Happy new year, sisters! I spent the first day of the new year in bed, reading. My friend loaned me some of her romance novels that “aren’t like romance novels. You’ll love them! I promise!”

One of them in particular struck a chord because it felt so real. The FL’s boyfriend thinks she’s the one but hasn’t dated a lot so he wants to f-ck around to make sure. He comes back to her and - I almost cried, in a bad way, when I read this - says he wants to marry her, she’s the one, he realized how she makes his life easy, she always knows what he wants, and she always does exactly what he needs.

His lines are almost verbatim to what my friends have heard from their ex. FL doesn’t take him back, but some of my friends took back their scrotes (but thankfully broke up eventually).

As we go forward in this new year, let’s always remember to put ourselves first. Have high expectations and trust that the right man won’t flinch as he exceeds them. And if a man tells us he needs space to figure out if we’re “the one,” then he is not ours.