldn’t travel, and was a really present father figure for me and my sister. My ex cheated while I was out of town for two days to see my grandparents. Cheaters gonna cheat, HVM aren’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 03:42 PM |
| 8 | Your male friends aren't your friendsI feel you, and you really can’t win. But at the end of the day I’d rather be called a cold btch by a male orbiter than a manipulative btch by someone I thought was my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 04:03 PM |
| 86 | Your male friends aren't your friendsHonestly I assume all guys are attracted to me, and act accordingly. When a male friend asks something like these I just pull a Han Solo and tell them I knew, really puts them off their game. But yeah, I feel like your best friends and support system should be female friends, that’s not to say you can’t have men in your social circle, but never rely on them, because at some point down the line, they will disappoint you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 10:03 PM |
| 20 | What are the last words your ex said to you?“I won’t leave if you need me here” Lol, I just got up and opened the door for him, haven’t seen him in almost a year now, never needed him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 08:38 AM |
| 2 | What did you ladies get for Christmas?Yeah it was really awesome! I was amazed how thoughtful he was, my last boyfriend got me a teddy bear and a box of chocolates... bet he got the same thing for whatever poor girl is with him now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 05:00 PM |
| 12 | Beware your male friendsI was friends with this guy since middle school, we’ve been standing by each others through thick and thin, went to collage different places and still stayed friends. He made a drunken pass at me over Christmas break and I had to physically push him away because he didn’t take me turning my head so he couldn’t kiss me as a sign to stop. #trustnodick2020 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 04:52 PM |
| 68 | This was shared by a coworker.. she has gotten divorced 3 times.Oh don’t you be putting that BS on my girl Michelle. Here’s some actual Michelle Obama quotes: “My husband is my teammate. If we are going to win this game together, he has to be strong and he has to be okay with me being strong. I do not want a weak player on my team, nor does he. But sometimes, we accept weak in one another because it feels easy. And be cautious of the man or woman who wants just the easy person.” “High bar, ladies. High bar. Keep your bar high, because it’s hard enough with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 04:44 PM |
| 57 | Let's talk about the hypocrisy.It was honestly crazy to me the first time I dated a guy who actually put in effort. Like when we decided to be exclusive he got out his phone and made a recurring event on his calendar every 19th of the month so he never forgets to get me flowers. He made me breakfast the one time I stayed over, like real breakfast with bacon, waffles, hash browns, and homemade strawberry syrup. He never once hesitated to pay for a date, or to do something spontaneously kind for me. To think of the YEARS that I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 04:19 PM |
| 22 | What are the jobs you consider a red flag? Why?Musicians, it’s fine as a hobby but not as a career, just too flakey. Honestly most artists probably fit this but I have the most experience with LVM SoundCloud rappers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 03:36 PM |
| 11 | What are the jobs you consider a red flag? Why?I stopped dating engineering majors back when I was one (I’m math now) because the culture was so toxic. Most of them have no women outside of their family who call them a friend. Most of them think they’re the smartest person in every room, even if you get better marked in the same classes. They’re always right, and their career is always going to come before their spouse’s because engineers make bank. I was... very over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 03:32 PM |
| 7 | What did you ladies get for Christmas?My boyfriend got me a stocking stuffed with... A confirmation receipt for a couples massage and facials on New Year’s Day. 2 bags of the best chocolate in town. 2 sets of very nice gaming dice (I play D&D). A book from my favorite contemporary author. A Lush perfume, bath bomb, and lotion. All lavender scented (my favorite flower) (also most of my bath products are from lush, which he noticed when he was at my place and took note of so he could get stuff I liked) And a handmade necklace with ros… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 04:23 AM |
| 7 | Cut this behavior off quick. No accountability for their actions and resorting to manipulation is a RED FLAG.Back before I learned to respect myself I was in a relationship where he cheated on me, cried to me about how guilty he felt, and then threatened suicide if I said I needed space or talked about breaking up. I’m never going to be some loser’s free therapist again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:54 PM |
| 0 | TXChromosomes prove to be hairy feminists with no body higieneYou’re clearly very misinformed about women. Men going their own way isn’t sexist. Men insulting women for doing the same exact thing is. | /r/MGTOW | 17/12/18 07:53 AM |
| 1 | TXChromosomes prove to be hairy feminists with no body higieneSo first you say it’s about grooming, but now it’s about sexual attraction? Those aren’t the same thing. Women going out of their way to be sexually appealing isn’t the same as people cleaning themselves. I’m not saying people should or shouldn’t shave, just that it’s not about being cleaner than apes. | /r/MGTOW | 17/12/18 07:19 AM |
| 2 | TXChromosomes prove to be hairy feminists with no body higieneDo you think men should shave their legs as part of normal everyday grooming? | /r/MGTOW | 17/12/18 07:15 AM |
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